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The purpose of /ReformedBaptist is for mutual discussion and edification of Reformed and Calvinistic Baptists, although everyone is welcome to participate! We are closely associated in spirit to our brothers and sisters at /Reformed. We subscribe to either the 1646 or 1689 version of the London Baptist Confession of Faith. All participants should seek to reflect the gentleness of Christ to one another.
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2024.05.14 08:55 M-Apple123 $OMNIA Airdrop - 6 days left
 | https://preview.redd.it/fh47r8ytac0d1.png?width=600&format=png&auto=webp&s=efbdd481438c2f4ac54d0f19506dab9ca53e242e submitted by M-Apple123 to TokenFinders [link] [comments] Welcome to the $20,000 OMNIA Protocol and ChainGPT Giveaway! The total airdrop reward pool is worth $10,000 in $OMNIA tokens & $10,000 $CGPT tokens. We will randomly select 750 participants to receive $10 worth of $OMNIA and 750 participants to receive 10$ worth of $CGPT. Additionally, top 50 referrers will be rewarded as follows: 1st place: 500$ worth of $OMNIA & $500 worth of $CGPT 2nd place: 400$ worth of $OMNIA & $400 worth of $CGPT 3rd place: 300$ worth of $OMNIA & $300 worth of CGPT 4th-50th place: 27.5$ worth of $OMNIA & 27.5 worth of $CGPT Rewards will be distributed after price discovery, 7-10 days after $OMNIA TGE. OMNIA, founded in 2021, is a specialized RPC provider for DeFi traders, developed by cybersecurity, privacy and trading experts. We address DeFi-specific challenges like front-running and MEV exploitation. Our advanced features, including real-time pending transaction streams and robust transaction broadcasts, ensure fast and secure transactions. OMNIA’s cutting-edge infrastructure makes it a go-to choice for optimized DeFi trading. OMNIA delivers scalable and reliable blockchain infrastructure and offer seamless access between wallets or dApps and nodes. We've integrated these wallets to connect into our dashboard:
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2024.05.14 08:46 Zapbamboop Do you think the recent church shootings demonstrate a need for a security team at church? Also, what is causing the increase of shootings and stabbings in church?
Here are some of the recent shootings, and one stabbing
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- Parishioners at Louisiana church stop possible mass shooting
- They say that the shooter could have killed 60 people/
- A man tried to shoot a pastor during a church service but his gun wouldn’t fire, state police say
- This guy killed someone before he tried to shoot the pastor.
- Sydney bishop speaks of losing sight in one eye after alleged church stabbing
- A 16 year old boy stabbed with Bishop for insulting Muslims.
- Do you think the recent church shootings show that there is a need for a security team at church?
- what is causing the increase of shootings and stabibngs in church?
2024.05.14 08:26 pheakelmatters Cliffsnotes for the Pascal interview
Full interview: https://www.youtube.com/live/0hIyE8jSzYg?si=iY6Rzyqe5upSJkBz
My last thought... An hour and 41 minutes. That's how long that live stream was and the majority of it was Seth and Tony addressing drama that Seth and Tony and basically everyone that wasn't the Proudfoot's created (with the possible exception for Chris calling in to Cluemaniti). At no point did the stream put up a picture of Sebastian. At no point did anyone say or show the number for the tip line. At no point did Seth mention what areas his volunteer searches have covered. At no point did Seth outline areas that still need to be searched. At no point did Seth give insight to Sebastian's personality that could help indentify him. If this was the very first thing I'd had seen about this case I'd know all about Seth and Tony and how they feel about things.. but Sebastian would be pretty much a mystery.
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- Seth confirms the PI's exit was due to Tony's involvement.
- Seth said he likes Tony because Tony does whatever he tells him
- Seth says the PI's didn't share all information with him and weren't checking up on leads. Seth says it's his operation, not theirs.
- Tony and Seth say the Proudfoot's aren't working with them, and Tony's job was to get them on board with Seth.
- Seth said the leaked phone call of Chris Proudfoot interfered with getting the Proudfoot's on board. Tony rebukes Chris Proudfoot for calling into Cluemaniti with fake voices. (note: there's still no proof this was actually CP. If anyone can link clear evidence of this please do so)
- Tony claims Chris Proudfoot agreed not to do social media but did it anyway, said "he's not a good guy".
- Tony said he was Seth's agent for the latest Nancy Grace appearance in regards to the polygraph he took.
- Tony said he had an agreement with Nancy Grace's producers that the interview would not paint the Proudfoot's in a bad light. He said when the polygraph administrator said Seth told him he believes Katie accidentally OD'd Sebastian he advised Seth to hang up immediately, which Seth complied with.
- Seth confirmed this account from Tony. Seth said the polygraph administrator ask for his top three theories on what might have happened to Sebastian. Seth said he said the OD theory and an additional two more, but the polygraph administrator only focused on that one.
- Tony said he spoke with Nancy Grace's team afterwards and that's why this part was edited out later on.
- When asked if Seth actually believes the OD theory he evaded the question.
- Seth rebukes people for worrying too much about Chris Proudfoot's ex-wife and other drama.
- Seth talks about his physical search during the first couple of weeks. Goes on to rebuke people "running their mouth". He's venting quite a bit. (IMO he deserves a break here)
- Seth shut down the GoFundMe because of "grief" about it. Said he used the funds for flyers and other things like that. (Fair. I admit to thinking it was more nefarious than what it likely was)
- Seth is being quite genuine during this venting. (I'd hug him, no lie)
- Tony rebukes Pascal's chat.
- Tony talks about how awesome he is, and what a saint he is for helping Seth.
- Seth rebukes soical media vultures. (Even though he's on social media vulture Pascal).
- Tony once again talks about how awesome he is.
- Seth praises Tony for doing whatever he tells him
- Tony rebukes social media vultures, on social media vulture Pascal. Tony says it's okay to make money off of Seth's missing child, and rebukes them, and then says it's okay again. Then rebukes them again.
- Seth says he has no social media and listens to Tony to stay off of YouTube... While he's on YouTube. Seth rebukes someone for commenting on his weight.
- Seth praises his volunteer searchers for putting their health and safety on the line.... Rebukes people that say bad things about him online.
- Seth thanks the parents of the North Carolina boy that was thought to be Sebastian for giving him a few brief days of hope.
- Seth has not seen all the footage the police have. Seth says there is dashcam footage the police have. Evaded all followup questions.
- Tony says he has no idea about dashcam footage
- Tony says neither of them have talked to Seth's mom about her Facebook posts, but they don't blame her. Tony says she is just venting.
- Tony talks about how awesome he is for not blaming Calib's grandmother either. (Another case he worked on)
- Seth apologizes for cutting Tony off, stands up for his mom. Says she's feeling very helpless, and he is too. Rebukes people for sending stuff to his both him and his mom.
- Seth says he obtained Sebastian's CPS file. Says he won't share it, says his attorney told him not to.
- Sumner county has this file. Seth says TBI didn't have it. Seth clarified he has a redacted copy. Says Tony hasn't seen it.
- Tony speaks with authority on it even though Seth said he hadn't seen it.
- Seth rebukes Pascal for prying the issue.
- Something something Church. Seth challenged Pascal to come to the next vigil, Pascal agrees. Let's hold him to that. It's on the 19th!
- Seth says if Sumner Sheriff and TBI won't clear him than they (meaning the Proudfoot's) aren't cleared either. (This is an interesting statement!)
- Pascal than spends the rest of the interview making money from reading superchats priced $5-$50. He made good bank.
My last thought... An hour and 41 minutes. That's how long that live stream was and the majority of it was Seth and Tony addressing drama that Seth and Tony and basically everyone that wasn't the Proudfoot's created (with the possible exception for Chris calling in to Cluemaniti). At no point did the stream put up a picture of Sebastian. At no point did anyone say or show the number for the tip line. At no point did Seth mention what areas his volunteer searches have covered. At no point did Seth outline areas that still need to be searched. At no point did Seth give insight to Sebastian's personality that could help indentify him. If this was the very first thing I'd had seen about this case I'd know all about Seth and Tony and how they feel about things.. but Sebastian would be pretty much a mystery.
2024.05.14 08:09 bbozzay Tech Lockdown Beta released!
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ChatbotWe've integrated an AI chatbot that is trained on all of the information we provide. Content blocking and device management can be overwhelming, but the chatbot will help people get answers to their questions more quickly.Apple Config GeneratorIOS devices can install a file that automatically sets the network settings on the device.https://preview.redd.it/6ej3ursp2c0d1.png?width=422&format=png&auto=webp&s=19984efa0d1d7508e83981e37e685a4534eb436e We released an Apple Config generator that lets you easily generate and install the config that would link to your personal Content Policy. If your iOS device is supervised, you can prevent the profile from being removed. Check it out. Help DocsWith the release of the new platform, we've added a new help section to the website with tutorials. Check it out. |
2024.05.14 07:58 Mildly_Frustrated State of the Sub
Good evening everyone.
We, from the mod team, wanted to briefly address an issue that has recently developed in the sub. Some of you (probably a lot of you, to be quite honest) are undoubtedly aware of the attempt last year to build a Discord server for users of this sub, the intention having been an eventual merger with and officialization by the sub. That would have been, to my mind, a rather interesting project. I want to clarify that I was in no way connected with this effort, nor did I ever participate in the server, meaning that I retained the neutrality and distance from it to deal with the issue in front of us right now. To whit, that server pretty immediately devolved into a morass of issues, including infighting, transphobia, racism, bullying, and ableism. It also, fairly shortly into its existence, became intensely un-democratic and authoritarian on the part of a user who, in essence, performed a hostile takeover of the moderation and ownership of the server. I have, from the point of neutrality, gathered evidence behind these facts. The person in question has, so far, failed to refute these claims.
Now we move to the sticky bit: it is not our tendency to police what happens outside this sub. That would, in a sense, make us vastly undemocratic ourselves. However, as this was a server made up of sub users, intended to become our official server, and as this drama has now reached our shores, we feel that we are sufficiently involved as to warrant action. To that effect, we are banning the aforementioned user. We are also going to be very thorough in removing server-related drama from the sub. At the same time, we also realize that the culmination of the problematic behavior that resulted in a schism, which saw the foundation of a new sun and a split in our membership. If you are part of the group of schismatics we, of course, mean no offense to you. You are welcome to remain here. But we must always, and always will, enforce the rules of this sub. That includes that each of the aforementioned issues are, by themselves, violations. Let alone despicable behavior from anyone claiming to be a leftist.
As ever, we wish each of our users good health and continued safety. We appreciate all of your hard work and hope that it continues to bring us to a just and equal world. Shalom.
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We, from the mod team, wanted to briefly address an issue that has recently developed in the sub. Some of you (probably a lot of you, to be quite honest) are undoubtedly aware of the attempt last year to build a Discord server for users of this sub, the intention having been an eventual merger with and officialization by the sub. That would have been, to my mind, a rather interesting project. I want to clarify that I was in no way connected with this effort, nor did I ever participate in the server, meaning that I retained the neutrality and distance from it to deal with the issue in front of us right now. To whit, that server pretty immediately devolved into a morass of issues, including infighting, transphobia, racism, bullying, and ableism. It also, fairly shortly into its existence, became intensely un-democratic and authoritarian on the part of a user who, in essence, performed a hostile takeover of the moderation and ownership of the server. I have, from the point of neutrality, gathered evidence behind these facts. The person in question has, so far, failed to refute these claims.
Now we move to the sticky bit: it is not our tendency to police what happens outside this sub. That would, in a sense, make us vastly undemocratic ourselves. However, as this was a server made up of sub users, intended to become our official server, and as this drama has now reached our shores, we feel that we are sufficiently involved as to warrant action. To that effect, we are banning the aforementioned user. We are also going to be very thorough in removing server-related drama from the sub. At the same time, we also realize that the culmination of the problematic behavior that resulted in a schism, which saw the foundation of a new sun and a split in our membership. If you are part of the group of schismatics we, of course, mean no offense to you. You are welcome to remain here. But we must always, and always will, enforce the rules of this sub. That includes that each of the aforementioned issues are, by themselves, violations. Let alone despicable behavior from anyone claiming to be a leftist.
As ever, we wish each of our users good health and continued safety. We appreciate all of your hard work and hope that it continues to bring us to a just and equal world. Shalom.
2024.05.14 07:39 Shiv_Sharmaa_ Unlocking the Power of DevSecOps: A Practical Journey
Unveiling DevSecOps – A Hands-on Journey
📅 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬: 22 May (Wed) ⏰ 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞: 8 – 10 PM (IST)
𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐍𝐨𝐰: https://www.infosectrain.com/events/unveiling-devsecops-a-hands-on-journey/
Why DevSecOps Matters:
In the traditional software development lifecycle, security was often an afterthought, addressed only in the final stages. However, this approach is outdated and risky. With the rising frequency and sophistication of cyber threats, security must be ingrained into every stage of development. DevSecOps embodies this philosophy, fostering a culture where security is not just a checkbox but a shared responsibility across teams.
The Hands-on Experience:
Join us as we dive into a hands-on exploration of DevSecOps principles and practices. Through interactive workshops, real-world case studies, and expert-led sessions, you'll gain practical insights into:
➡️ Agenda for the Masterclass
👉 Unlocking Agile Security • Learn How DevSecOps CI/CD Pipelines Transform Development
👉 Defense in Deployment • Safeguarding Your CI/CD Pipeline with DevSecOps Best Practices
👉 From Code to Compliance • Navigating the Intersection of Speed and Security
👉 Building Trust in Every Commit • Ensuring Security Throughout Your CI/CD Pipeline
👉 Join the Revolution • Empower Your Team with DevSecOps for Seamless, Secure Delivery
Join Us:
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the full potential of DevSecOps and take your organization's security posture to new heights. Reserve your spot today and embark on a journey that will redefine the way you approach software development and security.
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📅 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬: 22 May (Wed) ⏰ 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞: 8 – 10 PM (IST)
𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐍𝐨𝐰: https://www.infosectrain.com/events/unveiling-devsecops-a-hands-on-journey/
Introduction:
Welcome to a transformative experience where we embark on a journey through the intricate landscape of DevSecOps. In a rapidly evolving digital world, where innovation and security are paramount, mastering the art of integrating development, security, and operations is no longer an option—it's a necessity. Today, we unveil the secrets, strategies, and practical insights that drive successful DevSecOps implementations.Why DevSecOps Matters:
In the traditional software development lifecycle, security was often an afterthought, addressed only in the final stages. However, this approach is outdated and risky. With the rising frequency and sophistication of cyber threats, security must be ingrained into every stage of development. DevSecOps embodies this philosophy, fostering a culture where security is not just a checkbox but a shared responsibility across teams.
The Hands-on Experience:
Join us as we dive into a hands-on exploration of DevSecOps principles and practices. Through interactive workshops, real-world case studies, and expert-led sessions, you'll gain practical insights into:
➡️ Agenda for the Masterclass
👉 Unlocking Agile Security • Learn How DevSecOps CI/CD Pipelines Transform Development
👉 Defense in Deployment • Safeguarding Your CI/CD Pipeline with DevSecOps Best Practices
👉 From Code to Compliance • Navigating the Intersection of Speed and Security
👉 Building Trust in Every Commit • Ensuring Security Throughout Your CI/CD Pipeline
👉 Join the Revolution • Empower Your Team with DevSecOps for Seamless, Secure Delivery
Join Us:
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the full potential of DevSecOps and take your organization's security posture to new heights. Reserve your spot today and embark on a journey that will redefine the way you approach software development and security.
2024.05.14 07:37 Shiv_Sharmaa_ Unlocking the Power of DevSecOps: A Practical Journey
Unveiling DevSecOps – A Hands-on Journey
📅 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬: 22 May (Wed) ⏰ 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞: 8 – 10 PM (IST)
𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐍𝐨𝐰: https://www.infosectrain.com/events/unveiling-devsecops-a-hands-on-journey/
Why DevSecOps Matters:
In the traditional software development lifecycle, security was often an afterthought, addressed only in the final stages. However, this approach is outdated and risky. With the rising frequency and sophistication of cyber threats, security must be ingrained into every stage of development. DevSecOps embodies this philosophy, fostering a culture where security is not just a checkbox but a shared responsibility across teams.
The Hands-on Experience:
Join us as we dive into a hands-on exploration of DevSecOps principles and practices. Through interactive workshops, real-world case studies, and expert-led sessions, you'll gain practical insights into:
➡️ Agenda for the Masterclass
👉 Unlocking Agile Security • Learn How DevSecOps CI/CD Pipelines Transform Development
👉 Defense in Deployment • Safeguarding Your CI/CD Pipeline with DevSecOps Best Practices
👉 From Code to Compliance • Navigating the Intersection of Speed and Security
👉 Building Trust in Every Commit • Ensuring Security Throughout Your CI/CD Pipeline
👉 Join the Revolution • Empower Your Team with DevSecOps for Seamless, Secure Delivery
Join Us:
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the full potential of DevSecOps and take your organization's security posture to new heights. Reserve your spot today and embark on a journey that will redefine the way you approach software development and security.
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📅 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬: 22 May (Wed) ⏰ 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞: 8 – 10 PM (IST)
𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐍𝐨𝐰: https://www.infosectrain.com/events/unveiling-devsecops-a-hands-on-journey/
Introduction:
Welcome to a transformative experience where we embark on a journey through the intricate landscape of DevSecOps. In a rapidly evolving digital world, where innovation and security are paramount, mastering the art of integrating development, security, and operations is no longer an option—it's a necessity. Today, we unveil the secrets, strategies, and practical insights that drive successful DevSecOps implementations.Why DevSecOps Matters:
In the traditional software development lifecycle, security was often an afterthought, addressed only in the final stages. However, this approach is outdated and risky. With the rising frequency and sophistication of cyber threats, security must be ingrained into every stage of development. DevSecOps embodies this philosophy, fostering a culture where security is not just a checkbox but a shared responsibility across teams.
The Hands-on Experience:
Join us as we dive into a hands-on exploration of DevSecOps principles and practices. Through interactive workshops, real-world case studies, and expert-led sessions, you'll gain practical insights into:
➡️ Agenda for the Masterclass
👉 Unlocking Agile Security • Learn How DevSecOps CI/CD Pipelines Transform Development
👉 Defense in Deployment • Safeguarding Your CI/CD Pipeline with DevSecOps Best Practices
👉 From Code to Compliance • Navigating the Intersection of Speed and Security
👉 Building Trust in Every Commit • Ensuring Security Throughout Your CI/CD Pipeline
👉 Join the Revolution • Empower Your Team with DevSecOps for Seamless, Secure Delivery
Join Us:
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the full potential of DevSecOps and take your organization's security posture to new heights. Reserve your spot today and embark on a journey that will redefine the way you approach software development and security.
