Front and back view of short, spiky asymmetrical haircut with stacked back

My hairdresser criminally undercharges me and I think I might have figured out why

2024.05.15 06:14 prettydotty_ My hairdresser criminally undercharges me and I think I might have figured out why

Yesterday I got an undercut, a trim and had it thinned $30. My hair is excessively thick so she blocked off an hour to do it. She spent 40 minutes and insisted because she didn't use the entire time that it would only be $30 dollars. Once I booked her to clip a wig of mine for a performance I had coming up and she was adamant not to charge me anything because it didn't take her very long, 10-20mins. I try and tip her well at least but even a 20% tip of $30 isn't a whole lot. I'm an ordinary middle class woman in a small town and I don't look or dress like I can't afford a haircut so it's not that...I don't think.
Yesterday when she was asking me about my life, my best friends life, my music what have you I realized. I'm paying her in tea. It's her only chance to hear about my best friend (who was essentially a local celebrity several years back when she lived there). I'm a musician/recording artist always with strange and new projects on the go, a youth worker, and a foster parent who had just come from dealing with an incident which caused me to be late for my appointment. I think it's mostly cuz of my best friend though because I'm one of the only people now who really talks to her from there. So my current theory is she just wants to hear the updates about my bestie and myself.
But dude, it's the only hairdressing place in town. Where else am I supposed to go to? I'm not gonna be looking for another hairdresser if she charges me a normal price for a haircut. I won't take away her chance to hear all the tea and updates because she charges me $50 for a $50 haircut instead of $30. This is getting a bit ridiculous. I tried to tip her a lot but 20% didn't even tip it above $40. Guess next time I'll tip her 30% if this nonsense keeps up. I protest every time but she insists every time. What do I even do?
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2024.05.15 06:13 xXPaperStarXx Virtual Desktop emulator trackers

 This will be a bit of a long one. 
I just got my HaritoraX Wireless for full body tracking, I also got the elbow extensions for it. I have the dongle for the elbows and Bluetooth 5.0 USB-BT500 adapter for it as well. Setting it up I have a few problems, first off the virtual desktop emulatprs that I originally installed to play around with will not go away at all and I fear they may have something to do with my issues. Secondly, my elbows are the only thing that render when turned on. Though they don't even connect with steam at all. Finally, I've done clean installs front and back and can't think of anything else. I've ordered another dongle for my other trackers and hoping that will help. Problem still, even if it does they don't show up as connecting on steam.
Any suggestions?
Tldr; Don't emulate trackers with Meta quest 3.
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2024.05.15 06:12 Honnii question about unwanted tooth flattening

so i went in for some fillings, and i mentioned to the doctor how i got a chip on my canine the other day (its the dentist, so i felt like i should) and he said he could smooth it out, i thought that implied just smoothing the front (where the chip was) a bit, but he even smoothed out the bottom/tip of it. i did not want that. i liked my point A LOT, and was completely fine with the chip(it was not bad and did not affect me). is it possible to get it fixed for a discount(or free), since that wasn't what i wanted / thought would happen? and is it normal for dentists to not tell a patient with a slight front or back chip on a canine that the smoothing will flatten it? thanks!
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2024.05.15 06:10 -Vogie- Asynchronous Suit - what is it?

Asynchronous Suit - what is it?
As someone who knows nothing about how clothing is described... What would be the way to describe the unique elements of her amazing suit? I'd love to make some of cosplay version but don't even know where to start. Specifically, what words to look for in searches.
Coming off the shoulders in the front are something similar to, but not exactly, a scarf. It seems like a hoodless cloak or cape, but deconstructed and attached to a jacket that has a back most reminiscent of a tuxedo with tails. The high collar seems to be part of the jacket, not the shirt, and presumably zippered?
The extended sleeves seem to be most similar to archery bracers, except worn backwards and made of fabric.
Some sort of leggings that seem to extend into the boot... are there leggings that attach to the ankle?
Any additional information would be greatly appreciated.
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2024.05.15 06:10 viagrawithlegs Finally, finally I’m better ? and it was not what anyone thought

TLDR; After trying EVERYTHING I reduced stimulants to promote rest and digest and reduced sugar to limit bacterial infections Would like honorary phd for this ten year $100k research project “Fine” now 🥹 ?
I have had eczema since 8 months old. Cats and dust allergy and sweat/heat induced. It was no biggie. An antihistamine and the occasional topical OTC steroid cream - easy peasy.
Fast forward, I’m 24. I started getting really hot and red in my face. Can’t tolerate heat at all. My eczema was flaring non stop like crazy. Had it in places I never had before, eye lids, neck. Couldn’t sleep I was so itchy. Had restless leg wtf could only sleep every second day
Saved up for an allergist and started doing desensitisation treatments, bactroban in the nose, and the nurse secretly told me I could take up to 6 antihistamine pd and switch between a few brands
My skin got so bad the doctor wouldn’t let me have the injections anymore Doctor offered me lyrica and prednisone. I was so far gone the prednisone did NOTHING . They literally told me “I can’t help you anymore please don’t come back”
My skin was now flaking bad, like I was turning into sand. Scratch , weep, scab, flake, repeat. Folliculitis all over my legs. I was itchy every waking hour. I slept in a bathtub for 6 weeks getting 1 hour sleep while working full time wearing cream and barrier cream under full body bandages. Found out about TSW and related
Ended up in hospital with a golf ball sized boil in my eyebrow. IV antibiotics cleared up the infection but still itchy. Was told it was the type of antibiotic they don’t give out unless you’re about to die .
Finally saved up and waited 3 months to see a dermatologist. She said option 1. Cancer drugs (assuming an immunosuppressant?) 2. Light therapy
I chose 2. Not sure what it did but I got a nice tan I also tried EVERYTHING short of sacrificing small animals and children during an eclipse . Spent $$$$ laser hair removal, chiro, naturopath , special elixirs, creamssss , dottera, hcl tablet, bleach then peroxide baths, condys crystals, iron, avene, acupuncture, fungicide, silk sheets, plain tooth paste, shower water filter , digestive enzymes, magnesium, tar, charcoal poultice, drink clay powder, activated grains, keffir , blood type diet, psychology, relaxation , Chinese herbs, vitamins, shaman ritual with eagle feather (not joking). Taking showers scared me because of the excruciating pain of open wounds everywhere. Tried swimming in the ocean. Felt like being set of fire but I was wrong. Had a bath with a bit of tea tree oil. Ah, NOW I know what it feels like to be set on fire (creepily got itching relief from the pain Ala black mirror).
Nothing working So I quit literally everything I ate except 30 INGREDIENTS (1 water, 2 salt , etc) on the combined advice of three eczema books Eczema slowly improving Reduced it further to having nothing but one fruit smoothie per day for SIX MONTHS “because fruit is healthy” (and eating one celery stick was too depressing ). Somehow lost no weight . Was getting better but still red and hands still looked like dinosaur skin. I
An energy healer told me it was fruit. lol. Stopped eating the smoothies and skin was better in 1 week. Redness/heat tolerance didn’t improve. Still have restless leg
Flakes and infections came back every year. Back in hospital with another golf ball boil when I’m 30. Goes away Flares again a year later
Had emotional crisis and got Valium from doctor . Magically healed! Stop Valium (not a fan) Heat intolerance recurs. Frequent flare up Try medical cannabis . Fine for a while then I adapted again like the Borg
This year (I’m 34, with 1 year of a biomed degree under my belt) I hear about anticholinergic syndrome and relate. I quit drinking tea and coffee (rip ☠️ switched to chicory root) or taking antihistamines.
Redness going away Heat tolerance improving Eczema disappeared Been healthy??? for 6 weeks Wish me luck 🍀
Sorry this post is so long , tried to condense a 10 year journey of misery as short as possible. hope this helps someone
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2024.05.15 06:09 Im_just_a_petty_gurl AITA for dumping all of my friends for my boyfriend?

