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2024.05.14 17:53 Aniform I just want some advice on my choices in terms of candle vessel and wicks and I just need a sanity check.
I'm just struggling to weigh out what would be the best choices for me. My entire brand is sort of a witchy vibe, with candle names that might be like "Mystic Cauldron" or something like that. So, I've taken great care to try and create a theme and choose fragrances that fit. I had planned on my candles being black with a black label with white font. I've gone through a lot of vessels, but what I've so far settled on is these style https://cdn11.bigcommerce.com/s-znjh1s2dil/images/stencil/960w/products/192/410/10-oz-black-candle-jar-glossy__69548.1708615374.jpg?c=1
Now, here's where I'm sort of running through it all in my mind. I'm offering a 8oz and 10oz candle and currently the 10oz candle comes with a bamboo lid, which of course adds to the COGS, but where I'm pricing that candle, it works out fine. I'd very much like a lid for the 8oz candles too, but with the lid added to it, suddenly the 8oz is too costly for the customer in my opinion. But, I keep looking at the similar 8oz offering in clear and the price is so ideal that if it were clear, I could get a lid AND still be under the price point I'd like. I just don't know how I feel about my all black label against clear glass. (Obviously that would be white wax and a black label.) And, here's the thing, I keep hearing from people who have yet to see the black candle vessel with the black label, but when I tell people about it, they often say, "black on black? I think it'd be more of a contrast if it were a black label on clear glass." And, that has me second guessing myself as well. I just decided to print up my label and put it on my black glass and I think it looks fine. There's a border around the outside edge and then the text.
Ultimately, my main concern is regarding clear glass. I just don't think the theme works well with clear glass, even though, omg, the price point of clear glass is beyond ideal. But, I look at other folks using amber apothecary jars and while I like those, I feel like they're more common. Heck, even at one of the craft fairs I intend to go to, there's a seller there who is using them. I don't want to have customers see their amber jars and then see me with the same, just a different label. I feel like the black ones set me apart. And considering the witchy themes, black makes sense to me.
The next thing is, the wicks. I love the look of the wood wicks. I think they fit my theme well, they certainly can elevate the look of the candle. But, that said, they are pricier, I mean, I can get the wood wicks from Makesy + shipping = 43c per wick. Versus I buy cotton wicks from CandleScience + shipping = 11c per wick. That brings down my COGS so well. I'm still in testing phases and if you had asked me last night, I'd have said, screw wood wicks, I'll do cotton! But that was because in multiple tests I've had, the wood wicks are so temperamental to get going, if you don't trim just right, it's a pain. It's a pain to get lit, even if you follow best practices. And yet, once it's lit that first time, every time I reignite them, they work beautifully. I just don't know if I'm comfortable selling them when customers may not read directions or care for their wicks. Heck, I know prior to getting into candles, when I was just a consumer, I would literally light my candles with no wick trimming, burn them for 10hrs a day, and then light them again without any wick care whatsoever. It seems like a big ask to get customers to care for finicky wood wicks.
Anyway, I just have no one else to bounce things off of and would really like for some opinions.
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Now, here's where I'm sort of running through it all in my mind. I'm offering a 8oz and 10oz candle and currently the 10oz candle comes with a bamboo lid, which of course adds to the COGS, but where I'm pricing that candle, it works out fine. I'd very much like a lid for the 8oz candles too, but with the lid added to it, suddenly the 8oz is too costly for the customer in my opinion. But, I keep looking at the similar 8oz offering in clear and the price is so ideal that if it were clear, I could get a lid AND still be under the price point I'd like. I just don't know how I feel about my all black label against clear glass. (Obviously that would be white wax and a black label.) And, here's the thing, I keep hearing from people who have yet to see the black candle vessel with the black label, but when I tell people about it, they often say, "black on black? I think it'd be more of a contrast if it were a black label on clear glass." And, that has me second guessing myself as well. I just decided to print up my label and put it on my black glass and I think it looks fine. There's a border around the outside edge and then the text.
Ultimately, my main concern is regarding clear glass. I just don't think the theme works well with clear glass, even though, omg, the price point of clear glass is beyond ideal. But, I look at other folks using amber apothecary jars and while I like those, I feel like they're more common. Heck, even at one of the craft fairs I intend to go to, there's a seller there who is using them. I don't want to have customers see their amber jars and then see me with the same, just a different label. I feel like the black ones set me apart. And considering the witchy themes, black makes sense to me.
The next thing is, the wicks. I love the look of the wood wicks. I think they fit my theme well, they certainly can elevate the look of the candle. But, that said, they are pricier, I mean, I can get the wood wicks from Makesy + shipping = 43c per wick. Versus I buy cotton wicks from CandleScience + shipping = 11c per wick. That brings down my COGS so well. I'm still in testing phases and if you had asked me last night, I'd have said, screw wood wicks, I'll do cotton! But that was because in multiple tests I've had, the wood wicks are so temperamental to get going, if you don't trim just right, it's a pain. It's a pain to get lit, even if you follow best practices. And yet, once it's lit that first time, every time I reignite them, they work beautifully. I just don't know if I'm comfortable selling them when customers may not read directions or care for their wicks. Heck, I know prior to getting into candles, when I was just a consumer, I would literally light my candles with no wick trimming, burn them for 10hrs a day, and then light them again without any wick care whatsoever. It seems like a big ask to get customers to care for finicky wood wicks.
Anyway, I just have no one else to bounce things off of and would really like for some opinions.
2024.05.14 17:53 leifsprout Should I break up with my boyfriend after finding out he has a secret IG account where he likes sexy pictures and j*rks off to them
TL;DR my boyfriend likes and masturbates to other girls sexy pictures on his secret IG account since he doesnāt get sexually turned on by me anymore after moving in together
I (27F) just found out my boyfriend (24M) has a secret instagram account where he likes other girlās pictures on. And theyāre not even OF models or celebrities, just regular accounts of girls who posts sexy pictures and thirst traps. I feel so betrayed and disrespected. He even hid the instagram app on his phone so it wont appear on his homescreen to ensure I wouldnāt see that he even has it installed.
For context, I looked through everything on the account and he wasnāt following anyone or had any followers at all. There were also no chats, no comments. There were only likes and the most recent one was a 44 week old post. I would say in total there would have been around 30 liked posts of girls either in bikinis or revealing outfits. Looked through the account and log in history and I was able to sum up that he recently just installed it again yesterday and previous to that he used it around 7 weeks ago. I also saw that he created the account September 2023 which would have been around the time we first moved in together but when I confronted him about it he said heās had the account even before we were together and just recently reactivated it at that time which I donāt even know if itās true because I donāt use instagram but that was the very first account history I saw that it was created last year.
Weāve been together 3 years now and been living together since September. I work in a call center and moved to a new city last year in July which was also the time he graduated and he visited me here before visiting his grandma and cousins and he stayed there for a month because he also wanted to enjoy his free time first before thinking about finding work.
Iāve always wanted us to live together because I hated needing to go home separately after spending the day together. We werenāt at the situation where we could do it because he was still in school and relying on his parents and I also was still living with my family. I would have moved out much earlier but I didnāt wanna be far away from him and it would have been a very long discussion with my family if I were to move out but still be in the same town (Iām asian) since it was also a fairly small town. I didnāt plan on getting a job from a different city right at the time he graduated. I actually quit my previous job earlier that year and it was just the best option I had during that time even though it did require me to be far away from him but I also really wanted to move away and just be independent. And in my head it all fell into place because I though he could just stay with me after his vacation and find a job in the same city. He was at a place in his life where heās still trying to figure out what he wants to do and he still is. It also doesnāt help that heās not sure if he wants to pursue a career with his degree. He was just really lost and he told me he wanted to start earning already because he wanted to help his family. So I told him he can try working in a call center for the meantime because where were from itās basically the only job you can get that isnāt that picky with your educational background and doesnāt require any previous experience. The pay is also significantly higher than what he would get compared to an entry level position in other jobs. He wasnāt that thrilled because it would require a lot of talking and heās the type to get stressed easily but I told him to just try it because I know it would give him some sense of accomplishment and would also boost his confidence and take some of his shyness away. Honestly I wanted him to get out of his bubble because I know it would help him in the long run. Weāve recently been having some fights these last few months because I noticed he kept getting short with me and was not that affectionate anymore and he wasnāt like that before. He said heās just really stressed at work and sometimes when he comes home he just wants some alone time but he canāt because Iām always clinging onto him. But weāve resolved that and compromised. I promised to check myself and not depend on him for everything and he promised heāll be more attentive. Itās just that Iām also stressed from work and I tend to cling onto him because thatās where I find comfort but I understand that he also needs his alone time. And itās been working weāve actually been fine these past few weeks, heās been more affectionate and Iāve been giving him space. But it all crumbled this morning when I saw his secret instagram. And it doesnāt help that our sex life ever since we moved in together had really took a turn. We used to have sex daily when we first started dating and at least 3-4 times a week over the years. But after we moved in it went from once a week to only once a month now. I admit that even my sex drive dwindled down because I have no energy after work and just wanna cuddle. It did make me a bit insecure that he wasnāt all that touchy anymore compared to before but I didnāt wanna make it an issue because I know I was feeling the same way although we were still affectionate like kissing, cuddles and hugging just no sexual advances. But I at least try to initiate sometimes not because I want to but because I feel like we need to be intimate at least especially if itās been too long. And yeah maybe for some validation on my part that he still finds me attractive. When I confronted him about the secret account and the liking sexy pictures stuff he said itās because he doesnāt really feel sexually turned on by me anymore because weāre together all the time and he needs to miss me a little for him to feel that way just like before. I did notice that whenever he leaves and visits his mom on his day off and when he comes back he initiates sexy time because he missed me even though he was only gone 2 days. He also said we moved in way too fast and he wasnāt ready yet but he did it for me because I wanted to. Essentially blaming me and making it out that I forced him because if he didnāt agree I would have been sad. And yeah heās right I would have been sad and hurt but after that initial reaction I still would have understood. Itās not like Iām forcing him to stay although thatās how he feels just because whenever the topic of him leaving at some point makes me sad. Iām not emotionally blackmailing him but I canāt help it if thatās how I really feel and again I wouldnāt stop him when that time comes but of course I would still be sad. I knew he was gonna leave when he saved up enough and had time to figure out what he wants to pursue so I always knew it was coming. Part of me did want him here with me but it wasnāt just for that sole reason. I wanted to help him start somewhere earning money because he also said he didnāt wanna be a burden to his mom anymore like adding to the expenses when he could be helping. He said he feels trapped like he canāt leave because I wouldnāt approve or itās not what I want even though Iāve never once said that I wouldnāt allow him to but for some reason thatās what he gets from my emotions as if Iām not allowed to feel sad about it. Going back to his secret account thing so he says itās his way of fulfilling his needs since heās not able to get it from me since heās not turned on by me anymore. He wasnāt even defending himself and making excuses about it because he knew it was wrong. He even said that although he would never cheat on me with an actual person but thereās still no excuse with what heās doing which is jerking off to pictures because he said itās still somewhat cheating. I just canāt understand why he needs to resort to that when he could have just told me and we could have tried to work something out. When I told him that he said itās because he knows I would have been emotional and hurt if I knew thatās how he felt thatās why he hid it from me in the first place. But itās just so much worse finding out this way. I donāt know if itās just me but if it were porn videos it wouldnāt have been an issue. It just really hits all my insecurities that heās liking pictures of just regular girls wearing sexy clothes. And not even sl*tty outfits. Literally just regular clothes but revealing and posing in a sexy way. He always assures me that he still finds me beautiful no matter how I look after a stressful day but after what I just found out and him not sexually attracted to me anymore I just donāt know what to believe. Am I crazy that even after all that I still donāt wanna leave him? When I confronted him he was the one who was even telling me to fully realize what is happening and to not make excuses for what he did because thatās what I was doing. He wasnāt even defending himself and said I deserved a better guy who wants the same things I do. He said he still loves me but he feels stressed and trapped with our current situation and that I should stop being in denial and making excuses for what he did like I need to have some boundaries for myself and not be blinded by how much I love him. Iām just so confused and even after typing all this out I donāt know why I canāt let go
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I (27F) just found out my boyfriend (24M) has a secret instagram account where he likes other girlās pictures on. And theyāre not even OF models or celebrities, just regular accounts of girls who posts sexy pictures and thirst traps. I feel so betrayed and disrespected. He even hid the instagram app on his phone so it wont appear on his homescreen to ensure I wouldnāt see that he even has it installed.
For context, I looked through everything on the account and he wasnāt following anyone or had any followers at all. There were also no chats, no comments. There were only likes and the most recent one was a 44 week old post. I would say in total there would have been around 30 liked posts of girls either in bikinis or revealing outfits. Looked through the account and log in history and I was able to sum up that he recently just installed it again yesterday and previous to that he used it around 7 weeks ago. I also saw that he created the account September 2023 which would have been around the time we first moved in together but when I confronted him about it he said heās had the account even before we were together and just recently reactivated it at that time which I donāt even know if itās true because I donāt use instagram but that was the very first account history I saw that it was created last year.
Weāve been together 3 years now and been living together since September. I work in a call center and moved to a new city last year in July which was also the time he graduated and he visited me here before visiting his grandma and cousins and he stayed there for a month because he also wanted to enjoy his free time first before thinking about finding work.
Iāve always wanted us to live together because I hated needing to go home separately after spending the day together. We werenāt at the situation where we could do it because he was still in school and relying on his parents and I also was still living with my family. I would have moved out much earlier but I didnāt wanna be far away from him and it would have been a very long discussion with my family if I were to move out but still be in the same town (Iām asian) since it was also a fairly small town. I didnāt plan on getting a job from a different city right at the time he graduated. I actually quit my previous job earlier that year and it was just the best option I had during that time even though it did require me to be far away from him but I also really wanted to move away and just be independent. And in my head it all fell into place because I though he could just stay with me after his vacation and find a job in the same city. He was at a place in his life where heās still trying to figure out what he wants to do and he still is. It also doesnāt help that heās not sure if he wants to pursue a career with his degree. He was just really lost and he told me he wanted to start earning already because he wanted to help his family. So I told him he can try working in a call center for the meantime because where were from itās basically the only job you can get that isnāt that picky with your educational background and doesnāt require any previous experience. The pay is also significantly higher than what he would get compared to an entry level position in other jobs. He wasnāt that thrilled because it would require a lot of talking and heās the type to get stressed easily but I told him to just try it because I know it would give him some sense of accomplishment and would also boost his confidence and take some of his shyness away. Honestly I wanted him to get out of his bubble because I know it would help him in the long run. Weāve recently been having some fights these last few months because I noticed he kept getting short with me and was not that affectionate anymore and he wasnāt like that before. He said heās just really stressed at work and sometimes when he comes home he just wants some alone time but he canāt because Iām always clinging onto him. But weāve resolved that and compromised. I promised to check myself and not depend on him for everything and he promised heāll be more attentive. Itās just that Iām also stressed from work and I tend to cling onto him because thatās where I find comfort but I understand that he also needs his alone time. And itās been working weāve actually been fine these past few weeks, heās been more affectionate and Iāve been giving him space. But it all crumbled this morning when I saw his secret instagram. And it doesnāt help that our sex life ever since we moved in together had really took a turn. We used to have sex daily when we first started dating and at least 3-4 times a week over the years. But after we moved in it went from once a week to only once a month now. I admit that even my sex drive dwindled down because I have no energy after work and just wanna cuddle. It did make me a bit insecure that he wasnāt all that touchy anymore compared to before but I didnāt wanna make it an issue because I know I was feeling the same way although we were still affectionate like kissing, cuddles and hugging just no sexual advances. But I at least try to initiate sometimes not because I want to but because I feel like we need to be intimate at least especially if itās been too long. And yeah maybe for some validation on my part that he still finds me attractive. When I confronted him about the secret account and the liking sexy pictures stuff he said itās because he doesnāt really feel sexually turned on by me anymore because weāre together all the time and he needs to miss me a little for him to feel that way just like before. I did notice that whenever he leaves and visits his mom on his day off and when he comes back he initiates sexy time because he missed me even though he was only gone 2 days. He also said we moved in way too fast and he wasnāt ready yet but he did it for me because I wanted to. Essentially blaming me and making it out that I forced him because if he didnāt agree I would have been sad. And yeah heās right I would have been sad and hurt but after that initial reaction I still would have understood. Itās not like Iām forcing him to stay although thatās how he feels just because whenever the topic of him leaving at some point makes me sad. Iām not emotionally blackmailing him but I canāt help it if thatās how I really feel and again I wouldnāt stop him when that time comes but of course I would still be sad. I knew he was gonna leave when he saved up enough and had time to figure out what he wants to pursue so I always knew it was coming. Part of me did want him here with me but it wasnāt just for that sole reason. I wanted to help him start somewhere earning money because he also said he didnāt wanna be a burden to his mom anymore like adding to the expenses when he could be helping. He said he feels trapped like he canāt leave because I wouldnāt approve or itās not what I want even though Iāve never once said that I wouldnāt allow him to but for some reason thatās what he gets from my emotions as if Iām not allowed to feel sad about it. Going back to his secret account thing so he says itās his way of fulfilling his needs since heās not able to get it from me since heās not turned on by me anymore. He wasnāt even defending himself and making excuses about it because he knew it was wrong. He even said that although he would never cheat on me with an actual person but thereās still no excuse with what heās doing which is jerking off to pictures because he said itās still somewhat cheating. I just canāt understand why he needs to resort to that when he could have just told me and we could have tried to work something out. When I told him that he said itās because he knows I would have been emotional and hurt if I knew thatās how he felt thatās why he hid it from me in the first place. But itās just so much worse finding out this way. I donāt know if itās just me but if it were porn videos it wouldnāt have been an issue. It just really hits all my insecurities that heās liking pictures of just regular girls wearing sexy clothes. And not even sl*tty outfits. Literally just regular clothes but revealing and posing in a sexy way. He always assures me that he still finds me beautiful no matter how I look after a stressful day but after what I just found out and him not sexually attracted to me anymore I just donāt know what to believe. Am I crazy that even after all that I still donāt wanna leave him? When I confronted him he was the one who was even telling me to fully realize what is happening and to not make excuses for what he did because thatās what I was doing. He wasnāt even defending himself and said I deserved a better guy who wants the same things I do. He said he still loves me but he feels stressed and trapped with our current situation and that I should stop being in denial and making excuses for what he did like I need to have some boundaries for myself and not be blinded by how much I love him. Iām just so confused and even after typing all this out I donāt know why I canāt let go
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2024.05.14 17:52 KanimalZ High School Career Project!
