I am one of the early access/beta testers for a tool called "My Link My Lead".
My Link My Lead allows agents to share property search and listing URLs via their personalized links, so they can gain leads that are brought in through their sharing.
I essentially have a nationwide MLS that has more MLS's participating than Zillow and therefore more listings available. I can create links by state, city, zip code, you name it.
There is a built in tool as well where the moment I have a lead I can select an agent off of the software and it auto generates an e sign referral document for that agent and state and literally within 30 seconds I can send a referral agreement out with a few clicks of a button and have them locked in with the lead.
I have started off by selecting a few markets and joining Facebook "bargain"/"yard sale" type of groups and posting links to properties, and not just single properties but often times a list of "homes for sale that qualify for $0 down" or "Homes under 400,000 in xx school district" because I can generate leads off of social better than most agents I know of.
With that being said I am wanting to see if other agents in here are messing with this tool yet (we have a closed work Facebook page for it). But also seeing if agents have any ideas on how I could maximize this. I sell about 30-40 million a year myself, and I have a team I lead as well, but I feel if I can master this tool I can focus less on my own production and focus more on building one heck of a referral juggernaut.

My boyfriend (36M) and I (29F) have been together for about 8 years, and we share a 7 year old daughter. About a year ago, he started having infrequent, unexplainable seizures. The second one resulted in a car accident, and he lost his license. Since then, he has had a few hospital visits. The last one he was in the hospital for 4 days due to vomit aspiration, low oxygen levels, and high blood pressure. He was only able to get health insurance at the beginning of this year, so he received medication, but he needed a primary doctor. The earliest I was able to schedule an appointment was for June. Thursday morning, May 9th, he passed away after having another seizure in his sleep. I am completely devastated. My entire life has been flipped around and I’m so confused. Outside of the seizures he seemed completely healthy. I wake up every morning since still looking for him. My daughter will have to grow up without her father who loved her so much. At the hospital, my mother contacted his mom to break the news. My boyfriend and his mom had a very estranged relationship. She had not seen or spoken to him since January, when we visited for his birthday. Back in 2019, she agreed to help us with our housing situation. Agreements were made without paperwork and we moved into an apartment she and her spouse (poorly) renovated. We struggled to afford rent there, and they evicted us after we fell short on rent. We decided to move 5 hours away to stay with my mom and his relationship with his mom has been strained since. There were also many instances before we met where she was not kind to him, including in his childhood. After hearing the news, she immediately demanded he back home to have his service there. Without telling me, she started a gofundme to raise money for funeral expenses. It does not mention me or his daughter. She also began announcing the news to what seemed like as many people as possible. I was seeing “RIP” posts on his Facebook before I even left the hospital. Before I could tell my daughter. Because we weren’t married, I have no right legally to make any decisions regarding what happens to him, so to keep peace for myself and my daughter, I let her do what she wanted to do. I have been cooperating and answering any questions she has. Monday, she sent me a long message. Basically guilt tripping me into giving her his life insurance information. When I spoke to his jobs HR department, they could not give me any info because we we’d not married and he did not have a beneficiary listed. I relayed that to her. I assume she thought I was being petty to not give her what she wanted. The love of my life is gone, I have no reason to be. I became very upset and we argued. She later apologized and said she sent me that message to “put a fire under my butt”. Yesterday (Tuesday), after a lot of confusion and mess, his body finally arrived in his hometown to the funeral home. I let her know. She called me later that afternoon to let me know she had to shell $10,000 out of her own pocket for the embalming he did not want. After the call, I could not calm down and became very upset. I have felt like everything is about money and attention for her. She has all these people surrounding her, hugging, praying and feeling sorry for her, when she hadn’t even called him for his birthday in years. My daughter barely knows who she is. I sit in the home we shared that will soon need to be packed up with just my mom and child. I can’t afford to stay here without him and will have to move back with my mom. I can’t even sleep in the bed I’ve shared with him for all this time. After all this is over she will return to the same life. Every aspect of mine will change. The more I think about it, the more angry I become. I have started to feel like after the service is over, and he is buried, I do not want her apart of my or my daughter’s life. How I cannot help but to feel guilty. Would cutting her out of our lives make me the asshole?

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I don't want to be a tasteless person, but I wasn't surprised enough to have my mom make a trembling-handed cake for me on my birthday. Okay, her body hasn't collapsed yet, she can still manage her affairs, but it will collapse.
I never had any problem with "this moment". Either the future is coming to me, or I'm going to it. Even in the darkest times of the past, I was young and full of hope, so the present is bright, but the future is completely dark... Whenever I think about the future, my brain short-circuits.
I wish my mom, especially my mom, could stay strong enough for us to argue, because I hadn't accounted for her aging. I woke up after the Parkinson's diagnosis. Now it bothers me again, but I can't say anything. I'm aware that there is an old and sick person in front of me. My attitude has changed now. The problem is, my attitude has changed towards everything; it has changed, or I haven't noticed over time. I've become a middle-aged person who constantly emphasizes respect and love in conversations.
I'm overly affectionate and overly respectful; yes, that's very nice, but it's also the most obvious sign of my aging. When delivery drivers are late, I don't get angry. I say, "It's okay, darling, what matters is that you come and go safely." I'm tolerant in traffic. I had an accident the other day. The shopkeepers helped together, and I was deeply moved. Then I revised my affairs in a way that could help more small businesses.
I have few but valuable friends. We don't argue, but if we do, I say, "You're my ... year friend, my brothesister. I'm really sorry if I hurt you." They do the same. In the past, we would hang up on each other and not call each other for a while. Now everyone is aware. Time is short and valuable.
The worst part is my attitude on online forums where I occasionally write. Sometimes I enter the forums of groups I like to feel young and write nonsense. Young people swear at me, I can't swear back. Then I say, "What am I doing here?" and leave, and go back to my own forums about theosophy, literature, work, etc. I guess they don't want us anymore...
As for love. That's over. I can't take anyone seriously enough to fall in love. Yes, a human being is a ladder rising to God, but if they've climbed as much as I have, we probably don't meet. They're probably all introverted like me, not communicating with anyone. The others are after physical pleasures; they have weaknesses, fears, devilish qualities... I also have a brain that can analyze quickly. Even if I admire someone at first, my admiration fades very quickly.
My longest admiration was for a rock star named Jack White. I tried a little hard to maintain my admiration, just to find inspiration. I realized he was extremely unpleasant after my analysis. Just an ordinary talented person. There are no virtuous qualities. That's over too.
These days I've gone back to the past. I listen to Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, and so on.
When Cornell died in 2017, I wasn't very aware of what was going on because I was depressed. Besides, grunge was very out of fashion. A few months ago, I could realize that Eddie Vedder was alive but aging, but it had a very bad effect. All the songs left in my ears found meaning. The bad part is, he's 60 and botoxed, but he's still in my head like in '92. I was 8 in '92, these guys were big brothers, and their music was very boring. Now I realize that the boring music was the anthem of my youth.
Oh, my sister Merich is experiencing the same awareness. When we get bored, we watch all the live concerts of Pearl Jam in '92, '93, '94... that we found on YouTube and have fun together. And then there's always the same question in our heads, "Did Jill convince Eddie Vedder to botox?" and the same joke, "If Chris saw these botoxes, he would commit suicide again..." We laugh. Then a cold wind, a brain tingling about time...
You've been stuck in the '90s for 3 hours, now it's 2024... You're 41. This girl you laughed with, your sister, is 46... The guy who crowd-surfed at the concert is 60... Your mom will call soon, she's 76... Your dad's blood pressure is high, he's 79...
We're dying badly... But not just like that. We're dying pretty fast and entropy leaves no room for love.
I looked at new terms, except for "sapiosexual", they've made up interesting terms like "noetisexual" for people like me. I don't know what I am, if I solve it, I'll be enlightened anyway.
The hell with terms. I'm a human being, just like everyone else, a victim of entropy. I'm obsessed with entropy. Let them come up with a term for that. Let them make a flag too. Asexuals have a flag. Let's have our flag too.

This is my first ever post and want to know if I'm being irrational or not, so thought why not ask reddit. Also dont know if this is in the correct subreddit? If its not meant to be in this one please point me to where I should post, and it is a long one and kinda involves two stories. One bridesmaid I want to send a text to give a kick up the bum and the other I want to move down to a guest.
People in the story
Myself L - F28
Bridesmaid A - Alex (friends for 12 years) - Thinking of moving down to a guest.
Bridesmaid B -Beth (friends for 7 years) - Want to give a kick up the bum.
Both bridesmaids are separate friends from different times of my life.
H - (Friend 4 years) Not a bridesmaid.
Story-
I got engaged to my fiancé in June 2022, and asked Alex and Beth to be my bridesmaids straight away as always knew I wanted them involved in our day. In November 2022 we booked our venue for November 2024. Since June 2022, we didn't do anything together for the wedding as everything was so far away, I booked a dress experience with Alex, Beth, My mum, nan and sister in November 2023. I didn't find my dress but we had a lovely day, I booked more appointments at other shops, neither of my bridesmaids could come to the other appointments due to it being close to festivities and having other plans, which was fine and said not to worry if I found the dress we would arrange in the new year to all go together and have lunch after to talk wedding bits and pieces.
I did find the dress so sent photos in our group chat, and said would arrange a date in the new year to take them to see it and have lunch as previously spoke about.
So in mid Jan, I sent a message to arrange a weekend day when we could all do this, I did have to ask a few times for dates that could be done as neither of them responded, but we got a date booked in and I phoned the shop to say that I would be bringing my two bridesmaids to see the dress, so they were lovely and said they would have the dress up out the way so it can be a surprise for them.
During this time the bridesmaid dresses had arrived, and I was unsure on them so asked if they would mind coming over to try them on so I would know to send them back or not, Beth and my sister came about 2/3 days later to try them on and we spoke about my hen and asked if I should set up a group chat so they can start planning it as it was now Feb 2024, and didn't want it to leave it late to plan and arrange it. Which they agreed to so the next day I set up the group and then left it.
Alex couldn't come to the dress try on as she doesn't drive, so arranged for me to take it to her when I had time or for me to take it to the wedding dress show day and she could take it then.
The day we had prearranged rolled around and Beth text me about 2 hours before due to to leave to say she unfortunately couldn't make it due to having a stomach bug and not being able to hold anything down and apologised, I was disappointed but understood it is not something that can be helped and definitely don't want to go into a shop full of white dresses if not feeling great. So said that was fine and I hoped she got better. Then about 20 minutes before we were due to leave to pick up Alex from where she was due to meet us after dropping her son to her mums, I get a text to say she had been up early with her son and forgot what time it was and then realised she had left it too late to come and meet us, so she would no longer be coming she did also say maybe we had to have a talk about her being a bridesmaid as she had a lot going on. This I was angry at, and I did have a cry before I left for the shop as I had looked forward to this day for a while and on the day both had cancelled, and when I got to the shop the ladies were so lovely but also hurt for me that both had cancelled on the day of as they were expecting myself, sister and my two bridesmaids. Me and my sister had a great day and I asked how my hen planning was going. She said not well and that both Alex and Beth had been very quiet and not helpful. It was also Alexs birthday soon after this appointment so I had bought her gifts to the day to give to her, just small gifts that were to make her smile. On her birthday I sent a text and got no response which is unlike her to not even respond thank you as she has done in previous years, but shrugged it off as being busy. She made a post on facebook saying how she was thankful for all of her friends for getting her wonderful gifts on her day etc. I text her the next day to say I had her gift with me and that I had planned on giving it to her on the appointment day, but she could come and get it or I could drop it off when I was next free to which I then got a reply.
I sent a text the next day after this into our group chat, to say that as both me and my sister are the most flexible with our time, we would be leaving it up to them to if they want to plan a date to go and do this again, and that i would like us to get together still to plan some bits out and we were both more than happy to go to their houses if that made it easier for them. ( this was sent in Feb, nothing has happened since on this front)
I then didn't hear from either of them properly until end of Feb, I had tried to reach out to both about things that weren't the wedding as I normally would anyway however I either got short responses or nothing. Around march time things seemed to go back to normal with both Alex and Beth responding fairly normal for our friendship.
I then spoke to my sister around mid March, again asking how the hen planning was going, and she was getting quite stressed with it as neither bridesmaids were responding in the chat along with everyone else, and if Alex did respond it was also a no to her ideas without giving another idea in its place. I told her that if i needed to be added back in to help then I would, however I did have someone who maybe able to help. By this point
This is where my friend H comes in, she and I have been friends for a 4 years but she lives around 4 hours away from me, and wanted my two oldest friends as my bridesmaids. We dont get to see each other often however we try to ring each other once every month and have a 2/3 hour long catch up on our lives, and it was around this time we had our call so I spoke to her about everything that has been happening, and she said she would be happy to help my sister plan the hen. Which she did and Beth stepped us also after not being too active. Alex however did not and she is also unsure on whether she can come to the hen in itself due to childcare. Which is fine and I plan on doing a afternoon brunch thing for those who wanted to come but couldn't.
We are now in May with 6 months to go, neither have given RSVPs to the wedding and I havent seen either of them since November 2023. I want to get together to talk things like makeup artist, hair things i want to buy them as gifts etc but i dont seem to be getting anywhere.
Whilst going on through all of this I have tried multiple times to get Alex on the phone as we normally would when we hadn't seen each other for a long time, one night i waited 3 hours for her to call as she said she could but then kept moving the time back and back, by 3 hours of waiting I had enough and said would try again tomorrow to which again she just didn't pick up and text to say she would call later, she didn't. By this point Id had enough and spoke to my partner about it all and relooked back on our friendship. I had been there at her lowest moment taking time off work to help and support her as her family who she lived with didn't step up to help, over the last 2 years it had always been me asking her for a call or texting her first or to go over and see her, with her only initiating to go to hers to see her once. When she got married I wasnt a bridesmaid but still did bridesmaid things like get ready with her on the day and spend the night with her the night before as her bridesmaids didnt do any of that so she would have been getting ready alone etc. She has been there for me in the past when I needed it however in the last few years its been a lot more one sided. We hadn't seen each other in months so I went to hers to catch up and have dinner whilst I was there she got a phone call from another friend and she answered and had a 20/30 minute conversation with them, whilst I sat there so i was worried it was an emergency once she got off the phone I did ask if everything was okay and did i need to go etc and she said no it was just a catch up, we call each other nearly everyday. Which I did get mad at as when I go to hers I barely even speak to my fiancé as want to give her all my attention and found it rude she didn't give me the same courtesy if it had been an emergency then that is not an issue.
So I am asking am I being a bridezilla for wanting to give them a kick up the ass or moving them down to a guest for the day? And asking my friend H to see if shed like to be a bridesmaid instead?
Ive tried to include as much info as possible and give the main bits.

