Contoh naskah drama religi
Friends with Christians?
2024.05.16 10:31 Minimum-Seat4109 Friends with Christians?
I am atheist/agnostic depending on the day. I have a friend who used to believe the same thing, but recently went back to Christianity (non denominational) .
Before she reconverted, we had to take a break in our friendship because of some dumb drama and just growing apart. During the time we were apart, she went through several traumatic experiences that honestly make sense why she would need the community and support that can be hard for some people to find outside of church. I used to be super religious so I kinda get it. On the opposite end, I got deeper into deconstructing because of some of my own religious trauma after leaving Christianity.
Eventually we reconnected and in our conversations now she nearly constantly adds in references to the bible and living “holy”. In my opinion, it’s very hypocritical because we still do all the same shit that we did before (drugs, gossiping, talking about our premarital sexcapades etc). I told her that the religious stuff makes me uncomfortable, and I detailed the trauma I endured but she just didn’t stop so we haven’t spoken since a semi-heated discussion last month.
We don’t live close to each other and don’t see each other (3-4hr one way by car) unless I put in the effort to maintain the friendship. Should I feel bad about just letting our friendship fade away again because I don’t want to hear “what the bible has to say”? She recently made a post on social media that she is going through a rough patch in life again and is “leaning on god”. The human in me wants to reach out and be supportive of my friend but I can’t help but wonder if she would do the same for me. If the roles were reversed, I don’t know if she would be reaching out to support me even if it meant enduring the uncomfortable moments that come with conflicting beliefs.
Should I suck it up, reach out and see how it goes? I don’t want to throw away a 10 year friendship, but I don’t want to have to bite my tongue or gear up for a passive aggressive argument every time we talk.
I also don’t know how much she would value support from me when Christians tend to want support/friendship from people that have the same beliefs. It makes sense because as an atheist the last thing I want in a low moment is prayer or a Bible verse. A part of me feels like I’m a throwaway friend in her eyes because we don’t connect in this way. Or maybe I’m the hypocrite for coming to Reddit to talk with strangers about if I should keep her as a friend… but I’m just being real.
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Before she reconverted, we had to take a break in our friendship because of some dumb drama and just growing apart. During the time we were apart, she went through several traumatic experiences that honestly make sense why she would need the community and support that can be hard for some people to find outside of church. I used to be super religious so I kinda get it. On the opposite end, I got deeper into deconstructing because of some of my own religious trauma after leaving Christianity.
Eventually we reconnected and in our conversations now she nearly constantly adds in references to the bible and living “holy”. In my opinion, it’s very hypocritical because we still do all the same shit that we did before (drugs, gossiping, talking about our premarital sexcapades etc). I told her that the religious stuff makes me uncomfortable, and I detailed the trauma I endured but she just didn’t stop so we haven’t spoken since a semi-heated discussion last month.
We don’t live close to each other and don’t see each other (3-4hr one way by car) unless I put in the effort to maintain the friendship. Should I feel bad about just letting our friendship fade away again because I don’t want to hear “what the bible has to say”? She recently made a post on social media that she is going through a rough patch in life again and is “leaning on god”. The human in me wants to reach out and be supportive of my friend but I can’t help but wonder if she would do the same for me. If the roles were reversed, I don’t know if she would be reaching out to support me even if it meant enduring the uncomfortable moments that come with conflicting beliefs.
Should I suck it up, reach out and see how it goes? I don’t want to throw away a 10 year friendship, but I don’t want to have to bite my tongue or gear up for a passive aggressive argument every time we talk.
I also don’t know how much she would value support from me when Christians tend to want support/friendship from people that have the same beliefs. It makes sense because as an atheist the last thing I want in a low moment is prayer or a Bible verse. A part of me feels like I’m a throwaway friend in her eyes because we don’t connect in this way. Or maybe I’m the hypocrite for coming to Reddit to talk with strangers about if I should keep her as a friend… but I’m just being real.
2024.05.16 09:10 rafaelholmberg Commodities and Camus: a short text on the fetishism of existentialism
 | Some of you might find this of interest - I’ve included the full text below and the original link too if anyone wants to read more related writings. (N.B. This is not an attack on existentialism) submitted by rafaelholmberg to CriticalTheory [link] [comments] Salamano distraught by the loss of the dog that he himself spent a lifetime abusing; Ivan Karamazov ardent enough in his atheism to suffers a satanically-coloured psychic breakdown at the death his father; Joseph Garcin obsessed by a telephone that inevitably connects him only back to the hell of other people that he is already in; Abraham witnessing his devotion to God singularised in his love for a sacrificed son; Clamence’s critical juggling between a virtuous debauchery and a debaucherous virtue; Joseph Grand’s literary impotence and self-doubt at the production of a single line in the height of the plague of Oran - these ‘narrative object-relations’ represent a logic that lies at the heart of the existentialist tradition. Fundamentally, the avatars of the existentialist ‘method’, from the literary characters of Dostoyevsky via Kierkegaard to Camus and Sartre, define themselves broadly by their obscure attempts to treat things (whether their object, their comrade, or their duty) directly, yet by a directness adopted from a distance, in a mediated, self-reflective view - they define themselves by treating singular instances as if they were isolated from the situation of which these instances are the inevitable reproduction. In Sartre’s Huis Clos [‘No Exit’], the telephone in the hotel room which Joseph Garcin finds himself in alongside two female strangers - this room being Hell, as it is later revealed - functions only insofar as it veils its own function. The uncertainty of its connection with an outside world acts as an internally necessary distortion of the fact that its connection is a ‘closed-circuit’ connection to the crushing immanence of the inescapable room in which it is positioned, a room for which the ‘outside’ acts as an unsettling memory or an idealised, ethereal vision. In Camus’ La Peste [‘The Plague’], whilst the central characters of the plot set to work managing and planning for the containment of the plague that has struck Oran, Joseph Grand is occupied with a parallel object - his book - which veils the impasse that the general population of Oran finds itself in. Yet this impasse is veiled precisely by reformulating the impasse as internal to its own distraction (the book becomes an impasse for itself). The book, of which Grand is unable to conclude even the first line, is an object that indirectly returns him to his situation (the plague) only by removing him from this very situation, reformulating a generalised impasse into a personal, subjectivized impasse. Sartre and Camus’ dramas rely on an object, a singular point of subjective engagement, to distort or cover a situation which the object itself is a direct reproduction of. The object is treated as nothing other than itself - as being a self-explanatory x which rejects integration into its background scene, and yet it is precisely this rejection, this negative relation of the object to the situation of the drama itself, which acts as its most faithful reproduction of the drama’s central antagonism. The object veils the situation insofar as it paradoxically acts as its structural support. This object, this distortion-in-itself which acts as the support of a structure which it disguises in the very act of supporting it - this is nothing other than the quality which Marx attributed to the commodity, under the category of ‘commodity fetishism’. One of the breakthroughs of Marx’s materialism was the reformulation of the commodity as the product of a mode of reproduction that it materialises in order to reproduce this same political economy by which it is conditioned. This can be understood by firstly looking at Marx’s inversion of the category of a commodity’s ‘use value’. One of Marx’s criticisms of the classical English economists was their understanding of the form of ‘value’ which a commodity possesses: the standard understanding was that the commodity was infused with value by its usefulness being superior to that of its raw materials. Any value, in other words, was thought to be inherent to the commodity, a representation of value concentrated in its use. Hence Foucault’s description of pre-Marxist political economy as characterised by an ‘episteme [mode of discursive knowledge] of representation’. Commodities do not, for Marx, hold their value ‘in themselves’, as a constitutive quality inscribed in the essence of the object itself. Instead, the object is something ‘other than it appears’ - the commodity re-articulates the mode of economic reproduction of which it is the product. The process of commodity production and commodity circulation which Marx presents in Capital begins with an analysis of the radical re-invention of the factory, or more generally of the social mode of serialised production, which capitalism introduced. (It is worth noting that Marx is not inherently critical of capitalism in this work, but slowly begins to enumerate the social and economic conditions which allow for a capitalist mode of production, eventually extracting the inevitable forms of exploitation constitutive of this revolutionary system.) Fundamentally, the essence of the commodity is the it has no immanent essence, but that it is a product of labour-force: certain time in which a wage-labourer dedicates his energy towards production. Capitalism, Marx argues, begins where a working day’s labour time/value exceeds the ‘necessary labour time’ required for a worker to return the next day in his capacity as a worker (i.e. the necessary labour providing for rent, food, clothes etc.). The day’s labour which exceeds this necessary labour time is called ‘surplus labour’. If the division of social and factory labour is advanced enough, surplus value can reduce the amount of time needed for necessary labour times to be achieved. This is ‘relative surplus value’ (as opposed to absolute surplus value), with which, Marx notes, capitalism proper emerges. A series of investments into fixed and variable capital, calculations of turnaround times, necessary maintenance etc. are components of the mode of circulation of commodities which directly contribute to their continued production. Production, reproduction, and circulation are reciprocally supporting, requiring capital investments, planned labour divisions, and a reproduction of the social conditions in which capitalised reproduction itself can operate. The capitalist mode of production is therefore, as Marx insists, revolutionary insofar as it is a socially revolutionary political economy. It colours a domain which was previously excluded from economic consideration - the 21st century only more directly displays the non-boundary of the economic and the social, where the intimacy of everyday life lends itself to the most aggressive forms of economic appropriation. The value of the commodity lies in its support of this economic process - the commodity is the input of productive, capitalised, labour force exchanged and circulated through its social forms of reproduction. Commodity fetishism is therefore the contradictory treatment of the commodity as nothing other than a commodity - treating it as having its value inscribed within itself, detached from the situation of which it is the simultaneous product and support. The act of fetishism tells itself that an object is nothing but an object, that its value is internal. It therefore distorts the general antagonistic scene in which it is framed, by reducing its ‘difference’ to itself. Fetishism reproduces a situation in the very act of veiling it. A distortion clouding a distortion by locating the justification of its own existence within itself, a veil which clouds a situation by the very act of making it possible - this is the fetishism of the object which Marx located in the classical conception of our engagement with commodities, and as we might see, it appears to be a strange communal feature of the existentialist relation to its subjective ‘object’. Consider the miserable figure of Salamano in Camus’ L’Étranger [‘The Outsider’]: a lonesome wretch devoting his energy towards hatred for his submissive dog by abusing it - kicking and shouting at it, blaming his troubles on his unwilling four-legged companion. By an ironic inversion, Salamano’s misery is nevertheless fully actualised only once this dog escapes. The misery that he has attributed to his dog is a ‘negative support’ (what Freud would call a compromise solution), a paradoxical bulwark, against a more direct state of nothingness and desperation which emerges if this ‘compromise’ is removed (for Freud, the removal of an unpleasant symptom only leads to a more absolute state of irreparable despair). What Salamano loses with his dog’s disappearance is his functional fetishisation of this dog: this object was treated as an isolated instance of misery, yet it is precisely this focus which veils the dog’s distortion (and support) of a more absolute and universal state of misery. This is the ‘broad stroke’ of the obscure existentialist tradition - noticeable even where we turn to its earliest manifestations, the most direct example being the ‘knight of faith’, represented by Abraham of the Book of Genesis, in Kierkegaard’s Fear and Trembling. The paradox which, according to Kierkegaard, Abraham is forced to embody, is that whilst willing to sacrifice his son, Isaac, at the command of God, he must in the very moment of intervention (being told that he no longer needs to carry out the sacrifice), return to the position of an unquestionable devotion to his son, as itself representing his love for God. The moment of binding, Abraham’s dedication to the sacrifice of Isaac, is a horror which in the instance of its positing covers up the greater paradox of what happens without this binding. Without the binding of Isaac, the paradoxical formula which makes possible the unquestioning devotion of the knight of faith is itself removed. For Kierkegaard, faith is based on paradox: remove the paradoxical instance and you remove faith itself. This fetishism of the ‘leap of faith’ is that the contradictory instance supports, by veiling, the inconsistency structuring the religious scene as a whole. Dostoyevsky is equally a prototype of this existentialist fetishism. The atheist figure of Ivan Karamazov maintains a fidelity to his atheism despite his suggestion that without God, ethical codes would break down (here we see his nuance, irreducible to the ‘new atheism’ of Dawkins, Hitchens, Harris etc.). Yet this very fidelity to a form of pseudo-anarchic atheism leads him towards a severe psychotic break, of seeing a demon in his room, after his father’s death. The object of an amoral atheism here acts as a bulwark to a greater disharmony which nevertheless explains, by isolating, Ivan’s intellectual, anti-religious position. Precisely the same type of moral inversions would return in Camus’ La Chute: Clamance’s fixation upon virtue as an end in itself reveals itself to be a latent justification for an excess debauchery made possible by, and engaging in a dialogue with, the very category of ‘virtue’. The formula of commodity fetishism is evidently close to the existentialist mode of relating to its object. Across a series of dramas in this literary tradition, it is often a question of framing a singular subjective instance as an impasse or contradiction which veils, and in so doing supports (by reproducing), the central disharmony or paradox of a situation as a whole. |
2024.05.16 04:17 CreativeSource1209 If you ‘DAMN’ Pastor Quiboloy, you ‘DAMN’ Duterte, you ‘DAMN’ the country.
If you ‘DAMN’ Pastor Quiboloy, you ‘DAMN’ Duterte, you ‘DAMN’ the country.
A few days ago, I came across this book, 'How to Destroy A Man Now (DAMN): A Handbook' by Angela Confidential. Just from its title, you can easily tell that this is a guide to ruining a man's reputation or life.Basically, this book gives practical tactics on how ‘Allegations,’ the ‘Media,’ and the ‘Authority’ work together to dethrone a man from influence and power.
I would like to use this perspective as we navigate the issues concerning Pastor Apollo.If you want to DAMN, start with making allegations. That is the first weapon. Merriam-Webster defines allegations as ‘an assertion unsupported and by implication regarded as unsupportable.’
This means anyone who makes an allegation against any man is free from the burden of facts. So, the devils made sure he crafted piles of serious allegations to ruin Pastor Apollo’s reputation on a global scale.
The following were made since 2018, roughly six years in the making:Allegations in the United States. The perpetrators here, according to the camp of Pastor Apollo, were in connivance with former workers who had supposedly committed grave crimes in the KOJC and fled to the U.S.
The allegations include conspiracy to engage in sex trafficking, sex trafficking of children, sex trafficking by force, fraud and coercion, conspiracy, and bulk cash smuggling.Until now none of these allegations have been proven true in court, yet the U.S. government agencies like the Federal Bureau of Investigation, put Pastor Apollo's name on the Most Wanted List. In the Philippines, it’s more complicated.
Cases of alleged sexual abuse of a minor and qualified human trafficking were filed against Pastor Apollo but were easily dismissed by Philippine courts. However, recently, the Justice Department overturned the decision and Pastor Apollo is once again facing scrutiny.
The legislature, tasked with making laws, targeted Pastor Apollo through hearings. In the Senate, Senator Risa Hontiveros launched a probe against Pastor Apollo for alleged human trafficking, labor violations, and sex-related offenses. In the lower house, headed by Speaker Martin Romualdez, who is the cousin of President Bongbong Marcos, they targeted the media arm of KOJC - the Sonshine Media Network International, alleging franchise violations and implicating Pastor Apollo as the owner, thus compelling his presence at the hearing.
Notably, the House Speaker generously gave the known CPP-NPA operatives France Castro, Arlene Brosas, and Raoul Manuel the floor to launch ad hominem attacks against Pastor Apollo. They have become one of the mouthpieces of the devils.
Moreover, the House also weaponized the National Telecommunications Commission (NTC) to impose an indefinite suspension on SMNI, as well as the Movie and Television Review and Classification Board (MTRCB) to suspend two programs, including former President Duterte’s 'Gikan sa Masa Para sa Masa' and 'Laban Kasama ang Bayan,' due to alleged franchise violations. This is clearly to silence SMNI. They want to disarm the people of truth, especially about the Dutertes and about the terrorist organization CPP-NPA-NDF.
With all the missiles and bombs of allegations against Pastor Apollo, the devils now need a 'Media' platform to proliferate. If the allegation is the bullet, then the media is the gun. This is the second weapon of the Devil.Use the Power of Media.
You’ve probably heard the philosophical question, “If a tree falls in the woods, and no one hears it, did it make a sound?” The more people who know about an allegation, the more powerful it becomes.
Admit it, we're drawn to the drama, especially Filipinos, which is why you'll notice more scandalous stories in the news and media these days—everyone loves a bit of gossip!"Sex sells,” they say. When it comes to allegations against a holy or religious figure like Pastor Apollo, especially those related to flesh, it can shatter their reputation and can be particularly devastating, regardless of the truth.In a court of law, a man is presumed innocent until proven guilty. But in the court of public opinion manipulated by the media, a man “serially accused” of a scandal is guilty until proven innocent.In this scenario, an allegation doesn't need evidence to DAMN someone because media manipulation turns it into its own proof.
Thousands, even millions, of people can unite against one man.Look at the mainstream media, even the alternative that wants to gain popularity, makes Pastor Apollo their headlines because they profit from it. However, they bear little responsibility for doing it. Apparently, as long as the media labels the scandal as an "allegation," they are somewhat protected from legal consequences.
Moreover, the media can claim they are merely reporting the allegation, not making it. However, the way they report it often contributes to shaping the allegation itself.But we're not only referring to traditional media. With the rise of social media, the realm of trolls and paid vloggers/bloggers, the spread of allegations has become faster and more potent.The "evidence" and public perception of guilt crafted by allegations and the media's collaboration can grow so significant and influential that the third weapon of the Devil, 'Authority,' is compelled to intervene.Authority. In the case of Pastor Apollo, the authority being used by the devils is the US-PH government and its instrumentalities. And their mission is to fully destroy him now.According to the handbook, “Ultimately, it’s authority that plays the final role in condemning a man.
As ‘Daddy Knight’ he takes pride in his role as guardian and savior, especially of the weak, mistreated, violated, and so on. He strives to be the hero who saves the damsel in distress. In other words, authority caters to victims, and nothing gets [Authority]’s attention more than a call to action to save victims.”“Also, keep in mind that with the media’s help, allegations against authorities can be used to motivate authority to take action. Just about any widespread allegation about an authority being remiss, ineffectual, or negligent in its “guardian and savior” role will suffice.”And this is so evident with what Hontiveros is doing as well as Castro, Brosas and Manuel are doing. Listen to their words. It’s almost the same! They want to play the savior role.
They want to pretend heroes but never really give justice to the supposed victims.They are lawmakers but they act as judges. And they want justice for the supposed victims, why don’t they bring it to the proper forum which is the court? Because they’re not after justice; they’re after destroying the person of Pastor Apollo.
Hontiveros, alongside leftist lawmakers and their enablers, have shown disrespect for the sanctity of the institutions they represent.I recently came across a statement from Hontiveros, where she said in Filipino, “I also call on Quiboloy not to resort to drama.” But who's the real drama queen here? Isn’t it Hontiveros?Her bogus witnesses, as members of KOJC call them, joined the drama in the hearing.
Obviously, the script was made. What's more fascinating is that one of the 'witnesses' claimed to have seen Pastor giving a bag of guns to former President Duterte and his daughter, VP Inday Sara Duterte.Both of them denied it. The former president called it ‘silly’ and Sara Duterte has never been to Glory Mountain. It was an error in the script of the devils that they didn’t see coming.Well, if Hontiveros really wanted to stop the drama, then the alleged crimes should be brought to court.
