We had a shared instagram account for our close friends, where we used to post pics of us and videos. Today, after not texting since Sunday he randomly texted me that he will be removing all the pics from the account. He didn’t give me time to reply, he just deleted everything immediately. I told him could we at least archive them as I don’t like deleting memories? And he said we could but he already deleted them and we still have the highlights. I told him I can get them back and archive them, and that’s what I did, but until I got them back he removed the highlights as well.
I’ve also kind of messed up today, bc I didn’t think he’s still logged in, so I wrote in the search bar “we don’t talk anymore but I miss you :(“ hoping eventually he would see it, but wasn’t expecting it to be today. I feel so stupid and dumb, he probably was like wtf?
Tbh, I was expecting that we will be removing the account. I’m surprised how he didn’t tell me to just delete it, but I know eventually he will. But part of me still had the small hope that we would fix things eventually and will use the account again. But it was dumb of me to think that. It hurts how fast he’s moved on, it hasn’t even been 2 months.
I feel so hurt all over again. He broke ‘NC’ just to tell me this, he didn’t bother to start a convo before. But I now know I will have to let him go unfortunately:(

howdy. looking to sell off some records to make room for more records - you know how it goes. I'm nowhere near a professional grader so if anything looks interesting to you please feel free to ask for pictures and I'll try to highlight anything that sticks out with the LPs or sleeves. I always open and (usually) spin everything I buy, so nothing here is sealed. I hand wash my LPs and store them in inner and outer MoFi, Hudson HiFi or Turntable Lab sleeves outside of the record's jacket. asking $6 shipped via Media Mail + $1 for any additional records if you'd like to bundle. PayPal G&S only. feel free to DM with any questions. not a professional at sleeve and record grading so I'm erring on the side of caution with these. grading is record/sleeve. let's get into it!
Aimee Mann / Jon Brion - Magnolia OST (3LP Mondo reissue on white 140g wax. VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $30
Animal Collective - Spirit They're Gone, Spirit They've Vanished (2023 reissue on powder blue wax w/ OBI strip. this is a weird one, it was a Domino store exclusive but there was an mispress of the A Night At Mr. Raindrops Holistic Pharmacy EP. I don't know what the mispress was, but they included a second copy of it in a plain cardboard sleeve. so all together this is a 3LP set of the newly remastered album, the mispressed EP and the fixed pressing of the EP. VG+/VG+, opened the original album and played once, never opened either EPs.) $60
The Beatles - Abbey Road (2019 remix picture disc. VG+/VG+ still in shrink but opened and in a MoFi inner now. played maybe once?) $50
The Beatles - Please Please Me (1988 mono pressing. VG/VG. plays without skips, but I'm just on the hunt for a better pressing of this one.) $25
The Beatles - Sgt. Pepper (OG Capitol '67 mono Scranton pressing, comes w/ psychedelic inner and cutouts. this one gets really.. mushy? sounding on the back end. maybe my stylus was just dusty, but I don't remember. sleeve is pretty nice. G/G+) $18
The Beatles - Sgt. Pepper (OG Capitol '67 mono Jacksonville pressing, I don't believe this one has any inserts. sleeve is also a little busted. as with anything listed ask for pics and I will gladly send them. G/G) $10
The Beatles - Sgt. Pepper ('75 Capitol stereo reissue. all around nice copy. includes psychedelic sleeve and cutouts. G+/G+) $15
Take all three Sgt. Peppers for $36 shipped.
