Alright so I (17f) and my gf (16f) were on my bed making out because we thought my parents left and their location showed that aswell but we didn’t realize they came back home and my mom walked in on us making out and ran to tell my dad. After that my gf quickly called her dad and told him the situation and that she needs to get picked up asap so he’s on the way and I don’t want to be there because of the last time this happened so I’m begging her dad to take me too but he’s like they haven’t kicked you out yet and I don’t want to be labeled as a kidnapper so now I’m calling my best friend to see if she could let me sleep over and she said the same thing and then my gfs dad pulls in and she gets in the car and my parents come up to my room fuming and started screaming and degrading me and my dad was the most pissed of them all and he grabbed one of my bags and hit me repeatedly with it until my mom told him to stop and to go to work and he grabbed my phone and when he left he screamed not in my house so I quickly packed some things and waited for the right moment and I left and I walked 1 mile away to the nearest Panera because of the of the WiFi and I take my school computer out and email my friend to please come pick me up but at that point my parents already called the police and are looking for me so they get there in 15-20 mins and my friend comes in first and tells me your mom and dad are on the way and I start breaking down saying no and my dad comes in and grabs me and goes let’s go get in the truck so I do because I have no other choice and on the way home he once again degrades me and when we get home he parks and tells me this whole speech of like hes doing this for the best of me and he loves me more than anything and he will always be on my Side and that the world is brainwashing me and he gave me my phone and was like promise you will straighten up and tell this girl that you guys can only be friends and that you can’t hang out and I’ll let you guys text because she seems like a good person and I pinkie promised but I’ve never been at such of a low in my life lie we’re together for about 8 months and it just hurts is there anything I can do to Make the situation better (also I would’ve gotten my license next week but they might take away my privileges to do hat too)

Please help me figure this one out... 🙏
I'm F30, I met this M23 on a dating app. I know, I know... What a gap. Anyway. Instant insane connexion. Definitely one of the special encounters, we tick all of each other's boxes on every level, which I think caught us both by surprise and actually scared us a bit because of how fast we were falling for each other.
After the first date (6 hours of talking in the park, then food, then wine at his place), out of himself, he told me he was "totally down to not date anybody else" and on the third, again out of himself, that he's "ready to invest his energy, time and being in me/us. I'm ready to delete the app, and I'm not asking you to do the same back."
"Great, I thought, finally a healthy, emotionally mature guy who knows what he wants and does what it takes to get it!". 😁
I kissed him on the third date (a few hours before his speech) and we hadn't had sex yet. He was never a big texter though and he told me he liked to have alone time because he is an introvert. For me it's hard because I am a passionate person but I respect that.
As I was leaving after our 3rd date, he asked me "let me know when you wanna meet up next week to study together" and I said "well it will have to be after Thursday" and when he replied "oh.." I could tell he might be a little disappointed that it would be in so long. But I didn't say anything. Later that evening (Saturday) he texted me ('hey, I've done this, eaten that, good night') and I... Well... I didn't reply until the next Friday. I know it's long... But I thought that he would be happy to have some space cause we had just spent a whole 24 hours together.
So on Friday I called him, he didn't pick up, but we texted for a bit. The next day we don't text at all and I feel I'm gonna explode... I NEED closeness with him! I text him that I wanna see him, he invites me over, I go to his place.
There - fasten your seat belt - not only do I learn that he had had a date with someone else during the week, but he also had sex with her. 🥳 I asked why and he said "because I felt rejected, and my pride was telling me not to double text you because I thought you would perceive me as weak." Of course I held a whole speech about that going after what you want is exactly what makes you strong, that it's easier to fuck a random stranger or run away from things than taking the phone, swallowing your pride, owning and admitting your feelings and being open, honest and vulnerable. It takes strength and courage to do that. He didn't really say anything to this.
Keep your seat belt on. I asked for a cigarette (I quit a long time ago but fuck it). We went on the balcony and his male flatmate (never seen before) came out to smoke as well. I started to look at him and devour him with my eyes. I wanted to just go kiss him right there in front of that A** but I refrained myself. The roommate went back in, I went to the toilet, A** went to his room. Believe it or not. When I came out of the bathroom the ROOMMATE opened his door and handed me a piece of paper with his phone number on it. I grabbed his hole hand instead of just the paper, pulled him towards me and kissed the shit out of him. He pulled me in his room, closed the door and after a moment asked "are you sure it does not bother him?" "hahaha no don't worry, he doesn't care!" "Are you sure?" "Should we go ask him?". I go to A's room and say "hey... Do you mind if I have sex with your roommate right now?" He bugged. Froze. "Yeah, sure...". I go back to roommate and make out again for another 15 minutes or so. We end up on his bed, I am so not horny but I act like he's the best man in the world. Then I ask "do you have a condom though?" "No.. Do you?" "Oh, no... But I know who might" "😏... Ok go ask him". So I go back and say "sorry, do you have a condom?" "of course, how many do you want? Should I give you two?" "ah... I think three or four should be better" "you're getting two". I go back to roommate's, make out again and then said "oh wait sorry, I forgot something..." and leave the room. I went back to A's, he's on his bed, laptop on the lap, phone in the hands, headphones in the ears. I sit, close his computer, look at him straight in the eye and ask "what does this make you feel?".
And so we started talking. We talked for like 5 hours, until 7 in the morning. And even though there were little hints of "I would like to see you again but I don't know if you would" here and there, it didn't feel like he was making enough effort to fix the mess he made, the trust he betrayed, he never asked for forgiveness or a second chance. In fact he seemed quite numb and apathetic to be honest. He opened up like crazy about his past and deep thoughts though. I realized he has abandonment issues and big old fear of rejection. He has no one and is lonely. I asked him "do you think you might have done what you did because you got scared by the fact that you finally met someone reliable, honest, and trustworthy?" "self sabotage? Yeah... I do that a lot."
I start to get ready to leave, he stands up and comes towards me for a hug, but I stepped back. He says 'ok'. I say "You know.. I just don't get it why you would do something like this after you told me you were ready to not date anybody, delete the app..." "yeah, in the end I deleted it and downloaded it again." "No you didn't." "How do you know?" "Tell me when you did it" "well... Two days after we first met." "But... It was after our 3rd date that you told me you would do it" "oh... Well then I guess I didn't." "Are you lying to me right now?" "Yeah... Yeah actually that was a lie right there...".
More blabla. In the end, he was just getting really tired and couldn't really function properly anymore. He said we could call to talk about this more. Shortly after, I just left, without goodbye.
I know he will never call me back because yeah... He doesn't really fight for what he wants. So... Should I?

