My brother had availed services of an agency for the processing of his immigration application in the UK.
They did not charge him anything.
On the contrary, they promised him a scholarship of ₹70,000 if he would get everything processed by them (accomodation, insurance, etc). He got processed everything except his Visa.
At the time, they did not inform us that opting out of Visa service would affect the disbursement time or amount of the scholarship.
In fact, they encouraged my brother to provide referrals, and my brother referred another student to get his application processed through them.
We were supposed to receive the scholarship money by November 2023 which we accounted towards my brother's rent installment in the UK.
But, since then, they stopped replying to our messages or responding to our calls. Once when they did in March 2024, they assured us that the money would be credited within 15 days.
It has still not been credited, and when we threatened to take legal action, they are citing conflict of interest with my brother's visa processing agency.
They did not bother to tell us anything for the past 7 months when we were helplessly following up.
On being asked when will the conflict be resolved since it is 7 months already, they do not have any definite reply. In fact, they are gaslighting us by saying that the services were provided for free to my brother, so we should be grateful for that only.
However, they are not free. The company is sitting on hefty commissions earned on two applications and refusing to pass on the benefit that they so boldly advertised and promised. Secondly, why were they not transparent with my brother during the time of application? And lastly, why wait for 7 months and a legal threat to even give us one response?
It's not only a case of misleading advertisement, but also horrendous customer care that has caused us immense mental strain and financial crunch (since on their promise, my brother accounted that money for his rent). We are a middle class family. It screwed up our carefully planned budget.
When we said we'd take a legal action, their response was non chalant, as if it does not matter to them that they are in the wrong.
What can I do in this situation? Such companies need to be held accountable for their false advertising and poor customer care, especially when they promise money to middle class students and not adhere to it.
PS: I wrote an email to [nch-ca@gov.in](mailto:nch-ca@gov.in) but I am not sure when will they reply. I tried filing complaint through consumer forum's whatsapp, but it does not reply anything after I select "visa and immigration agency" in the industry category.
Please advice, thank you🙏🏼

When I graduated my dad told me to go to this one specific college in my state that is extremely expensive compared to everywhere else. He promised me he would pay for everything and to not worry about it. Cut to now, it's the summer after the first year which went smoothly until I had a massive argument with my dad. He screamed at me in front of my friend to do the dishes and I never felt so humiliated because everyone views my dad as this happy guy but now here he is screaming at me. It wasn't even close to night time which is when I would do the dishes it's like 5 pm but he demanded to do them now. And even when I got up to go do them he CONTINUED TO SCREAM AT ME. And I'm not saying like lecturing, I'm saying he screamed at me. So I got upset at him (it was the first time I got an opportunity to see my friend in over two months) and he decided to cut off all help from him. I live with my family during college which he agreed to but he says at the end of summer I'm supposed to find my own place (Which is fair) but we signed a lease on campus and now he's saying he won't help me. Which that costs me already like 500$ to drop out. If he never wanted to help me in the first place, he should've let me go to the cheap colleges in the area. I lost all my scholarships to the colleges before and now I really just don't know what to do. The student loans would be crazy and I think I might just have to drop out. I guarantee that when I do he's gonna disown me.
Before you say like I'm not doing anything, I did work while going to school and I did help around the house. I didn't pay rent but he never asked me to though.
Advice welcome

Before the pill, before the internet, before the cell phone, lots of misinformation about Asian history and culture circulated in books written by people who were not qualified.
Over the last 60 years, most of the assumptions and beliefs Zen have been debunked, although to people who don't go to college and don't read modern scholarship, it's still like the 1960s never ended.
Just as there are still books being published today about alien visitation and Jesus riding a dinosaur, there are plenty of opportunities for people to be misinformed. There are even books you can buy that describe how Trump won in 2020 and has been in charge of the deep state for the last 4 years.
But these books don't offer fact and arguments that can be repeated in the public square in anything like a coherent and compelling dialogue.

Zen not related to taoism

For people who haven't read a book of instruction written by a zen master but read a popular translation of Te Tao Ching (the more accurately translated title), it can be easy to believe the opinion from the 1960s that Zen was related to taoism.
People who have read the Taoist Canon don't think so: www.reddit.com/zen/wiki/taoism. Taoism resembles Hinduism and Catholicism, none of which bear any resemblance to Zen.

Zen rejects meditation

There is no doctrinal connection between Zen, the sudden realization of enlightenment, and any of the many Buddhist and quasi- Buddhist meditation practices like Zazen-Shikantaza, breath counting, or mind-stopping. Meditation requires faith in Messianic doctrine of a "fallen" nature, revealed practice, and a state to be achieved, all of which are incompatible with Zen study and practice.
Patriarch's Hall, a recently rediscovered text from 900ce, illustrates how aggressively is and rejected Buddhist meditation. www.reddit.com/zen/wiki/notmeditation
Additionally,, scholarship from Stanford proved that zazen was invented in Japan by a Tientai Buddhist priest and was not ever a Zen practice. www.reddit.com/zen/wiki/secular_dogen

Zen is not and never was a branch of Buddhism

The 1960s and '70s saw Zen only through the lens of Japanese Buddhist claims about a tradition that wasn't Japanese originally, and wasn't Buddhist originally.
8FP Buddhism is very much a religion that promises people supernatural rewards in exchange for compliant behavior. The 8FP is the means to those supernatural rewards.
Zen Masters never taught the eightfold path and instead taught the four statements of Zen (found in the sidebar). Scholarship on the four statements was entirely unknown in the 1960s, as Japanese Buddhists steered a curious West away from Chinese historical sources and towards modern religious apologetics that a nearly illiterate Western academia embraced too quickly.
The last 30 years of scholarship, clearly the translation of a wide variety of texts, has not only severed Zen from Buddhism.www.reddit.com/zen/wiki/getstarted but has raised very serious questions about what it is that makes Buddhism essentially Buddhist www.reddit.com/zen/wiki/Buddhism

60's as a primary sources for Neo-Christian new agers

Just as there are still people who say Jesus road a dinosaur to work, the internet will still provide havens for people who didn't graduate college, did not study comparative religion or philosophy, and don't practice anything like Zen's commitment to the five lay precepts and public interview.
Many of the '60s era sources were linked inextricably to Nazi era thinkers, sex predators, people with drug and alcohol addiction, and religious frauds from Buddhist churches (Christian churches aren't the only unreliable churches).
The tragic part of all this is that people who might be interested in Zen never get the chance to study it, because they encounter neo-christian meditation worship and get turned off by the whole topic.
And who can blame them?

My birthday is next Tuesday, and as always, I feel somewhat depressed and wondering about my life. I feel like things have improved somewhat: I am not suicidal, as I often was during my teenage and early adulthood (now I am 21), and I do feel that life is more promising. But still, I can't help but, during these days, feel especially inferior and incapable. I do know that in many ways I am more capable than my peers. I had a meeting with my advisor this Friday to submit an application so that my research scholarship could be renewed and he showed what he had written to justify the renewal, while telling me "it is all true!": I am an "excellent student", who is doing "creative, robust, and sophisticated research, very promising for the field", and has shown "engagement, maturity, and professionalism".
And it is definitely not the first time I hear something like this as I have heard that I am intelligent etc all my life, and still I can't help, especially these days, but feel like a shadow of my peers, including intellectually. I just feel like I will always be their shadow socially and otherwise. I can't speak as clearly or softly as they can (and I do have a speech problem), nor can I develop the same relationships—I am finishing my degree, and I have barely developed any friendships, and I have never gone out with classmates. I don't have friends outside uni. I mostly talk with my family about our dog, which I do repeatedly. I don't know, and I realise this all sounds like rambling, which is, but I just feel like a sad imitation of what a human is supposed to be; like if I were still watching life from afar, without never taking part.

Hello everyone!
Before I begin, my_qualifications: X: 8.6 CGPA, 12^th: 53%, BBA: 55% (est.) State PG exam rank: >1400 for the state ————————————————————————— So, ‘going abroad’, it’s been a very hot topic in my home lately, and it’s not convincing when there’s a heck load of your family and close ones going to medical/engg and seedha showing up in a Innova crysta after a couple of years.
Satire aside, I took up IELTS coaching for a month and I have stalled at taking the mock tests, I performed well in classes, but never really took the jump, to do it. MBA used to have 4 main streams, now there’s a heck load of them and it’s confusing a lot, and there’s no real insight as to which course lands you in a good job. English isn’t something that’s ever too difficult to me, but spending a Creta’s worth of money on an unknown country, barely knowable course is stopping me.
I visited a few consultancies, (2)
1: promises me a seat in a govt college in Italy, under some scholarship scheme only have to pay some misc documentation/VISA fee and that’s pretty much it.
This option is very desirable considering i come from a middle-class family. We don’t have anything aside from the house we live in. Unlike others who have agri income.
2: very neat, but says UK is your go to country, (or the only country you can have) 2 ways, in/outside London, with it costing between 12-18/22-24L.
Both of them never named colleges, however. This is all I have finalised, or details into my not-so-grand scheme of going abroad.
Now I’m stuck, while most(if not all) of my school mates are finishing up with their MBA, and will probably earn handsomely in a few months. For some skeletons, I have a language (local) backlog in my degree, which I’ve written and been 4 months for which I’m still awaiting my result. Now leaving that one thing, coming to my true question, is it worth it going out? Is it worth, burdening my parents with a 1-2million ₹ loan with probably what’s our one house as collateral, to chase some dreams which I’m 60% sure of not achieving it? I mean, let’s say I spend it, pass somehow, what about the job. I’m still going to end up with a ₹25-35K job I feel, looking at the current trends (I love geopolitics and sadly it’s one of the reason I have no hopes). My biggest fear is not able to pass or digest the subjects , foreign or domestic, be it whatever, what to do if you have a backlog? Or a few more than imagined? How will I come back or spend the latest iphone’s worth of money everytime to clear them?
I am utterly so confused while the world moves on, I find myself just sitting here becoming a paperweight on god’s green earth.
What do I do? (Due to Reddit bugs there might be some typos I apologise)

An Angel to Us All
Rena Kugimiya, the future mother of the Nakano Quints, was once a famous tennis player during her High School years. She dreamed of going pro and seeing the world, until one huge mistake cost her everything. This is just the beginning of Rena's story.
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UPDATE
Once again I apologize that this update took so long since the last one. I've been very busy lately and much of that includes rewriting several scenes throughout this fanfic.
The first thing I want to announce is that I will no longer be uploading chapters of this fanfic onto FFN. I've gotten completely fed up with all their technical issues they keep having and I'm seriously considering moving all my stories over to AO3 and deleting my FFN account entirely.
As for the fanfic the most important change I've made is the date scene with Fuutarou and Nino(Chapters 23-25). Instead of a cherry blossom festival they go to it is now a music festival. The reason for this change was because it never to me to look up when exactly Japanese High School festivals occur. Once I discovered that they happen in September and not January/February as I initiall assumed, I had to go back and rewrite certain. However, that turned out to be a blessing because it gives me a bigger timeline to work with for my Yotsuba spinoff. Apologies to anyone who's been eagerly waiting for an update to that story. I promise that there will be more to come.
Some other changes I've made is that Izumi no longer lives in North Carolina as I initially wrote. She now lives in Texas. The scholarship Yotsuba receives also comes from a Texas university. I'll leave it to you to find out what college it is(Hint: Chapter 27).
Other than editing, the story is mostly unchanged. I just thought it was necessary to explain my long. absence. I'll try to make it less than a habit but depending how life goes I can't guarantee it.
My thanks to everyone who has supported me and my story, even if you don't like everything about it. Stay tuned for the next one!

I’ll quickly start this by saying I was rejected by more schools than I was accepted. My rejections were almost all of the T20s & Ivies, but every single one of them stung. I was waitlisted at some great schools, but I was also waitlisted by some mid-tier schools where some of my other “lower-performing” peers were accepted. People assumed I would be going to a “better” school and I sometimes still see the disappointment from my many rejections on my parents’ faces. It felt oddly personal and isolating at times. It still does.
And that’s OKAY.
People like to highlight the ups of college admissions; the full-ride scholarship they won to the best state school in the country, their ED acceptance celebrated with family surrounding them, that last-minute “shocking” Ivy acceptance…and those are fantastic things to celebrate. But those ups don’t define you.
One of my teachers gave a speech to my graduating Dual Enrollment class the other day and he mentioned that what defines you isn’t your first acceptance. It’s your first rejection. Yes, your dream school’s rejection letter. That heartbreaking moment when you first read “We regret to inform you…” and you slam the laptop shut and burst into tears. He wasn’t trying to say that the REJECTION itself defined you, but it’s how you persevered after it. How you continued to finish your senior year with good enough grades. How you celebrated all of your best friends’ acceptances to the schools you got rejected by. How you continued applying to more schools even after feeling like all hope was lost. Even if you kept getting rejections, like myself, you continued. That’s what defines you. It’s how you deal with not getting what you want initially. My favorite quote forever will be “if you want to stand on the top from day one, then there’s nothing else to look forward to.” Those rejections and deferrals and waitlists weren’t what you deserved, but they happened, and you reading this today is what defines you.
Even if you ended up committing to your safety school or your local CC, I’m proud of you. Today I am committing to the school that I applied to last-minute as a seemingly safety, yet it’s ended up being 1/4 of my acceptances. Where you go for undergrad does not define you, it’s WHAT you do, no matter if it’s a T200 or a T30. My dad and his brothers all either went to CCs or schools with nearly 100% acceptance rates and now are either working in the government or have Ivy grads working FOR them.
I guess this ended up being geared more toward those disappointed graduated seniors, but to rising seniors, don’t let your results define you. Let your reaction to those results and your DRIVE define you. Enjoy senior year. Appreciate all of the ups and downs and everything in between, no matter how many acceptances or rejections you’re getting. If you ever need to vent or need coping advice feel free to reach out. I’ve felt more heartbroken this entire year than ever before, but I promise it gets better. Continue to push yourself and take those risks…it’s going to work out even if it’s unexpected.
Sincerely, A graduating high school senior who is shocked at how quickly time flew. :’)