Yellow yāall, I am a Junior in High School currently in a program my public school has where they send us to another school to take a class. I am taking the Veterinary Science Class and we have been working on a project for a bit now. It is a career project were we research a career we are interested in. There are 2 parts to the project. The first part is the research portion. We research what education we need and were we can go to get it to reach our career goal as well as information about the career relating to what it requires, does it involve travel, how laborious is it, what is needed for it, what are the patient relationships like, what is the social aspect like, the requirements for the career, etc. This is the easier portion for me, but the harder portion I have found is the second part. For the second portion is a grade by itself and contributes to the first parts grade. (Both summative grades) What is required for this second portion is we must find someone who works in the field and contact them about interviewing them on their experiences in the field. (What it has been like for them, what I should know about it, and any tips, tricks, or forewarnings I should know) I had ended up finding a farrier in the area that seemed nice and who is exspeinced and licensed. I had emailed them emailed them explaining who I am, the project I was doing this for, and where I go to school with the class the project was for. I covered everything my teacher had told everyone in the class to do. She had given us a template to use and base our emails off of and I did while changing it up a little bit to be friendly, but keeping the main necessary content in it. I singed off at the bottom of the email with my name again, my email that was used to send this email, and my phone number if she would prefer to use that instead. After about 2 - 3 weeks with no response I sent a follow up email that my teacher also gave us a template for. The email templates we had were made in class as a class. It was part of the creative/business aspect in the project. After about 10 days with no response I was ready to tell my teacher about the situation and ask what to do when I finally got my first and, spoiler alert, only response. She explained that she was traveling and didnāt check her email in that amount of time. She said that she was now trying to ketchup on her email now. In her email to me she said and I quote āAre you interested in learning about traditional horse shoeing? I am a natural hoofcare provider with my focus being barefoot trims. I only have a handful of horses in composite type shoes that I strictly glue on. I do not use nails or work with metal shoes so I am not sure Iād be the best fit if you are planning to attend a horseshoeing school. I can recommend other traditional farriers locally to shadow if that is the direction you may want to pursue. However, if you are interested in a natural barefoot approach then I am happy to chat with you and have you join for shadowing.ā End quote. I showed my teacher the email the next day looking for advice as to how I should respond. My teacher said to continue to try and make plans for an interview and potential job shadow that she seemed interested in taking on. My teacher also told me to try and get the other recommendations as well. I then replied to her email saying how I would be happy to learn from her and job shadow with her or at the very least do an interview with her. I also then said how my teacher suggested I ask if I could have the other farrier recommendations. After that I mentioned again how much it would mean to me if she gave me the chance and for her to have a wonderful night. Thatās was sent march 17th. Still no reply. After a bit of waiting for a response I tried calling her because in her email she left her number. It went to voicemail so I left a voicemail message saying who I am, my number, project information from my first email, and that I am still interested in the interview and at least a job shadow. I havenāt received a return call or any missed calls. In her voicemail she said if she isnāt able to get back to you within a few days to message her through text, so I did. I was then left on read for about a week until I asked my teacher what to do. She suggested I ask if I can at least interview her over the phone or have her just send me a message of answer to my questions. So that is what I asked her sending the same message through both text and email. I also provided her with example questions that I would be asking in the message. I have been since left on read with no reply. I am now turning to searching for someone new on here to help me. I just need someone to answer a few questions on their experience being a farrier. It would mean so much to me if someone could help me here. I understand everyone here has their own lives and must be busy with such, but this assignment is due may 22nd and today is may 14. I only have 8 days left for this second portion and I hope yāall understand. Sorry this came out to be so long. Please, have a wonderful rest of your day and my email is katelynnzannoni99@gmail.com if anyone can help. Thank you.
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2024.05.14 17:52 Sad_Fisherman_1908 AITA for wanting to break up with my bf bc he used to chew his toenails
Hey repost bc it didn't do too well and I still need more opinions
I a 19y/o girl is dating this 19y/o guy for about 2 months. Everything is great and i really do love the guy, he gives me butterflies like im a school girl or smt. Last night, he was over at my place chilling in my room and he took his socks off bc it was hot. So for first the time i saw his feet. I look at them and notice how short his toenails are, like to the numb. Which didn't surprise me too much because his finger nails are like that too. I remember on like our second date, him telling me he eats his nails a lot due to anxiety and it's something he's really embaressed about and is actively trying to stop. But me seeing his short toe nails for the first time I jokingly went and said 'omg your toe nails are so short, what do you eat them too' and this embaressed look came over his face. He confessed and said that he use to chew off his toe nails but stopped and year ago and only chews his fingernails now. Honestly i had a hard time believing that bc his toe nails just look like they been ripped off. so i say 'really a year? why are they so short then' and he said it's becuase he clips them now but he will often overclip them because he doesnt know when to stop clipping. I ended by believing him bc i trust him but i still had the ick. The idea of him putting his foot in his mouth and then kissing me, grossed me out, even if it was a year ago. It's been a little over 24h since this happened, hopefully my ick goes away bc i don't want to end a relationship bc of smt so petty. Im aware this bit be seen as immature, i mean why leave over a small inconvience like this? so reddit, is it petty or wrong of me to even think about breaking up bc of this?
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I a 19y/o girl is dating this 19y/o guy for about 2 months. Everything is great and i really do love the guy, he gives me butterflies like im a school girl or smt. Last night, he was over at my place chilling in my room and he took his socks off bc it was hot. So for first the time i saw his feet. I look at them and notice how short his toenails are, like to the numb. Which didn't surprise me too much because his finger nails are like that too. I remember on like our second date, him telling me he eats his nails a lot due to anxiety and it's something he's really embaressed about and is actively trying to stop. But me seeing his short toe nails for the first time I jokingly went and said 'omg your toe nails are so short, what do you eat them too' and this embaressed look came over his face. He confessed and said that he use to chew off his toe nails but stopped and year ago and only chews his fingernails now. Honestly i had a hard time believing that bc his toe nails just look like they been ripped off. so i say 'really a year? why are they so short then' and he said it's becuase he clips them now but he will often overclip them because he doesnt know when to stop clipping. I ended by believing him bc i trust him but i still had the ick. The idea of him putting his foot in his mouth and then kissing me, grossed me out, even if it was a year ago. It's been a little over 24h since this happened, hopefully my ick goes away bc i don't want to end a relationship bc of smt so petty. Im aware this bit be seen as immature, i mean why leave over a small inconvience like this? so reddit, is it petty or wrong of me to even think about breaking up bc of this?
2024.05.14 17:50 tinpanalleypics Asking for advice on what advice to give...
My wife and I have friends who are both very close to us but live in a different country and they have a child. We need advice. They're very intelligent people, socially conscious, aware of the world, aware of global issues, aware of Covid, not deniers in any way. But consistently -- every time we catch up once a month or so -- she tells us about how she's sick again. She's fully open about how these feel very much like Covid symptoms, she says the doctors investigate to see if it's Covid/Long Covid... she's basically constantly got several of the things that one would have in a large city when one is exposing oneself to public transit and not masking. The kid (5-ish) has had it several times as well and when not specifically Covid it's been similar flu-like symptoms. The husband goes to work every day on public transit, she stays home and drops off and picks up the kid every day at school. They aren't super social butterflies, but it's certain they don't mask if they go out on weekends.
So she's yet again sent us an update on health and it's more of the same. So my question is... she knows we constantly deal with my wife's asthma and that we're well versed in Covid science so she's going to know it comes from people who are educated on this. What links/articles/resources can we show her from reputable places, that aren't academic journal level reading that show some of the very real concerns about what can happen long term with Covid that could help show someone who is concerned but simply not getting the real vital information that is out there?
Some of you will ask... "why would you wanna do that? It's not your place to be their parent..." and the answer to that is solely and sincerely, because we care about them. This world has been very cruel to my wife and I like it has to many of you and largely abandoned us cloaking us in invisibilty so our concerns about Covid don't have to be heard. And that's just our former friends and our genetic family. That's not counting how society strives to keep us in a cave every day so we don't remind people that masks still exist. And amidst all of that these people have been very compassionate and understanding of what we're going through. And we think we'd like to help. That's all.
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So she's yet again sent us an update on health and it's more of the same. So my question is... she knows we constantly deal with my wife's asthma and that we're well versed in Covid science so she's going to know it comes from people who are educated on this. What links/articles/resources can we show her from reputable places, that aren't academic journal level reading that show some of the very real concerns about what can happen long term with Covid that could help show someone who is concerned but simply not getting the real vital information that is out there?
Some of you will ask... "why would you wanna do that? It's not your place to be their parent..." and the answer to that is solely and sincerely, because we care about them. This world has been very cruel to my wife and I like it has to many of you and largely abandoned us cloaking us in invisibilty so our concerns about Covid don't have to be heard. And that's just our former friends and our genetic family. That's not counting how society strives to keep us in a cave every day so we don't remind people that masks still exist. And amidst all of that these people have been very compassionate and understanding of what we're going through. And we think we'd like to help. That's all.
2024.05.14 17:49 orty Final Central Oregon Symphony Concerts of the Season are This Weekend
Central Oregon Symphony concerts are this weekend -- 7:30PM Saturday and 2:00PM Sunday at Bend High School Auditorium (and potentially our last ones there). More info at https://www.cosymphony.com/upcoming-events :
First: Become a supporting member (the symphony is a non-profit that does a bunch of great events in the community), and they'll be mailed to you ahead of time in the future (and you'll also be invited to our donor-only concerts that we hold twice a year). You can sign up for a membership here or you can learn more and sign up to be a member at the concert by talking to the folks at the membership table in the lobby. Tell them the loud-mouth percussionist sent you (they'll know who you're talking about).
Second: You may pick up a complimentary ticket (yes you read that right, no-cost tickets -- we are supported by our members and donations) from several local bookstores and music stores (give them a jingle to make sure they have some). We'll also have them at the door the day of the concert, just come about 45 minutes beforehand and talk to the folks at membership or will-call tables for your complimentary ticket. :
Bend
Sisters
Sunriver
Lastly: PM me and I can check what we have available and I can likely have some held for you at Will Call (again, complimentary -- our goal is to get butts in the seats). Please don't use chat, as that's tricky to do on my phone and I don't get notices with the app I use. Or email me at Jake at orty dot Com. If I don't get back to you, just come to the concert as there will likely be tickets available.
Concert Etiquette: TL;DR: Doors open 30 minutes ahead of time, but they close at the start of the concert (times listed above) and will remain closed until a break can happen. So show up on-time and don't be grumpy to the hard-working volunteers out front. I had to put this in there because of folks being poops to our volunteers at some of our previous shows. Please read our FAQ, because people got grumpy with us in the past for requiring them to hang out in the lobby after the concert started. Symphony concerts are not like rock concerts or other performances. It's incredibly distracting to both the musicians as well as the audience if you're trying to come into the show during the performance, especially when there are soloists on stage and especially at an auditorium like Bend High's where you enter in the middle of the auditorium where everybody can see/hear you if it's quiet. So you will be hanging out in lobby if the show has already started and the volunteers out front will let you in between pieces or between movements. This is common at other symphonies and performing arts groups as well (other performing arts halls may have an area where late-comers can quietly hang out in the back, but Bend High doesn't have that luxury and we don't have a performing arts center yet). If you don't like that, please show up before the concert starts (and not 30 minutes late and complain we won't let you in). Please don't make me complain about you people in another rant/rave thread. I want everybody to enjoy the work we put into this show, but nobody enjoys those kind of folks.
Full disclosure, I'm a member of the symphony and on their board, and I know there are a few other members of the symphony that float around this subreddit as well. We're a non-profit organization, the musicians are all volunteers but are top-notch. Donations are gladly accepted to help with operating costs, hall rental fees, etc... .
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Hailed as an āAstounding Virtuosoā and āExhilaratingā performer, the rising-star percussionist, Britton- RenĆ© Collins, will join the COS for our season finale. Noted for her exceptional musicianship and active passion for creating social change through her music, Britton-RenĆ© will perform a new work by Australian based composer, Sergei Golovko. Also featured on the concert will be a lightning-fast prelude from Wagnerās opera Lohengrin and Rachmaninoffās Symphony No. 2, which LA Philharmonic program annotator, Orrin Howard, describes as āan abundance of gorgeously conceived lushness and tautly brilliant propulsiveness, both operating within orchestral textures of rich sonority.āHow do you get tickets to the full symphony concerts this weekend? A few ways:
First: Become a supporting member (the symphony is a non-profit that does a bunch of great events in the community), and they'll be mailed to you ahead of time in the future (and you'll also be invited to our donor-only concerts that we hold twice a year). You can sign up for a membership here or you can learn more and sign up to be a member at the concert by talking to the folks at the membership table in the lobby. Tell them the loud-mouth percussionist sent you (they'll know who you're talking about).
Second: You may pick up a complimentary ticket (yes you read that right, no-cost tickets -- we are supported by our members and donations) from several local bookstores and music stores (give them a jingle to make sure they have some). We'll also have them at the door the day of the concert, just come about 45 minutes beforehand and talk to the folks at membership or will-call tables for your complimentary ticket. :
Bend
- Roundabout Books (900 NW Mt. Washington Dr. #110)
- Dudley's BookShop Cafe (135 NW Minnesota Ave.)
- COCC Bookstore (2600 NW College Way)
- Sunday Guitars (759 NE Greenwood Ave. Suite 1)
Sisters
Sunriver
Lastly: PM me and I can check what we have available and I can likely have some held for you at Will Call (again, complimentary -- our goal is to get butts in the seats). Please don't use chat, as that's tricky to do on my phone and I don't get notices with the app I use. Or email me at Jake at orty dot Com. If I don't get back to you, just come to the concert as there will likely be tickets available.
Concert Etiquette: TL;DR: Doors open 30 minutes ahead of time, but they close at the start of the concert (times listed above) and will remain closed until a break can happen. So show up on-time and don't be grumpy to the hard-working volunteers out front. I had to put this in there because of folks being poops to our volunteers at some of our previous shows. Please read our FAQ, because people got grumpy with us in the past for requiring them to hang out in the lobby after the concert started. Symphony concerts are not like rock concerts or other performances. It's incredibly distracting to both the musicians as well as the audience if you're trying to come into the show during the performance, especially when there are soloists on stage and especially at an auditorium like Bend High's where you enter in the middle of the auditorium where everybody can see/hear you if it's quiet. So you will be hanging out in lobby if the show has already started and the volunteers out front will let you in between pieces or between movements. This is common at other symphonies and performing arts groups as well (other performing arts halls may have an area where late-comers can quietly hang out in the back, but Bend High doesn't have that luxury and we don't have a performing arts center yet). If you don't like that, please show up before the concert starts (and not 30 minutes late and complain we won't let you in). Please don't make me complain about you people in another rant/rave thread. I want everybody to enjoy the work we put into this show, but nobody enjoys those kind of folks.
Full disclosure, I'm a member of the symphony and on their board, and I know there are a few other members of the symphony that float around this subreddit as well. We're a non-profit organization, the musicians are all volunteers but are top-notch. Donations are gladly accepted to help with operating costs, hall rental fees, etc... .
2024.05.14 17:49 Prettypurple2903 How do I get my mom to believe that Iām not hiding stuff on my phone?
Hi. Recently my mom(52F) and I(15M) got into a brief disagreement over my phone. I have pretty free rein over it, and I donāt keep anything incriminating on my phone, itās just a lot of embarrassing stuff(things about my identity, friends, writing, etc).
Iāve had a password on my phone for nearly two years already and my mom has never complained about it. Like I said, I donāt have anything to hide, but I do like having the feeling of having something thatās my own little corner of the world. I donāt do much online, I have Instagram to talk to one of my friends and an art account(that I asked for permission to make from my mom a few weeks ago, so Iām not creeping around behind her back) and TikTok, but I donāt interact with others a lot.
Recently an issue with an Instagram account dragging students at my school was discovered and the school called CPS to talk to the parents about social media and phones. My mom mentioned it and I said she probably doesnāt need to go since she knows a lot about it already, and I know she hates going to those extra stuff for school. She asked me how sheās supposed to keep me safe if I have a password on my phone and canāt see what Iām doing.
Before you say it, I know Iām a teenager, I know itās her house and her rules, and I know she just wants to keep me safe. But I just want some privacy. Sheās super involved in everything else in my life, constantly poking around in my school books when Iām not home, going through stuff, and other stuff I canāt remember right now. Point is, I donāt feel like I have a lot of privacy over all. my phone has been a space for me to just relax and do my own thing. It doesnāt get in the way of school work, sleep, etc. Iād like to believe that Iāve got relatively good control over that.
She and I had a run in similar to this a while ago where she went through my phone without asking. Nothing incriminating again, but she saw I was messaging some of my friends and not telling her and she told me I need to stop texting them for a while. It was just random teenager stuff so im not sure what got her feathers all ruffled. She knew the kids bcs she taught at the school I was at and saw them regularly.
I always fall flat when weāre arguing over it because sheās clearly convinced Iām up to nonsense on my phone, and all I can say is āI have nothing to hide I just want privacyā which sounds a bit shaky.
