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2024.05.14 06:05 SomethingNursey RWC Caltrain Station Safety
I work in healthcare and will be moving out to the Bay Area for a job at Stanford. I like the idea of being able to commute in on Caltrain when possible and avoid the traffic, and I've been especially interested in Redwood City and Mountain View since all of the trains (including the baby bullet) stop at each of those stations.
Many of my shifts start at 6:30am, which means catching a 5:45 or 6:00am train. Can anyone speak to the safety of the train stations/platforms during off-peak hours, especially Redwood City? I've read that RWC has some dicey areas, and it looks like heaviest crime areas on the crime maps I've seen align exactly with El Camino and the train station.
For reference, I'm a woman in my mid-30s, which obviously doesn't help. Just trying to figure out if it will be safer for me to drive in on those days...
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Many of my shifts start at 6:30am, which means catching a 5:45 or 6:00am train. Can anyone speak to the safety of the train stations/platforms during off-peak hours, especially Redwood City? I've read that RWC has some dicey areas, and it looks like heaviest crime areas on the crime maps I've seen align exactly with El Camino and the train station.
For reference, I'm a woman in my mid-30s, which obviously doesn't help. Just trying to figure out if it will be safer for me to drive in on those days...
2024.05.14 06:02 Choice_Evidence1983 I found my sister who disappeared from everyone more than 15 years ago after she ran away from home
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/MediumGrouchy5547
Originally posted to TrueOffMyChest
I found my sister who disappeared from everyone more than 15 years ago after she ran away from home
Trigger Warnings: abandonment, depression, self-harm, eating disorder, possible mental health issues
Editor’s Note: TCA stands for trastornos de la conducta alimentaria which translates into “eating disorder”
Rastafarian: a religious movement
Original Post: April 26, 2024
I'm really happy and confused and I really don't know if I can talk about this with friends and family but I need to share my experience with someone because I missed my sister. I don't need or want any advice since no one really knows the situation to be able to give a good advice without assuming things they don't know and it's weird to read people talking about my sister like if they know what she lived, I just want to share this and I know a lot of people have had experiences like this too so maybe someone can relate.
When I was 10 years old my older sister who was 22 at that time disappeared after leaving a note to our parents saying that she's okay and just wants to start over her life.
My sister was always a lonely but outgoing person, she always told me that she enjoyed solitude from time to time and noisy things took away from her quality of life because tbh it was loud LOUD where we lived and it was annoying even for me (we lived in a dangerous neighborhood so it wasn't too safe and she hated not being able to go for a walk at night or do things at night alone), she was depressed and I remember seeing her suffering from severe anxiety attacks, she used to hit herself to stop them and she had a strong TCA that triggered those things. She suffered from other mental issues as well and talked freely about that, she talked about those things in front of me and these are things that leave a mark on you.
She was the favorite of the whole family although mi parents never out pressure on her, they always let us do our life (my brother who was 19 at that time knows that, my sister was the golden child), my grandfather always made it clear that she is his favorite granddaughter, even now. She was the calm but funny kind of person, she was the closest to my parents and uncles so when she disappeared from one day to the next no one understood what was going on.
Even my sister had never traveled alone except to go to work and she always notified my mother that she was okay for safety reasons. She left a long note clarifying that she doesn't want to be searched but she loves us. It was a big blow for the family, I remember my mother wanting to report to the police but they said that my sister was not a minor and the note said that she left by her own so they can't do anything.
In a way, my other brother knew that this would happen at some point, since our sister mentioned a lot that she wanted to leave everything and go live in the countryside or become a nun and live in a calm place without any worries but nobody took her seriously about that. She was always the kind of person who did things without telling anyone, she liked her solitude sometimes even if she was always friendly.
The first months and weeks were strange, it wasn't that she had passed away but that she disappeared because she wanted to, I remember my mother missing her because they always shared the afternoons together.
I also missed her a lot, Even years later my family missed her and at Christmas or her birthday someone would always say "maybe she'll show up now" or we would wonder how she's doing or if she was alive.
Back to the present. I'm on vacation in the south of my country (This part of my country is very expensive for a tourist and I am the only one in my family who was able to come now that I am an adult), it's a place full of villages and while I was exploring I came to a place where they sold typical handicrafts of the place.
While shopping I can swear that the first thing I saw was my sister looking at some crafts on a shelf, she looked more adult but obviously I recognized her instantly, we are really similar after all.
I didn't really knew how to react after so many years and I didn't know how she would react, but I went over and said her name. What I didn't expected was that she would smile instantly when she saw me and called me by my nickname. I thought she had escaped because she didn't wanted anything to do with the family even if in the note she said she loves us, but she was greeting me as if nothing had happened.
She told me that she didn't expected to see me there and asked me if I was on vacation, she said that the village used to be not so touristy but now more people started to go and many villagers opened stores for the tourists. I was upset, I was angry with her for leaving us and pretending that nothing happened but I couldn't react so I just asked her if she lives in that town and she said yes, It's a place filled with old people.
We talked for a few seconds, she asked me what I'm studying and if everyone at home is okay, she told me I'm taller and thinner. Then she gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me that if I have a few days off I can go visit her but she doesn't have a cell phone so she told me that she's almost everyday there. My sister also told me to send hugs to our parents.
I'm confused and full of questions about her, she doesn't even wants to hide, she didn't looked or talked to me like someone who wanted to run away from something and hide. She was just happy to see me and happy to know that we were all good.
But I also feel resentment for her when I think about all that our parents and grandparents suffered when she disappeared, making my mother feel that she was a bad mother because she couldn't protect her.
But I'm ambivalent as I'm also happy to know that she's okay and that she doesn't hate me or the family but I'm also confused, Her behavior wasn't that of someone who is hiding or who doesn't want to know anything about her past, she was just happy to hear about us.
Edit: I'm sorry but there are people who clearly don't read the post, there are literally people saying that I didn't even knew my sister and commenting as if they knew her and taking things for granted about her life, there are even people saying that they don't understand why I'm 'angry' (it's just a feeling, a normal feeling, it's not that I hate her and I will treat her badly, god. Nor will I talk to my family without talking to her first, at what point in the post did I say that I'm going to expose her? I'm never going to treat her badly either because I have no reason to do so, It's crazy how half the comments draw silly conclusions) with my sister when i literally say it up there, even if my English is bad because it's not my first language, just read the post before you want to get a few likes for some unnecessary advice.
Additional Information from OOP on his sister’s note
Mil1512: Is your sister neurodivergent?
With the hitting herself when struggling with anxiety and enjoying solitude.
I'm neurodivergent and my family live in another country. I honestly forget to talk to them most of the time and only really do because my mum messages me first. If she didn't we just wouldn't talk. Not due to any hate or anything, I'm just happy doing my own thing.
Can people just stop with the aggressive messages? Weirdos: May 1, 2024
I understand that many reflect their personal traumas in this site, but I literally received passive-aggressive messages calling me idiot or even telling me that I would hate my sister if she were neurodivergent or claiming that my parents abused her.
What's wrong with y'all? Go to a psychologist and stop reflecting your unresolved traumas in the story of a person you don't even know. Go out and touch grass and talk to a real person instead of literally sending private messages like that.
I didn't asked for any advice and just wanted to share my story because that's the point of that subreddit, but many took it the wrong way and decided to turn something positive into a way to fight.
I don't even understand why out of nowhere I started getting those kinds of messages or if someone share that post on a weird place.
Editor’s Note: TLP is trastorno límite de la personalidad which translates into Borderline Personality Disorder
Update: May 7, 2024
On sunday I finally found my sister again, she was selling things in the park with other stands, all of them are rastafari, not hippies or a sect. I walked over and she greeted me just as happily, we talked a couple of things and my sister told me that she doesn't have a cell phone so it was impossible for her to tell me that she wouldn't be there on Saturday.
I spent the afternoon with her at her stand and after that we went to her house, she lives alone (and sometimes with her friends). We talked for a while and at one point she broke down and hugged me, saying she was trying to stay calm all this time and didn't knew how to react because she didn't wanted to make me cry too bc she remembered that I was really sensitive but she couldn't hold it anymore. We cried and talked a lot.
My sister was tired of people, she said that our house was her safe place but hated the idea of having to work everyday and I didn't wanted to study anything, she was our parents' golden child, so they let her do whatever she wanted, but she knew that at some point she had to make something of her life. She was tired of how stupid and empty everyone was, of the politicians, of the TV showing empty things, of the noise everywhere outside when she wanted peace, even sleeping in our home was stressful for everyone because of the noises outside during the weekends when she wanted to be alone to smoke and listen music (tbh, In my memories as a child I didn't remember the obvious smell of joints that my sister had all the time)
That added to the pressure that society put on her to be physically perfect make her want to leave everything behind.
She didn't wanted to die but realized that my parents were miserable when they saw her being miserable, this is something I didn't know, but my sister said that our father had two jobs to be able to pay for her psychologist and medication, also my father used to spoil her a lot with the only food she eat without guilty. Running away was like dying symbolically.
My sister says that although our parents always supported her, she felt like a failture for not being able to improve and always relapsing, she felt bad to see our father working so hard and also wanted to live according to her spiritual mentality, free from all that is toxic in society.
All of those things make her ran away from everything, she felt like a burden and also didn't wanted to live a life working and miserable like everyone.
Sis told me that she never contacted us because she doesn't wants to have a cell phone and a trip to our province is too expensive to her because it's basically going from one end of the country to the other.
She hates capitalist society with all her soul and doesn't even have a TV. My sister said that she is much better now away from the city. My sister told me that she wants to talk to our parents but doesn't knows what to say and we don't want to give them parents a shock since our dad was sick a few days ago and is recovering from dengue.
I'm writing this with her beside me and doesn't understand what's the point of this site (The last social network she used was fotolog in 2007) but said that she doesn't mind if I post this. She wanted to write something but said she doesn't like writing in English haha
My sister was reading the comments and wants me to clarify that she never suffered any kind of a abuse, she has a lot of friends and never had any problem with anyone but likes to be alone from time to time to meditate.
And she's not neurodivergent (She said her behavior was normal because of her TLP), suffers from ED, borderline personality disorder and see a psychologist twice a month.
During her adolescence, the blogs Ana and mia were trendy, her friends had that 'aesthetic' and she was popular in fotolog (according to my sister, at that time it was taken as an aesthetic and even a book about that was really popular between teens, maybe someone from my country knows Abzurdah?). She hated going out when she felt fat, she couldn't have imperfections like cuts on her arms so she hurt herself with a rubber band when she overate, something she read in those blogs. Now she's in a good weight but it took her really long to not relapse again. It's been a long recovery for her and once you're anorexic you never stop being anorexic, she's always afraid of relapsing.
So that's it for now, we don't know how we're going to talk with our parents without making them freak out. And also my sister after seeing the comments on the post saw other reddit posts and said that her life is definitely better without a cell phone, she says that things like fotolog was the beginning of all evil haha
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OOP on his sister being involved with Rastafari
submitted by Choice_Evidence1983 to BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
Originally posted to TrueOffMyChest
I found my sister who disappeared from everyone more than 15 years ago after she ran away from home
Trigger Warnings: abandonment, depression, self-harm, eating disorder, possible mental health issues
Rastafarian: a religious movement
Original Post: April 26, 2024
I'm really happy and confused and I really don't know if I can talk about this with friends and family but I need to share my experience with someone because I missed my sister. I don't need or want any advice since no one really knows the situation to be able to give a good advice without assuming things they don't know and it's weird to read people talking about my sister like if they know what she lived, I just want to share this and I know a lot of people have had experiences like this too so maybe someone can relate.
When I was 10 years old my older sister who was 22 at that time disappeared after leaving a note to our parents saying that she's okay and just wants to start over her life.
My sister was always a lonely but outgoing person, she always told me that she enjoyed solitude from time to time and noisy things took away from her quality of life because tbh it was loud LOUD where we lived and it was annoying even for me (we lived in a dangerous neighborhood so it wasn't too safe and she hated not being able to go for a walk at night or do things at night alone), she was depressed and I remember seeing her suffering from severe anxiety attacks, she used to hit herself to stop them and she had a strong TCA that triggered those things. She suffered from other mental issues as well and talked freely about that, she talked about those things in front of me and these are things that leave a mark on you.
