Contemporary house plans with flat roof

I (sponsor) am currently in a house share, renting through an estate agent from a landlord. My sister is a property owner and has said we could happily move in with her for a while once my partner arrives in the UK (if visa approved) to find our feet whilst we flat hunt. Would it be easiemake more sense to say that we will be living with her and get her to fill out the relevant documents, rather than trying to approach my current landlord and all other tenants? I am concerned the landlord will not allow my partner to move in with us even for a short while.
Is it ok to say that we ‘plan’ to live with my sister’, even though I don’t currently live there?

I’ve been living at a house that has a unit downstairs ( 2 people) and upstairs (5 people). My group of friends contains 5 girls, myself included, who found a house in the upstairs unit where we met up at the house tour and found out the downstairs unit is responsible for handling our rent and WiFi. We signed the lease and when they talked us through trash duties and house rules and such as if they were the landlord because we were told by the landlord that they were to handle the rent and send it to him. For details, a girl was paying for a single for 800$, two girls shared a double for 1200$ total, and another two girls shared a double for 1300$ total. We also paid 17$ each for WiFi between the 7 people, everyone in the house unit. I was suspicious in the beginning about the cost of WiFi as it was a lot for 7 people, and I asked them what WiFi they used and they said they weren’t sure. I planned on getting my own WiFi as they said that was possible before movie in but then they suddenly said that wasn’t possible now. I didn’t give it much thought cause I trusted them until recently, we had to resign the new lease for the new year. Now I already texted the landlord and he said there would be a 75$ increase total and so everyone’s rent should only increase a couple more dollars. It wasn’t until the new contract was signed that the downstairs unit tells us that OO everyone will be paying almost 100$ more this year. Obviously confused, we later text the landlord and he states that he is not responsible for how the rent is split and that he just requires 4275$ a month. We looked at the signed lease he sent on email and we realized the rent we have been paying is shared with them and that they’ve only been paying around 250$ for rent in their unit downstairs and tried to scam us even more money for this year’s rent. I’m pretty sure they are scamming us with our WiFi too. I’m going to ask for receipts and bills they paid for WiFi and how much they pay for rent, but before confronting them, what should I do? Any advice or certain things I should keep in mind? Can I sue them or also sue the landlord for negligence or such?

I am [21F] and was raised in an Indian household. My parents are somewhat conservative/strict and interrogate everything I want to do. They are nice to me but they snap really quickly at me when I disagree with them.
For context, I went to a college outside of my hometown and I made a dumb plan of graduating early. I’m an electrical engineering major. I failed a couple classes because I rushed things and now at the summer of 2024 I have one class left (senior project II) which I can only take in the fall in-person. I live in a big city (don’t want to share my state’s name) and the class is located in another big city 200 miles away. This summer I am at my parents house not taking any classes.
I don’t want to be at my parents house at all, I want to be independent and live on my own. I love university because I love partying, hanging with friends, having sex with guys, wearing what I like, and living by my own schedule. At my parents house I have no friends and whenever I want to do something like even go out for a walk they won’t give me space.
I tried looking for internships outside of town but no luck. The only one I got was the remote internship which I worked for the last two years (summers). The last two summers were total hell. I was called a “fat bitch” for wanting to wear regular summer clothes and before that I was called dumb for refusing to hangout with a guy they wanted me to date. I had no friends those summers and every time I was around my parents (they pretty much wfh).
I don’t want to work the remote one because they will extend me a co-op and then full time and my parents will say the most logical thing for me to do financially is stay at their place. I am pretending like the remote job rejected me. I asked them if I can move to the town my class is offered in a month earlier but they said it’s an illogical move. My dad keeps nagging me to look online for remote positions and my mom keeps pushing me to talk to employers in town. All I want is to move out and not live with them. My dad even said that I want to move out because I have a boyfriend in the town my class is offered in. It’s nothing like that. All throughout high school I’ve been deprived of a normal American teen live. I finally lived it in college and now my life is gone again. My dad even said what’s wrong with being at home, we let you eat what you want as if eating is the only thing in my life.
I don’t have a car nor am I added on my parents insurance. I have a drivers license though and around 20k saved up. I’ll probably be stuck here for the rest of my life or at least for my youth. My entire 21 and 22 years are probably going to be at home rotting away. I’ll never meet men in the next five years. I’ll have no friends and no drama or anything interesting in my life. Sometimes I wonder if studying a hard degree was worth it. I feel like just ending everything. Even if i get a job out of town that’s in person my parents may not let me go. My mom is also fixated on me marrying an Indian man and she’s after the ones who don’t like me and have a no personality.

I just quit my job that wasn’t giving me enough hours. New job is less pay, $30.50, but guaranteed hours. I’m supporting myself, husband who can’t work, and child on my nurse (lpn) income. I’ll be making $30.50hr at 36 hours. I want to cut my bills down to as close to zero as possible partially because I want to get my RN but partially because I want to lay in bed and be depressed at how hopeless life is. I stopped doing travel nursing band became genuinely traumatized at some of the stuff I saw. I was asked to do things, and witnessed actually abuse, and it changed me. While traveling I took a contract plan with Verizon that includes 2 phones, Apple Watch, iPad, and a mobile hot spot. The plan is $370, which was fine before but isn’t now. How can u get out of it? Do I stop paying and give the phones back? Idc if it ruins my credit because I’ll never afford a house anyways. I’m destined to live in poverty like I grew up in. I live check to check. My car is giving out, it’s a 2008 Acura with 233k miles. It won’t hold oil anymore probably because I drove it all over the Midwest for blood money. Rent $550, WiFi $10, electric $160, car payment $240 (pay off in Oct), student loan $187 (parent plus loan), storage unit $50, car insurance $130 and gym membership for family $23. We spend over $1500? just on groceries. I’ll never be able to furnish my new, one bedroom, apartment but at least I can afford it. How do I not let life get the best of me? Sorry if this post is all over the place as I’m worrying this in tears at how overwhelmed I am.

So, to preface this, my dad [47M] and I [20NB] have a TERRIBLE relationship. I am in a divorced family and this is one of those situations where both parents are the bad guy. I'll save what I did to my mom for another story, this is all about my dad.
When I was a kid, right after the divorce, I started visitation with my dad every other weekend and whenever I specifically requested to see him. My mom wanted to make sure I at least got some kind of paternal experience. I remember that, at first, it was fine and I'd go spend time with him and we'd play games or cook together. He was being truly a great father to me.
This all ended very abruptly when I didn't see him for three months with no warning. When I saw him again, he took me to an arcade and we won some tickets and got prizes. He began telling me he was in college and studying so he could get a real cool job. I was around 8 years old at this point and didn't understand fully what college was for, but I just nodded and smiled.
We are about to leave the arcade and he apologizes to me by saying, "I'm sorry I haven't seen you much. I'll try to see you more, but only if your mom will let me."
I didn't see him for another 3-ish months. This happened for 2 years straight and every time he would tell me that my mom wasn't letting him see me. This made me hate my mom growing up and started my feud with her that lasted well into my teenage years. I had always just assumed he was tell the truth because why would my dad lie to me?
Eventually we went back to the every other weekend schedule and whenever I wanted to take a walk to see him (he lived less than a mile away at this point). I, at one point, went on a walk to see him and a cop pulled over by me asking why a 10 year-old little girl was walking down a busy road by herself. I told him and he drove me to my dad.
My dad was furious and yelled at my mom, thinking I was being dropped off and not walking. He eventually let that go and I started staying at his house more often. That's when things started to shift in his personality.
I learned some interesting things while living with him! Let's make a list of these things:

1. My dad served 4 years in the U.S. Military as a First Private in the Army.
2. My dad has a multitude of mental issues like Bipolar 2 Schizoeffective and Autism, among other things.
3. My dad is medicated for all of his problems.
4. My dad never knew about me SA and r*** situation.
5. My dad is a devout and pious Christian with severe right-wingest ideals.

