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I'm 31 years old, live in NJ. 5'9", 165 lbs (fit/athletic build) 3rd generation Chinese American (my family immigrated here in the 1900s). My family identifies as American as we tend to eat more pasta than rice and my generation has not learned the language. College educated with a Bachelor's in Biomedical Science (switched from an Engineering major...turns out I don't like theoretical math); currently working in the pharmaceutical industry and pretty much love the industry as there isn't any work drama and it's relatively straightforward yet challenging.
I've tried a few long distance relationships and they're quite difficult to manage...they were great when we able to meet in person and I didn't mind putting in the extra work. I'd be willing to try one if the distance is reasonable and the there is a definite spark between us. I am pretty sure I fit the definition of a demisexual, so I'll be strictly trying to form a connection first. I REALLY need the emotional connection before there is a sexual attraction, mentally I can't do hook ups (they're just really hard for me to handle and I have turned people down).
Personality wise I've been told that I tend to bring people together and keep things fun. I have a few different groups of friends and communities I am often with...and they can vary from the youngsters (21 to 30) to the old guys (60+) to the group that's around my age. I would say I'm pretty good at conversing and I try to stay on top of most current events. Mentally I'm an old man and feel more comfortable in that setting, so much that I literally hang out with 60+ years olds at the gym after a workout in the hot tub. I call them the hot tub gang and it's always a set of regulars where we might talk about the same thing every single day until someone newer to the group says that we talked about it yesterday.
I would say fitness is a major player in my life. I started out hating swimming as a kid, but here I am almost 27 years later...I made it through the lessons at the YMCA, joined a club team, swam in high school, swam in college and now I'm a swim coach and instructor as a hobby/side job in my free time. There's something about being a part of coaching people and watching them grow up and succeed that makes me smile.
My free time in the cold months usually consists of planning DIY projects or working on them. I tend to work on all the cars in the family and am the one that fixes them up or finds replacements for them. Or planning my next road trip to somewhere nicer. Whereas in the warm months I love going down to the beach to go for a swim and have a nice relaxing breakfast outdoors. I do have a few kayaks that I'll bring out to go with friends or if I feel it's safe a nice solo paddle to clear my mind. When I think about it, too many of my hobbies involve water. But I do enjoy things on dry land I promise!
I'm really looking for someone I can grow together with, a long term or forever relationship. I want a relationship where both of us put 100% in all the time and if we don't, we can talk to each other about our concerns and work it out. Honestly what I've realized is that maybe I am altruistic...I miss making someone feel happy and loved, miss the good morning texts, the waiting around all day just to see their texts, I miss spoiling someone and the feeling of that feeling of seeing that look that you get when someone truly loves you. I would love to slowly get to know you by having some conversations where the time just flies, then to a point where we talk nonstop, maybe some in person dates and then maybe eventually settle down together and enjoy life together.
Important stuff: Although I enjoy interacting with kids and it's a major part of my life...I don't want any of my own so...sorry if this is a dealbreaker for anyone. I don't drink (except for maybe wine at special occasions....I get really bad Asian Flush so I'll turn bright red if I smell alcohol essentially lol), not into smoking/drugs (Bad asthma and I'm just not into any of that stuff). I don't judge anyone that's into drinking or recreational drugs, it's just not for me personally. Religion wise, I'm Agnostic. Politically I lean relatively to the left.
I'm really searching for that genuine connection; voice calls are definitely a plus and would love to get to know you. It's alright if we end up just as friends that talk here and there.
If it sounds like you could be the one send me a chat or DM and tell me a bit about yourself. My name is Kevin and I'd love to know about you.

