Middle school age stories

Hello!
For history: my last eye exam and pair of glasses received was in 2016 (age 21), with my script at the time being RT -4.00 sphere, LT -3.75 sphere, and a pupillary distance of 29. I have pretty intense double vision but had always felt like this script managed it well. I went to walmart for my most recent script in early April (age 28), and was told that my new prescription is RT: -4.50 sphere, -.25 cylinder, 10 axis, LT: -4.25 sphere, and then SPH under the cylinder column and PD of 31.5.
My issue is that with my new script, I am unable to comfortably drive and sometimes watch TV due to double vision. My first time driving with them was terrifying and I had to pull over immediately to switch back to my old lenses. I feel like I have to intensely strain my eyes when driving to even get them to focus on an object at middle distance. I have to put on my old, beat up pair of get it to go away. I contacted the optometrist who did my exam and went in for a recheck, and he performed the exam again with the same results. When I asked why my double vision was suddenly so terrible with what should be a new, more accurate prescription, he just suggested I get a new pair of glasses with my old prescription and wouldn't really elaborate. I don't understand why this is happening and I am very frustrated. Is it the new pupillary distance? Should I get a new pair with my new script and the old PD, or a new pair with my old script and the new PD? Which PD should I use, because I keep seeing posts about pupillary distance being constant? Is that kind of deviation normal for aging between 21 and 28? I am getting really tired of switching between my new glasses and my old, very uncomfortable pair, and I truly have no idea what to do to help with my double vision. I am worried but unsure that the PD may be related, but I am really out of my depth here. ANY advice would be appreciated.
Thanks so much in advance.

I have been a music nerd for ages, and for a while I have been posting stories on my IG about music trivia, rare samples and obscure music etc. It led to some growth and amazing feedback from my tiny following.
Most of my content, obviously, includes others' people music, it's basically music curation.
This always kept me from taking it seriously and posting regularly - it's lots of effort and I don't see how I can monetize it. I don't think the usual infoproducts or subscription models could work either. People barely pay for spotify playlists.
At the same time I honestly feel THIS is the thing I'm good at in life and I should give it a try.
Recently I discovered there are pages that do a bit of what I have been doing, but I have no clue about how they make money out of it.
Does anyone here have any ideas?

Long story short. Im just not in a place in my life right now where I can foster a healthy friendship. I just want to be left alone. I deleted all of my social media b/c I’m in an antisocial mood right now. I don’t want to hang out, text or talk on the phone.
I already told my friend this. It’s not you, it’s me. I’ll reach back when I’m emotional stable & if it’s not acceptable I understand. But she just won’t leave me alone! I don’t want to be rude. This is her 3rd text this week asking if I’m ok she just missing my friendship which I appreciate but if I haven’t reply please just let it died.
I low key just feel like she just wants to update me on her life. I just don’t want to hear it right now. I barely can keep my head above water right now. My dad & granddad died, I lost my dream drop, I flunked out of graduate school. I just wanna be alone for a little bit.
Like it takes the life out me to call my grandma & check on her. Which I only do once a month because she family.

I don’t have any friends here and I’ve been here since January. Me and my roommate did hang out but since moving into my 4x2 that has not happend. I am lonely. I have not really had friend since middle school. It’s kinda sad. I need friends. Any one looking for friends

The more I read about the lore, the more I realize the grand time scales. We don't get exact dates, but George R Martin had mentioned before in an interview that he wrote the lore for 5000 years before the current events.
So we can assume that all the previous ages mentioned, like the age of dragons, or the old lords who wore fungus caps and worshiped rot, and the age of the crucible (not sure if it's separate from the age of the dragons), all of it was in the time span of 5000 years.
Finger Reader Enia also mentioned at some point that the Two Fingers must consult the Greater Will, but it may take centuries to reach it.
So, correct me if I'm wrong, but these are the conclusions I have so far:

1. The Outer Gods are very far away, maybe there are other places like the Lands Between, and they can't directly manage the territories they control, so they need to install a local vassal and a whole bunch of checks and balances and backups to make sure the vassal behaves. So in some large time scale that could have taken centuries, the Greater Will sent its vassal the Elden Beast, and its multiple "Two Fingers" - some sort of middle managers/long distance communicators, and from there the entire hierarchy of followers, the Golden Order, etc.
2. The system was supposed to work even with the multi-century communication lag, with backup goddesses (the empyreans), possibly whoever was a god had a limit to how many years he can be around (similar to presidential terms) before replacement.
3. Things got so bad that neither the two fingers know how to handle it, nor Radagon knows what to do since he couldn't repair the Elden Ring, and they can't contact the Greater Will immediately
4. The Elden Beast probably attacked you because at this point nothing was going to plan, the entire organization fell apart, no viable Empyreans left, Erdtree burned, middle managers either killed or unable to come up with any solution
5. Even when you take Death from Maliketh, it's missing chunks which were used by the black knife assassins, also deathroot is corrupting the Erdtree from the ground and no one is doing anything about it anymore

