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2024.05.16 04:03 neotron97 Are support operators starting to get attitudes?
It’s amazing how support operators are starting to get attitudes being that they’re not even in this damn country to even know what the hell is going on
Here’s what happened get an S&D order OK just like every other order I go in and shop it. Some of the items are missing so I try to substitute for the customer and the customer reject both different substitutions that I added.
OK, being the nice person that I am. I sent them a picture of the both sections with the different selections were in the shelves. The thing I shouldn’t of done is been there more than 10 minutes waiting for a response asking them nicely with a smile what would you like as a substitution because they didn’t accept the ones that I replaced, I should’ve waited more than two minutes and said OK no substitution because the customer never answered when I sent them a response saying this is what I found no answer
One of the main things that i really fucking hate is why the fuck would you put substitutions on your goddamn order if you’re not gonna accept any might just well make the substitutes obsolete don’t put any.
Anyway, aside from that little situation, I continue on with the shop and went to the self check out and did the whole process of scanning the barcode got a cart check OK wham Bam thank you ma’am. I was out the door.
Before I left the door, I started chatting up the receipt checkers on the door and making some jokes. I walk out the door already smiling and laughing mind you without a care in the world of anything going wrong.
Then all of a sudden I get a vibration from my phone I figured OK customers texting or chatting back or it’s probably just another notification I get another message or notification saying you have a new offer you have certain time to accept. I look at my phone and say wait a minute.
Once you’re in order, you’re not supposed to be receiving any other offers right so I figured OK maybe it’s a glitch. Let me look and see what’s up. I open my phone up. I unlock it and guess what I don’t see the order anywhere inside because all I’m getting is notifications of offers popping up on my phone .
I say you gotta be kidding me right now because I know I’m not gonna get paid. Or I’m gonna get half pay so I’m like shiiiiiiit.
So what’s the next thing to do well obviously everybody knows Call support is exactly what I did so I called they answerd the phone and they asked me for my email address phone number and name go through the process of that and then I explain to the customer support at Spark which mind you has an Indian accent so obviously she’s not from this fucking country
Anyway, it doesn’t matter to me because obviously they’ve been taking so many damn phone calls probably been through the same situation so many damn times they know what’s going on right right
OK, I proceeded to explain hi I have a problem with my order. It was It was a shop and deliver order that I finished shopping.
When I was walking out the door when all of a sudden my order disappeared from the screen. I don’t know where to go or who I’m delivering to that’s basically what anybody would say right if that happens to them.
OK, she goes off and says the typical line. Oh I’m so sorry this unfortunate situation happened to you, but don’t worry I will help you to resolve it as soon as possible OK, I said thank you
So I was very certain , she knew exactly what to ask me right so this is a first question she asked me can you give me the name of the customer? I didn’t answer back because when I was looking at my screen, all I saw was new offers popping up so I started laughing and I couldn’t stop laughing because of the fucking question
Then the operator tells me there’s no reason for you to be laughing and I being the nice guy said I’m sorry, but I don’t know the name of my customer . I don’t know anything about it. Then she turns around and tells me you could’ve screenshot it. What you think my answer is gonna be
Once again me being a nice guy said I didn’t know this was gonna happen. That’s the reason I didn’t screenshot. Before I could finish saying screenshot the bitch put me on hold and she hung up.
Once she hung up, that’s when my true feelings came out in my head was bitch. Are you kidding me right now are we in high school? Did I hurt your fucking feelings? Are you not an adult for fucking sake just asking dumb ass question like that would get that kind of response you idiot , even though I told you, I didn’t know a damn thing about my order. What address or what name and you still ask the retarded question
Unfortunately, I didn’t get to say that to her because she hung up because I was being Mr. nice guy so then I proceeded to call Support again obviously I’m gonna get another operator. OK no problem. I hope I don’t get an idiot again
OK, the operator answered. We went to the same procedure phone number name and email blah blah blah. I explained to her my situation and guess what the first thing she asked this woman knew what the hell she was doing and mind you she also had an accent to show you that a simple problem like the one I was in is easily solvable , she asked me what’s the number of the store you were shopping at I gave her the number of my store and she pulled up the record of the order with a quickness. I’ve never experienced before.
OK, she proceeds to explain to me. Unfortunately the customer canceled the order because they were not satisfied with the substitutions that they were getting and obviously they didn’t have the item that they want it so no worries you won’t be affected in anyway and blah blah blah you know you guys all know what I’m talking about. I don’t have to explain that .
Oh, by the way, in the end, she did tell me you’re getting half pay which pissed me the fuck off but she’s not the one to lay onto because the customer decided to cancel the last minute anyway I was already pissed off. I was getting half pay so I let it be in regards to the items in my trunk
I took that shit back to Walmart
My question to everyone here is how would you respond?
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Here’s what happened get an S&D order OK just like every other order I go in and shop it. Some of the items are missing so I try to substitute for the customer and the customer reject both different substitutions that I added.
OK, being the nice person that I am. I sent them a picture of the both sections with the different selections were in the shelves. The thing I shouldn’t of done is been there more than 10 minutes waiting for a response asking them nicely with a smile what would you like as a substitution because they didn’t accept the ones that I replaced, I should’ve waited more than two minutes and said OK no substitution because the customer never answered when I sent them a response saying this is what I found no answer
One of the main things that i really fucking hate is why the fuck would you put substitutions on your goddamn order if you’re not gonna accept any might just well make the substitutes obsolete don’t put any.
Anyway, aside from that little situation, I continue on with the shop and went to the self check out and did the whole process of scanning the barcode got a cart check OK wham Bam thank you ma’am. I was out the door.
Before I left the door, I started chatting up the receipt checkers on the door and making some jokes. I walk out the door already smiling and laughing mind you without a care in the world of anything going wrong.
Then all of a sudden I get a vibration from my phone I figured OK customers texting or chatting back or it’s probably just another notification I get another message or notification saying you have a new offer you have certain time to accept. I look at my phone and say wait a minute.
Once you’re in order, you’re not supposed to be receiving any other offers right so I figured OK maybe it’s a glitch. Let me look and see what’s up. I open my phone up. I unlock it and guess what I don’t see the order anywhere inside because all I’m getting is notifications of offers popping up on my phone .
I say you gotta be kidding me right now because I know I’m not gonna get paid. Or I’m gonna get half pay so I’m like shiiiiiiit.
So what’s the next thing to do well obviously everybody knows Call support is exactly what I did so I called they answerd the phone and they asked me for my email address phone number and name go through the process of that and then I explain to the customer support at Spark which mind you has an Indian accent so obviously she’s not from this fucking country
Anyway, it doesn’t matter to me because obviously they’ve been taking so many damn phone calls probably been through the same situation so many damn times they know what’s going on right right
OK, I proceeded to explain hi I have a problem with my order. It was It was a shop and deliver order that I finished shopping.
When I was walking out the door when all of a sudden my order disappeared from the screen. I don’t know where to go or who I’m delivering to that’s basically what anybody would say right if that happens to them.
OK, she goes off and says the typical line. Oh I’m so sorry this unfortunate situation happened to you, but don’t worry I will help you to resolve it as soon as possible OK, I said thank you
So I was very certain , she knew exactly what to ask me right so this is a first question she asked me can you give me the name of the customer? I didn’t answer back because when I was looking at my screen, all I saw was new offers popping up so I started laughing and I couldn’t stop laughing because of the fucking question
Then the operator tells me there’s no reason for you to be laughing and I being the nice guy said I’m sorry, but I don’t know the name of my customer . I don’t know anything about it. Then she turns around and tells me you could’ve screenshot it. What you think my answer is gonna be
Once again me being a nice guy said I didn’t know this was gonna happen. That’s the reason I didn’t screenshot. Before I could finish saying screenshot the bitch put me on hold and she hung up.
Once she hung up, that’s when my true feelings came out in my head was bitch. Are you kidding me right now are we in high school? Did I hurt your fucking feelings? Are you not an adult for fucking sake just asking dumb ass question like that would get that kind of response you idiot , even though I told you, I didn’t know a damn thing about my order. What address or what name and you still ask the retarded question
Unfortunately, I didn’t get to say that to her because she hung up because I was being Mr. nice guy so then I proceeded to call Support again obviously I’m gonna get another operator. OK no problem. I hope I don’t get an idiot again
OK, the operator answered. We went to the same procedure phone number name and email blah blah blah. I explained to her my situation and guess what the first thing she asked this woman knew what the hell she was doing and mind you she also had an accent to show you that a simple problem like the one I was in is easily solvable , she asked me what’s the number of the store you were shopping at I gave her the number of my store and she pulled up the record of the order with a quickness. I’ve never experienced before.
OK, she proceeds to explain to me. Unfortunately the customer canceled the order because they were not satisfied with the substitutions that they were getting and obviously they didn’t have the item that they want it so no worries you won’t be affected in anyway and blah blah blah you know you guys all know what I’m talking about. I don’t have to explain that .
Oh, by the way, in the end, she did tell me you’re getting half pay which pissed me the fuck off but she’s not the one to lay onto because the customer decided to cancel the last minute anyway I was already pissed off. I was getting half pay so I let it be in regards to the items in my trunk
I took that shit back to Walmart
My question to everyone here is how would you respond?
2024.05.16 03:59 computer_salad Karen Read summary and analysis- first few weeks of trial.
I’ve been following this case pretty closely for almost a year now, but I haven’t had time to really watch the trial live (how are some of you watching every minute?!). I was looking for a post that was basically a run-down of the highlights and important revelations so far, but I haven’t really seen any, so I wrote one myself based on what I have been able to discern from the press coverage. Will you all tell me if I’m missing anything? I’m also gonna add some of my own analysis for discussion.
The “I hit him” testimony
A lot of people heard Karen say some version of “I hit him,” or “did I hit him?”, but the defense is doing a good job poking holes in their testimonies. It seems like a number of the people who claim she said “l hit him,” only recorded this several months later. Officer Saraf, for instance, only added the fact that KR said “I hit him” to his testimony several months later. Katie McLaughlin also agreed that her story had “evolved” since the original event. That particular witness was also interesting because she initially claimed to have no relationship with Caitlin Albert, which was later proven to be untrue; Katie McLaughlin was, as photos showed, quite close with Caitlin Albert at one point, which prompted the defense to acccuse McLaughin of perjuring herself. Firefighter Anthony Flematti also claimed Karen Read said “I hit him” but apparently never told anyone this, which was readily highlighted by the defense.
Of the people who testified that Karen Read said she hit O’Keefe, the only person who didn’t get absolutely obliterated by the defense seems to be Timothy Nuttall, although the defense made it clear that his memory of the day was pretty faulty as well.Lots of people heard her say different things: Stephen Mulanney testified that he heard her saying “Is he dead,” “that’s my boyfriend;” Jason Becker testified that he heard Read say “did i hit him?” And Matthew Kelly even said he explicitly did not hear Read say “I hit him” repeatedly.
Honestly, I’m not sure it matters whether or not Karen Read said “I hit him,” or “did I hit him?” It’s clear that she was worried about her own responsibility in the matter, which seems…. Not great but possibly innocuous? She was obviously insanely drunk the night before, and hangxiety/hangover guilt is famously a terrible combination with tragedy. I know I tend to assume the worst when I wake up after a night of heavy drinking. Even when I haven’t been drinking, I tend to blame myself when things go wrong. And I think it’s kind of telling that It doesn’t seem like any of these witnesses really thought that she had a clear, certain memory of hitting him. Except, that is, the officer in the McLaughlin testimony, who I guess summoned a sergeant when he heard her say this.
Anyway, most of this is stuff we already knew. We already knew she expressed that she felt guilty at the scene, and we already knew
The Sloppy Crime Scene & Responding Police Officers
Responding officers were super, uhh, carless when it came to the crime scene. They used solo cups to store the frozen blood found at the scene, which eventually led the blood to dry up. And they used a leaf blower to scan the scene for evidence, which somehow didn’t turn up any broken tail light. Basically, this testimony showed us that it was a super haphazard crime scene that could easily have been tampered with, and that there just wasn’t much care put into the storage and collection of evidence. This is important, because it sets the stage for the defense to say that forensic evidence from the scene cannot be trusted. Paul Gallagher admitted that “nothign about the scene was standard” and that he had never processed a crime scene in the snow before, which led them to improvise in a number of ways.
The other thing we got from these officer- witnesses was that Michael Lank, the canton police lieutenant who responded to the scene, had once been in a physical altercation in order to defend Chris Albert. For the defense, this is relevant because it shows not just the deep ties, but also the extent to which this group of people will go to cover up for their own. And the fact that this tight-knit circle are brutish and violent.
The Bartender
The testimony from the Waterfall bartender appeared to be marginally important. She confirmed that the Alberts were important, powerful people in the town, and that everyone knew who they were. She also said that nobody in the party appeared to be intoxicated.
Brian Albert getting rid of his phone
Brian Albert’s testimony basically just stuck to the party line. The phone thing, though, did remind me of how nuts it is that he got rid of his phone, and I’m assuming it’s not the last we’ll hear of it. I guess we already knew that he got rid of his phone right as it was supposed to be subpoenae’d, but it was still kind of crazy to hear him try to explain away that he got rid of it a single day before he received the order. He basically claimed that he was due for an upgrade so he traded it in. But he and Higgins both happened to destroy their phones right before they were subpoenae’d, which isn’t not suspicious.
Julie Nagel and the Black Blob
Julie Nagel, friend of 23y/o Brian Albert Jr, was inside the house that night. She testified that “I did notice ... something out of the ordinary, like a black blob in the ground by the flagpole,” as she was leaving. The defense didn’t like this, because it refutes the idea that JO was only placed on the lawn later. And they cast doubt on this testimony during the cross examination by pointing out that if she actually saw a body, she would have responded really differently. They also pointed out that she never really mentioned this until now.
The Ryan Nagel & co testimony
Ryan Nagel is Julie Nagel’s brother, who came to pick up his sister right around the time that Karen Read arrived, and left right as she was leaving. He never actually picked up his sister, because she ultimately wanted to stay.
