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2024.05.15 22:59 Money_Ad_839 This country was strategically made into what it is, with plenty of systems set in place. Like a game.

Everyone is so emotionless and medicated and misinformed by this toxic society, which actually causes mental illness or worsen them but their trick is making you believe it's us and to work on US but they need to fix SOCIETY to help the mental health crisis, and the slave labor were forced into. Society is causing ASPD/Sociopaths/mental health crisis, including the disconnect caused by the internet. America says we're the land of the FREE which is western propaganda because we're literally the PRISON CAPITAL OF THE WORLD, which also caused mental health issues. This country is disgusting, emotionless , and toxic and everybody is becoming just like it because we're raised in it.you hear narsassism alot because it's literally on the rise, traits are being programmed into us in this soulless society.
Society is the problem, society needS to fix ITSELF. Western therapy and medicine is all evolved on making us think we need to fix ourselves and we're the problems but society is. It's sick. (Yes we also need to help ourselves but it's literally Impossible, made impossible by our government, in this country, it's miserable and nothing to look forward to but to get used by employers and own nothing, and taxed and charged for every little thing)
This country has been strategically planned and made into what it is on purpose, with plenty of systems set in place to keep certain people ostracized and or believe certain things on purpose to serve certain purposes to benefit the 1% and society, it's horrible growing up with a high intelligence, clearing seeeing what were born into, how can you be happy?? Be it the public transportation system being bought out, demolished by big companies in the beginnging so we NEED CARS to go anywhere in most states, and to make us evolve around needing to buy gas, car insurance (scam) , we're brain washd to look down on the homeless(which is set in place on PURPOSE, SOCIETY NEEDS HOMELESS TOO SCARE US TO WORK LIKE SHEEP and people who figured this out and said FUCK THE SYSTEM are looked at as trash. Were programmed to get ready to work 40-50 hours weeks or your a bum, we still have LEGAL SLAVERY(SAYS IN CONSTITUTION, AKA PRISONERS AND JAILS, Which we have the most of in the WORLD.) The felon crisis and how we cant get good jobs(they need minimum wage workers and shitty job workers, so they make them with LABELS).. to making mentally ill think its all their fault and not a byproduct of this soulless society.
We're all so disconnected by the internet, we're all fighting each other(races) we're all brain washed into not liking certain types of people and it's GOOD to work for 50 years 50 hour a good,it's all meant to funnel the money made by the sheep (us) to the 1%. The police protect the one percent and laws that money buys(AKA politicians)
I can go on. It was all planned and developed and evolved by very highly intelligent psychopaths running this country since the beginning, it's all a game.
And I don't want to play.
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2024.05.15 22:56 Key_Reflection_9918 Advice to get into WashU or similar schools for a high schooler

So I know this may not be the right place for this but I’m not getting good answers anywhere else. I’m a high schooler and want to get into WashU. Current freshman, from STL, Asian, female, and not first gen.
I need some leadership EC ideas that look impressive on college application.
I’m a freshman in the US, I’m going to do a job interview later this week, plan to take 6-8 AP classes throughout HS, play Tennis for my school but not really good at it (for now, maybe I’ll be some a star somehow lol) planning to do something medical related but for sure STEM.
Asian, not first gen, I think my family makes somewhere around 70-100k a year. Female (if that even matters).
I’m in a really good non funded youth group out of school where we have meetings, plan big events in the community, and volunteer. Plan to get two seals of billeteracy. Plan to do something in the science fair every year (didn’t do this year I forgot lol), do spirit week etc (student appreciation) at my school.
Next year I plan to join the medical science club, DECA (I have no clue what that is), key club, and maybe speech and debate and a religious student organization (maybe)all at my school.
I heard that making a website or starting a business to support family is good to do (signed up to make a web for Medical related stuff and planning to do business) but what are some other things I can do?
I mostly want to get into WashU, but I wouldn’t mind getting into similar T20 schools, I feel like I should plan to do more than what I need to for WashU (more like Ivy League) do that if I end up not doing stuff I will still be good enough for WashU.
Also today I got this email from my schools where they are looking for counselors and cabin leaders for middle school camps. Should I do it? I didn’t go to my middle school camp, I don’t want to really stay overnight and that would take a lot of work, but I may not get this opportunity again, should I seize the opportunity or will something better and more impactful for my application come up later on?
Also I may not end up keeping all the stuff I listed and may always end up dropping some stuff. What things mentioned should I actually try? Which should I drop? Which should I work harder in? I want good scholarships too, any information would be great!
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2024.05.15 22:55 DFJoe Another Enlighten-Enphase question

I see a lot of helpful posts about enlighten app but did not see this particular question so starting fresh post.
TLDR: installer says they cannot track production from two separate systems unless both systems are enphase brand systems. True?
My solar installer has had difficulty integrating the monitoring for the new panels with my older “legacy” system and I am being told the Enphase system cannot report both the new system and my legacy system because the legacy Microinverters will not communicate with the Enphase monitoring system.
Previously, the sales rep communicated that new system ~would be able to report total production from legacy system and report / track individual production on the new panels~ with the Enphase IQ8+ Microinverters and would not be able to track individual panel production with the Enlighten App. Now tech is saying:
" I called Enphase this morning, the short answer from them is that we cannot track production from two separate systems unless both systems are enphase brand systems. To track all production, we will need to replace all of the Blue Frog microinverters with Enphase micro inverters."
~Legacy System~
(20) Itek Energy 240w panels + (10) Blue Frog 500 Microinverters – 2013 install
(12) Itek 275w panels + (6) Blue Frog 500 Microinverters – 2015/16 install
~New System~
(6) 410W Elite panels + 3 Enphase IQ8+
After the install I got errors on the Enlighten App and the production readings were “confused” to say the least. In talking with the tech who has come out several times, he said the system cannot talk directly with the Blue Frog Microinverters, and is “confused” with the additional generation of the 32 legacy panels (16 Blue Frog Microinverters). Image below represents the Enphase inverters in Blue and the bars on top are labeled consumed power but tech reports that these are actually the generation from the legacy system. I do not know if this is true, but the curve of values does seem reasonably to track with solar exposure during the day.
PICTURE 1
Tech returned yesterday and monkeyed around with the system for a while and said there was not a way to capture the legacy system in the reporting on the Enlighten app. He did remove the legacy feed so it no longer appears as consumed on top of the blue bars. Reporting still shows my consumed power.
PICTURE 2.
The strings all come together in a sub panel and then are routed to an Enphase IQ combiner 5.
PICTURE 3 and 4 / 5
I would like to be able to see all my power generated in one location.
A system that can combine new and legacy system in the reporting app does not seem super unusual to me but the installer is challenged to come up with a way for the Enlighten App to report from the other strings of panels that use the blue frog Microinverters and the Enphase microinverters.
Can the Enphase combiner and app be setup for my new and legacy system to report all production? Apologies in advance if I am misusing or butchering terminology or concepts.
Thanks for any input you have!


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2024.05.15 22:54 raidengl Dealerships not playing ball

So there is a 2019 SL plus w/protection package for $15,000 that I'm interested in. So I called the dealership to see if it's still available. The sales rep said she would go find out then call me back. She texted me that it was. Then I asked if they were set up to do the $4000 rebate at the dealership. At first she said there was no rebate. Then I explained there was. She said her boss told her I had to do it when I filed my taxes. So I texted her the link to the IRS website to register their dealership.
Her boss then called me to tell me that only dealerships listed with the government can do this and they aren't. I said all the dealership has to do is register. He said we don't do that here we hand you the paperwork to do it when you file your taxes.
I told them they just lost out on a sale and hung up.
The sad part is the only Plus available near enough to me that I'm willing to drive to them and that I can afford to buy outright is that one.
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2024.05.15 22:53 alwaystitrate New large advent question

Looking at a pair of large new advents for sale. The tweeters have been replaced, drivers have been refoamed, and the crossovers have been rebuilt. They’re asking 200, are they worth it? Planning to use them for a vinyl system if purchased.
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2024.05.15 22:50 Meradium $2000 Build to replace a 10 year old Setup

I know next to nothing about building a PC, but here's the list that I made so far: https://pcpartpicker.com/list/7jRmcH
  1. **What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.**
  2. Most intensive things will be playing games like Elden Ring, Sekiro, Baldur's Gate 3, Vermintide, Path of Exile, and Apex. Otherwise, I'll be using the PC for schoolwork and medical research.
  3. **What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?**
  4. About $2000
  5. **When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.**
  6. I plan on building the PC before the summer is over, so I can purchase the parts at any time between now and then.
  7. **What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc\)**
  8. Everything except the peripherals. I've included the speakers that I've been thinking about getting, with the total budget (including the speakers) being $2500.
  9. **Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?**
  10. United States, and I live near a microcenter
  11. **If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.**
  12. Mouse: Logitech G502, Keyboard: Keychron V2; Monitor: Len C32qc-20
  13. **Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?**
  14. Nope
  15. **Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)**
  16. SSD with a fair amount of storage so I don't have to worry about it again. I honestly don't plan on trying to upgrade this PC anytime soon--the last PC I built 10 years ago has served me well till now (which will be given to a family member once I build this new PC) and I hope I can build another PC that can last me just as long.
  17. **Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?**
  18. No preference
  19. **Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?**
  20. Windows should be included in the budget.
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2024.05.15 22:49 Background_Round447 AITAH For filing a claim against an estate with an open probate case?

We have a small family business and completed services at a property. The person who solicited the services never paid despite multiple promises to send payment over a 45 day period. Our email signature line and our invoice clearly spell out that we automatically file a lien against the property after a certain point (as allowed by state law) and the owner is responsible for lien fees if necessary. After repeated attempts to collect payment from this person, which were often met with hostility, we filed a lien against the property. In doing so, we found out that the property is also currently in an open probate case. We called the local probate court helpline and they advised that we file a claim against the estate as well because that claim will have to be resolved before the estate can be closed out of probate court. We also know from past experiences that the house cannot be sold with an active mechanics lien. We've had title companies call us before for liens placed years ago because the person was trying to sell and it got flagged and they had to pay us in full in order to be able to schedule a closing date for the sale. For the record, we do not charge any interest or late fees on our invoices. We only charge them the lien filing fees and we don't mark it up. Even though our payment terms are due on completion, we don't even attempt to file a lien until it's been 45 days. The state allows for immediately filing and you cannot file after the 60 day mark. We feel we try to be as far as possible to our customers. After filing the lien and estate claim, as expected, the owner became very upset. When we spoke with their attorney, he made us feel extremely bad about the situation and said this woman was on the verge of homelessness and they were trying to get the property sold to cover expenses, but that she wasn't ready to move yet. He made the comment "He understands we are very insistent on getting our $1,000". I understand this may seem a small amount to some, but as a small business, I feel like we deserve to be paid for the services we provided. We are very often sympathetic with owner's needs and have allowed payment plans in the past, etc. but only when they communicate with us and are nice and respectful. This lady has lied repeatedly, yelled, said nasty things, etc. and at no point did she tell us anything about her financial situation. To make matters worse, she didn't only solicit work for her property. She had us complete another couple hundred dollars worth of work at her neighbor's property and said she was doing it as a courtesy to the neighbor and that she would take care of payment. If she already knew she was struggling financially, why make it worse and have us complete work at someone else's property that isn't her responsibility? The attorney's comment really made me feel bad. I understand why it seems like we are putting a lot of effort into $1,000 and going after someone who is struggling, but also, why should she be allowed to solicit work from contractors knowing she cannot pay? That's not fair, regardless of her financial situation. AITA?
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2024.05.15 22:48 air-rick- Update - Best Buy Proposal