My husband (39M) and I ( 34F) have been together for 18 years. Since I was 15. We have 4 kids together. Throughout our time together we have been through just about everything. Infidelity on both sides, breakups and petty fights. Since we’ve met he’s always been controlling. Controlling in the sense that I cut all my high school friends off because he didn’t like me hanging out with anyone if he wasn’t there. Controlling that in the beginning I couldn’t have any social medias because he didn’t use them. I never tried to control him, I couldn’t even if I tried. He did what he wanted even if it caused fights. I always accepted it because I love him so much and I wanted to do anything to make him happy. He’s cheated on me physically and I cheated back emotionally (never physical with anyone) which isn’t ok regardless. We always ended up back together and forgiving each other. We never healed our wounds. He always feels he’s superior because he pays rent, pays some bills (I pay some too) he talks down on me and always has. When we argue he’d call me out my name infront of our kids, he’d belittle me and make me feel as if I don’t do enough for our family. But then he’d go back and apologize and say he didn’t mean those things or he’d just give me and hug and act like it never happened. Okay back to it, so throughout our time he’s never been the type to go big for holidays (Mother’s Day, Christmas, birthdays) and by that I mean he never took me to extravagant places or bought me anything crazy expensive which is ok. But he made an effort. He would take me to dinner or buy me flowers, he would ask my mother to watch the kids while we went to Atlantic City for a weekend. For the last few years it’s been nothing. No planning, no effort. He’ll wait for the day if and be like oh here’s some money or wait for the day before and say “I forgot it’s (whatever holiday) what do you want?”. I’ve let it slide for a long time, I always just said it’s ok just give me money or let’s go eat here. Last year in Jan of 2023 I snapped. He was talking down on me infront of our kids because I didn’t make dinner by a certain time, he came home from work and was upset and called me out my name. I couldn’t take it and I told him it was over. (We are legally married since 2021) I packed my things the next day and I took our kids to my mother’s house where I stayed for 4 months. He tried to get me to come home and I refused. I was set on leaving but my guilt caught up to me. I felt bad for breaking apart of family, I felt like my kids would hate me for leaving their father and ripping them away from all they know. So I asked for therapy together, he refused and said we don’t need someone to tell us how to fix things. I called places and tried to set up an appointment and he agreed but then didn’t want to go. Staying at my mother’s house wasn’t easy but I felt like I had to. After 4 months of him belittling me to my parents, to our kids, I gave in and came home to try again. We made a list of things we wanted to see each other change and do better to fix our marriage and life together. I went through my list, twice. And he agreed to do better. He agreed to make an effort for us and holidays and just time together. Things went great, things were changing and I saw him trying so hard. (Helping with dishes and laundry, the kids and letting me go eat dinner with friends with no arguing) then 3 months in and things started going back to how it was, I brought it up again. He apologized and again, he tried. We did this for the last year. Mother’s Day that just passed came, he waited till 3 days before to say “I forgot it’s Mother’s Day Sunday what do you want” I said money is fine. Trying to let it go. Two days before Mother’s Day (Friday) I went to dinner with friends, came home and he said nothing to me. I brushed it off cause he’s quiet sometimes. Next day (Saturday) he says nothing to me the entire day, went food shopping and he said nothing the entire time. Mother’s Day comes, nothing. No happy mother’s day, no flowers, no candy, nothing. I said something and I said I can’t take this anymore. We are back to square one. We went back and forth on Mother’s Day, argued about everything we talked about last year. He told me exactly this “I am who I am, I always been this way and I’m never going to change” and it hit me, he’s telling me to my face who he is, why am I wasting my life waiting for something that won’t happen? He repeated that throughout our fight and told me to look him in the face and tell him I want a divorce. I did. AITA?
Side note: This is one of the hardest decisions of my life but I feel that if I don’t make it I’ll be waiting forever for something that will never happen and I’ll be unhappy for the rest of my life. My kids don’t deserve that. I don’t think anyone does.

Hello Everyone,
So i have just been hacked. I am online since 1998 and this is first time it happened to me. I need advise from experienced people. I lost my Netfix account which i recovered but i couldn't recover my Facebook yet. Yes i am old and my facebook groups are my scrolling content to kill time on smoke breaks etc. Life feels empty without cringey facebook content.
Attempts of entering my e-mail is not stopping. I have just set up 2FA. I am thinking that will stop all attempts?
I am trying to find who is doing this because i am suspicous of the IT guy of the company i am working. He is the prime suspect. He warned me about not logging to chrome with my personal account. He said an IT guy who doesn't like you can steal everything. I said who cares who will attempt that. He said it is so easy to do i can do it easily.
That IT guy and i had an argument. It hurt him quite a lot. He almost started a fight i didn't respond and i used that chance to tell HR all the shit he was doing. The company i got hired is opening a tourism agency on the side and that guy was claiming he knows tourism and he was bossing us and telling us what to do how to work and everything. He doesn't know shit. We are 2 people working to open the agency and he got the other guy fired after that guy shooed him. He showed HR his PC logs and that he surfs during company time. We are idle by the way we don't got any work to do. Other guy was a manager at medium departments of medium agencies and i worked as a regular guy at top departments of top agencies. Anyway i can tell a lot it is both hilarious and sad at the time. He was saying things like you need to press that button to open the pc or you can use right side of the keyboard to write numbers. He once told me 'you look like you got used to typing on the keyboard'. MF like wtf? I am 36 i am typing without looking since i am 15. This is not my first time seeing a pc. Damn i got triggered again.
So the first monday after that falling out when i opened my work pc CMD is opening for a second then closing again. 1 month after that i got hacked. They didn't tried to steal anything they just tried to hurt me. They got my facebook banned by linking that FB to an instagram account that is against the rules etc. It is think like that.
Me and everyone hearing this story is almost sure that guy did it. How can i uncover this? The guy he got fired was a newly wed less then 3 months. He got him fired cause he realized he won't be able to boss him around. Me on the other hand let him belittle me and showed patience because my life is fucked up and i have to create stability instead of keeping on jumping from company to company.
Please help me.