She was the favorite of the whole family although mi parents never out pressure on her, they always let us do our life (my brother who was 19 at that time knows that, my sister was the golden child), my grandfather always made it clear that she is his favorite granddaughter, even now. She was the calm but funny kind of person, she was the closest to my parents and uncles so when she disappeared from one day to the next no one understood what was going on.
Even my sister had never traveled alone except to go to work and she always notified my mother that she was okay for safety reasons. She left a long note clarifying that she doesn't want to be searched but she loves us. It was a big blow for the family, I remember my mother wanting to report to the police but they said that my sister was not a minor and the note said that she left by her own so they can't do anything.
In a way, my other brother knew that this would happen at some point, since our sister mentioned a lot that she wanted to leave everything and go live in the countryside or become a nun and live in a calm place without any worries but nobody took her seriously about that. She was always the kind of person who did things without telling anyone, she liked her solitude sometimes even if she was always friendly.
The first months and weeks were strange, it wasn't that she had passed away but that she disappeared because she wanted to, I remember my mother missing her because they always shared the afternoons together.
I also missed her a lot, Even years later my family missed her and at Christmas or her birthday someone would always say "maybe she'll show up now" or we would wonder how she's doing or if she was alive.
Back to the present. I'm on vacation in the south of my country (This part of my country is very expensive for a tourist and I am the only one in my family who was able to come now that I am an adult), it's a place full of villages and while I was exploring I came to a place where they sold typical handicrafts of the place.
While shopping I can swear that the first thing I saw was my sister looking at some crafts on a shelf, she looked more adult but obviously I recognized her instantly, we are really similar after all.
I didn't really knew how to react after so many years and I didn't know how she would react, but I went over and said her name. What I didn't expected was that she would smile instantly when she saw me and called me by my nickname. I thought she had escaped because she didn't wanted anything to do with the family even if in the note she said she loves us, but she was greeting me as if nothing had happened.
She told me that she didn't expected to see me there and asked me if I was on vacation, she said that the village used to be not so touristy but now more people started to go and many villagers opened stores for the tourists. I was upset, I was angry with her for leaving us and pretending that nothing happened but I couldn't react so I just asked her if she lives in that town and she said yes, It's a place filled with old people.
We talked for a few seconds, she asked me what I'm studying and if everyone at home is okay, she told me I'm taller and thinner. Then she gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me that if I have a few days off I can go visit her but she doesn't have a cell phone so she told me that she's almost everyday there. My sister also told me to send hugs to our parents.
I'm confused and full of questions about her, she doesn't even wants to hide, she didn't looked or talked to me like someone who wanted to run away from something and hide. She was just happy to see me and happy to know that we were all good.
But I also feel resentment for her when I think about all that our parents and grandparents suffered when she disappeared, making my mother feel that she was a bad mother because she couldn't protect her.
But I'm ambivalent as I'm also happy to know that she's okay and that she doesn't hate me or the family but I'm also confused, Her behavior wasn't that of someone who is hiding or who doesn't want to know anything about her past, she was just happy to hear about us.
Edit: I'm sorry but there are people who clearly don't read the post, there are literally people saying that I didn't even knew my sister and commenting as if they knew her and taking things for granted about her life, there are even people saying that they don't understand why I'm 'angry' (it's just a feeling, a normal feeling, it's not that I hate her and I will treat her badly, god. Nor will I talk to my family without talking to her first, at what point in the post did I say that I'm going to expose her? I'm never going to treat her badly either because I have no reason to do so, It's crazy how half the comments draw silly conclusions) with my sister when i literally say it up there, even if my English is bad because it's not my first language, just read the post before you want to get a few likes for some unnecessary advice.
Additional Information from OOP on his sister’s note
OOP: My sister in the note said that she loves our parents, my brother was 19 when our sister left and he himself knows how much our parents loved and supported her when she was having a hard time with herself but the outside always affected her badly.Relevant Comments
I was ten years old but I wasn't a baby and I remember what the family dynamic was like, I remember the feeling of my family, my parents are not narcissists and my sister loved them and they love who's my sister, she just had her own problems.
How could a parent miss the idea of their children? There's not a day when my parents don't miss everything about my sister, they miss sharing the day with her, my father even missed when she was cranky. My parents always let us go our own way and I can assure you that they never pressured us to be what they wanted us to be, I don't even know what they want us to be.
Mil1512: Is your sister neurodivergent?
With the hitting herself when struggling with anxiety and enjoying solitude.
I'm neurodivergent and my family live in another country. I honestly forget to talk to them most of the time and only really do because my mum messages me first. If she didn't we just wouldn't talk. Not due to any hate or anything, I'm just happy doing my own thing.
OOP: She's not. My sister had a lot of self-destructive behaviors and hurting herself was one of them when she felt 'fat', she also had eating disorders and panic attacks because of that. I don't remember too much but she did other things to not eat besides hitting herself, she was very open about her TCA and yes, she has a diagnosis from a professional.mikuzgrl: It almost seems like the sister has been in contact with someone for a while and thinks news is being passed back and forth.
My sister was always in touch with my mother and everyone in text, she always used to keep in touch when she was going out until the day she left, now she doesn't even have a phone. In her note she just said that she wanted to leave everything
OOP: I never thought about that but I don't think so, seeing how my parents miss her I think the first thing the family would do would be to at least tell my father that she is okay :/
Can people just stop with the aggressive messages? Weirdos: May 1, 2024
I understand that many reflect their personal traumas in this site, but I literally received passive-aggressive messages calling me idiot or even telling me that I would hate my sister if she were neurodivergent or claiming that my parents abused her.
What's wrong with y'all? Go to a psychologist and stop reflecting your unresolved traumas in the story of a person you don't even know. Go out and touch grass and talk to a real person instead of literally sending private messages like that.
I didn't asked for any advice and just wanted to share my story because that's the point of that subreddit, but many took it the wrong way and decided to turn something positive into a way to fight.
I don't even understand why out of nowhere I started getting those kinds of messages or if someone share that post on a weird place.
Editor’s Note: TLP is trastorno límite de la personalidad which translates into Borderline Personality Disorder
Update: May 7, 2024
On sunday I finally found my sister again, she was selling things in the park with other stands, all of them are rastafari, not hippies or a sect. I walked over and she greeted me just as happily, we talked a couple of things and my sister told me that she doesn't have a cell phone so it was impossible for her to tell me that she wouldn't be there on Saturday.
I spent the afternoon with her at her stand and after that we went to her house, she lives alone (and sometimes with her friends). We talked for a while and at one point she broke down and hugged me, saying she was trying to stay calm all this time and didn't knew how to react because she didn't wanted to make me cry too bc she remembered that I was really sensitive but she couldn't hold it anymore. We cried and talked a lot.
My sister was tired of people, she said that our house was her safe place but hated the idea of having to work everyday and I didn't wanted to study anything, she was our parents' golden child, so they let her do whatever she wanted, but she knew that at some point she had to make something of her life. She was tired of how stupid and empty everyone was, of the politicians, of the TV showing empty things, of the noise everywhere outside when she wanted peace, even sleeping in our home was stressful for everyone because of the noises outside during the weekends when she wanted to be alone to smoke and listen music (tbh, In my memories as a child I didn't remember the obvious smell of joints that my sister had all the time)
That added to the pressure that society put on her to be physically perfect make her want to leave everything behind.
She didn't wanted to die but realized that my parents were miserable when they saw her being miserable, this is something I didn't know, but my sister said that our father had two jobs to be able to pay for her psychologist and medication, also my father used to spoil her a lot with the only food she eat without guilty. Running away was like dying symbolically.
My sister says that although our parents always supported her, she felt like a failture for not being able to improve and always relapsing, she felt bad to see our father working so hard and also wanted to live according to her spiritual mentality, free from all that is toxic in society.
All of those things make her ran away from everything, she felt like a burden and also didn't wanted to live a life working and miserable like everyone.
Sis told me that she never contacted us because she doesn't wants to have a cell phone and a trip to our province is too expensive to her because it's basically going from one end of the country to the other.
She hates capitalist society with all her soul and doesn't even have a TV. My sister said that she is much better now away from the city. My sister told me that she wants to talk to our parents but doesn't knows what to say and we don't want to give them parents a shock since our dad was sick a few days ago and is recovering from dengue.
I'm writing this with her beside me and doesn't understand what's the point of this site (The last social network she used was fotolog in 2007) but said that she doesn't mind if I post this. She wanted to write something but said she doesn't like writing in English haha
My sister was reading the comments and wants me to clarify that she never suffered any kind of a abuse, she has a lot of friends and never had any problem with anyone but likes to be alone from time to time to meditate.
And she's not neurodivergent (She said her behavior was normal because of her TLP), suffers from ED, borderline personality disorder and see a psychologist twice a month.
During her adolescence, the blogs Ana and mia were trendy, her friends had that 'aesthetic' and she was popular in fotolog (according to my sister, at that time it was taken as an aesthetic and even a book about that was really popular between teens, maybe someone from my country knows Abzurdah?). She hated going out when she felt fat, she couldn't have imperfections like cuts on her arms so she hurt herself with a rubber band when she overate, something she read in those blogs. Now she's in a good weight but it took her really long to not relapse again. It's been a long recovery for her and once you're anorexic you never stop being anorexic, she's always afraid of relapsing.
So that's it for now, we don't know how we're going to talk with our parents without making them freak out. And also my sister after seeing the comments on the post saw other reddit posts and said that her life is definitely better without a cell phone, she says that things like fotolog was the beginning of all evil haha
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OOP on his sister being involved with Rastafari
OOP: Idk how it is in other countries to be honest, my sister doesn't live in community and there are no camps, she's one of the few who has a house because most of them prefer to travel around the country.
I really think it's impossible for them to be 100% Rastafarian here tbh because we are from South America and the Rastafarian community here is obviously totally different from the REAL Rastafarians, they just follow most of the philosophy
Edit: for example, my sister doesn't consider herself Rastafarian but she share some points of the philosophy they have, I don't know how the rest of them thinks
DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7
THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP
2024.05.14 06:01 Choice_Evidence1983 AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/AdhesivenessMurky204
Originally posted to AITAH
AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Editor’s Note: added paragraph breaks for readability
Trigger Warnings: PTSD, mentions of abortion, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, sexual assault, rape
Original Post: April 28, 2024
My husband (28M, who I will call Jack) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years, we have 2 young children and I am pregnant again. I have been pregnant for what feels like most of our relationship. I got pregnant 4 months into our relationship. We got married a month before our daughter’s 1st birthday and ended up with a honeymoon baby. After our son was born, I talked to my OB and she put me on birth control and I have been taking it militantly.
My daughter is now 3 and my son is 2. A little over a month ago I discovered I am pregnant again, despite taking my birth control religiously. Abortion is banned in my state, and the pregnancy was discovered too far along to attempt to obtain one out of state. While Jack and I were nervous, we also love being parents and decided that 3 young kids would be a challenge, but 3 was a good number for us. Then we went in for the first ultrasound and got some unexpected news - it’s twins.
Things have been tough financially, and while we were stressed but excited for a third child, we were not expecting a third and fourth child. Beyond the finances, I am the primary caretaker and I know that twins is going to be a lot, three children under 5 is already a lot, but 4 children under 5 is going to be really really difficult for me. Physically, I am tired of being pregnant. I’ve been pregnant or breastfeeding the majority of our relationship. It’s exhausting, it feels awful, and I don’t recognize my body anymore.
