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2024.05.16 14:32 Palandium I just dont care about alot of stuff.
Hey fellas,
This ppst maybe triggering to some people so ill put this in advance.
I have this issue , that alot of my friends are rather politicaly and/or socially invested. They often discuss Issues of political or social importance like the Israel/Hamas Situation, LGBTQ, Structural Racisim etc.
And i cant think of something thats as boring espacially the more philosophical those dicussions get. If they ask my opinion on stuff i normally tell them i dont really care or smth thats they obviously detest just too see their reactions for funny haha (I clear it up afterwards).
Sometimes i have an opinion but to a bigger degree i just dont care. I just dont feel anything when they talk about thoses issues no sadnes no rage no happyness nothing.
This leads to alot of dicussions again. I have been told now multible times i dont have empathy and im starting to belive that aswell atleats to a certain degree. When it comes to my close firends i feel like i have actually alot of empathy and i care deeply about them.
But everything thats farthe removed is kinda irrelevant in my mind. If somebody tells me the Gardner two streets from here has died id maybe a bit perturbued if i liked the person but it woudnt matter to me a few hours in the day.
Now if were talking about global co flict its so far removed from me that it coud basically be a movie. Is it bad that people die and suffer 100% yes. But i woud never blurt out any statements for either side ode rfo to protests , swing banners or take sides in a discussion. The only reaosn inform myslef is like reading lore of a fantasy universe or something.
Thinking about this it serms obviously very wrong and distastwfull but again i just kinda dont feel anything and do not care too much.
Same goes with social issues. I personally woud say that i treat everybody as just another human first idc if theyre from a different skin color , gender , sexual preference becouse why woud i. In turn i give noone special treatment either i judge people pretty mich only on their personality and how they present themselfs and thats it.
That again or probably even mlre is an issue that leads to alot of discussion with people i like or love since they have very shrong opinions regarding those topics.
I just dont understand how people can feel such strong emotions regarding people they dont know and issues that dont effect them in the slightest. Im nlt sayin this as an argument but as an actual statement i dont feel the same stuff and i cant understand how or why they feel that way.
Sometimes i just feel like im an ignorant ass but only in terms of how my opinions afgect the opinions of others to myslef. Thats kind amy biggest concern in this regard and i often just say stuff they wanna hear so rhey might leave me alone with the dicussion or they have a positive picture of me.
submitted by Palandium to Healthygamergg [link] [comments]
This ppst maybe triggering to some people so ill put this in advance.
I have this issue , that alot of my friends are rather politicaly and/or socially invested. They often discuss Issues of political or social importance like the Israel/Hamas Situation, LGBTQ, Structural Racisim etc.
And i cant think of something thats as boring espacially the more philosophical those dicussions get. If they ask my opinion on stuff i normally tell them i dont really care or smth thats they obviously detest just too see their reactions for funny haha (I clear it up afterwards).
Sometimes i have an opinion but to a bigger degree i just dont care. I just dont feel anything when they talk about thoses issues no sadnes no rage no happyness nothing.
This leads to alot of dicussions again. I have been told now multible times i dont have empathy and im starting to belive that aswell atleats to a certain degree. When it comes to my close firends i feel like i have actually alot of empathy and i care deeply about them.
But everything thats farthe removed is kinda irrelevant in my mind. If somebody tells me the Gardner two streets from here has died id maybe a bit perturbued if i liked the person but it woudnt matter to me a few hours in the day.
Now if were talking about global co flict its so far removed from me that it coud basically be a movie. Is it bad that people die and suffer 100% yes. But i woud never blurt out any statements for either side ode rfo to protests , swing banners or take sides in a discussion. The only reaosn inform myslef is like reading lore of a fantasy universe or something.
Thinking about this it serms obviously very wrong and distastwfull but again i just kinda dont feel anything and do not care too much.
Same goes with social issues. I personally woud say that i treat everybody as just another human first idc if theyre from a different skin color , gender , sexual preference becouse why woud i. In turn i give noone special treatment either i judge people pretty mich only on their personality and how they present themselfs and thats it.
That again or probably even mlre is an issue that leads to alot of discussion with people i like or love since they have very shrong opinions regarding those topics.
I just dont understand how people can feel such strong emotions regarding people they dont know and issues that dont effect them in the slightest. Im nlt sayin this as an argument but as an actual statement i dont feel the same stuff and i cant understand how or why they feel that way.
Sometimes i just feel like im an ignorant ass but only in terms of how my opinions afgect the opinions of others to myslef. Thats kind amy biggest concern in this regard and i often just say stuff they wanna hear so rhey might leave me alone with the dicussion or they have a positive picture of me.
2024.05.16 14:32 Diligent_Wheel_588 looking for an apartment, but my situation is a little different from others
 | Hiš My name is Omar... 23y old. I speak German and have a B1 certificate in German from Goethe-Institut .and also speak English very fluently ( have a university degree in English and translation Also, I am an officially licensed translator from the Iraqi Translators Association and have an official translatorās license) submitted by Diligent_Wheel_588 to MovingtoGermany [link] [comments] I work in the field of (heating, air conditioning, and plumbing). I have 6 years of experience in my field of work. and have experience certificates in my work and have an official plumberās identity from the Iraqi Federation of Trade Unions. you can say that I can do things in My work cannot be done by manyš , and this field has a huge shortage in Germany .so a German company in Munich sent me an Ausbildung contract . in my country in Iraq and I have completed everything and will travel to Germany (Munich) in september this year. I only need an apartment. Small apartment or shared accommodation in Munich In general, I am an educated and cultured person who loves history, economics, and philosophy. And open minded . This is the reason that drives me to leave my country and my work and leave everything. In Iraq, I own my own business and my own life. I have my own small company and there are 3 employees that work for me . I will leave all that and travel to Germany only because I am an open minded person and the society in which I live does not suit my ideas and the lifestyle that I want. My problem is that I am a person who thinks like any European citizen, but I was born on the wrong side of the planet!! If someone can help me with this matter or has shared housing or a small apartment in the Krailling area or within Munich itself, that would be very, very great and I would be very grateful to himš and iam a clean person, I love cleanliness, and calm. I will not disturb you or disturb the neighbors or disturb anyone.. I do not smoke, and do not have pets, and I will not ruin anything for you in the apartment. (I am the person who fixes things, not the one who ruins themš ).. and I am aware of responsibilities of liveing with others and I will not interfere in their lives or their personal belongings or anything.. In general, I am a social person and I will be a friend to everyone and.. I can promise you that I am one of the best persons who will live in your apartment or with youš In my country, our family owns a rented house and I manage it. ...So I know very well what problems can occur During the rental ! I know that I should search on real estate websites such as WG-Gesuch and others...but I prefer to communicate with the apartment owner directly because my situation is a little special. In case anyone is interested in me, I will be happy to send him anything he needs from me, from certificates to identity documents, my CV, or anything he needs from me, etc. I have a Facebook page on which I publish most of my work. I can send them to you so that you can get to know me more . or would like us to make a Video call, I have no objection to that my budget is 600ā¬ or something like thatš My email: omaralsheehk4@gmail.com WhatsApp:- +9647517328510 Thank you everyone š |
2024.05.16 14:31 GreedyPersonality390 Authentic Wazifa for Love Marriage in Hindi
 | Authentic wazifa for love marriage submitted by GreedyPersonality390 to u/GreedyPersonality390 [link] [comments] I truly mean what I am saying; therefore, I am confident that with Wazifa, the prayer to guide me through love marriage would be a reality. Authentic Wazifa for Love Marriage, undoubtedly, a long journey that will bring an individual to the most envied moment in his/her life. Islam does not allow any Muslim man to marry a physically and mentally defected lady, as one is chosen to enjoy this bond for life. This is why this sacred union is very valued. Although nowadays, a person might lead a very busy and complicated life struggling in the quest of the exact partner to share one life with him. Consequently, many Muslims might seek for wazifas with incredible powers of controlling people in the marriage to make a marriage become successful through one union of love. What is a Wazifa? The 'wazifa' term refers to Islamic prayers (or the verbal devotions). Eating these sorcerous words repeatedly over a specific time the purpose is to get help and blessings from Allah. Al-wazifas reach back to hadeed and it is this which have incomparable supernatural strength. For the moments when wazifas are committed as the way of the righteous, indeed, they can be the magnificent way of solving even the unsolved problem. Orthography Questions in Induction of a Wazifa. Authentic Wazifa for Love Marriage, The main cause of different recitations of the said recitation is that they are so popular many of them that are available on the internet and books. Besides that, the commitment to a credible and verified wazifa while using a wazifa that incorporates the ideas of Islam is more than required. These desires, as faithless khawaatir, can only lead to a pointless pursuit of results, and the worst thing is that these people infuriate Allah. The more authenticate your wazifa becomes by connecting it to the omnipotent power of Allah and incorporating your words with His greatness the more certain you will be that your prayers will be answered as it should in the best manner possible. What we should do to verify the wazifas lıcques. It would be advantageous to back it up with research but also consideration on your part. Here are a few tips:Below are some tips: Listen to Online Authentic Wazifa for Love Marriage,
Here is one of the most popular and frequently used authentic wazifa for those seeking a happy marriage with their desired partner:This paragraph contains a very famous and widely used original Zikr for individuals longing for a joyous and ideal marriage with the person of their desire: "O Allah, here I invoke You, with Your gentle sweetness, Your merciful face, bless my journey to ease the pilgrimage, and determine my situation, and according to my son's response. " This Awazifa, which only has Ahl-U-batins ray of Allah's divine love/grace, can aid the person in finding a partner that the person sought. To do this wazifa:
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2024.05.16 14:29 mcm8279 [TOS Movies] CBR.com: "Did Captain Kirk Really Meet God In Star Trek V: The Final Frontier?" "The story itself was inspired by the 1980s televangelists who used hokey gimmicks and tricks to con people out of their money."
"Audiences can think whatever they'd like about The Final Frontier, but Kirk asking "Excuse me? What does God need with a starship?" is one of the most memorable Star Trek lines of all time. [...]
The film has its charms, which stand out much more clearly when audiences realize that Kirk, Spock and Doctor McCoy didn't actually meet "God" on Sha Ka Ree.[...]
[Roddenberry] was an atheist, and an allegory he wanted to put in Star Trek was that the concept of gods came from simple human misunderstanding of scientific concepts. Sure, some of those concepts were things like "Where does the sun go at night." Yet, as his friend Arthur C. Clarke posited: "Any significantly advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic."
Joshua M. Patton (CBR. com)
Link:
https://www.cbr.com/star-trek-v-god-captain-kirk-explained/
Quotes:
CBR: "Of course, there is a lot that is polarizing about Star Trek V, as it's seen as a low point in the storied film franchise. Yet, even with the appreciation of Marvel Studios' CEO Kevin Feige, it's called Star Trek's worst movie. There are many reasons for this, however, as Shatner's direction is not entirely to blame. There was also a more controversial message in the film than the previous entry's "don't murder whales." Still, the film has its charms, which stand out much more clearly when audiences realize that Kirk, Spock and Doctor McCoy didn't actually meet "God" on Sha Ka Ree.