So its been hard for me to find a cabinet for the stable (btw i live on a small Island, and you can’t get one over from Ikea…so you can buy one on the Island, build one or get a car and a trailer to the main land and get one over… and thats expensive) So in the stable they ask me why i don’t move my stuff out there? And im like, one of them from the stable some time ago told me that if you don’t have a lock on your cabinet, people will look at your stuff… so thats if i have one! And i don’t! I lost a lot of stuff in my old stable, and im still mad about it… some things, you can’t get anymore. Like a halter from a brand named Gloockler. So jeah, i will not have that to happend once more! And i have been in this stable before! And 3 years ago, my old cabinet was full of soda and snacks for my riders. It was gone! Like all my snacks and sodas, and a halter was gone! Not just a halter, but the halter from my first horse, so i was pist! And now they are saying there have never been anyone taking anything in the stable, yeah right… So what should i say? Without being a total bitch. Btw, i lost gear for over 360 dollars in my last stable…

Hey guys , I'm kind of desperate here , i have tried various things to make money on the side, but to be honest nothing seems to work, it is either falling for a scam, not getting enough traffic, or not having access when it comes to online jobs. As the country I'm in makes it a bit difficult to find such jobs (remote jobs).
I'm 28 with a masters degree in hotel management, with certificates of first aid, Quality auditing (ISO 19011/ISO 9001) , Trained in different areas such as game development, basic architecture.
My current salary, if converted would be less than 300$ a month, enough to eat , but not for rent nor to set anything aside, my current realistic objective is around 50 to 70 thousand $ in savings or returns in the next 2-3 years via online work. The reason for these numbers is that the exchange rate is pretty high, and what would be considered an average salary in the UK/US , if converted is pretty high.
I am seeking your advices and help, I have a very low capital, to not say nit at all (around 50$).
If someone has any ideas for what I can do to move forward or find a remote job, (knowing that I already have a full time job from 8 to 4), I would be greatly appreciative.
Thank you for your time. Please help

In 2020, I was devastated after a rough break-up. I couldn’t concentrate on anything. I would scream and cry in sleep. I knew I don't want him back but could not move on either. After days of intense frustration and having no answers to 'Why?', one night I prayed to Aphrodite. I asked her to relieve me of this burden of pain. I asked for her help.
Immediately after, I felt something wash over me and felt light. My heart felt better and I stopped having nightmares. The pain dulled and eventually went away. I was able to focus on other things and move on. Goddess, you are amazingly inspiring and beautiful.
One month ago a friend reached out to me. His break-up was rougher than mine. His girlfriend did not have the decency to break up respectfully, she called on some of her bros and got him beat up. To his credit, he did good work to heal himself and went back to college. He has got a degree with excellent GPA. It has been three years since the incident, and his mental health never did quite recover. I told him my experience with Aphrodite.
He asked Aphrodite to fix his sleep (among other things, he did not tell me what those were). Today I got a message from him since praying, he is able to sleep without meds. Every night at around 11 pm, he can go to bed and sleep for 7-8 hours. This is a miracle considering he could not sleep without medicines since 2021 and had nightmares when he slept.
Thank you, Goddess. May your beauty shine through me, and may my beauty be the kind to lift people up and encourage them to protect the frail and the vulnerable. Praise to you.

I met this guy friend (26M) at uni and we have been friends for 4ish years now. There was a short period we were very very close. Just over a year ago, I was going through a breakup, and he hosted a party. I got very drunk and we slept together. It was the only time this has happened, but he had kissed me previously and I turned him down. In the middle of us sleeping together, he gave a speech which I thought was a bit weird at the time. It was about how I was the “perfect girl, smart, funny and good looking and would find someone amazing but it wasn’t him”, and went on for a while. I told him that was fine and didn’t really get why he was saying it. We have never ever talked about it. However, at the party, he had invited this girl who I hadn’t met before, and she is now his GF. They started dating shortly after this party, so I assume they must have been talking at the time, and he must have known he was interested. I had no idea that he was in a thing with her at the time, and I didn't find out they were dating until a while later.
On principle the situation kind of pissed me off a bit, as it felt like he’d wanted to sleep with me for a bit, and had wanted to check the box off before he got into a committed relationship. That kind of fucked with me mentally, as I felt like I was hook up but not dating material. I’m absolutely over it now though. I’ve never wanted to date him and honestly, I would not even think about sleeping with him again, even if he was single.
When he got his girlfriend, I took a huge step back from the friendship, I don’t message him to start random convos, and will catch up with him once every so often but mostly in a group. I would never dream of crossing any kind of line or boundary and absolutely respect their relationship. I think they’re a really good match and would never want to do anything to affect that. I also decided that I wouldn’t try and be besties with his GF, and have always been nice to her but have never hung out with her one on one or tried to talk to her about their relationship.
However, there’s been a few occasions which are innocent but if I was his GF I would not be comfortable with. For one, he got drunk at a party and gave me a speech about how beautiful, smart, funny, amazing and wonderful I am and told me I am “any man’s dream girl”. I repeatedly assured him I didn’t need validation, especially from him, and left the conversation. Further, we went on a trip with another friend (which was planned well before they started dating), and he got me to help him pick out a necklace for his gf for their anniversary. He even wanted to try it on me first but I shut it down.
Recently, her and I hung out one on one and we got on really well. I honestly like her better than him and think that we could be super close friends in any other circumstance. Some of my friends think it’s a bad idea to get closer with her because I would be keeping him and I hooking up a secret.
I know he’s never told her about the two of us (he’s never told anyone), and she’s made comments about how it would make her really anxious if she found out he was hooking up with someone or dating someone right before her. I’m not sure if I should tell her - on one hand, I think I would want to know if my BF had slept with one of his girl friends, but on the other hand I think I’d want to know that so I could keep and eye on the situation, and I’d want to hear it from him. I know that I would never even flirt with him let alone sleep with him again and I also wouldn’t want to interfere in their relationship for no reason. If he ever came onto me I’d definitely say something.
Tldr; i slept with one of my guy friends right before he started dating his current girlfriend. I am getting closer with her, and she has no idea that it happened.
Should I say something to her, or distance myself, or is it okay to get closer to her and not tell her?

Hi everyone, I’m a junior in undergrad that wants to go to med school next. I know applications are coming up soon and I was kind of worried about the whole “15 spots” thing. I’m gonna tell you guys what I have so far after finishing up my sophomore year, please tell me what you think.
Optometry Tech and receptionist, pharmacy tech, MA (doing this now), interventional Caridology ENT and pediatrics shadowing, tutoring in Palestine, math tutor for college and elementary students, ESL volunteer tutor, honors program, insurance claims and GPS coordinator for vehicles, and I’m starting research this fall of my junior year.
Also, ik people say to include hobbies too. I was thinking of putting my favorite show to rewind too (golden girls) and the fact that I’ve lived abroad (Jordan and Palestine), and how I went to school there when I was young (3rd grade Palestine; 8-10th Jordan) and how those cultural experiences shaped me.
I’m also learning Spanish and fluent in Arabic, but idk if I should include that.
Can I please get your alls thoughts as to if it matters to include information in all 15 spots? And some things you guys included too, I’m looking for med students to answer.
Thank you

