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2024.06.09 22:48 seeldoger47 [H] $1000 Amazon GC(s) $500 eBay $500 Apple [W] Western Union, LTC, Wise [H] PayPal, Cashapp, LTC, Apple Pay, Varo, Venmo [W] All Your Gift Cards
Warning: I will not message you first. If you were messaged by someone claiming to be me you are in the process of being scammed.
You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.Desktop Users: Comment on this post and Click here to start a trade App Users, please include the following in your PM (Remember to comment on this post as well):
- Type of card(s) and amount of each.
- What payment method you accept.
- How you acquired the GC and why you're getting rid of it.
I only have Steam as a substitute for cash payments in gift card trades.
| Want ↓ | Cash or a Gift Card ↓ | Crypto4 ↓ |
|---|---|---|
| Apple | 60%3 | NA |
| Amazon.ca | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.co.uk | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.com | 70% | 55% |
| Amazon.de | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.es | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.fr | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.it | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.jp | 30% | 30% |
| Arrow Films | 65% | 60% |
| Barnes & Noble | 50% | 50% |
| Baskin Robbins | 60% | 60% |
| Best Buy | 25% | 25% |
| BJ's (not BJ's restaurant)3 | 60% | NA |
| Bloomingdales | 50% | 50% |
| Burger King4 | 60% | NA |
| Clothing Shops (Small Boutique) | contact me | contact me |
| Dell3 | 60% | NA |
| Delta gift cards3 | 65% | NA |
| Delta Sky Miles3 | PM me | NA |
| Delta Vouchers3 | 65% | NA |
| Dicks Sporting Goods 3 | PM me | NA |
| Disney Plus | PM me | PM me |
| Dunkin Donuts3 | 60% | NA |
| eBay | 70% | 70% |
| Fandango3 | 10% | NA |
| Five Guys3 | 60% | NA |
| Gamestop | 60% | 60% |
| Gas Station Cards3 | PM me | NA |
| Gyft | 70% | 70% |
| Half Price Books | 50% | 50% |
| iTunes3 | 60% | NA |
| J crew | 40% | 40% |
| JCPenney | 25% | 25% |
| Jersey Mike Subs3 | 60% | NA |
| KFC3 | 60% | NA |
| Khols | 30% | 30% |
| Macys | 35% | 35% |
| Magazines.com | 40% | 40% |
| McDonald's 3 | 60% | NA |
| Microsoft3 | 60% | NA |
| Moe’s Southwestern Grill3 | 60% | NA |
| Nintendo Eshop3 | 70% | NA |
| Nordstrom | 50% | 50% |
| Panera bread3 | 60% | NA |
| PSN3 | 60 | NA |
| PSN Plus 12 month3 | NA | NA |
| Saks Fifth Avenue | 50% | 50% |
| Sears | 50% | 50% |
| Sephora | 50% | 50% |
| Speedway (must be able to use on fuel)3 | 80% | NA |
| Staples | 50% | 50% |
| Starbucks US only | 55% | 55% |
| Steam3 | 60% | NA |
| Subway 3 | PM me | NA |
| Taco Bell | 60% | NA |
| Target | 50% | 50% |
| Urban Outfitters | 50% | 50% |
| Vudu3 | 50% | NA |
| Walmart | 60% | 60% |
| Wendys3 | 60% | NA |
| Xbox (gift cards)3 | 60% | NA |
| Other Clothing Stores, Gas Stations, Grocery Stores, Restaurant, & Fast Food gift cards | PM me |
What I don’t buy:
Any fees are built into the price.
- Amazon.au
- Bass Pro Shop
- buffalo wild wing
- California Pizza Kitchen
- Canadian tire
- Cold Stone
- Dairy Queen
- Fanatics
- Giant Foods
- Google Play
- Grub Hub
- Gymshark
- Hilton Honors
- Hot Topic
- Krispy Kreme
- old navy/gap/banana republic
- Patxi's pizza
- PSN Canada or UK
- publix
- Raceway
- Scheels
- Shell Gas Stations
- Spotify
- Starbucks Canada
- Tractor supply
- Xbox Canada or UK
- Xbox live gold
Selling
I have:Up to $1000 in Amazon.com (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
Up to $500 in eBay (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
- 90%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 90%: LTC
Up to $500 in Apple.com ($15 and $50 denomination) and am selling at
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
2024.06.09 22:46 seeldoger47 [H] $1000 Amazon, $500 eBay, $500 Apple [W] Western Union, LTC, Wise [H] PayPal, Cash App, Crypto, Chime, Apple Pay, Varo, Venmo [W] Apple, Amazon (CA, Com, DE, ES, FR, IT, UK), B&N, Dunkin, eBay, Grub Hub, Gyft, iTunes, JCPenney, Microsoft, PSN, Steam, Target, Uber, Walmart, Xbox + more
Warning: I will not message you first. If you were messaged by someone claiming to be me you are in the process of being scammed.
You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.Desktop Users: Comment on this post and Click here to start a trade App Users, please include the following in your PM (Remember to comment on this post as well):
- Type of card(s) and amount of each.
- What payment method you accept.
- How you acquired the GC and why you're getting rid of it.
I only have Steam as a substitute for cash payments in gift card trades.
| Want ↓ | Cash or a Gift Card ↓ | Crypto4 ↓ |
|---|---|---|
| Apple | 60%3 | NA |
| Amazon.ca | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.co.uk | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.com | 70% | 55% |
| Amazon.de | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.es | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.fr | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.it | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.jp | 30% | 30% |
| Arrow Films | 65% | 60% |
| Barnes & Noble | 50% | 50% |
| Baskin Robbins | 60% | 60% |
| Best Buy | 25% | 25% |
| BJ's (not BJ's restaurant)3 | 60% | NA |
| Bloomingdales | 50% | 50% |
| Burger King4 | 60% | NA |
| Clothing Shops (Small Boutique) | contact me | contact me |
| Dell3 | 60% | NA |
| Delta gift cards3 | 65% | NA |
| Delta Sky Miles3 | PM me | NA |
| Delta Vouchers3 | 65% | NA |
| Dicks Sporting Goods 3 | PM me | NA |
| Disney Plus | PM me | PM me |
| Dunkin Donuts3 | 60% | NA |
| eBay | 70% | 70% |
| Fandango3 | 10% | NA |
| Five Guys3 | 60% | NA |
| Gamestop | 60% | 60% |
| Gas Station Cards3 | PM me | NA |
| Gyft | 70% | 70% |
| Half Price Books | 50% | 50% |
| iTunes3 | 60% | NA |
| J crew | 40% | 40% |
| JCPenney | 25% | 25% |
| Jersey Mike Subs3 | 60% | NA |
| KFC3 | 60% | NA |
| Khols | 30% | 30% |
| Macys | 35% | 35% |
| Magazines.com | 40% | 40% |
| McDonald's 3 | 60% | NA |
| Microsoft3 | 60% | NA |
| Moe’s Southwestern Grill3 | 60% | NA |
| Nintendo Eshop3 | 70% | NA |
| Nordstrom | 50% | 50% |
| Panera bread3 | 60% | NA |
| PSN3 | 60 | NA |
| PSN Plus 12 month3 | NA | NA |
| Saks Fifth Avenue | 50% | 50% |
| Sears | 50% | 50% |
| Sephora | 50% | 50% |
| Speedway (must be able to use on fuel)3 | 80% | NA |
| Staples | 50% | 50% |
| Starbucks US only | 55% | 55% |
| Steam3 | 60% | NA |
| Subway 3 | PM me | NA |
| Taco Bell | 60% | NA |
| Target | 50% | 50% |
| Urban Outfitters | 50% | 50% |
| Vudu3 | 50% | NA |
| Walmart | 60% | 60% |
| Wendys3 | 60% | NA |
| Xbox (gift cards)3 | 60% | NA |
| Other Clothing Stores, Gas Stations, Grocery Stores, Restaurant, & Fast Food gift cards | PM me |
What I don’t buy:
Any fees are built into the price.
- Amazon.au
- Bass Pro Shop
- buffalo wild wing
- California Pizza Kitchen
- Canadian tire
- Cold Stone
- Dairy Queen
- Fanatics
- Giant Foods
- Google Play
- Grub Hub
- Gymshark
- Hilton Honors
- Hot Topic
- Krispy Kreme
- old navy/gap/banana republic
- Patxi's pizza
- PSN Canada or UK
- publix
- Raceway
- Scheels
- Shell Gas Stations
- Spotify
- Starbucks Canada
- Tractor supply
- Xbox Canada or UK
- Xbox live gold
Selling
I have:Up to $1000 in Amazon.com (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
Up to $500 in eBay (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
- 90%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 90%: LTC
Up to $500 in Apple.com ($15 and $50 denomination) and am selling at
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
2024.06.09 15:43 Silver-Honkler PayPal is a bona fide criminal conspiracy to harvest interest-free loans and is a weapon yielded by the rich to kill small businesses
Well, if you want to do a deep dive into PayPal/Venmo and their shady tactics, look no further than the PayPal and Venmo subreddits. It is an endless stream of people who opened small businesses, used these services within the scope of their TOS, and still managed to have their funds seized for an indeterminate amount of time. Alternatively, Google search results will also serve as an endless source of these claims.
I am a coin dealer. I've been doing it in a hobby capacity for the last 10 years and started getting serious about it in 2019. Even early on, I knew something was wrong with PayPal. Every now and again, some god-fearing Christian boomer who had used it for their coin business since their inception, would fly off the handle that their account got shutdown for no reason, their funds seized, and they struggled to get this money back to them. PayPal claims they only hold it for 180 days, but they almost never return this money to people.
Turns out, you can create obstacles for people trying to get their funds back. You simply toggle their account as fraudulent, or as running a money laundering scheme, or claim it is a national security issue or that it falls under some type of weapon, and you can even get the government involved to delay the return of funds even further.
In these high interest environments, these seized funds serve as 0% interest loans for PayPal.
Now I know what you're thinking. The government will surely step in. The problem is, most politicians who could change how PayPal operates own a sizeable amount of shares. Why would they ever go against their own best interests for a bunch of poor people?
Here's how the scheme works. You set up a legitimate small business on etsy or eBay and it takes off like a rocket. It doesn't make sense to pay fees listing on this platform anymore. You setup a private website and need a payment processor. PayPal has attractive fees so you sign up with them. You build a war chest of say, 10k, and wake up one morning to an email from PayPal that they're holding all your money for "180" days. You've somehow managed to fall into a terms of service violation by selling concert tees and handmade mugs.
You try to contact them but get automated AI prompts. If you ever reach a person, they have a loose grasp of the English language and can't help you anyway. In fact, they're not paid to help you at all. They're paid to frustrate you as much as possible so you give up and PayPal can keep the money.
You escalate and finally move it up a service level or two but get nobody helpful. They tell you that you can sue. However, it is expensive to get an attorney and sue someone, let alone a massive corporation with a warchest of everyone else's money. At the end of the day, they also crippled your source of income, so there's no recourse. You wait the 180 days, thinking PayPal will return your money.
Except they don't. I've met people who have been waiting a few years for their funds. PayPal can setup barriers every step of the way as an excuse to not refund them.
You're savvy so you think, you know, I'll just setup a Venmo account and take payments directly. Except, they're owned by the same company and all you've managed to do is jump from the frying pan into the fire. They collect your IP, name, address and social. You rebuild your business, build a 10k war chest, and "randomly out of the blue", your account gets banned and funds seized. You go through the same motions with them that you did with PayPal. You escalate up a level or two and finally get someone who can help. They inform you that they've cross referenced the data and discovered a banned PayPal account and they'll be keeping the funds for "180 days".
I know what you're thinking. Isn't this some type of fraud? Well, when you own the regulators and government and you're never held accountable, the chance of you ever seeing consequences for your actions is low. You toe the line of your terms of service and victim-blame every step of the way. In fact, you should take note the amount of victim blaming that goes on in subreddits and web forums when someone speaks out. Accusations of selling drugs, defrauding people, or working against America as some kind of terrorist come flying at you like a firehose until you delete your post and try to move on with your life.
And of course, nobody lives forever, so this money that is stuck in limbo sometimes belongs to people who pass away. It becomes part of their estate. Surviving family members (if there are any) would have no idea you even had this going on. PayPal pockets the money. It's pure profit.
I've been banned from web-based internet forums for pointing this out. I'm still banned or shadow banned from finance subs here on reddit. If you don't believe me you should go to some of them and start asking questions. Wallstreetbets will absolutely ban you. Turns out the moderators there have huge positions in PayPal.
Anyway, this is turning into a novel, but I think I've hit the nail on the head with this one. I hope I'm not banned here, too. It's really easy for these people to hide under the guise of money laundering, banking regulation, and foreign weapons sales while stealing your money legally and harvesting 0% interest loans from the working class. Baked into their money-grab is the side effect of killing small businesses. You can never have competitors if you kill every small business when it is still a babe in its cradle.
IMO, this is the largest bona fide, actual criminal conspiracy hiding in plain sight since FTX. Additionally, I think eBay got nervous about this in 2022, and is why they switched to eBay managed payments.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
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I am a coin dealer. I've been doing it in a hobby capacity for the last 10 years and started getting serious about it in 2019. Even early on, I knew something was wrong with PayPal. Every now and again, some god-fearing Christian boomer who had used it for their coin business since their inception, would fly off the handle that their account got shutdown for no reason, their funds seized, and they struggled to get this money back to them. PayPal claims they only hold it for 180 days, but they almost never return this money to people.
