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It’s been a month since she broke up with me. She gave me a bit of a harsh message when she left, but everyone I’ve spoken to says that it seemed much more like she was just overwhelmed with emotions in the moment. I obviously did the dumb thing of begging for her back and even sent an apology immediately after the breakup, but I think it was too soon to really send that because she didn’t take it lightly. Even though she’s acted cold towards me after the breakup, I’m still in love with her and can’t stop thinking about her. Something in me keeps saying that we’ll get back together. I’ve been doing my best to work on myself (especially the things she broke up with me for) and each day it feels like it’s getting more difficult without her. She’s unblocked me and re-blocked me twice on the only platform where I don’t have a private account, but hasn’t reached out at all so I have no clue what to think of that. I want to reach out again giving a much better apology and show her that I’ve been taking our time apart to improve myself and ask if we can at least just have an open discussion about our feelings, but I just don’t really know when the time will be right. I always hear about the 3 month rule, but I’m scared that 3 months might be too late. Is there anything I could look out for as kind of a signal to reach out?

First off, I am a girl from The Netherlands so English is not my first language so I apologise for any mistakes.
Let me give you a little back story. Before my dad met my mom he had a wife (lets call her Anna) they got married in 1999 and had been together since they were 16. Anna and him had a daughter in 1995 (my half sister, lets call her Charlotte) when they were 23 years old. Although Anna and my dad were very toxic for each other he never let that affect the way he loved Charlotte, more than anything and treated like a princess, as he should of course, eventually in 2002 Anna and dad got divorced. A year after the divorce my dad met my mom and had me on accident. They were kind of in a on/off relationship nothing official, then my mom got pregnant with me although they didn’t plan it they did decide to keep me but they never became a real couple. They never really had any problems with each other so they stayed friends. My dad is Italian and lives in Italy and my mom is Dutch and lives in The Netherlands, because my parents live in two different countries I needed a primary residence/parent which was my mom. I mainly lived with her and would go to my dad whenever i had holidays/vacations from school or he would come to me. He has always been a good dad but it was clear that Charlotte was the favourite. And i was always jealous of the attention and love that she got. I know my dad loves me very much but not like he loves Charlotte. Charlotte and I didn’t have a great bond she knew she was the favourite and would always make that known, she would bully me and make rude comments about me and my dad would just let it happen this went on for years and she made me really insecure.
One day when we were on vacation i wanted to go swimming in the ocean but I have epilepsy so I can’t swim unattended my dad send Charlotte to go with me, after an hour while i was still in the ocean Charlotte went back to our resort house without telling me and left me alone in the pool thankfully nothing happened but it could’ve ended badly. My dad for the first time ever stood up for me and made her apologise but i knew she wasn’t sorry.
As I got older I became more distant from my dad because of this, I used to be a big daddy’s girl but am now totally a mama’s girl. Skip forward to when i was 17, my mom passed away and i had to move in with my dad. Now let’s go forward a year later. At this point Charlotte was 25 and had already moved out en had gotten engaged. I was in my final year and was going to graduate, everyone including Charlotte and my dad knew my graduation was going to be on June 22 and out of nowhere Charlotte decided her wedding was going to be that same day she claimed she didn’t know that was my graduation date. I got mad at her and demanded that she would change the day because i had that date first but she didn’t want to. Our dad tried talking her into changing the date even to June 23 would’ve been fine but she didn’t want to and insisted on June 22. My dad was going to have to choose between walking Charlotte down the aisle or watching me graduate and I already knew what he was going to choose, Charlotte, and he did. I was secretly hoping he would change his mind so I reserved a spot for him but his seat at my graduation was empty. Not long after i moved back to The Netherlands and started living together with 2 of my friends and I haven’t been in contact with my dad or Charlotte ever since i moved and its been great. My uncle (dad’s brother) came to visit me because we still have a great bond. He told me he understood my side but he thought i was a little extreme for going no contact with them because he’s still my dad. I considered it and unblocked my dad’s number and sent him a text in the text message was talking about why i went no contact and how him and Charlotte made me feel and maybe meeting up so that he can apologise but he said he had nothing to apologise for and I took that as a sign of him also not being interested in contact anymore. Although him saying that he had nothing to apologise for kind of hurt me I expected it and was not surprised.
I have no desire to get back in contact with my dad anymore after all that’s happened over the years between me him and Charlotte which is more than the small portion i told you about in this post.
Personally i don’t think i was in the wrong but i need an unbiased opinion so I decided to come here.
AITAH?

Last night, I informed my girlfriend that I was going to play online games with my friends. It’s been a while since I gamed with them (about two weeks or more), she’s aware of that and I also reminded her about it. I mentioned that we could still call if she wanted, but I might be a bit slow to respond since I get pretty absorbed in the game.
While I was playing and chatting with my friends, I still tried to keep up a conversation with her, even though multitasking isn’t my strong suit. I used two devices: she could hear me and my friends talking, but my friends couldn't hear her (I don't know whether this is relevant though, hahaha). After two hours, I left the game early because I didn't want her to feel neglected. However, when I ended the call with my friends, she didn’t respond to me. I kept trying to call her, and after about 3-5 minutes, she finally answered with just a "hmm?" I asked if she was sleepy, but then she went silent again.
Ever tried talking to someone who doesn’t respond? It's tiring as heck. So, I fell silent and started reading a book. After some time, she ended the call and blocked me on all social media, including my second account and phone number.
I attempted to reach out to her, but got no response, so I gave up. The next day, she still had me blocked. Then in the afternoon, she unblocked me and sent a message along the lines of, “Wow, you’re not searching for me at all, huh?” I saw it about 20 minutes after waking up from a nap and called her immediately, but she didn’t answer and blocked me again.
She left my Instagram unblocked but responded with very dry, delayed messages. I'm not sure how to handle this situation and would appreciate some advice on where I might have gone wrong. I realize going silent wasn’t ideal, but it's really exhausting to keep calling someone who hears you but chooses not to respond.
I'm 25, and she's 23 for the context.

I'm putting fake names... (A lot of the timelines are spread out but they talk about those specific moments, I hope they make since)
I have a friend, I'll call her J. I have known J for almost 9 years. She and I grew up pretty close and we were inseparable. Over the first few years of our friendship she had lost my parents trust from an incident involving a boy, she wasn't allowed to stay over for sleepovers and I practically lost my whole summer that year. I was pretty angry at my parents and blamed things on them. I regret my actions and I did learn but in my mind I thought J was the only person who understood me.
After the whole incident settled down. School started up again and she would jokingly push me into a boy or a locker. She started putting her arm around my neck, trying to choke me. She would continuously punch me or smack me on the head. I honestly got annoyed by it but I acted like it was nothing. She had suddenly became obsessed with TikTok and she posted a whole TikTok about her friends, their was a video of me that stood out. I wasn't wearing a shirt. Which completely made me uncomfortable because I wasn't wearing a shirt and she took the video while I was changing. She didn't take it down. She also would post photos without my consent. Like ones that made me feel ugly or disgusting. And I would tell her how they made me feel. But she would still post them. I started telling her no when she asked for photos and she always would sneak one when I wasn't looking. She doesn't take no for an answer. She will start whining when you don't listen. I used to trust her with my feelings and I would tell her about everything. And now I feel like she knows too much.
This past school year all of my friends (king, J, Joe, Bell) and I went to SDYC. And well when we went J was lying a bunch and starting a bunch of drama and it threw all of my friends off. We all didn't trust J and Joe that well during that time. I felt like the only people I had was my friends King and Bell. Because they both understood how I felt.
After that. King, J, and I had a sleepover. During the middle of the night I was watching a movie and J began to bug me. She started pushing on me saying I was taking up too much room. But honestly I was the one who was sleeping in between two couches there's no way I was taking that much space because I was falling in the crack. She then proceeded to call me a fat roll. I said "no your a fat roll" jokingly. And then she freaks out and she went to tell her boyfriend. It annoyed me because all her boyfriend knows how to do is talk bad. After that sleepover. She started working at the same place as me and I told her about my big crush on this coworker of ours. And so then she decided to start flirting with him in front of me. She would throw something at him jokingly and giggle. I didn't try to think anything of it. But then when we were talking about him the next thing she decided to say was, "your just jealous because he talks to me and not you". The thing is I don't want to talk to him that's why I don't try to talk to him. He has talked to me before, but I rather admire him from afar. He's like 13 years older than me. He was just hot to me at the time.
I'll just say I am lighter than a 5'6 girl. I might have a little bit of belly fat but that's just my body. And I do have an eating disorder. I don't eat enough, I practically starve myself. J honestly made me feel worse and I started having moments where I would basically pass out from no iron in my body. J continued to body shame me even from the amount of food I would eat. She straight up made is feel like she was calling me ugly and fat. It hurt and it made me angry. I told my dad and he said she's just jealous and not to worry about it. I brushed it off but she basically would say something everyday. It got to a point where I was crying all the time.
During my last year of highschool J didn't have a vehicle. So she would ask me to drive her places. I didn't mind because we would be going to the same places. And I started offering to pay for her drink or something. I didn't think much of it in tell I was always taking her places and buying her drinks but she still wanted me to pay her back for stuff when I didn't have much money. She managed to buy a vehicle for a small price by saving up the money she didn't spend. I feel stupid for offering. One day her mom even texted me asking for the small money I "owed" J. But my parents think I don't owe her anything because I have given her most of my money and that she owes me money.
J also does this thing where if you don't give her your attention she'll keep tapping you. Over and over again. Everytime she asks for my attention it's always for something so pointless and stupid. Nothing serious. And everytime I ask for her attention she'll ignore me. She does it a lot. She only wants to have the attention. I stopped telling her about how I feel because all I know is she'll either use it against me or not actually listen and move past it. Like once she asked me how I felt and when I told her that I cried about something she moved on from it into her talking about her crying over some movie she watched.
The way she treated me made me so angry that I texted her boyfriend anonymously asking him to control his girlfriend and get her to be nicer to others. He didn't like the message and told his girl on the spot and J tried to call my fake number. I didn't answer and then she ran to me to tell me the tea. She later assumed it was a boy she was flirting with that she pushed away.
I hate her boyfriend but he deserves better.. because she has talked to another boy behind his back. When I started liking this one boy. I told her about it and then she began to tell me how she met this UK boy and she thinks he's all that. She later found out he was lying about his age and she got back to reality before she lost her in person boyfriend.
She told king I was flirting with this one dude but I wasn't. J told me to add this guy she found on Facebook on snap, I said okay and I called the dude a nickname like a Grandma would call their grandchildren. And I thought it was funny and the guy thought it was chill. I didn't think anything of it and then I blocked him because I didn't want to talk to him. She then decided to add the guy on snap. And she starts talking to him. The amount of times she has lied is crazy. I blocked him but she still has him on snap. For what reason I don't know.
J and Joe and I have recently had a lot of problems with each other. It's always J and Joe fighting and I'm between listening to them both argue about each other. I was getting tired of it. J hit my breaking point when she decided to ask me for my boyfriends sisters snap. You don't just ask your friend for her boyfriends sisters snap. That's weird. She also asked for my boyfriends and she looked him up when I told her no and she added a bunch of dudes with the same name. She didn't find him but there is no way I want her knowing him or his sister. I have too many trust issues with her. She's the main reason why a lot of my relationships didn't work out. They didn't like her and she manipulated me into saying things that upset them. She makes me so uncomfortable. She made me seem lesbian once when I know I'm not. But she made a TikTok about it and a lot of people from my school saw it. I don't like false accusations. I'm pretty sure she used it for clout. But also my parents think she's inlove with me because she can never leave me alone and she always HAS to hold hands or hug.
J doesn't understand a lot of things. And she calls me stupid. I honestly want karma to come get her but that's bad and I don't mean to say that. It hurts a lot.
I had blocked J on everything. But since I worked with J I saw her and she started bawling her eyes out at me saying she did nothing, I felt bad but I was annoyed because she kept bugging me. So I unblocked her. I decided to block her again after because my boyfriend said she was manipulating me. And well the more I had her blocked the nicer she was. After a while Joe did something to make me give up on my friendship with her too and J expected that to be a chance to get me back. And well she did practically. She was a lot nicer and I felt like she changed. But Man was I wrong.. Just today I was working my second night shift. I said something as a joke because I was hoping J would get what I meant. Her boyfriend was on the call... He took everything out of context and said something that made me feel less about myself. I already feel like crap being the person I am. I want to better myself but the more people say things the more I give up. I want to be encouraged not dragged down. I don't know why he has to be so mean. I never did anything to him. I don't know why they both have to be... I listen to her call people ugly all the time. Like just stop. I want her to stop. I'm leaving for the military soon, and she said that I can't get rid of her. That sounds psycho. And it honestly makes me want to get away more. I'm tired of the toxic environment and I want to get away. But she's everywhere. She knows everything about me. She has photos of me I hate. She has so many things she can use against me. I'm honestly scared. I want to block her again but I know she's just going to keep bugging me about it. And she might turn people against me. She's good at talking to people. I'm not I'm an introvert. I don't want her ever find me again once I leave. But I know she might try. People always find a way. And she's creepy. Because I know she'll be able to. But I just want to move on with my life. I don't know how to remove her from my life. What should I do?

