This might be long, but I need advice - I have been with my SO and SD15 for almost 12 years now.. HCBM is diagnosed Bipolar and has been unmedicated for 15 yrs and also is a multi-millionaire with her “businesses” I wish I could go into detail but I’d end up having to write a book..
Throughout the years SO and I have witnessed abuse from her end to SD - physical and verbal. SD decided one year she wanted to live with us full time. Somehow by the next day she was manipulated into staying with HCBM. She has taken SO to court and lied/cried/photoshopped documents to the point where without 10s of thousands of dollars for a lawyer, no matter what SO always lost.
Now SD is 15 and was dragged across the country to live with HCBM, no schooling just online homeschool because HCBM needs to with her at all times. But now, she calls me or SO constantly crying about the abuse she is going through. Based on what she has told me it sounds like HCBM may not just be Bipolar, but she sounds like a Narcissist. She has “employees” for everything down to helping organize the house. Makes SD clean and most recently has started telling SD she is using her as an ATM (SD asked for underwear and is not able to work yet). SD still sleeps in bed with HCbM bc BM tells her she is afraid to sleep alone. This seems like some sort of enmeshment? When she visits us, BM is in the hotel up the street and will text SD she is lonely to guilt trip SD. SD leaves, and ends up calling us next morning regretting she left. Every single time she has to leave to fly back home she cries she doesn’t want to leave and we tell her she can stay but she just won’t. My advice is what do I say to her when she calls me crying about how shitty her mom is treating her?? I know I can’t flat out tell her that her mom is a narcissist. She knows her mom is bipolar so we’ve told her that some of her actions are because of the disorder and unfortunately without medication, she will never change. I am so worried for this girl and am holding onto to hope she will realize how ill HCBM really is. But it seems like the manipulation, guilt tripping is getting worse. I just get so angry and don’t know what to say? SO sometimes tells her he understands far too much what she is going through bc he of course was married to her, but we know we have to be careful. He just tells her she can come back but she stays silent. Im asking bc it’s the same phone call at least once or twice a week. I’m out of things to say? We are worried as well bc she is telling SD she will help her start her own business which is code for I will use you and throw you under the bus when I get in trouble. She has done this numerous times to several family members and SD has no clue. She just sees the money coming in and thinks HCBM is a godsend, smartest person alive.
I am sorry this was long but I lost sleep bc of the phone all yesterday and am hoping someone out there has been through something similar.

Sound suspicious to you? It seems suspicious to me!
Who's trying to call me?? Who's trying to stop that conversation?
Is it the same reason I moved away from Jax every time before? Office employment stopped? (I don't know who heard me at my desk 1999 with my #divorce attorney, but I was actually crying because it wasn't true. It just hurt me as first time mom! I hated that guy threatened to take away baby Steve with complete lie.) Guy did it then, but I guess he always did every visitation too? I wonder when I find out SK was hurt because FL state law required shared custody. 💔
Is that what they want to repeat by keeping me in FL? More death of children that I didn't even cause but they read on Facebook news stories??? I was upset about news stories, not trying to repeat them myself!! I wish people read my posts right! I wish everyone alive in Jacksonville PRIORITIZED keeping children safe instead of men versus women, race or religion, or power or wealth or assumed social class, etc.. ONLY the children should matter, not perception of who's better than the other. Now I'm going to cry for the youngest one changed so deeply in just MONTHS away from me in 2011 for the first time!
Can you imagine WHY I am angry with community of Jax metro for letting my THREE boys, now 26, 23 and 23) getting seriously hurt over GOSSIP? Can you imagine why I would be angry since I know the "proof" was photoshopped? Can you imagine why mothers might be angry when their children are hurting? Why was I tortured for becoming a mother when 2 men neglected to use condoms after dating for while, then one not long enuf? DK knew me for a YEAR. Thanksgiving implies more than friends. Then 24 YEARS AGO, RPM needed to know me longer!! It's all messed up now because he didn't learn to value me to value our 2 CHILDREN!!!
Children: worst case scenario possible. 💔Sex: emotional damage resulting from bad events. 💔 It's why I would tell any woman to close your legs until man PROVE to be worthy of intimacy. Unpopular concept in 2024, isn't it? What happened to me? I used to truly hate myself. I had kids. I loved my kids more than myself. I recommend parents to love your kids more than yourself. Be humbled by your kids wants and needs. Life changing experience. Honestly. True love found for me was unconditional love I gave to my kids while I was a mom. No sex or nudity needed to be a good mother, so self-esteem recovered slowly. Unnoticed by others. Nobody talked to me after knowing my kids had diagnoses. They are good kids, not defective!
Why make women suffer socially for sex or children, but be proud of men for __ but not doing enough for children born??
Maybe my cell phone hijacked is just WHY I am not getting right job offers!

Have you noticed your sweet baby changing personality after going to daycare with a "spirited/angry" child? My son is 10.5 months old. We just accepted a spot at a sought-after daycare. This week, we have been going to daycare for an hour at a time to get him acclimated. My son will be in a class of four. Two of the babies are sweet, smiley, and well-behaved. However, the third baby is built like a line backer and screams and cries and appears to anger easily. He also has lots of bruises up his legs so I assume he plays rough. They say you are an amalgamation of the five people you spend the most time with, so I'm afraid my son will copy this baby's behaviors. Am I crazy for being worried about this?

Can someone do a bad photoshop of big A’s face on an angry goose? Possibly give his a glizzy as a cigar? Thanks bros <3