This story starts with me being unemployed and having about $6-7,000 in savings while living with my parents, to getting employed, earning more than I ever had before, and yet being almost never so broke. Him requesting money is done through SMS unless otherwise stated. I don't think I'll be putting a TLDR in, it's sort of a lot regardless.
Why am I telling you this story? There's a strange phenomenon that concealing guilt or shame, or something, isn't good for you. That isn't necessarily what I'm feeling, I am only trying to move on as expediently as I can think of ways to do so. Rather than have my inner circle in the know, as I have had before, I have decided to post into the void.
*Not every transaction is detailed, some are recurring with the most noteworthy ones being bolded in chapter form. There are 82 transactions and this is sort of a long story, so I cut some fluff out by excluding a lot of them. *Note, for all the amounts borrowed and offered to pay back eventually, I repeatedly told them not to worry about it and that I didn't consider them my debtors, this is true to the end of the story, and I will not be seeking financial remuneration. After 4 months of working with nothing to show for it I am simply going to just enjoy knowing that I now get to keep the money I make.
The beginning:
It all started with picking up a tall young man walking by the side of the road in QLD (where I live). The man had been walking for hours in broad daylight and was all sweaty, trying to get to the nearest large rural town some 40 minutes away from where I live, which is also where I was going. We do the usual thing and try to make small talk to break the ice, sharing some personal information like if either of us is studying or working our age difference (which isn't that much, me being slightly older). he told me he was walking to see a mate in town about his car, if his friend had repaired it yet. Because he wasn't sure whether it would be fixed, we made an arrangement that I would also pick him up on my way out of town back home.
So, I do, and we do more small talk to the point of having an actual conversation, he also tells me he has a 2-year-old daughter. This is a significant detail because it is what drives a lot of the sympathy I had for his situation. There is also one thing about that conversation that stands out to me, and that was the impression that this guy was not very good with money because he said he frequently wants to buy something and then wants something else so he sells the first thing he bought to pay for the second, sort of like he couldn't help it or something. I couldn't relate. On the way home together I point out where my place was and drove past to drop him off at his. It was at this point or when I dropped him off in town that I gave him my phone number and said to text me if he needed a ride sometime.
Some days later he texts me asking me to lend him $50 for fuel because his place has no power (I would later learn that his property is not hooked up to the electrical grid and his family uses a generator for power). He wanted me to send it to his PayID number, which is something I had never used before. The next day he and his missus want a ride into town and back to check out a bus(?), he also wanted to borrow $100 which he said he would pay back in a couple of weeks. Before I left town, I got a call from a place I had sent my resume in to and they offered to start me on their employment process, to which I agreed. Yay! They stay in town overnight and made it to a pub, he called me later asking for something like $180+ for drinks and asked me to pick them up the next day, thanked me for funding their (apparently very fun) night out and informed me that the bus is very nice and will be getting delivered to their property in a few days (neither of them had the appropriate license to drive the bus, his father did except he did not come with us and I never met the man). He also asks for $200 to pay off a debt to his brother-in-law, would also pay that back to me as $300 in two weeks.
The next day, near dusk, he asks me for a lift into town to do some grocery shopping at a servo. I show up at his place and his mother wants to tag along, and she has an empty jerry can for fuel to use in the generator. So away we went, for a 90+ minute drive for the third day in a row, except near dark this time. I was beginning to get a little tired of the lack of forward thinking (why didn't you go shopping before I had to pick you up from town yesterday?), but there is so much more to come... I also gave him another $300 that night for some reason and $50 the next day to renew his Spotify subscription.
Two days later he asks me how much I'm actually willing to lend him, I said $500 but pleaded that he has to make it last a while, he agreed. He also informed me that he would now have to pay for the transportation of the bus to the property, and two days later told me that he was $300 short ($800) total to bring it 80kms. That's borrowing nearly $1,000 in two days, he also said this would be the last time he'd borrow.
It's at this point that he asks me what total he owes me, I was getting back to work at the time and told him to check his bank transactions, but I definitely took this as a sign of goodwill that he was keeping track to reimburse me even though I was telling him that he owes me nothing.
The worker's compensation claim:
A couple of days later he asks me for $170 to take his missus out for the night, winds up at the Gold Coast needing $500 for accommodation because he "didn't think things through". Good news is that his missus' car is now registered so I won't have to give them rides anymore, and more good news is that he's getting worker's comp in two weeks to the tune of $3,000 for his hand getting crushed on his last job (he stated this had left him unable to bend 2 or more fingers), he lastly states this money could pay back the $1,650 he owes me (his calculation). Next day $200 for fuel home, then $500, and he asks me to deny him any further transfer. He sends me a picture of the bus, a 1979 Albion Viking. I couldn't find the picture he sent me on Google, so I guess there really was a bus and I really did pay for the pricey transportation of a 55-year-old vehicle that had depreciated to nothing. He said he would send pics when he cleans up the inside, but they never came.
The very next day, he claims my very final $500 transfer did not go through (this may have actually been the case because I transferred the money between accounts for a faster transfer and then to him in less than a minute, so I suppose I just did it too fast or he was lying, but it was definitely gone from the account), to which I said give it a few days. Every day for the next 3 days he would tell me it still hasn't come through.
The nephew:
On day 4 of the final transfer, he stopped telling me it hadn't come through, however he stated that his missus had a nephew (14-15) who was going through some things and was about to be kicked out of his home, needed $200 for fuel to pick him up and bring him back to their place. Okay, well if I can prevent a minor (14-15) from being on the streets by lending a little more, so be it. I went over to physically hand him the money for fuel and he informed me in more detail what was going on, and it sounded believable. A couple days later and he's asking $150 for fuel to return the nephew to his parents, and his missus is requesting $200-$300 for accommodation to stay for a few days to resolve the situation. They stay a few more days down there for a total of about $1,410, spent on food, rent, and trying to calm the boy down.
He also got an update regarding his worker's comp, said it'd be payed out within 6 weeks for approximately $10k, then he asked me for a loan of $1,000 with an interest rate of 40% so I'd get $1,400 back. I, at this point, questioned why in the world would he need a loan of $1,000 after all I'd given him, and his response is... "car" - I asked him to elaborate further and he said there was a car he could buy down there for himself at that price. I informed him that money was actually getting very tight for me despite working now. He didn't get the car. I was also thinking that I would only have to go without having money while still working just until he got his worker's comp, my hope was that I could save and be content knowing his family would be looked after for a while.
I eventually called the bank to ask them if that final* $500 transfer had actually gone through on their end and they said it had, but to trace the transaction would incur a fee of $20, now knowing this and not really wanting to pay it I decided I would triple check if, after all these days, he had gotten that final* transaction: "Yeah, just came through today bro"
Considering this disregard for my time and neglecting to keep me updated on things to be just a quirk of my new friend, not wanting to claim he had been lying, I pressed on in good faith that this could just be water under the bridge.
His missus contacts me and says she needs $290 because she found accommodation for her nephew, and that he had forgot to pack anything including food. Another $100. Then fuel back while the nephew stays at this new place for a week. $70. I had concerns with leaving a minor renting alone so far away and his schooling, but they were met with it was "just for a week" until they could find some place to put him closer to them, their new primary caregivers, that apparently could not be at their house. I was, at this time, under the impression that the nephew was living alone, yet it would later be revealed that he was not.
The tyres:
3 days later after setting the nephew up somewhere close enough to his school, the missus went to visit him and got two tyres slashed, $190 to replace. She goes to the tyre place and is told that all of the tyres need to be replaced otherwise it is not legal, so it's actually $390 for all 4 (I was skeptical about this and was on a work break at the time, still have not looked into the validity of the claim). Some more time passes and general purpose transfers take place. I am informed that the nephew has sorted out an Aus Study payment from Centrelink, but that I would need to transfer $200 for the nephew's necessities until it's actually worked out, and I would no longer need to pay his rent. Cool. At this point in time, I was working but not keeping what I made. I paid board at home, but the rest minus my fuel between work and home is what I refer to as the 'x tax' ('x' being a stand-in for the name of the person who scammed me). The requests would mostly happen around the day I got paid, with a believable frequent expense of fuel for the generator being at least $160 a week, not to mention fuel for their car and the infrequent requests from his mother to "pay back her friends"
Sometime later, the missus got another flat tyre from driving over a piece of metal on the highway, $75 to replace and they managed to get towed to the tyre place (I did inform them that they would have a spare tyre in the back of the car, but they claimed it had already been used "the other day when we had another one slashed"). They got another spare but used that as well.
The funeral:
I get a text at work from the man saying that his grandfather was in palliative care with only one or two weeks left, and that his cousin was requesting he and his mother go down to see him, so he asks me if I can help. I decided I should be setting a weekly limit or something so this new friend doesn't drain my bank account each pay day, so I gave him $100 and let him know that it's a hard limit. 4 days later, he tells me that his grandfather had passed 2 days prior, needed $100 to get down to his funeral. I could only give him $85 and told him I would be unable to fund his return trip, to which he agreed would be fine. 2 days later, after the funeral, he tells me that he and his mother need $200+ to get home, get food & drinks on the way back and that the rest of their family would not help them and that they "have no other way back". Getting tired of the lack of forward thinking in this family's affairs, I reluctantly agreed to save them once again.
5 days later I ask him when he gets his worker's comp payout so I can begin to save up money from work knowing he and his family is taken care of for a while, he tells me "next week hopefully". This was in late March. Queue more travelling and fuel costs to now go and cremate the grandfather as his wishes were for him and his mother to be there when it happens. Now, I thought the funeral had already happened and that was the end of it, but it turns out that was just the funeral service, which is something I was not aware was a thing. Due to this misunderstanding, I was very suspicious at this point and exclaimed in a text "You already had the funeral!" while thinking "you can't bury someone twice, is this evidence you are scamming me?".
They also needed accommodation, except I was so suspicious of this man that I requested he find and tell me the name of the hotel they'll be staying at, just so I can verify that is the actual price per head. Also, his mum blew another tyre, but they happened to be right outside a tyre place... again. He claims to not be having very good luck anyway. A request is made for money to take his missus out for her Birthday. I tell him in a lengthy text I had been working for 2 months with nothing to show for it and that I am much more inclined to assist him only with essential spending like fuel or food, and he claimed to understand that, then stated he would use a bit of the money for a small cheap present anyway. The present turned out to be $200 on layby and he needed another $60 to fully acquire it. I was telling him to tone down his spending to emphasis that he needs to live at or below his own means and that he wouldn't need my help if he had just bought a much cheaper present.
It'd been about 9 weeks since he told me it would take 2 weeks for the worker's comp (which was later changed to 6 weeks) to be paid and I was wondering if he had heard back or followed up. He said he did and that they would "get back to him" about it. So, now that hope I had that this was just a temporary situation wasn't holding up so well. Despite all the money I was giving him he had bills "piling up" and one urgent one was for a storage unit where he claimed to have a shipping container's worth of stuff and the owner was threatening to throw it all out if they didn't pay his 6 weeks overdue fee. Apparently, if he had paid just most of the fee he would get to keep his stuff there, which is what happened.
There was a wedding for his brother-in-law and on the way back he asked me if I could help him buy phone data, except the amount he ended up paying wasn't an option for renewal, it was about $5-$10 off from the options available (this just fueled my suspicion even further that something just wasn't right). Thinking that a scammer wouldn't voluntarily give money back, I tested him by asking him for $40 back when I overpaid him and well, that's where it went to, that mobile plan. When they returned home from the wedding they found that their generator had not been fueled like he reminded his parents to do and so they lost all the food they had in the fridge. I questioned why his parents didn't notice the power had gone out and all of a sudden there was a second generator that was for them(?).
Their landlord had apparently stated he would be requiring $200 in rent a week early because he has bills and rates to pay. He informs me that he hasn't got a proper contract to even be on the property and could be kicked out at any moment and that he "needed to keep his landlord happy". I couldn't help him pay that much (nor did I really want to give in to his landlord's outrageous demand) so I sent him a link to QSTARS where he could learn his tenancy rights, except it was Saturday which means he wouldn't be able to call them. Then I suggested that he may be able to get a faster response over the weekend to his situation by making a Reddit account (he asked me what that was) and posting on the shitrentals sub.
A few days later he tells me he has been posting there and learning some things, meanwhile I had been intentionally avoiding the sub so as not to invade his personal privacy, however some days go by and I am suuuuper suspicious by this point I look around for some thread or comment relating to his situation in the timeframe it would have been possible for him to make one. I figured if the situation was so urgent that he would at least try to seek advice over the weekend, but I didn't see any evidence of that, he also never told me if he called the tenant's advisory and I never heard anything about his rental situation again.
6 Days from when he refreshed his mobile data, he had apparently used the 30GB limit. I was astounded at this and knew it was going to continue to be my problem if I didn't find this man a better subscription plan with his provider, so I did, for $10 more he could double his data. Only, I told him that he could have the 6-month plan for more money if he wasn't going to use so much data and because it would have been cheaper for me in the long run too, he agreed. I also thought that if he were really scamming me he would choose the option that makes me transfer more money, which is what happened. I guess that's test #2.
The ending:
Which brings me to today. The nephew was brought back into the story because he had apparently been kicked out of his mates place he was staying at(?) and they needed fuel to go and get him. Kicked out of 2 places? Okay. So I do the transfer and I decided that the only way I could subtly (that is, without compromising friendship or alerting this man that I don't trust him) find out the truth is to visit him face-to-face much further up his property. I wanted to confirm if A: the nephew was real or not B: if there was really a bus and C: if there was a second generator. The best way to do this, I thought, was to just show up and not ask if I could come over because if he was lying about the nephew's existence he would probably say a lot of things to make sure I'd not be able to visit him while the nephew is there. I bring a 6-pack to his gate and realise that he isn't home. Okay. I go home but there's a request in my phone for money for school uniforms and supplies for the nephew to transfer to a local school that I'm intentionally ignoring.
Queue the next day and I get prepared to go again, but I get a text saying that they're out again in town, still waiting for me to transfer money for these school supplies. I had done a bit of research and found that it was either unlikely or impossible for a student to transfer schools within one or two days, or to start in the middle of a term, so I felt pretty confident that this was a situation that didn't need addressing urgently. Also, remember when the nephew sorted something with Centrelink to get Aus Study payments, the one where I no longer had to pay some or all of his rent? Well, that was no longer the case. now he is too young to get them, casually forgotten about maybe? Oh yeah, and he had to start school that day. Anyway, I tell the man that it may be possible to get a uniform from the school's uniform storeroom as that is an option for families with financial difficulty, he says that due to Covid they are out of them and that they tried that already...
Right, so now I ask him how the nephew got kicked out (not important), I just wanted to know if it was planned or sudden, if there was enough time to start the process of transferring from his current school to the local one in town. There wasn't! SO, I called him out, told him what he was saying wasn't possible and that his story sounded like a scheme to get money out of me. I asked him for an easy proof, simply take a picture of yourself with the nephew in the car to prove he's real. He denied trying to scam me and said the nephew and the missus are in the school trying to resolve the situation and that he couldn't take the picture. Instead, he sent me a different picture on Facebook of him and his mates being pulled over for something by the police(?) which he claimed just happened before. I could barely identify anyone in that photo, but it looked like he was the one driving the car(?). I said that I've given him too many passes and the benefit of the doubt, but not this time and that whenever he wants to provide a picture with his nephew, like when he simply comes out of the school(?), to send it my way. Somewhat quickly they got out of the school and the excuse for not taking a picture became "We are driving in the car now"
He says that the picture before is the only one he's got, I said take another when you can, then he goes on about this being the last time he needs fuel money and to do it and then he'll send the picture. I told him no transfer would be happening and I would be blocking his number in a few hours if he doesn't do it (I really do like to give people the benefit of the doubt, it's almost certainly what has led to this going on for so long). He sends me another picture on Facebook except this time it's him upfront (passenger side), his missus behind him, and a child in the backseat.
This photo looked a lot more like what I was asking for, except neither him nor his missus looked the slightest bit worried about losing my charity and the child in the back didn't look 14-15 like the nephew is supposed to be aged. Rejecting this photo for these reasons and stating it was an old photo he had, he kept asking for fuel money just so he would be able to get home and so I told him that if he asks again, I would be blocking his number. I also told him his lack of forward thinking does not constitute an emergency for me and that there are at least 4 adults in his household and surely someone has thought that if they left to go to town, that they would be able to return home. He said that if I didn't provide the fuel money, they would be stuck. I said if his mum (the driver) had to pull over anyway, it would be a good time to take that picture (which I changed to him standing outside the car with his nephew).
He said providing another photo wouldn't do any good as he claims the two he sent were proof enough... the first one really isn't related to the second, it's strange he thought that would constitute the proof I was requesting, really it just raises further questions for me... and that's about when I block his number (after previously blocking him on Facebook).

