When I Watching Music Videos,Movies,Youtube Videos,Life And Love Story For Entertainment,Self Improvement And Information But Sometimes Girls Who Wears Revealing Clothes,Bikini Appeared (YT Ads Also). it was gives me More Urges But I Didn't fap to that. This is Everytime Happens to Me
My Question is

1. How You React to Them if You Watched?
   
2. It is Considered as Trigger?Or Relapse?
   
3. It is Bad to Watching For Entertainment,Self Improvement And Information Purpose?
   

(I Really Stuck With This Addiction And Confused With This Questions. Because I Didn't Know What is Actual Considered as P. Because Nowadays P is Everywhere. I Can't Enjoy Songs And Movies Like When i was a Child😭)

I'm 26. I've never gone on a date, never held hands with a guy, never kissed a guy. The closest thing I've had to a relationship was an online LDR that wasn't even officially a LDR.
I would like to get experience with this part of like, being a person lol. But I'm scared of so many things about this.
My biggest fear is stuff like the transmission of diseases or infections. STI's etc, even just from kissing someone. I'm worried that if I went on a date with a guy and we kissed, I'd start spiralling about getting some kind of disease (or like, herpes). And if we ever had sex...I could see myself freaking out about getting pregnant or getting an incurable STD.
I also have some social anxiety and mild self worth issues that make socializing a bit difficult for me at times. It can be hard for me to make conversation and small talk. I definitely have days where I feel really great and confident though, but this could be something that makes dating a bit difficult. But when you find your person...I don't think these things become an issue.
And I'm also worried about safety and trusting men on dating apps. We've all heard the horror stories, that's something that really puts me off trying as well.
I want to try despite all these fears...I definitely want to find someone who I really vibe with. That "LDR" was really awesome while it lasted, it was nice to have someone to care about and share things with.
If anyone has overcome similar fears or has any advice I'd love to hear it.

As varied and distinct as the individual episodes of Inside No.9 are, over the nine seasons it’s been running, it’s perhaps inevitable that certain “types” of episode have begun to emerge. There’s the ensemble piece (last week’s Boo To A Goose was a great example) there are the episodes that focus on a niche interest of the show creators (The Riddle of The Sphinx and Misdirection), there are the horror pastiches (The Harrowing, Seance Time) and often the most effective of all of these – the two-hander. Episodes that for the most part only feature show creators Reece Shearsmith and Steve Pemberton.
I like these episodes the most because due to the smaller cast, the writers are able to develop their characters in much more depth. I loved last week’s episode, but by necessity everything has to be a lot broader to properly get across all the different characters. In an episode with only two characters, they can take their time, and let the story unfold in a more measured, deliberate way.
The Trolley Problem is one of the best of these that the series has ever produced. Shearsmith plays Drew, a man who is apparently on the brink of suicide. Spotted looking despondent while standing on a bridge, he is comforted by therapist Blake (Pemberton) who brings him back to his cottage for a cuppa and a chat. However, neither character is what they initially seem to be, and what unfolds is a battle of wits on a par with Sleuth or Deathtrap, centred on the moral dilemma of the title – is it more moral to allow three people to die or to directly cause the death of one person for the greater good? As Blake puts it, it’s utilitarianism vs. deontological ethics. The difference between killing, or letting someone die.
The Trolley Problem feels thematically linked to last year’s excellent The Last Weekend. Both feature ideas of revenge, but where that episode had a grisly, visceral feel to it, this one is altogether more psychological, albeit with a macabre twist. It’s just two people in one location, whose motives are only slowly revealed as the episode goes on. Similarly, comparisons will inevitably be drawn between this and The Riddle Of The Sphinx, but for me at least, this one is a lot stronger tonally. The season three episode juggled broad comedy with a love of cryptic crosswords and a very dark final twist. This one has a sense of foreboding from the start, and feels more consistent from start to finish.
At its strongest, it resembles Lip Service (one of my all-time favourites) where each new scene pulls back a layer and reveals something new to the audience. It’s unpredictable with a lot of potential narrative threads, and constantly shifting character dynamics, while the presence of a gun (“You know I’ve got this gun don’t ya!”) only heightens the tension.
It’s also fairly low-key, but the production values are incredible – it might be the most evocatively shot episode of the entire series. There is a definite Scandi-noir feel to the episode; the ethereal score, the setting, the costumes, even the characters’ hairstyles feel like they have been lifted straight out of The Killing, Wallander or The Bridge. There's another film referenced but even mentioning it here would give too much away! Suffice to say the dark, brooding tone, the psychological aspect and grisly climax all feel like a tip of the hat.
The use of lighting in particular is incredibly striking – the backdrop of a thunderstorm allows for dramatic flashes when the lights go out, while the relentless background noise of the rain adds to the episode’s oppressive atmosphere . The entire episode is beautifully shot, with some meticulously crafted composition. One shot of flames reflected in Blake’s glasses is especially haunting. There’s a heightened reality that permeates the episode, and it feels increasingly like a waking nightmare, culminating in an appropriately horrifying ending.
Another thing I loved is how the two leads play the material admirably straight. Even at its darkest, and in the past there have been moments of levity, but there’s very little in the way of laughs here. Both actors underplay their characters beautifully. It’s left tantalizingly ambiguous for the entire run time just who we should be rooting for, and even when the credits roll it’s not entirely apparent. Neither is 100% a monster, and the story is all the more compelling for that. However abhorrent Blake may be, he still has the humane impulse to help Drew in the first place, and likewise, Drew is motivated by a sense of justice, even if his methods are extreme. There’s one shot where a enigmatic expression passes across Drew’s face – is it a look of menace, remorse, self-loathing, or doubt? Depending on how you read the scene, it could be any of the above, but it’s only on a rewatch that it becomes clear.
The only time it falters somewhat in my mind is when it attempts to link the story too directly to the idea of the titular thought experiment. The script does a great job of giving a summary of a variety of psychological concepts, such as The Bystander Effect, The Szondi Test and Laughter Yoga (Drew laughing hysterically is one of the episodes most disturbing, indelible images) but applying the Trolley Problem directly to the story sometimes feels like a bit of a stretch. It works much better as a thematic link than something literal.
The deceptively simple narrative is just as intricately constructed as we have come to expect by this point though, full of foreshadowing and portentous clues. Seemingly throwaway dialogue, like Shearsmith’s apparently innocent observation about Blake’s diploma early on, and the line “I don’t have a best side” all serve as precursors to the psychological game of cat and mouse between the two characters, while the line “I think I might have killed somebody” takes on a dreadful significance by the end of the episode.
Moody, atmospheric, and very dark, The Trolley Problem is one of the strongest episodes of the entire series. It may be a variation on an established theme, but the production values and wonderfully ambiguous central performances distinguish it from the other two-handers that Inside No.9 has produced.
[This was originally written for Critical Popcorn: https://criticalpopcorn.com/2024/05/15/inside-no-9-9-2-review-the-trolley-problem/ ]

