My boyfriend (now ex) embarrassed me for watching porn. How do i get over this shame?
My boyfriend who is an ex now, was using my gmail password for 2 years and he was watching my browser history, youtube, maps , contacts, messages everything and i was not aware of it. He would follow me to locations if i went out with my friends even when i would inform him about it. Follow me behind the bus after we fought and everywhere he did and everytime he gave reason that i come to know because i know your schedule and mood so well. I believed as i was in love. after 2 years we had a fight and i was very frustrated and i decided to breakup , though i considered it as a break and giving it sometime to breath. After breaking up i moved to new place far from my previous place. During that time we again had a pathetic argument in which he could me fake, useless, and said u dont even get periods who is going to marry u, you are not good at your work, you are simply a showoff and can't achieve anything. Even i said a lot but it was all abt the jealousy he was trying to create in me with a girl he was triangulating me with, n in that conversation i kept saying why are u not giving explanation of your chats and your frequent mettings with her n he moked me over my skin complexion n it was so much to take..i got panick attack. I got diagnosed with depression then thyroid and high blood pressure . I was continuously visiting hospitals. During that time i got into watching porn. Mainly bcz i thought i doesnt miss me and that i am not enough, was i not good in pleasing him in bed? i had never watched porn , i was a very studious person, tradition believes, i always talked about ramayan mahabharat. I would talk abt family values, morality and stuff. I always feared that if i resist him from getting physical he will go to that girl and feel less attracted to me. So i would do what he said , he would instruct me in bed n he knew i dont knw abt porn. In college times he used to watch lot of porn and also had a hard disk full of it. Though i never watched but before getting in relationship just to look cool i used i have watched. I believed its not religious thats why when we were friends i suggested him to not watch. But when we got into relationship i was comfortable with him. After separation i missed him and most important i wanted to see what n all os actually sex bcz he talked abt foreplay, oral n all n i had no idea abt it. So i began watching it and i did not find it illegal bcz we had done it in relationship and now i was just watching it n that also not in incognito mode bcz i thought who is going to watch my browser history. But he was using my password amd watching my activities more frequently after breakup. I was suffering from depression a lot and i wanted to reconcile so i approached him informing abt my diagonsis, i cried but he was standing still, i held his leg and said plz help me, i am very confused whats happening bcz i did not knw that he was intensionally triangulating with the other girl and i asked to clarify or not contact her he would blame me, n called me jealous. He said looking at ne i dont feel anything and that statement shocked me. I got more depressed. I had become so weak that i couldn't travel so i took unpayed leave from my work. I still watched porn(foreplay only bcz we did that in relationship). After a month i caught him following me and i informed his brother, he confessed that he was using my password but in a way that he was ashamed seeing me watch porn, he blamed me that he can no longer see me become this, n that i have broken his trust, He called me fake , he said he cant watch my addiction and it shames him. N to stop me going on that path he has to make a confession. He portrayed it in such a way that secretly using password is no big deal but porn watching is making me sick whereas our fights, silent treatment, devaluing, constant following , gaslighting, confusion was making me depressed. But i was so embarrassed that i believed him. I still blame myself. He made me feel so disgused about myself. there was lot of argument but he said he doesn't love this version of me and that i am fake who always showed pride abt her morality has stooped so low, he said he doesnt want me. I kept explaining him. He said that wjen i first informed him abt depression the reason he said that i dont feel anything was bcz he knew i was watching porn and a person watching porn basically is having fun and that i was acting to gain attention and instead make him culprit without knowing that he was watching me.I still feel so embarrassed that he must have talked abt me to so many. I blame myself for breakup. Its been 3 years i am mot able to forgive myself. My shame is invalidating my suffering and depression. Initially i told him to stop watching porn and then o myself was watching it. My mind keeps telling that hadnt i watched porn he wouldn't have argued and called me fake, its obvious that he must have got angry and raged and out of rage he wouldn't have called me fake. I broke his trust. How do i get over this shame?

I’ve been wanting to try it for a while 1. because i’m dumb and 2. i’m but a victim of capitalism. most youtube reviews are in some way sponsored, so here’s an in depth review that isn’t. this is a very negative review, so I do recommend watching a positive (sponsored) review, and somewhere in between the two extremes of me rambling and youtube sponsorships, you’ll find the truth.
Pros:

1. i like the photos of the notes
2. they have a selection
3. shipped relatively quick
4. you’ll recognize some of the fragrances
5. in depth write ups about the notes, fragrance houses, and perfumes themselves which I really enjoyed
6. all reviews are by people that have tried the fragrance - which sounds silly, but you won’t get the annoying review of someone who sprayed a perfume once in a macy’s and is wailing about how they had to “scrub it off” moments later. AND people have paid money for it - so you won’t get the “it’s nice :)” reviews that add nothing to the discourse. these people are straight to the point both ways

Cons:
Buckle up kiddos. First of all,

1. you’re inundated with pop-ups even AFTER you’ve bought a subscription. a pop up to buy a car fragrance, a new case each month, upgrade to multiple scents a month. Upselling is hardly a new technique, but they are pushing it. And don’t get me started on the “premium” fragrances:
   
2. the premium fragrances are an extra $10 a month on top of the $16.95 you’re already paying. once again, this is heavily pushed. but tbh - this is why i subscribed. i was a little miffed that I had to pay $10 extra, but the math works out (i think. i didn’t do the math but im guesstimating). the problem is there are VERY select fragrances in their premium selection. Almost laughably so. Among 19 brands, a total of 59 perfumes, which works out to 3 perfumes per brand. Except some brands that they’re advertising as being in their selection (Like Vilhelm perfumery) have zero perfumes (D.S. and durga has six). Initio, which i’ve been dying to try, only has Atomic Rose. Granted, one of their top fragrances, but that’s it. Acqua di Parma has 2 fragrances (Colombia C.L.U.B. and Osmanthus), Amouage has two fragrances (Honour Woman and Search), Heretic has one (Voodoo Lily). I’m sure you’ll be thrilled to know that Cristiano Soriano’s entire line is well stocked though.
   
