(Only Europe, Please) - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone who wants to be my friend - not the whole world.. which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me advice better block me! I'm an adult woman and I make all decisions on my own.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others every day because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..some people ask me "Why do you want to talk to people from Europe?" Well..Because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I'm not trying to sound rude but conversations once or twice a week wouldn't be enough for me and I don't need them... Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :) It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make more time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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• I'm not into foul language and I definitely don't want to talk to people who swear a lot...
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• I want to meet assertive people who know what they want and always stand up for their friends
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• I want to meet someone willing to call me In the future, someone spontaneously sending me pictures of animals or food, et cetera. I want more than just text conversations.. 🌻
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊

I recently broke up with my boyfriend and I feel so awful about it. We had been together for a year and a half, first serious relationship for me. Throughout the first year we had a lot of issues due to his drinking habits. There were multiple instances of him getting blackout drunk and verbally abusing me, breaking things around me and my property. When he’s sober and not past that point of being too drunk he is the best most caring person and I truly love him so much. He doesn’t have a close relationship with his family (they live on the other side of the world) and he doesn’t have many close friends anymore as they all have families now and are busy, so it was just me. He’s also dealing with a lot of self esteem issues and has lost his purpose on what he wants to do. The last 5 months I have not been living in our apartment because I wanted him to work on his drinking issues so that I felt confident and safe to return. I tried to help motivate him get fit and look for a new start in a different job. Things for the last 5 months have been good, but I haven’t been able to move on from the things that had happened previously and every few weeks I would have a bit of a melt down and get upset and I know he just wanted to move on from it. I decided to end things because I felt like I was only holding us both back because I know I can’t move on from how he treated me as much as I wanted to. It’s only been a few days but I feel so awful thinking that he’s already in this shit state of mind and now he’s alone. Should I have done more to help him? Am I awful for leaving someone when they clearly have some addiction going on?

I not sure if this story belong her or in AITA. Lets start with a bit of background. I work for a very big company but due to my speciality my work is split across the main company and one of the smaller companies. The MD of the main company allows my days to be split in half. The big company is very laid back when it comes to my work. As long as my work is done by the deadline date, they pretty much don’t care what I do during the work week. In the smaller company I report to the C-suite but the CEO. Lets call the CEO, RA ‘cos the sun doesn’t rise until he gets out of bed. RA is most interested in what I do during the day. If I didn’t know better I’d say that RA thinks that I don’t work but sit around playing computer games all day. RA send anything 20 – 30 emails to me per day and more than half will be the same question just phrased differently. Each email response is usually anything from 2 – 5 typed pages. I have even had emails sent to me at 11 Pm and at 8:30 the following morning an email asking why I haven’t responded to the previous email. If I am asked the same question multiple times I ignore the majority of the emails and only answer the question once. When I am working I need to concentrate and most days I close my email client so that I’m not disturbed. Last Monday, I’m working quite happily and I get a WhatsApp from asking me to please read an email and respond post haste (to quote RA). I stop what I am doing as I get the sinking feeling that something bad is about to happen. As per usual there are 30 emails from RA. The first email starts off by stating “You must always answer emails as quickly as possible as it is unprofessional and shows disrespect to the writer of the email.” Cue Malicious Compliance I stop what I am doing and start to respond to each email individually making sure that my answers to the same questions are different. I further indicate that I only work for him half day and will stop my work at exactly the middle of the work day. I spend the next day and a half responding to emails and not doing my work, even though there is a deadline looming for RA and his little company. These days when I walk into the office in the morning RA seems to have spent the entire night responding to the emails and in the process dragging other members of staff into the email trail and the email is getting so complex that I don’t know what’s going on. Yesterday, I was expected to have finished RA’s work and when asked to present the outcome, I simply said that I had not finished. When asked why, my response was that I was so busy responding to emails I wasn’t able to do the work. RA lost his mind and started to threaten me with being fired. He said that there was a customer that was waiting for the result of my work. He then asks why was emails put above doing my work and all I did was produce a copy of the email. My Boss from the big company was also present and all she did was laugh. She then told RA that I will no longer do any work for his company and he must find somebody else.

