Penpals dating

I'm tired of crappy dating apps & talking to some one new, only for it to fizzle out after a day or two. I'm lonely and want some one to socialize with everyday, if not every other day. But I'm not looking for a penpal, and want some one to actually hang out with. Let's get out of the house, and just go do something. So to start, if you're not in, or at least within an hour of Nashville, then this probably won't work.
The title is a pretty good summary of myself. I'm a DIYer at heart, a handy man, and will attempt to do anything and everything once my ADHD self gets hyperfixated on something. I'm some one with a lot of anxiety, which I'm on Lexapro for. It can take time for me to trust some one and really open up showing my true colors. However, with that being said, I also tend to be socially overwhelming when it comes to text, and can hold multiple conversations in one. As for my skills & interests, I'm a backyard mechanic. My life revolves around cars and working on them. I'm a computer geek. I have a triple screen PC gaming set up, where I have 400+ games in my steam library, and occasionally stream on Twitch as well. I also do a lot of work in Photoshop to make vinyl decals and shirts with vinyl and/or sublimation ink. I'm an information sponge, and I'm constantly learning and growing my skills.
Some other things about me include being a textbook INTP. I get along very well INTJs, and would personally like to have that 'two cynics' type dynamic. I don't take many things seriously, and have a dark sense of humor that offends everyone. As much as I love my social time, I do also require a lot of space to myself to recharge. Personally, I do not pick up on 'signals' like flirting or reading the room. So you gotta be blunt, honest, and straight forward with me sometimes.
As for some 'physical' details, I'm 5'11, 145lbs, have very long brown hair, and eyes that everyone always comment on. I'd say I'm attractive, but I'll let you be the judge of that.
For whoever might be reading this, I'm not very picky about who I'm looking for. I'm open to anyone who is willing to message me. Who is willing to actually take the time to get to know myself, and won't let the conversation just die.

I have only met a few girls off dating apps and I never get any hints they want to meet up. Seems like they want to talk endlessly without any sign of meeting in person. What are some signs a girl wants to be more than penpals?

I (26) went on a first date with a guy (31) 2 weeks ago after chatting for a week and it was the best first date I've ever been on. I've always considered myself a personality girl and have never really experienced instant attraction/ chemistry so it was a great experience. He was charming, funny and great company. Unfortunately he found out he had to travel for a month for work so we won't be able to see eachother again until mid June. He'd been great at keeping in contact though and even though penpals isn't really my thing, I was willing to chat for 6 weeks until he was back in the country and really looking forward to seeing him again.
However, today he made a super unsavoury joke which has turned me off completely and I've lost 98% of my interest. I'm away on holiday and sent him a voice note about a funny story that happened today. I'd had a few drinks and it was clear from my voice. He responded 'Sad that I'm not going to have you at your drunkest' 'Could have taken advantage of that 🤭'. Those messages immediately sobered me up and I told him that was scary. He responded by saying it was a joke. I told him that I'd met him once in my life and that wasn't an appropriate thing to say to what is essentially one step above a stranger. He told me that agreed and said 'One day you'll realise that I'm a very sarcastic person'.
I haven't responded and don't intend to, despite the fact that he's the first person I've ever been instantly attracted to on a date. Idk if it's harsh but in my mind he's a potential rapist or at least a rape apologist because that's not something you joke about with someone you haven't established a rapport of dark humour with. At the very least he has low emotional intelligence. I'm not overreacting to ghost him over this right? Based on our last messages, he knows exactly how he messed up. Also, I have been raped before but that's none of his business and I'd be offended even if I hadn't.

