So I (25F) have been dating this guy (50M) for a little over a year. Yes, we have run into some problems with other people not necessarily approving our relationship, but he treats me well and we have a fantastic time being in each others lives. I knew right away that he has two (young) boys. He splits custody days with their mother, takes them to school, is involved in their lives.. etc. I haven’t necessarily stepped up to be that “step mother” kind of girlfriend, and that need isn’t there either since the two kids still have their mom. Well, yesterday we were talking, and I asked something about if he thinks he could’ve handled having a girl instead of just his two boys. He says “Well, I do have a girl.” He went silent.. “Hahaha… Wait. What do you mean???” “That I do have a daughter. And actually, I also have a grandchild.” So I start freaking out. He says some shit like “Oh, cmon I know I’ve dropped hints.” and “What do you mean you never knew?” Well sir, the only thing I assumed was that you would find those important enough to straight up tell me rather than assume I caught on.. He then explains how she didn’t really want me getting involved in her life and so that’s why he never talked about her. He chose to straight up NOT tell me he has a daughter rather than just tell me he has a daughter but she wants her privacy and does not want a relationship. Anyways, I got really hurt by this, and I abruptly stopped talking with him because I was shocked and didn’t even know how to process this info. I told him that I didn’t know what to say and that I needed to go back home. I didn’t talk to him for the rest of the day. Honestly, I don’t know where we stand right now. I know he loves me, but I also know how hard headed he is and he didn’t seemed nearly as concerned about this fact than I am. I feel like I’ve gotten myself into something I don’t really know what it is… Help?
TLDR My older boyfriend of over a year JUST revealed to me he actually has another older child and a grandchild. I feel lied to. What do I do now?

Sometimes my school would have class in Saturdays but it's shorter by 2 hours which is like 4 hours and so there's just 3 classes about a specific activity so during volleyball we were training and throwing balls at each other it's just practice and gfreedom I was playing with the only friend I was actually capable of making and she was really athletic, so then she threw the ball rolling onto the road abd the road was there cause our sport area ?? Was next to it, I was chasing the rolling ballj and then a boy was running into ne whilr I was going for the ball and I fell, which my right arm was there to be the first to collide with the crusty road so I finally reached the ball but... I couldn't feel my right arm like it was probably just in pain I didn't feel anything else but pain and I didn't feel, hear the crack when I hit. But I wanted to check what was wrong, I looked at my arm and it was actually in a bit of an S or U shape, and the moment I saw it I already felt like I was gonna pass out but still ran to the people with the ball but shouted at my friend to get the teacher and decided to spread the message to her friends instead of going to the teacher while I was gonna collapse,so I had to stand up myself and ran to the teacher and she was helping me walk to the school hall to rest. She called the ambulance and got the other teachers to conversate with me so they can prevent me from sleeping since it was what the doctor told them to say. Eventually, the ambulance came and I felt better. Btw I stayed at the hospital for 2 days 1 night since I needed surgery🙏🙏

So we are renovating our house, specifically we just did the bathroom, added stairs, had a bit of electrical work done - cables and PowerPoints. Turning a leaking external door into a window, putting up another supporting post for the balcony. There was also some brickwork that needed fixing because a window needed filling. I was quoted $17-18,000 for the bathroom. The other stuff was extra - however, I just got the bill and it’s for $35,000.
I kept checking in with the builder to see if we were on track and he kept saying yes - I knew about the extras but my goodness, I thought it might come in at around $25,000. I feel like there is a huge discrepancy here. However, they removed the profit margin because the builder worked for my cousin, an architect, and was doing us a favour. Because of this, the build took longer as they fit us in around profitable projects.
I like the work and the team and was planning on using them again… but is this just normal? I don’t want to burn bridges but I feel like he should have been able to give me the heads up on pricing earlier.
Any help on how to handle this would be appreciated. And if this is fair… any ideas on how to get 10k fast? Ha!

need advice
one of my cousin sister ‘28’ and her bf ‘31’ had been in relationship for a long time now. From the day we got to know about their relationship she told us her relationship is very toxic. They both belong from different religion and both families did not accepted them. Myself 21F was close to my sister she used to tell every bad things about her bf to us ( my other sisters were also included). She told us that he is very strict abuses her verbally and even says that he will leak her nudes if she won’t stay with him. Sometimes she use to cry in front on us because of him. This has been going on for years we have seen her fighting, yelling and screaming over phone for long long hours. Recently they were fighting over phone my cousin was yelling her mother took the phone and told the boy to leave her then he said her daughter is the one who’s forcing her to stay in this relationship. After this both families were involved his sister also came to conference call . At this point we all were very angry at the boy so all the sisters of our family took stand for our cousin sister. She was happy with the support but after a while she started fighting us for his bf. She’s asking us to not be involved to not say anything bad about his bf . Now she’s is yelling at us who showered her all the support when she needed it. She’s blaming us for the misunderstanding between them and it was the first time we said something to her bf. At some point i have been hurt and felt betrayed by her actions. How can she blame us for this situation. Her inability to hold a relationship is not because of us . Firstly we were never involved. She was the one who told us every bad thing about him now we are the ones who gets blamed. Is this even right? when we try to make her realise her mistakes she keeps on screaming and won’t even hear us . Now i have started to hate her . I know if i will be good to her she will make this happen again. How to deal with these kinds of cousins. I know i will meet her at family gatherings how should i react? Has anyone ever been in same situation?

First of all, I wanna say that I’m so proud of the band SB19’s successes so much. and I’ve dreamt since 2019 to be known for my singing and dancing. I’m a girl and just a teen lng din po. and yeah, I still have no luck up until this day. Wala akong recognition for anything kaya po medjo nab-bother ako for my future. and with everything happening for the boys and other artists around my age, I just feel so left behind. I’ve been dealing w my feelings for a long time now, just me and I can’t tell anyone about it. So here I am sharing my emotions here. I feel so left behind and idk what to do anymore.
I wanna audition for smthng if there is, kaso wala ng shows na is still open for auditions (as far as I know) but I’m also still so shy to be on a stage, performing/auditioning for something when I can’t even sing infront of my parents. I really need insights please! But I do believe that I can do it.
I just feel so empty these days. I wanna start a YT channel but I feel like its not gonna work since the type of contents I’m gonna be posting is singing covers performed in acapella and recorded theough a voice recorder on a iPad. dearly, please someone help me. so confused.
Any support, advices will be appreciated sm!