Visionary Star Trek creator Gene Roddenberry always wanted his crew to meet God. There are signs of this throughout the previous iterations of Star Trek, from The Original Series to the pilot of Star Trek: The Next Generation. Roddenberry had a vision of a united world that put war, poverty and religious extremism behind them and looked to the stars. He was an atheist, and an allegory he wanted to put in Star Trek was that the concept of gods came from simple human misunderstanding of scientific concepts. Sure, some of those concepts were things like "Where does the sun go at night." Yet, as his friend Arthur C. Clarke posited: "Any significantly advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic."
In the Star Trek: The Original Series episode "Who Mourns for Adonais," the USS Enterprise is stopped by a powerful alien claiming to be the god Apollo. In the episode, he tells the crew the other aliens who inspired the Greek Gods moved on to a higher plane. Yet, he waited for humans to find him and start worshipping him again. In Star Trek: The Animated Series, two episodes dealt with this. In "The Magicks of Megas-Tu," a proposed story about meeting God became a story about the Enterprise meeting the alien who was the source of the Devil myths, and Kirk defended him. The Emmy-winning Star Trek: TAS episode, "Sharper Than a Serpent's Tooth" introduced K'ul'ulkan as an alien being also encountered by the Enterprise.
This continued into the feature film era. The story Roddenberry most wanted to tell on the big screen was put into script form with the working title The God Thing. Another lost Star Trek movie called Planet of the Titans had nothing to do with Roddenberry, but would've sent Kirk and the crew back in time where they became the basis for the Greek Gods on Mount Olympus. There are many attempts to use the Star Trek characters to make the argument that humanity's myths about gods could've simply been born from extraterrestrial contact from before society had the vocabulary for such things.
Ironically, Gene Roddenberry hated The Final Frontier when it was set to be released. In the book The Fifty-Year Mission - The First 25 Years by Edward Gross and Mark A Altman, many speculate he didn't like the idea of the story being told without him writing the script. The other problem he had with the film was Sybok. Not because he was Spock's secret brother, but rather because Sybok's "Share your pain" gimmick won over the members of the crew like Sulu, Uhura, Chekov and even Doctor McCoy. Yet, it's that very detail that proves the God of Sha Ka Ree was not the actual God. He likely never even made it to Earth.
The story itself was inspired by the 1980s televangelists who used hokey gimmicks and tricks to con people out of their money. Sybok, however, wasn't that cynical. He believed he had been in communication with God. His ability to win over people to his side by asking them to share their pain, was likely because of his Vulcan telepathic abilities combined with his full embrace of emotion. Perhaps because this being was powerful and in pain, it reached Sybok and enticed him to capture a starship to push past the barrier around the planet, so it could be freed. If this being was the source of any of Earth's mythology, it was likely the Old Testament-style God, full of wrath, destruction and a need to be praised.
Audiences can think whatever they'd like about The Final Frontier, but Kirk asking "Excuse me? What does God need with a starship?" is one of the most memorable Star Trek lines of all time. The being on Sha Ka Ree was clearly imprisoned there for some kind of galactic crime. Perhaps an advanced civilization trapped him there to protect developing worlds, or perhaps this being was incarcerated by his equally powerful kin. Similar to Apollo (who chose to stay) and the beings from "Who Mourns for Adonais?", it seems like the God of Sha Ka Ree was being punished. Either way, it was seemingly destroyed by a few choice shots from a Klingon Bird of Prey, making him a sorry example of even alien divinity. [...]
Throughout the [current] season, the USS Discovery is assembling clues left by a group of 24th Century scientists who found more evidence of the Progenitors and their technology. Because Starfleet was at war with the Dominion, they hid this discovery until a time when the galaxy was at peace. If the USS Discovery finds this technology, that will be the closest Star Trek has gotten to actually unveiling the true creator of humanity. As Roddenberry always intended, it wasn't some omniscient, supernatural being, but rather an advanced race of "people" who had technology indistinguishable from magic."
submitted by mcm8279 to trektalk [link] [comments]
The film has its charms, which stand out much more clearly when audiences realize that Kirk, Spock and Doctor McCoy didn't actually meet "God" on Sha Ka Ree.[...]
[Roddenberry] was an atheist, and an allegory he wanted to put in Star Trek was that the concept of gods came from simple human misunderstanding of scientific concepts. Sure, some of those concepts were things like "Where does the sun go at night." Yet, as his friend Arthur C. Clarke posited: "Any significantly advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic."
Joshua M. Patton (CBR. com)
Link:
https://www.cbr.com/star-trek-v-god-captain-kirk-explained/
Quotes:
CBR: "Of course, there is a lot that is polarizing about Star Trek V, as it's seen as a low point in the storied film franchise. Yet, even with the appreciation of Marvel Studios' CEO Kevin Feige, it's called Star Trek's worst movie. There are many reasons for this, however, as Shatner's direction is not entirely to blame. There was also a more controversial message in the film than the previous entry's "don't murder whales." Still, the film has its charms, which stand out much more clearly when audiences realize that Kirk, Spock and Doctor McCoy didn't actually meet "God" on Sha Ka Ree.
Visionary Star Trek creator Gene Roddenberry always wanted his crew to meet God. There are signs of this throughout the previous iterations of Star Trek, from The Original Series to the pilot of Star Trek: The Next Generation. Roddenberry had a vision of a united world that put war, poverty and religious extremism behind them and looked to the stars. He was an atheist, and an allegory he wanted to put in Star Trek was that the concept of gods came from simple human misunderstanding of scientific concepts. Sure, some of those concepts were things like "Where does the sun go at night." Yet, as his friend Arthur C. Clarke posited: "Any significantly advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic."
In the Star Trek: The Original Series episode "Who Mourns for Adonais," the USS Enterprise is stopped by a powerful alien claiming to be the god Apollo. In the episode, he tells the crew the other aliens who inspired the Greek Gods moved on to a higher plane. Yet, he waited for humans to find him and start worshipping him again. In Star Trek: The Animated Series, two episodes dealt with this. In "The Magicks of Megas-Tu," a proposed story about meeting God became a story about the Enterprise meeting the alien who was the source of the Devil myths, and Kirk defended him. The Emmy-winning Star Trek: TAS episode, "Sharper Than a Serpent's Tooth" introduced K'ul'ulkan as an alien being also encountered by the Enterprise.
This continued into the feature film era. The story Roddenberry most wanted to tell on the big screen was put into script form with the working title The God Thing. Another lost Star Trek movie called Planet of the Titans had nothing to do with Roddenberry, but would've sent Kirk and the crew back in time where they became the basis for the Greek Gods on Mount Olympus. There are many attempts to use the Star Trek characters to make the argument that humanity's myths about gods could've simply been born from extraterrestrial contact from before society had the vocabulary for such things.
Ironically, Gene Roddenberry hated The Final Frontier when it was set to be released. In the book The Fifty-Year Mission - The First 25 Years by Edward Gross and Mark A Altman, many speculate he didn't like the idea of the story being told without him writing the script. The other problem he had with the film was Sybok. Not because he was Spock's secret brother, but rather because Sybok's "Share your pain" gimmick won over the members of the crew like Sulu, Uhura, Chekov and even Doctor McCoy. Yet, it's that very detail that proves the God of Sha Ka Ree was not the actual God. He likely never even made it to Earth.
The story itself was inspired by the 1980s televangelists who used hokey gimmicks and tricks to con people out of their money. Sybok, however, wasn't that cynical. He believed he had been in communication with God. His ability to win over people to his side by asking them to share their pain, was likely because of his Vulcan telepathic abilities combined with his full embrace of emotion. Perhaps because this being was powerful and in pain, it reached Sybok and enticed him to capture a starship to push past the barrier around the planet, so it could be freed. If this being was the source of any of Earth's mythology, it was likely the Old Testament-style God, full of wrath, destruction and a need to be praised.
Audiences can think whatever they'd like about The Final Frontier, but Kirk asking "Excuse me? What does God need with a starship?" is one of the most memorable Star Trek lines of all time. The being on Sha Ka Ree was clearly imprisoned there for some kind of galactic crime. Perhaps an advanced civilization trapped him there to protect developing worlds, or perhaps this being was incarcerated by his equally powerful kin. Similar to Apollo (who chose to stay) and the beings from "Who Mourns for Adonais?", it seems like the God of Sha Ka Ree was being punished. Either way, it was seemingly destroyed by a few choice shots from a Klingon Bird of Prey, making him a sorry example of even alien divinity. [...]
Throughout the [current] season, the USS Discovery is assembling clues left by a group of 24th Century scientists who found more evidence of the Progenitors and their technology. Because Starfleet was at war with the Dominion, they hid this discovery until a time when the galaxy was at peace. If the USS Discovery finds this technology, that will be the closest Star Trek has gotten to actually unveiling the true creator of humanity. As Roddenberry always intended, it wasn't some omniscient, supernatural being, but rather an advanced race of "people" who had technology indistinguishable from magic."
2024.05.16 14:28 Firm_Caramel1692 How do you choose with job/career option to go with when you are indecisive?
I am naturally a very indecisive person and I find myself in a bit of a situation now regarding my work options. Sorry this is long.
For a bit of a backstory, I (32F - living in a small tropical island)) have been working for a nearly 10 years now. I worked at Company A and it was great. I left after 6 years as they would not raise me. Joined Company B and it was a shitshow; i dealt with a lot of racism towards me and it ruined my self-esteem as a person and a designer for a long time. After a year, i went to Company C, thinking it was my big break as I would be a manager. Somehow, they ended up changing the scope of works without letting me know and expected me to go into Sales. I left and decided to start my own company and work freelance, which i was doing on an off while working full-time.
However, I had applied randomly for another job at Company D and they ended up making me an offer. I took it because it was one of the best and established companies here on the island and I needed to regain a bit of my designer confidence back. It was hustle culture as soon as i joined; no handing over of 4 main projects that i was expected to take over. I did it through migraines, tears, lots of unpaid overtime and stress. My mistake here was maybe not be vocal enough about how i was struggling.. As you can guess, my health suffered and I decided to resign from the job before i completed a full year although i loved the work itself and the experience was extremely valuable. Surprisingly, during my three months notice as per contract, i felt like i could handle the workload and stress much better and it made me rethink my decision.
Ultimately, I decided to leave nonetheless and was lucky to have 2 clients for whom i am working on a freelance basis currently. Now here am i, a month after having quit, working slowly as a freelancer. But, another Company E, contacted me since they have been wanting to work with me for a while now. My friend worked there for 5 years. He is also okay with me working part time at his but was very hot and cold during our conversations since February. My friend told me not to trust him but use him to my gain. So now i have the following options:
OPTION 1
Company D
Pros: Established firm since 25 years, high-end clients, great work experience, great colleagues. Having it on my Cv has already opened my networking.
OPTION 2
Company E
Pros: His company is 10 years old and he says he is ready to take it to the next level. I would be his right hand a bit to help him grow his business. Smaller company, less projects, projects are not so high-end so less time consuming, less stress overall.
