Like not too loud but when I’m in silence doing something, my thoughts will just keep running, phrases I heard throughout the day, or if I hung out with a person that day, their voice will keep playing, saying random stuff that they’ve said. Sometimes songs or a meme. It’s not loud or anything, sounds just like my normal thoughts and I never have like any intrusive thoughts, I feel like it should be normal I just want to double check. Only reason I’m concerned is because I enjoy psychedelics on occasion and I also have a family member with schizophrenia. 22F btw.

This happened in my late sophomore year of high school. I was in a club so I got to stay at school late, and that meant we were allowed to go off campus. One day, I decided to head to head out to order something at a restaurant. There was a basketball court outside my school. As I was walking near the basketball court while heading towards the restaurant, a woman was also walking about a few meters in front me.
Suddenly, a group of boys playing basketball started yelling out phrases such as “little whore” and “cum slotter” presumably at the woman in front of me. I thought this because they were looking at her while they said those things and because there was nobody else on the court besides them. As a girl myself, those words felt extremely personal, but I didn’t react, and neither did the woman. How could I blame her? I probably wouldn’t know how to react if I was in her place as well.
After ordering my food and heading back to the school, I felt guilty that I didn’t stand up for her and let those boys get away with it, so I decided to go back to the court to take a picture or video of them to show to student discipline. I knew they were from my school but I didn’t know their names so that’s why I took a video of them. They caught me filming them, and I ran back to the school. I stopped to ask security what to do with situations like this, but 2 of the boys from the group soon entered the building.
We then had a whole discussion about how it wasn’t them. They said there were 50 other people on the court so it could’ve been one of them that harassed the lady, but I saw with my very own eyes that they were the only ones there. The security guard then started saying that I’m in the wrong for filming them and not minding my own business. AITA?

Like I only got into the series a year ago and I already knew the phrase was a meme along the lines of "Hitler did nothing wrong" due to the sheer absurdity of the statement. But the other day I saw a video of someone going over some fan predictions for ways they thought the story might go and there was this one guy in the comments arguing the idea the evil bird man did nothing wrong. Now I'm pretty bad at picking up sarcasm unless it slaps me in the face. But the amount of comments I saw from that guy arguing with people seemed like too much for a troll.
Like there aren't actually people who argue that shit right? Because their arguments are so stupid, I'd almost be concerned for their well being if they were being serious...
Sorry I don't interact with the fandom much, so I apologize if this is a common question... (Also I'm getting real tired of hearing the term "You just didn't understand the story" because I only hear people with negative reading comprehension say it...)
Like I've seen people argue that Griffith shouldn't be held accountable because he "wasn't given a choice" but we legit see in the count mini arc that despite all the pressure, the slug count still put the one he loved over himself and made his own choice. Like do these people even read the series?

I've been involved with Metis organizations for about 25 years. If it wasn't for them I wouldn't have gone to college, I wouldn't be who I am today in any way, so I respect and value the work these organizations are able to do to support our communities. This said - I think it's really important to say that the organization is not what makes you Metis!
Historically we've talked about the three questions - do you admit you're a Michif? Do other Michif accept you as a one of them? Are you from one of our Michif families? These are all important, in part because these are how any person would discover if they were a part of a community. The most important part of this is your choices, and the choices of your community, recognizing relationships.
In all of this, the most an organization can do is recognize what everyone else already knows.
The reason why I think this is important is that over the years, I've seen our political organizations struggling with maintaining their identity as advocacy groups, and instead drift in to seeing themselves as having the power to decide who is in or out. Right now, various provincial organizations (in particular MMF) are trying to claim a monopoly on all language and culture funding, implying that language is theirs by right, rather than belonging to those who speak and those they teach. organizations are trying to centralize control over identity and markers of identity, and they tend to use things like language or dancing as markers of identity rather than as just practices that we do in our communities.
What I'm saying is this - if you're learning Michif or Cree, remember that you are already Metis before you learn, but that in learning more from others you will be building friendships and strengthening relationships that will give you stronger connections, things you can then use to support others. This work of building community is really important.
I'm a fairly fluent Michif speaker, and I feel fairly confident in saying that I'm a Michif, but the reason I say this is not because I have membership in an organization, or because I can jig, or because I speak the language. I'm confident because I have real relationships with others, and together we have a community.
Sometimes I see people learning how to say taanshi, or a few other phrases, and I think that's great - but it isn't knowing this stuff that builds our community, it's the time we spent together learning and talking that does it. And speaking fluently is the same - it's not that I speak, it's the friendships I build or the people I've gotten to know, the stories of their lives that have become meaningful to me.
If you are feeling alone, or questioning if you belong, organizations are great in that they can help you connect to other people, but don't ever feel like they own you. you are your own person, and we're glad to connect with you.
Eekoshee

Here is a quick compilation of recent Hinge changes and issues.
Top Photo
Hinge is rolling out the Top Photo feature to various locations. Note that if the Top Photo option is available for you, it is toggled on by default. You won't notice the photos shuffling when you view your own profile in the edit section. When you see the same people's profile on discover shuffling their photos constantly, it's because of Top Photo
Hinge however does not state whether or not Top Photo also applies to profiles on your Likes and Match lists. As far as I can tell, Top Photo does not apply to profiles on those lists.
Written Prompts character limit bug
There is a bug where you can't write anymore words in the written prompts without hitting the character limit. The simple work around is to write your prompts in a notes app on your phone, then copy and paste it onto Hinge. If you notice whatever you wrote is cut off by Hinge, it means your written prompt is too long and hit the character limit.
"Nearby" option removed from discover
On the latest UI update, Hinge removed the "Nearby" filter option (as well as the "Compatible" option), with only "Active today" and "New here" available. "Compatible" is now the default option when nothing is chosen. Note, this is only applicable to people with Hinge+ or X.
Hinge Support confirmed that the "Nearby" option was removed on purpose as they are testing this new UI. The important word here is that this is a supposedly a test, so there could be a possibility that Hinge could reverse the change. Hinge wants people to instead have quicker access to preferences in order to filter profiles better. (The three options given are Age, Height, and Dating Intentions.) If you want to see profiles closer to you, Hinge says to manually update the distance preference.
If you liked the "Nearby" option and don't like the fact Hinge removed this option, I suggest filing a support ticket and give them this feedback.
Hidden Words
Hinge added the Hidden Words feature back in April. It seems however, on social media many many people are misinformed as to how this feature actually works.
Hidden Words does not filter out profiles on discover or likes without comments. All it does is filter out specific words if someone sends a comment with their like/rose that contain those words. For example: if you added "pineapple on pizza", it won't filter out any profiles with those words included. Only if someone sent a like that included the comment 'pineapple on pizza" will the Hidden Words filter block that profile from showing up on your Likes list and notifications and instead will move it onto the Hidden Likes list.
So don't bother adding all the cliches you hate seeing on Hinge since it won't do anything to prevent you from seeing them unless they happen to send a comment including those specific phrases. You may instead inadvertently block a well meaning profile who happened to said the wrong words in their comments.
Relationship Type filter
Don't forget that there's a Relationship Type filter now available for most users, and more importantly it is a FREE filter. If you don't want any non-monogamy/poly/ENM people, or only want to seek those types, you can filter them now.
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In high school the teacher of my Spanish class was very religious. She claimed to have been a nun before becoming a teacher and while she never had anything against non religious students or ever tried to force her beliefs on us she absolutely refused to allow anyone to say the word, “hell.”
Now my school was extremely tough on students swearing. You wouldn’t get detention for it, but most teachers would have you do something stupid like write a list of 40 words you could have used instead and read it to the class. Personally, I’ve always thought: would you rather a bunch of emotionally unstable, stressed, and hormonally induced teenagers vent their frustrations through substance abuse and violence, or would you rather them vent by making a noise with their mouth, but I digress. Hell is one of the few words most teachers let slide, so it was a little annoying to have this 1 class where the only vent word I had was forbidden.
She always gave you a verbal warning first where she’d scream, “DON’T SAY HELL!” At you. So, being the rebellious little shit that I was, I concocted a plan. I sat down in her class and waited a few minutes before I dropped a, “What the hell?” She screamed, “DON’T SAY HELL!” I proceeded to reply in my teenage sarcasm voice, “Oh I’m sorry! What I meant to say was; what in Satan’s glorious name!?” Everyone laughed and she just stared at me wide eyed like a deer in headlights. She had me wait in the hall and I eventually had to sit down with the principal and my guidance counselor (the most wonderful man I’ve ever met who stopped me from taking my life). Lucky for me the principal was a total kitten and found what I said funny so he let me off the hook on the grounds that I didn’t technically say anything forbidden and just asked I not do it again.
Funny thing about that teacher; turns out she was never a nun. She confessed just before my class graduated. No idea why she lied about it.

