Family reunion booklet example

I've had a really rough couple of days. I had oral surgery on Friday, a painful weekend as the novacaine wore off, I had relatives in town this week. On top of it being hell week.
Every plan that got set up fell through. My eating options were/are insanely limited. I haven't felt full or had a good night's sleep in days. My family members were all bragging about their kids' accomplishments, which, good for them! But i feel like a failure by comparison. I vented and cried to my mom about it a few times, and even that didn't help.
Today was better, nothing terrible has happened so far and I was feeling good for the first time in almost a week. I call my mom, who's hanging out with her sister, and I tell her about the pretty good day I'm having.
Her sister chimes in and says its good that things are turning around, "including your bad attitude!"
I felt the wind sucked out of my sails. Not only the betrayal of my mom telling people about how shit I felt at a really low place, but to have it all reduced to a shitty attitude.... I tried to keep a good attitude. But setback after setback day after day just feels. bad. I wanna cry, and I know I can't even tell my mom this hurt because it'll just be one more example of me having a shit attitude. I can't win. I just wanna rot into the ground.

My bf and I have been together for about 4 years now. I noticed he’s not good at managing money at all. He currently has a lot of debts and ends up always needing to borrow money with friends or with me and I don’t find it healthy even if he pays it back . What’s shocking is that he seems to have a pretty good salary he gets paid 20$ per hour.
I noticed that it’s because he doesn’t know how to be financially stable because he spends a lot. And I really want to help him. The thing that bothers me the most is the fact that he sends money to his family back in his hometown they rely on him financially even tho he’s still a student and basically supports himself (rent , food , clothes ..) EVERYTHING I never saw one of him family members calling to genuinely have a conversation or know stuff about him it’s always a convo and then oh we have this issue back home can you send this amount . I tried to talk to him about it but he’s very defensive and believes that it’s normal and his obligated to send money to them. It’s complicated because we come from different backgrounds fortunately I grew up in a stable environment financially and my parents help me til today so that I can fully focus on my studies before getting a job, him on the other hand it’s completely opposite.
I feel like this makes him take every opinion or advice I give as an offense or just not valid. If he has 200$ for example he’s totally fine with spending 100$ on a shoe he probably didn’t need and I don’t find that correct . I’m very strict on how I spend he sometimes even just tells me « you can just call your dad and ask him to send it to you » and it bothers me a bit. Yes I can call and ask for more money to buy a nice rug but why would I if the money I get every month is enough and I just rather wait keep what I have and buy the rug when I will have extra money for it since it’s not that important .
I try to not judge way too much but children taking care of their parents when they are not even done with their studies and don’t have a stable job yet never sat right with me. It’s such a big responsibility financially and emotionally draining too. He literally has older siblings who are more well off. I told him that I would send him 300$ since I’m traveling and I won’t be paying groceries because I will be with my family therefore I’ll have extra money and he was very happy. But I remembered that I asked him once if he would ever give me money just like this and say go buy something that you like or ever do an extra shift if I need money urgently and he told me no because we are not married, I can just ask my parents if it’s urgent and that he’s not the type to give money to a woman while his family is back home is starving. It made me rethink everything. Technically I get him gifts ( he gets me gifts too) , I pay for the food when he’s at my place , I even land him some money that he gives me back when he needs it, I’m ready to give him money for an emergency. I even gave him 200$ once for his school tuition he fg to pay back but I don’t even ask about it. And all of that isn’t MY money it’s my parents . So I feel like it’s a bit hypocritical of him and I’m just stupid for being so open and lalaland what’s mine is yours.
I’m worried because I really want a future with him but this really makes me rethink everything. What’s should I do? And also am I being too judgemental and harsh ?
TL;DR: I've been with my boyfriend for four years, but I'm concerned about his poor money management. He earns a good hourly wage but constantly borrows money due to excessive spending and sending money to his family, who rely on him financially. Despite my efforts to discuss this, he's defensive and feels obligated to support his family, even though he's still a student. We come from different financial backgrounds, and he often dismisses my financial advice. He has also implied that because we're not married, he wouldn't give me money as he prioritizes his family's needs. This situation makes me rethink our future together, as I worry about financial stability. Am I being too judgmental, or is this a valid concern?

Any suggestions on a way to update the "date added" field for a title without deleting it and readding it to the collection? I'd like to bump titles to the top for my users if the title used to only be 480p and I've added a better vertion. For example, I recently purchased the 4K Full Metal Jacket and would like it to *pop* to the top as previously all I had was the DVD release. Open to ideas if I'm looking at this all wrong. My family isn't well versed in using collections, so going that route was kind of a last resort for me.

I always wanted to know what are American weddings like? What do you bring as present when u go to wedding? Do you give money ? Is it popular in USA that parents pay for wedding. So in my country the Bride’ s family pay for the wedding, . The groom’ parents pay for honeymoon. And the groom pays rings, gifts for godfathers etc. What is your dress code for wedding? Here we cant “wear jeans for example ( too much casual). Did u ever attend non- american wedding.. etc
Thank you :)

So Long story short I stumbled onto a Post by u/pigsonbroadway talking about their take on The Mollusk. and in that thread was a very rad post by u/alwayspolite1999 where they spun a very interesting full story to go with the album that really inspired me. I spent the last 3 hours typing up this response but i think the thread is locked because it wont let me comment. I will post my long thoughts about it here for anyone that might appreciate it. Stay cool yall.
Hey hey, I know I'm nearly 7 years late on this, but thank you for giving me a framework for a very rad hour long relaxing daydream. I changed a few things in my head from this plot but i think it's safe to say you've irrevocably altered this entire album for me. Well done mate.
I wanna share my take on it, just in case you're feeling it or someone else likes it.
I'm imagining a story a lot like yours, about a man growing up and dealing with processing trauma, finding love, and ultimately watching his child leave. I kinda cut the Narrator character and replaced him with a thematic recurring violent masculinity "character" of sorts, like no one character is to blame for the protagonist's continued trauma and misfortune. I couldn't help but also imagine it as a play, so here goes.

1. Dancing in the show tonight: A montage of sorts, with a young boy being raised by a mother and father, as the father slowly loses interest, neglects the child, and displays acts of violence, that are sometimes seen, but sometimes obfuscated from the boy by his mother. Eventually he experiences it directly at his father's hand. Blood/Violence, and subsequently the boy's traumatic thoughts, would be depicted with swirling red ribbons around him, fabric dancing about, etc, and these moments are all intrinsically tied to the ocean/beachside, where they live. By the end of the song, the boy's father gets on a boat and leaves the two on the beach, establishing a dreadful feeling for the viewer and character tied to the ocean. These events don't exactly suit the tone of DitST but that's part of the experience and ties into the ending.
   
2. The Mollusk: The boy, slightly older, finds a little mollusk, seeding some type of positive connection with the ocean that could counteract his trauma, and perhaps (foreshadowing ;) ) represent his ultimate positive reconciliation with the ocean. He is desperate for a father figure and finds himself spending time around a few these untrustworthy and unsavory seamen. Perhaps they are mocking the boy by the end, tossing the mollusk around. The boy gets the mollusk back eventually and takes it back to the beach and lets it go. I hate that the whimsical nature of The Mollusk lends itself so well to a dissonance like this. In a vacuum The Mollusk is a very peaceful lovely song.
   
3. Polka Dot Tail: The boy comes close to experiencing another traumatic situation, involving one of these drunken sailor men, but as you wrote, escapes and runs, trailed by the telltale red cloth setting in place further a lifelong discomfort/trauma response to the ocean. He returns home to his mother, who packs up everything and they move far away from the ocean, leaving their traumatic past behind, running somewhere.
   
4. Jonny on the Spot: A Montage of the boy, now older, working hard, helping his mother, exhausted, a young man but already turning to getting wasted, staying out late, and associating with the wrong people, filling a hole somewhere in his heart. Eventually he does crash his car, stumbling out onto the beach, anxious, and running into a nearby bar, looking back at his fucked up Chevy.
   
5. Mutilated Lips: A chaotic bar scene, surrounded my men, most outfits incorporating the color red somewhere. The Boy haunted by his pervasive trauma in this place. Until, while he's downing glasses, a waitress brushes his hand and sees his scratches, and meets his gaze. The drunkenness of course paints the scene as a merpeople atlantis ass underwater scene, bringing back ocean imagery to tie to the Boy's pain. The waitress has got some type of trauma as well, a cloth or ribbon or light effect (how do stage shows do mental effects like this? lol.) in her own color, let's say blue. They share a long passionate loving night together in her beachside shack, understand each other's pain and loneliness in a way the typical crowd at this seaside bar dont. They symbolize this my giving each other a piece of that fabric, trading blue for red. The blue and red cloth tangles and mingles in a new way and they're draped in purple, finding a peace.
   
6. The Blarney Stone: They return to the bar and the girl he met gets pulled into song and obnoxious drunken partying, the two young protagonists submerged in a loud, crass scene. She plays her usual role in this, though can't help but glance over at her new love. He starts to see her as part of this world, untouchable, so closely associated with this oceanic world of pain for him that he can't handle it. He panics and tries to leave, starting up his messed up car. She runs out to try to stop him but almost lashes out at her, realizing his aversion to this place and these people brings up too much agony, and associating her with that would be unfair to her, and he leaves. Realistically you dont fall in love with someone and run away in one night but it makes a good play.
   