3. you’re getting a decent selection of Ross perfumes, or fragrancenet perfumes. i.e perfumes that are almost ALWAYS at a discount. DKNY Be Delicious, which you can currently get at Walgreens for like $38 or $13 for a travel size from Fragrancenet, you’d have to pay $5 extra (?), so $22 and not even a full size. For DKNY. Pink sugar is on here too and I wish i was joking. They have D&G light blue, but not Devotion which was my second pick after the luxury fragrances. The full line of Juice by juicy couture is here, which is literally at your local Kohls, for cheaper per mL.
   
4. it falls into the trap many subscription services do of not offering the actual things you want to try. like how ipsy sends products from the same 5 brands over and over, but they’re brands you only see in ipsy bags. so we have quite a few fragrances from the very popular household name brand Deck of Scarlet (their most popular fragrance according to scentbird is I’m Expensive, which is so popular it boasts a whopping 0 reviews on fragrantica), but nothing by JPG, which you would think is more common? They do have Press Gurwitz though. Don’t know them? Get to knowing because they have like 4 of their fragrances as part of their “new arrivals” page. And who could forget everyone’s favorite brand, Brochu Walker. Look them up on fragrantica! (they don’t even HAVE a page). then, you’ll see brands you recognize AND that aren’t often on discount and get excited, click on their page, and realize they have none of the fragrances you want (The Harmonist doesn’t have Moon Glory, nor Guiding Water, nor Hypnotizing Fire, nor Sacred Water - the only scents i’ve been recommended by that house)
   

If you want a fragrance that no one has smelled before, this might actually be a solid choice given their affinity for brands that no one has ever tried, not even fragrantica reviewers. And I mean this genuinely. I know there’s a customer base for that, and these are fragrances i think would otherwise remain unknown, so you’ll truly discover fragrances you have no other way of finding. but the way it’s been advertised makes it seem like this is THE subscription service if you want to keep your finger on the pulse and be clued in to all things fragrance. And it’s the furthest thing from that. if you have a list of fragrances you’ve been dying to try because of social media or word of mouth, just buy decants instead, because nothing popular nor sought after is on here. Unless it was popular in 2010, in which case it IS on here. Unless you have access to a Kohls, Ross, Marshall’s, the internet, in which case you can get more bang for your buck. So yeah. That, again, just leaves the first camp of people braver than me.
Also you have to contact them to cancel. end rant

My boyfriend (now ex) embarrassed me for watching porn. How do i get over this shame?
My boyfriend who is an ex now, was using my gmail password for 2 years and he was watching my browser history, youtube, maps , contacts, messages everything and i was not aware of it. He would follow me to locations if i went out with my friends even when i would inform him about it. Follow me behind the bus after we fought and everywhere he did and everytime he gave reason that i come to know because i know your schedule and mood so well. I believed as i was in love. after 2 years we had a fight and i was very frustrated and i decided to breakup , though i considered it as a break and giving it sometime to breath. After breaking up i moved to new place far from my previous place. During that time we again had a pathetic argument in which he could me fake, useless, and said u dont even get periods who is going to marry u, you are not good at your work, you are simply a showoff and can't achieve anything. Even i said a lot but it was all abt the jealousy he was trying to create in me with a girl he was triangulating me with, n in that conversation i kept saying why are u not giving explanation of your chats and your frequent mettings with her n he moked me over my skin complexion n it was so much to take..i got panick attack. I got diagnosed with depression then thyroid and high blood pressure . I was continuously visiting hospitals. During that time i got into watching porn. Mainly bcz i thought i doesnt miss me and that i am not enough, was i not good in pleasing him in bed? i had never watched porn , i was a very studious person, tradition believes, i always talked about ramayan mahabharat. I would talk abt family values, morality and stuff. I always feared that if i resist him from getting physical he will go to that girl and feel less attracted to me. So i would do what he said , he would instruct me in bed n he knew i dont knw abt porn. In college times he used to watch lot of porn and also had a hard disk full of it. Though i never watched but before getting in relationship just to look cool i used i have watched. I believed its not religious thats why when we were friends i suggested him to not watch. But when we got into relationship i was comfortable with him. After separation i missed him and most important i wanted to see what n all os actually sex bcz he talked abt foreplay, oral n all n i had no idea abt it. So i began watching it and i did not find it illegal bcz we had done it in relationship and now i was just watching it n that also not in incognito mode bcz i thought who is going to watch my browser history. But he was using my password amd watching my activities more frequently after breakup. I was suffering from depression a lot and i wanted to reconcile so i approached him informing abt my diagonsis, i cried but he was standing still, i held his leg and said plz help me, i am very confused whats happening bcz i did not knw that he was intensionally triangulating with the other girl and i asked to clarify or not contact her he would blame me, n called me jealous. He said looking at ne i dont feel anything and that statement shocked me. I got more depressed. I had become so weak that i couldn't travel so i took unpayed leave from my work. I still watched porn(foreplay only bcz we did that in relationship). After a month i caught him following me and i informed his brother, he confessed that he was using my password but in a way that he was ashamed seeing me watch porn, he blamed me that he can no longer see me become this, n that i have broken his trust, He called me fake , he said he cant watch my addiction and it shames him. N to stop me going on that path he has to make a confession. He portrayed it in such a way that secretly using password is no big deal but porn watching is making me sick whereas our fights, silent treatment, devaluing, constant following , gaslighting, confusion was making me depressed. But i was so embarrassed that i believed him. I still blame myself. He made me feel so disgused about myself. there was lot of argument but he said he doesn't love this version of me and that i am fake who always showed pride abt her morality has stooped so low, he said he doesnt want me. I kept explaining him. He said that wjen i first informed him abt depression the reason he said that i dont feel anything was bcz he knew i was watching porn and a person watching porn basically is having fun and that i was acting to gain attention and instead make him culprit without knowing that he was watching me.I still feel so embarrassed that he must have talked abt me to so many. I blame myself for breakup. Its been 3 years i am mot able to forgive myself. My shame is invalidating my suffering and depression. Initially i told him to stop watching porn and then o myself was watching it. My mind keeps telling that hadnt i watched porn he wouldn't have argued and called me fake, its obvious that he must have got angry and raged and out of rage he wouldn't have called me fake. I broke his trust. How do i get over this shame?

