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2024.05.14 22:38 Brady1138 Chances for Reconciliation?
TL;DR: She had enough of my drinking, but we still live together. What are the odds of us getting back together if I get this problem taken care of?
My girlfriend and I had been happily (or so I thought) living together for six months in an apartment then another 6 in a rented house (with 6 months left and no way to cut the lease). We fought very little in that time, we had chemistry like crazy, and we supported one another in our respective careers. We’d take care of each other when we were sick and do anything for each other. We’d go on trips with respective family and both sides were asking when I’d pop the question. And it was soon, I was starting to look for engagement rings. We would regularly talk about what our wedding will be like, the honeymoon, how we’ll raise kids, etc. The only time we had tension was when I went a little too far on my drinking, we would occasionally get crossways when I went too far. This happened maybe three or four times over the course of the 2 year relationship. Bear in mind I’m 5’ 3” and 140 lbs sopping wet, so alcohol works fast on me, hangovers were a regular occurrence over the weekends. She seemingly put up with it and even when I’d say I need to stop, or actively try to stop, she’d just say “as long as you’re not driving.” She’d drink with me often, but she’d stop much sooner than me. It was steadily getting more frequent, to the point I’d sometimes be too hung over to work in the office and instead work from home (I work in IT).
One weekend we were hosting her best friend and her husband visiting from out of town and her husband and I have become really good friends. Trouble is he’s a big fellow nearly 300lbs who can put a 12 pack away in an hour and I have a habit of trying to keep pace with other drinkers. On the last night they were here, we got some beers and hung out, but me and the husband got way too carried away with our drinking playing music and talking loud, we were up in the early morning being loud enough for my girlfriend to hear everything and she never got sleep that night. We finally wrapped up, I got in bed with her and proceeded to throw up everywhere. She promptly kicked me to the couch (rightfully so). The next day she was furious with me (again rightfully so) and wouldn’t come home until that night, she wouldn’t talk to me. I figured she just needed time to cool off and I needed to take my sobriety seriously this time.
The next day was filled with tension when we got home. After some awkward conversation, I finally asked “Are you still mad?” and she responded, “I’m not mad…I’m just done. We’re done. We’re roommates now. Maybe we’ll get back together by September [the end of our lease], maybe not. You talk about having kids and family, but you act like a teenager! I just can’t do this with you anymore!” She then ran to her room to cry, I was heated and ready to beg but knew better than to do that, so I left and went for a walk around the neighborhood to cool off before I said something stupid and totally ruin my chances. I was totally blindsided, but I was able to step away and think. When I came back she was making dinner, as calmly as I could, taking a more negotiating tone than a begging one, I said “Can you give me one more chance? We’ve built up so much together, I was so excited about our future together, I love you, I love your family and I’m willing to give up my drinking for this. I’m going to stop.” Her response “It’s not like I’m moving out with another guy tomorrow, so what’s the plan, how is this going to be different?” I said “I’m not just stopping for myself now, now I know I have others being affected with my future with you on the line. I’m going to get counseling.” Her: “You’re so good at telling people things they want to hear, you bold faced lied to your parents and your pasture that we weren’t living together [NOTE: I have very conservative parents and church so I lied to them about me living alone rather than with her, that never sat right with her], so you understand how I can’t really believe anything you say right now?” I said I do and that I will get professional help and that the lying will stop, that it’s a cowardly thing to do and that. I moved into the guest bedroom.
The following weekend, I decided to go to my hometown and stay a couple nights with my parents. I told my folks everything, our living situation, the history of our living situation, and my alcohol problems. My parents forgave me and assured me that she’ll likely come back around, just give it time. When I got back home, I told her “I’ve told my folks everything, they know. The lies are coming down. I’m also going to tell my pasture everything, I’m also getting help for my alcoholism. I’m going to get things cleared up and I’d like to pick things up where we left off if you’re willing. And whether we work out ultimately or not, I want to thank you for making me realize how bad a problem I have and I’m sorry I had to hurt you to realize that.” She responded, “I don’t know if we’ll ever go back to where we were, but you had bad labs [CONTEXT: I had a kidney transplant and get frequent labs done to check my health status], you were shaking all day Sunday (the day before we broke up), and you STILL did what you did that night! When you got sick I thought ‘Oh my God, this is how he’s going to die.’” I told her I am doing this for my health, told her about the audiobook I’m listening to about all the health effects alcohol has, and that I hope through this maybe we can reconcile, but I don’t expect an answer anytime soon so no pressure. We then went back to watching TV togethe
Things remained a little cold, but over time we’ve warmed up. My car broke down a few days later and she was very proactive about helping to drive me around and we started laughing together, flirting a bit, restoring the chemistry we had before. Even on my birthday, she bought me a cupcake and took me to my favorite restaurant. At nights when I’m a little quiet or go to bed early, she’ll knock on my bedroom door and ask if I’m ok. I also have been proactive around the house doing little things for her like making coffee for her before she gets up and I have to go to work or working on the garden (something I’d never do during my “buy-beer-watch-TV” cycle). We watch movies together again and get food together and run errands with each other, she’ll even point at places saying “we need to check [that place] out sometime!” It still gets a little tense when we go to bed, as we’re still sleeping in separate beds. She’s also been planning solo trips on weekends, which she didn’t do before. I’ve been ensured by many friends and family (including some on her side) that she’ll come back around. I haven’t drank at all since then (29 days) and I’m about to meet with a one on one therapist while I’ve been attending AA meetings to help myself and to give each of us some space and a little time apart.
We are back to talking like we did before, joking around, watching movies together, etc. but she still wants to do a lot of stuff without me now, but again understandable I suppose. Does this sound like we’ll be “just friends” from now on? Anyone else been in this situation? I’ve already stated to her my intention to change and she’s seeing that I'm taking the first steps in making those changes. I ask because she did seem to keep a window open for us to come back. Again I know this is EXTREMELY early to tell....it just hurts so much with her this close, but so far away at the same time, this is honestly just torture....and it’s all my dumbass fault…
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My girlfriend and I had been happily (or so I thought) living together for six months in an apartment then another 6 in a rented house (with 6 months left and no way to cut the lease). We fought very little in that time, we had chemistry like crazy, and we supported one another in our respective careers. We’d take care of each other when we were sick and do anything for each other. We’d go on trips with respective family and both sides were asking when I’d pop the question. And it was soon, I was starting to look for engagement rings. We would regularly talk about what our wedding will be like, the honeymoon, how we’ll raise kids, etc. The only time we had tension was when I went a little too far on my drinking, we would occasionally get crossways when I went too far. This happened maybe three or four times over the course of the 2 year relationship. Bear in mind I’m 5’ 3” and 140 lbs sopping wet, so alcohol works fast on me, hangovers were a regular occurrence over the weekends. She seemingly put up with it and even when I’d say I need to stop, or actively try to stop, she’d just say “as long as you’re not driving.” She’d drink with me often, but she’d stop much sooner than me. It was steadily getting more frequent, to the point I’d sometimes be too hung over to work in the office and instead work from home (I work in IT).
One weekend we were hosting her best friend and her husband visiting from out of town and her husband and I have become really good friends. Trouble is he’s a big fellow nearly 300lbs who can put a 12 pack away in an hour and I have a habit of trying to keep pace with other drinkers. On the last night they were here, we got some beers and hung out, but me and the husband got way too carried away with our drinking playing music and talking loud, we were up in the early morning being loud enough for my girlfriend to hear everything and she never got sleep that night. We finally wrapped up, I got in bed with her and proceeded to throw up everywhere. She promptly kicked me to the couch (rightfully so). The next day she was furious with me (again rightfully so) and wouldn’t come home until that night, she wouldn’t talk to me. I figured she just needed time to cool off and I needed to take my sobriety seriously this time.
