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2024.05.14 14:03 Rinkkou I hate being demi
I don't know what brought this on because I thought I already accepted this part of myself years ago, but I'm suddenly feeling really sad and frustrated and needed a safe place to vent about it.
I've always been a romantic person, and most of the media I consume or indulge in is almost always romance, but it's extremely rare for me to ever feel that way towards other people. It's been 4 years since my last relationship and I'm starting to worry I'm just never going to find somebody I connect with like that again. I can't go on dates or get stupid cute crushes like other people do because all it does is give me the ick, and I tried dating apps in the past but ended up deleting them because it felt wrong to me to act like I'm interested in somebody I know nothing about. I understand that the point is to get to know them, but it's not really "authentic"? They could check off all the boxes of things I would love in a relationship and could be the most appealing person in the world, but if I didn't meet them naturally, become best friends and make months or years worth of memories with them, then I will feel absolutely nothing. It's like it has to be soulmate or nothing with me.
I just... hate it. If it weren't for the fact that I've had experience with loving somebody romantically in the past I'd probably question if I was just straight up ace. I've even had a cute coworker (that I've hung out with a couple times outside of work) show interest in me and it made me so anxious that I ended up ghosting and avoiding her. I don't like being that way! I don't like rejecting and dodging romantic advances all the time, I WANT to be able to flirt back and try things out with people because I crave love and affection but it just doesn't work for me. I feel jealous whenever my friends have crushes and talk about people they might be interested in because I can't relate to it at all. Nobody seems to understand this when I try to explain it to them, and of course I always get the "that's normal" response.
My only option is to just go through life and hope that someday a best friend that I'll gradually fall in love with will fall from the sky, even though I'm not much of a social person and it takes a lot for me to open up to people.
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I've always been a romantic person, and most of the media I consume or indulge in is almost always romance, but it's extremely rare for me to ever feel that way towards other people. It's been 4 years since my last relationship and I'm starting to worry I'm just never going to find somebody I connect with like that again. I can't go on dates or get stupid cute crushes like other people do because all it does is give me the ick, and I tried dating apps in the past but ended up deleting them because it felt wrong to me to act like I'm interested in somebody I know nothing about. I understand that the point is to get to know them, but it's not really "authentic"? They could check off all the boxes of things I would love in a relationship and could be the most appealing person in the world, but if I didn't meet them naturally, become best friends and make months or years worth of memories with them, then I will feel absolutely nothing. It's like it has to be soulmate or nothing with me.
I just... hate it. If it weren't for the fact that I've had experience with loving somebody romantically in the past I'd probably question if I was just straight up ace. I've even had a cute coworker (that I've hung out with a couple times outside of work) show interest in me and it made me so anxious that I ended up ghosting and avoiding her. I don't like being that way! I don't like rejecting and dodging romantic advances all the time, I WANT to be able to flirt back and try things out with people because I crave love and affection but it just doesn't work for me. I feel jealous whenever my friends have crushes and talk about people they might be interested in because I can't relate to it at all. Nobody seems to understand this when I try to explain it to them, and of course I always get the "that's normal" response.
My only option is to just go through life and hope that someday a best friend that I'll gradually fall in love with will fall from the sky, even though I'm not much of a social person and it takes a lot for me to open up to people.
2024.05.14 14:00 OrlonDogger A Witch at Midnight - Chapter 12
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When did I allow this to happen? How is it ten at night already? I just played a couple of rounds and it’s already dark outside!
“You should know already that your perception of time is FUBAR. Not to mention these hobbies of ours really don’t help grasping what’s going on.”
It didn’t use to be like this.
“Oh yeah? Can you remember how long you’ve been using the computer?”
Of course I can. It’s been in my life since I was like six or something, when Dad brought home that used computer with all the Dobrand games! But I didn’t pay much attention to it back then…
“That’s not how I remember it. We used to spend entire afternoons playing with the Encyclopedia, and trying out those games we barely understood. Maybe going into the Cartoon Central website too, even if we couldn’t read very well. Face it, we’ve always been addicted to distractions…”
Ok, maybe a little, but–
“And even before we started to use the internet more seriously, we’ve never been very into sleeping at all. Remember how we used to check the channels back then? Zapping and looking for stuff on the TV? Back then everything was so scary and novel at these hours… Now it feels just like a routine. We’ve always been night owls.”
Frowning and feeling the voice creeping on me more than usual, I finally close the game and my computer, standing up and turning on the lights to look at my room. The floor is still filthy, the plates are still scattered about… opening my closet, I not only see what remains of my clean clothes and the old montgomery hanging, but also the old bamboo blade I used to train with.
“Yeah. Remember that? How everyone looks for a local sport to practice and you chose fucking kendo? Not sure if that was just the weaboo in you, or you are just that pretentious.”
I pick up the long stick and take a look at it from the sides. Four bamboo sticks, held together tightly by leather straps and string. It’s elegant in its simplicity, firm enough to hurt a little when hit by it, but not strong enough to really harm, mostly thanks to the white leather covering its tip. The handle has the dark stains of sweat coming from the months of use.
“Before you left it incomplete, like everything in your life.”
Sigh.
I put the blade back in the closet and then turn around, grabbing the many plates and cups that were piling up in the room and walking the dark way over to the kitchen to clean them up.
“Cleaning plates in the middle of the night. That’s the kind of stuff Venus did back when she was here, just to call your attention.”
Ignoring this annoying voice is getting harder… I am tempted to pick up the S.O.S. pill, but if I do that I can say goodbye to my agency for the entire night and maybe even a few hours after waking up. Urgh.
“Guess you’re stuck with me, huh?”
Biting my lower lip, I try to focus on the task at hand, cleaning each plate as carefully as I can and trying to ignore the feeling of grease building up on my hands. Saints above, it is so disgusting! I can’t stand it, really. But if I keep letting the plates stack up, I’ll never do it.
“Look at you trying to be responsible. So silly. You’ll just let them stack up again soon enough.”
“What matters is that you are trying your best.”
Ah, there She is. Still talking from the corner of the room… Her kindness has always felt fabricated to me. Fake.
“It’s hard to accept mercy from yourself.”
You are not me.
The glugging of the drain interrupts me before I can start arguing again. With a heavy sigh, I let the water run away to clean my hands for a moment, and then, now that everything is clean and in place, I close it and walk back to my cave and take a seat back beside the window, opening the blinds just to see the darkness of a misty winter night in Saüle.
“Maybe it’s time to sleep after all.”
“You’ll just start rolling around, kicking and stirring all night.”
“You’ll eventually fall asleep!”
“Or maybe you won't. Let’s just keep playing until the Sun rises.”
I’ll do you both one better and just go back to the living room to check Dejima.
“Oh right! It has been a few hours, hasn’t it?”
“If you are so eager to be disappointed…”
Taking the computer back to the dining table and reconnecting it to the Tripolar Edge Router is easy enough, and yet I still feel the anticipation killing me. My hands tremble a bit as I type the address again, and even more when I have to wait the eternity until it loads.
My post… it got answers! Four answers to be exact! It’s not much but, considering how few users are online at a given time here, it’s good!
“omg it’s so cute when people actually come and use the ‘Introductions’ spot. I mean it, it’s great. It’s also cool to see new faces here, welcome! My dms are open if you want to ask anything.” — GalaxyTaco
“Hey there! We are all glad to have you here! If you have any doubts or questions, throw them my way and I’ll see to answer them whenever I can!” — Ventotto
“Fresh meat, bring out the paddles! Just kidding, welcome in, kid. Hope to see ya in the chatbox one day.” — jeepcreep
“Welcome. Complete your profile data.". — ογδόντα
Three of these are mods, so that was to be expected… but this ‘GalaxyTaco’ guy. He seems like a nice fella. Maybe trying to gun for mod too, or maybe just a legitimately friendly person! Whatever the case, the Helenian mod had made a fantastic point. I did have to complete the profile stuff.
“Does it have to be now? It’s late…”
Yes, it does. I click back to my profile and, well, it asks stuff like ‘Email’, ‘Country’, ‘Languages Spoken’ and ‘Gender’, all easy to answer.
Email: [simple.times@gamail.com]()
Country: Wohl.
Languages Spoken: Wohlian, Dobrand.
Gender: I’d rather not say.
“What sort of stupid answer was that?! Are you really this delusional!?”
Please. Just… let me have this…
“Don’t come crying when they learn you’re a man and you get all embarrassed.“
“Are they a man? Have you not stopped for a second to think that maybe they would be more comfortable as a–”
Shut up.
Both of you. You are looking way too deep into this. I’ll leave it as it is and that’s final.
With a huff, I go to the next section of the profile… ‘Referred to by:’
Oh no.
“Well, time to skip that one.”
There was no way I could just say ‘Ah, I found it in a book’ without getting strange looks. Not to mention the book itself told me not to talk about it for anything.
Next.
‘Mystical Specialization’.
“Saints damn it.”
I could just copy the specialization from some other profile, but then what if they decided to ask me about it? Well, that wouldn’t be a problem if I decided not to get in the chatbox at all… but I won’t advance in my investigation at all if I don’t talk to people, right?
I decide to just leave it open, for now.
Finally, I just gotta put a ‘Comment’ in the end of my profile… hmmm…
Comment: ‘Please don’t kill me.’
“A little on the nose?”
It’s all in good humor. I hope.
With that done, I don’t waste time on making a signature for myself (yet) and go straight to check on the Chatbox.
Four people: ‘GalaxyTaco’, ‘Ventotto’, ‘souseiseki’ and… uh… ‘Canned Tea’.
I take a deep breath… and log in.
Tav has connected to the Chatbox.
souseiseki: byeeee canny!! <3
GalaxyTaco: bye dude
Canned Tea has disconnected from the Chatbox.
souseiseki: … who tf are u o.o
Fuck. That was fast. Immediately singled out and everything, oh no. I panic, unable to really write any answers, when suddenly:
GalaxyTaco: sou that’s tav! the new peep? you saw the introductions post right??
souseiseki: oh right o.o i don’t care for those
GalaxyTaco: how’s it going dude? man, if youre wohlian it must be fucking late!
Tav: Hi, hi n.nUu
Tav: Yeah, it’s a bit late but I can’t sleep u.u
GalaxyTaco: hah, been there…
Canned Tea has connected to the Chatbox.
The guy came back again? What gives??
Canned Tea: sorry tav, didn’t see you come in.
Canned Tea: don’t want you to think Im avoiding ya.
The fear WAS in my brain, to be honest. I can’t help but smile a bit when the guy returns to clarify.
Tav: Oh it’s all good! n.n thank you though uwu
souseiseki: don’t cuddle this f**got Canny o.o
I wince. Oof. That’s… wow.
Canned Tea: sou.
Canned Tea: i’ve told you not to shittalk like that, girl.
souseiseki: sorry, slipped off my mind
Canned Tea: anyways, now im going to sleep.
Canned Tea: welcome in Tav. i’ll be seeing ya later.
Tav: For sure! n.n bye Canned Tea!
Canned Tea: just call me canny, girl.
Canned Tea: see ya.
Canned Tea has disconnected from the Chatbox.
I feel my face burning for a moment there. Am I blushing!? Fuck.
“Welp, you’re proving souseiseki right, at least.”
Shut the fuck up.
@ Ventotto: Hmm. I’ve told him not to assume gender like that.
GalaxyTaco: Holy shit 28 ur alive!!! O.o
GalaxyTaco: Now THAT is surprising.
@ Ventotto: I was about to leave but, like Canny, I wanted to say welcome again to Tav.
Ventotto: I hope you find your spot here soon. If you have anything you’d want translated and analyzed, go to the Translation subforum. Ok?
Tav: For sure! Thank you uwu
@ Ventotto: See you all later.
@ Ventotto has disconnected from the Chatbox.
souseiseki: i’m not staying here with you losers o.o
souseiseki: bye.
souseiseki has disconnected from the Chatbox
“Well bitch I didn’t want to talk with you either!” I practically snarl in real life, taking a deep breath and rubbing my temples. “Urgh. Not even an hour in and I’m already fed up with someone…”
GalaxyTaco: bah pay her no mind dude.
GalaxyTaco: she’s just Like That™
Tav: I’ll try…
Tav: Thank you for the welcome post, by the way uwu
Tav: I was worried no one would answer… u.u
GalaxyTaco: not gonna lie dure, that was a big possibility!
GalaxyTaco: people here ain’t the most social, honestly.
GalaxyTaco: speaking of, that reminds me!
GalaxyTaco: how DID you find the forum? if someone gave you the link but didn’t show you the ropes, that’s kind of an asshole move to pull!
Damn it all. That question again! This guy seemed nice so he probably didn’t mean anything by it but, it was a little frustrating to have to give explanations like that. Then again, this was supposed to be a secret of sorts, so I shouldn’t be that surprised I guess? But well, surprised or not, I need an answer to give. Come on, brain, make up something! An excuse! Anything!
“How the Hells do you want us to make up something if we know nothing of mages and such!? Are you stupid!?”
“We do know something. This ‘Elysium’ place seems to be important, maybe mentioning it would be enough to throw GalaxyTaco off your scent!”
“He’s not an idiot. Using jargon without really understanding it is a great way to look like an outsider.”
“Remind me again why we can’t just tell him the truth…?”
“The woman from the book, Humiko, told us not to talk about it if we can avoid it.”
“Well then, can we avoid it now…?”
…
GalaxyTaco: ah shit dude, sorry to cut this short but I gotta go get lunch
GalaxyTaco: talk to you later!
GalaxyTaco has disconnected from the Chatbox.
I deflate for a moment there, closing my eyes. Lucky break, I guess! Or at least, I think it is … until I get a notification from the forum: a direct message! Clicking the icon, I can see it’s from GalaxyTaco.
Sorry for the intense question but, it’s kind of important.
If you don’t fill your profile soon, 82’s totally gonna ban you.
You weren’t referred here by anyone you can mention, huh?
Let’s talk more privately.
[tacomadeofgalaxies@messages.com]()
Don’t disconnect from the TER when talking, that way no sleeper government can check on us.
I’ll be up after lunch.
Trust me, it’s important.—- GalaxyTaco
Oh shit. I was read like a book.
A part of me is relieved the guy is worried about me… but then, the suspicions arise. What if this guy is working with the mods? Or worse, with the cloaks! I haven’t even encountered these people and yet their presence around me fills me with dread and anxiety, mostly because I have no idea what to expect from them!
But another part of me is simply desperate for having someone to talk to about this, and he did say that while I keep the TER (which I assume is the Tripolar Edge Router) on, no orgs can check on me. So maybe…
“You’re gonna regret that.”
Maybe. But we will see about that when we get there.
2024.05.14 13:51 SharkEva [Final Update] - AITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby?
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/user posting in AITAH
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 5th May 2024
Update - 6th May 2024
1 New Update
Thanks to u/Small-Bodybuilder160 for finding the update
Final Update - 10th May 2024
AITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby?
So, recently I(27F) had a beautiful baby girl with my husband(29M). She's my pride and joy, I love her more than I love myself. But, taking care of her has taken its toll on me. My husband promised the work would be 50/50 when we agreed we wanted children, but I don't feel that's being reflected by his actions this past month.
It's gotten to the point where I can't even ask him to wash her up without him saying something along the lines of, "My paternity leave is short, I want to make the most of it by relaxing a bit. I'll help you out later." And I get it. His paternity leave is only 6 weeks while mine is 16 weeks, but my nether regions hurt like a bitch for a better part of two weeks after the birth and all he could do for me was occasionally burp her.
Now, my baby girl has gotten to a phase where she doesn't want to sleep. She'll sleep for an hour, but then she's up and back to crying and I have to get up and try to soothe her. It's been happening for a week now and I've gotten so little sleep that I'm nodding off while eating or doing tge laundry and stuff. Saturday was the month anniversary of my daughter's birth, so I decided to gather both sides of the family to meet her. (They hadn't met her prior because a)I wanted to rest as much as I could and b)I heard somewhere that you shouldn't be taking babies out and about when they're fresh out the womb cause they're more prone to illness then).
So, we had this gathering at my mother's house and all was well. Everyone was cooing over our baby, there was food, people were catching up or meeting for the 1st time. It was nice. But, I had gotten about 3 hours(generous estimate) of sleep in total the past week and I was starting to feel the effects of it. I was feeling lightheaded and clammy, but I didn't wanna make a scene so I tried to go to a bedroom to lie down. I didn't take 10 steps before my vision completely blacked out.
I wasn't down for long, but I had fallen over which drew some attention. I explained to everyone who was concerned that I was fine and that I was just not getting enough sleep and I could see my husband visibly frown at that. They gave me some of the dessert my aunt made to get my sugar up and the party continued. I felt embarrassed about the whole thing, especially since everyone was still looking over me til we left, but it's whatever
What bothered me is my husband's reaction. When we got home, he started going off on me about how I "made him look bad" and like "he wasn't taking care of me". I was confused on how tf me passing out made HIM look bad, but he refused to explain himself and had a pity party for himself in the kitchen.
I was still feeling bad, so I decided to leave him alone and just to go sleep, but he seems to have taken that as a sign that I don't care about his feelings. He's in my ear this morning about how I just ignored him to go sleep last night and how I didn't even put the baby to sleep before leaving. Is he right? AITAH here?
Update: So I've tried talking with him, but he's been ignoring me and the baby the last three hours. I'd usually wait longer, but I'm just too tired to deal with this right now. You guys were right, I do need help with this, and he's made it very clear he's not ready to help me yet, so I'm just going to go to my mom's place. I'm currently packing. I'm so done.
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sophie_Mal
NTA and I can’t call your husband the names I want to because my comment will be deleted.
Paternity leave isn’t a time to relax, it’s a time you’re helping raise the baby and spending time together as a family. CLEARLY he is not doing either of these things as A. You’d be better rested and B. He’d have noticed you’re exhausted.
You passing out made him look bad because it was clear to everyone that you’re being left to raising your baby alone. It’s clearly not a partnership and the AH you’re married to is turning it onto you to shift responsibility and blame.
You need to seriously reconsider the relationships future and bring this up with him as it all comes down to him and his behaviour. If he gets his shit together, then things will be much better. But if he doesn’t, you and your daughter deserve so much better.
awaythrowers97
He doesn't know what "paternity leave" is and doesn't really want to take care of his family. Sadly, you can't seem to shake that loser.
ArticleOld598
This deadbeat of a father and husband is using his 6 weeks to laze around instead of using it taking care of his wife & child.
OP you said you love your baby more than yourself, would you want to let her grow up and think that it's normal for wives to push themselves while they're sleepless and in pain until they faint & husbands to berate them instead of worrying & taking care of them?
Tell your parents that your husband doesn't help you at all & blamed you for "making him look bad". You know what else makes him look bad? Being a deadbeat father and partner.
**Judgement - NTA*\*
Update - 1 day later
Hi all, your comments were really helpful, so thank you!
Yesterday, before I could Uber to my mom's house, my sister offered to help me, so I'm staying with her instead. She's taking PTA to help me out with my girl, which I'm very grateful for. She also gave me sleep medicine that knocked me out for hours (I'm not sure if that was a good idea or not, but I slept long and well so I don't care.)
I woke up a few hours ago to tons, and I mean TONS, of messages from my husband. Like, the little app icon had 99+ on it. Here are some of the things he said(copy pasted):
I would screenshot, but it says this community doesnt allow attachments, so i can't. And I know it's a bit weird to tell yall what he's been texting me, but I'm mad right now and this feels therapeutic lol. I already sent the screenshots to his mom though!
As for my baby, I have an appointment to a paediatrician for Wednesday, but for now she's on formula since my breast milk quality isn't the best for understandable reasons. My sister said she wasn't as fussy as I described, so I really think the problem is with my milk. That or my sister wanted to make me feel better for sleeping, who knows. I'll wait for the doctor's opinion.
I'm not feeling 100% but I feel a whole lot more better than before. Thank you to everyone who showed concern! I think this will be the last update since I wanna not think too much about my husband rn.
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ZombieJoesBasement
I am sooo glad you left and got some help and rest. You definitely need and deserve it.
I still can't get over your husband's mental gymnastics here. He hasn't been a parent, hasn't helped you at all, and hasn't really spent any time caring for his daughter and only cares about what other people (besides you) think, but "misses his baby girl" and wants you to come back "so we can go back to being happy"?! Sounds like the only person who was happy was him--he got a 6 week vacation and didn't have to lift a finger. Let me guess-you were doing all the cooking and cleaning on top of caring for the baby? From what he is texting you, he thinks he did nothing wrong. He is being deliberately obtuse.
To add insult to injury he calls you a bitch and threatens you with the cops. Lovely. He is a real peach.
I really want to know what his mom has to say. Does she know he was mad at you for passing out?