I (21F) started seeing this guy (21M) about a month ago. We've gone on some romantic dates and he seems to like me a lot. He got out of a 2 year relationship about 3 months ago so I was not expecting a lot from this. Side note - I have been obsessed with this guy who goes to a nearby school that I have seen on and off for about 3 years, but never in the context of a real relationship. Our last contact was more than a month ago when I reached out and we talked for a second before he left me a dry message that I did not respond to.
I've alluded to my obsession with this guy in passing, just that I'm also kinda hung up on someone in a similar way he is to his ex. He asked one time if I still thought about him to which I answered truthfully, yes, daily, it's a real obsession and one that I hate having. This made him quite upset and he was seriously considering not continuing to see me, which I totally understand. We seemed to have come to the conclusion that we would continue seeing each other as we had been and that it was too early on to make rash decisions about this. He said that he would talk to his therapist and might change his mind in the coming days. We had agreed to be exclusive earlier, which is not an official boyfriend-girlfriend agreement, but one that requires we not sleep with other people. In the morning, he said that he wouldn't change his mind and that we would continue business as usual.
A few days later I get a text from the other guy (22M) asking to get coffee to catch up sometime. It was a text I've been wanting for a while. I was shocked and didn't know whether I should ignore the text, respond but decline, or agree to see him. I went back and forth for a while, mainly because I am so scared of hurting who I am seeing. Despite my hesitation, I've agreed to see him for coffee. A part of me sees this meeting as being helpful. Perhaps it would take off the veil of my fantasy towards this guy? Or maybe ending things on my terms will be beneficial? He is leaving for the summer so it would not make sense to pursue him seriously.
My question is whether I should tell the guy that I am seeing. Since I regretfully disclosed my obsession, he would not be thrilled about this coffee meeting. He would likely be upset and try to prevent it. I'm definitely not going to engage in anything sexual with this guy. I feel like if I did tell him and he tried to stop it from happening, I would resent him and regret not going anytime I didn't get along with this guy. I could also tell him after I do it, but still I don't know if it would be beneficial or necessary to tell him everything. I feel skeevy about the whole thing but I do really like this guy but also feel the need to see this other guy for coffee.
TL;DR: To tell or not tell about coffee with an ex

I (21F) started seeing this guy (21M) about a month ago. We've gone on some romantic dates and he seems to like me a lot. He got out of a 2 year relationship about 3 months ago so I was not expecting a lot from this. Side note - I have been obsessed with this guy who goes to a nearby school that I have seen on and off for about 3 years, but never in the context of a real relationship. Our last contact was more than a month ago when I reached out and we talked for a second before he left me a dry message that I did not respond to.
I've alluded to my obsession with this guy in passing, just that I'm also kinda hung up on someone in a similar way he is to his ex. He asked one time if I still thought about him to which I answered truthfully, yes, daily, it's a real obsession and one that I hate having. This made him quite upset and he was seriously considering not continuing to see me, which I totally understand. We seemed to have come to the conclusion that we would continue seeing each other as we had been and that it was too early on to make rash decisions about this. He said that he would talk to his therapist and might change his mind in the coming days. We had agreed to be exclusive earlier, which is not an official boyfriend-girlfriend agreement, but one that requires we not sleep with other people. In the morning, he said that he wouldn't change his mind and that we would continue business as usual.
A few days later I get a text from the other guy (22M) asking to get coffee to catch up sometime. It was a text I've been wanting for a while. I was shocked and didn't know whether I should ignore the text, respond but decline, or agree to see him. I went back and forth for a while, mainly because I am so scared of hurting who I am seeing. Despite my hesitation, I've agreed to see him for coffee. A part of me sees this meeting as being helpful. Perhaps it would take off the veil of my fantasy towards this guy? Or maybe ending things on my terms will be beneficial? He is leaving for the summer so it would not make sense to pursue him seriously.
My question is whether I should tell the guy that I am seeing. Since I regretfully disclosed my obsession, he would not be thrilled about this coffee meeting. He would likely be upset and try to prevent it. I'm definitely not going to engage in anything sexual with this guy. I feel like if I did tell him and he tried to stop it from happening, I would resent him and regret not going anytime I didn't get along with this guy. I could also tell him after I do it, but still I don't know if it would be beneficial or necessary to tell him everything. I feel skeevy about the whole thing but I do really like this guy but also feel the need to see this other guy for coffee.
TL;DR: To tell or not tell about coffee with an ex

