Family care plan fm

TL;DR - I’m 24w pregnant and at my breaking point with my current job. Have a new job already but it won’t pay me for 2 months. My family thinks I’m stupid bc I want to quit right now. Would It be a bad decision?
First of all Ty for reading. I’m at a huge dilemma right now that is causing me extreme stress.
I (19F) am 24 weeks pregnant and a FTM. My fiancé (21M) and I have been together for 4 years, we own a house together, have decent paying jobs and have been living together for almost a year, about to be married in July, so we are pretty put together for our age. We also have everything in order for our son, if he was born tomorrow (which I obviously don’t hope for!) he’d have everything he could ever need for his first few months of life, including crib, car seat, clothes, diapers etc. I have been very excited for this pregnancy and also wanted to prove myself as a young mom so I made sure of this before I even hit trimester 3, plus with so many big events coming up, we had an early baby shower with a diaper raffle and everything.
So my problem is I’m working full time as a CNA to help with my half of the bills, and I absolutely HATE my job. Not only is the job itself grueling, but as I get farther along in my pregnancy it has become exhausting and every day is a mental battle. My job consists of constant bending over, lifting 300+ lb residents either in bed or into chairs, sitting on my knees (well really my butt bc of circulation issues) and being on my feet majority of the day. I could put up with it easier if I had any inclination of help throughout the day. Healthcare facilities are usually understaffed, but my building recently had a walk-out of literally 20 staff members, most of them CNAs, and it leaves the rest of us short handed pretty much every day. I have had several instances of asking nurses and MACs for help and they outright refuse or come up with stupid excuses why it’s not their job. Just yesterday I reported a nurse for walking out of the room when I pretty much TOLD her to help me because I couldn’t do cares on a specific individual myself, she walked out because I was “arguing” with her. I had a huge screaming match with my managers a couple of weeks ago basically threatening to sue them if they kept putting me on this one unit, which I am almost guaranteed to take on 20 patients by myself when I work there. They are so short staffed that they can’t even afford to fire me. My paychecks have been inconsistent for months starting back when they cut all of my hours, now half of the employees left they are constantly asking me to pick up extra shifts. I constantly say no because I can barely make myself go work my regular scheduled shifts. My paychecks continue to be inconsistent because of the amount of times I’ve called in. I just have stopped caring and the only reason I haven’t walked out yet is because I want to be responsible and I know I won’t get fired for missing work anyway.
I am BEYOND over it. I have been wanting to quit for weeks, but struggled to find another job that suited my wants and needs, as I DID NOT want to be a CNA anymore so I told myself I wouldn’t quit until I had something good lined up. It’s difficult to get hired while pregnant because most employers see it as a loss due to maternity leave and pay. The thing is, I actually did find another job and have already been hired and technically making money, I just won’t get paid until after I get my license which will take bout 2 months. It’s 100% commission based but the company has trades in the NYSE and I can make really good money there if I can get clients. I am ready to throw myself and my focus into this new career, and I’ve been looking for any excuse to leave my current job, I really don’t care if I’m not getting paid atm.
I talked to my fiancé, my parents, and my bsf about this and they all pretty much told me I’m stupid for thinking I can quit my current job right now. My fiancé is actually the most supportive out of all of them but he is scared about our finances and worries about how he’s going to pay the bills on his own. Mind you, he has $5000 in personal savings and our shared account that we put money in for our bills is about two months ahead of our monthly expenses, so it’s not like we don’t have ANY money at all. I definitely don’t want to drain our savings in the meantime, but with this new career I could potentially make more than I am currently making, meaning I could soon put way more into savings than I ever was since we moved in. My parents think I should wait until after the wedding to quit my job so I know I’ll have money for the expenses, however, we already paid for majority of the venue costs and they agreed to help us with the rest of the expenses like food, my dress etc (I am NOT getting an expensive dress, it’ll be $300 at most.) they act like I will be constantly asking them for money, which I haven’t done once since living on my own, or that I won’t be able take care of myself. My plans were to get my last paycheck from my current job and put it all towards our bills. We are also expecting one last rent payment from our roommates who are in the process of moving out. At worst we will only need to take a bit out of savings and I can’t allow myself any frivolous spending until I start making money again.
I just feel trapped and like nobody close to me understands what I’m going through. I cried for like an hour last night just thinking about having to go back to work, I just have no idea how I can keep this up for another two months. My self confidence in my ability to prosper in this new job is also deflated due to my family’s reaction. Pregnancy hormones aren’t helping … I thought I’d ask y’all bc ik my family is just worried about my financial security and doesn’t want anything bad to happen. I just want to message HR tonight and never go back.
BTW my current job doesn’t offer paid maternity leave so there’s no reason to wait for that.
Any thoughts?

Just curious if other parents of children from blended families deal with this issue, or if this is personality dependent. Do your kids ever apologize? Mine simply doesn’t, ever. I’ve exhibited empathy, and remorse, I apologize and talk things through with him. I genuinely cannot think of a time in six years that he’s ever apologized for anything. We’ve been through family therapy, individual therapy, parenting classes, etc. My SS (14) comes from a very violent and angry upbringing, BM and BD only married because of pregnancy, and things only got worse from there, they divorced when SS was 4 because BM cheated and BD ended up stationed in Japan for four years. Insert a string of new abusive husbands, alcohol fueled parties, etc. I entered the picture at 9, and he immediately clung to me. It hasn’t been all roses, but we do our best. I know he’s been through hell, and BM has always been dismissive, demeaning and belittling of him and his needs and feelings. So I don’t expect a lot, but I figure after nearly 6 years of having a good example in me and his dad, there’d be something? This morning I had to take his 21 month old sister and myself to urgent care as she had a fever and I had flu symptoms, I told him we were going to the doctor and he went to school. Her fever spiked to 105.4 so I left him a note saying where we’d be (BD is on work travel out of state) and told him what was up and headed to the ER. When I walked in the door, he greeted us and hadn’t read the note, so I told him what happened. He replied, “Well, you could’ve at least picked me up early and saved me from testing.” (Standardized EOY testing) I paused, looked at him, and replied “I was literally in the hospital with your sister for the last two hours.” He looked at me like I’d wounded him, and how dare I not get his joke, and walked away. I apologized later and explained I’m sick, and exhausted, and that I was sorry for being dismissive of him, testing sucks and I know it’s a tough week. He says, “It’s okay.” Am I wrong for expecting him to exhibit empathy, or an apology in return? And does anyone else experience this? Do I just stay the course and try to be patient with his circumstances? Is it just teenager crap?

