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Tl;dr: in the country I moved to seems professors cannot afford two bedrooms and a car. My wife resents me for it. What should I do?
Ok, I was baiting... she doesn't hate me, we're very much in love. However, she does resent me lately because our living standards are not up to par with people much less successful in paper.
I am 40, associate professor at a prestigious research university in Sweden. I moved here from another European country together with my wife for my work. I was working in a startup and making big bucks but was enchanted by the allure of the position I've coveted my whole life. She was working in our home country with a nice management job and gave it up, here is earning less after 5 years.
My family situation is quite bad financially, I come from a working-class background. Sometimes I have to pay help to my father to make rent in my home country. Swedish crown has collapsed against the Euro the last couple of years (-15%) and that doesn't help. Luckily my siblings are doing quite well, and my younger brother and especially my sister are earning now more than double what I get, and she helps with father the most. Recently my sister came to visit and explained facts I wasn't aware of about my father and that added to the discomfort of both me and my wife.
My wife also comes from a working-class background, but at least her parents had the head screwed on the right way and could take advantage of being boomers and buy a little nice nest to stay comfortable for two pennies and a boot.
Sweden is a very expensive country, and in my area a professor salary doesn't go far, especially if it comes to real estate. Furthermore, there is no upward premium and there is basically no difference in my department between the least and the most paid. Actually, I'm one of the ones earning the most as associate because I have also admin task. Full professors earn marginally more and even that promotion will not change the economic situation that much. In fact, my colleagues of all stripes basically gave up living in a nice area with families and move to the countryside.
Basically, my wife resents this economic situation and the fact that she came here for me. We're living in 65sqm in 2 and we've got a baby on the way. We cannot afford more without changing area that my wife doesn't want to do. In our home country, with her salary back then and me doing high school, we could have afforded anything within reason instead, and not having to choose between two bedrooms or amenities. My family cannot help, and in fact it is a constant drag. I'm very vulnerable to the exchange, and if the currency tanks further and I really start making less money than a high school teacher back home and having difficulties supporting family and parents. We see our friends buying nice little villas and seatown properties and here I'm stuck earning less than my students' summer job.
It's been years and I cannot shake the nagging feeling that coming here was the greatest mistake of my life. Now I don't know if moving would be another unwise decision. I do not feel confident looking for job as professor elsewhere, and I don't know how to approach it since in my country the vast majority of openings is for junior positions. Should I look some other job and becoming a corporate drone for some faceless entity and an idiot manager?
How should I get over at this nagging guilt of having a child on the way and not being able to provide the lifestyle my family deserves and that most people can afford without advanced degrees and moving to a foreign country?

Has anyone successfully used languages such as French in their career without having a degree in it and if so how? I'm not doing a language degree, though in retrospect I would have done as I have kept up learning French and Spanish for years. Online there are lots of videos of polyglot YouTubers with careers as translators/ in military etc. but I'm intrigued if anyone has got a job from being self taught/ achieving C1.
NB: doesn't have to be necessarily purely language based. I'm more thinking it'd be cool to do book translation from French to English (my native tongue), use it in work in business if I did something corporate that meant working with international companies etc. or potentially something tourism/ hospitality related using languages?

Long story short, I am graduating in December and need to secure an offer before then.
A little bit about me:

• I attend a SEC (Southeastern Conference) private school (non-target).
• I am majoring in finance.
• I have completed two internships: one as a congressional intern and another as a financial analyst intern at a regional bank.
• I have passed CFA Level 1.
• My GPA is 3.4.

What are my chances of securing an offer in equity research, private wealth management, or asset management in the current job market within the next 7 months?
Thank you for your help!

Hello all, I graduated in December with a BS in Elementary Ed. I loved working with the kids as an interning teacher even though it was stressful and I would come home and basically need to stare at a wall to recalibrate for the next day. Ive taught first and third as an intern and I have been subbing all over Elementary since March.
Cut to today, my favorite most amazing mentor teacher is now at a different school and is now the vice principal since January. She has been wanting me to work with her ever since I’ve graduated. I might be accepting a job as a second ELA departmentalized teacher.. anyways, I just want to know what are the best parts of teaching second graders? What’s the worst part and everything between from your experience before I accept anything.

