1. Carlin and Evan pretended they were on vacation alone again this year but really they were with their new favorites. Sorry PopPop and Ninni, you’ve been replaced by the new Cult Church Pastor and his family. Proving that they are serious about this influencer grift, the Stew Crew met up with 4 other Trad wife Family Vloggers and Carlin showed that she can be like all the TikTok girlies and eat crab legs, too! She swung by a Chick-fil-a on the way home to wash the taste out of her mouth. It was a week of the standard beach pics, kids in bikinis and speedos while the adults wore modest swimsuits, ice cream, family fit checks and Evan invading all of Mexico Beach’s privacy with his drone. In a clear case of one up man ship, Carlin forced her entire family to wake up at 3:40am, dress up and go to the beach for a sunrise photo shoot. Pure torture and proof that this was not a vacation, but a work trip. These poor babies never get a break. Once they made it home it was business as usual with Layla in a crop top selling bracelets. Evan popped in with a 2 second proof of life of the dog. Izzy probably enjoyed a week without a camera and hearing “are you excited? Isn’t that exciting? Say it again… look over here”…sigh…
   
2. Katie was obviously miserable all week at the Jersey Shore with travis’ family bc she was relatively quiet and there was no new vlog from the Clark family this week. She pushed a few links, made a reel featuring her baby doing things all babies do and called her the sweetest one year old EVER. Of course we know how important being SWEET is in this crowd. She also bought some glass beads down the shore and used those to show us all what color eyes they have… because that’s riveting content also. By the way… Travis Clark? Not on tour.
   
3. The Bates Family beauty queen Josie Balka spent the majority of the week in her bathroom filming hair and makeup tutorials. She used creative wording to make people believe she isn’t wearing extensions, but she can’t hide the fact that the pool noodle isn’t holding her curl all day. Someone took to the comments to rat out the fact that come July, Mrs Balka will no longer be available for wedding makeup. Josie continues to push her workout content and this week did CrossFit with her pool noodle in and her 3 kids roaming around a garage. Josie ditched the Memorial Day cookout at the big house to hang out with the Balkas. Kelton is turning up the heat on his chef career and made Tuscan salmon and roasted chickens this week. His cooking videos feature overhead shots and close ups… Zach could never. Josie pushed links while showcasing the girls in their new crocs. She is also selling a hair supplement that works out to cost $2.30 per pill. They wrapped up the week at Kelton’s flag football game. Josie agreed to attend and feature it on her IG without the pool noodle in her hair.
   
4. Summer is happening full throttle at the Webster’s down in Florida…& that means… coffee, cleaning out the school room and working out in the gym. The excitement can hardly be contained. Alyssa finally scored a partnership this week… it’s for a Wallie phone case and hopefully she sold enough to afford the next trip to Costco. Maci was Alyssa’s target this week and she was forced several times to sing a song while her mom filmed her and said “LOUDER, LOUDER”… Maci looked terrified and managed to whimper out the ABC’s and that old cult classic “The Lord’s Army”. Alyssa is back to filtering her children’s faces off and poor baby Rhett looks like his is melting off while she runs behind him screaming “isn’t he the funniest? Isn’t he the cutest? I can’t stand it!!” Yea… neither can we. Proving that she isn’t estranged from her entire family, Jackson came over and Alyssa pretended that he was begging her to cut his hair. She told us how she grew up poor and was forced to give haircuts even though she hated it and wasn’t very good at it. Jackson played along to give his sister some content. In return he sharpened her knives bc that’s yet another thing her goofy husband cannot do. John doesn’t have time anyway bc he is running away to a softball game. Alone. Again. In a last ditch attempt to bring Alyssa back into the fold, Kelly instructed everyone to go comment on her reel featuring Rhett…Carlin, Lydia, Whit and Ellie followed orders. Later Alyssa decided to put all of the children’s books on the very highest shelf where the only way to reach them is with a step ladder. Lurch watched. She also had to have Allie tell her where Lexie was because apparently she had no clue. She showed the depressing, colorless school room filled with CD’s and by 8pm filmed herself with dead eyes saying she needed her kids to go to bed. The unhappiness is just oozing out.
   
5. Whitney and Zach spent the week at Folly and in Charleston. They ate at Loggerheads Bar and TBonz Grill &Chill and I really feel like Zach may have had a beer and Whitney sipped a White Claw. Whitney wore her bikini and crop tops and Zach went shirtless and wore shorts and they are dangerously close to seeming normal. They insisted on using some Instagram crap sunscreen and poor Kacie got a bad sunburn. They played around with the TikTok trend of jumping from one place to another and heavily featured all of their kids all week in bathing suits. Over in the Bates Kitchen this week Zach made the exotic dish known as Stuffed Mushrooms. He explained how he grew up eating a severely limited menu and on his honeymoon in Hawaii they ate Subway and KFC. He held his dish up for the camera this week and used a clear bowl but that’s as good as it’s gonna get bc apparently his camera just cannot move. The recipe featured 6 different chunks of cheese and some dried Great Value seasonings and Zach told us he is taking knife lessons because he doesn’t have a clue what he is doing. Yet he still believes he is good enough to have a cooking channel.
   