The Senate, especially her, has no power to serve justice; its role is to make laws.The hearing was supposed to aid legislation. So, what law is she trying to make? The Philippines has one of the most laws in the world to combat human trafficking and sexual abuse cases. Did Hontiveros do her research? Or is it just in-aid of re-election?And it’s no secret that leftist lawmakers have been unmasked many times on SMNI through its program Laban Kasama ang Bayan, where former cadres unmasked who they truly are.
These individuals are often referred to as 'wolves in sheep's clothing' by these former members.It's crucial to understand the atrocities committed by the communist-terrorist groups CPP-NPA-NDF over the past five decades of insurgency, resulting in the deaths of thousands of innocent lives, including promising youth leaders, indigenous peoples, women, farmers, and individuals from all sectors affected by their deceptions.
Their objective within the government? To undermine and destroy it.
Only SMNI, of which Pastor Apollo is an honorary chair, has the courage to undertake this task: defending the government and the nation by giving enlightenment to the people.Recently, Castro said that the warrant of arrest issued against Pastor Apollo is "an important step" in obtaining justice for his victims.
Poor Castro, she lost her moral ascendancy a long time ago. I hope Castro will remember that she was charged, together with Satur Ocampo and 16 others for kidnapping and human trafficking over the transport of 14 children from Talaingod town in Davao del NorteIt's not surprising, then, that they are so eager and willing to destroy Pastor Apollo in this manner, especially when the current administration has allowed them to become the attack dogs against the good pastor.
They thirst for vengeance for the near-demise of the CPP-NPA-NDF that suffered a major blow during the Duterte presidency.
They seek to recover under the Marcos regime. This is one of the most alarming issues now that the nation must address: the 'unholy alliance' between the terrorist organization and their friends, and the government.
For now, we will pause here. We’ve given you a glimpse of the people in ‘authority’ that are part of the Devil’s playbook against Pastor Apollo.
In the upcoming parts, we will delve into the alliance dubbed as the "Unholy Trinity" involving the collusion of the US, Marcos, and the CPP, aimed at dismantling Pastor Apollo and the Dutertes.
We will explore why this has now become a matter of national significance. And why the fight of Pastor Apollo is a fight for every Filipino.
Read Part 1https://www.facebook.com/prestrackeposts/1035462161478486
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A few days ago, I came across this book, 'How to Destroy A Man Now (DAMN): A Handbook' by Angela Confidential. Just from its title, you can easily tell that this is a guide to ruining a man's reputation or life.Basically, this book gives practical tactics on how ‘Allegations,’ the ‘Media,’ and the ‘Authority’ work together to dethrone a man from influence and power.
I would like to use this perspective as we navigate the issues concerning Pastor Apollo.If you want to DAMN, start with making allegations. That is the first weapon. Merriam-Webster defines allegations as ‘an assertion unsupported and by implication regarded as unsupportable.’
This means anyone who makes an allegation against any man is free from the burden of facts. So, the devils made sure he crafted piles of serious allegations to ruin Pastor Apollo’s reputation on a global scale.
The following were made since 2018, roughly six years in the making:Allegations in the United States. The perpetrators here, according to the camp of Pastor Apollo, were in connivance with former workers who had supposedly committed grave crimes in the KOJC and fled to the U.S.
The allegations include conspiracy to engage in sex trafficking, sex trafficking of children, sex trafficking by force, fraud and coercion, conspiracy, and bulk cash smuggling.Until now none of these allegations have been proven true in court, yet the U.S. government agencies like the Federal Bureau of Investigation, put Pastor Apollo's name on the Most Wanted List. In the Philippines, it’s more complicated.
Cases of alleged sexual abuse of a minor and qualified human trafficking were filed against Pastor Apollo but were easily dismissed by Philippine courts. However, recently, the Justice Department overturned the decision and Pastor Apollo is once again facing scrutiny.
The legislature, tasked with making laws, targeted Pastor Apollo through hearings. In the Senate, Senator Risa Hontiveros launched a probe against Pastor Apollo for alleged human trafficking, labor violations, and sex-related offenses. In the lower house, headed by Speaker Martin Romualdez, who is the cousin of President Bongbong Marcos, they targeted the media arm of KOJC - the Sonshine Media Network International, alleging franchise violations and implicating Pastor Apollo as the owner, thus compelling his presence at the hearing.
Notably, the House Speaker generously gave the known CPP-NPA operatives France Castro, Arlene Brosas, and Raoul Manuel the floor to launch ad hominem attacks against Pastor Apollo. They have become one of the mouthpieces of the devils.
Moreover, the House also weaponized the National Telecommunications Commission (NTC) to impose an indefinite suspension on SMNI, as well as the Movie and Television Review and Classification Board (MTRCB) to suspend two programs, including former President Duterte’s 'Gikan sa Masa Para sa Masa' and 'Laban Kasama ang Bayan,' due to alleged franchise violations. This is clearly to silence SMNI. They want to disarm the people of truth, especially about the Dutertes and about the terrorist organization CPP-NPA-NDF.
With all the missiles and bombs of allegations against Pastor Apollo, the devils now need a 'Media' platform to proliferate. If the allegation is the bullet, then the media is the gun. This is the second weapon of the Devil.Use the Power of Media.
You’ve probably heard the philosophical question, “If a tree falls in the woods, and no one hears it, did it make a sound?” The more people who know about an allegation, the more powerful it becomes.
Admit it, we're drawn to the drama, especially Filipinos, which is why you'll notice more scandalous stories in the news and media these days—everyone loves a bit of gossip!"Sex sells,” they say. When it comes to allegations against a holy or religious figure like Pastor Apollo, especially those related to flesh, it can shatter their reputation and can be particularly devastating, regardless of the truth.In a court of law, a man is presumed innocent until proven guilty. But in the court of public opinion manipulated by the media, a man “serially accused” of a scandal is guilty until proven innocent.In this scenario, an allegation doesn't need evidence to DAMN someone because media manipulation turns it into its own proof.
Thousands, even millions, of people can unite against one man.Look at the mainstream media, even the alternative that wants to gain popularity, makes Pastor Apollo their headlines because they profit from it. However, they bear little responsibility for doing it. Apparently, as long as the media labels the scandal as an "allegation," they are somewhat protected from legal consequences.
Moreover, the media can claim they are merely reporting the allegation, not making it. However, the way they report it often contributes to shaping the allegation itself.But we're not only referring to traditional media. With the rise of social media, the realm of trolls and paid vloggers/bloggers, the spread of allegations has become faster and more potent.The "evidence" and public perception of guilt crafted by allegations and the media's collaboration can grow so significant and influential that the third weapon of the Devil, 'Authority,' is compelled to intervene.Authority. In the case of Pastor Apollo, the authority being used by the devils is the US-PH government and its instrumentalities. And their mission is to fully destroy him now.According to the handbook, “Ultimately, it’s authority that plays the final role in condemning a man.
As ‘Daddy Knight’ he takes pride in his role as guardian and savior, especially of the weak, mistreated, violated, and so on. He strives to be the hero who saves the damsel in distress. In other words, authority caters to victims, and nothing gets [Authority]’s attention more than a call to action to save victims.”“Also, keep in mind that with the media’s help, allegations against authorities can be used to motivate authority to take action. Just about any widespread allegation about an authority being remiss, ineffectual, or negligent in its “guardian and savior” role will suffice.”And this is so evident with what Hontiveros is doing as well as Castro, Brosas and Manuel are doing. Listen to their words. It’s almost the same! They want to play the savior role.
They want to pretend heroes but never really give justice to the supposed victims.They are lawmakers but they act as judges. And they want justice for the supposed victims, why don’t they bring it to the proper forum which is the court? Because they’re not after justice; they’re after destroying the person of Pastor Apollo.
Hontiveros, alongside leftist lawmakers and their enablers, have shown disrespect for the sanctity of the institutions they represent.I recently came across a statement from Hontiveros, where she said in Filipino, “I also call on Quiboloy not to resort to drama.” But who's the real drama queen here? Isn’t it Hontiveros?Her bogus witnesses, as members of KOJC call them, joined the drama in the hearing.
Obviously, the script was made. What's more fascinating is that one of the 'witnesses' claimed to have seen Pastor giving a bag of guns to former President Duterte and his daughter, VP Inday Sara Duterte.Both of them denied it. The former president called it ‘silly’ and Sara Duterte has never been to Glory Mountain. It was an error in the script of the devils that they didn’t see coming.Well, if Hontiveros really wanted to stop the drama, then the alleged crimes should be brought to court.
The Senate, especially her, has no power to serve justice; its role is to make laws.The hearing was supposed to aid legislation. So, what law is she trying to make? The Philippines has one of the most laws in the world to combat human trafficking and sexual abuse cases. Did Hontiveros do her research? Or is it just in-aid of re-election?And it’s no secret that leftist lawmakers have been unmasked many times on SMNI through its program Laban Kasama ang Bayan, where former cadres unmasked who they truly are.
These individuals are often referred to as 'wolves in sheep's clothing' by these former members.It's crucial to understand the atrocities committed by the communist-terrorist groups CPP-NPA-NDF over the past five decades of insurgency, resulting in the deaths of thousands of innocent lives, including promising youth leaders, indigenous peoples, women, farmers, and individuals from all sectors affected by their deceptions.
Their objective within the government? To undermine and destroy it.
Only SMNI, of which Pastor Apollo is an honorary chair, has the courage to undertake this task: defending the government and the nation by giving enlightenment to the people.Recently, Castro said that the warrant of arrest issued against Pastor Apollo is "an important step" in obtaining justice for his victims.
Poor Castro, she lost her moral ascendancy a long time ago. I hope Castro will remember that she was charged, together with Satur Ocampo and 16 others for kidnapping and human trafficking over the transport of 14 children from Talaingod town in Davao del NorteIt's not surprising, then, that they are so eager and willing to destroy Pastor Apollo in this manner, especially when the current administration has allowed them to become the attack dogs against the good pastor.
They thirst for vengeance for the near-demise of the CPP-NPA-NDF that suffered a major blow during the Duterte presidency.
They seek to recover under the Marcos regime. This is one of the most alarming issues now that the nation must address: the 'unholy alliance' between the terrorist organization and their friends, and the government.
For now, we will pause here. We’ve given you a glimpse of the people in ‘authority’ that are part of the Devil’s playbook against Pastor Apollo.
In the upcoming parts, we will delve into the alliance dubbed as the "Unholy Trinity" involving the collusion of the US, Marcos, and the CPP, aimed at dismantling Pastor Apollo and the Dutertes.
We will explore why this has now become a matter of national significance. And why the fight of Pastor Apollo is a fight for every Filipino.
Read Part 1https://www.facebook.com/prestrackeposts/1035462161478486
2024.05.15 19:04 InstructionUnique722 How can I 32m mend the relationship between my wife 31f and my mother 63f?
The rift between them has caused a lot of tension in my family and now my mom wants to be in the life of her newborn grandson but refuses to address or try to mend things with my wife.
Little history: I probably introduced them too quickly. My grandmother was in town in south Florida about to move here from Illinois for a retirement community. My wife, girlfriend at the time, came with cookies or some form of baked goods like she usually does when visiting someone as a sign of affection and respect. Where it went wrong from here I have no idea. I suppose the initial crack was when wife scheduled a skitrip for her and I to have as a 1 year of dating anniversary present. We are not rich, this is a huge gift that made sense to her since I refused to let her pay rent. Our combines salaries are barely over 120k. So wife calls mom 6 months in advance because she is a planner for the sole purpose of asking my mom to watch one of our four dogs. Wife has already paid in full for the trip. Yet Mom decides it is a great idea to instead use the opportunity to hop on and take a family trip because it is the last time the family will have for a family vacation - I am the oldest of two boys and two stepsisters, my mom married the guy she left my father for who has twin girls of his own that were in the womb during the infidelity. Anyway mom completely takes over and decides to make our one year gift a family vacation, so she books tickets for a hotel nearby. Wife is bold but at the time not bold enough to stop my mom in her tracks for overstepping a boundary. At this time she still respected my mother and kind of let herself get steamrolled.
Probably skippable Family history: Now I have always had issues with my mother, resentment for leaving my father for my stepdad behind my own fathers back and constantly trying to keep brother and I from seeing “Disneyland dad who doesn’t do any of the work but gets all the fun.” my mother was very strict growing up, always bringing us to church and making my father feel guilty for not bringing brother and I on his weekend. So mom marries stepdad age 11, divorces him around 13 after asking me advice for her relationship and i encourage her to move out. Then remarries him and moves us back into his house age 15. Here I begin rebellion and normal teeenager stuff but stepdad won’t butt in because he isn’t my “biological father” so would have my mom intervene brother and i from behind the scenes. For example, I am young and messing around on the piano because music is important and I never had any formal training and mom comes in to tell me stepdad “wants to know when the concert is going to end because it is a little annoying.” Anyway, they have me prescribed adderall at 16 and in the parking lot holding my first prescription I am told that they would like me to move out and in with my father, who had chased us every time mom and stepdad moved several miles away (5 moves from age 5-15 all in one county). Anyway, brother and I are recovering alcoholics with (my) slipups triggered from interactions or visiting my mom, which mom claims is genetics from my father alone and has nothing to do with her. Maternal grandfather, mother, and I have some nasty temper problems which certainly are exacerbated by drinking (at least mine and moms).
Skitrip revelations: Wife and I are on the way to brothers graduation in Chicago, and wife has yet to reveal to me that my mother has taken over her massive investment of a couples ski vacation and it will now be a family vacation for mom, stepdad, brother, two stepsisters who are all getting out of gradschool. On the way to the airport I am told the news by future wife of my one year surprise. So I get upset and call my mom to call it off. She obliges my request and now holds resentment against me and now wife for “ruining her last family vacation.” Fine, whatever. Mother never says a word about it for months until we are out for a distant family members birthday dinner and at a table of about 8-10 people that are having a group conversation and gets real close to my wife’s ear and tells her privately along the lines of “you deprived our family of our last family vacation.” During this time my wife is frantically tapping my leg under the table because my mom can get a little aggressive. My mom saw this and later (privately to me) mocked her for doing it to my leg under the table.
Christmas blessings: Closer to Christmas maybe 2/3 weeks later we went to go see my mom and my mom had a couple drinks in her (not an alcoholic like brother and I just very sensitive to a couple glasses of wine and occasionally some hidden sips of wine or something) and invites my wife to Christmas church and out to dinner after because the family needs photos for a Christmas card and future wife “will be the photographer for it.” Now this can easily be a nothing comment but given the way my mom had been making future wife feel, it was taken as an insult. So wife declined church and showed up to family dinner just in time for photography session to be over.
The distance: Then mom moves to a fancy house up the coast and invites us up to visit. At first it is ok to bring the 4 dogs then the day before she says they will not have dogs at the house and we can easily find a sitter. 2 Dogs don’t get along, they need to be separated always as there has been two attacks on one from the other, so we can’t trust someone to come to the house and keep them separate and we won’t board 4 dogs it’s too expensive for us. Anyway we go back and forth being invited with the dogs then they retract the offer and say pick one dog to bring and leave the others and it’s just annoying, so we say forget it and don’t go. But my brother becomes engaged and decides to throw his engagement party at my mom’s new place near the beach. Great. First all the dogs are welcome, then day before they say it is too chaotic and she will pay for a small hotel room for one night for future wife and her dogs and my one (the attack dog) can stay in a crate at the house with me but I may not leave the dog to stay with her. And no reasonable cheap hotel in the area is going to accommodate 4 dogs. Anyway wife is stressed but feels obligated to come because I am the best man and I stay at the house while she checks her dogs into the hotel. Wife had made a cheesecake and brought it up in a separate car from me, 4 hour drive by the way, and night of.. my mom says no desserts for engagement party dinner, the dessert is themed or some crazy stuff. Wife shows up to dinner a little later and very flustered because of the situation plus I had relapsed on a bottle of whiskey a couple days prior to seeing my mom. Related, I don’t know. Anyway. Mom has had a couple drinks and future wife and I are talking about having children and religion comes up. Mom asks what we were thinking of doing about baptism or not and I jokingly said (guiltily to get on my moms nerves a bit) that he would have a bris and would love it if she would come to the bar mitzvah. now my wife’s mom was forced to convert from Catholicism to Judaism for her own mother in laws acceptance for a failed marriage so wife is not religious, but it hurt my wife and reasonably so when my mom replied “oh, son, I raised you better than that.” Still no acknowlegement of fault from that comment and mom thinks wife is “overly sensitive, dramatic, and childish” for wanting an apology for it.
Weddings: Future wife becomes current wife. We had gotten engaged on our next anniversary trip she planned for us. I proposed on our bike and barge through tulip season in holland with our feet in the water of the North Sea after a picnic in the dunes. her family business manufactures photo albums for professional photographers, so aside from our families all being divorced, estranged, difficult, and us trying to save money, we did not have a wedding, we just did the paperwork within a month of the proposal. I had already decided to have a baby with her before the trip so we were trying. 2 weeks before brothers wedding in Tennessee we become pregnant, so we break news immediately as to not steal limelight from brothers expensive wedding. Mom says she will cover cost of rental car so we can save money. Ok great. She books the tiny car and we pack it and head up the Smokey mountains to the cabins we are staying at. Two cabins for grooms family, one for his mother and one for his father, ten paces from each other: they havnt spoken but twice im since divorce in 1995 but through lawyers. Grandmother, mother, stepdad, 2 stepsisters and one boyfriend stayed in mom’s side. Wife and I stay at father’s side cabin with just his wife. His Wife’s 3 daughters and family’s stayed a town away down the mountain among extended family. Anyway, beautiful wedding takes place. My wife is sent into town to collect flowers and run errands for my mom which she happily obliged to since she is a solitary person and did not want wedding day drama. Day after, we are loading our rental sedan with our bags. Mom and grandma need a ride to the airport and our flight is before theirs so they will drop off the car for us 4 hours or so after we go to the airport 5 hours from current time. We’re loading the car. Stepcousin passed out in mother’s cabin night before and needed a ride. Disorganized brunch for 20 people is trying to be made. Father’s wife’s daughter books a reservation for 10 people which include her family, her sisters, me, my wife, dad, and their mom. My stepdad had left for home at this point as he had taken his own suv instead of flying with my mom and 90 year old grandma. So mom is trying to pack grandma in the car with bags and my wife and stepcousin. At this point mother asks stepmother if she and grandma are on reservation for the brunch. Stepmom says no they are not, she wasn’t sure of their plans. Mom says under her breath “fucking assholes, so typical,” and she goes into a bit of a rage to which my stepmom says here “it’s ok I will call and add you two it’s no big deal.” So we continue packing the car and realize we won’t all fit. So my wife tells my stepcousin to go ride with my father to the restaurant 10 minutes away we will meet you there. Mom says to wife, “no you go with the father.” Wife says “no I am going to ride with my husband” mom gets close to her face with her finger and says “this is my car, you can fucking Uber!” Wife is 6 weeks pregnant at this point and it all escalated from here. wife and mother start yelling at each other swearing at each other and we get into the car, mom behind wife who was in shotgun. 2 occasions on the trip I had to stop the car because mom had taken off her seatbelt to stand over the seat and scream in my wife’s face with so much vigor that spit came on to her face multiple times. I’m trying to tell them both to behave and mom sit down shut the f up. Mom is telling wife to get the f out of the car and find a ride, she has no right to speak because she’s “new here” (dating and living together for 3 years at this point). The following brunch she apologized in a crowd with a hushed voice at a table of 20 people trying to have a group conversation again privately to my wife “I’m sorry you get so upset” and my wife told her “that is not an apology.” The following several hours in the car with grandma and stepcousin and wife were some of the most uncomfortable moments of my life. At a gas station I pulled my mom aside and said I need ther to give a huge apology, that it was so nasty and inappropriate, my brother and I are used to abusive language and aggressive behavior but to my pregnant wife and any other human being it is disgusting and unacceptable. Sitting in the car was quiet for many hours until we got to the airport. No speaking about what happened just mom happy go lucky about Tennessee and Dollywood and wife and I in shock, cousin still half in the bag from a fun wedding, grandma 90 years old probably confused about what happened.
