Fear and paranoia. Discomfort. Loneliness. Wrong place. Wrong time. I'm not sure what makes it all better. I live in my head. Thinking ahead to "what happens if I do this or that". Unable to think for myself and finding myself trusting people that maybe I shouldn't. Walking down paths that maybe I shouldn't. Its hard to know that you need to change and not know what specifically needs to change. I know I need to trust people. But I don't know who to trust anymore.
I don't remember the last time I shut down so hard as I have over the past several months. T is a problem. T is only trying to help. T needs help. We can't be two needy people together. C is a problem. C doesn't know how to help. Doesn't have the time to help. I can't do it alone. But I need help I can trust. How do I trust people after both these people have presented themselves as untrustworthy. I can't even trust myself.
There's the paranoia. I'm always looking over my shoulder. People are looking. What do they see? Did I make a mistake?
I don't have to care what other people think. It's what they do, what they can do to me, that I'm really concerned with.
Thank you T for waking me up. I now know that I need and deserve more. I can demand it if I need to. Fuck you T for making me think that you were my salvation also. I can't latch on to you for that. You have your own needs that for as much as I'd love to attend to... I cannot. That's not me.
Thank you C for loving me and accepting me. Thank you for wanting to be there for me. But fuck you for thinking it was enough. You have the best intentions. But you don't have the best practice. I need more than this.
Thank you to me for always striving to be a better version of myself. Thank you for realizing that this isn't the end but that we move through life and it's events. But fuck you for abandoning yourself to the whims of others. Don't let anyone else tell you who you are or what you should be doing. Don't let anyone make you feel less than adequate. You do you baby.
To my parents thank you for providing me with a roof over my head, food to eat, an education, all the birthdays and Christmases and family vacations. But fuck you for telling me to find something better to do with my time. Fuck you for telling me that I had to clean my plate. Fuck you for thinking that your way was the only way. Thank you for giving me a chance to find my own way.
Life is hard. Adulting is hard. People are always moving and doing things to make it harder. I am the only constant in my life. I can do hard things.

Warning: this is gonna be long and kinda dark. Sorry.
A little backstory I guess. Both of my parents are very stubborn and set in their ways, they have food aversions that have negatively affected their health. I love them and they have done the best they can, but their stubbornness has definitely fast tracked their negative health. My mom has been sick most of my life.
Late last year, my dad got diagnosed with early stage colon cancer. A week after his diagnosis, my mom fell into a coma.
She had to be transported to a nursing rehab facility over 80 miles away, because she has been off and on, but mostly on, a ventilator. Lots of infections every couple weeks that bounce her in and out of the hospital. She is ultimately going to pass away, and I’ve made peace with this. I would preferably have it happen sooner than later so she doesn’t suffer.
Now my dad… bless his heart, chemo destroyed his stomach lining. He went through chemo while my mom has been sick, and I felt awful that he had to go through that while mom has been so sick. He was so sick for 4 months that he could hardly get water down, let alone any solid food. It took 7 ER visits and him passing out three times for them to finally admit him to the hospital.
I am an only child (I have a sibling who lives on the other side of the world and doesn’t give a shit if they live or die). My husband helps so much with everything, but it’s obviously a very overwhelming situation for the both of us.
For the last two months, I’ve been begging my dad for us to take my mom off life support. It’s exhausting to constantly worry about her, and I KNOW this isn’t what she would want. I hardly get to see her, she gets sick every other week, and she has no quality of life. I have tried to be very understanding with my dad because I know he hasn’t been able to see her and it’s killing him. I want him to spend time with her before she passes. But he isn’t doing anything to help his own health that will allow him to go see her.
He still has a lot of weakness (due to other health conditions unrelated to cancer), but he is just now beginning to eat normally again. That being said, I’ve BEGGED (begged is an understatement - I’ve CRIED to him about this) for him to RELAX and STOP DOING THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE when he feels like he is having a good day. Just because he’s feeling strong, doesn’t mean he has that strength.
I’ve had a sinus infection the last few days and haven’t been over to clean his house. Yesterday, he decided he’d take all the trash out (which is a big physical task at the house), along with riding the lawn mower around to mow the front and back lawn. Problem is, his lawn mower ran out of gas so he had to walk around the yard to get things finished.
This lead to him being SO weak today, that it took him over an hour to lift himself off the toilet. He calls me early this morning, frantically FREAKING out because he had tripped over his charger and broken it, his phone was on 1%, and he “needed his phone in case he fell or got stuck on the toilet”.
I want to reiterate - I have BEGGED him to stop doing so much, because he only gets this weak when he overexerts himself. I am sick right now, I haven’t been able to visit my mom in a week, and now I’m about to clean his house because he’s too weak to stand up and even get himself a drink.
AITAH for being tired of this shit? I feel like my dad is disrespecting me by not following my simple wishes of him to just relax and let me do things for him, so he can get his strength back. He can’t sit still and let that happen, and its keep us from seeing my mom, and allowing her to finally be at rest.
I’m exhausted and I’m tired of having to parent my dad. He won’t eat anything good for him, won’t do the few things I ask of him that will ultimately help him heal quicker, and I’m stuck in the middle of him and mom. My husband has been so amazing and helpful, but I feel awful for asking so much of him, we just recently got married and it feels like the first year of our marriage has just been about taking care of my parents.
I just want peace for my mom, health for my dad, and time off for me and my husband to relax for once. And I feel like a piece of shit for wanting that, but my health is deteriorating (my hair is falling out from stress) and I’m only 26. I feel like I’ve thrown away my twenties in order to care for them, because I have. And I feel like an asshole for feeling that way, but I’m just so tired.
Thanks for reading if you got this far.

I think I’m losing attraction for my husband. We’ve been married for 2 years at feeling ko nababawasan na yung attraction ko sa kanya and natatakot ako na magtuloy tuloy.
Here are my reasons: 1. I’m concerned about his heath. He’s overweight and we are trying to conceive that is why this one is a big deal for me. Ilang beses nadin kaming nagusap how he can improve pero parang wala syang enough effort to be fit and we all know na dapat sa kanya manggaling yung determination to do something about it or else hindi ko sya mattulungan. Yes, inopen ko na sa kanya many times and he keeps promising na he’ll do something abt it. He tries pero minimal effort. I’m also helping him by inviting him mag jog/ exercise pero talagang ako ang nag iinitiate. I’m also sending him vids to inspire him and bumibili ako ng healthy food for us. So frustrating kasi alam kong kaya nya kasi nagawa naman nya maging fit before. So anong problema? Yes, we are on the same page of wanting to have a baby. Both praying for it 🙏🏻

1. He does not seem to care much about his hygiene anymore. Nung magjowa palang kami hindi naman ganto or dahil hindi lang kami magkasama sa isang bahay kaya hindi ko napapansin or pwede din na sobrang comfortable na nya sa akin. Parang he doesn’t care about how he looks for me and I think that is still important even when ur already married??? Parang it’s turning me off. Na-open ko nadin sya pero parang same effort lang.
   
2. Dati okay lang sa akin na magkaiba kami ng trip. Mas magala ako sa kanya and he’s a home buddy. Hindi nya ako nrrestrict to go out with friends or have a date with myself pero minsan nallungkot ako kasi dapat sya yung kasama ko mag enjoy. Pag sa dates, “ikaw bahala” “kahit anong gusto mo” ang input nya. Minsan nakakasawa na ako nalang palagi ang nagddecide.
   