Context: This happened almost exactly a year ago. My husband (I’ll call him Dave) and I are now F25 and M24. MIL is 52, FIL is 53, and they are fundie southern Baptist. I am not religious and Dave is somewhere in between.
Short backstory: When I started dating my now-husband (3 years prior to marriage), they were unaware that he was questioning his religious beliefs and he didn’t tell them because he knew they’d stop funding his education. You can imagine that it went terribly when they found out six months into our relationship that I am not religious. I hadn’t met them yet due to distance and yet, his mother went on a tirade saying, and I quote, “a relationship with her will lead you to a life of hell and destruction.” She didn’t come around and actually meet me until 6 or 8 months after that. When she did meet me, she acted like nothing had ever happened and gave me a hug and told me she just LOVED me (?!?!).
Wedding story: At the very beginning of wedding planning, Dave decided not to invite his paternal uncle to the wedding due to active addiction. Nothing against people struggling with addiction, it’s just that this uncle has been known to show up to things high and has been violent in the past. He also got my husband drunk when he was like 8 and other sketchy behavior. So not good vibes there. MIL told him “it’s your wedding, but” your grandma isn’t going to like that. He said that’s fine, she doesn’t have to like it. Despite his mother complaining that she’ll “never hear the end of it” he still didn’t invite the uncle and when the grandparents RSVP’d they did so for just the two of them and the uncles two kids that they have custody of. We thought, “great! No trouble.” WRONG.
The night before our wedding, after the rehearsal dinner, at 9pm, Dave’s mother called him and said “your uncle is here, and he’s coming to the wedding.” Dave said no. She started yelling at him so he hung up on her. After calming down and telling me what was up, we decided to both call her back and calmly tell her that he won’t be allowed at the venue and remind her that we’d made this boundary very clear months ago at the very beginning of wedding planning. She did not take that well and said some nasty things about my family to me and then said “if he’s not allowed, then we’re not coming!” We both go “okay!” And my husband once again hung up on her.
Our officiant was a family friend of my husband’s and is a levelheaded and understanding individual. He called Dave and asked for our side of the story. He agreed that what his mother said was nasty and unnecessary, and assured us that they wouldn’t just not show up to their own son’s wedding. He said he couldn’t promise that Dave’s grandparents would show up, which he understood. Dave made sure to tell the officiant that he didn’t want his parents there before the wedding because of them stressing him out and that he didn’t want them to be nasty to me on my wedding day. This is significant because we were doing pictures before the wedding, but Dave said that he has moved their pictures to after the ceremony before the reception.
The day of the wedding, they showed up to the ceremony along with the entire rest of Dave’s family, minus the grandparents and the uncle’s kids. The ceremony went well, it was beautiful, but afterwards they refused to get me in any of their pictures and then when we made it over to the reception hall, not a single member of Dave’s family was there. They had all left. Including his maternal side of the family, who didn’t have anything to do with the paternal uncle drama. They’d all just abandoned him. He was initially upset, but we did have a great time at our reception and look back on it fondly. I have a large family so it didn’t look empty and they love Dave so he was supported. My entire family was appalled and disgusted at Dave’s family.
Aftermath: I have not spoken a word to a single member of his family a day since. I plan to keep it that way. I removed them all from social media and ignored the one time MIL texted me since. She wished me good luck on my first day of medical school about two months after the wedding. My husband has spoken to his mother only once about the actual wedding. This is because she cried and screamed and guilt tripped him for “turning his back on family.” Side eye. She also said a lot of nasty things about me and blames me for being the one to stir things up. Since then, he has only spoken to his mother a handful of times. Dave generally ignores her calls and texts with a few minor exceptions. She has called him crying twice now to ask if she’s going to have to live the rest of her life without her son. Dave says that he’s still hurt by her and that he needs time to process things in therapy before making an attempt to repair their relationship. That’s where we stand today!

I’m going to turn 18 in December and I will have about $16,000-$20,000 saved up. I’m planning to live in my car for a while for personal reasons so I want to figure out which one to get. I definitely want a new car because I’m slightly (give or take) germaphobic and can’t stand the thought of someone else having the car before me. My preferences are:
Needs to be new
Spacious
Reasonable mpg rate (save money on gas)
Known to be reliable (not break down)
Affordable- less than 700 a month
Comfortable
I don’t really care much about the looks. I just want to be able to comfortably live in it for a while.

I wanted to share my experience with girl best friends in relationships. Normally, I find it to be a “green flag” when a man is able to have a platonic relationship with a woman, because it shows me that he can have a positive relationship with a woman that isn’t sexual and one that isn’t with a family member(i.e he respects women as people). My current boyfriend, however, has what I deem to be an inappropriate relationship with a “girl best friend”, and I wanted to make a post to see what others think/see if anyone can relate.
(Omitting revealing details) My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and are both in our early 20s. This summer, we have a trip planned to visit his friends that live in the city where he went to college. He has a bunch of friends there that I haven’t met in person yet, and i’m looking forward to meet them. However, there is one friend in particular who I do not want to visit with and it has become a sore spot in our relationship.
This friend of his, who i’ll call Zoe, is his “girl best friend.” My boyfriend has platonic relationships with other women who don’t make me uncomfortable, but this one does. My boyfriend and Zoe had a short-lived casual sexual relationship years prior to us meeting where they decided to just be friends and no longer hook up. However, a few months ago I learned that Zoe has admitted feelings for my boyfriend a few times in the past before we met, even telling him that she loved him. He would reject her advances, but still make jokes with her about having a “marriage pact” where they would marry each other if they were single at a certain age. This made me really uncomfortable, and although they had a sexual relationship in the past, I was never really uncomfortable with their friendship until this point. After hearing this, I started noticing that their friendship seemed inappropriate. She would constantly call him crying on the phone about something, and when he didn’t respond she would try to get his attention by suggesting that she was about to (do something bad) to herself.
I had a conversation about this with him, saying that I thought it was inappropriate for her to constantly need his attention, and that it seemed like she would create drama in order to get his attention. I also said that it was disrespectful for her to act this way because my boyfriend is in a relationship, and that I would never emotionally dump on one of my guy friends while either they or I was in a relationship. He told me that she’s had a hard life and that she feels like she can only talk to him about it. I just rolled my eyes and ended the conversation.
I finally reached my breaking point when he had made me wait in my car before our plans because she was crying on the phone again, and a separate time when she had called him while we were being intimate and he called her back shortly after we were done. I told him that this was completely inappropriate and that he needed to readjust his relationship with her (I don’t believe in having someone blocked/ending the friendship entirely as that causes resentment and is controlling). I told him that her behavior and his enabling is disrespectful to me and that im sure she has other friends that she can talk to. I also cited the fact that she had admitted feelings for him before, and that, based on this behavior, probably still had feelings for him. He agreed with this, apologized, and had a conversation with her about it. I’m not sure what he said, but ever since he has not talked to her as often and the attention seeking phone calls have stopped (at least to my knowledge)
Fast forward to now, I still feel uncomfortable about her. Knowing that we are visiting his other friends and that Zoe lives in this place as well, I tell my boyfriend that I have no interest in meeting her. I told him that the entire situation still made me feel weird, and that I think it would be exhausting for me to hide my anger and be cordial with her. Zoe is not friends with my boyfriend’s other friends that we are planning to visit, so because of that I don’t think it would make things awkward. I even said that if he really wants to visit her, that he can but that I do not want to be a part of that. We had an argument about it and he said that I was being ridiculous, and that I should meet his friend because it’s important to him.
In my opinion, my feelings are valid and I am setting a personal boundary, knowing that I would be miserable if I had to hang out with her. I sympathize with the fact that my boyfriend is someone she feels comfortable talking to, but it makes me feel uncomfortable, especially the frequency of which she needs his help. Am I wrong in deeming the nature of their friendship to be inappropriate?