Cherished members of our Yemeni community,
Today, as we gather in unity, we stand on the threshold of a transformative moment—a day destined to be marked by our collective action and shared vision. We are here to make history, to forge a path that our future generations will look back on with pride, knowing that we came together to uplift and empower one another.
Yemen, a land of unparalleled beauty, is home to a people whose virtues shine as brightly as the stars in our skies. The Yemeni spirit, imbued with humility, courage, intelligence, and kindness-are not mere words; they are the essence of who we are, the guiding stars that illuminate our path through the darkest of nights. Our resilience, akin to the ancient walls of Shibam, stands tall and proud as a testament to our enduring strength and wisdom. It is not merely a historical relic; rather, it embodies the indomitable spirit of our people—a living beacon of hope that shines brightly even in the face of adversity.
But today, as we stand on the cusp of a new era, we are not content to merely survive; we are determined to thrive. Today, we stand not just as witnesses to history, but as architects of a brighter tomorrow, fueled by our unwavering resolve and unyielding spirit. Today, we stand ready to embark on a journey of transformation, to harness the collective power of our community and unleash a wave of change that will reverberate across oceans and continents, leaving a legacy of hope and possibility in its wake.
This same spirit of resilience and unity flows across the oceans to every city across this beautiful nation, where each Yemeni family and business has the opportunity to contribute. By setting aside a portion of our earnings, scaled according to our income and business profits, we are creating a robust community fund. This fund serves as a reservoir of resources dedicated to the growth and support of our own people, ensuring that the beauty and virtues of Yemen are celebrated and sustained for generations to come.
Educational Initiatives:
Our fund will prioritize education, starting with scholarships and resources for our girls in fields like Medical Care and Technology. Picture this humble scene: with every scholarship awarded, we're not just bestowing a simple opportunity; we're gifting a chance at greatness, a humble seed with the potential to blossom into a mighty oak of knowledge and achievement. We're not just investing in classrooms; we're investing in dreams—dreams of becoming healers, innovators, and leaders who will quietly revolutionize the world.
And let me tell you, when you empower a woman, you're not just lighting a single candle; you're igniting a wildfire of change that spreads far and wide. You're giving her the tools to navigate a world filled with challenges and obstacles, to carve out her own path, and to leave a mark that will endure for generations to come. You're unleashing a force of nature—a force so gentle yet so unstoppable that it can transform lives, uplift communities, and heal a wounded world. So let's not just talk about education; let's talk about empowerment. Let's talk about inspiration. Let's talk about the quiet strength of a single girl to change the world. And let's make sure that every girl, every woman, every Yemeni has the chance to shine their light and illuminate the darkness.
Support for New Families:
For our brothers and sisters arriving from Yemen, the transition can be an overwhelming journey into the unknown. In their eyes, we see reflections of our own stories—of leaving behind familiar shores in pursuit of hope and opportunity. Our fund extends a welcoming hand, offering not just material aid but a lifeline of compassion, understanding, and solidarity.
Imagine the scene: as these families step onto new soil, they are enveloped in warmth and reassurance, knowing that they are not alone in this unfamiliar terrain. Our support goes beyond the basics of food, clothing, and shelter; it speaks to the heart of what it means to belong, to be embraced by a community that sees their arrival not as a burden, but as a blessing.
In providing this initial assistance, we do more than ensure their survival; we affirm their dignity and humanity. We recognize that every individual, regardless of circumstance, deserves to be treated with respect and kindness. And by easing their transition, we pave the way for a smoother integration into their new community—a community that welcomes them not as strangers, but as cherished members of our extended family.
Youth Engagement and Vocational Training:
We also address the challenge of our youth who may find themselves lost or idle. By funding our own trade schools, we offer them a constructive path forward, away from the streets and into careers that will benefit them and our community. These schools will teach trades that are in demand, providing both a livelihood and a purpose.
Instead of languishing in the shadows, our young people step boldly into the light, armed with the knowledge and skills they need to succeed. Our trade schools offer not just an education, but a lifeline—a lifeline that pulls them away from the dangers of the streets and into the embrace of opportunity.
These schools are more than just classrooms; they are incubators of innovation, laboratories of learning, and workshops of wisdom. Here, our youth learn trades that are not just in demand, but inextricably linked to the heartbeat of our community. They discover talents they never knew they possessed, passions they never knew they harbored, and dreams they never dared to dream.
And as they graduate from these schools, they do more than just earn a certificate; they earn a ticket to a brighter future, a future filled with promise and possibility. They become not just skilled workers, but ambassadors of change, catalysts of progress, and champions of our collective destiny.
So let us not lament the challenges our youth face; let us celebrate the opportunities that await them. Let us invest in their potential, nurture their talents, and empower them to build a world that is brighter, stronger, and more just. For in their hands lies the power to shape the future, to inspire greatness, and to transform our world for the better.
Business Development:
As we look to the horizon of opportunity, our fund emerges as a catalyst for economic empowerment, a force that not only creates jobs but also cultivates a culture of entrepreneurship and innovation within our community.
From the seeds of our fund, businesses bloom like wildflowers in a desert oasis, each one a testament to the ingenuity and resilience of our people. From transportation and logistics companies to small-scale enterprises, these businesses become more than just sources of income; they become engines of growth, driving our community towards a future filled with promise and prosperity.
But our vision doesn't end there. Unlike conventional businesses driven solely by profit, the profits from these ventures flow back into our fund, creating a self-sustaining cycle of growth and impact. Every dollar earned is not just a measure of success; it's a tool for transformation—a tool that empowers us to do more, to reach further, and to make a difference in the lives of those around us.
And as these businesses thrive, so too does our community. Jobs are created, livelihoods are secured, and dreams are realized. But more than that, a sense of pride swells within us—a pride born not just from our individual achievements but from our collective triumphs. For in building these businesses, we are not just shaping our own destinies; we are shaping the destiny of our community, our nation, and our world.
So let us seize this moment, let us harness the power of entrepreneurship, and let us build a future where every Yemeni can thrive. Together, we can turn dreams into reality, challenges into opportunities, and obstacles into stepping stones towards a brighter tomorrow. For in the crucible of our collective ambition lies the promise of a better future for us all.
Building Our Own Educational Institutions:
We will also use our resources to build our own grammar schools and high schools. This will ensure our children are educated in environments that respect and incorporate our values, protecting them from external negative influences and providing them with a solid, value-based education.
These institutions are more than just buildings; they are bastions of our identity, fortresses of our culture, and guardians of our heritage. Here, our children learn not just facts and figures, but the timeless wisdom passed down through generations—a wisdom that guides them, shapes them, and empowers them to become the leaders of tomorrow.
But our vision extends beyond mere education. These schools are not just places of learning; they are communities—a tapestry of diversity, unity, and inclusivity, where every child is valued, every voice is heard, and every dream is nurtured.
And as our children graduate from these institutions, they do more than just earn a diploma; they emerge as ambassadors of our values, torchbearers of our traditions, and beacons of hope in a world hungry for guidance and inspiration.
So let us not just build schools; let us build futures. Let us invest in the minds and hearts of our children, empowering them to become the architects of their own destinies and the stewards of our collective legacy. For in the halls of our own educational institutions lies the promise of a brighter tomorrow—a tomorrow shaped by the dreams and aspirations of our youth.
Support for the Vulnerable:
Our fund will provide for those in acute need—widows, children, the sick, and even in bereavement. These funds will offer more than just financial aid; they provide a network of support, ensuring no one in our community has to endure hardship alone.
But our support goes beyond mere financial aid. It is a lifeline—a lifeline that extends beyond the material realm, offering a network of support, guidance, and companionship. Whether it's a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on, or a helping hand in times of need, our fund ensures that no one in our community has to endure hardship alone.
And as we reach out to lift others up, we discover something profound—that in giving, we receive; that in comforting, we are comforted; and that in supporting others, we find strength and purpose. For in the crucible of compassion lies the power to transform lives, heal wounds, and build bridges of understanding and empathy.
So let us extend our hands in solidarity, let us open our hearts in compassion, and let us stand together as a community united in our commitment to care for those most in need. For in lifting others up, we lift ourselves, and in supporting each other, we create a world where no one is left behind.
Investment and Growth:
Lastly, the fund will be an investment in our future. Managed by third parties to ensure fairness and transparency, the returns will be reinvested, creating a self-sustaining cycle of growth and benefit for our community.
As we look to the horizon of possibility, our fund emerges not just as a source of stability, but as a catalyst for transformation—a force that not only secures our present but also lays the foundation for a future filled with promise and prosperity.
Imagine this: with every dollar invested, our fund becomes a seed planted in fertile soil, a seed that germinates, grows, and blossoms into a tree of abundance—a tree whose branches reach far and wide, providing shade, shelter, and sustenance to all who seek refuge beneath its boughs.
But our vision goes beyond mere financial returns. Our fund is not just about profits; it's about people—people whose lives are touched, whose dreams are realized, and whose futures are forever changed. And so, we entrust the management of our fund to third parties, ensuring fairness, transparency, and accountability at every step of the way.
And as the returns roll in, they do more than just fill our coffers; they fuel our dreams, our aspirations, and our vision for a better tomorrow. They become the lifeblood of our community—a source of sustenance, support, and empowerment for generations to come.
So let us invest in our future, let us plant the seeds of possibility, and let us nurture them with care and diligence. For in the soil of our collective ambition lies the promise of a brighter tomorrow—a tomorrow where every Yemeni can thrive, flourish, and reach for the stars.
Funding:
Our fund will prioritize education, not just as a means to an end, but as a sacred duty—an investment in the future of our community and the prosperity of our nation. It's not merely about filling classrooms; it's about igniting minds, nurturing talents, and unleashing the boundless potential that lies within each and every one of our children. Through scholarships, mentorship programs, and access to cutting-edge resources, we will not only empower our youth to excel academically but also to become leaders in their fields, driving innovation, and progress.
Moreover, our fund will extend a warm embrace to the newest members of our community—families arriving from Yemen seeking refuge and opportunity in a land of promise and possibility. This isn't just about providing them with the basic necessities of life; it's about welcoming them with open arms, offering them a sense of belonging, and reaffirming our shared humanity. By extending a helping hand in their time of need, we are not only lifting them up but also strengthening the bonds that unite us as a community.
And for our youth, who may find themselves adrift in a sea of uncertainty, our fund will be a beacon of hope, guiding them towards a brighter future filled with purpose and meaning. Through vocational training programs tailored to their interests and aspirations, we will not only equip them with the skills they need to succeed but also instill in them a sense of pride and self-worth. Because it's not just about finding a job; it's about finding a calling, a passion that lights a fire within their souls and propels them towards their dreams.
In essence, our fund is more than just a financial investment; it's a testament to the values that define us as a community—compassion, resilience, and solidarity. It's a promise to ourselves and to future generations that no matter what challenges may lie ahead, we will face them together, as one united family. And together, there is no limit to what we can achieve.
But a crucial question still remains:
How will we fund all these ambitious projects?
Let me assure you, the strength of our community is not just in our numbers but in our economic power. Collectively, Yemenis in America contribute more than $3.1 billion annually to this great economy. This remarkable figure showcases the potential we have to make significant contributions to our own community fund. Imagine if every Yemeni family and business contributed just a small percentage of their earnings to our community fund. Even a contribution of 1% of our collective $3.1 billion could generate $31 million each year. These funds could transform our educational initiatives, support services, and business development plans.
This is our call to unity. By contributing to this fund, we're not just helping each other here and now—we're building a legacy of education, support, and empowerment that reaches back to Yemen, strengthening ties and fostering growth both here and abroad.
Conclusion:
Let us move forward with this mission, with open hearts and a united purpose, to create a future where every Yemeni can thrive. Together, we can make this vision a reality. Ladies and gentlemen, as I stand on closing this topic for today, I implore you not to let this moment’s flame extinguish in the quiet of the ordinary. Each of you carries a beacon—an incredible power to ignite change and inspire others. Share what you've learned, share what has moved you, and share the visions we've forged together here. Let your voices echo beyond these walls through the vast expanse of social media. Tweet it, post it, share it—let your insights resonate across networks and time zones. Transform our collective whisper into a thunderous roar. This is our time to shape the future, one post, one tweet, one share at a time. Let’s make it count. Let’s be the catalysts for change. Share, because the world is waiting to hear from you!
شكرًا والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

So, my 18 year old newly graduated daughter is an amazing young woman in many ways. She was salutatorian in her class, and has always done well in school. She behaves like a typical teenager in most ways when it comes to her family and friends, and I believe she has a bright future. That said, she is going through a bit of a reality check. She applied to a prestigious private college ( at least it’s prestigious in our region) and was accepted. She even got a tuition waiver that essentially cut the tuition in half. Problem is, even with the tuition waiver it’s still unaffordable, at least for me. I was planning on sending her to a small state school, because I can afford to cover any gaps in aid without her having to take out unsubsidized loans, but I couldn’t get her to even apply to one. What’s even worse is that our city offers two free years of community college, and she just turns her nose up at it. Ever since she got accepted at the private school, any other option is beneath her, which I don’t understand because that’s not how she was brought up. We are working class. Anyway, cut to when she got her financial aid package. She was shocked when she learned that there will be roughly a $15,000 difference between her funding and what’s leftover. I sympathized with her, but I knew this was coming so I tried my best to talk her up and let her know that she still has a ton of options. Including the smaller state schools that we can afford or community college. The biggest problem is that even before she applied to that school, I had been on her about applying for scholarships. Every week I would show her new scholarships to apply for, and guess what? She never applied for any of them. So, she did herself no favors there. Now we’re done with graduation, she hasn’t decided what her next move will be, so today I tried to make her a deal. I told her that if she worked all summer and actually saved money, will attend community college in the fall, and apply for any and every scholarship she could find, if there was still a gap in funding at the private school I would cover it if it was low enough and if not I would go ahead and do the PPL in that case. I thought it was a pretty good deal myself, but she didn’t see it that way. She started doing mental gymnastics to rationalize why I should do the PPL now and that she promises to apply for scholarships. I told her that I don’t trust her to do that because of her track record, and that if this school was really what’s she wants then she will do whatever it takes. She told me I was messing with her future to “prove a point”. I’m sorry, but that’s not what I’m doing. I’m just trying to help. She needs to learn how to make things happen for herself at some point, and I’m tired of doing all the leg work for her. It’s probably why we’re in this situation to begin with. Anyway, she thinks I’m an asshole for not doing the PPL this year, and that doing it next year is just being petty. I’m of the opinion that she needs to experience some natural consequences for once, and maybe learn some resilience. I don’t know, maybe I am an asshole.

Lucknow, the active capital city of Uttar Pradesh, has long been a hub for education. It offers students a wide range of opportunities to pursue their academic goals. Among its educational landscape, polytechnic colleges stand out as colleges that provide practical, applied learning experiences in various fields. For young engineers, technologists, and professionals, selecting the right polytechnic college is extremely important. In this article, we look at the top polytechnic colleges in Lucknow, offering information on their offerings, successes, and unique features.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow: Introduction

Taking on the journey of enrolling in a polytechnic is an exciting yet challenging process. With numerous options available, it's essential to choose the right college that aligns with your career goals and aspirations. Lucknow, known for its rich cultural heritage and rich educational landscape, offers several prestigious polytechnic colleges that offer world-class education and promising career opportunities.

Understanding Polytechnic Colleges

Polytechnic colleges serve as the foundation for building a successful engineering career. These colleges provide students with the necessary knowledge, skills, and experience to achieve success in today's competitive business environment. From civil to mechanical, computer to operations, polytechnic programs offer specialization in various fields, providing opportunities for diverse career interests.