I F24 messed up everything. I’ve been with my partner M35 for almost 3 years. I know the age difference is big, but in his defence I lied about my age on the dating app so that I could meet older men. He knew from the first date and decided to still give it a try. Anyways, we’ve always been perfect. Never a single argument, we always resolve everything. He’s bought a new flat and is waiting for the keys, which should’ve happened weeks ago but solicitors are awful. For the last 2-3 months we’ve been living at my mums house as he had to move out quickly of his old flat due to a crazy roommate and my mum was more than happy to have him here. This is where the issues started. My mum is very dependant on me emotionally, more than what is healthy, so is my younger sister. I’ve been struggling to be a daughter and a girlfriend. I’ve been feeling suffocated etc, whatever.
Anyways, thoughts started running through my mind about the relationship and doubts, I’ve never moved in with a man before, what if it all becomes a shit show? We usually have sex everyday but that’s been difficult at my mums. We always reconnect with each other through sex and without it, we’ve been tense. So to the cheating- he went on a business trip for 2 weeks. I meet up with friends on a weekly basis for an activity. I’d like to say my partner and I are very flirty with everyone, it’s just how we are together and separately. My friends know this and we always have a little flirt. It’s 2 girls and 1 guy. When we travel for dinner after our activity, the two girls go together as they’re closer and I go with the guy, someone I’ve known since I was 5. We were always flirty as kids and teens but were never close or anything. Anyways, in the car he kisses me and after a while I kiss back. I really enjoyed it, we were flirty all night. I knew it was wrong but it felt so good to have something new and exciting. I didn’t want him, I knew he wouldn’t be as good as my partner or anywhere near as fun, but for some reason I loved it. For the rest of the week I was excited about it. I don’t know why, I’m young and dumb and then it hit me how bad it all was. It wasn’t just a kiss, it was quite passionate, there was grabbing and touching and afterwards flirty messages that I’ve had to delete out of disgust and guilt.
The guilt is eating me alive. I know I need to tell him but I don’t know how. It’s his birthday in 2 days, we have a huge party on the weekend. Regardless of that, how do I tell him while he’s still living at my mums? What if he wants to go somewhere else, where will he go? I don’t know how he’ll react. He loves me so much. I love him so much, but clearly I lack respect. I can’t even use the drunk excuse as I was sober when I was texting the days after. Do I wait until he gets the new flat so he can make the decision to leave and have his own space? He’s my best friend, my confidant, my comedian, my sexy man, my home, and i fucked it all for what? A passionate kiss to make me forget my living situation?
This is no excuse, but it has been hard at home. My mum goes through a lot, I am basically a second parent to my sister who is now experimenting with drugs, things aren’t easy and I always went to my boyfriends as an escape at times. I think I went crazy without that escape and made a stupid mistake. The worst part is that I enjoyed the thrill when it happened. I’m so angry at myself. I still get butterflies for my boyfriend, I’ve been thrilled enough. Now I can’t believe I’ve done something to hurt him. I feel it’s best to not tell him and move on but at the same time it’s eating me alive and he needs to know so he can decide what to do. He’s said in the past he’d forgive me for cheating (it was a weird topic we were on) but I can’t hold him to that. I have to tell him, but when? How? If he does forgive me, how do I forgive myself? I can’t imagine him looking at me differently. I’ve been acting weird for weeks because I feel I don’t deserve him, and I don’t. He makes these grand gestures of his love, he genuinely loves me so so much and I’m about to ruin it all.. I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, I’m descending into madness, all deserved, but I want it to stop. Please help me
TLDR- I doubted my relationship with my partner of almost 3 years and kissed an old friend, it’s eating me alive. Don’t know how to tell my bf as we are both currently living in my mother’s house until he gets his flat keys.