The family groupchat: Im waiting on an apology from my mother to my wife who is extremely hurt and expressed to my mom loads of time she needs to reach out and apologize. We’re not talking until she will do so. It is bugging me and keeping me up at night. My appendix flares up and I am admitted to the hospital with emergency appendectomy. Still pregnant Wife suggests I reach out to mom to let her know what’s going on. So I text mom I’m at the hospital and will have surgery. I send a pic or something that on my end says hasn’t gone through. Mom group texts our family group with stepdad, his daughters, brother and his wife, and grandma that I am in the hospital and attaches the pic I sent of me in there. Then she continues to rave about the success of her startup company and how they got FDA approved clinical trials finally completed or some pivotal moment that made the text about her. Wife and I are in a hospital so the picture comes up on moms end as unable to have been sent. Mom assumes that my wife has blocked her phone, so mom removes my wife from the chat. Wife is rushing home to take care of the dogs at this point and is not alerted on her phone, but on everyone else’s phone it clearly reads “(mom) has removed (wife) from the chat.” Immediately I text my mom and basically say how dare you do that to her she is the one who insisted I let you know out of respect and mom responds with blah blah she did this she did that I will not have it. So I go back to the family chat and remove mother. At this point I let everyone in the chat know what my mother has done and how she refuses to take responsibility for how she made my wife feel, address her feelings, apologize or do anything at all to reach out about the wedding incident or even inquire about the wellbeing of the pregnancy for her first grandchild. Stepdad finally steps in and tells me “enough.” Grandma says “shame on you.” I am dumbfounded. This is a hush hush family that hates to have anything out in the open and likes to maintain a picture perfect image. For examples; 1) I and wife were on the family Christmas card of a photo taken at the wedding that the whole world received except for wife and I. 2)brothers alcoholism was to remain hidden from the family as was his rehab treatment and how it affected his career. Now understand that they like to keep things quiet but that is not how I want to handle my problems, these things trigger alcohol use and violent outbursts on my part that I no longer wish to live through. Now appendectomy’s are pretty simple so I recovered quickly (it don’t rupture we just took it out). But during the time I was scheduled to be under anesthesia, stepdad reaches out to wife to have a chat and clear the air. Wife waits until I come to so i can be there and I hear the conversation. He claims to be here as a middleman like a business meeting to fix things once and for all. Wife and I are like wow great. He then proceeds to double down on my moms behalf that they will not be apologizing or meet any of her demands as she had already apologized as confirmed by 90yo grandma who was in the car and my mother herself. The term he used was stalemate to describe the situation. Wife and I are shocked but she has me keep quiet to show me what he will say. He proceeds to yell at her and they were screaming at each other, again steamrolling the conversation assuring us that he was down the middle yet maintains that mom has made a sufficient apology that needs to be accepted and wife needs to grow up and move on, then wishing her luck with the baby and a nice life. Next day I call stepdad to see how it went. He reassures me that he has done all he can and everything is back to normal. At this point I call him out and tell him I was conscious and explain to him what an apology is. But there is no dialogue with this guy like there is no dialogue with my mother. He proceeds to talk loudly over me like she does and basically call me a piece of shit for the amount he and mother have done for me. I speak to him first time like I never have before by calling him a hands off father and a pussy of a man who finally reaches out while he thinks I am under anesthesia to yell at my wife then pretend it’s cool, and I basically tell him he has never done a single thing for me to try and develop me into a man or nurture me as a child into an adult, but he thinks taking me on fishing trips and ski vacations are equivalent to love and nurturing growth and development just like my mom does. I reassure him that he has no right to talk about family being that he ruined his own as well as mine and couldn’t even tell my dad to his face that it was him who was sleeping with my mom behind his back when my dad came to him very upset as a friend when he got an anonymous phone tip at work one day. Then him and my mom laughed about it in court when my dad brought it up during the divorce. We ended with swearing and I felt very happy for finally giving my true feelings to him.
The birth: Months go by and nobody has said a thing. I can’t sleep at night seeing how much love I am getting from my father and his side for the baby, and my wife’s family, then thinking about how my own mother hasn’t reached out a single time. I’m dreaming about beating up my stepdad and it’s driving me mad. So weeks before the due date I reach out to my mom begging her to clear things up and apologize to my wife. Nothing. A week later i tell her how disappointed and abandoned I feel and want her in the family. Nothing. Baby comes a couple days early. Everyone is excited. Mom texts me begging for photos and to let everyone know. I tell her my brother and two stepsisters have received photos. I ask her to please reach out to wife she still needs to make amends for what’s happened between them and all she needs to do is reach out. Mom’s responses have been defensive, derisive, projecting, playing victim and referring to herself as a kicked puppy. Telling me my wife needs to apologize to her and making the conversation about mother son instead. She is beating around the bush. And she is sending me photos of my own baby that I did not send her. Her friends are congratulating me that I did not tell. Again she is pretending that everything is ok and it is not. She asked me to apologize to her husband for what I said on the phone that day. I said ok, watch this. So I sent the guy a message that was very apologetic and not passive aggressive or backhanded comments in any way. Still my mom won’t say anything.
Now: Baby is 6 days old. He is the best thing in my life and I wish my family were involved but it seems like I am living in a fantasy world where everyone can be happy together. I can be a jerk and have a terrible relationship with my mom, but I want more than anything to just feel loved enough where she can swallow her pride and make amends with my wife. Thats it. And she asked the other day to put a family group chat so everyone can be involved… for real? I know she is stressed with a high pressure job, but it seems heartless to me. She asks what big items she can get for the baby. Mom, baby is here we have everything for a couple months already. I said the biggest thing you can do is reach out and have a heart to heart with my wife so this rift can end and we can at least be cordial if you two can’t get along. I don’t think it will happen.
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Little history: I probably introduced them too quickly. My grandmother was in town in south Florida about to move here from Illinois for a retirement community. My wife, girlfriend at the time, came with cookies or some form of baked goods like she usually does when visiting someone as a sign of affection and respect. Where it went wrong from here I have no idea. I suppose the initial crack was when wife scheduled a skitrip for her and I to have as a 1 year of dating anniversary present. We are not rich, this is a huge gift that made sense to her since I refused to let her pay rent. Our combines salaries are barely over 120k. So wife calls mom 6 months in advance because she is a planner for the sole purpose of asking my mom to watch one of our four dogs. Wife has already paid in full for the trip. Yet Mom decides it is a great idea to instead use the opportunity to hop on and take a family trip because it is the last time the family will have for a family vacation - I am the oldest of two boys and two stepsisters, my mom married the guy she left my father for who has twin girls of his own that were in the womb during the infidelity. Anyway mom completely takes over and decides to make our one year gift a family vacation, so she books tickets for a hotel nearby. Wife is bold but at the time not bold enough to stop my mom in her tracks for overstepping a boundary. At this time she still respected my mother and kind of let herself get steamrolled.
Probably skippable Family history: Now I have always had issues with my mother, resentment for leaving my father for my stepdad behind my own fathers back and constantly trying to keep brother and I from seeing “Disneyland dad who doesn’t do any of the work but gets all the fun.” my mother was very strict growing up, always bringing us to church and making my father feel guilty for not bringing brother and I on his weekend. So mom marries stepdad age 11, divorces him around 13 after asking me advice for her relationship and i encourage her to move out. Then remarries him and moves us back into his house age 15. Here I begin rebellion and normal teeenager stuff but stepdad won’t butt in because he isn’t my “biological father” so would have my mom intervene brother and i from behind the scenes. For example, I am young and messing around on the piano because music is important and I never had any formal training and mom comes in to tell me stepdad “wants to know when the concert is going to end because it is a little annoying.” Anyway, they have me prescribed adderall at 16 and in the parking lot holding my first prescription I am told that they would like me to move out and in with my father, who had chased us every time mom and stepdad moved several miles away (5 moves from age 5-15 all in one county). Anyway, brother and I are recovering alcoholics with (my) slipups triggered from interactions or visiting my mom, which mom claims is genetics from my father alone and has nothing to do with her. Maternal grandfather, mother, and I have some nasty temper problems which certainly are exacerbated by drinking (at least mine and moms).
Skitrip revelations: Wife and I are on the way to brothers graduation in Chicago, and wife has yet to reveal to me that my mother has taken over her massive investment of a couples ski vacation and it will now be a family vacation for mom, stepdad, brother, two stepsisters who are all getting out of gradschool. On the way to the airport I am told the news by future wife of my one year surprise. So I get upset and call my mom to call it off. She obliges my request and now holds resentment against me and now wife for “ruining her last family vacation.” Fine, whatever. Mother never says a word about it for months until we are out for a distant family members birthday dinner and at a table of about 8-10 people that are having a group conversation and gets real close to my wife’s ear and tells her privately along the lines of “you deprived our family of our last family vacation.” During this time my wife is frantically tapping my leg under the table because my mom can get a little aggressive. My mom saw this and later (privately to me) mocked her for doing it to my leg under the table.
Christmas blessings: Closer to Christmas maybe 2/3 weeks later we went to go see my mom and my mom had a couple drinks in her (not an alcoholic like brother and I just very sensitive to a couple glasses of wine and occasionally some hidden sips of wine or something) and invites my wife to Christmas church and out to dinner after because the family needs photos for a Christmas card and future wife “will be the photographer for it.” Now this can easily be a nothing comment but given the way my mom had been making future wife feel, it was taken as an insult. So wife declined church and showed up to family dinner just in time for photography session to be over.
The distance: Then mom moves to a fancy house up the coast and invites us up to visit. At first it is ok to bring the 4 dogs then the day before she says they will not have dogs at the house and we can easily find a sitter. 2 Dogs don’t get along, they need to be separated always as there has been two attacks on one from the other, so we can’t trust someone to come to the house and keep them separate and we won’t board 4 dogs it’s too expensive for us. Anyway we go back and forth being invited with the dogs then they retract the offer and say pick one dog to bring and leave the others and it’s just annoying, so we say forget it and don’t go. But my brother becomes engaged and decides to throw his engagement party at my mom’s new place near the beach. Great. First all the dogs are welcome, then day before they say it is too chaotic and she will pay for a small hotel room for one night for future wife and her dogs and my one (the attack dog) can stay in a crate at the house with me but I may not leave the dog to stay with her. And no reasonable cheap hotel in the area is going to accommodate 4 dogs. Anyway wife is stressed but feels obligated to come because I am the best man and I stay at the house while she checks her dogs into the hotel. Wife had made a cheesecake and brought it up in a separate car from me, 4 hour drive by the way, and night of.. my mom says no desserts for engagement party dinner, the dessert is themed or some crazy stuff. Wife shows up to dinner a little later and very flustered because of the situation plus I had relapsed on a bottle of whiskey a couple days prior to seeing my mom. Related, I don’t know. Anyway. Mom has had a couple drinks and future wife and I are talking about having children and religion comes up. Mom asks what we were thinking of doing about baptism or not and I jokingly said (guiltily to get on my moms nerves a bit) that he would have a bris and would love it if she would come to the bar mitzvah. now my wife’s mom was forced to convert from Catholicism to Judaism for her own mother in laws acceptance for a failed marriage so wife is not religious, but it hurt my wife and reasonably so when my mom replied “oh, son, I raised you better than that.” Still no acknowlegement of fault from that comment and mom thinks wife is “overly sensitive, dramatic, and childish” for wanting an apology for it.
Weddings: Future wife becomes current wife. We had gotten engaged on our next anniversary trip she planned for us. I proposed on our bike and barge through tulip season in holland with our feet in the water of the North Sea after a picnic in the dunes. her family business manufactures photo albums for professional photographers, so aside from our families all being divorced, estranged, difficult, and us trying to save money, we did not have a wedding, we just did the paperwork within a month of the proposal. I had already decided to have a baby with her before the trip so we were trying. 2 weeks before brothers wedding in Tennessee we become pregnant, so we break news immediately as to not steal limelight from brothers expensive wedding. Mom says she will cover cost of rental car so we can save money. Ok great. She books the tiny car and we pack it and head up the Smokey mountains to the cabins we are staying at. Two cabins for grooms family, one for his mother and one for his father, ten paces from each other: they havnt spoken but twice im since divorce in 1995 but through lawyers. Grandmother, mother, stepdad, 2 stepsisters and one boyfriend stayed in mom’s side. Wife and I stay at father’s side cabin with just his wife. His Wife’s 3 daughters and family’s stayed a town away down the mountain among extended family. Anyway, beautiful wedding takes place. My wife is sent into town to collect flowers and run errands for my mom which she happily obliged to since she is a solitary person and did not want wedding day drama. Day after, we are loading our rental sedan with our bags. Mom and grandma need a ride to the airport and our flight is before theirs so they will drop off the car for us 4 hours or so after we go to the airport 5 hours from current time. We’re loading the car. Stepcousin passed out in mother’s cabin night before and needed a ride. Disorganized brunch for 20 people is trying to be made. Father’s wife’s daughter books a reservation for 10 people which include her family, her sisters, me, my wife, dad, and their mom. My stepdad had left for home at this point as he had taken his own suv instead of flying with my mom and 90 year old grandma. So mom is trying to pack grandma in the car with bags and my wife and stepcousin. At this point mother asks stepmother if she and grandma are on reservation for the brunch. Stepmom says no they are not, she wasn’t sure of their plans. Mom says under her breath “fucking assholes, so typical,” and she goes into a bit of a rage to which my stepmom says here “it’s ok I will call and add you two it’s no big deal.” So we continue packing the car and realize we won’t all fit. So my wife tells my stepcousin to go ride with my father to the restaurant 10 minutes away we will meet you there. Mom says to wife, “no you go with the father.” Wife says “no I am going to ride with my husband” mom gets close to her face with her finger and says “this is my car, you can fucking Uber!” Wife is 6 weeks pregnant at this point and it all escalated from here. wife and mother start yelling at each other swearing at each other and we get into the car, mom behind wife who was in shotgun. 2 occasions on the trip I had to stop the car because mom had taken off her seatbelt to stand over the seat and scream in my wife’s face with so much vigor that spit came on to her face multiple times. I’m trying to tell them both to behave and mom sit down shut the f up. Mom is telling wife to get the f out of the car and find a ride, she has no right to speak because she’s “new here” (dating and living together for 3 years at this point). The following brunch she apologized in a crowd with a hushed voice at a table of 20 people trying to have a group conversation again privately to my wife “I’m sorry you get so upset” and my wife told her “that is not an apology.” The following several hours in the car with grandma and stepcousin and wife were some of the most uncomfortable moments of my life. At a gas station I pulled my mom aside and said I need ther to give a huge apology, that it was so nasty and inappropriate, my brother and I are used to abusive language and aggressive behavior but to my pregnant wife and any other human being it is disgusting and unacceptable. Sitting in the car was quiet for many hours until we got to the airport. No speaking about what happened just mom happy go lucky about Tennessee and Dollywood and wife and I in shock, cousin still half in the bag from a fun wedding, grandma 90 years old probably confused about what happened.
The family groupchat: Im waiting on an apology from my mother to my wife who is extremely hurt and expressed to my mom loads of time she needs to reach out and apologize. We’re not talking until she will do so. It is bugging me and keeping me up at night. My appendix flares up and I am admitted to the hospital with emergency appendectomy. Still pregnant Wife suggests I reach out to mom to let her know what’s going on. So I text mom I’m at the hospital and will have surgery. I send a pic or something that on my end says hasn’t gone through. Mom group texts our family group with stepdad, his daughters, brother and his wife, and grandma that I am in the hospital and attaches the pic I sent of me in there. Then she continues to rave about the success of her startup company and how they got FDA approved clinical trials finally completed or some pivotal moment that made the text about her. Wife and I are in a hospital so the picture comes up on moms end as unable to have been sent. Mom assumes that my wife has blocked her phone, so mom removes my wife from the chat. Wife is rushing home to take care of the dogs at this point and is not alerted on her phone, but on everyone else’s phone it clearly reads “(mom) has removed (wife) from the chat.” Immediately I text my mom and basically say how dare you do that to her she is the one who insisted I let you know out of respect and mom responds with blah blah she did this she did that I will not have it. So I go back to the family chat and remove mother. At this point I let everyone in the chat know what my mother has done and how she refuses to take responsibility for how she made my wife feel, address her feelings, apologize or do anything at all to reach out about the wedding incident or even inquire about the wellbeing of the pregnancy for her first grandchild. Stepdad finally steps in and tells me “enough.” Grandma says “shame on you.” I am dumbfounded. This is a hush hush family that hates to have anything out in the open and likes to maintain a picture perfect image. For examples; 1) I and wife were on the family Christmas card of a photo taken at the wedding that the whole world received except for wife and I. 2)brothers alcoholism was to remain hidden from the family as was his rehab treatment and how it affected his career. Now understand that they like to keep things quiet but that is not how I want to handle my problems, these things trigger alcohol use and violent outbursts on my part that I no longer wish to live through. Now appendectomy’s are pretty simple so I recovered quickly (it don’t rupture we just took it out). But during the time I was scheduled to be under anesthesia, stepdad reaches out to wife to have a chat and clear the air. Wife waits until I come to so i can be there and I hear the conversation. He claims to be here as a middleman like a business meeting to fix things once and for all. Wife and I are like wow great. He then proceeds to double down on my moms behalf that they will not be apologizing or meet any of her demands as she had already apologized as confirmed by 90yo grandma who was in the car and my mother herself. The term he used was stalemate to describe the situation. Wife and I are shocked but she has me keep quiet to show me what he will say. He proceeds to yell at her and they were screaming at each other, again steamrolling the conversation assuring us that he was down the middle yet maintains that mom has made a sufficient apology that needs to be accepted and wife needs to grow up and move on, then wishing her luck with the baby and a nice life. Next day I call stepdad to see how it went. He reassures me that he has done all he can and everything is back to normal. At this point I call him out and tell him I was conscious and explain to him what an apology is. But there is no dialogue with this guy like there is no dialogue with my mother. He proceeds to talk loudly over me like she does and basically call me a piece of shit for the amount he and mother have done for me. I speak to him first time like I never have before by calling him a hands off father and a pussy of a man who finally reaches out while he thinks I am under anesthesia to yell at my wife then pretend it’s cool, and I basically tell him he has never done a single thing for me to try and develop me into a man or nurture me as a child into an adult, but he thinks taking me on fishing trips and ski vacations are equivalent to love and nurturing growth and development just like my mom does. I reassure him that he has no right to talk about family being that he ruined his own as well as mine and couldn’t even tell my dad to his face that it was him who was sleeping with my mom behind his back when my dad came to him very upset as a friend when he got an anonymous phone tip at work one day. Then him and my mom laughed about it in court when my dad brought it up during the divorce. We ended with swearing and I felt very happy for finally giving my true feelings to him.
