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2024.05.14 19:38 berry-bostwick Does anyone have a strong preference on which gender to play as?
I elected to let the Animus decide for me, but I thought it would switch genders much more frequently. I’m about 30 hours in, 62 power level, I just completed my first alliance, and have completed numerous side quests, but the Animus has kept the gender female the whole time. I like female Eivor just fine, so I’m thinking I’ll just switch it to always female. Seems like it will be a bit jarring at this point whenever it finally changes. But I’m wondering if anyone completed the game letting the Animus choose the whole time, and if you liked it that way or if you would have done it differently. I’m curious to hear anyone’s thoughts on this. Also, here are a few unrelated observations.
-The way the storylines and interactions are necessarily gender neutral make it somewhat wholesome with how egalitarian it portrays this society (a woman leading a raid crew, numerous pseudo romantic encounters with other women, etc.) if not a bit ahistorical. A quick google search tells me there’s debate on whether female Vikings existed, which seems to imply it’s at least a strong possibility. I learned recently that one thing the Romans found peculiar about the Celts was how the women in many tribes had (comparatively at the time) so many rights. Maybe the creators of this game were trying to channel a similar dynamic.
-This is my first time playing an AC game. One criticism I’ve heard is that it isn’t much of an AC game. I understand that critique from what I knew about the franchise beforehand. As someone just getting into it now, the few directly related AC storylines are super fun to me, and I’ve found myself diving into the lore I’ve missed out on.
I played for about an hour on PS4 before my wife and our friend surprised me with a PS5 for my birthday. I was then pleasantly surprised with a free PS5 upgrade for AC Valhalla. It was pretty on the PS4, but it is absolutely stunning on the PS5. It has me wanting to upgrade to a bigger and newer TV.
How the hell do I keep my addiction to this game in check? It has been decades since a video game has ensnared me like this. I am staying up too late, getting to work late, and not spending near as much time in the lovely spring weather as I ought to. This is my one complaint so far lol.
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-The way the storylines and interactions are necessarily gender neutral make it somewhat wholesome with how egalitarian it portrays this society (a woman leading a raid crew, numerous pseudo romantic encounters with other women, etc.) if not a bit ahistorical. A quick google search tells me there’s debate on whether female Vikings existed, which seems to imply it’s at least a strong possibility. I learned recently that one thing the Romans found peculiar about the Celts was how the women in many tribes had (comparatively at the time) so many rights. Maybe the creators of this game were trying to channel a similar dynamic.
-This is my first time playing an AC game. One criticism I’ve heard is that it isn’t much of an AC game. I understand that critique from what I knew about the franchise beforehand. As someone just getting into it now, the few directly related AC storylines are super fun to me, and I’ve found myself diving into the lore I’ve missed out on.
I played for about an hour on PS4 before my wife and our friend surprised me with a PS5 for my birthday. I was then pleasantly surprised with a free PS5 upgrade for AC Valhalla. It was pretty on the PS4, but it is absolutely stunning on the PS5. It has me wanting to upgrade to a bigger and newer TV.
How the hell do I keep my addiction to this game in check? It has been decades since a video game has ensnared me like this. I am staying up too late, getting to work late, and not spending near as much time in the lovely spring weather as I ought to. This is my one complaint so far lol.
2024.05.14 19:37 TensionLongjumping42 I feel like a crazy person, I’m not sure if my perceptions are valid.
My partner and I have had a tumultuous up and down on and off relationship over the past decade. Oftentimes I feel like we are just not compatible and I can’t give him the affection or attention he requires. I do genuinely love and care for him, but he completely overwhelms me and I try to take it until I inevitably freak out. An example of this is repeatedly getting in my physical space, constant groping and slapping of my breasts, groin, and bum in a way that hurts, tickling, poking me in the neck painfully, distracting me while I’m trying to do things like prepare dinner or while I’m working, purposefully irritating me, jump scaring me when I’m immersed in something (I work from home so it’s frequently while I’m at the computer focused) and then getting upset with me when I ask him (repeatedly) to stop. I don’t like a lot of physical contact. I don’t mind cuddling and intimacy and what not but I don’t enjoy having my body parts pulled and hit, and I LOATHE tickling. I’ve told him it feels like a physical violation, and explained this multiple times but he says it’s just how he shows affection.
We have a very active intimate life, at least once per day. Usually in the morning and in the evening. So he is getting plenty of that type of affection which he states is the most important to him.
Lately he’s started recording me as I go about my day to day tasks like cleaning or whatever, and I’ve noticed he’s started recording me during intimate moments as well which I object to and push the camera away. I told him I don’t like that, it makes me feel weird. He keeps trying to show me the videos which also makes me mad cause I didn’t agree to that. He says he just thinks I’m beautiful, but I feel like….something nefarious about it in my gut.
I’m feeling extremely physically violated. I have a hard time expressing my feelings, and to be honest I don’t have an easy time even feeling anything. Like period. But I get angry and resentful and it just kind of simmers until it spills over.
This has become a pattern where I get more and more overwhelmed, then I act out in some way and it causes a huge fight. He berates me and screams at me and leaves, refusing to speak to me for days. Usually about 1 week. I am not innocent in this, because I usually do something he hates. In the moment I don’t realize this and it’s always afterwards with self reflection I can see it. I can’t seem to get ahead of the build up, or maybe I try to but I’m not effectively communicating how annoyed and overwhelmed I am. I always feel so bad after. I feel so stupid and emotionally incompetent.
We got into an argument yesterday and I’m realizing this is such a pattern. My cat got hurt and my brother came with me to take him to the vet. My partner flipped out on me so bad for going with my brother. He accused me of hanging out with guys and was acting like I made the whole thing up. Called me a liar. I messaged him with an update on the cat and he didn’t reply. I will add, I don’t ever hang out with men that aren’t blood related to me. Meaning my little brother and my father. I have exclusively female friends. I find this accusation particularly offensive, because it makes me think that he’s the one off spending time with other women if that’s his knee jerk response to me asking for some emotional support while my pet is injured. My brother doesn’t like him so I suppose that could be it.
I feel so disconnected from my feelings and my body. I’m logically trying to figure this out. Am I imagining things? Is the way he’s constantly in my physical space normal? Is it wrong for me to ask for space and have that respected? Am I a bad partner for not giving enough?
Just needed to get that off my chest. I don’t feel comfortable speaking to my friends and family due to our complicated history.
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We have a very active intimate life, at least once per day. Usually in the morning and in the evening. So he is getting plenty of that type of affection which he states is the most important to him.
Lately he’s started recording me as I go about my day to day tasks like cleaning or whatever, and I’ve noticed he’s started recording me during intimate moments as well which I object to and push the camera away. I told him I don’t like that, it makes me feel weird. He keeps trying to show me the videos which also makes me mad cause I didn’t agree to that. He says he just thinks I’m beautiful, but I feel like….something nefarious about it in my gut.
I’m feeling extremely physically violated. I have a hard time expressing my feelings, and to be honest I don’t have an easy time even feeling anything. Like period. But I get angry and resentful and it just kind of simmers until it spills over.
This has become a pattern where I get more and more overwhelmed, then I act out in some way and it causes a huge fight. He berates me and screams at me and leaves, refusing to speak to me for days. Usually about 1 week. I am not innocent in this, because I usually do something he hates. In the moment I don’t realize this and it’s always afterwards with self reflection I can see it. I can’t seem to get ahead of the build up, or maybe I try to but I’m not effectively communicating how annoyed and overwhelmed I am. I always feel so bad after. I feel so stupid and emotionally incompetent.
We got into an argument yesterday and I’m realizing this is such a pattern. My cat got hurt and my brother came with me to take him to the vet. My partner flipped out on me so bad for going with my brother. He accused me of hanging out with guys and was acting like I made the whole thing up. Called me a liar. I messaged him with an update on the cat and he didn’t reply. I will add, I don’t ever hang out with men that aren’t blood related to me. Meaning my little brother and my father. I have exclusively female friends. I find this accusation particularly offensive, because it makes me think that he’s the one off spending time with other women if that’s his knee jerk response to me asking for some emotional support while my pet is injured. My brother doesn’t like him so I suppose that could be it.
I feel so disconnected from my feelings and my body. I’m logically trying to figure this out. Am I imagining things? Is the way he’s constantly in my physical space normal? Is it wrong for me to ask for space and have that respected? Am I a bad partner for not giving enough?
Just needed to get that off my chest. I don’t feel comfortable speaking to my friends and family due to our complicated history.
2024.05.14 19:20 Aware-Marketing9946 How the heck...
Did we do it?
Working, raising kids, running a household. I can barely do anything....it's hard. I've got to plan around my body and whatever it's going through that day.
Ladies and Gentlemen...how in the Fu€k did we get do much done?
I used to work full time, run the household and all that entails (my husband had to learn how to clean and cook 🙄 and I love him but he sucks at both, no wonder I'm so skinny). I had a part time gig as well.
I mowed the lawn most of the time. An acre and a half. I have 2 huge raised vegetable gardens...22' X 22' ....and did it by myself I'd like to add.
I did most of the landscaping, hired most of the contractors (married to one and yes he doesn't do it for our home, unfortunately) . Dealt with repair people, snaked stuck drains and toilets myself, as well as changed a faucet.
Clean the upholstery, carpet every year. Cleaned the oven, the appliances, windows, woodwork.
Decluttered everyone's closets, drawers. The dusting, cleaning the floors, the bathrooms (3) . All the laundry. All the shopping. All the cooking with a couple of exceptions.
Took care of each of my grandkids while my daughter worked (and I was doing my second job).
All the birthday's, holiday shopping and decorating. The strong woman in my clan who everyone comes to for help.
I'm exhausted typing this out.
We aren't rich, and we live "close to the vest". I'm a saver. So I "do it myself" like a lot of women. And that includes what is typically "a man's work".
Truth is I was raised more like a boy, and I was my father's right hand "man" lol. I regret nothing. I learned how to tear a motor apart and rebuild it.
I made my own tools, back in the stone age with old toothpaste tubes. Did carpentry. Plumbing. All the painting...I've painted the inside now 4X in 37 years.
People, my family are either spoiled or out of their minds.
Please help me. I know you don't think cleaning is important, but it is. Look at what the house looks like from the last year .....holy hell. It's disgusting. That's what happens when momma has cancer.
You'd think at least they'd be neater and cleaner.