I'm thinking of ending a friendship.
I don't have a lot of friends, and most of them are now my partner's friend's girlfriends. She is one of them. My boyfriend is also the godfather of their child.
Before this trip, there were a few thing I was not okay with. They were always late to everything, The way they treat their dog, their relationship, and their pregnancy.. but it wasn't affecting me so I let it go.
This last weekend we went on a canoe portage trip. It was a first for me, we didn't have a canoe, but we had planned to rent one out. The friend, we'll call him Kyle, had agreed to come with my BF get the canoe and it had to be done before 1pm. Kyle didn't wake up until 1:30pm and laughed it off, saying he would bring his row boat instead. I was already so mad, because for the entire week prior I had been reminding Kyle and BF that it had to be done before 1PM. On the last day before leaving, Kyle's GF, Jenny decided she was also coming. it took me months to find a reasonable sitter for my dog, who is very calm and well trained. She was not going to find one in less than 24h, so she decided they were bringing it. The morning of, they were supposed to pick us up at 9am, they didn't show up until 9:40 because they misplaced the pin for their boat trailer. The dog didn't have his lead, he just had paracord that was extremely short and hard to grab. They told me the lead was at the bottom of their backpack. We get there, unload all the boats, and they decide without talking to anyone that they will take their canoe, and that my BF and I, with another guy, will take the row boat and the dog. They didn't take the lead out of their bag and the paracord was too short to tie to the boat.
It took 3x as long to row the boat to where we were going. The dog decided to leap in the water and took down an expensive fishing rod. On land he was running around, while we were trying to haul the kits and the boat through portage points.
I'm NGL I complained the entire day. I should have made the best of a shitty situation but I was so mad. I just complained and bitched the whole time. Once we had settled at the campground, she told me I had to stop being a bitch about the situation, because they were kind enough to drive us up and lend us their boat. That the dog is a package deal, so if I wanted her to come, the dog came too. I told her the problem was that Kyle was the one who didn't wake up to go get the canoe, that they made the decision for BF and I to take the boat without asking us first, and didn't take care of their dog that they decided to bring. She said they were leaving the next morning with the boat and their canoe and told us good luck getting back. Well there was no way for them to do it, it took at least 4 to lift the boat, but still I didn't want the whole trip to be ruined on the first day, so I apologized for being a bitch (which in fairness made it even worse and I'm glad she called me out for that), and asked her to stay.
Throughout the weekend, they left the dog tied to a tree and went about their business. They never came to check on it, so we refilled it's water.
On the way back, we once again had to take the row boat, but with my positive attitude and practice on our side, it went much smoother, the dog was tired and slept the whole way. They made it back much faster than we did. All the other canoews were already loaded, but theirs was still on the water with all their kit inside. BF and I unloaded our boat and their boat, loaded up their car and then helped load their canoe and the boat. Throughout the whole weekend, they never thanked us for sucking it up with the boat, or carrying their stuff, or taking care of their dog. They just expected it. It pissed me off so much. I didn't thank them when they dropped us home, I just went straight in. After some time, I talked to my BF and cried. It was still fun but it was nothing close to what I was expecting.
Now my question.
Is this worth ending a friendship over and how should I approach this? What would you do?

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I F24 messed up everything. I’ve been with my partner M35 for almost 3 years. I know the age difference is big, but in his defence I lied about my age on the dating app so that I could meet older men. He knew from the first date and decided to still give it a try. Anyways, we’ve always been perfect. Never a single argument, we always resolve everything. He’s bought a new flat and is waiting for the keys, which should’ve happened weeks ago but solicitors are awful. For the last 2-3 months we’ve been living at my mums house as he had to move out quickly of his old flat due to a crazy roommate and my mum was more than happy to have him here. This is where the issues started. My mum is very dependant on me emotionally, more than what is healthy, so is my younger sister. I’ve been struggling to be a daughter and a girlfriend. I’ve been feeling suffocated etc, whatever.
Anyways, thoughts started running through my mind about the relationship and doubts, I’ve never moved in with a man before, what if it all becomes a shit show? We usually have sex everyday but that’s been difficult at my mums. We always reconnect with each other through sex and without it, we’ve been tense. So to the cheating- he went on a business trip for 2 weeks. I meet up with friends on a weekly basis for an activity. I’d like to say my partner and I are very flirty with everyone, it’s just how we are together and separately. My friends know this and we always have a little flirt. It’s 2 girls and 1 guy. When we travel for dinner after our activity, the two girls go together as they’re closer and I go with the guy, someone I’ve known since I was 5. We were always flirty as kids and teens but were never close or anything. Anyways, in the car he kisses me and after a while I kiss back. I really enjoyed it, we were flirty all night. I knew it was wrong but it felt so good to have something new and exciting. I didn’t want him, I knew he wouldn’t be as good as my partner or anywhere near as fun, but for some reason I loved it. For the rest of the week I was excited about it. I don’t know why, I’m young and dumb and then it hit me how bad it all was. It wasn’t just a kiss, it was quite passionate, there was grabbing and touching and afterwards flirty messages that I’ve had to delete out of disgust and guilt.
The guilt is eating me alive. I know I need to tell him but I don’t know how. It’s his birthday in 2 days, we have a huge party on the weekend. Regardless of that, how do I tell him while he’s still living at my mums? What if he wants to go somewhere else, where will he go? I don’t know how he’ll react. He loves me so much. I love him so much, but clearly I lack respect. I can’t even use the drunk excuse as I was sober when I was texting the days after. Do I wait until he gets the new flat so he can make the decision to leave and have his own space? He’s my best friend, my confidant, my comedian, my sexy man, my home, and i fucked it all for what? A passionate kiss to make me forget my living situation?
This is no excuse, but it has been hard at home. My mum goes through a lot, I am basically a second parent to my sister who is now experimenting with drugs, things aren’t easy and I always went to my boyfriends as an escape at times. I think I went crazy without that escape and made a stupid mistake. The worst part is that I enjoyed the thrill when it happened. I’m so angry at myself. I still get butterflies for my boyfriend, I’ve been thrilled enough. Now I can’t believe I’ve done something to hurt him. I feel it’s best to not tell him and move on but at the same time it’s eating me alive and he needs to know so he can decide what to do. He’s said in the past he’d forgive me for cheating (it was a weird topic we were on) but I can’t hold him to that. I have to tell him, but when? How? If he does forgive me, how do I forgive myself? I can’t imagine him looking at me differently. I’ve been acting weird for weeks because I feel I don’t deserve him, and I don’t. He makes these grand gestures of his love, he genuinely loves me so so much and I’m about to ruin it all.. I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, I’m descending into madness, all deserved, but I want it to stop. Please help me
TLDR- I doubted my relationship with my partner of almost 3 years and kissed an old friend, it’s eating me alive. Don’t know how to tell my bf as we are both currently living in my mother’s house until he gets his flat keys.