Hi I'm 20F and this happened around 3 years ago. For proper context I will be explaining about my "friends" first. I'm sorry that this is a very longgghg one but I needed to get it out of my chest. Also forgive me for any grammatical mistakes as English is not my first language. I'll start with my 6 year long ex bestie Bee, in short she was a huge pick me. Since the beginning she used to insult me infront of boys to make herself look good. I didn't really realise it back then because I thought that's what friends do. She literally used to drag me around a bunch of boys and would call me fat, crooked legged and eagle nosed. Even my mom and my brother kept asking me to break the friendship but I was too afraid thinking I'll be alone. I always had her back though, she used to come to me crying if she's facing any issues in her life and I was there for her. I started my college around COVID time so the friends I made were through online meetings. Once we all met, we hit it off. It was really great!. My best friend in college was a guy named Shawn. We were really close and one day he came up to me and said "I like someone", me being me started investing who it could be. Then a girl named Penny from our friend group told me that Shawn had told her "someone likes you". I was like YESS I found it! And I did my part and now they are a couple. I was soo happy. After a month or so he came to me and said he wants to break up cuz she's too controlling and jealous and I took her side because I kinda understood her since he was still talking to his ex. It became too frequent though and I just told him do as you please. And one more important thing is her family is extremely strict like she can't even talk to a guy. So in college I used to sit in between them like they asked me to do that teachers don't doubt anything and complain to her parents. But the issue was I had to be around them the entire day and be ignored by them. I didn't mind at first but it got frustrating as time passed. I would try talking to them and they would just ignore me but they didn't want me to sit away from them either. The moment we walked out of college they would walk away from me leaving me alone. Next Anne and Chris. Mann are they messy. Anne had lots of boyfriends but we did not know it back then when we used to talk to her. Chris is a senior who proposed to Anne and she accepted it. One day a random guy texted me and asked me Anne's contact details and I refused to give it. He then sent me the photos of her kissing another guy. I blocked him and texted Anne about this and she accepted she was cheating on Chris. But Chris, Penny, Shawn and me were really close at this point. I told Chris about this and he confronted her, he said when she went to visit her hometown, she asked for a break and that's when the cheating happened and when she came back to City she dumped that guy from village and got back with Chris. Guess what, Anne went to Village again and she ghosted Chris. Chris started texting my then bestie Bee. I told both of them not to grow feelings towards eachother or to talk that much because I knew Chris only wanted to get back at Anne and whereas Bee would use Chris as timepass. I mean yeah it's their life but only I knew this about both of them. They were acting serious and both of them were my friends, i couldn't let them do this to eachother. Well they ignored me. They did complain about eachother a lottttt though and I gave the same advice to stop talking so much. Anne returned from her village and she got to know Chris is talking to Bee. She simply asked him to stop talking to Bee and he DID. He told Bee he doesn't want to talk to her and he texted me "I got my everything (Anne) so I don't need Bee anymore" Bee felt bad and I told her well atleast don't repeat it again because I know he will text you again and Anne will cheat on him again. In between all of this drama I met my boyfriend through a online game. I used to talk to him whenever Shawn and Penny were ignoring me and I stopped caring about them. And yes I had told them I felt very bad many times that they ignore me and for like 2 days when I was around them Penny would say "oh we should talk to her or she will feel bad" and then talk to me. It was embarrassing really. In short my boyfriend is a great guy who moved to my city. Mind you he was just 17 when he moved. He convinced his parents he needed to study in my City for ME. He made me realise how much more i deserved so I just stopped being bothered by my friends. I introduced all of them to eachother so they used to hang out without me as well. Penny asked Shawn to not to talk to me. Chris and Bee started talking again and Anne left Chris again. But both of them would constantly complain about eachother about how much they hate eachother. Another thing about Bee is the guys she was dating were usually my friends. Like I would introduce my friends to her and she would go snatch the boys up and would ask them not to talk to me. I didn't care because I wasn't attracted to those guys anyway. Once I told about my crush and she literally asked me "ask him to follow me hehe". I was like wtf no I can't ask him to do that. She followed him. He asked me "why is your friend following me and sent a message request" I told him the truth cuz I was just fed up with her. He blocked her lol. He told me not to have friends like her. Anyway she started texting my boyfriend as well. She used to say "when you come to City let's go out to eat, buy me that, buy me this blah blah blah". Little did she know I had his account and I knew she wasn't "busy" so she couldn't reply to me. She needed 2k because she borrowed it from her mom to give a random guy lol. He never returned it but she was crying so I asked my bf to lend her 1k for now. He told her "return to my gf in cash since my mom can see my transactions". She ghosted me after he gave her the money. I confronted Shawn and Penny. I told them I don't want to be their friend anymore because I was there for them always and whenever I texted them they would straight up ignore me. There were some rough words. I told Bee about this and I cried because I did share good moments with them. I also told her they are planning an outing for which they will invite Bee just to spite me and told her I'll feel very bad if u go. She went :). I just asked her to return the money asap and wanted to end it all. The thing is they hated eachother so why go and meet them when I am the one who is helping you when you are in need? Not just the money, I was standing up for her in so many occasions.
She said she can send the money online because she knew I can't say ok to that. I asked her cash she ignored me. I kept asking her decently. I got fed up and texted her mom asking the money and then Bee replied saying "don't act so cheap and text my mom" I'm like huh? If I'm cheap then what are you for taking the money and ghosting me? I told her I'm just asking what u owe me so give it. She said ik y you are asking, it's because I went out with them right, i didn't even know u would feel bad. I told her consider the money as charity and get lost. Blocked. Whereas Chris talked shit about my friend group so I fought with him and he said "you are a b'tch and you don't deserve anything". This happened before I broke friendship with Shawn and Penny and they never stood up for me. Shawn and Penny were beside me standing and seeing me arguing with Chris and said nothing. While the only reason I fought was for them. Funny because what happened later proved who deserves what. My boyfriend moved to City (nobody believed he would come). I topped my last 3 semesters(I was tutoring them during exams and wasted my time before. Now both of them were scoring Avg marks and Penny even cried in class after seeing her marks and mine). I got placed in a huge MNC Company (Chris being my senior was working as a janitor in a clinic, not to shame but just saying). Shawn and Penny apologised to me later on for talking to Bee after we broke out friendship because they realised the kind of person she is. Shawn also mentioned that she had asked him for money but he said no even though he had it lol. Chris and Bee were in a short toxic relationship until he dumped her again for Anne. Bee is also now with no real friends or no real boyfriend and was seeing hanging out with her sister on her bday(I used to take her to Cafes). I would have been with them if I hadn't met my Boyfriend. I don't regret the friendship because I did my part as much as I could. So AITA?
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2024.05.15 06:09 Mother_Tomatillo_481 Any other ways to reach out to Riipen?