The next day was filled with tension when we got home. After some awkward conversation, I finally asked “Are you still mad?” and she responded, “I’m not mad…I’m just done. We’re done. We’re roommates now. Maybe we’ll get back together by September [the end of our lease], maybe not. You talk about having kids and family, but you act like a teenager! I just can’t do this with you anymore!” She then ran to her room to cry, I was heated and ready to beg but knew better than to do that, so I left and went for a walk around the neighborhood to cool off before I said something stupid and totally ruin my chances. I was totally blindsided, but I was able to step away and think. When I came back she was making dinner, as calmly as I could, taking a more negotiating tone than a begging one, I said “Can you give me one more chance? We’ve built up so much together, I was so excited about our future together, I love you, I love your family and I’m willing to give up my drinking for this. I’m going to stop.” Her response “It’s not like I’m moving out with another guy tomorrow, so what’s the plan, how is this going to be different?” I said “I’m not just stopping for myself now, now I know I have others being affected with my future with you on the line. I’m going to get counseling.” Her: “You’re so good at telling people things they want to hear, you bold faced lied to your parents and your pasture that we weren’t living together [NOTE: I have very conservative parents and church so I lied to them about me living alone rather than with her, that never sat right with her], so you understand how I can’t really believe anything you say right now?” I said I do and that I will get professional help and that the lying will stop, that it’s a cowardly thing to do and that. I moved into the guest bedroom.
The following weekend, I decided to go to my hometown and stay a couple nights with my parents. I told my folks everything, our living situation, the history of our living situation, and my alcohol problems. My parents forgave me and assured me that she’ll likely come back around, just give it time. When I got back home, I told her “I’ve told my folks everything, they know. The lies are coming down. I’m also going to tell my pasture everything, I’m also getting help for my alcoholism. I’m going to get things cleared up and I’d like to pick things up where we left off if you’re willing. And whether we work out ultimately or not, I want to thank you for making me realize how bad a problem I have and I’m sorry I had to hurt you to realize that.” She responded, “I don’t know if we’ll ever go back to where we were, but you had bad labs [CONTEXT: I had a kidney transplant and get frequent labs done to check my health status], you were shaking all day Sunday (the day before we broke up), and you STILL did what you did that night! When you got sick I thought ‘Oh my God, this is how he’s going to die.’” I told her I am doing this for my health, told her about the audiobook I’m listening to about all the health effects alcohol has, and that I hope through this maybe we can reconcile, but I don’t expect an answer anytime soon so no pressure. We then went back to watching TV togethe
Things remained a little cold, but over time we’ve warmed up. My car broke down a few days later and she was very proactive about helping to drive me around and we started laughing together, flirting a bit, restoring the chemistry we had before. Even on my birthday, she bought me a cupcake and took me to my favorite restaurant. At nights when I’m a little quiet or go to bed early, she’ll knock on my bedroom door and ask if I’m ok. I also have been proactive around the house doing little things for her like making coffee for her before she gets up and I have to go to work or working on the garden (something I’d never do during my “buy-beer-watch-TV” cycle). We watch movies together again and get food together and run errands with each other, she’ll even point at places saying “we need to check [that place] out sometime!” It still gets a little tense when we go to bed, as we’re still sleeping in separate beds. She’s also been planning solo trips on weekends, which she didn’t do before. I’ve been ensured by many friends and family (including some on her side) that she’ll come back around. I haven’t drank at all since then (29 days) and I’m about to meet with a one on one therapist while I’ve been attending AA meetings to help myself and to give each of us some space and a little time apart.
We are back to talking like we did before, joking around, watching movies together, etc. but she still wants to do a lot of stuff without me now, but again understandable I suppose. Does this sound like we’ll be “just friends” from now on? Anyone else been in this situation? I’ve already stated to her my intention to change and she’s seeing that I'm taking the first steps in making those changes. I ask because she did seem to keep a window open for us to come back. Again I know this is EXTREMELY early to tell....it just hurts so much with her this close, but so far away at the same time, this is honestly just torture....and it’s all my dumbass fault…
2024.05.14 22:38 Wildomef Station names
Hi guys. I've read the books and played the games. But, I think I have a Mandela Effect on my mind.
In my mind, the 3 stations of the IV Reich were renamed. One of them, was renamed Wagnerskaya if i remember well. But I've found nothing about that on the internet and i don't have my books here. is this something i've imagined or is this something from the books ? Thanks for answers ;)
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In my mind, the 3 stations of the IV Reich were renamed. One of them, was renamed Wagnerskaya if i remember well. But I've found nothing about that on the internet and i don't have my books here. is this something i've imagined or is this something from the books ? Thanks for answers ;)
2024.05.14 22:38 Potential-Page-3640 25$ permit fee i think not
so a tree fell on my shed so i took the pieces and started building a new shed out the old wood, im building it about 4 inches from the house but not touching the house, someone called code enforcement and said the shed was touching the house...the inspector guy comes out and i show him its not touching the house...so he tried to say i need a permit just to build the shed....i have a pink notice of violation with the ordinance that reads
Sec. 8-1-103.1
(a)
Any owner, person, firm corporation, or contractor who desires to construct, enlarge, alter, repair, move, demolish, or change the occupancy of a building or structure, shall first make application for a building permit to the Code Official except as listed in section work not requiring a building permit. All required permit(s) shall be obtained before the commencement of such work. Any party who shall perform such work, or who causes any such work to be done prior to obtaining the required permit or prior to making the necessary filing shall be held in violation of this chapter and subject to the penalties stated herein.
(b)
Any owner, person, firm, corporation, or contractor who wishes to erect, install, enlarge, alter, repair, remove, convert or replace any electrical, gas, mechanical or plumbing system, to include propane or natural gas generators, the installation of which is regulated by the technical codes, shall be properly licensed and first make the necessary application for inspection (filing) with the appropriate section of the department before commencement of any work. Any party who shall perform such work, or who causes any such work to be done prior to obtaining the required permit or prior to making the necessary filing shall be held in violation of this chapter and subject to the penalties stated herein.
(c)
Any owner, person, firm, corporation, or contractor who wishes to replace the roof covering on a one- or two-family dwelling where the replaced roof covering exceeds fifty (50) percent of the total roof area shall make an application to the Code Official. The roof covering shall be in compliance with the Building and Related Construction Codes of Jefferson Parish. Documentation of compliance with the codes shall be provided by photographs or videos which are location verified with geotagging and digitally uploaded to the Jefferson Parish permitting system. Any party who shall perform such work, or who causes any such work to be done, prior to obtaining the required permit or prior to making the necessary filing shall be held in violation of this chapter and subject to the penalties stated herein.
to me it appears they think its constructed on to the occupancy of the house when its not touching the house as if i was adding a room to the house
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Sec. 8-1-103.1
(a)
Any owner, person, firm corporation, or contractor who desires to construct, enlarge, alter, repair, move, demolish, or change the occupancy of a building or structure, shall first make application for a building permit to the Code Official except as listed in section work not requiring a building permit. All required permit(s) shall be obtained before the commencement of such work. Any party who shall perform such work, or who causes any such work to be done prior to obtaining the required permit or prior to making the necessary filing shall be held in violation of this chapter and subject to the penalties stated herein.
(b)
Any owner, person, firm, corporation, or contractor who wishes to erect, install, enlarge, alter, repair, remove, convert or replace any electrical, gas, mechanical or plumbing system, to include propane or natural gas generators, the installation of which is regulated by the technical codes, shall be properly licensed and first make the necessary application for inspection (filing) with the appropriate section of the department before commencement of any work. Any party who shall perform such work, or who causes any such work to be done prior to obtaining the required permit or prior to making the necessary filing shall be held in violation of this chapter and subject to the penalties stated herein.
