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2024.05.16 10:49 Fine-Cherry-5195 AITAH for being annoyed that no one got me anything for my birthday at work?
Back story - at my workplace we’ve only ever really given gifts for “big” birthdays, 18,21,30,40 etc and this is my 27th - so not a big deal
But we’re a fairly small team, and we’re rarely ever in for our actual birthdays (this is my first time being in work on my actual bday since starting 6 years ago)
Last year 2 of our team turned 30, so of course we got them gifts. The most recent birthday we had was for our apprentice who turned 17, this wasn’t a big birthday but we felt it would help him feel more welcome so got him gifts and a card too.
That started a conversation between me and my manager where we said we should start doing little gifts for everyone on all of their birthdays and agreed its just a nice thing to do.
Anyway, i came into work yesterday and no one had gotten me anything. The main thing that upset me about this was that i drive one of my colleagues into work everyday, he doesn’t drive so i pick him up every morning and just kind of thought he’d maybe use my birthday as a way to show appreciation for this (i dont ask him for any money or anything).
Ultimately, its not wildy out of the ordinary and i’m definitely not going to kick up a fuss about it. But i find birthdays quite depressing anyway and would be lying if i said it didn’t upset me and leave me in an off mood for the day.
Is this valid? or am i just overreacting?
submitted by Fine-Cherry-5195 to AITAH [link] [comments]
But we’re a fairly small team, and we’re rarely ever in for our actual birthdays (this is my first time being in work on my actual bday since starting 6 years ago)
Last year 2 of our team turned 30, so of course we got them gifts. The most recent birthday we had was for our apprentice who turned 17, this wasn’t a big birthday but we felt it would help him feel more welcome so got him gifts and a card too.
That started a conversation between me and my manager where we said we should start doing little gifts for everyone on all of their birthdays and agreed its just a nice thing to do.
Anyway, i came into work yesterday and no one had gotten me anything. The main thing that upset me about this was that i drive one of my colleagues into work everyday, he doesn’t drive so i pick him up every morning and just kind of thought he’d maybe use my birthday as a way to show appreciation for this (i dont ask him for any money or anything).
Ultimately, its not wildy out of the ordinary and i’m definitely not going to kick up a fuss about it. But i find birthdays quite depressing anyway and would be lying if i said it didn’t upset me and leave me in an off mood for the day.
Is this valid? or am i just overreacting?
2024.05.16 10:46 Expensive_Pack8085 BDO points not available
 | Hello, ask lang ako kasi I’ve been using my BDO credit card for more than a year pero wala akong reward points. Hindi ako aware na meron palang ganyan kung hindi ako sinabihan ng friend ko and 1st credit card ko to. Nag check na ako both website at app ng points ko pero not available or 0 yung naka lagay. For reference, nag picture po ako. Nag message na rin ako sa BDO pero no response. submitted by Expensive_Pack8085 to PHCreditCards [link] [comments] |
2024.05.16 10:41 wtfisgoingon651 Am I the narcissist?
I feel like I'm losing my mind, I am constantly drained and I have lost all my desire to live, I just do it from inertia. I've read about narcissists and I started thinking that my partner may be one, but now I am so confused and I am starting to believe that maybe I am the narcissist, maybe I am the problem and I can't think straight.
I nag a lot about things that he refused to do, even if I asked him multiple times. And I'm referring to basic things for an functional adult - taking out the trash, cleaning after himself, washing his clothes. If I don't tell him to do it, he doesn't do it, if I tell him maybe he will do it but afterwards he would complain that I am always so negative (because I told him again to wipe off his piss from the bathroom floor), that I am always giving him chores (I do my part of household chores, I often do his part too). When I'm asking for help and I complain that I'm always taking care of the house on my own, and I'm so tired of repeating everyday the same things, I become this vile person -his words- who only wants to control him, who is always negative and upset, who is always nagging, who wants to destroy his mental health. He starts screaming, yelling, cursing me and my family, he tells me that he can't stand me anymore, that I should find another man, that he doesn't want me anymore and so on.
The next day he acts like nothing happened, like he did not verbally abuse me, like it is my fault and he is entitled to be mad at me. He expects me to say that I'm sorry and apologize profusely, even if he would not apologize for the things he says.
When we are in public after a fight -with friends or family, he acts very kindly towards me, and when we get home, his behavior shifts and he is giving me the silent treatment, or he is stonewalling me. It's like he is an entirely another person in public.
He often says mean things to me, and after 5-10 minutes he says no that's not the truth, I never said that. He denies all the things he does or tells and he is lying about what I do and tell. He would say that I sent him messages and called him names, and when I show him the conversations and ask him to show me when and where did I do that (because he lies), he shifts the conversation to another accusation, and he returns to the first accusation after a while (the name calling one), and then bounces back to another false accusation previously discussed, and he does that, throws false accusations at me, over and over again, until I am literally dizzy and too tired to defend myself and I give up.
He started a fight in front of his parents (after I told him that his behavior indicates that he is a narc) telling them that I am not normal, that I abuse him by saying that he is a narc, that I want to manipulate him by making kim think that he is a narc. He basically told them that I said that he is manipulative and abusing, without telling them that he doesn't allow me to speak, that he starts to yell at the slightest inconvenience, that he is cursing me and my family over the smallest things, that he sometimes wouldn't let me work, he would stay next to me and yell at me during my working hours (we both work from home), he wouldn't do anything for me, for our home, for our relationship, if I don't ask for it, and when I ask him, there's a big chance that he wouldn't do it and start a fight.
We unfortunately share a home and a mortgage. He threats me that he will leave, I says ok please do, and he doesn't do it. I want to break up with him, sell the house, pay the mortgage and split the remaining money, but he doesn't want it, even if when he is arguing to me he says ok let's sell it. When it comes to a serious discussion, he backs down. I feel stuck in this home with him, he doesn't want to leave/sell his part to me/sell the whole house. He only threats me with this because he thinks that this way I will shut up my mouth.
I think that he genuinely enjoys the conflict, the yelling the cursing. It's like fuel for him. He plays the victim card but the next day he rises and shines, he is literally unbothered by anything, he gives me the silent treatment, while I'm thinking, crying, trying to speak to him, trying to communicate, trying to find ways to talk about our relationship. Neah, nothing touches him.
I feel like everyday I'm running on a hamster wheel, everyday the same loops, nothing changes, nothing gets better. We fight, he hurts me, I cry and overthink about the fight, he acts normal, he would maaaybe buy me flowers and cook dinner, and the next time I bring up something that hurts me we start all over again. And so I began asking myself if I'm the problem, maybe all of it is in my head, I started doubting my actions and my words, I started thinking that maybe I'm mentally ill, but in the middle of the fights, when I hear how he speaks, how he curses me, how he makes fun of my parents I am convinced that this is not a normal response to my "please do the laundry". But after the fight he would deny that he said or spoke those words He would tell me that I have the blame for the way he is acting, and if I want him to be nice to me and not curse me, I shouldn't tell him negative stuff such as reminding him about house chores. After a fight I am so drained I cannot think straight, I cannot work, I cannot eat, I cannot do anything besides stare at the walls and cry.
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I nag a lot about things that he refused to do, even if I asked him multiple times. And I'm referring to basic things for an functional adult - taking out the trash, cleaning after himself, washing his clothes. If I don't tell him to do it, he doesn't do it, if I tell him maybe he will do it but afterwards he would complain that I am always so negative (because I told him again to wipe off his piss from the bathroom floor), that I am always giving him chores (I do my part of household chores, I often do his part too). When I'm asking for help and I complain that I'm always taking care of the house on my own, and I'm so tired of repeating everyday the same things, I become this vile person -his words- who only wants to control him, who is always negative and upset, who is always nagging, who wants to destroy his mental health. He starts screaming, yelling, cursing me and my family, he tells me that he can't stand me anymore, that I should find another man, that he doesn't want me anymore and so on.
The next day he acts like nothing happened, like he did not verbally abuse me, like it is my fault and he is entitled to be mad at me. He expects me to say that I'm sorry and apologize profusely, even if he would not apologize for the things he says.
