Cute texts to cheer up someone

On the 15th of April, 2024, I had a workplace injury occur that involved a vehicle transmission falling directly on top of my foot while unloading it to be transferred to a core return box. Luckily it did not break any bones. However, I was required to be seen by an Orthopedic Specialist under the hospitals' guidance and recommendation. I went to my scheduled appointment on May 1st, with Worker's Comp info ready to be provided, I received a multitude of x-rays and a professional evaluation conducted in the office by the Orthopedic Surgeon. To add an extra bit of information, I was born with a disease called CMT (Charcot-Marie-Tooth) Disease, which belongs to a family of Neurological Diseases, a type of hereditary motor and sensory neuropathy. The disease affects my feet mostly, as I have severely high arches and difficulty with balance and walking. When the Ortho. Specialist conducted his review, his directive was that the surgery would be necessary, as the injury that I sustained at work will cause me more issues later in life if it isn't corrected within the next few years. What was relayed to me during that appointment was that the surgery would need to be for both of my feet, over a period of about a year, that includes surgery, recovery and rehabilitation, and then post-op evaluations and testing. I was told at the office that I'd be receiving a phone call about the surgery and such within a few days, as they would have to go back and forth with the examiners of the claim, which was to be expected. I waited quite a while for a phone call, it was roughly a week before I finally received a phone call from the surgeons' office about waiting to hear back from the Claims Examiner that is a part of the business I work for. They told me that it'd be a few more days before any more info could be provided, as they (the surgeons' office) were waiting to hear back from Sedgwick.
Fast forward to yesterday, at 11:07 AM EST May 13th, I received a text saying that my examiner (through Sedgwick) has been changed to a different person. I didn't really think much of it, but I had a feeling at some point that I'd be hearing from them later on in the day. I went into work at about 4 PM, and by 4:30PM a phone call came in directly from Sedgwick, to tell me that my claim has been denied. They said that, and I quote, "We've never heard of this disease before, we don't see that it has anything to do with the injury you received at work, but you don't have any broken bones which is good.." The lady asked if I had any questions or concerns, and I vaguely remember replying with a statement of my family's history with the disease and how it has affected them, and how it affects me during my day to day, and they made the comparison that "Orthopedics are a lot like Chiropractors, those fields aren't really a category we assist with" or something similar to that statement. I was in a bit of shock when I spoke to the examiner, so most of the things they said have been forgotten. I tried going back to my claims info through Sedgwick and I'm no longer able to access it, it just keeps saying that I'd have to contact customer support, or speak with someone in my HR Dept. My manager, and several other people within my immediate circle have all expressed to me to get a 2nd opinion, contact a lawyer, contact a different examiner for workers comp, go through the state for assistance etc..
I'm just trying to figure out what steps I need to take in order to receive the assistance that I need. I am 28 years old, I still have such a strong desire to continue working, I am not a quitter, I do not like giving up. But this situation really put me down, and I am honestly dreading going to work now, I just feel so defeated. Any and all recommendations will gladly be accepted.

Lately allot of my coworkers have been kind of exploding and not being able to handle everything happening to our work and the constant changing things in life, we recently had to do a workplace violence type of I-learn that was completely ridiculous given management tends to be on the vindictive side of things and like to preach what they don’t practice. It would be nice to not hear racist or disturbing things from my manager and hear her in fact yell and freak out when someone stocks her area, heck she even threatens to quit and leave when someone stocks anything in that one department, then another full time person recently got extremely mad because people were filling empty spaces with random product to increase their case count (I’m part time and they do that to all of my stocking areas) so now they’re on the verge of quitting and I don’t see the other person who they bring to work with them wanting to continue if they’re gone because of age and not feeling good, and then this other full time person gets away with so much(friends with the manager) , especially being rude and snappy to everyone and being extremely disgusting if you don’t use manners or are in her way. Nobody wants to touch her areas because she will get mad. And she gets so much extra space where other product is meant to be because she never condenses or makes room she just leaves it set and fills it up when possible. Why do we even bother? The part timers are doing extremely long drawn out projects, the full-timers and the managers get all the easy boxes and can do a couple hundred because I mean 2 minutes to stock a case of idk 12 boxes of food vs 2 minutes to stock 36 pieces of catering equipment separating the packaging and product is ridiculous. I recently lost it, I was so upset I just began pulling gift bags off the bins we keep the paper shreds in and throwing them in an aisle because I’m part time, I work about 12 hours a week and nobody touches my area when they stock it, they leave messes and the gift bags are an ongoing eyesore for the store, one week I came into the store and it was so perfect and pristine, the next couple of days it grew to be a thick layer of gift bags covering all the bins, I don’t get how a store open 7 days a week with 5 or more managers, sometimes 2 cashiers at the same time don’t do some sort of dent in it given the aisle is right next to the registers. I honestly leave that for last and then stock whatever boxes I have for it leaving the thick layer of bags for someone else cause I don’t have time, they expect me to do 100+ boxes each day for 4 hours when everyday is literally the party section for me until I can’t work anymore out. I’ve got it down to two days but on the first I’m lucky to do 80 which is about 2 boats, since I don’t get to load a boat of my own or be there on truck day it can be frustrating. The manager and her best friend who can’t follow basic instructions or even be generally polite to anyone are there controlling everything. Today a different manager told me about our phone policy or reminded me, yet the manager I work with uses her phone to listen to music, call, and text people throughout her shift. Another manager I sometimes work with takes unscheduled smoking breaks and is on her phone allot, the hypocrisy is really generating negative feelings about even working with these people. It would be nice if they had to follow the rules. Being a team player is not completely in the question with the group I’m with right now, no wonder why the last person who had my job wished me luck. Integrity doesn’t really matter if you use that to step on people and bend the rules to the benefit of your status as management.