Factors to Consider When Choosing a Polytechnic College

Selecting the right polytechnic college involves considering several factors to ensure a fulfilling educational experience and rewarding career path. Factors such as certification, faculty expertise, placement records, industry collaboration, infrastructure, and location play a crucial role in determining the quality and suitability of a polytechnic program.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : NIRF Ranking

1. R.R. GROUP OF INSTITUTIONS (RRGI) Lucknow

Ranking: According to the NIRF Ranking 2024, RRGI is the top polytechnic college in Lucknow. The college continues to rank as a top private polytechnic college in Lucknow.
Admission Process: Industry collaboration in a polytechnic program offers numerous benefits to students. It provides them with practical exposure to real-world situations, allowing them to apply their theoretical knowledge in a practical setting. Additionally, industry collaboration helps students develop industry-relevant skills, improves their employability, and increases their chances of securing internships and job placements with renowned companies. It also allows students to network with industry professionals and gain valuable knowledge into the latest trends and technologies in their field of study. Admission to RR GROUP OF INSTITUTIONS is through entrance tests such as JEE Main, CUET, etc., followed by an interview or personal interview.
Costs: Each RRGI course has different expenses per course.
Placements: RRGI offers suitable placement opportunities, with available CTC deals ranging from INR 7 LPA to INR 37 LPA.

1. Babasaheb Bhimrao Ambedkar University (BBAU) Lucknow

Ranking: According to the NIRF Ranking 2024, BBAU is Lucknow's best polytechnic university. Engineering studies at this university are continuously ranked among the best in the area.
Admission Process: Students are mostly accepted into BBAU through entrance tests like JEE Main and CUET, as well as GDs and PIs.
Costs: Although BBAU's annual expenses are variable, they are generally affordable.
Placements: With average CTC deals ranging from INR 5 LPA to INR 36 LPA, BBAU offers suitable placement opportunities.

1. SRM Institute of Technology, Lucknow

Ranking : The Polytechnic College of SRM Lucknow has been ranked among Lucknow's top 10 polytechnic colleges. Lucknow's best education can be found there.
Admission Process: Getting admission involves entrance examinations such as JEE Main.
Cost : SRM is affordable to study in Lucknow. It varies depending on the course.
Placement: Students are placed in excellent jobs with the help of the principal and sector partners.

1. Institute of Engineering and Technology (IET) Lucknow

Ranking: The Institute of Engineering and Technology Lucknow is one of the top polytechnic universities in the metropolitan area.
Entrance Process: Preliminary exams are followed by group discussions and personal interviews.
Fees: The Institute of Engineering and Technology Lucknow offers affordable quality education.
Placement: Established relationships with the business enable the institute to achieve exceptional placement results.

1. AKTU Lucknow (Dr APJ Abdul Kalam Technical University) Lucknow

Ranking: As one of Lucknow's polytechnic universities, AKTU holds a leading position.
Admission Process: The primary entrance requirement is an entrance test.
Fees: There are relatively low tuition fees at AKTU Lucknow, which provides high-quality education.
Placement: Students have access to a specific placement cell in the college, which can help with job placement.

1. Integral University Lucknow

Ranking: Integral University's reputation for scholarly excellence is well deserved.
Admission Process: The admissions test as well as the admissions counseling process.
Fees: Trainees are able to afford the costs due to the reasonable rates.
Placements: While positioning itself, Integral University collaborates with corporate partners.

1. University of Lucknow

Ranking: There are a variety of training programs offered at the University of Lucknow.
Admission Process: There is an entrance test and also a merit-based admission process.
Fees: An excellent education and learning experience is offered by the University of Lucknow at a relatively low cost.
Placements: Alternative development and professional readiness are both important aspects of the university's curriculum.

1. Babu Banarasi Das University Lucknow

Ranking: BBDAU has earned a positive reputation since it is a well-established organization.
Admission Process: Students will be required to take entrance tests and receive guidance as well.
Fees: At BBDU Lucknow, students have access to high-quality education at relatively affordable costs.
Placement: A locating cell is located at BBDAU.

1. Goel Institute of Technology And Management, Lucknow

Ranking: The engineering plans developed by GITM are widely recognized for their quality.
Admission Process: A combination of entrance examinations and interviews.
Placement: Positioning is done in collaboration with partners on the ground.

1. Doctor Shakuntala Misra National Rehabilitation University, Lucknow

Ranking : It is recognized for its innovative approach to education and learning as well as its inclusive approach.
Admission Process: Applicants are required to take entrance tests as well as attend counselling sessions.
Placements: In addition to skill progression and employability, the university places an emphasis on career development.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow: Admission process and criteria

The applicant must take a group discussion, an entrance examination, and an interview before being accepted into the program. There are a number of factors that determine a candidate's rank, including their school background, entrance exam results, business experience in their field (if any), and their overall character.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Unique Features of Polytechnic Colleges in Lucknow

Lucknow's polytechnic colleges are unique from others in the city by several factors, including:

• In addition to traditional courses, we offer courses in new and growing areas like AI, Civil, and Mechanical.
• Our certifications and workshops are relevant to the industry, thanks to our partnerships with top companies.
• Global immersion and exchange programs offer numerous opportunities to gain international experience.
• Mentoring programs and career counseling are available throughout a student's academic career.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Alumni Success Stories

It is clear from the success stories of alumni of these colleges that the polytechnic programs they offer are highly valuable. This is proven by their alumni's success stories. They have founded their own companies or significantly contributed to the entrepreneurial ecosystem in general.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Cost and Financial Aid Options

In order to get a polytechnic degree, students should consider the cost of education and locate some financial aid options available to them, such as scholarships, loans, and scholarships that colleges offer. Investing in your future by attending a polytechnic is certainly a wise decision, but education costs must also be taken into account.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Student Life and Extracurricular Activities

Students at polytechnic colleges in Lucknow are encouraged to participate in after-school activities, clubs, and cultural events as part of their global development program. Among the outcomes of this are improved teamwork and leadership skills, as well as a more positive personality.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Industry Partnerships and Collaborations

Students gain real-world knowledge and practical experience in the corporate environment through industry visits, guest lectures, and live projects as part of the program.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Research and Innovation Opportunities

The Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow strongly encourage research and innovation among students by sending them to research centers, incubators, and company projects. Besides contributing to knowledge creation, this also provides students with the opportunity to solve problems.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Internship Programs

During the polytechnic program, students have the opportunity to participate in internships, which give them hands-on experience in the industry. Summer internships and live projects with top organizations are available to students enrolled in Lucknow colleges.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Campus Culture and Diversity

As a result of the active campus culture that exists on campus, polytechnic students reflect a wide range of backgrounds, interests, aspirations, and experiences. By facilitating group learning, multicultural understanding, and a global perspective, multicultural educational environments facilitate student-to-student learning.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : Conclusion

The decision to study at R.R. Group of Institutions Lucknow, the best polytechnic college in Lucknow, marks an important step in achieving your career goals. When you consider curriculum, faculty expertise, infrastructure, placement opportunities, and unique features, you can make a good decision that aligns with your goals.

FAQs: Top Polytechnic Colleges in Lucknow

What were the top-ranked polytechnic colleges in Lucknow?

According to NIRF and other trusted sources, some of the top polytechnic colleges in Lucknow are R.R. Group of Institutions Lucknow, Babasaheb Bhimrao Ambedkar University Lucknow, Institute of Engineering and Technology Lucknow, Integral University, and Amity University Lucknow Campus. It is still important to consider your own desires and goals when choosing the "best" university.

What are the vital aspects to consider when picking a polytechnic university in Lucknow?

In addition to rankings, explore expertise options, adviser expertise, labs and structures, sector links and positionings, scholarship opportunities, and the overall understanding environment. Your career goals and specialization must align with the university you choose.

What are the actual admission requirements for polytechnic systems in Lucknow?

The majority of entrance examinations are based on entrance examinations like JEE Main or UPSEE, followed by a training process. In some colleges, additional rounds may include group discussions and personal interviews.

What is the average cost of polytechnic education in Lucknow colleges?

The cost of attending college varies widely from $40,000 to $2,000,000 per year, depending on the college. Consider university tuition fees, hostel fees, and additional academic expenses when evaluating the fee structure of shortlisted colleges.

What are the actual positioning customers for polytechnic graduates in Lucknow?

Skilled Lucknow is home to a growing commercial hub and high demand for skilled engineers. There has been a strong track record of successful placements between polytechnic colleges and leading companies in the past. In order to bridge the gap between idea and practice, there are a lot of internship options available.

Is it possible to establish polytechnic universities in Lucknow with financial assistance as Adidas monetary assistance?

A number of universities offer merit-based, need-based, and industry-sponsored financial aid. Investigate your shortlisted universities' financial aid programs to determine if they offer you financial assistance.

What are the different polytechnic specializations offered in Lucknow?

There are many polytechnic fields of expertise offered by Lucknow colleges, including Computer Science and Engineering, Mechanical Engineering, Civil Engineering, Electronics and Communication Engineering (ECE), and more. Find the best match by exploring the options provided by your shortlisted universities.

Just how vital is a strong graduate system for polytechnic graduates?

Alumni networks can be a valuable asset for an organization. It can be a great way to enhance professional guidance and mentorship opportunities, as well as open doors to possibilities through expert connections. Your shortlisted universities should have a strong alumni system.

What is the usefulness of gentle capability development in polytechnic courses?

The ability to communicate, to work together, to lead, and to analyze is just as important as technical expertise in order to achieve design excellence. Learn whether the college offers opportunities for developing these crucial skills through individual growth seminars.

What information can be used to learn more about the top polytechnic colleges in Lucknow?

There is no better place to start than this blog! A comprehensive list of information can be found on university websites, official sales brochures, and ranking sites such as NIRF and the R.R. Group of Institutions. Also, attending information sessions relevant to universities can be helpful.
Lucknow, the active capital city of Uttar Pradesh, has long been a hub for education. It offers students a wide range of opportunities to pursue their academic goals. Among its educational landscape, polytechnic colleges stand out as colleges that provide practical, applied learning experiences in various fields. For young engineers, technologists, and professionals, selecting the right polytechnic college is extremely important. In this article, we look at the top polytechnic colleges in Lucknow, offering information on their offerings, successes, and unique features.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow: Introduction

Taking on the journey of enrolling in a polytechnic is an exciting yet challenging process. With numerous options available, it's essential to choose the right college that aligns with your career goals and aspirations. Lucknow, known for its rich cultural heritage and rich educational landscape, offers several prestigious polytechnic colleges that offer world-class education and promising career opportunities.

Understanding Polytechnic Colleges

Polytechnic colleges serve as the foundation for building a successful engineering career. These colleges provide students with the necessary knowledge, skills, and experience to achieve success in today's competitive business environment. From civil to mechanical, computer to operations, polytechnic programs offer specialization in various fields, providing opportunities for diverse career interests.

Factors to Consider When Choosing a Polytechnic College

Selecting the right polytechnic college involves considering several factors to ensure a fulfilling educational experience and rewarding career path. Factors such as certification, faculty expertise, placement records, industry collaboration, infrastructure, and location play a crucial role in determining the quality and suitability of a polytechnic program.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow : NIRF Ranking

1. R.R. GROUP OF INSTITUTIONS (RRGI) Lucknow

Ranking: According to the NIRF Ranking 2024, RRGI is the top polytechnic college in Lucknow. The college continues to rank as a top private polytechnic college in Lucknow.
Admission Process: Industry collaboration in a polytechnic program offers numerous benefits to students. It provides them with practical exposure to real-world situations, allowing them to apply their theoretical knowledge in a practical setting. Additionally, industry collaboration helps students develop industry-relevant skills, improves their employability, and increases their chances of securing internships and job placements with renowned companies. It also allows students to network with industry professionals and gain valuable knowledge into the latest trends and technologies in their field of study.Admission to RRGI is through entrance tests such as JEE Main, CUET, etc., followed by an interview or personal interview.
Costs: Each RRGI course has different expenses per course.
Placements: RRGI offers suitable placement opportunities, with available CTC deals ranging from INR 7 LPA to INR 37 LPA.

1. Babasaheb Bhimrao Ambedkar University (BBAU) Lucknow

Ranking: According to the NIRF Ranking 2024, BBAU is Lucknow's best polytechnic university. Engineering studies at this university are continuously ranked among the best in the area.
Admission Process: Students are mostly accepted into BBAU through entrance tests like JEE Main and CUET, as well as GDs and PIs.
Costs: Although BBAU's annual expenses are variable, they are generally affordable.
Placements: With average CTC deals ranging from INR 5 LPA to INR 36 LPA, BBAU offers suitable placement opportunities.

1. SRM Institute of Technology, Lucknow

Ranking : The Polytechnic College of SRM Lucknow has been ranked among Lucknow's top 10 polytechnic colleges. Lucknow's best education can be found there.
Admission Process: Getting admission involves entrance examinations such as JEE Main.
Cost : SRM is affordable to study in Lucknow. It varies depending on the course.
Placement: Students are placed in excellent jobs with the help of the principal and sector partners.

1. Institute of Engineering and Technology (IET) Lucknow

Ranking: The Institute of Engineering and Technology Lucknow is one of the top polytechnic universities in the metropolitan area.
Entrance Process: Preliminary exams are followed by group discussions and personal interviews.
Fees: The Institute of Engineering and Technology Lucknow offers affordable quality education.
Placement: Established relationships with the business enable the institute to achieve exceptional placement results.

1. AKTU Lucknow (Dr APJ Abdul Kalam Technical University) Lucknow

Ranking: As one of Lucknow's polytechnic universities, AKTU holds a leading position.
Admission Process: The primary entrance requirement is an entrance test.
Fees: There are relatively low tuition fees at AKTU Lucknow, which provides high-quality education.
Placement: Students have access to a specific placement cell in the college, which can help with job placement.

1. Integral University Lucknow

Ranking: Integral University's reputation for scholarly excellence is well deserved.
Admission Process: The admissions test as well as the admissions counseling process.
Fees: Trainees are able to afford the costs due to the reasonable rates.
Placements: While positioning itself, Integral University collaborates with corporate partners.

1. University of Lucknow

Ranking: There are a variety of training programs offered at the University of Lucknow.
Admission Process: There is an entrance test and also a merit-based admission process.
Fees: An excellent education and learning experience is offered by the University of Lucknow at a relatively low cost.
Placements: Alternative development and professional readiness are both important aspects of the university's curriculum.

1. Babu Banarasi Das University Lucknow

Ranking: BBDAU has earned a positive reputation since it is a well-established organization.
Admission Process: Students will be required to take entrance tests and receive guidance as well.
Fees: At BBDU Lucknow, students have access to high-quality education at relatively affordable costs.
Placement: A locating cell is located at BBDAU.

1. Goel Institute of Technology And Management, Lucknow

Ranking: The engineering plans developed by GITM are widely recognized for their quality.
Admission Process: A combination of entrance examinations and interviews.
Placement: Positioning is done in collaboration with partners on the ground.

1. Doctor Shakuntala Misra National Rehabilitation University, Lucknow

Ranking : It is recognized for its innovative approach to education and learning as well as its inclusive approach.
Admission Process: Applicants are required to take entrance tests as well as attend counselling sessions.
Placements: In addition to skill progression and employability, the university places an emphasis on career development.