Turns out, you can create obstacles for people trying to get their funds back. You simply toggle their account as fraudulent, or as running a money laundering scheme, or claim it is a national security issue or that it falls under some type of weapon, and you can even get the government involved to delay the return of funds even further.
In these high interest environments, these seized funds serve as 0% interest loans for PayPal.
Now I know what you're thinking. The government will surely step in. The problem is, most politicians who could change how PayPal operates own a sizeable amount of shares. Why would they ever go against their own best interests for a bunch of poor people?
Here's how the scheme works. You set up a legitimate small business on etsy or eBay and it takes off like a rocket. It doesn't make sense to pay fees listing on this platform anymore. You setup a private website and need a payment processor. PayPal has attractive fees so you sign up with them. You build a war chest of say, 10k, and wake up one morning to an email from PayPal that they're holding all your money for "180" days. You've somehow managed to fall into a terms of service violation by selling concert tees and handmade mugs.
You try to contact them but get automated AI prompts. If you ever reach a person, they have a loose grasp of the English language and can't help you anyway. In fact, they're not paid to help you at all. They're paid to frustrate you as much as possible so you give up and PayPal can keep the money.
You escalate and finally move it up a service level or two but get nobody helpful. They tell you that you can sue. However, it is expensive to get an attorney and sue someone, let alone a massive corporation with a warchest of everyone else's money. At the end of the day, they also crippled your source of income, so there's no recourse. You wait the 180 days, thinking PayPal will return your money.
Except they don't. I've met people who have been waiting a few years for their funds. PayPal can setup barriers every step of the way as an excuse to not refund them.
You're savvy so you think, you know, I'll just setup a Venmo account and take payments directly. Except, they're owned by the same company and all you've managed to do is jump from the frying pan into the fire. They collect your IP, name, address and social. You rebuild your business, build a 10k war chest, and "randomly out of the blue", your account gets banned and funds seized. You go through the same motions with them that you did with PayPal. You escalate up a level or two and finally get someone who can help. They inform you that they've cross referenced the data and discovered a banned PayPal account and they'll be keeping the funds for "180 days".
I know what you're thinking. Isn't this some type of fraud? Well, when you own the regulators and government and you're never held accountable, the chance of you ever seeing consequences for your actions is low. You toe the line of your terms of service and victim-blame every step of the way. In fact, you should take note the amount of victim blaming that goes on in subreddits and web forums when someone speaks out. Accusations of selling drugs, defrauding people, or working against America as some kind of terrorist come flying at you like a firehose until you delete your post and try to move on with your life.
And of course, nobody lives forever, so this money that is stuck in limbo sometimes belongs to people who pass away. It becomes part of their estate. Surviving family members (if there are any) would have no idea you even had this going on. PayPal pockets the money. It's pure profit.
I've been banned from web-based internet forums for pointing this out. I'm still banned or shadow banned from finance subs here on reddit. If you don't believe me you should go to some of them and start asking questions. Wallstreetbets will absolutely ban you. Turns out the moderators there have huge positions in PayPal.
Anyway, this is turning into a novel, but I think I've hit the nail on the head with this one. I hope I'm not banned here, too. It's really easy for these people to hide under the guise of money laundering, banking regulation, and foreign weapons sales while stealing your money legally and harvesting 0% interest loans from the working class. Baked into their money-grab is the side effect of killing small businesses. You can never have competitors if you kill every small business when it is still a babe in its cradle.
IMO, this is the largest bona fide, actual criminal conspiracy hiding in plain sight since FTX. Additionally, I think eBay got nervous about this in 2022, and is why they switched to eBay managed payments.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
2024.06.09 12:36 wherethereiswill123 PayPal - Get up to £220 - £10 for sign up and £5 spend, Further £10 for £5 spend in Playstore
PayPal may not require an introduction unless you are living under a rock. If you don't know about PayPal it is an online payment system useful both for sending and receiving payments using just email addresses (easy-to-do). Paypal is accepted as a payment gateway/system in almost every web based shopping system worldwide.
Further £10 for £5 spend in Playstore is available for existing PayPal users as well
Here is how to get your free £10 + £10:
Step 1: Sign up with my Referral link by clicking here
Step 2: Add and link your credit or debit card or bank account to PayPal.
Step 3: Spend or send at least £5 anywhere (other than playstore) where Paypal is accepted as a payment method (Most online website do: Ebay, Amazon and so on.). You can buy a giftcard through Amazon. You can also send £5 to someone you know with their email ID. Make sure to choose personal and not business while sending your payment to someone personally so that no charges are incurred. Enjoy your £20 bonus.
Step 4: This is more suitable for Android phone/tablet users. Spend £5 in the Google playstore. You can use this £5 to buy movies, books, apps or game resources for your GPT tasks. A further £10 will be credited to your account.
Share your referral code to others to get up to £200. Thanks for using my referral code.
Referral link £10 bonus
Non-ref No £10 bonus
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Further £10 for £5 spend in Playstore is available for existing PayPal users as well
Here is how to get your free £10 + £10:
Step 1: Sign up with my Referral link by clicking here
Step 2: Add and link your credit or debit card or bank account to PayPal.
Step 3: Spend or send at least £5 anywhere (other than playstore) where Paypal is accepted as a payment method (Most online website do: Ebay, Amazon and so on.). You can buy a giftcard through Amazon. You can also send £5 to someone you know with their email ID. Make sure to choose personal and not business while sending your payment to someone personally so that no charges are incurred. Enjoy your £20 bonus.
Step 4: This is more suitable for Android phone/tablet users. Spend £5 in the Google playstore. You can use this £5 to buy movies, books, apps or game resources for your GPT tasks. A further £10 will be credited to your account.
Share your referral code to others to get up to £200. Thanks for using my referral code.
Referral link £10 bonus
Non-ref No £10 bonus
2024.06.09 10:19 Particular-Purpose99 ebay suspended accounts etc
So a short one from me. I got my account suspended after my big amount purchase and first ever. Read so many things online saying how the eBay team sucks and give you no reason about suspension and stuff and that you are doomed to eternity . Freaked out a good amount up until I got an emailed answer to the issue I asked support for.
Not only the team did answer, not only did they explain more than enough what happened, they immediately asked sorry and reinstated me before I even knew it.
So to all of you out there looking to use eBay and read the bad comments about it, I would say those dumbs just got banned for some reason and they just got pissed of on eBay and wanna try to hurt it.
I feel like it’s a totally safe environment after freaking out for 14 hours . The support says it need 24-48 hours to answer on emails. Well it was 14 for me. Recommended platform for non fraud transactions!!!!
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Not only the team did answer, not only did they explain more than enough what happened, they immediately asked sorry and reinstated me before I even knew it.
So to all of you out there looking to use eBay and read the bad comments about it, I would say those dumbs just got banned for some reason and they just got pissed of on eBay and wanna try to hurt it.
I feel like it’s a totally safe environment after freaking out for 14 hours . The support says it need 24-48 hours to answer on emails. Well it was 14 for me. Recommended platform for non fraud transactions!!!!
2024.06.09 09:32 Active_Whereas8035 My 31F ex 31F seems to enjoy hurting me even after we are no longer together. Am I looking into it too much?
My ex Sarah, initiated a breakup because I was too physically ill for her to want to take care of me. Long story short but she gave me a rare STD from a past partner that caused permanent damage to my body. I knew it was her because I had only ever had two sex partners my entire life and my other partner had tested negative for that rare STD. Before doctors could find out what was wrong with me, I developed severe and sudden onset symptoms including frequent vomiting and nausea, severe weight loss, and limping as my legs no longer worked properly. It bothered her that we couldn't party and do all the things she wanted to do. Also, Sarah transitioned from male to female in the middle of our relationship and I welcomed it with open arms because I loved her. I went to clubs with her even though I was disabled and tried to make sure she felt loved and supported as much as possible.
Sarah however, would never return the favor. She would often become cold and distant when I was sick and once even left me on the cold floor of a hotel covered in my own vomit and urine. I begged her to call an ambulance and she turned around and pretended to sleep. When I was finally able to get the strength to get off the ground 7 hours later, I called myself an Uber to the hospital. It turned out that I had a stomach blockage. When I confronted her about this she said she didn't believe that I was ever sick because she "had an ex who lied about having cancer". I showed her official paperwork of multiple diagnoses as a result of this STD. She apologized, told me she believed me, but even then still treated me as though I was still an inconvenience. I felt so embarrassed every time she wanted to go out and party, and I could barely even walk.
There were many instances of verbal abuse as well, often in public places. For example, we went out on a date at a bar once. I had let her know that due to a family emergency, I might take out my phone a few times. The second I take my phone out, she bashed the table, tossed the chair, left a $100 bill on the table and walked out even before the food even came. I was so humiliated and other people asked if I was okay. She apologized after, but that is just one of many instances of this kind of behavior. I am not a perfect human by any means but when I tell you not ONCE did I ever raise my voice at her in the entire relationship... I have a very big fear of confrontation so the way she responded to things caused me to develop panic disorder and symptoms of schizophrenia. I was hospitalized 42 times in one year usually with a BPM over 150 and was admitted to a psych ward. Keep in mind, before I met her I had no prior mental health history. I had a stable job, a healthy body and was never on mental health medications. My only prior relationship of 5 years was also stable and loving but my partner moved across the country so we chose to end things.
The underlying issue was that Sarah was on a cocktail of medications, Antidepressants, anxiety medication, ADHD medication and another drug for mental health which I can't recall. Because of her ADHD, she would sometimes forget to pick up her medications. At the same time, she was experimenting with different medications and dosages (under doctor supervision). This meant she was always on a different combination of psychiatric medications throughout out relationship. Her mood was really unpredictable and I never knew when she would snap. For example, we had just went to ikea that day and everything was great. We had a fun time installing curtains in her new apartment. I would sometimes suffer from really bad brain fog from the antibiotics and panic attack meds I was always on. Well apparently I didn't realize I made a face after she asked me to pass her something, which caused her to yell "Stop making that stupid fucking face I cant stand it". Then she proceeded to mock me...
She would also go through my phone behind my back, accusing me of cheating when I would never do such a thing and there was nothing to even possibly HINT at the thought. She said she did this because her "exes all cheated". Even though she would always go to gay bars alone wearing nothing but lingerie. And I never bothered her once about it. I didn't want to interfere with her freedom of expression. She was finding her new identity (transitioning from male to female)
After 4 long years she broke up with me in public after I coincidentally bumped into her at a bar when our mutual friend and I went out for drinks. Sarah was talking to other girls but I was just so happy to see her and ran to give her a hug. But she seemed upset that I had ruined her day. She went on a rant for 20 minutes about how she can't stand me always being sick and said she fell out of love with me a few months back but didn't want to tell me. She told me soulmates don't exist (I never said they did), how I am "not special" (never said I was) and she could "find someone tonight if she wanted to".
The panic attack I had from her yelling at me so much in public was so bad that I started puking blood. I was taken by ambulance to the hospital and after she never checked up on me. Instead I woke up in the hospital the next day to see that she started following hundreds of plus sized porn stars and sharing their posts. After causing me to drop to 91 lbs at 5'8".
After that I blocked her on all social medias. I had also blocked her number. One day about 6 months after the breakup I received a voicemail from her from another number. She said it was an emergency and was crying so I called her back. She told me how her hamster died because she forgot to feed her and was crying and blaming her ADHD saying she basically forgot the hamster existed. This turned into a long conversation about her apologizing, her feeling lonely because no one wants to date her. She moved across the country and I made it very clear, I had not even the slightest interest in getting back with her.
She said she cared about me as a friend and missed the friendship we had. I agreed to remain friends but only unblocked her on Instagram. She then started sharing with me intimate details of her sex life with strangers and other people she would meet at bars. It seemed like every conversation would turn into her sending me memes about sucking off trans girls and trans penises. Then she would tell me how she was good at sucking dick and would only top people. Then it progressed into telling me how trans girls anuses felt better than vaginas and that was really the last straw for me. I had told her numerous times this made me uncomfortable. She said she was just sharing information that she shares with all her female friends and made me seem unreasonable for not wanting to discuss her sex life. Especially when she knew I was dealing with a death in the family at the same time. And I'm not just a female friend, I pictured myself at one point spending my life with her. Why do I want to picture her sucking dick and what her partner's penises look like?
I make it clear that she has a very bad issue with respecting boundaries and I block her instagram. About 3 weeks later, she makes a new account with the same picture and almost the same name. She likes my posts and all my stories. I go to the page to check the account because I was confused as I thought I blocked her already. As soon as she liked my posts with this alt account, she uploads photos of her making out with other people and talks about how good dick is. Was this behavior intentional or am I just looking too hard into things? I just can't understand what I did to deserve any of this...