Need some help exploring this. I've been going through some very tough experiences, in particular, last week my adult daughter had a drug overdose, and underwent being held in psychiatric care. My parents are also doing poorly, and my other daughter who moved across the country for her job (about 2 months ago) is very homesick. I also lost some friends at work a couple weeks ago from layoffs, it's a very small company and I'm subject to losing my jobs soon as well --I absolutely love this job and have close bonds with my coworkers.
Over the course of the past few weeks I've been attending my support groups, unbeknownst to me these events were going to be in my life. For some reason in group last night I realized I am feeling more atheist than agnostic and having a hard time tapping into my spiritual self.
I had a dream last night and all I recall was waking up after a guy passing by said to me "all we're really doing is running in slow motion." I then awoke, feeling very much hinged on this phrase. I could not go back to sleep, I kept thinking what does this mean?
I've had prophetic dreams from time to time in my life, which still I don't understand. Similar dreams where something that I hear or see jolts me out of sleep and only to carry the significance with me.
I'm stumped on this one, is this a common saying? What does this phase convey?
My evaluation is maybe this means as humans we often deeply exert ourselves to getting somewhere, but the universe has already determined our fates, so while we chase a desire, it's really in timeline of what the cosmos has determined for us.

This is my incomplete SVTFOE the movie script. Until my friend thomasmfd convince me to scrap it here’s my incomplete SVTFOE the movie script.
Star Vs. The Forces of Evil the forces of evil the movie The film with a song called Empire of the Sun Walking on a dream while the camera pans down on a mural with the credits rolling by and hits the floor showing a Blue man with a blue sword wearing a Space helmet and a orange Tee shirt with black spots all over his shirt. Who is protecting the Empress of the Sun Hestia look who has Red hair and Red eyes and wears a White Kimono with red spots. Just then a group of people wearing brown robes and white masks are led by a bald creepy dude with a Scar on his right eye. He approaches the throne and begins to speak.
The creepy dude My majesty My name is Bob and my group are a bunch of nomads who travel from World to world gathering intel and giving them to each kingdom and we heard rumors about Cataclysm prison weakening. And we would like to have your Sword Empress of the sun. So we can use it to defeat Cataclysm.
Bob walks up the steps before Cutie's sword hangs by his neck stopping him.
Bob What’s the meaning of this guard!?
Cutiesaurs: The name is Cutiesaurs or Cutie for short. Bob Okay Cutie. Why did you stop me!?
Cutiesaurs Because I don’t trust you. Besides, Shady people are always up to no good.
Bob It’s for your own protection so let me through. Besides it is rumored that The Sun Sword is the only sword left.
Cutiesaurs I don’t Care the Gods hid those swords for protection from thieves like you, including the Fable Mew sword. Besides, it appears you want to use the empress sword to find the other swords.
Bob Well you two figure out my plan already so I guess I have no option but to take it from force.
Just then Bob uses his magic spell to pull out his sword and he and his minions begin to attack. Cutie and Molly try to fight back but it is too much for them and get captured and Bob’s minions capture Hestia as Bob grabs the sword and glances at it.
Bob This Sword is a decoy. (Bob then shatters it with his magic) Minions drag Cutie to the Castle dungeon while carry Hestia to that special place)
Cutie struggles against the minions' control while they drag him to the dungeon. Cut to five years later and we see Cutie shirtless hung up in the dungeon walls shirtless wearing only his pants and a piece of cloth covering his head except his eyes. Then Bob and his cultist.
Bob Well Cutie it’s been five years and still you won’t tell us where the Real Empress sword is!
Cutiesaur
Like I said for the last five years I don’t know.
Bob Well Cutie. I don’t need you anymore. Not since I detected the Sword of Mew and we’ve set up a trap for the holder of the sword. So Now I will give you this radio to keep you comfortable. I’ve got a queen to catch.
Bob Leaves the dungeon and enters a room which is in some blackish glow surrounded with red hue. At the floor is a star shape enclosed by a circle on the floor. There Bob stands at the edge and raises his hands which then begin to be turning a metallic silver. He begins to wave his hands and a Star shape pattern begins to have a pinkish water swirling around it then when it clears out we see Star Butterfly at the center of the Star pattern.
Bob Hello Princess My name is Bob and you have something that we need. (Bob then materializes some mask’s then drops them on the ground where mud surrounds the mask’s then the mud raises the Mask which then forms into humanoid shape).
Star Butterfly I’m sorry but this Wand isn’t yours to keep.
Star Shoots a Rainbow energy beam at Bob but he blocks it with nothing but his bare Metallic hands.
Bob I’m impressed that the sword has a few tricks up his sleeves. But I’ve had a few tricks up my sleeves myself.
Bob then shoots a sliver beam at Star and pulls out a golden butterfly from her chest and places it into a jar.
Bob I’ve taken your powers. If you want them back, give me your wand. What do you say Star?
Star Butterfly I say Narwhal blast. A large Narwhal appears and slides down destroying many of Bob's minions and then pinning Bob to a wall. She then runs away from the room.
Bob After her she must not escape with that sword.
Star flees Bob’s goons and hides in the dungeon where she begins to hear the song Always look on the bright side of light she follows the sound to a cell where she see’s Cutie hanging from the wall.
Cutiesaurs Hi there little girl, what brings you to this dank little dungeon?
Star Butterfly I’m hiding from a man and his goons who want my wand.
Cutiesaurs Oh Bob yea he wants that wand since it’s the Sword of Mew.
Star Butterfly The Sword of Mew?
Cutiesaurs Let me get out of these chains and find my helmet and shirt and find a safe place before I can explain everything
Cutiesaurus tries to break his chains but with no success.
Star Butterfly Need help?
Cutiesaurs Yeah sure just blast those chain’s
Star uses her wand to blast the chain off of Cutie
Cutiesaurs Thank you… Um I haven’t gotten your name.
Star Butterfly It’s Star Star Butterfly.
Cutiesaurs Why thank you Star. I’m Cutiesaur’s but people call me Cutie for short and I’m the royal guard of the Empress or was before Bob and his golem army took me and put me in this dungeon. Now where is my shirt? Cutie searches everywhere for his shirt until Star shows him his shirt and grabs it and puts it back on.
Cutiesaurs Thanks Star. Now I need my Helmet.
Star Butterfly Why?
Cutiesaurs Because it protects people. Because I was born with a face that is so handsome that it melts people's faces. You wouldn’t want to see people's faces melting. It's nasty.
Star Butterfly Eww. But anyway I think I saw it over there at the bench.
Star points to a bench where we see Cutie Helmet. He then grabs it and puts it on.
Cutiesaus Thanks Star Now we need a plan.
Star Butterfly Um would that involve these guys.
Star points to a group of humanoid creatures wearing black cloaks with hoodies and pale white masks.
Cutiesaurs Looks like the plan is to fight. (He pulls out his blue sword) It’s a good thing this sword is bound to me and no one else.
Star Butterfly I would like to help but that Wizard Bob just stole all my powers.
Cutiesaurs Except for the Sword of Mew
Star Butterfly I keep hearing that my Wand is a sword. How is this possible?
Cutiesaurs You must focus, be one with the wand and think of a burning blade.
Star focuses on it and her wand turns into a burning blade with rainbow fire. She then uses it to defeat Bob's minions.
Star Butterfly Wow this is incredible I didn’t know my wand could do that! How did you know!?
Cutiesaurs It’s a long story but we need a hiding spot and I know one. Follow me.
Cutie drags Star to a long forgotten cellar.
Star Butterfly Wow you sure know your way around the castle.
Cutiesaurs I like to walk around the castle patrolling it in my spare time and also reading books. Which is why I know that wand is a sword that is a key to one of the locks. Of a prison
Star Butterfly What Locks?
Cutiesaurs Let me explain. Long ago before you before me before the kingdom of Mewni before time. Three gods and three goddesses appear. They created the rift then they created time then they created the universe then gave life to them. They taught each creature in the multiverse how to care and love and respect one another. However for order there must be chaos and chaos took the form of Cataclysm. He corrupted everything the gods and goddess did, undoing their work. So they fought back; the battle lasted a thousand year with the records of the events being lost though a few survived. After Cataclysm was weakened the Gods and Goddess locked him up in a prison out of space and out of time. With their own swords. They then gave the six swords to six universe’s. The Sword of Retro, The Sword of the sea, the Sword of sweets, The Sword of reality, The Sword of the sun, finally the Sword of Mewni. They form the kingdoms around the swords. But sadly over time the kingdoms lost knowledge of their past and swords. Except for two. The Kingdom of the Sun saved knowledge of the past and the kingdom of Mewni kept their sword safe. Which is why that wand you have is important; it's the last known sword that prevents the unleashing of Cataclysm.
Star Butterfly Wow I didn’t know my wand was a sword. But it still doesn’t explain how Bob managed to steal my butterfly forum. With some strange magic power.
Cutiesaurs It’s called forum splitting.
Star Butterfly What?
Cutiesaurs Forum splitting it’s a spelical spell that splits someone with transformations and turns their transformation as a spirit. We used it to cure someone from their Werewolf forum.
Star Butterfly Oh. Because my butterfly forum is important to me.
Cutiesaurs I’m sure it is Star.
Cutiesaurus begins to leave Star behind.
Star Butterfly Where are you going Cutie?
Cutiesaurs To find my Empress.
Star Butterfly Don’t you mean queen.
Cutiesaurs They both mean the same thing.
Star Butterfly Okay you’ll do that while I find some help.
Star pulls up her scissors but when she tries to use them they begin to crack and then turn to dust.
Cutiesaurs By the way, scissors are useless in the kingdom of the sun.
Star Butterfly (talking to herself) Great, I can’t get to Mewni or Earth now. Those scissors are my only escape. But maybe Cutie knows another way.
Star races to Cutie
Star Butterfly Hey Cutie I was thinking we can team up to take down Bob.
Cutiesaurs I prefer to work by myself. But thanks for the advice.
Star Butterfly (with her puppy dog eyes) Please!
Cutiesaurs (staring blankly) Your puppy dog eyes have no effect on me. Now would you excuse me? I got a queen to save.
A Cutie walks away Star Butterfly gets a idea
Star Butterfly You said Bob is looking for the six magical swords.
Cutiesaurs And What are you getting at?
Star Butterfly Well we can do what I forget.
Cutiesaurs A barter?
Star Butterfly Yea a barter.
Cutiesaurs By getting the four other swords by doing a trade for the empress then we use our might together to defeat Bob and kill two birds with one stone! I’m such a genius.
Star Butterfly Yes you are so how are you planning on getting to the realms?
Cutiesaurs I have a ship. In an old hanger.
Star Butterfly But how do we get there?
Cutiesaurs Well I know the secret paths around this old castle.
Cutie pulls an old touch handle but discovers it’s the wrong one and then pulls the right one. Which reveals a path which Cutie enters and Star follows behind. It leads to a rusty hanger with a giant shiny red space ship with jet engine thrusters and a jet pilot cockpit.
Cutiesaurs Behold the Gummi ship the most advanced ship in the kingdom, well the only one since all are now scrap. It took me 13 yea… (Notice Star biting the ship) Star what are you doing!?
Star Butterfly You said it’s a Gummi ship and I thought it was made out of gummi’s.
Cutiesaurs I called it the Gummi ship because it looks like it’s made out of gummi. Not made of Gummi.
Star Butterfly Oh. But how would this old thing get us where we are going?
Cutiesaurs Well it takes us to the rift.
Star Butterfly The Rift!? What’s that?
Cutiesaurs It’s like a highway. Star Butterfly What’s that?
Cutiesaurs (I might be too smart for her) It’s where a group of car’s go very fast like a road.
Star Butterfly Oh like a shortcut?
Cutiesaurs (sarcastly) Yes, much like a shortcut. (sarcasm ends) Anyway The rift used to be how one person got from one realm to the other. It was the world that was between realms. However with the invention of technologies and how certain realms like our Kingdom of the sun here isolated themselves. The Rift was no longer used and ships were turned to scrap. Well before I came along and fixed this baby up. Let’s go inside and take a tour and start this baby up.
Cutie and Star enter’s the Gummi ship
Cutiesaurs This ship has everything we need for our trip. It has bed’s and a guest bed for passengers. (in case it was an overnight trip.) A dining room, A kitchen for cooking food, A fireplace. A bookshelf with books throughout the realms is my favorite and finally the cockpit with an autopilot so the captain can do other things and it has a comfy seat with cup holders. It has everything to make you feel right at home. Any questions?
Star Butterfly Yea where is the kitchen sink?
Cutiesaurus then bang his head on the controls
Cutiesaurs I knew I forgot something. I guess I add this on stuff to add to the ship along with weapons. So let’s start this ship up.
Star Butterfly By pressing the big red button. (Star looks for the big red button) where’s the big red button?
Cutiesaurs Yea I did not add one since I don’t want people to be tempted by pushing a big red button. And besides, I don't want to discard myself when I start up the ship. And besides that’s not how you start the ship. (Pulls out the keys) This is how you start the ship
Cutie inserts the keys while the hangar doors open and the ship hovers for a bit before bursting into speed and opening a hole to the rift. But not before Bob and his minions race to the hanger seeing them fly away. The camera fades while Bob quietly makes a grin on his face. The screen then pans to the Gummi ship flying across the rift. Inside Star and Cutie figured out what to do next.
Star Butterfly So um Cutie do you know where the swords are?
Cutiesaurs Well legends say that one of the Swords will reveal the next sword. And since your sword is the only known one I think we’ll start there.
Cutie leads Star to the Bottom of the ship
Cutiesarus This is the map room. Well the only one that functions since this is the only ship that can travel across the rift. Since I have that ship I will navigate our course to where the next sword is.
Star Butterfly How are you gonna to do that? Since you have the knowledge and I have magic.
Cutiesaurs Correct Star but I have an idea. If you cast magic on your wand then it should act like a beacon. That only the swords will hear pinpointing its location. Thus selecting the location and flying to grab it. Any questions?
Star Butterfly Yes, one. I didn’t know Bacon could do that.
Cutiesaurs (Talking to himself) Sometimes I wonder if my kind is too advanced for people who look like they didn’t pass the middle ages.
Cutiesaurs No it’s not. After this read my books. Just use your magic
Star Butterfly I’m gonna create puppies that shoot laser beams.
Cutiesaurs I was thinking of dynamite with a laser beam but your idea sounds fair enough. (Though I must give someone a box of puppies when we land. Because one puppy is enough for me to handle for me right now.