I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/justathrowaway282641
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[New Update]: My family forgot to invite me to my grandparents funeral, but they are convinced I was there.
Trigger Warnings: death of loved ones, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, harassment
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Original Post: November 14, 2023**
I’m 30s F and caused a major blowup in my family and now none of them are talking to me. For background, my hometown is tiny (500pop) and when I went 2 hrs away to “the city” (15,000pop) for college, I loved it. I ended up staying after graduation, got married, and am happy here for a decade. I visit my home town every few weeks or so, call/text my family near daily, and thought we were all good. My family’s pretty small. Just my brother, mom, step dad, dad, step mom, and an aunt and uncle (mom’s siblings, never married, no kids). My mother's grandparents moved to my home town when I was in high school and were just down the street from us. My family has always been pretty drama free (aside from my parent’s divorce when I was a kid) and we’ve been happy. The step-parents were blended in perfectly and we share holidays and celebrations together. We’re all super close and just the perfect little group.
Ever since I moved away, the topic of “when am I moving back?” is constant, and I’ve always laughed it off. My home town has nothing. You have to drive 30 minutes for milk and bread. 60-90 minute one-way commutes to work. And floods shut down the main road every Easter. I love the town, but I love here more. I have parks, stores, community events, a library! The “city” is great. My family grumbles that I need to move back, but I refuse. I've been trying to encourage them to come here, especially since it's not an hour drive to the nearest medical facility.
Now to the meat and potatoes: both my grandparents passed over COVID times. They were both old and their health had been failing for a while so it was only a matter of time. Thankfully they didn’t catch it, but it made visiting them impossible and we survived mostly through FaceTime. They both passed in their sleep months apart. Both were cremated and kept securely under the kitchen sink for safe keeping while the pandemic blew over. That was 2021.
Well, I just found out my family held a funeral for them and scattered the ashes in my uncle’s maple grove over the summer. No one said a word to me about it. I’ve visited numerous times before and after and not one word. I only found out because my great uncle from California posted on Facebook a few weeks ago that he is entering hospice and was so thankful his health stayed strong enough for him to see his little sister (my grandma) to her final resting place. I was confused and called my mom. She was all “Yeah, the funeral we had in July, remember?” Ya’ll, I visited them for the 4th of July. They did the funeral the 8th. Not a word about it to me. They had planned this for months. Long enough to arrange for my infirm great uncle to be brought over from the other side of the country. Apparently, they talked about it “all the time”.
Everyone is convinced I was at the funeral. They SWEAR I was there. I can prove I wasn’t because Google’s got my location history. My hubby is baffled because he was supposedly there, too, but he had to work every weekend in June and July. Time clock doesn’t lie. My family straight up forgot about me. I’m hurt. I’m sad. And they’re pissed at me “for lying”. They think I’m causing drama over nothing. Nothing I say can convince them I wasn’t there. My family is united in this. And they’ve all put me “on read” until I admit I’m wrong. They think I’ve gone nuts. Either there’s a doppelganger of me attending events, or my family doesn’t want to admit they screwed up. I’m not backing down.
Thanksgiving is coming up, and my family’s been vague posting on Facebook about “forgetful kids” and mental health. It’s so freaking weird and I don’t know if I’m in bizzaro world or what’s going on. My mom’s best friend reached out and said I should just admit I was wrong and apologize, that I’m causing my mom so much unnecessary stress. I asked her if she’s checked everyone’s home for CO2. She hung up on me. (We checked our CO2, and our testers are running just fine.) I have reached out to a few people in my home town to check in on my folks, and they all say they're fine. I even spoke with the local volunteer fire fighter group to see if they could check for gas leaks. Not sure if they were able to.
I don’t know what to do. I’ve shown them the proof I wasn’t there, but they know I’m tech savvy and just assume I’ve Photoshopped it. Hubby says we need a break, and we’re going to be staying home this holiday season.
Edit: I don't know the update rules, so I'll post updates to my profile should anyone want them.  
Update #1: November 27, 2023
Not sure how to do updates on posts, so figured I'd post anything on my profile. Folks have private messaged me and this will be easier I think?
It's 11/27 and Thanksgiving just happened. Hubby and I stayed home. We got a small turkey and made our own little thanksgiving. It was nice. We ate around noon, then watched a movie, and later sat outside with a bottle of wine to watch the sun set behind the trees and neighbor houses.
We usually take the day before off, drive to my folks, stay the night, and help with the Thanksgiving Day cooking. So it wasn't until Wednesday night that my mom broke the silence. Mom called and asked when I was showing up, and I told her we were staying home this year, but for them to have a happy Thanksgiving, and to give the rest of the family my love. She was quiet for a long time after I said that, and I think she eventually mumbled an "okay", or something, and hung up. It wasn't an angry hang up. Just a hang up. On Thanksgiving day, I sent a group "Happy Thanksgiving!" gif to our family group chat. I received a few "happy Thanksgiving"'s back. No one's said anything else. There's been no posts on Facebook.  
Update #2: December 12, 2023
So, I think I mentioned in one of my comments that my dad and I usually talk on the phone every Sunday morning. We're both early risers so we'd chat over our morning coffees and watch the sunrise. Him and I haven't really spoken since this all went down and it's been tough. I'm used to talking to him, you know?
Well, I was sitting outside in my usual spot, watching the sun rise and freezing my butt off, and he called me. I'm not entirely sure how to describe the emotions I felt. It was a mix of panic, hope, terror, happiness, and dread. I ended up answering because I just had to know what he wanted. It was an awkward conversation. He didn't address the current "drama", but instead tiptoed around the situation with all the grace of an cow on stilts. For instance, a simple "How are you doing?" Type question was answered with a "Not good." And the whole conversation would stall out for a bit because he knew why I wasn't doing well. So we ended up talking about the weather, the various winter birds we'd seen in our feeders, and the Christmas decorations around town. Things like that.
Eventually he asked if we were coming out for Christmas, and sounded sad when I told him we weren't. He asked if him and step mom could come visit us instead, and I told him it wasn't a good idea this year. That hubby and I were going to spend a quiet holiday together. I let him know he should be receiving some gifts at his PO Box any day now, so to please pick them up from the post office and put them under the family tree for everyone. He said he'd ship ours to us as well.
And that was pretty much it. No crazy drama to report. The only posts on Facebook have been the usual Christmas excitement ones, countdowns, photos of Santa, silly gift ideas, photos of company Christmas parties.
On a personal note: Hubby and I are doing alright. Our health is good, our spirits high, and we're as solid as ever. We each got Christmas bonus' at our jobs, so we're excited about that. They're not large, but we're happy to have them. We have also done advent calendars for the first time ever. I got him a Lego one, and he got me a hot chocolate one. We're going to do the calendars again next year. Maybe make a tradition out of it.
Everyone please have a safe and happy holidays.  
Inheritance: December 16, 2023
I've received a lot - A LOT - of messages and private DMs urging me to check into inheritance and such. I'm really touched a lot of Internet strangers are worried about me and I wanted to ensure everyone that inheritance is most likely not an issue here. I'd almost be relieved if it was, because then it would at least make some sense. Money does weird things to people, you know?
No one in my family is wealthy by any means. After my grandparents' passed, their small estate was used to pay for their end of life expenses and remaining assets split up. Everyone directly related got an equal split (so excluded my dad and the step parents). I don't remember the exact amount I received, but it was around $5k if I recall. My brother gave me his share, too, so I could finish paying off my college debt while the interest freeze was active.
The great uncle from California has kids and grand kids, and great grandkids of his own, and also isn't wealthy. I think one of his kids makes good money doing something in finance, but I'm not entirely sure. I can't imagine he left us anything, as we hardly knew him. My mom, aunt, and uncle only met him a few times in their lives, and my brother and I even less. Grandma and him were close, but I don't think he liked my grandpa much.  
Christmas: December 25, 2023
I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. I've received a lot of support through my posts and I'm really grateful. Writing these updates have had a therapeutic effect.
Yesterday was Sunday, but I didn't answer my dad when he called. I just really didn't feel up to a pointless chat, so let it go to voicemail. He tried to reach me a few times throughout the day, but I didn't answer.
Our bestie last minute invited us over to his house for Christmas day lunch (today), so husband and I were busy all Christmas Eve making cookies, peanut brittle, and homemade suckers/hard candies for his kids. Mom tried to reach out as well, but I also ignored her calls.
We had a BLAST at lunch! Our friend's kids are a lot of fun to be around. They got some techy presents from their grandparents (Quest vr headset and steam decks, lucky little rascals) Friend and his wife aren't good with tech, while hubby and I are, so we helped get them set up while our friend played a good host to his folks and inlaws. The grandparents didn't realize that a Steam deck required a Steam account, so we got the kids all their own accounts set up, added them to our steam friends lists, and gifted them some games. We also bought them a few VR games for their headset, and they were off to the races with Beat Saber in no time.
As for my folks: My brother texted and asked if we could talk sometime tomorrow. I think me ignoring mom and dad has caused some kind of upset. Which they deserve.  
Brother’s call: December 26, 2023
Spoke with my brother over the phone this morning.
For starters, he apologized for everything. Him and I are good (for now). For a bit of background, my brother and I are only 2 years apart. There weren't a lot of kids around growing up, so the two of us were often stuck doing stuff together. So we have a lot of shared interests and passions. He's been pretty silent on this whole matter, but still "part of the group", if you know what I mean. I think the thought of losing him out of my life was probably the most painful, because he's always been there. He was my rock until I met my husband. He's definitely a Mama's boy, though, so anything mom wanted, he made sure she got. I'm happy to have him back.
Without further ado, here's the story from the horse's mouth:
Mom apparently had a cancer scare late last year (which no one told me about, go figure), and dad had a stint put in his heart back in January (which I did know about). This "sense of mortality" has apparently lit a fire under Mom's ass to get me back home. But since I wasn't reacting to her passive aggressive hinting, she and step mom decided to go full crazy. My great uncle's health was bad, and he'd been asking about funeral arrangements for his sister (my grandma) for a while, so the moms decided to plan it. And use the event as a giant middle finger to me. They kept all the planning pretty hush-hush between the two of them, so no one on our side of the family actually knew about the funeral until like 2 weeks before. The moms said they'd invited hubby and I. No one thought anything about it. No one thought to mention, confirm, or check with me.
The plan was to scatter the ashes, say a few words, and maybe head to town for lunch. It was a small affair. The mom's didn't even tell the family that our great uncle was coming for it. Like I said, it was a small thing. Barely a footnote. No one thought it was odd because we're pretty chill people.
4th of July happens. Hubby and I are out. No one thought to mention it, as we were all busy celebrating and having a great time. Any time the topic of "this weekend" would start, the conversation would be quickly shifted by one of the moms. We went back home.
8th of July happens. Great uncle rolls into town with a few of his kids, grandkids, and great grandkids, and it's a surprise to everyone (but the moms). Everyone drives to the maple grove and the moms have brought a ton of food and stuff. It's a full blown party. No one on my side noticed I wasn't there, because there were so many extra faces outside the usual group. They did the spreading of the ashes, they said their words, they ate, they had a great time. It wasn't until our great uncle left, and all his side left with him, that they realized I wasn't there. And hadn't been there.
And this is where the crazy went up a notch. My brother says the moms were happy no one noticed I wasn't there. And that this was proof to everyone that I needed to move back because I was so easily forgotten about. Because none of them thought to reach out, right? They basically did a ton of guilt tripping manipulation bullshit and it made everyone upset at me for not showing up. Somehow it was my fault for being excluded. So suddenly everyone was on their side with "sticking it to me".
But then a few months went by, and tempers cooled, and then I guess the horror of it set in. Followed by the shame, but by then they were "in too deep". How do you undo something like this? And since I hadn't brought it up, I guess they figured they would all just stay quiet about it and hope I never asked about a funeral.
That's when I discovered the situation from my great uncle's Facebook and called my mom, who panicked and went with the stupidest solution. Claiming I was there. Don't I remember?
I ended up talking with a few friends from high school, mentioning the situation, and word got back to those in town. So suddenly town gossip and little old church ladies got involved. Was I, or wasn't I at the funeral? Did my family forget to invite me to the funeral of the only grandparents I'd ever know? Or am I just causing a ruckus? My brother said they all just went with mom's answer. Of course they wouldn't forget me. Of course I was there. Of course they're good people. And it just snowballed.
The family expected me to eventually fold. I'm usually a nonconfrontational person, so me sticking to my guns was unexpected. And then I missed Thanksgiving. And now Christmas. With no sign of backing down. And I guess the realization that I could just stop being part of their lives is setting in and my parents are panicking. He's tried just getting them to apologize and explain, but stubbornness prevails. They want to rug sweep, but I'm not letting them.
My brother is upset with everything that's happened. He's realized just how crappy it all has been and he wants nothing to do with it anymore. But since he lives with my mom, he can't "get away from it".
He has asked if he can come stay with us for a little bit. I spoke with hubby, and he's in agreement with me that my brother can come crash in our spare bedroom for as long as he wants. Brother works remotely, so it's no trouble for him to pick up and go. I believe he's making the trip today or tomorrow. Not entirely sure, but I expect crap to hit the fan when he arrives.
On a side note, hubby's stoked that my brother and I made up. The two usually game together, but haven't due to "the situation". He's downstairs right now setting up his man cave in preparation for my brother's arrival. I'm happy to see him so excited.  
Brother's Here: December 27, 2023
My brother rolled in late last night. He'd obviously been crying and when I opened the door, he just held me and sobbed. I'd never seen him like that before and soon both of us were just standing in the doorway crying into one another. He kept apologizing. Over and over again. Said he wasn't sure why he went with it. Just kept saying sorry. Hubby got him all set up in the spare bedroom while brother and I talked. My brother's a wreck. He's always been a big guy, but he's lost a lot of weight and his clothes just hang off him. If I didn't know better, I'd think he was on drugs. We talked for a little bit before bed and he re-explained everything for my husband. I'd told hubby the story, but it was just so weird that hearing it again helped.
This morning my brother was up at dawn making some coffee and getting his work day going. Hubby's off all week (lucky) so hubby made us working folk some pancakes and bacon. So far everything's peaceful. We've decided not to answer any calls from our family. They've been made aware that he arrived safely, and that we are going to spend the New Years together, and that we're not answering any calls until January 1st. They may text if they wish. I'm sure they're losing their minds. Serves them right.
Everyone, have a safe and happy new years! Don't drink and drive!  
Happy 2024!: January 2, 2024
I hope everyone has a safe and enjoyable holidays, and may the new year be full of joy and happiness!
Not too much of an update. Things here have been quiet. My brother's settled in nicely and he's a great housemate. Our place isn't very big, but we have full basement and a nice outside patio/porch area so it doesn't feel crowded at all with the extra addition. He's a quiet and clean guy. No hassle at all. He got some fresh clothes from the Walmart, a haircut, and trimmed his beard, so he's more "presentable" now. He's a lady killer when he gets cleaned up. He's made nice with the (very nosy, but kind) retired couple next door and is adapting to "city living" nicely.
Folks back home have been mostly well behaved. There's been a few texts back and forth, as we're not answering calls. Mom mainly wants to know when brother's coming back, but he's keen on staying here for a while. Mom said I can't "keep him" and I told her he's a grown ass man and can do what he wants. Brother says he has her blocked after she ORDERED him to return home.
Brother has tentatively asked if he could stay long term, should he decide to, or at least longer than a usual visitor would stay. Which we're fine with. He has a good paying job and could afford an apartment, but he's never lived on his own and I would guess he has some anxiety about it. Should that be the case, he'll start paying us some rent and we'd probably adjust to give him the basement as his own space.  
Had to change the locks: January 17, 2024
My brother is officially staying with us for the long haul. Hubby and him spent all Sunday organizing the basement and shifting things around so he now has his own area to be comfortable in. He's pretty handy and has also started fixing little things around our house. Our windows and doors have never closed and locked/unlocked smoother. He even fixed one of the closets we never use because we can never get the darn door open. Sadly, he also had to change the locks on our house and get us all new keys.
This is because while hubby and I were out this Saturday, the moms showed up. They'd been calling and texting us all week, but we weren't really answering them, so I guess the two decided to drive over and hash it out in person. They have emergency keys to my place, and just let themselves in. Brother told them to leave, they argued, and my nosy (but kind) neighbors called the police when they noticed the commotion. So, we get a call from neighbor's wife, return home to some cops in our yard, all the neighbors out "vacuuming their trees", and my nosy (but kind) neighbors standing on my porch with my brother behind them, doing their best Gandalf "You shall not pass" impression.
Had to talk with the cops, explain that we were having a family dispute and word vomited. I don't really remember what all I said, and was shaking a lot. Our local cops are really great. Fantastic guys and gals in blue, and took it all in stride. It's really cold here, so one had me join him in his cruiser with the heat on, and gave me a bottle of water to calm down while we talked. They asked if we wanted the moms trespassed but I wasn't sure if that counted as a criminal charge so just asked the cops if they could just make them leave, which the cops did with no fuss. I think the moms were shocked we were taking this so seriously. They didn't fight or scream at us. Just left quietly.
My dad promised me he'd make sure his wife left us alone. "Or else". He said he'd also have a stern talk with my mom. Him and I talked Sunday morning, and he seemed absolutely at the end of his rope. Husband jokingly told my dad he could move in, too. To which he declined.
Not sure where to go from here, but we're getting some ring cameras installed once they arrive. And everyone but my dad is blocked. Hopefully they all just leave us alone.  
Nothing New To Report: February 2, 2024
Had a lot of DMs for updates, but don't have much anything to report on. The moms are behaving themselves. All's quiet on the western front. Felt weird ignoring or copy/pasting "no updates" to everyone, so here's what we've been doing, should anyone care.
Dad got a new bird/squirrel feeder from Amazon (looks like a little picnic table for a child's dolly but has a mesh top for the bird seed. I think it's supposed to be for chickens?) It's totes adorbs. To his horror, it also works as a Cooper hawk feeder, so now he's "fortifying his defenses" and putting up some trellises around it. He'll have to wait till warmer weather before planting anything to grow on them.
We had some ring cameras installed and put in a motion-activated camera that double functions as a light bulb. It goes in the light fixture outside the front door and is pretty cool. Video quality isn't all that great, but it's a nice addition I guess. It does overlook the bird feeders, so I've been watching it on my lunch breaks on the days I have to go into the office.
Hubby and brother are feuding. They started a coop farm in Stardew Valley a few days ago and they both want to romance Leah. My husband confided in me that he's also been romancing Sebastian as a backup. I'm not sure why he's keeping this a secret, but he's pretty smug about it.
RELEVANT COMMENTS
fractal_frog I hope your dad can outsmart the hawks!