On one hand I am starting to feel more desensetized from the human experience and the general life experience: I mean real talk even if humanity was a utopia, we would all still get our wake up call in life one way or the other:Diseases, injuries, natural disasters, wild animals being assholes(this is why I don't understand the radical empathy this sub has sometimes for non-human creatures, as if THEY'RE ANY better)
On another hand: I wouldn't say I hate humanity with a passion per se, at least that's not me in this case anymore, maybe I used to overdo my misanthropy in my high school days. But there is a part of me that feels criminally disappointed in humanity, from all the failed expectations to the smokescreens and deceptions society pulls on our ass all the time to society's inconsistency with a lot of topics(great example being social justice, you would think with the so called Opression Olympics, that so called marginalized groups would try to band together and actually overthrow our opressors at the top, which are supposed to be so called evil rich white men according them, yet the whole thing reeks of nothing but vulnerable narcissism and everyone trying to weaponize their struggles for personal gain and social status, BUT SHOULD I REALLY BE SURPRISED AS A MISANTHROPE that we resorted to this level of high school thinking, like not even high schoolers do this shit bruh)
On another hand: I am also so desensetized to the point where I don't care what happens to humanity in the long run anymore(which includes me as well), now whether you believe humanity is headed for a downfall or you're a radical optimist who thinks humanity is progressing, I don't care, is not my battle of concern to deal with, so rather than throttling on hardcore pessimism about humanity's status quo, I just engage in a little more contemporary philosophical stoicism about it, but this also means if society were to disappear overnite I could give less of 2 monkey shits. Why should I care? After all the backstabbing, bullying, social discrimination, antagonizing, interpersonal conflict, social ostracism, abuse of authority and violence a lot of people have incited onto me, WHY SHOULD I LOGICALLY THEN CARE TO PRESERVE THIS PARTICULAR SOCIETY OR HUMAN SOCIETY IN GENERAL? Yes I know people with good mannerisms exist, but my trust issues are starting to even get in the way of people with good intentions, I need to get better at vetting my people
On another hand I still have natural and innate urged to want to contribute to society for the better: I suppose some people are more hardcore with their misanthropy and try to go no contact however they can, but me I am still a little charitable in this case, I really am, is because in spite of me being a misanthrope, I am not someone who really wants to see others fail, I am what you would call an unconditional humanitarian, I don't see hierarchies of status or seniority, all people get my unconditional respect, now honor may be a little different here, I am not gonna admire you just for being a decent human being, but I will respect you and still treat you with basic decency, I really try hard to assume innocence, grace and forgiveness out of everyone, yes that even includes my so called worst enemy, in fact because of this reason alone I tried going vegan before but let just say I lack the descipline, however I am trying to eat less in general and only eat more for the sake of nourishment, I guess practicing eating temperance or do longer bouts of fasting (been awhile since I fasted), like yes while I am very justice-driven, I still think everyone should be given and assumed innocence, in fact this is another complaint about modern society that I want to get outta way, we're becoming way too trigger-happy and easily-annoyed as a species: You can't say or do the wrong thing anymore, your ass is micromanaged 247, whether at work, thru your internet consumption or at school, you can longer do mistakes anymore, everything almost ticks people off and gets them demonically posessed with the anger or annoyance levels of a teenager, in fact teenagers are more mature in this regard in my opinion, adults get way too easily offended or annoyed, so much for "growing thick skin", though there also those morons who are overly logical or stoic and use it as a means of being an apatethic demoralizing asshole, but that's really an outlier here, I just wish people in general could be a little less reactive really that's all. I am really one graceful motherfucker if anything society should be more grateful for me than I should be grateful for society
And I guess lastly: None of society's shit surprises me anymore, I just see humanity as one big extension of the life experience. We are advanced apes who wear clothes, have technological expenditures and have conquered civilization of the planet, but we still have the same primal carnal urges as our ancestors: Greed, tribalism, lust, jocking for position, gluttony, overconsumption of resources, fighting for dominance, etc. People are just as predatory as other creatures, but of course we like to hide behind a facade about it. But this is where my contemporary stoicism and misanthropy overlap, by acknowledging that humanity is one big flaming pile of shit, nothing from humanity/society ceases to surprise, amaze or phase me anymore and in fact actually one of the best revenges you can get on this corrupt evil society is literally being happy and content, society wants for the misery trap to get to you, so if you're actually happy and content with your life, keep on expressing it, let those fools who are so focused on chasing power, status and superficial success keep dipping misery onto themselves and you keep one being joyful motherfucker, society has serious contempt for genuinely happy people and it shows
So is all like I am trying to cage it in all at once.
End of rant, thoughts?

Some mental health terms are being used lightly and I'll say my point early on:
Don't fucking use my disorder or anyone else's for that matter to make your vocabulary more "colorful". You might use it to add "spice" or make yourself look interesting but the problem is when you fucks actually come across someone who is dealing with that problem in real life, y'all act dumb as shit and treat it like it's a choice to have a disorder. It's really not.
And also, don't self diagnose. Because a lot of you don't even know what makes up a disorder, it is not just sadness or being a control freak. There is always more to a disorder than what is known about it on a surface level.
Now, FOR YOUR REFERENCE. You can search terms on Google but there are just the loose definitions of the following disorders:
Depression - persistent feeling of sadness, emptiness, numbness, basically a lack of a will to live that lasts more than 2 WEEKS. The opposite of depression is not happiness, it is vitality.
OCD - "long-lasting disorder in which a person experiences uncontrollable and recurring thoughts (obsessions), engages in repetitive behaviors (compulsions), or both."
OCD is not wanting to be clean, it is more extreme. You're just a neat freak is you hate off angle things. You might have OCD if you have repetitive behaviors fueled by irrational thoughts. Like tapping your waistband 5-12 times because you think it will help you ace an audition ("I'm Glad My Mom Died" reference) Trauma - a deeply jarring, depressing, disturbing experience.
NOT EVERYTHING IS TRAUMA FOR FUCK'S SAKE. You watching a scary movie isn't traumatizing. It might be trauma if it unconsciously/consciously affects everything about you as a result. How you make choices, how you live your everyday life. I fucking hated the SAW movies but I don't live in fear of the possibility of getting kidnapped and strapped to a torture device. Therefore it was not traumatizing.
BPD/Bipolar - it's not just fucking mood swings, EVERYONE HAS MOOD SWINGS. The difference between your mood swings vs someone with BPD, is that BPD is absolute fucking chaos where a person is constantly switching between mania and depression.
PLEASE DO RESEARCH ON THIS SHIT.

Are you planning to set new goals for the upcoming year 2024? Do you wish to start a new business? If yes, now, you can consider initiating a new home-based travel business. No doubt, it is not for the overly determined industrialist who has a grand plan to collect millions in funding to try his hand at developing a successful business empire.
If you wish to start something new on a small scale with flexible hours, you can look ahead with a small start-up cost. Still, you can enjoy the potential of generating new part-time or even full-time earnings.
If you are interested then, here are the top 7 Good Reasons to Start A Home-Based Travel Business.

1: Make A Beginning With A Part-time Work

If you wish to make a beginning on a new business, the brand may start earning immediately. In the developing period of the business, you as well as your family will still be required to survive so having the flexibility of beginning very part-time so you can keep the present salary stream is essential.
If you are not presently working, by different means, go full force in trying to speed up the development of the new trade. Are you working with some company at present? With a home-based business, you will face no problem starting your travel business and finalizing the hours based on the current job requirements. No matter, whether it is related to answering an email inquiry from a client searching to book a trip, or contacting a business for quotes, one can manage the jobs during the lunch break, just before or right after work. Say thanks to social media, endorsing your business can be completed at any time of the day as long as there are businesses online.