Efficient-Cupcake247
Because it isn't about love. It is about control and image. Please keep strong. You have done a fabulous job doing what you need to for you and baby. Best wishes
blehguardian
To be clear, kidnapping is not involved. Until a custody agreement is submitted to the court, either married parent is legally permitted to take their child for any reason.
Aggravating-Pipe-903
Damn, this dude is crazy. Hopefully next update it’ll be ex-husband
**New Updates*\*
AITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby? LAST UPDATE - 4 days later
For all of you who wanted to know what his mother's reaction was, she yelled at him and he made that my problem. The things he's messaged me are vile. And even though MIL was mad at him and KNOWS what he's been saying to me, she still insisted that I go visit him face to face so we can work things out.
I don't really blame her. He's her son, of course she'd still want to help him, but still....With all the ways he's been threatening me and cussing me out, I really didnt want to see him, but I decided to go. Mostly because I needed the stuff that I left at our house.
I went with my sister for safety, obviously. We got there and he played with our baby, he offered to feed her (she wasn't hungry), just acting completely different from the man texting me about how much of a "heartless bitch" I am. I didn't really feel comfortable having him near me or the baby with how violent his texts were, but she's still his baby. I don't think the courts would favour him after I show his texts, but I thought I should rather be safe and allow him some form of contact before going to court. This was a mistake.
At the end of the visit, I decided I should go pack my stuff, since that was one of the only reason I agreed to come. But, I didn't feel comfortable not being there while he had my baby. Yeah, my sister was there and I trust her, but I'd rather watch her with my own eyes. So, my sister went upstairs to pack for me. As soon as she was gone, he started talking about "See? I'm good now I can take care of her." And other stuff but that wasn't the problem. Even if he became super dad, I wouldn't be able to see him the same. Not after all those messages he sent me.
I told him that and he got pissed at me. I was getting worried since my daughter was still in his arms, so I tried to deescalate his feelings. It didn't work and he started yelling at me for "being heartless" and "stubborn" and whatnot. I wasn't really focused on what he was saying, I was focused on my baby. I tried to reach out for her and he shoved me hard enough to fall back. My sister came down and tried to help, but he shoved her away too and ran to the guest room and locked himself and MY BABY in there. He refused to come out unless my sister left and i stayed behind. I can't tell y'all how scary it is to not know what's happening to your child.
It took officers almost 30 minutes to get him out, which pissed me off. Like I know they were probably trying to assess the danger or whatever but I just wanted my baby. In that 30 minute window he could've shaken her or threw her out the window or something and they were there asking him to come out like he was a child and not breaking down the door. She was fine, though, so I can't be too mad.
They didn't arrest him since "no harm was done" even though my sister and I have bruises to prove otherwise, but they held him outside while I packed my stuff. It actually bothers me that they didn't at least detain him, but there's not much I can do about it now. I don't think I'm going to go near him again. Not with my baby. I'm thinking of going to apply for that emergency custody thing yall were talking about.
This happened on Wednesday and I'm still shaken. It's really depressing, for a lack of better word, seeing how much he's changed. I really loved him and I felt he loved me too. How he's acting is crushing me. I feel deflated. My baby girl and my sister are really the only things keeping me going right now.
I'm sorry for the wall of text, it's just that texting this all out helps me feel better. But, I don't think I want to continue updating. Just know that we're splitting up. Thank you all for your support!!
Extra: after visiting the doctor, I've decided to just skip the hassle and formula feed. She seems happier with formula anyways.
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JanetInSpain
OMG document everything. Take pictures of the bruises. Go see a doctor and tell the doctor you just need things documented to protect yourself and your baby. File a police report for assault and both you and your sister write detailed statements of everything that happened. Then apply for emergency custody.
georgiajl38
Go to the police station and file a report for assault. Screw those cops. They didn't have to take him but the assault report should have definitely been filed. Get in front of a magistrate asap!!!
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Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 5th May 2024
Update - 6th May 2024
1 New Update
Thanks to u/Small-Bodybuilder160 for finding the update
Final Update - 10th May 2024
AITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby?
So, recently I(27F) had a beautiful baby girl with my husband(29M). She's my pride and joy, I love her more than I love myself. But, taking care of her has taken its toll on me. My husband promised the work would be 50/50 when we agreed we wanted children, but I don't feel that's being reflected by his actions this past month.
It's gotten to the point where I can't even ask him to wash her up without him saying something along the lines of, "My paternity leave is short, I want to make the most of it by relaxing a bit. I'll help you out later." And I get it. His paternity leave is only 6 weeks while mine is 16 weeks, but my nether regions hurt like a bitch for a better part of two weeks after the birth and all he could do for me was occasionally burp her.
Now, my baby girl has gotten to a phase where she doesn't want to sleep. She'll sleep for an hour, but then she's up and back to crying and I have to get up and try to soothe her. It's been happening for a week now and I've gotten so little sleep that I'm nodding off while eating or doing tge laundry and stuff. Saturday was the month anniversary of my daughter's birth, so I decided to gather both sides of the family to meet her. (They hadn't met her prior because a)I wanted to rest as much as I could and b)I heard somewhere that you shouldn't be taking babies out and about when they're fresh out the womb cause they're more prone to illness then).
So, we had this gathering at my mother's house and all was well. Everyone was cooing over our baby, there was food, people were catching up or meeting for the 1st time. It was nice. But, I had gotten about 3 hours(generous estimate) of sleep in total the past week and I was starting to feel the effects of it. I was feeling lightheaded and clammy, but I didn't wanna make a scene so I tried to go to a bedroom to lie down. I didn't take 10 steps before my vision completely blacked out.
I wasn't down for long, but I had fallen over which drew some attention. I explained to everyone who was concerned that I was fine and that I was just not getting enough sleep and I could see my husband visibly frown at that. They gave me some of the dessert my aunt made to get my sugar up and the party continued. I felt embarrassed about the whole thing, especially since everyone was still looking over me til we left, but it's whatever
What bothered me is my husband's reaction. When we got home, he started going off on me about how I "made him look bad" and like "he wasn't taking care of me". I was confused on how tf me passing out made HIM look bad, but he refused to explain himself and had a pity party for himself in the kitchen.
I was still feeling bad, so I decided to leave him alone and just to go sleep, but he seems to have taken that as a sign that I don't care about his feelings. He's in my ear this morning about how I just ignored him to go sleep last night and how I didn't even put the baby to sleep before leaving. Is he right? AITAH here?
Update: So I've tried talking with him, but he's been ignoring me and the baby the last three hours. I'd usually wait longer, but I'm just too tired to deal with this right now. You guys were right, I do need help with this, and he's made it very clear he's not ready to help me yet, so I'm just going to go to my mom's place. I'm currently packing. I'm so done.
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sophie_Mal
NTA and I can’t call your husband the names I want to because my comment will be deleted.
Paternity leave isn’t a time to relax, it’s a time you’re helping raise the baby and spending time together as a family. CLEARLY he is not doing either of these things as A. You’d be better rested and B. He’d have noticed you’re exhausted.
You passing out made him look bad because it was clear to everyone that you’re being left to raising your baby alone. It’s clearly not a partnership and the AH you’re married to is turning it onto you to shift responsibility and blame.
You need to seriously reconsider the relationships future and bring this up with him as it all comes down to him and his behaviour. If he gets his shit together, then things will be much better. But if he doesn’t, you and your daughter deserve so much better.
awaythrowers97
He doesn't know what "paternity leave" is and doesn't really want to take care of his family. Sadly, you can't seem to shake that loser.
ArticleOld598
This deadbeat of a father and husband is using his 6 weeks to laze around instead of using it taking care of his wife & child.
OP you said you love your baby more than yourself, would you want to let her grow up and think that it's normal for wives to push themselves while they're sleepless and in pain until they faint & husbands to berate them instead of worrying & taking care of them?
Tell your parents that your husband doesn't help you at all & blamed you for "making him look bad". You know what else makes him look bad? Being a deadbeat father and partner.
**Judgement - NTA*\*
Update - 1 day later
Hi all, your comments were really helpful, so thank you!
Yesterday, before I could Uber to my mom's house, my sister offered to help me, so I'm staying with her instead. She's taking PTA to help me out with my girl, which I'm very grateful for. She also gave me sleep medicine that knocked me out for hours (I'm not sure if that was a good idea or not, but I slept long and well so I don't care.)
I woke up a few hours ago to tons, and I mean TONS, of messages from my husband. Like, the little app icon had 99+ on it. Here are some of the things he said(copy pasted):
- You cant just up and fucking leve with my baby
- Come back now pls let's talk abt it
- Your actually so fuvking immature wth is wrong with you we have one argument and you fucking pretend like I've been beating you why the hell did you leave????
- We can work this out like adults yet your choosing to be difficult like a little bitch
- Pls just come back we will talk and sort this out and we can go back to being happy so come back
- I miss my baby girl you can't just take her away
- What if I call the police for kidnapping??? Would that teach you wat your doing is wrong???
I would screenshot, but it says this community doesnt allow attachments, so i can't. And I know it's a bit weird to tell yall what he's been texting me, but I'm mad right now and this feels therapeutic lol. I already sent the screenshots to his mom though!
As for my baby, I have an appointment to a paediatrician for Wednesday, but for now she's on formula since my breast milk quality isn't the best for understandable reasons. My sister said she wasn't as fussy as I described, so I really think the problem is with my milk. That or my sister wanted to make me feel better for sleeping, who knows. I'll wait for the doctor's opinion.
I'm not feeling 100% but I feel a whole lot more better than before. Thank you to everyone who showed concern! I think this will be the last update since I wanna not think too much about my husband rn.
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ZombieJoesBasement
I am sooo glad you left and got some help and rest. You definitely need and deserve it.
I still can't get over your husband's mental gymnastics here. He hasn't been a parent, hasn't helped you at all, and hasn't really spent any time caring for his daughter and only cares about what other people (besides you) think, but "misses his baby girl" and wants you to come back "so we can go back to being happy"?! Sounds like the only person who was happy was him--he got a 6 week vacation and didn't have to lift a finger. Let me guess-you were doing all the cooking and cleaning on top of caring for the baby? From what he is texting you, he thinks he did nothing wrong. He is being deliberately obtuse.
To add insult to injury he calls you a bitch and threatens you with the cops. Lovely. He is a real peach.
I really want to know what his mom has to say. Does she know he was mad at you for passing out?
Efficient-Cupcake247
Because it isn't about love. It is about control and image. Please keep strong. You have done a fabulous job doing what you need to for you and baby. Best wishes
blehguardian
To be clear, kidnapping is not involved. Until a custody agreement is submitted to the court, either married parent is legally permitted to take their child for any reason.
Aggravating-Pipe-903
Damn, this dude is crazy. Hopefully next update it’ll be ex-husband
**New Updates*\*
AITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby? LAST UPDATE - 4 days later
For all of you who wanted to know what his mother's reaction was, she yelled at him and he made that my problem. The things he's messaged me are vile. And even though MIL was mad at him and KNOWS what he's been saying to me, she still insisted that I go visit him face to face so we can work things out.
I don't really blame her. He's her son, of course she'd still want to help him, but still....With all the ways he's been threatening me and cussing me out, I really didnt want to see him, but I decided to go. Mostly because I needed the stuff that I left at our house.
I went with my sister for safety, obviously. We got there and he played with our baby, he offered to feed her (she wasn't hungry), just acting completely different from the man texting me about how much of a "heartless bitch" I am. I didn't really feel comfortable having him near me or the baby with how violent his texts were, but she's still his baby. I don't think the courts would favour him after I show his texts, but I thought I should rather be safe and allow him some form of contact before going to court. This was a mistake.
At the end of the visit, I decided I should go pack my stuff, since that was one of the only reason I agreed to come. But, I didn't feel comfortable not being there while he had my baby. Yeah, my sister was there and I trust her, but I'd rather watch her with my own eyes. So, my sister went upstairs to pack for me. As soon as she was gone, he started talking about "See? I'm good now I can take care of her." And other stuff but that wasn't the problem. Even if he became super dad, I wouldn't be able to see him the same. Not after all those messages he sent me.
I told him that and he got pissed at me. I was getting worried since my daughter was still in his arms, so I tried to deescalate his feelings. It didn't work and he started yelling at me for "being heartless" and "stubborn" and whatnot. I wasn't really focused on what he was saying, I was focused on my baby. I tried to reach out for her and he shoved me hard enough to fall back. My sister came down and tried to help, but he shoved her away too and ran to the guest room and locked himself and MY BABY in there. He refused to come out unless my sister left and i stayed behind. I can't tell y'all how scary it is to not know what's happening to your child.
It took officers almost 30 minutes to get him out, which pissed me off. Like I know they were probably trying to assess the danger or whatever but I just wanted my baby. In that 30 minute window he could've shaken her or threw her out the window or something and they were there asking him to come out like he was a child and not breaking down the door. She was fine, though, so I can't be too mad.
They didn't arrest him since "no harm was done" even though my sister and I have bruises to prove otherwise, but they held him outside while I packed my stuff. It actually bothers me that they didn't at least detain him, but there's not much I can do about it now. I don't think I'm going to go near him again. Not with my baby. I'm thinking of going to apply for that emergency custody thing yall were talking about.
This happened on Wednesday and I'm still shaken. It's really depressing, for a lack of better word, seeing how much he's changed. I really loved him and I felt he loved me too. How he's acting is crushing me. I feel deflated. My baby girl and my sister are really the only things keeping me going right now.
I'm sorry for the wall of text, it's just that texting this all out helps me feel better. But, I don't think I want to continue updating. Just know that we're splitting up. Thank you all for your support!!
Extra: after visiting the doctor, I've decided to just skip the hassle and formula feed. She seems happier with formula anyways.
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JanetInSpain
OMG document everything. Take pictures of the bruises. Go see a doctor and tell the doctor you just need things documented to protect yourself and your baby. File a police report for assault and both you and your sister write detailed statements of everything that happened. Then apply for emergency custody.
georgiajl38
Go to the police station and file a report for assault. Screw those cops. They didn't have to take him but the assault report should have definitely been filed. Get in front of a magistrate asap!!!
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
2024.05.14 13:49 Then_Marionberry_259 MAY 14, 2024 FDY.TO FARADAY COPPER INTERSECTS 0.41% COPPER OVER 42.02 METRES EXPANDING NEAR-SURFACE MINERALIZATION AT AREA 51 WITHIN THE COPPER CREEK PROJECT
 | https://preview.redd.it/kexz4zycrd0d1.png?width=3500&format=png&auto=webp&s=684020fcf83866c3ff43bc87f3ac344b08fe8954 submitted by Then_Marionberry_259 to Treaty_Creek [link] [comments] VANCOUVER, BC / ACCESSWIRE / May 14, 2024 / Faraday Copper Corp. ("Faraday" or the "Company") (TSX:FDY)(OTCQX:CPPKF) is pleased to announce the results of five drill holes from its Phase III program at the Copper Creek Project, located in Arizona, U.S. ("Copper Creek"). One hole was drilled to test a new target area 275 metres ("m") west of Keel and one hole was drilled to test the westward extension of Old Reliable. Three holes were drilled at Area 51 as a follow-up to the recent Starship and Eclipse breccia discoveries (announced on January 16, 2024 and March 4, 2024). Paul Harbidge, President and CEO, commented "The Phase III drill program continues to demonstrate the exploration potential of the Copper Creek Project on a number of fronts. At Area 51, we continue to intersect and expand near-surface mineralization. At Old Reliable, mineralization is being further delineated outside of the mineral resource pit shell. Additionally, the first reconnaissance hole drilled at depth, west of Keel, confirms our thesis that there is the potential for significant mineralization to be discovered below the Old Reliable breccia complex. This new data will enable us to vector to high grade zones for further drill testing". Highlights
Area 51 was identified as highly prospective by integrating airborne versatile time domain electromagnetic (VTEM) geophysical data and short wave infrared spectral data together with geological mapping and sampling. Area 51 encompasses a porphyry intrusion with nine mapped breccia bodies over an area of approximately 400 m by 400 m, including Starship and Eclipse. The breccias are interpreted to have been emplaced at a shallow crustal level in the hanging wall of the northwest trending Holy Joe thrust fault, which brought Proterozoic metamorphic rocks in contact with younger sedimentary rock units to the east of Area 51. This fault is also thought to have controlled the emplacement of the Paleocene Glory Hole volcanics and Copper Creek granodiorite which host the mineral resource. Drill hole FCD-24-056 was collared northeast of the Eclipse breccia and drilled to the southwest to increase drill coverage for the Eclipse breccia (Figures 1 and 2). Mineralization is associated with chalcopyrite and minor bornite breccia cement. The hole started in granodiorite porphyry and intersected hydrothermal breccia from 28 m to 108 m followed by granodiorite porphyry to 131 m. The remainder of the hole to 187 m is in Glory Hole volcanics. The alteration in the breccia domain is quartz-sericite-pyrite with an interval from approximately 50 m to 70 m where tourmaline is abundant. Drill hole FCD-24-051 was collared 250 m north of the Eclipse breccia and drilled to the southwest into the Ziltoid breccia (Figure 1). The hole intersected Glory Hole volcanics in the first 180 m, followed by 4 m of granodiorite porphyry. From 184 m to 247 m the dominant lithology is hydrothermal breccia. Alteration at the start of the breccia is sericitic but K-feldspar and biotite dominate from 190 m to the end of the hole. Drill hole FCD-24-055 was collared southeast of the Eclipse breccia and drilled to the Northwest (Figure 1). The hole intercepted Glory Hole volcanics from surface to 49 m, followed by a series of granodiorite and monzogranite porphyries. From 136 m to 327 m the hole intersected hydrothermal breccia cemented by quartz, pyrite and specular hematite. Alteration within the breccia is intense quartz-sericite. Minor copper mineralization is associated with chalcocite near the upper contact of the breccia. Keel West is the area between the Keel zone and Old Reliable. This area coincides with a prominent untested geophysical anomaly which extends westward from the known mineralization at the Mammoth breccia and Keel zone to below Old Reliable (Figure 3). Drill hole FCD-24-053 was collared east of Old Reliable and drilled to the south-southeast (Figures 1 and 3). Mineralization is associated with bornite and chalcopyrite bearing veins with narrow sericite-biotite-K-feldspar alteration halos and the hole ends in mineralization. This type of bornite-rich, vein-hosted mineralization is known to be associated with high-grade mineralization and elevated gold grades at Keel and suggests the potential for other high-grade mineralized centers at depth below known near-surface mineralized breccias in the area. Old Reliable was the site of small-scale underground mining for copper and molybdenum prior to World War II. Starting in the 1970s, an experimental in-situ leach operation recovered some of the near-surface copper oxide mineralization. The sulphide-hosted mineralization remains in place. During the 1990s, densely spaced vertical drilling led to resource definition to approximately 200 m below surface. Several of those drill holes end in mineralization and the resource is open at depth and laterally. Additional follow up drilling is planned for this area. Drill hole FCD-24-054 was collared north of Old Reliable and drilled to the southwest (Figures 1 and 4). The hole was designed to test the westward extension of the mineralization outside of the open pit used to constrain the MRE. Mineralization is associated with disseminated and vein-hosted chalcopyrite within granodiorite porphyry. The drill hole intercepted Glory Hole volcanics from surface to 50 m and granodiorite porphyry to 208 m, returning to Glory Hole volcanics to 295 m and granodiorite for the last 12 m. Dominant alteration associated with the mineralization is sericite with kaolinite. Similar alteration is present in the Old Reliable breccia (as discussed in a news release dated April 10, 2024). Figure 1: Plan View Showing Surface Geology and Location of Drill Holes https://preview.redd.it/k3a8ev1drd0d1.jpg?width=1029&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1dd30f01638787c8d36ec0cde786c7170e0c6120 https://preview.redd.it/yskgh23drd0d1.jpg?width=997&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1948953710726727686ee4a97a698c90320972cb https://preview.redd.it/n3zfl34drd0d1.jpg?width=1350&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6f37c03cbb7429067f229b5577f60951e8dac938 Figure 4: Cross Section Showing Drill Hole FCD-24-054 at Old Reliable https://preview.redd.it/bxnpq85drd0d1.jpg?width=1126&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8dea1a1b8ef1b063acaf5d447be5f33f6ede0e7f Table 1: Selected Drill Results from Copper Creek https://preview.redd.it/srrqad6drd0d1.png?width=720&format=png&auto=webp&s=ead50c719f4bf3668d40d845838c109a373787ca Note: All intercepts are reported as downhole drill widths. Mineralization includes bulk porphyry style and breccia mineralization true widths are approximate due to the irregular shape of mineralized domains. N/A: Not analyzed. Table 2: Collar Locations from the Drill Holes Reported Herein https://preview.redd.it/f0ytu97drd0d1.png?width=720&format=png&auto=webp&s=6c5414f5f4b43b473f4a6e70c62c81886462a098 Note: Coordinates are given as World Geodetic System 84, Universal Transverse Mercator Zone 12 north (WGS84, UTM12N). Next Steps Phase III drilling continues and is focussed on three objectives:
Sampling Methodology, Chain of Custody, Quality Control and Quality Assurance All sampling was conducted under the supervision of the Company's geologists and the chain of custody from Copper Creek to the independent sample preparation facility, ALS Laboratories in Tucson, AZ, was continuously monitored. The samples were taken as ½ core, over 2 m core length. Samples were crushed, pulverized and sample pulps were analyzed using industry standard analytical methods including a 4-Acid ICP-MS multielement package and an ICP-AES method for high-grade copper samples. Gold was analyzed on a 30 g aliquot by fire assay with an ICP-AES finish. A certified reference sample was inserted every 20th sample. Coarse and fine blanks were inserted every 20th sample. Approximately 5% of the core samples were cut into ¼ core and submitted as field duplicates. On top of internal QA-QC protocol, additional blanks, reference materials and duplicates were inserted by the analytical laboratory according to their procedure. Data verification of the analytical results included a statistical analysis of the standards and blanks that must pass certain parameters for acceptance to ensure accurate and verifiable results. Qualified Person The scientific and technical information contained in this news release has been reviewed and approved by Faraday's VP Exploration, Dr. Thomas Bissig, P. Geo., who is a Qualified Person under National Instrument 43-101 - Standards of Disclosure for Mineral Projects ("NI 43-101"). About Faraday Copper Faraday Copper is a Canadian exploration company focused on advancing its flagship copper project in Arizona, U.S. The Copper Creek Project is one of the largest undeveloped copper projects in North America with significant district scale exploration potential. The Company is well-funded to deliver on its key milestones and benefits from a management team and board of directors with senior mining company experience and expertise. Faraday trades on the TSX under the symbol "FDY". For additional information please contact: Stacey Pavlova, CFA Vice President, Investor Relations & Communications Faraday Copper Corp. E-mail: [info@faradaycopper.com](mailto:info@faradaycopper.com) Website: www.faradaycopper.com To receive news releases by e-mail, please register using the Faraday website at www.faradaycopper.com. Cautionary Note on Forward Looking Statements Some of the statements in this news release, other than statements of historical fact, are "forward-looking statements" and are based on the opinions and estimates of management as of the date such statements are made and are necessarily based on estimates and assumptions that are inherently subject to known and unknown risks, uncertainties and other factors that may cause actual results, level of activity, performance or achievements of Faraday to be materially different from those expressed or implied by such forward-looking statements. Such forward-looking statements and forward-looking information specifically include, but are not limited to, statements concerning the exploration potential of the Copper Creek property. Although Faraday believes the expectations expressed in such forward-looking statements are based on reasonable assumptions, such statements should not be in any way construed as guarantees of future performance and actual results or developments may differ materially. Accordingly, readers should not place undue reliance on forward-looking statements or information. Factors that could cause actual results to differ materially from those in forward-looking statements include without limitation: market prices for metals; the conclusions of detailed feasibility and technical analyses; lower than expected grades and quantities of mineral resources; receipt of regulatory approval; receipt of shareholder approval; mining rates and recovery rates; significant capital requirements; price volatility in the spot and forward markets for commodities; fluctuations in rates of exchange; taxation; controls, regulations and political or economic developments in the countries in which Faraday does or may carry on business; the speculative nature of mineral exploration and development, competition; loss of key employees; rising costs of labour, supplies, fuel and equipment; actual results of current exploration or reclamation activities; accidents; labour disputes; defective title to mineral claims or property or contests over claims to mineral properties; unexpected delays and costs inherent to consulting and accommodating rights of Indigenous peoples and other groups; risks, uncertainties and unanticipated delays associated with obtaining and maintaining necessary licenses, permits and authorizations and complying with permitting requirements, including those associated with the Copper Creek property; and uncertainties with respect to any future acquisitions by Faraday. In addition, there are risks and hazards associated with the business of mineral exploration, development and mining, including environmental events and hazards, industrial accidents, unusual or unexpected formations, pressures, cave-ins, flooding and the risk of inadequate insurance or inability to obtain insurance to cover these risks as well as "Risk Factors" included in Faraday's disclosure documents filed on and available at www.sedarplus.ca. This press release does not constitute an offer to sell or a solicitation of an offer to buy any securities in any jurisdiction to any person to whom it is unlawful to make such an offer or solicitation in such jurisdiction. This press release is not, and under no circumstances is to be construed as, a prospectus, an offering memorandum, an advertisement or a public offering of securities in Faraday in Canada, the United States or any other jurisdiction. 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2024.05.14 13:38 Life_Ad_1758 24 [F4M] Paranas ng healthy relationship
One last try before ako totally mamaalam sa Reddit. Abot ka pa. 😉 I'm looking for something serious (so if you're here for fun-fun lang, go away). 2022 pa last relationship ko then puro failed talking stages na. It's sad when you know your intentions are pure & you have something to bring to the table pero wala pa rin.
