Hello everyone. My boyfriend is a great person. We have been together for a year and I have nothing bad to say about him, he loves me very much and isn’t afraid to show it, he always puts me first and is generally just a good person to everyone. However, he has very low self-esteem. I knew that from the beginning and I spent (and still do) a lot of time reassuring him when needed, complimenting him all the time, saying I love him at least twice a day and his self-esteem has gotten much better. The other day we were talking and I casually mentioned the job he had before we met. And he answered “what are you talking about? My current job is my first job.”. So I showed him messages he sent me before we started dating where he talked to me about going to his job, where is job was and talking bout the apartment he had but had to leave due to money reasons and go back to live with his parents. Turns out it was all fake. Before we started dating he never had a job and he lived with his parents his whole life until we moved in together. When I confronted him about it he admitted instantly that he had forgotten he said that to me and that he had lied about his appartement and job because he was really into me and felt the need to “impress” me by saying he had a job and a home of his own, which makes sense since once again since he had very low self esteem. He said it was stupid and that he never lied to me after that because he knows that I can’t stand liars, he simply forgot he told me that lie at the time. This was a week ago and I simply cannot get over it.
I do believe he loves me with all his heart and I don’t think he has lied to me about anything else since but knowing he lied to me before our relationship even began has just destroyed all the trust I had in him and I’m even having trouble just saying “I love you” or even sleeping with him. I have talked to him about this and he says he is capable of doing anything to prove me he hasn’t lied to me since and that he feels really stupid for lying at the time, but now I just feel like I can never 100% trust him again.
I don’t know what to do. I’m good friends with his sister, he told me to do ask her if I have any doubts about anything he has told me but I think that’s really toxic behavior and I really don’t want to go there. I want to trust him again. He didn’t try to deny when I asked him if he lied, so I’m thinking that’s a good start right? He is my soulmate in every other way, what can I do to get over this?
Thank you everyone.

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DISCLAIMER: I think there are already a lot of great "guide to 52X" scores on this subreddit. A lot of this is just written as context before my last month of studying, the studying I did was honestly super haphazard up until that point so I recommend looking at how other guides tell you to study for those earlier months. Feel free to skip to the last 5 weeks, but if you want to compare your progress before that last month to mine I've written out background. I would come to this guide when you need a reminder of the fact that you will make plans and your plans might backfire, but you can still end up doing well.
I've always been a crammer, have never been the type to be able to stick to a set amount of anki cards a day over a long time period (this sucks! I actively am working to change this attitude). I also didn't feel like I knew much from my classes (especially in orgo, genchem, and biochem) since again, I generally tend to cram, take the exam, and forget all of what I learned. Going into studying, my biggest worry was that I didn't have a lot of background knowledge that I remembered.
Background:

• 2 months studying (5.5 weeks content review, 2.5 weeks uworld) summer 2023. Ended up taking sample unscored a month before my august test date, getting a 507, and then deciding to reschedule to March.
  • Biggest takeaways: spent too long getting bogged down on details of content review, avoided practice questions on I was bad at instead of tackling them head on, did not stay consistent with anki. Also barely studied psych at all
• August to January: did not study, was in last sem of college
• 1.5 months Mid January - end of feb (content re-do with anki, and uworld): I felt like I got a decent overview of content from the summer, so even if I forgot the details, it now felt like I was starting studying at the same place as everyone who had retained information from their undergrad classes.
  • Typical day looked like: 1 section uworld C/P or bio + review, ~70 cards of anki/day + more reviews, reading 20 pages of psych. Studied for 4 days / week, took an FL on 5th day, then had rest day or hospital shift on the other 2 days.
  • By the end of Feb, I had finished around 27% of uworld (I reset it after the summer), and done anki with reviews for bio. Had also clicked through MD anki for orgo genchem and physics but didn't do reviews for these since i used it as a refresher

Practice test scores from mid Jan through March: FL1 509, 510 (retook sample), FL2 513 (127 across all sections except 132 CARS somehow), Fl3 513 on March 5th. I seemed to be plateauing around the low 510s, so I decided to push my test date back one more month to the 4/13 date.
Took a few days break where i just passively clicked through some of pankow psych and watched mamma mia and random other shit
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Last 5 weeks of studying:
At this point the cramming panic somehow hit, and I was set on the fact that it was time to lock the fuck in. From March 5th to April 9th (5 weeks) I went from a 513 -> 522 on my Fls. I remember scrolling through this reddit and reading about people saying it's only possible to increase scores by a few points in the last few months, and was kind of doomspiraling because of these posts and comments. I think it's so important to realize that everyone is in a different situation, and you can't generalize a score increase that one person had to what you will have without evaluating your strengths/weaknesses with theirs -- which is why I'm going to try and give as many details as possible on why I think I was able to make this improvement.

• Started using Uworld as a LEARNING TOOL instead of an assessment tool. After all the work so far I was doing ok on timing for the sections, so I used tutored and untimed mode on uworld. I reshaped my mindset to "i am so fucked bc im getting these wrong" to "there is a month left for this exam, I now know why I got this wrong and it's going to at least be in my short term memory for the exam". This was just an exercise in gaslighting myself into confidence, and it seemed to work -- the mindset change made me a lot more motivated, and things felt a lot less disheartening once I stopped caring about what my uworld averages looked like.
• Week 1: Up until this point, I had still not covered the psych content in full since the science sections were "scarier" to me. Would average 127 on my psych sections on previous FLs. Took one week to go through psych Uworld in full, wrote all of my missed questions into an anki MQL deck. Clicked through 100 cards MD a day the week after that (while doing uworld physics) to finish the deck, did not do reviews (this was ridiculous tbh like do your reviews LMAOO). On March 19th, 2 weeks after my 513 on FL3, I scored a 517 on FL4 with 3 points of that increase coming from psych. I think this was mostly due to doing all of uworld psych + going hard on reviewing my uworld sections
• Week 2 and half of week 3: Did uworld for sections that I was bad at -- I had spent about 1.5 weeks going through 75% of the uworld physics questions and uworld orgo questions, and then targeting areas I had weaknesses in for genchem on uworld. After this, I felt a lot more comfortable with the science sections given the background I had already had from doing anki
• Halfway point: 2.5 weeks left until my exam, I started AAMC material. I had done the chem SB and half of the bio SB already, but had not touched the rest of it. In retrospect, give yourself 3 weeks for AAMC material at LEAST, or be prepared to be ok with not finishing all of the material like I did. Bio/chem qpacks and AAMC discretes had not seemed super difficult to me, so I skipped the second bio qpack and half of chem. I finished all of the material except bio qpack 2, half of chem qpack, AAMC discretes, half of CARS qpack1, and CARS qpack2. THAT SAID, the rest of the shit was so hard. The only thing that kept me going was my "this is a learning tool not an assessment tool" mindset and thinking that I was learning things from making these mistakes.
• CONTENT BLITZES (!!!!!): At this point, I knew my strengths and weaknesses, so I actively tackled my weaknesses by going back and clicking through anki chapters/looking at videos for the specific topics I know I was bad at. I made one page "guides" on them, and from the last month of studying ended up having 40 looseleaf pages of "guides" that I looked through 3x -- twice in the 2 weeks leading up to the exam, and once the morning of my exam (oof). This was INCREDIBLY helpful since it made me feel like there was no topic that I would be scared to get on the exam, since I now felt like I had at least a baseline understanding of most things.
• random game changer: found this MCAT AI tool (based on chatGPT) from a company called 1SM. Paid $12 for it in the last month on studying and used it to upload screenshots of practice qs and get their AIs explanation
• Took FL5 on April 9th, and scored a 522. I was so fucking happy im ngl
• Ended up finishing about 43% of uworld with a 73% average, but again I was using it as a learning tool
• LAST 2 DAYS: funny funny funny story is that I never properly reviewed any of my FLs (had reviewed C/P for half of them). this is because reviewing sections i made a lot of mistakes on is something I loathe since it takes me fucking forever and its so much work to figure out why I got things wrong, condense that into a few sentences, and then put that in an anki card. So during my last 2 days I finished reviewing the C/P B/B sections (went faster since now i knew a lot more), but still didn't review any of my P/S or CARS sections. this was stupid imma be honest