When we are in public after a fight -with friends or family, he acts very kindly towards me, and when we get home, his behavior shifts and he is giving me the silent treatment, or he is stonewalling me. It's like he is an entirely another person in public.
He often says mean things to me, and after 5-10 minutes he says no that's not the truth, I never said that. He denies all the things he does or tells and he is lying about what I do and tell. He would say that I sent him messages and called him names, and when I show him the conversations and ask him to show me when and where did I do that (because he lies), he shifts the conversation to another accusation, and he returns to the first accusation after a while (the name calling one), and then bounces back to another false accusation previously discussed, and he does that, throws false accusations at me, over and over again, until I am literally dizzy and too tired to defend myself and I give up.
He started a fight in front of his parents (after I told him that his behavior indicates that he is a narc) telling them that I am not normal, that I abuse him by saying that he is a narc, that I want to manipulate him by making kim think that he is a narc. He basically told them that I said that he is manipulative and abusing, without telling them that he doesn't allow me to speak, that he starts to yell at the slightest inconvenience, that he is cursing me and my family over the smallest things, that he sometimes wouldn't let me work, he would stay next to me and yell at me during my working hours (we both work from home), he wouldn't do anything for me, for our home, for our relationship, if I don't ask for it, and when I ask him, there's a big chance that he wouldn't do it and start a fight.
We unfortunately share a home and a mortgage. He threats me that he will leave, I says ok please do, and he doesn't do it. I want to break up with him, sell the house, pay the mortgage and split the remaining money, but he doesn't want it, even if when he is arguing to me he says ok let's sell it. When it comes to a serious discussion, he backs down. I feel stuck in this home with him, he doesn't want to leave/sell his part to me/sell the whole house. He only threats me with this because he thinks that this way I will shut up my mouth.
I think that he genuinely enjoys the conflict, the yelling the cursing. It's like fuel for him. He plays the victim card but the next day he rises and shines, he is literally unbothered by anything, he gives me the silent treatment, while I'm thinking, crying, trying to speak to him, trying to communicate, trying to find ways to talk about our relationship. Neah, nothing touches him.
I feel like everyday I'm running on a hamster wheel, everyday the same loops, nothing changes, nothing gets better. We fight, he hurts me, I cry and overthink about the fight, he acts normal, he would maaaybe buy me flowers and cook dinner, and the next time I bring up something that hurts me we start all over again. And so I began asking myself if I'm the problem, maybe all of it is in my head, I started doubting my actions and my words, I started thinking that maybe I'm mentally ill, but in the middle of the fights, when I hear how he speaks, how he curses me, how he makes fun of my parents I am convinced that this is not a normal response to my "please do the laundry". But after the fight he would deny that he said or spoke those words He would tell me that I have the blame for the way he is acting, and if I want him to be nice to me and not curse me, I shouldn't tell him negative stuff such as reminding him about house chores. After a fight I am so drained I cannot think straight, I cannot work, I cannot eat, I cannot do anything besides stare at the walls and cry.
2024.05.16 10:37 ThrowRA86478 How should I (M24) Tell my friend (F22) that I like them?
Backstory: I’ve been friends with this person for around a year, but we’ve grown much closer in the last few months. We met on Tinder, but both of us were coming out of pretty serious relationship blues. I’ve always kind of liked her, but I viewed it as more important to be friends than to treat her as any kind of interest. I have no real idea of what she thinks of me in that regard, we’ve never really discusssed feelings towards one another.
In the past few months, I’ve felt a passing interest turn into something much stronger. I think it really started around my birthday, when she surprised me at my job with flowers and some sweaters for me, along with a really heartfelt card. Ever since then I think about them all of the time, whenever I go anywhere I look for trinkets for them, always thinking of songs they might like or movies, she’s just on my mind a lot. They’re very very cool to me. She really values me as well, and always tells me that I’m important to her.
Neither of us are super-romantic people, though she has struggled with relationships more than me. She’s mentioned that a lot of the time she didn’t really “get” relationships. I feel anxious that bringing up that I like her may be poisonous to our friendship. We have both talked about how we’ve had friendships that were ruined by other people’s desires. I worry a lot that my feelings aren’t mutual, and that my feelings could develop into a sort of envy and could destroy my friendship with someone I care about a lot.
My friends and my sister have kind of treated me like I’m crazy for thinking that she might not like me, that when I describe things it seems obvious to them, when I don’t feel that way.
Is there anyway to go about this in a way that wouldn’t be destructive?
tldr: I like a close friend, and I want to tell them but I fear that doing so could put our friendship in jeopardy
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In the past few months, I’ve felt a passing interest turn into something much stronger. I think it really started around my birthday, when she surprised me at my job with flowers and some sweaters for me, along with a really heartfelt card. Ever since then I think about them all of the time, whenever I go anywhere I look for trinkets for them, always thinking of songs they might like or movies, she’s just on my mind a lot. They’re very very cool to me. She really values me as well, and always tells me that I’m important to her.
Neither of us are super-romantic people, though she has struggled with relationships more than me. She’s mentioned that a lot of the time she didn’t really “get” relationships. I feel anxious that bringing up that I like her may be poisonous to our friendship. We have both talked about how we’ve had friendships that were ruined by other people’s desires. I worry a lot that my feelings aren’t mutual, and that my feelings could develop into a sort of envy and could destroy my friendship with someone I care about a lot.
My friends and my sister have kind of treated me like I’m crazy for thinking that she might not like me, that when I describe things it seems obvious to them, when I don’t feel that way.
Is there anyway to go about this in a way that wouldn’t be destructive?
tldr: I like a close friend, and I want to tell them but I fear that doing so could put our friendship in jeopardy
2024.05.16 10:31 omegaMKXIII 31 [M4F] Austria/Europe - Looking for my forever lady
I am looking for a lady between 25 and 35 years old, for a committed monogamous childfree relationship. My goal is to become a true team, supporting each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other and helping each other grow and realise our goals and dreams as much as possible. I'm hoping to find someone that values a relationship as much as I do and takes it seriously. It's not the only thing my life revolves around, but it's also not just something 'nice to have' for me.
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner, training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with an avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or at a football game and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I'm looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus, emotional and intimate compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals and ideally, you do too.
Apparently in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well.
Second, intimate compatibility. I am rather insatiable and love to experiment when it comes to the bedroom, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, this kind of fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. I found the term 'filthy best friends and partners' to be a perfect description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ‘self-sufficiency’ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, we’re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each other’s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each other’s wellbeing a priority. If you’re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while you’re having a hard time, look elsewhere. If I have to be afraid you’ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if it’s a ‘you’-problem, it’s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless – it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
I’d prefer to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that there’s a need to rush anything, but I’d rather see earlier if we’re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself.
Caveats
submitted by omegaMKXIII to ForeverAloneDating [link] [comments]
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner, training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with an avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or at a football game and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I'm looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus, emotional and intimate compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals and ideally, you do too.
Apparently in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well.
Second, intimate compatibility. I am rather insatiable and love to experiment when it comes to the bedroom, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, this kind of fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. I found the term 'filthy best friends and partners' to be a perfect description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ‘self-sufficiency’ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, we’re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each other’s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each other’s wellbeing a priority. If you’re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while you’re having a hard time, look elsewhere. If I have to be afraid you’ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if it’s a ‘you’-problem, it’s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless – it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
I’d prefer to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that there’s a need to rush anything, but I’d rather see earlier if we’re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself.
Caveats
- I don't like travelling as it stresses me out; I don't mind being somewhere else for a week or two, but the organisation part of it drains my energy very quickly and dealing with stuff that doesn't work out is overwhelming to me. Smaller trips are ok, but I'm not the right person to travel the world with.
- I am not the most awake person in the morning (i.e. I identify as nightowl)
- I don't want children and had a vasectomy
- I need space for my own projects/time to recharge after social interaction.
- While I feel like I am in tune with my inner child and working on/with it through therapy, I realise this is something that could be a turn-off for people.
- I have been diagnosed with depressive episodes in the past and am taking anti-depressants right now. I realise that I am a work in progress, maybe more so than in times past, but I manage and the fact that I'm putting myself out here is based on me being ready to get to know someone new.