About me:
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About me:
- I date to marry
- 5'0", petite/fit (I workout at home & will go to the gym soon), fair-skinned, w wavy hair
- Accountancy grad (alr workingggg)
- HAHAHAHAHAHAHA person
- financially responsible, emotionally mature, mentally stable
- I love to travel (very kaladkarin sa galaan)
- I'm not a gamer. If you are, then I'm so much willing to learn para makalaro ka
- currently in province (IV-B) because I'm working from home. I'll be back in Makati next month for a 2-week stay.
- 5'7" & above with normal BMI
- 1-3 years older than me
- cute mag-smile :">
- working
- mentally stable & emotionally mature
- non-smoker, not inked
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2024.05.14 13:30 stayaway1212 Publix Produce Rant
I worked at Publix in Apollo Beach for about 8 months. I was hired in late 2020 after quitting my job at Dunkin’, which was nearby. I made some really good friends at Publix who I’m still friends with. I was hired by the produce manager because we sort of knew each other from Dunkin’ when he used to go there to buy iced tea. We’ll call him “Phil”. The job was okay, but later on Phil became more of a dick. He kept calling me out on how I wasn’t going fast enough with stocking the produce. I tried to get the morning shift, but he only let me cut the fruit for about 20 minutes before deciding that he didn’t want me to do it at all. I got along more with the assistant produce manager.
The more I worked there, the more I saw that Phil was a creep. There was this attractive mid-30s Puerto Rican woman named “Lucia” who worked at the front with the cashiers. Lucia would stop by the produce department because she had to sweep in the back, and Phil kept commenting to her that she’s cute and he really liked her pigtails.
While I was working there, I signed up for the Air Force and had to get interviewed for my secret clearance. The Department of Homeland Security had to send him a booklet that he had to fill out, asking questions about me, and he mentioned that to me, jokingly saying “your life is in my hands”. I laughed it off because I knew he was joking.
I quit Publix after working there for 8 months and became a contractor working with a company that assembles grills and outdoor furniture for Home Depot. Shortly after I quit, Lucia was texting me, saying that she filed a complaint against Phil because he kept hitting on her and wanted to start a relationship with her. Phil was at least 55 years old at the time. There was an investigation going on, and ultimately he was removed from that Publix. I’m sure he got demoted as well.
A few months after I quit, I had a phone call with an investigator for my secret clearance for the Air Force. The investigator mentioned that Phil wrote down that I wasn’t a “pleasure to work with”. I was furious and wanted to find Phil and tell him off. My girlfriend, who is now my wife, told me not to do it and that I shouldn’t risk anything where I can’t join the Air Force. I let it go, but I was really mad about it for about a week.
So yeah, if you work at Publix, just be careful and know when it’s time to quit if you have self-respect.
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The more I worked there, the more I saw that Phil was a creep. There was this attractive mid-30s Puerto Rican woman named “Lucia” who worked at the front with the cashiers. Lucia would stop by the produce department because she had to sweep in the back, and Phil kept commenting to her that she’s cute and he really liked her pigtails.
While I was working there, I signed up for the Air Force and had to get interviewed for my secret clearance. The Department of Homeland Security had to send him a booklet that he had to fill out, asking questions about me, and he mentioned that to me, jokingly saying “your life is in my hands”. I laughed it off because I knew he was joking.
I quit Publix after working there for 8 months and became a contractor working with a company that assembles grills and outdoor furniture for Home Depot. Shortly after I quit, Lucia was texting me, saying that she filed a complaint against Phil because he kept hitting on her and wanted to start a relationship with her. Phil was at least 55 years old at the time. There was an investigation going on, and ultimately he was removed from that Publix. I’m sure he got demoted as well.
A few months after I quit, I had a phone call with an investigator for my secret clearance for the Air Force. The investigator mentioned that Phil wrote down that I wasn’t a “pleasure to work with”. I was furious and wanted to find Phil and tell him off. My girlfriend, who is now my wife, told me not to do it and that I shouldn’t risk anything where I can’t join the Air Force. I let it go, but I was really mad about it for about a week.
So yeah, if you work at Publix, just be careful and know when it’s time to quit if you have self-respect.
2024.05.14 13:29 Nostalgia_town [BOATS] Tale of a train journey
It was a winter morning, and I was standing on the railway station of Adityapur, one of Asia’s largest industrial hubs in the outskirts of Jamshedpur, formally known as TATANAGAR, the city known for TATAs & their steel. I updated my current whereabouts to my mother just before boarding the Tata-Gua passenger train, sounding her on my expected time to reach home. I was visiting home after 2 months, the longest interval in the 3.5 years at NIT Jamshedpur due to my business around hosting the first alumni meet of NIT Jamshedpur and a 15-day train travel across India through Jagriti Yatra. I was just carrying my laptop bag as it was a usual 2/3-day trip and I just had my Compaq laptop, a change of clothes & charger to be precise beside my small blue denim wallet & a Samsung smart phone. In 2012, smart phones were just stepping in and my brother-in law was generous enough to lend it to me to take pictures of the places I visit & the events I attend during Jagriti Yatra. Jagriti Yatra is a train ride across India with 600 yatris from different countries, different walks of life who embark on this journey to learn about various social & business enterprise. In that day’s train journey, I was travelling with a batchmate who would get down 2 stations before mine. We’d travel together many times during the four years, and we’d always take the morning train instead of the evening one. It was a passenger train which was always very crowded, and it passed through many small stations in that belt which were dimly lit, these stations were primarily existing to connect industries to the mining towns of Noamundi, Barbil, Jhinkpani and had goods trains plying with iron ore, limestone, cement, so evening trains seemed unsafe for girls travelling alone. Jhinkpani was a small town in that belt with a cement factory, ACC Cements, and a residential township for it. My dad had booked the station trip which was a Maruti Van to ply the resident of the colony from station to the colony which was around 3 kms away & there was no public transport available in this route. I was waiting to board the train all excited to show my parents the pictures of the Yatra clicked on the borrowed smart phone, I’d also met my sister and niece at Visakhapatnam while we visited Akshaya Patra mega kitchen and I remember getting clicked a cute photo of me holding my niece at the station but my excitement was short lived as soon as I kept the phone in the small zipper pocket of my laptop bag. I was modestly dressed in a kurta and leggings, without pockets of-course, pockets are a recent phenomenon in women’s Indian clothing. So, my phone and wallet were always kept in the bag.
As I boarded the train along with around 20 other people from that gate, I felt a sudden force pulling me back, but I managed to steer my way inside but with an eerie feeling, I quickly reached out to check the tiny pocket immediately only to find that both the wallet & the borrowed phone were gone. A shiver ran up my spine and I started to feel numb. There was Rs 200 in cash in that wallet which was a month of pocket money, my SBI ATM card and college i-card. Now, having zero cash, no phone I went about near the gate to see if I can find it, I spoke to couple of people but barely anyone knew Hindi, and it struck me real hard that reaching home was my single motto now. Although scared that I would be scolded by parents for being reckless, I had a sinking feeling as to how would I break this news to my sister & my brother-in-law whose smart phone I’d lost, what would I do about all the lost contacts that I’d woven so meticulously while organizing the alumni meet, what of the memories that I’d captured during the Yatra. My brain started to fizzle with all these entrapping thoughts when my friend shook me to bring me back to the dreaded train which was my reality then and I started planning my next course of action. I first called my mother from my friend’s phone to tell her about the loss, she comforted me and then she informed my dad to arrange a vehicle from the station, the trip was booked but it’d sometimes leave passengers if there are more people than capacity or not turn up due to technical glitch in the age old van that was used. My friend got down at Chaibasa and my heart started racing more as people around me in the train knew my situation and vulnerability and I tried to pose a strong and confident front. The train took more than 20 minutes to travel 17 kms but for me it seemed like ages, the sight of Jhinkpani station never made me so relieved. I quickly deboarded the train, holding on to my bag tightly this time and found a friend waiting there in his Maruti 800. He happened to have met my dad while coming to the station for a personal work and my dad asked him to pick me as well. I finally reached home travelling without a phone and a penny in pocket, my mom was so glad to see me safe and sound. I was taken aback a little to see her overtly calm demeanor at the face of such an adversary and having no concern whatsoever for my lost phone or the wallet. She prayed and thanked God for my safe return and narrated about her dream which she saw about me the previous night. She was very disturbed by it, and she’d been praying from dawn that day for my well-being as the dream was a very bad omen for me. She felt relieved that it was only few items that were lost, and I was completely unharmed. Mother’s love manifests in mysterious ways I thought while gobbling on my favorite sambar, rice that afternoon. Meanwhile, my dad deactivated my ATM card and arranged an old makeshift phone for me to be used in the remaining two months of college. When I sit back to think, I always think about my mother’s reaction and feel relieved that it happened, may be a way to appease myself of the guilt of not thinking through that somebody must have noticed me putting the phone in the small pocket and chanced upon it in the crowd while boarding. To compensate for the loss of phone, I gifted my sister with a digital camera after I started earning 4 months down from this incident. From then on, I never kept anything valuable in such obvious places in public while I maneuvered my ways in Delhi’s metro or the local trains of Mumbai, in the buses of Visakhapatnam or in the streets of Paris. I hold my wallet tight and my phone close.
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As I boarded the train along with around 20 other people from that gate, I felt a sudden force pulling me back, but I managed to steer my way inside but with an eerie feeling, I quickly reached out to check the tiny pocket immediately only to find that both the wallet & the borrowed phone were gone. A shiver ran up my spine and I started to feel numb. There was Rs 200 in cash in that wallet which was a month of pocket money, my SBI ATM card and college i-card. Now, having zero cash, no phone I went about near the gate to see if I can find it, I spoke to couple of people but barely anyone knew Hindi, and it struck me real hard that reaching home was my single motto now. Although scared that I would be scolded by parents for being reckless, I had a sinking feeling as to how would I break this news to my sister & my brother-in-law whose smart phone I’d lost, what would I do about all the lost contacts that I’d woven so meticulously while organizing the alumni meet, what of the memories that I’d captured during the Yatra. My brain started to fizzle with all these entrapping thoughts when my friend shook me to bring me back to the dreaded train which was my reality then and I started planning my next course of action. I first called my mother from my friend’s phone to tell her about the loss, she comforted me and then she informed my dad to arrange a vehicle from the station, the trip was booked but it’d sometimes leave passengers if there are more people than capacity or not turn up due to technical glitch in the age old van that was used. My friend got down at Chaibasa and my heart started racing more as people around me in the train knew my situation and vulnerability and I tried to pose a strong and confident front. The train took more than 20 minutes to travel 17 kms but for me it seemed like ages, the sight of Jhinkpani station never made me so relieved. I quickly deboarded the train, holding on to my bag tightly this time and found a friend waiting there in his Maruti 800. He happened to have met my dad while coming to the station for a personal work and my dad asked him to pick me as well. I finally reached home travelling without a phone and a penny in pocket, my mom was so glad to see me safe and sound. I was taken aback a little to see her overtly calm demeanor at the face of such an adversary and having no concern whatsoever for my lost phone or the wallet. She prayed and thanked God for my safe return and narrated about her dream which she saw about me the previous night. She was very disturbed by it, and she’d been praying from dawn that day for my well-being as the dream was a very bad omen for me. She felt relieved that it was only few items that were lost, and I was completely unharmed. Mother’s love manifests in mysterious ways I thought while gobbling on my favorite sambar, rice that afternoon. Meanwhile, my dad deactivated my ATM card and arranged an old makeshift phone for me to be used in the remaining two months of college. When I sit back to think, I always think about my mother’s reaction and feel relieved that it happened, may be a way to appease myself of the guilt of not thinking through that somebody must have noticed me putting the phone in the small pocket and chanced upon it in the crowd while boarding. To compensate for the loss of phone, I gifted my sister with a digital camera after I started earning 4 months down from this incident. From then on, I never kept anything valuable in such obvious places in public while I maneuvered my ways in Delhi’s metro or the local trains of Mumbai, in the buses of Visakhapatnam or in the streets of Paris. I hold my wallet tight and my phone close.
2024.05.14 13:28 Nostalgia_town [BOATS] Tale of a train journey
It was a winter morning, and I was standing on the railway station of Adityapur, one of Asia’s largest industrial hubs in the outskirts of Jamshedpur, formally known as TATANAGAR, the city known for TATAs & their steel. I updated my current whereabouts to my mother just before boarding the Tata-Gua passenger train, sounding her on my expected time to reach home. I was visiting home after 2 months, the longest interval in the 3.5 years at NIT Jamshedpur due to my business around hosting the first alumni meet of NIT Jamshedpur and a 15-day train travel across India through Jagriti Yatra. I was just carrying my laptop bag as it was a usual 2/3-day trip and I just had my Compaq laptop, a change of clothes & charger to be precise beside my small blue denim wallet & a Samsung smart phone. In 2012, smart phones were just stepping in and my brother-in law was generous enough to lend it to me to take pictures of the places I visit & the events I attend during Jagriti Yatra. Jagriti Yatra is a train ride across India with 600 yatris from different countries, different walks of life who embark on this journey to learn about various social & business enterprise. In that day’s train journey, I was travelling with a batchmate who would get down 2 stations before mine. We’d travel together many times during the four years, and we’d always take the morning train instead of the evening one. It was a passenger train which was always very crowded, and it passed through many small stations in that belt which were dimly lit, these stations were primarily existing to connect industries to the mining towns of Noamundi, Barbil, Jhinkpani and had goods trains plying with iron ore, limestone, cement, so evening trains seemed unsafe for girls travelling alone. Jhinkpani was a small town in that belt with a cement factory, ACC Cements, and a residential township for it. My dad had booked the station trip which was a Maruti Van to ply the resident of the colony from station to the colony which was around 3 kms away & there was no public transport available in this route. I was waiting to board the train all excited to show my parents the pictures of the Yatra clicked on the borrowed smart phone, I’d also met my sister and niece at Visakhapatnam while we visited Akshaya Patra mega kitchen and I remember getting clicked a cute photo of me holding my niece at the station but my excitement was short lived as soon as I kept the phone in the small zipper pocket of my laptop bag. I was modestly dressed in a kurta and leggings, without pockets of-course, pockets are a recent phenomenon in women’s Indian clothing. So, my phone and wallet were always kept in the bag.
As I boarded the train along with around 20 other people from that gate, I felt a sudden force pulling me back, but I managed to steer my way inside but with an eerie feeling, I quickly reached out to check the tiny pocket immediately only to find that both the wallet & the borrowed phone were gone. A shiver ran up my spine and I started to feel numb. There was Rs 200 in cash in that wallet which was a month of pocket money, my SBI ATM card and college i-card. Now, having zero cash, no phone I went about near the gate to see if I can find it, I spoke to couple of people but barely anyone knew Hindi, and it struck me real hard that reaching home was my single motto now. Although scared that I would be scolded by parents for being reckless, I had a sinking feeling as to how would I break this news to my sister & my brother-in-law whose smart phone I’d lost, what would I do about all the lost contacts that I’d woven so meticulously while organizing the alumni meet, what of the memories that I’d captured during the Yatra. My brain started to fizzle with all these entrapping thoughts when my friend shook me to bring me back to the dreaded train which was my reality then and I started planning my next course of action. I first called my mother from my friend’s phone to tell her about the loss, she comforted me and then she informed my dad to arrange a vehicle from the station, the trip was booked but it’d sometimes leave passengers if there are more people than capacity or not turn up due to technical glitch in the age old van that was used. My friend got down at Chaibasa and my heart started racing more as people around me in the train knew my situation and vulnerability and I tried to pose a strong and confident front. The train took more than 20 minutes to travel 17 kms but for me it seemed like ages, the sight of Jhinkpani station never made me so relieved. I quickly deboarded the train, holding on to my bag tightly this time and found a friend waiting there in his Maruti 800. He happened to have met my dad while coming to the station for a personal work and my dad asked him to pick me as well. I finally reached home travelling without a phone and a penny in pocket, my mom was so glad to see me safe and sound. I was taken aback a little to see her overtly calm demeanor at the face of such an adversary and having no concern whatsoever for my lost phone or the wallet. She prayed and thanked God for my safe return and narrated about her dream which she saw about me the previous night. She was very disturbed by it, and she’d been praying from dawn that day for my well-being as the dream was a very bad omen for me. She felt relieved that it was only few items that were lost, and I was completely unharmed. Mother’s love manifests in mysterious ways I thought while gobbling on my favorite sambar, rice that afternoon. Meanwhile, my dad deactivated my ATM card and arranged an old makeshift phone for me to be used in the remaining two months of college. When I sit back to think, I always think about my mother’s reaction and feel relieved that it happened, may be a way to appease myself of the guilt of not thinking through that somebody must have noticed me putting the phone in the small pocket and chanced upon it in the crowd while boarding. To compensate for the loss of phone, I gifted my sister with a digital camera after I started earning 4 months down from this incident. From then on, I never kept anything valuable in such obvious places in public while I maneuvered my ways in Delhi’s metro or the local trains of Mumbai, in the buses of Visakhapatnam or in the streets of Paris. I hold my wallet tight and my phone close.