i really need anyone to listen to my shitty situation because i've got no one else to talk to.
this guy made me fall for him so hard we've been friends for the better part of 2 years. this guy is the only person to be able to grab my attention he is so gentle funny and sweet, he is really really beautiful but he doesn't realise it he thinks he is an ogre but i genuinely have never seen someone as beautiful as him. his simle and laugh are the only things i find worth anything in life. but he is really insecure there are some people in life who he looks up to and they make him seriously insecure and i can tell.
he doesn't know i love him, i never tried to even give a hint that i was, i was content with our friendship i had the best time in the world with the best, but i think its ending lately he has been just down right neglectful and absent. he is ditching me for a group of friends that he found no more calls texts no more hang outs. nothing. i became close to nothing for this guy almost instantly, i was thinking maybe he is just that way the type to get bored of people quick maybe his insecurities are pushing him to finding bigger groups of friends even if it meant ditching the old ones. maybe i am only so worked up over him because i love him in a way he could never reciprocate.
bottom line is i am jealous and bitter, i want to get better but i can't. also i keep having dreams about him and my mind apparently loves to torture me because l just woke up from a dream where i confessed my love and he reciprocated and we even kissed. as if there is a better way to start a day. i don't want our friendship to fucking end in fact i want it to go back to how it was but this time with him knowing i am in love with him.
ps the story is a lot more complicated than it seems, and its not completely one sided, the friendship started from his end he took charge and called me his best friend.

About a week ago I had to call the cops on this tweaker outside my building. Dispatch called said they were a min away. I had to go downstairs of my building and talk to the cop. When I saw him I was immediately attracted to him. He asked me basic questions about the guy and then he started to ask me questions of if I liked living at my apartment and such (it’s a brand new luxury apartment). We kind of hit it off and then he said “do you want me to text your number and give you updates on the guy” and I said sure. I kind of knew where this was going. So anyway we texted me telling me the guy left and if he came back to call this number. Long story short we have been texting ever since. He’s super cool but his number isn’t from an iPhone. I only know his first name and tried looking up his number and it comes back at USA mobility wireless. We were hitting it off over text and update to today, haven’t heard from him in over 24 hrs… someone give me your POV!! Thanks!!! lol

hey fellas, 17 yr old here that needs to convert from nsw to vic p plates. since the vic rule is 18 up for p’s will I be put back onto my L’s till i turn 18? hopefully someone can help
cheers.

I'm not going to get into the details related to George Santos and the absolute clown show of his career.
But I was watching a story about him and one thing suddenly became perfectly clear, and made perfect sense, you might even say it's predictable despite its utter Madness and the thick fog of bullshit that surrounds everything about him.
He has repeatedly responded to established facts about his past and his actions and his background by just saying no I didn't do that or no that's not what happened.
If I actually went through all of the events and details he claimed about his past and his actions that turned out to be absolute horseshit and easily debunked then we'd be here all day.
But probably the one that stands out in everyone's memory is the fact that he was a drag queen for years, and an ambitious one at that.
Once press got a hold of irreproachable evidence for it, that fact was widely published and caused quite a stir given his location on the map of political ideology. But even though there were photos of him doing it, videos including one of him in drag proudly discussing how many venues where he had performed, and witnesses who knew him then all made public...
Santos just said no I didn't.
He gave the same response when being caught in many many other lies; I mean basically his entire biography is fiction cut from whole cloth. When and how his mother died, where he went to school, where he'd worked, pretty well everything he ever said about himself was absolute gobbledygook and reporters were digging up absolute incontrovertible proof.
But he just keeps saying no I didn't or you miss heard me or I misspoke.
Why?
It just hit me like a ton of bricks that George Santos is not an absolute mad man nihilistically weaving fairy tales for his constituents while assuming the press couldn't possibly uncover the mountain of evidence that disproves everything he says.
Santos was just following in the footsteps of the most successful Republican in more than a decade.
Trump does exactly that. Trump simply denies and dismisses things for which there's unquestionable proof.
Trump makes constant claims that are easily disproven.
And yet nearly half of Americans are 100% on his bandwagon. They have the incredible staggering ability to just ignore evidence and facts. No matter what the proofs are no matter how airtight they just say no he didn't do that because he said he didn't do that.
In a world of politics where there is absolutely no significant meaning given to what's provable or factual regarding Trump, where his followers' ability to blind themselves regarding reality and regurgitate absolute Fairy Tail nonsense like it's gospel is so powerful you could swear they were robots. Droids programmed to only accept particular input and only spit out particular affirmations with no possibility of reflection or serious consideration or even possibly changing that opinion just because they love that guy so damn much.
In a world where that is actually a thing it makes absolutely perfect sense for George to shoot his shot at just saying no to everything proof or not. To simply call people who are pointing out his lies liars.
Because it worked perfectly for the new Republican role model. He would have had at least some chance of pulling it off.
My opinion is that he failed to reach anywhere near Trump's level of safety from incriminating truths mainly because he's just a repellent human being and the accusations included drag which in America right now seems to be on a road towards being legally deemed so heinous as to Warrant the death penalty.
But he tried it.
And it damn well could have worked. That's where we are. Facts and proof mean nothing. If you're on the right team and you hate the right people you can do any horrid inexcusable thing, like taking a bunch of minors away from their homes to another state, passing them around for you all to fuck at parties with your buddies, have that indisputably proven, and still be extremely successful, laughing your ass off while you watch the Rubes who support you telling reporters that they just don't believe any of that stuff because you are one of theirs.
This is a terrifying new landscape where politicians who frankly were always widely believed to be overall a corrupt and crooked collection of individuals, can truly perpetrate the most absolutely horrible acts imaginable, seemingly especially rapes since Matt Gates and Donald Trump are both well known and proven sexual predators and yet our two extremely successful politicians to this day.
And all they have to do say no I didn't do that and the people voting for them immediately become impervious to all proof taking their word as the absolute gospel and closing their eyes and ears to anything that might run counter to that belief.
I don't think it's an exaggeration anymore just say that Trump could pull out a gun and shoot someone in the middle of Fifth Avenue then look at it a crowd of supporters and say I didn't do that and they would all cheer and emphatically agree that no he did not do that.
My God this is depressing. I feel like I could go drink a whole bottle of bleach right now. Maybe put my head in the oven but it's electric so probably won't help.
Thank you for attending my TED Talk.