Hi!! Time to throw my hat into the ring. I have been fortunate enough to make some truly meaningful friendships online. I figured hey, if I could find them, why not look for a relationship this way too?
What I'm looking for:
End goal? A life partner, in every sense of the word. That person who will be there for you no matter what, and you for them. Someone who I can make hot cocoa for and spend all night with, huddled under blankets on the sofa watching movies and talking about life. :)
But of course, it takes time to foster a relationship that is at that point. I like to pace myself when getting to know someone for that very reason. I want to be sure that I can give my whole self to a person, you know? That is some vulnerable stuff. So to start, it'd probably just be chatting online before graduating to more and more stuff slowly.
Anyway, that’s the preamble. Now into a bit about me, I guess. I’m 26, as mentioned in the title. I’m from the northeast of the US. I love having deep conversations about life/philosophy/relationships, but also really enjoy video games, film, novels, comics, etc.
Before I go any farther, I might as well start with the "fundamentals" so I don't waste your time/vice-versa.
The fundamentals:

• Physically? I’m 6’2. Short brown hair, blue eyes, paaaaasty white.
  
• I’m from a Hispanic background. Still learning the language though. That’s been really fun and challenging.
  
• Career Goals: Currently 1 year left in undergrad. (Yeah, at 26… long story short, health issues are stupid. Happy to share if you want). I’m pretty driven and take school seriously. I'm approaching my future career with the same level of ambition and drive. I’m likely headed out to California/LA after I get my degree, just so you're aware. I’m looking for something serious that’d eventually be in person, so if that locale doesn’t work, we probably aren’t a match—but I wish you the best! :)
  
• I do envision having kids when I can feasibly financially support them and am in a healthy relationship.
  
• I lean liberal on the social and political spectrums, but I'm not staunchly liberal. It's not a major part of my identity, but I know it can be important to people, so I'm just putting it out there.
  
• I do believe in God. I was raised Catholic, but I'm still figuring “belief” out. Though I don't ascribe to everything in Catholicism anymore, it's still a part of my background and of who I am. If you’re from a different or no faith background, that’s totally fine, but I don't think I'd be compatible with someone who is an atheist. If that's you, no worries, everyone has their own path, and I wish you the best. :)
  
• I don't do drugs or smoke. I'm okay if you're 420-friendly as long as it's in moderation. I do drink, but very rarely and mildly.
  
• Ideally, you'd be located in the US/Canada, but if you feel that we'd really jive and you're located elsewhere, feel free to reach out anyway. :)
  
• Looking for someone plus or minus ~4 years in age from me.
  

Random interests:

• Long drives by the sea or through the countryside
  
• Dogs. I have 2 little white floofs. Pets in general are awesome too. :)
  
• Classic movies (and film in general). These are my bread and butter.
  
• Anime - Not super well-versed, but I’m in love with Studio Ghibli and Your Name. I’ve sampled a lot of other stuff too.
  
• Star Wars... maybe a little too much.
  
• Video games - low-key games like Stardew Valley or The Sims but also stuff like Overwatch, Battlefront II, and some MMOs
  
• And more! (If you wanna get to know me)
  

If you read all this, thank you. I know I can tend to ramble, but I hope this gives you a good sense of me. Figured I’d put it all out there. Honesty begets honesty.
If you‘re interested, feel free to message me. If we hit it off, we can either switch to my real Reddit account or another platform like Discord. Just as a warning though, I don't have any social media outside of that.
If you’re not interested, no worries. Either way, I wish you the absolute best on this journey that is life. :)

Hi!! Time to throw my hat into the ring. I have been fortunate enough to make some truly meaningful friendships online. I figured hey, if I could find them, why not look for a relationship this way too?
What I'm looking for:
End goal? A life partner, in every sense of the word. That person who will be there for you no matter what, and you for them. Someone who I can make hot cocoa for and spend all night with, huddled under blankets on the sofa watching movies and talking about life. :)
But of course, it takes time to foster a relationship that is at that point. I like to pace myself when getting to know someone for that very reason. I want to be sure that I can give my whole self to a person, you know? That is some vulnerable stuff. So to start, it'd probably just be chatting online before graduating to more and more stuff slowly.
Anyway, that’s the preamble. Now into a bit about me, I guess. I’m 26, as mentioned in the title. I’m from the northeast of the US. I love having deep conversations about life/philosophy/relationships, but also really enjoy video games, film, novels, comics, etc.
Before I go any farther, I might as well start with the "fundamentals" so I don't waste your time/vice-versa.
The fundamentals:

• Physically? I’m 6’2. Short brown hair, blue eyes, paaaaasty white.
  
• I’m from a Hispanic background. Still learning the language though. That’s been really fun and challenging.
  
• Career Goals: Currently 1 year left in undergrad. (Yeah, at 26… long story short, health issues are stupid. Happy to share if you want). I’m pretty driven and take school seriously. I'm approaching my future career with the same level of ambition and drive. I’m likely headed out to California/LA after I get my degree, just so you're aware. I’m looking for something serious that’d eventually be in person, so if that locale doesn’t work, we probably aren’t a match—but I wish you the best! :)
  
• I do envision having kids when I can feasibly financially support them and am in a healthy relationship.
  
• I lean liberal on the social and political spectrums, but I'm not staunchly liberal. It's not a major part of my identity, but I know it can be important to people, so I'm just putting it out there.
  
• I do believe in God. I was raised Catholic, but I'm still figuring “belief” out. Though I don't ascribe to everything in Catholicism anymore, it's still a part of my background and of who I am. If you’re from a different or no faith background, that’s totally fine, but I don't think I'd be compatible with someone who is an atheist. If that's you, no worries, everyone has their own path, and I wish you the best. :)
  
• I don't do drugs or smoke. I'm okay if you're 420-friendly as long as it's in moderation. I do drink, but very rarely and mildly.
  
• Ideally, you'd be located in the US/Canada, but if you feel that we'd really jive and you're located elsewhere, feel free to reach out anyway. :)
  
• Looking for someone plus or minus ~4 years in age from me.
  

Random interests:

• Long drives by the sea or through the countryside
  
• Dogs. I have 2 little white floofs. Pets in general are awesome too. :)
  
• Classic movies (and film in general). These are my bread and butter.
  
• Anime - Not super well-versed, but I’m in love with Studio Ghibli and Your Name. I’ve sampled a lot of other stuff too.
  
• Star Wars... maybe a little too much.
  