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Sarah however, would never return the favor. She would often become cold and distant when I was sick and once even left me on the cold floor of a hotel covered in my own vomit and urine. I begged her to call an ambulance and she turned around and pretended to sleep. When I was finally able to get the strength to get off the ground 7 hours later, I called myself an Uber to the hospital. It turned out that I had a stomach blockage. When I confronted her about this she said she didn't believe that I was ever sick because she "had an ex who lied about having cancer". I showed her official paperwork of multiple diagnoses as a result of this STD. She apologized, told me she believed me, but even then still treated me as though I was still an inconvenience. I felt so embarrassed every time she wanted to go out and party, and I could barely even walk.
There were many instances of verbal abuse as well, often in public places. For example, we went out on a date at a bar once. I had let her know that due to a family emergency, I might take out my phone a few times. The second I take my phone out, she bashed the table, tossed the chair, left a $100 bill on the table and walked out even before the food even came. I was so humiliated and other people asked if I was okay. She apologized after, but that is just one of many instances of this kind of behavior. I am not a perfect human by any means but when I tell you not ONCE did I ever raise my voice at her in the entire relationship... I have a very big fear of confrontation so the way she responded to things caused me to develop panic disorder and symptoms of schizophrenia. I was hospitalized 42 times in one year usually with a BPM over 150 and was admitted to a psych ward. Keep in mind, before I met her I had no prior mental health history. I had a stable job, a healthy body and was never on mental health medications. My only prior relationship of 5 years was also stable and loving but my partner moved across the country so we chose to end things.
The underlying issue was that Sarah was on a cocktail of medications, Antidepressants, anxiety medication, ADHD medication and another drug for mental health which I can't recall. Because of her ADHD, she would sometimes forget to pick up her medications. At the same time, she was experimenting with different medications and dosages (under doctor supervision). This meant she was always on a different combination of psychiatric medications throughout out relationship. Her mood was really unpredictable and I never knew when she would snap. For example, we had just went to ikea that day and everything was great. We had a fun time installing curtains in her new apartment. I would sometimes suffer from really bad brain fog from the antibiotics and panic attack meds I was always on. Well apparently I didn't realize I made a face after she asked me to pass her something, which caused her to yell "Stop making that stupid fucking face I cant stand it". Then she proceeded to mock me...
She would also go through my phone behind my back, accusing me of cheating when I would never do such a thing and there was nothing to even possibly HINT at the thought. She said she did this because her "exes all cheated". Even though she would always go to gay bars alone wearing nothing but lingerie. And I never bothered her once about it. I didn't want to interfere with her freedom of expression. She was finding her new identity (transitioning from male to female)
After 4 long years she broke up with me in public after I coincidentally bumped into her at a bar when our mutual friend and I went out for drinks. Sarah was talking to other girls but I was just so happy to see her and ran to give her a hug. But she seemed upset that I had ruined her day. She went on a rant for 20 minutes about how she can't stand me always being sick and said she fell out of love with me a few months back but didn't want to tell me. She told me soulmates don't exist (I never said they did), how I am "not special" (never said I was) and she could "find someone tonight if she wanted to".
The panic attack I had from her yelling at me so much in public was so bad that I started puking blood. I was taken by ambulance to the hospital and after she never checked up on me. Instead I woke up in the hospital the next day to see that she started following hundreds of plus sized porn stars and sharing their posts. After causing me to drop to 91 lbs at 5'8".
After that I blocked her on all social medias. I had also blocked her number. One day about 6 months after the breakup I received a voicemail from her from another number. She said it was an emergency and was crying so I called her back. She told me how her hamster died because she forgot to feed her and was crying and blaming her ADHD saying she basically forgot the hamster existed. This turned into a long conversation about her apologizing, her feeling lonely because no one wants to date her. She moved across the country and I made it very clear, I had not even the slightest interest in getting back with her.
She said she cared about me as a friend and missed the friendship we had. I agreed to remain friends but only unblocked her on Instagram. She then started sharing with me intimate details of her sex life with strangers and other people she would meet at bars. It seemed like every conversation would turn into her sending me memes about sucking off trans girls and trans penises. Then she would tell me how she was good at sucking dick and would only top people. Then it progressed into telling me how trans girls anuses felt better than vaginas and that was really the last straw for me. I had told her numerous times this made me uncomfortable. She said she was just sharing information that she shares with all her female friends and made me seem unreasonable for not wanting to discuss her sex life. Especially when she knew I was dealing with a death in the family at the same time. And I'm not just a female friend, I pictured myself at one point spending my life with her. Why do I want to picture her sucking dick and what her partner's penises look like?
I make it clear that she has a very bad issue with respecting boundaries and I block her instagram. About 3 weeks later, she makes a new account with the same picture and almost the same name. She likes my posts and all my stories. I go to the page to check the account because I was confused as I thought I blocked her already. As soon as she liked my posts with this alt account, she uploads photos of her making out with other people and talks about how good dick is. Was this behavior intentional or am I just looking too hard into things? I just can't understand what I did to deserve any of this...
2024.06.09 06:27 gl00my834r struggling to believe i was not the abuser
sorry if this is long. i want to spill my guts.
this has been going on years, but i had never considered narc abuse. my (27F) ex (29F) made an offhand comment that she “was diagnosed with npd, but mostly over it now”. i was afraid to talk about her to my therapist, but even before i mentioned the diagnosis to her, she was able to make the connection. so that’s how this unpacking has begun.
i had a breakdown a few weeks ago regarding my guilt. my ex did not argue with anything I apologized for, simply saying she was still hurt but that i could still get better, and she loves me anyway. i haven’t really been able to eat for weeks.
she was an absolute angel to me at the beginning, I had never been happier than i had been with her. after we moved in together, the devaluing began. each time i had an insecurity or was upset, she became distant and defensive. she didn’t show vulnerability, but never took accountability. never lashed out. never said i hurt her.
my mental health deteriorated. my friends told me it was due to the relationship, but i later convinced myself that i had manipulated them into thinking i was a victim. i looked into if i had BPD, thinking i was splitting. why was i upset with someone so kind and loving?
as i became suicidal, she abruptly discarded me. i was confused, as her wording wasn’t direct. i continued to be affectionate.
i found that she had been tweeting about me on her vent account (i had deactivated my account where i followed her temporarily due to shame, and reactivated), saying how horrible and annoying I was, that I didn’t take no for an answer. i had a meltdown, begged her to come home bc i did not feel safe. she did, then abruptly stormed out. i held (hugged?) her to keep her from leaving, not thinking of the implications. i was on a concoction of medication and alcohol, already overdosing. i thought i was too weak to stop her, if she truly wanted to leave, and that she stopped bc she cared for me.
i blew up her phone after she left. she blocked me everywhere.
she kept promising to come back to our apartment, but never did. our lease renewal was due, and she abruptly said she was not going to renew. i can not remember the details of how i received this information. i “didn’t know” when she suddenly revealed it to our roommates, and I was humiliated as she calmly assured me she had told me days ago.
I don’t have a good recollection of the months following. we were on and off in communication. she often would bring up me holding her in our apartment, calling me an abuser who wanted to hurt her.
i consistently made throwaway accounts, etc. to block evade and get into contact with her during the off times. i would often black out and not remember doing this.
the absolute worst was when i showed up at her apartment bc I couldn’t get a hold of her. I wasn’t angry, nor did i have intentions to hurt her. she finally saw me, hugged me, said she would unblock me. never did. i’m ashamed to say i repeated the stalking, showing up again while i believe i was having a psychotic episode. she threatened to get a restraining order, i attempted suicide outside in public while my friends begged her to go outside and help, but she refused. she later claimed she never intended to actually pursue legal action.
as this all went on, she occasionally would see me. it was always for money, or for sex. or it led to it.
at some point, I begged her to pretend to be in a relationship with me because I was scared of my own brain, and she agreed. she had sex with me the same night while I was under the impression that we were together.
another time, she said she was confused about her feelings but loved me, and then it followed. another two times were results of my own hypersexuality, which was just a desperate need for attention. I think i was manipulative, as I knew she would go for it. she was terrified of coming to where I was staying, feeling unsafe around me. i begged her for sex and she showed up immediately. the last time was recent, after we had discussed going through with it thoroughly beforehand. she visited and immediately began touching me and then pulled back, saying her friends would laugh at her, she should hold back. i said maybe she shouldn’t tell her friends? i was embarrassed that this personal information was being spread. she later told me she only had sex with me because I was suicidal and she was scared. she later said I assaulted her, that I ignored her wishes to stop. she has sexual trauma of her own, and said she uses sex to appease people she’s afraid of, and she’s afraid of me. she hated it but wanted to make me happy, “and doesn’t that count for something?”. she began spreading that I took advantage of her sexually. i am still mortified that I hurt her. i feel bad for questioning the validity of her claims, as she always had poor self control around me, even crying because she felt so ashamed of how she started to touch me inappropriately any time we spent time together.
at one point, she unblocked me briefly so I could give her money. we got the security deposit back on the apartment, which I had paid all of. she never finished paying me back, but I still gave her “her portion” back. she was friendly, then blocked me immediately after. i attempted suicide that night. she continued to refuse to speak to me, and doesn’t condemn our then mutual friend for not intervening.
at this point she owes me over $1000, not including gifts. she claimed she didn’t owe me anything due to my abuse. she frequently leans into the fact that i’m more financially steady than she is, implying it’s cruel for me to even discuss this. i forgave her debts. i still buy her gifts. i never hold it over her head anymore.
we got back together abruptly about a year ago, then she dumped me again in october. i blacked out that day, and tried to kill myself. she refused to see me, blocking me again. our relationship seemed fine until i was discarded. i broke and began demanding she date me, threatening suicide. it wasn’t an empty threat. i feel horrible for this.
she remained friends with me despite this. we had an on and off “situationship” that she says she participated in out of fear.
i’m mortified. i hate myself deeply. i hate hurting her, contributing to her trauma. am i a stalker? abuser? rapist? i’ve never behaved this way before. my friends know me to be emotionally stable and kind.
she has said directly that she can’t bring herself to feel guilty about anything she’s done to me. she only broke down once in guilt, before we started dating again. otherwise she has maintained she did nothing wrong, and that i am mentally unwell and constantly ignore her boundaries. she would cut anyone else off for this, but she loves me.
in all of her message logs, she is calm. she never rages at me. it makes me feel as if i’ve made up my abuse.
i pushed her to take accountability recently and she suddenly said all she wanted was space, and i never gave it to her. I agreed not to speak unless spoken to for the time being.
i’ve never been this unstable or volatile. i don’t recognize myself anymore.
am i the abuser after all? am i the one twisting the narrative?
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this has been going on years, but i had never considered narc abuse. my (27F) ex (29F) made an offhand comment that she “was diagnosed with npd, but mostly over it now”. i was afraid to talk about her to my therapist, but even before i mentioned the diagnosis to her, she was able to make the connection. so that’s how this unpacking has begun.
i had a breakdown a few weeks ago regarding my guilt. my ex did not argue with anything I apologized for, simply saying she was still hurt but that i could still get better, and she loves me anyway. i haven’t really been able to eat for weeks.
she was an absolute angel to me at the beginning, I had never been happier than i had been with her. after we moved in together, the devaluing began. each time i had an insecurity or was upset, she became distant and defensive. she didn’t show vulnerability, but never took accountability. never lashed out. never said i hurt her.
my mental health deteriorated. my friends told me it was due to the relationship, but i later convinced myself that i had manipulated them into thinking i was a victim. i looked into if i had BPD, thinking i was splitting. why was i upset with someone so kind and loving?
as i became suicidal, she abruptly discarded me. i was confused, as her wording wasn’t direct. i continued to be affectionate.
i found that she had been tweeting about me on her vent account (i had deactivated my account where i followed her temporarily due to shame, and reactivated), saying how horrible and annoying I was, that I didn’t take no for an answer. i had a meltdown, begged her to come home bc i did not feel safe. she did, then abruptly stormed out. i held (hugged?) her to keep her from leaving, not thinking of the implications. i was on a concoction of medication and alcohol, already overdosing. i thought i was too weak to stop her, if she truly wanted to leave, and that she stopped bc she cared for me.
i blew up her phone after she left. she blocked me everywhere.
she kept promising to come back to our apartment, but never did. our lease renewal was due, and she abruptly said she was not going to renew. i can not remember the details of how i received this information. i “didn’t know” when she suddenly revealed it to our roommates, and I was humiliated as she calmly assured me she had told me days ago.