My boyfriend and I broke up in 2019 and neither of us have dated since then because we seem to can't move on from each other but at the same time we can't get back together. Our relationship didn't end badly so we still try to remain as friends and text occasionally. We did try to get back together but we still had our differences and it didn't work out. It was going well but then things were said and once again we went back to just checking up on each other. I'm someone who doesn't really text or call people because I simply don't have the interest. I'd rather be watching my shows but with him it's different. I always feel genuine happiness talking to him about anything. We spoke today and I don't think I've ever felt so happy texting someome. I don't know what to do anymore. So many years have passed and every time I thought I've moved on, I find myself thinking about him again. I will never understand how people can just move on so easily and start dating again. I thought if we just stopped communicating it would help but it didn't because somehow we always end up talking again and we get our hopes up just for both of us to disappear again. It's like we're stuck in a cycle.

my boyfriend and I have been together for one year. There have been two times where I have caught him downloading a dating app while we were still together. I say while we were still together because we have also broken up two times in the span of the year but both times were very short. I have had a weird feeling lately, although he has been really sweet, he never really has time to talk to me anymore. He’s always on discord with his friends when I’m here.(his house) and occasionally turns to give me a Kissy face or cuddle for a few minutes. The only time we ever really get to talk is in the car or going to get food somewhere. Every single time I’ve tried to plan a date in the past few months, he has either slept in too late or just not wanted to go. We were supposed to go on a date today to the museum but we both slept in. we just stayed home and he gamed all day, we barley talk just short moments of affection. now it’s 3 am and He fell asleep on his living room couch. Normally I would wake him up to come to bed but I don’t feel like it now after what I’ve seen on his phone. I know it’s bad to go through his phone but every time I do I find something. I can’t help following that gut feeling sometimes, unfortunately mostly to my demise. I saw that he had deleted a chat with this girl that he had previously dated. I don’t think they were ever serious, but I have caught him texting her once before. he simply said “hey hope you’re doing well.” She hadn’t texted him first, he texted her out of the blue. “coincidentally” the same night that we had a conversation about how i felt he had been kind of dismissive towards me lately. she responded” thanks same to you” he hearted the message and that’s all I could see from the conversation. I’m not sure if he deleted the rest or if they called. i don’t know my minds racing with possibilities. during this relationship, my anxiety has grown so much and physically i’m trembling in his bed right now over the situation. I don’t know how to handle this. I’m comfortable with him. I feel safe and happy, but at the same time I’m constantly scared that he’s gonna hurt me (emotionally). I don’t know how to describe the feeling without sounding crazy. I need a therapist, but I can’t afford it. my best friend is there for me, but all she says is “screw him just find someone” like in a hyping me up type way, she doesn’t really know how to give me the advice i need. I love him so much, he’s s the one of the few people i feel comfortable being myself around. I adore and care for him so so much . I just wish he would stop hurting me and just be honest with me. i don’t know how to handle the situation, i was thinking of confronting him when we see eachother again on wednesday. i just want him to understand where i’m coming from. because most of the time when this happens it just ends in me apologizing for going through his phone. he gets angry before he even has a chance to hear how i feel. i was thinking if twisting it on him, saying “babe i have to tell you… i texted (ex he’s jealous of) the other day… nothing serious i just felt like texting him.” and seeing how he reacts. sort of turning the tables so he feels how i feel for a second. then if course i tell him it’s not true and that i actually caught him texting the girl. i don’t know that sounds a bit much. i just need actual advice on how to move forward.

