Hi all,
To not add any kind of bias with a big list of “symptoms”, here are the bare facts as confirmed by my daughter’s SLP:

• She had more obvious signs a bit younger (speech delay in expressive and receptive, no pretend play, zoning out when overwhelmed, thought she was partially deaf before her hearing was tested, etc.) but has had speech therapy and one on one support at Montessori School (she attends mornings only) and we are now seeing a big improvement in all these areas.
  
• She is a sensory seeker but sensitive with auditory stimuli. Her response to being overwhelmed is to “freeze” vs “fight/flight”, and it manifests in going completely silent and either completely still or like a zombie. At the worst she will not respond at all, even with waving a hand in front of her eyes. We used to just call it her “buffering”.
  
• She is still showing abnormal eye contact and is not responding to her name 50% of the time in completely quiet circumstances (SLP assessment. She is “freezing” less at home but it is still happening at school. Her pretend play is very basic. We do have to rely heavily on routine at home. She is social but very very shy.
  

Because she is a bit of a “silent sufferer” and has already received therapy and extra measures at school/home, I worry that is why she isn’t showing much difficulty. She has never been to full time daycare/school and will be starting preschool in September. But I’m being told I’ll need to pay for a private assessment somewhere that has up to date knowledge on ASD in girls and less typical presentations. Which I am happy to do!
But it has also been suggested I just leave it for now and wait for it to potentially get worse, while giving her the supports she needs in the meantime.
Could I be jumping on this too early? Anyone have a child with this kind of presentation?

Currently I work at a small rural school situated in a very tight knit farming community. I absolutely love the students I work with and the school overall. The situation is I was recently contacted by a Private School I have been interested in and applied for multiple times and offered a position.
At my current school I have/am

• Teach 3 different subjects

-Coach 3 different sports teams

• Attend the majority of students games and extra curricular activities
  
• Worked to reach out and establish relationships with parents
  

Because of this, and I say this with as little ego as I can, I have become a sounding board and a focal point on campus. I have been these students coach, their therapist, and their mentor. I have been the same for many parents and even the new teachers who have come to campus in my time here. It is impossible to walk across campus with being stopped or having my name called out or doing a special handshake with students, it is impossible for me to go into town without parents stopping to buy me a drink or just say thank you. I truly love it here and feel like they love me. Now not everything is perfect with administration but it is not the biggest problem.
Now I have already decided to accept the Private School job because it is actually life changing and what I have been working towards my entire career:

• 20,000 raise

-Curriculum Supports
-Funding for Professional development
-Shortens my commute by 1.5 hours a day

• UDL planned curriculum

-PBL & SEL Focus
-PTO and way better health benefits

• I get to work with one of my mentors who is very important to me

This is a decision I am making for me to move my life forward, but the guilt of leaving my current situation is eating me alive. How do I tell my students and players that I am leaving?

Alright, so i went out with some friend per usual. As i’m leaving the bar i notice a familiar face, a girl i haven’t seen in like 4 years since high school besides social media posts. I wasn’t gonna say anything cause i didn’t think much of it but she is very cute (just didn’t think she’d care to talk)… Well as i’m leaving she walks up to me and say hey (my name), how you been? and then asked if i remembered her name. I did so i said “yeah you’re ____” and then she hugs me for like 15 seconds (we never hugged before) and talked for a few more about being drunk lol. basically, I just wanna know if she’s possibly interested in me or if I’m just over thinking and it was likely just a friendly encounter. I’m not like most guys and I actually have respect for women’s boundaries. so I don’t like to pursue something that isn’t there. And I know it’s probably gonna be hard to give a real answer based off this short paragraph but any advice would help as i don’t really read social clues best. My last girlfriend had to straight up tell me that she wanted to date me cause i apparently missed all the cues.