7. It's Gonna be Alright: The Boy wanders out, into a warped undersea version of the previous beach scene with his crashed car. He kinda hits an emotional rock bottom after experiencing the first thing he could consider love or companionship and fucking it up, assumedly. He feels broken, and stares out over a deep dark chasm of fish and kelp and shit as he tries to convince himself he did the right thing, staying there all night. Meanwhile, throughout the song, the Girl goes back to her shack, looks at an old ring she keeps in a box, and by the end of the song, while Boy finds himself in the darkest place, she takes the ring and goes out to the beach, seeing a ship approach as she holds it.
   
8. The Golden Eel: A majestic Golden Eel appears to the Boy, it comes to him in... a vision? A mental realization? a spiritual awakening? He's face to face with this beautiful creature. Slowly all his red cloth is taken from him. It's wound up by the eel and wrapped around him, turning to his new outfit, the red effect that represents the trauma replaced by a strengthened gold cloth resolve that now accompanies him. The Eel swims away. He wakes up on the beach (we drop the underwater imagery here) and finds the Girl's blue scarf tucked into his jacket, and jumps up and starts running back. (mirroring the scene earlier with him as a child running away on the beach, but this time he's in control, running towards something.) He gets back to the bar and the owners point out to a boat leaving, sailing away. He's just missed her.
   
9. Cold Blows the Wind: Meanwhile, we go to the flashback to the Girl, (back to the aquatic imagery from here on out until She Wanted to Leave.) before her facial disfiguration, a montage of her being courted by some other fish sailor man. He's wearing bright cobalt blue. They're sailing together with a crew, and they're very close, eventually him proposing and giving her a ring. Immediately after, their ship gets hit by a cannonball and there's a big battle with another ship. Everything's on fire, she gets injured, and her love dies, as he hands her his bloodstained blue scarf. Later, she makes him a grave, and is wearing the ring still, eventually finding that same seaside bar. She starts working there, all the men there draped in blue fabric, reminding her of her pain. Present day, we see her on a boat, holding the Red scarf. She takes the ring and throws it into the water.
   
10. Pink Eye: The Boy, renewed with zest and energy to go find the Girl, works on his "Car", making a wild looking boat. He says goodbye to his mother then he just starts sailing.
    
11. Waving my Dick in the Wind: Fun upbeat montage. He sails around, showing people the scarf, and every time he meets some new wild sea person, they point, as if they're slowly leading him to her. He grows a beard, becomes a captain, slowly picking up a colorful crew of people helping him. By this point he's fully embraced the red, but wears that blue scarf everywhere. He sails his wild Chevy boat around. Song culminates in ol "Jimmy Wilson" doing a crazy tap dance, and at the end, informing the Boy about the woman, and showing him a picture of her and her Child (without and eye).
    
12. Buckingham Green: (This is my favorite song on the album) We go back to the girl being born, living with her mother somewhere. Lets say the child is missing one eye rather than both, half her face disfigured. Her mother tries to protect her, perhaps too much from judgmental eyes, telling her stories, raising her kindly, but one day she opens her (supposedly) missing eye and it shines gold, and they decide to hide it. Meanwhile, The Boy braves a fierce storm, following a golden glow on the horizon towards where the Girl and the Child are, even helped through the worst of the storm by the Mollusk (Hell yeah). Eventually he arrives and meets the child, and there's a big dramatic ass reunion scene with the Boy, the Girl and the mollusk and all the fish people. The Boy and the Girl wrap their scarves together and put them around the girl, and the scarves transform into a golden one, symbolizing the Boy's commitment to love his child and break a cycle of neglect, and the Girl's closure, being able to move on from her lost love and onto this new family. (or something, idk) The girl opens that other eye and it glows gold again. and The Golden Eel bursts out of the Mollusk as everyone celebrates. The Boy and Girl get their new Opalescent Mollusk outfits and everyone gets hype. Bring in Boy's mom too, fuck it. How all this is supposed to happen in 3:18 i dont know but that's for the director to figure out.
    
13. Ocean man: Exactly as you described. No fucking notes. Hype ending. Maybe this part starts with the Eel haha.
    
14. She Wanted to leave: Now the girl is older. The story of course takes a somber turn where, a tale as old as time, a sailor comes along and woos the young lady. The Boy dips back into his trauma a little bit, swearing revenge, practically begging his girl to stay, going through the throes of a parent watching his child grow up and leave him behind. She obviously refuses, following her new life and her new path, apart from him. Not as heartlessly as he'd like to imagine though. Its melodramatic.
    

14b. Dancing in the Show reprise: This time though, instead of being alone in his pain, his mother and wife can be there to hold his hand, pick him up, and wave goodbye to the sailors' ship together as it leaves for sea. She waves back happily from the deck. Its a sad departure but doesn't have to be a hopeless goodbye like the ones the characters felt in their youth. It can end with the three of them sitting on the beach together and then settling back into their home, the red and blue and gold scarves are hung up somewhere on the roof of something as the sea breeze blows through them.
I don't know who you are but I'm really glad your interpretation touched me in the way that it did. Whoever you are I hope you're having a good life, and rock on.

I'm in the midst of getting diagnosed, but I've got many of the typical symptoms of lipoedema: bilateral fat buildup on thighs and upper arms, pretty intense bruising, non-responsive to diet/exercise, circulation issues etc. etc. For a long time I experienced pain at the most minor of touch, especially around the thighs. In high school my friends and family always joked about how extreme my reactions to bumping into things was, since I sometimes reacted like I'd been shot. This was a constant of my life since I'd hit puberty. As an aside, my pain tolerance threshold is otherwise fairly high. (Example: When I had shingles, it barely tickled...so I was convinced I couldn't possibly have shingles, lol.) I frequently don't notice other injuries until well after the fact.
Sometime in my late 20s, the extreme pain reaction stopped. I just noticed its absence one day and I couldn't tell you what is different between then and now. I still bruise extremely easily and have all the other issues, which is why I'm pursuing a diagnosis. Every great once in a while I'll have a disproportionate response to gently bumping into something, but it's no longer a constant issue like it was when I was growing up. I've not read of anything similar in medical literature or personal anecdote, so I was curious if anyone else had a similar experience to mine. Thanks!

As the title says, I've got some critiques about the story being intriguing but most of them also say that I should add more introspective moments, especially from the MC.
I do agree somewhat with it but I feel like it's a bit awkward to write. How do I add more of the MC's thoughts without breaking the flow of the scene and interrupting an action scene for example?
Is something like this fine enough? :
Cynthia struggled to keep pace with the creature's rapid attacks while also keeping an eye on the shadow wolves threatening the children. She knew she wasn't strong enough to protect everyone, but she hoped to create a small window for Mathis and his friends to escape.
Mathis felt powerless as he watched his mother engage in battle with the towering creature. He loathed his own weakness, his inability to help. Even though his father had said that those who reached the Sprouting Stage before the age of twelve were prodigies, Mathis felt anything but. He struggled with the basic spells and found his Death abilities worthless in this fight.
Adding to his torment, his ability to see recently deceased spirits came to bite him in the ass. He could see the spirits of his neighbors, his friends, and his friend’s families all hovering around him in search of revenge. Their despair, their anguish, and their worries all radiated around him crushing his already fragile mind.
Or should there be more internal monologue like here:
Mathis was examining the amulet when the cave suddenly trembled, and a rush of seawater poured in with ferocious force. The sudden flood caught him off guard, and he was swept off his feet, tumbling back toward the cave's entrance. The raging water tossed him against the walls, the ceiling, and the rocky floor, bruising his body and leaving him disoriented.
“No…!” Another hit pushed the air out of his lungs, leaving him breathless.
He struggled against the surging currents, his thoughts a whirlwind of panic. 'I should have listened to them,' he thought as the cold water engulfed him, pulling him further into the cave's throat. In that moment, Mathis realized the price of his defiance might be higher than he had ever imagined.
I feel like adding subtle character reflection and adding sensory descriptions like smell and sounds are things I've struggled with the most in the last month I've been writing my story.