The birth: Months go by and nobody has said a thing. I can’t sleep at night seeing how much love I am getting from my father and his side for the baby, and my wife’s family, then thinking about how my own mother hasn’t reached out a single time. I’m dreaming about beating up my stepdad and it’s driving me mad. So weeks before the due date I reach out to my mom begging her to clear things up and apologize to my wife. Nothing. A week later i tell her how disappointed and abandoned I feel and want her in the family. Nothing. Baby comes a couple days early. Everyone is excited. Mom texts me begging for photos and to let everyone know. I tell her my brother and two stepsisters have received photos. I ask her to please reach out to wife she still needs to make amends for what’s happened between them and all she needs to do is reach out. Mom’s responses have been defensive, derisive, projecting, playing victim and referring to herself as a kicked puppy. Telling me my wife needs to apologize to her and making the conversation about mother son instead. She is beating around the bush. And she is sending me photos of my own baby that I did not send her. Her friends are congratulating me that I did not tell. Again she is pretending that everything is ok and it is not. She asked me to apologize to her husband for what I said on the phone that day. I said ok, watch this. So I sent the guy a message that was very apologetic and not passive aggressive or backhanded comments in any way. Still my mom won’t say anything.
Now: Baby is 6 days old. He is the best thing in my life and I wish my family were involved but it seems like I am living in a fantasy world where everyone can be happy together. I can be a jerk and have a terrible relationship with my mom, but I want more than anything to just feel loved enough where she can swallow her pride and make amends with my wife. Thats it. And she asked the other day to put a family group chat so everyone can be involved… for real? I know she is stressed with a high pressure job, but it seems heartless to me. She asks what big items she can get for the baby. Mom, baby is here we have everything for a couple months already. I said the biggest thing you can do is reach out and have a heart to heart with my wife so this rift can end and we can at least be cordial if you two can’t get along. I don’t think it will happen.
2024.05.15 16:38 HolyErr0r Drama Timeline Suggestion
I think this would help quite a bit during dramas. We should sticky a post that people update as time goes on during dramas. This way we can source everything as time goes forward, both the people against Destiny and his responses.
Now, instead of having to religiously follow up to date posts, people can just occasionally click on this sticked post during the time of the drama. Having all the info and timeline (date/time for each event) in one spot.
Also, for future drama where people reference past dramas, we can re-sticky the post. Almost like an archive that is easily available.
Maybe we can do this for each drama/person.
This way when people say “the guy made a throw-a-way comment, why is Destiny so mad?” We can sticky the history of that person.
If not a reddit post, then we should update/sticky the possible related wiki page for destiny and the various dramas (honestly don’t use it so idk how relevant that is)
Food for thought.
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Now, instead of having to religiously follow up to date posts, people can just occasionally click on this sticked post during the time of the drama. Having all the info and timeline (date/time for each event) in one spot.
Also, for future drama where people reference past dramas, we can re-sticky the post. Almost like an archive that is easily available.
Maybe we can do this for each drama/person.
This way when people say “the guy made a throw-a-way comment, why is Destiny so mad?” We can sticky the history of that person.
If not a reddit post, then we should update/sticky the possible related wiki page for destiny and the various dramas (honestly don’t use it so idk how relevant that is)
Food for thought.
2024.05.15 16:04 logan14309 Just Watched the 1st and 2nd Back to Back. Full and Lengthy Review. Spoilers.
The Man From Earth.
(TLDR Version): Rock solid, well worth the watch, great acting and story telling. Had me begging for more. 9.5/10.
Review. I absolutely loved The Man From Earth. The comments that call it a “Masterpiece” are not far off. Given it is a low budget movie taking place in largely the same setting throughout the movie, it just goes to show how far solid acting and superb story telling can go. The actor David Lee Smith portrays the main character John Oldman superbly. He is handsome, subtly charismatic, and rugged yet refined. He makes you truly believe him when he says he is 14,000 years old. The conversation that take place seems authentic, though there are moments where you can tell it is a low budget film. The questions and explanations that are asked and given by the characters seem so convincing throughout the movie, you almost believe the main character John Oldman may really exist in real life.
The first movie takes place in a cabin, during a going away party for the main character John Oldman. John reveals to his close friends and colleagues that he is 14,000 years old and most of the movie are his friends and confidents trying to wrestle with that fact. His tale is seen first as a jest, and some believe he is saying this because he is working on a science fiction novel. After some banter, Johns tale slowly begins to seem a little too convincing as it progresses. The cast is predominantly middle aged men, a few women, and older adults. Making the setting mature and thoughtful as the adults are all professors from various fields at the university which John is a professor at.
A great example of the authentic feel of the film is when one character asks John where he was during a specific date in the 1200s. John responds by asking the quistioner if she remembers what exactly she was doing at any specific date, decades prior. The obvious answer is, she doesn’t remember and neither does he. No one would remember something like that offhand which is a very human response at the time The off and on reaction from the group as they accept or reject Johns story, I feel mimics how any other rational person may react if they were in the same situation. That is true art in my opinion, and that' what makes this movie so dang apealing. Crafting a wonderful sci story that captures people minds because it just seems so real, yet mystical at the same time.
One of the major twists comes about halfway through when the topic turns religious. John is asked if he has ever been a character in the bible. This comes after John already explaining earlier in the movie how he sailed with Columbus, was friends with Van Gogh and many other historical figures. John tries to change the subject many times and to no avail. He admits that he was Jesus, though the events portrayed in the bible as we know it didn't exactly happen the way it says. This leads to stunned disbelief by many members of the group, particularly from the devout Christian, Edith. The topic is handled very tactfully and only adds to the story in my opinion. Despite the rather groundbreaking confession and many much religious convorsation, the movie does not turn in to some big religious movie. The movie continues to center arround the nuances of John claiming to be 14,000 years old.
The critique that I do have is largely that you can tell it is a low budget film, which isn’t really a bad thing, and you can occasionaly tell when the acting is forced. As an example, there is a scene when the old man of the group pulls a gun on John, being rather upset that John would go to such lengths to claim immortality while so many in the world have died. It is soon revealed that the old man had lost his wife the day before which led to his erratic outburst as he felt he was being mocked by Johns story. It is also soon revealed that there were no bullets in the gun, and the old man does come back and apologize to John. (Oops, silly mistake pulling a gun in my close friend. Won’t happen again!) I suppose they were trying to portray the skepticism and possible anger that close friends might feel when their trusted, charismatic, and reliable friend suddenly sounds like a mad man and sticks to it. I still feel that those things were portrayed plenty in the movie, and the over the top explicit show of force was unnecessary.
It ends when John reveals it was all a big “going away joke” and, with mixed reactions the group begins to leave Johns place. In the last few minutes John is joking with one of the female characters who has a crush on him(though he isn’t joking), revealing some of his previous alias’s he has gone by to hide his identity over thousands of years. The old man who pulled the gun, hears John say the name of his long lost father whom he never knew. In shock and bewilderment, the old man accepts Johns story as John reveals details about the old man’s life no one could possibly know but him. The old man goes in to shock and has a heart attack which kills him on the spot. The movie ends with John assuring someone he will be at the man’s funeral.
The ending is solid. Leaving room to expand, though wrapping things up enough to where it could’ve easily stood on its own.
At about an hour and a half long, I highly recommend The Man From Earth to anyone. 9.5/10.
The Man From Earth: Holocene.
(TLDR Version) Stands well as a sequel. Didn’t quite capture all the magic of the original. Targets a younger audience. Worth a watch if you saw the first one. Lighting rarely strikes twice so don't get your hopes up. 7.5/10.
Review. In my opinion if you enjoyed the concept and the main actor in the original, you will still find those portrayed well in the second. While the first stood out phenomenally as an original standalone movie. The second, acts well as a sequel though you wouldn’t watch it on it as a stand-alone and find the same enjoyment. The acting is more drama filled and erratic. There is far less nuance then the first, and the nitty gritty thought provoking convorsation isn’t quite there.
The 2nd movie takes place 10 years later where John Oldman now calls himself John Young and teaches Theology at a different university under a new identity. Holocene runs more like a modern TV show, rather then a short film. In Holocene, John also comes to the realization that for the first time in 14,000 years, he has begun to age. Rather then the movie focusing on a room of adults asking tough intellectual questions, the movie follows four young college students who are students of John’s.
Everything starts off normal. John is living with his girlfriend in their own house, the four college students are living normal college lives, and are all big fans of John (Oldman) Young. Shortly in to the movie however, one of the main students stops over at Johns house to pick up some books that John is happy to give away to eager readers. Books from his personal collection. The female student happens to pick up a book that is unknowingly written by a character from the first movie. The book describes the events of the first movie and the story John told his guests that night. The author claims that Johns story is 100% real. The students start to connect the dots, and come to believe Johns fantastical story that the book tells. After doing some research and calling people from his past to corroborate the information, they fully accept that John is very, very old.
The students proceed to spend the rest of the movie attempting to pin down John to find the truth.
The 2nd movie took a small portion of the first, and pretty much made it all about that. In the first movie John exposes that he actually was Jesus Christ and history didn’t exactly play out in the way the Bible says. The grand scheme of the first movie, this fact only shows up about halfway through and isn’t the focus point. Rather it’s one piece of the overall puzzle. The fact that John is 14,000 years old is the main point. There are devout Christian characters in both movies, though the young students religious beliefs in the 2nd movie takes the front seat. Though this certainly a very interesting area to explore, i’m not sure I was entirely captivated by that angle.
The last third of the sequel is where it gets a little forced, rushed, and weird. The characters start acting erratic, like the movie is trying to take you somewhere it’s not meant to. While I’m not as critical as some, I certainly see why this is an issue. I’m not saying they shouldn’t have made a sequal, though the last third of it makes me wish they hadn’t bothered.
In the end, the students call the character who wrote the book on John’s life and ask him to help them confront John about his past. Before he arrives, the students accidentally use a taser to stun John, causing him to hit his head and go unconscious. Three students go to meet the author who knew John, while the devout Christian student stays back and ties John up. After John comes to, their is a lengthy religious discussion between them, resulting in the Christian student stabbing John as he is unsure weather John is Jesus, or the antichrist. Either way the student felt like he needed to prove or disprove Johns story by taking drastic measures as his faith was being shaken. If it seems a little forced and rushed, that’s because it is. When the students and author arrive, both the student and John are gone, the movie doesn’t tell us what happened.
The ending is a cliffhanger, where an ominous FBI agent shows up at the door of the author and is asking questions about John Young, AKA John Oldman. In the very last scene we see that John is still alive, wounded, and rugged, living in a cave somewhere. A friend who is a character in the first movie and unseen until now in the second, is walking up the hill. He brings John blankets as John is still recovering from his knife wound. There is a brief dialogue, and John reveals it’s been 6 weeks since the stabbing. We don’t know how long John has been in the cave, and John says he doesn’t know what will happen next.
The acting isn’t quite as good in the second movie and feels more like a teen drama, probably because the sequel kind of is. According to my research, the hope was that the sequel would turn in to a TV spin-off, which is fairly obvious by the sudden and uncharacteristic ending. I think if they kept it to one, MAYBE 2 seasons it could go over well. Though obviously there has been no spin off made.
While the first movie is a flavorful and well written story, the second feels like a lengthy teen drama with unique story elements you haven’t seen many other places.
That being said if you enjoyed the first then please enjoy the second. Just recognize it for what it is as a good sequel, nothing more, nothing less. Frankly, the story will stick with me forever as I thoroughly enjoy the concept and may decide to write my own version for the heck of it. 7.5/10. Though the high rating is simply because the first is so worth the watch.
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(TLDR Version): Rock solid, well worth the watch, great acting and story telling. Had me begging for more. 9.5/10.
Review. I absolutely loved The Man From Earth. The comments that call it a “Masterpiece” are not far off. Given it is a low budget movie taking place in largely the same setting throughout the movie, it just goes to show how far solid acting and superb story telling can go. The actor David Lee Smith portrays the main character John Oldman superbly. He is handsome, subtly charismatic, and rugged yet refined. He makes you truly believe him when he says he is 14,000 years old. The conversation that take place seems authentic, though there are moments where you can tell it is a low budget film. The questions and explanations that are asked and given by the characters seem so convincing throughout the movie, you almost believe the main character John Oldman may really exist in real life.
The first movie takes place in a cabin, during a going away party for the main character John Oldman. John reveals to his close friends and colleagues that he is 14,000 years old and most of the movie are his friends and confidents trying to wrestle with that fact. His tale is seen first as a jest, and some believe he is saying this because he is working on a science fiction novel. After some banter, Johns tale slowly begins to seem a little too convincing as it progresses. The cast is predominantly middle aged men, a few women, and older adults. Making the setting mature and thoughtful as the adults are all professors from various fields at the university which John is a professor at.
A great example of the authentic feel of the film is when one character asks John where he was during a specific date in the 1200s. John responds by asking the quistioner if she remembers what exactly she was doing at any specific date, decades prior. The obvious answer is, she doesn’t remember and neither does he. No one would remember something like that offhand which is a very human response at the time The off and on reaction from the group as they accept or reject Johns story, I feel mimics how any other rational person may react if they were in the same situation. That is true art in my opinion, and that' what makes this movie so dang apealing. Crafting a wonderful sci story that captures people minds because it just seems so real, yet mystical at the same time.
One of the major twists comes about halfway through when the topic turns religious. John is asked if he has ever been a character in the bible. This comes after John already explaining earlier in the movie how he sailed with Columbus, was friends with Van Gogh and many other historical figures. John tries to change the subject many times and to no avail. He admits that he was Jesus, though the events portrayed in the bible as we know it didn't exactly happen the way it says. This leads to stunned disbelief by many members of the group, particularly from the devout Christian, Edith. The topic is handled very tactfully and only adds to the story in my opinion. Despite the rather groundbreaking confession and many much religious convorsation, the movie does not turn in to some big religious movie. The movie continues to center arround the nuances of John claiming to be 14,000 years old.
The critique that I do have is largely that you can tell it is a low budget film, which isn’t really a bad thing, and you can occasionaly tell when the acting is forced. As an example, there is a scene when the old man of the group pulls a gun on John, being rather upset that John would go to such lengths to claim immortality while so many in the world have died. It is soon revealed that the old man had lost his wife the day before which led to his erratic outburst as he felt he was being mocked by Johns story. It is also soon revealed that there were no bullets in the gun, and the old man does come back and apologize to John. (Oops, silly mistake pulling a gun in my close friend. Won’t happen again!) I suppose they were trying to portray the skepticism and possible anger that close friends might feel when their trusted, charismatic, and reliable friend suddenly sounds like a mad man and sticks to it. I still feel that those things were portrayed plenty in the movie, and the over the top explicit show of force was unnecessary.
It ends when John reveals it was all a big “going away joke” and, with mixed reactions the group begins to leave Johns place. In the last few minutes John is joking with one of the female characters who has a crush on him(though he isn’t joking), revealing some of his previous alias’s he has gone by to hide his identity over thousands of years. The old man who pulled the gun, hears John say the name of his long lost father whom he never knew. In shock and bewilderment, the old man accepts Johns story as John reveals details about the old man’s life no one could possibly know but him. The old man goes in to shock and has a heart attack which kills him on the spot. The movie ends with John assuring someone he will be at the man’s funeral.
The ending is solid. Leaving room to expand, though wrapping things up enough to where it could’ve easily stood on its own.
At about an hour and a half long, I highly recommend The Man From Earth to anyone. 9.5/10.
The Man From Earth: Holocene.
(TLDR Version) Stands well as a sequel. Didn’t quite capture all the magic of the original. Targets a younger audience. Worth a watch if you saw the first one. Lighting rarely strikes twice so don't get your hopes up. 7.5/10.
Review. In my opinion if you enjoyed the concept and the main actor in the original, you will still find those portrayed well in the second. While the first stood out phenomenally as an original standalone movie. The second, acts well as a sequel though you wouldn’t watch it on it as a stand-alone and find the same enjoyment. The acting is more drama filled and erratic. There is far less nuance then the first, and the nitty gritty thought provoking convorsation isn’t quite there.
The 2nd movie takes place 10 years later where John Oldman now calls himself John Young and teaches Theology at a different university under a new identity. Holocene runs more like a modern TV show, rather then a short film. In Holocene, John also comes to the realization that for the first time in 14,000 years, he has begun to age. Rather then the movie focusing on a room of adults asking tough intellectual questions, the movie follows four young college students who are students of John’s.
Everything starts off normal. John is living with his girlfriend in their own house, the four college students are living normal college lives, and are all big fans of John (Oldman) Young. Shortly in to the movie however, one of the main students stops over at Johns house to pick up some books that John is happy to give away to eager readers. Books from his personal collection. The female student happens to pick up a book that is unknowingly written by a character from the first movie. The book describes the events of the first movie and the story John told his guests that night. The author claims that Johns story is 100% real. The students start to connect the dots, and come to believe Johns fantastical story that the book tells. After doing some research and calling people from his past to corroborate the information, they fully accept that John is very, very old.
The students proceed to spend the rest of the movie attempting to pin down John to find the truth.
The 2nd movie took a small portion of the first, and pretty much made it all about that. In the first movie John exposes that he actually was Jesus Christ and history didn’t exactly play out in the way the Bible says. The grand scheme of the first movie, this fact only shows up about halfway through and isn’t the focus point. Rather it’s one piece of the overall puzzle. The fact that John is 14,000 years old is the main point. There are devout Christian characters in both movies, though the young students religious beliefs in the 2nd movie takes the front seat. Though this certainly a very interesting area to explore, i’m not sure I was entirely captivated by that angle.
The last third of the sequel is where it gets a little forced, rushed, and weird. The characters start acting erratic, like the movie is trying to take you somewhere it’s not meant to. While I’m not as critical as some, I certainly see why this is an issue. I’m not saying they shouldn’t have made a sequal, though the last third of it makes me wish they hadn’t bothered.
In the end, the students call the character who wrote the book on John’s life and ask him to help them confront John about his past. Before he arrives, the students accidentally use a taser to stun John, causing him to hit his head and go unconscious. Three students go to meet the author who knew John, while the devout Christian student stays back and ties John up. After John comes to, their is a lengthy religious discussion between them, resulting in the Christian student stabbing John as he is unsure weather John is Jesus, or the antichrist. Either way the student felt like he needed to prove or disprove Johns story by taking drastic measures as his faith was being shaken. If it seems a little forced and rushed, that’s because it is. When the students and author arrive, both the student and John are gone, the movie doesn’t tell us what happened.
The ending is a cliffhanger, where an ominous FBI agent shows up at the door of the author and is asking questions about John Young, AKA John Oldman. In the very last scene we see that John is still alive, wounded, and rugged, living in a cave somewhere. A friend who is a character in the first movie and unseen until now in the second, is walking up the hill. He brings John blankets as John is still recovering from his knife wound. There is a brief dialogue, and John reveals it’s been 6 weeks since the stabbing. We don’t know how long John has been in the cave, and John says he doesn’t know what will happen next.
The acting isn’t quite as good in the second movie and feels more like a teen drama, probably because the sequel kind of is. According to my research, the hope was that the sequel would turn in to a TV spin-off, which is fairly obvious by the sudden and uncharacteristic ending. I think if they kept it to one, MAYBE 2 seasons it could go over well. Though obviously there has been no spin off made.
While the first movie is a flavorful and well written story, the second feels like a lengthy teen drama with unique story elements you haven’t seen many other places.
That being said if you enjoyed the first then please enjoy the second. Just recognize it for what it is as a good sequel, nothing more, nothing less. Frankly, the story will stick with me forever as I thoroughly enjoy the concept and may decide to write my own version for the heck of it. 7.5/10. Though the high rating is simply because the first is so worth the watch.