I, 29 female, have had a great relationship with everyone around me. For context, I am a cancer (as in zodiac sign) and so I pretty much get along with almost anyone I meet. I'm always hosting, always taking care of everyone and hoping everyone is having a good time. I currently live with my man/baby daddy and we are happily going on 13 years together. I also used to be super close to my ex-best friend of 18+ years (we met in 7th grade). We used to do everything together, we even gave birth around the same time, so our children were practiacally mini bffs. We were one big family, including her husband and her kid. But one thing always remained an issue with us, her relationship with my man was not the greatest. They both bumped heads more ofter than I would have liked (Taurus my man, Leo my BFF). They always made comments about each other's attitude and how they always got into arguments whenever we would get together. The past year was just he'll for me, my man and my BFF had their last straw when my BFF Got into an argument with her husband and left him stranded at the restaurant and my man drove back to pick him up. Her husband stood at my house for over a month while they figured things out. Ever since that incident she decided no longer wanted to be friends with my man. That made our relationship very difficult because we mainly did family outings. Celebrated holidays and birthdays all together or we would chill at my house most of the time. So thoughout the months I would see my BFF less and less since we were no longer doing family activities together. Ocationay she and I would take the kids to the park together just the two of us but it was not the same, she did not have a good relationship with her husband either even tho he moved back home with her. Fast forward 6 months from the restaurant incident, my man and I decided to stay home for new years and invite some of our other friends in common to come over and spend it with us It was something we decided the same week of and it was not like an extravagant get-together was planned. We took some group pictures and uploaded them to Instagram, and my BFF and her husband were upset we didn't invite them. I felt like I didn't need to invite them since she decided on her own she wanted to break ties with my man, and he also decided does not want to be around her either. So I felt like an invitation was not due to them since she was the one who put in the request for distance first. After that day, Jan 2nd she blocked me and each of our friends in common who were at my house and never spoke to me again, without explanation, without any discussion or talking about it and to me without a reason! I guess she felt some type of way our mutual friends came to visit me and not her or decided to celebrate the new year with us and she wasn't in the picture? I am a little confused as to what I could have done differently, but I honestly think I am not in the wrong here. So AITAH For not inviting her family over?

I (17F) and my sister (15F) used to get along great when we were kids. Since I started high school, it feels like she takes all the attention.
Once she started going to my high school she got really popular. What’s annoying is that she acts really stupid and people seem to eat it up. She just giggles and does little dances most the time. I missed my senior prom because I didn’t have a date, and she went with one of the other seniors and hasn’t stopped talking about how much fun it was.
It was recently announced that I am the valedictorian! My Dad decided to have a party to celebrate (our Mom left when we were little). Honestly that felt really good, because even he seems to like my sister more. We’re a sports family, and they’re always a pair on the couch and I’m like the third wheel trying to get their attention. He takes her to the mall to buy clothes all the time, whereas I have to take myself. I go to thrift stores because I don’t like clothes made in sweat shops.
She has her learners permit and soon will be 16 and get her drivers license. When I turned 16 my Aunt gave me her 2015 Nissan Versa which is always breaking down and smells bad because she used to smoke in it. Every time there is a car commercial my sister every time sits on my Dad’s lap like she’s a little kid, and whines she wants a car for her birthday. It makes my eyes roll, but like I said its like I don’t even exist to them sometimes.
My sister’s birthday is also in May, and she is having a sweet 16 party on a rented boat. Mind you I simply had a family get together with cake for my 16th birthday.
Last week was the party at the house to celebrate my achievement, I was having a pretty good time at the start. My sister was up in her room taking forever to get ready, and when she came out I saw she had done everything she could to outdo me. Her hair was curled, her makeup was done, she was in a really revealing fit. Everyone was staring at her and ignoring me. It sucked but I was trying to just focus on my core group of friends. Then as we’re all in the living room, we see through the big window a truck with a trailer pull up. The driver comes unto the door, turns out it’s a BRAND NEW car for my sister from my Dad. She’s crying and jumping around and hugging and kissing my Dad, everyone goes outside to look at the car. When this happens, I went out the back door, turned off my phone, and drove my 9 year old car all alone to the beach to be by myself.
When I came back everyone was so angry and yelling. My Dad said he didn’t know they’d deliver the car during my party. My sister had clearly been crying and said she didn’t mean to hurt my feelings, that she just wants to be a good sister and doesn’t know why I’m sad all the time. I feel so alone. Am I the asshole for leaving the party once the car came?

I have never been the jealous type. This is just one of those situations that has left me feeling a little uneasy. For context, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month and it was spontaneous. We’ve known eachother since last September but only just started seeing eachother and dating recently. Even before we started dating I took notice to how many friends he has and how many people he’s going out with and partying with. My boyfriend and I are long distance (two states away) so we’ve been seeing eachother about once a week and we try to make a big day out of it. He recently got a new apartment so he took me to a supermarket. On the way there he mentions how he wants to find a birthday gift for his friend, we’ll call her (22/f) Jillian. My boyfriend and Jillian have known eachother since middle school but they haven’t been close friends until freshman year of college (for context he just finished his second year). As we’re walking through the supermarket it was all he was talking about how he has to find a present for Jillian. When he brings up different stories about her throughout our time here, he’ll call her different names like “jil jil” or “jilly” or “jilly bug”. That’s where I started to feel a little ick. Then he drops the “oh I think I’m gonna get her flowers.” I felt my heart sunk it was once of the first times I really felt jealous. I don’t know this girl I’ve never met her before and this is the first time I’ve heard him talk about her. Like i said, I have never been the type to be jealous. I just don’t understand why my boyfriend would bring me out to go buy flowers for another girl I wish he would’ve waited until I wasn’t there. Later on he wound up buying them matching bracelets too. I don’t care about him seeing other girls and hanging out with them that’s never been an issue. I’m jealous towards the situation. He’s never bought me flowers.

This is going to be a jumbled mess so bear with me.
My wife and I moved cross-country over the past 2 weeks. We have a lot going on. We spent 1 week finding a new place to live. On top of that we have 4 graduations to attend this month and 2 birthdays in the family. We’re sleeping on an air mattress until our actual mattress arrives Friday. Our sleep has been pretty abysmal from the day we left our starting point. I’ve been taking my meds the last 3 days but I guess since I forgot to take them on the road trip they wore off and now everything is hitting me like a truck. Yesterday I thought I was going to have a seizure (I didn’t) and today I just feel funky like I’m right on the edge of a panic attack starting. We have to drive 8 hours today to be with family for a week. Not looking forward to it.
To add some extra context I’m diagnosed with anxiety disorder. I’m a disabled veteran and have been struggling really bad as my life progresses. The more “normal” I try to live the more anxious I get. I just want to be left alone inside of my hole and only come out when I want. I’m tired of this feeling and I’m tired of feeling like I’m too fucked up to live life.
Thanks for reading if you did. I just needed to type my thoughts out in hopes I will feel somewhat better.

Please bear with me for how I word this question, because I feel so guilty for even asking it.
I grew up with a brother who is has high functioning autism. Great at science, low social skills, obvious stims and obsessive conversational topics etc. Most people who meet him realise fairly quickly he’s very smart and that he’s autistic.
Unfortunately, as their attempt to cut him slack as a kid, my parents often blamed his bad behaviour on his autism, and from my perspective, rarely disciplined him and instead told me that I “know what he’s like” and that I just need to “accept his behaviour and not be the one to react”.
Here’s where I have a genuine question, and I apologise if I’m not asking it in a politically correct way… how do you distinguish between anti social autistic behaviour and someone just being mean? Because I’ve often felt that my brother’s behaviour goes well beyond autism. But because I’ve always been told that it’s all autism, I now feel this guilty confusion, not knowing when I’m being harsh on him and when I’m just letting someone treat me badly.
My brother is stone cold. He’s mean spirited about my dad, me and his friends. He refuses to help others, even when they beg for his help. If you tell him he’s hurt you, he’ll scream at you. I’ve never heard him apologise. Ive never seen him remorseful. He thinks most people are stupid. He refuses to let my parents in his house - but his wife’s parents are allowed inside. He barely sees my dad except to get free childcare for his baby who he refuses to socialise. He laughs at and mocks people. He definitely doesnt understand other people’s feelings but he doesn’t ask how people are feeling if he can’t read a room, and if you tell him, he ignores you or yells at you.
My mum has dementia and he’s never once offered to help my dad and I with her care, never asked a question about her care, nor has he ever thanked me for managing her case full time on top of full time work and my own relationship and life. This has been weighing on me.
Then, this weekend happened… and I’m now left baffled and wondering what autism even looks like. I really don’t mean to upset anyone, I just genuinely feel like I don’t have a safe space to ask the question in the context of my brother, “what of his behaviour is autism?”
This weekend, it was my father’s birthday weekend away with our entire extended family. My dad has had a hard two years caring for mum so all my cousins and aunts showed up to give him the love he deserves. Not only did my brother never offer to help me organise a thing when I spent months planning it, but he turned up late and refused to go to planned activities. Dad goes above and beyond for him all the time.
Out of four days, he turned up for one day and during that day he turned up to one event for two hours. The event he showed up to was a 50 person dinner where id prepared a speech and a slideshow and a cake for dad. My brother and his wife and child arrived, ordered and ate dinner before every person in the family, and did not speak to anyone. (I should mention I was also sharing 50% of mums care with my dad on top of organising 30-50 people over four days and my brother didn’t offer her so much as a drink when he ordered his own private meal). When everyone started ordering food and sitting down, he then said he was going to leave because he was tired. I finally put my foot down and said that he had to stay for the speech and the slideshow for dad. He rolled his eyes and then proceeded to line up a series of chairs and lie horizontally on them and sleep through everyone’s dinner, the speeches and my slideshow. He couldn’t see how this wasn’t him showing up
Reddit, please help me to understand this behaviour, my childhood has me so confused. Thank you so much.