6. In his continuing trend of telling too much and showing too much Trace Bates filmed a Memorial Day cookout at the Big House and showed all the nooks and crannies and mercy that place is a hot mess. Crap is piled in every corner, on every shelf, that huge old sectional is spotted and stained and has grease spots from heads and all the kitchen cabinets are just left wide open. Kelly Joe is piled up on the couch and there seems to be an old sheet hanging in a window. Whew! Lydia’s family joined in for the cookout and they are just obsessed with pickle ball. They spent the week at the beach with the Romeike’s and Ryker was miserable on the flight and just about cut their tail. Lydia had PTSD thinking about the flight home. Lydia and Trace later dress Ryker like Larry from 3’s Company in a baby leisure suit. He would have fit right in down at the Regal Beagle. Their beach photo trip featured Trace in his jeans rolled up like capris. When they got back home they tried to sell us a camera that fits up your nose and in your ear… watching Trace Bates dig around in his ear is just a bridge too far for me. Big news… Lydia gets to go on a girls trip soon… and she gets to take the baby with her. That is the exact opposite of a girls trip, but what’s she supposed to do… leave the kid with Trace??
   
7. Michael and Brandon are back to arts and crafts this week. Brandon checked out JebJud from the big house so he would have an excuse to color and forced him to film trying to draw a badger. What they drew did not, in fact, look anything like a badger… it was a grey and black blob. Brandon said this is strictly because badgers don’t live in Tennessee. Well Brandon, neither do whales and you drew those several times.
   
8. Erin Bates is slowly slipping back onto social media but because Chad said she had to be purposeful she is steadily cramming weird old yard axe preachers down her viewers throats. We first heard a very pointed message from some old dude who believes mothers would grab trinkets and leave their children behind in a house fire. Later she shared a reel featuring her dad preaching, but she was just warming up. She decided to sit down ole Gil and have him give his testimony on her YouTube. Testimony is apparently fundie for “lie and rewrite history” bc Gil said when he was 15 he skipped school to go drink beer with his buddies but just before taking a sip of the devil’s elixir he stumbled upon a Bible and spent the rest of the day looking up Bible words in the dictionary while those other boys drank Budweiser and looked at girlie magazines. Testimony also is fundie for “fairy tale”. Shut up Gil. Later Erin attended Bible Baptist and showed us little Carson fervently taking notes. She is pushing her cardboard cards in a special Father’s Day box that includes an amazing free gift… a Bic Pen!!! Hurry and order now. She told us she and Tori are living their dream and wrapped up the week with a Rocky Top Recap that quietly left out Carlin. Such a Christian thing to do…
   
9. Tiffy Bates is 33 weeks pregnant and went as Lawson’s date to the Hermitage for an AHA fundraiser. This former actress is now just Mrs. Lawson Bates as he took top billing. Their vlogs were both old and recycled and one featured footage from last year’s Medicorp trip to Turkey where they let them package trail mix to stay out of the way of the real work being done there. If you ever wonder who the people are that buy BSB dresses… they are the same ones who have sent Lawson&Tiffy TONS OF BABY GIFTS. Sickening to see when there are SO many mothers who struggle and need help. Lawson said growing up his dad kept the cars with no gas in them and then whichever kid got in to drive would have to use their money to pay for gas. Man Gil is a real piece of work! Lawson made Tiffy do a fit check and called her Pookie. Why do they refer to each other as “boys” and “girls” and why are they constantly talking to the camera asking their viewers asinine questions about things that won’t matter by the time they get the answers?? Tiffy is also selling that weird ear camera and I don’t want to see her earwax either. Lawson and Evan decided to sing a little R. Kelly in the vlog for fun….& they ended the week with Lawson saying he was going to get fat because Tiffy cooked a roast beef dinner.
   
10. Bits and Bytes… Kelly shared Ellie’s reel from the farm… Kelly announced that Warden and his sidekick Dylan have a new business striping things. Like putting down stripes… for game courts I guess? Didn’t know that was an in demand thing… Josie’s girls are still in gymnastics…could the current string of Bates boys be the Lord’s way of saying “stop exploiting your daughters”??
    

Have a great week friends and remember… according to the Bible…Christian women should NOT make coffee… it’s right there in “HeBrews”

1. Carlin and Evan pretended they were on vacation alone again this year but really they were with their new favorites. Sorry PopPop and Ninni, you’ve been replaced by the new Cult Church Pastor and his family. Proving that they are serious about this influencer grift, the Stew Crew met up with 4 other Trad wife Family Vloggers and Carlin showed that she can be like all the TikTok girlies and eat crab legs, too! She swung by a Chick-fil-a on the way home to wash the taste out of her mouth. It was a week of the standard beach pics, kids in bikinis and speedos while the adults wore modest swimsuits, ice cream, family fit checks and Evan invading all of Mexico Beach’s privacy with his drone. In a clear case of one up man ship, Carlin forced her entire family to wake up at 3:40am, dress up and go to the beach for a sunrise photo shoot. Pure torture and proof that this was not a vacation, but a work trip. These poor babies never get a break. Once they made it home it was business as usual with Layla in a crop top selling bracelets. Evan popped in with a 2 second proof of life of the dog. Izzy probably enjoyed a week without a camera and hearing “are you excited? Isn’t that exciting? Say it again… look over here”…sigh…
   
2. Katie was obviously miserable all week at the Jersey Shore with travis’ family bc she was relatively quiet and there was no new vlog from the Clark family this week. She pushed a few links, made a reel featuring her baby doing things all babies do and called her the sweetest one year old EVER. Of course we know how important being SWEET is in this crowd. She also bought some glass beads down the shore and used those to show us all what color eyes they have… because that’s riveting content also. By the way… Travis Clark? Not on tour.
   