- I want to create a home together here, as I'm firmly rooted where I was born; I realise this is a lot to ask, but I have seen many people here being open to moving, so I want to at least try reaching out to them.
2024.05.16 10:27 omegaMKXIII 31 [M4F] Austria/Europe - Looking for my forever lady
General
I am looking for a lady between 28 and 35 years old, for a committed monogamous childfree relationship. My goal is to become a true team, supporting each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other and helping each other grow and realise our goals and dreams as much as possible. I'm hoping to find someone that values a relationship as much as I do and takes it seriously. It's not the only thing my life revolves around, but it's also not just something 'nice to have' for me.
I tried to be as concise as possible while still providing what details I think are crucial to know; I realise this post turned out very long, but I prefer those because I can get as good an idea as possible with detailed descriptions, bar actually talking to the person, and find that very valuable, so if that also applies to you, that would be awesome.
Basics
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner (ranging from 5k to full marathon), training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with a fearful avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or in the stadium watching football and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I am looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus (and there have to be at least a couple things we have in common), emotional and sexual compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals (some of which in quite a litteral sense as they make for really amazing pillows) and ideally, you do too.
There is a saying that in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly, like I said, need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well – this just to put the picture I'm (somewhat haphazardly) trying to paint into perspective.
Second, sexual compatibility. I have a high libido and I have kinks, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy them together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, sexual fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. Someone on here has coined the term 'filthy best friends and partners' which I have no shame to be stealing because it's such an apt description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ‘self-sufficiency’ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, we’re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each other’s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each other’s wellbeing a priority. I love the relationship model outlined in Stan Tatkin’s ‘Wired for Love’ and you should, too. If you’re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while you’re having a hard time, look elsewhere. I know codependency is the latest thing everyone’s afraid of, but experiencing someone you’ve grown very attached to just bailing because they’re counterdependent and can’t stand working on themselves while simultaneously letting you in is something I’d rather not go through again. If I have to be afraid you’ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if it’s a ‘you’-problem, it’s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere. If you think’s it’s okay to lovebomb someone and then leave after a couple of months with the minimum amount of information and no proper conversation because you’re not ready to own up to what’s happening to you emotionally, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless – it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, be opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: many childfree people seem to be adventurous, but that is a trait I don't associate with myself at all. I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, seeing them change around us, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side (albeit not regarding height), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
The natural progression for me would be to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that there’s a need to rush anything, but having my heart broken because I already developed feelings due to a longer timeframe and then everything unexpectedly turning to shit is not something I want to have to live through again. I’d rather see earlier if we’re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself, I unfortunately had to learn that
Caveats/Possible red flags
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I am looking for a lady between 28 and 35 years old, for a committed monogamous childfree relationship. My goal is to become a true team, supporting each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other and helping each other grow and realise our goals and dreams as much as possible. I'm hoping to find someone that values a relationship as much as I do and takes it seriously. It's not the only thing my life revolves around, but it's also not just something 'nice to have' for me.
I tried to be as concise as possible while still providing what details I think are crucial to know; I realise this post turned out very long, but I prefer those because I can get as good an idea as possible with detailed descriptions, bar actually talking to the person, and find that very valuable, so if that also applies to you, that would be awesome.
Basics
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner (ranging from 5k to full marathon), training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with a fearful avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or in the stadium watching football and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I am looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus (and there have to be at least a couple things we have in common), emotional and sexual compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals (some of which in quite a litteral sense as they make for really amazing pillows) and ideally, you do too.
There is a saying that in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly, like I said, need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well – this just to put the picture I'm (somewhat haphazardly) trying to paint into perspective.
Second, sexual compatibility. I have a high libido and I have kinks, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy them together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, sexual fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. Someone on here has coined the term 'filthy best friends and partners' which I have no shame to be stealing because it's such an apt description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ‘self-sufficiency’ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, we’re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each other’s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each other’s wellbeing a priority. I love the relationship model outlined in Stan Tatkin’s ‘Wired for Love’ and you should, too. If you’re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while you’re having a hard time, look elsewhere. I know codependency is the latest thing everyone’s afraid of, but experiencing someone you’ve grown very attached to just bailing because they’re counterdependent and can’t stand working on themselves while simultaneously letting you in is something I’d rather not go through again. If I have to be afraid you’ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if it’s a ‘you’-problem, it’s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere. If you think’s it’s okay to lovebomb someone and then leave after a couple of months with the minimum amount of information and no proper conversation because you’re not ready to own up to what’s happening to you emotionally, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless – it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, be opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: many childfree people seem to be adventurous, but that is a trait I don't associate with myself at all. I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, seeing them change around us, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side (albeit not regarding height), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
The natural progression for me would be to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that there’s a need to rush anything, but having my heart broken because I already developed feelings due to a longer timeframe and then everything unexpectedly turning to shit is not something I want to have to live through again. I’d rather see earlier if we’re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself, I unfortunately had to learn that
Caveats/Possible red flags
- I don't like travelling as it stresses me out; I don't mind being somewhere else for a week or two, but the organisation part of it drains my energy very quickly and dealing with stuff that doesn't work out is overwhelming to me. Smaller trips are ok, but I'm not the right person to travel the world with.
- I am not the most awake person in the morning (i.e. I identify as nightowl)
- I need space for my own projects/time to recharge after social interaction.
- While I feel like I am in tune with my inner child and working on/with it through therapy, I realise this is something that could be a turn-off for people.
- I have been diagnosed with depressive episodes in the past and am taking anti-depressants right now. I realise that I am a work in progress, maybe more so than in times past, but I manage and the fact that I'm putting myself out here is based on me being ready to get to know someone new.
- I want to create a home together here, as I'm firmly rooted where I was born; I realise this is a lot to ask, but I have seen many people here being open to moving, so I want to at least try reaching out to them.
2024.05.16 10:25 BruceLeeTheDragon Pokémon cards for a gift.
I don’t know anything about pokemon. My 7 year old nephew asked for Pokémon gold cards for his birthday. I don’t think he plays. I think it’s just something his friends at school collect. I want to buy him some packs (I think that’s what they’re called). What exactly is a Pokémon gold? What can I get him that is around $40-50? Is there a trust worthy site you guys can recommend? Thank you.
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2024.05.16 10:11 Scared-Gift8980 Profile Pensions - £50 Amazon gift card
Profile Pensions offers an easy way to combine, save, and access (from age 55) your pension online.
They currently have an offer to get a £50 Amazon gift card when you sign up with a referral link and transfer a pension or make a pension contribution of £1,000 or more.
When I signed up I had a pension pot from my first job that I transferred across which was really easy to do.
Sign up steps:
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They currently have an offer to get a £50 Amazon gift card when you sign up with a referral link and transfer a pension or make a pension contribution of £1,000 or more.
When I signed up I had a pension pot from my first job that I transferred across which was really easy to do.
Sign up steps:
- Sign up with a referral link & enter your email address
- Set up your account from the link sent to your email, your national insurance number will be asked for at this point. You'll also answer questions that will help determine what portfolio your money will go into, you can choose between things like cautious and adventurous.
- Transfer a pension of £1,000 or more (I think this did take a few weeks to go through for me from what I remember but I didn't have to do anything after requesting it) or set up a one-off pension contribution or set up regular pension contributions, again totaling £1,000+.
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2024.05.16 09:55 Accomplished_Party23 I miss her and just need advice or help.
Hey yall, I never been one to post anything on Reddit. This is my first time on this sub too so I don't know how yall talk to each other on here so ill try to keep this short.
My ex and I have been broken up for about 10 months now and the last time I spoke to her was through text 5 months ago. I basically told her how I felt about her still, how much I missed her and how I wish I could have done more in the relationship. I ended it with how I would love to still be with her and hoping she would give me a second chance. I should also state that I said that if she felt I was being too clingy or pushy to ignore and to not even respond to the message, regardless if she responded or not I would respect her decision. She never responded. Its been 5 months and it appears her response, is no response.