• Video games - low-key games like Stardew Valley or The Sims but also stuff like Overwatch, Battlefront II, and some MMOs
  
• And more! (If you wanna get to know me)
  

If you read all this, thank you. I know I can tend to ramble, but I hope this gives you a good sense of me. Figured I’d put it all out there. Honesty begets honesty.
If you‘re interested, feel free to message me. If we hit it off, we can either switch to my real Reddit account or another platform like Discord. Just as a warning though, I don't have any social media outside of that.
If you’re not interested, no worries. Either way, I wish you the absolute best on this journey that is life. :)

Writer's Block? More Like Writer's Bleh. Let's Fix This:

Feeling uninspired? Procrastinating like a panda on a treadmill? Fear not, fellow wordsmith! Let's outsmart this block with ninja tactics:
Environment Hacks:

• Shower Epiphany: Write steamy scenes (figuratively, please) in the shower. Guaranteed inspiration (or at least clean ideas).
• Nature Nudge: Write under a tree, feeling the breeze whisper secrets (or scold you for slacking).
• Coffee Catastrophe: Spill coffee on your manuscript? Panic, then laugh, then write about it. Bonus points for caffeine-fueled creativity.

Spark Your Inner Weirdo:

• Automatic Writing: Set a timer, close your eyes, and let your subconscious scribble. Prepare for hilarious nonsense or hidden gems.
• Cut-Up Chaos: Chop up quotes, headlines, or song lyrics, then Frankenstein them into a bizarre story.
• Dream Diary Delusion: Record your dreams, even the nonsensical ones. They're like free story prompts from your subconscious.
• Random Object Roulette: Spin a pen, point at your bookshelf, write a story about the book it lands on. Embrace the chaos!

Challenge Your Inner Critic (Shut it Up):

• Write the Worst: Write the absolute worst scene imaginable. You'll be so embarrassed, you'll write something good to redeem yourself.
• Cliché Challenge: Write a scene using every writing cliché in the book. Then rewrite it, destroying clichés with your brilliance.
• Mirror, Mirror: Stare into the mirror and have a deep conversation with your reflection about your story. Bonus points for dramatic monologues.
• Future You Fury: Imagine your future self, successful and published, berating you for procrastinating. Write a scene about their disappointment.

Bonus Tip: Reward yourself with something ridiculous for every completed scene. Like a dance party to the Macarena or wearing a lampshade as a hat. Embrace the absurdity!
Remember, writer's block is just a temporary hurdle. With a little wit and these offbeat techniques, you'll be back to churning out words like a caffeinated squirrel on a sugar rush. Now go forth and conquer that blank page! (And maybe wear a lampshade for good luck.)

I’ve been with my husband for a couple of years now, married a few months. I caught him out in a pretty big lie last weekend and it’s unravelled so many things. So many times that I thought that what he was saying was strange, or seemed far-fetched all make sense now. The lies aren’t even big or to hide something that would hurt someone’s feelings, it’s just small stuff but the lie is what makes it huge for me. I’ll give a couple of examples to provide a bit of context:
EXAMPLE 1
When we met, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
A few days ago, I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
I asked him again a couple of days later (in one of our attempts to resolve the situation) saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.
EXAMPLE 2
I received a sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas last year. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh sapphire! it’s just like the ring my mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sister in law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
In all the other current issues going on, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it? Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no. Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings Me: but you specifically mentioned a sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was. Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to. Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly? Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it. Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand. It’s making me feel crazy.
There are actually many more examples like this, but over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.
Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”
When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty.
In light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.
I know the above seems like a lot, but I’m only asking so many questions about these issues and others in the last couple of days because suddenly everything is making sense. A number of events that I went “huh, that’s weird” over the last two years but took him at face value and brushed off are all coming back into focus. I’m trying to get him to admit to lying for things that I know for a fact he has lied about. I’m trying to get him to understand that he can’t just give me something that doesn’t make sense and expect me to believe it.
HE is the one who asks me daily to talk about the issues we're facing, to tell how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking etc. He brings it up, so I explain to him what doesn't make sense to me or what I'm trying to process.
I ask him questions so that I can understand what his story is, and how that interacts with the facts that I know. When he’s defensive and contradicting himself instead of being honest and saying “yeah I made that up”. The fact that I’ve told him that I just want the truth and he still can’t admit to it indicates that there’s a problem - I even held a “safe space lie amnesty” a couple of days ago where I said I just wanted to know what he’s lied about so we can move forward. A lie you’ve gotten yourself tangled in is one thing. Repeated and continuous lying even in the face of contradictory facts is concerning. Despite my repeatedly telling him I can handle the truth, he maintains lies that have no value. Most of the lies he's told me couldn't even be considered to be for a reason - if it was to protect my feelings I'd get it, but some of them are just for attention.
These are not two isolated incidents, these are two of maybe ten events that I can recall from the last 2 years that have always been weird to me, but I kinda brushed them under the rug until recently when I realised there was something else going on.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask from a man who has repeatedly told me how much he values the honesty and openness in our relationship to show me those same values. He is not a man who has ever even indicated that he wanted to have his own space or privacy, in fact, he jumped into the relationship with "we should have each other's phone passcodes and be able to look at it whenever we want because we have absolutely nooooooo secrets". That was a bit of a shock to my system, but I thought 'hey, if this man wants full transparency and openness then let's go for it'.
Sometimes I’m furious and can’t stand the sight of him and other times I think it’s not such a big deal. I don’t know if I even really know how I feel about it. Sometimes merely annoyed, other times completely betrayed.
For me to move forward with him, I need to understand what’s driving this behaviour. Is it a personality disorder? NPD? BPD? Has anyone been through similar? How did it end? This is all I can think about. I don’t know what it means.

I welcome all insight here but I am not seeking anger. I am seeking success stories of redeemed or tolerated relationships (if there are any!)
My husband and I had to go to couples counseling because of the strain my MIL has put on me and my marriage. We have graduated to going as-needed and me remaining in individual counseling. My therapist and I have identified that I struggle with trust and forgiveness, hence why the MIL issue has boiled up to this point.
At every opportunity for me and SO to have a significant life event, she has made it about herself. And then I felt crazy because my SO couldn't understand why that was an issue (he does now! And he sticks up for me, and is understanding when I put myself first. We are even working on him calling out her narcissistic tendencies first, so I don't feel like I'm always nitpicking/going crazy)
The thing is, and I don't know if my husband understands this, is this woman has pushed me to the brink of the end of my marriage. Whether that was divorce or suicide. I can't do it anymore. It's been 8 years of her chipping away at myself and my marriage. I will not conceed one more life event to her, when she has lived a full life and got to experience the depths of her joy.
In my eyes, my MIL has narcissistic tendencies but is not an intentionally malignant person. She cares so much about her family, which now includes me, but is almost like.... Incapable? Of seeing things through others eyes. She is the most generous and the most self centered person I know, which has put me in a weird spot.
My in-laws are very helpful and very loving. They are also very overbearing at times. I have and will continue to call out and correct treatment I don't like. I learned recently this has made me MIL "afraid" of me. I don't like that. I think it's because I am the first person in her life to tell her no/not center on her feelings.
I don't like that. I don't want my MIL to be afraid of me. I want a close family relationship, but it seems like my options are to either tolerate her self-centeredness or to remove myself from family events that aren't obligatory. I don't want to fracture their family - I don't view that as my place. As long as my husband puts me first in OUR family (which he is and I am proud of him for), and views me as HIS family now, I am satisfied enough.
I give my MIL a lot of credit for being well-intentioned. She's sweet but tone death. She is not a black and white person which I especially struggle with (for context; autism runs in my side of the family and my therapist has noted I have autistic tendencies)
Do y'all have any advice or insight? How did you get to a tolerable place? I have checked out JUSTNO and I believe that my MIL's good intentions and sweetness keeps her a MildlyNo. I would like to foster whatever relationship I can without sacrificing my marriage or mental health at this point.