(c)
Any owner, person, firm, corporation, or contractor who wishes to replace the roof covering on a one- or two-family dwelling where the replaced roof covering exceeds fifty (50) percent of the total roof area shall make an application to the Code Official. The roof covering shall be in compliance with the Building and Related Construction Codes of Jefferson Parish. Documentation of compliance with the codes shall be provided by photographs or videos which are location verified with geotagging and digitally uploaded to the Jefferson Parish permitting system. Any party who shall perform such work, or who causes any such work to be done, prior to obtaining the required permit or prior to making the necessary filing shall be held in violation of this chapter and subject to the penalties stated herein.
to me it appears they think its constructed on to the occupancy of the house when its not touching the house as if i was adding a room to the house
2024.05.14 22:37 rosetintedglassses Big Daddy Bouncer Helmet
 | Hey fellow Rapture citizens. Many of you have seen this guy on your journey in the deep sea. About 7-8 years ago I made this for my high school art class. The fall semester mid-term was a Halloween mask for every grade level every year and on Halloween we would parade them around the school. That art teacher was one of my most influential teachers of my life. I’ll include some of his notes for the assignment. I hope you guys enjoy. The piece has kind of degraded of the years sitting around. I have a pretty big head and if I put it on now my head will most likely get stuck in there like a real big daddy haha. I will follow up with a video so you can see the lights! submitted by rosetintedglassses to Bioshock [link] [comments] For those interested in making your own I’ll leave a basic description of the build below:
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2024.05.14 22:37 jvstdai unemployment question.
hey guys, not sure if this is the correct sub to post this on but ill try anyways, (i live in the NYC area btw) so long story short i worked for a security agency that would send me to different locations to work, i ended up being really liked at one location and worked there, more than 40hrs a week for almost two years.. recently the head guy of that location requested i not be sent there moving forward because i “called out” although i gave the supervisor (next in command) a day notice i wouldnt be showing up, anyway, the agency then told me they’d line something up for me but i haven’t heard from them since, its now week 3 since this happened, so this morning i applied for unemployment under “lack of work”, of course the agency finally calls me back this morning but i missed the call, no message was left, im curious what you guys think? should i still go through w/ my unemployment claim or should i call them back to see if they have work available? do you guys think they would block my unemployment? since the employer pays for the taxes, i think, im slightly worried they might push back, but do they even have a case without me being contacted for weeks? honestly, i felt like it was a huge slap in the face to not keep me undated and basically job less for 3 weeks, unpaid of course, i now feel like i don’t owe them anything seeing how they left me stranded for almost an entire month, even though i’ve come through from them time and time again, sometimes even working as much as 80hrs a week for months on end, which also made me think maybe i should get out of this field and find something long term, with a pension, health care, benefits etc, anyways, any help is appreciated and thank you guys for helping me out in advance! have a great day.
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2024.05.14 22:37 Sure_Cricket_7566 Packer Recommendations?
TW: use of anatomical language
i’ve just got a new STP, along with some packing underwear, and i’ve worn them for a couple days now. it’s awesome being able to feel the bulge of the balls rub against my thighs as i walk!! but i’ve started getting annoyed at how i constantly have to readjust the shaft. at first it was cool, i felt like one of the guys, but now i worry my coworkers think i’m touching myself at work 😭
since it’s an STP, it’s normal form is erect, but it’s pliable enough to move around. i usually dress to the left, but that results in the bottom cup part shifting in an uncomfortable way, leading me to need to go to the restroom to fully adjust the balls.
do you have any recommendations of STP packers, or 3-1s, which i’ve never bought before, with a shaft that stays in the direction i’ve moved it? like, with a built-in rod or something?
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i’ve just got a new STP, along with some packing underwear, and i’ve worn them for a couple days now. it’s awesome being able to feel the bulge of the balls rub against my thighs as i walk!! but i’ve started getting annoyed at how i constantly have to readjust the shaft. at first it was cool, i felt like one of the guys, but now i worry my coworkers think i’m touching myself at work 😭
since it’s an STP, it’s normal form is erect, but it’s pliable enough to move around. i usually dress to the left, but that results in the bottom cup part shifting in an uncomfortable way, leading me to need to go to the restroom to fully adjust the balls.
do you have any recommendations of STP packers, or 3-1s, which i’ve never bought before, with a shaft that stays in the direction i’ve moved it? like, with a built-in rod or something?
2024.05.14 22:37 djoko03 Beginner looking for some advice
Hey,
Just started my muay thai journey last week, I go to two different gym so I can learn more from different people, sound better to me. So I go three times a week, tuesday 2hr, friday 1hr and saturday 2hr, I also lift weight 4 times a week, dropped from 6 times a week for muay thai.
To give some context about me, I'm 34 not much experience in fighting sport, been doing bodybuilding for the 7 past years consistently and I'm 216lbs for 6'1 and around 15% bf, flexibility is like okay, not the best or the worst, same for the cardio. I usually sweat alot when I workout but when I do 2hr muay thai I'm dripping like crazy the whole time.
But I felt a bit discouraged today and felt a bit like sh*t during sparring session and some other stuff today. I mean, yes, most people there train for at least 1 year and have already done one or two fight but is it normal to get overwhelmed and not being able to do anything or I'm just bad at this? I also have a hard time remembering combos when they Show it and we work them by pair for like 3 min, I feel like I slow down people I work with. And lastly, how do you guys deal with bruises? My forearms, hips, legs and shin and completely covered with bruises everywhere, I had a hard time dealing with low kick on my legs today since I got hit like more than an hundred time there since last week and it start to hurt lol
Thanks
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Just started my muay thai journey last week, I go to two different gym so I can learn more from different people, sound better to me. So I go three times a week, tuesday 2hr, friday 1hr and saturday 2hr, I also lift weight 4 times a week, dropped from 6 times a week for muay thai.
To give some context about me, I'm 34 not much experience in fighting sport, been doing bodybuilding for the 7 past years consistently and I'm 216lbs for 6'1 and around 15% bf, flexibility is like okay, not the best or the worst, same for the cardio. I usually sweat alot when I workout but when I do 2hr muay thai I'm dripping like crazy the whole time.
But I felt a bit discouraged today and felt a bit like sh*t during sparring session and some other stuff today. I mean, yes, most people there train for at least 1 year and have already done one or two fight but is it normal to get overwhelmed and not being able to do anything or I'm just bad at this? I also have a hard time remembering combos when they Show it and we work them by pair for like 3 min, I feel like I slow down people I work with. And lastly, how do you guys deal with bruises? My forearms, hips, legs and shin and completely covered with bruises everywhere, I had a hard time dealing with low kick on my legs today since I got hit like more than an hundred time there since last week and it start to hurt lol
Thanks
2024.05.14 22:37 Special_Leave_1612 I Have No Friends
24 year old male here. Absolutely no friends. Sure I have some guy that I’ve talked to since high school that I play Xbox with almost every day, but that’s really it. They never text or call me on the weekends. They are always hanging out with each other or others, yet I am never invited. The only one that ever invites me anywhere is a kid I’ll call T. Anyways, I was so bored Saturday night and wanted to go out to a bar. I called T and he didn’t answer. That was it, my night was ruined. There isn’t a single other soul I could call at all.
My 20’s are being completely wasted down the drain. I’m doing absolutely nothing at all with my life. I’ve never given a single fuck about money or anything like that, so I don’t care about that shit. All I want is friends to do things with. Girls to go out on dates and have fun with. I have absolutely none though.
My dad expects me to move out soon. He is riding my ass all the time about it. I’ve lived on my own before, and it’s not like I don’t want to move out, but I have nobody to move out with at all. If I ended up moving out on my own, I’d just end up completely depressed with a lack of human contact at all. One buddy and his girlfriend said they wanted to move out together, but they are procrastinating like crazy
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My 20’s are being completely wasted down the drain. I’m doing absolutely nothing at all with my life. I’ve never given a single fuck about money or anything like that, so I don’t care about that shit. All I want is friends to do things with. Girls to go out on dates and have fun with. I have absolutely none though.
My dad expects me to move out soon. He is riding my ass all the time about it. I’ve lived on my own before, and it’s not like I don’t want to move out, but I have nobody to move out with at all. If I ended up moving out on my own, I’d just end up completely depressed with a lack of human contact at all. One buddy and his girlfriend said they wanted to move out together, but they are procrastinating like crazy
2024.05.14 22:36 Cataclyps- Dreamlessly. Are you waiting for life to happen to you or is life coming from you?
I seem to have lost understanding of most people.