Alam ko maba bash ako dito pero okay lang kasi kasalanan ko talaga. Gusto ko lang ilabas 'to kasi sobrang bigat na.
Two weeks ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. In our almost 2-year relationship, we never had any major arguments. For context, my ex was broken when we got together—I was there for him when his previous ex left him. But I never thought I was just a rebound. I’m 10 years older than my ex-boyfriend. I’m in my early 30s, and he’s in his early 20s. Tahimik buhay namin sa loob ng almost 2 years, may tampuhan man pero super babaw lang. Yun nga lang, I never experienced being posted sa social media or his story (I know this is petty, but I’m mentioning it anyway. In almost 2 years, I think he posted me on his story twice, and my face wasn’t even that visible. I’m not as attractive compared to his ex. There was no trace of me on his social media. Walang ni isang picture ko. Literally zero. He said he wasn’t into social media, and it’s true kasi di sya ma status. Unlike when he was still with his ex). I was the opposite of him. I had pictures of him on my social media and was super proud of him. We also don't celebrate monthsaries or even anniversary kasi para sa kanya di naman importante yun. Mahalaga magkasama at masaya kami. I was already living with him and his family. For two years, I was okay with that because I loved my ex. Ang major concern ko lang noon was that whenever we had a fight, his family would know immediately, which made me embarrassed. Instead of resolving things just between us, his mom would always know. Other than that, there were no problems since his whole family was very kind. So in short, kahit may mga ganyan happy kami kasi mabait naman si ex. May times lang na naku question ko yung worth ko pero overall super okay kami.
Anyway, again, we never had any major arguments in our almost 2 years together. Our relationship was so relaxed that we both gained weight since give and take kami sa pag asikaso sa isa't-isa especially me, since I’m older—I really spoiled him as much as I could. Again, mahal na mahal ko kasi ex ko.
But I don’t know what came over me; I started chatting and flirting with someone from another country, ibang lahi. Uunahan ko na kayo—I wasn’t serious. We're both working from home, and after our shifts, we had our own hobbies. My ex was always busy playing on his PC. Ewan ko ba anong kat@ng@han pumasok sa utak ko kasi nga busy ex ko sa paglalaro and kaya nya mag spend ng ilang oras sa harap ng PC nya so I flirted with this guy without my ex-boyfriend knowing. Flirted in the sense the nilandi ko talaga yung guy pero hindi naging kami. Landian lang talaga. But eventually, I stopped. I probably flirted with the guy for about a week, and after that, I never chatted with him again. My mistake was not deleting the messages because it didn’t mean anything to me, and my ex boyfriend didn’t meddle with my phone. But he read them. Mga isang linggo na after my last chat with the guy, my ex-boyfriend read the conversation.
After reading it, he immediately told his parents that he was going to kick me out because I had been chatting with someone else. Direkta sya agad sa parents nya. Walang kumprontahang naganap muna. He threw my things, cursed at me, and called me all sorts of names. I get it. It was my fault. I cheated, even if I wasn’t serious. I begged for forgiveness kasi I wasn’t really serious about what I did. I had never done anything like that in my life, but I ended up on my knees begging for forgiveness. I was just curious and bored (sorry alam kong kab0b0han pero ito talaga rason ko) so I flirted, but I had no plans to cheat na makipag relasyon sa iba. I lied, yes. And that's cheating. He never forgave me. Wala ako magawa. I explained several times that I wasn’t serious, but he wouldn’t accept my explanation. Kaya kahit masakit pumayag ako makipag hiwalay.
It’s been days since I left their house, but until now, it still hurts. I still blame myself, super b0b0 ako sa part na yun and I never thought that something that was just a game to me would end our relationship.
I really miss him, lalo na lately lagi umuulan sa hapon. Sobrang lungkot ko. Iyak ako ng iyak because of what happened, but I'm trying my best to continue living my life. Mali ko eh, kasalanan ko. I haven't reached out to him because I know never nya na ako mapapatawad and I’m embarrassed of what I did. Alam ko din kasi na pag nag message ako malalaman na naman ng buong pamilya nya, nakakahiya.
P.S Lurker ex ko dito sa reddit, kung mababasa mo man 'to sorry pero wala talaga ako makausap. Sobrang bigat pa din talaga. Miss na miss na kita. Sobra. Ikaw na bahala kung iku-kwento mo na naman 'to sa pamilya mo. Again, sorry.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years now. He is currently on a work trip in a country that has been one of the places I have always wanted to visit so I already have major fomo.
Yesterday I did not hear from him for 10 hours from him 4:00 pm until 2:00 am. He said he was very busy working on the presentations for today ( I know in fact he did not have any prepared as he was super busy and had to prepare two for his presentations today). He is having his phone on silent all the time so me calling or texting didn’t get anywhere.
I started thinking all scenarios for at least half of that time. But we talked and I explained how this can worry me in different levels and just him knowing he is making presentations is not enough and the least he could do is to leave one message and he agreed.
This morning he sent me a selfie (one of those with the bathroom mirror). I didn’t think much of it until now I just saw that there are two tooth brushes next to bathroom sink. One of them being his regular electric brush and a normal one that looks new.
Now he is on the way to dinner and I did not want to ask about this over text and am waiting until we have a video call at night but I can not help it, my mind is thinking of all worse case scenarios and I don’t want to be paranoid but I don’t know how to read this? Trust have never been an issue and I don’t like to think this way but I don’t know how to approach this situation as I don’t want to make it bigger than it is but also I am restless thinking about the what if’s.