3. The Bates Family beauty queen Josie Balka spent the majority of the week in her bathroom filming hair and makeup tutorials. She used creative wording to make people believe she isn’t wearing extensions, but she can’t hide the fact that the pool noodle isn’t holding her curl all day. Someone took to the comments to rat out the fact that come July, Mrs Balka will no longer be available for wedding makeup. Josie continues to push her workout content and this week did CrossFit with her pool noodle in and her 3 kids roaming around a garage. Josie ditched the Memorial Day cookout at the big house to hang out with the Balkas. Kelton is turning up the heat on his chef career and made Tuscan salmon and roasted chickens this week. His cooking videos feature overhead shots and close ups… Zach could never. Josie pushed links while showcasing the girls in their new crocs. She is also selling a hair supplement that works out to cost $2.30 per pill. They wrapped up the week at Kelton’s flag football game. Josie agreed to attend and feature it on her IG without the pool noodle in her hair.
   
4. Summer is happening full throttle at the Webster’s down in Florida…& that means… coffee, cleaning out the school room and working out in the garage . The excitement can hardly be contained. Alyssa finally scored a partnership this week… it’s for a Wallie phone case and hopefully she sold enough to afford the next trip to Costco. Maci was Alyssa’s target this week and she was forced several times to sing a song while her mom filmed her and said “LOUDER, LOUDER”… Maci looked terrified and managed to whimper out the ABC’s and that old cult classic “The Lord’s Army”. Alyssa is back to filtering her children’s faces off and poor baby Rhett looks like his is melting off while she runs behind him screaming “isn’t he the funniest? Isn’t he the cutest? I can’t stand it!!” Yea… neither can we. Proving that she isn’t estranged from her entire family, Jackson came over and Alyssa pretended that he was begging her to cut his hair. She told us how she grew up poor and was forced to give haircuts even though she hated it and wasn’t very good at it. Jackson played along to give his sister some content. In return he sharpened her knives bc that’s yet another thing her goofy husband cannot do. John doesn’t have time anyway bc he is running away to a softball game. Alone. Again. In a last ditch attempt to bring Alyssa back into the fold, Kelly instructed everyone to go comment on her reel featuring Rhett…Carlin, Lydia, Whit and Ellie followed orders. Later Alyssa decided to put all of the children’s books on the very highest shelf where the only way to reach them is with a step ladder. Lurch watched. She also had to have Allie tell her where Lexie was because apparently she had no clue. She showed the depressing, colorless school room filled with CD’s and by 8pm filmed herself with dead eyes saying she needed her kids to go to bed. The unhappiness is just oozing out.
   
5. Whitney and Zach spent the week at Folly and in Charleston. They ate at Loggerheads Bar and TBonz Grill &Chill and I really feel like Zach may have had a beer and Whitney sipped a White Claw. Whitney wore her bikini and crop tops and Zach went shirtless and wore shorts and they are dangerously close to seeming normal. They insisted on using some Instagram crap sunscreen and poor Kacie got a bad sunburn. They played around with the TikTok trend of jumping from one place to another and heavily featured all of their kids all week in bathing suits. Over in the Bates Kitchen this week Zach made the exotic dish known as Stuffed Mushrooms. He explained how he grew up eating a severely limited menu and on his honeymoon in Hawaii they ate Subway and KFC. He held his dish up for the camera this week and used a clear bowl but that’s as good as it’s gonna get bc apparently his camera just cannot move. The recipe featured 6 different chunks of cheese and some dried Great Value seasonings and Zach told us he is taking knife lessons because he doesn’t have a clue what he is doing. Yet he still believes he is good enough to have a cooking channel.
   
6. In his continuing trend of telling too much and showing too much Trace Bates filmed a Memorial Day cookout at the Big House and showed all the nooks and crannies and mercy that place is a hot mess. Crap is piled in every corner, on every shelf, that huge old sectional is spotted and stained and has grease spots from heads and all the kitchen cabinets are just left wide open. Kelly Joe is piled up on the couch and there seems to be an old sheet hanging in a window. Whew! Lydia’s family joined in for the cookout and they are just obsessed with pickle ball. They spent the week at the beach with the Romeike’s and Ryker was miserable on the flight and just about cut their tail. Lydia had PTSD thinking about the flight home. Lydia and Trace later dress Ryker like Larry from 3’s Company in a baby leisure suit. He would have fit right in down at the Regal Beagle. Their beach photo shoot featured Trace in his jeans rolled up like capris. When they got back home they tried to sell us a camera that fits up your nose and in your ear… watching Trace Bates dig around in his ear is just a bridge too far for me. Big news… Lydia gets to go on a girls trip soon… and she gets to take the baby with her. That is the exact opposite of a girls trip, but what’s she supposed to do… leave the kid with Trace??
   
7. Michael and Brandon are back to arts and crafts this week. Brandon checked out JebJud from the big house so he would have an excuse to color and forced him to film trying to draw a badger. What they drew did not, in fact, look anything like a badger… it was a grey and black blob. Brandon said this is strictly because badgers don’t live in Tennessee. Well Brandon, neither do whales and you drew those several times.
   