Basically, he and the other people in his car said they saw Karen Read arrive at 34 fairview road. His sister came out to talk, at which point he was focused on his sister. He said he did not observe anyone enter the house, but the cross-examination made clear that this could have happened while he was talking to his sister. When he looked up, he saw the SUV brake lights come on, as if to start driving away. As he pulled up and drove past this car, he saw someone that fit Karen Read’s description in the driver’s seat, alone. He did not observe any damage to the vehicle.
This testimony is important, because this witness saw KR arriving and being alone in her car, which means JO would have left the vehicle at that point. It seems like it could be good for the defense, because he’s saying that she was alone in her car, and that he didn’t see JO outside, which could mean that he was inside. He also said her car didn’t have any visible damage. And it seems like he was a decently observant witness. But it also could just mean that JO’s exit from the vehicle was as unremarkable as his death, which would explain why nobody saw him.
Allison McCabe
Jen McCabe’s daughter, who claims she picked up Colin Albert that night. She testified that she arrived to pick him up at 12:10 or so, and she shows a screenshot of text messages to prove it. The Free Karen Read crowd thinks these are doctored, and I admit the screenshot looks really weird. There are some rumors floating around somewhere that there’s cell phone data that proves he was in the house much later than that, but I haven’t seen it. I also think the hyper focus on Colin Albert is weird, because it seems to me like a million different people could have ben responsible for JO’s death.
The Veterinarian Specialist
Testified that no dog DNA was found on swabs of John O’Keefe, but they did find pig DNA. Jackson’s cross exam reminded the jury that the collection of evidence was highly improper. The vet did concede that the pig DNA could have come from a dog treat.
Thoughts?
I’m hearing a lot of people characterizing this as a bloodbath, but honestly I don’t feel like anything so far has been, like, a crazy bombshell for either side. I would imagine there will be some during the defense’s turn to call up witnesses. Apparently that’s when trials tend to get juicy.
I also don’t really understand why the defense is so obsessed with the Colin Albert story. It seems like it could be easily disproven and then their whole theory falls apart. If I were in charge of Karen Read’s defense, I’d lean into the possibility that there are a million ways John O’Keefe could have died that don’t involve Karen Read. Maybe he slipped on the ice, hit his head, cut himself on his broken glass while he was trying to get up, and crawled quietly to the middle of the lawn where he was too incapacitated to call for help. Maybe he passed out in the gutter and someone else hit him— it seems like a ton of drunk people were coming and going, after all. And hit and runs are super common! Or, if we are to believe that John O’Keefe and Brian Higgins had a common romantic interest in Karen Read, couldn’t Brian Higgins have been equally likely— and have more motive— to bludgeon John O’Keefe? Honestly all those guys seem like the type to get angry and end up in a bar fight.
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The “I hit him” testimony
A lot of people heard Karen say some version of “I hit him,” or “did I hit him?”, but the defense is doing a good job poking holes in their testimonies. It seems like a number of the people who claim she said “l hit him,” only recorded this several months later. Officer Saraf, for instance, only added the fact that KR said “I hit him” to his testimony several months later. Katie McLaughlin also agreed that her story had “evolved” since the original event. That particular witness was also interesting because she initially claimed to have no relationship with Caitlin Albert, which was later proven to be untrue; Katie McLaughlin was, as photos showed, quite close with Caitlin Albert at one point, which prompted the defense to acccuse McLaughin of perjuring herself. Firefighter Anthony Flematti also claimed Karen Read said “I hit him” but apparently never told anyone this, which was readily highlighted by the defense.
Of the people who testified that Karen Read said she hit O’Keefe, the only person who didn’t get absolutely obliterated by the defense seems to be Timothy Nuttall, although the defense made it clear that his memory of the day was pretty faulty as well.Lots of people heard her say different things: Stephen Mulanney testified that he heard her saying “Is he dead,” “that’s my boyfriend;” Jason Becker testified that he heard Read say “did i hit him?” And Matthew Kelly even said he explicitly did not hear Read say “I hit him” repeatedly.
Honestly, I’m not sure it matters whether or not Karen Read said “I hit him,” or “did I hit him?” It’s clear that she was worried about her own responsibility in the matter, which seems…. Not great but possibly innocuous? She was obviously insanely drunk the night before, and hangxiety/hangover guilt is famously a terrible combination with tragedy. I know I tend to assume the worst when I wake up after a night of heavy drinking. Even when I haven’t been drinking, I tend to blame myself when things go wrong. And I think it’s kind of telling that It doesn’t seem like any of these witnesses really thought that she had a clear, certain memory of hitting him. Except, that is, the officer in the McLaughlin testimony, who I guess summoned a sergeant when he heard her say this.
Anyway, most of this is stuff we already knew. We already knew she expressed that she felt guilty at the scene, and we already knew
The Sloppy Crime Scene & Responding Police Officers
Responding officers were super, uhh, carless when it came to the crime scene. They used solo cups to store the frozen blood found at the scene, which eventually led the blood to dry up. And they used a leaf blower to scan the scene for evidence, which somehow didn’t turn up any broken tail light. Basically, this testimony showed us that it was a super haphazard crime scene that could easily have been tampered with, and that there just wasn’t much care put into the storage and collection of evidence. This is important, because it sets the stage for the defense to say that forensic evidence from the scene cannot be trusted. Paul Gallagher admitted that “nothign about the scene was standard” and that he had never processed a crime scene in the snow before, which led them to improvise in a number of ways.
The other thing we got from these officer- witnesses was that Michael Lank, the canton police lieutenant who responded to the scene, had once been in a physical altercation in order to defend Chris Albert. For the defense, this is relevant because it shows not just the deep ties, but also the extent to which this group of people will go to cover up for their own. And the fact that this tight-knit circle are brutish and violent.
The Bartender
The testimony from the Waterfall bartender appeared to be marginally important. She confirmed that the Alberts were important, powerful people in the town, and that everyone knew who they were. She also said that nobody in the party appeared to be intoxicated.
Brian Albert getting rid of his phone
Brian Albert’s testimony basically just stuck to the party line. The phone thing, though, did remind me of how nuts it is that he got rid of his phone, and I’m assuming it’s not the last we’ll hear of it. I guess we already knew that he got rid of his phone right as it was supposed to be subpoenae’d, but it was still kind of crazy to hear him try to explain away that he got rid of it a single day before he received the order. He basically claimed that he was due for an upgrade so he traded it in. But he and Higgins both happened to destroy their phones right before they were subpoenae’d, which isn’t not suspicious.
Julie Nagel and the Black Blob
Julie Nagel, friend of 23y/o Brian Albert Jr, was inside the house that night. She testified that “I did notice ... something out of the ordinary, like a black blob in the ground by the flagpole,” as she was leaving. The defense didn’t like this, because it refutes the idea that JO was only placed on the lawn later. And they cast doubt on this testimony during the cross examination by pointing out that if she actually saw a body, she would have responded really differently. They also pointed out that she never really mentioned this until now.
The Ryan Nagel & co testimony
Ryan Nagel is Julie Nagel’s brother, who came to pick up his sister right around the time that Karen Read arrived, and left right as she was leaving. He never actually picked up his sister, because she ultimately wanted to stay.
Basically, he and the other people in his car said they saw Karen Read arrive at 34 fairview road. His sister came out to talk, at which point he was focused on his sister. He said he did not observe anyone enter the house, but the cross-examination made clear that this could have happened while he was talking to his sister. When he looked up, he saw the SUV brake lights come on, as if to start driving away. As he pulled up and drove past this car, he saw someone that fit Karen Read’s description in the driver’s seat, alone. He did not observe any damage to the vehicle.
This testimony is important, because this witness saw KR arriving and being alone in her car, which means JO would have left the vehicle at that point. It seems like it could be good for the defense, because he’s saying that she was alone in her car, and that he didn’t see JO outside, which could mean that he was inside. He also said her car didn’t have any visible damage. And it seems like he was a decently observant witness. But it also could just mean that JO’s exit from the vehicle was as unremarkable as his death, which would explain why nobody saw him.
Allison McCabe
Jen McCabe’s daughter, who claims she picked up Colin Albert that night. She testified that she arrived to pick him up at 12:10 or so, and she shows a screenshot of text messages to prove it. The Free Karen Read crowd thinks these are doctored, and I admit the screenshot looks really weird. There are some rumors floating around somewhere that there’s cell phone data that proves he was in the house much later than that, but I haven’t seen it. I also think the hyper focus on Colin Albert is weird, because it seems to me like a million different people could have ben responsible for JO’s death.
The Veterinarian Specialist
Testified that no dog DNA was found on swabs of John O’Keefe, but they did find pig DNA. Jackson’s cross exam reminded the jury that the collection of evidence was highly improper. The vet did concede that the pig DNA could have come from a dog treat.
Thoughts?
I’m hearing a lot of people characterizing this as a bloodbath, but honestly I don’t feel like anything so far has been, like, a crazy bombshell for either side. I would imagine there will be some during the defense’s turn to call up witnesses. Apparently that’s when trials tend to get juicy.
I also don’t really understand why the defense is so obsessed with the Colin Albert story. It seems like it could be easily disproven and then their whole theory falls apart. If I were in charge of Karen Read’s defense, I’d lean into the possibility that there are a million ways John O’Keefe could have died that don’t involve Karen Read. Maybe he slipped on the ice, hit his head, cut himself on his broken glass while he was trying to get up, and crawled quietly to the middle of the lawn where he was too incapacitated to call for help. Maybe he passed out in the gutter and someone else hit him— it seems like a ton of drunk people were coming and going, after all. And hit and runs are super common! Or, if we are to believe that John O’Keefe and Brian Higgins had a common romantic interest in Karen Read, couldn’t Brian Higgins have been equally likely— and have more motive— to bludgeon John O’Keefe? Honestly all those guys seem like the type to get angry and end up in a bar fight.
2024.05.16 03:53 Maleficent_Try_4450 This is a dumb post but opinions?
It’s been 6 months post BU. I’m the dumpee, and have been having an extremely hard time getting past this, and I mean it still hurts, bad. We were together 4.5 years and it ended abruptly and bad. And of course my dumbass begged and pleaded. Yes, desperate and cringey I know. He decided to enforce no contact. I have bpd. So just snipping the cord unfortunately isn’t as easy as it is for the majority of yall.
Anyways, this man doesn’t respond to me. No matter what. But I’ve asked him countless times to block me because there’s times I’m so low in my depression and feelings I’ll send some sort of “I miss you text” or a question unrelated to the relationship. Always met with silence. He knows it hurts me more not to be blocked, but yet won’t just do it. It’s not like he needs an open line of communication.
Is he doing this solely because he knows it hurts me??
I know it’s hard to say with not having all the details, but just looking for opinions from a dumpers perspective that had to force NC.
thanks in advance guys.
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Anyways, this man doesn’t respond to me. No matter what. But I’ve asked him countless times to block me because there’s times I’m so low in my depression and feelings I’ll send some sort of “I miss you text” or a question unrelated to the relationship. Always met with silence. He knows it hurts me more not to be blocked, but yet won’t just do it. It’s not like he needs an open line of communication.
Is he doing this solely because he knows it hurts me??
I know it’s hard to say with not having all the details, but just looking for opinions from a dumpers perspective that had to force NC.
thanks in advance guys.
2024.05.16 03:47 Fenrir___ Which course of action for a refund of materials/services?
Hi all,
This is a long one so I do apologise.
Let's start off with some context. Some 6 months ago I signed with a registered builder to install my shed (as is required under our council regulations based on the price of the shed). Upon signing, we were advised once the team arrived on site, it would be a 2 - 3 day job to completion.
We waited some 3 months where we were told that they were flat out at the moment and that the team assigned to us was just finishing off another job. By mid-Feb we finally met our 'team'. The building company were so flat out that they'd started using subcontractors to keep up with their workload.
The team we got was a man named Bill (let's say). Throughout the course of our shed 6 also brought in 3 other guys at different times for varying lengths of time. It all seemed very adhoc. This brings us to the last few weeks. 3 months on since installation began, and the shed still wasn't finished. It got to the point where Bill was ducking the calls of the registered builder and being very non-committal with us--we could never lock down dates to get it completed and there was always a new problem that cropped up. The registered builder showed up at our place yesterday with 2 other guys, and they went over the entire shed top to bottom and fixed so much. Replaced damaged sheets, replaced a damaged PA door and frame, added missing bolts, and re-layered the roof sheets to make it waterproof proof--what should have been done the first time. The builder has been nothing but apologetic and has been incredibly embarrassed by the work of Bill. We're now happy with the state of the shed itself.
This brings us to what I really wanted to ask about. At the start of March, I was talking with Bill while he was on site and I had mentioned in passing that we'd need to sort out windows at some point as they weren't included in our shed kit (nothing to do with the registered builder, we engaged them for installation only). Bill said he'd be happy to order them in and install them for us (note: this was between him and I, separate from the registered builder). He later got back to us saying the windows had a 6 week lead time on them, but that he had to pay for them in full when ordering them, and so issued us with an invoice. I know, I know. We've already learnt our lesson, but we were just so excited at the prospect of the shed finally going up, and we believed him when it was presented that he was giving us a good deal.
We were issued with two invoices: invoice 1 had the order of the windows, plus delivery, plus some $100 worth of gutter hardware pieces, and came to $1,700, and invoice 2 just had a $400 installation fee. We paid invoice 1 via bank transfer. But that wasn't even the problem at the time. Over the next 8 weeks, I followed up with him a few times for the ETA of the windows and I never got much out of him, until he texted me at the beginning of May saying that they'd been stolen off the back of his truck, and that re-ordering them was going to be another 12 weeks. By now, we're well and truly fed up.