Hello,
I just came back home earlier this morning after commencement and convocation. I graduated back in December, but chose to attend the ceremonies since there wasn't anything for fall graduates for my department back then since the graduating class was small. And since then, I've been reflecting on my actions (and inaction) a lot during my time in school.
I chose to attend here out of state over my local state school primarily because of the positive reputation the school has, while most of my friends attended the local state school or the best school in the state. I also wanted to explore an environment beyond what I was familiar with. But going out of state also meant there was a lot of (reasonable) pressure from my family to do well and stand out academically and/or career-wise. But perhaps that was my first mistake because of my inaction leading up to graduation.
The months between my graduation and the ceremonies had been one of the most stressful periods of my life. The field I studied for is currently oversaturated, so most of my days consisted of applying for jobs or studying for certifications. Either got straight up rejected or rejected after an interview, and I'm convinced that my chances were harmed significantly because I failed to graduate with at least one internship at hand, with the only saving grace I have is that I've worked on projects during class or for club. I had a summer job before, but it was barely relevant to my field, and most employers in their right mind wouldn't give a damn about it.
There's a phrase that's commonly used in Korea, saying that it's better to be the head of the snake than the tail of the dragon; this implies that it's better to be the top person of a small, lesser known community than be a normal or lesser person in a more esteemed community. I feel I ended up being the latter. My grades were solid on paper, but they're somewhat questionable from someone who let their anxiety and laziness prevent them from at least making it up by working during school. I clearly had the time and resources to attend the counseling center more often to get myself a bit more straightened out, but for whatever reason, I chose not to. Four years should have been plenty of time to develop a competent adult identity, and I'm still struggling with something as important as persistence and maintaining a winning mentality.
My dad was especially disappointed and frustrated with my overall performance, and to put it short, there was a lot of harsh realities that he talked about with me; If I can't even compete well enough in a place where there's plenty of resources and opportunities like college, then how would I even expect to stay afloat with most of the general workforce where they can fire you for even the most simple failures or liabilities? And in a job market that gets more competitive every year, I put myself in a far more difficult situation due to my lack of effort and persistence in the right places.
I realize that it's not the end of the world for me, but as someone who already struggled with even the bare minimum of college life while most of my friends here managed to make it further than me by having internships or excelling academically, I can't help to think about what could have been me, and have no idea if I'm truly ready for the real world. I'll continue applying for jobs and work towards certifications while spending time on hobbies, but perhaps some suggestions would be appreciated on how to make it in this mostly callous world.