While we are all excited and wait for the new single, let's try to speculate a bit, what it can be. First of all, we definitely have strong Holy Wood references, not only in the teaser, but in many photos Lindsay posted on IG and in Mr Manson's public appearences last year or even two. Then, we all know that something changed in his art after GAOG. The Tryptich was a great conceptual work, combined personal things, social commentary, occult symbolism etc.
After that his eras/personae were generally went away. The complex character Wormboy/Omega/Adam has gone. Yes, GAOG was art masterpiece with many references, deep imagery etc, and it can be regarded as afterword to Tryptich, as POAAF as a foreword, and Arch Dandy and Hatter from that albums are his characters, though without relugious and occult background, more sociopolitical anti-heroes.
What we have now? His personal situation after ERW betrayal, his wonderful relationship with Lindsay, all these allegations and cancellations, which is kinda similar to Columbine thing back then. Plus overall world situation is, say, apocalyptic, isn't it? Last but not least, he clearly revived physically, looks extraordinary young, strong and healthy now.
Taking all these factors in consideration, we can suppose something like "Holy Wood revisited".
There is very good post on this here https://www.reddit.com/marilyn_manson/s/2Oc3sGgwIp and i think in similar way, so this is addition to that if you like
Here someone remembered Bowie's Major Tom, who appeared again and again, but I think about other examples. First, extraordinary David Lynch's return to Twin Peaks, where we revisit that old story in complete different world 25 years later. Second, never released Jodorowsky's project, a sequel to El Topo, which was about Children of the Mole or Abelcain. Mandon even was involved to it, but, sadly, nothing materialised. We also know that Holy Wood was connected to Jodorowsky in some ways, from the narrative to the title, and unreleased novel was about to directed by Jodo as cinema, if I'm correct.
Maybe - just maybe - we will have a new conceptual album, where Adam from Holy Wood will be resurrected in new form? In the teaser we have tarot-like and occult symbols again, very similar to HW booklet and videos like Dispossble Teens and Nobodies. One of his looks there seems like new version of his famous HW outfit, but this time black, not white. There is even Perou's post on IG with Born Again reference.
We can also expect return of his trademark joycean wordplays, he could connect his ex last name to the story, as with the allegations he was "nailed to the (un)holy Wood"
As I mentioned somewhere, the only thing is missing for this (imaginary) project is the band. We do understand that no one from golden era can participate on full time basis,as John is in Motley Crew, Ginger too has different projects, Pogo has family, etc etc. Maybe Tim can do music along with Tyler? But MM could bring old mates at least for cameo appearence, maybe in music, or just in video.
And this would be definite Second Coming. To be honest, this is pure speculation, but who knows?

I apologize for the long post, but all the background seems necessary. Or maybe a big chunk of this is simply rant. I'm in a total quandary:
I'm a manager at a hospitality/entertainment-based company that is dysfunctional from the top down. The family-owned upper management is very unpleasant and very unresponsive. The company's success at this point seemingly is due to the residual strength of the now-retired father who founded the company, who by all accounts was highly respected in the industry.
As for my immediate management team, the GM is entirely burned out (and cowed by upper management), and has let any number of serious bad acts go by with (at best) minimal response in the 11 months that I've been there. These acts include the use of a racial slur in front of guests, sexist comments to fellow employees, theft, and extreme absenteeism/tardiness/insubordination issues. Of these issues, I know that upper management let theft go unchecked by an employee they thought was irreplaceable (he's since left), and that upper management is aware that the employee who used the racial slur was reported to have done the same when he worked for a competitor. The GM is currently in the middle of a month's leave -- her first in decades -- and it will surprise no one if she retires as soon as she returns.
Then there's a fellow manager who has a few months' seniority over me but had zero prior experience in management or hospitality, and appears unteachable. He's been to a management seminar and has done some online training, but he is so far out of his depth that it would be funny if it weren't so tragic. Any member of the staff could give daily examples, but the GM has consistently shielded/glossed oveignored his transgressions, as she's literally just trying to get through each day.
I have had at least three long, blunt discussions with the GM regarding multiple instances of this manager's shocking behavior, his impact on the staff, and the resulting impact on the bottom line. She's heard from many other team members, as well. But throughout it all, she's refused to see him as anything but "such a nice guy." The two of us had a final conversation the week before she left when yet another egregious act came to light via another team member. By the end of that chat, she looked stunned, and she surprised me by asking if I could last the month. A (perhaps ill-advised) wave of honesty washed away my filter, and I said I don't know.
Then came this:
A few days ago, a team member's negative behavior required follow-up action. The fellow manager and I and that shift's supervisor discussed what level of corrective action was needed, and we decided the manager and the shift supervisor would meet with her at the beginning of her next shift. The next day, I asked the shift supervisor how it went, and all seemed well. Then the following day, another team member approached me privately to say that the manager had left the write-up out in the open, and at least three people saw it. She scooped up the papers, went to the office, and tried to hand them to the manager. His reported response was, "I meant to do that. I want people to see the consequences of their actions." I believe her account, as she is not known to lie or exaggerate. Everyone who now knows the story is horrified that personnel info was made public. And of course I'm horrified. I still can't process it.
So what the hell do I do? I was giving myself a year with this place, so now that I'm near that point, I'm actively on the hunt. But in the meantime, do I go to upper management who I have no reason to believe will respond in any sort of constructive way? Do I wait for the burned out GM to return? If my finances were better and obligations fewer, I would have walked that day. I would have called the owner, relayed the story, and handed him my keys. But I can't.
One final bit of background, as I figure the question might pop up: I was hired by an Operations Manager who himself had been brought in a few months prior to turn things around, as all of their properties were/are struggling to varying degrees. I have a great deal of respect for that guy, and I fancy that the feeling was mutual. Of course, they didn't really want to change, and he left about three months after I came on. I've been gritting my teeth since.

I am not a shill. But I believe in the company. So much so that I am a repeat customer and a shareholder. No, I am not brokering deals for family...my wife and I purchased these ourselves. I've had a major medical event and decided that some of our life savings was better used improving the lives of our loved ones. So the kids and parents got new (to them) cars courtesy of Carvana. My sister in law started a home daycare and we got her an 8-passenger highlander for school pickup. The wife and I picked up a 1400 mile 2021 Miata this past March because....why not? I sold a car to them in that same transaction.
Everyone is sharing their experience, so I will share mine. My Carvana experience started with an emergency need to replace a car for my brother in Texas late 2022. I didn't want to go pound the pavement all over the Austin area. This netted us a 2013 Scion xB with 51,000 miles. The vending machine was broken that day. That was sad.
The thing for me is that I am not running all over town often dealing with sleazeball salespeople. My selections aren't limited to what is on lots in the radius I want to drive to see it. I am not arm wrestling dealers for carfaxes to analyze on the spot, haggling, or trying to get them to think I am serious wearing jeans and sandals. Yes, this was a thing at a luxury make dealer a few years ago. I bought a Ford Maverick in April for my son. For those of you that know these are hard to come by and every dealer seems to think they are entitled to 5 grand over MSRP (or more on used). This was by far the best experience because I paid less than what they were going for on the lots here and didn't have to strong arm local dealers about it. I paid the $1990 shipping and still came out ahead of what I would have paid locally.
To date:
2 cash picked up from Austin, Texas and Daly City, CA vending machines.
5 Bridgecrest financed machines delivered to my door.
Sold them my 2019 Mustang GT when I did the aforementioned Daly City pickup.
Bought 200 shares of CVNA stock in December 2022 at 3.80/share.
Delays seemed to happen in 3 places: When things were left in my court (i.e. trying to push delivery out a month so I can get on a plane to receive the car or doing the manual ACH funds verification thing versus linking my bank or calling them on the phone), when the windshield is chipped or needs replacement, and when the vehicle had open recalls. Certain US states make dealers fix the recalls before they can be resold. Carvana is kind of cagey about this. Example: Our 2023 Highlander had a recall for the front bumper. Carvana replaced the front bumper (delayed it a week)( but didn't re-drill the holes for the front license plate.
One word of advice: If you are thinking about selling your car and your registration expiresin the next 60 days you will need to go renew it. I am not talking about going online and paying it. They need the actual legit DMV registration renewed and DMV receipt. I learned this the hard way and had to go stand in line to get it.
I became a Progressive customer with the first one. For each subsequent ones I logged into progressive once I finalized the order, snagged insurance and had it uploaded in 30 minutes.
Bridgecrest is right up there with Toyota Financial in terms of ease of working with.
Anyway - long rant. Here for support. Enjoy your rides!