I don’t have a good recollection of the months following. we were on and off in communication. she often would bring up me holding her in our apartment, calling me an abuser who wanted to hurt her.
i consistently made throwaway accounts, etc. to block evade and get into contact with her during the off times. i would often black out and not remember doing this.
the absolute worst was when i showed up at her apartment bc I couldn’t get a hold of her. I wasn’t angry, nor did i have intentions to hurt her. she finally saw me, hugged me, said she would unblock me. never did. i’m ashamed to say i repeated the stalking, showing up again while i believe i was having a psychotic episode. she threatened to get a restraining order, i attempted suicide outside in public while my friends begged her to go outside and help, but she refused. she later claimed she never intended to actually pursue legal action.
as this all went on, she occasionally would see me. it was always for money, or for sex. or it led to it.
at some point, I begged her to pretend to be in a relationship with me because I was scared of my own brain, and she agreed. she had sex with me the same night while I was under the impression that we were together.
another time, she said she was confused about her feelings but loved me, and then it followed. another two times were results of my own hypersexuality, which was just a desperate need for attention. I think i was manipulative, as I knew she would go for it. she was terrified of coming to where I was staying, feeling unsafe around me. i begged her for sex and she showed up immediately. the last time was recent, after we had discussed going through with it thoroughly beforehand. she visited and immediately began touching me and then pulled back, saying her friends would laugh at her, she should hold back. i said maybe she shouldn’t tell her friends? i was embarrassed that this personal information was being spread. she later told me she only had sex with me because I was suicidal and she was scared. she later said I assaulted her, that I ignored her wishes to stop. she has sexual trauma of her own, and said she uses sex to appease people she’s afraid of, and she’s afraid of me. she hated it but wanted to make me happy, “and doesn’t that count for something?”. she began spreading that I took advantage of her sexually. i am still mortified that I hurt her. i feel bad for questioning the validity of her claims, as she always had poor self control around me, even crying because she felt so ashamed of how she started to touch me inappropriately any time we spent time together.
at one point, she unblocked me briefly so I could give her money. we got the security deposit back on the apartment, which I had paid all of. she never finished paying me back, but I still gave her “her portion” back. she was friendly, then blocked me immediately after. i attempted suicide that night. she continued to refuse to speak to me, and doesn’t condemn our then mutual friend for not intervening.
at this point she owes me over $1000, not including gifts. she claimed she didn’t owe me anything due to my abuse. she frequently leans into the fact that i’m more financially steady than she is, implying it’s cruel for me to even discuss this. i forgave her debts. i still buy her gifts. i never hold it over her head anymore.
we got back together abruptly about a year ago, then she dumped me again in october. i blacked out that day, and tried to kill myself. she refused to see me, blocking me again. our relationship seemed fine until i was discarded. i broke and began demanding she date me, threatening suicide. it wasn’t an empty threat. i feel horrible for this.
she remained friends with me despite this. we had an on and off “situationship” that she says she participated in out of fear.
i’m mortified. i hate myself deeply. i hate hurting her, contributing to her trauma. am i a stalker? abuser? rapist? i’ve never behaved this way before. my friends know me to be emotionally stable and kind.
she has said directly that she can’t bring herself to feel guilty about anything she’s done to me. she only broke down once in guilt, before we started dating again. otherwise she has maintained she did nothing wrong, and that i am mentally unwell and constantly ignore her boundaries. she would cut anyone else off for this, but she loves me.
in all of her message logs, she is calm. she never rages at me. it makes me feel as if i’ve made up my abuse.
i pushed her to take accountability recently and she suddenly said all she wanted was space, and i never gave it to her. I agreed not to speak unless spoken to for the time being.
i’ve never been this unstable or volatile. i don’t recognize myself anymore.
am i the abuser after all? am i the one twisting the narrative?
2024.06.09 06:17 Public_Smoke9597 AITAH for ending my friendship cuz of my friend’s gf?
AITAH for ending my friendship cuz of my friend’s gf?
I(28F) have been friends with with Kevin(26M) for almost 4yrs. I’ve been with my boyfriend Daniel(24M) for 4yrs so naturally Daniel & Kevin became close like brothers. Daniel, Kevin & I have been living together for 3yrs. Kevin has been dating Natalie(22F) for less than a year.
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I(28F) have been friends with with Kevin(26M) for almost 4yrs. I’ve been with my boyfriend Daniel(24M) for 4yrs so naturally Daniel & Kevin became close like brothers. Daniel, Kevin & I have been living together for 3yrs. Kevin has been dating Natalie(22F) for less than a year.
At first we loved having her over she was sweet,talkative, friendly and I was looking forward to having a new girl friend. Until we started to notice her toxic behavior. I’ll give some examples: she goes thru his phone, if he came to our house instead of hanging out in the living room with the rest of us she’d go to Kevin’s room and if he didn’t follow her she’d pick a fight, if he didn’t respond to her texts sometimes he did warn her ahead of time cuz he’d be busy with work, school or helping us out with something she’d blow up his phone and would cry and yell hysterically, if he had class on her day off she would sit in her car in the school’s parking lot for the 5hrs he’d be in class. What really concerned me was she went thru his posts, likes and comments on Instagram, she began to stalk and harass (a girl he actually knew not a random girl) cuz he made too many comments on her posts( long before they got together). She ended her friendship with Kevin cuz of Natalie’s harassment. After noticing this behavior we have asked him if he’s happy he admitted he isn’t but isn’t willing to give up on their relationship. We don’t want to butt in and give advice cuz we don’t think it’s our place and we don’t want her to think we’re advising him to break up with her. But later Daniel found out that she looks down on our relationship cuz of our sense of humor and how we shit talk to each other and she has called Daniel some derogatory names cuz after hanging out Kevin didn’t go to her car right away cuz he got caught up in a conversation with Daniel(not about her). She later “apologized” and claimed she said it out of anger. Then I noticed that when I would text Kevin about household related things (ie rent & chores) he wouldn’t text me but would tell Daniel the answer to my question and ask him to pass it to me. I admit I became paranoid that Natalie was stalking my social media even though she knows who I am and that I’m with Daniel but my concerns got the best of me so I blocked her. A few days after I blocked Natalie I tried to message Kevin on Facebook and it said “15 mutual friends. You and Kevin are not friends on Facebook” so I told Daniel and he questioned Kevin about it & he had no clue. It turns out that Natalie went thru his social media and unfriended me on all his accounts cuz I blocked her, she claimed she did it out of anger. I unblocked her and limited my contact with Kevin to ease her issues. But he hasn’t tried to add me back or replied to my texts but will still answer them thru Daniel, nor has she tried to apologize for going thru his social media. I felt like she put an end to our friendship so I sent him a lengthy text apologizing for blocking Natalie cuz I didn’t know it would trigger her, that I couldn’t continue being friends with him due to Natalie’s toxic behavior and me feeling unsafe & uncomfortable and I would block him to ease her issues. He replied saying that this is coming out of nowhere, how Natalie never had an issue with me, that she wasn’t stalking my social media, claimed I only blocked her after finding out what she said about Daniel, she’s never done anything to make me feel unsafe or uncomfortable and that she’s always been respectful. I haven’t responded. AITAH for ending our friendship?
2024.06.09 04:08 FakeNavyDavey Was the Kinect always this bad?
I need help figuring out if I've been had, essentially.
I loved my Xbox back in the day. Had the original, had the Elite, and then after a house fire I believe I had the slim.
I remember enjoying the Kinect, in spite of the criticisms. It wasn't perfect, but it was fun. My roommates and I played a lot of dancing games with it.
Recently, I decided my eight year old had to try it. We love playing retro stuff together. I found a good deal on ebay from an extremely reputable seller (I am extremely picky about the accounts I buy from.)
It turned out to be the worst ebay experience of my life. I genuinely don't know how this guy's reviews are so good.
First, he sent me the wrong console and games. No Kinect. Then he sends me the right console, games, and Kinect, but no adapter for the Kinect. Also one of the games has the worst disc rot I've ever seen.
And the disc drive is broken.
I message him again. I'm mad. I have to remind him to send me the refund for the shipping. He ignores my questions about where to send the videos of the broken disc drive but says he'll send the Kinect adapter (although at first he didn't believe me.) I push, and he agrees to send out a new console.
It's the slim i originally sent back, only there's no AC adapter for it. At this point I'm so irritated, I go to a local shop and buy the Power supply. Two of the games don't work, including the one with disc rot (obviously). I haven't even tried them all yet, I was too irritated.
I start up the Kinect, really excited to show my kid... And it sucked. It had trouble tracking, the arms of my avatar are all bent at weird angles even when my arms are at the side. I tried recalibrating, and it didn't fix the issue.
Is this yet another busted item I got, or was it always this crappy? I know people bag on it, but I always assumed it was just overstated. It was never the most sophisticated technology, but I enjoyed it for what it was.
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I loved my Xbox back in the day. Had the original, had the Elite, and then after a house fire I believe I had the slim.
I remember enjoying the Kinect, in spite of the criticisms. It wasn't perfect, but it was fun. My roommates and I played a lot of dancing games with it.
Recently, I decided my eight year old had to try it. We love playing retro stuff together. I found a good deal on ebay from an extremely reputable seller (I am extremely picky about the accounts I buy from.)
It turned out to be the worst ebay experience of my life. I genuinely don't know how this guy's reviews are so good.
First, he sent me the wrong console and games. No Kinect. Then he sends me the right console, games, and Kinect, but no adapter for the Kinect. Also one of the games has the worst disc rot I've ever seen.
And the disc drive is broken.
I message him again. I'm mad. I have to remind him to send me the refund for the shipping. He ignores my questions about where to send the videos of the broken disc drive but says he'll send the Kinect adapter (although at first he didn't believe me.) I push, and he agrees to send out a new console.
It's the slim i originally sent back, only there's no AC adapter for it. At this point I'm so irritated, I go to a local shop and buy the Power supply. Two of the games don't work, including the one with disc rot (obviously). I haven't even tried them all yet, I was too irritated.
I start up the Kinect, really excited to show my kid... And it sucked. It had trouble tracking, the arms of my avatar are all bent at weird angles even when my arms are at the side. I tried recalibrating, and it didn't fix the issue.
Is this yet another busted item I got, or was it always this crappy? I know people bag on it, but I always assumed it was just overstated. It was never the most sophisticated technology, but I enjoyed it for what it was.
2024.06.09 01:25 WeAllLetUChoke Seller: I won my appeal on a INR case. How long does it take to receive payout from eBay?
Edit: Called eBay this morning. 6/9/24 They saw the email stating I won the appeal and a payout will be issued to cover the refund but the refund department couldn’t find anything on their system. So the CSR had to submit another appeal letter to so the correct department can release the funds.
An expensive (insured) fragrance (total for buyer was $306- $256 was my cut) I shipped April 30th which was double boxed, included many layers of bubblewrap and foam sheeting, was damaged by USPS. My buyer messaged me May 12th asking if I could look into the delay. I did what I normally do, open search requests. I had to open 2; both concluded the item was lost since they couldn’t see scans after May 2nd in my area.
My local PO told me since it’s ground shipping and the entire month of May was rife with bad weather in the south, give it a full 30days because perhaps the label was damaged but it’s still moving in network without scans.
I kept my buyer apprised of the situation and they were patient and willing to give it 30 days. Less than a week later, the tracking updates in buyers town!
Yay we think. Nope!
What was delivered was my shipping label decorated with a brown stain and an apology letter from USPS stating they damaged the item. They very well couldnt deliver a box of broken glass and liquid. Buyer sent me photos of what they received.
I called eBay.
I was told buyer needed to open a return based on damage and I would be covered by my seller protection. I relayed message to buyer. The buyer instead opened INR. 🙄 funds are on hold -$307 I call eBay again thinking maybe I was given the wrong info. I was told the same thing again.
Rep tells me if buyer closed the INR and opened the correct (damage) case they would be refunded already and eBay would reimburse me. The following day when eBay is asked to step in, the case will go on a hold for up to 10 days. I tell buyer. He claims he’s been told the opposite 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t want to lose the item and money so I wait to ask eBay to step in.
We have many messages between us but we couldn’t agree on the case.
I wanted the buyer to be refunded of course but I was told the refund should be covered by eBay via seller protection- Circumstances outside of sellers control. eBay steps in. Case goes on hold. Hours later 6/7/24 Case is closed. Buyer refunded. My account now available funds - $241. Total account balance - $96.43 (pending to be taken from my bank account) I call eBay. A 3rd rep takes a look and confirms I should be covered by seller protection. They submit an appeal for me. 3 hours later and 24 hours ago:
“Congratulations My name! I have granted your appeal.
We will issue you a payout to cover the refund that was issued to the buyer. This is because I believed that you did your part in shipping the item and that the buyer confirmed receipt of an envelope, though the item is not found.”
How long does it take ebay to issue a payout to my account? I have over $200 in sales on hold and over $90 they’re trying to collect from me.
BTW filed a claim with usps. Submitted all documentation including the photos of my shipping label and their letter acknowledging they damaged the item. I got a letter asking me to bring the damaged item in for inspection. I spoke to my postmaster and showed him the photos. He says oh yeah, the buyer has to go since he has the letter (website says either sender or receiver can file indemnity claim) he also told me not to bother and take the loss- because they only payout 60% of the claims! He said he used to sell on eBay items of $30-$40 and he would just take the loss. Wtf?!?! Take a loss on hundreds? So I’ll be calling USPS too
submitted by WeAllLetUChoke to Ebay [link] [comments]
An expensive (insured) fragrance (total for buyer was $306- $256 was my cut) I shipped April 30th which was double boxed, included many layers of bubblewrap and foam sheeting, was damaged by USPS. My buyer messaged me May 12th asking if I could look into the delay. I did what I normally do, open search requests. I had to open 2; both concluded the item was lost since they couldn’t see scans after May 2nd in my area.
My local PO told me since it’s ground shipping and the entire month of May was rife with bad weather in the south, give it a full 30days because perhaps the label was damaged but it’s still moving in network without scans.
I kept my buyer apprised of the situation and they were patient and willing to give it 30 days. Less than a week later, the tracking updates in buyers town!
Yay we think. Nope!
What was delivered was my shipping label decorated with a brown stain and an apology letter from USPS stating they damaged the item. They very well couldnt deliver a box of broken glass and liquid. Buyer sent me photos of what they received.