I texted him requesting a refund on invoice 1 and a cancellation of services because waiting 20 weeks for windows to be installed is not what we paid for, and we do not deem that reasonable. We're so demoralised by the poor quality of Bill's work on the rest of the shed that we just want to wipe our hands of him. The registered builder even offered to order the windows (only a 6 week lead time, mind you) and install them free of charge because he's embarrassed for having engaged Bill to do the works. Upon my request for a refund, he never responded to my request and instead skirted it by saying that he'll advise when the windows arrive and we can pick them up and end our dealings with him. Except we've also found out when the registered builder ordered the windows that they only cost $950. So we're still not satisfied with having paid $1,700--for what?? I also requested copies of the invoices he paid to the manufacturer to order the windows (both times), and he has refused, so we don't have evidence that they were even ordered the first time.
So I ask, where can I take this from here? Almost all of our communication with him (especially relating to the windows) has been via text, and so I have it all documented. We want a refund on invoice 1 and a cancellation of all further services from him. Do we lodge a Consumer Protection Complaint? Contact a small claims lawyer? Never had to resort to any of these options before.
Thanks for your time if you've made it this far, if I've missed anything out or if any further information would be beneficial, please ask. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
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This is a long one so I do apologise.
Let's start off with some context. Some 6 months ago I signed with a registered builder to install my shed (as is required under our council regulations based on the price of the shed). Upon signing, we were advised once the team arrived on site, it would be a 2 - 3 day job to completion.
We waited some 3 months where we were told that they were flat out at the moment and that the team assigned to us was just finishing off another job. By mid-Feb we finally met our 'team'. The building company were so flat out that they'd started using subcontractors to keep up with their workload.
The team we got was a man named Bill (let's say). Throughout the course of our shed 6 also brought in 3 other guys at different times for varying lengths of time. It all seemed very adhoc. This brings us to the last few weeks. 3 months on since installation began, and the shed still wasn't finished. It got to the point where Bill was ducking the calls of the registered builder and being very non-committal with us--we could never lock down dates to get it completed and there was always a new problem that cropped up. The registered builder showed up at our place yesterday with 2 other guys, and they went over the entire shed top to bottom and fixed so much. Replaced damaged sheets, replaced a damaged PA door and frame, added missing bolts, and re-layered the roof sheets to make it waterproof proof--what should have been done the first time. The builder has been nothing but apologetic and has been incredibly embarrassed by the work of Bill. We're now happy with the state of the shed itself.
This brings us to what I really wanted to ask about. At the start of March, I was talking with Bill while he was on site and I had mentioned in passing that we'd need to sort out windows at some point as they weren't included in our shed kit (nothing to do with the registered builder, we engaged them for installation only). Bill said he'd be happy to order them in and install them for us (note: this was between him and I, separate from the registered builder). He later got back to us saying the windows had a 6 week lead time on them, but that he had to pay for them in full when ordering them, and so issued us with an invoice. I know, I know. We've already learnt our lesson, but we were just so excited at the prospect of the shed finally going up, and we believed him when it was presented that he was giving us a good deal.
We were issued with two invoices: invoice 1 had the order of the windows, plus delivery, plus some $100 worth of gutter hardware pieces, and came to $1,700, and invoice 2 just had a $400 installation fee. We paid invoice 1 via bank transfer. But that wasn't even the problem at the time. Over the next 8 weeks, I followed up with him a few times for the ETA of the windows and I never got much out of him, until he texted me at the beginning of May saying that they'd been stolen off the back of his truck, and that re-ordering them was going to be another 12 weeks. By now, we're well and truly fed up.
I texted him requesting a refund on invoice 1 and a cancellation of services because waiting 20 weeks for windows to be installed is not what we paid for, and we do not deem that reasonable. We're so demoralised by the poor quality of Bill's work on the rest of the shed that we just want to wipe our hands of him. The registered builder even offered to order the windows (only a 6 week lead time, mind you) and install them free of charge because he's embarrassed for having engaged Bill to do the works. Upon my request for a refund, he never responded to my request and instead skirted it by saying that he'll advise when the windows arrive and we can pick them up and end our dealings with him. Except we've also found out when the registered builder ordered the windows that they only cost $950. So we're still not satisfied with having paid $1,700--for what?? I also requested copies of the invoices he paid to the manufacturer to order the windows (both times), and he has refused, so we don't have evidence that they were even ordered the first time.
So I ask, where can I take this from here? Almost all of our communication with him (especially relating to the windows) has been via text, and so I have it all documented. We want a refund on invoice 1 and a cancellation of all further services from him. Do we lodge a Consumer Protection Complaint? Contact a small claims lawyer? Never had to resort to any of these options before.
Thanks for your time if you've made it this far, if I've missed anything out or if any further information would be beneficial, please ask. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
2024.05.16 03:45 KayChill01 Am I tripping or is she disrespectful?
My fiancée (31 F) and I (26 F) have been together for 6 years. Lots of ups and downs back and forth… the usual. My fiancée is super family oriented no matter how cruddy they are to her. I enjoy some to most of her family members but they can be and want a lot and she is a people pleaser. We both lost our mothers young and we are the ones that the siblings depend on/look up to the most. Sometime last year towards the end of the year (2023) there came a time when I was looking through her iPad to look for gift ideas for Christmas. While I was looking a text had popped up from her cousin that had my name in it. Curious I opened it and the message read “(my name) did what? Ohh naahh 😂🤣” I read through more and she was talking about getting her passport and some other things but it seemed messages were missing. When she had arrived home I had asked her to see her phone, she handed it to me and asked for what. I opened the messages and the missing messages were voice recordings that didn’t transpire to her iPad that she had sent to her cousin. I started to play the first one (more than a minute long) and she immediately snatched her phone from me. I asked her if she was talking shit to her cousin about me, she got mad, denied it, changed her passwords, all of that! Fast forward to a few days ago, she finally owned up to gossiping with her cousin about me but kept saying she didn’t feel it was talking shit because it was the truth. About a year or two into our relationship we would all chill out, hang out, have girls night and it was great! Somewhere along the way her cousins energy shifted. It didn’t generally bother me, just due to the fact that it was her family, but I thought it weird. One of the boundaries we established in the beginning of our relationship was not discussing any of our issues with families just due to turmoil you tend to unintentionally create. Lately I have been feeling like she’s been doing it with one of her sisters. There are things that I do that she doesn’t like or agree with or feels she can’t talk to me about so she goes to her sister. I feel like that initial situation with her cousin has caused me to feel insecure and now anytime she talks to her family around the time we have a disagreement I feel like she’s doing it again. What is IT… I don’t know. I don’t feel like the things she is saying isn’t true but I definitely feel the way that she vents it to her family members would never be how she would verbalize it to me. I feel she would disrespect me behind my back but not to my face. Not to say that I would want the upfront disrespect, but I know that she wouldn’t yet I feel she has no problem doing it behind my back. Am I tripping?
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2024.05.16 03:43 ForDnDOnly Question on Redirect Attack monk feature.
Way of the drunken master gets the Redirect Attack feature that says: When a creature misses you with a melee attack roll, you can spend 1 ki point as a reaction to cause that attack to hit one creature of your choice, other than the attacker, that you can see within 5 feet of you.
Given that it doesn't say "When a hostile/enemy creature misses you(...)", does this mean I can target the monk in an effort to hit an adjacent creature? Does the attack auto-hit if I missed the monk? Can it hit a creature out of my reach if it is still within 5 feet of the monk?
I can see it being useful against high AC creatures if I have a low chance of hitting the monk as well.
I'm asking out of curiosity, not out of desire to play this.
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Given that it doesn't say "When a hostile/enemy creature misses you(...)", does this mean I can target the monk in an effort to hit an adjacent creature? Does the attack auto-hit if I missed the monk? Can it hit a creature out of my reach if it is still within 5 feet of the monk?
I can see it being useful against high AC creatures if I have a low chance of hitting the monk as well.
I'm asking out of curiosity, not out of desire to play this.
2024.05.16 03:42 cloudycute21 5 year friendship down the drain
Need advice from other Christians who have dealt with this situation
Friendship breakup after 5 years
My best friend of 5 years yesterday decided to walk away from our friendship (I think). Yesterday I got baptized and was extremely happy about it and was surrounded by so much love and positivity, except from my best friend, who does not share the same religious beliefs. We have always been respectful of each others beliefs and I do not force my religion down his throat. This person does not like any religion and is agnostic/atheist/decider. He knew prior to becoming friends me that Im Christian also.
Tbh his actions ruined what should have been one of the happiest days of my life. I posted the video of my baptism with my testimony and afterwards he texted me asking why I got baptized and I politely explained it. Then he texted “tbh I miss your non religious era, now your a like Jesus freak” (for context I went through a rough time with a difficult medical diagnosis affecting my mom and walked away from Christianity for a year, but have since came back). I was taken aback but I just said lol, and then he replied with “oh I wasn’t joking.” I then responded with “tbh I don’t want to argue about this” to which he replied “I don’t necessarily want to argue it’s just weird for me that my best friend represents so much about what I hate about society”
I then politely explained my beliefs and how Christianity has brought so much happiness and joy in my life. I also explained how for me it’s more about the personal relationship with Jesus (other Christians understand) and how I don’t condemn hateful Christians (those who use homophobia, racism, etc. and use their religion as an excuse) but I know by having my beliefs i am also associated with people who are. I also said I have respect for his beliefs. To this he responded “No I know all of that. I never thought you were any of those things, I just think that it’s difficult morally for me to be best friends with someone who’s becoming so religious to the point where it’s a massive part of your personality. And I don’t know how to express that without hurting your feelings.” After this, he then stated how he knew by saying something he’d get this reaction but he didn’t want to hurt my feelings, from my perspective then why even say something.
Later he then expressed how he feels like I’ve changed since becoming a Christian and it concerns him when I post bible verses or go on trips with members of my church. However, after to talking to several friends all of which I’ve been friends with 6+ years, everyone has said I really haven’t changed much personality wise. He’s concerned that we are becoming too different and will drift apart, however he doesn’t think starting a huge argument will push me away…makes no sense. I have always been respectful of his agnostic views (I don’t criticize him, I don’t bombard him with the gospel or bible verses) and he cannot seem to be respectful of me when I’ve been nothing but kind and patient. He seems to think it’s okay to criticize my beliefs but the moment I say something about his, I’m wrong and made out to be the AH.
Another thing that has happened in my life is I’ve gone to school to be an occupational therapy assistant (OTA). He has never been much of a people person and it seems like he always has a negative comment to say since I’ve started this as well. He thinks when I post stuff about my program or OT, I’m being “fake.” I have also made changes to my wardrobe to be more professional for my career and church, I wear stuff that other people my age wear in these same places and he criticizes my fashion when I feel happy and confident in what I wear.
Tbh with this whole situation I’m taken aback as he hasn’t expressed anything like this before and it also really hurt my feelings. I wish for everything good to come to him and for him to be happy, but I don’t know how to feel about this whole conversation and losing my best friend of 5 years. Any advice?
TLDR: after being baptized, my friend started an argument and wanted to throw away our whole relationship over beliefs I’ve had that he has previously never expressed negatively towards and feels like ive “changed into a Jesus freak.” He hurled a bunch of insults at me when I’ve been nothing but supportive and respectful of him. Help?
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Friendship breakup after 5 years
My best friend of 5 years yesterday decided to walk away from our friendship (I think). Yesterday I got baptized and was extremely happy about it and was surrounded by so much love and positivity, except from my best friend, who does not share the same religious beliefs. We have always been respectful of each others beliefs and I do not force my religion down his throat. This person does not like any religion and is agnostic/atheist/decider. He knew prior to becoming friends me that Im Christian also.
Tbh his actions ruined what should have been one of the happiest days of my life. I posted the video of my baptism with my testimony and afterwards he texted me asking why I got baptized and I politely explained it. Then he texted “tbh I miss your non religious era, now your a like Jesus freak” (for context I went through a rough time with a difficult medical diagnosis affecting my mom and walked away from Christianity for a year, but have since came back). I was taken aback but I just said lol, and then he replied with “oh I wasn’t joking.” I then responded with “tbh I don’t want to argue about this” to which he replied “I don’t necessarily want to argue it’s just weird for me that my best friend represents so much about what I hate about society”
I then politely explained my beliefs and how Christianity has brought so much happiness and joy in my life. I also explained how for me it’s more about the personal relationship with Jesus (other Christians understand) and how I don’t condemn hateful Christians (those who use homophobia, racism, etc. and use their religion as an excuse) but I know by having my beliefs i am also associated with people who are. I also said I have respect for his beliefs. To this he responded “No I know all of that. I never thought you were any of those things, I just think that it’s difficult morally for me to be best friends with someone who’s becoming so religious to the point where it’s a massive part of your personality. And I don’t know how to express that without hurting your feelings.” After this, he then stated how he knew by saying something he’d get this reaction but he didn’t want to hurt my feelings, from my perspective then why even say something.
Later he then expressed how he feels like I’ve changed since becoming a Christian and it concerns him when I post bible verses or go on trips with members of my church. However, after to talking to several friends all of which I’ve been friends with 6+ years, everyone has said I really haven’t changed much personality wise. He’s concerned that we are becoming too different and will drift apart, however he doesn’t think starting a huge argument will push me away…makes no sense. I have always been respectful of his agnostic views (I don’t criticize him, I don’t bombard him with the gospel or bible verses) and he cannot seem to be respectful of me when I’ve been nothing but kind and patient. He seems to think it’s okay to criticize my beliefs but the moment I say something about his, I’m wrong and made out to be the AH.
Another thing that has happened in my life is I’ve gone to school to be an occupational therapy assistant (OTA). He has never been much of a people person and it seems like he always has a negative comment to say since I’ve started this as well. He thinks when I post stuff about my program or OT, I’m being “fake.” I have also made changes to my wardrobe to be more professional for my career and church, I wear stuff that other people my age wear in these same places and he criticizes my fashion when I feel happy and confident in what I wear.
Tbh with this whole situation I’m taken aback as he hasn’t expressed anything like this before and it also really hurt my feelings. I wish for everything good to come to him and for him to be happy, but I don’t know how to feel about this whole conversation and losing my best friend of 5 years. Any advice?