thiss might be rly weird. 😅
so about a year and a half ago my friend who i had been talking to a lot wanted to get into a qpr (queer platonic relationship) with me since they said they felt like an emotional attachment to me in a platonic way. i had no idea what that was when they first asked me out, so i agreed based on their explanation of what it was like. i also was pretty sure i was in the aromatic asexual spectrum, so i thought it would be nice.
the weird thing was even though i claimed to be acearo, i was still messing around on dating apps. and shortly after the qpr started, i was visiting my friend group in my hometown for a bit. we were discussing dating app stuff with our other friend, and i shared some of my own stories as we talked. i mentioned after my stories that i wasn't using dating apps anymore and i only had one friend making app/quote unquote "dating app" left on my phone. my partnefriend got concerned and asked me what it was. i explained to them it was an app i told them about before. but the way they got defensive about it made me realize that they probably considered me being on dating apps of any sort as cheating.
so, i guess i just didn't know what i was getting into? i thought it was like just a stronger friendship or like best friends plus or something lol,, but my friend/partner seemed to want to do more romantic stuff like use pet names and go on dates and stuff. i said i was okay with that, but i didn't really want to do cuddling with them which i told them when we were establishing rules or boundaries or whatever. they were fine with it, but idk the pet names felt unnatural to me and "dates" felt like just hanging out with a good friend. they send couple memes to me saying it's us, but half the time i don't really agree. sometimes it feels like they think of me as their idea of their 'perfect version' of me or something, and not actually me. i do care about this person, but i cannot see myself doing anything remotely romantic with them, the more i inch towards it. after a few months of trying this, i decided i didn't like this, but i didn't know how to bring it up and now we're nearing one and a half years..
i think i went along with it because i cared about this person. and when we hung out together, it felt like just being with a friend and someone i really cared about. i do care about them a lot, and i very much enjoy their company. we've known each other for forever, and our friendship has gone through quite a lot of ups and downs. and recently i keep thinking of the downs and how we'd get into fights and annoy the shit out of each other. we were celebrating our anniversary with them coming up to where i live, and we had a disagreement at a restaurant that reminded me of those times when we were younger teens. and more recently i just feel hurt with some of the stuff they do/say. maybe remembering our past is making me more sensitive to the negatives, idk atp.
i think i am a person who will easy go along with something, and my friend/partner claimed a few things about me that i never even thought of for myself. i believed when they explained why they thought it. they told me i was autistic and deserved to be on disability because i was "disabled". i am able bodied,, just have some mental illness. when i told my dad, he got super mad because before i started this relationship, i was really good about school and making good grades. i dropped out my classes for a bit after the relationship started. my friend/partner has never showed much interest in school beyond high school and they didn't want a job until more recently when they realized yt and their small business weren't getting much money. i stopped school for a couple semesters just to work, but i plan to go back in next semester– when i told them, they said they were worried it would go bad for me again... and i guess i feel like the relationship is stopping me from doing better in school.
i don't want to say they're a bad influence, i think i am more just easily influenced or tend to mimic people around me... my partnefriend should live their life they want, but i think i also might be mimicking what they do kinda and that might be why my family does think they're a bad influence. and i feel more disconnected to my family when i started talking to my friend/partner more. they told me my dad is a manipulative person, but i don't even want to think that... sometimes i wonder if they said it because they consider their own parents (especially dad) manipulative. and i have met their family, they do seem p shitty even to me, but i don't see my own parents like that... my dad is doing his best i think, and he's good enough at least,, my friend/partner also claimed stuff like gender, gender preference, political views of mine when i never really told them that? most was similar to their own identity, and i honestly don't know what my gendegender preference/political views are specifically, ive never firmly said i was a specific label of any of those, but it still felt weird that they were putting me in this box when i felt uncertain about those things.
i also don't know if i'm really aroace. like i see happy romantic couples, and still want something like that. and i don't know if i can go and find someone like that if im platonically partnered with someone. and at this point i feel like "i didn't know what i was getting into" doesn't work if i try to just end things now,, i also am afraid it'll just go down terribly, and i'll never even get to be acquaintances with this person again. and i feel like our mutual friends will all side with them and i will just lose those friends forever as well. i'll feel even shittier if i try romance and see that i really am aroace and then id just be forever alone with no friends.
my partnefriend also bought tickets to go to a convention in a few months and id feel even shittier to end things poorly before that since they really wanted to go there and cosplay with me. the convention famously doesn't give any refunds too so they can't even get their money back for the tickets.
we're even planning to move out together in 2025, but i don't know if it's still something i want. we've been planning since like 2022 to move out together (it started out as just friends before they asked to be partners) but we keep having to push it further down with financial issues and such, so i don't even know if 2025 is a good year either. i am going through the process of switching my college major, and i feel like that's all ill really have time for soon especially when i start working alongside studying too. (im quite literally switching from an arts related major to something stem related lol.) i want to get my bachelor's and establish a good paying job before moving out. (and probably also work towards my master's) i don't even know if my friend/partner has anything going on in their future career and stuff, and i do not want to have to be financially responsible for them at all. i barely like when they ask me for money. they usually pay me back or pay for some of my stuff in return so it probably balances out, id just rather we each pay for our own things i guess,, or maybe im just being a prick abt it lol.
i just feel like an asshole, and im probably wasting their time by pretending to want to be more than just a standard friend and like everything is going ok on my side. i just don't know what to do. this is kinda my first relationship tbh, and definitely a first for qpr so i don't really have experience on how to end things lol, and i don't know what a good method to do so is.
sorry if this makes no sense, im rambling... but i am in need of advice... mainly, i am just looking for a way to end the relationship. but any other advice is fine, i need it. if im a piece of shit or you want to say something else 'negative' you can tell me that too, i just need honesty on my situation.
tldr; i am in a queer platonic relationship with someone who i saw as a friend. they wanted to be romantic. i did not. we are getting into disagreements. We seem to have different lifestyle choices, and it's getting to the point where i just want to end it. how do i break up with them that won't make things terrible between the two of us?

I know I’m going to get some hate for this one and I accept that 100%.
For context: I have a few SMPs… too many. I see one for a good price on Chrono and just can’t help myself.
While there’s a good half dozen or so that I love to death and have no intention of messing with, I find myself in the position where I’ve got several that never wear and I just look at and wonder why the hell I bought them.
I don’t sell watches so these are just going to gather dust. What I’d like to do is customise them.
I’d like to know if there’s any sources of dials, bezels and hands that can be dropped in. Ive seen some with a planet ocean bezel swap but I’d like to try something different.
The references on the chopping block are variations of 2531 / 2541.