I often see discussions here about what it takes to become a CFO. Here's an attempt to answer that!
We looked at where the CFOs in the 2023 Forbes Cloud 100 companies came from. These are the takeaways:

• 74% graduated from U.S. schools
• 16% went to an Ivy League school and 92% went to a Top 100 school
• 83% hold a bachelor’s degree in Finance
• Of the 17% that don't, 94% received a postgraduate degree
• Regardless of undergraduate focus, 64% received a postgraduate degree
• 81% of all postgraduate degrees were MBAs
• The average number of roles on the path to CFO was six
• Only 17% of CFOs were promoted internally
• It took 18.5 years on average before reaching the CFO seat

Full analysis in https://www.getaleph.com/blog/career-path-to-cfo
(Also, this thread from 6 months ago takes a similar approach, and has directionally similar insights.)

I have moved across the world to New Zealand. I have been here exactly two months ago and I have an interview tomorrow tomorrow that I pretty hopeful about.
I had talked to this company back in February but they told me they had nothing available and no offer was made. So I moved here without a job, and by chance they contacted me last week to say they might have something coming up if I was interested.
If it comes to the stage of talking about salaries, would it be weird to ask about a relocation package since I didn’t relocate for them? They are a large international consulting firm, and I’m sure if I had moved with a job offer there would be relocation provided, so my thinking is they would be authorised for X amount anyways.
Thanks.

Option 1: Quality Control Researcher
Not directly aligned with engineering, but it offers valuable experience in quality control
It's a part-time role with flexibility, accommodating to my school schedule, and will last until I decide to quit or get laid off.
The location is convenient, a short drive from home, or can just work remotely.
Option 2: R&D Engineer Intern
Directly relates to engineering and has the potential to lead to a job offer post-graduation
Cons: only lasts for three months and around 1-hour drive to work.
Both options: having relatively the same salary range
A bit about me: I've recently completed my Bachelor's degree in Biomedical Engineering, and I'm planning to do the Master's program this upcoming fall.

Almost 10 years ago, I worked at this company, and one of the roles of my department was to analyze data from surveys and secondary data collection. Each quarter, we were required to design and publish the data into a handbook. After 6 months of joining the department, my manager (who joined the department 2 months after me) reassigned our tasks and projects in an attempt to reorganize the department better.
This manager was promoted internally and was notorious for kissing up to management for his benefit. He was technically not qualified for the promotion due to a different background/expertise required for our department, but one of the C-suite people liked him a lot. He did have some expertise in certain areas and could be quite smart, but he generally had an unpleasant personality, so many people in the company didn’t like him much.
Along with some three new projects, the handbook task went to me, which would be the first time for me to do it. The meeting was in February, so my first handbook would be for that year’s Quarter 1. In the department meeting where my manager announced the reassignment, I asked my colleague who had handled the handbook project before me to share and explain the usual timeline for this quarterly handbook publication. She had managed the project for 4 years and said that the normal timeline would be 6 months.
This means, for Quarter 1 data, the printed copies for publication need to be ready by 30th of September. The 6-month period includes collecting the analysis from survey managers, and for secondary data, I would have to contact the data owner and do the analysis myself. I also have to liaise and work closely with the outsourced company that does the design and printing. Keep in mind that this 6-month timeframe is normal and has been agreed upon by management for years. The timeframe also takes into account that the person managing the handbook would also have other projects that are equally important for the department.
So, I carried out the handbook project quite smoothly along with my other tasks, and by late July, the only thing left for me to do was proofread the content of the handbook. The next procedure required me, my manager, and the designer to sit down and go through every single page to finalize everything before we send it to my manager’s manager (Unit Head) for approval to print. It takes about 2-3 weeks for the printing and delivery, so, following the previous quarters’ timeline, we should hand in the design to the Unit Head by mid-August and confirm the finalize version for printing by the last week of August.
Again, this is the normal and agreed-upon timeline, and every couple of weeks I would update my manager on the progress and the next steps of the project. We had worked with the designeprinter company for years without any problems or delays, so everything was on track. However, on the last Friday of July (a whole 2 weeks before our target timeline to send the design to the Unit Head), this conversation happened:
Manager: OP, I need you to finalize everything today, because we are sending the design to the Unit Head on Monday.
Me: Next Monday? Why? We have two weeks.
Manager: Well, the Unit Head wants to see some changes around here, so I thought we could speed up the publication of this handbook to start. I told the Unit Head we would send the design to her on Monday.
Me: Okay... you could have discussed this with me first. I mean, the proofreading is almost done, I can get it done by today, but we still need to sit down with the designer to finalize and sign off. The appointment is in a week.
Manager: Can you do it tomorrow? Go ask the designer.
(Now, it was not normal in our company to come to the office and work on weekend. And of course I already had a plan for that weekend so this was really annoying to me. At least I knew that the designer would have no issue moving it to the next day, which is Saturday, because he is THAT cooperative.)
Me: I can try... but tomorrow is Saturday. I’m not sure if he can make it, especially at this last minute. And are you sure we want to rush this? Because even if we meet the designer tomorrow, the hardcopy will be delivered just 2 weeks earlier than the normal deadline. Is it that significant?
Manager: Yes! Just go ask the designer now.
So, I called the designer, and as expected, he had no problem meeting on Saturday.
Me: Mr. Manager, the designer is okay to meet tomorrow. Is 10am okay with you?
Manager: Huh? (Puzzled look)
Me: Uhmm... You also need to be there for the sign-off.
Manager: I do?
Me: Yes, you literally need to sign off on the final version to send to the Unit Head. It’s the normal procedure.
(To be honest, if it weren’t for the procedure, he didn’t really need to be there. He had already seen the design a few times, and I'm pretty sure he would never have had anything meaningful to contribute to the meeting. I would have loved for him not to be there anyway. He just needed to be there purely for the procedure. But at that point, I was quite excited to make him come to the office on the weekend when he obviously didn’t realize he ALSO had to be there with the designer.)
Manager: I can’t tomorrow, I’m going [somewhere] until Sunday.
Me: Well, if you want to send this to the Unit Head on Monday, then YOU HAVE to be here tomorrow.
Manager: Sigh... let me get back to you.
About half an hour later, he came up to me with the sourest face ever, “10am tomorrow is fine", and walked away.
I’m guessing he must have pissed off someone when he had to change/cancel his weekend plan.
So the next day, he came in 1 hour late, not smiling at all, and was rude to the designer and me. He was really unhappy to be in the office on that day, but we got it done by 1pm.
The following week, the story of how *I* made my manager come to work on Saturday was told around the company. Apparently, the plan that he had for the weekend was a group trip with some of his buddies who also worked in the company, and he had to make new arrangements to get to the place by himself and arrived late. A lot of people thought it was really funny (including the Unit Head and some of his buddies) and laughed at the image of him walking into the office on Saturday for some trivial yet necessary work.
Nevertheless, the next 2 years that I worked on the handbook, he never promised anyone to have the handbook ready before the 6-month timeline.