When I think about my life I have no clue where I want it to go but I know somethings I want to do. Am I holding myself back? Are there people in my life who are bringing me down unintentionally? Am I surrounding myself with people and habits that are really just limiting my life experiences. Am I expecting too much out of life?
Well when I think about life and what could make me “realistically” happy I think maybe not stressing so much on where I wanna be. Or maybe even pursuing a dream career. I’ve learned so far that anything you wanna do that makes you money that allows you to live is gonna either A. Be uncomfortable most days or B. Require a good amount of discipline and in most cases both are these are the outcome.
I often day dream about seeing Japan and perhaps even living there. I find myself gravitating towards things that come from Japan for example, my car is Japanese , the game consoles I love and collect are Japanese and i tend to even lean towards Japanese foods , games/ art , shows and music. I feel like Tokyo is full of night life and neon signs , things in Japan seem so cool , advanced and convenient. But to me not in a bad way more like a way that encourages a better life style. I have a passion to try to stay mentally , physically and spiritually healthy. And from the outside looking in the Japanese culture seems to really agree with that too. I tend to find myself thinking logically and not really stressing on the little stuff. I’ve never met a Japanese person but from what I can tell it seems like within the culture life seems full. Well…at least most of the time. Because I understand the concern and problem in Japanese culture has been similar too and or over working/work life stress and depression but on the other hand it seems like after work many people tend to go out to eat or socialize. People are competitive care about their jobs , hobbies and family. People just seem more discipline.
Now before I continue. Let’s talk about what a dream careelife looks like to me. 1. My relationship with God is good 2. I am fit and in shape 3. My job is related to or flexible with my forever changing interest and need to adventure and learn 4. I work on more of my own time possibly owning my own brand or business 5. I invest my money in things that allow me to continue to travel or freely indulge in my passions of cars , fitness and life 6. I am motivated noticeably more than I was was in the past and my discipline is on point! 7. When the time is right I find myself finally settling down with a women that is physically attractive and mentally there for me So what can we do? Well I feel like I know but don’t at the same time. I work in an automotive shop making more money than I ever have with the chance to make more (40k annually at 20y old) which to me isn’t terrible but I feel like am I only doing this because it’s better than working at Walmart or am I doing this because I went to school for it when I didn’t really know what I wanted out of life, but to be a successful artist/entrepreneur? When I begin to feel lost in life I tend to day dream about Japan / Tokyo and I think hm Would life be better if I just started over but isn’t that sefish? I have a mom at home who’s blind she needs help my dad runs a business? My brother is 27 but he’s still family… is it selfish to want to leave and start over is this what God wants of me is it against his plans ? I mean he gave us free will and as long as we trust him we’ll be okay right !? I. Don’t. Know. When I lean on him and try to knock my bad habits I find myself distancing myself from almost everyone in my life. I go thru spells of unemployment because I feel like I need to gather myself and be alone make a plan and work on myself. Sometimes I do things like social media and it feels like it’s lined up with God or it doesn’t or my music doesn’t but producing music does, or making videos about travel seems fun making a channel based on finding the meaning of life or how to find your passion seems fun but according to religion it seems like the meaning of life is GOD and your passion should be GOD and all eyes on GOD and you will be okay and that sounds great it sounds okay and fine. But I’ve tried and tried and I’m confused I’m very confused. I need help and I do ask God for help , I pray I talk to older people to pick their brain and I come to a conclusion that feels fake I don’t ever really feel satisfied. I feel like I’m allowing people to create my life. My job selection and school career just felt very “people pleasy “ like oh I’m doing this because it would make my parents proud. But now I want my own life and have been creating it but I’m stuck with the consequences of my past decisions so I feel like I can only go so far. I feel stuck I feel nervous I feel worried about my future I’m worried that I won’t be satisfied And I even try to live as if God with take the wheel and then I snap into reality of my physical world and then start worrying am I going in the right direction is this God or is this me doing bare minimum? Am I fulfilling myself? Is that supposed to matter ? I need help. Please! 🙏🏼

When I think about my life I have no clue where I want it to go but I know somethings I want to do. Am I holding myself back? Are there people in my life who are bringing me down unintentionally? Am I surrounding myself with people and habits that are really just limiting my life experiences. Am I expecting too much out of life?
Well when I think about life and what could make me “realistically” happy I think maybe not stressing so much on where I wanna be. Or maybe even pursuing a dream career. I’ve learned so far that anything you wanna do that makes you money that allows you to live is gonna either A. Be uncomfortable most days or B. Require a good amount of discipline and in most cases both are these are the outcome.
I often day dream about seeing Japan and perhaps even living there. I find myself gravitating towards things that come from Japan for example, my car is Japanese , the game consoles I love and collect are Japanese and i tend to even lean towards Japanese foods , games/ art , shows and music. I feel like Tokyo is full of night life and neon signs , things in Japan seem so cool , advanced and convenient. But to me not in a bad way more like a way that encourages a better life style. I have a passion to try to stay mentally , physically and spiritually healthy. And from the outside looking in the Japanese culture seems to really agree with that too. I tend to find myself thinking logically and not really stressing on the little stuff. I’ve never met a Japanese person but from what I can tell it seems like within the culture life seems full. Well…at least most of the time. Because I understand the concern and problem in Japanese culture has been similar too and or over working/work life stress and depression but on the other hand it seems like after work many people tend to go out to eat or socialize. People are competitive care about their jobs , hobbies and family. People just seem more discipline.
Now before I continue. Let’s talk about what a dream careelife looks like to me. 1. My relationship with God is good 2. I am fit and in shape 3. My job is related to or flexible with my forever changing interest and need to adventure and learn 4. I work on more of my own time possibly owning my own brand or business 5. I invest my money in things that allow me to continue to travel or freely indulge in my passions of cars , fitness and life 6. I am motivated noticeably more than I was was in the past and my discipline is on point! 7. When the time is right I find myself finally settling down with a women that is physically attractive and mentally there for me So what can we do? Well I feel like I know but don’t at the same time. I work in an automotive shop making more money than I ever have with the chance to make more (40k annually at 20y old) which to me isn’t terrible but I feel like am I only doing this because it’s better than working at Walmart or am I doing this because I went to school for it when I didn’t really know what I wanted out of life, but to be a successful artist/entrepreneur? When I begin to feel lost in life I tend to day dream about Japan / Tokyo and I think hm Would life be better if I just started over but isn’t that sefish? I have a mom at home who’s blind she needs help my dad runs a business? My brother is 27 but he’s still family… is it selfish to want to leave and start over is this what God wants of me is it against his plans ? I mean he gave us free will and as long as we trust him we’ll be okay right !? I. Don’t. Know. When I lean on him and try to knock my bad habits I find myself distancing myself from almost everyone in my life. I go thru spells of unemployment because I feel like I need to gather myself and be alone make a plan and work on myself. Sometimes I do things like social media and it feels like it’s lined up with God or it doesn’t or my music doesn’t but producing music does, or making videos about travel seems fun making a channel based on finding the meaning of life or how to find your passion seems fun but according to religion it seems like the meaning of life is GOD and your passion should be GOD and all eyes on GOD and you will be okay and that sounds great it sounds okay and fine. But I’ve tried and tried and I’m confused I’m very confused. I need help and I do ask God for help , I pray I talk to older people to pick their brain and I come to a conclusion that feels fake I don’t ever really feel satisfied. I feel like I’m allowing people to create my life. My job selection and school career just felt very “people pleasy “ like oh I’m doing this because it would make my parents proud. But now I want my own life and have been creating it but I’m stuck with the consequences of my past decisions so I feel like I can only go so far. I feel stuck I feel nervous I feel worried about my future I’m worried that I won’t be satisfied And I even try to live as if God with take the wheel and then I snap into reality of my physical world and then start worrying am I going in the right direction is this God or is this me doing bare minimum? Am I fulfilling myself? Is that supposed to matter ? I need help. Please! 🙏🏼

Hello,
First time Reddit poster. Started watching in 1998 and wound down in 2011.
I read/hear a lot about how Shawn Michaels/HHH pulled a last minute swerve for Shawn to win the European Championship over The British Bulldog at the 1997 One Night Only PPV. The detractors say that although Shawn's excuse was that he was doing it for "heat" and to make the title mean something, he didn't really do much with it and treated it as an afterthought joke. The D-X vs Hart Foundation feud happened a little bit before I started tuning in, but over the last 10-15 years, especially with more "shoot" interviews available, books/articles published, etc. it's possible the narrative of what happened at One Night Only is a mischaracterization of Shawn Michaels.
What We Know: In 1997, The British Bulldog aka Davey Boy Smith -- a member of the heel stable, The Hart Foundation -- is the European Champion and is always expected to "go over" whenever the WWE travels to Europe. 9/20/97 is the One Night Only PPV, in Birmingham, England.
What has been said by a few sources: Up till the day of the show, Davey was under the assumption that he was not going to lose the title to Shawn Michaels, since England is obviously within Europe. What made this event extra special is that there had been a plan for him to be escorted to the ring by his sister who was sadly stricken with a terminal illness. There would've then been cheers all around for this valiant hero and the 11,000 fans would then be sent home happy with a feel-good story.
Here is where things get murky: The same sources state that Shawn and HHH decided to pull a fast one on Vince McMahon an hour or so before it was show time. The two demanded that Shawn beat Davey for the European Championship. Has Shawn or HHH ever independantly admitted that it was in that short of a turnaround and that the two went behind Davey's back? Even Jim Ross says that Davey was with Shawn and HHH when the idea to change the finish was pitched and blames Davey for not "protecting himself." That means Davey agreed and was not forced. As mentioned earlier, the excuse that has been used is that Shawn felt that it would be a great way to draw "heat" since there was very much a pro-Davey crowd watching and so the return match in the Spring of 1998 (when they headed back to not just the UK, but this time in Manchester which was The Bulldog's billed hometown) would have a massive redemption arc which would be that much greater for the fans. In the meantime, Shawn would have good matches and elevate the European Championship, something, quite frankly, he was better at than Davey. It ties into the reasoning that has been given in that Shawn (arguably being at the peak of his ability), would be able to make that title mean something (like what he did for the Intercontinental Championship).
However, because of the backstage Kliq stories which continue to come out, the manner in which Shawn later dropped the European Championship, and the fact that there really was no return match for Shawn vs. Davey since both were out of the WWE by then, many fans have pointed to this PPV as an "obvious" example of the weight Shawn and HHH carried backstage. In recent shoot interviews, Bret Hart (who would leave the WWF six weeks later in spectacular fashion) has said this match was simply a way to make Davey and the rest of the Harts look foolish.
What you can't deny is the heat in the arena, after the match, was white-hot.
Okay with that background established, let's look to see why I feel that what happened at the One Night Only PPV is a mischaracterization of Shawn Michaels:

• The Hart narrative.
  • It's hard to put a lot of stock into "he said, she said," but in case you want to take it as gospel...in Page 256 of Shawn's book (yeah, yeah, I know) Heartbreak & Triumph, he details that Davey was on board with the plans -- with no mentions of if it was pitched an hour before or days earlier. If fans are ready to believe Bret, why can't they leave wiggle room for Shawn?
    • While Shawn certainly has excuses (and apologized) for his sophomoric hijinx and makes himself sound like a creative genius, Bret has consistently come off as two things: 1) Making himself look heroic 2) Making himself look like he's had a perpetual gloomy cloud over him at every stage of life. His book, My Real Life in the Cartoon World of Wrestling, briefly mentions this match and some nonsense of how he "saw the light die in Davey's eyes that day, darkness seeping into a heart that was giving out." Statements like that (and ones he continues to say) are dangerous, essentially telling fans that Shawn is partly responsible for the death of Davey Boy, stemming from this match. Huge mischaracterization.
  • Bret points to how Davey told everyone he expected to win, promised everyone that he was going to win the match for his English fans and especially his sister...as proof that Shawn swerved plans at the last minute just to needle the Harts ("It was designed to make us all look stupid." -- Inside The Ropes ).
    • What? There's literally thousands of instances where wrestlers lose in their hometown and use real life to push stories. And finishes change all the time. The new storyline made long term sense and Vince/Creative agreed. It could have been great, but no one expected Bulldog to quit six weeks later because of the Screwjob. No one expected Shawn's back injury to happen a couple months after that.
  • Diana Hart Smith (Davey's wife and Bret/Owen's sister) in 2012 said, regarding the changed finish, you "have to do what you're told." However, she is not credible, by Bret's own words, stemming from his reaction to a largely fictional biography on the Hart Family, written by Diana (Under the Mat).
• Davey was still booked to look strong, despite losing.
  • The RAW before the event, Davey had his knee "injured" from chair shots by HBK/HHH. And yet Davey still didn't "quit" when locked into the Figure Four at the PPV (even with HBK getting help from all the members of D-X). The match was stopped, akin to Stone Cold vs Bret Hart at WrestleMania 13. Diana Hart Smith even got involved in the post match antics with Chyna.
  • I don't believe, for a moment, the Hart family -- especially Bret -- didn't fully agree to how it all precisely happened especially when you're getting non-wrestlers involved inside the ring. If they wanted to change it, they could've.
    • There's been no mention from Bret about going to bat for Davey and them getting rejected.
• Bret Hart and the Hart Foundation still had a lot of backstage influence.
  • This wasn't Savio Vega or Dean Douglas eating an unnecessary pin. There is an established history of the Harts wanting to do things their way. Bret was World Champion and by far the highest paid wrestler on the roster so although Shawn had stroke, Bret certainly did too. And Davey had been with the company and had success far longer than Shawn (though in interrupted stages). DQ/Countout results are a common occurrence for situations where two powerful wrestlers/factions don't want to "job" to one another. In fact, the 10/6/97 RAW had Bret changing a finish where he was supposed to eat a pin from HHH (via HBK interference) into a Countout.
  • Yes, certainly, maturity was something Shawn and HHH lacked but you have to remember that unlike the Harts, they were not nepo-babies raised in the industry. And they were much younger (Shawn is 8 years younger than Bret whereas HHH is 12 years younger). Even Davey could be considered a nepo-baby since Dynamite Kid was his first cousin and he debuted in the WWF largely because Stu Hart cut a deal to include his son-in-law.
• Bret's possible thought process
  • My opinion (yes, speculation) is that Bret knew he was out the door and so he didn't care too much about what happened to Davey's European Championship since he had his own issues he was dealing with, regarding WCW contracts, Wrestling with Shadows, and dropping the World Championship. He mentioned how stressful all that was. What is fact though is that Davey wasn't someone Bret held in high regard. From talking about him not being able to construct matches, to being under the influence, to personal life issues, to even forcing Davey to cut his long braided hair because according to Davey's family, Bret said it was starting to look too much like his (even though it wasn't the same type nor color).
  • I also feel that with everything that happened between that period, and to Brian Pillman, Owen, and Davey dying very young, it understandably left an awful taste in their mouths. It all gets magnified a bit. Then add that Bret's time with WCW wasn't really anything extraordinary (for his standard), and his constant reminding us of how Goldberg ended his career makes me believe that there still is a grudge with HBK/HHH which will never truly go away. And unlike Shawn who seemingly has moved on, Bret hasn't. Which is why he keeps establishing the narrative that the Hart Foundation was always in the right and the D-X was always in the wrong.
• Finances
  • 1997, the WWF was in peril. House shows and merchandise were selling, but PPVs were not. Having a swerve on a PPV makes the next one "must see TV" (again, this was a world before streaming). In this instance, the next time they came to England. Nitro was still beating RAW.
• Storyline
  • Shawn had only recently turned heel (after SummerSlam, a month earlier). The plan was established from back then to have a heel Shawn face Austin at WrestleMania XIV. This was an era where there really was only one major show per week (and some on tape delay) and most fans did not have internet access at home, so establishing quick, obvious heat was important. What better way than to "screw" Davey in front of his fans and family? Beating Davey in the USA wasn't going to do it because, remember, Davey was a heel in the USA. 9/29/97 (two days later) Davey faced Vader in New York. Vader was about to beat him clean and then the Harts stormed in and used weapons on Vader, resulting in a DQ.
    • If not beat Davey, a former Intercontinental Champion, then who? The talent roster was quite thin and a memorable Undertaker program was upcoming. Also, Shawn had not had a singles belt since Feb 1997. Nevertheless, the ratings jumped towards the end of 1997.
• Defending the European Championship
  • How many of you remember Davey ever defending the European Championship on RAW or a PPV? From the moment he won it on 2/26/97, over the next seven months, he defended it only four times on non-house shows. Even if you include house shows, the vast majority of the defenses were in the USA so it was hardly a Europe-only belt. All the four RAW or PPV matches ended in DQ/Countout type finishes. I'll be honest, I haven't watched every single one of those matches but I do see that he beat HHH via pinfall, as one of his first defenses on 2/28/97. Davey regained the belt on 10/26/99 after he came back, but lost it six weeks later on 12/12/99 as he started spiraling, defending it only a handful of times on TV.
  • Shawn, unlike Davey, really could make that belt mean something so I do believe the Manchester return match in the Spring of 1998, after he dropped the World title to Austin, would've been big (not unlike Hart vs Bulldog at SummerSlam 1992). Even his most ardent haters will admit to HBK's talent. Yes, he dropped it to HHH in a comedic fashion on 12/11/97 but what was the alternative? With Bret leaving/gone and Shawn in a program with The Undertaker (who didn't need the European Championship since he was about to face Kane), as a World Champion (earlier than he thought he was going to be -- Screwjob plans were hatched later than Sept) him randomly losing the European title would've made him look bad even if it was lost in an underhanded fashion. Losing it to Owen could've been a possibility but Owen would win the Intercontinental Championship on 10/5/97 so that wouldn't really make sense neither. That said, the two of them faced one another on 10/20/97 in a title for title clash (No Contest). Owen later beat HHH for the European title on 2/26/98 (and then lost it back) and the two later had a WrestleMania XIV match for it. So dropping it to HHH made sense. Look at the roster back then and tell me who an alternative could have been?
  • Shawn gets a lot of heat for not defending the European title as often as some feel he should have. But as of 9/20/97, the WWE didn't know what Bret was going to do. Shawn infamously won the World Championship on 11/9/97. I'm not going to rehash the backstage Montreal play-by-play but I firmly believe that if Bret stayed with the WWE for a bit longer, Shawn would have had more time to have matches for the European title. The problem is everything happened so quickly. Unlike Davey, it's not like Shawn spent seven months as European Champion and defended it only four times on TV. Shawn did defend it three times on TV but in 2 1/2 months including an epic with Shamrock on RAW on 11/3/97, before he won the World title from Bret. Between a program with The Undertaker, leading D-X, and becoming World Champion sooner than he expected, there was no time (or really justification) to defend the European title even more often, when he had a program with Austin coming (in arguably the biggest title change in history).

TL:DR Even if (big, if) the finish was changed an hour before showtime, Davey agreed to the finish (with what I believe is with the Hart family on board -- but seeing how it all played out over the next few months and years left a bad taste and narrative change). Shawn winning the European Championship was what was best for business. Therefore Shawn flexing his backstage power "just because" or "only to hate on the Harts" makes zero sense.