I’m having some trouble. I currently attend Appalachian State for context. I’ve just been debating this recently.
I was admitted to UNC Chapel Hill as a transfer student last month. I would love to go but there’s an issue, I have so many friends and amazing connections at App, like fortune 50 company connections AND an internship within one of them. I have my next two years planned out and I don’t know how easy it would be to just up and go to UNC.
Also there’s the housing issue, because I have on-campus housing at App this upcoming year but I probably won’t get any at UNC and I won’t be as successful with no housing. The 2025-2026 year I will be hopefully staying at University Highlands with a friend (so it’s planned).
Here’s another thing: At App I’m doing great with a GPA of a 3.92 this past semester, I’m in the business program too. I’ve gotten many leadership positions in clubs and love how I can take online classes as it’s the best for me.
At UNC I didn’t get admitted into the business program so I had to go a different direction. I will also get little to no support from my family while at UNC as they don’t want me going there. They wouldn’t be at my graduation either. However, I pay for my own college.
I got a job on campus at App where I recently got promoted as well. I’ve also gotten fall employment at UNC though so I don’t know.
I guess I just wanna hear other people’s opinions. I met my first REAL friends at App who would do anything for me, I’m so conflicted.
PS: If I don’t get housing on campus at UNC I definitely will not be going. It’s not worth it to me. I have no friends at UNC anyway.

hello everyone i need advice. my father has been diagnosed with kidney disease and he needs dialysis. he is refusing to take dialysis he is scared to do it but i have taken him to several doctors and they all have told him that he needs it or he will die. i have talked to him and reassured him it will be fine. i would never put him in danger i live my father. i need help on what to do. force him to take dialysis and make him hate me the rest of his life or please him and let him refuse dialysis and see him suffer and die before my eyes? the rest of my family is no help they don't seem to understand the severity of kidney disease and it's killing me inside that no one care about his life. i don't know what to do i'm getting depressed everyday knowing their is a way for him to live longer but unable to use that tool because he is scared and got brainwashed by other people. please i really need your help

I know what it's like to have a parent (mom) like Bam and every kid who has dealt with a parent like Bam can't grasp the white knighting Bam gets. Bam doesn't care to be a father and if he did, he wouldn't be with this new chick and would be in a facility right now listening to what his family and friends want from him.
I know what its like to have a parent give you up because they don't feel like taking care of you anymore only to then get mad that you call your step parents mom and dad. I know what its like to be gaslit on why I don't call her much anymore and how its because I "don't love her". I know what it's like to have a parent in an out of rehabs and just leave because they "don't feel like it". I know what it's like for me and my step family to bring her out to dinner for her birthday as a nice courtesy only for her to throw a tantrum because we told her not to blow her nose in the lap towel. I know what its like to have a parent that would rather do drugs than see you when you were growing up...stopped coming to birthdays, Christmas gatherings, thanksgiving and the excuse would always be that her friends didnt want to drive her.
People like Bam don't deserve to be defended. Yea..I hope he does turn his life around, but I'm not going to sit and take up for his poor non existent parenting and every fuck up he makes. Thats why he's still in the situation he's in and anyone who has had a parent like him can see right through it. Bams actions have hurt real people and the feelings of the people he's hurt should come first.