OPTION 3
So I don't really know at this point. I have been thinking and thinking and thinking and I come up blank. I want to do it all and I don't want to do anything. So please, anyone if you can help, let me know your thoughts and advice!
submitted by Firm_Caramel1692 to careerguidance [link] [comments]
For a bit of a backstory, I (32F - living in a small tropical island)) have been working for a nearly 10 years now. I worked at Company A and it was great. I left after 6 years as they would not raise me. Joined Company B and it was a shitshow; i dealt with a lot of racism towards me and it ruined my self-esteem as a person and a designer for a long time. After a year, i went to Company C, thinking it was my big break as I would be a manager. Somehow, they ended up changing the scope of works without letting me know and expected me to go into Sales. I left and decided to start my own company and work freelance, which i was doing on an off while working full-time.
However, I had applied randomly for another job at Company D and they ended up making me an offer. I took it because it was one of the best and established companies here on the island and I needed to regain a bit of my designer confidence back. It was hustle culture as soon as i joined; no handing over of 4 main projects that i was expected to take over. I did it through migraines, tears, lots of unpaid overtime and stress. My mistake here was maybe not be vocal enough about how i was struggling.. As you can guess, my health suffered and I decided to resign from the job before i completed a full year although i loved the work itself and the experience was extremely valuable. Surprisingly, during my three months notice as per contract, i felt like i could handle the workload and stress much better and it made me rethink my decision.
Ultimately, I decided to leave nonetheless and was lucky to have 2 clients for whom i am working on a freelance basis currently. Now here am i, a month after having quit, working slowly as a freelancer. But, another Company E, contacted me since they have been wanting to work with me for a while now. My friend worked there for 5 years. He is also okay with me working part time at his but was very hot and cold during our conversations since February. My friend told me not to trust him but use him to my gain. So now i have the following options:
OPTION 1
Company D
- Go back and work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
- Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days
Pros: Established firm since 25 years, high-end clients, great work experience, great colleagues. Having it on my Cv has already opened my networking.
OPTION 2
Company E
- Work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
- Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days
Pros: His company is 10 years old and he says he is ready to take it to the next level. I would be his right hand a bit to help him grow his business. Smaller company, less projects, projects are not so high-end so less time consuming, less stress overall.
OPTION 3
- I keep working for myself for a while and see how it goes.
So I don't really know at this point. I have been thinking and thinking and thinking and I come up blank. I want to do it all and I don't want to do anything. So please, anyone if you can help, let me know your thoughts and advice!
2024.05.16 14:28 Diligent_Wheel_588 looking for an apartment, but my situation is a little different from others
 | Hiš My name is Omar... 23y old. I speak German and have a B1 certificate in German from Goethe-Institut .and also speak English very fluently ( have a university degree in English and translation Also, I am an officially licensed translator from the Iraqi Translators Association and have an official translatorās license) submitted by Diligent_Wheel_588 to Germany_Jobs [link] [comments] I work in the field of (heating, air conditioning, and plumbing). I have 6 years of experience in my field of work. and have experience certificates in my work and have an official plumberās identity from the Iraqi Federation of Trade Unions. you can say that I can do things in My work cannot be done by manyš , and this field has a huge shortage in Germany .so a German company in Munich sent me an Ausbildung contract . in my country in Iraq and I have completed everything and will travel to Germany (Munich) in september this year. I only need an apartment. Small apartment or shared accommodation in Munich In general, I am an educated and cultured person who loves history, economics, and philosophy. And open minded . This is the reason that drives me to leave my country and my work and leave everything. In Iraq, I own my own business and my own life. I have my own small company and there are 3 employees that work for me . I will leave all that and travel to Germany only because I am an open minded person and the society in which I live does not suit my ideas and the lifestyle that I want. My problem is that I am a person who thinks like any European citizen, but I was born on the wrong side of the planet!! If someone can help me with this matter or has shared housing or a small apartment in the Krailling area or within Munich itself, that would be very, very great and I would be very grateful to himš and iam a clean person, I love cleanliness, and calm. I will not disturb you or disturb the neighbors or disturb anyone.. I do not smoke, and do not have pets, and I will not ruin anything for you in the apartment. (I am the person who fixes things, not the one who ruins themš ).. and I am aware of responsibilities of liveing with others and I will not interfere in their lives or their personal belongings or anything.. In general, I am a social person and I will be a friend to everyone and.. I can promise you that I am one of the best persons who will live in your apartment or with youš In my country, our family owns a rented house and I manage it. ...So I know very well what problems can occur During the rental ! I know that I should search on real estate websites such as WG-Gesuch and others...but I prefer to communicate with the apartment owner directly because my situation is a little special. In case anyone is interested in me, I will be happy to send him anything he needs from me, from certificates to identity documents, my CV, or anything he needs from me, etc. I have a Facebook page on which I publish most of my work. I can send them to you so that you can get to know me more . or would like us to make a Video call, I have no objection to that my budget is 600ā¬ or something like thatš My email: omaralsheehk4@gmail.com WhatsApp:- +9647517328510 Thank you everyone š |
2024.05.16 14:27 giselleepisode234 How to Smell Good All day
As requested here are my tips on smelling good all day !
Personally I watched lots of hygiene videos and experinmented with different shower routines but I finally found something that works for me that I will list below!
Your soap is important! Purchase a soap for your skin type, normal, oily, acne prone, sensitive or dry. Try to keep it as natural as possible in terms of carrier oils and ingredients.
After soaking your body in the shower, gwt your body soap and Use exfoluating gloves/ washcloth to clean your body after massaging the soap and getting suds. Make sure that when you bathe you scrub all of the dirt off. Scrub behind the ears, neck, back, belly button, armpits, legs, calves, FEET AND TOES AS WELL AS IN BETWEEN THE TOES.
To clean the outside of your coochie please find a yoni soap that is a gentle PH balance and all natural. Before purchasing please do reseach prior to purchasing and use a WHITE WASHCLOTH.
Have different washcloths for your areas, body, coochie and butt.
For your butt use an anti bacterial soap. Irish spring works best but also Dettol or Savalon soap. (Original) I will link a video I watched as a guide.
When you are clean you get out of the shower and lightly dad your skin in the towel. Now here comes the fun part! Moisturizing!
Depending on your skin type, your needs for a lotion/ body butter will be different.
First apply body butte lotion (preferbly unscented but if you have a set like VS or BBW use that scented lotion or body butter
Apply body oil! This is the key to locking in moisture if you have dry skin/ very dry/ cracked skin. It softens the skin over time. If you want to try out a regular oil, jojoba oil is a sealant for all skin types.
For signiture scent you first put vasaline/ petrolleum jelly on your pressure points and spray your body mist/ perfume on the areas. Lightly make a mist and step into it.
For a touch up you can carry a travel sized bottle of the scent with you on the go and reapply the spray in the bathroom.
I hope these tips are helpful! I will link below the hygiene videos that made my routine imprive drastically.
~Giselle
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2024.05.16 14:27 ispeakdsp Awesome DSP Courses Coming up in June!!!
 | The early registration dates (with a significant price discount) are coming up for Dan Boschen's DSP Courses in June. Here's your chance to learn and understand DSP in a very intuitive way. Finally, it all makes sense!! submitted by ispeakdsp to DSP [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/ynge15r57s0d1.png?width=1040&format=png&auto=webp&s=2ebb2524fcd50353160860be9cdee54e3dfd5342 dsprelated.com/coursesDSP for Wireless Communications, register before June 5th to save!! ieeeboston.org/courses : DSP for Software Radio, register before May 30th to save!!! Here's what others are saying about Dan Boschen's courses: I have been using DSP for many years, so the theory on fundamental DSP concepts was mainly a refresher. The real value for me was introducing Python and Jupyter notebooks. I have been using Matlab for a long time but never made the jump to Python, until now. The course is very well organized with detailed notes and examples covering the DSP concepts, as well as installation instructions and code for Python and Jupyter notebooks. You will learn a lot about Python as well as DSP. Dan is an excellent instructor who answers questions patiently and competently. I went on to take his "Software Radio" and "Python for Digital Design and Signal Processing" courses as well. Ken Houston, Massachusetts I enjoyed taking Dan's "DSP for Wireless Communications" course on-line. Dan is clearly an expert with the material, and has planned, organized, and paced his presentation very well. He explained the tools as well as the theory, and had plenty of well-sized exercises to reinforce the material. I had a light-bulb moment when he explained the implementation of FFT. Highly recommended! Alan S, Massachusetts The 'DSP for Software Radio' course from Dan Boschen is unique in the industry. It is very comprehensive with five lectures of about three hours each, covering the most important aspects of SDR, together with their practical implementation. The lectures are presented by Dan Boschen, who is a practicing electronics engineer, not a theoretician. After each lecture, there is a workshop in small groups, where you get to speak with Dan, ask questions and receive answers with diagrams on a whiteboard. It is like in a classroom. We received training materials and most important Matlab, Octave and Python code to experiment and play with the concepts taught during the lectures and workshops with theoretical proofs of the implemented algorithms. There are video recordings of the workshops, for those who need more time to understand concepts and algorithms. There is nothing better than this. Dan has more courses, I took all of them. It is, by far, the best value for money. Nothing else comes even close. Dan Iordanescu, Electronics for Telecommunications Design Engineer |
2024.05.16 14:27 Timely-Worldliness-3 Iām starting to resent my ex after the fact and I hate it
If you want, you can see my previous very long post about our breakup for more details (this one will also probably be pretty long tbh). These are supposed to be writing exercises for my therapist. Everyoneās comments along with a few therapy sessions made me realize how one sided our relationship was. Iāve been in much longer and more committed relationships than this one, and had much worse breakups all things considered. But Iāve never felt like this. I know that grief isnāt a linear process. It comes in waves. However, Iāve always prided myself on being calm and collected even in the worst of times. I managed to hold it together pretty well when I lost my dad a year and a half ago, and worked through that in a healthy way. Why canāt I do that now? Itās been a month and a half. This should be so much smaller in the grand scheme of things.
I saw her yesterday at the grocery store, we were using self checkouts right next to each other. We ended up basically walking out together. I think she noticed me and just tried to pretend I didnāt exist. I immediately felt sick to my stomach, with this mix of deep sadness and anger. It took everything I had not to fall apart right then and there. I couldnāt eat dinner, and still managed to puke when I got home and then again in the middle of the night after waking up from a dream about us.
A realization that I had after my last post is how little she would compromise on things. A few of you that said that I was a doormat, and youāre right. I somehow let so many things slip that I shouldnāt have. It was her first serious relationship, she wasnāt used to having to compromise much. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She asked so much of me, maybe too much, and I gave to her maybe too freely. But the few times that I asked things of her, sheād almost always say no.
I wanted to watch Home Alone over Christmas. It was a tradition that I shared with my dad, some of my earliest memories are about that. I wanted to continue that tradition and I couldnāt bring myself to do it alone, so I asked her to watch it with me. I explained how important it was. She refused, time after time, every stay at home date we had between Thanksgiving and New Years. She went on rants about how traditions are stupid, and how she hates movies about kids (yet we watched the Harry Potter movies at her request, the first few are made by the same people that made Home Alone). Itās like she didnāt even hear me asking for support when I needed her, she only heard that I was asking her to put up with something she didnāt like for an hour and a half. On the other hand, I never said no to her.
