Pain behind ears that come and go
Chronic Pain
2009.12.03 10:14 Chronic Pain
For the broken, malfunctioning, pained people of the world and their friends/family. Got pain? This is the place to be. Bitching, complaining, whining, and otherwise venting about your condition is encouraged. Stop by the chat and say hi!
2012.01.28 07:00 animal_ears Kemonomimi
Kemonomimi or "animal ears" is where humanoid characters possess animal like features.
2010.02.04 00:14 subtextual Neuropsychology: Links, Resources, and Discussion
Neuropsychology is both an experimental and clinical branch of psychology that aims to understand how cognitive functions (memory, attention, etc.) and behavior are related to brain structure and functioning. Although the focus is typically on how injuries or illnesses of the brain (i.e., pathological functions) affect cognition and behavior, it also includes the study normal (i.e., non-pathological) functioning, cognition, and behavior.
2024.05.14 12:49 temmiesayshoi Best way to automate firejail sandboxing lutris prefixes? (non-firejail options possible)
I'm not doing any reverse engineering work on malware samples or anything but I tend to create more prefixes as a default and, knowing that windows software can be janky at the best of times, I don't really trust it to work well in wine. For instance I was trying to run Assassin's Creed Black Flag and, while it worked, it caused a weird issue with my headset that I've also seen Helldivers 2 cause. Everytime it launched it would lose connection, instantly gain connection, switch to a low quality codec, then switch back to a high quality codec again. (sometimes helldivers gets that last part wrong and it causes the codec to just stay borked. Thankfully on linux this can be fixed by disconnecting and reconnecting it but on windows not so lucky; you have to unpair and repair the device.)
Plus, even if I'm not actively reverse engineering malware or anything, it is still nice to have an extra layer of protection so to speak. Technically wine doesn't protect you from malware and it will still happily run things like wannacry, but most common malware will be trying to extract cookies from windows directories or do other badness that can't be done in a wine prefix unless they've explicitly written it to do so. I also installed lutris in a flatpak and limited it's filesystem permissions to only my game directory and a few extra readonly permissions so that it could see my theme files and such. (to mitigate exactly that sort of indiscriminant malware from hitting the majority of my system) Unfortunately I've looked through flatseal and I can't see any obvious way of fixing that weird issue with bluetooth headsets, meaning it can still directly access at least some hardware that it reaaaaally has no reason to. (I mean just giving it a few virtual audio devices that have their audio passed through to the actual audio devices on the computer would solve this problem and, at least in the context of normal Wine usecases, I really can't see any reason it'd need direct access to bluetooth peripherals like that)
I've looked into using something like firejail in the past for more options for isolation but I couldn't figure any way to automate it. Ideally I'd want to just have a low set of permissions granted by-default for each game/application so that it can only see inside of it's specific prefix and nowhere else, can't access hardware devices like headsets directly, etc. and then only loosen them if actually needed by the application, but I looked before and couldn't see any obvious way of doing th, at least not one that didn't make it more of a pain to manage and create new prefixes but after facing that bluetooth bug I started looking into it again and I was curious if there was a better way of going about things that I just couldn't find before. ( I don't have very much experience with firejail at all, I've used it a handful of times but that's about it )
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Plus, even if I'm not actively reverse engineering malware or anything, it is still nice to have an extra layer of protection so to speak. Technically wine doesn't protect you from malware and it will still happily run things like wannacry, but most common malware will be trying to extract cookies from windows directories or do other badness that can't be done in a wine prefix unless they've explicitly written it to do so. I also installed lutris in a flatpak and limited it's filesystem permissions to only my game directory and a few extra readonly permissions so that it could see my theme files and such. (to mitigate exactly that sort of indiscriminant malware from hitting the majority of my system) Unfortunately I've looked through flatseal and I can't see any obvious way of fixing that weird issue with bluetooth headsets, meaning it can still directly access at least some hardware that it reaaaaally has no reason to. (I mean just giving it a few virtual audio devices that have their audio passed through to the actual audio devices on the computer would solve this problem and, at least in the context of normal Wine usecases, I really can't see any reason it'd need direct access to bluetooth peripherals like that)
I've looked into using something like firejail in the past for more options for isolation but I couldn't figure any way to automate it. Ideally I'd want to just have a low set of permissions granted by-default for each game/application so that it can only see inside of it's specific prefix and nowhere else, can't access hardware devices like headsets directly, etc. and then only loosen them if actually needed by the application, but I looked before and couldn't see any obvious way of doing th, at least not one that didn't make it more of a pain to manage and create new prefixes but after facing that bluetooth bug I started looking into it again and I was curious if there was a better way of going about things that I just couldn't find before. ( I don't have very much experience with firejail at all, I've used it a handful of times but that's about it )
2024.05.14 12:48 SunshineInMyEyes00 3 months old and eating 34-36 oz on average
Early morning anxiety and desperation is hitting hard today. My 3 month old (14 weeks, I guess 11 weeks adjusted?) has been eating so much since birth. He has reflux and cmpa and has now been on nutramigen for about a month which has helped a ton but he has been eating more and more and therefore having more BMs and has issues resulting in waking himself up every hour in the morning because of gas/needing to poop. I've reached out to my pediatrician so many times and the office is great but when I reach out between appointments, they just go, "aw poor guy, just wait and watch." But I don't know what to watch for and if basically we are drowning this kid in formula.
He is spitting up a bit more but not crazy amounts but it's the stomach pains that seem to really get him, especially early in the morning. We are trying to get him tested again to see if he needs a more hypoallergenic formula but I'm posting here to see if anyone has experienced something similar and has guidance.
When I've talked to other people about this, the reaction is usually, "well better eating too much than too little," and yes, that's true. But the amount of stuff that's been challenging with this kid and his digestion so far has been a lot and I just want to be sure we aren't making it all worse!
Reddit is how we learned he couldn't process the powder nutramigen as well and are sticking with the rtf so I'm so grateful for these communities!
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He is spitting up a bit more but not crazy amounts but it's the stomach pains that seem to really get him, especially early in the morning. We are trying to get him tested again to see if he needs a more hypoallergenic formula but I'm posting here to see if anyone has experienced something similar and has guidance.
When I've talked to other people about this, the reaction is usually, "well better eating too much than too little," and yes, that's true. But the amount of stuff that's been challenging with this kid and his digestion so far has been a lot and I just want to be sure we aren't making it all worse!
Reddit is how we learned he couldn't process the powder nutramigen as well and are sticking with the rtf so I'm so grateful for these communities!
2024.05.14 12:48 drip_johhnyjoestar I feel so fucking bad
I wish I could just talk to her for one last time. Tell her I love her, hug her, kiss her, smell her. I feel like she doesn't even love me. She looks better off without me, that's what she said. She's probably talking to someone else, someone who's better than me. I feel worthless, like a piece of garbage that shouldn't be touched. Life has become exceptionally hard, I eat less, I sleep more, I lost my smile, my shine. I live with the hole that shell come back. But she shouldnt, because I'm a wreck, a hollowed version of myself. I want the best for her and right now it's to let go of me. I don't like this but I have to be strong. I have to let go of her, out of love. But oh boy is it hard. Everyday is a new challenge I hope she sees this post. I hope she realises how much I love her. I hope she realises that she never loved me, she was just attracted to me, obsessed with me. And if you are seeing this, I love you. I love you with all my heart. I care about you and I hoped it would work out, I hoped we would love eachother the way we did when we met. We would make something new. I hoped you'd be in my future. I hoped you'd love me. I really wish I could spend one more minute in your arms. the way you would look at me with excitement and love, I miss that. I miss you a lot , I hoped wed have something new, something better. I hope you see this and text me, telling me how much you love me. I know it Will not happen. I love you, please don't go, cause I'm not ready to let you go . Hug me and kiss me one last time. Am I asking for too much?
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2024.05.14 12:47 therohitshah1999 How to Create Interactive eBooks: Bring Your Words to Life
 | https://preview.redd.it/fn7z4kc8gd0d1.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b2a4841722590873622855e886a37812c328f177 submitted by therohitshah1999 to u/therohitshah1999 [link] [comments] In today’s digital world, readers crave engaging experiences. Static text on a screen just doesn’t cut it anymore. Enter the realm of interactive eBooks — a dynamic and immersive way to share your stories, knowledge, and ideas. Interactive eBooks go beyond the limitations of traditional formats. Imagine embedding quizzes to test reader comprehension, adding video demonstrations to complex topics, or incorporating clickable hotspots that reveal hidden information. These elements not only enhance understanding but also transform reading into an active and enjoyable journey. So, how can you create these captivating interactive eBooks? Let’s delve into the exciting world of crafting engaging digital experiences for your readers. 1. Concept and Planning: Charting Your Course The first step is to solidify your concept. What kind of interactive eBook are you creating? Is it a children’s story with touch-activated animations, a non-fiction guide with embedded infographics, or a language learning tool with interactive exercises? Having a clear purpose will guide your design and content decisions. Next, plan the interactive elements. Will you incorporate quizzes, games, simulations, or multimedia content like audio and video? Sketching out your ideas with storyboards or mind maps can help visualize the flow of your eBook and ensure a seamless reading experience. 2. Content Creation: Crafting Compelling Narratives Here’s where your storytelling prowess comes in. Craft compelling text that draws readers in and keeps them engaged. Remember, your content should be optimized for the interactive format. Keep the text concise and focus on delivering key information. Consider incorporating different content types. Break up text with bulleted lists, tables, and images. Interactive elements like clickable definitions or pop-up explanations can add depth without overwhelming readers. 3. Choosing the Right Tools: Building Your Interactive World Several tools can help you create interactive eBooks. Some popular options include:
A well-designed eBook is visually appealing and easy to navigate. Use high-quality images, consistent fonts, and a clean layout to enhance readability. Consider the user experience on different devices like tablets and smartphones. Ensure the interactive elements are optimized for touchscreens and offer clear instructions for user interaction. 5. Testing and Publishing: Getting Your Masterpiece Out There Once you’ve built your interactive masterpiece, it’s time for testing. Use various devices and platforms to ensure responsiveness and functionality. Get feedback from beta readers to identify any issues and refine the user experience. Finally, publish your eBook on a platform that supports interactive features. Popular options include Apple iBooks, Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP), and Kobo. Kitaboo: Your Gateway to Interactive eBooks Creating interactive eBooks can seem daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. Kitaboo, a leading eBook creation platform, empowers authors and publishers to craft immersive and engaging reading experiences. With Kitaboo’s user-friendly interface, you can easily embed multimedia content, quizzes, and other interactive elements without needing coding expertise. Their platform ensures seamless reading across various devices and offers advanced analytics to track reader engagement. Embrace the Future of Reading Interactive eBooks represent the future of reading. They capture attention, enhance understanding, and create a deeper connection between readers and your content. By following these steps and leveraging platforms like Kitaboo, you can bring your words to life and create a truly captivating experience for your audience. So, unleash your creativity, embrace interactivity, and embark on a journey of crafting the next generation of eBooks! |
2024.05.14 12:46 DaylightStorm Make Shaman Great Again!