Am I not sure how long it took between the shattering and the events of the game, and I also don't know how long the events of the game take, since the Tarnished could have died a thousand times like all the other insane denizens of the lands between that mindlessly repeat their daily routine and it's probably the only thing they remember anymore since they could have been living in undeath for centuries.
If the Greater Will has not responded by the end of the game, this means the Elden Beast acts on its own, trying to make the best of the situation, keeping Marika sealed and/or letting Radagon try to restore the ring and/or trying to stall the Tarnished until the Greater Will can respond to the situation somehow (maybe send more vassal beasts as reinforcements)
We do not know what exactly Outer Gods are, they might be very heterogeneous, completely different in abilities, origin, nature, not the same "species"
The Golden Order and Flame of Frenzy could have been part of an actual distant supreme cosmic being (5 fingers theory), while the Formless Mother and the Rot God could be something else that affects the Lands Between more closely, since Mohg can open portals to spill out her burning blood, while the Rot God was mentioned to be sealed under a lake. Of course those could be metaphorical, I am not sure yet.

long story pero would appreciate if you guys take time to read. sori hindi ko na alam san dapat ako magkkwento or tama batong chanel nato para magkwento ng ganto.
Nag away kami ng kapatid ko sa bahay habang kami lang naiwan. Ako (21M) ate ko (23F)
For context kapatid ko di nagaaral, walang trabaho. Ako nagaaral (kasi pinag-aral ako) Binibigyan siya ng opportunity to continue, pero wala siyang balak mag aral sa school na pinasukan ko kasi "ew" daw or para bang "kadiri" daw sa school ko. Kahit same course lang naman kami. (siguro pride nalang rin since galing siya sa worth 60k+ na school a year nung JHS at SHS)
this happened kaninang umaga lang. Bumaba akong gutom at kakabangon lang, then naisip kong kumain so I kinuha ko yung 2pcs of eggs para mag boil. Then naka prep na lahat, hinugasan ko pa yung eggs gamit water. tapos kinuha ng ate ko yung isa, saying "Isa lang pwede kunin" (not exact words) pasigaw w/ attitude niya sinabi. (sa part nato nagkakainitan na kami sa 18php worth na egg dahil may iniwan pala na letter sa table mom ko saying na "tig isa lang sa eggs")
then kinuha ko yung isa pang egg (na para sa kapatid kong bunso na nasa school (18M)) Sa part nato na realized ko rin na mali ako kasi diko naman nakita may iniwan pala na letter. Pero since gutom nako kinuha ko nalang yung isang natitirang itlog sa tray.
Tapos pasigaw na sinabi ng ate ko "Para kay (insert name) nga yan diba! Sabay binatukan ako nang malakas. Then dun nako nagalit, kinuha ko yung frying pan at pinalo siya ng frying pan as if binubugaw ko siya na umalis. (sapagkakaalam ko tinamaan ko siya braso at kamay ata base sa memory ko) Kasi if gusto ko talaga siya tamaan, mag aim ako sa ulo niya, which is open na open.
ganto na dito samin simula bata pa kami, pero recently pumipitik ako since di na kinakaya ng utak ko in a sense na daming pumapasok sa isip ko tapos dadagdag pa siya pino-provoke ako araw araw and finally nung namisikal na siya dun nako pumitik.
Question ko lang sana is how should I deal with narcissistic people na makakasama mo araw-araw. (hindi mo madadaan sa usapan since palagi siyang tama, kahit pagsabihan ng magulang namin sarado tenga niya naka smirk pa)
gusto ko lang rin po malaman if ako ba yung mali dito? (base sa given) Kasi hindi naman ako namimisikal pero ginagawa nila akong punching bag porket diko sila pinapatulan tapos sasabihin ng parents ko "ikaw yung nagsisimba dapat ikaw yung mas nakakaunawa" please lang pagod nako more 16yrs na kaming ganto hindi ba dapat yung mas nakakatanda yung umiintindi ng sitwasyon at dinadaan sa usapan? Kailangan bang idaan sa physical assault? please need help.

Slippery mat suggestions: I have recently competed in my first two competitions (ITF) and loved experience. The first competition had brand new mats which were much more squishy than I’m used to and only required me to slow down when doing side kicks in patterns to maintain balance though many competitors complained about slipperiness during sparring (teen boy black belts were flying all over at the end of the day). It was different than I was used to but didn’t effect my footwork too much during sparring.
This past tournament we “seniors” actually got on mats first and patterns felt fine, but while sparring it was like soap were on the mats and I couldn’t cut and even fell doing basic footwork. You could literally skate on bare feet in certain portions of the mat. I was told in the last competition by 4th Dan to put soda on feet to prevent slipping but didn’t seem necessary or slippery like the mats I was on this week. I spoke with coach and he didn’t seem concerned but it completely changed my sparring (footwork and circling especially) and I even slipped in the match.
As the day went on some of the rings had lots of slipping while others didn’t. How do you adjust for such circumstance on the fly? Is this pretty common? It’s one thing for my 10 year old to slip on a fast cut, but completely different story for someone my age moving fast.
Please share your experience if this is pretty common and anything that has effectively dealt with it. My son has been competing for years and has never complained except the squishy new mats from last tournament slowing his pattern down on a jump. The slipperiness was quite different from humid mats I’ve trained on many times during summer large classes—this felt like soap almost especially one quarter of the ring.