This played out time and time again, in small and big ways. My mom was going to give us the money for our dream vacation to Ireland. All she wanted in return was a nice picture of us in front of something recognizably Irish, a castle or something. She was doing this incredibly nice thing for us, and just asked for that one thing. She just wanted to see me happy, traveling the world with the person I love, after having to give up the last 4 years of my life dealing with my dadās illness (along with losing all of my grandparents and 2 uncles in the same timeframe) But my ex didnāt like having her picture taken. She would put up with it for friends and family, but if I asked her? Never. We have 3 pictures together, all of which are shitty group photos with her friends. Canāt even tell we were a couple.
Then thereās the big thing that led to our breakup. She wanted me to anticipate her needs without her needing to say them. She hated when I asked how best to help her when she was struggling and overwhelmed, saying that I needed to show initiative. She talked a lot about āmental loadsā and such. I tried to support her as much as possible (often doing too much, as many of you said), but sometimes Iād miss the mark. Sheād get so frustrated with me, and weād sit down and talk things out. Sheād tell me all of these things she needed from me, and I genuinely put in so much effort trying to work on it.
The only thing that I asked for in return is if I missed the mark, to please guide me to what she needed. I did it all the time for her, she was honestly awful at supporting me. If I was venting, had a bad day, all sheād say was āIām sorryā, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. Not even a kiss or a hug. I had to show her how I needed support. I never got mad or frustrated, I recognized this was something we had to communicate about and it was my job to open that communication.
So when weād have those conversations about how she needed support, and she was asking all of these things of me that felt like mind reading, all I asked of her was to do what I did when she missed the mark. Just that one little thing to save our relationship. It was nothing compared to what she was asking from me, and it was for her own benefit. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldnāt bridge the gap on my own. I begged her time and time again. But instead of listening and guiding me to what she needed, she did the exact opposite. Full silent treatment at the very first text of support from me because she wanted something more/different.
That refusal to compromise ruined everything. I know anger is part of the stages of grief, but Iām just so angry all the time. I know you canāt tell based off of what was said here and in my other post, she is genuinely a great person. She didnāt do any of this maliciously. I donāt believe that sheās evil. But I canāt help but to look at all the work I put in vs all the work that she put in, after being told that I wasnāt doing enough while she was putting more effort into the relationship. Iām sorry, but I donāt see that effort from her. I donāt even know if Iām more angry at her or myself. Should have I been more proactive? Enforced stronger boundaries? Been more clear in what I needed from her? I donāt know. Maybe I am just a doormat. I just know that I hate feeling like this. I donāt want to be that guy thatās angry and bitter about their ex, and Iām terrified thatās exactly what Iām becoming.
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I saw her yesterday at the grocery store, we were using self checkouts right next to each other. We ended up basically walking out together. I think she noticed me and just tried to pretend I didnāt exist. I immediately felt sick to my stomach, with this mix of deep sadness and anger. It took everything I had not to fall apart right then and there. I couldnāt eat dinner, and still managed to puke when I got home and then again in the middle of the night after waking up from a dream about us.
A realization that I had after my last post is how little she would compromise on things. A few of you that said that I was a doormat, and youāre right. I somehow let so many things slip that I shouldnāt have. It was her first serious relationship, she wasnāt used to having to compromise much. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She asked so much of me, maybe too much, and I gave to her maybe too freely. But the few times that I asked things of her, sheād almost always say no.
I wanted to watch Home Alone over Christmas. It was a tradition that I shared with my dad, some of my earliest memories are about that. I wanted to continue that tradition and I couldnāt bring myself to do it alone, so I asked her to watch it with me. I explained how important it was. She refused, time after time, every stay at home date we had between Thanksgiving and New Years. She went on rants about how traditions are stupid, and how she hates movies about kids (yet we watched the Harry Potter movies at her request, the first few are made by the same people that made Home Alone). Itās like she didnāt even hear me asking for support when I needed her, she only heard that I was asking her to put up with something she didnāt like for an hour and a half. On the other hand, I never said no to her.
This played out time and time again, in small and big ways. My mom was going to give us the money for our dream vacation to Ireland. All she wanted in return was a nice picture of us in front of something recognizably Irish, a castle or something. She was doing this incredibly nice thing for us, and just asked for that one thing. She just wanted to see me happy, traveling the world with the person I love, after having to give up the last 4 years of my life dealing with my dadās illness (along with losing all of my grandparents and 2 uncles in the same timeframe) But my ex didnāt like having her picture taken. She would put up with it for friends and family, but if I asked her? Never. We have 3 pictures together, all of which are shitty group photos with her friends. Canāt even tell we were a couple.
Then thereās the big thing that led to our breakup. She wanted me to anticipate her needs without her needing to say them. She hated when I asked how best to help her when she was struggling and overwhelmed, saying that I needed to show initiative. She talked a lot about āmental loadsā and such. I tried to support her as much as possible (often doing too much, as many of you said), but sometimes Iād miss the mark. Sheād get so frustrated with me, and weād sit down and talk things out. Sheād tell me all of these things she needed from me, and I genuinely put in so much effort trying to work on it.
The only thing that I asked for in return is if I missed the mark, to please guide me to what she needed. I did it all the time for her, she was honestly awful at supporting me. If I was venting, had a bad day, all sheād say was āIām sorryā, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. Not even a kiss or a hug. I had to show her how I needed support. I never got mad or frustrated, I recognized this was something we had to communicate about and it was my job to open that communication.
So when weād have those conversations about how she needed support, and she was asking all of these things of me that felt like mind reading, all I asked of her was to do what I did when she missed the mark. Just that one little thing to save our relationship. It was nothing compared to what she was asking from me, and it was for her own benefit. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldnāt bridge the gap on my own. I begged her time and time again. But instead of listening and guiding me to what she needed, she did the exact opposite. Full silent treatment at the very first text of support from me because she wanted something more/different.
That refusal to compromise ruined everything. I know anger is part of the stages of grief, but Iām just so angry all the time. I know you canāt tell based off of what was said here and in my other post, she is genuinely a great person. She didnāt do any of this maliciously. I donāt believe that sheās evil. But I canāt help but to look at all the work I put in vs all the work that she put in, after being told that I wasnāt doing enough while she was putting more effort into the relationship. Iām sorry, but I donāt see that effort from her. I donāt even know if Iām more angry at her or myself. Should have I been more proactive? Enforced stronger boundaries? Been more clear in what I needed from her? I donāt know. Maybe I am just a doormat. I just know that I hate feeling like this. I donāt want to be that guy thatās angry and bitter about their ex, and Iām terrified thatās exactly what Iām becoming.
2024.05.16 14:27 rememberwerestardust Dude got my backpack stolen & blocked me everywhere
I (25f) went to LA and went on a date with this guy called Hunter Barnes (27m) who lives in LA. He took me to the mall and told me to leave my stuff in the car. I asked him if it was safe (Iām from Europe and it was my first time in the USA) and he said itās a secured mall parking lot (The Grove) so it was okay.
We come back and all my stuff is gone. This whole time this guy is absolutely useless: he stands around awkwardly on his phone while I am frantically looking around and crying because I just lost 2k of my stuff as well as my phones, memories, everything.
He then proceeds to tell me the most tonedeaf statement ever: āI wish you could see damage to my car because I had to fix something and then at least I could ask insurance to pay for all of it.ā Like, dude, I just lost all my stuff? I even had to ask him for a hug in all my panic.
Stupid me gave him a second chance and took him on another date. There, he was distant and weird and just overall acting unlikeable. I thought I did something wrong and tried kissing him, which felt awkward. He then ghosted me some days to end up telling me it would not work out between us.
My friends in LA asked if he was in on my stuff getting stolen and I too asked him this question. He became very very defensive and angry and blocked me everywhere.
Where do I go from here? Iām thinking of sending his parents a message about his treatment of me, I somehow need to find out if he would actually be āin on itā. I donāt know how to deal with this situation and losing all my stuff has been ruining me and my financial situation. Police doesnāt care.
Tldr: how can i deal with the situation of my backpack being stolen bc of the stupidity of some bumble guy
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We come back and all my stuff is gone. This whole time this guy is absolutely useless: he stands around awkwardly on his phone while I am frantically looking around and crying because I just lost 2k of my stuff as well as my phones, memories, everything.
He then proceeds to tell me the most tonedeaf statement ever: āI wish you could see damage to my car because I had to fix something and then at least I could ask insurance to pay for all of it.ā Like, dude, I just lost all my stuff? I even had to ask him for a hug in all my panic.
Stupid me gave him a second chance and took him on another date. There, he was distant and weird and just overall acting unlikeable. I thought I did something wrong and tried kissing him, which felt awkward. He then ghosted me some days to end up telling me it would not work out between us.
My friends in LA asked if he was in on my stuff getting stolen and I too asked him this question. He became very very defensive and angry and blocked me everywhere.
Where do I go from here? Iām thinking of sending his parents a message about his treatment of me, I somehow need to find out if he would actually be āin on itā. I donāt know how to deal with this situation and losing all my stuff has been ruining me and my financial situation. Police doesnāt care.