Final score: 521 (131/129/130/131) on 4/13 exam

• was part of the people that had the glitch, somehow I just made the assumption that the breached qs were experimental qs and it thankfully didn't interrupt me that much other than the 5min it took for the proctor to look at it. I later absolutely freaked out about the implications of the glitch post exam

Final Musings:

• VERY MUCH do regret skipping the CARS qpacks, but I was feeling a bit more confident about CARS after reshaping my mindset to "this is such an interesting passage and I am actually so FUCKING excited to read about this because its literally hidden knowledge that was declassified or like recovered from the library of alexandria" and seeing better performance after that. Once again, literally just an exercise in gaslighting yourself. I also knew that if I were to finish CARS I would be sacrificing part of studying for my other sections. Still quite happy with my score though so like womp womp i guess it didn't matter LMFAO
• LAST DAY: "dont study on your last day" I was a fucking adrenaline junkie and was absolutely determined to cover the things that I needed to cover in order to feel confident going into the exam (did not do any practice, thats draining). So I studied longer than I have ever studied in 1 day, clicked through all of bio anki / anki on sections i was bad at from 7am to 10pm straight with only a one hour break from 3-4pm where i walked around my house in a haze. I dont recommend this per se, but I guess I am an example of it not entirely fucking me over (but n=1).
• Biochem last 4 chapters I mostly learned by writing out the pathways in a giant map
• Morning of: once again I was in my insane era and studied from 6:15-6:45am, then again in the car from 7am - 7:39am. I took 5 minutes to clear my mind and touch grass outside my test center until 7:45, then walked in and had 7:45-8:10 to clear my mind and not think about anything before I started my exam
• please review your fls before the last 2 days dawgz
• MINDSET IS HUGE. part of why I think I had such a score increase was 1) actually doing psych 2) CONVINCING myself that I was improving and on the right track. Control f everywhere i said "gaslight" and ingrain that shit in your mind because it is actually so powerful
• for the last month of studying i holed up in my apartment and did not see any of my friends (maybe left my apartment 3 times ever?). it was horrible but i was like this is a sacrifice i need to make, also fits the crammer description very well. my only breaks were blasting 2010s hits and country music and dancing to it in my room and also making an ominous classical music playlist (top song of march was mozart's lacrimosa lmaoo)

*******OPENING MY SCORE: I was so fucking scared the day before and even more so the morning of. That said, I knew I had tried as much as I could given the general exhaustion and the wacky way I studied. Honestly I thought I would feel happier after opening my score, instead I felt relief but there was no surge of happiness. Still kind of feel empty, I think it hasn't hit yet. Am in theory very happy though, I remember imagining how happy I would be if i got a score like this. I think this also just goes to say there is life outside of this exam and getting a solid score isn't always like some magical thing but also it is DEFINITELY a relief
In retrospect you should honestly just use this to learn from my mistakes because there were MANY, but I think there is also some helpful advice in here. Am really just hoping this helps at least one person even if its pure yap to 99% of other people. tbh im not proofreading this like im not reading all that again LMFAO but If anyone reads this far and has questions on specific FL section breakdowns or anything else I'm happy to answer! GOOD LUCK MY BITCHES I BELIEVE IN YOU FR

So this is kinda a long story, but I’ll try to make it as concise as possible. Anyway, I (M24) started going to a church group over a year ago. I made a lot of friends there, and I would talk to one of the girls (F24) here and there at the group since we seemed to get along really well. She stopped coming to the group a few months ago and I didn’t know why at the time, but she followed me on instagram and reached out a few weeks later asking how I was doing. We messaged quite a bit, and she then mentioned one of the guys at the group was a creep and would not stop asking her out over text and she said he was basically stalking her. We messaged a bit more, and then asked if she’d like to go out with me sometime, and I texted her this at night. She said yes at first and that she’d love to, but she sent another text in the morning saying she’d love to but feels super anxious with all the stuff she’s going through. I was disappointed, but not upset, and I said it’s fine if we’re friends.
Out of the blue one night, after one of our text conversations, she asked point blank, “what do I look for in someone, like a partner.” I could be reading this wrong, but I perceive this as very strong possible interest to gauge if she thinks we could be a good fit. I told her my honest opinion, and she told me hers, and the conversation seemed to get really deep and we seemed to be on the same page, talking about what we both expect in a relationship, what we’re both looking for, etc… She mentioned she likes it when the guy takes charge, plans the date, isn’t afraid to hold her hand, etc… She described how she had severe gluten and gastrointestinal complications, making food and eating out challenging, which I understand and emphasize with. In response, I asked her what place she can eat at. I then decided to be a bit more bold and ask her out again, since I read our conversation as a green light, saying that I had a plan for a fun date to take her to one of the restaurants she can eat at. She said she still needs more time and doesn’t want to keep me waiting, and I said that’s fine.
I’m just getting really confused. I don’t know if I’m wildly misreading things and she’s not interested, or if I’m doing something wrong, or maybe she’s just really anxious and does need more time, or what. I even feel like asking out twice is my limit, and even more feels creepy to me, which I don’t want to do. I’m at a point where I’m ready to date and would like to, and I don’t want to wait on someone that doesn’t when I can move on and pursue other possible opportunities. I’m just starting to wonder if the whole thing with her claiming one of the guys wouldn’t stop asking her out isn’t entirely true and there’s more to the story. Lastly, should I maybe just be upfront and say I feel like I’m getting mixed messages? Any advice is greatly appreciated!