Hi everyone, I recently finished a project (on April 3rd) and much like the rest of you, have been awaiting payment for quite a while. I eventually got in touch with Riipen through the avocado chat in hopes of getting some clarity on the payment timeline. The operator I eventually reached out to informed me of various issues they found with my project that they told me to resolve before payment could be issued.
It's a long story, but most of the issues the operator mentioned were either non-issues (ex. their website FAQ directly contrasted what they're saying), or something that I explained to them in a very detailed way but they seemingly didn't really read my messages.
I'm quite stressed about this and trying to be polite about the situation, but I can only say that the operator does not seem to really read any of my messages to explain my situation, and also responds quite slowly (I understand that they are busy but a one sentence response took almost five days) and without any detailed explanation at all.
Because of these experiences, I just want to see if there is any possible way I can contact any other representative on Riipen about my problem. I also tried to email the levelup@riipen email and after I found out that isn't checked, I emailed [help@riipen.com](mailto:help@riipen.com). The same operator responded back to me. I tried calling their number and the Level Up voicemail let me know that they aren't able to assist by phone. I don't know if the best option is to create a new ticket or if that would just also result in my issue being pushed to the back and even have the same operator responding again.
I understand that it might be difficult to understand my context given that I have omitted a lot of detail about my actual issues, but if providing more information would be helpful to resolving the situation, I would be more than willing to.
I also apologize for how lengthy this is getting, but long story short, I'm just wondering if any of you know any other possible way I could get in touch with Riipen. Sincerely, thank you for reading and any possible insight.
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2024.05.15 06:08 Inthemaze_1827 I wrote an “if” story for Celestine and Eric based on the suit description of Ripples of Moon

It is for the facebook page activity. English isn’t my first language and I accidentally wrote it too long… 💀What have I done they don’t even reward diamonds 🫠🫠🫠
1
After knowing Eric was killed by the cold arrows, in countless lonely night, Celestine doesn’t remember how many times she couldn’t help but sobbing underneath the moon. Everything from that dreamlike memory turns against her, making regret and yearning as her tear. The secret they have shared and the happiness they have experienced for only a short while, now is remaining as a hole in her which fills with unspeakable agony.
Yes, unspeakable. As long as the Fairy and the Sanguine are still enemy, the knot of her mind could never untie, no matter how much concern and care were shown to her. Because the reason she couldn’t relief can only be a secret that bury in her deepest mind.
2
Her fairy friends bring her brushes and pigments, expected that Art could be a way to heal her. When she picks up a brush, the flashback of that moonlit night of the first time she met with him is so clear in her mind, as if it was happened yesterday. Tear shud from her bowing head, a strong feeling bloom in her heart, ‘If getting to understand the thing he liked, can I get closer to him?’
In later days, she spends all her days to soak in the world of color. Except it is a way to commemorate her beloved one, sooner she have found that art could also be the way to express her true feelings beneath the deepest side of her mind, and so she feels so much relief than before. Years and years, by the artwork in her memory which she has seen from talented him as a goal, she worked very hard to improve her art skill, in order to paint the world he has seen. Every years, she would paint the lake where he drew and where they‘ve met once, until one day, she found that her skill has already been to where she has once wished to reach. “I could see the same view as you now…”
Somehow, a feeling of emptiness comes over Celestine.
3
As she walks to home in the deepest forest, the thick woods gradually cover the moonlight and the starlight from the sky. Beneath the shadow of branches and leaves, she takes out a new canvas, and starting to draft an appearance of a person.
“He had a pair of branch-like dark wings without feather and unlike any fairies, the black and light purple suited perfectly outlines his artistic body, the pair of high heel boots quietly brought out of his sexiness, and that slightly worn hood whispers his mystery. He looked so dangerous with his bone hands but I was so much into his touching. When he took my hands into dance, the moonlight fell on his flowing silver hair, making lively of his….”
…How was his face looked like?
Celestine, then sinking into shocked.
——
A few days later, a friend who visited Celestine has found that her house was in a mess. There were a lot of canvas scattered around everywhere, which were all depicted about the same person but with an erased face. However, Celestine herself was nowhere to be found. The only thing the fairies could find after a long while, is an existence who is known as Mrs. Bone.
—-—
——-
4
“I finally meet you… I finally meet you… I finally meet you…”
A repeating whisper echoes in the Shadow City, no body knows how did the master of this voice entered into here. Leading by a Sanguine, the fairy who holds tight of a skeleton which is wrapping by some muddy, broken clothes in her arms, kneels in front of the throne of tomb. The giant wings of white devil and black angel spread, showing the glamorous body and the blood lust gaze of the queen from that dark throne.
"Are you gonna pay for your desire, even if the cost is to render yourself into darkness?", she asked, with a slow, arrogant voice.
"Show me your madness then, soak your soul into BLOOD!"
——
5
Putting on a dress that makes of the bone under her feet, to make herself a well-match wife to him - You’re in black, I’m in white, and we’re in bone.
Upon the cluster of rose and bone, the man who has only bone remained, opening his “eyes”. He is unable to speak, since he has no throat. (But this will be just temporary)
He has never expected that he could awake from his everlasting “sleep” in this form, seeing the world, and meeting her once again. Her atmosphere seems slightly different, but still, her light skin is as beautiful as the moon of Lake Bovaly, her purple eyes is as deep as the sky of Shadow City, and her tender smile is like the meteor they’ve seen together, which streaks into his very heart. Tears that reflects the color of the blood moon shud from her eyes, and he just reaches out, wipes her tears away from her endearing face. Yet she holds his hand and rubbing her face with it, to feel this touching of long lost - she has been waiting for this day for so long in countless lonely nights. And now, she’s not the girl who has only the understanding of the art he likes, but also has learnt the desire of blood that root in his sanguine nature - it is for the sake of maintaining the spells of his resurrection, rebuilding, and existence. But most importantly, for the sake of LOVE.
“Even death could never separate us anymore.”
-End-
Thank you for reading and Sorry for my grammar and weird story🫠
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2024.05.15 06:06 GlitteringEarth9357 (USA) i’m going to quit

i’ve only been working at mcdonald’s for a month, but i can’t take it anymore.
i’ve worked as a cashier at gas stations and other fast food places so i knew mcdonald’s would be shit but not this shit. it’s such a toxic environment. definitely very cliquey. a lot of my co workers are young adults around my age. but all of them are so fake and mean. i’ve even seen the nice girl laugh at me behind my back on one of my first few days. there is one manger who is the absolute sweetest but everyone else is a piece of shit.
i work 5 days a week, i see the nice manager about 2 days sometimes. but when she isn’t there it’s a HUGE difference. i do drive thru orders and the cash at the window. whenever the nice manager isn’t there i’m stuck doing it all alone. and i won’t get a break nor will they even make me lunch (i always ask for the simplest thing too like just a cheeseburger or 6 nuggets)
my coworker is supposed to help with orders here and there but she’ll take like 5 orders through out the whole day. even when we’re getting slammed and she’s not even busy. there’s so much more i could say but i want to keep it as short as possible.
i work a few more days until my days off, but i can’t do it anymore. i’m planning on quitting i’m the morning, but i’m worried they’re going to mess with my check and “lose” it or make it less or some shit if i don’t wait until my days off to quit. has anyone had any experience with this happening?
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2024.05.15 06:06 SelectionClean9455 Clap/Smack Stack Clanging