Hii! I'm doing a bloxburg rp ( my house ) and the roles are:
Mum ( AKA me,35yrs,named Sophie but Soph for short )
Dad( maybe,aged 37,named Alex or any other boys names )
1 teen ( called Olivia but Liv for short, 16yrs)
2 kids ( can be boy and girl, aged 11,named Alison or Ali for short and Jake )
1 baby or toddler ( boy or girl idm, if boy then namd either Hudson,Teddy,Max,Leo or Louis , 1yr , can't walk and can kind of talk ) If girl then named: Riley,Milley or Carly ( again, 1yr,can't walk but can kind of talk )
Sophie-Loves going to the gym,loves to be fun but still strict,single (if no one wants to be dad but other wise married),kind
Alex-Works a lot in the evenings,brunet,always takes the kids to the beach on Saterdays,very kind
Liv- Brunet,loves hanging out with friends and sneaks out sometimes,addicted to ticktock,eldest sibling,doing her GCSE's
Alison-Blonde,kind,loves to go to ballet and swimming,loves playing with friends and going on the trampoline,twins with Jake but is the elder twin
Jake-Brunet,kind,loves football,loves gaming with his friends,twins with Alison but is the younger twin
If you would like to be the baby or toddler pls comment as well as with all of the other characters and if I should do a post doing the other characters for example friends or family ext and type your roblox user name and your display name if you have one,my roblox user name is Limebelle20 and my display name is IH3ARTGLOSSY
*REMEMBER: Please do not get up set if you don't get in the rp there is many more characters i need for my rp that you can maybe have a chance to be!*

When I think about my life I have no clue where I want it to go but I know somethings I want to do. Am I holding myself back? Are there people in my life who are bringing me down unintentionally? Am I surrounding myself with people and habits that are really just limiting my life experiences. Am I expecting too much out of life?
Well when I think about life and what could make me “realistically” happy I think maybe not stressing so much on where I wanna be. Or maybe even pursuing a dream career. I’ve learned so far that anything you wanna do that makes you money that allows you to live is gonna either A. Be uncomfortable most days or B. Require a good amount of discipline and in most cases both are these are the outcome.
I often day dream about seeing Japan and perhaps even living there. I find myself gravitating towards things that come from Japan for example, my car is Japanese , the game consoles I love and collect are Japanese and i tend to even lean towards Japanese foods , games/ art , shows and music. I feel like Tokyo is full of night life and neon signs , things in Japan seem so cool , advanced and convenient. But to me not in a bad way more like a way that encourages a better life style. I have a passion to try to stay mentally , physically and spiritually healthy. And from the outside looking in the Japanese culture seems to really agree with that too. I tend to find myself thinking logically and not really stressing on the little stuff. I’ve never met a Japanese person but from what I can tell it seems like within the culture life seems full. Well…at least most of the time. Because I understand the concern and problem in Japanese culture has been similar too and or over working/work life stress and depression but on the other hand it seems like after work many people tend to go out to eat or socialize. People are competitive care about their jobs , hobbies and family. People just seem more discipline.
Now before I continue. Let’s talk about what a dream careelife looks like to me. 1. My relationship with God is good 2. I am fit and in shape 3. My job is related to or flexible with my forever changing interest and need to adventure and learn 4. I work on more of my own time possibly owning my own brand or business 5. I invest my money in things that allow me to continue to travel or freely indulge in my passions of cars , fitness and life 6. I am motivated noticeably more than I was was in the past and my discipline is on point! 7. When the time is right I find myself finally settling down with a women that is physically attractive and mentally there for me So what can we do? Well I feel like I know but don’t at the same time. I work in an automotive shop making more money than I ever have with the chance to make more (40k annually at 20y old) which to me isn’t terrible but I feel like am I only doing this because it’s better than working at Walmart or am I doing this because I went to school for it when I didn’t really know what I wanted out of life, but to be a successful artist/entrepreneur? When I begin to feel lost in life I tend to day dream about Japan / Tokyo and I think hm Would life be better if I just started over but isn’t that sefish? I have a mom at home who’s blind she needs help my dad runs a business? My brother is 27 but he’s still family… is it selfish to want to leave and start over is this what God wants of me is it against his plans ? I mean he gave us free will and as long as we trust him we’ll be okay right !? I. Don’t. Know. When I lean on him and try to knock my bad habits I find myself distancing myself from almost everyone in my life. I go thru spells of unemployment because I feel like I need to gather myself and be alone make a plan and work on myself. Sometimes I do things like social media and it feels like it’s lined up with God or it doesn’t or my music doesn’t but producing music does, or making videos about travel seems fun making a channel based on finding the meaning of life or how to find your passion seems fun but according to religion it seems like the meaning of life is GOD and your passion should be GOD and all eyes on GOD and you will be okay and that sounds great it sounds okay and fine. But I’ve tried and tried and I’m confused I’m very confused. I need help and I do ask God for help , I pray I talk to older people to pick their brain and I come to a conclusion that feels fake I don’t ever really feel satisfied. I feel like I’m allowing people to create my life. My job selection and school career just felt very “people pleasy “ like oh I’m doing this because it would make my parents proud. But now I want my own life and have been creating it but I’m stuck with the consequences of my past decisions so I feel like I can only go so far. I feel stuck I feel nervous I feel worried about my future I’m worried that I won’t be satisfied And I even try to live as if God with take the wheel and then I snap into reality of my physical world and then start worrying am I going in the right direction is this God or is this me doing bare minimum? Am I fulfilling myself? Is that supposed to matter ? I need help. Please! 🙏🏼

A couple of years I read the book Adult Children of Emotionally Unavailable Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson. It was very insightful and helped me set boundaries with my family. I realized that when it comes to my mother I can be around her but only when there are others around (preferably in public). My mother is very good at playing a "role" when at work or in public (roles are mentioned in the book) but when she is home she is triggered and yells and loses her crap basically and has meltdowns. As a child every small thing felt like a big deal because she would react as such so I have lived most of my life on edge and being hypervigilant and also made to believe that I am solely responsible for everything. My grandfather (mother's father) is even worse.
I grew up thinking *I* was the problem. It was always my fault. I did something wrong. I upset them. Reading this book made me feel seen and validated on a very deep level. I have done a ton of self work and self care (always a work in progress) and limiting my contact with the toxic people in my life has helped tremendously.
For example, last year after a break up I needed to move back in with familiy but refused to live with my mom (even though she offered and had a garage apartment). I told my therapist about that and she told me to always remember my boundaries that I set. Mom was mad I didn't move in with her, "it's pretty bad you'd rather live with your stepfather over your own mother" and my therapist basically pointed out how that is her trying to control me and make me feel guilty. Futher evidence for what kind of relationship we have.
Anyways, before I keep rambling, I really recommend this book. Have any of your read this book? What are some good books you've read on the subject?
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Sorry for the length but there’s a lot of background to this one. We have been friends since high school. Always maintained the same type of friendship even though he moved away for school and has not moved back ‘home’ since. Everything has always been great between us and our long distance friendship. Until one yr I went to visit him and his girlfriend of 10 yrs. I showed up and was told his other best friend was coming as well when he arrived home from work the next day. I didn’t think much of this because I had met multiple friends of his and never had an issue. The next morning his gf went to work. I hung out at their apartment waiting on his arrival. When he showed up, his work ‘friend’ was with him, wearing part of his uniform flirting with him while walking into his apartment that he shared with his long term girlfriend. He’s always had an overly friendly and welcoming personality so I tried to not think much of it. As the weekend went on I saw how she demanded his attention and if she wasn’t getting it, all of a sudden had ‘health issues’ and he would stay be her asking what he could do trying to comfort her halting any further activities. If he was with his gf, and I was the only one to to talk to (for example they went inside a grocery store or bed together) she would sit there and complain about how they were always fighting and how annoying and tiring it was. I was utterly confused and I would ask what fight? You mean them conversating about plans?! I thought she was insane and I couldn’t fathom how he didn’t see it and allowed her to behave this way. The weekend ended, we all went our separate ways. Just for me to come back 9 months later to find out, she moved from the top of the US, to the bottom, to be in the same city as him. On this trip, the same behaviors continued. My friend allowed it. Even with it being a weekend to celebrate HIS GIRLFRIENDS BIRTHDAY, he managed to prioritize his ‘friend’. I was appalled and shocked. I didn’t recognize him as my best friend anymore. He’s always been goofy and welcoming and was always able to manage friendships and people being around without prioritizing one person. His gf and him always made sure to be inclusive and never make anyone feel like the third wheel, yet when this ‘friend’ was around, it was uncomfortable for anyone who knew him before her. On this trip she confronted me, stating that she gets the feeling that I don’t like her. I laughed and said well yeah, that’s because I don’t. I continued to explain that everyone compares her to me as ‘his best friend’ which I felt insulted by because I was his best friend. If he’s happy, I’m happy. I love and adore his gf. I had always supported his relationship. Because he chose it and continues to choose it and they had been building a life together. I was happy with his success in his career and him living a life that he genuinely enjoyed. But she seemed to not support his relationship and from my perspective, seemed to be planting issues and negative thoughts of his relationship. I never heard her speak positive about it. She knew she was driving a wedge and instead of backing off and letting them sort it out, she dug in deeper. She loved the control she had and refused to stop. I told her I couldn’t remotely respect anyone like that. She said that he started the flirting, he admitted to liking the attention and it was his fault. She said she would stop it and be better. Fast forward a few months, I came back to visit. Same type of behavior. At this point I’m overly annoyed. I’m taking time off of work, and money to travel just to go and get put on a back burner for a ‘friend’ who lives in the same city, works with (and changes her work schedule to spend more time with him). I would think that since I’m a 9 hr drive away, maybe I’d be just equal to the friends that live there and you see all of the time? No. She was treated and accommodated for more again. At this point, I’ve decided I’m done wasting my time and money to travel to see him. Luckily on all of the trips, I got to hang out with his girlfriend who I love and adore. Since it’s not my relationship and I wasn’t in the situations I will not say anything other than, this ‘friend’ caused them serious issues. While all relationships have issues, they always seemed to work them out. This issue persisted and the ‘friend’, from the what I can tell dug in deeper and latched on more the worse it got. I found out the ‘friend’ had done this to another couple but they cut her out and worked on their relationship. Which is what I thought my best friend would do. Instead, he allowed their issues with and without the ‘friend’ destroy their 10+yr relationship. He called me to ask me if I thought his ‘friend’ had anything to do with it. I laid it ALL out there. How I thought she had a huge part in it, their so called friendship was very toxic and how it was even driving a wedge into it our friendship. I told him about every trip how uncomfortable I was I told him about her confronting me and what I told her. I told him best friends aren’t madly in love and want to fuck each other. He said he wasn’t madly in love with her and that he didn’t want to fuck her and that they would never be together. He took what I said and acknowledged that I do not ever want to be around he. Him and his ex girlfriend came to visit me a few times after their break up. Oddly enough when they did, his ‘friend’ felt inclined to call me to complain about it. ‘Why would you let them come together?!’she asked. So I calmly said, well his ex was just going to come but then HE asked to come with. They were both fine with it in fact they still live together and are fine around each other so I’m not sure what the issue is? We got into a deep conversation and she admitted that she viewed what she was doing with him, while in a relationship, was at the very least emotionally cheating. I told her there’s no way she can remotely view herself as a ‘best friend’ if she’s assisting, knowingly helping him emotionally cheat. I told her she should consider getting a lot of space between them and counseling. (Also in some time frame from my last visit to now, less than a yr, she moved into his apartment complex because living in the same city wasn’t close enough) A few months later he was having a ‘milestone’ birthday so there were plans to rent a cabin in his state with his friends. I was told I was invited but had to ‘be nice’ to the ‘friend’ who was also going. I know that everyone except him was dreading the fact she was going. So I decided why should I waste time off, and money, to go to the middle of the woods to be pissed off? I had always been civil with her. Never mean, but him telling me to be nice and her knowing that she caused issues and not stopping, I don’t think I could hold my tongue around her anymore. I didn’t go which I would have killed to go and celebrate my best friend but I couldn’t because I can’t be around her. My best friend and I got in a very big fight about this. My other best friend who went, told me he was glad I didn’t go because nothing had changed and I would have gone off on her and called the bad guy for calling her out on her shitty actions. Still my best friend doesn’t feel comfortable letting me come to visit because he would feel like he had to put one person above the other while I was there (for one weekend a yr) instead he feels it is best that I let him find the time to come visit me… even though coming back home, he has family and other old friends to make time for and visit so typically we get maybe 2-3 hrs together. I think that this is absolutely ridiculous and that he’s prioritizing his ‘friend’ who lives a short walk away from him. So am I the asshole for wanting to end our friendship?