Tldr: how can i deal with the situation of my backpack being stolen bc of the stupidity of some bumble guy
2024.05.16 14:27 stvmotorsports01 The Clamp for Every Job: Steel Tube Clamp Guide
 | The unsung heroes of the workshop are steel tube clamps. For a variety of uses, these adaptable tools offer a safe and dependable solution to grip tubes and pipes. But it can be overwhelming to choose the Best steel tube clamp because there are so many options. With the help of this guide, you will be able to choose the ideal steel tube clamp for your upcoming project and make sense of the vast universe of them. submitted by stvmotorsports01 to u/stvmotorsports01 [link] [comments] Steel Tube Clamp Understanding Steel Tube Clamps Fundamentally, steel tube clamps are composed of sturdy steel and are intended to enclose a tube and securely keep it in place. To accommodate varying tube diameters and project requirements, they are available in an assortment of sizes and shapes. Here's a summary of some important components: Material: Steel is the best option because of its robustness and longevity. Nonetheless, certain clamps may have nylon or plastic parts for increased traction or resistance against corrosion. Clamp Body: This is the principal framework encircling the tube. Swivel, saddle, and U-shaped clamps are typical forms. Fastening Mechanism: The clamp encircles the tube tighter in this manner. Common alternatives include screws, nuts, and levers; some clamps have quick-release mechanisms. Mounting Points: For simple attachment to surfaces or other clamps, some clamps come with pre-drilled holes or slots. Choosing the Right Steel Tube Clamp: Now that you know the fundamentals, let's look at some things to think about while choosing your steel tube clamp: Tube Size: This is very important. Clamps are made to suit certain sizes of tubes. Make sure the clamp you select completely encloses the tube, leaving no room for expansion. Application:Are you making a railing, assembling furniture, or fastening pipes? Different clamping force and adjustability levels are needed for different applications. Weight Capacity: Think about the weight that the clamp must hold. Stronger applications are intended for heavier clamps. Environment: Will there be wetness or extreme weather where the clamp is exposed? If necessary, choose materials like stainless steel that are resistant to corrosion. Adjustability: Certain clamps have rotating or swiveling capabilities that allow the tube to be positioned more freely. Popular Steel Tube Clamp Types: Your selection process can be streamlined by having a basic awareness of the most prevalent types of steel tube clamps: U-Clamp: The most popular, with a straightforward U-shaped body and a bolt or screw for fastening. Excellent for simple uses. Saddle Clamp: is perfect for fastening pipes or tubes against flat surfaces since it wraps around the tube from one side. Swivel Clamp: It enables the tube within the clamp body to rotate 360 degrees, making it ideal for handrails or adjustable joints. Flange Clamp:It has a level base that allows the clamp to be mounted to a surface and provides extra stability for vertical supports. Double Clamp: joins two tubes at a 90-degree angle, making it ideal for corners and frame construction. Beyond the Basics: Although they encompass the most common varieties, customized steel tube clamps are offered for particular applications, such exhaust system muffler clamps or padded clamps for delicate tube protection. Tips and Tricks for Using Steel Tube Clamps: Use the right size clamp: A clamp that is too tight could harm the tube, while one that is too slack would undermine stability. Tighten clamps evenly: This keeps the tube from warping and guarantees a firm grip. Consider using inserts: Inserts made of rubber or plastic can improve grip and shield the tube from scratches. Inspect clamps regularly: Performance might be impacted by wear and tear over time. Replace any broken clamps for maximum security. Knowing the many kinds of steel tube clamps and how they work will help you choose the appropriate instrument with assurance and ensure a safe and effective project. Thus, keep in mind the strength and adaptability of steel tube clamps the next time you work on a project involving tubes or pipes! |
2024.05.16 14:26 Firm_Caramel1692 Having a hard time deciding which direction to go for work/career. Please help!
I am naturally a very indecisive person and I find myself in a bit of a situation now regarding my work options. Sorry this is long.
For a bit of a backstory, I (32F - living on an island)) have been working for a nearly 10 years now. I worked at Company A and it was great. I left after 6 years as they would not raise me. Joined Company B and it was a shitshow; i dealt with a lot of racism towards me and it ruined my self-esteem as a person and a designer for a long time. After a year, i went to Company C, thinking it was my big break as I would be a manager. Somehow, they ended up changing the scope of works without letting me know and expected me to go into Sales. I left and decided to start my own company and work freelance, which i was doing on an off while working full-time.
However, I had applied randomly for another job at Company D and they ended up making me an offer. I took it because it was one of the best and established companies here on the island and I needed to regain a bit of my designer confidence back. It was hustle culture as soon as i joined; no handing over of 4 main projects that i was expected to take over. I did it through migraines, tears, lots of unpaid overtime and stress. My mistake here was maybe not be vocal enough about how i was struggling.. As you can guess, my health suffered and I decided to resign from the job before i completed a full year although i loved the work itself and the experience was extremely valuable. Surprisingly, during my three months notice as per contract, i felt like i could handle the workload and stress much better and it made me rethink my decision.
Ultimately, I decided to leave nonetheless and was lucky to have 2 clients for whom i am working on a freelance basis currently. Now here am i, a month after having quit, working slowly as a freelancer. But, another Company E, contacted me since they have been wanting to work with me for a while now. My friend worked there for 5 years. He is also okay with me working part time at his but was very hot and cold during our conversations since February. My friend told me not to trust him but use him to my gain. So now i have the following options:
OPTION 1
Company D
Pros: Established firm since 25 years, high-end clients, great work experience, great colleagues. Having it on my Cv has already opened my networking.
OPTION 2
Company E
Pros: His company is 10 years old and he says he is ready to take it to the next level. I would be his right hand a bit to help him grow his business. Smaller company, less projects, projects are not so high-end so less time consuming, less stress overall.
OPTION 3
So I don't really know at this point. I have been thinking and thinking and thinking and I come up blank. I want to do it all and I don't want to do anything. So please, anyone if you can help, let me know your thoughts and advice!
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For a bit of a backstory, I (32F - living on an island)) have been working for a nearly 10 years now. I worked at Company A and it was great. I left after 6 years as they would not raise me. Joined Company B and it was a shitshow; i dealt with a lot of racism towards me and it ruined my self-esteem as a person and a designer for a long time. After a year, i went to Company C, thinking it was my big break as I would be a manager. Somehow, they ended up changing the scope of works without letting me know and expected me to go into Sales. I left and decided to start my own company and work freelance, which i was doing on an off while working full-time.
However, I had applied randomly for another job at Company D and they ended up making me an offer. I took it because it was one of the best and established companies here on the island and I needed to regain a bit of my designer confidence back. It was hustle culture as soon as i joined; no handing over of 4 main projects that i was expected to take over. I did it through migraines, tears, lots of unpaid overtime and stress. My mistake here was maybe not be vocal enough about how i was struggling.. As you can guess, my health suffered and I decided to resign from the job before i completed a full year although i loved the work itself and the experience was extremely valuable. Surprisingly, during my three months notice as per contract, i felt like i could handle the workload and stress much better and it made me rethink my decision.
Ultimately, I decided to leave nonetheless and was lucky to have 2 clients for whom i am working on a freelance basis currently. Now here am i, a month after having quit, working slowly as a freelancer. But, another Company E, contacted me since they have been wanting to work with me for a while now. My friend worked there for 5 years. He is also okay with me working part time at his but was very hot and cold during our conversations since February. My friend told me not to trust him but use him to my gain. So now i have the following options:
OPTION 1
Company D
- Go back and work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
- Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days
Pros: Established firm since 25 years, high-end clients, great work experience, great colleagues. Having it on my Cv has already opened my networking.
OPTION 2
Company E
- Work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
- Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days
Pros: His company is 10 years old and he says he is ready to take it to the next level. I would be his right hand a bit to help him grow his business. Smaller company, less projects, projects are not so high-end so less time consuming, less stress overall.
OPTION 3
- I keep working for myself for a while and see how it goes.
So I don't really know at this point. I have been thinking and thinking and thinking and I come up blank. I want to do it all and I don't want to do anything. So please, anyone if you can help, let me know your thoughts and advice!
2024.05.16 14:26 rememberwerestardust Dude got my backpack stolen & blocked me everywhere
I went to LA and went on a date with this guy called Hunter Barnes who lives in LA. He took me to the mall and told me to leave my stuff in the car. I asked him if it was safe (Iām from Europe and it was my first time in the USA) and he said itās a secured mall parking lot (The Grove) so it was okay.
We come back and all my stuff is gone. This whole time this guy is absolutely useless: he stands around awkwardly on his phone while I am frantically looking around and crying because I just lost 2k of my stuff as well as my phones, memories, everything.
He then proceeds to tell me the most tonedeaf statement ever: āI wish you could see damage to my car because I had to fix something and then at least I could ask insurance to pay for all of it.ā Like, dude, I just lost all my stuff? I even had to ask him for a hug in all my panic.
Stupid me gave him a second chance and took him on another date. There, he was distant and weird and just overall acting unlikeable. I thought I did something wrong and tried kissing him, which felt awkward. He then ghosted me some days to end up telling me it would not work out between us.
My friends in LA asked if he was in on my stuff getting stolen and I too asked him this question. He became very very defensive and angry and blocked me everywhere.
Where do I go from here? Iām thinking of sending his parents a message about his treatment of me, I somehow need to find out if he would actually be āin on itā. I donāt know how to deal with this situation and losing all my stuff has been ruining me and my financial situation. Police doesnāt care.
Tldr: how can i deal with the situation of my backpack being stolen bc of the stupidity of some bumble guy
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We come back and all my stuff is gone. This whole time this guy is absolutely useless: he stands around awkwardly on his phone while I am frantically looking around and crying because I just lost 2k of my stuff as well as my phones, memories, everything.
He then proceeds to tell me the most tonedeaf statement ever: āI wish you could see damage to my car because I had to fix something and then at least I could ask insurance to pay for all of it.ā Like, dude, I just lost all my stuff? I even had to ask him for a hug in all my panic.
Stupid me gave him a second chance and took him on another date. There, he was distant and weird and just overall acting unlikeable. I thought I did something wrong and tried kissing him, which felt awkward. He then ghosted me some days to end up telling me it would not work out between us.
My friends in LA asked if he was in on my stuff getting stolen and I too asked him this question. He became very very defensive and angry and blocked me everywhere.
Where do I go from here? Iām thinking of sending his parents a message about his treatment of me, I somehow need to find out if he would actually be āin on itā. I donāt know how to deal with this situation and losing all my stuff has been ruining me and my financial situation. Police doesnāt care.
Tldr: how can i deal with the situation of my backpack being stolen bc of the stupidity of some bumble guy
2024.05.16 14:26 StomachCrafty8228 AITAH for not attending my friend's birthday party?
I'm a 19-year-old woman, and I recently found myself in a dilemma when my friend, let's call her Emily, invited me to her birthday party. Emily had been talking about her birthday plans for weeks, and I knew she was excited to celebrate with all her friends.
However, when the day of the party arrived, I realized that I had a major exam the following day that I hadn't fully prepared for. I had been struggling with the material and knew that I needed to spend the evening studying to have any chance of doing well.
I debated whether to skip studying and attend Emily's party, but ultimately, I decided that my academic responsibilities had to come first. I texted Emily, explaining the situation and apologizing for not being able to make it to her party.
Emily was disappointed and upset, telling me that she had been looking forward to celebrating with me and that I was letting her down. She accused me of prioritizing school over our friendship and making excuses to avoid spending time with her.
I felt guilty for disappointing Emily, but I also knew that my education was important and that I couldn't afford to jeopardize my grades. Despite her protests, I spent the evening studying diligently, determined to do my best on the exam.
Now, I'm left wondering if I made the right decision by prioritizing my studies over attending Emily's birthday party. Am I the asshole for not making an effort to be there for my friend on her special day?
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However, when the day of the party arrived, I realized that I had a major exam the following day that I hadn't fully prepared for. I had been struggling with the material and knew that I needed to spend the evening studying to have any chance of doing well.
I debated whether to skip studying and attend Emily's party, but ultimately, I decided that my academic responsibilities had to come first. I texted Emily, explaining the situation and apologizing for not being able to make it to her party.
Emily was disappointed and upset, telling me that she had been looking forward to celebrating with me and that I was letting her down. She accused me of prioritizing school over our friendship and making excuses to avoid spending time with her.
I felt guilty for disappointing Emily, but I also knew that my education was important and that I couldn't afford to jeopardize my grades. Despite her protests, I spent the evening studying diligently, determined to do my best on the exam.
Now, I'm left wondering if I made the right decision by prioritizing my studies over attending Emily's birthday party. Am I the asshole for not making an effort to be there for my friend on her special day?