I’ve been with my husband for a couple of years now, married a few months. I caught him out in a pretty big lie last weekend and it’s unravelled so many things. So many times that I thought that what he was saying was strange, or seemed far-fetched all make sense now. The lies aren’t even big or to hide something that would hurt someone’s feelings, it’s just small stuff but the lie is what makes it huge for me. I’ll give a couple of examples to provide a bit of context:
EXAMPLE 1
When we met, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
A few days ago, I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
I asked him again a couple of days later (in one of our attempts to resolve the situation) saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.
EXAMPLE 2
I received a sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas last year. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh sapphire! it’s just like the ring my mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sister in law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
In all the other current issues going on, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it? Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no. Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings Me: but you specifically mentioned a sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was. Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to. Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly? Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it. Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand. It’s making me feel crazy.
There are actually many more examples like this, but over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.
Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”
When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty.
In light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.
I know the above seems like a lot, but I’m only asking so many questions about these issues and others in the last couple of days because suddenly everything is making sense. A number of events that I went “huh, that’s weird” over the last two years but took him at face value and brushed off are all coming back into focus. I’m trying to get him to admit to lying for things that I know for a fact he has lied about. I’m trying to get him to understand that he can’t just give me something that doesn’t make sense and expect me to believe it.
HE is the one who asks me daily to talk about the issues we're facing, to tell how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking etc. He brings it up, so I explain to him what doesn't make sense to me or what I'm trying to process.
I ask him questions so that I can understand what his story is, and how that interacts with the facts that I know. When he’s defensive and contradicting himself instead of being honest and saying “yeah I made that up”. The fact that I’ve told him that I just want the truth and he still can’t admit to it indicates that there’s a problem - I even held a “safe space lie amnesty” a couple of days ago where I said I just wanted to know what he’s lied about so we can move forward. A lie you’ve gotten yourself tangled in is one thing. Repeated and continuous lying even in the face of contradictory facts is concerning. Despite my repeatedly telling him I can handle the truth, he maintains lies that have no value. Most of the lies he's told me couldn't even be considered to be for a reason - if it was to protect my feelings I'd get it, but some of them are just for attention.
These are not two isolated incidents, these are two of maybe ten events that I can recall from the last 2 years that have always been weird to me, but I kinda brushed them under the rug until recently when I realised there was something else going on.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask from a man who has repeatedly told me how much he values the honesty and openness in our relationship to show me those same values. He is not a man who has ever even indicated that he wanted to have his own space or privacy, in fact, he jumped into the relationship with "we should have each other's phone passcodes and be able to look at it whenever we want because we have absolutely nooooooo secrets". That was a bit of a shock to my system, but I thought 'hey, if this man wants full transparency and openness then let's go for it'.
Sometimes I’m furious and can’t stand the sight of him and other times I think it’s not such a big deal. I don’t know if I even really know how I feel about it. Sometimes merely annoyed, other times completely betrayed.
So…. AITAH for considering ending the marriage?

Rishikesh, a serene retreat nestled in the lap of the Himalayas along the banks of the sacred Ganges River, is not only a haven for spiritual seekers but also a paradise for those seeking culinary delights. While exploring the tranquil beauty of Rishikesh, finding the perfect place to stay is essential for an unforgettable experience. In this article, we'll delve into the best places to stay in Rishikesh, each offering a peaceful escape, and highlight the rooftop restaurants where you can savor delectable cuisine while soaking in breathtaking views of this enchanting city.
Riverside Retreats: Embracing Nature's Serenity
Riverside retreats in Rishikesh offer an unparalleled opportunity to immerse yourself in the serene beauty of the Ganges River while enjoying luxurious accommodations and top-notch hospitality. These tranquil sanctuaries provide a peaceful escape from the hustle and bustle of city life, allowing you to unwind and rejuvenate amidst nature's splendor.
After a day of exploring Rishikesh's spiritual sites and natural wonders, head to the rooftop restaurants at riverside retreats for a memorable dining experience. Here, you can indulge in a variety of cuisines ranging from traditional Indian dishes to international favorites, all while enjoying panoramic views of the river and surrounding mountains. Whether you're savoring a leisurely breakfast at sunrise or enjoying a romantic dinner under the stars, rooftop restaurants at riverside retreats in Rishikesh offer an unforgettable culinary journey.
Ashrams: Nurturing the Spirit and the Palate
For those seeking a deeper spiritual experience, staying in an ashram in Rishikesh provides an opportunity to connect with your inner self while enjoying simple and wholesome meals prepared with love and care. Ashrams offer a serene and contemplative environment where guests can immerse themselves in yoga, meditation, and spiritual practices under the guidance of experienced teachers and gurus.
While the focus of ashram life is on inner transformation and self-discovery, many ashrams in Rishikesh also offer rooftop dining areas where guests can enjoy delicious vegetarian meals while taking in panoramic views of the surrounding landscape. Whether you're savoring a nourishing meal after a yoga session or enjoying a quiet moment of reflection as you gaze out at the mountains, rooftop restaurants at ashrams in Rishikesh provide a peaceful and rejuvenating dining experience.
Guesthouses: Charming Retreats with a View
Guesthouses in Rishikesh offer a cozy and intimate setting where travelers can experience the warmth of Indian hospitality while enjoying comfortable accommodations and personalized service. These charming retreats are often located in quiet residential neighborhoods or scenic countryside settings, providing a peaceful escape from the hustle and bustle of the city.
Many guesthouses in Rishikesh boast rooftop restaurants where guests can dine alfresco while enjoying stunning views of the surrounding landscape. Whether you're savoring a homemade meal prepared with locally sourced ingredients or sampling authentic Indian cuisine, rooftop restaurants at guesthouses in Rishikesh offer a delightful culinary experience in a relaxed and inviting atmosphere.
Resorts: Luxurious Dining with a View
For travelers seeking luxury and indulgence, resorts in Rishikesh offer a perfect blend of opulence and natural beauty. Set amidst sprawling gardens and lush greenery, these upscale accommodations provide a tranquil retreat where guests can relax and rejuvenate in style.
Rooftop restaurants at resorts in Rishikesh offer a sophisticated dining experience with panoramic views of the Ganges River and surrounding mountains. Whether you're enjoying a sumptuous buffet breakfast, savoring a candlelit dinner under the stars, or toasting to your adventures with handcrafted cocktails, rooftop restaurants at resorts in Rishikesh provide an unforgettable culinary journey in a luxurious setting.
Budget-Friendly Hostels: Vibrant Dining and Socializing
For budget-conscious travelers and backpackers, hostels in Rishikesh offer affordable accommodations and a vibrant social atmosphere where guests can connect with like-minded travelers from around the world. These lively establishments often feature rooftop dining areas where guests can enjoy delicious meals while soaking in panoramic views of the city.
Rooftop restaurants at hostels in Rishikesh offer a casual and laid-back dining experience with a focus on local flavors and international cuisine. Whether you're swapping travel stories with fellow guests over a shared meal or enjoying a solo dining experience with a view, rooftop restaurants at hostels in Rishikesh provide a fun and memorable culinary adventure without breaking the bank.
Conclusion: A Culinary Journey in Tranquil Surroundings
In Rishikesh, the best places to stay offer more than just comfortable accommodations—they provide a tranquil escape where you can unwind, recharge, and reconnect with yourself and the world around you. Whether you choose a riverside retreat, an ashram, a guesthouse, a resort, or a hostel, rooftop restaurants in Rishikesh offer a delightful culinary experience with panoramic views of this enchanting city. So pack your bags, embark on your journey, and discover the best places to stay in Rishikesh for a tranquil escape and a culinary journey you'll never forget.