I'm putting fake names... (A lot of the timelines are spread out but they talk about those specific moments, I hope they make since)
I have a friend, I'll call her J. I have known J for almost 9 years. She and I grew up pretty close and we were inseparable. Over the first few years of our friendship she had lost my parents trust from an incident involving a boy, she wasn't allowed to stay over for sleepovers and I practically lost my whole summer that year. I was pretty angry at my parents and blamed things on them. I regret my actions and I did learn but in my mind I thought J was the only person who understood me.
After the whole incident settled down. School started up again and she would jokingly push me into a boy or a locker. She started putting her arm around my neck, trying to choke me. She would continuously punch me or smack me on the head. I honestly got annoyed by it but I acted like it was nothing. She had suddenly became obsessed with TikTok and she posted a whole TikTok about her friends, their was a video of me that stood out. I wasn't wearing a shirt. Which completely made me uncomfortable because I wasn't wearing a shirt and she took the video while I was changing. She didn't take it down. She also would post photos without my consent. Like ones that made me feel ugly or disgusting. And I would tell her how they made me feel. But she would still post them. I started telling her no when she asked for photos and she always would sneak one when I wasn't looking. She doesn't take no for an answer. She will start whining when you don't listen. I used to trust her with my feelings and I would tell her about everything. And now I feel like she knows too much.
This past school year all of my friends (king, J, Joe, Bell) and I went to SDYC. And well when we went J was lying a bunch and starting a bunch of drama and it threw all of my friends off. We all didn't trust J and Joe that well during that time. I felt like the only people I had was my friends King and Bell. Because they both understood how I felt.
After that. King, J, and I had a sleepover. During the middle of the night I was watching a movie and J began to bug me. She started pushing on me saying I was taking up too much room. But honestly I was the one who was sleeping in between two couches there's no way I was taking that much space because I was falling in the crack. She then proceeded to call me a fat roll. I said "no your a fat roll" jokingly. And then she freaks out and she went to tell her boyfriend. It annoyed me because all her boyfriend knows how to do is talk bad. After that sleepover. She started working at the same place as me and I told her about my big crush on this coworker of ours. And so then she decided to start flirting with him in front of me. She would throw something at him jokingly and giggle. I didn't try to think anything of it. But then when we were talking about him the next thing she decided to say was, "your just jealous because he talks to me and not you". The thing is I don't want to talk to him that's why I don't try to talk to him. He has talked to me before, but I rather admire him from afar. He's like 13 years older than me. He was just hot to me at the time.
I'll just say I am lighter than a 5'6 girl. I might have a little bit of belly fat but that's just my body. And I do have an eating disorder. I don't eat enough, I practically starve myself. J honestly made me feel worse and I started having moments where I would basically pass out from no iron in my body. J continued to body shame me even from the amount of food I would eat. She straight up made is feel like she was calling me ugly and fat. It hurt and it made me angry. I told my dad and he said she's just jealous and not to worry about it. I brushed it off but she basically would say something everyday. It got to a point where I was crying all the time.
During my last year of highschool J didn't have a vehicle. So she would ask me to drive her places. I didn't mind because we would be going to the same places. And I started offering to pay for her drink or something. I didn't think much of it in tell I was always taking her places and buying her drinks but she still wanted me to pay her back for stuff when I didn't have much money. She managed to buy a vehicle for a small price by saving up the money she didn't spend. I feel stupid for offering. One day her mom even texted me asking for the small money I "owed" J. But my parents think I don't owe her anything because I have given her most of my money and that she owes me money.
J also does this thing where if you don't give her your attention she'll keep tapping you. Over and over again. Everytime she asks for my attention it's always for something so pointless and stupid. Nothing serious. And everytime I ask for her attention she'll ignore me. She does it a lot. She only wants to have the attention. I stopped telling her about how I feel because all I know is she'll either use it against me or not actually listen and move past it. Like once she asked me how I felt and when I told her that I cried about something she moved on from it into her talking about her crying over some movie she watched.
The way she treated me made me so angry that I texted her boyfriend anonymously asking him to control his girlfriend and get her to be nicer to others. He didn't like the message and told his girl on the spot and J tried to call my fake number. I didn't answer and then she ran to me to tell me the tea. She later assumed it was a boy she was flirting with that she pushed away.
I hate her boyfriend but he deserves better.. because she has talked to another boy behind his back. When I started liking this one boy. I told her about it and then she began to tell me how she met this UK boy and she thinks he's all that. She later found out he was lying about his age and she got back to reality before she lost her in person boyfriend.
She told king I was flirting with this one dude but I wasn't. J told me to add this guy she found on Facebook on snap, I said okay and I called the dude a nickname like a Grandma would call their grandchildren. And I thought it was funny and the guy thought it was chill. I didn't think anything of it and then I blocked him because I didn't want to talk to him. She then decided to add the guy on snap. And she starts talking to him. The amount of times she has lied is crazy. I blocked him but she still has him on snap. For what reason I don't know.
J and Joe and I have recently had a lot of problems with each other. It's always J and Joe fighting and I'm between listening to them both argue about each other. I was getting tired of it. J hit my breaking point when she decided to ask me for my boyfriends sisters snap. You don't just ask your friend for her boyfriends sisters snap. That's weird. She also asked for my boyfriends and she looked him up when I told her no and she added a bunch of dudes with the same name. She didn't find him but there is no way I want her knowing him or his sister. I have too many trust issues with her. She's the main reason why a lot of my relationships didn't work out. They didn't like her and she manipulated me into saying things that upset them. She makes me so uncomfortable. She made me seem lesbian once when I know I'm not. But she made a TikTok about it and a lot of people from my school saw it. I don't like false accusations. I'm pretty sure she used it for clout. But also my parents think she's inlove with me because she can never leave me alone and she always HAS to hold hands or hug.
J doesn't understand a lot of things. And she calls me stupid. I honestly want karma to come get her but that's bad and I don't mean to say that. It hurts a lot.
I had blocked J on everything. But since I worked with J I saw her and she started bawling her eyes out at me saying she did nothing, I felt bad but I was annoyed because she kept bugging me. So I unblocked her. I decided to block her again after because my boyfriend said she was manipulating me. And well the more I had her blocked the nicer she was. After a while Joe did something to make me give up on my friendship with her too and J expected that to be a chance to get me back. And well she did practically. She was a lot nicer and I felt like she changed. But Man was I wrong.. Just today I was working my second night shift. I said something as a joke because I was hoping J would get what I meant. Her boyfriend was on the call... He took everything out of context and said something that made me feel less about myself. I already feel like crap being the person I am. I want to better myself but the more people say things the more I give up. I want to be encouraged not dragged down. I don't know why he has to be so mean. I never did anything to him. I don't know why they both have to be... I listen to her call people ugly all the time. Like just stop. I want her to stop. I'm leaving for the military soon, and she said that I can't get rid of her. That sounds psycho. And it honestly makes me want to get away more. I'm tired of the toxic environment and I want to get away. But she's everywhere. She knows everything about me. She has photos of me I hate. She has so many things she can use against me. I'm honestly scared. I want to block her again but I know she's just going to keep bugging me about it. And she might turn people against me. She's good at talking to people. I'm not I'm an introvert. I don't want her ever find me again once I leave. But I know she might try. People always find a way. And she's creepy. Because I know she'll be able to. But I just want to move on with my life. I don't know how to remove her from my life. What should I do?