My boyfriend (now ex) embarrassed me for watching porn. How do i get over this shame?
My boyfriend who is an ex now, was using my gmail password for 2 years and he was watching my browser history, youtube, maps , contacts, messages everything and i was not aware of it. He would follow me to locations if i went out with my friends even when i would inform him about it. Follow me behind the bus after we fought and everywhere he did and everytime he gave reason that i come to know because i know your schedule and mood so well. I believed as i was in love. after 2 years we had a fight and i was very frustrated and i decided to breakup , though i considered it as a break and giving it sometime to breath. After breaking up i moved to new place far from my previous place. During that time we again had a pathetic argument in which he could me fake, useless, and said u dont even get periods who is going to marry u, you are not good at your work, you are simply a showoff and can't achieve anything. Even i said a lot but it was all abt the jealousy he was trying to create in me with a girl he was triangulating me with, n in that conversation i kept saying why are u not giving explanation of your chats and your frequent mettings with her n he moked me over my skin complexion n it was so much to take..i got panick attack. I got diagnosed with depression then thyroid and high blood pressure . I was continuously visiting hospitals. During that time i got into watching porn. Mainly bcz i thought i doesnt miss me and that i am not enough, was i not good in pleasing him in bed? i had never watched porn , i was a very studious person, tradition believes, i always talked about ramayan mahabharat. I would talk abt family values, morality and stuff. I always feared that if i resist him from getting physical he will go to that girl and feel less attracted to me. So i would do what he said , he would instruct me in bed n he knew i dont knw abt porn. In college times he used to watch lot of porn and also had a hard disk full of it. Though i never watched but before getting in relationship just to look cool i used i have watched. I believed its not religious thats why when we were friends i suggested him to not watch. But when we got into relationship i was comfortable with him. After separation i missed him and most important i wanted to see what n all os actually sex bcz he talked abt foreplay, oral n all n i had no idea abt it. So i began watching it and i did not find it illegal bcz we had done it in relationship and now i was just watching it n that also not in incognito mode bcz i thought who is going to watch my browser history. But he was using my password amd watching my activities more frequently after breakup. I was suffering from depression a lot and i wanted to reconcile so i approached him informing abt my diagonsis, i cried but he was standing still, i held his leg and said plz help me, i am very confused whats happening bcz i did not knw that he was intensionally triangulating with the other girl and i asked to clarify or not contact her he would blame me, n called me jealous. He said looking at ne i dont feel anything and that statement shocked me. I got more depressed. I had become so weak that i couldn't travel so i took unpayed leave from my work. I still watched porn(foreplay only bcz we did that in relationship). After a month i caught him following me and i informed his brother, he confessed that he was using my password but in a way that he was ashamed seeing me watch porn, he blamed me that he can no longer see me become this, n that i have broken his trust, He called me fake , he said he cant watch my addiction and it shames him. N to stop me going on that path he has to make a confession. He portrayed it in such a way that secretly using password is no big deal but porn watching is making me sick whereas our fights, silent treatment, devaluing, constant following , gaslighting, confusion was making me depressed. But i was so embarrassed that i believed him. I still blame myself. He made me feel so disgused about myself. there was lot of argument but he said he doesn't love this version of me and that i am fake who always showed pride abt her morality has stooped so low, he said he doesnt want me. I kept explaining him. He said that wjen i first informed him abt depression the reason he said that i dont feel anything was bcz he knew i was watching porn and a person watching porn basically is having fun and that i was acting to gain attention and instead make him culprit without knowing that he was watching me.I still feel so embarrassed that he must have talked abt me to so many. I blame myself for breakup. Its been 3 years i am mot able to forgive myself. My shame is invalidating my suffering and depression. Initially i told him to stop watching porn and then o myself was watching it. My mind keeps telling that hadnt i watched porn he wouldn't have argued and called me fake, its obvious that he must have got angry and raged and out of rage he wouldn't have called me fake. I broke his trust. How do i get over this shame?