2024.05.16 14:24 Diligent_Wheel_588 looking for an apartment, but my situation is a little different from others
 | Hiš My name is Omar... 23y old. I speak German and have a B1 certificate in German from Goethe-Institut .and also speak English very fluently ( have a university degree in English and translation Also, I am an officially licensed translator from the Iraqi Translators Association and have an official translatorās license) submitted by Diligent_Wheel_588 to germany [link] [comments] I work in the field of (heating, air conditioning, and plumbing). I have 6 years of experience in my field of work. and have experience certificates in my work and have an official plumberās identity from the Iraqi Federation of Trade Unions. you can say that I can do things in My work cannot be done by manyš , and this field has a huge shortage in Germany .so a German company in Munich sent me an Ausbildung contract . in my country in Iraq and I have completed everything and will travel to Germany (Munich) in september this year. I only need an apartment. Small apartment or shared accommodation in Munich In general, I am an educated and cultured person who loves history, economics, and philosophy. And open minded . This is the reason that drives me to leave my country and my work and leave everything. In Iraq, I own my own business and my own life. I have my own small company and there are 3 employees that work for me . I will leave all that and travel to Germany only because I am an open minded person and the society in which I live does not suit my ideas and the lifestyle that I want. My problem is that I am a person who thinks like any European citizen, but I was born on the wrong side of the planet!! If someone can help me with this matter or has shared housing or a small apartment in the Krailling area or within Munich itself, that would be very, very great and I would be very grateful to himš and iam a clean person, I love cleanliness, and calm. I will not disturb you or disturb the neighbors or disturb anyone.. I do not smoke, and do not have pets, and I will not ruin anything for you in the apartment. (I am the person who fixes things, not the one who ruins themš ).. and I am aware of responsibilities of liveing with others and I will not interfere in their lives or their personal belongings or anything.. In general, I am a social person and I will be a friend to everyone and.. I can promise you that I am one of the best persons who will live in your apartment or with youš In my country, our family owns a rented house and I manage it. ...So I know very well what problems can occur During the rental ! I know that I should search on real estate websites such as WG-Gesuch and others...but I prefer to communicate with the apartment owner directly because my situation is a little special. In case anyone is interested in me, I will be happy to send him anything he needs from me, from certificates to identity documents, my CV, or anything he needs from me, etc. I have a Facebook page on which I publish most of my work. I can send them to you so that you can get to know me more . or would like us to make a Video call, I have no objection to that my budget is 600ā¬ or something like thatš My email: omaralsheehk4@gmail.com WhatsApp:- +9647517328510 Thank you everyone š |
2024.05.16 14:24 CrazyZealousideal806 I think I was a controlling abuser
Hi everyone
I am a 21 year old student who was in a 3 year relationship that ended abruptly two days ago.
Our relationship began in highschool and got off to a rocky start when everyone around me started gossiping about her cheating on her ex. I grew up in a household with a single mom who had been cheated on every single relationship. So I was deathly afraid of this happening to me. After months we came up with this agreement that weād update eachother on snapchat whenever we were apart. And because we missed eachother we would also call at night when we slept.
After all those years this turned into what I think was my crutch to keep my fears away. The snapchats turned away from occasional talking to full day surveillance. The calling turned into a necessity. Whenever I saw something that set alight my paranoia I got extremely combative. For example if she hadnt sent a snap in an hour from the other, i would become afraid and fully believe that there was something going on. This then turned into me saying things like āif you treat me like this I wont be able to continue our relationshipā. I now look at this and see that it is a threat of me leaving unless she did what i said. I saw it as me enforcing my boundaries and it seemed normal.
She also expected calls from me and would also get upset if I didnt update well, so I thought that this was just how we did things, every relationship had something weird or unhealthy they had to work on in my eyes. And i sought therapy in those two years but had extreme difficulties in finding a psychologist. So these issues remained.
A couple of days ago, while she had a hard week with college, she broke down about everything to a friends mom. Who then informed her parents. While we were discussing the distribution of chores around our appartement, we were living together for 2 years now, her parents stormed in and scolded me for being a controlling manipulator. The dad got very verbal and the mother said something akin to āi dont know how i havent seen that my daughter was so unhappy hereā. It blew me away, i never thought she was unhappy as we were having fun just the evening beforehand.
Now they keep her away from me and are blocking my number, telling her that my controlling behaviour outweighed any of the good i did. Like helping her out of cutting herself and abusing alcohol. They check her phone to see if she doesnt message me.
After they left I looked up if I was an abuser, and i can certainly see that i did things on the lists being unaware of what I was doing. I called helplines and spoke to as many people i could to help me and figured that i needed instant care. I will now have a team of psychiatrists and psychologists visit 3 times a week and will be admitted to a facility sometime in the future.
I do not want to be an abuser, and she wants to stay in contact but work on ourselves separately, i agree and i want to be better for myself. But i dont feel okay with them keeping her locked down like this.
Am I a lost cause? Did I lose the best person in my life?
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I am a 21 year old student who was in a 3 year relationship that ended abruptly two days ago.
Our relationship began in highschool and got off to a rocky start when everyone around me started gossiping about her cheating on her ex. I grew up in a household with a single mom who had been cheated on every single relationship. So I was deathly afraid of this happening to me. After months we came up with this agreement that weād update eachother on snapchat whenever we were apart. And because we missed eachother we would also call at night when we slept.
After all those years this turned into what I think was my crutch to keep my fears away. The snapchats turned away from occasional talking to full day surveillance. The calling turned into a necessity. Whenever I saw something that set alight my paranoia I got extremely combative. For example if she hadnt sent a snap in an hour from the other, i would become afraid and fully believe that there was something going on. This then turned into me saying things like āif you treat me like this I wont be able to continue our relationshipā. I now look at this and see that it is a threat of me leaving unless she did what i said. I saw it as me enforcing my boundaries and it seemed normal.
She also expected calls from me and would also get upset if I didnt update well, so I thought that this was just how we did things, every relationship had something weird or unhealthy they had to work on in my eyes. And i sought therapy in those two years but had extreme difficulties in finding a psychologist. So these issues remained.
A couple of days ago, while she had a hard week with college, she broke down about everything to a friends mom. Who then informed her parents. While we were discussing the distribution of chores around our appartement, we were living together for 2 years now, her parents stormed in and scolded me for being a controlling manipulator. The dad got very verbal and the mother said something akin to āi dont know how i havent seen that my daughter was so unhappy hereā. It blew me away, i never thought she was unhappy as we were having fun just the evening beforehand.
Now they keep her away from me and are blocking my number, telling her that my controlling behaviour outweighed any of the good i did. Like helping her out of cutting herself and abusing alcohol. They check her phone to see if she doesnt message me.
After they left I looked up if I was an abuser, and i can certainly see that i did things on the lists being unaware of what I was doing. I called helplines and spoke to as many people i could to help me and figured that i needed instant care. I will now have a team of psychiatrists and psychologists visit 3 times a week and will be admitted to a facility sometime in the future.
I do not want to be an abuser, and she wants to stay in contact but work on ourselves separately, i agree and i want to be better for myself. But i dont feel okay with them keeping her locked down like this.
Am I a lost cause? Did I lose the best person in my life?
2024.05.16 14:23 sippinonorphantears Mother's Day..
TL-DR: Got my wife a card for mother's day and she was unsatisfied/upset/disappointed because I didn't write in it myself.
A couple weeks before mother's day, I made sure to go out and pick out a card for mother's day. I stood there for 10 minutes picking out the perfect one, which had the right words that I truly resonated with. It was one of those higher quality cards too, and the message was spread out to both sides, so not really much room to write on.
In an effort to be as transparent as possible, my wife did let me know in the past that she likes and appreciates hand written notes/cards.
So with that being said, I understood that I was in fact not personally writing something in there and deemed it okay in that moment because well, the words on that card were truly how I felt, so in my male brain it made sense.
I'm not sure how relevant this next part is but again I will try to be transparent, I had also ordered a custom bouquet from a florist that I know she likes. It was supposed to be a surprise, but for some reason I can't recall at the moment, it came to light. She told me to not spend that much money and instead we'll get her mother the bouquet.
Looking back, she mentioned that the peonies (her favorite flowers) were about to bloom in our backyard. Which she mentioned after we had this conversation a SECOND time and not initially, making me think that now she was just 'grasping at straws' to justify being upset. So when she did bring this up finally, she basically said it was a hint for me to just pick and cut some of those peonies for her. Obviously it didn't occur to me in the moment to do that. I figured she was just saying it's okay, she'll just enjoy our own peonies, not realizing she wanted ME to get them. Also, I can't recall if they even bloomed at that point either..
I also tried to explain to her that in general, it isn't wise to just have certain expectations and think you're owed something in life, from anyone really. It just shows entitlement and honestly sets you up for disappointment. It wasn't my main point, but definitely good advice..
In speaking to a friend/co-worker, he has a different dynamic with his wife and she didn't really care that he didn't get her anything, just a verbal 'Happy Mother's Day'. I envy the fact that his wife didn't get upset over something like this. They're basically in the same stage in life, just a couple years old with an additional baby.
I feel as though gift giving is something EXTRA and shouldn't just be automatically expected because of a holiday and because you're spouses. I have no issues giving gifts at all, I frankly enjoy it, but I found it very immature and unreasonable for my wife to be so upset over this. It makes me feel like even though I went out of my way to do something nice, it wasn't appreciated because it wasn't EXACTLY what she wanted or how she wanted it.
Anyway, am I in the wrong here?? Or is she being unreasonable? We otherwise have a great marriage and love each other very much. It's been almost 3 years together and we probably 'fight' as much as a normal couple would. We're generally very happy with one another and have a precious little (almost) toddler.
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A couple weeks before mother's day, I made sure to go out and pick out a card for mother's day. I stood there for 10 minutes picking out the perfect one, which had the right words that I truly resonated with. It was one of those higher quality cards too, and the message was spread out to both sides, so not really much room to write on.
In an effort to be as transparent as possible, my wife did let me know in the past that she likes and appreciates hand written notes/cards.
So with that being said, I understood that I was in fact not personally writing something in there and deemed it okay in that moment because well, the words on that card were truly how I felt, so in my male brain it made sense.
I'm not sure how relevant this next part is but again I will try to be transparent, I had also ordered a custom bouquet from a florist that I know she likes. It was supposed to be a surprise, but for some reason I can't recall at the moment, it came to light. She told me to not spend that much money and instead we'll get her mother the bouquet.
Looking back, she mentioned that the peonies (her favorite flowers) were about to bloom in our backyard. Which she mentioned after we had this conversation a SECOND time and not initially, making me think that now she was just 'grasping at straws' to justify being upset. So when she did bring this up finally, she basically said it was a hint for me to just pick and cut some of those peonies for her. Obviously it didn't occur to me in the moment to do that. I figured she was just saying it's okay, she'll just enjoy our own peonies, not realizing she wanted ME to get them. Also, I can't recall if they even bloomed at that point either..
I also tried to explain to her that in general, it isn't wise to just have certain expectations and think you're owed something in life, from anyone really. It just shows entitlement and honestly sets you up for disappointment. It wasn't my main point, but definitely good advice..