my boyfriend and I have been together for one year. There have been two times where I have caught him downloading a dating app while we were still together. I say while we were still together because we have also broken up two times in the span of the year but both times were very short. I have had a weird feeling lately, although he has been really sweet, he never really has time to talk to me anymore. He’s always on discord with his friends when I’m here.(his house) and occasionally turns to give me a Kissy face or cuddle for a few minutes. The only time we ever really get to talk is in the car or going to get food somewhere. Every single time I’ve tried to plan a date in the past few months, he has either slept in too late or just not wanted to go. We were supposed to go on a date today to the museum but we both slept in. we just stayed home and he gamed all day, we barley talk just short moments of affection. now it’s 3 am and He fell asleep on his living room couch. Normally I would wake him up to come to bed but I don’t feel like it now after what I’ve seen on his phone. I know it’s bad to go through his phone but every time I do I find something. I can’t help following that gut feeling sometimes, unfortunately mostly to my demise. I saw that he had deleted a chat with this girl that he had previously dated. I don’t think they were ever serious, but I have caught him texting her once before. he simply said “hey hope you’re doing well.” She hadn’t texted him first, he texted her out of the blue. “coincidentally” the same night that we had a conversation about how i felt he had been kind of dismissive towards me lately. she responded” thanks same to you” he hearted the message and that’s all I could see from the conversation. I’m not sure if he deleted the rest or if they called. i don’t know my minds racing with possibilities. during this relationship, my anxiety has grown so much and physically i’m trembling in his bed right now over the situation. I don’t know how to handle this. I’m comfortable with him. I feel safe and happy, but at the same time I’m constantly scared that he’s gonna hurt me (emotionally). I don’t know how to describe the feeling without sounding crazy. I need a therapist, but I can’t afford it. I just need someone to talk to. my best friend is there for me, but all she says is “screw him just find someone” like in a hyping me up type way, she doesn’t really know how to give me the advice i need. I love him so much, he’s s the one of the few people i feel comfortable being myself around. I adore and care for him so so much . I just wish he would stop hurting me and just be honest with me. i don’t know how to handle the situation, i was thinking of confronting him when we see eachother again on wednesday. i just want him to understand where i’m coming from. because most of the time when this happens it just ends in me apologizing for going through his phone. he gets angry before he even has a chance to hear how i feel. i was thinking if twisting it on him, saying “babe i have to tell you… i texted (ex he’s jealous of) the other day… nothing serious i just felt like texting him.” and seeing how he reacts. sort of turning the tables so he feels how i feel for a second. then if course i tell him it’s not true and that i actually caught him texting the girl. i don’t know that sounds a bit much. i just need actual advice on how to move forward.

I (26F) have been seeing this guy (27M) for a couple of months. We met years back through mutual friends. He recently reached out and it led to hanging out, flirting, and to going on dates. Since the beginning, he always paid for everything even when I offer, and he is very gentlemanly. We texted frequently and called. I felt great chemistry and attraction to him and his demeanor.
However, he doesn’t directly communicate with me when it comes to his intentions and feelings even though I’ve been as transparent and honest as possible on my end. Since transitioning to a new job, he’s become very busy as it’s a demanding position and I’ve noticed the texting dwindled down to one a day. I’ve asked to call but that was ignored, and he doesn’t initiate calls anymore. He still took me out on a date and everything was fine in person, but when we’re apart it feels like all the warmth that was given to me is pulled away and I am left in the cold.
The first time I thought he needed space was because he drew distant after we established we were talking, but he asked if I was mad at him so I was under the impression he cared. The second time he pulled away was right after a really great date in which he became cold after expressing how excited he was to see me again. He said he was just busy after I told him I don’t mind ending this if he was just keeping me as an option. He never clarified what his intentions were but just said he understood and still tried keeping the conversation going. I put a lot of effort into making sure his effort is reciprocated when he does show it.
I’ve communicated that I don’t care if we can’t text as frequently and I just wanted consistency and effort which he showed for a little bit. I finally got him to communicate a bit more and he said he just wanted to take his time with things, and implied that a relationship was not his priority at the moment.
I’ve teetered between waiting to see what happens or taking what he’s shown me at face value, and I think I’ve decided I’ve had enough. This is the third time I’ve felt this push-pull dynamic and I am tired, even though I do like him a lot, think he’s a genuinely good person, and am very physically attracted to him. However, his actions make me feel like I’m being kept at arm’s length or as a backup option. I usually feel secure with myself and my relationships but my anxiety has been at a high. I went through one of the roughest periods of my life recently and he did not have the capacity to be there for me or ask how I was doing. I don’t see a point in putting more effort for someone if they aren’t someone I can lean on or build trust with.
I don’t know if it’s right to end this by ghosting. I think he is a good person, and just unavailable but I think if I bring up that I have a problem again, this will either end with a sour taste (I still want to be friends) or I’ll get strung back into this unhealthy dynamic. I also feel bad if I ghost because he’s opened up to me about his childhood trauma already despite saying he never opens up to people and this has led me to care about him. I also don’t know if he would care if I ghosted. How should I handle this?

I broke it off with him explaining all the reasons why. He never initiated anything and was becoming obsessed with sex to the point I just didn't want to see him anymore because I knew hee would be all over me without doing anything that we can bond over and create memories, never wanted to talk about issues..but rather went cold for a few days and came back like nothing happened, which made me resentful and I broke up, Now he is contacting me again, using the same "technique". first, he ignored my long breakup message (I broke up over a looong text because he wouldn't answer his phone for the entire day and was just not interested in ever talking to me about issues - we were also LDR for the past 6 months - used to live together before) He out of the blue sent me a sweet message that is more like an inside joke..not even asking how I am, why we broke up, can we work things thru, nothing...just something like "hello my flower" (but as a cute inside joke we had) and keeps trying to contact with messages like that. I ignored him, He called, I ignored a call, and now he sent me the same stuff in my e-mail. I don't know what to do. I feel bad if I block him, but I think he is once again ignoring my feelings and what I have shared with him and is acting like nothing happened. - sorry for bad engllish it is not my native language. Why is he doing this?