Top Polytechnic colleges in Lucknow: Admission process and criteria

The applicant must take a group discussion, an entrance examination, and an interview before being accepted into the program. There are a number of factors that determine a candidate's rank, including their school background, entrance exam results, business experience in their field (if any), and their overall character.

Hi everyone,
I'm from a Midwestern state and I promise I'm not moving in or anything!
I'm working on picking a school for an online MBA program. Through sheer happenstance my final 2 schools are both in Utah and I was hoping I could get some advice from locals.
My state university is incredibly expensive and there are no local night programs so I'm pretty well committed to finding an online program and have been searching for some time.
I've narrowed my search down to Southern Utah University and Utah State University. I've been accepted to both programs and am really struggling to pick one.
Southern Utah offers a very low cost option. All in after my employer contribution I will pay all of $1,000 which I can pay basically out of pocket. It's not a small amount of money overall but in terms of a graduate degree that's really a value. But it's a "directional" college like where I got my undergrad degree. Additionally their program is very large and has 100 students in many classes with from what I understand is very little interaction with the faculty.
Utah State is a more expensive option. My out of pocket is around $19,000 here. That's less something I can cash flow and more something I'd need to place on a student loan. I'm holding out some hope on scholarships but practically can't make a decision based on that hope. The program from what I understand is smaller and there is some faculty interaction, SUU sounds more self taught. Additionally coming from a questionable undergrad school there's some appeal of attending an X State University. The "directional" college I attended has no real reputation outside of its teaching programs so I'm wondering if having a state research university on my resume like Utah State, has some value.
So I'm asking you locals, would the extra money for Utah State be worth it? I'm wondering if it may have a larger reputation out of state since I'm not from Utah and maybe has a more sizeable alumni base? What's the reputation difference between the two schools?

Hi everyone,
I'm from a Midwestern state and I promise I'm not moving in or anything!
I'm working on picking a school for an online MBA program. Through sheer happenstance my final 2 schools are both in Utah and I was hoping I could get some advice from locals.
My state university is incredibly expensive and there are no local night programs so I'm pretty well committed to finding an online program and have been searching for some time.
I've narrowed my search down to Southern Utah University and Utah State University. I've been accepted to both programs and am really struggling to pick one.
Southern Utah offers a very low cost option. All in after my employer contribution I will pay all of $1,000 which I can pay basically out of pocket. It's not a small amount of money overall but in terms of a graduate degree that's really a value. But it's a "directional" college like where I got my undergrad degree. Additionally their program is very large and has 100 students in many classes with from what I understand is very little interaction with the faculty.
Utah State is a more expensive option. My out of pocket is around $19,000 here. That's less something I can cash flow and more something I'd need to place on a student loan. I'm holding out some hope on scholarships but practically can't make a decision based on that hope. The program from what I understand is smaller and there is some faculty interaction, SUU sounds more self taught. Additionally coming from a questionable undergrad school there's some appeal of attending an X State University. The "directional" college I attended has no real reputation outside of its teaching programs so I'm wondering if having a state research university on my resume like Utah State, has some value.
So I'm asking you locals, would the extra money for Utah State be worth it? I'm wondering if it may have a larger reputation out of state since I'm not from Utah and maybe has a more sizeable alumni base? What's the reputation difference between the two schools?