In speaking to a friend/co-worker, he has a different dynamic with his wife and she didn't really care that he didn't get her anything, just a verbal 'Happy Mother's Day'. I envy the fact that his wife didn't get upset over something like this. They're basically in the same stage in life, just a couple years old with an additional baby.
I feel as though gift giving is something EXTRA and shouldn't just be automatically expected because of a holiday and because you're spouses. I have no issues giving gifts at all, I frankly enjoy it, but I found it very immature and unreasonable for my wife to be so upset over this. It makes me feel like even though I went out of my way to do something nice, it wasn't appreciated because it wasn't EXACTLY what she wanted or how she wanted it.
Anyway, am I in the wrong here?? Or is she being unreasonable? We otherwise have a great marriage and love each other very much. It's been almost 3 years together and we probably 'fight' as much as a normal couple would. We're generally very happy with one another and have a precious little (almost) toddler.
2024.05.16 14:22 clouddancer25 Not wishing a HBD
I just wanted to see if iām being petty or notš Itās one of my friends (A) bdays today and I lowkey forgot bc Iāve been so busy. So our other friend (B) texted me yesterday saying what should we get her, I told her iāll split a gift because I didnāt have time to go to the store. She told me sheās gonna go all out for the bday and get a giant gift basket and cake to surprise her tomorrow, now normally I wouldnāt be pettyā¦but my birthday was in March and A+B gave me a shared gift that had a elf lip gloss and dollar store candyš§āāļøIām not saying Iām totally ungrateful for the gift but itās not something I wouldāve preferred especially when they know what kind of stuff I like (plushies, snoopy, sanrio- and they didnāt give me anything like that, the gift was like a Random person gave it to me last minute). So I am a bit upset that friend B is going so full out for Friend A? Not to mention B also posted A on her story when neither of them did that for me on my bday so Iām likeā¦why should I do it for them like yah weāre friends but ???? Should I post something for her bday when I donāt want to just so J donāt look like a bad friend.
Idk It does make me sound petty but Iām very much a āif they donāt do it for you why should I do it for themā person. Please someone tell me what they thinkš
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Idk It does make me sound petty but Iām very much a āif they donāt do it for you why should I do it for themā person. Please someone tell me what they thinkš
2024.05.16 14:21 MistBlueMoon My anxiety and intrusive thoughts are running my friendship.
I struggle with OCD, hence why I struggle with intrusive thoughts, and a lot of my intrusive thoughts are related to sexual trauma, based on also suffering from c-ptsd, and rejection. Long story short, Im deciding whether to distance myself from my best friend. I have been best friends with this person through thick and thin over 10 years. They live out of town. Back home I began hanging out with a friend group. They were my support circle and only social group. They started to become very dismissive of me, would often lie, and ditch me for others in the group. Their talks also became graphically sexual which triggered my intrusive thoughts. I later on found out that most of them were basically sleeping with each over hence why they ditched me for one another. My best friend who began a sexual dynamic with one of the members told me the truth, I'll elaborate on that below.
Anyhow, my best friend who knew I had problems with this group did something that upsetted me greatly. So one friend from the group wanted to comfort them after they found out one of their partners broke up with them. Now this was still when I trusted the friend group back home. I already had my suspicions about them though, but thought I was over thinking things. So I gave him their number. I didn't want to but felt guilty for that. When he visited them out of town, they started a friendship and sexual relationship (Im not too sure if his own partner back home is fully aware of this.) My best friend has also expressed an interest in becoming a sexual partner to another one of the group members when they visit me later this year.
Im no longer friends with that group based on their treatment of me. Unfortunately my best friend friendship with that group and their desire to be in a sexual relationship with more of them is causing me intense intrusive thoughts and flashbacks of stuff I've seen and heard in the group. Now, every time my best friend contacts me I get those thoughts. I honestly don't know if this friendship is worth the anxiety and intrusive thoughts. I know they likely won't break off their sexual relationship with the group member, nor do I expect them too. Should I let this friendship go for my own sanity?
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Anyhow, my best friend who knew I had problems with this group did something that upsetted me greatly. So one friend from the group wanted to comfort them after they found out one of their partners broke up with them. Now this was still when I trusted the friend group back home. I already had my suspicions about them though, but thought I was over thinking things. So I gave him their number. I didn't want to but felt guilty for that. When he visited them out of town, they started a friendship and sexual relationship (Im not too sure if his own partner back home is fully aware of this.) My best friend has also expressed an interest in becoming a sexual partner to another one of the group members when they visit me later this year.
Im no longer friends with that group based on their treatment of me. Unfortunately my best friend friendship with that group and their desire to be in a sexual relationship with more of them is causing me intense intrusive thoughts and flashbacks of stuff I've seen and heard in the group. Now, every time my best friend contacts me I get those thoughts. I honestly don't know if this friendship is worth the anxiety and intrusive thoughts. I know they likely won't break off their sexual relationship with the group member, nor do I expect them too. Should I let this friendship go for my own sanity?
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2024.05.16 14:19 Longjumping-Leg1819 My personal opinion and perspective about Schizotypal F21.
These are my opinions regarding this condition and its functions from a subjective perspective, I will also share my personal experience.
Here are some opinions regarding this disorder, I've noticed that a lot of people on this community usually emphasize on the multiple symptoms they experience, while that it is fine in itself, the major issue that i also used to have is that.
By fixating on said symptom, you will essentially just complicate things even more, for example; A belief, magical belief.
I'm sure the majority of here has them, but the important thing is to acknowledge its impact and significance it plays in your life. You could have multiple unusual belief, paranoia ideas but if none of them will impact your life that severely, then it should best be ignored.
For example, a schizotypal man who believes in a supernatural force/entity/concept that will impact his life.t Thoughts, behaviors, interpersonal relationships, worldview. Some of his decision making, choices, and world view will include this element to the point it negatively affects his life.
I make this point to differentiate the degree in which the symptom operates, so just having unusual beliefs or interests, wouldn't necessarily be indicative of it, this point will also apply to "delusions."
Unusual belief and delusions can differ in term of severity and its impact on your daily life, a person with unusual belief will incorporate some of that belief in their decision making (If i do this, I won't get bad luck) it's not an occasional behavior, but a pervasive and consistent pattern, so when you eat, you do that, when you sleep, the pattern reoccur. But the severity differs in the sense that, the person won't let it dictate the majority of their behaviors and is still aware of its nature.
Where as in a delusion, the person is not, it's a constant and invisible belief, a person that suffers from a delusion will act as how they have always acted, they wouldn't notice a thing, any differences, no matter how absurd or irrational it may seem. A delusion about "Death" for example, would be noticeably more conspicuous (obvious), than a subtle belief.
For example, They could attend cementary on a daily basis out of fear that, if they do not perform this ritual, something or someone or somehow they will die. This is a very obvious pattern of behaviors, if you ask them, they'd tell you about it, no matter the reasoning, it makes sense for them.
On the other hand, A schizotypal belief can be argued against with logic and they won't follow through the same demanding process presence in a delusion, and they can ignore it, but different from a person with unusual belief in said concept is that, STPD will consciously avoid anything associated with it due to "magical reasons" on a consistent basis.
This is how i was able to differentiate between any symptoms of any disorder, it is fundamentally the severity and the pervasive, and the varying context it is present, and the effect it has on your life. Schizotypal can get better, by simply learn to ignore their belief depends on how "extreme" their belief is.
Another symptom of Schizotypal I've seen frequently discussed is the inability to make friends, this is a fairly common symptom which occurs in varying illnesses, not just schizotypal per see. But there's a subtle different. It's how STPD approach this behavior, thoughts, emotions and way of seeing the world.
Maybe you are unable to make friends because the inability to relate to others or you feel distant or you feel anxious, these are usually common issues regarding this, but the method toward improving this is to learn to understanding the underlying mechanism of this pattern and reasoning behind it.
Here's an example, if you find it hard to relate to others due to anxiety problem, even though schizotypal has anxiety symptom, it isn't as severe as actual and pathological anxiety disorder, in term of severity, a STPD would feel anxious but to a much lesser degree and may just be doubtful, so they won't profusely hyperventilate, sweat or stress as much, it's more in the line of "I don't like this" rather "I can't endure this".
This inability to form or maintain a healthy relationship is also found in depression but the differences between schizotypal is much more complicated and complex compared to depression, in depression it is usually a result of a lack of energy or desire to pursue that relationship, a lack of motivation but for Schizotypal it may be influenced by multiple interplaying factors to be considered; upbringing, mindset, beliefs, possibly anxiety and a tendency toward isolation or in rarer cases because of their unusual behaviors (Laughing randomly in a middle of a conversation). If their upbringing or experience was difficult or traumatic, they may develop an unusual approach toward relationship which makes it hard for others to relate to, or because of their belief which is so intensely in conflict with others, or due to their unusual behaviors that are too intense. All in the context of STPD.
"I can't relate because nobody understands me, nobody understands what i am like"
"I can't relate to you because we think too differently, and i find it hard to keep this going."
"You don't like me because I act weird, because i talk to myself? because i make weird noises?" Are three examples.
My personal opinion about this disorder is that medicine don't actually "fix" your problems, medicine can't change how you think, your past, and how you interacts with others, it can only lessen the degree of the symptoms but it will never change who you are, it can lessen your anxiety, but it can't lessen the fact that you don't like others. So the only way to change this is to change yourself, work on yourself and be aware of your problems.
Medicine can't make you like another person, nor can it make you stop, it can't make you stop acting this way, the only way is to do it yourself. Unless you're in a very unique circumstance where it prevents you from doing so, it's always good to seek help and work on it by understanding the underlying issue.
submitted by Longjumping-Leg1819 to Schizotypal [link] [comments]
Here are some opinions regarding this disorder, I've noticed that a lot of people on this community usually emphasize on the multiple symptoms they experience, while that it is fine in itself, the major issue that i also used to have is that.
By fixating on said symptom, you will essentially just complicate things even more, for example; A belief, magical belief.
I'm sure the majority of here has them, but the important thing is to acknowledge its impact and significance it plays in your life. You could have multiple unusual belief, paranoia ideas but if none of them will impact your life that severely, then it should best be ignored.
For example, a schizotypal man who believes in a supernatural force/entity/concept that will impact his life.t Thoughts, behaviors, interpersonal relationships, worldview. Some of his decision making, choices, and world view will include this element to the point it negatively affects his life.
I make this point to differentiate the degree in which the symptom operates, so just having unusual beliefs or interests, wouldn't necessarily be indicative of it, this point will also apply to "delusions."
Unusual belief and delusions can differ in term of severity and its impact on your daily life, a person with unusual belief will incorporate some of that belief in their decision making (If i do this, I won't get bad luck) it's not an occasional behavior, but a pervasive and consistent pattern, so when you eat, you do that, when you sleep, the pattern reoccur. But the severity differs in the sense that, the person won't let it dictate the majority of their behaviors and is still aware of its nature.