Hey keto ladies, I'm sharing my story to help others but also I hope that there are women who are similar to me and have been let down by healthcare professionals. Very briefly, Keto changed my life.
From the age of 10 to my early 20s, I was overweight and struggled with my body image. I never owned a bikini until I lost 30kgs (66lbs) after going keto. It gave me more energy, and mental clarity and solved my mood swings. It also regulated my menstrual cycle, made my period consistent, less painful and minimal PMS.
A year ago, I decided to start a form of birth control. Having never needed it before, I went to my GP and a OBGYN for advice. That was not what I got. I was handed a pamphlet and prescription for Qlaira (combined pill) and rushed out the door after 15 minutes. I was told not to worry about weight gain on the pill as it's "a common myth” and has never been proven in any medical journals. I was not given an explanation of all of my options and there was no discussion of which one would fit my individual needs.
You're expecting it to go downhill now, right? No, my experience with Qlaira was remarkably good. The huge positive was that period pain decreased and the flow was reduced. No more anxiety of bloodied bedsheets or leaking through clothing in public! I didn't experience any volatile moods, bad skin or serious changes (or so I thought). One negative I will say is that the flow itself, although minimal, lasts 7-10 days.
I started noticing slight weight gain 2-3 months in, but chalked it up to winter comfort eating and having maybe an extra cheat day or two then my usual once a month. In my mind, it was just a bit of fluctuation that could be ironed out. Ha. By month 5, I was getting concerned. Along with exercise and strict keto I also intermittent fasted. Nevertheless, I gained around 6kgs (13lbs). Month 7 was 5kgs (11lbs) more. By month 10, I had put on a total of 15 kgs (33lbs).
The realisation came crashing down on me when I visited my GP after missing a period but testing negative for pregnancy. We discussed what had been going on in my life and concluded it was severe stress (a significant life event that same month). He then casually added that he had noticed when I walked in that I had picked up weight and he took my measurements. Then he told me that I had an unhealthy BMI of 27.8 kg/m2. I assured him that my eating habits, exercise and lifestyle had not changed. The only thing that had changed in the last year was that I had started Qlaira. His response was, "OP, have you ever seen a fat Ethiopian?”
A few days later, I sat crying in front of my laptop after watching 30 minutes of Dr Mary Haver explaining contraceptive options. I wished that the doctors I entrusted to help me choose the right birth control had fulfilled their responsibility to give me the time—that I had paid for—to empower me with knowledge and choice. But instead, they dictated and marketed a product to me. It's month 11 and I'm only able to fit into a few of my clothes. I've temporarily stored the clothing that I can't use right now. It has been extremely demoralising and soul-crushing for me to go backwards like this.
That YouTube video opened up a new path for me. I finally feel educated about my body, my reproductive system, my cycle, my hormones, and how to navigate life as a woman. It's a shame that schools only teach you to label reproductive organs rather than fully equip you to look after your body and make educated choices.
If you've gotten this far, thank you for reading. I hope that this has helped you or maybe inspired you to learn more about the wonderful design of our bodies. Maybe, like me, you feel it's a gift that we have to take sole ownership in looking after. Feel free to share your thoughts, your story or any resources you've come across on your journey ❤️
P.S. Apologies, I am new to this reddit and don't know which flairs to use.

I have a few questions and hope to get some answers :D
illuminator : worth it? i saw some youtube videos and looks like it barely makes light for in caves?
health charm (purple) : is it that good to have to go after 3 Brutes that is needed to craft?
reflection charm : 10 vendetta floppers. i have been fishing with purple bucket / rod and NEVER got one vendetta flopper. so: is this charm worth fishing for? and am i doing it wrong, where do i get these fish the most?
wavebreak charm : i sometimes find myself "drowning" because i estimated the swimming distance wrong. the charm says: accelerates swimming spped.. but how much and can i stack them? i like swimming ;-)
thanks for your time, and answers! have a fun day!

