Cool phone signatures for guys

Last October (2022) I met a guy at a bar, everyone was dressed in very formal attire so it seemed to be some formal event they had been to and were post gaming. (I’m assuming a work related formal event where nobody was aware of his personal life. Or everyone does the same and minds their business.) He came up to me and told me I had a the most beautiful smile, I thought he was cute so we chatted for a while and eventually my friends wanted to go to a different bar so I got his number to let him know where I end up.
Fast forward like 20 min, he comes to join us at the next bar, which is more of a club vibe. He’s buying drinks, we’re in the photo booth making out, he’s telling me I should visit him in NYC, all the things, then I somehow end up going back to his hotel room with him. We did everything but have sex—he specifically said we cannot do that, he also kind of freaked out when he thought it had gone in but I reassured him I’d never in my life do that after he specifically said we cannot have sex…even tho he let anything else fly up to that point.
The next morning, right at the literal crack of dawn, he’s like …you have to go. Gets me an Uber, barely makes sure I’m home safe (some other man got in my Uber and he was telling me to just go in the other Uber), and goes ghost once I text that I’m home. At the time I knew it was something fishy going on because he went from really sweet, perfect gentleman the night before to ✌🏻 the next morning.
I recently saw something that reminded me of his existence and decided to do a search to see what he’s up to. He’s kinda high profile? Not celebrity or influencer but he has a very googleable name on top of seemingly very known in his field….tell me why I found the wedding registry…he’s getting married in June LOL
His fiancée is also very googleable, more influencer adjacent so public accounts and a decent amount of posts so I did a bit of stalking…she has several posts about “photos she used to soft launch her bf” and one of them was posted November 2022?? Also found out they were engaged November 2023.
Could the “no sex” thing have been for plausible deniability?
There’s barely a month between me naked in his hotel room and her soft launch posts and the relationship is not accounted for in that time.
There was a bit of an age gap, I was 23 fresh out of college and he was 31 or something. I was naive and not hip to slimy grown man games, especially grown men that aren’t idiots/ugly/lame/poor and that’s the reason they’re going after 23 year olds.
The worst part of this is his fiancée is beautiful and so cool and everything I want to be and I cannot in good conscience follow her on TikTok smh
TLDR; guy I hooked up with but didn’t have sex with seems to have been in the beginning of a serious relationship but there’s no concrete evidence of overlap. I’m not planning on saying anything to anyone but could his assertion of no sex been for plausible deniability?

Hey guys! I am sure some of you might know me. I made a post about 4-5 days ago about wanting to join Vought and I expressed my wish to work with Homelander, and then I was reached out by the other Ashley and now I've been hired as an intern. Today was my 4th day working at VoughtHQ.
To recap, I am 17 and my superpowers are testicle inflation (I can't control this one for some reason, idk but it started a while ago and they've gotten kinda big rn, the doctors said that a different name for this superpower is tumor apparently but idk), and SIMP (super intense minecraft powers).
Today Homelander seemed really pissed, I am not sure why but he was. Anyway, apparently Soldier Boy the greatest hero of the time before whatever time it is rn has been seen walking around in the city? I am not sure if that's true but that's so cool!!!!
Do you think Soldier Boy might have something to do with Homelander's bad mood?
Oh and if someone's wondering, no I didn't see Homelander drink his magic potion from the nursing bottle again.

So a couple months ago my mom fell asleep on the couch (probably because she was drinking that night) and i heard my step dad go downstairs and question my mom for a text she got. I couldn’t exactly make out what was being said but I heard him say “we’re done” and slammed the door. I was really worried about how the next day was going to go but they acted as if nothing happened and everything has seemed normal since. Recently my mom has insisted that we visit our home country to deal with her inheritance and other legal issues. But it’s just me and my mom coming every other month because my step dad has to work in the states. It was weird to me how she wanted to keep coming but I always just assumed that it was because she does miss her culture and friends and family that we have here. That was until tonight. I heard her talking on the phone and i decided to stand outside her door and listen. It was clearly a guy she was talking to who was asking her to come over because she kept saying that she has work in the morning and other things that confirmed it was definitely a romantic relationship and that it was definitely not my step dad (because we’re in another country and she was speaking in another language when my step dad only speaks English. I’m really disappointed in her and honestly have lost so much respect for her. My step dad has been so kind to me and my brother supporting us financially and stepping into a father role for us. I know i don’t know the whole story but either way I am disgusted at her right now. I want to confront her but I also am really scared to mess up our family situation because I don’t want anything to change. I think tomorrow I’m going to try to look through her phone and see who she was talking to. I’m scared to find out the truth. I guess we’ll see what happens.

Hello guys. My Galaxy Watch 5 ist broken and now i need a new Watch. The most important things are accurate GPS and a precise step counter. I mainly walk or do 10k runs at max so i dont care about golf or whatever. I want to use LTE too for less screen time.
Im torn between the Galaxy Watch 6 a Google Pixel Watch 2 or even an Apple Watch. Right now im using a Galaxy S23U but im planing to get a smaller sized phone.

My newly built computer, an i9 with 128gb ram, 4060 Nvidia card, rapid fast SSD, and more than adequare cooling, is sort of "slow". I use a 49" curved screen and that might be why, but I am still curious and would like input from you guys.
In the browser even on Facebook it can be a tiny bit slow when typing text. YouTube can also be slow in terms of moving my mouse over a button and it takes 0.5 second for the icon to change. Things like that.
When this happens the computer fans ramp up and it gets faster. It just seems like the computer is on drugs and needs a slap across the face to wake up and work. I rather have it work all the time, I don't care about the power cost or whatever.
Any ideas? Much appreciated!