Any advice for smoothing this over? Itās really annoying and we argue about enough trivial things as it is, I donāt want to add another conflict to the mix.
TLDR: my mom thinks Iām hiding stuff on my phone because I have a passcode, what can I do to get her to stop thinking that?
Thanks in advance.
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Iāve had a password on my phone for nearly two years already and my mom has never complained about it. Like I said, I donāt have anything to hide, but I do like having the feeling of having something thatās my own little corner of the world. I donāt do much online, I have Instagram to talk to one of my friends and an art account(that I asked for permission to make from my mom a few weeks ago, so Iām not creeping around behind her back) and TikTok, but I donāt interact with others a lot.
Recently an issue with an Instagram account dragging students at my school was discovered and the school called CPS to talk to the parents about social media and phones. My mom mentioned it and I said she probably doesnāt need to go since she knows a lot about it already, and I know she hates going to those extra stuff for school. She asked me how sheās supposed to keep me safe if I have a password on my phone and canāt see what Iām doing.
Before you say it, I know Iām a teenager, I know itās her house and her rules, and I know she just wants to keep me safe. But I just want some privacy. Sheās super involved in everything else in my life, constantly poking around in my school books when Iām not home, going through stuff, and other stuff I canāt remember right now. Point is, I donāt feel like I have a lot of privacy over all. my phone has been a space for me to just relax and do my own thing. It doesnāt get in the way of school work, sleep, etc. Iād like to believe that Iāve got relatively good control over that.
She and I had a run in similar to this a while ago where she went through my phone without asking. Nothing incriminating again, but she saw I was messaging some of my friends and not telling her and she told me I need to stop texting them for a while. It was just random teenager stuff so im not sure what got her feathers all ruffled. She knew the kids bcs she taught at the school I was at and saw them regularly.
I always fall flat when weāre arguing over it because sheās clearly convinced Iām up to nonsense on my phone, and all I can say is āI have nothing to hide I just want privacyā which sounds a bit shaky.
Any advice for smoothing this over? Itās really annoying and we argue about enough trivial things as it is, I donāt want to add another conflict to the mix.
TLDR: my mom thinks Iām hiding stuff on my phone because I have a passcode, what can I do to get her to stop thinking that?
Thanks in advance.
2024.05.14 17:48 water_elaborate 23M Bulgaria, looking for a weird one
Looking for a (weird?) wife, and Iām not sure if Iām supposed to have multiple wives or not I am saying this for your due consideration.
I have dark hair white skin, am underweight 5ā6 with acne scars
NSFW questions in DMs bc Idk if its allowed to talk about on this sub. details in DMs for this reason unless i get confirmation that it's ok.
I have autism, OCD, ADHD, synesthesia and others (all self diganosed but i have obvious things idk if i should get into that)
I donāt mind piercings, I enjoy them, but someone is not more or less attractive for not having them. I donāt like gauges and some of those extreme circles and cuts. I donāt have any body modifications nor had planned to make any.
I donāt mind tattoos at any place either besides health concerns n I doint have any either.
I donāt like when ppl have big round lumps of flesh that stick out, I do mean big, small/medium maybe ok or even attractive
Need to find her attractive without make up ā yes I do mean without make up and there are women who I find attractive without and I do mean without make up of any age. I donāt think I care if she wears make up or not, but I have concerns itās toxic and the other one if I turn out to be hypersensitive or irritated by it because I am autistic.
I donāt care about race or ethnicity or nationality or anything or location.
I donāt mind how she decides to cut or dye her hair, besides that im concerned about toxins and damage, but I am not imposing on her.
I like appreciate and enjoy alternative fashion (and before it was cool), ive also liked fashion that some alt people have called ātoo basic" (which may partially be their own insecurity), i just like what looks good. There is fashion I find too basic and kind of anti fashion in that sense too maybe bc I feel like is what people who donāt want to be judged for being anything thats not basic would wear. I donāt like it when people are mean to others based on what they wear or other pointless hierarchical stuff like that.
I donāt recall ever saying ācover upā (regarding clothing), especially wouldnt say it in an imposing way I donāt like to talk in impositions that kill a personās invidivuality or thereās smth like you know that feels like it kills you when someone commands you. I donāt like to impose on people in that way.
If she cheats, Im not gonna attack, physically emeotionally or otherwise abuse , im not looking to hurt someone I love (besides BDSM and that stuff you know). Men have been allowed to have many wives but wives only 1 husband. I didnāt become christian bc I wanted to opress or restrict women but I believe bad things happen when you sin.
Is reflective and tries to not mistreat others
body count? Isnāt it irrelevant if sheās the right one, I never cared if sheād be a virgin until I understood more about christianity and the spirit world.
I need to be properly emotionally supported, and I want and hope to be good in her life too. I can also have irrational emotions where ik now something is not so but I am procsesing those emotions a certain way you know.
I am interested in very dark and mature topics and things, even if there are times where I may not be able to handle them properly.
Ive been interested in esoterics, occult and c0n5p1r4c135 and I do believe the c0n5p1r4c135 are real and this is important to me.
I donāt care if she talks to others to men or has male friends, idk if I even carei if sheās flirting, thereās no intention to cheat so why would I care??
I can flirt with others too but I havenāt done it much out of concern of leading them on + it doesnāt by itself have any intentions to do anything further. i can be possessive but it will be in the cute way and it can be fun to tease or be teased like that maybe idk but i dont want ot be abusive posessive.
i have female friends she can have male friends that doesn't mean anything and i find the discussions regarding that ridiculous, maybe very low vibrational or of low conscience. i havent done anything with any of them ever except with 1 who is kinda like a relationship but there's painful and difficult topic and even then not physically tho we never met physically.
If its Godās will for her to be with me and she messes up then I will just forgive her. I donāt care to check her phone besides out of curiosity, I think all those games are very below me and maybe obviously should be below anyone who claims to be in a christian marriage, granted im careful regarding eating my words.
I have to eat mostly carnivore diet with vegetables, some fruits and carbs sometimes for my health, but I have nothing against vegans if they are actaully healthy, also I know a lot of ppl can not be healthy on a vegan diet based on long story also some even on the carnivore maybe, im open to sharing details at some point but maybe not worth it here.
ethically wild, I can handle dark humor, I have enjoyed it and used it a lot myself, im not legalistic christian (if you know what that is) but im still trying to be right than wrong so I want discernment on the issue and how to handle it, if smth is actually wrong then I will try to just not do it.
I donāt care if she shaves or not.
I donāt like it when ppl make the same kind of jokes or have the same locked in interests that donāt evolve or arenāt inherently somehow stimulating and genuine. For example ofc I understand enjoying the same food or listening to the same music (except ofc that can get old at some point). I understand what feels samey to a person can vary between people and across time, but I donāt think I mean that. If a bunch of ppl make the same kind of jokes and turn it into something hierarchical and baisc, like they think everything else is dumb cuz theyh arenāt open to perspectives, ideas, growth and improvement hence they fixate on doing the same thing thats too bland over and over.
A lot of ppl have very juvenile if thats even the right word mentality to look down on others for vapid reasons including interests, when you donāt even understand them. while ive had those intrusions I figured its wrong and foolish to just give into such a lowly hostile urge, whilst I understand being overwhelmed and misreacting/just getting mad at smth for no raeson but u can figure out u shouldnāt be mad or its not that deep.
Ive looked donw on ppl for thing I saw as them being lowly about it like getting high off of the same joke instead of improving ur brain cuz I think u can even feel like when u are stupidifying urself and ingoring improvements just to do the same thing over and over again, like u can prolly feel like smth inside telling u maybe u should look elsewhere now or this could be betteur losing cognition bc ur stupidifying urself. I understand again being overwhelmed and looking for some stability but I donāt think that susually it. Al ot of those ppl may be doing the same stupid things to be liked by others and t hus disingenuous to their real self, bc as soon as u start growing improving going in different directions ppl start getting weirded out and ostracizing u. I look down on that.
I donāt need her to shave. Idk if I wont find some body hair too extreme, but so far I havenāt
! respect boundaries. If one of us doesnāt want something or anyhthing at all be it months or years even that should be respected. This is for love first not exploitation. Not any exploitation from either side and look for each otherās well being.
I want to have her walk around the place flashing me, trying to tease me and show off her body in various and subtle ways. She can be naked too if she wants or wear anything she wants
I think how someone moves can be very attractive and also developed, this goes for me too
I want to learn to dance so we can have fun and I can arouse her
I think women have qualities and do things in a way I value, enjoy and admire
I think men and women have different patterns in positive and negative ways (with individual differences of course too) and analysing them and acknowledging them with honest attempt to understand is not wrong, while exploitation abuse and denial is wrong.
if im smarter than her I recognize she can have important and valuable things to say, similarly if sheās smarter than me she also doesnāt know everything and isnāt abusive about it
about money, I have wanted money to help myself and others, not out of greed I think.
I have thought of if I need or have to or if its better to to live in the right kind of community. Takes a village to raise a child but maybe even to function, maybe the people who function not in it are the abnormal ones. I donāt think of a cold community or one that forces warmth and makes you sick, thereās a kind of higher understanding or spirituality.
I donāt mind if sheās richer smarter or more competent than me. I however want to be richer smarter and more competent regarding improving myself and growing, not to feel less insecure than her, and of course I want those things so ican be able to support her and others too anyway.
I donāt mind if sheās a girlboss or not or whatever I think its irrelevant and If she has gifts and drive and doing Godās will why would that be bad? Of course I donāt want her to be stressed out
I donāt wear deodorant or fake odors, maybe if they were natural or non toxic. I also donāt like perfume and would prolly prefer if she doesnāt use it but idk.
I think children are a very serious matter, over time in my life I was thinking about how Iād do things differently and how Iād treat children and communicate and teach them, and Iād feel like Iād see how other ppl are failing children and also children are not attempting to learn how to treat their future children or other children or ppl better like itās weird but I think someone is going to get what I mean. Bc of my physical and mental issues I am concerned how well I wil lbe able to take care of children of course I hope to improve and God to heal me.
I donāt want my weird movements adjustments or whatever to be judged.
I donāt mind pets or maybe even can enjoy them but again am a bit concerned about my health issues. I donāt have allergies to animals that I know of. I donāt like making their health worse I donāt like selective breeding for that reason unless youāre selecting for improving health maybe.
I am usually not afraid of bugs but I donāt like killing them. If its pests like bed bugs or some kind of infestation it can make sense, but I donāt like killing random harmless spiders or others. Maybe if harmful even Iād prefer to take them away. No im not afraid of bees or wasps esp if they are alone or very small numbers, tho I may prefer to not be around a hive.
emotionally sophisticated and doesnāt criticize my whining, while my whining isnāt attempting to get her attention, pull or control her. If I need some sort of emotional support I can ask and if she is able to provide it then she is, and if she has to prioritize something else I understand and I mean I genuinely understand. Emotional support should be mutual and not leeching. I understand it may not be completely equal or if its not possible to be, but we should both care as much as we can in our respective situations.
needs to care about her health, I donāt mean exercise and exercises can be damaging and forced too, thus again neesd to care to even know of that/unless sheās managing to be really fine anyway. I am not against smokers or alcoholics, but Iād prefer it if she stops. I want her to be happy and healthy.
If sheās over or underweight bc of health issues I understand
I donāt drive part related to health issues and concern it may be too dangerous for me to drive.
God first. I donāt believe anything works without him.
I wonāt k1ll her if she cheats nor 4bus3 her. I am saying bc I thought some men hide things and reveal them after they are deep. I donāt want ot be like that.
Ive had emotional and rage issues about perceived injustices (towards me and others, even when im not lcose to them or donāt know them. I have thought and speculated maybe I care more with strong emotions about ppl that Iāve never met or are very far away than most people directly that I have observed and felt out of place for it.) and I know sometimes I wasnāt actually right other times I wanted to know what is the right thing to do say and experss cuz I had thoughts like if I hurt them they wont get better, they may even get worse, I donāt even enjoy hurting ppl especially in the brain or if its smth permanent (even if I believe God can heal, ive even had angry thoughts ofc like if He can heal why donāt I beat these wrong doers up cuz they have no qualms about doing it to others unfairly He can just heal them, I also thought if I had the right words and perception I could lead them away from their wicked ways) , and sometimes I wasnāt able to, ive physically hurt people out of being pushed too much and rage and with that I think I have let people off and not confronted them a lot in part bc I wasnt sure if I was even right to confront them other parts bc ofc of fear they will mistreat me if I reveal I think what they did or said was wrong instead of discussing it and thinking about it/ they already expressed they didnāt care or justified it in twisted ways that im not sure I could argue with or if thats even human.
I have to live and I think everyone in a spacious place. Too narrow will cause muscle issues and variety of issues that will worsen over time you are not sick becaues you are old you are sick because you ignroe and distort your body. I didnāt last long at all, some ppl last longer than me just to make excuses that im lazy + their brain melts and they donāt use it much anyway so superficially they last.
Im anti v4xx I think a lot of health info is a scam and ive experienced it and saw others experience it, I think some things can be true or not have better ways at a moment to deal with some issues but it doesnāt mean its not inherently flawed or manipulated information to make u a lil bit less sick or make u sick in a different veiled way even if it makes it ābetterā in some kind of way, I donāt mean its ok to let someone die or suffer more bc of too much skepticism, my point is I believe in honesty and integirty cuz u cant heal soemone with lies,
and medicine like other sciences is corrupted . be careful and discerning unfortunately u cant leave ur health in the hands of conventional doctors u have to research and fight for urself.
I have experienced various synchonicities. I think God has helped me and guided me.
Throw things away and tidy when weāre ready to. Tired or health issues is not the same as lazy. No tartorship or tyranny about it. Im not growing black mold either ofc
if a woman gets SAād, and she doesnāt want to tell exactly what happenned, but she wants help, is it right for her to be upset at you and hide information, provided you live in the 20th century without internet and much media information, and if you donāt have personal experiences with SA or almost anyone has ever talked about it to you in your life, and you are just confused at why this person is refusing to communicate, and u have to take care of this and that issue, yet u donāt know if they are mad at u even for something thatās not even your fault or related to you if that happens a lot, then then u pressure her too much and now sheās hurt, you didnāt even think to make the situation accessible bc uāve never even heard about that. If someone has an issue and they donāt tell your previous experiences and imagination so far suggest that they have stolen smth or messed up smth and donāt want to talk out of selfishness, not even bc they are scared of you.
I think I have went through humiliation, and doing things I didnāt want to, and failure to do what I wanted and weakness, to the point of not being able to process things and I think losing braincells and personality bc of it, trying to recover it and my functioning and health. I think most ppl are too fake and superficial, not learning anything maybe. Not reflecting, not trying, if they have gone throuhg something like that I think some people amy be just letting themselves go insane and hurt others while in denial instead of processing it, while I understad how difficult is to process it especially when people around you shame you and oppress you for it. I think I need someone who has at least the cognitive understanding for that. I donāt want to put others down for enjoying things.
Ive liked variety of media and art over time, vareity of criticising it and ideas of improving it too, and lately after understanding more about the world and Jesus Christ some of it was interestingly seen in different light. Also over the years I may have seen media nad the world in different light. I have synesthesia autism, adhd and maybe some form of OCD, besides maybe others. Iāve beebn able to induce things in my mind and some information that seemed so obvious to me others had said they realized from psychedelics, you have probably already heard some peopleās minds can work like that too. Well some of the media is ofc immature since it doesnāt align with christian principels that seem true after trying to understand more and and a lot of the media is for brainwashing
ive wanted to do art music dancing and others but have struggled with health issues that I hope to resolve. If she wants to do any I am generally worried about toxicity from paint so I wouldnāt use it and wouldnāt recommend using it.
Semi ex astrologer. Bc im not sure if its all considered divination since Iāve had synchonicities related to it that Iāve felt like or wondered if God sent them to me. I do think He communicates with us somehow in various ways.
I think its importan tto be able to explain to a child why something is or isnt a certain way, bc I felt alienated from a lot of christians who just seemed to āknowā things and judge things as evil or whatever with no explanation and cringe when I ask for one. I als orealize it can be hard to talk about, both bc of the content, how traumatising can be to think about again and again from an adultās perspective + being too busy or struggle too much, not able to expalin anyinthg and everything one thinks.
I have health issues that can make it hard to think or process emotions bc of maladjustment in my cranial bones related to the whole body and pinched nerves and wiring issues, that I hope to resolve , and may need miracle healing for some of the damage, this is also why i write this way in the state i am its difficult and straining to write and use the exact corrects words and format everything in perfect order
I donāt want to hold her back from God in any way.
I sought for spiritual answers if spirituality was real until I started figuring out more and then about witchcraft, but I observed patterns in my life regarding a sin I was commiting and other reasons that made me think that it canāt be a coincidence any more + someone claiming he stopped m4g1c p0rt4l by saying āChrist is Kingā (but I will say Jesus Christ) and that the bible was telling the truth. The bible had upset me before in part due to things taken out of context and difficulty understanding, and of course Jesus does things a bit differently than the old testament, even if the law is still important, He teaches forgiveness.
I care a lot about the gifts of the spirit and the presence of God in my life but also in everyone elseās.
I think awareness or pcoessing of emotional nuance and self control are attractive as well as being free spirited but not exploitative
I donāt smoke or drink or do drugs I donāt even take medicine nor intend to for the most part, I donāt judge anyone who does but Iād discourage them. If my wife does Iād discourage her, I wont pester her about it unless I get discernment that I should and that it will be helpful, but I wonāt judge her and I never judged anyone who did, except when they were hypocrites. I have never ingested more than a small cup iirc, if even that from alcohol and only on occassions, and then barely on any occassions. I have never smoked a cig or a joint or anything besides 2nd hand air. I stopped taking medication for illnesses years ago and I only took sweet drugs as a child bc they were sweet after being told not to.