3. (This one is really not a main issue pero a contributing factor). I’m more financially stable than him. Kaya din siguro wala syang gana pag ang topic namin is travel or places we wanna go. Mejo nanibago lang din ako dahil nung single ako, I traveled a lot and talagang naeenjoy ko having new experiences. I want to experience this with him especially now na wala pa kaming anak pero ramdam ko yung restriction nya and nakakawala din ng gana.
   

He has so manyyyy good qualities din. He’s so hands on sa household chores, he manages my mood swings so well, he’s emotionally available, he’s persistent in making me happy, would never cheat, treats me like a queen etc. Basically he’s a good guy and I don’t like the possibility of falling out of love because of the ugly things. I know na I should’ve realized this before marriage but here we are. Siguro the good things overshaddowed the ugly parts and I thought I’d be willing to compromise and accept. But ngayon narrealize ko na these things are important.
So I’d like your insights please. Especially sa married women out there, what should be my approach? Any similar experiences? How did you compromise or accept the ugly parts of ur marriage? I don’t want to sound like a nagger kung paulit ulit kong sinasabi mga concerns ko. We already had mature conversations and fights abt this pero eto padin kami with our unresolved issues.

TW: choking (food related, not kink, lol)
I’m a FTM and my daughter is 6mo. We’ve started solids with purées and I’d like to do BLW. However, my husband and I both have pretty severe choking fears. My husband had to the Heimlich on a coworker a few years ago and he said it really messed him up for a couple days. I choked once when I was little and it is just an awful, horrifying feeling and I’m still super paranoid about it to this day.
I downloaded the Solid Starts app but I don’t know where to really start because I’m too afraid to give her anything besides purées. (I’m being treated for PPA so it adds to my anxiety).
I thought about avocado since that seems popular among the little ones. She hates banana (well smashed anyway) and seems to like the strawberries I’ve mashed up for her. She’s honestly not all that interested yet but I want her to have a good relationship with food and set her up for success. Any suggestions for getting past the initial food introduction anxieties?

I'm gonna start this off by saying this is a vent post. It's really long and goes over all the big instances I can recall of animal cruelty happening in my childhood all the way to present, so it will be a lot of paragraphs. The timelines are estimates, but due to trauma I have poor memory involving dates when things happened, and this probably still isn't every incident, again just the big ones I can recall. Read at your own discretion.
I (19F) live with my grandparents (70M and 67F) and my parents (42 M 43 F). Due to some injuries from last year and some medical history, I am disabled and currently jobless, and in the process of trying to obtain disability, which is relevant for later.
Since I was as little as I can remember, my family has always had cats. I even grew up with some cats that ended up feeling like siblings for me not having anyone around them age to interact with until my sister was born when I was 8.
My parents have always loved cats, but I don't think truly ever valued cats. They've always been left outdoors, and eventually the elements always get them. I have never had a family pet that grew past the age 12. All of our cats have either been attacked by dogs that are also loose in my neighborhood, been suspected to have been tortured and unalived by neighbors, got sick, or got ran over, because my family doesn't care and will just 'replace" pets less than a year later.
When I was around 5, I had my very first pet kitten. This kitten was a runt, so it stayed small for a long time. It also was very hard to potty train, and because of this, they released it outside when it was maybe barely 7-8 weeks. He did good for about a month, but after that, he vanished. But there was evidence when he disappeared that there were large dog paw prints in our driveway because it was rainy that previous night, and his food bowl was dragged out in the yard, which he couldn't have done.
Also around 5, my aunt (at this time 13F) was living with us, as her mom (my mom's mom) wasn't taking good care of her and was in and out of jail. She had pet guinea pigs for a bit. My parents decided to feed the guinea pigs potatoes without doing any kind of research. One of them died. The other one was sick and anxious all the time, so my aunt decided to release it in our backyard? It was also winter. (I want to say that I do not blame her directly because she was still a child and in a similar situation to me, and my parents didn't care about the well-being of these poor guinea pigs anyways.)
And yet another story of around age 5, my dad bought the family a pet red-eared turtle. The tank was too small for her. My dad also thought it would be "funny" and "cool" to put fish in there with this turtle whenever we were about to go on vacation. She ate all the fish in the tank: Neons, goldfish, the tank cleaners, and whatever other fish species he put in that confined tank that wasn't more than 20 gallons. (Red-eared turtles alone need around 40 at minimum.)
But that's not all. While on vacation, both I and my 13 year-old aunt got baby yellow-belly sliders. We took them home, and we put them in the tank with our adult turtle. She ate the heads off of both of them. There was one goldfish left there as well, and I got traumatized seeing both the dead turtles, and seeing her eat that last gold fish in two chomps one time.
When I was around 6, my family randomly decided, "Let's own goats!" because they have a big backyard with an old shed. Well, they ended up buying a small amount of chicken wire fence and giving them outside of the barn about a few feet to move around when our backyard is fairly large and most of it wasn't being used. And we live in a residential area, so every night we had the goats, they would scream. My parents hated their screaming and started neglecting them more by giving them less attention, which only made them scream 24/7. Finally, my parents decided to give the goats to some distant family that has farmland. (We are in the south.)
When I was around 8-9, I got another cat. She was a pretty cat, but very mean and feisty. She didn't really like anyone, but I loved her regardless. This cat was too annoying for my parents to deal with because she had behavioral issues, and instead of taking her to the vet, they decided to make her start staying outside. She loved it, but a bit too much.
(Big TW: death and some descriptions of gore) One day, I had to help my mom deal with her corpse on the road. I was obviously really sad and fell into a deal depression. I also panicked and nearly threw up when I saw, because her eyeball was hanging out. It was so disturbing for a child to see. We buried her together, but I was made fun of one day by my parents for randomly crying about her death.
When I was around 10, I owned my third cat. She also had a brother from the same litter, and my mom had recently lost a cat that she did keep inside from kidney disease. I haven't had my own cat in a while, and they decided to adopt this sibling pair from the neighbors. I got the female, my mom got the male, because she is the type to insist that boy cats are better.
Anyways, I LOVED this cat. I did so much for her, and she loved me and followed me everywhere. We'd cuddle to sleep together. She was my best friend.
But my parents never got her fixed. They also never got the brother fixed. They ended up doing the tango (gross I know, but nature) and my cat had kittens a little bit less than a year old. Since she was too young for kittens, she at first didn't know what she was doing and even misplaced her first outside and ran to me while in labor with the second. I found that kitten and helped her with all 5 of her kittens, all girls also, and the kittens ended up getting close to me as well.
Of course, once they were around 6-7 weeks, my parents were wanting to start finding home for them. But they also had another idea in mind. They wanted me to get rid of my adult cat, and the brother cat as well, and we'd take one kitten. At first I was like no, but they manipulated me and convinced me a kitten would be better. I told them which kitten I wanted, and it looked a lot like my cat. But no, since they thought one of the cats might be distantly Siamese and thought it looked the coolest from it's tabby and Siamese-like pattern, they chose that one, and then dropped my beloved cat and her brother off at a cemetery, didn't even let me say bye. They just threw them away like pieces of garbage. And then I ended up resenting that kitten anyways for not being MY cat, so the family ended up crashing her as well, and she disappeared a few years later.
Around age 11-12, I somehow managed to have pet hermit crabs, another pet yellow-belly slider turtle, and two pet rabbits. My parents were basically throwing pets at me because I guess they felt guilty or something about what they did to me. I didn't end up taking care of any of them, and they all died of starvation and/or dehydration, and I still feel terrible about it. I was so depressed that I couldn't take care of myself either. And I was given animals on top of it, and I was forced to be a high schooler in school. The pets suffered at the cost of what? Why did I even have them?
Around age 13, my parents were driving me home from school, and we saw some Canada geese with their babies by a pond. I'm sure you know where this is going, considering everything else. My mom convinced me to jump out of the car with her, and she distracted the adult geese while I caught a baby one. I knew that in itself was bad, but I didn't know Canada geese were such a protected species.
The little guy imprinted on me. I loved him, he would follow me around the yard. But once again my parents got out that chicken fence, only this time it was on the side of the house, and no shed for him to take cover in (still like a few feet of movement max.) He was growing fast, and he was plucking his feathers. A neighbor noticed and told us to get rid of him or we'd call authorities. They lied and said we "found him and rescued him." I was told to lie about this narrative for years. They ended up dropping him back off at the pond we got him from about two months after we first got him. He couldn't fly, his family wasn't there. He was defenseless. I still feel terrible to this day, I know I was manipulated, but I was 13. And again, I defend my aunt and she was also 13, so I really don't know.
When I was 15, that first turtle I mentioned was still there at our house for all those years. She had quite literally been there for a decade. My parents got tired of having to clean her tank, and she was obviously too big for it as well. But was their response to upgrade tanks and the old filtering system that's been there all that time? Nope. While I was at school, he just...released her. And not in a pond or anything, you know, being an aquatic turtle. (Not like that would be better, but better than what he did.) He just put her outside, in our front driveway. She ran away surprisingly fast according to him. An aquatic pet turtle. Just released in a residential neighborhood. I'm totally sure nothing awful happened to her.( /sarcasm.)
When I was also 15, this was when the pandemic hit. I was super depressed and bored all the time. But then a female stray cat came to our house and had kittens behind a board against my grandparents house. I started fostering them and their mom immediately. I didn't know at the time that we had any no kill shelters nearby, and neither did my parents. When the kittens were old enough, we started rehoming them. There were 3 in total. 1 got a home. The other was still outside for some reason and disappeared. The other one became my pet, whom was at first the family pet. But then they decided that he was too annoying (because he was sweet and affectionate and not what they wanted out of cats which was mean, feisty, playful.)
He is the sweetest boy ever and is still alive to this day, but because I still live with my horrible family, he has to be outdoors, and he gets really scabby from the bugs outside during the summer. As soon as I can I will move out, take him to the vet, and take him out of this home. He shouldn't have to be here.
A few years ago, my sister (11F but maybe 9F at the time) got her own kitten. He ended up growing up to be sweet and affectionate like my cat, so neither her nor my parents want him and he's outdoors, so I'll probably try to take him too.
My sister now has her own new cat that's about a year old she got last year. So far she's not abandoning him since he's a mix of sweet and playful, but my parents have talked about making him indoor-outdoor, which really means "Indoor-outdoor for a few days but after a while we'll just leave him outside and let him stay there."
As a child, I was taught so many messed up things about animals. That dogs are disgusting, gross, and pets have no feelings, and I was taught that cats also have no feelings as a child, but that they are at least a more fun and less gross pet. In fact, in my parent's eyes, no animals have feelings or sentience or any of those things. They are just play things for our benefit. Because of this, as a child I also did not treat animals with the respect they deserve, and I acknowledge this. I have been unlearning so much of this behavior since I was about 13, the goose that I had was my wakeup call.
Please, I know it may seem crazy to some that I out of all people are speaking on this, but if you own animals, please keep them indoors. And with cats specifically, if they crave outside, harness train them. Buy/build a cheap patio in your window if possible. Just don't let them roam free. They will kill so much wildlife. Having to also deal with the grief of my pets killing and bringing dead rabbits, moles, birds opossums, etc. is also a lot. It heavily effects your surrounding ecosystem as well, because annually house cats are estimated to kill over a billion birds and over 6 billion mammals. That's disastrous, and could be avoided if there weren't so many bad pet owners.
Also, don't get animals that go in tanks/terrariums/cages in general if you don't have the money to get them the most spacious enclosure with ALL of their needs. Don't put fish in bowls, it effects their eyesight and shortens their lifespans SIGNIFICANTLY. In general, do not get a pet unless you have the financial means to do so AND if you've thoroughly researched that pet, get it ethically sourced, and if you make sure you have the mental capacity to care for an animal. ANIMALS ARE NOT TOYS. ANIMALS ARE NOT HERE FOR OUR ENTERTAINMENT, FOR OUR JOY. THEY ARE LIVING BEINGS WITH THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS, AND A LIFE. THEY DESERVE RESPECT AND DECENCY. NO, THEY DESERVE BEYOND DECENCY, THEY DESERVE TO BE WORSHIPPED AND NURTURED AND SPOILED BY US, NOT TORMENTED AND ABUSED! Thank you.
Also, if you somehow got this far, please read my previous story and give me advice on that one if you have the time, but if not that's perfectly okay. My living situation sucks, but hopefully things can change. I'm counting on a change to happen soon.

