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2024.05.15 15:23 baltimore-aureole A crisis looms!! Affordable Chinese EVs . . .

A crisis looms!! Affordable Chinese EVs . . .
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Photo above - President Biden clowning for reporters as he welcomes Chinese leader Xi Jinping for an official state dinner 6 months ago. This month he announced 100% tariffs on imported Chinese goods.
Well, you can't accuse the White House of being hypocritical. Or out of touch. Wait, actually, we can. They just announced 100% tariffs on foreign built electric vehicles. And America's own high-tech industries are hitting a brick wall – not enough electricity. Due to an aging grid and a rush to decommission traditional power plants even though renewables aren't ready to fill the gap. See links below.
How much money will the 100% tariff cost American consumers? How much tax will flow to the US government? How many UAW jobs will it protect? If we're actually interested in legitimate economics, THOSE are the questions we should be asking.
On the face of it, Biden's scheme to choke off Chinese EVs, solar panels, chips, and everything else that might threaten his constituency makes perfect sense. This IS an election year. Trump IS leading in 5 out of 6 swing states. Democrats simply cannot afford take for granted the votes of UAW members, Silicon Valley girls and boys, and those renewable energy companies America has been subsidizing for a decade. There is no loyalty in politics. The only question is “what did you do for me lately?”
Is Trump a friend or foe of China? It doesn't even matter - I'm not voting for Trump either. He could announce suspension of all EV restrictions and I wouldn't vote for him. Or doubling Biden's tariffs. None of this makes sense if America is trying to navigate a path toward (a) enough electricity and (b) keeping China from stealing our tech, hacking our grid, and flooding America with Fentanyl.
Earth to candidates: affordable cars are not our enemy. Criminal regimes constantly attacking us, and having the lights go out are. A president should NOT be hosting Xi Jinping, chairman of the People's Republic of China, at a state dinner one month, and announcing 100% tariffs on Chinese stuff the next. It looks demented. I'm still waiting for an explanation of what America got in return for handing Xi a propaganda coup of 10,000 pictures smiling and shaking hands with Biden as if everything was A-OK.
I'm probably NOT in the market for a $12,000 EV from China. Even if influencers who've never driven one assure us “they're going to be great”. There are already a bunch of tiny, cheap cars for sale. They are all too harsh, noisy, and primitive to be allowed on America's interstates. Putting a small battery in the back doesn't change that equation. When it gets T-boned by an F150, you're still dead, batteries or no.
However, this writer IS concerned about having enough electricity. Depending on who you ask, America is either 3 years away from having enough public chargers, or public disillusionment with EV range and charging time makes the question moot. Because the market for EVs may already have been saturated. Congress has a plan for that though – more subsidies. Quick question – do you want $7,000 tax refund on a $100,000 Ford F150 Lightning truck (built by UAW union labor)? Or would you pay $24,000 (including the 100% tariff) for a Chinese EV with 180 miles of range? These are the choices we are being given.
Lissen up, Biden and Trump. Here are my priorities.
  1. Keep the lights on. Replace our $hitty century old high voltage transmission lines. Build new power plants.
  2. Stop the Chinese (and Russians) from hacking America's banks, electric grid, hospitals, and water supplies. These are acts of war.
  3. Stop the flow of Fentanyl, which has become the worst opioid crisis in American history. Far worse than heroin ever was.
If you don't want to talk about these things, I'm not even listening.
I'm just sayin' . . .
~Biden announces new tariffs on Chinese EVs, semiconductors, solar cells and more - CBS News~
~There’s Not Enough Power for America’s High-Tech Ambitions - WSJ~
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2024.05.15 15:20 druggachoppa The worst thing about this addiction

My confidence is shattered. I feel like a bum. I haven’t bought myself anything in over a year because I thought “50£ for clothes is expensive” while proceeding to dump thousands in casinos and losing every cent. I work day and night but have nothing to show for it. My girlfriend is helping me as much as she can with just lending me 10£ for food now and then so I don’t starve and I’m so grateful to have her but I am at the complete bottom. Never am I touching this stuff again and I wish I realised this way earlier.
Waking up every day knowing you can’t buy anything, you can’t do anything fun, you feel like a loser because you don’t have any money, even thought the reason you don’t have money isn’t because you’re lazy; it’s because you have an illness. It’s so hard. No one really and truly understands it. 10 minutes on a website costs you months of working to earn it back.
I’m fighting every day but relapse after relapse and I need to break the cycle. I wanna be a decent man that can earn his living and keep it. I wanna be able to look at myself in the mirror and be proud. Every time I don’t have money or any thing I just try to remember that it’s not all my fault. It’s an illness. Keep fighting.
The worst of it is as well; advertisements for gambling are everywhere. How is that legal? I mean you are advertising for people to ruin their lives. Unbelievable.
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2024.05.15 15:11 wtsui Unlocking Cross-Border Inheritance: How AI Legalese Decoder Can Simplify the Process for Leaving Money to a Foreign Friend in Japan

https://legalesedecoder.com/unlocking-cross-border-inheritance-how-ai-legalese-decoder-can-simplify-the-process-for-leaving-money-to-a-foreign-friend-in-japan/?utm_source=SocialAutoPoster
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2024.05.15 15:05 motivatedhotdog Medical students with businesses and side gigs, how do you do it?

Let me preface this by saying that I'm a GP who has been moonlighting for a couple years now, and hence what I'm about to say is skewed by my personal observations and experiences. If I'm wrong, please feel free to correct me.
Lately I've heard from colleagues (including my own peers, consultants, and med school professors I'm still in touch with) that there are so many medical students nowadays who are also entrepreneurs on the side. While this is a good thing, I'm honestly curious as to how they are able to manage their time and resources towards their pursuits, while during my time it's quite uncommon - I only had one batchmate who ran a business during med school, she's a Neurology resident now. Especially since we all know here just how demanding medical education is in terms of time and effort spent - the idea of earning money on the side definitely did not occur to my med student self. Shifting exams, SGDs, and case presentations were my prime priority back then.
Is this another one of those generational differences? Or did I just happen to be unexposed to the right "factors" that would have pushed me to do the same back then?
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2024.05.15 15:01 sleepysnafu Careers straight out of highschool?

I know my choices are slim, but my partner is going to college so I don’t want both of us to be in debt. I want to make money as soon as I graduate so I can support both of us as much as I can.
I’m awful at math, pretty good at english but I hate writing. I don’t really have any notable hobbies, I love nature but there aren’t really any jobs near me that involve working with plants and don’t require college experience.
I have a speech impediment and social anxiety, so I’d rather not have a job that involves talking to people. I have janitorial experience, and I’m absolutely willing to become a janitocustodian as a part-time job, but the pay isn’t good enough to do it long-term. I have some sort of undiagnosed tic disorder, so I can’t do something precise like being a painter (learned that the hard way).
I know I’m picky, but any suggestions at all will be appreciated. Thank you!
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2024.05.15 15:00 deadcoder0904 9 Use cases for GPT-4o

GPT-4o is an omni model. It accepts any combination of text, audio, and image as input and generates any combination of text, audio, and image as outputs.
There's 100s of applications it will enable. I'll cover a few of them below.