blink-182 - One More Time... (Blood Records lenticular sleeve pressing on pink and black split /5000. this record shipped unsealed but was stored in an inner and outer sleeve, never played. presumed M/M.) $60
Elliott Smith - Elliott Smith (2020 Newbury comics blue/white split /750. sounds and looks excellent. opened and played a handful of times. VG+/VG+) $40
Faye Wong - Di-Dar (2023 Japan reissue w/OBI, VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $40
Faye Wong - My Favorite (2023 Japan reissue w/OBI, VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $40
Faye Wong - Please Myself (2023 Japan reissue w/OBI, VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $40
(take all Faye Wong LPs for $110 shipped)
Heatmiser - The Music of Heatmiser (yellow/red splatter, 180g, VG+/VG+. opened and played once.) $25
Jenny Lewis - Joy'All (splatter pressing from her webstore. NM/NM. opened but never played.) $45
Jim Lang - Hey Arnold! The Music Vol. 1 (sixth pressing, Enjoy the Rides webstore exclusive "Yahoo Soda / Stinky Goes Hollywood" pressing /200. opened to check color but never played. VG+VG+.) $65
John Coltrane w/ Eric Dolphy - Evenings at the Village Gate (orange wax, opened and played once. VG+/VG+) $20
Joyce Manor - 40 oz. to Fresno (single-sided coke bottle clear pressing w/ an etching on the b-side. NM/NM. opened but never played.) $18
Miles Davis - Agaharta (2011 4Menwithbeards reissue. honestly sounds pretty good, but I love this album a lot and am hunting for a Japanese OG pressing. VG/VG. opened and played once or twice.) $18
Miles Davis - 'Round About Midnight (Discogs has this listed as a bootleg - I think it's more of a grey market pressing. it sounds fine to my ears, but I'm not an audiophile and haven't heard any other pressing of this album. VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $10
Nuno Canavarro - Plux Quba (Drag City reissue from last year but they always use the same plates so it's the same as the 2015 pressing. VG+/VG+. opened and played once.) $10
R.E.M. - Up (green marble, 180g reissue, G+/VG+. sadly my copy of this came straight from the band's store pretty dished. it doesn't seem to affect play even though the records look pretty rough. I'm sure for a fan of this one you could seek out getting it flattened out.) $20
Radiohead - In Rainbows (2021 reissue, VG+/VG+. opened and played once.) CLAIMED
Ryuichi Sakamoto - 12 (2023 UK pressing on clear wax, VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $25
Taylor Swift - Reputation (2LP picture disc edition, VG+/VG+, opened but never played.) $25
Tom Waits - Rain Dogs (blue sky opaque, 180g reissue, VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $28
Tom Waits - Swordfishtrombones (yellow opaque "canary", 180g reissue, VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $28
Tom Waits - Bone Machine (translucent milk, 180g reissue, VG+/VG+, opened and played once.) $28
(take all three Tom Waits + a poster I got advertising these reissues for $90 shipped.)
Travis Scott - Utopia (cover #4) & K-Pop (12" single) (both unopened and never played, M/M.) $10

Every time I go to my hair stylist I tell her I want my hair more blonde and I’m looking for a cool blonde color. I’ve asked for an ash blonde, platinum blonde, cool blonde and it’s always a more warm blonde. I get full highlights, but honestly this is the first stylist I’ve gone to where my hair is still dark underneath (pic #2) if I put it half up/half down or even part it differently. That has never been the case previously when I would get full highlights with my stylist in the state I lived in previously. I would think if I’m getting full highlights when I put my hair half up it would be the same color as my hair on top.
The one time she got my hair closer to what I was looking for the hairs close to my face were somewhat blue/purple tinted. I read that it occurred because she over toned my hair.
Can the color I’m looking for in pic #3 be achieved with full highlights or do I need to ask for a different service such as coloring or bleaching my hair? I just don’t know how to communicate effectively what I want. I’ve even shown her pictures and my hair just never gets to the color I want. Does my hair just not hold color? My natural hair isn’t super dark, so I’m confused why it seems so difficult to achieve.
I don’t want to give up on my hair stylist, but I’m struggling to figure out what the deal is. If you have any advice on what service I should be requesting and how to communicate the color blonde I’m trying to achieve I would greatly appreciate it! I have an appointment scheduled for May 11th and would like to give her a heads up if I need to switch the type of service I’m getting done.

Hi guys, I'm a destination wedding photographer in the Caribbean. Most of my clients are super fun (verging on rowdy) but I have a slightly different wedding coming up - parents are organizing and they have traditional tastes, they're from the South USA.