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context I (22 f) had two childhood best friends let's call them Mary and Anna for the sake of the story... We were inseparable we did everything together made sure we spend as much time as possible together, now there has been many red flags about Anna since the beginning of this friendship but we ignored them cuz "she was our friend she could never have bad intentions"... Both of Mary's parents had cancer and she only had a little sister who was a kid at the time and only one uncle so she was on her own... Two years ago unfortunately both of Mary's parents died within the same year only five months apart her mom first then her dad.. The friendship went downhill since that moment when Mary's mom died she was devastated and all alone at the funeral "her culture demands three days funeral at the church and then people would come to visit the family's house after".... We all had uni exams at that time but I didn't think much of that and just packed my stuff and went to help my friend out cleaning the house helping her out and kept doing that for the next few months.. Now Anna..she didn't show up at the funeral ,also she would go out partying shopping during the first three days ...and posting it all on her stories... And of course Mary noticed that and got really hurt.. When she confronted Anna.. Anna tried to defend herself by saying the worst things ever things like "my parents didn't want me to catch all the bad energy" and "they said we aren't gonna adopt you anyway so why waste my time instead of studying" when she realised that Mary was even more pissed off she tried turn things around and make me look bad I wasn't even there she said that I told her not to come and I was trying to sabotage the friendship between them and that's when Mary had enough and decided to just cut her off and leave this friendship... Since that moment and that girl took it upon herself to make my life a living hell she tried to make our friends cut me off and spread a rumer that I was sleeping with MARY'S FATHER and would bully me for the fact that I'm a hijabi I'm Muslim she's not I confronted her and then completely ignored her. Fast forward to last month at my work place I saw a familiar name we have clients and those clients we deal with for like six or seven months cuz we're an educational institute I told my manager the story and that I'm ready to quit my job that I love just to not deal with that person ever again. Now when she realized I work there I ghosted her in real life I wouldn't even look at her she went back to her old twisted games she bullied our employees who are just a bunch of teenagers and was talking shit about me saying she wouldn't do business with this place if they didn't fire me cuz a well respected place shouldn't hire people like me unfortunately for her my clients were there they stood up for me defended me and put her back in her place at that moment she went crazy..she made a big scene and called for the manager .. Who was there at the time and saw everything and instead of getting me in trouble she was kicked out and banned from this place and since we live in a very small town now everyone knows her as the psychotic karen and now alot of people are avoiding working or coming into contact with her .. Now her family is blowing up my phone with nasty messages her mom saw my mom at shop and told her that she raised a monster and even some of our friends said it was a dck move from me to tell on her and that I ruined her reputation... So was it really a dck move that I told my boss her story .. I did that just because I didn't want troubles and was lowkey worried that she'd try to do something.. So AITA or was is self defense?

Racism and cultural doubtfulness often stem from a combination of historical prejudices, lack of exposure, and misunderstandings about other heritages and cultures. Addressing these issues requires both individual and collective efforts to foster understanding, empathy, and respect. Here’s how we can navigate and improve our interactions with diverse heritages and cultures:

Understanding Racism and Cultural Doubt

Roots of Racism

• Historical Context: Racism is deeply rooted in history, often perpetuated by colonialism, slavery, and segregation, leading to systemic inequalities.
• Stereotypes and Prejudices: Stereotypes and prejudices are ingrained beliefs that simplify and generalize about a group of people, often negatively.

Cultural Doubtfulness

• Fear of the Unknown: Lack of exposure to different cultures can lead to fear or doubt when encountering unfamiliar customs or behaviors.
• Miscommunication: Cultural differences in communication styles, body language, and social norms can lead to misunderstandings and mistrust.

Strategies for Overcoming Racism and Cultural Doubt

Education and Awareness

• Learn About Other Cultures: Actively seek out information about different cultures through reading, attending cultural events, and engaging with diverse media.
• Understand Historical Contexts: Study the history of racism and the experiences of marginalized groups to understand the systemic nature of discrimination.

Building Empathy and Understanding

• Engage in Dialogue: Have open, respectful conversations with people from different backgrounds to learn about their experiences and perspectives.
• Practice Active Listening: Listen with the intent to understand rather than respond. This helps in appreciating different viewpoints and reducing biases.

Challenging Stereotypes

• Question Assumptions: Reflect on your own beliefs and biases. Challenge stereotypes by seeking evidence and considering individual differences within cultural groups.
• Highlight Positive Examples: Promote and celebrate positive stories and contributions from diverse cultures to counteract negative stereotypes.

Promoting Inclusivity

• Inclusive Language: Use language that respects and acknowledges diversity. Avoid terms that are derogatory or perpetuate stereotypes.
• Diverse Representation: Support and advocate for the representation of diverse cultures in media, workplaces, and educational materials.

Practical Actions for Individuals

1. Self-Reflection: Regularly reflect on your own biases and work towards becoming more open-minded and accepting.
2. Cultural Exchange: Participate in cultural exchange programs or activities that promote mutual understanding and respect.
3. Support Diversity: Support businesses, artists, and leaders from diverse backgrounds. This helps in promoting economic and social inclusion.
4. Educate Others: Share your knowledge and experiences about different cultures with friends, family, and community members to spread awareness.