We both met at a house party 2 years ago, we didn’t interact much at that time but we bonded a month or two later after meeting on a dating app over the fact that we both felt out of place at the house party.
For the next 7-8 months we bonded a lot over the same music taste, humour etc. I was going through a tough phase during this time, it can be summarised as a ho* phase because before this I was seeing a girl for the first time and after a few months she cheated on me in front of me at a club and it led to a traumatic experience and I had to go to therapy for this, I was experiencing panic attacks, severe anxiety and depression.
During my ho* phase, I was hooking up with girls I met on dating apps and I had lost the ability to genuinely connect with someone. I was still talking to this girl and we were becoming great friends.
Now almost 14 months ago she started seeing someone seriously and that guy cut her off slowly even though everything was going pretty well for them. During this period I confessed that I was into her and asked her out.
We went on a few dates, but she was moving out of the city for higher studies so we thought we weren’t ready for LDR but even after this we started an FWB sort of thing.
All of this led to an on-and-off situationship till she blocked me for a month because we were getting too close and it wouldn’t have led to anything. She unblocked me and we started chatting normally, but we still had the flirty banter between us, she would give some mixed signals by being horny and weird when she was ovulating(ik sounds weird af)
Now I was completely out of that ho* phase for an entire year, I deleted dating apps, and Instagram and completely focused on my studies. Earlier this year when we were talking I had a feeling that I was falling for her and confessed that I liked her and I wanted to see where it goes, and I was even open to an ldr.
We texted for some time she asked to meet and we bonded well but it was all platonic. When we smoked up at her place things got a bit messy when I straight up brought up the topic while I was high(ik it’s stupid) and she kept on evading it. It got very heated and I left later she told me that she couldn’t do ldr since I was also moving for my master's to a different country.
I was so genuinely into her that I never thought she would reject me, it has completely broken me and I am feeling like my 2022 self with the same panic attacks, anxiety and depression, I just can’t get over her, I have been with decent number of girls but never had this feeling of wanting to be with one only. I still cannot understand why she rejected me, what did I do wrong, I was even ready to commit completely in a relationship, something that I never thought I would be able to during my hoe phase.
Tldr- we had an on and off situationship but when I asked her that I was willing to commit in a long term relationship even if it was an LDR, she rejected me saying she wasn’t very sure of it.

Hi to give some back story me female 18 and my dad 57 have always had a rocky relationship but still see each other every so often, my dad got married in 2018 to my stepmom 55 i didn’t find out until 2020, found out though facebook this was the beginning of all this i didn’t know this woman first time i met her was around late 2021 when she moved into my dads home we had an okay relationship wasn’t anything too crazy always respectful and nice to each other since i wasn’t there too often. my mom 38 and dad got married very young and divorced before i even tuned one in 2007 so everyone is nice to each other we went on vacation with his new wife and my mom side of the family and dads ,so i thought everything was okay that was dec of 2022. in nov of 2023 i ended up in the hospital and my mom was trying to reach my dad since i was in pain i didn’t want to call and we find out my mom is blocked which is weird because they don’t communicate if it’s not about me which is not often i ended up calling him and asking him and he said he didn’t know why my mom blocked but it had to stay that way which me realize it was her who blocked my mom so i told him i was not going to him nothing about my surgery until he unblocked my mom because i found it dumb honestly the next day my step mom post on instagram saying to not blackmail because the only person who loses is me , this wasn’t the first time something like this happened one time me and my dad got into a argument at his home and she had posted don’t bring drama to my door so i told my dad about it and all she had to say was the internet is public and she can post what she wants so i took a step back from them 3 months had gone where i hadn’t seen or talked to my dad and he called me telling me she wanted to apologize and talk so i went to his house the conversation started by her telling me that my bad adttide is why the people who love can’t love me she was talking about my dad like i said before we have a rocky relationship because of stuff that’s happened in the past which she wasn’t around for so it’s not her business so i got up to leave and she followed me out telling me not to go and then we get into a argument basically me telling her to mind her own business when it came to mine and my fathers relationship and her saying as his wife that she can say what she pleases then we get outside and it gets heated me and her are going back and forth ( all while my dad was just standing there ) and then she said if we’re in her home contry i would have all my teeth knocked out so i called my mom since my dad wasn’t defending me and her my mom got into it ended up finding out that my quince photo was never hung up because i look like my mom ( i am a spitting image of my mom ) so basically this is all because i look like MY mother and the after that she locked m dad in the house and didn’t let him out so i left. it’s been 1 month since then and and she sent me a paragraph apologize and i honestly don’t care for it and ain’t want her apology but everyone on my dad side of the family thinks i should accept it and move on but i just can’t see past what she said

Hi to give some back story me female 18 and my dad 57 have always had a rocky relationship but still see each other every so often, my dad got married in 2018 to my stepmom 55 i didn’t find out until 2020, found out though facebook this was the beginning of all this i didn’t know this woman first time i met her was around late 2021 when she moved into my dads home we had an okay relationship wasn’t anything too crazy always respectful and nice to each other since i wasn’t there too often. my mom 38 and dad got married very young and divorced before i even tuned one in 2007 so everyone is nice to each other we went on vacation with his new wife and my mom side of the family and dads ,so i thought everything was okay that was dec of 2022. in nov of 2023 i ended up in the hospital and my mom was trying to reach my dad since i was in pain i didn’t want to call and we find out my mom is blocked which is weird because they don’t communicate if it’s not about me which is not often i ended up calling him and asking him and he said he didn’t know why my mom blocked but it had to stay that way which me realize it was her who blocked my mom so i told him i was not going to him nothing about my surgery until he unblocked my mom because i found it dumb honestly the next day my step mom post on instagram saying to not blackmail because the only person who loses is me , this wasn’t the first time something like this happened one time me and my dad got into a argument at his home and she had posted don’t bring drama to my door so i told my dad about it and all she had to say was the internet is public and she can post what she wants so i took a step back from them 3 months had gone where i hadn’t seen or talked to my dad and he called me telling me she wanted to apologize and talk so i went to his house the conversation started by her telling me that my bad adttide is why the people who love can’t love me she was talking about my dad like i said before we have a rocky relationship because of stuff that’s happened in the past which she wasn’t around for so it’s not her business so i got up to leave and she followed me out telling me not to go and then we get into a argument basically me telling her to mind her own business when it came to mine and my fathers relationship and her saying as his wife that she can say what she pleases then we get outside and it gets heated me and her are going back and forth ( all while my dad was just standing there ) and then she said if we’re in her home contry i would have all my teeth knocked out so i called my mom since my dad wasn’t defending me and her my mom got into it ended up finding out that my quince photo was never hung up because i look like my mom ( i am a spitting image of my mom ) so basically this is all because i look like MY mother and the after that she locked m dad in the house and didn’t let him out so i left. it’s been 1 month since then and and she sent me a paragraph apologize and i honestly don’t care for it and ain’t want her apology but everyone on my dad side of the family thinks i should accept it and move on but i just can’t see past what she said

I am a 26M. In 2020, a guy from HS (a year above me) matched with me on Bumble and starting chatting me up. Conversation was okay and quickly got hot. Unfortunately, as we both lived with our parents, we found it impossible to then ever hook-up (For context, he is Bisexual but I only found out later). For the next 4 years, he constantly reached out on Grindr, GROWLr, and text about hooking up and NEVER following through with it and instead ghosting me or blocking me. We are at 8 times by December 2023. Am I stupid? Yes. Am I naive? Yes. Am I desperate? Yes. Am I happy I do this to myself? No. Last December, I had reached my limit. As he followed me on IG, I posted a public story (not tagging him to be nice and not out him as I later found out he was still in the closet) basically saying Fuck You and you need to get your feelings checked out cause if you are doing this to other men and women, you are a fucked up man. I deleted all the apps including social media. This past Saturday, he texted me (I assume unblocked my number) and apologized and expressed that he was dating. Part of me wanted to say bye and part of me desperately hoped he was being genuine. For context, all the previous 8 times he never apologized and made excuses but he actually said “sorry” this time. So originally we were gonna hang at his place Sunday (I expected to hangout and maybe a little fun) but he cancelled on me because of Mother’s Day. This was a pleasant surprise because this was also the first time he actually replied saying he was busy instead of me finding out he deleted the app or blocked me. Earlier today, I decided to text him and explained that I think it would be better for me if we met in-person not at his apartment but maybe to chat over food or a walk in the park. He replied “don’t be like that.” That got me SOO mad and I replied 2 paragraphs of how I feel he only wanted to fuck and he wasn’t actually looking to date. He then replied “don’t be like that.” I didn’t reply because I just cannot believe that in these 4 years he really has 0 sense of communication. He clearly cannot lay out what he wants. I’m getting at his “dating” means hooking up and sex. This is time #9 and I’m in-between blocking and just never thinking about this or replying and wanting to start a fight (even tho it’s clear he’ll probably say something like “okay.”). Idk if it’s worth replying. Idk what I want from posting this but I’m just venting really. I long for something real and I just wish I could meet someone who likes me and is real.