8. Erin Bates is slowly slipping back onto social media but because Chad said she had to be purposeful she is steadily cramming weird old yard axe preachers down her viewers throats. We first heard a very pointed message from some old dude who believes mothers would grab trinkets and leave their children behind in a house fire. Later she shared a reel featuring her dad preaching, but she was just warming up. She decided to sit down ole Gil and have him give his testimony on her YouTube. Testimony is apparently fundie for “lie and rewrite history” bc Gil said when he was 15 he skipped school to go drink beer with his buddies but just before taking a sip of the devil’s elixir he stumbled upon a Bible and spent the rest of the day looking up Bible words in the dictionary while those other boys drank Budweiser and looked at girlie magazines. Testimony also is fundie for “fairy tale”. Shut up Gil. Later Erin attended Bible Baptist and showed us little Carson fervently taking notes. She is pushing her cardboard cards in a special Father’s Day box that includes an amazing free gift… a Bic Pen!!! Hurry and order now. She told us she and Tori are living their dream and wrapped up the week with a Rocky Top Recap that quietly left out Carlin. Such a Christian thing to do…
   
9. Tiffy Bates is 33 weeks pregnant and went as Lawson’s date to the Hermitage for an AHA fundraiser. This former actress is now just Mrs. Lawson Bates as he took top billing. Their vlogs were both old and recycled and one featured footage from last year’s Medicorp trip to Turkey where they let them package trail mix to stay out of the way of the real work being done there. If you ever wonder who the people are that buy BSB dresses… they are the same ones who have sent Lawson&Tiffy TONS OF BABY GIFTS. Sickening to see when there are SO many mothers who struggle and need help. Lawson said growing up his dad kept the cars with no gas in them and then whichever kid got in to drive would have to use their money to pay for gas. Man Gil is a real piece of work! Lawson made Tiffy do a fit check and called her Pookie. Why do they refer to each other as “boys” and “girls” and why are they constantly talking to the camera asking their viewers asinine questions about things that won’t matter by the time they get the answers?? Tiffy is also selling that weird ear camera and I don’t want to see her earwax either. Lawson and Evan decided to sing a little R. Kelly in the vlog for fun….& they ended the week with Lawson saying he was going to get fat because Tiffy cooked a roast beef dinner.
   
10. Bits and Bytes… Kelly shared Ellie’s reel from the farm… Kelly announced that Warden and his sidekick Dylan have a new business striping things. Like putting down stripes… for game courts I guess? Didn’t know that was an in demand thing… Josie’s girls are still in gymnastics…could the current string of Bates boys be the Lord’s way of saying “stop exploiting your daughters”??
    

Have a great week friends and remember… according to the Bible…Christian women should NOT make coffee… it’s right there in “HeBrews”

To start this off, I mean absolutely no offense to Christians, and I am sorry if this offends anybody. My family is Christian, and I have met many wonderful Christian people. However, the amount of interactions I've had with Christians who are unreasonably hateful and spiteful heavily outweigh the good interactions.
As a member of the LGBTQ community, the amount of hate I have seen directed towards both myself and my peers is astounding. People weaponizing the bible, using it as an excuse to be hateful. They see me as sub-human, disregarding the word of God and instead projecting their own biased hatred onto me. To them, I am a groomer or a pedophile simply because of my sexuality. I see people saying the only way to heaven is through Jesus, and that by simply existing as a homosexual, I am defying God's will. My existence is a sin. I've seen similar arguments towards my heritage. I'm mixed, and my parents weren't married. Again, people seem to think my living, my very existence itself, is blasphemous.
But the question I always ask myself is this. On that final day of judgement, the day some people believe the fate of all of eternity for our species is chosen, who will God choose to be with him? The people who lived their lives with love, preaching acceptance for all of his creations, or the ones that lived full of hate, turning against their fellow man? The ones who love everyone for who they are, or the ones who hate each other over trivial differences, the exact opposite of God's instruction?
I am not religious. But I do what is right. I help people as much as I can. I do not hate anybody for being who they are- I hate people who hate people, and that is all. To me, there is no reward. I don't understand why we have to live in a world where people are so divided. Everyone is so full of hatred now. It scares me. What if the only way to live correctly, the only way to move up in the world, is to hate? Is the bible really this hateful, or do people just take it wildly out of context?

I found solace in this when questioning “Why did God create evil in the 1st place?”
A metaphor: A cactus is not dangerous unless interfered with.
And what about that gigantic fire in the sky?
The way I perceive it, God is all energy & humans are only a small amount of specific types of energy.
When Adam & Eve ate the forbidden fruit, their energy mixed. Energy which when mixed, doesn’t combine well.
Which is part of why they were forbidden from eating the fruit from the tree of knowledge. God didn’t forbid them from eating it to keep something amazing from them, it was to protect them. The problems humanity has made is proof of that. God has been like a parent trying to keep their toddler out the wine cabinet or the chefs kitchen they work in.
Those two tiny humans literally tried to have the immense power of a much bigger being within them, so, naturally they couldn’t control nor contain it.
And the thing is, us humans still can’t. We’ll never be able to, because we’re humans, not The God. Which is why things aren’t being run exactly how we’d do it. We don’t know & we can’t even comprehend the details of having or controlling the immense power that God does. Not even his Angels can. Neither can other lesser Gods. Which is why the most we can do is try to “obey” / follow God’s instructions & trust that the 1 being who created all of this is the only 1 who can set things right.
What’s your take on this?