Kind of long, but any advice or input would be greatly appreciated :)
I (22F) have been working in fast food/ retail since I was 17 and I’m finally ready to take that leap to leave my current job and find one that will help advance my career and give me at least some financial stability. I also live in NorCal for context (not sure if I’d be willing to move quite yet.) I’ve been at my current retail job since 2021 and was honestly just going to stay there until I was completely finished with college but I just received my AA and the current management im under is so difficult to work with and extremely offensive I can barely take it not to mention I’ve been in management for about 2 years now and have gone from at least 20hr a week (part time) to less than 10hr a week, less than some associates and they’re all 3 hour shifts so I’m not even allowed to take a 10min break though im not even sure if that’s legal??
I am very fortunate to not have to pay rent as I live with my parents and I only have to worry about paying for my car, gas, phone, school, necessity’s etc. So no rent is a life saver in this economy. With that being said I don’t necessarily need the highest paying job quite yet (willing to work my way up or gain helpful experience) though that would be ideal for anyone. I just want to be able to find something that fits with my personality/ needs and also doesn’t care the way I look. I know sometimes you have to do what u gotta do but I cannot take working somewhere I’m miserable at and I understand that is a privilege within itself so I’m just trying to use the time I do have to really find what I’m passionate about and not be scared to try new things.
I still want to go back to school to get my bachelors degree since it’s always been a dream of mine, but since I pretty much pay for everything out of pocket besides some degree of financial aide, I don’t want to just aimlessly transfer somewhere with no clue on what to study which has been my issues for some time. I feel like my interest haven’t changed much and neither have my dreams to further my education so I’ve pretty much been saying the same things since probably before high school and I still have no clue what exactly the direction is I should go. I would love to gain some first hang experience to know if getting my B.A. is even worth it for the field I want to go into or what major would benefit me the best.
I have many interests and ideas as to what I could possibly do but I feel like as much as I say them out loud no one really relates so I always feel alone or like there’s no possible job for me that I’ll feel happy in. I mean I think majority of people would rather not work and focus their lives on their hobbies and passions but unfortunately that’s not in the cards for most people and though I sometimes live in that dreamland that doesn’t change the fact that I’m extremely dedicated, hard-working and really want to make a difference in whatever field I end up in. So I guess I’ll leave a list of the things I’m interested in, in case anybody has some advice or input on any occupations I’ve listed or have experience in anything I’ve listed.
I guess another thing to mention is that I was recently applying to a lot of jobs in childcare and pretty much every interview I went to turn me down on the spot because of my appearance. Of course I hear the stories of looking less professional due to your tattoos, piercings, etc., which I never understand. I don’t even have a single tattoo or piercing, not even my ears, but I have bright pink hair and that has been such a downside for the interviewing processes, even some retail jobs like Box Lunch for example doesn’t accept colored hair when they’re literally a pop culture store and share the same company as Hot Topic. I don’t want to have to change my appearance for a job. I know it’s just hair but I was never able to express myself the way I wanted to and the amount of money and maintenance that goes with having colored hair would not be worth it to me to color black just to get a job. It would feel like I’m altering myself and changing something that makes me feel good about myself is unfair and already puts a bad taste in my mouth about the company because they are willing to look over my qualifications and work ethic due to one minor detail in my appearance. One of these jobs I even had two on the phone interviews that went amazing and was going to my final in person interview and was literally meeting with a family for a behavioral technician job and the first thing they (the company) told me was I would need to change my hair to even be considered and I had to eventually politely end the interview because they still wanted to me to meet a kid despite straight up telling me they will not hire me if I didn’t immediately change my hair… and I’d be working with a family, not even in a ‘ public setting.’ I would just love to be able to work in a community that embraces people for their differences for the way they express themselves, and encourages self expression.
Anyways, here are some of my interests and I’d be eternally grateful to hear any feedback! Maybe you’ve worked in some of these environments and have advice or horror stories, if you have similar interests to me let me know what kind of job you have because I’m sure I don’t even know the formal titles to half of these jobs, or even have other ideas that match my interests. Thank you thank you thank you!

• A lost 22 year old just trying to find her way

TLDR: I have so many interests and have no idea where to go with my next steps in my career and schooling, and would love some advice based off of my interest and experience. My unnaturally colored hair gets me nowhere. My experience and interests are listed below.
My schooling/ experience so far: * 5 years of theatre under my belt (onstage/backstage/management) * Just graduated with my AA in Social & Behavioral Sciences (Random but was recommended to do so based on all of the same interest I told my counselor some odd years ago) * Most of my college classes were focused in sociology, psychology, and child development, which has been super interesting so I am willing to branch out from my interest because I did find a lot of interest in the classes I’ve taken previously. * Have worked in retail for four years; Pretty well received by people * A nanny to 4 kids (ages 4-16) for about 3.5 years as well
My personality: (not sure if this will help with knowing if I would be a good fit for any of the jobs listed )
i’m extremely bubbly and can have my extroverted moments, but I can also be introverted at times and when work needs to get done, I will figure out the best way to do it and get to work. I work pretty well with a team and always have ideas flowing and bouncing around, but I can also excel working on my own/have no issues being independent with my work. I don’t have a huge preference on a fast versus slow paced work environment. I would like something flexible, but I have no issue with getting into a routine. I feel like I am truly pretty flexible when it comes to my work environment, I just really want a place that I can express myself and be surrounded by a community of people similar to me. I love to be innovative and creative.
My interests/ ideas: (sorry kinda random and jumps around)

• always wanted to be a nanny or travel nanny; to work with one specific family and grow with them
• Pre-k - 1st grade teacher; I find teaching younger kids really fulfilling, love crafts/ activities/planning, extremely patient
• Art teacher (i love ceramics, but pretty much any type of art would be so cool to incorporate creativity with teaching)
• Child advocate (possibly on movie and tv sets)
• Teacher on movie and television sets
• Directing or any sort of behind the scenes job for movies and television (I love to write and create concepts, costuming, sets, music, casting)
• Set designer for movies, television, or theater
• Costume designer for movies, television, or theater
• Possibly work with an acting company backstage (I don’t even know if that’s a job but possibly a permanent backstage role somewhere)
• Open my own curated thrift shop or a shop in general that is really creative or theme oriented
• Have a small bakery business or just a business in general, I love the idea of being able to run a company or brand that’s inclusive and creative
• I do love to bake and Decorate desserts
• Creative Director; photographer, videographer; I just love the thought of creating things and bringing concepts together, planning, etc.
• Magazine company?
• Wedding planning/party and event planning; again, I just like bringing things together I feel like I have an eye for aesthetics
• Something with marketing or managing