Four children is enough. I don’t want more. I told Jack that I was done with pregnancy, I’ve been pregnant enough, I’ve been experimenting with different types of birth control for over a decade and I still can’t stop getting pregnant, abortion isn’t a valid option where we live, we need something more permanent. He agreed, and suggested an IUD, I told him no - if it did fail then it could cause an ectopic pregnancy which could kill me, especially where we live. I’ve had both control fail me multiple times already and I’m not taking the chance, so I suggested a vasectomy. He was not open to the idea, and was even upset that I suggested it and told me I should get my tubes tied. I told him a tubal ligation is a much bigger surgery and I could be recovering for weeks during which time I wouldn’t be able to work or take care of our 4 young children, but he could ice his balls for a day or two and be done with it. He told me that not getting pregnant was ultimately my responsibility, and topped it off by saying “that’s what your body your choice means, YOUR body, so YOU choose.” That’s when it went from a discussion to a full blown fight.
See, when I was 19 I had another birth control failure with my boyfriend at the time (who I will call Tom). I wanted an abortion, Tom did not because he was opposed. I told him I was getting the abortion since it was my body and my choice, and Tom said some horrible things to me, including threatening me. I broke up with him and got the abortion. In response, Tom ended up following me one night and attacking me. I don’t want to go into detail but it was horrible, and he ended up going to prison for a number of charges related to the attack. Not only do I have a number of scars and some long lasting physical effects, but I have PTSD as well.
Jack knows about my history and diagnosis, and has known from the beginning. I have a pretty prominent facial scar so I was upfront about it early on in our dating. Jack always presented himself as very pro-choice, so I was shocked that he would say that. I got really emotional and started crying and shouting, and it turned into a full-blown fight.
Eventually I said that birth control is a two-way street and so far I’ve been the only one managing it and he said “and now we have 2 kids and 2 more coming, great job.” I told him he sounded like Tom and he got super pissed, basically said how dare you compare me to him, and maybe he might want kids one day with someone who doesn’t compare him to her felon ex-boyfriend. I was stunned and horrified. I said “well then let’s not waste any fucking time,”then packed up myself and the kids and drove to my parents place.
It’s been about a week since the fight. I’ve spoken with Jack a few times and he has since apologized and said he was out of line and was speaking from a place of anxiety after finding out about the twins, but also that I said things that were out of line and it was wrong of me to insist he undergo a medical procedure. He said that can move on from the things I said and that he wants to see his children and be a family again. I told him no, that I didn’t want to “move on” from the things he said to me. I can’t just get over that and I think we need space apart. Jack was upset by this and while we talked I brought up getting a separation agreement to manage custody and finances while we figure things out. He did not like this suggestion, said we didn’t need to pull the courts into this.
I haven’t told a lot of people about what’s happening but my family and a couple close friends. My sister and best friend both think I should throw the whole man away, but my brother (who is the only other one married with kids) thinks that I’m being extreme for what sums up to a fight between two scared people who both said nasty things. My mom is trying to be supportive but is occasionally reminding me that I “don’t want to be a single mother of 4” and telling me not to let my PTSD drive my decisions, while my dad is being completely unhelpful (he thinks jokes are helpful - like calling me Doorknob because I “can’t stop getting knocked up”, telling me to let the oven cool down, real knee-slappers). I don’t know what to do. My kids are happy to be at grandma and grandpas house but they miss their daddy, I’m 4 months pregnant and already uncomfortable as hell, I wish I could go back to being a happy little family but I’m so hung up on the things he said in that fight. Am I destroying my family over one bad night? Am I being unreasonable for asking my husband to get a vasectomy?
Edit: I've noticed a lot of people recommending condoms. I have gotten pregnant with condoms twice. Our second child and my first pregnancy were both conceived using condoms properly (correct fit, put on correctly, single use, not expired, no breaks, etc). I do not trust condoms enough to not fail a third time. I know the failure rate is supposedly small, but it's not personally small enough for me. Edit to the edit: I'm sorry, I didn't expect so many comments so fast and I can't keep up with them. By the first pregnancy I mean the pregnancy with Tom. With Jack I was on the patch when I got pregnant with our daughter, condoms with our son, and the pill with the twins. So far I haven't ever suspected that Jack has tampered with our birth control and always presumed that I'm a fertile Myrtle.
I recognize the comments and just want people to know I'm seeing the suggestion. I'm not dismissing it, but the thought of it is deeply upsetting and has provoked a lot of anxiety. I just wanted to make it clear that if the suggestion is only based on the condoms, that the condom pregnancies were with two different partners. While I know I always used condoms properly with Tom, I do believe that Tom could have been fully capable of sabotaging the condoms.
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deepsleepsheepmeep: NTA. Your husband is though. Your body has already been through A LOT. A tubal ligation is a serious surgery and you are right about being out of commission for a while when recovering. If he is more concerned with an imaginary future wife than he is for you, I don’t think there is much hope for this marriage.
We have 4 close friends who all got vasectomies. None of them bitched about it like your wimp of a husband. We actually had fun vasectomy themed parties for them.
On the off chance he does end up getting a vasectomy, make sure to do the follow up appointments. One of the vasectomy fab 4 did not follow through and ended up with a post-vasectomy baby.
Update: AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?: May 3, 2024
I didn’t expect so many comments and literally couldn’t go through them all. It seemed like the majority of people said I was NTA but I did get a lot of YTAs telling me I was trying to force him to get a medical procedure and telling me to get one instead. Besides already addressing my reasonings why I made my request in the original post (which I want you to read with real "per my last email" energy), I in no way am *forcing* him to have a medical procedure, but I am saying that I do not want to be with a partner who is not willing to be snipped. This is an issue of compatibility. The number of children you want, the methods of birth control you’re willing to use, those are issues of compatibility and a reason relationships end all the time. If he doesn’t want to be sterilized that’s fine, but then that means that we’re not compatible anymore, since it means he wants more children and I don’t. Beyond that there were some YTA comments and some DMs that were just nasty, calling me a murderer and saying my body is a cemetery. Sadly enough, I expected those types of comments, because I know there are a lot of Toms out in the world.
First I wanted to address a couple things that kept coming up, because last post turned into thousands of comments that all said about 5 different things, so to avoid my inbox becoming another echo chamber:
I also am not going to mince words: tubal ligations are *less* effective than vasectomies with a *much higher* likelihood of an ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy can *kill me*. In fact I got a PM from a woman who is a fellow fertile Myrtle who had an ectopic after a tubal. I am rejecting birth control options that, if they fail, would lead to my likely death. I don’t want to be pregnant again but I also don’t want to die and leave my children motherless, and in no way should anyone assume that traveling to another state to obtain an emergency abortion will continue to be an option in the future - we live in scary times, and Gilead is a real possibility. The comments seemed to have the vibe that people think that ligations are magically more effective than vasectomies and vasectomies are more of a whisper of sterility than an actual sterilization method so for those in the back VASECTOMIES ARE MORE EFFECTIVE THAN TUBAL LIGATIONS, FULL STOP. So I really need y’all to shut up about it.
So to get down to the nitty gritty of the real update: since the last time I posted, Jack and I have sat down together and had a real come to Jesus talk. I’m not going to go through the whole breakdown, but it basically boiled down to this: it’s the vasectomy, but it’s more than the vasectomy. It was wrong of me to compare him to Tom but it was wronger of him to weaponize my trauma against me in a very malicious way. The way he intentionally used the same language my abuser used in an effort to hurt me was not acceptable and damaged the trust between us. He agreed it was not acceptable and said that in the aftermath he was horrified and ashamed his own words, and that he (as an explanation and not an excuse) kind of snapped under the stress. Oh and what he said about his “next wife” was not an indication of him not being committed to me but was because he felt hurt and wanted to hurt me back. He has apologized numerous times and seems to feel genuinely bad about it.
As for the separation, I am still going forward with it. I need space and time and I need to take that before the babies come. I am still staying with my parents who, for the record, are not sick of me or the kids. We’re a tight knit family, I only moved out when I moved in with Jack, and my sister moved out about a year ago so they have been empty nesting, and my mom doesn’t like that we live “too far” (an hour) away. What I have realized with space and time is how deeply triggering it was, in a way that I cannot explain to those without PTSD from DV, those who know will know. It’s deeply unsettled me and I’m having a hard time “getting over it” so to speak. There is now a lot of fear of my husband that was never there before and it’s going to take a lot to repair that trust and sense of safety. I cannot make a decision while I’m in this space, and I am addressing this with my personal therapist. Overall, I told him that if he wanted to stay married to me I needed two things from him: marriage counseling and a vasectomy, and even then I still cannot guarantee him anything. He understands, but I do not know what will happen with the vasectomy right now, we focused more on talking about the fight, but he is very aware that it's now a dealbreaker. And we have a marriage counseling appointment set up for next week. I'm hoping that counseling will bring some clarity to the situation, and in the mean time for the next couple months I'm focusing on giving my kids lots of cuddles and preparing myself for two new babies to come into my world, with or without Jack.
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AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?
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Trigger Warnings: PTSD, mentions of abortion, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, sexual assault, rape
My husband (28M, who I will call Jack) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years, we have 2 young children and I am pregnant again. I have been pregnant for what feels like most of our relationship. I got pregnant 4 months into our relationship. We got married a month before our daughter’s 1st birthday and ended up with a honeymoon baby. After our son was born, I talked to my OB and she put me on birth control and I have been taking it militantly.
My daughter is now 3 and my son is 2. A little over a month ago I discovered I am pregnant again, despite taking my birth control religiously. Abortion is banned in my state, and the pregnancy was discovered too far along to attempt to obtain one out of state. While Jack and I were nervous, we also love being parents and decided that 3 young kids would be a challenge, but 3 was a good number for us. Then we went in for the first ultrasound and got some unexpected news - it’s twins.
Things have been tough financially, and while we were stressed but excited for a third child, we were not expecting a third and fourth child. Beyond the finances, I am the primary caretaker and I know that twins is going to be a lot, three children under 5 is already a lot, but 4 children under 5 is going to be really really difficult for me. Physically, I am tired of being pregnant. I’ve been pregnant or breastfeeding the majority of our relationship. It’s exhausting, it feels awful, and I don’t recognize my body anymore.
Four children is enough. I don’t want more. I told Jack that I was done with pregnancy, I’ve been pregnant enough, I’ve been experimenting with different types of birth control for over a decade and I still can’t stop getting pregnant, abortion isn’t a valid option where we live, we need something more permanent. He agreed, and suggested an IUD, I told him no - if it did fail then it could cause an ectopic pregnancy which could kill me, especially where we live. I’ve had both control fail me multiple times already and I’m not taking the chance, so I suggested a vasectomy. He was not open to the idea, and was even upset that I suggested it and told me I should get my tubes tied. I told him a tubal ligation is a much bigger surgery and I could be recovering for weeks during which time I wouldn’t be able to work or take care of our 4 young children, but he could ice his balls for a day or two and be done with it. He told me that not getting pregnant was ultimately my responsibility, and topped it off by saying “that’s what your body your choice means, YOUR body, so YOU choose.” That’s when it went from a discussion to a full blown fight.
See, when I was 19 I had another birth control failure with my boyfriend at the time (who I will call Tom). I wanted an abortion, Tom did not because he was opposed. I told him I was getting the abortion since it was my body and my choice, and Tom said some horrible things to me, including threatening me. I broke up with him and got the abortion. In response, Tom ended up following me one night and attacking me. I don’t want to go into detail but it was horrible, and he ended up going to prison for a number of charges related to the attack. Not only do I have a number of scars and some long lasting physical effects, but I have PTSD as well.
Jack knows about my history and diagnosis, and has known from the beginning. I have a pretty prominent facial scar so I was upfront about it early on in our dating. Jack always presented himself as very pro-choice, so I was shocked that he would say that. I got really emotional and started crying and shouting, and it turned into a full-blown fight.
Eventually I said that birth control is a two-way street and so far I’ve been the only one managing it and he said “and now we have 2 kids and 2 more coming, great job.” I told him he sounded like Tom and he got super pissed, basically said how dare you compare me to him, and maybe he might want kids one day with someone who doesn’t compare him to her felon ex-boyfriend. I was stunned and horrified. I said “well then let’s not waste any fucking time,”then packed up myself and the kids and drove to my parents place.