I’m requesting some additional help with my home theatefamily room setup. You helped me avoid going with the contractor special 0.1.5 (all in-ceiling speakers). Previous Post. Since my last post, I prewired for a 5.1.4 based on the Dolby Atmos diagram you shared with me. I am currently choosing speakers. I've listed a proposal I received from Best Buy, and I have a few questions for you.
Proposal:
I purchased the Klipsch RP-1400SW a couple weeks ago for $699 from Adorama.
Questions:
  1. I know this sub typically recommends a Denon receiver. Any concerns about the Sony?
  2. Are the B10's sufficient for this large of a room 30' X 20' X 9'? I would prefer to stick with bookshelf speakers due to cost and aesthetics if possible.
  3. Is there a less expensive alternative to MartinLogan that has a similar sound? The sales guy from Best Buy had me listen to several speakers (Bowers & Wilkins, KEF, MartinLogan) in their listening room. I preferred the sound of the MartinLogans. However, I might be okay with a more budget brand. The current proposal is stretching how much I would like to spend.
  4. Is it worth getting the extra items in the proposal (HDMI, speaker cables, power conditioner)?
Any feedback on the setup and recommendations are appreciated.
Thanks for the help!
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2024.05.15 22:44 OptimalMale1 Anyone in the US selling?

I am new to reptime and unfamiliar with the entire process of ordering qc and shipping through us customs. Is there someone reputable in this sub who would like to sell a rep? I,d be more comfortable purchasing domestically and knowing the watch is already customs cleared. Anyways pm me what is for sale! Us based sellers only. Thanks on advance
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2024.05.15 22:42 AdrianM1996 Type me

I always got INTP or ISTP on those free tests but I’m not sure.
• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I am a 27 years old trans man. I have been socially transitioning for nearly 4 years and medically transitioning for 7 months. I’ve uprooted my life in more ways than one and it’s by far been one of the best decisions I’ve made.
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
I have been struggling with depression and anxiety on and off since my adolescence and probably have ADHD or autism as well.
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
I’m an only child. My mum’s always been something of a fire-cracker and has struggled with alcoholism and emotional abuse from her mum. She always had very high expectations of me and she’s probably part of the reason why I have such unreasonable expectations for myself. My dad is a lot more chill even if he doesn’t get me 100 percent of the time. Ultimately, I think they tried their best. My parents aren’t particularly religious but I went to a Catholic school until I was nine. I never really bought into it and it was a relatively chill school but it probably affected me in some way.
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
I honestly haven’t been able to hold down a stable job at all. After getting a pretty useless degree, my jobs have all been crappy and short-lived and I never really figured out what I wanted to do with my life. I wanted to be a writer or an artist but I have a near permanent case of creative burnout. I’m a part-time zookeeping student right now.
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
It depends. If I’ve had a busy week I’ll welcome the peace and quiet. If things have been quiet I’ll get bored and a bit lonely.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
I have a mixture of indoor and outdoor hobbies. I like gaming, especially RPGs, builders, and dumb shooters. I also enjoy card games and board games and I’ve recently started picking up chess. I like watching movies and anime, particularly horror and action. I used to read a lot of fiction but I find myself too distracted these days. If I do read it’s usually nonfiction about a topic I’m interested in or academic works.
In terms of outdoor hobbies, I’m only just opening up to them as I’ve been a particularly notorious shut-in for a lot of my life. I enjoy nature walks, working out, bouldering, gardening, and swimming. I’m not amazing at sports but I wouldn’t say I’m completely useless either. I prefer more solitary activities to team based ones. I have a bit of a competitive streak and exercise helps keep it in check.
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
Very curious. I usually have a couple of ideas on the go but I wouldn’t say I’m overflowing with them. My curiosities are usually about the natural world, video game lore, and new hobbies I may want to take up.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
I could be an okay leader if no one else was able to take up the position but I would be anxious about the responsibility and expectations others have of me. I’d like to think I’m firm but fair.
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
I’m okay. I can match other people’s movements quite well. I can get a little bit careless and clumsy when I’m distracted or anxious though.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
Back when I used to draw, I drew a lot of tattoo designs and illustrations. Like something you’d find on an album cover or a book cover. I also drew many of the creatures and characters I wrote about. I’m have an eye for colour and I am drawn to art-deco and art-nouveau aesthetics.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
The past, while not always easy to revisit due to fuzzy memories or trauma, has led me to this very moment. I try to take every day as it comes and that has helped me a lot. I am nervous for the future as I have few concrete plans and life may throw me a curve ball. But I am also excited to see what has in store for me.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
It depends who’s asking and what they want help with.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Absolutely.
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
Efficiency is pretty good. Work smarter, not harder and all that. Productivity less so. I’m just happy when I get things done.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
Not really. Unless they are negatively impacting me or other people I prefer to leave people to their own devices.
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
Pretty sure I already answered this question.
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
I’m a visual and hands-on learner. I suck at internalising verbal instruction. I despise overly rigid learning environments so I struggled a lot in school. I enjoy learning at my own pace and by going out and doing things first-hand.
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
Improvise but I try to make a basic structure that I may or may not deviate from.
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
To be the best version of myself I can be and live the most fulfilling and rich life I can.
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
My two biggest fears are quite abstract and they are being aimless and being trapped. I’m also mildly agoraphobic and afraid of wasps. I hate wilful ignorance and bigotry, especially when those things actively make the world a worse place for everyone.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
I feel alive, happy, and a zest for life. I feel like I’m running on a motor and that I can do anything I want.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
When I feel low, I get in a funk and it’s very hard to get out. I literally find it impossible to relax unless someone is there to get me out of my head. If I’m not careful I can get isolated. And that’s when I start to spiral.
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
Sometimes I let my mind wander, particularly when I’m listening to music. It doesn’t take much to bring me back to reality though.
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
I’d probably go a bit mad and try to devise an escape plan.
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
I like to take my time to weigh out the pros and cons. I make stupid decisions when I’m rushed. I may change my mind if circumstances change and it’s not going to inconvenience me too much.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
A long time. My emotions are a mess and I barely know what I am feeling half the time. Journaling has helped me make sense of them and processing them to a degree.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
Not really. I either stay quiet or try to disagree with them in a productive way depending on how bold I’m feeling at the time.
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
I follow rules if they are there for a good reason. Like waiting in line. If they’re stupid rules I have less qualms about breaking them.
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2024.05.15 22:42 Classic-Sympathy-224 United Health Care marketplace insurance showing specialist is in network, but hospital says otherwise.


TLDR: Signed up for affordable health insurance through marketplace. Plan claims specialist is in network, but the hospital called and said the appointment won't be covered and United Health Care is not in network. I called UHC and they said some things that didn't really make sense and hung up. What Should I do? This is in Alabama btw.
I was fired form my job in February and lost my insurance which was BCBS FEP. Before I lost that insurance, I had some imaging work done for a medical issue that I am dealing with. That imaging work was done in March under BCBS. I officially lost the insurance in April. During this time I had an appointment with a specialist scheduled in May and I figured that would give me enough time to sign up for marketplace insurance. I managed to get signed up with United Health Care Silver Plan at the end of April so I would have insurance ready for my appointment in May. When I was looking for the insurance, I filtered the results to show the specific specialist that I had the appointment for and the hospital/medical center that the specialist works at. Marketplace (Healthcare gov) showed that the doctor and facility were in the network for this plan. I bought the plan and was happy thinking that everything should go smoothly for my upcoming appointment. This is where things start getting confusing. I got a call from the hospital (I believe it was the department of the specialist that I needed to see) saying that the insurance that I have (UHC) will not cover anything at all including initial visit, imaging, surgeries etc. I broke out in an instant sweat. I told her that the marketplace website said that this doctor and facility were in the network. I ended up rescheduling to late June. I keep having to push this appointment back due to the insurance issues. I called UHC to confirm whether the hospital/specialist was showing if they were in the network in their system. They did not really help much. The rep said something along the lines of "A primary care physician needs to send a referral to the specialist and they don't have it in the UHC system. The thing is I had a referral sent which is why I had an appointment to begin with, it was just sent when I was enrolled in Blue Cross Blue Shield FEP. Basically my question is: WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE? Should I file some type of complaint to get the money that I have paid for the plan? What's the point of having a plan that doesen't cover anything. I only went with this plan because of the affordability and the benefits. It has an $1800 deductible and I was pretty sure I will need some surgery. It said on the website that the facility and doctor were in the network. Should I cancel the plan and look for another plan through marketplace? I am currently unemployed and living off savings for now. I really am trying to see a doc soon because my medical issue wont allow me to exercise or exert myself. I know this may sound like I am all over the place but I am needing some advice. Also this is taking place in the state of Alabama. Just looking for some advice on what to do next. If more details are needed then let me know. Thanks.
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2024.05.15 22:42 Legitimate-Top-4401 Concerns about who my child is around.