I’ve debated a lot wether I’d ever tell this story because it’s actually so mortifying, but maybe it will be helpful to someone, make someone else look a little closer, think a little harder.
In 2014 I was living in NYC and dating the frontman for a semi-popular band. He would take me to music festivals his band headlined and stuff like that and I met some people “in the industry”. When we broke up I stayed in NYC and often got invited to parties and events from those people, then I met Brendon Urie at an event once briefly.
As a Panic fan that was amazing for me and I went to his IG that night and left a comment on one of his posts about how great it was to meet him blah blah twenty-year-old-starstruck-but-trying-to-seem-cool-shit. A few hours later I got a follow and a DM from a person claiming to be Brendon on his “personal account” immediately I thought it was suspicious and I went through it with a fine tooth comb. There were pictures not posted on his real account that matched locations cross posted from tours, there were selfies not on the main account that looked real and there were comments from accounts that seemed very real and mostly from Vegas so I gave the benefit of the doubt and responded to the DM.
Now this was 2014, so IG didn’t have the built in FaceTime option, so I asked him to send me a selfie to confirm it was him with a peace sign. I remember thinking if it took him too long I’d have to assume he was photoshopping a picture and block the account, but pretty quickly he told me to add him on Snapchat and he sent the picture right away. It looked like him just not polished you know what I mean? Like in bed, dim but still exactly like him. So I bought it. He essentially told me he wanted to connect with me because I had great energy and he could use a friend who understood being on the road all the time with a fresh perspective.
I’m hindsight I’m like cringe but at the time I was in my early twenties posting about traveling the world and living in NYC when I wasn’t and touring with friends/partners/flings, being at fashion week and all that crap and I thought or I hoped I was special in a sea of people who hoped they were special, so the validation hooked me. Like wow someone so many people love think I’m cool off a five minute meeting and want to know me more? Wow.
This kicked off a six year friendship that just further made me believe he was who he said. Unprompted he’d send me videos saying good morning or in-front of venues his main account would then later post about the show that was played there. When the band account said he was in Portland for example he would snap me a picture of him in Portland at some food spot that if I googled would show being close to the venue etc., now I will say here there were a few times the look felt off. But I’d only seen the guy in person for five minutes so it was hard to pinpoint exactly what it was.
At one point I tried to address it in a non-confrontational way and said something like he should post more raw unfiltered selfies on his main pages and he said that the reason he talks to friends through his “other” account was because he hated the highly polished photos and that they photoshopped his face a bit and how he had to wear makeup for press things and he didn’t like people only seeing his fake face.
Again I bought it hook, line and sinker. He was also a really good friend. When I would travel he would give me advice on places to go, when I had relationship problems or single problems he would give advice and support. He had amazing music and film taste and taught me a lot honestly. He was also very generous. He would order me lunch sometimes and have it sent to my apartment. Flowers on my birthday. He always talked about how important loyalty and privacy was so I never tried to screencap his photos or brag about knowing him or talking to him and he always told me how I was a real one and he appreciated me. We usually were in different countries or states especially after I moved home to Canada but we kept our penpal thing going which meant to world to me at the time because when I went home 90% of my NYC friends dropped me like a hot rock and I realised how shallow those “influencer” friendships were.
He would talk to me about being in the studio and writing and producers he was working with. Sure enough if I googled, the people he talked about were linked to “him” he told me he was going to be on broadway about a week before I saw the first article about it (keeping in mind I wasn’t like a superfan so I was probably behind on the info but from what I searched it seemed like I had advanced information) in general though he always seemed to be able to tell me things before they were “common knowledge”. He also talked about a lot of the same things my musician exes and friends did about touring and band dynamics and would send so many posts from hotel rooms and flying it just felt so real.
He even “got” me VIP tickets to a show once when we discovered we would be overlapping for travel and they were real, I went to the show, had floor seats and everything. We were supposed to hang out after but he said his wife surprised him and showed up so of course he had to spend the night with her and I totally understood.
Around 2018 he started calling me a lot more and we would talk on the phone a lot. Usually he used to not talk to me much if he wasn’t touring which I understood, he was home with his friends and family why would he, but 2018 was different and that’s when things started unraveling. First the IG account we connected on disappeared. He said he removed it for more privacy. We texted and called instead of just Snapchat and we both had iPhones but he never wanted to FaceTime. He said it was for privacy and he was afraid of screenshots and I remember being hurt because it had been four years at that point and I felt like I’d proved I wouldn’t do that.
Over the years he told me he had told his wife about me and she always said hi or whatever but when I asked to say hi or talk to her when he was home in 2018 it was always a no or an excuse. Important to note “Brendon” had always been super respectful and platonic with me besides like friend flirting. Suddenly all that changed. I had just met a guy I was interested in and confided in “Brendon” that it seemed different and maybe the real deal. Suddenly he said he was separating from his wife and started angling for a more romantic relationship. Im not proud to say it but there were snaps exchanged and things got racy. Then one night we had a very long talk which essentially ended in him asking me to “wait for him”. I seriously thought about what that would look like but ultimately the feelings I had for him had always been so firmly friendship with him being married and such, so I couldn’t connect the romantic dots and I didn’t want to lose my friend (lol). As a queer dark skinned not 100lb super model he had always been so supportive of helping me work through my feelings about all of it, and societal expectations and my eating disorder and I really felt like I needed that continued friendship. It was extremely important to me.
So I told him I wanted to pursue things with the guy I’d fallen for and preserve our friendship, we had a big conversation about it there was crying on both ends and he assured me he understood and that we could just be friends.This is when the first big crack came. Twice the week after this conversation he called me drunk and left voicemails where he sounded NOTHING like the person I was talking to everyday. Beyond just slurred words. I had also never heard him even reference drinking before and rather said he often didn’t and hadn’t in some time.
Then things were very distant between us for almost a year until he FaceTimed me out of the blue one day before bed. Again he looked exactly like himself which dispelled the concern I had in the back of my head from the drunk messages and we had this intense conversation essentially where he apologized for ghosting and explained my rejection had messed with him and he needed space. He said he had worked things out with his wife so it was for the best but he missed me and our friendship. I was so relieved I forgave him immediately. So we continued on but things were just a little weird.
Then in 2020 is when everything fell apart. He started trying to call me a lot like in 2018, but I was living with and quaranting with my boyfriend and couldn’t give him as much attention as he wanted. So he started escalating to get my attention. Including sending me voice notes of him singing “songs he wrote about me.” That was the cold hard shot of reality for me. There is no amount of mixing and mastering that would have made that voice the Brendon Uries voice we all know. He wasn’t a bad singer at all, but there is just no way.
With the suspicion firmly in place it wasn’t long before I started picking apart everything he sent. Since it was lockdown he couldn’t constantly send snaps from studios and hotels and venues anymore and the ones he did send didn’t make sense. Working out at a planet fitness for example or playing a guitar near a desk as if he wouldn’t have an at home practice space.
Finally one night I just sent him a message essentially saying “Who are you?” I had included this big long paragraph about how he’d been such an important part of my life and good friend to me while I was going through a hard time and I would find a way to forgive him for the massive lie. I just begged him to be honest with me.
Unsurprisingly he blocked me on everything and I never heard from him again. I tried his number from other phones a few times looking for closure, it had been disconnected. It was like he never existed. If I hadn’t have had the text history I might have thought I was hallucinating the whole thing. I hung on to that for a long time, finally letting go of it and the social accounts we connected on when my daughter was born in the pursuit of a fresh slate. I got all new socials and a new number. I think I held on to them for so long hoping he would come back and give me an explanation. Why me? how did he make it so real? How did he look like a literal doppelgänger? How did he afford to just travel for years following a band? What was the end game?
The few people I’ve confided in since have had some theories like that he was a Brendon Urie stalker and had plastic surgery or that maybe he had a passing resemblance he amplified with makeup and he was part of the tour crew or something. But who knows. I’ve finally made peace with the fact I never will.