This is my first ever Reddit post and I’m posting to see some fresh perspectives. Any advice or help is welcome. Thank you.
I’ve been in a relationship for over 2 years now, and I can honestly say it has been the best time of my life. This woman helped me find myself and helped shape me into the man I am today. She always tries her best to listen to my problems, but lately I’ve been getting the feeling it’s too much for her. Which is why I’ve came to Reddit for help. (I’ve talked with my parents and a school therapist about this as well)
I’ve always had problems with anxiety. Ever since I was little I’ve cared far too much about what people think of me. It’s a problem that’s kind of taken a backseat these past few years, but has recently come up in a bunch of different ways. For around 7 months now, my relationship has been hindered by my chronic overthinking, 100% of the time wondering where she is and what she’s doing. I know that I can’t always know this, as that is controlling behavior, but it still upsets me deeply. Every scenario, such as being active on social media at the same time as guys I’m uncomfortable with, or not answering my texts when she is active on that app, makes me panic a bit. Instead of logically assuming she’s answering somebody else or just hasn’t opened my text yet, I always find the most catastrophic situation possible, like cheating. Even as I’m writing this, I’m wondering what guys she could be texting at that moment. I often have to talk to my girlfriend about these issues, and I often take her feelings for granted and I think it’s draining her to the point where I don’t think she can handle this as long as she thinks she can.
Let me give you an example of my head (For context, my girlfriend has just graduated and I am still in school.)
A couple of days ago, I was sitting in class with the knowledge that my girlfriend was going to be hanging out playing sports with her best friend (F) and a couple of guys, all of whom are her classmates. I end up learning that her best friend decided to stay at home, leaving her and these guys. I then learn that they are all planning on getting food at a restaurant in a neighboring tow. They get food, come back, then I learn that they are again playing sports, and after that is done, my girlfriend gives one of the guys a ride home as he does not have a car. Through no fault of my girlfriend, I’m learning all this new stuff through gapped texts, partly due to connection issues.
To most, this is just a normal day with nothing that could have happened. But my mind is not so simple. Let me take you through my thought process throughout the day.
First, let me go over one of her friends in particular, Fred (name change ofc). Fred has exhibited odd behavior since the start of the school year towards me and my girlfriend, and I don’t know if I’m justified in saying he has a crush on her. Please give me your thoughts. To my face Fred has called her the most beautiful girl in the school, knowing she was my girlfriend. He mentions her in class to me whenever he can bring her up, often unnecessarily. He sends her songs to listen to, and starts unnecessary text conversations stemming from questions he or she asked. Just after they got done as a group, he immediately sends her a video of a song and tries to initiate conversation, which she tries her best to shut down. After trying to shut it down, he then asks her if she’d want to get a group together and hang out again. How do you think me and my girlfriend should handle the situation? Any attempt at telling her anything about it makes me feel controlling and manipulative.
For context, Fred happens to be the friend my girlfriend drove home.
Back to the example, me learning that her female best friend was not there made me feel as if something was instantly going on, or that she planned this on purpose to be alone with Fred. Then when I learn she’s getting lunch with the guys, I feel as if she’s letting me go, while also wondering if she’s sitting next to Fred on the ride there. While they’re eating, I’m thinking about who she’s sitting next to and why it’s taking them so long to eat. When they return from the restaurant and are playing sports again I freak out wondering if this was her choice and if she’s using this as an excuse to be close to Fred or some guy that’s there now I don’t know about. By this point I’m out of school and at home, where I am trying to text her, but because she’s playing sports, she’s not answering her phone. Instead of thinking this, my already full head assumes something more is going on or that she’s not answering on purpose cause she knows I’m freaking out. By this point, Im in full panic mode, checking her location as often as possible, and after a short break, I see she is at Fred’s house. Her location is pinged there longer than it normally should be, and this just about sends me over the edge. Images of them kissing in the car or laughing while having good conversation pop into my head, and at this point there’s nothing I can do to stop it. I text her asking her what she’s doing, trying to almost set her up for a lie or expect the worst answer. When I do confront her about her location being there, she gives me a very logical, yet not complete answer, still allowing my mind to run free and wild. Looking back on it I honestly handled the situation very toxically, but in the moment I had no better ideas. Please tell me how I can react to these situations more calmly. I’d like to point out I’ve never outright accused her of cheating on me, but I have told her when it seems like at least a semi-rational scenario(even if it’s not).
So yeah, that’s what my brain thought of a seemingly normal day for my girlfriend was like. Please feel free to give suggestions on how I can change my behavior effectively. Also tell me if you think my girlfriend can change her behavior to help me.
These snowballing thoughts happen from the tiniest of things, and I need help stopping them before they begin. One of my main concerns is a trip my girlfriend is taking this summer, which includes Fred. There’s a high likelihood I’ll never see Fred again after this trip, and I’m worried he’ll make his move. I would love to say I trust my girlfriend, but in all honesty, for no reason at all I can’t trust her. She’s given me 0 reason to not trust her, and honestly I’m more scared of him making a move than her accepting it.
I’ve put thought into this, and I have 2 reasons. 1. Self-Confidence I am not ugly by any means, but lately because of my issues and changing appearance,I think I’ve started to get worried on whether or not I’m good enough for my girlfriend. 2. Fear of Loss One of the causes for lack of trust could be that I’m scared of losing her. Meaning I don’t want to completely latch onto her in case she hurts me. But I also feel Ive latched onto her too tight in other aspects of our relationship.
I know this post is extremely long, and I don’t think this encompasses everything I’m dealing with, so if you need more context feel free to message or leave a comment.
Thank you for your time.

Posting from Missouri (Kansas City metro) Okay so.... first post on here so this might be too much info or too much context, but I didn't want to leave anything out. I need advice on what I can or should do. Also my dad is not wanting to file charges because "it's done and over with" when I feel it shouldn't have gone this way at all. UNSURE OF WHICH TAG TO USE SO I JUST PUT OTHER CIVIL MATTER.
For context, I live next door to my parents. The neighbors across from us have been having "family friends" (older couple and younger couple) living with them for close to or over a year now. It was supposed to be 3 months. We never had problems with the owners of the home and didn't have any with the "family friends" until about a month ago. The older man had the home owners son go get a lawnmower from another neighbors yard that had just moved out. My dad made the comment to the older man to not teach the kid to go into people's yards and take stuff, regardless of if they are living there or not. The older man got an attitude with my dad and it was over from that point. Or so we thought...
Within the past few days, the house the lawnmower was taken from has been cleared out into a big dumpster. My dad had permission from the landlord to throw out an old, broken recliner and a few smaller things. I helped my dad load everything into his truck because he has multiple health conditions that prevents him from being able to do much. While we're loading the truck, the neighbors son was going through the dumpster, which we don't care about because it was all trash and dumpster diving is not illegal here if it's off private property (it was on the street). The older man started walking down the street to go through everything he found. The whole time he's walking down the street, he was talking crap, saying "I'm not stealing" or something about stealing, and continued when he was standing next to the dumpster. We finish loading everything and go down to put it in the dumpster. My dad gets out and asked the older man why he was talking crap the whole time he was outside. The older man denied saying anything until my dad said we heard him saying something about not stealing. The older man immediately starts saying he said that because he's not stealing. My dad continued to tell him that what he's doing now isn't stealing, but going onto someone's property and taking something is. Everything escalated from there.
The older man immediately started to get loud with my dad and walking towards my dad aggressively. He's saying things like "I've had a heart attack. If you touch me, you're going to jail." and "I'm from New York." (Don't know if that was supposed to scare us or not) while in my dad's face. My fiancée kind of walked towards them to not let it go too far. She says something to him and he tells her "watch your lip, girl." I'm not going to stand for ANYONE disrespect her like that so I told him "don't fucking talk to her like that." and "I'm not going to let you disrespect her like that." He didn't like that. He's still running his mouth the whole time and blaming the lawnmower incident on the kid. He said "yeah I'll blame it on the kid, I'm 71 years old" I couldn't make out the rest. My fiancée said "exactly you're 71 so grow the fuck up." He yelled at her to "shut the fuck up, girl" so my fiancée yelled "you're a grown ass man talking to me like that." My dad is in-between them the whole time because the older man is trying to aggressively walk towards her the whole time. The older man then starts to try to push my dad out of the way to get to my fiancée. My dad tells him to back the fuck up as he's pushing the older man's arm off. The older man then pushes my dad so my fiancée swings on him. She didn't hit him (besides maybe like a single finger, we cant tell) because my dad was pushing her back.
The guy then pulls a knife out and takes the blade out fully, as he's yelling for help. Everyone immediately backs away from the guy as he is aggressively following my dad. The guy then turns his attention towards my fiancée and I, turning to come after us, so my dad pushes him away from us. The whole time he has the knife out, he's screaming at us and saying "that fucking lesbian bitch hit me." The younger couple are pulling up the street at the same time the guy starts walking home. The younger guy got the older guy to go home. The younger woman screamed at us "shut the fuck up. You're just pissed you cant grow a dick." My dad needed oxygen so I missed a little bit of what happened right after.
The cops were called and he went back home. The homeowner and his wife were apologizing to us while we were waiting on the cops. My little sister got on recording the guy coming after us with the knife, but not what lead up to the knife being pulled. I had to go get my dad's ID and the older woman comes outside and says "I want them to come up here because we're pressing charges." I replied to her "they'll be up here. Don't worry." She then screams at me "Oh shut the fuck up you lesbian bitch." I just brush it off and get what I need. Both cops got part of our side before one went up the get the other guys side. The cop that stayed with us saw the video my sister took. The cop then went to my dad's neighbors that had a camera pointing towards the incident. That camera view shows my dad's back and the cop said it looked like my dad pushed him first, that we were in the wrong. The older man said that he was trying to walk away. We told them multiple times that my dad did not push him first and that there were cameras on the house directly across from where this all happened. The cop was yelling at us, calling us liars, that video doesn't lie and that one video is all she needs to see. We just dropped it because the cop told us that if they are called back within 48 hours, everyone in the video is going to be arrested.
We then talk to our neighbors that showed the cop the security video and the cop only watched up until the first push. She IMMEDIATELY made up her mind and saw us at fault. We then got video from the other neighbors and it shows that my dad was pushed first. You can see him trying to push my dad out of the way to get to my fiancée, not trying to walk away. We have the proof that my dad did not push first. We also have video of how the cop was talking to us, which was very out of line in my opinion. I told my dad that bare minimum, a complaint on the officer needs to be made.
Should we go to the police station to file charges with ALL the evidence or just drop it? Any advice would help because I don't want to feel this unsafe in my home. I didn't realize that they felt so much hate towards my fiancée and I because they have been nice to us or just didn't talk to us in the past. I've never had to deal with neighbors being this way towards me or us.