OOP: He'll be able to, I just know it. He's used to dealing with the wildlife and having hawks about, but he just wasn't expecting one to snag a meal right from his new feeder.
I told him it was "technically" still a bird feeder. Just....for bigger birds. Which he thought was funny. He said he might make a little "no hawks allowed" sign to put up next to it.

MissOP: keep the updates coming. the moms are so close to folding it's just a little bit more. LMAO also, the bro mance between your husband and brother is so cute. lol Honestly, I think your husband making sure he has a side piece of Sebastian is absolutely the play.

OOP: So far still no word from the moms, but I hope you're right. I would love an apology and for us to begin moving past this. But I NEED that apology. I feel selfish saying that, but I refuse to "be the bigger person" on this. I just won't.
As for my brother and husband, yeah, they're basically soul mates. The two hit it off immediately when they first met, and they've been thick as thieves for years.  

Update: February 27, 2024
My dad came out for a visit over the weekend. We had a good time and the weather was lovely for some grilling and beers. It was really nice to see him again and he seemed healthy and in good spirits.
Here's his report from back home: Step mom (dad's wife) has started to realize she's screwed up. I credit her change of mindset to the fact that my dad sat her down and laid it out for her: she leaves his kids alone, or she's getting divorce papers. That apparently shut her up right quick, because they had a prenup done when they married and I'm not sure the details of it, but it wouldn't end favorably for her. She hasn't worked in years, so I imagine she'd be eligible for alimony? But I'm not versed in any of that legal mumbojumbo. Dad didn't seem too worried about it, so I'm not gonna worry about it.
Step dad was pissed the police were involved in the last "mom visit" (despite no one getting arrested or anything) and was in a "the kids are out of control and need to be reigned back in" mindset. When my dad pointed out that "the kids" in question were all in their mid-30s, it took some of the steam out of stepdad's sails. According to my dad, even my mom looked a little surprised when he said that. So, part of me is wondering if a good chunk of this whole thing is my mom not truly realizing that her kids were grown, and no longer children she could make demands of. Both of the moms have left us alone. I expected my mom to continue to kick up a fuss, but I think the cops spooked her.
There was a wonderful suggestion by a comment or to get their pastor involved, which I passed along to my dad. Dad has since spoken to their pastor about everything. He's a young guy, relatively new to their church, and joked that his first month on the job he had to do 3 funerals in a row and his new "flock" were just dying to get away from him, so he's got a sense of humor which is nice. The new pastor agreed to sit down with everyone and help the family hash it all out in a true "Come to Jesus" type moment next month, so that maybe we could celebrate Easter together as our first holiday as a family. Dad said the pastor was aware our family was having some troubles, but unsure of exactly what was going on, and since he was new, the pastor didn't want to pry. He has also agreed to do a small service down at my uncle's maple grove later in the summer, as it usually floods and is a muddy mess all spring. According to my dad, my aunt and uncle are so over all the drama and just ready to move on, so I expect hugs and apologies from them when we next meet.
Stardew Valley Update: My brother was victorious in the grand fight for Leah. It was a hard battle. Well fought. When my husband exposed his plans to woo Sebastian all this time, it was quite the betrayal. Dramatics aside, their farm is really cute and I'm so happy they're enjoying the game!  
Update 4/1 - Final one I think - April 1, 2024
Happy April Fools everyone! I hope you all check your caramel apples for stray onions before taking a bite! I also hope your Easter weekend was a delightful one.
It is with great joy that I tell you all about our most recent update! Possibly even a conclusion to this whole ordeal.
The entire family (aunt, uncle, moms, dads, brother, me, husband) and pastor met at my dad's house and we all sat down to hash the situation out. As expected from what my dad said, my aunt and uncle greeted us all with apologies and hugs, which was nice. My uncle usually helps host the Easter egg hunts with the church and he brought our Easter baskets to give to us in case us kids weren't sticking around the for the weekend. I'm not sure why but seeing it made me tear up and feel stupid, because it was just a basket of candy but it meant a lot to me for some reason.
The pastor led us in a prayer and talked about forgiveness and such. He then asked us all to talk one at a time about how we're feeling and what we want the end result of today to be. No one was allowed to interrupt so everyone got to talk. It was nice. The consensus for the group was that most everyone wanted things to go back to "normal". The only ones who had any variance off this was my mom and step dad. They both wanted all us kids to move back to the area.
The pastor asked them why they wanted us back, and neither could give a good reason other than "because family", and the pastor asked us if we were thriving where we were. And we said we were. He asked if we were happy there. Which we were. He then asked my mom and step dad if they wanted us to give up our happiness to make them happy.
And Mom broke down and said no. We all had a good cry. The pastor then asked about the funeral and lies that led up to it and followed it and how it made us all feel and what we wished we'd done differently if we had the chance. It was all very emotional, but in a good way, you know? Everyone apologized and admitted they f-ed up and did a really crappy thing.
We all talked for a long, long time and the pastor was a great mediator. Eventually we all reached some sort of resolution and I think we're good now. Emotions are still high and a little raw in areas, but we stayed for Easter weekend and had a nice time. We're going to keep moving forward slowly and try to repair the relationship, but I believe we're well and truly out of the woods.
As for my brother, he's still staying with us, and mom will stop trying to guilt trip him back home. He's thinking about renting a small apartment in our area but we're not pushing him to make a decision. He knows he's welcome to stay as long as he wants. I think he wants to try dating (he's had a few girlfriends but never anything serious) and is embarrassed to bring any girls around our place, lol. He's been going to a few random classes/bookclubs at the local library for something free to do and hitting it off with all the little old ladies who attend, and they keep trying to hook him up with girls his age who they know. He has been on a few lunches/coffee dates with a couple girls, but I think he's too embarrassed by the attention to give it a real try at "dating" any of them. He's happy, though, which is all I could ask for.
I'm not sure if there will be any more updates, as I think it's all be resolved about as much as it can be at the moment. I wanted to thank you all for your words of advice and giving me a place to vent and scream into the void. Please be kind to one another and to yourselves. Thank you.
Relevant Comments
emjkr: What a nice and hopeful update, I’m really glad you stuck to your guns when everyone threw sanity out the window!
But, could your mother explain how she thought this would work out in her favour?