2024.05.14 07:31 Shiv_Sharmaa_ Unveiling DevSecOps – A Hands-on Journey
📅 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬: 22 May (Wed) ⏰ 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞: 8 – 10 PM (IST)
𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐍𝐨𝐰: https://www.infosectrain.com/events/unveiling-devsecops-a-hands-on-journey/
Introduction:
Welcome to a transformative experience where we embark on a journey through the intricate landscape of DevSecOps. In a rapidly evolving digital world, where innovation and security are paramount, mastering the art of integrating development, security, and operations is no longer an option—it's a necessity. Today, we unveil the secrets, strategies, and practical insights that drive successful DevSecOps implementations.
Why DevSecOps Matters:
In the traditional software development lifecycle, security was often an afterthought, addressed only in the final stages. However, this approach is outdated and risky. With the rising frequency and sophistication of cyber threats, security must be ingrained into every stage of development. DevSecOps embodies this philosophy, fostering a culture where security is not just a checkbox but a shared responsibility across teams.
The Hands-on Experience:
Join us as we dive into a hands-on exploration of DevSecOps principles and practices. Through interactive workshops, real-world case studies, and expert-led sessions, you'll gain practical insights into:
Who Should Attend:
This event is tailored for professionals across various roles, including developers, security engineers, operations specialists, and anyone passionate about driving innovation while ensuring the highest standards of security. Whether you're a seasoned DevOps practitioner or just starting your journey, there's something here for everyone.
Key Takeaways:
By the end of this event, you'll walk away with:
· Practical strategies for integrating security into every stage of the software development lifecycle.
· Insight into industry best practices and emerging trends in DevSecOps.
· A roadmap for fostering a culture of collaboration, innovation, and security within your organization.
· Hands-on experience with tools and techniques that empower you to build, deploy, and manage secure applications with confidence.
Join Us:
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the full potential of DevSecOps and take your organization's security posture to new heights. Reserve your spot today and embark on a journey that will redefine the way you approach software development and security.
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𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐍𝐨𝐰: https://www.infosectrain.com/events/unveiling-devsecops-a-hands-on-journey/
Introduction:
Welcome to a transformative experience where we embark on a journey through the intricate landscape of DevSecOps. In a rapidly evolving digital world, where innovation and security are paramount, mastering the art of integrating development, security, and operations is no longer an option—it's a necessity. Today, we unveil the secrets, strategies, and practical insights that drive successful DevSecOps implementations.
Why DevSecOps Matters:
In the traditional software development lifecycle, security was often an afterthought, addressed only in the final stages. However, this approach is outdated and risky. With the rising frequency and sophistication of cyber threats, security must be ingrained into every stage of development. DevSecOps embodies this philosophy, fostering a culture where security is not just a checkbox but a shared responsibility across teams.
The Hands-on Experience:
Join us as we dive into a hands-on exploration of DevSecOps principles and practices. Through interactive workshops, real-world case studies, and expert-led sessions, you'll gain practical insights into:
Who Should Attend:
This event is tailored for professionals across various roles, including developers, security engineers, operations specialists, and anyone passionate about driving innovation while ensuring the highest standards of security. Whether you're a seasoned DevOps practitioner or just starting your journey, there's something here for everyone.
Key Takeaways:
By the end of this event, you'll walk away with:
· Practical strategies for integrating security into every stage of the software development lifecycle.
· Insight into industry best practices and emerging trends in DevSecOps.
· A roadmap for fostering a culture of collaboration, innovation, and security within your organization.
· Hands-on experience with tools and techniques that empower you to build, deploy, and manage secure applications with confidence.
Join Us:
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the full potential of DevSecOps and take your organization's security posture to new heights. Reserve your spot today and embark on a journey that will redefine the way you approach software development and security.
2024.05.14 07:26 jamesmnk Surgical Oncologist in Hyderabad Dr Chinnababu
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Introduction:
Meet Dr. Chinnababu Sunkavalli
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A Travel of Brilliance:
Dr. Sunkavalli's Establishment
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Specialization and Expertise
Surgical Precision:
A Affirmation to Fabulousness
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Patient-Centric Thinking:
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Introduction:
Meet Dr. Chinnababu Sunkavalli
Welcome to the world of precision and dominance, where compassionate care meets cutting-edge surgical strategies. Inside the bustling city of Hyderabad, Dr. Chinnababu Sunkavalli stands as a direct of believe for those battling cancer. With a stellar reputation molded through a long time of commitment and determined commitment to calm well-being, Dr. Sunkavalli creates as a veritable light inside the space of surgical oncology.
A Travel of Brilliance:
Dr. Sunkavalli's Establishment
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2024.05.14 07:17 Lollybug3739 Just Thinking Out Loud-Advice Welcome
I have been dating my long-distance boyfriend for almost four months now. I can't remember being this happy and excited in years. He makes me feel safe, welcome, wanted, all the things that I feel I don't often get from my family. We are seriously considering getting married. Yes, I know it is very fast, but my parents were married after only a few months, and have been married almost 30 years.
My boyfriend lives in Germany and I am from the US. I grew up in a religious household, while he does not believe in the Christian God. I personally am not too bothered by this-except for my family. Because we are "uber" religious, I have had numerous talks, chats, and even public confrontations over my even considering dating a non-Christian, much less marrying one. Recently, I received a medical diagnosis completely out of the blue: I went to the ER for a skin infection and walked out with a diagnosis for type 2 diabetes. My entire lifestyle is being uprooted and changed so I can get my health under control. However, this diagnosis has me unsure of where I stand with my faith. I haven't told any of my family that my faith is nearly gone, that I am tired of being a part of the American church anymore. Even my boyfriend, very respectfully of course but still firmly, is telling me that ignoring this issue is not an option.
On the note of public confrontation: I was yelled at (at least voices raised to me) by my grandfather in a public restaurant after I announced to him mine and my boyfriend's intent to hopefully get married. He spouted off saying that he could not congratulate me on a forthcoming marriage when my bf and I would be unequally yoked in a religious sense. It was my fault for telling him, I knew what would happen and I did it anyway. I did not respond to him at all, simply listened, and walked away when he was finished.
My parents are a bit more understanding. Whatever differences we have, or how I feel about them (our relationship can be a little strained at times because of them constantly gone or focused on other things/my siblings), they have spoken to me quite seriously about marrying someone not of my faith. But, my dad has specifically told me that everything I choose, it is on me. They cannot stop me, nor will they try. I'm finally feel like I'm being seen as an adult, maybe not among every single person in my extended family, but I and my family are having fun discussing mine and my bf's plans for our future together.
We have decided that although we are very sure we want to get married, it is incredibly wise to get to know each other better. He is finding a place for me to come live for a little while in Germany, so that I can meet him and his family, and figure out if Germany is a place that I actually COULD live.
We've already been through a couple of really really tough life circumstances in just the few months that we have been together. I've watched us grow, especially myself in ways I never thought possible. He challenges me, yet allows me to be myself, constantly asks for my input on even the smallest things, dotes on me, and just is quite honestly the best person to ever walk into my life.
I don't really know what else to say. If anyone actually sees and reads this, and has questions or comments I'll do my best to answer them. Otherwise, I was just kind of throwing my thoughts out there in the closest relevant space I could find and seeing what would happen. Thank you for your time. :)
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My boyfriend lives in Germany and I am from the US. I grew up in a religious household, while he does not believe in the Christian God. I personally am not too bothered by this-except for my family. Because we are "uber" religious, I have had numerous talks, chats, and even public confrontations over my even considering dating a non-Christian, much less marrying one. Recently, I received a medical diagnosis completely out of the blue: I went to the ER for a skin infection and walked out with a diagnosis for type 2 diabetes. My entire lifestyle is being uprooted and changed so I can get my health under control. However, this diagnosis has me unsure of where I stand with my faith. I haven't told any of my family that my faith is nearly gone, that I am tired of being a part of the American church anymore. Even my boyfriend, very respectfully of course but still firmly, is telling me that ignoring this issue is not an option.
On the note of public confrontation: I was yelled at (at least voices raised to me) by my grandfather in a public restaurant after I announced to him mine and my boyfriend's intent to hopefully get married. He spouted off saying that he could not congratulate me on a forthcoming marriage when my bf and I would be unequally yoked in a religious sense. It was my fault for telling him, I knew what would happen and I did it anyway. I did not respond to him at all, simply listened, and walked away when he was finished.
My parents are a bit more understanding. Whatever differences we have, or how I feel about them (our relationship can be a little strained at times because of them constantly gone or focused on other things/my siblings), they have spoken to me quite seriously about marrying someone not of my faith. But, my dad has specifically told me that everything I choose, it is on me. They cannot stop me, nor will they try. I'm finally feel like I'm being seen as an adult, maybe not among every single person in my extended family, but I and my family are having fun discussing mine and my bf's plans for our future together.
We have decided that although we are very sure we want to get married, it is incredibly wise to get to know each other better. He is finding a place for me to come live for a little while in Germany, so that I can meet him and his family, and figure out if Germany is a place that I actually COULD live.
We've already been through a couple of really really tough life circumstances in just the few months that we have been together. I've watched us grow, especially myself in ways I never thought possible. He challenges me, yet allows me to be myself, constantly asks for my input on even the smallest things, dotes on me, and just is quite honestly the best person to ever walk into my life.
I don't really know what else to say. If anyone actually sees and reads this, and has questions or comments I'll do my best to answer them. Otherwise, I was just kind of throwing my thoughts out there in the closest relevant space I could find and seeing what would happen. Thank you for your time. :)
2024.05.14 07:01 SharkEva My husband says our house will never be mine. How do I move past this?
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Old_Cranberry_2783 posting in elationship_advice
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 12th May 2024
Update - 13th May 2024
My (F25) husband (M30) says our house will never be mine. How do I move past this?
Me and my husband have been married for almost one year, and have been together for 7.
I work a job in media while he works as a therapist of sorts.. we have been living in my inherited home that has been in my family for many years. Over the past few years, we have both agreed the house and the location is just not ideal. With the housing market being what it is, we have sucked it up and continued to live here.
Recently we were offered to purchase my husbands family home. It’s a good house that needs a lot of work but I am confident we can do what we need to for under $15,000 in renovations, so we are planning to move there and begin renovating!
We were both happy and excited until the other day when we were talking about it, out of nowhere he told me “I want you to know this house will never be yours. If we divorce or anything, you will have no right to live there anymore.” And I found this hurtful and odd. This was never a discussion in the years we have lived in our current home. I would never plan on taking his family home if we were to separate, but it felt like a stab to the heart especially when we are trying to have kids.. I told him “it would be a marital asset since I’m paying half the mortgage and half the renovations. I would never fight you for the house but I don’t plan on getting divorced” - this made him very upset. He said he would rather not move in if there’s a chance a judge would determine I had any rights over the home. Was I wrong? How do I move past this with him?
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Ihateyou1975
So from what I understand. It’s a family home BUT you are paying on the mortgage halfsies and paying to renovate? And he said no to you having ownership at all? Then hell nah. He can purchase it on his own. Renovate it on his own. And you keep yours as a backup from this point forward. Rent it out and YOU keep that income.
ZestycloseSky8765
I really hope you don’t sell your home and make contributions to something he straight told you wasn’t yours.
Update - 1 day later
So there was a lot of questions from many people who saw my last post, so I figured I would answer some of them and also update on the situation.
My family home was inherited. There was no mortgage. We paid our bills and taxes evenly between the two of us, and same with any repairs the home needed.
His mother is selling us the house at a $25,000 discount from what she listed it for on the market.
My husband was not on the deed to my family home. This home was not going to be sold. It is a home that has been passed down exclusively to family members at virtually no cost, so a mortgage hasn’t been held on it in many decades. The house would be going to my sister as she is welcoming her second child soon!
Now for the update:
Me and my husband agreed to go to breakfast together this morning since our Mother’s Day plans didn’t start until lunch. At breakfast I brought up the topic of the house we are going to buy. I told him about how the things he said hurt my feelings and made me insecure about where he stands in our marriage.
He told me after seeing his dad lose his family home in a divorce, it was scary to think our kids could possibly lose it if we were to separate. He apologized and told me he never ever thought of getting a divorce, but nobody does until it’s happening. He said he was wrong to say the things he did and that he let anxiety control the way he spoke and it was unfair to me.
We agreed that I would be put on the deed, and agreed to start the process of a postnup agreement for the home among some other things. I addressed feeling like maybe he had a feeling he was going to leave or cheat and that’s why he was so defensive. He felt hurt by that and told me that was his fear when getting married, that he would be cheated on or worse, have kids involved in that mess. I told him I felt the same.
We both agreed the most comfortable we would feel would be us BOTH being on the deed to the home, and getting a postnuptial agreement with an infidelity clause. We are both anxious people and I understand where he was coming from with wanting that. It stung a bit at first that he wanted an infidelity clause but we agreed it would do nothing but benefit us both if either of us were to go beyond our marriage in that way.
So tldr- we are both being put on the deed, we are getting a postnuptial agreement + infidelity clause and we had a very mature and emotional conversation about how we felt. Thank you all for your advice, it gave me a very good idea of what to research before I brought it up to him and we are setting up a meeting with a lawyer to start the process on Monday!
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Jack_F2291
I’m glad that everything seems to have worked out :)
call-me-mama-t
I don’t think you were dramatic at all, you were protecting yourself. Good for you! Since you are newly married, this is a really great lesson for you both. Learn to communicate, turn to each other when you’re upset about something. Meaning don’t go complain about your spouse to friends, you talk to him and figure it out together. Great outcome!
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 12th May 2024
Update - 13th May 2024
My (F25) husband (M30) says our house will never be mine. How do I move past this?
Me and my husband have been married for almost one year, and have been together for 7.
I work a job in media while he works as a therapist of sorts.. we have been living in my inherited home that has been in my family for many years. Over the past few years, we have both agreed the house and the location is just not ideal. With the housing market being what it is, we have sucked it up and continued to live here.
Recently we were offered to purchase my husbands family home. It’s a good house that needs a lot of work but I am confident we can do what we need to for under $15,000 in renovations, so we are planning to move there and begin renovating!
We were both happy and excited until the other day when we were talking about it, out of nowhere he told me “I want you to know this house will never be yours. If we divorce or anything, you will have no right to live there anymore.” And I found this hurtful and odd. This was never a discussion in the years we have lived in our current home. I would never plan on taking his family home if we were to separate, but it felt like a stab to the heart especially when we are trying to have kids.. I told him “it would be a marital asset since I’m paying half the mortgage and half the renovations. I would never fight you for the house but I don’t plan on getting divorced” - this made him very upset. He said he would rather not move in if there’s a chance a judge would determine I had any rights over the home. Was I wrong? How do I move past this with him?
Comments
Ihateyou1975
So from what I understand. It’s a family home BUT you are paying on the mortgage halfsies and paying to renovate? And he said no to you having ownership at all? Then hell nah. He can purchase it on his own. Renovate it on his own. And you keep yours as a backup from this point forward. Rent it out and YOU keep that income.
OOP: This opened my eyes. We are going to definitely have another conversation about how we would go about this purchase.
ZestycloseSky8765
I really hope you don’t sell your home and make contributions to something he straight told you wasn’t yours.
Update - 1 day later
So there was a lot of questions from many people who saw my last post, so I figured I would answer some of them and also update on the situation.
My family home was inherited. There was no mortgage. We paid our bills and taxes evenly between the two of us, and same with any repairs the home needed.
His mother is selling us the house at a $25,000 discount from what she listed it for on the market.
My husband was not on the deed to my family home. This home was not going to be sold. It is a home that has been passed down exclusively to family members at virtually no cost, so a mortgage hasn’t been held on it in many decades. The house would be going to my sister as she is welcoming her second child soon!
Now for the update:
Me and my husband agreed to go to breakfast together this morning since our Mother’s Day plans didn’t start until lunch. At breakfast I brought up the topic of the house we are going to buy. I told him about how the things he said hurt my feelings and made me insecure about where he stands in our marriage.
He told me after seeing his dad lose his family home in a divorce, it was scary to think our kids could possibly lose it if we were to separate. He apologized and told me he never ever thought of getting a divorce, but nobody does until it’s happening. He said he was wrong to say the things he did and that he let anxiety control the way he spoke and it was unfair to me.
We agreed that I would be put on the deed, and agreed to start the process of a postnup agreement for the home among some other things. I addressed feeling like maybe he had a feeling he was going to leave or cheat and that’s why he was so defensive. He felt hurt by that and told me that was his fear when getting married, that he would be cheated on or worse, have kids involved in that mess. I told him I felt the same.
We both agreed the most comfortable we would feel would be us BOTH being on the deed to the home, and getting a postnuptial agreement with an infidelity clause. We are both anxious people and I understand where he was coming from with wanting that. It stung a bit at first that he wanted an infidelity clause but we agreed it would do nothing but benefit us both if either of us were to go beyond our marriage in that way.
So tldr- we are both being put on the deed, we are getting a postnuptial agreement + infidelity clause and we had a very mature and emotional conversation about how we felt. Thank you all for your advice, it gave me a very good idea of what to research before I brought it up to him and we are setting up a meeting with a lawyer to start the process on Monday!
Comments
Jack_F2291
I’m glad that everything seems to have worked out :)
OOP: Very much so! I think I was a bit dramatic about the things he said and he was a bit harsh and not thinking through what he said. It happens to the best of us but my mind is put at ease now thankfully
call-me-mama-t
I don’t think you were dramatic at all, you were protecting yourself. Good for you! Since you are newly married, this is a really great lesson for you both. Learn to communicate, turn to each other when you’re upset about something. Meaning don’t go complain about your spouse to friends, you talk to him and figure it out together. Great outcome!