Hi! Just wanna share this story because it has been on my mind for quite a while now.
I am a trans woman (19) and I met a guy with the same age as mine on an online dating website. We instantly clicked because we literally have the same humor and it just felt so right talking to him. We immediately transferred to telegram for further conversations. That convo, when we first had the chance to talk with each other, lasted from 11 in the evening to 5 am in the morning! That’s how we enjoyed. And yes, he knew I was trans because I literally put it as my display name.
We talked for two weeks and in this period of time, he’s obviously flirting. He would crack some cheesy pick up lines. He even acquired my own way of texting. But three days prior to me deciding to stop texting him, he suddenly changed. His responses would take hours unlike before that he responded in a minute. And the night before I stopped texting him, he left me hanging and replied at 4 pm the next day. That’s when I decided I won’t force myself anymore. I was hurt, I admit. I started catching feelings for him. I bid a goodbye and then he just reacted heart to it. Just like that.
And then, after three days of no communication, he added me on Facebook. I didn’t know how to react. What were his intentions for doing that? Was he just being friendly? I really didn’t know.
Now, he’s been reacting on my stories occasionally. And I am so pissed that he’s driving me crazy. What should I do? Does he like me or he’s just a typical guy who would send mixed signals to trans girls like me? Help me out, please!

I have so much envy wrt the trans folks in their 30s. They have so many people to create community and chosen family with and live a long trans-supported life together.
I started my social transition at 55. I've made a few trans/enby acquaintances in the past 3 years, but not close friendships. Well, my (trans) workout buddy I consider a friend and we met last year.
I've expanded my social circle, but not so much my friendship circle through various trans/enby activities and groups.
I attended 2 camping trips with a trans/enby outdoor club last year. When I'm with them I can feel the euphoria that comes with my transness reflected back to me in a positive way. Yet, I am super self conscious of my age and even had an attendee ask me my perspective from the older generation pov (cringe).
Many of these people socialize with each other outside of the gatherings and are close friends/chosen family.
I have a crush on a trans dude who is probably in his 30s (he is baby face and looks 16) and that feels so hopeless to develop into life partnership, which is what I want.
My cohabitating partnership broke up over my gender journey and her lack of understanding/rejection of my top surgery. (Among other things)
My ex and I unexpectedly spent most of a week together recently and we got along well and it seemed like there is potential for reconciliation.
But... I still have no breasts. I am still trans/nb and I use pronouns she can't get her mind or mouth around. She is tolerant, but not much of an ally and definitely not a champion of my transness.
I really want a partner who is a trans ally. It feels nearly hopeless to find someone to marry who is trans positive and pronoun saavy and went to high school in the 80s.
Most of my close friends (cis, long term friends/chosen family) are clueless and run warm to cool on making an effort. I spent almost a year talking endlessly to one set of friends about pronouns and i still have to remind them. And my oldest friend completely mis gendered me on my bday. Its so frustrating!
If I were in my 30s, I could see distancing myself because I'd have this big community of others to befriend and chose a different chosen family.
I don't want to cut off friends I've had for as long as these 30 year olds have been alive, but it is a strain for me to be known, yet invisible and to have the same coming out conversation repeatedly.
I think if I had a peer group of trans folks and it felt possible to meet someone closer to my age that is trans/trans saavy and compatible, I wouldn't even consider going back with my ex.
If it didn't feel hopelessly ridiculous (and potentially creepy for him) to pursue a relationship with some possibly 30 years younger than me, I would go for it.
It is a fact that there are actually more young trans people. Yet, is it a fact that my age will separate me from being at the center of a trans chosen family???
I am going next weekend on the campout again. I wasn't going to because I was giving up on belonging to this group (or any group dominated by youngsters) but I ran into the organizer and he encouraged me to go.
I wonder how I can go and not obsess about my age being a barrier to connecting? Maybe lower my expectations and not have to create instant friends or dates. Just go and be trans and come home and be isolated (lol), or come home and carry my trans flame a little brighter!
I think it's the polarization of how I feel in trans community (reflected and included but not full belonging because of my age) vs. Being claimed and embraced by long terms friends that can't reflect or even understand my transness is very difficult.
I want to have both experiences with the same people. I want to fully belong and be included as chosen family by trans folks.
How do you trans 'oldsters' deal with socializing, dating and partnering?? Do you have IRL trans friends in their 50s/60s? Do you have trans friend in their 30s? Do you have trans community or are you flying trans solo? And for anyone under 40, what's your perspective on any of this?
Thanks!