How many of these are true? Numbers 2 and 5 are true, the rest are absolute lies. Now, I don't care what your political or religious beliefs are, just don't shove them down my throat. Keep them to yourselves, please and thank you. Also, mental disorders are something people can have, and that's fine. Just make sure you're medicated (if you need to be) and make people aware of your stuff if you live with them.
The other things are things I found out weren't true via other people (or myself, in the case of my r***). Turns out, everyone in my family knows my dad is crazy and just rolls with it. I was advised, by my grandmother, to just say yes or okay and move on from whatever he says. So I did.
I spent 6 years of my life just pretending and acting like stuff was okay. I came out to him as non-binary and pan. His answer was to take me to therapy and insist I was being brainwashed by Antifa to believe that any of "that stuff" was real. I was banned from any form of lesbian activity while living with him.
At one point I had come home late from a friend's house (I was 18 and spending time with my friend for her birthday) and he got mad at me. I told him I had texted him to tell him that traffic was bad and I would be a bit late. He says I'm lying and refuses to look at his phone to check for a text.
He then says I am a c*nt and that I have 24 hours to leave and find somewhere else to live. I, according to a lawyer friend, don't have to listen to him as I am a tenant on the lease that pays the majority of rent and can request 30 days to leave from the housing authority as he does not own the home we live in. I decided to say whatever and just look for somewhere else instead.
I end up moving in with a random guy, getting pregnant with twins, moving in with my mom (who is being strangely nice and accommodating) cause the guy who got me pregnant is a drug addict and abuser, and then losing my kids to my mom in a custody battle over my financial stabily after they turn 5 months old and she kicks me out of her house to be homeless.
It's at this point in my life I am fed up with my family. I'm angry, sad, and confused. So, I decided to move out to California to live with a close friend (who became my partner for a bit and then told me they don't love me, so now I'm gonna move again). I called my grandmother to tell her the plan and she said I should tell my dad.
I don't know why I even entertained the thought, but I said sure and called him. The conversation started normally and everything was fine till I told him I was headed for California. He freaked out and said that I shouldn't cause people were getting robbed and stuff. I told him I wasn't going to a big city we're stuff like that was happening and that I would be in a small town in a neighborhood of retired older residents.
He starts bringing up old stories of how I used to lie about picking on my brothers and would sneak treats as a little kid, and brought up old stories about the things I'd do as a kid. Normal dumb kid stuff that kids to to test waters on what they can and can't do. He then got all sorts of egotistical and rude with me and said, "Well, don't come cryin' to me when everything goes downhill, little girl."
I snapped. It was at that moment that I lost my sh*t and just unloaded everything on him.
"Oh, really, Dad? Like you did when we couldn't pay rent and I was a teen prstitute for a year and a half cause you came crying to me with your problems? I don't have time for your BS and I really don't have time for any more of your lies. 4 months in the military, not 4 years. Never been medicated for your problems when you're supposed to be on high dosage lithium for your problems. When you said you never knew what happened to me at 13, you lied! It was your friends that did that sht! Or maybe we should talk about the gender identity crisis I went through because of you? I was confused for years because of that! You wanna talk about lies and deceit? Address your own."
It was at that moment that I heard a voice in the background say, "Seriously, Matt?"
My dad had his phone on speaker and was at work during a meeting with his coworkers and boss.
Haven't heard from him since he hung up that call. 🤣

Situation is I have 200A service, with a 90A sub-panel in my garage.
Right now the idea is to wire in a 6/2 MC cable surface mounted in the garage off of the sub-panel from a 50A breaker. Charger will be set to run at 32A to give a safe margin for continuous load and taking into account the 80% rule I should have plenty of headroom I think.
The 6/2 MC cable is probably overkill, I could probably do 8/2 and go with a 40A breaker but would like some future proofing for my effort.
90A, 240V service to the sub-panel gives 21.84kW of power available, 80% of that gives ~17.5 kW useable (80% rule) so given my peak demand of 4 kW out of the sub-panel (very rarely) I should have plenty of room to grow and keep up with the 32A/240V charger (7.68 kW).
Thoughts? Am I going to burn my house down? I plan to use bushings on the MC cable, use a torque screwdriver on the breaker terminals, etc. etc.

So just for context, I like to do creative writing exercises by trying to string along connections between fictional characters that have no connections, I've seemingly incidentally come to the conclusion of something about Courier 6 and The Lone Wanderer.
I'm not gonna beat around the bush beyond that. I will explain what my thought process is. I'm going to explain why Courier 6 is a con artist, and the Lone Wanderer is the beginning of the story of what would become the West Coasts most dangerous Mailman. A hero who truly lived long enough to become the villain in a world of his own making.
The Lone Wanderer, and why his character is designed to have a sequel story.
Upon completing Project Purity, certain things to note happen in the general Lore of the game. The Lone Wanderer is confirmed to have purified the wasteland upon delivering the G.E.C.K (keep note of this entire sentence), and also confirmed to have lost his Father and Sarah Lyons before the time New Vegas is taken place. The Dialogue of the Lone Wanderer is unique because people actually are consciously aware of his fame due to Three Dog's radio station. James alludes to this in dialogue. In fallout 4, Megaton is alluded to have been destroyed.
This leads me to believe the Lone WandereCourier 6 may be the same individual, due to James' untimely demise, would lead anybody to be stricken with severe mental illness. (I KNOW ITS A REACH BUT HEAR ME OUT)
Let's discuss Courier 6's past
His earliest known accomplishments is being a Postman for a California based Mailing Company in the early 2280's, now traveling across the entire nation (extremely treacherous, yet not really a sweat for someone as powerful and dangerous as loss-stricken Lone Wanderer). The violent actions of the Lone Wanderer are yours to create as you play the game of course. Same for New Vegas. What leads me to believe they are one in the same is due to Lonesome Road, Ulysses alluding to some sort of "Talk" about the man that is the Courier. There's also the idea of how the Courier traveled the Divide with a straight up nuclear weapons detonation device.
It's literally stated by Ulysses and even your OWN BRAIN that YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE. Responsibility is a common theme in dialogue between people of importance in the stories and the Lone WandereCourier 6. Why? Because the Lone Wanderer was abandoned by his father, and lost his mother during child birth. The loss the Lone Wanderer has experienced, as a staunchly well esteemed vault dweller (passing all exams, escaped, saved the wasteland from being exposed to the Modified FEV). Dude is a straight up Hero, yet, if we are to assume this character would go on after the end of the story of Fallout 3, what exactly would a man like this do? He'd find a new home, far far away, doing a job similar to what would amount to being his calling (other than annihilating every single thing in his path). Being a Mailman.
I don't know why nobody has realized this but the story of the Lone Wanderer in Fallout 3 is actually a story about a young adult man finding his calling in being a Mail Carrier. Having been dealing with so much trauma, a 19 year old man that is the Lone Wanderer, would definitely have a psychopathy after all that happens. Imagine what it must be like for a man like Ulysses to be from Cali, and meeting the Lone Wanderer (nobody knows what the Lone Wanderer looks like on the west coast, but know OF him.)
Now into the REALNESS ZONE because I wanna explain what I was thinking that made me connect the dots, besides the fact that the idea that being able to set your age in FNV means it's impossible for it to be a sequel to Fallout 3 due to the Lone Wanderer is confirmed 19 years of age. You JUST TURN to adult age by the events of Fallout 3, by New Vegas, that man has experienced a LOT. And that LOT, has got to be all of the events of Fallout 3 for one reason.
Ulysses knows who Courier 6 truly is, but due to amnesia, and Ulysses own psychopathy (recurring theme for people who become exceptionally dangerous and powerful in the Wasteland), and its this dialogue that basically has been in front of ALL OF US the entire time, and nobody has ever known what it actually means. The Courier definitely doesn't, but the Lone Wanderer, if he were talking to Ulysses, I know for a fact that all of Ulysses dialogue would remain unchanged, but the Lone Wanderer would say very different things than what the Courier 6 said.
"Name's died twice to history. If the West thanks you... the East won't, in time. Fall apart, back to the tribes, maybe."
Implying that Courier 6 had a double life, or a life before the current one Ulysses met him. He met him before Benny shot him, but clearly wasn't close in any capacity. Referring to knowing where he came from, and possibly knowing he's the Lone Wanderer. If anyone could get the signal from DC of any news regarding the Lone Wanderer, it is Ulysses (Ulysses' Point in Big Mt. Big Mt. contains many many clues as well.)
"Let the land do the killing for you, that's one of the things you taught me."
Whether the Courier at the time of transporting the Platinum Chip, had either intentionally or unintentionally set off the nukes in his path, the idea of him being completely unaware of it before Benny shot him is completely false according to Ulysses' statement. Basically, whatever was already there; nuclear missile silos, were what would be the land that killed everything for the Courier. He says he taught it to him because, well, as someone who's talked about on the other continental shelf, he must know what he's doing. He must be deliberate in his intention. Maybe it's alluding to this man being not actually a Courier... Maybe...
Courier 6's Brain's Dialogue: "I don't know. I'm afraid the trauma of our separation rendered me quite insensate. I didn't come around until I was safely ensconced in this tank." (separation anxiety is one of the biggest hints in my opinion. Not just every wasteland powerhouse experiences subconscious anxieties of the nature that someone living in a cozy environment would. Like the Lone Wanderer, having lost his father, and mother, and Sarah Lyons, and Megaton.)
"Oh, lovely, we've reached the mindless violence portion of the program. Tell me, what exactly are you - and I use the word loosely - planning?" (clearly there's a separation of intention between the Courier's subconsciousness and his actual actions. That's indicative of someone who cannot fathom responsibility for his actions.
"Ah yes, there's that greed and general sense of malice. I'd nearly forgotten it. What's the plan, then?" (I think this just reinforces everything even more because it's obvious from lines like this that this man has a serious history and even his own subconsciousness knows he did something extremely bad... like nuking an entire trade route in a drunken stupor? Don't believe me? Why does your brainless body say this then?)
Brainless Courier 6:
"I would. And I'd follow it up with an alcohol-and-ant-nectar cocktail every night." (a truth. Without the brain to develop conscious lies, clearly this was what Courier 6 has done before. Must be lots of ants where the Courier 6 is originally from, and intentionally moved somewhere where he could still realistically acquire ant nectar)
More Ulysses dialogue that reinforces the idea of the Courier's intentions being significantly different than the narrative:
"That violence in the sky, had a source. Tracked it. Like following a river current. Left the colors to mark my way, like always, case someone finds them, learns the pattern - the Courier might." (James unintentionally left a paper trail for the Lone Wanderer to follow. His tracking skills are significant enough that Ulysses knew.)
"Not a camp - vigil, maybe. Never claimed it as mine. {More a question}If anyone owns the Divide... {"well..."}your claim is stronger than mine." (sort of a jab at how dangerous you are.)
"Words aren't the only way couriers meet... sometimes it's the paths we walk. But no... we've never spoken before now." (he's seen him visibly possibly many times before they first spoke.)
"You may not know my voice, but we've walked the same places. The Long 15 to Primm... that wasn't the only road you ever walked." (He knows a secret)
"I've been to your home, the place you kept returning to... may not be the place you were born, was the place you gave life to, same thing." (He knows he's foreign to the West Coast region.)
I know this is all a reach, but the thing that cements my idea, is because there is no official dated time for which Courier 6 began his activities. To me, it reads like things happened in a very short span of time, the time between F3 and FNV chronologically is 4 years. Now I wanna provide EVEN MORE hints, because there's so many weird interactions between the Courier and just random people. People even confusing him for something he's not, and it's evident that is the case due to established lore, its not like people are lying, its just purely subtle hints.
(The Courier is initially unaware of the rarity and value of the Sunset Sarsaparilla star bottle caps as Malcolm Holmes says the Courier did not express any reaction upon finding their first one.)
And let me get the Montana Connection to the Courier bit out of the way before people start saying, "uh but he shagged a broad in 2260-something:
"That would explain how they could forget what happened at The Divide... but then there's all this other weird stuff the Courier does remember, like a shtupping he gave a dame in Montana 17 years earlier. (Interestingly, this also establishes a ballpark minimum age for the Courier of around age 30, if said doinking occurred when he was a teenager).
More strangely, (with a high Intelligence stat), the Courier can speak Latin to Silus while interrogating him, but is totally dumbfounded by a phrase in Latin spoken to him by Arcade. (This is all the weirder because the Latin the Courier uses when speaking to Silus is more advanced than Arcade's "Nihil novi sub sole", which -- even without being proficient in Latin -- is fairly easy to figure out from the English words descended from it.)"
And finally, the one thing I predicted just by thinking about all of this. The Courier is a Con Artist. He flat out tells Keith he is one.
And lastly, the ED-E and Courier connection. What is that connection? They both long to return to their true homes, the Courier remarks, "Why do you think I became a courier?" HE WAS ONE WHEN HE WAS HOME, AND HE CONTINUED TO BE ONE AFTER AS WELL.
Any counter argument would be greatly appreciated, however, I believe I've covered all bases without saying Sarah and Sheldon Weintraub are the Courier's/Lone Wanderer's long lost siblings lmao. And also, before people get confused about the Montana Connection, the implication I'm making with that is the fact that going off of specifics like, for example, a Brain Damaged Courier saying he messed around with a woman in a place like Montana, but not knowing what Illinois is, or what Chicago is, or what Denver is. Oh and also, the Latin thing too. His brain was too damaged before he went to Big Mt. where his subconsciousness is fully revealed to be a sorta nihilistic, psychopathic, and bitter as well. The emotion of being bitter in that fashion, regarding violence, greed, malice as a end-all-be-all means the Courier wasn't always like that. He was once a not-so greedy, malicious, and violent individual. To me, everything from that dialogue between Brainless Courier and the Courier's Brain tells me he was once a Vault dweller.