First of all, I wanna say that I’m so proud of the band SB19’s successes so much. and I’ve dreamt since 2019 to be known for my singing and dancing. I’m a girl and just a teen lng din po. and yeah, I still have no luck up until this day. Wala akong recognition for anything kaya po medjo nab-bother ako for my future. and with everything happening for the boys and other artists around my age, I just feel so left behind. I’ve been dealing w my feelings for a long time now, just me and I can’t tell anyone about it. So here I am sharing my emotions here. I feel so left behind and idk what to do anymore.
I wanna audition for smthng if there is, kaso wala ng shows na is still open for auditions (as far as I know) but I’m also still so shy to be on a stage, performing/auditioning for something when I can’t even sing infront of my parents. I really need insights please! But I do believe that I can do it.
I just feel so empty these days. I wanna start a YT channel but I feel like its not gonna work since the type of contents I’m gonna be posting is singing covers performed in acapella and recorded theough a voice recorder on a iPad. dearly, please someone help me. so confused.
Any support, advices will be appreciated sm!

need advice
one of my cousin sister ‘28’ and her bf ‘31’ had been in relationship for a long time now. From the day we got to know about their relationship she told us her relationship is very toxic. They both belong from different religion and both families did not accepted them. Myself 21F was close to my sister she used to tell every bad things about her bf to us ( my other sisters were also included). She told us that he is very strict abuses her verbally and even says that he will leak her nudes if she won’t stay with him. Sometimes she use to cry in front on us because of him. This has been going on for years we have seen her fighting, yelling and screaming over phone for long long hours. Recently they were fighting over phone my cousin was yelling her mother took the phone and told the boy to leave her then he said her daughter is the one who’s forcing her to stay in this relationship. After this both families were involved his sister also came to conference call . At this point we all were very angry at the boy so all the sisters of our family took stand for our cousin sister. She was happy with the support but after a while she started fighting us for his bf. She’s asking us to not be involved to not say anything bad about his bf . Now she’s is yelling at us who showered her all the support when she needed it. She’s blaming us for the misunderstanding between them and it was the first time we said something to her bf. At some point i have been hurt and felt betrayed by her actions. How can she blame us for this situation. Her inability to hold a relationship is not because of us . Firstly we were never involved. She was the one who told us every bad thing about him now we are the ones who gets blamed. Is this even right? when we try to make her realise her mistakes she keeps on screaming and won’t even hear us . Now i have started to hate her . I know if i will be good to her she will make this happen again. How to deal with these kinds of cousins. I know i will meet her at family gatherings how should i react? Has anyone ever been in same situation?

I've been meaning to make this for a while.
About a year ago I was going to sit my 2nd driving test. Even though I considered myself quite a good driver, the test gave me such deep anxiety. I ended up failing and once again felt surges of failure, self loathing and incompetence and was terrified to book a 3rd time. It felt scary to put myself through this again, but I did want to drive and I knew that it was worth it.
Around this time, the gen 8 anime finale came out and we saw Ash finally become world champion and his story was being retired... this made me finally realise his real world importance.
I don't mean to sound rude by saying that, I've always loved the pokemon anime and ash too! But I definitely was starting to feel fatigue by Ash's repeated usage and always wondered why they didn't can him for a new protagonist. Seemed only right with how much people liked origins and generations.
But a couple nights after my failed test I decided to rewatch the kanto league episodes and suddenly... something just clicked.
I take you back to his first ever league battle. He's about to go on. Misty says he's shaking. Ash tries to shrug this off by saying itsnthe stadium not him. He goes out there and absolutely cleans up with krabby/kingler.
We believe that "oh man he's got this, this league will be an absolute cinch". But as we all know he loses to Richie. Losing by having a pokemon blatantly disobey him no less, making him feel in adequate as a trainer. A loss like this would realistically make many give up on their ambition.
But he didn't. As we know he kept going. And he kept going through 5 more regions facing a defeat every time. Constantly meeting people who were stronger than him (and Cameron). After 6 total league losses, many would just throw in the towel. But not Ash. He is the story of get knocked down 6 times, get up 7.
Ash is one of the most driven anime characters ever. He's a boy from a small town who wasn't particularly gifted with anything or didn't luck out at birth. Everything he earned in the end was through hard work. Sure he's not as powerful as luffy or goku who also wanted to be the best in the world but its not really about that. It's about his undying determination which got him to the end and allowed him to become the very best like no one ever was.
But what effect does this have on me? Well I've always grown up watching Ash, and yeah I knew he could be a dope from time to time... I always was rooting for him. I admired his willingness to help people and get the best potential out of each of his pokemon and play to their strengths and just think differently when it came to battling. He was someone I knew I could learn from to do my best... and I did!
I got my drivers license a few months later. After dropping out of college I started a new course which I much prefer and feel better suited to. I learned that anything can be achieved through hard work, and most importantly no matter how many times you get knocked down, never EVER stop trying.
Ash, I know we parted ways a year ago but I'm so happy you finally got what you've been working towards for so many years and thank you so much inspiring me and millions of others along the way.
Alola and best wishes :).

I'm 15, every single symptom increased at the 2th of april, also floaters and worse astigmatism.
All those things seemed to be there with me my whole life but less intense, i always saw some kind of static in dark, i always had a little tinnitus, always had astigmatism but really the only thing i saw about it was the car headlights at night, now the text i'm writing is glaring and doubling. My younger cousin also told me that he sees a little bit of static, afterimages from light sources and random tinnitus but it's once again something i had to ask him about, he didn't knew about it being not normal or sum shit.
Grandma also got very intense tinnitus that makes her struggle to sleep so this could be a family thing, just not for every single member with different symptoms.
I'm just gonna say that i went trough absolute hell and a nightmare the whole month of april and it destroyed my whole life, i felt disabled, still kinda feel but i'm fighting it thinking that i can indeed do anything i ever wanted to, it's just that life isn't as enjoyable anymore. Whenever i look at a screenshot from a game or whatever i just instantly think that i wish i could see it without the flickering static. It's just all fucking bullshit and i hate people for having clear vision and still trying to show that they have "mental problems" like go fuck yourself u have no idea what kind of problems u can have and u still manage to be a fucking crying bitch becouse somebody laughed at you for being a whore jesus christ i could literally kill those dumb people if i would be promised to get my vision back.
So how long? HOW THE FUCK LONG? WHY ARE DOCTORS DOING PENIS IMPLANTS TO FUCKING TRANSGENDER MF'S INSTEAD OF PUTTING MONEY AND RESEARCH INTO THAT? THEY GOT THEIR CURE FOR COVID IN A YEAR IT'S ALL ABOUT THE MONEY, IF THERE WOULD BE A HIGHER PROFIT BEHIND SOLVING THIS MYSTERY THEN WE WOULD HAVE A CURE BY NOW! But nah i gotta live my only life like this, fantastic.