1. Language Learning

Duolingo Stock fell by $65 in the last 5 days. That should tell you the entire story.
Duolingo Stock
For context, Duolingo is a language-learning app. Now GPT-4o can easily translate terms in other languages by just pointing it to the ChatGPT's Camera.
This is massive if you want to travel globally as a nomad. You don't have to know a language now. You can just translate on the fly in any random country.
The accuracy won't be 100% but it would be close enough. And the AI keeps improving.

2. Solving School Problems For Students

I wish I had this in school. Learning could've been more efficient and faster.
Most students fear asking questions because they feel it might be dumb. Now you can ask ChatGPT any dumb question.
It even solves math problems for the Salman Khan's (founder of Khan Academy, not the actor) Kid.

3. Bed Time Stories For Kids

Since ChatGPT can talk now with a humourous and sultry voice, you can use it to tell stories to kids. It can be used in the voice of their parents or grandparents.
You can even use a Soft Toy that does the talking to the kid. Earlier, there used to be toys that did that but it only spoke the same sentence. Now it can do back and forth.
You can make special toys that teach kids letters and alphabets. Target it to 2-3 year olds.
Hat tip to Whyme-__- for the Bed Time idea.

4. Be My Eyes For The Blind

Best damn use-case for the blind. Now using a Phone is a bit too much for this but when smart glasses come, every blind person will have a walking companion.
The future is great for the blind.

5. Be My Friend

Too many people are lonely nowadays thanks to technology. It can be a boon for some but a con for others.
You can build a specialized app that gets you an AI Friend since you can talk to it now and it can talk back, it will be great.
I am 100% sure Therapy AI will be much better now with Audio/Video integration. In future, we will have fully featured Robots like Tesla's Optimus and Figure that will have such functionalities built-in.
I bet this comes in <2 years judging by the pace at which AI and Robotics are accelerating.

6. Comic Books

Now that text can be easily created with ChatGPT, why not create Comic Books easily.
Its a huge creative exercise for comic creators. Webtoons have exploded in popularity and many KDramas are made out of them like Death's Game and Marry My Husband.
This will increase the creativity exponentially.

7. Font Creations

Fonts are expensive. Like really expensive.
Funnily enough ChatGPT can create fonts easily now. Take the most popular fonts, tweak them a bit, and create entire new sets of fonts.
Look at the creations explode on Creative Market. Font directories like Typewolf can now create their own fonts easily as they already have distribution.
Open AI GPT-4o Text to Font

8. Brand Placements

It solved for Brand Placements too.
You can put your brand in places you never imagined without using too much effort.
Open AI GPT-4o Brand Placement

9. Poster Creation for Movies or TV Series

Posters are hard to get right but as you know there are only finite variations.
Open AI GPT-4o Movie Posters
You can fine-tune it on popular movie posters and solve Poster Creation once and for all.
Open AI GPT-4o Poster Creation
What use-cases can you come up with? Give me your best ones.
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2024.05.15 15:00 aznpersuazion Why Vancouver has THE BEST FOOD IN NORTH AMERICA

Alright, buckle up because we're diving into why Vancouver's food scene is straight-up legendary. Forget the regular city vibes; Vancouver is a melting pot of flavors, a culinary carnival that beats anything else in North America. Join me on this personal quest to unravel why the combo of Asian influence, Pacific Northwest goodness, and chill dining vibes makes Vancouver the top pick for foodies.
Asian Culinary Delights: Tradition and Creativity Unleashed
Vancouver's streets resonate with the aromas of traditional Asian dishes, prepared with a touch of authenticity that transports you across borders. Picture slurping savory ramen in Chinatown or savoring hand-pulled noodles in a cozy corner of East Van. But what makes Vancouver's Asian food scene truly exceptional is its fusion of tradition with modern creativity.
In this city, innovation meets tradition on a plate. Take, for instance, squid ink brioche with sea urchin pâté – a daring yet harmonious blend of flavors that pushes the boundaries of culinary expectations. Vancouver's chefs are culinary artists, creating dishes that not only pay homage to traditional recipes but also elevate them into extraordinary, palate-pleasing experiences.
And let's not forget the matcha mochi croissants that have taken the city by storm. A fusion of Japanese mochi and French croissants, these delectable pastries are a testament to Vancouver's culinary diversity. Each bite is a dance of textures and tastes, showcasing the city's flair for seamlessly blending cultures and cuisines.
Pacific Northwest's Grocery List: Seafood Galore and More
Living next to the Pacific Ocean is like having a seafood aisle in your backyard. Fresh salmon, sweet Dungeness crab, and chubby spot prawns – Vancouver's seafood game is on point. And let's not forget the local veggies and meats, straight from the region's green landscapes. It's like nature’s way of saying, "Hey, enjoy the good stuff!"
Nature Vibes: Dining with a View
Vancouver's layout is like a dating app for food and nature; they're a match made in heaven. Whether you're brunching in a leafy neighborhood or devouring seafood with an ocean panorama, the city serves up an Instagrammable backdrop for every meal. Picture this: a patio, a breeze, and the scent of fir trees – eating out just got a whole lot cooler.
Neighborhood Chronicles: Culinary Adventures Off the Beaten Path
Downtown is cool, but venture out, and you'll hit foodie gold. Commercial Drive's eclectic spots or Richmond's legit Asian flavors – Vancouver's neighborhoods are like culinary treasure maps. Each area has its own flavor story, tempting you to be the food explorer you were born to be.
Conclusion
Vancouver isn't just a city with good food; it's a food fiesta waiting to happen. The Asian vibes, the Pacific Northwest's goodies, and the city's chill connection with nature make dining here a full-blown experience. Vancouver isn't just North America's food champion; it's a vibe, a journey through flavors, and a big, fat stamp on your foodie passport. So, next time you're craving a culinary adventure, Vancouver's got your back, fork, and knife.

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2024.05.15 14:57 hayema7 June Swap Preview (better late than never!)