I spent 3 hours scrubbing the master bath ..and you come in and leave toothpaste blobs all over the counter and floor. C'mon. It feels disrespectful, and I'm getting pissed at you people.
Mom is NOT "all better ", mom is STILL in ACTIVE treatment, give me a damn break already.
Sorry. I needed to type it out.
Now I'm going to find help on Angie's list.
I may just say to husband; I'm too sore, weak and unless YOU HELP ME, I'm hiring a cleaning person.
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Working, raising kids, running a household. I can barely do anything....it's hard. I've got to plan around my body and whatever it's going through that day.
Ladies and Gentlemen...how in the Fu€k did we get do much done?
I used to work full time, run the household and all that entails (my husband had to learn how to clean and cook 🙄 and I love him but he sucks at both, no wonder I'm so skinny). I had a part time gig as well.
I mowed the lawn most of the time. An acre and a half. I have 2 huge raised vegetable gardens...22' X 22' ....and did it by myself I'd like to add.
I did most of the landscaping, hired most of the contractors (married to one and yes he doesn't do it for our home, unfortunately) . Dealt with repair people, snaked stuck drains and toilets myself, as well as changed a faucet.
Clean the upholstery, carpet every year. Cleaned the oven, the appliances, windows, woodwork.
Decluttered everyone's closets, drawers. The dusting, cleaning the floors, the bathrooms (3) . All the laundry. All the shopping. All the cooking with a couple of exceptions.
Took care of each of my grandkids while my daughter worked (and I was doing my second job).
All the birthday's, holiday shopping and decorating. The strong woman in my clan who everyone comes to for help.
I'm exhausted typing this out.
We aren't rich, and we live "close to the vest". I'm a saver. So I "do it myself" like a lot of women. And that includes what is typically "a man's work".
Truth is I was raised more like a boy, and I was my father's right hand "man" lol. I regret nothing. I learned how to tear a motor apart and rebuild it.
I made my own tools, back in the stone age with old toothpaste tubes. Did carpentry. Plumbing. All the painting...I've painted the inside now 4X in 37 years.
People, my family are either spoiled or out of their minds.
Please help me. I know you don't think cleaning is important, but it is. Look at what the house looks like from the last year .....holy hell. It's disgusting. That's what happens when momma has cancer.
You'd think at least they'd be neater and cleaner.
I spent 3 hours scrubbing the master bath ..and you come in and leave toothpaste blobs all over the counter and floor. C'mon. It feels disrespectful, and I'm getting pissed at you people.
Mom is NOT "all better ", mom is STILL in ACTIVE treatment, give me a damn break already.
Sorry. I needed to type it out.
Now I'm going to find help on Angie's list.
I may just say to husband; I'm too sore, weak and unless YOU HELP ME, I'm hiring a cleaning person.
2024.05.14 19:14 Chibears1089- AITAH?! What do I do?
Am I the A hole?
So a little back ground. About 2 and a half years ago my wife found out I had been watching porn and masturbating behind her back. From that point I didnt masturbate and had great sex with my wife. I was on TRT and cycling sarms into my workout so my libido was through the roof and my wife and i taken intimate videos together. So a year and a half ago I confessed to my wife that I had been masturbating but to our videos that we made together. She told me it made her feel like she wasnt enough in general even if it was to us. I respect my wife and i want to please my wife and make her happy so since then I have refrained from watching any porn even mild sex scenes on TV as well as getting rid of social media and adding restrictions so less and less women are on the only remaining social media I have left and that's youtube. I had Pinterest up until yesterday but got rid of it because while browsing on Pinterest I clicked on literally I believe it was 3 total photos in my Pinterest history of women. They are skinny and are well endowed. My wife has gained weight and has been trying to lose weight but is having a hard time. I never say she is fat or call her names or anything that would be demeaning to my wife and her self esteem. If anything she is always saying she is fat and I constantly will deny it and tell her that I am very attracted to her. Anyway these photos weren't provocative in anyway just pictures of women doing workouts. I knew when I was looking at them it was wrong and if she found out holy shit so I didn't continue after the 3rd photo. He'll I didn't even search for it, it was just in my Pinterest home feed. Now she is saying I want hoe's and sluts and not her. That I don't love her or respect her. That I'm jerking off. She then went and masturbated herself and watched porn. I know this because of the cameras and I was able to access her search history. Now before she saw the photos everything was great and fine!. She also made fun of me sexually. Saying I'm not big enough and I don't fuck like the porn videos and at least she will get wet. It was absolutely degrading and humiliating. She is literally demeaning me as a person and my character because of the 3 pictures. I love my wife and yes she has anger problems and is controlling and does not trust at all. Even when I think she is she will all the sudden be going through my phone and interrogation pursues. I literally have isolated myself. I have no friends. I don't go out. I don't spend money. I literally go to work and go straight home. I literally surrounded my whole life around her and yet because of 3 photos she is divorcing me. I haven't jerked off I haven't watched porn. I'm so lost. I don't understand.
I don't understand what it will take to earn her trust. I don't understand what it will take for her to stop trying to find something wrong when there isn't anything there. I don't understand how she can be so cold. I can't believe she would humiliate and degrade me like that. Do the very thing she accused me of and then basically rub it in my face. Doesn't seem very mature. She doesn't communicate well because everything you say has the worst alterior motive behind it. She literally looks for there to be problems. I don't understand and I feel like I'm being abused mentally and emotionally. Now I will confess I have hit and pushed my wife before and I haven't been physically violent towards my wife since November of last year and when it happened it was a game changer for me and my life in general. I have been doing alot of self help as communication and etc that even my wife will tell you I have not struck nor pushed my wife or been violent towards my wife in anyway since November of last year. Now I'm not proud or saying I was right. I was way wrong and am being a man about it and facing it. My wife had hit me and pushed me and kicked me and etc also. She actually struck me in the face about 2 weeks ago because I said I had already turned the TV down and I couldn't turn it down anymore without it muting and because she got angry at that she turned over and struck me in the face. So we have both been physical with eachother also but hers being very recent. I screwed up before and feel so much guilt for what i did that i ignored the hitting me. Believe it or not she didnt even Apologize she stormed off and i had to go into the bathroom and just hold her until she liked me again. However things got great and as I said before had been great up until the photos. Now I'm a cheating slut that doesn't want her or find her attractive and I don't love her or respect her and etc. I won't repeat what I have already wrote before so I'm lost and idk what to do. I love my wife and yes I have screwed up in the past but is 3 photos of women deserve everything I got and her divorcing me. Is this salvageable? Am I the asshole? Should I be the one to go? Should i let her go? Should I fight for her? Should I not speak to her and let it be for a little until she wants to talk? What if she does get divorce paper? She threatened to get them Wednesday since she is off and has court in the morning. I don't want this and love my wife and am hurting and hurt and have cried and cried and cried. I'm not afraid to admit I cried alot. I just said out loud I'm gonna miss you so much while crying hysterically. Please anything. I'm willing to hear anything at this point because I don't know if I'm even making right decisions anymore. Am I the asshole?
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So a little back ground. About 2 and a half years ago my wife found out I had been watching porn and masturbating behind her back. From that point I didnt masturbate and had great sex with my wife. I was on TRT and cycling sarms into my workout so my libido was through the roof and my wife and i taken intimate videos together. So a year and a half ago I confessed to my wife that I had been masturbating but to our videos that we made together. She told me it made her feel like she wasnt enough in general even if it was to us. I respect my wife and i want to please my wife and make her happy so since then I have refrained from watching any porn even mild sex scenes on TV as well as getting rid of social media and adding restrictions so less and less women are on the only remaining social media I have left and that's youtube. I had Pinterest up until yesterday but got rid of it because while browsing on Pinterest I clicked on literally I believe it was 3 total photos in my Pinterest history of women. They are skinny and are well endowed. My wife has gained weight and has been trying to lose weight but is having a hard time. I never say she is fat or call her names or anything that would be demeaning to my wife and her self esteem. If anything she is always saying she is fat and I constantly will deny it and tell her that I am very attracted to her. Anyway these photos weren't provocative in anyway just pictures of women doing workouts. I knew when I was looking at them it was wrong and if she found out holy shit so I didn't continue after the 3rd photo. He'll I didn't even search for it, it was just in my Pinterest home feed. Now she is saying I want hoe's and sluts and not her. That I don't love her or respect her. That I'm jerking off. She then went and masturbated herself and watched porn. I know this because of the cameras and I was able to access her search history. Now before she saw the photos everything was great and fine!. She also made fun of me sexually. Saying I'm not big enough and I don't fuck like the porn videos and at least she will get wet. It was absolutely degrading and humiliating. She is literally demeaning me as a person and my character because of the 3 pictures. I love my wife and yes she has anger problems and is controlling and does not trust at all. Even when I think she is she will all the sudden be going through my phone and interrogation pursues. I literally have isolated myself. I have no friends. I don't go out. I don't spend money. I literally go to work and go straight home. I literally surrounded my whole life around her and yet because of 3 photos she is divorcing me. I haven't jerked off I haven't watched porn. I'm so lost. I don't understand.
I don't understand what it will take to earn her trust. I don't understand what it will take for her to stop trying to find something wrong when there isn't anything there. I don't understand how she can be so cold. I can't believe she would humiliate and degrade me like that. Do the very thing she accused me of and then basically rub it in my face. Doesn't seem very mature. She doesn't communicate well because everything you say has the worst alterior motive behind it. She literally looks for there to be problems. I don't understand and I feel like I'm being abused mentally and emotionally. Now I will confess I have hit and pushed my wife before and I haven't been physically violent towards my wife since November of last year and when it happened it was a game changer for me and my life in general. I have been doing alot of self help as communication and etc that even my wife will tell you I have not struck nor pushed my wife or been violent towards my wife in anyway since November of last year. Now I'm not proud or saying I was right. I was way wrong and am being a man about it and facing it. My wife had hit me and pushed me and kicked me and etc also. She actually struck me in the face about 2 weeks ago because I said I had already turned the TV down and I couldn't turn it down anymore without it muting and because she got angry at that she turned over and struck me in the face. So we have both been physical with eachother also but hers being very recent. I screwed up before and feel so much guilt for what i did that i ignored the hitting me. Believe it or not she didnt even Apologize she stormed off and i had to go into the bathroom and just hold her until she liked me again. However things got great and as I said before had been great up until the photos. Now I'm a cheating slut that doesn't want her or find her attractive and I don't love her or respect her and etc. I won't repeat what I have already wrote before so I'm lost and idk what to do. I love my wife and yes I have screwed up in the past but is 3 photos of women deserve everything I got and her divorcing me. Is this salvageable? Am I the asshole? Should I be the one to go? Should i let her go? Should I fight for her? Should I not speak to her and let it be for a little until she wants to talk? What if she does get divorce paper? She threatened to get them Wednesday since she is off and has court in the morning. I don't want this and love my wife and am hurting and hurt and have cried and cried and cried. I'm not afraid to admit I cried alot. I just said out loud I'm gonna miss you so much while crying hysterically. Please anything. I'm willing to hear anything at this point because I don't know if I'm even making right decisions anymore. Am I the asshole?