i tried getting help for my struggles, the psychologist confirmed i most likely have ADHD and autism. the healthcare didn’t want to help me because my struggles “aren’t serious enough”. my boyfriend has ADHD, i understand his struggles completely, but i find it so disheartening to be reminded every day that i most likely have disabilities that i won’t receive help for. he often talks about his difficulties, and i experience that when i have the same / similar struggles, it is ALWAYS something else, never ADHD.
this is not meant to invalidate anyone’s struggles in any way, these are all still signs of ADHD / autism. i’m just expressing how frustrated i am because i only receive criticism while many others (mainly boys) just receive sympathy and support because of their disability. it should be the same for girls.
when i experience daily executive dysfunction, i’m just lazy. when you experience daily executive dysfunction, it’s your ADHD.
when i’m having a difficult time learning and processing something, i’m just slow and dumb. when you’re having a difficult time learning and processing something, it’s your ADHD.
when i’m having trouble concentrating, i’m just annoying and disruptive. when you’re having trouble concentrating, it’s just your ADHD.
when i’m late to school i’m lazy and disorganized. when you’re late to school it’s your ADHD.
when i’m having a hard time interpreting social cues, i’m just slow. when you’re having a hard time interpreting social cues, it’s your autism.
when i find it difficult to make friends, i’m just awkward and strange. when you find it difficult to make friends, it’s your autism.
when i accidentally say something inappropriate, i’m rude and mean. when you accidentally say something inappropriate, it’s your autism.
when i have sensory sensitivities, i’m annoying and whiny. when you have sensory sensitivities, it’s your autism.
when i fail a test, i’m lazy and dumb. when you fail a test, it’s your ADHD.
when i have to work twice as hard as everyone else to succeed, once again i’m just slow and get mocked for it and told “just try harder”.
when you have to work twice as hard as everyone else to succeed, once again it’s your ADHD / autism and everyone understands and is sympathetic because you have a disability.

A little plot convinient coincidence never hurt anyone.
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You know the drill: credit to SpacePaladin15 for the universe.
Thank you JulianSkies for proofreading.
Memory Transcription Subject: Gillab, Gojid Citizen, Husband and Father
Date [Standardized Human Time]: March 27, 2142
It was early in the morning, birds were chirping, and the air was still chilled from the night. It was a comfortable morning, especially considering what had happened yesterday. I could still feel the leftovers of a hangover in the back of my head, but it was more than manageable for me. A small headache like that wouldn’t stop me from visiting the memorial.
I still had a ways to walk before I got there, but I didn’t mind. It just let me take in the beauty of the new New York City that had been built. Even if I wasn’t a Human, I felt a sense of pride at the sight of the glistening towers and the clean streets. Despite only playing a minor role in the clean-up and reconstruction, it was certainly enough for me to feel that I had contributed enough to take pride in it.
I still cannot believe I ever even thought of hating Humans, the fact that I did still disgust me to this day. I wasn’t alone in that mindset either, billions of former soldiers, exterminators, or Human-phobes had woken up to the reality, with tens of thousands of them moving to Earth and trying to repay the Humans what they had taken. Many of them still struggled with coming to terms with their past.
It was because of them that I could become a husband to the most beautiful Gojid in the universe and father to the most rambunctious one. Without their help on the Cradle, I would have died long ago and never have been able to even see the love of my life. They inspired me to become more than just a father and husband, I was going to become just like them.
In my free time, I often worked for charities, volunteered for clean-ups, and tried my hand as a substitute teacher. Even if I wasn’t the best at it, I still enjoyed doing them. It let me feel like I was making a difference in the world, continuing the legacy that the Humans had set up. I would save as many people as I could, just like the person who saved me.
I had lost track of Billy ever since the Cradle, and the one time I had heard about him was from Naeriu telling me how Billy ended up surviving in a cabin in Alaska. It wasn’t like I didn’t try to find him, but it was a big universe, and finding one soldier seemingly determined not to be found made it frustratingly difficult.
After six years of on-and-off searching, I had finally given up on him. I had searched for his name several times on every memorial I could find, desperately hoping to find some sort of closure on his life, but in the end I was left clueless as to the fate of the man who did so much for me.
I sighed the thoughts out of my head, not wanting to have such a negative mindset when I was trying to visit some friends.
I passed under the familiar arch, taking a deep breath of the salty air as I did. After the bombs fell, the crater left behind quickly flooded with ocean water. The near-perfect bowl had become a new habitat for all manner of sea life, a symbol of how even the worst tragedy could be overcome. Surrounding the crater was a ring of stone walls, divided into sections corresponding to when and where a soldier was killed or went missing.
I navigated the massive monument with familiarity, having visited it many times before. I’ve always preferred to visit the day after the holiday, it was always almost empty as people had their fill the day before. Every year or so someone would have a similar idea to me, but it never drew from the experience.
And speaking of, a single man was standing in the exact spot I preferred to stand in. In one of his hands was a bag with the top of a bottle poking out and his other was clenched into a tight fist, his eyes were clenched tightly, his face was strained in pain and profound sadness. You didn’t need to be a detective to know that this man was hurting, whether for lost brethren in arms, lost biological brethren, or simply overwhelming sadness from the loss of life, this man was hurting.
I considered leaving the disheveled man to his devices, but some deep part of my mind told me to talk to him. He didn’t turn to face me as I got closer, he didn’t even open his eyes. It was as if nothing outside of his mind was real to him and it could all be ignored.
“Excuse me? Sir? Are you visiting someone you know?”
He still ignored me, but he loosened the death grip he had on his fist.
“It’s fine if you don’t tell me, but I find that it helps to talk about your feelings with someone else. Even if that someone else is an alien.”
Slowly the man opened his eyes and sluggishly turned to face me. Still, he refused to speak.
“It’s fine if you don’t want to speak, I can stay quiet. But if you won’t stop me, I’d like to speak at you. You don’t have to respond, sometimes it’s better to just listen anyway.”
To my surprise, the man actually spoke. His voice was rough and sad, matching the image in front of me. “Why are you here?”
I smiled and turned to face the wall of names. “I’m visiting some old friends, people who saved my life.”
I pointed a claw at the names. “Owen Oak and James Kle are the ones that I know here, but I know more at other points along the wall. Who did you know?”
The man was silent for a moment. “The same people.”
“Really? How did you know them?”
“I was a soldier. I worked with them.”
I started to nod when a thought flashed through my mind. If he knew the soldiers who worked with Billy, maybe he knew Billy himself. It didn’t seem like a stretch in my eyes, they were all part of the same squad after all.
So, despite having given up on actively searching for Billy, I decided to ask the question. “If you don’t mind me asking, do you maybe know a soldier named Billy Marsh?”
“That’s me.”
I blinked. “W-what?”
“I’m Billy Marsh.”
I stepped back and looked the man up and down. As I did, he finally looked me in the eyes. Once I saw his eyes, the color and shape, I knew with all my heart that this man was Billy Marsh. Even with the scraggly hair, patchy beard, dirty clothes, and brown-bagged drink in hand, there was no mistaking the eyes of the man who saved my life.
“Holy shit… It really is you.”
Billy took a deep drink of his liquor, barely flinching from what I could now see was Venlilian alcohol. He must have been drinking it frequently to be so used to the burning, and judging from his appearance that was no stretch.
“Yeah, it’s me. Billy Marsh, Human trash and parasite to the world.”
My mind tumbled at the words, causing me to stutter and hold out a claw in surprise. “N-now wait a second. You are anything but Human trash or a parasite. You’re a hero Billy, I know for a fact. You saved my life!”
“I’m no hero. I’ve killed so many others. It would have been better off if I never joined the military, maybe more lives could have been saved. Maybe Owen’s life could have been saved.”
He took another gulp of his drink as I spoke. “Now hold on, you saved plenty of-”
Alcohol spilled onto his shirt as he yelled. “I didn’t save anyone! Someone else could have saved so many more lives than I could! At the end of it all, when all was said and done, I was an idealistic fool and a failure and a horrible person. I’ve ended up killing more people than I’ve saved, and I’ve ruined so many lives.”
I took a stand. “Now that’s blatantly not true. Who’s telling you this? Billy, you are one of the kindest, most caring people I have ever met.”
“Was. I was one of the kindest and most caring. And you want to know why? It was because I hadn’t been woken up to just how terrible the universe really was. I mean, what could one young, dumb soldier do in the grand scheme, right? If I really wanted to help, I should have become a doctor or a fucking politician, right? But I chose to be a soldier, a useless fucking pawn that wasn’t even good at its job.”
He took another drink as I stood stunned at who Billy had become. I never could have expected the valiant, patient, caring soldier to become so volatile and angry. I had to help him. I don’t care if I have to miss a few classes, I’m rescuing this man from himself.
“Billy, can I visit sometime soon?”
He spilled a little alcohol as he pulled the bottle away quickly. “Fuck no. I don’t need to ruin your life too. Stay the hell away from me, I’m like a fucking bomb. You are just going to get hurt, it’s a miracle you didn’t the first time.”
“Well if you’re a bomb, then I’m going to disarm you. I don’t know how long you have been like this, but I’m going to heal you.”
He pointed a finger at my chest. “Then I’m just going to fight back. I’m not letting you anywhere near me.”
I pointed right back. “You don’t get to make that decision. It’s my life, and I am choosing to help you.”
“You are going to regret it. I say that with one hundred percent absolute certainty.”
“We won't know until we try.”
Billy took a step back, placed a hand on his head and growled. “You know what? Fine. Try your luck. It’s your life, right? But when you see just how helpless you are to help me, don’t expect to get your wasted time back. I don’t know what you think you can do, but give it a try! It’s still early in the morning, so why don’t we head on back to my place so you can work whatever magic you think you have.”
Billy didn’t wait for a response and stormed off to the exit without another word. I watched him for a long moment before sighing deeply. I don’t know the exact details of what happened to him, but with what Naeriu told me and the names on the memorial I could piece together some vague details. It sounded like Billy had gone through hell, and now he thinks he deserves it.
I clenched my claw in determination before jogging to catch up to Billy. I had some calls to make on the way over to his house knowing just how much work I was going to have to do to help the man who saved me.