My husband and I had a baby 10 months ago. I don't feel like he ever fully stepped up. He has a demanding hobby that he never put on hold, often devoting entire weekends to it. I still do most of the chores, baby care, and I work. I breastfeed. In the beginning, I was incredibly resentful of my husband because I would be up all night with the baby and he would sleep. It's not like ive just sat around and let this happen. We've been at each other's throats since baby was born. Unless I'm CONSTANTLY nagging him, he will not help me. He will help, but only if I guide him in exactly how to do things. He doesn't ever volunteer his help. Early on, he agreed to help me in the night with breastfeeding, but he was so fucking hard to wake up and i was getting so frustrated that i just gave up. We sleep trained around 6 months, and by we, I mean me because dude did 0 research and didn't help at all. This is something I'm incredibly resentful of. Every transition in baby's life has been led by me. He has done 0 research into anything, barely helps during the transition, and then has the audacity to tell people "yeah WE introduced solids, WE sleep trained, WE introduced a bottle, etc etc etc."
Baby still occasionally wakes up in the night now, and of course I'm the one to answer those wake ups because he'll sleep right through. Im just tired of it. We started therapy a few months ago and I'm so sick of hearing "this is temporary" from everyone, therapist included. He'd not held to the same standard as I am. This will pass?? But in the meantime I have to do everything and be accused of being a nag just to get a single minute of assistance?? LMAO what happens after things eventually even out?? HIS life gets easier and I'm left with a year of exhaustion and bad feelings/memories. I'm over it. I never want to have another baby with him. In fact, I think I hate him. There's still SO many more difficult toddler transitions coming up and it makes me want to throw up stressing about how it's all up to me IN ADDITION to picking up after this grown child in my house. I've talked to my parents, and while they're not thrilled that I'm considering a divorce, they are willing to let me move in. I would actually get a break if i did. My mom is a HUGE help with my baby and actually helps me without prompting...I don't know.
Am I wrong? I genuinely don't think I'll ever get past the resentment I feel for my husband after this first year. He's been pestering me to sleep with him which makes my stomach turn because I genuinely view him as another child in my life. It's not like this is a secret either. I've said it a million times both in and out of therapy. His behavior still hasn't changed. It's like he's holding onto that advice that we just have to "get through the first year."