I'm not doing great at the moment since it just happened. I don't like gossip or talking behind people's back. Ironic I know. This post is about whether or not I did the right thing. Please don't insult anyone else: my mom (umm), my wife (Annie), my dad (abpa), my brother (Barry), my sister (Maggie), my cousin (Frank).
Save your judgment for me. Context: I'm 35M. first born. I left home after a huge fight with my mom after college. I was homeless for a bit. We've since reconciled. But I suppose not anymore. There's history there.
I'm only posting to see if what I did was wrong.
All names have been replaced and are not real. Other details like dates and places that are personally identifiable will be removed/changed. There are two languages: I will always show the original and translate as fairly as I can.
It is relevant for fairness to share that my mom is 3 hours ahead of me. I'm west coast, she's east coast. (10am for me it's 1pm for her) My time will be shown in the messages.
I will keep all messages exact and unedited, outside of the above.
I repeat: DO NOT INSULT MY MOM OR WIFE OR FAMILY. am I the asshole. nothing about them. just me.
On Mom's Birthday:
Mom [10:43am] it's mom's birthday but nothing is here (original: 엄마 생일인데 아무것도 없어.) [10:52am] [Picture of kitchen island with boxed tonesunscreen on it] [10:53am] (Mom is/I am) really sad. This is what Annie sent me for a gift. $10-20 toiletries. Something I don't even use. (original: 엄마 많이 섭섭해. 이게 [name]가 보낸 선물이야. $10-20 짜리 화장품. 엄마 이거 쓰지도 않는데.)
Me [11:51am] She got the same thing she got for you and her mom. Throw it out and I'll make sure to buy something nicer for you.
Mom [12:03pm] If she or her mom got the thing then I should get the same thing. I'm not Annie or Annie's mom. I'm your mom. You shouldn't treat me like this. [12:07pm] Not even one happy birthday said. (original: 생일 축하한단 말 한마디 없이.)
Me [12:56pm] call (no answer) [1:11pm] call (no answer)
Next day:
Mom [5:10am] I didn't answer the phone yesterday because I felt like I'm crying. I don’t want to talk like that with you. When you got married Annie I tried to treat her as an our family member. I know I can not treat her same as Maggie (my sister). But last year she didn’t say any word on my birthday. Even you and I talked on the phone. I didn’t want so much from her just as a family say good word on birthday wishes. This year same thing. And you, when you asked me what can I do for you ( maybe you forgot that even you asked) I literally said “다른거 필요 없고 무슨날 엄마 밥이나 사줘” (translation: I don't need anything just buy me some dinner some time) I’m not asking you expensive things. Don’t say throw them out but nicer things. You really missed the point.
Me [11:28am] You were upset because I didn’t do something for your birthday by 1040am on a Workday. It’s not about expensive things but you want to text a picture of the gift and say it’s $10-20. You got a gift, but no card. It’s cheap but it’s not about money. Annie’s a family member, how could she not text. Right after she texted happy mother’s day to you. Yesterday before dinner, Annie tells me “make sure you call your mom it’s her birthday”. I didn’t tell her what happened because I don’t gossip and talk bad about people behind their back. I call or text and wish a happy birthday to family. Like I’ve done every year. It’s the same as what everyone does for me. Sometimes I don’t get a call. Sometimes I don’t get a text. Sometimes the call/text comes a day later. Never did I text my family members in the morning asking why people didn’t do more for me. I’ll make sure to let Annie know about wishing happy birthday to you. In my screenshot is my daily goals from yesterday, I was excited about this week. One of those things was, of course, calling you for your birthday, just like I called for mother’s day. Two hours later while I’m in a work meeting with my boss, 1040am, I get a text from you telling me about how sad you are from my wife’s cheap gift and how I haven’t said happy birthday yet. Yesterday I woke up and went to work, and planned to call you after. You have a habit of disproportionately trying to make me feel bad. You’ve done it on your birthday before many years ago after you and abpa[dad in korean] had a fight. I was a college student and you took it out on me cause I was the easy target. You’re an adult. Your child can call later in the day to wish you a happy birthday. It’s not okay to text trying to make your son feel bad about not doing something sooner. [11:29am] [Screenshot of whatsapp conversation between me and my virtual assistant] [Screenshot start] [8:13am yesterday] Goals for Today, I want to be disciplined. It’s been a few weeks now since my conference and because of the conference and drinking there, I became slow and lost the energy to stay on top of my diet/exercise and morning routines that I was so happy and proud of. Let’s get back to that this week. Let’s work hard, let’s continue to set sights on big goals. I want to work on the 3 projects I have going right now. [personal project 1 company idea], [personal project 2 company idea], and [current company].
Today I will exercise 25 situps, 25 pushups, 25 curls, 25 shoulder press, and 25 squats. Today I will finish a few [work things] for [company]. Today I will teach class for [project 2] finish [lesson], and let folks know that there will not be class on wednesday. I will call my mom later today and wish her a happy birthday. I will also be going to my brother’s to take care of credit card points so that we can buy tickets for [trip], let’s work hard today and get a lot done. [Screenshot end]
Mom [4:09pm] My birthday is passed last year and this year. She didn’t text or say anything these two years. You may think that’s ok but not for me. I just expect to acknowledge these days and congrat each other. Is that too much? I don’t expect anything from her. But you mentioned so proudly on Sunday that Annie send me TWO gifts. I just want you to know I’m very disappointed that you are ok with that gifts. That’s why I mentioned the price as well. My birthday and Mother’s Day are always near by. Sometimes same day or sometimes few day apart. Is that too much that I asked you more thoughtful gift from you? If you think that’s too much , forget about this conversation. I think I’ve never treated you like this.
Me [2:03am] You’ve treated me way worse in my life. You didn’t wait for a text. You wanted to text me to make me feel bad. You had a bad morning. Maybe a bad night. You didn’t feel like I cared or people cared. Or maybe something else happened. And you wanted me to feel bad.
But your happiness is not my responsibility.
Your birthday is not a free pass to send guilt tripping texts to me and expect nice texts back. Annie sent you poison? She sent you a 4.5 star tonesunscreen with thousands of nice reviews. She was just trying to send something nice. It’s not expensive. But you say it’s not about money? Then why are you crying about it?
No one said “happy birthday” yet? The day wasn’t over. Why text me only? Barry[My brother] didn’t call until 5pm.
No one else gave you a good gift? Or are you comparing it with gifts that you’ve given to Annie? Then you give revenge-gifts. If that’s it then don’t ever give Annie and I anything ever again. You just wanted a dinner? I’m on the other side of the country.
Should I text you on my birthday asking why my mailbox is empty? Should I ask abpa[dad] the last 20 years where’s my present? Should I try and make you or abpa feel bad on my birthday if I’m unhappy? No, of course not. None of those is how a mature person behaves. Because my happiness is not your responsibility.
“Just want a text to acknowledge and congratulate”. You didn’t wait for any text. You chose to start upset.
Why didn’t you text Barry? if it’s just the text of happy birthday? You scared of his response?
I know why you’re not scared of me. 5 years of therapy to learn the way you used me as an emotional punching bag.
Your birthday morning wasn’t the way you wanted. Your gift wasn’t the way you wanted. You didn’t feel like anyone cared. Whoever you talked to. Whatever happened. You were unhappy. So you sent those texts to me.
You try to make me feel bad when you’re unhappy with your life. Why? When you used to have a hard day at work. Bad [customer]. Bad traffic. Bad interaction with coworkers/boss. Bad talk with abpa[dad], grandma, Frank hyung(older cousin who lived with us). Who do you think received your anger for no fucking reason? If I did all my homework, played [instrument 1], practiced [instrument 2], got good grades, did all my kumon(after school homework) did you know it doesn’t matter what I did, if YOU had a bad day?
If I’m watching tv, or playing a game, if you have a bad day, then my day has to be a bad day. Because people around you can’t be happy when you’re miserable. Not people that you can control. And controlling me was all you had. Even as I got older. Not allowed to leave the house.
You couldn’t control the language or culture out of the house, you couldn’t control grandma, frank hyung, or abpa in the house. your whole life, you couldn’t control too much.
So you controlled what? me. a kid. And as soon as hitting me didn’t make me cry you just tried to control my emotions to make me cry.
2010 May [day retracted]. Fight with abpa in the morning, he leaves the house. So you go down to the basement to yell at your son for not getting you a cake.
Junior in college crying, guilty in the basement buying you cake. That’s what you wanted. Someone you controlled. Someone to be miserable because you were miserable.
5 years of therapy in my late 20s to learn you’re the reason I don’t notice when women step all over me. I grew up used to it. Bad women relationships, weak sense of self, emotional abuse, angry all the time. Parents like you made Asian Americans the least likely to become managers in the USA (context: I became one in my later 20s). No confidence. No inner strength. Just quiet private anger. A young man clenching his fists, holding his tongue, and listening to orders.
Constantly blame others, blame myself. Always angry. Always yelling at [dog1]/[dog2], always trying to control them when I’m upset. Critical of everything, everyone, myself, never feeling like I’m enough or okay. Because growing up I was constantly on the receiving end of anger that I didn’t create. Don’t talk back. Don’t look at the eyes. Look at the wall. Never right. Always wrong. But every year I’m fixing that a little bit. Why? Because now I’m responsible for my own happiness.