I've been thinking to talk to my doctor about it. Though now I just feel it's really weird and I don't even have the words for it.
Some background:
Female, 28, not pregnant, pretty much in good health apart from a long term ear infection type issue that I'm planning to get checked out. Not taking any medications.
I used to experience Derealization at least about 3 years ago, my life used to be horribly stressful... still is to some extent and I did smoke a little marijuana then. So it's hard to tell whether I got the Derealization from smoking that or my stressful life, maybe both. I never told or got help with it, I just managed to cope just find and at some point I just got used to it. Then overtime I did stress management and just found ways to help it not be so much. After that I've not experienced it for about 3 years, while I was experiencing it for about maybe 2 years like a couple of times a week or month.
Lately however, I've actually been wanting to have it. I might be doing that drug soon and there's a part of me that doesn't care if it causes me that. In fact I seem to want it to.
I'm also worried that the revelation of such a strange thing might mess with the level of health care I receive and just make me look like a crazy person. Or be told "you brought this on yourself" if things do go through and I get more than I bargained for.
I did get marijuana now and while I didn't get it for the purpose of inducing Derealization. In other words not actively at the time of purchase, I seem indifferent if I do get it.
When I bought it I was feeling quite depressed and like I don't really have anything to lose, so might as well try this.

I’m having some trouble.
I was admitted to UNC Chapel Hill as a transfer student last month. I would love to go but there’s an issue, I have so many friends and amazing connections at App, like fortune 50 company connections AND an internship within one of them. I have my next two years planned out and I don’t know how easy it would be to just up and go to UNC.
Also there’s the housing issue, because I have on-campus housing at App this upcoming year but I probably won’t get any at UNC and I won’t be as successful with no housing. The 2025-2026 year I will be hopefully staying at University Highlands with a friend (so it’s planned).
Here’s another thing: At App I’m doing great with a GPA of a 3.92 this past semester, I’m in the business program too. I’ve gotten many leadership positions in clubs and love how I can take online classes as it’s the best for me.
At UNC I didn’t get admitted into the business program so I had to go a different direction. I will also get little to no support from my family while at UNC as they don’t want me going there. They wouldn’t be at my graduation either. However, I pay for my own college.
I got a job on campus at App where I recently got promoted as well. I’ve also gotten fall employment at UNC though so I don’t know.
I guess I just wanna hear other people’s opinions. I met my first REAL friends at App who would do anything for me, I’m so conflicted.
PS: If I don’t get housing on campus at UNC I definitely will not be going. It’s not worth it to me. This is in the situation where I do get housing. I have no friends there.

Likely posted time and time again, but I need answers. I have a cat. Kinda. She didn't start as mine but when I met her as my dad and I moved into his fiancé's house, she instantly bonded to me. She's 6 and has known me for 5-6 months but acts like I've been around her whole life. I adore her.
She's extremely clingy. As I type this She's laying against my chest, sometimes having her paws stretched to my shoulders. She will scream (her lungs scare me.. take a breath!!) if I'm downstairs for even a minute after waking up to go get a drink or when I get home from school she instantly demands I be upstairs for pets lol
Don't get me wrong. I adore this. I love having a cat just as attached to me as I am to her! I just worry about how she'd do with a new cat considering her quick and EXTREMELY strong bond with me. I do plan to slowly introduce them to each other through scent first and some other basics (too tired to list everything) but I need first hand advice. I don't want to make her mad, but I've been promised a new cat since before I even knew of this one. I'd give them both the same love and care (how could I not?? I adore all cats) I just need to know any tips to lessen the possible impact of a new cat when they're old enough (were just born today lol)

I have no one. I think my dog has been the only thing keeping me here, I know he’ll be sad without me. It’s really hot where I live and he overheated even though he was inside all day. He started to convulse and his eyes looked distant, like he was going to die. My heart sank. I told him if you go, I go. I called my mom for help, she didn’t care, just told me to take him to a vet. He’s okay now but I’m not. I’m 25, living in Phoenix and my life feels like a waste. Like I’ve failed at everything. I don’t think I’m going to leave a note or anything. I’ve held onto this feeling for most of my conscious life. It doesn’t get better, like I’m stuck. Medication failed me, I have no friends, and family don’t care about me. My partner doesn’t care, they’ve just used me like every ex I’ve had in the past. Our relationship felt like a shallow lie this whole 2 years but I went along with it because of how little I care about myself. Misplaced hopes and happiness, you know? How can a person be so shallow and pathetic that they lead you on, just because they’re afraid of being alone? I shouldn’t have gotten involved. Here I am, 2 years of my life wasted, again by some one who manipulated me. I kicked them out earlier today because I’m tired of fighting and hearing the excuse of ‘I don’t know what I want, I don’t want a serious future right now’. Yet they wanted that originally and all the infatuation went away. I’m tired of being played out like this. I don’t think all the sleep in the world would rejuvenate me. I want to rest. My heart is worn out and my soul is tired. I prayed to God earlier, I guess I’ll see where I end up