Just a theory, possibly totally unrelated. But there are some new confirmable pieces and connections that I haven’t seen mentioned at all yet. So if I’m wrong at least there is a partially correct timeline here that can be edited to correctness. My last attempt to connect any dots I think. Please feel free to find holes and debunk it and suggest edits.
A 74 year old woman was murdered 1/18/23 and found on 1/21/23 bound, gaged, and SA’d in her ransacked apartment days later. This is on 83rd and The Mark Hotel is on 77th. Half a mile walk through the park away. EP mentioned a big bag that hotel staff was told to dispose of for Drake.
Here is what appears to be a bag in the video EP posted. There was a girl in the frame too.
A NY post article about this murder mentions:
“A young woman — who was entering the building carrying a large bag that appeared to contain clothing - choked back tears when asked if she was related to the victim. ‘It's very, very hard for me and my family. We've already talked to the police and the district attorney. I don't want to talk anymore,’ the woman said, without identifying herself.”
This woman was brutally SA’d. House was ransacked.
“The two suspects loaded up Hernandez’s belongings into a blue rolling Jansport backpack and a green rolling bag and were on CCTV divvying up cash, prosecutors said.”. The day this article is released, Drake is seen leaving The Mark hotel.. He is seen the next day at Lil Yatchy’s listening party in New Jersey.
These were posted August 2023 by EP on his Facebook page. They look like old lady clothes. I found other photos of the victim in this case and they look like what she would wear. They could just be things left behind at the hotel by others ofc.
The murder and robbery on 83rd street was almost certainly a boosting attempt, and by the sounds of the perpetrators counting cash on CCTV as reported by police, it sounds like it was a successful boost. This happens where I live but they typically steal from big chain stores. Ironically it keeps residential crime lower, it’s non-violent, and people would prefer new things anyway, or at least nice things. It’s a pretty common black market thing in cities to the point where I live, even regularly law abiding people will purchase things from boosters with the understanding it was stolen from a store. Iykyk. The victim being an upper east side woman she probably had some nice things, clothing and jewelry in particular as ladies do especially at her age. That’s what this looks like to me. And the jewelry EP posted didn’t look new or like it would have been for a younger girl.
This woman was brutally SA’d.Her home was ransacked. These were posted August 2023 by EP on his Facebook page.. They look like older lady clothes. I found other photos of the victim and they look like what she would wear. But ofc, this could just be things left behind at the hotel by others. Strange though, because these are the only clothes EP ever posted on his Facebook.
It is strange Drake only wanted one thing from a big bag and there was loads of jewelry left behind by him. They said the rest of the stuff in the big bag was trash but because the items were expensive and it’s Drake’s stuff, it was instead put into lost and found.
In my mind I would see it play out like this: a booster brings a bag of goods. Wealthy purchaser pays enough for one item he wants where the booster is like here, take this whole thing (get it off their own hands). And the purchaser only wanted one thing for so the rest, jewelry, clothing, etc. is disposed of.
OR
There was a specific item and something specific about this lady having it. The rest of what was in the bag was just to hide the one item. But I couldn’t find a single piece of info on her outside of crime articles and an obituary with family photos but no text to really know anything more about her. This theory would suit the little bag mentioned that was suppose to have been shipped somewhere.
Either way, Drake & crew take the one thing they need and the rest ends up with hotel staff for disposal, but it was a large bag full of expensive things. It appears EP was instructed to put it in lost and found.
There’s an incident report from Mark security on July 20th. Probably when EP had to protect Drake from protests that Theodore organized.. Or EP had to report an underage. Perhaps Drake was what led to the crackdown or a mandated report, and EP sees it as Drake’s fault he now had to deal with Theo and protect him from protestors, for which he nearly got arrested for doing his job. This was probably the next time he saw Drake since January. EP keeps mentioning 7/27/23. This is the day Theodore the underage drinking protest organizer filed a lawsuit naming EP as part of it.
Officer Viola had a CCRB citation for trying to contain the protest. Officer Viola and EP both got in trouble for protecting Drake that night. EP mentioned that this relationship probably saved him from getting arrested The two probably had probably had to help corroborate eachother’s stories from the protest incident.
EP is so fed up with Drake at this point. [EP cites many examples of why he takes offense to Drake and crew for their treatment of staff. Their hubris.
The man he almost got arrested for protecting and his team are treating EP and his coworkers like shit. He cites cultural reasons as well, echoing Kenny’s “not like us” sentiments.
At some point EP’s is instructed by his director to clean out the lost and found. By August he’s so fed up that he’s going to sell these things and not protect Drake by what might come out if anyone recognizes these items as belonging to that lady from 83rd street. He posts them on Facebook.
Fast forward to now, and Kendrick drops a diss track. At some point, either Akademiks snitched on EP for having the items. or him and Drake both did.
EP has been pushed and pushed. He has to take this treatment and give the friendly enjoy your evening.
“Meet the Grahams” comes out and EP said I understood the assignment. Kenny at some point gets the album art from EP with item’s that appear to have belonged to Drake.
Drake releases “The Heart Part 6” said that he fed the cover art content to Kenny. Why would he lie about that? Why not say wow Kenny you got people going through my trash? Because buying stolen goods is illegal, and if they’re connected to, or even worse you ordered or someone you know is involved in, a murder and horrific SA of an elderly woman… yikes bad optics any which way. But EP, on the other hand, obtained the items after they were disposed of, which is legal even if they were stolen and especially if they were unclaimed after x many days, from my understanding.
EP’s manager finds out about the album cover and questions him about how the items were obtained. But she knew that EP had these items already, as he was instructed by to not throw them in the trash originally and then months later instructed to throw them out. EP implies that policy/practice allows him to claim the items at this point. From what I’ve heard from people who worked at hotels throughout my life is that this is generally true for other hotels as well.
He explains to his boss how the items were obtained. She advises him to get a lawyer which is strange because staff knew these items were in the lost and found and that by law, if they aren’t claimed within a certain amount of time they’re fair game. But if they’re stolen from a murdered woman, yeah you might want to speak to a lawyer because possession of stolen property is illegal even if you didn’t know it was stolen and it also may implicate you in a murder that took place nearby. It doesn’t make sense to me that EP’s boss would advise a lawyer when she knew all of this, unless she knew ALL of that.
CA knew about this, perhaps due to proximity? He sees the bag or hears the conversation about it. He thinks he has to do the right thing and tell the police, or somehow gets assaulted so that he keeps quiet. EP alleges that police were called because someone got assaulted that night.
I’m not sure who this is but It appears to be the same man pictured about a minute later.
EP tweeted
“Those were good men… One was from Texas. He loved cowboy boots, guns, and horses. other was from the Bronx, and well on his way to becoming a "Blue H.E.N.R.Y."
There were two men charged with this murder. One was noted for saying something like “I didn’t do it. Check the scene check dna!” Police claim they have footage from other areas incriminating the men but it hasn’t been made publicly available. If I had anything left in me for this I would figure out if those things EP apply to those men, or if they are connected to Ebony House, if they could have been been patsies.
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When I think about my life I have no clue where I want it to go but I know somethings I want to do. Am I holding myself back? Are there people in my life who are bringing me down unintentionally? Am I surrounding myself with people and habits that are really just limiting my life experiences. Am I expecting too much out of life?
Well when I think about life and what could make me “realistically” happy I think maybe not stressing so much on where I wanna be. Or maybe even pursuing a dream career. I’ve learned so far that anything you wanna do that makes you money that allows you to live is gonna either A. Be uncomfortable most days or B. Require a good amount of discipline and in most cases both are these are the outcome.
I often day dream about seeing Japan and perhaps even living there. I find myself gravitating towards things that come from Japan for example, my car is Japanese , the game consoles I love and collect are Japanese and i tend to even lean towards Japanese foods , games/ art , shows and music. I feel like Tokyo is full of night life and neon signs , things in Japan seem so cool , advanced and convenient. But to me not in a bad way more like a way that encourages a better life style. I have a passion to try to stay mentally , physically and spiritually healthy. And from the outside looking in the Japanese culture seems to really agree with that too. I tend to find myself thinking logically and not really stressing on the little stuff. I’ve never met a Japanese person but from what I can tell it seems like within the culture life seems full. Well…at least most of the time. Because I understand the concern and problem in Japanese culture has been similar too and or over working/work life stress and depression but on the other hand it seems like after work many people tend to go out to eat or socialize. People are competitive care about their jobs , hobbies and family. People just seem more discipline.
Now before I continue. Let’s talk about what a dream careelife looks like to me. 1. My relationship with God is good 2. I am fit and in shape 3. My job is related to or flexible with my forever changing interest and need to adventure and learn 4. I work on more of my own time possibly owning my own brand or business 5. I invest my money in things that allow me to continue to travel or freely indulge in my passions of cars , fitness and life 6. I am motivated noticeably more than I was was in the past and my discipline is on point! 7. When the time is right I find myself finally settling down with a women that is physically attractive and mentally there for me So what can we do? Well I feel like I know but don’t at the same time. I work in an automotive shop making more money than I ever have with the chance to make more (40k annually at 20y old) which to me isn’t terrible but I feel like am I only doing this because it’s better than working at Walmart or am I doing this because I went to school for it when I didn’t really know what I wanted out of life, but to be a successful artist/entrepreneur? When I begin to feel lost in life I tend to day dream about Japan / Tokyo and I think hm Would life be better if I just started over but isn’t that sefish? I have a mom at home who’s blind she needs help my dad runs a business? My brother is 27 but he’s still family… is it selfish to want to leave and start over is this what God wants of me is it against his plans ? I mean he gave us free will and as long as we trust him we’ll be okay right !? I. Don’t. Know. When I lean on him and try to knock my bad habits I find myself distancing myself from almost everyone in my life. I go thru spells of unemployment because I feel like I need to gather myself and be alone make a plan and work on myself. Sometimes I do things like social media and it feels like it’s lined up with God or it doesn’t or my music doesn’t but producing music does, or making videos about travel seems fun making a channel based on finding the meaning of life or how to find your passion seems fun but according to religion it seems like the meaning of life is GOD and your passion should be GOD and all eyes on GOD and you will be okay and that sounds great it sounds okay and fine. But I’ve tried and tried and I’m confused I’m very confused. I need help and I do ask God for help , I pray I talk to older people to pick their brain and I come to a conclusion that feels fake I don’t ever really feel satisfied. I feel like I’m allowing people to create my life. My job selection and school career just felt very “people pleasy “ like oh I’m doing this because it would make my parents proud. But now I want my own life and have been creating it but I’m stuck with the consequences of my past decisions so I feel like I can only go so far. I feel stuck I feel nervous I feel worried about my future I’m worried that I won’t be satisfied And I even try to live as if God with take the wheel and then I snap into reality of my physical world and then start worrying am I going in the right direction is this God or is this me doing bare minimum? Am I fulfilling myself? Is that supposed to matter ? I need help. Please! 🙏🏼