Hi,
I am a 23 year old Israeli, I have lived in Israel my entire life and I came to a realization i'd like to share with you today,
The Israeli-Palestinian conflict is one of the most media covered conflicts in the world where people seem to have very strong opinions about, I think the only opinions that matter are the opinions of the Israelis and Palestinians:
I will not go deep in to the history of who has the right to this land because:

1. It doesn't matter anymore, neither the Israelis nor the Palestinians are going anywhere
   
2. It is a topic that leads to war and not to peace.
   

In my opinion, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict could have been solved decades ago but it is against the interests of the people in power, so they brainwash the people into believing the other side is the problem and prolonge this war for decades.
lets start with the facts:

• jews and arabs have lived on this land together for centuries before 1948
  
• the british colonized this land and oppressed both jews and arabs.
  
• both jews and arabs fought to kick out the british mandate.
  
• the british had an interest to divide between the jews and the arabs to control both sides.(divide and conquer)
  

eversince the brits left and the 1948 war, the jews and the palestinians had been mostly divided and have only listened to their side from the sources near them, which only made the hate grow.
There has never been any attempt from the people to rise up(both jews and palestinians) against the people in power and say enough is enough, palestinians and Israelis are cousins, we don't want this war anymore and no one in power can control our minds.
True justice will be the day where both Israelis and Palestinians march for peace and coexistance and kick out the people in office and hamas,
They don't want this conflict to end!
it benefits them!
who suffers? Us, the people. we pay for this war with the blood of our brothers and sisters.
stop the bloodshed, stop the unnecessary wars, if we open our minds we can live together peacefully.
you may call me naive, but I opened my eyes.
what happens if we keep going on the current direction? world war 3? more death to Israelis and palestinians?
why don't we try to go from the bottom up? why can't we wake the people up and make them understand that hamas and the Israeli government both have the same Interest? keep this conflict going while they get the benefit from it!
WAKE UP!
we have to rise against and truth will prevail, I believe the people are smart enough to understand that if we help spread the message.
I call the palestinians to come talk to me, I have nothing against you. I am against my government and I am against hamas, I am for the people, and if we get enough people to believe, the people will change because there is no other option, thinking that anyone will "win" this war is absurd, there are only losers no winners.

I'm a M20 and this was a hard topic I need to get this off my chest.
Back in 2021 when I was a college student I met this guy call let's say "Timmy" my mates was trying to get me and Timmy together Timmy is a M16 I was M17 back then.
We started dating in November the 24th 2021 it was amazing for 3 months but then he started to be an ass to me told me to help him with his situation and I did but at the end he didn't even asked to help me out with my situation.
He wanted me to spend my pocket money on him he has hissy fits if I don't treat him with gifts.
Forward to March 2022 it was my 18th birthday family comes over and then "Timmy" show up I told him to leave at 1pm so my family can come over to spend time with me but he didn't so he decided to go to my own parent's and say "I got told that I should be leaving at 1pm" but my parents asked me he can stay a while-(let's get this straight he has been controlling me to do things and forced me to kiss him even I didn't wanna do)
I was so uncomfortable when Timmy stayed he played innocent all day on my birthday then out of nowhere he said "so are you and you're parents coming down tomorrow to meet my family"
As always my parents said yes Tomorrow comes we went to a pub to meet Timmy's parent's The music was way to loud and I wasn't a outside person but he kept on getting my hands and put it on his shoulder even though I didn't want to.
For few more months later in May I had enough of Timmy so I dumped him then decided to be a drama queen and got all of my mates at college against me and why I shouldn't have dumped him he was too clingy and lazy he only cares about himself but no one else. Then on the same day I got back with him....oh boy I was stupid I should have dumped him.
This part is a bit thunder bolt
In my summer holidays Timmy non stop texting me that I should meet up and I told him I have other plans 5 minutes later he messaged me that he was coming over to give me my plushie that he got for me I wasn't in the mood to see him at all I just wanted to spend time with my family in my summer holidays Then 4 days later I did see him and spend time with him..
A month later in August I had enough before I dumped him on the 24th it was our 10 months anniversary being together then I got intell about he was talking to another guy and that's when I found out he was actually cheating on me before I dumped him
I dumped his ass..but it got even worse In September Timmy wanted revenge and spread two fake rumors about me one of them was I apparently called one of my friend a slu# but I haven't and I knew I don't say those things to anyone of my friends.
Timmy made my life miserable at college he even got his mates to bully me and turn all of my new friends and my closet friends against me.
I also forgot to mention he emotional blackmail me when I was still with him.
He kept on bullying me so I told all the teachers about the situation and they are going to deal with it.
Fast forward in 2023 Timmy and his mates has been trying to follow me where I was going. Then when I finally finished college Timmy has been cyber bullying me for two years
And now 2024 I found out he still has feelings for me I told him "I don't have anything feelings for you anymore"
AITA?