When I repost someone else's video, or when someone reposts one of my videos what actually happens to that video? Does it get pushed to a handful more of viewers or does it not really affect the total view count? I struggle to get videos over 250 viewers like most people (which is entirely TT's fault for not showing my videos to my own followers) so I find myself growing slower than a snail's pace. Without spending cash on videos can reposting help me grow if say I get 10 or so people to repost a few videos of mine?

I hate venting online as it’s futile and embarrassing for me (no one has to feel this way. This is just my own personal view that is mine and only mine) So, I will probably delete this soon for I also hate showing weakness to strangers (probably due to being bullied as a kid/teen). Showing weakness and emotions always leads to more abuse it seems and im often weary of others. So, with this, I’ll try and open up even if it’s temporary.

A bit of backstory I guess. My mother died when I was 7 which left behind a hole that needed to be filled. She came along to help us as she struggled with a divorce of a abusive ex husband. She had issues but At first, everything was fine, I even had silly nicknames for her that she “enjoyed” she responded with kindness to these (one was care bear, another was pumpkin because it was fall and she liked the smell, the others I don’t remember). In the beginning, I would even want her over often (when I was little) as I wanted someone to become a person I could look for as a mom but not as a replacement to my actual mom. 

With time as dad got more ill she would be by his side more (which is totally understandable, I would too for my lover) and it slowly evolved to hospital visits. I would slowly pick up being a “parent” for her disabled daughter when I was 9/10/11 when she would go out with dad to spend time with him, go to the other room to isolate from us (either needing alone time or to help him. Not my business), be with him for hospital stays, etc. I was used to this since prior, I was used to helping my dad with his medical issues and helped him get ready for life by the time I was late 7/early 8 due to his own health failing as well.
Hop years later and after problem after problem with her and me I realize my step mother never genuinely cared about me. I know it takes two to tango and it’s partly my fault, I get where I fell in my faults and I’ve accepted them as my lessons in day to day life. However, as I became more reclusive to her as she showed a lack of accountability (and to this day, she won’t admit and see why it was so wrong for her to do things that were heavily against me) I was then always the scapegoat as she showed love and gushed over her actual kids. My achievements were worthless and often met with a “you should’ve already been good at that”, “you should know better by now”, or “that should already have been done if it was something important to you”. The typical “you aren’t good enough” wearing different clothes. The feelings of being useless had already creeped in by the time I was 10/11 so this was going on for a long time (along with many other issues that I’m not gonna get into). Even as I got nearly straight A’s in college I was never praised except by dad who unfortunately died when I was early 19. I know I should seek praise but I would’ve loved a good job from her… I know that’s silly but it would’ve been nice to be seen as her actual kid worth my of love. I know my pesky teen years didn’t help but I was still your kid in some form and I was treated like a punching bag from her own jealousy and hate for me.
Now with no family left except a few aunts, she tried everything she can to ensure I don’t become independent (I don’t wanna talk too much about it, I’m too tired plus this post is getting rather long).
The parts that hurt the most were: She refused my safety from my childhood to adulthood. She never cared what truly happened to me it seems. Never really paid attention unless to berate (usually in the form of gossiping to others and embarrassing me in front of others so when my teenage self got upset she can use my reaction as “proof” and to “justify” herself) and yell at me. She snooped around my room and life to gossip to her kids about me how much of a failure I was and how disgusting of a person I am. Then got mad when I isolated or kept my life very secretive. She would find issues with me just to try to make my dad hate me (thankfully it failed. I’m unsure if this was a attempt to further isolate me because I wasn’t a part of her “actual kids”. I don’t know and I’m too tired to know) or get him to yell at me so she could stay in the other room and listen to how I was being scolded and begin crying. When she realized she couldn’t control my life she tried hiding food from me as I was early 20’s because she had “control issues with me” (her words not mine). I didn’t like things going to waste so I’d eat nearly expired foods often and she would get pissy that I was “stealing from her”. She gossiped to strangers about how I never do anything with myself and suspected I was just a useless failure. (I was in college with a job, thanks.) When I did finally snap she held on to it but when she snapped she expected to be forgiven. She also would steal from me and blame me (but would expect me to keep my hands to myself when I was hungry and didn’t have the time or funds to get food…).
All I wanted was a mom to care but I guess I couldn’t get that because the one I got died when I barely got to know her. There is more to say but I think that is all of us here, too much to say about someone who was supposed to love us. My apologies if my post is in shambles I never really let anything out like this so I’m sure I kinda sound “childish” but like- I really hate Mother’s Day and I just wanted to let it out, even if I delete this later.