So, I live in SC. My ex-wife (28F)(we will call her Kate) and I (34M) and a daughter (5F) together. My ex-wife has been dating this guy (42M)(we will call him Jim) since January. They met at a playground and started dating. She started living with him just a few weeks into their relationship. She took my daughter to live with him too. I learned that Jim is still married. His wife (35F)(we will call her Tiff) only left him back in September due to Jim's inability to remain sober from drugs and alcohol. Jim and Tiff have 3 boys all under the age of 7. Jim is really good at putting on a good show for everyone and making them believe he's sober. Ever since I met him, I've had a bad feeling about him and my daughter being around him. Kate is very easily manipulated especially by whoever is giving her validation in her life.
For a little background on the involved parties, I am a paramedic, Tiff is a nurse, Tiff and I have been in the medical field for several years, Kate isn't able to hold a steady job, she always finds a reason to quit every job she has that doesn't allow her to work from home, she is now (since she started seeing Jim) a personal trainer and life coach, Jim is a personal trainer, life coach, and more motivational speaker.
So, Tiff and I ended up crossing paths on accident. After talking with her, I learned that Jim has been relapsing every year or so for the last 13 years. He relapsed about a year ago. Tiff found mini alcohol bottles in their laundry room. When she called Jim out he blew up on her and tired to deny it. Tiff requested a drug and alcohol test to which he blew up again and refused to do either. Tiff finally reached her breaking point and left Jim last September. She realized that after 13 years of Jim relapsing over and over again she doesn't want to continue to put herself or her children through that kind of life style. Tiff said that Jim refuses to be in any kind of recovery program like AA or N.A. due to he believes that he is above programs like that and he is better than the people who attend those programs. Tiff stated that at one point Jim overdosed in their own home and that if she hadn't got home when she did he would be dead and that he almost didn't survive in the end. Jim has done whatever he's needed to in order to fill his addiction.
I also learned that Jim has felony convictions and spend time in jail and on probation. Jim was convicted and arrested for B&E after her broke into the home of a client of his in order to steel the client's narcotic pain medications.
I also know, because Kate informed me, that at one point all 4 children were left unsupervised in the upstairs of Jim's house and the children, including my daughter, started showing each other their private parts. Tiff informed me that it was brought to her attention by her oldest that her middle child told my daughter to show him her private parts and then proceeded to touch my daughter. At the time, I wasn't aware of the living arrangements expect for my daughter was at Jim's house. Tiff told me that all 4 of the children were sleeping in the same room and my daughter was sharing a bed with her youngest son. When Tiff learned this, she immediately confronted Jim and told him that this is inappropriate and unacceptable. At that point Kate and Jim had to come up with other arrangements for my daughter. My daughter is now sleeping on the floor in Jim's office on a mattress.
I am trying to decide what to do at the moment. Neither Tiff or myself have any desire to stay living in SC long term (just so we are all clear, Tiff and myself are not seeing each other). Neither of us feel comfortable with our children being cared for by or being around our ex's. My daughter and Tiff's oldest have on multiple occasions told us that they do not want to go home to the other parent's house. My daughter cries almost every day when I talk to her because she misses me and wants to come home to me. We are both very concerned for all of our children's wellbeing both physically, mentally, and emotionally. Both Kate and Jim are not mentally stable. They both cling onto anything that gives them validation and they are both extremely controlling and manipulative.
Does the legal community of Reddit think I have a case to petition the court for full custody of my daughter while only giving my ex visitation right? I don't want child support from her. I don't want to keep our daughter away from her. I just want my daughter to be safe. And I do not believe that living with Kate and Jim is providing a safe environment. Tiff agrees with me and has also offered to testify for me if needed against her husband and my ex.
Also, our divorce/custody paperwork doesn't have the standard restraining orders in it. So, I'm wanting to make changes to that. Some of the changes that I want to make are as follows:
-Neither party is allowed to have 5F around anyone that isn't family by birth or marriage that has a felony conviction/record, and regardless of relationship, isn't allowed to have 5F around anyone that has any violent felony conviction/record.
-Neither party is allowed to have 5F around or introduce 5F to a romantic partner that they have been seeing for less than 6 months.
-Each party has to introduce a meeting between the New Romantic partner and their other parent prior to allowing 5F to be introduced to the romantic partner.
-Neither party is allowed to have 5F spend any overnights at the residence of a romantic partner unless they are married to the person in question.
-If living with or spending overnights with a romantic partner at either party's residence, 5F will have a bed and living arrangement that will not be in the same room as someone of the opposite sex of the child are/or isn't related to the child.
I'm also planning to have something put in there that will allow me to be able to move back home to be closer to my family without Kate being able to stop me. I don't have any family that lives near me and Kate's parents are the only family she has in the area. They are also getting up in years too and not in the best of health.
And just so you know, I'm already shopping for attorneys in my area. And no one knows that Tiff and I know each other. And we are planning on keeping it that way until we have no other choice.
So, do I have a case? Do the changes, overall, seem reasonable? What other considerations do I need to consider? Plus, any advice will be amazing. Thanks in advance for any and all help.
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2024.05.15 22:39 Still_Ad_4928 Of Hearts and Women Part-II (Book-Sample)