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I've been friends with this girl for about 5 years now. We've gotten very close and I still have love for her but I just don't feel like this friendship is adding much to my life anymore since I don't feel like our relationship is very equal.
For context/background, I recently experienced a series of deaths in my immediate family as well as moving to another city so I've been going through a lot of stress and emotional turmoil. I would call her from time to time and admittedly a lot of those phone calls would be me crying and moping around. I hoped that she would be supportive but most of those calls would just result in telling me that I had bad vibes or change the subject back to her, usually about her dating life. I've been there for her for when her long term boyfriend broke up for her and even staying with her for weeks to make sure she was ok but when my mother passed, she didnt call me back until the next day and spent maybe an hour with me the next day since she had made dinner plans with someone else.
I did express to her that I felt like she hadn't been there for me as a friend and it felt like she didnt understand why I was upset but she apologized and I just didnt have the emotional capacity to fight with her so I just accepted her apology and I've just been cordial with her at this point. I don't really have the desire to continue this friendship anymore but we have a lot of mutual friends and I can't deal with any drama but she's texted me asking "why I don't love her anymore". I have no idea how to respond since I wanted to just let this friendship fizzle out and avoid conflict since I dont think she understands why I've been keeping my distance.

Alot lately my boyfriend keeps going on females profiles on fb. He hasnt been texting them nor liking their pics. He just visit mostly females profiles. He even searched up one of his co workers that is a female didnt add her or nun. He did send her a message saying "i can show you better than i can tell you" due to her not telling him information he was supposed to know for their job. I told him about the message he sent her he doesnt seem like wah he said is a big deal. He tried to twist it to make it seem like he wasnt saying what he said. Its like when you tell someone that you finna do something to do could be anything. I just dk how to feel about him only going on female profiles n they sometimes be random females as well.

I’m 18m and over the course of the last 4 months, every single one of my 3 best friends stopped talking to me for different reasons. It’s hard to think I’m not the problem. I don’t have anyone to talk to anymore, play video games with, smoke with, hang out all night or someone to look forward to working with anymore because of random shit that I’ve done that I didn’t think were that bad. First was k. K and I stopped talking on the day after my birthday. Basically k I had known the least amount of time, just short of two years at the time after I met him when I started working. He quickly became my best friend I’ve ever had. We both had very similar very irregular sleep schedules,and liked the same stuff like video games, smoking, and hanging out at all the odd hours of the night and also had very similar senses of humor. So on my b day he had slept over the night before because he brought me home from work and didn’t wanna drive home so late, we didn’t do anything we both just went to bed and I went to school in the morning, he’s already graduated so he just chilled at my house. He got me after school and we chilled for like 2 hours before he left because he had a piercing appointment. He decided to come back a few hours later unexpectedly and it was rly excited to have him chill on my b day. But then randomly like an hour in he’s like dude I gotta go I’m sorry because his gf was freaking out that he wasn’t hanging out with her yet. They had plans to just hang out after she was out of work but I was like “dude it’s my b day she can’t like, reschedule or just wait a few” but she was firm and he left. Me and her were friends but I was mad so I texted her being just upset that she mad him leave and she started freaking out and we argued for a bit. The next day while I was working K texted me freaking out for texting her and such. I found out prior he wasn’t as mad about that but more mad about me constantly having to be right about everything and that just set him off. He still hasn’t shown any interest in talking to me again and it’s killing me. Then my friend A about a month or two later had some dumb little fight about something unimportant with me and he blocked me like he always does whenever he gets mad at me. Ive been friends with him for like 6 years and we always have stupid little fights about shit like him lying or ditching me for someone or stuff like just little disagreements that get blown out of proportion. I basically decided this time that waiting for him to get over it was not worth it and I’m not wasting my time waiting for him to forgive me for things that or more or less not my fault most of the time so I blocked him back this time and made the choice myself to drop him. It was hard but we clearly weren’t great together if we always argue so I just said it’s for the better. This led to W tho. About 2-3 weeks ago W stopped talking to me over a disagreement with A. Although I was done with A I went to go use my phone controller thing for a game called a back bone, it’s like 100 bucks and when I was looking for it I realized I had let A borrow it. Me, A, and W were part of our little group and usually did most things as a group. Since I had stopped talking to A, we obviously didn’t anymore and we both just talked to W separate. I basically asked W and our other mutual friend who I knew was actually with A at the time to tell him I wanted it back. W didn’t answer for a bit but the other friend did and said that “he said he’ll give it back if you give him the cards against humanity games”. I have like 4 $20 sets for cah that I had purchased throughout the years for our sleepovers. Since I bought them I told him through our mutual,” no, those are my cards. That I bought with my money. I’m not giving him my stuff to get my stuff back. I ain’t playing these games so tell him he either gives it back or imma beat him up.” Mind you the last fight I was ever in was when I was like 12 but I was just using scare tactics because it’s what works, I’m huge he’s small I was using what I had to get my shit back. W finally answered and got a different answer saying that he didn’t know where it was so I said then he owes 100 bucks. W was telling me I make plenty of money and to just let it go and I said no. He heard that I threatened him and that was basically it. He called me a bully and stopped talking. And that’s it. I have no friends now. I feel like I can’t not mess up. If I break my bong then I’d rly have no friends so I better not fuck him up too.