2: No Fixed Education Or Training Compulsory

It varies on where you plan to have the physical business address, proper training is required which includes a manual and exam to sell travel legally. It is surely used in India. Meanwhile, the course must take more than a few days to a week to get ready for and the exams are available multiple choice. If you do research over the internet about how to start a travel business and generate genuine travel leads, you will come across different courses being promoted. It is not a compulsion and surely not something most present travelers have completed. If you consider that is something you require to familiarise yourself with the industry, you can surely go for it. However, it is not the right way to begin and operate a successful home-based travel trade.

3: Affordable Start-Up Cost

There are lots of reasons that make a home-based travel business quite attractive. Here, the start-up cost is quite minimal. According to your budget, you can customize your business. It is especially right if you join a host agency. The expert will give you the required training and resources that you are training and resources you require for the business. To make a beginning, you need to register for a small business for a couple of dollars according to the resident, and finish a compulsory training course. All you need to pay is a fee small to learn the techniques of the program. The Host Agency will let you sell travel under their legal registration numbers, and vendor business and give you an all-important resource that needs to travel trade from any remote area.

4: Everyone Love To Travel

When everything is ready in the setup, you are all set to endorse the travel business. Once, you are ready with the setup, you can easily endorse your business; there is no need to wonder if somebody will be willing to the product. No doubt, travel is considered a universal language, and everybody adores speaking it. All you require is to find and calculate what small niche within this giant business you wish to focus on and discover the people who are involved in the area. If you can do that, your client will face no problems during the travel. It becomes easy to support them in making their travel plans.

5: No Need To Have A Physical Office

Surely, it is a good fact that if you search for a home-based business, there will be no need to buy or rent some office space. It implies that you don’t need space to store office equipment. You do not require clients to walk in, and you don’t require housing a lot of staff. Moving a travel business from home has none of these needs as all that is necessary is for you to have a working PC, the internet, a mobile phone, and an email address. The above-mentioned points will surely help you with the right business solution without investing huge money.

6: The Benefits Are Just Wonderful

Some of the people begin their own travel businesses. Not for the extra earnings, but to enjoy the countless unbelievable travel perks that will make their life better. Tours and travel business ideas often get to contribute to all cost-paid or heavily discounted site examination trips to resorts at the renowned tourist ends in the world. Airlines and former travel product vendors offer “traveling business ideas” discounted costs for personal bookings. Moreover, you get to spend your work hours researching and educating personally about hundreds of unbelievable destinations and products. They make things simple for you to plan your trips with any finances.
Conclusion
No doubt, tours, and travel are some of the most popular and biggest consumer industries across the world and have huge annual revenue. It implies unrestricted earning potential, and one can make as much as one wishes.

A person was recently asking on how to identify fetichization in yuri. And I gave an answer which I felt I maybe wanted to share on a bigger scale. Mainly because I feel there are many misconceptions and damaging oversimplification of this issues. And I fear too often purity culture is the choice for people as it offers a simple and easy to follow guide to right and wrong in sexuality. And gender essentialism and damaging stigma can fester in it.
Fetichization is a complex line that people often paint wrong. And it is very vibes based, but when done in high ammounts it is definitely a problem on a large scale in a lot of genres. Also women can partake in it to. As no alosexual or certain greys of ace people are trully free from the constructs that make our understanding of sex and atraction.
And there is also the very negative purity culture that in trying to further themselves from fetichization as a whole, reinforces gender esentialism, by creating a false dichotomy in how women and men enjoy sexuality. It's not a problem of "how", but "how much" as the thing is the entitlement inherent to men in patriarchy allows them to completely dehumanize the subjects of their atraction, but that means women if entitled enough can also forget to draw this line. Meaning fetichization is to some degree a part of sexuality as a whole, it is part of sexual enjoyment for everyone.
An example that I think shows the failure in how we understand this issue. Would be "life of Adelle", which my mom, a cis woman, thought was the hotest thing she had ever watched and ended ultra turned on by a movie acussed of being "fetichized". The thing is both things are true to a degree, it is male gazy and fetichized, but a woman also partakes in that when sexually engaging with any person. Though the creation of said movie being super fucked, and the sexualization of minors, makes it even more complex of an issue and hard to discuss (And a whole different thing to talk about on societies obsession and fetichization of teens)
In Bl it is always easy to see when men are being fetichized as you'll see women writers put disfunctional vaginas in mens assholes, you often read descriptions of an asshole being wet and lunbricated on it's own, when assholes don't secrete natural lubricants, and sex depends on good lubrication and dilatation even more than with vaginas.
In the case of GL it's a thing of what is the focus in. How much do they dance arround bisexuality not for actual real representation or ever calling it by the name but to make the women available to men (bisexual rep is often way better in korean manwha), how often they end as "very good friends", or if the point is to make them "pure uwu" which falls into the gender essentialist notion of women being pure in opossition to men (being sexual). These are more or less clear signs, and women are less likely to be doing this (though again, they can). When it comes to sexual stories and porn it's even more complicated to make clear lines, so the following signs are super subjective and less likely to be fully pinpointed on a gender identity (outside of the obvious "they only have sex to train each other for a man"). But I'd say too much focus on boobs, and balloon boobs can be a sign. Too much scissoring as well says a lot. And when I say vibes based, it is what it is: The way they kiss can say a lot, the way they explore eachothers bodies, it's subjective and really hard to actually pin-point.
But in short you are entitled to sexual enjoyment, and that will come with a level of fetichization, no matter gender identity or sexuality. There will always be a need for balance between projection and fetichization and the real humans behind it. And not deconstructed men will easily let their ideas proyected onto women be the only thing that matter.
TLDR: The important thing is to be able to recognize the human behind your sexual projections. But most humans will experience atraction in very similar ways.