I am always the failure, one thing after another happens to me, got into a motorcycle accident in 4/30 and now I'm off work until July, I got disability but since I was 1099 last year I only worked a couple months part time so I'm stuck with $145 a week, I pay child support $360 a month I have phone bills $100 for 4 and a lot of credit cards plus loans which I'll definitely not be able to pay hell I can't even get food stamps or anything because I live with my baby momma and she makes good money but she's still broke so I'm screwed... How can I make money , as soon as I miss a child support payment they immediately suspended my license, what can I do?? I'm In Cali

I am always the failure, one thing after another happens to me, got into a motorcycle accident in 4/30 and now I'm off work until July, I got disability but since I was 1099 last year I only worked a couple months part time so I'm stuck with $145 a week, I pay child support $360 a month I have phone bills $100 for 4 and a lot of credit cards plus loans which I'll definitely not be able to pay hell I can't even get food stamps or anything because I live with my baby momma and she makes good money but she's still broke so I'm screwed... How can I make money , as soon as I miss a child support payment they immediately suspended my license, what can I do?? I'm In Cali

I think I’m losing attraction for my husband. We’ve been married for 2 years at feeling ko nababawasan na yung attraction ko sa kanya and natatakot ako na magtuloy tuloy.
Here are my reasons: 1. I’m concerned about his heath. He’s overweight and we are trying to conceive that is why this one is a big deal for me. Ilang beses nadin kaming nagusap how he can improve pero parang wala syang enough effort to be fit and we all know na dapat sa kanya manggaling yung determination to do something about it or else hindi ko sya mattulungan. Yes, inopen ko na sa kanya many times and he keeps promising na he’ll do something abt it. He tries pero minimal effort. I’m also helping him by inviting him mag jog/ exercise pero talagang ako ang nag iinitiate. I’m also sending him vids to inspire him and bumibili ako ng healthy food for us. So frustrating kasi alam kong kaya nya kasi nagawa naman nya maging fit before. So anong problema? Yes, we are on the same page of wanting to have a baby. Both praying for it 🙏🏻

1. He does not seem to care much about his hygiene anymore. Nung magjowa palang kami hindi naman ganto or dahil hindi lang kami magkasama sa isang bahay kaya hindi ko napapansin or pwede din na sobrang comfortable na nya sa akin. Parang he doesn’t care about how he looks for me and I think that is still important even when ur already married??? Parang it’s turning me off. Na-open ko nadin sya pero parang same effort lang.
   
2. Dati okay lang sa akin na magkaiba kami ng trip. Mas magala ako sa kanya and he’s a home buddy. Hindi nya ako nrrestrict to go out with friends or have a date with myself pero minsan nallungkot ako kasi dapat sya yung kasama ko mag enjoy. Pag sa dates, “ikaw bahala” “kahit anong gusto mo” ang input nya. Minsan nakakasawa na ako nalang palagi ang nagddecide.
   
3. (This one is really not a main issue pero a contributing factor). I’m more financially stable than him. Kaya din siguro wala syang gana pag ang topic namin is travel or places we wanna go. Mejo nanibago lang din ako dahil nung single ako, I traveled a lot and talagang naeenjoy ko having new experiences. I want to experience this with him especially now na wala pa kaming anak pero ramdam ko yung restriction nya and nakakawala din ng gana.
   

He has so manyyyy good qualities din. He’s so hands on sa household chores, he manages my mood swings so well, he’s emotionally available, he’s persistent in making me happy, would never cheat, treats me like a queen etc. Basically he’s a good guy and I don’t like the possibility of falling out of love because of the ugly things. I know na I should’ve realized this before marriage but here we are. Siguro the good things overshaddowed the ugly parts and I thought I’d be willing to compromise and accept. But ngayon narrealize ko na these things are important.
So I’d like your insights please. Especially sa married women out there, what should be my approach? Any similar experiences? How did you compromise or accept the ugly parts of ur marriage? I don’t want to sound like a nagger kung paulit ulit kong sinasabi mga concerns ko. We already had mature conversations and fights abt this pero eto padin kami with our unresolved issues.

Hi every one. Looking for advice. I’m 6 weeks 5 days pregnant and have been diagnosed with a 40% separation of the gestational sac. They are calling it medium size. Fetal heart rate was 124. Been put on light duty which is very hard for me bc I’m so active, especially in the gym. Can everyone share their experiences? Two healthy pregnancies before this so this is scary. The er docs told me I have a 60% chance of keeping the baby. I can’t wait to see ob tomorrow to get some more solid answers.

so my dog is a boxer mix and 8 years old. she was fine all day yesterday, until about 9 o clock. she was laying halfway off the couch panting and looking around like she is confused. she sleeps with me on my bed, and when we went to bed last night she went on the bed but would pant and do circles on my bed, then lay down for a second , get back up and keep doing circles around the bed while she was on it. i tried to give her water and she wouldn’t drink it. she also would not jump off the bed, but after several attempts, she did do it. she usually eats first thing in the morning anywhere from 8 to 10. today she picked at her food and barely ate until a little later . i’m taking her to the vet today but am just curious if anyone knows what this is. and am so worried because that’s my baby lol

Hello! Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience to us or has any advice for things we can try.
Baby is about to turn 9 months. We’ve been doing 2 meals a day for a couple of months. We do blw and purées.
He’s not super into solids. Sometimes he’ll attempt to eat (still spits a lot out or throws up quite a lot of the time), sometimes plays, often just ignores! I know that’s all normal.
However, baby is allergic to eggs and dairy and needs to be eating an ‘age appropriate amount’ of a muffin every day. This is a huge struggle. So far, he’s had a grain sized amount at best.
We’ve tried: - blw style (no interest as of yet. Barely touched) and modelling eating them - putting with a purée on a spoon (some success but not consistent) - having some on a finger (no thank you mum, what the heck is that??) - putting crumbs in some water in a cup - various times of day / after nursing
Between this bloody muffin and the doctor’s advice that he needs to be regularly eating all allergens… I’m quite stressed 😅
Any tips / advice / suggestions??

Hello! Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience to us or has any advice for things we can try.
Baby is about to turn 9 months. We’ve been doing 2 meals a day for a couple of months. We do blw and purées.
He’s not super into solids. Sometimes he’ll attempt to eat (still spits a lot out or throws up quite a lot of the time), sometimes plays, often just ignores! I know that’s all normal.
However, baby is allergic to eggs and dairy and needs to be eating an ‘age appropriate amount’ of a muffin every day. This is a huge struggle. So far, he’s had a grain sized amount at best.
We’ve tried: - blw style (no interest as of yet. Barely touched) and modelling eating them - putting with a purée on a spoon (some success but not consistent) - having some on a finger (no thank you mum, what the heck is that??) - putting crumbs in some water in a cup - various times of day / after nursing
Between this bloody muffin and the doctor’s advice that he needs to be regularly eating all allergens… I’m quite stressed 😅
Any tips / advice / suggestions??