I won’t be using real names as I don’t want anyone to find out at the moment. This is extremely unusual and complicated that I really need an outside perspective.
During my sophomore year of high school, about seven years ago, I met a guy whom we'll call Charlie. At the time, we were both in separate relationships, but we hit it off as great friends despite having very little in common and polar opposite personalities.
Over the next year, we both became single and decided to pursue a romantic relationship. He was my first true love, and we essentially grew into adulthood together. Everything was great, we had LOADS of inside jokes and great trust in each other. Despite our strong bond, we constantly fought over little shit and struggled to see eye to eye. When I got emotional, Charlie would often withdraw, "I'm done talking to you until you stop crying." He was more logical and less emotionally supportive, which created friction between us. Our differing life goals further strained our relationship. I wanted children at a young age and dreamed of moving out of state, whereas Charlie preferred to stay put and have children much later in life.
This led to three breakups over four years, with long periods of separation each time. Despite our differences, we always found our way back to each other as friends, like magnets. But would then re-enter a romantic relationship. Looking back, I realize we were better off as friends, but Charlie always wanted more. I repeatedly entered romantic relationships with him because I feared losing him for good.
Our last breakup was in October 2022, and surprisingly, I felt nothing. I moved on quickly, focusing on my new job and dating other guys. In November 2022, I met my now-fiancé, and our relationship progressed rapidly, resulting in an unexpected pregnancy just 3 months in. I'm genuinely happy with my fiancé and our life we built together and wouldn't change it for the world. However, over the past six months, thoughts of Charlie have consumed me. I dream about him every night, but these dreams are not romantic—they simply involve us talking, as if no time has passed at all. This has significantly impacted my mental state, and I'm unsure how to move forward.
I don’t miss Charlie romantically, we were not compatible on that level. What I miss deeply is our bond, our inside jokes, and simply talking to him as a friend. I am confused as I was completely fine for over a year and now suddenly it feels like a heavy weight on my chest. I’m constantly on the verge of tears, grieving Charlie as if he died. I want to reach out to him, to know how he's doing, whether he got his dream job, but I hesitate because I fear Charlie may resent me for moving on so quickly. I also don’t want to disrespect my fiancé and our relationship.
This is consuming me, and I can’t tell anyone I know because they will misunderstand my feelings. How do I cope? How can I get over this lost friendship and this person I will probably never talk to or see again? I’ve never had a bond like me and him had. Charlie was my platonic soulmate and he’s now forever gone. It’s breaking my heart. I desperately need help.

trigger warning for: suicide and sexual assault mentioned
to start off, i’m freshly 20 so i’m technically not a teen anymore, but other subreddits no one has responded yet and i wanted to try my luck on here
i(20F) and my friend(18F) have been friends for almost two years. i consider her my best friend. she’s been on and off with this guy(18M) since before we were friends, and he’s a complete asshole to her. he’s manipulative, toxic, narcissistic, and has even done stuff to her without her consent. overall, this guy is bad news.
recently, he broke it off with her and said it was for good, and blocked her. she attempted to overdose, called me, and i drove her to the emergency room and stayed by her side the whole time. she was discharged without being sent to a mental hospital, and i would try to check up on her everyday. this got very overwhelming for me, as i have PTSD from my own suicide attempt and it’s been triggering me. i’ve been having nightmares every night, and it seems it’s triggered a mental breakdown of my own.
she keeps trying to reach him through ways he doesn’t realize she’s not blocked on, then he says something mean and blocks her. she still defends him 100%, and through conversations with her she told me she’s never planning to move on and would rather die than be with him. i’ve done my everything to support her and be there for her, i’ve thrown my mental health in the trash to be there for her(i realize it’s bad).
recently, she found out that her ex found a new girl(not even a week after her attempt) and she told me that she was going to take every pill possible in her cabinet that night when everyone went to bed. i asked her multiple times if she was joking, if it was only a thought, but she said she was one hundred percent sure she was going to attempt and die that night. i asked if she was willing to come to my house, and she agreed.
as she drove over to my house, i called 911 and had police and an ambulance come to my house to do an intervention. she went to the emergency room, i went with her, and she was sent to a mental hospital where she’s been for around a week.
her mom was upset that i called 911, and i soon found out that she had lied to her mom about what she had told me. she told her mom that i had tricked her, that she just was having thoughts and wanted to talk, but i was sending her away against her will. i quickly showed her mom the texts she had sent, proving that this was much more serious.
i was like, okay, maybe in the moment she was just scared of her mom finding out and i got thrown under the bus, i can live with that. but i found out that her friends were calling my dad and i weird for calling 911. she had asked me to update one of her friends for her, and i did, he told me that she said she wasn’t going to do anything. i clarified again, explaining i was 100% sure she would be dead if nothing was done. she also posted on reddit, saying that “she didn’t even do anything” etc.
in the hospital she said she thought everyone was overreacting and was just annoyed. meanwhile i just cried my eyes out for thirty minutes because of PTSD and stress.
to everyone else she’s making it seem like i just wanted her to be sent away and she didn’t do or say ANYTHING that warranted this to happen. either she’s lying to me, or she’s lying to everyone else.
i feel hurt and betrayed, after all this she tells me i overreacted and made me out to be the bad guy to everyone.
i plan to talk to her when she gets out about what had happened and how i feel, but im not sure what to even think about this all.