As you can see, most of my interest have to do with childcare and the arts, which are some of the lowest paying jobs/difficult fields to get into, but it’s what I most passionate about and what I can actually see myself being happy doing for a long time. i’m also not opposed to working in one certain field for a while and then branching out to something different or related further down the line, I just want to know what step I should take next so I’m not just floating around doing nothing and being/fill, I just want to know what step I should take next so I’m not just floating around doing nothing and being/feeling useless.
Thank you so much to anyone who responds with advice and kind words :)

Not sure how to formulate the question properly because I just don't understand what happened, I'm not savvy about mechanics.
Thing is I start getting teased by a POS corolla so I put the car in sport+ and gapped the hell outta the idiot.. I reached about 120mph, then When I finally had to stop, I noticed the car wasn't accelerating as well, and my bov was taking about 1-2seconds to release air.. Then it got to a point where it didn't release air at all but instead it did a little "stututu".. I thought my bov had fallen out of place or a hose, but I let the car sit in the garage for an hour and when it cooled down, it started acting normally.
Coolant level: OK Bov/hoses: in place Temp gauge: below midway.
Guys, help me out here, any ideas of why this happened? I was driving kinda hard is whan I can say

My name was slandered SO badly by the quinte.ca news that it is literally criminal and VERY VERY messed up.
According to this article I am a Sex Predator and was trying to lure a 13 year old for sex using the internet.(!!!!!)
This is a long story so I’m going to do my best at condensing it so people actually read it.
This is what happened: With a fair amount of spare time on my hands I decided to do something that would create a positive, long lasting impact. I knew there had to be some real sex predators in a city this size so I decided to see if any ADULTS online were interested and fully follow through with preying on a minor. Less than a few minutes after creating a profile I was contacted by a Belleville Resident who indicated DIRECTLY to me that he was “ok” with the decoys age.

I told him my age was TWELVE. 

Within the first 5 minutes of the conversation. So for the next five days he was essentially grooming who he believed was 12 year old and attempting to meet him that upcoming weekend. At no time did I initiate or direct the conversation to move in the dirty direction. I wanted to not only provide as much solid evidence as possible for the police, but I was thinking forward to do the same for the future prosecution when this case ultimately reached the Court….( at least In my mind, this is what I was doing it for! )
Speaking to him about 45 minutes each day I was shocked at how this was actually happening. Shocked at how quickly, unaffected and confident he was to be luring a 12 year old to his apartment.
Most disturbing was the bits of information that was confessed to me. How he “had to be really careful” because he is already a registered sex offender due to being caught with another minor years ago, and how he “had multiple other people your age” in the past which he had never been caught for.
So obviously by the time I was aware of that I was Deadset at not only catching and exposing this creep but see to it that he gets his rightful spot back in a prison cell.

Make no mistake I took screenshots of EVERY message/text/conversations/photos. 

( I had taken photos of myself and used an age altering app which was procured freely from Apple. ) Upon his request I sent multiple Altered selfies over those five days in the various poses he was asking for. Obviously this was done to prove that the decoy was in fact “real”. Bam. That’s it. It was Friday and this registered sex offender “PDF File” was in FULL BELIEF and confident that a Minor was on the way to his apartment to “teach him” how to have sex.
I went just outside the meeting area a bit early and sat down with my Sony 500 video camera around my neck and was prepared to begin the video, capturing him as he went directly to the prearranged location. He was going with the quickness and attempting to hold back the huge shit eating grin on his face. Disgusting. Vile. True evil.
So I walked up to him while recording and made a call from my cellphone to his which I used to instantly tell him off the bat: “YOU’RE FKD!” Also by doing this at that moment I was putting him in a position (ON CAMERA mind you) which he had zero opportunity to deny anything.

Over the next 20-30 minutes He confessed to everything that was said during the conversations. Instead of me questioning him, initially I had told him to tell me exactly why he was there, and for him to tell me (the camera) everything that was in those terrible and unbelievable messages. 