Hey everyone, this post is long, so only read it if you want to, I just kind of want to put my own thoughts out there as a long time Addams fan who is also a fan of ‘Wednesday’ and why I feel that way. I apologize in advance for the long post.
So I’ve always been a big Addams Family fan, I have the 1964 sitcom series on dvd, a bootleg dvd of the 1998 “The New Addams Family” series, and the 90’s movies with Christina Ricci on Blu-Ray.
When ‘Wednesday’ came out on Netflix, I hadn’t actually watched any of the previous stuff in awhile, it was just sitting on the shelf. I loved the first season of Wednesday and it drove me to do a refresher, so I recently just got finished doing a binge of my entire Addams collection. Recently just finished my re-Watch of ‘Wednesday’ season 1, to see if the knowledge of all the previous Addams stuff fresh in my head would make me hate the new show and I confess…it doesn’t.
Sure it’s different, but why can’t it be seen as an alternate universe take on the brand rather than comparing it to everything that came before? Why can’t it be appreciated as its own separate standalone Addams thing? I fully believe you can be a long time of of everything from the 1960’s to to 90’s and still be a fan of ‘Wednesday’. I don’t believe that it has to be one or the other. I still like the show after the re-watch binge of everything and yes, I confess I’m absolutely hyped for season 2.
What I’m going to say next may sound crazy, but it’s just personally how I feel. I feel that a different take on the Addams universe that was a bit more serious, and darker, with more drama like this, was a good idea, a good experiment at trying something new, rather than making another completely family friendly comedy focused kind of adaptation.
Everything that came before is still there and it isn’t ruined by the existence of ‘Wednesday’, I believe ‘Wednesday’ can exist in co-existence with everything else, and be seen as, like I said, a kind of alternate universe Addams story,
I’ve seen Wednesday compared to Riverdale and considering I watched Riverdale beginning to end, I’d say Wednesday at the very least is a masterpiece of a show compared to the slop that “Rivershit” was. However I’m aware that when it comes to “Rivershit”, there is no bar to get over, the bar is laying on the ground actually.
Why did I watch the entire series of “Rivershit”? I definitely feel the need to defend myself here lol. Make no mistake, quality wise it’s one of the worst shows ever made, even by CW standards, though the first few seasons were “ok” at best. I watched it because as someone who is 35, and an Archie fan who grew up with tons of Archie comics as a child, I couldn’t help but be drawn to it, for nostalgia, and then I stuck with it as a guilty pleasure entertainment, laughing at how it was so bad it was good from beginning to end. If there’s anything positive about “Rivershit” to say, is it’s so unbelievably and terribly bad that it’s hilariously entertaining which also makes it good.
‘Wednesday’ at the very least, is a masterpiece compared to whatever “Rivershit” was trying to be. I’d even argue that ‘Wednesday’ is still a higher quality show than most of the CW stuff it gets compared to. I feel that ‘Wednesday’ at least tries to put a genuine effort in to be a good show and tell a solid story and I got invested in her and Enid’s dynamic and growing friendship (that Wednesday would never admit to).
Make no mistake though, Wednesday isn’t perfect by any means, and I know that it’s easy to get over the bar that’s “Rivershit” when the bar is laying on the ground and can be just stepped over, but while ‘Wednesday’ may be imperfect, I don’t think it’s a garbage or trash show by any means.
I’m aware I’ll probably get a lot of downvotes for this, but I just wanted to give my personal take on this. You don’t have to agree but I still ask for kindness or civil responses. We’re all real people behind these keyboards, and all of your opinions count regardless if you don’t agree with me and all of your opinions are absolutely valid opinions worth discussing. We all have different things we enjoy and that’s ok.

I like it but I had never played it because, I have things to say about it:

• 1: It has Sumireko as the main protagonist.
• 2: It's like Touhoumon, Shin Megami Tensei and Etrian Odyssey all combined together into a single, one cool Touhou RPG fangame.
• 3: There are PC-98 characters in it. Hipster :>
• 4: There's some (or most or a few, IDK) funny references between certain cutscenes. Like, when you get to the pre-dialogue of the Meiling boss battle, and when she asks if Sumireko is a sleeper (term for the in-game enemies) or not, there's actually a third response which said "Sus Amogus". (Darn, Sumi been playing Among Us?)
• 5: Because the reason why Sumireko never talk during cutscenes is because, she's a silent protagonist. (me when Sumireko has no mouth)
• 6: There are Yukkuris in the game but they are rare enemies, so it's pretty hard (or not if you're lucky) for you to battle those.
• 7: The portraits for the glasses-wearing characters (Sumireko, Mamizou and Rikako) has their glasses being opaque. Maybe the artist doesn't want them to be cuter without making them transparent, I think?
• 8: In the true ending of ADiA (or ending C, which I think what the game calls it), there's a shot of Sumireko taking a selfie with Shinki.

And I think that's all. Now what about your opinions, guys?

I (F22) was having a phone conversation with my boyfriend (M23) and he was ranting to me about what was going on in his moms house. To get context his mom opened her arms to a lot of our friends to live there when they didn’t have a place to stay. A lot of people, even my boyfriend (her son) left except 1 friend, and the rest of the house was replaced by family members. This one friend is tired of staying because of the disrespect in the house towards my bfs mom and him with being too loud, ect. he found himself a place and is planning to leave before the lease ends in july. My bf is complaining to me how he thinks he should stay because they all agreed to stay until that time and it’s just 2 more months. I really held my tongue on what I really wanted to say because i’m trying to be sympathetic with his situation so I said, “I don’t think it’s his responsibility to stay if he didn’t want to and maybe you and your family members should find a way to take care of his portion of $500.” What I really wanted to say was that yes they opened their arms to let his friends stay their but they have the option to leave when they didn’t sign a written contract, only verbal and i guess good faith they would stay. My bf (her son) even decided to leave and the house is in his name as well leaving his mom with the bills. He also knew his mom was dying 4 years ago with a terminal illness and decided to move out 2 years ago. I feel like if it was my situation I would’ve stayed and wouldn’t burden my mom to take care of her financial situations and wouldn’t ask my friends for help. Especially when they don’t have to follow a verbal agreement and then try to force one person to stay because I decided to not be responsible and get a new apartment hours away from home instead of staying by her side. Personally my mom wouldn’t let me be in the situation where I have to take care of her financial issues but if I had to I would drop everything and do what I could vs leaving it to my friend when I was the one who left. There are family members that stay there as well, there are family members who come to visit that can help with the $500 lost when the friend moves out. I just thought it was unfair for our friend to put that on him when my bf left as well knowing the situation and allowed other people to leave. and his excuse is “i stay at my new apartment i don’t have the funds to do it, my aunt doesn’t even pay rent now she ask her new boyfriend to pay it.” Thats a horrible excuse in my opinion and im a logical thinker and very proactive in decisions dealing with close family members and my life so that really just pissed me off. Because if someday I was to marry him and i turn sick or our children turn sick how would he handle it. Maybe I should’ve kept my mouth shut and listened to him rant but he always feels like I don’t say much when he rants and it’s because I do not agree with a lot of how he handles things and that’s me having sympathy for his situation by not giving my opinion. I think I was just fed up this time and just started sharing my opinion without even thinking about it. but, as a true friend and girlfriend I can’t sugar coat everything and i’m not going to agree with everything. So, i’m going to give a logical opinion that will hopefully help him realize that he gotta step up to the plate and not depend on other people to fix his problems. After the conversation transpired he hung up on me(which i thought was very childish) and we havnt spoken for 2 days. I was going to reach out and swallow my pride because he needs support right now but in a discord this girl texts his name wrong and then retypes it and he responds with the same thing and she says she drunk texted him. She has his number to do that privately and she barely responds in the discord. But, why is this girl drunk texting you. very off topic but that just seemed weird as if they were trying to get at me or something is happening. Overall i feel bad that i hurt his feelings but it needed to be said because his friend are gonna sugarcoat it and not tell him how it is.

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She looks like Jennifer Doudna, literally:
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What if?
What if the lipo-nanoparticles and the ACE2 gene-silencing CRISPR RNA-gene-drive 'inoculation' program are part of Club of Rome's Odum's "reduce America's population by 2/3rds hopefully voluntarily by 2030?" What if this was and will become Utopia? What if Deagel's 2025 population statistics that accounts for this 2/3rds population reduction, which was sponsored by Kissinger, the Rockefeller foundation and Edwin Deagle Jr., knows more about this?
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"The analysis of the SARS-CoV-2 structure in light of the functioning of the CRISPR-Cas9, Cas12a and CasX mechanism suggests that the virus is man-made through genetic modification. [...] Covid is not acting like other viruses and many various symptoms in human body have been observed. [...] The modifications in the backbone’s phosphate group induced by CRISPR engineering create a highly imbalanced state. The entropy and therefore the repulsion forces strongly dominate in this type of virus."