I have a Meinl smack stack that sounds more like metal clanging than clapping. When I first got it, it was on an old crappy stand temporarily and sounded amazing. I’m talking worn out shitty felts and everything, but it sounded just like clapping. Then I swapped it to a new stand and I can’t seem to get it to stop clanging. I’ve tried different felts, different levels of tightness, different angles, different stands, nothing stops the clanging noise. It’s less clapping, more robots banging. Has anyone had this experience and know a solution? I know the obvious is to put it back on the crappy stand but that was only ever a temp option to test it out and doesn’t fit with my kit.
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2024.05.15 06:06 HighStrungHabitat Confusing session with my therapist left me feeling very hurt, could use some insight

So I’ve been seeing my therapist for two years now, and we haven’t had many issues for the most part. But I have noticed a pattern of my therapist bringing up the topic of power struggles/imbalances, and it always leaves me feeling very confused. For example, a while back after my first dog passed away, I tried to explain to her that it was hard for me to navigate our sessions bc I was so drained, and I asked her if she could help guide me through it by asking direct questions, etc, so it would be less overwhelming. Her response really caught me off guard bc she was acting very defensively and kept talking about power struggles, I felt like she was accusing me of questioning her ability to treat me, all bc i said it was too overwhelming to have the ball thrown entirely in my court every session, and it made me really angry, I felt so invalidated/degraded. That conversation definitely affected my trust in her and overall comfortability in therapy, I didnt feel like it was safe to keep bringing up so I tried to just move on, but as time went on I noticed that since it was never resolved, it was bleeding into the present, bc I stopped feeling like I could be completely honest but never addressed it again. I made the decision recently to bite the bullet and talk to her about it…. it didnt go well.
I am now even more confused and hurt than before bc I don’t understand what I did to warrant my therapist to respond so out of charecter, she is usually such an amazing listener, but today when I was trying to explain the situation, she became extremely defensive before I could even finish what I was saying. She thought I was accusing her of lacking empathy when my dog passed away, and that wasn’t at all what I even said, but she jumped in and snapped at me before I even finished what I was saying. I tried to clarify things, but it became increasingly harder to do so without crying, bc I didn’t understand why she was so frustrated with me. I never once raised my voice, or anything of the short but she just kept saying she didn’t understand and she was confused, no matter how many times I tried to clarify things. She then, once again kept bringing up power struggles, and mentioned that I apparently have this pattern of challenging/questioning her, in a way that isn’t helpful every couple of weeks, and she mentioned this was in her notes.
I seriously don’t get it, how does questioning a therapist automatically mean you are trying to engage in a power struggle? And how is anything I said even questioning her? She also, mentioned feeling devalued, and said that bringing up things from the past is passive agressive even if i don’t feel like it is. I felt like she wasn’t allowing me to have my own thoughts/feelings about any of this, bc even though I tried to clarify what I meant/my intentions, she was still defensive. I feel completely defeated, like no matter what I do it’s just going to lead to what is actually an argument, even though it’s not technically. My therapist always tells me any feedback is good feedback and that no emotions are bad, she won’t personalize anything, etc. But doesn’t her behavior kind of seem like she is taking it personally? bc if she wasn’t, then why is she getting so defensive?
Also, not to mention my therapist knows that I have a hard time confronting something in the moment, due to issues in my family/social life, I’ve sort of been programmed to feel like it’s unsafe to say something in the moment, and it’s better to bring it up later. So to be told it’s passive agressive when she knows why I do it, makes it even more hurtful.
I just feel so hurt and invalidated, I’ve been through hell this past year and I’m currently going through the most difficult time in my life, bc I lost my grandpa recently, This definitely didn’t help.
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2024.05.15 06:05 nopehujkinmkh New dog. In love. Stubborn as heck.

New dog. In love. Stubborn as heck.
Hello, I have just adopted a wonderful dog. She had a very rough start. They found her covered in fleas ticks and dirt in the middle of Texas and she was heavily pregnant. She was brought to Connecticut and had five puppies. Only four of them survived. The four survivors were adopted out. She was then spayed and put up on Petfinder where I found her and brought her home. She may have some hormones that are still regulating but She is a literal dream. She is the cutest little thing. 17 lb Boston terrier Chihuahua mix. I've only had her a week but she is already so attached to me and she's been wonderful and she's slowly been socializing with other people and dogs. She is just a goofy clown that brings so much joy to my life. I understand that both of those breeds can be stubborn, but I feel like she's doing a full-on protest. Every morning I wake up and I drive her to the dog park because it's fenced in and I let her get her energy out in the morning and then I take her again at lunch time with a little picnic for myself and then I take her again at night. The problem is when I don't have time to drive her or when it's too late or when you know life just gets in the way like my car broke down like it did today. I have to take her out for a full hour, hour and a half. Sometimes two and a half hours and she will either do a poop or a pee but not both. And then we come inside either overnight or right away. She will do the one in the house. Now when we go to the dog park she does both and comes home and doesn't have an accident. I'm wondering if this is just her adjustment time which is fine. I I don't discipline too much with the accidents because I go more with positive reinforcement where I give her a lot of praise and treats when she does go outside. I try not to raise my voice today but days like today when it just is piled on....it's hard to be patient.I want to be clear. Nothing in this world is going to make me get rid of her. If I have to freaking pad train her I will. I don't want to. I think she might be cold outside. She is a short-haired dog and the night time is sometimes cold. I got her a longer leash that she can run around more. I play fetch with her. I take her on longer walks. Today we were outside from 9:00 at night to 11:30 and the moment she came in she came in and immediately peed on the bed. The only other issue we've had is she occasionally resource guards me. But she's usually quick to drop that when I correct her. I feel terrible because I had to put her in the kennel while I remade the bed and cleaned up the pee and she's looking at me like I broke.jer heart. .
I was really nervous about getting a dog. I waited 15 years to get a dog. for contexts I had a wonderful little dog. He was 27 lb. He was the mix of all mixes. His mom was a Chihuahua pug and his dad was a cocker spaniel poodle. He was a very odd looking boy but very cute and he was very well behaved. Now my mom's friend had puppies and my mom wanted one and my dad told her we're only going to have one dog. I love my mom. My mom is not a great person. She basically made me get rid of panda because he was an "ugly dog" and she wanted a puppy. She never got one. By the way, my dad really liked Panda and when we got rid of him he was kind of pissed and told her that they weren't getting another puppy ever . I would have said no but I was only 19 at the time and I didn't have money to move out of my own. I was still in college. Panda went to my boyfriend at the time's mom who was retired so she was home all the time with him and they had a wonderful relationship. But unfortunately, his mom lived alone and fell down some stairs and died. He then went to My ex-boyfriend who will let me visit him and pet him and see him all the time until my ex-boyfriend and I got in a fight when his roommate wanted to get a couple of Cane Corso puppies and I told him that wasn't a great idea for a 8-year-old 27 lb dog who's only lived alone. Then things got weird Tommy gotten sick and I offered to take care of Panda and he yelled at me and told me I was never going to get Panda back because he gave Panda to his new girlfriend's parents. But would not provide any pictures or updates or anything? And I understand that I was forced to give Panda away but it's not something I wanted. Unfortunately. Tom was a heavy drinker And had a lot of trauma In a short amount of time his mom died then his dad died that his best friend died. He ended up drinking himself to death. I tried to find out where Panda went but everyone was really secretive about it. i think something bad might have happened with Panda and the Cane Corsos because Tom was the type of person to not want to admit someone's right when he's wrong and I feel like the only reason he wouldn't have told me about what happened to Panda is because then it would prove that I was right even though I don't really care that I'm right.
I promised myself that I would wait until I felt like I was in a place where there was no way I could lose my dog or anyone could make me lose my dog. I gave Panda away 15 years ago. I'm in my thirties now and I am a very confident with dogs. All my friends have me watch their dogs. I know a lot about training but I've never adopted a dog and I understand the 333 rule but I just want to make sure I'm doing an okay job even though she seems to be in protest. Am I taking her to the dog park too often even though it makes her happy? She really is the best thing. She is such a love. Also, thank you for your advice.
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2024.05.15 06:05 Cultural_Spirit1702 I NEED MAJOR HELP.