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As it stood, my crazy plan certainly seemed to resonate with the gathered leaders, though they did offer their own suggestions as to how best to implement improvements and contingencies. I of course welcomed each and every one of them, then debated their merits and as the hours flew by we weeded out the ideas that simply would not work and expanded on those that would.
It was quite honestly refreshing to not have to do all the thinking for once, it felt nice to do a little outsourcing as one might describe it. Besides, as many would say I only had one point of view, well, two if we’re being literal, that of a human and an arachne, the former coming from a world without magic and monstrous beings like those I had surrounded myself with.
Their unique viewpoints had offered a wealth of possibilities and were in their own ways invaluable to the war effort. I am glad that they all managed to get along as well. I had seen no hint of animosity or long held grudges between any of them, not even the age old and quite frankly stereotypical hostility between the elves and dwarves had reared its head. In fact, the two races had seemingly fed into each other's ideas with excited glee, and I had almost expected there to be a bout of mad cackling near the end of their ramblings.
Of course now the meeting was over and we were all starting our preparations. The basic prep wouldn’t take that long, ensuring our warriors were all well supplied, their weapons and armor at peak quality before the battle was paramount. It was everything else about the plan that would take time, time we must ensure we had if we were to succeed. And so I headed for the Aberrant Spire, a place I had not been in a long time.
As I followed the streets I was reminded of my first delve into this city, back when it was fully under the control of vile abominations. I paused, looking at a short building on my right, large claw marks scoring the wall near the lip of the roof. I remember one of those beasts had attempted to climb up to get me as I traversed the rooftops.
Remembering that I felt a shiver run down my spine and issued a silent word of thanks that such horrors no longer existed in my new home, that vibrant life had returned to these hallowed streets. It was a place of hope now, not terror.
It was with this remembering of certain facts that I began looking for a faster means of travel to reach the Spire, as walking would be a long and arduous task indeed. Thankfully this was something that was already thought of, for as I meandered through the streets in my search I came across a somewhat raised walkway, except this walkway had a pair of lines worked from crystal or metal, I couldn’t rightly tell which, running through it.
I paused, wondering how I had never seen this thing before and in doing so I bore witness to its purpose. A merchant with a large wagon approached a circular pattern on the walkway, ensured his wares were well secured and then spoke a destination. At once a ball of energy surrounded him and the wagon, raising it all off the ground and then sending him zipping along, following the right hand line. Even as I watched, another traveler came from the opposite direction, the magic wrought into the pathway depositing them gently off to one side and they continued on their merry way.
I had to wonder why thing wasn’t around the first time I had come here, though the more I looked at the construction the stone looked somewhat fresh, perhaps it was simply a new addition and not something from the city’s past. Either way, it looked mighty useful so I stepped into the circle and took a deep breath.
“The Aberrant Spire.” I spoke clearly, and felt myself go weightless. The magic ball of energy formed around me, lifting me off solid ground and leaving me floating, which certainly triggered a slight fear response from my arachnid instincts. I was moved into position and then shot forward. It took all I had to not scream, sudden fear turning into excitement as my human experiences harkened back to several amusement park visits as a kid and getting to ride the roller coasters.
Though instead of loop the loops and corkscrews it was naught but straight lines and gentle curves that weaved through and over the city streets. Everything was a blur and yet I hardly felt it, really all that I felt was a vague sense of motion in my gut and the wind pulling at my hair, but that was it. I did see the spire come into view however, and steadily it grew larger and larger till at last it dominated the skyline.
My breakneck pace started to slow and just as it had with the other traveler, the magic gently shifted me to one side and then put me down softly. I found my legs were incredibly wobbly and as such I simply stood there and waited for the wobbling to cease. Once it had I stepped off the platform and down onto the street proper, finally taking in the sights as it were.
If the areas around the palace and the rest of the city were for merchants, common folk and nobility, then this area was almost exclusively inhabited by those with magical talents. I saw robed figures flitting to and fro, some hovering along on disks of light or wind, one even walked into a shadowy patch and vanished, presumably reappearing elsewhere. And over it all loomed the Spire, still as pretty and strange as it had been, though it seemed to glow with newfound life and vigor.
The teleporter complex seemed in working order as well, though it would have to be since new mages had taken up residence in the spire above. I made for the complex, many mages who had been engrossed in walking and thinking doing double takes as I passed. I simply nodded at each in turn and continued on my merry way, entering the complex and getting bombarded by the sounds of a busy building. Pages and mages zipped about, conducting their various tasks as they did, stepping into or out of the teleporters as needed. It felt almost like that one time I’d visited Grand Central, boy hadn’t that been fun.
I decided that I should probably get some directions to the person that would be most suited to help me with my plan, really whomever happened to be in charge of this place would be perfect for that and so I stepped up to a circular desk that seemed to be staffed by a mixture of elves, dwarves, humans and even a slime person, the latter wobbling in place and simply shifting their features about to face anyone that spoke to them.
I stopped before an elf, the woman looking up and recognition dawning on her face as she beheld me.
“Y-Your majesty! What brings you all the way out here?” She stammered even as she made to stand and bow. I waved her back down into her seat with a smile, the elf sinking back down into her seat.