Recently I became aware that my boyfriend of three years has not in fact stopped watching porn. He has this instagram account that he used to post memes on as well as hentai or straight up porn. He hasn’t posted on it in a while (3 years) but he does sometimes go on the account. That account is one big trigger for me. He still follows plenty of inappropriate accounts, and I did go through the accounts he followed and saw him liking things he KNOWS would make me upset.
WHY WHY WHY? Why did he like the things he liked? WHY. I cannot understand why and it is driving me insane. Who does he think he is? Why is he STILL doing this? I DONT GET IT. I am so extremely disappointed, not in him, but the fact that I was right about him. God how I wish I was in the wrong and he really wasn’t doing anything, but we can’t always get what we want.
You sit there and you tell me you aren’t doing anything that would hurt me….YET YOU ARE. OUT IN THE OPEN.
I have wanted him to delete the account for a long time and he just always says he has too many posts on there and doesn’t want to delete them. I know the real reason is because he doesn’t want to get rid of his hidden porn/hentai stash he has saved on it. The account serves no purpose and he says he only goes on it to get anime pictures….🤨 once again I have seen the things he liked today and he is 100% lying.
I have yet to bring this up as I don’t want to do it over the phone because he will not give me a good answer. What are some things I should say when I bring this up to him in person? What are some good phrases to use to make it hard for them to deny it? I don’t even know where to begin.
He’ll most likely just shutdown and act annoyed like I’m his mom getting onto him for doing something. How does he expect me to be happy and stay with him when he can’t even do something that would improve our relationship? I just don’t understand him. At all. I would do anything for him. Yet he can’t do the bare minimum for me. If this conversation does not improve anything, I’m afraid it’s time for us to finally part ways. He has been so adamant that he has changed…yet once again his actions speak louder than his words, and I am left feeling completely confused and lost.

trying this here in this sub bc someone recommended it, but i truly do enjoy watching gameplays! i like when ppl nerd out about games and truly enjoy playing them. i’m not really a gamer girl, but again i enjoy watching (lol i play animal crossing n mario kart on my switch really, play a few games on my dsi when i feel like it)! i love story/decision based games (firewatch, final fantasy series, life is strange series, mafia series, last of us series, red dead redemption, danganronpa series, gta, beyond two souls, telltale series, etc). also like the sims, animal crossing, roblox, scary games, n more! some of my fav gamers to watch on youtube are iberleezy, coryxkenshin, dashiegames, britani, caseoh, jenn (mcallister), ricky dillon extra, rico the giant, peeg, and more!
but yeah just like the title says, i would love to watch you play games (that sounds creepy pls but yk what i mean)! i think it’s fun being apart of making decisions :) commentary is always fun to hear (i have a thing for voices oops). i would love to become friends and just talk about anything n everything, i’d say once i’m comfortable with someone i’m pretty chatty, a yapper if you will. i would feel comfy if you’re older than 20 pls :) and i definitely like people who are mentally stimulating & can hold conversations. ✨
dni (do not interact) if: you’re any/support any of the -phobics or -isms, racist, rude/disrespectful/agressive, conservative, into dark humor, super sarcastic (i like to banter but i don’t catch sarcasm honestly lol), dry humoboring, a hornball.

So I love the book "how to talk to little kids will listen"
I'm trying to find something that references the authors guides - like a recap version of what I should doing with my toddler.
I'm currently making posters for each chapter of my notes so I can stick them up around my kitchen....phrases and sayings I can use on my little one. But this is time consuming.
I'm after some simple print outs or something...
Anyone know what I'm talking about about lol?

Hi, i found a listing on facebook marketplace for a Canon EF-S 55-250 mm f/4-5.6 IS STM lens, and it seems to be about a third of the price compared to other listings I've seen. The description (in my native language) says that "the flaw of the lens is that it only works on the low aperture setting (f/4-5.6). It makes pretty pretty pictures even like this" I came to interpret this in the way that there is something wrong with the lens (would explain the price), but the specific lens is meant to have this aperture by default, so I'm not sure what's going on. My partner told me this might just be a weirdly phrased description and the seller just means that the lens is not great because it only works in this aperture and it could be better (like other products maybe?). Can anyone please help me out if I'm missing something regarding this lens that could explain this phrasing? Thanks in advance!

Hi everyone! Just curious, have any of you had any backlash from a social media site itself for being Jewish, openly saying you're Jewish, or for being part-Israeli (if you are), or for using the phrase "Am yisrael chai"?
(Sorry if my wording makes no sense, I'm so terrible at explaining.)
This happened to me last week. A friend of mine told me about a Mastodon instance called Aethy, that is supposed to be anti-censorship. I was all for that, because censorship sucks, and free speech is cool, so I joined.
I was having a good time, making friends, until last week when I got an email saying my account had been permanently suspended. I was super confused; I hadn't done anything wrong, just posting about my fave actor (Paul Reubens) and swooning over him, lol.
So I went on the site and logged in, to see if it would tell me why I was permanently suspended... and it said "Hate speech in bio". Cue me with a confused face. The only "controversial" things in my bio was that I stated I was part-Israeli, and I had the phrase "Am yisrael chai" at the end of my bio.
I tried to appeal my suspension, saying that I can't control my ethnic make-up, and that "Am yisrael chai" is not some hate speech statement, and tried to explain to them what it means.
Nope. My suspension stands, so I'm effectively banned.
But yet, people can post vile antisemitic hatred (supposedly against their rules) but it's okay as long as they have the Palestinian flag and stuff in their bio.
Sorry this turned into a bit of venting, but yeah.

J’adore les champignons. I am going to France in October, spending a day or two in Paris and then probably two nights in Rouen.
In Paris I intend to visit some of the sites of the Muséum national d’Historie naturelle, and the Louvre Museum. I will likely only have 2 nights (3 days) in Paris, then I’m meeting a friend in Rouen. We plan to see Cathédrale Notre-Dame de Rouen and then I was hoping to visit Parc animalier de Roumare.
I am from Australia and this is my first time travelling overseas, I am super excited to see everything but honestly I’d rather go for a walk and see some fungi than visit the Eiffel Tower or Arc de Triomphe. If I had more time, I would see these sites but I am not a fan of crowds and have always said my dream trip to Europe would involve travelling the countryside. I am on a small financial budget and will not be there long and I know myself and I would get more joy from a walk in nature than visiting a tourist hotspot like the Eiffel Tower.
I understand there’s a lot of castles that from the photos look to have beautiful grounds and architecture, but I would like to be able to explore at my own pace. Google says that fungi season in France is typically Mid-August to Mid-September but I’m hoping to get lucky and see some new fungi that aren’t found in Australia.
I am a huge advocate for conservation, and I do not intend on touching or disrupting the native fungi or flora at all. Not looking for edibles or anything. I will stick to paths, take only photos and leave only footprints. Sincerest apologies I’m learning Spanish as I’m mainly going to Europe to visit my sis in Spain and I plan to learn some phrases in French but I had to post this in English
Tl;dr, mycophile from Australia got 2/3 days in Paris and 2/3 days in Rouen, looking for recommendations for sites to foray/see native flora and fungi, ideally ones that arent crowded by tourists. I am not looking for edibles, I just want to see and admire the local fungi. I will not touch the or disrupt their ecosystem.
Mods if this is the wrong sub, pls don’t ban me just redirect me or let me know and I’ll delete the post. This sub is my favourite sub and I apologise if this is inappropriate As my main interest is fungi I thought this sub might have more local knowledge than France travel subs.