Posted in the EU forums but it can be a bit of a ghost town these days
Having seen the love some other classes (cough Druids) have received over the past few years I feel like Shamans have been massively neglected when it comes to updates to spells, animations and models.
I love the Shaman class thematically and I’m hoping to main it going into TWW but I have a few issues, suggestions and ideas in the hope we may get some attention as we approach the release of the expansion. I’m no pro, but I have played all 3 specs in various levels of content from PvP to M+ & Raids.
These are aimed at the class in general but some ideas will also filter into each spec.
Ascendance, Elementals & Primal Elementalist - This ability has been in the game since Cata with a model that is now over 10 years old, and frankly doesn’t even feel like it really fits the class thematically. Rather than just ask for a new model I think Ascendance should be replaced by a ‘summon elemental’ ability for all 3 specs. For example:
Deeply Rooted Elements - This can remain as it is, as a capstone for all 3 specs granting a chance to summon your elemental for 6 sec.
*As Elemental will effectively be ‘losing’ a CD, I’d propose a buff to Stormkeeper or perhaps some kind of ‘Raging Storm Totem’ which creates a storm in a large area (Starfall) filling the fantasy of a stormcaller like the Druid spell ‘Hurricane’ of old.
If Ascendance is to stay as it is, at least update the model! Perhaps similar to what we see with Dathea in Vault.
DEFENSIVES - I understand this is a sensitive subject with the power creep of personal defensives in the game today but Shamans have historically been one of the squishiest classes. ‘Burrow’ was added as a PvP talent which is awesome but would be OP in PvE scenarios and doesn’t quite feel right from a fantasy PoV for me.
A few ideas -
Stoneskin Totem - Not the current iteration, but an old version that gives the shaman a small absorb shield. From a WotLK glyph iirc.
Earthen Harmony - Talent moved to class tree
Empower Shields - Similar to the PvP talent this would empower your active shield(s) for a short period of time on a short CD, 1min - 1.2min.
Ancestral Might - A small 60 min raid wide Crit/Mastery buff, like fortitude, motw etc.
OR
Skyfury Totem - A weaker version of the PvP talent to increase crit damage for a short period of time.
Finally a few quick fire suggestions as this is getting quite long:
Elemental -
Please show Shamans some love, thank you!
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Having seen the love some other classes (cough Druids) have received over the past few years I feel like Shamans have been massively neglected when it comes to updates to spells, animations and models.
I love the Shaman class thematically and I’m hoping to main it going into TWW but I have a few issues, suggestions and ideas in the hope we may get some attention as we approach the release of the expansion. I’m no pro, but I have played all 3 specs in various levels of content from PvP to M+ & Raids.
These are aimed at the class in general but some ideas will also filter into each spec.
Ascendance, Elementals & Primal Elementalist - This ability has been in the game since Cata with a model that is now over 10 years old, and frankly doesn’t even feel like it really fits the class thematically. Rather than just ask for a new model I think Ascendance should be replaced by a ‘summon elemental’ ability for all 3 specs. For example:
- Elemental keeps its trusty Fire elemental and Lava Burst has no CD for it’s duration. Maybe add some LvB splash damage. Storm elemental talent is removed from the tree.
- Enhance can talent into Storm elemental which turns Stormstrike into Windstrike for its duration and it casts lightning bolts at the target.
- Resto can talent into Water elemental which duplicates the shamans healing and distributes evenly to allies. These should all be essentially mandatory (high up on the tree, as per Elemental) and then ‘Primal Elementalist’ can become a new capstone to chase on the shaman class tree.
- Fire - Meteor and existing abilities
- Storm - Extra casted ability can be a tornado on the target that does some AoE damage.
- Water - Extra casted ability can be a version of Wellspring.
- Earth - Extra casted ability remains a stun or perhaps an earthquake as per Torghast would be a nice upgrade.
Deeply Rooted Elements - This can remain as it is, as a capstone for all 3 specs granting a chance to summon your elemental for 6 sec.
*As Elemental will effectively be ‘losing’ a CD, I’d propose a buff to Stormkeeper or perhaps some kind of ‘Raging Storm Totem’ which creates a storm in a large area (Starfall) filling the fantasy of a stormcaller like the Druid spell ‘Hurricane’ of old.
If Ascendance is to stay as it is, at least update the model! Perhaps similar to what we see with Dathea in Vault.
DEFENSIVES - I understand this is a sensitive subject with the power creep of personal defensives in the game today but Shamans have historically been one of the squishiest classes. ‘Burrow’ was added as a PvP talent which is awesome but would be OP in PvE scenarios and doesn’t quite feel right from a fantasy PoV for me.
A few ideas -
Stoneskin Totem - Not the current iteration, but an old version that gives the shaman a small absorb shield. From a WotLK glyph iirc.
Earthen Harmony - Talent moved to class tree
Empower Shields - Similar to the PvP talent this would empower your active shield(s) for a short period of time on a short CD, 1min - 1.2min.
- Earth shield - consumes up to 4 charges to grant an absorb shield or just reduces damage taken by 20% for 6 secs
- Water shield - Reduces mana cost of spells for 6 secs
- Lightning shield - Increases damage by 500% for 6 secs Thematically feels great and would help prevent one shots in PvE and being an auto kill target by melee in PvP.
Ancestral Might - A small 60 min raid wide Crit/Mastery buff, like fortitude, motw etc.
OR
Skyfury Totem - A weaker version of the PvP talent to increase crit damage for a short period of time.
Finally a few quick fire suggestions as this is getting quite long:
Elemental -
- Two charges of flame shock or chain lighting spreads flame shock to two targets via a talent.
- Lava Burst damage scaling with Crit rating by default.
- Diverse spell usage across all builds (not just all lighting or all fire). It’s looking like an issue with current hero talents. We should still weave all elements even if we are a storm bringer imo.
- Mastery to also increase damage of overloads slightly rather than just a % chance of it to happen
- Rework Icefury. Incorporating frost spells is cool but it starts to feel bloated and clunky
- Diverse spell usage across all builds (not just all lighting or all fire). Likewise with Ele, its looking like an issue with current hero talents
- More damage put into the actual melee abilities otherwise we just feel like a melee ele sham with huge LB’s and Ele blasts.
- Less bloat. There’s no need for both wellspring and Downpour with all the healing tools we already have.
- Update lightning bolt and other old animations!
- Glyph of Chain heal - Old golden/spirit animation from back in the day
- Glyph of Ghost Talbuk - for our Draenei friends
- Glyph of Ghost Ram - for our Dwarven brethren
- Glyph of Ghost Bakar - Goodest boy!
- Glyph of Windfury - Old animation similar to that of gust of wind
- All class mounts available for any spec. Contradicts my ‘Summon Elemental’ suggestion above but I don’t see why I can’t ride a Storm Elemental as an Ele Sham.
Please show Shamans some love, thank you!
2024.05.14 12:46 Majestic-Egg8174 Opinions on my home-brew mino boss
Hi, I'm a relatively new DM. I like home-brewing monsters for my original setting and I have a monster I'd like your opinion on. For context, I have a party of 4 (1 cleric, 3 fighters, ikr) who are going to explore a little dungeon set in the sewers of a small town. I wanted the dungeon to be a recurring setting to make them have to come back to it every few days, changint it with new monsters, previously hidden passage ways and, to top it all off, a mini-boss at the end. My expected CR for the boss is 2, but I want it to feel memorable, so I chose a mutated crocodile to represent how bad things get when people throw anything they don't want down the drainage.
Fast forward to last session, they defeated the albino crocodile that was responsible for the disappearance of a couple of peassants and left it for dead. Little did they know that the croc has the Regeneration trait, and over a couple of days, it fully recovered from the fight and became even stronger. A young girl dissappeared last night, so the party took the decision to go back into the sewers to investigate further. Inside, a previously small hole is now a recently carved tunnel, leading to the lair of the mutated crocodile. The stat-block is the following:
Mutated Crocodile Large creature HP: 39 (6d10 + 6) Proficiency bonus: +2 AC: 13 (natural armor) Save DC: 14
STR +2 DEX 0 CON +1 INT -4 WIS +0 CHA -3
No save proficiencies Resistance against slashing damage. Vulnerable against lightning damage. Regeneration: At the beginning of it's turn, the creature regenerates 4HP unless the effect is mitigated by inflicting acid, fire or lightning damage. The effect starts againg after a short rest. Multiattack: The crocodile may perform 1 bite and 2 tail swipes per attack action. Alternatively, it may perform a deathroll, if conditions are met. -Bite: +4 hit, 7 (1d10+2) piercing. Target is grappled. -Deathroll: 1d6. If target is grappled by this monster, the crocodile may spend it's action to inflict deep wounds on the target. -Tail swipe: +4 hit, 6 (1d6+2) bludgeoning. Target must succeed a DEX saving throw or become prone.
My players are level 2, so I didn't want to increase any of the stats from the base Crocodile's as to not make it too oppressing. Tail swipes also only hit targets situated adyacent to the Croc's posterior half, and do reduced damage compared to the much stronger Bite. The envisioned strategy is to perform 1 or 2 tail swipes to then turn arround and bite the target with advantage, hopefully nullifiying a key player. Because there are 3 fighters, I'm not afraid of pitting them against STR saving throws, because I know they have a good chance of succeeding. As for the damage resistance, I've given my players enough resources to acquire different sources of damage, and if they feel like they're losing, they can always run away and come back later with better gear. The Croc ain't going nowhere, after all.