“I have business with whomever is in charge of the Spire and I have found that I have no idea who that happens to be. I was hoping to change that, and get directions as well.”
The woman nodded, still a bit frazzled thanks to an unannounced visit by royalty.
“I-I can do that, a moment please your majesty.” She said, hunching over a large book that sat before her and furiously flipping through it. Once she found what she needed, she opened a drawer and pulled out what looked like some sort of talisman, setting it down before me on the desk. “Firstly, this will identify you as not only an authorized visitor to the spire, but also as royalty. Granted we all know you are but the spire itself wouldn’t and so would treat you as an intruder if you didn’t carry this with you at all times. And considering your authority over us all, it will allow you to access areas that would be otherwise restricted to normal visitors.”
As she explained its function I picked the talisman up and looked it over. It was a simple thing, not too gaudy though I couldn’t help but notice a coat of arms upon it that had a distinctly arachne flavor to it. I could swear I’d seen it before somewhere else, perhaps that would have to be something else I looked into later.
“I can call an escort for you, they can guide you right to the Archmage.” The receptionist spoke, snapping me from my thoughts as I affixed the talisman to my breast.
“That won’t be necessary, a map will suffice. I am an adventurer first and a queen second after all.” Chuckling, I watched her nod and pull a sheet of parchment towards her, a hand hovering over the surface and magic flowing from her palm onto the page. What looked like ink appeared on it, which then took the shape of the current room I resided in. Words even appeared, informing me that I could use any of the teleporters I wished.
“The man you are looking for is Archmage Yesric. As far as I know he doesn’t have any pressing duties today so you should find him sequestered in his office.” The receptionist rose and bowed again, keeping her hunched over pose even as I started to walk away.
“Thank you, you’ve been most helpful.” I said. I took a subtle look over my shoulder and was relieved to see that she’d sat back down and was currently in the midst of furious conversation with her coworkers. Which was fair, not every day a member of royalty comes asking for help right?
Stepping into the teleporter I was promptly deposited into the halls of the Spire, which now bustled with activity. Mostly staff it seemed, though I spotted several gaggles of younger folk all dressed in something reminiscent of school uniforms rushing through the halls, their expressions belying a desperate desire to reach their destination as quickly as possible. I had heard nothing about the spire being used as some sort of school, though I suppose it only made sense to train the next generation of magic users in a place where magic was dominant.
Looking down at the map I’d been provided, I was pleased to see that my current position was reflected upon its surface. But now there was a handy dandy guiding line that pointed down a hallway to my right. And so without further ado, I followed it. People naturally got out of my way, though whether that was because I took up most of the hall or because they knew who I was I wasn’t sure, either way I did my best to not impede their progress too much.
Turning a corner I was suddenly met with an empty hallway, one that slowly began to fill with black smoke. My gut twisted and my head felt heavy, my eyes began to flutter and then I blinked, the hallway was bustling with people, no longer filled with the smoke. I licked my lips, trying to shake the ghosts of the past and move forward, though my legs couldn’t help but shiver slightly with every step I took.
Floor by floor I made my way closer to my target, till eventually I was directed through a door into what looked like every executive's office that I’d ever seen, just with a fantasy twist to it. Or rather, it was the little office for a secretary that I entered, which presumably meant that through the next door was what I was looking for.
A bespectacled goblin lass looked up from a large tome and blinked at me, her eyes rather enlarged thanks to the lenses that sat before them.
“Can I help you?” She drawled tiredly, and I stepped up to a good distance from her desk.
“Yes, I’m here to speak with the Archmage.”
“I do not recall setting any meetings today. May I ask who wishes for this audience?” She said, flipping through another much smaller tome that sat nearby.
“Safa Eventra.”
She continued to look through this smaller book, before freezing, her head slowly turning towards me. Now she really seemed to be looking at me and I could only smile politely back at her.
“A-Apologies your majesty, a moment if you please, I must inform the Archmage of your presence.” She said, hopping down off her chair and scampering hurriedly towards the other door. I didn’t say anything, instead just engaging in the arachne equivalent of rocking back and forth on my heels. She slipped through the door and I could hear muffled speech before several loud thuds and some not so muffled cursing ensued. The goblin secretary appeared, leaning against the door after closing it.
“The archmage will see you in just a moment, your majesty.” She said, resuming her post and doing her best to look professional for me.
“That’s quite alright, I’m in no rush.” I responded, humming softly to myself as I looked around the room. A moment later, I heard a voice call out from the office and since that was my cue, I bowed my head to the secretary and stepped through the door into the archmage's office.
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I’m a teen, and a girl from the philippines
First of all, I wanna say that I’m so proud of the band SB19’s successes so much. and I’ve dreamt since 2019 to be known for my singing and dancing.
But I still have no luck up until this day. and with everything happening for the boys and other artists around my age, I just feel so left behind. I’ve been dealing w my feelings for a long time now, just me and I can’t tell anyone about it. So here I am sharing my emotions here. I feel so left behind and idk what to do anymore.
I wanna audition for smthng if there is, but I’m also still so shy to be on a stage, performing/auditioning for something when I can’t even sing infront of my parents. I really need insights please! But I do believe that I can do it.
I just feel so empty these days. I wanna start a YT channel but I feel like its not gonna work since the type of contents I’m gonna be posting is singing covers performed in acapella and recorded theough a voice recorder on a iPad. dearly, please someone help me. so confused.
Any support, advices will be appreciated sm!