The internet is a strange place, inadvertently designed to bring out the best and worst in people. People can be whoever or whatever they want to be. For predators and malignant narcissists and who live in their own delusions to begin with, it's like a hunting ground. They can create whatever persona they wish, fill their victims' heads with lies and half-truths that paint them out to be someone they are not, and by the time their victim actually meets them, it's too late - they've already created an image in their mind of this perfect person the narcissist has convinced them they are, and it usually takes time before the curtain comes down, the lies fall apart, and the mask breaks away.
I'm no saint, and I've learned my own tough lessons from the internet. I grew up under not-so-great circumstances, only getting 5 years of education before I turned 18 and was largely raised by a computer screen. Along the way, I catfished a woman in her mid-20's when I was 14-16 years old. It wasn't intentional at first, I told everyone that I was in my mid-20's and I worked as a bouncer at a bar in NYC. I never meant any harm, I was just raised by a computer and spent all my time alone playing MMOs and learned quickly that if I told people how old I was, they'd stop playing with me. So a bouncer seemed like a job I could bullshit about easily enough, and I was a big dude at 6'1 260lbs so I figured I could maybe pass it off as legit if it ever got hectic.
I started playing with this woman in her 20's and her husband frequently. We became friends fast, and soon we were virtually inseparable on the game. Her marriage ended up not working out, and after they separated she told me she had feelings for me. I should've admitted I wasn't who I said I was then, but I was young and dumb and she was the only real friend I had, so I kept up the ruse. Eventually I did come clean, and she broke it off with me not long after. We stayed friends, albeit with my heart hurting pretty bad, for a few months afterwards - until she met Jack.
When she first told me about Jack, he sounded like a great catch. He had his own IT business in Canada, was a couple years older but not by much, and she was infatuated with him. Obviously I was crushed and didn't handle it well, being a practically feral teenager at the time, so not long after they started getting serious she ghosted me altogether. I was around 17 at the time, and shit started going off the rails for me. After I got out of juvie, I started drinking heavily on a near-daily basis and selling and doing drugs. This led to a lot of pathetic, inebriated, desperate attempts to contact her and apologize for how I acted.
After months of being ignored, eventually grief and regret turned to anger, and finally acceptance. When the pain passed and I came to my senses a bit, I had an epiphany and realized that if I loved her as much as I thought I did, the best thing for both of us would be to let her go. I was a high school dropout with no job, selling drugs to get by. She had 2 kids, and what kind of life could I provide for them? She made the right choice, my age and the fact I made a grown woman fall in love with a teenager not withstanding, and as bad as it hurt I realized it was selfish of me not to accept the way things were and leave her alone, so I did.
10 years or so later, I had gotten my shit together. Worked my way up from cleaning dead shit out of swimming pools, to an entry level position at an environmental consulting firm, to a Project Manager at one of the largest firms in the field in the DC area. I'd met someone, got her pregnant, and for some reason I felt a pull to contact her again. Not to rekindle an old flame, but because she had been a tremendously positive influence on my life in a time where I had few. She was the first good thing I had in my life at a time when I was sleeping on old blankets on a hard floor in an abusive home, and what I'd held onto from our time together wasn't our romantic relationship, it was the best friend I'd ever had. And something made me want to tell her that all that work she put into getting my head right wasn't in vain, and I'd finally made it out of the gutter.
So I messaged her on Facebook, and to my surprise she actually responded. We started talking again, and soon it was back to every day. When my baby mama got back on drugs and turned abusive and was putting my daughter's life in jeopardy on a near-daily basis, she was the one who convinced me I could fight for custody - that I had to fight for custody. So I did, and I won, and I've had full custody of of my daughter since she was 6 months old and for the 10 years since.
But eventually we parted ways again. I'd started seeing someone, and part of me knew I couldn't commit to another woman while I was still carrying on with her. Our relationship had started turning romantic again, and she had dropped some hints about old Jack that would come to the forefront later, but she wasn't ready to leave him and I didn't want to be that guy, so I sent her a message explaining why we had to stop talking, apologized, and ghosted her.
7 more years went by after that night. The relationship I abandoned her for soured quickly when I found out that chick was a carbon copy of my baby mama, and I quit dating to focus on my career and raising my daughter. But on the long, 2+ hour commutes each way from work, I often found myself stuck pondering the "what ifs". What if I hadn't ghosted her? What if our age gap wasn't there, and we'd never had to split up to begin with? I knew in my soul I was never going to find someone like her again, but I made peace with it. I imagined her happy life, her kids with Jack, and convinced myself I made the right choice.
Then COVID hit, and near the start of it, I stumbled on a post on reddit about this dude who sent his high school sweetheart a message many years later apologizing for how he treated her and telling her how her presence impacted him, and I thought to myself, "Hey, I did that!". So I started writing a reply, and for the first time told the story of this girl and I. I'd never told a soul about what happened with us, not even my family or closest friends. Maybe it was the stigma of having an online relationship back in those days that carried over, or maybe it was just too personal to share with my friends or family. It got long, so eventually I just decided to start a new thread. When I was done, it was so long I figured no one would ever read it, but I hit submit anyway and put my phone down and got back to work.
Well, I was wrong. People did read it - a lot of people. Soon my phone started blowing up. Thousands of comments, hundreds of DMs, people offering me book deals and asking if they could have the rights for a screenplay or have me on their podcasts. It was fucking surreal, and being generally a private person who tries to fly under the rader, it got overwhelming fast. Eventually I reached out to her again on Facebook, warned her about what happened, and apologized for putting her business out there.
She didn't respond for a couple weeks, and when she did we started talking again almost immediately. And then in mid-April 2020, she told me that she needed to talk to me. She spilled everything, and told me exactly who Jack was. How he would hack into her devices to spy on her, threaten to kill her and her partner if she ever left him, say vile things to her and her daughters, calling the young girls cunts and bitches. How he alienated all her friends and family, and kept them all isolated in the house her parents bought them that he would rarely leave.
And I felt deceived too. All those years I'd convinced myself that she was happy, that she got together with Jack and was living the life she deserved. In reality, Jack intentionally got her pregnant not long after he flew out to her state the first time. He quickly moved into her house, and refused to work or provide not only for her kids or their kids, but for the other 3 children he abandoned in Australia and Canada who he had no relationship with, with 3 different women he victimized in the same manner. When she was 8 months pregnant with their first kid, she was working nights doing hospice care while he sat on his ass playing videogames all night and talking to his ex. In 17 years, this fucking loser with 7 kids by 4 women worked a grand total of 5 weeks, quit his job, claimed he got PTSD from the experience, and somehow manipulated his way into getting SSDI for it. They survived off SSDI and her parents' charity for years.
But Jack was reading all of this, because like I mentioned earlier, he was hacking her devices and watching us talk remotely. Jack knew the jig was up, and slowly started to unravel. She told him she wanted a divorce, and that she was not going to sever her friendship with me again. And he pretended to take that well, going as far as to try to befriend and manipulate me. He tried every trick to keep her he'd done for years - telling her he was going to get help and would change first, then when that failed he made suicide threats and somehow got his therapist to call her and tell her as long as she didn't leave him he wouldn't kill himself, and then he tried to intimidate her. Eventually he went off the rails completely and sexually assaulted her when he thought she was sleeping.
She called me from her parents' house crying the night it happened, and I convinced her to file a police report. She did, and a couple weeks later Jack got removed from the home, served with a protective order, and charged for sexual abuse. This of course did nothing to stop Jack - he broke into their house a couple days later when she and the kids were out to upload a folder of revenge porn to his Google Drive under the guise of wanting to drop off a cake for her birthday.
Then the stalking started. Jack would relentlessly message her all day and night on Facebook, switching between rage, trying to garner sympathy, convince her he would change, and threatening self-harm. We later found out via a cyber forensics report that he was hacking into the laptop she had taken with her while she hid at her parents' and had been so bold as to steal her Victim Impact Statement and send it to all his World of Warcraft buddies as a joke.
And he didn't just stalk her, he came for me too. Constant unauthorized attempts to access my accounts for everything from Windows to my bank, spam calls and emails - shit, the wormy little fuck even got his friends to stalk my social media and pretend to be strangers to gaslight me. I ignored all of it, and he got desperate enough to send me a lovely message attempting to extort and blackmail she and I, claiming he had "all my posts" but wouldn't do anything with them if I called him. The tipping point for me is when he subscribed to my small YouTube channel - which had nothing on it but 3 videos of my daughter. That veiled threat wasn't lost on me.
But Jack fucked up. I don't know if he thought his insane nonsense would scare me off, or if in his delusions he really thought he was the bad mother fucker he convinced himself he was, but Jack didn't know jack about me. I'm a crazy fuck too, and while he was sitting on his fat ass playing World of Warcraft all day every day for the past couple decades, I was selling drugs and hanging with some of the grimiest mother fuckers Baltimore had to offer. I've seen and experienced a lot of real violence outside a computer monitor, and the prospect of a violent resolution to this saga didn't phase me a whole lot. I'd spent years trying to be a better person and avoid conflict, but I sure as shit wasn't afraid of it either. Leading up to this point, I was already trying to calm myself down and talk myself off the ledge and not pack my guns and drive out there to keep watch until the police did their thing and put him away, which took a lot longer than it should have - this fucking guy violated his protective order 80 times in just a couple weeks.
So I called him, and he spent the next 26 minutes crying over the phone like a drunk little bitch, while I tried my best to be kind and to talk him off the ledge. And yes, I did record it, and yes it is hysterical listening to it now in hindsight, and yes I still have the recording. Anyway, I told him he was scaring the shit out of her and the kids, and he promised to leave us alone and I told him if he could chill the fuck out I would try to talk her into giving him more access to the kids. The next day, she got an email from her first ex-husband - Jack had reached out to him with a link to my reddit post trying to get help from him to come after me, which he promptly shut down and sent to her.
The next few weeks were terrifying as Jack descended further into madness and became more scared and desperate. He knew she was gone and not coming back, and he was facing real charges and real jail time, and while Jack is a fucking moron in a lot of ways, I'm sure he knew a fat, greasy computer nerd with a sex offense conviction wasn't going to have a good time in County. Jack was a murder-suicide waiting to happen, the police were doing nothing to stop his stalking, and I felt powerless to help her. Eventually after he sent her $50 over PayPal at 4:00am with what appeared to be a suicide note, I had enough. I called the DA's office, asked them why the fuck this was being allowed to happen, and promised them I'd been taking meticulous notes and if anything happened to her I would be taking it straight to the media. The DA told me if I was going to make threats the conversation was over, but sure enough he was finally arrested not long after.
Ironically we had remained platonic friends through most of this, but the shared experience of dealing with this psycho brought us closer together and things quickly changed. We knew he wasn't going to stop when he got out of jail, I felt responsible for her safety after my stupid reddit post started this chain of events that led to Jack's unraveling, and with the world seemingly coming apart during COVID, decided if we were ever going to meet it felt like it was now or never. So I booked a plane ticket across the country, spent a week with her and her family, and a few days after I came home she flew out to visit me and meet my family.
We went into it with no expectations. I fully accepted we might not click and our relationship would go back to being platonic. For my part, I just wanted the closure of finally meeting this person who had such a profound impact on my life before COVID mutated or something and killed us all.
But we did click, and the next two weeks were life-changing. I met and cooked for her entire extended family the day after I arrived, and it went well. While I was there I got her mom's email address, and after I went home I had an idea. I knew her parents had met in DC, so I emailed her mom and asked her for a list of places that were special to her, and she told me about the church her parents had met in. I asked her to keep our conversation secret so it would be a surprise, and she did.
So when she comes out to the east coast, I take her on a tour through DC and park the car a few blocks down the street from the church. As we're walking by, she notices the church and comments on how beautiful it is.
I keep it cool and respond, "Yeah, that's a pretty important place.".
She looks at me and says, "Oh? Why's that?".
"That's where your parents met.".
She audibly gasps, giddily bounces a bit, starts to cry, and we pulled down our masks (fuckin covid) and kiss. Her reaction is easily one of the greatest memories in my life. What I didn't know at the time, was that her parents had told her about that church since she and her siblings were kids. When the church changed denominations, the church took the angel statue off the top and brought it back to her home state, and her parents had taken them to see it a few times throughout her childhood.
Anyway, getting sidetracked here, the sappy love story stuff is a different story altogether.
A month after we met for the first time, I had quit my job, sold everything I couldn't fit in my sedan, and she flew back out and drove across the country with my daughter and I.
Sounds crazy as hell, and it was, but it worked out better than it should have. I got a good job making more than I did back home right away, her kids loved me, and my daughter loved her and adjusted to her new home fast. And by the time Jack got out of jail for felony cyberstalking, sexual abuse, and Intimidation of a Witness in a Domestic Violence case, we had cameras all over the house, and I had taught my fiancee how to shoot - which she quickly became better than me at.
But Jack's time in jail didn't slow him down, and the 2-10 year suspended sentence didn't deter him at all. As a matter of fact, on his first day out one of the first things he did was start trying to hack her accounts again. He managed to con an elderly couple he knew threw World of Warcraft from a different state into letting him live with them, and from there he spent a lot of time and energy stalking us and hacking our devices to the best of his ability. He also convinced these poor, very stupid elderly people from his videogame to bankroll a lengthy, expensive divorce. Somehow a man who hadn't worked in almost 20 years managed to run us into over $50,000 in legal fees in two years. How a marriage with zero assets turned into a two year battle when both parties were officially in poverty before the divorce, or how the family courts never saw through the bullshit is beyond me.
To Jack's credit, he did a pretty good job remaining a thorn in our side. Largely due to the complete and utter ineptitude and indifference of the police and District Attorney who could and should have put a stop to his bullshit at any point in that time. Old Jack got hit with a permanent criminal stalking injunction and a 10-year protective order along with his probation, and no amount of effort on our part would get the police, DA, or probation to put a stop to it, despite mountains of evidence.
He successfully managed to draw the divorce out right up to the wedding we planned a year and a half prior, with his attorney putting in motion after motion to delay the process. With all our family and friends coming from all over the country and as far away as Japan, we accepted our wedding would just be a celebration and not an official wedding. Until the night before the wedding, she got a call from her attorney - he had made a call to the clerk's office at the court and got her to move the paperwork to finalize the divorce to the top of the pile, and she was officially divorced. Our wedding would be a real wedding after all, and despite Jack's best efforts, he lost again. We had the wedding on a remote ranch that we rented for a week, and foolishly decided to cater and decorate ourselves, which would have been a colossal undertaking without the extra 4 hours to drive into town and get our marriage certificate at the courthouse. But we pulled it off and it was everything we could have hoped for and then some, and we were officially married.
Jack of course didn't stop after the divorce was finalized. The list of shit he tried to do to us before and after that is too long to spell out in an already too long post, but here are some choice bits:
He wrote a demented letter to the oldest of his kids with her who severed her relationship with him, calling my wife and her mother "vipers and cowards" and promising we would "answer for what we've done sooner or later".
He continuously hacked our computers, miscellaneous accounts tied to our emails, and any other devices he could get into - dropping in remotely via Amazon Alexa, phones, etc.
He set up bots to send us thousands of spam emails, sign us up for dozens of international newsletters all at once, and requests for consultations for things like solar panel installations.
He told the kids vile lies about my wife and I, although the most egregious was when he used a court-ordered therapy appointment with his second oldest daughter to accuse me of distributing child porn, told the therapist I am an "evil man", and told him I wasn't safe to be around his daughters. This led to her being forensically interviewed by the police, where she spelled out what happened, but of course they did nothing.
He gave the two youngest children cell phones to sneak into our house, with Google accounts activated and location tracking turned on.
He sent packages to our house 5 times in the space of a few months, one of which was addressed to himself and contained nothing but a bag of Stevia and a pack of gum. These packages generally came to our door the day before his scheduled visitation with the kids.
During this time my bank account was hacked four times in the span of just a few months with nearly identical fraudulent charges. In each of these instances, I had completely changed my bank account information.
He filed false reports with CPS twice, alleging we were beating the children, locking them in the closet, and not feeding or bathing them. This led to a CPS agent coming to our house to investigate.
We brought all this to the police over and over as it happened, and they did nothing. The DA running the case wasted 5 months subpoenaing a fake email address that we told them when we reported it was fake and spoofed. After finding out about that, we went to the DA's office to find out what the fuck was going on. A Victim's Advocate met with us, and was horrified about how the case was handled, looked up the prosecutor assigned to the case, rolled her eyes and said "Oh...it's Stephanie", confirming what we already knew - this prosecutor was completely incompetent, an elect3d politician moonlighting as a prosecutor. She called us the next day to tell us the actual DA called a meeting and a warrant was put out for Jack's arrest. For some inexplicable reason, they pulled the warrant back, and the advocate told us it was because the DA was pursuing more serious charges.
Then, they stonewalled us. The Victim's Advocate we had met with that actually tried to help us was moved off our case, and the new one assigned refused to talk to us or return our calls. The few exchanges we had with her, she made it abundantly clear she had the DA Office's interests in mind and not ours. We decided to just stay quiet and let the process play out and hope for the best, up until we received an email on Friday night before Election Day from the Detective telling us Stephanie had closed the case. I assume she didn't want her incompetence coming to light, and didn't want to shut the case down before Election Day knowing we would be on the warpath.
Eventually, Jack caught wind that he was officially under criminal investigation, but clearly had no idea they were never going to press charges. He got quiet for a bit, until he was ultimately let off probation early. We still get the occasional reminder he's out there watching, but his fear of going back to jail and the belief it might happen cowed him a bit. So instead he harasses us through the family courts, filing constant bullshit motions with no evidence to support them, and for some reason the courts let it continue. Somehow a man who makes ~$800 from SSDI and is only paying $30 a month total to support his 3 kids with my wife is able to fund tens of thousands of dollars worth of legal proceedings every year, and no one in the family courts has ever stopped to ask how he is paying for it or why all this money isn't being spent on supporting these children.
But despite Jack's best efforts, his bullshit hasn't worked. My wife and I have been together for four years soon, and married for two. His kids call me dad and hate his guts, only seeing him because the courts force them to. I continue to advance in my career, landing two major promotions in the past 2 years and now running a division in one of the largest companies in my field in this part of the country. I just enrolled in college to go back to school and get a degree in family law with a focus on domestic violence. The most frustrating part of the whole experience with ol' Jack was having no one to turn to when all the institutions who were supposed to keep this from happening ignored us, and even though I'll be well into my mid 40's before I accomplish my new goals, I plan to advocate for domestic violence victims and do everything I can to lobby for change to these laws to keep as many people as I can from going through what my wife and I did. I learned that the only way to beat these people at their game is to play on the same field right along with them, and that's what I intend to do.
My wife went back to work too once she healed from some of the trauma, making $30 an hour as a personal assistant for a fella who's had two movies made about his life. Our kids struggled a bit with school and dealing with all their biological parents' issues, but they quickly turned it around and have been excelling. We're all happy, healthy, and doing better now than ever.
As for Jack? Well, he's pushing 50 and still spending his days alone, playing World of Warcraft and jerking off in this old couple's basement. Nothing has changed there, and now he's too fat, old, and visibly an enormous fucking loser to victimize women in the same way he did in his youth. I have no doubts he'll find another victim eventually, probably when these old weirdos bankrolling his life now finally wise up, but one thing Jack forgets is that karma is a mother fucker, and I have a giant database of evidence that I can and will send out to whoever I please to help pull that mask down and keep him from doing this to someone else. Nothing is more appealing to a potential love interest than hearing their man cry like a drunk bitch for 26 minutes to the man he claims stole his wife, while simultaneously admitting to sexually assaulting said wife.
As wonderful as it would have been for Jack to go to prison where he can't hurt anyone again, there is some catharsis knowing Jack will forever be in a prison of his own making. His children want nothing to do with him, and he'll never see them graduate or walk them down the aisle. Jack will die miserable and alone, and in his narcissistic delusion will still be blaming everyone else for the colossal failure of his life, while continuing to fail to grasp the one thread that ties all his misery together - himself.
And since he somehow manages to find and stalk most of my social media, I'd wager Jack will end up reading this too. I hope he does in all honesty. And Jack, if you are reading this, I want you to know that you can kick, flail, manipulate and lie, cry and complain until you're red in the face. None of it matters. You don't matter. You'll leave this world alone, as sad and bitter as you are now, and the world will be a better place for it.