It’s been about a week since the fight. I’ve spoken with Jack a few times and he has since apologized and said he was out of line and was speaking from a place of anxiety after finding out about the twins, but also that I said things that were out of line and it was wrong of me to insist he undergo a medical procedure. He said that can move on from the things I said and that he wants to see his children and be a family again. I told him no, that I didn’t want to “move on” from the things he said to me. I can’t just get over that and I think we need space apart. Jack was upset by this and while we talked I brought up getting a separation agreement to manage custody and finances while we figure things out. He did not like this suggestion, said we didn’t need to pull the courts into this.
I haven’t told a lot of people about what’s happening but my family and a couple close friends. My sister and best friend both think I should throw the whole man away, but my brother (who is the only other one married with kids) thinks that I’m being extreme for what sums up to a fight between two scared people who both said nasty things. My mom is trying to be supportive but is occasionally reminding me that I “don’t want to be a single mother of 4” and telling me not to let my PTSD drive my decisions, while my dad is being completely unhelpful (he thinks jokes are helpful - like calling me Doorknob because I “can’t stop getting knocked up”, telling me to let the oven cool down, real knee-slappers). I don’t know what to do. My kids are happy to be at grandma and grandpas house but they miss their daddy, I’m 4 months pregnant and already uncomfortable as hell, I wish I could go back to being a happy little family but I’m so hung up on the things he said in that fight. Am I destroying my family over one bad night? Am I being unreasonable for asking my husband to get a vasectomy?
Edit: I've noticed a lot of people recommending condoms. I have gotten pregnant with condoms twice. Our second child and my first pregnancy were both conceived using condoms properly (correct fit, put on correctly, single use, not expired, no breaks, etc). I do not trust condoms enough to not fail a third time. I know the failure rate is supposedly small, but it's not personally small enough for me. Edit to the edit: I'm sorry, I didn't expect so many comments so fast and I can't keep up with them. By the first pregnancy I mean the pregnancy with Tom. With Jack I was on the patch when I got pregnant with our daughter, condoms with our son, and the pill with the twins. So far I haven't ever suspected that Jack has tampered with our birth control and always presumed that I'm a fertile Myrtle.
I recognize the comments and just want people to know I'm seeing the suggestion. I'm not dismissing it, but the thought of it is deeply upsetting and has provoked a lot of anxiety. I just wanted to make it clear that if the suggestion is only based on the condoms, that the condom pregnancies were with two different partners. While I know I always used condoms properly with Tom, I do believe that Tom could have been fully capable of sabotaging the condoms.
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deepsleepsheepmeep: NTA. Your husband is though. Your body has already been through A LOT. A tubal ligation is a serious surgery and you are right about being out of commission for a while when recovering. If he is more concerned with an imaginary future wife than he is for you, I don’t think there is much hope for this marriage.
We have 4 close friends who all got vasectomies. None of them bitched about it like your wimp of a husband. We actually had fun vasectomy themed parties for them.
On the off chance he does end up getting a vasectomy, make sure to do the follow up appointments. One of the vasectomy fab 4 did not follow through and ended up with a post-vasectomy baby.
OOP: Thank you, I feel like this is a lot of what has been so upsetting has been that he's thinking about some imaginary future wife when I'm right here, his actual wife, the mother of his children. It's like he's already imagining a future without me.
Update: AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?: May 3, 2024
I didn’t expect so many comments and literally couldn’t go through them all. It seemed like the majority of people said I was NTA but I did get a lot of YTAs telling me I was trying to force him to get a medical procedure and telling me to get one instead. Besides already addressing my reasonings why I made my request in the original post (which I want you to read with real "per my last email" energy), I in no way am *forcing* him to have a medical procedure, but I am saying that I do not want to be with a partner who is not willing to be snipped. This is an issue of compatibility. The number of children you want, the methods of birth control you’re willing to use, those are issues of compatibility and a reason relationships end all the time. If he doesn’t want to be sterilized that’s fine, but then that means that we’re not compatible anymore, since it means he wants more children and I don’t. Beyond that there were some YTA comments and some DMs that were just nasty, calling me a murderer and saying my body is a cemetery. Sadly enough, I expected those types of comments, because I know there are a lot of Toms out in the world.
First I wanted to address a couple things that kept coming up, because last post turned into thousands of comments that all said about 5 different things, so to avoid my inbox becoming another echo chamber:
You’re 100% going to have a C-section anyway so just get a tubal while giving birth.No, I’m not 100% going to have a C-section anyway. Twins are not an automatic C-section. With my birth history there is no reason to presume that a C-section is in my future. My OB agrees, and has discussed the possibility as doctors have to do but also said that based on my past two birth experiences, I'm a "perfect candidate" for vaginal delivery.
I also am not going to mince words: tubal ligations are *less* effective than vasectomies with a *much higher* likelihood of an ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy can *kill me*. In fact I got a PM from a woman who is a fellow fertile Myrtle who had an ectopic after a tubal. I am rejecting birth control options that, if they fail, would lead to my likely death. I don’t want to be pregnant again but I also don’t want to die and leave my children motherless, and in no way should anyone assume that traveling to another state to obtain an emergency abortion will continue to be an option in the future - we live in scary times, and Gilead is a real possibility. The comments seemed to have the vibe that people think that ligations are magically more effective than vasectomies and vasectomies are more of a whisper of sterility than an actual sterilization method so for those in the back VASECTOMIES ARE MORE EFFECTIVE THAN TUBAL LIGATIONS, FULL STOP. So I really need y’all to shut up about it.
Go to another state and obtain an abortion anyway.I appreciate the personal offers to help I received in DMs deeply, but no. I’m in my 2nd trimester, which I know is still legal in some places, however I am at a point in my pregnancy where I personally as an individual do not feel comfortable obtaining an abortion, considering I would be *even farther* along by the time I could travel (which is not only finances, but logistics as well). I am 16 weeks pregnant now, these babies aren’t just clusters of cells to me anymore, and I’m not going to expand on that since it’s not up for debate.
Why not adoption?With love and respect to everyone who has gone through adoption in all its aspects, adoption is absolutely not for me. This is a thought process I already went through 8 years ago, and now that I’m a mother and not a scared teenager I know it’s even less for me. I personally could not go through with it and come out the other side intact. Going through a full pregnancy, having my babies, and then being separated from them would break me.
Leave him and give him full custody of the twinsNo. Because going through a full pregnancy, having my babies, and then being separated from them would break me. Jesus, some of y’all.
Just have a sexless marriage.No. I love banging my husband, obviously lol. I don't want to be in a sexless marriage and anyone who has been to an abstinence-only high school knows that abstinence is not the way lol. There were a lot of comments assuming I would be perfectly fine withholding sex from my husband and having na dead bedroom, and I wouldn't. I have a sex drive. I'm going to want to bang my husband. Wanting to have sex with your spouse is *normal*.
What you would do about birth control if you divorced and dated in the future?I’m not thinking of dating anyone else right now, because I’m thinking more about saving my actual marriage instead of an imaginary relationship. And if theoretically I did, I would probably seek out a partner who was snipped or was ready to be to be honestly, or a woman. I’m bisexual so there’s a very good chance that my future partner wouldn’t have the right parts to knock me up anyway lol.
Jack is sabotaging your birth controlI clarified my methods in the original post (as per my last email), but I did want to address this because it came up a LOT. I don’t have reason to believe that Jack sabotaged my birth control. A number of other fertile Myrtles showed up and brought up they or their family members repeated pregnancies in the face of birth control, including tubals. Accusing my husband of reproductive coercion for no reason other than I keep getting pregnant is a big leap and a weighty accusation. I am not the only fertile Myrtle out there, there's a reason there's a whole term for it.
Your husband is a narcissist, abuser, psychopath, and he does no childcareMy husband and I historically have a really healthy and loving relationship outside of this fight. In fact, this fight is the first time we’ve really had a fight, we’ve only ever had little arguments that we’ve been able to talk through. He’s an active father, the reason that I do the majority of childcare is due to circumstance between maternity leaves, our job schedules and the fact that I breastfed my babies. Someone also presumed I’m the breadwinner, which isn’t quite true. Jack makes more than me, but we do not have deeply significant differences in our incomes. When he is home he does his fair share of cleaning and cooking (arguably more than me at times), and parenting. That being said, the things he said in the heat of the moment were deeply concerning, and we’re addressing that together.
So to get down to the nitty gritty of the real update: since the last time I posted, Jack and I have sat down together and had a real come to Jesus talk. I’m not going to go through the whole breakdown, but it basically boiled down to this: it’s the vasectomy, but it’s more than the vasectomy. It was wrong of me to compare him to Tom but it was wronger of him to weaponize my trauma against me in a very malicious way. The way he intentionally used the same language my abuser used in an effort to hurt me was not acceptable and damaged the trust between us. He agreed it was not acceptable and said that in the aftermath he was horrified and ashamed his own words, and that he (as an explanation and not an excuse) kind of snapped under the stress. Oh and what he said about his “next wife” was not an indication of him not being committed to me but was because he felt hurt and wanted to hurt me back. He has apologized numerous times and seems to feel genuinely bad about it.
As for the separation, I am still going forward with it. I need space and time and I need to take that before the babies come. I am still staying with my parents who, for the record, are not sick of me or the kids. We’re a tight knit family, I only moved out when I moved in with Jack, and my sister moved out about a year ago so they have been empty nesting, and my mom doesn’t like that we live “too far” (an hour) away. What I have realized with space and time is how deeply triggering it was, in a way that I cannot explain to those without PTSD from DV, those who know will know. It’s deeply unsettled me and I’m having a hard time “getting over it” so to speak. There is now a lot of fear of my husband that was never there before and it’s going to take a lot to repair that trust and sense of safety. I cannot make a decision while I’m in this space, and I am addressing this with my personal therapist. Overall, I told him that if he wanted to stay married to me I needed two things from him: marriage counseling and a vasectomy, and even then I still cannot guarantee him anything. He understands, but I do not know what will happen with the vasectomy right now, we focused more on talking about the fight, but he is very aware that it's now a dealbreaker. And we have a marriage counseling appointment set up for next week. I'm hoping that counseling will bring some clarity to the situation, and in the mean time for the next couple months I'm focusing on giving my kids lots of cuddles and preparing myself for two new babies to come into my world, with or without Jack.
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OOP: I've been through a trial to convict my ex-boyfriend of trying to kill me because of an abortion in a deep red, deeply religious area. I've definitely heard worse things, and I typically have pretty thick skin. That being said, I am pregnant and pretty emotional, so it's not the best experience. That being said, I do appreciate the level-headed comments when I see them through the sea of comments kind of saying the same stuff over and over. I'm not reading a lot of them if what I can see in the comment notification starts off nasty, so a lot of it is just inbox white noise. My favorites are the ones that start off with "I'm not going to read that BUT..." and I just think lol same. Like you don't want to read my post but expect me to read your comment that was made without even reading the situation? lol nope. And there are a lot of people conflating "providing someone with a hard choice" with "forcing someone into a medical procedure" and it just makes wading through for the actually helpful comments more tiring. Thank you though, I very much appreciate the kindness. Sorry, I've gotten so much of the same nonsense I guess I needed a little vent lol.OOP on wanting her husband to make a decision and be on the same page
OOP: I want to be honest with him about where I am emotionally because I want him to make an informed decision. While the vasectomy is a deal breaker, it's really my secondary concern. My primary concern is the way he acted during the fight and his intention exploitation of my trauma because he was mad and scared. I think that telling him "get the snip to stay with me" and then deciding to leave anyway because there are deeper issues and/or I don't feel safe anymore would be cruel. He deserves to have the full picture before he makes a choice, doesn't he?
If he doesn't want the vasectomy, that's his choice. It's not what I want, but it is what it is. If he wants to call it quits at 4 kids, then it is what it is and if he secretly wants to be the next Nick Cannon then it is what it is he should be free to do that. That is part of why I don't know where he is on the vasectomy right now and we didn't really discuss it much when we talked, I'm focusing on discussing the bigger issue for me which is trust and safety within the relationship. The only way for him to make an informed decision about whether or not he get a vasectomy is for him to have all the information about the situation. If that makes him want a vasectomy less, then it is what it is. It's not about making him want to have a vasectomy. It's about being on the same page.