I grilled him like a ribeye.
After having gathered what I believed to be enough evidence and having him vocally express ( One more and last time) directly to the camera why he was there at that precise moment and what it was he had expected to go down that day in his apartment, I decided to end recording, and leave.
With my adrenaline pumping, I left. Forgetting to do what could’ve been the most important thing, not for exposing him or the Court, but for ME. . . Call the cops. I called them about 10 minutes into the walk back to my home. I told the Officer everything that had just happened. Including the prior five days leading up to this event. I was praised for doing what I had done by this Officer but was informed that the “Detective” responsible for this “crime category” was already off duty and wouldn’t be returning until Monday.
On Monday I received a phone call from that Officer and TRIED to explain everything. It was like I was speaking another language to him. He REPEATEDLY tried to change what I was telling him. For example; I explained how I was the decoy and that there did NOT EXIST AN ACTUAL MINOR involved here, and then he would say: “so you and this sex offender ‘hooked up’ and tried to get a ‘13’ year old over to HIS house” !!!!! It was if he was Trolling. He simply could not, or did not WANT TO understand what happened. “It’s like a STING OPERATION” I finally said to him. I told him this guys name and where he lived. I even knew his birthdate from the convos with the Decoy. So this “detective” in charge of investigating a very serious category of crime in this city KNEW that this predator is a Registered Sex Offender. He KNEW that I was in possession of a litany of irrefutable evidence. Yet was totally incompetent and put me down as Suspect #1 from the start. For not a single reason. He denied my requests to come down and SHOW HIM THE FRICKIN’ EVIDENCE. He did not even want to see the video confession!!! Nothing happened. He said it was now an “open case” and I had a case number. Deflated. Flabbergasted. I was [again] in shock. After weeks of waiting, I ended up putting the entire video of sicko confessing and me grilling him on YouTube. My genuine motive from the start was to make a positive impact on the community. To potentially stop a child from being victimized by a predator. I felt let down the police response. Little did I know what was to come SIX months later. The cops raided the house I was living in.
I was immediately handcuffed and told that I was arrested for “LURING A MINOR” !!!! I was literally paralyzed. With at LEAST HALF A DOZEN POLICE OFFICERS AND AN EQUALLY UNNECESSARILY LARGE AMOUNT OF SUVS PARKED ON THE DRIVEWAY, LAWN, AND ONE OF THE BUSIEST ROADS IN THE CITY. RED AND BLUES FLASHING ON ALL OF THEM. W h a t . T h e . F o c k ! ? ! They went up to my neatly organized room and searched it over discovering of course nothing but my phone. Snatching it with a joy like they had just successfully done something significant. I had 5-7 cops surrounding me in a semi circle after arriving at the Jail as I prepared to go inside a cell. They even shackled my feet. I know from watching cops and the like on YouTube to always exercise the right to remain silent. There was nothing I could do or say at that point which would help and I definitely didn’t resist the arrest so it really must’ve been a slow day. Eh guys? That and/or the overly incompetent rookie had relayed to his colleagues and obviously his Superiors to get the raid and arrest warrant his own personal story that he had recreated. Unfriggenbelieveable! It’s SO ABSURD THERE IS NO PROPER WORDS TO EXPRESS HOW IT FEELS TO GO THROUGH THIS! Doing something I considered not just “Right”, but Honourable, Justified, and definitely NOT illegal! How the hell did a JUDGE sign an arrest AND RAID Warrant on me with ZERO evidence, physical, concrete, or even circumstantial?? Not a single reason lawfully or otherwise for them to raid, arrest, shackle my feet and throw me in a jail cell for hours, and then criminally charge me with “Luring of a Minor”. Evidently, according to this news article the police had conducted a Six Month Investigation. Huh? Of What?! On Who?!
Now, Finally, The News Article: The information printed in any news article requires a source, so all of this information had to have only been provided by the police department. This article was printed at 9 in the morning the very next day of the arrest and raid. So of course this was all information provided from police.

This is what the dumbass, rookie, ignorant cop fabricated for no actual real reason: 

“Two men were arrested yesterday after a Six Month long Investigation revealed that the men had ‘BOTH’ believed that they were speaking with a ‘13’ year old boy online. Registered sex offender (the real predators name) and another known sex offender ( my name) are each charged with Luring of a Minor. (Real predators name again) is also charged with using an electronic device to lure a Minor, and breach of probation.”

My LandLord happened to be home at the time of the Raid, and he had also (I guess being suspicious after the raid,) read the article online which is quoted directly above. 

Which meant that he would be evicting me from the property, and I can’t blame him. With that article being read by my roommates and hisself I can’t really blame him for that either.
The charges against myself were eventually dropped, of course. About 18 months later! My phone being confiscated in the raid in order to access everything on there was also given back to me. They played immature and unprofessional games with that as well; returning my property. Such as : come in this day, your phone is ready to be released now. Show up. “Oh so and so thought it was ready but we don’t have it yet.” Weeks later. Get another call saying it is in fact ready now. Show up. “There is no one working in the evidence locker today, there will be in two days.” Screw them! I show up ten days late and what do you know? My property is actually there for me, and I finally get it back. Of course having had to purchase new phone in the meantime. Worse yet, I can’t recall the password and it was before facial recognition (not like that would matter) and after the fingerprint touch button. So it’s just a brick now.
That’s the least of my concern, as that bullshit article remains up, and the YouTube video had been taken down for some privacy violation nonsense.
After paying the criminal defence attorneys’ invoice(s), I couldn’t afford the 6K being asked by EVERY attorney I had reached out to.
So there, that’s one of many of my Unbelievably Insane Life’s stories. I suppose I didn’t provide the short version. Even though I have sincerely tried to keep it all to a minimum by leaving out plenty of details and significant events, this ended up being the Mid Length version.

So I'm being "kicked out" by my dad. The reason he's "kicking me out" is because I will not give him my phone. He's made up some stupid rule about "taking my electronics at night" because he thinks that doing so will help me get more sleep (the opposite is true). So if I don't follow these rules about giving him my desktop PC, my laptop, and my phone, when he goes to bed at 8PM or whatever, he'll make the rules more stringent and make it harder for me to operate. This is extremely disruptive to my life as most of my work is online. So tonight when I refused to give him my phone, he picked me up out of the chair I was sitting in and pushed me toward the door, so I left the property... Anyways, I'm wondering if any of this is on violation of my personal property rights, or tenancy rights as he told me not to come back. I'm going to be honest, the relationship is strained between me and both my parents, and this guy ain't exactly the sharpest tool in the shed let alone a reasonable human being when it comes to control. I should note that I have a governnt mandated curfew at 10PM and violating that could land me in trouble, and I'm sure my dad would love nothing more than to help me get in trouble.
So what should my next steps be? Contact legal aid?
I've been staying at this place paying rent, on and off, with my parents (who are also renting) for about 3 years. I've been "kicked out" more than once, but I'm getting sick of it and I would like to know what to do when my rights are violated like this again. My rights being my personal property rights and my tenancy rights.
Ideally I'd like some document that I could shove in my dad's face and say, hey, you're not allowed to take my shit, + I get to two months notice.