What do you guys think? Is the monster too weak or maybe too strong? I'm open to all suggestions and opinions, and I hope you like the idea.
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Fast forward to last session, they defeated the albino crocodile that was responsible for the disappearance of a couple of peassants and left it for dead. Little did they know that the croc has the Regeneration trait, and over a couple of days, it fully recovered from the fight and became even stronger. A young girl dissappeared last night, so the party took the decision to go back into the sewers to investigate further. Inside, a previously small hole is now a recently carved tunnel, leading to the lair of the mutated crocodile. The stat-block is the following:
Mutated Crocodile Large creature HP: 39 (6d10 + 6) Proficiency bonus: +2 AC: 13 (natural armor) Save DC: 14
STR +2 DEX 0 CON +1 INT -4 WIS +0 CHA -3
No save proficiencies Resistance against slashing damage. Vulnerable against lightning damage. Regeneration: At the beginning of it's turn, the creature regenerates 4HP unless the effect is mitigated by inflicting acid, fire or lightning damage. The effect starts againg after a short rest. Multiattack: The crocodile may perform 1 bite and 2 tail swipes per attack action. Alternatively, it may perform a deathroll, if conditions are met. -Bite: +4 hit, 7 (1d10+2) piercing. Target is grappled. -Deathroll: 1d6. If target is grappled by this monster, the crocodile may spend it's action to inflict deep wounds on the target. -Tail swipe: +4 hit, 6 (1d6+2) bludgeoning. Target must succeed a DEX saving throw or become prone.
My players are level 2, so I didn't want to increase any of the stats from the base Crocodile's as to not make it too oppressing. Tail swipes also only hit targets situated adyacent to the Croc's posterior half, and do reduced damage compared to the much stronger Bite. The envisioned strategy is to perform 1 or 2 tail swipes to then turn arround and bite the target with advantage, hopefully nullifiying a key player. Because there are 3 fighters, I'm not afraid of pitting them against STR saving throws, because I know they have a good chance of succeeding. As for the damage resistance, I've given my players enough resources to acquire different sources of damage, and if they feel like they're losing, they can always run away and come back later with better gear. The Croc ain't going nowhere, after all.
What do you guys think? Is the monster too weak or maybe too strong? I'm open to all suggestions and opinions, and I hope you like the idea.
2024.05.14 12:46 Few_Anxiety_8686 Actions.
I have a legit question. While I agree mental illnesses should be talked about more so other learn more about the nature of these diseases (bipolar included) to be less stigmatized, at what point does the consequences of our actions (mentally ill or not) do we suffer or is it more excused whenever others’ find out if we are sick?
Regardless of what state of mind said person is in do the consequences to our negative choices of our actions still matter?
I ask this because as someone with bipolar, on one hand over the years I began understand slowly why I made the choices that I did BUT if it was something negative (cheating, drug and alcohol use, going into debt just to list a few) while what I NOW know was my mania state, it still didn’t change the fact that I actively chose to do these negative choices. In my opinion from my experiences, my illness can only go so far to influence it. At the end of the day I and all of us individuals can STILL have the power to choose to do it or not.
The actions I listed above has caused pain and damage to people and myself be it intentionally or not.
My diagnosis (with the occasional one to two drinks or gummy every now and then if we’re being honest) is the reason why I stay far away from becoming a full blown drug and alcoholic because of what state of mind it can put me in whenever I make those negative choices.
Don’t get me wrong, I still fuck up and make mistakes. Too many to list. It’s also the reason why I’m in therapy and staying on my medication as well as taking it seriously. What are YOUR opinions?
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Regardless of what state of mind said person is in do the consequences to our negative choices of our actions still matter?
I ask this because as someone with bipolar, on one hand over the years I began understand slowly why I made the choices that I did BUT if it was something negative (cheating, drug and alcohol use, going into debt just to list a few) while what I NOW know was my mania state, it still didn’t change the fact that I actively chose to do these negative choices. In my opinion from my experiences, my illness can only go so far to influence it. At the end of the day I and all of us individuals can STILL have the power to choose to do it or not.
The actions I listed above has caused pain and damage to people and myself be it intentionally or not.
My diagnosis (with the occasional one to two drinks or gummy every now and then if we’re being honest) is the reason why I stay far away from becoming a full blown drug and alcoholic because of what state of mind it can put me in whenever I make those negative choices.
Don’t get me wrong, I still fuck up and make mistakes. Too many to list. It’s also the reason why I’m in therapy and staying on my medication as well as taking it seriously. What are YOUR opinions?
2024.05.14 12:45 Errora403 PUBG MOBILE VERSION 3.2 UPDATE ANNOUNCEMENT
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2024.05.14 12:45 Practical-Training-9 My Manager Complained about my Performance after my Dad Died…
For context, I have been getting completely burnt out from my job. We have only two people scheduled for deliveries closing per day since the beginning of the year. It’s been a huge strain on both my mental health and physical health. I’m a 5’3, 24 year old woman. It is hard for me to pick mulch, lumber, or drywall by myself (which I’m expected to do to get deliveries done). Managers also expect me to stay after the time I’m scheduled to make sure everything is picked, clean, and Bopis is at zero. My Dad died on April 28th. We don’t know how yet, but he didn’t take care of himself. Obviously, I’m full of strange emotions I don’t understand. Everyone at work knew what I was going through. I had to go to a funeral in a different state for my father to learn that he didn’t even leave his children anything and left everything to his mistress.
Yesterday, I was just doing my job as a deliveries associate. I was called into the back office. A store manager and my female deliveries manager were back there. He starts laying into me how he feels bad for my predicament, but my performance has been rough since last month. I try to explain to him that I’m burnt out and tired and how only scheduling two people per shift is exhausting and unhelpful. The manager then snaps at me saying that I interrupted him. At this point, I just started crying. I had so many emotions welled up inside me that they all just came out. My dad died, I had been burnt out, I was in a job that was physically and emotionally draining me, and now I felt like my managers didn’t understand or care to understand. All they cared about is that I wasn’t doing my work up to their standards. I tried to explain that I’m switching departments because of the strain this job has on me and he just snapped at me and said, “It doesn’t matter! You’ve still been doing poor job!”
I just sobbed at this point, having an anxiety attack. He kept laying into me that I should ask people for help (which I did in the past and got no support from my managers or other associates) and that some associates have been coming to him and telling him that I don’t care about what my managers say or my job. I explained that that wasn’t true and that I’ve never said that. At this point, I couldn’t breath. I was sobbing and in an uncomfortable situation. I just wanted to leave, but then they got sympathetic. The manager tried to explain that he’s just worried about me and cares about me. At this point, I felt like I couldn’t believe him after he snapped at me and dug into me. He tried to make me laugh, tried to make jokes and lighten the mood. I continued to cry. He then tried to get me to talk about my feelings, feelings that weren’t work related. I was so uncomfortable, it wasn’t their business to know about my life story or that I’m on antidepressants. I told him that my feelings were not work related but he pushed again and said that didn’t matter. I had to straight up express that I felt uncomfortable in this situation for him to stop.
Finally, they let me go. I rushed out of the office and ran to the bathroom. Where I cried for a while. This experience has caused me to realize that I need to find a new place to work…I’m filing out applications now…
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Yesterday, I was just doing my job as a deliveries associate. I was called into the back office. A store manager and my female deliveries manager were back there. He starts laying into me how he feels bad for my predicament, but my performance has been rough since last month. I try to explain to him that I’m burnt out and tired and how only scheduling two people per shift is exhausting and unhelpful. The manager then snaps at me saying that I interrupted him. At this point, I just started crying. I had so many emotions welled up inside me that they all just came out. My dad died, I had been burnt out, I was in a job that was physically and emotionally draining me, and now I felt like my managers didn’t understand or care to understand. All they cared about is that I wasn’t doing my work up to their standards. I tried to explain that I’m switching departments because of the strain this job has on me and he just snapped at me and said, “It doesn’t matter! You’ve still been doing poor job!”
I just sobbed at this point, having an anxiety attack. He kept laying into me that I should ask people for help (which I did in the past and got no support from my managers or other associates) and that some associates have been coming to him and telling him that I don’t care about what my managers say or my job. I explained that that wasn’t true and that I’ve never said that. At this point, I couldn’t breath. I was sobbing and in an uncomfortable situation. I just wanted to leave, but then they got sympathetic. The manager tried to explain that he’s just worried about me and cares about me. At this point, I felt like I couldn’t believe him after he snapped at me and dug into me. He tried to make me laugh, tried to make jokes and lighten the mood. I continued to cry. He then tried to get me to talk about my feelings, feelings that weren’t work related. I was so uncomfortable, it wasn’t their business to know about my life story or that I’m on antidepressants. I told him that my feelings were not work related but he pushed again and said that didn’t matter. I had to straight up express that I felt uncomfortable in this situation for him to stop.
Finally, they let me go. I rushed out of the office and ran to the bathroom. Where I cried for a while. This experience has caused me to realize that I need to find a new place to work…I’m filing out applications now…
2024.05.14 12:45 userman203 Am I wrong for wanting to divorce my wife after her affair 4 years ago?
I’ve been married to my wife for 5 years now. We met in the military 6 years ago we were both 20 years old when we met. We were both newly enlisted and we found ourselves spending everyday after work together. After we meet we would spend so much time together that we decided to get married after 8 months. I’ll be the first to admit we rushed into it. At the time it seemed to make the most sense since we shared many values and habits or at least I thought we did.
A few months had passed and now we were home owners and everything was great. She cooked dinner almost everyday and did things around the house while I did my fair share of chores. Everything was more than I would have ever think to have at such a young age I felt like I had hit the jackpot. I was about 21 at this time. We did have our fair share of disagreements like any couple but nothing a conversation couldn’t solve. It was all cool for about 2 years then I noticed things start to change. She had a boss that she would complain about a lot. She would complain that he would say they were going to be off at a certain time then make them stay until normal time which was about 430 along with other things she would find agravating. This was nothing out of the ordinary since we worked in the same building and everything she would complain about I would experience too. A few months later and I noticed she would text this same boss all the time after work. I would ask what it was about and she would say it was work related. Me being my young naive self at the time I didn’t think too much of it. As the days went on the texting got more and more frequent and now she would leave for “work” earlier than before and sometimes come home later.