Thank you for the report and welcome back.
Sorry for the long one. Somethings have been piling up. I guess this is my welcome back gift. 🎁
In old business. There are still regular reports that posts are submitting and not actually posting on profile or subreddit. The iOS drafts issue where they don't save and can't be accessed, is still present. The algorithm has been as bad or worse than it has ever been. It is especially bad on the mobile apps.
New UI. There is a persistent problem for some when a person replies to a comment and blocks you, all of your comments disappear from your profile until you find and delete that replied to comment. If there were other comments in the same chain, those may need to be deleted as well. It also sometimes includes your overview disappearing. The same thing happens for some when they reply and then block someone. They then have to go and unblock them to get everything to appear. That issue has been quiet this week, so it may have been recently fixed. Right now I have 6 original broken or missing things since the beginning, 3 newer broken things and a list of 18 annoyances on the new UI currently.
The new UI does not show if a subreddit is restricted or private. It also does not show if it is NSFW. I have to switch back to new.reddit to confirm all three. And with the new.reddit going away later this year, I am concerned these will not be fixed in time.
Issues. Reddit's Filters are becoming a major issue. With having no confirmation of what it could be looking for, and no consistent behavior by the Filters, it makes it very difficult to help when these reports come in. Sometimes they seem like subreddit new user restrictions might be the issue or a Reddit new account restriction on posting. Other times, it looks like crowd control. Still more there is no discernable reason why it removed something. I have confirmed it acts as the spam filter also at times. Sometimes it removes all posts after a date. sometimes it is only posts from one subreddit.
Issues. There have been a number of reports recently about media upload times taking exceedingly long or never load. Like 45 minutes for a video and it still did not load.
Issues. We are consistently seeing a number of reports of issues when trying to verify email. The emails never arrive, the link is immediately expired, or the message arrives and when clicking it it takes you back to Reddit without verifying the email.
This one is more for me, but may be helpful for others. When a user makes a post about their other account "not working", I open my profile and swap my name for theirs. The sh.reddit UI shows different and inconsistent things than the new.reddit UI. It also does give a crazy eyed snoo head when trying to look at new.reddit.
When Shadow Banned: new.reddit shows. Nobody Goes by that name. https://imgur.com/V1zdgcn. While sh.reddit shows suspended. https://imgur.com/a/XfotmLr . But it has also sometimes shows Nobody Goes by that name. https://imgur.com/a/ql2Ttgv
When Suspended: new.reddit shows Suspended. https://imgur.com/csPLq6J. While sh.reddit shows Nobody goes By that name. https://imgur.com/a/ql2Ttgv but recently it also gives the suspended image. https://imgur.com/a/XfotmLr
When Account is Deleted: new.reddit shows Deleted. https://imgur.com/a/Gfh024A. While sh.reddit shows Nobody goes by that name. https://imgur.com/a/ql2Ttgv.
Sometimes it is show as the account is suspended in the sh.reddit.com . https://imgur.com/a/XfotmLr . But when looking on new.reddit.com it shows Something Went Wrong. https://imgur.com/a/Eaes6Dq .
My big concern is that when new.reddit goes away later this year, I will not be able to give accurate advice anymore.
One thing indirectly help related that I have a question on is . Now that everything we can't help fix is going to bugs, is there any information you can share on how it is going to work? In the past, bug report tickets typically took a month or more to get a human answer from redditsupport. Are employees going to be answering on the subreddit? Taking posts down and answering via PM? Is the expectation users will have to fix everything except platform wide issues, even though we can't? Is the timeline going to look the same? I have noticed posts getting removed from bugs, are they removing duplicates like the rules say that will do? How do the users of the removed duplicates get help?

I am talking to him again :/ he’s been reaching out via text and I always feel horrible when I think about not responding even though I have every right/reason to just fucking ignore him. I did have him blocked from January up until like April and we were completely no contact but I started thinking about the fact that he probably tried to reach out during then and felt ignored by me/sad and I felt really bad so I unblocked.
I honestly have lost any hope that I’ll ever get out of this “relationship” considering I’ve let him back into my life / gone back to him at least 5 times now and he has done absolutely atrocious things to me I feel like there’ll never be a last straw for me which is what scares me the most. I always feel like in the moment whatever it is he did is the last straw and then months go by and it still bothers me but I am able to ignore it kind of and go back to him or let him back in.
I also have gotten into this really unfortunate mindset recently that majority of men are not good people / cheaters / etc (which I am very aware is a result of what I’ve been through plus childhood stuff probably too and is definitely a bad mindset to have) but I do think this way and have basically been telling myself well why even try with others if you’re going to get cheated on and abused no matter who you’re with. I am pretty sure this might also be a byproduct of depression / SERIOUSLY low self esteem I’ve been dealing with. Which would probably be a good starting point in what to deal with.
I also am quite young (21) and recently quit drinking (7 months!) hopefully for good as I have had a binge drinking problem since I was 15 which became rather severe around the time I turned 18. He has surprisingly been extremely supportive of my sobriety + also doesn’t drink. Considering my age it is VERY hard to meet people without alcohol focused activities and in general people my age tend to be extremely turned off once I mention I’m completely sober (no weed nothing) which I know not everyone is like that but vast majority I’ve interacted with have been. So idk I feel somewhat trapped because of this as well which is kind of stupid.
Idk now I’m just rambling but I’m struggling to believe I’ll ever truly be free from him and it scares me so much. And that I’ll be a shell of myself more than I already am the longer I stay.
Maybe just looking for some hopeful stories of those who made it out and truly genuinely feel “free” if that makes sense.
So sorry for the long rant LOL thanks to anyone who reads.

I am (23m) and she is (23f). She broke up with me 4 months ago. I broke no contact after 2 months and she told me to move on and blocked me on everything. So I’ve been moving on. I saw her this last weekend at one of our mutual friend’s housewarming. I knew she would be there and she knew I would. I heard she was nervous and telling people that I was going. When I got to the party, I made my rounds and said hi to everyone, including her. She had a smile on her face and so did I and we gave each other a nice hug. This was my first time seeing her since the breakup. I wanted to respect her boundaries so I did my own thing. After a few shots and games of beer pong, we were all drunk. Apparently we both were talking to each other at some point and everything was going well. My friends said we were all over each other which I don’t remember. Once 4am hit we were sobered up and were getting ready to leave. It ends up just being me, her and one of our friends. We go get McDonald’s and end up staying out until 10am. We stayed up all night just talking. There was even a point where my friend knocked out and it was just me and her talking for hours. No boundaries were crossed (weird questions, kissing, sex, etc.) we just had a nice, casual, and fun time talking and catching up. I could totally tell that we had a connection. I still love her and I think she still loves me. The reason she broke up with me was because I wasn’t meeting her needs emotionally. I have reflected so much in the time we have been apart and I love her so much. She even unblocked me on instagram and ended up calling me on the drive home after we left??! What does this all mean? Do I have a chance? I know I will see her again through our mutual friends, the question is when?

Why is it everything they do is just so wrong? How can they be this fucking thick?
I bet they told someone and got shamed for it. I can imagine it now, they play the victim and say they have NO IDEA why I'm not talking to them anymore, very conveniently leaving out all the crucial details, but they might just slip that potentially it was about the money that I sent them (which it wasn't), without any real truth about the whole situation that led up to me sending it to them nor that led up to me telling them that I was not going to be talking to them anymore, and then got shamed for it, because of course it was so clearly wrong that they accepted it, so they decided to send it back? Or maybe they think sending it back will just magically fix it, and they ignored the words that I sent them and didn't introspect at all, or else realize how sending it back would be received by me?
I hate how they just assume they know what I want without asking. I can hear the argument now, "How can you possibly be hurt by us sending it back? You're upset that we sent you money? We couldn't ask you what you wanted, so how were we supposed to know? What, are we supposed to be mind readers? How could we do anything other than send it back? We had to do SOMETHING!" No, you didn't! You could have just waited! You could have just heard what I said which was that I wanted space. You could have read my behavior which was that I'm not talking to you. It's like, if I wanted it back, don't you think I would have fucking unblocked you and asked? It's just so self-serving, because now their sob story is complete. They can now pretend to be completely innocent. They are perfect angels, and paint me as the mysterious aggressor now. "We even sent it back! I can't possibly fathom why he's still upset! Isn't he just so awful for not talking to us? Aren't we just helpless victims?" Is anyone going to notice the sleight of hand, the subtle calculus they use in crafting their victim narrative, how it's so conveniently self-serving that I never asked for it back, that the fact that they sent it back is just something they affirmatively decided to do to cover all the weak spots in their fiction? Or of how if they hadn't sent it back, that maybe the problem that was causing me not to talk to them wasn't actually about the money, because I could easily unblock them and ask for it back if that was what I really wanted? Of course not, because they would never volunteer that, they would never caveat their story. The fiction is complete. I just want no part of it.
It's like, why do you have to cling so hard? Why can't you just LET GO and LEAVE ME ALONE? I remember being upset so long ago about their invasive and controlling behavior, I remember imagining a real conversation where I could actually express myself without them taking offense or gaslighting or stonewalling or whatever, I just imagined saying, "the more you cling the more I want to run." That was right then, and it's right today. I remember dismissing it to myself as "youthful rebelliousness" or something stupid that just let them off the hook without any accountability. Just a vacuous platitude like that, that has nothing to do with being responsible or being actually accountable, useful for them in that it is universally applicable to any situation at all, divorced from any difficult questions like "well is it rebelliousness or is it a justified response", and all about just give them a free pass, after free pass, after free pass. It's like, enough is enough. I will not be controlled by them, and they will respect my autonomy and boundaries. I wasn't strong enough before to resist them, how they would break down my boundaries like sheets of paper and overpower me emotionally and manipulate me, and I am sad for my younger self who spent so long subjugated by them. But I am finding the strength I needed, the strength that was inside of me the whole time. The strength and courage and fortitude to say NO. No means NO!
In fact, by sending it back I can't help but think it reveals that they must view it as a transactional relationship in a way. By sending it back they just took what was a gift and it feels like they turned it into a transaction. Don't they realize that sending it back makes it worse? How about you send back the other stuff that you hold on to of mine that isn't money? How about you give me my diploma and my high school yearbook and my childhood photos and other artifacts of my childhood that you held onto for the last few decades? When I moved out, why did you never offer to give any of that stuff to me? When you moved houses, why did you not send me any photos of them and say wow remember this? Why did you hold onto it like some trophy of YOURS?
Why don't you fucking care about ME?