Hi. A close friend of mine has had a letter written about him to his workplace accusing him of “being a bully” without specific allegations. He knows who it’s from. The workplace will investigate but my friend is confident he’s done nothing wrong. If nothing comes of it does he have any right to sue for defamation? For context the person who wrote in is unrelated to the company in anyway and has an axe to grind about one of their friends not getting a job working for my friend.
He’s really angry about his character being impugned (20 year work history, zero disciplinaries, repeatedly promoted).
Could he sue?

I have recently been accepted into a Master's in political science. After graduating with a Bachelor's degree, I have been looking for jobs the past year in my local and regional governments. I applied for approximately 70 positions the past year and have only had two interviews. I did not get those positions. To be fair some of the positons required 2-6 years of experince which I did not have, some were beginner but those were very competitive with other recent grads. The whole point of getting the job is to get the experience, how else are recent grads suppose to find work? Most of the positions that are for reccent grads have massive applications. Three months ago I applied for an entry level position, someone I knew worked as a hiring manager and I thought they could get me in, turns out that didn't happen as the group they were in preferred someone else. However, they told me that 100 people applied for that postition, 100 people for 1 entry level government job. Mental. I have talked to 3 of my closest friends who are also looking for jobs and two are in the same position as me and one recently got hired in their city council (no room for me I asked) as they had connections with their relatives being in government.
In addition, I have recently moved and have applied to do a Master's in political science in hopes of landing a possible internship through the program. I have gotten into my 3rd and 2nd choice, but did not get into my first choice program (International Affairs). I have accepted my second choice program. My issue is now that I have had time to think about it and reading the syllabus (As the university finally published it) I am starting to lose interest in the program. There are are 3 mandatory courses which I despise dealing with political philosophy and qualitative/quantitative analysis. I am not a fan of either. I prefer contemporary politics with respect to international relations/foreign policy. However, the program itself includes a mandatory internship which could finally help me get a job (since I will finally be having some real-world experience). I am not sure what to do. I could try becoming an English teacher and wait until some opportunity arises with a change in government (elections are next year), or I could do this Master's program and see if I am able to make it through. I am at a crossroads and I am not sure what to do.