We broke up on good terms, it was life circumstances that caused us to break up. I did notice that before the break up she became distant and even told me that she need time to her self. I knew that the relationship would come to an end. After a few days she told me that she just can't give me what I need, that she loved me and that she hopes we can still cherish this friendship that we had together. Over the course of a few months she checked up on me and as did I. We also broke up a month before her birthday and I still sent her the gifts that I wanted to give her prior to our break up. She said she loved them. A few days into the new year I texted her I hope she's doing well and she said the same to me and that I deserve nothing but the best in life. A few days after this, I sent her the message on how I felt about her and what we once had.
Its almost my birthday, in just a few days really. And as I was getting my journal to write down some thoughts I had, I saw the card she had given me last year. I forgot I had left it near my writing area. I opened it and began crying as I read what she had wrote. It reminded me of what we once had, of how happy I truly was back then. To be loved by someone in this world and to be accepted by someone.
I know it's been almost a year, but everyday since the break up I think about her. For the first few months it was hard but I kept trying and trying to move on and heal. It was easy on some days but most days were difficult. I don't even know how I was able to go on and not contact her after I told her how I felt but I somehow kept going, I kept living. I feel suicidal, there are days were I want to end my life, but I don't because I don't want to hurt my family. I don't do it because I know I'm stronger than my mind. I don't do it because I know there's so much more to life.
Im going to be 25, and she was my first ever girlfriend; I know sad. She was my first kiss and prior to this I only ever been in talking stages and I've done an incredible transformation for myself prior to meeting her. I was 225 lbs and I slimmed down to 170 in about a year. I became more social and confident and then one day I met her at work. We actually sat close to each other at our training then 2 months into our work we were assigned to sit next to each other. Slowly but surely we became talking to eachother and eventually we were attracted to each other and we began dating. We only dated for 6 months. But in those 6 months I never felt so happy. I never felt so loved and cared for. I never felt accepted before until I met her.
I know this wasn't short by any means and my thoughts are all jumbled and unorganized but I just had to get this of my chest. I just need a reminder that I'll be okay. That I'll get over this heart break and that I'll be just fine being alone. I know happiness comes from within and that the only person to will be with me is me, and that being kind to myself is the most important thing to being mentally healthy. So to me, writing this and hoping someone relates or someone can wish me luck is a way of healing.
Sorry for making a long and unorganized post yall, I just had to clear my mind. Thank you for reading and I hope you have a good day, take care.
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My ex and I have been broken up for about 10 months now and the last time I spoke to her was through text 5 months ago. I basically told her how I felt about her still, how much I missed her and how I wish I could have done more in the relationship. I ended it with how I would love to still be with her and hoping she would give me a second chance. I should also state that I said that if she felt I was being too clingy or pushy to ignore and to not even respond to the message, regardless if she responded or not I would respect her decision. She never responded. Its been 5 months and it appears her response, is no response.
We broke up on good terms, it was life circumstances that caused us to break up. I did notice that before the break up she became distant and even told me that she need time to her self. I knew that the relationship would come to an end. After a few days she told me that she just can't give me what I need, that she loved me and that she hopes we can still cherish this friendship that we had together. Over the course of a few months she checked up on me and as did I. We also broke up a month before her birthday and I still sent her the gifts that I wanted to give her prior to our break up. She said she loved them. A few days into the new year I texted her I hope she's doing well and she said the same to me and that I deserve nothing but the best in life. A few days after this, I sent her the message on how I felt about her and what we once had.
Its almost my birthday, in just a few days really. And as I was getting my journal to write down some thoughts I had, I saw the card she had given me last year. I forgot I had left it near my writing area. I opened it and began crying as I read what she had wrote. It reminded me of what we once had, of how happy I truly was back then. To be loved by someone in this world and to be accepted by someone.
I know it's been almost a year, but everyday since the break up I think about her. For the first few months it was hard but I kept trying and trying to move on and heal. It was easy on some days but most days were difficult. I don't even know how I was able to go on and not contact her after I told her how I felt but I somehow kept going, I kept living. I feel suicidal, there are days were I want to end my life, but I don't because I don't want to hurt my family. I don't do it because I know I'm stronger than my mind. I don't do it because I know there's so much more to life.
Im going to be 25, and she was my first ever girlfriend; I know sad. She was my first kiss and prior to this I only ever been in talking stages and I've done an incredible transformation for myself prior to meeting her. I was 225 lbs and I slimmed down to 170 in about a year. I became more social and confident and then one day I met her at work. We actually sat close to each other at our training then 2 months into our work we were assigned to sit next to each other. Slowly but surely we became talking to eachother and eventually we were attracted to each other and we began dating. We only dated for 6 months. But in those 6 months I never felt so happy. I never felt so loved and cared for. I never felt accepted before until I met her.
I know this wasn't short by any means and my thoughts are all jumbled and unorganized but I just had to get this of my chest. I just need a reminder that I'll be okay. That I'll get over this heart break and that I'll be just fine being alone. I know happiness comes from within and that the only person to will be with me is me, and that being kind to myself is the most important thing to being mentally healthy. So to me, writing this and hoping someone relates or someone can wish me luck is a way of healing.
Sorry for making a long and unorganized post yall, I just had to clear my mind. Thank you for reading and I hope you have a good day, take care.
2024.05.16 09:54 Ok-MysticDreamer 🛑There are a lot of people still needing mostly five star stickers. The five star ones are VERY hard to get . People are acting like the stickers for a free game are literally made of gold, I get it, it’s very frustrating but keep in mind it’s just a game.🙄
I’m getting messages where people are so frustrated because they have been needing the same stickecard for weeks now. I absolutely can NOT do anything about it. I’m in the same boat, except I’ve given up and now just play for the dice. Can care less if I pass the entire album. I’m always willing to gift and help others before anything, If I have it and you need it, chances are I will be giving it to you unless I’m almost out of dice or I am out completely. You definitely have to have thick skin and a lot of patience when it comes to this free online game . Just keep in mind that yes there are people out there that will always want something out of what they are giving but they may be also holding on to a sticker so that they can get what they need🤷🏻♀️
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2024.05.16 09:46 QuailForward3418 Gaslighting Partner
Im M28 and my partner is F27. We’ve been living together for 5 plus years now in an apartment. Recently, I think she gaslighted me - it’s a sunday, I woke up late as I streamed and played a game late the night before.
She woke me up as she cooked eggs and as I was eating, she already finished eating then told me to get up and get the clothes outside. Im fine with it initially as I asked her if I can just finish my eating then I’ll do that. To my shock, she said it cant wait and it’ll be quick. I was asking her if she was joking and as she was leaving to the room she said she wasn’t and closed the door.
I stood up, stopped eating, and followed her to the room asking if she really was joking because I’m still eating and she said she wasn’t. She knows this would frustrate me and I was disappointed and frustrated already I told her why it cant wait as Im still eating, I was asking her what’s with the rush and stuff but she just ignored me and opened her laptop to watch netflix. She ignored me and I was really frustrated. I stopped eating completely, got the hanging clothes outside (which is shaded by the way), I even hanged the newly washed clothes from the washing machine and washed the dishes as well.
We are ignoring each other for about a week now. I still do my normal routing including my solo walks every afternoon and lately it’s been giving me clarity and a moment to think if this relationship is worth it. Of course, this is not the first instance that this happened and recently I just got laid off from my work and it’s too much stress for me to handle. She knows that it takes a lot for me to get through my family problems, recent career problems, Im also not getting younger and the future worries me as I still can’t buy a house or be financially stable to provide for my future family. There are also other instances where she knows it will get me mad and frustrated so she does it or says it. There are also instances where she told me something but when I confirm it with her, she denies it when I really remember that she said it. Another instance which might seem like a little basic is when she gets cold water from the fridge and she returns the glass of water empty or only halfed - I told her to always refill it so we can drink cold water since we dont have a water dispenser and only relies on putting water in the fridge to make it cold. Whenever I ask her why the bottle is empty or halfed, she always denies its her and it’s obviously just the two of us in our apartment.