I called eBay.
I was told buyer needed to open a return based on damage and I would be covered by my seller protection. I relayed message to buyer. The buyer instead opened INR. 🙄 funds are on hold -$307 I call eBay again thinking maybe I was given the wrong info. I was told the same thing again.
Rep tells me if buyer closed the INR and opened the correct (damage) case they would be refunded already and eBay would reimburse me. The following day when eBay is asked to step in, the case will go on a hold for up to 10 days. I tell buyer. He claims he’s been told the opposite 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t want to lose the item and money so I wait to ask eBay to step in.
We have many messages between us but we couldn’t agree on the case.
I wanted the buyer to be refunded of course but I was told the refund should be covered by eBay via seller protection- Circumstances outside of sellers control. eBay steps in. Case goes on hold. Hours later 6/7/24 Case is closed. Buyer refunded. My account now available funds - $241. Total account balance - $96.43 (pending to be taken from my bank account) I call eBay. A 3rd rep takes a look and confirms I should be covered by seller protection. They submit an appeal for me. 3 hours later and 24 hours ago:
“Congratulations My name! I have granted your appeal.
We will issue you a payout to cover the refund that was issued to the buyer. This is because I believed that you did your part in shipping the item and that the buyer confirmed receipt of an envelope, though the item is not found.”
How long does it take ebay to issue a payout to my account? I have over $200 in sales on hold and over $90 they’re trying to collect from me.
BTW filed a claim with usps. Submitted all documentation including the photos of my shipping label and their letter acknowledging they damaged the item. I got a letter asking me to bring the damaged item in for inspection. I spoke to my postmaster and showed him the photos. He says oh yeah, the buyer has to go since he has the letter (website says either sender or receiver can file indemnity claim) he also told me not to bother and take the loss- because they only payout 60% of the claims! He said he used to sell on eBay items of $30-$40 and he would just take the loss. Wtf?!?! Take a loss on hundreds? So I’ll be calling USPS too
2024.06.08 23:38 PixelatedWorld2375 A New Players reveiw of USEA
To preface and set your expectations, I've been playing the for about 6 months, cracking packs, buying precons etc. I refuse to spend more then $20 on a single card, and wanted to test out a proxy maker. I chose USEA since the pictures and standalone website made me feel more comfortable
The Shopping Experience: Shopping was super easy, similar to browsing ebay. Type a card name, find the one you want, add to cart. I tried making an account too, but never got the password and just gave up. Once I was ready to check out, I took a screenshot of my order, emailed it to USEA and waited. About 8 hours later (remember time differences across the globe) I was given a stripe link to pay. Pay I did, and 4 days later my order was on the move.
Shipping: All in all, shipping was possibly my only major complaint. From order to arrival, it's been exactly 2 weeks, which isn't too long, but I did have to ask for a tracking number twice, after waiting 4 days without receiving it the first time.
The Cards: So again, I'm a new player, I can't exactly speak for the accuracy as I haven't owned copies of these cards yet. However, I wouldn't even blink an eye if someone told me they were real. I chose to purchase the eldrazi titans, rhystic study, and smothering tithe (anime and foil when available) as well as grimlock to mess with my pod. If I had to nitpick anything, USEA added an extra card to the order which was really cool. They sent Brisela, Voice of Nightmares in foil. I'd never seen a card that looks like it's two connected cards before and wanted to immediately smash it into a deck. After looking up the card to see how I cast it, I discovered the tragedy. My bonus card was the backside of two different cards designed to meld into Brisela, so the bonus card is a neat wall art, but as a card, it's unplayable. It's hard to complain that a free bonus thing was not usable, especially when everything I paid for was on point, but I still felt it was important to ensure future buyers who may receive a bonus know to treat it as just that, a bonus thing you make not be able to use
Final Verdict: I will be buying from USEA again. I want to test the other proxy makers reccomended here, and find my personal favorite, but each have differing stock, and if USEA has what you need, it's with high confidence I encourage you to pick it up with them
submitted by PixelatedWorld2375 to bootlegmtg [link] [comments]
The Shopping Experience: Shopping was super easy, similar to browsing ebay. Type a card name, find the one you want, add to cart. I tried making an account too, but never got the password and just gave up. Once I was ready to check out, I took a screenshot of my order, emailed it to USEA and waited. About 8 hours later (remember time differences across the globe) I was given a stripe link to pay. Pay I did, and 4 days later my order was on the move.
Shipping: All in all, shipping was possibly my only major complaint. From order to arrival, it's been exactly 2 weeks, which isn't too long, but I did have to ask for a tracking number twice, after waiting 4 days without receiving it the first time.
The Cards: So again, I'm a new player, I can't exactly speak for the accuracy as I haven't owned copies of these cards yet. However, I wouldn't even blink an eye if someone told me they were real. I chose to purchase the eldrazi titans, rhystic study, and smothering tithe (anime and foil when available) as well as grimlock to mess with my pod. If I had to nitpick anything, USEA added an extra card to the order which was really cool. They sent Brisela, Voice of Nightmares in foil. I'd never seen a card that looks like it's two connected cards before and wanted to immediately smash it into a deck. After looking up the card to see how I cast it, I discovered the tragedy. My bonus card was the backside of two different cards designed to meld into Brisela, so the bonus card is a neat wall art, but as a card, it's unplayable. It's hard to complain that a free bonus thing was not usable, especially when everything I paid for was on point, but I still felt it was important to ensure future buyers who may receive a bonus know to treat it as just that, a bonus thing you make not be able to use
Final Verdict: I will be buying from USEA again. I want to test the other proxy makers reccomended here, and find my personal favorite, but each have differing stock, and if USEA has what you need, it's with high confidence I encourage you to pick it up with them
2024.06.08 22:53 Negative_Pace6783 Opinions on relationship situation!
Eight months ago, my girlfriend (23 F) broke up with me (38 M). The reason we separated was because she felt the more we talked and the closer we grew, the stronger and stronger her feelings were becoming. But because of our age gap (15 years) the relationship couldn't work. Whilst we were together, she told me she’d never had feelings for someone like she had for me, she allowed herself to be more vulnerable with me than she ever has with others, even saying she could see herself spending the rest of her life with me.
Near the end of the relationship, I hurt her deeply by breaking things off due to a misunderstanding. We stayed together but I believe her feeling extremely vulnerable and close enough to me to get hurt affected her and was the core reason she ended the relationship, out of a fear of rejection.
After that period, we had six months of hot and cold behaviour from her, where at times she would be friendly and she would occasionally reach out, and at other times she would be cold and detached and withdrawn.
Two months ago, we had a long conversation, but we both put our cards on the table. She told me she thought I was an amazing person and she wanted to be close friends because she felt we had a real connection with each other, and both of us felt that the pressure had been taken off. About a month into our new friendship, she started withdrawing again, and stopped viewing my Instagram stories, becoming withdrawn and awkward at times where we'd see each other.
I recently confessed that I find her treatment of me being different to our mutual friends and her avoidance of me confusing and hurtful, but I’m in love with her. We both agreed to be friends. Her specificity was a normal friendship without intensity or feelings.
There have been several occasions recently where she takes small steps forwards. The other week she complained to a friend when she thought I’d ignored her. Last week she had been extremely awkward around me, but then asked a question she already knew the answer to. Recently she’s unblocked one of my social media accounts all of a sudden. This week however, she has made sure to avoid seeing me completely because it would have been her and I alone together.
She has a lot of the traits demonstrated in fearful avoidants.
Opinions on where her head may be at or advice on how to approach the situation moving forward? She’s someone that I deeply care about, and I’m absolutely happy to take things as slow as she needs to.
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Near the end of the relationship, I hurt her deeply by breaking things off due to a misunderstanding. We stayed together but I believe her feeling extremely vulnerable and close enough to me to get hurt affected her and was the core reason she ended the relationship, out of a fear of rejection.
After that period, we had six months of hot and cold behaviour from her, where at times she would be friendly and she would occasionally reach out, and at other times she would be cold and detached and withdrawn.
Two months ago, we had a long conversation, but we both put our cards on the table. She told me she thought I was an amazing person and she wanted to be close friends because she felt we had a real connection with each other, and both of us felt that the pressure had been taken off. About a month into our new friendship, she started withdrawing again, and stopped viewing my Instagram stories, becoming withdrawn and awkward at times where we'd see each other.
I recently confessed that I find her treatment of me being different to our mutual friends and her avoidance of me confusing and hurtful, but I’m in love with her. We both agreed to be friends. Her specificity was a normal friendship without intensity or feelings.
There have been several occasions recently where she takes small steps forwards. The other week she complained to a friend when she thought I’d ignored her. Last week she had been extremely awkward around me, but then asked a question she already knew the answer to. Recently she’s unblocked one of my social media accounts all of a sudden. This week however, she has made sure to avoid seeing me completely because it would have been her and I alone together.
She has a lot of the traits demonstrated in fearful avoidants.
Opinions on where her head may be at or advice on how to approach the situation moving forward? She’s someone that I deeply care about, and I’m absolutely happy to take things as slow as she needs to.
2024.06.08 22:40 seeldoger47 [H] $1000 Amazon, $500 eBay, $500 Apple [W] Western Union, LTC, Wise [H] PayPal, Cash App, Crypto, Chime, Apple Pay, Varo, Venmo [W] Apple, Amazon (CA, Com, DE, ES, FR, IT, UK), B&N, Dunkin, eBay, Grub Hub, Gyft, iTunes, JCPenney, Microsoft, PSN, Steam, Target, Uber, Walmart, Xbox + more
Warning: I will not message you first. If you were messaged by someone claiming to be me you are in the process of being scammed.
You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.Desktop Users: Comment on this post and Click here to start a trade App Users, please include the following in your PM (Remember to comment on this post as well):
- Type of card(s) and amount of each.
- What payment method you accept.
- How you acquired the GC and why you're getting rid of it.
I only have Steam as a substitute for cash payments in gift card trades.
| Want ↓ | Cash or a Gift Card ↓ | Crypto4 ↓ |
|---|---|---|
| Apple | 60%3 | NA |
| Amazon.ca | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.co.uk | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.com | 70% | 55% |
| Amazon.de | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.es | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.fr | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.it | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.jp | 30% | 30% |
| Arrow Films | 65% | 60% |
| Barnes & Noble | 50% | 50% |
| Baskin Robbins | 60% | 60% |
| Best Buy | 25% | 25% |
| BJ's (not BJ's restaurant)3 | 60% | NA |
| Bloomingdales | 50% | 50% |
| Burger King4 | 60% | NA |
| Clothing Shops (Small Boutique) | contact me | contact me |
| Dell3 | 60% | NA |
| Delta gift cards3 | 65% | NA |
| Delta Sky Miles3 | PM me | NA |
| Delta Vouchers3 | 65% | NA |
| Dicks Sporting Goods 3 | PM me | NA |
| Disney Plus | PM me | PM me |
| Dunkin Donuts3 | 60% | NA |
| eBay | 70% | 70% |
| Fandango3 | 10% | NA |
| Five Guys3 | 60% | NA |
| Gamestop | 60% | 60% |
| Gas Station Cards3 | PM me | NA |
| Gyft | 70% | 70% |
| Half Price Books | 50% | 50% |
| iTunes3 | 60% | NA |
| J crew | 40% | 40% |
| JCPenney | 25% | 25% |
| Jersey Mike Subs3 | 60% | NA |
| KFC3 | 60% | NA |
| Khols | 30% | 30% |
| Macys | 35% | 35% |
| Magazines.com | 40% | 40% |
| McDonald's 3 | 60% | NA |
| Microsoft3 | 60% | NA |
| Moe’s Southwestern Grill3 | 60% | NA |
| Nintendo Eshop3 | 70% | NA |
| Nordstrom | 50% | 50% |
| Panera bread3 | 60% | NA |
| PSN3 | 60 | NA |
| PSN Plus 12 month3 | NA | NA |
| Saks Fifth Avenue | 50% | 50% |
| Sears | 50% | 50% |
| Sephora | 50% | 50% |
| Speedway (must be able to use on fuel)3 | 80% | NA |
| Staples | 50% | 50% |
| Starbucks US only | 55% | 55% |
| Steam3 | 60% | NA |
| Subway 3 | PM me | NA |
| Taco Bell | 60% | NA |
| Target | 50% | 50% |
| Urban Outfitters | 50% | 50% |
| Vudu3 | 50% | NA |
| Walmart | 60% | 60% |
| Wendys3 | 60% | NA |
| Xbox (gift cards)3 | 60% | NA |
| Other Clothing Stores, Gas Stations, Grocery Stores, Restaurant, & Fast Food gift cards | PM me |
What I don’t buy:
Any fees are built into the price.