TLDR: after being baptized, my friend started an argument and wanted to throw away our whole relationship over beliefs I’ve had that he has previously never expressed negatively towards and feels like ive “changed into a Jesus freak.” He hurled a bunch of insults at me when I’ve been nothing but supportive and respectful of him. Help?
2024.05.16 03:41 NotTooSunny The Body in the Library (Part 2/2)
ooc: co-written with the lovely u/LyrePlayerTwo
READ PART 1 HERE
The Final Guess
Harper made eye contact with Amon, slack-jawed. Any trace of condescension in her brown eyes was replaced with panic. “You were wrong.”
Amon let her words hang in the air as he sank into the chair by the desk with more force than he had intended.
“They’re her parents. They would have more of a motive than the rest of the suspects,” he retorted quickly, repeating Harper’s earlier words with a bitter edge. “Is what I recall hearing.”
“There were no other options!” Harper turned back to the wall, and tapped her chalk against the board. The powdery stick threatened to snap in her grip as she read out the remaining suspect names. “The Hydra was in the middle of a fight, Cerberus was working, and Lamia could not lie about being innocent.” She looked back towards Amon. “We eliminated all of those together.”
Amon remained composed, attempting to keep his voice steady despite the tension caused by their blunder. “And yet, we both made a mistake,” he agreed, scrutinizing the board in front of him as if it held a secret answer they had missed. “We have no room to make another one. But it must be one of those three.”
Though Amon’s words were calm and measured, his furrowed brow and clenched jaw betrayed an inner turmoil of his mind working overtime.
“Emotions or not, I think we can be sure it was not Lamia.” Harper began to pace around the study, her restless movements a physical manifestation of her racing mind. “So we should take a look at Cerberus and the Hydra again.”
"I was guarding the entrance, my duty unbroken," Amon repeated Cerberus’ alibi, resting his chin in his hands as he leaned against the desk.
Harper nodded. “I really don’t think that Cerberus could have lied about staying on guard. Or that he would have. He would not risk the gods’ wrath.”
“True,” Amon agreed, his dark gaze following Harper as she paced around the study room. “The voice of duty is more eloquent than the voice of sin. At least, the father of Greek tragedy said so,” he added with a hint of smug satisfaction.
Harper stopped walking. Amon's words seemed to have pulled her out of her spiral. She looked over at Amon again, a hint of amusement in her brown eyes. She remarked, “You always quote other people when you're arguing. Do you ever speak for yourself?”
Amon opened his mouth, then closed it, his olive complexion growing pink as he glared at Harper.
"Understanding the thoughts of those who came before us is not a lack of capacity for original thought. It is a foundation upon which we can build our own ideas.” He stood up from his chair, folding his arms across his chest. “Ideas that we need to get out of this job alive.”
“And I deeply respect the writings of Aeschylus,” Harper began diplomatically, “But I think the tragedians would have very unhelpful things to say about our predicament. I say we focus on writing our own story.”
She shrugged, offering Amon a slight smile before she turned away.
“Alright.” Amon grumbled as he sat back down in the chair, noting that Harper had named Aeschylus before he had a chance to cite his source. “Let us keep going with the problem at hand then.”
It was unfortunate how easily they had fallen into their patterns of needless bickering, but he almost missed it as the room fell back into a suffocating silence. Amon had no other leads, and, for once, nothing else to say.
It looked like Harper had nothing either. She stopped wandering around and sank into a chair close to the chalkboard, the active analytical expression on her face giving way to a chilling blankness.
Amon was not going to give up. He pursed his lips, attempting to recall the details of every obscure Greek text he had ever read.
Yet, despite the gravity of their current circumstances, his thoughts couldn’t help but return to Harper’s comment. What a ridiculous thing to say– of course he could think for himself, speak for himself. Admittedly, he had quoted Aeschylus to show off, but the words of the Ancient Greeks were not irrelevant in solving a mythological murder mystery. The key here was that, alone, Amon would never know enough. It would always be useful to have input from a second mind, whether it was from a long-dead playwright or another demigod sitting right in front of him.
A second mind.
Amon shut his eyes, massaging his temples as he tried to visualize the fleeting holograms. “Harper. Who spoke for the Hydra? Was it all of the heads, or just one?”
“The middle head, I think?” Harper's voice grew louder as she stood and approached him, waiting for him to elaborate.
Amon’s eyes flew open, gleaming with a sudden excitement. “Well, if the heads can talk independently - “
“-then they can act independently!” Harper clapped a hand over her mouth in realization of her interruption. She smiled apologetically at Amon before continuing. “Sorry. But you're right. We focused on the wrong technicality. It wasn't what they said. It was who said it.”
“But your point about monster opposable thumbs still holds true,” Amon’s shoulders sagged slightly. “And we know that the sword must be correct.”
Harper shook her head sheepishly. “I don't think it matters. I knew it probably wouldn't after the first guess, really. I just didn't want to be wrong.”
The room fell into a heavy silence as the pair considered their final answer, broken only by the soft hum of the air conditioning. Harper scanned the chalkboard again, pursing her lips as she checked their work. Amon's jaw clenched tighter as his gaze remained fixed on Harper, lost in thought.
He broke the silence with a firm declaration, his voice steady and assured. "I feel confident about the Hydra and the sword. Do you?"
Harper nodded. “Yes. Do you want to be the one to tell her?”
Amon stood up from the chair once more, smoothing the wrinkles in his sweater. “I’ll leave the honors to you.”
“Okay,” Harper agreed, exhaling slowly. Her fingertips brushed against the base of her kopis as she called out to the monster, her voice even and clear. “For our final guess, we accuse the Hydra of killing the sphinx with a Celestial Bronze Sword.”
The sphinx rolled over and then stood. She took measured steps towards the demigods, eyeing the shortswords at their waists with a relaxed, almost sleepy expression.
Harper stiffened as the lioness drew closer. Even if Harper and Amon tried to fight her off now, it was not likely that they would win. This sphinx had the unbothered demeanor of a being who no longer feared death.
“You are correct,” the sphinx proclaimed, after a long silence. “And what an agonizing death it was,” Her melodramatic ranting was muted by the disappointment of her defeat. Still, she held her head high as she judged the demigods who had outsmarted her. “I must say that you have both exceeded expectations. If only barely.”
Harper and Amon exchanged looks. Harper took another cautious step towards the sphinx, saying, “You said you would leave if we got it right.”
“So I did.” the lioness agreed. “Humans spend their lives in pursuit of knowledge, you know. So often, they fail to apply it, only to repeat the same mistakes that they made before. You do not have the luxury of learning from your past lives, as I do. So I hope you have learned something that you will remember.”
She stalked towards the window, turning to offer the demigods one last prideful glance. “Goodbye, demigods.”
The Sphinx pushed the curtain aside and jumped through the open window.
As she left, the shimmering, translucent energy that had materialized the suspects returned once more. It swirled around the six weapons the pair had gathered, slowly dissolving them into sparkling motes of blue light. The door to the study room creaked back open.
“Well,” Amon slid his hands into the pocket of his trousers, “I am glad that our initial oversight did not lead to imminent death.” His tense and stony features had finally relaxed into a rare smile, exposing the metallic gleam of the brackets and wires on his teeth.
“All men make mistakes,” Harper intoned with exaggerated pretension. “But a good man yields when he knows his course is wrong. Or so the tragedians say.”
She walked over to the chalkboard and began to erase her script, barely restraining a laugh.
Amon nodded in approval as he crouched down to pick up some of the remaining debris. “A bit of a mainstream citation, yes. But contextually relevant and rich with insight.”
Soon, the study room was back to its ordinary state, and they were ready to leave. Amon held the door open as they exited the room. “Now, returning to the topic of thinking for oneself…”
References: Battle of the Labyrinth by Rick Riordan, Clue, Wordle, Aeschylus, and Antigone by Sophocles
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READ PART 1 HERE
| Suspects | Weapons |
|---|---|
| Cerberus??? | |
| Lamia??? | |
| The Hydra?? | Celestial Bronze Sword |
Amon let her words hang in the air as he sank into the chair by the desk with more force than he had intended.
“They’re her parents. They would have more of a motive than the rest of the suspects,” he retorted quickly, repeating Harper’s earlier words with a bitter edge. “Is what I recall hearing.”
“There were no other options!” Harper turned back to the wall, and tapped her chalk against the board. The powdery stick threatened to snap in her grip as she read out the remaining suspect names. “The Hydra was in the middle of a fight, Cerberus was working, and Lamia could not lie about being innocent.” She looked back towards Amon. “We eliminated all of those together.”
Amon remained composed, attempting to keep his voice steady despite the tension caused by their blunder. “And yet, we both made a mistake,” he agreed, scrutinizing the board in front of him as if it held a secret answer they had missed. “We have no room to make another one. But it must be one of those three.”
Though Amon’s words were calm and measured, his furrowed brow and clenched jaw betrayed an inner turmoil of his mind working overtime.
“Emotions or not, I think we can be sure it was not Lamia.” Harper began to pace around the study, her restless movements a physical manifestation of her racing mind. “So we should take a look at Cerberus and the Hydra again.”
"I was guarding the entrance, my duty unbroken," Amon repeated Cerberus’ alibi, resting his chin in his hands as he leaned against the desk.
Harper nodded. “I really don’t think that Cerberus could have lied about staying on guard. Or that he would have. He would not risk the gods’ wrath.”
“True,” Amon agreed, his dark gaze following Harper as she paced around the study room. “The voice of duty is more eloquent than the voice of sin. At least, the father of Greek tragedy said so,” he added with a hint of smug satisfaction.
Harper stopped walking. Amon's words seemed to have pulled her out of her spiral. She looked over at Amon again, a hint of amusement in her brown eyes. She remarked, “You always quote other people when you're arguing. Do you ever speak for yourself?”
Amon opened his mouth, then closed it, his olive complexion growing pink as he glared at Harper.
"Understanding the thoughts of those who came before us is not a lack of capacity for original thought. It is a foundation upon which we can build our own ideas.” He stood up from his chair, folding his arms across his chest. “Ideas that we need to get out of this job alive.”
“And I deeply respect the writings of Aeschylus,” Harper began diplomatically, “But I think the tragedians would have very unhelpful things to say about our predicament. I say we focus on writing our own story.”
She shrugged, offering Amon a slight smile before she turned away.
“Alright.” Amon grumbled as he sat back down in the chair, noting that Harper had named Aeschylus before he had a chance to cite his source. “Let us keep going with the problem at hand then.”
It was unfortunate how easily they had fallen into their patterns of needless bickering, but he almost missed it as the room fell back into a suffocating silence. Amon had no other leads, and, for once, nothing else to say.
It looked like Harper had nothing either. She stopped wandering around and sank into a chair close to the chalkboard, the active analytical expression on her face giving way to a chilling blankness.
Amon was not going to give up. He pursed his lips, attempting to recall the details of every obscure Greek text he had ever read.
Yet, despite the gravity of their current circumstances, his thoughts couldn’t help but return to Harper’s comment. What a ridiculous thing to say– of course he could think for himself, speak for himself. Admittedly, he had quoted Aeschylus to show off, but the words of the Ancient Greeks were not irrelevant in solving a mythological murder mystery. The key here was that, alone, Amon would never know enough. It would always be useful to have input from a second mind, whether it was from a long-dead playwright or another demigod sitting right in front of him.
A second mind.
Amon shut his eyes, massaging his temples as he tried to visualize the fleeting holograms. “Harper. Who spoke for the Hydra? Was it all of the heads, or just one?”
“The middle head, I think?” Harper's voice grew louder as she stood and approached him, waiting for him to elaborate.
Amon’s eyes flew open, gleaming with a sudden excitement. “Well, if the heads can talk independently - “
“-then they can act independently!” Harper clapped a hand over her mouth in realization of her interruption. She smiled apologetically at Amon before continuing. “Sorry. But you're right. We focused on the wrong technicality. It wasn't what they said. It was who said it.”
“But your point about monster opposable thumbs still holds true,” Amon’s shoulders sagged slightly. “And we know that the sword must be correct.”
Harper shook her head sheepishly. “I don't think it matters. I knew it probably wouldn't after the first guess, really. I just didn't want to be wrong.”
The room fell into a heavy silence as the pair considered their final answer, broken only by the soft hum of the air conditioning. Harper scanned the chalkboard again, pursing her lips as she checked their work. Amon's jaw clenched tighter as his gaze remained fixed on Harper, lost in thought.
He broke the silence with a firm declaration, his voice steady and assured. "I feel confident about the Hydra and the sword. Do you?"
Harper nodded. “Yes. Do you want to be the one to tell her?”
Amon stood up from the chair once more, smoothing the wrinkles in his sweater. “I’ll leave the honors to you.”
“Okay,” Harper agreed, exhaling slowly. Her fingertips brushed against the base of her kopis as she called out to the monster, her voice even and clear. “For our final guess, we accuse the Hydra of killing the sphinx with a Celestial Bronze Sword.”
The sphinx rolled over and then stood. She took measured steps towards the demigods, eyeing the shortswords at their waists with a relaxed, almost sleepy expression.
Harper stiffened as the lioness drew closer. Even if Harper and Amon tried to fight her off now, it was not likely that they would win. This sphinx had the unbothered demeanor of a being who no longer feared death.
“You are correct,” the sphinx proclaimed, after a long silence. “And what an agonizing death it was,” Her melodramatic ranting was muted by the disappointment of her defeat. Still, she held her head high as she judged the demigods who had outsmarted her. “I must say that you have both exceeded expectations. If only barely.”
Harper and Amon exchanged looks. Harper took another cautious step towards the sphinx, saying, “You said you would leave if we got it right.”
“So I did.” the lioness agreed. “Humans spend their lives in pursuit of knowledge, you know. So often, they fail to apply it, only to repeat the same mistakes that they made before. You do not have the luxury of learning from your past lives, as I do. So I hope you have learned something that you will remember.”