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As I boarded the train along with around 20 other people from that gate, I felt a sudden force pulling me back, but I managed to steer my way inside but with an eerie feeling, I quickly reached out to check the tiny pocket immediately only to find that both the wallet & the borrowed phone were gone. A shiver ran up my spine and I started to feel numb. There was Rs 200 in cash in that wallet which was a month of pocket money, my SBI ATM card and college i-card. Now, having zero cash, no phone I went about near the gate to see if I can find it, I spoke to couple of people but barely anyone knew Hindi, and it struck me real hard that reaching home was my single motto now. Although scared that I would be scolded by parents for being reckless, I had a sinking feeling as to how would I break this news to my sister & my brother-in-law whose smart phone I’d lost, what would I do about all the lost contacts that I’d woven so meticulously while organizing the alumni meet, what of the memories that I’d captured during the Yatra. My brain started to fizzle with all these entrapping thoughts when my friend shook me to bring me back to the dreaded train which was my reality then and I started planning my next course of action. I first called my mother from my friend’s phone to tell her about the loss, she comforted me and then she informed my dad to arrange a vehicle from the station, the trip was booked but it’d sometimes leave passengers if there are more people than capacity or not turn up due to technical glitch in the age old van that was used. My friend got down at Chaibasa and my heart started racing more as people around me in the train knew my situation and vulnerability and I tried to pose a strong and confident front. The train took more than 20 minutes to travel 17 kms but for me it seemed like ages, the sight of Jhinkpani station never made me so relieved. I quickly deboarded the train, holding on to my bag tightly this time and found a friend waiting there in his Maruti 800. He happened to have met my dad while coming to the station for a personal work and my dad asked him to pick me as well. I finally reached home travelling without a phone and a penny in pocket, my mom was so glad to see me safe and sound. I was taken aback a little to see her overtly calm demeanor at the face of such an adversary and having no concern whatsoever for my lost phone or the wallet. She prayed and thanked God for my safe return and narrated about her dream which she saw about me the previous night. She was very disturbed by it, and she’d been praying from dawn that day for my well-being as the dream was a very bad omen for me. She felt relieved that it was only few items that were lost, and I was completely unharmed. Mother’s love manifests in mysterious ways I thought while gobbling on my favorite sambar, rice that afternoon. Meanwhile, my dad deactivated my ATM card and arranged an old makeshift phone for me to be used in the remaining two months of college. When I sit back to think, I always think about my mother’s reaction and feel relieved that it happened, may be a way to appease myself of the guilt of not thinking through that somebody must have noticed me putting the phone in the small pocket and chanced upon it in the crowd while boarding. To compensate for the loss of phone, I gifted my sister with a digital camera after I started earning 4 months down from this incident. From then on, I never kept anything valuable in such obvious places in public while I maneuvered my ways in Delhi’s metro or the local trains of Mumbai, in the buses of Visakhapatnam or in the streets of Paris. I hold my wallet tight and my phone close.
2024.05.14 13:22 lazymentors Marketing & Social Media News you should care about today!
Top 6 Updates of last Week:
- Meta launches AI tools for ad creative creation and paid subscription tiers.
- TikTok sues US Government over divest-or-sell law.
- Pinterest launches Media Buyer Certification Course.
- X will soon allow advertisers to use AI for audience creation.
- Youtube launches a promotions tab for Creators & SMBs to run quick ad campaigns.
- Reddit is planning to launch search ads and a mixed feed. * Using ‘keyword + reddit’ on google > using reddit search.
Trending
- Sam Altman debunks the rumours of gpt-5 and search engine launch, announcing new updates to GPT-4. The launch of GPT-4o.
- Google’s CEO responds to Search Quality Issues.
- Constellation Brands launches creative review for Corona Extra.
- Apple’s Safari 18 is expected to introduce webpage summarization, web eraser and more.
- Reddit’s Q1 2024 report showed strong user and ad revenue growth, 48% YoY increase in revenue.
- Jack Dorsey has left Bluesky Board sharing the company is making the same mistakes he and his team at Twitter.
- Ofcom is pushing for better age verification, filters and other checks in new online child safety code.
- Apple apologies for iPad Pro ‘Crush’ ad campaign.
- Ocean Outdoor and Battersea Power Station launch new premium DOOH network.
- OpenAI’s pitch deck for publisher partnerships gets leaked.
- Hubspot posts $617.4 million revenue for the first quarter of the year.
- Temu and Meta are being blamed by marketers for ruining performance and paid social marketing.
- Instacart and NBCUniversal’s new partnership connecting CPG with Streaming, changing retail.
- Sony and Apollo are in talks to acquire paramount.
TikTok 🎶
- TikTok is working on a collaboration feature similar to IG.
- TikTok shares new insights about brand and search experience on platform.
- TikTok to start auto-labeling AI-generated content to combat misinformation.
- TikTok is having ‘Creative Made Simple’ webinar for SMBs on May 16th.
Instagram & Threads 🗂️
- Instagram continues to gamify content creation experience, to make people publish more.
- Threads adds view counts on posts.
- Instagram’s new ‘Meme it’ DMs feature capitalises on Gen-Z’s heavy use of DMs for chats and content sharing.
- Influencers see more Instagram engagement with still images than Reels.
- Instagram is teasing a new creator revenue program ‘Spring Bonus’.
- Threads is testing cross-posting from Instagram globally.
- Instagram is testing an new UI for Carousels, with no dots.
- Despite IG adding 3-minute reels, they were found discouraging creators from creating long reels.
Meta 😅
- Meta’s newly launched AI creative tools for advantage+ campaigns.
- The feature to create reels from existing content is coming to Meta Business Suite.
- Meta’s turn away from the news industry has lead to 50% traffic drop to publishers.
- Error: Meta shares detailed targeting exclusion alert sent to advertisers was a mistake.
- Meta Business Suite adds ‘review’ feature to request post to be reviewed by other admins before publishing.
- WhatsApp launches new UI elements, giving the platform a new look.
- WhatsApp makes it easier to find new channels with categories.
X (Twitter) 🕹️
- X working on Analytics for X communities.
- Nintendo ends their X integration for Switch.
- X’s new algorithm update has lead to prioritisation of smaller accounts, says Elon.
- Chat History is now live for Gork AI on web.
- X is adding a ‘cast’ button to the iOS app.
Youtube 🕹️
- YouTube outlines its measures to ensure EU Election Integrity.
- Youtube expands testing of ‘Jump Ahead’ premium AI feature.
- MrBeast is parting ways with Night Media, Talent Management Company.
- Youtube testing a new shopping feed in Youtube Shorts.
Google 🔦
- Google launches new ‘Saved Comparisons’ feature for Analytics.
- Google Shopping Ads get conversion annotations.
- Google Search results without SGE jump to 65%, up from 25%.
- Google hides search results count under tools section.
- Google shares Disavow link tool will go away at some point.
- Google is defending lack of communication around Search Updates.
- Google’s site reputation abuse policy enforcement started on Monday May 6th.
Agency News
- Issa Rae’s Hoorae Media unveils Ensemble, a branded entertainment company.
- Omnicom is shuttering Honey & Sparks and the talent is being distributed.
- Nestlé Canada appoints Citizen Relations as Confectionery PR AOR.
- GE Lighting, a Savant company appoints Bakery as Social AOR.
- Rocket Cos. Puts its media account in review.
- We Are Social US partners with Valerie Moizel, CEO of The Woo to form Hello US.
- Virgin Active appoints We Are Pi for global brand transformation.
- Famous Footwear appoints Yard NYC and THE MAYOR as Creative AOR.
- Warner Bros appoints BigSmall to launch streaming service Max.
- Lovesac appoints Hearts & Science as media AOR.
- BUNTIN appoints Trex as Media Agency of record.
- IPG Health consolidates agency brand roster, launch of new Rise & Run brand.
- THIRD EAR appointed by Nissan North America and INFINITI USA as Multicultural AOR.
- Indie Agency Boathouse creates supplier diversity program, expanding external DEI efforts.
Brands & Ads 🏓
My Fav; Liquid Death’s latest campaign ‘The Adventures of Murder Man’ is a creative masterpiece as usual and a corporate parody.- New Balance’s seven-minute film shares seven stories of its influence in subcultures.
- Coca-Cola’s new ad ‘Coke Spills’ celebrates the joyous moments of coke spilling.
- The Ordinary and Uncommon’s new OOH campaign embraces science instead of celebs.
- Jung von Matt’s UK ad debut for Wayfair takes a very simple approach but the vibe matches.
- Volkswagen’s new brand platform ‘Your Wagen’ celebrating customer journeys.
- PG Tips launches their first campaign in eight years, starring Ashley Walters.
- Another Ad campaign featuring dogs but this time it’s for dog food from the brand tails.com.
- Currys new ad spot is funny and aligned with Euro 2024 vibes, you can’t miss it .
- Budweiser uses song lyrics mentioning the brand to launch new Spotify ad “UninterruptAds”.
- Impossible Foods new ad campaign sticks out with very digestible message to make people vegan.
- Nescafé’s kettle ad campaign speaks sustainability and stands out as a loner, but on a broader look, it doesn’t align with Nespresso.
- EasyJet goes into Eurovision mode for the new ‘All Aboard the Orange Plane’ ad campaign.
- Peroni 0.0% joins Formula 1 as Ferrari Team Partner, hoping to ride the non-alcoholic beer growth train.
- McDonald’s new plan to invest more dollars (Millions) in Digital marketing and its reward program.
AI 🤨
- OpenAI increase AI content transparency with launch of new detection tools.
- Etsy’s plan to improve delivery tracking using new ML model.
- Absolut & Copy Lab launch copyright-free diverse images for fashion content.
- OpenAI and Stack Overflow announced an API partnership.
- OpenAI introduces Model Spec to better the model behaviour and explores how AI can generate explicit content.
- Eleven labs preview their music AI model.
Reddit & Pinterest
- Reddit announces new Public Content Policy, setting new parameters for data usage.
- Pinterest hires Former Levi’s CEO to Board of Directors.
Microsoft & LinkedIn
- Microsoft is building a bigger and better LLM ‘MAI-1’ to fight Google.
- Bing tests clear distinction between free and paid search results.
- LinkedIn shares new insights on measuring B2B marketing campaigns.
Marketing & AdTech
- Bluesky adds new features; DMs, Improved custom feeds, Video and more.
- Shopsense launches retail media platform for second-screen shopping.
- GAP names Fabiola Torres new global CMO.
- Ocean Outdoor becomes official OOH supplier to London Fashion Week.
- Curb, a ride/hailing app launches Curb journey Connect, one-stop ad solution.
- Constant Contact launches new AI feature for Brandkit and Campaign Builder.
- 160over90 launches Integrated Creator Commerce service with Lumanu.
- Omnicom announces major expansion in India.
- Kantar Media hires Lucy Bristowe as CEO for UK & Western Europe.
- Instacart and Uber Eats partner, allowing customers to order Uber Eats food via Instacart.
2024.05.14 13:20 lazymentors Marketing News you should care about today!
Top 6 Updates of last Week:
- Meta launches AI tools for ad creative creation and paid subscription tiers.
- TikTok sues US Government over divest-or-sell law.
- Pinterest launches Media Buyer Certification Course.
- X will soon allow advertisers to use AI for audience creation.
- Youtube launches a promotions tab for Creators & SMBs to run quick ad campaigns.
- Reddit is planning to launch search ads and a mixed feed. * Using ‘keyword + reddit’ on google > using reddit search.
Trending
- Sam Altman debunks the rumours of gpt-5 and search engine launch, announcing new updates to GPT-4. The launch of GPT-4o.
- Google’s CEO responds to Search Quality Issues.
- Constellation Brands launches creative review for Corona Extra.
- Apple’s Safari 18 is expected to introduce webpage summarization, web eraser and more.
- Reddit’s Q1 2024 report showed strong user and ad revenue growth, 48% YoY increase in revenue.
- Jack Dorsey has left Bluesky Board sharing the company is making the same mistakes he and his team at Twitter.
- Ofcom is pushing for better age verification, filters and other checks in new online child safety code.
- Apple apologies for iPad Pro ‘Crush’ ad campaign.
- Ocean Outdoor and Battersea Power Station launch new premium DOOH network.
- OpenAI’s pitch deck for publisher partnerships gets leaked.
- Hubspot posts $617.4 million revenue for the first quarter of the year.
- Temu and Meta are being blamed by marketers for ruining performance and paid social marketing.
- Instacart and NBCUniversal’s new partnership connecting CPG with Streaming, changing retail.
- Sony and Apollo are in talks to acquire paramount.
TikTok 🎶
- TikTok is working on a collaboration feature similar to IG.
- TikTok shares new insights about brand and search experience on platform.
- TikTok to start auto-labeling AI-generated content to combat misinformation.
- TikTok is having ‘Creative Made Simple’ webinar for SMBs on May 16th.
Instagram & Threads 🗂️
- Instagram continues to gamify content creation experience, to make people publish more.
- Threads adds view counts on posts.
- Instagram’s new ‘Meme it’ DMs feature capitalises on Gen-Z’s heavy use of DMs for chats and content sharing.
- Influencers see more Instagram engagement with still images than Reels.
- Instagram is teasing a new creator revenue program ‘Spring Bonus’.
- Threads is testing cross-posting from Instagram globally.
- Instagram is testing an new UI for Carousels, with no dots.
- Despite IG adding 3-minute reels, they were found discouraging creators from creating long reels.
Meta 😅
- Meta’s newly launched AI creative tools for advantage+ campaigns.
- The feature to create reels from existing content is coming to Meta Business Suite.
- Meta’s turn away from the news industry has lead to 50% traffic drop to publishers.
- Error: Meta shares detailed targeting exclusion alert sent to advertisers was a mistake.
- Meta Business Suite adds ‘review’ feature to request post to be reviewed by other admins before publishing.
- WhatsApp launches new UI elements, giving the platform a new look.
- WhatsApp makes it easier to find new channels with categories.
X (Twitter) 🕹️
- X working on Analytics for X communities.
- Nintendo ends their X integration for Switch.
- X’s new algorithm update has lead to prioritisation of smaller accounts, says Elon.
- Chat History is now live for Gork AI on web.
- X is adding a ‘cast’ button to the iOS app.
Youtube 🕹️
- YouTube outlines its measures to ensure EU Election Integrity.
- Youtube expands testing of ‘Jump Ahead’ premium AI feature.
- MrBeast is parting ways with Night Media, Talent Management Company.
- Youtube testing a new shopping feed in Youtube Shorts.
Google 🔦
- Google launches new ‘Saved Comparisons’ feature for Analytics.
- Google Shopping Ads get conversion annotations.
- Google Search results without SGE jump to 65%, up from 25%.
- Google hides search results count under tools section.
- Google shares Disavow link tool will go away at some point.
- Google is defending lack of communication around Search Updates.
- Google’s site reputation abuse policy enforcement started on Monday May 6th.
Agency News
- Issa Rae’s Hoorae Media unveils Ensemble, a branded entertainment company.
- Omnicom is shuttering Honey & Sparks and the talent is being distributed.
- Nestlé Canada appoints Citizen Relations as Confectionery PR AOR.
- GE Lighting, a Savant company appoints Bakery as Social AOR.
- Rocket Cos. Puts its media account in review.
- We Are Social US partners with Valerie Moizel, CEO of The Woo to form Hello US.
- Virgin Active appoints We Are Pi for global brand transformation.
- Famous Footwear appoints Yard NYC and THE MAYOR as Creative AOR.
- Warner Bros appoints BigSmall to launch streaming service Max.
- Lovesac appoints Hearts & Science as media AOR.
- BUNTIN appoints Trex as Media Agency of record.
- IPG Health consolidates agency brand roster, launch of new Rise & Run brand.
- THIRD EAR appointed by Nissan North America and INFINITI USA as Multicultural AOR.
- Indie Agency Boathouse creates supplier diversity program, expanding external DEI efforts.
Brands & Ads 🏓
My Fav; Liquid Death’s latest campaign ‘The Adventures of Murder Man’ is a creative masterpiece as usual and a corporate parody.- New Balance’s seven-minute film shares seven stories of its influence in subcultures.
- Coca-Cola’s new ad ‘Coke Spills’ celebrates the joyous moments of coke spilling.
- The Ordinary and Uncommon’s new OOH campaign embraces science instead of celebs.
- Jung von Matt’s UK ad debut for Wayfair takes a very simple approach but the vibe matches.
- Volkswagen’s new brand platform ‘Your Wagen’ celebrating customer journeys.
- PG Tips launches their first campaign in eight years, starring Ashley Walters.
- Another Ad campaign featuring dogs but this time it’s for dog food from the brand tails.com.
- Currys new ad spot is funny and aligned with Euro 2024 vibes, you can’t miss it .
- Budweiser uses song lyrics mentioning the brand to launch new Spotify ad “UninterruptAds”.
- Impossible Foods new ad campaign sticks out with very digestible message to make people vegan.
- Nescafé’s kettle ad campaign speaks sustainability and stands out as a loner, but on a broader look, it doesn’t align with Nespresso.
- EasyJet goes into Eurovision mode for the new ‘All Aboard the Orange Plane’ ad campaign.
- Peroni 0.0% joins Formula 1 as Ferrari Team Partner, hoping to ride the non-alcoholic beer growth train.
- McDonald’s new plan to invest more dollars (Millions) in Digital marketing and its reward program.
AI 🤨
- OpenAI increase AI content transparency with launch of new detection tools.
- Etsy’s plan to improve delivery tracking using new ML model.
- Absolut & Copy Lab launch copyright-free diverse images for fashion content.
- OpenAI and Stack Overflow announced an API partnership.
- OpenAI introduces Model Spec to better the model behaviour and explores how AI can generate explicit content.
- Eleven labs preview their music AI model.
Reddit & Pinterest
- Reddit announces new Public Content Policy, setting new parameters for data usage.
- Pinterest hires Former Levi’s CEO to Board of Directors.
Microsoft & LinkedIn
- Microsoft is building a bigger and better LLM ‘MAI-1’ to fight Google.
- Bing tests clear distinction between free and paid search results.
- LinkedIn shares new insights on measuring B2B marketing campaigns.
Marketing & AdTech
- Bluesky adds new features; DMs, Improved custom feeds, Video and more.
- Shopsense launches retail media platform for second-screen shopping.
- GAP names Fabiola Torres new global CMO.
- Ocean Outdoor becomes official OOH supplier to London Fashion Week.
- Curb, a ride/hailing app launches Curb journey Connect, one-stop ad solution.
- Constant Contact launches new AI feature for Brandkit and Campaign Builder.
- 160over90 launches Integrated Creator Commerce service with Lumanu.
- Omnicom announces major expansion in India.
- Kantar Media hires Lucy Bristowe as CEO for UK & Western Europe.
- Instacart and Uber Eats partner, allowing customers to order Uber Eats food via Instacart.
2024.05.14 13:18 Laughing-Unicorn A day of the outside world reflecting my inner one
I'm a student nurse. I can do very little for my patients without my supervisor, well, supervising.
Yesterday was one of the hardest shifts I've ever worked as a student. We were severely short staffed, and my supervisor was a deputy manager that had to take on patients to cover the shortage. It meant that every time we tried to get something done, the phone rang and she had to answer - and I absolutely don't fault her for that, she has a ward to run, after all.