I am able to do anything without having someone do it for me. I’ve been known to fix or even mod whatever to bring it back k to life. That being said, I am full timing it in a class c (I think?) with my 3 teenage boys and a dog. My parents own the it, and basically needed someone to take care of it. Long story short, here I am. Inexperienced with no real help. I could use advice on everything. I have no clue what needs maintained, fixed, or what isn’t supposed to be, but is. My biggest problem right now is the water and toilet…winter MAYBE caused a pipe to burst, and when I turned the water supply on, it shot out of the bathrooms faucet handles like mad, and I shut it off again before flooding the place. Since then, we go to the public bathrooms to get water and shower. We are staying at a nice trailecamp ground close to the city. The toilet became clogged and I fixed it with some blue tank stuff (I have no idea what it is called exactly, but it breaks down bad things, while also neutralizing odors), and a special plunger, but not the snake kind. All was well until 4 days ago when the toilet clogged again. This time I’ve been plunging for hours day after day, and it is only draining a little. I was able to plunge out some napkins, which most likely fell in by accident. NOTHING gets put down the toilet EVER.Recently , whenever I plunge, water is coming out of the bathroom sink. Omg I’m overwhelmed with questions to ask what to do, what everything is, and how to do it. They mention emptying grey tanks. I thought our sewage was paid through what I pay the RV park to stay here. I don’t know what to do. Can anyone just begin telling me some of the tasks I am needing to do for maintenance?? My parents most likely hired someone, or didn’t understand what they were doing. One can only watch so many YouTube videos. Please no judgment. The situation that pulled me to this challenge was unavoidable, but I am determined to come out of this a pro. Thank you in advance, and sorry if I seem all over the place with my explanation. I just have no clue what I am doing, and I need as much help, tips, and advice I can get!
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2024.05.15 06:04 NeverSurr3nd3r Suffering a bad case of homesickness

I haven't used reddit in a while since I arrived in Canada. But at the moment, I just want to unload some stuff. I don't want to feel vulnerable and needy in front of my friends and people that encouraged me. Right now, I had this sudden feeling of being homesick. Being in a different country is not as easy as it seems. I am currently an international student, with no work, and a very tight budget. I dont want to burden the only friend I met here with what I'm experiencing.
I remember how easy my life was back in PH. How I can drive around to find good food, have friends that are easy to invite to hang out. How I can play the sports I love. The stable job that I had.
I know this is really challenging. I am all for it. I welcome challenge. Its just that suddenly, I felt alone and vulnerable.
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2024.05.15 06:04 Aromatic_Leather_254 Theories for S2

(I’m also not sure how they would all fit in a timeline so just keep that in mind when reading this)
Percy is revealed as the “lover” and/or biological father of the twins. I think it will be a big revelation in the first ep with flashbacks from then (when they had their romance) to now (where everyone is going to cordelia’s funeral and more things are revealed? idk)
Mortimer and the whole beaufort company. I think he will end up loosing the company because of some legal clause where you need to be blood and especially if the father theory is right he will have nothing linking him to the company other then his last name. If this is the case he will suck up to the twins to earn his spot back in the company and all the money.
Lydia keeps the baby obviously because she was happy at the end of the finale and it’s kind of like love triangle between Her, Sutton and Cyril. (I added Cyril in there because they seemed like they hooked up or kissed a few times although she doesn’t really seem into it.) If they go the Cyril route they will probably add scenes of them hooking up like past flashbacks. If they go the Sutton route which is more then likely (I really really hope they dont! I HATE SUTTON) but it will just become like PLL with the ‘ezria’ ship, Where they glossed over it and potentially glorified it.
Finally to james and ruby, I think James will briefly break up with Ruby once the company is passed down to him and just try to focus on the company and oxford, after a while i think he will leave oxford (The only reason he would have stayed was for Ruby and his mother). Ruby probably gets in trouble from the school because of Mortimer and potentially risking her Oxford admission. So they probably would have had mutual short break-up but upon arriving at oxford they sleep together again? Idk i feel like it would be a bit repetitive and use that storyline again.
These are just my ideas let me know yours!!
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2024.05.15 06:04 savirae36 AITAH for feeling emotionally/physically abandoned?