Practical Actions for Organizations

1. Diversity Training: Implement regular diversity and inclusion training for employees to educate them about different cultures and combat racism.
2. Inclusive Policies: Develop and enforce policies that promote equality and protect against discrimination in the workplace.
3. Cultural Celebrations: Celebrate cultural heritage days and encourage employees to share their traditions and customs.
4. Support Networks: Create support networks and affinity groups for employees from diverse backgrounds to share their experiences and support one another.

Creating a Culture of Respect

• Empathy Building: Encourage empathy by sharing personal stories and experiences within the community or organization.
• Collaborative Projects: Promote collaborative projects that require teamwork and cooperation among people from diverse backgrounds.
• Open Forums: Organize open forums and discussion groups where people can express their concerns and ideas about racism and cultural doubtfulness.

Conclusion

Addressing racism and cultural doubtfulness requires a commitment to continuous learning, open dialogue, and proactive efforts to foster inclusivity and respect. By understanding the roots of these issues and actively working to overcome them, we can build a more equitable and harmonious society where diversity is celebrated and everyone feels valued.
Aligned by to a fake identity you have built to people you don't know or close even and encounter all the resentment forms at all levels
Living behind a facade or a fake identity can be emotionally exhausting and ultimately damaging to personal well-being and relationships. When this facade begins to crumble or when individuals encounter resentment from others as a result, the effects can be profound. Here’s a guide to addressing this situation, rebuilding authenticity, and dealing with resentment at all levels:

1. Self-Reflection and Acceptance

Understand Your Reasons

• Identify Motivations: Reflect on why you felt the need to build a fake identity. Common reasons might include fear of rejection, a desire for approval, or past traumas.
• Acknowledge Feelings: Recognize and accept the feelings of guilt, shame, or fear that might be associated with living a false identity.

Commit to Authenticity

• Value Authenticity: Understand the importance of being true to yourself. Authenticity leads to more genuine relationships and personal fulfillment.
• Set Intentions: Decide to live more authentically moving forward. This includes being honest about your feelings, beliefs, and identity.

2. Gradual Revelation and Honest Communication

Start Small

• Begin with Close Ones: Start by being honest with those you trust the most. Explain why you felt the need to create a fake identity and express your desire to be more authentic.
• Be Patient: Understand that revealing your true self is a process. Take gradual steps to dismantle the facade.

Honest Communication

• Apologize Sincerely: If your actions have hurt others, offer a sincere apology. Acknowledge the impact of your fake identity on your relationships.
• Explain Without Justifying: Explain your motivations without making excuses. Help others understand your perspective and the pressures you faced.

3. Handling Resentment

Empathy and Understanding

• Listen Actively: Allow others to express their feelings and frustrations. Listen without interrupting or defending yourself.
• Acknowledge Their Feelings: Validate their emotions. Understanding that their resentment may stem from feelings of betrayal or hurt is crucial.

Rebuilding Trust

• Consistent Behavior: Show through your actions that you are committed to being authentic. Consistency over time helps rebuild trust.
• Transparency: Be transparent in your interactions. Keep open lines of communication and share your thoughts and feelings honestly.

4. Self-Care and Support

Seek Professional Help

• Therapy or Counseling: Consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide guidance and support as you navigate this complex emotional terrain.
• Support Groups: Join support groups where you can share your experiences and learn from others who have faced similar challenges.

Self-Care Practices

• Mindfulness and Meditation: Engage in mindfulness practices to stay grounded and connected to your true self.
• Healthy Lifestyle: Maintain a healthy lifestyle with regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep to support your mental and emotional health.

5. Building Authentic Relationships

New Connections

• Meet New People: Join groups or communities that align with your true interests and values. Building new relationships based on authenticity can be refreshing and fulfilling.
• Shared Activities: Engage in activities and hobbies that genuinely interest you. This will help attract like-minded individuals and foster genuine connections.

Reinforcing Authenticity

• Set Boundaries: Establish and maintain boundaries that support your well-being and authenticity. Avoid situations or relationships that pressure you to revert to inauthentic behavior.
• Celebrate Authenticity: Celebrate the moments when you express your true self. Recognize and reward yourself for being authentic.

Conclusion

Reclaiming your authentic self after living behind a fake identity involves deep self-reflection, honest communication, and consistent efforts to rebuild trust and relationships. By understanding the reasons behind your facade and committing to authenticity, you can overcome resentment and foster more genuine, fulfilling connections. Seeking support and practicing self-care are crucial steps in this transformative journey, ultimately leading to a more honest and satisfying life.

Life becomes significantly more challenging when you find yourself in a wheelchair at the age of 50. Indeed, things change drastically. I used to be very active, doing everything I wished at a younger age. Having been in a wheelchair since '88, that's 37 years now, I've realized that not paying attention to your health when you're younger makes things tougher as you age. So, I decided to change my lifestyle, stay strong, motivated, and focused. I've endured a lot, undergone numerous surgeries, and faced many situations that forced me to do things I disliked, like using a motorized wheelchair, which I despised. I transitioned from driving a vehicle with hand controls to now needing a minivan that accommodates my wheelchair. Yes, I hate it, but I share this because when you're young, everything seems fine as long as you're doing well. However, you must manage your life carefully because it evolves over time, and eventually, you will age and require assistance. I was once very independent, refusing help and not wanting to be proven wrong. I wanted to be self-reliant. Now, I see myself as a work in progress, but I'm doing well. Life is something to be grateful for, for all of us. Thank you for listening to a part of my story; I plan to share more.

Returning to a routine or community after isolating during hard times can be challenging but also transformative. Here are some steps to reintegrate effectively, rebuild relationships, and leverage the lessons learned from your period of isolation:

1. Self-Reflection and Understanding

• Acknowledge Growth: Recognize and appreciate the personal growth and resilience developed during your hard times. Understand the strengths you've gained and how they've prepared you for reintegration.
• Identify Lessons: Reflect on the lessons learned during isolation. These might include coping mechanisms, new skills, or deeper self-awareness.

2. Gradual Reconnection

• Start Slowly: Reconnect with close friends or family members first. Share your experiences in a way that feels comfortable, allowing them to understand your journey.
• Join Group Activities: Participate in group activities or communities where you feel a sense of belonging. This can be a hobby group, a support group, or a professional network.

3. Open Communication

• Share Your Experience: Communicate openly about your hard times and isolation if you feel comfortable. Sharing your story can foster understanding and support.
• Set Boundaries: Be clear about your boundaries and needs. It's important to protect your well-being as you reintegrate.