I believe it's important to include solid, timeless wedding photography no matter how cool and fun the couple is, but I also unusually include a lot of photojournalistic style images too, and realized quickly that mom is pretty horrified by what I generally see as joyful chaos and a celebration of real life. I understand her point of view, that she wants things to seem 'proper', I will adjust accordingly. was thinking of delivering a "highlights" gallery with the super clean traditional stuff as well as a 'full gallery" since bride is much less traditional than mom.
However, there are some things that I would have never even thought of - like mom is also horrified by photos taken inside - especially in the getting ready, really mom doesn't want any pics (that aren't detail shots) before the dress goes on. I researched a bunch of Southern wedding photogs and it's true - often the first getting ready photo is mom pretending to button a bride's dress up in the middle of a field / garden.... Seems mildly bonkers to me, but whatever floats her boat, happy to oblige!
So my question is: are there any other unspoken rules, conventions or just random things I should avoid to give my clients a great experience? The client has reviewed my portfolio and likes my work, and I have done a bunch of research so I have an idea of what she is expecting. I have a decade of experience and I know how to do my job. However I'm aware that there is some stuff that is completely normal for me and verging on shocking for her, and vice versa! Please help!
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I'm 40(F) and my husband 52(M) have known Each other for 12 years, decided to get together about 8 years ago, and been Married for 2 years. You would think it was meant to be. Im not so sure. So 8 years ago when we first started dating I just knew I found my twin flame, my Soulmate. Everything was perfect, being with my best friend. At the start of our relationship he was a OTR truck driver. He would be gone for months but when he came home We couldn't keep Our hands off each other. In 2019 we decided to get rid of my home and go on the road with him. I was so for it. So thats what I did. We were going to team up, travel and make money. The 1st week out I noticed a difference in him. With it only being us on the truck he was not trying to be intimate with me, which was suspicious because we always got it in. So now im getting this feeling in the pit of my stomach So while he was sleep I went through his phone. Found him texting with a chick he used to mess with before me, all sexual messages, Nude pics and all, and the text go back to the begining of our relationship. So of course I flipped tf out. Woke him up cussing him out. I grabbed my stuff and got off the truck, I didnt care I had no clue where we were. After calming down I returned to the truck to him apologizing. Saying that he didn't realize the conversations were inappropriate and disrespectful. I stayed Silent on his truck for a full Week. Not 1 word to him. I eventually decided to forgive him.
A few months later his truck broke down and I decided to go back home. So we returned home, and got our lst official place together, at this time Covid had everything locked down except my eggs, yup I got pregnant. We had our baby boy in 2021. After giving birth and trying to get me back, I decided what the Hell let's spice things up in our bedroom. Ive been with women before so It was nothing to me as long as rules were followed, the #1 rule being I Pick THE GIRL. So he gives me this website Stating there was a chick that was interested in us and I tell him I'll check her out, talk to her and see whats up. So I go on the website and she gives me her number. I call her but don't like her personality so I cut the conversation and told her we would find someone else and i hang up. Next thing I know my husband's phone notifications is going off, his phone is right by me so I pick it up and it's the girl texting him. I flip my shhh. I ask him how'd she get his number he tells me that he text her to tell her that I was going to call her. Wtf, now I'm boo boo. So I noticed there was no message thred, he admitted that he deleted the message he sent. Ok. A few weeks later he decided to link his account to my baby's play phone, well all his text messages popped up. While Going through them I find the message he sent to her. It was completely disrespectful and very sexual, not only did I find that but noticed messages from 2 other of hid old flings that dated back to the beginning of our relationship. Guess what though, I still stayed with him.