This is my first hand account as the youngest of 3 daughters, with a loving, hardworking mom but lazy, narcissistic dad with anger management issues. It's going to be a long story, basically my whole life story, because I feel that sharing some of my experiences growing up, may help bring more context to the situation I'm in today. I'm also a certified banana (non-Chinese speaking Chinese), and do identify as a ABC: American Born Chinese.
Growing up, I wasn't really allowed to go out from my house except for friends' birthday parties, and to go to school (obviously). My dad was a sales manager, and my mom ran a retail shop selling bags up till I was in secondary school, after which she stopped to be a full time housewife. Honestly, I don't even know how she juggled all the responsibilities while I was in primary school, because she did all the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, and even took time to dress my sisters and me and help us with homework and studying, and spend time with us on weekends (which I now understand how precious weekends are as a working adult). Basically, my freedom was heavily restricted, and I learnt at a young age how to keep myself entertained and appreciate my own company (which did make me depressed sometimes to be honest, until I learnt to accept, appreciate, and love myself for me when I got much older).
My parents were always yelling when I was home from school, especially at night. I used to try to ignore it by focusing on studying, thinking that if I worked hard enough, I would be able to make a living on my own and things would be better then (yes, I was only in primary school when I thought these things). I recall now that I used to think that no one loved me, that I was so much younger than my sisters (8 years from the oldest, and 6 years from the second) because I was an accident and unwanted. I was a naughty child, used to run around the house and draw on the table legs with color pencils. My mom used to cane me to discipline me when I misbehaved, but I still loved her. Looking back, I realise I honestly have a lot to thank her for - that it does feel like she single-handedly raised me and my sisters.
I was never given any allowance, never bought any new toys or clothes or shoes, because everything I needed would be handed down from my sisters. I would resent this for most of my childhood of course, until I got old enough to understand this was to be frugal. But looking back, it went deeper than that - my mom wasn't really able to spend money without my dad's consent. So everything went through him - and he would never allow us to spend money unless it was really a necessity, or unless it was something HE wanted. And what he was most interested in at the time I was growing up, was tech stuff. TVs, surround sound speakers with subwoofers, iMacs and all. Now this, he would spend money on. But my mom, I don't recall seeing her buy things for herself much to be honest. He did buy us a lot of pirated computer games - but usually he'd try to pick something that was more educational - and I think he only did it because he was buying pirated VCDs anyway.
Side question: How common is it to get your first handphone at 18yo (Nokia, the model you could drop from the roof and still would work), if you were born in the 1990s? I feel like it was definitely earlier than my older sisters, but the reason for this is because I was selected for National Service, and my parents wanted to stay in contact with me so they got me a handphone (which ironically was confiscated at the camp and only returned to you on weekends, and signal at my camp was almost non-existent). I feel like in comparison with many of my friends, I was super late in getting a handphone and had a lot to make up for to catch up in understanding.
Fast-forwarding to secondary school - my dad would usually always be angry about something at home. Maybe he woke up late for work and blamed my mom for it. Maybe I didn't get good enough grades - even if I got 100, he'd somehow always find a way to say that I could have gotten higher (yes I know that sounds stupid but he honestly used to say these things, because I would almost consistently get 100 for English and Maths - yes I am a nerd). Or maybe it would just be the way we answered his questions. He has this pattern where if he asked you a question, and he didn't like your answer, he'd pretend he didn't hear it, and ask you again, almost in the exact same phrasing he did the first time. And he'd do it again. And again. And eventually when you run out of patience and answer him shortly, he'd burst out in anger, with his default phrase: "You don't know how to talk to people.". "You talk nicer to strangers, better than your own father.". For a long time, hearing these words being repeatedly yelled, screamed at you, by a loud, angry, male voice, did two things to me. One, I used to almost believe that I didn't know how to talk to people, that I WAS the problem, and not him. Two, till today, hearing raised male voices still scares and distresses me, I get nervous and really tense - which doesn't help because that's how Hokkien and Hakka sounds to me when people are just saying hello! (yea it doesn't sound like anything to me because I'm a banana).
I recall a time on a weekend, when I had woken up early to watch morning cartoons, and my dad was angry about something - my sister had been busy applying for university, and I think he didn't like that she didn't want to be a medical doctor - she was more interested in math or vet sciences. He had been yelling at her, and then proceeded to walk over to where I was sitting on the floor in front of the TV, stand over in front of me, bend down, and scream at my face saying "get out, get out of this house now!" - I swear I saw spit fly when he yelled at me. I was so afraid, so freaked out, that I later asked my mom if she thought one of the nice aunties from church would take me in if he really kicked me out.
How did I survive all this? I didn't even realise I was doing it, but I would try to spend as much free time as I could with friends - we'd talk on the phone for HOURS after school (mind you this was before we had cordless landline phones, so I would sit at the stairs, with my ear glued to the phone), and when I finally got to Form 6, I'd hang out after school with friends with cars, to malls, to the movies, to lunch, and my mom would sneak me some spare cash from her groceries budget so I could have a good time with friends. I had some really good friends that would sponsor me food/snacks too, whom I'll forever be indebted to, because no matter how cheap it was back then, it was still their allowance they were spending on a friend that couldn't pay them back.
Around this time, my dad lost his job - the management had changed, but if I recall how he was about his job, I don't think he was meeting his work KPIs as a sales manager either to be honest - and he was sacked. He fought it in court, and won money from it. This will become significant later on, but let's move on first.
Fast-forward to my turn to enter university, and I couldn't get in to medicine. I had tried, believe me - thinking that I liked biology enough, and that if I didn't, I could learn to love it - that my dad would love me more and treat me better if I did what he wanted, and go into medicine. But I couldn't make it - no scholarships wouldn't take me with my STPM 3.75 CGPA, not even for dentistry, because the competition was too tough with limited placements. I recall, my dad had opened a Maybank Yippie account under my name, and he applied to earn the rewards the bank offered for getting certain grades from PMR, SPM and STPM. When we got it, it went promptly into his own bank account under the justification that I didn't have my own bank account and he'd keep it for me until I did. Bro, you were controlling my Yippie account, and you had to close it once I finished STPM. You could have just opened an account immediately after that for me, but you didn't. That makes no sense, but ok, take it if that makes you happy.
I recall when I was applying to university through the UPU platform, I asked him for his advice, and he yelled at me to figure it out on my own. I wasn't sure what I could do honestly, because the whole time in secondary school, I only knew that he wanted me to go into medicine - I had no other frame of reference. My mom asked around among the neighbors, and found out that engineering was also a good field, and I did enjoy physics a lot more than biology, so I went into that. And my dad? Never did he once check on me - on what I was applying for, about school fees, nothing. My mom suggested I apply for PTPTN, that if I graduated with first class honors, I could convert it into a full scholarship, so I did that after exhausting all the other available scholarship options.
I think it was only in 2nd year of university that he found out I took Biomedical Engineering, and then he took an interest because there was some correlation to medicine - more on rehab science, but hey, I was taking classes in the attached hospital, so he was interested. Then he started to "show off" to relatives whenever they asked about it during CNY gatherings.
Anyway I think I've completely lost focus, so I'm gonna fast-forward. Today, I'm working a stable full-time job at a company I love working at - the people here are great and so supportive, and most of my social circle is from here today, with the exception of some close school friends I still keep in contact with.
Full lockdown in MCO was super tough for me. Being at home with my dad's constant yelling and anger issues, I seriously considered many times once lockdown was lifted, about moving out. I mentioned it to my mom, but she would always advise me not to, that it was too much financial strain on me and it wasn't safe to live by myself (you know, single girl, alone). Eventually, I realised, with lockdown lifted, I could escape our home, by going to the office. So I did. And I realised, that my mom was the more pitiful one because she couldn't escape as a full time housewife because my dad would restrict her freedom too - both inside and outside of the house. And for some reason, she accepted it. She clearly wasn't happy about it, but whenever I'd complain about my issues at home with her, her advice would be to not let it affect me and go out when I could. Honestly, I always wanted to ask her why she didn't just divorce my dad, but I was always too afraid to ask. So I let it be.
There were times when work was stressful, and because I had made work my escape from home, it was a toxic cycle for me, so much so that I had a few mental breakdowns at work, and did consider ending my life. But I got through it eventually after seeking counseling and talking to friends about my issues.
Have I mentioned my dad is a hoarder? He still has old VCRs of shows recorded from laser discs and satellite TV which we haven't touched in 20+ years, and probably will never use again. He still has an old Amiga computer in the storeroom that he never intends to set up, and also doesn't intend to sell - he just doesn't want to throw it away. Old pill boxes, old batteries - he insists to keep because he thinks he'll either need them again, or be able to use them somehow. Basically, the old house is so full of his junk that he's collected since I was young, that there's no space for the rest of us to really live. We're just, guests in his house, that have beds, places to put our clothes, and have to cook, clean, grocery shop, and pay for all the utilities, his car insurance, medical insurance, house insurance, and also give him an allowance. He complains about our cleaning too, even though he wouldn't ever clean himself. I found out from my sisters recently that he actually did complain about us not paying rent some time back, and this was AFTER they were already giving him a generous allowance every month (I had only just finished uni or started working? so they didn't tell me this). And he would continue to complain about this even after we started to pay for utilities and groceries. So eventually, they stopped giving him an allowance.
Another incident I want to share is about the family car. So we used to have a really old Proton Wira that we used as the family car since I was in primary school. About 20 years later, we still used it and it was the only available car I could take to drive to work. It wasn't very well maintained, but it got you from A to B, so for my first car, I wasn't complaining. Until, the gearbox started to have problems. I would send it to service many times, change the gearbox many times, and still, the gears would slip while driving - could be on a flat road while accelerating, and what especially worried me was when I was going up ramps or slopes, like when exiting basement parking, I had to have my hand on the handbrake at all times incase I started to fall backwards because I wasn't sure I could switch from accelerator to brake pedal quick enough. I told my dad about it every time, but he would just tell me off, saying I wasn't driving properly, and that there was nothing wrong with the car. I endured it for a couple years, until finally one day, I realised just how dangerous it was when I was leaving the parking with cars behind me, and I DID have to use pull the handbrake. So one day, I had enough, and I bought myself my own car with my own money. And guess what? When I went back home with it, what did my dad do? He yelled at me. Like on a scale of 1 to 10, he was 15. And then he yelled at my cousin who helped me to buy the car. He wasn't upset that I had gotten one without his consent, or that maybe I hadn't gotten the best deal on the car, no nothing like that. He was only upset, because I had spent my own money on myself, and that he insisted the old family car was perfectly fine. Well guess what? Eventually, he gave up on the car too, and asked *cough*forced*cough my cousin to buy it off from him, and apparently en route to the shop on the highway, the car broke down and had to be towed. And my dad never said a THING about it, ever. Makes me so mad just thinking about how selfish and irresponsible he was being, and how lucky I was that I had decided to get a car on my own. He was only curious about one thing - he asked me if I had gotten a bank loan for the car. I told him I borrowed money from my boss - when actually I had gotten a loan from my sister.
We're getting closer to present day, bear with me.
Last month, my house was being painted, with some other fixes being done like changing the roof gutters and house gate which were severely rusted over the 30+ years we lived in the house, never having been maintained ever since we moved in. It was actually my oldest sister's idea, being the "bread-winner" ever since my dad entered "forced retirement". She felt like it was a nice gesture and she had saved money to do it. She let my dad to pick the contractor so he'd be satisfied with the quality of the work, and that's when all hell broke loose.
From the day we agreed to the quotation (which was a really hefty sum), my dad wasn't happy about anything. He was always criticising the price, the quality of the materials, the workmanship of the painter and workmen, and even nitpicked that the contractor had "daddy issues". Funnily enough, it's my dad that has "daddy issues" himself because he likes to play the victim card after all these years saying that his father abandoning his family when he was young screwed him up. I'm sorry he went through that, but seriously, you're doing well now, and you're 66 fucking years old, could you grow up? Sorry, I digress. Honestly, my dad would just find ANYTHING to complain about, and he'd be angry and loud about it. Worse one I think was when he kept having the idea that the contractor should throw in some freebies for him, like hey, could you also paint this window for me, or fix this door for me, for free. Like as if materials are free and workmanship doesn't cost time and effort? I swear it's almost as if he's never worked a hard day's work in his life... Which I find contradicting considering how stingy he is with money...
The painting and house fixes took around 3 weeks in total - including power washing all the old paint off the walls, putting a few coats of primer, painting, and all the metal work. Also considering this was during puasa which was tough for the workers, and the weather was blistering hot in the afternoon and then heavy rain in the evenings. Through the whole thing, my sisters and I were busy at work, so who was left to manage at home were my parents. Or rather I should say, my mom. Because all my dad did, from day 1, is yell at the contractor. Saying he's not doing a good job, that he's so calculative because he wouldn't throw in some freebies like painting the window when we didn't ask for it in the quotation, or changing the color when he didn't like it, etc etc. Lies, they were all lies. The contractor knew exactly what he was doing, and it was really good work. We were all really happy with it. So my mom had to be peacemaker, try to calm down my dad, and apologize to the contractor on the side. Which is exhausting, because my dad was literally yelling in his face all the time! And he would eventually take it out on my mom because obviously it was no secret she was defending the contractor. I'm honestly super shocked he would act this way to a stranger. All my life he's always been so careful to only show his nasty side to us at home, and be charming outside to strangers. I guess being the "customer" went to his head?
All this took a really heavy toll on my mom. She's 64yo, and it was stressing her out so much to have my dad throwing his temper around all the time. If he didn't get his way with the contractor, he'd take it out on her. When I was home on weekends or before going to work in the mornings, she'd tell me how things were going, and they were just getting from bad to worse. She was getting more and more frail, more tired, losing her appetite, and not being able to sleep too.
Around 1-2 weeks in, realising things were getting way way out of control (who am I kidding, when was anything in my life with my dad ever in control? lol) - more importantly, my mom was suffering horribly from it - I reminded her that I considered a few times before about moving out. And that in the end, I decided not to only because she advised me not to. That I could escape to my office, but she couldn't, and that with my working hours and escapism, I hardly spent any time at home except to sleep (sometimes even choosing to shower at the office). So what was the point if she wasn't going to move out with me? So I stayed. But I told her this time, forget about financial worries, about anything else - and consider if she needs to get out of this situation. It's not worth being stuck in this at the cost of her own mental well being. I told her all this, to know these are options she could consider for herself, and left it at that. A couple days later, I went for an overseas trip with friends, and honestly, didn't think much of it.
A week later, I came back, and things felt the same. The painting was done, the gate was being installed, and the end of the hell seemed to be really close, like 1-2 days before everything would be completed. Another week later, I'm having lunch with my sisters and mom at home (dad not there because he had the habit of sleeping till 2pm ever since he "retired"). And I did NOT expect them to tell me they had all decided to move out, to leave my dad.
I was surprised, happy (like really happy), and also confused. So they explained that the turning point had come during the week that I was away, my dad's temper had gotten so bad, that he had almost hit my mom when he was yelling at her and the contractor outside the house. Luckily the contractor stepped in to stop him, and he snapped out of it, but it was enough to make my mom realise that after all these years, he is really never going to change, and that he could one day hurt her when no one else was around. Apparently, there were times before that she had mentioned his attitude & anger problems to him and threatened to leave him, and he promised to change, but then he would quickly forget it and go back to his usual ways. And other times, when he couldn't get the response he wanted from her, he would take it out on my sisters and I by yelling at us. She would always tell me when I was growing up that people don't change unless they want to, and don't ever get into a relationship with a guy thinking I can fix or change him. Funny that she would give me that advice, but herself still be hoping for my dad to change.
So, after telling them I fully supported the idea (basically I said I had been waiting a long time for them to decide to move out lols), we started looking for places to rent. And this is where I really have to thank God, because everything just fell into place. I mean there were some hiccups along the way, but within 2 weeks we managed to find a great place to move to within our rental budget with an awesome landlord. Then my dad announced he was going on an overseas trip around the time we would get the keys to move in. Honestly, we had considered trying to pack everything while he was sleeping and moving it under his nose, or considering the possibility of asking the police for help to move out in case my dad tried to stop us physically. But none of that had to happen, because he went for a trip, and we had basically a week to pack and move out. And with the help of many friends, we did it. We moved out, for the first time after 30+ years (40 for my mom).
Living apart from my dad, able to control our own lives and living space... We have never been happier as a family. I don't have my own room, I still share with my sister, but it honestly doesn't matter, because we can wake up every morning without worrying about the next temper tantrum or yelling match, or accidentally upsetting my dad about anything. It's so peaceful, and I look forward to going home after work now, rather than staying longer at the office. I no longer have to live under constant threat of being blamed from something wrong in the house. Yes, this is also something my dad does a lot, blame all of us for things getting spoiled in the house, even if it's obviously from wear and tear over the years. Like, the air-conditioner leaking, he would say was because we were folding clothes in the room which created a lot of fluff and clogged up air vents causing it to leak. Or, a power bank not working so well anymore, according to him was because I used it wrongly, and not because the charge just doesn't hold so well after degrading over the years.
The simplest things - being able to have a desk to work at when I want to work from home or play computer games, and having a cabinet in the kitchen to put my coffee gear instead of having to always wash, dry, and pack them up into paper bags. Or something even simpler - being able to accidentally leave a light on in a room and not be scolded for it like I had just killed someone... These are joys I get to experience now because we no longer live under the control of my dad.
Now, it's been 2 weeks since my dad returned from his trip to find an empty house (we only took our stuff, his stuff is still all there), and a letter explaining we had moved out because we couldn't stand to stay there anymore, and not to contact us because we need our space. He tried calling us but frankly, I think we were all either afraid to pick up just to be yelled at, or just not willing to be subjected to his manipulation anymore after experiencing peace of mind without him, so none of us picked up. He tried texting the family group then, and it surprised me he didn't act angry, but rather said he was shocked and expected to be able to live the rest of his life with us, that we would take care of him in his old age, that we should have pity on him because he's not young and came back unwell from his trip, that he had to sleep on the floor at the airport in Dubai. He said he wanted another chance to improve on his 'flaws', saying he loves us and would never do anything to hurt us, asking my mom to come back, that he knows he made a lot of mistakes, but that he's always lived his life for the benefit of us. Then, he asks us to continue paying for the utilities. Followed by saying "he knows we don't talk about it, but he never recovered from the suffering he endured at church" - which is total bullshit by the way, because he never suffered at church... what happens is what he always does - he alienates people or doesn't like it when people do things differently from him, and is super sensitive when people don't compliment or praise him for his works. So what he does eventually, is he leaves that church, and then finds another one. Anyway, he then continues in his messages with even more sappy words like he misses us, he's so lost without us, when he wakes up he's so full of fear, that that's why he's so unhappy and angry all the time, he needs us, that he's never had to be independent all his life, he's not eating well, not sleeping well, don't block him, please just let him meet us one more time, just let him hear our voices, just to say hello... OMG I wanna puke just reading all this... So much of it is so cringe, like he's NEVER spoken like that to us ever, and in the middle of it asks for money? And for the past, I don't know, 15 years at least, he's either always yelling at us that we don't know how to talk to people properly, or that we shouldn't talk to him. And now, he says he misses our voices? GAG.
Then this week... he pays me a visit to my office. Shows up at lunch time, and asks to see me. It was a really big shock to see him just standing there, smiling at me like as if I should be happy to see him? Honestly, I did expect it to happen, because my office is the nearest to his house, and probably the easiest to get to compared to my sisters' workplaces. But still, thinking it and seeing it were two different things, and I was just praying that he wouldn't be desperate enough to really do it and that I was just being paranoid. So seeing him in my office, I was instantly on edge, thinking he was going to make a scene at my office, and asked some colleagues to help keep an eye out for me while I went to talk to him. And he basically repeated the same things he's been sending in text to me. He started crying, and trying to show me how frail he was because he wasn't eating well, said he hoped I could take him out for a meal, saying he's only been eating all the leftovers - which honestly, is kind of suspicious because we didn't have that many leftovers to begin with, and we had purposely restocked the house with bread, biscuits, tuna which we knew he knew how to eat on his own - so maybe he was referring to that... Said he was worried about his finances, that his eyesight wasn't good, his knees weren't good, how was he going to clean the house on his own. Then he tries to change the topic for some reason, by saying he was surprised he was allowed into the office building and that the guard had given him some package to bring up as well when he said he was coming to my floor... It was weird and creepy and gave me a really unsettled, disturbed feeling throughout the whole experience. I was so tense and nervous that I couldn't bear to talk to him without crossing my arms in front of me the whole time. And I kept explaining to him, that there was no point in him trying to justify and explain himself to me - that it all just sounded like excuses to me, that 30 years of doing the same damn thing over and over to us was enough and that we were never ever going back to his house, whether it was to visit or moving back in - none of that was going to happen. But with his constant crying and pleading, I did start to feel really sorry for him.
I mean, even in the week when we were moving out, I felt guilty about it, knowing he wasn't going to be happy and was going to have a hard time once we left him. But the alternative was to do nothing about our situation, which wasn't a viable option either. Continuing to live with him was basically just saying, this is it, this is our lives, we're going to die with this being the extent of our lives. And I was NOT going to let that happen. My mom did NOT deserve to die in that house with that tyrant controlling every aspect of her life, sucking the joy and energy from her like a leech, like a freaking Dementor from Harry Potter. But anyway, yea, his pleading got to me, I did pity him and felt sorry for him, so I told him, please leave, I'll unblock him on my phone so he can call and message me, but I won't promise anything else except to pass on what he has said to my sisters and mom. He kept saying please, he can't wait too long, please just come to the house to talk to him, he needs us, etc. Took me a few times to convince him he's not going to get anything else out of me and eventually he left.
I was so on edge after that, I realised my hands were cold and shaking, and I didn't have much appetite for lunch by then. Thankfully I have many caring and supportive colleague who knew about the situation and they helped talk to me about it and it calmed me down. I talked to my sisters and mom that night after work, and they shared with me some of their experiences that I wasn't aware of from when I was a baby or when I wasn't at home. Which made me realise... he may have been trying to manipulate me earlier. Apparently, he has on several occasions, told my mom he regretted marrying her, that he would have been better off letting his mom to find him a wife instead. He had told my sister (the middle child) that he regretted having us as children. Told her to get out of the house too. And always told us that he had lots of money, that money was no object, whenever we told him we didn't want to spend on something he was asking for because we couldn't afford it. Which is conflicting isn't it, because if YOU have the money, then why not buy it yourself instead of trying to convince us to buy it for you? My sister had also asked him before why he was so angry, why he was yelling, and he would respond that he wasn't angry and that he was just like that, and he wouldn't change. I think the one story that really hit me though, was when my oldest sister said, she remembered when she was younger, maybe around kindergarten or primary school - she was holding me as a baby, and I was crying, and she was trying to comfort me. And my dad was playing really loud music at the time, and mom was busy with house chores, and she said she just remembered feeling like something wasn't right, and thinking why was it like this. It hit me then... that this had been going on for YEARS, like from before I was born, probably from the moment my mom had married him, and everything he had been saying were lies. Maybe he meant some of it, because he knew now that we weren't afraid to leave, that we could and would and did leave, that for that he was probably sorry for yelling at us. That all his threats to tell us to get out, while he probably thought would give him control over us at the time, had eventually now come back to bite him in the ass now that we were older and didn't depend on him anymore.
So, today, at this moment, I am sitting at my new desk, in my nice new home, writing this out because, my logical brain KNOWS that we have done the right thing. That my dad, the whole situation with him and how he treats the people around him, his entire behavior, is a classic red flag, textbook case. But despite knowing this, in my heart, in my emotional brain, I feel bad about it. Not enough to want to reach out to him and respond to his requests. But enough that I feel guilt when I'm happy about our new life, like I shouldn't feel this great when he's feeling bad. That my happiness now has come as his expense now. And yes, although I have been angry at him enough to wish him dead many many times over in the past, I think my compassion somehow makes me feel like it's not right to inflict suffering on others for my own sake. But logically, am I really "inflicting" suffering on him? Is it my fault he doesn't know how to be happy with his own life? Just because I was born as his child, doesn't mean I owe him anything, that I'm responsible to make him feel good, does it? Yes, I'm Asian, and Christian, and both of these teach us to respect our elders and take care of our parents. But it can't be at the expense of my own happiness and emotional well-being.
I don't know if I'll ever get into a relationship with someone. I'm 31 years old this year, and I have never been in a romantic relationship. I've had crushes, gone out a couple times for movies or meals, but it's never gone beyond just being casual acquaintances or friends. And I have zero interest in putting myself out there on online dating platforms, or going out to meet new people for the purpose of finding someone. I don't know if it's because of my experience with my dad, that deep down I'm so traumatised that I don't even want to consider putting myself in a situation that could become how it was with my mom and dad. I've seen other people have healthy marriages with loving family bonds, where the father is useful, caring, stable, dependable, and supportive. But I think I'm really afraid that I'm that person that attracts the wrong sort, you know? There's a saying right? That you marry men who are like our fathers? Yes, good relationships exist, but they're what other people get, and since I'm not a good judge of character and easily gullible, it can't possibly happen for me. And while thinking that does make me sad, I also know that maybe it's just better to stay single, so that I'll never be hurt again. Like, the risk isn't worth the potential reward.
Anyway, I hope someone does read this in the entirety, and lets me know what they think about the whole situation that is my life, and also especially my current situation. If there's any advice you could share with me, do you think I'm being too harsh? I do get triggered by my message tones, call tones, and even the office door bell these days, because every time, I'm just reminded that my dad is trying to plead with us to come back, and I'm just so tired of his manipulation and gaslighting and general emotional abuse. And I feel like this is probably more common than I think, and if you can relate to this while you're reading it, I hope you find the courage get out of the bad situation you're in and find your happiness too. If you're in a similar situation, although I have guilty feelings about it, I know it's important to take care of your own well-being, and I hope this helps you to know that you're not alone.