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tw: i'm someone who struggles with binging (NOT restriction), but i think some of the stuff i say hear might be particularly triggering to those who have more restrictive disorders.
My boyfriend was encouraging me to exercise because I really fucking should and it would at least slightly offset the weight I have gained from binging for the past few fucking months, but I'm so scared of exercising again that I burst into tears when he suggested that idea to me.
The last time I got consistent exercise was when I was trying to properly lose weight for the first time around 20210 and it sort of worked for about a year. For some reason, I just couldn't keep it up. When I finally got to my ideal weight, I struggled so much to maintain it and started binging endlessly and also exercising less. I've always struggled with being disciplined, but I thought I'd ingrained the exercising habit in me as I'd been doing it for a year at that point, but I really hadn't. I hated exerting myself, I hated that even when I felt exhausted after a workout, it wasn't as much as other people. I hated that the girls that didn't even exercise but just restricted were thinner than me.
At one point, I remember I was able to start exercising consistently again, but when college got busy I just stopped. The idea of starting again just made me feel so damn bad. I would start bursting into tears or having difficult breathing. Before fucking exercising! I'm much weaker than I used to be, and I feel so embarrassed and fat about how I am not as fit as I used to be.
I know I should get over myself, get disciplined, and start exercising for my health. And because I'm gaining weight and am in the OW category, I also know I should diet (in a healthy way). But the fact that I did it before makes it harder... Because I remember how much I hated it before. I don't want to go back to constantly thinking about calories, how I need to exercise more, how no matter what I do, it feels like everyone else is prettier and skinnier than me. But I need to get back to that for fucking health reasons. I hate it.

I've never had a good history with women, my biological mother never wanted me, nor did my next three step mothers after that, my first girlfriends parents didn't want their daughter dating a white boy so they moved to another state, a lot of new "friends", and to top it off a girl that had a boyfriend the day after our first date.
And as of four days ago a girl that sent me a text stating "Sorry, not interested, never was." I haven't had much money for a while and I finally scraped together a few extra bucks to take her out. I never expected a yes but I also didn't expect a no. You can't be hurt by something you didn't want to happen if you stopped wanting anything.
I like to consider myself a good judge of character. I was able to tell immediately with my best friend that he had some severe childhood trauma. Well low and behold a month after we met him and I showed up to class one day with a redbull for each other since we'd been on the phone for 6 hours the previous night and got jack shit for sleep.
But I wasn't able to see anything in her, the best way I can describe it was a Locked box, there were only a handful of keys and the ones that existed were already in the hands of the people who needed them, and to make a new one would be long and difficult. When we met it seemed like it was going to work out, and for a while it was. I don't know if I responded too fast, or if I just came on too strong.
All my friends keep telling me to stop worrying about it and that if she was the one she would've gone out with me. And I'm half and half on that, I don't want to stop worrying out of fear that I'll grow numb to the pain, after a while I grew numb to the abuse that my stepmother's gave me and that scared the shit out of me. But on the other hand if she was the one then she would've, it still doesn't change the fact that I've never met a girl like her and I doubt I'll never see one again.
My great grandmother always had a way with quotes, one of the ones she said that I'll never forget goes "one trashed man is another woman's treasure" as time goes on that quote gets less and less believable. But in the end I forgot why I stopped talking to girls, and life put me in my place. I expect the same to happen in about a year or so.