I'm confident in my abilities to give medications, set up IVs, take bloods etc., but I can't go ahead with any of that without her double checking what I'm doing. I did what I could with unsupervised skills like taking observations, filling in paperwork, even liaising with the doctors by myself, but we were fighting an uphill battle all day, constantly several steps behind what would be considered 'normal' operation.
The paralysis was suffocating.
I said to one of the HCAs at one point that I feel like I'm on pause while the jobs stack up on top of me, like watching a game of un-manned Tetris. It was only during the commute home that my words sunk in, because that is my life, my constant state of being when I'm behind closed doors. I'm stuck in freeze while life's pressures pile up.
At work, I want to fight against it, because my patients are in pain, they're distressed, they're sick, and I can help alleviate that if I just had a second set of eyes on me. But I don't have the energy or the willpower to extend that fight to myself, because I was raised to believe that I don't matter, I wasn't important enough for my parents to care about me, so why should I now care for myself? Thank you therapy for that crushing realisation...
Nursing is full of self-sacrificers, so I guess I'm in the right place, but what a mindf*ck of a day.
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Yesterday was one of the hardest shifts I've ever worked as a student. We were severely short staffed, and my supervisor was a deputy manager that had to take on patients to cover the shortage. It meant that every time we tried to get something done, the phone rang and she had to answer - and I absolutely don't fault her for that, she has a ward to run, after all.
I'm confident in my abilities to give medications, set up IVs, take bloods etc., but I can't go ahead with any of that without her double checking what I'm doing. I did what I could with unsupervised skills like taking observations, filling in paperwork, even liaising with the doctors by myself, but we were fighting an uphill battle all day, constantly several steps behind what would be considered 'normal' operation.
The paralysis was suffocating.
I said to one of the HCAs at one point that I feel like I'm on pause while the jobs stack up on top of me, like watching a game of un-manned Tetris. It was only during the commute home that my words sunk in, because that is my life, my constant state of being when I'm behind closed doors. I'm stuck in freeze while life's pressures pile up.
At work, I want to fight against it, because my patients are in pain, they're distressed, they're sick, and I can help alleviate that if I just had a second set of eyes on me. But I don't have the energy or the willpower to extend that fight to myself, because I was raised to believe that I don't matter, I wasn't important enough for my parents to care about me, so why should I now care for myself? Thank you therapy for that crushing realisation...
Nursing is full of self-sacrificers, so I guess I'm in the right place, but what a mindf*ck of a day.
2024.05.14 13:16 lazymentors Advertising & Agency News you should care about today!
Top 6 Updates of last Week:
- Meta launches AI tools for ad creative creation and paid subscription tiers.
- TikTok sues US Government over divest-or-sell law.
- Pinterest launches Media Buyer Certification Course.
- X will soon allow advertisers to use AI for audience creation.
- Youtube launches a promotions tab for Creators & SMBs to run quick ad campaigns.
- Reddit is planning to launch search ads and a mixed feed. * Using ‘keyword + reddit’ on google > using reddit search.
Trending
- Sam Altman debunks the rumours of gpt-5 and search engine launch, announcing new updates to GPT-4. The launch of GPT-4o.
- Google’s CEO responds to Search Quality Issues.
- Constellation Brands launches creative review for Corona Extra.
- Apple’s Safari 18 is expected to introduce webpage summarization, web eraser and more.
- Reddit’s Q1 2024 report showed strong user and ad revenue growth, 48% YoY increase in revenue.
- Jack Dorsey has left Bluesky Board sharing the company is making the same mistakes he and his team at Twitter.
- Ofcom is pushing for better age verification, filters and other checks in new online child safety code.
- Apple apologies for iPad Pro ‘Crush’ ad campaign.
- Ocean Outdoor and Battersea Power Station launch new premium DOOH network.
- OpenAI’s pitch deck for publisher partnerships gets leaked.
- Hubspot posts $617.4 million revenue for the first quarter of the year.
- Temu and Meta are being blamed by marketers for ruining performance and paid social marketing.
- Instacart and NBCUniversal’s new partnership connecting CPG with Streaming, changing retail.
- Sony and Apollo are in talks to acquire paramount.
TikTok 🎶
- TikTok is working on a collaboration feature similar to IG.
- TikTok shares new insights about brand and search experience on platform.
- TikTok to start auto-labeling AI-generated content to combat misinformation.
- TikTok is having ‘Creative Made Simple’ webinar for SMBs on May 16th.
Instagram & Threads 🗂️
- Instagram continues to gamify content creation experience, to make people publish more.
- Threads adds view counts on posts.
- Instagram’s new ‘Meme it’ DMs feature capitalises on Gen-Z’s heavy use of DMs for chats and content sharing.
- Influencers see more Instagram engagement with still images than Reels.
- Instagram is teasing a new creator revenue program ‘Spring Bonus’.
- Threads is testing cross-posting from Instagram globally.
- Instagram is testing an new UI for Carousels, with no dots.
- Despite IG adding 3-minute reels, they were found discouraging creators from creating long reels.
Meta 😅
- Meta’s newly launched AI creative tools for advantage+ campaigns.
- The feature to create reels from existing content is coming to Meta Business Suite.
- Meta’s turn away from the news industry has lead to 50% traffic drop to publishers.
- Error: Meta shares detailed targeting exclusion alert sent to advertisers was a mistake.
- Meta Business Suite adds ‘review’ feature to request post to be reviewed by other admins before publishing.
- WhatsApp launches new UI elements, giving the platform a new look.
- WhatsApp makes it easier to find new channels with categories.
X (Twitter) 🕹️
- X working on Analytics for X communities.
- Nintendo ends their X integration for Switch.
- X’s new algorithm update has lead to prioritisation of smaller accounts, says Elon.
- Chat History is now live for Gork AI on web.
- X is adding a ‘cast’ button to the iOS app.
Youtube 🕹️
- YouTube outlines its measures to ensure EU Election Integrity.
- Youtube expands testing of ‘Jump Ahead’ premium AI feature.
- MrBeast is parting ways with Night Media, Talent Management Company.
- Youtube testing a new shopping feed in Youtube Shorts.
Google 🔦
- Google launches new ‘Saved Comparisons’ feature for Analytics.
- Google Shopping Ads get conversion annotations.
- Google Search results without SGE jump to 65%, up from 25%.
- Google hides search results count under tools section.
- Google shares Disavow link tool will go away at some point.
- Google is defending lack of communication around Search Updates.
- Google’s site reputation abuse policy enforcement started on Monday May 6th.
Agency News
- Issa Rae’s Hoorae Media unveils Ensemble, a branded entertainment company.
- Omnicom is shuttering Honey & Sparks and the talent is being distributed.
- Nestlé Canada appoints Citizen Relations as Confectionery PR AOR.
- GE Lighting, a Savant company appoints Bakery as Social AOR.
- Rocket Cos. Puts its media account in review.
- We Are Social US partners with Valerie Moizel, CEO of The Woo to form Hello US.
- Virgin Active appoints We Are Pi for global brand transformation.
- Famous Footwear appoints Yard NYC and THE MAYOR as Creative AOR.
- Warner Bros appoints BigSmall to launch streaming service Max.
- Lovesac appoints Hearts & Science as media AOR.
- BUNTIN appoints Trex as Media Agency of record.
- IPG Health consolidates agency brand roster, launch of new Rise & Run brand.
- THIRD EAR appointed by Nissan North America and INFINITI USA as Multicultural AOR.
- Indie Agency Boathouse creates supplier diversity program, expanding external DEI efforts.
Brands & Ads 🏓
My Fav; Liquid Death’s latest campaign ‘The Adventures of Murder Man’ is a creative masterpiece as usual and a corporate parody.- New Balance’s seven-minute film shares seven stories of its influence in subcultures.
- Coca-Cola’s new ad ‘Coke Spills’ celebrates the joyous moments of coke spilling.
- The Ordinary and Uncommon’s new OOH campaign embraces science instead of celebs.
- Jung von Matt’s UK ad debut for Wayfair takes a very simple approach but the vibe matches.
- Volkswagen’s new brand platform ‘Your Wagen’ celebrating customer journeys.
- PG Tips launches their first campaign in eight years, starring Ashley Walters.
- Another Ad campaign featuring dogs but this time it’s for dog food from the brand tails.com.
- Currys new ad spot is funny and aligned with Euro 2024 vibes, you can’t miss it .
- Budweiser uses song lyrics mentioning the brand to launch new Spotify ad “UninterruptAds”.
- Impossible Foods new ad campaign sticks out with very digestible message to make people vegan.
- Nescafé’s kettle ad campaign speaks sustainability and stands out as a loner, but on a broader look, it doesn’t align with Nespresso.
- EasyJet goes into Eurovision mode for the new ‘All Aboard the Orange Plane’ ad campaign.
- Peroni 0.0% joins Formula 1 as Ferrari Team Partner, hoping to ride the non-alcoholic beer growth train.
- McDonald’s new plan to invest more dollars (Millions) in Digital marketing and its reward program.
AI 🤨
- OpenAI increase AI content transparency with launch of new detection tools.
- Etsy’s plan to improve delivery tracking using new ML model.
- Absolut & Copy Lab launch copyright-free diverse images for fashion content.
- OpenAI and Stack Overflow announced an API partnership.
- OpenAI introduces Model Spec to better the model behaviour and explores how AI can generate explicit content.
- Eleven labs preview their music AI model.
Reddit & Pinterest
- Reddit announces new Public Content Policy, setting new parameters for data usage.
- Pinterest hires Former Levi’s CEO to Board of Directors.
Microsoft & LinkedIn
- Microsoft is building a bigger and better LLM ‘MAI-1’ to fight Google.
- Bing tests clear distinction between free and paid search results.
- LinkedIn shares new insights on measuring B2B marketing campaigns.
Marketing & AdTech
- Bluesky adds new features; DMs, Improved custom feeds, Video and more.
- Shopsense launches retail media platform for second-screen shopping.
- GAP names Fabiola Torres new global CMO.
- Ocean Outdoor becomes official OOH supplier to London Fashion Week.
- Curb, a ride/hailing app launches Curb journey Connect, one-stop ad solution.
- Constant Contact launches new AI feature for Brandkit and Campaign Builder.
- 160over90 launches Integrated Creator Commerce service with Lumanu.
- Omnicom announces major expansion in India.
- Kantar Media hires Lucy Bristowe as CEO for UK & Western Europe.
- Instacart and Uber Eats partner, allowing customers to order Uber Eats food via Instacart.
2024.05.14 13:15 lazymentors Marketing News you should care about today!
Top 6 Updates of last Week:
- Meta launches AI tools for ad creative creation and paid subscription tiers.
- TikTok sues US Government over divest-or-sell law.
- Pinterest launches Media Buyer Certification Course.
- X will soon allow advertisers to use AI for audience creation.
- Youtube launches a promotions tab for Creators & SMBs to run quick ad campaigns.
- Reddit is planning to launch search ads and a mixed feed. * Using ‘keyword + reddit’ on google > using reddit search.
Trending
- Sam Altman debunks the rumours of gpt-5 and search engine launch, announcing new updates to GPT-4. The launch of GPT-4o.
- Google’s CEO responds to Search Quality Issues.
- Constellation Brands launches creative review for Corona Extra.
- Apple’s Safari 18 is expected to introduce webpage summarization, web eraser and more.
- Reddit’s Q1 2024 report showed strong user and ad revenue growth, 48% YoY increase in revenue.
- Jack Dorsey has left Bluesky Board sharing the company is making the same mistakes he and his team at Twitter.
- Ofcom is pushing for better age verification, filters and other checks in new online child safety code.
- Apple apologies for iPad Pro ‘Crush’ ad campaign.
- Ocean Outdoor and Battersea Power Station launch new premium DOOH network.
- OpenAI’s pitch deck for publisher partnerships gets leaked.
- Hubspot posts $617.4 million revenue for the first quarter of the year.
- Temu and Meta are being blamed by marketers for ruining performance and paid social marketing.
- Instacart and NBCUniversal’s new partnership connecting CPG with Streaming, changing retail.
- Sony and Apollo are in talks to acquire paramount.
TikTok 🎶
- TikTok is working on a collaboration feature similar to IG.
- TikTok shares new insights about brand and search experience on platform.
- TikTok to start auto-labeling AI-generated content to combat misinformation.
- TikTok is having ‘Creative Made Simple’ webinar for SMBs on May 16th.
Instagram & Threads 🗂️
- Instagram continues to gamify content creation experience, to make people publish more.
- Threads adds view counts on posts.
- Instagram’s new ‘Meme it’ DMs feature capitalises on Gen-Z’s heavy use of DMs for chats and content sharing.
- Influencers see more Instagram engagement with still images than Reels.
- Instagram is teasing a new creator revenue program ‘Spring Bonus’.
- Threads is testing cross-posting from Instagram globally.
- Instagram is testing an new UI for Carousels, with no dots.
- Despite IG adding 3-minute reels, they were found discouraging creators from creating long reels.
Meta 😅
- Meta’s newly launched AI creative tools for advantage+ campaigns.
- The feature to create reels from existing content is coming to Meta Business Suite.
- Meta’s turn away from the news industry has lead to 50% traffic drop to publishers.
- Error: Meta shares detailed targeting exclusion alert sent to advertisers was a mistake.
- Meta Business Suite adds ‘review’ feature to request post to be reviewed by other admins before publishing.
- WhatsApp launches new UI elements, giving the platform a new look.
- WhatsApp makes it easier to find new channels with categories.
X (Twitter) 🕹️
- X working on Analytics for X communities.
- Nintendo ends their X integration for Switch.
- X’s new algorithm update has lead to prioritisation of smaller accounts, says Elon.
- Chat History is now live for Gork AI on web.
- X is adding a ‘cast’ button to the iOS app.
Youtube 🕹️
- YouTube outlines its measures to ensure EU Election Integrity.
- Youtube expands testing of ‘Jump Ahead’ premium AI feature.
- MrBeast is parting ways with Night Media, Talent Management Company.
- Youtube testing a new shopping feed in Youtube Shorts.
Google 🔦
- Google launches new ‘Saved Comparisons’ feature for Analytics.
- Google Shopping Ads get conversion annotations.
- Google Search results without SGE jump to 65%, up from 25%.
- Google hides search results count under tools section.
- Google shares Disavow link tool will go away at some point.
- Google is defending lack of communication around Search Updates.
- Google’s site reputation abuse policy enforcement started on Monday May 6th.
Agency News
- Issa Rae’s Hoorae Media unveils Ensemble, a branded entertainment company.
- Omnicom is shuttering Honey & Sparks and the talent is being distributed.
- Nestlé Canada appoints Citizen Relations as Confectionery PR AOR.
- GE Lighting, a Savant company appoints Bakery as Social AOR.
- Rocket Cos. Puts its media account in review.
- We Are Social US partners with Valerie Moizel, CEO of The Woo to form Hello US.
- Virgin Active appoints We Are Pi for global brand transformation.
- Famous Footwear appoints Yard NYC and THE MAYOR as Creative AOR.
- Warner Bros appoints BigSmall to launch streaming service Max.
- Lovesac appoints Hearts & Science as media AOR.
- BUNTIN appoints Trex as Media Agency of record.
- IPG Health consolidates agency brand roster, launch of new Rise & Run brand.
- THIRD EAR appointed by Nissan North America and INFINITI USA as Multicultural AOR.
- Indie Agency Boathouse creates supplier diversity program, expanding external DEI efforts.
Brands & Ads 🏓
My Fav; Liquid Death’s latest campaign ‘The Adventures of Murder Man’ is a creative masterpiece as usual and a corporate parody.- New Balance’s seven-minute film shares seven stories of its influence in subcultures.
- Coca-Cola’s new ad ‘Coke Spills’ celebrates the joyous moments of coke spilling.
- The Ordinary and Uncommon’s new OOH campaign embraces science instead of celebs.
- Jung von Matt’s UK ad debut for Wayfair takes a very simple approach but the vibe matches.
- Volkswagen’s new brand platform ‘Your Wagen’ celebrating customer journeys.
- PG Tips launches their first campaign in eight years, starring Ashley Walters.
- Another Ad campaign featuring dogs but this time it’s for dog food from the brand tails.com.
- Currys new ad spot is funny and aligned with Euro 2024 vibes, you can’t miss it .
- Budweiser uses song lyrics mentioning the brand to launch new Spotify ad “UninterruptAds”.
- Impossible Foods new ad campaign sticks out with very digestible message to make people vegan.
- Nescafé’s kettle ad campaign speaks sustainability and stands out as a loner, but on a broader look, it doesn’t align with Nespresso.
- EasyJet goes into Eurovision mode for the new ‘All Aboard the Orange Plane’ ad campaign.
- Peroni 0.0% joins Formula 1 as Ferrari Team Partner, hoping to ride the non-alcoholic beer growth train.
- McDonald’s new plan to invest more dollars (Millions) in Digital marketing and its reward program.
AI 🤨
- OpenAI increase AI content transparency with launch of new detection tools.
- Etsy’s plan to improve delivery tracking using new ML model.
- Absolut & Copy Lab launch copyright-free diverse images for fashion content.
- OpenAI and Stack Overflow announced an API partnership.
- OpenAI introduces Model Spec to better the model behaviour and explores how AI can generate explicit content.
- Eleven labs preview their music AI model.
Reddit & Pinterest
- Reddit announces new Public Content Policy, setting new parameters for data usage.
- Pinterest hires Former Levi’s CEO to Board of Directors.
Microsoft & LinkedIn
- Microsoft is building a bigger and better LLM ‘MAI-1’ to fight Google.
- Bing tests clear distinction between free and paid search results.
- LinkedIn shares new insights on measuring B2B marketing campaigns.
Marketing & AdTech
- Bluesky adds new features; DMs, Improved custom feeds, Video and more.
- Shopsense launches retail media platform for second-screen shopping.
- GAP names Fabiola Torres new global CMO.
- Ocean Outdoor becomes official OOH supplier to London Fashion Week.
- Curb, a ride/hailing app launches Curb journey Connect, one-stop ad solution.
- Constant Contact launches new AI feature for Brandkit and Campaign Builder.
- 160over90 launches Integrated Creator Commerce service with Lumanu.
- Omnicom announces major expansion in India.
- Kantar Media hires Lucy Bristowe as CEO for UK & Western Europe.
- Instacart and Uber Eats partner, allowing customers to order Uber Eats food via Instacart.
2024.05.14 13:08 1_caveman_1 Does my(M48) wife(F45) have feelings for another man?
Is this a crush or developing feelings? What am I to make of this?
My[M48] wife's[F45] (now 15 years together) behaviour is causing me sleepless nights and with me overthinking everything it seems like she has feelings for, or a crush on another man (M55), (her friend's husband).
First off, I don't know the guy very well. He works in Dubai and is not at home all that much. We haven't broken 3 sentences to each other yet. She knows him better, it's her friend's husband. From previous visits and interactions, I perceive him to be quite a flirt. My wife loves his stories and his dancing... ...he starts dancing after a couple of drinks, and she does too.
We were invited to their place for a BBQ on Saturday, early afternoon, and a bunch of their other friends were present too. When he is back home from Dubai, the BBQ social tends to run late into the night with a fair amount of drinking. On this occasion, we had to leave by early evening due to other responsibilities. They live out of town and not close enough to drive back and forth.
So sometime during the afternoon, she was standing next to him at the grill, talking for a while, I heard her yelling joyously "We're going to Dubai?1 YEAH!, we're going to Dubai!" And I thought to my self, "Pff, luckily she doesn't have a passport." Only because on a previous BBQ, earlier this year, when they were all liquored up, she ended up spending the long weekend with them (him and his wife and some friends) on a weekend getaway.
Long story short: it's time to go, to get back to town on time, and I get up to start gathering our things, she stays seated and tells me she's staying, I can drop our kid off at sport and somebody will bring her home later tonight.
I ignored her comment. Continued to pack our cooler bag and started saying goodbye to everybody. I'm loading the car about 5 minutes later, ready to go and she's nowhere to be found. So me, my daughter and her friend start walking back to the other side of the house where everybody is. We found her tucked in beneath his arm, acting out a little "I don't want to go!"-tantrum. Running back and forth, "I wanna stay, I wanna stay!" arms around his waist.
So there you have it, very publically... My wife everybody! Does not want to go home!"
When I think back now, surely somebody must have noticed the expression on my face. I didn't say anything, I turned around and got in the car. Did not look in hetheir direction again. It felt like ages before she eventually got in the car and I drove off. We drove home in silence and I went to bed early, alone.
I'm not sure what to make of this behaviour, it's *** disturbing for me. She did pick up on my quiet mood the following day and did offer a general apology. I don’t know where to take this from here, it’s been a couple of nights and I can’t seem to move past it or what to make of it?