Another example is she has been asking me if she can loan money from me to buy an ipad but I told her I don’t have much savings and Im planning to go abroad so we have to save as much as we can as were both not from wealthy families, she also has a laptop and an android tablet and whenever I ask her what she will use it for she says just for watching movies and it’s apple - she keeps on repeating this and I always ask her why she can’t but it herself as we’re both working but then she always says she’s just joking but then when she constantly repeats it. I also referred her to my work (which I recently got laid off) even though she has no tech background and she got the job. I thought this could help her buy her mac/ipad. Recently, she bought a macbook thru her colleague’s credit card (she would pay her coworker for 2 months) - she could use this for both work and watching netflix.
I’m not perfect but I keep on telling her I just need peace of mind and for us not to fight and I can continue to fight life and get my stuff together but she is not helping. I have been also waiting for her to initiate and apologize but she appears to be okay even singing (We stay in one room). It’s like she does that care.
Since I’m working from home, I recently tried to work in cafes to get a different environment and think more and she has not sent me a single message to apologize or anything. Her work is only a 3 minute walk from our apartment.
NSFW: Don’t know if this helps but our sexual relationship is pretty normal I think, we have sex like twice or thrice a week (more frequent maybe 3 times or more a week when she’s safe) and just 2 weeks ago she was safe and we just had sex and she says it’s amazing but most of the time I finish before her (about 15 minutes or less I think - she has a nice body I really can’t help it). Last month she also opened up about wanting a sex toy (dildo) and I bought her that and she asks me if I like it when she uses it when we’re making love and I say yeah. Our most recent sex, she made me go outside the room for a couple of minutes then when I went inside she was using the dildo and I made her orgasm with the dildo while licking her clit. Then we do the usual sex without the toy. I noticed however that she denies having orgasm from the toy when I literally see it then she wants the toy removed and she wants my d inserted the .
Tldr: Is my girlfriend gaslighting me? She doesn’t respect my time of eating and she also has been ignoring me and does not appear to care for the past week.
Thanks in advance for thoughts/inputs. Would like to apologize for any grammatical errors if any - Im kind of winging everything right now.
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She woke me up as she cooked eggs and as I was eating, she already finished eating then told me to get up and get the clothes outside. Im fine with it initially as I asked her if I can just finish my eating then I’ll do that. To my shock, she said it cant wait and it’ll be quick. I was asking her if she was joking and as she was leaving to the room she said she wasn’t and closed the door.
I stood up, stopped eating, and followed her to the room asking if she really was joking because I’m still eating and she said she wasn’t. She knows this would frustrate me and I was disappointed and frustrated already I told her why it cant wait as Im still eating, I was asking her what’s with the rush and stuff but she just ignored me and opened her laptop to watch netflix. She ignored me and I was really frustrated. I stopped eating completely, got the hanging clothes outside (which is shaded by the way), I even hanged the newly washed clothes from the washing machine and washed the dishes as well.
We are ignoring each other for about a week now. I still do my normal routing including my solo walks every afternoon and lately it’s been giving me clarity and a moment to think if this relationship is worth it. Of course, this is not the first instance that this happened and recently I just got laid off from my work and it’s too much stress for me to handle. She knows that it takes a lot for me to get through my family problems, recent career problems, Im also not getting younger and the future worries me as I still can’t buy a house or be financially stable to provide for my future family. There are also other instances where she knows it will get me mad and frustrated so she does it or says it. There are also instances where she told me something but when I confirm it with her, she denies it when I really remember that she said it. Another instance which might seem like a little basic is when she gets cold water from the fridge and she returns the glass of water empty or only halfed - I told her to always refill it so we can drink cold water since we dont have a water dispenser and only relies on putting water in the fridge to make it cold. Whenever I ask her why the bottle is empty or halfed, she always denies its her and it’s obviously just the two of us in our apartment.
Another example is she has been asking me if she can loan money from me to buy an ipad but I told her I don’t have much savings and Im planning to go abroad so we have to save as much as we can as were both not from wealthy families, she also has a laptop and an android tablet and whenever I ask her what she will use it for she says just for watching movies and it’s apple - she keeps on repeating this and I always ask her why she can’t but it herself as we’re both working but then she always says she’s just joking but then when she constantly repeats it. I also referred her to my work (which I recently got laid off) even though she has no tech background and she got the job. I thought this could help her buy her mac/ipad. Recently, she bought a macbook thru her colleague’s credit card (she would pay her coworker for 2 months) - she could use this for both work and watching netflix.
I’m not perfect but I keep on telling her I just need peace of mind and for us not to fight and I can continue to fight life and get my stuff together but she is not helping. I have been also waiting for her to initiate and apologize but she appears to be okay even singing (We stay in one room). It’s like she does that care.
Since I’m working from home, I recently tried to work in cafes to get a different environment and think more and she has not sent me a single message to apologize or anything. Her work is only a 3 minute walk from our apartment.
NSFW: Don’t know if this helps but our sexual relationship is pretty normal I think, we have sex like twice or thrice a week (more frequent maybe 3 times or more a week when she’s safe) and just 2 weeks ago she was safe and we just had sex and she says it’s amazing but most of the time I finish before her (about 15 minutes or less I think - she has a nice body I really can’t help it). Last month she also opened up about wanting a sex toy (dildo) and I bought her that and she asks me if I like it when she uses it when we’re making love and I say yeah. Our most recent sex, she made me go outside the room for a couple of minutes then when I went inside she was using the dildo and I made her orgasm with the dildo while licking her clit. Then we do the usual sex without the toy. I noticed however that she denies having orgasm from the toy when I literally see it then she wants the toy removed and she wants my d inserted the .
Tldr: Is my girlfriend gaslighting me? She doesn’t respect my time of eating and she also has been ignoring me and does not appear to care for the past week.
Thanks in advance for thoughts/inputs. Would like to apologize for any grammatical errors if any - Im kind of winging everything right now.
2024.05.16 09:40 digimaf 36 weeks and v.emotional
Hey apologies in advance for long post. Not entirely sure what I’m looking for but sometimes misery loves company and just want to check I’m not going mental.
So I’m 36 weeks into a very wanted pregnancy after some fertility complications. We’re a bit older so their are kids on both sides of our families already (nieces) I’ve had a bit of a rough time first with sickness and now just with general fatigue, hip pain, insomnia etc. Brought my mat leave forward a bit and will finish this Friday which is a relief.
Anyway I hate to sound pathetic but just been feeling really disappointed with friends/ family and feeling pretty alone. I get everyone has busy lives but I do feel forgotten. No one really checks in and they barely ask how I am, offers of “help” don’t come to anything either even when I specifically suggest something. I have one great friend who does regularly txt/ call but she has two young kids herself and isn’t close by.
My husband is amazing and we’ve both been working tirelessly on our home for that past 5 weeks with DIY tasks and maintenance needed before baby arrives. Both working full time. He’s doing all the really heavy tasks and I’ve probably over stretched trying to help him (I’ve built all the nursery furniture alone at 35 weeks) but no-one else is going to do these things.
But this week has just been really rough and I’m feeling constantly tearful. My line manager works Monday- Wednesday and never even rang to wish me well ahead of Friday or even do the basic line management stuff. I’m working remotely these last few days and my team haven’t even given me a card.
I never had a baby shower or anything as I couldn’t bring myself to have to arrange it myself (that felt too pathetic) and my mum has always been super vocal about how she thinks they’re crass. I wouldn’t have wanted one for presents etc, more just so people could share in my excitement for baby girl.
I have my birthday next week and I’ll be alone as my husband will be working and no-one else has said they are around or asked. I’ve booked myself a massage but I feel sad even having to have done that myself and don’t know what I’ll do the rest of the day other than more chores. My in-laws sent me my present early (they forgot the date of my actual birthday) and it’s a bottle of wine ?!? I don’t drink and I’m pregnant.