My grandma (84F), my mom (59F) and my dad (60M) visited us and stayed at our house for like 4 nights. Me (32F) and my husband (34M) was not surprised, we of course had close bonds with them and they visited us sometimes. We also have a toddler son. Everything was normal, I was going for a walk and got dressed. I was wearing a cropped top and leggings because I am going to walk, and my grandma saw me at the kitchen before I exit the house. After that, she immediately started judging me because of the way I dress, she told me women including her didn't dress like that when everything was better. I knew she is a conservative old head, so I tried to convince her by quickly saying it's comfy and I'm wearing that because of it, which is true. Then she got even more triggered, she started insulting me. She said things like "you don't have to show your ass and boobs to men at street", "you a disgrace for your son", "youre a slut and you enjoy men looking at your ass and getting their cocks up". My husband was not at home, she even called him a cuck because he lets me dress like that. Hearing us, my mom came down and asked whats going on.. Grandma even said something like "I'm watching you and you always dress like you will bend for random men on street". I told her I'm a fucking 32-years old adult and can decide what I will wear. She told me "bitches also decide which man they will lay down". My mom tried to shut her but I was so angry, I literally kicked her out of my house. My dad was sleeping in the guest room and even he woke up to the sounds. They were planning to go back to their home like in 2 days, but of course they had to cut their visit short. It has been weeks and I never talked to my grandma again on the phone. Of course I'm only angry at my grandma, although my mom tried to connct us again I refused. I don't think I will ever attend her funeral when she dies.

I (31 female) have been with my husband (30 male) for 9 years, married for 1. I want to provide a bit of a back story to explain what I’ve dealt with in the past to preface everything that has recently happened.
My mother (60 female) is very warm and giving. From the minute I announced we were engaged, she helped in any way she could. She and my father paid for our wedding venue, and on top of all of that, gave us extra money here and there during the process of planning the wedding. On the other hand, my mom is also a bit of a gossip. If she hears my mother-in-law say something that could potentially hurt my feelings, she tells me. I don’t think the intent is bad, however, she tells me every little thing my mother-in-law says and it often drives me crazy. Some things should be left unsaid.
My mother-in-law (60 female) is a very nice woman but is not very warm. She never really makes my husband and I feel supported during a big life change (like a wedding or buying a house), however, she usually steps in at the 11th hour. The entire time of planning the wedding, she constantly told me what I should do, what I shouldn’t do, etc. She is very traditional in the sense that she believes since I am a girl, my dad had to pay for my wedding, and since she was the mother of the groom, all she had to be responsible for was the rehearsal dinner so anything outside of that was like pulling teeth. She made me feel bad for decorating the dining hall where my reception was saying things like “Why do you care?”, and “I didn’t have to decorate my dining hall this much when I got married” and “No one is even going to pay attention to decorations”. My husband confronted her about this and explained to her that our wedding reception was a blank canvas that needed to be decorated. Nothing is included like it was 35 years ago. She made a bit of a stink and said she didn’t “mean it like that”, but she eventually apologized. Fast forward to the wedding day and she was nothing but nice, very attentive, and even helped me pay for my wedding makeup.
When we bought a house, she kept telling us “Good luck with that” as a backhanded comment, making us feel like we had to suffer because she did or something. She kept asking us who was going to help us move, in a certain tone, which made it seem like it wouldn’t be her and we shouldn’t even ask. Then on the day we moved in, she helped us all day and even stayed late cleaning and vacuuming for us. She also took us out to eat once we were finished.
She seems to do this often where she riles me up, makes me think she will not help, and then swoops in and does everything I ever wanted her to on the day of. My husband said he thinks she does this so she’s not tied to plans or feels obligated to help, but I just think it’s plain rude. Why would you make your kids feel like they can’t come to you for help? Then she tricks us because she ends up helping despite what she said.
Since dealing with this for 9 years, I have learned to brush it off, and when the time comes, I know she’ll help or be there for us. It’s not something I’m used to since my mother is nothing like that, but I have learned this is how my mother-in-law is and for the sake of my husband and keeping the peace, I deal with it.
Now onto what recently happened.
We had both of our parents over for a Mother’s Day brunch. We have done this in the past and typically, our moms do get along. However, my mom usually ends up telling me things my mother-in-law said behind my back because she truly has no filter. It’s like as soon as she has a thought, she says it without thinking. I usually roll my eyes and brush it off, but this time was different.
Our moms were on my living room couch, alone, having a conversation. No one was around them to witness this conversation, and I believe my mother-in-law does that on purpose. I recently got a promotion at work and my mom mentioned how it’s great I got a promotion and she’s happy the raise will give us some relief, especially with just buying a house. My mother-in-law says, “I think when they have a baby, they need to hire someone to help.” My mom said, “Oh, I’m planning to help them as much as I can if they have kids”. And my mother-in-law said she’s terrified to change a diaper and hold a baby because “it’s been so long”. My mom responded and said “Oh, I’m so excited for them to have kids! It’s like riding a bike. Once you’ve don’t it before, you can do it again.” And my mother-in-law said, “Well, I’m scared to take care of someone else’s baby.”
My mother told me all of this was said once my in-laws left for the day. I think my mom intended to warn me that my mother-in-law wouldn’t be very supportive if I ever became pregnant. Yes, my husband and I do want kids. However, why is my mother-in-law talking about what I should do before I’m even pregnant? What if we try and we can’t even have children? Why is this being talked about at all? My mother said nothing about us having kids, and out of nowhere my mother-in-law started making comments about what I should do. Her suggestion to hire someone implies that if I ever asked her to babysit or help in any way, she would tell me to go hire someone because she’s not doing it. Also calling her unborn grandchild “someone else’s baby” is a crazy statement considering it would have the same last name as her. She acts like I’m a stranger. And forget about me for a second, why wouldn’t she think of it as her son’s baby? Her comments are just plain hurtful.
My mom got upset because she would be thrilled to be a grandma and, sadly, we don’t feel that same energy from the other side of the family. I felt this way when we planned our wedding, and when we bought a house. I had to worry and wonder how my mother-in-law would act on the day of the event because all the days leading up to it, she was insufferable. And once the event came, she was fine. But this really isn’t something you should do that with. Having a baby is such a precious and special moment. Why would you make your kids feel like you will not give an ounce of help? No one provoked her to say that. Also, I never would expect our parents to clock in a take care of a baby 5 times a week when they’re retired. It would just be nice to know we can drop the baby at Grandma’s if my husband and I want to go out to dinner. According to my mother-in-law’s pattern, she would probably end up being a wonderful grandma once the baby was in her arms, but I don’t want someone around me who’s not going to support me until the last second.
My husband saw how upset I was about these comments and decided to call her. He started the conversation by saying, “My mother-in-law told me you said you’re afraid for a baby to be in the family because you haven’t taken care of one in a long time?”.
Before he could even explain further or mention the other things she said, she flipped out. She was screaming and crying, and my husband said he could barely make out the words she was saying, but some of what she said were things like “This is why I don’t like being around your mother-in-law. She always twists my words.”, “That’s not what I meant.” “How could you think I would mean that in a bad way?”. My husband tried to ask, “Well then, how did you mean it?”, but she hung up on him and hasn’t talked to him since.
My husband feels awful and now feels guilty, which I think was her goal. She usually never takes accountability and ends up making us feel bad for saying anything at all. He knows I deserve an apology and wants her to know that her words can hurt people’s feelings, but he doesn’t know how to resolve this since she pulled out the “woah is me” card. I also know that maybe my mom shouldn’t have told me what my mother-in-law said, but it also hurt my mom’s feelings because my mother had a very supportive mother-in-law so she was hoping the same for me.
Apart of me feels dramatic to be this upset, but I let a lot roll off my back in the past. I let her say whatever she wanted while I planned our wedding and bought our house. Now I feel like if I ever become pregnant, it would be another rollercoaster of her making shitty comments before the baby arrived (or is even conceived apparently). Both my husband and I hit a breaking point and decided to not let this one roll off our backs. Are we the assholes?