Hiiiii. My family and I are currently on vacation in another country for my birthday, my parents, brothers and my step mothers older sister who happened to be in town. We are all in two separate rooms, my parents with my siblings, while I share a room with my step-aunt, let’s call her Mary. This is the second time in my life that I have met Mary, I don’t know her well but throughout the trip she has been relatively irritating due to her often complaining and arrogance, but because of her age and the fact she’s my step mothers sister (who I adore) I have tried to give her a good impresssion of my self. But even with that, Mary had always had something to say to belittle me but I took it as my own faults. Last night my step mom and I decided to spend the night together and hang out around the area, I returned back to my hotel around 10 pm and saw Mary asleep, I figured I’d spend some time in the bathroom to not wake her up from my phone. Important notice, a few days ago Mary announced that she doesn’t want me on my phone past 10 pm, because she goes to bed early, to which I complied every night until the day of the story. This night was the last day before my birthday, I was feeling relatively sad due to the coming of age, but when I left the bathroom to go to my bed I got an idea to create a list of the fun things I’ve done over the year, to think about the positives. I put on my headphones and lowered the brightness to zero to avoid waking Mary up before typing away. At 10:36 pm (idk why I remember this exact time) Mary got up to check her phone, the second she saw the time she began aggressively yelling at me for my “egotism”for staying past the time we agreed on, I told her that I was sorry but I really needed to finish something to which she began questioning me and further yelling at me. I understand that my actions next could’ve been different, however I do not tolerate aggression in any form. Mary sat up and began to threaten that she won’t let me sleep until I put down my phone, I ignored this since by this point I was extremely irritated not with the issue itself but how she was treating me. I no longer wanted to listen to her insults of how horrible I was for not listening to her, so I got up to avoid her in the bathroom, before which I said “you’re bothering me”. Moments later she bursted inside the bathroom and physically ripped the phone out my hands as I tried to hold on, after which she pushed me away before running off with my phone and screaming how she’ll break it. Back in the bedroom she began having some sort of episode of maniac yelling and insulting me while hiding my phone beneath herself, during which I just stood confused. I asked for my phone back and began explaining myself and apologizing because I was extremely lost for what to do, to this she began accusing me of being a “good actress” because I was apologizing…..? I told her I’d go to bed and that I truly didn’t mean to interrupt her sleep. She didn’t want to hear a word I said, going on about how could I be so disrespectful and undisciplined and who do I think I am. Her main concern of the night were my nails, I got my nails done for my birthday which were short acrylics. Mary took my wrist and hit my fingers against my phone to imitate the sound, however no offense, I don’t know a single person who types with their nails touching the screen that is including me (even as I type this), but sometimes my thumbs do touch on the screen (which I apologized for but she told me to fuck off). Although I was already in bed to calm down the situation, her next best idea was to threaten to call my biological dad, to which I told her to do it. I will admit I didn’t think she’d actually do it, but moments later she dressed up and bolted out of the room around almost 11 pm. My parents room was in a separate building, yet 10 minutes later my poor step mother came over to try to understand the situation, I knew that she didn’t know half of the story, however she was a lot more reasonable. When she left, Mary kept on huffing and puffing but eventually we both went to bed. Or atleast tried to, I was extremely nausea and shaken up, sadly didn’t pass out until around 2 am. Later on in the morning I tried to cheer myself up by talking with my family while they congratulated me on my birthday. But all was over when Mary came into the room, she said something along the line of “happy birthday, truly. But you know, you’re a big girl now and you have to make decisions that won’t make your parents second hand embarrassed for you”. In that moment I felt my gut drop and my nausea returned, I felt so disrespected I didn’t know what to say. And although I woke up at 8 am, I didn’t leave the room until almost 12 due to not wanting to see her and having to explain to my family what happened. There is a good ending to this story but I’ll type it a little later lol. Anyways, I’m okay now :3