2024.05.15 15:02 2ndincmmnd I’ve never met someone named (blank) who wasn’t (blank)
Curious to see what names you associate with certain personality types based off your personal experiences!
For me:
I’ve never met someone named Steven who wasn’t a genuinely nice person.
I’ve never met an Emma who wasn’t hardworking and organized (also every Emma I know wears glasses)
I’ve never met a Madison who wasn’t a legitimate mean girl with an intense superiority complex.
Every Brooke I’ve ever met has been a brunette with a very put together sense of style.
I’ve never met an Autumn who wasn’t tattooed and into alternative music/movies/books.
I’ve never met a Melissa who wasn’t a mid 40’s woman screaming at a service worker. ESPECIALLY if they go by Missy.
I’ve never met a Josh who wasn’t incredibly selfish and inconsiderate of others.
I’ve never met a Matthew or Matt who wasn’t friendly with a witty sense of humor.
And finally…I’ve never met a Nick who wasn’t a huge player in high school.
EDITED TO ADD:
HANNAH- every Hannah I know is a babe. They aren’t just pretty, they’re hot. They know the most flattering haircut for their face, always in the gym and have killer abs and big booties, great fashion sense. Never met a Hannah that didn’t make me question my sexuality
CHLOE- outdoorsy, 4H girl, religious but parties behind closed doors.
AMELIA- Tall, always has longer hair, great eyebrows
KELSEY- The chill girl. Kelsey is not involved in drama and she wants everyone to have a good time.
DYLLAN NO MATTER HOW YOU SPELL IT- rich white boy, judges everyone, looks way younger than they are and not in a good way
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For me:
I’ve never met someone named Steven who wasn’t a genuinely nice person.
I’ve never met an Emma who wasn’t hardworking and organized (also every Emma I know wears glasses)
I’ve never met a Madison who wasn’t a legitimate mean girl with an intense superiority complex.
Every Brooke I’ve ever met has been a brunette with a very put together sense of style.
I’ve never met an Autumn who wasn’t tattooed and into alternative music/movies/books.
I’ve never met a Melissa who wasn’t a mid 40’s woman screaming at a service worker. ESPECIALLY if they go by Missy.
I’ve never met a Josh who wasn’t incredibly selfish and inconsiderate of others.
I’ve never met a Matthew or Matt who wasn’t friendly with a witty sense of humor.
And finally…I’ve never met a Nick who wasn’t a huge player in high school.
EDITED TO ADD:
HANNAH- every Hannah I know is a babe. They aren’t just pretty, they’re hot. They know the most flattering haircut for their face, always in the gym and have killer abs and big booties, great fashion sense. Never met a Hannah that didn’t make me question my sexuality
CHLOE- outdoorsy, 4H girl, religious but parties behind closed doors.
AMELIA- Tall, always has longer hair, great eyebrows
KELSEY- The chill girl. Kelsey is not involved in drama and she wants everyone to have a good time.
DYLLAN NO MATTER HOW YOU SPELL IT- rich white boy, judges everyone, looks way younger than they are and not in a good way
2024.05.15 15:00 AutoModerator Monthly "Promote your own small business" post
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The mods will reserve the right to remove any business posting if it breaks any rules or if we feel that it's being gamed in any kind of way. This is for small business, not for national marketing companies or global chains. If your business posting gets removed, please message us via modmail and we will be more than happy to explain why and have a conversation.
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2024.05.15 05:47 Snow_Cabbage My Monster-in-Law Wedding Story. It’s a long one.
Context: This happened almost exactly a year ago. My husband (I’ll call him Dave) and I are now F25 and M24. MIL is 52, FIL is 53, and they are fundie southern Baptist. I am not religious and Dave is somewhere in between.
Short backstory: When I started dating my now-husband (3 years prior to marriage), they were unaware that he was questioning his religious beliefs and he didn’t tell them because he knew they’d stop funding his education. You can imagine that it went terribly when they found out six months into our relationship that I am not religious. I hadn’t met them yet due to distance and yet, his mother went on a tirade saying, and I quote, “a relationship with her will lead you to a life of hell and destruction.” She didn’t come around and actually meet me until 6 or 8 months after that. When she did meet me, she acted like nothing had ever happened and gave me a hug and told me she just LOVED me (?!?!).
Wedding story: At the very beginning of wedding planning, Dave decided not to invite his paternal uncle to the wedding due to active addiction. Nothing against people struggling with addiction, it’s just that this uncle has been known to show up to things high and has been violent in the past. He also got my husband drunk when he was like 8 and other sketchy behavior. So not good vibes there. MIL told him “it’s your wedding, but” your grandma isn’t going to like that. He said that’s fine, she doesn’t have to like it. Despite his mother complaining that she’ll “never hear the end of it” he still didn’t invite the uncle and when the grandparents RSVP’d they did so for just the two of them and the uncles two kids that they have custody of. We thought, “great! No trouble.” WRONG.
The night before our wedding, after the rehearsal dinner, at 9pm, Dave’s mother called him and said “your uncle is here, and he’s coming to the wedding.” Dave said no. She started yelling at him so he hung up on her. After calming down and telling me what was up, we decided to both call her back and calmly tell her that he won’t be allowed at the venue and remind her that we’d made this boundary very clear months ago at the very beginning of wedding planning. She did not take that well and said some nasty things about my family to me and then said “if he’s not allowed, then we’re not coming!” We both go “okay!” And my husband once again hung up on her.
Our officiant was a family friend of my husband’s and is a levelheaded and understanding individual. He called Dave and asked for our side of the story. He agreed that what his mother said was nasty and unnecessary, and assured us that they wouldn’t just not show up to their own son’s wedding. He said he couldn’t promise that Dave’s grandparents would show up, which he understood. Dave made sure to tell the officiant that he didn’t want his parents there before the wedding because of them stressing him out and that he didn’t want them to be nasty to me on my wedding day. This is significant because we were doing pictures before the wedding, but Dave said that he has moved their pictures to after the ceremony before the reception.
The day of the wedding, they showed up to the ceremony along with the entire rest of Dave’s family, minus the grandparents and the uncle’s kids. The ceremony went well, it was beautiful, but afterwards they refused to get me in any of their pictures and then when we made it over to the reception hall, not a single member of Dave’s family was there. They had all left. Including his maternal side of the family, who didn’t have anything to do with the paternal uncle drama. They’d all just abandoned him. He was initially upset, but we did have a great time at our reception and look back on it fondly. I have a large family so it didn’t look empty and they love Dave so he was supported. My entire family was appalled and disgusted at Dave’s family.
Aftermath: I have not spoken a word to a single member of his family a day since. I plan to keep it that way. I removed them all from social media and ignored the one time MIL texted me since. She wished me good luck on my first day of medical school about two months after the wedding. My husband has spoken to his mother only once about the actual wedding. This is because she cried and screamed and guilt tripped him for “turning his back on family.” Side eye. She also said a lot of nasty things about me and blames me for being the one to stir things up. Since then, he has only spoken to his mother a handful of times. Dave generally ignores her calls and texts with a few minor exceptions. She has called him crying twice now to ask if she’s going to have to live the rest of her life without her son. Dave says that he’s still hurt by her and that he needs time to process things in therapy before making an attempt to repair their relationship. That’s where we stand today!
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Short backstory: When I started dating my now-husband (3 years prior to marriage), they were unaware that he was questioning his religious beliefs and he didn’t tell them because he knew they’d stop funding his education. You can imagine that it went terribly when they found out six months into our relationship that I am not religious. I hadn’t met them yet due to distance and yet, his mother went on a tirade saying, and I quote, “a relationship with her will lead you to a life of hell and destruction.” She didn’t come around and actually meet me until 6 or 8 months after that. When she did meet me, she acted like nothing had ever happened and gave me a hug and told me she just LOVED me (?!?!).
Wedding story: At the very beginning of wedding planning, Dave decided not to invite his paternal uncle to the wedding due to active addiction. Nothing against people struggling with addiction, it’s just that this uncle has been known to show up to things high and has been violent in the past. He also got my husband drunk when he was like 8 and other sketchy behavior. So not good vibes there. MIL told him “it’s your wedding, but” your grandma isn’t going to like that. He said that’s fine, she doesn’t have to like it. Despite his mother complaining that she’ll “never hear the end of it” he still didn’t invite the uncle and when the grandparents RSVP’d they did so for just the two of them and the uncles two kids that they have custody of. We thought, “great! No trouble.” WRONG.
The night before our wedding, after the rehearsal dinner, at 9pm, Dave’s mother called him and said “your uncle is here, and he’s coming to the wedding.” Dave said no. She started yelling at him so he hung up on her. After calming down and telling me what was up, we decided to both call her back and calmly tell her that he won’t be allowed at the venue and remind her that we’d made this boundary very clear months ago at the very beginning of wedding planning. She did not take that well and said some nasty things about my family to me and then said “if he’s not allowed, then we’re not coming!” We both go “okay!” And my husband once again hung up on her.
Our officiant was a family friend of my husband’s and is a levelheaded and understanding individual. He called Dave and asked for our side of the story. He agreed that what his mother said was nasty and unnecessary, and assured us that they wouldn’t just not show up to their own son’s wedding. He said he couldn’t promise that Dave’s grandparents would show up, which he understood. Dave made sure to tell the officiant that he didn’t want his parents there before the wedding because of them stressing him out and that he didn’t want them to be nasty to me on my wedding day. This is significant because we were doing pictures before the wedding, but Dave said that he has moved their pictures to after the ceremony before the reception.
The day of the wedding, they showed up to the ceremony along with the entire rest of Dave’s family, minus the grandparents and the uncle’s kids. The ceremony went well, it was beautiful, but afterwards they refused to get me in any of their pictures and then when we made it over to the reception hall, not a single member of Dave’s family was there. They had all left. Including his maternal side of the family, who didn’t have anything to do with the paternal uncle drama. They’d all just abandoned him. He was initially upset, but we did have a great time at our reception and look back on it fondly. I have a large family so it didn’t look empty and they love Dave so he was supported. My entire family was appalled and disgusted at Dave’s family.
Aftermath: I have not spoken a word to a single member of his family a day since. I plan to keep it that way. I removed them all from social media and ignored the one time MIL texted me since. She wished me good luck on my first day of medical school about two months after the wedding. My husband has spoken to his mother only once about the actual wedding. This is because she cried and screamed and guilt tripped him for “turning his back on family.” Side eye. She also said a lot of nasty things about me and blames me for being the one to stir things up. Since then, he has only spoken to his mother a handful of times. Dave generally ignores her calls and texts with a few minor exceptions. She has called him crying twice now to ask if she’s going to have to live the rest of her life without her son. Dave says that he’s still hurt by her and that he needs time to process things in therapy before making an attempt to repair their relationship. That’s where we stand today!
2024.05.15 04:42 dolphins3 "I'm pretty sure the majority of Christians would agree that slavery is worse than homosexuality despite the Bible making it clear that the opposite is the case." "That is to their discredit." /r/Christianity debates if slavery is a positive, moral social institution
Another installment in the eternal gay crusades of /Christianity, now complete with more Daughters of the Confederacy level discourse about slavery.
There's also another child thread where someone pointed out that the parent commenter is an insane bigot but the mods nuked their responses for incivility.
A digression on Hebrew translation
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https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l42fjhk/it doesn't work that way if you're a woman. if you're a woman and are sold by your father, you are enslaved for life.Suffering under massive debt? Choose to sell yourself into slavery to pay the debt and remove the burden. While a slave you will have to do whatever work your owner requires, but you are guaranteed room and board and have no financial obligations. When the term of your slavery is over, if you are happy in your current situation, you can choose to make it permanent. If you are unhappy you go free with no debt and a small amount of money to help you establish yourself in your restored liberty.mmm... empathy, compassion,Obvious to whom?common you can also use your critical mind and say something is bad if it is obviously badNo. You do, if you disagree with him.Because it is worse than slavery.so god has a poor morality
Why do people try to force God to agree with them and accept their ideas rather than trying to learn God's will and align themselves to it?
And based on what standard of badness?
make a person as your property is baaad
The problem is that people today only think of slavery as it existed in the transatlantic slave trade, but that was not the only form in history. I think if slavery as set out in the Law of Moses was practiced today we would have much less of a debt based economy.
There's also another child thread where someone pointed out that the parent commenter is an insane bigot but the mods nuked their responses for incivility.
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l427som/.... leave it to Christianity to see people speak so positively on the concept of salveryNot always historically. This is what people are taught in a modern lens. Sometimes in the past people would purposely become slaves in Jacob's case to get a wife. And something interesting in Bible slave laws is that these people could run away.. so if your gig is such a bad deal that you want to leave, you can. Additionally in the case of Israel after a certain number of years they go free.. and some of them loved their masters so much they decided to stay.. which is likely the case with Eliezer.Slavery doesn't cause less people to exist. The YouTube apologists have approached the slavery topic a lot recently. I used to wonder the same thing. The matter is God has these people and he wants them to be a certain way but they are stubborn.. think of it like you have a cow that ran away and home is north and this dumb ass cow doesn't want to go north but he will go north west..Slavery torments the already living...
A digression on Hebrew translation
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l432735/Because one is a commandment and one is not.For one thing, "abomination" is not really a great translation of the word "ṯō·w·‘ă·ḇaṯ" / ṯō·w·‘ê·ḇāh, which is used in a variety of "do not" contexts, not necessarily conveying the sort of disgust and rage that "abomination" suggests.Let me rephrase the post to your liking: Why does the Bible condone enslaving people but demand two men be killed if they have sex with each other?
Doesn’t seem fair to most ears, but when someone is circumcised of ear and heart, they “see” things differently.
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l42ssq8/Two same sex couple having sex also eats a hole in them. Spiritually. If you don’t like it then it’s ok, just don’t call yourself a Christian and expect God to favor your desires in the end. The point is to trust God. You’re literally going against him by committing adultey having same sex in the dark… Why not just be celibate? Why do you need to have same sex relations and blame the Bible for not being fair. It makes no sense. If you’re a homosexual who chooses sex over God. Cool. But don’t drag him down because he can’t see you in the dark.Well both of those things harm peopleIf they’re celibate then nothing…That's a very good question. Slavery is a horrible thing, it's detestable. The idea of something like that coming from a loving god would be a huge contradiction. It's up to you how you choose to rectify thatWhat's wrong with two people of the same sex in a loving, consensual, mutual relationship?
Slavery back then is not the same as what we went through recently. Where it’s just whips on plantations.
And you guys cherry picking homosexuality over all other sins is ridiculous. If homosexuality is ok, then why can’t all adultery be ok?
What’s wrong with Covet and adultey as a whole? Let’s just abolish it. Is that ok?
If you covet something that doesn't belong to you, that eats a hole in you and might inspire you to do something to get what you covet.
Adultery damages trust between romantic partners and breaks hearts.
Two mutually loving people having sex who have the same genitalia harms no one.
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l43e65c/I think you're misunderstanding "objective morality" there are several ethical schools that don't require an authority figure.a loving God and slavery isn’t a contradiction. You need objective morality in the first place for it to be a contradiction, and you atheists do not.Are you saying slavery isn’t detestable or that it coming from a loving god isn’t a contradiction?a loving God and slavery isn’t a contradiction. You need objective morality in the first place for it to be a contradiction, and you atheists do not.
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l42tgxf/Haters gotta hate 🤷🏾♂️... is Taylor swift a victim too? She has haters after all.I think saying homosexuality is not harmful is naive. You are free to do it but it does have consequences that preclude you from any semblance of traditional living. Also, if everyone was homosexual there would be no people bc it does not produce children.The only downsides are from the hate bigots create. Let’s not victim blame now
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l42hqpl/Yeah, that’s what I meant about “punishment for pagan nations” Everyone around the Israelites were pagans.Right. Now read Leviticus 25:44-46 about buying and owning foreign slaves.Exodus 21: 2-6I believe it has to do with the nature of their slavery. The standards for slavery were different than today’s- I don’t believe they had prisons; if you owed someone something, you became their slave. It was a temporary status.No, god explicitly permits people to own other people as their property for life. It was not always temporary, and didn't always have anything to do with debt repayment.
The only more permanent slave status I’ve read in the Bible involved pagan people that were being punished.
“When you buy a Hebrew slave, he is to serve for six years; then in the seventh he is to leave as a free man without paying anything.”
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l42ybv5/I’m sorry you feel that way. It’s mind-boggling to me that you think enslavement of humans is OK.Why not? Who are you to decide what love is and what love isn’t?Because slaves are not the recipient of God’s love. You can’t love someone and also allow them to be enslaved.According to your own morality, the concepts of slavery and that of a loving God are contradictory. Just about anyone should be able to see that regardless of religious beliefs.Nope. Slavery and a loving God are compatible, as we don’t decide morality you might as well tell that opinion to a brick wall.
So again, how is slavery and a loving God contradictory?
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l42gaf7/Slavery isn’t necessarily the worst thing to happen to anybody ever, we just fetishise it today because America puts so much importance on it. Fact is that in ancient pre-mechanised times if you needed something doing you with did it yourself or got your captured enemies to do it. Slavery has been present in every society in history and has many forms, it’s damn nearly a natural state of humanity. Sometimes slaves were abused, murdered, tortured, raped; sometimes they were given gifts and made part of the family. “The ottomans took Christian children as slaves and made them into elite warriors who eventually got their own kingdom, meanwhile their trans-Saharan slave traders routinely castrated all the males they got from Africa and sent the women into harems, making European slavery relatively benign.“B-But akshually guys slavery wasn’t that bad and it’s natural!!!”
You go out of your way to defend slavery, but don’t do the same with homosexuality which is objectively less harmful, please stop talking.
https://www.reddit.com/Christianity/comments/1cs2bb4/why_does_the_bible_call_homosexuality_an/l42ga4o/That’s blatant projection right there, you did not accept or listen to my response, so it’s more like you were proven wrong and didn’t know what to reply with.There is no response you will accept or even listen to. I gave the only one worth giving.What an insightful response.LolThe Lord doesn't need to call salvery an abomination. There is a correct way to handle slavery through debt. However, that does not mean they are property. The Lord's children, ARE NOT FOR SALE. All debt should be and needs to be released freely every 7 years. Then you bless them as they leave freely, regardless of the amount of debt returned back.Homosexuality is NOT a choice, plain and simple, no buts or ifs. If it was, you could choose to be homosexual for just 5 minutes to prove your point which you obviously can’t, no matter how hard you try you can’t control who or what you’re attracted to. It is also not inherently lustful just as heterosexuality isn’t inherently lustful, couples of any gender or sexuality can have a loving and healthy relationship. It doesn’t lead to any “chaotic state”, as I mentioned before it can be perfectly healthy, what truly leads to a chaotic state is the constant backlash of mindless homophobes who don’t want to accept the fact that their worldview is wrong. Also, multiple societies in the past had no problem with homosexuality and turned out very prosperous. Read a book, bigot.
Homosexuality IS A CHOICE. It's a much of a choice to choose who you sleep with, as it is to lust in the first place. He calls it an abomination because it's your choice, and it almost always leads to a chaotic state. Not directly, rather, indirectly. It leads culture into a mindset of "I should be able to anything I want to". Sadly, that's just not how a stable society functions, and you see it's ripple effect today.