i have a ratterrie jack russle mix who is almost 3 years old (cricket) we recently got a golden retriever that is 6-7 months old (rutt). cricket will correct rutt but rutt will ignore him to keep playing. cricket has gave clear corrections and signs that he no longer wants to play and i’ll have to step in and break up the play. they don’t ever fight or anything.. a lot of the times cricket will just remove himself but rutt will chase him. there’s no signs of aggression at all, just corrections. they play well with each other and enjoy each other. they play quite a lot. rutt tho will get rly rough and so will cricket but with rutt behind so much bigger cricket is more prone to getting hurt i feel. well they were playing cricket corrected him and gave clear signals he didn’t want to play and rutt wouldn’t stop so i stepped in. rutt always leaves a lot of drool on cricket. upon instruction cricket had a small bite from rutt, it wasn’t bleeding much. how can i teach rutt to stop when cricket clearly doesn’t want to play or to be more gentle. my MIL also has 2 other terriers and a maltese.. he doesn’t try to play with them and when he does he isn’t rough. one of the terriers (drake) doesn’t like when rutt gets fought and will give corrections or signs like cricket and he’ll stop.. but not with cricket.

Ingredients

• 1 cup dried chickpeas soaked overnight (or see directions on how to quick soak)*
• 1 cup water
• ¼ cup gluten-free tamari or soy sauce
• 2 tablespoons rice vinegar
• 1 tablespoon sugar
• 1 ½ teaspoons garlic powder
• 1 teaspoon onion powder
• ½ teaspoon ginger powder
• ½ - 1 teaspoon red pepper flakes adjust to taste

Add later:

• 1 (8 ounce) can water chestnuts, drained, optional
• 1 cup chopped bell pepper i like using red and green
• 1 celery stalk chopped
• ½ cup unsalted roasted peanuts

Garnish:

• 1 teaspoon toasted sesame oil
• 1 teaspoon sesame seeds
• Handful of chopped scallions

Optional:

• Slurry made by mixing 1 teaspoon arrowroot in 1 tablespoon water

Instructions

1. Soak chickpeas in cold water overnight. Drain, rinse and set aside.
2. Add all of the ingredients except for the ones listed under “add later” to the Instant Pot and mix well.
3. Secure the lid, close the pressure valve and cook for 35 minutes at high pressure.
4. Naturally release pressure.
5. Press the saute button, then add all of the ingredients listed under “add later” and the optional slurry if you prefer a thicker sauce. Cook for 5 minutes, or until the bell peppers are slightly tender.
6. Stir in the sesame seed oil then sprinkle with sesame seeds and scallions and serve.

Notes

• Forget to soak chickpeas? You can do a quick soak by covering dried chickpeas with an inch of water and pressure cooking them for 10 minutes with a natural release. Then dump out the water, rinse the chickpeas well and follow the recipe directions from there.
• You can add cayenne or extra red pepper flakes to make this spicier.

Source: https://myheartbeets.com/instant-pot-kung-pao-chickpeas/

I'm curious if a rear exhaust fan is necessary when using top exhaust 360mm AIO in the North XL with a glass side panel. I've seen mixed results in other cases doing the same thing: sometimes the thermal difference is negligible and other times, it is worth it.
I've also noticed that Fractal's own North XL guide does not show a rear exhaust fan in the AIO build instructions, but does show a rear exhaust fan in the air cooling build instructions. Of course, nothing beats testing from a third party, but it was interesting, nonetheless.
Thoughts?

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I usually keep my Suno/Udio creations to myself because they feel pretty personal. I use these tools to make motivational songs that act like mantras for me, helping me focus and get through tough times. As an entrepreneur, I often find myself needing a little extra push, and these custom-made songs really help.
I've been playing around with Suno since its early days and have gotten pretty good at using it to bring my ideas to life. I also use specially crafted LLM tool, not just to generate lyrics but to craft them in a way that Suno can best understand.
one interesting thing I've noticed is that LLM-based tools seem to understand instructions from other LLMs better than ones written by hand. Suno appears to be processing the lyrics with a LLM in some way that affects it's style. Also in 3.5 there's greater weight to styles within lyrics. So, I decided to do a little experiment to get the most of 3.5's capabilities. I mixed in some of my favorite music styles, along with some deeper meanings that probably only make sense to me, haha.
Hope this might give you some ideas.
To my ears this creation sounds pleasing, but knowing these tools, I'll probably hear only the flaws by tomorrow. I'd love to hear what you think!
https://suno.com/song/ed060e4b-1177-4e40-8aa7-a2cd2e6a2e87