SOME BACKGROUND:
I'm going to be upfront; the one thing truly stopping me from saying I am autistic with full certainty is my lack of an official diagnosis, despite having the knowledge that one does not need to be diagnosed to be autistic. I'm almost entirely certain after about 8 or so years of consideration. I'm attempting to seek a diagnosis not only for personal validation though, but also to have something concrete to give to my parents. For now, I consider myself self-diagnosed, though I've given my psychiatrist a 20 page document detailing why I believe I would benefit from a proper evaluation as well as all of the experiences and the collection of traits I have that I attribute to being autistic.
For some background: I am 20 and AFAB, transmasc but presenting as female due to not being out of the closet. I am Vietnamese and part of the first generation in my family to be born in America. My parents and grandparents were born and raised in Vietnam, and thus were raised with a very different culture surrounding things such as mental health and disability compared to the information I've had access to growing up in the US. I still live with my parents and am struggling with already diagnosed mental health issues including major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, unspecified ADHD, and an unspecified trauma disorder. Because of the language and cultural barrier, my parents are really only aware of the depression in name, and the ADHD they understand even less. They are trying their best, though my dad hasn't looked at any of the resources I've sent him about ADHD or autism in my attempts to help him understand better.
On my dad in particular: he has always been the kind to believe in toughing things out and simply trying harder. Over the years he has grown to be more understanding, especially as my mental health issues grew to degrees that became harder to hide, but we have a history in terms of what I'm about to describe re: my very recent meltdown.
WHAT HAPPENED:
The day before Mother's Day, my dad sprung up on me without warning that me and my younger brother were going over to our paternal grandparents' house to wish our grandmother a happy Mother's Day. This immediately upset me not because I didn't want to go, but because I hadn't had the time to mentally prepare myself for the shift in my routine—I had only done so for the actual date of Mother's Day. I've asked my family before that I am told ahead of time when plans to go out of the house where I'm involved are made, preferably at least a day beforehand. Unfortunately, my family is comprised of very spontaneous people who tend to make plans on the fly.
I made it clear I was fairly upset about not being told ahead of time to my mother, who thanked me when I got up to get ready to go. Something about being thanked for this was the final nail in the coffin for the upset that was gripping me. I think it was the idea that she knew full well that I was attempting to set aside my own comforts(? for lack of a better term) for the sake of family normality; something that I've had to do often.
I had a quiet breakdown in the bathroom while I washed myself, which came with the annoyance of how snotty tears would make you. Very annoying when bowing your head to wash your hair. I've had practice locking myself in the bathroom to have my breakdowns in a private place where I couldn't be walked in on and then questioned, because I always knew that I could never explain why I was having such a disproportionate reaction, especially given the cultural barrier. It would all seem stupid, immature, selfish, spoiled, and an overreaction. My plan was to cry it out in the shower and come back out after composing myself so we could leave. Tried and true method. I bit the back of my hands—to stifle my crying, to give myself a physical sensation to ground myself with, some combination of those two. It helped only a little bit.
As it turns out, there was a lot of baggage behind this upset outside of just this one incident. There is a very long-running pattern in which I must sacrifice my comfort or suck up my complaints in order to appease whatever my parents have decided to do, or whatever I was expected to do.
Sometimes it was their obsession with taking billions of family pictures—I vividly recall one instance where I was horribly upset about having to wear a dress, especially for the sole sake of driving to some flower field just to take pretty family pictures of which we have thousands. I was much younger at the time, maybe 14, and was expressing my upset in the only somewhat acceptable way I could, i.e. being incredibly grumpy. Eventually my dad blew up at me for being spoiled and various other things while I cried in the back of the car, my mother and younger brother dead silent. He drove to cool off. We did not talk about it ever again afterward.
Sometimes it was school-related. When I was around 11, I was struggling to complete an assignment for school for reasons I couldn't articulate, and honestly still can't. It was simple, and it was a drawing assignment, and I absolutely adored traditional art. But I was simply Stuck on some part, and was working myself into an anxious mess up until midnight. I was terrified of getting bad grades, of not meeting the expectations of people I considered authority figures, such as teachers. So much so that I wanted to stay home. And knowing I had no "proper" excuse, I tried to use a different one when I asked to stay home for that one day: menstrual cramps. I was told to see how I was doing in the morning.
In the morning I still said I wished to stay home from school due to cramps. After a lot of deliberation with my mother, she relented and allowed me to stay home. Despite the fact that I had gotten what I wanted, I was already horribly upset. Looking back on it, I think it was the fact that I had to fight so hard to stay home for just one day. It was upsetting that my visible upset wasn't enough. It was upsetting that they weren't just getting it.
I had a breakdown in the bathroom (there's a trend here as you can see) and slammed my arm against the heater in there so many times that I ended up with horrible bruising on the back of my arm the days after. My family members knocked on the door because people needed to get ready, and that only made me more upset—couldn't they hear me crying? Didn't they care? When I finally came out and crawled up into the upper bunk, my dad came in and started yelling at me.
Your average stuff, things like, "If I had a stomachache I wouldn't just be able to not go to work." I blocked a lot of it out of my memory, but most of the time I was under the covers crying while he engaged in a one-sided shouting match with me. Eventually my mother came in and gently asked me to stop crying, and to stop making my father mad.
While these two incidents and the others like them happened years ago, they were defining moments in my life and inform how I handle conflict (as in: I don't) and how I go about expressing my struggles (as in: rarely, and often with great shame). Standing in the shower and being unable to not think about these things, I spiraled further. It felt like I was being swallowed by my emotions. I don't know if angry or sad or upset really capture what I was feeling properly. My thoughts were like a car with its brakes cut, going at breakneck speeds on the highway.
By the time I was done with my shower I still wasn't composed. As it turns out, when you abuse a coping mechanism that relies on repression as long as I did, it stops working at some point. There was just too much to try and hide. More hand biting happened along with some hitting my head with my fists. So I sat in my room, and eventually my mom came in and saw my face. Unsurprisingly she didn't acknowledge the fact that I had clearly been crying—instead, with a soft voice, like she was coaxing a small child into doing something vaguely unpleasant, she told me, "Come on, let's go." And I'm sure that's how she was seeing me at that point. An oppositional, defiant child. I struggle not to see myself in that way, and still have been trying to unpack how much shame I feel when things like this happen.
My crying started up again because my tear ducts really don't like listening to me, and I asked somewhat incredulously, "You're still going to make me go?" In retrospect, it probably sounded bratty. Here I was, 20 years old, complaining about being "made" to go somewhere.
It took maybe a couple of seconds for my mom to decide to just let me stay home instead.
Once everyone was out, I had the loudest cry I'd ever experienced in my life. I'd never had the opportunity to, and so it just kind of... came out once the house was silent. I think I might've wailed. And then I promptly shut the hell up once I heard my [maternal] grandmother coming back upstairs. She passed by my room, asked why I didn't go (not noticing the state of my face, maybe due to eyesight). I gave a non-answer and she made some exasperated remark that I don't know how to translate into English. It nearly set me off again, knowing how inconvenient I was, how tired they all were of me and my antics.
I had a headache for the next 20 or so hours, which I knew would happen based on past experiences with breakdowns as emotionally taxing as this one. I'd also predicted during the whole thing that the next day I would be pretty nonfunctional, which I was unfortunately also right about. Whenever these things happen it throws my entire week off. It's upsettingly debilitating. Two days later, I'm somewhat functional, but the whole thing disrupted my... everything. I have an exam that I had planned to study for during the days I was busy trying to get myself back together emotionally. The headache actually came back, and is sitting with me nicely while I type this. Hey there.
The day immediately after, Mother's Day: I was pretty fearful the entire time. Mostly of what my dad was going to do. Best case scenario, he'd come into my room and we could have an open dialogue and communicate about what happened. Worst case scenario, he'd regress and revert back to how he'd been like years ago, screaming at me for my incompetence, my selfishness, my refusal to cooperate with the smallest things despite all our family does for me. After a little bit I had to add on a third possibility: that he would simply go about like nothing happened, which he has also done before. Generally though, I wasn't optimistic about my chances here. I learned through this that I absolutely don't trust him to handle my larger, more intrusive, more ugly issues with grace.
He's been ignoring my existence since my little meltdown. No hellos, good mornings, not even looking at me. He's talking with everyone else as normal. I've been keeping my head down and can really only assume that he's angry with me as I'd expected and based on what I know about him/understand in terms of his personality through prior experience.
While I could give benefit of the doubt and say he may be attempting to give me space, he's the kind of person who you can tell when he's angry. It's something we share. And it's truly more likely that he's upset about me throwing what looked to him like a shitfit over something small and inconsequential, refusing to do something as simple as a visit to make his mothemy paternal grandmother to give Mother's Day gifts. And I didn't get my propensity for avoiding communication and unpleasant conversations at all costs from nowhere, so. Here we are.
I still don't really know if what I had was an autistic meltdown or a "standard" emotional breakdown, whatever that even looks like. I think I'm used to framing my behaviors with neurotypical language, and often language that isn't too kind to myself. So on top of venting a bit, I also wanted to get an outside perspective, and see whether my breakdown sounded similar to any other autistic peoples' experiences with meltdowns.
If there's any advice out there to give in terms of my relationship with my dad, that would also be appreciated. I love my family, but it all hurts, and this has also made me realize that I may have a lot more trauma to unpack surrounding my family than I've acknowledged.
I've been considering getting a physical copy of Sincerely, Your Autistic Child to annotate and highlight certain sections, putting sticky tabs on chapters I find relevant, and providing definitions for words I know he hasn't come across before, to give to him and ask him to at least attempt to read those bits. The more bitter and angry part of me, the part that are tired of having to be the one to accommodate for everything interpersonally, just wants to go up to him and tell him the reason I never go to him when I'm upset is because I'm scared. To tell him exactly what all those times he yelled at me did to my ability to self-advocate, to tell him what all those times my emotions and emotional well being were devalued did to my self-esteem. That the "interpersonally submissive" phrase from my 40 page psych report has roots in the way he raised me entirely on obedience, and how I am still learning that I am allowed to say no in all sorts of contexts. Maybe I can do both of these things, and probably when he isn't pretending I don't exist, and when I feel less like I'll fall to bits the moment I open my mouth in his direction. I'll likely try and avoid using language that outright blames him for the sake of maintaining a good relationship whenever the talk comes around.
I'm still trying to accept the fact that I might need more support than I allowed myself to think. I only recently found out that truly voicing that I'm having academic trouble is something that brings me so much shame that tears spring up in my eyes—going to the Disability Support Services office on my campus made me far more emotional and nervous than I'd expected. With how I'm navigating my own self-acceptance, I don't know how I'm going to get my family to accept that I'm not the "normal" child I know they still wished I was.