I have however engaged in various parts and ways of PMO for various reasons
I think everything we have is given to us by God, or if we eorked for it opportunities or what was needed to achieve it was also given, so no one can be proud.
I have done weird things for health, personal amusement and other reasons includingi finding people who may relate and enjoy them but have been accused of attention seeking and I find that deeply repulsive because im sorry for trying to find people to connect with? I didnāt push things that others arent intersted in on them, I was jst trying to exist, some ppl donāt make the difference bc they have a really small world and donāt even think about others much and why they do what they do thus make the wrong assumtpions and attempt to harass and antagonize you. I find that very repulsive simultaneously ive known what other peopleās intentions and results of actions and thoughts would be, and they would be confused and hostile towards me for acting like I know them, but I DID. And what I thought would happen happenned so I was just used and hurt and bc they are soo deep in to their own mess they donāt realize what they are doing wrong and a lot of the time donāt even remember that I said what would happen. Ive spent too much time and effort on ppl hoping they would change. I am not looking to be used up by a partner nonetheless. I donāt pretend to know everyhting or be perfecct but I think some ppl are so lost, esp after ive been also judged for my mistakes and not explained like I deserve respect so many times.
Narcissist abuse mention below line warning. Hoenstly you shouldnāte ven read it because I am concerned it may just upset you. I am posting it because I think its important to show that I am aware. Specifiaclly mentions narcissistic āwhateverā podcast men who project it on the women.
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Ive had a habit over the years of engaging with media that infuriates me bc I overthink how to react in those situations bc I donāt understand how that in front of me can be a human being with a brain who cares about others and if I showed distress or anger Iād be judged and harassed for it again, despite them being harassers and controllers I nthe first place, and I am afraid of forgetting about it and walking into such situation and being unable to control it. For example the āwhateverā podcast the narcissist men were saying in an imposing way how a woman only thinks for herslf bc she wanted to be aborted bc her mother didnāt have neough money to raise her. Obviously u need money to raise someone properly for various reasons, and if he himself odenst understand that a lot of ppl like that are controlling demanding and imposing, while bitter about the sacrifices their toxic environmetns forced them to make (or they made out of their own inferiority hopelessness and lack of faith) or weere actually spoiled, but bc of that they imposed themselves on other people bc I know such ppl and how they grow up and how they treat other children, and are āthankful for being aliveā, but obviously donāt have enough empathy for someone who is emotionally intelligent and has struggled to not be exactly like them, bnc those ppl also harass and abuse minorities and vulnerable groups and I have storie about that dotn wanna get into, and they pretend they donāt know what im saying when I do. No I shouldnāt have to remember everything u did and ddi wrong with ur life to expali nto you how you are mistreating me and beg for you to stop. This is a narcissist. I donāt like abortion after understanding that itās actually alive very early own and has a soul already I think or smth, but before I didnāt know that when I was more justifying it, but I can explain to someone, instead of abusing them into making them lose any ounce of respect for themselves, bc growing up in harsh environment can also often invite other people to mistreat you, even if not always the case.
Bc of ppl like that cotnrolling my own life Ive also had a lot of bitterness and thoughts of revenge and this is part realted to my health issues, and thereās evil that I donāt know if ppl do it just bc they donāt understand genuinely, bc its demons or bc they have to be done something actually important for. I knew better as a child than 30 something year old men, and I have all these issues and I am still better, how can they justify it now? So I have wanted discernment regarding what should be done about various issues. No I will not talk to you or bother you with the dark stuff over and over again I even try to avoid it or build self control bc it can make you go insane im just putting it here to show that I am at least aware and thoughtful of that.
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I have dark hair white skin, am underweight 5ā6 with acne scars
NSFW questions in DMs bc Idk if its allowed to talk about on this sub. details in DMs for this reason unless i get confirmation that it's ok.
I have autism, OCD, ADHD, synesthesia and others (all self diganosed but i have obvious things idk if i should get into that)
I donāt mind piercings, I enjoy them, but someone is not more or less attractive for not having them. I donāt like gauges and some of those extreme circles and cuts. I donāt have any body modifications nor had planned to make any.
I donāt mind tattoos at any place either besides health concerns n I doint have any either.
I donāt like when ppl have big round lumps of flesh that stick out, I do mean big, small/medium maybe ok or even attractive
Need to find her attractive without make up ā yes I do mean without make up and there are women who I find attractive without and I do mean without make up of any age. I donāt think I care if she wears make up or not, but I have concerns itās toxic and the other one if I turn out to be hypersensitive or irritated by it because I am autistic.
I donāt care about race or ethnicity or nationality or anything or location.
I donāt mind how she decides to cut or dye her hair, besides that im concerned about toxins and damage, but I am not imposing on her.
I like appreciate and enjoy alternative fashion (and before it was cool), ive also liked fashion that some alt people have called ātoo basic" (which may partially be their own insecurity), i just like what looks good. There is fashion I find too basic and kind of anti fashion in that sense too maybe bc I feel like is what people who donāt want to be judged for being anything thats not basic would wear. I donāt like it when people are mean to others based on what they wear or other pointless hierarchical stuff like that.
I donāt recall ever saying ācover upā (regarding clothing), especially wouldnt say it in an imposing way I donāt like to talk in impositions that kill a personās invidivuality or thereās smth like you know that feels like it kills you when someone commands you. I donāt like to impose on people in that way.
If she cheats, Im not gonna attack, physically emeotionally or otherwise abuse , im not looking to hurt someone I love (besides BDSM and that stuff you know). Men have been allowed to have many wives but wives only 1 husband. I didnāt become christian bc I wanted to opress or restrict women but I believe bad things happen when you sin.
Is reflective and tries to not mistreat others
body count? Isnāt it irrelevant if sheās the right one, I never cared if sheād be a virgin until I understood more about christianity and the spirit world.
I need to be properly emotionally supported, and I want and hope to be good in her life too. I can also have irrational emotions where ik now something is not so but I am procsesing those emotions a certain way you know.
I am interested in very dark and mature topics and things, even if there are times where I may not be able to handle them properly.
Ive been interested in esoterics, occult and c0n5p1r4c135 and I do believe the c0n5p1r4c135 are real and this is important to me.
I donāt care if she talks to others to men or has male friends, idk if I even carei if sheās flirting, thereās no intention to cheat so why would I care??
I can flirt with others too but I havenāt done it much out of concern of leading them on + it doesnāt by itself have any intentions to do anything further. i can be possessive but it will be in the cute way and it can be fun to tease or be teased like that maybe idk but i dont want ot be abusive posessive.
i have female friends she can have male friends that doesn't mean anything and i find the discussions regarding that ridiculous, maybe very low vibrational or of low conscience. i havent done anything with any of them ever except with 1 who is kinda like a relationship but there's painful and difficult topic and even then not physically tho we never met physically.
If its Godās will for her to be with me and she messes up then I will just forgive her. I donāt care to check her phone besides out of curiosity, I think all those games are very below me and maybe obviously should be below anyone who claims to be in a christian marriage, granted im careful regarding eating my words.
I have to eat mostly carnivore diet with vegetables, some fruits and carbs sometimes for my health, but I have nothing against vegans if they are actaully healthy, also I know a lot of ppl can not be healthy on a vegan diet based on long story also some even on the carnivore maybe, im open to sharing details at some point but maybe not worth it here.
ethically wild, I can handle dark humor, I have enjoyed it and used it a lot myself, im not legalistic christian (if you know what that is) but im still trying to be right than wrong so I want discernment on the issue and how to handle it, if smth is actually wrong then I will try to just not do it.
I donāt care if she shaves or not.
I donāt like it when ppl make the same kind of jokes or have the same locked in interests that donāt evolve or arenāt inherently somehow stimulating and genuine. For example ofc I understand enjoying the same food or listening to the same music (except ofc that can get old at some point). I understand what feels samey to a person can vary between people and across time, but I donāt think I mean that. If a bunch of ppl make the same kind of jokes and turn it into something hierarchical and baisc, like they think everything else is dumb cuz theyh arenāt open to perspectives, ideas, growth and improvement hence they fixate on doing the same thing thats too bland over and over.
A lot of ppl have very juvenile if thats even the right word mentality to look down on others for vapid reasons including interests, when you donāt even understand them. while ive had those intrusions I figured its wrong and foolish to just give into such a lowly hostile urge, whilst I understand being overwhelmed and misreacting/just getting mad at smth for no raeson but u can figure out u shouldnāt be mad or its not that deep.
Ive looked donw on ppl for thing I saw as them being lowly about it like getting high off of the same joke instead of improving ur brain cuz I think u can even feel like when u are stupidifying urself and ingoring improvements just to do the same thing over and over again, like u can prolly feel like smth inside telling u maybe u should look elsewhere now or this could be betteur losing cognition bc ur stupidifying urself. I understand again being overwhelmed and looking for some stability but I donāt think that susually it. Al ot of those ppl may be doing the same stupid things to be liked by others and t hus disingenuous to their real self, bc as soon as u start growing improving going in different directions ppl start getting weirded out and ostracizing u. I look down on that.
I donāt need her to shave. Idk if I wont find some body hair too extreme, but so far I havenāt
! respect boundaries. If one of us doesnāt want something or anyhthing at all be it months or years even that should be respected. This is for love first not exploitation. Not any exploitation from either side and look for each otherās well being.
I want to have her walk around the place flashing me, trying to tease me and show off her body in various and subtle ways. She can be naked too if she wants or wear anything she wants
I think how someone moves can be very attractive and also developed, this goes for me too
I want to learn to dance so we can have fun and I can arouse her
I think women have qualities and do things in a way I value, enjoy and admire
I think men and women have different patterns in positive and negative ways (with individual differences of course too) and analysing them and acknowledging them with honest attempt to understand is not wrong, while exploitation abuse and denial is wrong.
if im smarter than her I recognize she can have important and valuable things to say, similarly if sheās smarter than me she also doesnāt know everything and isnāt abusive about it
about money, I have wanted money to help myself and others, not out of greed I think.
I have thought of if I need or have to or if its better to to live in the right kind of community. Takes a village to raise a child but maybe even to function, maybe the people who function not in it are the abnormal ones. I donāt think of a cold community or one that forces warmth and makes you sick, thereās a kind of higher understanding or spirituality.
I donāt mind if sheās richer smarter or more competent than me. I however want to be richer smarter and more competent regarding improving myself and growing, not to feel less insecure than her, and of course I want those things so ican be able to support her and others too anyway.
I donāt mind if sheās a girlboss or not or whatever I think its irrelevant and If she has gifts and drive and doing Godās will why would that be bad? Of course I donāt want her to be stressed out
I donāt wear deodorant or fake odors, maybe if they were natural or non toxic. I also donāt like perfume and would prolly prefer if she doesnāt use it but idk.
I think children are a very serious matter, over time in my life I was thinking about how Iād do things differently and how Iād treat children and communicate and teach them, and Iād feel like Iād see how other ppl are failing children and also children are not attempting to learn how to treat their future children or other children or ppl better like itās weird but I think someone is going to get what I mean. Bc of my physical and mental issues I am concerned how well I wil lbe able to take care of children of course I hope to improve and God to heal me.
I donāt want my weird movements adjustments or whatever to be judged.
I donāt mind pets or maybe even can enjoy them but again am a bit concerned about my health issues. I donāt have allergies to animals that I know of. I donāt like making their health worse I donāt like selective breeding for that reason unless youāre selecting for improving health maybe.
I am usually not afraid of bugs but I donāt like killing them. If its pests like bed bugs or some kind of infestation it can make sense, but I donāt like killing random harmless spiders or others. Maybe if harmful even Iād prefer to take them away. No im not afraid of bees or wasps esp if they are alone or very small numbers, tho I may prefer to not be around a hive.
emotionally sophisticated and doesnāt criticize my whining, while my whining isnāt attempting to get her attention, pull or control her. If I need some sort of emotional support I can ask and if she is able to provide it then she is, and if she has to prioritize something else I understand and I mean I genuinely understand. Emotional support should be mutual and not leeching. I understand it may not be completely equal or if its not possible to be, but we should both care as much as we can in our respective situations.
needs to care about her health, I donāt mean exercise and exercises can be damaging and forced too, thus again neesd to care to even know of that/unless sheās managing to be really fine anyway. I am not against smokers or alcoholics, but Iād prefer it if she stops. I want her to be happy and healthy.
If sheās over or underweight bc of health issues I understand
I donāt drive part related to health issues and concern it may be too dangerous for me to drive.
God first. I donāt believe anything works without him.
I wonāt k1ll her if she cheats nor 4bus3 her. I am saying bc I thought some men hide things and reveal them after they are deep. I donāt want ot be like that.
Ive had emotional and rage issues about perceived injustices (towards me and others, even when im not lcose to them or donāt know them. I have thought and speculated maybe I care more with strong emotions about ppl that Iāve never met or are very far away than most people directly that I have observed and felt out of place for it.) and I know sometimes I wasnāt actually right other times I wanted to know what is the right thing to do say and experss cuz I had thoughts like if I hurt them they wont get better, they may even get worse, I donāt even enjoy hurting ppl especially in the brain or if its smth permanent (even if I believe God can heal, ive even had angry thoughts ofc like if He can heal why donāt I beat these wrong doers up cuz they have no qualms about doing it to others unfairly He can just heal them, I also thought if I had the right words and perception I could lead them away from their wicked ways) , and sometimes I wasnāt able to, ive physically hurt people out of being pushed too much and rage and with that I think I have let people off and not confronted them a lot in part bc I wasnt sure if I was even right to confront them other parts bc ofc of fear they will mistreat me if I reveal I think what they did or said was wrong instead of discussing it and thinking about it/ they already expressed they didnāt care or justified it in twisted ways that im not sure I could argue with or if thats even human.
I have to live and I think everyone in a spacious place. Too narrow will cause muscle issues and variety of issues that will worsen over time you are not sick becaues you are old you are sick because you ignroe and distort your body. I didnāt last long at all, some ppl last longer than me just to make excuses that im lazy + their brain melts and they donāt use it much anyway so superficially they last.
Im anti v4xx I think a lot of health info is a scam and ive experienced it and saw others experience it, I think some things can be true or not have better ways at a moment to deal with some issues but it doesnāt mean its not inherently flawed or manipulated information to make u a lil bit less sick or make u sick in a different veiled way even if it makes it ābetterā in some kind of way, I donāt mean its ok to let someone die or suffer more bc of too much skepticism, my point is I believe in honesty and integirty cuz u cant heal soemone with lies,
and medicine like other sciences is corrupted . be careful and discerning unfortunately u cant leave ur health in the hands of conventional doctors u have to research and fight for urself.
I have experienced various synchonicities. I think God has helped me and guided me.
Throw things away and tidy when weāre ready to. Tired or health issues is not the same as lazy. No tartorship or tyranny about it. Im not growing black mold either ofc
if a woman gets SAād, and she doesnāt want to tell exactly what happenned, but she wants help, is it right for her to be upset at you and hide information, provided you live in the 20th century without internet and much media information, and if you donāt have personal experiences with SA or almost anyone has ever talked about it to you in your life, and you are just confused at why this person is refusing to communicate, and u have to take care of this and that issue, yet u donāt know if they are mad at u even for something thatās not even your fault or related to you if that happens a lot, then then u pressure her too much and now sheās hurt, you didnāt even think to make the situation accessible bc uāve never even heard about that. If someone has an issue and they donāt tell your previous experiences and imagination so far suggest that they have stolen smth or messed up smth and donāt want to talk out of selfishness, not even bc they are scared of you.
I think I have went through humiliation, and doing things I didnāt want to, and failure to do what I wanted and weakness, to the point of not being able to process things and I think losing braincells and personality bc of it, trying to recover it and my functioning and health. I think most ppl are too fake and superficial, not learning anything maybe. Not reflecting, not trying, if they have gone throuhg something like that I think some people amy be just letting themselves go insane and hurt others while in denial instead of processing it, while I understad how difficult is to process it especially when people around you shame you and oppress you for it. I think I need someone who has at least the cognitive understanding for that. I donāt want to put others down for enjoying things.
Ive liked variety of media and art over time, vareity of criticising it and ideas of improving it too, and lately after understanding more about the world and Jesus Christ some of it was interestingly seen in different light. Also over the years I may have seen media nad the world in different light. I have synesthesia autism, adhd and maybe some form of OCD, besides maybe others. Iāve beebn able to induce things in my mind and some information that seemed so obvious to me others had said they realized from psychedelics, you have probably already heard some peopleās minds can work like that too. Well some of the media is ofc immature since it doesnāt align with christian principels that seem true after trying to understand more and and a lot of the media is for brainwashing
ive wanted to do art music dancing and others but have struggled with health issues that I hope to resolve. If she wants to do any I am generally worried about toxicity from paint so I wouldnāt use it and wouldnāt recommend using it.
Semi ex astrologer. Bc im not sure if its all considered divination since Iāve had synchonicities related to it that Iāve felt like or wondered if God sent them to me. I do think He communicates with us somehow in various ways.
I think its importan tto be able to explain to a child why something is or isnt a certain way, bc I felt alienated from a lot of christians who just seemed to āknowā things and judge things as evil or whatever with no explanation and cringe when I ask for one. I als orealize it can be hard to talk about, both bc of the content, how traumatising can be to think about again and again from an adultās perspective + being too busy or struggle too much, not able to expalin anyinthg and everything one thinks.
I have health issues that can make it hard to think or process emotions bc of maladjustment in my cranial bones related to the whole body and pinched nerves and wiring issues, that I hope to resolve , and may need miracle healing for some of the damage, this is also why i write this way in the state i am its difficult and straining to write and use the exact corrects words and format everything in perfect order
I donāt want to hold her back from God in any way.