This is gonna be a long one but I hope you all stick around because I am looking for some clarity I guess.
My ex (23M) and I (26F) met in college and it felt like magic from the get go. We bonded over music and we had an instant connection and we spoke nonstop for days (and years). We went into long distance 2 weeks after we started dating due to covid and we had our ups and downs but we stuck it out. Last year, he came to meet me a bunch of times and they were always magical and happy. By the end of last year, he moved to my city and immediately started saying that we need to move in together, we need to plan our future because marriage is the end goal, and he would constantly keep planning our future. However, I was scared because he was quite inconsistent in his words and actions. Before he moved to my city, he went on a solo trip to vietnam and I felt like something changed in him. I couldnt pinpoint what it was but he had this "no one needs anyone" kind of an attitude. I didn't push it because given his past, he values his freedom a lot, so I let him enjoy his freedom as long as he wanted me and loved me at the same time. But like I said, he was very inconsistent- one day he wanted me and only me, the next day he wanted freedom. I thought he was just confused because he is young, but then I started noticing that he started getting distant. I tried to communicate with him so many times. I even sat him down and asked him if he is leaving me or if he is cheating on me and he just looked at me blankly and said "I have been with you for 4 years, why would I leave you now?". He also used to keep on saying I'm too sensitive and I overthink a lot and he always kept his family issues to himself and never opened up about his problems, so I thought maybe he was having issues unrelated to me. So I chalked it up to anxiety instead of intuition and stopped worrying. The last time I saw him, I asked to see my dog's photos on his phone and he snatched his phone away and said that he didnt have my dog's photos (i always send him my dog's photos so i knew he would have it in my chat, if not in his gallery). So i asked him again if he was cheating on me and he laughed it off. After a week of that, I went to my hometown and he went on a trip with strangers. He called me after the trip and said he had been losing feelings for months after moving to my city and that I deserve better and he spoke to all his friends and cousins (and not me :)) and that he has too many issues and he needs 1 month of no-contact to figure himself out. I was in shock and he didnt even give me the time or space to process anything since he was crying throughout the call and then went no contact. He said was going to therapy but my friends said he is on another trip instead. I felt heartbroken and thought to break up so I told him we're done. He said he was trying to make it work and didn't want to give up on us and he is going to therapy. I told him that we're not broken up then, take your time. Then he called me 4 days later and broke up, saying that he doesnt wanna fix himself and he doesnt love me romantically anymore (he loves me as a family apparently which idk what it means) and that he was close to lying and cheating on me and he thought its best to leave than to wrong me. But knowing him, i know if he is close to cheating, he must've already emotionally cheated on me with someone else. Also we were intimate 12 days before he called me and broke it off. I feel so used, like I was just a body to him. I feel devastated and cant even deal anything or anyone touching me anymore.
A friend told me yesterday that he's on yet another trip with his friends (so 3 trips back to back before and after breakup) and he looks happy and stuff. Meanwhile I've never been more heartbroken in my entire life. I had begged him months ago to go to couples therapy and he straight up said no. I think its normal to fall in and out of love in long term relationships but how can someone do this to someone else?
If you guys have any insight, please help me. Or please suggest ways in which I can move on.
PS. if my ex or any of his friends come across this post: i hope you all know that you're assholes

Kind of long, but any advice or input would be greatly appreciated :)
I (22F) have been working in fast food/ retail since I was 17 and I’m finally ready to take that leap to leave my current job and find one that will help advance my career and give me at least some financial stability. I also live in NorCal for context (not sure if I’d be willing to move quite yet.) I’ve been at my current retail job since 2021 and was honestly just going to stay there until I was completely finished with college but I just received my AA and the current management im under is so difficult to work with and extremely offensive I can barely take it not to mention I’ve been in management for about 2 years now and have gone from at least 20hr a week (part time) to less than 10hr a week, less than some associates and they’re all 3 hour shifts so I’m not even allowed to take a 10min break though im not even sure if that’s legal??
I am very fortunate to not have to pay rent as I live with my parents and I only have to worry about paying for my car, gas, phone, school, necessity’s etc. So no rent is a life saver in this economy. With that being said I don’t necessarily need the highest paying job quite yet (willing to work my way up or gain helpful experience) though that would be ideal for anyone. I just want to be able to find something that fits with my personality/ needs and also doesn’t care the way I look. I know sometimes you have to do what u gotta do but I cannot take working somewhere I’m miserable at and I understand that is a privilege within itself so I’m just trying to use the time I do have to really find what I’m passionate about and not be scared to try new things.
I still want to go back to school to get my bachelors degree since it’s always been a dream of mine, but since I pretty much pay for everything out of pocket besides some degree of financial aide, I don’t want to just aimlessly transfer somewhere with no clue on what to study which has been my issues for some time. I feel like my interest haven’t changed much and neither have my dreams to further my education so I’ve pretty much been saying the same things since probably before high school and I still have no clue what exactly the direction is I should go. I would love to gain some first hang experience to know if getting my B.A. is even worth it for the field I want to go into or what major would benefit me the best.
I have many interests and ideas as to what I could possibly do but I feel like as much as I say them out loud no one really relates so I always feel alone or like there’s no possible job for me that I’ll feel happy in. I mean I think majority of people would rather not work and focus their lives on their hobbies and passions but unfortunately that’s not in the cards for most people and though I sometimes live in that dreamland that doesn’t change the fact that I’m extremely dedicated, hard-working and really want to make a difference in whatever field I end up in. So I guess I’ll leave a list of the things I’m interested in, in case anybody has some advice or input on any occupations I’ve listed or have experience in anything I’ve listed.
I guess another thing to mention is that I was recently applying to a lot of jobs in childcare and pretty much every interview I went to turn me down on the spot because of my appearance. Of course I hear the stories of looking less professional due to your tattoos, piercings, etc., which I never understand. I don’t even have a single tattoo or piercing, not even my ears, but I have bright pink hair and that has been such a downside for the interviewing processes, even some retail jobs like Box Lunch for example doesn’t accept colored hair when they’re literally a pop culture store and share the same company as Hot Topic. I don’t want to have to change my appearance for a job. I know it’s just hair but I was never able to express myself the way I wanted to and the amount of money and maintenance that goes with having colored hair would not be worth it to me to color black just to get a job. It would feel like I’m altering myself and changing something that makes me feel good about myself is unfair and already puts a bad taste in my mouth about the company because they are willing to look over my qualifications and work ethic due to one minor detail in my appearance. One of these jobs I even had two on the phone interviews that went amazing and was going to my final in person interview and was literally meeting with a family for a behavioral technician job and the first thing they (the company) told me was I would need to change my hair to even be considered and I had to eventually politely end the interview because they still wanted to me to meet a kid despite straight up telling me they will not hire me if I didn’t immediately change my hair… and I’d be working with a family, not even in a ‘ public setting.’ I would just love to be able to work in a community that embraces people for their differences for the way they express themselves, and encourages self expression.
Anyways, here are some of my interests and I’d be eternally grateful to hear any feedback! Maybe you’ve worked in some of these environments and have advice or horror stories, if you have similar interests to me let me know what kind of job you have because I’m sure I don’t even know the formal titles to half of these jobs, or even have other ideas that match my interests. Thank you thank you thank you!