- Amazon.au
- Bass Pro Shop
- buffalo wild wing
- California Pizza Kitchen
- Canadian tire
- Cold Stone
- Dairy Queen
- Fanatics
- Giant Foods
- Google Play
- Grub Hub
- Gymshark
- Hilton Honors
- Hot Topic
- Krispy Kreme
- old navy/gap/banana republic
- Patxi's pizza
- PSN Canada or UK
- publix
- Raceway
- Scheels
- Shell Gas Stations
- Spotify
- Starbucks Canada
- Tractor supply
- Xbox Canada or UK
- Xbox live gold
Selling
I have:Up to $1000 in Amazon.com (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
Up to $500 in eBay (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
- 90%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 90%: LTC
Up to $500 in Apple.com ($15 and $50 denomination) and am selling at
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
2024.06.08 22:40 seeldoger47 [H] $1000 Amazon GC(s) $500 eBay $500 Apple [W] Western Union, LTC, Wise [H] PayPal, Cashapp, LTC, Apple Pay, Varo, Venmo [W] All Your Gift Cards
Warning: I will not message you first. If you were messaged by someone claiming to be me you are in the process of being scammed.
You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.Desktop Users: Comment on this post and Click here to start a trade App Users, please include the following in your PM (Remember to comment on this post as well):
- Type of card(s) and amount of each.
- What payment method you accept.
- How you acquired the GC and why you're getting rid of it.
I only have Steam as a substitute for cash payments in gift card trades.
| Want ↓ | Cash or a Gift Card ↓ | Crypto4 ↓ |
|---|---|---|
| Apple | 60%3 | NA |
| Amazon.ca | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.co.uk | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.com | 70% | 55% |
| Amazon.de | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.es | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.fr | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.it | 50% | 50% |
| Amazon.jp | 30% | 30% |
| Arrow Films | 65% | 60% |
| Barnes & Noble | 50% | 50% |
| Baskin Robbins | 60% | 60% |
| Best Buy | 25% | 25% |
| BJ's (not BJ's restaurant)3 | 60% | NA |
| Bloomingdales | 50% | 50% |
| Burger King4 | 60% | NA |
| Clothing Shops (Small Boutique) | contact me | contact me |
| Dell3 | 60% | NA |
| Delta gift cards3 | 65% | NA |
| Delta Sky Miles3 | PM me | NA |
| Delta Vouchers3 | 65% | NA |
| Dicks Sporting Goods 3 | PM me | NA |
| Disney Plus | PM me | PM me |
| Dunkin Donuts3 | 60% | NA |
| eBay | 70% | 70% |
| Fandango3 | 10% | NA |
| Five Guys3 | 60% | NA |
| Gamestop | 60% | 60% |
| Gas Station Cards3 | PM me | NA |
| Gyft | 70% | 70% |
| Half Price Books | 50% | 50% |
| iTunes3 | 60% | NA |
| J crew | 40% | 40% |
| JCPenney | 25% | 25% |
| Jersey Mike Subs3 | 60% | NA |
| KFC3 | 60% | NA |
| Khols | 30% | 30% |
| Macys | 35% | 35% |
| Magazines.com | 40% | 40% |
| McDonald's 3 | 60% | NA |
| Microsoft3 | 60% | NA |
| Moe’s Southwestern Grill3 | 60% | NA |
| Nintendo Eshop3 | 70% | NA |
| Nordstrom | 50% | 50% |
| Panera bread3 | 60% | NA |
| PSN3 | 60 | NA |
| PSN Plus 12 month3 | NA | NA |
| Saks Fifth Avenue | 50% | 50% |
| Sears | 50% | 50% |
| Sephora | 50% | 50% |
| Speedway (must be able to use on fuel)3 | 80% | NA |
| Staples | 50% | 50% |
| Starbucks US only | 55% | 55% |
| Steam3 | 60% | NA |
| Subway 3 | PM me | NA |
| Taco Bell | 60% | NA |
| Target | 50% | 50% |
| Urban Outfitters | 50% | 50% |
| Vudu3 | 50% | NA |
| Walmart | 60% | 60% |
| Wendys3 | 60% | NA |
| Xbox (gift cards)3 | 60% | NA |
| Other Clothing Stores, Gas Stations, Grocery Stores, Restaurant, & Fast Food gift cards | PM me |
What I don’t buy:
Any fees are built into the price.
- Amazon.au
- Bass Pro Shop
- buffalo wild wing
- California Pizza Kitchen
- Canadian tire
- Cold Stone
- Dairy Queen
- Fanatics
- Giant Foods
- Google Play
- Grub Hub
- Gymshark
- Hilton Honors
- Hot Topic
- Krispy Kreme
- old navy/gap/banana republic
- Patxi's pizza
- PSN Canada or UK
- publix
- Raceway
- Scheels
- Shell Gas Stations
- Spotify
- Starbucks Canada
- Tractor supply
- Xbox Canada or UK
- Xbox live gold
Selling
I have:Up to $1000 in Amazon.com (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
Up to $500 in eBay (can be broken up into smaller denominations) and am selling at
- 90%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 90%: LTC
Up to $500 in Apple.com ($15 and $50 denomination) and am selling at
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
- 95%: WesternUnion, Wise, Airtm (You can download the WesternUnion app and send the payment from your phone and I will pay the fees.)
2024.06.08 18:52 Rummage_Ferret Mettle - Free £50 For Opening a Business Bank Account
My experience: I've had a Mettle business account for a couple of months now. The app is really slick and and it's free, so you might even end up keeping the account after you've received your £50 bonus!
Here are some steps on how to get your £50 bonus from Mettle:
submitted by Rummage_Ferret to MakeMoneyInUK [link] [comments]
Here are some steps on how to get your £50 bonus from Mettle:
- Download the Mettle app from the App Store / Google Play Store, or click "Create account" from https://www.mettle.co.uk/
- Complete the application. Choose "Sole Trader" if you work for yourself or have an eBay side hustle or similar. You might need to prove it but they'll accept a link to your eBay or LinkedIn profile, website, business social media page etc.
- In the app, tap "Account" > then "Redeem a code" > and enter my referral code 95WHF
- Activate your debit card on arrival, deposit some money and make a card payment (any amount) within 30 days of opening an account.
- Wait up to 30 days for your bonus to land.
2024.06.08 18:31 HCharlesB Help pls: Lost WiFi, cannot get it back
Edit: Smashed it! There was an icon in the task bar apparently meant to look like a computer connected via Ethernet. I clicked that and saw that WiFi was unchecked. I checked it and the WiFi connection is now established.
It puzzles me that I cannot find this in Settings. Or that this checkbox is not replicated in Settings. Or that going to Application Launcher and typing in "network" does not find this.
(Not so) Good morning, I've lost WiFi on my laptop and can't figure out how to get it back.
Shaggy Dog Story:
Debian Bookworm using Plasma 5.27
Wife needed to log in while out of town. I created an account for her and logged her in. WiFi worked for a bit and then stopped. I opened settings and it asked for a password. I typed her password in and that was not accepted.
Next I logged back into my account and went to settings. The SSID is listed and the password is correct. I can't find any way to actually establish the connection. I started working with cli since I could not seem to figure out the Plasma settings.
iwlist scanning reports
text wlp2s0 Interface doesn't support scanning : Network is down
I tried ip link set wlp2s0 up to bring WiFi up and got
text RTNETLINK answers: Operation not possible due to RF-kill
I searched on that and found that I needed to use rfkill to enable WiFi rfkill is not installed so I installed it and unblocked the WiFi radio. nmcli lists the AP
text elided_AP_Name 74b787db-e857-4904-9d99-7f5e0b99ccfa wifi --
But I cannot see how to connect. Trying nmcli I get
text root@rocinante:~# nmcli con up elided_AP_Name Error: Connection activation failed: No suitable device found for this connection (device wlp2s0 not available because device is not available). root@rocinante:~#
Any help is greatly appreciated. In the mean time I'm tethered to Ethernet. :-/
Thanks!
Edit: I'm presuming that this should be trivially easy so I suspect that either something is misconfigured or missing. (For now I prefer to rule out the possibility that I'm stupid.)
submitted by HCharlesB to kde [link] [comments]
It puzzles me that I cannot find this in Settings. Or that this checkbox is not replicated in Settings. Or that going to Application Launcher and typing in "network" does not find this.
(Not so) Good morning, I've lost WiFi on my laptop and can't figure out how to get it back.
Shaggy Dog Story:
Debian Bookworm using Plasma 5.27
Wife needed to log in while out of town. I created an account for her and logged her in. WiFi worked for a bit and then stopped. I opened settings and it asked for a password. I typed her password in and that was not accepted.
Next I logged back into my account and went to settings. The SSID is listed and the password is correct. I can't find any way to actually establish the connection. I started working with cli since I could not seem to figure out the Plasma settings.
iwlist scanning reports
text wlp2s0 Interface doesn't support scanning : Network is down
I tried ip link set wlp2s0 up to bring WiFi up and got
text RTNETLINK answers: Operation not possible due to RF-kill
I searched on that and found that I needed to use rfkill to enable WiFi rfkill is not installed so I installed it and unblocked the WiFi radio. nmcli lists the AP
text elided_AP_Name 74b787db-e857-4904-9d99-7f5e0b99ccfa wifi --
But I cannot see how to connect. Trying nmcli I get
text root@rocinante:~# nmcli con up elided_AP_Name Error: Connection activation failed: No suitable device found for this connection (device wlp2s0 not available because device is not available). root@rocinante:~#
Any help is greatly appreciated. In the mean time I'm tethered to Ethernet. :-/
Thanks!
Edit: I'm presuming that this should be trivially easy so I suspect that either something is misconfigured or missing. (For now I prefer to rule out the possibility that I'm stupid.)
2024.06.08 16:47 TopPomegranate4432 Mettle - free £50 bonus when you make a card payment (any amount)
Mettle is a business bank account backed by NatWest. It's for people who have a business or some sort of side hustle like an eBay account.
They're currently offering a free £50 bonus for those who sign up via referral and make a card payment to trigger the bonus.
My experience: I've had a Mettle business account for a couple of years, so am a long-standing, legit customer. The app is really slick and and it's free, so you might even end up keeping the account after you've received your £50 bonus!
Here are my steps on how to get your £50 bonus from Mettle:
LINKS
submitted by TopPomegranate4432 to beermoneyuk [link] [comments]
They're currently offering a free £50 bonus for those who sign up via referral and make a card payment to trigger the bonus.
My experience: I've had a Mettle business account for a couple of years, so am a long-standing, legit customer. The app is really slick and and it's free, so you might even end up keeping the account after you've received your £50 bonus!
Here are my steps on how to get your £50 bonus from Mettle:
- Download the Mettle app from the App Store / Google Play Store, or click "Create account" from https://www.mettle.co.uk/
- Complete the application. Choose "Sole Trader" if you work for yourself or have an eBay side hustle or similar. You might need to prove it but they'll accept a link to your eBay or LinkedIn profile, website, business social media page etc
- In the app, tap "Account" > "Redeem a code" > enter referral code S6GP4
- Activate your debit card on arrival, deposit some money and make a card payment (any amount) within 30 days of account opening
- Wait up to 30 days for your bonus to land
LINKS
- Referral (free £50): Download app (https://www.mettle.co.uk/) + enter referral code S6GP4
- Non-referral: https://www.mettle.co.uk + don't enter a code
2024.06.08 16:14 spinat_monster Social ranking to buy an air conditioner...
In Germany we have an eBay related platform for private people to sell their private stuff and for small business's called eBay Kleinanzeigen. How it works is that you write to the buyer to buy the thing in question and to iron out where to pick up or shipment etc. At the end of an interaction you can submit if the other person was friendly, quick to reply and overall vibe.
I have, due to my sporadic messaging style and blunt replies, a lower score on the platform and less people are willing to sell to me, forcing me to create a new account to avoid the negativ feedback. I find it to be a punishment for people who don't play by social rules or just not all that social to begin with. I hate to be evaluated by strangers with whom I shared a handful of messages. The whole platform builds on social standing and that you have to have a good to great reputation, it's just so icky. It reminds me of that one black mirror episode where everyone ranks everybody else and depending on your score, you either get benefits or punishments, leading everyone to mask. Well I don't want to mask and hardly do mask in my day to day life, because one I am a rebel and two masking takes so much energy that I simply don't have. I don't want to be punished just for being myself!
Hopefully one of the 8 people I messaged will reply, because it's awfully hot up in my apartment and my cat has taken up residence on her cool mat all day... I just want an air conditioner, even though it's horrible for the environment...
submitted by spinat_monster to AutismInWomen [link] [comments]
I have, due to my sporadic messaging style and blunt replies, a lower score on the platform and less people are willing to sell to me, forcing me to create a new account to avoid the negativ feedback. I find it to be a punishment for people who don't play by social rules or just not all that social to begin with. I hate to be evaluated by strangers with whom I shared a handful of messages. The whole platform builds on social standing and that you have to have a good to great reputation, it's just so icky. It reminds me of that one black mirror episode where everyone ranks everybody else and depending on your score, you either get benefits or punishments, leading everyone to mask. Well I don't want to mask and hardly do mask in my day to day life, because one I am a rebel and two masking takes so much energy that I simply don't have. I don't want to be punished just for being myself!
Hopefully one of the 8 people I messaged will reply, because it's awfully hot up in my apartment and my cat has taken up residence on her cool mat all day... I just want an air conditioner, even though it's horrible for the environment...
2024.06.08 15:00 AutoModerator Bi-Monthly Questions Thread & FAQ
This weekly thread is designed to be a place for all the new members of the subreddit and Vita community to come and say hello as well as where they (or vets) can ask any question they might have (no matter how redundant or simple). So, say "Hi", ask away, and welcome to /Vita!