I sought for spiritual answers if spirituality was real until I started figuring out more and then about witchcraft, but I observed patterns in my life regarding a sin I was commiting and other reasons that made me think that it canāt be a coincidence any more + someone claiming he stopped m4g1c p0rt4l by saying āChrist is Kingā (but I will say Jesus Christ) and that the bible was telling the truth. The bible had upset me before in part due to things taken out of context and difficulty understanding, and of course Jesus does things a bit differently than the old testament, even if the law is still important, He teaches forgiveness.
I care a lot about the gifts of the spirit and the presence of God in my life but also in everyone elseās.
I think awareness or pcoessing of emotional nuance and self control are attractive as well as being free spirited but not exploitative
I donāt smoke or drink or do drugs I donāt even take medicine nor intend to for the most part, I donāt judge anyone who does but Iād discourage them. If my wife does Iād discourage her, I wont pester her about it unless I get discernment that I should and that it will be helpful, but I wonāt judge her and I never judged anyone who did, except when they were hypocrites. I have never ingested more than a small cup iirc, if even that from alcohol and only on occassions, and then barely on any occassions. I have never smoked a cig or a joint or anything besides 2nd hand air. I stopped taking medication for illnesses years ago and I only took sweet drugs as a child bc they were sweet after being told not to.
I have however engaged in various parts and ways of PMO for various reasons
I think everything we have is given to us by God, or if we eorked for it opportunities or what was needed to achieve it was also given, so no one can be proud.
I have done weird things for health, personal amusement and other reasons includingi finding people who may relate and enjoy them but have been accused of attention seeking and I find that deeply repulsive because im sorry for trying to find people to connect with? I didnāt push things that others arent intersted in on them, I was jst trying to exist, some ppl donāt make the difference bc they have a really small world and donāt even think about others much and why they do what they do thus make the wrong assumtpions and attempt to harass and antagonize you. I find that very repulsive simultaneously ive known what other peopleās intentions and results of actions and thoughts would be, and they would be confused and hostile towards me for acting like I know them, but I DID. And what I thought would happen happenned so I was just used and hurt and bc they are soo deep in to their own mess they donāt realize what they are doing wrong and a lot of the time donāt even remember that I said what would happen. Ive spent too much time and effort on ppl hoping they would change. I am not looking to be used up by a partner nonetheless. I donāt pretend to know everyhting or be perfecct but I think some ppl are so lost, esp after ive been also judged for my mistakes and not explained like I deserve respect so many times.
Narcissist abuse mention below line warning. Hoenstly you shouldnāte ven read it because I am concerned it may just upset you. I am posting it because I think its important to show that I am aware. Specifiaclly mentions narcissistic āwhateverā podcast men who project it on the women.
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Ive had a habit over the years of engaging with media that infuriates me bc I overthink how to react in those situations bc I donāt understand how that in front of me can be a human being with a brain who cares about others and if I showed distress or anger Iād be judged and harassed for it again, despite them being harassers and controllers I nthe first place, and I am afraid of forgetting about it and walking into such situation and being unable to control it. For example the āwhateverā podcast the narcissist men were saying in an imposing way how a woman only thinks for herslf bc she wanted to be aborted bc her mother didnāt have neough money to raise her. Obviously u need money to raise someone properly for various reasons, and if he himself odenst understand that a lot of ppl like that are controlling demanding and imposing, while bitter about the sacrifices their toxic environmetns forced them to make (or they made out of their own inferiority hopelessness and lack of faith) or weere actually spoiled, but bc of that they imposed themselves on other people bc I know such ppl and how they grow up and how they treat other children, and are āthankful for being aliveā, but obviously donāt have enough empathy for someone who is emotionally intelligent and has struggled to not be exactly like them, bnc those ppl also harass and abuse minorities and vulnerable groups and I have storie about that dotn wanna get into, and they pretend they donāt know what im saying when I do. No I shouldnāt have to remember everything u did and ddi wrong with ur life to expali nto you how you are mistreating me and beg for you to stop. This is a narcissist. I donāt like abortion after understanding that itās actually alive very early own and has a soul already I think or smth, but before I didnāt know that when I was more justifying it, but I can explain to someone, instead of abusing them into making them lose any ounce of respect for themselves, bc growing up in harsh environment can also often invite other people to mistreat you, even if not always the case.
Bc of ppl like that cotnrolling my own life Ive also had a lot of bitterness and thoughts of revenge and this is part realted to my health issues, and thereās evil that I donāt know if ppl do it just bc they donāt understand genuinely, bc its demons or bc they have to be done something actually important for. I knew better as a child than 30 something year old men, and I have all these issues and I am still better, how can they justify it now? So I have wanted discernment regarding what should be done about various issues. No I will not talk to you or bother you with the dark stuff over and over again I even try to avoid it or build self control bc it can make you go insane im just putting it here to show that I am at least aware and thoughtful of that.
2024.05.14 17:48 necessarylemonade How to get castor oil to absorb into skin/hair?
Jumping on the castor oil train. Are there other kinds or something I should be using that are less sticky/thick? I had to wash my hair 5 times just to get it out and it just gets everywhere if I use it on my skin. It just seems like a big inconvenience but Iāve heard the benefits are amazing. Everyone tells you how great it is, but never tell you how youāre supposed to use it/handle it.
Should I cut the castor oil with something else? Help. I want to like this stuff!!!
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Should I cut the castor oil with something else? Help. I want to like this stuff!!!
2024.05.14 17:47 VividSpecialist3532 My partner from hell
Iām a 22 year old female heās a 48 year old male. Heās a horrific driver (tried to fucking kill us), likes to diagnose patients with zero imagining, has no capacity recognize that he might be wrong, and is disrespectful as hell as to anyone and everyone.
When we met, he explained to me that he was working on being less of a perfectionist and less nitpicky to his partners. He told me that he had a lot of issues with partners at a nearby company and eventually left for whatever reason. I took into account that he is a perfectionist, but I didnāt fully grasp the extent of his āperfectionism.ā Iām a super open and accepting person. I can work with just about anyone. This guy is insane. He has two DUIs, an open container charge, and a felony. He also has a legal guardian. The reason for his conservatorship isnāt pubic but Iām going to assume it has something to do with the fact that heās fucking crazy. His ex wife has a restraining order against him.
Heās PHYSICALLY abusive. I asked him (kindly) to stop pushing the gurney into me. He kept running into me with it and it was impacting our ability to cohesively operate the gurney. I was more than willing to work on resolving the issue, but I was met with hostility and aggression. He then intentionally pushed it into me MORE and pushed me into the pole to type the code in outside of the hospital (with both of the patientās bare feet pressed against my arms and my butt pressed against the gurney). I had already requested if we could switch sides and he states āI guess youāre not even capable of holding a gurneyā in a condescending tone. He did not let me switch sides. Another time, instead of asking me to move over or saying āexcuse meā while I was in his way, he threw an elbow into me. This was the point where I began to see that he was frustrated with me. The reason he was frustrated is because he asked me to put the patient on the monitor and fire told me to wait until we got her downstairs (she was on fireās monitor at the time). I listened to fireās direction since he had exited the room to retrieve something from the truck. I thought that he would understand. He was unable to see that I took direction from the other paramedics on scene and he viewed this as disobedience/disrespect.
His āperfectionismā seems to be rooted within the inability to recognize an alternative perspective. For example, he tells me that he places IVs into the external jugular vein āall the time.ā An RN at the hospital tries to call his bluff and he DOUBLES DOWN on his claim. The RN explains how this is incredibly risky and should only be done in dire situations. He argues that itās not risky and that people even request them. The RN explains to me that he was a paramedic for several years before becoming a nurse, and that my partner should NOT be doing EJs as often as he says he is. He continues to argue and the nurse challenges him on his IV skills. The nurse brings out an ultrasound and asks him to use it to get an IV on a tough stick. He agrees and tries to use the ultrasound machine to get an IV on a random person after we had already been status checked (when weāve been at the hospital for 30+ minutes and dispatch wants us to go available). He was ultimately unsuccessful.
He thinks that I cannot help lift patients. We had a call where a 255lb woman fell and couldnāt get up. I got into the typical front lifting position, he got behind her, and then he told me to step aside because heāll be the only one lifting anyway. Another time we were at the hospital doing a sheet transfer with an average weighted male. He got on one side, I got on the other, and he said āI canāt do this by myself, Iām gonna need some actual help.ā He did this another time on a call when we were going to move a patient to the gurney. He asked a fireman to grab the left leg, the fireman was on the other side of the room and I was right there, so I took the initiative to grab the leg. He was really irritated about it. Nobody else was. It was an easy lift.
Horrific and dangerous driving: He opposed traffic at a high speed on a one lane airport ramp and narrowly avoided being hit. He told me to go to airport arrivals (after I objected!!). I let him know that the clearance was too low and I no longer feel comfortable navigating the situation. He proceeded to oppose traffic at 30-40mph down the worst possible path. It was a one-way ramp with a very narrow lane along a curve with zero visibility and zero space to pull over. Another vehicle began driving in reverse and the car behind that one had to swerve to avoid rear ending them. I yelled at him to turn around. He yelled back and said āthereās no room.ā I told him to āmake a 12 point turn if you need to.ā He insisted on NOT using sirens to do this and I turned them on anyway. Not a single car on that ramp would be able to see that we were traveling head-on towards them at a high rate of speed due to the curve, but theyād be able to hear us with sirens. He complied and made a multiple-point turn (he fully backed into the curb while doing so), then drove into oversized parking. He proceeded to tell me (at the top of his lungs) to āshut the fuck up,ā and yelled āIām so done with you.ā I explained to him that it was reasonable for me to be scared when he put us in a very dangerous situation. He screamed at me some more, we went into the call, got cancelled, then he called the supervisor. I went into the back of the ambulance for a minute to process what just happened, my partner was nowhere to be found, so I got in the driverās seat and relayed cancel 851 by fire over the radio. He ripped open my door and said āget out. Iām driving.ā
He told me Iām ādisgustingā when I asked what I did wrong. He told me I was disgusting the day prior as well. I actually recorded the second one (I was recording because I was TERRIFIED and he was angry)
Became wildly offended when I let him know that he left a IM syringe+needle on the back of the gurney and that it fell out on the floor at the hospital. The nurse noticed it and became concerned. I didnāt say this with any sort of intention of offending him, but it did indeed offend him. Not only did he recap the used needle, he threw it on the back of the gurney and forgot about it.
He likes to sit in the EMS room and write his report while getting status checked multiple times as well. A supervisor even called him while we were in the EMS room and he lied to them by saying āweāre just now getting the patient off the gurney, weāll go available soon.ā We had unloaded the patient long before that and were completely ready to go available several minutes prior. This was the first time we worked together. On the 3rd shift we had together, I went into the EMS room and asked him if he knows that we have 30 minutes to go available (we had gotten status checked). I figured that he might just not be aware of the rule since he is still new to the company, but he took great offense to my question and stormed off. I thought that he was storming off to go available, but no, he was storming off to sit in the back of the ambulance and attempting to transmit his vitals. The service is poor at this particular, so vital transmission is slow IF it actually goes through. He somehow blames this on me, even though Iāve explained to him that theyāll transmit in an area with better reception. Obviously I still hit the āretryā button several times to make him happy.
He became frustrated on our first shift when I preferred that we post within 1 mile of our post. He wanted to get food and I explained to him that we have to post within 1 mile of our assigned post. He called me a goody-two-shoes and I explained to him that I donāt want to get in trouble for posting more than a mile away.
He told me that he has been āwarnedā that Iāve been written up multiple times for behavioral issues as a means to justify him telling me to āshut the fuck upā about him opposing traffic in a very dangerous situation. I have never ONCE been written up for a behavioral issue. I asked if he was mistaking me for someone else or if he had received misinformation, but he continued to stonewall me. All forms of communication where he was not screaming at me, he was stonewalling me.
He never had my back. He waited in the truck while I was in a womanās second floor apartment amaāing her by myself. I was up there for a while because she was very talkative, and he never once came back up to check on me. On a different call, an ETOH male patient would not stop hitting on me. He saw that I was very uncomfortable and I motioned to him for help. He walked away without saying a word. This was a very unique experience, as just about every other provider that Iāve worked with had my back (male or female) when situations like this arose.
He accused me of flirting with the fire department instead of paying attention on calls. I donāt even know how to flirt. I just thought it was common courtesy to be friendly & helpful with the people you run calls with. I read the patientās medications to fire when they asked if I had them which upset my partner as well.
Each time I tried to speak he intentionally raised his voice to talk over me and cut me off. I was not allowed to speak to patients whatsoever. I was to be seen not heard.
A fire crew complained to me about him on a call saying that he wouldnāt even let them finish the assessment they started. I do agree with them fully. Every time they tried to speak he just kept talking very loudly over the top of them.
Issues with a respiratory distress call for a 30/40 year old female: He got upset when he asked me to grab him an end tidal and I handed him a booger. Apparently he wanted the end tidal that connects to CPAP but did not verbalize this. On that same call, he asked fire to give the pt albuterol through the CPAP. The fireman asked for clarification on where the albuterol is supposed to go and he ignored it. The fireman dumped it into straight into the mask instead of the nebulizer and the patient started screaming that they swallowed all of it. He then stated that her lungs were completely full of fluid (to me, fire, and the hospital staff) and had me drive code 3 to the hospital. We got to the hospital and he starts shouting āwhereās the bed, where are we taking her?!?ā in a frantic tone. He does not wait for a response before we take her into a random room (that they did not agree to) and get her on the bed. Rapid imaging was done on the pt and the doctor said (in front of everyone at the nurses station) that the pt didnāt have any fluid in her lungs & it was an anxiety attack.
He accused me of playing āgamesā and pulling shenanigans throughout the entirety of our shift. Stonewalled me when I asked him to explain what/why/how I was pulling shenanigans because I was truly unaware of what I was doing that caused him to treat me so horribly. Communication was non-existent
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When we met, he explained to me that he was working on being less of a perfectionist and less nitpicky to his partners. He told me that he had a lot of issues with partners at a nearby company and eventually left for whatever reason. I took into account that he is a perfectionist, but I didnāt fully grasp the extent of his āperfectionism.ā Iām a super open and accepting person. I can work with just about anyone. This guy is insane. He has two DUIs, an open container charge, and a felony. He also has a legal guardian. The reason for his conservatorship isnāt pubic but Iām going to assume it has something to do with the fact that heās fucking crazy. His ex wife has a restraining order against him.
Heās PHYSICALLY abusive. I asked him (kindly) to stop pushing the gurney into me. He kept running into me with it and it was impacting our ability to cohesively operate the gurney. I was more than willing to work on resolving the issue, but I was met with hostility and aggression. He then intentionally pushed it into me MORE and pushed me into the pole to type the code in outside of the hospital (with both of the patientās bare feet pressed against my arms and my butt pressed against the gurney). I had already requested if we could switch sides and he states āI guess youāre not even capable of holding a gurneyā in a condescending tone. He did not let me switch sides. Another time, instead of asking me to move over or saying āexcuse meā while I was in his way, he threw an elbow into me. This was the point where I began to see that he was frustrated with me. The reason he was frustrated is because he asked me to put the patient on the monitor and fire told me to wait until we got her downstairs (she was on fireās monitor at the time). I listened to fireās direction since he had exited the room to retrieve something from the truck. I thought that he would understand. He was unable to see that I took direction from the other paramedics on scene and he viewed this as disobedience/disrespect.
His āperfectionismā seems to be rooted within the inability to recognize an alternative perspective. For example, he tells me that he places IVs into the external jugular vein āall the time.ā An RN at the hospital tries to call his bluff and he DOUBLES DOWN on his claim. The RN explains how this is incredibly risky and should only be done in dire situations. He argues that itās not risky and that people even request them. The RN explains to me that he was a paramedic for several years before becoming a nurse, and that my partner should NOT be doing EJs as often as he says he is. He continues to argue and the nurse challenges him on his IV skills. The nurse brings out an ultrasound and asks him to use it to get an IV on a tough stick. He agrees and tries to use the ultrasound machine to get an IV on a random person after we had already been status checked (when weāve been at the hospital for 30+ minutes and dispatch wants us to go available). He was ultimately unsuccessful.
He thinks that I cannot help lift patients. We had a call where a 255lb woman fell and couldnāt get up. I got into the typical front lifting position, he got behind her, and then he told me to step aside because heāll be the only one lifting anyway. Another time we were at the hospital doing a sheet transfer with an average weighted male. He got on one side, I got on the other, and he said āI canāt do this by myself, Iām gonna need some actual help.ā He did this another time on a call when we were going to move a patient to the gurney. He asked a fireman to grab the left leg, the fireman was on the other side of the room and I was right there, so I took the initiative to grab the leg. He was really irritated about it. Nobody else was. It was an easy lift.
Horrific and dangerous driving: He opposed traffic at a high speed on a one lane airport ramp and narrowly avoided being hit. He told me to go to airport arrivals (after I objected!!). I let him know that the clearance was too low and I no longer feel comfortable navigating the situation. He proceeded to oppose traffic at 30-40mph down the worst possible path. It was a one-way ramp with a very narrow lane along a curve with zero visibility and zero space to pull over. Another vehicle began driving in reverse and the car behind that one had to swerve to avoid rear ending them. I yelled at him to turn around. He yelled back and said āthereās no room.ā I told him to āmake a 12 point turn if you need to.ā He insisted on NOT using sirens to do this and I turned them on anyway. Not a single car on that ramp would be able to see that we were traveling head-on towards them at a high rate of speed due to the curve, but theyād be able to hear us with sirens. He complied and made a multiple-point turn (he fully backed into the curb while doing so), then drove into oversized parking. He proceeded to tell me (at the top of his lungs) to āshut the fuck up,ā and yelled āIām so done with you.ā I explained to him that it was reasonable for me to be scared when he put us in a very dangerous situation. He screamed at me some more, we went into the call, got cancelled, then he called the supervisor. I went into the back of the ambulance for a minute to process what just happened, my partner was nowhere to be found, so I got in the driverās seat and relayed cancel 851 by fire over the radio. He ripped open my door and said āget out. Iām driving.ā
He told me Iām ādisgustingā when I asked what I did wrong. He told me I was disgusting the day prior as well. I actually recorded the second one (I was recording because I was TERRIFIED and he was angry)
Became wildly offended when I let him know that he left a IM syringe+needle on the back of the gurney and that it fell out on the floor at the hospital. The nurse noticed it and became concerned. I didnāt say this with any sort of intention of offending him, but it did indeed offend him. Not only did he recap the used needle, he threw it on the back of the gurney and forgot about it.