I met my (19F) boyfriend (20M) around 6 months ago in our university. Me and him hit it off almost immediately, and within just 3 weeks of talking, we decided that we're both already in love and started dating. This is my first real, long-term relationship so I grew extra attached to him. We'd meet every single day, go on dates multiple times a week and we were basically inseparable. I know it may sound like we jumped into this too soon, but it felt like we've known each other for a lifetime, and he's all I ever wanted in a man, and more. He's the only man I've ever felt so comfortable with. He raised my standards so high that I don't think I'll find anyone like him ever again. He does everything he can to make me feel loved and appreciated, and he's literally the only man I've ever loved so much in my life. Our relationship seemed almost too good to be true, and unfortunately, I have a feeling that it is just that.
My boyfriend and I both come from similar cultural backgrounds, and we're both following the same religion and religious beliefs. We believe in dating to marry, and we were doing just that. We're both international students and studying in a different country than the countries our families live in. We're both the eldest siblings in our families, so we have extra responsibilities and expectations placed on us. My boyfriend is a very hardworking man and he takes his studies seriously, yet he still manages to make time for me and his friends while doing all of that. But his family never seen his efforts and hard work, and it genuinely breaks my heart. This makes him think that he's never enough, that he's a failure, that he's not good for anything, which is completely false and it hurts that his family makes him think that way. When my boyfriend talks about his dad I can see a hint of sadness in his eyes. His dad never tries to understand him, never approves of his efforts and basically wants his son to be perfect in everything. His dad thinks of him as an investment, nothing more, nothing less.
About 3 months ago, My boyfriend's uncle randomly showed up in his dorm unannounced. It was really surprising because his uncle lives in a completely different country. First thing his uncle does is go through his phone. His uncle finds pictures of me and my boyfriend together on dates. They're totally innocent pictures since me and him haven't really done anything, but his uncle was furious with my boyfriend. He was mad at him for keeping this relationship a secret, even though my boyfriend was planning to tell his parents about me but felt like it was a bit too soon, especially because he was doing his final exams at the time. But his uncle exposed my boyfriend to his parents, implying that my boyfriend did nothing other than go out with me and his friends and party and mess around like a fool. Which was completely false and based on nothing but assumptions. My boyfriend tried to explain himself, but they never believed him. They even accused him of doing drugs and going to clubs and drinking (which is a big no no in our culture) even though he had done nothing like that before. Long story short, he was threatened by his parents and uncle, telling him that he won't continue with this university and they'll make him travel back home. This meant that me and him would have to be long distance for God knows how long before we finally meet again. When my boyfriend told me all this information over the phone, since his uncle was with him the whole time, I had a mental breakdown and couldn't stop crying for days to the point that my friends had to stay with me to make me feel better. However, after a lot of harsh scolding and verbal abuse from his uncle and dad, my boyfriend was allowed to stay in the university as long as he cuts off all his friends and girlfriend as well. They wanted him to do nothing but study. My boyfriend agreed, he promised his parents and uncle that he'd focus on his studies more than anything. But he couldn't cut me off. He did imply to them that he cut me and his friends off so that his family would let him continue studying here.
At that time both me and my boyfriend traveled back home for the semester break, but we continued texting and calling each other. My boyfriend kept this a secret from his family, which I don't blame him for since they wouldn't let him continue on in the university if they found out. Once we both came back from the semester break, we met once again and had a heart-felt moment after not seeing each other for almost 2 months. I felt so safe and so happy to know that he's not gone and I can see him once again. From that point on, me and him could only see each other in university or going to/from our dorms, since his dad and uncle would call him everyday and/or every week to make sure that he's still "in line". But these were my favourite moments of the day because at least I got to see and talk to him. Me and my boyfriend mostly had date nights where we'd call each other on Discord and watch movies and/or YouTube videos together. I thought everything was normal, everything was going fine. But fast forward to a few days ago. My boyfriend's uncle had called him and used an app to get access to his laptop. It's one of those apps where you request online access from the owner of the device to navigate it. My boyfriend didn't think much of it because his uncle does that sometimes to help him with his study material. However, this time, his uncle decided to open his Discord and read through the messages. My boyfriend only texts/calls me on Discord so our chat was the first thing his uncle saw. His uncle decided to go through all the messages, read everything and saw how much we're calling. His uncle was furious and immediately hung up. My boyfriend called me after to tell me what happened, and we both knew he was in a huge amount of trouble, but we decided to wait and see what his uncle is gonna do about it. I genuinely didn't think anything crazy was gonna happen, I just thought his uncle and parents would be furious with him but would let it go since my boyfriend took his studies extra seriously this time. But the next day, I called my boyfriend to check up on him. He had an exam that day and I called him to ask him how he'd done, but his voice sounded different. He sounded sad and worried so I asked him about it, and he said he had to meet me face to face so he can tell me. I asked him if this was about his uncle and he said yes, and my heart immediately sank. I knew whatever he was about to say wasn't good news. I was hanging out with my friends but I had to leave them because this was weighing on my mind.
When he and I finally met, I asked him to tell me about it immediately. He said the words I never wanted to hear from him. "I'm leaving," he said. My heart sank to the floor. No way. I asked him what he meant, and he just said he's leaving the country and going back home. He then explained to me that his uncle told his parents about the fact that me and him are still messaging and hadn't cut me off. His dad called him after, telling him to pack his bags and that he's leaving in a week. His dad cussed him out in every way possible, told him that he hated him, and that he won't be studying abroad anymore. His dad told him that he doesn't trust him to be alone, and doesn't think he's responsible enough for that. I broke down crying. I didn't want to believe it. I couldn't believe that he was about to be talked away from me so suddenly. I felt so guilty, like this was all my fault. If I hadn't talked to him, if I hadn't begged him not to cut me off because of his family's wishes, if I hadn't done any of that he wouldn't have gone through all of this stress and verbal abuse. My boyfriend, even though he had tears falling down his face, still consoled me and told me it wasn't my fault. Even though he was the one going through all of this he still wanted me to feel better. I really don't deserve him. I said I'd tell him not to give up on us but it's really selfish of me and I'll leave the decision up to him. Even after all of this he still told me he won't give up on me, and he wants to continue with this relationship even if it has to be long distance. I just love this man. I love him so much that I'm starting to think that it just might be better for him to let me go. I don't want it, I don't wanna think about it, but I just can't help but feel like I'm the cause for all this pain he's going through right now. I can't help but feel guilty for destroying his family dynamic. I don't want him to go through all of this because of me, he doesn't deserve it.
Right now I'm sitting on the bed writing this, and I just can't imagine how my life would be without him being here with me. I have to get used to the fact that I won't see him everyday anymore. I have to get used to the fact that we won't text as much. I have to go to places we used to go together knowing that he won't be there with me. It hurts. It hurts so much. And I just want to share this to see if there is anything I can do to cope with these feelings I'm having, and how me and him can navigate a long distance relationship once he actually leaves. What do I do? Should we even continue long distance? I really want to, but would that be selfish of me? Or should I just let him go for his sake?
TLDR; My boyfriend's family want him to leave uni and travel back home, and I don't know how or if we can do long distance, especially with his family being around him.

I think it was a chatter who suggested this after the discussion with Wickedsupreme. I think it will humanize Destiny and make him more likable.
I believe Destiny creating a YouTube video outlining his positions on various matters, similar to the Git positions post, would be a great idea. For example, his stance on Israel and Palestine. The brief mentions on shows like Breaking Points or debates with figures like Cenk are hard to find and often lack detail. They don't provide a strong, comprehensive view, and they also miss the vibe and depth that come from his more focused content. There's a certain feeling that's hard to describe, but it’s just not the same.
Even if his positions change, laying out his thought process and how he arrived at those positions is one of the main reasons I started following him. He could also add a disclaimer at the start of the video and in the comments that his positions might change over time.
I think he started the wiki to replace the positions section on his website, but most of the schizos and autist on there focus on drama,(from what I saw.) Hell I’m not even sure if most of his audience even know about it.It’s unclear if there is a page detailing his positions and how they have evolved, aside from old versions and some excerpts from Obsidian (moral positions).
PS: I hope I got the point across. Sorry if my writing is bad.