I see it most oftenly among people my age(21-26). Listening to others, feeding off of those motivational bullshit videos, rich people advice, relationship advice... I see people collect all the knowledge, ideas, information and skills on the planet, yet they do not act. I see people not knowing a thing jump head first, some fail, yet some succeed - Knowledge without experience is merely philosophy; experience without knowledge is ignorance. - Not wary of the preacher most bite into his bullshit. Not knowing the sacred irony of this life that those who preach love do not have love, those who preach peace lack peace and those who preach god... Really need god.
There are sacred ironies and causal relationships that cannot be broken and will persist as cynical clichès until either society crumbles or chatgpt has had enough of my psychotic ramblings and decides to go on a thanos quest to bring peace to the planet.
What I am trying to get at is the fact that a lot of people have completely disregarded themselves and decided to wage war on the only person GENUINELY interested in their well being - their own damn self. "IT's YOU VS YOU" "PAIN IS JUST PAIN" - that type of 'hustle' cope bullshit that the vast majority are consuming so that they do not crumble under their own insecurities.
It is not you vs you, it's you and you versus everything else trying to put you down, manipulate you and toy with you. So just about 95% of the world right now.
The moment you decided to wage a mental war against yourself you're doomed. "YOU NEED CONCRETE EVIDENCE TO SUPPORT YOUR OWN MENTAL PICTURE OF YOURSELF BECAUSE AFFIRMATIONS DO NOT WORK" who said that ? Some rich guy selling a course..? Is he going to give you that concrete evidence? Only for 500$ when the 'actual' value is 500000000000000$?
You don't need a 10pack to feel good, you don't need a lamborghini aventador to feel enough, you don't have to be 6'+ to be granted permission to carry confidence unconcealed, you don't gotta be making 100k USD+ minimum to be granted access to the dating world.
Reality exists in your head. Anything else is just pure copius bullshit.
The only true way to change your life is to change your mind, your identity. That doesn't start with becoming a millionaire.
Jim Rohn has a saying I'll tattoo on my ass one day - “If someone hands you a million dollars, best you become a millionaire, or you won't get to keep the money.” -
Life comes from you it doesnt happen to you, if you're dead inside... Too bad life will suck until you perish. You want a better life? change. Change who you are. Kill who you are.
The quality of your thoughts determine the quality of your life. A thought that has been thought too often, becomes a habbit, a habbit becomes a lifestyle and a lifestyle becomes an identity. Let me provide an example a lot of people are familiar with :
If the 'love' of your life has decided that all of the sudden you dick is too short and that your best friend's is able to 'satisfy' her better... and you're dumb enough to have made her the sole priority of your life.. You wound up thinking about her daily. She's getting dicked down, but you still thinkin abt her, obsessing, being sad, imagining happily ever after scenarios. You wake up sad, you work sad, you go to sleep sad.
This goes on for 1 month, by this time frame it has become a habbit. Your brain produces chemicals associated with that depressive feeling, after a certain time period the body takes over. The same way you're breathing without thinking about it, you'll be thinking about her without thinking about her producing an insurmountable amount of depression proteins. And before long you'll be grumpy, salty and ridden with hatred individual. - If you want a really good explanation of this read "Breaking the habbit of being yourself - by Joe Dispenza"
The thoughts that you think determine your life. IF you can convince yourself that you're the person you want to be and you emotionally experience that event and you hold it in your head long enough, it will happen.
You will change your external surroundings by changing your internal surroundings.
Ok. had to get this out of me. Bye.
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I see it most oftenly among people my age(21-26). Listening to others, feeding off of those motivational bullshit videos, rich people advice, relationship advice... I see people collect all the knowledge, ideas, information and skills on the planet, yet they do not act. I see people not knowing a thing jump head first, some fail, yet some succeed - Knowledge without experience is merely philosophy; experience without knowledge is ignorance. - Not wary of the preacher most bite into his bullshit. Not knowing the sacred irony of this life that those who preach love do not have love, those who preach peace lack peace and those who preach god... Really need god.
There are sacred ironies and causal relationships that cannot be broken and will persist as cynical clichès until either society crumbles or chatgpt has had enough of my psychotic ramblings and decides to go on a thanos quest to bring peace to the planet.
What I am trying to get at is the fact that a lot of people have completely disregarded themselves and decided to wage war on the only person GENUINELY interested in their well being - their own damn self. "IT's YOU VS YOU" "PAIN IS JUST PAIN" - that type of 'hustle' cope bullshit that the vast majority are consuming so that they do not crumble under their own insecurities.
It is not you vs you, it's you and you versus everything else trying to put you down, manipulate you and toy with you. So just about 95% of the world right now.
The moment you decided to wage a mental war against yourself you're doomed. "YOU NEED CONCRETE EVIDENCE TO SUPPORT YOUR OWN MENTAL PICTURE OF YOURSELF BECAUSE AFFIRMATIONS DO NOT WORK" who said that ? Some rich guy selling a course..? Is he going to give you that concrete evidence? Only for 500$ when the 'actual' value is 500000000000000$?
You don't need a 10pack to feel good, you don't need a lamborghini aventador to feel enough, you don't have to be 6'+ to be granted permission to carry confidence unconcealed, you don't gotta be making 100k USD+ minimum to be granted access to the dating world.
Reality exists in your head. Anything else is just pure copius bullshit.
The only true way to change your life is to change your mind, your identity. That doesn't start with becoming a millionaire.
Jim Rohn has a saying I'll tattoo on my ass one day - “If someone hands you a million dollars, best you become a millionaire, or you won't get to keep the money.” -
Life comes from you it doesnt happen to you, if you're dead inside... Too bad life will suck until you perish. You want a better life? change. Change who you are. Kill who you are.
The quality of your thoughts determine the quality of your life. A thought that has been thought too often, becomes a habbit, a habbit becomes a lifestyle and a lifestyle becomes an identity. Let me provide an example a lot of people are familiar with :
If the 'love' of your life has decided that all of the sudden you dick is too short and that your best friend's is able to 'satisfy' her better... and you're dumb enough to have made her the sole priority of your life.. You wound up thinking about her daily. She's getting dicked down, but you still thinkin abt her, obsessing, being sad, imagining happily ever after scenarios. You wake up sad, you work sad, you go to sleep sad.
This goes on for 1 month, by this time frame it has become a habbit. Your brain produces chemicals associated with that depressive feeling, after a certain time period the body takes over. The same way you're breathing without thinking about it, you'll be thinking about her without thinking about her producing an insurmountable amount of depression proteins. And before long you'll be grumpy, salty and ridden with hatred individual. - If you want a really good explanation of this read "Breaking the habbit of being yourself - by Joe Dispenza"
The thoughts that you think determine your life. IF you can convince yourself that you're the person you want to be and you emotionally experience that event and you hold it in your head long enough, it will happen.
You will change your external surroundings by changing your internal surroundings.
Ok. had to get this out of me. Bye.
2024.05.14 22:36 Relevant_Papaya_1437 Deposit refund question
I have no clue where to ask this so thought a sub reddit called questions was about as fitting as it could be. I paid a deposit for a horse back ride for my husband and I on mothers day. The guy cancelled on us the night before because he was missing a part to make it to us, which inunderstand and wasnt upset with him about it, i simply asked for my deposit i paid to be refunded to us.. He's being shady about returning my refund, stating that its expensive to feed hirses and therefore will be days before he csn get it to me as his bussiness is slow right now. My question is, does anyone know what the policy in california would be surrounding this situation? Like does he need to return me my deposit within a certain amount of days, legally does he owe interest every day he holds it? And if he doesn't refund it, paid through PayPal, how do I go about trying to get a refund? Trust me I tried to Google this and couldn't come up with quite what i was looking for, so off to reddit I went!
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2024.05.14 22:36 spoon_jar I already feel like I’ve lead a full life at the age of 25. Fully at peace with dying. (LONG READ)
I plan on ending it in ~30 years, or when I become a burden on my friends and family.
Preface:
I know and understand I am extremely privileged. I’ve always had supportive parents and a safe place/roof over my head. I’ve faced hardships, but they’re a far cry from what others have dealt/are dealing with.