Everything you did was always out of your control. You never held yourself accountable for your own actions. Maybe it was "a bad day" or "you were was so stressed that you forgot" but in 3 years I only ever got a decent apology once and that was for you constantly screaming at me during our arguments. Your mother is a raging narcissist so you didn't even want me to usher the word in your presence. Everytime you hurt me and I asked you to change the things that made me feel small you always ended with "I don't want to promise you because I'm not sure I won't do it again and it will only hurt you more " knowing damn well that I would rather hear you promise me and see you fail trying instead of not even committing to it in the first place. It always made me feel like you were still trying to give yourself an excuse again when you did the same shit over and over again. You often said "You can't expect me to change over night, it takes time" even when I asked you for small things like hanging up my towel after showering because you put yours on the drying rack and mine crumbled up on the washing machine. You don't need weeks to show consideration for other when your brain works in a normal way that understands affection and appreciation. When I was down or annoyed because you treated me bad it was always me who apparently didn't have his emotions under control. Everytime you did something wrong or selfish it was always my fault. You often said things like "I was afraid how you would react so I got scared and stressed" so I had to apolizige to you for your own behaviour. For 3 years I always apologized, got more angry, aggressive and turned into a person I wouldn't even want to have around myself. Your friends tell you I'm being overdramatic and crazy because you never tells them how unappreciated you made me feel. You only mention the things that triggered me at specific moments and downplayed them because without context they didn't seem that grand. You never had anyone als close as me in your life who would see the real you, relied on you and would hold you accountable for your own actions. Most of your friendships are just texting every few days, talking over discord every few weeks or meeting up with a different person out of a pool of 20 twice a week to go to Burger King. Every time it came up you started crying and screaming that these people are your family. When we talked about things that hurt me you always cried to try to somehow end the conversation and when I mentioned the things at a later time you accused me of "Starting all over again" because in your mind the topic was finished. Because my feelings didn't matter and your promise to maybe do better should be enough for me. You didn't care how anxious and lonely it made me feel. You always acted as if you considered my feelings but your actions showed otherwise. At first I was sad that you replaced me in only a week but it isn't love. You want to fill the void because you are an empty husk. You have a crush on someone who has had the same trans experience as you and are a slave to your own hormones because of the testosterone indunced puberty. I feel sorry for him because you are going to hurt him as well. You can't think of others and will never be able to have genuine relationships. A lot of selfishs acts were excused by your need for polyamory and how you can love multiple people at once when you couldn't even commit to a single person to begin with. When you were broken and alone I build you up and and supported you without any conditions. Now that you broke me I get tossed aside. During the first year I couldn't even be alone for one hour a day to decompress because it made you feel rejected and alone even when you knew damn well about my ADHD induced sensory overload and how important it was for my mental health. My feelings didn't matter because you drowned them out with your crying and loneliness. I was foolish enough to let you. I feel genuinely sorry for you because you think you are a good person but you won't even consider your own illness because of your childhood trauma. Your own therapist isn't going to considering narcissisn because you twists your own memories into a way that fits your current feelings so you will never get the help you need and be held accountable for your own actions. How often did I hear that your friends think I'm making it all up but how would these people ever see the real you when your interactions are limited to talking on discord every few weeks, them staying over once every 3 months to go out for partying or you going to burger king to chat with them for a few hours once a month. You told me a lot of people considered you to be their best friend in the past but all your connections are shallow and artifical. Otherwise you wouldn't have broken down the second I gave you genuine affection on our third date for the first time in your life. How often did I make breakfast in bed, did your laundry, bought your groceries or picked you up from work as a surprise without you even asking and you never tried the same for me because "I just don't think of those things". You would rather stay in bed till 14:00 to watch YouTube Shorts while I was at work. I gave too much for to little. I wake up in the morning with burning skin and a pressure on my chest that leaves me breathless because I imagine you with him but it will pass. Your selfishness won't. I hope you get the help you need. Goodbye.

I (26M) recently discovered that my girlfriend (24F) might still be in contact with her ex, and I'm not sure how to approach the situation. My suspicions arose on her birthday when she got excited about a call from a work colleague. Given my history of being cheated on, I was already sensitive to such things. Later, I saw an Instagram notification from her ex on her phone, increasing my concerns.
When I asked her when she last spoke to him, she claimed it was before we started dating. However, I checked her phone and found they had been interacting intermittently over the past year while we were together. Their interactions included liking stories and brief "how are you" messages.
What really concerned me were a few messages where she initiated conversations, saying she missed him and wished he were at an event we attended together. She explained this as a cultural way of speaking from his country. They also mentioned meeting up when he visited our city, though she claimed these were just empty agreements they never followed through on. Another message had her joking about starting an OnlyFans account due to AI taking over, to which he responded non-flirtatiously.
When I confronted her, she accused me of invading her privacy and said this was traumatizing for her. She also claimed her ex was depressed and that she was just trying to cheer him up when he posted worrying stories. Their relationship lasted seven months and supposedly ended because they didn't have much in common, though I suspect it might have been because he moved away. She always spoke kindly of him, which adds to my suspicions.
After our first fight, she said we should only discuss this once and that I should trust her. Not wanting to hurt her, I was willing to believe her. However, before we slept, she deleted all the texts between them as well as a message to a coworker she had described as flirty, where she commented on a story saying it was a thirst trap and he repeatedly called her "pitchoune." The next day, I couldn't get it out of my mind. When I questioned her, not about deleting the messages or the coworker, she got angry, saying I was being hot and cold and that I didn't want her to talk to any men (which I hadn't mentioned). She then left the house.
During that time, I decided the evidence I saw wasn't damning enough and that deleting her texts with her ex was irrelevant because I believed I saw everything. As for the coworker, the text was in French, which I don't fully understand, so maybe it was okay. We talked things out, but now I don't feel okay seeing her texting or just being on the phone raises my heartbeat. She also started badmouthing the coworker, which didn't sit right, and I don't know what to do.
I'm really struggling to understand if I'm overreacting or if my concerns are valid. She lost her virginity to me, so I feel like cheating should not be in question. Any advice on how to handle this would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: I found out my girlfriend has been texting her ex and a flirty coworker behind my back. She claims it's harmless, but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if my concerns are valid. Looking for advice on how to handle this.