OOP: I don't think mom thought too far ahead. I believe she assumed it would all just magically work out the way she wanted it to. She said she wasn't sure what she was expecting to happen (which I think was a lie, but I wasn't going to push it).

mak_zaddy: This was a great update! But ummmmmm no stardew valley update? What gives? Has Sebastian been woo’ed? How’s Leah? What’s happening?

OOP: Sebastian has indeed been wooed (and whoohooed) There's kids and cows and chickens. The two are still having a wonderful time at the game. They're working on completing the community center but it's slow going as they aren't trying to speedrun and just doing things as they want. I believe they're thinking about going into the desert mines once they complete that bundle, but they're both super chicken shit about it!

-my-cabbages: I don't really understand what you had to apologize for ... but I'm glad you're happy and the situation seems to be settling down

OOP: There wasn't much of an apology on my end, as everyone agreed I had done nothing wrong. Mine was more of a "I'm sorry you didn't feel as though I would listen." Type apology, which I don't really believe is a proper apology because apologies like that push the blame back on another. I mostly expressed my feelings and the shock of it all, and how betrayed I felt.  

----NEW UPDATE----

Small, happy update: May 7, 2024 (1 month later)
Things as wonderful as the moment. Still doing baby steps with The Moms. We're texting and talking on the phones more, which is nice. Very civil.
Dad "accidentally" bought a bunch of hand crafted bird feeders at a craft fair. By accidentally, I mean: he had a little too much fun in the beer tent, went for a stroll while step mom wasn't looking, and stumbled upon a guy's booth and bought "one of each". He wouldn't tell me how MANY "one of each" was, but he cackled like a witch when I asked. Step mom said she's forcing him to give a few to me, so I'm expecting a delivery or a Dad-visit any day now.
My brother is officially "going steady" with a girl. We've met her a few times and she seems like a real sweetheart. She's our age and has a little boy (5-6 years old, I haven't asked) from a previous relationship (The dad's not in the picture from what I can gather). She's the granddaughter of one of his Book Club members, so the old ladies made good match makers in the end. The relationship is still very new and I'm routing for them.
No new Stardew Valley updates. Work has been a little crazy lately and I haven't been able to play much of anything, and brother has been distracted by his new lady friend. So, husband finally started Baldur's Gate 3, and fell for Gale's "magic trick" so now those two are a thing. I expect him to be sufficiently distracted from reality for the next few weeks.
 

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THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP

Warning: This is extremely long
I am writing this because I need to make it known my love for this girl. And there needs to be something in the world that shows my love. All the hours of sleep I have lost for this girl, who I will call Eve, were for naught and I need there to be something tangible of what we had. This is my story of her.
I first met Eve at a volunteer event for an see organization we both went to, 4 days of 5 hours of volunteering. I thought she was beautiful and I wanted to ask her out. As we were leaving on the very last day I asked. I told her I enjoyed talking to her and thought she was cool, I asked if she would want to hang out sometime. I was elated. I thought she had given me her number romantically. I was so happy that day, I had never felt such joy. I was potentially going to be in a relationship with this amazing and beautiful woman. I texted her that night, and we talked some. The next day I asked her on a date, if she wanted to go to a local aquarium with me. She told me that she had a boyfriend. My soul was crushed, I felt myself die a bit. I physically felt my joy leave, everything was gray again. I had fallen in love with her over the simple act of her giving me her phone number. I have longed for female connection and affection for so long that even a slight show of something that could be considered as romance made me adore her. And that shows how fucked up I am. I made some more small talk, nothing much. I tried to play it off as “oh yea that’s cool”, perhaps I could salvage a friendship for now, and wait until she did not have a boyfriend. I asked her if she wanted to do paintball for my Birthday, she couldn’t because her sister got injured as a kid from it. For the next 3 months I mourned. I was sad, I had fallen in love with this beautiful girl, but could not even attempt to be with her. Then in November I saw her at another event, I was so scared. I was too afraid to make contact with her. I saw her and was terrified, of scorn, of disgust. I was embarrassed. She walked past me once and I said hi, as a friend, but no response, perhaps she did not hear me. I avoided her for the next few hours. Eventually during a raffle at the end we made eye contact. It was very brief, barely a second. I looked away so fast. She was so breathtaking. Now I knew that she knew I was there, and she knew I knew she was there. I went home without any more contact. The next months were the same, sadness. Mourning the relationship I (thought I) almost had. Every day I thought about her. Every single day. Not 3 hours could pass without her crossing my mind. At night I would look at her on Instagram. Look at her pictures, it was nothing creepy, I just admired her beauty and longed for her. I saw her boyfriend, he was ugly and fat. I do not mean to be rude or hate, but she could do better. I am ugly, but I take care of myself, I was jealous of him. One day she posted her Junior prom pics with him, she was so beautiful. One day when I went to admire her pictures, I noticed something. She had taken his name from her bio, and deleted all her posts. They had broken up. I was elated, perhaps I had a chance. I needed to see her again, establish connection. I went to an event where she was going, I saw her, I tried to find a chance to say hello but we were all so busy and split into different groups, I didn’t get a chance. As the event ended it was late. It was dark and in a not desirable area of town, Eve was leaving and my mom was going to accompany her to her car and called me over to accompany her. I walked out and was with them, Eve was so beautiful, her smile made me melt inside. We made some small talk between the three of us as we walked for a minute or two, and then she got in her car and left. I was angry at myself and my situation, I should have talked to her more, put myself out there. I was beating myself up for it the rest of my time there and the ride home. But when I got home I was overjoyed, while I drove Eve had texted me. She said it was nice to see me at an event again, with a smiley face. We talked for a bit, texting back and forth. I was so happy to be talking to her again, and SHE initiated it. Mind you this is on the 8th of February. For the next week or so we texted, not a ton. She was busy, however I have noticed she uses that as an excuse to not reply, more on that later. Come Valentine’s Day it was nearing Junior Prom at my school, I had dreams of bringing her to it. I was hoping to try and do something in person with her and some friends over the weekend, where I could ask in person. However, on Valentine’s Day she posted on her Instagram story a gift she had received from a secret admirer. I was scared I would lose my opportunity, now I had competition. This rushed me. I called her that evening, I told her I wanted to ask in person but saw her story and felt rushed, i asked if she wanted to go to our Junior prom with me. She said that she wasn’t sure, and wanted a few days to get back to me. A few days later she responded, she could not go. She said that she was talking to someone else pretty seriously and didn’t want to go for that reason. I accepted this with grace, I respect her decision. Exactly one month later I ran into her at an event. We talked a bit, we worked by each other this time. She mentioned when we talked with some others as a group that she was going on a spring break trip to California. After the event ended and we had gone home I texted her later that evening. I said it was nice seeing her, and I hoped she enjoyed her break. She responded, I was scared she wouldn’t. Throughout all of this I have held an underlying belief she is weirded out by me, or wants me to screw off, I had asked her out twice, maybe I am just a creep to her. But she did respond. We talked for the next few days, she still took a long time to respond, over 12 hours usually. I get you’re busy, but let’s be honest, everyone checks their phone in that time. On the morning of break when my family was driving off for ours I got a text from her. She sent me sunrise pics from her trip she was on, and said she would send some more. We texted back and forth a bit then, and she said I should send her pics of my trip. I was so happy, she had sent me pictures and asked I send some. While they weren’t pictures of HER, they were still beautiful sunrise pics, and SHE sent them to me first. Over the course of spring break we talked, there was a large time difference so most of it was sending picture, asking or telling something, and responding to previous texts. But one day we were both sat down and we texted back and forth for a straight hour. She was giving me her time and attention, I felt as if she enjoyed talking to me. When break ended however it changed. She took more and more time to respond, hours to days. She said she was busy, but I knew the truth, you can check your phone over the course of 2-3 days and respond. I felt hurt and confused. She has given me so much time and we had talked so much over break but now I was being ghosted. I couldn’t take it anymore. I wrote her a long text, telling her how I felt about her and what we had going on. How she was the most beautiful woman in the world and how I love talking to her, and also how I was getting mixed signals for her. She responded and told me that at first she was texting for friendliness but began to like me as we talked, she said she would text me before her friends and that must mean something subconsciously. She was flattered and admired my persistence in asking her out, now she was open to going out with me to test the waters. I was overjoyed. However I am moving overseas, about 3 months from when this happened, and I told her that. Very unfortunate that when I get my chance it is cut short. We talked more, and planned a date. She never did tell me why she didn’t respond. It was wonderful, we talked a lot. Of course it was awkward at times, but it got better as it went. I couldn’t take my eyes off of her. She was breathtaking, she had makeup on, but she looks even prettier without it. We talked about all sorts of things, and it all made me like her more. Same passion we wanted to go to college for, both love animals, both believe the same stuff. When the date ended, we went our separate ways. That has since been the last time I have seen her. When I got home she texted me she had a good time, I was so incredibly happy to see that. I hadn’t weirded her out, she hadn’t found me too unattractive to date. One day I posted a pic of me after winning a sports championship along with some others of my team on my story. I have never posted a pic of myself because I am self conscious, this was the first. She viewed my stories, and the only one she gave a like was of me. That made me feel so special, she liked the picture of ME. I was happy, we were still texting, she still took a while to reply, usually a day, but I was happy because I was going on dates with her. During the midst of planning a second, she stopped replying for a few days. When I was touring a college I got the message. She had felt nothing romantic on our date, only platonic. She enjoyed it she said, but felt no feelings for me. She wanted to go out again to solidify these feelings, and give me another chance but because I was moving she didn’t want to potentially start a relationship we would end in 2 months. She said she didn’t want to lead me on. I was heartbroken. I love her. This was the final nail in the coffin, it was over. We would not work out. I replied to her, said thank you for the honesty and wished her luck with life. I have been left on read. I don’t expect anything else, but a reply, a thank you for understanding, anything would be nice. I don’t want it to end. Any connection I can have with her I wanted. I don’t understand, I thought she liked me? While she did say she thought she had feelings, I understand that she may have changed how she felt after going out, but why would she do what she did? Why would she tell me she had a good time it she didn’t think it would work? I feel as if that just got my hopes up. It put me under the impression she liked me too. And why would she like my picture if she did not LIKE me? I am confused m, and I am sad. My situationship with her is done, and any contact is as well. I miss her, I want to be with her. I don’t understand what to do now. For the past year she has been my purpose. I have improved myself for her, cried for her, tried at life for her. Now I have nothing, no purpose. How can I go on when I have no purpose. She was my driving factor for all I did. I am empty now. I write this because I need people to know. I cannot let all I felt for her go unknown. I need to express my love for her somehow, it must be known, it not to her then to you all. I can not let all we had, even if it was really nothing for her and to outside perspective, it was so much to me. And a message I leave for her, if by some miracle she stumbled upon this and recognizes these events. Eve, I love you. I know that it is not reciprocated. I am sorry for loving you, when we together had so little. You are the most beautiful girl in the world, your heart is pure and your mind is sharp. Although I can not be with you I hold no hard feelings. I am not angry, because your feelings are valid, even if they are not what I wish you felt. I hope whatever happens to you in life you excel. I hope you find someone you love that loves you like I do. I will never forget you. Thank you for the chance you gave me, and your honesty and clear communication. Goodbye.