I wanted to give a quick update. I posted a week ago regarding being confused about a job offer that my wife wanted me to reject because my ex (let's call her Abby) would be directly reporting to me. I know a lot of you pointed out why it is such a bad idea, but I want to be honest here. The reason why I wrote the post was to get ideas on how I can convince my wife that I should take the position. I felt that I have never given my wife a reason to not trust me, except one time (long story), and I should not be making important life decisions that benefit my family because of Abby who I have not spoken to in 14 years.
On Friday evening, we had a long discussion as my kid was at my SIL's place for a playdate. As many of you guys pointed out, my wife might be insecure with me hanging out with Abby specifically because we were FWB after breakup. I asked her about it and told her to be honest as I would never make a decision without her being 100% onboard. My wife said that out of all my ex-girlfriends, she felt a bit insecure about her. The reason was because I did not get a clean breakup with her and had lingering feelings even when I met my wife. For context, when I met my wife (thru mutual friends), I was still FWB with Abby for few months after. However, I cleared things with Abby and broke up for good before I asked my wife on our first date. My wife had heard about how I was not able to get over Abby before that and only agreed to date me after I told her that I decided to go NC with Abby.
I asked my wife if she feels I will be less loyal to her if I am around Abby. My wife and kid are everything to me and I assured that there is no circumstances where I would even think of stepping out of line to risk that. I also assured her that I will maintain professional boundaries with each of my direct report as I have been doing over the last many years and Abby will be no different. However, if I miss out on this job opportunity because of Abby, I will always feel like irrespective of what I do, my wife does not 100% trust me.
My wife said that she trusts me 100% and does not want me to feel like I am doing something wrong. She said she does not want some hypothetical scenarios affect the important decisions I make in my career and is ok with me accepting the offer. She asked me to make sure that we set up specific rules about Abby. One of them being no communication outside work, maintain only strictly professional communication and always overcommunicate with my wife about everything about Abby.
Abby messaged me on Saturday about how it was great to see me during interview process, and I immediately told my wife. Based on her idea, I replied back to her on LinkedIn and will make sure any of our communication stays there.
I had until Monday to accept the offer. Yesterday, when I went to my office, I was planning to call the other company during lunch time. However, my manager asked me to come to a meeting room to discuss something urgent. My current company knew that I was entertaining other offers (I had told them) and decided to match the offer from Abby's company. It is not exactly the same compensation, but it is only 20K less than their offer. Plus, they also assured me that they would promote me as soon as a Director level position opens up in one of the teams. It was amazing and I called my wife. She was very happy, and of course I decided to stay at my current job.
Overall, I feel happy that I got a big raise at my current place and also know that my wife is not insecure and trusts me 100%.

I’m 45 and qualify for full professor at my institution. I'm being encouraged to take the promotion, but I have concerns. First, I don't know that I want to stay here for the rest of my career. Will being full professor kill my chances of getting a job at another institution? Full professor pay here is the same as associate professor pay anywhere else. There are even some institutions where assistant professor pay is the same as what I would get as a full professor here. I'd only do this promotion for the pay, but will that backfire on me down the road?