2024.05.14 19:10 Chibears1089- What do I do?
What do I do?
So a little back ground. About 2 and a half years ago my wife found out I had been watching porn and masturbating behind her back. From that point I didnt masturbate and had great sex with my wife. I was on TRT and cycling sarms into my workout so my libido was through the roof and my wife and i taken intimate videos together. So a year and a half ago I confessed to my wife that I had been masturbating but to our videos that we made together. She told me it made her feel like she wasnt enough in general even if it was to us. I respect my wife and i want to please my wife and make her happy so since then I have refrained from watching any porn even mild sex scenes on TV as well as getting rid of social media and adding restrictions so less and less women are on the only remaining social media I have left and that's youtube. I had Pinterest up until yesterday but got rid of it because while browsing on Pinterest I clicked on literally I believe it was 3 total photos in my Pinterest history of women. They are skinny and are well endowed. My wife has gained weight and has been trying to lose weight but is having a hard time. I never say she is fat or call her names or anything that would be demeaning to my wife and her self esteem. If anything she is always saying she is fat and I constantly will deny it and tell her that I am very attracted to her. Anyway these photos weren't provocative in anyway just pictures of women doing workouts. I knew when I was looking at them it was wrong and if she found out holy shit so I didn't continue after the 3rd photo. He'll I didn't even search for it, it was just in my Pinterest home feed. Now she is saying I want hoe's and sluts and not her. That I don't love her or respect her. That I'm jerking off. She then went and masturbated herself and watched porn. I know this because of the cameras and I was able to access her search history. Now before she saw the photos everything was great and fine!. She also made fun of me sexually. Saying I'm not big enough and I don't fuck like the porn videos and at least she will get wet. It was absolutely degrading and humiliating. She is literally demeaning me as a person and my character because of the 3 pictures. I love my wife and yes she has anger problems and is controlling and does not trust at all. Even when I think she is she will all the sudden be going through my phone and interrogation pursues. I literally have isolated myself. I have no friends. I don't go out. I don't spend money. I literally go to work and go straight home. I literally surrounded my whole life around her and yet because of 3 photos she is divorcing me. I haven't jerked off I haven't watched porn. I'm so lost. I don't understand.
I don't understand what it will take to earn her trust. I don't understand what it will take for her to stop trying to find something wrong when there isn't anything there. I don't understand how she can be so cold. I can't believe she would humiliate and degrade me like that. Do the very thing she accused me of and then basically rub it in my face. Doesn't seem very mature. She doesn't communicate well because everything you say has the worst alterior motive behind it. She literally looks for there to be problems. I don't understand and I feel like I'm being abused mentally and emotionally. Now I will confess I have hit and pushed my wife before and I haven't been physically violent towards my wife since November of last year and when it happened it was a game changer for me and my life in general. I have been doing alot of self help as communication and etc that even my wife will tell you I have not struck nor pushed my wife or been violent towards my wife in anyway since November of last year. Now I'm not proud or saying I was right. I was way wrong and am being a man about it and facing it. My wife had hit me and pushed me and kicked me and etc also. She actually struck me in the face about 2 weeks ago because I said I had already turned the TV down and I couldn't turn it down anymore without it muting and because she got angry at that she turned over and struck me in the face. So we have both been physical with eachother also but hers being very recent. I screwed up before and feel so much guilt for what i did that i ignored the hitting me. Believe it or not she didnt even Apologize she stormed off and i had to go into the bathroom and just hold her until she liked me again. However things got great and as I said before had been great up until the photos. Now I'm a cheating slut that doesn't want her or find her attractive and I don't love her or respect her and etc. I won't repeat what I have already wrote before so I'm lost and idk what to do. I love my wife and yes I have screwed up in the past but is 3 photos of women i didnt jerk off to not were they porn deserves everything I got and her divorce me? Should I be the one to go? Should i let her go? Should I fight for her? Should I not speak to her and let it be for a little until she wants to talk? What if she does get divorce paper? She threatened to get them Wednesday since she is off and has court in the morning. I don't want this and love my wife and am hurting and hurt and have cried and cried and cried. I'm not afraid to admit I cried alot. I just said out loud I'm gonna miss you so much while crying hysterically. Please anything. I'm willing to hear anything at this point because I don't know if I'm even making right decisions anymore.
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So a little back ground. About 2 and a half years ago my wife found out I had been watching porn and masturbating behind her back. From that point I didnt masturbate and had great sex with my wife. I was on TRT and cycling sarms into my workout so my libido was through the roof and my wife and i taken intimate videos together. So a year and a half ago I confessed to my wife that I had been masturbating but to our videos that we made together. She told me it made her feel like she wasnt enough in general even if it was to us. I respect my wife and i want to please my wife and make her happy so since then I have refrained from watching any porn even mild sex scenes on TV as well as getting rid of social media and adding restrictions so less and less women are on the only remaining social media I have left and that's youtube. I had Pinterest up until yesterday but got rid of it because while browsing on Pinterest I clicked on literally I believe it was 3 total photos in my Pinterest history of women. They are skinny and are well endowed. My wife has gained weight and has been trying to lose weight but is having a hard time. I never say she is fat or call her names or anything that would be demeaning to my wife and her self esteem. If anything she is always saying she is fat and I constantly will deny it and tell her that I am very attracted to her. Anyway these photos weren't provocative in anyway just pictures of women doing workouts. I knew when I was looking at them it was wrong and if she found out holy shit so I didn't continue after the 3rd photo. He'll I didn't even search for it, it was just in my Pinterest home feed. Now she is saying I want hoe's and sluts and not her. That I don't love her or respect her. That I'm jerking off. She then went and masturbated herself and watched porn. I know this because of the cameras and I was able to access her search history. Now before she saw the photos everything was great and fine!. She also made fun of me sexually. Saying I'm not big enough and I don't fuck like the porn videos and at least she will get wet. It was absolutely degrading and humiliating. She is literally demeaning me as a person and my character because of the 3 pictures. I love my wife and yes she has anger problems and is controlling and does not trust at all. Even when I think she is she will all the sudden be going through my phone and interrogation pursues. I literally have isolated myself. I have no friends. I don't go out. I don't spend money. I literally go to work and go straight home. I literally surrounded my whole life around her and yet because of 3 photos she is divorcing me. I haven't jerked off I haven't watched porn. I'm so lost. I don't understand.
I don't understand what it will take to earn her trust. I don't understand what it will take for her to stop trying to find something wrong when there isn't anything there. I don't understand how she can be so cold. I can't believe she would humiliate and degrade me like that. Do the very thing she accused me of and then basically rub it in my face. Doesn't seem very mature. She doesn't communicate well because everything you say has the worst alterior motive behind it. She literally looks for there to be problems. I don't understand and I feel like I'm being abused mentally and emotionally. Now I will confess I have hit and pushed my wife before and I haven't been physically violent towards my wife since November of last year and when it happened it was a game changer for me and my life in general. I have been doing alot of self help as communication and etc that even my wife will tell you I have not struck nor pushed my wife or been violent towards my wife in anyway since November of last year. Now I'm not proud or saying I was right. I was way wrong and am being a man about it and facing it. My wife had hit me and pushed me and kicked me and etc also. She actually struck me in the face about 2 weeks ago because I said I had already turned the TV down and I couldn't turn it down anymore without it muting and because she got angry at that she turned over and struck me in the face. So we have both been physical with eachother also but hers being very recent. I screwed up before and feel so much guilt for what i did that i ignored the hitting me. Believe it or not she didnt even Apologize she stormed off and i had to go into the bathroom and just hold her until she liked me again. However things got great and as I said before had been great up until the photos. Now I'm a cheating slut that doesn't want her or find her attractive and I don't love her or respect her and etc. I won't repeat what I have already wrote before so I'm lost and idk what to do. I love my wife and yes I have screwed up in the past but is 3 photos of women i didnt jerk off to not were they porn deserves everything I got and her divorce me? Should I be the one to go? Should i let her go? Should I fight for her? Should I not speak to her and let it be for a little until she wants to talk? What if she does get divorce paper? She threatened to get them Wednesday since she is off and has court in the morning. I don't want this and love my wife and am hurting and hurt and have cried and cried and cried. I'm not afraid to admit I cried alot. I just said out loud I'm gonna miss you so much while crying hysterically. Please anything. I'm willing to hear anything at this point because I don't know if I'm even making right decisions anymore.