Not shared, nor my shade; but something to be weaved; just as the measure of disappointment became it's own solution. But I talked my way through things forbidden, just to find myself blind in bed with those who are dead. Clumsy, but altogether natural of course, because it's consciousness what you refer in the description, yet that's what we don't get a lot about. See your deeds the way you are seen, and then return to a restless place: and the question in-between sheets will be why. Well, I just can't motivate myself to work without hot bitches staring. And that's the truth. Sad but True
— Hearfelt comment for an instagram witch.
Del desprecio a ese descarte, no he visto muchas cosas. Así se pasa una más para las cuentas, y aquí otro más para los versos, por qué aquí no hemos sido vistos. Cuánto más querría uno, que sino lo cuentas ni mucho menos piensas: << lo de este pibe que cosa más horrible>>, haciendo eso lamentable, por qué en decirlo nadie ha mentido. ¡Es horrible! Que cara es entonces la cuenta de lo que le sale a uno vivir sin más complejos; mejor seria cobrarmelo, para así saber que de algo ha valido. Bloqueame.
— Heartfelt comment for a random supermodel-to-be.
The Spirit of Fire
Flames begone, flames in spite: their warmth I felt - so I closed my fist until I could feel the warmth of my blood in my hand. And in dreams Fire came up to me and said: who am I? And I said unto him: you are bound to my bidding, thus your name misery will be. But fire wretched as he was, got closer and asked: and who are you?
And I said unto him that the blood of David ran through my veins, as I was his heir; for the mother of God claim me from death as a son. So Fire tried me, and figured it out.
You are son of woman —said Fire unto me— but as Fire acknowledged the name, I extended my left hand, and took Fire by the neck throwing him into the gound. — You are going to lace yourself to the right hand of the beast, and you'll keep him steady, so I can cleanly take him down. And Fire stayed down, and with his forehead kissing the ground asked unto me —why would the heir of David do so to earthly man?
And I said unto Fire that the beast from the abyss had left no mother for God, so I was to leave none of his body left for his head; as I was going to make it bleed until the end of the end of times.
The Spirit of Earth
Shapeless and without body, but keen within her many numbers, Earth came up to me in dreams, and said: who am I? And posessed in spirit as I was, I said unto her, that God had made her maiden again, and that she shall become the coins that Judas never received, which were to become the due payment of man and women for the body of Christ. Then I extended my right hand, and grabbed Earth by her hair —which descended deep into the abysses of hell— and cut it short so the demons of Lilith would no longer had her gripped by her back.
You are now a woman, and I'm going to rise you from the grounds. You'll lace yourself to the left hand of the beast, and keep it steady so with one shot I can cleanly take him down.
The Spirit of Air
A dream shaped by written words, whispered down for years by the currents of this Montain, and it's requiem witnessed but by a few — the end of dreams. But from where I standed at the peak, I called upon the distant currents that went down, and asked them: who am I?
And Air came unto me as bird, which had thousands of letters for feathers, and in the tongue of dead men answered.
"Somebody who only a few will remember by strange deeds; as the burden on your back, is a past tainted by impossible dreams. You were a lunatic giving new names to folk, and folk never bothered to remember —so your name must be freak, as you died in a forgotten shack some short time ago."
And as Air said these things upon me, I called Misery —as I had dubbed Fire — and told him to get inside my shot. The burden as Air had said, became lesser as i took the shot from my quiver. And I said upon Misery; that he was to set ablaze this arrow, as I was taking down the bird of Britain, and that I would do so, so God would give the deeds of Earth some better names.
The Lord is making a bridge between the empire of strength, and the last empire of men. Now by God's grace, I'm making the tongue of free men, the tongue of Spain. You will be eventually bound to my bidding, and if not me, it will be to the one I'm preceding; for I'm giving you twenty years to attone your wrongdoing. Alas, now because of your wretchedness, my shot on earthly men won't be clean, for his left leg won't stay steady.
Your old name was apathy, now I'm calling you Cisma, which in the tongue of dead men means schism. So now by the will of God lay unto the ground and say the words you've been teached. And as the arrow blazed forward, it's bending motion pierced the veil hiding the secret ladder of men. The bird of Britain catched on Fire, and it's hollering resounded throught the ladders of the mountain until the depths of the abyss. A column of air turned into fire, then violenty erupted from the vowels of the bird, and the wild fire spread as a storm from west to east all throughout the five kingdoms of men away from its own fiery wings, with a gift of misery and a few words to say.
"The name of your woman or the name of your man, will no longer explain their purpose to a man, a woman, or God. Charred words written by thunder will now be the new ladder of men — but until then, darkness upon thee."
But the feathers of old words, layed on the ground, for common folk now knew by the light of the storm their meanings — and horrified, they waged war on each other, killing each other, and seeking revenge on each other. Thus the bird of Britain dragged further into the ground, screaming and flapping
The House of Water
I head into the coasts, and the beautiful beaches in-between, to find the stranger who burns images in the skin of men. He is the stranger, and has adopted the body of a monster, and he is one who cannot be understood, so he went on to only go out home in stunts, for the burdens in his heart have become too great to bear. Through terrible pains he has given all he once was for an identity, and as I pick up on his past, i found familiarity in the feelings of his heart. Oh dear friend how we found looking in sadness to ourselves, after doing same but with different means, carrying into our shoulders the loneliness of this world. As you have in-skin the garments of the strange doctrine that I preach — I shall congrate you, for you truly have fought the world entire, for my doctrine is the words of those who shall defeat the world entire.
I may not have your strangeness in-body, but I have it in these words, and in the true feelings of my heart. And I say in admiration that there's no higher form of art, philosophy or religion: than those who perform the highest thing they can give a name about.
Now even within solitude, and at odds with what old dead men call God, I see you and I found strength in you, as I can see you are within me, and in that, you are within everything as it should be - as is meant in everyone who does something that touches the heart of another man. I call this the kingdom of God. Yet blind men and women will wonder how can the kingdom of God possibly be within two outcasts such as you and me.
Upong giving my regards and waiting for response, I found my way into a bench. It was a warm afternoon, and the wind carried the water of the sea. The bird of Britain came about down from the wind of north, and layed on the bench were I was sitting.
The bird asked: why hast thou become this?
And I said back to bird, scorched he was and nearing death, that it was me someone who was supposed to give names, yet for years I couldn't figure out one for myself. Then on went to being given a name, Alas all the wrong ones. Did Adan gave himself a name? - I asked the bird back. And there was no response from bird. Then I continued.
A man has the essence of his soul retained by what he is seen doing. Yet I did things nobody saw, so my soul wasn't with God but with something just as ancient, and nonetheless unknown by men in its true nature — then Satan as the better known devil, came about and pushed me into a hole. It was my own doing. Yet the things I did, I thought were seen. But nonetheless what I did was without contemplation on a posible return. Just as somebody who prints an image on their own skin. It's permanent. This is the essence of a memory in the soul of the man who's seen by others. But in the familiarity of a man who picked every irreversible decision like the Alien, I find myself feeling sympathy, for the man is still not what he has been seen doing, he shall redeem himself by what he decides to turn himself into.
Is this a way of saying that you want to get yourself a tattoo? Get a new look? - the bird mockingly asked.
And I gave the scorched bird no answer.
Then the bird said unto me: what about your career as a prophet, uh? And the things you said about returning with substance? Do you actually think this is substance?
And i considered what the Bird said, then I negated with a movement of my own head. It is not i answered, but i find the memories of me not making sense unbearable. For those mean the memories of a fool, un pendejo, an insane person, or both. And I will always try to amend what I don't do well. But now I wish for only one thing, and it is to be remembered as someone who makes sense, and who out of that sense, made good upon the world. I don't expect anything in return for what I do now, as it is merely an outlet to keep me sane while I finish editing my work. It's clear I'm too incompetent to be a competent influencer. As for once, I don't care about influencing anyone into what I think; but to perform what I think it's important.
Then every proverbial student is free to take classes so as they see fit, and to interpret such classes as their comprehension gives them grasp of what it's said. In such regard, this is what I offer now, while I make the journey to Madrid. And the bird tilted it's head so as to observe me with his left eye, then after a long impasse, it made a loud and painful caw, and finally flew away. Soon after the bird flew, I looked upon the stars in the nascent night, and confessed to them, that it was the memories of who we were, what often stumps us into wrong beliefs of who we should be, maybe even wasting an entire lifetime retained by that which other people remembered us as being. But we are not the owners of our own names, the place we go, and our destiny. That's the biggest lie the western world of hollywood heros tell you, as in truth is collective agreement what determines what we look like doing and thus the meaning we should comfort to, recalling that names are practical mechanisms to remember the purpose of things, their meaning, and how their motion is described in the world.
But making the task of beating that collective belief, akin to the Nietzschean ideal of the camel turning into the lion, so as to transform it's spirit and become something else. But if it's the golden dragon of all the huamn values which judges you insane, will you be prepared to wrestle with the entire culture so as to have your way?
As I layed my eyes upon each star counting up to the number seventeen, I confessed of being scared of those beliefs, as revisiting the past, became a painful deed — and as I prepared to leave, I uttered one wish on the seventeenth point in the sky.
Lord please grant me strength, the way you have given my friend strenght.
2.
The night deepen, while the sea tide sang its own song of breathing. Some time passed, and then on the stranger showed himself approaching at the distance. I waved my hand at him, and after the instant, he found his way into my bench while I welcomed him with an extended fist which he casually bumped - after the short acknowledgement the dark alien looked at my face in between it's cover of dark, and looking at it undiscernable in its true features, with suspicion asked.
— What is it that you want?
I acknowledged him as a friend, then mentioned my brief research, as I had come to know him as man looking for a job, yet nobody would hire for things mundane due to his appearance. I listened closely to the news, and came to understand that this was a man looking for a second chance.Then I saw the intent behind his doing, and two words came to stick to my own thoughts. The first one was <> and the second one was <>. I was admired.
In analytical psychology I figured this man was the ESFP —the personality archetype related to the performer and the entertainer—, possessed in an abnormal way by the spirit by which a person submits to it's contrary nature, seeking to integrate and find fulfillment through the chase of what's perceived absent. If he was the ESFP then doing the flip by following the radial axis of each Jungian function in the stack towards their opposite resulted in the INTJ. The mastermind. The architect. The genius yet awfully complex individual. That was the elusive spirit he was chasing.
But a spirit and a character that at its most pronounced embodiment in a person, would experience life as an eternal foreigner hiding from the light of other men. Such made sense to me, for I myself was the INTJ, and had at spirit the ESFP. Him. So where as this man chased the spiritual fulfillment of being a complex and deep individual, I chased the fulfillment of becoming simpler, so I could demonstrate with action the deepest desires of my heart. One who was born plentiful in means to be liked, becomes complex, mysterious and uncomprehended, meeting one who will be seen trying to make sense becoming simpler. For Carl Jung portrayed the anima and animus of individuals, as the sense of what its absent, yet deeply cherished an valued. So I said these things to the alien, while he silently listened to me.
— All of that sounds like bullshit to me. -Said the alien after some contemplation .— Sorry but the things you say, don't mean anything to me.
And alas for I expected such response, as if one thing was true about this journey, was that explaining the journey in and of itself would become it's grimmest task. I affirmated what he just said with a slight nod of head.
— These things I say and how they relate to each other, in its excercise are similar to doing stecheometric balance with equations in the head, but simpler I'm afraid. - Then I paused, looked back into the sea, and continued. — That's high school chemistry, but I don't expect everybody to pick up on it, nor like it, nor understand it.
— Now i have called you a friend, and where I came from we dub with this title the people we share destiny with. As far as I'm concerned, we are chasing the same thing, which is the hardest posible thing. We both innately understand that we are not home, as we want our spirit to return to us, and that's not what a lot of people ever honestly try to attempt in a lifetime; as such is anyone's call to feel complete.
— And very few people ever reach true individuality, beyond the name they are imposed at birth.
Then I looked into the black alien, and in-between his foreign facial features, I interpreted something familiar. Disturbance. And I continued.
— We have given ourselves hell as we lived chasing something hard, so we can avoid the same hell later on when we are finally back to our own house. This is a christian precept, altought a rundimentary one. Does that makes sense to you?
And after listening such, the black alien calmly looked at the veil in my face in silence. Trying to discern what my face actually looked like, but the night was dark. Then turned his stare back to the reflection of the moon over the waters, giving some thought to what I just said. I opened up my backpack, and drawed two cans of beer from it. Offered one to him, and he silently refused with a gesture of hand. I popped my can and gave it a sip, while I myself stared at the tides coming in and out of the shore.
— If you wan't a tattoo, we can work that out. But this sounds annoyingly familiar, and my interest is not religious. Are you religious?
I nodded in affirmation, and complemented saying. — But my doctrine is something nobody has heard nor seen. For its aim, is doing as Christ said, in perfect means. Yet its true that the teaching fits you, as it's the teaching of the future man; and there's nothing in common between the current man and the future man, as they may very well be different species. This is the precept of evolution.
The alien seemed surprised.
— These two men don't know each other, for the current man doesn't know where the future man comes from, for he himself doesn't know where he is going. Yet in deep realization of your own artistic concept, I think you might want new ideas to meet with your appearance. So tell me, are you curious about what truly happens to a man after he dies? Do you want to learn how to read someone's mind? Do you want to blast with words of fire the hearts of an amazed crowd?
But the black alien broke his calm contemplation of what I was saying, and slighty disturbed, aggressively rebuked after hearing such.
— But you mentioned 'Christ', so you must be christian. How can a christian even say anything interesting in this current time? Last time I asked, their sayings were dreaded by restriction - so why would anyone condemn themselves to a life of bore? Are you a christian?
And I nodded after the question, in silence. Admittedly, for I knew what the problem was with being what I was, and my new companion was bang on identifying it. Made a pause, then raised my sight to where it met with the sky and the stars in it, and I said back to him.
— I am, but not one of a type you have ever seen, for the Christ that comes, is a Christ of art.
2.
The riptide sang, in its secret dialect of earth and sea. I looked upon the coast, turned an eye blind, and saw the ocean as the scorpio, and the land as the taurus; as it was the struggle between two lovers, never meant to consume each other. Ideal love then - yet not to confuse with this partnership as it was whimsilcally tied by the means in which i arranged my current conversation; for my lady somewhere waited for me. Then i allowed my eyes to rest still.
The alien looked upon me, undiscernable in my intentions, and again figured for himself that my interest towards him wasn’t clear. In suspicion, and after the moment he collected his thoughts asked “In your weird words you dubbed me performer, so what is it exactly that you wan’t from me. To me it seems like you are gathering people for some form of religious clown show. When you forced this meeting upon me, was this a proposal you thought i would find amusement in?”. And after the statement my own stare wandered in my conversation partner. While as he had his say, i returned to my can of beer, and finished it with a long gulp. Tempered in an unwillingness to fall to my new found friend irritation, i said within my own thoughts: “The alien looks easy going, but he is barbed in wit”.
Then i opened the can of beer that the stranger rejected; the loud pop resounded in the relative silence, interrupting for a moment the steady chorus of the sea. Gave it a long sip, and said.
– Theres no proposal in place yet. But im certain of something, and that is that both of us are messed individuals which reached the bottom doing the same thing - but the way my understandment of the human soul goes: two people can act by mere interaction as reactives to each other, creating a new chemical compound after the fact.