I’m a fucking wreck today.
I distracted myself as much as possible, as I’m usually amazing at doing. My schedule is jam-packed, which I will usually complain about to seem somewhat normal. “Ugh, I have so much to do this week…” as if I didn’t plan every single thing.
It’s harder to feel down when you’re always on the go. When you look good, when you stay in the gym, when you surround yourself with friends and family, when you work your ass off… at least that’s what I’ve always told myself. That’s what works for me.
Usually works. About once a month or so, my feelings catch up. It doesn’t matter where I’m at or what I’m doing – they’ll catch up. Suddenly I’m overwhelmed and I cry. Female rage consumes me and I scream in the car. I’ll try to push through when I get where I need to be – sometimes it’s work, sometimes it’s running errands. Today it was the gym. But my energy leaves me high and dry.
My bright aura is no longer with me and I’m numb. My eyes that were once filled with tears are now narrow. I cut my day short and I get back into my car because when my energy leaves me, I listen to my body and my soul. I need a minute to sulk. My drive home that is normally a full-blown concert is now silence, and it’s never been louder.
I run a hot shower when I get home in which I sit down and cry. I bury my head into my knees and I hug my legs until I feel ashamed because I live a privileged life. I dry off and before I put on any clothes, I go to the kitchen and pour a glass of red wine. Priorities. Just one glass, I say.
I cook myself a nice dinner. Nothing cures sadness like self care, wine, and a good TikTok binge, right? Tonight it was loaded baked potato soup – and it was incredible. The wine was also incredible. So incredible that one glass turned into two.
I layed out on the couch and laughed my ass off at TikToks. Temporarily, I was happy. Then I got a text from someone I really don’t even talk to – “I know what you’re going through. I’m here if you need anything.” Suddenly I’m overwhelmed again – I’m grateful and I’m sad. Grateful because I am lucky enough to always have people in my corner, but sad because somehow I still always feel alone. I think it’s an immediate response because no matter how many times people have said that, I always go through it alone.
My mom is never there, my friends are never there, my dad is never there. I feel like since I was eighteen years old, the only person that has ever truly looked out for me is me. The only being that has ever been there for me since then is my dog. So my immediate response is, I’m alone in this.
Granted, I love my parents and my family and my friends. They’re there in the good times, and they make the good times so much better. Most don’t know about these times, except for my mom. I’ll call my mom occasionally, only to be disappointed that it never makes me feel better. Worse actually. It’s never her fault, we just don’t connect like that. We never have for as long as I can remember. I always make the mistake of thinking that one day, we can get on that level. My delusion often results in disappointment.
One glass turns into a hefty three and suddenly I’m writing. Writing has always been an outlet for me, and I feel better now. I feel numb again. My feelings have left me high and dry as I type and I drink. Tomorrow I’ll wake up early, put on a pretty ass outfit, do my makeup, and act like this never happened. I’ll make my matcha and romanticize the fuck out of my life.
I make it seem like I’m doing great, like my life is perfect. But once a month, I remember that I am 26 years old and I’m alone. No matter how much I travel, no matter how much I spend, no matter how good I look, there’s this overwhelming feeling that consumes me at least once a month. I cry so hard I fall to my knees, I laugh maniacally, I drink myself to sleep, and then I wake up in the morning like everything is okay. Because it is, right? It’s just a monthly wreck.

She had a fall this evening. I am her first family support and over 3 hours away and my sister who's near, can't get in to see our mother until a room is available because of how overcrowded it is. It's going to be many hours and my poor mother (advanced LBD) is lying on a stretcher in a crowded hallway with no one to be her voice or ears.
This is what I've been dreading/anticipating: the next traumatic event which will undoubtedly thrust her into long-term care.
I'm much more stolid and resilient than I was 4 years ago when we started on this path, but man, the heartache never softens its blow, does it?
Anyway, there are few things which give me solace like this subreddit, because regardless of where any of any of you are on this journey, I know you get it.

Regina gets all "motherly" on her older sister.
No, wrong. She gets all TRITONY. Except...
"I hate you, how dare you mate with that scoundrel!" Instead of "HUMANS! I'm prejudice against them! Ariel!!!!!!!!"
I mean, at least Triton came around (because Eric saved Ariel) after screaming at Ariel for saving Eric, which is more than I can say about REGINA!
Also, actually, that mirror thing Regina did, which is called STALKING. Yep, Regina STALKED Zelena...was not exactly Triton but Young Sister's Watching You creepy as f***.
Zelena did not bother telling Regina, "You do realize, with all that salivating you do in that mirror that BELLE is the one who gave me the idea to date Sir Dead Guy, eh?" Belle is the one who said, "You might want to get Hades in the sack! It's time, love. You haven't done it in a long time, right? It's growing back. I think...you've only had the baby, what, five days ago? Postpartum bodies, who gets them? Me, I'm getting morning sickness even though my husband told me I was pregnant SIXTY SECONDS ago...I'm super smart though!" (I'm frankly amazed they didn't make Belle be nine months along already and drop the baby at Hades' feet, all wth is that??? A baby? Is it Will's?)
Yes, Zelena never would have stopped guarding her heart if BELLE hadn't talked sense into her. So...Regina can thank Belle because she's a better Young Sister than Regina is.
I absolutely hate Regina's attitude toward Zelena. I GET Zelena's a total jerk to her up until she's in the underworld and the writers chiseled off her psychotic energy. But Regina thinks she's a GOOD PERSON because she won't let anyone kill Zelena?
That's BULLS***. I don't know what the writers are smoking, but you know what makes someone a good person? Compassion. Merely NOT KILLING SOMEONE doesn't make you a good person. You don't have to be a murderer to be a truly terrible person. Cora really f***ed Regina up because she never listened to her. Regina repeatedly complained that Snow and co were too self-righteous...then she becomes TEN THOUSAND times more self-righteous than any of them ever are.
And that's saying a lot. Considering when Anton was raging at them, Snow said, "We're good!" Who does that? In real life? That's cringey, but I guess if we're saying they grew up with fictional people brains, it kinda works...
I know some people disagree with me, but it really bothers me how Regina acts toward Zelena in s6, when Zelena is genuinely TRYING to be a good person. NOBODY was that nasty to Regina, even GRUMPY, when she tried to turn a new leaf.
And if I wished Regina had gotten tired of everyone treating her cruelly when she was trying to be a good person in s2 and wished she'd blast them already and go, "Fine, I'll be evil, just like yall want," in s6, Regina is like a parole officer sniffing Zelena's breath every time she gazes off into a sunset. It would've been a lot more realistic if that tight chokehold Regina had on Zelena made the wicked come out...with no remorse attached. And it'd be all Regina's fault. There IS no compassion. If you want to be angry about her r**ing Robin, I'd get it, but she's angry because Zelena AND ROBIN saved Regina from Hades but Robin had to die and Zelena got to live.
For aaaaaalllllllll Regina "nobody gets to kill my sister", in s6, she shows the audience if Hades had killed Zelena and Robin lived instead, she'd be happy. Because Regina lives in the land of "I wish my life were different" instead of being kind to what people try to love her who she has left. Zelena is really trying in s6...and Regina is the one who TOLD HER TO KISS HADES and start his heart. Sure, Zelena should've ignored her. But you can't tell someone to do something then hate them forever because they LISTENED TO YOU.
Regina wasn't mad about Robin's r***, she was just feeling like a better person (when she r***d Graham for probably 35 years then KILLED him because he was coming out of the coma, so to speak). But when Robin dies...and Zelena saves her life...Regina's thong gets stuck. So snide, so self-righteous. I like her better when she'd smiling smugly and destroying random people's happiness than when she goes around acting better than Zelena because Zelena is trying to open her heart to Regina and Regina is being snooty.
Basically, empaths dressed in vipers clothing are extremely obnoxious.
And far as the whole Cora thing goes...let's remember...she gave Zelena up as a baby thinking Zelena would be eaten by wolves. S5 has a flashback where she goes to get her to save Regina's life (and while this is definitely a "new idea" instead of an old plan, lets pretend it was planned all along), and when she goes to get her, she sees Zelena's adopted father about to hit her.
And what does Cora do? She throws her back to be beaten by the adoptive father.
THEN SHE TRIES TO CONVINCE ZELENA SHE LOVES HER. Why does she even want to MEET Zelena? For Regina. To help Regina.
Then she makes up some bs before she departs about how she cares about Zelena, so she goes to heaven. No, Cora. No, you don't care about Zelena at all. You just lied.
People do it all the time, make up some grand sob story about how they care about you purely to guide you into biting the bullet they have reserved for you.
If Cora cared about Zelena (I don't care if she had her heart or not), the time to stop bsing would be when she saw that guy about to hit Zelena. She would not have sent Zelena back to him if she cared about her on any level.
I really wish the writing had not forgiven Cora. They should have just made her actually be accountable for the bad things she did. But the ONLY thing she did that wasn't totally shitty was explain to Regina that Hades can't be changed by something as simple as "love". Then the second she goes to heaven, Regina forgets all about that, and she tells Zelena to make wild love to Hades.
Then she gets mad at Zelena when she goes and does exactly that.