For months I would ask her if there was something going on with this guy since he was always texting her and now sometimes asked to borrow yard tools that she would take to him. As I’m typing this I now feel even more stupid for not doing anything about it. There was many times I confronted her about it but every time she would swear up and down that nothing was going on. She once even cried to me swearing she loved me and that it was just in my head. I loved her and was painfully naive so I just dealt with it and carried on. It got to the point where I thought I was going insane and my mental health took a toll. I guess she was a good lair or maybe I was just stupid for believing her.
About a few more months passed then one day after dinner she wanted to talk about something. She confesses to me that she’d been having an affair with the guy I had been questioning her about and that my suspicions were right all along. To say I was devastated is an understatement. I was broken after hearing this, and to be honest, I haven’t been the same since.
After her confession we split up for about 3 or 4 months. During this time I also slept with someone else to “get back at her” but honestly I just felt worse. We ended up talking about it all after our time apart and decided to work it out. It’s now been 3 years since she confessed about her affair and I just can’t quite get completely over it. I have talked to her about going our separate ways but she breaksdown and insists she isn’t the same person she was. I guess part of me loves her? Or maybe I’m still naive just a bit older now? Or maybe I’m just broken and have no self respect?
Sorry this post is so long. I have no “real” friends to talk about this shit so I turned to the internet. Thanks for hearing me.
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A few months had passed and now we were home owners and everything was great. She cooked dinner almost everyday and did things around the house while I did my fair share of chores. Everything was more than I would have ever think to have at such a young age I felt like I had hit the jackpot. I was about 21 at this time. We did have our fair share of disagreements like any couple but nothing a conversation couldn’t solve. It was all cool for about 2 years then I noticed things start to change. She had a boss that she would complain about a lot. She would complain that he would say they were going to be off at a certain time then make them stay until normal time which was about 430 along with other things she would find agravating. This was nothing out of the ordinary since we worked in the same building and everything she would complain about I would experience too. A few months later and I noticed she would text this same boss all the time after work. I would ask what it was about and she would say it was work related. Me being my young naive self at the time I didn’t think too much of it. As the days went on the texting got more and more frequent and now she would leave for “work” earlier than before and sometimes come home later.
For months I would ask her if there was something going on with this guy since he was always texting her and now sometimes asked to borrow yard tools that she would take to him. As I’m typing this I now feel even more stupid for not doing anything about it. There was many times I confronted her about it but every time she would swear up and down that nothing was going on. She once even cried to me swearing she loved me and that it was just in my head. I loved her and was painfully naive so I just dealt with it and carried on. It got to the point where I thought I was going insane and my mental health took a toll. I guess she was a good lair or maybe I was just stupid for believing her.
About a few more months passed then one day after dinner she wanted to talk about something. She confesses to me that she’d been having an affair with the guy I had been questioning her about and that my suspicions were right all along. To say I was devastated is an understatement. I was broken after hearing this, and to be honest, I haven’t been the same since.
After her confession we split up for about 3 or 4 months. During this time I also slept with someone else to “get back at her” but honestly I just felt worse. We ended up talking about it all after our time apart and decided to work it out. It’s now been 3 years since she confessed about her affair and I just can’t quite get completely over it. I have talked to her about going our separate ways but she breaksdown and insists she isn’t the same person she was. I guess part of me loves her? Or maybe I’m still naive just a bit older now? Or maybe I’m just broken and have no self respect?
Sorry this post is so long. I have no “real” friends to talk about this shit so I turned to the internet. Thanks for hearing me.
2024.05.14 12:45 crimson-abyss1 I reached out for closure but was met with so much coldness
So yesterday I went through something quite painful. For the past 2 years, I’ve been consistently trying to reach out to a very close friend of mine. We met at uni and we did everything together and I’ve never had such a close friendship like that before and she was basically like a sister to me! 2 years ago she started becoming really distant and ever since, I’ve always been the one to message her asking her how she is and asking if she wants to meet up… and I was ALWAYS met with dead silence. Like she wouldn’t even respond when I wished her a happy birthday.
So yesterday, I did what I’ve been wanting to do for a long time and I texted her and asked her what happened, and what I did wrong. And if I did something that made her act like this to please tell me and also tell me so I can stop reaching out to always be met with a blank wall.
She responded and said she thought that we were naturally becoming distant in a hectic time and she doesn’t have the emotional capacity to reconnect. I totally get that but I don’t understand about the distancing aspect because I’ve always messaged her because I didn’t want us to become distant.
I asked her if she would ever want to connect again, and she then said that “the clingyness and continuation out of this convo is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable” and she deleted me off instagram.
This is just super painful because I wasn’t trying to come across and clingy, I just wanted to know what happened and why she turned so cold. And why would she delete me from instagram? It just all feels so personal and I’m currently going through the motions of grieving what was an incredibly important friendship in my life.
It was even more painful these past 2 years where I would constantly see her out with new friends whilst she was point blank ignoring my messages of asking how she is and whether she’d want to hang out.
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So yesterday, I did what I’ve been wanting to do for a long time and I texted her and asked her what happened, and what I did wrong. And if I did something that made her act like this to please tell me and also tell me so I can stop reaching out to always be met with a blank wall.
She responded and said she thought that we were naturally becoming distant in a hectic time and she doesn’t have the emotional capacity to reconnect. I totally get that but I don’t understand about the distancing aspect because I’ve always messaged her because I didn’t want us to become distant.
I asked her if she would ever want to connect again, and she then said that “the clingyness and continuation out of this convo is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable” and she deleted me off instagram.
This is just super painful because I wasn’t trying to come across and clingy, I just wanted to know what happened and why she turned so cold. And why would she delete me from instagram? It just all feels so personal and I’m currently going through the motions of grieving what was an incredibly important friendship in my life.
It was even more painful these past 2 years where I would constantly see her out with new friends whilst she was point blank ignoring my messages of asking how she is and whether she’d want to hang out.
2024.05.14 12:45 ccigames Some suyu news/updates
Charlie/Chaphidoesstuff here, thought I'd give an update on how things are going after suyu went on life support.
rebuilding a proper dev team has been slow, but progress is being made, so far we have:
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rebuilding a proper dev team has been slow, but progress is being made, so far we have:
- Breno - SDK/Yuzu code purge and other stuff, all being done through a rewrite of suyu, he'll be starting work on suyu as early as today after finishing a last release of one of his other projects
- Rafael - SDK/Yuzu code purge and optimization, similar to breno, although he has already started to an extent but I havent heard from him in a week, he's still got everything set up tho and dm'ing him is easy so I'm not TOO worried.
- Trfff - SDK/Yuzu code purge and other stuff, again similar to Breno, although he'll be starting as early as june 6th
- Cloud - UI, he will be making the UI for suyu match the concept art made pre-"death"
- Bus/Crimson - Optimization and other stuff, hes been doing tweaks based on Torzu and Sudachi, but since they are Yuzu with the SDK allegations I encouraged him to instead REFERENCE projects with less/no sdk/yuzu code such as Strato, Ryujinx etc, he hasnt been active for a bit in the suyu chat or the private dev group dm on discord, the latest ive seen him is in the YingYangs server made by the former suyu dev team a day or 2 ago.
- Exverge - not sure, i think exverge is just here to help out a bit with stuff on the git etc.
- Suyu.Admin - no idea, has refused to use discord to talk to the discord exclusive devs and takes ages to respond to new devs applying on the chat, like bus/crimson he also has been silent as far as i can see, which is a pain for git accessing etc, his and bus's inactivity may also cause the hosting to just stop, so if i were you id make copies of suyu's source code on github, gitlab and torzu's dark git, but keep them private.
- L-dev - Will be doing UI but will only start once hes seen suyu make progress
- Hector - SDK/Yuzu code purge, optimization and cool features, but like L-Dev he will only start when suyu looks to be making progress.
2024.05.14 12:45 theashtraygirl27 I just need any advice on this sinking ship he's calling relationship.
Before u read, this will be bunch of informations that are barely connected, it's poorly written, I'm not claiming to have done nothing wrong I just need someone to share my situation with and maybe seek some advice.
Me (F20) have been dating my bf (M19) for almost two years. For background : we went to same school and I used to be his long-term hallway crush, but he seemed shy so I made a first move. In the beginning, like every relationship goes, I could brag about how perfectly he's treating me if anyone asked, and, having sh1tty situations in payt with ex and situationship I was over the moon to have someone treat me so gentle.
Before we started dating, he knew I have an ex of over two years, he knew I had two boys being my very dear friends and I told him, as he has no lady friends, that if he expects me to remove one guy especially it wont work and he agreed that he won't be expecting of me to cut off my friends for him with no hesitation. Guy friend in question is kinda boy who sees to opposite gender besties and if someone says they'd be cute couple he'd act as if it's actual inc3st and we never saw each other any other way then friends. At the prom, same guy friend cried for two hours because he thought I didn't have good time because my crush kissed another girl, but honestly I had the great time when i saw how much he cared for me.
My byofriend also, before dating me, without me asking or saying anything said "I'll remove all woman from my life when I have u" aka girls from school that are people he doesn't talk to enough to call them friends but there is some contact between them. I was confused because I didn't plan on asking him to as I have guy friends but i felt respected.
It all ended up the exact opposite, I did remove my friend who i still miss to this day because my boyfriend was overly jealous. On his side : girls from school started to pick up on him and when he told me about it, I sensed bullying and told him to block them because they're being pretty annoying and he, kidd u not, asked "do i have to?" so brought up him saying he'd remove anyone for me and he did after days of arguing and me crying because it's the opposite of our agreement before dating. It wasn't even jealousy on my side and he didn't want to block them because he thought they'd ask why and he'd be uncomfortable but... He made a promise that he didn't keep.