I just get so sad when I see folk having these lovely few weeks before baby arrives going for coffee with friends and being supported and loved. I know the world doesn’t stop for me having a baby but I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
Anyway it would just be nice to stop crying. Here’s to anyone else who is doing it without that “village” everyone speaks about
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So I’m 36 weeks into a very wanted pregnancy after some fertility complications. We’re a bit older so their are kids on both sides of our families already (nieces) I’ve had a bit of a rough time first with sickness and now just with general fatigue, hip pain, insomnia etc. Brought my mat leave forward a bit and will finish this Friday which is a relief.
Anyway I hate to sound pathetic but just been feeling really disappointed with friends/ family and feeling pretty alone. I get everyone has busy lives but I do feel forgotten. No one really checks in and they barely ask how I am, offers of “help” don’t come to anything either even when I specifically suggest something. I have one great friend who does regularly txt/ call but she has two young kids herself and isn’t close by.
My husband is amazing and we’ve both been working tirelessly on our home for that past 5 weeks with DIY tasks and maintenance needed before baby arrives. Both working full time. He’s doing all the really heavy tasks and I’ve probably over stretched trying to help him (I’ve built all the nursery furniture alone at 35 weeks) but no-one else is going to do these things.
But this week has just been really rough and I’m feeling constantly tearful. My line manager works Monday- Wednesday and never even rang to wish me well ahead of Friday or even do the basic line management stuff. I’m working remotely these last few days and my team haven’t even given me a card.
I never had a baby shower or anything as I couldn’t bring myself to have to arrange it myself (that felt too pathetic) and my mum has always been super vocal about how she thinks they’re crass. I wouldn’t have wanted one for presents etc, more just so people could share in my excitement for baby girl.
I have my birthday next week and I’ll be alone as my husband will be working and no-one else has said they are around or asked. I’ve booked myself a massage but I feel sad even having to have done that myself and don’t know what I’ll do the rest of the day other than more chores. My in-laws sent me my present early (they forgot the date of my actual birthday) and it’s a bottle of wine ?!? I don’t drink and I’m pregnant.
I just get so sad when I see folk having these lovely few weeks before baby arrives going for coffee with friends and being supported and loved. I know the world doesn’t stop for me having a baby but I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
Anyway it would just be nice to stop crying. Here’s to anyone else who is doing it without that “village” everyone speaks about
2024.05.16 09:35 toxicity_enjoyer Is HDFC Money-back+ worth ?
Getting tons of calls ,emails and message from HDFC to take their money-back+ or indianoil card and I'm honestly not sure about the benefits. It's LTF but I already have Federal Onecard, axis neo,icici apay and ICICI rupay coral.
I have also heard in this sub that we won't be considered (bank internal policy ?)for better HDFC cards like infinia if we have the mb+ .
I fuel up for 5000+ every month and a card that can give rewards for it would be great.
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I have also heard in this sub that we won't be considered (bank internal policy ?)for better HDFC cards like infinia if we have the mb+ .
I fuel up for 5000+ every month and a card that can give rewards for it would be great.
2024.05.16 09:34 himanshukhatri704 Celebrating Raksha Bandhan with Rakhi and Card A Touch of Love and Personalization from Rakhi,com
Raksha Bandhan, a festival that celebrates the sacred bond between brothers and sisters, is a day filled with love, joy, and heartfelt emotions. While the Rakhi itself is a significant part of the celebration, adding a personalized card can make the occasion even more special. Let’s explore the beauty of celebrating Raksha Bandhan with a Rakhi and a card, and how this combination can add a personal touch to the festivities.
This Raksha Bandhan, take a step beyond the traditional and add a personal touch with a heartfelt card. Let the combination of Rakhi and card symbolize not only the sacred bond you share but also the unique and cherished relationship that will last a lifetime. Happy Raksha Bandhan!
Raksha Bandhan, a festival that celebrates the sacred bond between brothers and sisters, is a day filled with love, joy, and heartfelt emotions. While the Rakhi itself is a significant part of the celebration, adding a personalized card can make the occasion even more special. Let’s explore the beauty of celebrating Raksha Bandhan with a Rakhi and a card, and how this combination can add a personal touch to the festivities.
This Raksha Bandhan, take a step beyond the traditional and add a personal touch with a heartfelt card. Let the combination of Rakhi and card from Rakhi.com symbolize not only the sacred bond you share but also the unique and cherished relationship that will last a lifetime. Happy Raksha Bandhan!
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The Significance of Rakhi
Rakhi, the sacred thread tied by a sister on her brother’s wrist, symbolizes her love, prayers, and wishes for his well-being. In return, the brother vows to protect and cherish his sister. This simple thread carries deep emotional and cultural significance, making it a central part of Raksha Bandhan.Adding a Personal Touch with a Card
Including a card with the Rakhi adds an extra layer of sentiment and personalization. Here’s why combining a Rakhi with a card is a beautiful idea:- Expression of Emotions: While the Rakhi signifies the bond, a card allows you to express your feelings in words. Writing a heartfelt message can convey your love, gratitude, and the special memories you share with your brother or sister.
- Personalization: A personalized card can reflect your unique relationship. You can include inside jokes, shared memories, and specific sentiments that only you and your sibling understand, making the card a cherished keepsake.
- Keepsake Value: Unlike the Rakhi, which might eventually be taken off, a card can be kept and cherished for years. It becomes a lasting memento of the love and bond you share.
- Creativity: Cards offer a canvas for creativity. From handmade designs to digital art, you can create a card that is as unique and special as your relationship with your sibling.
Tips for Choosing the Perfect Rakhi and Card
- Select a Meaningful Rakhi: Choose a Rakhi that resonates with your brother’s style and preferences. Whether it’s a traditional Rakhi, a beaded one, or a Rakhi with precious stones, select one that he will love and appreciate.
- Personalize the Card:
- Message: Write a heartfelt message that conveys your love and appreciation. Share a favorite memory, express your gratitude, or simply tell your sibling how much they mean to you.
- Design: Opt for designs that reflect your sibling’s personality. You can choose from elegant, quirky, traditional, or modern designs based on their taste.
- Handmade Touch: If you’re crafty, consider making the card yourself. Handmade cards have a personal touch that store-bought cards can’t match. Use colorful papers, stickers, stamps, or even photos to make it unique.
- Digital Cards: If you’re apart from your sibling, a digital card can be a great alternative. Many online platforms offer customizable templates where you can add your message and images. You can email it or share it via social media.
How to Pair Rakhi with a Card
- Coordinated Themes: Choose a card and Rakhi that complement each other in terms of color and theme. This creates a harmonious and visually appealing gift.
- Thoughtful Presentation:
- Gift Box: Place the Rakhi and card in a beautiful gift box. Add a few chocolates or a small gift to make it even more special.
- Envelope: If you prefer simplicity, pair the Rakhi with a card in a matching envelope. Decorate the envelope with stickers or ribbons for a festive touch.
- Surprise Element: Add a little surprise to your card, like a small photo, a piece of jewelry, or a handwritten note. These small additions can make your gift even more memorable.
Conclusion
Celebrating Raksha Bandhan with a Rakhi and a personalized card brings an extra dimension of love and thoughtfulness to the occasion. It allows you to express your emotions, create lasting memories, and show your sibling how much they mean to you.This Raksha Bandhan, take a step beyond the traditional and add a personal touch with a heartfelt card. Let the combination of Rakhi and card symbolize not only the sacred bond you share but also the unique and cherished relationship that will last a lifetime. Happy Raksha Bandhan!
Raksha Bandhan, a festival that celebrates the sacred bond between brothers and sisters, is a day filled with love, joy, and heartfelt emotions. While the Rakhi itself is a significant part of the celebration, adding a personalized card can make the occasion even more special. Let’s explore the beauty of celebrating Raksha Bandhan with a Rakhi and a card, and how this combination can add a personal touch to the festivities.
The Significance of Rakhi
Rakhi, the sacred thread tied by a sister on her brother’s wrist, symbolizes her love, prayers, and wishes for his well-being. In return, the brother vows to protect and cherish his sister. This simple thread carries deep emotional and cultural significance, making it a central part of Raksha Bandhan.Adding a Personal Touch with a Card
Including a card with the Rakhi adds an extra layer of sentiment and personalization. Here’s why combining a Rakhi with a card is a beautiful idea:- Expression of Emotions: While the Rakhi signifies the bond, a card allows you to express your feelings in words. Writing a heartfelt message can convey your love, gratitude, and the special memories you share with your brother or sister.