I am genuinely so sorry for how exhaustingly long this post is. Truly just looking for outside observations. Feel free to ask questions or state opinions.
Last September, my (27F) boyfriend (37M) became hooked on trading cryptocurrencies. At the time, I was working hellacious hours (3am-1pm) doing manual labor and he had quit his job in May after a tree fell through the roof of our house. He begins to tell me about “so many life changing opportunities” with the season in the crypto market that “wouldn’t last more than a couple weeks, maximum a month.”
Within a few days, he is glued to the screen 16-20hrs a day, eating maybe once a day, most times skipping days, sleeping maybe 2-4hrs, not exercising our Doberman and only letting him out to potty. Right off the bat I’m thinking, “Oh this is obsessive, surely he’s making good money putting in this much effort. I should make sure he’s eating at the very least.” I start cooking more meals, walking them to his office and eating beside him. He barely picked at the food, but would finally get around to finishing it an hour or more later, which is completely abnormal.
Day after day, week after week, I’m working, coming home exhausted, cooking, wanting to relax and shoot the shit with him, maybe watch something or take the dog for a walk? Conversation between us didn’t exist outside the topic of all the “coins” he was trading, so I was just in the house looking for things to occupy myself with. 3 weeks in (beginning October now), I’m starting to have some feelings about not being paid attention to, given the time of day for chats or downtime or quite honestly any back and forth. Sex wasn’t even on the table (complete opposite for our normal reality).
I communicate to him that I’m getting concerned about the behavior, and that I basically feel like a house mate that is just there to take care of the homely duties. He frustratingly explains to me that “I can’t see the opportunity or value in what he’s doing, and that he’s already made ~$5k, but he’ll try to create more balance between us because he recognizes there’s been a level of abandonment.”
Of course I’m happy to hear there will be a change, not to mention that he’s happy doing what he’s doing + making money on it. Fast forward a couple more weeks — nothing has changed. I’m beginning to feel like a body in the house, operating with no real purpose other than upkeep of things. I express this to him, he gets bent out of shape because “he has to be ultra present to see what/when to buy and sell, and that I’m failing to see that he’s doing this for financial freedom for us and our future.” I rationalize and put my thoughts and feelings aside.
One weekend (late October), I actually decide to go out and end up running into someone I haven’t seen in 10yrs. We chat about life, have a drink, yadda yadda, exchange numbers and I go home. Fast forward 2 weeks, we meet up and I make a terrible decision that has screwed our relationship. I felt/feel like dogshit about it, he kicks me out, and we break it off. 1.5months later (December), he (partner) emails me, we meet at his house and talk things over for 1/2 of the day, and resume life as it was.
Finally, fast forward to late March of this year — he begins moderately trading again but with boundaries. However, day by day the screen time increases, and the regard for reality outside of it diminishes, and he practically only leaves the computer to use the restroom. Here we are, in mid-May, and I’m questioning AITAH for feeling abandoned again after he was the one who took me back after the foul, selfish act I committed.
Long story short: I’m with my partner for a year, he gets aggressively addicted to crypto trading and ignores reality outside of it for 2 months, I make the shitty decision to get attention elsewhere after a while, I get kicked out, reached back out to, we get back together, now he’s back to a similar level of trading. AITAH for feeling abandoned and questioning value of the relationship?
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2024.05.15 06:03 Throwawayprivate73 Yes I’m going to reddit to not alarm my friends

Engaged 8 years- with him for 10 years this August. Long story short - it’s not good. Hasnt been for over 7 years tbh. I know ya’ll know what that means basically. We are both 49. Both never been married before our engagement 8 years ago. No kids. I am downright trauma bonded I finally see for the last 8 yrs tho. Sure there’s polite talk, literally that’s all it is. Polite talk until I “freak out and get emotional” by asking if we can have a date night or take a walk together. Because he is sooooo far away from me today and all I’ve been doing is questioning myself, trying to be prettier, trying to cook more, trying to not show hurt feelings when he’s dismissive or worholding….. It’s apparent to anyone in the room and I’ve had feedback from concerned friends over the years. Basically my friends arent fans - haven’t been for years.
Ok sorry- usual daily- he comes home from work. Says hi. I say hi. He shows enormous amounts of love to the dog then goes to his computer to social media surf. I make dinner he eats it and goes to bed. Thats our interaction every day unless I’m working. I’m an semi successful artist. (I pay my own bills, rent and run my own art studio, make enough to survive as I try to grow but def couldn’t do it without a supportive partner. Which he was supportive in our 2 year together. He knew I owned my own townhouse then, and bartended twice a week to make whatever ends my art didn’t meet at the time. I was pretty well known in our little downtown from bartending and having my art in neighboring restaurant in the community. We reconnected through fb messenger- he tagged me in a lot of bartending themed posts- we dated and a year later he sold his condo and moved into my townhouse. I was ready for my life long partner. After a year of co living, he proposed - we made plans to get a larger home together so I sold my townhouse, put 15k downpayment on it because I had the recent liquid cash and he didn’t- he just had the good salaried job to get approved for financing. fast forward to today- I am on the deed not on the mortgage. I pay cash to my “fiancè” every month to contribute this house we own together. After a year of giving him straight cash every month at his request, I asked if he would just give me some or all utilities so my name would be back out in the credit space. And he said no. I asked if we could get a joint account so I could put that monthly cash money in a “house” account where we would both contribute and pay house stuff from that. He said “sure, but not right this second”. That was always his answer to me - “Not right this second”. Basically I went from having my own place, utilities, mortgage, credit, etc and being madly in love with this guy (who I’ve known since highschool but we never dated, just always shared mutual crossovers/crossed paths a lot since 1995) to living in a house that only had my name on the deed. I worried I was a ghost in the credit space. Like the only thing he allowed me to put my name on was the trash pickup service. (He said he’d rather not get trash service and use his jobs trashbin… like wtf?). But said of if I wanted to get trash service then I could pay for that. Ahhh usual me- not a short story and I’m rambling. I’ve also had drinks. Just trying to give context. Ok- We never go out together. He goes to his BF music studio most weekends and stays til 3-4am. We haven’t had sex in over two years. I sleep in the guest room for the same amount of time. (I went there one night after a fight because he said he was tired of being my crutch and I need to contribute more financially and it literally came after him being silent/bad mood for a week and I would ask “Hey, did you have a bad day at work? What’s wrong how can I help?” He doesn’t talk to me about “feelings”. Anytime I ask to sit down and talk about how to fix whatever is wrong his response is ALWAYS and defensive curtness “I don’t want to talk about it”. So we just had one of these outbursts. Where I say “hey, what’s going on. Why are you being so curt with me? Talk to me” and he said “ya know what’s wrong with me? You owe my $1100 because you haven’t paid xyz and it stems back to August. “ I was floored because it’s just not true. But I give him cash and I guess that’s where I fucked up. Sometimes I get paid in cash for my paintings and when I do, I put it aside and give him that cash when it comes due every month. Anyway it blew up to me crying being confused and asking him why he didn’t say anything in August or September why is he bringing it up now. Why is he talking to me like a dog and to please stop and just talk to me about why he’s so damn angry. It ended up with him telling me he’s tired of being my crutch and we haven’t been “good for 5 years” and he wants to sell the house, get his money and live the life that he wants. And I pointed out that all I’ve been doing is trying to fight for us, trying to get us to be together and be number one for one another. And why if he knew all this and yet was still unsatisfied with me why he has kept me around for so long without communicating his displeasure with me. And he said - “Because you won’t leave”. It ended with me saying we can get a mediator or lawyer and figure out the easiest way to sell, split whatever we agree on and move on. Ot all just hit me that I need to let him sell this house and I will figure it out. This all happened Saturday. Jesus this sucks. Anyway- it blew up to where I said I’m done. I felt done. He clapped. I went to my room and have basically been avoiding being in the house when he’s here and just going to my studio until he goes to bed. Thing is he took off work today. Dont know why. So when I got up and saw his car out front, I went to the studio all day and worked late on purpose. Came home at 10:30pm- he usually goes to bed around 9:30 but was still in living room watching tv. I walked in and went to the kitchen and he instantly said “I’m going to bed you can have the tv” and I didn’t respond. He went to bed. I was getting iced tea out of the fridge when after standing there for a min- I smelled gas. I look over to the stove and the knob is turned slightly to the left as if you were about to ignite it. I instinctively turned it back to the off position but then kinda freaked out a bit. Like why does it smell like gas. And why was that knob turned. Literally the gas was seeping ever so slightly out enough for me to smell it after about 30sec drinking my tea. Am I just being paranoid? There is no evidence of cooking - I even checked the trash for leftover or scrapings of food. This took me forever to write. But I just felt I had to document this without freaking out my mom or my friends.
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2024.05.15 06:01 LucyAriaRose New Update to AITAH for not offering to pay for my husband and his kids leading him to spend all his savings?