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My[M48] wife's[F45] (now 15 years together) behaviour is causing me sleepless nights and with me overthinking everything it seems like she has feelings for, or a crush on another man (M55), (her friend's husband).
First off, I don't know the guy very well. He works in Dubai and is not at home all that much. We haven't broken 3 sentences to each other yet. She knows him better, it's her friend's husband. From previous visits and interactions, I perceive him to be quite a flirt. My wife loves his stories and his dancing... ...he starts dancing after a couple of drinks, and she does too.
We were invited to their place for a BBQ on Saturday, early afternoon, and a bunch of their other friends were present too. When he is back home from Dubai, the BBQ social tends to run late into the night with a fair amount of drinking. On this occasion, we had to leave by early evening due to other responsibilities. They live out of town and not close enough to drive back and forth.
So sometime during the afternoon, she was standing next to him at the grill, talking for a while, I heard her yelling joyously "We're going to Dubai?1 YEAH!, we're going to Dubai!" And I thought to my self, "Pff, luckily she doesn't have a passport." Only because on a previous BBQ, earlier this year, when they were all liquored up, she ended up spending the long weekend with them (him and his wife and some friends) on a weekend getaway.
Long story short: it's time to go, to get back to town on time, and I get up to start gathering our things, she stays seated and tells me she's staying, I can drop our kid off at sport and somebody will bring her home later tonight.
I ignored her comment. Continued to pack our cooler bag and started saying goodbye to everybody. I'm loading the car about 5 minutes later, ready to go and she's nowhere to be found. So me, my daughter and her friend start walking back to the other side of the house where everybody is. We found her tucked in beneath his arm, acting out a little "I don't want to go!"-tantrum. Running back and forth, "I wanna stay, I wanna stay!" arms around his waist.
So there you have it, very publically... My wife everybody! Does not want to go home!"
When I think back now, surely somebody must have noticed the expression on my face. I didn't say anything, I turned around and got in the car. Did not look in hetheir direction again. It felt like ages before she eventually got in the car and I drove off. We drove home in silence and I went to bed early, alone.
I'm not sure what to make of this behaviour, it's *** disturbing for me. She did pick up on my quiet mood the following day and did offer a general apology. I don’t know where to take this from here, it’s been a couple of nights and I can’t seem to move past it or what to make of it?
2024.05.14 12:56 UpsetAppeal2154 I regret leaving my wife.
I'm using a throwaway account as I don't really people currently in my life to know this.
I (30MtF) left my wife (27F, let's call her D) two years ago. The divorce was finalized about two months ago, and I wish I could go back.
I met D eight years ago, while I was homeless. She and her family helped me get a job and my first apartment, she always showed me an incredible amount of love and support, and she was absolutely wonderful in so many ways. But D was also an evangelical Christian and incredibly transphobic and homophobic. I found this out shortly after we met. At the time, I knew I was trans, bisexual, and I was a pagan. I probably should have walked away then.
Unfortunately, due to an incredible amount of trauma in my childhood and adolescence, I have a tendency to develop new versions of myself for those I'm around. The "me" that took over my life during this time decided "he" was a cisgender, bisexual man who refused to "act on" his "sinful" desires after becoming a Christian. Still, early on that "me" didn't have as strong of a hold.
Once, when we'd been dating for a few months, we were hanging out with a friend who showed us Rocky Horror Picture Show for the first time. Neither of us really had any idea what it was about. We watched it, and we were both incredibly uncomfortable for entirely different reasons. She brought me to work (I worked overnights at this time) and then while I was at work we fought over text and nearly broke up because of this damn movie. I didn't like it because it seemed fairly transphobic to me, especially when Dr. Frank-N-Furter raped the guests. (I now recognize this movie has a big place in queer culture but I still can't help but see it as kind of offensive.) D thought it was disgusting that the movie even included a trans character.
Eventually the "me" that had formed to be who she wanted me to be took over full-time and committed to stay with her and fight the "urge to sin." We dated for a few years and then got married. And honestly, this feels like one of the best times in my life sometimes, even though I know I was miserable.
I've always looked fairly feminine, and had fairly long hair and a pretty alternative style that often included makeup. I'd get "mistaken" for a girl pretty frequently when we were out, which only increased when she got me a super cute coffin-shaped purse for an anniversary. She'd always get super upset and defensive on my behalf, which hurt but she couldn't know it.
Sometimes during our marriage, she was reading an article about some state or another not accepting the "trans panic defense" and started ranting about it. I knew what she was talking about but on the off chance I was wrong I asked her to elaborate. She said it was when a trans person comes into the bathroom or hits on you and you assault or kill them because you panic. I tried to calmly explain that I thought it was good that wasn't being accepted because you shouldn't be assaulting or killing people regardless of whether they're trans or not, and it sounded like just a way to hurt trans people and get away with it. She came up with this wild argument and I just let her "win" because I didn't want to lose her. But I never felt fully safe with her again.
She liked it when I wore makeup, and once her sister told me she liked how I was a "man who was secure in his femininity but didn't feel like I needed to be a woman." (This was literally a month before I left to transition.) D agreed with her sister.
Around four years ago made a new friend at work, a nonbinary person I'll call S, who invited me to play DnD with them and their husband (a trans man) when they quit that job. By the time we'd bee playing for about six months, being around other trans people had reawakened the other parts of me, the parts that were closer to who I really am. I re-realized I was trans through our time together, and they started encouraging me to leave her and be my authentic self.
I left D about four months before our five-year wedding anniversary. She had gone through my phone, found messages between me and S about plans for me leaving and my being trans, and confronted me while I was in the shower. I quickly finished my shower and got out, had a six hour long conversation with her about this and tried to get her to understand. Eventually she just said "But you're not a woman and you never will be!" Without a word, I gathered up some essentials and left for S's house. S and I went back to that house while she was at church on Sunday and grabbed everything I owned, and then went to her mom's house to do the same. D and her whole family were there so I was trying to avoid questions and begging and pleading and crying from not only D, but her mom, sister, and brother to stay and give this trans thing up. I told D that if she wanted me to stay, I'd be staying as her wife and she'd have to accept that. She couldn't. I left.
Over the next couple months we spent a lot of time talking. D was trying to convince me to come back, to fall in love with her again. But I hadn't stopped loving her, I'd just gotten sick of hating myself. I told her that. I told her I wanted nothing more than to come back, but I couldn't do it if it meant going back to wanting to die every time I saw myself in the mirror and hating her briefly every time she "corrected" someone on my gender. I told her if she wanted me back, she'd need to support me in my transition. She still couldn't do it.
The last straw was when Michael Knowles called for the eradication of "transgenderism" (trans people). With that and the hundreds of anti-trans bills being introduced, I was scared. I texted D for comfort and instead got into a whole big argument with her. She kept trying to say the anti-trans bills were a good thing, and when I brought up the Michael Knowles thing she said she'd watched that speech and agreed with him. She said eradicating "transgenderism" would be a good thing. I sent her back a long text about the definition of genocide and how you can't separate "transgenderism" from transgender people, and eradicating "transgenderism" would require eradicating transgender people. We never talked again except about our divorce.
The thing that gets me though is that she's always been very anti-racist and speaks out against prejudice of most other kinds. She just never got it through her head that the same reasons she felt so strongly about that are why she should accept LGBTQIA+ people.
Now, it's been about two years since I left her. I have been on hormones for over a year, and I've never been happier with myself. These two years have been absolute hell in other ways. I have no stability, I lost my job, I've lost friends and family and all kinds of other traumatizing events that would make this post a literal novel. I've been suicidal in the past over stuff a lot smaller than this, but now, in the face of almost overwhelming and crushing despair, I'm still nowhere near that point again. I love myself. I am, for the first time in my life, living for myself.
I now have three wonderful partners (polyamory, they are all fully aware and consent, one of them has four other partners of their own) who love and accept me for who I am, and I love them all so much.
And yet. Despite all of that. Despite the pain D caused me, I still love her. I think I always will. And lately, it seems like all I can think of is the good times. And there were so many good times... I wish I could go back. I want her to love me again. And if she texted me tonight and told me she accepted me, I don't know if I could stay away. And this love I still feel... It's the most painful thing of all.
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I (30MtF) left my wife (27F, let's call her D) two years ago. The divorce was finalized about two months ago, and I wish I could go back.
I met D eight years ago, while I was homeless. She and her family helped me get a job and my first apartment, she always showed me an incredible amount of love and support, and she was absolutely wonderful in so many ways. But D was also an evangelical Christian and incredibly transphobic and homophobic. I found this out shortly after we met. At the time, I knew I was trans, bisexual, and I was a pagan. I probably should have walked away then.
Unfortunately, due to an incredible amount of trauma in my childhood and adolescence, I have a tendency to develop new versions of myself for those I'm around. The "me" that took over my life during this time decided "he" was a cisgender, bisexual man who refused to "act on" his "sinful" desires after becoming a Christian. Still, early on that "me" didn't have as strong of a hold.
Once, when we'd been dating for a few months, we were hanging out with a friend who showed us Rocky Horror Picture Show for the first time. Neither of us really had any idea what it was about. We watched it, and we were both incredibly uncomfortable for entirely different reasons. She brought me to work (I worked overnights at this time) and then while I was at work we fought over text and nearly broke up because of this damn movie. I didn't like it because it seemed fairly transphobic to me, especially when Dr. Frank-N-Furter raped the guests. (I now recognize this movie has a big place in queer culture but I still can't help but see it as kind of offensive.) D thought it was disgusting that the movie even included a trans character.
Eventually the "me" that had formed to be who she wanted me to be took over full-time and committed to stay with her and fight the "urge to sin." We dated for a few years and then got married. And honestly, this feels like one of the best times in my life sometimes, even though I know I was miserable.
I've always looked fairly feminine, and had fairly long hair and a pretty alternative style that often included makeup. I'd get "mistaken" for a girl pretty frequently when we were out, which only increased when she got me a super cute coffin-shaped purse for an anniversary. She'd always get super upset and defensive on my behalf, which hurt but she couldn't know it.
Sometimes during our marriage, she was reading an article about some state or another not accepting the "trans panic defense" and started ranting about it. I knew what she was talking about but on the off chance I was wrong I asked her to elaborate. She said it was when a trans person comes into the bathroom or hits on you and you assault or kill them because you panic. I tried to calmly explain that I thought it was good that wasn't being accepted because you shouldn't be assaulting or killing people regardless of whether they're trans or not, and it sounded like just a way to hurt trans people and get away with it. She came up with this wild argument and I just let her "win" because I didn't want to lose her. But I never felt fully safe with her again.
She liked it when I wore makeup, and once her sister told me she liked how I was a "man who was secure in his femininity but didn't feel like I needed to be a woman." (This was literally a month before I left to transition.) D agreed with her sister.
Around four years ago made a new friend at work, a nonbinary person I'll call S, who invited me to play DnD with them and their husband (a trans man) when they quit that job. By the time we'd bee playing for about six months, being around other trans people had reawakened the other parts of me, the parts that were closer to who I really am. I re-realized I was trans through our time together, and they started encouraging me to leave her and be my authentic self.
I left D about four months before our five-year wedding anniversary. She had gone through my phone, found messages between me and S about plans for me leaving and my being trans, and confronted me while I was in the shower. I quickly finished my shower and got out, had a six hour long conversation with her about this and tried to get her to understand. Eventually she just said "But you're not a woman and you never will be!" Without a word, I gathered up some essentials and left for S's house. S and I went back to that house while she was at church on Sunday and grabbed everything I owned, and then went to her mom's house to do the same. D and her whole family were there so I was trying to avoid questions and begging and pleading and crying from not only D, but her mom, sister, and brother to stay and give this trans thing up. I told D that if she wanted me to stay, I'd be staying as her wife and she'd have to accept that. She couldn't. I left.
Over the next couple months we spent a lot of time talking. D was trying to convince me to come back, to fall in love with her again. But I hadn't stopped loving her, I'd just gotten sick of hating myself. I told her that. I told her I wanted nothing more than to come back, but I couldn't do it if it meant going back to wanting to die every time I saw myself in the mirror and hating her briefly every time she "corrected" someone on my gender. I told her if she wanted me back, she'd need to support me in my transition. She still couldn't do it.
The last straw was when Michael Knowles called for the eradication of "transgenderism" (trans people). With that and the hundreds of anti-trans bills being introduced, I was scared. I texted D for comfort and instead got into a whole big argument with her. She kept trying to say the anti-trans bills were a good thing, and when I brought up the Michael Knowles thing she said she'd watched that speech and agreed with him. She said eradicating "transgenderism" would be a good thing. I sent her back a long text about the definition of genocide and how you can't separate "transgenderism" from transgender people, and eradicating "transgenderism" would require eradicating transgender people. We never talked again except about our divorce.
The thing that gets me though is that she's always been very anti-racist and speaks out against prejudice of most other kinds. She just never got it through her head that the same reasons she felt so strongly about that are why she should accept LGBTQIA+ people.
Now, it's been about two years since I left her. I have been on hormones for over a year, and I've never been happier with myself. These two years have been absolute hell in other ways. I have no stability, I lost my job, I've lost friends and family and all kinds of other traumatizing events that would make this post a literal novel. I've been suicidal in the past over stuff a lot smaller than this, but now, in the face of almost overwhelming and crushing despair, I'm still nowhere near that point again. I love myself. I am, for the first time in my life, living for myself.
I now have three wonderful partners (polyamory, they are all fully aware and consent, one of them has four other partners of their own) who love and accept me for who I am, and I love them all so much.
And yet. Despite all of that. Despite the pain D caused me, I still love her. I think I always will. And lately, it seems like all I can think of is the good times. And there were so many good times... I wish I could go back. I want her to love me again. And if she texted me tonight and told me she accepted me, I don't know if I could stay away. And this love I still feel... It's the most painful thing of all.
2024.05.14 12:50 theashtraygirl27 I'm just looking for advice. Am I (20F) wrong for having a reaction every time my bf (19M) is doing something I told him will hurt me or upset me?
Before u read, this will be bunch of informations that are barely connected, it's poorly written, I'm not claiming to have done nothing wrong I just need someone to share my situation with and maybe seek some advice.
Me (F20) have been dating my bf (M19) for almost two years. For background : we went to same school and I used to be his long-term hallway crush, but he seemed shy so I made a first move. In the beginning, like every relationship goes, I could brag about how perfectly he's treating me if anyone asked, and, having sh1tty situations in payt with ex and situationship I was over the moon to have someone treat me so gentle.
Before we started dating, he knew I have an ex of over two years, he knew I had two boys being my very dear friends and I told him, as he has no lady friends, that if he expects me to remove one guy especially it wont work and he agreed that he won't be expecting of me to cut off my friends for him with no hesitation. Guy friend in question is kinda boy who sees to opposite gender besties and if someone says they'd be cute couple he'd act as if it's actual inc3st and we never saw each other any other way then friends. At the prom, same guy friend cried for two hours because he thought I didn't have good time because my crush kissed another girl, but honestly I had the great time when i saw how much he cared for me.
My byofriend also, before dating me, without me asking or saying anything said "I'll remove all woman from my life when I have u" aka girls from school that are people he doesn't talk to enough to call them friends but there is some contact between them. I was confused because I didn't plan on asking him to as I have guy friends but i felt respected.
It all ended up the exact opposite, I did remove my friend who i still miss to this day because my boyfriend was overly jealous. On his side : girls from school started to pick up on him and when he told me about it, I sensed bullying and told him to block them because they're being pretty annoying and he, kidd u not, asked "do i have to?" so brought up him saying he'd remove anyone for me and he did after days of arguing and me crying because it's the opposite of our agreement before dating. It wasn't even jealousy on my side and he didn't want to block them because he thought they'd ask why and he'd be uncomfortable but... He made a promise that he didn't keep.
Year later he broke up with me partly because i wasn't "pure"/ I have an ex and partly because of how bad my mood swings were (I had 3 doctors diagnosing me with severe depression and was almost hospitalized at the time I was "moody" ).
That breakup had me getting even worse because he was the guy to say "I'm so scared you'll leave me" "if you stay I stay" "i hope we're forever" I didn't know forever meant one year but the breakup was only 2 weeks long, had me suffering for over a month before he actually broke up because he took it very very slow. I slept 15 minutes a day and i wish i was being metaphoric, waiting for him to decide weather he'll stay or not. I did everything I could, my ocd gets worse in stressful situations and my brain telling me "if you do this, that will happen, if you don't, that will happen" all day every day, but I obviously did everything it told me to do to keep him and he still left and ruined us for 2 weeks of separation.
Note : If someone tells you they have something going on and they can't change it, don't come in their life trying to force a change, weather it's friendship you might not like or mental disorder out of their control, please.
After we got back together : - I told him i spent time home in group chat with two of my girls and some of their friends and random boy we found where we played "guess what I drew" because i couldn't leave bed and couldn't sleep, he got jealous at that random boy and made me feel bad for doing something while not being in a relationship. (I didn't flirt, we didn't talk in private chat, we just played and he was also aroace.)
While we were on breakup I also reached out to my guy friend and he is doing amazing, enjoying life and was happy I contacted him but my boyfriend made me cut him off, again. Tho, his sister best friend (girl) is buying him gifts, sleeping over at their place in room him and his sister are sharing but why would I be jealous? In fact, I'm not, I like that girl more then I like his family.
Anyway, it was last summer, when he asked me to be his girlfriend again I told him that I'll need time to heal, prepared him for the fact that I will bring up stuff he did before we broke up because I'm still hurt, and he'll need to be extra patient and gentle and he agreed, but instead, every time I talked about pain breakup caused because I wasn't over it, he'd yell at me so i tried to bottle it all up.
In past few months, everything I tell him will hurt me he'll find a way to do it, even if it's something he didn't have in mind, if i told him fictionally it'll hurt me so he knows, he'll do it, and when I confront him about it he'd focus on my reaction saying "are u being fr?" (Like I didn't warn him.) or "stop making me angrier I'm stressed" ( Like I'm not, also, stressed.)
Every time he does something i asked him not to, if I had a reaction it would turn into hours long fight and after making me a bad guy for reacting, he'd play a victim saying I misunderstood, it's all in my head ect. Well i started to tell my friend about our fights or I'd ask AI making "story" to see situation from someone else's perspective because I was tired of being told it's all in my head and it's on daily basis.
He recently started to pick up on my traits of ocd or autism that I also have diagnosed and told him about before he asked me out.
This was my overreaction, I agree, but I'm aware and I didn't ask to be this way; He gave me his hoodie so I'll sit in bus ( it was so dirty and I'd rather be standing, but he wanted me to sit with him and offered a hoodie which was nice. ) when we got to my place laundry dryer fell and put his hoodie on my, just day before, washed rug so i can have free hands to pick up the laundry, he picked hoodie up, angry that i left it on a floor for hot minute, immediately and put it on my bed where I sleep. I threw it right away and started crying because I'm extremely germophobic and had flashbacks from how dirty the bus was, he wanted to go home because i was acting too crazy and I know it's too much of a reaction on my side but I'd rather be like that then like people with no basic hygiene. He started asking "are you going to be this way forever?" And pressuring me to answer, then he told me I'm the only person in whole world behaving like this, like I don't know it's too much, I know it, my ocd is taking over my time and my life, my rituals are anxiously long, my fear of being dirty makes me unable to function through out the day, I have it hard already without someone putting a pressure on it, my doctor refused to treat me even tho I told him it takes at least 2 hours after I go to bed to re-do all my rituals so I can sleep without feer and I still end up waking up few times in one night, I know it's not normal bruh that's why it's a disorder lol, I never claimed it was normal but how can I just get it out of my body, I feel like crazy disgusting creature with zero rights to live because of what he says every time I have a" moment ".
He also doesn't fail to make me feel guilty for not paying attention to my tone when speaking or my facial expressions or my sensory sensitivity like it's all my fault, asking when will I stop being like this and that it's just me being like this, that no one else is this hard to deal with.
I love him and he's making me hate my existence, my flaws, things I can't change about myself, what am I supposed to do about it? Therapy in this country isn't much of help. I feel so guilty oftenly for being the way I am and I didn't even list half of the things.
He also makes me feel guilty for him giving me his time, when we have plans for a day but we spend that day with him always being in rush to go back home and him complaining how he didn't have to do A B and C because he "had to see me" like he doesn't even want to see me. (Same boy who said, over year ago " I can't stand seeing you only four hours a day I wish to be around you all the time".
We're fighting every day and every day it's something I asked him not to do but he still did and it always ends up with me being just too angry all the time and him doing nothing wrong.
He doesn't communicate well, he's messages contains 2-3 words and when I understand what he wrote instead of what he "meant" it's my fault. I warned him more then year ago that if I keep trying to explain in 5 different ways my point of view while he doesn't even explains his with valid sentence I'll give up on talking.