Hey all, just looking for some motivation, support, and maybe clarity haha. The background story is that my parents could not agree on a name for me. They ended up putting both of their choices in my name- one is my first name and one is my middle name- and calling me by the name they prefer, from birth. What this means is that one parent from the get-go has called me “Sarah” and one has called me “Beth” (not my real names). They then proceeded to get divorced. What this has meant for me is that I virtually grew up being one name at my mom’s house and one name at my dad’s house. The name my mom calls me “Sarah” has been what I’ve largely (like 95% of people in my life) been called. “Beth” has only showed up in a small subset of my life. Nonetheless, being called two names in my formative years by parents who expected different things from me did leave me with a bit of a name crisis. Maybe even an identity crisis…Am I Beth or am I Sarah? WTF?
The name I go by most often is extremely common. As an example I recently went to a women’s book club of 14 ladies and was the FOURTH person by this name. I also went to a different social event (also all women) and in a group of 10 I was the THIRD person by that name. I’ve been running into other “Sarah’s” my whole life and it has always annoyed me. I’ve always entertained the idea of going by my less common middle name.
I tried when I interviewed for graduate school to go by my middle name but I kept on messing up my introduction- I was so used to saying my other name- and I ended up jumping ship out of embarrassment and fear of how much effort it would take. Now I’m in my early 30’s and just took the plunge again. I’m going by my middle name in some social groups and by some of my family members. It’s only been a few months.
I’m running into significant anxiety about it all. I’m ruminating over whether people think I’m going through some big identity crisis (I’m still myself and I don’t want people to THINK that I am in crisis haha). And, I’ve run into something I didn’t expect: my middle name doesn’t feel super natural to go by from people that aren’t my dad! What? Hearing it come out of my husbands mouth just sounds…weird. Introducing myself has become easier the last few weeks but I feel a sense of imposter syndrome. The name doesn’t fully feel mine, even though I’ve gone by it my whole life.
Most of my friends I’ve told have taken to calling me by my middle name easily and I have felt some support. I asked some people for their opinion early on without much feedback other than “if it’s what you want, then cool” or just silence. And now, I’m wishing that people would have been honest with me early on when I was fishing around for feedback, because recently when discussing all this with someone close to me I started to feel like I don’t have the support I need to do this. I was told that I don’t really “feel” like a “Beth” to them. And it also came out that “yeah, people are probably thinking you’re having an identity crisis”. Naturally I’m second guessing it all! Im afraid of what people are thinking. Should I do my thing without fear of judgement? Ideally, yes. But it’s been tough on this one, especially since I’m feeling a little disconnected from my middle name as well. Is this just a rough patch? My plan at the moment is to stick it through for a few months more and then decide if I want to keep going or revert back to my first name.
In the meantime I’d love some insight from others, and honest thoughts about adult name changes. Maybe all the judgements I’m fearing are mostly in my head, and maybe I’ll get used to my middle name?

So I’m getting married in a few months inshallah and we had a few talks about how we see us doing day to day. She is working part time as a nurse during the day and I work full time from home. She says she is exhausted after work so all she wanna do is relax. I said thats fine to want to relax for an hour or two after work but she has to work on getting food ready, I can always help if needed. For example, I would want to go to the gym after work and I want her to prepare something. Let’s say she considers herself a bit of a princess because she comes from a family where her father is the cook most of the time and her mother is always tired and mostly does cleaning and hates cooking.
So I’m kinda worried she will get into this bad habit of not wanting to learn and always expect me to cook, Thats not how I see us doing because I feel like a woman needs to learn how to cook. I lived alone for a few years so I clearly know how to do everything on my own but I’m scared she will get into this habit of being lazy and doing nothing that would lead to divorce for sure.
I barely make more than her on a hourly rate so she makes a pretty good salary. She expect me to pay for most of the things like rent etc which is fine but I also expect her to do almost all the cooking and cleaning etc. Is this a fair arrangement? How do you guys deal with finances and home tasks?