2024.05.14 18:53 incandescent_walrus The Eras Tour Follies
 | https://preview.redd.it/28c8z9ly9f0d1.png?width=1700&format=png&auto=webp&s=51f46e163c20eaeea227b730063811f444e1d930 submitted by incandescent_walrus to GaylorSwift [link] [comments] The Folly of it all: a RevueFolly, from the French folie, means madness, extravagance, foolishness, lunacy. It has two dominant uses. One is madness or craziness as in folie a deux (a delusion shared by two people). The other meaning of folly is a musical revue, developed in Paris in the late 1800s at the Folies Bergere.Revue in French means “magazine,” and the musical revue is meant to be the performance version of reading a magazine. A crucial part of the revue, cabaret, burlesque, or variety-show style of entertainment is the inclusion of commentary on current events, often satirical or parody. The Eras Tour provides a retrospective - a review, if you will - of Taylor Swift’s musical catalog. It tells several stories. And with the inclusion of The Tortured Poets Department set, it now also provides clear satirical commentary on Swift’s own story. It is not by accident that the TTPD set was added to the Eras Tour in Paris, the birthplace of the revue. The initial concept for the musical revue at Folies Bergere centered on women and dance, but was not overtly sexual. American choreographer Loie Fuller, whose serpentine dance style Taylor Swift honored with the Dress performance on the Reputation tour, worked at the early Folies Bergere. Fuller also fought for artists’ control of their own work and lost a legal battle to copyright her choreography. She was also a lesbian. You look like Loie Fuller in this light However, revue overlapped and blended with cabaret, burlesque, variety, and vaudeville into the early 20th century. Elaborate staging and “small nude women” became the hallmark of the Folies Bergere under director Paul Derval; the Moulin Rouge was a contemporaneous music hall with a more sexual nature, and the American Ziegfeld Follies - inspired by Bergere - were known for their chorus girls. The opening of the Eras Tour, with dancers using massive billowing seashell-shaped fabric and sunrise-like lighting, is a callback to Loie Fuller’s choreography style, as are the billowing Folklore dresses. It ends with the Midnights set, including the Vigilante Shit burlesque-style dance using cabaret chairs. Both the endcaps of the Eras Tour are intentionally choreographed Follies. Bejeweled & BurlesqueAmerican neo-burlesque, as championed by Dita Von Teese and others, seeks to reclaim burlesque as an art form for self-expression of sexuality rather than for consumption.Among other hints, the music video for Bejeweled - released a week before the Eras Tour was announced - featured many Easter eggs per Taylor Swift herself. In that video, Dita Von Teese, with her iconic martini glass, teaches Taylor's character neoburlesque dance. Speaking to Out magazine of working with Swift, Von Teese said, “She knew everything about what I do and about burlesque.” The background for Taylor’s own burlesque show in the Bejeweled video is a pink, purple, and gold sky very much like the opening of the Eras tour, and scallops line the floor. Taylor is sitting on the clock that was in the Mastermind lyrics video. Clockwise from top left: (1) Bejeweled burlesque opening shot; (2) Eras Tour opening; (3) did I mention Loie Fuller was a lesbian who lived in Paris?; (4) what if I told you none of it was accidental? As the dance unfolds, Taylor is surrounded by dancers holding fans and then lying on the ground encircling her in a kaleidoscope-like starburst, both images that appear in the TTPD set. She touches the clock to make it disappear as the light turns blue, and rainbow lights on the dancers encircle her, reminiscent of her dancers and backup singers in the Karma performance at the end of the Eras tour. Rainbows and dancers and kaleidoscopes. Go Chiefs! The Eras Tour: Taylor Swift FolliesAs the dancers open each Eras Tour performance, orange, pink, and purple Loie Fuller-esque fabric billows. “It’s been a long time coming…” Swift’s disembodied voice sings, a reference to the years since her last tour, but I think also referencing also Fuller’s - and Swift’s - fights for artists to own their work. This performance will be a retrospective, but it’s a retrospective of a catalog that Swift does not yet fully own. It may also be a reference to a coming-out.Swift bursts out of the billowing scalloped fabric, a shimmering musical goddess arising fully formed at an ever-ascendant peak, reminiscent of Venus, the goddess of love and sex - and also of victory and prosperity. She then performs a magnificent three and a half hour retrospective of her work. But we need some kind of social commentary, parody, or satire to make this concept work. And what about the other meaning of folly? Welcome to Female Rage: The Musical. The Tortured Poets Department set is a spectacle. In stark white and black, it leans into the asylum aesthetic of Fortnight, and it is nonetheless the most over-the-top visual experience of the entire concert. The Tortured Poets Department album contains heavy themes of Swift navigating her fame (which I won’t explore much here), and the Eras Tour set is no different. The visuals represent an asylum, a high school pep rally, zombie horror, an alien abduction, war, and finally a Vaudeville-esque representation of The Eras Tour itself, in which a doll-like Swift performs an onstage costume change, reanimates and then proceeds to perform I Can Do It With A Broken Heart, a song as upbeat as it is seething about performing the Eras tour while depressed, mirrors reflecting the audience as they confront the decision whether to sing along to the line “All the pieces of me shattered as the crowd was chanting ‘more!’” Have they come to take me awaaaaaay? The allure of the folly was audience participation. Follies were madness because the audience became part of the story, swept up in it, performers surrounding them and transforming the entire venue to the stage. There was no fourth wall. Any modern concert will include audience participation, but Swift is a master at engaging her audience in a way that no other pop star is - and here, she tells us, it is perhaps to her own personal undoing. Are you not entertained? Midnights is the final set of the Eras Tour, and Vigilante Shit is its climax. As she performs a burlesque dance, Swift sings “Ladies always rise above; ladies know what people want… the lady simply had enough…" "I don't dress for women / I don't dress for men / Lately I’ve been dressing for revenge / I don’t start shit, but I can tell you how it ends.” Why is burlesque dance “dressing for revenge”? Perhaps because it is not burlesque but neoburlesque, which is done for self-empowerment. She's not "dressing" - performing - for others, she's doing it for her own reasons. Taylor Swift is reclaiming her own music - not only rerecording the masters, but in a broader sense too. TTPD lyrically expounds on this idea - Taylor Swift is making music for herself now. She started off making music for herself - she didn’t start this conflict - but she’s telling us how it ends, and it’s with her winning. After Vigilante Shit, she stays in the same costume, with a segue into Bejeweled, and then Mastermind, finishing the concert with the lyric “I’m a mastermind” and immediately taking a bow. See how the Bejeweled backdrop and the Midnights bodysuit look similar? Karma, last on the set list, functions as a curtain call. Curtain call songs in musical theatre tend to summarize or reprise the story that the actors just told, coming back around**.** Karma is a song about Taylor Swift reclaiming her art, and so is the Eras Tour. Of course, Karma also being a possible lost album fits well with this. What does all of this mean?The Eras Tour is Taylor Swift’s neo-burlesque revue, it is her reclamation of her art, and it is the key to her claiming the key to her castle. As she performed this dance in the Bejeweled video, the countdown and her exile ended and the clock struck midnight.We know with the countdown theme she's been doing, there's something coming that'll be "1" in the countdown. Re-recordings haven't counted so far, so I don't think it will be Rep TV or Debut unless they come with significant new material - such as Rep TV + Karma (which would be TS12) and then Debut + TS13. I have always thought Debut would come at the end of the Eras Tour, and with all of this analysis, I think that's likely to happen along with something that is a significant change for Taylor Swift. I also think there might be something going on with the moon. Whatever happens between now and the end of the Eras Tour, the clock will strike midnight, the performance will be over, and Taylor Swift will step into the dawn of a new era. We'll meet her at midnight. Images from Bejeweled, Lavender Haze, Daylight lyric video, and the Eras Tour P.S. The Bejeweled video also contained several easter eggs for Speak Now TV being the next re-recording. The music video for I Can See You, a Speak Now vault track, was released toward the beginning of the Eras tour. Joey King and Presley Cash, who were in the Mean video as children, were also in the I Can See You video. Taylor wrote on IG that she wanted them specifically. The video for “Mean” (2011) features Taylor Swift performing in a variety of music hall-style sets. Taylor spends most of the video playing banjo in a string band, and then transitions to a Broadway stage in a fringe dress, reminiscent of the Ziegfeld Follies era.Joey broke the banjo when she used it as a weapon to save Taylor from the vault Loie Fuller’s break into show business was playing banjo in a Buffalo Bill touring show, from which point she went to New York. For her breakout role in a New York theatre, critics reportedly said she could sing but she couldn’t dance - similar to Swift’s inspiration for the song Mean. Fuller went on to be one of the most influential figures in modern dance. |
2024.05.14 18:40 ok2888 What are your thoughts and experiences on single sex schools?
I went to an all boys school in South London and it was fucking brutal. I basically consider myself to have had an experience akin to 5 years in prison. Violence was part and parcel of daily life, no one was safe, popular or not. Unlike most schools where a few kids get bullied, everyone got bullied by everyone else. I saw some pretty nuts things, people being dragged off a toilet mid shit and attacked, someone having their leg stamped on and snapped deliberately, someone having both their front teeth kicked out during a fight over a £2 coin and then continuing to fight over the money with his teeth on the floor, someone getting stabbed in the face with a piece of glass giving him lifelong injuries, people having daily "belt fights" where a group of people would whip eachother with their belt buckles and the last man standing wins, people being strangled with their ties to the point of passing out, someone getting their kneck crushed between 2 desks with 4 people on either side pushing as hard as they could, literally almost killing him. Many people carried knives and there were at least 2 incidents of stabbings on school grounds, one of them serious. There would be mass corridor riots probably once a week where even teachers would be attacked. There were organised fights on which people could even place bets. Sometimes teachers would intimidate or attack students for not reaching target grades. The way the school was run was extremely corrupt, they would do anything to inflate ofsted grades and did not care about people being bullied etc. A firework was once detonated during assembly and then again at break in a crowd of people knocking several of them to the floor. There were people actively involved in gang life and some went to prison for things like murder (outside of school). One guy in my tutor group who was actually a nice bloke now carries a gun and has been shot and also shot at people. There was 1 guy in the year above me who went to prison for 4 years because he got caught trying to join ISIS in an ICT lesson.
I could go on for ages about some of the things but those are the ones that come to mind. I have some good memories and lifelong friends from that time but it's also had a negative impact on me. I'm incredibly conflict averse as I fear violence. I'm also incredibly sexually and romantically inexperienced at 22 because I became used to not being around girls and women my age and don't really know how to interact with them outside of a platonic friendship.
know this isn't technically a uni based question but I thought this would be a good group of people to ask.
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I could go on for ages about some of the things but those are the ones that come to mind. I have some good memories and lifelong friends from that time but it's also had a negative impact on me. I'm incredibly conflict averse as I fear violence. I'm also incredibly sexually and romantically inexperienced at 22 because I became used to not being around girls and women my age and don't really know how to interact with them outside of a platonic friendship.
know this isn't technically a uni based question but I thought this would be a good group of people to ask.
2024.05.14 18:28 wowfrIguess Update on my spotify post
Please check out my post history for context.
I wasn't going to bring up anything on mother's day but she came to me about something else and it was difficult for me not to bring it up.
Basically she said she wanted to talk to me because she had recently joined a server for people with NPD and NPD traits and saw that they have some NSFW channels. One of the rules around her using discord is to not be in servers that have nsfw channels. So what she did was contact the mods and asked them to remove her access to those channels and told them she was a recovering sex addict. So she was just letting me know she had done this and was waiting for a reply but would stay out of those channels in the mean time.