Myself and my friend Tamara (40F) have been friends since we were around 9yo, and my family moved to a new country when I was about 12yo. We first kept in touch as penpals, and then later talking weekly though social media throughout the years.
She missed my wedding 8 years ago due to just buying her first home and not being able to afford to get her passport to get here, even though we were going to pay for her flights and accommodation. Since my wedding, her adult children have moved out of her home, and I've had a child of my own. I'm also now divorced.
As a present to myself after everything was settled, I booked flights to make sure that I would make her wedding in our home country. I paid for the villa the night before the wedding for the bridal party, and put a substantial amount towards the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding (these were my wedding gifts to her and her husband).
I would have been there with them for 2 weeks during the event, however, this was when the states in my country weren't fully all on the same page about reopening borders, and so my flights were cancelled by the airline. I missed the wedding. I got to view it on Livestream, but it wasn't the same.
Earlier this year, I rebooked my flights and took my daughter, Kailee with me on her first overseas trip. We were to spend a week travelling around sightseeing, then 5 days with my friend (seeing her own home and business, meeting her children and new husband, and she promised to take us sightseeing in areas that only locals knew about). She talked about my trip a lot, had it on her calendar and had also had her husband with her whilst we talked dates and things to do in the 5 days we would be with them.
In March, my daughter and I travel all the way there, and the first week is amazing. We see loads of sights together and bond over the fun things we do (being very vague here as there are extremely specific, identifying activities here). Finally we get to the hotel where we are meeting my friend and her daughter for lunch on the first day of 5 together. Kailee starts talking about how excited she is to be doing all the things together with my Tamara and I that weekend, and I see her older daughter looking at her with side eye.
Towards the end of the lunch l asked what was the matter, and Tamara said that there would be a change of plans, because her new husband had sprung a surprise romantic weekend away for them just that morning. I asked her what was going to happen for our long weekend together, and she said that they were leaving right after the lunch in an hour or so. I told her that I was really unhappy about that as he both knew about us coming to visit and had a hand in booking some activities so had the dates for a while. She just shrugged and said it was a birthday present to her. We were meant to be staying with them, and when I asked about accommodation with the last minute change, she shrugged and said that we would find something.
Kailee was very upset, as Tamara had told her earlier in the lunch that she was excited for the specific activities we had planned together, but we didn't see her again after the lunch. We left town as we couldn't find accommodation at such short notice and got on with some more travelling on our own.
We have barely spoken since we have returned home as I'm extremely hurt. I brought it to her attention that we were hurt and offended as well as put out and she never apologised, only gushed that he was so lovely for having taken her away for the weekend. She said I'm mad for no reason and she can't see why I'm not happy for her, having a guy who would surprise her like that.
AITA for feeling let down and hurt that my friend wouldn't make the time to spend with us when we had planned 5 days together for months, and had travelled over 12 hours on a plane to get there?