I refuse to stay a bad dad to [dog2].
No more blaming, just thinking and working. being confident. fighting back. defending mself. speaking out. Looking at people in the eye.
Yesterday you didn’t feel good. So I was the one who did something terrible for your birthday? Hmm. I was going to call just like Barry did. You’re sad about the gift? You feel like no one cares. Why is it that I’m the only one that got those texts. You think your message was going to create apologies and happy birthdays from me? No. I don’t think so. You just wanted me to feel bad. Because you felt bad. You like controlling me. And affecting my emotions.
It’s why I left home many years ago. And you still have old habits. You wanted me to feel bad. You did the same thing talking about the [old project] community a few years ago. When you don’t feel happy. You try to make me feel bad.
But I’m old enough to know now that I didn’t do anything to deserve that yesterday. And you’re not allowed to step on me like that anymore. I’m not some weak 21 year old that’s crying in the basement buying you cake. I told Annie not to call. Your negative behavior is not allowed in my life.
Every day I work to undo things from my past. You’ve stepped on me your whole life. Made me a very scared, very angry young man. People like that never make it in the world successfully. They have all kinds of problems. But I want this to be very clear. I am going to be successful. I am going to be a [retracted]. I am going to make a positive difference in this world for those who are positive to others. And It will be despite all that you’ve done to me. It will happen because I will surround myself with peace, and positivity. Not negativity and manipulation. Through peace and for others, I will work harder than you or abpa or anyone you have ever known has ever done in their entire lives.
But If I don’t make it, that’s on me. If I’m unhappy today, that’s on me. If I lack something today, that’s me. I have to choose to be better. I have to work harder. Cause I’m responsible for my happiness.
You can choose whether or not you want to be negative or positive person moving forward in my life. That’s your choice. You want to step on me? Try to bring me down when you feel down? That’s your choice. But it’s my choice whether or not to let you be in my life.
you being unhappy yesterday morning. That’s you. That’s your choice. Acting the way you did. trying to make your son feel bad. That’s all you. You’re responsible for your own happiness. I didn’t do anything yesterday to deserve your texts trying to pull me down.
This is my last text about this. This conversation is over. Say one more thing about this that doesn’t resemble an apology and I’m not going on the [family trip]. Keep telling me youre an “innocent victim” “all I wanted was a happy birthday text” and you won’t hear from me for years. Be responsible for your actions. I have no room for your negative emotional manipulation in my life.
Mom [7:14am] Annie…. Very first gift from her was well known brand toner. That gave me bad skin reaction so I had to throw it out. I don’t want to talk to her about it because I appreciated what she wanted to try. But next time when I saw her in las Vegas I told her that her sun screen lotion ( what she used at that time) gave me a bad reaction so I can not use it. Last year when Maggie gave her 화장품 (toiletry) as a birthday gift she said that thanks but she can not use it because she has allergic reactions. Which is understandable but she’s still doing same thing to me. I don’t know who mentioned about good reviews or you found out your self. That doesn’t mean it’s good for me. She and I didn’t talk that much anything so far only few subject. I feel like she doesn’t care. I don’t know why you guys decided to send gift more than a month before. And how you said she send me two gifts made me so upset.
Barry… Barry and I talked about our birthday on the phone last week how it was good at last year’s dinner. He planned but eventually Appa paid( I mentioned who paid because you don’t get wrong info. ) and the way he always said skipping one year is not end of the world. We laughed about it. And he said next time we gonna have a good time. He called at 5 pm on my birthday I know as soon as he woke up he called me.
You mentioned why Barry is ok. Did I scare him? Come on… he is not saying nice words all the time but he is very thoughtful person. I think you agree with this.
You… I really sorry that you have all bad memories about me and your youth. I can not go back and I can not fix it now. I’m thinking back that days if I can live again maybe react little differently like I treated Maggie. As a first child you had a lot bad experiences. I agreed. But don’t say your life was miserable because of ME all the time. If you think this way there’s no reason to see me. I’m really happy to see, hear and feel that you’re working hard, being healthy and having enjoyable life. I want you to be a healther, happier and more successful person than right now. That’s no matter why we talked about right now. But I really want to make a point that don’t say I had bad morning or bad night before that’s why text you like that. Maybe you’re right. I had bad night before. After talked on the phone with you (as I told you before ). I felt disappointed so much. You keep saying you felt bad because of my text, why I didn’t wait? Calling to me is part of your daily plan. You keep saying I made you feel bad because I had anger problems or bad days. You’ve never thought about “what did I do wrong or did I miss anything?” You said you away from me how can I buy dinner? Same as easy to buy on line ( by Amazon) any merchandise. There’s tons of way to offer , you can make a reservation any restaurant or even you can send money 100- 200 dollars. Maybe I’m wrong but I don’t think it’s going to hurt you financially. Last year I waited until last minute that Annie would text me any word. No. That didn’t happen. If I waited until you call this year what’s the difference? I want more than hearing your voice is too much. Sorry that I think that way. And not being adult I ordered Rolex watch for next years your birthday gift and I was so excited about it. Maybe that’s why I’m expecting more than what you’re in mind about me. You are right. That’s all my problems.
[7:45am] If you don’t want to come [familytrip] , don’t spend time with family I can not force you to come. But don’t say if I don’t apologize you don’t come. Is new way to threaten? Come on [my name]. This is really too much.
Me [10:02am] There’s a difference between threats and boundaries. No one is allowed to be in my life to spend their energy trying to bring me down. Who would do something like that? My own mother. No we aren’t going on the [trip]. (context: all the tickets and arrangements have been purchased, this isn't some cop out, it's non-refundable, nothing to do with money on anyone's side)
You want to continue the conversation after I said I was done? Actions and consequences: Annie and I are very unthoughtful and uncaring to give you a skin care gift again. I’ll tell her exactly what happened. I’ll have her read every message. And understand what we did wrong. I’ll make sure we feel terrible today. I’ll make sure she remembers it forever. I will make sure my wife cries for your sadness and for our mistakes. We’re a bad son/wife who don’t care about my mother’s birthday and mother’s day. Your message has been fully received. We will feel sorry, we will cry and we will feel bad for you. I will struggle to work for my job. I will struggle to do my projects, and teach my students, I will think all day and all night about how sad this is. About this conversation, about our gift, about your gifts, about the phone call, the texts, mother’s day, your birthday, my birthdays. last year your birthday when we were in [another country]. I will struggle to eat and sleep properly. I know Annie and how sensitive she is. She will struggle and cry too. Your son and his wife will feel terrible about your birthday. Your message will be successful. You’ve brought the world down around you. Congratulations. Just like old times. Everyone is sad now. "You’re right.”
I will say one last thing as your son: be careful about hurting the people around you when you have a bad day. If you keep tearing the world around you down, there isn’t going to be a world left.
You and I are not going in the same direction.
I’m trying to learn how to be positive, hardworking, successful, strong, encouraging and helping others. Trying to be a little more positive everyday. Maybe I will never get there. But I will try. You want to spend your time fixating on me saying “two gifts”. You want to spend your time staring at the boxes, and sending pictures. You want to spend your time comparing, looking at costs, pitying yourself and telling people around you how terrible they are on your birthday. I guess that drama is something you want. Not me. You and I are on different paths.
After Annie and I cry for what we did. My boundary is this, I will never let you do this to me again. That will be the last scar. We will remember every year on your birthday, and remind ourselves how terrible and uncaring we were. I will remember that you wanted me to know and feel that. Every year I will remember but that will be the last scar you ever leave on me. You should return the Rolex. I will never use it, I will never wear it, I will throw it out instantly. To me it’s a poisonous gift. Don’t ever give me or Annie any gifts for the rest of my life.
We will smile and not forget that those past gifts were given out of your care and thoughtfulness. We will remember you did your best and wanted to do nice things in your way. but we will be sad with you. And be unable to use your gifts because your gifts comes with weight, revenge and paybacks. And we cannot accept them. You did everything right. You’re a good mom. We are just bad people. We never earned them or paid you back in our thoughtfulness for them. All gifts you have given me and her, we will stop using today.
I will not be receiving your messages anymore. Goodbye
[Blocked from phone/all social media.]
AITAH. Reminder do not talk bad about anyone else. I'll delete those comments. This is just about whether or not I did the right thing.