I’m a fucking wreck today.
I distracted myself as much as possible, as I’m usually amazing at doing. My schedule is jam-packed, which I will usually complain about to seem somewhat normal. “Ugh, I have so much to do this week…” as if I didn’t plan every single thing.
It’s harder to feel down when you’re always on the go. When you look good, when you stay in the gym, when you surround yourself with friends and family, when you work your ass off… at least that’s what I’ve always told myself. That’s what works for me.
Usually works. About once a month or so, my feelings catch up. It doesn’t matter where I’m at or what I’m doing – they’ll catch up. Suddenly I’m overwhelmed and I cry. Female rage consumes me and I scream in the car. I’ll try to push through when I get where I need to be – sometimes it’s work, sometimes it’s running errands. Today it was the gym. But my energy leaves me high and dry.
My bright aura is no longer with me and I’m numb. My eyes that were once filled with tears are now narrow. I cut my day short and I get back into my car because when my energy leaves me, I listen to my body and my soul. I need a minute to sulk. My drive home that is normally a full-blown concert is now silence, and it’s never been louder.
I run a hot shower when I get home in which I sit down and cry. I bury my head into my knees and I hug my legs until I feel ashamed because I live a privileged life. I dry off and before I put on any clothes, I go to the kitchen and pour a glass of red wine. Priorities. Just one glass, I say.
I cook myself a nice dinner. Nothing cures sadness like self care, wine, and a good TikTok binge, right? Tonight it was loaded baked potato soup – and it was incredible. The wine was also incredible. So incredible that one glass turned into two.
I layed out on the couch and laughed my ass off at TikToks. Temporarily, I was happy. Then I got a text from someone I really don’t even talk to – “I know what you’re going through. I’m here if you need anything.” Suddenly I’m overwhelmed again – I’m grateful and I’m sad. Grateful because I am lucky enough to always have people in my corner, but sad because somehow I still always feel alone. I think it’s an immediate response because no matter how many times people have said that, I always go through it alone.
My mom is never there, my friends are never there, my dad is never there. I feel like since I was eighteen years old, the only person that has ever truly looked out for me is me. The only being that has ever been there for me since then is my dog. So my immediate response is, I’m alone in this.
Granted, I love my parents and my family and my friends. They’re there in the good times, and they make the good times so much better. Most don’t know about these times, except for my mom. I’ll call my mom occasionally, only to be disappointed that it never makes me feel better. Worse actually. It’s never her fault, we just don’t connect like that. We never have for as long as I can remember. I always make the mistake of thinking that one day, we can get on that level. My delusion often results in disappointment.
One glass turns into a hefty three and suddenly I’m writing. Writing has always been an outlet for me, and I feel better now. I feel numb again. My feelings have left me high and dry as I type and I drink. Tomorrow I’ll wake up early, put on a pretty ass outfit, do my makeup, and act like this never happened. I’ll make my matcha and romanticize the fuck out of my life.
I make it seem like I’m doing great, like my life is perfect. But once a month, I remember that I am 26 years old and I’m alone. No matter how much I travel, no matter how much I spend, no matter how good I look, there’s this overwhelming feeling that consumes me at least once a month. I cry so hard I fall to my knees, I laugh maniacally, I drink myself to sleep, and then I wake up in the morning like everything is okay. Because it is, right? It’s just a monthly wreck.

Hello, I am 23 (F) and my dad is in his mid 40s. My dad and I do not have a tight knit relationship as he has been in prison for most of my life and the latest sentence he did was around 10 years. He has missed middle school, high school and college graduation. I did keep in contact with him while in jail and have seen him a few times. We still talk here and there on the phone and do occasionally family activities together with my siblings.
Since he has been out ( going on two years this year) he has only essentially only hit me up or called for favors such as loans, getting accounts in me or my fiancé name etc. (anything revolving around money). I spent a hefty penny on clothes, shoes, hygiene supplies when he was first released.
We frequently get into arguments because I choose not to call due to him always begging but he states that since I am the child I should call first since he has always call his parents first. I do not agree as I never asked to be here and the conversations are always indirectly begging or straight out begging.
For example, on my birthday I invited all my close family out to dinner. It was a semi affordable restaurant. He made a huge deal that I didn't choose a cheap place (I rarely go out and wanted to do something special for my birthday as I'm usually a homebody). I let him know that wanted him there and to eat before and order a small plate if he'll like to eat. Otw to the restaurant he called saying he doesn't have money and I should pay for him.
He never asked just told me. My fiance ended up paying for him. His meal was only $20 and I felt very disrespected.
This all leads me to say I am planning my wedding and don't feel comfortable with him walking me down the aisle. I don't want to increase the tension or drama by doing that but that's truly how I feel. Should I suck it up and allow him since that is my father or stick to my boundaries?