Probably my second favorite game on Quest. But if you search on youtube the first thing that pops up is some loud guy telling people NOT to buy the game (as he proceeds to record himself getting 1 star on every level).
It's a misunderstood game. It's not a racing game. It's a puzzle game disguised as a racing game. That's why a lot of people are mad. It's like a better version of Angry Birds with way more variables (track design, speed, weight, car stats).
But for me it's right up my alley because I like creative games.
You have to design tracks to complete objectives. The track design matters. Being clever with jumps (and actually making the jump) can shave seconds off your time.
In addition the game is super polished (besides a few bugs). So if you like alternative games I definitely recommend checking this out.
Oh another thing I like is the track designs can be elaborate. Sometimes wrapping around the room multiple times in order to hit every objective. And I like how it saves the design for the level you're working on so you don't have to start from scratch every time you play.

I met my (19F) boyfriend (20M) around 6 months ago in our university. Me and him hit it off almost immediately, and within just 3 weeks of talking, we decided that we're both already in love and started dating. This is my first real, long-term relationship so I grew extra attached to him. We'd meet every single day, go on dates multiple times a week and we were basically inseparable. I know it may sound like we jumped into this too soon, but it felt like we've known each other for a lifetime, and he's all I ever wanted in a man, and more. He's the only man I've ever felt so comfortable with. He raised my standards so high that I don't think I'll find anyone like him ever again. He does everything he can to make me feel loved and appreciated, and he's literally the only man I've ever loved so much in my life. Our relationship seemed almost too good to be true, and unfortunately, I have a feeling that it is just that.
My boyfriend and I both come from similar cultural backgrounds, and we're both following the same religion and religious beliefs. We believe in dating to marry, and we were doing just that. We're both international students and studying in a different country than the countries our families live in. We're both the eldest siblings in our families, so we have extra responsibilities and expectations placed on us. My boyfriend is a very hardworking man and he takes his studies seriously, yet he still manages to make time for me and his friends while doing all of that. But his family never seen his efforts and hard work, and it genuinely breaks my heart. This makes him think that he's never enough, that he's a failure, that he's not good for anything, which is completely false and it hurts that his family makes him think that way. When my boyfriend talks about his dad I can see a hint of sadness in his eyes. His dad never tries to understand him, never approves of his efforts and basically wants his son to be perfect in everything. His dad thinks of him as an investment, nothing more, nothing less.
About 3 months ago, My boyfriend's uncle randomly showed up in his dorm unannounced. It was really surprising because his uncle lives in a completely different country. First thing his uncle does is go through his phone. His uncle finds pictures of me and my boyfriend together on dates. They're totally innocent pictures since me and him haven't really done anything, but his uncle was furious with my boyfriend. He was mad at him for keeping this relationship a secret, even though my boyfriend was planning to tell his parents about me but felt like it was a bit too soon, especially because he was doing his final exams at the time. But his uncle exposed my boyfriend to his parents, implying that my boyfriend did nothing other than go out with me and his friends and party and mess around like a fool. Which was completely false and based on nothing but assumptions. My boyfriend tried to explain himself, but they never believed him. They even accused him of doing drugs and going to clubs and drinking (which is a big no no in our culture) even though he had done nothing like that before. Long story short, he was threatened by his parents and uncle, telling him that he won't continue with this university and they'll make him travel back home. This meant that me and him would have to be long distance for God knows how long before we finally meet again. When my boyfriend told me all this information over the phone, since his uncle was with him the whole time, I had a mental breakdown and couldn't stop crying for days to the point that my friends had to stay with me to make me feel better. However, after a lot of harsh scolding and verbal abuse from his uncle and dad, my boyfriend was allowed to stay in the university as long as he cuts off all his friends and girlfriend as well. They wanted him to do nothing but study. My boyfriend agreed, he promised his parents and uncle that he'd focus on his studies more than anything. But he couldn't cut me off. He did imply to them that he cut me and his friends off so that his family would let him continue studying here.
At that time both me and my boyfriend traveled back home for the semester break, but we continued texting and calling each other. My boyfriend kept this a secret from his family, which I don't blame him for since they wouldn't let him continue on in the university if they found out. Once we both came back from the semester break, we met once again and had a heart-felt moment after not seeing each other for almost 2 months. I felt so safe and so happy to know that he's not gone and I can see him once again. From that point on, me and him could only see each other in university or going to/from our dorms, since his dad and uncle would call him everyday and/or every week to make sure that he's still "in line". But these were my favourite moments of the day because at least I got to see and talk to him. Me and my boyfriend mostly had date nights where we'd call each other on Discord and watch movies and/or YouTube videos together. I thought everything was normal, everything was going fine. But fast forward to a few days ago. My boyfriend's uncle had called him and used an app to get access to his laptop. It's one of those apps where you request online access from the owner of the device to navigate it. My boyfriend didn't think much of it because his uncle does that sometimes to help him with his study material. However, this time, his uncle decided to open his Discord and read through the messages. My boyfriend only texts/calls me on Discord so our chat was the first thing his uncle saw. His uncle decided to go through all the messages, read everything and saw how much we're calling. His uncle was furious and immediately hung up. My boyfriend called me after to tell me what happened, and we both knew he was in a huge amount of trouble, but we decided to wait and see what his uncle is gonna do about it. I genuinely didn't think anything crazy was gonna happen, I just thought his uncle and parents would be furious with him but would let it go since my boyfriend took his studies extra seriously this time. But the next day, I called my boyfriend to check up on him. He had an exam that day and I called him to ask him how he'd done, but his voice sounded different. He sounded sad and worried so I asked him about it, and he said he had to meet me face to face so he can tell me. I asked him if this was about his uncle and he said yes, and my heart immediately sank. I knew whatever he was about to say wasn't good news. I was hanging out with my friends but I had to leave them because this was weighing on my mind.
When he and I finally met, I asked him to tell me about it immediately. He said the words I never wanted to hear from him. "I'm leaving," he said. My heart sank to the floor. No way. I asked him what he meant, and he just said he's leaving the country and going back home. He then explained to me that his uncle told his parents about the fact that me and him are still messaging and hadn't cut me off. His dad called him after, telling him to pack his bags and that he's leaving in a week. His dad cussed him out in every way possible, told him that he hated him, and that he won't be studying abroad anymore. His dad told him that he doesn't trust him to be alone, and doesn't think he's responsible enough for that. I broke down crying. I didn't want to believe it. I couldn't believe that he was about to be talked away from me so suddenly. I felt so guilty, like this was all my fault. If I hadn't talked to him, if I hadn't begged him not to cut me off because of his family's wishes, if I hadn't done any of that he wouldn't have gone through all of this stress and verbal abuse. My boyfriend, even though he had tears falling down his face, still consoled me and told me it wasn't my fault. Even though he was the one going through all of this he still wanted me to feel better. I really don't deserve him. I said I'd tell him not to give up on us but it's really selfish of me and I'll leave the decision up to him. Even after all of this he still told me he won't give up on me, and he wants to continue with this relationship even if it has to be long distance. I just love this man. I love him so much that I'm starting to think that it just might be better for him to let me go. I don't want it, I don't wanna think about it, but I just can't help but feel like I'm the cause for all this pain he's going through right now. I can't help but feel guilty for destroying his family dynamic. I don't want him to go through all of this because of me, he doesn't deserve it.
Right now I'm sitting on the bed writing this, and I just can't imagine how my life would be without him being here with me. I have to get used to the fact that I won't see him everyday anymore. I have to get used to the fact that we won't text as much. I have to go to places we used to go together knowing that he won't be there with me. It hurts. It hurts so much. And I just want to share this to see if there is anything I can do to cope with these feelings I'm having, and how me and him can navigate a long distance relationship once he actually leaves.
TLDR; My boyfriend's family want him to leave uni and travel back home, and I don't know how I'll be able to mentally function without him.