Hi I am new to this sub and I have been ignoring this issue for a good part of my life but recently, the consequences seem to be catching up with me.
I have been avoiding social interactions, whether it be F2F or through a medium. However, this only applies to certain groups of people. I have no problem socially with some groups of people. I have realised that the people I tend to avoid are people that have an expectation of me to fulfil duties of sorts.
Many people in my social circle thinks that I’m an extrovert because I could express myself clearly and well, always able to keep a conversation going smoothly. But on the inside, I realised that I really do not crave any social interaction.
New interactions that bring new duties always starts out fine but I eventually fall back into the same pattern. I am fully aware that my actions are not rational but avoidance has turned into some sort of drug for me. And I’m addicted to it.
It would start out as not wanting to return a text / email, and as I continually ignore these, they turn into calls or even visits to my home. And these cause me anxiety and makes me loathe myself even more. Notifications, phone calls and footsteps at my door are all sounds of impending consequences to me now, even if they are very much benign.
My impetus for avoidance starts out as my need for some alone time, and then it evolves into a fear of facing the disdain of the other party.
I can’t seem to break out of this vicious cycle because the barrier of facing the consequences is too intimidating for my weak mind, especially after this protracted avoidance period.
I have considered moving to some place where no one knows me to start anew. But I’m pretty sure that’s only a temporary solution, and a pretty avoidant one too.
I would like to face this issue now and I would appreciate if anyone who has went through or know someone that did could give me some much needed advice on facing it.

Prologue

Hello and welcome to my post. I will subdivide this into two large parts. One will cover my thoughts, feelings, my hopes and dreams...While the other will tell you the specifics of how I pass the time, what topics interest me, what passions do I posses. I believe that at the end of this leap into my inner world, you dear reader, will have all the necessary information to judge whether we are compatible or not.

Part I
I am writing this in the hopes of finding something that I lack. Lately I have had this feeling, this tinge of melancholy within the dephts of my being, this yearning to find a kindred spirit, another Soul, much like mine, to form a bond with. Perhaps Loneliness is the right word for what is bothering me, but to use it seems to carry with it a connotation of ungratefulness. Ungratefulness for the people that I do have in my life, although none of them, of course, have the connection to me that I seek here.

I have found it increasingly necessary to seek in this Life a sort of purity of thought. What I mean is, I have began to undestand what ideas and concepts are ultimately compatible with my inner most Self, ergo what guidelines I have to follow to feel the most whole. Naturally I have likewise realised what I cannot add to my Self and what I will henceforth reject with all the power that I posses.

With this new context in mind, I now follow on the path of self improvement. I will now begin to mold my Self into my perfected idea of how the Self should be. This is certainly a significant undertaking, one that will not be easy to follow through on but one that I ultimately have to do. To me such context is essential. It is akin to a Guiding Star shining in the night. I will follow this Star for without it I am lost in the vast Darkness.

Looking back at my life, it was suboptimal, especially if one compares the way it molded me to how I will now mold myself. I suppose I must look on with a hint of regret at all that time which one might consider to be lost. Still... I try to stave off such decisively negative interpretations, after all, I have ultimately came to these conclusions. That means that somewhere along the line I had to have picked up on enough of such ideas for them to become so cemented in my consciousness. Well, either that or I was always like this, but in that case I can at least thank my life up to this point for not being able to supress such manifestations of my inner most Self.

To add to the topic of my life, I must admit that not all the battles have yet been won, not all the Demons vanquished, not every Mountain climbed. I want you to keep such things in mind when deciding whether or not to approach me. Many will shy away, I undestand that much, but the pursuit of true Companionship is just another such battle. Having said all that I do believe that being able to overcome hurdles together carries with it a certain appeal. That is to say, what's the fun in joining once the Game is already over?