I got this movie from the library forever ago and I never finished it and I havent been able to find it anywhere. I remember the title being Japanese, like there wasnt an english translation for it, at least from what I saw on the cover.
It was set in the future and computers/the government (?) watches peoples every move. The main character was a school aged girl, and she had a friend, and they meet this mysterious guy who is their age but he doesnt go to school with them and lives by himself on an island with a red windmill I think.
I remember very distinctly this one scene where the mc is at her friends house in her basement, and the friend was really good with technology and computers and she said something along the lines of "I'm good with computers because I'm a wizard. It's my magic" or something like that.
I didnt see the whole movie but there was this random turn and the boy killed a whole office building of people? Idk it was kinda random and the mc finds him and is like "why the heck did you do that" but that is all I remember ughh! I THINK the main character girl had brown hair and MAYBE the boy had black or dark blue hair, not 100% sure.
Any help at all would be soso appreciated!

I seem to remember a manga around the 2010s where, in the opening chapters, it's framed like a typical confession scene, where a girl confesses to a boy. But, she's actually asking him to help her confess to her real crush. This happens several times, where he gets asked by several girls to help them confess to their actual crushes, but never gets confessed to himself. What happens after, I genuinely don't remember.
Some more elements that I can't remember are actually part of the manga I'm looking for, or if I'm mixing parts of several other manga I was reading at the time:

• Story takes place in a school
• May have been fake boyfriend contracts instead of confessions
• He was a known relationship guru that got people together

The closest I've found was "My Fake Girlfriends are using me as a Shield"
For the life of me, I don't know why I can't find it after rephrasing it in as many ways as I could in different search engines. At this point, if nobody here knows it, I'm going to believe that I Mandela-effected myself into believing that it existed in the first place.

AkaMay and I are binging season one of “Welcome to Wrexham” on Hulu. A brief background: Rob McElhenney and Ryan Reynolds are famous Hollywood actors who bought a bottom-of-the-barrel football club in North Wales, Wrexham AFC. The documentary follows their foray into the sport of soccer, professional team ownership, and giving an economically depressed working-class town genuine hope in their community.
In one episode, the filmmakers follow a middle-aged fan who is the lead singer of a band. His band came up with a fun and inspiring song for the team, and it instantly took off in the community. He also has colon cancer. The oncology just changed the course of his treatment, which is never good. In the interviews, he spoke with candor about confronting his mortality, perhaps sooner than what should be.
AkaMay wept quietly. I suppose she hoped I would not notice. Of course, I did. Moments like these are the most tender and vulnerable in the relationship between patient and caregiver. And they are stark reminders of the relationship’s awkward imbalance. AkaMay has to watch these scenes and process them in whatever way she needs to. All I can do is sit with her and give witness to her lonely journey into the unknown.
There is a cruel beauty to these moments. Although painful for the patient and the caregiver, the intimate bond becomes even more profound and fulfilling.

Hi everyone! I'm 24, I've had it most of my life but became noticable in high school, and was finally diagnosed after I left college a few years ago. I'm mainly asking about personal experiences (not medical advice) post-op!
About to get my surgical consult in June, just had a medical exam with my eye doctor and results were promising. With the prism (thicker than what glasses can handle) I can see in 3D and mostly process it! They aren't sure if I'll be able to at the same level as my "good" eye, since I've had it since I was a kid, but they're hopeful!
I've realized if I do focus both of my eyes, movement is too fast for my brain to track. I remember being a kid and being unable to watch action movies, or play sports, because movement was too fast for my brain to track. I assumed this got better with age, but in hindsight, it got better when I started only relying on the "good" eye, and stopped trying to refocus the affected one. I'm now a bit worried after the surgery I won't be able to watch action films or play video games anymore because the movements will be too fast for my eyes to track. 4K was also incredibly difficult/uncomfortable when it came out until my affected eye got to the extent my brain ignores it.
My affected eye technically has better vision than my unaffected, it just can't quite make sense of the information at the same level. It's hard to explain to strangers, family, or friends 😭
I'm wondering how depth perception, 3D vision, and movement tracking was impacted for you on a personal level post-surgery? My dad brought up concerns about my hand-eye coordination and spacial awareness, said it might take some time to get used to seeing in 3D. I'm used to sort of having constant double vision subconsciously, along with a larger radius of peripheral vision on my affected side.
My eyes also see in different hues of color. My unaffected eye sees things in colder tones, whereas my affected eye can see more red tones. I would love to have a balance of that back 🥺❤️ things looking more colorful and depthful and whatnot.
How did post-surgery impact you non-appearence? I'm not too worried about how it looks so much as regaining functionality (or as much as I can) and pros versus cons regarding that.