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Now, I get to don my superhero cape and learn the ancient wisdom of Goat Fu from the master himself. Who knows what incredible feats I'll achieve with this newfound knowledge? The world (or at least the goat community) is my oyster!
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JD

Muslims claim to believe in a wise, powerful, limitless God, yet their God is restricted to ONE single form which consists of two right hands and a shin.
Sunan an-Nasa'i 5379

The Prophet [SAW] said: "Those who are just and fair will be with Allah, Most High, on thrones of light, at the right hand of the Most Merciful, those who are just in their rulings and in their dealings with their families and those of whom they are in charge." Muhammad (one of the narrators) said in his Hadith: "And both of His hands are right hands."

https://sunnah.com/nasai:5379
Qur’an 68:42

˹Beware of˺ the Day the Shin ˹of Allah˺ will be bared,¹ and the wicked will be asked to prostrate, but they will not be able to do so,

https://quran.com/en/al-qalam/42
Tafsir Ibn Kathir explanation

Our Lord will reveal His Shin, and every believing male and female will prostrate to Him. The only people who will remain standing are those who prostrated in the worldly life only to be seen and heard (showing off). This type of person will try to prostrate at that time, but his back will made to be one stiff plate (the bone will not bend or flex).)" This Hadith was recorded in the Two Sahihs and other books from different routes of transmission with various wordings. It is a long Hadith that is very popular. Concerning Allah's statement

https://quran.com/68:42/tafsirs/en-tafisr-ibn-kathir
Edit: Way too many comments claiming the divine attributes are metaphorical which is not true. According to Islamic scholarship, the divine attributes stated in the Sunnah and Quran are to be affirmed in a literal sense. Furthermore, the use of metaphors is a rare style in the Arabic language.

‘Uthmaan ibn Sa‘eed ad-Daarimi (d. 280 – may Allah have mercy on him) said:
, may He be exalted, we know about the concept of metaphors from the language of the Arabs, which you have taken and used to confuse and mislead the ignorant. By means of this concept you denied the reality of the divine attributes, on the basis of the metaphor argument. But we say: It is wrong to judge the most common style in the Arabic language on the basis of its rarest style; rather we should understand the statements of the Arabs on the basis of the most common style, unless you can produce proof that what is meant here is the rarer style (namely metaphor). This is the approach that is most fair, and it is not right to approach the divine attributes that are well known and understood as they appear to be by people of common sense, and twist the meaning on the grounds that these are metaphors.
End quote from Naqd ad-Raadirmi ‘ala Bishr al-Mireesi, 2/755

You can find more here
https://islamqa.info/en/answers/151794/the-divine-attributes-are-to-be-affirmed-in-a-literal-sense-not-metaphorical
It is far more logical that a powerful limitless God is like water, shapeless, formless. You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. Yes for those that recognize this analogy, I did just quote Bruce Lee in a theological discussion about God. Stick with me here, I promise it will make FAR MORE sense than Islam's concept of God.
In Bruce Lee's day, there was no "mixed martial arts", it was heavily frowned upon to mix marital arts forms. Boxers believed they were the best fighter, Jiu-Jitsu believed they were the best fighter, Muay-Thai believed they were the best fighter and so on (I think you get the point). Bruce Lee said no, none of you are the best fighter, you're only the best at your single form. The best fighter is one who is shapeless, formless like water taking on multiple forms. And he was right on the money, 30 years before his time, look at mixed martial arts today. This same logic applies to other facets of human life as well such as intelligence, a highly intelligent person may excel in one subject but is well versed in multiple subjects.
If man can see he is most physically powerful training in multiple forms, is more intelligent studying multiple subjects, how is it logical that God, the creator of man and infinitely more wiser, can ONLY be most powerful restricted to ONE single form? This fundamentally makes no logical sense.
Furthermore, the concept of limitless implies God has the ability to choose to do whatever he desires to exact his will, there are no restrictions. If God is restricted to ONE single form, by definition God is limited. We also always hear Muslims and their apologists ask "How can God be/do ____________" which further proves their concept of God is limited. This line of questioning is contradictory to the concept of limitless. If you truly believe God is limitless, you see no limit to what God can be or do.
Lastly lets examine the "wisdom" of Islam's God. Muslims claim the previous scriptures Torah and Injeel, which were delivered by middle men (prophets) got corrupted and God decided to send ANOTHER MIDDLE MAN Muhammad. You know what the definition of doing the same thing over and over and over expecting a different result is? Insanity.

This is a lot to type so I’m going to try to summarize it.
Maddy & I (both 19 y/o freshman in college) signed a lease for a house with a woman named Heidi. Paid deposit- $300 each or something like that. She promised the house would be cleaned, new cabinets would be installed, new back door would be installed. Never heard from Heidi again. 2 days until our move in date we just went and knocked on the door. The then tenants answered and said oh yea Heidi’s not the landlord anymore Jared is & gave Jared’s #. We called & he had no idea we existed or that we had signed the lease for the house . He allows us to move in. No new lease nothing. When we moved in there were bedbugs, mice, & roaches. Jared tried to blame us & we told him there’s literally a bag of bug killer in the garage , that didn’t come from us🙃 we asked about everything Heidi promised and he said he had no idea who she was and that he and his dad bought the house. He got rid of the bugs. We cleaned the entire house ourselves & used the broken cabinets and doors. 5 months pass and I had lost my scholarship (that was supposed to pay my rent) and I was unable to keep up. I texted him and explained my situation and offered extra money on the rent that month to just end the lease without being sued. He replied “just get out” and I did. MONTHS later he mailed the paperwork to my mothers house (who I do not visit often) and had the papers back dated. They were received by her in June & dated for march. Mind you HEIDI took the copies of mine and maddys ID’s when we signed the lease. We never gave Jared contact info because he never asked for it. He had my cell number: the last thing he said was “just get out.” He mailed all of this paperwork to my moms housethat I didn’t live at. He is charging me for things that weren’t our doing like the broken door we were promised would be fixed. The court automatically found maddy and I wrong or guilty because we didn’t make it to any of the court dates. (I was unaware of this case until after the decision was finalized) Anywho here we are years later and they keep filing proceedings supplementals on me.
How can I advocate for myself here? I don’t have any pictures or texts from back then this was 6 years ago ! Also I set up a payment arrangement for $30/month but never actually paid it I just agreed to get them off my back that week. I specifically say to them EVERY TIME they call that I do not understand this process and am unable to advocate for myself. When they asked me do I understand the payment stuff I said NO.
I say this to say- I’ve read that after so long the statute of limitations runs up, but If you make a payment or acknowledge the debt it restarts.
Advice me PLEASE I’m a 24 year old single mom who has no idea what to do here

Good morning, Ladies. Yesterday I promised I would get some links up about Blanche's fixation on Brian Victoria and her desperation to ghost any and all of the early history of the Soka Gakkai. Sorry, I just didn't have the time. They will come soon.
This morning let's keep examining the historical significance of the month of July. We will learn that tbe warmongering pre-war Japanese government arrested President Makiguchi and his disciple Josei Toda in July. Twelve years later a very conservative Japanese post-war government arrested Daisaku Ikeda in an attempt to crush a new social and political movement based on common people. What is the significance of these persecutions to us, people who hopefully will never have to face such persecutions?
Today let's look for answers in the first section, "The Spirit of Selfless Dedication Embodied by the First Three Presidents," from Ikeda Sensei's lecture on "Key Passages from The Record of the Orally Transmitted Teachings," Part 9. This Part is entitled "The 'Encouraging Devotion’ Chapter—The Soka Gakkai Spirit of Striving in Faith With the Conviction That ‘Hardships Are Badges of Honor."
Sensei starts with historical facts:

Mr. Toda, his faithful disciple, survived two years behind bars, finally being released at 7 p.m. on July 3, 1945. He began to rebuild the Soka Gakkai, striving as an invincible champion of the Mystic Law determined to prove his mentor’s true greatness and integrity to the world.

July was the month Josei Toda was arrested, released two years later, and began his efforts to rebuild the Soka Gakkai. Ladies, as our districts grow and the SGI moves into a new phase in its history, let's never forget that it was built by human hands. Great mentors inspired its growth and the work was accomplished through the efforts of great disciples. Between May 3rd and July 3rd is a mere 2 months. Let's have great pride in what we will accomplish.
Sensei continues with our history:

Just after 7 p.m. on July 3, 1957, exactly 12 years after Mr. Toda’s release from prison, I was arrested on completely baseless charges. This was the Osaka Incident, in which the authorities revealed their malicious intent to destroy the Soka Gakkai. I was freed two weeks later, on July 17, and at the Osaka Rally that evening, I vowed along with my beloved fellow members in Kansai that Buddhism would prevail.

The phoenix emerged from the ashes. The young Shin'ichi Yamamoto led an unprecedented campaign to achieve his mentor's dream of a membership of 750,000 households. After the death of President Toda, Ikeda Sensei led the revolutionary expansion and globalization of the movement. And now it is in our hands.
RV Park District has our Zoom planning meeting on Friday. It will be our final with one of our YMD members who graduates at the end of the month. We are going to miss him! "Jim" (I think I gave him another Reddit name earlier) is graduating magna summa cum laude and also competed in several sports. He has many, many friends and earned a full scholarship for graduate studies.
I think he was just born with all of his talent and magnanimity. Guy and Eulogio have developed a strong friendship with him. "We tried to encourage him, but we were always the ones who were encouraged," they keep repeating. I know that the three of them will be staying in touch forever.
Jim has other obligations and cannot make the planning meeting but asked whether he could share his experience at our discussion meeting as his goodbye to the district. He drafted for us what he wants to say. For him, his benefit from strengthening his practice has been developing more self-awareness and appreciation. He has always worked hard and sincerely. But now he finds himself enjoying what he does and seeing himself within a matrix of interlocking human relations and circumstances. This has filled him with wonder. He sees himself as a little boy gazing with amazement at the stars above him.
It's very beautiful and we wish him the very best. We know that many other fine young men will emerge from all of our efforts!
Have a great day, Ladies!
Just a little friendly disclaimer here. I am taking the liberty to quote from Ikeda Sensei's lecture but slightly paraphrase for simplicity's sake. I am going to eliminate footnotes and brackets. Etc, etc, etc. Sue me, if you wish. For the original, please just click on the link above.