He likes to sit in the EMS room and write his report while getting status checked multiple times as well. A supervisor even called him while we were in the EMS room and he lied to them by saying āweāre just now getting the patient off the gurney, weāll go available soon.ā We had unloaded the patient long before that and were completely ready to go available several minutes prior. This was the first time we worked together. On the 3rd shift we had together, I went into the EMS room and asked him if he knows that we have 30 minutes to go available (we had gotten status checked). I figured that he might just not be aware of the rule since he is still new to the company, but he took great offense to my question and stormed off. I thought that he was storming off to go available, but no, he was storming off to sit in the back of the ambulance and attempting to transmit his vitals. The service is poor at this particular, so vital transmission is slow IF it actually goes through. He somehow blames this on me, even though Iāve explained to him that theyāll transmit in an area with better reception. Obviously I still hit the āretryā button several times to make him happy.
He became frustrated on our first shift when I preferred that we post within 1 mile of our post. He wanted to get food and I explained to him that we have to post within 1 mile of our assigned post. He called me a goody-two-shoes and I explained to him that I donāt want to get in trouble for posting more than a mile away.
He told me that he has been āwarnedā that Iāve been written up multiple times for behavioral issues as a means to justify him telling me to āshut the fuck upā about him opposing traffic in a very dangerous situation. I have never ONCE been written up for a behavioral issue. I asked if he was mistaking me for someone else or if he had received misinformation, but he continued to stonewall me. All forms of communication where he was not screaming at me, he was stonewalling me.
He never had my back. He waited in the truck while I was in a womanās second floor apartment amaāing her by myself. I was up there for a while because she was very talkative, and he never once came back up to check on me. On a different call, an ETOH male patient would not stop hitting on me. He saw that I was very uncomfortable and I motioned to him for help. He walked away without saying a word. This was a very unique experience, as just about every other provider that Iāve worked with had my back (male or female) when situations like this arose.
He accused me of flirting with the fire department instead of paying attention on calls. I donāt even know how to flirt. I just thought it was common courtesy to be friendly & helpful with the people you run calls with. I read the patientās medications to fire when they asked if I had them which upset my partner as well.
Each time I tried to speak he intentionally raised his voice to talk over me and cut me off. I was not allowed to speak to patients whatsoever. I was to be seen not heard.
A fire crew complained to me about him on a call saying that he wouldnāt even let them finish the assessment they started. I do agree with them fully. Every time they tried to speak he just kept talking very loudly over the top of them.
Issues with a respiratory distress call for a 30/40 year old female: He got upset when he asked me to grab him an end tidal and I handed him a booger. Apparently he wanted the end tidal that connects to CPAP but did not verbalize this. On that same call, he asked fire to give the pt albuterol through the CPAP. The fireman asked for clarification on where the albuterol is supposed to go and he ignored it. The fireman dumped it into straight into the mask instead of the nebulizer and the patient started screaming that they swallowed all of it. He then stated that her lungs were completely full of fluid (to me, fire, and the hospital staff) and had me drive code 3 to the hospital. We got to the hospital and he starts shouting āwhereās the bed, where are we taking her?!?ā in a frantic tone. He does not wait for a response before we take her into a random room (that they did not agree to) and get her on the bed. Rapid imaging was done on the pt and the doctor said (in front of everyone at the nurses station) that the pt didnāt have any fluid in her lungs & it was an anxiety attack.
He accused me of playing āgamesā and pulling shenanigans throughout the entirety of our shift. Stonewalled me when I asked him to explain what/why/how I was pulling shenanigans because I was truly unaware of what I was doing that caused him to treat me so horribly. Communication was non-existent
2024.05.14 17:47 Independent_World915 My partner does not love me at all
Hello Reddit. First time to post here. I badly need advise but dont want to tell my friends and family about this.
My partner (37m) does not love me(30f) at all. Weāre together 7 years and we have a son (5m) Im trying to figure out what his love language is, and I realized that the reason why I cant figure it out is because he doesnt feel anything for me.
I feel so trapped in our relationship even if weāre not married. I dont want my son to not have a father. But Im not happy anymore. I feel so little and so lonely and so unloved.
Just this motherās day, he wouldnt have greeted me if I havent reminded him to greet his mom. When heās away for work, (heās an owneoperator of our van rental) he would never update me but I could see his messenger that he updates his friend group about his whereabouts. I told him many times to atleast update me whenever he stops somewhere because I worry about him, but he always says that heās busy driving (but he could update his friends. Lol). So I stopped bothering him when heās away. We used to argue about this but I taught myself to not care so much cause he doesnt.
One time he went to his auntās funeral for 2 days without updating me. (My son and I couldnt go). No calls, no texts, no chats. None at all. But I saw from his brotherās facebook live that heās always holding his phone. When he got home, I asked him if it is so hard for him to check up on me and our child. Of course his response was that heās busy with whatever he is doing there. I pointed out that I saw him holding his phone all the time but not once did he bother checking on us. He snapped at me and I dropped the issue.
Heās never intimate with me. Im not just talking about sex, but in all aspects. He doesnt like talking to me, heās always on his phone. He doesnt hug or kiss me, I dont even remember a time when he held my hand, or walk beside me whenever weāre out. He never looks at me when weāre crossing the street. Whenever I ask him to pass me something, he wont give it to me directly, he will set it down within my reach even if handing it to me is easier. He always avoid my kisses and hugs. Either telling me that he havent showered yet or that the weather is too hot for all that. Lol. Sex was never great. Heās selfish.
I could never cry in front of him. When my father died in 2020, he wasnt even there for me. He left for work when he couldāve given the booking to one of his friends. Months after my dad died, I am still grieving and he asked me what Im crying about. He sees crying as weakness. Heās so insensitive to my feelings that I run and hide whenever I cry about something.
We dont really argue anymore. The only reason that our relationship is quiet is because we dont talk about our issues, instead we bury it. He is more like a roommate to me than a partner.
I always wonder what our lives would be once I leave him, but my heart really aches whenever I think of my son. He is still a loving father to him.
I dont really know what to do or how to start again. I dont believe in love and in marriage because of him. I dont know how to endure more years of this torture. I feel so trapped and drowing from all this negative emotions that I tried to hide from everyone. Both our families ask me when we would get married. I really dont know how to answer them so i would just change topic. If I get cornered, I just end up raising my voice telling them that I DONT WANT TO.
I know people will tell me that im stupid for staying despite of what Im feeling but my heart would ache more if I see my child asking about his father. They are close. I dont want to take that love away from my son.
I badly need advise as to what i can do. I feel lost. Please help me find my way again. Thank you.
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My partner (37m) does not love me(30f) at all. Weāre together 7 years and we have a son (5m) Im trying to figure out what his love language is, and I realized that the reason why I cant figure it out is because he doesnt feel anything for me.
I feel so trapped in our relationship even if weāre not married. I dont want my son to not have a father. But Im not happy anymore. I feel so little and so lonely and so unloved.
Just this motherās day, he wouldnt have greeted me if I havent reminded him to greet his mom. When heās away for work, (heās an owneoperator of our van rental) he would never update me but I could see his messenger that he updates his friend group about his whereabouts. I told him many times to atleast update me whenever he stops somewhere because I worry about him, but he always says that heās busy driving (but he could update his friends. Lol). So I stopped bothering him when heās away. We used to argue about this but I taught myself to not care so much cause he doesnt.
One time he went to his auntās funeral for 2 days without updating me. (My son and I couldnt go). No calls, no texts, no chats. None at all. But I saw from his brotherās facebook live that heās always holding his phone. When he got home, I asked him if it is so hard for him to check up on me and our child. Of course his response was that heās busy with whatever he is doing there. I pointed out that I saw him holding his phone all the time but not once did he bother checking on us. He snapped at me and I dropped the issue.
Heās never intimate with me. Im not just talking about sex, but in all aspects. He doesnt like talking to me, heās always on his phone. He doesnt hug or kiss me, I dont even remember a time when he held my hand, or walk beside me whenever weāre out. He never looks at me when weāre crossing the street. Whenever I ask him to pass me something, he wont give it to me directly, he will set it down within my reach even if handing it to me is easier. He always avoid my kisses and hugs. Either telling me that he havent showered yet or that the weather is too hot for all that. Lol. Sex was never great. Heās selfish.
I could never cry in front of him. When my father died in 2020, he wasnt even there for me. He left for work when he couldāve given the booking to one of his friends. Months after my dad died, I am still grieving and he asked me what Im crying about. He sees crying as weakness. Heās so insensitive to my feelings that I run and hide whenever I cry about something.
We dont really argue anymore. The only reason that our relationship is quiet is because we dont talk about our issues, instead we bury it. He is more like a roommate to me than a partner.
I always wonder what our lives would be once I leave him, but my heart really aches whenever I think of my son. He is still a loving father to him.
I dont really know what to do or how to start again. I dont believe in love and in marriage because of him. I dont know how to endure more years of this torture. I feel so trapped and drowing from all this negative emotions that I tried to hide from everyone. Both our families ask me when we would get married. I really dont know how to answer them so i would just change topic. If I get cornered, I just end up raising my voice telling them that I DONT WANT TO.
I know people will tell me that im stupid for staying despite of what Im feeling but my heart would ache more if I see my child asking about his father. They are close. I dont want to take that love away from my son.
I badly need advise as to what i can do. I feel lost. Please help me find my way again. Thank you.
2024.05.14 17:47 Santas-Claws89 Refugee neighbors, who are using up all of the space in the common areas, harrased me today
I meant to post here yesterday, so I'll start out with the story from yesterday.
English is not my native language, so sorry for any grammatical mistakes, which will occur, since I'm still a mess inside my head.
A friend, who is also a neighbor, and I have grown really tired of our refugee neighbors. We live in study apartments, the municipality has placed a family of four here, and children are normally NOT allowed to live here, but the children of the refugees are an obvious exception.
For almost a year (as long as they have lived here), they have been nothing but noisy and messy, but we (my friend, my direct neighbor and I) have never had any evidence. But recently they have been filling up our common areas with junk they find (the dad), the mom has a temper, and sometimes smashes things, like glass ashtrays in the direction of my cat cattio. They have been banned from the local pub, where I work as a volunteer from time to time.
Yesterday my friend and I went to talk to the administration office, and told us to write an email with pictures, which we have taken the last few weeks. So I wrote the email, and made sure that my friend had approved it. I didn't think that they did anything about it this soon, but they did to my surprise.
One of the common areas that affect me the most, is the shed meant for bicycles, that's my main way to get around, and it has been really freaking hard to get around in the shed. They had so much junk, multiple bicycles for grownups (they are only two grownups in that household), multiple microwaves, a mini oven, clothe hamper etc. Things that doesn't belong in a shed meant for bicycles. We also have a small and shared depot area, where the relay is and that needs to be accessible, but they have filled that space with junk as well.
How do we know it's theirs? We have seen the dad bringing the junk home on many occasions.
Now to the event that happened today.
I came home after some errands in the centrum of the city I live in, and of course I took the bike. Everything was fine, birds were singing, flowers were blooming, days like these are the best days to be happy. No anxiety, and I actually thought about that exactly. That lasted until I reached my block, more specifically the shed, the mom and dad were gathered in front of the shed, frantically talking in their language on the phone. I went in, and saw that my usual space for my bike was gone, there were no space for it. Their junk were gone too. The dad (who has the habit to be way too close) cornered me in there. I was stressed out, and his presence and him talking to me in his language, did not make it any better, I tried to tell them that I need some space to think. I did that multiple times, they did not listen. They put the other end on speaker, and the person began talking to me (I had gotten a major panic attack at that point, so I don't remember anything clearly, even though it's just one hour ago), but what I did hear and remember was, that they knew I was the one sending the email. I was shaking, hyperventilating and just wanted to be alone so I could kiss my kitty. How do you get rid of people, by acting crazy (is it acting when you are a bit crazy?), so I just yelled really loud "I'M HAVING A PANIC ATTACK! I'M HAVING A PANIC ATTACK! PLEASE GET OUT!" I hate making a scene, especially yelling in public, but I just had enough.
For info, I have multiple disorders: Aspergers syndrome, social anxiety and GED, and the worst thing someone can do, is to drive me in to a corner and blocking the exit (which the dad did). They know I have those disorders.
I'm so disappointed that the administration and the municipality told them it was me who wrote the email, because I do believe that they are bound by law not to disclose stuff like this, in case of retaliation, like what happened today. I have written another email to the administration before I began to write this.
Thank you, if you have reached this far.
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English is not my native language, so sorry for any grammatical mistakes, which will occur, since I'm still a mess inside my head.
A friend, who is also a neighbor, and I have grown really tired of our refugee neighbors. We live in study apartments, the municipality has placed a family of four here, and children are normally NOT allowed to live here, but the children of the refugees are an obvious exception.
For almost a year (as long as they have lived here), they have been nothing but noisy and messy, but we (my friend, my direct neighbor and I) have never had any evidence. But recently they have been filling up our common areas with junk they find (the dad), the mom has a temper, and sometimes smashes things, like glass ashtrays in the direction of my cat cattio. They have been banned from the local pub, where I work as a volunteer from time to time.
Yesterday my friend and I went to talk to the administration office, and told us to write an email with pictures, which we have taken the last few weeks. So I wrote the email, and made sure that my friend had approved it. I didn't think that they did anything about it this soon, but they did to my surprise.
One of the common areas that affect me the most, is the shed meant for bicycles, that's my main way to get around, and it has been really freaking hard to get around in the shed. They had so much junk, multiple bicycles for grownups (they are only two grownups in that household), multiple microwaves, a mini oven, clothe hamper etc. Things that doesn't belong in a shed meant for bicycles. We also have a small and shared depot area, where the relay is and that needs to be accessible, but they have filled that space with junk as well.
How do we know it's theirs? We have seen the dad bringing the junk home on many occasions.
Now to the event that happened today.
I came home after some errands in the centrum of the city I live in, and of course I took the bike. Everything was fine, birds were singing, flowers were blooming, days like these are the best days to be happy. No anxiety, and I actually thought about that exactly. That lasted until I reached my block, more specifically the shed, the mom and dad were gathered in front of the shed, frantically talking in their language on the phone. I went in, and saw that my usual space for my bike was gone, there were no space for it. Their junk were gone too. The dad (who has the habit to be way too close) cornered me in there. I was stressed out, and his presence and him talking to me in his language, did not make it any better, I tried to tell them that I need some space to think. I did that multiple times, they did not listen. They put the other end on speaker, and the person began talking to me (I had gotten a major panic attack at that point, so I don't remember anything clearly, even though it's just one hour ago), but what I did hear and remember was, that they knew I was the one sending the email. I was shaking, hyperventilating and just wanted to be alone so I could kiss my kitty. How do you get rid of people, by acting crazy (is it acting when you are a bit crazy?), so I just yelled really loud "I'M HAVING A PANIC ATTACK! I'M HAVING A PANIC ATTACK! PLEASE GET OUT!" I hate making a scene, especially yelling in public, but I just had enough.
For info, I have multiple disorders: Aspergers syndrome, social anxiety and GED, and the worst thing someone can do, is to drive me in to a corner and blocking the exit (which the dad did). They know I have those disorders.
I'm so disappointed that the administration and the municipality told them it was me who wrote the email, because I do believe that they are bound by law not to disclose stuff like this, in case of retaliation, like what happened today. I have written another email to the administration before I began to write this.
Thank you, if you have reached this far.
2024.05.14 17:47 iamravmataz AITA for leaving my family for love?
So I'm an out gay guy from a Rural and Religious area in the US. Due to this my family is not exactly stoked on me and always encouraged me to hide myself in public because of how people would react to me. For context, I was living with my Granny and Grandaddy at the time to help take care of them as they were having a harder time doing things around the house. My Grandfather was able to drive and such, I couldn't but was learning, and he would help me get to work and back. I would spend a lot of time doing things for them, fixing the house up where I could, and also just kept them company. It was honestly a good time aside from my Aunt and Uncle holding over that I couldn't be myself while I lived there. I had to pretend to be straight so I didn't embarrass the family.
During this period I was on a dating website, this was before the apps really got a start. I had just gotten over a period where I was recovering from a bad bad break up that ended in violence. I wanted to get out there again so I thought I'd give it a try, I wanted to find some happiness. Sure enough, I began talking to someone, we'll call him Lion. Lion was very sweet, very understanding about the situation I was in, so we kept talking for quite a while. Lion lived a few hours away so we weren't able to just drop things and go meet whenever, plus we didn't want to rush things. I also knew my family wouldn't have been too keen on me meeting someone. The rule was I couldn't be seen in public with a person, and honestly I wasn't keen on inviting someone over to my grandparent's house, not just for the embarrassment of not being in my own place, but I didn't want to risk them if things didn't end up well after meeting someone for the first time. Strangers be strangerin.
A good deal of time had gone by and I was really falling for Lion. We talked every day. We got along well. Any disagreements were squashed fairly easily. I thought, I really need to start thinking about myself here, so I thought I'd say let's meet. We made plans and I became so excited. This was the time when Facebook was pretty new and I was in my 20s and still pretty naive to the consequences of posting all good news you have on social media. I posted about him coming to visit on the day he was coming. All hell broke loose.