I don't shy away from such challenges, perhaps to a fault. Certain troubles that I faced in the past carry with them a long shadow over my current health and well being. Still, I intend to change little in this regard other than the proficiency with which I will clash the current of my Will against the cliffs of Life.
Part II
In this part of my post I will tell you about my interests and hobbies, I will try to be thorough, commonality in this regard is rather important to build a relationship
History. I have had an interest in history for almost a decade now, it started back in school and developed from there. Well, now that I think about it one could argue that it started even earlier in my life as I liked watching the odd historic documentary or film aired on television but it wasn't regular back then, I never actively sought it out. I am mostly interested in European history in the period between the 18th-20th century but I sometimes branch out to other time periods and other parts of the world. I watch various channels related to history and read articles and sometimes books. I have recently got a few books on the German revolution of 1848/1849 and a historical magazine on the Thirty Years' War. Besides that I try to visit museums sometimes.
Literature. Especially old novels. I like to immerse myself in the Worlds of these books, I tend to read them while listening to thematically fitting music and take my time with them. One time you are following a troubled Youth in his quest for spiritual understanding of the world, another you see the aged and decrepit Doctor gambling his very Soul on the promises of abtaining satisfaction in earthy pleasures, then again your olfaction notices the most pleasant scent known to man even as the one eminating it has the appearance of a revolting Frog. These and many other stories open up to you once you decide to set foot into the literary World.
Languages. I know three, with one being a bit rusty. I am currently working intently on strengthening it. I believe that if I continue to apply myself in this regard then I should be able to finally conquer it. What language am I working on? Well, if you were to stack all the major works in it they would be as tall as a house... It is fun to go through different works in multiple languages, the same goes for film, games and such.
Games. I recently played Cyberpunk 2077. Well as recently as I played any major story centric game. Now that the dust has settled and the bugs mostly removed...It's not that bad. The main questline at least. Besides that I tried Fallout 76 (Very average, I'm dissapointed with what they made the "RPG" system) and I might give Deus Ex Manking Divided another spin (since it's somewhat similar to Cyberpunk when it comes to its aesthetics). Dark Souls is one of my favorite series, I still haven't beaten Elden Ring though. When it came out I wasn't in the right mindset to invest a hundred hours into it, with all those bosses and difficult locations. I think I'll only consider playing it if I am streaming it to someone. I am generally interested in either streaming games or having the person I am talking to stream them to me. To be specific I mean streaming to a single person while being on call. Besides that I'm a big fan of Paradox strategy games, especially Europa Universalis IV and Heats of Iron IV, I tend to only play single player since I find multiplayer with many people to be rather stressful but on the other hand I have nothing against a co-op game. I'm not the best player though, despite the ammount of hours I have in them. Another great game I would mention would be Dragon's Dogma. A very underrated RPG. I recently beat it again and it was an atmospheric and interesting experience. It is one of those games that feel like they have an endless ammount of depth and constant new secrets to discover.
Anime and Manga. In recent times my interest in them has waned but I still watch the occasional series here and there. Like Cyberpunk Edgerunners (Which I found to be rather mediocre) and the very good first season from the new arc of Bleach. Some of my favourite series include: Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood, Death Note, Fate;Zero, Psycho Pass, Code Geass and Attack on Titan. I wouldn't mind if you were to introduce me to some new series, maybe based on the ones I mentioned. My favourite Manga is Berserk which I still follow, althought I am still not certain on the direction that the new author is taking. I suppose it really is a matter of contention whether a somewhat (or considerably warped) vision is better than an unfinished work. One could argue that a few novels remain unfinished and possess a macabre appeal to them as such.
Music. Classical music has a very special place in my heart. A few of my favourite pieces would be: Clair de Lune, Nocturne Op. 9 No.2, Devil's Trill Sonata, Danse Macabre, Valse Sentimentale, Symphony No. 7 in A Major, Op. 92: II. Alegreto (by Beethoven) and Suite from Swan Lake, Op. 20a: I. Scene. Moderato. There are more but these ones always invoke something in me when I listen to them. Besides Classical I also enjoy listening to Synthwave, old Western pop and J-pop, both modern and from the 20th century.
Esotericism. I am interested in things spiritual, mystical, magical and esoteric. I have read religios texts, magical grimoires, introductions to various schools of thought. It is interesting to me.
Epilogue
Hopefully I was able to cast the spotlight upon my inner World in a clear and unequivocal manner. I feel the need to add to the aforementioned that I am rather introverted, which means that I tend to dislike large social gatherings. I managed to condition myself to be able to endure the presense of large groups of people but it isn't something that I would seek out in most cases. Besides that I am neurodivergent and suffer from certain issues with mental health. I have to take medication to keep myself under control. They work well enough but certain days are harder than others. I respect the struggle that others have with mental health but in the context of a relationship I have my limits, no one with BDP for instance. I am also not looking for anything casual. I understand than one cannot demand depth and meaning from a conversation with an absolute stranger, that is akin to trying to build a sand castle right before the waves strike but I ask at least that you enter with a mindset that this might become something of significance. I also do want to say that I am completely Monogamous. My preference? The sickly, pale, intellectual who watches rain droplets slide down the window in Autumn. Lastly, if I enjoy the company of a person I tend to not want to let them go.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post and have a good day. I ask that you send a DM instead of a chat and that you give your thoughts on my title in the opening of your message.
Goodbye...Or perhaps untill we meet again

Hi,
me and my ex broke up 3 months ago. The breakup for devastating for me. We were dating for 8 years, living together for 4 years. Shortly before the breakup, we were in a process of buying a home, planning a family. I moved for her work across the state half a year ago and we already bought a safe family car.
When she broke up with me, it was sudden. She told me she suddenly lost all feelings for me, she doesn't love me anymore, she doesn't feel anything while looking at our photos apart from nostalgia, that she felt things like never before with her colleague (emotional affair), that I am a terrible person and she never wants to get back together. All she said was cold and very clear and truth be told, hearing all this, I was shattered. Unable to go to work, having no home anymore, it was devastating. I moved back to my home city and trying to pick up pieces of my life.
After some time, we started texting again, despite her wanting strict non-contact. When I didn't text her, she did, and vice versa. In a process of talking, she often asked me about restarting our relationship, asked me whether I would be willing to move again and confessed that she did not threw away our photos like she told me. When picking up last bits of things, we slept together and it was the best and most emotional sex we both ever had. Afterwards, we talked for hours and she invited me to her sisters wedding as her plus one.
If I ask her about it, she says that nothing changed. However, the mixed signals I see are giving me hope. Living with someone for so long does not allow me to just let them go like that, without trying to see some sort of solution.
How should I navigate this toxic mess?