I stopped playing right before Warlords released as it got a bit stale playing solo. Recently came back and realized there's been actual story happening for a couple years and I've been working my ass off trying to complete manhunts and collect comms and such.
My questions though, I know there's cinematics that go with the seasons and I've read up on a lot of the content.
Is there a way in game to watch those cutscenes I've missed?
Does anyone have a consolidated video with all the cinematics?
If not, am I just looking for seasonal climax cinematic or are there typically into and middle ones as well? I've seen a couple end season videos and can just look individually if I need to but wannaake sure I'm not missing parts.
Finally, I know I can only replay the final manhunt mission, but is there significant story through the manhunt objectives I should be looking into or would that just be the stuff I get in comms from repeating the final manhunt of a legacy season?
Any direction on best way to catch up is greatly appreciated!

Hi! Just wanna share this story because it has been on my mind for quite a while now.
I am a trans woman (19) and I met a guy with the same age as mine on an online dating website. We instantly clicked because we literally have the same humor and it just felt so right talking to him. We immediately transferred to telegram for further conversations. That convo, when we first had the chance to talk with each other, lasted from 11 in the evening to 5 am in the morning! That’s how we enjoyed. And yes, he knew I was trans because I literally put it as my display name.
We talked for two weeks and in this period of time, he’s obviously flirting. He would crack some cheesy pick up lines. He even acquired my own way of texting. But three days prior to me deciding to stop texting him, he suddenly changed. His responses would take hours unlike before that he responded in a minute. And the night before I stopped texting him, he left me hanging and replied at 4 pm the next day. That’s when I decided I won’t force myself anymore. I was hurt, I admit. I started catching feelings for him. I bid a goodbye and then he just reacted heart to it. Just like that.
And then, after three days of no communication, he added me on Facebook. I didn’t know how to react. What were his intentions for doing that? Was he just being friendly? I really didn’t know.
Now, he’s been reacting on my stories occasionally. And I am so pissed that he’s driving me crazy. What should I do? Does he like me or he’s just a typical guy who would send mixed signals to trans girls like me? Help me out, please!

i just graduated and signing a job offer. I need to do an employment background check, and need to fill out my 7 year of employment gaps.
I had 2 internships in college, but besides that - I didn’t work. Do I just write down that I was in school? Like 7 years ago I was literally 14 years old lol - I was in middle school. Do I need to explain that I was in middle & high school?
I don’t even know why they ask me that like I was literally a child 7 years ago…

here's an overview of serotonin receptors and their general effects on neuronal membrane potential:

1. Depolarization:

• 5-HT2A/2C receptors: Activation of these receptors often leads to depolarization. They are commonly associated with excitatory effects in the brain.

1. Repolarization:

• There isn't a specific serotonin receptor known for directly causing repolarization. Repolarization is a phase in the action potential cycle where the membrane potential returns to its resting state after depolarization.

1. Hyperpolarization:

• 5-HT1A receptor: Activation of 5-HT1A receptors typically causes hyperpolarization. These receptors are often associated with inhibitory effects and can help regulate neuronal activity by reducing excitability.

These effects can vary depending on the specific neural circuit and context, as serotonin receptors are widely distributed throughout the brain and can have diverse roles in modulating neuronal activity.

1. 5-HT1A Receptor Activation: Activation of 5-HT1A receptors typically leads to hyperpolarization, which is an inhibitory effect.
2. KCNQ2/3 Channels: These channels are also involved in hyperpolarization. When KCNQ2/3 channels open, they allow potassium ions to flow out of the neuron, leading to hyperpolarization (i.e., an increase in the negative charge inside the neuron).

Given that both 5-HT1A receptor activation and KCNQ2/3 channel opening result in hyperpolarization, their effects are synergistic rather than opposing. Activation of 5-HT1A receptors can indeed contribute to the opening of KCNQ2/3 channels, further enhancing the hyperpolarizing effect.
Therefore, the activation of 5-HT1A receptors is expected to promote KCNQ2/3 channel opening, leading to hyperpolarization and inhibition of neuronal activity.
if there is an issue with either 5-HT1A receptors or KCNQ2/3 channels, it can potentially affect the hyperpolarization process and neuronal activity. Here's how:

1. Issue with 5-HT1A Receptors:

• If 5-HT1A receptors are dysfunctional or their signaling pathway is impaired, it can lead to reduced hyperpolarization in response to serotonin (5-HT) binding. This can result in decreased inhibitory control over neuronal activity, potentially leading to increased excitability.

1. Issue with KCNQ2/3 Channels:

• If there are abnormalities or dysfunctions in KCNQ2/3 channels, such as reduced channel activity or altered gating properties, it can impair the ability of these channels to hyperpolarize neurons effectively. This can lead to difficulties in maintaining the resting membrane potential and regulating neuronal excitability.