Is the Vita worth buying in (current year)?
Value is ultimately subjective. If you like the library of games on the Vita and have the money, probably. If you want new, modern games then probably not. If you have specific questions about the Vita's capabilities feel free to ask in this thread, but keep in mind you're asking in a Vita-centric community and will likely get mostly affirmative responses.
Is the PlayStation store shutting down?
No. Sony did announce they were closing the Vita storefront in 2021, but later reversed that decision. It is possible that the store will be shut down at some point in the future, but no specific dates/timeframes are known.
Can I still buy games from the PlayStation store?
Yes. However, you will need to have funds in your wallet for the purchase. You can add funds to your wallet via web, PS4, or PS5. More information is available here.
I'm having trouble signing into my Vita! Help!
As of the 3.74 update in May 2022, you need a device password to sign in to your Vita. You can do that here. Please make sure you are on firmware 3.74 and using a device password before making a thread.
My Vita is in an error loop with the QR code on sign-in. What should I do?
This happens sometimes, and nobody's really sure why. However, community member LoganN64 has been able to provide instructions that consistently work for getting through this:
This feature was disabled in May 2022. You can read PlayStation's update about it here. No workarounds are currently known.
Where can I buy a Vita?
Vita production ceased in 2019 so consoles can be hard to come by, especially new. eBay is the most prominent location, but Facebook marketplace, Kijiji, Craigslist, /GameSale, and equivalent marketplaces are your friend.
How much is (X) worth? Is (X) a good deal?
You can search sold eBay listings here to get a sense of value. VGPC is another source of this kind of information.
Will (Game) ever go on sale?
As of 2020, Sony has disabled developers' ability to put Vita games on sale. So in all likelihood, no.
The workaround and exception for this rule is that cross-buy games can still be put on sale for the PS4, and cross-buy items will still grant the Vita version (where applicable).
Should I buy an OLED ("Phat") or Slim Vita?
Neither are bad options. The Slim has 1GB of on-board memory, a more standard charging port, slightly better battery life, and is lighter. The Phat has a better screen. It's up to you on what you value more.
Where can I buy replacement Vita parts?
AliExpress and eBay are currently the best sources of Vita replacement parts.
Are Vita consoles region-free?
Yes. A Vita can play a physical game from any region. The digital storefront you can access is determined by the region of your PSN account, and not the region of the console. For example, a Vita from Japan will be able to play any physical game, and if you sign in with a US PSN account you'll be able to access the US PSN storefront.
Vita consoles from Asian regions have the X/O button swapped in the OS ("bubbles") screen, but in-game functionality retains X-to-confirm functionality for almost all games.
It has been reported that consoles intended for China have more stringent region-locking, but these are not commonly found and this is unlikely to affect you.
I'd like some game recommendations!
Check out our Wiki page, 2021 subreddit poll, and 2018 subreddit poll. If that isn't cutting it for you, feel free to ask in this thread or create your own thread on the subreddit. Keep in mind that we require 300+ characters for recommendation posts on the subreddit, so be sure to include plenty of detail about what you're looking for, what you've played, and so on.
I have a question about hacks/homebrew
Check out /VitaHacks - that's their specialty and they've got a pinned thread to help you out.
Curious about what else is coming up? Our full auto-post schedule is here.
submitted by AutoModerator to vita [link] [comments]
FAQ
We get these questions a lot, so we're incorporating them into this thread. Have something you feel fits here? Shoot us a modmail!Is the Vita worth buying in (current year)?
Value is ultimately subjective. If you like the library of games on the Vita and have the money, probably. If you want new, modern games then probably not. If you have specific questions about the Vita's capabilities feel free to ask in this thread, but keep in mind you're asking in a Vita-centric community and will likely get mostly affirmative responses.
Is the PlayStation store shutting down?
No. Sony did announce they were closing the Vita storefront in 2021, but later reversed that decision. It is possible that the store will be shut down at some point in the future, but no specific dates/timeframes are known.
Can I still buy games from the PlayStation store?
Yes. However, you will need to have funds in your wallet for the purchase. You can add funds to your wallet via web, PS4, or PS5. More information is available here.
I'm having trouble signing into my Vita! Help!
As of the 3.74 update in May 2022, you need a device password to sign in to your Vita. You can do that here. Please make sure you are on firmware 3.74 and using a device password before making a thread.
My Vita is in an error loop with the QR code on sign-in. What should I do?
This happens sometimes, and nobody's really sure why. However, community member LoganN64 has been able to provide instructions that consistently work for getting through this:
- Log in to the PSN website with a Laptop or Desktop computer.
- Click on your avatar in the top right corner and go to SETTINGS.
- Scroll down to SECURITY and then scroll down to ACTIVATE/TURN ON 2 FACTOR AUTHENTICATION.
- Click on GENERATE NEW DEVICE CODE, write this down exactly as it is case sensitive.
- Go to your Vita and bring up the sign in page, enter the email associated with your account then enter the NEW DEVICE CODE as your password. Click on save password to avoid getting a new code each time..
This feature was disabled in May 2022. You can read PlayStation's update about it here. No workarounds are currently known.
Where can I buy a Vita?
Vita production ceased in 2019 so consoles can be hard to come by, especially new. eBay is the most prominent location, but Facebook marketplace, Kijiji, Craigslist, /GameSale, and equivalent marketplaces are your friend.
How much is (X) worth? Is (X) a good deal?
You can search sold eBay listings here to get a sense of value. VGPC is another source of this kind of information.
Will (Game) ever go on sale?
As of 2020, Sony has disabled developers' ability to put Vita games on sale. So in all likelihood, no.
The workaround and exception for this rule is that cross-buy games can still be put on sale for the PS4, and cross-buy items will still grant the Vita version (where applicable).
Should I buy an OLED ("Phat") or Slim Vita?
Neither are bad options. The Slim has 1GB of on-board memory, a more standard charging port, slightly better battery life, and is lighter. The Phat has a better screen. It's up to you on what you value more.
Where can I buy replacement Vita parts?
AliExpress and eBay are currently the best sources of Vita replacement parts.
Are Vita consoles region-free?
Yes. A Vita can play a physical game from any region. The digital storefront you can access is determined by the region of your PSN account, and not the region of the console. For example, a Vita from Japan will be able to play any physical game, and if you sign in with a US PSN account you'll be able to access the US PSN storefront.
Vita consoles from Asian regions have the X/O button swapped in the OS ("bubbles") screen, but in-game functionality retains X-to-confirm functionality for almost all games.
It has been reported that consoles intended for China have more stringent region-locking, but these are not commonly found and this is unlikely to affect you.
I'd like some game recommendations!
Check out our Wiki page, 2021 subreddit poll, and 2018 subreddit poll. If that isn't cutting it for you, feel free to ask in this thread or create your own thread on the subreddit. Keep in mind that we require 300+ characters for recommendation posts on the subreddit, so be sure to include plenty of detail about what you're looking for, what you've played, and so on.
I have a question about hacks/homebrew
Check out /VitaHacks - that's their specialty and they've got a pinned thread to help you out.
2024.06.08 02:46 Pitiful-You-8410 Banned from 1+4 Tesla subreddits by moderators
I believe that my experience below is not unique.
A summary of timelines first:
TeslaModelX mods • 25m. u/Pitiful-You-8410 is permanently banned from TeslaModelX
teslamotors mods • 25m u/Pitiful-You-8410 is permanently banned from teslamotors
TeslaModel3 mods • 25m u/Pitiful-You-8410 is permanently banned from TeslaModel3
TeslaLounge mods • 2h request unblock You have been temporarily muted from
Now more details if you are interested, using /teslamotors as an example.
[–]subreddit message via [M] sent 4 days ago
Hello, You have been permanently banned from participating in because you broke this community's rules. You won't be able to post or comment, but you can still view and subscribe to it.
If you have a question regarding your ban, you can contact the moderator team by replying to this message.
[–]to sent 3 days ago
what rules did I break?
[–]subreddit message via [M] sent 3 days ago
Rule 3 of the moderator code of conduct states that we are to respect our neighbors.
There's no good, or benefit, that will come from going into someone else's subreddit and having a proverbial dick measuring contest.
The fact is that you came into our subreddit and posted about a method to cheat Autopilot/FSD, which is strictly prohibited within our subreddit.
It is up to the moderators to determine how best to assign punishments, if any, to users to opt to not follow the subreddit rules.
When we decide how to issue punishments, if any, we also review a user's past comment history to try and determine if this is a fluke, or if there's going to be problems as time moves on.
Based on the post you made, in addition to your post history, we thought it best to go ahead and let you go. That you've since opted to post your grievances elsewhere, simply cements our posture that this was the right decision on our part.
We thank you for your patronage, and wish you the best elsewhere.
[–]to sent 22 minutes ago
Rule 3 emphasizes respecting our neighbors. Yet, where is the respect in permanently banning a newcomer to a subreddit (TeslaLounge) for mistakenly posting a video?
Where is the respect in banning me from four additional subreddits, despite no rule violations there, merely as retaliation for my sharing my experience and requesting a ban reversal?
If my contest https://www.reddit.com/AITAH/comments/1d7dz4g/a_single_violation_caused_life_time_ban_in is considered inappropriate, it should be reported within the subreddit for the moderators there to decide. The fact is the post is still live there and nobody said my comments are inappropriate. Instead, you bypassed this step entirely and directly banned me from four subreddits you control. This questions the integrity and respect upheld by the moderation.
I only posted the video once in the TeslaLounge subreddit. Now, you falsely claim the same occurred in the TeslaMotors subreddit. Where did you find this misinformation?
While moderators have the discretion to determine penalties, they must still uphold fundamental rules and common sense, and should not excessively punish someone in subreddits where no rules were broken. It's crucial for community members to call out overt abuses of power, retaliation, and harassment. The most severe form of harassment on Reddit is the unjust permanent banning from multiple subreddits.
Based on your actions, I believe it is necessary to highlight your retaliation, harassment, and dishonesty. I will keep sharing everything I have encountered and hold you accountable.
[–]subreddit message via [M] sent 14 minutes ago
Understood.
You have been temporarily muted from . You will not be able to message the moderators of for 28 days.
Ok. This incident bothers me at so many levels so I have decided to start a new community to share experiences and address root causes: fairPermanentBans . please join me if you care to have fair permanent bans on Reddit.
submitted by Pitiful-You-8410 to AITAH [link] [comments]
A summary of timelines first:
- As a newcomer to /TeslaLounge, I posted a video showing some guy using a water bottle to bypass FSD safety measures. I was intended to make fun of the crazy behavior. I was banned permanently immediately.
- Using private messages, I requested to lift the ban since it was the first violation and I saw /TeslaLounge claimed to have relaxed discussions.
- My request was rejected since the moderators said "First impressions matter"
- Feeling the violation of "Eighth Amendment Cruel and Unusual Punishment" and Rule 1 of reddit's policy is "Remember the human", I shared my experiences https://www.reddit.com/AITAH/comments/1d7dz4g/a_single_violation_caused_life_time_ban_in/
- The moderators saw my contest in AITAH and immediately permanently banned me from four other telsa subreddits they control, even though I have never posted anything violating any rules in these four subreddits.
TeslaModelX mods • 25m. u/Pitiful-You-8410 is permanently banned from TeslaModelX
teslamotors mods • 25m u/Pitiful-You-8410 is permanently banned from teslamotors
TeslaModel3 mods • 25m u/Pitiful-You-8410 is permanently banned from TeslaModel3
TeslaLounge mods • 2h request unblock You have been temporarily muted from
Now more details if you are interested, using /teslamotors as an example.
[–]subreddit message via [M] sent 4 days ago
Hello, You have been permanently banned from participating in because you broke this community's rules. You won't be able to post or comment, but you can still view and subscribe to it.
If you have a question regarding your ban, you can contact the moderator team by replying to this message.
[–]to sent 3 days ago
what rules did I break?
[–]subreddit message via [M] sent 3 days ago
Rule 3 of the moderator code of conduct states that we are to respect our neighbors.
There's no good, or benefit, that will come from going into someone else's subreddit and having a proverbial dick measuring contest.
The fact is that you came into our subreddit and posted about a method to cheat Autopilot/FSD, which is strictly prohibited within our subreddit.
It is up to the moderators to determine how best to assign punishments, if any, to users to opt to not follow the subreddit rules.
When we decide how to issue punishments, if any, we also review a user's past comment history to try and determine if this is a fluke, or if there's going to be problems as time moves on.
Based on the post you made, in addition to your post history, we thought it best to go ahead and let you go. That you've since opted to post your grievances elsewhere, simply cements our posture that this was the right decision on our part.
We thank you for your patronage, and wish you the best elsewhere.
[–]to sent 22 minutes ago
Rule 3 emphasizes respecting our neighbors. Yet, where is the respect in permanently banning a newcomer to a subreddit (TeslaLounge) for mistakenly posting a video?
Where is the respect in banning me from four additional subreddits, despite no rule violations there, merely as retaliation for my sharing my experience and requesting a ban reversal?
If my contest https://www.reddit.com/AITAH/comments/1d7dz4g/a_single_violation_caused_life_time_ban_in is considered inappropriate, it should be reported within the subreddit for the moderators there to decide. The fact is the post is still live there and nobody said my comments are inappropriate. Instead, you bypassed this step entirely and directly banned me from four subreddits you control. This questions the integrity and respect upheld by the moderation.