• A lost 22 year old just trying to find her way

TLDR: I have so many interests and have no idea where to go with my next steps in my career and schooling, and would love some advice based off of my interest and experience. My unnaturally colored hair gets me nowhere. My experience and interests are listed below.
My schooling/ experience so far: * 5 years of theatre under my belt (onstage/backstage/management) * Just graduated with my AA in Social & Behavioral Sciences (Random but was recommended to do so based on all of the same interest I told my counselor some odd years ago) * Most of my college classes were focused in sociology, psychology, and child development, which has been super interesting so I am willing to branch out from my interest because I did find a lot of interest in the classes I’ve taken previously. * Have worked in retail for four years; Pretty well received by people * A nanny to 4 kids (ages 4-16) for about 3.5 years as well
My personality: (not sure if this will help with knowing if I would be a good fit for any of the jobs listed )
i’m extremely bubbly and can have my extroverted moments, but I can also be introverted at times and when work needs to get done, I will figure out the best way to do it and get to work. I work pretty well with a team and always have ideas flowing and bouncing around, but I can also excel working on my own/have no issues being independent with my work. I don’t have a huge preference on a fast versus slow paced work environment. I would like something flexible, but I have no issue with getting into a routine. I feel like I am truly pretty flexible when it comes to my work environment, I just really want a place that I can express myself and be surrounded by a community of people similar to me. I love to be innovative and creative.
My interests/ ideas: (sorry kinda random and jumps around)

• always wanted to be a nanny or travel nanny; to work with one specific family and grow with them
• Pre-k - 1st grade teacher; I find teaching younger kids really fulfilling, love crafts/ activities/planning, extremely patient
• Art teacher (i love ceramics, but pretty much any type of art would be so cool to incorporate creativity with teaching)
• Child advocate (possibly on movie and tv sets)
• Teacher on movie and television sets
• Directing or any sort of behind the scenes job for movies and television (I love to write and create concepts, costuming, sets, music, casting)
• Set designer for movies, television, or theater
• Costume designer for movies, television, or theater
• Possibly work with an acting company backstage (I don’t even know if that’s a job but possibly a permanent backstage role somewhere)
• Open my own curated thrift shop or a shop in general that is really creative or theme oriented
• Have a small bakery business or just a business in general, I love the idea of being able to run a company or brand that’s inclusive and creative
• I do love to bake and Decorate desserts
• Creative Director; photographer, videographer; I just love the thought of creating things and bringing concepts together, planning, etc.
• Magazine company?
• Wedding planning/party and event planning; again, I just like bringing things together I feel like I have an eye for aesthetics
• Something with marketing or managing

As you can see, most of my interest have to do with childcare and the arts, which are some of the lowest paying jobs/difficult fields to get into, but it’s what I most passionate about and what I can actually see myself being happy doing for a long time. i’m also not opposed to working in one certain field for a while and then branching out to something different or related further down the line, I just want to know what step I should take next so I’m not just floating around doing nothing and being/fill, I just want to know what step I should take next so I’m not just floating around doing nothing and being/feeling useless.
Thank you so much to anyone who responds with advice and kind words :)

My boyfriend is extremely paranoid about me talking to other guys & wants me to tell him everything. he wants me to tell him if another guy likes my story or instagram post or even dms me, even if i don’t dm them back. if someone comments im not allowed to saying anything back or even like the comment. which is understandable. we started this rule at the beginning of this year in january; i assumed that meant that anything that happened after january i had to tell him. back in november i asked one of my male friends that i’ve known for like 8 years & who i knew before my bf if he wanted to go to the movies w me ( i was gonna invite other people as well ) my bf didn’t wanna go w me so that’s why i didn’t take him. just right now my bf was going through my dms and seen that i had messaged my old friend and didn’t tell him about it. he got super upset and stormed off… what can i do to make him trust me ? i need help to understand if what i did wasnt the right choice. i don’t hide anything from him and always tell him everything no matter how small it is. he also says that i told him i never talk to him, which in my eyes i dont. we don’t sit on the phone with each other, i don’t go to his house, we don’t really hang out much anymore. i want to know if what i did was genuinely wrong or if he’s overreacting. i know for a fact that he’ll never trust me again after this, that’s if we even get back together. he hasn’t said anything to me since this happened, and it was only an hour ago
TLDR: Bf mad at me for dming a friend & not telling him about it

Hey guys back again :p I just feel very chatty and don’t want to disturb my friends or wake anyone up so figured might as well catch some night owls or early birds or afternoon whatever’s lol. So a bit about me: I’m a recent college grad so ask me about my majors. Currently looking for next steps in the process of transitioning to a career. Besides that I enjoy a lot of things like gaming, I love RPGs my favorite has to be persona 5. I also enjoy reading a lot of different things from horror to philosophy to clinical studies. Writing I also love but I mainly stick to poetry when I’m feeling some type of way and need to think through my emotions. I love the outdoors so hiking or boating are some of my favorite activities yes even when it’s hot outside. I was born and raised in Florida to give you some perspective. Just looking for any cool ppl wanting to chat hmu. SFW only!

hello! i wanted to ask if you guys have the same problem as i do
basically i cant do any transaction on my mashreq neo nxt acc anymore(i think its bc im 18 now but my dad doesn’t think its bc of my age), and ive literally went to like 3 mashreq branches about this but they end up dismissing me n saying that i have a neo biz acc (??) n the customer service phone line is dookie too bc ive waited for more than an hr n i still didnt get a proper response 😐
anyways what bank do you guys recommend bc this is my first time having a card for myself but i couldn’t even use it 😭