Hello,
I have a Canon TS705a printer and I am desperate and angry, at some point for no apparent reason (I have changed the 5 cartridges, I have tried in different operating systems, cleaning heads and aligned hundreds of times, with different programs like Canon Image Garde, Photoshop, directly from Chrome...).
The problem is not that the printer does not print, the printer prints but the colours are totally off, you might think that it is because of the image itself that I send to print but the issue is that when I bought it if I sent the print to the queue through the iPad, if I got that colour was faithful, but for some time now neither with this option. I have tried with different images and the result is always the same.
I appreciate any help you can give me.

Hey guys so we need to talk about something, it's been a serious issue for the last few months. I don't think it has gone unnoticed but nobody has said anything about it until now. Now you see, There has been a concerning lack of posts about Ice Spice upon my Reddits. I'm looking at you, Jerkers!
You see this is the sub I used to follow to see my sweet queen Icimus Spicimus pop up in my feed. Sure you guys would be saying something silly, and classic automod would say "big fat booty" but now it feel like it's a thing of the past.
It's like the Dune world. No more do I see my queen Spice, no pictures of her fat ass with some other rappers head photoshopped on it. No screen caps of when she makes a adorable downsy face in a music video. I can't even get a comment thread of "if she's down, I'm down" and a few 🤤's.
Reddit is my one stop shop, I meme, cry, I get angry, I have fun all on this one app, this also includes my "sexy time" but that has started run dry, without the occasional Ice Spice post to remind me I am a man, and I have needs that are not being met, I start to start feeling pent up. I know the fellas know what I mean when I say I need to release.
The issue here reddit is that with all of this Drake and Kendrick drama inhabiting the Rap world, it has been hard to see anything from the real G(irl)'s of rap. Not only is their dominant energy empowering it's super hot. There is something about hip hop women that just turns me on. I think part of it is that I am scared of what they might do to me. What I would give to have been robbed by Cardi B. Would I be scared of here domineering energy, yes. Would I be fully aroused also yes.
Sorry I am getting distracted, with the Kendrick and Drake drama engulfing this subreddit and all this gross talk of pedophile this and wife beater that it has been quite challenging to find anything to get the juices flowing.
So I am writing this as pleed to you, can someone please post just one picture of Ice Spice a week. Maybe the mods will allow a non meme post as a special exclusion for me as the last 2 months have been debilitating. I have tried looking up Ice's music videos on my own but it just doesn't work the same. I think it's something about the community that I find within this sub. Like I am being assisted, you guys are giving me a recommendation to relax a bit and enjoy myself and find pleasure in the beauty we find on the internet. When I see a Ice Spice picture posted here it's like my boy telling me that a girl is interested in me. When I have to look her up I feel like I'm just stalking her. When one of you jerkers posts my queen it's because we care more about Ice's celebrity status, unlike some subs that post her...
Idk guys I don't know where else to turn. I tried to explain this to my therapist and she called me a freak and recommend I stop using the internet for a while but idk how else to see my queen with out my Reddits.
Please Reddit/ Fellow Jerkers if you guys would just post maybe one Ice Spice thread a week. That is all I need. It's been months. I know there are other out there feeling my pain. I have so much pent up frustration because of this. Just the other day I almost got in a fight with my neighbor. She parked in my spot, and she told me she needed to park closer because she's on crutches(bs) so I started yelling at her telling her she's not even the fart. Idk what got over me I was just foaming at the mouth while calling her boyfriend a munch. I realized my transgressions and I plan to make it up to her fisherrr but for now I just need to release and I cannot perform without my Queen Ice Spice gracing my phone.
I need to get help I know but I don't know what else to do. I even tried to trick myself by posting my own comment with the Micheal Cera / Ice Spice photoshop in a thread on this sub but it still didn't work. It needs to be one of you. So I am pleading with you, reddit, fellow jerkers and followers of our seemingly forgotten queen. Just one Ice Spice post a week, maybe we can come up with a flair for Drake and Kendrick posts so others suffering the same aliment as I so they don't have to go through the same pain.

Hey,
I got my smiley done 6 months ago now and I love it, but my horseshoe piercing always spins round and doesn't sit right. I had to change the original hoop out foe a bar, because my frenulum got quite angry with the constant movement. Its now settled and happier.
I asked a piercing shop today whether two rubber o rings either side of the piercing would help stop the horseshoe or even a solid ring from constantly spinning and they advised it wouldn't work. I wouldn't have it right against the frenulum, a couple mm either side.
Do you know why it wouldn't work? Or any other suggestions for a piercing that sits in place?

Let me preface with I knew it was a bot or scam from the start but I thought I could string them along for fun without sending a directly explicit picture because I didn’t realize that could still be terrible.
I’m going to copy paste my situation explained in the fbi 3C form I filled out.
“A scammer posing as a woman my age started messaging me on Instagram saying they were bored and just looking to chat. The conversation quickly went into vanish mode so chats would be deleted and screenshots would be notified. I had a feeling something was off at the time but they were sending me nude photos and videos and I sent them back one photo with just my face, one of me in the mirror with shorts on, and a photo of my lower body without pants with my arm covering my private area. After more messaging where I they were getting upset for not directly sending explicit photos and me calling them out, I sent a final image of me giving them the middle finger with text saying "fuck scammers". (They kept denying and asked to FaceTime so wanted my number)They then put in a link of a phone number to FaceTime them on and when I copied the link this gave them my number where they started messaging me demanding ransom for the photos not to be released to my friends family and school. I did not give them money and don't intend to but told them I have to get cash into my bank account. I have screen shots of the iMessage and some of the chat from Instagram”
They also called several times to which I didn’t answer. On top of this they sent a telegram screenshot or a draft in some messaging app saying they’re gonna report me to the government and the draft had a no face dick pic which I never took. This was last night, today they sent me a message to get my attention, called again, texted all caps saying I’m not picking up then sent angry emojis. To which I just blocked. I was on the phone last night with a PI firm who gave me a lot of info but I’m not in the best position to pay for their service. Something he said that I can’t shake is he said they could photoshop and doctor the photos I sent with ai to make it all worse. From what I’ve heard from a sextortion attorney firm, a big amount of these scammers don’t follow through with their threats because they lose their leverage but I still don’t think blocking them and waiting will be enough for now. Any advice? Is posting this in itself compromising?