4. Rebuilding Relationships

• Show Appreciation: Express gratitude to those who supported you or reached out during your hard times. This strengthens bonds and shows you value their support.
• Be Patient: Understand that rebuilding relationships takes time. Be patient with yourself and others as you navigate this process.

5. Creating a Balanced Routine

• Incorporate Self-Care: Integrate self-care practices into your daily routine to maintain the resilience you've built. This can include mindfulness, exercise, or hobbies.
• Set Realistic Goals: Set achievable goals for reintegration, whether personal, social, or professional. Celebrate small milestones to stay motivated.

6. Seeking Professional Support

• Therapy or Counseling: Consider seeking professional support to navigate the emotional complexities of reintegration. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance and strategies tailored to your needs.
• Support Groups: Join support groups where you can share experiences with others who have gone through similar situations. This can provide a sense of community and understanding.

7. Leveraging Your Experience

• Share Your Story: Use your experience to inspire and support others. Whether through writing, speaking, or volunteering, sharing your journey can be empowering for both you and your audience.
• Advocacy: Advocate for mental health awareness or other causes related to your experience. This can give a sense of purpose and contribute positively to your community.

Practical Example: Reintegration Process

Scenario: Returning to Work After a Period of Isolation

1. Self-Reflection: Recognize that you’ve developed new coping skills and resilience.
2. Gradual Reconnection: Start by reconnecting with close colleagues and friends at work.
3. Open Communication: Share with your manager and close colleagues about your time away and any accommodations you might need.
4. Rebuilding Relationships: Show appreciation for colleagues who supported you, and be patient with yourself and others as you adjust.
5. Balanced Routine: Incorporate breaks and self-care into your workday to manage stress.
6. Professional Support: Consider discussing your return with a therapist to navigate any challenges.
7. Leveraging Experience: Use your experience to mentor others facing similar challenges, fostering a supportive workplace environment.

Reintegrating after a period of isolation can be a deeply rewarding process, allowing you to bring newfound strength, insight, and resilience to your life and relationships. By taking a thoughtful and gradual approach, you can rebuild connections and create a balanced, fulfilling routine.
Regain your energy for what you have been missed as a human
Regaining your energy and reclaiming aspects of life you may have missed during challenging times involves a holistic approach that nurtures your physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being. Here’s a comprehensive guide to help you restore your vitality and reconnect with the richness of human experience:

1. Physical Health

Nutrition

• Balanced Diet: Focus on a nutritious, balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats.
• Hydration: Ensure adequate water intake to stay hydrated and support overall bodily functions.

Exercise

• Regular Physical Activity: Incorporate regular exercise into your routine, whether it’s walking, running, yoga, or strength training.
• Outdoor Activities: Engage in outdoor activities like hiking, biking, or gardening to benefit from fresh air and nature.

Rest and Sleep

• Quality Sleep: Prioritize getting 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night. Establish a consistent sleep schedule.
• Relaxation Techniques: Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or listening to calming music before bedtime.

2. Emotional and Psychological Health

Self-Care

• Mindfulness and Meditation: Practice mindfulness and meditation to reduce stress and increase emotional resilience.
• Journaling: Keep a journal to express your thoughts and feelings, which can help process emotions and gain clarity.

Therapy and Counseling

• Professional Support: Seek therapy or counseling if needed to address unresolved emotional issues and develop coping strategies.
• Support Groups: Join support groups where you can share experiences and find community support.

3. Mental Stimulation

Lifelong Learning

• New Skills: Learn new skills or hobbies that interest you, such as painting, playing an instrument, or coding.
• Reading: Read books, articles, and other materials that stimulate your mind and expand your knowledge.

Challenges and Puzzles

• Mental Games: Engage in puzzles, brain games, and other activities that challenge your mind and improve cognitive function.
• Educational Courses: Take online courses or attend workshops to continue your education and personal development.

4. Social Connections

Reconnecting with Others

• Reach Out: Reconnect with family, friends, and colleagues. Schedule regular meet-ups, calls, or video chats.
• Social Activities: Participate in social activities or join clubs and organizations that interest you.

Building New Relationships

• Networking: Attend networking events or community gatherings to meet new people and expand your social circle.
• Volunteering: Volunteer for causes you care about to meet like-minded individuals and contribute to your community.

5. Spiritual and Personal Growth

Spiritual Practices

• Meditation and Prayer: Engage in meditation, prayer, or other spiritual practices that align with your beliefs and values.
• Reflection: Set aside time for reflection and introspection to connect with your inner self and gain insight into your life’s purpose.

Purpose and Goals

• Set Goals: Define clear, meaningful goals for yourself in various areas of life, such as career, personal growth, and relationships.
• Pursue Passions: Identify and pursue passions and interests that bring joy and fulfillment.

Practical Steps to Regain Energy

1. Create a Routine: Develop a daily routine that includes time for physical activity, self-care, learning, and social interaction.
2. Set Realistic Goals: Set achievable goals to gradually rebuild different aspects of your life. Celebrate small victories to stay motivated.
3. Stay Positive: Maintain a positive outlook and practice gratitude. Focus on the progress you’ve made and the opportunities ahead.
4. Seek Balance: Strive for balance in all areas of life, ensuring you’re nurturing your body, mind, and soul.
5. Be Patient: Understand that regaining energy and reconnecting with life is a gradual process. Be patient with yourself and recognize that it’s okay to take small steps.

By following these strategies, you can restore your energy and rediscover the joys and richness of life, creating a more fulfilling and balanced existence.

Returning to a routine or community after isolating during hard times can be challenging but also transformative. Here are some steps to reintegrate effectively, rebuild relationships, and leverage the lessons learned from your period of isolation:

1. Self-Reflection and Understanding

• Acknowledge Growth: Recognize and appreciate the personal growth and resilience developed during your hard times. Understand the strengths you've gained and how they've prepared you for reintegration.
• Identify Lessons: Reflect on the lessons learned during isolation. These might include coping mechanisms, new skills, or deeper self-awareness.

2. Gradual Reconnection

• Start Slowly: Reconnect with close friends or family members first. Share your experiences in a way that feels comfortable, allowing them to understand your journey.
• Join Group Activities: Participate in group activities or communities where you feel a sense of belonging. This can be a hobby group, a support group, or a professional network.

3. Open Communication

• Share Your Experience: Communicate openly about your hard times and isolation if you feel comfortable. Sharing your story can foster understanding and support.
• Set Boundaries: Be clear about your boundaries and needs. It's important to protect your well-being as you reintegrate.

4. Rebuilding Relationships

• Show Appreciation: Express gratitude to those who supported you or reached out during your hard times. This strengthens bonds and shows you value their support.
• Be Patient: Understand that rebuilding relationships takes time. Be patient with yourself and others as you navigate this process.