Hello,
I'm working on a products-formulations-ingredients-batches inventory.
I'm not sure how to structure the formulation part, since it may contain many different ingredients and not a fixed number. I see two approaches:
i) One is from a tutorial here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NlDxufHMoow
Which just adds one by one the ingredients. I can see this being a bit more tedious, and also I don't see how to make the check of being the sum of all the ingredients 100%.
ii) The other was just having a bunch of pairs of columns with Ingredient 1 / Amount of ingredient 1 / Ingredient 2 / Amount of ingredient 2 / ... I don't think this is the best solution either.
I think the first is more elegant, but I'm not sure if there would be a third approach I'm not considering.
Thank you all, I'm learning a lot here!

The purpose of a pen is to legibly write down what you want written down. How you hold a pen doesn't matter as long as it's comfortable and you can write somewhat legibly. I've been reprimanded so many times in my childhood and even now in early adulthood for not holding a pen the "right" way. Funny thing is, my handwriting is worse when I hold the pen the "right" way, and is substantially better when I hold it the way I feel is comfortable. What irks me even more is the countless YouTube tutorials on how to hold a pen the "right" way, most of these tutorials insisting on the idea that if you do not hold a pen in the exact way that is shown, your handwriting will be illegible and laughable. Sure, it might matter how you hold the pen in some special circumstances, like if you have a very leaky pen or a fountain pen, or you're doing calligraphy, but for simply writing down your notes or the like, the only "right" way is the way that makes you comfortable.

(From the 1995 album Mellow Yellow Baby) I've got no lead infomation about it so I'm not sure if the song uses multiple samples but I'm specifically talking about the female vocal segments: I've tried listening and looking up the lyrics which didnt help, tried Whosampled, Discogs, Shazam, even Youtube comment sections 😭, looked for credits incase it's a featured singer not a sample but that doesn't seem to be the case. Mellow Yellow by Donovan usually just comes up instead which makes searching harder to do
Dunno how else I should look, if I should try a asking a hiphop subreddit etc😢

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Just having a moan.. am going through with it obviously but..
I am going abroad to Germany for a work event and my director is arranging a team dinner to a traditional Italian restaurant. meaning all the homemade pasta will contain egg.. so the penne Arrabbiata won't work. I am just having to explain to him how even parmesan is often not vegetarian, let alone vegan and sending him back to the restaurant to request a vegan alternative for me. I usually plan group dinners or any outings so I can select a place that has vegan options a la carte and avoid any uncomfortable dialogue but this is just.. well.. uncomfortable.
Being that person that makes things difficult and creates extra work is not nice, especially if it's to someone more senior on the org. oh well.. time to swallow that feeling of self-consciousness..