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ABOUT ME
Hi everyone! I'm John, a freelance graphic designer who has worked with many clients on a multitude of projects over the past few years. Versatility is one of my key strengths. Whether it’s a modern approach or something more casual, I believe I have the skills and knowledge to meet your needs.
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I design for

• Businesses and Startups
• Streamers and YouTubers
• Authors and Comic Creators

I also provide standalone services, such as

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• Marketing Materials
• Web Design

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Pricing is dependent on the scale, budget, and scope of work for the project. Don't hesitate to contact me for a quote and we can discuss further.
I'm currently available for new projects, If you're interested or have any questions, feel free to send me a message and I'll try to help as best as I can. Looking forward to hearing from you!

PORTFOLIO
https://johnery.com/
https://www.instagram.com/johnerycreatives/
LET'S CHAT
[contact@johnery.com](mailto:contact@johnery.com)
ABOUT ME
Hi everyone! I'm John, a freelance graphic designer who has worked with many clients on a multitude of projects over the past few years. Versatility is one of my key strengths. Whether it’s a modern approach or something more casual, I believe I have the skills and knowledge to meet your needs.
MY CLIENTELE AND SERVICES
I design for

• Businesses and Startups
• Streamers and YouTubers
• Authors and Comic Creators

I also provide standalone services, such as

• Logo Design and Branding
• Marketing Materials
• Web Design

RATES
Pricing is dependent on the scale, budget, and scope of work for the project. Don't hesitate to contact me for a quote and we can discuss further.
I'm currently available for new projects, If you're interested or have any questions, feel free to send me a message and I'll try to help as best as I can. Looking forward to hearing from you!

Ok for starters this is a throw away account since I know they have reddit and I DO NOT want them to see this. Also we are friends online! Don't judge I have a ton of friends in LDR 😭 Anyways. I have no idea what to think and I feel like I can't ask my friends since we are all in a big friend group and I'm afraid they will tell him. Recently, I will call him G, and I have been getting close. I will also start by saying we have been friends since December. There was some drama that happened and he blocked the whole friend group. He ended up only messaging me about coming back and everything and now we are all friends again. Since then we have been getting closer. We were still some what distant but since my boyfriend and I started having issues he's become less distant (I should also note that my boyfriend and I have basically separated after an argument). We started talking a lot more and he even opened up to me about some personal stuff. A few weeks ago I showed him a friend of mine and he decided he liked her. I tried to set them up, but it sort of fell through. I hate to admit it but I'm happy it fell through. This led to us talking even more. We are very similar in music taste, thoughts, and movies. This is where I am now wondering if he likes me or if I'm tripping. He sends me music and songs he likes all the time. He also talks about movies and we even have a list we should watch (admittedly a lot with our friends but there are a few he thinks would be better suited for just us). We also just bought concert tickets together and plan to meet up after I said I wanted to go but had no one to go with. Anytime I talk about how I want to do things he always says how he would do them with me. How he would love to go do this or that with me. But when others mention it, he sort of shys away from the idea. We also stay up late, even after our whole friend group is gone. We play games together even though I'm bad. He sends me funny messages all the time now too. To the point where if he's laughing I know I'll receive the video. He also has apologized to me before about how he wants to not be as rude to me (we make jokes for sure towards each other) and how he feels it isn't right of him to do so. He also likes my Instagram notes and comments a lot on them. I know those reasons may not make it seem likely that he likes me but there are 3 specific instances that I think of. The first is when I was complaining about how I would be bored by myself at this thing I was doing. He said he wouldn't be busy at that time and I joked we would probably just talk in our group chat. He sort of laughed then started to stutter saying, "Well you know...You know...haha" And then said, "Well if you wanted..." and stopped himself. I don't know what he was going to ask. But we spent 2 hours during said boring event talking and he showed me his guitar and how to restring it. The second is the other day we were talking about movies. There is this movie he LOVES so much. We have regular movie nights with the gang and the other day it fell through. I said I was sad and wanted to watch the movie. He started to say "well you know...if you wanted" again. After some time of talking he nervous laughed and asked if I wanted to watch another movie with him just him and I. I agreed. We got off track as we usually do and ended up on the conversation of his favorite movie again. He then asked "We could watch [name of favorite movie] instead...together if you wanted to..". That brings me to my third scenario of the fact we watched the movie together by ourselves. I should also say he almost never stutters over anything and has no issues asking me to do xyz in games we play or to watch this video ect. Those 2 stuttering moments have thrown me off completely. 