5. Creating a Balanced Routine

• Incorporate Self-Care: Integrate self-care practices into your daily routine to maintain the resilience you've built. This can include mindfulness, exercise, or hobbies.
• Set Realistic Goals: Set achievable goals for reintegration, whether personal, social, or professional. Celebrate small milestones to stay motivated.

6. Seeking Professional Support

• Therapy or Counseling: Consider seeking professional support to navigate the emotional complexities of reintegration. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance and strategies tailored to your needs.
• Support Groups: Join support groups where you can share experiences with others who have gone through similar situations. This can provide a sense of community and understanding.

7. Leveraging Your Experience

• Share Your Story: Use your experience to inspire and support others. Whether through writing, speaking, or volunteering, sharing your journey can be empowering for both you and your audience.
• Advocacy: Advocate for mental health awareness or other causes related to your experience. This can give a sense of purpose and contribute positively to your community.

Practical Example: Reintegration Process

Scenario: Returning to Work After a Period of Isolation

1. Self-Reflection: Recognize that you’ve developed new coping skills and resilience.
2. Gradual Reconnection: Start by reconnecting with close colleagues and friends at work.
3. Open Communication: Share with your manager and close colleagues about your time away and any accommodations you might need.
4. Rebuilding Relationships: Show appreciation for colleagues who supported you, and be patient with yourself and others as you adjust.
5. Balanced Routine: Incorporate breaks and self-care into your workday to manage stress.
6. Professional Support: Consider discussing your return with a therapist to navigate any challenges.
7. Leveraging Experience: Use your experience to mentor others facing similar challenges, fostering a supportive workplace environment.

Reintegrating after a period of isolation can be a deeply rewarding process, allowing you to bring newfound strength, insight, and resilience to your life and relationships. By taking a thoughtful and gradual approach, you can rebuild connections and create a balanced, fulfilling routine.

Hi! I am a newbie coach. Currently building my portfolio of success stories from clients.
If you're interested, I'll be happy and excited to work with you.
The goal of the program is to help you overcome your food addiction and binge-eating. Be craving free. Not be a victim and slave to your cravings and leaving you sedated and lethargic from binge-eating. Ending up demotived.
We also aim for good energy so you actually get to live the life you want to live and pursue your passion.
Yung totoong rason naman bakit tayo malakas kumain dahil sa cravings natin. Kapag nawala na cravings natin, hindi mo kailangan ng discipline at self-control kasi wala ka ng kailangan labanan. Effortless na ang weightloss kasi ikaw na mismo aayaw sa dating unhealthy habits mo. Gumawa kana ng bagong ikaw.
As a former fat guy that shared the same struggles with their relationship with food, I understand how hard it is sticking to a diet. But narealize ko kaya karamihan satin nag fefail or pumayat na dati tapos na-gain ulit lahat ng pinayat at mas tumaba ba, kasi hindi talaga natin na address yung root cause kung bakit tayo tumaba. A part of the reason is yung burn out ng pag pigil ng cravings. Kahit may cheat meal/day tayo sa diet, wala tyong ibang iniisip kundi yung oras na mkakain ulit natin yung favorite food natin. Ang naging problem ko din dati, after ko kumain ng cheat meal, minsan magiging cheat day, tapos cheat week. Hanggang sa tuluyan nakong hindi naka balik alindog. Balik nanaman sa dati. Pag natikman ko na yung paborito kong pagkain, hindi ko na kayang huminto.
The goal of the program is not to manage cravings, but remove cravings. Hindi mo kailangan ng discipline at self control kung ikaw na mismo aayaw sa mga guilty pleasures na pagkain.
"Food Freedom and Fitness" program
What can you expect in the program/ebook: 1) What is food addiction 2) How to overcome food addiction 3) My journey, struggles, and how I overcame my food addiction 4) Introduction to Running as a Hobby and How to Start 5) Training Schedule for Body Sculpting 6) Daily Journaling 7) Accountability Tracking
In this program, all of the knowledge I feel necessary is in here. Apart from the program, you get access to a support system to track your progress and accountability
Introductory Price : Php 500 with 4-week support/partner. You can message me 24/7 if you're having troubles with your cravings. Think of me as more of a sponsor and guide through your food freedom journey. And someone you can confide to in your daily struggles.
What to do after the 4 week period? Rinse and repeat the entire program. There are unlimited potential variety inside the program on how your day will be like.
Feel free to send me a DM if you are interested.

Hi! I am a newbie coach. Currently building my portfolio of success stories from clients.
If you're interested, I'll be happy and excited to work with you.
The goal of the program is to help you overcome your food addiction and binge-eating. Be craving free. Not be a victim and slave to your cravings and leaving you sedated and lethargic from binge-eating. Ending up demotived.
We also aim for good energy so you actually get to live the life you want to live and pursue your passion.
Yung totoong rason naman bakit tayo malakas kumain dahil sa cravings natin. Kapag nawala na cravings natin, hindi mo kailangan ng discipline at self-control kasi wala ka ng kailangan labanan. Effortless na ang weightloss kasi ikaw na mismo aayaw sa dating unhealthy habits mo. Gumawa kana ng bagong ikaw.
As a former fat guy that shared the same struggles with their relationship with food, I understand how hard it is sticking to a diet. But narealize ko kaya karamihan satin nag fefail or pumayat na dati tapos na-gain ulit lahat ng pinayat at mas tumaba ba, kasi hindi talaga natin na address yung root cause kung bakit tayo tumaba. A part of the reason is yung burn out ng pag pigil ng cravings. Kahit may cheat meal/day tayo sa diet, wala tyong ibang iniisip kundi yung oras na mkakain ulit natin yung favorite food natin. Ang naging problem ko din dati, after ko kumain ng cheat meal, minsan magiging cheat day, tapos cheat week. Hanggang sa tuluyan nakong hindi naka balik alindog. Balik nanaman sa dati. Pag natikman ko na yung paborito kong pagkain, hindi ko na kayang huminto.
The goal of the program is not to manage cravings, but remove cravings. Hindi mo kailangan ng discipline at self control kung ikaw na mismo aayaw sa mga guilty pleasures na pagkain.
"Food Freedom and Fitness" program
What can you expect in the program/ebook: 1) What is food addiction 2) How to overcome food addiction 3) My journey, struggles, and how I overcame my food addiction 4) Introduction to Running as a Hobby and How to Start 5) Training Schedule for Body Sculpting 6) Daily Journaling 7) Accountability Tracking
In this program, all of the knowledge I feel necessary is in here. Apart from the program, you get access to a support system to track your progress and accountability
Introductory Price : Php 500 with 4-week support/partner. You can message me 24/7 if you're having troubles with your cravings. Think of me as more of a sponsor and guide through your food freedom journey. And someone you can confide to in your daily struggles.
What to do after the 4 week period? Rinse and repeat the entire program. There are unlimited potential variety inside the program on how your day will be like.
Feel free to send me a DM if you are interested.