Context dump:
I grew up in a middle class family in England, born of two working class parents that managed to achieve a decent amount of social mobility and provide a comfortable childhood for my siblings and I. We weren’t spoiled in a material sense. We all went to local state schools, never had the latest games consoles, designer clothes, or ate fancy food. My parents chose to spoil us with experiences and travel, getting the opportunity to see the world and have a go at different activities.
I was gifted when it came to academics and flew through school in all the top classes, however choked when I got to my final years. As a result the university I went to wasn’t all that great. This along side other factors such as experimenting with drugs, developing an eating disorder and getting myself into a very toxic relationship (my ‘first love’) started my depression. When covid hit I dropped out and moved back home.
My depression persisted and got worse. I contemplated suicide frequently, however always knew it was never really something I’d go through with, at least not yet. In the meantime I started working in hospitality in my hometown, developing two major passions, music and craft beer. In total I spent 2 years saving money, developing my passions and trying to ignore my depressive thoughts.
Where I am now:
For the last two years I’ve been living in a major city in England. I have a great job working 40 hours a week in a craft beer pub and can pay my own way with a little left over to save each month. In my free time I go and enjoy the music scene and listen to the Djs I love mix live, and (safely/infrequently) taking drugs to enhance the experience. I have a beautiful, kind, hilarious girlfriend that I have a great relationship with. I’m attempting to put myself out there with Djing myself, in the hopes of playing clubs one day. Right know I feel relatively content, proud of myself for striking out on my own and building a life for myself, and living %100 independently.
I’m really not trying to brag, I’ve had a privileged upbringing and I know that. But I would like to make a list of things to help get across this sense that I’ve already lead a full life and would be okay if it ended tomorrow.
I’ve visited 10 different countries in 4 different continents. I’ve tried sailing, skiing, kayaking, rock climbing, horse riding and sky diving. I’ve gone camping in -10 degrees weather. I’ve helped build living facilities (laying bricks) for orphans in South Africa. Performed my own original poetry for a room of 50 people. I’ve felt some of the most intense euphoria it’s possible to feel, in unison with another person I love to the ends of the earth.
I’ve also seen extremely low lows, contemplated suicide and confronted my own mortality. I’ve shoplifted. Hurt peoples feelings. Lied for my own benefit. I’ve felt real heartbreak and mourned close family members. I’ve experienced high levels of self hatred/inadequacy and projected those feelings on my loved ones negatively impacting them. All things I regret, but contribute to my life feeling ‘full’.
The controversial bit:
As a result of all this, coupled with my depression, I plan on killing myself when I start becoming a burden on others. The exact nature of my depression is also crucial to this. I believe that my existence itself is to some extent immoral. To make it actually moral would involve moving somewhere I can live entirely independently, which would sadly involve effectively cutting off my friends and family. The way the modern world is structured means that there is always some from of exploitation involved in the goods I consume, and I as a consumer contribute to this exploitation. I’ve come to terms with it for the meantime. I will only start to really plan the end of my life once my parents are gone. It would cause them too much grief if I were to leave before they do.
I’ve been considering this since I was about 16. Reading moral philosophy since 15. I’m going to strive to improve the lives of those around me, be kind and helpful and do right by people for the next 30 years or so and then seek out the most reasonable way to end my life.
My girlfriend knows about these plans. She is understanding and supportive.
Thanks for reading.
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Preface:
I know and understand I am extremely privileged. I’ve always had supportive parents and a safe place/roof over my head. I’ve faced hardships, but they’re a far cry from what others have dealt/are dealing with.
Context dump:
I grew up in a middle class family in England, born of two working class parents that managed to achieve a decent amount of social mobility and provide a comfortable childhood for my siblings and I. We weren’t spoiled in a material sense. We all went to local state schools, never had the latest games consoles, designer clothes, or ate fancy food. My parents chose to spoil us with experiences and travel, getting the opportunity to see the world and have a go at different activities.
I was gifted when it came to academics and flew through school in all the top classes, however choked when I got to my final years. As a result the university I went to wasn’t all that great. This along side other factors such as experimenting with drugs, developing an eating disorder and getting myself into a very toxic relationship (my ‘first love’) started my depression. When covid hit I dropped out and moved back home.
My depression persisted and got worse. I contemplated suicide frequently, however always knew it was never really something I’d go through with, at least not yet. In the meantime I started working in hospitality in my hometown, developing two major passions, music and craft beer. In total I spent 2 years saving money, developing my passions and trying to ignore my depressive thoughts.
Where I am now:
For the last two years I’ve been living in a major city in England. I have a great job working 40 hours a week in a craft beer pub and can pay my own way with a little left over to save each month. In my free time I go and enjoy the music scene and listen to the Djs I love mix live, and (safely/infrequently) taking drugs to enhance the experience. I have a beautiful, kind, hilarious girlfriend that I have a great relationship with. I’m attempting to put myself out there with Djing myself, in the hopes of playing clubs one day. Right know I feel relatively content, proud of myself for striking out on my own and building a life for myself, and living %100 independently.
I’m really not trying to brag, I’ve had a privileged upbringing and I know that. But I would like to make a list of things to help get across this sense that I’ve already lead a full life and would be okay if it ended tomorrow.
I’ve visited 10 different countries in 4 different continents. I’ve tried sailing, skiing, kayaking, rock climbing, horse riding and sky diving. I’ve gone camping in -10 degrees weather. I’ve helped build living facilities (laying bricks) for orphans in South Africa. Performed my own original poetry for a room of 50 people. I’ve felt some of the most intense euphoria it’s possible to feel, in unison with another person I love to the ends of the earth.
I’ve also seen extremely low lows, contemplated suicide and confronted my own mortality. I’ve shoplifted. Hurt peoples feelings. Lied for my own benefit. I’ve felt real heartbreak and mourned close family members. I’ve experienced high levels of self hatred/inadequacy and projected those feelings on my loved ones negatively impacting them. All things I regret, but contribute to my life feeling ‘full’.
The controversial bit:
As a result of all this, coupled with my depression, I plan on killing myself when I start becoming a burden on others. The exact nature of my depression is also crucial to this. I believe that my existence itself is to some extent immoral. To make it actually moral would involve moving somewhere I can live entirely independently, which would sadly involve effectively cutting off my friends and family. The way the modern world is structured means that there is always some from of exploitation involved in the goods I consume, and I as a consumer contribute to this exploitation. I’ve come to terms with it for the meantime. I will only start to really plan the end of my life once my parents are gone. It would cause them too much grief if I were to leave before they do.
I’ve been considering this since I was about 16. Reading moral philosophy since 15. I’m going to strive to improve the lives of those around me, be kind and helpful and do right by people for the next 30 years or so and then seek out the most reasonable way to end my life.
My girlfriend knows about these plans. She is understanding and supportive.
Thanks for reading.
2024.05.14 22:36 Special_Leave_1612 I Have No Friends
24 year old male here. Absolutely no friends. Sure I have some guy that I’ve talked to since high school that I play Xbox with almost every day, but that’s really it. They never text or call me on the weekends. They are always hanging out with each other or others, yet I am never invited. The only one that ever invites me anywhere is a kid I’ll call T. Anyways, I was so bored Saturday night and wanted to go out to a bar. I called T and he didn’t answer. That was it, my night was ruined. There isn’t a single other soul I could call at all.
My 20’s are being completely wasted down the drain. I’m doing absolutely nothing at all with my life. I’ve never given a single fuck about money or anything like that, so I don’t care about that shit. All I want is friends to do things with. Girls to go out on dates and have fun with. I have absolutely none though.
My dad expects me to move out soon. He is riding my ass all the time about it. I’ve lived on my own before, and it’s not like I don’t want to move out, but I have nobody to move out with at all. If I ended up moving out on my own, I’d just end up completely depressed with a lack of human contact at all. One buddy and his girlfriend said they wanted to move out together, but they are procrastinating like crazy
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My 20’s are being completely wasted down the drain. I’m doing absolutely nothing at all with my life. I’ve never given a single fuck about money or anything like that, so I don’t care about that shit. All I want is friends to do things with. Girls to go out on dates and have fun with. I have absolutely none though.