My caseworker doesn't seem to be too confident in the information she is giving me so I tried to scour this sub for some answers and it is just as confounding as ever. Nobody seems to know. When I sell some kind of stock, security, or crypto for profit in a TFSA, does that count as income? Does it follow the same rules of regular income where the first thousand is exempt but the anything after that is clawed at a 75% rate?
I just want to make it clear that I am not asking about the asset ceiling. Whenever this kind of question gets asked, I seem to get a lot of answers saying "the asset ceiling is 40k". I get it, you can not own $40K in assets. I am nowhere close to that and that isn't my question. I am specifically asking about the reporting/clawback process.
Here are some answers I have found ("paraphrasing"):
"You do not even have to report it"
"It is treated like regular income". Which probably means it has to get reported, which contradicts the previous answer...
Moving on...
"It only counts as income if you are already past the income limit." which also probably means you do have to report it
Two more votes for "Treated like regular income". Also here!
This post says that you only have report it as income if you "took out" more than the cutoff amount. Can bertrandite shine some light here? What if you didn't take it out of your TFSA and just kept it in there? Do you not get to report it as income anymore if you don't make a withdrawl?
Another post saying that you don't even need to report it but from a deleted user.
Then there are a few posts saying that they will deduct 100% of asset gains (instead of 75% on income over $1000) here, here, and here. All of this contradicts many of the other posts above.
Then there is a person who, like me, is totally confounded even after consulting the proper authority figures in this whole thing!
So what is it? Is the deduction 75%? 100%? 0%? Do I report it? Only if I own $40K in assets?
And if I do report it, is it annually? Monthly? Whenever I complete the sale? What is actually going on guys?
JaysPoomPoomNaniNani did you ever end up finding the answer?

34M Australia - 25/11/24 I had the following procedures (private):

• Colonoscopy (Sessile serrated polyps found during colonoscopy in 2021)
• Sphincterotomy
• Removal of third of forth degree hemorrhoids

Recovery has been far from smooth sailing and I'm still not 100%. I've been back to my specialist multiple times with reoccurring issues including sharp pain and bleeding (sometime spotting or more severe after bowel movements). I've been in a constant cycle of this reoccurring every month since the surgery.
I had appointments with my specialist on 24/02/23 and 06/03/23 to discuss my concerns. After having a physical examination on both occasions, I was told everything was fine. My specialist mentioned that there were surgical staples that were still in place, but that they would come out on their own over time.
As the months went on, I was still experiencing the issues previously mentioned. I went back a third time on 03/10/23 for a follow-up. During the examination, the specialist said that the staples were still there and decided to remove them.
I thought this would be the end of my problems, but the bleeding and pain still continued. It seemed like my wounds were not healing properly. I had another appointment on 14/11/23 and was recommended Botox as a solution. I agreed to go ahead because I was starting to get a little desperate at this point. The specialist said he could do it cost price. All I needed to do was purchase the Botox from one of his associates (GP) cosmetic clinic. I'm not too sure if this is a red flag or not.
I scheduled an appointment for 01/12/23 and was instructed to collect the Botox beforehand and bring it with me to the specialist clinic in an Esky (portable cooler). The procedure itself was quick, and I was looking forward to finally getting some relief.
As the weeks went by, I started to get some complications, including difficulty emptying my bowels, fecal urgency, pain that would last hours, and a buildup of pressure. It felt like I had a golf ball inside of me, and my muscles were trying to squeeze it out. At this point, it was Christmas time, and my specialist wouldn't be available until February 2024.
I went back to my specialist on 09/02/24 to explain my complications. After a physical examination, the specialist said that they couldn't find any issues and that everything had healed properly. They seemed perplexed as to why I had any concern about what was going on. After further discussion, they suggested that I probably have Levator Ani Syndrome and wrote me a referral to a physical therapist for pelvic floor therapy. I was a little dubious, as the symptoms I was experiencing started after I received the Botox injections, and I had never had these issues before. The pain I had experienced was due to the bleeding and reopening of my wounds.
Since then, the only contact I've had with my specialist is via email. Getting an appointment can take up to three months and past visits have mostly been essentially a waste of time. At this point, I was still having issues with bleeding, so my specialist requested that I keep a diary of when it occurs and take pictures as evidence. On 28/03/24 I had a pretty bad bleed, so I took a picture and emailed the specialist. They responded pretty quickly and remarked that this was unusual. They recommended making another appointment if this continued.
After this email exchange, I went ahead and booked a consultation for pelvic floor therapy. The physical therapist said that it will take up to six months to regain proper function again. Presently, my pain comes and goes. Some days are better than others. I emailed my specialist yesterday (13/05/24) with an update on my condition and the current symptoms I was having:

• Bleeding every few weeks, most recently on 11/05/24. It always seems to be in the same area. Roughly 1 inch inside at 12:00.
• Difficulty completely emptying bowels.
• Loss of muscle function in pelvic floor.
• Regular discharge of mucus.
• Irritation and pressure built up in the lower rectum.
• Persistent chronic pain.