I only posted the video once in the TeslaLounge subreddit. Now, you falsely claim the same occurred in the TeslaMotors subreddit. Where did you find this misinformation?
While moderators have the discretion to determine penalties, they must still uphold fundamental rules and common sense, and should not excessively punish someone in subreddits where no rules were broken. It's crucial for community members to call out overt abuses of power, retaliation, and harassment. The most severe form of harassment on Reddit is the unjust permanent banning from multiple subreddits.
Based on your actions, I believe it is necessary to highlight your retaliation, harassment, and dishonesty. I will keep sharing everything I have encountered and hold you accountable.
[–]subreddit message via [M] sent 14 minutes ago
Understood.
- Permalink
- Delete
- Report
- Block Subreddit
- Mark Unread
You have been temporarily muted from . You will not be able to message the moderators of for 28 days.
Ok. This incident bothers me at so many levels so I have decided to start a new community to share experiences and address root causes: fairPermanentBans . please join me if you care to have fair permanent bans on Reddit.
2024.06.08 02:39 blackpanther1297 To My Lovely Lady
I'm sorry. I know I told you that a million times but it'll never feel like it's enough. Instead of hurting myself, I chose to hurt you in ways I never anticipated, and now I've lost you forever. I still remember our phone call last July, the last time I spoke to you. I could tell you moved on and something in me still thought there was hope. It's silly to think, I know, but to this day I'm still having trouble processing your departure from my life because you've never left my heart.
I did not want to stonewall you before you left to start your master's degree program. I did not want to feel insecure about us being long distance. I did not want to be inconsiderate when I told you we needed to talk that morning. I did not want to send that stupid break up text right after. I did not want to be nasty with the Spotify playlist or the social media accounts. I did not want to spend the 2 weeks that followed in a state of limbo, communicating only through the website I made for you. I did not want you to exit out of my life the way that you did. I did not want to become the person I did in the following months, essentially tormenting your online presence and likely traumatizing you for life. I did not want to say goodbye in our last phone call that fateful July.
When you told me you thought it best that we never speak again, I broke. While we were over long before that, it finally clicked that I got you to the point where you wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. Some days, it still doesn't register because you appear in my dreams and it's as if nothing bad ever happened. But when I awake, all the ways I hurt you begin to dawn on me, and I fall into the same depressive cycle of wishing things were different.
I admit that I wasn't the best boyfriend during our relationship, and I was horrible to you after it all. I kept you away from my insecurities and pain because life continued to beat me down at every turn during our relationship. I was in financial straits, drowning in 60k worth of debt because I didn't have a job when I met you and didn't have one until that October, only quitting again in January to worsen my debt. Despite this, I put all of our dates and experiences on credits cards to try and impress you, but it caught up to me and with it, so did my insurmountable insecurity about you finding someone better. I felt disgusting that day I couldn't even pay for our Papa John's pizza and you offered to. In my head, I just knew that you'd eventually leave for someone who would never put you in such a situation. How could I even think about marrying you like I wanted to when I can't provide for us or our future family. We'd sit and have those conversations about naming our three potential kids and planning our wedding on Pinterest, but something deep in me kept saying I wasn't good enough for a life with you. I tried my best to hide it, but once you made your decision to leave the state, I felt like the world was crashing down around me. In the following weeks, it was hard for me to be supportive and root for you because as much as I loved you and your ambition, I wanted you back with me. I wanted us to take a walk as long as we did on our first date when we walked from midtown to Central Park, running into that ferret along the way. I wanted us to find a park bench to sit on while you put your legs up on mine, talking for hours. I wanted you wrapped in my arms while I held back tears because I just knew you were the one I'd marry someday, and I couldn't feel anymore blessed.
You were my blessing. Even in my worst moments, you'd want to talk it out and make sure I was good, and I wasn't in a space to do that for you. You were the first girlfriend to meet my parents because I just knew they'd like you. You were the first woman I allowed in my safe space. You never seriously judged me, were my biggest supporter, and were always very sweet. I took this for granted in so many ways that I'll never forgive myself for. Worst of all, I stopped making you feel safe despite everything you told me about your abandonment issues and what you did not want from a partner. I had seen you cry before, but when the tears were because of what I did, it became hard to live with myself. I fought like Hell to get you back, but you were so far mentally removed from our situation that it was too late, and nobody would blame you for that.
You chose peace, and I commend you for that. I truly hope your life has been nothing but peaceful since. In one of our last calls, you mentioned having me as someone your next boyfriend would have to measure up to, but honestly, anybody would be better than me for you. I just hope he appreciates the soft, loving, beautiful, intelligent and sweet woman that he has and doesn't ever take you for granted. Every part of my being wants you to read every word of this letter and feel the sincerity in my apology, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to hear from you still. But for my own sanity, I need to live in the fantasy world where you come across this and reach out to me, satisfying something in me that is still a relic of my former self. Truthfully, I'm writing this because you cross my mind very frequently despite my efforts to be present in my current relationship and move forward with that. I've gotten to a "love" stage, but sometimes it feels like I'm still doing wrong by you in even saying I love someone else. When I said it to you for the first time and the thousand times after, I meant it, every time. I know outside of this, I'll likely never say it to you again, but the feelings will never dissipate.
This will hopefully serve as my final goodbye, lest our paths randomly cross which at that point I don't even know what would happen. You know I'm always good for a letter, especially when it comes to you, and I always looked out for your letters just to be comforted by your words. This time is different. I expect no response and honestly don't expect you to ever come across this, which is comforting in a different way. I noticed I've been unblocked on Instagram, but I know it's not an invitation to reach out; it's likely you wanting absolutely nothing to do with me, so much so that it's pointless having me in your block list. I will always respect your last request to never reach out to you again, but I could not hold myself back from writing to you one last time.
Despite all I've said and done, I ALWAYS wished nothing but the biggest blessings to fall upon you and your loved ones, and that will never change. In my heart, you will forever be my Lovely Lady, all the different types of "bae", my Beauty, my Sunshine, my everything. There will never be a day that passes that I'm not grateful for the love we experienced in our finest moments, and for everything I've learned in our less than finer moments. I miss you and I love you. Though physically and mentally removed from our relationship, you will always have an irreplaceable space with me. If the universe sees fit, I hope our paths magically cross and that we're both in better spaces to be friends, as you were always my best friend in our time together, but I wouldn't even be mad if you looked my way in disgust or with a smile, said nothing, and moved on with your life. Either way, you will always be more than a memory; more than the one that got away. You are you, and that is why you were and always will be special.
May your name shine bright in the Broadway lights and should that day come where I stumble upon your work, I will be there (silently) supporting. May you receive everything positive that's meant to come your way. May a stable and healthy relationship bear the fruit of love in the form of little ones to carry your beautiful soul into future generations. May you live a long and loving life with loved ones surrounding you always. May the past pains you've experienced serve as a faint learning experience and nothing more. May your heart forever remain pure. Goodbye.
love always.
submitted by blackpanther1297 to letters [link] [comments]
I did not want to stonewall you before you left to start your master's degree program. I did not want to feel insecure about us being long distance. I did not want to be inconsiderate when I told you we needed to talk that morning. I did not want to send that stupid break up text right after. I did not want to be nasty with the Spotify playlist or the social media accounts. I did not want to spend the 2 weeks that followed in a state of limbo, communicating only through the website I made for you. I did not want you to exit out of my life the way that you did. I did not want to become the person I did in the following months, essentially tormenting your online presence and likely traumatizing you for life. I did not want to say goodbye in our last phone call that fateful July.
When you told me you thought it best that we never speak again, I broke. While we were over long before that, it finally clicked that I got you to the point where you wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. Some days, it still doesn't register because you appear in my dreams and it's as if nothing bad ever happened. But when I awake, all the ways I hurt you begin to dawn on me, and I fall into the same depressive cycle of wishing things were different.
I admit that I wasn't the best boyfriend during our relationship, and I was horrible to you after it all. I kept you away from my insecurities and pain because life continued to beat me down at every turn during our relationship. I was in financial straits, drowning in 60k worth of debt because I didn't have a job when I met you and didn't have one until that October, only quitting again in January to worsen my debt. Despite this, I put all of our dates and experiences on credits cards to try and impress you, but it caught up to me and with it, so did my insurmountable insecurity about you finding someone better. I felt disgusting that day I couldn't even pay for our Papa John's pizza and you offered to. In my head, I just knew that you'd eventually leave for someone who would never put you in such a situation. How could I even think about marrying you like I wanted to when I can't provide for us or our future family. We'd sit and have those conversations about naming our three potential kids and planning our wedding on Pinterest, but something deep in me kept saying I wasn't good enough for a life with you. I tried my best to hide it, but once you made your decision to leave the state, I felt like the world was crashing down around me. In the following weeks, it was hard for me to be supportive and root for you because as much as I loved you and your ambition, I wanted you back with me. I wanted us to take a walk as long as we did on our first date when we walked from midtown to Central Park, running into that ferret along the way. I wanted us to find a park bench to sit on while you put your legs up on mine, talking for hours. I wanted you wrapped in my arms while I held back tears because I just knew you were the one I'd marry someday, and I couldn't feel anymore blessed.
You were my blessing. Even in my worst moments, you'd want to talk it out and make sure I was good, and I wasn't in a space to do that for you. You were the first girlfriend to meet my parents because I just knew they'd like you. You were the first woman I allowed in my safe space. You never seriously judged me, were my biggest supporter, and were always very sweet. I took this for granted in so many ways that I'll never forgive myself for. Worst of all, I stopped making you feel safe despite everything you told me about your abandonment issues and what you did not want from a partner. I had seen you cry before, but when the tears were because of what I did, it became hard to live with myself. I fought like Hell to get you back, but you were so far mentally removed from our situation that it was too late, and nobody would blame you for that.
You chose peace, and I commend you for that. I truly hope your life has been nothing but peaceful since. In one of our last calls, you mentioned having me as someone your next boyfriend would have to measure up to, but honestly, anybody would be better than me for you. I just hope he appreciates the soft, loving, beautiful, intelligent and sweet woman that he has and doesn't ever take you for granted. Every part of my being wants you to read every word of this letter and feel the sincerity in my apology, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to hear from you still. But for my own sanity, I need to live in the fantasy world where you come across this and reach out to me, satisfying something in me that is still a relic of my former self. Truthfully, I'm writing this because you cross my mind very frequently despite my efforts to be present in my current relationship and move forward with that. I've gotten to a "love" stage, but sometimes it feels like I'm still doing wrong by you in even saying I love someone else. When I said it to you for the first time and the thousand times after, I meant it, every time. I know outside of this, I'll likely never say it to you again, but the feelings will never dissipate.
This will hopefully serve as my final goodbye, lest our paths randomly cross which at that point I don't even know what would happen. You know I'm always good for a letter, especially when it comes to you, and I always looked out for your letters just to be comforted by your words. This time is different. I expect no response and honestly don't expect you to ever come across this, which is comforting in a different way. I noticed I've been unblocked on Instagram, but I know it's not an invitation to reach out; it's likely you wanting absolutely nothing to do with me, so much so that it's pointless having me in your block list. I will always respect your last request to never reach out to you again, but I could not hold myself back from writing to you one last time.
Despite all I've said and done, I ALWAYS wished nothing but the biggest blessings to fall upon you and your loved ones, and that will never change. In my heart, you will forever be my Lovely Lady, all the different types of "bae", my Beauty, my Sunshine, my everything. There will never be a day that passes that I'm not grateful for the love we experienced in our finest moments, and for everything I've learned in our less than finer moments. I miss you and I love you. Though physically and mentally removed from our relationship, you will always have an irreplaceable space with me. If the universe sees fit, I hope our paths magically cross and that we're both in better spaces to be friends, as you were always my best friend in our time together, but I wouldn't even be mad if you looked my way in disgust or with a smile, said nothing, and moved on with your life. Either way, you will always be more than a memory; more than the one that got away. You are you, and that is why you were and always will be special.
May your name shine bright in the Broadway lights and should that day come where I stumble upon your work, I will be there (silently) supporting. May you receive everything positive that's meant to come your way. May a stable and healthy relationship bear the fruit of love in the form of little ones to carry your beautiful soul into future generations. May you live a long and loving life with loved ones surrounding you always. May the past pains you've experienced serve as a faint learning experience and nothing more. May your heart forever remain pure. Goodbye.
love always.
2024.06.08 00:35 Trick-Interaction396 How do I handle someone who needs to be micro-managed?
I hate micro managing. I ask this person how long they need to complete a task and they say a week. I know it doesn’t take a week but as long as it gets done, I don’t care. A week goes by and it’s not done. I ask why and they have an excuse. I give them another week. Still not done. New excuse. I give them another week. Still not done. New excuse.
I schedule daily calls for planning and status updates. Task gets done in a few days. I did nothing to unblock them. All I did was hold them accountable. I don’t want to have daily calls with this person and plan all their work step by step. Please advise.
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I schedule daily calls for planning and status updates. Task gets done in a few days. I did nothing to unblock them. All I did was hold them accountable. I don’t want to have daily calls with this person and plan all their work step by step. Please advise.