– This new psychology is very much like chemistry. But it is not my intention to draw you into something, but to pull myself out of this «something» by doing right on another person and maybe that person reflecting the good back on me. I just need a conversation partner, thats all. And i will do this with you, and with many people more. Presidents included.
The alien reflected on it, and after the hiatus of a long standing position of suspicion he finally gave in, and eased up with a slight smile. A strange smile of relief. But the smile, was all too familiar for me, as i realized the man was a tortured individual: a person in long standing pain. I smiled back the way he did, and continued.
– Our pain has a common name, and is a name that can be written with words unfortunately. It’s the devilish mother of all spiritual ills and its foundation, rests at the concept of a past that wasnt solved. It’s called «inadequeacy», and for people like you and me, understanding one day that such inadecuacy had to be solved by our own means, lead us into an act where our name changed as the changes in our cover up act to solve our inadequacy did.
– We never honored the past or the present in our pursuit, as we desired in passion to find solution to the present, by matching it into the idealization of some future without ever realizing that the old or present essence of ones being would be crushed into non existance by said future.
– Then we found the realization of that new name, only to understand that its demands became a tyranny on the other faces of our soul: as our soul is not something that can be undestood in unity, but something that conceives in the beginning in multiple things which try to give shape to one thing. Theres many people in a village, and our minds, are no exception.
— But happiness is only achieved by those who have their soul entire - or those who are the same person regardless of the context and scenario. And we gave to much to somebody that wasn't us, as our spirit took possession and lead us down.
– This is this the essence by which someone goes to hell, only to do one thing over again, getting an ever lasting pain for all the things that were given up chasing that which was absent. The more someone is forced into being shaped by the thing that was concevied in lust, the more the individual misses the place they used to call home, for that is no longer within ones reach. Does this makes sense to you?
The alien left me with no answer, and as he contemplated the sea, a tear travelled through his strange face.
– In this state of anguish, affliction rarely ever feels company, as the very individual condition that was pursued, became a full suit and persona to be forced upon and wear. Hell, is one lonely place man because we only learn to speak a language, that only makes sense to ourselves. But i think we can find a way out of it. This is why I'm here.
“Look, what you’ve done, it’s not something i can see the way you can see my own doing on me.” The alien replied. “Besides the way in which i canno’t see your face in this night, you seem ordinary — but what you talk and the way you say it, evokes in every word regret. What is it that you’ve done that has you regret like this?”
As the alien finished speaking, I emptied the can of beer, layed my eyes on the irregular grooves that my feet had left on the sand, and then replied back to him, after making a recap of the story i had repeatedly told myself after falling down.
“My story, is the fairy tale of a guy who makes way for the new coming of a new man; a better man for the world, while he casts disarray upon the earth: much to his dismay, at the expense of his own soul as the people who become victims of disasters, were ones who this man deemed unfair; cruel, evil, despicable in past. That was at the beginning."
"Theres a pile of corpses behind that character — even in covid time, people as close as the local priest of the small town he lived in, would break their neck after falling in the shower, as he had the slightest suspicion of their secret deeds. All clean deads for that matter. Untraceable to nothing but sheer randomness. Magic as it seeems. But were this folk truly evil people or even guilty of anything? You may ask - the man never knew it for sure, as he never had faculties such as godly omniscience to actually know it; which has taken a toll on him, as the burden of justice is an unberable one for anything but a god."
"Which leads to another point: spontaneously picturing random numbers in the head, associating them with psychological compounds by angular momentum, and actually being bang on the suspicion. Truth friend, in its stochastic presentation: it's unberable.”
“Consequential of such attempts to rationalize his own story in the eyes of people such as close family, my dude became clinically diagnosed with referenced thinking. Which are fancy words for schizophrenia. Nobody believed the story as it was uttered."
"Yet the consequences are there for everyone to see, altought not visible in their cause and effect by anybody but this guy, which lead him first into regret over ever starting his quest as a reformer; and then repent.”
“Now before he realized of this lets call it «curse», he preached for years over the internet as the disasters started to slowly creep up. He preached in a fashion parallel to Niestzches Zarathustra; Zarathustra meaning a famous philosophical device artificied by the philosopher Niestzche, who’s aim was to portray the best posible man, as something he dubbed the <<Übermensch>> ”.
“Such concept being the seemingly more elegant brand of a humanist ideal for a not so distant future: today - albeit a wrong one, for this guy was not dyonisian himself. The backbone of his framework, is analytical psycholgy becoming a chariot for a true understandment of human nature: and ultimately a facilitator for love within light: not within ignorance; not within darkness. Most philosophers today though would mock anything analytical in it's aim."
"Then on the guy preached and dwelved further into the relative hole of his own doctrine: and became imprisoned by what he didn’t got right at first attempt, making him in the process the character that Nietzsche from the comfort of his own writers seat, never attempted to actually embody within realistic means: eventually figuring out within himself the ultimate Nietzschean aristocrat: a magic pen granted by being capetian by mother: from judah by father."
"But Alas, you have no idea how common suicide is within philosophers after they finish their best work. As language, becomes the ultimate barrier for understandment, and then to ones capacity to feel love. Difference — true saliency in ones individual destiny— leads to the gravest posible pain. Ironic isn’t it?”
“Besides technical work with a new form of psychology inspired by analytical chemistry, as that drawed from his efforts during the light of day, five years ago, once he felt the urge to try to reach out to the world from a position of what he deemed was greater understandment: he primitively preached during night his new set of ideas for people to behave beyond the limitations of manipulative psychology, albeit a harsh doctrine meant to clear the way for a better product: Christ himself."
"This is not a doctrine a human being can actually perform, as such its christianity at its highest capacity to bear fruit. It’s an impossible doctrine, yet solves the oldest problem posed in the bible. All which sounds very sci-fi bullshit-y but actual problems started for the protagonist in this tale, when the preaching matched with terrible consequences. Not figurative, but within tangible reality.”
“So just as we talk, theres a small legion of hackers pretending to be doing internet social experiments while talking in an artsy matter: much in my own style, entertaining the exact same concepts - a legion of dangerous monkeys, i have no control over."
"One of the many unexpected consequences being this, yet prompted by something evil; ancient: essentially replicating what my protagonist developed and then preached over the years, while these "hacktivists" lay their attention on things and people, as they select them and enforce upon them strict surveillance, to behave properly. Then to destroy them, as they did in 2020 with many corporations and institutions.A bizarre combination of theater actors to my own liking, and then cyber-security demigods: omniscient in their claims to surveill, and they are - derivative such of another device of what I've done; which is to build a theater so people can make-believe that they are infact performing within themselves something greater - but that's matter for another story."
“Most of the corpses piling up flat out dead, have no relation to him whatsoever; they became victims as my protagonist took measures to fight back the monster he found at the foundation of the known world. This is not an elaborate analogy for one's own unseen capacity for evil, as i mean this: a monster as literally as it can be. For these things friend, im doomed as in true strenght, i have nothing but the pen i use to write down what i think albeit always at danger of it’s eventual inversion. I have no real friends left. Not one who can understand, or help bear the pain: as friendship and love are all gated by understandment."
"The full story has many more vertients, but i think i’ve done it enough justice. This is the predicament of an insane man chased by his own shadow as he builds a better man: one who delivers heavenly things, and then a shadow stringed to deliver tyranny as the very strings behind him make the better man stumble while he tries to keep a grasp of his own spirit, and then of his own soul."
"That monster behind, is wicked smart — and cannot be outwitted nor overpowered but anything but divine smite."
“I’m heading now to a new country, to try to get friends from the only institution in the world who knows and adresses the current times being, and who by extension, might believe me. And to clarify, these being the end of times; but not the end of the world. Yet now i myself have a damocles sword pending over my own head, and i need to do something about it before it falls.”
And as i said these things, i reached out to my backpack drawing a third can of beer from it — besides my own super laptop, thats what my backpack had: an infinite supply of beer. Corona, Indio, Victoria, Dos Equis, Heineken; you name it. I popped the can, and gave it a long and definite sip as i emptied it complete.
The alien didn't try to show that he understood, but stood still in silence, with his sight in the sand below and pressing lips, knowing by my demeanor; that these things as I've said them was something that I needed to do. Then he said: "I don't follow man. You say you preach and then disasters occur. Like a prophet from the bible?"
"Yes. Then I preached to get rid of the things that are actually making the world worse, and something awoke soon after, and since then; everything I do is subject to being misinterpreted due to the diffamatory action of this thing. Now everytime I do something, it can be twisted and turned against my original intent. Right now the hackers are my worst problem: I may have a degree in computers but I have no fucking idea whatsoever of hacking. I earn my living as an A.I engineer.".
The alien raised his sight to meet with mine, and after doing some contemplation on the fact, quite simply said: "You are insane". Then lowered his own sight, and raised it again to meet with the sea and continued. "If you want a tattoo, we can work that out. But either way and whatever parts of your story are true and even worse; the ones you may be lying about: you sound dangerous in a delusional kind of sense, and my life is hard enough as is."
I pressed my fists, knowing then the old same thing had happened again. For I had never forced anything upon anybody, and I was willing to respect that until the bitter end. Then I released the build up of frustration with a loud sigh, and after this amend, I replied back.
"I understand and respect it. But let me just propose you that if you ever want to figure what is beyond life as it's lived by person who has never seen what is like to be someone you write a great story about; you can pin me, and I'll show you what's beyond that door. Give it some thought."
The alien; The Black Alien Project stayed there sitting, spechless but calm, almost expecting something else to be convinced about. But pointless, for i knew that nobody can be forced into anything without bringing a transgression into play – and i wasn’t one to taint myself in sin if it could be avoided. Not anymore.
3.
I made the distance at steady pace walking along the shore, until i found a small group of pines in-between the liminal space of the beach and the land. I sat with one of the pines trunk behind my back, and drawed the Schizo Pills from my eternal supply of traveller goodies.
Quetiapine 100 mg, and Olanzapine 10 mg, i made a smaller fragment from the olanzapine pill, and swallowed both complete. As their side effects were concerned, they would soon knock me out of conscience, as this little ritual was my own way of calling the day complete – then i layed there, vigilant, waiting for my own drowsiness to claim me into sleep - but the Bird of Britan came flying from above, and stood besides me.
\Chirp, Chirp, Chirp**
I watched the bird, annoyed, as its presence had become an omen for contempt. For me and the death people of my past. I frowned upon the little shit, and said nothing. The bird made a little nod, while tilting its head in excentricity the way birds do, and replied. — Hey Andrew!, do you remember when you tried to penetrate your own computer to make a universe grow inside of it? I just wan’t to know something: did your computer moan? Did it finally learnt how to scream your name?
\Chirp Chirp**
Ignoring the bird, i closed my eyes and stayed like that for a long moment, hoping to make the bird think i was asleep. Maybe that would make him leave.
— Can’t bullshit me like that Sweetheart. So please tell me something; why don’t you command one of your supermodels; these muses, to come here and warm the bed for you. It's a cold night and you seem lonely brah
. \Chirp Chirp**
I opened my eyes, and irritated, pointed menacingly at the bird turning my left hand into an imaginary gun. I had already failed at something today, and wasn’t convinced i needed the memory of the things i failed at before. Not now.
  • Hol’ up cowboy ! you wan’t to bang my bird ass when you should be banging a bitch ass. What happened with Tyrone huckleberry? Did you managed to make him as impotent as you are right now? —I held steady my hand; and tired, the tempation to pull again the trigger on the bird was growing larger. I saw red roses in my own sight, making a terrible omen for a migraine forthcoming. Said nothing.
— The glowniggers are out there brah. You may not be a hacker – and its true, but i took notice of your last words: so now the glowies are going to instead dreambooth* people into every posible kind of scenario of extorsion, while they surveil like a motherfucker. Like you dream boothed yourself for your little ahem "art project". Then we will use Suno*, then Sora* when it open sources. Are you going to protect your hoes?
Said nothing.
  • Alright cowboy, i will give meaning to that revelations verse. What was it? Ah yes. Revelations 9:6. Every single person with an internet history will be as paranoid as you were in 2020. Everyone will be diffamated into acts of political terrorism! Aren’t you am-
And as i pulled the imaginary trigger from the imaginary pistol, an imaginary arrow in the sky descended with a blaze of not so imaginary flames on the Bird of Britain, engulfing the little shit in heat, and making it’s body explode into a gore of scorched viscera. As if the bird was in a microwave oven. I inmediately gasped as the explosion was too close from where i was sitting - after the conmotion, stared at the red and burned stain in the floor, and left my sight rest there, as sleep finally found its way into my restless thoughts.
"No longer care for love unless it's between good friends”. Said to myself. There was certainly a migraine coming, but maybe my dreams would help convince it otherwise. And as far as the hoes were concerned, Furious Angels would be there for them. Like the Rob Dougan song.
4.
Found my own mind after the slumber – asleep, then awake. I realized several hours passed - at least enough to wake up and witness the sun rise above the sea. But as for dreams, the light veil of their memories wasn't something to rely upon. But i did remember something, and it was some overtone in dread; an atmosphere of fear – and a kind of dread sustained in it’s inevitability by the urgency that builds upon dearth.
Now what exactly was it though? I couldn’t remember from my dreams, but ever since i falled to my own death i had always present in mind the future succesion of events that would follow when things started to go very wrong. Iran, the U.S, Israel - now whatever was it in the news; the outcome would be the same. A thousand more cuts to an already languishing economy. Make that corpse bleed, and then fall off a cliff.
As such things would be cooked, just as the bird of britain. The bird was still there though: just in pieces and roasted like the contents of a dropped KFC bucket would. But the little shit would return - as it always did. The economy? Not so much.
Yet i digress. None of the world circumstances mattered as far i was concerned – i had built a small and portable solar system to power my laptop, and my beer supply was well, infinite - i made myself sure that i had my needs covered whatever happened around me. Not tied to even a house for that matter. I incorporated myself and gave my back a stretch. The morning breeze coming from the sea evocated in my memories some time that had long passed – late childhood. I rejected those memories as they beared with them things i didnt wan’t to remember - then wen’t on as usual in my morning routine scrolling through my instagram feed, figuring if there were any new hoes to maybe motivate me into doing my God imposed labour.
Labour which was to either write, or to finish the House of Water — then after scrolling i did in fact saw a new hoe; i dropped a Faux Pas comment. Maybe she would play along, maybe not. Whatever. Sometimes I would put in a lot of effort to do a rhyme. But the effort depended on the insta-hoe in question. I know. Not the best of habits, but back in elementary school i was the kind of kid that would only get motivation when the girls in the classroom were present in physEd. And then i would run faster: whole lotta faster. Run Forrest! Run! Women love used to fuel me; and the habit sticked — and at the moment, i was kinda done with the idea of female trascendence. Would rely on their love, but not on their validation. Not like a simp. Fuck that.
Furthermore, what results did i demonstrably mustered after pursuing true egalitarianism and sharing it? Exactly. A bitch gonna do what a bitch gonna do, and so does the human female. After publishing the comment, I locked my phone and walked towards the highway, as i was planning to pay a visit to somebody long forgotten - I had kind of a schedule that i was going to follow, before taking the plane to Madrid and become hispanic Jon Snow from the walgreens Nightwatch.
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2024.05.15 22:39 Huckleberry_2224 Title Issues Mobile Home