When they start pulling away that’s a huge sign the discard is imminent. It doesn’t matter what reason they give for it, look at their actions. You can’t trust their words only their actions.
In my relationship experience with my gf, we were on and off for five years and cycled back over a dozen times. I’ve been hit with blind sided discards throughout the years. Usually the discards happened when I thought things were at their best in the relationship and we were having our most closest and intimate times together. I loved her but my heart had hardened over the years and it morphed into a challenge and experiment for me as I am very interested in human psychology. The last three break ups were all initiated by me after I saw set boundaries bulldozed through by her.
In the past, I would have lingered and waited for the axe to fall not believing she would or could actually leave. Now armed with all this hard learned experience, I prepared and waited for her next hoover. Sure enough she came back each time. Sometimes after much more added betrayal. Sometimes she would monkey branch, she would never admit to it but I would usually find out months or years after the fact. She was great at keeping secrets and sneaking around and telling lies. This last time was more of an experiment for me. Her trigger after the love bombing stage and first discard was sexual intimacy which invoked emotional intimacy. Usually right after an intimate encounter she would either start a nonsensical fight and use my reaction as a reason to leave or would just disappear and ghost.
I’ve struggled with does she only have an avoidant attachment style or is there a cluster B disorder also at play. I really think it is BPD with covert NPD traits combined with an avoidant attachment style forming a mental trifecta; a relationship disaster. I knew this last time wouldn’t work. A zebra can’t change its stripes.
She contacted me again to get back together again. I played hard to get trying to decide if I really wanted this or not. I demanded numerous boundaries be agreed to before I would agree trying again. I pushed her so far away, I thought she might just say never mind but when I saw her reaching her limit, I relented and accepted her back with many boundaries in place. I told myself if these were broke I was done and I would leave. One important boundary was being blocked on social media. She would always keep me blocked on FB and other platforms while we were in a relationship. I felt it was to shield her harem from knowing about me and me knowing about them and what she was doing. She kept other ex’s as friends on FB and actually went back to him after we broke up on two occasions.
I often wondered if we put off having sex could we build a stronger foundation and have a longer lasting relationship. I also didn’t want physical intimacy to cloud my judgement and give me false feelings of love. So we both decided to not be intimate right away and just date and put an emphasis on building a friendship and getting close with out sex. Things were great in the beginning. She was trying hard. She opened up in ways I had always wanted. Some of those were because of boundaries I set in the beginning. I got to meet her family and friends. I saw a lot of the same cluster B behaviors in others close to her and her family members from suicide to serial cheating, multiple and short lived relationships etc…
Slowly I could see the mental fatigue on her face. She began struggling about two months in. We decided to plan a weekend getaway and be intimate. I put down deposits on an Airbnb and made plans. She started an argument the week of the trip. Her issue was that I offered to bring her to my gym as a guest so we could do something healthy together and bond. She just thought that was the worst idea ever. During the argument she also told me she could be talking to someone else instead. She then kicked me out of her house. I thought that was the end of the experiment. In the past any conflict no matter how mild would have been reason enough for her to break up.
Low in behold, I was truly surprised, I woke up to a good morning text from her apologizing saying she was not running away and I was her person and she loved me. She stated she still didn’t feel comfortable going on the trip. I lost deposits. I later questioned her about who she was referring to she could be talking to instead. She said she never could have said that as it would have been mean to say.
Fast forward approximately two months later the old argument about the gym was brought up again by her. It didn’t get to the same level of being kicked out of her house. I kept my cool and just gray rocked her and didn’t react. I just affirmed her and said ok. It seemed to give her some relief and not escalate things. We decided to plan a weekend at a casino where we would spend the night. This went off without a hitch. We had a great time and we were very intimate and had great sex. Afterwards laying in bed enjoying the afterglow, she commented this was never our problem. I asked what was our problem, she said it was her running away. She promised to never do that again. The next day we went her parents house for Sunday dinner. Things were great, she seemed so in love with me. I was elated. We were walking into her parents side entrance when I noticed how happy she was and I commented someone looks like they are in love. She turned around and looked at me with the strangest face. Almost like fear. I was taken aback but didn’t say anything as we were walking into her parents house and then greeted everyone. It was like a switch had just flipped. She became distant and quiet. I didn’t see her again until the following sunday. She gave excuses about having to work a night shift that was at first going to alternate every other day to nightly. At the end of the week she invited back to her parents house for dinner. She still texted but I didn’t receive any phone calls and the texts contained less affectionate terms and only offered up I loves you’s only after I did first.
While at her parents house her mother asked if I was going to her birthday party the next night at a restaurant. I said I would love to but I didn’t know anything about it. She gave her mom a wtf look and then said let’s see how he acts first. Me and her mother both looked at each other and laughed. The next night I show up at her house to pick her and her teenage daughter up who had been committed for attempting suicide in the past for the purpose of going to her mother’s bday party.
Two days in the future was Valentine’s Day, I asked what restaurant would she like to go too. She was like I don’t won’t to go out and gave a reason as the restaurants would be to busy but after my persistent questioning she offered possibly a lunch instead and said she would let me know. I dropped it as she was getting visibly angered. This was totally out of character because she always liked going out to busy places where live music and beer was had. I said ok and we continued on to the party. We were at a restaurant and normally she sits right beside me thigh to thigh and she would keep a hand on my leg. That night she sat atleast a foot apart from me and never touched me the whole night. We barely even spoke. Every time I tried she was dismissive.
After dinner we went back to her house and she sat me down to tell me that she felt pressured to see me after work as she missed going to stores and felt rushed to get home to see me. I didn’t react and just offered a compromise and said I understood how about we schedule a date night then. She never responded and just dropped it. She then brought up the gym argument again. I didn’t respond to it. I told her I was her safe place and to just relax. My head was swimming with thoughts of here we go again. I leave soon after her telling me she was tired and I got my peck on the cheek and left early. I did not receive a good night text or ask if I made it home safely. I sent a good night message and fell asleep.
The next morning I wake to no messages which was very abnormal. I normally get good morning messages from her and I love you’s every day. I sent my normal messages and she responds back saying she needed that. But nothing more additional. I go through my day and get nothing else from her. Normally she sends texts all day long. Towards 4 pm I send a text from a gym and a selfie saying hi , I love you. She hearted the photo and said then said she was going to her mom’s house and sent me a selfie of her. She was all dressed up and didn’t look like she was just going to her moms. I was hoping to get an invite to come over. Nothing more came from her. I asked about her daughter as she had was dealing with possible Covid symptoms and I got nothing in response. I didn’t feel like going home so I went to the movies by myself. Sitting there I was thinking why am I putting up with this. I’m really not happy. I feel so alone.
I go to bed and send my normal good night texts. I wake up in the morning and I did not receive any texts. I decided to try calling her and all my calls were forwarded. I then check her Facebook and now see that I am blocked.
I remembered the boundaries I set and the purpose of the boundaries. The purpose was to respect myself and not be used by her again. I did not want to be hurt and abused by her again. With so many discards done in the past by her, I felt the discard was in full swing. I felt she was possibly cheating and the push back was her trying to create space to water a new infatuation. She had recently transferred to a new department within her company and was promoted and allowed to select people she wanted for her office. My gut was telling me she was talking to someone at work which would explain the recent late night hours.
I decided I needed to end the relationship. I sent her a break up text as she always ended it with me that way. Before that happened to me so many times, I never would have chosen to break up over text. But it did allow me to spell out everything I saw and what I felt. It contained my closure and reasoning in an attempt to make my own closure for myself because I knew she would not give any closure and also to hold her accountable. I ended the break up text with an open door and said if I’m wrong please explain. I will listen. Her response was “Wow you said enough.” “I’m done.” I replied “yep, I know”.
Her mother reached out and apologized and expressed regret. I told her everything. I felt vindicated. She said her and her husband thought so highly of me and hoped it would have worked. She did not know if her daughter was seeing anyone else. We have since stopped communicating but we remain friends on FB.
I credit the lack of sexual intimacy as the reason I was able to look at the relationship with sober eyes and step away when I saw the signs. The signs were abuse. They truly were. If you love a person you would never ask for space and give such a silly reason. Sex would have produced false feelings of love. I was able to look at the relationship objectively and I was actually not happy. My needs weren’t being met. I felt so drained and unseen. I didn’t feel loved. She loved the way I loved her but it wasn’t reciprocated.
I felt the need perhaps due to the trauma bond and the perceived betrayal to learn if in fact she had monkey branched in order to help me move away from her permanently.
I reached out to another family member and the ex she monkey branched to in the past. I explained the above information and I ended up not receiving any new information. Both told her I had reached out and her ex blocked me. My ex then sent me an email demanding I stop contacting her family and friends and further more she would be filing a protection order. I never received the order. My only regrets was reaching out to her family and her ex. It just gave her a reason to smear me and to tell everyone I’m nutty person.
I cant say I’m 100% hoover proof at the moment but I have started dating again. I don’t think she will come back again because I believe she feels I can’t be used anymore and furthermore I’m willing to reveal her bad deeds to her family and friends. I think she will choose to move on to a fresh target who does not know her and what she is capable of doing.