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So we decided to make this post mainly cause our little wanted to say hi to everyone and such, we are new so somethings might change and suggestions are welcome.
There is: M(core), I tend to stay front because we aren't fully comfortable with switching fully yet, and I tend to find it hard to give up control. I am 21, in college and working. I am genderfluid and tend to use any and all pronouns (unless stated otherwise). I love all things science, stories, and animals. I try to be respectful and knowledgeable, so if I say anything out of pocket or wrong then please tell me so I can correct it.
Hello ppl, I'm Moss I age with the body (21), I am the host(co-host?) me and M share ownership lmao, I also tend to stay around simply because life is fun so why now 🤷🏻🤷🏻. I love video games, horror, documentaries etc(we all have the same basic likes and dislikes). Idk what else to put so ◉⁠‿⁠◉p.s I'm also genderfluid(any and all pronouns are welcome)
Hiii I'm lavender, I'm 18 years old. I don't know why I was created but I'm demigirl (she/they/fae). I am obsessed with tea, books, and stuffed animals. I love fanfiction (homestucker for life). I also really want to cosplay and rp (mainly ttrpg).
Hey I'm anvil, I'm the persecutor but I'm trying to be better ig 🙄, I'm 16, IDC about gender. I like creepypasta and stuff... whatever
Hi hi I'm Tiger Lillie, but you can call me Lillie, Tiger or just L. I'm 8 years old and I wanted to make this so I can make friends (⁠ﾉ⁠◕⁠ヮ⁠◕⁠)⁠ﾉ⁠*⁠.⁠✧. I love Pokemon, anime, books, supernatural, animals etc etc. btw whats your favorite monster high character? Mine is draculaura, and Frankie (it's really cool how gen 3 Frankie has a prosthetic leg :3333). I also really love coloring and art, but I'm being told to turn it down and let others have a turn so bye bye for now
Hello I'm Angel Wings, I'm a trauma holder. I'm about 10. I don't come out very much because it can be hard on the hosts(mainly M). So I'll try to keep this short. Anvil and me are the only ones who knows all of the trauma, I want to wait till we are in therapy so everyone can process what happened to us. I don't know exactly what my gender is so I will put my pronouns (she/he/they/it/fae/sol). I hope you all have a good day goodbye.
I also want to mention that I'm pretty sure that we are a median system (or at least it's the closest one) we all are the same person just in different fonts (as Moss likes to put it). We are thinking of fusing in the future, but ofc that might change (who really knows). We all have ADHD(and possibly autism), we tend to post on here a lot, and if you guys want to talk we are down for friends (mainly cause we are bored 🤷🏻) but have a goodnight

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Obviously this new update is a disaster. I had successfully avoided for for almost a week then it automatically updated on my phone. I rolled it back to 16.1 thanks to helpful posts on this sub.
But in addition to the streaming apps set up, I've got a three thousand song library stored on my computer. Mostly mp3s, stored on the hardrive and accessed through iTunes. I had the desktop app set up and pathed to pull my music and playlists from there no problem.
Now I can't access that library, either from the restored app on my android phone or from the desktop app. I haven't updated the desktop app yet for fear that it will cause more damage. I fully admit to not being the smartest tech guy around, which is one thing I have previously appreciated about Sonos. Is anyone able to advise me on what I need to do in order to listen to the music I spent 15 years collecting and enjoying?
Thanks in advance.

I contracted a guy to do some home improvement work about a month ago. Put 50% down. Have yet to see the guy again.
I have a phone number, a dubious company Facebook profile, and the attached personal Facebook profile of the same guy.
I intend to attempt to sue this guy to get my money back. It would be best, I'm told, if I had his physical address. Otherwise, I have to do service through publication? Or something like that.
I'm hoping someone can give me some tips here. I tried running his phone number through spoken, it doesn't appear to be the same person. I ran his name through whitepages.com, and I found where his 'maybe' mom or 'maybe' brother lived. It also appears as though he has lived in many places, owned many many cars, and has a tendency for not staying anywhere very long.
I already know I made a mistake giving him money. No lectures please. Any concrete advice would be welcome. Thanks.