May ROTMs have landed and a few of us are waiting on some mystery bundles. The records I've seen on the most tables are Little Richard with it's slick jacket and Earl Sweatshirt. Clint Black, Alice Coltrane, and Don Blackman are all spinning around as well.
A reminder for ROTMs: Moving forward, newly released ROTMs are going to be exclusive to memberships and swaps for 3 months. For example, our May ROTMs will not be available in store until August. With this in mind, anything within 3 months of release is a "good deal." Other titles can be used with store discount codes, so you may be able to get them cheaper in the store. We're getting our first release of ROTMs with way, with January titles hitting the store.
Bonus records are now gone, but referral codes can get you discounts on multi-month memberships if you're interested in joining. Don't forget to check the referral thread to grab a code or reach out to some individuals if you're considering a 3 ($20 off), 6 ($40 off), or 12 month ($80 off) plan. It's a win-win for everyone.
This month's preview focuses on the June Swap Preview. Remember that not all swaps are "good deals." Some titles cost less than the price of your subscription. Prices for store titles will be included, while past ROTMs range from $37 for some 1LPs to $41 for other 1 and 2LPs and $49 for other 2LPs for members. You can also click "Learn More" and see the member price in your swap preview. With the new titles in swaps, we're seeing values a lot closer to your monthly prices.
All value is based on the new add-on price ($36). If you previously bought a 3, 6, or 12-month subscription, you're at that price on your main track until that subscription ends (I think this is the last month for this). Swapping for credit will get you that old price, which is something to keep in mind at this point. Know your price and know your value. Your price may vary, depending on what subscription level you're at, so be aware of how much you're paying each month before swapping. In no way is this a judgment on the music, but I'm just trying to make sure members don't pay subscription prices for a record that is significantly cheaper in the store.
Titles are broken down into 4 categories (New/will go quickly, solid recent options that are good value, questionable value, and do not swap) themed for September ROTMs with examples from the current swap preview. There are still some great deals to be had, even if we aren't seeing the crazy anthology value.
As always, feel free to post questions about specific titles you may be interested in. The community is very knowledgeable about pressing details and sound. I'm sure a lot of members would be willing to share their reviews of the pressing quality, even if it's in a category that you may not agree with:
Isaac Hayes - Swap Moses: Let Swap Moses part the seas and guide you to the promised land. These titles are the best of the month. Be on to grab them ASAP! They could be a repress of past ROTMs that have been long gone or store titles that aren't around anymore. They're some of the community's favorites. Waitlisted titles under $36 are a gamble. Some stock could've been pulled back. Get them while you can!
Essentials: N/A
Classics: Nina Simone (waitlisted)
RHH: Wu Tang (waitlisted)
Country: N/A
Rock: Little Richard (was locked down from adding toward the end of last month. I'd lock this one in if you want it because I don't forsee it lasting past this month outside of TBT)
Dolly: New Harvest
Store Titles: The Story of Memphis Rap ($269), Yuji Toriyama ($35 but waitlisted), Sampha Unnumbered ($37 but waitlisted), Tony Rice ($35 but waitlisted), The Story of The Comedy Store ($199), Ted Lucas ($27 but waitlisted), ATCQ - Love Movement ($80)
Harry Nilsson - A Little Touch of Swaps in the Night: You won't have to be on quite as fast as other titles, but a touch of these swaps will make for a great month. We're starting to see them selling out a little faster, so if you're interested in something, it's probably a good idea to grab them in swaps. You may have had your eye on and now have some reviews to base your decision on. I don't expect a rush for these titles, but keep an eye on them as the swap window goes on and they may move to low stock. These are recent ROTMs (Past 6 Months Listed), recent represses you may have missed, or in-stock store titles listed for more than the price of your subscription or an add-on track that may be on your wishlist. I also added some that have been popular with VMP subscribers. These are pretty safe bets for the value of your subscription and our frequent swappers.
Essentials: Alice Coltrane (swap exclusive), Harry Nilsson (swap exclusive), Willie Nelson P&S (swap exclusive until July), Fleetwood Mac (now in store), Labelle (now in store), Herbie Hancock, Ray Charles, Ray Barretto, Santigold, Bone Thugs, Stevie Nicks
Classics: Don Blackman (swap exclusive), Oliver Nelson (swap exclusive) Gary Bartz (now in store), La Lupe (now in store), Hector Lavoe, The MarKeys/Booker T, David Porter, Hound Dog, Wynton Marsalis, McCoy Tyner, Thelonious Monk
RHH: Earl Sweatshirt - Doris (swap exclusive), O.C (now in store), Boogie Down Productions (now in store), Masta Killa, Lupe Fiasco, Run DMC, Aesop Rock, Atmosphere, Q-Tip, Goldlink
Country: Clint Black (swap exclusive), Alan Jackson (swap exclusive) Rodney Crowell (swap exclusive until July), Billy Joe Shaver (now in store), Guy Clark (now in store), Wille Nelson (& Family), John Prine, Bobbie Gentry, Waylon Jennings
Rock: Little Richard (swap exclusive), Stevie Ray Vaughn (swap exclusive), Heart (swap exclusive until July), The Replacements (swap exclusive until June)
Store Titles: Chromeo ($45) La the Darkman ($42), Usher - My Way ($53), Kronos Quartet ($40), Willie Nelson - I Don't... ($39), Kiefer ($42), Oneohtrix Point Never (Again $45), Sarah Evans ($39), JOHN ($40), Alicia Keys (Girl on Fire $43), Euphoria S1 ($42), Busta Rhyme ($40), First Choice ($40), Rexx Life Raj ($40), Wayne Shorter Live ($46), Moses Sumney (L@B $40), Alan Braufman ($58), Euphoria S2 ($42), T-Pain ($41), Saba - FGT ($46), Altopalo ($44), Fly Anakin ($41), Black Milk ($40), Mariah Carey - Butterfly ($48), Atmosphere ($43), Joe Bataan ($40)
Charlie Worsham - Swapperband: Like a rubberband, going for these titles is a stretch. You don't save any money (or very little), so be sure to think it through. Have you had your eye on this title for a while or are you just considering them due to the fact that they're in swaps? These titles are close to the price of an add-on track, so don't dive in without considering if you REALLY want them. Think twice about these titles and ask yourself "Would I buy this if it wasn't in swaps because I'm not saving money?" These are often labeled "Swap exclusives" and store titles around $36. It may be a tough decision to swap for these.
Store Titles: Jules ($35), John Glacier Surf Gang ($35), Honky Tonk Angels ($35), OFFAIR: Dr. No's Lost Beach ($35)
Big Pun - Swapital Punishment: Don't punish yourself (or your wallet) by going after these titles. These are titles that I'd encourage you to look elsewhere to purchase, wait for a sale, or buy for less on discogs. This is my personal Do Not Swap list. As an alternative swap for credit and buy in the store, go to Discogs to look for the same pressing at less than the price of your subscription (most applicable for past ROTMs), or wait for a sale. Take your time to find a deal, as these aren't going anywhere. Most of these titles have been around for a long time, and this is VMPs way of getting rid of extra stock while making a few extra bucks. This includes in-stock store titles under $35 and older ROTMs which have been around for years.
Essentials: Aaliyah, Torres, Lapsley, The Books, Kevin Morby, Silvertones, Townes Van Zandt, Experience Unlimited, Sleater Kinny, Jim Sullivan, Dirty Projectors, Beverly Glenn Copeland, Grizzly Bear, Caroline Rose (all showing for less than an add on track in US on Discogs)
Classics: Sarah Webster Fabio, Leon Ware, Frederick Knight, Isaac Hayes, Abbey Lincoln, Teddy Pendergrass, Charles Musselwhite, Sylvester (all showing for less than an add on track in US on Discogs)
RHH: Open Mike Eagle, Queen Latifah, Da Brat, Lord Finesse, Big Boi, Future, Nappy Roots, Eyedea & Abilities, Young MC, E-40, UGK, Gang Starr, J Dilla (all showing for less than an add on track in US on Discogs)
Country: Reba McIntyre, Sam Hunt, Loretta Lynn, Brad Paisley (all showing for less than an add on track in US on Discogs)
Store Titles: Blvck Svm and Pilotkid ($28), Babsy Konate ($25)
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2024.05.15 14:56 Cultural_Moment_6588 3* Gem CF (no active playstyle)