Hello folks! I'm 26 years old, and I live in Belo Horizonte, a really cool city to live in. My life, in general, has been peaceful. I'm a guy who can be both introverted and extroverted; it depends on the context and how familiar I am with the people around me. I enjoy going out for pizza, visiting amusement parks, going to the movies, and strolling around the neighborhood. But I also like to make the most of my time at home, studying languages, binge-watching TV series, hosting friends, discovering new bands on Spotify—a normal life. I work remotely, so I indeed spend most of my time at home. I'm considering the possibility of doing a language exchange abroad; I haven't decided on the destination yet, maybe Korea, maybe Japan—those are my main options. I won't lie, I'm quite eclectic when it comes to things that catch my attention. For example, I love meeting new people and talking about a wide variety of topics as if we had all the time in the world. Seriously! I'm an open book, and I'm also a great listener. If there's an area you're an expert in or something that sparks your curiosity to the point of excitement, I'd love to feel your enthusiasm as you talk about it. I also like to follow sports, watch cooking shows, and stay up-to-date with new technological advances, all that stuff. With me, you can have casual conversations about weekly events, memes, fun facts, or even deeper discussions about life, philosophy, venting, frustrations, dreams, long-term projects, etc.
I'm a talkative guy, so what I'm looking for in a penpal is mainly someone who is also communicative and truly open to getting to know me, and allowing me to get to know them as well. I want a penpal who is willing to share life experiences, teach me about their country, their language, someone who wants to laugh with me and also grow together with me. I'm looking for someone with whom I can indeed build a beautiful, unique, and special connection. More than a penpal, I seek a lifelong friend.
PS: Don't be shy; I'm an easygoing person. If you liked this announcement, write to me, tell me a little about your life, what caught your attention in this announcement, what things you noticed we have in common, and... Feel free to share whatever you wish. I'm always open to new tunes.
PS²: If you're over 18, that's great. I don't mind if you're 18 or 60+, I'm looking for friends, and you will be equally welcome.
PS³: I don't know from which country or city you are... Maybe you're from a country I've read a lot about, maybe you're from a country I can't even point out on a map. But that's precisely what makes having a "penpal" so amazing. Having a penpal is the opportunity to meet incredible people we would never meet in our daily lives. So, no matter your country of origin or residence, write to me; we can learn a lot from each other.
Thank you for reading this far, have a great day.

I need some advice, clarity; or anything. I'm not sure what I'm looking on here for, maybe some motivation. I guess. I've been having an ongoing problem with my boyfriend (also the father of my two children-im currently pregnant with our second) We've been together for four years now and we've had our ups and downs. Anyway, I'll get straight to the point, he's been continuously cheating on me or micro cheating. It all started two years ago, the signs were there but i was too dumb and trusting that I didn't see them. We had been arguing for two weeks, he moved into the spare room of townhouse but one day I talked to him and begged him to talk to me. He brushed me off, gaslit me, saying that I'm always making things worse and I trip over bs. He would say that he was going to his moms house but really he wasn't. He would be gone all day and come home around 2 in the morning. Fast forward we finally came around and started talking again, we had a moment where we laughed and had a good day. The next day, he told me that he had been cheating on me. They had been talking for two weeks, he said they never had sex and that he was just pissed a me and we were always fighting. (from what I find out now, we were in our "roommate faze" of the relationship.) So I asked to see his phone, he wasn't willing because he said it's worse than what he was telling me. Which he was right. They had been talking/in a relationship for almost two weeks. They had unprotected sex, they were telling each other that they loved one another. He had been taking her out on dates, and taking care of her and her child. That day I found out I was pregnant, that same day he vowed that he wouldn't talk to her again and would never see her again; that day he told her I was pregnant. He never stopped talking to her or seeing her. He would text her nasty things about me and about how he's only staying with me because of the kid. One time I had caught them going out together, they were going to another state to party at a club. She would lie to me about their relationship too, neither of them were planning to stop this relationship. He was actually planning on leaving me for her. This went on for months, almost a fucking year. Within that year, he became abusive and I became attached and paranoid. He would "wail" on me, is what he called it. Basically punching me over and over again with all his strength, I was almost five months pregnant. We've had police involved and etc. We would fight about this girl he was cheating on me with but he would say that I was delusional and crazy, that I didn't know what I was talking about and that she was just a friend. After all the back and forth, he went to jail for ten months for the abuse towards me. He even mased me when I was seven months pregnant because I wanted to give him a taste of his own medicine, I had finally cheated back but it didn't do anything but make him hit me harder. Fast forward, I paid for his books and also sent him money those ten months when he was in jail. I tried to talk about our relationship and how we should fix things but he would say "i know, I know, trust I'm never doing it again; ive learned my lesson" when he got, sadly, he was the same person. He continued to cheat on me, everyday he would search on fb for girls and add them. like every fucking day. He had a girl pick him up just so he could talk to her about me; which she told me about. He was inboxing girls, having girls call him and also trying to meet up to have sex with girls. He also joined a fb group to meet inmate women, basically being their penpals. I would sit down and beg him, telling him that we have a family now. That he needed to stop. He wouldn't even look at me when I would catch him do these things, he wouldn't even say much. He would just stare at me, say he's sorry and that's it. I'm so confused on what I should do now, I have this attachment to him that I can't get over. I'm always wondering what he's doing, what he's thinking. I know that he's probably talking to some girls. I just don't understand what I'm supposed to do at this point. I just need advise or really motivation.