My husband and I have been married for nearly 8 years and are parents of soon to be 3 young children (I’m due with our last kiddo next month). We are in our early 30s but have known each other since our early teens. We both have established, full time careers, are well educated, etc. We are in many ways what I would say is the suburban modern family. Life is hectic but we also have been very fortunate due to a combination of luck and consistent hard work and good decision making.
My husband’s family is quite the opposite. His dad has worked construction/carpentry since his early teens and been the breadwinner of the family, but has, for the most part, struggled to make ends meet. He is all in all a very charming, kindhearted guy though, and despite our vastly different lifestyles, I genuinely like him.
My MIL…she’s something else. While we have a mostly cordial relationship, she is truly one of the most self-absorbed people I’ve ever met. And not in a malicious manner— she just genuinely is narcissistic and thinks she knows best. Mostly this an annoying nuisance to occasionally deal with. She has said and done some unsavory things in the past that have resulted in short NC periods.
But this mentality ramped up to an 11 on a scale of 1-10 back in late February/early March.
My husband and I were going through an extremely stressful period in our marriage due to a number of issues. I was— and still am— pregnant with our third, we have a 5 and 2 year old, we were both working full time, and my husband’s job kept requiring him to travel out of state for a couple weeks at a time. Running a household as essentially a single mother while working full time was very stressful in itself, but then my grandmother had a stroke while he was out of state. By the time he got back, it was clear she wasn’t going to recover. She died with 48 hours of his return— which had given me just enough time to travel to visit her.
Almost simultaneously, my MIL was diagnosed with CLL. MIL has dealt with recurrent minor illnesses for some time (sinus and ear infections, the flu, etc.), so the cancer diagnosis wasn’t particularly surprising to me. But as most would do, we all spent some time reading up on this particular form of cancer, the general prognosis and treatment, etc.
My own parents happen to have both had cancer. My dad is a stage 2 prostate cancer survivor, having undergone treatment about 15 years ago. My mom unfortunately was not so lucky with her diagnosis— anaplastic carcinoma of the thyroid— and from diagnosis to death was less than ten months. It’s been about a decade now. Needless to say, I feel I am fairly well versed in the oncology world for an average person and able to provide some insight on the experience.
CLL, as I understand, and from what I’ve now heard from her original oncologist, is generally not a very aggressive cancer. I have heard some people refer to it as more like autoimmune disorder. It often requires little treatment and more “watchful waiting” of symptoms. My MIL was told by the oncologist that this is exactly what their plan was, that her cancer was not aggressive or requiring treatment, and that she could essentially live a normal life with occasional blood draws for monitoring purposes.
From the moment she was diagnosed though, it has been all about her. Her cancer diagnosis overshadowed my grandma’s actual death. My husband had to be gone for a day and a half to attend her first appointment, even if I was balancing life as a single working mom who was grieving at the moment. Before her first consultation, everyone was sure she was dying, even though it didn’t take an expert to look over her bloodwork and realize that she was likely in a very low stage of this non-aggressive cancer.
When she attended her consultation, her, FIL, SIL, and my husband had to go to support and were relieved to hear the good news. MIL was mortally offended that the oncologist poo-pooed her ridiculous made up, self-enforced diet that had already caused her to lose 10lbs. She’s not a big boned lady, so that was not weight she needed or should be losing. MIL is convinced that homeopathic and naturopathic remedies are the way to go, that “big pharma” is out to get us and make a buck off of our treatment, etc. She quite literally took ivermectin for covid previously, folks. So the fact that an oncologist would tell her that her diet was downright silly pissed her off and she quickly tried to find others more aligned with her viewpoints.
Life resumed more normally for a couple of weeks, but her random “cures” added to her diet and lifestyle have gotten increasingly bizarre and frankly inconvenient for her entire family.
This past weekend, we visited them, and MIL was insistent that she was dying and the next oncologist would recommend chemo for treatment. I fail to see why one oncologist would be so nonchalant about treatment and another would propose aggressive treatment, but I digress. She brought up Dr. Oz, a holistic massage therapist that uses oils and massage to cure cancer, and worst of all, a new item she’s added to her diet— roasted apricot pits. Now if you’re like me, you might be wondering what would possess someone to eat an apricot pit— after all, don’t they have cyanide in them? Precisely. My MIL is intentionally ingesting apricot pits because “cyanide kills cancer.”
As my husband eloquently put it, “No, cyanide kills *everything.”
Today my husband received a phone call asking if he’d be willing to petsit for them this weekend. We have a follow up ultrasound for a small abnormality detected in our baby on Friday, but MIL wants him to drive to their home two hours away and spend the night so he can watch their cat and SIL’s dog. Meanwhile MIL, FIL, and SIL will drive eight hours (and eight hours back) to visit this massage therapist/oil salesman to “cure her cancer.” Mind you, they are using SIL’s car because they have no other vehicle that works well enough to drive that far, they are constantly tight on money, and again, her oncologist has stated she does not need treatment.
I am at a loss. My husband, FIL, and SIL are all frustrated and have come around to the idea that maybe she is being a little over the top finally, but no one is putting their foot down to stop her. SIL is going to drive them instead of just saying no and not letting them take her car. FIL repeatedly drives to the store to pick up whatever weird ass product she wants to try next. And my husband despite having way too much to deal with at home, keeps dropping everything to tend to her.
It is mind boggling obnoxious and honestly in some ways offensive given my family history with cancer. My mom’s diagnosis was death sentence from the get go and she faced it with bravery and tenacity and selflessness. My MIL has a minor health scare and everyone is expected to drop everything to help her.
I am glad my husband is finally seeing reason and logic— but what now? I have told him I strongly believe he needs to speak up and encourage her to follow legitimate medical advice— both for her own good but also to bring himself peace of mind in the long run— but it’s like this woman WANTS to die.
I could go on for hours, but really I’m just wondering how the heck to toe this delicate line of supporting my spouse while prioritizing my family.

After a loved had taken a picture of me on their iPhone 13 I was repulsed, disgusted even.
I had dawned a athletic sprinter outfit on a walk with a loved one. I had worn this outfit beforehand and seen it in the mirror and was extremely infatuated .
But, on that day of the walk, when I had asked them to photograph me, it was nothing like what I saw in the mirror.
I have little to no physical insecurities besides my face. Im utterly horrified as to what people may see combined with my hair, face, eyes, and lips put together. The possibility of me staring at someone with a chance of me having a lazy eye, or a fluoride stare is sickening.
Just the thought of approaching anybody with that fills me with dread. Keep in mind this is coming from a person who thinks talking to strangers outside is fun, AND THATS THE THING!! I can't do that if I look like a oversaturated YouTube kids cartoon thumbnail with the sharpness bumped to the max dude! For chuck sakes- NO AVERAGE HUMAN IS GOING TO BE ABLE TO SEE EVEEY PORE AND DISCOLORATION ON YOUR FACE MAN!!
I take photos with a Samsung a04 and even a free phone and know to never use the cameras by themself, I always take them in the mirror and I kid you QUCKING NOT, it looked exactly like the imagery shown in real time. So I have some awareness of what I should at least know people are seeing from a glance right?
Well with that absolute cow manure of a camera it will make you think you look like a greasy individual in their mid 40's who is also probably not allowed anywhere near a school building.
For CHUCK SAKE MAN! NO AVERAGE PERSON SHOULD BE ABLE TO SEE THE GRAVEL PIT SOMEONE WOULD CALL A FACE COVERED IN THE WHAT WAS ONCE AND ALWAYS THEN SMALL UN NOTICABLE ACNE FRECKLES AND DISCOLORATION FROM 30 FEET AWAY FROM THE SCREEN PHONE SCREEN!! 👹👹👹👹
Anyway besides that what did we learn?
The iPhone 13's camera is repulsive and will send one of you guys and even the most confident of people into a existential crisis (I don't wanna say but this goes for some other cameras I have no experience with as well)
Filters and highly effected photos if unknowingly done could also cause a crisis (I have experience and really balanced knowledge in taking photos even though I rarely ever take them but still)
And 3?
I forgor 💀