Year later he broke up with me partly because i wasn't "pure"/ I have an ex and partly because of how bad my mood swings were (I had 3 doctors diagnosing me with severe depression and was almost hospitalized at the time I was "moody" ).
That breakup had me getting even worse because he was the guy to say "I'm so scared you'll leave me" "if you stay I stay" "i hope we're forever" I didn't know forever meant one year but the breakup was only 2 weeks long, had me suffering for over a month before he actually broke up because he took it very very slow. I slept 15 minutes a day and i wish i was being metaphoric, waiting for him to decide weather he'll stay or not. I did everything I could, my ocd gets worse in stressful situations and my brain telling me "if you do this, that will happen, if you don't, that will happen" all day every day, but I obviously did everything it told me to do to keep him and he still left and ruined us for 2 weeks of separation.
Note : If someone tells you they have something going on and they can't change it, don't come in their life trying to force a change, weather it's friendship you might not like or mental disorder out of their control, please.
After we got back together : - I told him i spent time home in group chat with two of my girls and some of their friends and random boy we found where we played "guess what I drew" because i couldn't leave bed and couldn't sleep, he got jealous at that random boy and made me feel bad for doing something while not being in a relationship. (I didn't flirt, we didn't talk in private chat, we just played and he was also aroace.)
While we were on breakup I also reached out to my guy friend and he is doing amazing, enjoying life and was happy I contacted him but my boyfriend made me cut him off, again. Tho, his sister best friend (girl) is buying him gifts, sleeping over at their place in room him and his sister are sharing but why would I be jealous? In fact, I'm not, I like that girl more then I like his family.
Anyway, it was last summer, when he asked me to be his girlfriend again I told him that I'll need time to heal, prepared him for the fact that I will bring up stuff he did before we broke up because I'm still hurt, and he'll need to be extra patient and gentle and he agreed, but instead, every time I talked about pain breakup caused because I wasn't over it, he'd yell at me so i tried to bottle it all up.
In past few months, everything I tell him will hurt me he'll find a way to do it, even if it's something he didn't have in mind, if i told him fictionally it'll hurt me so he knows, he'll do it, and when I confront him about it he'd focus on my reaction saying "are u being fr?" (Like I didn't warn him.) or "stop making me angrier I'm stressed" ( Like I'm not, also, stressed.)
Every time he does something i asked him not to, if I had a reaction it would turn into hours long fight and after making me a bad guy for reacting, he'd play a victim saying I misunderstood, it's all in my head ect. Well i started to tell my friend about our fights or I'd ask AI making "story" to see situation from someone else's perspective because I was tired of being told it's all in my head and it's on daily basis.
He recently started to pick up on my traits of ocd or autism that I also have diagnosed and told him about before he asked me out.
This was my overreaction, I agree, but I'm aware and I didn't ask to be this way; He gave me his hoodie so I'll sit in bus ( it was so dirty and I'd rather be standing, but he wanted me to sit with him and offered a hoodie which was nice. ) when we got to my place laundry dryer fell and put his hoodie on my, just day before, washed rug so i can have free hands to pick up the laundry, he picked hoodie up, angry that i left it on a floor for hot minute, immediately and put it on my bed where I sleep. I threw it right away and started crying because I'm extremely germophobic and had flashbacks from how dirty the bus was, he wanted to go home because i was acting too crazy and I know it's too much of a reaction on my side but I'd rather be like that then like people with no basic hygiene. He started asking "are you going to be this way forever?" And pressuring me to answer, then he told me I'm the only person in whole world behaving like this, like I don't know it's too much, I know it, my ocd is taking over my time and my life, my rituals are anxiously long, my fear of being dirty makes me unable to function through out the day, I have it hard already without someone putting a pressure on it, my doctor refused to treat me even tho I told him it takes at least 2 hours after I go to bed to re-do all my rituals so I can sleep without feer and I still end up waking up few times in one night, I know it's not normal bruh that's why it's a disorder lol, I never claimed it was normal but how can I just get it out of my body, I feel like crazy disgusting creature with zero rights to live because of what he says every time I have a" moment ".
He also doesn't fail to make me feel guilty for not paying attention to my tone when speaking or my facial expressions or my sensory sensitivity like it's all my fault, asking when will I stop being like this and that it's just me being like this, that no one else is this hard to deal with.
I love him and he's making me hate my existence, my flaws, things I can't change about myself, what am I supposed to do about it? Therapy in this country isn't much of help. I feel so guilty oftenly for being the way I am and I didn't even list half of the things.
He also makes me feel guilty for him giving me his time, when we have plans for a day but we spend that day with him always being in rush to go back home and him complaining how he didn't have to do A B and C because he "had to see me" like he doesn't even want to see me. (Same boy who said, over year ago " I can't stand seeing you only four hours a day I wish to be around you all the time".
We're fighting every day and every day it's something I asked him not to do but he still did and it always ends up with me being just too angry all the time and him doing nothing wrong.
He doesn't communicate well, he's messages contains 2-3 words and when I understand what he wrote instead of what he "meant" it's my fault. I warned him more then year ago that if I keep trying to explain in 5 different ways my point of view while he doesn't even explains his with valid sentence I'll give up on talking.
He's "explanation" goes like this : If i ask for two plus two he'll say the fishes brethe air - not only is the explanation wrong in general but it never has anything to do with my question. Like dudes that cheat and excause is that his grandma died, you get it?
Now, I'm so tired that when I try to tell him what's wrong, when he starts to be self defensive I block him because I can't take it anymore, I now can't communicate because I know how it'll end up anyway and it lost it's meaning. I'm turning out toxic but I'm tired, my soul is tired while his soul is rotting.
It hurts watching my sweet boy turning into such an ignorant and pathetic person. I started to think he has npd.
It seems like only solution is for me to stop reacting and to bottle everything up, but that's not relationship I want. I don't want to pretend I'm fine when I'm not, I don't want to keep masking around my own partner just for the sake of his ego because that guy can't stand being told he did something wrong and it takes hours of justifying, self-defense and victim role for him to actually say sorry without even understanding why he should be apologizing for.
TLDR : I (20f) am dating my bf (19m) who's only ever focused on my reaction when he's mistreating me then the reason why I reacted.
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Me (F20) have been dating my bf (M19) for almost two years. For background : we went to same school and I used to be his long-term hallway crush, but he seemed shy so I made a first move. In the beginning, like every relationship goes, I could brag about how perfectly he's treating me if anyone asked, and, having sh1tty situations in payt with ex and situationship I was over the moon to have someone treat me so gentle.
Before we started dating, he knew I have an ex of over two years, he knew I had two boys being my very dear friends and I told him, as he has no lady friends, that if he expects me to remove one guy especially it wont work and he agreed that he won't be expecting of me to cut off my friends for him with no hesitation. Guy friend in question is kinda boy who sees to opposite gender besties and if someone says they'd be cute couple he'd act as if it's actual inc3st and we never saw each other any other way then friends. At the prom, same guy friend cried for two hours because he thought I didn't have good time because my crush kissed another girl, but honestly I had the great time when i saw how much he cared for me.
My byofriend also, before dating me, without me asking or saying anything said "I'll remove all woman from my life when I have u" aka girls from school that are people he doesn't talk to enough to call them friends but there is some contact between them. I was confused because I didn't plan on asking him to as I have guy friends but i felt respected.
It all ended up the exact opposite, I did remove my friend who i still miss to this day because my boyfriend was overly jealous. On his side : girls from school started to pick up on him and when he told me about it, I sensed bullying and told him to block them because they're being pretty annoying and he, kidd u not, asked "do i have to?" so brought up him saying he'd remove anyone for me and he did after days of arguing and me crying because it's the opposite of our agreement before dating. It wasn't even jealousy on my side and he didn't want to block them because he thought they'd ask why and he'd be uncomfortable but... He made a promise that he didn't keep.
Year later he broke up with me partly because i wasn't "pure"/ I have an ex and partly because of how bad my mood swings were (I had 3 doctors diagnosing me with severe depression and was almost hospitalized at the time I was "moody" ).
That breakup had me getting even worse because he was the guy to say "I'm so scared you'll leave me" "if you stay I stay" "i hope we're forever" I didn't know forever meant one year but the breakup was only 2 weeks long, had me suffering for over a month before he actually broke up because he took it very very slow. I slept 15 minutes a day and i wish i was being metaphoric, waiting for him to decide weather he'll stay or not. I did everything I could, my ocd gets worse in stressful situations and my brain telling me "if you do this, that will happen, if you don't, that will happen" all day every day, but I obviously did everything it told me to do to keep him and he still left and ruined us for 2 weeks of separation.
Note : If someone tells you they have something going on and they can't change it, don't come in their life trying to force a change, weather it's friendship you might not like or mental disorder out of their control, please.
After we got back together : - I told him i spent time home in group chat with two of my girls and some of their friends and random boy we found where we played "guess what I drew" because i couldn't leave bed and couldn't sleep, he got jealous at that random boy and made me feel bad for doing something while not being in a relationship. (I didn't flirt, we didn't talk in private chat, we just played and he was also aroace.)
While we were on breakup I also reached out to my guy friend and he is doing amazing, enjoying life and was happy I contacted him but my boyfriend made me cut him off, again. Tho, his sister best friend (girl) is buying him gifts, sleeping over at their place in room him and his sister are sharing but why would I be jealous? In fact, I'm not, I like that girl more then I like his family.
Anyway, it was last summer, when he asked me to be his girlfriend again I told him that I'll need time to heal, prepared him for the fact that I will bring up stuff he did before we broke up because I'm still hurt, and he'll need to be extra patient and gentle and he agreed, but instead, every time I talked about pain breakup caused because I wasn't over it, he'd yell at me so i tried to bottle it all up.
In past few months, everything I tell him will hurt me he'll find a way to do it, even if it's something he didn't have in mind, if i told him fictionally it'll hurt me so he knows, he'll do it, and when I confront him about it he'd focus on my reaction saying "are u being fr?" (Like I didn't warn him.) or "stop making me angrier I'm stressed" ( Like I'm not, also, stressed.)