He's "explanation" goes like this : If i ask for two plus two he'll say the fishes brethe air - not only is the explanation wrong in general but it never has anything to do with my question. Like dudes that cheat and excause is that his grandma died, you get it?
Now, I'm so tired that when I try to tell him what's wrong, when he starts to be self defensive I block him because I can't take it anymore, I now can't communicate because I know how it'll end up anyway and it lost it's meaning. I'm turning out toxic but I'm tired, my soul is tired while his soul is rotting.
It hurts watching my sweet boy turning into such an ignorant and pathetic person. I started to think he has npd.
It seems like only solution is for me to stop reacting and to bottle everything up, but that's not relationship I want. I don't want to pretend I'm fine when I'm not, I don't want to keep masking around my own partner just for the sake of his ego because that guy can't stand being told he did something wrong and it takes hours of justifying, self-defense and victim role for him to actually say sorry without even understanding why he should be apologizing for.
TLDR : I (20f) am dating my bf (19m) who's only ever focused on my reaction when he's mistreating me then the reason why I reacted.
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Me (F20) have been dating my bf (M19) for almost two years. For background : we went to same school and I used to be his long-term hallway crush, but he seemed shy so I made a first move. In the beginning, like every relationship goes, I could brag about how perfectly he's treating me if anyone asked, and, having sh1tty situations in payt with ex and situationship I was over the moon to have someone treat me so gentle.
Before we started dating, he knew I have an ex of over two years, he knew I had two boys being my very dear friends and I told him, as he has no lady friends, that if he expects me to remove one guy especially it wont work and he agreed that he won't be expecting of me to cut off my friends for him with no hesitation. Guy friend in question is kinda boy who sees to opposite gender besties and if someone says they'd be cute couple he'd act as if it's actual inc3st and we never saw each other any other way then friends. At the prom, same guy friend cried for two hours because he thought I didn't have good time because my crush kissed another girl, but honestly I had the great time when i saw how much he cared for me.
My byofriend also, before dating me, without me asking or saying anything said "I'll remove all woman from my life when I have u" aka girls from school that are people he doesn't talk to enough to call them friends but there is some contact between them. I was confused because I didn't plan on asking him to as I have guy friends but i felt respected.
It all ended up the exact opposite, I did remove my friend who i still miss to this day because my boyfriend was overly jealous. On his side : girls from school started to pick up on him and when he told me about it, I sensed bullying and told him to block them because they're being pretty annoying and he, kidd u not, asked "do i have to?" so brought up him saying he'd remove anyone for me and he did after days of arguing and me crying because it's the opposite of our agreement before dating. It wasn't even jealousy on my side and he didn't want to block them because he thought they'd ask why and he'd be uncomfortable but... He made a promise that he didn't keep.
Year later he broke up with me partly because i wasn't "pure"/ I have an ex and partly because of how bad my mood swings were (I had 3 doctors diagnosing me with severe depression and was almost hospitalized at the time I was "moody" ).
That breakup had me getting even worse because he was the guy to say "I'm so scared you'll leave me" "if you stay I stay" "i hope we're forever" I didn't know forever meant one year but the breakup was only 2 weeks long, had me suffering for over a month before he actually broke up because he took it very very slow. I slept 15 minutes a day and i wish i was being metaphoric, waiting for him to decide weather he'll stay or not. I did everything I could, my ocd gets worse in stressful situations and my brain telling me "if you do this, that will happen, if you don't, that will happen" all day every day, but I obviously did everything it told me to do to keep him and he still left and ruined us for 2 weeks of separation.
Note : If someone tells you they have something going on and they can't change it, don't come in their life trying to force a change, weather it's friendship you might not like or mental disorder out of their control, please.
After we got back together : - I told him i spent time home in group chat with two of my girls and some of their friends and random boy we found where we played "guess what I drew" because i couldn't leave bed and couldn't sleep, he got jealous at that random boy and made me feel bad for doing something while not being in a relationship. (I didn't flirt, we didn't talk in private chat, we just played and he was also aroace.)
While we were on breakup I also reached out to my guy friend and he is doing amazing, enjoying life and was happy I contacted him but my boyfriend made me cut him off, again. Tho, his sister best friend (girl) is buying him gifts, sleeping over at their place in room him and his sister are sharing but why would I be jealous? In fact, I'm not, I like that girl more then I like his family.
Anyway, it was last summer, when he asked me to be his girlfriend again I told him that I'll need time to heal, prepared him for the fact that I will bring up stuff he did before we broke up because I'm still hurt, and he'll need to be extra patient and gentle and he agreed, but instead, every time I talked about pain breakup caused because I wasn't over it, he'd yell at me so i tried to bottle it all up.
In past few months, everything I tell him will hurt me he'll find a way to do it, even if it's something he didn't have in mind, if i told him fictionally it'll hurt me so he knows, he'll do it, and when I confront him about it he'd focus on my reaction saying "are u being fr?" (Like I didn't warn him.) or "stop making me angrier I'm stressed" ( Like I'm not, also, stressed.)
Every time he does something i asked him not to, if I had a reaction it would turn into hours long fight and after making me a bad guy for reacting, he'd play a victim saying I misunderstood, it's all in my head ect. Well i started to tell my friend about our fights or I'd ask AI making "story" to see situation from someone else's perspective because I was tired of being told it's all in my head and it's on daily basis.
He recently started to pick up on my traits of ocd or autism that I also have diagnosed and told him about before he asked me out.
This was my overreaction, I agree, but I'm aware and I didn't ask to be this way; He gave me his hoodie so I'll sit in bus ( it was so dirty and I'd rather be standing, but he wanted me to sit with him and offered a hoodie which was nice. ) when we got to my place laundry dryer fell and put his hoodie on my, just day before, washed rug so i can have free hands to pick up the laundry, he picked hoodie up, angry that i left it on a floor for hot minute, immediately and put it on my bed where I sleep. I threw it right away and started crying because I'm extremely germophobic and had flashbacks from how dirty the bus was, he wanted to go home because i was acting too crazy and I know it's too much of a reaction on my side but I'd rather be like that then like people with no basic hygiene. He started asking "are you going to be this way forever?" And pressuring me to answer, then he told me I'm the only person in whole world behaving like this, like I don't know it's too much, I know it, my ocd is taking over my time and my life, my rituals are anxiously long, my fear of being dirty makes me unable to function through out the day, I have it hard already without someone putting a pressure on it, my doctor refused to treat me even tho I told him it takes at least 2 hours after I go to bed to re-do all my rituals so I can sleep without feer and I still end up waking up few times in one night, I know it's not normal bruh that's why it's a disorder lol, I never claimed it was normal but how can I just get it out of my body, I feel like crazy disgusting creature with zero rights to live because of what he says every time I have a" moment ".
He also doesn't fail to make me feel guilty for not paying attention to my tone when speaking or my facial expressions or my sensory sensitivity like it's all my fault, asking when will I stop being like this and that it's just me being like this, that no one else is this hard to deal with.
I love him and he's making me hate my existence, my flaws, things I can't change about myself, what am I supposed to do about it? Therapy in this country isn't much of help. I feel so guilty oftenly for being the way I am and I didn't even list half of the things.
He also makes me feel guilty for him giving me his time, when we have plans for a day but we spend that day with him always being in rush to go back home and him complaining how he didn't have to do A B and C because he "had to see me" like he doesn't even want to see me. (Same boy who said, over year ago " I can't stand seeing you only four hours a day I wish to be around you all the time".
We're fighting every day and every day it's something I asked him not to do but he still did and it always ends up with me being just too angry all the time and him doing nothing wrong.
He doesn't communicate well, he's messages contains 2-3 words and when I understand what he wrote instead of what he "meant" it's my fault. I warned him more then year ago that if I keep trying to explain in 5 different ways my point of view while he doesn't even explains his with valid sentence I'll give up on talking.
He's "explanation" goes like this : If i ask for two plus two he'll say the fishes brethe air - not only is the explanation wrong in general but it never has anything to do with my question. Like dudes that cheat and excause is that his grandma died, you get it?
Now, I'm so tired that when I try to tell him what's wrong, when he starts to be self defensive I block him because I can't take it anymore, I now can't communicate because I know how it'll end up anyway and it lost it's meaning. I'm turning out toxic but I'm tired, my soul is tired while his soul is rotting.
It hurts watching my sweet boy turning into such an ignorant and pathetic person. I started to think he has npd.
It seems like only solution is for me to stop reacting and to bottle everything up, but that's not relationship I want. I don't want to pretend I'm fine when I'm not, I don't want to keep masking around my own partner just for the sake of his ego because that guy can't stand being told he did something wrong and it takes hours of justifying, self-defense and victim role for him to actually say sorry without even understanding why he should be apologizing for.
TLDR : I (20f) am dating my bf (19m) who's only ever focused on my reaction when he's mistreating me then the reason why I reacted.
2024.05.14 12:45 theashtraygirl27 I just need any advice on this sinking ship he's calling relationship.
Before u read, this will be bunch of informations that are barely connected, it's poorly written, I'm not claiming to have done nothing wrong I just need someone to share my situation with and maybe seek some advice.
Me (F20) have been dating my bf (M19) for almost two years. For background : we went to same school and I used to be his long-term hallway crush, but he seemed shy so I made a first move. In the beginning, like every relationship goes, I could brag about how perfectly he's treating me if anyone asked, and, having sh1tty situations in payt with ex and situationship I was over the moon to have someone treat me so gentle.
Before we started dating, he knew I have an ex of over two years, he knew I had two boys being my very dear friends and I told him, as he has no lady friends, that if he expects me to remove one guy especially it wont work and he agreed that he won't be expecting of me to cut off my friends for him with no hesitation. Guy friend in question is kinda boy who sees to opposite gender besties and if someone says they'd be cute couple he'd act as if it's actual inc3st and we never saw each other any other way then friends. At the prom, same guy friend cried for two hours because he thought I didn't have good time because my crush kissed another girl, but honestly I had the great time when i saw how much he cared for me.
My byofriend also, before dating me, without me asking or saying anything said "I'll remove all woman from my life when I have u" aka girls from school that are people he doesn't talk to enough to call them friends but there is some contact between them. I was confused because I didn't plan on asking him to as I have guy friends but i felt respected.
It all ended up the exact opposite, I did remove my friend who i still miss to this day because my boyfriend was overly jealous. On his side : girls from school started to pick up on him and when he told me about it, I sensed bullying and told him to block them because they're being pretty annoying and he, kidd u not, asked "do i have to?" so brought up him saying he'd remove anyone for me and he did after days of arguing and me crying because it's the opposite of our agreement before dating. It wasn't even jealousy on my side and he didn't want to block them because he thought they'd ask why and he'd be uncomfortable but... He made a promise that he didn't keep.
Year later he broke up with me partly because i wasn't "pure"/ I have an ex and partly because of how bad my mood swings were (I had 3 doctors diagnosing me with severe depression and was almost hospitalized at the time I was "moody" ).
That breakup had me getting even worse because he was the guy to say "I'm so scared you'll leave me" "if you stay I stay" "i hope we're forever" I didn't know forever meant one year but the breakup was only 2 weeks long, had me suffering for over a month before he actually broke up because he took it very very slow. I slept 15 minutes a day and i wish i was being metaphoric, waiting for him to decide weather he'll stay or not. I did everything I could, my ocd gets worse in stressful situations and my brain telling me "if you do this, that will happen, if you don't, that will happen" all day every day, but I obviously did everything it told me to do to keep him and he still left and ruined us for 2 weeks of separation.
Note : If someone tells you they have something going on and they can't change it, don't come in their life trying to force a change, weather it's friendship you might not like or mental disorder out of their control, please.
After we got back together : - I told him i spent time home in group chat with two of my girls and some of their friends and random boy we found where we played "guess what I drew" because i couldn't leave bed and couldn't sleep, he got jealous at that random boy and made me feel bad for doing something while not being in a relationship. (I didn't flirt, we didn't talk in private chat, we just played and he was also aroace.)
While we were on breakup I also reached out to my guy friend and he is doing amazing, enjoying life and was happy I contacted him but my boyfriend made me cut him off, again. Tho, his sister best friend (girl) is buying him gifts, sleeping over at their place in room him and his sister are sharing but why would I be jealous? In fact, I'm not, I like that girl more then I like his family.
Anyway, it was last summer, when he asked me to be his girlfriend again I told him that I'll need time to heal, prepared him for the fact that I will bring up stuff he did before we broke up because I'm still hurt, and he'll need to be extra patient and gentle and he agreed, but instead, every time I talked about pain breakup caused because I wasn't over it, he'd yell at me so i tried to bottle it all up.
In past few months, everything I tell him will hurt me he'll find a way to do it, even if it's something he didn't have in mind, if i told him fictionally it'll hurt me so he knows, he'll do it, and when I confront him about it he'd focus on my reaction saying "are u being fr?" (Like I didn't warn him.) or "stop making me angrier I'm stressed" ( Like I'm not, also, stressed.)
Every time he does something i asked him not to, if I had a reaction it would turn into hours long fight and after making me a bad guy for reacting, he'd play a victim saying I misunderstood, it's all in my head ect. Well i started to tell my friend about our fights or I'd ask AI making "story" to see situation from someone else's perspective because I was tired of being told it's all in my head and it's on daily basis.
He recently started to pick up on my traits of ocd or autism that I also have diagnosed and told him about before he asked me out.
This was my overreaction, I agree, but I'm aware and I didn't ask to be this way; He gave me his hoodie so I'll sit in bus ( it was so dirty and I'd rather be standing, but he wanted me to sit with him and offered a hoodie which was nice. ) when we got to my place laundry dryer fell and put his hoodie on my, just day before, washed rug so i can have free hands to pick up the laundry, he picked hoodie up, angry that i left it on a floor for hot minute, immediately and put it on my bed where I sleep. I threw it right away and started crying because I'm extremely germophobic and had flashbacks from how dirty the bus was, he wanted to go home because i was acting too crazy and I know it's too much of a reaction on my side but I'd rather be like that then like people with no basic hygiene. He started asking "are you going to be this way forever?" And pressuring me to answer, then he told me I'm the only person in whole world behaving like this, like I don't know it's too much, I know it, my ocd is taking over my time and my life, my rituals are anxiously long, my fear of being dirty makes me unable to function through out the day, I have it hard already without someone putting a pressure on it, my doctor refused to treat me even tho I told him it takes at least 2 hours after I go to bed to re-do all my rituals so I can sleep without feer and I still end up waking up few times in one night, I know it's not normal bruh that's why it's a disorder lol, I never claimed it was normal but how can I just get it out of my body, I feel like crazy disgusting creature with zero rights to live because of what he says every time I have a" moment ".
He also doesn't fail to make me feel guilty for not paying attention to my tone when speaking or my facial expressions or my sensory sensitivity like it's all my fault, asking when will I stop being like this and that it's just me being like this, that no one else is this hard to deal with.
I love him and he's making me hate my existence, my flaws, things I can't change about myself, what am I supposed to do about it? Therapy in this country isn't much of help. I feel so guilty oftenly for being the way I am and I didn't even list half of the things.
He also makes me feel guilty for him giving me his time, when we have plans for a day but we spend that day with him always being in rush to go back home and him complaining how he didn't have to do A B and C because he "had to see me" like he doesn't even want to see me. (Same boy who said, over year ago " I can't stand seeing you only four hours a day I wish to be around you all the time".
We're fighting every day and every day it's something I asked him not to do but he still did and it always ends up with me being just too angry all the time and him doing nothing wrong.
He doesn't communicate well, he's messages contains 2-3 words and when I understand what he wrote instead of what he "meant" it's my fault. I warned him more then year ago that if I keep trying to explain in 5 different ways my point of view while he doesn't even explains his with valid sentence I'll give up on talking.
He's "explanation" goes like this : If i ask for two plus two he'll say the fishes brethe air - not only is the explanation wrong in general but it never has anything to do with my question. Like dudes that cheat and excause is that his grandma died, you get it?
Now, I'm so tired that when I try to tell him what's wrong, when he starts to be self defensive I block him because I can't take it anymore, I now can't communicate because I know how it'll end up anyway and it lost it's meaning. I'm turning out toxic but I'm tired, my soul is tired while his soul is rotting.
It hurts watching my sweet boy turning into such an ignorant and pathetic person. I started to think he has npd.
It seems like only solution is for me to stop reacting and to bottle everything up, but that's not relationship I want. I don't want to pretend I'm fine when I'm not, I don't want to keep masking around my own partner just for the sake of his ego because that guy can't stand being told he did something wrong and it takes hours of justifying, self-defense and victim role for him to actually say sorry without even understanding why he should be apologizing for.
TLDR : I (20f) am dating my bf (19m) who's only ever focused on my reaction when he's mistreating me then the reason why I reacted.
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Me (F20) have been dating my bf (M19) for almost two years. For background : we went to same school and I used to be his long-term hallway crush, but he seemed shy so I made a first move. In the beginning, like every relationship goes, I could brag about how perfectly he's treating me if anyone asked, and, having sh1tty situations in payt with ex and situationship I was over the moon to have someone treat me so gentle.
Before we started dating, he knew I have an ex of over two years, he knew I had two boys being my very dear friends and I told him, as he has no lady friends, that if he expects me to remove one guy especially it wont work and he agreed that he won't be expecting of me to cut off my friends for him with no hesitation. Guy friend in question is kinda boy who sees to opposite gender besties and if someone says they'd be cute couple he'd act as if it's actual inc3st and we never saw each other any other way then friends. At the prom, same guy friend cried for two hours because he thought I didn't have good time because my crush kissed another girl, but honestly I had the great time when i saw how much he cared for me.
My byofriend also, before dating me, without me asking or saying anything said "I'll remove all woman from my life when I have u" aka girls from school that are people he doesn't talk to enough to call them friends but there is some contact between them. I was confused because I didn't plan on asking him to as I have guy friends but i felt respected.
It all ended up the exact opposite, I did remove my friend who i still miss to this day because my boyfriend was overly jealous. On his side : girls from school started to pick up on him and when he told me about it, I sensed bullying and told him to block them because they're being pretty annoying and he, kidd u not, asked "do i have to?" so brought up him saying he'd remove anyone for me and he did after days of arguing and me crying because it's the opposite of our agreement before dating. It wasn't even jealousy on my side and he didn't want to block them because he thought they'd ask why and he'd be uncomfortable but... He made a promise that he didn't keep.
Year later he broke up with me partly because i wasn't "pure"/ I have an ex and partly because of how bad my mood swings were (I had 3 doctors diagnosing me with severe depression and was almost hospitalized at the time I was "moody" ).
That breakup had me getting even worse because he was the guy to say "I'm so scared you'll leave me" "if you stay I stay" "i hope we're forever" I didn't know forever meant one year but the breakup was only 2 weeks long, had me suffering for over a month before he actually broke up because he took it very very slow. I slept 15 minutes a day and i wish i was being metaphoric, waiting for him to decide weather he'll stay or not. I did everything I could, my ocd gets worse in stressful situations and my brain telling me "if you do this, that will happen, if you don't, that will happen" all day every day, but I obviously did everything it told me to do to keep him and he still left and ruined us for 2 weeks of separation.
Note : If someone tells you they have something going on and they can't change it, don't come in their life trying to force a change, weather it's friendship you might not like or mental disorder out of their control, please.
After we got back together : - I told him i spent time home in group chat with two of my girls and some of their friends and random boy we found where we played "guess what I drew" because i couldn't leave bed and couldn't sleep, he got jealous at that random boy and made me feel bad for doing something while not being in a relationship. (I didn't flirt, we didn't talk in private chat, we just played and he was also aroace.)
While we were on breakup I also reached out to my guy friend and he is doing amazing, enjoying life and was happy I contacted him but my boyfriend made me cut him off, again. Tho, his sister best friend (girl) is buying him gifts, sleeping over at their place in room him and his sister are sharing but why would I be jealous? In fact, I'm not, I like that girl more then I like his family.
Anyway, it was last summer, when he asked me to be his girlfriend again I told him that I'll need time to heal, prepared him for the fact that I will bring up stuff he did before we broke up because I'm still hurt, and he'll need to be extra patient and gentle and he agreed, but instead, every time I talked about pain breakup caused because I wasn't over it, he'd yell at me so i tried to bottle it all up.
In past few months, everything I tell him will hurt me he'll find a way to do it, even if it's something he didn't have in mind, if i told him fictionally it'll hurt me so he knows, he'll do it, and when I confront him about it he'd focus on my reaction saying "are u being fr?" (Like I didn't warn him.) or "stop making me angrier I'm stressed" ( Like I'm not, also, stressed.)