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
2024.05.14 06:35 Ukrainer_UA 5:11 EEST; The Sun is Rising Over Kyiv on the 811th Day of the Full-Scale Invasion. About the Ukrainian tradition of honoring the departed by sharing food and drink with them.
 | We are Ukraïner, a non-profit media aimed at advocating for the authentic Ukraine - and unexpected geographical discoveries and multiculturalism. submitted by Ukrainer_UA to ukraine [link] [comments] This is an article that was published on May 11th, 2024. It has been condensed for Reddit. _______________________________ Provody, Provodna Nedilia, Hrobky, Mohylky... let us tell you about these holidays and why people celebrate them.Photo: Taras Kovalchuk.In Ukraine you might see small groups of people who gather at cemeteries every Spring, bringing food and strong drinks, setting tables right among the graves, and conversing and praying for a long time. This might seem strange or even uncouth to some, however, this is a longstanding Ukrainian tradition of honoring ancestors. Unfortunately, many perceive it with prejudice or hostility nowadays because there is often a lack of understanding of how this ritual actually took place before various ideologies influenced its interpretation (and the ritual itself). Primarily, this concerns the detrimental impact of the Soviet era, during which this Ukrainian tradition either withered away or degenerated completely. Provody, Provodna Nedilia, Hrobky, Mohylky, also known as Radunytsia (Radonytsia), Didy, Babskyi Velykden—all these are names common in various regions of Ukraine but denote the same thing: the days of honoring departed souls and remembering their lives during a symbolic meal. Ancestor worship has been known since the times of ancient societies: both in matriarchal communities (in Melanesia, Micronesia) and in later patriarchal societies. Ancient Greeks, Romans, and Slavs also had such traditions. Origins of the Ukrainian TraditionDuring the early times of Rus, tradition of Radonytsia was known to already exist and it was closely linked with ancestor worship. Its roots trace back to the era of paganism and the word literally means "solemn days." Ancient Slavs referred to Radonytsia or "spring joy" as a whole cycle of spring holidays dedicated to commemorating the dead. When Christianity was adopted, the celebration condensed into a single day—the second Sunday after Easter. According to ancient folk beliefs, the dead rejoice when their living relatives remember them fondly and tend to their graves.According to Ukrainian folk beliefs, the annual commemorations of relatives during the spring awakening of nature symbolized the infinity of the life cycle and the inclusion of people who had passed away into this cycle. After the adoption of Christianity, Orthodox clergy initially condemned all such holidays, including Provody (the common name given by the church), considering them pagan rituals, and called for the eradication of this custom. However, such powerful archetypal traditions are impossible to erradicate, so they remained, albeit transformed into various forms and manifestations. For example, in addition to Provody, honoring the dead found expression in the following holidays: Winter
Photo. Luchka Village, Poltava region, 1960s. Photo from the family archive of Oleksandr Liutyi. The first known written mention of commemorating relatives in the second week after Easter is recorded in the Chronicles of Rus from 1372. Throughout the ages, addressing ancestors and/or honoring them was fundamental for Ukrainians, shaping their identity and influencing various aspects of life, including spirituality. Thematic holidays and rituals existed in all Ukrainian regions, so the stereotype that this is a Soviet relic or lacks cultural taste is fallacious, as the connection with ancestors provides an answer to the question "who are we?" Before Provody, on the Thursday of Holy Week, it is customary to visit the cemetery to tidy up the graves of relatives—pull out weeds, tidy or update plaques, plant new flowers. Therefore, this day is sometimes called the “Mavka’s Easter” or "Easter for the Dead" because it was believed that on this day the news of Easter reached the afterlife, and the dead joined the celebration with the living. Photo: Taras Kovalchuk. Memorial event after EasterIn simplified terms, Hrobky, Provody, Mohylky, etc., are a way to commemorate the dead loved ones, sharing a meal with them, so to speak. Therefore, in addition to the usual food for daily consumption, special food with ritual significance is prepared. This includes consecrated bread and kolyva. Kolyva among Slavic peoples, including Ukrainians, refers to a memorial kutia made from grains with a sweet syrup. The name of this dish originates from the ancient custom of offering grain and fruits during memorial ceremonies, which in Ancient Greek was called "kolluba" (in Byzantine pronunciation — "kollyva").The recipe for memorial kutia may overlap with the recipe for Christmas kutia, but the former is usually less sweet. Traditionally, kolyva is made from boiled wheat, but nowadays it can be made from rice, with the addition of raisins, nuts and sometimes candy-coated seeds or nuts. The porridge is poured over with water mixed with honey or sugar. The use of grain in kolyva symbolizes the continuation of the family line, while honey was believed to cleanse from sins. Of course, the recipe may vary slightly depending on the region. For example, in the Dnipro region, instead of grains, people traditionally use slices of white bread soaked in syrup. Kolyva is usually eaten with a single shared spoon, just as a symbolic amount of alcohol is drank from a single glass. The leftover memorial kutia is intended as food for the dead, as if they were visiting the living during the meal. Ethnographer Dmytro Zelenin noted that according to the beliefs of Eastern Slavs, "the dead has all the same needs as a living person, especially the need for food." Photo: Taras Kovalchuk. Our ancestors believed that sharing a meal with the souls of the dead granted them eternal peace. And for the living, it served as a reminder not only of the cycle, transience, and cyclical nature of life but also strengthened the family through this connection with their ancestors. During the meal, proverbs were recited: "They lie down to rest—holding up the land, while we walk—waking up the land," "Let us be healthy, and let them rest easy." The script of the event in various regions of Ukraine was and sometimes remains more or less constant: first, the priest performs the solemn liturgical service, then the families gathered at the cemetery sit down to commemorate the dead with the food and drinks. The memorial meal begins with a collective prayer. In the Polissia region, for example, there is a tradition of sprinkling the graves with blessed eggs, and in some regions, it was customary to sing spiritual songs. During the pre-Soviet period, significantly more food was traditionally consumed during these memorial days than nowadays. Dishes like kulish, cabbage soup, peas with smoked meat, pork liver, bread, creppes with various fillings, dumplings, pies, knyshi (a type of bread), stuffed cabbage rolls, fried fish, and more were prepared specifically for the event. Special bread called paska and kutia were also made. Interestingly, the meals were either eaten at tables set in advance or on blankets spread out on the grass. In the 1970s, tables and benches began to be universally installed, one for each family. This allowed living relatives to share the memorial meal in close proximity to the dead. In addition to food, drinks, including alcoholic beverages, were also brought to the graves. However, this should not be equated with a regular feast, as everything had a ritual significance. For example, a symbolic shot of horilka was passed around in a circle among those present so that everyone could take a sip "for the Kingdom of Heaven" and for the repose of the dead. It is noteworthy that the glasses were only raised, not clinked, as this was strictly forbidden at memorial gatherings. If the table was large and many people gathered around it, there were two such shots, but no more. The reason for this restrained feast near the graves was simple— it was believed that a loud celebration could scare the souls of the dead, who, according to folk beliefs, were present there. People didn't sing, they spoke quietly and solemnly. Toasts were not proposed; instead, they said phrases like "[Name] eat, drink, rest, and wait for us!"; "Eat, drink, and remember us, sinners!"; "May you await the Kingdom of Heaven, and may we not hurry to join you!"; "May the earth be soft!"; "Let's drink to the Kingdom of Heaven for our (Ivan, Olha, etc.)!" Photo. Luchka village, Poltava Region, 1960s. Photo from the family archive of Oleksandr Liutyi. In addition to dishes for the common table, people would always prepare dishes for the dead that they particularly enjoyed in life. After the meal, a portion of these dishes, some kutia, and sometimes even horilka were left at the grave, and the earth was sprinkled with this strong drink. Such memorial gatherings often invited passersby and the poor. Leftover food was distributed to those who couldn't attend, with a request to eat or drink "in memory of the souls." Photo. Engraving from 1877 based on a drawing by Kostiantyn Trutovskyi. Source: \"Vsesvitnia Ilustratsiia\" magazine, volume 17. In the church dictionary of 1773, there is mention of such a custom: — On Radonytsia, it was a common practice among the common folk to remember their deceased relatives with pagan rituals, and whoever remembered them brought sweetened wine, pies, crepes to the grave. After performing prayers the priest would take a cup of wine or a glass of beer, and poured out most of it onto the grave and drank the rest themselves; at the same time, women would lament the good deeds of the deceased with tearful voices...Photo: Yuriy Stefanyak. All this once again prompts us to think that cemeteries are not only about personal stories but also about the life of a whole nation. That is why it is important to take care of preserving cemeteries and rediscovering authentic traditions. During the full-scale war, this is more relevant than ever, as russia is making daily efforts to destroy not only the Ukrainian nation but also any memory of it. Unfortunately, many Ukrainians currently cannot even visit the graves of their relatives because they are buried in occupied territories; many villages, towns, and even cities are destroyed, so there is nowhere to come to remember. Every piece of native land becomes more precious, the value of each life becomes sharper, and the importance of memory becomes more significant. _______________________________ The 784th day of a nine year invasion that has been going on for centuries. One day closer to victory. 🇺🇦 HEROYAM SLAVA! 🇺🇦 |
2024.05.14 06:29 Gregory-Toothface How to be better at communicating with my gay friends about gay things?
I have three really close friends: one identifies as queer, and two are lesbians. And our friend group has expanded in the last few months and there are more people who identify as queer and/or transgender in it. I like to think I'm an ally and that I can rock with them, but in reality, I keep saying stupid things like I have my foot in my mouth.
I just feel like everything I say is wrong. Some things that have been mentioned that have left the air a little tense include:
I think these are my reasons for feeling uncomfortable/self-conscious:
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I just feel like everything I say is wrong. Some things that have been mentioned that have left the air a little tense include:
- After watching the movie challengers, which I LOVED, I said "hey I liked that, it wasn't like 'here's one gay guy and here's another and they're super gay' it was... nuanced". My friend just said "oh okay well, that would have been fine too"
- One of my friends talked about the difficulties of being trans and I just did not know what to say to support her. She was talking about how hard it is to express herself when she's not with friends, and I empathized with her as best as I could and said I was sorry it was so hard. But I didn't have anything else to say and I felt like I should have been able to say more.
- Like two years ago, I told my friends that I'm bisexual, and now when I think about it and when it comes down to it, even though I am sexually attracted to women, really honestly I think I want to start a family with a man. I haven't said this part to my friends. But they know this anyway. They're like "yeah Gregory Toothface is straight." And they're not necessarily wrong, but at the same time I just feel suuuper lame for saying I'm one thing and then going back on it (or just choosing the conventional path, especially when they aren't choosing the conventional path, or feel like it's off limits because they're not welcome on the conventional path). I just don't feel like I can talk to them about it.
- My sibling is trans and he is a minor and hasn't come out to our parents yet. My friends know this and call him by the name he's chosen and use he/him pronouns. But I have to use she/her around our parents, and I cannot fuck that up by saying he/him around our parents, so I default to she/her, and sometimes use she/her around my friends by accident, and then it sounds like I'm misgendering him. But it's really not intentional. I explained this to them already, but I feel like if I say that every time I slip up, that's annoying, but maybe that's what I should be doing?
I think these are my reasons for feeling uncomfortable/self-conscious:
- It feels really vulnerable to bring up someone's sexuality to them and ask them questions about it
- I am slightly in love with one of these three friends in a romantic way and they're not interested in me like that, and I am trying to move on from my feelings for them. I know they know, and we don't talk about it. The only thing they said was "Gregory, you know we're best friends, right?" And that was that. I already act a goofy buffoon who hasn't spoken to a human before when I'm around them. It feels like the last thing I can do to talk about their sexuality and gender because it literally makes me want to kiss them on the mouth.
- I worry that I'm just going to keep saying wrong things and dig myself into a hole
- I do not have a great vocabulary and I regularly feel like what I say does not match what I think in my head. I'm actively working on expressing my thoughts better through weekly therapy and then in conversation, but it's hard for me to do this still with sexuality and gender.
2024.05.14 06:26 AverageSign AITA For scaring an elderly woman with the thought of eternal damnation?
So, when I was younger, I used to work at an assisted living facility as a cook. There was this one woman, who I don't remember the name of, so we'll call her "Judy". Judy was INCREDIBLY mean; a huge narcissist, acted as if she owned the place, and was just an all around bully. But, she had slight dementia, but high-functioning . Not a single employee, aid to manager, liked her, but they kept her around because she was a huge contributor to the facility's income. How we knew she was a terrible person is because she was extremely two-faced. She went to church every week, claiming it "helped" her (she was going because she thought she could be welcomed into the golden gates from showing up to the big man's house.) She mainly targeted me; insulting my cooking, gossiping about me when she thought I wasn't listening, and always yelling at me for not wearing a hair net, even though (A.) My head was shaved. And (B.) She didn't bat an eye when the other cooks didn't wear one.
Eventually, I found a better job, and I put in my two-weeks notice. It soon became common knowledge throughout the facility. When I clocked out for the final time, Judy said "Goodbye and good riddance, kid." I was SO fed up with this woman, I went RIGHT up to her and said, "Tell me something. Do you go to church?" She obviously said yes. "Why?" Because it helps her. "So you believe that God just let's ANYBODY who goes to church into heaven?" She pauses and gives me a forced confused look. "Do you think God LIKES it when people are completely horrible outside his house, and then show up to it just because they think they're gonna go to heaven doing so? Do you think you can hide from the all-seeing eye? Do you think he doesn't see what you're doing? Do you think he'll be happy with what you did? Do you think intentionally trying to deceive someone is okay? Do you think doing that to GOD for DECADES won't piss him off? Because if there's one thing you shouldn't do to the guy who can send you straight down to Hell and not lose a bit of sleep over it, it's PISS HIM OFF. Because they way I see it, and the way he DEFINITELY sees it, there's a list of names written in lava rock of people going to the fiery pits for eternity. . ." I lean in for the effect. "And yours could be written on it. . ." Judy's eyes were wide open, and she actually shed a single tear. I didn't get in trouble at all due to the fact that I was no longer employed there after I clocked out.
Now that I'm older, I've been conflicted about what I did. She was an awful person for decades, but she had dementia and was living in an assisted living facility. So, Am I the Asshole?
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Eventually, I found a better job, and I put in my two-weeks notice. It soon became common knowledge throughout the facility. When I clocked out for the final time, Judy said "Goodbye and good riddance, kid." I was SO fed up with this woman, I went RIGHT up to her and said, "Tell me something. Do you go to church?" She obviously said yes. "Why?" Because it helps her. "So you believe that God just let's ANYBODY who goes to church into heaven?" She pauses and gives me a forced confused look. "Do you think God LIKES it when people are completely horrible outside his house, and then show up to it just because they think they're gonna go to heaven doing so? Do you think you can hide from the all-seeing eye? Do you think he doesn't see what you're doing? Do you think he'll be happy with what you did? Do you think intentionally trying to deceive someone is okay? Do you think doing that to GOD for DECADES won't piss him off? Because if there's one thing you shouldn't do to the guy who can send you straight down to Hell and not lose a bit of sleep over it, it's PISS HIM OFF. Because they way I see it, and the way he DEFINITELY sees it, there's a list of names written in lava rock of people going to the fiery pits for eternity. . ." I lean in for the effect. "And yours could be written on it. . ." Judy's eyes were wide open, and she actually shed a single tear. I didn't get in trouble at all due to the fact that I was no longer employed there after I clocked out.
Now that I'm older, I've been conflicted about what I did. She was an awful person for decades, but she had dementia and was living in an assisted living facility. So, Am I the Asshole?
2024.05.14 06:14 alexgtrick My religious trauma has left me with lifelong anxiety
I remember being 4 and 5 years old in my southern Baptist church kindergarten class and being told that Jesus was coming back or I could die at any second, so I better not sin and to accept Jesus into my heart so I didn’t burn in hell. I remember being absolutely terrified of the idea that Jesus could come back at any moment. I remember being so scared looking out the window thinking it could happen at any minute. There was just always a feeling of impending doom.
My first panic attack happened when I was about 6 or 7 at VBS. We were in a small dark room and I don’t know why on earth the lesson involved this but the teacher said “if this building collapsed and you died right now, would you go to heaven?” I remember so clearly the teacher saying that and I was trying to cover my ears and I ran out and burst into tears and started having a panic attack.
It didn’t help that I also had a religious nut teacher in the second grade that would tell us basically everyday the world was ending and would read us insane articles about “proof” that it was about to end.
So basically my whole young childhood was very heavily focused on the fact that the world was going to end or you could die any minute so you must be ready for heaven.
And I know that’s what has caused such a deep seated anxiety in me all my life. It’s like my fight or flight mode always stays activated. I remember starting to dissociate from a very young age. I remember telling my mom I didn’t feel like I was connected to my body when I was so young.
I wouldn’t say I’m anti-religious now. I would like to believe in a higher power but I am terrified of churches. I remember being so scared of what the sermon would be about every time we went. I remember that constant fear that everything could end at any second.
Late 20s now and have tried to control with meds several times over the years but haven’t found one that’s worked for me. I feel like I really need therapy for this. That “doom” feeling has stayed with me my entire life in my best moments no matter how hard I try to bury it. It also hurts that my childhood was so full of fear. I wish I could hug my younger self and tell her to be happy and not afraid and that it would be okay.
This was mostly me venting since I’ve never really fully unpacked this but does anyone gave experience with this?
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My first panic attack happened when I was about 6 or 7 at VBS. We were in a small dark room and I don’t know why on earth the lesson involved this but the teacher said “if this building collapsed and you died right now, would you go to heaven?” I remember so clearly the teacher saying that and I was trying to cover my ears and I ran out and burst into tears and started having a panic attack.
It didn’t help that I also had a religious nut teacher in the second grade that would tell us basically everyday the world was ending and would read us insane articles about “proof” that it was about to end.
So basically my whole young childhood was very heavily focused on the fact that the world was going to end or you could die any minute so you must be ready for heaven.
And I know that’s what has caused such a deep seated anxiety in me all my life. It’s like my fight or flight mode always stays activated. I remember starting to dissociate from a very young age. I remember telling my mom I didn’t feel like I was connected to my body when I was so young.
I wouldn’t say I’m anti-religious now. I would like to believe in a higher power but I am terrified of churches. I remember being so scared of what the sermon would be about every time we went. I remember that constant fear that everything could end at any second.
Late 20s now and have tried to control with meds several times over the years but haven’t found one that’s worked for me. I feel like I really need therapy for this. That “doom” feeling has stayed with me my entire life in my best moments no matter how hard I try to bury it. It also hurts that my childhood was so full of fear. I wish I could hug my younger self and tell her to be happy and not afraid and that it would be okay.
This was mostly me venting since I’ve never really fully unpacked this but does anyone gave experience with this?
2024.05.14 06:00 Choice_Evidence1983 [New Update]: My family forgot to invite me to my grandparents funeral, but they are convinced I was there.
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[New Update]: My family forgot to invite me to my grandparents funeral, but they are convinced I was there.