Every time he does something i asked him not to, if I had a reaction it would turn into hours long fight and after making me a bad guy for reacting, he'd play a victim saying I misunderstood, it's all in my head ect. Well i started to tell my friend about our fights or I'd ask AI making "story" to see situation from someone else's perspective because I was tired of being told it's all in my head and it's on daily basis.
He recently started to pick up on my traits of ocd or autism that I also have diagnosed and told him about before he asked me out.
This was my overreaction, I agree, but I'm aware and I didn't ask to be this way; He gave me his hoodie so I'll sit in bus ( it was so dirty and I'd rather be standing, but he wanted me to sit with him and offered a hoodie which was nice. ) when we got to my place laundry dryer fell and put his hoodie on my, just day before, washed rug so i can have free hands to pick up the laundry, he picked hoodie up, angry that i left it on a floor for hot minute, immediately and put it on my bed where I sleep. I threw it right away and started crying because I'm extremely germophobic and had flashbacks from how dirty the bus was, he wanted to go home because i was acting too crazy and I know it's too much of a reaction on my side but I'd rather be like that then like people with no basic hygiene. He started asking "are you going to be this way forever?" And pressuring me to answer, then he told me I'm the only person in whole world behaving like this, like I don't know it's too much, I know it, my ocd is taking over my time and my life, my rituals are anxiously long, my fear of being dirty makes me unable to function through out the day, I have it hard already without someone putting a pressure on it, my doctor refused to treat me even tho I told him it takes at least 2 hours after I go to bed to re-do all my rituals so I can sleep without feer and I still end up waking up few times in one night, I know it's not normal bruh that's why it's a disorder lol, I never claimed it was normal but how can I just get it out of my body, I feel like crazy disgusting creature with zero rights to live because of what he says every time I have a" moment ".
He also doesn't fail to make me feel guilty for not paying attention to my tone when speaking or my facial expressions or my sensory sensitivity like it's all my fault, asking when will I stop being like this and that it's just me being like this, that no one else is this hard to deal with.
I love him and he's making me hate my existence, my flaws, things I can't change about myself, what am I supposed to do about it? Therapy in this country isn't much of help. I feel so guilty oftenly for being the way I am and I didn't even list half of the things.
He also makes me feel guilty for him giving me his time, when we have plans for a day but we spend that day with him always being in rush to go back home and him complaining how he didn't have to do A B and C because he "had to see me" like he doesn't even want to see me. (Same boy who said, over year ago " I can't stand seeing you only four hours a day I wish to be around you all the time".
We're fighting every day and every day it's something I asked him not to do but he still did and it always ends up with me being just too angry all the time and him doing nothing wrong.
He doesn't communicate well, he's messages contains 2-3 words and when I understand what he wrote instead of what he "meant" it's my fault. I warned him more then year ago that if I keep trying to explain in 5 different ways my point of view while he doesn't even explains his with valid sentence I'll give up on talking.
He's "explanation" goes like this : If i ask for two plus two he'll say the fishes brethe air - not only is the explanation wrong in general but it never has anything to do with my question. Like dudes that cheat and excause is that his grandma died, you get it?
Now, I'm so tired that when I try to tell him what's wrong, when he starts to be self defensive I block him because I can't take it anymore, I now can't communicate because I know how it'll end up anyway and it lost it's meaning. I'm turning out toxic but I'm tired, my soul is tired while his soul is rotting.
It hurts watching my sweet boy turning into such an ignorant and pathetic person. I started to think he has npd.
It seems like only solution is for me to stop reacting and to bottle everything up, but that's not relationship I want. I don't want to pretend I'm fine when I'm not, I don't want to keep masking around my own partner just for the sake of his ego because that guy can't stand being told he did something wrong and it takes hours of justifying, self-defense and victim role for him to actually say sorry without even understanding why he should be apologizing for.
TLDR : I (20f) am dating my bf (19m) who's only ever focused on my reaction when he's mistreating me then the reason why I reacted.
2024.05.14 12:44 clueless20yo Need suggestion on how to get relief from backpain supposedly muscle pain
I remember I used to have this pain in all my school days before exams mostly due to prolonged hours of study. I used to sit on bed drooping down all my back and neck over the book so I think that was due to bad posture. Consulted two orthopedic doctors, both of them showed me some exercises and that's all. Back then the pain was right on the shoulder blades. During my college days, the pandemic occurred and also lost few pounds(went almost aneroxic type skinny) I wasn't studying those days, all day I used to scroll phones lying on bed or workout a little bit. I don't know for what reason, but my backpain was gone. It was maybe because of I was working out or because I had no fat accumulation on back, or because I was lying down all day. I don't remember it was bothering me this much until last year,, I used to do very little(only high knees) to no workout then. But from the beginning of this year I started preparing for February Gate (which I miserably failed tho) sitting all day in my room and stopped doing any exercise or anything. I gained 4-5 kgs during that. After that I am getting backpain now and then. Now the pain is not exactly on shoulder blades but the muscle below it, also my spine near that hurts a little. I consulted an ortho again, he didn't come up with any solution actually. Told me to sit straight while studying. Now I don't study that much, even if I try to study (even while lying upside down on bed) I get distracted or get backpain. This pain comes out of the blue anytime of the day, makes me suffer for half of the day or 2 days straight and disapppears magically. I get backpain even after sleeping sometimes. I quitted using pillow, because i felt like it makes the pain worse(ik sleeping without pillow is not recommended at all) but still it occurs. how do you treat this kind of pain?
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2024.05.14 12:44 WeissonWr Pain inside of my heart
I think this is the first time i will ever Talk of this on a "public way" and i dont know if its going to help me or not but here it goes:
Basically i play games on mobile and i met a Girl around a year ago playing that Game. She was crying because she was having a hard time and basically i tried to cheer her up. Since that day we texted everyday and i did videocalls and sleepcalls with her because she had nightmares and bad thoughts most the days and she Also had bpd plus their previous partners treated her so bad so i tried my best to make her Happy i even bought hera lot of gifts . after something like 3 months (by june of last year) she told me that she loved me and well we started being partners . I am from Spain and she was from Italy so It was a Distance relationship but we managed to see eachother. It took a while because the first time we Saw eachother was on december at a gaming event we saw and since that day we started seeing eachother every two weeks and she met my family too. Everything seemed so nice but some days after valentines day i went to Italy with her and on that days and some days before me coming she was weird and basically after i was there and i gave her a dress as valentines gift (yeah some days after because before i couldnt) i went back monday at Spain and 2 days after she broke Up with me saying that she wasnt feeling the romantic side and that she had a long way to recover. I got depression and anxiety over that and after 2 weeks my great-grandmother Also died. When we broke Up she told me we could be Friends and keep talking but she ignored me and after i talked with her again she told me that she didnt want to keep talking with me so i could move on and that she met another person and well .... I thought that if she took like 3 months to start going out with me and then after breaking Up with me on 2 weeks she is already with another person something was wrong. I decided to Talk with her again and well i messaged her a lot because i was feeling so bad but i basically was toxic and she ended Up blocking me.
After a month of all of this i decided to message my ex and tell her that i was sorry about being toxic and that i was moving on to be honest i wanted to be her friend but she just blocked me. Before you jump and say anything yeah i know about things like "I need to let her go" or "you need to move on" but its just that it hurts to love someone to that point and give everything just so it finishes that way.
After all of this happened i started going gym and watching anime shows etc... As i found it really helped me to deal with emotions. I Also tried to make new friends and even tried to meet a nice girl for a relationship (for me LDR are not a problem as im willing to put the effort if i see that person really makes me happy) but i didnt have much luck with that as for both things i got either insulted , ignored or asked for money which are things that shows me the lack of interest of those persons towards me.
I dont know.... I understand what i need to do and i know whats right but... It just hurts too much and sometimes i feel its too much for me.
If you read this far and you want to talk with me you are free to message me.
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Basically i play games on mobile and i met a Girl around a year ago playing that Game. She was crying because she was having a hard time and basically i tried to cheer her up. Since that day we texted everyday and i did videocalls and sleepcalls with her because she had nightmares and bad thoughts most the days and she Also had bpd plus their previous partners treated her so bad so i tried my best to make her Happy i even bought hera lot of gifts . after something like 3 months (by june of last year) she told me that she loved me and well we started being partners . I am from Spain and she was from Italy so It was a Distance relationship but we managed to see eachother. It took a while because the first time we Saw eachother was on december at a gaming event we saw and since that day we started seeing eachother every two weeks and she met my family too. Everything seemed so nice but some days after valentines day i went to Italy with her and on that days and some days before me coming she was weird and basically after i was there and i gave her a dress as valentines gift (yeah some days after because before i couldnt) i went back monday at Spain and 2 days after she broke Up with me saying that she wasnt feeling the romantic side and that she had a long way to recover. I got depression and anxiety over that and after 2 weeks my great-grandmother Also died. When we broke Up she told me we could be Friends and keep talking but she ignored me and after i talked with her again she told me that she didnt want to keep talking with me so i could move on and that she met another person and well .... I thought that if she took like 3 months to start going out with me and then after breaking Up with me on 2 weeks she is already with another person something was wrong. I decided to Talk with her again and well i messaged her a lot because i was feeling so bad but i basically was toxic and she ended Up blocking me.
After a month of all of this i decided to message my ex and tell her that i was sorry about being toxic and that i was moving on to be honest i wanted to be her friend but she just blocked me. Before you jump and say anything yeah i know about things like "I need to let her go" or "you need to move on" but its just that it hurts to love someone to that point and give everything just so it finishes that way.
After all of this happened i started going gym and watching anime shows etc... As i found it really helped me to deal with emotions. I Also tried to make new friends and even tried to meet a nice girl for a relationship (for me LDR are not a problem as im willing to put the effort if i see that person really makes me happy) but i didnt have much luck with that as for both things i got either insulted , ignored or asked for money which are things that shows me the lack of interest of those persons towards me.
I dont know.... I understand what i need to do and i know whats right but... It just hurts too much and sometimes i feel its too much for me.
If you read this far and you want to talk with me you are free to message me.
2024.05.14 12:44 whosemomareyou AITA for reminding my SIL she isn’t a mother on Mother’s Day?