Every time he does something i asked him not to, if I had a reaction it would turn into hours long fight and after making me a bad guy for reacting, he'd play a victim saying I misunderstood, it's all in my head ect. Well i started to tell my friend about our fights or I'd ask AI making "story" to see situation from someone else's perspective because I was tired of being told it's all in my head and it's on daily basis.
He recently started to pick up on my traits of ocd or autism that I also have diagnosed and told him about before he asked me out.
This was my overreaction, I agree, but I'm aware and I didn't ask to be this way; He gave me his hoodie so I'll sit in bus ( it was so dirty and I'd rather be standing, but he wanted me to sit with him and offered a hoodie which was nice. ) when we got to my place laundry dryer fell and put his hoodie on my, just day before, washed rug so i can have free hands to pick up the laundry, he picked hoodie up, angry that i left it on a floor for hot minute, immediately and put it on my bed where I sleep. I threw it right away and started crying because I'm extremely germophobic and had flashbacks from how dirty the bus was, he wanted to go home because i was acting too crazy and I know it's too much of a reaction on my side but I'd rather be like that then like people with no basic hygiene. He started asking "are you going to be this way forever?" And pressuring me to answer, then he told me I'm the only person in whole world behaving like this, like I don't know it's too much, I know it, my ocd is taking over my time and my life, my rituals are anxiously long, my fear of being dirty makes me unable to function through out the day, I have it hard already without someone putting a pressure on it, my doctor refused to treat me even tho I told him it takes at least 2 hours after I go to bed to re-do all my rituals so I can sleep without feer and I still end up waking up few times in one night, I know it's not normal bruh that's why it's a disorder lol, I never claimed it was normal but how can I just get it out of my body, I feel like crazy disgusting creature with zero rights to live because of what he says every time I have a" moment ".
He also doesn't fail to make me feel guilty for not paying attention to my tone when speaking or my facial expressions or my sensory sensitivity like it's all my fault, asking when will I stop being like this and that it's just me being like this, that no one else is this hard to deal with.
I love him and he's making me hate my existence, my flaws, things I can't change about myself, what am I supposed to do about it? Therapy in this country isn't much of help. I feel so guilty oftenly for being the way I am and I didn't even list half of the things.
He also makes me feel guilty for him giving me his time, when we have plans for a day but we spend that day with him always being in rush to go back home and him complaining how he didn't have to do A B and C because he "had to see me" like he doesn't even want to see me. (Same boy who said, over year ago " I can't stand seeing you only four hours a day I wish to be around you all the time".
We're fighting every day and every day it's something I asked him not to do but he still did and it always ends up with me being just too angry all the time and him doing nothing wrong.
He doesn't communicate well, he's messages contains 2-3 words and when I understand what he wrote instead of what he "meant" it's my fault. I warned him more then year ago that if I keep trying to explain in 5 different ways my point of view while he doesn't even explains his with valid sentence I'll give up on talking.
He's "explanation" goes like this : If i ask for two plus two he'll say the fishes brethe air - not only is the explanation wrong in general but it never has anything to do with my question. Like dudes that cheat and excause is that his grandma died, you get it?
Now, I'm so tired that when I try to tell him what's wrong, when he starts to be self defensive I block him because I can't take it anymore, I now can't communicate because I know how it'll end up anyway and it lost it's meaning. I'm turning out toxic but I'm tired, my soul is tired while his soul is rotting.
It hurts watching my sweet boy turning into such an ignorant and pathetic person. I started to think he has npd.
It seems like only solution is for me to stop reacting and to bottle everything up, but that's not relationship I want. I don't want to pretend I'm fine when I'm not, I don't want to keep masking around my own partner just for the sake of his ego because that guy can't stand being told he did something wrong and it takes hours of justifying, self-defense and victim role for him to actually say sorry without even understanding why he should be apologizing for.
TLDR : I (20f) am dating my bf (19m) who's only ever focused on my reaction when he's mistreating me then the reason why I reacted.
2024.05.14 12:43 InsertNameAfter Ushi Ushi no Mi, Model: Cretan Oushiza
This Zoan is based on the Cretan Bull from Hercules' 7th Labour. While not much is known about it when it comes to supernatural aspects, it's said to inspire awe in those who see it, as well as wreak chaos once fed Poseidon's anger. From this, I decided that the bull would simply be an overwhelming force of nature; a being of raw, violent physical power.
English Name: Bull Bull Fruit, Model: Cretan Bull
Type: Mythical Zoan
Explanation: This fruit allows its consumer to transform into a snow-white bull with long pointed horns.
Hybrid Form: White fur grows on the user's skin. Horns sprout from their skull, pointing at the sky. A short tail sways behind them as their body bulks up, their feet getting replaced by hooves and their arms bursting with muscles.
Beast Form: A large muscled white bull with long pointed horns. It pulses with strength, able to shrug off most physical impacts and ram through forests unimpeded. In this form, the user's eyes glow eerily as they exude an unsettling aura.
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Information:
Japanese Name: Ushi Ushi no Mi, Model: Cretan OushizaEnglish Name: Bull Bull Fruit, Model: Cretan Bull
Type: Mythical Zoan
Explanation: This fruit allows its consumer to transform into a snow-white bull with long pointed horns.
Hybrid Form: White fur grows on the user's skin. Horns sprout from their skull, pointing at the sky. A short tail sways behind them as their body bulks up, their feet getting replaced by hooves and their arms bursting with muscles.
Beast Form: A large muscled white bull with long pointed horns. It pulses with strength, able to shrug off most physical impacts and ram through forests unimpeded. In this form, the user's eyes glow eerily as they exude an unsettling aura.
Strengths:
- The user's body is sturdy and able to neglect most physical damage.
- The user's arms, in Hybrid Form, can crush boulders with ease.
- The user can spread a disturbing aura that maddens people by roaring. It robs people of their rationality and makes them act on instinct. It also enforces an emotion of rage onto anyone within earshot.
- The user's personality becomes short-tempered, easy to rile up, and more likely to resort to physical violence. This makes them immune to mental abilities and allows the user to power through things like Sleeping Gas.
Weaknesses:
- The Hybrid Form is unbalanced, with the upper torso and arms being way heavier than the legs. The user can be easily tripped.
- While powerful and fast, the user isn't agile or dextrous. It's difficult for the user to change directions in both forms.
- The Hybrid Form, while powerful, is slow. Dodging the user isn't that difficult if the opponent is fast enough.
- Blinding the user cuts off their main sense. The user is more likely to rampage blindly, making them more destructive but easier to dodge and avoid.
Hybrid Form Techniques:
- [Bone Crusher]: The user grabs the target and attempts to crush it.
- [Fervid Smash]: The user clasps their hands together and smashes the ground, creating a shockwave that crushes anything under the user.
- [Clatter Burst]: The user claps their hands violently, creating a shockwave that knocks targets back.
- [Horn Bash]: The user gets into a sprinting stance before launching themselves with their arms at the target, horns aimed to impale it. (Hard to aim/maneuver)
- [Hoof Kick]: The user lifts themselves, putting all their weight onto their arms, and kicks the target with both hooves, crippling it and launching it away.
- [Unstable Uprooting]: The user digs their fingers into the ground, getting a good grasp, and then lifts the floors. The ground breaks into large slabs, one of which is raised by the user to be used to smash targets.
- [Far Slug]:
- The user grabs the target and then throws it away.
- The user grabs a handful of the ground, breaking it into projectiles, and throws them at the target.
- [Meteoric Strike]: The user slams their hands into the ground as they jump weakly, launching themselves to the sky. The user front flips and clasps their hands, impacting the ground in a giant dust cloud and shockwave.
- [Mad Wraith]: The user roars as they release an aura of madness, disturbing targets and making anyone near the user enter a state of instability where they can't think properly.
Beast Form Techniques:
- [Feral Ram]: The user bursts forward, pointing their horns at the target. The earth quakes beneath their feet as they gallop toward their opponent.
- [Quaking Pound]: The user lifts their body upwards before slamming it back down, creating a powerful shockwave that uplifts the earth.
- [Celestial Heave]: The user places their horns below the target's arms before lifting their head upwards, launching the target to the sky.
- [Meteoric Strike]: The user leaps to the sky and then slams themselves down, crushing anything beneath them.
- [Mad Wraith]: The user growls as they release an aura of madness, disturbing targets and making anyone near the user enter a state of instability where they can't think properly.
- [Iron Cruise]: The user turns sideways and rolls on the ground, flattening everything they come across.
2024.05.14 12:29 Present_Condition_12 (19/F) Looking for new friends to talk to! Doesn’t matter if it’s short term or long term
Hi everyone! I'm here in this Reddit to find friends in the (18-21) range. I am lesbian so I wanted to find more friends like me! Honestly even if you aren't In the Igbtq community I'm still open to communicating <3 l don't have a preference on whether it's long term communication or short term it just depends on how our conversation would flow!
My interests include anything cute related, l'm also into NANA and paradise kiss. I love music, and I also read from time to time. I watch many films, and I'm into thrifting and fashion. Let me know if you want to chat or DM me! :)
Also if I don't get back to ur response to this post! I'm most likely busy. But if our communication is really great through Reddit we can talk about other communication apps to talk through from. <3
Thanks for reading!
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My interests include anything cute related, l'm also into NANA and paradise kiss. I love music, and I also read from time to time. I watch many films, and I'm into thrifting and fashion. Let me know if you want to chat or DM me! :)
Also if I don't get back to ur response to this post! I'm most likely busy. But if our communication is really great through Reddit we can talk about other communication apps to talk through from. <3
Thanks for reading!
2024.05.14 12:16 VISCAFCB How did you discover you were lesbian?
I’m having a hard time with my sexuality right now and I could really use some advice and to hear some stories from those confident in their sexuality. I know there’s often shitty unicorns and stuff in this sub(long time lurker), but this is a genuine post about my sexuality.
I’ve always known I like women. Since I was a kid I had crushes on them, but didn’t learn that being gay was “a thing” until I was about 14, when I met my first love who was female. Long distance but anything we did I loved. I never even thought about labelling myself because that’s not what I cared for, I just knew I was inlove.
We broke up and I went through a rebound phase. A guy asked me out and my loved ones told me to say yes to get over the girl, so I did, despite not wanting to. We didn’t kiss or anything, I had 0 attraction to him. I ended it after 2 months of hanging out and just told myself he just wasn’t my type. I met up with another guy for a hookup, because I wanted to try irl stuff, we did everything but sex but the entire time I wanted to leave and I hated it. I felt nothing from his touch and didn’t enjoy touching him. Again, told myself it was a once off.
There was online stuff with tons of women before and after this which I always enjoyed, tried it once or twice with men but wasn’t ever interested so just stopped with them.
Forward onto when I was 17, I started dating a cis girl at my school in my year. That’s when I lost my virginity to her. The sex was amazing, I loved everything about it. But I wasn’t feeling the personality and after about 7/8 months we broke up. We just weren’t compatible, nothing to do with her gender. After we broke up that’s when I started to wonder if I am lesbian. I had never had much attraction to men. That was until I met my ex. It felt like for the first time I had possible attraction to a man, but I wasn’t sure. We had sex and such, and I enjoy the physical feeling of a penis inside, but everything else doesn’t feel like it does with a woman. No excitement, no fun, anything like that. And straps exist which I am dying to try with a woman. It’s like women are ecstasy and men are water to me. I loved how he treated me, he was quite feminine and gentle. I wont go into detail but one he started treating me bad I broke up with him. I felt so relieved. Shortly after I met a woman and it’s like sparks lit up in me again, which I’ve never had with any man, only women. That made me realise I never had sparks with him. Now turns out she was bicurious and not ready to experiment so I respected that and we’ve became just great friends. There’s no longer feelings, but meeting her reminded me of how much I love women and how I simply don’t feel that way with men.
Am I forcing myself to try with men because of social stigma or comphet? I will never love a man the way I love a woman. How do I figure it out?
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I’ve always known I like women. Since I was a kid I had crushes on them, but didn’t learn that being gay was “a thing” until I was about 14, when I met my first love who was female. Long distance but anything we did I loved. I never even thought about labelling myself because that’s not what I cared for, I just knew I was inlove.
We broke up and I went through a rebound phase. A guy asked me out and my loved ones told me to say yes to get over the girl, so I did, despite not wanting to. We didn’t kiss or anything, I had 0 attraction to him. I ended it after 2 months of hanging out and just told myself he just wasn’t my type. I met up with another guy for a hookup, because I wanted to try irl stuff, we did everything but sex but the entire time I wanted to leave and I hated it. I felt nothing from his touch and didn’t enjoy touching him. Again, told myself it was a once off.
There was online stuff with tons of women before and after this which I always enjoyed, tried it once or twice with men but wasn’t ever interested so just stopped with them.
Forward onto when I was 17, I started dating a cis girl at my school in my year. That’s when I lost my virginity to her. The sex was amazing, I loved everything about it. But I wasn’t feeling the personality and after about 7/8 months we broke up. We just weren’t compatible, nothing to do with her gender. After we broke up that’s when I started to wonder if I am lesbian. I had never had much attraction to men. That was until I met my ex. It felt like for the first time I had possible attraction to a man, but I wasn’t sure. We had sex and such, and I enjoy the physical feeling of a penis inside, but everything else doesn’t feel like it does with a woman. No excitement, no fun, anything like that. And straps exist which I am dying to try with a woman. It’s like women are ecstasy and men are water to me. I loved how he treated me, he was quite feminine and gentle. I wont go into detail but one he started treating me bad I broke up with him. I felt so relieved. Shortly after I met a woman and it’s like sparks lit up in me again, which I’ve never had with any man, only women. That made me realise I never had sparks with him. Now turns out she was bicurious and not ready to experiment so I respected that and we’ve became just great friends. There’s no longer feelings, but meeting her reminded me of how much I love women and how I simply don’t feel that way with men.
Am I forcing myself to try with men because of social stigma or comphet? I will never love a man the way I love a woman. How do I figure it out?
2024.05.14 11:55 baklava_enjoyer Should I reject a full-ride film school scholarship offer for practical experience?
I'm 21 now, about to graduate with a BA in Media Studies. Not really knowing what I want to do later in life, I never sought out any practical experiences related to film during my studies, like working together with others for a student film, which is a huge opportunity I missed out on the past 3 years and I deeply regret it. I did do an internship at a film company in Korea once where I was able to visit the set of a recent Netflix series and get to know the positions, and I was absolutely delighted to be on set, even if it was just for a short time and in -15 degree weather in the middle of the night. After that however, I still didn't consider any film-related careers simply because I felt that since my life hadn't been leading up to the industry, it couldn't be "meant for me".
However starting this year, I suddenly gained very enthusiastic passion for filmmaking. I spend my days looking up related courses and workshops, internships and jobs. While I have no experience, I definitely do have the enthusiasm to put in the work to somehow enter the industry, there's nothing else on my mind currently. I'd love to work my way up to becoming an AD one day, so I know that until I reach that point, I'll have to do my fair share of constant set-running and PA-ing for minimal pay, but I'm okay with that.
I've been granted the opportunity to study film at grad school in Korea with a fully-funded scholarship, which, even though film school is mostly just for connections and doesn't really help outside of that, I hoped it would at least help me get up to speed with others in the industry knowledge-wise and start building a portfolio as well. I also would like to visit Korea for a while again before I close off that chapter and focus fully on building my film career. However, a professor of mine is currently working on a show, and they'll be filming it starting in September, which is exactly when I would start my studies. To me, this is a one-time chance to possibly get my first set-runner position, as it's the one connection I have in the industry right now, and I don't want to let it go.
So now, I'm torn between two options:
1. Going to film school in a country I miss and would love to visit for a while, while building a portfolio from scratch. Then, at age 23 I'd return to my home country with some knowledge gained, but no connections (I assume the professor wouldn't even remember me by then) and no student-status to get any entry-level positions or internships, so it might be hard to get my foot in the industry.
2. Giving up on studying abroad and the scholarship and trying to gain some experience here. If my professor lets me be a set runner, I'd gain my first practical experience and maintain some connections, which could be somewhat of a head start, and I'd probably enroll in a graduate program here to keep my student-status (I live in Europe, it's cheap) while I seek out more practical opportunities BUT! finding other jobs& internships might end up being really difficult, because I have 0 experience. I also don't have a drivers license yet (again, Europe, not needed here) and I know that it's crucial to have one in the industry so I'd have to do that as well first, which also takes time.
Both options are not ideal, and I'm just so torn. It's a shame I found my enthusiasm for this industry so late and now I'm confronted with a big decision that can make or break me. No matter what, it won't be easy, and I know it would've been better if I started much earlier. I really do want to try out this career and I am very much prepared to work like a dog, but the fact that it took me so long to realise this is crushing my confidence.
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However starting this year, I suddenly gained very enthusiastic passion for filmmaking. I spend my days looking up related courses and workshops, internships and jobs. While I have no experience, I definitely do have the enthusiasm to put in the work to somehow enter the industry, there's nothing else on my mind currently. I'd love to work my way up to becoming an AD one day, so I know that until I reach that point, I'll have to do my fair share of constant set-running and PA-ing for minimal pay, but I'm okay with that.
I've been granted the opportunity to study film at grad school in Korea with a fully-funded scholarship, which, even though film school is mostly just for connections and doesn't really help outside of that, I hoped it would at least help me get up to speed with others in the industry knowledge-wise and start building a portfolio as well. I also would like to visit Korea for a while again before I close off that chapter and focus fully on building my film career. However, a professor of mine is currently working on a show, and they'll be filming it starting in September, which is exactly when I would start my studies. To me, this is a one-time chance to possibly get my first set-runner position, as it's the one connection I have in the industry right now, and I don't want to let it go.
So now, I'm torn between two options:
1. Going to film school in a country I miss and would love to visit for a while, while building a portfolio from scratch. Then, at age 23 I'd return to my home country with some knowledge gained, but no connections (I assume the professor wouldn't even remember me by then) and no student-status to get any entry-level positions or internships, so it might be hard to get my foot in the industry.
2. Giving up on studying abroad and the scholarship and trying to gain some experience here. If my professor lets me be a set runner, I'd gain my first practical experience and maintain some connections, which could be somewhat of a head start, and I'd probably enroll in a graduate program here to keep my student-status (I live in Europe, it's cheap) while I seek out more practical opportunities BUT! finding other jobs& internships might end up being really difficult, because I have 0 experience. I also don't have a drivers license yet (again, Europe, not needed here) and I know that it's crucial to have one in the industry so I'd have to do that as well first, which also takes time.
Both options are not ideal, and I'm just so torn. It's a shame I found my enthusiasm for this industry so late and now I'm confronted with a big decision that can make or break me. No matter what, it won't be easy, and I know it would've been better if I started much earlier. I really do want to try out this career and I am very much prepared to work like a dog, but the fact that it took me so long to realise this is crushing my confidence.
2024.05.14 11:04 Fun_Discussion_854_ My office crush
So I have an office friend and we keep on lightly flirting but none ever makes any move. We formed a very close friendship though. I really can't gauge how interested they are, I assume we're both scared.
Yesterday I made a comment (inside joke that's hard to explain without giving too much details) thay we don't really have any cute managers. To which he replied "what about X?". I was surprised by this because I genuinely don't remember saying that, maybe I did. My point is - he remembered, out of all things I say every day he remembered that I called other dude cute maybe 2 years ago.
I am fairly sure we're crushing hard on each other. There are other small things, like he has sent me once a song with this text for example ( I asked for relaxing mueic reccomndation and he send one song!!)
Smell of you baby, my senses, My senses be praised Smell of you baby, my senses, My senses be praised Kissing and running, Kissing and running away Kissing and running, Kissing and running away Senses be praised Senses be praised
Or he commented about "wireless kiss" that I have send on couple of occasions to my other colleague. I shouldn't have but it's my warm and welcoming personality.
I really like him but I don't know what to do. I can legit flirt with everyone but him.
Can you people help me please?
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Yesterday I made a comment (inside joke that's hard to explain without giving too much details) thay we don't really have any cute managers. To which he replied "what about X?". I was surprised by this because I genuinely don't remember saying that, maybe I did. My point is - he remembered, out of all things I say every day he remembered that I called other dude cute maybe 2 years ago.
I am fairly sure we're crushing hard on each other. There are other small things, like he has sent me once a song with this text for example ( I asked for relaxing mueic reccomndation and he send one song!!)
Smell of you baby, my senses, My senses be praised Smell of you baby, my senses, My senses be praised Kissing and running, Kissing and running away Kissing and running, Kissing and running away Senses be praised Senses be praised
Or he commented about "wireless kiss" that I have send on couple of occasions to my other colleague. I shouldn't have but it's my warm and welcoming personality.
I really like him but I don't know what to do. I can legit flirt with everyone but him.
Can you people help me please?