Hello People,
I feel, that often people understand casual as "easy game mode".
I am a family father now and spent so much time in world of warcraft classic as a young boy and loved the open world there. It was beatiful, the quests and mobs in the world wasn't to easy. You tried not to pull 2 or more mobs etc. I search for something similar, but maybe more time friendly if possible and still challenging.
One another thing that annoyed me is the skill button mashing like in WoW Retail or another modern examples. A more slow paced MMORPG would be nice.
Its so damn boring that most of the MMORPGs out there are so brainless in the open world or leveling phase... no challenging nothing.
I love to level in such games. I am not the great End Content Gamer but travel through the world and just level up is a cool thing for me.
Then play World of Warcraft classic you could say...but I spent so much time in this game in my life and I am searching for something new but with my thoughts above.

Hello Apes.
Back with another review of all the tweets sent from memelord and cat inspiration, Roaring Kitty.
If you missed my first review for 13th May, you can find it here.
To reiterate, the description of each tweet is to the best of my knowledge the references made and the speculation is pure speculation on my part, this is just for fun and shouldn't be taken as any financial advice, make your own decisions, I just like the stock. If you have anything to add feel free to in the comments and I'll do my best to update the post.
11am - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790396654971224430
Description: The infamous scene from the movie Troy where Achilles rather reluctantly at first, comes forward to fight the mighty Boagrius. Achilles runs at him, defending against a few spear throws then with one epic jump and slide, stabs Boagrius with this blade killing him in one clean strike. The music dubbed on this clip is Counting Bodies Like Sheep To The Rhythm of the War Drums by A Perfect Circle.
Speculation: Chosen warrior blessed by the gods comes forward in front of the masses and takes out the big baddie. You could make the speculation that the song could reference something to do with DRS (A Perfect Circle) and SHFs bleeding out (counting bodies like sheep).
11.30am - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790404203715887238
Description: First of all we have a cat talking to itself in the mirror stating the words, "Don't be the bigger person today, be the person that helps them understand that sometimes when you f**k around, we find out...". We then cut to arrested development where Buster who is portrayed as a bear has something to say, "i wanna shoot down everything you say, so i feel good about myself. cause i'm an uptight [insert copious amounts of swearing].
Speculation: First part DFV knows they (Shorts) have messed around again and have been doing it dirty. The gig is up again, time to close and pay up. The second part is a funny scene from arrested development where Buster, a character who just cannot fit in properly goes AWAL to try and show he has a nasty side, it just comes across as way too far. DFV just poking fun at bears here no doubt.
12:00pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790411757120561628
Description: First we have a scene from The Town where Doug says to James, "I need your help. I can't tell you what it is, you can never ask me about it later, and we're gonna hurt some people." and James replies, "Who's car are we going to take?" Then it cuts to Mad Max where there are a load of sand buggy cars going nuts with flame throwers and all sorts of chaos with the song Du Hast by Rammstein playing in the background.
Speculation: I haven't seen the Town but from reading online this scene showed the amazing friendship between Doug and James when James simply replies, who's car are we going to take? in response to what sounds like a risky ask for help from Doug. Then with Mad Max: Fury Road we have a film about a post apocalyptic survivor in Max Rockatansky who eventually brings down a warlords Citadel (hmmm).
12:30pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790419301976903884
Description: First we have the whistling of Omar from The Wire, then we have a scene from the Kingsmen where they are locked in a pub with Galahad and the quote "Manners maketh man" and finally we have a scene from Oldboy with a big fight scene cut alongside some anime which is from demon slayer
Speculation: The whistling is synonymous with Omar and is to the tune of a nursery rhyme, "the farmer in the dell", anyone that watched The Wire would know instantly that this means Omar is coming and this means you best get out the way as he is coming with his double-barreled shotgun and he certainly won't hesitate to use it. The Kingsmen scene where they are locked in the pub is a particularly violent scene and it's an interesting film to reference, the plot *Film spoiler here* is essentially about a boy named Eggsy from a lower-class neighbourhood who's father dies and he finds out that his father was part of an elite inner circle of upper class. After trying to be part of this group, Eggsy discovers their secret plot to take over the world and takes it into his own hands to save the day. u/ ThePhenomNoku talks about the last 2 referenced films; "So the anime is demon slayer. It’s about a kid who has everything taken from him and trains to learn how to fight demons. Though as a sidenote he kind of carries one around with him. It’s complicated.The other movie with the guy holding the person, & the fight scene is the original Oldboy, and without giving too much of the plot away it’s about a dude who is falsely imprisoned for a couple of years or so, and then enacts his revenge."
1:00pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790426851409817615
Description: Firstly we have the scene from Oceans 11 where Danny Ocean is chatting to Rusty Ryan right in the initial stage of their plan to heist the casino. He talks about how it's never been done before, will need planning and a large crew and Ryan asks if they are going to use guns, he replies "not exactly, there's lots of security" and finally Ryan asks "what's the target?". We then cut to a film i'm not aware (anyone help here?) of where an older gentleman shows a calculator to a young woman and the calculator says "Just up" on it then the woman says "yes that looks correct"
Speculation: In Oceans 11 there was a lot of planning and variables that had to happen for everything to work. It was a high risk high reward plan with a lot set up to go against but it's possible. The target has always been "just up", DFV just reiterating what he said in the first place.
1:30pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790434400494116873
Description: First we have a scene from Old School where he states, "A loophole?" "Yes. Well, it's interesting, sir. As stupid as they appear, they're actually very good at paperwork. It's quite an anomaly." then it cuts to a scene from the same film with the C&C factory everybody dance now song and a cheerleading dance attempt
Speculation: Of course with the loophole stuff it could be about all of the DD that has been done on what has gone on over the years but it could equally be about SHFs finding loopholes to get out of the mess they are in with the stock. The second part the judges clearly don't feel the attempt of the cheerleading or gymnastics piece they are portraying is any good but they are giving it a go and it's suppose to a comedy. Note the school is the cougars, cat links again of course.
2:00pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790441953659687421
Description: The first part is taken from The Batman and has Batman's monologue running and when the Batman signal is fired into the sky, a kitty shadow is shown instead of the Batman logo. It ends with an emphasis on "Fear is a Tool".
Speculation: Batman was of course a good hero who would rid the streets of criminals, they would scare just at the sight of the batman signal being fired knowing that they were about to get wrecked. In this clip, two years has been replaced with three years in the monologue and the kitty signal is of course a nice touch.
2:30pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790449499506192405
Description: This clip is taken from Mr Robot and is where Elliot plays eXit, a text based computer game that requires him to answer a series of questions in a text based game.
Speculation: I think it's best just to give the description of what happens in this scene taken from the fandom page. Elliot chooses to sit down with the friend in the dungeon. He lights a match and reads the note "Don't leave me here." Elliot chooses to stay. The alarm shuts off. An explosion happens nearby. Robot opens the door to find a fire raging outside. He concludes it's too late. Both of them sit down. They each say "I love you." Explosions rage around the room. "It's an exciting time in the world," Elliot says. Fade to red. Take from that what you will.
3:00pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790457051115847720
Description: This scene is taken from the movie Scream (2022), a direct sequel to Scream 4. A lot of the text has been changed but to summarize, one person states "he is making a requel" then there is some talk about the squeeze movie that came out last year and how most people in the actual know hated it and how "squeeze mid" pissed on their "covidhood", how the main character is a mary sue? Then a few cuts of Scream and how real squeeze movies have meta slasher whodunnits and that to some people the original is their favorite thing in the world
Speculation: A requel is A movie which revisits the subject matter of an earlier film but is not a remake or a linear continuation of its plot (i.e. a sequel or prequel). So essentially what is happening right now with the stock is not exactly the same of what has happened before but it is essentially a revisit of the same subject regarding squeezes. A mid squeeze implies that it wasn't as high as the squeeze could have gone and the theme of slashers and murdered people really suggests heads will roll (SHFs hopefully).
3:30pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790464599575167004
Description: This is a scene from Candyman where he has come for the woman. There is some cat flashes and images going on and the Woman in this is tagged as a bear (that is someone who is down on a stock or market, usually would short). Candyman talks about how there is no need for the bear to leave yet and that he was obliged to come then he says "be my victim" and a bumble bee comes out of the word be.
Speculation: Time is running out for the bear, they can hang around for a while longer but they will be the victim. This is more of the DFV is coming for you as he dresses himself up as a rampaging murderer targeting the bear in this case. Not sure on the bee, whether that is DFV just having some fun or if it's that a sting is coming in some sense.
4:00pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790472153470759217
Description: Taken from No Country for Old Men, Carson states he is a day trader and that Anton doesn't have to do this (Anton is going to kill him) tell him he could just go home. Carson continues that Anton could have 14 grand out of an ATM and just walk away before finally stating "do you have any idea how crazy you are?". Anton replies, "you mean the nature of these memes?" to which Carson says "I mean the nature of you!" The scene ends with the phone ringing.
Speculation: DFV putting himself into the mode of Anton from No Country for Old Men is quite the statement. For those who haven't seen this movie, Anton is a wrecking ball of a killer and adheres by his rulebook to seek out different people through the movie to take out. Carson being the desperate short seller here who is not understanding why DFV isn't just playing by the usual financial rules and taking his gains and going. The phone ringing at end could be an implication of margin calls ringing for the desperate short seller.
8:00pm - https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1790532552828289526
Description: This is taken from Braveheart and the prisoner (William Wallace) is asked to say a word in a famous scene where WW shouts "FREEEEDOM" only in this clip its "GAMESTOOOOOOOP".
Speculation: This is the first direct reference to Gamestop word for word and it should be noted that this is the scene where William Wallace is about to be executed. Could mean that DFV is willing to risk it all for Gamestop like William Wallace martyring himself for the freedom of Scotland.
Hope you enjoyed.
Love ya DFV