There’s a trailer for sale in a mobile home community that is contingent on a solid work plan. Basically means that, even though I want to pay in full with cash, I have to make a renovation plan, carry out the renovation plan and THEN I get the title. Property Manager says they’ll provide a bill of sale but this seems like a scam to me. Thoughts?
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2024.05.15 22:35 WCInvestor A Physician Disability Insurance Primer - Do You Really Need It?

A Physician Disability Insurance Primer - Do You Really Need It?
The greatest financial risk for physicians is losing the ability to turn the knowledge and skills you spent a decade learning into a huge pile of money by working in your profession for decades. There are risks that could show up in your life that would prevent you from being able to accomplish this task. One of the most common of these risks is an extended or even permanent disability. Insurance companies estimate that as many as one in seven doctors will be disabled at some point during their career. While many imagine this will occur in a sudden traumatic accident, medical illness is actually a more common cause of disability that prevents a doctor from working. Physician disability is a complicated type of insurance. This post will give you the “must-know” information to secure the best protection and help you avoid common disability insurance mistakes.

TL;DR: Key Takeaways: What Doctors Need to Know About Disability Insurance

  1. The best Disability Insurance policy is an individual, portable, own-occupation, specialty-specific policy.
  2. Purchase disability insurance from an independent agent who can show you policies from all of the major companies. We have a list of recommended Disability Insurance agents used by thousands of white coat investors each year.
  3. Buy as much disability insurance as they are willing to sell you as a resident. Include a future purchase option (sometimes called a “benefit purchase rider” or “future increase option”) and a cost of living disability insurance rider.
  4. As an attending, increase your coverage to cover both your living expenses and retirement savings if you were to work to age 65.
  5. You may get sticker shock, but the reason disability insurance is expensive is that it actually gets used. Slightly more than 1 out of 4 adults will experience a disability before they retire. Physician disability insurance agents often use a figure of 1 out of 7 doctors actually using the disability insurance they purchase. Whatever the true statistic may be, it's certainly high enough to insure against.
Do not take the risk of not having disability insurance.

What Is Disability Insurance?

Disability insurance gives you an income to live on if you become so disabled that you can no longer work.
If you become disabled, a long-term disability insurance policy pays a predetermined amount each month until you either recover from your disability or reach age 65-67. (Note: Policies vary. It is possible to buy a policy that pays to age 70 or even, for a very high premium, until death).

Why Do Physicians Need Disability Insurance?

One out of seven doctors end up having to use their disability insurance. Losing the ability to turn the knowledge and skills you spent a decade learning into a pile of money by working in your profession for decades is one of the most expensive risks that physicians face. Your most valuable asset is your ability to work.

How Does Disability Insurance Work?

Disability insurance is a pretty straightforward proposition. You buy a policy and pay your premium monthly or annually. If you become disabled, you (and your doctor) fill out the paperwork to prove it to the satisfaction of the insurance company and then they pay you the promised monthly benefit until you either recover from your disability or the insurance company meets its contractual obligation to pay the benefit.

Short-Term vs. Long-Term Disability

Disability insurance is most commonly divided into short-term and long-term.

Short-Term Disability

A short-term disability policy generally begins paying just as soon as you get disabled and then pays for a maximum period of 3-24 months. These policies are often provided by an employer as an employee benefit. Short-term disability, while inconvenient financially, is not generally a financial catastrophe for a physician saving for retirement with an emergency fund. As a result, many doctors do not buy short-term disability policies at all.

Long-Term Disability

A long-term disability policy generally does not pay immediately, but only begins to pay after a waiting period ranging from 1-24 months (typically 3 months). Then, the policy will continue to pay you a benefit each month until age 65, 67, or 70, depending on the policy. Note that a 3 month waiting period typically means your first check won't come until the end of the first month after the 3 months, so it's really a 4 month waiting period. Since losing your ability to earn a living for the rest of your life is a financial catastrophe, any doctor who is not financially independent should buy a long-term disability insurance policy.

What Does Disability Insurance Cover?

Disability insurance covers all kinds of disabilities. The best (and unfortunately most expensive) policies cover the widest range of potential disabilities.

The Definition of Disability

The most important feature is the definition of disability. Disability insurance differs from life insurance in numerous ways, but none is more significant than in defining exactly when you become disabled (and when you become enabled again). The broader the definition of disability you get in your policy, the more the policy will cost.
Unlike life insurance, where life and death are pretty black and white, disability has 50 shades of gray. You want a policy with a strong, broad definition of disability that will cover any possible type of disability? That means “true own-occupation, specialty-specific” and no limitations on things such as psychiatric conditions or addictions. This is the main difference between the “Big 5” companies and others. Even among the “Big 5,” there are slight differences. It is OK not to purchase the policy with the very best definition of disability, but the weaker the definition, the bigger the discount you should expect.

Own-Occupation, Specialty-Specific

Probably the most important aspect of the definition for doctors is that it be specific to your occupation. For instance, if I lost my left thumb, there are a number of procedures in emergency medicine that I could no longer do. I would be completely disabled from managing a busy emergency department by myself. But I could probably still go do urgent care work. A specialty-specific definition of disability in my policy would provide me with my full disability payments in addition to the money I make at the urgent care. Sometimes, the “specialty-specific” clause is inherent to the policy, and at other times it is an additional rider (a piece of paper added to the policy for which you pay an additional premium). Either way, you almost surely want to get this in your policy. Here are the various definitions, starting with own occupation and progressing to any occupation.

Own-Occupation Definition

Under this definition, your policy will pay if you cannot work in your occupation/specialty, even if you can and do work in another field and make as much money as you want.
Own-occupation policies cover people based on the occupational duties they are performing at the time of claim. If your policy includes an own-occupation definition of total disability and you are exclusively performing the customary duties of your medical specialty or sub-specialty at the time of the claim, the policy will cover you when unable to perform your specialty or sub-specialty. If you have transitioned into a different role or expanded into a new career path that requires much less direct patient contact or procedural duties, you may no longer be considered totally disabled when unable to work in your specialty or sub-specialty. This is because your “occupation(s)” involves additional material and substantial duties, no longer limited to the performance of your medical specialty or sub-specialty. In these instances, you may be considered partially disabled or not disabled at all, depending on the exact circumstances.

Transitional Own-Occupation

Your policy will pay if you cannot work in your occupation/specialty, even if you can and do work in another field. But if you exceed your previous income while you now work in another field, your monthly benefit from the policy would likely be lowered.

Modified Own-Occupation

Your policy will only pay if you can't work in your occupation/specialty AND if you are not working in another field. This definition is also sometimes called “Own-Occupation, Not Engaged” or “Own-Occupation, Not Working.”

Any-Occupation

Your policy will only pay if you cannot work in any occupation based on education, training or experience. Note that some policies are own-occupation for a couple of years and then transition to any-occupation.
One company out there (Northwestern Mutual) sells a policy with a definition that they claim is BETTER than own-occupation. They call it Medical Own-Occupation, but in reality, it is just a form of modified own-occupation. Learn more about the NML Medical Own-Occupation Definition.

Do You Really Need an Own-Occupation, Specialty-Specific Policy?

Some non-procedural physicians argue that they might not need a true own-occupation policy. They reason that if they are so disabled that they cannot practice their specialty, they probably cannot do anything else. So, they accept a less broad definition of disability to save some dollars on the premium. If you choose to do this, make sure you understand the exact circumstances under which your policy will and will not pay out.

Mental Disorders/Substance Abuse

Many policies will only cover mental illness or substance abuse-related disabilities for a period of two years. I know an attorney who couldn't practice law after developing bipolar syndrome in his 30s. It took over a decade to get it under control. He had a policy that covered mental illness indefinitely, which prevented financial catastrophe from striking him and his family.
According to the April 2011 issue of Current Psychiatry Magazine, physicians are not immune to depression and have an increased risk of suicide. Additionally, the lack of distinction between a psychiatric diagnosis and impairment stigmatizes physicians and impedes treatment.
You'll need to decide whether this is a risk you're willing to run. If you want mental illness covered like every other illness, you'll be paying more.

Presumptive Total Disability

As you well know, disability can be defined in many shades of gray. In the event of your disability, you can expect a paperwork fight between you, your physician, the disability insurance company, and maybe even your attorney. However, most policies contain a section that defines “presumptive total disability” where you can be assured there won't be much arguing from the insurance company. Even better, the waiting period will be waived and you'll start getting payments right away.
Anything short of that, and you're going to have to get your doctor to certify your disability and get the insurance company to accept it. At times, this can involve visits to multiple specialists and even hiring an attorney. Note that with some companies, presumptive disability does not need to be permanent.

Cosmetic Surgery/Transplant Surgery

Some policies will cover you if your disability is the result of cosmetic surgery or the result of donating a kidney or other body part to someone else. Others will not. Best to read your policy carefully and know what it does and does not cover.

Disability Insurance Exclusions & Limitations

Disability insurance policies generally exclude any medical conditions you have at the time of applying for insurance. For example, if you already have chronic back pain, the policy will not provide a benefit if you are disabled due to a back condition. In addition, if you admit to participating in dangerous activities such as scuba diving, rock climbing, flying, and sky-diving, the policy will likely be issued with a rider that excludes those activities from coverage. Other exclusions may also apply, such as acts of war, normal pregnancy, and foreign travel. Here is a list of common exclusions:
  • War or Act of War (this could probably be interpreted pretty broadly)
  • Active Military Duty (having served, this is pretty stupid since 95%+ of our military folks are never in any kind of serious danger of being hurt by a combatant)
  • Normal Pregnancy (don't want to work because you're eight months pregnant? Don't bother trying to get disability benefits for that)
  • Foreign Travel (varies by policy, but many don't cover you during that European vacation, much less that humanitarian trip to Sudan—read the fine print)
  • Mental/Nervous Disorder (many companies limit benefits to two years, where they might pay for “physical” disorders until you're 65 years old)
  • Medical Exclusions (any medical conditions you have at the time the policy is issued will likely be excluded, meaning if you have heart disease at the time of issuance and it leads to you being disabled five years later, the policy isn't going to pay. Again, apply when you are young and healthy and/or when you haven't had medical problems for several years to minimize this.)