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5-20-2024

Why nightmares and ‘daymares’ could be early warning signs of autoimmune disease

An increase in nightmares and hallucinations—or ‘daymares’—could herald the onset of autoimmune diseases such as lupus, say an international team led by researchers at the University of Cambridge and King’s College London. The researchers argue that there must be greater recognition that these types of mental health and neurological symptoms can act as an early warning sign that an individual is approaching a “flare,” where their disease worsens for a period.
5-20-2024 Yoga and meditation-induced altered states of consciousness are common in the general population, study says
Yoga, mindfulness, meditation, breathwork, and other practices are gaining in popularity due to their potential to improve health and well-being. The effects of these practices are mostly positive and occasionally transformational, yet they are known to sometimes be associated with challenging altered states of consciousness. New research by a team including investigators from Massachusetts General Hospital reveals that altered states of consciousness associated with meditation practice are far more common than expected. Although many people reported positive outcomes, that were sometimes even considered transformational, from these experiences, for a substantial
5-20-2024 Examining the benefits of out-of-network care for pediatric moyamoya
Total in-episode expenses and resource use before the index surgery (preop) and including/after the surgery (postop). The comparisons are separated for analysis into (A) single institution cohorts (1 and 2) and (B) multi?institution cohorts (3 and 4). Moyamoya disease is a rare condition that affects the blood vessels in the brain, especially in children. Narrowing and blockage of vessels significantly increases the risk of stroke and requires surgical revascularization for treatment. Although research shows that outcomes of revascularization are better
5-20-2024 Study explores links between social media use, mental health and sleep quality
The more time you spend on social media, the greater the likelihood of having unpleasant social-media related dreams that cause distress, sleep disruption and impact our peace of mind. Flinders University’s Reza Shabahang says that the vast and rapid adoption of social media has the potential to influence various aspects of life, including the realm of dreaming. “As social media becomes increasingly intertwined with our lives, its impact extends beyond waking hours, and may influence our dreams,”
5-20-2024 How are asthma and heart health linked?
Although the heart and lungs are neighbors in your chest, people may think of them as separate entities with unrelated problems. But a growing body of evidence suggests that asthma—one of the most common lung disorders—is a risk factor for cardiovascular disease. Asthma is a serious chronic disease in which airways are inflamed, often in response to specific triggers. It affects about 25 million people in the U.S., including nearly 5 million children, causing millions of annual visits to doctors’ offices and emergency rooms. “We call these major changes
5-20-2024 STUDY EXPLORES PATIENT TRUST IN PHYSICIANS
Trust in one’s physician drives positive health practices. In a scoping review, SUNY Poly Professor of Sociology Dr. Linda R. Weber discovered new developments in the measurement of trust, identified those measures of trust that have known reliability and validity, and compared those instruments’ conceptualizations, dimensions, and indicators. The paper is published in the journal PLOS ONE. Weber explains that 10 dimensions emerged from the study: fidelity, technical competence, communicative competence, interpersonal competence (i.e., caring), honesty, confidentiality, global, behavioral, fairness, and system trust/accountability. In addition, these findings provide the foundation
5-20-2024 TIMESAVING TIPS FOR COOKING HEALTHY MEALS
Living a busy, fast-paced life can make it hard to find the motivation to cook a healthy meal at home. However, learning some shortcuts in the kitchen can keep your healthy eating goals on track and help you avoid grazing on unhealthy snacks, grabbing the first thing you see in the fridge or going out for fast food. Why cook at home? Research shows that maintaining a healthy weight is challenging when you eat out too frequently. Restaurant portions often are super-sized
5-20-2024 UNDERSTANDING PERIMENOPAUSE VS. MENOPAUSE
Menopause marks a significant transition for women, yet understanding its precursor, perimenopause, and its symptoms can be complex. Dr. Stephanie Faubion, director of Mayo Clinic’s Center for Women’s Health and medical director of The Menopause Society, says experiencing perimenopause and menopause can be confusing for some. She says it is not only patients who may find it confusing, but medical providers as well, due to lack of training in menopause management. “Menopause is defined by no menstrual cycle for a year,” says Dr. Faubion.
5-20-2024 LOW-DOSE IRON SUPPLEMENTATION HAS NO BENEFIT FOR BREASTFED INFANTS, SHOWS STUDY
The American Pediatric Association recommends iron supplements to all healthy infants who breastfeed longer than four months, while its European counterpart, Society of Gastroenterology, Hepataology and Nutrition, does not recommend it. These deviating guidelines stimulated researchers to design a new study. Breastfeeding is strongly recommended, and the proportion of children are breastfed during the first half of life is high. The researchers wanted to determine whether breastfeeding babies could benefit from extra iron.
5-20-2024 ALLERGY MEDICATIONS COME WITH HAZARDS: BE AWARE
People with seasonal allergies often turn to over-the-counter and prescription medicines to relieve symptoms like coughing, sneezing, runny nose, congestion and itchy eyes, nose or throat. But they often aren’t aware that these meds—including antihistamines—have as much risk for potential side effects, drug interactions and overdose as other drugs. “All medicines have side effects associated with them even when they are taken appropriately and according to dosing directions on the label,”
5-20-2024 I CAN’T AFFORD OLIVE OIL—WHAT ELSE CAN I USE?
If you buy your olive oil in bulk, you’ve likely been in for a shock in recent weeks. Major supermarkets have been selling olive oil for up to A$65 for a four-liter tin, and up to $26 for a 750 milliliter bottle. We’ve been hearing about the health benefits of olive oil for years. And many of us are adding it to salads, or baking and frying with it. But during a cost-of-living crisis, these high prices can put olive oil out of reach. Let’s take a look at why
5-20-2024 Researchers uncover biological trigger of early puberty
Heather Brenhouse, associate professor of psychology, says disrupting the caretaker relationship can really traumatize a child or a developing rodent. Credit: Ruby Wallau/Northeastern University New research conducted by the Brenhouse Lab reveals how early life adversity triggers early puberty and late-life anxiety, paving the way for potential interventions. The onset of puberty has been creeping downward for decades. In the United States, the average age of girls reaching puberty ranges from 8.8 to 10.3 years old. The early start of puberty, which is associated with many health risks, can be
5-20-2024 Bioluminescence and 3D-printed implants shed light on brain–spinal interactions
Brain-spinal cord duet’s neurodynamic symphony is now accessible to scientists via novel multi-organ implants. Credit: Dmitrijs Celinskis A sensory process such as pain is no ordinary phenomenon—it’s a symphony of neural and vascular interactions orchestrated by the brain and spinal cord. Attempting to dissect this symphony by focusing on a single region is like trying to understand a complex melody by listening to just one instrument. It’s incomplete, potentially misleading, and may result in erroneous conclusions. Enter the Carney Institute’s team of visionaries. Their mission? To develop tools that allow
5-20-2024 New thesis explores cancer treatment that can prevent relapse
. What is the main focus of your thesis? Relapse following initial treatment efficacy remains a major clinical challenge for many cancers. The focus of my thesis has been to explore the therapeutic impact of immune cells in patients with blood cancer (leukemia), by first investigating which cells
5-20-2024 New study reveals health and social benefits of car-free living
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A certain biological pathway—a set of linked reactions in the body—drives the inflammation seen in the skin disease psoriasis, a new study finds. The work could lead to improved therapies for all inflammatory skin diseases, including atopic and allergic dermatitis and a type of boil called hidradenitis suppurativa, say the study authors. The findings are published in the journal Immunity. Inflammation is the body’s natural response to irritation and infection, but when out of control, it can lead to the reddish, flaky, itchy lesions that
5-20-2024 Prescription co-payments linked to more hospital admissions in New Zealand, study finds
A new study from researchers cautions that bringing back the $5 co-payment for prescription medicines could see a jump in hospital admissions. The study analyzed health data for 71,502 people and found those who didn’t pick up a prescription because they couldn’t afford the $5 fee had a 34% higher rate of being admitted to hospital.
5-20-2024 How a simulation is informing COVID-19 vaccine policy after our ‘return to normal’
As the saying goes “There is no such thing as normal” and this has been especially true after the pandemic. Before the emergence of the omicron COVID-19 variant, countries like the U.K. had high vaccination coverage along with widespread exposure to COVID-19 in the population. This combination of vaccine and infection-derived immunity is termed hybrid immunity and is different to vaccine immunity or infection immunity alone. In contrast, other countries, including Australia, New Zealand and those in the Western Pacific, had a very different pandemic experience.
5-20-2024 Researchers find intriguing connections between Alzheimer’s disease and other common conditions
A study has found that while some medical conditions appear to increase our likelihood of developing Alzheimer’s disease, others appear to decrease the odds. The study, led by Dr. Yijun (Nicholas) Pan and Dr. Liang Jin, analyzed data from 2,443 older Australians living in Melbourne or Perth who are part of the Australian Imaging, Biomarker and Lifestyle (AIBL) study, an internationally recognized cohort for dementia research. “We found anxiety and other neurological disorders are associated with increased likelihood of Alzheimer’s disease,” Dr. Pan said.
5-20-2024 Prepping autistic or sound-sensitive kids for cicada noise
As Chicagoans await the emergence of the cicadas, parents of children on the autism spectrum and/or who have sensitivities to sound can take a few steps to prepare for what is expected to be a loud summer. “Some children on the spectrum can struggle with loud or unexpected noises, such as toilets that automatically flush, fireworks around the Fourth of July or the emergence of a large number of cicadas,”
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Over 40% of cases curated based on stringent clinical and laboratory criteria from the Indian subcontinent have an inherited iron metabolism defect on comprehensive genomic evaluation, report investigators in The Journal of Molecular Diagnostics. Although iron deficiency anemia is the most prevalent form of anemia globally,
5-20-2024 Study finds tyrosine kinase Csk promotes germinal center B cell survival and affinity maturation
The authors found that Csk (a tyrosine kinase that attenuates B cell receptor signaling) is required for germinal center maintenance and efficient antibody maturation. The immune system strikes a fine balance by identifying and neutralizing disease-causing agents while carefully avoiding destruction of healthy tissues and cells. Now, researchers from Japan have shed new light on one of the processes that helps train immune cells to act only against genuine threats.
5-20-2024 Significant gaps between science of obesity and the care patients receive, say experts
As research continues to produce evidence about the underlying causes of obesity and optimal strategies to treat and manage obesity have evolved, there are disparities in application of the latest scientific advances in the clinical care that people with obesity receive. Widespread adoption of current findings, consistency of care and expertise in obesity care varies by health care professional and institution.
5-20-2024 Improving online depression treatment
Symptom course of depression for individuals who dropped out of treatment and those who completed treatment. In the dropout group, there is an initial decrease in symptoms while the patients were still in treatment, which tapers off as they drop out. For completers, there is close to a linear change over time. This suggests there is a relation between the more that an individual continues to participate in ICBT and their depressive symptom improvement.
5-20-2024 Women face worse chronic kidney disease management in primary care
Women receive worse primary care-based chronic kidney disease (CKD) management than men, according to a research letter adult patients with CKD receiving primary care at 15 practices using electronic health record data to examine sex disparities in guideline-based CKD management
5-20-2024 Bisoprolol does not reduce exacerbations in at-risk COPD patients
For patients with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), bisoprolol does not reduce the number of self-reported exacerbations treated with oral corticosteroids, antibiotics, or both, according to a study
5-20-2024 Anticancer potential of CLK kinase inhibitors 1C8 and GPS167 via EMT and antiviral immune response
The diheteroarylamide-based compound 1C8 and the aminothiazole carboxamide-related compound GPS167 inhibit the CLK kinases, and affect the proliferation of a broad range of cancer cell lines. A chemogenomic screen previously performed with GPS167 revealed that the depletion of components associated with mitotic spindle assembly altered
5-20-2024 Study sheds light on bacteria associated with pre-term birth
Researchers from North Carolina State University have found that multiple species of Gardnerella, bacteria sometimes associated with bacterial vaginosis (BV) and pre-term birth, can coexist in the same vaginal microbiome. The findings, published in mSystems, add to the emerging picture of Gardnerella’s effects on human health. Gardnerella is a group of anaerobic bacteria that are commonly found in the vaginal microbiome. Higher levels of the bacteria are a signature of BV and associated with higher risk of pre-term birth, but it is also found in women who have no sign
5-20-2024 New AI model uses federated learning for multi-organ segmentation based on medical image data
Researchers have successfully developed the technology that can accurately segment different body organs by effectively learning medical image data used for different purposes in different hospitals, which is expected to greatly contribute to the development of large-scale medical AI models in the future.
5-20-2024 Second Phase 3 clinical trial again shows dupilumab lessens disease in COPD patients with type 2 inflammation
Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease patients with type 2 inflammation may soon gain access to a new drug—dupilumab—that showed rapid and sustained improvements in patients in a pivotal Phase 3 clinical trial, researchers report in the New England Journal of Medicine. This monoclonal antibody is the first biologic shown to improve clinical outcomes in COPD. The data supporting the use of dupilumab in COPD will be reviewed by the United States Food and Drug Administration in June. The disease improvements—as measured by a significantly lower annualized rate of acute exacerbations
5-20-2024 New AI model uses federated learning for multi-organ segmentation based on medical image data
Researchers have successfully developed the technology that can accurately segment different body organs by effectively learning medical image data used for different purposes in different hospitals, which is expected to greatly contribute to the development of large-scale medical AI models in the future.
5-20-2024 Second Phase 3 clinical trial again shows dupilumab lessens disease in COPD patients with type 2 inflammation
Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease patients with type 2 inflammation may soon gain access to a new drug—dupilumab—that showed rapid and sustained improvements in patients in a pivotal Phase 3 clinical trial, researchers report in the New England Journal of Medicine. This monoclonal antibody is the first biologic shown to improve clinical outcomes in COPD. The data supporting the use of dupilumab in COPD will be reviewed by the United States Food and Drug Administration in June. The disease improvements—as measured by a significantly lower annualized rate of acute exacerbations