She stalked towards the window, turning to offer the demigods one last prideful glance. “Goodbye, demigods.”
The Sphinx pushed the curtain aside and jumped through the open window.
As she left, the shimmering, translucent energy that had materialized the suspects returned once more. It swirled around the six weapons the pair had gathered, slowly dissolving them into sparkling motes of blue light. The door to the study room creaked back open.
“Well,” Amon slid his hands into the pocket of his trousers, “I am glad that our initial oversight did not lead to imminent death.” His tense and stony features had finally relaxed into a rare smile, exposing the metallic gleam of the brackets and wires on his teeth.
“All men make mistakes,” Harper intoned with exaggerated pretension. “But a good man yields when he knows his course is wrong. Or so the tragedians say.”
She walked over to the chalkboard and began to erase her script, barely restraining a laugh.
Amon nodded in approval as he crouched down to pick up some of the remaining debris. “A bit of a mainstream citation, yes. But contextually relevant and rich with insight.”
Soon, the study room was back to its ordinary state, and they were ready to leave. Amon held the door open as they exited the room. “Now, returning to the topic of thinking for oneself…”
2024.05.16 03:37 sac_112 Debunking a few popular theories.
 | Starting to debunk 🔥 FNaF 6FNaF 6 is mostly assumed by people to take place in 2023 because of HRY223, saying it means Henry 2023, the thing is, they ignore the most important detail of that text.HRY223 is actually not written that way, is "HRY223...", what's the difference? In the first option that most people use to argue FNaF 6 2023, the text is complete, saying 2023 as a last part of the text. In the true and second option, the text is incomplete, it's not showing it all, Scott knew that people said that FNaF 3 took place in 2023 when it wasn't the case, so, he wanted to do a little trolling putting "HRY223..." It does say Henry (date), but the date is incomplete, so it's more of: HRY 2/23/???? or Henry Febrary 23rd of ????, since the last part is missing. So, if the date is not 2023, then when is it? Using Fazbear Frights as a part of games timeline, we have an answer, since, and as I have stated before: In Fetch, Greg describes the Location of Freddy's as the same as the FNaF 1 Location (MCI Location), which we know, was turned Into Jeffs Pizza in ITP.So, with this in mind, FNaF 6 happens in 2016 or 2017. But some people argue that FNaF 3 happens in 2023, how do I explain that? FNaF 3 doesn't happen in 2023, happens in 2015. FNaF 3First of all, the steam description.Thirty years after Freddy Fazbear's Pizza closed it's doors, the events that took place there have become nothing more than a rumor and a childhood memory, but the owners of "Fazbear's Fright: The Horror Attraction" are determined to revive the legend and make the experience as authentic as possible for patrons, going to great lengths to find anything that might have survived decades of neglect and ruin.So, it mentions that it's 30 years after Freddy Fazbear's Pizza closed it's doors, which of the 3? Well, we can get to an easy answer with this. the events that took place there have become nothing more than a rumor and a childhood memorySo, the location was actually opened for quite a long time (discarding the location of the 87), the FNaF 1 location is the same as the location of the MCI, so it could be rather 2015 or 2022/2023 (later explaining). So, which of both is it? Well, the text directly stated right after it explains it. but the owners of "Fazbear's Fright: The Horror Attraction" are determined to revive the legend and make the experience as authentic as possible for patrons, going to great lengths to find anything that might have survived decades of neglect and ruin.What does this tell us? Well, reading the whole text, is clear that it's talking about 30 years after the location where the rumors and years of neglect and ruin started closed. The FNaF 1 location didn't started the rumors and years of neglect and ruin. It was the Missing Children Incident location! Now, let's talk about the source code. "five, nights, at, freddys, 30 years later, only one"What does this actually mean? let me begin separating the text, because it's not "five nights at freddy's 30 years later only one" it has punctuation marks, so, what do they mean? To me, they look more as a title. FiveLet me begin clarifying the text. As it is a title, there's the name of the franchise, then the title of the game == (Title) (Name) So, the important thing here is the fact that it's named "30 years later, only one" what could this mean? I interpret it more like- "After 30 years, there's only one" only one what? Only one animatronic as the description of the game says. At first there were only empty shells, a hand, a hook, an old paper-plate doll, but then a remarkable discovery was made... The attraction now has one animatronic. So, it's talking about that 30 after something, there's now one animatronic in Fazbear Frights. This doesn't reveal anything. The Real Value and the LogbookI don't think this needs an explination, but here it comes. (reused text from an old post)In the page 79 there is a cupon named "Pizza Party Pack" which costs 16 dollars, and Michael writted there "for real value, see page 61", if you remember right, the page 61 is where we get the "I" in the "my name" code, but for now, let's ignore that, because doing the same math, "5+4 = 9" and multiplaying it with 3 we get 27, so the real value is 27, right? yes, but that's kinda weard, because if we use an inflation calculator (or just do the math by ourselfs) we get that in 2023 it would cost 33.74 dollars, but that's logical, Scott made this book in 2017, the real value needs to be updated to the "present" day, Scott isn't a magician, he can't know how will go the inflation in 2023 being on 2017, and doing the math with 2017 insetead of 2023 we get almost the exact number, but it can't be right, like i said in another post the only dates where FNaF 3 can take place are 2015 and 2023, and like we see right here, it can't be in 2023, but wait, we are doing this taking in mind that FNaF 1 takes place in 1993, if we say that FNaF 1 takes place in 1992 then in 2015 is 27.00$.But I've seen people against the real value, and let me explain why they are wrong! Let me point out 2 main posts.
Starting with... Meta Logbook. The fact that the logbook mentions the Springlocks doesn't even prove anything! It just places it after Night 2 of FNaF 3. The Phone Calls from FNaF 2 are never mentioned or even something at all on the Logbook, they know what happened in that local because of the rummors! They knew about the Phone Calls from FNaF 1 because they were in that restaurant! and uh, Phone Guy kinda possessed the phone, if not, we wouldn't be literally getting PHONE CALLS on FNaF 1, since they are recordings, why ring the phone? That's because it's possessed by Phone Guy. They could've just recorded those Phone Calls to make the logbook AFTER night 2. Now, let's talk about th epost of Fantasctic-Bed3911. FNaF 2 is NOT in summer, if we're gonna use the summer-job thing as confirmation, then FnaF 1 is in summer as the description of FNaF 1 states: Welcome to your new summer job at Freddy Fazbear's Pizza, where kids and parents alike come for entertainment and food as far as the eye can see! The main attraction is Freddy Fazbear, of course; and his two friends. They are animatronic robots, programmed to please the crowds! The robots' behavior has become somewhat unpredictable at night however, and it was much cheaper to hire you as a security guard than to find a repairman.So it's more of a legal thing or a way to say "short-time job". So, FNaF 1 is indeed in 1992, and since the Logbook has multiple references of it being at the same time as FNaF 3 (since we literally see the office and for stuff mentioned before), the real value is showing us that FNaF 3 is in 2015. Confirming 2 things.
FNaF 1As I explained 2 months ago.FNaF 1 is in 1992, why.. MHMM (this is bassically the same text as the one of my old post) We spent 6 hours a night in Freddy’s for 5 nights (30 hours) and we get paid 120$ a WEEK, so it’s 4$ a hour (less than the minimum wage of USA, 7.25$ per hour), when is the only year that 4 dollars an hour is legal (in USA)? In 1990 the minimum wage was 3.80$, in 1991 it was raised to 4.25, so it can’t be in 1991, but from there to 1996 the minimum wage was raised to 5 bucks, so it’s in 1990, right? NO! There’s something else. So, in the camera 04b we see the MCI newspapers, which if you see them correctly and compare them with the newspapers that we see on the beginning of the game and REAL newspapers we know that these aren’t actually newspapers from the 80s, they don’t actually seem to be actual newspapers at all, they seem more like an article from a web page, like- a transcription of the news to digital, so, they were researched in the internet, or something similar. We know that this is the current pizzeria since is stated to be after the MCI or “after the tragedy that took place there many years ago” which implies that this is also the same restaurant of where the MCI happened, so this makes me think that this is the memory of Mike, these are actual things that Mike researched on internet to know more about his job maybe? Remember that Mike used a computer to search that, he used the internet, according to Wikipedia and this Quora question, the internet was opened to the public in 1991, so FNaF 1 cannot be in 1990. But that would bring a lot of problems, for example, in 1992 the minimum wage was of 4.55$, so it can’t be there, or at any point after 1991… UNLESS, Following what the U.S. DEPARTMENT OF LABOR says, if a person is under the age of 20 it can have the minimum wage but only 85%, but this expired in 1993, so, FNaF 1 is at any point from 1991 to 1993 and Mike is at maximum 20 years old. It can be at any point in between those 3 years, so we don’t have a definitive answer for now… Or until FNaF 2… Mhmmm So, FNaF 2 is directly a prequel of FNaF 1, since 2 takes place in 1987 and 1 is in 1991-1993. So, with the information that this game adds to the timeline, how can this help with FNaF 1? Yeah i know what you might be thinking, “but how can this help?!?!”, pretty easy actually. FNaF 2 takes place in November of 1987, more specifically, 8th to 14th of November, November 8th is a SUNDAY. This shows us that the laboral week of Fazbear Entertainment is from Sunday to Thursday, but Jeremy and Fritz spent until Saturday. So, FNaF 1 is in 1992. Finally, with this out of the way, i need to explain why does this can keep working on current timeline- I know that there's still people saying that more recent information make clear that FNaF 1 is in 1993, but to that let me tell you something... No it doesn't. like we can see thanks to TechnicalFNaF that in FNaF AR the "Faz-Facts" are NOT canon,, since the Illumix employee stated how they were written by Illumix and not Scott, and shouldn't be used for lore at all. https://preview.redd.it/c5nf3sajzo0d1.png?width=600&format=png&auto=webp&s=e11a57aed31d1a071466fab3f8ed3bf140cdbb05 With that out of the way, let me talk about one of the MOST missinterpreted and missinformed fact of the franchise, in the FNaF Cook book, there's NO mention of 1993, Not in any page of the book, that's missinformation. With that out of the way, let me tell you one of the most ignored pieces of information of the MOST LORE RELEVANT BOOK of this franchise... Before going to it,, let me clarify something the Survival Logbook is indeed in FNaF 3, not in the nights, but AFTER the nights happen, how? First of all, the Survival Logbook makes clear that it takes place on the week that Mike was there (also confirming that Mike was the Frightguard), we know this since the Logbooks night 2 to 5 title pages are in the FNaF 3 office, htat's obvious since we see how everything lines up perfectly, and the fact that we see foxy there makes clear too that Mike is Foxybully, so, upon that, the Logbook takes place in FNaF 3, but how? The Logbook is directly a log to all the stuff that happened during your shift, bassicly it's literally a in-between nights thing, so it makes sense that Mike would have it and fill it with stuff in between the nights of FNaF 3... Now... In the page 79 there is a cupon named "Pizza Party Pack" which costs 16 dollars, and Michael writted there "for real value, see page 61", if you remember right, the page 61 is where we get the "I" in the "my name" code, but for now, let's ignore that, because doing the same math, "5+4 = 9" and multiplaying it with 3 we get 27, so the real value is 27, right? yes, but that's kinda weard, because if we use an inflation calculator (or just do the math by ourselfs) we get that in 2023 it would cost 33.74 dollars, but that's logical, Scott made this book in 2017, the real value needs to be updated to the "present" day, Scott isn't a magician, he can't know how will go the inflation in 2023 being on 2017, and doing the math with 2017 insetead of 2023 we get almost the exact number, but it can't be right, like i said in another post the only dates where FNaF 3 can take place are 2015 and 2023, and like we see right here, it can't be in 2023, but wait, we are doing this taking in mind that FNaF 1 takes place in 1993, if we say that FNaF 1 takes place in 1992 then in 2015 is 27.00$. Also in the book there are several references to things that only appeared in 2015 the MacBook Silver, the dabbing (but used as a meme) and more, so, even with this conclusion, the only possible way to this to work is if FNaF 3 takes place in 2015… So, the definitive answer is that FNaF 1 takes place in 1992, Mike is 20 years old when the game takes place at maximum and FNaF 3 takes place in 2015. End of the debunks |
2024.05.16 03:36 YellowDifficult722 Boyfriend said I was itching to start an argument when I was calm, but that itself made me start
Basically we were texting normally and he wasn’t his usual self texting, as you notice people’s patterns, he didn’t tell me “I miss you too” like he usually does, he said “miss U2” and all I did was show proof from past messages of him saying “I miss you too darling”, literally like this. I was being light and loving, telling him “oh maybe I’m overthinking but you normally say it like this 🥹” and showed him examples as well as continuing other texts in a loving manner
He said “idc” “ur itching to start an argument” but I was fully calm and lightly having a conversation and being loving with other texts too. But him saying I’m “itching” set me off. It set me off because I deadass wasn’t starting, and it’s succumbing to stereotypes that we get annoyed easily and be crazy? I’m ANNOYED AT THAT ASSUMPTION, I wasn’t annoyed before.
He’s so set on being right and talking for how I feel but it’s so wrong
I’m so irritated rn only because of that assumption and he said “see I was right” after I reacted being upset and annoyed by him saying I’m “itching to start an argument”
I was smiling and happy, I wasn’t moody at all, and it’s just demonising I hate it so much
How do I calmly word and get it in his head that I genuinely wasn’t “itching to start an argument”?
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He said “idc” “ur itching to start an argument” but I was fully calm and lightly having a conversation and being loving with other texts too. But him saying I’m “itching” set me off. It set me off because I deadass wasn’t starting, and it’s succumbing to stereotypes that we get annoyed easily and be crazy? I’m ANNOYED AT THAT ASSUMPTION, I wasn’t annoyed before.
He’s so set on being right and talking for how I feel but it’s so wrong
I’m so irritated rn only because of that assumption and he said “see I was right” after I reacted being upset and annoyed by him saying I’m “itching to start an argument”
I was smiling and happy, I wasn’t moody at all, and it’s just demonising I hate it so much
How do I calmly word and get it in his head that I genuinely wasn’t “itching to start an argument”?