DANCING WITH THE STARS: THE PROS' MOST ICONIC QUOTES ✨

Day	Pro Dancer	Quote
1	Karina Smirnoff	"Is there any reason why your head looks like a pigeon?"
2	Valentin Chmerkovskiy	"Bro, you're one big wrong already."
3	Witney Carson	"What do you need, a snack?"
4	Anna Trebunskaya	"Some people say I'm a tough teacher. And I am."
5	Brandon Armstrong	"I was born in '94..."
6	Cheryl Burke	"So the name of the song is 'Call Me Irresponsible', remind you of anybody? I think it's perfect for you!"
7	Edyta Śliwińska	"I'm wearing so much clothes that I got tangled in it!"
8	Artem Chigvintsev	"Fine! I watched 'Fifty Shades of Grey'!"
9	Corky Ballas	"Now we're doing the Mambo which originated in the '40s!"...
10	Chelsie Hightower	"South America speaks Spanish?"
11	Derek Hough	"I'm rough, I'm tough, I'm Derek Hough."
12	Charlotte Jørgensen	"Get your heel up on your back foot, or I'll kill you."
13	Allison Holker	"Team Rallison!!!"
14	Julianne Hough	"I felt like you just had to phone it in so you could get back with Meryl."
15	Alec Mazo	"Josie is deceptively unfit."
16	Alan Bersten	"It's a little shaky in here!"
17	Jenna Johnson	"ADAM! WE GOTTA QUICKSTEP!!!"
18	Ashly DelGrosso-Costa	"It needs to be equal teamwork, and I can't play a tug-of-war anymore."
19	Gleb Savchenko	"You look like a dancer when you're not moving."
20	Kym Johnson-Herjavec	"I should never have made us try that stupid lift..."
21	Maksim Chmerkovskiy	"With all due respect, this is my show, I help make it what it is."
22	Lacey Schwimmer	"STEVE!!! How am I supposed to be in love with you if you keep farting all the time?!?!"
23	Mark Ballas	“And you said habede habeduh de de. Daba da dip bah da be. That’s what you said when I asked you."
24	Lindsay Arnold	"That salsa will get ya-every time!"
25	Louis Van Amstel	"I was jealous of Mark on Season 5, but I got the girl now!"
26	Koko Iwasaki	"You're a real Jersey party boy, and I need you to be a suave English gentleman for Bond Night."
27	Keo Motsepe	"If Len gives a 10, I'm gonna run down and kiss him!"
28	Peta Murgatroyd	Her scream after finding out that she and Tommy Chong had made the semi-finals.
29	Pasha Pashkov	"You don't know who I am, but I've been praying I get you!"
30	Sasha Farber	"If you wanna dance, you know it would be my honour. My main worrybis your health."
31	Jonathan Roberts	"Let's take a commercial break."
32	Daniella Karagach	"YEAH! OH SHIT!!!"
33	Dmitry Chaplin	"I feel like I'm cheating on Jewel with another partner."
34	Sharna Burgess	"I got to do the Backstreet Boys' move next to a Backstreet Boy, and I think it's kinda awesome!"
35	Tristan MacManus	"And I got a 7. Hurt my feelins!"
36	Britt Stewart	"Daniel!"
37	Rylee Arnold
38	Tony Dovolani
39	Emma Slater

Welcome to DANCING WITH THE STARS: THE PROS' MOST ICONIC QUOTES ✨

A huge thank you to the lovely u/invader_holly who suggested the idea, and that I run this game here! 💕
How does it work?
Each day, I'll reshare this board. With each day is a new pro. Similarly to past games I've done like Dances of the Seasons, The Dancing with the Stars Alphabet, Favourite Dances Per Style, and The Pros' Most Memorable Dances, for every day, you can all comment a response. This time, the response would be a quote from the respective pro for that day! As with previous games, the comment with the most upvotes wins. At the end, I'll put together a video compilation together!
MAKE SURE THAT IF YOU WANT TO SUGGEST NUMEROUS QUOTES, DO THEM EACH IN A SEPERATE COMMENT. THE COMMENT WITH THE MOST UPVOTES WINS AND IS ADDED TO THE BOARD. IF POSSIBLE, PLEASE TRY AND ADD WHEN THE PRO SAYS THE QUOTE (SO I CAN FIND THE CLIP TO ADD TO THE VIDEO COMPILATION).
Yesterday's round was won by u/gottacatchemsome 's suggestion!

DAY 37: RYLEE ARNOLD

International student, transferring in as a junior from a community college. Which school is better if I want to target big internships for 2025 and FT 2026? Factors include college job fairs, university name, network, students, professors etc.
Amherst offers no scholarship, whereas UMN does can probably get one around 2-4k/sem

I am currently on my second week of the game assasins at school and I need some help. For context last week we started this game and somehow I didnt get a name. This resulted in me being an excpetion and just having to surivive till the next week, which I did. Now this week has arrived and I found out I was going out of state for the weekend. I told the people running this game if that's okay and they got a little mad and told me my protection for both thursday and friday were gone (normally saturday). since I also live a half an hour away from everyone else on top of this everyone is gunning to get me out. This brings me to today where I heard of a plot to drag me from the parking lot to the woods right beside it (not safezone) right after school. So I got my friend to escort while i ran to my car when literally nine guys came out to try to jump. I manged to barley to escape to my car and lock the doors to escape. I also tried to follow the guy I had to assasinate this week after this scenario left after he kept staring at me in the track parking lot so I left. Right I'm stuck on what I need to do so any help would be awesome.