I (23 F) have been friends with this woman (23 F lets call her BEBE) since my freshmen year of high school. After high school, we still remained good friends and really we became closer after graduating hs. We ended up going to different universities, BEBE decided to go to a private university out of state and I decided to stay in state for college. BEBE dropped out of school during the second semester of freshman after struggling academically, and financially to keep up with tuition, and as a result, she began to struggle mentally. During BEBE's time out of school, she went to a community college on and off due to not being able to keep her grades up and she lost scholarships because her grades were too low so she had to work to pay for community college (she still stays at home and her mom was not helping her pay for school anymore since she was still paying off the loan from the university). Our friend group suggested that she take a break from school to get right mentally and financially. We have had multiple conversations about comparing her journey to others and how we are all on our own timeline. Right before my undergraduate graduation BEBE car was repoed and our other friend (lets call her Mia) had a birthday so I know it would have been difficult for her to attend my undergraduate graduation, she also said that it would have been difficult for her mentally to attend because she wasn't graduating. I respected that at the time. I was accepted into a one-year accelerated graduate program. During that one extra year of school, BEBE came down to my school to party multiple times, we took roads trips, and attended family events with each other (every time I would drive back home I tried my best to see her, like EVERYTIME even seeing her over my own best friend sometimes because she stayed closer to my mom's house). As my graduate graduation is approaching I told my friend group that I wouldn't be able to attend Mia's birthday plans this year because I had work, finals, and my graduation was the weekend following her birthday(which was on a Friday) ( honestly I was completely overwhelmed with a lot of things at the time and I was completely transparent about how overwhelmed I was feeling). I had told them multiple times that my graduation was coming up but BEBE and Mia never even acknowledged I said anything about my graduation ( I never gave them details because they never asked and honestly I wasn't expecting them to come because they didn't attend last year). On top of that my car was stolen right before I had to go and take a final exam, THREE days before my graduation, and the day before Mia's birthday this year, I was literally devastated and really just needed my family and friends support. We have a group chat ( Me, BEBE, Mia, and our other friend Sarah). In the group chat, the day of my graduate graduation, Mia was upset with Sarah because she fell asleep on Mia's birthday plans (activity was scheduled for 8 PM but it didn't happen until 11:30 PM), Mind you Sarah stays about 45-60 mins away from the activity and was waiting for them to tell her to leave out. BEBE follows up with a message saying that it felt like nobody cared about Mia's birthday. So I responded by saying I apologize for not being as enthusiastic about Mia's birthday this year but it was literally because I was overwhelmed which I expressed to them before that day and that I was dealing with my car being stolen (I haven't told them up until this point because I had no time to process this on top of making sure I finish my classes strong and I was still quite upset about it and didn't want to keep thinking about it). They never acknowledged my message... so I sent another text saying how I was upset that they didn't put in any effort to come to either of my graduations. after that BEBE and Mia were saying they felt the friendship was unequal, they were never formally invited, and that they weren't talking to me originally but yet they kept using "yall" and using other plural words instead of messaging Sarah separately or being direct. Mind you this is a couple hours before my graduation and they still didn't even acknowledge that it's my graduation day, didn't get a congratulation or even checked to see if I was okay after having my car stolen and expressing to them I was overwhelmed. Then BEBE and Mia started saying why should they tell me congratulations soo early when they didn't know what time my graduation was and the fact I didn't tell Mia happy birthday until the evening time on her actual birthday ( less not forget my car was stolen the day before and I was also at work trying to make calls to my insurance agent ). I never formally gave them details because they never asked or even acknowledged I said anything about my graduation. Then they went on to say they didn't even have a ride to my graduation but im like yall could've rode with Sarah but then BEBE goes she had to look after her 16 year old twin brothers......... and she wasn't attending no ones graduation because she isn't graduating. Personally I feel that is so selfish!!!!!! like I understand she's not graduating but like I just needed my friends' support during a difficult time. her saying she couldn't celebrate my accomplishments and perseverance because she's not where she wants to be in life is so not fair and it feels like she's in secret competition with me. BEBE states like she still mentally is struggling to deal with graduation season and personally I just feel like I am struggling mentally too and I have been a good friend to her through all her mental break downs so her not showing up for me is her simply being a fake friend, only wanting to party, drink, and smoke but when I needed her just to show up as a friend (and not for her to compare her life to mine) she couldn't and I am so disappointed. She ended up leaving the group chat and I am willing to lose this friendship because I feel I have really show up her on so many different occasions whether it be mentally and even financially. After all of that I just wanted to get a different perspective to see if I should've gave her more grace or no? Thank you for coming to my TED talk and appreciate yall POV!

What I’m about to say is honestly not that bad. It’s actually “better” since my husband started speaking up. MILs tend to play these weird mind games and most of what I’ve read on here is what I’ve been through. 2 recent instances where she passively excludes me and I honestly wonder if she gets off on it or if she genuinely forgets (probably the first option haha)
Scenario 1: Husband and I invited the in laws to our house for dinner. She decided to FaceTime her daughter so she can see the grandkids. She acknowledges my FIL and my husband….and not me. Husband takes actions by saying, “mom, can I see your phone?” and gives me her phone to say hi to our nieces and nephews haha husband thinks MIL is jealous bc there was an occurrence where our niece verbally said she preferred to sit next to me and not her grandma. Since then, MIL has had an “issue” with me
Scenario 2: On Mother’s Day, my husband didn’t make any plans with his mom or even thought to get her anything. I suggested we get flowers and stop by to spend time with her. I think we got her favorite dessert, too. We get there and she FaceTimes her daughter again and says, “look what Bobby got me for Mother’s Day!” Husband steps in right away and says, “Linda and I both got this for you.” She laughs it off and says, “Linda, it was probably your idea anyway muahaha”. Like was that really necessary? Who cares whose idea it is. Honestly, stuff like that used to bother me but since my husband stepped up, it really doesn’t phase me. I’ve noticed he doesn’t really like talking about his mother’s behavior. The only thing I got was, “sorry my parents are a-holes and I don’t think my mom realizes how jealous she looks.” I responded back looking completely detached and shrugged.
I honestly don’t know if she does it out of loneliness , insecurity, boredom. Maybe I should just label her as an immature adult to make it easier in my head.
I also read something here that was profound- woman felt left out from mother in law and sister in law for so many years. Then she had a baby and suddenly SIL and MIL felt left out.

as the title says 😍
i’m a student working full time for bu this summer and found out my school year dining plan has indeed run its course! given that, when i live in warren for a few weeks as temporary housing before i move to south campus, they provide us with two meal swipes a day, they would do the same now! but no 😘 so i have no meal swipes or money to get food until may 20th unless i pay $15 every time i enter marci 🥰 i love it here
appreciate the reslife who broke the news to me though. ik i left the office crying but i wish yall the best yall are just doing your job.