Trigger Warnings: death of loved ones, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, harassment
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Original Post: November 14, 2023**
I’m 30s F and caused a major blowup in my family and now none of them are talking to me. For background, my hometown is tiny (500pop) and when I went 2 hrs away to “the city” (15,000pop) for college, I loved it. I ended up staying after graduation, got married, and am happy here for a decade. I visit my home town every few weeks or so, call/text my family near daily, and thought we were all good. My family’s pretty small. Just my brother, mom, step dad, dad, step mom, and an aunt and uncle (mom’s siblings, never married, no kids). My mother's grandparents moved to my home town when I was in high school and were just down the street from us. My family has always been pretty drama free (aside from my parent’s divorce when I was a kid) and we’ve been happy. The step-parents were blended in perfectly and we share holidays and celebrations together. We’re all super close and just the perfect little group.
Ever since I moved away, the topic of “when am I moving back?” is constant, and I’ve always laughed it off. My home town has nothing. You have to drive 30 minutes for milk and bread. 60-90 minute one-way commutes to work. And floods shut down the main road every Easter. I love the town, but I love here more. I have parks, stores, community events, a library! The “city” is great. My family grumbles that I need to move back, but I refuse. I've been trying to encourage them to come here, especially since it's not an hour drive to the nearest medical facility.
Now to the meat and potatoes: both my grandparents passed over COVID times. They were both old and their health had been failing for a while so it was only a matter of time. Thankfully they didn’t catch it, but it made visiting them impossible and we survived mostly through FaceTime. They both passed in their sleep months apart. Both were cremated and kept securely under the kitchen sink for safe keeping while the pandemic blew over. That was 2021.
Well, I just found out my family held a funeral for them and scattered the ashes in my uncle’s maple grove over the summer. No one said a word to me about it. I’ve visited numerous times before and after and not one word. I only found out because my great uncle from California posted on Facebook a few weeks ago that he is entering hospice and was so thankful his health stayed strong enough for him to see his little sister (my grandma) to her final resting place. I was confused and called my mom. She was all “Yeah, the funeral we had in July, remember?” Ya’ll, I visited them for the 4th of July. They did the funeral the 8th. Not a word about it to me. They had planned this for months. Long enough to arrange for my infirm great uncle to be brought over from the other side of the country. Apparently, they talked about it “all the time”.
Everyone is convinced I was at the funeral. They SWEAR I was there. I can prove I wasn’t because Google’s got my location history. My hubby is baffled because he was supposedly there, too, but he had to work every weekend in June and July. Time clock doesn’t lie. My family straight up forgot about me. I’m hurt. I’m sad. And they’re pissed at me “for lying”. They think I’m causing drama over nothing. Nothing I say can convince them I wasn’t there. My family is united in this. And they’ve all put me “on read” until I admit I’m wrong. They think I’ve gone nuts. Either there’s a doppelganger of me attending events, or my family doesn’t want to admit they screwed up. I’m not backing down.
Thanksgiving is coming up, and my family’s been vague posting on Facebook about “forgetful kids” and mental health. It’s so freaking weird and I don’t know if I’m in bizzaro world or what’s going on. My mom’s best friend reached out and said I should just admit I was wrong and apologize, that I’m causing my mom so much unnecessary stress. I asked her if she’s checked everyone’s home for CO2. She hung up on me. (We checked our CO2, and our testers are running just fine.) I have reached out to a few people in my home town to check in on my folks, and they all say they're fine. I even spoke with the local volunteer fire fighter group to see if they could check for gas leaks. Not sure if they were able to.
I don’t know what to do. I’ve shown them the proof I wasn’t there, but they know I’m tech savvy and just assume I’ve Photoshopped it. Hubby says we need a break, and we’re going to be staying home this holiday season.
Edit: I don't know the update rules, so I'll post updates to my profile should anyone want them.
Update #1: November 27, 2023
Not sure how to do updates on posts, so figured I'd post anything on my profile. Folks have private messaged me and this will be easier I think?
It's 11/27 and Thanksgiving just happened. Hubby and I stayed home. We got a small turkey and made our own little thanksgiving. It was nice. We ate around noon, then watched a movie, and later sat outside with a bottle of wine to watch the sun set behind the trees and neighbor houses.
We usually take the day before off, drive to my folks, stay the night, and help with the Thanksgiving Day cooking. So it wasn't until Wednesday night that my mom broke the silence. Mom called and asked when I was showing up, and I told her we were staying home this year, but for them to have a happy Thanksgiving, and to give the rest of the family my love. She was quiet for a long time after I said that, and I think she eventually mumbled an "okay", or something, and hung up. It wasn't an angry hang up. Just a hang up. On Thanksgiving day, I sent a group "Happy Thanksgiving!" gif to our family group chat. I received a few "happy Thanksgiving"'s back. No one's said anything else. There's been no posts on Facebook.
Update #2: December 12, 2023
So, I think I mentioned in one of my comments that my dad and I usually talk on the phone every Sunday morning. We're both early risers so we'd chat over our morning coffees and watch the sunrise. Him and I haven't really spoken since this all went down and it's been tough. I'm used to talking to him, you know?
Well, I was sitting outside in my usual spot, watching the sun rise and freezing my butt off, and he called me. I'm not entirely sure how to describe the emotions I felt. It was a mix of panic, hope, terror, happiness, and dread. I ended up answering because I just had to know what he wanted. It was an awkward conversation. He didn't address the current "drama", but instead tiptoed around the situation with all the grace of an cow on stilts. For instance, a simple "How are you doing?" Type question was answered with a "Not good." And the whole conversation would stall out for a bit because he knew why I wasn't doing well. So we ended up talking about the weather, the various winter birds we'd seen in our feeders, and the Christmas decorations around town. Things like that.
Eventually he asked if we were coming out for Christmas, and sounded sad when I told him we weren't. He asked if him and step mom could come visit us instead, and I told him it wasn't a good idea this year. That hubby and I were going to spend a quiet holiday together. I let him know he should be receiving some gifts at his PO Box any day now, so to please pick them up from the post office and put them under the family tree for everyone. He said he'd ship ours to us as well.
And that was pretty much it. No crazy drama to report. The only posts on Facebook have been the usual Christmas excitement ones, countdowns, photos of Santa, silly gift ideas, photos of company Christmas parties.
On a personal note: Hubby and I are doing alright. Our health is good, our spirits high, and we're as solid as ever. We each got Christmas bonus' at our jobs, so we're excited about that. They're not large, but we're happy to have them. We have also done advent calendars for the first time ever. I got him a Lego one, and he got me a hot chocolate one. We're going to do the calendars again next year. Maybe make a tradition out of it.
Everyone please have a safe and happy holidays.
Inheritance: December 16, 2023
I've received a lot - A LOT - of messages and private DMs urging me to check into inheritance and such. I'm really touched a lot of Internet strangers are worried about me and I wanted to ensure everyone that inheritance is most likely not an issue here. I'd almost be relieved if it was, because then it would at least make some sense. Money does weird things to people, you know?
No one in my family is wealthy by any means. After my grandparents' passed, their small estate was used to pay for their end of life expenses and remaining assets split up. Everyone directly related got an equal split (so excluded my dad and the step parents). I don't remember the exact amount I received, but it was around $5k if I recall. My brother gave me his share, too, so I could finish paying off my college debt while the interest freeze was active.
The great uncle from California has kids and grand kids, and great grandkids of his own, and also isn't wealthy. I think one of his kids makes good money doing something in finance, but I'm not entirely sure. I can't imagine he left us anything, as we hardly knew him. My mom, aunt, and uncle only met him a few times in their lives, and my brother and I even less. Grandma and him were close, but I don't think he liked my grandpa much.
Christmas: December 25, 2023
I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. I've received a lot of support through my posts and I'm really grateful. Writing these updates have had a therapeutic effect.
Yesterday was Sunday, but I didn't answer my dad when he called. I just really didn't feel up to a pointless chat, so let it go to voicemail. He tried to reach me a few times throughout the day, but I didn't answer.
Our bestie last minute invited us over to his house for Christmas day lunch (today), so husband and I were busy all Christmas Eve making cookies, peanut brittle, and homemade suckers/hard candies for his kids. Mom tried to reach out as well, but I also ignored her calls.
We had a BLAST at lunch! Our friend's kids are a lot of fun to be around. They got some techy presents from their grandparents (Quest vr headset and steam decks, lucky little rascals) Friend and his wife aren't good with tech, while hubby and I are, so we helped get them set up while our friend played a good host to his folks and inlaws. The grandparents didn't realize that a Steam deck required a Steam account, so we got the kids all their own accounts set up, added them to our steam friends lists, and gifted them some games. We also bought them a few VR games for their headset, and they were off to the races with Beat Saber in no time.
As for my folks: My brother texted and asked if we could talk sometime tomorrow. I think me ignoring mom and dad has caused some kind of upset. Which they deserve.
Brother’s call: December 26, 2023
Spoke with my brother over the phone this morning.
For starters, he apologized for everything. Him and I are good (for now). For a bit of background, my brother and I are only 2 years apart. There weren't a lot of kids around growing up, so the two of us were often stuck doing stuff together. So we have a lot of shared interests and passions. He's been pretty silent on this whole matter, but still "part of the group", if you know what I mean. I think the thought of losing him out of my life was probably the most painful, because he's always been there. He was my rock until I met my husband. He's definitely a Mama's boy, though, so anything mom wanted, he made sure she got. I'm happy to have him back.
Without further ado, here's the story from the horse's mouth:
Mom apparently had a cancer scare late last year (which no one told me about, go figure), and dad had a stint put in his heart back in January (which I did know about). This "sense of mortality" has apparently lit a fire under Mom's ass to get me back home. But since I wasn't reacting to her passive aggressive hinting, she and step mom decided to go full crazy. My great uncle's health was bad, and he'd been asking about funeral arrangements for his sister (my grandma) for a while, so the moms decided to plan it. And use the event as a giant middle finger to me. They kept all the planning pretty hush-hush between the two of them, so no one on our side of the family actually knew about the funeral until like 2 weeks before. The moms said they'd invited hubby and I. No one thought anything about it. No one thought to mention, confirm, or check with me.
The plan was to scatter the ashes, say a few words, and maybe head to town for lunch. It was a small affair. The mom's didn't even tell the family that our great uncle was coming for it. Like I said, it was a small thing. Barely a footnote. No one thought it was odd because we're pretty chill people.
4th of July happens. Hubby and I are out. No one thought to mention it, as we were all busy celebrating and having a great time. Any time the topic of "this weekend" would start, the conversation would be quickly shifted by one of the moms. We went back home.
8th of July happens. Great uncle rolls into town with a few of his kids, grandkids, and great grandkids, and it's a surprise to everyone (but the moms). Everyone drives to the maple grove and the moms have brought a ton of food and stuff. It's a full blown party. No one on my side noticed I wasn't there, because there were so many extra faces outside the usual group. They did the spreading of the ashes, they said their words, they ate, they had a great time. It wasn't until our great uncle left, and all his side left with him, that they realized I wasn't there. And hadn't been there.
And this is where the crazy went up a notch. My brother says the moms were happy no one noticed I wasn't there. And that this was proof to everyone that I needed to move back because I was so easily forgotten about. Because none of them thought to reach out, right? They basically did a ton of guilt tripping manipulation bullshit and it made everyone upset at me for not showing up. Somehow it was my fault for being excluded. So suddenly everyone was on their side with "sticking it to me".
But then a few months went by, and tempers cooled, and then I guess the horror of it set in. Followed by the shame, but by then they were "in too deep". How do you undo something like this? And since I hadn't brought it up, I guess they figured they would all just stay quiet about it and hope I never asked about a funeral.
That's when I discovered the situation from my great uncle's Facebook and called my mom, who panicked and went with the stupidest solution. Claiming I was there. Don't I remember?
I ended up talking with a few friends from high school, mentioning the situation, and word got back to those in town. So suddenly town gossip and little old church ladies got involved. Was I, or wasn't I at the funeral? Did my family forget to invite me to the funeral of the only grandparents I'd ever know? Or am I just causing a ruckus? My brother said they all just went with mom's answer. Of course they wouldn't forget me. Of course I was there. Of course they're good people. And it just snowballed.
The family expected me to eventually fold. I'm usually a nonconfrontational person, so me sticking to my guns was unexpected. And then I missed Thanksgiving. And now Christmas. With no sign of backing down. And I guess the realization that I could just stop being part of their lives is setting in and my parents are panicking. He's tried just getting them to apologize and explain, but stubbornness prevails. They want to rug sweep, but I'm not letting them.
My brother is upset with everything that's happened. He's realized just how crappy it all has been and he wants nothing to do with it anymore. But since he lives with my mom, he can't "get away from it".
He has asked if he can come stay with us for a little bit. I spoke with hubby, and he's in agreement with me that my brother can come crash in our spare bedroom for as long as he wants. Brother works remotely, so it's no trouble for him to pick up and go. I believe he's making the trip today or tomorrow. Not entirely sure, but I expect crap to hit the fan when he arrives.
On a side note, hubby's stoked that my brother and I made up. The two usually game together, but haven't due to "the situation". He's downstairs right now setting up his man cave in preparation for my brother's arrival. I'm happy to see him so excited.
Brother's Here: December 27, 2023
My brother rolled in late last night. He'd obviously been crying and when I opened the door, he just held me and sobbed. I'd never seen him like that before and soon both of us were just standing in the doorway crying into one another. He kept apologizing. Over and over again. Said he wasn't sure why he went with it. Just kept saying sorry. Hubby got him all set up in the spare bedroom while brother and I talked. My brother's a wreck. He's always been a big guy, but he's lost a lot of weight and his clothes just hang off him. If I didn't know better, I'd think he was on drugs. We talked for a little bit before bed and he re-explained everything for my husband. I'd told hubby the story, but it was just so weird that hearing it again helped.
This morning my brother was up at dawn making some coffee and getting his work day going. Hubby's off all week (lucky) so hubby made us working folk some pancakes and bacon. So far everything's peaceful. We've decided not to answer any calls from our family. They've been made aware that he arrived safely, and that we are going to spend the New Years together, and that we're not answering any calls until January 1st. They may text if they wish. I'm sure they're losing their minds. Serves them right.
Everyone, have a safe and happy new years! Don't drink and drive!
Happy 2024!: January 2, 2024
I hope everyone has a safe and enjoyable holidays, and may the new year be full of joy and happiness!
Not too much of an update. Things here have been quiet. My brother's settled in nicely and he's a great housemate. Our place isn't very big, but we have full basement and a nice outside patio/porch area so it doesn't feel crowded at all with the extra addition. He's a quiet and clean guy. No hassle at all. He got some fresh clothes from the Walmart, a haircut, and trimmed his beard, so he's more "presentable" now. He's a lady killer when he gets cleaned up. He's made nice with the (very nosy, but kind) retired couple next door and is adapting to "city living" nicely.
Folks back home have been mostly well behaved. There's been a few texts back and forth, as we're not answering calls. Mom mainly wants to know when brother's coming back, but he's keen on staying here for a while. Mom said I can't "keep him" and I told her he's a grown ass man and can do what he wants. Brother says he has her blocked after she ORDERED him to return home.
Brother has tentatively asked if he could stay long term, should he decide to, or at least longer than a usual visitor would stay. Which we're fine with. He has a good paying job and could afford an apartment, but he's never lived on his own and I would guess he has some anxiety about it. Should that be the case, he'll start paying us some rent and we'd probably adjust to give him the basement as his own space.
Had to change the locks: January 17, 2024
My brother is officially staying with us for the long haul. Hubby and him spent all Sunday organizing the basement and shifting things around so he now has his own area to be comfortable in. He's pretty handy and has also started fixing little things around our house. Our windows and doors have never closed and locked/unlocked smoother. He even fixed one of the closets we never use because we can never get the darn door open. Sadly, he also had to change the locks on our house and get us all new keys.
This is because while hubby and I were out this Saturday, the moms showed up. They'd been calling and texting us all week, but we weren't really answering them, so I guess the two decided to drive over and hash it out in person. They have emergency keys to my place, and just let themselves in. Brother told them to leave, they argued, and my nosy (but kind) neighbors called the police when they noticed the commotion. So, we get a call from neighbor's wife, return home to some cops in our yard, all the neighbors out "vacuuming their trees", and my nosy (but kind) neighbors standing on my porch with my brother behind them, doing their best Gandalf "You shall not pass" impression.
Had to talk with the cops, explain that we were having a family dispute and word vomited. I don't really remember what all I said, and was shaking a lot. Our local cops are really great. Fantastic guys and gals in blue, and took it all in stride. It's really cold here, so one had me join him in his cruiser with the heat on, and gave me a bottle of water to calm down while we talked. They asked if we wanted the moms trespassed but I wasn't sure if that counted as a criminal charge so just asked the cops if they could just make them leave, which the cops did with no fuss. I think the moms were shocked we were taking this so seriously. They didn't fight or scream at us. Just left quietly.
My dad promised me he'd make sure his wife left us alone. "Or else". He said he'd also have a stern talk with my mom. Him and I talked Sunday morning, and he seemed absolutely at the end of his rope. Husband jokingly told my dad he could move in, too. To which he declined.
Not sure where to go from here, but we're getting some ring cameras installed once they arrive. And everyone but my dad is blocked. Hopefully they all just leave us alone.
Nothing New To Report: February 2, 2024
Had a lot of DMs for updates, but don't have much anything to report on. The moms are behaving themselves. All's quiet on the western front. Felt weird ignoring or copy/pasting "no updates" to everyone, so here's what we've been doing, should anyone care.
Dad got a new bird/squirrel feeder from Amazon (looks like a little picnic table for a child's dolly but has a mesh top for the bird seed. I think it's supposed to be for chickens?) It's totes adorbs. To his horror, it also works as a Cooper hawk feeder, so now he's "fortifying his defenses" and putting up some trellises around it. He'll have to wait till warmer weather before planting anything to grow on them.
We had some ring cameras installed and put in a motion-activated camera that double functions as a light bulb. It goes in the light fixture outside the front door and is pretty cool. Video quality isn't all that great, but it's a nice addition I guess. It does overlook the bird feeders, so I've been watching it on my lunch breaks on the days I have to go into the office.
Hubby and brother are feuding. They started a coop farm in Stardew Valley a few days ago and they both want to romance Leah. My husband confided in me that he's also been romancing Sebastian as a backup. I'm not sure why he's keeping this a secret, but he's pretty smug about it.
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fractal_frog I hope your dad can outsmart the hawks!
My dad came out for a visit over the weekend. We had a good time and the weather was lovely for some grilling and beers. It was really nice to see him again and he seemed healthy and in good spirits.