I told her that I was feeling conflicted about her honestly regarding that situation because I have seen her listening to inappropriate music on spotify (including that morning) so it feels like not exactly genuine for her to come to me about one thing while the other thing is also going on.
I mentioned the inappropriate album art at videos as well. She told me she has turned off the videos and does not look at the songs as they play because she's either in the car or doing things around the house so she doesn't see the albums.
I basically just doubled down that I don't want her listening to explicit sexual songs or songs that are sung by what I called "OF singers". But basically hyper sexualized women. She said she would remove the two women I mentioned specifically but said it would be too difficult to remove them all as her playlist is roughly 2500 songs.
I told her to create a new one then. She said that would be too much work. So I responded by saying "well stop using spotify then." She replied with I'll figure it out. And got up and left. It didn't feel great but she hasn't used spotify since then. The mods removed her access to the nsfw channels and we both attended meetings etc.
I ended up getting shit faced drunk that night which unfortunately something I struggle with. I decided to start going to my own addiction meetings ontop of my partner meetings. I need to find my own better ways to deal with my problems.
I reached out to a csat and I'm hoping to hear back from her. Is it just me or does everyone else feel like they need a female therapist to feel safe? She's the only one I found near me that's a woman so I hope she can take us on!
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I wasn't going to bring up anything on mother's day but she came to me about something else and it was difficult for me not to bring it up.
Basically she said she wanted to talk to me because she had recently joined a server for people with NPD and NPD traits and saw that they have some NSFW channels. One of the rules around her using discord is to not be in servers that have nsfw channels. So what she did was contact the mods and asked them to remove her access to those channels and told them she was a recovering sex addict. So she was just letting me know she had done this and was waiting for a reply but would stay out of those channels in the mean time.
I told her that I was feeling conflicted about her honestly regarding that situation because I have seen her listening to inappropriate music on spotify (including that morning) so it feels like not exactly genuine for her to come to me about one thing while the other thing is also going on.
I mentioned the inappropriate album art at videos as well. She told me she has turned off the videos and does not look at the songs as they play because she's either in the car or doing things around the house so she doesn't see the albums.
I basically just doubled down that I don't want her listening to explicit sexual songs or songs that are sung by what I called "OF singers". But basically hyper sexualized women. She said she would remove the two women I mentioned specifically but said it would be too difficult to remove them all as her playlist is roughly 2500 songs.
I told her to create a new one then. She said that would be too much work. So I responded by saying "well stop using spotify then." She replied with I'll figure it out. And got up and left. It didn't feel great but she hasn't used spotify since then. The mods removed her access to the nsfw channels and we both attended meetings etc.
I ended up getting shit faced drunk that night which unfortunately something I struggle with. I decided to start going to my own addiction meetings ontop of my partner meetings. I need to find my own better ways to deal with my problems.
I reached out to a csat and I'm hoping to hear back from her. Is it just me or does everyone else feel like they need a female therapist to feel safe? She's the only one I found near me that's a woman so I hope she can take us on!
2024.05.14 18:07 k1llmeplsok Here's a thought experiment. What do you guys think will happen?
So I am seeing a lot of videos on YouTube about how some men go around with their DSLR cameras approaching women and taking their videos.
Now, I absolutely do NOT plan on doing this, but I am just wondering what will their reaction be if they saw a stereotypical brown Indian dude photographing them?
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Now, I absolutely do NOT plan on doing this, but I am just wondering what will their reaction be if they saw a stereotypical brown Indian dude photographing them?
2024.05.14 17:49 OptimalIssue9514 What is your opinion on this?
In spanish, there are some "feminists" channels that are talking about women who don't want to pay half of the bills and call themselves "High value women", they criticize them and say that they are sexists, that "you should not choose your partner because you have fear" and that they should not generalize men (yes lmao). Even some of them said that High Value Women are femcels and put those women at the same level of RedPillers.
I have talked and read RedPillers for years. The heart of the ideology are fake stats and the goal is controlling women and convince men that they should meet certain standard to be happy.
I also followed High Value Women communities (FDS, for example) and I have seen that the heart of it is reality. Most women who live 50/50 still do most of the child care and domestic labor. Women are working more than ever and they are still picking socks more. If you provide as a woman and your husband stays at home, he is more likely to cheat. Orgasm gap exists. Birth control fails and can make you pregnant of a man that doesn't care about you nor your kid. STDs exist and they are raising. Abortion doesn't exist in most countries.
In short ¿What men have to bring to the table?
Not great sex
STDs
Not a clean tidy house
Not children
Not well behaved children
Not fidelity
If hes poor: more bills to pay.
If he has money: money and a stable lifestyle.
I get that they have some points in common with the redpill; if you don't agree with them you are a "beta" or an "Average Frustrated Chump" or a "PickMe". But in general I see them are extremely different or sometimes, opposites.
The argument of "you should not choose your partners because you have fear" makes me ick. If you are an adult, you should be making informed choices and B plans in the case something goes wrong. You should not choose people based on ideals or only because you think that doing it "is fair" or "virtuous". Women have a lot to loose if they choose wrong, they even can get killed by a man who told them that he loved them.
Another thing that people who agrees with them says is that High Value Women are sexists and it is "masked patriarchy". I agree with the idea that in fact, they are promoting patriarchy and feeding it. But hear me out: men are sexist; this world is sexist. If you play equality with men, most of the time you will end up paying the bills to a sexist man who think that his house cleans itself. If you acknowledge that men will not see you as their equal ever (even if they say so) and you, even then, decide to be with them, you will be playing knowing what the outcome will be and take advantage of it.
The thing that makes me mad is that one of the women who made videos criticizing, suffered domestic violence. She paid all the bills and the man (who claimed to be a feminist) abused her. And even then she doesn't get the point. Imagine loosing money, time and mental health in the name of equality, progress and feminism, see that it doesn't work and still believing that "there are good men out there" who will be fair.
Female socialization is a thing; but most of the time women themselves promote being naive and delusional to other women as a good strategy to survive.
In reality, I don't think women should have relationships with men. But if they have them anyway, is better if they are smart about it and assure they are winning something.
What do you think about it? What is the lesser evil here? Playing equality with men and play the russian roulette or making men pay for shit?
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I have talked and read RedPillers for years. The heart of the ideology are fake stats and the goal is controlling women and convince men that they should meet certain standard to be happy.
I also followed High Value Women communities (FDS, for example) and I have seen that the heart of it is reality. Most women who live 50/50 still do most of the child care and domestic labor. Women are working more than ever and they are still picking socks more. If you provide as a woman and your husband stays at home, he is more likely to cheat. Orgasm gap exists. Birth control fails and can make you pregnant of a man that doesn't care about you nor your kid. STDs exist and they are raising. Abortion doesn't exist in most countries.
In short ¿What men have to bring to the table?
Not great sex
STDs
Not a clean tidy house
Not children
Not well behaved children
Not fidelity
If hes poor: more bills to pay.
If he has money: money and a stable lifestyle.
I get that they have some points in common with the redpill; if you don't agree with them you are a "beta" or an "Average Frustrated Chump" or a "PickMe". But in general I see them are extremely different or sometimes, opposites.
The argument of "you should not choose your partners because you have fear" makes me ick. If you are an adult, you should be making informed choices and B plans in the case something goes wrong. You should not choose people based on ideals or only because you think that doing it "is fair" or "virtuous". Women have a lot to loose if they choose wrong, they even can get killed by a man who told them that he loved them.
Another thing that people who agrees with them says is that High Value Women are sexists and it is "masked patriarchy". I agree with the idea that in fact, they are promoting patriarchy and feeding it. But hear me out: men are sexist; this world is sexist. If you play equality with men, most of the time you will end up paying the bills to a sexist man who think that his house cleans itself. If you acknowledge that men will not see you as their equal ever (even if they say so) and you, even then, decide to be with them, you will be playing knowing what the outcome will be and take advantage of it.
The thing that makes me mad is that one of the women who made videos criticizing, suffered domestic violence. She paid all the bills and the man (who claimed to be a feminist) abused her. And even then she doesn't get the point. Imagine loosing money, time and mental health in the name of equality, progress and feminism, see that it doesn't work and still believing that "there are good men out there" who will be fair.
Female socialization is a thing; but most of the time women themselves promote being naive and delusional to other women as a good strategy to survive.
In reality, I don't think women should have relationships with men. But if they have them anyway, is better if they are smart about it and assure they are winning something.
What do you think about it? What is the lesser evil here? Playing equality with men and play the russian roulette or making men pay for shit?
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2024.05.14 17:41 manav_yantra Life is hard in Kathmandu if you don't own a private vehicle.
As a regular public transport user, life here is frustrating when it comes to traveling. I mean, there are so many issues with public transport that one could write pages of rants about it. We live in the so-called capital city of the country, but it's hard to find a bus after 7 pm (6 pm in winter). We often hear about women being harassed on buses too. Even in this subreddit, there are frequent posts about this issue. Pickpocketing has increased significantly.
The main thing that I hate about public transport here is the crowd.Gundruk khocheko jasto kochan manche. Hami pani k garna sakchaum ra? Sab lai afno destination pugnu nei cha so khocherei bhae ni janchaum. Ajjha bihanei pack bus ma chadnu pare ta jhan mood nei kharab. Yeso kaile katei jum bhane ni bus ko travel socherei lyang lagcha.
Then there's the behavior of conductors. Some are good and well-behaved, but others seem to be waiting for an opportunity to loot you. Even when you show them your ID card or give them the exact fare, they argue, saying, "Bhada badhisakyo" "Yati nei ho" etc. You have to negotiate even when you're in the right. Yati kura ko lagi pani traffic lai complai garchu bhanera bhannu parcha ani balla manchan, koi ta tesma ni mandeinan. Moreover, if you're new to Kathmandu or a tourist, they'll ask you for double fare. There was a post here by someone whose relative from Terai who was unaware of the fare was charged double.
I'm glad that we have services like Pathao and Indrive nowadays. Yes, they're not always affordable, but they've been very helpful, especially at night. Every time we hear mayors and ministers talk about improving public transport, but they never take any steps towards its improvement. Sometimes, I watch videos of public transport in Japan and European countries, and I'm amazed. Then I compare it with ours, and it's shit. I know we can't compare ourselves with them, but come on, decent public transport is a basic necessity in big cities.