Hi there, long time lurker (since DDay last december) here but first time poster! Before I make this post, I want to clarify that I will be using the correct jargon and abbreviations for this subreddit, although I am still not sure wether my story belongs here. So here goes!
Me (31F), the BP and my WP (30M) have been together for 4 years now. December 2023 I caught my WP in what I believe was a starting EA. I had suspicions for while though, since it started in May 2022. Things were odd in my opinion, but I've also found it wasn't anything like most stories i'd read of EA's and nevee thought it was just me being silly.
WP was finishing his degree and he had half a year of a curriculum to follow still, with a new school and classmates. He found a friend group (all around 19/20 years old) there that he enjoyed hanging out with. Total of 4 guys (including him) and 2 girls. The curriculum ended with a 4-day schooltrip, after which he started acting weird. He was glued to his phone and distant. So much so that he ruined our anniversary dinner. He was completely distant, and when i suggested annoyingly that we might as well just leave, his response was "sure." And so we did.
I got tired of this behaviour and confronted him with it. It then came out that it was because it was a very emotional trip, where he revealed some traume about himself to his classmates, and didnt know how to reveal it to me and was afraid. I found this very strange as I did not see the connection to his distant behaviour in that. I won't go into detail but i personally did not find it anything to be ashamed of. As far as I know nothing happened there (though now, I will never know I guess), only that it was very much some teenager frat party for the entire trip.
Over the next 1,5 years from that trip in May 2022, WP and this group of friends stayed in contact. It wasn't much, and they'd see each other every 2 or 3 months, but WP did have considerably more text conact with one girl (AP), although it wasn't as much as most EA stories I read, like once a month (much more right after the trip though). Whenever he'd meet the friend group, WP would make it a thing to avoid inviting me. I'd seen them only twice in that whole time. He would either inform me a week before the meetup he was gonna go there, without invitation, or let me know right before or not at all (i later found in text messages, on meetups that never happened). It was always with the group though.
Don't get me wrong, I probably would've declined invitations anyway as they were way too young imo, but that fact he went out of is way to not include me was odd. Besides that i absolutely believe its healthy to also have friend alone time besides partner. But still, it struck me as strange.
This went on until he told me beginning of last december he was going for a weekend away with them at some point. His behaviour was beyond weird and awkward, as if he was asking his mom something he knew the answer was gonna be 'no' to. Thats when, a week later, i needed his phone for something, and it urged me to check messages with AP.
There it became apparant they had a much closer bond, albeit the little contact. There was mostly joking, but also some flirtation, mostly from her side. I found it during the 4 day school trip she had been telling him that people were gossiping because she supposedly was in love with him, and looking at hime alot and asked him if he minded the gossip. WP's response was "pff i dont care, ill look back at you like im in love, let them talk". There was also alot of venting from her about her bf, and him being the support for it all. I used to admire WP's need to help others, now it just makes me wanna vomit.
In the more recent convo's between them she was telling him to ask my permission for a weekend away, which is strange imo as friends, to do that. She started joking abouy skinny dippinh after. After that she was venting about the break up between her bf and her, how she was so "sex deprived" after a week, WP was happily joking along🙄 until she suggested that she'd get her fix with WP. WP's answer was ambigious, in our language it could equally mean "too bad for you I am taken" or "unfortunately I am taken already". AP reacted somewhere along the lines of "im only joking you know that😘😘😘". WP replied "i know babez😘"
Had read most of it at this point and had enough. I confronted him 2 weeks later. What followed was me yelling and crying, and him trying to explain everything with logic. Not once did he reassure or comfort me. Not until I asked him to. He didn't cut contact with AP immediately, but did so a week later. He decided that on his own and decided to do it when we were both at work. It was another stab in the back because it felt like he just wanted to control the narrative. I did check his phone at this time and he started deleting stuff, he also wasn't fully aware what I knew at this point (mind you he never deleted stuff before and phones were always open for each other) I asked him multiplie times if he wasnt deleting and lying about stuff, in comes the TT, lying and denying🙄. It wasn't until i mentioned, multiple times that I knew he was deleting and lying about stuff. His response "ohyeah, no i remember i did delete some stuff". He never fully aknowledged his betrayal, nor his TT and lying. He did fully block AP, went NC, as well as with the entire friend group, but he has done nothing to fix this. He keeps saying "he doesn't know how to fix it", even though he shows remorse and says he never wanted AP or meant anything with it, i guess throwing away our relationship meant less then "anything" then if thats the case. I feel like it's not my problem to fix, he has google and other resources to try and find a way but he just doesn't.
I am hurt, humiliated and angry. He has done nothing right in this proces, i feel. He has been rugsweeping, not been transparant, went NC with AP by blaming himself and coddling her. blocked her. Unblocked her again and then blocked again. Ofcourse no visible messages, but i cannot no for sure there werent any. AP's last message to WP was "i hope ill talk to you again at school XYZ". So apparantly they had discussed going there together next, something i knew nothing of while I was trying to help him find a good next school (which he was always dismissing, now i know why). I feel my resentment for him grow, even though he has been more sweet to me lately. I feel he has not even acknowledged the gravity of what he has done to me. The only thing he did 'right' was voluntarily telling me he gave AP a neck massage once at one of these meetups, I did not know at all. Apparantly she messaged him after rather flirtasiously afterwards, which was deleted.
We are not in IC or CC, as our workschedules don't allow it, though, to be fair he has not initiated it either and I also refuse to do it myself. Sometimes i even doubt this was an EA and it's in my head, but the pain is very very real. Advice is welcome, thank you and sorry for the long read<3
EDIT: I forgot to add that WP did explain his avoidance behaviour and clingyness to this group, he felt like he could finally be the center of attention there, since he couldnt with me and my friends, especially since im an extrovert and WP is an introvert. Thats why he never wanted me with these meetups. Also because he moved from pretty far to my place and these where the only friends who werent 2 hours away

I’m going to try to get to the point with only the important details. I(34f) had a best friend(34f) of 20+ years. It was no secret that her and her husband were having problems. He’s an ass hole and he is emotionally abusive to her and her kids. I always supported her in doing whatever was best for her family. She cheated on him. He cheated on her. Woopty Doo. I didn’t support her cheating and she knew that, but I didn’t tell her husband. Anyway, about half a year ago he found out about her cheating. It was big and nasty, he was threatening to kill her, kidnap her and make her watch him fuck other women, crazy shit. He was acting CRAZY. I thought their painful relationship would be over. I was trying to give her all the support she needed. Told her I’d be there whatever happened between the two of them. A few days passed and she stopped talking to me. Then one day I get a call. The call is of her letting me know that she needed to take a break from our friendship for at least six months to work on her relationship with her husband. She couldn’t talk to him like she could me so I needed to be removed from the picture for them to succeed. I told her, hey, I support whatever it is that you think is best for your family and I wish you the best of luck. I hung up on her, and blocked her. In my opinion, that isn’t how friendships work.
Today I get a message from a random number asking if I could unblock them so we could talk. I had no idea who it was, so I asked. She told me her name and I didn’t respond. She then told me not to hate her. I told her I don’t, but I do hate her husband(but maybe I do honestly hate her to). She told me not to hate him either, that she had some shit to work out, and I let her know that was good for her. Now she’s asking if I’m really going to end our friendship for her doing what was best for her family?
I think yes. If removing me from your life is what is best for your family, that says everything about our relationship. I haven’t responded yet.
I came on here asking for advice on how to move forward. 1. Am I being an asshole or not? 2. Is it in my best interest to keep this person out of my life?
It is weird. I about to get married and thought of her recently and this happens. I feel confused on the situation.
Thanks for any advice.