They responded, but downplayed my concerns and recommended that I continue with the pelvic floor therapy and book an appointment after that. Then they would explore options for further testing if any issues were still present. I was pretty dissatisfied with this recommendation and lacked any concern for what I was currently experiencing. I reiterated my concerns again and expressed my frustration with the whole situation and how I believed the surgery was unsuccessful. The specialist responded in a really unprofessional manner, saying that I was inflammatory, rude, and disrespectful. I can't believe how arrogant and out of touch this person is. I've been extremely patient and understanding throughout this whole ordeal. I feel like my frustration and disappointment are justified.
I won't be going back to this specialist, but I need to get to the bottom of how this all even happened and who is at fault. Is it bad luck, or is this a result of poor care from my specialist? I've made a booking for a comprehensive examination of my pelvic floor at another clinic. Hopefully, this will shed some light on what my symptoms are and a way to move forward.

I'm trying to find the perfect video player for me. The 2 things I need is just for video to play good, and to be able to zoom in or out how ever much I want. I like to zoom in the video when it has black borders around it to perfectly fit my screen.
VLC would basically be perfect but you can't zoom in the way I like. Same for MPV. MX player doesn't load things fast enough usually. I haven't heard that the pro version is any faster. Nova doesn't work load for me for whatever reason.
Next player was almost perfect until I just ran into a problem that hopefully one of you can explain. I ran into a certain movie that only VLC and MPV could play for some reason. The file is called (Halloween.Ends.2022.2160p.BluRay.R EMUX.HEVC.DTS-HD.MA.TrueHD.7.1.At mos-FGT). Maybe the file name could help you see what type of video it is and that could help understand why it will only play on VLC and MPV. The audio will play and but the screen will stay black when using Next Player and Just Player.
This isn't that big of a deal at all. I can watch a little zoomed out on certain files if I have to. But if there is a way to fix the problem, it would be nice to know how. Any help or recommendations would be appreciated.

i had my initial lab work done in January of this year, but there ended up being an issue finding a pharmacy that would fill the prescription due to where i live. it was a few months delayed, then i finally got to start Testosterone cream three weeks ago.
now, i have an appointment with my primary care doctor, who is the one who prescribed me T, next Tuesday and I remembered it was supposed to be a 3 month check up for hormones and i have a blood work order somewhere to get labs done and check up on my levels.
so my question is - is it worth it to still get the blood work done and/or go to the appointment? will my hormone levels have even shifted from my baselines at this point? or should i try to postpone until it’s around the real 3-month mark?
for additional context, i am on a low dose to start out with, so i assume there would be even less of an impact on my results. i also haven’t noticed many physical changes yet

I realized recently that I kind of use Reddit as a diary. The place to share things that I wouldn't normally be able to and reflect on what I have been through.
So welcome to my mind I guess, and I find someone talkative and animated amazingly attractive.
It's honestly super important to me because on the talkative and extroverted scale I am very high up and basically spend all day just trying to experience new things and talk to people where I can.
I absolutely LIVE for a good conversation and find myself growing stressed and bent out of shape if I find myself isolated. I often annoy or overwhelm quieter, more shy folks so I want someone to match my energy and have the type of relationship where we stay up until 3 in the morning doing absolutely nothing but sharing stories and flirting when you find a real connection.
I wouldn't call myself clingy and I realize you have a life, I don't want to know what you're up to all the time and I won't keep tabs on you. But realize I genuinely care about what you're life is like, and find great joy in spending time with someone and if you can't make time for that then what's the point of being together?
Maybe I just want someone to adore me as much as I adore them. Someone I can build a future with and gives me motivation and happiness.
I want to slow down and relax with someone and be stupid together. Go out and explore the world because shared experiences are always so much more special in my memories than ones where I was alone.
I've been working too hard and been too on my own lately so I dare you to make me stop and think for a moment.
I got time I promise.

This is cancer in pure form currently - look, it was difficult before factories were a thing, but still doable, now it's straight up insane in the worst way - you have to rescue 50 targets while being overwhelmed with enemies AND FACTORIES. These things are not bile tinans, they can eat two 500kg and still operate and there can (or, more accurately, there WILL) be more than one of them.The only viable-ish strat i've found is this: you spawn outside of the obj, two of you distract bots away from point, one guy goes looting and one goes to obj and does the thing(I think he better wear light armor for less chance of being spotted, but I didn't test that one yet). None of those rescue-missions i've played where we had a standard direct contact with bots were successful, so any stable working starts for this one?