3* Gem CF (no active playstyle)
I'm working on a new 3* squad (will do a post on that when it's more developed) and have found my current favourite player, MARINHO.
Firstly, I know he'll be of no interest nor be impressive to those who are all about the D1 ranking. I get my kicks hovering in lower-mid D2 playing with 3* squads so I'm pitching at other gem aficionados.
I wanted a CF that didn't have an active playstyle to see how they worked and it turns out they work out quite well, he seems to behave more contextually in line with the tactics, making runs or dropping when it makes sense rather than just doing one all the time (like a Goal Poacher or DLF would do).
He's a better dribbler and more agile than the stats (which are good but not special) would suggest. What I like is he's strong for a small striker (80 Physical Contact on top of the 88 Balance) so he's able to collect and turn under pressure from big CBs without doing that really annoying "shrug" animation and allowing the CB to just walk through him and come away with the ball.
And his shooting... oh his shooting is a rocket. I'm going to be adding First Time Shot at the earliest opportunity but so far without it if you work just a little bit of space he can hit a shot so quickly with real venom.
Since he's not one of those meta strikers you see in every other team your opponent doesn't know what he's capable of, how he'll move off the ball, what foot he uses etc. The downside is his Stamina, he's only really good for the first 35 mins and the first 10 or so of the second half but by that point the surprise element has worn off somewhat anyway.
Aesthetically he's got a real face and bleach blonde hair so looks pretty cool whilst being easy to pick out at a glance too.
I also plan to add One Touch Pass and Through Pass to him to improve his link up play.
Well worth 15k GP of anyone's money if you like using the lower rated players. Anyone else used him or got someone else similar they'd recommend?
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2024.05.15 14:53 Light_love_joy AITAH for not attending my friend's wedding and ending our friendship?

Background
I [F] had a friend [Lisa] since childhood. We are now 31. Over the past few years, I had been experiencing a severe brain injury, chronic illness, and really unhealthy physical and emotional things from my parents. These things with my parents had happened since I was a child. It started as emotional then turned physical when my health took a turn in the past few years. Things got so bad that I had to move away to focus on my health and to heal - a very hard and scary decision after investing six years into trying to address the unhealthy behaviors with my family and having no income at the time. Things went no contact with my family after this. My parents are friends with Lisa's family because they are in the same circle as a lot of my extended family. Lisa had moved away when most of the unhealthy physical behaviors and illness started to happen in my life, but we kept in touch and had multiple chats about what was going on, including my health conditions and the unhealthy physical behaviours and the no contact situation I was in with my parents.
AITA?
This past year she came home and was getting married. I never received a save the date, but I had her over with her partner and made a beautiful brunch I put a lot of time and effort in to welcoming her home and celebrating her engagement. Her wedding naturally came up and I mentioned that I'm not sure I could attend if my parents will be there (b/c of PTSD from what happened and still trying to heal and the no contact situation). Lisa knew we were not communicating and that things were unhealthy but still invited my parents to her wedding without saying anything to me about it. When I brought up I may not be able to attend with them there, she got super defensive and her response was "Well that's your choice." aka - she didn't want to get involved with it or help me at all.
It ended up putting me in a very difficult position, one I don't feel she was open to talking about. Lisa and I were very close (like sisters) and so I wanted to attend in some way, but had been advised by multiple medical professionals to not go if my parents were there because of the unhealthy physical and emotional things that had happened with them. My counselor said to me why don't you ask if it's possible they don't attend? And so I considered standing up for myself and asking because I usually don't say anything about these kind of situations. Lisa's response was "That's not a fair question. You can come to watch me get ready before the ceremony. But I already sent out save the dates so they are coming." Keep in mind I didn't know save the dates went out because I never received one. She also said at one point "You can't avoid your parents for the rest of your life." and mentioned she wouldn't be having any bridesmaids / a wedding party.
After these responses, I decided to not attend her wedding. I felt the conversation was escalating and I didn't want to be the friend that added stress or drama to her wedding planning, but I also wanted to respect myself in that I didn't feel safe attending her wedding. I would have been happy to attend and join her in the just 'getting ready' part of her wedding and make the 3.5 hour commute even with the disabilities I have that would have made it very difficult, but I also felt there was no compassion or sympathy/understanding or a lot of consideration toward what was going on which was really hard on my heart after I had talked to her so much over the years it all. I also stepped away from our friendship as it didn't feel healthy to me anymore and I could foresee these same situations happening in future. I understand she was in a hard position too, but I feel she could have handled it in a way that supported me as her friend more and in a way that had healthier communication and recognized the difficult place I was in too.
Later she reached out after her wedding to talk but again offered no accountability, no compassion, or sympathy for the situation I was in. I had tried to stay focused on a solution for the both of us and asked "Is it possible they don't come to future events or will they always be at your events? Because I'm not sure I can be there if they are there and I'm not sure how this friendship will work." She stated opinions in response "I would have been able to do that" but "A counselor should never tell you what to do." and "You need to stop avoiding conflict", and other opinions. She also mentioned that my parents offered to not go (which she never mentioned until after her wedding/this point) and told me I should have just waited essentially and that "I was going to ask you to be my maid of honor" which was weird given her initial comment of no wedding party.
Again, I don't feel this was a healthy approach to resolving the conflict. I also later found out she accepted a lot of money from my parents as a wedding gift and had been spending time at their place after I had stepped away from our friendship. I ended up ending the friendship at this point.
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2024.05.15 14:34 Puzzleheaded-Rub3122 My bipolar friend blocked me because I told them that they made me feel uncomfortable

I’m sharing this because I really wanna know what You would do in my place, whether I did the right thing and can I be mad at my friend
English isn’t my first language, sorry for any mistakes (kinda long text? mentions of selfharm, SA) I hope I explained my situation clearly. If any points are unclear, ask me
Today, my friend sent a photo of selfharm on Telegram in the morning, but they didn't write anything else (it was just a photo) and we didn’t communicate for several weeks. I was slightly confused when I saw the photo, even though they could have just sent photos of their sh in the middle of our conversation many times earlier and I always tried to comfort them. But I think what they did today is too much. They said to me that they have bipolar disorder and I understand that in this way, people with mental illnesses want to receive support
However, when I wanted to get support from him, as I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma, which I wrote to him about on another messenger a several weeks ago, he read my messages and did not respond. Besides, he did not congratulate me on my birthday, which was the day before yesterday, but he remembers the date exactly I think? since a few months ago he asked me about it. (Ok I know that’s a dumb reason to be resent but still that a little bit hurt me, also I bought them ps5 because they asked me to buy it for them many times so I did it, though I was saving money for a gift for myself)
Generally we've been friends for 3 years and he was a very good person and I love them as a friend, but about 6 months he's been acting weird, for example, he joked about sex when i told them that i was almost sa’d and he could made jokes about my insecurities. I told my friends about them and they said that I should to stop communicating with them, as their behavior seemed very annoying to them. But I don’t blame them for their disorder because they are most likely just having a manic period
Although I still decided to message him that his sudden photo of sh made me feel uncomfortable. In response, he messaged “Ok” and cleared the chat for both (that means the chat is cleared for me too) and blocked me. I regret that I messaged to him about this, as I still appreciated our friendship, because earlier they really was the sweetest friend who always lifted my mood. I want to apologize to them but I can't get in touch with them in any way :(
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2024.05.15 14:30 Own-Construction-528 AITAH for only tipping $200 on a 4K tattoo?

Got my arm done recently. Was a little more expensive than I would’ve liked, but the artist is really good.
It took 20 hours. I did the math, he made $200 an hour. My arm is mostly black so no other colors were incorporated. It looks really good.
I left a $200 tip (I thought that was fine) but my cousin, who recommended him, said that was a terrible tip.
Again he made $200 an hour, which is a pretty good amount of money. He also is an independent artist and it’s just himself who does them.
Did I stiff him? New to tattoo etiquette.
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2024.05.15 14:28 BennieMiller Timber company cleared around a 1/4 acre of land on my property.