I’m going to try to get to the point with only the important details. I(34f) had a best friend(34f) of 20+ years. It was no secret that her and her husband were having problems. He’s an ass hole and he is emotionally abusive to her and her kids. I always supported her in doing whatever was best for her family. She cheated on him. He cheated on her. Woopty Doo. I didn’t support her cheating and she knew that, but I didn’t tell her husband. Anyway, about half a year ago he found out about her cheating. It was big and nasty, he was threatening to kill her, kidnap her and make her watch him fuck other women, crazy shit. He was acting CRAZY. I thought their painful relationship would be over. I was trying to give her all the support she needed. Told her I’d be there whatever happened between the two of them. A few days passed and she stopped talking to me. Then one day I get a call. The call is of her letting me know that she needed to take a break from our friendship for at least six months to work on her relationship with her husband. She couldn’t talk to him like she could me so I needed to be removed from the picture for them to succeed. I told her, hey, I support whatever it is that you think is best for your family and I wish you the best of luck. I hung up on her, and blocked her. In my opinion, that isn’t how friendships work.
Today I get a message from a random number asking if I could unblock them so we could talk. I had no idea who it was, so I asked. She told me her name and I didn’t respond. She then told me not to hate her. I told her I don’t, but I do hate her husband(but maybe I do honestly hate her to). She told me not to hate him either, that she had some shit to work out, and I let her know that was good for her. Now she’s asking if I’m really going to end our friendship for her doing what was best for her family?
I think yes. If removing me from your life is what is best for your family, that says everything about our relationship. I haven’t responded yet.
I came on here asking for advice on how to move forward. 1. Am I being an asshole or not? 2. Is it in my best interest to keep this person out of my life?
It is weird. I about to get married and thought of her recently and this happens. I feel confused on the situation.
Thanks for any advice.

Daughter is 15, I am her full legal parent. Bio dad has no legal parental rights but does have visitation. He had her the weekend he was arrested in November. Since then we have had him blocked on her cell phone, of which she is all for. When we let her know we blocked him on her phone (due to constant barrage of texts of how he’s not at fault for him being arrested) she was in agreement of him being blocked continuing. Since November his visitation went from every other weekend to supervised every other sat/sun. He figured out this past weekend that he was blocked. And gave her a hard time about it because he was letting her know that he was running late. He’s supposed to be visiting with her at my parent’s place and didn’t reach out to them or my husband and I. Just in case it’s asked, my husband and I pay for the cell phone and he doesn’t help financially in any way. I’m only curious if he actually has a right to direct contact to her. She doesn’t want to unblock him, however I did tell her that during this time she doesn’t have to tell him that it’s also her choice as well. I didn’t tell her but I worry that he will be upset and take it out on her verbally.
So does he have a right to contact her directly?

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average monthly nominal salaries and YoY change in Q1 2024

Yerevan +8% to ֏324K/$836
Syunik +7% to ֏295K/$760
Shirak +7% to ֏142K/$366
Yerevan had the highest wages. Syunik had the highest wages among provinces, while Shirak had the lowest.
REPORT: While the average nominal monthly salary does not always show the level of economic prosperity in a region, its rise has made a tangible difference in Syunik.
SUREN PARSYAN (economist): Syunik has higher wages and strong employment. It is the most prosperous province with the lowest unemployment poverty rate in Armenia: 24% in Armenia, 15% in Yerevan, and 2% in Syunik.
REPORT: Over the last 5 years, the average monthly nominal salaries have risen by 40% while the inflation was 21%.
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Armenian army launches command staff exercises

They will exercise the practical implementation of deployment and combat plans, evaluate the commanders' skills, improve the synchronized work between various groups, develop the officers' moral characteristics and practical skills during preparation and combat operations, etc.
They will use automated control systems and modern technologies during the exercises.
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Armenia and India will form a new working group for defense cooperation

Defense ministries of AM and IN held a meeting on Tuesday. They discussed the 2024-2025 cooperation plan and the creation of a new working group to coordinate the cooperation.
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from PM Pashinyan's speech at Copenhagen Democracy Summit:

PASHINYAN: Democracy has indeed become a reality in Armenia. Before the 2018 Velvet Revolution, massive electoral frauds were the usual companion of elections in Armenia. There was no trust among the citizens that there was a real chance for them to elect the government.
Now the situation is totally different; citizens know that they are powerful enough to decide. The two general elections that were held in Armenia after the Velvet Revolution have been acknowledged as democratic, free, and competitive both by the Armenian society and the international community.
Armenia made huge progress in strengthening the democratic institutions, an achievement reflected in reputable democracy indexes:
(a) Now we are the 43rd in the Reporters Without Borders’ Freedom of Speech index, compared to 79th place in 2017.
(b) Categorized as having partially free internet in 2017 by Freedom House, now we enjoy the status of a country with free internet.
(c) In Transparency International’s Corruption Perception Index, Armenia is now 62nd instead of 107th in 2017.
(d) In the Economist Intelligence Unit’s democracy index we are 84th compared to 111th in 2017.
In order to assess this progress, it's essential to note that alongside democratic reforms, Armenia has been contending with external security challenges: the 44-day war in Nagorno-Karabakh, Azerbaijan's invasion of Armenia in 2021 and 2022 and the occupation of over 200 km² amid inaction by [Russia's] CSTO, the forced displacement of over 100,000 Armenians from Nagorno-Karabakh, have cast doubts among Armenian citizens weather democracy is the right choice. So, democracy needs to prove its efficiency while dealing with security, economic and humanitarian challenges.
We are pleased with the deployment of EU monitoring mission alongside the Armenian-Azerbaijani border, and we welcome EU’s decision to expand its capacity. On the other hand, we hope for the inclusion of Armenia into the European Peace Facility and in this regard, we rely on the support of all EU member states [Hungary].
A new set of commitments aimed at strengthening Armenia’s economic resilience, state institutions, and addressing the humanitarian needs of refugees has been taken on by the European Union and United States during the high-level meeting on April 5 in Brussels. The rapid and effective implementation of those commitments is of utmost importance.
Despite all the challenges, we believe that the real and most aspiring companion for democracy is lasting and sustainable peace. My government took the share of its responsibility for this. Recently we reached an agreement with Azerbaijan to launch the delimitation of our interstate borders on the basis of the Almaty Declaration of 1991. That means that during the delimitation we should simply reproduce the Soviet-era administrative borders. This is the implementation of the agreement reached in Prague in 2022. Now it is time to incorporate and reflect those agreements in the peace treaty and have it signed.
Another key point for our regional stability is the «Crossroads of Peace», project, initiated by my government. This project implies that Armenia and Azerbaijan restore and open transport and other communications in accordance with the sovereignty and jurisdiction of the countries through which they pass, and comply with the principles of equality and reciprocity. These elements of the concept were agreed upon during the July 2023 meeting with Ilham Aliyev and Charles Michel. //

... Politico reporter's Q&A with Pashinyan

REPORTER: [Ex-NATO leader] Anders Fogh Rasmussen called your neighbor an autocracy. You are in a very difficult geopolitical and geographical position. How do you solve the security problem in that environment?
PASHINYAN: I would not like to comment on the internal situation of our neighboring countries. Democracy fully corresponds to the mentality of our people. It is a strategy for our government, it is our political belief, it is also our political identity. The members of our political team have spent most of their lives fighting for democracy, the rule of law, and freedom of speech. Now we have the opportunity to realize all these values in our country.
The security situation was complicated because of the regional and global situation; the world order is collapsing at the moment. My assessment is, and I have had occasion to say this publicly, that the 2020 war was a prelude to further developments. And now the main issue is security.
What is our strategic point of view, how are we going to guarantee the security of our country? Recently, I gave a speech in our parliament, where I said that the most important tool for ensuring security is a foreign policy based on legitimacy. This is the reason why we so often speak about the 1991 Almaty Declaration.
It is very important that during the 2022 Prague meeting, two very important agreements were reached. Armenia and Azerbaijan recognize each other's territorial integrity and sovereignty on the basis of the Almaty Declaration and will use it as the basis for the border demarcation. This is the reason why I said that we are not drawing a new border, we just need to reproduce the existing one on the ground. This process is happening right now, and I hope that we will continue it steadfastly.
REPORTER: The border conflict that has occurred in recent years has had a negative impact on relations with Russia and Russia's role for Armenia. What would you say about this?
PASHINYAN: Armenia is a member of CSTO. We are officially a CSTO member, but I have announced that we have frozen our participation.
REPORTER: So are you still a member or...?
PASHINYAN: It is a matter for further discussion, but it is very important to record the current situation. A crisis arose in our relations after Azerbaijani troops invaded Armenia, and according to CSTO procedures, the Organization and its member states had to support Armenia in this situation. But even after the formal application, the CSTO refused to take any concrete steps, and in fact, that is the main reason for freezing our participation in the CSTO at all levels.
REPORTER: Do you expect the West to occupy the current vacuum and ensure your security?
PASHINYAN: We are diversifying our foreign relations in all spheres. Now we are developing defense cooperation with India, France, and other countries. We have a certain cooperation with the European Union because as I mentioned, we are happy about the deployment of the EU Civilian Observation Mission on the border. It is a civilian mission but in a way, it is a new factor for the security of our region. This is the first time that the European Union participates in the security agenda of Armenia.
REPORTER: Would you like to become an EU member?
PASHINYAN: We are waiting for the EU's decision to include Armenia in the European Peace Facility. We also hope to start visa liberalization negotiations, and last year I announced in the European Parliament that Armenia is ready to be as close to the European Union as the European Union deems it possible. This is our position.
REPORTER: Can you elaborate on what initiatives Armenia is taking in the fight against corruption?
PASHINYAN: We have made huge progress but have not eradicated corruption from Armenia. We must continue to be persistent in the agenda of democratic reforms. This is the reason why cooperation with the European Union is of utmost importance for us because today the European Union is our main partner in the implementation of our democratic reform agenda. We hope that the European Union, as well as the USA, will increase their support to Armenia in the implementation of democratic reforms, because, as I said, democracy is a strategy for us.
By the way, in 2019 we started a Strategic Dialogue with the USA, and today we see the strengthening of our cooperation with the European Union. We recently had a tripartite meeting with the participation of the USA, EU, and Armenia. It was an unprecedented format, where we adopted a huge agenda of institutional and economic reforms. It is also very important that we receive more tangible support from the EU and the US to address the humanitarian needs of the Nagorno Karabakh refugees because it is a very sensitive and emotional issue for us.
REPORTER: In which year would you like Armenia to become a member of the EU?
PASHINYAN: This year [as soon as possible]. //
Pashinyan met Anders Fogh Rasmussen. The latter emphasized the importance of the “Crossroads of Peace” project in the context of unblocking the regional infrastructure.
Pashinyan discussed various topics with the PM of Denmark. The latter accepted his invitation to visit Armenia.
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former regime continues to hold protests and briefly shut down roads in Yerevan with demands for PM Pashinyan's resignation