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Season Information

• Airdates: 30th August 1980 - 21st March 1981
• Doctor: 4th (Tom Baker)
• Companions: K-9 (V/A: John Leeson, S18E01-20), Romana II (Lalla Ward, S18E01-20), Adric (Matthew Waterhouse, S18E09-28), Nyssa (Sarah Sutton, S18E21-28), Tegan (Janet Fielding, S18E25-28)
• Other Notable Characters: The Decayed Master (Geoffrey Beevers, S18E21-24), The Tremas Master (Anthony Ainley, S18E24-28)
• Producer: John Nathan-Turner
• Script Editors: Christopher H. Bidmead

Review

In retrospect I really shouldn't have called Season 15 "The Transitional Season". Because, well, Season 18 is obviously the Doctor Who season most clearly transitioning between eras. So much so that by the end of the season the only thing left of the 4th Doctor era is the 4th Doctor himself. Through this season, the 4th Doctor, Romana and K-9 become the 5th Doctor, Adric, Nyssa and Tegan. And it leads to kind of an odd feeling.
It's also notable that there's a serious tonal change that happens this season. While Graham Williams never quite got to make the comedy era of Doctor Who that he wanted to, he did give it a more relaxed and free-flowing atmosphere. Under new Producer John Nathan-Turner, as well as new Script Editor Christopher H. Bidmead, the story veers right back into being a more serious show. And for the first time, there was real effort being put into grounding a lot of the stories in real science. And while the actual science involved isn't really accurate, I do think it has a positive impact on the season as a whole. The science on Doctor Who is always made up, but at least this way it feels like we're pointing in the vague direction of something real.
It's certainly a refreshing change of pace from the rest of the 4th Doctor era. The 4th Doctor era, at least from Season 13 onwards had a tendency to feel very gimmicky. During the Hinchcliffe era it was taking popular horror stories like Frankenstein or The Mummy and adapting them for Doctor Who. During the Williams era, that shifted more towards genre parodies, with some journeys in to Greek mythology. Season 18 feels kind of refreshing in large part because…there's not really any obvious influences. Sure we're pulling from real science, both in individual episodes and in a more general sense with the broad theme of entropy, but that feels a lot less invasive than pulling from more famous media.
Which leads us nicely to the entropy thing. Season 18, at least in theory, has an overarching theme of "entropy". Or more accurately it has an overarching theme of "decay" that sometimes takes on the form of entropy. Because look, there's nothing especially entropic about the vampires in State of Decay or the way the Argolins are dying out in The Leisure Hive, but it still falls into the larger umbrella of decay. Which gives this season a fairly melancholic tone to it on the whole. Throughout the entire season, things seem to be falling apart, especially once we get to E-Space. Warriors' Gate is full of all of this imagery of past riches fading into nothing, Keeper of Traken is literally about an entirely way of life nearly falling apart, and Logopolis is where we, really and truly, get the entropy theme, for real this time. But also…
Logopolis, in which the Doctor dies, briefly turns into a man with white cracked skin only to sit up looking about a decade younger, is probably the best indication of the other half of our decay theme. Because Doctor Who is a show where things generally work out for the best, this is a season that is as much about rebirth as it is about decay. The Argolins from Leisure Hive are given a chance at new life for their civilization. The peoples with meet in the E-Space Trilogy all ultimately get delivered from their decaying societies and given a chance to build back up to something new. In Meglos…I guess at the end there the people of Tigella do ultimately get to live on the surface of their planet…somehow. Even in Keeper of Traken the story leaves the Trakenite people on something of a hopeful note, with a new Keeper installed to look after it. Sure, in Logopolis we learn that the Master apparently blew up Traken off screen (if I had a nickel for every time the Master blew up a planet off screen…) along with its entire solar system, but at least at the end of Keeper things are looking hopeful.
And that idea of renewal kind of extends to the show itself right? Like this is clearly a season that's transitioning into a new, renewed version of itself, at least in theory. That's why we lose Romana and the robot dog, and replace them with a couple of kids and a fairly young flight attendant. John Nathan-Turner felt that the trio of Romana, K-9 and the Doctor were too invulnerable, which is why he decided to write out the two surplus geniuses. You can see this in how stories are structured. Generally speaking in the five stories that Romana and K-9 are in this season, Romana is either confined to her own subplot or taken out of commission, while K-9 is so constantly dismantled or on very low power, it begins to feel like a running gag by the time he leaves.
And at the same time, this season shows us Romana at the absolute height of her competence. She's basically the Doctor's equal by the time we enter E-Space. I think that's why I feel like it was the right time for Romana to leave: she'd done all the developing she needed to. There was nowhere to take the character without making the show just as much about her as it was about the Doctor. So while losing Romana, and Lalla Ward with her, is a shame, it was the right time to drop her. Losing K-9 on the other hand…look the TARDIS is already about to get exceptionally crowded and unless you don't bring Nyssa back in Logopolis there really isn't time for the robot dog, but I'd argue that there was no need to drop K-9 from the show. His presence making the TARDIS team "unassailable" just doesn't hold up, as him continually being dismantled throughout this season proves. And, as Tom Baker once observed in one of the funniest outtakes in Doctor Who history "you [K-9] never fucking know the answer when it's important".
But we do eventually have to introduce the younger folks. It starts out with Alzarian teenager turned TARDIS stowaway Adric. Adric has a reputation as an awful companion, though personally I've never been that down on him. I don't love the character, but he's perfectly acceptable in small doses. The biggest issue I take with him is that he plays into the sullen teenager a bit too much. The moody teenage genius is just not an enjoyable character to follow along with, and it's only going to get worse next season. However, there are moments, particularly in Keeper of Traken where the student/pupil dynamic with the Doctor makes him genuinely likable. Also, his obvious crush on Nyssa, more seen in Logopolis is fairly endearing. But a lot of the time he's just, and I've used this phrase before, an arrogant little shit. And I think it is fair to point out that Matthew Waterhouse, inexperienced as he was, often gives a very wooden performance.
Nyssa is introduced in Keeper of Traken. There we see her interacting on her own homeworld. She takes initiative a number of times in that story, mostly during the jailbreak section which she organizes. In Logopolis she's out searching for her father and that's when she has the rug pulled out from under her. She learns that, in short order, the Master killed her father and then that he destroyed her home system. Between the two stories we get a really solid setup for Nyssa, and Sarah Sutton is really solid in the role, though whether the show will follow through on any of this in the next couple seasons…is a story for another time. And speaking of characters whose somewhat tragic first couple stories often get overlooked, in her first story Tegan learns that the Master has killed her aunt, who she was clearly quite close to. Sure, it's not on the level of Nyssa's loss, but it's not a competition. Tegan, like Nyssa, gets a strong introduction, and like Nyssa we'll see in the future how successful the followup to that introduction is.
And then, there's the Doctor. Amidst all of this change, he's the one thing that stays constant from the prior era, and he ends up feeling a bit out of place by the end of season as a result. Some of this is in retrospect of course. It's only weird seeing the 4th Doctor with Nyssa and Tegan because we think of these two as 5th Doctor companions. But I do think that there's something to the idea that the 4th Doctor belonged to the 1970s. We've now reached the 1980s and the scarf man has somewhat been left behind. Or that may be because Tom Baker just seems tired this season. He's not putting in bad work, because he knows the character too well to do that, but he does seem more disconnected than ever. Of course if I'm going to mention this, I should mention that Baker was getting over an illness during the filming of the E-Space trilogy. And he has his moments of higher energy, particularly in Keeper of Traken for whatever reason. But there are also times, even before the illness, where Tom looks like he's sleepwalking through all of this. I think it's fair to say it was time for him to leave.
On a technical level there are some changes. The Doctor's costume changed substantially, and the rest of the cast will be wearing the same clothes they were introduced in for the rest of next season (well okay, Nyssa's outfit will undergo some minor alterations). It's one of the less well-handled elements of the JNT era: people stop dressing like people, but end up stuck in costumes. This will somewhat ameliorate as time goes on, but it's something worth noting: it starts early, and was very intentional. JNT explicitly wanted all of his main cast to be wearing "uniforms". Musically we've undergone a big change as well. Dudley Simpson is gone and he's been replaced by a rotating cast of composers from the BBC Radiophonics workshop. These are all solid at bare minimum, with my favorite probably being Paddy Kingsland. As a result of this change, the style has changed considerably. Over the course of Simpson's time as composer, the show became more and more orchestral, whereas under the Radiophonics composers we've gone in a more electronic direction. It's a big shift, but by the end of the season it feels natural, and I think Doctor Who does well with a synth sound.
Season 18 begins the reign of Doctor Who's final producer. Eventually JNT will stay on too long, as even he would admit, but at this point all of his ideas feel new and fresh. They aren't all improvements, though some are, but Season 18 does feel entirely different from what came before it, and there's value in that. More than that though, other than enforcing a more serious tone than the Graham Williams era, Season 18 ends up feeling like it's going back to basics. Sure it's got an arc (two of them in fact) but all of the stories feel a lot less constrained by a style than earlier 4th Doctor era stories, which works to it's advantage. Genuinely, this is a strong season, a strong start to John Nathan-Turner's run as producer, and a strong end to the 4th Doctor era.
Even if, you know, it already felt like the show had left him behind well before he regenerated.