I’ve been out of the game for a while and I’m so utterly confused.
So, I met a girl on tinder. I asked her to get coffee Saturday. We went, and to my shock we really hit it off. We have a lot in common which is quite shocking for the time we are in. It went well. Well enough that later in the day I kind of said fuck it and asked her to go bowling.
So, we went bowling and had a great time. So I asked if she wanted to go to a bar and she seemed iffy about going to the bar I suggested because she didn’t want to run into people and have to say hi to everyone? So she suggested we go get drinks and go to her place.
We go to her place and just hangout and talk for hours and hours. Eventually I told her she doesn’t have to sit in the other end of the couch. She immediately starts aggressively making out with me. Then we just cuddled and watched a movie (it was like 3am) then we went to bed and it’s like 4am - I’m too tired to mess around and I assumed she was too.
I did not sleep at all, maybe an hour. So the next morning I told her I was gonna head as I had things to do for others day. I left and then she texted me “is everything okay? You left abruptly” and I explained I didn’t mean for it to come off that way, I just had a lot to do.
So we continued to text each other all day Sunday. On Monday, she randomly messages me and asks me if I want to go on a walk. I said sure and we went for an hour long walk at a park near my place. After the walk I invited her in. We watched a movie and kissed and cuddled. I had to be up at like 5am to go into my office so I let her know I’d invite her to stay but I had to be up super early. She understood and left.
Here’s where everything just gets weird.
She then texts me and asks me if I find her attractive. To which I say of course… and then she says “I just didn’t know if there was a reason why you didn’t want to fuck me?”. Which I then tell her of course I’m attracted to her and want to fuck her. But I like to get to know someone before fucking them.. she says she’s the same but most men aren’t like that. So I reassure her and we get in the same page.
I asked her if she was looking for a FWB situation and she said “to be honest I don’t know what I’m looking for, just going with the flow” and I said same. The she said “I just wanted to see where you were at and let you know I’m down for you.” To which I replied it’s mutual.
THEN she asks me if she can be vulnerable. She tells me that she dated a guy with a micropenis and she can’t do that again. And that it makes her anxious. I then reassure her again that I don’t have a micropenis or any STD’s. We talked and it seemed fine.
Queue to yesterday. She doesn’t text me so I messaged her. I asked if she’s free Thursday or this weekend? She tells me she works late Thursday and has friends in town this weeken. Okay, that’s fine - I just told her to let me know when she has time to hang again. She replies and says she can go into work early Thursday and we can hangout. She also said she can make us food and hang at her place (I gave multiple options on things to do). We continue talking and everything is good.
Yesterday, she also send me a text with a picture of a girls instagram and her text says “k so how do you know this girl and what are the vibes?” It’s a girl I guess she’s friends with that I matched on tinder with three years ago. We never met up and only talked for a month. Nothing sexual and no weird vibes with her so I just explained that.
Today, no text again. So I message her and it’s just beyond cold. At one point I said “looking forward to tomorrow” and she said same:). And then I said “I like hanging with you! And it’s seeet of you to make food.” To which she replied “I would be doing it regardless, but happy to have you!”. I just responded “well good!” And there’s been no response. I’m just leaving it at that.
This is ridiculously confusing. Is this how modern dating is now?

So, I met a girl on tinder. I asked her to get coffee Saturday. We went, and to my shock we really hit it off. We have a lot in common which is quite shocking for the time we are in. It went well. Well enough that later in the day I kind of said fuck it and asked her to go bowling.
So, we went bowling and had a great time. So I asked if she wanted to go to a bar and she seemed iffy about going to the bar I suggested because she didn’t want to run into people and have to say hi to everyone? So she suggested we go get drinks and go to her place.
We go to her place and just hangout and talk for hours and hours. Eventually I told her she doesn’t have to sit in the other end of the couch. She immediately starts aggressively making out with me. Then we just cuddled and watched a movie (it was like 3am) then we went to bed and it’s like 4am - I’m too tired to mess around and I assumed she was too.
I did not sleep at all, maybe an hour. So the next morning I told her I was gonna head as I had things to do for others day. I left and then she texted me “is everything okay? You left abruptly” and I explained I didn’t mean for it to come off that way, I just had a lot to do.
So we continued to text each other all day Sunday. On Monday, she randomly messages me and asks me if I want to go on a walk. I said sure and we went for an hour long walk at a park near my place. After the walk I invited her in. We watched a movie and kissed and cuddled. I had to be up at like 5am to go into my office so I let her know I’d invite her to stay but I had to be up super early. She understood and left.
Here’s where everything just gets weird.
She then texts me and asks me if I find her attractive. To which I say of course… and then she says “I just didn’t know if there was a reason why you didn’t want to fuck me?”. Which I then tell her of course I’m attracted to her and want to fuck her. But I like to get to know someone before fucking them.. she says she’s the same but most men aren’t like that. So I reassure her and we get in the same page.
I asked her if she was looking for a FWB situation and she said “to be honest I don’t know what I’m looking for, just going with the flow” and I said same. The she said “I just wanted to see where you were at and let you know I’m down for you.” To which I replied it’s mutual.
THEN she asks me if she can be vulnerable. She tells me that she dated a guy with a micropenis and she can’t do that again. And that it makes her anxious. I then reassure her again that I don’t have a micropenis or any STD’s. We talked and it seemed fine.
Queue to yesterday. She doesn’t text me so I messaged her. I asked if she’s free Thursday or this weekend? She tells me she works late Thursday and has friends in town this weeken. Okay, that’s fine - I just told her to let me know when she has time to hang again. She replies and says she can go into work early Thursday and we can hangout. She also said she can make us food and hang at her place (I gave multiple options on things to do). We continue talking and everything is good.
Yesterday, she also send me a text with a picture of a girls instagram and her text says “k so how do you know this girl and what are the vibes?” It’s a girl I guess she’s friends with that I matched on tinder with three years ago. We never met up and only talked for a month. Nothing sexual and no weird vibes with her so I just explained that.
Today, no text again. So I message her and it’s just beyond cold. At one point I said “looking forward to tomorrow” and she said same:). And then I said “I like hanging with you! And it’s seeet of you to make food.” To which she replied “I would be doing it regardless, but happy to have you!”. I just responded “well good!” And there’s been no response. I’m just leaving it at that.
This is ridiculously confusing. Is this how modern dating is now?

25 (M) No matter how hard I try I just can't seem to get anything going with a woman. I'm always getting out of my comfort zone and starting a conversation only to get immediately shot down. I get alot of looks as if they're disgusted or just obvious signs that they're grossed out by me or they just act like I wronged them some way. Like I get it I'm not exactly prince charming or a 6'8 tall dude (I'm 5'3), how am I supposed to be myself and put myself out there to find someone if I'm never given a chance in the first place and get judged before i can even do anything. And yes I already tried dating apps and they never work (tried for literally 7 years now). And no I don't have high standards either, my standards are honestly rock bottom, all I'm looking for is personality (aka what's on the inside) I could honestly care less about what anyone looks like. Some kind of help or advice would be greatly appreciated!

Our hot water in the shower is starting to smell sulfur-y, so I was planning to check the anode and drain the hot water heater. A friend of mine told me that if its been 5+ years that touching it may be worse than leaving it alone. Details about our situation:
Previous home owner installed it 6 years ago. Natural gas, 50 gallon Whirlpool. First six months of its life, it was run with no softener (very hard water). After we purchased the house, first project I did was adding a softener. Great water ever since, but I bet there was at least a bit of build-up from its early life. It has a plastic drain valve, which makes me nervous. I've been replacing every valve in the house with 90 degree ball valves after one of those old twist style valves on one of our toilets failed half-open, so I would probably want to do the same here, assuming I go ahead and drain it.
Am I setting myself up for suffering if I go ahead and attempt to drain it? Is it true that if you waited too long to drain it, its better off being left alone?