My aunt, who was not on my friends list, had someone report to her about things I posted. Next thing I know I'm getting phone calls by all sorts of family members calling to cuss me out for daring to invite someone over. No, I wasn't having him come to my grandparent's house, I was walking to a gas station and was going to meet him there. They demanded that I tell him not to come to town as if they owned the whole place. I got pissed off and told them I'm taking care of my grandparents when they don't want to have anything to do with them and I deserve a little bit of happiness, so I told them all to fuck off.
On my way to the gas station I saw my cousin driving up and down the road, a school road, above the speed limit. He would swerve as if he were threatening to hit me. I flipped him off. I got to the gas station in one piece and waited for about 2 hours for him to show up, I couldn't reach Lion because he had no signal heading up the mountain to get to me. He finally gets there, we embrace. I tell him about what was going on and that we should probably go someplace else since my cousin followed me. He was so understanding. It was a great day, my phone was off, and we just had a lot of fun. He drove me back and I made it home and went to bed after I got the call he made it back home.
The next day I go to work and my family started calling my work place. I obviously wasn't allowed to take the phone off the hook because customers may call and need help. It was absolute torture. I was given an ultimatum, I refuse to see Lion again and maybe they'll let me continue living with my grandparents. I flipped and told my Aunt to go fuck herself and hung up. At the end of the work day my dad shows up and tells me I'm not allowed over at my grandparent's tonight. I couldn't go home and even get my toothbrush. So I said fine, I give in and go to my dad's. My dad is a pastor who has put me through conversion therapy. He lectures me the whole way, said I had this coming. Blah blah blah. I called Lion and told him everything. He said fuck them and told me if I needed to I can move in with him. I was VERY hesitant about that. We had one date, a great date, but still. I had to think about it.
The torture with my family continued and I finally gave in and said ok, I'm coming to stay with you. Lion and I made plans, I put in a two week notice, I did NOT post about it online, and on my last day I told a few people I'll be leaving and would like to see them one more time before I leave home. I didn't even tell my dad I was leaving, I just packed my shit and left. I said my goodbyes and we left. Since then, my family said I abandoned my grandparents. Honestly I love my grandparents very much and always will, and I always think back on things because I wished I could have been there during some harder times like when my Grandaddy fell and hit his head, he died a week later. My Granny is now in a nursing home because she can't care for herself. I hate so much that this is how things ended up and I still find myself crying over it.
Was I an asshole for leaving?
Note, I am still with Lion. It'll be 12 years this July. He has a daughter who accepts me as her step-dad. She has two kids of her own who I love very much. I don't regret being here, I just hold guilt that my grandparents have ended up the way they have.
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During this period I was on a dating website, this was before the apps really got a start. I had just gotten over a period where I was recovering from a bad bad break up that ended in violence. I wanted to get out there again so I thought I'd give it a try, I wanted to find some happiness. Sure enough, I began talking to someone, we'll call him Lion. Lion was very sweet, very understanding about the situation I was in, so we kept talking for quite a while. Lion lived a few hours away so we weren't able to just drop things and go meet whenever, plus we didn't want to rush things. I also knew my family wouldn't have been too keen on me meeting someone. The rule was I couldn't be seen in public with a person, and honestly I wasn't keen on inviting someone over to my grandparent's house, not just for the embarrassment of not being in my own place, but I didn't want to risk them if things didn't end up well after meeting someone for the first time. Strangers be strangerin.
A good deal of time had gone by and I was really falling for Lion. We talked every day. We got along well. Any disagreements were squashed fairly easily. I thought, I really need to start thinking about myself here, so I thought I'd say let's meet. We made plans and I became so excited. This was the time when Facebook was pretty new and I was in my 20s and still pretty naive to the consequences of posting all good news you have on social media. I posted about him coming to visit on the day he was coming. All hell broke loose.
My aunt, who was not on my friends list, had someone report to her about things I posted. Next thing I know I'm getting phone calls by all sorts of family members calling to cuss me out for daring to invite someone over. No, I wasn't having him come to my grandparent's house, I was walking to a gas station and was going to meet him there. They demanded that I tell him not to come to town as if they owned the whole place. I got pissed off and told them I'm taking care of my grandparents when they don't want to have anything to do with them and I deserve a little bit of happiness, so I told them all to fuck off.
On my way to the gas station I saw my cousin driving up and down the road, a school road, above the speed limit. He would swerve as if he were threatening to hit me. I flipped him off. I got to the gas station in one piece and waited for about 2 hours for him to show up, I couldn't reach Lion because he had no signal heading up the mountain to get to me. He finally gets there, we embrace. I tell him about what was going on and that we should probably go someplace else since my cousin followed me. He was so understanding. It was a great day, my phone was off, and we just had a lot of fun. He drove me back and I made it home and went to bed after I got the call he made it back home.
The next day I go to work and my family started calling my work place. I obviously wasn't allowed to take the phone off the hook because customers may call and need help. It was absolute torture. I was given an ultimatum, I refuse to see Lion again and maybe they'll let me continue living with my grandparents. I flipped and told my Aunt to go fuck herself and hung up. At the end of the work day my dad shows up and tells me I'm not allowed over at my grandparent's tonight. I couldn't go home and even get my toothbrush. So I said fine, I give in and go to my dad's. My dad is a pastor who has put me through conversion therapy. He lectures me the whole way, said I had this coming. Blah blah blah. I called Lion and told him everything. He said fuck them and told me if I needed to I can move in with him. I was VERY hesitant about that. We had one date, a great date, but still. I had to think about it.
The torture with my family continued and I finally gave in and said ok, I'm coming to stay with you. Lion and I made plans, I put in a two week notice, I did NOT post about it online, and on my last day I told a few people I'll be leaving and would like to see them one more time before I leave home. I didn't even tell my dad I was leaving, I just packed my shit and left. I said my goodbyes and we left. Since then, my family said I abandoned my grandparents. Honestly I love my grandparents very much and always will, and I always think back on things because I wished I could have been there during some harder times like when my Grandaddy fell and hit his head, he died a week later. My Granny is now in a nursing home because she can't care for herself. I hate so much that this is how things ended up and I still find myself crying over it.
Was I an asshole for leaving?
Note, I am still with Lion. It'll be 12 years this July. He has a daughter who accepts me as her step-dad. She has two kids of her own who I love very much. I don't regret being here, I just hold guilt that my grandparents have ended up the way they have.
2024.05.14 17:47 ikusababy I Got Disability!!!
i received shocking news on mother's day- i won my disability case! on the first hearing! i remember coming to this sub searching for advice when i first applied. it seemed mostly just others asking the same questions i had or talking about being denied, so i figured i'd post about my rare case that got approved (in the US.) i can't give legal advice of course, just share my experience and hope it helps someone.
my migraines became chronic october 2020. i quit my job after being denied fmla leave. i had only worked on the record for 3 years at minimum wage jobs. the income was just enough so my husband (bf at the time) and i never really had to worry about bills. i first applied for ssdi in november 2022 (i wish i had applied sooner, i just was so stressed and didn't think i had a chance anyway.) got my first denial letter i think in april 2023. my MIL gave me the info of a few good local lawyers from her local MS facebook support group. i googled some of the names, checking reviews of some of them. called the first one on my list, was told they wouldn't represent me since i'm under 60 (or maybe 50? point being: 26 is a bit younger.) fair enough, so i called the next on my list. answered some basic screening questions and got a phone appointment set up.
i applied for migraines but also listed my mental health diagnoses. usually my mental health is manageable, but with the migraines it started to decline. i had the feeling this lawyer thought i was more likely to get ssdi for my mental health rather than migraines. but i maybe i was reading that wrong and he had to ask more about the mental health since it's a bit more complex to understand than migraines for some people idk. regardless i was honest and he agreed to represent me and was really upfront about how the process works. he told me i'd likely lose the first and maybe 2nd case, but he thought i had a shot. that gave me some hope since he had a lot of positive reviews and i'm sure wouldn't take me if he thought it was hopeless!
still, i stressed a lot because i struggled to find a doctor willing to make a disability statement. it was mostly an issue for me because i had just been forced to switch insurance (turned 27 yay) which made me have to find new providers that don't know me well. luckily my psychologist said he was willing and gave a letter of support! and so timeskip after some more denials, i'm set for a hearing over the phone. my lawyer called me the day before to go over everything; checking that i'm not exaggerating answers, pointing out possible things they could ask about, stuff like that. (not like coaching, moreso just checking that i can give clear answers and not panic lol.) he said he knew the judge and thought she was very fair.
i was super nervous but the hearing seemed to go well from what i could tell! it was so gratifying to hear the job expert say exactly what i've been saying; that i only have experience in low-med labor jobs and those jobs won't hire someone who must be absent multiple days a month. the judge mentioned possibly asking a doctor about applying a special rule they use for seizures to my migraines that would classify me as disabled. the judge was very nice and at the end gave me a "sorry you have to go through this" that felt very genuine tho idk if that's something all judges say. my lawyer called afterwards to say he thought it went really well, i answered things well, and the job expert seemed to agree with us. things seem like they could go either way, but my lawyer sounds more hopeful now too so i'm cautiously excited.
so then mother's day i get a call from my lawyer. i rush to pick up because my social security online account status updated to final review 2 days prior so i knew a decision was coming. and my lawyer tells me, "congratulations, you won" !!!! I contain a scream and say in disbelief, "oh my god, i didn't expect to win my 1st at all!" he explained that actually the judge had written to the doctor about my migraines and the doctor disagreed. my lawyer wrote to the judge that he disagreed with the doctor's descision as he was off about some facts in his report, and the judge agreed with my lawyer!!! so i won for the migraines! he told me about how much i can be expecting and that i'll have to switch my primary insurance to medicare soon.
so i think the moral is: roll a nat20 on lawyer and judge selection and you're good! jk. kinda. i know i'm incredibly lucky to have gotten approved and i know there's so many of you out there that absolutely deserve it but have to fight til the end of the legal system. i mean even my dad was told by his doctor to stop working after a heart attack, but he had to go to the final hearing (in which that judge apologized to him that he wasn't approved earlier.) but if you're considering applying or going thru it and are scared now, just know it's not impossible! i was an anxiety-ridden mess right before my trial and even had a mild migraine during the whole thing, but it went really well! and soon i'll be able to pay off my debts and once again contribute financially!!
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my migraines became chronic october 2020. i quit my job after being denied fmla leave. i had only worked on the record for 3 years at minimum wage jobs. the income was just enough so my husband (bf at the time) and i never really had to worry about bills. i first applied for ssdi in november 2022 (i wish i had applied sooner, i just was so stressed and didn't think i had a chance anyway.) got my first denial letter i think in april 2023. my MIL gave me the info of a few good local lawyers from her local MS facebook support group. i googled some of the names, checking reviews of some of them. called the first one on my list, was told they wouldn't represent me since i'm under 60 (or maybe 50? point being: 26 is a bit younger.) fair enough, so i called the next on my list. answered some basic screening questions and got a phone appointment set up.
i applied for migraines but also listed my mental health diagnoses. usually my mental health is manageable, but with the migraines it started to decline. i had the feeling this lawyer thought i was more likely to get ssdi for my mental health rather than migraines. but i maybe i was reading that wrong and he had to ask more about the mental health since it's a bit more complex to understand than migraines for some people idk. regardless i was honest and he agreed to represent me and was really upfront about how the process works. he told me i'd likely lose the first and maybe 2nd case, but he thought i had a shot. that gave me some hope since he had a lot of positive reviews and i'm sure wouldn't take me if he thought it was hopeless!
still, i stressed a lot because i struggled to find a doctor willing to make a disability statement. it was mostly an issue for me because i had just been forced to switch insurance (turned 27 yay) which made me have to find new providers that don't know me well. luckily my psychologist said he was willing and gave a letter of support! and so timeskip after some more denials, i'm set for a hearing over the phone. my lawyer called me the day before to go over everything; checking that i'm not exaggerating answers, pointing out possible things they could ask about, stuff like that. (not like coaching, moreso just checking that i can give clear answers and not panic lol.) he said he knew the judge and thought she was very fair.
i was super nervous but the hearing seemed to go well from what i could tell! it was so gratifying to hear the job expert say exactly what i've been saying; that i only have experience in low-med labor jobs and those jobs won't hire someone who must be absent multiple days a month. the judge mentioned possibly asking a doctor about applying a special rule they use for seizures to my migraines that would classify me as disabled. the judge was very nice and at the end gave me a "sorry you have to go through this" that felt very genuine tho idk if that's something all judges say. my lawyer called afterwards to say he thought it went really well, i answered things well, and the job expert seemed to agree with us. things seem like they could go either way, but my lawyer sounds more hopeful now too so i'm cautiously excited.
so then mother's day i get a call from my lawyer. i rush to pick up because my social security online account status updated to final review 2 days prior so i knew a decision was coming. and my lawyer tells me, "congratulations, you won" !!!! I contain a scream and say in disbelief, "oh my god, i didn't expect to win my 1st at all!" he explained that actually the judge had written to the doctor about my migraines and the doctor disagreed. my lawyer wrote to the judge that he disagreed with the doctor's descision as he was off about some facts in his report, and the judge agreed with my lawyer!!! so i won for the migraines! he told me about how much i can be expecting and that i'll have to switch my primary insurance to medicare soon.
so i think the moral is: roll a nat20 on lawyer and judge selection and you're good! jk. kinda. i know i'm incredibly lucky to have gotten approved and i know there's so many of you out there that absolutely deserve it but have to fight til the end of the legal system. i mean even my dad was told by his doctor to stop working after a heart attack, but he had to go to the final hearing (in which that judge apologized to him that he wasn't approved earlier.) but if you're considering applying or going thru it and are scared now, just know it's not impossible! i was an anxiety-ridden mess right before my trial and even had a mild migraine during the whole thing, but it went really well! and soon i'll be able to pay off my debts and once again contribute financially!!
2024.05.14 17:46 Mission_Duck_4510 School is asking me to hide from the parents and come to work in private
This is a follow-up post to my previous post about my school informing me that a parent wrongfully accused me of sexual misconduct of a minor.
As advised by everyone on Reddit, and friends, I hired an attorney for 200 USD and sought legal consultation. The attorney informed me I do not have to talk to the police until I have an attorney to represent me in person and advised against doing otherwise.
Fast forward, the attorney contacted the school, the school says no police were coming to talk to me, but instead, the school talked to the police already on my behalf and I will not be talking to police, so I shouldn't worry. This is the opposite of what the director told me the previous day.
Anyway, the attorney recommended that I continue to go to work in the meantime since no police are going to talk to me, and this will avoid further complications for me. The attorney will follow up with me tomorrow about my situation.
This is my current situation...
Now, my school is asking me to no longer come to work at 9 am and greet the parents, but instead, come to work 30 minutes earlier, hide from the parents, not teach kindergarten anymore, and sit behind a computer on a different floor, alone, doing random administrative tasks.
This seems strange and almost illegal because the school is telling me to stay on the 2nd floor of the building and never to come downstairs to greet the kids, and it would be easy for me to simply walk downstairs and reveal myself. This does not make sense, and I don't understand how the school believes this is a long-term solution.
So, according to their instructions, I should work on an abandoned 2nd floor directly above the kindergarten students from 8:30 am to 4 pm, alone, while listening to the kids play and laugh directly below me downstairs, but never reveal myself to the students while they are attending school.
This seems extremely wrong, and could potentially make me look suspicious, which could lead to some legal trouble if the school decided to frame for something. It is on CCTV after all.
I will talk to the attorney tomorrow, but right now, they are not available because it is late. Until then, I would just like anyone's input on the matter.
I tried everything in my power to work things out with this school and I still have 10 months left. I can not do this for 10 more months. Originally, I was promised a release letter 2 weeks ago but my director doesn't want to give me a release letter because I contacted an attorney and it was wrong of me to tell anyone about my situation, according to her.
Also, I recorded my conversation with the director, and she lied multiple times about my contract. The audio of our conversation is very clear and easy to understand. The recording is 1 hour long and I'm not sure if this audio recording will be enough to get me out of the school.
Tomorrow is a holiday, but I don't plan to come to work anymore. I would like to know what could happen in terms of my living arrangements. I don't think they can kick me out of the apartment right away. Maybe they can.
I don't know what to do at this point. It seems like leaving the country is my only safe option.
This is my third school and I already did a visa run to even arrive at my current school, and it feels as though so much money and time was wasted to come back to Korea.
Thank you for any help.
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As advised by everyone on Reddit, and friends, I hired an attorney for 200 USD and sought legal consultation. The attorney informed me I do not have to talk to the police until I have an attorney to represent me in person and advised against doing otherwise.
Fast forward, the attorney contacted the school, the school says no police were coming to talk to me, but instead, the school talked to the police already on my behalf and I will not be talking to police, so I shouldn't worry. This is the opposite of what the director told me the previous day.
Anyway, the attorney recommended that I continue to go to work in the meantime since no police are going to talk to me, and this will avoid further complications for me. The attorney will follow up with me tomorrow about my situation.
This is my current situation...
Now, my school is asking me to no longer come to work at 9 am and greet the parents, but instead, come to work 30 minutes earlier, hide from the parents, not teach kindergarten anymore, and sit behind a computer on a different floor, alone, doing random administrative tasks.
This seems strange and almost illegal because the school is telling me to stay on the 2nd floor of the building and never to come downstairs to greet the kids, and it would be easy for me to simply walk downstairs and reveal myself. This does not make sense, and I don't understand how the school believes this is a long-term solution.
So, according to their instructions, I should work on an abandoned 2nd floor directly above the kindergarten students from 8:30 am to 4 pm, alone, while listening to the kids play and laugh directly below me downstairs, but never reveal myself to the students while they are attending school.
This seems extremely wrong, and could potentially make me look suspicious, which could lead to some legal trouble if the school decided to frame for something. It is on CCTV after all.
I will talk to the attorney tomorrow, but right now, they are not available because it is late. Until then, I would just like anyone's input on the matter.