What if they gave you AIDS and sterilized you? What if the optimal CRISPR-Cas9 lock-on markers out of any nGG, ie markers for future gene editing, was part of the plan? And hopefully none of this is sexually transmissible. Sticking a peen in an Extinction Level Event... is it worth the risk? We should ask Ian this. He did look grayer after screwing Jessica.
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Utopia (UK):

• "SARS doesn't exist."
  
• "The planet can support only 1 billion."
  
• "We leave 5 to 8% unaffected."
  
• "Janus consists of protein and an amino-acid." (CRISPR)
  

I chose my own people."

Spikeopathy’: COVID-19 Spike Protein Is Pathogenic, from BOTH Virus and Vaccine mRNA

https://mdpi.com/2227-9059/11/8/2287

The modification of mRNA with N1-methylpseudouridine for increased stability leads to the production of spike proteins for months.'

Uncanny similarity of unique inserts in the 2019-nCoV spike protein to HIV-1 gp120 - withdrawn (January 2020)

https://biorxiv.org/content/10.1101/2020.01.30.927871v1

Amino acid residues in all the 4 inserts have identity or similarity to those in the HIV-1 gp120 or HIV-1 Gag."

What's the common denominator? European DNA. The injection is ethnically adjusted to deplete ACE2-expression of European DNA but not those carry k26r polymorphism, ie. Ashkenazi J's and the Amish.
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Where is ACE2 located? Also in mitochondria, the cell's battery. Why cancer? CRISPR, mitochondria and p53 disruption, oxidative stress. Once modRNA gets into cells, they're released to hijack cell's machinery to produce full-spike proteins, endlessly. Spike proteins downregulate ACE2-protein expression of mitochondrias and silence p53 the guardian of genome. And the CRISPR Cas9/Cas12a awaits for gRNA to act.
An idea of giving cells the instructions to synthesize pathogenic spike-protein to develop immunity is imbecilic in the first place. But urging people to get one without a prescription promising getting back to normal (that's been destroyed for this purpose) - a crime.
But Rockefeller's (Rockefellos) Cub of Rome would never think of doing anything like this. The network in Utopia is fictional, right? Read Kissinger report, read the Jaffe memo!
Rockefeller's Population Council:

"fertility control agent' designed to lower fertility in the society by 5 to 75% less than a present birth rate; to be included in water supply in urban areas." (1969).

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You see, just like women refused to smoke in public until they saw it as a form of liberation. Covid is our liberation. If things go to plan. We won't know for many years.
The public would never support the most powerful men working to reduce the numbers of the "lower class" until we saw OURSELVES as a deadly virus to the planet. That's been the goal from the get-go.
In the population control document that Rockefellers sponsored it suggests multiple methods of involuntary sterilization such as adding “fertility control agents” to water supplies, temporary sterilization of all young women “via time-capsule contraceptives,” and compulsory sterilization of men with three or more children.
Those are just ideas they floated, it's not like they ever funded or implemented them. It's not like they made an anti-fertility vaccine! They did.

Its not like they ever went thru with an actual involuntary roll out of this tho, we woulda heard about it!

You might have seen this 2014 story "debunked." In 2014, Kenyan doctors found traces of HCG in Tetanus vaccines being distributed by WHO/funded by Gates. Why is this important?
HCG is the same pregnancy hormone that is used in conjunction with Tetanus in that SAME ROCKEFELLER FOUNDATION FUNDED INDIAN INFERTILITY VACCINE. Doctors in the Philippines and Mexico also claimed to have found HCG in their WHO distributed Tetanus vaccines in the 90s (they did). The WHO didn't fund the development of that Indian vaccine (BECAUSE THE ROCKEFELLER FOUNDATION DID)!
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It is important to note that this Anti-fertility vaccine has been in development since 1988 thru 2014 to this day.
It does appear as if the Rockefellers have implemented their "involuntary fertility control" and have used Tetanus vaccines as cover to test this pet project of theirs, but that's speculation.
The goal of the network also reminds me of "Children of Men," originally published in 1992 and set in England in 2021.
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"Armageddon Begins - Russian Detonates Nuclear Bomb, Kazakhstan Annihilated." The newspaper reads in opening of the film.
Children of Men' (2006) Plot - In the year 2027, after 18 years of total human infertility, war and global depression have pushed society to the point of collapse as humanity faces extinction.

Did you know that "Children of Men" was written by Phyllis Dorothy James, referencing Pat Frank's "Mr. Adam" and "Alas, Babylon" written back in 1950s?
Given the quality of sperm declining due to fluoride, chemical exposure and such, and mRNA-medicine affecting fertility of men and women, that's the exact match.
Joel E Cohen, the Rockefeller University Professor on Population heavily acknowledged the significant drop in fertility rate of white populations in US and EU, explaining driven immigration to sustain the level and boost 'economic prosperity.' As the saying goes, Just as the Egyptians made G‑d’s firstborn (the Israelities) suffer, G‑d punished - measure for measure - the Egyptians’ firstborn. All the firstborn would lose the life-energy that until then kept them alive." This is the 188th Mitzvah and accompanies the gene drive which is Janus to a T. Bye, bye!
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Angiotensin-converting enzymes (ACE) play a dominant role in fertility (2013):

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24152441/
To solve population bomb, just sterilize the entire world with:

• release bioengineered disease binding and exploiting ACE2
  
• silence gene expression through CRISPR-Cas9 mRNA
  

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CRISPCas9 gene drives in genetically variable and nonrandomly mating wild populations (2017)

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28560324/

A drive targeting Ace2 might therefore conceivably be used for direct population suppression.”

DARPA invests $100m in gene-drive technology - new gene-editing technology, which many people fear could lead to deliberate and unintended damage on a huge scale (2017):
https://eandt.theiet.org/content/articles/2017/12/darpa-invests-100-million-in-gene-drive-technology/…
Harvard, Wyss Institute - CRISPR-Cas9: Gene-drive:
https://wyss.harvard.edu/media-post/crispr-cas9-gene-drives/

Little is known about the role of p53 in the regulation of ACE2. An earlier study reported that p53 suppresses the replication of coronavirus through ACE2 degradation in humans.”

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And to conclude, Epstein associate George Church, who said arranged marriages using gene sequencing as Haredim have been doing is ideal; Epstein associate Martin Nowak - Evolutionary dynamics of CRISPR-Cas9 gene drives (2016)...
https://biorxiv.org/content/10.1101/057281v1.full
...with Matthew Liao, want to design humans using gene editing.
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The Rockefeller Foundation - Bionics, Transhumanism, and the End of Evolution (2019):

https://foresightfordevelopment.org/video-library/bionics-transhumanism-and-the-end-of-evolution
Here's the end; how fun it will be, how fun, indeed:
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In Grant's drawings it says they put the ghost cell in the buffalo and the man eats the buffalo and rots. People won't physically rot from consuming the food, they'll just be sterilized when they take the vaccine, or they will, because Prions.
Like I'm crazy so don't take too much of what is posted here that seriously, but do if your life depends on it.
Utopia experiments manuscript was the plot for 2025. I'm shaking in my socks.