I'm on the hunt for a great "green" fragrance and I've narrowed it down to three contenders: Parfum de Marly's Greenly, Xerjoff's Torino21, and Creed's Green Irish Tweed. I'd love to hear your preferences and experiences with these scents. Here’s a quick review of each:
Parfum de Marly's Greenly
Pros:
Fresh and uplifting with a vibrant green apple opening. Smooth transition to a heart of cashmere wood and cedar, giving it a sophisticated edge. Excellent longevity and good sillage, making it suitable for all-day wear.
Cons:
Can be a bit too sweet for some, especially if you prefer a more subtle green scent. Slightly pricey, though typical for niche fragrances.
Xerjoff's Torino21
Pros:
A unique blend of mint, basil, and citrus notes, providing a refreshing and invigorating scent. The heart of the fragrance is well-balanced with florals and green notes, giving it a complex and elegant profile. Good performance in terms of longevity and projection.
Cons:
The opening can be a bit sharp, which might not appeal to everyone. On the higher end of the price spectrum, reflecting its luxury status.
Creed's Green Irish Tweed
Pros:
Classic and timeless with a blend of lemon verbena, iris, and violet leaves, giving it a fresh, green, and slightly powdery scent. Known for its versatility, suitable for both casual and formal occasions. Solid performance, though it may vary depending on skin chemistry.
Cons:
Some find it to be a bit dated compared to more modern green fragrances. Creed’s pricing is quite high, and there have been concerns about batch inconsistencies. I’d love to get your thoughts on these fragrances. Which one is your favorite and why? Are there any other green fragrances that you think should be on my radar?

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I will try to keep this straight to the point. I'm an AD Corpsman with about 5 months left in the navy. My goal is to go school when I get out for Cyber defense and Analysis. My end goal is to become a penetration tester. I currently have my sec+, and will be getting my net+ soon, and plan to go to the reserves to maintain my secret clearance, however my chief is suggesting I re rate to IT to maintain my clearance. Sounds great, I qualify ASVAB wise, but I'm not sure how likely I am to be accepted to IT vs corpsman community being hard up for people and wanting to retain me. I'm also not sure if it's possible to get C school in my reserve orders. since that would put me at least at the 6 month A/C school mark to allow my wife to PCS with me. Anyone have any information or advice on the process that could aid me? I appreciate you taking time out of your day to read my post, thank you.

TLDR at end!

• My 2nd great grandmother was named Edna Frances Elizabeth Woodward, born 3 Aug 1895 and died 3 Dec 1996 (both in Philadelphia PA).
• Edna's mother (my 3rd great grandmother) was named Caroline Heck (4 July 1866 Baltimore-20 July 1950 PA)
• Edna's father, according to scraps of paper in the family album and a couple sources, was named Edward Woodward but I do not know his birth or death date.

I have found a decent amount of info on Caroline- I know that she remarried to a William Keating when Edna was 3 or 4 (Actually don't know if she was married to Edward in the first place - can't find any marriage record) and had some more kids.
I can't find anything on Edward, however, because I don't have his birth/death dates. And Edward Woodward is such a common name when I don't have dates to narrow things down.
The only shred of info my grandma (Edna's granddaughter) told me is that apparently Edna told her that her father went back to Europe to visit family and while he was there he died. One scrap of paper in the album has "England" written next to his name and that's it.
My grandma did a DNA test on Ancestry, and I used the Leeds method to sort her matches into groups based on her grandparents and am running into this situation where there just aren't many matches through Edna compared to her other grandparents which makes searching hard. Searching Woodward among her matches' trees doesn't bring me to anyone named Edward as far as I can tell.
Does anyone know how I can tackle this brick wall? I haven't even been able to find something like a birth record for Edna that might list her parents. Edward is listed on her social security claim and in her teenage baptism record. I know one possibility could be that Edward is not her father, but if that's true how would I figure out who is?
If someone with better investigative skills than myself wants to try solving this puzzle, that would be much appreciated.
TLDR: Can't find any information about my 3rd great grandfather Edward Woodward. Would love help finding birth/death dates or confirming his relation to Edna.
I don't know if these links will work but here are my details pages from my Ancestry tree:

• Edna Woodward
• Caroline Heck
• Edward Woodward

And for Familysearch (I have not really vetted all the info on these):

• Edna
• Caroline
• Edward

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I have around 30,000 dollars of credit card debt.
One of my debts is being payed down but they are raising the amount I owe next month... which I am worried about. They issued a lawsuit against me....
So I have other creditors mostly credit cards and now I have another notice from the same company above (MIDLAND) that sent me a pre- legal notification. ..
this debt has been sold at least twice before but I haven't been able to act on much of any of my debt due to crippling health injuries. (Long term Covid / brain fog, hospitalization etc).
I am feeling a bit better to deal with this matter but I know I am deep in the hole.
SO for this one creditor... should I bother sending them a letter asking for more information. I know where the debt originally came from but I am concerned about how many times it has bounced around . Is it worth it sending them a letter requiring them to give me this information?
The other issue... I am honestly unable to pay off the entire amounts. I can maybe pay $10 dollars a month on this particular card .. (which is is around 3,000 dollars).
I had a tough time negotiating with Midland once the lawsuit on the other card occured. .. but I cannot reasonably afford another $100 dollars a month on this debt.. as of now.
I have lost a few years since the pandemic and have struggled to get back on my feet. Things have just not lined up the way I had hoped they would and now with inflation I can barely afford food.
Recommendations? Tips.
Here is the sample letter I pulled..
"To whom it may concern.
I am responding to your contact about a debt you are trying to collect. You contacted me by
Mail on May 1^st, 2024 and identified the debt as from \*****S Bank. Please supply the information below so that I can be fully informed:*
~Why you think I owe the debt and to whom I owe it, including:~

• The name and address of the creditor to whom the debt is currently owed, the account number used by that creditor, and the amount owed.

• If this debt started with a different creditor, provide the name and address of the original creditor, the account number used by that creditor, and the amount owed to that creditor at the time it was transferred. When you identify the original creditor, please provide any other
name by which I might know them, if that is different from the official name. In addition, tell me when the current creditor obtained the debt and who the current creditor obtained it from.

• Provide verification and documentation that there is a valid basis for claiming that I am required to pay the debt to the current creditor. For example, can you provide a copy of the written agreement that created my original requirement to pay?

• If you are asking that I pay a debt that somebody else is or was required to pay, identify that person. Provide verification and documentation about why this is a debt that I am required to pay.

~The amount and age of the debt, including:~

• A copy of the last billing statement sent to me by the original creditor.

• State the amount of the debt when you obtained it, and when that was.

• If there have been any additional interest, fees or charges added since the last billing statement from the original creditor, provide an itemization showing the dates and amount of each added amount. In addition, explain how the added interest, fees or other charges are expressly authorized by the agreement creating the debt or are permitted by law.

• If there have been any payments or other reductions since the last billing statement from the original creditor, provide an itemization showing the dates and amount of each of them.
• If there have been any other changes or adjustments since the last billing statement from the original creditor, please provide full verification and documentation of the amount you are trying to collect. Explain how that amount was calculated. In addition, explain how the other changes or adjustments are expressly authorized by the agreement creating the debt or permitted by law.

• Tell me when the creditor claims this debt became due and when it became delinquent.

• Identify the date of the last payment made on this account.

• Have you made a determination that this debt is within the statute of limitations applicable to it? Tell me when you think the statute of limitations expires for this debt, and how you determined that.

~Details about your authority to collect this debt.~

• I would like more information about your firm before I discuss the debt with you. Does your firm have a debt collection license from my state? If not, say why not. If so, provide the date of the license, the name on the license, the license number, and the name, address and telephone number of the state agency issuing the license.