Additionally, there can be interactions between 5-HT1A receptors and KCNQ2/3 channels that further complicate the situation:

• Dysfunction in 5-HT1A receptors may indirectly affect KCNQ2/3 channel activity by altering downstream signaling pathways that modulate potassium channel function.
• Similarly, issues with KCNQ2/3 channels can impact the response of neurons to serotonin (5-HT), potentially altering the effectiveness of 5-HT1A receptor-mediated hyperpolarization.

These interactions highlight the complexity of neuronal signaling and how disruptions in one component can have cascading effects on other elements involved in regulating membrane potential and neuronal excitability.
hyperpolarization plays a crucial role in regulating neuronal activity and can help prevent excess firing of neurons in the brain. Here's how hyperpolarization contributes to controlling neuronal firing:

1. Increased Threshold for Activation:

• Hyperpolarization shifts the membrane potential of neurons towards a more negative value. This increased negativity makes it harder for the neuron to reach its threshold for firing an action potential. As a result, hyperpolarization effectively raises the threshold for neuronal activation, reducing the likelihood of spontaneous firing.

1. Inhibition of Excitatory Signals:

• Hyperpolarization can inhibit the effects of excitatory neurotransmitters or receptors. When a neuron is hyperpolarized, it becomes less responsive to depolarizing signals, which are typically associated with excitatory neurotransmission. This inhibition helps dampen excessive excitatory activity and prevents neurons from firing too frequently.

1. Maintaining Resting State:

• Hyperpolarization is also crucial for maintaining the resting membrane potential of neurons. By stabilizing the resting state at a more negative potential, hyperpolarization ensures that neurons remain in a quiescent state when not actively engaged in signaling. This prevents unnecessary firing and contributes to overall neuronal stability.

what is palinopsia its spontaneous firing that has not stopped or takes ages to stop
long story short I firmly believe Visual Snow Syndrome is just hyperpolarization dysfunction

hi, so basically i've been looking for a very specific song for a while. i saw it for a split second in a tiktok video (that i did not save or screenshot for whatever reason) that was like "iconic y2k/90's kpop songs" with a girl showcasing the various songs and was listed right after 10 minutes by lee hyori. i listened to this song a lot in middle school but it was a few years older at that time, i wanna say 2008-2013 maybe?
the cover art was a black and white photo of the artists face, smiling and leaning to the side. there might have been a blue accent on the picture. i think the title had the word Tell in it, and i believe the artist had "Ana" in her name?
all i know is that it was quite popular in the mid 2000's and was extremely catchy. sorry if this is not a lot to go off of but i really need to find this song! i can't find it in any nostalgic / y2k / 90's kpop playlists on spotify or youtube! i am totally stumped ... please help if you can <3

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/throwra_inhername posting in AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC
Ongoing as per OOP
Content warning - mention of child death
1 update - Medium
Original - 20th April 2024
Update - 26th April 2024
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AITA for overreacted to learning about the true fate of my little sister's remains?
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My mother and father divorced when I was young. They had an oops baby together after my mom remarried, which rocked that marriage apart. That oops baby was my little sister. She died abruptly in an accident 4 years ago at only 14.
You know how people say the firsts after a death are the hardest? They don’t account for when there's no first to be had. When they should have been getting ready for prom but never will, it's a completely different pain. My mom and I were talking about it, we were both drinking, and she slipped that my bit of ashes I carry that I thought were my sister's were just regular ashes. Burnt wood. She already poured out my sister's ashes without me or my brother in the plot she bought with my stepdad.
She couldn't fathom my rage because to her, the sentiment and emotions are the important aspects, not that it's physically my sister. My anger is prompted by the lies and the fact those sentiments and emotions are attached to some thing NOT MY LITTLE SISTER, and I had no idea she cast her ashes on a plot she wouldn't have cared about. I screamed at her to get out of my house, locking the door behind her and calling up my stepdad to pick her up.
I threw the necklace out the window to the front lawn, then regretted it and tore it out of her hands when she picked it up. As she would say it I "made a scene" and embarrassed her. I kept screaming and calling her a liar whenever she tried to explain herself or get back inside. I was threatening to call the cops on her when my stepdad finally showed up and took her away.
He called me the next day and left a message saying that he wanted to talk about "what happened" and how he understands why I'm angry and hurt, he just wants to talk, but I need to talk to my mother too about this because she's a grieving mother (emphasis his) and my sister's death was a huge blow to the entire family and everyone is trying to regain our bearings still so some kindness is needed.
All I can think of right now is my mom's heartbroken face as I ripped my necklace with my "sister's ashes" out of her hands, or the way she turned away from me crying as my stepdad ushered her into the car. I called her names, I let my pain and rage take over me. But I can't get over the lies. 4 years of thinking my necklace had my sister, of thinking she was right by my heart, and it all came undone because my mom had too much to drink. How long would she have let me think this? How long would the lie continue?
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CenterofChaos
Yea your mother is grieving. But you, her very living child, are too. Having your mother lie to you about something important is going to get an emotional reaction.
What you do is up to you. But I wouldn't let her frame this as embarrassing her or that she's a victim in any way. She lied about it, she got drunk and tattled on herself, these are the consequences of her own actions.
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TheAssCrackBanditttt
The mom thought that was gonna be a cute little anecdote. Wtf kinda person does that kinda stuff; casually just drops a bomb