Here's his report from back home: Step mom (dad's wife) has started to realize she's screwed up. I credit her change of mindset to the fact that my dad sat her down and laid it out for her: she leaves his kids alone, or she's getting divorce papers. That apparently shut her up right quick, because they had a prenup done when they married and I'm not sure the details of it, but it wouldn't end favorably for her. She hasn't worked in years, so I imagine she'd be eligible for alimony? But I'm not versed in any of that legal mumbojumbo. Dad didn't seem too worried about it, so I'm not gonna worry about it.
Step dad was pissed the police were involved in the last "mom visit" (despite no one getting arrested or anything) and was in a "the kids are out of control and need to be reigned back in" mindset. When my dad pointed out that "the kids" in question were all in their mid-30s, it took some of the steam out of stepdad's sails. According to my dad, even my mom looked a little surprised when he said that. So, part of me is wondering if a good chunk of this whole thing is my mom not truly realizing that her kids were grown, and no longer children she could make demands of. Both of the moms have left us alone. I expected my mom to continue to kick up a fuss, but I think the cops spooked her.
There was a wonderful suggestion by a comment or to get their pastor involved, which I passed along to my dad. Dad has since spoken to their pastor about everything. He's a young guy, relatively new to their church, and joked that his first month on the job he had to do 3 funerals in a row and his new "flock" were just dying to get away from him, so he's got a sense of humor which is nice. The new pastor agreed to sit down with everyone and help the family hash it all out in a true "Come to Jesus" type moment next month, so that maybe we could celebrate Easter together as our first holiday as a family. Dad said the pastor was aware our family was having some troubles, but unsure of exactly what was going on, and since he was new, the pastor didn't want to pry. He has also agreed to do a small service down at my uncle's maple grove later in the summer, as it usually floods and is a muddy mess all spring. According to my dad, my aunt and uncle are so over all the drama and just ready to move on, so I expect hugs and apologies from them when we next meet.
Stardew Valley Update: My brother was victorious in the grand fight for Leah. It was a hard battle. Well fought. When my husband exposed his plans to woo Sebastian all this time, it was quite the betrayal. Dramatics aside, their farm is really cute and I'm so happy they're enjoying the game!
Update 4/1 - Final one I think - April 1, 2024
Happy April Fools everyone! I hope you all check your caramel apples for stray onions before taking a bite! I also hope your Easter weekend was a delightful one.
It is with great joy that I tell you all about our most recent update! Possibly even a conclusion to this whole ordeal.
The entire family (aunt, uncle, moms, dads, brother, me, husband) and pastor met at my dad's house and we all sat down to hash the situation out. As expected from what my dad said, my aunt and uncle greeted us all with apologies and hugs, which was nice. My uncle usually helps host the Easter egg hunts with the church and he brought our Easter baskets to give to us in case us kids weren't sticking around the for the weekend. I'm not sure why but seeing it made me tear up and feel stupid, because it was just a basket of candy but it meant a lot to me for some reason.
The pastor led us in a prayer and talked about forgiveness and such. He then asked us all to talk one at a time about how we're feeling and what we want the end result of today to be. No one was allowed to interrupt so everyone got to talk. It was nice. The consensus for the group was that most everyone wanted things to go back to "normal". The only ones who had any variance off this was my mom and step dad. They both wanted all us kids to move back to the area.
The pastor asked them why they wanted us back, and neither could give a good reason other than "because family", and the pastor asked us if we were thriving where we were. And we said we were. He asked if we were happy there. Which we were. He then asked my mom and step dad if they wanted us to give up our happiness to make them happy.
And Mom broke down and said no. We all had a good cry. The pastor then asked about the funeral and lies that led up to it and followed it and how it made us all feel and what we wished we'd done differently if we had the chance. It was all very emotional, but in a good way, you know? Everyone apologized and admitted they f-ed up and did a really crappy thing.
We all talked for a long, long time and the pastor was a great mediator. Eventually we all reached some sort of resolution and I think we're good now. Emotions are still high and a little raw in areas, but we stayed for Easter weekend and had a nice time. We're going to keep moving forward slowly and try to repair the relationship, but I believe we're well and truly out of the woods.
As for my brother, he's still staying with us, and mom will stop trying to guilt trip him back home. He's thinking about renting a small apartment in our area but we're not pushing him to make a decision. He knows he's welcome to stay as long as he wants. I think he wants to try dating (he's had a few girlfriends but never anything serious) and is embarrassed to bring any girls around our place, lol. He's been going to a few random classes/bookclubs at the local library for something free to do and hitting it off with all the little old ladies who attend, and they keep trying to hook him up with girls his age who they know. He has been on a few lunches/coffee dates with a couple girls, but I think he's too embarrassed by the attention to give it a real try at "dating" any of them. He's happy, though, which is all I could ask for.
I'm not sure if there will be any more updates, as I think it's all be resolved about as much as it can be at the moment. I wanted to thank you all for your words of advice and giving me a place to vent and scream into the void. Please be kind to one another and to yourselves. Thank you.
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emjkr: What a nice and hopeful update, I’m really glad you stuck to your guns when everyone threw sanity out the window!
But, could your mother explain how she thought this would work out in her favour?
Things as wonderful as the moment. Still doing baby steps with The Moms. We're texting and talking on the phones more, which is nice. Very civil.
Dad "accidentally" bought a bunch of hand crafted bird feeders at a craft fair. By accidentally, I mean: he had a little too much fun in the beer tent, went for a stroll while step mom wasn't looking, and stumbled upon a guy's booth and bought "one of each". He wouldn't tell me how MANY "one of each" was, but he cackled like a witch when I asked. Step mom said she's forcing him to give a few to me, so I'm expecting a delivery or a Dad-visit any day now.
My brother is officially "going steady" with a girl. We've met her a few times and she seems like a real sweetheart. She's our age and has a little boy (5-6 years old, I haven't asked) from a previous relationship (The dad's not in the picture from what I can gather). She's the granddaughter of one of his Book Club members, so the old ladies made good match makers in the end. The relationship is still very new and I'm routing for them.
No new Stardew Valley updates. Work has been a little crazy lately and I haven't been able to play much of anything, and brother has been distracted by his new lady friend. So, husband finally started Baldur's Gate 3, and fell for Gale's "magic trick" so now those two are a thing. I expect him to be sufficiently distracted from reality for the next few weeks.
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[New Update]: My family forgot to invite me to my grandparents funeral, but they are convinced I was there.
Trigger Warnings: death of loved ones, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, harassment
Original Post: November 14, 2023**
I’m 30s F and caused a major blowup in my family and now none of them are talking to me. For background, my hometown is tiny (500pop) and when I went 2 hrs away to “the city” (15,000pop) for college, I loved it. I ended up staying after graduation, got married, and am happy here for a decade. I visit my home town every few weeks or so, call/text my family near daily, and thought we were all good. My family’s pretty small. Just my brother, mom, step dad, dad, step mom, and an aunt and uncle (mom’s siblings, never married, no kids). My mother's grandparents moved to my home town when I was in high school and were just down the street from us. My family has always been pretty drama free (aside from my parent’s divorce when I was a kid) and we’ve been happy. The step-parents were blended in perfectly and we share holidays and celebrations together. We’re all super close and just the perfect little group.
Ever since I moved away, the topic of “when am I moving back?” is constant, and I’ve always laughed it off. My home town has nothing. You have to drive 30 minutes for milk and bread. 60-90 minute one-way commutes to work. And floods shut down the main road every Easter. I love the town, but I love here more. I have parks, stores, community events, a library! The “city” is great. My family grumbles that I need to move back, but I refuse. I've been trying to encourage them to come here, especially since it's not an hour drive to the nearest medical facility.
Now to the meat and potatoes: both my grandparents passed over COVID times. They were both old and their health had been failing for a while so it was only a matter of time. Thankfully they didn’t catch it, but it made visiting them impossible and we survived mostly through FaceTime. They both passed in their sleep months apart. Both were cremated and kept securely under the kitchen sink for safe keeping while the pandemic blew over. That was 2021.
Well, I just found out my family held a funeral for them and scattered the ashes in my uncle’s maple grove over the summer. No one said a word to me about it. I’ve visited numerous times before and after and not one word. I only found out because my great uncle from California posted on Facebook a few weeks ago that he is entering hospice and was so thankful his health stayed strong enough for him to see his little sister (my grandma) to her final resting place. I was confused and called my mom. She was all “Yeah, the funeral we had in July, remember?” Ya’ll, I visited them for the 4th of July. They did the funeral the 8th. Not a word about it to me. They had planned this for months. Long enough to arrange for my infirm great uncle to be brought over from the other side of the country. Apparently, they talked about it “all the time”.
Everyone is convinced I was at the funeral. They SWEAR I was there. I can prove I wasn’t because Google’s got my location history. My hubby is baffled because he was supposedly there, too, but he had to work every weekend in June and July. Time clock doesn’t lie. My family straight up forgot about me. I’m hurt. I’m sad. And they’re pissed at me “for lying”. They think I’m causing drama over nothing. Nothing I say can convince them I wasn’t there. My family is united in this. And they’ve all put me “on read” until I admit I’m wrong. They think I’ve gone nuts. Either there’s a doppelganger of me attending events, or my family doesn’t want to admit they screwed up. I’m not backing down.
Thanksgiving is coming up, and my family’s been vague posting on Facebook about “forgetful kids” and mental health. It’s so freaking weird and I don’t know if I’m in bizzaro world or what’s going on. My mom’s best friend reached out and said I should just admit I was wrong and apologize, that I’m causing my mom so much unnecessary stress. I asked her if she’s checked everyone’s home for CO2. She hung up on me. (We checked our CO2, and our testers are running just fine.) I have reached out to a few people in my home town to check in on my folks, and they all say they're fine. I even spoke with the local volunteer fire fighter group to see if they could check for gas leaks. Not sure if they were able to.
I don’t know what to do. I’ve shown them the proof I wasn’t there, but they know I’m tech savvy and just assume I’ve Photoshopped it. Hubby says we need a break, and we’re going to be staying home this holiday season.
Edit: I don't know the update rules, so I'll post updates to my profile should anyone want them.
Update #1: November 27, 2023
Not sure how to do updates on posts, so figured I'd post anything on my profile. Folks have private messaged me and this will be easier I think?
It's 11/27 and Thanksgiving just happened. Hubby and I stayed home. We got a small turkey and made our own little thanksgiving. It was nice. We ate around noon, then watched a movie, and later sat outside with a bottle of wine to watch the sun set behind the trees and neighbor houses.
We usually take the day before off, drive to my folks, stay the night, and help with the Thanksgiving Day cooking. So it wasn't until Wednesday night that my mom broke the silence. Mom called and asked when I was showing up, and I told her we were staying home this year, but for them to have a happy Thanksgiving, and to give the rest of the family my love. She was quiet for a long time after I said that, and I think she eventually mumbled an "okay", or something, and hung up. It wasn't an angry hang up. Just a hang up. On Thanksgiving day, I sent a group "Happy Thanksgiving!" gif to our family group chat. I received a few "happy Thanksgiving"'s back. No one's said anything else. There's been no posts on Facebook.
Update #2: December 12, 2023
So, I think I mentioned in one of my comments that my dad and I usually talk on the phone every Sunday morning. We're both early risers so we'd chat over our morning coffees and watch the sunrise. Him and I haven't really spoken since this all went down and it's been tough. I'm used to talking to him, you know?
Well, I was sitting outside in my usual spot, watching the sun rise and freezing my butt off, and he called me. I'm not entirely sure how to describe the emotions I felt. It was a mix of panic, hope, terror, happiness, and dread. I ended up answering because I just had to know what he wanted. It was an awkward conversation. He didn't address the current "drama", but instead tiptoed around the situation with all the grace of an cow on stilts. For instance, a simple "How are you doing?" Type question was answered with a "Not good." And the whole conversation would stall out for a bit because he knew why I wasn't doing well. So we ended up talking about the weather, the various winter birds we'd seen in our feeders, and the Christmas decorations around town. Things like that.
Eventually he asked if we were coming out for Christmas, and sounded sad when I told him we weren't. He asked if him and step mom could come visit us instead, and I told him it wasn't a good idea this year. That hubby and I were going to spend a quiet holiday together. I let him know he should be receiving some gifts at his PO Box any day now, so to please pick them up from the post office and put them under the family tree for everyone. He said he'd ship ours to us as well.
And that was pretty much it. No crazy drama to report. The only posts on Facebook have been the usual Christmas excitement ones, countdowns, photos of Santa, silly gift ideas, photos of company Christmas parties.
On a personal note: Hubby and I are doing alright. Our health is good, our spirits high, and we're as solid as ever. We each got Christmas bonus' at our jobs, so we're excited about that. They're not large, but we're happy to have them. We have also done advent calendars for the first time ever. I got him a Lego one, and he got me a hot chocolate one. We're going to do the calendars again next year. Maybe make a tradition out of it.
Everyone please have a safe and happy holidays.
Inheritance: December 16, 2023
I've received a lot - A LOT - of messages and private DMs urging me to check into inheritance and such. I'm really touched a lot of Internet strangers are worried about me and I wanted to ensure everyone that inheritance is most likely not an issue here. I'd almost be relieved if it was, because then it would at least make some sense. Money does weird things to people, you know?
No one in my family is wealthy by any means. After my grandparents' passed, their small estate was used to pay for their end of life expenses and remaining assets split up. Everyone directly related got an equal split (so excluded my dad and the step parents). I don't remember the exact amount I received, but it was around $5k if I recall. My brother gave me his share, too, so I could finish paying off my college debt while the interest freeze was active.
The great uncle from California has kids and grand kids, and great grandkids of his own, and also isn't wealthy. I think one of his kids makes good money doing something in finance, but I'm not entirely sure. I can't imagine he left us anything, as we hardly knew him. My mom, aunt, and uncle only met him a few times in their lives, and my brother and I even less. Grandma and him were close, but I don't think he liked my grandpa much.
Christmas: December 25, 2023
I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. I've received a lot of support through my posts and I'm really grateful. Writing these updates have had a therapeutic effect.
Yesterday was Sunday, but I didn't answer my dad when he called. I just really didn't feel up to a pointless chat, so let it go to voicemail. He tried to reach me a few times throughout the day, but I didn't answer.
Our bestie last minute invited us over to his house for Christmas day lunch (today), so husband and I were busy all Christmas Eve making cookies, peanut brittle, and homemade suckers/hard candies for his kids. Mom tried to reach out as well, but I also ignored her calls.
We had a BLAST at lunch! Our friend's kids are a lot of fun to be around. They got some techy presents from their grandparents (Quest vr headset and steam decks, lucky little rascals) Friend and his wife aren't good with tech, while hubby and I are, so we helped get them set up while our friend played a good host to his folks and inlaws. The grandparents didn't realize that a Steam deck required a Steam account, so we got the kids all their own accounts set up, added them to our steam friends lists, and gifted them some games. We also bought them a few VR games for their headset, and they were off to the races with Beat Saber in no time.
As for my folks: My brother texted and asked if we could talk sometime tomorrow. I think me ignoring mom and dad has caused some kind of upset. Which they deserve.
Brother’s call: December 26, 2023
Spoke with my brother over the phone this morning.
For starters, he apologized for everything. Him and I are good (for now). For a bit of background, my brother and I are only 2 years apart. There weren't a lot of kids around growing up, so the two of us were often stuck doing stuff together. So we have a lot of shared interests and passions. He's been pretty silent on this whole matter, but still "part of the group", if you know what I mean. I think the thought of losing him out of my life was probably the most painful, because he's always been there. He was my rock until I met my husband. He's definitely a Mama's boy, though, so anything mom wanted, he made sure she got. I'm happy to have him back.
Without further ado, here's the story from the horse's mouth:
Mom apparently had a cancer scare late last year (which no one told me about, go figure), and dad had a stint put in his heart back in January (which I did know about). This "sense of mortality" has apparently lit a fire under Mom's ass to get me back home. But since I wasn't reacting to her passive aggressive hinting, she and step mom decided to go full crazy. My great uncle's health was bad, and he'd been asking about funeral arrangements for his sister (my grandma) for a while, so the moms decided to plan it. And use the event as a giant middle finger to me. They kept all the planning pretty hush-hush between the two of them, so no one on our side of the family actually knew about the funeral until like 2 weeks before. The moms said they'd invited hubby and I. No one thought anything about it. No one thought to mention, confirm, or check with me.
The plan was to scatter the ashes, say a few words, and maybe head to town for lunch. It was a small affair. The mom's didn't even tell the family that our great uncle was coming for it. Like I said, it was a small thing. Barely a footnote. No one thought it was odd because we're pretty chill people.
4th of July happens. Hubby and I are out. No one thought to mention it, as we were all busy celebrating and having a great time. Any time the topic of "this weekend" would start, the conversation would be quickly shifted by one of the moms. We went back home.
8th of July happens. Great uncle rolls into town with a few of his kids, grandkids, and great grandkids, and it's a surprise to everyone (but the moms). Everyone drives to the maple grove and the moms have brought a ton of food and stuff. It's a full blown party. No one on my side noticed I wasn't there, because there were so many extra faces outside the usual group. They did the spreading of the ashes, they said their words, they ate, they had a great time. It wasn't until our great uncle left, and all his side left with him, that they realized I wasn't there. And hadn't been there.
And this is where the crazy went up a notch. My brother says the moms were happy no one noticed I wasn't there. And that this was proof to everyone that I needed to move back because I was so easily forgotten about. Because none of them thought to reach out, right? They basically did a ton of guilt tripping manipulation bullshit and it made everyone upset at me for not showing up. Somehow it was my fault for being excluded. So suddenly everyone was on their side with "sticking it to me".
But then a few months went by, and tempers cooled, and then I guess the horror of it set in. Followed by the shame, but by then they were "in too deep". How do you undo something like this? And since I hadn't brought it up, I guess they figured they would all just stay quiet about it and hope I never asked about a funeral.
That's when I discovered the situation from my great uncle's Facebook and called my mom, who panicked and went with the stupidest solution. Claiming I was there. Don't I remember?
I ended up talking with a few friends from high school, mentioning the situation, and word got back to those in town. So suddenly town gossip and little old church ladies got involved. Was I, or wasn't I at the funeral? Did my family forget to invite me to the funeral of the only grandparents I'd ever know? Or am I just causing a ruckus? My brother said they all just went with mom's answer. Of course they wouldn't forget me. Of course I was there. Of course they're good people. And it just snowballed.
The family expected me to eventually fold. I'm usually a nonconfrontational person, so me sticking to my guns was unexpected. And then I missed Thanksgiving. And now Christmas. With no sign of backing down. And I guess the realization that I could just stop being part of their lives is setting in and my parents are panicking. He's tried just getting them to apologize and explain, but stubbornness prevails. They want to rug sweep, but I'm not letting them.