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• 5-20-2024UK REPORT FINDS COVER-UP OF DECADES-LONG INFECTED BLOOD SCANDAL
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• 5-20-2024RESEARCH SHOWS THAT FERROPTOSIS, A FORM OF CELL DEATH, OCCURS IN SEVERE COVID-19 PATIENT LUNGS
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• 5-20-2024STUDY EXPLORES PATIENT TRUST IN PHYSICIANS
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• 5-20-2024MEDICAID ‘UNWINDING’ DECRIED AS BIASED AGAINST DISABLED PEOPLE
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• 5-20-2024LOW-DOSE IRON SUPPLEMENTATION HAS NO BENEFIT FOR BREASTFED INFANTS, SHOWS STUDY
• 5-20-2024IS IT BIRD FLU JUST AN ANIMAL THING, OR CAN PEOPLE CATCH IT?
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• 5-20-2024AI CHATBOTS SHOW HIGHER EMPATHY, READABILITY IN RESPONDING TO CANCER QUESTIONS, STUDY FINDS
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Hi, I'm new to reddit but this sub came up many times as I was googling so I'm here for advice! I just had my 5th baby at the end of February and for the first time I'm struggling with nursing. All my others were champs, my first two kids refusing bottles even and being enormous chunks, my next two switched between bottles and nursing with no issues and we're small-average. This fifth kid is giving me a run for my money, just when I thought I had it figured out. She was my biggest at birth but lost a ton of weight in the beginning. We got to the point where we were supposed to be doing top ups in bottles when she wasn't gaining enough, but at first she refused bottles. Eventually got her to take a bottle but she wasn't gaining enough so we were told to do all bottle feeds for a while to make sure she was getting enough and actually able to gain weight. She finally has been gaining weight and I've been pumping 8-10 times a day and adding some formula as needed. To say I loathe this is an understatement. I am honestly just not cut out to be a bottle feeding mom. Once I literally brought everything and pumped in the car but had forgotten a nipple, so I had a screaming baby with no way to feed her and even if she would have latched then, I had just pumped so there wasn't much to give. The actual pumping isn't the worst right now, I'm in the car with my older kids enough that I pump on the go while or use a wearable pump so it's fine, I just stick everything in the fridge and wash at the end of the day so that part doesn't even bother me. I will never not have dishes to do with 5 kids. But holy moly, the packing up my entire kitchen to leave the house with pump parts, bottles, bags to store milk, I haaaaaaaaaaaaate it. So even if I wanted to do full formula I'd still be dragging crap out of the house, just minus the pump stuff. I loved my days of not being able to forget baby food, it was attached to my body and so easy. I've been scouring the sub and seen many inspiring and successful stories of getting baby back to breastfeeding, but my baby likes to do things backwards apparently. Everyone said they'd nurse then offer a bottle to top up, but my baby won't nurse if she's hangry, she just screeches until she gets a bottle. Once she's no longer hangry she will nurse just fine. She'll finish a feed if I gave a smaller bottle, or comfort nurse. Sometimes if I try to nurse maybe 45 minutes to an hour after a regular feed she'll have a snack, but I am just not able to get her to nurse start to finish for a normal feeding. The closest I get to that currently is if she wakes up super early in the morning I can pull her into bed with me and nurse side-lying. She will immediately latch and settle/go back to sleep, but she's definitely not getting a full feed. Once we're actually up for the day I still get my biggest pump and she will still want a whole bottle. So good news is she will latch and nurse and we both enjoy it (if anything I am desperately clinging to these sessions because it's one of my favorite parts of motherhood and I am bitter that this isn't working when I've seen the light on the other side). If this baby is "backwards combo/triple fed" how would you go about getting back to nursing full time with no more bottles?
Edit: if it matters any I am using the Pigeon brand bottles on the 0+ month nipple in hopes of not having her get too attached to a fast flowing bottle and we do pace feed .