I’m so glad this sub exists because I’ve been annoying everyone in my life with my theories about these two … I figured this would be the right place to post my speculation/lyric breakdowns of songs that they may have written about each other, split into different posts for albums for ease of reading.
Starting with Reputation (2017) – I imagine the failed relationship with Matty was still fresh for Taylor during the writing/recording of this album. Her reference to her “longings locked in lowercase inside a vault” definitely made me look back at Rep in a way I hadn’t before (and I do think we’ll see some Matty-coded vault tracks on TV”. That said I don’t want to erase her other relationships, especially with Joe, so I’ll make notes of where I think I’m either stretching for a Matty connection or I think there are multiple muses.
Special mention to “Getaway Car” which feels like another (fictionalized?) response to Robbers but the story she tells is very similar to her fling with Tom, especially given the third man in the song. I usually claim it for the maylors anyway bc who cares about Tom. Let me know what you think.
“...Ready For It?”
Knew he was a killer first time that I saw him / Wonder how many girls he had loved and left haunted / But if he's a ghost, then I can be a phantom
I can't ignore the connections here to two other songs thought to be written about M - Ghost (2014) and Haunted (2015) by Halsey (I won't bother going into the HalseyMatty lore here but I could in another post...)
"You're a Rolling Stone boy, never-sleep-alone boy / Got a million numbers and they're filling up your phone, boy" (Ghost) "I'm begging you to keep on haunting me" (Haunted) "My ghost / Where'd you go? / I can't find you in the body sleeping next to me" (Ghost)
I can be a phantom holdin' him for ransom / Knew I was a robber first time that he saw me / Stealing hearts and running off and never saying sorry / But if I'm a thief, then he can join the heist / And he can be my jailer
Robbers is one of The 1975’s most famous songs. In the music video two lovers stick up a convenience store - definitely worth a watch if you haven't seen it. In 2014 M dedicated the song to T in Dallas in November 2017 (a week after she attended the concert in LA) here and here
Burton to this Taylor
One of my favorite references that I think reveals a lot about the messy but irresistible relationship M and T seem to have. Here's a link to a great article about the wild love affair between Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton.
Every love I've known in comparison is a failure / I forget their names now, I'm so very tame now / Never be the same now
This sentiment is repeated throughout many of the songs I believe are about M. The idea of a life altering love is obviously prevalent across TTPD but also in folklore, evermore, and Midnights. ex. "I'm never gonna love again" (cowboy like me), "I don't remember who I was before you painted all my nights a color I have searched for since" (Question...?), "I felt aglow like this / Never before and never since" (loml)
Also want to mention This Must Be My Dream from 2016, which M has said is about an older gf but may fit: "Let me tell you 'bout this girl / I thought she'd rearrange my world"
No one has to know / In the middle of the night, in my dreams / You should see the things we do, baby
See Guilty as Sin? lol
Baby, let the games begin
Taylor in an interview with Glamour in February 2014:
TS: [Nods. Pauses.] I think everyone should approach relationships from the perspective of playing it straight and giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Until he establishes that this is a game. And if it's a game, you need to win. The best thing to do is just walk away from the table.
CL: Is that winning?
TS: It is when they come back. [Laughs.] And if they don't, then they didn't care enough to begin with.
conclusion: I believe ...Ready For It? is a response to Robbers and reveals M and T's similar romanticism (sometimes toxic but so addicting). The mirrored stylization of ...Ready For It? and Question...? makes me think the latter is a continuation of the former. The mentions of “island breeze” and “we’ll move to an island” have made people believe this song is about Tom Hiddleston but other lyrics, namely “younger than my exes” pretty clearly contradicts that.
"End Game"
I wanna be your end game / I wanna be your first string /I wanna be your A-Team
Funny reading this after The Alchemy and So High School.
Big reputation, big reputation / Ooh, you and me, we got big reputations / And you heard about me / Ooh, you and me would be a big conversation
And they were! Especially because T hadn't been really linked to anyone after Harry, the speculation about her and M came hard and fast. M especially was inundated with questions in the months after the LA and NYC shows.
And I heard about you / You like the bad ones, too
Another possible reference to a Halsey song, this time Hurricane from 2014: "He says, "Oh, baby, beggin' you to save me / Well, lately I like 'em crazy/ Oh, maybe, you could devastate me"
I don't wanna touch you, I don't wanna be / Just another ex-love you don't wanna see / I don't wanna miss you / Like the other girls do
Very reminiscent of The 1975's song Somebody Else, released in 2016, speculated to be about T: "I don't want your body / But I hate to think about you with somebody else"
I hit you like bang, we tried to forget it, but we just couldn't
"Flashbacks waking me up / I get drunk, but it's not enough" (Death By A Thousand Cuts)
And I bury hatchets, but I keep maps of where I put 'em
"I circled you on a map / I haven't come around in so long" (The Alchemy)
Reputation precedes me, they told you I'm crazy
"And they tried to warn you about me" (The Albatross)
And I can't let you go, your hand prints on my soul
"Marked me like a bloodstain" (Cardigan)
It's like your eyes are liquor, it's like your body is gold
So many of the songs speculated to be about M reference his eyes but the most relevant (not the starry eyed motif which we'll get to in the future) are: "Eyes like sinking ships on waters / So inviting I almost jump in" (gold rush) and "But your eyes are flying saucers from another planet / Now I'm all for you like Janet" (Snow On The Beach)
"Deep blue, but you painted me golden" (Dancing With Our Hands Tied)
You've been calling my bluff on all my usual tricks / So here's the truth from my red lips
From the same Glamour article, Taylor talking about her 'trick' when dating:
CL: What's the freeze-out?
TS: You don't respond to any of his texts or calls until he does something desperate [like] shows up. Or he calls and leaves a voice mail. Something that makes it very clear to you that he's interested.
disclaimer: I am someone who thinks the Tom relationship was not that serious for T, so this song imo fits what she may have told us about her relationship with M more, though the beach reference does point to Tom in a way.
"Don't Blame Me"
I've been breaking hearts a long time / And toying with them older guys / Just playthings for me to use
See the quotes from the Glamour article above. "Younger than my exes, but he act like such a man, so" (...Ready For It?)
Something happened for the first time / In the darkest little paradise
May refer to the dark concert venue where they met for the first time (see So It Goes... for more)
For you / I would cross the line / I would waste my time / I would lose my mind / They say, "She's gone too far this time."
Sentiment that is repeated throughout TTPD, but most clearly in But Daddy I Love Him
My name is whatever you decide / And I'm just gonna call you mine
Though this could be a stretch, in the spotify storyline for The 1975's Oh Caroline (2022), speculated to be about T, M said "It's an invented character, where the cadence really mattered. It couldn't be "Oh Linda" or "Oh Jane" [or "Oh Taylor"] - you had to have a 3 syllable that really works. I knew what the song was about, I had felt that about someone before and I got to write an episodic, mini movie about the subject"
disclaimer: If about M, this song is very on the nose with the drug references. Generally it's a very vague song and could easily be about Joe or another ex.
"So It Goes..."
See you in the dark / All eyes on you, my magician / All eyes on us / You make everyone disappear
Likely refers to the first time T saw M in person, when she was front row at The 1975's LA show. All eyes were on M then (including T's)
"Once upon a time, the planets and the fates / And all the stars aligned / You and I ended up in the same room / At the same time" (Mastermind)
Tripping, tripping when you're gone
May relate to Don't Blame Me: "Trip of my life / every time you're touching me"
'Cause we breakdown a little / But when you get me alone, it's so simple
Maybe a stretch but M famously had a breakdown on stage in Boston on December 6, 2014. In an interview with the Guardian he said: “There was girl stuff. There was family stuff. There was financial stuff. There was drug stuff. I remember hearing the crowd and having an identity crisis. I thought: ‘If you want to see a show, I’ll give you a fucking show. If you’ve come to see the jester drink himself into a slumber, I’ll give it to you.’ I felt like I’d become an idea as opposed to being a person.”
“And I was 25 and afraid to go outside” (Give Yourself a Try)
And all the pieces fall / Right into place
"I laid the groundwork and then, just like clockwork / The dominoes cascaded in a line" (Mastermind)
Getting caught up in a moment / Lipstick on your face
"I said, "Don't fall in love with the moment" / She said I've got a lot to learn / Don't fall in love with the moment /And think you're in love with the girl" (She's American)
Come here, dressed in black now
"Yeah, we're dressed in black from head to toe" (Chocolate). Taylor was also wearing all black the night of the LA show.
conclusion: You did a number on me / But, honestly, baby, who's counting? / I did a number on you / But, honestly, baby, who's counting? ( "King of My Heart"
We met a few weeks ago / Now you try on callin' me "baby" like tryin' on clothes
The reason why I don't necessarily think Joe fits. They met at the Met Gala in 2017 and she very quickly started seeing Tom, obviously it could still be him but I wanted to note this.
"Don't call me 'kid,' don't call me 'baby' / Look at this idiotic fool that you made me" (illicit affairs)
And you move to me like I'm a Motown beat
M loves Motown, even sampling a track by The Temptations on Tonight (I Wish I Was Your Boy). He's also always loved dancing, which you can see in the videos for A Change of Heart and Oh Caroline.
Salute to me I'm your American Queen / Say you fancy me, not fancy stuff
He's English, obviously.
And we rule the kingdom inside my room / With all these nights we're spending / Up on the roof with a school girl crush
Totally speculation but M and T hiding out in her NYC home makes a lot of sense from other pieces she has shared about the relationship “My kingdom come undone” (Hoax)
Late in the night, the city's asleep / Your love is a secret I'm hoping, dreaming, dying to keep
Speculation again but fits with the story of M and T as mostly loving each other in secret (see Dancing With Our Hands Tied and Dress)
Is this the end of all the endings? / My broken bones are mending
As mentioned above, T had seemingly taken a break from dating after the breakup with Harry.
disclaimer: Definitely not 100% sure on this one as there is convincing evidence that it is about J
"Dancing With Our Hands Tied"
I, I loved you in secret / First sight, yeah, we love without reason / Oh, 25 years old
M and T were both born in 1989, M was 25 when they first met and dated and T was turning 25.
My, my love had been frozen / People started talking, putting us through our paces / I knew there was no one in the world who could take it / I loved you in spite of / Deep fears that the world would divide us
“A red rose grew up out of ice frozen ground / With no one around to tweet it” (The Lakes)
In an interview with the Guardian Matty said: “The day after she’d been to a show of ours, someone sent me a screenshot of E! News with the headline ‘Who is Matt Healy?’ That freaked me out. I’m not ready to indulge in that world and I’m not ready to be judged by that world.” So sad to read knowing that they dealt with a similar situation nearly a decade later.
Picture of your face in an invisible locket
“Wear you like a necklace” (So It Goes…)
And darling, you had turned my bed into a sacred oasis
“Now you hang from my lips / Like the Gardens of Babylon / With your boots beneath my bed” (cowboy like me)
I'd kiss you as the lights went out / Swaying as the room burned down / I'd hold you as the water rushes in / If I could dance with you again
Reminds me so much of the music video for cardigan, where T slips into a rough ocean and hangs on to a piano. Also from cardigan: “Leaving like a father / Running like water”
“Dress”
Our secret moments in a crowded room / They got no idea about me and you
"Did you ever have someone kiss you in a crowded room / And every single one of your friends was / Making fun of you" (Question...?)
There is an indentation in the shape of you / Made your mark on me, a golden tattoo
M seemingly makes a lasting impression: “Deep blue, but you painted me golden” (Dancing With Our Hands Tied) “The mark they saw on my collarbone” (Maroon) “Marked me like a bloodstain” (cardigan)
'Cause I don't want you like a best friend
T often seems to refer to a friendship with M, perhaps they tried it a few times: “We were supposed to be just friends” (Glitch) “Like you were my closest friend” (Maroon) “Just say when, I'd play again / He was my best friend / Down at the sandlot” (My Boy Only Breaks His Favorite Toys)
And if I get burned, at least we were electrified
“I'd kiss you as the lights went out / Swaying as the room burned down” (Dancing With Our Hands Tied)
I'm spilling wine in the bathtub / You kiss my face and we're both drunk
Many of the possible M songs refer to M and T’s love of wine. “And I can see us twisted in bedsheets / August slipped away like a bottle of wine” (august) “The burgundy on my T-shirt when you splashed your wine into me / And how the blood rushed into my cheeks, so scarlet, it was (maroon)” (Maroon)
disclaimer - Obviously most likely about Joe given the reference to the 2017 Met Gala but I think it was worth a mention!
“Call It What You Want”
My baby's fly like a jet stream / High above the whole scene
Probably a double-entendre. M considers himself slightly on the outside of the ‘scene’ but this can come across as self assurance. This also could refer to literally being high on drugs
Loves me like I'm brand new
After T’s clever use of The Starting Line in TTPD I’m convinced she’s referring to the band Brand New. M posted a Brand New album on his ig story in 2020.
All my flowers grew back as thorns
An interesting contrast to “I once was poison ivy, but now I'm your daisy” from Don’t Blame Me
Windows boarded up after the storm
“I look through the windows of this love / Even though we boarded them up” (Death By A Thousand Cuts)
I'm laughing with my lover
“Laughing with my feet in your lap” (Maroon) “Please don't ever become a stranger / Whose laugh I could recognize anywhere” (New Year’s Day)
Making forts under covers
Matty famously built a fort in ATPOAIM 3. “I'll build you a fort on some planet / Where they can all understand it” (Down Bad)
Trust him like a brother
“Like I lost my twin” (Down Bad)
Starry eyes sparking up my darkest night
So many starry eyed references which is terribly romantic and terribly sad. “Do I really have to chart the constellations in his eyes?” (High Infidelity), “Your opal eyes are all I wish to see” (ivy), “Eyes full of stars” (cowboy like me), and “Gazing at me starry-eyed” (The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived)
I want to wear his initial on a chain 'round my neck
“Picture of your face in an invisible locket” (Dancing With Our Hands Tied) “Wear you like a necklace” (So It Goes…)
I recall late November, holding my breath
Late November fits perfectly into the timeline of M and T’s 2014 relationship. Late October to Late DecembeEarly January makes the most sense.
Slowly I said, "You don't need to save me / But would you run away with me?"
“You're mad thinking you could ever save me. Not looking like that.” (A Change of Heart)
disclaimer: Again lots of Joe references in this as well so take this with a grain of salt.
“New Year’s Day”
You and me from the night before, but / Don't read the last page
From Me and You Together Song (2020): “I think the story needs more pages, yes.” The reference to “the last page” also makes this song feel like more of a reminiscence than a song about a current lover.
I want your midnights / But I'll be cleaning up bottles with you on New Year's Day
Impossible not to reread these lyrics after Midnights was released as a nod to M: “When the morning came we / Were cleaning incense off your / Vinyl shelf ‘cause we lost track of time again” (Maroon)
You squeeze my hand three times in the back of the taxi / I can tell that it's gonna be a long road / I'll be there if you're the toast of the town, babe / Or if you strike out and you're crawling home
Especially after the release of TTPD it seems that both T and M made many promises to each other that they couldn’t keep
Hold on to the memories, they will hold on to you / Hold on to the memories, they will hold on to you / Hold on to the memories, they will hold on to you / And I will hold on to you
The reference to memories here creates a bit of a confusing feeling about the muse for this song. Although T seems to be talking in the present tense I do think these are memories and dreams for a past relationship.
“Hold on and hope that we'll find our way back in the end / Do you think I have forgotten? / Do you think I have forgotten? / Do you think I have forgotten / About you?” (About You)
Please don't ever become a stranger / Whose laugh I could recognize anywhere / Please don't ever become a stranger / Whose laugh I could recognize anywhere
Not much to say about this but ow!
You and me forevermore
Again reminds me of Me and You Together Song (which I do buy as a song at least partially about T). And of course links to Evermore.
disclaimer: This could absolutely be about Joe but it does feel almost like a goodbye to M, closing the album. It’s as if she is reading “the last page”
Congrats if you read this lol. I clearly have too much time on my hands