2024.05.16 03:35 greg-thompson123 I’m In Love and I Don’t Know What To Do Next
Hey Reddit, this is a burner account because I just wanted to steer clear of people I know finding this.
I am a young adult who was in a long term relationship for 4 years since I was 16. That relationship ended about a year ago. She was horrible to me at the end (cheating and what not) but the first couple years were a blast. After getting out of that relationship I kinda hopped right into another one. She’s 2 years older and I met her at some random party at university, let’s call her Molly. She’s gorgeous, the exact girl that I would be into on paper. I was instantly attracted to her and we had an amazing night together which ended in a hookup. In the morning, I asked for her snap and she happily grabbed my phone and added herself. About a week later we went on a date. BEST DATE EVER! We could not stop talking and the sparks were flying. I could tell we both felt it because we were both smiling, laughing and poking fun at each other the whole time. Afterwards we had an amazing night together at her place. About a month went on with this kinda routine and it was thrilling. We were both all over each other going on fun dates and getting to know one another. Until she became really distant. At first I shrugged it off but then I started to get worried. She consistently apologized and it seemed genuine every time but I knew something else was up. It was around Christmas time at this point and I went back home to see my family. After the holidays I landed back in my university town and saw a text from Molly. She said she was sick, and that she had been falling behind in school and could hardly get out of bed. She had been going to the hospital consistently and had not been able to find time to see me, let alone explain her situation. I felt so bad for her. I made sure to tell her that I was there for her but she insisted that she couldn’t be able to hold up a relationship while trying to recover. She said “It’s what’s best for you, I can’t be there for you like I want to. Like I should”. I took it with chest and wished her the best, and said “if anything ever changes, I’d love to give us another shot”. At this point I knew I wanted to be in a relationship, I knew I was at the point in my life where I want to share it with someone. Although I wasn’t over Molly I went out dating again. About a month later I met the sweetest girl ever, Let’s call her Eva. She wasn’t someone I’d usually be attracted to but her personality was so kind and infatuating. We moved fast together. Going out for Valentine’s Day, surprising each other with gifts and writing notes. It was so wholesome and genuine. We actually made it official and she was my girlfriend, something I only wish I did with Molly. After two months of being together I decided I’d go home for the summer to be with my family (we were dealing with the loss of a loved one and I thought I’d be there for my siblings). The idea of being back home for 4 months got me thinking. I knew I didn’t want to do long distance with Eva but I did really love her, just not enough. I hadn’t been single since I was 16 and I knew I needed some time to understand myself. So, I decided I’d break up with her. Literally just as I came to that conclusion, Molly texted me. She said that she was out of ICU and things were looking up for her, she was also heading home (a different city then me) for the summer and wanted to catchup before I left. I was shocked by this text and dropped my phone and it cracked. I had no idea what to do. All the amazing memories with Molly came flooding back. I had already decided that I would break up with Eva, so is it really that bad if I say yes? I felt awful. I told Molly that I’d need a minute to think about that but I appreciated her reaching out. I then took a week to make sure I wanted to break things off with Eva and, a week later, I did it. She was heartbroken. I felt awful. She was amazing to me and I kinda blindsided her. But I knew it was the right thing for me. That night I got plastered with a bunch of buddies and went out to a club. I then texted Molly back and said something stupid like “God I missed you, we should go on a date”. She for some reason said yes. I woke up hungover out of my mind the next morning but happy as ever. We went out on that date a week later, which was 2 days before she’d head home for the summer. It was once again, BEST DATE EVER! We picked off right where we left off and the sparks flew so far we almost burnt the restaurant down. We went back to her place and, once again, had a great night. She said something during that date that haunts me. It was “I wish I never pushed you away, I’ve missed you”. Anyway, it’s a month into summer and Molly and I have been texting every day. It’s non-stop conversations and flirting. We’re texting as if we’re together. I’ve fallen in love with her again and I’m so far away from her. I don’t know what to do. I want to actually start a relationship with her but not over messages. I want to see her, I want to be with her again. I’m in love and I don’t know what to do next. Should I text her how I feel? Or wait 3 more months till I’m back in town and she is too then give it a shot? I’m lost and confused and madly in love. I can’t stop thinking about her. I know she cares about me and possibly is in love with me too but I’m definitely more head over heels.
TLDR: I got back with who’s girl I was kinda “with” and now we’re texting every day and I’m head over heels for her. We’re not dating or anything. Idk if I should tell her or what, I’m going crazy about it.
Thanks for reading, I’d love any advice. Cheers
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I am a young adult who was in a long term relationship for 4 years since I was 16. That relationship ended about a year ago. She was horrible to me at the end (cheating and what not) but the first couple years were a blast. After getting out of that relationship I kinda hopped right into another one. She’s 2 years older and I met her at some random party at university, let’s call her Molly. She’s gorgeous, the exact girl that I would be into on paper. I was instantly attracted to her and we had an amazing night together which ended in a hookup. In the morning, I asked for her snap and she happily grabbed my phone and added herself. About a week later we went on a date. BEST DATE EVER! We could not stop talking and the sparks were flying. I could tell we both felt it because we were both smiling, laughing and poking fun at each other the whole time. Afterwards we had an amazing night together at her place. About a month went on with this kinda routine and it was thrilling. We were both all over each other going on fun dates and getting to know one another. Until she became really distant. At first I shrugged it off but then I started to get worried. She consistently apologized and it seemed genuine every time but I knew something else was up. It was around Christmas time at this point and I went back home to see my family. After the holidays I landed back in my university town and saw a text from Molly. She said she was sick, and that she had been falling behind in school and could hardly get out of bed. She had been going to the hospital consistently and had not been able to find time to see me, let alone explain her situation. I felt so bad for her. I made sure to tell her that I was there for her but she insisted that she couldn’t be able to hold up a relationship while trying to recover. She said “It’s what’s best for you, I can’t be there for you like I want to. Like I should”. I took it with chest and wished her the best, and said “if anything ever changes, I’d love to give us another shot”. At this point I knew I wanted to be in a relationship, I knew I was at the point in my life where I want to share it with someone. Although I wasn’t over Molly I went out dating again. About a month later I met the sweetest girl ever, Let’s call her Eva. She wasn’t someone I’d usually be attracted to but her personality was so kind and infatuating. We moved fast together. Going out for Valentine’s Day, surprising each other with gifts and writing notes. It was so wholesome and genuine. We actually made it official and she was my girlfriend, something I only wish I did with Molly. After two months of being together I decided I’d go home for the summer to be with my family (we were dealing with the loss of a loved one and I thought I’d be there for my siblings). The idea of being back home for 4 months got me thinking. I knew I didn’t want to do long distance with Eva but I did really love her, just not enough. I hadn’t been single since I was 16 and I knew I needed some time to understand myself. So, I decided I’d break up with her. Literally just as I came to that conclusion, Molly texted me. She said that she was out of ICU and things were looking up for her, she was also heading home (a different city then me) for the summer and wanted to catchup before I left. I was shocked by this text and dropped my phone and it cracked. I had no idea what to do. All the amazing memories with Molly came flooding back. I had already decided that I would break up with Eva, so is it really that bad if I say yes? I felt awful. I told Molly that I’d need a minute to think about that but I appreciated her reaching out. I then took a week to make sure I wanted to break things off with Eva and, a week later, I did it. She was heartbroken. I felt awful. She was amazing to me and I kinda blindsided her. But I knew it was the right thing for me. That night I got plastered with a bunch of buddies and went out to a club. I then texted Molly back and said something stupid like “God I missed you, we should go on a date”. She for some reason said yes. I woke up hungover out of my mind the next morning but happy as ever. We went out on that date a week later, which was 2 days before she’d head home for the summer. It was once again, BEST DATE EVER! We picked off right where we left off and the sparks flew so far we almost burnt the restaurant down. We went back to her place and, once again, had a great night. She said something during that date that haunts me. It was “I wish I never pushed you away, I’ve missed you”. Anyway, it’s a month into summer and Molly and I have been texting every day. It’s non-stop conversations and flirting. We’re texting as if we’re together. I’ve fallen in love with her again and I’m so far away from her. I don’t know what to do. I want to actually start a relationship with her but not over messages. I want to see her, I want to be with her again. I’m in love and I don’t know what to do next. Should I text her how I feel? Or wait 3 more months till I’m back in town and she is too then give it a shot? I’m lost and confused and madly in love. I can’t stop thinking about her. I know she cares about me and possibly is in love with me too but I’m definitely more head over heels.
TLDR: I got back with who’s girl I was kinda “with” and now we’re texting every day and I’m head over heels for her. We’re not dating or anything. Idk if I should tell her or what, I’m going crazy about it.
Thanks for reading, I’d love any advice. Cheers
2024.05.16 03:32 SubAna0 I'm afraid I'm overwhelming her with so much love ;-;
Me (14) and my gf (16) are in a LDR. She's the best person ever and my first (and only, I hope) girlfriend ever. Everytime she goes afk I start missing her so much, and text her like 20,000 of messages of how I miss her, how much I love her, how she's the best girlfriend ever, how much I wish we could cuddle and watch movies together (very cheesy, ik). And even when she's online, I always say "I love you" (with our special nicknames UwU) every like, 10 minutes and sometimes we even discuss about who loves who more, nothing serious, lol.
But somtimes I feel like I'm saying it too much. I feel like I'm exaggerating or overwhelming by saying that much of things. How do I know if I'm making her feel loved and cared, or if I'm crossing the line?
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But somtimes I feel like I'm saying it too much. I feel like I'm exaggerating or overwhelming by saying that much of things. How do I know if I'm making her feel loved and cared, or if I'm crossing the line?
2024.05.16 03:30 rmomhahsha AITA for asking my ex-girlfriend out knowing my friend has a crush on her?
To preface, I haven’t done what’s in the title—yet— I just need some opinions.
So I (M19) have recently been seeing my ex (F19) Hanging out with her has made me realize that I miss her and care for her so much, so I’m planning on asking her to be my girlfriend again. However, my friend (F20) confessed to me that she’s has a thing for my ex girlfriend and is trying to pursue her (texting her occasionally.) Now I’m put in an awkward situation because I love my friend but I want love too.
My friend has told me that she likes her and texts her but my ex has been dry to her so, truthfully, don’t think it’d go anywhere. As for me, I’ve been taking her out back to places we went when we were dating and we’re acting as we were when we were dating. To be honest, I did take her out knowing my friend had a thing for her—but I can’t help it, if you knew her too, you would act the same. I can admit that it’s messed up of me but like I said, I can’t help it, there’s something about her that makes me forget about everyone else. Anyway, would be truly wrong of me to ask her to be my girlfriend?
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So I (M19) have recently been seeing my ex (F19) Hanging out with her has made me realize that I miss her and care for her so much, so I’m planning on asking her to be my girlfriend again. However, my friend (F20) confessed to me that she’s has a thing for my ex girlfriend and is trying to pursue her (texting her occasionally.) Now I’m put in an awkward situation because I love my friend but I want love too.
My friend has told me that she likes her and texts her but my ex has been dry to her so, truthfully, don’t think it’d go anywhere. As for me, I’ve been taking her out back to places we went when we were dating and we’re acting as we were when we were dating. To be honest, I did take her out knowing my friend had a thing for her—but I can’t help it, if you knew her too, you would act the same. I can admit that it’s messed up of me but like I said, I can’t help it, there’s something about her that makes me forget about everyone else. Anyway, would be truly wrong of me to ask her to be my girlfriend?
2024.05.16 03:28 monalisacakeface Notarized document
My slimy niece (entitled, 40 year old brat) coerced my elderly father (diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease) to sign a piece of paper declaring he wants her to have his car “upon his death, at his discretion or anytime he wants.” It was notarized by my father’s slimy companion’s daughter. I don’t believe he knew or understood what he was signing. He is upset and distraught and tells me repeatedly his car has been stolen and he doesn’t know where it is. I asked him point blank as I recorded him on my phone “Do you want Slimy Niece to have your car?” and I was given an emphatic NO. I’ve had POA for my father well before this document was signed. He lives in a nursing home. Slimy niece can’t get the car titled in her name, because the title has gone missing. I was advised by counsel to report the car stolen, but police say since she has this phony baloney “legal document”, it’s a civil matter. I’ll have to sue her. In the meantime, she continues to drive the car my father pays the insurance on. If she gets into an accident and kills a family, I suppose my father will be held responsible. A lawsuit is going to be incredibly expensive, and I’ll have to use the money that was set aside for my father’s care to resolve everything. Mediation is out, because she refuses to respond to my phone calls or texts.
I guess my question is… how does her notarized piece of paper trump my legally binding POA? Is there any other recourse? I need to sell my father’s car to help pay for his care, which is very expensive. We are in the southern US.
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I guess my question is… how does her notarized piece of paper trump my legally binding POA? Is there any other recourse? I need to sell my father’s car to help pay for his care, which is very expensive. We are in the southern US.
2024.05.16 03:27 ThrowRA-Soggy2780 I (21F) have feelings for my guy best friend (22M) and I'm about to lose it. How to handle the situation?