The number of passengers and the number of available buses aren't balanced. On top of that, the public transport union is so strong that no one can hold them accountable. There's syndicate on some routes. There was an article by Ukaalo about how Nepal Yatayat has a monopoly on its route. Also, with the constant change of ministers, every time the transportation minister changes, progress stalls. I watched an interview with Chiri Babu Maharjan (LMC mayor), and he mentioned that each time a new transportation minister arrived, he discussed improvement plans with them. However, as soon as plans were made, the minister would be replaced. Most of them don't even provide any briefing or information to the new minister before leaving office. So, this cycle continues.
Yes, we have Sajha Yatayat with huge buses and everyone prefers them, which automatically makes it crowded. Sajha has introduced new electric vehicle (EV) buses, but they are very small.
For now, if we could just travel on a bus that isn't too crowded, that would be revolutionary. I am not even asking for metros and all. Just improving public buses would solve most of the problems.
This issue is long.
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The main thing that I hate about public transport here is the crowd.Gundruk khocheko jasto kochan manche. Hami pani k garna sakchaum ra? Sab lai afno destination pugnu nei cha so khocherei bhae ni janchaum. Ajjha bihanei pack bus ma chadnu pare ta jhan mood nei kharab. Yeso kaile katei jum bhane ni bus ko travel socherei lyang lagcha.
Then there's the behavior of conductors. Some are good and well-behaved, but others seem to be waiting for an opportunity to loot you. Even when you show them your ID card or give them the exact fare, they argue, saying, "Bhada badhisakyo" "Yati nei ho" etc. You have to negotiate even when you're in the right. Yati kura ko lagi pani traffic lai complai garchu bhanera bhannu parcha ani balla manchan, koi ta tesma ni mandeinan. Moreover, if you're new to Kathmandu or a tourist, they'll ask you for double fare. There was a post here by someone whose relative from Terai who was unaware of the fare was charged double.
I'm glad that we have services like Pathao and Indrive nowadays. Yes, they're not always affordable, but they've been very helpful, especially at night. Every time we hear mayors and ministers talk about improving public transport, but they never take any steps towards its improvement. Sometimes, I watch videos of public transport in Japan and European countries, and I'm amazed. Then I compare it with ours, and it's shit. I know we can't compare ourselves with them, but come on, decent public transport is a basic necessity in big cities.
The number of passengers and the number of available buses aren't balanced. On top of that, the public transport union is so strong that no one can hold them accountable. There's syndicate on some routes. There was an article by Ukaalo about how Nepal Yatayat has a monopoly on its route. Also, with the constant change of ministers, every time the transportation minister changes, progress stalls. I watched an interview with Chiri Babu Maharjan (LMC mayor), and he mentioned that each time a new transportation minister arrived, he discussed improvement plans with them. However, as soon as plans were made, the minister would be replaced. Most of them don't even provide any briefing or information to the new minister before leaving office. So, this cycle continues.
Yes, we have Sajha Yatayat with huge buses and everyone prefers them, which automatically makes it crowded. Sajha has introduced new electric vehicle (EV) buses, but they are very small.
For now, if we could just travel on a bus that isn't too crowded, that would be revolutionary. I am not even asking for metros and all. Just improving public buses would solve most of the problems.
This issue is long.
2024.05.14 17:29 DumpsterEnFuegoo I feel like screaming
I just don't understand why it has to be this way. Time and time and time again we were told "don't put your trust in men" well isn't that EXACTLY what this organization is doing???
How dare they claim to speak for God, especially on such individual, trivial matters like beards and women's pants and college education? I nearly lost my mind under the weight of all that guilt and sense of obligation as a 20-yr old PIMI college kid. WHERE IN THE SCRIPTURES ARE ANY OF THOSE DUMB VIDEOS JUSTIFIED???? HOW is it okay to make us feel like we're doing something wrong by going after the kind of secular work WE ARE GOOD AT and that WE WANT TO DO????? If it does require a 4-year degree, guess what, that is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. It is MY CHOICE. MY LIFE. Armageddon is NOT here yet. Sue me for just trying to make sure I don't have to wonder when I can afford to eat. I couldn't even feel proud of myself when I graduated and I was gaslit so hard I fully believed it was a problem within me, not the org. I want those years of my life back.
Not only was I made to feel there was something wrong with me going to college, I also believed there was something wrong with me for liking "worldly" guys far more than I ever liked any of the uninteresting, uneducated, or just flat out creepy guys in the org. The scriptures say "marry only in the Lord." JWs read: "Marry only the finest pioneeministerial servant/bethelite/eldetop notch JW who loves the org even more than they love you." Yeah, to get all that AND have all the qualities that align with my preferences? No wonder I'm 31 and have never had a serious relationship. I have only ever fallen in (unrequited) love with guys who I found INTERESTING. Never mind their apparent spirituality or dedication to some specific religious doctrine. I want to be able to have real, honest conversations and get to know someone who isn't just trying to put on a facade to please the cult. I've found much higher levels of intelligence and honesty and overall likability among so called "worldly" guys. That appeals to me and maybe one day I'll stand a chance with someone who understands and appreciates me for who I am and where I came from. While I do appreciate that being single is immeasurably better than being in a bad relationship, org-mandated loneliness isn't the solution. I'm 31, but at times I feel that emotionally I'm not a day over 18. Who can say if this is really what was best for me.
The perfectionism. The hamster wheel of activity. The loneliness. The guilt. The boredom. All these things and more that are so deeply embedded and imposed on you in JW world. It cannot be from God. I don't know why I had to go through any of it. I blame my mother. I blame my grandmother. I blame the person who first contacted my grandmother. I feel guilty even typing these words. Maybe I am just selfish or corrupted by the devil. I don't know. I want to scream. I want God himself to just tell me it's okay, that I've done nothing wrong. All I know is I am done. Until I have clear and unquestionable EVIDENCE that this is indeed the way, not just the words of men or the constant emotional torture, I am not going back. I can't. I have let my emotions and my life be hijacked for far too long. I just thank God I never raised any children in this. I never even brought a single person that I know of into the org. I don't want that to be my legacy.
I am done. Screw it all. I've had enough.
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How dare they claim to speak for God, especially on such individual, trivial matters like beards and women's pants and college education? I nearly lost my mind under the weight of all that guilt and sense of obligation as a 20-yr old PIMI college kid. WHERE IN THE SCRIPTURES ARE ANY OF THOSE DUMB VIDEOS JUSTIFIED???? HOW is it okay to make us feel like we're doing something wrong by going after the kind of secular work WE ARE GOOD AT and that WE WANT TO DO????? If it does require a 4-year degree, guess what, that is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. It is MY CHOICE. MY LIFE. Armageddon is NOT here yet. Sue me for just trying to make sure I don't have to wonder when I can afford to eat. I couldn't even feel proud of myself when I graduated and I was gaslit so hard I fully believed it was a problem within me, not the org. I want those years of my life back.
Not only was I made to feel there was something wrong with me going to college, I also believed there was something wrong with me for liking "worldly" guys far more than I ever liked any of the uninteresting, uneducated, or just flat out creepy guys in the org. The scriptures say "marry only in the Lord." JWs read: "Marry only the finest pioneeministerial servant/bethelite/eldetop notch JW who loves the org even more than they love you." Yeah, to get all that AND have all the qualities that align with my preferences? No wonder I'm 31 and have never had a serious relationship. I have only ever fallen in (unrequited) love with guys who I found INTERESTING. Never mind their apparent spirituality or dedication to some specific religious doctrine. I want to be able to have real, honest conversations and get to know someone who isn't just trying to put on a facade to please the cult. I've found much higher levels of intelligence and honesty and overall likability among so called "worldly" guys. That appeals to me and maybe one day I'll stand a chance with someone who understands and appreciates me for who I am and where I came from. While I do appreciate that being single is immeasurably better than being in a bad relationship, org-mandated loneliness isn't the solution. I'm 31, but at times I feel that emotionally I'm not a day over 18. Who can say if this is really what was best for me.
The perfectionism. The hamster wheel of activity. The loneliness. The guilt. The boredom. All these things and more that are so deeply embedded and imposed on you in JW world. It cannot be from God. I don't know why I had to go through any of it. I blame my mother. I blame my grandmother. I blame the person who first contacted my grandmother. I feel guilty even typing these words. Maybe I am just selfish or corrupted by the devil. I don't know. I want to scream. I want God himself to just tell me it's okay, that I've done nothing wrong. All I know is I am done. Until I have clear and unquestionable EVIDENCE that this is indeed the way, not just the words of men or the constant emotional torture, I am not going back. I can't. I have let my emotions and my life be hijacked for far too long. I just thank God I never raised any children in this. I never even brought a single person that I know of into the org. I don't want that to be my legacy.
I am done. Screw it all. I've had enough.
2024.05.14 17:22 Reasonable_Tie_132 Hair rollers?
I’ve been practicing using foam hair rollers. I also have Velcro but don’t love them. I use pins to hold them in because they slip otherwise even with the clip that comes with the rollers.
I have medium length, straight hair and it’s probably normal thickness. I use 1 - 1 1/4 inch rollers. The look I’m going for is like a vintage pin curl brush out. I have other size rollers as well but have just stuck to that size.
My problem is I feel like I’m using so many. I have tried different quantities of hair on each roller and so I’m pretty confident in the amount I’m rolling up. The YouTube videos I’ve watched seem to show women using less than I do by far. I’d say I’m using 18-20. I’m not able to get them into a straight neat line yet like the videos show, so right now they are kind of placed a bit wonky but I do seperate my hair in the suggested sections before starting.
My hair dries very slowly and even after a full night in the rollers it’s damp. I feel like the amount of rollers I’m using is contributing to this. I have yet to get the style I want but I’m going to keep trying.
For ladies who use rollers, does that seem like a lot to use? Normal? Am I just doing it wrong because I’m inexperienced?
Any advice welcome. It takes so long to put them up and take them out.
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I have medium length, straight hair and it’s probably normal thickness. I use 1 - 1 1/4 inch rollers. The look I’m going for is like a vintage pin curl brush out. I have other size rollers as well but have just stuck to that size.