My brother is upset with everything that's happened. He's realized just how crappy it all has been and he wants nothing to do with it anymore. But since he lives with my mom, he can't "get away from it".
He has asked if he can come stay with us for a little bit. I spoke with hubby, and he's in agreement with me that my brother can come crash in our spare bedroom for as long as he wants. Brother works remotely, so it's no trouble for him to pick up and go. I believe he's making the trip today or tomorrow. Not entirely sure, but I expect crap to hit the fan when he arrives.
On a side note, hubby's stoked that my brother and I made up. The two usually game together, but haven't due to "the situation". He's downstairs right now setting up his man cave in preparation for my brother's arrival. I'm happy to see him so excited.
Brother's Here: December 27, 2023
My brother rolled in late last night. He'd obviously been crying and when I opened the door, he just held me and sobbed. I'd never seen him like that before and soon both of us were just standing in the doorway crying into one another. He kept apologizing. Over and over again. Said he wasn't sure why he went with it. Just kept saying sorry. Hubby got him all set up in the spare bedroom while brother and I talked. My brother's a wreck. He's always been a big guy, but he's lost a lot of weight and his clothes just hang off him. If I didn't know better, I'd think he was on drugs. We talked for a little bit before bed and he re-explained everything for my husband. I'd told hubby the story, but it was just so weird that hearing it again helped.
This morning my brother was up at dawn making some coffee and getting his work day going. Hubby's off all week (lucky) so hubby made us working folk some pancakes and bacon. So far everything's peaceful. We've decided not to answer any calls from our family. They've been made aware that he arrived safely, and that we are going to spend the New Years together, and that we're not answering any calls until January 1st. They may text if they wish. I'm sure they're losing their minds. Serves them right.
Everyone, have a safe and happy new years! Don't drink and drive!
Happy 2024!: January 2, 2024
I hope everyone has a safe and enjoyable holidays, and may the new year be full of joy and happiness!
Not too much of an update. Things here have been quiet. My brother's settled in nicely and he's a great housemate. Our place isn't very big, but we have full basement and a nice outside patio/porch area so it doesn't feel crowded at all with the extra addition. He's a quiet and clean guy. No hassle at all. He got some fresh clothes from the Walmart, a haircut, and trimmed his beard, so he's more "presentable" now. He's a lady killer when he gets cleaned up. He's made nice with the (very nosy, but kind) retired couple next door and is adapting to "city living" nicely.
Folks back home have been mostly well behaved. There's been a few texts back and forth, as we're not answering calls. Mom mainly wants to know when brother's coming back, but he's keen on staying here for a while. Mom said I can't "keep him" and I told her he's a grown ass man and can do what he wants. Brother says he has her blocked after she ORDERED him to return home.
Brother has tentatively asked if he could stay long term, should he decide to, or at least longer than a usual visitor would stay. Which we're fine with. He has a good paying job and could afford an apartment, but he's never lived on his own and I would guess he has some anxiety about it. Should that be the case, he'll start paying us some rent and we'd probably adjust to give him the basement as his own space.
Had to change the locks: January 17, 2024
My brother is officially staying with us for the long haul. Hubby and him spent all Sunday organizing the basement and shifting things around so he now has his own area to be comfortable in. He's pretty handy and has also started fixing little things around our house. Our windows and doors have never closed and locked/unlocked smoother. He even fixed one of the closets we never use because we can never get the darn door open. Sadly, he also had to change the locks on our house and get us all new keys.
This is because while hubby and I were out this Saturday, the moms showed up. They'd been calling and texting us all week, but we weren't really answering them, so I guess the two decided to drive over and hash it out in person. They have emergency keys to my place, and just let themselves in. Brother told them to leave, they argued, and my nosy (but kind) neighbors called the police when they noticed the commotion. So, we get a call from neighbor's wife, return home to some cops in our yard, all the neighbors out "vacuuming their trees", and my nosy (but kind) neighbors standing on my porch with my brother behind them, doing their best Gandalf "You shall not pass" impression.
Had to talk with the cops, explain that we were having a family dispute and word vomited. I don't really remember what all I said, and was shaking a lot. Our local cops are really great. Fantastic guys and gals in blue, and took it all in stride. It's really cold here, so one had me join him in his cruiser with the heat on, and gave me a bottle of water to calm down while we talked. They asked if we wanted the moms trespassed but I wasn't sure if that counted as a criminal charge so just asked the cops if they could just make them leave, which the cops did with no fuss. I think the moms were shocked we were taking this so seriously. They didn't fight or scream at us. Just left quietly.
My dad promised me he'd make sure his wife left us alone. "Or else". He said he'd also have a stern talk with my mom. Him and I talked Sunday morning, and he seemed absolutely at the end of his rope. Husband jokingly told my dad he could move in, too. To which he declined.
Not sure where to go from here, but we're getting some ring cameras installed once they arrive. And everyone but my dad is blocked. Hopefully they all just leave us alone.
Nothing New To Report: February 2, 2024
Had a lot of DMs for updates, but don't have much anything to report on. The moms are behaving themselves. All's quiet on the western front. Felt weird ignoring or copy/pasting "no updates" to everyone, so here's what we've been doing, should anyone care.
Dad got a new bird/squirrel feeder from Amazon (looks like a little picnic table for a child's dolly but has a mesh top for the bird seed. I think it's supposed to be for chickens?) It's totes adorbs. To his horror, it also works as a Cooper hawk feeder, so now he's "fortifying his defenses" and putting up some trellises around it. He'll have to wait till warmer weather before planting anything to grow on them.
We had some ring cameras installed and put in a motion-activated camera that double functions as a light bulb. It goes in the light fixture outside the front door and is pretty cool. Video quality isn't all that great, but it's a nice addition I guess. It does overlook the bird feeders, so I've been watching it on my lunch breaks on the days I have to go into the office.
Hubby and brother are feuding. They started a coop farm in Stardew Valley a few days ago and they both want to romance Leah. My husband confided in me that he's also been romancing Sebastian as a backup. I'm not sure why he's keeping this a secret, but he's pretty smug about it.
RELEVANT COMMENTS
fractal_frog I hope your dad can outsmart the hawks!
OOP: He'll be able to, I just know it. He's used to dealing with the wildlife and having hawks about, but he just wasn't expecting one to snag a meal right from his new feeder.MissOP: keep the updates coming. the moms are so close to folding it's just a little bit more. LMAO also, the bro mance between your husband and brother is so cute. lol Honestly, I think your husband making sure he has a side piece of Sebastian is absolutely the play.
I told him it was "technically" still a bird feeder. Just....for bigger birds. Which he thought was funny. He said he might make a little "no hawks allowed" sign to put up next to it.
OOP: So far still no word from the moms, but I hope you're right. I would love an apology and for us to begin moving past this. But I NEED that apology. I feel selfish saying that, but I refuse to "be the bigger person" on this. I just won't.Update: February 27, 2024
As for my brother and husband, yeah, they're basically soul mates. The two hit it off immediately when they first met, and they've been thick as thieves for years.
My dad came out for a visit over the weekend. We had a good time and the weather was lovely for some grilling and beers. It was really nice to see him again and he seemed healthy and in good spirits.
Here's his report from back home: Step mom (dad's wife) has started to realize she's screwed up. I credit her change of mindset to the fact that my dad sat her down and laid it out for her: she leaves his kids alone, or she's getting divorce papers. That apparently shut her up right quick, because they had a prenup done when they married and I'm not sure the details of it, but it wouldn't end favorably for her. She hasn't worked in years, so I imagine she'd be eligible for alimony? But I'm not versed in any of that legal mumbojumbo. Dad didn't seem too worried about it, so I'm not gonna worry about it.
Step dad was pissed the police were involved in the last "mom visit" (despite no one getting arrested or anything) and was in a "the kids are out of control and need to be reigned back in" mindset. When my dad pointed out that "the kids" in question were all in their mid-30s, it took some of the steam out of stepdad's sails. According to my dad, even my mom looked a little surprised when he said that. So, part of me is wondering if a good chunk of this whole thing is my mom not truly realizing that her kids were grown, and no longer children she could make demands of. Both of the moms have left us alone. I expected my mom to continue to kick up a fuss, but I think the cops spooked her.
There was a wonderful suggestion by a comment or to get their pastor involved, which I passed along to my dad. Dad has since spoken to their pastor about everything. He's a young guy, relatively new to their church, and joked that his first month on the job he had to do 3 funerals in a row and his new "flock" were just dying to get away from him, so he's got a sense of humor which is nice. The new pastor agreed to sit down with everyone and help the family hash it all out in a true "Come to Jesus" type moment next month, so that maybe we could celebrate Easter together as our first holiday as a family. Dad said the pastor was aware our family was having some troubles, but unsure of exactly what was going on, and since he was new, the pastor didn't want to pry. He has also agreed to do a small service down at my uncle's maple grove later in the summer, as it usually floods and is a muddy mess all spring. According to my dad, my aunt and uncle are so over all the drama and just ready to move on, so I expect hugs and apologies from them when we next meet.
Stardew Valley Update: My brother was victorious in the grand fight for Leah. It was a hard battle. Well fought. When my husband exposed his plans to woo Sebastian all this time, it was quite the betrayal. Dramatics aside, their farm is really cute and I'm so happy they're enjoying the game!
Update 4/1 - Final one I think - April 1, 2024
Happy April Fools everyone! I hope you all check your caramel apples for stray onions before taking a bite! I also hope your Easter weekend was a delightful one.
It is with great joy that I tell you all about our most recent update! Possibly even a conclusion to this whole ordeal.
The entire family (aunt, uncle, moms, dads, brother, me, husband) and pastor met at my dad's house and we all sat down to hash the situation out. As expected from what my dad said, my aunt and uncle greeted us all with apologies and hugs, which was nice. My uncle usually helps host the Easter egg hunts with the church and he brought our Easter baskets to give to us in case us kids weren't sticking around the for the weekend. I'm not sure why but seeing it made me tear up and feel stupid, because it was just a basket of candy but it meant a lot to me for some reason.
The pastor led us in a prayer and talked about forgiveness and such. He then asked us all to talk one at a time about how we're feeling and what we want the end result of today to be. No one was allowed to interrupt so everyone got to talk. It was nice. The consensus for the group was that most everyone wanted things to go back to "normal". The only ones who had any variance off this was my mom and step dad. They both wanted all us kids to move back to the area.
The pastor asked them why they wanted us back, and neither could give a good reason other than "because family", and the pastor asked us if we were thriving where we were. And we said we were. He asked if we were happy there. Which we were. He then asked my mom and step dad if they wanted us to give up our happiness to make them happy.
And Mom broke down and said no. We all had a good cry. The pastor then asked about the funeral and lies that led up to it and followed it and how it made us all feel and what we wished we'd done differently if we had the chance. It was all very emotional, but in a good way, you know? Everyone apologized and admitted they f-ed up and did a really crappy thing.
We all talked for a long, long time and the pastor was a great mediator. Eventually we all reached some sort of resolution and I think we're good now. Emotions are still high and a little raw in areas, but we stayed for Easter weekend and had a nice time. We're going to keep moving forward slowly and try to repair the relationship, but I believe we're well and truly out of the woods.
As for my brother, he's still staying with us, and mom will stop trying to guilt trip him back home. He's thinking about renting a small apartment in our area but we're not pushing him to make a decision. He knows he's welcome to stay as long as he wants. I think he wants to try dating (he's had a few girlfriends but never anything serious) and is embarrassed to bring any girls around our place, lol. He's been going to a few random classes/bookclubs at the local library for something free to do and hitting it off with all the little old ladies who attend, and they keep trying to hook him up with girls his age who they know. He has been on a few lunches/coffee dates with a couple girls, but I think he's too embarrassed by the attention to give it a real try at "dating" any of them. He's happy, though, which is all I could ask for.
I'm not sure if there will be any more updates, as I think it's all be resolved about as much as it can be at the moment. I wanted to thank you all for your words of advice and giving me a place to vent and scream into the void. Please be kind to one another and to yourselves. Thank you.
Relevant Comments
emjkr: What a nice and hopeful update, I’m really glad you stuck to your guns when everyone threw sanity out the window!
But, could your mother explain how she thought this would work out in her favour?
OOP: I don't think mom thought too far ahead. I believe she assumed it would all just magically work out the way she wanted it to. She said she wasn't sure what she was expecting to happen (which I think was a lie, but I wasn't going to push it).mak_zaddy: This was a great update! But ummmmmm no stardew valley update? What gives? Has Sebastian been woo’ed? How’s Leah? What’s happening?
OOP: Sebastian has indeed been wooed (and whoohooed) There's kids and cows and chickens. The two are still having a wonderful time at the game. They're working on completing the community center but it's slow going as they aren't trying to speedrun and just doing things as they want. I believe they're thinking about going into the desert mines once they complete that bundle, but they're both super chicken shit about it!-my-cabbages: I don't really understand what you had to apologize for ... but I'm glad you're happy and the situation seems to be settling down
OOP: There wasn't much of an apology on my end, as everyone agreed I had done nothing wrong. Mine was more of a "I'm sorry you didn't feel as though I would listen." Type apology, which I don't really believe is a proper apology because apologies like that push the blame back on another. I mostly expressed my feelings and the shock of it all, and how betrayed I felt.
----NEW UPDATE----
Small, happy update: May 7, 2024 (1 month later)Things as wonderful as the moment. Still doing baby steps with The Moms. We're texting and talking on the phones more, which is nice. Very civil.
Dad "accidentally" bought a bunch of hand crafted bird feeders at a craft fair. By accidentally, I mean: he had a little too much fun in the beer tent, went for a stroll while step mom wasn't looking, and stumbled upon a guy's booth and bought "one of each". He wouldn't tell me how MANY "one of each" was, but he cackled like a witch when I asked. Step mom said she's forcing him to give a few to me, so I'm expecting a delivery or a Dad-visit any day now.
My brother is officially "going steady" with a girl. We've met her a few times and she seems like a real sweetheart. She's our age and has a little boy (5-6 years old, I haven't asked) from a previous relationship (The dad's not in the picture from what I can gather). She's the granddaughter of one of his Book Club members, so the old ladies made good match makers in the end. The relationship is still very new and I'm routing for them.
No new Stardew Valley updates. Work has been a little crazy lately and I haven't been able to play much of anything, and brother has been distracted by his new lady friend. So, husband finally started Baldur's Gate 3, and fell for Gale's "magic trick" so now those two are a thing. I expect him to be sufficiently distracted from reality for the next few weeks.
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2024.05.14 05:55 Dimpz3 What do I do if I’m having explicit images shared of me via post?
I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, I’m new to Reddit and just wanted to see if there was any advice available since I seem to be hitting road blocks on every thing I seemed to have attempted.
I 30(F) was speaking to a man online for around 7yrs from Sweden, the relationship became sexual at some point and images were exchanged. He then decided to randomly cut off contact. Said he no longer wanted to speak and things were obviously not meant to be which I was totally understanding about, a week or so later I started receiving post to my family home with the explicit images that I had shared with him, to make it worse they were addressed to my father. He knows I come from a strict religious family and how many issues this could cause potentially endangering my life due to the honour aspect of it. I tried to catch these before anyone else did until he also started sending to my father’s workplace where I used to work and my previous colleagues viewing these images. My old boss is also a family friend who tried to hide it once he saw this guy had scrawled my name on the printed image due to him fearing for my life. He writes on each ‘I miss these or I miss you’ something along these lines and add different return addresses and names each time, only pays for them in cash. Though the post office he sends them from are around 5mins from his house each time. These have carried on for months and I’ve spoken to both UK and Swedish police, they have taken him in spoken to him, taken his electronics and even some evidence they found in his apartment. But apart from this it seems to be a waiting game as he continued to post even after he was taken into the police station, it has been passed to U.K. to conduct another statement for extra details since Swedish police are unable to do this over call/videocall. Ive tried to find lawyers or anyone who can help with any advice or anything further I can do but seem to come to dead ends with the U.K. side since they don’t have people specialising in Swedish law. I’m not sure what the next steps are and if I need someone to be with me for this statement or if there are any helplines available.
This has my life on pause where I’m afraid to leave my house before the post gets here or go into work unless I have paid to have post stopped each week. It’s had a massive impact on my mental health with me also having to take time off work and I’m unable to involve any family member or any friends around me due to the fear of judgement or being seen differently. Any advice would be welcome
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I 30(F) was speaking to a man online for around 7yrs from Sweden, the relationship became sexual at some point and images were exchanged. He then decided to randomly cut off contact. Said he no longer wanted to speak and things were obviously not meant to be which I was totally understanding about, a week or so later I started receiving post to my family home with the explicit images that I had shared with him, to make it worse they were addressed to my father. He knows I come from a strict religious family and how many issues this could cause potentially endangering my life due to the honour aspect of it. I tried to catch these before anyone else did until he also started sending to my father’s workplace where I used to work and my previous colleagues viewing these images. My old boss is also a family friend who tried to hide it once he saw this guy had scrawled my name on the printed image due to him fearing for my life. He writes on each ‘I miss these or I miss you’ something along these lines and add different return addresses and names each time, only pays for them in cash. Though the post office he sends them from are around 5mins from his house each time. These have carried on for months and I’ve spoken to both UK and Swedish police, they have taken him in spoken to him, taken his electronics and even some evidence they found in his apartment. But apart from this it seems to be a waiting game as he continued to post even after he was taken into the police station, it has been passed to U.K. to conduct another statement for extra details since Swedish police are unable to do this over call/videocall. Ive tried to find lawyers or anyone who can help with any advice or anything further I can do but seem to come to dead ends with the U.K. side since they don’t have people specialising in Swedish law. I’m not sure what the next steps are and if I need someone to be with me for this statement or if there are any helplines available.
This has my life on pause where I’m afraid to leave my house before the post gets here or go into work unless I have paid to have post stopped each week. It’s had a massive impact on my mental health with me also having to take time off work and I’m unable to involve any family member or any friends around me due to the fear of judgement or being seen differently. Any advice would be welcome
2024.05.14 05:53 merletrutledge Rutledge slams Youngkin Uni Party budget as pay day for politicians!