I met my guy friend 3 years ago at a party and the minute I was introduced to him I thought he was very attractive. But we only became friends 2 years ago. First, I started texting him all the time (which is smth I never rlly do) and then he started texting me as well and we became friends. Back then he had a gf of 2 years and I NEVER thought about doing anything with him cause i didn't realize i even liked him. Mind you, he has lots of girlfriends anyway so no funny business here. We became really close friends and started talking every day. But about a year ago I realized I like this guy. I always wanna see him, he's the only friend I miss every day, even just his presence in a room makes me so happy, whenever he comes over I cook his favorite meals and I buy him shirts and expensive perfumes (my love language is gift giving so i buy most of my friends perfumes and stuff but i never cook for them lol and esp never buy stuff for a guy before as i usually don't even befriend them lol). He dated and broke up with three other women during the course of our friendship and it always killed me to see him with them or talk about how much he loves them. I know he doesn't like me back because when he was single I flirted with him sometimes (without even trying really i just liked him so much the flirting wasn't very intentional) and he didn't really respond back to that. Also, whenever he talks about liking someone I get my hopes high and when it's not me (DUH DUMBASS) I get depressed. Today for example he sent me this video of an anime where the guy and the girl are close friends and he said "guess who this makes me think of" and I said "umm idk you tell me" and he said his ex 💀 and stuff likes this genuinely breaks my heart and I wanna give him the cold shoulder or smth but that's not fair because he never asked for my feelings. I also sometimes felt creepy only because it's a one sided think and he doesn't even know i like him he just thinks we're friends and trusts me and I never wanna disrespect him, I just feel bad. I don't wanna be one of those friends that was into you the whole time, you know? In the long run I know it wouldn't work out because we're moving to different cities in 2 years when we finish school (we're both gonna do masters). But i still can't move on. If you were the guy in this situation how would you want me to handle it? Should I stop being friends with him cause it's so painful but i don't wanna lose his friendship. Should I move on? SOMEONE HELP IM GONNA PUKE
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2024.05.16 03:16 Little_BallOfAnxiety Why are Brokers so Dumb?
I get that they're worried about the load and that's how they get paid. I get how there are a lot of shady trucking companies and lazy drivers. What I don't get is how almost every broker I have dealt with seems more set on harassing me than actually working with me to make sure the load gets delivered.
My company gives me a load and right away I get a text from the broker asking me to download spyware so they can track their load. OK, cool, I get it. I download their app, allow them to track me and update them on the app. However, even though they can see exactly where I am, they feel the need to text and call me.
The first call I get they ask "hey, have they loaded you yet" even though you can see that I'm not even at the shipper yet on your stupid app I had to download for the specific purpose of you not having to make this phone call....
Later on, I'm loaded and on my way to deliver it. I have 4 missed calls ranging from 11:00pm to 5:00am which I assume were to just ask me questions they already had the answer to. I get another call and they ask me for an update. I tell them I'll be there at the appointment time. They ask me when the appointment is. THEY ARE THE ONE'S THAT SET THE APPOINTMENT. 15 minutes later the exact same person calls me (I recognize their voice from the last call) asking me the same thing.
I just don't understand the logic behind any of it. Don't you have other loads you need to be getting booked? Cold calls you need to be making? Why are you forcing me to download apps and sending me text messages if you're still going to call me at all hours of the day?
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My company gives me a load and right away I get a text from the broker asking me to download spyware so they can track their load. OK, cool, I get it. I download their app, allow them to track me and update them on the app. However, even though they can see exactly where I am, they feel the need to text and call me.
The first call I get they ask "hey, have they loaded you yet" even though you can see that I'm not even at the shipper yet on your stupid app I had to download for the specific purpose of you not having to make this phone call....
Later on, I'm loaded and on my way to deliver it. I have 4 missed calls ranging from 11:00pm to 5:00am which I assume were to just ask me questions they already had the answer to. I get another call and they ask me for an update. I tell them I'll be there at the appointment time. They ask me when the appointment is. THEY ARE THE ONE'S THAT SET THE APPOINTMENT. 15 minutes later the exact same person calls me (I recognize their voice from the last call) asking me the same thing.
I just don't understand the logic behind any of it. Don't you have other loads you need to be getting booked? Cold calls you need to be making? Why are you forcing me to download apps and sending me text messages if you're still going to call me at all hours of the day?
2024.05.16 03:14 Wyattsawyer586558956 Did I setup my Cloudflare security correct?
The first thing I did was buy a domain from cloudflare. Not sure if I'm supposed to give this info out because to be honest I have no idea with this stuff, but the domain looks like 12345.org
Then I went to DuckDNS and put the domain without the .org into the box and pressed add domain. Picture for context. Then I downloaded the duckdns software and followed the steps there.
After that I went to cloudflare and set some records up. One A record and one SRV record. For the A record I put my IP in there, the same IP that you first see when you go to here. (the one under the What's my IP text)
For the name of the A record I just put minecraft. I also made sure that the proxied slider was on.
For the SRV record, I put minecraftsrv for the name, the priority to 0, the weight to 0, the "TTL" to auto, the port to 25565, and the target as 12345.org. There was not a proxied slider with the SRV record.
(The reason I didn't do a DDNS on my home network is because my router doesn't support it)
Then the IP I am giving to people is 12345.duckdns.org
Is that the correct IP to give other people?
Did I set everything up correctly?
Thanks in advance.
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Then I went to DuckDNS and put the domain without the .org into the box and pressed add domain. Picture for context. Then I downloaded the duckdns software and followed the steps there.
After that I went to cloudflare and set some records up. One A record and one SRV record. For the A record I put my IP in there, the same IP that you first see when you go to here. (the one under the What's my IP text)
For the name of the A record I just put minecraft. I also made sure that the proxied slider was on.
For the SRV record, I put minecraftsrv for the name, the priority to 0, the weight to 0, the "TTL" to auto, the port to 25565, and the target as 12345.org. There was not a proxied slider with the SRV record.
(The reason I didn't do a DDNS on my home network is because my router doesn't support it)
Then the IP I am giving to people is 12345.duckdns.org
Is that the correct IP to give other people?
Did I set everything up correctly?
Thanks in advance.
2024.05.16 02:36 Head-Staff-8189 Hi…
It’s me again
You are in silent mode again
I get it
So I too will sit in silence
I will fight the urge
I’m not going to send you stuff
Not gonna text you
All that I’ll say is
I miss you
I love you
Good night my dearest friend
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You are in silent mode again
I get it
So I too will sit in silence
I will fight the urge
I’m not going to send you stuff
Not gonna text you
All that I’ll say is
I miss you
I love you
Good night my dearest friend
2024.05.16 02:28 curiouscaterpillars My (ex)best friend won’t stop stalking me!! 😭😭
To start, me and this girl (let’s call her Ava) have been friends since 7th grade (we both just graduated high school) but since December, we have not been hanging out.
CONTEXT: my mom made me stop spending the night with her because her dad is REALLY abusive. Ava would always call me crying because of her dad hurting her, or her family. I would constantly try convincing her to report him to the police, or (sadly) try to film him secretly and take pictures of any harm he does to her. I’ve told my mom this and she began to become a little bit uncomfortable letting me spend the night with her dad there. One unfortunate night, her mom came home crying because of him fighting her in the car. I was there to witness the aftermath and I was 2 seconds away from calling the police before her mom stopped me. She sat down and cried with me as I comforted her and she begged me not to call the police. She told me they both had been drinking and she didn’t want to be in trouble for that, and I sadly agreed to not dial 911 for her sake. I promised myself that next time anything happens in MY presence I need to call the police. Ava’s told me before that she and her family are scared to file a report on her dad because he’s broken a restraining order before and is a VERY dangerous man who will do anything to not go to prison AGAIN. This was my mom’s final straw and she told me that I will not be spending the night at her house again.
She made sure, however, that I knew we could still hang out, just ZERO sleepovers at her house. It took me a week to tell Ava because I felt really bad. I didn’t want her being more upset or embarrassed because of her dad’s actions. The day I told her she gave me a completely different reaction. She was really mad, and she started blaming me for crazy things. I won’t even go into context of what they were because it’s just so irrelevant. She calmed down though and apologized for her mistakes and told me that we can still hang out and be friends (I think we only hung out ONCE after this happened).
Weeks go by and the only contact we’ve had was over social media (sending tiktoks or posts to each other), and occasionally on text. I was fine with this because I ultimately realized I should keep some distance between her and I and give her some space. She would constantly boast about her “work crush” and how all the customers at her work are in love with her and ask her for her number all the time. This felt kinda weird to me because she seemed to REALLY be trying to make me feel bad?? or jealous?? i just felt weird vibes about it. Around this time she would also drive by my house..a lot. My entire family have all seen her drive by more than once. I once saw her slowly drive by, staring into my house. Then, one random night at 10pm, I hear a LOUD thump on my window. (My rooms is a little bit underground but I have LARGE windows that half way look out onto the front yard and street.) I heard a car loudly drive off shortly after that. I get up and see my mom in the living room and say “I think AVA just hit my window?!” My brother heard me and ran outside to go check and he runs back in saying “No, she egged the house.” My mom instantly ran outside and called Ava’s mom. She asked if she was home, and when she answer was no, she started going OFF on Ava’s mom. They exchanged some nasty words (my mom does NOT play around she gets so scary 😭😭) and my mom called the cops to file a report. (She was already SO fed up with Ava driving by constantly to glare at us.) The police basically tell us there’s not much they can do because it was just an egging and unless it was more serious, they would start building a case. Not even 5 minutes later I called my other friend crying because I was so upset and needed to vent. She calmed me down and hung up. Not even 6 minutes after that phone call she texts me saying “She just egged my house.” I was so mad. Ava HATED this friend for NO reason. Ava and i have argued about this before because she would be so mean to me and act SO jealous anytime I spent time with my other friend. Ava egging this girls house just PROVED that it was her.
It’s been a few weeks since that..and I blocked Ava on everything. She never tried reaching out, and that was that. However, today, as I’m sitting in my room, my window open, I hear “F***K YOUUU” and a loud car drive by. This time, we set up a camera outside just in case she came back. Now I have footage. Here’s the thing: she’s in an unfamiliar vehicle. I know exactly what her family drives and none of them own that. However, the night of the egging, we counted 6 eggs. This meant that she had her NEW friend with her. I know this because when I heard the thump, it was one BIG loud sound. It didn’t sound like she threw multiple eggs at different times, it was all at once. I also believe she brought her little sister because there was 1 whole eggs in the grass at both mine and my other friends house. (her parents don’t let Ava go ANYWHERE with out her sister. and i mean ANYWHERE. she is very spoiled) When you think about a little 6 year old girl throwing an egg from a distance, it’s more than likely that they miss.
Anyways, we have video evidence of her driving by even thought you can’t REALLY see her, and we have photo proof of the egging (which was a pain to clean btw 😭). The whole point of this post is mostly to rant, but if anyone has any input to this I would appreciate that. I’m not really sure what to do at this point. She’s obviously trying to intimidate her because I made her upset.
I’ll update if anything happens.
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CONTEXT: my mom made me stop spending the night with her because her dad is REALLY abusive. Ava would always call me crying because of her dad hurting her, or her family. I would constantly try convincing her to report him to the police, or (sadly) try to film him secretly and take pictures of any harm he does to her. I’ve told my mom this and she began to become a little bit uncomfortable letting me spend the night with her dad there. One unfortunate night, her mom came home crying because of him fighting her in the car. I was there to witness the aftermath and I was 2 seconds away from calling the police before her mom stopped me. She sat down and cried with me as I comforted her and she begged me not to call the police. She told me they both had been drinking and she didn’t want to be in trouble for that, and I sadly agreed to not dial 911 for her sake. I promised myself that next time anything happens in MY presence I need to call the police. Ava’s told me before that she and her family are scared to file a report on her dad because he’s broken a restraining order before and is a VERY dangerous man who will do anything to not go to prison AGAIN. This was my mom’s final straw and she told me that I will not be spending the night at her house again.
She made sure, however, that I knew we could still hang out, just ZERO sleepovers at her house. It took me a week to tell Ava because I felt really bad. I didn’t want her being more upset or embarrassed because of her dad’s actions. The day I told her she gave me a completely different reaction. She was really mad, and she started blaming me for crazy things. I won’t even go into context of what they were because it’s just so irrelevant. She calmed down though and apologized for her mistakes and told me that we can still hang out and be friends (I think we only hung out ONCE after this happened).
Weeks go by and the only contact we’ve had was over social media (sending tiktoks or posts to each other), and occasionally on text. I was fine with this because I ultimately realized I should keep some distance between her and I and give her some space. She would constantly boast about her “work crush” and how all the customers at her work are in love with her and ask her for her number all the time. This felt kinda weird to me because she seemed to REALLY be trying to make me feel bad?? or jealous?? i just felt weird vibes about it. Around this time she would also drive by my house..a lot. My entire family have all seen her drive by more than once. I once saw her slowly drive by, staring into my house. Then, one random night at 10pm, I hear a LOUD thump on my window. (My rooms is a little bit underground but I have LARGE windows that half way look out onto the front yard and street.) I heard a car loudly drive off shortly after that. I get up and see my mom in the living room and say “I think AVA just hit my window?!” My brother heard me and ran outside to go check and he runs back in saying “No, she egged the house.” My mom instantly ran outside and called Ava’s mom. She asked if she was home, and when she answer was no, she started going OFF on Ava’s mom. They exchanged some nasty words (my mom does NOT play around she gets so scary 😭😭) and my mom called the cops to file a report. (She was already SO fed up with Ava driving by constantly to glare at us.) The police basically tell us there’s not much they can do because it was just an egging and unless it was more serious, they would start building a case. Not even 5 minutes later I called my other friend crying because I was so upset and needed to vent. She calmed me down and hung up. Not even 6 minutes after that phone call she texts me saying “She just egged my house.” I was so mad. Ava HATED this friend for NO reason. Ava and i have argued about this before because she would be so mean to me and act SO jealous anytime I spent time with my other friend. Ava egging this girls house just PROVED that it was her.
It’s been a few weeks since that..and I blocked Ava on everything. She never tried reaching out, and that was that. However, today, as I’m sitting in my room, my window open, I hear “F***K YOUUU” and a loud car drive by. This time, we set up a camera outside just in case she came back. Now I have footage. Here’s the thing: she’s in an unfamiliar vehicle. I know exactly what her family drives and none of them own that. However, the night of the egging, we counted 6 eggs. This meant that she had her NEW friend with her. I know this because when I heard the thump, it was one BIG loud sound. It didn’t sound like she threw multiple eggs at different times, it was all at once. I also believe she brought her little sister because there was 1 whole eggs in the grass at both mine and my other friends house. (her parents don’t let Ava go ANYWHERE with out her sister. and i mean ANYWHERE. she is very spoiled) When you think about a little 6 year old girl throwing an egg from a distance, it’s more than likely that they miss.