Residual Disability

Residual disability refers to being only partially disabled. This may occur from the initial injury or illness or be part of the process of recovery. You generally need to buy an additional rider to cover this. Read this rider carefully, it can be a bit complicated.
Imagine developing painful lumbar radiculopathy that keeps you from working more than 20 hours a week. This is the part of your policy that will cover that. This rider will also explain how much you get if you are partially disabled. My old policy says it pays the whole benefit (total disability) if I can't earn at least 20% of my “indexed prior monthly earnings,” which is basically the money I earn at my job. It doesn't count my investments, other disability income policies, rent from a rental property, or my nonvocational activities. It doesn't pay anything if my earnings aren't reduced at least 20%. If I am making between 20%-80% of what I made previously, I get the total disability benefit times the ratio of my loss of income for that month divided by my indexed prior monthly earnings. Note that with some companies, the partial disability rider will kick in at 15%.
Some contracts use “or” in the contract and others use “and” in the contracxt. For instance, a stronger policy would trigger the partial disability rider if you had a loss of income or a loss of time or a loss of duty whereas a weaker contract would require loss of income and loss of time and loss of duty where all of those triggers must be met.

Partial Disability vs. Residual Disability

Partial disability and residual disability are generally considered to be the same thing, but there is a technical difference at some companies. For example, at one company, a partial disability rider requires total disability during the elimination period and the residual disability rider does not. With another company, partial refers to the disability, such as one that only affects one part of the body (such as one arm), while residual refers to a decrease in earnings. Either way, the key is to understand how the residual/partial rider works in the policy you actually purchase.

Recovery Benefits

A physician should consider a contract that will continuing paying them a portion of their benefits upon recovery from a disability if their income continues to be down at least 15%-20%. Most carriers will pay a recovery benefit for the benefit period although one only pays for 12 months. This is especially important for practice owners. Think if a dentist were to be disabled for 6 months and then recovers and goes back to their practice. Many of their patients may have gone elsewhere because the dentist sees his patients twice a year. It could take several years to get back to where he/she was at before becoming disabled.

Recommendations for Physicians on Disability Insurance Riders

Here's an easy cheat card to help you know at a glance what we think about all of the various riders available.
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Who Needs Disability Insurance?

Nearly every high-income professional in their first decade or two out of school should own a policy. Your most valuable asset is your ability to work. So, if you do not own a disability insurance policy, you need to go get one, now. If you have an income, it's time to buy a policy, even if money is tight as a resident. The only exception is if you do not rely on your income to live. If you are already financially independent, it's OK not to buy disability insurance. However, even if you are frugal and married to another high earner, you may wish to still have a policy. You could both become disabled, or you could become divorced.

How Much Physician Disability Insurance Do I Need?

As a resident, you typically cannot afford to buy as much as you need, but you should be able to do so even as a brand-new attending. Basically, you need to buy enough disability insurance to cover both your living expenses and your retirement savings if you were to work to age 65 but not your taxes. Physician disability insurance payouts are generally tax-free since they are usually paid with post-tax dollars.
Note that how much you need has little to do with your income and everything to do with what you spend. The less you spend, the less insurance you need to buy. Insurance agents would love to sell you the largest possible policy (which usually works out to be about 2/3 of your gross income, but it is possible to combine two companies to get even more), so you'll need to decide how much you need on your own. Resident physicians typically buy a $5,000 per month benefit and attending physicians typically buy a benefit in the $10,000-$15,000 per month range, but there are plenty of docs who buy both more and less. If your plan in the event of disability is to rely on the income of your spouse, you may not need disability insurance at all.

Average Cost of Disability Insurance for Physicians

Unlike cheaper insurance policies like term life and umbrella policies, physician disability insurance is expensive, although not quite as expensive as your malpractice insurance. The reason it costs so much is it actually gets used. The likelihood of you acquiring a long-term disability during your working years is approximately seven times as high as your risk of dying in those years. A typical policy bought on a healthy doc in their 20s or 30s will cost something between 2%-6% of the benefit. If your monthly benefit is $10,000, expect to spend $200-$600 per month for that. Perhaps the sticker shock you get upon being quoted prices will motivate you to reach financial independence as soon as possible so you can cancel the policy.

Graded vs. Level Premiums

One way to save money on your policy is to get graded premiums. Not all policies offer this feature, but those that do will charge you less in the first few years and more in later years. Level premium policies charge you the same amount in premium every year. A graded premium policy accounts for the fact that you become more likely to become disabled as you go through life. However, it can be very beneficial to you because your need for insurance actually falls continually throughout your career as your build your retirement nest egg.
Once you become financially independent, you can drop the insurance completely. This is a good idea since the total benefits a policy could potentially pay are also dropping throughout your life (since the policy will generally only pay until you are in your mid- to late-60s). Many white coat investors who are great savers hit financial independence by mid-career. If you are one of those, you are likely to come out ahead using graded premiums instead of level premiums.

What Disability Insurance Discounts Are Available for Doctors?

Like other types of insurance, disability insurance is sold by agents who are paid commissions by the insurance companies to sell their products. It is a very competitive business. The insurance companies want agents, especially the independent agents you should be buying from, to preferentially sell their products. To incentivize the agents, they offer discounts that are only available through certain agents. Experienced, high-volume agents can often provide you with the same policy at a cheaper rate than a newer, lower-volume agent. Thus, it pays to use an experienced agent and shop around with two or three of them. Nearly every doctor should qualify for some type of discount on their policy—10%-30% premium discounts are not unusual. Types of discounts include:
  • Unisex discounts
  • Student/Resident/Fellow discounts
  • Multi-life institution discounts
  • Guaranteed Standard Issue (GSI) institution discounts
  • Association discounts
Learn more about physician disability insurance discounts.

How Do I Buy Disability Insurance?

The key to physician disability insurance is the independent agent. The agent is going to be paid a great commission by the insurance company no matter which policy you choose. Assuming policies with similar benefits, the commission isn't going to be all that different. Plus, these agents get plenty of business and none of them are starving, so they have little incentive to sell you an inferior policy for a slightly higher commission. Their reputation is worth far more than a few extra dollars in commission. Since you are (indirectly) paying the agent a very nice commission, don't feel bad about using their time and expertise to fully understand this complicated product.
For most doctors, this is a purchase that is only done once or twice in their life. Have the agent quote you different physician disability policies from each of the “Big 5” companies and show you the strengths and weaknesses of each. If you have a policy from work or your professional association, bring it in with you and have it included in the comparison. Then, you can know you made an educated decision and you can buy it and forget about it. Also, be sure to ask for a discount. The vast majority of doctors will qualify for a 5%-30% association or employer-related discount, and a top-notch agent will help you get that.

What Type of Disability Insurance Should I Buy?

There are two main types of disability policies: individual policies and group policies. As a general rule, individual policies have stronger definitions of disability. Many group policies are not own-occupation policies. Individual policies are also portable, in that you can change jobs and take them with you.

Individual Disability Policy

There are a number of benefits of an individual policy. The main one is that you are in control of all the details. You get to choose how much insurance you want to pay for. You get to choose which of the bells and whistles you are going to pay for. The policy is also “portable,” meaning you still have it if you change employers (or if your employer just decides to change the policy). As a general rule, the policy is also “stronger,” meaning it is more likely to actually pay you if you get disabled.

Group Disability Policy

A group policy provided by your employer is usually not portable, although sometimes you are allowed to take over the entire premium and take it with you. Group policies also frequently have premiums that increase every year or every five years, whereas an individual policy usually has level premiums. Group policies paid for by your employer may also pay a taxable benefit, rather than the tax-free benefit provided by an individual policy. Aside from the lower cost, the main benefit of a group policy is that it may be easier to qualify for. It may not require any sort of medical exam or blood work, and it may not ask any pesky questions about your medical conditions and dangerous hobbies such as rock climbing, skydiving, scuba diving, or flying.

How to Compare Disability Insurance Policies

The most important feature is the definition of disability. You want a policy with a strong, broad definition of disability that will cover any possible type of disability. That usually means “own-occupation, specialty-specific” and no limitations on things such as psychiatric conditions or addictions. This is the main difference between the “Big 5” companies and others.
Since disability is complicated, disability insurance policies are complicated. There are dozens of differences from one policy to another, making them difficult to compare. Use your independent agent for recommendations on what matters most. Just for an example, take a look at this chart of all the differences you could see between one policy and another.

When to Buy Disability Insurance?

You should buy disability insurance just before you become disabled. Since you don't know when that time could be, earlier is generally better. However, disability insurance is also expensive, and when you are young and poor, you have lots of other great uses for your money. A good compromise is to buy a small policy as you enter residency and then upgrade to a more robust disability insurance plan just before leaving residency. The younger you are, the healthier you are, and the fewer dangerous hobbies you engage in, the cheaper your premiums will be for the same benefit.

Best Disability Insurance for Physicians

I keep a list of those I consider the best disability insurance agents in the country. Save yourself the work of finding a good one you can trust and use the same agents that have been used by thousands of WCI readers in the past. You do not need someone local that you can sit down across the table from. It is better to have someone who has sold policies to hundreds of docs this year working with you by phone, Skype, Zoom, and email than someone you can sit down with who has only sold four policies. In addition, if there is some issue with one of these agents, I can usually help you resolve it quickly.
Information in this space rapidly changes. While we try to keep The White Coat Investor website as up-to-date as possible, our recommended agents are going to be our best source for updated information. I cannot emphasize how strongly I suggest you use them, whether buying your first policy or simply reviewing what you already have.
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2024.05.15 22:32 Ok_Inside_1721 Deaf 40M Thoughts on Small Talk

Hey, Healthy Gamers! I hope y’all are having a great day. I have been going through Dr. K’s ADHD Module, as well as his resource pack. He has some great videos on loneliness and communication that I thought were really good. I think for communication and small talk, Dr. K’s driving theme of showing interest in other people is THE best rule in creating small talk.
I am deaf with a Cochlear Implant. Even with bionic hearing, I only have maybe half of one ear, and my other ear is completely deaf. However, I have a college degree, have been able to work in customer service roles, and have had great conversations with a wide range of people in a wide range of places. I talked to a corrections officer from Wisconisn in Paris. I have also talked to credit card processors in Chicago. The number 1 way I have had small conversations is by asking questions about other people. I know Dr. K isn’t a fan of asking about other people’s work. But I have found that work makes a big part of who they are, and more often than not, if you show genuine interest in what they say and who they are, people really do open up about their work and lives.
But you have to show interest. In a way, my hearing disability makes this easy; my awareness of what people say depends if I am able to face them. I have see their lips; I have to lean forward a little. I cannot fake listening. So in a way, I have a leg up.
Of course, the hard part is, how do you start a conversation? You can’t just go, ‘Hey bro, what do you do?’ Or ‘Hey lady, what’s the best part of your job?’
Sometimes you just have to be open, and pleasant in demeanor, and people will start a conversation with you. But if you are alone, and you see the person next to you is alone, you can just ask, ‘Hey, it is a beautiful day, how was your day?’ Simple, starts a conversation, and they may (or may not) reply ‘Oh, my day was awesome, I sold the biggest jellyfish ever! How was your day?’ Then you can say, ‘Man, work was hard, but any day I can afford a pint, is a good day.’ maybe you say, ‘You sell jellyfish?!? I did not know that was a thing, plus I didn’t know there were jellyfish in Ohio!’
That is just one avenue. But it requires you to take advice from Dr. K and expand your awareness outside of yourself. A good thing about small talk at bars, or cafes, or even out at a social networking event, is a lot of the conversation is safe. Usually, people don’t get too deep and don’t expect you to either. It is a good way to get reps in on certain skills like: Breaking the ice, introducing yourself, and paying attention to people.
There are levels of communication. Small talk is a foundational skill that keeps the world moving. I know a lot of people hate it, but it really does produce social lubrication and can lead to deeper conversation. While I may not be great at other forms of communication (I am just learning how to utilize the phone, thank you subtitles!), that doesn’t mean you wouldn’t be able to go farther.
I feel blessed for being able to communicate with people a basic level. It just requires one to pay attention to other people, and be brave to ask questions. And Dr. K does have some other great small talk ice breakers, ‘What is something you want to learn this year?’ ‘Do you have any awesome trips planned?’ ‘What do you think of the jellyfish mafia in Ohio?’ I have had good success talking about what other people do, but there is a whole world to talk about.
Good Luck, Healthy Gamers!
I also used ai to help edit this post, any errors of writing are absolutely mine.
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2024.05.15 22:29 forced_to_rest I am moving to Switzerland soon and I have a question about health insurance premiums