Knicks swung and did not miss, a punch to the mouth, a gut punch, an elbow to the groin…
Some takeaways:
• Brunson scored 44 on 18/35 (51%)
another night of Herculean offensive effort from their best player. it’s easy to be numb or expect this as the norm BUT IT IS NOT. Brunson scoring 40+ is incredible, it’s ludicrous, it is above average! We all know Nembhard has not been effective at guarding him and still the Pacers allowed Nembhard, Sheppard, Siakam, and others not named Nesmith and McConnell take turns and fail at stopping Brunson. He’s making tough shots, it’s been a narrative all series and maybe we have to throw our hands up and say “sure i guess this is sustainable” i still believe it absolutely is not sustainable but nonetheless it happened last night - will it happen again? our defense needs to be better and with Nesmith/McConnell it is so i’m willing to bet we can make life harder for Brunson.
• Hartenstein broke the Knicks offensive rebounding record with 12 OREBs
In every victory of this series a new player has their career best game alongside Brunson’s scoring output and it was IHart’s turn. His scoring leaves a lot to be desired though i’m surprised they don’t go to his crafty floater more. but it was the rebounding presence from IHart this game that shifted the whole tide. Another example of the Zombie Knicks stepping up and giving their all in this playoffs. We’ve seen OG, Donte, and now IHart give their best performances in their victories.
• Alec Burks 5/8 from 3
Who knew he was still in league when he got traded to the Knicks at the deadline? He didn’t play a minute for the Knicks in the regular season and the last three games has come in to shoot 15/28 through 3 games (54%). If you remove game 4 where he shot 5/11 he’s been 10/17 which is wildly good.
• Pacers scored 36 points in the paint
This is the worst points in the paint performance for the Pacers all playoffs! We were number 1 at points in the paint all year. Even more damning is the fact the Knicks started 4 guys under 6’4” which McBride likely locking up the starting spot. Double damning for the rebounding woes.
• Pacers had 26 assists
We’re leading the league in averaging 29 assists per game in the playoffs so far. The Knicks beat us in the assist column this game by having 28 assists to our 26. Tyrese led the Pacers with only 5 assists. The Knicks smaller and faster lineups did a good job disrupting our passing lanes and McBride stayed glued to Tyrese this game and prevented the ball coming to him after giving it up.
• Knicks: 27 vs Pacers: 21 bench points
Our bench led the league in scoring all year and has been a huge weapon for us. When we lose the bench battle it’s pretty much a guaranteed loss for the Pacers this year. Toppin and McConnell were not effective this game. Sheppard and IJax aren’t going to pour in much scoring but make the right plays and hustle. Just a bad showing from the bench who probably played too much but Carlisle was grasping at straws to find some effective output.
• 3rd Quarter
Myles Turner pick n pop is not being used enough. Spam it - that’s why we have a big that can space the floor. So much of our offense opens up with this play and the start of the 3rd this play proved to be a difference maker. 9 points in a flash and then we maybe ran it once after that. 7 minutes of no baskets from the Pacers after that. Just a brutal stretch - we’ve only seen that happen a small handful of times all year but to see it in the playoffs really stings. Can’t have that happen.
• 18 Turnovers
This was the most turnovers the Pacers have had all playoffs. Knicks only had 9 this game so that was another 9 extra possessions that the Knicks capitalized on against us. Every starter had a turnover, Turner had 4! Just so many lapses and bad plays particularly the play in the 3rd where Haliburton beats Hartenstein of the dribble and gets into the lane with a clean look and throws it back into 3 crashing Knicks players to try and get an assist to Turner. Just sloppy with the ball all night.
• Less than 80 shot attempts as a team
The Pacers shooting splits look good but this was the 3rd time all year (iirc) we shot less than 80 times. This is not our game. No pace, too many turnovers, few assists… We did not play our brand of basketball.
Summary of what this means:
we will be better (we couldn’t get much worse). The Knicks continue to heavily rely on Brunson efficiently scoring 40+ AND having someone else chip in their career best game to win. Our bench and Haliburton need to be more effective on offense. Rebound, box out, stop leaking out on transition without securing the defensive glass. Take advantage of their shorter lineup by using Siakam post ups. More Turner pick n pops. Haliburton needs to have the ball in his hands more. Nesmith / McConnell need to be glued to Brunson and our defense needs to rotate to their assignments instead of switching (they were sort of good at this but had bad lapses in game 5).
Most importantly:

Pacers in 7

I've started a new job and I've got this super friendly coworker (maybe even too friendly) when he calls me he always says "my (add my first name)". Today he was talking to me and he said I had a voice as soft as the sun. He sent me a message at the end of the day "have a nice evening 😘" He doesn't really talk like that to other people in the team from what I've seen since I've been there.
Maybe I'm overreacting but I'd like to tell him I'm uncomfortable when he does that without hurting his feelings.

I am currently on my second week of the game assasins at school and I need some help. For context last week we started this game and somehow I didnt get a name. This resulted in me being an excpetion and just having to surivive till the next week, which I did. Now this week has arrived and I found out I was going out of state for the weekend. I told the people running this game if that's okay and they got a little mad and told me my protection for both thursday and friday were gone (normally saturday). since I also live a half an hour away from everyone else on top of this everyone is gunning to get me out. This brings me to today where I heard of a plot to drag me from the parking lot to the woods right beside it (not safezone) right after school. So I got my friend to escort while i ran to my car when literally nine guys came out to try to jump. I manged to barley to escape to my car and lock the doors to escape. I also tried to follow the guy I had to assasinate this week after this scenario left after he kept staring at me in the track parking lot so I left. Right I'm stuck on what I need to do so any help would be awesome.

Hi all, So tomorrow night, May 16th, Dead & Company begin their Sphere residency. After the Phish weekend, we had to tighten the moderation and here is a reminder of what that means.

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After a community vote, it was clear that content related to Sphere but not U2 is not allowed here. Instead, moderators were encouraged to either remove posts or comments completely, or redirect them to another subreddit (e.g., Sphere, or back to that band's own subreddit). Non-U2 posts or comments will be locked, removed or diverted. Content comparing e.g., visuals with U2:UV are not interesting to this community.

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Moreover, we will try to improve monitoring of possible trolling and other forms of harassment. Some of our members were particularly targeted by Phish folks, and for that we're once again very sorry. We aim to do better this time and attempt to better stay informed with messages directly to the Mod Team — we failed to follow up in good time the last time around.
Sadly, despite three separate messages to the Phish Mod Team to convey my formal complaints on your behalf, I have not heard back. In my messages, I explained our zero tolerance policy towards harassment, and request for their action plan to prevent further visits to our subreddit. Still, their users keep coming here to harass members of our community. In the past week, two more have been banned, after we had to ban multiple users during the Phish residency.

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Likewise, I expect to see members of our own community to behave better because we "do not become a monster in order to defeat the monster". Also, it goes without saying, we don't go into other subreddits to troll them back.
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OK, that's all I had to say for now. Hopefully this time around will be quieter. I've not seen posts, comments or reports about Dead & Company yet in here. It might not be anything but I thought it's important to set some clear expectations that can be referenced in case it goes downhill in the coming weeks.
Thanks for reading!

I am currently on my second week of the game assasins at school and I need some help. For context last week we started this game and somehow I didnt get a name. This resulted in me being an excpetion and just having to surivive till the next week, which I did. Now this week has arrived and I found out I was going out of state for the weekend. I told the people running this game if that's okay and they got a little mad and told me my protection for both thursday and friday were gone (normally saturday). since I also live a half an hour away from everyone else on top of this everyone is gunning to get me out. This brings me to today where I heard of a plot to drag me from the parking lot to the woods right beside it (not safezone) right after school. So I got my friend to escort while i ran to my car when literally nine guys came out to try to jump. I manged to barley to escape to my car and lock the doors to escape. I also tried to follow the guy I had to assasinate this week after this scenario left after he kept staring at me in the track parking lot so I left. Right I'm stuck on what I need to do so any help would be awesome.

I am named after my 3rd Great Grandmother. When delving into her details I have found some quite interesting rabbit holes and I am convinced she is gifting me with information to pursue.
I found an obituary for her husband that I believe she wrote. The obituary details his leadership in the Confederate Army and ends with this:

• After the War, they (he and the Mrs. ) became members of the First Baptist Church of Atlanta in 1866. They never placed their membership elsewhere. Both of them became students of Emmanuel Swedenborg’s writings and enjoyed the wonderful spiritual and intellectual uplift which such study gives to a seeker after true religion.