My husband (33M) and I (28F) are currently facing a challenging period in our relationship. After a year of marriage and cohabitation, he has made the decision to relocate to another state. We originally met in that state (California) and dated for a few months (we were friends first and were dating other people, no cheating just eventually happened) before I moved to Michigan to pursue my career goals. I secured a job with an annual income of approximately $200,000. He followed me to Michigan, and we eventually married. It was an elopment because I'm catholic and I always wanted to be married before living with anyone.We spent months ring shopping before the elopment but we never had an engagement.We just decided to elope so no one knows. We wanted to wait to eventually have more money do a proper ceremony and engagement. etc. I always dreamed of having a family and moving back to California to settle down. I dont see Michigan as my home,I was just looking for a better future for us.We always had the same goals and come from very similar backgrounds, except his family is dysfunctional and mine isnt.
It's important to note that he has experienced significant financial setbacks this year due to inflation/the economy and the loss of his business. I provided him with support in various ways, including financially and emotionally, and even helped him secure a job at my company. (He didnt like it so he got fired) However, he became increasingly depressed over time and refused to share his financial situation with me or accept my assistance. He expressed dissatisfaction with our current location, citing a lack of activity and friends, despite having only two close friends in California who live with their significant others , arealways traveling therfore he would be alone a lot of the time.
Initially, he suggested a long-distance relationship, but his lack of commitment and concrete plans made me hesitant. Without a clear indication of his intentions or a timeline for our reunion, I find it difficult to maintain hope for our relationship. I dont know when I'll see him again and if I ask he just says he doesnt know anything, that right now he is focusing on taking care of his debt ($60,000)and regaining his life as a man.
He has since admitted that he may not have been fully prepared for the responsibilities of marriage and feels the need to stabilize his finances before committing to a relationship, let alone a wife. Note that I'm very independent and never have asked him for money. Not for a single thing, just that he pays half of the rent. When he couldnt make it, I still helped him and covered ALL expenses. Our entire year here I stood by him, i didnt pressure him for nice things even though I miss them and I personally could afford them. Going to dinners, going to the movies, having drinks with friends, etc that was non existent. Maybe three times in the entire year we did that. We spent the entire year at the house on the couch watching movies and eating fast food. I didnt care, I knew this was temporary and that he was my husband, for better or worse. I felt bad leaving the house without him to do anything, so I never did it. I also didnt want to sponsor EVRYTHING in his life, that didnt feel right as a woman and my tradiotional outlook on relationships. In the beginning I was extremely resentful because I thought he didn't love me enough to do anything with me or take care of me, but eventually through therapy and being more patient and seeing his perspective, I realized he was just depressed and couldnt cope, so his financial life was going down the drain and it wasnt about me. Or so I thought.
We always had a plan to move back together because I see myself living there full time and settling, but at this time I had zero job prospects there. The maximum I could get was $48k with benefits and given that he doesnt have the capacity to provide (at least now or at least for me ), it seems stupid to leave my job and my security blanket. I worked really hard in my career whereas he only has jobs, not a career per se. Im more than willing to prioritize a family over career but I need security in the main pillars : love and finances. I always felt like he loved me but now I'm doubting everything.
He has expressed a desire to return to California and is moving in two weeks, where he feels more at home, despite the uncertainty of job prospects for him there. If he lost his business and all his income(he works for himself) while being in Michigan, what makes him think that wont happen in California? He is moving with his dad at first , while dad is on vacation for a month, suposedly to get back on his feet but I dont know how true this is. This is the last thing he said to me about the topic. Later I find out he was cashing some of his invesments to move but didnt hear it from him; I accidentaly read it on an email. Maybe this is how he is moving there?
This sudden upheaval has left me scrambling to adjust, as I cannot afford our current apartment on my own and I just lost the life we had together and most importantly OUR DOG. We were a little family. I have 5 days to move to a new apartment.Despite my efforts to support him, he remains distant and uncertain about our future together, particularly since I began packing so quickly in response to my impending move. I had to start moving things along as I only have 5 DAYS to restructure my life. He commented that he thought this process would be easier and that seeing me crying everyday makes it hard to continue hurting me and the relationship and that hes unsure of the future because he has nothing to offer me right now.
I'm left wondering if there's any hope for our relationship and if he will ever be willing to communicate with me again. I understand his frustration and depression, but I struggle to comprehend why he would give up on our relationship when I have consistently stood by him. Why can't he be honest or straightforward? I understand moving for a job , but he doesnt have that and I could understand dealign with his mental health, but why abandon me?
Is there a chance for us to reconcile, or should I accept that it may be time to let go?
Do I give him time to process this? Im just confused and he wont talk to me. Apparently, in two weeks, I'll have a new life and I don't even know if im single or if he plans on being single? Do I wait for him?
Any straight males reading this, please advice. What should I do? What is going through his head, what can I do? Will he reach out once he is there?
Im spiriling, so welpp!

After seeing Mr. House at the Vault-Tec meeting with other powerful minds and the fact that Hank is seen traveling to New Vegas for some reason, I can only think that Mr. House will be there. The Lucky 38 Casino was basically more locked up than a Vault was and Hank might have known House fairly well during his time "awake". NCR's Shady Sands was destroyed and we know Hank hates them so we can chalk them up as not being the reason he'd go there.
I highly doubt Yes Man or Caesar's Legion would be viable canon options and Yes Man was to only answer to The Courier anyway so yeah he would be useless to Hank.
Lore wise, Courier would have 0 reason to screw over House. Courier is basically a mercenary with loads of experience with taking jobs to deliver goods across the Wasteland. House has basically given them a retirement plan and House is the one that saved them in the first place.
All Courier has to do is follow through with his plans and he is given a nice place on The Strip and endless caps to just screw around and gamble and get drunk. There really is no reason for them to betray House.

I wanted to give back a bit after receiving some great information from folks on this sub before a (very short notice and sparsely planned) solo trip to Panama in late April/early May of 2024. I'm subtitling this post "I did a lot in Panama so you don't (necessarily) have to". Truth be told, I started the trip with 4 nights and one in-country flight booked and built the rest of my itinerary on the fly. I definitely could have used an extra week or so before the trip to do some itinerary planning, deeper research on where I chose to stay, etc. but I really enjoyed most of the trip and would absolutely recommend Panama as a solo trip destination.
Rough pre-departure itinerary:

• Panama City: Arrive at about 2 PM on a Thursday, stay three nights at Selina Casco Viejo, depart at 8 AM on Sunday via plane to David (Copa Airlines)
• Boquete: Arrive at about noon Sunday (after transit to town from airport), stay two nights at the Bambuda Castle
• Bocas for unknown amount of time/other stuff in the west off the country
• Return to Panama City from David via plane (Copa) Sunday Morning
• Return to USA on a redeye flight Tuesday night