I read acotar a while ago and forgot abt it until I got back into it a yr ago..when I went online to read comments and art...I found a lot of gwyn. I was excited...I thought it's a new major character - safe to say when I actually read acosf I was majorly let down abt the fake hype
So I know there's a massive ship war going on, this post is unrelated to the that. This is talking abt gwyn and her character being hyped up to something she isnt as a whole being quite ...ridiculous
Let's start with her introduction- Sjm had written her inspired by her real life friend as a support system to nesta. Let me say this first. Gwyn and emerie don't know Nesta all that well. They are card board copies to being Nesta's yes girls. They don't know her ugly and cruel sides as well as feyre and elain do . So I do think if Nesta were to show them her true biting nature - they would ditch .
Now to gwyn. I don't think I've seen a character given more personality then gwn by a fandom before. I've seen draco malfoy become a simp for hermione granger in fanon but those fans do understand that it is just crack.
I'm going to say this...gwyns abuse and what she suffered was terrible and no one should be forced to live through that. I admire how she's getting out of her shell, is making friends and is healing . what emerie went through was just as heart breaking and I'm glad that whilst Nesta is awful to her sister's...she's good to these 2 girls and have helped in their recoveries. be it through reading books or chilling in massive baths..it's healing so good for them. this post is focused on the toxicity in this fandom
With gwyn ,fans have given her so many characteristics that they grasped onto from very little information given to us from the book itself. Some believe she's the heiress to the day court. Some believe she's a siren. Some believe she can have bat babies because her bones are pliable ?? Just to point out - her hips aren't going to evacuate the room to birth a bat child. Some abuse her trauma and abuse to hate on other people and characters in the book.
If you love a character well and good- but bolster a character that was just properly introduced to bully others is sad. People have written essays as to why gwyn would be a good mother to nyx and not feyre...why gwyn should look after nyx. Why gwyn should yell at feyre over nyx? I don't understand where all of this comes from. Feyre and gwyn haven't even met ..why would she lecture her high lady on maternal instincts ? The women who nearly died to birth her son ? Why create this image of gwyn that doesn't exist.
Now to gwyn in acosf.
She was initially rude to Nesta- which Nesta enjoyed coz she's weird like that. But can we talk about how she 1. Didn't respect Nesta's request for secrecy and ran to tattle to merril ? And 2. Her instance to reach the top of the mountain which was extremely dangerous for not just her but all three women? She was carried ... due to her stubbornness. Which was extremely dangerous. Being competive is one thing...endangering your friends ...an entirely different thing. This is the character we saw...an entirely different version to the fanon gwyn created. Canon gwyn was slightly naive and not very reliable. Fanon gwyn is going to rule velaris ?
Now - I also want to question why absolutely no head canons like this exist for emerie ? She gets no love from fans like Nesta and gwyn. shes the forgotten valkyrie . Why don't we see people saying emerie should berate feyre on motherhood. Who even thought feyre should be berated for her parenting style? We barely saw nyx and feyre I truly do believe the fandom had run rampant with imagination due to having no new book for 3 years. I truly hope the next book is announced soon so all the enemosity dies down in the fandom...but I know that's me being naive

Before I get things started, I’d like to say that I(22M) am from a rather conservative country, I am a virgin, and this is my first relationship.
It’s been around 6 months since I started dating my 22F girlfriend, we have a 1000km distance, but we’re both students and are not financially independent yet. I just needed some advice as I just feel like this keeps going around my head and I’d like to articulate it better for myself while receiving advice from the more experienced people on this subreddit.
To start things off, This isn’t my girlfriend’s first relationship and she’s been in relationships for a while now, she started dating somewhat young (for my country at least, or maybe I have been too closed off to realize) and she said she’s had sex from a year or two and has had a few ex-boyfriends she’s mentioned to me before whom she slept with and she’s also had a few friends with benefits (I found out about this later)..
I knew she wasn’t a virgin before we started dating and It does not matter to me if she wasn’t a virgin, because she’s dating me and choosing me and I do have some self-confidence and am a bit secure with who I am to let it bother me much.
I love her a lot and would love if this relationship lasted a long time and even hope to marry her and build a home with her someday.
Around 2 months back, she told me that she did not want to sleep with me till we got married and when I first heard this, I was quite taken aback, especially since I didn’t think she cared much about that due to her history and I don’t care much about it either (I’ve had my share of mental issues and felt that it wouldn’t be right to date anyone with those level of issues, so decided to not date anyone till I met her..).
This turned into a somewhat large argument and we were supposed to have a few days free and were planning on talking and video calling for those days, but we ended up arguing a bit, I was just feeling very mentally messed up and trying to process everything and I did get a bit cold and kind of withdrew into myself.
When I asked her for the reason, she said she didn’t know and then later said that she wanted a serious relationship with me and “I’m not like her playboy ex-boyfriends”and that she “doesn’t want to introduce me as a person she slept with to her parents” and wants to “respect them by not sleeping with me” while these ideas aren’t too uncommon amongst the younger generation of my country, I didn’t think she would have such thoughts because then why do it with a few others and then not with me? (I don’t think I am entitled to sleep with her, nor do I feel it’s my right or anything like that, I wouldn’t want her to do anything with me if she doesn’t wish to, I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I knew I forced someone into having sex with me when they don’t want to.)
When we went further into this discussion, she asked me if sex was something so important to me and if I just wanted her for her body and not for who she is and that kind of things, which made little sense to me, as why would I be in a LDR if I just wanted sex?
Anyways, after a while, she kept apologizing and was like if you want to we can do it. (and that wasn’t the conclusion I wanted, I just wanted her to tell me some real reason why she doesn’t want to do anything with me, I forgot to mention, but she called our relationship an online one and that hurt me quite a bit (she later said that she didn’t mean it that way and meant it as a LDR).
After a day or two, I kind of decided to just not think about it, because she just kept apologizing and I felt like I was hurting her by continuing the topic.
A few weeks after she talks about the house of some guy she was “more than friends with” I didn’t know about this before and thought she only had sex in relationships (again, my country is quite conservative and maybe I am too closed off** to have had considered this before) and that kind of got to me, because whenever she said anything about people wanting her only for her body and that kind of stuff, I kind of felt like she was coerced into sleeping with her ex-boyfriends (I understand that I might have tried to rationalize what was going on and made up stories), and imo a friends with benefits is where you just have sex and it’s quite consensual, to say the least.
Now, a week back, I just wanted to bring this topic up again and I kind of messed up with the timing as we both were quite tired and I hadn’t slept properly in a while.. at the same time, I was feeling a bit guilty because I did fantasize about sleeping with her when we met even though I agreed to her boundary.
She told me she was confused and why I still thought about this topic and stuff like that and she asked me if I “didn’t like anything else about her apart from her body” and “what would I do if she had any physical deformities and she couldn’t have sex with me”( she said this when we first spoke on this too), she then said that she isn’t a touch person like I am and me thinking about such things out of the blue is quite strange to her.
All this has kind of led me to feel like I am ugly (which I don’t feel anymore, apart from the occasional intrusive thought) and whether she doesn’t want to sleep with me because she thinks I’m not the right person for her or maybe she thinks I am not good enough and so on...
She later said that she doesn’t want to have sex because she hates her body and how she looks and that she is carrying trauma from her past relationships because her ex-boyfriends slept with her and left her, I obviously understand this.. till a few days later she again said that we wouldn’t have sex till marriage. So I don’t know what’s really going on in her mind. Is she uncomfortable with me?
I understand that this might be a “Me” problem or something I am doing wrong or just overthinking and over analysing things and ending up with a wrong conclusion. I’m just confused I guess.
TLDR: My long-distance girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex with me even though she has had sex before (She later (after a month, when asked) said it is because she hates her body*). I felt hurt by this and it makes me feel very unwanted. I love her and I want to be with her, but I keep thinking about this and it’s making me lose my self-esteem and confidence as I feel like I am not good enough.
*I felt not including this in the TLDR would make it seem as though I am only telling my side of the story
**by closed off I mean I’m quite introverted and just stay home a lot and my parents are somewhat strict too (her parents are much stricter btw)..
I don’t know what I should do, I love her and I understand where she’s coming from, but this is kind of eating at me, whenever I feel low or am having a slightly bad mental health day my feelings of being not good enough or not the right person or that I am not wanted keeps creeping back up and starts shaving away at my self-esteem and the more I think about it the worse I feel.
Should I just stop thinking about this and pretend everything is okay with me? Am I not understanding enough? Do you think I can do something better? Should I talk about this topic again? (my girlfriend has exams for a few weeks now, so I would most likely hold off the topic until then, at the same time I might go to see her in June and I don’t know how that would work if we have such a conversation before this.)