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2024.05.15 01:05 Frankimie The receipt pulled out from Jon Kung, a dear friend and Co host of the podcast ‘1 for the table’ with Kim Chi.
 | Kim is one of my favourite queens of all time and I’ve been following her religiously for years. Even though the podcast is mainly about Food and Foodie, She and Jon also talk about everything else in the podcast and I love the chemistry between them and have learned so much about food and both of them as a person. They are both such beautiful souls. As shady as Kim is, she seldom gets herself in any real drama and it’s hard to see her like that. I hope people could be kinder to each other in general. submitted by Frankimie to rupaulsdragrace [link] [comments] |
2024.05.14 21:52 jalexandercohen Talio's Codex (M/M Fantasy Legal Thriller)
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Is love worth destroying his reputation?Ten years ago, the theft of his codex destroyed Talio Rossa’s career as a magistrate in the four cities. But when his ex-wife—finally willing to forgive finding him in bed with a man—presents him a long-shot legal case, he has the chance to get his career back on track.
While fighting to rejoin the legal community, Talio uncovers a conspiracy so big it threatens the origins of the four cities themselves. Their prosperity is only thanks to their connection by magical floating waterways and the brilliance of their legal system, now regarded as near scripture.
To save his career, Talio must work with both the one who doomed his marriage and the hooded, heretical man who sets his heart aflame but is determined to plead guilty to a murder he didn't commit. To stand a chance of winning the case, saving his career and the man of his dreams, Talio will have to uncover an explosive secret destined to blow the legal system apart.
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- Discrimination (religious and sexual orientation/gender)
- Dubious consent
- Explicit sex scenes
- Infidelity
- Murder (not onscreen, but there’s a homicide trial)
- Cultural/Religious conflict
- Social stigma (facial scarring)
- Suicide (mention)
- Substance use (alcohol, alcoholism)
- Violence (two brief attempts on one character’s life)
- That said, there’s a happy ending – promise!
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- Courtroom drama
- Legal thriller
- Cozy fantasy noir
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- Gay MCs, love interests, and LGBTQ rep
- Social justice
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- Love triangle
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2024.05.14 20:09 HorrorComplete1454 Can you fix a toxic/BPD relationship? Dodging a bullet or hoping she comes back healed?
Hello 3% men. I came across CCW in 2018 after a 3 year relationship ended and read the book religiously during that period. 2 years later I met a truly beautiful woman who seemingly became my dream woman. Yet we both made some mistakes during our first 2 years that now makes any sense of peace/stability together tenuous at best. She may also have BPD/CPTSD, which I only really learned more about in the last 12-18 months.
Over the 4 years we were together there's been tons of drama, self-harm and even one trip to the ER. I am ashamed to say a lot of these episodes have been her reaction to things I've done to trigger her sense of abandonment. While I recognize it's not entirely my responsibility to regulate someone else's emotions or actions, the guilt in the wake of these incidents is quite overwhelming. Only in the last few months did I recognize my presence in her life is a trigger for these behaviors.
The first time I saw her self-harm for instance was after my ex called me 6 months in and I lied about her getting in touch (Corey says don't disclose things of this nature so I didn't think much of it). Later when she saw my phone, I confessed I did this to avoid an uncomfortable conversation and not because I wanted to do anything nefarious (this ex lives in another country) but she would not accept my excuse. The guilt from this mistake in particular still haunts me as until this point everything had been going super smooth/textbook. I also didn't have the strength at the time to cut this relationship off when I saw what I recognized was toxic behavior - probably reflective of my own childhood wounding.
After lots of ups and downs, she broke up with me in September 2023. We got back together in February for a month this year after I broke no contact and she invited me out for a drink. In March we ended things again cause the cycle of idealization-devaluation was getting too much for me. In April I reached out again and asked to see her; we met up and all the feelings are still very much there but so is the pattern of idealization/devaluation; good days followed by devaluing days. Only now am I recognizing this to be a classic BPD/CPTSD cycle and she seems more receptive to the idea of needing help/therapy.
Last week she invited me to hang out and we had a wonderful day (lots of making out, some clothes came off, "I love you's" but no hooking up). Afterwards she told me she wants to feel stable and doesn't want to date or see me. I told her I would respect her wishes but then she messaged me two days ago and I proposed that we see each other on Thursday.
After all the ups and downs I do feel very much I am in the grips of a trauma bond. But I also feel like our connection is very real and genuine. At the same time I know someone who loves me would never try to deliberately hurt me yet when she's in the devaluation stage, she has no empathy and says brutally cutting things, which I effectively have to deflect til the episode passes.
Is it even possible to salvage this sort of thing? Give the space, let her work on herself and I on myself? I know that's what I should do but my attachment to this woman is unlike anything I've ever experienced. Tips from men who have been through something similar?
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Over the 4 years we were together there's been tons of drama, self-harm and even one trip to the ER. I am ashamed to say a lot of these episodes have been her reaction to things I've done to trigger her sense of abandonment. While I recognize it's not entirely my responsibility to regulate someone else's emotions or actions, the guilt in the wake of these incidents is quite overwhelming. Only in the last few months did I recognize my presence in her life is a trigger for these behaviors.
The first time I saw her self-harm for instance was after my ex called me 6 months in and I lied about her getting in touch (Corey says don't disclose things of this nature so I didn't think much of it). Later when she saw my phone, I confessed I did this to avoid an uncomfortable conversation and not because I wanted to do anything nefarious (this ex lives in another country) but she would not accept my excuse. The guilt from this mistake in particular still haunts me as until this point everything had been going super smooth/textbook. I also didn't have the strength at the time to cut this relationship off when I saw what I recognized was toxic behavior - probably reflective of my own childhood wounding.
After lots of ups and downs, she broke up with me in September 2023. We got back together in February for a month this year after I broke no contact and she invited me out for a drink. In March we ended things again cause the cycle of idealization-devaluation was getting too much for me. In April I reached out again and asked to see her; we met up and all the feelings are still very much there but so is the pattern of idealization/devaluation; good days followed by devaluing days. Only now am I recognizing this to be a classic BPD/CPTSD cycle and she seems more receptive to the idea of needing help/therapy.
Last week she invited me to hang out and we had a wonderful day (lots of making out, some clothes came off, "I love you's" but no hooking up). Afterwards she told me she wants to feel stable and doesn't want to date or see me. I told her I would respect her wishes but then she messaged me two days ago and I proposed that we see each other on Thursday.
After all the ups and downs I do feel very much I am in the grips of a trauma bond. But I also feel like our connection is very real and genuine. At the same time I know someone who loves me would never try to deliberately hurt me yet when she's in the devaluation stage, she has no empathy and says brutally cutting things, which I effectively have to deflect til the episode passes.
Is it even possible to salvage this sort of thing? Give the space, let her work on herself and I on myself? I know that's what I should do but my attachment to this woman is unlike anything I've ever experienced. Tips from men who have been through something similar?
2024.05.14 19:35 skinofm The nostalgia of the iconic cycle 1
The first season of a reality show is the only one where the “experiment” can happen authentically, and every other season is simply a reproduction and expansion of the original experiment. They’re inherently less raw and real. This is especially true in the first reality shows of the early 2000s. ANTM cycle 1 will always be my favorite simply because it’s the blueprint. No forced catchphrases, manufactured drama, ridiculous photoshoots, contestants clout chasing, etc.
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- Just the way that season looks makes me feel nostalgic. The lower quality of the film, the makeshift judging room, etc. It has a documentary / social experiment vibe that can’t be replicated. It feels like you’re watching real people aspiring to become models, no gimmicks. So many reality TV shows today feel like battle of the influencers.
- The drama was not overly manufactured and occurred naturally due to social dynamics. The separation between the religious women and nonreligious (Robin, Elyse), differing levels of maturity (Giselle, Ebony), etc created genuinely interesting conflicts and dynamics. Hooow excellent … excellent ..
- The early ANTM seasons also make me yearn for when natural beauty was more embraced in the world and there were a variety of exquisite looks. Not a bunch of copies of the same “Instagram face” or women’s bodies as mere trends that come and go.
- I don’t love the homophobia displayed by Robin and Shannon, but older reality TV seasons serve as a time capsule later on that is deeply interesting to me. It reflects how the world was and how things have changed. Something similar happens in season one of Survivor with 72 year old homophobic veteran Rudy and Richard Hatch, an openly and unashamed gay man becoming allies and friends. The episode where Ebony’s girlfriend visits the house is so beautiful to me and almost makes me cry because of how sweet it is.
- This is a random moment that I’ve always loved, but when Kesse is eliminated and all the models and the judges cry. Elyse comforts Adrienne who is curled up on the couch with mascara all over her face. It’s so raw and real.
- I love the music in this season as well. After the first elimination, a Simon and Garfunkel song plays. When Adrienne and Elyse stay the night in the hotel in Paris and it switches to show Robin and Shannon back at the house with this melancholic, atmospheric music playing.
- Every model has such a unique personality that adds to the overall drama and dynamic of the competition. Elyse’s intelligence and sense of superiority, Adrienne’s stoner vibe, Shannon’s naivety, who clearly wants Robin’s approval. I love Ebony’s confidence, and she provided the first “this isn’t a sorority” type quote. Kesse was so sweet and beautiful. Even Nicole opting out of a reward to go fight with her boyfriend is like a proto-Shandi moment. “You go home and you do what? Work at Burger King?”
- So many iconic quotes arose naturally. Elyse’s rant, how excellent (with ebonys side eye), and bind satan Jesus, I saw them go round and round and up and down, etc.
- I also like how Tyra wasn’t at the forefront of this cycle. Tyra plasters her face and inserts herself everywhere in future seasons because omg it’s Tyra Banks!!! Yes the girls in future seasons want to become models, but I think there’s an element of wanting to be apart of the ANTM world that hadn’t been crafted yet in cycle 1.
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2024.05.14 09:46 dragoninhomeland How do I[22M] best break up with my gf[25F] who is suffering from depression and anxiety, and is way too dependent on me?
Ive been dating her for about 6 months.
Gotta straight out say it, I'm the grade A douchebag in this situation, so let's get this out of the way. We met on hinge, I wasn't attracted to her in the slightest, let's be real, appearance wise I'm way above her league. but I've been on hinge for two years without even a second date at the time, I just want a gf so bad so I went out with her.
After 2 months or so she ask me to go exclusive with her, during that entire two months Ive gotten zero matches, like I sent out all the likes everyday and zero matches. I didn't know what to say so I was like, ok you are my exclusive gf now. She dreamed about me taking her to her favorite park, bought her her favorite dessert, and asking her to be her official boyfriend, and wouldn't' let the dream go. Well, I feel bad for her so I did exactly just that, the way she smiled almost made me convinced that I actually like her. But umm I still have hinge on my tablet (hidden at home) rn, but can't cheat when there's no matches. You can bad name me in the comments or whatever. But this is the context.
So, obviously she deserves someone who's actually attracted to her and can make her happy for the rest of her life. I'm not that guy, my preferences aside, I don't want children like ever they are disgusting, but she wants children and gets baby fever all the time. She's religious, I think religion is just crazy people preaching about a fictional character and it makes no sense. She wants to get married before 30, I don't feel like marrying anytime soon. She wants to move to the other side of the country, I want stay here. She's a cat person, I like dogs. My asian parents would never accept me dating a black girl so I've been hiding her from them and social media. And my friends keep teasing me nonstop about dating an ugly girl. This is a dead end relationship, I don't do short term relationships so I cannot remain in a relationship that I know is not gonna work long term.
But, she's super into me, and is extremely dependent on me. She's working two jobs and studying, and is nearly broke, can hardly make ends meet. She cry herself to bed like every week, and always vent to me about how she feel so inadequate, other girls look so pretty in their summer dresses with nice skin and skinny body makes her so jealous, her parents abusing her and bodyshame her (tbh her parents kinda have a point), not having a single friend, both her ex cheated on her and SAed her, she's so worried that she will fail out of school, working both jobs is so physically and mentally draining, and all that. She attempted suicide 5 months before meeting me, so there's that too.
On top of that, she told me over and over, that meeting me is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to her in her entire life. That I'm 100% her type, I'm the k-drama male lead in the k-drama that is her life, end quote. That since I agree to be her bf, she's been feeling motivated in life for the first time. That I'm the only person in her life that she can talk to, because she has no friends and her parents despite her. That I am 100% the man of her dreams, and everyday she feel so blessed having me in her life. If I don't text her every hour she gets anxious and starts to panic, she can only sleep when I do a video call and put the camera towards me the entire night so she knows that I'm "beside" her as she sleep.
Well, when being told all that, I can't exactly just break up with her. I just....feel so bad? I've been brainstorming nonstop for the past month on how exactly I can break up with her while keeping the devastation to her at a minimum. I would feel guilty for life if she just offed herself after I break up with her. She has no friends, and her parents despite her, so I can't text anyone to take care of her after I break up with her. We go to the same school too and she knows my workplace, so I'll 100% bump into her multiple times post break up.
Bro someone plz help me out, im trapped.
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Gotta straight out say it, I'm the grade A douchebag in this situation, so let's get this out of the way. We met on hinge, I wasn't attracted to her in the slightest, let's be real, appearance wise I'm way above her league. but I've been on hinge for two years without even a second date at the time, I just want a gf so bad so I went out with her.
After 2 months or so she ask me to go exclusive with her, during that entire two months Ive gotten zero matches, like I sent out all the likes everyday and zero matches. I didn't know what to say so I was like, ok you are my exclusive gf now. She dreamed about me taking her to her favorite park, bought her her favorite dessert, and asking her to be her official boyfriend, and wouldn't' let the dream go. Well, I feel bad for her so I did exactly just that, the way she smiled almost made me convinced that I actually like her. But umm I still have hinge on my tablet (hidden at home) rn, but can't cheat when there's no matches. You can bad name me in the comments or whatever. But this is the context.
So, obviously she deserves someone who's actually attracted to her and can make her happy for the rest of her life. I'm not that guy, my preferences aside, I don't want children like ever they are disgusting, but she wants children and gets baby fever all the time. She's religious, I think religion is just crazy people preaching about a fictional character and it makes no sense. She wants to get married before 30, I don't feel like marrying anytime soon. She wants to move to the other side of the country, I want stay here. She's a cat person, I like dogs. My asian parents would never accept me dating a black girl so I've been hiding her from them and social media. And my friends keep teasing me nonstop about dating an ugly girl. This is a dead end relationship, I don't do short term relationships so I cannot remain in a relationship that I know is not gonna work long term.
But, she's super into me, and is extremely dependent on me. She's working two jobs and studying, and is nearly broke, can hardly make ends meet. She cry herself to bed like every week, and always vent to me about how she feel so inadequate, other girls look so pretty in their summer dresses with nice skin and skinny body makes her so jealous, her parents abusing her and bodyshame her (tbh her parents kinda have a point), not having a single friend, both her ex cheated on her and SAed her, she's so worried that she will fail out of school, working both jobs is so physically and mentally draining, and all that. She attempted suicide 5 months before meeting me, so there's that too.
On top of that, she told me over and over, that meeting me is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to her in her entire life. That I'm 100% her type, I'm the k-drama male lead in the k-drama that is her life, end quote. That since I agree to be her bf, she's been feeling motivated in life for the first time. That I'm the only person in her life that she can talk to, because she has no friends and her parents despite her. That I am 100% the man of her dreams, and everyday she feel so blessed having me in her life. If I don't text her every hour she gets anxious and starts to panic, she can only sleep when I do a video call and put the camera towards me the entire night so she knows that I'm "beside" her as she sleep.
Well, when being told all that, I can't exactly just break up with her. I just....feel so bad? I've been brainstorming nonstop for the past month on how exactly I can break up with her while keeping the devastation to her at a minimum. I would feel guilty for life if she just offed herself after I break up with her. She has no friends, and her parents despite her, so I can't text anyone to take care of her after I break up with her. We go to the same school too and she knows my workplace, so I'll 100% bump into her multiple times post break up.
Bro someone plz help me out, im trapped.
2024.05.13 22:08 Chika-chan44 Am I the ahole for defending myself against a friend who wasn’t even present during the original argument?
Hello all! I’m a big Charlotte Dobre fan, and a long time lurker in the community. It took some time for me to work up the courage to post this story, but I feel as thought I am finally ready to share.
So a bit of background. I had this friend group of a few women throughout my high school and college years and into my adult life. They were all like sisters to me and we got along well. Most of these friends I made in high school, such as Kate and Mary, two of the friends this story involves, but one, whose shall call Lauren, which this story now revolves around, I had had since kindergarten. We were the quintessential childhood friends. I was even her maid of honor in her wedding; we were that close. However, this story does not involve her wedding which was by and large lovely. This story takes place a few years after the fact.
Now, I know I am a people pleaser. Because of my nature, I look for the best in people almost to a fault. As such, I was bullied more than once growing up and while I stood up for myself when it was blatant, sometimes I wasn’t able to do so when it was the more insidious, backstabbing sort of bullying. I have also been bad with social cues my whole life (ADHD can do that) so I was often blindsided by backstabbing since I never even knew I had angered the person in question. Because of this, I used to encourage people to be brutally honest with me, and perhaps therein lies some fault of my own. In any case though, looking back, I realize now that while things hadn’t always been bad, at some point, my friends, specifically Lauren had stopped treating right. They were always sarcastic people and even proud of this fact, but sarcasm and being downright mean have a veeeeeery thin line between them. I cannot recount everything they said or did, but I can recount some. They yelled at me for silly jokes (I made a TAZ joke during a DND session Lauren was running and she about ripped my throat out), they would often ignore or give me silent treatments, and I was gaslit in the regular by Mary, especially.
I often left our hangouts feeling not so great about myself and eventually tried to bring up my hurt feelings a couple times. It did not go well, resulting in fights and threats to the friendship that would only calm when I apologized.
I should also take time to state that this group, specifically Lauren and an extended group of her friends that I was becoming acquainted with, would often find someone who did something “problematic” and would unceremoniously ostracize and cut them off, dubbing them as “toxic.” However, when this started I was so deep in, I didn’t question it, assuming I didn’t know the full situation. I, in passing, would worry it might happen to me eventually, but pushed away that fear, believing I was a good person and so were they, so that wouldnt come to pass. How wrong I was.
Anyways, to the day in question. I went into our shared Discord group, just to browse and chat since I had some extra time on my hands. Now, I want to preface this with the fact I am not a religious person, but I am spiritual, and I identify as a Christian in large part. I noticed that day, they put up a meme in the group chat insulting Christianity directly. I did not find it funny, but I kept my cool and messaged Kate, who originally posted it, that I was a Christian, and while she did not mean anything by it, I was sure, I wanted her to please take it down. Instead of apologizing, acquiescing, or anything like that, she mercilessly ripped into me, back up by all the others, except Lauren, who was offline the time. I immediately felt bad for rocking the boat, but luckily, my dear sister Mags was there and helped me stand my ground, checking my messages before I sent them, so as to make sure they were coherent and not too emotional (she did this with my blessing, just so everyone is aware).
After a while of Mary gaslighting me and Kate just being straight up mean, Kate comes out with “I can’t worry about what offends you. That’s not my problem.” I in turn tell her she is echoing the sentiments of the alt right, which in turn makes her demand an apology for calling her a N**i or she’ll block me. I never used that word, but I hold my ground and say “I can’t worry about what offends you. That’s not my problem.” Then summarily block her.
By now, I’m in tears, like uncontrollably sobbing. My sister comforts me and eventually I calm, though I am still horribly depressed. The drama has not yet abated though, for soon I realize that Lauren has deleted me from the DND group chat I shared with her, Kate and a few others. I message her right away and she states that I was mean to Kate and she thought it best that I was kicked out of the group. I ask her if this is her way of cutting ties with me and she says unless I apologize, then yes. I refuse to apologize and though I am horribly sad, we bid each other goodbye and I believed amicably part ways.