Virginia Lawmakers sale Va out with their budget!! Illegals continue to get first class even here! #RutledgeforVaGovernor2025
“I ran in Portsmouth in a District represented by Louise Lucas! After my video on Lucas proposing tax increases on everything bought in Virginia to include online sales. Her little buddies in Portsmouth starting crying to her about what I was saying and whether it was true! Scrambling to undue a Democratic blunder! Youngkin bailed her out! Basically no one in Richmond wants to admit how strong I am in Virginia! It’s not how many you get to question or persuade! It’s who Lucas listens to that gets to her! All of Portsmouth waits to hear me speak and watches my videos! It wasn’t hard for me to sale to anyone that needed to know their pockets becoming a lot lighter! 2 million won’t go towards mental health but administrative fees for the entire commonwealth of Va! Also remember me mentioning the 5 billion surplus should have negated any property tax increase! It did but my question is what did they do with the rest of the remaining surplus! Yall pulled off some bullshit in Richmond! There is nothing about that budget that impresses any Virginian struggling to keep their kids in unsafe schools! To everyone in Richmond, I’m not buying your brand of bullshit yall call a budget! To law enforcement! Are you happy now and does that budget put more money and food on the table? Nope, it leaves you to deal with the same problems the rest of us all face! Law and order with crime surges never seen before should get everyone use to hopping to keep what you have left from criminals that are more likely to get off than do anytime! A time for a bold budget to address the sewer of homelessness that is taking over the streets! I’m sure in rich neighborhoods those doors are locked more than ever and when you didn’t look over your shoulders! You now do! It’s the criminals getting out daily that served their long sentences! How about our farmers and our energy independence exploration! Where is it that the tolls are gone and getting China out our business! It look like a table signing if everyone getting their cut! Something is wrong when Lucas is cheesing like that after talking all that junk about Youngkin at a budget signing! Virginia, we got sold out! How about Medicaid recipients not being cared for during some endless transition? We got sold out! Welcome NWO that even our own Commonwealth helps illegals more than their own citizens!”
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“I ran in Portsmouth in a District represented by Louise Lucas! After my video on Lucas proposing tax increases on everything bought in Virginia to include online sales. Her little buddies in Portsmouth starting crying to her about what I was saying and whether it was true! Scrambling to undue a Democratic blunder! Youngkin bailed her out! Basically no one in Richmond wants to admit how strong I am in Virginia! It’s not how many you get to question or persuade! It’s who Lucas listens to that gets to her! All of Portsmouth waits to hear me speak and watches my videos! It wasn’t hard for me to sale to anyone that needed to know their pockets becoming a lot lighter! 2 million won’t go towards mental health but administrative fees for the entire commonwealth of Va! Also remember me mentioning the 5 billion surplus should have negated any property tax increase! It did but my question is what did they do with the rest of the remaining surplus! Yall pulled off some bullshit in Richmond! There is nothing about that budget that impresses any Virginian struggling to keep their kids in unsafe schools! To everyone in Richmond, I’m not buying your brand of bullshit yall call a budget! To law enforcement! Are you happy now and does that budget put more money and food on the table? Nope, it leaves you to deal with the same problems the rest of us all face! Law and order with crime surges never seen before should get everyone use to hopping to keep what you have left from criminals that are more likely to get off than do anytime! A time for a bold budget to address the sewer of homelessness that is taking over the streets! I’m sure in rich neighborhoods those doors are locked more than ever and when you didn’t look over your shoulders! You now do! It’s the criminals getting out daily that served their long sentences! How about our farmers and our energy independence exploration! Where is it that the tolls are gone and getting China out our business! It look like a table signing if everyone getting their cut! Something is wrong when Lucas is cheesing like that after talking all that junk about Youngkin at a budget signing! Virginia, we got sold out! How about Medicaid recipients not being cared for during some endless transition? We got sold out! Welcome NWO that even our own Commonwealth helps illegals more than their own citizens!”
2024.05.14 05:40 maxwellhallel ISO feedback on mask Linktree
I posted a couple weeks ago that I made a Linktree (linktr.ee/buymasks) for finding lower-cost respirator masks in the US. I’ve made a lot of changes to it since first posting, and would love feedback on how to make it better.
Some of my main questions (but any/all feedback welcome!): - Are there too many links, or is it better for people to have a lot of options? - Do the emoji descriptors at the top make sense? (Caveat: There’s a 35-character limit on that type of header; what I have now is 34 because emoji count as 2) - Is there anything I should do to improve the “QUICK INFO” document at the top?
A general caveat: I can only realistically have 6 sections for logistical reasons. I could replace the “other resources” section with another if there was one y’all thought was especially important.
Also, none of these are affiliate links and I do not profit/benefit from this in any way; I just saw this as a need and wanted to address it.
Thank you!! ❤️😷
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Some of my main questions (but any/all feedback welcome!): - Are there too many links, or is it better for people to have a lot of options? - Do the emoji descriptors at the top make sense? (Caveat: There’s a 35-character limit on that type of header; what I have now is 34 because emoji count as 2) - Is there anything I should do to improve the “QUICK INFO” document at the top?
A general caveat: I can only realistically have 6 sections for logistical reasons. I could replace the “other resources” section with another if there was one y’all thought was especially important.
Also, none of these are affiliate links and I do not profit/benefit from this in any way; I just saw this as a need and wanted to address it.
Thank you!! ❤️😷
2024.05.14 05:17 Confident-Viking4270 Need feedback for this.
Hello, everyone.
I hope you all are doing well! I'm reaching out to the lovely community at Indiangirlsontinder to discuss an idea for a new dating app that We've been developing. I'm quite excited about it, but before I start, I'd like to receive some comments from everyone.
Our solution addresses a common issue with dating apps: the need to pay for features such as super likes and boosts, as well as the overwhelming number of irrelevant matches and communications. We want to change that. Our goal is to build a dating app that prioritizes true connections above cash grabs, with users paying a modest monthly subscription for full access to all features, with no hidden charges or gimmicks.
We noticed and saw how other dating apps business models are based on getting money from people via cash grabs and keeping them on the app as long as possible, and we don't think that is good. If a dating app is made, its sole purpose should be to make people meet and form connections.
They say if they make their app in a solid dating-focused way and do not keep people on their apps, then their business will fail. We say that is WRONG. People turn 18 every day, and a lot of people will join dating apps and will keep joining if it works great. And even if someone finds their partner at first try and they somehow break up in, say, 2 or 3 years, they will only come back to the app that works nicely.
The Concept:
This is how it works. Users put up a profile, select their preferences, and indicate their availability for live matching. When they're ready, they tap the "Live Matching" button, and the app matches with compatible folks in real time based on geography, interests, and availability. It's all about simplicity and honesty, with no tedious swiping or scrolling. You are shown the profile and similar interests to break the ice. If you like the person and the other person likes you both move to the chatroom phase. You are given a time of 15 minutes in the chatroom. it is heavily moderated with no way to send photos and no cursing to protect both users. After chatting you will be taken to the 'Like or Not" page where you indicate if Like the person and will like to take it further. if Yes a you are added to each others match page and not then repeat.
Why Your Input Matters: We're especially interested in hearing from the fantastic members of Indiangirlsontinder . We'd want to know if this idea appeals to you and if you'd be interested in joining such a platform. We recognize that many people are bored of the constant assault of likes and messages, which frequently lack actual content. We seek to provide a space where meaningful interactions may thrive, devoid of the noise and distractions that typical dating apps bring.
Your feedback matters: So what do you think? Would you be interested in using a dating app like this? Do you think such a site may attract singles who priorities quality over number when it comes to matches and interactions? We welcome any feedback, recommendations, or concerns you may have.
If you have any questions or want to share your ideas, please leave a comment. Your feedback is invaluable as we continue to polish and grow this concept.
Thank you for taking the time to read this essay and evaluate our new dating app concept. We're delighted to hear your thoughts!
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I hope you all are doing well! I'm reaching out to the lovely community at Indiangirlsontinder to discuss an idea for a new dating app that We've been developing. I'm quite excited about it, but before I start, I'd like to receive some comments from everyone.
Our solution addresses a common issue with dating apps: the need to pay for features such as super likes and boosts, as well as the overwhelming number of irrelevant matches and communications. We want to change that. Our goal is to build a dating app that prioritizes true connections above cash grabs, with users paying a modest monthly subscription for full access to all features, with no hidden charges or gimmicks.
We noticed and saw how other dating apps business models are based on getting money from people via cash grabs and keeping them on the app as long as possible, and we don't think that is good. If a dating app is made, its sole purpose should be to make people meet and form connections.
They say if they make their app in a solid dating-focused way and do not keep people on their apps, then their business will fail. We say that is WRONG. People turn 18 every day, and a lot of people will join dating apps and will keep joining if it works great. And even if someone finds their partner at first try and they somehow break up in, say, 2 or 3 years, they will only come back to the app that works nicely.
The Concept:
This is how it works. Users put up a profile, select their preferences, and indicate their availability for live matching. When they're ready, they tap the "Live Matching" button, and the app matches with compatible folks in real time based on geography, interests, and availability. It's all about simplicity and honesty, with no tedious swiping or scrolling. You are shown the profile and similar interests to break the ice. If you like the person and the other person likes you both move to the chatroom phase. You are given a time of 15 minutes in the chatroom. it is heavily moderated with no way to send photos and no cursing to protect both users. After chatting you will be taken to the 'Like or Not" page where you indicate if Like the person and will like to take it further. if Yes a you are added to each others match page and not then repeat.
Why Your Input Matters: We're especially interested in hearing from the fantastic members of Indiangirlsontinder . We'd want to know if this idea appeals to you and if you'd be interested in joining such a platform. We recognize that many people are bored of the constant assault of likes and messages, which frequently lack actual content. We seek to provide a space where meaningful interactions may thrive, devoid of the noise and distractions that typical dating apps bring.
Your feedback matters: So what do you think? Would you be interested in using a dating app like this? Do you think such a site may attract singles who priorities quality over number when it comes to matches and interactions? We welcome any feedback, recommendations, or concerns you may have.
If you have any questions or want to share your ideas, please leave a comment. Your feedback is invaluable as we continue to polish and grow this concept.
Thank you for taking the time to read this essay and evaluate our new dating app concept. We're delighted to hear your thoughts!
2024.05.14 05:13 Juanox78 [WTS] 👍👍"📍Mercadillo Store📍"👍👍 ▶️ CCU'ed LTI Ships ► A1 Spirit LTI $180 Vanguard Warden LTI $215 Retaliator Bomber LTI $230 Vanguard Harbinger LTI $235 Eclipse LTI $240 Redeemer LTI $245 Hammerhead $390 ▶️ many more upgrades & ships inside
May 13/14 2024
👍👍 👋 Welcome citizens, come and take a look at the items I have to offer and feel free to send me a PM if you have any questions before buying.
About me:
RSI: Juannox - Discord: Juannox
- I don't use second hand credits and I don't purshase accounts, all the items I sell are directly from my own account using my own funds, so there is no risk on my side.
🌎🌍🌏 I'am accepting US$ and EU€ from anywhere in the world using paypal or Cryptocurrencies: BTC, ETH, LTC, USDT, BUSDT etc.
my local time is GMT -5
⬇️☀️ SOME ITEMS AND PAINTS ☀️⬇️
HOW TO BUY:
submitted by Juanox78 to Starcitizen_trades [link] [comments]
👍👍 👋 Welcome citizens, come and take a look at the items I have to offer and feel free to send me a PM if you have any questions before buying.
About me:
RSI: Juannox - Discord: Juannox
- I'm a backer since Jan-2015, I'm an active user in the comunity, my goal is to bring all items to you at best possible prices from me, all funds will be used to support the proyect again,
- More than 3000 real trades in this subreddit without any problem.
- I don't use second hand credits and I don't purshase accounts, all the items I sell are directly from my own account using my own funds, so there is no risk on my side.
🌎🌍🌏 I'am accepting US$ and EU€ from anywhere in the world using paypal or Cryptocurrencies: BTC, ETH, LTC, USDT, BUSDT etc.
my local time is GMT -5
- Listed prices includes paypal fees.
- Verified paypal users only
- Confirmed RSI account only, (check HERE on how to)
- Items over $35 only to buyers with some reddit history (crypto has no limits)
- Check instructions on "how to buy" at the end of this post.
⬇️ STANDALONE SHIPS ⬇️
- If you don't find a ship in the list, feel free to ask me.- All the ships listed here are built with my own funds without using second-hand credits, so there's no risk here.
| SHIP | Insurance - Attributes | Price | Availability |
|---|---|---|---|
| SPARTAN | OC - LTI | $90 | ✔️ YES |
| NOMAD | OC - LTI | $90 | ✔️ YES |
| CUTTER | OC - LTI | $70 | ✔️ YES |
| SABRE | CCU'ed - LTI | $155 | ✔️ YES |
| FREELANCER MIS | CCU'ed - LTI | $160 | ✔️ YES |
| CUTLASS BLUE | CCU'ed - LTI | $160 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C- SUPER HORNET | CCU'ed - LTI | $170 | ✔️ YES |
| A1 SPIRIT | CCU'ed - LTI | $180 | ✔️ YES |
| HURRICANE | CCU'ed - LTI | $185 | ✔️ YES |
| DEFENDER | CCU'ed - LTI | $190 | ✔️ YES |
| SAN TOK YAI | CCU'ed - LTI | $195 | ✔️ YES |
| SCORPIUS | CCU'ed - LTI | $200 | ✔️ YES |
| APOLLO TRIAGE | CCU'ed - LTI | $210 | ✔️ YES |
| ARES INFERNO | CCU'ed - LTI | $215 | ✔️ YES |
| ARES ION | CCU'ed - LTI | $215 | ✔️ YES |
| 400i | CCU'ed - LTI | $215 | ✔️ YES |
| VANGUARD WARDEN | CCU'ed - LTI | $215 | ✔️ YES |
| CORSAIR BIS 2953 | CCU'ed - LTI | $220 | ✔️ YES |
| MERCURY BIS 2952 | CCU'ed - LTI | $225 | ✔️ YES |
| APOLLO MEDIVAC | CCU'ed - LTI | $230 | ✔️ YES |
| RETALIATOR BOMBER | CCU'ed - LTI | $230 | ✔️ YES |
| VANGUARD HARBINGER | CCU'ed - LTI | $235 | ✔️ YES |
| ECLIPSE | CCU'ed - LTI | $240 | ✔️ YES |
| CATERPILLAR | CCU'ed - LTI | $245 | ✔️ YES |
| REDEEMER | CCU'ed - LTI | $245 | ✔️ YES |
| ENDEAVOR | CCU'ed - LTI | $255 | ✔️ YES |
| CRUCIBLE | CCU'ed - LTI | $255 | ✔️ YES |
| VALKYRIE | CCU'ed - LTI | $265 | ✔️ YES |
| GALAXY | CCU'ed - LTI | $270 | ✔️ YES |
| RECLAIMER | CCU'ed - LTI | $285 | ✔️ YES |
| GENESIS | CCU'ed - LTI | $285 | ✔️ YES |
| C2 HERCULES | CCU'ed - LTI | $285 | ✔️ YES |
| 600i EXPLORER BIS 2953 | CCU'ed - LTI | $320 | ✔️ YES |
| HULL C | CCU'ed - LTI | $325 | ✔️ YES |
| M2 HERCULES | CCU'ed - LTI | $335 | ✔️ YES |
| HULL D | CCU'ed - LTI | $340 | ✔️ YES |
| LIBERATOR | CCU'ed - LTI | $345 | ✔️ YES |
| ARRASTRA | CCU'ed - LTI | $345 | ✔️ YES |
| CARRACK | CCU'ed - LTI | $345 | ✔️ YES |
| MERCHANTMAN | CCU'ed - LTI | $350 | ✔️ YES |
| ORION | CCU'ed - LTI | $350 | ✔️ YES |
| PERSEUS | CCU'ed - LTI | $370 | ✔️ YES |
| ODYSEY | CCU'ed - LTI | $380 | ✔️ YES |
| HAMERHEAD | CCU'ed - LTI | $390 | ✔️ YES |
| NAUTILUS | CCU'ed - LTI | $390 | ✔️ YES |
| POLARIS | CCU'ed - LTI | $395 | ✔️ YES |
⬇️🤑 Saving Cost WARBOND/Pre-Price UPGRADES 🤑⬇️
| FROM | 📌 | TO 👇 | Insurance | Price |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Reliant Mako | ➡️ | Freelancer | - | $10 |
| Nova | ➡️ | Cutlass Red | - | $10 |
| Hornet Tracker | Prospector | - | $10 | |
| Sabre | ➡️ | A1 Spirit | - | $15 |
| Hornet Tracker | ➡️ | SRV | - | $16 |
| Hull B | ➡️ | SRV | - | $16 |
| Defender | ➡️ | Corsair | 120 | $15 |
| Railen | ➡️ | Corsair | 120 | $15 |
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Defender | - | $12 |
| Retaliator Bomber | ➡️ | Eclipse | 120 | $15 |
| Prowler | ➡️ | Hull C | - | $25 |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Hurricane | - | $15 |
| Liberator | ➡️ | Merchantman | - | $38 |
| Vanguard Hoplite | ➡️ | Mercury | 120 | $12 |
| Hull D | ➡️ | Orion | 120 | $56 |
| Perseus | ➡️ | Polaris | 120 | $56 |
| Reclaimer | ➡️ | Prowler | 120 | $25 |
| Prospector | ➡️ | Sabre | 120 | $12 |
| A1 Spirit | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | 120 | $20 |
| Starfarer Gemini | ➡️ | Valkyrie | - | $25 |
| Razor | ➡️ | Vulture | - | $15 |
⬇️☀️ Standard UPGRADES ☀️⬇️
| FROM | 📌 | TO 👇 | Price | Availability |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Aurora MR | ➡️ | MPUV C | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Mustang Alpha | ➡️ | MPUV C | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Aurora MR | ➡️ | P-72 Archimedes | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| HoverQuad | ➡️ | P-72 Archimedes | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Aurora MR | ➡️ | Ranger CV | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| HoverQuad | ➡️ | Ranger CV | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Aurora MR | ➡️ | Ranger RC | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| HoverQuad | ➡️ | Ranger RC | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Aurora LX | ➡️ | Ranger TR | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Dragonfly Black | ➡️ | Nox | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| P-72 Archimedes | ➡️ | X1 | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Dragonfly Black | ➡️ | X1 | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Dragonfly Yellowjacket | ➡️ | X1 | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| STV | ➡️ | X1 | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| C8X Pisces Expedition | ➡️ | Cutter Rambler | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter | ➡️ | Cutter Rambler | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Mule | ➡️ | Cutter Rambler | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| C8X Pisces Expedition | ➡️ | Cutter Scout | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter | ➡️ | Cutter Scout | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Mule | ➡️ | Cutter Scout | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| STV | ➡️ | X1 Velocity | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter | ➡️ | X1 Velocity | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Mule | ➡️ | X1 Velocity | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| X1 | ➡️ | X1 Velocity | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 100i | ➡️ | Fury | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter Rambler | ➡️ | Fury | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter Scout | ➡️ | Fury | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Ursa | ➡️ | Fury | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 100i | ➡️ | Fury LX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter Rambler | ➡️ | Fury LX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter Scout | ➡️ | Fury LX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Ursa | ➡️ | Fury LX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 100i | ➡️ | Fury MX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter Rambler | ➡️ | Fury MX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutter Scout | ➡️ | Fury MX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Ursa | ➡️ | Fury MX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 100i | ➡️ | Mustang Gamma | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Cutter | ➡️ | X1 Force | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| 100i | ➡️ | X1 Force | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| X1 Velocity | ➡️ | X1 Force | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Cyclone | ➡️ | Lynx | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Fury | ➡️ | Lynx | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| ROC | ➡️ | Lynx | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 300i | ➡️ | C8R Pisces | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Avenger Stalker | ➡️ | C8R Pisces | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 125a | ➡️ | Cyclone RC | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| 300i | ➡️ | Cyclone RC | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Avenger Stalker | ➡️ | Cyclone RC | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| 300i | ➡️ | Cyclone RN | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Avenger Stalker | ➡️ | Cyclone RN | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| 300i | ➡️ | Cyclone TR | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Avenger Stalker | ➡️ | Cyclone TR | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Avenger Stalker | ➡️ | G12a | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Avenger Stalker | ➡️ | Mustang Delta | $9 | 🔥 Last one! |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 135c | ➡️ | Syulen | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Reliant Kore | ➡️ | Syulen | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 325a | ➡️ | Avenger Titan Renegade | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 325a | ➡️ | Cyclone MT | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Reliant Kore | ➡️ | Reliant Tana | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| 325a | ➡️ | Reliant Tana | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Syulen | ➡️ | Reliant Tana | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Arrow | ➡️ | Cyclone AA | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| 300i | ➡️ | Spartan | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| G12 | ➡️ | Spartan | $25 | 🔥 Last one! |