I think it’s a good time for people to revisit some of Min Heejin’s previous personal and creative choices. When you see everything together it no longer looks like a couple of coincidences but a long leading pattern of behavior
I’ve tried to link as much as I can. Please let me know if need to edit or add anything. None of the MV links are the actual music videos and are instead stills posted on Imgur
-Hyein’s top in the Attention MV was a bralette while the older members all were more covered up. Hyein is 14 in this MV
-In the Attention MV their laptop falls to the ground as they’re on a video call and the people on the other end watch them dance
-Minji wears a shirt that says pimp is yours
-Min Heejin does a interview with BE(ATTITUDE) Magazine. She talks a bit about Hyein

Our youngest member is cool and sophisticated. She came to my home one day and we ate together, went to the bookstore, and walked around the neighborhood, talking about this and that. There was a passing awkwardness, but after a while it felt like I was taking a walk with a friend. She’s got so many talents and amazing skills. She’s young, but thoughtful, with that innocence they have at that age. I still remember bathing in her refreshing energy, and the sublime weather only added to the effect.

-NewJeans officially releases Cookie which is filled with sexual innuendo lyrics. Their ages at this point are 18, 17, 17, 16, and 14. Cookie was written by two native English speakers.
-Min Heejin posts a picture on Instagram that includes the Histoire de Melody Nelson album by Serge Gainsbourg on display in her apartment. The album’s storyline is about a middle age man who takes a 14 year old’s virginity
-Min Heejin posts a picture on Instagram of Olivia Hussey and Leonard Whiting’s nude scene from the 1968 movie Romeo and Juliet. Olivia was 15 at the time of filming and Leonard was 16. (The actors have actually sued Paramount over the nudity in this scene you can read about it here)
-Min Heejin posts several pictures that include a “Baby Brooke” picture as decoration in her apartment. Brooke Shields was extremely sexually exploited as a child
-Min Heejin posts a picture that includes a still from the 1974 film Le Farò de Padre. The IMDb page for the film. The plot is an older man plans to marry a mentally-challenged, sex-crazed, adolescent girl.
-Danielle gets styled like Mathilda from Léon the Professional. Mathilda is played by 12 year old Natalie Portman and there are many inappropriate themes/hintings between her and the titular character who was portrayed by 46 year old Jean Reno.
There are also these two posts that she made but I do not know who they are if they are also celebrities/actors. I’m also sorry for the bad screenshot quality of her Instagram posts, she has since deleted these so these screenshots are from Twitter
-Min Heejin responds to the Instagram post controversy in a interview with JoongAng Ilbo.She says that all of the pictures of minors she had on her wall were gifted to her from a couple years ago. She also says that pimp is yours and Cookie are slang.
-The music video of OMG is taking place in a mental hospital with all of the members having different mental issues.
-Haters are directly talked to at the end of the OMG MV as one of the members stops another one from writing a hate comment on Twitter and tells the other member it’s time to go. The hate comment says “Does anyone else feel uncomfortable watching the MV?”
-NewJeans gets into a controversy ahead of their ETA release as there are many similarities with a Spanish terrorist cult(Euskadi Ta Askatasuna). The teaser video said starting Mikel, Maria, and Eva which are names people connected to the cult. The release date of ETA(July 21st) was also the date of two separate cult attacks in different years.
-The MV for Cool With You stars Jung Hoyeon as a woman who follows around and falls in love with a man who is unable to see her as she is some sort of invisible entity like Eros. She is able to become human after standing naked in the rain. The 5 members of NewJeans are basically her guardian angels and have been watching over her the entire time including a scene where Hoyeon gets on top of the man as he’s sleeping
Min Heejin worked at SM Entertainment from 2002 until 2018. These are some controversial moments that she was involved in during that time at SM
please note that I did not actively follow her career at that point so if I got any information wrong please let me know
-The Happiness MV from Red Velvet references the bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki and 9/11. The MV was edited to get rid of the collage.
-Red Velvet releases Ice Cream Cake which is filled with sexual innuendos. The ages of the members at this point are 23, 21, 21, 18, and Yeri being 16.
-This photoshoot for Red Velvet’s Rookie which I personally think fetishizes the members in a Lolita style. Yeri is 17
-Shinee’s topless photoshoot for Sherlock. Jonghyun’s body had too much muscle definition so they photoshopped it to make his body more boyish.
-The MV for NCT Dream’s My First And Last includes the members being students who are in love with their female teacher. The members ages at this point are also 18, 17, 16, 16, 16, 15, and 15.
-The MV for NCT 127’s Fire Truck includes shooting a young looking girl with water.
-The MV for Super Junior’s Devil had a 14 year old actress
Related to the recent Kakaotalk texts that were leaked where Min Heejin calls some of the members fat - here is a predebut video of the members of NewJeans talking with Min Heejin. The girls are only eating vegetables

Min Hee Jin: How is it?
Hyein: It’s so good. I think after coming here, I got used to this healthy taste. So now I like such foods.
Min Hee Jin: Wow, finally something good to hear. Hyein originally liked meat, though.
Hyein: Yeah. I still like meat but, well.