My dad expects me to move out soon. He is riding my ass all the time about it. I’ve lived on my own before, and it’s not like I don’t want to move out, but I have nobody to move out with at all. If I ended up moving out on my own, I’d just end up completely depressed with a lack of human contact at all. One buddy and his girlfriend said they wanted to move out together, but they are procrastinating like crazy
2024.05.14 22:36 ZucchiniExtension [Tenant-US, MS] Do future landlords contact current landlords?
Moving because our current landlord is the worst. Even the reviews from others on my current apartment’s site since living here will reflect that since they had a switch in management around the time I moved in- dropping their almost 5.0 to almost below a 3.
The catch is I don’t know if there’ll be a lot of apartments open around the time my lease ends, I’m flexible enough by a month & will just pay double rent one month. If they contact my current landlord, even though I still have a few weeks to give 60-day notice, I’m worried she’ll get mad at me idk bc she has a habit of yelling at me or won’t want to renew the lease if I’m not able to find a place. Do you guys still renew leases if you catch wind a tenant is thinking about moving out?
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The catch is I don’t know if there’ll be a lot of apartments open around the time my lease ends, I’m flexible enough by a month & will just pay double rent one month. If they contact my current landlord, even though I still have a few weeks to give 60-day notice, I’m worried she’ll get mad at me idk bc she has a habit of yelling at me or won’t want to renew the lease if I’m not able to find a place. Do you guys still renew leases if you catch wind a tenant is thinking about moving out?
2024.05.14 22:36 Special_Leave_1612 I Have No Friends
24 year old male here. Absolutely no friends. Sure I have some guy that I’ve talked to since high school that I play Xbox with almost every day, but that’s really it. They never text or call me on the weekends. They are always hanging out with each other or others, yet I am never invited. The only one that ever invites me anywhere is a kid I’ll call T. Anyways, I was so bored Saturday night and wanted to go out to a bar. I called T and he didn’t answer. That was it, my night was ruined. There isn’t a single other soul I could call at all.
My 20’s are being completely wasted down the drain. I’m doing absolutely nothing at all with my life. I’ve never given a single fuck about money or anything like that, so I don’t care about that shit. All I want is friends to do things with. Girls to go out on dates and have fun with. I have absolutely none though.
My dad expects me to move out soon. He is riding my ass all the time about it. I’ve lived on my own before, and it’s not like I don’t want to move out, but I have nobody to move out with at all. If I ended up moving out on my own, I’d just end up completely depressed with a lack of human contact at all. One buddy and his girlfriend said they wanted to move out together, but they are procrastinating like crazy
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My 20’s are being completely wasted down the drain. I’m doing absolutely nothing at all with my life. I’ve never given a single fuck about money or anything like that, so I don’t care about that shit. All I want is friends to do things with. Girls to go out on dates and have fun with. I have absolutely none though.
My dad expects me to move out soon. He is riding my ass all the time about it. I’ve lived on my own before, and it’s not like I don’t want to move out, but I have nobody to move out with at all. If I ended up moving out on my own, I’d just end up completely depressed with a lack of human contact at all. One buddy and his girlfriend said they wanted to move out together, but they are procrastinating like crazy
2024.05.14 22:35 Affectionate_Exit369 A friendly advice
I have spent a decent amount of time on various dating apps and have been on many dates over the years. I don’t use them anymore for various reasons but couple of advices here in case someone finds them useful.
A dating app not being able to offer you a date doesn’t say much about you, you viscerally need to start believing that. These platforms are theoretically designed to maximise the number of matches which can keep the platform’s business model up and running.
If you are someone who doesn’t get a lot of matches, trust me, the day you get 50 matches, you won’t know what to do with them. You won’t be able to have one real conversation with an individual and just fidget over all that information overload. Women go through this all the time! She doesn’t know what great things you have going on in your life or how funny you are by looking at your pictures, however great they are, since the 10 guys on your left and on your right will also have some nice pictures.
To get laid or to get a date you need to focus on Activation and Conversion. By activation I mean, maximise the number of matches and by conversion I mean, converting those matches into dates. Conversion is easy: reply fast, be interested, swear not to flirt or talk about sex until you guys meet in person and you know she is very much into you, be or pretend to be confident, and have fun on your first date like you would with your college friend. Never ask her for anything! Not her name, age, how was her day or if she is interested in going out. Just swear to not ask for anything. Just be super interested in them and talk about any random shit you care about. If you guys hit it off, she will tell you her name, address, insta handle, and her bra size. Activation is slightly difficult but try to be very sincere in your bio, experiment with puns, poems, show your artsy side, your dancing skills, avoid group photos and use videos if you can. Here you have to make sure you give out a confident vibe with subtle hints of you having a life. Your photos, your choice of words, your music choices, your dressing sense will all optimize this.
Finally, be more empathetic towards women, try to see them for what they are, standard human beings. Its not a fucking movie and no woman is looking for a kabir singh, they want a normal guy because/if they are normal.
Regardless, dating platforms are taking away the self-respect from men by making them beg, and the personality from women by ensuring they don’t need it.
Bonus tip: Delete your accounts, wait for the next time you are super happy, feeling funny/confident naturally and setup an account then. A likeable you in real life will reflect somehow on your profile too!
Stay proud, happy dating! :)
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A dating app not being able to offer you a date doesn’t say much about you, you viscerally need to start believing that. These platforms are theoretically designed to maximise the number of matches which can keep the platform’s business model up and running.
If you are someone who doesn’t get a lot of matches, trust me, the day you get 50 matches, you won’t know what to do with them. You won’t be able to have one real conversation with an individual and just fidget over all that information overload. Women go through this all the time! She doesn’t know what great things you have going on in your life or how funny you are by looking at your pictures, however great they are, since the 10 guys on your left and on your right will also have some nice pictures.
To get laid or to get a date you need to focus on Activation and Conversion. By activation I mean, maximise the number of matches and by conversion I mean, converting those matches into dates. Conversion is easy: reply fast, be interested, swear not to flirt or talk about sex until you guys meet in person and you know she is very much into you, be or pretend to be confident, and have fun on your first date like you would with your college friend. Never ask her for anything! Not her name, age, how was her day or if she is interested in going out. Just swear to not ask for anything. Just be super interested in them and talk about any random shit you care about. If you guys hit it off, she will tell you her name, address, insta handle, and her bra size. Activation is slightly difficult but try to be very sincere in your bio, experiment with puns, poems, show your artsy side, your dancing skills, avoid group photos and use videos if you can. Here you have to make sure you give out a confident vibe with subtle hints of you having a life. Your photos, your choice of words, your music choices, your dressing sense will all optimize this.
Finally, be more empathetic towards women, try to see them for what they are, standard human beings. Its not a fucking movie and no woman is looking for a kabir singh, they want a normal guy because/if they are normal.
Regardless, dating platforms are taking away the self-respect from men by making them beg, and the personality from women by ensuring they don’t need it.
Bonus tip: Delete your accounts, wait for the next time you are super happy, feeling funny/confident naturally and setup an account then. A likeable you in real life will reflect somehow on your profile too!
Stay proud, happy dating! :)
2024.05.14 22:35 dcbStudios Uncertainty in a time when I was about to propose.
Tl;Dr The day before I propose to my girlfriend, she told me that she is still in love with her ex and is now conflicted and that she had recently saw him in person and they shared the same feelings.
Me: 34M Her: 34F Her son: 12M
Hello everyone, I'm new in this community.... However, I have a bit on my plate right now and I need advice.
In 2010. I was with someone whom I had gotten married to and as of this last year had gotten a divorce.
During that time I had a good friend of mine from high school, whom me and her had been just chatting. Trying to keep in touch. As far as I had known, it was purely platonic, although I did in high school have a crush on her. Earlier this year me and her decided to give it a shot and go out after she had broken up with someone she was with for 5 years not married. Someone who had stressed her out and her son, been emotionally abusive, indecisive on their future together, and at one point told her that he didn't even know if he wanted to be with her.
Now....