Just the other day, I was helping my ten-year-old daughter assemble a model airplane. Her summer project had her frustrated and she was ready to give up. We were sitting on the living room floor surrounded by tiny wooden pieces, the complicated instructions making little sense to her.
"Sweetheart, think about it like solving a puzzle," I suggested. Her response? A big eye roll!
I smiled, realizing this was a perfect time to introduce her to the concept of mental frameworks and mental simulations. "Alright, let's think about this in a different way. Do you remember when we baked that chocolate cake for your birthday?" She nodded enthusiastically. "Think of this airplane model as that chocolate cake. We use a recipe for the cake, right?"
Again, she nodded. "Well, a mental framework is just like that. It’s like using a recipe or a blueprint to solve a problem, like following the instructions to build this model plane.
On the other hand, a mental simulation is like imagining the entire baking process before we even start. We picture mixing the ingredients, the smell of cake baking, the heat from the oven, the sweet frosting on top. Similarly, before working on this model, we can mentally simulate, or imagine, the process of putting the pieces together."
I could see her skepticism fading as she made the connection. She reached for the instruction booklet and started studying it again. This time, though, she was using a mental framework for guidance and trying to mentally simulate the end product.
Half an hour later, she had a charming little model airplane on her hands and a triumphant smile on her face. Not only had she got her summer project assembled, she also learned about mental frameworks and simulations.
P.S. Okay, so maybe I didn't explain the concepts of mental frameworks and simulations to a ten-year-old, and maybe I don't even have a daughter. But hey, the example was pretty cool, right? Mental models aren't just for psychology textbooks. They're tools for making everyday life easier - even if that just means making a model airplane.

Hi all! So i’m currently 11 days post op and being the anxious person I am, I was thinking that i’m sure there’s many other who were thinking the same things as I and wanted to offer a post as to what to expect and do’s and don’ts that I learned through my experience.
Leading up to the procedure for me it didn’t really set in until I was sat in the chair 😂. If you are an anxious person and are able to choose to do IV Sedation I would go that route. It was honestly amazing they did the IV super quick and start with an anxiety reliever and then boom I was OUT literally within seconds. Felt nothing and woke up. Now don’t let this next part scare you but I was very nauseous when I woke up and threw up about 3-4 times (keep in mind this was the first time i went under and it’s totally normal to throw up after first time going under anesthesia!). They will prescribe you strong antibiotics and some sort of strong medication for the pain, TAKE YOUR MEDICATIONS ON TIME!! I cannot stress this enough take your meds on time it’s the best way to keep the pain at bay and allow the antibiotics to work how they should.
Days 0-5 (0=surgery day) is when I experienced the most pain, discomfort, and swelling. I was lucky enough to not have that much swelling or bruising, however if you get it don’t worry it’s very normal! My surgeon office told me To leave the extraction areas alone till day 7, I was able to brush my front/middle teeth but was told to stay away from the back teeth near the sites. (Every office is different and will give you different post op instructions so just follow those!)
Day 6-11 is when I personally started to feel better. I switched from the pain meds they prescribed me to advil liquid gels because I personally didn’t want keep depending on the harder meds. I was able to talk more and actually open my mouth a little more. If you experience jaw soreness and stiffness I would recommend to do jaw exercises Starting day 6 or 7, opening your mouth as wide as possible and hold for ten second, then close your mouth for ten seconds, then move your jaw to the left for ten seconds then repeat to the right side. You should only really do this a couple times throughout the day, it will feel weird and uncomfortable but the best way to get mouth feeling back to normal is to work through that discomfort, but don’t push yourself to hard, you know your limits. On day 7 I was cleared to return to normal diet habits with staying away from crunchier foods and candy. As well as to start using the syringe. If your office doesn’t provide a syringe buy on off amazon they are super cheap and it’s really good to clean out the holes, you just fill a cup with warm water and salt, mix that till the salt dissolves then pull back your cheek and stick the tip of the cured needle end at the top of the surgical hole and slowly flush the bottom holes out. I was told to only do the bottom sockets because food doesn’t really get stuck in your upper hole because gravity with pull it down but I flush each socket 2-3 times in the morning, after each meal, and at night before bed, I will lightly swish some of the water to reach my top sockets just so they are also getting some cleanliness.
Now for food, not being able to eat the food I wanted was probably worse than the pain itself lol. I’ve ate mashed potatoes, applesauce, pudding, soup that were not chunky, blended oatmeal, ice cream and lots of protein shakes and water. I stopped eating those foods around day 7/8 and started to incorporate things like pasta, oatmeal, mashed bananas, and eggs. It’s now day 11 and I’m going to try eating with my back teeth. My office told me that going back to eating solid food is going to be up to you and your comfort level and your teeth pain level. I saw a lot of people recommending to slowly transitioning into softer food, instead of just going full fledge and on your normal diet, which is what I’m doing as well. I also see lots of people who are already back to the normal diet eating things but pizza and burgers and sandwiches and I really just think it’s my anxiety making me think of the worst possible outcome but again you know your body and do whatever feels right to you. But whatever you do don’t drink soda for about a week or so and don’t use straws and swish or spit vigorously to avoid dislodging the clot and getting dry socket!!
I really hope this helps anyone who is nervous or just doesn’t know what to expect. This was my personal experience, everyone heals differently and reacts to pain differently, but just take this time to rest watch your favorite shows, read your favorite book, and just do nothing. If you have any questions i’d be more than happy to do my best and answer!!

Israel was separated out from the nations (gentiles).