Now it's 2022 and we moved to the state his family lived in, so that they could be in baby boy life. We get married on 2/22/22 at 2:22pm. And it's been downhill from there. He dropped sex with me down to 1x a month mind you the day we got married he didnt touch me. He takes me nowhere, we do nothing together, mother's day I got nothing, christmas I got nothing, valentines day I got nothing, my birthday I got nothing. We have been fighting for 2 years now, and I have given up. I've asked for divorce, he says no that he loves me and he believes in us. Well I don't. I'm tired. I'm worn out. You want to treat me like a roommate fine, let's be that. So his room is the baby's room now. Roommate it is. But he hates it. Sex the 1x a month, no thank you, I'll pass. How about no sex what so ever. Oh he really threw a fit about that. I've complained, I've talked, I've done everything but sign language to communicate what I need in my marriage and what I deserve. It falls on deaf ears each time. So now my feelings are done. I no longer care and it Shows. I call him by his first name, no more lovey dovey names. I stopped catering, I've stopped sex, I've stopped kisses and hugs. He swears he wants this marriage, would yall give another chance? What about the kids? Or is all that has been done plus the last 2 years of fighting and arguing enough to let go?

I'm 40(F) and my husband 52(M) have known Each other for 12 years, decided to get together about 8 years ago, and been Married for 2 years. You would think it was meant to be. Im not so sure. So 8 years ago when we first started dating I just knew I found my twin flame, my Soulmate. Everything was perfect, being with my best friend. At the start of our relationship he was a OTR truck driver. He would be gone for months but when he came home We couldn't keep Our hands off each other. In 2019 we decided to get rid of my home and go on the road with him. I was so for it. So thats what I did. We were going to team up, travel and make money. The 1st week out I noticed a difference in him. With it only being us on the truck he was not trying to be intimate with me, which was suspicious because we always got it in. So now im getting this feeling in the pit of my stomach So while he was sleep I went through his phone. Found him texting with a chick he used to mess with before me, all sexual messages, Nude pics and all, and the text go back to the begining of our relationship. So of course I flipped tf out. Woke him up cussing him out. I grabbed my stuff and got off the truck, I didnt care I had no clue where we were. After calming down I returned to the truck to him apologizing. Saying that he didn't realize the conversations were inappropriate and disrespectful. I stayed Silent on his truck for a full Week. Not 1 word to him. I eventually decided to forgive him.
A few months later his truck broke down and I decided to go back home. So we returned home, and got our lst official place together, at this time Covid had everything locked down except my eggs, yup I got pregnant. We had our baby boy in 2021. After giving birth and trying to get me back, I decided what the Hell let's spice things up in our bedroom. Ive been with women before so It was nothing to me as long as rules were followed, the #1 rule being I Pick THE GIRL. So he gives me this website Stating there was a chick that was interested in us and I tell him I'll check her out, talk to her and see whats up. So I go on the website and she gives me her number. I call her but don't like her personality so I cut the conversation and told her we would find someone else and i hang up. Next thing I know my husband's phone notifications is going off, his phone is right by me so I pick it up and it's the girl texting him. I flip my shhh. I ask him how'd she get his number he tells me that he text her to tell her that I was going to call her. Wtf, now I'm boo boo. So I noticed there was no message thred, he admitted that he deleted the message he sent. Ok. A few weeks later he decided to link his account to my baby's play phone, well all his text messages popped up. While Going through them I find the message he sent to her. It was completely disrespectful and very sexual, not only did I find that but noticed messages from 2 other of hid old flings that dated back to the beginning of our relationship. Guess what though, I still stayed with him.
Now it's 2022 and we moved to the state his family lived in, so that they could be in baby boy life. We get married on 2/22/22 at 2:22pm. And it's been downhill from there. He dropped sex with me down to 1x a month mind you the day we got married he didnt touch me. He takes me nowhere, we do nothing together, mother's day I got nothing, christmas I got nothing, valentines day I got nothing, my birthday I got nothing. We have been fighting for 2 years now, and I have given up. I've asked for divorce, he says no that he loves me and he believes in us. Well I don't. I'm tired. I'm worn out. You want to treat me like a roommate fine, let's be that. So his room is the baby's room now. Roommate it is. But he hates it. Sex the 1x a month, no thank you, I'll pass. How about no sex what so ever. Oh he really threw a fit about that. I've complained, I've talked, I've done everything but sign language to communicate what I need in my marriage and what I deserve. It falls on deaf ears each time. So now my feelings are done. I no longer care and it Shows. I call him by his first name, no more lovey dovey names. I stopped catering, I've stopped sex, I've stopped kisses and hugs. He swears he wants this marriage, would yall give another chance? What about the kids? Or is all that has been done plus the last 2 years of fighting and arguing enough to let go?