Hey there fellow writers and adventure seekers!
I've been mulling over the idea of having a penpal lately and thought, why not give it a shot? So here I am, hoping to find someone who enjoys the simple pleasure of correspondence.
Let me share a bit about myself. I find joy in the little things like capturing moments through photography, writing fantasy fiction, or letting my thoughts flow into poetry. I enjoy shopping, singing, candle making, and going on a leisurely walk. And oh, the beach – it's my happy place. I enjoy it most when it’s late evening and I have a blanket and I just write and watch people go by.
Life has thrown me a few curveballs lately and I’m used to just handling it on my own however it’s proving to be a challenge so hopefully I can share some of my thoughts. I've dipped my toes back into the world of dating, which has been an adventure in itself. Also, I'm taking care of my mom who's battling cancer. It's challenging, but it's taking me through a journey of forgiveness… lots of forgiveness.
Recently, I received a new diagnosis from my doctor, shedding light on aspects of myself I've long pondered. This year has been a journey of self-discovery, filled with questions and revelations for sure.
On top of all this, I welcomed a mischievous little puppy into my life. Trust me, she's a handful, but her antics never fail to bring a smile to my face.
Fair warning about my personality – I'm straightforward, but it's always with good intentions. (kinda hard to tell over text sometimes) I believe in sincerity and kindness above all else.
One thing to note: I prefer not to exchange photos. If that's alright with you, I'd love to hear from you. Drop me a message, and let's see where this penpal journey takes us.
Warm regards, V

It's been a couple of months since my last post here. So, I thought of giving it another shot.
About me:-
• Indian (currently living in India).
• cis woman (she/her).
• monogamous.
• femme/stem (my appearance changes according to my mood and the particular day); wheatish skin tone, shoulder length jet black hair, dark brown eyes, wear glasses, no tattoos and piercings (will share my pic and have a video call as soon as I feel comfortable with you).
• short height (5'4"), average physique (around 120-125 lbs).
• ambivert ( my introversion or extroversion depends on my mood and the particular day).

• don't smoke, drink or do drugs.

• agnostic, omnivore.
• private tutor.
• demisexual (I need strong emotional and romantic bond to be sexually attracted to someone).
• virgo and INTJ (If you're into these kind of staff haha).
• love good books, delicious foods, deep conversations, long walks, scented candles, flavoured tea, classical music, ancient history, makeup, fashion, Disney, the colour pink, foraging nature, cafe hopping, museums, botanical gardens, aquariums, zoos, exploring new places and different cultures, watching documentaries, celebrating holidays, horror stuff, concerts, theatres, peace and quiet and travelling.
• not into animes, manga and video games (I mentioned it because it might be a deal breaker for you).
• love language:- All of them. But, I prioritise "Quality Time", "Acts of Service" and "Giving/Receiving Gifts" more than the other ones.
• want to get married/have a civil union someday.
• don't want biological kids but open to adopting kids later on.
About you:-
• strict monogamous.
• femme leaning/stem/futch/chapstick.
• between 23-28 (I'd relax it by 1-2 years for the right woman).
• a good conversationalist (I need deep and regular conversations in order to form a bond with someone).
• don't take forever to text back (I understand if you're busy but I don't think it'll go anywhere if we're gonna speak only once/twice a day).
• non-smoker, non/moderate drinker, non drug user.
• like going out and not a complete shut in or recluse.
• ambivert (Tbh, I'd love it if my partner was a bit more extroverted and social than me but that's not compulsory).
• have a somewhat adventurous spirit; love exploring new places, try new things as long as something's not too crazy haha, travelling.
• respect my boundaries; especially when it comes to anything sexual.
• being accepting of my culture, heritage, traditions and beliefs.
• agnostic/atheist/spiritual (Being culturally religious is cool too).
• interested in art, culture and literature (Not a mandatory requirement of course; but it would be nice if we had some interests in common).
• not into BDSM or kinks (Sorry but it's not my thing).
• currently doesn't have children (Sorry but I'm not ready to be a parent right now).
• already out of the closet or planning on coming out to your family soon (Sorry but I can't date a completely closeted woman).
• willing to share your pic and have voice/video calls once you feel comfortable with me.
• interested in living a "traditional" life (like:- getting married, buying a house, raising kids/pets, going on dates, sharing hobbies, celebrating holidays, travelling together etc.).
Of course, it's a perfect scenario and nobody's perfect.
I'm open to ldr since it's really difficult to find women to date here as long as we make plans to meet in person and live together someday. I'm NOT interested in a casual/online relationship.
If you think we'll get along, feel free to send me a dm/message. Please write a short intro of yourself (like:- age, location, likes/dislikes, hobbies, what you're looking for in a potential partner, deal breakers etc.).
Also, dm me ONLY if you're interested in a monogamous and long term relationship. At this moment, I'm not looking for friends, penpals, chat buddies, timepass, casual/online relationship. Sorry for being blunt but I wanted to make my expectations clear.
Looking forward to getting to know you 😊.