• If you are contacting me from a place outside my state, does your firm have a debt collection license from that place? If so, provide the date of the license, the name on the license, the license number, and the name, address and telephone number of the state agency issuing the license.


I have asked for this information because I have some questions. I need to hear from you to make an informed decision about your claim that I owe this money. I am open to communicating with you for this purpose. In order to make sure that I am not put at any disadvantage, in the meantime please treat this debt as being in dispute and under discussion between us.


In addition to providing the information requested above, please let me know whether you are prepared to accept less than the balance you are claiming is owed. If so, please tell me in writing your offer with the amount you will accept to fully resolve the account.

Thank you for your cooperation. Sincerely,

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I feel like my marriage is in crisis and my husband does not want to do counseling because he doesn’t want a third party involved in our marriage.
Married 10 years with 2 school aged children. 2 months ago my husband came home with a long letter saying that I made him want to kill himself. It was a long list of complaints about me, some that I never heard before, some that I knew about, like that I am boring in bed, he doesn’t like the neighborhood we live in, he doesnt like how I plan too many vacations or things with the kids, I stress him out, that I was too sad over a miscarriage 2 years ago, he hates our cat, our kids are spoiled, things like that. He looked like he was very very very tired and like he had been out drinking all night or something but he had just gone to work and then the gym. He didn’t smell like alcohol but he just looked rough. He had never ever done anything like this before and things that week at home were totally normal. He has been blowing up more and angrier but otherwise things have been like they always have been.
I am a nurse and before we were married up to 3 years ago used to work in a psych hospital. My husband (Jake) always used to accuse me of having a thing for one of the doctors there (Brian). Brian and I would text outside of work, usually things like memes about our job. It was never in the slightest romantic and he talks to everyone he works with. He is very extroverted and kind of gossipy. Brian since married and had a baby and Jake and I know his wife and kid. I have told Jake many times there was nothing to worry about and got a new job in a clinic where I didn’t see Brian any more. After that we would send Christmas cards and things and sometimes Brian would text me things going on at the hospital like when another nurse’s spouse died . Again, nothing romantic. I know i probably should have stopped replying to him because it made Jake uncomfortable but I didn’t because I considered Brian a friend and thought Brian was harmless.
Well, this is where I f*** up. First I really should have stopped talking to Brian. But, when I got this letter from Jake and he came home in distress I didn’t know what to do and called Brian because he is the only psych I know and I thought he could tell me what I need to do. Brian then told me it was a very dangerous situation and he called the authorities and they put Jake in a hold. I will mention one thing is Brian knows Jake is really into guns and has a large gun collection so that may have been why he thought it was so dangerous.
They let Jake out 72 hours later with some new meds and now he is furious with me. He has been saying that Brian and I were “setting him up” and having an affair. I have begged and pleaded to get him to understand I called him because I thought he would help but he does not believe me. He has also accused me of talking to divorce lawyers since October 2022. I don’t know where he got that date because it is so specific and I have never contacted any divorce lawyer.
I completely cut off Brian and blocked him on social media and text and told him I was not happy with him for calling 911 and that is not why I called. Some other old coworkers have reached out to try to talk to me about it and I blocked them too.
My in laws are now telling Jake to leave me because I got him locked up and am a cheater. But Jake has told them he’s not leaving me.
I’m not sure what to do. I have tried to give Jake access to my computer so he can see there’s no divorce lawyers in my email and phone so he can see all of my texts with Brian. I have told Jake I want to work with a counselor on all of the things he is upset about especially being bad in bed and I started seeing a sex therapist and pelvic floor specialist. But Jake does not want to do counseling with me because he doesn’t want anyone else involved. And he is 100% convinced that I was cheating and talking to divorce lawyers. Every time we talk about it he says that the hold was all my fault and that I am a cheater and betrayed him.
I really love him and I know I made a huge mistake in how I handled that situation. Everything was going so well up until this night and we have two great kids. And, he has not had any incidents like this since, he is just very mad about everything that happened. Is there anything I can do to get him to believe me that I was just trying to help him and didn’t mean to get him locked up? Is there any coming back from this?