Ok, before you start reading below, I want you to visit this and read the whole article to better understand my situation: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/kitchener-waterloo/guelph-parents-angry-after-topless-girl-8-told-to-cover-up-1.3124762
I got banned from Lemmy social site servers for "CSAM" all because of this: the Napalm Girl pic and another thing I saw on Inside Edition's channel in addition to some nude statues - literally artwork of naked people - all because I was trying to protest ~the inconsistencies of censorship towards the female human~ - regardless of their race AND age!
Let me be clear on one thing: I didn't post any "CSAM" on the Lemmy servers! I'm protesting something that I feel is unfair towards the female human.
Please ~actually watch these before jumping to conclusions~ so you can actually understand what I’m really protesting!
Women Who Were Told Their Outfits Were ‘Too Revealing’
Mom Says She Was Kicked Out of Gym For Revealing Tank Top: I Felt Humiliated
Cops Dragged Woman Off Beach After Complaint About Her Bikini
It’s one thing to say a female’s outfit or body is “too revealing”,
Teens React After Yearbook Photos Are ‘Modesty Edited’
it’s two things to photoshop out a female’s cleavage to make her look “modest” for a yearbook or a portrait!
9-Year-Old Saves Family From House Fire (you'll have to find this on YouTube)
But censoring a topless preteen female who thought up an ingenious strategy to stay cool like her friends in the same stuffy room while at the same time not caring who’s around her? THAT’S REALLY CROSSING THE LINE!
It's all thanks to some videos from Inside Edition's YouTube Channel.All these videos Inside Edition posted are developing a question in my mind that's getting the better of me: why so much hate on the female human - even as children? Like, why do they censor the little girl's chest? Can't anybody learn to appreciate the appearance of the female body? Just like those parents of their own 8 year old daughter, I too am genuinely outraged by this type of treatment towards the female human!
And what's the big deal with nipples? I'm just trying to ensure everyone is treated equally regardless of race, and gender... AND age (after what I just witnessed). And if no one's gonna speak up about this, I might as well step up to the plate. After all, somebody's got to do it!
That little girl in the final video made two non-verbal messages clear: one: if a boy can do it, then so can a girl! And two: no one is too young for anything! As long as you have the knowledge capacity and I.Q level to do it properly and safely, you'll be fine. I was able to refuel my dad's car and cook my own dinner when I was 6 and without setting anything ablaze by accident.
However, when I try to illustrate with that video, even though Inside Edition is an official news channel, the responses I get back are rather bitter! They remove my post or ban me from the sites I post on for "promoting nudity involving a minor"!
~WHERE~
~CAN~
~I~
~ASK~
~OR~
~SHARE~
~THIS~
~SUBJECT?!~
Due to my autism, I only know basic English. So I need to illustrate to get most of my messages through. I thought hard, I tried, and low and behold, they were removed hours later mainly because they "didn't fit the subject of the forum". Even though my multi-subject based thread does have some material relating to this forum's topic. These sites and mods are all really stretching my problem solving skills beyond the breaking point for this one. I'm merely protesting with these pictures and videos as illustration. I'm not that good with words, so I need pictures to get half my messages across as noted above.
Many subreddits or forum sites don’t accept URLs, pictures, specific website URLs, or even a combination! Thereby hindering my ability to fully explain what I’m witnessing! In this case, the sentences “It’s one thing to say a girl’s outfit is ‘too revealing’, it’s two things to photoshop out a girl’s cleavage to make her look ‘modest’ for a yearbook.” actually corresponded to several videos I beared witness to on Inside Edition’s YouTube channel.
I actually tried to post that URL with that blurred 9yo girl in a subreddit in the past and you won’t believe this: I actually lost my reddit account for 2 days for “promoting nudity involving a minor”! Other sites like the adult video forums who accept uncensored nudity-based images I mentioned just delete my thread! Another site I recall banned me for 1 year for “spam” - even though I only made this protest post twice (after they removed it once).
So that meant I had to approach this from a different angle: after that experience, I got a little paranoid from using that said video URL to illustrate. So I tried explaining this protest without the URLs - and this is in conjunction with certain sites restricting my ability to post images, URLs, certain site URLs, or a combination. It seemed to end up making things worse! Because without the visual evidence, it makes it much harder to fully explain what I’m witnessing.
So without the URLs included - that visual illustration, on the sites I tried along with Lemmy World, it actually made things worse! That’s what lead Lemmy.World mods to ban me for life for “CSAM” or made other people think I watched child porn when I clearly didn’t. The lack of visual evidence (due to my past reddit experience combined with the site’s posting restrictions) is what lead to this “pedophile” confusion. So please help me talk some sense into the Lemmings world, Lemmy.ml, and Lemmy.world mods that this was all a major misunderstanding and Lemmy is pretty much the only reddit alternative out here where I can try asking another question. My attempt to appeal has failed on 3 sites - even after I tried notifying the mods on the third Lemmy server site before making the post, so I need your help now!
I felt after Inside Edition uploaded that blurred 9yo girl video… I thought to myself “That’s the last straw!” Someone needs to protest these absurd censorship laws that they apply to the female human!
Why can males show most of their body but females can’t? - In most cases that is? Whatever happened to "Free The Nipple"?
Children should have the same… rights to do things as any adult! It’s about possessing the knowledge capacity and I.Q level to safely execute this action. E.G, on those “Family Day” episodes of The Price is Right and Let’s Make a Deal; those kids made smart choices when picking the correct numbers to items to win a prize.
I’m not joking around here! This type of treatment towards the female human needs to stop - this includes race and age. - It’s like racist people, but in age form.
Does it look like I’m laughing for fun? Of course not! Since no one else is protesting this, and YouTube has a flawed comment moderating system hindering my ability to post on even random videos (I.E, "ghosting"), I have to take more drastic measures to protest by stepping up to the plate and shouting out “Can’t we all be equal in terms of a huge variety of traits?” Yeah, the last thing I need is a vein-bleeding broken-record robot impeding or hindering my ability to seek answers to a question!
We need to learn to appreciate or accept how the female body appears regardless of race and age!
Stop trying to blame it all on me! None of the stuff in the vids posted, is that. If it was, Inside Edition would be the guilty party, and Youtube for not having already deleted them. If it doesn’t violate Youtube’s TOS, it should be fine to post anywhere. If there was even a hint of impropriety to it, at the minimum the vid would have been age restricted.
No one would answer! Not even Inside Edition themselves were willing to offer an answer when I even found their email address, the sites dedicated to helping those in mental, suicidal, or emotional distress (those forum sites even PERMA-banned me for "spam" - that's right, SPAM! (Even though there was absolutely no mention of a permanent ban or rule about "spam" in their forum guidelines!) Is that the definition of "spam" when I make a bad thread only once?! And when I try to appeal the ban, the same message "please contact the administrator if it was done in error" is blocking my ability to click the contact button! Or sometimes it's a blank white page with that message in the top left corner of the window! - Which adds more insult to injury, because I can't click anything as all the buttons have disappeared! That means I can't log out of that site either!), OR the adult video forums that support uncensored nudity images would accept that video link URL let alone the entire topic itself! So I really am at a loss for thoughts and words on what I just experienced! Heck, I even tried the professional therapists of talkingforchange.ca But even they too were too reluctant to talk as they claim my post regarding the censorship of women is not for their platform and they disconnected the chat 2 seconds after their last reply to me. And I highly doubt that ANY site will allow me to illustrate with a picture of the Napalm Girl (Phan Thi Kim Phuc) when she was 9, certain pictures of Pampers diaper boxes (why do you think they (Pampers, Huggies, etc.) even allow a pic of a topless little boy or girl to be plastered on a diaper box we see in grocery stores/supermarkets everyday?), Leela when she was an infant in the episode Leela's Homeworld, or even Belgium's famous kids: Manneken Pis/Jeanneke Pis. Do you think she along with other nude statues around the world are trying to promote pedos?
That, combined with YouTube having a flawed comment moderating system hindering my ability to post comments on certain-to-random videos (I.E, "ghosting"), I'm forced to take more drastic measures to get my messages across. All this combined, ~I'VE NEVER FELT SO SHUNNED FROM THE INTERNET IN ALL MY LIFE!~
But here's a strange catch: sometimes on some sites, Napalm Girl is censored, other sites she isn't. So I felt that I need to protest this. It seems everyone is too chicken to even start this subject! Don't these numbskulls know not to judge a book by it's cover?! This is where I ask myself "NOW WHAT?!". This can't be one of those "exceptional" cases where they say "suicide never solves anything" doesn't apply to these types of situations. In other words, all hope for resolving these types of situations really is lost. I really do feel left in the dark on both the subject of sound effects and nudity!
Once more, I'm not being a ped, I'm protesting all these absurd censorship rules and regulations that revolve around the female human - regardless of race and age - after what Inside Edition posted. Watch the videos I found again for clarification. In other words, ~the inconsistencies of female human censorship~.
Can you really - you know, hurl insults at Inside Edition or blast them for what they did? It was their idea to publicly publish the footage. Just like how that one photographer made the choice to publicly publish footage of the Napalm Girl when she was 9 and completely nude. Therefore, it should be ok to share this footage anywhere.
But some areas censored Napalm Girl's nipples, but others did not - excluding her groin. Then there's the diaper boxes I found in any supermarket. And finally... Surprise surprise: typical women being scolded by other people for wearing something "inappropriate" or "showing too much of their body". I look around and since no one else is protesting about this, I might as well do it! After all, someone's gotta step up to the plate to hit that ball! I will not sit idling by the sidelines and continue to watch the female human get treated/censored like this! I will stand up, step up, and speak out towards these absurd reactions, rules, and regulations that revolve around the appearance and censorship of the female body!