Hello folks, I'm 26 years old, and I live in Belo Horizonte, a really cool city to live in. My life, in general, has been peaceful. I'm a guy who can be both introverted and extroverted; it depends on the context and how familiar I am with the people around me. I enjoy going out for pizza, visiting amusement parks, going to the movies, and strolling around the neighborhood. But I also like to make the most of my time at home, studying languages, binge-watching TV series, hosting friends, discovering new bands on Spotify—a normal life. I work remotely, so I indeed spend most of my time at home. I'm considering the possibility of doing a language exchange abroad; I haven't decided on the destination yet, maybe Korea, maybe Japan—those are my main options. I won't lie, I'm quite eclectic when it comes to things that catch my attention. For example, I love meeting new people and talking about a wide variety of topics as if we had all the time in the world. Seriously! I'm an open book, and I'm also a great listener. If there's an area you're an expert in or something that sparks your curiosity to the point of excitement, I'd love to feel your enthusiasm as you talk about it. I also like to follow sports, watch cooking shows, and stay up-to-date with new technological advances, all that stuff. With me, you can have casual conversations about weekly events, memes, fun facts, or even deeper discussions about life, philosophy, venting, frustrations, dreams, long-term projects, etc.
I'm a talkative guy, so what I'm looking for in a penpal is mainly someone who is also communicative and truly open to getting to know me, and allowing me to get to know them as well. I want a penpal who is willing to share life experiences, teach me about their country, their language, someone who wants to laugh with me and also grow together with me. I'm looking for someone with whom I can indeed build a beautiful, unique, and special connection. More than a penpal, I seek a lifelong friend.
PS: Don't be shy; I'm an easygoing person. If you liked this announcement, write to me, tell me a little about your life, what caught your attention in this announcement, what things you noticed we have in common, and... Feel free to share whatever you wish. I'm always open to new tunes.
PS²: If you're over 18, that's great. I don't mind if you're 18 or 60+, I'm looking for friends, and you will be equally welcome.
PS³: I don't know from which country or city you are... Maybe you're from a country I've read a lot about, maybe you're from a country I can't even point out on a map. But that's precisely what makes having a "penpal" so amazing. Having a penpal is the opportunity to meet incredible people we would never meet in our daily lives. So, no matter your country of origin or residence, write to me; we can learn a lot from each other.
Thank you for reading this far, have a great day.

Hey so I’m kinda new to hinge/dating in general. I (25F) matched with this guy (28M)and minutes after matching we start talking. I mention that I have the day off today but because I start working nights I’m using the day off to meal prep and run errands.
He asks if we can meet today - and I think, we literally started texting 15 mins ago. My instinct is to say no because I wanted to chat with him first and get an idea of who he is. When I give an excuse not to meet today he then suggests tomorrow.
At this point I have this gut feeling that he isn’t going to take no for an answer. I’m trying to redirect the convo to stuff like his sports training or our jobs but he is pretty determined to meet soon.
I had to go with my instinct and unmatch but I wanted to ask if anyone who has more experience on hinge and dating if trying to meet immediately/same day as matching is a red flag or if its just a me thing.
Thanks in advance!
Edit: Thanks for all the comments! The consensus seems to be it’s not a red flag just something to be mindful of. I totally get not wanting to have a penpal and meet IRL and guy’s perspectives on here have been insightful. Hopefully if it happens again I’ll take a better approach.