I'm 40(F) and my husband 52(M) have known Each other for 12 years, decided to get together about 8 years ago, and been Married for 2 years. You would think it was meant to be. Im not so sure. So 8 years ago when we first started dating I just knew I found my twin flame, my Soulmate. Everything was perfect, being with my best friend. At the start of our relationship he was a OTR truck driver. He would be gone for months but when he came home We couldn't keep Our hands off each other. In 2019 we decided to get rid of my home and go on the road with him. I was so for it. So thats what I did. We were going to team up, travel and make money. The 1st week out I noticed a difference in him. With it only being us on the truck he was not trying to be intimate with me, which was suspicious because we always got it in. So now im getting this feeling in the pit of my stomach So while he was sleep I went through his phone. Found him texting with a chick he used to mess with before me, all sexual messages, Nude pics and all, and the text go back to the begining of our relationship. So of course I flipped tf out. Woke him up cussing him out. I grabbed my stuff and got off the truck, I didnt care I had no clue where we were. After calming down I returned to the truck to him apologizing. Saying that he didn't realize the conversations were inappropriate and disrespectful. I stayed Silent on his truck for a full Week. Not 1 word to him. I eventually decided to forgive him.
A few months later his truck broke down and I decided to go back home. So we returned home, and got our lst official place together, at this time Covid had everything locked down except my eggs, yup I got pregnant. We had our baby boy in 2021. After giving birth and trying to get me back, I decided what the Hell let's spice things up in our bedroom. Ive been with women before so It was nothing to me as long as rules were followed, the #1 rule being I Pick THE GIRL. So he gives me this website Stating there was a chick that was interested in us and I tell him I'll check her out, talk to her and see whats up. So I go on the website and she gives me her number. I call her but don't like her personality so I cut the conversation and told her we would find someone else and i hang up. Next thing I know my husband's phone notifications is going off, his phone is right by me so I pick it up and it's the girl texting him. I flip my shhh. I ask him how'd she get his number he tells me that he text her to tell her that I was going to call her. Wtf, now I'm boo boo. So I noticed there was no message thred, he admitted that he deleted the message he sent. Ok. A few weeks later he decided to link his account to my baby's play phone, well all his text messages popped up. While Going through them I find the message he sent to her. It was completely disrespectful and very sexual, not only did I find that but noticed messages from 2 other of hid old flings that dated back to the beginning of our relationship. Guess what though, I still stayed with him.
Now it's 2022 and we moved to the state his family lived in, so that they could be in baby boy life. We get married on 2/22/22 at 2:22pm. And it's been downhill from there. He dropped sex with me down to 1x a month mind you the day we got married he didnt touch me. He takes me nowhere, we do nothing together, mother's day I got nothing, christmas I got nothing, valentines day I got nothing, my birthday I got nothing. We have been fighting for 2 years now, and I have given up. I've asked for divorce, he says no that he loves me and he believes in us. Well I don't. I'm tired. I'm worn out. You want to treat me like a roommate fine, let's be that. So his room is the baby's room now. Roommate it is. But he hates it. Sex the 1x a month, no thank you, I'll pass. How about no sex what so ever. Oh he really threw a fit about that. I've complained, I've talked, I've done everything but sign language to communicate what I need in my marriage and what I deserve. It falls on deaf ears each time. So now my feelings are done. I no longer care and it Shows. I call him by his first name, no more lovey dovey names. I stopped catering, I've stopped sex, I've stopped kisses and hugs. He swears he wants this marriage, would yall give another chance? What about the kids? Or is all that has been done plus the last 2 years of fighting and arguing enough to let go?