My problem is I feel like I’m using so many. I have tried different quantities of hair on each roller and so I’m pretty confident in the amount I’m rolling up. The YouTube videos I’ve watched seem to show women using less than I do by far. I’d say I’m using 18-20. I’m not able to get them into a straight neat line yet like the videos show, so right now they are kind of placed a bit wonky but I do seperate my hair in the suggested sections before starting.
My hair dries very slowly and even after a full night in the rollers it’s damp. I feel like the amount of rollers I’m using is contributing to this. I have yet to get the style I want but I’m going to keep trying.
For ladies who use rollers, does that seem like a lot to use? Normal? Am I just doing it wrong because I’m inexperienced?
Any advice welcome. It takes so long to put them up and take them out.
2024.05.14 17:19 CheekyMonkey678 We were never prepared for this reality
We know we've all been groomed by popular culture to think marriage and family was the end game, happily ever after and all that bullshit. But in reality that story has never been the norm for the vast majority of women.
Too many of us have not shared the reality of men and dating with our daughters and younger women in our life. We don't want to burst their bubble or destroy hope. But what if our mothers and aunts had been honest with us?
How much heartbreak and trauma could we have avoided if we had known the truth sooner?
Just something I've been thinking about.
Anyway, the most popular video on X the past few days is an older man at a gas station with the pump nozzle up his butt while he wanks - in broad daylight. I don't know why but the depravity of men never ceases to amaze me.
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Too many of us have not shared the reality of men and dating with our daughters and younger women in our life. We don't want to burst their bubble or destroy hope. But what if our mothers and aunts had been honest with us?
How much heartbreak and trauma could we have avoided if we had known the truth sooner?
Just something I've been thinking about.
Anyway, the most popular video on X the past few days is an older man at a gas station with the pump nozzle up his butt while he wanks - in broad daylight. I don't know why but the depravity of men never ceases to amaze me.
2024.05.14 17:15 Writing_badly We're not evening out the genders we're simply flipping the standards.
I am a female, but at this point I feel like we are getting treated better than guys. Special priveledges, better mental health awareness.
I mean come on, how many times have you seen a organization focused on helping women and little girls who were SA'd or r worded. Now how many times have you seen that for men and little boys? I bet not any. And don't say well boys are stronger. For one thing, An adult women could easily abuse a young boy. For another thing these issues are more psychological than most think and it's not always a matter of physical overpowerment (despite her recent controversy, I recommend you watch Illymations videos on her abusive ex. One of the scenes explains this nicely)
We're trying to even the playing field but at this rate all we're going to do is flip the standards. We're not doing this the right way. Something is wrong with the way we're going about this.
I think both genders should be equal, as most people do. But we're not living like that.
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I mean come on, how many times have you seen a organization focused on helping women and little girls who were SA'd or r worded. Now how many times have you seen that for men and little boys? I bet not any. And don't say well boys are stronger. For one thing, An adult women could easily abuse a young boy. For another thing these issues are more psychological than most think and it's not always a matter of physical overpowerment (despite her recent controversy, I recommend you watch Illymations videos on her abusive ex. One of the scenes explains this nicely)
We're trying to even the playing field but at this rate all we're going to do is flip the standards. We're not doing this the right way. Something is wrong with the way we're going about this.
I think both genders should be equal, as most people do. But we're not living like that.
2024.05.14 16:47 StrawberryEvery6367 If Dafuq?!Boom!'s subscriber gains were in it's prime for a whole year straight, he would've been in the top 50 most subscribed YouTube channels by now.
 | You may be wondering, how many subs did he earn in it's peak, what month did he earn the most subs, and what number would he be in the top 50 most subscribed YouTube channels today if this scenario were to be real? submitted by StrawberryEvery6367 to skibiditoilet [link] [comments] When skibidi toilet started to become popular, many people subscribed to Dafuq?! Boom! Because either they're curious or interested in the series. To get to the point, Dafuq?!Boom! Earned 7,710,000 subs in July 2023. Sadly, his subscriber gains slowed down to the point where he only earned 800,000 subscribers per month. But, you know what they say; nothing ever lasts forever (Everybody wants to rule the world - tears for fears reference). This month, he earned 1,100,000 subscribers. Now, imagine this; Dafuq?!Boom! Earning 7,710,000 subs per month for a whole year straight. But wait, there's a problem: what month would he start gaining 7,710,000 subs?! In February 8, 2023, Dafuq?!Boom! Has 1,200,000 subs when he first uploaded the first ever skibidi toilet video in his shorts . If he suddenly started gaining 7,710,000 subs per month after uploading the said video, it would be completely illogical. So, the best and the most logical month would be July, since That's the month he gained subs in is peak. In conclusion: if Dafuq?!Boom!'s subscriber gains were in it's prime for a whole year straight, he would've had 92,520,000 subs by now. He would be in #13.(Got the sub gain information on vidiq top 100 most subscribed YouTube channels, and the screenshot is taken in the YouTube channel named MDM) |
2024.05.14 16:30 Acceptable_Reality81 Ending a Lifelong Friendship-to-relationship with 33F, 30M want advice on how to move forward the feeling of limerence?
I decided to end a 2 years relationship with my lifelong friend over a week ago. It's not the first time we have been through break-ups throughout our 2 years relationship because of multiple reasons. The main one, which I think is the most important is that I really felt like I couldn't be myself anymore in order to be with her. And since I think there was a bit of limerence from my part, I was ready to trade off anything to be with her.
I won't get into details, but things like watching any shows I want, well, just watching tv at all, drive where I want without seeing a billboard of Victoria's Secret, talk to my friends I missed because I couldn't talk to some of them. Don't look at other women (I'm not doing that, but if you walk in front of me, of course I'm gonna see you). All in all, a controlling behavior that really hurt me deeply. It felt like I was constantly being watched, and that's just not cool.
She's all about being socially conscious and woke, which I respect, but there's a limit, you know? I had to draw the line. So, I had a heart-to-heart, shed some tears, packed my stuff, and headed back to my dad's place.
Looking back, it's tough because we had some great times together, and she's genuinely a caring person. I even thought about popping the question at one point. But halfway through, I had to ask myself if this was how I wanted to live my life. Now I'm focusing on therapy, taking care of myself, and catching up on all the stuff I missed out on. I thought of running back to people that are not good for me, and I'm glad I didn't do it. I'm reading books on limerence, watching youtube videos, etc.
Dealing with this sense of loss and emptiness is still a work in progress. I feel the typical thing "I won't be able to trust any one else in my life, etc". How do you cope with all this stuff in your head? Do you guys have any good resources to share? I'm looking forward to reading your comments, it already feels good to get this out of my chest with people.
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I won't get into details, but things like watching any shows I want, well, just watching tv at all, drive where I want without seeing a billboard of Victoria's Secret, talk to my friends I missed because I couldn't talk to some of them. Don't look at other women (I'm not doing that, but if you walk in front of me, of course I'm gonna see you). All in all, a controlling behavior that really hurt me deeply. It felt like I was constantly being watched, and that's just not cool.
She's all about being socially conscious and woke, which I respect, but there's a limit, you know? I had to draw the line. So, I had a heart-to-heart, shed some tears, packed my stuff, and headed back to my dad's place.
Looking back, it's tough because we had some great times together, and she's genuinely a caring person. I even thought about popping the question at one point. But halfway through, I had to ask myself if this was how I wanted to live my life. Now I'm focusing on therapy, taking care of myself, and catching up on all the stuff I missed out on. I thought of running back to people that are not good for me, and I'm glad I didn't do it. I'm reading books on limerence, watching youtube videos, etc.
Dealing with this sense of loss and emptiness is still a work in progress. I feel the typical thing "I won't be able to trust any one else in my life, etc". How do you cope with all this stuff in your head? Do you guys have any good resources to share? I'm looking forward to reading your comments, it already feels good to get this out of my chest with people.
2024.05.14 16:26 sleepyncaffeinated The whole calling other girls "pick-me girl" has gone out of hand... seriously
I (26F) have a past of pick-me girl/NLOG. I had internalised misoginy and mocked girls who used makeup, had lots of female friends and liked to party. But guess what? I was jealous. Because I wanted to be one of them, but I was weird and unattractive, so they didn't welcome me. I found support in the NLOG world, embracing those things that made my female classmates exclude me. In my tweens and teens, I felt better with boys than girls, but guess what? 1) I still had female friends, but they were also weird and outcasts, 2) my male friends were GAY, far from the popular basketball player who falls in love with girls.
I am happy we stopped associating femininity with stupidity, lack of personality or being mean. I am happy we embrace different kinds of femininity and that there are many women with degrees talking about science or philosophy on Tiktok while dressing high-femme, because they are breaking stereotypes like the "dumb bimbo girl". Like, go on.
But this has gone out of hand. We went from "wearing makeup doesn't make you less intelligent, liking pink is not being stupid, partying is totally fine" to "talking about not wearing makeup is being a pick-me, not liking pink is being a pick-me, not liking parties is being a pick-me". While society as a whole made women feel like they had to choose between being pretty and being smart, it also made women feel like they should choose pretty. Women who weren't attractive, had non-feminine interests and/or were neurodivergent went out of the "pretty" box and were rejected. And when they (we) tried to embrace our uniqueness, we are called pick-me?? Okay, tearing other women down as a revenge ("they laugh at me because I am different, I laugh at them because they are all the same") was not okay, and we started to support women being feminine and not telling them vacuous or dumb for doing so. But when will feminine women defend non-feminine women who are not just lesbians (the only females allowed to be non-feminine and alt without being called pick-me)? Why the trend now is to think that if you don't like feminine things and dare to say that (just like saying you don't like pineapple on pizza) you have internalised misoginy?
Not everything women do is for male approval. If your makeup is for yourself and not for being liked by men, why do you think me not wearing makeup in the morning because I am lazy is something I do for boys? Does doing skincare make me less of a pick-me? Also the whole "not partying": don't you think I'll feel more attractive and liked by men if I had a big group of friends and partied every weekend? I am introverted AND shy, I'd love to have more female friends and be less sensitive to noises and lights, but I end exhausted from work and my sole desire is to lay in bed and watch some videos. Not liking "trash TV" is not being snob or an attempt to be more interesting: I find it just dumbening. And liking some anime is not something I wish would make me more appealing to men: I just enjoy some Japanese cartoons. Period.
TL;DR: not being super feminine, liking "traditionally masculine" things and being introverted are NORMAL things and not ways to catch male attention, NOT EVERYTHING WOMEN DO IS FOR MALE ATTENTION.