I don't really know how to sum it up, but I tried my best with the title. Basically I'm starting to notice myself that I will find websites/apps/social groups that involve talking to people and sign up and think it is great, until I actually get a message? For example, I would use a dating app and see a person I like, I would message first even, and then when they message back I get all nervous and never reply. A couple of days ago I signed up for an online penpal type website, added my info and hobbies etc to my profile and left it to be verified,I come back the next day and there's messages on there of people wanting to get to know me, and I flake. It's even happened with close friends where I will look at a group chat but not respond.
I keep thinking about why this happens over and over again but I have no clue. I know that I definitely do want to make more friends, so why do I ghost right at that point? Is this an introverted/extroverted thing or a "you have a problem" thing?

I guess I have to start at the beginning of this all to understand this. During 2020 I met an older man who was Interested in taking me out on dates/ spending money on me. A sugar daddy in other words. This has not been a regular Sugar daddy relationship. We have never had sex. Ever. We have kissed( mostly just check peck with a few drunken make outs). He’s the type that wants what he can’t have and has done a lot financially for me in return. He paid my rent for two years, bought me a Mercedes and still pays for the car till this day. He is very aware that we will never be more than what we are but he likes to hear that someone cares for him and loves him so yes I do give him an emotional relationship I guess. to be honest I don’t love him or care to be around him for more than an hour. He really cringes me out by the weird things he says and how low his confidence is. He tells me he literally needs me to need him to make him feel like a man.
Shortly after that I was a penpal to someone who is my current boyfriend (30) now. Yes I wrote him while he was in prison. Mostly Borden that came from the lockdown but it blossomed into something more. Fast forward to 2022, my boyfriend was released and I flew up to meet him and fell in love. I am from Texas and he lived in Minnesota and we both took a chance and he moved down here February 2022. My whole family was upset. I didn’t talk to them for a year but I didn’t care. My boyfriend has been good to me in different ways that I had never experienced before from previous relationships. He mad my inner child happy. I could be silly and myself. Before he was realeased I told him about my SD and didn’t not care. I have been honest with him since the beginning about him.
This past November my bf and I had a serious talk about where our relationship is going and what we want out of each other. I want a family and to be married one day and I told him that. He told that I would need to cut my sd out of my life if did want that to come out of our relationship. So I did. I stop asking and excepting money from him. Stoped text/ communication with him.
About a month ago he tells me I either need to get my own car or take over the payments of the Mercedes which is wayyy to expensive for me. I have been searching and got approved for my own car but I have been holding it of because honestly I’m scared. The car has been neglected with the up keep of things and I got a flat the other day. My boyfriend could not change the tire. He has no handy man/life skills at all. I guess I never really noticed until that day. I had to call my SD and my bf was livid. We got into a huge argument. The worst one we’ve ever had. He said all I do is suck dick and fuck for money and that set me off because I have never with him. He has gotten that stuck in his head and tonight he told me he sees me as that person and he will never marry me.
I am hurt, I have been such an amazing girlfriend to him. I have cooked for him, I have tried to motivate him to be a better man. I work two jobs to make ends meet and he is unemployed at the moment from a recent layoff. He said I have no ambition and I want someone to take care of me. Not looking for advice but I just need to vent.
Edit: Thank you to every single person who took the time to read and comment on this situation. A lot of thought provoking comments I have been healing for the past year and I believe it has caused me to have a shift in thought and my outlook on what I need in a partner in the future. My boyfriend will be moving back to Minnesota and I need to cut off my SD if I want to fully heal and become a better person all around.

Hello all! I'm a 25/F from USA. Originally from MD but live in the south now, & am married. I don't have any friends locally & get burnt out sometimes online, so I would love to have a penpal! They could be in the states or abroad! I would love to make a friend in france, ireland, uk, japan, korea, or italy! I love all things vintage, makeup, fashion reading, plants, phantom of the opera, cosplay, kpop/ kdrama, horror films, plush stuffed animals and dolls, travel ect! also very much a nature lover & am into anything artistic. we could talk about any and everything, send treats to one another or write each other as our favorite fictional character! I would love to use cute stationary or make it super dated and weathered! I scrap book so i have been collecting stickers and stationary. If it takes me a bit to get back to you, don't give up on me as I am chronically ill/ disabled! 21 plus only please!