Source: https://home.iitk.ac.in/~hcverma/Article/Macaulay-Minutes.pdf

As it seems to be the opinion of some of the gentlemen who compose the Committee of Public Instruction that the course which they have hitherto pursued was strictly prescribed by the British Parliament in 1813 and as, if that opinion be correct, a legislative act will be necessary to warrant a change, I have thought it right to refrain from taking any part in the preparation of the adverse statements which are now before us, and to reserve what I had to say on the subject till it should come before me as a Member of the Council of India.
It does not appear to me that the Act of Parliament can by any art of contraction be made to bear the meaning which has been assigned to it. It contains nothing about the particular languages or sciences which are to be studied. A sum is set apart "for the revival and promotion of literature, and the encouragement of the learned natives of India, and for the introduction and promotion of a knowledge of the sciences among the inhabitants of the British territories." It is argued, or rather taken for granted, that by literature the Parliament can have meant only Arabic and Sanscrit literature; that they never would have given the honourable appellation of "a learned native" to a native who was familiar with the poetry of Milton, the metaphysics of Locke, and the physics of Newton; but that they meant to designate by that name only such persons as might have studied in the sacred books of the Hindoos all the uses of cusa-grass, and all the mysteries of absorption into the Deity. This does not appear to be a very satisfactory interpretation. To take a parallel case: Suppose that the Pacha of Egypt, a country once superior in knowledge to the nations of Europe, but now sunk far below them, were to appropriate a sum for the purpose "of reviving and promoting literature, and encouraging learned natives of Egypt," would any body infer that he meant the youth of his Pachalik to give years to the study of hieroglyphics, to search into all the doctrines disguised under the fable of Osiris, and to ascertain with all possible accuracy the ritual with which cats and onions were anciently adored? Would he be justly charged with inconsistency if, instead of employing his young subjects in deciphering obelisks, he were to order them to be instructed in the English and French languages, and in all the sciences to which those languages are the chief keys?
The words on which the supporters of the old system rely do not bear them out, and other words follow which seem to be quite decisive on the other side. This lakh of rupees is set apart not only for "reviving literature in India," the phrase on which their whole interpretation is founded, but also "for the introduction and promotion of a knowledge of the sciences among the inhabitants of the British territories"-words which are alone sufficient to authorize all the changes for which I contend.
If the Council agree in my construction no legislative act will be necessary. If they differ from me, I will propose a short act rescinding that I clause of the Charter of 1813 from which the difficulty arises.
The argument which I have been considering affects only the form of proceeding. But the admirers of the oriental system of education have used another argument, which, if we admit it to be valid, is decisive against all change. They conceive that the public faith is pledged to the present system, and that to alter the appropriation of any of the funds which have hitherto been spent in encouraging the study of Arabic and Sanscrit would be downright spoliation. It is not easy to understand by what process of reasoning they can have arrived at this conclusion. The grants which are made from the public purse for the encouragement of literature differ in no respect from the grants which are made from the same purse for other objects of real or supposed utility. We found a sanitarium on a spot which we suppose to be healthy. Do we thereby pledge ourselves to keep a sanitarium there if the result should not answer our expectations? We commence the erection of a pier. Is it a violation of the public faith to stop the works, if we afterwards see reason to believe that the building will be useless? The rights of property are undoubtedly sacred. But nothing endangers those rights so much as the practice, now unhappily too common, of attributing them to things to which they do not belong. Those who would impart to abuses the sanctity of property are in truth imparting to the institution of property the unpopularity and the fragility of abuses. If the Government has given to any person a formal assurance-nay, if the Government has excited in any person's mind a reasonable expectation-that he shall receive a certain income as a teacher or a learner of Sanscrit or Arabic, I would respect that person's pecuniary interests. I would rather err on the side of liberality to individuals than suffer the public faith to be called in question. But to talk of a Government pledging itself to teach certain languages and certain sciences, though those languages may become useless, though those sciences may be exploded, seems to me quite unmeaning. There is not a single word in any public instrument from which it can be inferred that the Indian Government ever intended to give any pledge on this subject, or ever considered the destination of these funds as unalterably fixed. But, had it been otherwise, I should have denied the competence of our predecessors to bind us by any pledge on such a subject. Suppose that a Government had in the last century enacted in the most solemn manner that all its subjects should, to the end of time, be inoculated for the small-pox, would that Government be bound to persist in the practice after Jenner's discovery? These promises of which nobody claims the performance, and from which nobody can grant a release, these vested rights which vest in nobody, this property without proprietors, this robbery which makes nobody poorer, may be comprehended by persons of higher faculties than mine. I consider this plea merely as a set form of words, regularly used both in England and in India, in defence of every abuse for which no other plea can be set up.
I hold this lakh of rupees to be quite at the disposal of the Governor-General in Council for the purpose of promoting learning in India in any way which may be thought most advisable. I hold his Lordship to be quite as free to direct that it shall no longer be employed in encouraging Arabic and Sanscrit, as he is to direct that the reward for killing tigers in Mysore shall be diminished, or that no more public money shall be expended on the chaunting at the cathedral.
We now come to the gist of the matter. We have a fund to be employed as Government shall direct for the intellectual improvement of the people of this country. The simple question is, what is the most useful way of employing it?
All parties seem to be agreed on one point, that the dialects commonly spoken among the natives of this part of India contain neither literary nor scientific information, and are moreover so poor and rude that, until they are enriched from some other quarter, it will not be easy to translate any valuable work into them. It seems to be admitted on all sides, that the intellectual improvement of those classes of the people who have the means of pursuing higher studies can at present be affected only by means of some language not vernacular amongst them.
What then shall that language be? One-half of the committee maintain that it should be the English. The other half strongly recommend the Arabic and Sanscrit. The whole question seems to me to be-which language is the best worth knowing?
I have no knowledge of either Sanscrit or Arabic. But I have done what I could to form a correct estimate of their value. I have read translations of the most celebrated Arabic and Sanscrit works. I have conversed, both here and at home, with men distinguished by their proficiency in the Eastern tongues. I am quite ready to take the oriental learning at the valuation of the orientalists themselves. I have never found one among them who could deny that a single shelf of a good European library was worth the whole native literature of India and Arabia. The intrinsic superiority of the Western literature is indeed fully admitted by those members of the committee who support the oriental plan of education.
It will hardly be disputed, I suppose, that the department of literature in which the Eastern writers stand highest is poetry. And I certainly never met with any orientalist who ventured to maintain that the Arabic and Sanscrit poetry could be compared to that of the great European nations. But when we pass from works of imagination to works in which facts are recorded and general principles investigated, the superiority of the Europeans becomes absolutely immeasurable. It is, I believe, no exaggeration to say that all the historical information which has been collected from all the books written in the Sanscrit language is less valuable than what may be found in the most paltry abridgments used at preparatory schools in England. In every branch of physical or moral philosophy, the relative position of the two nations is nearly the same.
How then stands the case? We have to educate a people who cannot at present be educated by means of their mother-tongue. We must teach them some foreign language. The claims of our own language it is hardly necessary to recapitulate. It stands pre- eminent even among the languages of the West. It abounds with works of imagination not inferior to the noblest which Greece has bequeathed to us,-with models of every species of eloquence,-with historical composition, which, considered merely as narratives, have seldom been surpassed, and which, considered as vehicles of ethical and political instruction, have never been equaled-with just and lively representations of human life and human nature,-with the most profound speculations on metaphysics, morals, government, jurisprudence, trade,-with full and correct information respecting every experimental science which tends to preserve the health, to increase the comfort, or to expand the intellect of man. Whoever knows that language has ready access to all the vast intellectual wealth which all the wisest nations of the earth have created and hoarded in the course of ninety generations. It may safely be said that the literature now extant in
that language is of greater value than all the literature which three hundred years ago was extant in all the languages of the world together. Nor is this all. In India, English is the language spoken by the ruling class. It is spoken by the higher class of natives at the seats of Government. It is likely to become the language of commerce throughout the seas of the East. It is the language of two great European communities which are rising, the one in the south of Africa, the other in Australia,-communities which are every year becoming more important and more closely connected with our Indian empire. Whether we look at the intrinsic value of our literature, or at the particular situation of this country, we shall see the strongest reason to think that, of all foreign tongues, the English tongue is that which would be the most useful to our native subjects.
The question now before us is simply whether, when it is in our power to teach this language, we shall teach languages in which, by universal confession, there are no books on any subject which deserve to be compared to our own, whether, when we can teach European science, we shall teach systems which, by universal confession, wherever they differ from those of Europe differ for the worse, and whether, when we can patronize sound philosophy and true history, we shall countenance, at the public expense, medical doctrines which would disgrace an English farrier, astronomy which would move laughter in girls at an English boarding school, history abounding with kings thirty feet high and reigns thirty thousand years long, and geography made of seas of treacle and seas of butter.
We are not without experience to guide us. History furnishes several analogous cases, and they all teach the same lesson. There are, in modern times, to go no further, two memorable instances of a great impulse given to the mind of a whole society, of prejudices overthrown, of knowledge diffused, of taste purified, of arts and sciences planted in countries which had recently been ignorant and barbarous.
The first instance to which I refer is the great revival of letters among the Western nations at the close of the fifteenth and the beginning of the sixteenth century. At that time almost everything that was worth reading was contained in the writings of the ancient Greeks and Romans. Had our ancestors acted as the Committee of Public Instruction has hitherto noted, had they neglected the language of Thucydides and Plato, and the language of Cicero and Tacitus, had they confined their attention to the old dialects of our own island, had they printed nothing and taught nothing at the universities but chronicles in Anglo-Saxon and romances in Norman French,-would England ever have been what she now is? What the Greek and Latin were to the contemporaries of More and Ascham, our tongue is to the people of India. The literature of England is now more valuable than that of classical antiquity. I doubt whether the Sanscrit literature be as valuable as that of our Saxon and Norman progenitors. In some departments-in history for example-I am certain that it is much less so.
Another instance may be said to be still before our eyes. Within the last hundred and twenty years, a nation which had previously been in a state as barbarous as that in which our ancestors were before the Crusades has gradually emerged from the ignorance in which it was sunk, and has taken its place among civilized communities. I speak of Russia. There is now in that country a large educated class abounding with persons fit to
serve the State in the highest functions, and in nowise inferior to the most accomplished men who adorn the best circles of Paris and London. There is reason to hope that this vast empire which, in the time of our grandfathers, was probably behind the Punjab, may in the time of our grandchildren, be pressing close on France and Britain in the career of improvement. And how was this change effected? Not by flattering national prejudices; not by feeding the mind of the young Muscovite with the old women's stories which his rude fathers had believed; not by filling his head with lying legends about St. Nicholas; not by encouraging him to study the great question, whether the world was or not created on the 13th of September; not by calling him "a learned native" when he had mastered all these points of knowledge; but by teaching him those foreign languages in which the greatest mass of information had been laid up, and thus putting all that information within his reach. The languages of western Europe civilised Russia. I cannot doubt that they will do for the Hindoo what they have done for the Tartar.
And what are the arguments against that course which seems to be alike recommended by theory and by experience? It is said that we ought to secure the co- operation of the native public, and that we can do this only by teaching Sanscrit and Arabic.
I can by no means admit that, when a nation of high intellectual attainments undertakes to superintend the education of a nation comparatively ignorant, the learners are absolutely to prescribe the course which is to be taken by the teachers. It is not necessary however to say anything on this subject. For it is proved by unanswerable evidence, that we are not at present securing the co-operation of the natives. It would be bad enough to consult their intellectual taste at the expense of their intellectual health. But we are consulting neither. We are withholding from them the learning which is palatable to them. We are forcing on them the mock learning which they nauseate.
This is proved by the fact that we are forced to pay our Arabic and Sanscrit students while those who learn English are willing to pay us. All the declamations in the world about the love and reverence of the natives for their sacred dialects will never, in the mind of any impartial person, outweigh this undisputed fact, that we cannot find in all our vast empire a single student who will let us teach him those dialects, unless we will pay him.
I have now before me the accounts of the Mudrassa for one month, the month of December, 1833. The Arabic students appear to have been seventy-seven in number. All receive stipends from the public. The whole amount paid to them is above 500 rupees a month. On the other side of the account stands the following item:
Deduct amount realized from the out-students of English for the months of May, June, and July last-103 rupees.
I have been told that it is merely from want of local experience that I am surprised at these phenomena, and that it is not the fashion for students in India to study at their own charges. This only confirms me in my opinions. Nothing is more certain than that it never can in any part of the world be necessary to pay men for doing what they think pleasant
or profitable. India is no exception to this rule. The people of India do not require to be paid for eating rice when they are hungry, or for wearing woollen cloth in the cold season. To come nearer to the case before us:-The children who learn their letters and a little elementary arithmetic from the village schoolmaster are not paid by him. He is paid for teaching them. Why then is it necessary to pay people to learn Sanscrit and Arabic? Evidently because it is universally felt that the Sanscrit and Arabic are languages the knowledge of which does not compensate for the trouble of acquiring them. On all such subjects the state of the market is the detective test.
Other evidence is not wanting, if other evidence were required. A petition was presented last year to the committee by several ex-students of the Sanscrit College. The petitioners stated that they had studied in the college ten or twelve years, that they had made themselves acquainted with Hindoo literature and science, that they had received certificates of proficiency. And what is the fruit of all this? "Notwithstanding such testimonials," they say, "we have but little prospect of bettering our condition without the kind assistance of your honourable committee, the indifference with which we are generally looked upon by our countrymen leaving no hope of encouragement and assistance from them." They therefore beg that they may be recommended to the Governor-General for places under the Government-not places of high dignity or emolument, but such as may just enable them to exist. "We want means," they say, "for a decent living, and for our progressive improvement, which, however, we cannot obtain without the assistance of Government, by whom we have been educated and maintained from childhood." They conclude by representing very pathetically that they are sure that it was never the intention of Government, after behaving so liberally to them during their education, to abandon them to destitution and neglect.
I have been used to see petitions to Government for compensation. All those petitions, even the most unreasonable of them, proceeded on the supposition that some loss had been sustained, that some wrong had been inflicted. These are surely the first petitioners who ever demanded compensation for having been educated gratis, for having been supported by the public during twelve years, and then sent forth into the world well furnished with literature and science. They represent their education as an injury which gives them a claim on the Government for redress, as an injury for which the stipends paid to them during the infliction were a very inadequate compensation. And I doubt not that they are in the right. They have wasted the best years of life in learning what procures for them neither bread nor respect. Surely we might with advantage have saved the cost of making these persons useless and miserable. Surely, men may be brought up to be burdens to the public and objects of contempt to their neighbours at a somewhat smaller charge to the State. But such is our policy. We do not even stand neuter in the contest between truth and falsehood. We are not content to leave the natives to the influence of their own hereditary prejudices. To the natural difficulties which obstruct the progress of sound science in the East, we add great difficulties of our own making. Bounties and premiums, such as ought not to be given even for the propagation of truth, we lavish on false texts and false philosophy.
By acting thus we create the very evil which we fear. We are making that opposition which we do not find. What we spend on the Arabic and Sanscrit Colleges is not merely a
dead loss to the cause of truth. It is bounty-money paid to raise up champions of error. It goes to form a nest not merely of helpless placehunters but of bigots prompted alike by passion and by interest to raise a cry against every useful scheme of education. If there should be any opposition among the natives to the change which I recommend, that opposition will be the effect of our own system. It will be headed by persons supported by our stipends and trained in our colleges. The longer we persevere in our present course, the more formidable will that opposition be. It will be every year reinforced by recruits whom we are paying. From the native society, left to itself, we have no difficulties to apprehend. All the murmuring will come from that oriental interest which we have, by artificial means, called into being and nursed into strength.
There is yet another fact which is alone sufficient to prove that the feeling of the native public, when left to itself, is not such as the supporters of the old system represent it to be. The committee have thought fit to lay out above a lakh of rupees in printing Arabic and Sanscrit books. Those books find no purchasers. It is very rarely that a single copy is disposed of. Twenty-three thousand volumes, most of them folios and quartos, fill the libraries or rather the lumber-rooms of this body. The committee contrive to get rid of some portion of their vast stock of oriental literature by giving books away. But they cannot give so fast as they print. About twenty thousand rupees a year are spent in adding fresh masses of waste paper to a hoard which, one should think, is already sufficiently ample. During the last three years about sixty thousand rupees have been expended in this manner. The sale of Arabic and Sanscrit books during those three years has not yielded quite one thousand rupees. In the meantime, the School Book Society is selling seven or eight thousand English volumes every year, and not only pays the expenses of printing but realizes a profit of twenty per cent. on its outlay.
The fact that the Hindoo law is to be learned chiefly from Sanscrit books, and the Mahometan law from Arabic books, has been much insisted on, but seems not to bear at all on the question. We are commanded by Parliament to ascertain and digest the laws of India. The assistance of a Law Commission has been given to us for that purpose. As soon as the Code is promulgated the Shasters and the Hedaya will be useless to a moonsiff or a Sudder Ameen. I hope and trust that, before the boys who are now entering at the Mudrassa and the Sanscrit College have completed their studies, this great work will be finished. It would be manifestly absurd to educate the rising generation with a view to a state of things which we mean to alter before they reach manhood.
But there is yet another argument which seems even more untenable. It is said that the Sanscrit and the Arabic are the languages in which the sacred books of a hundred millions of people are written, and that they are on that account entitled to peculiar encouragement. Assuredly it is the duty of the British Government in India to be not only tolerant but neutral on all religious questions. But to encourage the study of a literature, admitted to be of small intrinsic value, only because that literature inculcated the most serious errors on the most important subjects, is a course hardly reconcilable with reason, with morality, or even with that very neutrality which ought, as we all agree, to be sacredly preserved. It is confined that a language is barren of useful knowledge. We are to teach it because it is fruitful of monstrous superstitions. We are to teach false history, false astronomy, false medicine, because we find them in company with a false religion.
We abstain, and I trust shall always abstain, from giving any public encouragement to those who are engaged in the work of converting the natives to Christianity. And while we act thus, can we reasonably or decently bribe men, out of the revenues of the State, to waste their youth in learning how they are to purify themselves after touching an ass or what texts of the Vedas they are to repeat to expiate the crime of killing a goat?
It is taken for granted by the advocates of oriental learning that no native of this country can possibly attain more than a mere smattering of English. They do not attempt to prove this. But they perpetually insinuate it. They designate the education which their opponents recommend as a mere spelling-book education. They assume it as undeniable that the question is between a profound knowledge of Hindoo and Arabian literature and science on the one side, and superficial knowledge of the rudiments of English on the other. This is not merely an assumption, but an assumption contrary to all reason and experience. We know that foreigners of all nations do learn our language sufficiently to have access to all the most abstruse knowledge which it contains sufficiently to relish even the more delicate graces of our most idiomatic writers. There are in this very town natives who are quite competent to discuss political or scientific questions with fluency and precision in the English language. I have heard the very question on which I am now writing discussed by native gentlemen with a liberality and an intelligence which would do credit to any member of the Committee of Public Instruction. Indeed it is unusual to find, even in the literary circles of the Continent, any foreigner who can express himself in English with so much facility and correctness as we find in many Hindoos. Nobody, I suppose, will contend that English is so difficult to a Hindoo as Greek to an Englishman. Yet an intelligent English youth, in a much smaller number of years than our unfortunate pupils pass at the Sanscrit College, becomes able to read, to enjoy, and even to imitate not unhappily the compositions of the best Greek authors. Less than half the time which enables an English youth to read Herodotus and Sophocles ought to enable a Hindoo to read Hume and Milton.
To sum up what I have said. I think it clear that we are not fettered by the Act of Parliament of 1813, that we are not fettered by any pledge expressed or implied, that we are free to employ our funds as we choose, that we ought to employ them in teaching what is best worth knowing, that English is better worth knowing than Sanscrit or Arabic, that the natives are desirous to be taught English, and are not desirous to be taught Sanscrit or Arabic, that neither as the languages of law nor as the languages of religion have the Sanscrit and Arabic any peculiar claim to our encouragement, that it is possible to make natives of this country thoroughly good English scholars, and that to this end our efforts ought to be directed.
In one point I fully agree with the gentlemen to whose general views I am opposed. I feel with them that it is impossible for us, with our limited means, to attempt to educate the body of the people. We must at present do our best to form a class who may be interpreters between us and the millions whom we govern, -a class of persons Indian in blood and colour, but English in tastes, in opinions, in morals and in intellect. To that class we may leave it to refine the vernacular dialects of the country, to enrich those dialects with terms of science borrowed from the Western nomenclature, and to render
them by degrees fit vehicles for conveying knowledge to the great mass of the population.
I would strictly respect all existing interests. I would deal even generously with all individuals who have had fair reason to expect a pecuniary provision. But I would strike at the root of the bad system which has hitherto been fostered by us. I would at once stop the printing of Arabic and Sanscrit books. I would abolish the Mudrassa and the Sanscrit College at Calcutta. Benares is the great seat of Brahminical learning; Delhi of Arabic learning. If we retain the Sanscrit College at Bonares and the Mahometan College at Delhi we do enough and much more than enough in my opinion, for the Eastern languages. If the Benares and Delhi Colleges should be retained, I would at least recommend that no stipends shall be given to any students who may hereafter repair thither, but that the people shall be left to make their own choice between the rival systems of education without being bribed by us to learn what they have no desire to know. The funds which would thus be placed at our disposal would enable us to give larger encouragement to the Hindoo College at Calcutta, and establish in the principal cities throughout the Presidencies of Fort William and Agra schools in which the English language might be well and thoroughly taught.
If the decision of His Lordship in Council should be such as I anticipate, I shall enter on the performance of my duties with the greatest zeal and alacrity. If, on the other hand, it be the opinion of the Government that the present system ought to remain unchanged, I beg that I may be permitted to retire from the chair of the Committee. I feel that I could not be of the smallest use there. I feel also that I should be lending my countenance to what I firmly believe to be a mere delusion. I believe that the present system tends not to accelerate the progress of truth but to delay the natural death of expiring errors. I conceive that we have at present no right to the respectable name of a Board of Public Instruction. We are a Board for wasting the public money, for printing books which are of less value than the paper on which they are printed was while it was blank-for giving artificial encouragement to absurd history, absurd metaphysics, absurd physics, absurd theology-for raising up a breed of scholars who find their scholarship an incumbrance and blemish, who live on the public while they are receiving their education, and whose education is so utterly useless to them that, when they have received it, they must either starve or live on the public all the rest of their lives. Entertaining these opinions, I am naturally desirous to decline all share in the responsibility of a body which, unless it alters its whole mode of proceedings, I must consider, not merely as useless, but as positively noxious.