I tried everything in my power to work things out with this school and I still have 10 months left. I can not do this for 10 more months. Originally, I was promised a release letter 2 weeks ago but my director doesn't want to give me a release letter because I contacted an attorney and it was wrong of me to tell anyone about my situation, according to her.
Also, I recorded my conversation with the director, and she lied multiple times about my contract. The audio of our conversation is very clear and easy to understand. The recording is 1 hour long and I'm not sure if this audio recording will be enough to get me out of the school.
Tomorrow is a holiday, but I don't plan to come to work anymore. I would like to know what could happen in terms of my living arrangements. I don't think they can kick me out of the apartment right away. Maybe they can.
I don't know what to do at this point. It seems like leaving the country is my only safe option.
This is my third school and I already did a visa run to even arrive at my current school, and it feels as though so much money and time was wasted to come back to Korea.
Thank you for any help.
2024.05.14 17:44 Efficient_Amoeba_359 I'm confused af
This happened a week ago? I think. This is about my online friend (M) We are friends. Platonic friends. We have VC too.
So We texted the other day, and he told me, his friend (F), who he has known for a while, stopped talking to him and unfollowed him because she got mad at him for something stupid (his words). I don't know what he did or said. He then said he doesn't really care cuz she was being annoying. I kind of comforted him and said it's okay you can find new people, to which he said "i have you still" after that he also said "you're not allowed to leave". I said I won't. I then replied to his other message and sent him some reels. He didn't reply to me at all. Like no response, even though he was online on IG..
I was kind of hurt, I don't mind being left on read but not opening my messages while being online Is just š. He then didn't texted me the whole day and the next day too. I thought maybe he ghosted me or something. Later at night, he sent me a sn*p and some reels but me being petty didn't open it(I saw them after a day or two tho).
I didn't text him that day.as I noticed I was the one mostly initiating the convo. So I just texted my other friends and studied for my exams. I was online on disc*rd mostly as all my friends are there, And he messaged me. First he said my name....then when I replied he asked how I am and all that. Then he said "who's got you on here" so I was like some people and why would I tell you. I was not being rude or anything yk just playing.... He said "I thought I was your fav" I asked him, so I can't talk to other ppl? And he said "ofc you can, silly" I told him he was being weird. And he said that's the whole point...
And now lately he's been replying to my messages very quickly. Before he would take at least 2 hrs or so. Now he'll just reply in 1 min or 10 mins. Just today I sent a sn*p of my hair with my face blurred and he complimented my hair and asked why my hair is blurred. I was like, do you wanna see my face or something he said yes and when I asked why he said "because i just do" Also we made plans that when I get free from my finals, we'll watch something together and game. And lately whenever we talk, he reminds me about our this plan.
He does talk to other girls I think so. But the problem is..... Does he like me or something? I'm confused cuz like what he if says all this to his other friends too...
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So We texted the other day, and he told me, his friend (F), who he has known for a while, stopped talking to him and unfollowed him because she got mad at him for something stupid (his words). I don't know what he did or said. He then said he doesn't really care cuz she was being annoying. I kind of comforted him and said it's okay you can find new people, to which he said "i have you still" after that he also said "you're not allowed to leave". I said I won't. I then replied to his other message and sent him some reels. He didn't reply to me at all. Like no response, even though he was online on IG..
I was kind of hurt, I don't mind being left on read but not opening my messages while being online Is just š. He then didn't texted me the whole day and the next day too. I thought maybe he ghosted me or something. Later at night, he sent me a sn*p and some reels but me being petty didn't open it(I saw them after a day or two tho).
I didn't text him that day.as I noticed I was the one mostly initiating the convo. So I just texted my other friends and studied for my exams. I was online on disc*rd mostly as all my friends are there, And he messaged me. First he said my name....then when I replied he asked how I am and all that. Then he said "who's got you on here" so I was like some people and why would I tell you. I was not being rude or anything yk just playing.... He said "I thought I was your fav" I asked him, so I can't talk to other ppl? And he said "ofc you can, silly" I told him he was being weird. And he said that's the whole point...
And now lately he's been replying to my messages very quickly. Before he would take at least 2 hrs or so. Now he'll just reply in 1 min or 10 mins. Just today I sent a sn*p of my hair with my face blurred and he complimented my hair and asked why my hair is blurred. I was like, do you wanna see my face or something he said yes and when I asked why he said "because i just do" Also we made plans that when I get free from my finals, we'll watch something together and game. And lately whenever we talk, he reminds me about our this plan.
He does talk to other girls I think so. But the problem is..... Does he like me or something? I'm confused cuz like what he if says all this to his other friends too...
2024.05.14 17:43 -jigsawyouth- [TOMT] [INTERNET POST] [MID 2010S) older reddit/4chan post where a guy wins a drug from a contest, when the drug gets there he doesn't think it's the right one so he just starts dipping his finger in and eating it, he never posted again after that. (Repost/x-post)
I hope this is allowed, the last time I posted this was around 8 months ago.
I don't know what channel I saw it on, but this was probably mid-2010s (like 2013-2018)when I heard about it, and I didn't have access to reddit or 4chan at the time. it was definitely in some YouTube video I watched, it could have been in an older nexpo or scaretheater video, or one of those early internet crime YouTubers. I watched all of scaretheater's Reddit videos and didn't see it, but I know he deleted some of his stuff so it mightve been in one of those.
I think OP might have described the powder as brown but idk. In the thread, a lot of people were telling him to stop, and that it wasn't a good idea to eat it, but he was being very dismissive about how dangerous this was.
As for the contest part, it also confuses the hell out of me. I'm almost 100% sure he received it in the mail, I think it was probably off the dark web. So the post was probably on a dark web related sub/board, but maybe a drug related one? (sorry i don't know much about drugs or 4chan lol)
On the time/date rangeāI was young when I saw it and still absolutely terrified of drugs so I know the date range of when I saw it is probably correct, but the post may have been earlier then when I saw it in a video, and the video may have been older too.
It might be fake, but I remember it freaking me the fuck out at the time lol. if anyone has a link that would be amazing!!
(ALSO it WAS NOT either of the Datura guys or spontaneousH)
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I don't know what channel I saw it on, but this was probably mid-2010s (like 2013-2018)when I heard about it, and I didn't have access to reddit or 4chan at the time. it was definitely in some YouTube video I watched, it could have been in an older nexpo or scaretheater video, or one of those early internet crime YouTubers. I watched all of scaretheater's Reddit videos and didn't see it, but I know he deleted some of his stuff so it mightve been in one of those.
I think OP might have described the powder as brown but idk. In the thread, a lot of people were telling him to stop, and that it wasn't a good idea to eat it, but he was being very dismissive about how dangerous this was.
As for the contest part, it also confuses the hell out of me. I'm almost 100% sure he received it in the mail, I think it was probably off the dark web. So the post was probably on a dark web related sub/board, but maybe a drug related one? (sorry i don't know much about drugs or 4chan lol)
On the time/date rangeāI was young when I saw it and still absolutely terrified of drugs so I know the date range of when I saw it is probably correct, but the post may have been earlier then when I saw it in a video, and the video may have been older too.
It might be fake, but I remember it freaking me the fuck out at the time lol. if anyone has a link that would be amazing!!
(ALSO it WAS NOT either of the Datura guys or spontaneousH)
2024.05.14 17:43 Beneficial_Cheek287 My gf doesn't want me to go to a concert alone. What should I do to help her feel better?
Tl:dr: My girlfriend doesnt want me to go to a concert alone for safety reasons but she doesn't want to go with me either and I have nobody else to go with. What do I do?
Hey, I need help with a little problem. Im 23F and she is 23F. We have been together for 5 years. So Melanie Martinez is having a trilogy tour. If you love & adore her like me or know about her then you know that this is the tour for an end of an era. She is plerforming her three albums. I grew up with Melanie and her music is amazing and relatable. She basically tells a story about how she evolves. Also she is know to wipe off the face of the earth for 4 years after she drops an album and goes on tour for it. Okaii so my gf doesn't like her new album that much and just doesn't want to go to her concert. So I have no choice but to go alone. I dont have any friends nor know anybody that would want to go. Its 2 and 1/2 hours away from home. I have anxiety but idc imma fight it for melanie concert. She is concerned for my safety, which I understand and im appreciative that she cares about it. She doesn't want me to go and she is trying to stop me from going. Oh sorry also little back story. Im horrible with jobs and I will quit instantly if I hate them. That being said the job I currently have I hate but melanie concert is giving me this motivation to work that I haven't had in a long time. Its just she is scared for me to go to this big ol concert 2 and 1/2 hours away alone. It feels unfair to me, because I don't have anyone to go with and she doesn't want to go with me, I have to miss out? Also another thing, I was mid about to get my ticket for the portals tour when that album had just dropped and she stopped me from going to that one because of the same issue. What can I do to help her feel better about the situation?
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Hey, I need help with a little problem. Im 23F and she is 23F. We have been together for 5 years. So Melanie Martinez is having a trilogy tour. If you love & adore her like me or know about her then you know that this is the tour for an end of an era. She is plerforming her three albums. I grew up with Melanie and her music is amazing and relatable. She basically tells a story about how she evolves. Also she is know to wipe off the face of the earth for 4 years after she drops an album and goes on tour for it. Okaii so my gf doesn't like her new album that much and just doesn't want to go to her concert. So I have no choice but to go alone. I dont have any friends nor know anybody that would want to go. Its 2 and 1/2 hours away from home. I have anxiety but idc imma fight it for melanie concert. She is concerned for my safety, which I understand and im appreciative that she cares about it. She doesn't want me to go and she is trying to stop me from going. Oh sorry also little back story. Im horrible with jobs and I will quit instantly if I hate them. That being said the job I currently have I hate but melanie concert is giving me this motivation to work that I haven't had in a long time. Its just she is scared for me to go to this big ol concert 2 and 1/2 hours away alone. It feels unfair to me, because I don't have anyone to go with and she doesn't want to go with me, I have to miss out? Also another thing, I was mid about to get my ticket for the portals tour when that album had just dropped and she stopped me from going to that one because of the same issue. What can I do to help her feel better about the situation?
2024.05.14 17:42 hemlockehoney Just argued with my bf about OnlyFans/porn. Feeling worthless
I (28f) posted yesterday about my bf (31m) following an OnlyFans girl on Instagram (but only looking, never liking or commenting). He looks at her photos a lot. She lives in his hometown and has only a very small following (think very girl-next-door, just with only pics of her ass and tits. Exactly his type. Her OF is free but apparently he has never looked at it, just her IG. No, Iām not telling you her account).
I told him today that I was upset about it. Weāve had discussions before where I said if he wanted to watch porn (your standard videos - not interactive/paid/someone youāre in contact with etc) thatās fine, but I find OF and following specific girls for sexual reasons quite personal.
He says that to him, pornhub and this girls porn on IG are the same (however he said he finds videos of random strangers āboringā so this is better) and also totally fine because itās ājust a wankā. It somehow ended up with me desperately defending my point of view that this unsurprisingly makes me feel shit about myself. He says this is normal and every guy does it - that itās not cheating and nothing like it. I know he has never cheated in person and believe he never would.
Weāve been together for three years. The whole conversation was an endless pointless back and forth where we got nowhere. I told him I feel disrespected, humiliated and not good enough. It ended up with me crying over other comments heās made (eg. telling me and his friends (in front of me) that heād ānever marry meā. He left and I assume is now typing to his friends how crazy Iām being.
I know anyone reading this will think how pathetic I am for staying. All I can say is that there are a lot of complicated reasons outside the obvious āI love himā. When my mum died, this guy was all I had, and all I have now. Heās the reason for a roof over my head and any stability in my life. Heās literally the reason I am still alive, and im so angry that this kind of shit is seen as ānormalā these days.
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I told him today that I was upset about it. Weāve had discussions before where I said if he wanted to watch porn (your standard videos - not interactive/paid/someone youāre in contact with etc) thatās fine, but I find OF and following specific girls for sexual reasons quite personal.
He says that to him, pornhub and this girls porn on IG are the same (however he said he finds videos of random strangers āboringā so this is better) and also totally fine because itās ājust a wankā. It somehow ended up with me desperately defending my point of view that this unsurprisingly makes me feel shit about myself. He says this is normal and every guy does it - that itās not cheating and nothing like it. I know he has never cheated in person and believe he never would.
Weāve been together for three years. The whole conversation was an endless pointless back and forth where we got nowhere. I told him I feel disrespected, humiliated and not good enough. It ended up with me crying over other comments heās made (eg. telling me and his friends (in front of me) that heād ānever marry meā. He left and I assume is now typing to his friends how crazy Iām being.
I know anyone reading this will think how pathetic I am for staying. All I can say is that there are a lot of complicated reasons outside the obvious āI love himā. When my mum died, this guy was all I had, and all I have now. Heās the reason for a roof over my head and any stability in my life. Heās literally the reason I am still alive, and im so angry that this kind of shit is seen as ānormalā these days.
2024.05.14 17:42 DapperMention9470 Trial of the Aeons
It was called the most important trial in all of human history.
As a descendant of Adam I felt I had been evicted from the Garden of eden unfairly. I sued God to be allowed back in.
Satan heard about my idea and he supported me on the understanding that if I won it would set a precedent for him to get back his old job. That was a major coup for my side. God has a couple of good environmental attorneys but virtually every high priced lawyer other than them were already in hell. That's how I wound up with Johnny Cohran as my attorney.
The jury was taken from purgatory on the grounds that they could be impartial. They included Socrates, Hammurabai, Confucius and some others I didn't know. I was a bit surprised to see Ghengis Khan though. How he got into purgatory is another question.
Johnny Cochran got things off to a great start when he asked Eve " So this forbidden fruit tree that you would die by eating, was it hundreds of miles away from where you were camping?"
Eve said " No it was less than a mile, I had to pass it every time I went for water."
Cochran asked " Was it called the tree of certain death or something like that so you'd know not to eat its fruit?"
She replied " No it was called the tree of knowledge"
Cochran asked " How did you know that was what it was called?"
She said "The snake told me."
Cochran paused and gave an knowing look to the jury. " Did all the animals talk to you?"
Eve said " No just the snake who lived in the tree."
" Wait , You're telling me that this deadly tree that you were forbidden from eating from on pain of death, called the tree of knowledge, was less than a mile from your camp and had a talking snake it?"
"That's right"
" And what did this snake tell you would happen if you ate from it"
Eve answered " He said that we would be like Gods if we ate it."
"And you believed it?"
"Yes" she said.
"How old were you at the time?" He asked
She answered " I don't know exactly, a couple of weeks maybe."
When he got to the part where God evicted her while she was pregnant with nothing but a couple of fig leaves to wear for eating an apple, I snuck a quick peek at the jury. Even Ghengis Khan was shaking his head.
Unless you live under a rock you know that I won 10 months ago and was admitted back into the Garden. To be honest I'm bored as Hell. There's no internet, not a club in sight and no booze to drink if there were. I would be a lot more depressed if it weren't for my girlfriend. She was talking to a frog the other day and he says he may know a way out.
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As a descendant of Adam I felt I had been evicted from the Garden of eden unfairly. I sued God to be allowed back in.
Satan heard about my idea and he supported me on the understanding that if I won it would set a precedent for him to get back his old job. That was a major coup for my side. God has a couple of good environmental attorneys but virtually every high priced lawyer other than them were already in hell. That's how I wound up with Johnny Cohran as my attorney.
The jury was taken from purgatory on the grounds that they could be impartial. They included Socrates, Hammurabai, Confucius and some others I didn't know. I was a bit surprised to see Ghengis Khan though. How he got into purgatory is another question.
Johnny Cochran got things off to a great start when he asked Eve " So this forbidden fruit tree that you would die by eating, was it hundreds of miles away from where you were camping?"
Eve said " No it was less than a mile, I had to pass it every time I went for water."
Cochran asked " Was it called the tree of certain death or something like that so you'd know not to eat its fruit?"
She replied " No it was called the tree of knowledge"
Cochran asked " How did you know that was what it was called?"
She said "The snake told me."
Cochran paused and gave an knowing look to the jury. " Did all the animals talk to you?"
Eve said " No just the snake who lived in the tree."
" Wait , You're telling me that this deadly tree that you were forbidden from eating from on pain of death, called the tree of knowledge, was less than a mile from your camp and had a talking snake it?"
"That's right"
" And what did this snake tell you would happen if you ate from it"
Eve answered " He said that we would be like Gods if we ate it."
"And you believed it?"
"Yes" she said.
"How old were you at the time?" He asked
She answered " I don't know exactly, a couple of weeks maybe."
When he got to the part where God evicted her while she was pregnant with nothing but a couple of fig leaves to wear for eating an apple, I snuck a quick peek at the jury. Even Ghengis Khan was shaking his head.
Unless you live under a rock you know that I won 10 months ago and was admitted back into the Garden. To be honest I'm bored as Hell. There's no internet, not a club in sight and no booze to drink if there were. I would be a lot more depressed if it weren't for my girlfriend. She was talking to a frog the other day and he says he may know a way out.
2024.05.14 17:42 Roxwords How does a country change its currency?
Good morning and thanks in advance for your time and energy.
I'm gathering material for a book I've been planning to write and I need to understand what are the steps required for a country to change its currency, like it happened in Europe with the introduction of the euro for example.
How does something like this happen? What is the process like? More than the theory I need a "step by step sequence of actions taken by the powers that be" I would say and maybe a similar explanation of the positive and negative consequences.
The more you tell me the better it will be. I want to know a lot about this and if you can link me to online sources I will be thankful.
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I'm gathering material for a book I've been planning to write and I need to understand what are the steps required for a country to change its currency, like it happened in Europe with the introduction of the euro for example.
How does something like this happen? What is the process like? More than the theory I need a "step by step sequence of actions taken by the powers that be" I would say and maybe a similar explanation of the positive and negative consequences.
The more you tell me the better it will be. I want to know a lot about this and if you can link me to online sources I will be thankful.