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Dozens of participants were detained and released the same day for blocking roads. The detentions decreased from 170 on Monday to ~63 on Tuesday. They want Pashinyan to resign or to be impeached. The protest organizers visited universities to gather student supporters, some of whom joined them with a dance. The organizers also stopped by at a bakery where they were given free food.
A felony investigation was launched after a police vehicle, "with the sirens on", struck a reporter on the street. In another instance, an investigation was launched against a protester who brought a long sword. One other case was launched over alleged threats made on Facebook by a Galstanyan fan who wants scores of people to be beaten in dalans and exiled from Armenia, "մենակ էտ դեպքում էս սրբազան հողը կմաքրվի էս տեսակ շան ծնունդներից, ուրիշ ձև չկա!!!!"
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A ruling faction member of Yerevan City Council complained about "harassment" by opposition figures who are attempting to convince ruling party members to join the protests and the impeachment.
RULING MEMBER: That is not how it works. No one will join you with that conduct. People will join if they see you have a legitimate agenda with trustworthy leaders. Instead, you are "ethnically cleansing" the citizens of Armenia [referring to one opposition speaker telling non-Armenians to leave] և հեռու չէ են օրը երբ դուք գուցե ասեք որ հայ լինելու համար պետք է Հայկ նահապետից տեղեկանք բերել: //
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Yesterday the protest co-organizer Archbishop Bagrat Galstanyan said he received a report suggesting that the Deputy Rector of Yerevan State University supposedly urged deans and others to retaliate against students who joined the protests. Galstanyan said he was unsure whether the report was true, but decided to read it out loud anyway. On Tuesday he rallied his supporters to the backyard of the University where he demanded to speak with the Deputy Rector for clarification.
The Deputy Rector went downstairs and greeted Galstanyan, who shook her hand but wouldn't let it go for an uncomfortably long period, prompting her to ask him to let go of her hand. The Deputy Rector declared that whatever Galstanyan read about her was a defamatory lie.
GALSTANYAN: I never believed it myself.
DEPUTY RECTOR: Then you should not have said out loud something you did not believe.
GALSTANYAN: Listen, there is a recorded fact...
DEPUTY RECTOR: Where is that "recorded fact"?
GALSTANYAN: It was on the media. As I said yesterday, I had no verification that it was true, which is why we came here to clarify it. If it's false, then I apologize.
DEPUTY RECTOR: Thank you. //
The Deputy Rector urged the protest organizers not to enter the building or disrupt the classes, and that "anyone who wants to follow you can follow you, anyone who wants to stay in classrooms should stay in classrooms".
The angry Deputy Rector left. Another university official criticized Galstanyan for not checking the information before reading it to his followers. Galstanyan said he stands behind his words, and that he was "just reading what was on the media", but reiterated that he had no intention to insult the Deputy Rector.
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Galstanyan and his supporters visited the monument dedicated to Operation Nemesis. He praised the figures behind Nemesis for "assuming personal responsibility". In front of the crowd, Galstanyan introduced Hambig Sassounian who recently joined his movement. He pointed to the Nemesis monument and said Sassounian is "one of the successors, one of the brightest people." In related news, on Sunday a ruling faction MP complained about receiving death threats with reference to Operation Nemesis.
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DANIEL IOANNESIAN (NGO chief): When this protest dies down, we need to discuss the following: (1) The transparency of political and media funding. There are some regulations in place, but they are incomplete and easily bypassed. For example, I'd like to know who paid for Archbishop Galstanyan's giant stage in Republic Square. In 2018 Pashinyan organized a fundraising for it and disclosed a detailed report. (2) Should the media organizations that do not respect the rules of financial transparency enjoy all the mechanisms for the protection of journalists? (3) Are the customs authorities confident that the church is not facilitating the business activities of certain figures disguised as donations? (4) Is it fair for the church and clergy members not to pay taxes? Should they be able to have a Bently and LX570 without paying taxes? [The "Bentley" is based on a true story.]
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Archbishop's fans spotted Miss Armenia 2003 and a H1 host Lusine Tovmasyan drinking a coffee at a Yerevan café and approached her.
PROTESTER: (unintelligable)
LUSINE: I was here drinking coffee yesterday, and a year before that.
PROTESTER: Why have you not joined the holy struggle?
LUSINE: Լավ եկեք թարգեք, շատ զզվելի ա, էնքան զզվելի ա․ //
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Pro-Kremlin propagandist Alexander Dugin praised the pro-Russian forces' protests in Armenia and criticized the pro-EU protests in Georgia.
Pro-Kremlin Russian politician Semyon Baghdasarov praised Archbishop Bagrat and the ongoing "uprising" in Armenia against the "traitor" [Nikol] who "rigged" the elections with the help of "Turkey, UK, and US". Nikol is a Turkish MI6 agent. video,
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Video of a protest recorded from above: video
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Armenian government has upgraded other diplomatic channels to reduce reliance on ARF's diaspora structures in the US, says pro-West NGO chief

KHURSHUDYAN: The status of the Armenian Ambassador to the U.S. [Lilith Makunts] has been significantly upgraded. I won't go into specifics because it's tied to our neighbors, but she plays an interesting role there. We have great conditions for the U.S. Congress to pressure Azerbaijan. This is outside of ARF's lobbyist groups in the U.S.
REPORTER: ARF Hay Dat's recent conduct has been shameful.
KHURSHUDYAN: And its influence on the Lemkin Institute was obvious. //
Yesterday Kurshudyan accused the Lemkin Institute of caving to ARF's pressure and meddling into Armenia's internal affairs to assist the protests by the pro-Russian former regime.
KHURSHUDYAN: Lemkin Institute accused Pashinyan's April 24 genocide remembrance day statement of containing "victim blaming". Lemkin did not comment on Pashinyan's statement for several weeks, waited 15 days, and as soon as these pro-Russian protests began in Armenia, they gave them a պաս:
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Armenia's four most prominent pro-West opposition parties announce the formation of a unified platform

Republic Party, led by ex-PM Aram Sargsyan.
Hanun Republic Party, led by Arman Babajanyan.
European Party of Armenia, led by Tigran Khzmalyan.
Christian-Democratic Party, led by Levon Shirinyan.
Have the following agenda...
(1) Promotion of Western values in Armenia and Armenia's membership in EU and NATO.
(2) United front against threats and risks of destabilization coming from Russia.
(3) Vetting judges to clean up the courts, and resolution of issues left unaddressed by the Pashinyan administration.
(4) Continuation of border demarcation based on 1991 Almaty.
(5) The use of international law to achieve a fair resolution for Nagorno-Karabakh residents.
The platform is open for like-minded forces to join.
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Armenian army chief denies being a Russian citizen

A statement released by the defense ministry denies media reports that CoGS LtGen Edward Asryan is a dual citizen of Russia. His wife is an ethnic Russian with Armenian citizenship and his kids are dual citizens, but Asryan only has citizenship in Armenia. The whole family has resided in Armenia since 2006, said the statement.
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Georgia passes controversial ‘foreign agents’ bill despite widespread opposition

The law will require organizations receiving more than 20% of their funding from abroad to register as “agents of foreign influence” or face crippling fines.
The bill will be sent to the President who is expected to veto it, but her veto is expected to be overruled by the parliamentary majority later.
Georgian PM Kobakhidze had an "honest conversation" with U.S. deputy foreign minister James O'Brien, telling him that the Georgian government is interested in deepening the partnership with the U.S., "which requires mutual efforts and relations based on fairness."
James O'Brien demanded to speak with the manager - Bidza Ivanishvili. The latter refused to meet O'Brien, saying he won't hold any meetings under "blackmail".
The White House said the U.S. will review its relations with Georgia if the bill becomes law.
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how many of the 101,000 Nagorno-Karabakh refugees have left Armenia and haven't returned yet?

As of...
Dec: 6.6K
Jan: 6.9K
Mar: 8.0K
Apr: 9.1K
May: 9.9K
The former Ombudsman of Nagorno-Karabakh said many of them have family members and friends in Russia who invite them to move.
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temperatures are rising rapidly in Armenia

REPORTER: The rainy May is not going to be enough to alleviate the negative consequences of the rapidly rising temperatures in Armenia. With a ~3 Celsius anomaly, Armenia had the second-highest increase in temperature over the last 6 months among a group of monitored countries.
WEATHER CENTER: High temperatures increase the evaporation of water and reduce the amount of snow in the winter. In December and January, we recorded rain instead of snow in certain mountainous regions, which is bad for water resources.
REPORTER: A conference was recently held in Yerevan within the framework of the UN Convention to Combat Desertification.
UN official: Around 40% of global soils are degraded. Millions of people will be forced to migrate from their communities by 2050 as a result of climate problems. Emergency action is needed to reduce the rate of rising temperatures. //
Armenia joined the Convention three decades ago and has assumed the responsibility to restore degraded soil by 2030. The government is promoting drip irrigation systems for farming and wants to plant more trees.
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is the decline of Lake Sevan levels finally slowing down?