| G12r | ➡️ | Spartan | $25 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Arrow | ➡️ | Spartan | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Nomad | ➡️ | Avenger Warlock | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Nomad | ➡️ | Herald | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Arrow | ➡️ | Reliant Sen | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Nomad | ➡️ | Reliant Sen | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Spartan | ➡️ | Reliant Sen | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Arrow | ➡️ | Storm | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Nomad | ➡️ | Storm | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Reliant Sen | ➡️ | Storm | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Gladius | ➡️ | Reliant Mako | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Reliant Sen | ➡️ | M50 | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladius | ➡️ | M50 | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Hull A | ➡️ | M50 | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Reliant Mako | ➡️ | M50 | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Gladius | ➡️ | Storm AA | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Storm | ➡️ | Storm AA | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Hull A | ➡️ | Buccaneer | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Hawk | ➡️ | Buccaneer | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Gladius | ➡️ | Centurion | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Hull A | ➡️ | Centurion | $25 | 🔥 Last one! |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Gladius | ➡️ | Talon | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Reliant Mako | ➡️ | Talon | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Arrow | ➡️ | Talon Shrike | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladius | ➡️ | Talon Shrike | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Reliant Mako | ➡️ | Talon Shrike | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Freelancer | ➡️ | Legionnaire | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| M50 | ➡️ | Nova | $25 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| Cutlass Black | ➡️ | Nova | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer | ➡️ | Nova | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Cutlass Black | ➡️ | 350r | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Talon | ➡️ | 350r | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Talon Shrike | ➡️ | 350r | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Legionnaire | ➡️ | 350r | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Nova | ➡️ | 350r | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Cutlass Black | ➡️ | C1 Spirit | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer | ➡️ | C1 Spirit | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Nova | ➡️ | C1 Spirit | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| F7C Hornet | ➡️ | Cutlass Red | $30 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Freelancer | ➡️ | Cutlass Red | $30 | 🔥 Last one! |
| F7C-S Hornet Ghost | ➡️ | Cutlass Red | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Cutlass Red | ➡️ | Hull B | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer DUR | ➡️ | Hull B | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| F7C-R Hornet Tracker | ➡️ | Razor | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Hull B | ➡️ | Razor | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Ballista | ➡️ | E1 Spirit | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-R Hornet Tracker | ➡️ | E1 Spirit | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Razor | ➡️ | E1 Spirit | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| F7C-R Hornet Tracker | ➡️ | Expanse | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| F7C-R Hornet Tracker | ➡️ | Razor LX | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Razor | ➡️ | Razor LX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Razor | ➡️ | Zeus Mk II CL | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Razor | ➡️ | Zeus Mk II ES | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Razor | ➡️ | Razor EX | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer MAX | ➡️ | Razor EX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Mantis | ➡️ | Razor EX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Razor LX | ➡️ | Razor EX | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Gladiator | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Hull B | ➡️ | Khartu-Al | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Prospector | ➡️ | Khartu-Al | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladiator | ➡️ | Khartu-Al | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Freelancer MAX | ➡️ | Sabre | $25 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| Prospector | ➡️ | Sabre | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Razor EX | ➡️ | Sabre | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladiator | ➡️ | Sabre | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Cutlass Red | ➡️ | Cutlass Blue | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Prospector | ➡️ | Cutlass Blue | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | Cutlass Blue | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | F7C Hornet Wildfire | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Razor EX | ➡️ | F7C Hornet Wildfire | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladiator | ➡️ | F7C Hornet Wildfire | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Khartu-Al | ➡️ | F7C Hornet Wildfire | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | F7C Hornet Wildfire | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| E1 Spirit | ➡️ | Freelancer MIS | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Prospector | ➡️ | Freelancer MIS | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Razor EX | ➡️ | Freelancer MIS | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladiator | ➡️ | Freelancer MIS | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Khartu-Al | ➡️ | Freelancer MIS | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | Freelancer MIS | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Razor EX | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladiator | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Khartu-Al | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutlass Blue | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C Hornet Wildfire | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer MIS | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulture | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Sabre Comet | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulture | ➡️ | Sabre Comet | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Vulture | ➡️ | Zeus Mk II MR | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Zeus Mk II MR | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | A1 Spirit | $51 | ✔️ YES |
| Gladiator | ➡️ | A1 Spirit | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Khartu-Al | ➡️ | A1 Spirit | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | A1 Spirit | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulture | ➡️ | A1 Spirit | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Zeus Mk II MR | ➡️ | A1 Spirit | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | $51 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer MIS | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre Comet | ➡️ | F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Vulcan | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Hurricane | $62 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | Hurricane | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutlass Blue | ➡️ | Hurricane | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Hurricane | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| A1 Spirit | ➡️ | Hurricane | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Hurricane | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Hurricane | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulcan | ➡️ | Hurricane | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Defender | $72 | ✔️ YES |
| Khartu-Al | ➡️ | Defender | $56 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| Sabre | ➡️ | Defender | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutlass Blue | ➡️ | Defender | $51 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer MIS | ➡️ | Defender | $51 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Defender | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre Comet | ➡️ | Defender | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Defender | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Hurricane | ➡️ | Defender | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| A1 Spirit | ➡️ | Terrapin | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Terrapin | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Terrapin | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulcan | ➡️ | Terrapin | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Hurricane | ➡️ | Terrapin | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Railen | $77 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Railen | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulcan | ➡️ | Railen | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Defender | ➡️ | Railen | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Scorpius Antares | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Scorpius Antares | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Hurricane | ➡️ | Scorpius Antares | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Defender | ➡️ | Scorpius Antares | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Terrapin | ➡️ | Scorpius Antares | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Railen | ➡️ | Scorpius Antares | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Cutlass Steel | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Terrapin | ➡️ | Cutlass Steel | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius Antares | ➡️ | Cutlass Steel | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| A1 Spirit | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Hurricane | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Defender | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Terrapin | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius Antares | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutlass Steel | ➡️ | San'tok.yāi | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Scorpius | $93 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | Scorpius | $77 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer MIS | ➡️ | Scorpius | $72 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Scorpius | $62 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre Comet | ➡️ | Scorpius | $62 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Scorpius | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Scorpius | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Hurricane | ➡️ | Scorpius | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Defender | ➡️ | Scorpius | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Terrapin | ➡️ | Scorpius | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius Antares | ➡️ | Scorpius | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Cutlass Steel | ➡️ | Scorpius | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Vanguard Hoplite | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Defender | ➡️ | Vanguard Hoplite | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Railen | ➡️ | Vanguard Hoplite | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius Antares | ➡️ | Vanguard Hoplite | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | 400i | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Terrapin | ➡️ | 400i | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | 400i | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| San'tok.yāi | ➡️ | 400i | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | 400i | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Hoplite | ➡️ | 400i | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Apollo Triage | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | Apollo Triage | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $104 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $88 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer MIS | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $83 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $72 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre Comet | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $72 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulcan | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| San'tok.yāi | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | Ares Inferno | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prospector | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $104 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $88 | ✔️ YES |
| Freelancer MIS | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $83 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $72 | ✔️ YES |
| Sabre Comet | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $72 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Taurus | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Vulcan | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| San'tok.yāi | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | Ares Ion | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Defender | ➡️ | Corsair | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Terrapin | ➡️ | Corsair | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Corsair | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| San'tok.yāi | ➡️ | Corsair | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | Corsair | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Hoplite | ➡️ | Corsair | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| F7C-M Super Hornet Heartseeker | ➡️ | Mercury | $67 | ✔️ YES |
| Terrapin | ➡️ | Mercury | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Mercury | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| San'tok.yāi | ➡️ | Mercury | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | Mercury | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Hoplite | ➡️ | Mercury | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| 400i | ➡️ | Mercury | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Ares Inferno | ➡️ | Mercury | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Ares Ion | ➡️ | Mercury | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Corsair | ➡️ | Mercury | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Vanguard Warden | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | Vanguard Warden | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| 400i | ➡️ | Vanguard Warden | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Ares Inferno | ➡️ | Vanguard Warden | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Ares Ion | ➡️ | Vanguard Warden | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Corsair | ➡️ | Vanguard Warden | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Apollo Medivac | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| 400i | ➡️ | Apollo Medivac | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Apollo Triage | ➡️ | Apollo Medivac | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Corsair | ➡️ | Apollo Medivac | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Mercury | ➡️ | Apollo Medivac | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Warden | ➡️ | Apollo Medivac | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Blade | $40 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Scorpius | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $40 | 🔥 Last one! |
| 400i | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Ares Inferno | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Ares Ion | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Corsair | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Mercury | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Warden | ➡️ | Retaliator Bomber | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Vanguard Sentinel | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| 400i | ➡️ | Vanguard Sentinel | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Ares Ion | ➡️ | Vanguard Sentinel | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Corsair | ➡️ | Vanguard Sentinel | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Mercury | ➡️ | Vanguard Sentinel | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Warden | ➡️ | Vanguard Sentinel | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Vanguard Harbinger | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Mercury | ➡️ | Vanguard Harbinger | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Warden | ➡️ | Vanguard Harbinger | $35 | ✔️ YES |
| Retaliator Bomber | ➡️ | Vanguard Harbinger | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Sentinel | ➡️ | Vanguard Harbinger | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Eclipse | $67 | ✔️ YES |
| Mercury | ➡️ | Eclipse | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Warden | ➡️ | Eclipse | $46 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Retaliator Bomber | ➡️ | Eclipse | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Sentinel | ➡️ | Eclipse | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Harbinger | ➡️ | Eclipse | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Starfarer | $67 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Mercury | ➡️ | Starfarer | $46 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Vanguard Harbinger | ➡️ | Starfarer | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Andromeda | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $99 | ✔️ YES |
| 400i | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $88 | ✔️ YES |
| Mercury | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $77 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Warden | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $77 | ✔️ YES |
| Retaliator Bomber | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $62 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Sentinel | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $62 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Harbinger | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Aquila | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| MOLE | ➡️ | Caterpillar | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Mercury | ➡️ | Redeemer | $77 | ✔️ YES |
| Vanguard Warden | ➡️ | Redeemer | $77 | ✔️ YES |
| Constellation Aquila | ➡️ | Redeemer | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| MOLE | ➡️ | Redeemer | $19 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Aquila | ➡️ | Starfarer Gemini | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| MOLE | ➡️ | Starfarer Gemini | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Caterpillar | ➡️ | Starfarer Gemini | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| Redeemer | ➡️ | Starfarer Gemini | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| MOLE | ➡️ | Crucible | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Caterpillar | ➡️ | Crucible | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Starfarer Gemini | ➡️ | Crucible | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| MOLE | ➡️ | Endeavor | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Caterpillar | ➡️ | Endeavor | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Redeemer | ➡️ | Endeavor | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| Starfarer Gemini | ➡️ | Endeavor | $14 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Aquila | ➡️ | Valkyrie | $67 | 🔥 Last one! |
| MOLE | ➡️ | Valkyrie | $67 | ✔️ YES |
| Caterpillar | ➡️ | Valkyrie | $51 | ✔️ YES |
| Redeemer | ➡️ | Valkyrie | $51 | ✔️ YES |
| Starfarer Gemini | ➡️ | Valkyrie | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Valkyrie | ➡️ | Galaxy | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| MOLE | ➡️ | C2 Hercules | $93 | ✔️ YES |
| Starfarer Gemini | ➡️ | C2 Hercules | $67 | ✔️ YES |
| Glaive | ➡️ | C2 Hercules | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Valkyrie | ➡️ | C2 Hercules | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Galaxy | ➡️ | C2 Hercules | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| MOLE | ➡️ | Genesis | $93 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Valkyrie | ➡️ | Reclaimer | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Galaxy | ➡️ | Reclaimer | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Valkyrie | ➡️ | 600i Touring | $67 | 🔥 Last one! |
| C2 Hercules | ➡️ | 600i Touring | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| Reclaimer | ➡️ | 600i Touring | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Constellation Aquila | ➡️ | Prowler | $136 | ✔️ YES |
| Valkyrie | ➡️ | Prowler | $72 | ✔️ YES |
| C2 Hercules | ➡️ | Prowler | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Reclaimer | ➡️ | Prowler | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| 600i Touring | ➡️ | Prowler | $9 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| C2 Hercules | ➡️ | 600i Explorer | $83 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| 600i Touring | ➡️ | 600i Explorer | $46 | ✔️ YES |
| Prowler | ➡️ | 600i Explorer | $40 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| MOLE | ➡️ | Hull C | $199 | ✔️ YES |
| Prowler | ➡️ | Hull C | $67 | ✔️ YES |
| 600i Explorer | ➡️ | Hull C | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| MOLE | ➡️ | M2 Hercules | $220 | ✔️ YES |
| C2 Hercules | ➡️ | M2 Hercules | $130 | ✔️ YES |
| 600i Explorer | ➡️ | M2 Hercules | $51 | ✔️ YES |
| Hull C | ➡️ | M2 Hercules | $25 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| M2 Hercules | ➡️ | Arrastra | $62 | ✔️ YES |
| Hull D | ➡️ | Arrastra | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| M2 Hercules | ➡️ | Liberator | $62 | ✔️ YES |
| Hull D | ➡️ | Liberator | $30 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Valkyrie | ➡️ | Carrack | $241 | ✔️ YES |
| Genesis | ➡️ | Carrack | $215 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Prowler | ➡️ | Carrack | $173 | ✔️ YES |
| 600i Explorer | ➡️ | Carrack | $136 | ✔️ YES |
| M2 Hercules | ➡️ | Carrack | $88 | ✔️ YES |
| Arrastra | ➡️ | Carrack | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Liberator | ➡️ | Carrack | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Prowler | ➡️ | Merchantman | $225 | ✔️ YES |
| 600i Explorer | ➡️ | Merchantman | $188 | ✔️ YES |
| M2 Hercules | ➡️ | Merchantman | $141 | ✔️ YES |
| Liberator | ➡️ | Merchantman | $83 | ✔️ YES |
| Carrack | ➡️ | Merchantman | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Carrack | ➡️ | Orion | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Carrack | ➡️ | Perseus | $83 | ✔️ YES |
| Merchantman | ➡️ | Perseus | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| Orion | ➡️ | Perseus | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Carrack | ➡️ | Odyssey | $109 | ✔️ YES |
| Perseus | ➡️ | Odyssey | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Carrack | ➡️ | Hammerhead | $136 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Carrack Expedition w/C8X | ➡️ | Hammerhead | $88 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| Merchantman | ➡️ | Hammerhead | $83 | ✔️ YES |
| Perseus | ➡️ | Hammerhead | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Odyssey | ➡️ | Hammerhead | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Merchantman | ➡️ | Nautilus | $83 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Perseus | ➡️ | Nautilus | $56 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| Odyssey | ➡️ | Nautilus | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| M2 Hercules | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $247 | 🔥 Last one! |
| Carrack | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $162 | ✔️ YES |
| Carrack Expedition | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $136 | 🔥 2 Left! |
| Carrack Expedition w/C8X | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $114 | ✔️ YES |
| Merchantman | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $109 | ✔️ YES |
| Perseus | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $83 | ✔️ YES |
| Odyssey | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $56 | ✔️ YES |
| Hammerhead | ➡️ | A2 Hercules | $30 | ✔️ YES |
| - | 📌 | TO 👇 | ||
| Perseus | ➡️ | Polaris | $83 | ✔️ YES |
| Hammerhead | ➡️ | Polaris | $38 | ✔️ YES |
| Nautilus | ➡️ | Polaris | $38 | ✔️ YES |
| Items | Price |
|---|---|
| Scorpius - Stinger Paint 💎 | $45 |
| Scorpius - Sunburn Paint | $14 |
| Spirit - Olympia Paint | $18 |
| Constellation ILW 2950 Paint Pack | $24 |
| CITIZENCON 2951 DIGITAL GOODIES | $10 |
- PM me what you would like to buy and include your Verified PayPal email
- Reply to this thread by announcing that you sent me a private message "PM'd", so I can see that you are a verified buyer.
- I will then send you an invoice to your paypal email.
- After payment is cleared Item is delivered to the buyer's PayPal email address.
- You will recieve a regular email from RSI with the title "Someone sent you a gift from Roberts Space Industries"
- Make sure to be logged into the correct RSI account before you open the link inside,
- I will post in "Confirmed Trades theme post" thread announcing the sale.
- After confirming the gift, you can reply to the post in which I mention you with +verify in "Confirmed Trades theme post".
- Tracking and proof of delivery are provided by "Hangar Log" on RSI website.