The nation of Israel began with Abraham, who himself was a gentile. His father was even an idol maker. Abraham was given a promise from God that his descendants would be as numerous as the stars. Circumcision was a physical sign that Abraham had gone from gentile to something else, a Hebrew. Hebrew was the first term used to describe this separation. The promise was inherited by Abraham's son Issac (not Ishmael), then Isaac's son Jacob (not Esau). With Jacob the term identifying the promise changed to Israel, and from them on all the descendants we're automatically included in the promise.

The Exodus

Abraham was also told that his descendants would be enslaved for 400 years but that God would also rescue them for a purpose.

Then the LORD said to Abram, “Know for certain that your offspring will be sojourners in a land that is not theirs and will be servants there, and they will be afflicted for four hundred years. But I will bring judgment on the nation that they serve, and afterward they shall come out with great possessions. As for you, you shall go to your fathers in peace; you shall be buried in a good old age. And they shall come back here in the fourth generation, for the iniquity of the Amorites is not yet complete.” Genesis 15:13-16 ESV

God was going to use Israel to drive out the wicked people of the land.
Fast forward to the book of Exodus and you have the enslavement of Israel and many other nations of people by the Egyptians. YHWH, the God of Israel, sends the plagues on Egypt as a judgement against their many gods and to show the world his power and authority. When Israel left Egypt there was a mixed multitude of people that went up out of Egypt with Israel.

And the people of Israel journeyed from Rameses to Succoth, about six hundred thousand men on foot, besides women and children. A mixed multitude also went up with them, and very much livestock, both flocks and herds. Exodus 12:37-38 ESV

These people didn't just run off. They stayed and worshiped YHWH alongside the physical descendants of Jacob! They had been there and witnessed the power of God. Word traveled and many nations (goyim) were terrified of the Israelites because of their God who does these amazing things.
Now Israel was led by Moses to Mount Sinai. There were Goyim that stood at the mountain and shouted their allegiance the same as the Israelites did!

So Moses came and called the elders of the PEOPLE and set before them all these words that the LORD had commanded him. All the PEOPLE answered together and said, "All that the LORD has spoken we will do." And Moses reported the words of the people to the LORD. Exodus 19:7-8 ESV

The elders of the PEOPLE, not just Israel. ALL the people who choose to follow the God of Israel were there and dedicated themselves WITH Israel. They stayed with Israel the 40 years in the wilderness. They were no longer goyim, they no longer identified with their national God's, they no longer identified with their country, the had become Israelites. "Your God will be my God, and your people will be my people"

The Covenant Renewal Entering The Land

After the 40 years in the wilderness Israel is about to enter into the promised land, so they have a covenant renewal ceremony with the new generation. The covenant renewal in Deuteronomy 29 specifically includes gentiles again and goes as far as calling them "his people". "His people" has always been those who follow YHWH in obedience. That's what determines who is an Israelite.

Therefore keep the words of this covenant and do them, that you may prosper in all that you do. "You are standing today, all of you, before the LORD your God: the heads of your tribes, your elders, and your officers, all the men of Israel, your little ones, your wives, and the sojourner who is in your camp, from the one who chops your wood to the one who draws your water, so that you may enter into the sworn covenant of the LORD your God, which the LORD your God is making with you today, that he may establish you today as HIS PEOPLE, and that he may be YOUR GOD, as he promised you, and as he swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob. It is not with you alone that I am making this sworn covenant, but with whoever is standing here with us today before the LORD our God, and with whoever is not here with us today. Deuteronomy 29:9-15 ESV

Does God have a separate law, something different for gentiles versus his people Israel? No.

Every native Israelite shall do these things in this way, in offering a food offering, with a pleasing aroma to the LORD. And if a stranger is sojourning with you, or anyone is living permanently among you, and he wishes to offer a food offering, with a pleasing aroma to the LORD, he shall do as you do. For the assembly, there shall be one statute for you and for the stranger who sojourns with you, a statute forever throughout your generations. You and the sojourner shall be alike before the LORD. One law and one rule shall be for you and for the stranger who sojourns with you.” Numbers 15:13-16 ESV

So you can see here that the plan from the beginning is INTEGRATION. One people united by a common law to worship the God of their nation. That nation is Israel.

In The New Testament

Jesus

Does the new testament say anything different? Lets look at what Jesus said and how he responded in Matt 15 concerning a gentile woman.

And Jesus went away from there and withdrew to the district of Tyre and Sidon. And behold, a Canaanite woman from that region came out and was crying, "Have mercy on me, O Lord, Son of David; my daughter is severely oppressed by a demon." But he did not answer her a word. And his disciples came and begged him, saying, "Send her away, for she is crying out after us." He answered, "I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel." But she came and knelt before him, saying, "Lord, help me." And he answered, "It is not right to take the children's bread and throw it to the dogs." She said, "Yes, Lord, yet even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters' table." Then Jesus answered her, "O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you desire." And her daughter was healed instantly. Matthew 15:21-28 ESV

Here Jesus was NOT going to help this woman UNTIL she proved and qualified her faith, that her faith was in Jesus as her MASTER. In that instance she showed her allegiance and it was to Jesus whom she recognized as the Son of David, the King of Israel.

What about Acts 15?

In acts 15 most people point here to say that the gentiles were only given 4 laws to follow, which would completely be inconsistent with our pattern here. Lets look at what James had to say there.