Trigger warning - depression, marriage, RSD, bit more depression... Let me know if I've missed anything. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Sorry this is kind of a completely pointless rant in to the void, but I need to get it out of me because I'm in a bit of a dark place today.
Battling crazy RSD combined with hyperfocus and basically setting myself up for further RSD and yet I can't seem to help myself.
I want to get married. My partner does not. We have been together nearly 7 years and have a 3 year old together. He was married before and just doesn't see it as a big deal. To me, getting married is levelling up, and I want to level up with him.
RSD stems from previous bad experiences. Every relationship I've ever had, whether shit term or longer term, the person I have been with has always told me they don't want to ever get married. They then immediately marry the next person they met after me. RSD therefore tells me that I am the problem and I'm just not good enough. Blah blah spiral into the darkness, have a total meltdown, know nothing is going to change and eventually bury it in to the depths, ready to rear it's ugly head again in 6-18 months.
I hate myself. I hate feeling like this. I love my other half and I know he loves me, he is just content as we are and that further makes me feel like a piece of crap for wanting more.
We aren't religious, so it's not about that. I feel I'm struggling to explain why this upsets me as much as it does. I think the hardest thing for me is that he won't just outright say no, he doesn't want to get married. It's still dangling there as a maybe. All I get is "never say never", and "I've not said I'm never going to marry you" It's just not important to him.
I hate myself, I hate feeling like this, I hate feeling so very ungrateful, and yet here I am, a sobbing mess. Again. Our relationship is great, he's the most wonderful man I've ever met. This is literally the only thing we aren't on the same page about and every year or so I end up having a meltdown over it and feeling even more of an idiot for feeling this way. I have no intention of throwing the best relationship of my life away over this. But it hurts, and I ended up getting myself in such a state because RSD just makes it hurt all the more and I don't know how to fix the hurt.
I just want to get dressed up and tell the world how much we love each other and celebrate this. I don't need a big expensive wedding, I'd be happy with a dress from Debenhams, a registry office do and a trip to the pub with our closest friends and family, with cake from our favourite coffee and cake place.
Combined type ADHD, newly diagnosed privately, can't afford to get medicated right now.

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• Infinite Themes:- The main advantage of GBWhatsApp APK with stunning fonts is its imaginative appearance as it offers an unlimited number of themes that can be used to help make WhatsApp look great. By simply browsing GB WhatsApp Themes you will be able to download the themes using any web browser. Not only this, if you do not like your WhatsApp theme then you can download the theme separately and apply it on your WhatsApp.
  

Change Colors

• Universal Color:- Changes Color everywhere, including UI
• Universal ActionBar Text Color:- Changes the color of the Actionbar on all screens
• Background:-Change Color of Background. Default is White
• List Background:- Change Background of list Chats in One UI.
• Status Bar:- Change Color of StatusBar on Every Screen
• Navigation Bar:- Change Color of NavigationBar on
• Tabs background color:- Change the background color for the Tabs in home screen
• Page Title Text Color:- Change color of ‘CHATS’, ‘STATUS’, ‘CALLS’
• Page Selected Title Text Color:- Change Selected color of ‘CHATS’, ‘STATUS’, ‘CALLS’
• Unread message counter color:- Change the background color for the unread message

GBWhatsApp Other Features and Advance Privacy

• Anti-revoke:- GBWhatsapp comes with an anti-revoke message feature, which means that even if someone sends any kind of message and then deletes everything on your behalf, you can still see those deleted messages by default.
  
• App Lock:- App Lock allows you to require a pattern, PIN, password or fingerprint to enter apps and access your messages. This adds a layer of security, and makes your WhatsApp chats even more secure so that no stranger can access your personal chats. And also keeps your messages hidden from people who have access to your phone. If you want, you can show the PIN and password while typing.
  
• DND Mode:- It has an inbuilt Do Not Disturb mode. If you are using any other app on your Android phone and do not want to be disturbed by WhatsApp messages then you can use the DND feature to disable the internet connection only for GB WhatsApp Pro. can do. Through this feature you can pause your WhatsApp for some time. And you can use other apps without any problem.
  
• People Nearby:- Developers added People Nearby to WhatsApp to exchange contact information face-to-face. With this update, people nearby can help you meet new friends. This allows you to automatically connect with everyone around you without any contact.
  
• Anti-Ban:- Some users may have trouble using third-party WhatsApp mods GB WhatsApp developers have integrated anti-ban features to reduce the risk. This assurance means you can enjoy additional features without the constant fear of losing access to the account. Now you can use this WhatsApp for a long time, this time the developers have given anti-ban form to this WhatsApp.
  
• Hide Last Seen:- With GB WhatsApp you can hide your last seen status. This allows you to appear offline to others and also see their last seen status. Unlike the original WhatsApp where hiding your last seen prevents you from seeing the last seen of others. GB WhatsApp offers the ability to hide your own Last Seen while retaining the ability to view the Last Seen of others.
  
• Block and Restrict Calls:- Now restrict callers without blocking them with GBWhatsApp Apk download. This is an amazing feature of this app because you don’t need to block the person or turn off the internet if you don’t want to talk to them. Go to the calls section of the app and block the caller from calling you. He will be able to text you and share his voice notes with you, which you can listen to at your convenience.
  
• Show Double Ticks after Reply:- This is an exciting feature of this app that you can use to take your privacy to the next level. The messages will be delivered to you. But the sender will see a tick on his message. Double and blue ticks will be visible to him only when you reply otherwise he will think that you are offline or for some reason his message has not been delivered yet.
  
• No In-App Ads:- Despite being a free application, it is an ad-free app. Advertisements are the main reason to distract users from using any app. GBWhatsApp comes with an ad-free interface and just like the original WhatsApp, you will never see a single ad while using this app.
  
• Change Chat Names:- GBWhatsApp app will allow you to have maximum control over the chat. You can easily change the name of a chat without changing the name of the contact in the contact list. Set nicknames for your chat with this beautiful app and talk to them with more passion and love.
  

Other Features

• Forward messages to anyone without forwarding the tag.
• You can select all chats at once from the home screen of this app.
• Add new fonts and icons.
• Anti-ban feature, you will not be banned from using WhatsApp.
• Stickers from other apps can be added.
• You can select all chats at once from the home screen.
• Enable drag to reply in group call.
• Hide the last seen.
• You can send a private reply to groups.
• The ability to send a group message supported by photos and videos.
• One-time photo and video viewing.
• Feature hide visiting cases to your friends.
• Hide the two check marks (correct) when receiving the message.
• Get notified of deleted messages.
• You can now read the description of the group in the title as the normal case.
• Airplane mode has been added so that the internet can be locked off from the WhatsApp application only.
• The possibility of sending 100 documents at once instead of 30.
• The feature of uploading your friends’ statuses.
• Video Now you can send a file size of up to 50 MB.
• You can send a group message to up to 600 people at once.
• With the theme option you can easily change the appearance.
• Make a list of who can contact you.
• Send up to 90 photos at once.
• The possibility of making a lock for Watts GP against blocking.
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Conclusion

In today’s article we have told you about some special features of GBWhatsapp. We hope that you have understood all this information well. As we have mentioned earlier that WhatsApp is a third party app which cannot be trusted blindly. Most of the people around the world are using it but some people also say that all the data of this app has been leaked. Actually GB WhatsApp promises its users that no WhatsApp user’s data will be leaked. But you have to use it very carefully so that you never face any problem due to which you have to worry. Apart from this, there are many other flaws in it due to which people have to get a little worried.
Therefore you will have to be very careful while using it. Although we have given you all the information about this WhatsApp, but if you have any doubt about this article then you can tell us by commenting. We will definitely solve all your problems. Apart from this, we write many useful articles on our website which are very useful for people. If you want to know more things related to this, then you will have to visit our website as much as possible. So that you can read our every post first. GBWhatsApp Pro is a great app for those who want a more personalized and feature-rich WhatsApp experience.

Hey guys,
My agency exclusively serves dental offices. One of the many services we provided to our clients is creating weekly general interest dental posts for Instagram, Facebook, and GMB so that they all have at least some recent activity and don't look like a dead office. We still encourage them to post their own personal updates as well but most are just happy with our weekly posts.
The process is someone on our team creates an image and a caption, for example "Did you know that plaque leads to cavities?" or "Happy Children's Dental Health Month". Stuff like that. It's not tailored for each practice; every client gets the same exact image and post every week. Since none of our clients compete with each other, it doesn't really seem to have a negative downside and they all seem happy about it.
We've been doing this for years with SocialPilot. Our "legacy" plan right now is $20/month and allows us to connect 200 profiles. We have created a few categories for each type of dentist. For example an orthodontist (braces dentist) will get certain posts (usually for kids/teens) while an implant surgeon will get another type of post (usually for middle age and older).
We're about to bump into this 200 limit, and I see they've significantly raised their pricing over the years since we signed up so it is now $200/month to connect 50 profiles. That would come out to $9,600/year just to even be at the same number of profiles we have now. A 4,000% increase in cost is a hard pill to swallow.
There seem to be so many platforms with so many wildly varying prices, features, and reviews on how reliably well they work. We don't need any kind of advanced analytics, forecasting, AI wizardry, client approval, teams, collaboration. We just need to submit an image and captions to 200 profiles.
What is our best option for doing this? Should we stick with SocialPilot or is there some better tool more tailored to what I'm doing? I seriously appreciate any advice on this issue as it is giving me anxiety. Thank you!!!

Here is the recap of the 14 monetized posts from Kylea and Joseph "Joe" Gomez of Kylea G Weight loss Journey on 05/13/24.
Disclaimer: I am not a physician, influencer, or paid content creator. I am not affiliated with WW. I am semi-retired from healthcare with multiple college degrees. These opinions are my own based on social media content. I wish no harm to Kylea or Joe Gomez.
☎️ If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, please call or text 988 for assistance.
The tagline of Kylea G Weight loss Journey is, "I changed my life with prayer and a playlist of songs. No surgery, no meds. Just Jesus."
DAILY STATS 05/13/24:
0/14 posts discussed prayer
2/14 contained vague references to music
0/14 discussed exercise
0/14 shared a recipe
4/14 were about something Kylea ate or drank
1/14 contained a side by side photo comparison
2/14 were about her current/future pet (one of these was from "Joe" about Amazon pet items)
1/14 "Joe" posted about getting Whataburger
2/14 were about donut holes & a clapback
2/14 were a trip update
📢 For our friends at Meta, that means at least 50% of Kylea's monetized content had nothing to do with weight loss, which is the tagline and purpose of her page.
⚠️ Disordered Eating- Daily Food Consumption (Data compiled from monetized content):
5 WW Points: Barebell Cookies & Cream Protein Bar
0 WW Points: Alani Nu Energy Drink (🚨 These contain 200mg of caffeine)
9 WW Points: TWO In-N-Out "Protein style" hamburgers wrapped in lettuce.
0 WW Points: Bahama Buck's Sugar-free Birthday Cake & Sugar-free Strawberry Cheesecake flavored shaved ice.
📢 For our friends at Meta, that means Kylea consumed 14 out of (up to) 30 daily WW points in maintenance mode= Disordered Eating. This is dangerous messaging for her 138k+ followers on a weight loss journey.
Recipes Shared:
ZERO
🚨 Please speak with a medical professional about any questions or concerns you have about your health.
Comments: Kylea CHOSE to continue posting triggering food content, and clapped back at followers for questioning it.
⚠️ Binge Eating, Compulsive Buying Disorder (CBD), aka shopping addiction, Disordered Eating, Food Addiction, Gaslighting, and Religion will be discussed.
Post 1. Donut Hole Controversy: Kylea posted an empty donut hole bag and claimed her sister ate all of them at 3 WW points each. When called out by a follower, Kylea responded with this, "I don't eat donuts. I support other people eating whatever they'd like to eat. What's unhealthy is commenting on other people's food choices.💖💖💖"
Post 2. Using the Pet Cat for Content: This nontent was her male cat's reaction to being told his puppy sister arrives on Sunday.
Post 3. Protein Bar Slip Up: Kylea recycled an old photo of her holding a Barebell protein bar and tried to act like the photo was taken today. 👀
Post 4. Trip Update: Kylea is shopping for puppy bandanas online because Birdie "only" has 6, while her sister drives. She is listening to 🎶 in the car. 💤 This is nontent.
Post 5. "Unhealthy" Food Clapback: Narcissistic, defiant Kylea had to get the last word in.
"I had someone comment that I post a lot of "unhealthy" food for a weight loss page. The point of my page is to show others that all foods are healthy in moderation. What is not healthy, is commenting on other people's food choices. Mind your own plate. 💖 I personally eat very healthy myself but I support all of the people around me in whatever food choices they want to make for their own lives. I will never and have never commented on someone else's food choice for their own lives."
⏸️ This is gaslighting. Here we go...