I am exhausted... Every single time I got in a relationship they were watching porn or cheating or both when does it stops? Is there no good men out there?...
So basically he's been lying for 2 and a half years about porn use even though I told him that it destroyed my parent's marriage and messed up my childhood real bad, my dad used to watch it next to me as a kid and also masturbate when I was using the family computer he would be on his own computer a bit further from me and I guess he thought I was just a stupid child not realizing what was going on, so this messed me up really bad and a couple of times I saw him actually doing it... And to all women here who have kids, yes I am sorry but most likely they've also know about your husband "secret" and probably even by accident stumbled upon it and felt repulsed.
So since I was 9 years old this shit has affected my life I despised my dad when I was younger because I couldn't understand how such a beautiful woman such as my mom wasn't enough I just couldn't comprehend it but here I am thinking actually no women are enough for these guys... It is just never enough.
I don't want to go into details about everything that happened in my childhood but it also kept on going even while I was a teenager and a young adult now I hopefully moved out so I haven't witnessed anything in years but I still remember how bad it made me feel. So I had pretty strong opinions about porn in the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I told him everything that hapenned during my childhood and how many times I got cheated on and he told me how much he hated porn as well... And a couple of months ago I discovered that he indeed watched it but that he only watched softcore porn of bikini girls never nudes or anything so I thought that it wasn't that bad and I actually trusted him, how silly of me I am so naive it's infuriating how many times I got betrayed but I still believe those men are good, anyway I was pregnant and both my cats died in car accidents and I was going through a very rough pregnancy so I really couldn't let that bring me down so I just moved on but begged him to be fully honest with me if that was all he did because then I could not forgive him if he would lie again and he promised and said that it was all.
Now couple of months later I gave birth had an incredibly difficult child and a pretty hard birth he had insane colics and I had to carry him all day long and at best I was getting one hour of sleep only recently he started to calm down a bit but that's when I started to discover more and more weird things about things he would about and recently I discovered more that he lied about and for a whole week he kept on lying and lying and lying... I was exhausted and I started to really get angry and mad at him and I cried and cried and I argued with him and he told me the whole truth as to why in our whole relationship we had so little intimate moments not because like he said he had "low sex drive" no, because he was addicted to porn and that broke me, I would of left him on the spot right there if not for our little boy I told him how much I hated him and that I was so naive to think he was actually a good man and that he was really in the end just like my dad...
I don't know how to move on from that, recently he is genuinely way more kind with me multiple times he took over for take care of the baby even though he had 1 hour of sleep only each night just so I could sleep over 9 hours each nights so I genuinely see some changes he told me he will get some help that he will change, he even joined the subreddit /pornfree and I want to believe him but he lied so many times already what should I do?...
I feel so insanely ugly I shouldn't of asked him what he watched and I shouldn't of looked at it... Now I cannot stop comparing myself to these girls and even though I know that on those pictures they have filters + makeup + Photoshop for most I still feel so unattractive even though I am as slim as I used to be before pregnancy I got a few stretch marks there and there and it's devastating me... I can't even look at myself in the mirror without being disgusted I hate my body so much, and sometimes men glance at me at the supermarket or on the streets so I know I am not the ugliest but I don't want them to like me I only want him...
I need advice or help I don't really know anything I am feeling so bad I just want to talk to someone who's been though the same... How do you start loving yourself again? How do you accept your flaws? And how do you forgive him and start trusting again? I am so scared that the cycle will repeat itself and that our little boy will have a crappy childhood like I had because of my husband addiction I don't want that just thinking about it destroy me...

Plagiarism is the representation of another person's language, thoughts, ideas, or expressions as one's own original work. Most people simplify to be about copying or copying and mildly obfuscating someone else's work. AI art is trained on preexisting images, and generated at a user's request. The resulting image is original, it can not be reverse image searched and found online, it is not an existing image with a filter over it, it's not even a bunch of images hacked together in photoshop.
As a result, the argument for it copying others work comes from the data the AI was trained on. It saw everything van gogh ever made and now it can produce new images in exactly the same style. However, humans can do this too. In every case I've ever seen, no one thinks a human drawing a person in van goghs style is committing plagiarism, but an AI generating artwork in the style of van gogh is considered plagiarism. I fail to see how if one is plagiarism if the other isn't. Either mimicking van goghs style is or isn't plgasrism no matter how you do it.
I believe the distinction is only because of moral outrage against AI taking the jobs of existing artists. 10 years ago, people were thinking about how cool it would be to AI upscale shows like avatar for additional clarity, and now expressing an interest in that would be met with outrage over the quality of the work of the AI and how everyone would lose their jobs at avatar studios. If there is some logical argument for this being plagiarism, and not the mob just being angry because of the perceived threat to artists I would like to understand what it is.

So I'll be finishing my final coursework course at UH ever tomorrow but I still have two years left in the PhD program. From the now until I defend my dissertation I'll just be doing research hours and oddjobs (48 credit hour speedrun). As per tradition every few years, here are all the courses I've taken in undergrad and graduate school. I'll also say which prof I recommend for the class. I transferred to UH my Junior year.
COSC 1336: Computer Science and Programming. Professor: N/A, Semester: N/A

• I didn't take this class. This is the class that gets you started in CS. I recommend taking it with Dr. Yun or Dan/Dr. B. This class is also known as "glorified Python programming". This class isn't specifically made for CS Majors, as ANYONE can take this for their Math Reasoning course, and I highly, highly recommend doing so. Programming is invaluable and easier than you think. 70% of Computer Science majors never wrote a single line of code during college. If you plan on doing graduate school or any form of research, you might have to throw some code in there, whether it be software engineering code or data analysis. Fuck R, use Python.

COSC 1437 (prev. 1430): Intro to Programming, Professor: Giulia Toti, Semester: Fall 2018

• Toti has left UH and started teaching at another institution. I recommend taking Dan or Rincon for this course. You will learn C++ and Java through the semester, and most of the code you learn will overlap with each other (with a small change in syntax in each language). ZyBooks was used to do all programming homeworks. ZyBooks is a decent platform that you can go through to read the material, learn it, write some practice code and then do your HW online. It will run your code against testcases. Sometimes you'll get them, other times you won't. So long as you can do the visible test cases, barring any code that's inefficient and takes too long, you'll pass them all just fine. I used DevC++ as my IDE at the time, before transitioning to ReplIt later on. The class wasn't too hard. I liked doing the Tetris project at the end then playing it in other classes that I didn't really care about lol.

COSC 2436 (Prev 2430): Programming and Data Structures, Professor: Nouhad Rizk, Semester: Spring 2019.

• I will always recommend Dr. Rizk for this course. If you can take Rizk, take Rizk. If not, take Dan. This is the weed out class. When I was taking it, the drop/fail rate was 50-60%. It's hard, and if you have to take it again, don't worry. I ended up becoming a PEER mentor and tutored some former classmates. All have walked the stage. This is the class that makes or breaks the CS majors. This class is HARD, but getting through it makes you "internship ready". You're going to need to learn some stuff about Linux to turn in your homework and run the testcases. There's a decent guide on Rizk's site on how to use it, and the TA's/Mentors should give you a guide on how to do it as it isn't too difficult. I used FileZilla and Putty together to get this done. I also used DevC++ in this class. To get into the meat and bones of this class, you're learning everything at a fast rate. Reading input from the files and doing shit with them, all the way up to graph theory (Dijkstra's Alg) with Linked Lists in between. Just show up to class, practice, and if you aren't sure, go to mentor hours, TA hours, or Rizk's hours. Rizk's memory is the level of Mike Ross from Suits so she WILL remember you and the attitude you have towards her class and CS overall. If you answer questions, participate, show your effort and fail everything, she'll pass you because you can demonstrate that knowledge another way. My favorite resource, the hero of CougarCS is Abdul Bari. This YouTube channel will get you through any explanation you need. The exams are pretty hard but sometimes it comes down to memorizing sorts and doing Leetcode problems (which this class will prepare you for). Get started on your homework early, this is NOT one you want to procrastinate on. For reference, I did the Linked List homework for fun three years later and it took about two hours instead of the few days the first time around. There used to be a lot of inconsistencies with this class but it's improved a lot and Dr. Rizk has won an award for her teaching efforts. Take any extra credit you can, sometimes showing up to enough office hours will get you some. There's also some random things she'll tell the Mentors to assign to anyone that shows up that will add points to a test or something. I have a lot of funny memories in this class, too. Crying sessions at the fountains after tests and being hopeful to pass and make it through the rest of UHCS. Heck, there were a bunch of jokes about infinite looping our code to break the Linux server so we can get an extension LOL. I wouldn't be a TA if it weren't for Rizk. She wrote one of my recommendations to grad school. She gave me one of the biggest opportunities I never knew I had to be a tutor and get more involved with the CS department.

COSC 2425 (Prev 2440): Computer Org & Architecture, Professor: Edward Gabriel/Kevin Long, Semester: Spr19/Fall20.

• I took this class in Spring 2019 with Gabriel (has since left) and dropped it, then took it in the Fall with Long. I like to call this the class I never took. Whenever a homework assignment would go out, we could use whatever resources we wanted. Cue the fact that a bunch of students would just work on it together in the GroupMe, and then afterwards I'll take it and turn it in. Everyone worked on the exam reviews together. This was the A I never put any effort into getting. Even if you're in it to learn about Architecture (or whatever concept Long teaches), do it. Seriously, he's an instructional prof and not a research prof. You're going to hear these two terms a lot in these later reviews. Instructional profs are here purely to teach and do research on the side (where most of them are here the other way around). His classes are easy but he WILL teach you. His curve is based on the person with the lowest grade but did every assignment, exam, etc. That person will be raised to a passing grade (or higher), then everyone else will follow that curve. I always recommend Long

COSC 3320: Algorithms and Data Structures, Professor: Ernst Leiss, Semester: Summer 2019.