I arrived in Panama City on time and took an Uber straight to Selina (cost $28). The Selina there is in a decent location, kind of on the edge of Casco Viejo but walkable to everything. I checked in and was told there was a welcome happy hour with a free drink and a free walking tour every day at 10. The 6-person dorm had a dedicated bathroom, but wasn't much for the price ($30/night) and I'm just now realizing I booked a 4-person dorm then was put in the wrong lodging... There is a bar and allegedly a pool on the roof of the property, but the pool was not open when I was there. The welcome drink was an underwhelming event, though I did meet a few cool people I ended up doing more with later. There really isn't much in the way of common space at Selina Casco Viejo and I found it to be overpriced, underwhelming, and not a great place to meet people. I ended up booking the canal tour ($60ish) with them (which was via the personal vehicle of the guide, a small sedan cramming 4 of us in plus the driver), but I did a different free walking tour after hearing poor reviews of the one provided by Selina. While Selina felt like a huge waste (would not recommend this location), I really liked Casco Viejo. The food was surprisingly good, especially ceviche at Marea https://maps.app.goo.gl/MdWBJ1uw4mWLB7r2A and a nice stop for middle eastern at Estambul Casco https://maps.app.goo.gl/qFq8wAm5NEzJw84F8 . I also made a quick stop with some people from the hostel at La Fabrica https://maps.app.goo.gl/WdAG1KAhwmkj1TbS8 which had a decent tap list and cool vibe and the Pedro Mandinga Rum bar (highly recommend) for some beers and a rum flight https://maps.app.goo.gl/seXCnetthN18BbUB9 . I also, as a cigar smoker, made a stop at the official La Casa del Habano store https://maps.app.goo.gl/uhswvnFPe1Y1Uzbu9 where the staff was chill and the cigarum selection was good. I finished out my cigar and partook in a bit of happy hour across the street at Finca del Mar which had a decent outdoor area for a drink https://maps.app.goo.gl/kPSiTHdd2mJmtakGA but the food was not recommended so I didn't try it.
I was up early to get to David on Sunday morning, so I figured I'd just grab food and coffee at the airport lounge (mistake). It turns out the Copa flight to David departs from the "domestic" gate, which is a standalone area on the ground floor of the airport. There are no amenities, just a single vending machine, and you get bussed to the plane. Do not go early for a David flight, security was very easy and I ended up waiting in the small seating area for way too long. The flight was fine, but don't expect to access a lounge or coffee shop after security.
I got to David pretty early and hadn't done my research on transit, but knew there was public bus service to Boquete. I was trying to figure out how to get to the bus terminal when a taxi offered to drive me all the way to Boquete for $40 which seemed like a decent deal so I went for it. Boquete is pretty small, a little mountain town with a relaxed vibe. I spent quite a bit of time at the brewery which, if you know craft beer pretty well, wasn't the best on beer quality but had good live music and a fun atmosphere https://maps.app.goo.gl/EJFiRiwQsbJ89UPa9 . I worked from here a little bit too, definitely where I spent the most time. I got a delicious dinner at RetroGusto which was really reasonable https://maps.app.goo.gl/8gcU1GHqXrfbTCoX9 and a good lunch at Donde Giselle which was a little more expensive, but also delicious https://maps.app.goo.gl/uNsz1EqCDfnSpYfk8 . I did a coffee finca tour through Bambuda ($35) at Don Pepe. It was pretty cool, not a lot of walking but the guide was knowledgeable and we got to see the full operation in a small footprint. I bought one bag and was happy I did, they were 3 times the price in the airport on the way home. The Tres Cascadas (three waterfall) trail was a must, it does have a steep section that has ropes affixed to help but was otherwise a pretty straightforward trail. It did cost a few dollars to hike as it's on private property. I took a taxi there ($20) but took the bus back ($2.25). The bus comes by every 30-40 minutes and they generally wait a bit at the entrance to the trail from the road to see if people come down. We did end up picking up a whole bunch of kids leaving school, but it was pretty funny and we managed to fit everyone. I did do the Volcan Baru hike, which cost $18 for a taxi to the trailhead but was otherwise free. It is a grueling hike, it took a little over 5 hours for me to get to the top and I was not having fun. I was very lucky to encounter a couple who was dropped off at the same time at the trailhead and, while we did not hike together, we did take a few breaks together and it was nice to be within sight of their headlamps. It was COLD at the top and I was happy I had a light down jacket and a fleece. I did a good job of timing up my climb with the sunrise, only needing to wait at the top for maybe 30 minutes before the sun came up. You can go up in a jeep, and I was very lucky to beat the offroad vehicles up as they were very loud coming up the mountain. It did get pretty crowded at the top by the time all of the jeeps had emptied out and their clients climbed the last bit to the summit. The view was phenomenal, you can see both the Caribbean and the Pacific on a clear day and the sunrise was beautiful. It was a little annoying that the 6 of us who climbed it had to share with the 25 or so who rode up in cars, but worth it. One spot I wish I had visited, but it just didn't work out, was a wood fire pizza spot that came recommended by our coffee guide and by several travelers https://maps.app.goo.gl/T93KKqHxXoQ7AFhf6 . I got lucky at the Bambuda Castle as I booked a 3 bed room but had it to myself. It had a nice restaurant and common space within the castle itself that was a good working space and had a fantastic view. The food was pretty good, with a few vegetarian options and smoothies. It's a pretty decent walk from the center of town, and about $4-5 taxi ride from the Boquete center. If I went again, I would probably look to stay somewhere in the center of town but I don't regret giving the Castle a shot.
I traveled out of Boquete to Bocas del Toro the same day I did the Baru hike, leaving via shuttle at 1 PM ($37) which I arranged through Bambuda. I ended up using a discount QR code at Bambuda Castle to book their Bocas town Hostel for three nights. The shuttle was fine, but it's a quick trip through winding mountain roads so be prepared if you get carsick. A big bonus, that I would recommend you ask about, was that this shuttle did not go all the way to Almirante, but instead stopped at Chiriqui Grande and proceeded via small boat (lancha) from there. The longer boat trip was fantastic, much better than the long/boring road which runs the rest of the way. I got stopped right off the boat in by several people trying to sell tours and got one person's number for a potential $35 Cayo Zapatilla tour but didn't commit, choosing to get to Bambuda Bocas Town first and settle in before making decisions. While I wish I had spent some more time at either red frog beach or another island, with only 3 nights and having booked late my options were limited. For Bocas Town, Bambuda was great. The front desk folks were pretty helpful and the restaurant was good for breakfast (the vegetarian burrito option is better than the sandwich). The hostel deck goes right out to the lagoon, and it's always busy with people hanging out in the sun or jumping into the lagoon. It was a great spot to do some work over coffee and, frankly, I wish I had spent more time here or at the Bambuda Lodge. I ended up doing the Caya Zapatilla tour (highly recommend, if only for the stop at Caya Zapatilla) for $35 with the operator I met right off the boat. This included pick up and drop off from Bambuda, and they had a cooler that I threw a few Balboas of my own in for the trip. We did stop mid-way for lunch which was not included and was a little expensive. This was the only actual tour I did during my time there, I spent my other full day just kind of hanging out and went to Starfish Beach (not as nice as Caya Zapatilla, but worth an afternoon) with a group from the hostel. I also did salsa night at Selina (fun, but a bad instructor) and karaoke at Aqua Lounge (get there in time to get a round of the happy hour special, the screen is behind the stage so not ideal for karaoke but it's easy to get on the list). I did not do Filthy Friday, I ended up departing Bocas that day but I would have been on the fence about it anyway. I guess it's a "when in Bocas" thing, so I probably would have gone for it. I really wish I had spent another night in Bocas, I regretted not having another day out there as soon as I left. It turned out to be the best place on my trip to meet people, it's definitely a general party vibe, and actually the best place to get work done of the hostels I stayed at. I did dinner at Pier 19 which was pretty nice, if not a little expensive and probably not a good solo traveler vibe https://maps.app.goo.gl/6vJG1rdUPCqEf9W3A . I did brunch one day away from Bambuda at Casa Papaya, their typical Panamanian breakfast and it was a great deal/meal https://maps.app.goo.gl/9CPFCxu6woWwKuwM7 . I did hear from some people that the bird island was a fun tour, and worth the day/cost. I did some bonus late night, unofficial stuff like swimming after midnight at Selina and an impromptu midnight trip out to see the bioluminescence and the stars with a random lancha taxi from the Selina dock. Not sure how I'd direct someone to arrange that, but say yes if it's an option.