Hi,
I am in the market for a jackhammer, and I like to do my research before I go buying anything regardless of the price level or whether I buy used/new, etc.. On HD's website, you can find two quality points - cheap jackhammers and expensive (name brand) jackhammers. In this specific comparison, the cheaper jackhammer actually has more impact energy than the expensive one. This also is a rather generous comparison - there are "name brand" (e.g. makita, bosch, hilti) jackhammers on HD's website that are double triple, maybe quadruple the cost of the expensive option I picked, which was already triple the cost of the cheap version I picked. And yet, the cheap ones don't manage to rise past ~$300.
Now, I know capitalism does some dumb shit sometimes, but brand loyalty in my experience is not worth 5x-10x the cost of the off brand product - what I mean is, I think it's pretty rare to see brand names try to squeeze that much overhead out of their brand loyalty. Personal experience and intuition tells me that there is some feat or product of engineering that makes the expensive versions worth their salt, at least to some degree. But I for the life of me cannot seem to figure out what that difference is that makes the name brands better, when just looking at the spec sheets.
Can anyone with experience chip in?
(... hah... get it?)

Hello! My name is Isaac and I have EST time zones (Michigan)! I thought I’d look and see if I could find any cool people on here and see where things went and worst case scenario we end up being best friends :D
My main hobbies are playing games, watching anime/tv shows/movies, listening to music and podcasts, video editing, and learning more about psychology and other topics that interest me such as psychology!!!
I mainly play pc games even tho I also have a switch. Recently I’ve been playing a good bit of baldur’s gate 3 and league of legends but I also have games like Minecraft, terraria, r6, phasmophobia, valorant, and stardew valley so I don’t mind playing anything!
I love almost all sorts of music, anime, movies, and shows and have an open mind to trying out new things! So hit me up with your recommendations and maybe we can watch/listen together!! (Trying out new hobbies like drawing and whatever seems like fun!)
I hope to meet some cool people! Idm messages or comments if you want to ask something or get to hangout! Hope you have a wonderful day/evening!

Me and a bunch of people are a part of an organisation, we organise events for students in my university, a bunch of us have decided to live together in a dorm of about 10 next year.
The problem came up when we slowly started realising that one of the guys that is going to live with us next year smells pretty pretty badly, he’s also one of those people who have 0 filter and who says things quite rudely sometimes, but he’s a very motivated member of the organisation, there’s just no synergy between him and the rest of us, everyone else agrees with that statement. So the rest of us have started discussing the possibility of telling him that living with us next year isn’t a good idea or at least talking to him about his hygiene problems. My future roommates have been hesitating for weeks to open the conversation with him, we’ve created a group chat without him to discuss how we’re going to deal with that problem. But they’ve been too scared of hurting his feelings , I am frankly one of the only initiators of this conversation and every time I tell them “hey guys, we should talk to him sooner rather than later” they just respond dismissively and then ignore the issue, i was honestly so fed up with them just ignoring this issue.I’ve been going after my future roommates for weeks trying to find a way and a time to talk to this guy about the Hygiene issue but they just wouldn’t do anything. I especially insisted on talking to him sooner so he can find another dorm because finding dorms near our university is quite hard and i didn’t want him to end up without a dorm.
That was until I saw my friend by pure coincidence hanging out with one of his current roommates, she said that we were insane for accepting to live with him because it’s been hell for her for the past 3 years, she explained some horrific things about his hygiene, it was way worse than I thought. For example he’d rub his hands in between his toes then cooks without washing his hands, he would clean the dining table with the same towel he washes the floor and toilet with, he would wash the dishes with only water, he would clog the sinks with his hair, he wouldn’t flush the toilet and would dirty it with poop, he would cook something then leave it out on the counter for weeks. They’ve been living together for 3 years and they told him multiple times throughout the years clearly that he’s not a clean person and that it’s a hell living with him but his behaviour hasn’t changed at all, in fact, she said it’s gotten worse.
What’s even funnier is the fact that he keeps telling us how his roommates do nothing around the dorm and how they suck and how he’s the only one that cleans.
So me being absolutely fed up with me future roommate’s carelessness and being horrified from what i heard, i asked his current roommate if i can record everything she said as proof to my future roommates and to motivate them to do something, she said sure, i recorded her and i sent the voice message to my future roommates to prove to them how crappy things could get for us if we do nothing about this.
To my surprise, my future roommates’ frustration and disappointment was directed towards me, they said that what i did (recording his current roommate’s experience with him and sending it to them) is very mean spirited and ruthless and that i should delete the voice recording from the group chat immediately before anyone else hears it.
So AITAH for sending that voice message to the groupchat to push my future roommates to do something about this ? Was what I did mean spirited and too far ?

Hello all! M26 and have been single now for 7 years. Wondering what y’all do to put yourself out there outside of dating apps?
Within the past few years I moved to a new city. I’ve established myself very well in the city. Have some family members here that I absolutely adore and love spending time with. I’m in a good job that is paying for my schooling and I’m working toward my dream career. I’ve also developed a diverse group of absolutely fantastic friends through my job and sports. Overall I am happy with where my life is at and the direction that I am heading in.
I am a deeply people oriented person and love having deep relationships with people. In my life right now I feel like the only thing I am missing is having a significant other to share my life with and jump into new adventures. Throughout the years I’ve used dating apps on and off with minimal success. Recently I had a one night stand with a fantastic woman and we just laid there and shared a little part of ourselves with each other before parting ways. The experience has just exacerbated my feelings of loneliness and made me realize how much I’m longing for that deep connection with another human being.
Anyway, what are some of the best ways to put myself out there and meet people so that I can find some dates and hopefully meet someone that wants to tag along for the ride? And any ways to cope with those feelings of loneliness while still living the single life?
Any advice would be appreciated!