After looking through this post, https://www.reddit.com/byzantium/comments/1d2bzdp/sick\_and\_tired\_of\_people\_calling\_byzantine/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button
I have some small critique to this video in particular, I'm in no way attacking the video of this content creator but i feel some of his video style can be rather incoherent in its narrating style and I hope to give critique.
A rather dramatic title imo that implied the Roman Empire was \"dying\" for 1000 years.
The video seems to be incoherent in its narrative style. It jumps from from various time periods and emperors without much structure and context. When learning history its important to learn to go from step 1 - 10. You can't just skip the narrative from step 1 - 3 then skip to step 8 -10. As seen here, several emperors are covered throughout the Western Roman Empire and then to the Eastern Roman Empire with only some Eastern Roman Emperors being covered. This leaves a lot of gaps in between time periods that can leave viewers confused and are left with more questions than answers.
Seen in the video description, the video creator's narrative goes through mostly the WRE with some references to ERE throughout the 4th-5th centuries before focusing on the 6th with Justinian then bizarrely skips to Constantine VI to Constantine XI Palaiologos.
The story goes through its content in a dramatic style and only seems to focus on specific events such as Valen's defeat in 378 against the Greuthungi and Tervingi goths. The creator also seems to highlight Emperor Theodosius I's treaty with the goths on a settlement that was supposedly signed on 382(even though there is little evidence this treaty existed.) and seems to give a negative connotation implying it might not be a good thing. Usually the settlement of the goths into Roman territory was in many ways a peaceful process that was not as bad as people assume as the policy had been successful many times before that are not mentioned in the sources. Because sources only mention the policy as a bad thing when it failed, not when it succeeded. In other words, sources have agendas and cannot be 100% trusted.
The good old reference of Edward Gibbon. At least the video creator didn't start spouting about how Christians were the cause of the destruction of the Roman Empire. Though he called it a \"masterpiece\". I most certainly do not consider Edward Gibbon's book a masterpiece considering there are far more accurate historians such as Bryan Ward Perkins, Peter Heather, Guy Halsall and Peter Brown.
The content creator seems to largely focus on the west than the east and the content is almost 70% WRE, 10% ERE. Feels like the ERE is sidelined for the most part by the creator here.
I'm also not a fan of his narrating style. His narrative structure seems dramatic and over the top and often skipping key events.
The Video creator says that Justinian was the last roman emperor that spoke latin as a first language. It seems History Time is trying to imply that only Justinian was somehow the last Eastern Roman that was only worthy of being roman because LaTiN!1!. He also states Justinian is considered by \"some as the last roman\" but does not specify who.
Another dramatic statement, \"Belisarius was the secret super weapon of the emperor\" and \"Justinian likely would not have achieved anything at all without him.\"
Now I don't consider Belisarius to be a bad general. He was considered, "ok" at best for his time and his victories at Dara was nullified by his defeat at Callinicum which was by all accounts a terrible defeat against the Sassanians. Procopius was biased towards Belisarius and had tried to downplay the scale of the defeat by saying it was a Pyrrhic victory for the Persians. Procopius also makes controversial statements such as suggesting Persian archery was inferior to the Romans. Both Romans and Persians utilized similar archery tactics from the Huns and from each other. So its a strange statement to make since both used similar styles of archery. The Sassanians also were more exposed to nomadic archery compared to the Romans.
The battle was by all accounts Belisarius's fault and why he was fired from his rank Magister Militum Per Orientum. Procopius tries to play this up as Justinian needing Belisarius for the Vandal campaign but the campaign was launched 2 years after he returned to Constantinople and only started on late June 533CE, so this statement is rather unconvincing. It is also the reason why he was there to quell the nika riots. Belisarius was waiting there alongside the general Mundus who helped Belisarius. It wasn't Belisarius only who quelled the riots.
The final part of the battle saw Roman infantry fighting with their backs against the Euphrates river. Procopius claims that Belisarius escaped with the Roman infantry after fending off repeated cavalry charges and inflicting severe caasualties but Psuedo Zachariah contradicts Procopius by saying that the roman infantry alongside the archers fled and tried to swim across the river. John Malalas also says Belisarius has fled the field with his cavalry.
So no, Belisarius was not as quoted by HistoryTime, a "secret super weapon of the emperor", nor was he indispensable because, "Justinian likely would not have achieved anything without him".
Belisarius during his invasion of Southern italy also was not as small as some would suggest as while he invaded southern italy with 7,000 men, Mundus assisted him by invading from dalmatia with 20,000 men. So no, Belisarius was not some Julius Caesar like general that conquered Italy single-handedly.
Last but not least, History time more or less skipped past many emperors all the way to Constantine VI and then to Constantine XI Palaiologos. This is awful as this is at least 3 CENTURIES after Justinian I. I cannot say this video overall is very satisfactory as its very western focused and little time is spared on the ERE. I personally prefer if the video followed a coherent timeline rather than this jumbled narrative. Here are some history channels that cover it more in depth on the ERE.

1. http://www.youtube.com/@EasternRomanHistory
   
2. Yalecourses playlist 9. The Reign Of Justinian
   
3. Thersites the historian
   

Youtube channels to specifically avoid
Maiorianus. Maiorianus has a biased nature and seems to have a anti-christian bias and i personally finds his statements nonsensical and without reliable facts.
Kings and Generals. Kings and Generals has a mixed reputation as they do not put their sources on the video description. So we have no idea where they get their knowledge from. The videos they make can be somewhat correct but there can also be a lot of mistakes.
Extra credits. It pains me a little to put them here as their videos did pique my interest as its quite interesting, they do make quite a bit of mistakes such as portraying Justinian as this “dreamer” who wanted to bring back the empire though historians such as Peter Heather thinks it was more propaganda than actually a genuine desire to bring these territories back considering his failed war with Persia and the Nika riots which soured his popularity.

I've been looking for a pen/pipe shaped zip gun for hours and I couldn't find it, the only one that I found require some heavy tools i dont have, nothing simple. Even in Portuguese-BR (my native language) I could find a simple zip gun project in video format (where guns are strongly forbidden), but couldn't in english. If I'm doing something wrong please give some advice.
I'm using the following key words to search it on youtube/duckduckgo/google/rumble: "how to make a zip gun", "how to make a simple pen gun" "how to make zip gun using hardware"