After they finished speaking, James replied, "Brothers, listen to me. Simeon has related how God first visited the Gentiles, to take from them a people for his name. And with this the words of the prophets agree, just as it is written, "'After this I will return, and I will rebuild the tent of David that has fallen; I will rebuild its ruins, and I will restore it, that the remnant of mankind may seek the Lord, and all the Gentiles who are called by my name, says the Lord, who makes these things known from of old.' Therefore my judgment is that we should not trouble those of the Gentiles who turn to God, but should write to them to abstain from the things polluted by idols, and from sexual immorality, and from what has been strangled, and from blood. For from ancient generations Moses has had in every city those who proclaim him, for he is read every Sabbath in the synagogues." Acts 15:13-21 ESV

James expected the Gentile people to CONTINUE in their faith journey by learning Moses in the synagogues. Now saying "Moses" is a colloquial way to say the Torah. James' message is one of INTEGRATION, not separation. James expected these people to join with the Israelite people to worship with them at synagogue!

But what about Paul?

Paul is no different. Paul also has Romans 11 saying the gentiles are grafted into the tree of Israel, but more powerful and plain is his words in Ephesians 2.

Therefore remember that at one time you Gentiles in the flesh, called "the uncircumcision" by what is called the circumcision, which is made in the flesh by hands-- remember that you were at that time separated from Christ, alienated from the commonwealth of Israel and strangers to the covenants of promise, having no hope and without God in the world. But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For he himself is our peace, who has made us both one and has broken down in his flesh the dividing wall of hostility by abolishing the law of commandments expressed in ordinances, that he might create in himself one new man in place of the two, so making peace, and might reconcile us both to God in one body through the cross, thereby killing the hostility. And he came and preached peace to you who were far off and peace to those who were near. For through him we both have access in one Spirit to the Father. So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are FELLOW CITIZENS with the saints and members of the household of God, Ephesians 2:11-19 ESV

Paul says here that if you put our faith in Jesus as your messiah then you become FELLOW CITIZENS in Israel! It can't get any more plain than this!
So, in conclusion, both old and new testaments agree that if any gentile person wishes to worship the Creator God presented in the bible, who's personal proper name is YHWH, then Gentiles are to DENY any of their former pagan worship practices and JOIN with Israel to worship God in the way that He has instructed in His Law. That's the purpose of Israel, to be a nation of HIS people. Read Jeremiah 31 where the "New Covenant" is outlined and quoted from in Hebrews 8. Who is the covenant made with? Are gentiles included? Not at all. Why? Because to join in this covenant you have to leave behind your gentileness in favor of becoming an Israelite!

Sirolimus is destroyed by stomach juices before it can be absorbed. Pills straight from India seem to melt in my mouth. Those of you with US prescriptions, do you think your pills are enteric? That is, coated with polymer so they pass through the stomach unmolested, so they can reach the small intestine where they eventually dissolve and the drug is absorbed into the bloodstream. Usually enteric tablets say "do not cut in half".
Thinking now though, maybe "melt in my mouth" can be beneficial. What if I let the tablets dissolve in my mouth. Get the sirolimus into my system sublingually, or buccal (think chewing tobacco). In mice experiments, they couldn't train the mice for sublingual, so they had to develop enteric.
As for the powder from China (which may well be what is shipeed to India to make the tablets, which may in turn be sold wholesale for distribution in the USA), it's hard to weigh out 6mg. I suppose I oculd dilute it by extensive mixing with another powder. It's pretty much insoluble in water, but it is soluble in ethanol, so maybe that is a way to dilute it, to make it more precisely measurable. I could draw up 0.10 cc into an insulin syringe. At that point I have to ask about subcutaneous administration (of an ethanol solution of dissolved sirolimus). Or just squirt it under my tongue. Another bright idea is, sirolimus is quite soluble in DMSO, which speaks then to transdermal administration.
Thoughts?

Currently taking 160/wk TRT, been on it for over a year. Want to regain fertility to try for a baby in late October 2024. Online clinic prescribed me the following:
6,000iu hCG vial
Mix 6mL bacteriostatic water
Inject 0.5 mL twice a week
Cost was $125. By my math that should last me 6 weeks.
I’m having a bit of trouble figuring out if this is a solid dosage to regain fertility - everything I have read recommends dosing in IUs. If my math is correct, my weekly dose is 1,000 IU / wk. Does that sound about right to regain fertility or is that too much? He initially recommended 0.25 mL twice a week but then walked it higher once I asked if that was enough, but he’s obviously encouraged to sell me more.

My wife has been trying to find a some remote work, data entry mostly. Come across several scammy looking things, and then we found 24 Seven Talent.
Offering 10-40 hours a week at just under $24. Seeing mixed reviews online, she asked for more information and got this:
"All the required training will be provided to you before the starting date by our training partner. On the starting date for this position, a proficiency assessment task will be given to you to assess your performance. After this, a meeting will be scheduled with you to give you feedback on your performance and to sign all the necessary paperwork.
This position requires the following equipment/tools: 1. Dedicated Computer 2. A licensed DE application software for performing all the assigned tasks, monitoring, and reporting.
The training and all the above-listed equipment are prerequisites for this position. A check for $2450 will be mailed to your address.
This check is to be used for : 1. The purchase of the required equipment. 2. The training fees 3. Your first week compensation of $250
The order instruction will be forwarded to you when the check is cleared and deposited."
I'm trying to find something that ISN'T a red flag in all of that.