I am still not the Original Poster. That is still u/MajorArtist340. She posted in AITAH
Previous BORUs can be found here and here. New Update marked with ****\*
Mood Spoiler: still kind of a bummer but things are moving forward
Original Post: December 21, 2023
For a while now my husband, John, has been getting more and more angry over little things and generally moody and distant. I had finally had enough and approached him about separation.
This conversation led to a big blow out and him revealing the state of his finances. My husband and I have always kept our finances separate. Also although we call each other husband and wife and had a wedding we are not actually legally married. This was primarily for inheritance purposes because we each have older children from previous relationships.
Anyway John revealed that he had basically no savings left. That all the money he had saved for retirement and for his kids schooling was gone. Furthermore he said it was all my fault since he used all his savings up to try and keep up with my lifestyle.
There was never anything crazy in terms of bills or anything like that and we always split it all equally. The house we live in I own outright as well, so there wasn’t a mortgage payment.
However I have always liked to travel a lot on fairly extravagant vacations. I would invite John or John and his children to join on trips, but never made them feel like they had to come. That’s said he was expected to pay for himself and for his kids. Except for recently he accepted every invitation.
I would also give my kids things he considered “extravagant”, but I considered “normal”. So he felt like he had to give similar things to his own kids.
John said with all the spending to keep up his savings dwindled very fast. I expressed that I couldn’t understand how or why he would spend all he had when he knew he couldn’t afford it. He said it was like keeping up with the Joneses only worse because it was at home so he couldn’t block it out. John thinks since I knew his job I should have had a basic understanding of his finances and realizes this wasn’t a lifestyle he could maintain. That the kind thing would have been to offer to pay for the trips and other things instead of dangle them in front of his and his kids faces.
Looking back I probably could have realized that this spending didn’t make sense for his salary, but I wasn’t thinking about it. I don’t think it was my responsibility to keep his finances in mind here. We had agreed from the beginning to keep our finances separate so to me that means paying for things separately.
Edit. We do not live in a state with common law marriage
Relevant Comments:
Why not get married? You know you can make children beneficiaries in wills, right?
"Here spouses are included in inheritance even if they’re omitted from wills and I plan on leaving everything to my kids."
Ages:
"I’m 44. He’s 53. We don’t have any children together."
So you didn't discuss trips you could afford together??
"We did discuss the trips and I asked for input about where to stay what we would do, but he never gave any or had any suggestions. I always assumed he just didn’t like planning things. I would have likely still gone on the trips if he didn’t want to."
So if he said no would you just go on the trip on your own?
"I would have likely still gone one the trip. That’s said I would have been open to less expensive trips had he brought it up."
"Except for the past two trips he never declined. I didn’t go alone though. I went on one with some friends and the other with my daughter."
This comment exchange:
Commenter: ESH- John should have ended your marriage way earlier. He can't keep with your lifestyle and would horrible and Very unfair to subject his children in a life where half of the family goes on fancy vacations regurlaly and the other stay home. He should have been honest way earlier before his savings drained and ended the marriage. You should have more awareness of your partner's struggled. How do you share a life with someone and don't realize this things?
OOP: He paid for things without any hint that he was struggling. I assume his attitude change was when things started to get really bad and I did ask what was wrong, but he would just say things were fine or say he was upset about some little thing like the dishes not being put away.
Before you were together, how often were you taking trips with your kids?
"I’ve always done about the same amount of trips every year. Usually two with my kids.
His kids mostly live with their mom and mine will split time between me and their dad pretty equally. My eldest is in college now though."
And this exchange:
Commenter: I have a burning question. Did you ever ask him why he was acting that way before you decided it was time for separation. Because from the outside you come off as the female stereotype that men don't have emotions so there's no need to check
OOP: I did. He would always say it was fine or I would ask what’s wrong and he would get mad about the dishes not being put away or some other little thing.
If you enjoy having him with you maybe you could pay for him to go?
"If things were better I might consider it, but at this point I’m really not enjoying being around him anymore. I’m going to use this break to take some time to reevaluate things."
It sounds like you don't love him at all. Why were you with him? Were you really together or just roommates with benefits? Why wouldn't you leave him anything in the will? How do you split daily life?
"With how things are now it’s hard to talk in present tense. I loved him.
For me it just feels like it would be wrong for my money and assets to go to anyone other than my kids given. For him well I don’t really need any inheritance, so it just makes the most sense for it to have gone to his children.
For restaurants we’ve always just taken turns paying."
There is no consensus bot on AITAH. The top comment was NTA, but there were quite a few ESH and info votes because the situation seemed weird
Update Post: January 8, 2024 (18 days later)
After reading all the comments on my first post I realized I needed more time to think about things. I also thought with the situation how it was it would be best that we spend the holidays apart to avoid and controversy. He wasn't a fan of the idea, but I eventually got him to agree to go.
Last week things settled down so we met up to have a more detailed discussion about the state of his finances. A few more things were revealed. I found out that he had lost his job earlier this year and didn't tell me. He got a new job in October, but he went over 4 months without one while pretending he still had one. During that time he only got a small amount of money from unemployment, so he started putting everything on his credit cards. His new job doesn't pay as much as his old one so he hasn't been able to pay more than the minimum towards his debts which are now substantial.
I feel like if he had just brought up all these issues earlier this could have been avoided or we could have worked something out. Now I really just feel like I can't trust him. I can't trust him with money and I can't trust him not to hide things from me. I just can't see going back and trying to make things work him at this point. Since he doesn't have a place to take all their things I've agreed to store their stuff in my garage until he gets more settled. Which means I won't be able to make as clean of a break as I would like right now, but for the most part it's over.
Update Post 2: February 24, 2024 (1.5 months later)
For anyone who hasn’t read my previous posts there’s two of them exposing what happened under my username.
I liked the suggestion I was given when last posted of paying for a storage unit for their things for a few months. My ex however did not agree to it. He said it would make things too difficult because the closest storage location was too far out of the way. It definitely felt like he was still trying to cling to things.
Since I couldn’t get a storage unit in his name without his approval I talked to a friend, who is a lawyer, about the situation. He helped me right up a notice that told him that he had 30 days notice to get their things or they will be disposed of. After 30 days notice was up he still had only picked up a few things.
I ended up calling his ex and asked her if she or their kids wanted anything before I got rid of it all. Well, they had been left in the complete dark about our relationship being over. My ex had been lying to them saying I was sick and then he was sick with Covid and that’s why they hadn’t been able to come over. I’m was not at all surprised this point. I figured she didn’t know about the rest of it either and told her. She is livid. Especially about the money for their kids education since it was part of their divorce agreement.
Anyway the kids all got what they wanted and I had a charity come and pick up the rest. It feels a lot better now that there is a completely clean break. Yes I have gotten the locks changed and blocked his number. Since there is no reason for me to have contact with him anymore this is probably the last time I’ll be posting.
I think I’m there future I will probably look for more transparency when it comes to financials in any serious future relationships. With how much he was lying I can only imagine what else he may have been lying about. Had I known more I don’t think he would have been able to hide things. I am just so grateful and relieved that I was able protect myself and my children.
Relevant Comments:
One more time because people need clarification on inheritance:
Where I live spouses are included in inheritance even if there’s a will.
How could you not know what he was making if you know what he did for work?
I just never looked into what the average salary for his type of work.
This exchange clearing things up:
Commenter: First post said you both have adult kids, why are their education an issue still and why doesn't anyone contact you directly? Was no one on friendly terms?
I don’t know where you got that. My eldest is an adult, but the others are still under 18.I don’t know what/who you mean by why doesn’t any contact me directly.
Commenter: What I mean is they were told you were sick. These are people that went trips with and none of them texted or called to check on you
I don’t know what to say. It doesn’t seem odd to me. We didn’t usually keep in contact when they were with their mom.
*****Update Post 3: May 8, 2024 (4.5 months from OG post)****\*
I know I said that that would be my last update. It’s not really necessary for me to make another, but now I’m kind of using this as a form of journaling which I’ve found cathartic. The previous posts are all under my username.
I only had one run in with my ex since the last incident. He came to my house. I only spoke to him through the camera. He asked about getting his things. I told him that I had already got rid of everything as I had warned him, but that his kids had taken some things. I also told him he needed to leave and to not come back. Surprisingly he didn’t make a big fuss about it. He just said okay and that he was sorry for bothering me before he left, but he did look very tired so maybe that’s why.
I have not seen him since and apparently his ex and his kids haven’t heard from him in all this time either. This update had more to do with them than my ex actually. His ex contacted me to ask about him. She wanted to know if I had heard from him or had his new contact information. His phone is apparently no longer in service. I told her how I hadn’t had any contact with his since the aforementioned visit.
She also asked if she and I could meet up for coffee and talk. I declined because honestly I couldn’t think of a reason for us to meet up. Though I did offer to pass on any info about him if I heard anything.
She apparently wanted to talk to me about helping her pay for her eldest child’s (who is now a senior in highschool) education next year. She also subtly implied there was some fault on my part for their lacks of funds. I rather cowardly told her I would think about it and ended the call.
To be honest I feel like it’s an unfair position she’s putting me in. The main reason being that her children don’t seem to care for me. We got along alright while I was with their dad. However since I ended things with him it has been complete silence from them. I did try to reach out to them to see if they were okay. They never responded. Even when they came over to get their things they ignored me and my youngest. However I did get a message after the call with their mom about how she missed me. The timing though just makes it seem sort of like manipulation to get money out of me.
Edit. I have since blocked all of them.
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2024.05.15 06:01 damurphy72 It was a hell of a vacation