I have a couple of ongoing medical issues that I will need to seek help with in Switzerland after I move. I got doctor notes etc from Sweden so I can present it for help with diagnosis and treatment once i move to Switzerland.
Is it a good idea to just immediately pick the most expensive medical insurance plan with the lowest deductible? Can I do that, even though I already know I will need to seek help immediately after starting to work / relocating?
In Sweden my insurance could deny me treatment for pre-existing conditions, is this how it would be for my Swiss health insurance too?
Thanks all.
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2024.05.15 22:21 Successful_Pea4801 chance me for georgetown (dream school) and other top schools

i’m a south asian junior from ohio interested in premed! (i plan to major in public health and minor in public policy or vocal performance)
3.82 uw (1 C in chem :( ) 4.3 w (4.4 with dual enrollment coursework)
aps: ap stats, ap chem, ap bio, ap calc ab, ap spanish, ap lang so far
senior year: ap micro/macro, ap lit, ap physics (deciding between A or C), ap comp gov
plan on self-studying: apes, ap calc bc, ap psych, ap human geo
dual enrollment: us history, us government, intermediate spanish (2 courses), intro to html, intro to psych, medical terminology, anatomy and physiology + lab prob will take calc 2 and 3 during senior year along with sociology and biology courses
act: 30 in seventh grade (for duke scholarship program), 32 sophomore year, 35 sophomore year
psat: 1410
athletics: varsity crew (2x sarasota nationals qualifier), a cappella assistant choreographer
ecs: - law internship with ohio attorney general - leadership position in state government connected mental health nonprofit (recruitment and pr chair) - math and science tutor at school, used to work at kumon as a math and english tutor (the owner moved and the kumon got closed) - council executive for youth mental health organization - outreach coordinator for local youth-led civic nonprofit - school unicef executive council - girl scout for 10 years (gold award in teaching youth lifesaving skills like first aid and cpr) - girls state delegate (waiting to hear about girls nation) - starting research at a children’s hospital fall of senior year - volunteer at the children’s hospital for one year - choir all state singer (soprano), omea solo superior rating in class a, soprano section leader in school’s top choir, a cappella, sight reading tutor - im thinking about starting a website for patients with a fairly common skin disease (this summer); many of the websites that do exist are geared towards medical professionals
please be harsh and let me know what else i could add/work on to improve my chances!
after georgetown, upenn, cornell, and gw are my top schools
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2024.05.15 22:19 Key_Reflection_9918 Leadership EC’s for T20 and Ivy League

I need some leadership EC ideas that look impressive on college application.
I’m a freshman in the US, I’m going to do a job interview later this week, plan to take 6-8 AP classes throughout HS, play Tennis for my school but not really good at it (for now, maybe I’ll be some a star somehow lol) planning to do something medical related but for sure STEM.
Asian, not first gen, I think my family makes somewhere around 70-100k a year. Female (if that even matters).
I’m in a really good non funded youth group out of school where we have meetings, plan big events in the community, and volunteer. Plan to get two seals of billeteracy. Plan to do something in the science fair every year (didn’t do this year I forgot lol), do spirit week etc (student appreciation) at my school.
Next year I plan to join the medical science club, DECA (I have no clue what that is), key club, and maybe speech and debate and a religious student organization (maybe)all at my school.
I heard that making a website or starting a business to support family is good to do (signed up to make a web for Medical related stuff and planning to do business) but what are some other things I can do?
I mostly want to get into WashU, but I wouldn’t mind getting into similar T20 schools, I feel like I should plan to do more than what I need to for WashU (more like Ivy League) do that if I end up not doing stuff I will still be good enough for WashU.
Also today I got this email from my schools where they are looking for counselors and cabin leaders for middle school camps. Should I do it? I didn’t go to my middle school camp, I don’t want to really stay overnight and that would take a lot of work, but I may not get this opportunity again, should I seize the opportunity or will something better and more impactful for my application come up later on?
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2024.05.15 22:11 Justbrowsin21 Would you do it again? Should I?

I tried to post this on my lurker account but I can’t post without 10 karmas.
I'll do my best to kind of keep focused and please forgive grammar, punctuation. I'm working and had to rewrite.
Hi all!
I went to a medical school outside the country/ worked as a junior doctor. (Americas 2-3rd residency equivalent) Unfortunately, I never matched in the states and a large portion of it was because of some litigation I got caught between with ECFMG, clinical coordinators, and the medical school. School was lying to ECMG about US requirements and dragged the clinical coordinators in and they countered. Lost accreditation. It was a lot.
I found another career and I'm doing well in it but it's become harder to secure a long-term position that isn't a contract. I'm tired of working on a contract basis. I have to pay for my own insurance, retirement etc. Also, I'm pretty much reliant on federal spending for said contracts. My next contract ends in about 16/20 months give or take. I'm applying to several jobs especially ones that I can do in conjunction and it's a challenge due to the economy.
I've developed a plan and now I am applying to an accelerated 12-14 month RN program for next may entry and then upon successful completion CRNA acceptance. (bridge program) I have both a bachelors and a masters degree and the CRNA school requirements are exactly the same for medical school, minus GRE etc. My sciences at this point are all expired and so I have to do them all over. I've already restarted one - two and will be done by enrollment time assuming I'm accepted.
Getting some guidance from a friend who is an OB, they asked me would I consider going back to a 3 year program or traditional program. I didn't have an answer. I started googling 3 or 4 year MD or DO programs. Now, I do feel crazy to think of trying again because not getting residency broke my heart especially because it wasn't really my fault. I had to work by the time news broke so I didn't have time to go back then. My parent had cancer and I needed income as I was already settled in the states.
I know a lot of my peers who graduated in foreign schools who finally got residency and some who didn't. So it's still a gamble albeit a lot lesser of one knowing that's l'd be applying in the states instead of from a foreign entity. I could even not get in right.
But, if I'm already doing these requirements should I consider it? So l'm asking for your opinions, would you do it again objectively? Should I?
I've not been honest with myself in considering that I was only really content career wise working as i a doctor. I don't want to go back and work in my country as I'm settled here.
But am I crazy?
Also, I ask that you all be patient and give me straight advice with consideration. This has always been a tough spot for me, and I don't talk ever about it which is why it's pretty easy to ask strangers. Lots of feelings. Basically, let me up or down easy lol.
Thanks y'all.
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2024.05.15 22:10 Much_Essay_9151 How am I doing for a start

In 12/2021. Bought what I thought would be my forever home. $155k, put $80k down at 3.75%. Owe $76k with a $788 mortgage.
Life changes and am now moving two hours out of town. Keeping the home and have what I feel is the perfect tenant lined up at the end of August when their lease is up. Im renting it for $1200, and will be $1400 if they get a roommate. That is what we agreed on. Market would be about $1500-$1600, but would need a property manager to oversee it for 10%.
Just had an offer accepted on a new rental in the town I am moving to. Sale price $136k after costs @7.5%, a $1066/mo payment. I putting 20% down on this home using the equity line on my current home which is at 7.99% fixed for the next 4 years, then prime plus 1%.
This new rental I am lining up a property manager for 10%, and thinks we can get $1300/mo to attract good long term tenants. So $1170/mo in my pocket.
So $1200 + $1170 - $1066 -$788 is $516. Will still need to pay down the equity line. I want to do that by the time the promo ends or atleast a huge chunk of it then payoff the rest with some other type of loan.
I do have a steady job that pays $80k a year. My new living situation is with my fiance. She just bought her mobile home for $22k which she was renting for a few years before. That is in house financing at 4%. Its a $605 lot rent + $183 house payment.
Now that we have dual income, and her net income covers about twice the mobile home payment. We plan to rehab the mobile home and live here for a few years and save up for a nee primary, then rent this mobile home out.
Any advice on what I should be doing? We will be able to put about $800 a check in savings after all expenses, and the income from the two rentals will be completely separate from our daily finances.
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2024.05.15 22:07 BuffaloNo9011 What Would You Do? 🧐

What Would You Do? 🧐
Hello Comic Community! I'm a collector, like most of you here. I visit this sub often, and have gained a ton of advice over the years. Long story short...I need some help! So .....ive been married for over 20 years (!), and I've been into comics my entire life (born 1985!) . Ever since my wife and I met, my father in law has mentioned a stash of comics he has somewhere. (Usually over a beer or 10 haha) I always mistook that as just small talk and never really paid it any attention. Last Christmas, we're there as usual, and he says hey I want to show you something. He pulls out the largest trove of comics I have ever seen. Basically, he said he got these at an estate sale over 3 decades ago. The collection is so vast and pristine, either this is belonged former shop owner or just some very very very cool (probably dead) dude.
You're probably wondering...what was in it? Well, too much to name, but here are some of the highlights:
Iron Man #1 Silver Surfer #1 Fantastic Four Vol 1 (issues 100 - 250, includes Reed/Sue Wedding and many many more keys) Iron Man Vol 1 (issues 90-130, includes DEMON IN A BOTTLE and many many more keys) Dazzler 1-30 (including 3 number 1 copies) Raiders of the Lost Ark 1-3 ROM #1 (15 issues, including 1-4 & 21-32) Many many more IM, FF, and Avengers Annuals
Took me about 3 months, but I managed to put together a (crude) catalog of sorts. My plan at the moment is to visit a LCS (and CGC partner) to get an appraisal, and perhaps negotiate a sale. I really don't have the energy or time to post and track 500+ eBay items. Plus, my father in law is only willing to sell as one giant collection. (Or would consider per volume. Per issue won't be accepted.)
What would you guys do? 🤔 Neither of us are hurting for cash, so there's absolutely no chance we'll force anything.
Link to spreadsheet with each listing:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1z3dvrckmLtIwo6nFGuicSMsNwW-l-coM/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=118126476813699464835&rtpof=true&sd=true
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