Where as in a delusion, the person is not, it's a constant and invisible belief, a person that suffers from a delusion will act as how they have always acted, they wouldn't notice a thing, any differences, no matter how absurd or irrational it may seem. A delusion about "Death" for example, would be noticeably more conspicuous (obvious), than a subtle belief.
For example, They could attend cementary on a daily basis out of fear that, if they do not perform this ritual, something or someone or somehow they will die. This is a very obvious pattern of behaviors, if you ask them, they'd tell you about it, no matter the reasoning, it makes sense for them.
On the other hand, A schizotypal belief can be argued against with logic and they won't follow through the same demanding process presence in a delusion, and they can ignore it, but different from a person with unusual belief in said concept is that, STPD will consciously avoid anything associated with it due to "magical reasons" on a consistent basis.
This is how i was able to differentiate between any symptoms of any disorder, it is fundamentally the severity and the pervasive, and the varying context it is present, and the effect it has on your life. Schizotypal can get better, by simply learn to ignore their belief depends on how "extreme" their belief is.
Another symptom of Schizotypal I've seen frequently discussed is the inability to make friends, this is a fairly common symptom which occurs in varying illnesses, not just schizotypal per see. But there's a subtle different. It's how STPD approach this behavior, thoughts, emotions and way of seeing the world.
Maybe you are unable to make friends because the inability to relate to others or you feel distant or you feel anxious, these are usually common issues regarding this, but the method toward improving this is to learn to understanding the underlying mechanism of this pattern and reasoning behind it.
Here's an example, if you find it hard to relate to others due to anxiety problem, even though schizotypal has anxiety symptom, it isn't as severe as actual and pathological anxiety disorder, in term of severity, a STPD would feel anxious but to a much lesser degree and may just be doubtful, so they won't profusely hyperventilate, sweat or stress as much, it's more in the line of "I don't like this" rather "I can't endure this".
This inability to form or maintain a healthy relationship is also found in depression but the differences between schizotypal is much more complicated and complex compared to depression, in depression it is usually a result of a lack of energy or desire to pursue that relationship, a lack of motivation but for Schizotypal it may be influenced by multiple interplaying factors to be considered; upbringing, mindset, beliefs, possibly anxiety and a tendency toward isolation or in rarer cases because of their unusual behaviors (Laughing randomly in a middle of a conversation). If their upbringing or experience was difficult or traumatic, they may develop an unusual approach toward relationship which makes it hard for others to relate to, or because of their belief which is so intensely in conflict with others, or due to their unusual behaviors that are too intense. All in the context of STPD.
"I can't relate because nobody understands me, nobody understands what i am like"
"I can't relate to you because we think too differently, and i find it hard to keep this going."
"You don't like me because I act weird, because i talk to myself? because i make weird noises?" Are three examples.
My personal opinion about this disorder is that medicine don't actually "fix" your problems, medicine can't change how you think, your past, and how you interacts with others, it can only lessen the degree of the symptoms but it will never change who you are, it can lessen your anxiety, but it can't lessen the fact that you don't like others. So the only way to change this is to change yourself, work on yourself and be aware of your problems.
Medicine can't make you like another person, nor can it make you stop, it can't make you stop acting this way, the only way is to do it yourself. Unless you're in a very unique circumstance where it prevents you from doing so, it's always good to seek help and work on it by understanding the underlying issue.
2024.05.16 14:19 Heavy_Illustrator852 UPDATE: My (37M) wife (35F)had a threesome with her best friend and husband years ago and they want to do it again. Now I donāt want them around us anymore.
After I posted I had a deeper conversation with my wife about her friends and expressed my discomfort about being around people that are lusting after my wife and fantasize about having sex with her in front of me. She said she understood how I felt but told me that there was absolutely nothing I should be concerned about. To my wife, her friend and her husband are not serious people. They are fun to be around but thatās it. She experimented with them in her early 20s but she was a different person then. She was very sexually adventurous in college and right after and did a lot of things sheād never think of doing now. She said sheās a 35 year old married mother of 2 with a serious career and she simply isnāt interest in behaving like that anymore. Not to mention that she is happily married and loves me.
While I understood all that and I do trust her. I told her that my point still stands. I am just not comfortable around them. My wife then asks if we could talk it out with her friends and if after that talk if Iām still uncomfortable then she will agree to whatever I am comfortable with.
So I agree and we meet last night at our house. They both apologize and swear to never bring it up again. But I can tell that neither think of this as a big deal and from their tone it seems like they think I am being overly sensitive. So I raise that point and they concede that they do think that I am being āsillyā. They tell me that the time they had with my wife was a very memorable experience that they wanted to experience it again and simply asked if my wife would be interested in participating with me or with my approval. They say that they would have been happy to allow me to participate in any way I liked but did admit that their biggest fantasy was to basically double team my wife while I watched.
But my wife had no interest, they confirm that she shut it down quickly. They brought it up later while they were drunk because they figured maybe I would have some interest and if I did I could convince her to do it.
My wifeās friend then says that once I let go of my inhibitions she guarantees that I would enjoy myself. How they think I would enjoy any experience that involves someone else fucking my wife, whether I am actively involved or not is beyond me. I am about to say this when my wife jumps in. She tells them that I will not be enjoying anything. She says sheās not 22 anymore and has babies asleep upstairs. She tells them that neither of us will be fucking anyone else and she thought she made that very clear.
It got a little awkward after that and they left shortly after. My wife hugged me when they left and said she was sorry for asking me to talk with them. That was not how she expected that to go. We talked a little more and she admitted that hearing their stories is a fun escape and even got flattered when they would tell her how much they loved being with her. But admitted that itās become a little too real and she could not stand the thought of watching me with someone else and understands how I feel. So we agreed to take a good long break from seeing them. My wife isnāt going to completely cut her best friend out of her life but we are going to manage how we see them. No more drinking, no more her alone with both of them in their home or ours. Shopping, lunch and similar activities is where she is going to keep the friendship and I can live with that.
ORIGINAL POST:
https://www.reddit.com/relationships/s/nfvDXxx0Dh
Iāve know this for a long time but when my wife was younger she had a few threesomes with her best friend and her husband (then boyfriend). This was years before we even met and she told me early in our relationship just so there would be no secrets.
Iāve never had a problem with my wife being around her best friend alone since the threesome didnāt involve much girl on girl but more sharing her boyfriend. And for that reason Iāve had trouble throughout our marriage being around both of them. I just have trouble having a normal conversation knowing that this guy has had sex with my wife.
My wife doesnāt think anything of it and is completely comfortable. Itās just something she did for a little while then stopped because she wasnāt into it anymore once the taboo thrill wore off. She can even talk about it with them as casually as she talks about a concert they went to. However she doesnāt do this when Iām around because she knows it makes me uncomfortable.
Anyway we were all together last weekend and her friend had gotten a little drunk and brought it up. My wife quickly shut her down but the impression I got was that there had been a lengthier conversation leading up to this that I didnāt know about.
Later on my wife told me that her friend and husband had asked if she and I were interested in doing something. They were down for whatever we were comfortable with. But my wife admitted that they really wanted her again but with me watching. My wife knows there is no way in hell I would be down for that and neither would she. My wife stopped doing that with them for a reason and thatās before she got married and had kids.
My wife has told me to just forget they said anything but holy shit how can I do that now? I swallowed being around them when these incidents were well in the past but now that they are openly lusting for my wife I donāt know if I feel comfortable with her or me being around them. Am I wrong here? How do I navigate this? I donāt want to tell my wife to break off her friendship but something I feel needs to be done.
TLDR: My wife had a threesome with her friend and husband and they want to do it again. Now I donāt want them around anymore.
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While I understood all that and I do trust her. I told her that my point still stands. I am just not comfortable around them. My wife then asks if we could talk it out with her friends and if after that talk if Iām still uncomfortable then she will agree to whatever I am comfortable with.
So I agree and we meet last night at our house. They both apologize and swear to never bring it up again. But I can tell that neither think of this as a big deal and from their tone it seems like they think I am being overly sensitive. So I raise that point and they concede that they do think that I am being āsillyā. They tell me that the time they had with my wife was a very memorable experience that they wanted to experience it again and simply asked if my wife would be interested in participating with me or with my approval. They say that they would have been happy to allow me to participate in any way I liked but did admit that their biggest fantasy was to basically double team my wife while I watched.
But my wife had no interest, they confirm that she shut it down quickly. They brought it up later while they were drunk because they figured maybe I would have some interest and if I did I could convince her to do it.
My wifeās friend then says that once I let go of my inhibitions she guarantees that I would enjoy myself. How they think I would enjoy any experience that involves someone else fucking my wife, whether I am actively involved or not is beyond me. I am about to say this when my wife jumps in. She tells them that I will not be enjoying anything. She says sheās not 22 anymore and has babies asleep upstairs. She tells them that neither of us will be fucking anyone else and she thought she made that very clear.
It got a little awkward after that and they left shortly after. My wife hugged me when they left and said she was sorry for asking me to talk with them. That was not how she expected that to go. We talked a little more and she admitted that hearing their stories is a fun escape and even got flattered when they would tell her how much they loved being with her. But admitted that itās become a little too real and she could not stand the thought of watching me with someone else and understands how I feel. So we agreed to take a good long break from seeing them. My wife isnāt going to completely cut her best friend out of her life but we are going to manage how we see them. No more drinking, no more her alone with both of them in their home or ours. Shopping, lunch and similar activities is where she is going to keep the friendship and I can live with that.
ORIGINAL POST:
https://www.reddit.com/relationships/s/nfvDXxx0Dh
Iāve know this for a long time but when my wife was younger she had a few threesomes with her best friend and her husband (then boyfriend). This was years before we even met and she told me early in our relationship just so there would be no secrets.
Iāve never had a problem with my wife being around her best friend alone since the threesome didnāt involve much girl on girl but more sharing her boyfriend. And for that reason Iāve had trouble throughout our marriage being around both of them. I just have trouble having a normal conversation knowing that this guy has had sex with my wife.
My wife doesnāt think anything of it and is completely comfortable. Itās just something she did for a little while then stopped because she wasnāt into it anymore once the taboo thrill wore off. She can even talk about it with them as casually as she talks about a concert they went to. However she doesnāt do this when Iām around because she knows it makes me uncomfortable.
Anyway we were all together last weekend and her friend had gotten a little drunk and brought it up. My wife quickly shut her down but the impression I got was that there had been a lengthier conversation leading up to this that I didnāt know about.
Later on my wife told me that her friend and husband had asked if she and I were interested in doing something. They were down for whatever we were comfortable with. But my wife admitted that they really wanted her again but with me watching. My wife knows there is no way in hell I would be down for that and neither would she. My wife stopped doing that with them for a reason and thatās before she got married and had kids.
My wife has told me to just forget they said anything but holy shit how can I do that now? I swallowed being around them when these incidents were well in the past but now that they are openly lusting for my wife I donāt know if I feel comfortable with her or me being around them. Am I wrong here? How do I navigate this? I donāt want to tell my wife to break off her friendship but something I feel needs to be done.
TLDR: My wife had a threesome with her friend and husband and they want to do it again. Now I donāt want them around anymore.