My boyfriend (34M) and I (24F) have been together for 6 months now. He has two kids and they are great kids. Two girls age 7 and 10. He is very supportive of his ex which is ok but she can be very manipulative and make him feel like shit then to come to a realization of her intentions. It upsets him and also me. For instance, Mother’s Day, it was his to have them (Friday to Friday) but she called him up Thursday saying how the girls were crying and didn’t want to go to school and the reason for them crying was he locks the door at night. Ex would like to keep the kids Friday and Saturday. Came to the conclusion that they were crying because the little one was sick Wednesday and stayed home so the next day they both thought that playing sick and crying would get them to stay home. Her motives was to have them on Mother’s Day. Bf and I said the kids can be with her until Sunday afternoon since we have dinner plans with my parents for my mom. Her bf decided to text my boyfriend saying she would love to have the kids for Mother’s Day. Which is understandable but she didn’t have to manipulate and beat around the bush to get her way. It is emotionally draining for me. I don’t know if I can deal with knowing she will always be in our lives. It’s fine if it was minimal contacts but manipulation and all of this bs is a no no. I talked to my boyfriend about how I felt about it seems to be going nowhere. I told him I don’t know if I can do it. Knowing that she will always be there. He assured me that he doesn’t talk to her other than about the kids. I recently found out she is an authorized user on his card to buy the kids school stuff, clothes, and whatever they need. He seems to be financially supporting her in someway. Also we went to the kids spring concert and ofc we said hi to his ex and her boyfriend. My boyfriend handed her a check which I later learned it was half of his tax return. She said she will use it for the kids dental but he said no no, use it for yourself, I’ll take care of the kids dental. I don’t know how I feel about any of this. Help?

Hey guys, just a heads up this post is going to long cause I have got no one who I can talk about it so I’m here for your help. This is my first time sharing my problems online so forgive me for the mistakes if i made any!. So I’m 20M and my gf 19F are in a relationship for almost 2 n half years, will be 3 soon, and are friends for 4 years. So she propsed me in jr.college, and i told her that i'll give answer but I took some time to think about it cause of her past and when her old relationship got exposed, she bro zoned me, then after some months of her breakup, she told me that she loved me, and due to her having many exes, i was hesitant but then I also loved her so I accepted, then after 8 to 9 months of being together everything was normal, then came the LDR and everything went downhill, we are in ldr for almost 1 n half year, in this period, she became so over possessive towards me that she didn't give me my space like for example, there was this friend of mine of 3 years, male friend, we were close like brothers, and used to hang out with him 3 times a week, then when she came in my life, i was still going but idk wtf happened to her, she told me to break the friendship and why? cause she didn't think he was a good influence on m.,
I was so frustrated with what she told me to do but my dumbass still did it which i regret terribly now, then we are a group of 5 friends, 2F and 3M, including her, so in the ldr i used to meet my male friends but then she also got insecure about them, so i just go to meet them very rarely, i need to tell her each and everything like what im doing now, or what will i do, it's okay for some extent but this has crossed limits, she even gets angry when i spend time with my family like yesterday my family and i was out for dinner around 9 Pm, she didn't texted me for 1 hour then at 10 she texted and i also replied, she got angry on me saying can't you finish your dinner in 1 hour, i was like wtf?? first she restrict me spending time with my friends and now even with my family, i was so angry, i told her wtf are u talking about, atleast let me spend some time with my family, but then she told i texted you cause i have a headache, i have got no one, like giving me the guilt, everytime when i go out wiht my family, she does this, so i have stopped going outside, i go outside just for college then come home, she didn't even let me hangout with my college friends, which is so frustrating sometimes, I have also hurted her I accept that but i never did anything like this, i never told her to cut off your friends for me, and when she goes out, she's off the whole time, she texts me for some time then go off for the rest, i tell her to go enjoy but when it's my time she get possessive and wants me to be constantly on and talking with her, I have tried to break up earlier but she hit's herself, or starts crying that she has watched dreams of us settling down, i have no problem in that but i cant live like this, i cant explore, i cant go out, she tell me to wait, after she is permanent in my life, we can do, but that has long time we are in 20's now, she doesnt understand that.
so she doesnt even let me try and if i did she fights with me on extreme level and due to this i have gave up almost everything, like going on family trips or going out with my friends, etc i gave them shitty reasons everytime, and she kind off had a rough childhood so i dont want to hurt her but i cant live like this, where i cant do anything for myself, all i had to do is think about her everytime i do something, and imagine even the small things like going out shopping for home needs etc, i cant even sit alone for few minutes to think, and she tells me she wants to marry me, she loves me and she does, but she's like this, i also want a gf but i also want my life, where i can do anything i want, not cheating or going against her let me clear, and do whatever i feel like doing, and i tell her to do this and she does but when its my time, she doesn't let me do and everytime we fight and nowadays the fights cross the extreme level, I have a thinking that everyone has their own life, no matter how much you love them or they love me, but in my case, my life is her's and i have no interest to make her life mine, cause ik how hurt it feels when some one else do the decision making for you or your life Should i break up with her? but how as i said i have tried many times but she ends up crying loudly, or convincing me to stay, or says that she'll change but she never does and she doesn't even really try to change, i had some drawbacks myself, but im trying to change them like im more of a practical person than a emotional one, so i try as much possible to give the love and care to her as she needs but every time she finds faults, like wrong timing of that or didn't met her expectations or doing something else when she needs something else. I really need help in this one, cause i dont think i can handle this alone, i hope you all got an idea of what im facing
Thank you for all the help, if i left anything imp, i'll add it but for now this is it Forgive me for such a long post
TL;DR - What to do if you are in a toxic relationship and how to end it

I recently requested my medical records for the last 6 years because something feels off. Let’s just say I learned a lot. I’m experiencing some strange symptoms and plan to go to my doctor, but thought I would post my labs/urines to see what you think I should ask, should I be concerned, etc.
31 y/o female. 5’5”, 245lbs approximately. Medical Hx includes: ADHD, post partum preeclampsia + HELLP syndrome (2019), mild asthma.
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My record mentioned after having my son in 2019 my d-dimer level was 4014, but I never knew this so unsure if I had a DVT or PE.
Thanks for any advice on what I should discuss with my family doc. Info in the comments.