I wanted to give a quick update. I posted a week ago regarding being confused about a job offer that my wife wanted me to reject because my ex (let's call her Abby) would be directly reporting to me. I know a lot of you pointed out why it is such a bad idea, but I want to be honest here. The reason why I wrote the post was to get ideas on how I can convince my wife that I should take the position. I felt that I have never given my wife a reason to not trust me, except one time (long story), and I should not be making important life decisions that benefit my family because of Abby who I have not spoken to in 14 years.
On Friday evening, we had a long discussion as my kid was at my SIL's place for a playdate. As many of you guys pointed out, my wife might be insecure with me hanging out with Abby specifically because we were FWB after breakup. I asked her about it and told her to be honest as I would never make a decision without her being 100% onboard. My wife said that out of all my ex-girlfriends, she felt a bit insecure about her. The reason was because I did not get a clean breakup with her and had lingering feelings even when I met my wife. For context, when I met my wife (thru mutual friends), I was still FWB with Abby for few months after. However, I cleared things with Abby and broke up for good before I asked my wife on our first date. My wife had heard about how I was not able to get over Abby before that and only agreed to date me after I told her that I decided to go NC with Abby.
I asked my wife if she feels I will be less loyal to her if I am around Abby. My wife and kid are everything to me and I assured that there are no circumstances where I would even think of stepping out of line to risk that. I also assured her that I will maintain professional boundaries with each of my direct report as I have been doing over the last many years and Abby will be no different. However, if I miss out on this job oppurtunity because of Abby, I would always feel like irrespective of what I do, my wife does not 100% trust me.
My wife said that she trusts me 100% and does not want me to feel like I am doing something wrong. She said she does not want some hypothetical scenario affect the important decisions I make in my career and is ok with me accepting the offer. She asked me to make sure that we set up specific rules about Abby. One of them being no communication outside work, maintain only strictly professional communication and always overcommunicate with my wife about everything about Abby.
Abby messaged me on Saturday about how it was great to see me during interview process, and I immediately told my wife. Based on her idea, I replied back to her on LinkedIn and will make sure any of our communication stays there.
I had until Monday to accept the offer. Yesterday, when I went to my office, I was planning to call the other company during lunch time. However, my manager asked me to come to a meeting room to discuss something urgent. My current company knew that I was entertaining other offers (I had told them) and decided to match the offer from Abby's company. It is not exactly the same compensation, but it is only 20K less than their offer. Plus, they also assured me that they would promote me as soon as a Director level position opens up in one of the teams. It was amazing and I called my wife. She was very happy, and of course I decided to stay at my current job.
Overall, I feel happy that I got a big raise at my current place and also know that my wife is not insecure and trusts me 100%.

So as I finish up my probationary period, here are a few things i wish I saw on reddit when I was doing research on the job.
It's more annoying than hard. I found myself thinking this job is hard for a very long time until I realized, im just overly annoyed with not finding the things I need to.
Smarts are useful, but not necessary to do the job. I only have a bachelors and ive found myself in an easier position (at times) because when you understand something you only understand it that way. But the fun part is that this job operates under the motto that "if it can be reasonably applied its good to use" so pop open chatgpt ask it what you need to find and search for something it suggests.
Let someone else tell you youre doing bad. You'll beat yourself up and get in your own head especially when you first start, YOU'RE DOING FINE. I still feel like a failure and im eligible for a promotion.
Speaking of promotions, a lower gs level means more time to to get less work done. While i am elegible for a promotion I dont think I'll ever take it ( atleast not until my 3rd year) because honestly you dont need to do more just because you can.
Lol these are just a few things I wish I saw on reddit, of course these wont apply to everyone but hopefully it helps someone

Early last week I was finally able to scrape up the money to pay the $1200 for Quimbee’s Bar Review. I got it done. Phew. Only it left me with exactly $37.40 to get me through the bar, until I can land a job. Yesterday that dwindled down to nothing. Really wished the summer spent interning with a firm or all the hours under the judge would count for something right now. Ugh…. but at least I got the prep course, right? 😒 Life sucks right now. I can only look ahead and know that right around the corner I’ll be just fine.
Back to studying now.

Clan Name: In Cay6e We Trust (21+)
System: PC (open to all systems but must be willing to interact via discord)
Region: NA - PST-EST
Play Times: Mostly weekday evenings and weekends but it varies. We've all got jobs/school/lives but we go hard when it's time.
Who we are: We're a 21+ Destiny Clan with a mix of hardcore and regular gamers, spread across PST and EST time zones. Our goal as a clan is to provide a mature space for gamers to dive deep into Destiny’s endgame with as little social drama as humanly possible. While we don’t require everyone to be a hardcore gamer, we do try and cultivate an environment that promotes it. Things like weekly raid signups, Day 1 participation, low man challenges… we’re all about that harder content whenever Destiny provides it.
What we’re looking for: RAIDERS! Day 1-ers! Adults that want to push themselves towards the sharper edge of Destiny challenge. We’ve got a solid core group but we’re looking to do a bit of rebuilding as things ramp up for Final Shape. So if you’re a chill guardian that likes to go hard without taking themselves super seriously, then this could be the space for you.
How to reach out: You can request to join here: https://www.bungie.net/en/ClanV2?groupid=3317834 Once you're in I'll hit you with a welcome/link to our discord in your bungie dms