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2024.05.14 06:00 pretzel1983 Need help w tiny kittens!
My Dad feeds 2 strays cats for the last year. We assumed one was a boy and one was a girl however a week ago he came out of the house at 6am to feed them like every day, and there was 8 tiny kittens on his doormat! I brought them high nutrients food, wet and soft.. and my dad created a little house on the porch for them where they have been for a week. BOTH stray cats have been missing them as well.
Today the landscaper came and the lawn mower scared the 2 adult cats. One by one, they moved the kittens off the porch , and under the neighbor's house. One of the adult cats came back and forth and led them each over there.. except for one kitten . And one adult cat has stayed with him. He definitely is the scrawniest of the litter, but other than that , he seems fine. He plays with the tennis balls... He eats fine. And the one mama cat is feeding him. I can't figure out why they didn't take him to safety with the other 7 kittens. It's so sad to see him all by himself... I believe the mama is keeping him warm.. but it is now nighttime and he is still the only kitten out there . Is it possible that he needed extra attention, so the one mama cat is separating him and feeding just him ?? Or is he dying and I don't see it yet .. ? If I can save him I will ! But I don't want to take him away from the mama if she is going her job. Me and my Dad have never done this before.. we don't know anything about cats. And we can't afford to take all 10 cats to the vet...😔 I just wanna know.. should I be taking the kitten and trying to keep him warm and feed him ?? Is it too late ?
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Today the landscaper came and the lawn mower scared the 2 adult cats. One by one, they moved the kittens off the porch , and under the neighbor's house. One of the adult cats came back and forth and led them each over there.. except for one kitten . And one adult cat has stayed with him. He definitely is the scrawniest of the litter, but other than that , he seems fine. He plays with the tennis balls... He eats fine. And the one mama cat is feeding him. I can't figure out why they didn't take him to safety with the other 7 kittens. It's so sad to see him all by himself... I believe the mama is keeping him warm.. but it is now nighttime and he is still the only kitten out there . Is it possible that he needed extra attention, so the one mama cat is separating him and feeding just him ?? Or is he dying and I don't see it yet .. ? If I can save him I will ! But I don't want to take him away from the mama if she is going her job. Me and my Dad have never done this before.. we don't know anything about cats. And we can't afford to take all 10 cats to the vet...😔 I just wanna know.. should I be taking the kitten and trying to keep him warm and feed him ?? Is it too late ?
2024.05.14 05:58 wadderweed Another imposter syndrome thread new job.
First day on the job hit me like a ton of bricks. I got a gig selling loading dock equipment and safety barriers. Falls in line with my industrial sales and material handling background. We do the labor, installation, maintenance, and offer a preventative maintenance program. My boss seems like a good guy that will largely leave you alone if your activity is good. There just seems like a ton of different stuff to know and you can seriously upset your customers if you botch a job. This is a face to face role, which I prefer over making phone calls all day in my old account manager role. There’s just a lot to manage. Your Expenses, bidding the job correctly and balancing labor, price the job competitively, knowing all of the silos and resources to use, keeping your install and service team happy, keeping the big customers with whining and dining after hours. It’s just a lot to take in. I’ve been highly successful in my past sales roles, but this seems pretty intense. Trying to keep a positive outlook and be patient, just hope my manager isn’t expecting a rockstar off the bat. He is very green and the onboarding process seemed very rushed and disorganized, trying to chalk this up to him being new in his role too. Assuming this is all fairly normal to feel?
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2024.05.14 05:56 VendrellPullo I watched the Netflix Show & the Tencent show & read books 2 and 3. Here is my take on all
I added the spoiler tag for safety for others but will try to avoid specifics as far as possible
Full disclosure - I am a native English speaker based in the US. Watched the Tencent show on subtitles
TV show comparison —
both of them are loosely based on book 1, but after reading book 2/3 realized Netflix show lifted portions of book 2 and 3 as well although they don’t make a big diff at this point in the story where we are at
The Tencent show is lengthy and drags often but by the end of it, you feel a lot more connected to the story than the Netflix show
Especially the character of wang Miao and Da Shi — they work a lot better in the Chinese show and I found myself really rooting for wang Miao by the end of the Tencent show, the actor who plays him captures the spirit and demeanor of a relatively young scientist really well
In contrast, none of the Netflix characters connect - they are glossy, polished and artificial. The only one which stood out really was wade and maybe will
The Tencent show crams a lot into its 30 episodes and the world building and discussion of science is more natural and detailed versus the pop quiz / culture treatment of Netflix
However the production quality or Tencent is relatively poor - and while i watched it on Amazon prime, I don’t know if they made a proper 4 k version. The quality of CGI and characters faces in the 3 body game felt so dated like 90s video games - Netflix was better in this regard
Now the books —
Nothing much I can say that will add to what many veterans and commentators have already added but I will say this —
the author does a beautiful job w the “science reveals” and this is where he shines the best, lot more so than character descriptions or narration. I found myself skipping pages where there wasn’t much going on in terms of forward progress (like the old guy who owns a mine) and L J ‘s dream girl fantasies
Maybe because it was written like almost two decades ago — the authors sensibilities seem dated — in particular he takes a really dim view of men who are in touch w their feminine side and keeps harping on it again and again when he describes future earth. I get it he wants “manly men” to be in charge but could he be any more overt about it lol
Overall probably among the best in terms of hard science fiction — atleast until the last portion (say last 1/3) of book 3 when it starts to really get gimmicky and veers into total fantasy type stuff
I am really looking forward to what Tencent does w books 2 and 3
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Full disclosure - I am a native English speaker based in the US. Watched the Tencent show on subtitles
TV show comparison —
both of them are loosely based on book 1, but after reading book 2/3 realized Netflix show lifted portions of book 2 and 3 as well although they don’t make a big diff at this point in the story where we are at
The Tencent show is lengthy and drags often but by the end of it, you feel a lot more connected to the story than the Netflix show
Especially the character of wang Miao and Da Shi — they work a lot better in the Chinese show and I found myself really rooting for wang Miao by the end of the Tencent show, the actor who plays him captures the spirit and demeanor of a relatively young scientist really well
In contrast, none of the Netflix characters connect - they are glossy, polished and artificial. The only one which stood out really was wade and maybe will
The Tencent show crams a lot into its 30 episodes and the world building and discussion of science is more natural and detailed versus the pop quiz / culture treatment of Netflix
However the production quality or Tencent is relatively poor - and while i watched it on Amazon prime, I don’t know if they made a proper 4 k version. The quality of CGI and characters faces in the 3 body game felt so dated like 90s video games - Netflix was better in this regard
Now the books —
Nothing much I can say that will add to what many veterans and commentators have already added but I will say this —
the author does a beautiful job w the “science reveals” and this is where he shines the best, lot more so than character descriptions or narration. I found myself skipping pages where there wasn’t much going on in terms of forward progress (like the old guy who owns a mine) and L J ‘s dream girl fantasies
Maybe because it was written like almost two decades ago — the authors sensibilities seem dated — in particular he takes a really dim view of men who are in touch w their feminine side and keeps harping on it again and again when he describes future earth. I get it he wants “manly men” to be in charge but could he be any more overt about it lol
Overall probably among the best in terms of hard science fiction — atleast until the last portion (say last 1/3) of book 3 when it starts to really get gimmicky and veers into total fantasy type stuff
I am really looking forward to what Tencent does w books 2 and 3
2024.05.14 05:55 aclcjc92 Looking for life and financial advice
Hi everyone,
I have been trying to call into the show but have no luck getting through so turning to Reddit and Facebook for advice.
My wife and I are debt free. I am 32, she is 37. I have a job where I make $230,000 per year and she makes $60,000 for a household income of $290,000. We have $80,000 saved up and are adding about $7,500 per month to savings after living expenses and taxes (50%).
We currently rent a two bedroom condo in Vancouver, BC for $3,600/mo but got notice that our landlord is selling at the end of September. At that point we would have about $130,000 in savings.
Before asking my question, I want to preface it by noting that my job security is extremely unstable. I work in an industry (forecasting analysis and media) where my job is dependent on my audience and my audience attention is directly tied to performance of my predictions. It's competitive and everyone is always one bad year away from becoming far less valuable.
I am looking for advice on our best path forward. The options I see are...
On the other hand there is huge risk that comes with investment. The idea of having $1M in investments at 40 with no debt is amazing, but I am the last person on earth to know where the market is going to be 10-15-20 years from now.
I don't know what to do here! What's your take?
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I have been trying to call into the show but have no luck getting through so turning to Reddit and Facebook for advice.
My wife and I are debt free. I am 32, she is 37. I have a job where I make $230,000 per year and she makes $60,000 for a household income of $290,000. We have $80,000 saved up and are adding about $7,500 per month to savings after living expenses and taxes (50%).
We currently rent a two bedroom condo in Vancouver, BC for $3,600/mo but got notice that our landlord is selling at the end of September. At that point we would have about $130,000 in savings.
Before asking my question, I want to preface it by noting that my job security is extremely unstable. I work in an industry (forecasting analysis and media) where my job is dependent on my audience and my audience attention is directly tied to performance of my predictions. It's competitive and everyone is always one bad year away from becoming far less valuable.
I am looking for advice on our best path forward. The options I see are...
- Continue to rent in the $3,500 - $4,000 range where we are comfortable, live in an area we love and not be tied down to a home. Save as much as possible for as long as we rent. Invest the $7,500 a month in mutual funds. If work holds steady until I am 40 and wife is 45, we would live where we enjoy the country the most and have $1M in investments at 6% return.
- Buy a condo in the area. There are options in the spot we like at the $900,000 mark, which would put us around $5,200/mo at current rates at 25 years. I know Dave recommends the 15 year fixed, I honestly can't find one in Canada with lenders (advice here is welcomed too). That would put us around $7,000/mo if we can get a 15.
- Move to another area (Saskatchewan where I am from) and buy a detached house with a yard for $400,000. Wife and I are not opposed to this, I have family there, we would have friends, but we would be back in winter for 6 months a year (which we moved here to avoid).
On the other hand there is huge risk that comes with investment. The idea of having $1M in investments at 40 with no debt is amazing, but I am the last person on earth to know where the market is going to be 10-15-20 years from now.
I don't know what to do here! What's your take?
2024.05.14 05:44 courtingdisaster Presenting the evidence: 17 May 2024
 | Come one, come all, we're clooowning again! 🤡 submitted by courtingdisaster to GaylorSwift [link] [comments] Thanks to u/1DMod for posting the Jimmy Fallon video that led to me to start to connect the dots that other creators have noticed. Long story short, we're clowning for Stockholm N1 (maybe even night ✌️ as well), buckle up clowns! ✌️First things first, May 17 is ✌️ fortnights after the release of TTPD on April 19. We know that Taylor is still throwing up peace signs which seems unnecessary if it only ever meant that there was a second part of TTPD. I think it's an indication that we haven't completely cracked that egg yet.This photo was necessary for the post, ok National/International Day OfWhile these days aren't necessarily solid proof of anything, Taylor did release TTPD on Poetry & The Creative Mind Day and also released the ME! music video (ME! Out now!) on Lesbian Visibility Day so I think it's definitely worth investigating.Let's have a look at the holidays for May 17 that could be relevant:
Direct 17/5 easter eggs
Important days in historyThese could be nothing, could be something, still worth noting.
Important events in Taylor's history on this day
Stockholm
Is Karma boutta pop-up unannounced...?