Wow! If that doesn't start a few things! Baptist AND Swedenborg. I'd love to know more. I can document with a handwritten paper when they joined the church (what a treasure), and raised their children and served there until his death in 1920. She died in 1928.
She was a teacher and operated her own school for girls, preparing them for college and careers. I'd truly believe her work helped women progress and be granted the right to vote.
She wrote a short story late in her life that is fiction , but includes verifiable facts about her family growing up, and her parents being baptized by their oldest son in the river. The story talks about a rich, full life and ends (without credit), but I believe it was commonly recognized, of a poem called The Sleep by Elizabeth Barrett Browning. This poem seems to reference Psalm 127:2. He giveth his beloved sleep. Wasn't Browning a follower of Swedenborg?

I am currently on my second week of the game assasins at school and I need some help. For context last week we started this game and somehow I didnt get a name. This resulted in me being an excpetion and just having to surivive till the next week, which I did. Now this week has arrived and I found out I was going out of state for the weekend. I told the people running this game if that's okay and they got a little mad and told me my protection for both thursday and friday were gone (normally saturday). since I also live a half an hour away from everyone else on top of this everyone is gunning to get me out. This brings me to today where I heard of a plot to drag me from the parking lot to the woods right beside it (not safezone) right after school. So I got my friend to escort while i ran to my car when literally nine guys came out to try to jump. I manged to barley to escape to my car and lock the doors to escape. I also tried to follow the guy I had to assasinate this week after this scenario left after he kept staring at me in the track parking lot so I left. Right I'm stuck on what I need to do so any help would be awesome.

USE TAB AS MUCH AS YOU CAN
en - short for enable
conf t - short for configuration terminal
ho _ - short for hostname
ba m #UP# - short for banner motd
us _ s _ - short for username, secret
ena s _ - short for enable secret
ser p short for service password-encryption
ip domain-n CCNA . com - short for domain-name
no ip domain-l - short for domain-lookup
lin con 0 - short for line console
pas _ - short for password
logg s - short for logging synchronous
login
exit
cr k g r - short for crypto key generate rsa
1024
exit
line vty 0 15
pass _
exe 6 - short for exec-timeout
tr i s - short for transport input ssh
ip default-g _ - short for default-gateway
ipv6 u - short for unicast-routing

Another variant on my longshot question!
Has anyone a father or grandfather, who graduated from a Protestant high school in 1945 in Montreal, who was an adopted son? Think this is the right year.
I know there could be more than one person, but not loads?
This set of Venn diagram requirements/filters occurred to me earlier today. If anyone has any other ideas for finding a record of someone whose adopted name (assuming he WAS adopted) is not known, happy to hear them!

Me and my boyfriend have been together since april 1st of this year, this problem is very recent and is still going on; I wanna find out how to stop it before it goes too far. __________________________
Me and my boyfriend have been noticing how people stare at us or laugh while around us, we never really thought about it much until one of my partners shop peer's brought it up that rumors about us are going around about us. Even one of my sisters brought it up to me when I asked and she said that "They have been watching you both since you got together." If I'm being bluntly honest, I want this to be done and end by my own hands and not a teacher's or staff, etc. I knew around last month that students were trying to make my sister hate me, Thankfully it was unsuccessful but it was painstaking and really showed me how heartless students can be just to start drama; they all crave drama and I was now one of the victims. It makes me and my boyfriend very uneasy that we can't hide from the eyes of the students in our school, both of us are very on edge of what can be done to stop all of this. The worst part is that my cousins are known to tell my family all the rumors that go on in that school, and Me and my partner are the main course of those rumors. It's gotten so out of hand that my partners discord messages are being aired out. Mind you, My boyfriend is a very nice person and hasn't did anything in middle school and there is rumors that are coming back from middle school. Some people don't know what the hell character development is. I was in math class and saw someone on their iPad and saw a screenshot of my boyfriend's profile on discord, I told my boyfriend immediately who it was and what it was on. I've gotten so caught up in this that, I am starting to take tabs on people who are passing the rumors around. We are both afraid that this will affect our life outside of school, just so people can get a good laugh at us. I've been trying everything I could think of, Ignoring the rumors in hopes that they would go away but I knew they wouldn't because they keep stalking us. My boyfriend has been assaulted by a shop student that told him the rumors, we tried our best to explain the big problem we are both in to him. The rumors are very over exaggerated, they'd say that we were doing inappropriate things in the library and making out in the middle of the hall; we were nowhere close to making out or even doing such a thing in school?
Many times that I had spoke with someone I knew before this, they told me about the said rumors going around. I told them all that it wasn't true at all and its for the most part fabricated, framed even; compared. Knowing most people this generation, most have mental issues and well the people I surround my people also have mental issues; this concludes I also have mental issues but that's not the point. There was one day of the week that these rumors got to me and I had a breakdown. I really want the rumors to end ; How could I get better if this is happening. So focused on these stressors that I might not be able to finish high school.

Hello there! It’s a pleasure to meet you all! My name is Adrianna, I’m 19, a wannabe-dungeonmaster, and a newcomer to this subreddit! I apologize in advance if there are any rookie mistakes in this post lol
Anyway, I’ve spent the last week or so coming up with an (hopefully) original, fantasy setting! I’ve named it Ironheart, The City of Ghosts, Land of Dreamers, something of a rumor whispered on bittersweet winds. I’ve given it a location, a government, a few factions, some characters, some history, some cool places to explore, and I think, made it into something worth seeing! I don’t want to infodump all about it here, but to give you some idea…
Ironheart is an underground city where anything is possible. What originally started as a community of banished families has become a thriving society! Deep under barren, rocky wastes are vast caverns, rich with life. It’s a hiding place for those who fear for their lives, a sanctuary for those with nowhere to turn, and a home for anyone in need. Over centuries, it’s grown into a mixing pot of cultures and people, accepting of all races, and teeming with opportunity. The Queen herself is a direct descendant of the leader of those original refugee families, and she is a caring, benevolent figure.
This is not to say that it is a city without flaws! Being accepting of all means taking the good with the bad, and the law grapples with a few criminal organizations from time to time. Although the city attempts to be kind to those in need, poverty forces people to make difficult decisions. Additionally, the crown princes are… challenging. The death of their father, the king, some decades ago led to quite a bit of conflict. Yes, time has passed, but the wounds of war are not so easily forgotten.
Ah! I said I wouldn’t infodump, but I just can’t help myself!
Anyway, this is where you come in! I would love people to try and “test drive” this place. Bring a character (or make one), and then run around and kick the tires! Explore to your heart’s content, get to know the world, the people in it, and I’ll get see if the whole thing doesn’t fall apart once someone’s inside! This city is open to all sorts of stories as well, so whatever you’re looking for, we can do!
Looking for some Romance? With a large and diverse population of people you might never meet elsewhere, your soulmate could be right around the corner! This is a place for artists, dreamers, and those with tender hearts to make a life for themselves!
Looking for Adventure? Well, the caves far below the city are dark, twisting, and unexplored. Within them are strange beasts, and the promise of hidden treasure! There are also schools for magic users, places to get into scrapes for fighters, and plenty of criminal opportunities for rogues!
Looking for Drama? The politics of this city are just as intimidating as its caves, and the princes in government could always use some advisors, enemies, and everything in between! There might even be conspiracies afoot! You could be a spy, a detective helping with the crime problem, or something completely different!
Whatever it is you’re looking for, there’s a saying in Ironheart: If you can’t find it here… it ain’t worth finding!
I’d love to discuss any and all of this further, and I’m very interested to hear your own ideas! I hope to hear from you soon, and even if you’re not interested, I hope you have a lovely day :)