It's about a 3 hour drive going home so some company would be nice!
I've always enjoyed talking to strangers and I have done so through different ways like penpalling, online dating or just by coincidence too!
A lil bit abt me:

• This is my gaming account (im not a total nerd okay )
• Praying to get a Laufey Ticket
• I love sketching so if we can be art buddies I'd really love that
• I do Muay Thai/Kick Boxing
• My music is mostly R&B with a little kpop!
• Would love to solo travel one day
• Working but planning to study again soon

Abt you: - wholesome pls - patient with replies ( i get busy sometimes !) - just let me know your age and name!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5064187-feel-like-its-so-hard-to-find-anyone-even-at-33
Well I'm 33 in about 2 weeks. I was supposed to attend a single's night last night that I'd paid £20 for but I ended up with a dodgy stomach, just my luck.
I've only been single for 5 months, but I'm feeling the age-related pressures, if I want to have a child. I'm not even 100% sure I want a child, or even immediately, but I know I don't have forever. If I were under 30 I wouldn't care about finding someone.
My last relationship ended after 4 years because he didn't want commitment. Still friends and I'm still sad but definitely did the right thing. A couple of months back I liked someone, it seemed he did too but then went funny literally from one day to the next, I do think it's more him than me but it did knock my confidence.
I joined a dating app and I've recently been let down by 2 flaky men who clearly just wanted a penpal. I do parkrun but men there either turn up with their girlfriend or finish the run in about 6 minutes so by the time I've finished they're long gone.
I do art, went to a drawing class but the average age group was twice my age even though they were lovely. The ones I like at work are either taken or look in their 20s, so I'd just seem like a predator. The other women in my team are largely under 25 and essentially just have to exist and that's all it takes.
Of course this sound like a boast but I get told I'm beautiful, pretty, nice figure and so on and I get my fair share of pervy men so I can't be that awful surely. I don't think my personality is that terrible either. Everyone else seems to have someone around me and nobody's got the 'perfect' personality, not that there is such a thing.
People say I'm funny, I think I'm smart, I speak other languages, I have a lot of hobbies, I suppose I am quite geeky. People say I'm 'sweet' which I'm not sure how I feel about. I'm not really into drinking, pubbing and partying tbh. I think I'm good at one-to-one or small groups and there are certain people I can talk to for hours.
I live where the uni halls are and keep seeing 20-something girls with gorgeous boyfriends! There's a lovely man at work but I'm too scared to ask our mutual friend if he's single without looking creepy. Anyway, rant over. Feel unattractive and unwanted. Any advice pls?

I'm watching Little House for my first time and am hooked. I'm currently on Season 7 and just saw "Dearest Albert I'll Miss You." One of the reasons I think the show stands the test of time is how as much as things have changed they stay the same. For anyone in the dating world today, this is an episode that will make you laugh and probably shake your head. For those who may not remember this is the penpal episode when Albert falls in love. Albert and the girl he falls in love with basically write letters completely embellishing their own lives to impress the other. If that's not the exact same thing that dating apps are filled with nowadays I don't know what is (not to mention on social media).
The best part (and mind blowing moment) is when Laura is checking over Albert's letter and begins scolding him for lying. Albert tells her that he had to, because Leslie sounds so athletic and popular. "What was I supposed to write to her about? That I caught a catfish yesterday?" I almost spit out my drink! Did he just invent the term "catfish"?! Probably not, but it made for a great coincidence! This was hilarious.
Something that I read is that the girl who played the love interest really is paralyzed in real life.

I got a dating app yesterday and I was enjoying liking people’s profiles. But I opened it today to find that 6 people have liked my profile and now I’m thinking of deleting my account. Does this happen to anyone else? I’m not sure if this is because of my aromanticism or something else entirely. This isn’t the first time this has happened to me either, when I got on a penpal website, someone perused me romantically and I immediately deleted my account. It’s just kind of annoying that I like to convince myself that I want a partner only to be terrified when someone shows interest. I’m genuinely freaking out and having an anxiety attack right now.

I am a lone VGK fan based in the UK who recently lost my only other hockey-loving friend, so I am feeling a bit lonely and missing being able to discuss games, news and general hockey events etc.
I don't really have anyone here in my time zone that I can share the playoff excitement with and my non-hockey friends are getting a bit fed up of me telling them about stuff they don't understand/care about. I watch all games live on NHL.TV and visit Vegas very regularly (hence why I am a fan) and general am awake in Pacific Time daylight hours due to lifestyle, so a west coast person would be fine.
I am looking for someone who watches games live would be up for chatting, reacting to games, sharing memes and chirping rivals etc. I know we have large threads etc, but I would really like a bit more of a personal interaction etc where you can have a more in-depth debate/conversation rather than just throwing my 2 cents into the void as it were.
Would anyone be interested in making a British hockey penpal/buddy? TIA
Disclaimer: just looking to chat, not looking for anything else -no dating/dick picks, crypto scams, or rip off merch, religious conversion or whatever.