Hi all, I’ve started cloth diapering and think I’ve settled on LPO pockets for now - my husband seems to like them too.
I have a few questions though if anyone can shed some light?

1. I’m thinking of buying hemp inserts to double up with the ones they came with.

I see LPO sells hemp inserts but I’ve heard good things about Thirsties cotton/hemp. From what I can tell, they’re pretty much the same except size? Has anyone tried LPO hemp inserts? Are they good? I’m placing an order there anyway so I’d prefer to just them there if they’re just as good!

1. I’m also considering just buying FSTs and pad folding around the current insert instead of hemp. Would that be just as good?
   
2. What would be a good combo for overnight? My 4mo old baby currently wakes up every 3-4 hours for food, with a 4-6 hour stretch for the first stretch. I’ve seen people recommend a GMD cotton prefold with a hemp insert, or a microfiber + bamboo + hemp insert. I’m trying to not have to buy too many things if I don’t need to. Ideally I’d like to buy something that’ll help him last all night for when we eventually get there. What has worked for you?
   
3. And bonus question… if FSTs are a good idea, I’m in Canada and struggling to find affordable FSTs as it doesn’t seem Walmart sells them here. At least not the last time I checked a few months ago. If you’re Canadian, where did you get your FSTs?
   

As someone who was born and raised in the uk I can understand how people as a base instinct would root for Israel, as a teenager I saw posts on social media about Palestinian oppression and started sharing them. I was told off by my mum, my posts all got removed and when I asked a teacher about it in school they told me being anti Zionist was anti semitic, everything I saw in the news was pro Israel and labelling Palestine as a terrorist state. I have some Jewish roots so have always been raised with an awareness of antisemitism, my mum taught me about the holocaust as well as other things like South Africa’s apartheid. However the one thing I can’t understand is how people are not only still siding with Israel but not actively doing their best to show support and join Palestinian demonstrations. I can see how people would start with Israel but not how people can still be actively supporting a genocide. I just have questions because I still can’t understand how you can see what’s going on and think that it’s alright.
1.) what entitles Israel to forcefully remove civilians from their homes? 2.) what entitles Israel to commit ecocide which almost exclusively harms civilians? (which they have done en mass. According to many sources.) 3.) If you support Israel do you also support the US and UK invasions in the Middle East? 4.) Do you see Palestinian infants as terrorists and how can you justify the deaths of so many children? 5.) What is your opinion on the constant use of drones simply to make noise with the purpose of depriving everyone in Gaza of sleep (which is a common torture method and goes against the Geneva convention) 6.) have you seen the videos from Palestinian content creators like Motaz Azaiza and if so what is your opinion to seeing content like babies being pulled out of rubble? 7.) How is a state that excludes people from living in areas, walking down certain streets and restricting basic human rights and access to water, electricity and food not an apartheidal regime? (All against the Geneva convention.) 8.) why is the reaction to October 7th so disproportionate? 9.) Do you realise that Hamas only exists as a result of Palestinian oppression? 10.) Do you know that the amount of people detained by Israel without trial or charges even just currently; dwarfs the amount of hostages taken by hamas? 11.) What’s the justification behind videos (which are for the most part proven to be untampered) of Israeli snipers, tanks and soldiers firing at and killing children, unarmed civilians literally holding white flags as well as clearly marked vehicles carrying aid workers. 12.) How can you see pictures and videos of entire cities reduced to rubble and think that’s ok as a military act? 13.) Do you respect the amount of articles of the Geneva convention Israel has broken as a legitimate response to October 7th and if so at what point did these actions become justified for you? 14.) what makes terrorists worse than an army systematically committing the same atrocities on a much larger scale? 15.) Do you realise that the nations that support you are mostly doing so against the wishes of their citizens to support the war economy. (Check novaramedia for their polls they’ve reported them on most of the biggest financing countries including the Uk and US according to entirely trusted sources.) 16.) Why are Hamas so much more willing to enter negotiations and why are Israel so resistant to them. 17.) Do you think Israel should be going further? 18.) And lastly at what point is it too far for you?
P.S I am not writing this to bait anyone and my position has been formed from a standpoint that has started out pro Israeli and was neutral until late 2021. I stand with the Palestinians from a country that not only has heavily supported Israel for years but was a key part of its formation, I have formed my opinion based on the facts of what I’ve seen despite being raised entirely to the contrary. (Also my mum is currently watching a documentary on the nakba, she also now firmly supports Palestine having raised me in a household that believed in Zionism.)

First off, my sister in law (my husband’s oldest sister) is really well off. Her husband gave her a maher 25 years ago. Then he got an inheritance, which is an entire apartment complex that he currently rents out. When he sells it, which he can, at any moment, she’s gonna hit a huge jackpot. Good for her. No reason to be jealous of me!!!
Now for me, I married my husband without mehr because he promised me that he’ll give it to me later down the line. It’s cuz when I married my husband he was homeless and undocumented and living out of his car. We are still really realy struggling and don’t have our own place (alhamdulilah) but we have tawwakul in Allah and he works and I’m living abroad with our baby daughter while he saves up. We are a lot better than when we met like at least we’re not homeless and have food and shelter and our necessities met praise be to Allah
Anyway here’s the spoiler. Mehr can be anything right, well my mehr is to get my breast implants removed. It’s only $3.5k maybe 5k MAX. No lift or anything. Just remove these silicones that I did by mistake before I met my husband, due to self esteem issues and mom saying I had a man figure. I know some people get more than 3.5k including his sisters etc so idk why she’s telling me it’s wreckless and irresponsible now….
My mehr, my right to receive it, right??? My mehr my decision…
My husband is on board to let me do it now. It’s caused a lot of immune illnesses and numular eczema and brain fog Breast implant illness. Also it stole the joy of breastfeeding and ruined it for me. Since my baby stopped and refused to breast feed due to the hard masses they are. Now is the perfect time to remove them because I couldn’t get them removed when I was pregnant
Is my SIL in th wrong for telling me I ’m stupid and not to? Seems hypocritical
Oh and another reason that makes her an even bigger hypocrite is because she told me she let both her daughters get cosmetic surgeries (nose jobs And breast implants because she wants them to fix what is bothering them so that they can be fully confident adults who are happy in their bodies. So why is she trying to prevent me from getting mine removed? They’re my biggest insecurity)

My baby is going to start solids in a few weeks. Is it worth it to get one of those pure food makers on Amazon, they cook and puree the food for you all in one go? Or do you just cook it yourself and puree it yourself with like a handheld grinder? Or do I just buy baby food already packaged and puréed?

Let’s goooo baby home game finally come and join us to pre-game this Saturday! The Inland Empire LA Galaxy Fanatics will be at the LOT 13. Bring your crew and chill with us. There will be food and beers 🍻 however we welcome more food and beers! 🍻 !!! www.iegcrew.com !!