Ever since I joined Reddit, I've noticed a trend that's hard to ignore. It seems like every time a man dares to express his preferences in relationships or arranged marriage, he's instantly labeled as a misogynist. It's frustrating, to say the least.
But here's the thing: having preferences doesn't make you a bad person. Whether it's wanting someone with a clean past or a homemaker, it's okay to know what you want in a partner.
So, to all the men out there, I say this: be proud of your preferences. Don't let anyone make you feel ashamed for knowing what you want in a relationship. As some wise folks with two X chromosomes rightly say, if someone isn't adding value to your life, it's okay to move on.
Remember, having preferences doesn't make you insensitive or narrow-minded. It's about finding someone who aligns with you
And don't worry in your bad times your parents are there for you they won't let you fall in any circumstance
Around 10M million marriages take place every year in India don't feel that you should be with that girl if he's not adding any kind of value and ofc value should be according to you as you're choosing her.

I (F22) was having a phone conversation with my boyfriend (M23) and he was ranting to me about what was going on in his moms house. To get context his mom opened her arms to a lot of our friends to live there when they didn’t have a place to stay. A lot of people, even my boyfriend (her son) left except 1 friend, and the rest of the house was replaced by family members. This one friend is tired of staying because of the disrespect in the house towards my bfs mom and him with being too loud, ect. he found himself a place and is planning to leave before the lease ends in july. My bf is complaining to me how he thinks he should stay because they all agreed to stay until that time and it’s just 2 more months. I really held my tongue on what I really wanted to say because i’m trying to be sympathetic with his situation so I said, “I don’t think it’s his responsibility to stay if he didn’t want to and maybe you and your family members should find a way to take care of his portion of $500.” What I really wanted to say was that yes they opened their arms to let his friends stay their but they have the option to leave when they didn’t sign a written contract, only verbal and i guess good faith they would stay. My bf (her son) even decided to leave and the house is in his name as well leaving his mom with the bills. He also knew his mom was dying 4 years ago with a terminal illness and decided to move out 2 years ago. I feel like if it was my situation I would’ve stayed and wouldn’t burden my mom to take care of her financial situations and wouldn’t ask my friends for help. Especially when they don’t have to follow a verbal agreement and then try to force one person to stay because I decided to not be responsible and get a new apartment hours away from home instead of staying by her side. Personally my mom wouldn’t let me be in the situation where I have to take care of her financial issues but if I had to I would drop everything and do what I could vs leaving it to my friend when I was the one who left. There are family members that stay there as well, there are family members who come to visit that can help with the $500 lost when the friend moves out. I just thought it was unfair for our friend to put that on him when my bf left as well knowing the situation and allowed other people to leave. and his excuse is “i stay at my new apartment i don’t have the funds to do it, my aunt doesn’t even pay rent now she ask her new boyfriend to pay it.” Thats a horrible excuse in my opinion and im a logical thinker and very proactive in decisions dealing with close family members and my life so that really just pissed me off. Because if someday I was to marry him and i turn sick or our children turn sick how would he handle it. Maybe I should’ve kept my mouth shut and listened to him rant but he always feels like I don’t say much when he rants and it’s because I do not agree with a lot of how he handles things and that’s me having sympathy for his situation by not giving my opinion. I think I was just fed up this time and just started sharing my opinion without even thinking about it. but, as a true friend and girlfriend I can’t sugar coat everything and i’m not going to agree with everything. So, i’m going to give a logical opinion that will hopefully help him realize that he gotta step up to the plate and not depend on other people to fix his problems. After the conversation transpired he hung up on me(which i thought was very childish) and we havnt spoken for 2 days. I was going to reach out and swallow my pride because he needs support right now but in a discord this girl texts his name wrong and then retypes it and he responds with the same thing and she says she drunk texted him. She has his number to do that privately and she barely responds in the discord. But, why is this girl drunk texting you. very off topic but that just seemed weird as if they were trying to get at me or something is happening. Overall i feel bad that i hurt his feelings but it needed to be said because his friend are gonna sugarcoat it and not tell him how it is.

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I have always been a fervent advocate of intimacy-related communication. My go-to advice to people who struggle in the bed is to always communicate with their partner or pretendant or date about what they like and don't like as well what makes them comfortable and their boundaries. This literally solves 75% of issues.
Now speaking for myself. When it comes to hookup or first-time intercourse, I sometimes find myself saying too much about my preferences and also ask too much of my partner. I think that saying too much can have the opposite effect as it might spoil the spontaneity of the act, leaving little space for surprises, as you already know what the other person is thinking about and what they really want you to do for them.
I think it's fine to say what you like and set your boundaries straight, it's also fine to be vocal about what actually helps you climax more intensely and what increases pleasure for you and anyone involved, but at the same time, delving too much into details and asking for too much info-dump in return might flip the sex into being lackluster and self-conscious. I do not believe you should communicate every single micro step of your arousal / turn-off process to the person next to you, almost making it into a mechanical chore, and should leave some room for imagination and creativity. It's okay to trust your partner. Those things might be more evident for people who trust their intuition and have great chemistry with their dates/hookups/night-stands, whatever.
Also, we have to normalize mistakes in the bedroom. Sometimes people will do something that we're not a fan of, but at the end of the day, it's not a big deal. We can simply tell them we don't like this specific action and move on to different things. To illustrate, I was in bed with a guy once and he initially started to slap my ass, first gently and then a little more roughly, which I immediately halted, stating to him that I did not like that. He understood right away and never did it again and we moved on to other things, the way mature people handle it.
Anyone knows what I'm talking about?