I've been working on a SaaS product, still in the prototyping and planning phase. More of an idea at this time but I am taking it seriously. Software dev and Solutions Architect by day but I am and have been working with AWS for years. Most of this is hypothetical but still something interesting to me and I'd like to figure out even if it goes nowhere.
I have my domain and I am in the phase where I am looking to getting my business email set up so i can launch my website. A consideration I have been thinking of is that while both AWS and Azure offer their versions of 'startup hub' to receive credits, and other perks, things like LLC formation through Stripe Atlas (no where near ready for that) - some of these perks require you to have a website, a linkedin, and thus a business email. Traditionally my day jobs have been AWS focused, but internally to the company we've used GSuite. I was wondering if there are any non obvious perks to using the O365 suite to set up my business email when it would come time to begin setting up and integrating with azure infrastructure. Additionally, I know that the majority of the clientele would be using O365 and presumably active directory for managing their identities. Would this allow for easier onboarding down the road? I understand AWS has active directory service as well, but just curious at the implications from an Azure standpoint. All new to me so just wanted to do a little research.

A tad bit of backstory, my roommate and I met an upstairs neighbor that moved in a few months ago, have interacted with heher dog maybe less than 5 times total since moving in. She is extremely friendly and chatty (like joining us on the deck uninvited and so on...) and her dog has always been really friendly with us. A couple weeks ago she asked us if we could watch her dog for a couple days while she was on vacation and I said we couldn't because my family was going to be in town for some portion of it, with my sister and her fiance and small dog staying with us. The neighbors dog is a 90+ pound, young german shepherd that we were told "isn't great" with other dogs, so it was an obvious no while my family was in town. She said it was fine.
Fast forward to the weekend my family is in town, neighbor frantically asks us to look after her dog because her friend, who agreed to look after the dog prior, bailed after a few days and said she couldn't watch dog...My roommate and I initially said we could take the dog for walks/feed her but can't have her in our apt while my family was in town, and we both work 9-5 jobs in person so we can't really give the dog attention during the day. Her friend lives like 2 hours away and, while we were at work, had an uber driver pick up JUST the dog and take her back to neighbors apt. Last minute neighbor finds out that she has a new roommate (??) that is afraid of the dog...so now we HAVE to take her while neighbor is away. Dog comes to us with minimal instruction and no dog food (fortunately we had some dry food extra from when my folks were in town, but that was it). So we take her for walks in the morning and evening feed her dry food whatever. The next day she texts only my roommate and tells him that her friend will drop by our apt to leave some food at our house. I'm look cool real wet food for the dog, great. I come home from work and neighbor's friend is literally sitting in our living room hanging out with the dog. I'm like wtf, who are you and why are you in my house. She apologized and left and neighbor told me that she told my roommate this would happen (total bullshit). This whole time we keep asking her when she will be back from her trip and she's super wishy washy about it which is weird as hell because it's an international trip.
The last straw was a day or two before neighbor returns home. A bit of backstory, neighbor tells us to keep other dogs "30 ft away" on walks?? We find out almost instantly on the first walk that she's a menace around other dogs. She lunges towards them and barks loudly. Everybody in my neighborhood has a dog so taking her on walks outside of business hours is an immense pain in the ass. On this day my roommate takes her for a walk and experiences an encounter with another dog that he couldn't avoid because there were no cars to hide behind, my roommate stands in front of her to keep her from going crazy, so she lunges out and BITES his leg, like badly. He was gushing blood all day and went to urgent care to get it cleaned up and tetnis shots etc.
I kinda lost it at this point and told her that this whole experience was totally unacceptable. I venmo requested $400 from her for me and my roommate, basically $100/day for 24hr doggy daycare with a difficult dog that was dumped on us for 4 days. (a number based loosely on doggy daycare rates in our area, but also all the trouble we had to deal with) I thought it was completely reasonable. My roommate who is too nice for his own good keeps telling me I was too harsh on her, and ever since she has been avoiding me if we come/go at the same time, doesn't even say hi or anything. I don't feel like I'm in the wrong here, but I gotta ask, AITAH?