Awards

Best Story: State of Decay
What can I say, I like it when old Uncle Terry does horror. It's odd, I'll admit, to have talked up so much how refreshing it felt to have a season that didn't rely so much on gimmicks and then to say that my favorite story from said season to be the vampire pastiche but…I'm allowed to be self contradictory if I like. And genuinely, State of Decay works so well that it's worth highlighting my own inconsistency to highlight the story.
Worst Story: Meglos
Meglos (the character) has no motivation, the stuff on Tigella is the most boring version of a conflict we've done…probably dozens of times at this point, none of the characters are at all memorable…what a waste of the return of Jacqueline Hill.
Most Important: The Keeper of Traken
Logopolis has the regeneration and introduction of block-transfer computation, so this was a closely run thing. But Keeper introduces the version of the Master that will be sticking around for the remainder of the show, sets up a lot about Logopolis, and introduces a new companion. Like I said it's close, but this feels like the right call to me. I also could have gone with Warriors' Gate, but Keeper and Logopolis both feel much more significant to me.
Funniest Story: N/A
Often times when there's not really a comedy in a season, I go for the strangest story as a sort of proxy for the funniest story. But the strangest story this season was Warriors' Gate, and it's not the right kind of strange to qualify for this award. So we're leaving this space blank, as JNT intentionally tries to move the show away from what Graham Williams was doing with it.
Scariest Story: State of Decay
I had to chose which was scarier between the destruction of the universe via entropy or vampires and went with vampires. I think my sense of scale might be borked.

Rankings

1. State of Decay (8/10)
2. Warriors' Gate (8/10)
3. The Leisure Hive (7/10)
4. The Keeper of Traken (7/10)
5. Logopolis (7/10)
6. Full Circle (7/10)
7. Meglos (1/10)

Season Rankings
These are based on weighted averages that take into account the length of each story. Take this ranking with a grain of salt however. No average can properly reflect a full season's quality and nuance, and the scores for each story are, ultimately, highly subjective and a bit arbitrary.

1. Season 7 (8.1/10)
2. Season 10 (7.5/10)
3. Season 4 (7.0/10)
4. Season 11 (6.5/10)
5. Season 18 (6.4/10)
6. Season 12 (6.3/10)
7. Season 6 (6.3/10)
8. Season 1 (6.2/10)
9. Season 14 (6.2/10)
10. Season 13 (6.1/10)
11. Season 3 (6.0/10)
12. Season 5 (6.0/10)
13. Season 15 (5.9/10)
14. Season 2 (5.8/10)
15. Season 9 (5.8/10)
16. Season 8 (5.8/10)
17. Season 17 (5.8/10) *
18. Season 16 – The Key to Time (5.6/10)

* Includes originally unmade serial Shada
I'm genuinely considering abandoning the season/doctor era rankings portion of these posts. Do I think that Season 18 was good…absolutely. The 5th best season of the first 18 though?
What's happened here is that a lot of very solid scores (4 sevens…) have skewed the results up higher than they would otherwise have gone to the point that, even me giving Meglos a 1/10 hasn't affected it that much. The end result is a season going much higher than I would otherwise put it. Granted if I were as high on Warriors' Gate as some, I'd probably feel better about this, but if I were as high on that story as some it probably gets a perfect score and borks these rankings even further. I don't know, I guess the rankings serve their purpose as a snapshot of how good I felt any given season was on average, but I less and less feel like they're a reflection of my actual rankings of the seasons
Next Time: Somehow, I've reached the end of the 4th Doctor era. Now I just have to write about him. That's…going to be a lot.

This thought popped up two nights ago while I was trying to sleep and it's been on my mind ever since. I've read differences between the two and I still can't decide.
To start off, my best friend who I've known for 8 years told me she can see ENTP as a possibility. I've identified with INTP for a long time now. I've been typed ISTP and INTJ before (this was 4 years ago) but I'm confident I'm neither of those types. Taking tests has given me the following types (none of these are 16p): INFP, INTJ, ENTP, INTP. I'm certain my enneagram is 6w5 and my instinctual variant is either sp/sx or sx/sp, although I'm mostly siding with the former.
I'm not a shy person, I prefer to keep to myself. I would be more than happy to talk if I were with a group of friends than a group of strangers unless they're discussing a topic I really care about. I'm a lot more social onlike than in real life. My social anxiety plays a huge part in the whole socializing thing. I tend to overthink what I want to say when I'm in a group.
I like to speak my mind and be honest about things. When I do this however, I make sure to phrase it differently for people who are more sensitive to criticism. When I'm angry I don't bother softening the blow. Feelings are a bit weird to me. I'm open to express how I feel if it doesn't get too deep. If I were to confess how I felt about someone (friendly or romantic) for example, it would be very hard and embarrassing to do so but I'd push on if it meant they knew how I felt. I get awkward when I recieve compliments.
I like using my past experiences to help me with what I should do now. When I'm at my lowest I get stuck in a nostalgia loop, wishing I could go back in time. It's hard for me to listen to music I listened to a YEAR ago. I forget where I always leave my things. I can put my phone down on the couch and forget where I left it 5 minutes later. Retracing my steps doesn't really help me haha.
I like to think outside the box, I think of different possibilities to solve solutions. I always wonder how people can live life without looking at different possibilities.
I'm a little tired so sorry if there's something that doesn't make sense. I also apologize if it went off the main text topic, I'm also struggling to find out whether my Ti or Ne is dominant. If you have any questions feel free to ask! Thank you for reading!