- Personalization: A personalized card can reflect your unique relationship. You can include inside jokes, shared memories, and specific sentiments that only you and your sibling understand, making the card a cherished keepsake.
- Keepsake Value: Unlike the Rakhi, which might eventually be taken off, a card can be kept and cherished for years. It becomes a lasting memento of the love and bond you share.
- Creativity: Cards offer a canvas for creativity. From handmade designs to digital art, you can create a card that is as unique and special as your relationship with your sibling.
Tips for Choosing the Perfect Rakhi and Card
- Select a Meaningful Rakhi: Choose a Rakhi that resonates with your brother’s style and preferences. Whether it’s a traditional Rakhi, a beaded one, or a Rakhi with precious stones, select one that he will love and appreciate.
- Personalize the Card:
- Message: Write a heartfelt message that conveys your love and appreciation. Share a favorite memory, express your gratitude, or simply tell your sibling how much they mean to you.
- Design: Opt for designs that reflect your sibling’s personality. You can choose from elegant, quirky, traditional, or modern designs based on their taste.
- Handmade Touch: If you’re crafty, consider making the card yourself. Handmade cards have a personal touch that store-bought cards can’t match. Use colorful papers, stickers, stamps, or even photos to make it unique.
- Digital Cards: If you’re apart from your sibling, a digital card can be a great alternative. Many online platforms offer customizable templates where you can add your message and images. You can email it or share it via social media.
How to Pair Rakhi with a Card
- Coordinated Themes: Choose a card and Rakhi that complement each other in terms of color and theme. This creates a harmonious and visually appealing gift.
- Thoughtful Presentation:
- Gift Box: Place the Rakhi and card in a beautiful gift box. Add a few chocolates or a small gift to make it even more special.
- Envelope: If you prefer simplicity, pair the Rakhi with a card in a matching envelope. Decorate the envelope with stickers or ribbons for a festive touch.
- Surprise Element: Add a little surprise to your card, like a small photo, a piece of jewelry, or a handwritten note. These small additions can make your gift even more memorable.
This Raksha Bandhan, take a step beyond the traditional and add a personal touch with a heartfelt card. Let the combination of Rakhi and card from Rakhi.com symbolize not only the sacred bond you share but also the unique and cherished relationship that will last a lifetime. Happy Raksha Bandhan!
2024.05.16 09:19 ExaltFibs24 Trying to apply for SBI Cashback card, somewhere error message came. Now trying to retrieve the application, it shows a grayed out screen and never ending circle in motion. Any solutions?
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2024.05.16 09:15 RosieTheGremlin Absolutely done- Mother’s Day rant
I’ll start off my saying I’m simultaneously sad to see so many posts like this on here… but also kinda glad I’m not alone. So Mother’s Day and my birthday are often the same day or so close that they’ve been celebrated together for most of my life and all of my adult life. This means that I’ve always done stuff for my mother on my birthday, and typically my family just tacks my birthday onto whatever I’ve planned for my mother. This year we celebrate on Saturday instead of Sunday to accommodate my brothers work schedule… I planned a roadtrip to the beach and spent all week working on repairing my large (12 passenger) van so everyone could ride together. The day of my mother informs me that we will need to leave the beach early because she and my Dad planned dinner with friends. I reminded her that this was also kinda my birthday celebration and that it was hurtful that she was blowing it off, especially after she made a very big deal about wanting to do a Mother’s Day thing with everyone (brother, sister in law, my 15 month old, etc). She basically ignored me, and I made sure she was home in time for dinner. I didn’t get a Mother’s Day gift or card or a birthday card or anything (husband is also upsetting me atm). My actual birthday was Monday, and nothing was planned by my husband. My mother got pissy because they’re wasn’t a family thing planned by my husband because she wanted to celebrate my birthday, and made sure she complained and vented and was pissy about it at me all day. So I’m just done, I’ve told everyone I’ve no intention of celebrating my birthday or Mother’s Day with any of them in the future. I’m just sad and hurt and done.
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2024.05.16 09:12 HealthySlice7861 Please help me understand the goal of these hackers
So this afternoon I suddenly get all these messages in my inbox. An account has been created at [site]. Your profile at [site] has been updated (x3). Your purchase (of perfume for all of $113) from [site] has been confirmed. You have subscribed to dnscap-users (with a request to click to confirm or click elsewhere to report malicious adding to a list).
I immediately called my bank and shut down my card, and I called [site] to tell them to suspend the order. My bank discovered an additional charge, for all of $24 at Bath & Bodyworks. Needless to say I also changed my password at various places for good measure (though I have two-step verification pretty much everywhere and definitely anywhere important, so it was really out of an abundance of caution). But I'm not understanding a few things, here:
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I immediately called my bank and shut down my card, and I called [site] to tell them to suspend the order. My bank discovered an additional charge, for all of $24 at Bath & Bodyworks. Needless to say I also changed my password at various places for good measure (though I have two-step verification pretty much everywhere and definitely anywhere important, so it was really out of an abundance of caution). But I'm not understanding a few things, here:
- How the hell did whoever it is get my name, my home address, my card info (including the 3-digit security code on the back, presumably), my email address, and my phone number (they appear to have switched out the last digit on purpose)? Either they don't have my birthdate or they are making one up just for fun; at least they put me down at [site] as over a decade younger than I am, I guess. They also mis-gendered me; which given my clearly gendered name was mildly amusing. God only knows where they signed in from; they don't appear to have actually accessed my email, and though there are two devices listed underneath cell phones in my Google account that I don't recognize, the first sign-in date is two years ago for those, so it's probably somehow me after all. To answer an obvious question, no, I don't have any malware; I routinely run scans and I ran one after this for good measure.
- Most importantly, what even is the point, here? Order some crappy perfume and have it sent to an address (that is presumably not actually theirs, given that it is located in an incredibly ritzy subdivision somewhere on the other side of the continent). Order cheap bath products somewhere. And sign up for a single mailing list...why? Why use my actual email address (instead of a random burner account) to set up an account at the site (thereby instantly alerting me to the fraud, before any money can actually be stolen)? Why only attempt spend a grand total of $134 (well, okay, it's not a felony at that level, I guess)?
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2024.05.16 08:45 alouettealouette_ Stuck in a roller coaster, but mainly going down.
Yesterday was my birthday, and I couldn't stop crying. I don't ever remember crying because I was sad on my birthday. I feel so ignored, discarded, unloved, and mistreated by my WH.
We're living separately, so he texted me good morning and a very generic happy birthday message. Invited me out to lunch, but there was some confusion about where to meet, so when I showed up at his job (because that's where I understood I should meet him), his immediate reaction was "what are you doing here?". Not a hug. Not a kiss (in over a month). Not a "Hi! How are you? Nice to see you". Nothing.
He kept asking me about my plans for today, so I invited him to dinner with my family - this was the first time he saw my family since DD#1 three months ago. Didn't even sit next to me despite being offered to and just gave me awkward side hugs, and the most generic and impersonal birthday card a WH who has asked for reconciliation could come up with.
I texted him to ask of he had any romantic love left in his heart for me or if he was just trying to force it (for context he has been extremely cold and mean with me since we officially agreed to a reconciliation, and now blames me for losing his "friendship" to AP). He gave me a long winded response of nothing at all, while in the process making me feel like I'm being unreasonable for asking that.
I feel disgusted at myself for begging for the bare minimum. I'm tired of being rejected and then yelled at when my strength shakes a bit. I'm so so so hurt. Triggers are starting to come up and they're not pretty.
I feel so unsupported and misunderstood by him.
I'm so angry at the thought that he spent part of our 10 year anniversary weekend with her for her birthday, but all I get is jack squat, and the lingring feeling of being an afterthought in his life and sometimes a nuisance.
I want this to work, but I'm tired of being in a one-sided relationship.