Anyways, we have video evidence of her driving by even thought you can’t REALLY see her, and we have photo proof of the egging (which was a pain to clean btw 😭). The whole point of this post is mostly to rant, but if anyone has any input to this I would appreciate that. I’m not really sure what to do at this point. She’s obviously trying to intimidate her because I made her upset.
I’ll update if anything happens.
2024.05.16 02:23 _gaydracula double anniversary
one year ago my person survived a suicide attempt.
i thought i saved him!
we made plans to see a favorite band together. he told me he was “moving” the next day. i thought he was talking about suicide but i couldn’t prove it. so i begged him not to. i read him a poem i wrote for him. i knew i couldn’t reason with him so i wrote him a poem. i poured my heart out to him and i let him go.
it was the most harrowing day of my life to that point. it was also beautiful and romantic. i saved a friend i had known for half my life. i saved my first love. i saved a life with love and poetry. i felt powerful, like i had pulled off an impossible magic act.
by December i thought we were out-of-the-woods. he even wrote this to me:
he died last month. he died alone. possibly suicide. i may never know. today is also the one month anniversary of his funeral.
i want to feel grateful to have had another year with him. i just feel like something i put my heart and soul into was ripped away. i feel so lost.
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i thought i saved him!
we made plans to see a favorite band together. he told me he was “moving” the next day. i thought he was talking about suicide but i couldn’t prove it. so i begged him not to. i read him a poem i wrote for him. i knew i couldn’t reason with him so i wrote him a poem. i poured my heart out to him and i let him go.
i said i am your friend always you told me to take a snapshot of the moment and promise it will last forever if we were ever the same person we will be forever love is what you see when you cut the universe open and i said you are with me always love is simplei let him go and i missed his late night call. i got a morning call that he was in the hospital. he had survived. he was too preoccupied with my poem and goodbye playlist, which he put on so he would feel less alone as he died. his suicide text went out before he completed. 911 was immediately notified and took him to the hospital.
how do you deal with a flat earther? how do you help anybody who has built an illogical world? i want to be able to say So it goes. But I do not approve. And I am not resigned. you are irreplaceable
it was the most harrowing day of my life to that point. it was also beautiful and romantic. i saved a friend i had known for half my life. i saved my first love. i saved a life with love and poetry. i felt powerful, like i had pulled off an impossible magic act.
by December i thought we were out-of-the-woods. he even wrote this to me:
You didn’t tell me to stay, but you did stay with me. You didn’t tell me what to do, but you diddo it with me. You gave me agency. Not by enabling me, though you did enable me. You gave me agency by spending your time with me, and time passed. You gave me some time. This is what I want to thank you for... You didn’t try to change me to something else, if you had it wouldn’t have worked. You just stayed with me as I was. Thank you for being with me. I might be dead otherwise… You saved my life. Just with your actions, words, presence, and patience. Just with your love. Thank you for your time and your love.i dreaded this anniversary. i was planning to visit him so neither of us would have to experience it alone.
he died last month. he died alone. possibly suicide. i may never know. today is also the one month anniversary of his funeral.
i want to feel grateful to have had another year with him. i just feel like something i put my heart and soul into was ripped away. i feel so lost.
2024.05.16 02:19 Any_Bowl_5195 Coming to terms with this…
So I made a post last night and deleted it because this is all very new to me and I wasn’t sure what this sub was like. I have just learned about my codependency this week, so i’m beginning my healing journey. First, I have a question. Is anyone here involved with Al-anon? I was recommended that group for years, and finally just bit the bullet and attending one on Monday, after coming to a breaking point with my family. People told me that it would apply to all areas of my life, and that it would be good for as I cannot set boundaries, cannot put myself first, etc. I become obsessed with my alcoholic and addict family members, and it’s just really bad. I can’t tell if my codependency problems have more to do with my addict family members, or if it’s a separate thing. Is it common to be codependent when you have addict family members? I’m just not sure…
So if you can’t tell, in doing all my research about al-anon, I also learned that I am codependent. On my family. I don’t know how I never saw it…
I have the out there fantasies about becoming rich and “trapping” my family on a remote island, with everything we’d ever need so we didn’t have to LEAVE. I’d tell them that and they’d be like wtf man and i’d be genuinely angry with them. Because how does that not sound ideal?? Sounds so safe and happy, right?
Wrong. If I am not on the phone with family, I am texting them. All day long, everyday. I can’t run errands without them. When I do have to, I bring a friend along. I would do ANYTHING for them, including drain my bank account, so long as I have them in my life. I cannot make decisions, I help everyone, I get angry when I feel like my “help” is not being received by them. I make excuses for them, I enable them. I would literally let them physically beat me if it would make them happy. And if they were still in my life…
I’ve done crazy things that I knew I should not be doing. Reporting them missing if I can’t get ahold of them, calling the cops on them, 302ing them, putting trackers on their car (😫), searching for them for DAYS in person, or via the phone (calling jails, hospitals, rehabs, sober living, shelters, police stations, community resource centers, messaging people on community FB pages in different states). All things that I justify by telling myself that it’s normal to be concerned for loved one. Except I become obsessed! I literally think that they’ll be dead if I don’t hear from them for one day.
God, this sucks. And I spent 2 and a half hours on google and reddit last night, terrified that I might be a narcissist! I really thought I was abusing them. I could have saved myself the strife and just googled “can you be codependent and be a narcissist?”
The answer is no, according to my research. Narcissists do not have empathy, whereas my empathy gets me in trouble. I will cry for days after reading sad news, so I had to stop consuming news overall. I will feel so bad for someone that i’ll do everything for them, and nothing for myself. I stay up all night feeling awful if I argue with someone, wondering how they may be feeling. I can’t even tell someone if I feel wronged by them, because I worry it will upset them. It’s why I can’t talk to my mom, she will cry and feel awful if she feels like I am upset with her or if something bad happened to me. It’s crippling!! I always chalked it up as anxiety. I feel as though I am leaving my family members behind, by graduating college, moving out, and getting a good job.
Okay anyway i’m new to this so please be kind. Just wanted to share my journey so far. I’m sending positive vibes and good luck to you all.
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So if you can’t tell, in doing all my research about al-anon, I also learned that I am codependent. On my family. I don’t know how I never saw it…
I have the out there fantasies about becoming rich and “trapping” my family on a remote island, with everything we’d ever need so we didn’t have to LEAVE. I’d tell them that and they’d be like wtf man and i’d be genuinely angry with them. Because how does that not sound ideal?? Sounds so safe and happy, right?
Wrong. If I am not on the phone with family, I am texting them. All day long, everyday. I can’t run errands without them. When I do have to, I bring a friend along. I would do ANYTHING for them, including drain my bank account, so long as I have them in my life. I cannot make decisions, I help everyone, I get angry when I feel like my “help” is not being received by them. I make excuses for them, I enable them. I would literally let them physically beat me if it would make them happy. And if they were still in my life…
I’ve done crazy things that I knew I should not be doing. Reporting them missing if I can’t get ahold of them, calling the cops on them, 302ing them, putting trackers on their car (😫), searching for them for DAYS in person, or via the phone (calling jails, hospitals, rehabs, sober living, shelters, police stations, community resource centers, messaging people on community FB pages in different states). All things that I justify by telling myself that it’s normal to be concerned for loved one. Except I become obsessed! I literally think that they’ll be dead if I don’t hear from them for one day.
God, this sucks. And I spent 2 and a half hours on google and reddit last night, terrified that I might be a narcissist! I really thought I was abusing them. I could have saved myself the strife and just googled “can you be codependent and be a narcissist?”
The answer is no, according to my research. Narcissists do not have empathy, whereas my empathy gets me in trouble. I will cry for days after reading sad news, so I had to stop consuming news overall. I will feel so bad for someone that i’ll do everything for them, and nothing for myself. I stay up all night feeling awful if I argue with someone, wondering how they may be feeling. I can’t even tell someone if I feel wronged by them, because I worry it will upset them. It’s why I can’t talk to my mom, she will cry and feel awful if she feels like I am upset with her or if something bad happened to me. It’s crippling!! I always chalked it up as anxiety. I feel as though I am leaving my family members behind, by graduating college, moving out, and getting a good job.
Okay anyway i’m new to this so please be kind. Just wanted to share my journey so far. I’m sending positive vibes and good luck to you all.
2024.05.16 02:17 ThrowRA-ditherer I '28F' am unsure about my future with my long term boyfriend '31M'. How do I approach this ?
I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (31M) for 10 years. For context, we met via Hinge and he is my first serious relationship (I dated 2/3 person before him but it didn’t last long).
He is the perfect boyfriend : He is supportive, loving, caring, a good listener, loyal, funny, smart, handsome, confident… you name it. Everyone who meets him speaks highly of him.
I love him. He is my best friend, the person who knows me the best. I rely on him a lot since my family is not very present and I don’t have a lot of close friends.
But lately I started to have some doubts about our relationship. Sometimes, I feel like we became an old couple who stay with each other just out of habit.
When we are together, I am the one who usually make small talks, tell him about my day. He rarely has anything to tell me. His job is not the most exciting, I get it, but I can’t believe there is nothing to talk about when I ask him about his day. Sometime we eat in silence (a comfortable silence but still) and I am bored. When we plan a date, it’s often up to me to choose what I want to do/where I want to eat because he says he just want to do what I like. I know that he is telling the truth but I would like for him to be more spontaneous/assertive. I kind of feel like we are used to each other and the routine is starting to eat me up.
We do not live together but we text/call everyday and we see each other every week. We usually spend the week-end together at my place. Before, I wished we could see each other more but he works a lot during the week and we live 1 hour apart so I got used to seeing him once a week.
My friends and family are asking me why we do not live together. There are practical reasons : My flat is too small and he doesn’t want to rent (he is still living with his mother, to save money to buy a house). But also I just moved alone and my not ready to share my space full time with anyone else.
It doesn't bother him. We don’t talk a lot about the future, as we don’t really know if we want to get married or have children. I’m not even sure of what I want.
I know I love him but I don’t know if I am still in love with him.
The worst part is that when I’m doubting my feelings, I know that he doesn't.
I see it, the way he behaves : every time he has a day off he comes to see me, he compliments me, he buys me small gifts for no reason. He shows me that he loves me, not in a stifling way but I have no doubts about him.
I feel guilty about this disparity. I feel like he should be with someone who feels the same way about him.
Maybe I should take some distance for clarity but I also know that if I tell him that, it would break his heart and I feel like it’s unfair to ask him to wait for me to make up my mind. He deserves better.
Somedays I feel like I should just end this relationship but the thought of not having him in my life anymore is excruciating to me. We spent more than 10 years together and I can’t fathom not seeing him ever again. I would miss him terribly, I’m sure of that. If I break up with him, I’m afraid that I would regret it.
But I’m also afraid about the opposite. What if I regret not ending it sooner ? I kind of feel ashamed to say that but I wished I had more experience before committing to a 10 years relationship. I never really had flings/fun adventures. I’m not sure that I actually missed something but still.
Do you have any advices for my situation ? Any insights or opinions are welcomed.
Thank you for reading me.
Ps : Sorry for any mistakes in grammar or vocabulary, English is not my native language.
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He is the perfect boyfriend : He is supportive, loving, caring, a good listener, loyal, funny, smart, handsome, confident… you name it. Everyone who meets him speaks highly of him.
I love him. He is my best friend, the person who knows me the best. I rely on him a lot since my family is not very present and I don’t have a lot of close friends.
But lately I started to have some doubts about our relationship. Sometimes, I feel like we became an old couple who stay with each other just out of habit.
When we are together, I am the one who usually make small talks, tell him about my day. He rarely has anything to tell me. His job is not the most exciting, I get it, but I can’t believe there is nothing to talk about when I ask him about his day. Sometime we eat in silence (a comfortable silence but still) and I am bored. When we plan a date, it’s often up to me to choose what I want to do/where I want to eat because he says he just want to do what I like. I know that he is telling the truth but I would like for him to be more spontaneous/assertive. I kind of feel like we are used to each other and the routine is starting to eat me up.
We do not live together but we text/call everyday and we see each other every week. We usually spend the week-end together at my place. Before, I wished we could see each other more but he works a lot during the week and we live 1 hour apart so I got used to seeing him once a week.
My friends and family are asking me why we do not live together. There are practical reasons : My flat is too small and he doesn’t want to rent (he is still living with his mother, to save money to buy a house). But also I just moved alone and my not ready to share my space full time with anyone else.
It doesn't bother him. We don’t talk a lot about the future, as we don’t really know if we want to get married or have children. I’m not even sure of what I want.
I know I love him but I don’t know if I am still in love with him.
The worst part is that when I’m doubting my feelings, I know that he doesn't.
I see it, the way he behaves : every time he has a day off he comes to see me, he compliments me, he buys me small gifts for no reason. He shows me that he loves me, not in a stifling way but I have no doubts about him.
I feel guilty about this disparity. I feel like he should be with someone who feels the same way about him.
Maybe I should take some distance for clarity but I also know that if I tell him that, it would break his heart and I feel like it’s unfair to ask him to wait for me to make up my mind. He deserves better.
Somedays I feel like I should just end this relationship but the thought of not having him in my life anymore is excruciating to me. We spent more than 10 years together and I can’t fathom not seeing him ever again. I would miss him terribly, I’m sure of that. If I break up with him, I’m afraid that I would regret it.
But I’m also afraid about the opposite. What if I regret not ending it sooner ? I kind of feel ashamed to say that but I wished I had more experience before committing to a 10 years relationship. I never really had flings/fun adventures. I’m not sure that I actually missed something but still.
Do you have any advices for my situation ? Any insights or opinions are welcomed.
Thank you for reading me.
Ps : Sorry for any mistakes in grammar or vocabulary, English is not my native language.