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Yerevan Municipality to receive a €25 million loan from European Investment Bank to raise energy efficiency

It's part of the implementation of Eastern Partnership programs. The Armenian government and the EU are co-financing it.
The goal is to raise energy efficiency and carry out seismic retrofitting in 6 medical clinics and 32 kindergartens run by the municipality. The length of the program is 4 years.
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Gagik Tsarukyan is inside you

there is a bit of Tsarukyan inside all of you
see it to believe it

Gagik Tsarukyan says the new Jesus statue is ready and will be installed by the end of 2025

It will be a tourist attraction site. There will be a ropeway. Also, Tsarukyan needs you to know that he is a man of God and an avid believer.
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Armenia and Slovakia discussed AM-EU visa liberalization

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Lithuania will help retrain Armenian law enforcement agents to combat cybercrime, analyze crimes, etc.

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Armenia's Economy Minister Papoyan met the U.S. Assistant Secretary of State for Energy Resources Geoffrey Pyatt

In a Washington meeting participated by the Armenian Ministry delegation and Armenia's Ambassador, they spoke about the Crossroads of Peace logistics project proposed by Armenia, several topics relating to Armenia's energy and economic security, and the Armenian government's ongoing efforts to classify Armenia as a "market economy".
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Armenia and Iran discussed the construction of a second bridge over the River Araks

The first bridge began operating in 1996. It came to replace the floating bridges on the river.
Iran says the AM-IR traffic through the Meghri checkpoint significantly increased last year. Coupled with the fact that Armenia is building a modern North-South highway, they believe it's necessary to have a second AM-IR bridge to handle the rising traffic.
The parties are currently discussing the formation of a working group consisting of experts to discuss the topic.
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a new study on mice indicates that more exercise might be better than more sleep for clearing brain of toxins

They injected a dye into a brain and tracked the speed of its movement during sleep and exercise.
The findings show that the clearance of the dye was reduced by 30% in sleeping mice compared with mice that were kept awake. This has not been confirmed on humans yet.
Previous research has suggested that sleep is important for preventing dementia as it is during this time that toxic proteins are cleared from the brain.
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I’m going to try to get to the point with only the important details. I(34f) had a best friend(34f) of 20+ years. It was no secret that her and her husband were having problems. He’s an ass hole and he is emotionally abusive to her and her kids. I always supported her in doing whatever was best for her family. She cheated on him. He cheated on her. Woopty Doo. I didn’t support her cheating and she knew that, but I didn’t tell her husband. Anyway, about half a year ago he found out about her cheating. It was big and nasty, he was threatening to kill her, kidnap her and make her watch him fuck other women, crazy shit. He was acting CRAZY. I thought their painful relationship would be over. I was trying to give her all the support she needed. Told her I’d be there whatever happened between the two of them. A few days passed and she stopped talking to me. Then one day I get a call. The call is of her letting me know that she needed to take a break from our friendship for at least six months to work on her relationship with her husband. She couldn’t talk to him like she could me so I needed to be removed from the picture for them to succeed. I told her, hey, I support whatever it is that you think is best for your family and I wish you the best of luck. I hung up on her, and blocked her. In my opinion, that isn’t how friendships work.
Today I get a message from a random number asking if I could unblock them so we could talk. I had no idea who it was, so I asked. She told me her name and I didn’t respond. She then told me not to hate her. I told her I don’t, but I do hate her husband(but maybe I do honestly hate her to). She told me not to hate him either, that she had some shit to work out, and I let her know that was good for her. Now she’s asking if I’m really going to end our friendship for her doing what was best for her family?
I think yes. If removing me from your life is what is best for your family, that says everything about our relationship. I haven’t responded yet.
I came on here asking for advice on how to move forward. 1. Am I being an asshole or not? 2. Is it in my best interest to keep this person out of my life?
It is weird. I about to get married and thought of her recently and this happens. I feel confused on the situation.
Thanks for any advice.
TLDR my ex best friend wanted to cut me out for a few months to fix her relationship that I caused no problems in, I blocked her, and now she’s back asking to be friends again.

I’m going to try to get to the point with only the important details. I(34f) had a best friend(34f) of 20+ years. It was no secret that her and her husband were having problems. He’s an ass hole and he is emotionally abusive to her and her kids. I always supported her in doing whatever was best for her family. She cheated on him. He cheated on her. Woopty Doo. I didn’t support her cheating and she knew that, but I didn’t tell her husband. Anyway, about half a year ago he found out about her cheating. It was big and nasty, he was threatening to kill her, kidnap her and make her watch him fuck other women, crazy shit. He was acting CRAZY. I thought their painful relationship would be over. I was trying to give her all the support she needed. Told her I’d be there whatever happened between the two of them. A few days passed and she stopped talking to me. Then one day I get a call. The call is of her letting me know that she needed to take a break from our friendship for at least six months to work on her relationship with her husband. She couldn’t talk to him like she could me so I needed to be removed from the picture for them to succeed. I told her, hey, I support whatever it is that you think is best for your family and I wish you the best of luck. I hung up on her, and blocked her. In my opinion, that isn’t how friendships work.
Today I get a message from a random number asking if I could unblock them so we could talk. I had no idea who it was, so I asked. She told me her name and I didn’t respond. She then told me not to hate her. I told her I don’t, but I do hate her husband(but maybe I do honestly hate her to). She told me not to hate him either, that she had some shit to work out, and I let her know that was good for her. Now she’s asking if I’m really going to end our friendship for her doing what was best for her family?
I think yes. If removing me from your life is what is best for your family, that says everything about our relationship. I haven’t responded yet.
I came on here asking for advice on how to move forward. 1. Am I being an asshole or not? 2. Is it in my best interest to keep this person out of my life?
It is weird. I about to get married and thought of her recently and this happens. I feel confused on the situation.
Thanks for any advice.

Very long bc I can’t keep 10yrs of friendship simple, nor can I constructively explain without being all over the place :)—we 39f and 39m have 10yrs of friendship. 6yrs has been from a distance although we would meet up every year until 3yrs ago. When we first met, we tried to date but realized we’re better friends. We’d hook up in between relationships bc we’ve always been attracted to eachother and we’re bored/lonely. That finally stopped about 4yrs in. He dated a girl for 5yrs and 2yrs into that, him and I had an unhealthy friendship which led to inappropriate acts behind his gf back bc he was unhappy and I was bored(nothing physical). I knew he wasn’t taking the relationship serious so I didn’t care about our actions—until I did. I didn’t like contributing to bringing that side out of either of us and we stopped talking completely, 2yrs ago.
2 months ago he finally had the balls to walk away from the relationship and text me. We caught up life/families, I apologized for my part in everything a couple years ago, he did the same. Mentioned he’s not happy being single but it was for the best and he’s trying to figure his life out and plans on starting therapy for some issues he deals with. Backtracking—in the past, we’ve had differences of opinion and he’s been so quick to go off and insults were his go to. It was clear he can be uhinged sometimes but does pretty well keeping that side under wraps. Ive always thought of him as a narcissist, but as long as im not a target, I dont see a problem with a friendship. (He can be an extremely ugly person to people and his mom history of mental issues so I recognize he has been affected).
Anyway. We were texting on Mother’s Day about random stuff and he brought up the govt/eptein thoughts and I told him I don’t waste my time on investigating stories and building an opinion—he made a comment about me being like his ex and how we just turn a blind eye to bad things that are going on. It’s not untrue but I don’t spend time looking into stuff like that in order to have an opinion when the topic comes up. The conversation went from common interest to him telling me I’m like his ex and turn a blind eye to bad things going on. Literally tells me to take care and blocks me. It made no sense and I couldn’t believe it. I emailed him and told him we’ve now eachother too long for such a random act without explanation. I also acknowledge he’s going through alot and asked him to unblock me so I can better understand him. 2 days later, he texts me “ok”. Clearly in response to my email. Wtf do I do? He’s so quick to shut people out and it hurts my heart when people do that while going through emotional times in life. It’s so unhealthy to be alone and isolate—I know first hand. But wtf do I say? Or do I just let it be and tell him I’m here if he needs anything and leave it at that? Bravo if you made it this far lol

I stumbled across this subreddit and although I'm strictly not over 40 myself, my relationship lends to being with someone older than me, so I'm looking for thoughts and opinions from people in that demographic. Hopefully that's okay....
For a little context, I was in my first and only relationship which lasted 18 months. It was an age gap relationship, she was 43/44 at the time, so 12 years older than me — I'm 33 now and she had a little daughter who was around 10 who I treated like my own. She was married for 14 years, divorced for 3 before I come along and was a breath of fresh air and “put the wind back in her sails” as she put it and the "love of her life" and "soulmate" and all that stuff…But ultimately, in August 2022 after our holiday as a trio to Mallorca, she told me she no longer found me attractive, or attractive anyway, she was never in it from day one when she met me, only saw me as a friend.
She told me she thinks she should be with someone more her age, established, has the executive job title (as she finds the self made type an “attractive” quality), fancy car, house, body. I think she saw a power imbalance because of the age gap and she was a high earner herself.
I think she has/had her own issues she never dealt with, because I was never toxic or abusive or shouted or argued and did everything to try meet her needs. I would've moved mountains and walked over broken glass for her. There were these emotional wobbles every few months, where she would burst into tears upset telling me she wasn’t sure what she wants, she doesn’t want a relationship and can go through life focusing on her career, daughter and doesn’t need or want a guy. But being nieve would ignore that, calm her down, reassure her I’m there for her, sleep on it and go again and then the cycle would repeat after a few months - another wobble and another. I guess ultimately I'll never really know the true reason as I guess people say things in the heat of the moment.
She turned incredibly cold and heartless after I tried to save things, be reasonable and text, and then all of a sudden we were in no contact at all. After a year of being blocked everywhere except for WhatsApp, she unblocked me on Instagram just before the most recent Christmas, but never reached out. Could be something, could be nothing. I guess 6 months later, it's nothing.
I guess I'm a little lost still, all this time later, and would welcome thoughts and an open conversation for comfort..