New RomanticsKristen, who I have referenced in nearly every part in this post (again, she's amazing, go follow her), has a mass coming-out theory that she has dubbed the New Romantics. I highly recommend checking out her content on Twitter and TikTok and she's also recently launched a podcast that you can read more about here for a lottttttt more information on this theory. Essentially the theory is that a large number of artists in the entertainment industry are queer and are working together as a "safety in numbers" type approach to coming out of the closet and potentially changing the industry in a monumental way.Let's have a look at some players that are relevant to either 17 May or Stockholm (or both in one person's case!):
Theories as to what exactly is coming
In SummationSomething is happening in Stockholm.I don't know what exactly but it is THE ONE to watch. I'll be there talking smack in the megathread and keeping an eye out for any new Chiefs colours. See you there, clowns! Who's clowning with me?! 🤡🤡🤡 |
2024.05.14 05:30 slumping_fml When should I get an insurance? Long post ahead.
Hello! This is my first post, so happy to have found this sub because I’m learning so much. Decided to post because I really need your thoughts and advice.
I grew up in a middle class fam & under super financially illiterate parents. When I was younger, feel ko nasa rich kami but because my parents (my dad for the most part) didn’t invest and save money, at the moment living paycheck to paycheck lang talaga. My parents (both 50) earn a combined ~120-130k net monthly income; mom is a Nurse, dad is a contractual govt employee that pays fairly well. Yun nga lang problema, they both never figured out communicating about money. The easiest way I can put it is that my dad earns fairly well but does not give a lot minsan pahirapan pa hingan and nagagalit pa, my mom naman would rather loan and be in debt to others than be open to my dad sa mga kailangan bayaran for fear na pagagalitan lang siya ng papa. TL/DR, because of 1844829 financial mistakes, I think it’s safe to say we’re one medical bill away from poverty.
As for me, I (F23) just graduated last year, passed my boards and now about to start on my first job as a Nurse in a govt hosp. I’m not a breadwinner, but there’s this unspoken expectation of me helping out sa bills soon kasi lalong lalaki na bayarin. I have 3 sisters: 2 college, isang junior high, all in private schools. Okay naman ako with helping out, may konting fear lang na maging retirement daughter pero that’s another problem for another day 🤣 ang iniisip ko nalang, better for my mom to reach out to me for help than keep ballooning our debts.
So this is the part where I would love to hear your thoughts.
Since my mom works at the hospital, free yung annual comprehensive checkups nya and when we need diagnostics & labs, free din kami. Kapag may hospitalizations, free din kasi sa govt naman. I had a surgery 3 years ago, pero since kilala ng mama ko yung ortho surgeon, na waive lang yung PF. Konti lang ata nabayadan. But I can’t help but wonder hanggang kailan tong ganitong safety net? I’m thankful for it but paano kung magretire na mama ko or anything that will stop us from accessing the free healthcare na dahil sa connections ng mom ko?
Gusto ko talaga magkaroon ng health insurance. Di ko pa ata afford buong pamilya ko (2 parents, 3 sisters) pero siguro the least I can include are my parents who are getting older na.
My question lang: in this whole process of starting to manage and build my money,
Kung hindi pa obvious, I’m really all new to this. As much as I love my parents, they really did so bad taking care of their money and ayoko magaya sakanila. Please help me out.
Thank you!
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I grew up in a middle class fam & under super financially illiterate parents. When I was younger, feel ko nasa rich kami but because my parents (my dad for the most part) didn’t invest and save money, at the moment living paycheck to paycheck lang talaga. My parents (both 50) earn a combined ~120-130k net monthly income; mom is a Nurse, dad is a contractual govt employee that pays fairly well. Yun nga lang problema, they both never figured out communicating about money. The easiest way I can put it is that my dad earns fairly well but does not give a lot minsan pahirapan pa hingan and nagagalit pa, my mom naman would rather loan and be in debt to others than be open to my dad sa mga kailangan bayaran for fear na pagagalitan lang siya ng papa. TL/DR, because of 1844829 financial mistakes, I think it’s safe to say we’re one medical bill away from poverty.
As for me, I (F23) just graduated last year, passed my boards and now about to start on my first job as a Nurse in a govt hosp. I’m not a breadwinner, but there’s this unspoken expectation of me helping out sa bills soon kasi lalong lalaki na bayarin. I have 3 sisters: 2 college, isang junior high, all in private schools. Okay naman ako with helping out, may konting fear lang na maging retirement daughter pero that’s another problem for another day 🤣 ang iniisip ko nalang, better for my mom to reach out to me for help than keep ballooning our debts.
So this is the part where I would love to hear your thoughts.
Since my mom works at the hospital, free yung annual comprehensive checkups nya and when we need diagnostics & labs, free din kami. Kapag may hospitalizations, free din kasi sa govt naman. I had a surgery 3 years ago, pero since kilala ng mama ko yung ortho surgeon, na waive lang yung PF. Konti lang ata nabayadan. But I can’t help but wonder hanggang kailan tong ganitong safety net? I’m thankful for it but paano kung magretire na mama ko or anything that will stop us from accessing the free healthcare na dahil sa connections ng mom ko?
Gusto ko talaga magkaroon ng health insurance. Di ko pa ata afford buong pamilya ko (2 parents, 3 sisters) pero siguro the least I can include are my parents who are getting older na.
My question lang: in this whole process of starting to manage and build my money,
- When should I get a health insurance? Do I build my EF first before saving up for an insurance or can I build my EF + save up and eventually pay for insurance?
- What type of insurance should I get? I took the interactive flowchart and ended up with “get an HMO/health insurance” but I also want to hear your thoughts. Also read about life insurance but super confused pa ako sa difference, have to learn it pa.
- Any recos for insurance na pwede ko isali parents ko?
Kung hindi pa obvious, I’m really all new to this. As much as I love my parents, they really did so bad taking care of their money and ayoko magaya sakanila. Please help me out.
Thank you!
2024.05.14 05:30 KianBackup vanguard is evil and infected my brain
hello guys. this is not a joke. right now i am in safety with tin foil hat and burned my old riot vanguard pc. i do not care about the environmental inpact. i had to safe my brain. so it all began when i downloaded league of legends and valorant with vanguard. but soon i figured out... kernel access has full permissions on bluetooth air transmissions. and then it began: the vanguard send waves of brain information per bluetooth in the era near my infected pc. my entire brain was full of riot game ads and sending me the urge to play. i lost everything. my family. because my bluetooth infected vanguard brain made me HAVE TO reach highest rank in these games i could possibly attain. i quit my jobs and traded riot stocks while i was spectating in game. and it worked for quite a time. vanguard told me the exact moments to sell and buy the stocks so i didnt need a job to persue the vanguard bluetooth transmitted riot games addiction. but the inner wolf sigma in me was still alive. as it was more and more consuming my brain and time the inner wolf struck out. QUIT NOW. but i knew this wasnt possible without making it obviously. i made it look like a rage but then quickly took my deo and fire lighter. and i successfully did it. burned down my pc. now the bluetooth transmitted infection slowly but surely declined. i was able to think more clearly day by day. it was a hard journey. but now i have linux installed on my thinkpad and my android without google services. i will do everything to spread awareness. please try to help your close ones that unknowingly are being consumed by vanguard. linux and degooglefied android FTW
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2024.05.14 05:25 Noel_Ann I was beaten. Had all my savings stolen from me, and left for dead on a sidewalk. How the heck do I heal?
Sooo. For one, I'm transgender. (Mtf), and I was with my abusive ex (cis woman), since literally high-school. We were together for a long time, I told her I would ".Wear women's clothes, and fantasize about being a woman. And for some reason dressing as one in private helped me cope sometimes." I also had expressed that sometimes it would cause me to get turned on (what the trans community later described as 'euphoria erections'). She didn't mind, atleast she said she didn't, she said she thought it was sexy, she liked a 'guy in touch with his feminine side' ,and she was bisexual anyways. I had coped with my gender issues (which i didn't fully realize were gender issues due to upbringing) , by just having these private escapes, often with her as an audience. She turned it more and more sexual though. Often whenever I was just relaxing in fem clothes she ALWAYS progressed it to sex. Now I had a bit of a 'being dominated' fetish I'm not gonna lie. But often she wanted me to do things I thought were really.gross. like making me sit in our sex juices, or sit with my own ejaculate on myself. She had a weird and honestly sick fetish for stuff like that. Specific to males in panties. And I kinda just coped with life with the mentality of " well I get to have the family the 'good Christian kid' and his high-school sweetheart. And my mother will one day look at grand babies and love the hell out of em, and that'll make all this worth it. Also I want to clarify, Post transition (so as a woman) I would be a lesbian. I've never been attracted to men. Another reason why my gender issues confused me so much. I also ALWAYS was just as honest with my partner (my abuser), as I was with myself at any given time in regards to this issue. So its not like I was a total closet case to my at the time gf. Sadly my mother got really sick. And no. She didn't make it. She went rather fast. It was devastating, tbh we had a more matriarchal system in our household, despite our father being a religious zealot. She ran the home, and he normally caved to what she wanted. I became so deeply depressed I was going to genuinely kill myself. Eventually one day I just told my partner, " I need to explore my fem side and figure out what this gender issue is, and I need to fully explore it, to see if my feminine side is just latent desires I couldn't act on when younger or if I was actually trans. " she VERY reluctantly , and angrily one day took me to get some clothes of my own. A padded bra, multiple women's underwear, and some thigh highs, and agreed to let me continue to borrow some of her stuff, until I got more items. We began exploring. Well I did, she kept trying to fetishize it, and when I told her no, or when I stayed dressed even after sex. She would get beyond huffy with me. She started getting more and more mean to me as I continued to explore in a non sexualized way. I eventually one night extremely scared and sobbing, told her I was trans and there was nothing anyone could do to fix it. So I braced for impact, expecting her to break up with me. I was astounded she said " There is nothing wrong with you, its the 2020s, and people are becoming more accepting now." I was terrified, knowing my dad was never gonna accept it, and my brothers were a coin toss, though I knew my.younger one most likely wouldn't care. And I didn't think my older one really would either but still. Hiwever as I continued in my path to coming out as a transwoman. She got more and more verbally and maliciously abusive, she sabotaged things I was beginning to try, she berated me constantly and even tried to delay my coming out. I eventually started dressing as a woman full time, except at work. And around my bio family. I started hrt in private, except my partner and her parents knew. (She was my abuser not my partner). She turned from a sweet borderline feminist, and fairly sensible liberal gal, to an irl reddit cringelord for lack of a better term. She started taking these really jacked up takes, that she never espoused before, and calling me names like " gender retard". I kept pleading with her to stop, that if she wanted to break up we just could, I'd need some time to find a place, but everything could be amicable (btw I was clear that this option always was on the table), and It was ok if she didn't wanna stay alot of couples split after a transition and that doesn't make you a bigot. But if you want to keep trying, please stop mistreating me. Several of my friends had wanted me to dump her for how she was acting. But I foolishly believed she loved me and was just having a hard time. But eventually she dumped me and at the worst time, I had lost a job , got a new job, and had to leave it for safety reasons and was basically financially dependent on her, despite wanting to leave but needing an exit strategy. She turned our new apartment (after we fled her parents house) into a horror house. I still to this day have nightmares of waking up on the couch with her about to walk through the door. The abuse was horrible. At one point comongntoca head with her brutally beating me black and blue. I didnt fight back. Within a few weeks I was on sidewalks. We had a savings account that I had helped build for over SEVEN years. And it was in her name. And she kept all of it. I was homeless and still technically am. But am housed. I don't know how to have peace. I see her when I close my eyes. I hear her insults in my head. And I'm STILL recovering from her financial abuse. What do I do? Please...
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2024.05.14 05:10 rusakovic 📩 Bilingual (Spanish) Senior Trust & Safety Specialist at 🏢 THUMBTACK. Salary: 💰$27.00 - $33.00. 📍Remote job in 🇺🇸 United States
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2024.05.14 05:06 HRVitoDempsey [HIRING] Compliance Officer! Audit Specialist! Marketing Specialist! San Juan!