Level Two

Picking up the golden egg and his Firebolt, feeling more elated than he would have believed possible an hour ago, Harry ducked out of the tent, Ron by his side, talking fast.
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Without that random note what would have happened in this case??people say it was dumb if the Ramsey camp committed the murder to write it cause it could be traced back to them via phrases in the note,handwriting comparison but it’s was the only thing at that moment they could think of to throw the investigation off .if the cops come to the house with no ransom note and just a dead child,the parents would be finished.by making it so bizarre there is no way the cops could move on with the investigation without addressing it and it made the case more infamous so basically the Ramseys got away with murder with this ransom note in my opinion

I only answered like 2/3 of the questions btw.

• What is your idea of perfect happiness?
  • Being surrounded by the people/animals I care about. Bonus points if it's in a private outdoor area, cause I love being in nature.
• What is your greatest fear?
  • Losing the people that I care about. A secondary one would be not being able to overcome the trauma my parents caused me and becoming like them.
• What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
  • My temper or selfishness at times. But also, I have learned I have a tendency to be very hard on myself at times, so idk if the latter one is accurate or something I think I am because I suck at drawing boundaries with others and then feel selfish when I do.
• What is the trait you most deplore in others?
  • Knowingly using or stepping on others for your personal gain, especially when there are other options available (ex. knowing your actions are going to hurt other people, animals, the environment, etc. and still choosing to move forward despite it). Also, disregarding other people’s emotions/boundaries.
• Which living person do you most admire?
  • I don’t have an answer to this. I don’t really like to put people on a pedestal because humans are fallible and can burn you. Traits that I admire in others though are high empathy, chillness, good sense of humor, loyalty, consistency, open mindedness.
• What is your greatest extravagance?
  • Not having a fixed budget when I travel (outside of hotel/airfare). Other than that I don’t consider myself to be an extravagant person - I save and spend money responsibly so when I do want to splurge, I have the ability to do so.
• What is your current state of mind?
  • Self-growth - I'm working on trying to overcome the wounds my parents gave me during my childhood and figure out which of my traits are me vs coping mechanisms to the environment I grew up in.
• What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
  • Using a list of Aristotle’s virtues (cause I needed a list to come up with ideas) - righteous indignation. Imo, stewing in anger most always only leads to more pain and I feel like righteous indignation is often used by a lot of people as justifications to hurt another person which just creates a cycle of hurt. I wouldn't say all righteous anger is bad though, but it is when it's used to punish/hurt others rather than try to change the situation for the better or come to a mutual understanding.
• On what occasion do you lie?
  • When the details themselves don’t matter and will require more explaining than they're worth. Or any event that triggers fawning tendencies and I feel like my actual reasoning isn’t an acceptable enough one, so I end up stretching the truth to come up with something that'll seem more “valid” (ex. if someone invites me to do something I don’t want to do, I’ll just lie about having something else going on so I don’t hurt their feelings by telling them the truth).
• What is the quality you most like in a man/woman?
  • Loyalty or protectiveness.
• Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
  • ‘Interesting’ in response to things or ‘fuck’ when anything mildly inconvenient happens (I swear a lot when I’m alone, but I’m good at censoring myself when others are around).
• What or who is the greatest love of your life?
  • At the moment, probably my dog since my ‘people’ issues don’t extend to her and I can see how much she implicitly trusts and loves me which I see as a reflection of the love/care I extend to her. Also, we’re lowkey codependent af and I’d fight anyone to protect her.
• When and where were you happiest?
  • I’m not sure I can come up with a specific ‘when’ but most of my fondest memories are all with my closest friends/family members (my pup included) and us just doing random unplanned small stuff.
• Which talent would you most like to have?
  • Learning new languages quickly and retaining them with ease. Otherwise painting or pottery would be cool too.
• If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
  • My relationship with my emotions/self and how I react to things, but this is again tied to childhood trauma rather than cognition and I’m currently in the process of working on it.
• What do you consider your greatest achievement?
  • Not sure, but probably how quickly I get promoted in most of my jobs. I don’t even consider myself to be that hard of a worker, but most every job I’ve ever had has promoted me quickly and/or told me they’re trying to train me to eventually be put into leadership positions.
• If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
  • If we’re talking real life, then probably a panda in one of those panda sanctuaries in China where they don’t have to worry about predators, finding their own food, or anything really. If we’re talking fantasy worlds, then a witch or fantasy protagonist would be cool (think TVD type of witch where you’re a normal person who has earth magic, not one where I have to sell my soul to the devil or anything like that).
• Where would you most like to live?
  • I have a few different places I’d like to live - one would be in the temperate rainforests of the PNW/BC and another would be to retire along the coast of Maine in a lighthouse.
• What is your most treasured possession?
  • I don’t consider her a possession, but my most treasured ‘thing’ right now is my dog. In terms of things that I own, idk. I have stuff that I like and feel sentimental towards, but I don’t really get attached to objects the way that I think ‘treasured’ is being used here.
• What is your favorite occupation?
  • My favorite job I’ve ever worked was as a volunteer ‘cat cuddler’ at an animal shelter. My favorite job that I’ve never worked but I think would be fun would probably be as a park ranger.
• What do you most value in your friends?
  • Idk if I can distill it down to one single thing, but generally they’re good listeners, very easy going, always down whatever whether that be adventure or chill hangouts, and have good senses of humor

Howdy, y'all.
Over the past week or two I've gotten a nudge to share a concept or two that might be helpful for experiencers who experience isolation or disbelief from people or groups that believe and respect you on other topics. I've read so many posts and comments describing this: it's heartbreaking and not right. It also shouldn't fall to you to have to redress these wrongs. But if you need to advocate for yourself, or together on the sub, I hope this post might help.
Caveat: these are all academic/legal theory terms, for which I apologize. You might not get good results busting them out verbatim. But the concepts are straightforward and might better help you say things in your own words and/or in words you know the person you're talking to will understand.
First, names for the specific kind of wrong and the overall effects of this wrong.

• Epistemic Injustice. Disbelief, ignorance, and dismissal, weaponized. The category of wrongs related to knowledge, experience, ways of knowing, or ways of proving.
• Epistemicide. Genocide, but for knowers. The sustained perpetration of epistemic injustice over time can accomplish epistemicide, the destruction of knowledge, experience, ways of knowing, or ways of proving.

Next, more specific types of wrong, Fricker's typology of epistemic injustice:

• Testimonial Injustice. Refusing to listen. Unjust treatment of someone's testimony of their experience or beliefs. This can include disregarding someone's testimony, making acceptance of testimony contingent upon corroboration of a source with certain characteristics, or unjustly choosing to believe someone's word over another's due to personal characteristics or prior beliefs. This can manifest as patholigizing reported experiences, dual standards of credibility, and resulting differential outcomes of testimony of the same type.
• Hermeneutical injustice. Thoughts you can't have because the concepts don't exist. The injustice of being unable to make sense of one's experiences. This is a subtle one, but plenty of familiar examples exist. Prior to the development of phrases like 'sexual harassment', women had difficulty articulating their experience of objectification and sexism to those that hadn't experienced it, much less explaining why it was wrong. A variety of social norms ("Boys will be boys") typically stand in the way of this, putatively explaining away the injustice via accepted categories.

Whelp, that's it, mostly. Having concepts for things that are wrong isn't a magic wand: there are no such easy solutions for complex things like this. I wish there were. But there's a lot of power in giving something a name, especially when the lack of a name for a thing is part of the harm. ("Experiencer" is one such powerful name, btw)
People who rely upon epistemic justice, and haven't experienced not having it, often can't imagine what it's like. They imagine "Just take a video" is a solution. I can understand how that might seem to be enough for someone, if it's done in good faith, but one of the things these concepts help us firmly say is that it's missing the root of the problem. When practices of epistemic injustice are deeply ingrained, providing 'evidence' is never enough, since the injustice is precisely what does and does not count as evidence. Or, most insidiously, what can and cannot 'possibly be the case'.
Each kind of injustice has a corresponding form of justice. In the inverse of what I described above, sometimes it's hard for victims of these injustices to imagine what justice might be like. I hope this post helps at least one person envision what epistemic justice might look like for them. That'd be little bit of hermeneutical justice on the way to what I hope becomes a whole lot more for each of y'all.
There's been a lot written on this. One of the most damaging effects of these injustices is the epistemic poverty they perpetrate upon entire societies. I think there's something critical that people on this sub are coming to know, and that needs to be known, accepted, and understood more broadly. Addressing epistemic injustice is an imperative for all members of a society: you shouldn't have to and don't have to do it alone. If you've got someone close to you who doesn't know about or doesn't accept your experience I hope they make space for it and take it on as something to be understood together.