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We're living separately, so he texted me good morning and a very generic happy birthday message. Invited me out to lunch, but there was some confusion about where to meet, so when I showed up at his job (because that's where I understood I should meet him), his immediate reaction was "what are you doing here?". Not a hug. Not a kiss (in over a month). Not a "Hi! How are you? Nice to see you". Nothing.
He kept asking me about my plans for today, so I invited him to dinner with my family - this was the first time he saw my family since DD#1 three months ago. Didn't even sit next to me despite being offered to and just gave me awkward side hugs, and the most generic and impersonal birthday card a WH who has asked for reconciliation could come up with.
I texted him to ask of he had any romantic love left in his heart for me or if he was just trying to force it (for context he has been extremely cold and mean with me since we officially agreed to a reconciliation, and now blames me for losing his "friendship" to AP). He gave me a long winded response of nothing at all, while in the process making me feel like I'm being unreasonable for asking that.
I feel disgusted at myself for begging for the bare minimum. I'm tired of being rejected and then yelled at when my strength shakes a bit. I'm so so so hurt. Triggers are starting to come up and they're not pretty.
I feel so unsupported and misunderstood by him.
I'm so angry at the thought that he spent part of our 10 year anniversary weekend with her for her birthday, but all I get is jack squat, and the lingring feeling of being an afterthought in his life and sometimes a nuisance.
I want this to work, but I'm tired of being in a one-sided relationship.
2024.05.16 08:36 wsgh23 [H] $16 Amazon Gift Card [W] 85% Paypal G/S
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2024.05.16 08:32 BumchatAI 🍑🍑🍑 Hold onto your butts! Side Context & Personas! (v1.2.0)
 | Hello there fellow Bummers! We're EARLY with our next major Bumchat update! submitted by BumchatAI to BumchatAI [link] [comments] So much has happened in the last week (we released an average of six updates per day), lets talk about it:
Gem Giveaway! Lets cut straight to it; Bumchat is lacking in character diversity. We need more characters ASAP. This week I hope to add tavern card importing, but even still, tavern characters have less features than our native ones. For some indeterminate amount of time; we'll be giving away 300 gems every day to our top daily kudos earner. The only way to earn kudos at the moment is via upvotes on public characters - this will be expanding in the next week or so with Trinkets. The giveaway will happen daily at 9am UTC, and the most recent giveaway recipients will be listed on the leaderboard page. Personas Personas are familiar to most people who use similar chat apps. Our personas allow you to switch your identity in a chat at any time. Our personas include fields for physical and personality traits, as well as additional information. Personas! Side Context This one is special! We're extremely excited about this feature. Its something we dreamt up years ago and expected other chat apps to implement... years ago. Long before Bumchat was a glint in our eyes, we had written custom scripts to implement this in our favourite local inference frontend. Side Context keeps the chat consistent for far longer than without it. I'll use a scenario to demonstrate the problem; you're chatting to your favourite character, and somewhere in the character card it says "{{char}} is standing by the open fridge, ready to offer you a drink". After that, no matter what happens in your chat, after some time, your chat will *always* gravitate back to that fridge and drink. Side Context adds several fields at the chat level, currently for Location, Outfit and Mood (with more in testing). In your character card, you fill out the fridge part at the "starting location", and when that changes naturally during roleplay (for example "we went to the bed room"), the relevant side context is updated automatically and now there is no mention of a fridge anywhere in your prompt. This has a dramatic effect on chat coherence, but it requires additional inference by the LLM. So we've limited its use to chats sent to our flagship Suno model (which we've also reduced the usage cost of by 25% this week). An additional benefit of side context is; it keeps outfits consistent and updates them automatically - which means you no longer have to stop the flow of the conversation to ask "wait, what are you wearing?" Side context adds a couple of seconds to response generation when used, and it can be turned off completely in the new chat settings menu above the send button. Yuno started in her office, but now we're walking in the park. Fancy Pants Fancy Pants are the new name/branding for our subscription tier. We believe strongly that all features of Bumchat should be free to use. Fancy pants allow you to blow past limits imposed on free usage of features. We plan to add significant benefits to our Fancy Pants subscribers with EVERY major update. For this first release, FP members can create unlimited personas, while free users have a limit to the amount of personas they can maintain at once. Our New Models Bumchat is now supported under-the-hood by five separate models! We have Aura, Muse and Suno, but then also one for generating our character creator suggestions, and a different one for generating Side Context entries. We're iterating on these several times a week at the moment, so some chat quirks might come and go. We're currently very happy with our models' performance. Big Much Thanks Last week I mentioned that Bumchat was 4% of the way towards being profitable. This week, I'm happy to report both that Bumchat is MORE EXPENSIVE to run, and yet we're over 50% of the way towards profitability! Thanks so much to our Fancy Pants subscribers and our free users alike! If we can cover our basic infrastructure costs, we can continue to improve the value proposition for all users, free and paid alike. Ideally, we would be able to completely remove the concept of Gems from Bumchat altogether. Looking forward We're going to continue working day and night on Bumchat. We won't stop. We will make Bumchat the single best one of these character chat apps available. We're going to redefine the industry with some of our upcoming features, and we're dedicated to forever pushing the envelope forward on UX. We come from a game development background, and our belief is that character chat apps should be more dynamic and interactive, more self aware and less linear by default. This week (today!) we're going to launch our first ever advertising campaign. We have no idea what to expect, but hopefully it leads to good things. We've already come so far with zero advertising. Our next major update will include Trinkets, another unique feature that we're extremely excited about. As always, we love to hear your feedback. Please reach out to us on Discord, or here on Reddit. And finally, you can find Bumchat itself over at Bumchat.ai |
2024.05.16 08:21 rubygrey2021 50% Off All Readings On My Etsy!
Hi there! You can call me Ruby, I've been reading for under a year but found tarot as I was going through my own spiritual journey and picked it up rather quickly. My readings center around self reflection and a tool for insight rather then a way to predict the future. I never sugarcoat my readings and I'll always tell you how I see it in the cards. I love using tarot as a tool to help people, to show them areas they need to work on or giving advice or using it to help understand a person or situation better and giving guidance. It does occasionally take me a few days to get the reading out but I work two other jobs so I'm very busy and want to take my time with my readings because I like to go in depth! Right now I'm offering a special where you can purchase any in depth reading for 10 dollars 5 dollars!
I have other readings available as well and all my other prices are listed below in CAD so if you're american the prices will be lower then what I have listed (including the10 dollar 5 dollar special). <3 If you don't see anything that suits your needs feel free to message me and we can work something out! Thank you for checking me out and I look forward to hopefully reading for you!
https://featheredtarot.etsy.com/
One Card Reading:$2.50 $1.25
Three Card Any Topic/ Relationship Reading:$10 $5
Celtic Cross Reading:$25 $12.50
In Depth Relationship Reading:$30 $15
Self Read Oracle Cards:$1+ $0.50+
Rush my reading (24 hour is likely but if not 24 hours you get pushed to the front of the line and it's guaranteed to be as soon as I can) $15
Yes/No Questions:$0.50+ $0.25+
For those interested I'm also offer various different charity tarot readings for Ukraine from anywhere from $4.50 $2.25 for a one card reading to $40 $20 for an in depth relationship reading. The majority of the proceeds will go to a charity of your choosing from the ones I have listed so please feel free to check out that listing if you're interested. <3
Reviews:https://www.reddit.com/userubygrey2021/comments/ur7xdk/reviews/
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I have other readings available as well and all my other prices are listed below in CAD so if you're american the prices will be lower then what I have listed (including the
https://featheredtarot.etsy.com/
One Card Reading:
Three Card Any Topic/ Relationship Reading:
Celtic Cross Reading:
In Depth Relationship Reading:
Self Read Oracle Cards:
Rush my reading (24 hour is likely but if not 24 hours you get pushed to the front of the line and it's guaranteed to be as soon as I can) $15
Yes/No Questions:
For those interested I'm also offer various different charity tarot readings for Ukraine from anywhere from $
Reviews:https://www.reddit.com/userubygrey2021/comments/ur7xdk/reviews/
https://www.reddit.com/userubygrey2021/comments/160p4ereviews_part_2/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3