Around 2017 a timber company cleared a few hundred acres on the property touching ours. I was only 17 at the time and my grandma had passed leaving us the land it was touching. It was tied up in court until a couple months ago and I’ve since gotten a survey and they cut around 100ft onto our property and 200ft along it. Completely cleared it. It was mostly pine I believe but either way I planned to build a hour back there and those trees would’ve provided a barrier around the land but now I’m missing a 100ft x 200ft area of trees. My sister and uncle have the same issue. They have property next to mine our grandmother left us that has also been cleared the same amount. Is there anything that can be done or has it been to long? We couldn’t do anything back then because it was tied up in court and couldn’t be deeded to us yet. But, now we can. So can anything be done or are we just out of luck? It’s in Alabama and the executor of the will passed away due to covid 2 years ago but before that she stole a bunch of money that was left to us in that will and ran off on drugs. That’s why we were in court for so long.
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2024.05.15 14:25 valoline AITAH for telling my spoiled older brother and little sister that not everything is a about them

All names are fake names So this goes back to a few days ago me and my twin brother where playing a video game my twin got from our auntie we are 4 siblings me ash (15 m) twin brother Cole (15 m) my older brother max (17 m) and little sister Sofia (13 f ) Me and Cole where playing in our room since we share one Sofia walked in pushing his childhood toy on the floor laughing then saw the game and wanted to play Cole said no bc it's his game and he wants to play first she got mad and ran out to our b max telling him Cole won't let her play max came in yelled at us when Cole said no he went to tell our mom she came In our room and said "you can't play before you clean the room your bathroom and do your homework" which we already had in between when our Sofia got max Cole had picked up the thing she pushed down she yelled at us to get off Cole said "we already done all that" she yelled to let Sofia and max Play so we just went to sit in our beds max and Sofia came in and played in our room being loud me and Cole made a deal to everytime we are in our room we do it at our dests and take the whatever the food was in right out but mom bought Sofia and max snacks that normally make a big mess after they finished playing both went to their room and didn't clean up the mess we told mom and she yelled at us to clean it ourselves and called us spoiled brats so we did after that it became dark we both went to sleep the next day was a long school day for me and Cole when we came home our room was a mess everything was laying everywhere like someone had thrown our stuff around to find something we both looked at our hide spots for money everything that we had made from our job was gone Cole had around 4500 and I had 6700 which is a lot where I live we went to our mom saying it she said she let Sofia and max take it then grounded us for "talking back" which we did not do we went to our rooms and called our favorite auntie who gave Cole the game she said she would talk to our mom half an hour our mom came running in our room yelling we said we wanted our money back and she gave us since she made a lot from her job then left our siblings came into our room wanted to show off what both bought we didn't care and they got mad Sofia went to mom crying and max went to his room mad cole wanted to play but saw his PlayStation which is what we play on was gone we called our auntie again and Sofia came in our room saying we wouldn't ever get it back then left I got really mad and Cole got sad since he used a lot of his money on it a year ago of course he made more money but it was still annoying our mom called for dinner and I asked where his PlayStation was our mom said she gave it to Sofia and max because they deserved it more because "Sofia got amazing grades and max got on the football team" which Sofia got 42 out of 100 and max only made it because he gave the pe teacher the money he stole from us I said it wasn't fair and we never got anything when we did something our mom said "what have you ever got or won then" Cole got sad that she didn't remember anything we told her so I said "oh let me tell you Cole got 100 on english math and history exams he won three volleyball games in the past two months and is on top of his class I got 97 on english exams 93 on math exam I won two basketball games in the past week I'm on second in our class we cleaned the whole house everyday alone got 100 on all our homework " she looked shocked and said "well your brother have gotten a job and your sister have gotten a boyfriend" I said "max got fired for stealing from the store he works at on the first day and Sofia is cheating on her boyfriend with 6 different mem" our mom got shocked and said "well I'm sure there is a reason" Sofia laughed and said "yeah your just jealous because you can't get a girlfriend" and max said "for real just give up and see that we are the favorite" after I yelled "mom can't you see how a bad mom you are and you two not everything is about you " and went to my room pulling Cole along who was crying at this point our mom yelled that we are grounded for three months only thing we are allowed to do is go to school work and games
I will update If anything happens
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2024.05.15 14:24 ImbecileOctopus I'm Just So Lost