I took off from Bocas via shuttle for the Lost and Found Hostel on Friday around noon ($20) which I arranged at the main lancha dock. This shuttle did not include a boat all the way to Chiriqui Grande, it was the short boat with the long road segment. A few people did get car sick during the first leg of the trip, the road is in pretty rough shape so lots of speeding up, slowing down, and swerving potholes. Lost and Found really caught my eye because of how much I enjoyed Secret Garden Cotopaxi in Ecuador. In the end, it didn't live up to that lofty expectation and I should not have squeezed it in. The allure is that it's isolated in the jungle, you have to walk about 15 minutes up the trail from the road to reach the hostel property. There are several buildings, with one primary common area with a few tables and hammocks. A big downside is that everything is outdoors, under cover of roofs but open still, which wasn't ideal in the evening during the season I went where it rained in the afternoons. There is a community kitchen if you bring your own food along, or there is an option to get breakfast/lunch/dinner from the hostel. I had a few meals there: the smoothie bowl was good, the lentil curry was a little on the salty side. The hiking is pretty cool and I ended up going up over the mountain to the big tree, the lookout, and the river. I didn't bring water, but definitely should have brought a liter along. In the end, with only about half a dozen other people staying there and 2/3 of the staff being pretty insular and not really socializing with the guests, it just wasn't a great addition to my trip. It might be a better option for a group or during a different season, but it provided a logistical challenge to make my flight back from David to Panama City and it wasn't really worth the risk of making it work, so I hired a car ($30) to take me to David and just ate the price of my second night at Lost and Found. It was beautiful, but it just wasn't on the same level as Secret Garden Cotopaxi which inspired me to give this a shot. I think, all in, my stop at Lost and Found cost me about $76.
The combination of having scheduled a flight on election day (oops) and the lack of help from lost and found staff meant that my best bet was a night in David. I used Hilton points to book a night at the Hampton and had myself a recovery night. I got a hot and ready pizza from the Little Caesar's next door and two Sam Adam's Boston Lagers from the bar. Fantastic recovery night, vey nice Hampton, and a pretty nice little breakfast. It refreshed me at a point where I was not really enjoying the trip and pushed me to go for one more stop rather than laying low in Panama City.
After my flight back to Panama City, I took the metro all the way to the Avenida Terminal (less than $1 total, it is very easy to purchase a card and load it at the station) to grab the bus to Valle de Anton. It was fairly easy to find the window to buy the bus ticket ($4.25). It's important to buy for El Valle and not just Anton, a town which is not where you want to end up. There was a confusing bit of business related to a transit card (not the same transit card as the metro. I couldn't seem to find a machine to buy one from, and eventually the guy at the turnstile took pity and just used his own to let me in. I paid him back, but it was very confusing that you needed to buy the ticket then a card with which to pay an additional 10 cents to get to the bus at Gate 53. I can't really offer advice other than you should try to figure out how to get this card, or if you can just pay with a dime, right when you buy your ticket. I let the bus (not a very big bus, somewhere between a van and a bus) driver know where I was headed on the way and they dropped me right at Bohdi in Valle de Anton. The whole trip is about 3 hours, with lots of local stops the whole way. Bohdi was a pretty cool spot, with a great yoga space with a guided lesson on a TV every morning. It has a kitchen if you want to cook for yourself and free coffee plus breakfast every day from 7:30-10:00. Both breakfasts were pancakes, but it was free and they were pretty good. There are some cool lounge spots out back, a few cafe tables out front, and a loft space as well. It was a decent, but not perfect spot, to do work if that's what you're looking for. The dorm does have 3 levels of beds, and they aren't all that comfy, but I'd recommend Bohdi. The first night I was in town I went to the Golden Frog Inn on a recommendation and it turned out to be a great spot to watch the sunset and have some pretty good (although a small) vegetarian tacos https://maps.app.goo.gl/pzRuyYuwHZvMVnAo8 . One afternoon I chose to do the India Dormida hike, I left and walked all the way back to Bohdi, it was a few hours total. It's a quick climb up to the top and you can walk the whole ridge that forms the edge of the caldera. It was a beautiful view and you can really see the old crater rim formations from the top. It's clear up there, no trees and wide open, and the breeze was very refreshing. I ended up coming down about halfway across the ridge, starting from the north. I grabbed a vegetarian dinner at El Rincon Colombiano which I'd recommend https://maps.app.goo.gl/tRcAAnAm9fYni7Nv8 and some guacamole and a beer at La Ranita which was pretty good https://maps.app.goo.gl/BcdB8uCqaSRv1RyE8 . Overall, I really liked Valle de Anton and I'm happy I made it happen. It's a little drier and warmer than Boquete, with a lot less coffee influence, but I liked the vibe and wish I had done more hiking around the area.
For my last evening in Panama, I grabbed a room just to have a place to put bags and clean up before my flight at Hotel Caracas, a recommendation from someone I met in my first stop in Casco Viejo. I did not plan to work from here, nor did I spend a night, but for $35 it was a perfect spot to leave things as I went to knock out a few more items before my flight home. I popped into Tantalo for a quick bite to eat https://maps.app.goo.gl/9pA9Dmw8AE9doabT7 which I don't know if I'd recommend for food, but the view was good. I think I meant to go to CasaCasco, which was recommended for ceviche and sushi, but ended up in the wrong spot. I then went over to Element to get some cocktails https://maps.app.goo.gl/mwYt2D7X43ua4jGu6 . Element has an interesting vibe, kind of a steampunk theme to the décor. The two guys behind the bar, who I believe own it, were fantastic. They don't have a set menu but instead try to match a drink to what you're feeling at the time. I had a classic daquiri and an old fashioned, which both came with a little bit of a twist on the classic recipe. They also pulled down a few different spirits which we tasted together, overall I'd highly recommend a stop and it was especially fun as the only patron there. After two cocktails, I cleaned up and called an Uber and headed to the airport. Just a heads up, the Copa Club is pretty nice, has limited food, but tragically closes at 9 PM. I had a flight that left at nearly 11 PM, so this was a little disappointing.
Overall, I loved Panama. The people were friendly, even if the service in many places was pretty lackluster. It's more expensive than Colombia or Ecuador, but several people told me it's slightly cheaper than Costa Rica. It's a good stop if you're not sure about central or south America as it's extremely safe, if you use common sense, and it's not too hard to get around using shuttles/taxis/ubers if you don't want to brave public transit. It offers very good food options in Panama City, and it's easy to find a Hampton Inn/Hooters/McDonald's/Little Caesar's/Wendy's if you need a break from being adventurous. The Spanish isn't difficult, and most people speak at least some English. I would have dropped lost and found hostel from my itinerary if I planned it again, but did not regret any of the other stops. I do kind of wish I had focused on Bocas and Boquete, saving Valle de Anton and maybe San Blas together for a future trip, but I had already painted myself into a bit of a corner with my David-Panama flights by the time I realized this. I hope this helps someone as they plan their Panama trip, or helps them decide Panama is a worthwhile visit! Please do not make as many changes as I did, I absolutely did at least one to many stops and wish I had spent more time in Bocas and probably Valle de Anton. Anyway, feel free to ask questions in the comments and I'll try to address them as they come in!
Final Itinerary:

• 3 nights at Selina Casco Viejo (meh, not recommended)
• 2 nights at Bambuda Castle Boquete
• 3 nights at Bambuda Bocas Town (recommend)
• 1 night at Lost & Found Hostel (not my jam, would not do again)
• 1 night at Hampton Inn David (saved my trip, loved it, would recommend)
• 2 nights at Bohdi Valle de Anton (solid, would recommend)
• 1 kind of night at Hotel Caracas (did exactly what I needed)

Pre-emptive TL;DR: Is joining the Air Force Reserves with the primary purpose of receiving tech school training that will land me a good full-time job a viable strategy, and if so, which AFSC's would be the best choices for me to achieve this goal?
I'm 36 years old, married, no kids, in the Atlanta, GA area.
I've been a cop for the last 12 years. I quit a few months ago because almost every time someone else quit or was fired, I was given their job to do in addition to my own, and I was on-call 24/7 and receiving an average of 19 calls per week, mostly during the middle of the night (for no pay)... I was covering 4 full-time different job roles at the time I quit. I covered a minimum of at least two separate full-time jobs my entire last year at that department.
I haven't been able to find a decent job since I quit. I'm making some money doing remote part-time work, but it's not enough, and I'm honestly extremely bored not having enough to do day-to-day. I've been a damn good house husband and my yard and property look great, but I need to get out of this house more often. I made almost $100k last year, and I'm routinely getting rejected for jobs even at $50k or lower. I have extensive experience leading and managing people and units, but it doesn't seem to matter since I don't have any private sector experience. I really don't want to return to law enforcement at all, because my experience, training, and skillset prevent me from being able to stay where I actually enjoy policing, which is patrolling on the streets. I'm not originally from the Atlanta area - I grew up 2 hours from here. I can get a job easily back in my hometown from all the connections I made over the years, but that's too far to commute and it would be financially irresponsible to sell my house here and buy a new one there due to the interest rate climb and all the remodeling I've done in my current home.
I'm considering the Air Force Reserves because 1. I literally have nothing else going on and could easily accommodate the time away at basic training and tech school and 2. I'm hoping if I choose the right AFSC that after tech school I could get hired for a full-time job based on the training from the tech school for that AFSC. I'm aware that there are also full-time roles for Air Force Reserves, but I'm assuming those are difficult to get, especially for someone without prior active-duty service. 3. I want to stay in my house in the Atlanta area for the long term, but I can't sit around applying to infinite jobs for an indefinite period of time. Being away for basic training and tech school is fine, as long as I'm not moving away for good.
My wife is on board with this idea, so there wouldn't be any conflict there. I'm in good shape and health, and have always considered the annual police PT to be a joke, so there are no issues there. I'd love to go active-duty if I hadn't bought a house here 2 years ago. My wife works remotely, so it would be feasible, but the biggest appeal that joining the Reserves offers is the fact that we could stay in our current house instead of moving every few years. We have discussed the possibility of me being activated and deployed, and that's something we can handle if it comes to it, but that's much better than the guaranteed moves that going active-duty would require. If I do join the Reserves, I would be signing up with every intention of doing at least 20 years. I do have a 4-year degree in Education, but from what I've read so far, getting a commissioned officer spot as a civilian seems highly unlikely, especially since I don't have any degree, let alone an advanced degree, in any of the appropriate fields, so I'm only looking at enlisted AFSC's.
Based on everyone's experience, do y'all think that I could use Air Force Reserves tech school to get a decent full-time job?
If so, what AFSC would you recommend as the best path toward a good job? I don't even care what I do at this point, I just want to work, preferably in a career field where I can start at $50k or more with room to grow towards $75-90k in the next five years. I'm interested in cyber security, and being close to the airport in Atlanta I feel like something regarding aircraft repair and maintenance might make sense for me to find a quick job, but I truly just want a new career and don't care what it is. I'm hoping some of you have enough experience with yourselves, friends, or people in your units to provide some insight on which AFSC choices yield the best results on the job market.
I'm considering the following AFSC's:
2T2X1 - Air Transportation - Could potentially land me a job at an airport.
1P0X1 - Aircrew Flight Equipment - Could potentially land me a job at an airport.
2T3X7 - Fleet Management - Could potentially help land me a job with a shipping or trucking company.
2T1X1 - Ground Transportation - Could potentially help land me a warehouse or mechanic job.
6C0X1 - Contracting - Could potentially help land me a job with a construction company.
3E5X1 - Engineering - Could potentially help land me a job with a construction or surveying company.
6F0X1 - Financial Management and Comptroller - Could potentially land me a job in HR for a number of companies or as an auditor or in a financing company.
3F0X1 - Personnel - Could potentially land me a job in HR.
1D7X1 - Cyber Security - Could potentially land me a job in Cyber Security or IT Helpdesk.
1B4X1 - Cyber Warfare Operations - Could potentially land me a job in Cyber Security or IT Helpdesk.
1N4X1 - Cyber Intelligence Analyst - Could potentially land me a job in Cyber Security or IT Helpdesk.
9S100 - Scientific Applications Specialist - Could potentially land me a job in a federal or state crime lab (I have extensive experience in forensic evidence collection and analysis from my law enforcement career, too, but mostly on-the-job training)
3E0X2 - Electrical Power Production - Could potentially land me a job as an electrician.
3E0X1 - Electrical Systems - Could potentially land me a job as an electrician.
3E1X1 - Heating, Ventilation, Air Conditioning, and Refrigeration - Could potentially land me a job in HVAC.
3E2X1 - Pavements and Construction Equipment - Could potentially land me a job with a construction or paving company.
3E3X1 - Structural - Could potentially land me a job with a construction company.
2T3X1 - Mission Generation Vehicular Equipment Maintenance - Could potentially land me a job as a mechanic.
2T3X7 - Vehicle Management - Could potentially land me a job as a mechanic.
2A6X6 - Aircraft Electrical and Environmental Systems - Could potentially land me a job at an airport or aircraft production/repair facility.
2A6X4 - Aircraft Fuel Systems - Could potentially land me a job at an airport or aircraft production/repair facility.
2A6X5 - Aircraft Hydraulic Systems - Could potentially land me a job at an airport or aircraft production/repair facility.
2A3X3 - Tactical Aircraft Maintenance - Could potentially land me a job at an airport or aircraft production/repair facility.
2A7X1 - Aircraft Metals Technology - Could potentially land me a job at an airport or aircraft production/repair facility.
2A7X3 - Aircraft Structural Maintenance - Could potentially land me a job at an airport or aircraft production/repair facility.
2A7X2 - Nondestructive Inspection - Could potentially land me a job at an airport or aircraft production/repair facility.
1C7X1 - Airfield Management - Could potentially land me a job at an airport.
4V0X1 - Optometry - Could potentially land me a job at an optometry office.
4P0X1 - Pharmacy Technician - Could potentially land me a job at a pharmacy.
5J0X1 - Paralegal - Could potentially land me a job at a law firm.
Clearly, I'm not being picky here. Just to reiterate, I would be staying in the Reserves for 20 years unless circumstances dictated otherwise. I'm more than happy to put in the monthly/annual training in addition to a full-time job. I'm aware that I'd likely be far older than most or all of the others in basic training and that I'd be measured by expectations geared towards me being a decade or more younger than I actually am. My parents talked me out of the military twice (after high school and after college), so I've always been interested. I've served my local communities for over a decade, and now I'm looking to serve my country while also leveraging that service into a new career.
I plan on talking to a recruiter soon, but I'd rather have a good understanding of how I want to proceed prior to doing so, and I'd also like to narrow the above list down. Are any of the above AFSC choices likely to lead to a decently paying full-time job soon after basic training/tech school? Thanks in advance to everyone for taking the time to read and respond.

I am an HSP and my sister is not. I think I might be autistic as well, my sister is not. She has a really shitty job where she's posing as a teacher, but she's actually just a bouncer expected to keep 30 middle schoolers from killing each other for 7 hours a day 5 days a week. I'm fully aware that her life sucks right now and that she's hella depressed and she's not having a good time. That's not new. What is new is the boyfriend that she's had for a few months now. I'll call him L. I didn't love L at first, I just thought he was kind of a bad influence, but in the time they've dated, L has had a couple of serious freakouts. When they were freshly seeing each other and not even exclusive, he got really mad at my sister for still having tinder on her phone. I don't believe anything she says to me anymore, so she could have been using it for nefarious purposes, but I don't think she was considering she's so far up his ass she can see out of his mouth. I really didn't trust him after that, but I hung out with him to humor my sister, since she literally would not hang out with me unless she could have him there. It was fine until a few weeks ago, when my sister walked into she and L's house in a crop top and he instantly started griping about it, to which I said "so everyone at the beach should be arrested then, yeah" and gave him a funny look, and he went fucking ballistic. Ended up kicking me out of his house without letting me say anything to defend myself or apologize, and then he hurled insults at me until I was out the door. She moves in, I'm banned from her house, and I'm concerned what that means for my sister and I's relationship, but my sister actually got mad at me for being concerned because "it didn't have anything to do with me". Fast forward to Mother's day and yesterday: she invites him to family dinner without telling me, whatever, I don't care. But she asks during dinner if she can have a copy of my parents camping schedule to know when they're gone, and I started panicking because I was like "she's going to bring him here to live it up in my space because they're not going to be here to say no" because she does not show up for me if she can't involve him. She hasn't done it in months. So I said "please don't bring him here to corner me while I'm here by myself over the summer. You don't live here anymore so please be mindful of those who still do" and somehow she took it as me saying she was a bitch for bringing him on mother's day. Instead of talking to me about all of this herself, she fucking gave L my number so he could spam text me hate messages until I blocked him. I'm just left here wondering what the hell I did and why she's acting like this. She's lying to me, all last week she said she would be home Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, then Friday I didn't even get a text saying she wouldn't be there, I was just left waiting for her to show up until fucking 8pm. Then she decided that I'm the despicable one who has been hurting her all this time. I don't even know what I'm looking for, I think I'm just at a loss and want to get this off my chest. Literally all I've ever asked for is some adult fucking communication. Letting me know you're not going to be here before our plans are literally fucking over. Telling me when you're bringing your boyfriend over to my space. ACTUALLY TALKING TO ME WHEN YOU HAVE AN ISSUE INSTEAD OF GETTING SOMEONE ELSE TO FUCKING DO IT. I don't know. I know she's being a coward and a child. I just want it to stop.

This post should be in a different subreddit. I know but I have to be a trusted member and honestly just want advice sooner. So this would be a would I be the asshole question. Also sorry I know it's long
For some background information I live in an apartment and have 2 roommates. We share common areas like the living room kitchen and a garage. Recently one of my roommates moved out and gave us a couple lawn chairs to keep.
So while my roommate we will call him R was out of the house. A friend and I decided to grab the chairs and sit in my friends garage to smoke and watch tv. We were in there for hours having a good time when my roommate R came back. He asked for one of the chairs. I told him yeah it's ours to share and I have other chairs to use anyways. He takes the chair and comes back a few minutes later. He's upset because he said he's been using that chair for a week with no issue so it should be his chair now. I told him now that's not how this works. We will share the chairs. As our roommate gave them to us to use. The fight continues on for a few minutes about how he feels disrespected we took the chair. My friend points out how R constantly disrespects and takes items that are solely mine. Such as clothes and things. This bugs R and they start insulting each other. My friend ask him to leave he got his chair. There shouldn't be a problem. R doesn't leave he wants to settle this now. My friend goes from asking him to leave to telling him to leave. We live right next to each other. R gets in my friends face asking him what is he gonna do. Then starts insulting my friends girlfriend. After a couple more insults my friend punched R in the face and a fight ensues. I jumped in r down while he's still throwing punches and my friend just holds him down too. Eventually r gets in a head lock by my friend. At some point they split up and the fight stops.
Now I was planning to leave anyways due to Rs actions even after I tell him that it's not okay to touch my clothes or blare music early in the morning. But my property manager said she could move me to a different apartment but I would have to wait til August. That was fine at first but I don't think I want to live with a guy who's gonna pick fights when he doesn't get his favorite of the common items we share. He used my Xbox and things I've never once been upset with that it kicked him off because I wanted to play. I think no matter what I won't share my personal items anymore but would I be the asshole for talking to my manager about what r has been doing?