OOP: It was an absolute mistake on her part that she even said it. We were talking about prom season and how hard it can be to be reminded of things that my sister would have loved. Then she started to say "I start crying before I even reach the cemetery sometimes" and she named it by name. I started flipping then and was like "what cemetery? Why that cemetery?" in a sort of why are we talking about cemeteries when we're talking about her way.
I kept pushing her for an explanation and that's when the whole thing came out.

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Update - 6 days later
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I gave my mother an ultimatum of either telling my brother and father, or I will. She refused to, because "you reacted so horribly." And she told me not to tell because "You're doing this to hurt me and you're just going to hurt them."
So I told them. I sat my dad and brother down and explained that the necklaces didn't have the right ashes in them. I've never seen my dad break like that, and I've never heard my brother scream at me like that. He was angry that I knew before him and didn't immediately tell because "this is shit you tell me, you needed to tell me, we tell each other everything!", but he started crying and apologizing to me, admitting he's just so mad about what Mom did and he can't handle it.
So I guess that's clearly something else me and my brother share, we get overwhelmed initially before cooler heads prevail.
My dad looked gutted but he was clearly trying to piece himself back together. He said a lot of the same other people had said to me on my other post: "we can get some of the dirt from the plot where she was scattered, the necklace has the meaning we attribute to it and she's still with us even if her body hasn’t been physically with us."
I feel bad because some of it my mom said (ie the bit about the necklace being important even without her ashes in it) but I was able to accept that much easier from him. Maybe because he didn't lie to me for four years and drop a bomb on me out of nowhere because I pulled apart a lie. He held my brother and I as we cried, and he apologized for the pain, and he said it wasn't fair that I had to be the adult when my mother should have told all of us a lot sooner.
Dad's going to try to talk to my step-father to find the plot because my mom has been refusing to talk to us anymore, not answering messages or picking up the phone. Her social media has even gone dark. He's going to find out where the plot is and go to the site. I don't know if I could if it were up to me. It just feels like the final bit of proof that this fucked up nightmare is real and my sister is mixed with dirt and rocks and grass of an unmaintained and unvisited plot.
My mom and I always had some issues, but that's normal. This is worse than anything, and we had a rough patch when I came out that we didn't even talk, but we mended fences after. I can't see ever forgiving her, not with how she dropped this on me, blamed me for my reaction, and left me to do what she should have done. To top it off, she won't even show the decency to explain why or even talk to me. When we were discussing cremation, it was agreed we would all get a necklace with the ashes.
My mind keeps going over things that just didn’t add up fully, times she almost slipped or things that make complete sense now. She almost left behind her necklace on a trip and didn't freak out like I would have, because she knew where my sister was the whole time. She volunteered to be the one to separate the ashes and gave dad "the rest". I assume those ashes are the same as ours, fake.
God this whole thing just makes me want to curl up in a hole and never see the light of day again. I've been on and off crying all week without being able to stop, or just so angry I could scream. In the middle of my damn workday and suddenly I'm rushing to the bathroom to hide the fact I'm breaking all over again because I can't stop my thoughts. I quit smoking after my sister died but I picked it right back up again. My dad has been calling me every day to check in on me and remind me of how much he loves me and how much my brother loves me. I think he's afraid. My brother has come over each day since the talk with his girlfriend to make sure I eat something.
I don't know how to end this post. I feel lost and like I don't know anything anymore. I feel like a burden because my dad and brother are both dealing with the revelation too but they're clearly thinking of me and checking in on me. I'm going to look into grief counseling but the therapist I saw after my sister died isn't practicing anymore and my insurance isn't accepted by a lot of therapists. I try to remind myself that my little sister wouldn't have minded so much becoming woven into a tapestry of grass and flowers, and that I can visit her once we know where she was cast and make sure her site is always beautiful.
Thank you to everyone that helped me and shared their own perspectives and stories. I really appreciate it.
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Ms_PlapPlap
You mentioned she said the cemetery's name when she tattled on herself? Can you call and ask about the plot? It's probably under your mother's or your sister's name. Then you can visit and not have to go through your mother at all.

OOP: It's my mother and step-father's plot. If trying through my step father fails, I'll try that. I didn't think I could just call up and say "is there an empty plot sectioned for the so and so family" but it's worth trying.

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FamilyGuy421
I am head of a cemetery commission. Just call them up. We don’t care about drama, just information. The best of luck to you.

OOP: Thank you so much. That means a lot.