My brother Miles lost his wife Sarah 4 years ago. He has a son, Eric, 11. Miles married his wife Josie about 18 months ago. And yes, she’s trying the whole “second mom” thing. Eric is in grief therapy and Miles is being better about pushing Josie on Eric than he could be but he also hasn’t been as respectful of the fact that Eric doesn’t see her as a mother as he could be.
Sarah unfortunately didn’t have sisters so I’m the woman closest to her age in Eric’s life, and I’m trying to be there for him as much as I can. We’re very close. Not that I’ll ever take Sarah’s place, no one will, but he knows if there’s ever something he doesn’t want to talk to his dad about that my home is always open to him.
So for Mother’s Day, Eric wanted to visit Sarah’s grave and then come to Mother’s Day lunch with me and my family. Miles agreed to this plan initially, but the day before he cancelled on Eric’s behalf, saying that he and Josie thought it was best that Eric spend the whole day with them, since Eric should show appreciation to Josie on Mother’s Day. I argued with Miles and eventually Miles said I could come by and see Eric and get the gift he’d gotten me but that he wanted Eric to stay with him and Josie.
When I went over to the house, Eric gave me some flowers and a small candle and we were talking outside and he said he had had his phone taken away because he had refused to say or do anything for Josie for Mother’s Day. Imagine punishing a child because he doesn’t love you. I didn’t say anything to Eric but when I was leaving I said to Miles that I thought he was doing untold damage to his son by bullying him into pretending he cares about Josie. Josie said it wasn’t bullying for wanting Eric to participate in celebrating her on Mother’s Day so I looked at her and said, “Josie, whose mother are you?”
Josie had a miscarriage a few months ago so this hit her pretty hard. I’m not going to lie and say I didn’t realise this would upset her but frankly, she isn’t Eric’s mother, and she can’t make up for wishing she was by making the day harder for him.
Josie burst into tears and started shouting at me and Miles told me to just take Eric with me because “obviously this whole thing has been a failure”.
Miles is saying I wen too far reminding Josie she isn’t a mother but I feel like someone had to, because she was acting like she’s entitled to the title when the “child” doesn’t feel that way. If she was having a hard day and wanted to memorialise what she’s been through then that’s her business but Eric shouldn’t be bullied into a pantomime because of her grief.
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Sarah unfortunately didn’t have sisters so I’m the woman closest to her age in Eric’s life, and I’m trying to be there for him as much as I can. We’re very close. Not that I’ll ever take Sarah’s place, no one will, but he knows if there’s ever something he doesn’t want to talk to his dad about that my home is always open to him.
So for Mother’s Day, Eric wanted to visit Sarah’s grave and then come to Mother’s Day lunch with me and my family. Miles agreed to this plan initially, but the day before he cancelled on Eric’s behalf, saying that he and Josie thought it was best that Eric spend the whole day with them, since Eric should show appreciation to Josie on Mother’s Day. I argued with Miles and eventually Miles said I could come by and see Eric and get the gift he’d gotten me but that he wanted Eric to stay with him and Josie.
When I went over to the house, Eric gave me some flowers and a small candle and we were talking outside and he said he had had his phone taken away because he had refused to say or do anything for Josie for Mother’s Day. Imagine punishing a child because he doesn’t love you. I didn’t say anything to Eric but when I was leaving I said to Miles that I thought he was doing untold damage to his son by bullying him into pretending he cares about Josie. Josie said it wasn’t bullying for wanting Eric to participate in celebrating her on Mother’s Day so I looked at her and said, “Josie, whose mother are you?”
Josie had a miscarriage a few months ago so this hit her pretty hard. I’m not going to lie and say I didn’t realise this would upset her but frankly, she isn’t Eric’s mother, and she can’t make up for wishing she was by making the day harder for him.
Josie burst into tears and started shouting at me and Miles told me to just take Eric with me because “obviously this whole thing has been a failure”.
Miles is saying I wen too far reminding Josie she isn’t a mother but I feel like someone had to, because she was acting like she’s entitled to the title when the “child” doesn’t feel that way. If she was having a hard day and wanted to memorialise what she’s been through then that’s her business but Eric shouldn’t be bullied into a pantomime because of her grief.
2024.05.14 12:43 InsertNameAfter Ushi Ushi no Mi, Model: Cretan Oushiza
This Zoan is based on the Cretan Bull from Hercules' 7th Labour. While not much is known about it when it comes to supernatural aspects, it's said to inspire awe in those who see it, as well as wreak chaos once fed Poseidon's anger. From this, I decided that the bull would simply be an overwhelming force of nature; a being of raw, violent physical power.
English Name: Bull Bull Fruit, Model: Cretan Bull
Type: Mythical Zoan
Explanation: This fruit allows its consumer to transform into a snow-white bull with long pointed horns.
Hybrid Form: White fur grows on the user's skin. Horns sprout from their skull, pointing at the sky. A short tail sways behind them as their body bulks up, their feet getting replaced by hooves and their arms bursting with muscles.
Beast Form: A large muscled white bull with long pointed horns. It pulses with strength, able to shrug off most physical impacts and ram through forests unimpeded. In this form, the user's eyes glow eerily as they exude an unsettling aura.
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Information:
Japanese Name: Ushi Ushi no Mi, Model: Cretan OushizaEnglish Name: Bull Bull Fruit, Model: Cretan Bull
Type: Mythical Zoan
Explanation: This fruit allows its consumer to transform into a snow-white bull with long pointed horns.
Hybrid Form: White fur grows on the user's skin. Horns sprout from their skull, pointing at the sky. A short tail sways behind them as their body bulks up, their feet getting replaced by hooves and their arms bursting with muscles.
Beast Form: A large muscled white bull with long pointed horns. It pulses with strength, able to shrug off most physical impacts and ram through forests unimpeded. In this form, the user's eyes glow eerily as they exude an unsettling aura.
Strengths:
- The user's body is sturdy and able to neglect most physical damage.
- The user's arms, in Hybrid Form, can crush boulders with ease.
- The user can spread a disturbing aura that maddens people by roaring. It robs people of their rationality and makes them act on instinct. It also enforces an emotion of rage onto anyone within earshot.
- The user's personality becomes short-tempered, easy to rile up, and more likely to resort to physical violence. This makes them immune to mental abilities and allows the user to power through things like Sleeping Gas.
Weaknesses:
- The Hybrid Form is unbalanced, with the upper torso and arms being way heavier than the legs. The user can be easily tripped.
- While powerful and fast, the user isn't agile or dextrous. It's difficult for the user to change directions in both forms.
- The Hybrid Form, while powerful, is slow. Dodging the user isn't that difficult if the opponent is fast enough.
- Blinding the user cuts off their main sense. The user is more likely to rampage blindly, making them more destructive but easier to dodge and avoid.
Hybrid Form Techniques:
- [Bone Crusher]: The user grabs the target and attempts to crush it.
- [Fervid Smash]: The user clasps their hands together and smashes the ground, creating a shockwave that crushes anything under the user.
- [Clatter Burst]: The user claps their hands violently, creating a shockwave that knocks targets back.
- [Horn Bash]: The user gets into a sprinting stance before launching themselves with their arms at the target, horns aimed to impale it. (Hard to aim/maneuver)
- [Hoof Kick]: The user lifts themselves, putting all their weight onto their arms, and kicks the target with both hooves, crippling it and launching it away.
- [Unstable Uprooting]: The user digs their fingers into the ground, getting a good grasp, and then lifts the floors. The ground breaks into large slabs, one of which is raised by the user to be used to smash targets.
- [Far Slug]:
- The user grabs the target and then throws it away.
- The user grabs a handful of the ground, breaking it into projectiles, and throws them at the target.
- [Meteoric Strike]: The user slams their hands into the ground as they jump weakly, launching themselves to the sky. The user front flips and clasps their hands, impacting the ground in a giant dust cloud and shockwave.
- [Mad Wraith]: The user roars as they release an aura of madness, disturbing targets and making anyone near the user enter a state of instability where they can't think properly.
Beast Form Techniques:
- [Feral Ram]: The user bursts forward, pointing their horns at the target. The earth quakes beneath their feet as they gallop toward their opponent.
- [Quaking Pound]: The user lifts their body upwards before slamming it back down, creating a powerful shockwave that uplifts the earth.
- [Celestial Heave]: The user places their horns below the target's arms before lifting their head upwards, launching the target to the sky.
- [Meteoric Strike]: The user leaps to the sky and then slams themselves down, crushing anything beneath them.
- [Mad Wraith]: The user growls as they release an aura of madness, disturbing targets and making anyone near the user enter a state of instability where they can't think properly.
- [Iron Cruise]: The user turns sideways and rolls on the ground, flattening everything they come across.
2024.05.14 12:43 h-oneymlktea oh god i'm cooked
TW SH
i'm deliberately trying to infect my healing burn because i got sick earlier in the healing process, most likely a small infection that went away/got better for the most part. i got angry that i wasn't sick anymore because i started eating more when i got better, because it had caused me to lose my appetite for like a month and i was doing low res every day. that is usually very hard for me. it's nearly fully healed now, showing a couple signs of a mild infection that will most likely go away. i hope it's infected but i keep trying to infect it as well, just in case.
i feel so fucking crazy right now. like who would do this to themselves? who wants to feel like shit and be in pain and sick? why am i like this?? why am i doing this just to lose weight? i fucking hate myself. but i think i'm too far gone to care.
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i'm deliberately trying to infect my healing burn because i got sick earlier in the healing process, most likely a small infection that went away/got better for the most part. i got angry that i wasn't sick anymore because i started eating more when i got better, because it had caused me to lose my appetite for like a month and i was doing low res every day. that is usually very hard for me. it's nearly fully healed now, showing a couple signs of a mild infection that will most likely go away. i hope it's infected but i keep trying to infect it as well, just in case.
i feel so fucking crazy right now. like who would do this to themselves? who wants to feel like shit and be in pain and sick? why am i like this?? why am i doing this just to lose weight? i fucking hate myself. but i think i'm too far gone to care.