Good day! I am Vito Vergara, a Talent Acquisition Specialist from Dempsey Resource Management Inc. And as the same, I am commissioned by our client company to source and endorse candidates for different posts. Positions being offered are for direct and permanent hire by the company client itself, not under agency and absolutely NO fee from your end is required. In other words, I merely act as a conduit for you and our company client. To know more about us, please visit our website at http://dempseyinc.weebly.com/\
I. COMPLIANCE OFFICER
JOB DETAILS:
II. AUDIT SPECIALIST
JOB DETAILS:
III. MARKETING SPECIALIST (TECH/GADGET)
JOB DETAILS:
FOR MORE INQUIRIES AND/OR IF INTERESTED, MESSAGE ME IN VIBER (09771704223) OR SEND ME AN EMAIL WITH “REDDIT APPLICATION – (POSITION APPLYING FOR)” AS SUBJECT: dempseyinc97@gmail.com
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I. COMPLIANCE OFFICER
JOB DETAILS:
- Bachelor’s degree holder
- High attention to detail
- Legal Compliance
- Payroll & benefits
- Policy Development
- Training & development
- Performance management
- P21,000-P25,000
- Anapolis, Greenhills
II. AUDIT SPECIALIST
JOB DETAILS:
- Accurately manage item pricing and participate in platform campaigns with meticulous eye to detail.
- Manitain precision in daily price adjustment (flash sale) and assist in data extraction for accounting purposes.
- Conduct thorough inventory checks, ensures accuracy, and audit product page posts consistently.
- Assist with accounting and compliance.
- P21,000-P25,000
- Anapolis, Greenhills
III. MARKETING SPECIALIST (TECH/GADGET)
JOB DETAILS:
- Independently manage a TikTok page, staying updated on trends and optimizing captions and videos for engagement.
- Produce product review video based on audience feedback and share them across various platforms.
- Utilize targeted ads and keywords, explore live streaming options and post products on e-commerce platforms, while also recruiting affiliates for promotion.
- P21,000-P25,000
- Anapolis, Greenhills
FOR MORE INQUIRIES AND/OR IF INTERESTED, MESSAGE ME IN VIBER (09771704223) OR SEND ME AN EMAIL WITH “REDDIT APPLICATION – (POSITION APPLYING FOR)” AS SUBJECT: dempseyinc97@gmail.com
2024.05.14 05:06 HRVitoDempsey [HIRING] Compliance Officer! Audit Specialist! Marketing Specialist! San Juan!
Good day! I am Vito Vergara, a Talent Acquisition Specialist from Dempsey Resource Management Inc. And as the same, I am commissioned by our client company to source and endorse candidates for different posts. Positions being offered are for direct and permanent hire by the company client itself, not under agency and absolutely NO fee from your end is required. In other words, I merely act as a conduit for you and our company client. To know more about us, please visit our website at http://dempseyinc.weebly.com/\
I. COMPLIANCE OFFICER
JOB DETAILS:
II. AUDIT SPECIALIST
JOB DETAILS:
III. MARKETING SPECIALIST (TECH/GADGET)
JOB DETAILS:
FOR MORE INQUIRIES AND/OR IF INTERESTED, MESSAGE ME IN VIBER (09771704223) OR SEND ME AN EMAIL WITH “REDDIT APPLICATION – (POSITION APPLYING FOR)” AS SUBJECT: dempseyinc97@gmail.com
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I. COMPLIANCE OFFICER
JOB DETAILS:
- Bachelor’s degree holder
- High attention to detail
- Legal Compliance
- Payroll & benefits
- Policy Development
- Training & development
- Performance management
- P21,000-P25,000
- Anapolis, Greenhills
II. AUDIT SPECIALIST
JOB DETAILS:
- Accurately manage item pricing and participate in platform campaigns with meticulous eye to detail.
- Manitain precision in daily price adjustment (flash sale) and assist in data extraction for accounting purposes.
- Conduct thorough inventory checks, ensures accuracy, and audit product page posts consistently.
- Assist with accounting and compliance.
- P21,000-P25,000
- Anapolis, Greenhills
III. MARKETING SPECIALIST (TECH/GADGET)
JOB DETAILS:
- Independently manage a TikTok page, staying updated on trends and optimizing captions and videos for engagement.
- Produce product review video based on audience feedback and share them across various platforms.
- Utilize targeted ads and keywords, explore live streaming options and post products on e-commerce platforms, while also recruiting affiliates for promotion.
- P21,000-P25,000
- Anapolis, Greenhills
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2024.05.14 05:05 City_Index GBP/USD forecast: Volatility expected with UK data, Powell on tap. May 14, 2024
 | Incoming UK data today could be the difference between the BOE cutting or holding in June. Add into the mix US producer prices and Powell speech, GBP/USD Is a key market for forex traders to watch today. submitted by City_Index to Forexstrategy [link] [comments] By : Matt Simpson, Market Analyst There has been quite a bit of excitement surrounding the potential BOE cuts over the past couple of months. Whilst the BOE opted to hold rates at last week’s meeting, the door has been opened for a cut in June. Assuming incoming data leans the right way. And that places today’s wages and employment data firmly into view, as it could easily sway opinions either way over the likelihood of BOE action next month. BOE Chief economist Huw Pill at 90 mins later at 08:30 UK, delivering opening remarks at the Institute of Chartered Accountants. I’m not sure if it will prove to be a market mover, but worth keeping tabs on – as is Megan Green’s speech on Thursday at 12pm UK, titled “The Current State of Britain’s Labour Market”. https://preview.redd.it/ffgkubtt4b0d1.png?width=717&format=png&auto=webp&s=88d0a0cb5e7cb033a8a33877957a76eafccbbda6 We know that employment data has been rolling over and that has been a key reasons for rate-cut bets. Unemployment rose to 4.2%, the claimant count increased to a 9-month high and the -67k jobs lost was its fastest pace since November 2020. If we were to see similar figures form the US then bets would be on for an imminent rate cut. Yet the fly in the ointment is wages data which remains sticky at relatively high levels. So perhaps the easier way to expect the BOE to pull the trigger in June is if we see wages come in well below expectations, assuming we do not see a surprise rebound in the employment figures. https://preview.redd.it/vrx8e8ov4b0d1.png?width=766&format=png&auto=webp&s=e2af326146bc1753c9edf126f98842212ff082fe As things stand, UK unemployment is expected to rise to 4.3%, jobs claims increase to 13.9k, 3M/3M job change to plunge -215k and wages soften to 5.3% y/y. If all of those boxes are ticked, I suspect the British pound to face selling pressure on bets of a June cut. Anything short of these figures could simply sew doubt and send GBP higher. Also take note that US producer prices are released which could set the tone for tomorrow’s CPI figures, as could Jerome Powell’s speech. And that makes GBP/USD a key pair to minor today for FX traders. Click the website link below to get our exclusive Guide to GBP/USD trading in Q2 2024. https://www.cityindex.com/en-au/market-outlooks-2024/q2-gbp-usd-outlook/ https://preview.redd.it/ed6r4y025b0d1.png?width=1000&format=png&auto=webp&s=7194dde98d8f583e74f6bcfa2bf4befb5fa66d28 GBP/USD technical analysis:The daily chart shows that bullish momentum has increased since GBP/USD broke above 1.25. And it may have traded higher on Monday, yet resistance was found at the 50-day EMA and 61.8% Fibonacci level. And that makes a pivotal level for traders to construct their plans around.From a purely technical perspective, GBP/USD looks like it wants to pop higher. Prices are trading in a tight consolidation / pennant near Monday’s high following a strong rally into these levels. Even if prices initially retrace lower towards 1.2520, a high-volume node from the previous consolidation, weekly pivot point and lower 1-day implied volatility level suggest dips buyers may be tempted to return. Of course, should today’s data disappoint BOE doves, we may find that GBP/USD simply moves higher towards the highs just below 1.26. https://preview.redd.it/nvg8bbh65b0d1.png?width=1535&format=png&auto=webp&s=ed848eb30f9f472ba94b0d9cf3073fade8656dd9 -- Written by Matt Simpson Follow Matt on Twitter @cLeverEdge https://www.cityindex.com/en-au/news-and-analysis/gbp-usd-forecast-volatility-expected-with-uk-data-powell-on-tap/ From time to time, StoneX Financial Pty Ltd (“we”, “our”) website may contain links to other sites and/or resources provided by third parties. These links and/or resources are provided for your information only and we have no control over the contents of those materials, and in no way endorse their content. Any analysis, opinion, commentary or research-based material on our website is for information and educational purposes only and is not, in any circumstances, intended to be an offer, recommendation or solicitation to buy or sell. 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2024.05.14 04:35 Shannon_Canadians Got accepted to both UVic and UBC BSW programs!
Hi great people of socialworkcanada
I've posted this about a couple of months ago - as of today (May 13th 2024), I got accepted to both UBC and UVic BSW, which are also the only two BSW programs I've applied to!
https://www.reddit.com/socialworkcanada/comments/1ac35vu/ubc_or_uvic_social_work_for_bsw/
My approach to the supplement forms for both schools:
UVic BSW - As for the UVic personal statement, I mostly focused on speaking about my heart to advocate for equity, and not necessarily about intersectionality. Though I still indirectly said something about my social position (saying I am a heterosexual cis-male, healthy, etc) based on a very confidential case where I assisted someone experiencing a crisis and needed immediate assistance for their safety.
As for the work/volunteer experience portion, I kind of discussed how my first social service experience led to B, then C, which eventually helped me perform better at D, blablabla... just like that. Like, for instance, at my practicum the Senior Caseworker taught me how to conduct casework with each client and I've explained how that casework experience later helped me at my actual paid social service job later on which was actually true.
UBC BSW - As for the UBC personal statement, I narrated my personal stories of being an immigrant who came to Canada (Victoria BC originally) as a Grade 8 student without family or family friends, etc and how that led to wanting to help people as a Social Worker. I did talk about my strengths which are immigrant experiences, compassion and cultural sensitivity and on the other hand, as for my limitations, I had to think from an intersectionality perspective and discussed on how my privileges as a young healthy man might be a barrier to understand people who are socially disadvantaged than I am.
As for the work/volunteer experience portion, I did focus more on the combined 500+ hour volunteer and practicum experience over my 6000+ work experience since the volunteer experience portion seemed to be more detailed than work experience with UBC's. I still kind of followed the same format as I did with my UVic work/volunteer experience portion. However, I referred to my job description in my job offer to write about my work experience in the UBC application.
Something to note:
Please keep in mind that I was probably quite advantaged in my application compared to some other BSW applicants due to the fact that I had lots of worked/volunteepracticum experience of total 6500+ hours and that I am a racial minority, also a 1st generation immigrant from overseas who moved to Canada and has lived in 3 different Canadian cities (Victoria, Toronto and Vancouver) by himself since the age of 14. Average GPA in the last 10 1st and 2nd year university courses including the 2nd year Intro Social Work courses were probably at least 3.60/4.33 ish.
If you're looking to apply to these schools in the next years, I hope this might be helpful in the slightest with your supplementary applications.
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I've posted this about a couple of months ago - as of today (May 13th 2024), I got accepted to both UBC and UVic BSW, which are also the only two BSW programs I've applied to!
https://www.reddit.com/socialworkcanada/comments/1ac35vu/ubc_or_uvic_social_work_for_bsw/
My approach to the supplement forms for both schools:
UVic BSW - As for the UVic personal statement, I mostly focused on speaking about my heart to advocate for equity, and not necessarily about intersectionality. Though I still indirectly said something about my social position (saying I am a heterosexual cis-male, healthy, etc) based on a very confidential case where I assisted someone experiencing a crisis and needed immediate assistance for their safety.
As for the work/volunteer experience portion, I kind of discussed how my first social service experience led to B, then C, which eventually helped me perform better at D, blablabla... just like that. Like, for instance, at my practicum the Senior Caseworker taught me how to conduct casework with each client and I've explained how that casework experience later helped me at my actual paid social service job later on which was actually true.
UBC BSW - As for the UBC personal statement, I narrated my personal stories of being an immigrant who came to Canada (Victoria BC originally) as a Grade 8 student without family or family friends, etc and how that led to wanting to help people as a Social Worker. I did talk about my strengths which are immigrant experiences, compassion and cultural sensitivity and on the other hand, as for my limitations, I had to think from an intersectionality perspective and discussed on how my privileges as a young healthy man might be a barrier to understand people who are socially disadvantaged than I am.