I'm m 30 and I feel like I lost all drive and hunger for moving on in life, and in the last couple of years, I feel like I'm just going with the flow instead of trying to navigate it. I moved to Canada for school when I was 22 and back then I was all piss and vinegar; I was a top student, going out of my way to participate in competitions and gain internships, going to networking events, and even trying to start two startups with friends during my school years. During that time I met my now-wife, and shortly after school we moved in together and rented a place. If I had to pinpoint where the slope started, it was pretty much around that time. When I finished school I managed to get a job in my field of study, and I also reached out to one of my old managers from an internship I got from performing well in a competition where he pulled me into a project of his, so right out of school I had a full-time job and a side hustle. At some point, the side hustle deal kind of faded away with the project not going anywhere. I had a couple of ideas of side hustles that I tried to develop but never did, took courses and certifications to increase my skills in my field, and probed my job for raises and promotions, but overall I started becoming quite static. It was only when my partner started talking about looking into buying a property that I was pushed into looking for another position that pays better. After a while of searching, I was able to find a very well-paying position in a US-based tech company that almost doubled my salary. Thanks to that new salary, and the fact that my partner also got herself a high-paying position, we were able to afford to buy a house when I was 28 with plenty to spare after paying the monthly mortgage payment. We got married, and she is now pregnant with our first kid.
Comparing myself now with myself 8 years ago make me feel really sad for where things are going. During school, I was able to put in the work, get out of my way for better grades, and better opportunities, and give myself an edge and start something of my own. Since I finished school I really feel like I'm drifting. During a work day, I can honestly say I spend over half my time on YouTube shorts giving myself brain rot. I'm still performing well and up for a promotion (as long as HR budget shenanigans won't shoot me in the foot), but I know I can do so much better if I were to find the drive and develop discipline like I had before. I've tried getting up earlier, rather than 30 minutes before my first meeting, but I always just get up, turn off the alarm and go back to sleep. I got back into working out, thanks to my wife buying me a home gym for my 30th birthday so I really enjoy it, but I don't feel like it's developing my discipline that much. In the last year I worked on a project and brought it to MVP status, and then never continued developing or marketing it. I'm currently studying for a certificate for a relatively new technical sub-field that should get me all excited, but it just doesn't, it feels like a chore.
I just feel like there is no fire in me anymore, like I've gotten to a place so comfortable I'm half asleep and passive all the time. I was thinking having a kid on the way would spark it up, some sort of provider instinct to make sure I keep moving forward to give it the best life I can. But no, it's not there. I don't feel lost, but I do feel like I'm just wandering in a general direction without a plan, because every time I try to come up with a plan I just end up scraping it.

So my girlfriend has this cousin that she grew up with and they've been planning a visit for years. I was all for it.
I only met her once a long time ago at an event for about 5 minutes. But she finally came over to our place for a long stay about a month and a half ago.
She immediately seemed off but only to me and no one else. She was hard to place: wealthy parents, college dropout, never had a real job it seems but claims otherwise.
During her time here I have started to notice how manipulative she is. She should twist things, insist she said things she didn't say and make you doubt yourself. But no one called her out on it, in fact everyone likes her. She always runs to meet people and shake their hand, but she clearly doesn't have any real friends.
And now she has started interjecting herself into my girlfriend's business. My girlfriend is very shy and loves to run her business her way, very low-key. But her cousin started introducing her to people and forcing her way. She brought in small influencers to promote the brand and she recently organized a charity type deal for single low- income moms. My girlfriend was so stressed about it and everything being perfect as she's an introvert. I told her cousin this and confronted her about forcing her ways and she just said it's good for the brand to be a part of the community and called me incapable.
It wasn't worth arguing over, but the more time I spend around this girl the more worried I get. She is so clearly only using people. I've watched her fake expressions and heard her shit talk people with my gf then get favors out of them the next day. I know she has an ulterior motive for being here, but my girlfriend won't hear it. In fact when I tried bringing it up she was insulted so I let it go. How do I bring this up the right way?
TLDR my girlfriend's cousin is a bad person that's trying to get something out of my girlfriend. She doesn't see it. How do I go about this?

Hi, Job-seeker here with a very weird specific question. I have an uncommon first name and interviewed about two months ago at a non-profit that supports survivors of sexual assault/domestic violence. I had a weird experience interviewing and assumed I did not get the job after they dropped contact with me. Today, out of the blue, I received what was obviously an internal email for someone who shares my name. It was a forward about the person who shares my name and the HR director who forwarded it referenced the first email. It also read, to me, like sexual harassment. I replied and asked that my email be removed from their list and the reply confirmed that this HR director thinks it's okay to comment on the employee who shares my name. I know I can do nothing if I want to and this isn't my business, but I'd want someone to report it on my behalf if something similar were happening. What would you do?