I'm alone. All my life I've been able to make friends. But I always lose them, in third grade, I lost my two best friends because they switched schools and we just fell out of touch, in fifth grade I lost all my friends except for three, though this was also because of them moving, I made more friends in sixth grade and we remained friends for a good while. Freshman year my best friend from kindergarten and I stopped talking, she texted me one day saying that she didn't actually like me, and she never wanted to talk to me again. That hurt a lot, I got over it in about eight months and eventually was able to stop thinking about her everyday, and seeing her at school didn't bother me as much.
February the next year came, one year since my previous best friend and I stopped talking, maybe it got in my head, and I had been starting to feel suffocated by my current best friend at the time, I loved her, but she kept hurting me by not acknowledging my presence when we were in groups, no matter how hard I tried to contribute to the conversation, she kept leaving me and I just wanted a break from feeling like I was nothing to her. I just wanted some space. But I totally went about it in the wrong way. I picked a fight for no reason and said some awful things that I regret with every fiber of my being. At first, we stopped talking for a couple weeks, and I made two new friends, but soon after my best friend sent me an email telling me everything that was wrong with me, overbearing, pushy, and more I can't remember well, and I agree with her now, I've grown a lot and if she had said those thing recently, I could have come to terms with what she was saying, the things she pointed out were valid points that I should have looked into more, but I got defensive, this was when I thought she didn't want to be friends anymore because it sounded like she hated so many things about me... then what was there to like?
She had texted me a night before and said that she wanted to talk to me, with a specific teacher as a mediator, I refused, I am a very very private person and I do not like to share my feelings with anyone I'm not used to being around, and I wasn't yet familiar with this teacher. I told my friend that if she really didn't want to be friends anymore, that I would respect her decision. I was trying to protect myself, trying to make sure I broke it off before she did, I hate that my brain went there immediately. I wish I had tried to fight for her. She screamed at me while I sat there in a sort of calm daze, which completely gave off the impression that I didn't care... but I cared so much, she told me that I was self-sabotaging and was throwing away something that hadn't gone bad, she was screaming so loud, a teacher came in and told he she was disrupting classes, she was escorted out of the room and I heard her crying, and as soon as she left the room I burst out in tears too.
Our mutual friends, which was only two people, but they were my only other friends, stopped talking to me, and only hung out with her, but we were never on bad terms. I am beginning to resent them though. We stopped talking completely and soon summer vacation came. My cat died, I moved out of my narcissistic mother's house to my Dad's house, and his girlfriend accused me of stealing money, which I didn't, but my father took her side anyway and the entire time I was there they kept trying to blame things on me, and continuously scorned me for being antisocial, so eventually I moved out again when my father and I got in a huge fight, and I haven't talked to him since. I worked 80 hour weeks during the summer at two jobs, trying to keep my mind off my friend, my dad, and stay away from my mom, but it was okay because I had three friends who were from Mongolia, and two friends who were from Turkey working the same exact hours as me. But near the end of the summer, my two Turkish friends and I decided to plan a trip to go to Florida, I asked my mom and after some convincing she finally agreed, we got plane tickets, booked hotels, got car rental stuff, but the night before I left, my mom told me I wasn't allowed to go anymore, she has done this multiple times, but not of this magnitude, I told her that we had already paid for everything, but she told me that if I left, she would call the cops on me.
So I texted my Turkish friends and I told them what happened, but they wouldn't believe me... they blamed me and said "did you tell your mom?" I told them that I did, but they swore that I was lying, they told everyone, including my three Mongolian friends, so in the last month that my foreign friends were in the country, they all hated me, treated me terribly, constantly gave me dirty looks, and were scornful. It broke my heart, especially because they were so kind before, if I can make the kindest person hate me... then what kind of monster am I?
Finally, I came back to school, and it was so much harder than I thought it would be, seeing her everyday, happy with her friends while I sat there, alone and in misery, I had a couple friends, but they weren't in many of my classes. I was able to hold out for so long. One day I just couldn't take it anymore. I just completely gave up, seeing her was too much to bear, she didn't care about me anymore, I didn't have any close friends, just people who wouldn't really care if I lived or died. Everyday was a struggle. I stopped going to school, stopped going to work, and just curled up in my bed and decided that I had enough. I was on a course to graduate that year, a whole year early which got screwed up as well, ruining my chances of doing so.
I skipped work for almost three weeks, but I eventually came back because my boss said she missed me and reassured me that no body was mad. I haven't been to school in about two months, I don't know how I could go back anymore, it would be humiliating... like, what would I say? What if people asked questions? I'd just come off as so pathetic. I've ruined my life, I have little chance of a diploma, and no chance if I don't go back, I've been labeled as "truancy" or whatever. I was also supposed to go to Spain and Italy for a school trip, but I wasn't able to go because of my lack of attendance, so I ended up wasting 4,000 dollars.
My two friends that I made after my last best friend and I broke up called the cops on me because she thought I was going to kill myself, and I was so mad and embarrassed I cried the whole way to the hospital with my mom in the car and was able to go back home after some tests, after I got home, I went off on them, I was so so upset, and I honestly still am, I know they were only doing what they thought best, but I told her that I didn't want to talk to her until she would apologize, because all she kept saying was "I'm sorry you feel that way" so I told her to stop apologizing for how I felt, and apologize for what she did. She didn't, so I told her that I wasn't going to talk to her until she apologized. And the other friend who was in on it too, I texted her angrily and she said "womp womp" I immediately blocked her, I was so mad, words cannot describe my level of fury at that moment. It wasn't funny, that was not the time for jokes.
I have no friends, only my narcissistic mother, I don't even have a father anymore, my oldest sister isn't in contact with him either, for a different reason... I've just been working, and trying not to think. But I can't take it anymore. Have I really screwed everything up? Is my life worth anything anymore? Friendship is dead. Family is overrated, and I have never been able to keep a friend, I do not want the pain of loosing another one, I have people who I enjoy being around, I have coworkers, I have my sisters, and I have two people I hang out with sometimes, but really, none of them are my friends. I never want to make another friend, I refuse, I know they consider me their friends, but if I put a real label on it, it'll hurt too much when they leave and begin to hate me. What do I do? Am I destined for failure? Why do I always end up alone? Not only does everyone hate me, but I'm hating myself more and more by the passing day. I don't know what to do... can somebody, anybody help me? I'm just so lost.
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2024.05.15 14:18 HeadBoy9 Prison days #355, #356, #357 (Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, 12, 13, 14, 2024)

Many turbulent waters have passed under a very narrow bridge these past three days. We feared fear itself on a different level and experienced some of the biggest stress we have in a very long time. We were locked almost 24 hours (20 minutes of open-out time on Monday and Tuesday).
Considering that most of us don't eat the prison rations, we hungered and thirst greatly. At some points food and water became scarce in the entire yard. Bread was completely unavailable and treated and packaged water was spent. All sellers sold out within the first 20 minutes of opening on Monday. Since there was nothing entering or leaving, by Tuesday afternoon, no food or water could be found at any cell or anywhere within the yard.
Remember, the first news of an imminent search came on Saturday night (Day #354) and we did an emergency hiding of our phones. We were all scared and restless, the hiding wasn't safe, we only hid anywhere that looked like something could be put in it. It was already late when this info came and we were all already locked in and couldn't, well, go out, so we only did our hidings within and around. During the day, the following morning, we used our phones until locking time before the hiding began again and stretched into the night. (I'm talking about Sunday evening/night now).
I sent mine along with the accessories to the workshop for safekeeping while others hid theirs in many creative ways. Officially, cells collected their phones together in a plastic bucket and holes were dug within the blocks and they were buried. This was done under the cover of night.
COs opened our cells and instructed us to do it and make sure no contraband remained in any cell as this would always bounce back on them. They didn't want that and so had to aid us. The external search party that came was directly from the nation's capital (HQ of corrections) and were therefore superior to any officer in this facility. Even superior to the state comptroller of corrections. It was a pretty tense situation for us inmates and as well for them COs.
On Sunday night, I slept quite well after we'd hidden our phones and stuff, mine in the toilet at the workshop and others majorly buried in the ground inside blocks. Early in the morning on Monday, when the search was to begin, was when we had the most anxiety. The cells and blocks were just too troublingly quiet. I mean it was so quiet it was deafening, literally. Like a pressure built up in my two ears and everything paused and people moved in slow motion, kind of quiet.
Suspense. Suspense. Suspense. In the morning, before they eventually showed up, we were dying of suspense. Being fortunate as a result of the positioning of our cell, we have a window that can see a greater part of the yard, as well as the main gate far up front. For this morning, everyone wanted to stand at that window and mount the sentry. Thump, thump, thump our hearts thumped and silence remained deafening.
Finally they started trickling in with swag after some waiting. Big, mean looking dogs pulled by big muscled, mean looking COs, were in front, and came charging in. These hellhounds looked as though they had a score to settle with the inhabitants of this hell and would tear them and their abode apart if they got the chance. They didn't!
I'm talking Monday morning now.
Some dramas unfolded that wouldn't permit the hounds to have their fun. What happened was that immediately the search company entered, they turned left and began marching to Back Cell. This is the place where the hardest death row inmates are kept. So, as soon as these condemned guys knew they were coming, they let out such demonic shouts that rent and vibrated the previously unsettlingly quiet atmosphere, cursings and threatenings of stabbings and stranglings, and forced feeding the intruders their overnight shit defecated into plastic containers, echoed.
Such terrible roars their shouts were. The other two blocks, besides Back Cell, where death row inmates are kept, on hearing their fellows, also joined in on the bawl. As Back Cell shouted one thing, it was picked up by the other two blocks, rebounded and volleyed back into the uttermost parts of the prison. They sort of formed a shout transmission triangle.
This development was psychological, calculated and halted our unwanted visitors dead in their tracks. Men who were as good as dead had told them they weren't wanted and would have their deaths fast-forwarded if they advanced further. Their march now paused, they had no choice but to think deeply about all the possible options. To be sure, the losers would be them if they chose to engage foolishly. Dead men have nothing to lose, you know?
After much consideration, the company put forward the Chief of the yard and the resident Deputy Comptroller of Corrections (DCC) to go reason with their dead men. They did and the men told them the only thing they could promise them was deaths if anyone dared to step beyond their designated buffer zone.
Back Cell won. The company then had to send their war dogs out of the yard and adopted a more friendly mien all in a bid to diffuse tension and tone down aggressions. I would say it worked because the shouts died down and the next death row block they turned to cooperated and the search began.
They were very thorough and took a lot of stuff but surprisingly very few phones (already buried, yo!). Knives, belts, bottles, electric stoves and kettles were all taken. Gold blings of all types and serious cash were found and confiscated from the rich blocks. Contrary to expectation, the workshop where my stuff was hidden was searched. I died immediately they marched in there and remained dead, though walking around, until the next day. Not knowing if they took my things was harder and more torture than if they'd actually taken it and I knew immediately. I suffered for hours.
My block wasn't visited until Tuesday. By this time, the searchers were already spent and the aggression had left them and returned to their HQ (lol). The tendency to be dicks and bullies had fizzled out, now they were too nice. I needed to check if I hadn't woken at the Four Seasons somehow for how civil they were.
Tell you what? Technically, they didn't search our cell. As soon as the searchers arrived at our block, our cell being the first, they gathered in front. One got very close to our gate and codedly asked that we arrange money and give him so he wouldn't search us and we did. Turns out only five of the company were the ones allowed into the cells to do the actual searching and he was the leader of the five.
Having slipped money into his hand while we were moving out, they merely made a show of searching the bunks closest to the gate where their colleagues and Superiors stood, but took nothing out even if it was an exhibit. They didn't touch the bunks deeper inside at all. We were made to sit on the ground in front of our cell while they did their thing inside. After a while, they came out with only two laughable things and declared to their boss that our cell is clean (lolz, the money we gave them was equally clean).
Actually, why it was like that was that Authority didn't want us to be searched at all but had to do it to fulfill all righteousness. The DCC told them if they don't search everyone, fighting would break out. The people searched and their things seized would cause trouble. So they only came to our block not to search but for show. Our block has the most impeccable record of any block and our cell stands out of any cell in the block for good behavior.
I later understood that the search was originally targeted at the death row guys at Back Cell, Blocks One and Two, and B block. Other places searched were only as a matter of necessity to serve as cover and to even things out and not hurt already hurt feelings. Principally, it was that transgender in Block Two that singlehandedly attracted and brought this search upon us. He was using his phone recklessly on social media, doing live videos and shits. The extent of his popularity gave his actions a lot of visibility and a lot of powerful people saw it, hence the searchlight fell on prisons.
When it was all over (Tuesday evening), they opened us for only 20 minutes to stretch our limbs but that was just all we needed. Everything buried in the ground was uprooted and I got my phone from the workshop as well. Belts and other things followed later. Hunger and thirst was tough on us these few days. Honestly, prison would be unbearable without our phones, many of us found out during this period. I rest my pen for now.
Tomorrow is Wednesday and normalcy will return. I'm almost thinking: why go through all that trouble for nothing? I may as well have had my stuff tucked away under my bunk and be safe. Anyway, better safe than sorry.
Goodnight Diary!
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2024.05.15 14:17 ImbecileOctopus I Can't Keep a Friend