1. Kylea is triggered by words like treat, craving, and indulge but was not at the beginning of her weight loss journey.
   
2. Kylea is afraid to own a microwave because it could jeopardize her recovery with food addiction and give her quick access to convenient foods. (Please ignore the air fryer and cabinets full of snacks.)
   
3. If Kylea does not like what Joe is eating at a restaurant, she has placed the menu between them so she does not have to see it.
   
4. Joe is not allowed to have regular condiments in the fridge.
   
5. Joe is to "support" her by eating foods he does not prefer at home (most of the time).
   
6. Kylea controls what Joe eats when she is away from home.
   
7. Please ignore all comments Kylea makes on the Basham and Lee families' social media accounts about food.
   
8. Kylea does not eat clean.
   
9. She triggers her followers with calorie-dense items on purpose for monetary gain.
   
10. Kylea has disordered eating.
    

If that list isn't enough to question her speech, a follower requested a 24-hour food log and the # of daily WW points Kylea uses. Kylea replied, "after months of bullying over that because of how healthy I do eat, I won't ever do that again. It's for my peace that I no longer do."
📢 To our friends at Meta, why is a "weight loss influencer" allowed to refuse to answer follower questions about WW (her chosen tool) and refuse to provide an example of what she eats in a day? This is the job YOU pay her to do.
Post 6. Alani Nu: Avoid this beverage (200mg caffeine) if you are unsure about your recommended caffeine intake.
Post 7. Trip Update: Her sister drove 6 hours. They have to be at the airport tomorrow at 4 am.
Post 8. Fort Worth Stockyards: This photo editing fail made Kylea appear 8 feet tall with a shrunken head and long extremities. Upon follower questions, she blamed her sister for how she held the phone. 🤔
Post 9. IN-N-Out Burger: Kylea's sister ate a cheeseburger & fries, and Kylea had 2 "protein style" hamburgers she claimed were called "protein burgers." Umm, nope.
Post 10. Shaved Ice: Kylea's sister got the baby size shaved ice, and Kylea got a significantly larger-sized cup.
⏸️ I smirked as Kylea claimed the protein bar was "yummy," the In-N-Out was "really good," and the sugar-free shaved ice, "It is SO good!!," but the giant iced cookie cake slice yesterday was "fine." She loves to gaslight and act holier-than-thou. 😇
Post 11. Whataburger: "Joe" posted his bag of Whataburger after waiting 1.5 hours in the drive-thru on opening day.
⏸️ How are the donut holes, energy drink, cheeseburger and fries, and regular shaved ice Kylea's sister consumed, and Whataburger her husband consumed healthy weight loss content? Why is Meta paying her for this nonsense?
Post 12. Amazon Purchases: "Joe" posted a picture of more puppy items and said, "Can you tell my wife is excited about her new role as dog mom 😂 😂" This is nontent.
Post 13. May 2021 vs Today: Kylea is "forever proud of the girl who changed her entire life -208 lbs."
⏸️ Kylea, you traded addictions. That is not something to be proud of. You are terrified of the scale and heavily modify your photos. That is not something to be proud of, either. You can spend all the money and travel the world but you are not happy. Quite the opposite. Seek medical care. ☮️
Post 14. Final Update: Kylea feels "uplifted" from window shopping at the Stockyards and local Target with her sister, listening to country music.
Takeout Purchases: Donut Holes= $3.50 est; In-N-Out Burger: Cheeseburger & Fries with 2 "Protein-style" Hamburgers (online prices)= $11.75 est; Bahama Buck's Baby & Regular Sized Shaved Ice= $9.18 + tip; Whataburger (unknown food)= $8 est;
Shopping/Travel Expenses: Barebell Protein Bar= $2.45 est; Alani Nu Freezeberry Energy= $2.48 est; Alani Nu Juicy Peach Energy= $2.48 est; Gas Joplin, MO to Fort Worth, TX: (373mi/33mpg) x $3.85 est= $43.52 est; Gas Fort Worth, TX to Dallas, TX: (32mi/33mpg) x $3.85 est= $3.73 est; Hotel (prices by airport used)= $75 est + fees; Bocce's Coconut Macaroon Crunchy Biscuits 5oz bag Qty 2= $12.98 est; Bocce's Sauvignon Bark Soft & Chewy 6oz bag Qty 2= $13.58 est; Bocce's Burger & Fries All-Natural Dog Treats Qty 2= $9.08 est; PetStages Grow-with-Me Ring Dog Chew Toy= $5.24 est; Pet Botanics Training Rewards Soft & Chewy Bacon Flavor 20oz bag Qty 2= $27.98 est; Undercoat Rake Grooming Tool= $10.25 est; Paw Print Cube Fabric Storage Bin= $12.99 est; Baghler Airline Approved Dog Travel Bag Light Pink- A Backpack with Silicone Bowls & Food Baskets= $34.99 est; Fabric Strawberry Harness & Leash= $17.99 est; Black Nylon Training Leash= $8.95 est;
All info from Reddit. ✌️

Hi! I’m new-ish to reddit, but this has been weighing on me. All names are changed for the sake of the story. My ex (19) Sam and I (19f) started dating when we were juniors in highschool. I had gotten out of a horribly abusive relationship, and we were already close friends. Aside from friend group drama, our relationship was great. We were head over heels in love, and had plenty of mutual friends.
Fast forward 1 year to the night of my 18th birthday. We heard about a house party and ended up going. They had invited their friend, Alex (20), to tag along. This wouldn’t have bothered me, but they invited them before they invited me, and only invited me when I practically asked to be invited. Later in the night, we all got pretty drunk. I’ll preface this by saying that Sam and I were in an open relationship sexually, but not romantically. Alex, Sam and I all ended up hooking up. I befriended Alex, and we started hanging out often as a trio.
I then found out from someone else that Sam and Alex had been hooking up, which was not the agreement of our relationship. The agreement was that if either one of us wanted to sleep with someone, we should tell the other before the fact. I manage to move past this after a very long conversation about trust.
A few months later, Alex ghosts me because I made a joke that made them uncomfortable. I tell them that I wished they would have told me, but understood, and I wouldn’t want to continue the friendship either if they were the type of person to drop someone without an explanation like that. That’s that. Still, Sam and Alex are hooking up.
Eventually, I tell Sam that as their girlfriend I don’t feel comfortable with the fact that they are hooking up with Alex, who has made it very obvious that they don’t like me by actively talking shit about me. I tell them that, as a matter of fact, I don’t like that they’re still friends with them. Sam says they don’t have many friends, and that Alex is their best friend and the person that they trust the most in the world, with anything and everything.
I’m convinced Alex has feelings for Sam, and a mutual friend of mine and Sam’s, and formerly Alex’s, even tells me that Alex has been raving about how Sam is the best sex of their life, and that Sam is so hot, and so perfect, and they’re being completely obsessive about Sam. I also bring this up. Nothing happens, and Sam and Alex remain friends, but stop hooking up.
Then, one day I’m talking to Sam, and ask what they’re doing. They say they’re at home, but we had gotten Life360 for fun, and I remember seeing that they left home, so I check. Then I see that they’re at Planned Parenthood, right by my house. I ask, and they reveal that they’re taking Alex to an appointment. I ask why, and they say it’s personal. I tell them that that’s really suspicious.
By this point Sam is staying at Alex’s almost nightly, seeing them 4-6 times a week, and I only see them 1-3 times a week. When they’re at Alex’s house, they’re ignoring me all day, never texting me, and when they do talk to me they’re drunk all the time. I talk to them about this, and they say that Alex is their best friend, and all the same stuff as before. Sam and I are fighting more and more because they take Alex out to events, post Alex all the time, and never do the same for me.
Eventually, right before Valentine’s day, I tell them that I think they’re having an emotional affair, and I need them to treat me like they’re my partner, not Alex’s. After this fight, we break up mutually, and they say that nothing I say makes sense and I was entirely paranoid. We had attempted to stay friends, but currently are no contact. Am I the asshole?
PS - this is SUPER simplified, I’m happy to answer clarifying questions.

My husband (35M) and his ex wife (40F) were together for 5y and married for 1y. They have a daughter (7F) together, but she has been married before, has a teenage daughter with her first husband. My husband left her because it was a toxic relationship and he's a recovering alcoholic.
Me (32F) and my husband have been together for 4y, married for 2. We have no children together, but we raise his daughter half of the time - the custody is 50-50.
His ex wife and I don't get along - she's moved in on me in the past, she tried to split and has insulted me a few times. She's a textbook selfish narcissist and she's ruined any prospect of a relationship between us. I want absolutely nothing with her because she has 0 respect towards me, but basic decency and being civil towards her isn't enough for her. Apparently she's not happy that I'm not out there licking her arse like everyone else. In her latest outburst, she said I had to make an effort with her because things would get worse between us otherwise (??). She's very awkward with me in public, pretends she doesn't see me and literally hides from me, never says hello. She has yet to acknowledge that her ex husband remarried and that I am his wife. She treats me like I'm just this silly little side affair and that one day the spell will wear off and he'll see sense and get back with her.
She's always been a tease and flirty - nothing she ever does is coincidental and she's very calculating. I remember seeing a photo of her at her ex husband's house for his wife's birthday party and she was wearing a lace bodysuit with leather pants, whilst everyone else was dressed normally. Just teasing her ex husband. She always comes around my house to drop her daughter off with her t*ts out, skin tight clothes etc. She also messages nonstop about trivial things regarding their daughter and when she has her, she reports everything they do and what she's done in the day, sends photos and videos.
In December, she was diagnosed with type 2 Diabetes so she has lost some weight. Ever since, she's been grafting like mad to get my husband's attention. A few days ago, she asked us to drop my SD off at a birthday party, some friend of hers. Husband and SD get out of the car to look for the entrance and at the same time, she drove in. She saw me looking out the window in our car and drove forward to block me from her view and kept my husband chatting. She then parked up and got out of the car, she was in a crop top and cheeky denim shorts - she had everything on display. Kept my husband for as long as she could by making conversation and then she turned round to her car and got on all 4s to reach for the present that was on the passenger side.
Yesterday, my husband took SD to karate lessons which she arranged once a week near her house. She rang him up beforehand to ask if he was leaving SD there or waiting for her. He said he'd just wait in the car and that was the end of the conversation. She then went out for a run at the same time SD was meant to be in karate in the exact same place my husband was meant to be sat waiting for SD to sort of "bump into him".
I know there's nothing I can do about this, I have already spoken to my husband and told him how much it bothers me and that I feel disrespected, but I also don't expect him to control her behaviour because he can't. I know that my husband is married to me for a reason and not her etc etc.. but how do I detach from this? She makes my blood boil and it's so hard to just ignore the situation.. I don't know how to cope with this, it's so draining.
Tldr: my husband's ex wife flirts and teases him, and is always trying to get his attention through messages and skimpy outfits. It infuriates me and I don't know how to detach from the situation.