Had an epiphany last night. Not a very profound one. It arrived as many epiphanies do, late at night when the house was quiet and the TV was in the locked and upright position. It was, for want of a better term, Rumsfeldian. It has to do with suddenly knowing something you’ve known all along, knowing the known. Earlier in the day I had seen a short news item concerning a ‘bounty hunter’ and it started me thinking about a long standing discomfort I’ve had with ‘bounty hunters’ i.e. they operate outside the constraints associated with law enforcement relative to search and seizure, miranda rights, forced entry, etc. I’m sure this has to do with their being part of the private sector and not operating under color of authority and yet I’m deeply uneasy with a system which puts these guys in motion with all the same capacity for misreading an address, or misidentifying an individual or, frankly, just being sent on a fool’s errand, as our official arbiters of the law, but without any recourse to the subsequently injured individual. But my epiphany really didn’t have anything to do with the bounty hunter. It had to do with the idea of the extrajudicial use of power. Our Republic is lost. I’m sorry. I don’t know any other way to put it. We’ll never be able to restore the fabric of this particular democracy after what has happened in the last six plus years. The ability of the state to engage in extrajudicial force is now beyond recall. We’ll never get it back. When I say ‘we’ I mean us, the People. We’ll never be able to get it back because the tools with which we might have addressed the problem simply no longer exist. The government (in the person of George W. Bush) has decided (and codified) the idea that the People are the enemy and any attempt to gain access to information is itself an act against the state. Any effort to bring information to the People is an act against the state. Our safeguards against the mistreatment of prisoners are rendered inoperable by the government’s willingness to simply render the prisoner to a country where torture and murder are possible and probable. The People’s ability to know the names and circumstances of such extrajudicial kidnappings is denied. The rules under which our military operates, the safeguards that our armed forces will not do something without our approval are made obsolete by the fact of standing armies of mercenaries, subcontractors, willing and able to operate without constraint or oversight. There are presently more American mercenaries in Iraq than American military personnel (which, by the way, is at an all-time high). No one tells these armed men what they can and can’t do and since it happens outside the U.S. we apparently have little official interest in how they do their jobs anyway. Our system of laws cannot protect the people any further. This president regularly signs legislation into law and then quietly issues a signing statement which exempts the executive branch from the very law he just signed. We’ll never get to the bottom of this, Executive Privilege, you know, and the sealing of president’s papers and the secreting of their location insures that we’ll never get to look through the official history. The office of the Vice-President no longer even keeps logs of classified material they’ve handled, they don’t want a paper trail and so there isn’t one. We’re no longer among the healthiest people in the industrialized world, we rank no. 43 in infant mortality, behind Cuba, Croatia and the Czech Republic. Our ‘health care system’ delivers the poorest actual care at the highest cost of any industrialized country in the world. But our ‘health care system’ is a great money maker and so any attempt to change it, to make health care more universally available and more affordable is defeated. We are no longer a country of the People, by the People and for the People (if we ever were, albeit moving inexorably in that idealized direction). We are now permanently a country for the rich and for the largest corporations, everyone else, devil take the hindmost. I always harbored the secret belief that once these guys are out of office we can get down to the job of rebuilding, of reclaiming our democracy but, and this is my epiphany, it ain’t gonna happen. The terrible changes wrought by these men will stand. Power will find a way to sustain itself. Not wanting to diminish the powers he conveniently finds at his disposal, the next chief executive won’t do anything to restore the Republic. Nor will the one after that. And the tools once available to the people simply no longer exist.
MR August, 2007

So I made a new friend and she happens to be a family friend. We’ve hung out twice once was with family and one was without. When we hung out alone, we went to the club and we pregamed at her friends place. So I had a drunken make out with her friend (do not regret I think he’s good looking). Because I had never done that before (drunken make out where everyone saw) I was embarrassed and I texted her the next day that it would never happen again. Now I think he was pretty into me and I’m pretty into him. It’s been a couple weeks and I can’t stop thinking about what happened and I want to see him again. Not to date or anything but maybe in a casual sense but I wanna sus out the vibes when I’m semi sober. I feel so weird asking her to hang out just because I want to see him that makes me feel icky. Her and I have some plans to go out and I’m just hoping that he’ll come too. I’m not sure how to navigate this. Should I ask her for his number or should I just wait to see what happens? I think there’s a lot of factors that make this feel weird. They happen to be older than me my friend and the guy so I feel like a baby in the situation. So I’m sure what is stressing me out is not gonna stress them out, but all of this is (intimacy) is pretty new to me. and I like that he took initiative and I felt comfortable with him. I have no idea how I’ll feel sober, but I wanna try to figure it out. What should I do? Is it just a waiting game?