Cut to a couple days later. I noticed that on Facebook, mutual friends of Lauren’s and mine are unfreezing and even blocking me. I have no problem dea what is happening, but put two and two together and realize that Lauren must be talking s**t. I message a mutual friend and she confirms, saying she doesn’t want to associate with someone who could do that to Lauren. I have no idea what “that” is or how Lauren was even hurt by me since she had wanted to part ways, we did so supposedly amiably, and she hadn’t even been PRESENT during the initial argument. I am horrified and here’s where I might be the ahole. I went into panic mode and message every mutual friend of outlet, telling them not to believe her in an attempt to salvage these “friendships.” Instead of support, an onslaught of hatred and vile messages invaded my inbox, telling me just terrible things. I won’t recount them here, but I was bawling by the end and had to leave work early that day since I was in such a terrible mental state. Needless to say, I unfriended all and block most of our mutual friends-turned-flying monkeys.
That was largely the end of it. A few more messages passed between Lauren and me, consisting of me both apologizing for the knee jerk message, but also damning her. She called me abusive and said I was an awful friend. I eventually blocked her number.
It’s been a couple years but I am still hurting from this incident. I am on the mend, thanks to therapy, my remaining friends and loving family. I work everyday to leave it behind me, but I still have to wonder.. Am I the ahole?
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So a bit of background. I had this friend group of a few women throughout my high school and college years and into my adult life. They were all like sisters to me and we got along well. Most of these friends I made in high school, such as Kate and Mary, two of the friends this story involves, but one, whose shall call Lauren, which this story now revolves around, I had had since kindergarten. We were the quintessential childhood friends. I was even her maid of honor in her wedding; we were that close. However, this story does not involve her wedding which was by and large lovely. This story takes place a few years after the fact.
Now, I know I am a people pleaser. Because of my nature, I look for the best in people almost to a fault. As such, I was bullied more than once growing up and while I stood up for myself when it was blatant, sometimes I wasn’t able to do so when it was the more insidious, backstabbing sort of bullying. I have also been bad with social cues my whole life (ADHD can do that) so I was often blindsided by backstabbing since I never even knew I had angered the person in question. Because of this, I used to encourage people to be brutally honest with me, and perhaps therein lies some fault of my own. In any case though, looking back, I realize now that while things hadn’t always been bad, at some point, my friends, specifically Lauren had stopped treating right. They were always sarcastic people and even proud of this fact, but sarcasm and being downright mean have a veeeeeery thin line between them. I cannot recount everything they said or did, but I can recount some. They yelled at me for silly jokes (I made a TAZ joke during a DND session Lauren was running and she about ripped my throat out), they would often ignore or give me silent treatments, and I was gaslit in the regular by Mary, especially.
I often left our hangouts feeling not so great about myself and eventually tried to bring up my hurt feelings a couple times. It did not go well, resulting in fights and threats to the friendship that would only calm when I apologized.
I should also take time to state that this group, specifically Lauren and an extended group of her friends that I was becoming acquainted with, would often find someone who did something “problematic” and would unceremoniously ostracize and cut them off, dubbing them as “toxic.” However, when this started I was so deep in, I didn’t question it, assuming I didn’t know the full situation. I, in passing, would worry it might happen to me eventually, but pushed away that fear, believing I was a good person and so were they, so that wouldnt come to pass. How wrong I was.
Anyways, to the day in question. I went into our shared Discord group, just to browse and chat since I had some extra time on my hands. Now, I want to preface this with the fact I am not a religious person, but I am spiritual, and I identify as a Christian in large part. I noticed that day, they put up a meme in the group chat insulting Christianity directly. I did not find it funny, but I kept my cool and messaged Kate, who originally posted it, that I was a Christian, and while she did not mean anything by it, I was sure, I wanted her to please take it down. Instead of apologizing, acquiescing, or anything like that, she mercilessly ripped into me, back up by all the others, except Lauren, who was offline the time. I immediately felt bad for rocking the boat, but luckily, my dear sister Mags was there and helped me stand my ground, checking my messages before I sent them, so as to make sure they were coherent and not too emotional (she did this with my blessing, just so everyone is aware).
After a while of Mary gaslighting me and Kate just being straight up mean, Kate comes out with “I can’t worry about what offends you. That’s not my problem.” I in turn tell her she is echoing the sentiments of the alt right, which in turn makes her demand an apology for calling her a N**i or she’ll block me. I never used that word, but I hold my ground and say “I can’t worry about what offends you. That’s not my problem.” Then summarily block her.
By now, I’m in tears, like uncontrollably sobbing. My sister comforts me and eventually I calm, though I am still horribly depressed. The drama has not yet abated though, for soon I realize that Lauren has deleted me from the DND group chat I shared with her, Kate and a few others. I message her right away and she states that I was mean to Kate and she thought it best that I was kicked out of the group. I ask her if this is her way of cutting ties with me and she says unless I apologize, then yes. I refuse to apologize and though I am horribly sad, we bid each other goodbye and I believed amicably part ways.
Cut to a couple days later. I noticed that on Facebook, mutual friends of Lauren’s and mine are unfreezing and even blocking me. I have no problem dea what is happening, but put two and two together and realize that Lauren must be talking s**t. I message a mutual friend and she confirms, saying she doesn’t want to associate with someone who could do that to Lauren. I have no idea what “that” is or how Lauren was even hurt by me since she had wanted to part ways, we did so supposedly amiably, and she hadn’t even been PRESENT during the initial argument. I am horrified and here’s where I might be the ahole. I went into panic mode and message every mutual friend of outlet, telling them not to believe her in an attempt to salvage these “friendships.” Instead of support, an onslaught of hatred and vile messages invaded my inbox, telling me just terrible things. I won’t recount them here, but I was bawling by the end and had to leave work early that day since I was in such a terrible mental state. Needless to say, I unfriended all and block most of our mutual friends-turned-flying monkeys.
That was largely the end of it. A few more messages passed between Lauren and me, consisting of me both apologizing for the knee jerk message, but also damning her. She called me abusive and said I was an awful friend. I eventually blocked her number.
It’s been a couple years but I am still hurting from this incident. I am on the mend, thanks to therapy, my remaining friends and loving family. I work everyday to leave it behind me, but I still have to wonder.. Am I the ahole?
2024.05.13 19:53 RepublicofBesonia Can we stop the Faltree drama?
I want to start this off with saying I am not defending Faltree. I myself am a religious Muslim, so obviously banning religion is not something I support or would defend.
By their tone of voice and their actions, Faltree wanted drama. They made edgy comments about religion and banned it, clearly not trying to play nice. This is what they are, edgy discord atheists. I see people threatening to invade them, raid them, harass them, and spy on them. What could will that bring? Mate, even if they raided or harassed you, you shouldn't do the same to them. Ban them and report them on social medias like Discord and Reddit. All you need to do is ban them, you can even set up a ban that will happen before they join or do anything, that's what my alliance did. Don't play into edgy 13 year olds' fantasies of being the centre of a micronational drama and conflict.
Sorry, I'm sick right now, so excuse any grammatical errors I may have made :)
TLDR; Faltree are edgy teenagers who banned religion because they wanted drama. Don't feed into their fantasies.
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By their tone of voice and their actions, Faltree wanted drama. They made edgy comments about religion and banned it, clearly not trying to play nice. This is what they are, edgy discord atheists. I see people threatening to invade them, raid them, harass them, and spy on them. What could will that bring? Mate, even if they raided or harassed you, you shouldn't do the same to them. Ban them and report them on social medias like Discord and Reddit. All you need to do is ban them, you can even set up a ban that will happen before they join or do anything, that's what my alliance did. Don't play into edgy 13 year olds' fantasies of being the centre of a micronational drama and conflict.
Sorry, I'm sick right now, so excuse any grammatical errors I may have made :)
TLDR; Faltree are edgy teenagers who banned religion because they wanted drama. Don't feed into their fantasies.
2024.05.13 19:50 AceWolffian Should I cut contact with my mom?
I’ve been thinking about going no contact for a bit now but not sure what to think at the moment. Before my recent story here is some context. I don’t really feel close to my family in general, they are very conservative and somewhat religious (or rather claim to be). I’m liberal and not religious at all. I think they know that somewhat, maybe not the religious part. So it was really hard to connect because we already don’t share the same interests but now they have beliefs that I think could hurt friends and are frankly racist. I don’t think they care about skin color aggressively but more so illegal immigration. But prejudice comes with that no matter how much they deny it.
Now more recent stuff. I’ll be honest that I dread when my mom tries to call me and I try to just ignore it or get around it because she can usually say what she needs to in a text and if I pick up the call it’ll last well over an hour. I never really called often so that makes sense but I don’t want to hear about the same family drama thats being going on for years. Also she’ll bring politics or judge something I do. Like for instance I’ve been getting treatment for ADHD and she said not to take those drugs because they’re dangerous and addictive but shes not a doctor so. She again makes points on our president, how the illegal immigrants (she tries to make a point that its the men only) are bad and ruining things. She recently started her born again christian stage by going back to church and always making excuses in Jesus and God’s name. That stuff I usually scoff off however the next bit made my blood boil for I think the first time.
She is upset that I now have lived in Florida for 3 years and have yet to come back and visit. And yeah I’m not a fan of Florida either but I chose to move here with my GF. My GF wanted to go to school here because it’d be cheaper and I just wanted to get work experience. We both moved after graduating with our bachelors. Now it is insanely expensive to travel back to California and I’m not doing that drive again for a week trip. I’ve told her I’m trying but there is other things I’m saving for. We have a trip planned to Japan with my GF’s family but If I want to go I need to save some money. I’ve never traveled outside the US because I grew up really poor. I also want to save up for an engagement ring. That on top of stuff I want and bills its hard to save.
She has asked numerous times when I’m moving back and I tell her that it depends on where my GF does school, i’ll follow her as i’m not super interested in going back to school but even if I do my major can be done almost anywhere, my GF has to get accepted into a PA school so options are more limited and I’m fine with this arrangement. Our end goal is to settle down in Oregon but where we go along the way is up in the air. She snaps back saying why does it matter what my GF does why don’t you just move back. But I don’t want to. I don’t even want to live close to my mom. Her home smells like cigarettes which gives me anxiety and her place is kind of dirty. If I go back I don’t even want to stay there. She tried to say to have my GF do schooling there in Cali but like its not guaranteed and honestly its my GF’s choice.
In general she was pretty rude about my GF. What made my blood boil was her telling me to give my GF her number incase I get in an accident and she can call them. I said i will after a bit because I said the doctors would probably find her number before my GF’s (That could be a lie idk). But she said I better and that if my girlfriend doesn’t call if i’m in an accident then she would beat her ass. I don’t remember the exact phasing because I got really heated at that. My mom says stuff like that a lot as an expression so I know she won’t act on it but it made my blood boil and almost hung up and blocked right there.
Some other stuff mentioned was about me getting married to my GF now that we have been together for 4 years. I told her I’m working on it but me and my GF have talked about this extensively. She doesn’t wanna get married for a long while since shes in school and has a far way to go before we are stable. She would also like us to have a home before we do so. But my mom wants us to do a backyard wedding essentially with just family. however, my GF is Vietnamese and wants a traditional wedding. I’m down with this and really only care to have some foods I’d like as apart of the course. My mom said that we have a culture too. Bruh, were like white white, no we don’t and you just suggested a backyard wedding essentially. Ive also told my GF i’m fine with a court wedding for now (mostly to get her insurance from my work) and never tell anybody and have a ceremony later on. But if she doesn’t then doesn’t matter. Besides the racist remarks and other life stuff these was my main issues. Of course there is a lot more stuff from growing up but not as bad as this I think.
Now every time my mom messages me my anxiety gets worse than before, i don’t wanna talk to her. She has said racist things and severely lacks empathy for people despite being “Christian.” My GF’s mother is very catholic and even she isn’t like this. Albeit they can be racist too but there is a lot of history there. But again i’m more upset over how controlling she seems to be and won’t let me be. My dad (they aren’t together, never married) never does this and will even send me money for my bday and christmas. I’ll even go out of my way to text him now and then to see how he’s doing because he doesn’t give me this anxiety and has not complained about me being here. He tells me he is proud of me and I’m gunna do great things.
What do ya’ll think and advice would be appreciated. I’ve seen a lot of threads but Idk if it related well to me. Sorry if things get confusing at some points, i’m not the best writer but I’ll clarify anything.
EDIT: just remembered something I’d like to mention. My mom said that children are not post to be far from their parents and that she never thought her children would be this far and that it’s not right. I don’t agree and hope my future children don’t think I want to hold them back in any capacity from exploring the world.
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Now more recent stuff. I’ll be honest that I dread when my mom tries to call me and I try to just ignore it or get around it because she can usually say what she needs to in a text and if I pick up the call it’ll last well over an hour. I never really called often so that makes sense but I don’t want to hear about the same family drama thats being going on for years. Also she’ll bring politics or judge something I do. Like for instance I’ve been getting treatment for ADHD and she said not to take those drugs because they’re dangerous and addictive but shes not a doctor so. She again makes points on our president, how the illegal immigrants (she tries to make a point that its the men only) are bad and ruining things. She recently started her born again christian stage by going back to church and always making excuses in Jesus and God’s name. That stuff I usually scoff off however the next bit made my blood boil for I think the first time.
She is upset that I now have lived in Florida for 3 years and have yet to come back and visit. And yeah I’m not a fan of Florida either but I chose to move here with my GF. My GF wanted to go to school here because it’d be cheaper and I just wanted to get work experience. We both moved after graduating with our bachelors. Now it is insanely expensive to travel back to California and I’m not doing that drive again for a week trip. I’ve told her I’m trying but there is other things I’m saving for. We have a trip planned to Japan with my GF’s family but If I want to go I need to save some money. I’ve never traveled outside the US because I grew up really poor. I also want to save up for an engagement ring. That on top of stuff I want and bills its hard to save.
She has asked numerous times when I’m moving back and I tell her that it depends on where my GF does school, i’ll follow her as i’m not super interested in going back to school but even if I do my major can be done almost anywhere, my GF has to get accepted into a PA school so options are more limited and I’m fine with this arrangement. Our end goal is to settle down in Oregon but where we go along the way is up in the air. She snaps back saying why does it matter what my GF does why don’t you just move back. But I don’t want to. I don’t even want to live close to my mom. Her home smells like cigarettes which gives me anxiety and her place is kind of dirty. If I go back I don’t even want to stay there. She tried to say to have my GF do schooling there in Cali but like its not guaranteed and honestly its my GF’s choice.
In general she was pretty rude about my GF. What made my blood boil was her telling me to give my GF her number incase I get in an accident and she can call them. I said i will after a bit because I said the doctors would probably find her number before my GF’s (That could be a lie idk). But she said I better and that if my girlfriend doesn’t call if i’m in an accident then she would beat her ass. I don’t remember the exact phasing because I got really heated at that. My mom says stuff like that a lot as an expression so I know she won’t act on it but it made my blood boil and almost hung up and blocked right there.
Some other stuff mentioned was about me getting married to my GF now that we have been together for 4 years. I told her I’m working on it but me and my GF have talked about this extensively. She doesn’t wanna get married for a long while since shes in school and has a far way to go before we are stable. She would also like us to have a home before we do so. But my mom wants us to do a backyard wedding essentially with just family. however, my GF is Vietnamese and wants a traditional wedding. I’m down with this and really only care to have some foods I’d like as apart of the course. My mom said that we have a culture too. Bruh, were like white white, no we don’t and you just suggested a backyard wedding essentially. Ive also told my GF i’m fine with a court wedding for now (mostly to get her insurance from my work) and never tell anybody and have a ceremony later on. But if she doesn’t then doesn’t matter. Besides the racist remarks and other life stuff these was my main issues. Of course there is a lot more stuff from growing up but not as bad as this I think.
Now every time my mom messages me my anxiety gets worse than before, i don’t wanna talk to her. She has said racist things and severely lacks empathy for people despite being “Christian.” My GF’s mother is very catholic and even she isn’t like this. Albeit they can be racist too but there is a lot of history there. But again i’m more upset over how controlling she seems to be and won’t let me be. My dad (they aren’t together, never married) never does this and will even send me money for my bday and christmas. I’ll even go out of my way to text him now and then to see how he’s doing because he doesn’t give me this anxiety and has not complained about me being here. He tells me he is proud of me and I’m gunna do great things.
What do ya’ll think and advice would be appreciated. I’ve seen a lot of threads but Idk if it related well to me. Sorry if things get confusing at some points, i’m not the best writer but I’ll clarify anything.
EDIT: just remembered something I’d like to mention. My mom said that children are not post to be far from their parents and that she never thought her children would be this far and that it’s not right. I don’t agree and hope my future children don’t think I want to hold them back in any capacity from exploring the world.
2024.05.13 19:07 Lehrasap Intelligence and Critical Thinking is a CURSE for Muslim Kids
Some children possess exceptional intelligence and critical thinking skills, making them resilient against religious indoctrination. Unfortunately, this can become a burden for these kids as they find it difficult to accept the deceptions of religion, leading them to leave Islam at a young age.
However, sharing their true beliefs with their parents, family, and friends is not an option for them. They lack someone they can confide in about their struggles and doubts.
For Muslim parents, Islam comes first, and their children come later. These young individuals must pretend to be devout Muslims to please their parents and gain their approval.
Imagine a child who no longer believes in Islam, yet his parents wake him up at 5 o'clock every morning to attend mosque prayers in Islamic countries. He is obligated to pray five times a day, a routine that can be overwhelming. Even ex-Muslim girls, who are not required to go to mosques, face difficulties praying five times daily at home. Actually, they have to face more hardships as the Hijab suffocates them their entire lives.
Schools also play a significant role in religious indoctrination, teaching Islamic studies, the Quran, and Jurisprudence. In some cases, even science classes may propagate misinformation, such as dismissing the Theory of Evolution as a Western conspiracy to mislead Muslims.
In more religious households, ex-Muslim children may be prohibited from engaging in activities like watching TV dramas, films, or playing video games. Instead, they are compelled to attend Quran School daily, spending hours there every day.
These kids have to lead double lives, and have to fake it all day with no place to drop the facade without fear of retaliation. It is exhausting.
Their suffering does not end there. When they become adults, they already know they cannot allow themselves to fall in love, as they don't know a single non-religious person they can choose as a partner. They end up in arranged marriages with religious partners, especially difficult for ex-Muslim girls, who know they have to provide sex services to their religious Muslim husbands their entire life.
Another burden they face is the inability to educate their own children about the issues with Islam. Their male children are circumcised, and they are compelled to send their children to Quran Schools. This is perhaps the most depressing matter for an ex-Muslim parent.
The plight of ex-Muslim individuals needs to be brought to the world's attention. Currently, many people are unaware of what it means to be an ex-Muslim.
Source:
https://atheism-vs-islam.com/index.php/ex-muslims/247-intelligence-and-critical-thinking-is-a-curse-for-muslim-kids
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However, sharing their true beliefs with their parents, family, and friends is not an option for them. They lack someone they can confide in about their struggles and doubts.
For Muslim parents, Islam comes first, and their children come later. These young individuals must pretend to be devout Muslims to please their parents and gain their approval.