Me and her, we've been together for about 4 and 1/2 months now. And to be honest, I was ready to propose as of this Monday, I actually went as far as getting in contact with my old school to go and propose at the same place me and her used to eat lunch at.
.... And then.... The day before, she has me sit down to tell me when still loves her ex. And that she has recently talked to him...in person .. about that ...and they both still have feelings for each other
Now I've become close with the family and her son enjoys spending time with me and I enjoy spending time with the entire family...
So literally the day before I proposed.... She dropped that on me. And honestly I have no idea what to do now.
Her son actually went and talked to her about it, him going into tears... Gushed that I've treated her better than anybody has ever, and that he loves me in the way that his own dad (not the ex mind you), doesn't give him a fraction of the father-like figure that apparently I present to him. Her own father actually went out of his way wanting to be there when I proposed, so the whole family stands behind me on this.
Yet here I am....
She knows that she needs to cut off contact with her ex, however, she's kept line of communication open " so that he can get mail", however, after my divorce I cut ties to my ex not only for myself but respectfully for her, and I went as far as removing all the photos and everything off my Facebook in remembrance of it
The conversation as is right now is that she wants until this next Monday to think what she wants to do, whether it's to go back to him, to stay with me, or to go a whole year just by herself so she can figure out what she wants.
Regardless of which I stand behind her because I just want her happy. And yes it would be a lie to say I wouldn't want her to pick me.... But I know that a hurting heart is not something that you can demand to be fixed.
I leave this to you guys.... As I really don't know what to do at this point. I'm at work right now. Trying not to think about it but it's... it's eating me up.... And I don't want to keep talking about it with her because I need her to feel like she has the time to work on it. I'm just getting tired of the games that people tend to play with each other's hearts.... Especially when I moved in with her to help her out with finances... And now I'd have to consider possibly moving out and finding my own place within a couple weeks if she decides against me.
What would you recommend that I do in this situation? Give her the time she needs? Should I move out? ;Dr The day before I proposed My girlfriend told me she's still in love with her ex and now is unsure who she wants to be with even if the past couple of years have been rough between them.
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Me: 34M Her: 34F Her son: 12M
Hello everyone, I'm new in this community.... However, I have a bit on my plate right now and I need advice.
In 2010. I was with someone whom I had gotten married to and as of this last year had gotten a divorce.
During that time I had a good friend of mine from high school, whom me and her had been just chatting. Trying to keep in touch. As far as I had known, it was purely platonic, although I did in high school have a crush on her. Earlier this year me and her decided to give it a shot and go out after she had broken up with someone she was with for 5 years not married. Someone who had stressed her out and her son, been emotionally abusive, indecisive on their future together, and at one point told her that he didn't even know if he wanted to be with her.
Now....
Me and her, we've been together for about 4 and 1/2 months now. And to be honest, I was ready to propose as of this Monday, I actually went as far as getting in contact with my old school to go and propose at the same place me and her used to eat lunch at.
.... And then.... The day before, she has me sit down to tell me when still loves her ex. And that she has recently talked to him...in person .. about that ...and they both still have feelings for each other
Now I've become close with the family and her son enjoys spending time with me and I enjoy spending time with the entire family...
So literally the day before I proposed.... She dropped that on me. And honestly I have no idea what to do now.
Her son actually went and talked to her about it, him going into tears... Gushed that I've treated her better than anybody has ever, and that he loves me in the way that his own dad (not the ex mind you), doesn't give him a fraction of the father-like figure that apparently I present to him. Her own father actually went out of his way wanting to be there when I proposed, so the whole family stands behind me on this.
Yet here I am....
She knows that she needs to cut off contact with her ex, however, she's kept line of communication open " so that he can get mail", however, after my divorce I cut ties to my ex not only for myself but respectfully for her, and I went as far as removing all the photos and everything off my Facebook in remembrance of it
The conversation as is right now is that she wants until this next Monday to think what she wants to do, whether it's to go back to him, to stay with me, or to go a whole year just by herself so she can figure out what she wants.
Regardless of which I stand behind her because I just want her happy. And yes it would be a lie to say I wouldn't want her to pick me.... But I know that a hurting heart is not something that you can demand to be fixed.
I leave this to you guys.... As I really don't know what to do at this point. I'm at work right now. Trying not to think about it but it's... it's eating me up.... And I don't want to keep talking about it with her because I need her to feel like she has the time to work on it. I'm just getting tired of the games that people tend to play with each other's hearts.... Especially when I moved in with her to help her out with finances... And now I'd have to consider possibly moving out and finding my own place within a couple weeks if she decides against me.
What would you recommend that I do in this situation? Give her the time she needs? Should I move out? ;Dr The day before I proposed My girlfriend told me she's still in love with her ex and now is unsure who she wants to be with even if the past couple of years have been rough between them.
2024.05.14 22:35 straightkissingenbys How should i go about telling my friend their actions/description of events are upsetting to me?
Hello, recently, my friend had a handful of self described "silly episodes" (bursts of high energy). However, the way they talk about it is upsetting to me.
I (18 male) am suffering from bipolar type 2. I have a friend (18 non-binary) who's been going through a long depressive episode. But recently, they had a handful of huge energy bursts where they acted super hyper and a bit out of character. These bursts mostly lasted around 60 minutes, with one of the longer ones being about 2 hours. However, after the first time this happened, they talked to a friend about the situation whilst I was present (and a part of the conversation). They mentioned what they experienced and that they were "very silly" (their words, not mine).
However, this rubbed me the wrong way a bit because they almost seemed proud, or rather show-offy about it. They continued to mention this event multiple times to multiple different people in different conversations, mostly out of the blue, where they made some random joke and would go over to talking about them "being silly" by saying something along the lines of "maybe I should get very silly again." A couple of friends have jokingly said that those events sound like manic depression (those friends don't know I have bipolar.).
I should mention that, judging from my own experiences, I wouldn't have said/guessed that these bursts were a manifestation of bipolar, as, as far as I know, from personal experience, online research, experiences made by friends with bipolar, for some reasons, one being that they were aware they were being "silly" while that was going on, and they always felt it about 10-30 minutes before that they were going to "get silly" (as you might have noticed, I'm really not a fan of that expression). Also, the general circumstances/particular happenings of these "silly episodes" (as they have sometimes called them) didn't give off the same vibe/energy as manic episodes from people I know.
However, the problem I have is not that I wouldn't believe them that they have bipolar, or that these episodes were mania (obv. I'm not a licensed therapist and everyone's experience is never the same etc...). My problem is that it feels like they treat it as a joke, or as something that's just funny to them (I'm not trying to say they are faking this, even if they were, I'd rather believe it not to be true. Also, they don't really have a reason to fake something like this). Whenever they talk about it, it triggers me to a certain extent, I get a bad feeling in my stomach, my mood is instantly ruined and i generally feel upset, you get what I'm saying. I also really really dislike them almost acting/talking like a child when they say "I think I'm going silly again." However, since they ARE going through a hard time, I don't know whether to wait to tell them, which could be a long time at which point there's no point at bringing this stuff up, or I could tell them now... however, I don't even know what to exactly say, as I, besides a couple of things listed here, don't even really know why it triggers me so much/why I dislike it so much when they talk about this the way they do.
Do y'all have any advice and tips I could use? What do you guys think should I do? And how should I talk about this to them?
TL;DR: I have bipolar type 2 and my friend, who's been depressed, had sudden hyper episodes. They joke about it, calling it "being silly," which triggers me. Unsure whether to talk to them now or later, as it's upsetting. Any advice?
(Also this is my first post here and maybe in general on reddit, hope i didnt
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I (18 male) am suffering from bipolar type 2. I have a friend (18 non-binary) who's been going through a long depressive episode. But recently, they had a handful of huge energy bursts where they acted super hyper and a bit out of character. These bursts mostly lasted around 60 minutes, with one of the longer ones being about 2 hours. However, after the first time this happened, they talked to a friend about the situation whilst I was present (and a part of the conversation). They mentioned what they experienced and that they were "very silly" (their words, not mine).