ON TOP OF ALL OF THAT, we had movie night today and he turned his camera on and my god He has the most beautiful smile I've ever seen. His laugh is contagious as well. I almost want to be around him The most of all of our friends because he is so kind and has the best laugh. But his smile oh my god and his eyes. That's the first thing I noticed about him. I think I may have developed a crush on him. But do you all think he may have as well?

This is more for me to work out my own feelings than needing advice although advice would be helpful. I am still debating on if I want to talk this out or let it go. So yeah, as the title says, only one person from my friend group showed up to my (28F) Birthday Dinner. I am primarily coming to Reddit because it is embarrassing and shattering my vision of myself. I fear seeking comfort from my out-of-state friends because I do not want them to think less of me. I have always been deeply aware of how lonely I feel/am. It is one of my biggest vulnerabilities, so should other people be aware of it? or imply it with none of my friends who came to my birthday dinner? I can open up about anything else, but this feels too exposing.
But yeah, my friends did not show up for my birthday dinner, and I am not sure how I feel about it. One person did, but he(M29+) is my boyfriend's(32M) friend more than mine. To be honest, this makes it even more embarrassing. Having to search The Feelings Chart, I primarily just feel abandoned, embarrassed, fragile, disrespected, etc. Watching the door and waiting for your friends to show up while conversing with your partner and their friend is difficult. Suddenly, I was 17 again, only having one singular friend going to lunch with me before having other friends and dropping me off at an empty house. I think my parents were at a sibling's game or tournament. or a party? I am not sure; I just remember being home alone for my birthday a month after a suicide attempt. Or I was back at 11, having my birthday overshadowed by my sister's first communion. Or I was back on my 20th birthday, taking myself to see Captain America: Civil War.
Most of them did not even tell me they were not coming. That is what really hurts. I know my birthday sucks for everyone, time-wise. My parents made that very apparent by pushing any family celebration to Father's Day/my dad's & uncle's birthday. Yet only one of the four got back to me two hours beforehand about being unable to make it because they were tired from preparing for their family member's wedding a week from now. However, the thing is, I had gauged the group chat about doing it this weekend a week ago. To be fair, there were acknowledgments of seeing it, but no one directly responded with a conflict. I even sent a message 24 hours before letting everyone know I made a reservation, and people, again, liked the message but did not directly say if there was an issue. That is what is primarily keeping me from having a conversation with anyone. There was obvious acknowledgment of the plans, but no one asked if they could go.
It is apparent I have a lot of baggage around my birthday. I worry I unconsciously make it a test for people and myself. I saw how much people love and value me and based my self-worth and relationships on that. Possibly hope they do not show in a sick way of confirming my deepest insecurity. The rationale part of me acknowledges that it is a lot to put on someone, and things, unfortunately, just do not work out sometimes. On the other hand, this is the third event I have planned as the host where people were busy and canceled at the last minute. Usually, I would just take that as a sign of people not wanting to be friends, but some of them were legitimately interested in it when I briefly discussed it in April. Furthermore, they keep inviting me to their events.
Fundamentally, I do not know where to go from here. Only one of them has reached out, apologizing for not communicating more and saying that they will celebrate at a better time, while the other two have been silent. I think I need more time to process it before having an actual conversation with anyone about it. I am still primarily in the hurt phase, and no communication will be about their actual behavior. For example, with the apology, I was dishonest and said no worries. I wish I did not do that; it caught me off guard, but I did not want it to sit for too long and have them think I was ignoring them out of malice. If I had been in a better headspace, I would have responded with a thank you, acknowledged reading their message, and just be honest about needing more time before talking about it. I just feel sad.
Added context: We are all in graduate school. This is their last quarter before graduating, so they are legitimately busy and finishing up their practice experience/integrative projects and applying to fellowships. Ages range from 25-30.