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I am happy we stopped associating femininity with stupidity, lack of personality or being mean. I am happy we embrace different kinds of femininity and that there are many women with degrees talking about science or philosophy on Tiktok while dressing high-femme, because they are breaking stereotypes like the "dumb bimbo girl". Like, go on.
But this has gone out of hand. We went from "wearing makeup doesn't make you less intelligent, liking pink is not being stupid, partying is totally fine" to "talking about not wearing makeup is being a pick-me, not liking pink is being a pick-me, not liking parties is being a pick-me". While society as a whole made women feel like they had to choose between being pretty and being smart, it also made women feel like they should choose pretty. Women who weren't attractive, had non-feminine interests and/or were neurodivergent went out of the "pretty" box and were rejected. And when they (we) tried to embrace our uniqueness, we are called pick-me?? Okay, tearing other women down as a revenge ("they laugh at me because I am different, I laugh at them because they are all the same") was not okay, and we started to support women being feminine and not telling them vacuous or dumb for doing so. But when will feminine women defend non-feminine women who are not just lesbians (the only females allowed to be non-feminine and alt without being called pick-me)? Why the trend now is to think that if you don't like feminine things and dare to say that (just like saying you don't like pineapple on pizza) you have internalised misoginy?
Not everything women do is for male approval. If your makeup is for yourself and not for being liked by men, why do you think me not wearing makeup in the morning because I am lazy is something I do for boys? Does doing skincare make me less of a pick-me? Also the whole "not partying": don't you think I'll feel more attractive and liked by men if I had a big group of friends and partied every weekend? I am introverted AND shy, I'd love to have more female friends and be less sensitive to noises and lights, but I end exhausted from work and my sole desire is to lay in bed and watch some videos. Not liking "trash TV" is not being snob or an attempt to be more interesting: I find it just dumbening. And liking some anime is not something I wish would make me more appealing to men: I just enjoy some Japanese cartoons. Period.
TL;DR: not being super feminine, liking "traditionally masculine" things and being introverted are NORMAL things and not ways to catch male attention, NOT EVERYTHING WOMEN DO IS FOR MALE ATTENTION.
2024.05.14 16:01 jason_2-22 Why women lie about past
Imagine she meets you and you have the things she looks for. looks wise, character wise, career wise , you are financially stable etc. But she has an extensive past and she knows you saved yourself for marriage.
Her family is pressuring her to get married, she knows her clock is ticking as a woman. She also knows you saved yourself until marriage, so if she’s honest you’ll almost certainly break things off.
You think she’s going to admit her past or she’d rather just lie to get what she wants. Women want to have their cake and eat it. I don’t buy this whole “she’s repented and forgiven” and that she “made a mistake”
Never settle for less
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Her family is pressuring her to get married, she knows her clock is ticking as a woman. She also knows you saved yourself until marriage, so if she’s honest you’ll almost certainly break things off.
You think she’s going to admit her past or she’d rather just lie to get what she wants. Women want to have their cake and eat it. I don’t buy this whole “she’s repented and forgiven” and that she “made a mistake”
- We don’t know if she’s repented and that’s got nothing to do with me , that’s between you and allah.
- Most Zaniyas don’t just committ zina once and regret it. Likelihood is she did it with multiple men, on multiple occasions. I hate the phrase “past is past”.
Never settle for less
2024.05.14 15:55 gone-sugaring “curly hair police”
maybe this is a chronically online take - idk
lately ive noticed that more and more people have started to embrace their curls. obviously there is nothinf wrong with this, everyone deserves to love their natural features :) one thing i have noticed ( especially on tiktok ) is that people will comment “here come the curly hair police” under videos of people with looser curls.. am i wrong for thinking that the “curly hair police” is just an indirect way to call out black women?? under a few of these “curly hair police” comments ive noticed people say “here come the 3c and 4c girlies watch out!!” or just correlating the CHP with tighter curls. obviously anyone can have tight curls/loose curls.. but we all know which race is more likely to have type 4 hair..
on the other hand: i think people ( curly hair police ) comment “you dont have curly hair” “those arent curls” under videos because they were bullied/made fun of for embracing their natural textures and now people are being praised for it, kind of like that quote from PEN15, “Why is ____ special on her and bad on me?” - i’m not sure if any of this makes any sense but i just thought i should share
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lately ive noticed that more and more people have started to embrace their curls. obviously there is nothinf wrong with this, everyone deserves to love their natural features :) one thing i have noticed ( especially on tiktok ) is that people will comment “here come the curly hair police” under videos of people with looser curls.. am i wrong for thinking that the “curly hair police” is just an indirect way to call out black women?? under a few of these “curly hair police” comments ive noticed people say “here come the 3c and 4c girlies watch out!!” or just correlating the CHP with tighter curls. obviously anyone can have tight curls/loose curls.. but we all know which race is more likely to have type 4 hair..
on the other hand: i think people ( curly hair police ) comment “you dont have curly hair” “those arent curls” under videos because they were bullied/made fun of for embracing their natural textures and now people are being praised for it, kind of like that quote from PEN15, “Why is ____ special on her and bad on me?” - i’m not sure if any of this makes any sense but i just thought i should share
2024.05.14 15:44 Dr_Pepper_blood Missing In Oregon: Rebecca Reid abducted at knifepoint on Superbowl Sunday 1997, never seen again
Rebecca Kathleen Reid (Becky) was a 37 year old wife to Dearld Reid and their son was 13 years old in 1997. She had been a graduate of Thurston High School and was described as bubbly and outgoing.
To make ends meet Becky worked at a convenience station located on Highway 99 in Eugene Oregon. At the time the name of the convenience center was the Grocery Cart, and Becky was a manager there.
On January 27th (Superbowl Sunday)at around 1a.m. Becky was doing her closing routine. Probably sweeping and mopping and about to possibly count down her till. From piecing together a couple different descriptions there was either one witness in the store, or a witness just outside the store collecting beer bottles (or possibly both?) that witnessed a man abduct Becky from the store at knifepoint and force her into his vehicle where he drove off with her. She has never been seen again. There is a sketch of the suspect in The Charley Project link.
The suspect was described as a white male late 20s to mid 30s, 5 ft 9 and 165-185 lbs. In 1997 he had shoulder length brown hair and a mustache with face stubble. His vehicle is described as a 70's or early 80s compact or midsize pickup truck with a white canopy. The truck itself was white or light in color and there was a horizontal stripe about 8 inches wide on the driver side door. It was not an extended cab. Neither the suspect or the vehicle were ever truly identified or found.
A month after Becky disappeared a man attempted to abduct another woman from a nearby grocery store at knife point. That woman escaped and a suspect was captured and arrested but when investigators tried to link that man with Reid's case they could not. So he was never named as a suspect.
Dearld Reid was cleared fairly early on. He and his son and the rest of Becky's family like her sister Chris watched days of Rebecca missing turn from days to weeks to months and then, years. With no answers after all this time.
Authorities believe the man was attempting to rob the store at the time that he abducted Becky. But I haven't found any information on whether he actually robbed the place. And if so why take Becky? Could she identify him? Was it someone she knew? Or was abducting a woman more of the motive than robbery?
This case puts me in mind of a couple others across the United States where women are abducted from their late night gas station jobs. I myself worked the same type of jobs in my early 20's.
Besides the fact that Becky was walked out at knife point I have not heard a lot of description of what the eyewitnesses saw just prior to the abduction.
I'm sure Becky's son still wants answers. Someone stole his mother away in 1997 and whatever the motive it robbed a family of a wife, mother, sister, and daughter.
https://charleyproject.org/case/rebecca-kathleen-reid
https://kval.com/news/local/rebecca-reid-cold-case
https://www.wdam.com/video/2023/04/13/cold-case-debrief-wlox-investigates-disappearance-rebecca-reid/
The Eugene Police Department is investigating at 541-682-8888 or 541-682-5835 as well as the FBI at 202-324-3000.
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To make ends meet Becky worked at a convenience station located on Highway 99 in Eugene Oregon. At the time the name of the convenience center was the Grocery Cart, and Becky was a manager there.
On January 27th (Superbowl Sunday)at around 1a.m. Becky was doing her closing routine. Probably sweeping and mopping and about to possibly count down her till. From piecing together a couple different descriptions there was either one witness in the store, or a witness just outside the store collecting beer bottles (or possibly both?) that witnessed a man abduct Becky from the store at knifepoint and force her into his vehicle where he drove off with her. She has never been seen again. There is a sketch of the suspect in The Charley Project link.
The suspect was described as a white male late 20s to mid 30s, 5 ft 9 and 165-185 lbs. In 1997 he had shoulder length brown hair and a mustache with face stubble. His vehicle is described as a 70's or early 80s compact or midsize pickup truck with a white canopy. The truck itself was white or light in color and there was a horizontal stripe about 8 inches wide on the driver side door. It was not an extended cab. Neither the suspect or the vehicle were ever truly identified or found.
A month after Becky disappeared a man attempted to abduct another woman from a nearby grocery store at knife point. That woman escaped and a suspect was captured and arrested but when investigators tried to link that man with Reid's case they could not. So he was never named as a suspect.
Dearld Reid was cleared fairly early on. He and his son and the rest of Becky's family like her sister Chris watched days of Rebecca missing turn from days to weeks to months and then, years. With no answers after all this time.
Authorities believe the man was attempting to rob the store at the time that he abducted Becky. But I haven't found any information on whether he actually robbed the place. And if so why take Becky? Could she identify him? Was it someone she knew? Or was abducting a woman more of the motive than robbery?
This case puts me in mind of a couple others across the United States where women are abducted from their late night gas station jobs. I myself worked the same type of jobs in my early 20's.
Besides the fact that Becky was walked out at knife point I have not heard a lot of description of what the eyewitnesses saw just prior to the abduction.
I'm sure Becky's son still wants answers. Someone stole his mother away in 1997 and whatever the motive it robbed a family of a wife, mother, sister, and daughter.
https://charleyproject.org/case/rebecca-kathleen-reid
https://kval.com/news/local/rebecca-reid-cold-case
https://www.wdam.com/video/2023/04/13/cold-case-debrief-wlox-investigates-disappearance-rebecca-reid/
The Eugene Police Department is investigating at 541-682-8888 or 541-682-5835 as well as the FBI at 202-324-3000.