2024.05.14 12:43 Dull-Name-6213 Confused by an infp female
Im an isfp male who was just chilling in class till i had my first interaction with this infp female. The year was fresh so i didn't really know her personally, she is super quiet and acts so serious most of the time. She sat next to me for the very first time and we hasn't talked much.. it was kinda awkward. After some time she got to know me a bit more.. we started to talk more.. and i started to know her better too. I just realized that she has a 'cute' side or something that she just dosen't show to anyone. I loved that side and i really liked how mysterious she is. We were sitting next to each other like everyday.. and i started to try to ask her some questions and throw some light jokes and some shit like that. She was acting so cold. After like one month passed i realized that she is actually following my friend and she actually sat behind him on purpose (cuz his best friend always sat next to him).. i wasn't really sure about her chasing for him thing until some time passed and she started to show more interest towards him and i just got it. All that happened and i was confused why she invites me to sit next to her while chasing him by sitting around him a lot. I had some kind of feelings for her and i didn't have such a great connection with her so i chose to move on. I can't fake being her 'friend' while having feelings for her. So i stopped sitting next to her and when she invites me i simply refuse. I didn't really ghost her or anything cruel, i just wanted to limit contact as a defense mechanism. She likes him and im sure but what i didn't get yet that she acts so goofy towards me and tease me a lot and smile when she sees me and while i was sitting alone i noticed many times that her best friend stares at me but i act like i didn't see her. What really confused me, that she treat us (me and him) so differently from others. She tease us, act goofy toward us and smile at us when she see us and all kind of interest signs. But for others she acts so cold.. just how she acted towards me at the beginning of the year. As the time passes we had 1 on 1 conversations and she was super talkative like i never imagined. And she became more interested.. i usually have the resting bitch face so whenever she sees me she thinks im sad and asks me if something is wrong. All of that yet she still chase him. One day we were in class and she started crying so much, that i felt shit for her and sat next to her and supported her emotionally.. i showed her that i care and told her that what she is feeling is totally ok and i spent two hours discussing what happened to her and i ever told her some emberrasing stuff that happened to me in the past just to make her smile. Im not a chase and im not a nice guy, i just wanted to provide her with the same support she gave me. Until she was okay again. The guy who she used to chase just told her ' to stop drama '. After some time she asked me a favor.. and ' please brother ' And here i got pissed off and just acted normal and i was thinking to really ghost her forever after that cuz she gave me hope after i moved on completely and now she destroyed my hopes. I remember that i was so mad that day and went for a long walk alone thinking about the whole situation and how girls just like assholes not someone who respects them. This time it was hard to move on and i just took a week off just to "process my feelings" cuz i really got obsessed with her for a long time and its hard to completely move on now. I get attached to people so fast. After that week i remember the day i was back.. she was extremely happy to see me or something and she came to me and teased me so much and i sat next to me and started talking and she said " I really like to teaasee you UwU " One day i came to school and she was so excited and told me to sit in front of her cuz she was sitting next to her bestfriend.. then i said okay whatever. Then her bestfriend was going to the bathroom and then she came sat next to me instantly and her best friend said so you're going to leave me alone then? She said no i will sit next to you when you're back. And then from here we started talking and she was asking me some personal questions and then we started talking about some deep and personal stuff. I asked her stuff about her personality and she answered me and the conversation was going so great.. she asked me to leave the classroom with her and i just refused but she didn't leave and sat next to me anyway. I noticed that she doesn't chase him much like she used to and she sit randomly in class yet she still jokes with him and stuff.
After that long story i just want to know what is going on, why she is giving me mixed signals and she acts interrested on both of us. If she doesn't like me romantically why acts that way.. why she just doesn't treat me like anyone else. Im really confused and i need an advice from you INFPs
Thank you so much for reading.
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After that long story i just want to know what is going on, why she is giving me mixed signals and she acts interrested on both of us. If she doesn't like me romantically why acts that way.. why she just doesn't treat me like anyone else. Im really confused and i need an advice from you INFPs
Thank you so much for reading.
2024.05.14 12:43 Elidesentiago-origin So, Would the M4 be a good enough reason to get the latest and costliest?
Hi! as the title says, i am currently an Ipad air 4 user with the A14, will be upgrading to either Air 6th gen 11in (I probably still want to go with this) or Pro 11in, my only question is, the M4 chip, does it provide a good enough reason for the extra price?
At first i was not considering the M4, but like right now i do feel the Stage manager could really help me out with stuff, but dont have it since its locked behind the M chips, is it possible that the M4 might bring something so different and game changing, but locked behind M4 specifically, because well, apple, that getting M4 seems reasonable? (And no, the promotion display (with Oled) or face id is good, but not deal breaker if absent).
Kindly give your views on this!
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At first i was not considering the M4, but like right now i do feel the Stage manager could really help me out with stuff, but dont have it since its locked behind the M chips, is it possible that the M4 might bring something so different and game changing, but locked behind M4 specifically, because well, apple, that getting M4 seems reasonable? (And no, the promotion display (with Oled) or face id is good, but not deal breaker if absent).
Kindly give your views on this!
2024.05.14 12:42 Tireddepressedstress Nightmares
I feel like I've come to a point in my life where I am just now learning how to cope with the fact that my childhood was not a normal one. I was verbally and emotionally abused, as well as being secluded from the world and basic human development skills due to religion.
The past month however I've been having terrible nightmares. In these nightmares I go back to sobbing and wishing so bad that I could turn back time and redo life.
I wish I could have gone to a public high school ot at the very least have been able to interact with kids my own age.
I wish I could have gone to a prom, or even just have been able to express myself in general.
Everything that I wanted growing was taking away from me. I wanted to dance but couldn't because it was "demonic".
I wanted to just be a normal fucking child but everything that normal children did was "evil" so I couldn't participate.
I feel like I've missed out and because I can't get that time back, it feels like I truly never got to experience life the way it is supposed to be lived.
I often wonder if this is really hell and I'm just going to have to deal with it. I fear ever being I'm a relationship as I was forbidden from normal human interaction.
I'm lonely most of time and I try so hard to move forward and heal and live in the present bur I feel like I'll never truly be happy. Once I came to term with the fact that none of my childhood trauma was my fault I feel like it broke me. It feels like my soul died and I fear I'll never get it back.
I've learned ways to cope, but still I feel so dull.
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The past month however I've been having terrible nightmares. In these nightmares I go back to sobbing and wishing so bad that I could turn back time and redo life.
I wish I could have gone to a public high school ot at the very least have been able to interact with kids my own age.
I wish I could have gone to a prom, or even just have been able to express myself in general.
Everything that I wanted growing was taking away from me. I wanted to dance but couldn't because it was "demonic".
I wanted to just be a normal fucking child but everything that normal children did was "evil" so I couldn't participate.
I feel like I've missed out and because I can't get that time back, it feels like I truly never got to experience life the way it is supposed to be lived.
I often wonder if this is really hell and I'm just going to have to deal with it. I fear ever being I'm a relationship as I was forbidden from normal human interaction.
I'm lonely most of time and I try so hard to move forward and heal and live in the present bur I feel like I'll never truly be happy. Once I came to term with the fact that none of my childhood trauma was my fault I feel like it broke me. It feels like my soul died and I fear I'll never get it back.
I've learned ways to cope, but still I feel so dull.
2024.05.14 12:42 Ok_Elephant_8885 Made a mistake, struggling between certainty and uncertainty…
Not too long ago I made a big big mistake. I went out with my friends for a dancing and drinks. We were not supposed to stay that long but he was having fun with a man so I just waited for him. I had my car keys in his car. When we finally left, I was SOOO exhausted.
We get to his car and drive to his house, which is where my car is parked. I told him I would sleep in my car since I felt too exhausted. He said NO and literally forced me to turn on my car and drive out. He said he would drive behind me to make sure I get home. Which was very very stupid of him and of me for listening to him.
He follows me home, it’s 10 minutes away. On the last 2 minutes he turns around and leaves since he’s sure i’ll get home fine.
LITERALLY on the last stretch, for genuinely 0.5 seconds i fell asleep behind the wheel. Embarrassing. My car drifts to the side and starts beeping. I was going like 25 MPH or maybe even less. I IMMEDIATELY wake up and break/swerve. I lightly hit my car against the back of a truck, no damage to their car. I remember seeing people going on early morning walks right by the car I hit. But I was so panicked my fight or flight just made me drive off.
I went back and checked 4 times after that to see if there was any severe damage or people on the floor. There was literally nothing, I couldn’t even find a car with damage. But there was police a few streets away, I can’t remember if they were already previously there.
My OCD brain is telling me that I ran someone over. I’m in between feelings of shame, fear, and also even certainty because I assure myself that if I did run anyone over I would be VERY aware of it.
But that OCD kicks in and I freak out. I shouldn’t have listened to him and I should’ve slept in my car.
What do I do from here? Should I go to the police? Should I ask the buildings nearby just to assure I didn’t run over a pedestrian?
This has been making me lose sleep.
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We get to his car and drive to his house, which is where my car is parked. I told him I would sleep in my car since I felt too exhausted. He said NO and literally forced me to turn on my car and drive out. He said he would drive behind me to make sure I get home. Which was very very stupid of him and of me for listening to him.
He follows me home, it’s 10 minutes away. On the last 2 minutes he turns around and leaves since he’s sure i’ll get home fine.
LITERALLY on the last stretch, for genuinely 0.5 seconds i fell asleep behind the wheel. Embarrassing. My car drifts to the side and starts beeping. I was going like 25 MPH or maybe even less. I IMMEDIATELY wake up and break/swerve. I lightly hit my car against the back of a truck, no damage to their car. I remember seeing people going on early morning walks right by the car I hit. But I was so panicked my fight or flight just made me drive off.
I went back and checked 4 times after that to see if there was any severe damage or people on the floor. There was literally nothing, I couldn’t even find a car with damage. But there was police a few streets away, I can’t remember if they were already previously there.
My OCD brain is telling me that I ran someone over. I’m in between feelings of shame, fear, and also even certainty because I assure myself that if I did run anyone over I would be VERY aware of it.
But that OCD kicks in and I freak out. I shouldn’t have listened to him and I should’ve slept in my car.
What do I do from here? Should I go to the police? Should I ask the buildings nearby just to assure I didn’t run over a pedestrian?
This has been making me lose sleep.