one of my cousin sister ‘28’ and her bf ‘31’ had been in relationship for a long time now. From the day we got to know about their relationship she told us her relationship is very toxic. They both belong from different religion and both families did not accepted them. Myself 21F was close to my sister she used to tell every bad things about her bf to us ( my other sisters were also included). She told us that he is very strict abuses her verbally and even says that he will leak her nudes if she won’t stay with him. Sometimes she use to cry in front on us because of him. This has been going on for years we have seen her fighting, yelling and screaming over phone for long long hours. Recently they were fighting over phone my cousin was yelling her mother took the phone and told the boy to leave her then he said her daughter is the one who’s forcing her to stay in this relationship. After this both families were involved his sister also came to conference call . At this point we all were very angry at the boy so all the sisters of our family took stand for our cousin sister. She was happy with the support but after a while she started fighting us for his bf. She’s asking us to not be involved to not say anything bad about his bf . Now she’s is yelling at us who showered her all the support when she needed it. She’s blaming us for the misunderstanding between them and it was the first time we said something to her bf. At some point i have been hurt and felt betrayed by her actions. How can she blame us for this situation. Her inability to hold a relationship is not because of us . Firstly we were never involved. She was the one who told us every bad thing about him now we are the ones who gets blamed. Is this even right? when we try to make her realise her mistakes she keeps on screaming and won’t even hear us . Now i have started to hate her . I know if i will be good to her she will make this happen again. How to deal with these kinds of cousins. I know i will meet her at family gatherings how should i react? Has anyone ever been in same situation?

I just wanted to start this by saying that i LOVED this film. I know I'm a bit late to the trend but it was honestly a not only fantastically gripping storyline, but also a beautifully made film.
However, bearing this in mind, I feel as though there is a lot of ambiguity relating to what actually happened to The Grabber's victims. For example, there is quite a lot of vagueness considering the topic of rape and whether or not The Grabber did in fact SA his victims before killing them.
Why did he keep Vance for so long? Why did he get rid of Robin so much quicker than the others? These are all questions that I have in my head after watching and I am quite literally clawing at the walls trying to find answers. I know that reading the book may perhaps give me the closure I desire, since I know that some detail is implied in the novel about the theme of SA, however, I am not a big reader since I have the attention span of a toddler so I don't think that would work.
During the duration of the film, I noticed many details, especially through the dialouge that hinted to the theme of rape and pedophilia. Some examples include when Finney asks Griffin on the phone "Why hasn't he killed me?" and Griffin replies "You won't play the game." - linking to this, later in the dialouge when Griffin tells Finney that "the next part of Naughty Boy is his (The Grabber's) favorite part." The overall connotations of the title of the game "Naughty Boy" are really just so creepy and I'm assuming that it is a name that The Grabber, himself, has given to the game which somehow makes it so much worse.
Another big part for me is sort of nearer to the beginning of Finney's kidnapping where he has very distorted vision and the diegetic sound is also very distorted perhaps suggesting that he has been unconcious for quite some time. I think this entire sequence could have the implications that Finney was raped while he was unconcious. The fact that when Finney does regain consiousness, The Grabber is just sitting there, watching him. This emphasises this for me.
ALSO! I would just like to say how vile it is how people are SEXUALISING all of this, writing fucking "The Grabber X Reader" and "The Grabber X Finney" fanfictions and that's only an example. It is so confusing to me how ANYONE could even think that any of the content in this film is remotely attractive LET ALONE GOOD ROMANTIC FANFICTION WRITING OR DRAWING OR WHATEVER CONTENT. LIKE WHAT. THE. HELL.
Idek tbh - it's just actual madness to me.
Anyway, honestly, I have no idea about any of this and I just thought I'd post on here to see what other people thought too.
THANKS!!

I have worked at a daycare for six months and overall enjoyed my job despite obstacles that came about (including past outbursts). It was a mostly smooth day today until one of the boys had another one of those frequent accidents after refusing to use the bathroom. Earlier that day, I sent him to the bathroom (I was an assistant teacher, and the lead teacher was in charge of supervising the bathroom), but the teacher sent him back instead of having him either go potty or put a pull-up on. It frustrated me because virtually all of his classmates are fully potty-trained with rarely any accidents despite the fact that he is the oldest in the class. Not only that, but it brought back bad memories of the potty-training issues I used to have when I was younger.
I very loudly yelled at the boy for wetting his pants instead of using the toilet. I then kept making frustrated facial expressions and tensing up. The other children kept asking me what was wrong, and I couldn't help but over share. I spoke to a coworker about how frustrating my situation was and that I had a desire to hurt him (I felt frustrated and often say insensitive things like that I don't mean). I feel incredibly guilty for the unprofessional actions I have engaged in, to the point to where I was crying. I feel even worse for my coworkers and the children who were most likely traumatized by what I did. They deserved better. The worst part was that I have had those outbursts before and have had talks with my boss about better coping mechanisms that I unfortunately didn't listen to. I wish I could turn back time and have done something different for the sake of everyone else at the daycare. My boss terminating me would be reasonable, but it won't undo the damage that I put on everyone else at work. I put my life and the lives of those surrounding me in jeopardy.

There are some places in the story that I did not understand, and perhaps the most important of them is what happened after Seiichi heard Seiko’s story
In the story, the mistreatment of Seiko by her parents is explained, but we also get a confession from Seiko, that she is the one who threw Seichi off the cliff when he was young.
We also learned that she was actually the one who pushed Shigure, and described the feeling as beautiful.
What is strange to me is Seiichi's reaction to being told this. He only said that she was being killed because she had been killed too.
Maybe he understood her feelings in one way or another, but why did he find the issue of trying to kill him and throwing his cousin off the cliff justified?
If you were in his place, wouldn't you feel very angry towards her? After all, you realized that everything bad that happened in your life is because of the person you are sleeping next to now, who describes the attempt to kill you and your cousin as beautiful.
But then we see that the cat comes back to life, which is something I did not understand either. What is the reason for the cat’s return to life, which indicates that Seichi’s feelings have improved.
Why would you feel better knowing that your mother was the cause of the tragedy in your life? We see Seichi talking to her friendlyly the next day after the storm ended. Why would he talk to her friendlyly after knowing that she was the cause of everything? This is strange and illogical.
We see his life and his psychology improving, but why? Is it because he finally understood his mother? But the question is, is the matter really that important? Even if she understood her, what would that change?
If I were in Cici's place, I would at least stop paying her rent. I wouldn't waste my money on someone who made my life a tragedy. I have every right to do so. Why would I let the person I abused take advantage of me? This doesn't make sense.
I know that some will say that she is his mother after all, but I think that the matter has gone beyond the issue of her being his mother because she has exceeded her limits a lot. Nothing will fix what happened. Only Seiichi was harmed here, but Shigure has died,The aunt has lost her son forever and must live the rest of her life in grief over what she lost, but it seems that the author does not focus on that at all.
The author did not give the aunt not even a single chapter, but instead gave us a chapter that singles out Fukichi. Sometimes I feel that the author hates the aunt's character even though she is the one who was most harmed in the story after seichi.
Even if you said that she took her revenge by pushing Sekou from the stairs, the matter was too late, and Seiko lived her life without consequences until she became an old woman.
I feel as if the author is trying to justify the murder issue in any way, as if it can be justified.
If anyone has a logical explanation for Seiichi's actions after discovering the truth about Seiko, please explain to me.