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Hello! Sorry for the long post (25M)
This is my 3rd lease with my brother (Roman 22M) and 2nd with his girlfriend (Kendall 21F).
During my last lease my girlfriend (Shiv 23F) found out her apartment was not safe to be in (god awful maintenance conditions leading to MEDICAL ISSUES) and had to move in with me. We could not move our cat in with us at the time because unexpectedly, Kendall is allergic to them. This was a bit surprising as she is allergic to ALL animals yet Roman has a dog she has lived with and even expressed how the allergies were an issue at first, but she adapted to the dog and now had no issue. Roman was also worried how his dog will act with her but his dog has always been okay with cats, so not a huge issue. However, for the time being (two months) our cat stayed at Shiv’s sister place.
Our original plan was to move out with Shiv’s sister and her sister’s friend. Shiv didn’t want to cause any issues with the allergy, and was fully capable of making her own living arrangements. However, Roman and Kendall convinced us that the cat allergies wouldn’t be an issue because we’ll be looking for a two story house and can section out the house. Shiv even protested to this, saying she really doesn’t want to make someone live with a cat when they don’t want to. They persisted, saying the lease would be more manageable with 4 people and the cats would “ABSOLUTELY not be an issue”.
They also went through a “rough patch” (loud fights happening daily) but everything seemed on the up and up during the time we decided we wanted to room again. The move itself was no issue and my girlfriend and I were very excited to move our cat in when the dust settled.
Fast forward to now we are in the new house and everything has settled. We moved in our cat and everything seemed fine. Our plan was to introduce our cat to our room first then let her out to the living room. Roman then raises concerns saying that his girlfriend wouldn’t want to be downstairs at all “if the cat is down there”.
This confused both of us since we thought everyone was on the same page, but we of course waited and strategized. We decided we’d buy purifiers, a couch cover, and even bought some anti allergen stuff for our cat. We decided to only let her out occasionally when we were both home.
Kendall is not amused. She complains the couch cover would be ugly and she doesn’t want to relive the experience of the old place by “walking out to an ugly living room every day.” This comment was very strange to me, but after this we stuck to the decision that the kitty again would only be out occasionally during supervised hours.
Kendall also begins acting very strange. She lashes out to Roman at any given moment. One interaction I can recall is her telling Roman she doesn’t eat and only eats a rice cake a day. Roman, while concerned, flatly states she should eat. Cue argument.
Now they seem to be fighting at again sometimes shouting at each other that even company we have over will hear.
Now, right after we moved my brother and I lost a family member. It has been very hard for me because we were very close but my brother is either okay or just not telling me or other family how he’s been feeling. He cried initially, but now secludes himself to his room completely. So, in my free time I have been helping my family sort out funeral services and divide said family members items amongst us. At the same time too Shiv and I have been extra busy with school since semester finals are coming up and we even have friends graduating so early in the week we threw a party for some of them in our new house, which of course caused dishes to pile up.
All that being said I do understand the frustration with dishes piling up for a few days, I hate a messy kitchen as well. But we are also the only two who clean the downstairs including the kitchen. Dishes have also not been constantly sitting there (again I would never let them be) but have just cycled out as we clean them then add more to it.
Roman then sends a passive aggressive text message to me. And honestly, to be confronted about our “shortcomings” feels very shitty. Especially since when they themselves remain unpacked. (boxes, messy hallways with miscellaneous things)
Anyways, that being said I do not know how to handle the situation and neither does Shiv. We both do not like conflict and the fighting honestly has made us both really tense to be around. We unfortunately relate to each other as we both have trauma dealing with verbal fights and domestic situations. We would like to live peacefully here and avoid any further conflict so any advice would be awesome and I’m glad to answer any questions!

I’m 18f and not “out” to anyone besides my sister. I put the word out In quotes because I don’t find it super important to make telling anyone a big deal, if I ever get a girlfriend, I’ll just tell my family I have a girlfriend and move on.
The thing is, only in the past year or so have I realized I might be bisexual. I’ve never dated anyone but when I was thinking back on the crushes I had in middle school or high school, I never liked any boys and I was more interested in girls. In a way where I really wanted to be their friend or at least be in their lives somehow. Now when I look back I realize those feelings were a lot stronger than the crushes I had on boys..
For years and my whole life honestly, I actually would forget that I was straight and not apart of the LGBTQ+ community. When I was younger, I thought I was trans and told my parents and everything. I realize now that it was just a phase for me and I was more so having a little identity crisis (being trans is NOT a phase, but for a small part of my life I thought I was) Then I just accepted that I was cis-het but a very very emotional and passionate ally? Whenever someone made a stupid comment about gay or trans people in my life, I felt personally affected?
Anyway, my point is: I’ve realized and accepted that I’m bi, but because I’ve never dated anyone or told anyone really, sometimes it feels like I’m pretending or I don’t have the right to say I’m bi. Has anyone else ever experienced this?