I'm alone. All my life I've been able to make friends. But I always lose them, in third grade, I lost my two best friends because they switched schools and we just fell out of touch, in fifth grade I lost all my friends except for three, though this was also because of them moving, I made more friends in sixth grade and we remained friends for a good while. Freshman year my best friend from kindergarten and I stopped talking, she texted me one day saying that she didn't actually like me, and she never wanted to talk to me again. That hurt a lot, I got over it in about eight months and eventually was able to stop thinking about her everyday, and seeing her at school didn't bother me as much.
February the next year came, one year since my previous best friend and I stopped talking, maybe it got in my head, and I had been starting to feel suffocated by my current best friend at the time, I loved her, but she kept hurting me by not acknowledging my presence when we were in groups, no matter how hard I tried to contribute to the conversation, she kept leaving me and I just wanted a break from feeling like I was nothing to her. I just wanted some space. But I totally went about it in the wrong way. I picked a fight for no reason and said some awful things that I regret with every fiber of my being. At first, we stopped talking for a couple weeks, and I made two new friends, but soon after my best friend sent me an email telling me everything that was wrong with me, overbearing, pushy, and more I can't remember well, and I agree with her now, I've grown a lot and if she had said those thing recently, I could have come to terms with what she was saying, the things she pointed out were valid points that I should have looked into more, but I got defensive, this was when I thought she didn't want to be friends anymore because it sounded like she hated so many things about me... then what was there to like?
She had texted me a night before and said that she wanted to talk to me, with a specific teacher as a mediator, I refused, I am a very very private person and I do not like to share my feelings with anyone I'm not used to being around, and I wasn't yet familiar with this teacher. I told my friend that if she really didn't want to be friends anymore, that I would respect her decision. I was trying to protect myself, trying to make sure I broke it off before she did, I hate that my brain went there immediately. I wish I had tried to fight for her. She screamed at me while I sat there in a sort of calm daze, which completely gave off the impression that I didn't care... but I cared so much, she told me that I was self-sabotaging and was throwing away something that hadn't gone bad, she was screaming so loud, a teacher came in and told he she was disrupting classes, she was escorted out of the room and I heard her crying, and as soon as she left the room I burst out in tears too.
Our mutual friends, which was only two people, but they were my only other friends, stopped talking to me, and only hung out with her, but we were never on bad terms. I am beginning to resent them though. We stopped talking completely and soon summer vacation came. My cat died, I moved out of my narcissistic mother's house to my Dad's house, and his girlfriend accused me of stealing money, which I didn't, but my father took her side anyway and the entire time I was there they kept trying to blame things on me, and continuously scorned me for being antisocial, so eventually I moved out again when my father and I got in a huge fight, and I haven't talked to him since. I worked 80 hour weeks during the summer at two jobs, trying to keep my mind off my friend, my dad, and stay away from my mom, but it was okay because I had three friends who were from Mongolia, and two friends who were from Turkey working the same exact hours as me. But near the end of the summer, my two Turkish friends and I decided to plan a trip to go to Florida, I asked my mom and after some convincing she finally agreed, we got plane tickets, booked hotels, got car rental stuff, but the night before I left, my mom told me I wasn't allowed to go anymore, she has done this multiple times, but not of this magnitude, I told her that we had already paid for everything, but she told me that if I left, she would call the cops on me.
So I texted my Turkish friends and I told them what happened, but they wouldn't believe me... they blamed me and said "did you tell your mom?" I told them that I did, but they swore that I was lying, they told everyone, including my three Mongolian friends, so in the last month that my foreign friends were in the country, they all hated me, treated me terribly, constantly gave me dirty looks, and were scornful. It broke my heart, especially because they were so kind before, if I can make the kindest person hate me... then what kind of monster am I?
Finally, I came back to school, and it was so much harder than I thought it would be, seeing her everyday, happy with her friends while I sat there, alone and in misery, I had a couple friends, but they weren't in many of my classes. I was able to hold out for so long. One day I just couldn't take it anymore. I just completely gave up, seeing her was too much to bear, she didn't care about me anymore, I didn't have any close friends, just people who wouldn't really care if I lived or died. Everyday was a struggle. I stopped going to school, stopped going to work, and just curled up in my bed and decided that I had enough. I was on a course to graduate that year, a whole year early which got screwed up as well, ruining my chances of doing so.
I skipped work for almost three weeks, but I eventually came back because my boss said she missed me and reassured me that no body was mad. I haven't been to school in about two months, I don't know how I could go back anymore, it would be humiliating... like, what would I say? What if people asked questions? I'd just come off as so pathetic. I've ruined my life, I have little chance of a diploma, and no chance if I don't go back, I've been labeled as "truancy" or whatever. I was also supposed to go to Spain and Italy for a school trip, but I wasn't able to go because of my lack of attendance, so I ended up wasting 4,000 dollars.
My two friends that I made after my last best friend and I broke up called the cops on me because she thought I was going to kill myself, and I was so mad and embarrassed I cried the whole way to the hospital with my mom in the car and was able to go back home after some tests, after I got home, I went off on them, I was so so upset, and I honestly still am, I know they were only doing what they thought best, but I told her that I didn't want to talk to her until she would apologize, because all she kept saying was "I'm sorry you feel that way" so I told her to stop apologizing for how I felt, and apologize for what she did. She didn't, so I told her that I wasn't going to talk to her until she apologized. And the other friend who was in on it too, I texted her angrily and she said "womp womp" I immediately blocked her, I was so mad, words cannot describe my level of fury at that moment. It wasn't funny, that was not the time for jokes.
I have no friends, only my narcissistic mother, I don't even have a father anymore, my oldest sister isn't in contact with him either, for a different reason... I've just been working, and trying not to think. But I can't take it anymore. Have I really screwed everything up? Is my life worth anything anymore? Friendship is dead. Family is overrated, and I have never been able to keep a friend, I do not want the pain of loosing another one, I have people who I enjoy being around, I have coworkers, I have my sisters, and I have two people I hang out with sometimes, but really, none of them are my friends. I never want to make another friend, I refuse, I know they consider me their friends, but if I put a real label on it, it'll hurt too much when they leave and begin to hate me. What do I do? Am I destined for failure? Why do I always end up alone? Not only does everyone hate me, but I'm hating myself more and more by the passing day. I don't know what to do... can somebody, anybody help me? I'm just so lost.
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2024.05.15 14:15 LieOpening6160 Seeking genuine and meaningful connection