Basically the idea is to take some major aspects of Dragonlance, like the endless wars of good and bad dragons, but add in the whole flavor of Tiamat being „resurrected“ from her prison and make an own campaign from combining the two.
The Dragonlance campaign is allready quite small in scope, adding in a quest to go to different places of the world would be great.
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I (18M) started college a few months ago and since about 2 weeks into the semester I’ve only had my mind on one girl from my class. I remember the first day I saw her we were in a big lecture halls and she was sitting 2 rows ahead of me and I just began to repeatedly glance up so I could at her to try and look for some flaws in her since I just thought she was pretty and she seemed shy but I didn’t know her at all so this was just an assumption. It was only a week later when we both had separate classes and by chance we both finished at the same time and were walking out of the college building that I decided to make my move and talk to her. I had never done anything like that before with a girl who I liked and it didn’t seem awkward at all and it really felt like she was trying to keep the conversation going. We spoke for 20 minutes while on our way home and I was so proud of myself because I had planned on building up a casual friendly relationship before I asked her out.
The problem is I didn’t see her at all for the next 3 weeks. I wasn’t lucky enough to finish my class at the same time as her and get to walk home with her again and I didn’t see her in any of our full class lectures so I was just left with the memory of us talking that one time. It didn’t take long before I started to look for her on social media. I had managed to find her instagram and I knew her Snapchat since we were in a group chat with the entire class and I found her name there. I really regret not asking her for her number or any socials before we parted ways because I didn’t realise how long it would be before I saw her again. One main reason why I didn’t do this was because I had previously attempted to add her on Snapchat, through the group chat before we had even ever spoke. I waited 3 days after adding her and she never added me back which is understandable seeing as we didn’t know each other at all so I just unadded her with the hopes of asking her for her Snapchat in person and then we could both add each other without her ever seeing that I tried to add her at one point.
Well at this point I was just stalking her online basically, I would check her socials everyday to try and see what she does when shes not in college classes and I was able to see that she has a close group of friends and she also goes out drinking occasionally.
By this point I began to get angry when I didn’t see her in class, my main motivation for even coming into class was not to get an education, but rather to have an opportunity to see her, and when I didn’t I would get really depressed for the rest of the day and end up just wanting to leave and go home.
It took a whole month after we first spoke for us to randomly encounter again and once again as soon as I saw her my mood significantly brightened and it felt like I was on top of the world. We sat down and spoke for about 40 minutes together and I asked why she doesn’t come in much and she didn’t really give a straightforward answer but only told me that she would be coming in the next day. The whole conversation was amazing, I talked so her about things that I wouldn’t even talk to my closest friends about and I didn’t feel embarrassed to do so, she also told me some really deep and personal things about herself. By the time the conversation was over I still stupidly didn’t ask her for any sort of communication method and I thought it would be fine since she told me she was coming in the next day so I would be guaranteed an opportunity to talk to her again. In my mind everything was going great and I was on track to being able to make progress with her.
The end of the next day came and she did end up coming in as she said so everything was going according to plan for me, but when she was leaving she ended up leaving with some girl who I’d never spoken to before and we had a very awkward and brief encounter while leaving. It was mainly awkward because I didn’t introduce myself to her friend but instead I just spoke to her before realising the vibe was way off and no one was talking so we went separate ways and I left. I felt pretty dejected after this because I hadn’t thought of having to speak to her in front of other people since I’d always usually just do it when she’s along. Luckily for me I saw her 2 days later and I walked up to her while she was alone and getting a drink during a class break, I began to talk to her and was on the verge of asking her if she wanted to go out and have a drink over Halloween break with me and my friends as I had planned but I misjudged the time it took to get back to the classroom and I was only able to ask “are you doing anything next week?” To which she responded no but by that point we were at the door of the classroom and we were sitting very far away from each other so I didn’t even get to ask her. In hindsight I definitely could have said to her “wait before you go in” and then said all I wanted to say but my i wasn’t in the right mindset to improvise like that and I’m paying the price because I haven’t spoken to her at all since then.
It’s been more than a month later, she’s still a big motivation for me to even come in because if I don’t then there’s a chance that I miss an opportunity to talk to her. I’ve seen her a few times and haven’t approached her since she’s always with her friends now but unfortunately our timetables don’t line up since we’re in separate sub classes which is the main reason I don’t see her often. I check her social media daily to see if she’s posted anything and somehow it feels like I getting even more obsessed with her as the days go by. I dream about her at night and different scenarios that would happen if we ran into each other. I decided that when I see her next I’ll just ask her if she wants to go out for a drink and if she says no then she’s not interested and I can be done with this completely.
I had begun to stop looking around the lecture hall to see if she was in, maybe this was because I wanted to prove to myself that I didn’t care whether she’s in when I clearly do. But today she was in, and after class I looked across and saw her as she was leaving the classroom, I had waited an entire month and I was about to get her out of my system completely. Whether I get rejected or not, I could finally move on. But somehow I lost her in the midst of all the other students leaving the classroom, so I decided to just leave so she wouldn’t think I was looking for her and I just casually waited outside the door for her to come out. I knew she had a different class straight after this one, I waited for about 10 minutes like an idiot walking back and forth hoping I’d see her and I never did. She must’ve left when I didn’t realise and just gone to her other class. At this point I was furious wirh myself because not only do I look like an idiot watching the door hoping she would walk through but I would have to wait for knows how long until I’d see her again.
So instead of just going about my day and doing things normal college students do I decided to walk up to the classroom that she was supposed to be in and check if she was in there. I don’t really know what came over me and why I almost did it but I was a few steps away from the classroom before I realise how creepy what I was doing was. I decided to leave the building and I was about to go on with my day but the thought of going another day obsessing over this girl was too much for me so I did what in my mind was okay and I waited outside the building that I know she will leave from because it’s the place we first spoke and it’s the same path we took. I stood outside walking back and forth pretending to go on my phone and just walking back and forth repeatedly when in reality I was just waiting for a girl who I’ve barely spoken to, to get out of class. I almost left and realised how creepy what I was doing was but I thought about the sunk cost fallacy and I decided to stick it out a little longer. While pacing back and forth, in my head I was rehearsing what I would say to her if I saw her and how I would make it seem like we had just randomly encountered each other. Unfortunately for me while I was on my phone as I pretended to turn around as if I had forgotten something, I looked up and I saw her with a girl and some boy from her class walking side by side. I know she saw me because we were a meter away from each other and I watched as they walked by and she pretended I wasn’t there while talking to her friends.
After this I fully realised the creepiness of what I had just done and how it was all for nothing and all I felt at that moment was embarrassment. She doesn’t think of me the way I do of her, I’ve known this for the longest time yet I continue to do creepy things like this and I’m not anywhere closer to my end goal than I was yesterday.
I even felt jealous to see her talking and walking side by side with some guy I had never seen before even though there’s literally nothing wrong with that. I hate the fact that I think of her as some goddess with no flaws that I can think of off the top of my head. I hate that I think of her everyday and I wish I had never spoken to her or I at least did things differently.
I have tried to start more hobbies to get my mind off of her and it has had minimal effect. I even tried looking for some free counselling on my college campus because I know I have a problem but I didn’t follow up with it. I know I won’t see her for a good while because of summer break and I know I’ll continue to behave exactly as I’ve done so in the past and I will continue to obsess over this girl who doesnt care about me at all. I feel like I have no control over this and I feel powerless. Who’s to say I won’t do something so unbelievably weird and creepy the next time I think there’s an opportunity to speak to her again.
I am a creep and I hate it but I have accepted it.

First post in almost 2 weeks - wife had a baby! Baby and momma are happy and healthy - so am I, but I got a bunch of stuff to move. Wife has a friend over so I have time to “play with my coins”. This is one of my largest posts in a while I think. Grab a drink and scroll through. Let me know if you need more pictures!!
Old items are stuff below the US type at the bottom
Chitty chit chat please
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PROOF: https://imgur.com/a/Kl9Vjmf
GOLD https://imgur.com/a/J73widt - (2) 2012 1/20oz MS69 Panda - $150 each - 1988 PF69 1/10 AGE - $298 - 1g sunflower argor - $86
SLABBED ASE’S REVERSE PROOF, all are PF/PR69: https://imgur.com/a/ya9Iggz - 2006P RP 20th anniversary- $95 - 2011P RP John Mercanti Signed, 25th anniversary, slight milk/tone - $160 - 2012S RP 75th Anniversary - $70 - 2013 W RP - $70 - 2019 W Enhanced RP /Pride of 2 nations - $100
PROOF OR REGULAR STRIKE: https://imgur.com/a/ikPRfbc - 2002 MS69 - $37 - 2006 W PR69 PROOF, some toning spots - $48 - 2017 MS69 Gold Label - $38 - 2021 T-2 MS70 ANACS American Flag holder - $46
SILVER BAR BOOK https://imgur.com/a/bpnS4QW - 14 1oz silver bars, most run $36+ on the sludge site. Solid condition. Comes in a Whitman Silver Ignot book. Binding is slightly off, but in great working shape. Seen this book sell $100+ on its own - comps are there - 14oz bars and book - $505
PREMIUM .999: https://imgur.com/a/7oSSzjE - 5oz ATB Ozark Riverways Burnished in Capsule - $175 - 2019 kookaburra in capsule - $31 - 2018 Australian Emu - $34 - 2019 Bhutan Year of Boar - $35 - 2019 Barbados Lionfish - $34 - 2002 Perth Year of Horse - $48 - (2) 2016 Maples w/ 4 leaf clover privy, milky - $32 - 1oz Aztec Calendar, light milk - $30 - 1oz Envela Covid Round - $31 - Slum Metals 4.9oz Hand Pour with COA at 28.5/oz - $140 - 1/2oz Hayley Bug Viking Ship - $20 - (6) 2024 1/2oz Perth Dragons - $24 each - (2) AZ State 1/2oz Bars - $16 each - 1/4 oz Aztec Round - $9 - 6g Canada Bottle Cap - $14
MEXICAN SILVER https://imgur.com/a/w2ojIC7 - (4) 1979 onza scales, BU with some toning - $34 each - (2) 1948 BU cinco pesos - $29 each SOLD
FOREIGN SILVER https://imgur.com/a/99lQydD - 1860 German - Prussia Thaler - $28 - 1875 1 mark - $8 - 1867 50 centimes - $7 - 1904 New Foundland 50 cents - $14 - Take all above for $48 - ALLL SOLDDDD*
US TYPE BELOW
DIMES
CAPPED DIMES - all low grade other than slab https://imgur.com/a/1qLPxNd - link for slab: https://imgur.com/a/OeOna1n - CAC VF Details 1829 - $110 - 1823 - $60 - 1829 - $24 - 1830 - $24 - 1831 - $24 - 1836 - $24 - 1836 - $24
SEATED DIMES https://imgur.com/a/7a6enxD

• 1857 - $30 (https://imgur.com/a/PtvPwbW)
• 1872 - $11
• 1876 - $11
• 1876 S (?) - $11
• 1886 - $10
• 1887 - $10
• 1887 - $12