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The Collect
O God, you have prepared for those who love you such good things as surpass our understanding: Pour into our hearts such love towards you, that we, loving you in all things and above all things, may obtain your promises, which exceed all that we can desire; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen
Readings:
Psalm 78:1–39 Leviticus 26:1–20
Gospel: Matthew 13:18–23
18 Hear ye therefore the parable of the sower.
19 When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was sown in his heart. This is he which received seed by the way side.
20 But he that received the seed into stony places, the same is he that heareth the word, and anon with joy receiveth it;
21 Yet hath he not root in himself, but dureth for a while: for when tribulation or persecution ariseth because of the word, by and by he is offended.
22 He also that received seed among the thorns is he that heareth the word; and the care of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, choke the word, and he becometh unfruitful.
23 But he that received seed into the good ground is he that heareth the word, and understandeth it; which also beareth fruit, and bringeth forth, some an hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.
Commentary:
Matthew chapter 13 follows the events of preceding chapter in which we find Jesus moving from controversy to controversy. The disciples provoke a Sabbath controversy by plucking grain on the Sabbath (12:1-8). Jesus provokes a Sabbath controversy by healing on the Sabbath (12:9-14). He heals a demoniac and is accused of healing by the power of Beelzebul. (12:22-32). He gives a short but sharply worded discourse (12:33-37). The scribes and Pharisees ask Jesus for a sign, and he responds with a sharp rebuke and a discourse (12:38-45). The crowd tells Jesus that his mother and brother are waiting outside to talk with him, and Jesus responds, “For whoever does the will of my Father who is in heaven, he is my brother, and sister, and mother”(12:46-50). In the midst of controversy, crowds follow Jesus and he heals many people (12:15-21).
Then in chapter 13 Matthew writes “The same day went Jesus out of the house, and sat by the sea side. And great multitudes were gathered together unto him, so that he went into a ship, and sat; and the whole multitude stood on the shore.” (13:1-2)
Jesus, after a busy morning filled with teaching and confrontations with the Pharisees and even his (earthly) family, went down to the seashore, got into a boat, and began to preach to the multitudes that had been following him.
Matthew explains, “And he spake many things unto them in parables.” The idea behind the word parable is “to throw alongside of.” It is a story thrown alongside the truth intended to teach. Parables have been called “earthly stories with a heavenly meaning.”
Parables generally teach one main point or principle. We can get into trouble by expecting that they be intricate systems of theology, with the smallest detail revealing hidden truths. “A parable is not an allegory; an allegory is a story in which every possible detail has an inner meaning; but an allegory has to be read and studied; a parable is heard. We must be very careful not to make allegories of the parables.” (Barclay)
However, the Parable of the Sower, undoubtedly has certain allegorical aspects. Matthew identifies this as a parable, and verses 3-9 fit the definition of a parable. However, in Jesus’ explanation (vv. 18-23), he gives particular meanings to the seed that is scattered on the various soils —an allegorical approach.
“The question is whether to expand the allegorical approach by labeling other elements of the story as well. For example, some reputable scholars say that Jesus is the sower (Boring, 304; Morris, 335; Senior, 151), but our text does not say that. If Jesus intends this parable to encourage disciples in their proclamation of the Gospel, it would seem that they must be sowers too. We who proclaim the Gospel today are also sowers. It seems best to limit the allegorical approach to elements that Jesus clearly labels as such— namely the seed that falls on the four soils.” (Donovan)
While not as comforting as the Parable of the Prodigal Son or the Parable of the Lost Sheep, the Parable of the Sower is one of Jesus’ best known parables. Preachers use it to warn people against becoming poor soil and to encourage them to be fruitful soil. Also, the church in every century has seen people reject Christ, and this parable gives us a framework for understanding that.
Today we explore the explanation given by our Lord for the discourse that he himself—according to Matthew—referred to as being the Parable of the Sower.
This parable is found in all three Synoptic Gospels. Mark’s version (4:3-8, 13-20) was the first to be written. It is likely that both Matthew and Luke (8:5-8, 11-15) had access to Mark’s version when they penned their own versions.
Chapters 12-13 emphasize two themes: (1) Jesus as the Son of God. (2) The opposition of Jesus’ enemies, who are determined to kill him (Leuking, 72). Here Jesus illustrates how this parable—as well as those that follow—illustrate the core reasons of the opposition he has experienced.
“Hear ye therefore the parable of the sower.” (v. 18) “Jesus gives the parable a title —the parable of the sower. The Gospel of Mark is Matthew’s primary source for this parable, but does not include a title. It seems unlikely that Jesus would be so formal as to give the parable a title, so it is likely Matthew’s addition. Matthew also gives a name to “the parable of the weeds of the field” (13:36).” (Donovan)
In verse 10b, the disciples had asked, “Why speakest thou unto them in parables? ” He gave them a general response in verses 11-17, more of a “why” he used this approach; but now he gives a more detailed explanation of this particular parable.
“Our Lord Jesus kindly took the hint, and gave the sense, and caused them to understand the parable, directing his discourse to the disciples, but in the hearing of the multitude, for we have not the account of his dismissing them till v. 36. "Hear ye therefore the parable of the sower (v. 18); you have heard it, but let us go over it again." Note, It is of good use, and would contribute much to our understanding the word and profiting by it, to hear over again what we have heard (Phil. 3:1); "You have heard it, but hear the interpretation of it.’” (Henry)
“When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was sown in his heart. This is he which received seed by the way side.” (v. 19) Jesus had used the similitude of a farmer sowing seeds, in verse 4, and he used the example of some of the seed falling by the wayside, where they are unable to take root and grow, and birds flock to eat the seeds up.
One of the many doctrines to arise out of the Protestant reformation, Sola Scriptura, or scripture alone—on face value—is not a bad doctrine. However, without instruction, or some sort of standard explaining what the Holy Word of God means, we potentially expose ourselves to the same dilemma that Jesus outlines here. If we, “heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not” we either come to the wrong conclusion of the meaning resulting in a faulty application of the word, or the message fails to take root and we fail to abide in Jesus (see John 15:10) and the powers and principalities “then cometh the wicked one” of this world to claim us and sweep us way. There are many resources online as well in print, that explain the word Holy Word of God as it is traditionally interpreted. Please avail yourself of these wonderful educational resources.
It is vitally important that you seek out the traditional and accepted interpretations when you question the meaning of a passage, should you rely on interpretations arising out of contemporary culture—new age interpretations so to speak—you are again spiritually at risk, as many of these are relativistic in that they reflect the opinions of the author and not traditional scholarship.
The meaning of the word of God does not change, the Word was the same yesterday as it will be the same tomorrow.
If you compare a modern opinion verses something traditional—such as the traditional commentary authored by Matthew Henry who I often cite—and you find a vastly different meaning in the recent opinion, then you have in your hands a prime example of why the New Testament repeatedly warns of the coming of false prophets.
Sometimes we refuse to embrace the word as it makes us uncomfortable or challenges our lifestyle(s) that we covet.
“There are many reasons why a person might choose not to embrace the word. Wealthy people might choose not to understand because of the claims that Jesus might make on their wealth. Powerful people might choose not to understand because of their reluctance to allow Jesus to shape their use of power. Hedonistic people might choose not to understand because they don’t want to give up their sinful pleasures. In Jesus’ day, the scribes and Pharisees refused to understand because to embrace Jesus as the Messiah would turn their religious world upside down.” (Donovan)
“But he that received the seed into stony places, the same is he that heareth the word, and anon with joy receiveth it; Yet hath he not root in himself, but dureth for a while: for when tribulation or persecution ariseth because of the word, by and by he is offended.” (v. 20-21) Some of us may hear the word and not understand it, fail to try to find meaning and inspiration, and fall victim to, as Jesus put it, “the wicked one.” In this case however, some hear the word and understand it receiving the word with great joy. But when the lifestyles we covert, or the persecution of the world becomes apparent, we turn from the word. “Tribulation is a general term for suffering which comes from outside; persecution is deliberately inflicted, and usually implies a religious motive. Falls away is literally ‘is tripped up’; it is not a gradual loss of interest, but a collapse under pressure.” (France)
The seeds of the Word Jesus speaks here, do not fail due to the sudden growth, but rather they fail due to lack of depth. The conversion to Christianity has failed to take sufficient root.
“He also that received seed among the thorns is he that heareth the word; and the care of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, choke the word, and he becometh unfruitful.” (v. 22)
“As seed falling among thorns grew, the stalks of grain were soon choked out (Matthew 13:7), so some respond to the word and grow for a while, but are choked and stopped in their spiritual growth by competition from unspiritual things. This soil represents fertile ground for the word; but their soil is too fertile, because it also grows all sorts of other things that choke out the Word of God; namely, it is the cares of this world and the deceitfulness of riches that choke the word.“ (Guzik)
There has been many a Christian who was very faithful, who gave witness, who taught others of the message of Salvation bringing them to Jesus. But then, all too sadly, they fell victim to the temptations of the world.
How many televangelists have we watched that were faithful teachers, who delivered inspiring sermons touching hearts across the face of the Earth, then they fell from grace after a scandal overshadowed their witness? How many Protestant Preachers or even Catholic Priests and Bishops, people that we looked up to, betrayed not only our trust, but that of the Father’s as well? Consider how many of our neighbors, and even relatives, that were trusted Men and Women of God, until they fell victim to temptation. Yes, sometimes the seed Jesus spoke of takes deep root, it produces, but in the end it is choked out by the weeds of “the wicked one.”
“But he that received seed into the good ground is he that heareth the word, and understandeth it; which also beareth fruit, and bringeth forth, some an hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.” (v. 23)
“This is what number-crunchers call “the bottom line.” Yes, we Christians have wasted our breath preaching to people on the pathway—and rocky ground—and thorny ground. Yes, some of our efforts will never amount to anything. However, that doesn’t matter, because those who hear the word and understand it (take it into their hearts—live by it—stake their lives on it) will produce an abundant harvest.” (Donovan)
This parable warns that initial enthusiasm does not necessarily indicate true discipleship. The best test is the kind of perseverance that survives temptation and produces fruit.
This parable also—albeit indirectly—inculcates the need to be watchful, and willing to come to the spiritual aid, of those that have been choked by the weeds and thorns of the world. In social media posts, we read almost each and everyday of someone explaining how they had heard the word and responded, but turned away due to the thorns—that they perceived Christians to be.
Sometimes these that turn away, do not feel willing to give up their old ways and be born again. Others become disenchanted due to the perceived excesses of Christians. This last Sunday our lesson was on John 15:9–17. This passage is one of the most abused and misunderstood passages in the book of John. Verse 17, which reads, “These things I command you, that ye love one another.” is thought to mean that Christians must love everyone unconditioanlly; which is true, but, in verse 10 Jesus said “If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love.” Which means, that we abide in Jesus, if we truly love Jesus and God the Father, we will obey their commandments, all of the commandments, not just love one another. True love, is sometimes tough love. Jesus demonstrated this “tough love” by calling out those who had twisted his Fathers commandments into a perverse ideology.
Likewise, as followers of Christ, we are to speak truth to sin. We are to do this in a compassionate manner, but none the less we are commanded to help others recognize sin and find repentance—as we ourselves try to do better in our own Christian path—and to rise above sin as we are all sinners.
If your sibling is involved or considering a decisively destructive act, an act that breaks the civil law, do you help them to reconsider, or do you support them unconditionally even if it means they are going to end up in jail or the cemetery? If you truly love your sibling, you will try to demonstrate tough love to dissuade them from taking a path to destruction.
A Christian is called to dissuade others from taking a spiritually destructive path as well. However, some newly converted Christians get “turned off” by other Christians trying to demonstrate true love by speaking truth. Here we have yet another example of what Jesus was speaking of when he referred to seeds that fail to take deep root.
When we focus on passages like John 15:17—the “feel good” passages—and ignore all the other teachings throughout both the Old and New Testaments, what I call “tough love” passages, we become as the seeds Jesus spoke of that fell by the wayside or were choked out by the thorns, those that heard the word but failed to understand it and take it totally to heart.
Benediction
Almighty God, who created us in your image: Grant us grace fearlessly to contend against evil and to make no peace with oppression; and, that we may reverently use our freedom, help us to employ it in the maintenance of justice in our communities and among the nations, to the glory of your holy Name; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.
Thought for the Day:
It ain't those parts of the Bible that I can't understand that bother me, it is the parts that I do understand.
Mark Twain