Hello there! After a hiatus and a deleted account, I find myself back here, hoping to connect with someone who values genuine conversation as much as I do. I'm a vegetarian millennial on the lookout for a long-term friend or pen pal, someone willing to engage in meaningful discourse through the written word.
I understand that putting myself out here might attract some unwelcome attention, but let's get one thing clear from the start: if you're a supporter of Sanders or Biden, I kindly ask that you respect my preferences and refrain from reaching out. I've had my fair share of interactions with individuals representing those ideologies and values, and I'm looking for a fresh perspective.
As for me, I'd rather not disclose my gender. Just see me as a human. I'm tired of being put in that box. If I'm perceived as female, guys and some gals often seem to want to steer conversations toward naughty diversion, while if I'm perceived as male, some individuals assume I'm just another filthy animal or also want to engage in things I’m not comfortable with. So let's bypass those stereotypes and engage on a human level. Let's focus on our shared humanity and engage in conversations about the simple yet profound aspects of life. I'm not here for superficial exchanges or indulging in 420 culture. Instead, I value literacy and substantive dialogue.
I'm here to be a listening ear and a supportive presence in your life, and I hope you can offer the same in return. When I'm upset about something, I appreciate empathy and understanding, not dismissive remarks.
On a lighter note, I have a fondness for nostalgic things. Childhood shows like "Touched by an Angel" and "Gilmore Girls" hold a special place in my heart, especially the refined world of Emily Gilmore and her elegant old-money lifestyle. And let's not forget about Hallmark films – "The Bridge" ranks among my favorites.
When it comes to music, I'm drawn to the soulful melodies of Christine Parker, whose tunes never fail to soothe the soul.
If you believe we could strike up a meaningful connection, I encourage you to reach out. Let's embark on a journey of genuine friendship and explore the depths of conversation together.
Looking forward to hearing from you…
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2024.05.15 14:15 Extension-History794 How do I catch up?

I have a 3rd grade education.
I don’t want to give up on my dream of being a doctor one day.
I can’t do basic math, and I don’t even know what the kinds of math are called to be able to figure out exactly what it is I don’t understand.
How would I go about getting caught up and hopefully being able to go to college and med school one day?
Would the military be a good option? Or some sort of GED course?
I don’t have consistent transportation, and don’t have a lot of money. Not allowed to get a regular job.
Is there any way or should i just give up?
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2024.05.15 14:13 LieOpening6160 Seeking Genuine Connection

Hello there! After a hiatus and a deleted account, I find myself back here, hoping to connect with someone who values genuine conversation as much as I do. I'm a vegetarian millennial on the lookout for a long-term friend or pen pal, someone willing to engage in meaningful discourse through the written word.
I understand that putting myself out here might attract some unwelcome attention, but let's get one thing clear from the start: if you're a supporter of Sanders or Biden, I kindly ask that you respect my preferences and refrain from reaching out. I've had my fair share of interactions with individuals representing those ideologies and values, and I'm looking for a fresh perspective.
As for me, I'd rather not disclose my gender. Just see me as a human. I'm tired of being put in that box. If I'm perceived as female, guys and some gals often seem to want to steer conversations toward naughty diversion, while if I'm perceived as male, some individuals assume I'm just another filthy animal or also want to engage in things I’m not comfortable with. So let's bypass those stereotypes and engage on a human level. Let's focus on our shared humanity and engage in conversations about the simple yet profound aspects of life. I'm not here for superficial exchanges or indulging in 420 culture. Instead, I value literacy and substantive dialogue.
I'm here to be a listening ear and a supportive presence in your life, and I hope you can offer the same in return. When I'm upset about something, I appreciate empathy and understanding, not dismissive remarks.
On a lighter note, I have a fondness for nostalgic things. Childhood shows like "Touched by an Angel" and "Gilmore Girls" hold a special place in my heart, especially the refined world of Emily Gilmore and her elegant old-money lifestyle. And let's not forget about Hallmark films – "The Bridge" ranks among my favorites.
When it comes to music, I'm drawn to the soulful melodies of Christine Parker, whose tunes never fail to soothe the soul.
If you believe we could strike up a meaningful connection, I encourage you to reach out. Let's embark on a journey of genuine friendship and explore the depths of conversation together.
Looking forward to hearing from you…
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2024.05.15 14:12 marquesinaa 19, deciding what career to pursue

torn between accountancy and eletrician (or whatever trade pays the most). i love maths, but it takes around 5 years to be a qualified accountant and then another 5 years or so to be on a good salary like 70k. i know that eletricians can make a lot of money, if they're self employed. my question is, how quickly can you make a decent salary as an eletrician (like 50k in south of england), and if you're self employed, how much can you get away with not paying tax, or as much as you should?
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2024.05.15 14:07 WaxFantastically Frank from Painting By Frank In Hospice

Im new to the area but I found Painting By Frank Pasik through all you lovely people. They have been a dream to work with on my project. It was pretty clear through discussion he is beloved in the community and I wanted to pass along that he is pretty sick. The family is trying to keep the business afloat while dealing with this tragedy. I overheard they were looking for money to cover funeral expenses so I kicked them some extra cash. They dont know I am posting this and it might be a bit uncouth but I hope that the people that worked with him that may have lost touch see this.
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