As for the work/volunteer experience portion, I did focus more on the combined 500+ hour volunteer and practicum experience over my 6000+ work experience since the volunteer experience portion seemed to be more detailed than work experience with UBC's. I still kind of followed the same format as I did with my UVic work/volunteer experience portion. However, I referred to my job description in my job offer to write about my work experience in the UBC application.
Something to note:
Please keep in mind that I was probably quite advantaged in my application compared to some other BSW applicants due to the fact that I had lots of worked/volunteepracticum experience of total 6500+ hours and that I am a racial minority, also a 1st generation immigrant from overseas who moved to Canada and has lived in 3 different Canadian cities (Victoria, Toronto and Vancouver) by himself since the age of 14. Average GPA in the last 10 1st and 2nd year university courses including the 2nd year Intro Social Work courses were probably at least 3.60/4.33 ish.
If you're looking to apply to these schools in the next years, I hope this might be helpful in the slightest with your supplementary applications.
2024.05.14 04:35 yakunins Cheaters ban reports are flawed, proposal
 | Cheaters are still doing well. Despite weekly reports saying pubg banned 4 millon accounts in the last 10 months! Not banned, but blatant cheaters: submitted by yakunins to PUBATTLEGROUNDS [link] [comments]
But just 3 cheaters I mentioned above obviously ruined hundreds of games. Counted! Yes, they ruined about 500 games in a couple of months. In same period PUBG banned 2 millon accounts that ruined zero games, zero! I have a proposal for PUBG anticheat team: In the list of banned accounts, against each name put number of games cheater played in last 2 months. And sort accordingly. This way you will show a little respect to players that was killed by them. Because number of banned accounts and devices doesn't make any sense, just a random chart. Thank you. ——————————————————————————— Banned nicknames analysis I knew from PUBG weekly bans announcemets that they are working hard as hell. So, I downloaded all their PDFs with the list of banned accounts, and composed some stats. I also converted their list from PDF to txt. In total they have banned about 4 million accounts in last 10 months, since July 2023. Their ban hammer have a hit every 7 seconds. Amazing! What means 4 millon accounts banned in 10 months? How's it possible cheaters still doing well? How much of banned are real players? I looked over banlist, all the names had first three chars masked, e.g. ***TCHE__89 instead of full name APATCHE__89. How to get a list of full nicknames? So that I can later check them over service like pubg.op.gg ... I noticed a couple of patterns:
Results of scan is:
Precision notice. Based on amount of tests I made (0.25%, or 2888 out of 1.16m) and considering 95% confidence level, precision to be in range ±10%. In other words, from 41 to 61% of 1.1m accounts "not found/not played online". Nicknames pattern |
2024.05.14 04:31 Aymoney23 Data science guidance, what would you do?
Hello Everyone,
I am in an interesting position and wanted to get your takes on the matter. I began my career journey rather young and have been working in corporate settings as a data analyst since 14, I was doing VBA work, basic Python, HTML, some JS…. I then began a position at 19 years old at a consulting firm that had me jumping around multiple financial and tech institutions tackling different projects where I would begin flirting with some ML concepts. During this time I’m actively pursuing a BBA in Finance hoping to secure a position as a quantitive analyst.
COVID hits and I frankly can’t cut it in the finance world so I end up taking a job as a Data analyst at a Fortune 500 utility company where I became a senior in a year and ended up devoting close to 3 years at the company. During this time I was miserable, I was using antiquated software/methodologies, the subject material was extremely boring and I had enough so I just resigned on the spot.
During this downtime I pursued a intense Data Science bootcamp in hopes of pursuing the “fun and challenging” data analyst/scientist positions. I gave this whole backstory just to say I have no idea what my trajectory looks like from here and this shitty job market is not making it any easier. All in all my questions are:
-Should I pursue senior positions since technically I have 10 years experience in data analysis?
-Should I start from scratch since I’m still relatively young (25) and look into ML internships?
-Is there a specific way you should apply to these roles?
-Should my resume be 2-pages long?
Any other advice is welcome and appreciated, I am always open to making industry friends so feel free to reach out.
Thank you all for your time.
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I am in an interesting position and wanted to get your takes on the matter. I began my career journey rather young and have been working in corporate settings as a data analyst since 14, I was doing VBA work, basic Python, HTML, some JS…. I then began a position at 19 years old at a consulting firm that had me jumping around multiple financial and tech institutions tackling different projects where I would begin flirting with some ML concepts. During this time I’m actively pursuing a BBA in Finance hoping to secure a position as a quantitive analyst.
COVID hits and I frankly can’t cut it in the finance world so I end up taking a job as a Data analyst at a Fortune 500 utility company where I became a senior in a year and ended up devoting close to 3 years at the company. During this time I was miserable, I was using antiquated software/methodologies, the subject material was extremely boring and I had enough so I just resigned on the spot.
During this downtime I pursued a intense Data Science bootcamp in hopes of pursuing the “fun and challenging” data analyst/scientist positions. I gave this whole backstory just to say I have no idea what my trajectory looks like from here and this shitty job market is not making it any easier. All in all my questions are:
-Should I pursue senior positions since technically I have 10 years experience in data analysis?
-Should I start from scratch since I’m still relatively young (25) and look into ML internships?
-Is there a specific way you should apply to these roles?
-Should my resume be 2-pages long?
Any other advice is welcome and appreciated, I am always open to making industry friends so feel free to reach out.
Thank you all for your time.
2024.05.14 04:19 callmegriggs13 Jim Edmonds... ugh
Let me start by saying, I get it, Jim Edmonds is an analyst commentator and his job is to analyze and comment on the game and what is happening on the field. I also get that the other team and players make great plays and they should be acknowledged. I love a great play or a great hit regardless of which team or player does it. I love baseball. But I LOVE the Cardinals. Anyway, with that as a preface, I give you my rant:
Is it just me or is anyone else sick of Jim Edmonds' commentating? It feels like it is all about him and what he has to say and not about the game going on. He's always got some story or some analysis like he's an expert on every single position and at-bat. I get that he is a Cardinals HOFer and he was a great player. I really loved watching him play back in the day and I'm sure he knows way more than me about baseball but come-on, even the great Jim Edmonds doesn't know everything about every position, every pitch, every hit...
I hate when he tries to predict what is going to happen next and when he realizes he was wrong, he digresses into some analysis about how what actually happened on the field was basically what he was talking about. He cuts Chip off constantly and when there is action on the field and he's in the middle of one of his off-topic anecdotes, he doesn't stop talking even while Chip is excitedly giving the play by play. It really kills the vibe of trying to watch a game. If I wanted to listen to the tedious mind of Jim Edmonds, I'd subscribe to his podcast (if he has one, I don't know) or watch him on some analyst show after the game. Ugh. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU JIM. It's about the Cardinals players on the field and up at bat.
To that point, I also hate how he is so quick to praise the the other team and non-Cardinals players and ballparks. He does it all the time while being critical of the Cardinals. Who's team are you commentating for? I seriously sometimes wonder if I'm watching the Cardinal's broadcast or the other team's.
All of that being said, he does have some good points and good comments. It's not all bad. It's just hard for me to watch a game when he's commentating.
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Is it just me or is anyone else sick of Jim Edmonds' commentating? It feels like it is all about him and what he has to say and not about the game going on. He's always got some story or some analysis like he's an expert on every single position and at-bat. I get that he is a Cardinals HOFer and he was a great player. I really loved watching him play back in the day and I'm sure he knows way more than me about baseball but come-on, even the great Jim Edmonds doesn't know everything about every position, every pitch, every hit...
I hate when he tries to predict what is going to happen next and when he realizes he was wrong, he digresses into some analysis about how what actually happened on the field was basically what he was talking about. He cuts Chip off constantly and when there is action on the field and he's in the middle of one of his off-topic anecdotes, he doesn't stop talking even while Chip is excitedly giving the play by play. It really kills the vibe of trying to watch a game. If I wanted to listen to the tedious mind of Jim Edmonds, I'd subscribe to his podcast (if he has one, I don't know) or watch him on some analyst show after the game. Ugh. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU JIM. It's about the Cardinals players on the field and up at bat.
To that point, I also hate how he is so quick to praise the the other team and non-Cardinals players and ballparks. He does it all the time while being critical of the Cardinals. Who's team are you commentating for? I seriously sometimes wonder if I'm watching the Cardinal's broadcast or the other team's.
All of that being said, he does have some good points and good comments. It's not all bad. It's just hard for me to watch a game when he's commentating.
2024.05.14 04:19 Genshaii What to do with my bachelors in zoology?
last year I completed a bachelors in science, majoring in biology. For my final year, I spent time researching crickets and discovered I'm not too keen on the data analysis that comes with research. So I decided to switch paths - I love biology and science, but not the rigour and data collection of research. So I'm one semester into a masters of teaching - the goal was to become a high school biology teacher. But jesus fucking christ I cannot keep looking at random ass theories from 50 years before and I dont know if i can finish this degree / if teaching is worth it. Teaching (or work) isnt my passion, so i dont have major motivations to finish. What type of jobs can I look for with a biology degree? I dont have any experience in labs (eg internships or such) nor recommendations from past lecturers/tutors - and as i said, i'm not fond of data analysis (fake stem fan i know). Im from melbourne, australia! I was looking into working at national parks, field ecology, conservation, consultancy, lab assist/tech, botany, animal technician - but I just feel lost and I dont know what I'm qualified for. Is it worth finishing my masters if I'm not super keen?
sorry kind of a ramble post, but I'm really struggling and feel pressure to get started with a career - im 22 and still havent let university.
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sorry kind of a ramble post, but I'm really struggling and feel pressure to get started with a career - im 22 and still havent let university.
2024.05.14 04:12 ghostlyflashy91 Should I work a typical 9 to 5 office job or stay working the floor?
I 22(F) started working at a new company recently only been there about a month. I was initially hired to be working on the floor disassembling, reassembly, and analyzing components (manufacturing). Using tools, wearing safety glasses, steal toe shoes, getting dirty that type of thing. Now it’s about a month in and I was asked by the head supervisor to help with a side project. I’m working at my own desk on a computer. They asked me if I wanted to permanently stay there inside and they would find a replacement of where I was. I said because of the lack of training in this new position I would be more comfortable moving back once I’m done helping them out. I learned that if I stayed permanently in the position I’m in I could potentially move into a office job. Not getting dirty, dressing nicer for work, computer work, salary. It’s something I used to really wanted but not sure I want it anymore because this new project has kind of overwhelmed me and don’t want a job where I’m constantly stressed. I’m also scared of not liking the office life of sitting all day. But I’ve prayed for new opportunities and don’t want to pass up something I’ve never tried. Should I tell my head supervisor I changed my mind?
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2024.05.14 04:09 sweetnsassy97 Did I do something wrong?
Recently an individual was in the local newspaper for committing SNAP fraud. Essentially they failed to report income appropriately. Which rendered me being extremely anxious because as a single mom who started receiving SNAP during COVID when my now ex-husband lost his job and I wasn’t working I believe we had submit things annually. I stopped receiving benefits for awhile and then when my ex-husband and I separated I reapplied when I was in-between jobs. I was under the impression when you select annual renewal and give them all your identifying information they ran their own audits. I never reported when I started working about 6 months ago, because they have what I receive in child support and that is based off my wages, etc. I assumed it was all electronic and in their system however when I look on my profile (I haven’t since I applied last SeptembeOctober) I see my only income listed is child support. Do I report my income now? I am afraid if I do that it will look suspicious and I’ll get charged for something that was not intentional. Do I just stop using the benefits as they come in and then just don’t renew? If I report my income and they see an overpayment based on my date of employment start will that lead to criminal charges? Do I just report my income do they not ask the start date? I don’t want to lie in this at all. I could vomit thinking I unknowingly did something wrong/criminal.
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