However, this rubbed me the wrong way a bit because they almost seemed proud, or rather show-offy about it. They continued to mention this event multiple times to multiple different people in different conversations, mostly out of the blue, where they made some random joke and would go over to talking about them "being silly" by saying something along the lines of "maybe I should get very silly again." A couple of friends have jokingly said that those events sound like manic depression (those friends don't know I have bipolar.).
I should mention that, judging from my own experiences, I wouldn't have said/guessed that these bursts were a manifestation of bipolar, as, as far as I know, from personal experience, online research, experiences made by friends with bipolar, for some reasons, one being that they were aware they were being "silly" while that was going on, and they always felt it about 10-30 minutes before that they were going to "get silly" (as you might have noticed, I'm really not a fan of that expression). Also, the general circumstances/particular happenings of these "silly episodes" (as they have sometimes called them) didn't give off the same vibe/energy as manic episodes from people I know.
However, the problem I have is not that I wouldn't believe them that they have bipolar, or that these episodes were mania (obv. I'm not a licensed therapist and everyone's experience is never the same etc...). My problem is that it feels like they treat it as a joke, or as something that's just funny to them (I'm not trying to say they are faking this, even if they were, I'd rather believe it not to be true. Also, they don't really have a reason to fake something like this). Whenever they talk about it, it triggers me to a certain extent, I get a bad feeling in my stomach, my mood is instantly ruined and i generally feel upset, you get what I'm saying. I also really really dislike them almost acting/talking like a child when they say "I think I'm going silly again." However, since they ARE going through a hard time, I don't know whether to wait to tell them, which could be a long time at which point there's no point at bringing this stuff up, or I could tell them now... however, I don't even know what to exactly say, as I, besides a couple of things listed here, don't even really know why it triggers me so much/why I dislike it so much when they talk about this the way they do.
Do y'all have any advice and tips I could use? What do you guys think should I do? And how should I talk about this to them?
TL;DR: I have bipolar type 2 and my friend, who's been depressed, had sudden hyper episodes. They joke about it, calling it "being silly," which triggers me. Unsure whether to talk to them now or later, as it's upsetting. Any advice?
(Also this is my first post here and maybe in general on reddit, hope i didnt
2024.05.14 22:35 GlitzyGhoul Song lyrics with Friend’s quotes!
My favorite’s so far personally are:
Green Day “I hope you’re in the prime of your life!” Obviously sang like you have a terrible cold.
And, it’s got to be said…
Linkin park “I’m one step closer to the edge and WE WERE ON A BREAK!”
Let’s hear what you guys have!
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Green Day “I hope you’re in the prime of your life!” Obviously sang like you have a terrible cold.
And, it’s got to be said…
Linkin park “I’m one step closer to the edge and WE WERE ON A BREAK!”
Let’s hear what you guys have!
2024.05.14 22:35 ZealousidealBlood226 I’m worried if I have a baby with another woman they will be more prone to having issues.
i am a lesbian, but have been with guys. i have done a few things, but never have had sex with one as the thought repulses me. when i think of the future i want for myself, i think of my future wife and babies and i want them to have the best life i can give them.
can that best life really be with another woman?
what if they don’t have a masculine figure to look up to? what if they’re made fun of? i know this isn’t what my family pictured for me, and i know it isn’t what i pictured either. i don’t want to just be “that lesbian couple”, but i don’t know if i could stand to be with a man for the rest of my life, and i don’t think i would be able to keep him happy.
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can that best life really be with another woman?
what if they don’t have a masculine figure to look up to? what if they’re made fun of? i know this isn’t what my family pictured for me, and i know it isn’t what i pictured either. i don’t want to just be “that lesbian couple”, but i don’t know if i could stand to be with a man for the rest of my life, and i don’t think i would be able to keep him happy.
2024.05.14 22:35 Strike160 [WTS] Trijicon TA110 ACOG
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Hi guys, looking to part with an essentially new TA110 ACOG. Specific model is the .223 green horseshoe reticle (TA110-D-100494).
I ordered two of these and am keeping the .308 version. This one has been mounted on a rifle, turrets adjusted, but was never shot or left the house.
Asking $1,050 shipped conus.
Pics
First dibs/I'll take it/whatever takes it
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Hi guys, looking to part with an essentially new TA110 ACOG. Specific model is the .223 green horseshoe reticle (TA110-D-100494).
I ordered two of these and am keeping the .308 version. This one has been mounted on a rifle, turrets adjusted, but was never shot or left the house.
Asking $1,050 shipped conus.
Pics
First dibs/I'll take it/whatever takes it
2024.05.14 22:35 Dumbblueberry Shane, start treating the ladies with respect and lay off a little bit!
So because I know you read here, i first want to say I sincerely am sorry for all the stress you and your family have to go through. I can't imagine and I understand you have these intentions with these potential partners that are good but it is all coming across very bad. I don't think an illness gives one a right to be treating others poorly.
First of all, you don't treat any of them like they have their own wants and desires. It's all about you guys. You do realize that relationships go 2 ways right? Like you require all of this of these women, yet they can't say anything about their needs? You are so cold when you meet them, and treat them like they're in a job interview. Like I get you are going through a health scare but you are SCARING them!!! Like it sucks because you could tell the newest girl was really into your wife but as soon as you started demanding committment and all this crazy shit the 2nd time you met her she backed off.
Advice: Let ashley get to know them on her own. Let her make her own connections. Relationships aren't some weird business transaction. These women aren't pieces of meat or robots. They need to form an actual connection with your wife before they'd agree to be committed to her forever, ESPECIALLY if you are expecting them to take care of her if your health fails again. If you do decide to go on a date with them both, stop glaring at the woman the entire time. Have fun, laugh. If you can't do that then stay home.
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First of all, you don't treat any of them like they have their own wants and desires. It's all about you guys. You do realize that relationships go 2 ways right? Like you require all of this of these women, yet they can't say anything about their needs? You are so cold when you meet them, and treat them like they're in a job interview. Like I get you are going through a health scare but you are SCARING them!!! Like it sucks because you could tell the newest girl was really into your wife but as soon as you started demanding committment and all this crazy shit the 2nd time you met her she backed off.
Advice: Let ashley get to know them on her own. Let her make her own connections. Relationships aren't some weird business transaction. These women aren't pieces of meat or robots. They need to form an actual connection with your wife before they'd agree to be committed to her forever, ESPECIALLY if you are expecting them to take care of her if your health fails again. If you do decide to go on a date with them both, stop glaring at the woman the entire time. Have fun, laugh. If you can't do that then stay home.
2024.05.14 22:35 throwing_awayty Gym etiquette (AITA?)
Need a opinion.
Went climbing earlier today, really new to it so I'm on the low V anyway. It was a bit busy and the main part of the gym, where it goes in almost a closed circle was half closed cause of rerouting. There are two other places to climb the second was also super busy however the 3rd only had one guy sitting down.
I haven't really done that area yet so I decided to try it.
I sat down first to stretch, then when the guy did a route I did one since they are close to each other. Then I sat down, to give him a go, but after a few minutes he got up and left.
I don't know much about gym etiquette apart from giving other people space and taking turns. So just want to ask if I did anything wrong, I didn't mean to take over his space and kick him out ... I've only went 5 times in the past month. And I just wanted to go to a space without a lot of people cause I'm new.
Any perspective would be nice. Thank you 😊
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Went climbing earlier today, really new to it so I'm on the low V anyway. It was a bit busy and the main part of the gym, where it goes in almost a closed circle was half closed cause of rerouting. There are two other places to climb the second was also super busy however the 3rd only had one guy sitting down.
I haven't really done that area yet so I decided to try it.
I sat down first to stretch, then when the guy did a route I did one since they are close to each other. Then I sat down, to give him a go, but after a few minutes he got up and left.
I don't know much about gym etiquette apart from giving other people space and taking turns. So just want to ask if I did anything wrong, I didn't mean to take over his space and kick him out ... I've only went 5 times in the past month. And I just wanted to go to a space without a lot of people cause I'm new.
Any perspective would be nice. Thank you 😊