Imagine a child who no longer believes in Islam, yet his parents wake him up at 5 o'clock every morning to attend mosque prayers in Islamic countries. He is obligated to pray five times a day, a routine that can be overwhelming. Even ex-Muslim girls, who are not required to go to mosques, face difficulties praying five times daily at home. Actually, they have to face more hardships as the Hijab suffocates them their entire lives.
Schools also play a significant role in religious indoctrination, teaching Islamic studies, the Quran, and Jurisprudence. In some cases, even science classes may propagate misinformation, such as dismissing the Theory of Evolution as a Western conspiracy to mislead Muslims.
In more religious households, ex-Muslim children may be prohibited from engaging in activities like watching TV dramas, films, or playing video games. Instead, they are compelled to attend Quran School daily, spending hours there every day.
These kids have to lead double lives, and have to fake it all day with no place to drop the facade without fear of retaliation. It is exhausting.
Their suffering does not end there. When they become adults, they already know they cannot allow themselves to fall in love, as they don't know a single non-religious person they can choose as a partner. They end up in arranged marriages with religious partners, especially difficult for ex-Muslim girls, who know they have to provide sex services to their religious Muslim husbands their entire life.
Another burden they face is the inability to educate their own children about the issues with Islam. Their male children are circumcised, and they are compelled to send their children to Quran Schools. This is perhaps the most depressing matter for an ex-Muslim parent.
The plight of ex-Muslim individuals needs to be brought to the world's attention. Currently, many people are unaware of what it means to be an ex-Muslim.
Source:
https://atheism-vs-islam.com/index.php/ex-muslims/247-intelligence-and-critical-thinking-is-a-curse-for-muslim-kids
2024.05.13 18:34 SpiceWeaselOG Wedding Drama Served Flaming Hot.
I labeled this petty revenge but it also falls under Wedding Drama and MIL from hell. It's a threefer! A terrible threefer!
This story is about my MIL. We do not get along. At all. To be honest, she's a pretty awful person and had been NC with most of my partners family since before I met her. I believe two of her sisters are all she has contact with and I know one of the two is LC as of two years ago. Anywho...
When my partner and I met MIL lived in the same city. A few years into our relationship she moved out of state. We got engaged and married during this time. She and her husband (Not my partners dad.) Flew in for the wedding. A month before the wedding. To help with the wedding. They stayed with the aunt shes now LC with... Im still a bit sour about all of this because she made that month miserable. So much unnecessary stress.
We did not ask for nor need her help in any way. We paid for everything ourselves and my side of the family catered the food. My favorite aunt made the MOH dress and I paid for the dresses for bridesmaids. My youngest sister did our hair and makeup. Everything was paid for via our savings. We'd set aside funds specifically for our wedding. MIL had something to say about everything. Always about how she did it for her two failed marriages. What she would have wanted. It was a constant barrage of insults. I had gotten very good at avoiding her or pawning her off on literally anyone else.
Come the day of the wedding she did everything in her power to take over. She walked my partner to the alter and stayed there. When I made it to the alter she tried to stay standing next to me. Not with the rest of the wedding party but next to me, in front of my partner.
The officiant had to tell her to sit her ass down. Her husband had to drag her to her seat. My partner looked rightly horrified. The wedding continued with a wave of murmurs.
When it came time for pictures she inserted herself in every one. I was pretty pissed off by this time but was doing my best to just keep smiling until the end. I was determined not to let her ruin our day. My partner was trying to manage their grandma. She's a whole super villian on her own. They were trying to keep her away from their dad. She had a personal vendetta against the man because he divorced MIL and shacked up with his "guy friend". Yes the man was gay, no they never admitted they were a couple to the family because his side of the family is extremely religious.
Toward the end of the night I wanted pictures with my sisters and MOH. Only my sisters and MOH. They were my bridesmaids as well after all. MIL insisted on being in these pictures too. She would not accept a no.
I'm on the verge of tears while were posing in front of a beautiful gazebo with dozens of candles lit among floral arrangents on a table in the background. Im exhausted and quietly losing my cool. Im told my face was telling all sorts of stories by this point though. MIL decided to stand right next to me, trying to push out my MOH, who, like the badass that she is, wasnt having it. It was a very childish match of moving in front of each other. Several snaps in and MIL starts screaming. A rancid smell absolutely fills the air.
The whole scene devolves into chaos. We are trying to figure out whats wrong.
Dear reader... this is the moment I knew my soul was bound for hell because when that women whipped around and her flaming locks came around to smack her in the face, I swear I saw it in slow motion. Turns out one of the candles was far closer to the edge of the table than the rest. No one has any idea how it happened. (I dont buy that story but Im letting the oversight go lmao.) MILs wig caught fire. Yes. Her cheap wig went right up in flames. I actually did cry at this. I cried because I was trying so desperately not to laugh at the scene of my MIL being beaten with a table sash and flowers. I honestly did not know how to react and was overwhelmed by it all. They get her put out, refusing to let me help because they dont want ME to go up in flames or ruin my dress.
With a tear stained face I ask her if shes okay, shes freaking out, rightfully. My MOH steps in to help and I excuse myself. MIL is tended to and I barely make my escape to the bathroom where I proceed to lose my shit laughing. I text the photographer who informs me that he did in fact get a picture of my MILs wig on fire. He tells me that when Im ready we can continue without MILs interference as shes been escorted to urgent care. She was fine. Cheap wig was all that caught fire. She suffered a minor burn on her cheek but thats it. I adore telling the story of my MILs brush with death (her words) at our wedding.
The cherry on top of this karma sundae? Oh yes, it gets better. Thanks in whole to my partner.
Our photographer included the flaming hair picture in our digital package. We laugh about it whenever she's a pill. One day, years later, MIL came over for dinner and complained that we had pictures of family on display but none of her. Deceased relatives and the kids... She made a stink about how she felt hurt that we dont have any of her despite knowing so many of them exist. My awesome partner, having had enough of their mothers shit, printed the flaming hair picture, framed it and stuck it on the wall above the entry table. It greets you the moment you enter our home. Partner invites her back over for dinner, says nothing. She knocks, is let in, dropped her purse on the entry table, paused when she saw it, dawned the "sucked on a lemon" pucker but never said a word about it. Its been there for 13 years now. Every now and then my partner gets a new tacky, god awful frame for it and surprises me.
I love my partner so much. 😂
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This story is about my MIL. We do not get along. At all. To be honest, she's a pretty awful person and had been NC with most of my partners family since before I met her. I believe two of her sisters are all she has contact with and I know one of the two is LC as of two years ago. Anywho...
When my partner and I met MIL lived in the same city. A few years into our relationship she moved out of state. We got engaged and married during this time. She and her husband (Not my partners dad.) Flew in for the wedding. A month before the wedding. To help with the wedding. They stayed with the aunt shes now LC with... Im still a bit sour about all of this because she made that month miserable. So much unnecessary stress.
We did not ask for nor need her help in any way. We paid for everything ourselves and my side of the family catered the food. My favorite aunt made the MOH dress and I paid for the dresses for bridesmaids. My youngest sister did our hair and makeup. Everything was paid for via our savings. We'd set aside funds specifically for our wedding. MIL had something to say about everything. Always about how she did it for her two failed marriages. What she would have wanted. It was a constant barrage of insults. I had gotten very good at avoiding her or pawning her off on literally anyone else.
Come the day of the wedding she did everything in her power to take over. She walked my partner to the alter and stayed there. When I made it to the alter she tried to stay standing next to me. Not with the rest of the wedding party but next to me, in front of my partner.
The officiant had to tell her to sit her ass down. Her husband had to drag her to her seat. My partner looked rightly horrified. The wedding continued with a wave of murmurs.
When it came time for pictures she inserted herself in every one. I was pretty pissed off by this time but was doing my best to just keep smiling until the end. I was determined not to let her ruin our day. My partner was trying to manage their grandma. She's a whole super villian on her own. They were trying to keep her away from their dad. She had a personal vendetta against the man because he divorced MIL and shacked up with his "guy friend". Yes the man was gay, no they never admitted they were a couple to the family because his side of the family is extremely religious.
Toward the end of the night I wanted pictures with my sisters and MOH. Only my sisters and MOH. They were my bridesmaids as well after all. MIL insisted on being in these pictures too. She would not accept a no.
I'm on the verge of tears while were posing in front of a beautiful gazebo with dozens of candles lit among floral arrangents on a table in the background. Im exhausted and quietly losing my cool. Im told my face was telling all sorts of stories by this point though. MIL decided to stand right next to me, trying to push out my MOH, who, like the badass that she is, wasnt having it. It was a very childish match of moving in front of each other. Several snaps in and MIL starts screaming. A rancid smell absolutely fills the air.
The whole scene devolves into chaos. We are trying to figure out whats wrong.
Dear reader... this is the moment I knew my soul was bound for hell because when that women whipped around and her flaming locks came around to smack her in the face, I swear I saw it in slow motion. Turns out one of the candles was far closer to the edge of the table than the rest. No one has any idea how it happened. (I dont buy that story but Im letting the oversight go lmao.) MILs wig caught fire. Yes. Her cheap wig went right up in flames. I actually did cry at this. I cried because I was trying so desperately not to laugh at the scene of my MIL being beaten with a table sash and flowers. I honestly did not know how to react and was overwhelmed by it all. They get her put out, refusing to let me help because they dont want ME to go up in flames or ruin my dress.
With a tear stained face I ask her if shes okay, shes freaking out, rightfully. My MOH steps in to help and I excuse myself. MIL is tended to and I barely make my escape to the bathroom where I proceed to lose my shit laughing. I text the photographer who informs me that he did in fact get a picture of my MILs wig on fire. He tells me that when Im ready we can continue without MILs interference as shes been escorted to urgent care. She was fine. Cheap wig was all that caught fire. She suffered a minor burn on her cheek but thats it. I adore telling the story of my MILs brush with death (her words) at our wedding.
The cherry on top of this karma sundae? Oh yes, it gets better. Thanks in whole to my partner.
Our photographer included the flaming hair picture in our digital package. We laugh about it whenever she's a pill. One day, years later, MIL came over for dinner and complained that we had pictures of family on display but none of her. Deceased relatives and the kids... She made a stink about how she felt hurt that we dont have any of her despite knowing so many of them exist. My awesome partner, having had enough of their mothers shit, printed the flaming hair picture, framed it and stuck it on the wall above the entry table. It greets you the moment you enter our home. Partner invites her back over for dinner, says nothing. She knocks, is let in, dropped her purse on the entry table, paused when she saw it, dawned the "sucked on a lemon" pucker but never said a word about it. Its been there for 13 years now. Every now and then my partner gets a new tacky, god awful frame for it and surprises me.
I love my partner so much. 😂
2024.05.13 17:31 AceWolffian Am I a Bad Son or is my Mom overbearing?
I’ve been thinking about going no contact for a bit now but not sure what to think at the moment. Before my recent story here is some context. I don’t really feel close to my family in general, they are very conservative and somewhat religious (or rather claim to be). I’m liberal and not religious at all. I think they know that somewhat, maybe not the religious part. So it was really hard to connect because we already don’t share the same interests but now they have beliefs that I think could hurt friends and are frankly racist. I don’t think they care about skin color aggressively but more so illegal immigration. But prejudice comes with that no matter how much they deny it.
Now more recent stuff. I’ll be honest that I dread when my mom tries to call me and I try to just ignore it or get around it because she can usually say what she needs to in a text and if I pick up the call it’ll last well over an hour. I never really called often so that makes sense but I don’t want to hear about the same family drama thats being going on for years. Also she’ll bring politics or judge something I do. Like for instance I’ve been getting treatment for ADHD and she said not to take those drugs because they’re dangerous and addictive but shes not a doctor so. She again makes points on our president, how the illegal immigrants (she tries to make a point that its the men only) are bad and ruining things. She recently started her born again christian stage by going back to church and always making excuses in Jesus and God’s name. That stuff I usually scoff off however the next bit made my blood boil for I think the first time.
She is upset that I now have lived in Florida for 3 years and have yet to come back and visit. And yeah I’m not a fan of Florida either but I chose to move here with my GF. My GF wanted to go to school here because it’d be cheaper and I just wanted to get work experience. We both moved after graduating with our bachelors. Now it is insanely expensive to travel back to California and I’m not doing that drive again for a week trip. I’ve told her I’m trying but there is other things I’m saving for. We have a trip planned to Japan with my GF’s family but If I want to go I need to save some money. I’ve never traveled outside the US because I grew up really poor. I also want to save up for an engagement ring. That on top of stuff I want and bills its hard to save.
She has asked numerous times when I’m moving back and I tell her that it depends on where my GF does school, i’ll follow her as i’m not super interested in going back to school but even if I do my major can be done almost anywhere, my GF has to get accepted into a PA school so options are more limited and I’m fine with this arrangement. Our end goal is to settle down in Oregon but where we go along the way is up in the air. She snaps back saying why does it matter what my GF does why don’t you just move back. But I don’t want to. I don’t even want to live close to my mom. Her home smells like cigarettes which gives me anxiety and her place is kind of dirty. If I go back I don’t even want to stay there. She tried to say to have my GF do schooling there in Cali but like its not guaranteed and honestly its my GF’s choice.
In general she was pretty rude about my GF. What made my blood boil was her telling me to give my GF her number incase I get in an accident and she can call them. I said i will after a bit because I said the doctors would probably find her number before my GF’s (That could be a lie idk). But she said I better and that if my girlfriend doesn’t call if i’m in an accident then she would beat her ass. I don’t remember the exact phasing because I got really heated at that. My mom says stuff like that a lot as an expression so I know she won’t act on it but it made my blood boil and almost hung up and blocked right there.
Some other stuff mentioned was about me getting married to my GF now that we have been together for 4 years. I told her I’m working on it but me and my GF have talked about this extensively. She doesn’t wanna get married for a long while since shes in school and has a far way to go before we are stable. She would also like us to have a home before we do so. But my mom wants us to do a backyard wedding essentially with just family. however, my GF is Vietnamese and wants a traditional wedding. I’m down with this and really only care to have some foods I’d like as apart of the course. My mom said that we have a culture too. Bruh, were like white white, no we don’t and you just suggested a backyard wedding essentially. Ive also told my GF i’m fine with a court wedding for now (mostly to get her insurance from my work) and never tell anybody and have a ceremony later on. But if she doesn’t then doesn’t matter. Besides the racist remarks and other life stuff these was my main issues. Of course there is a lot more stuff from growing up but not as bad as this I think.
Now every time my mom messages me my anxiety gets worse than before, i don’t wanna talk to her. She has said racist things and severely lacks empathy for people despite being “Christian.” My GF’s mother is very catholic and even she isn’t like this. Albeit they can be racist too but there is a lot of history there. But again i’m more upset over how controlling she seems to be and won’t let me be. My dad (they aren’t together, never married) never does this and will even send me money for my bday and christmas. I’ll even go out of my way to text him now and then to see how he’s doing because he doesn’t give me this anxiety and has not complained about me being here. He tells me he is proud of me and I’m gunna do great things.
Am I a bad son? My GF says no, what do ya’ll think and advice would be appreciated. I’ve seen a lot of threads but Idk if it related well to me. Sorry if things get confusing at some points, i’m not the best writer but I’ll clarify anything.
EDIT: just remembered something I’d like to mention. My mom said that children are not post to be far from their parents and that she never thought her children would be this far and that it’s not right. I don’t agree and hope my future children don’t think I want to hold them back in any capacity from exploring the world.
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Now more recent stuff. I’ll be honest that I dread when my mom tries to call me and I try to just ignore it or get around it because she can usually say what she needs to in a text and if I pick up the call it’ll last well over an hour. I never really called often so that makes sense but I don’t want to hear about the same family drama thats being going on for years. Also she’ll bring politics or judge something I do. Like for instance I’ve been getting treatment for ADHD and she said not to take those drugs because they’re dangerous and addictive but shes not a doctor so. She again makes points on our president, how the illegal immigrants (she tries to make a point that its the men only) are bad and ruining things. She recently started her born again christian stage by going back to church and always making excuses in Jesus and God’s name. That stuff I usually scoff off however the next bit made my blood boil for I think the first time.
She is upset that I now have lived in Florida for 3 years and have yet to come back and visit. And yeah I’m not a fan of Florida either but I chose to move here with my GF. My GF wanted to go to school here because it’d be cheaper and I just wanted to get work experience. We both moved after graduating with our bachelors. Now it is insanely expensive to travel back to California and I’m not doing that drive again for a week trip. I’ve told her I’m trying but there is other things I’m saving for. We have a trip planned to Japan with my GF’s family but If I want to go I need to save some money. I’ve never traveled outside the US because I grew up really poor. I also want to save up for an engagement ring. That on top of stuff I want and bills its hard to save.
She has asked numerous times when I’m moving back and I tell her that it depends on where my GF does school, i’ll follow her as i’m not super interested in going back to school but even if I do my major can be done almost anywhere, my GF has to get accepted into a PA school so options are more limited and I’m fine with this arrangement. Our end goal is to settle down in Oregon but where we go along the way is up in the air. She snaps back saying why does it matter what my GF does why don’t you just move back. But I don’t want to. I don’t even want to live close to my mom. Her home smells like cigarettes which gives me anxiety and her place is kind of dirty. If I go back I don’t even want to stay there. She tried to say to have my GF do schooling there in Cali but like its not guaranteed and honestly its my GF’s choice.
In general she was pretty rude about my GF. What made my blood boil was her telling me to give my GF her number incase I get in an accident and she can call them. I said i will after a bit because I said the doctors would probably find her number before my GF’s (That could be a lie idk). But she said I better and that if my girlfriend doesn’t call if i’m in an accident then she would beat her ass. I don’t remember the exact phasing because I got really heated at that. My mom says stuff like that a lot as an expression so I know she won’t act on it but it made my blood boil and almost hung up and blocked right there.
Some other stuff mentioned was about me getting married to my GF now that we have been together for 4 years. I told her I’m working on it but me and my GF have talked about this extensively. She doesn’t wanna get married for a long while since shes in school and has a far way to go before we are stable. She would also like us to have a home before we do so. But my mom wants us to do a backyard wedding essentially with just family. however, my GF is Vietnamese and wants a traditional wedding. I’m down with this and really only care to have some foods I’d like as apart of the course. My mom said that we have a culture too. Bruh, were like white white, no we don’t and you just suggested a backyard wedding essentially. Ive also told my GF i’m fine with a court wedding for now (mostly to get her insurance from my work) and never tell anybody and have a ceremony later on. But if she doesn’t then doesn’t matter. Besides the racist remarks and other life stuff these was my main issues. Of course there is a lot more stuff from growing up but not as bad as this I think.
Now every time my mom messages me my anxiety gets worse than before, i don’t wanna talk to her. She has said racist things and severely lacks empathy for people despite being “Christian.” My GF’s mother is very catholic and even she isn’t like this. Albeit they can be racist too but there is a lot of history there. But again i’m more upset over how controlling she seems to be and won’t let me be. My dad (they aren’t together, never married) never does this and will even send me money for my bday and christmas. I’ll even go out of my way to text him now and then to see how he’s doing because he doesn’t give me this anxiety and has not complained about me being here. He tells me he is proud of me and I’m gunna do great things.
Am I a bad son? My GF says no, what do ya’ll think and advice would be appreciated. I’ve seen a lot of threads but Idk if it related well to me. Sorry if things get confusing at some points, i’m not the best writer but I’ll clarify anything.
EDIT: just remembered something I’d like to mention. My mom said that children are not post to be far from their parents and that she never thought her children would be this far and that it’s not right. I don’t agree and hope my future children don’t think I want to hold them back in any capacity from exploring the world.