QUARTERS
DRAPED https://imgur.com/a/S9GoTgc - 1806 draped quarter - $160
SEATED https://imgur.com/a/wcvAbwO - 1853 w/ Rays - 28 - 1853 O w/ Rays - 36 - 1861 - 18 - 1877 CC - 46
HOLE FILLER BARBERS, all are Cull/AG/G https://imgur.com/a/h8LpGSp

• 1903 O - $9
• (2) 1904 - $8
• (3) 1905 - $9

STANDING LIBERTY https://imgur.com/a/w3ZRS1V - 1920 S - $22 - 1926 S - $12 - 1927 S - $40 - 1929 - $10
HALF DOLLARS
Draped Half https://imgur.com/a/v4vf8jL - 1807 Draped Bust Half, obverse is good, decent relief on the stars, but reverse is much better, impressive detail - $330
Capped Bust Half https://imgur.com/a/nEDzel0 - 1810 - $155 - 1817 - $200 - 1822 - $85 - 1832 LL - $70 - 1835 - $105
Seated Half https://imgur.com/a/4hZLRSu - 1854 O - $40 - 1862 S - $70 - 1863 S - $70 - 1864 S (?) - $70 - 1876 CC - $75 - 1877 - $30
BARBER https://imgur.com/a/xt9dgf1 - 1912 VF IMO (visible liberty) - $85 (VF GS is over 100)
DOLLARS
SEATED DOLLAR https://imgur.com/a/859uMmW - 1842 Seated Dollar, impressive condition and beautiful toning - $720
BETTER DATE MORGAN DOLLAR. All priced AG3-G4 unless noted otherwise https://imgur.com/a/A6k6g44 - 1879 O - $30 - 1882 O (better details) - $32 - 1883 S - $30 - 1892 O - $30 - 1894 O - $38 (worse of the two) - 1894 O - $42 - 1896 O (cull) - $34 - (2) 1896 O (middle 2) - $36 each - 1896 O (F+) - $40 - 1896 S - $35 - 1896 S (darker patina one) - $45 - 1898 S (better) - $30
3 Random pre-21 Morgan’s https://imgur.com/a/dFZoC4x - pictures don’t reflect the pretty toning on these, but they’re decent. Worth more than the ask! - $90 for all
RANDOM NEAT STUFF https://imgur.com/a/U0KWu0j - 2018 WWI Centennial Silver dollar with OGP and COA - $40 - Pamp “Burton Morris” Lucky 7’s slot machine silver - $80 - 2024 Fiji 1oz the Vault, neat piece in original holder - $60
STAR TREK SILVER https://imgur.com/a/X7DrKwY - both come with original box, unique light up display case and COA - 2015 Capt Picard PR70 SLAB (glue has come off the box wrapper) - $95 - 2015 Spock RAW - $85
PREMIUM SLABBED COLORIZED SILVER https://imgur.com/a/q0ls7Ln - 2014 1/2oz 2014 Gilt Niue Stork Proof PF69 - $65 - 2017 1/2oz Tuvalu Harp Seal PR70 w/ box and COA - $68
Random Premium Silver; https://imgur.com/a/HawKebu - (2) TD Bank enameled Year of Dog w/ box. Light spot on one - $40 - Highland mint 1oz rounds. W/box and COA: - Drew Bledsoe - $40 - Marshall Faulk - $40 - Jeff Bagwell - $40 - Legacies of freedom set - 2oz total - 2002 Brittania and 2003 ASE - $65
Shipping;
$5 for GA
$9 for priority
$15 for MFRB
Responsibility leaves my hand once usps says “accepted”. Can assure proper packing before drop off, out of my hands after that.
Will ship promptly, most of the time it is next business day, but no later than 2 business days from funds received
Payment methods:
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So I replaced my C2 42 with a C4 42. (No need to debate the wisdom of the change. Don’t worry, the C2 is going to a loving home.)
Main use is PC gaming on a 4090. Some initial impressions:
The C4 is noticeably brighter. Not dramatically so, but it is noticeable side by side and in real-world usage. I didn’t make any measurements, but the reports from Rtings and others that the C4 is brighter are accurate. The difference probably is not enough to justify an upgrade on its own, but it is real.
I see no noticeable drop in brightness in Game Optimizer mode - it looks great. And one difference from the C2 is a Personalized Picture Wizard - added, I think, with the C3 - which actually does a pretty good job of setting a default calibration that looks really good, even in games. It’s not precise - you select from various pictures to get the look you prefer - but I was surprised at how good the result looks. I used it for some games and didn’t experience any input lag, etc. Might depend on the game - and I’m sure its offends purists to even think of using it - but it does offer an easy alternative to Game Optimizer. (And, honestly, I've never worried too much about "creator intent" when it comes to games. The eyes of the guy who paid for the TV take priority.)
I don’t see any off-angle tint, as mentioned in the Rtings review. At an extreme angle - almost full side on - there is some dimming, but nothing like the green tint at lesser angles that is noticeable in the Rtings review. Perhaps an artifact of the larger panels?
The 144Hz mode seems to be a bit broken, at least on my panel. It works in the sense that you can enable it and it appears to do what it promises. But it is finicky - I’ve had numerous black screens in 144Hz mode when I change other settings (VRR, DTM, etc.). The only solution is to unplug the panel - sometimes 2-3 times - to get the panel to reset. Once you get out of the black screen, the new settings are preserved and it seems to work fine in 144Hz mode - so long as you don’t change anything. At 120Hz, I’ve had no problems. Several other folks here have reported the same issue, so I suspect it’s not a panel defect but rather a software problem or perhaps a conflict with certain PC settings.
Overall, I was very happy with my C2 and I like the C4 even better. I needed to replace my C2, and the new features in the C4 are worth the money to me. But it’s not a huge upgrade - no reason to rush out and replace your C2, but the C4 is definitely a nice upgrade when that time comes.

So i'm with my bf(Antony) since 3 years and between us everything is fine. When i first met him i falled in love with him for his great sense of humour, the fact that he always have the joke ready and mostly of all about his abiĺity to lighten up everything of bad or sad that happens to me.
I'm not exaggerating when i say that with me i NEVER saw Antony once being sad. I swear to god NEVER. I always saw him happy or very rarely angry but most of the time smiling, being happy and positive.
After 3 years we decided that it was the right time to make the next step so after we spent 4 months to search for the right apartment to rent we finally found it. It's nothing of special or big but like a first "house" for us is perfect. So in this days we were there packing up our stuff, chosing what to bring when i found a box of his and just out of curiosity i opened it. There were photos of him and his parents, photos of him doing things and photos of him and his little sister. But then i found out a prescription for the "escitalopram".
At first i didn't realize what it was cause i never heard it before but then i googled it and i was shocked. I mean a guy like Antony on antidepressants it was impossible to me. At first i thought about some kind of joke or that it was for someone else but then i searched more accuratly between his things and i found out that he's taking antidepressants since he was 18 and only since 3 years (after we met) it was prescribed this "escitalopram".
I still can't believe it and i'm still thinking at some kind of joke or something similat cause to me it's impossible that my Antony takes this things. I mean even his friend's group gave him the nickname "the clown dickhead". (Obviously as a compliment hahaha)
I sincerly don't know what to right now. How i even bring this up? What should i do?
The things that i know about Antony is that his parents and sister died when he was 16 and that he lived with his aunts but he always said that he accepted this.
So maybe someone that is more "expert" about this things, what should i do? How should i act?
Believe me i'm speechless! I repeat: i NEVER saw him sad when we were together. NEVER. So this thing makes me confused ad hell.
Advices please???
TL:DR; I(25F) just found out my bf (25M) is on antidepressants and i don't know what to do. Advices please???