Sarah had mentioned Paradiso before and it sounded nice enough. When she said she wanted Aja to officiate our ceremony...well, we had some time while the Cabinet got ready to quiz us about what happened on Tau Ceti II. I set a course for the Porrima system by way of Volii and off we went.
I wise man once said, "you'll get distracted by bullshit every time." Well, we barely arrived when we got a strange request for assistance from resort security. There was also an unknown ship in orbit that didn't match anything in the database. Sarah and I shared a look. "After the wedding...and the honeymoon," she said. Yeah, there was a reason I was marrying her.
Arriving at Paradiso
It turns out the welcome robot at the spaceport will take your picture (for a "reasonable" service fee, natch). We got there just before dawn, which was perfect timing for what we had planned. Sarah wasn't thrilled with what was open at that hour for food, though.
\"Gourmet\" Chunks...right
Sarah's mentor, Aja, and her mom were waiting for us on the beach when we got there. Aja was everything Sarah described. Her mother was actually...well, I expected her to be nice. She wasn't as abrasive as Sarah implied. In fact, she seemed to share a lot of personality with Sarah, which might have been where some of the friction came from. The ceremony at dawn, at least, was lovely.
Vows at dawn
The resort rooms were luxurious. They also cost enough that Sarah and I could have gone to Enhance! and swapped bodies. (She just read that and smacked the back of my head.)
Getting comfortable in the room
A hell of a view...and the scenery was nice, too
The amenities of the resort were almost worth the price.
Rooftop dining with a view
Chlling at the beach
That was good for a day or so...but there was no way we were going to just lounge around at the resort, no matter how comfortable. Sarah once told me she loves to explore for fun and that's one of the things we have in common. The staff let us know that most of the wildlife on Porrima II was docile and non-threatening. Sigh...that should have been a warning sign.
We headed out in the evening, since the night was bright under the stars and we were still adapting from ship-time. We followed a path outside the resort and discovered where the staff live.
Staff quarters aren't to the same level as the guest rooms
A little further, and we were able to wind our way into the jungle and start exploring the area. There were some interesting things visible on the orbital survey map and the wildlife was interesting.
This guy was the biggest local lifeform and was pretty inoffensive
The pods on this tree were filled with spicey seeds that were a little like cardamon
Things started to get...more typical of our experiences...when we discovered a large crystalline cavern.
Crystals big enough to climb
Sarah's eyes lit up when we wandered inside and discovered this massive crystalline cathedral. The insides of the crystal opened passages that were mazelike and gave us plenty of places to explore. Of course, we weren't the first people to find it...
Crimson Fleet pirate met a gruesome end
Of course, the body had a slate filled with final words. More people would probably live longer if they focused more on trying to heal their wounds instead of preserving their last thoughts for posterity. The unfortunate looter was gored by something that sounded a hell of a lot more dangerous than any of the local wildlife. We hadn't seen anything more dangerous than a small flying raptor-like bat in our explorations so far.
The telltale roar let us know exactly what we were facing and gave us flashbacks to Tau Ceti II. Luckily, Sarah and I came loaded for terrormorph, despite the assurances of the staff. We prevailed, but my wife came dangerously close to being eviscerated.
Terror in paradise
I would have been fine heading back to the resort, but Sarah wanted to continue our exploration. "We've dealt with the most dangerous thing for kilometers around already, love. Let's not spoil things by leaving before we've finished our survey."
Trekking through the wilderness, we came across some mercenaries fighting a SECOND terrormorph. It was easy enough to snipe the beast while he was fighting them. Then we had to snipe the mercs when they started shooting at us. Why does Ecliptic seem to only hire assholes?
A natural arch surrounded by predators
It was when we found the THIRD 'morph attacking wildlife near a natural stone arch that Sarah finally sighed and agreed to return back to the hotel. Three burrowing, mind-reading, chameleon-skinned super-predators was enough for a single honeymoon. In fact, the universe seemed to be telling us that we needed to head off to meet up with Hadrian before terrormorphs started showing up and asking for immigration visas in New Atlantis.
Of course, we had to stop by the resort security office on the way out...but that is a story for another time...
These guys definitely need some natural sunlight.
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