• My oh my was this the A I had to put a lot of effort into. Leiss is a professor who will come in, lecture, and leave. This entire class was done in a month (afternoon class). It was two homeworks and two exams. You can use any language you want, but I used C++ and Java. That might be 'easy' but, you're going to be doing a lot of writing and programming in this class. The Towers of Leiss problem still lives rent free in my head. His office hours are pretty open and he'll answer questions at the start of class anytime you ask them. You'll hear the words "Any questions?" to start the class and "See you next time" to end them. For all exams and assignments, you're able to use literally whatever you want (with the exception of people and the internet on exam days). His reasoning was that "If I am your boss, I'm not going to lock you in a room and expect you to know the answer!". The TAs are pretty lenient in grading, but sometimes will be wildly inconsistent depending as to how they feel or which one you get. They know about Leiss' policies so they'll just roll with it. The assignments were also turned in on paper lmao. Leiss doesn't like online classes, like at all. He won't teach online. I don't blame him for it. I recommend him. He wrote my second letter of rec.

COSC 3340: Introduction to Automata, Professor: Ernst Leiss, Semester: Summer 2019.

• This would be the morning class during the Summer. All in a month too. Four exams, each at the end of the week. You could use whatever you wanted to, just no internet or other people (one guy got caught cheating on the final and kicked out of the class). The TA, who was the same for Algos too could get strict, but his grading was definitely lenient LOL. You learn a lot of stuff on the 'machine' level of this class. State Machines, Turing Tests, Search Algs. I remember writing like a one page answer on a state machine that was totally shit but I got it right. There was another student who wrote it right with like one character wrong and got docked for it. There were some students at either UT, TAMU, or UTD that would ask "Why does UH want you to suffer!?" when they heard that this class existed. Not too hard, just do the stuff and you'll get through. Nobody really cares about Automata and cheating on the exams was rampant. Now while Leiss is a great professor, I don't know which one of y'all motherfuckers sold their soul so Singh could teach the class consistently. Take Singh and go LOL.

COSC 4351/4353: Fundamentals of Software Engineering, Professor: Raj Singh, Semester: Fall 2019

• This class had three in person meetings. The first class, and the two exams (closed note). Other than that, you were doing homework about software engineering and it's methods (not code, just drawing stuff out), then writing a piece of software to present at the end of the semester. You're in a group of three people max and the biggest thing you learn in here is the Unit Test. Just some code to test what happens when things come in and out. Basically you write the testcases for your 2436 homeworks. In this class, my teammates did the homeworks and I just worked on the project. It was a basic website with a database aspect that would showcase links based on access levels. The exams were easy, heck, they were in ORDER and the reviews were very, very similar if not exact. Someone leaked the exam in the GroupMes so they were finished pretty quickly. You'll see a question about a specific step on the AGILE method, or you'll see "What is not software? Hardware." This is an effort A. Just do what you need to do and you'll be set. It isn't easy, but it just needs effort. I recommend Singh lol. You can use any language. For this one, I used PHP, HTML, and some JavaScript.

COSC 4348: Intro to Game Art and Animation, Professor: Chang Yun/Vincent Donatelli, Semester: Fall 2019

• The class nowadays is a lot easier than it used to be back then. The class nowadays is offered in the Spring with optional attendance, hybrid, and has seven homework assignments that all work with each other. Two are completion, four are drawing, and then the final project which just puts them all in a Unity scene. Back then, it was mandatory attendance with an in person assignment, a homework assignment, and a team based project game at the end. Everyone had to put their own art in the game. Donatelli (no longer here) was the primary professor for the course and would do everything pretty quick. As CS majors aren't really artists, it's good that Yun's taken over. I was on a 15 person team and led the programmers. We had a progress check every two weeks. If you didn't do your part, the professor would tell you to drop the class or face a zero. Donatelli was an industry veteran and there were some other whack hours in the class, such as an 8pm-11pm presentation time in PGH. Stayed all day on campus and ate Bullritos before going into that one. This class is NOT an easy A, even if it's easier than it used to be. Come prepared to get your stuff done. You'll learn basic C# in this course from a Unity tutorial.

COSC 4358: Intro to Interactive Game Dev, Professor: Chang Yun/Zhigang Deng, Semester: Fall 2019.

• If you're a competitive person, take this class. This is THE most fun class in UH CS. You'll be in a team of 4-8 and spend three months building a video game. All homeworks are completion (so just do them). Two individual, five team. Make sure to do your part because there's always a team or group of people that will get into fights and beef every year over it. Anyway, once you finish your seven homework assignments, your team will get into a 'duel' with another team. This means that your team has to show how good your game is against another one. Winner moves from D to C, then the duel later on will be C to B-. At the end of the semester, industry members, influencers, and UH Alumni will come in to playtest and judge your game. There'll be pizza, drinks, and it just becomes one big LAN party. You'll get some mean comments, but then they go into another room and rank your game from B- to A. Even if you have a really shit game, you will get at worst a B- for your project grade. You have the choice of using Unity (C#), Godot (Python), or Unreal Engine (C++/Visual Scripting) to build your game. Nearly everyone sticks with Unity because they already have Visual Studio, and C# isn't that hard to learn with the many tutorials out there. If you can get into this class, you're going to have a lot of fun. Dr. Yun also wrote my letter of recommendation and brought me into the world of video games for research.

In the middle of Spring 2020, COVID happened. The classes shifted online. Any fully online class will be noted from here on out
COSC 3360: Operating Systems, Professor: Jehan-Francois Paris, Semester: Spring 2020

• Oh god, OS. I heard the horror stories about this class but with Paris (retired/sometimes teaches it now), it wasn't too bad. Three homework assignments and three quizzes. The first HW was pretty hard and you could use any language. The other two were in C++ and had a guide to get it done. Quizzes were multiple choice. Paris had great real-world examples when he was trying to explain something. You were able to have a cheat sheet on the quizzes. Make sure to respect his lectures. He uses MOSS to check for plagiarism, and that was rampant in the first homework. The latter two didn't really matter in terms of running it. This also means variable names, nerds. Lots of partial credit available with Homework 1 (some kind of scheduler). I did all my code in ReplIt. Since Paris has retired (if you can't take him), I recommend taking it with Rincon. Cheng only if this is your last option.

COSC 3380: Databases, Professor: Uma Ramamurthy, Semester: Spring 2020

• This class was hard but so well worth it. A lot of people like to complain about how mean Uma is. Like wtf? This was the professor a lot of the older students told us to take REGARDLESS if you wanted to learn how to do this shit effectively. I still remember a lot of things about Databases that I use in here and whenever I quickly set up something for a solo project or testing something out. I'll never forget this quote "If you think your code runs perfectly the first time, you must be smoking something". Uma will humble you real quick if you walk in with a shit project before giving you a chance to fix it. Your project will be a webapp with heavy database usage. One challenge I had for this class was to generate 5000 random entries for each of the databases then insert them. The database stuff itself and tying it to the frontend wasn't too bad. It was an employee directory with salaries, jobs, tasks, vacation, etc. The exams were fairly difficult but after it went online, it was obvious what we were all doing. Group Projects can cause tension. This was the first time I had experienced tension with other group members, and we had all known each other in previous classes. This was a result of Uma tearing us each ten different kinds of asshole after seeing our rough draft of the final project. Thankfully, the group member that was our former TA for another class calmed us all down and we got out of the class with an A on the project.

COSC 4349: Game Art 2, Professor: Vincent Donatelli, Semester: Spring 2020

• This class was basically 3D Art and Animation. It is no longer offered. This is sort of what the Game Art 1 class is now, but the entire class worked on the group project at once. Each 'subgroup' worked on furniture for a different room, and we just threw it all in an Unreal scene and got our grade. I still use some of the 3D modeling techniques whenever I build games for educational stuff today.

COSC 4368: Intro to AI, Professor: Christoph "A" Eick,

• I actually remember a lot of this class being more math/theory based instead of writing AI code. I don't even think we wrote code in this class. Just a lot of simulation stuff, reports, and papers. This is a combined class with graduate students and gets you into the art and background of AI, instead of the random tutorials you see on YouTube where you literally know nothing of what it means. You are taking a theory heavy course. Eick has been at UH since the 80s and you can see fun facts about his favorite wines and hiking spots on his website from the late 90s. I remember putting "I don't know" a lot on some homeworks, and after the semester was over, his TA/PhD student reached out and offered to give me any advice or knowledge that I wanted to know about the subject. The exams weren't too difficult and were very similar to the review, I also believe they were open note. It made AI very interesting and I did understand a lot of the stuff. Eick is a pretty goofy prof and he'll just randomly giggle during lectures and put pictures of frogs on his exams. Has a huge similarity to Leiss.

COSC 4398: Independent Study, Professor: Nouhad Rizk, Semester: Spring 2020

• I wrote a paper and did some research for Rizk. This was not my best work, and was done the week before the semester had ended. It was about the diversification of individual skills instead of people/races/ethnicity in projects. Turns out there's more to it than I thought.

MATH 4322/4323: Data Science/Machine Learning, Professor: Poliak/Wang/Weber, Semester: Spring 2020

• A math class but this is the math class most CS majors take to get the minor. Programming is in R, the coding problems are easy, and the professors are great. You do a report at the end and you can walk out with a solid B if not an easy A by putting in the work. They are the Stats profs, so if you took any of them for 3339, you'll have a smiliar time with them. The last in person exam I took for this class before COVID was the Friday before Spring Break. I got a 62 because I was out at Rooftop (RIP) the night before. Just a week before, the exam was extended because of some water issue on campus causing classes to get cancelled. A week before that, Dr. Wang cancelled class beacuse she felt like spending time with her kid. This was the second Friday class I ever took, and was the last one I attended before the pandemic.

At this point, I finished my BS at UH. I took some classes in Spring 2021 'for fun'/prepping for grad school which helped me get a leg up now.
COSC 4370: Graphics, Professor: Zhigang Deng, Semester: Spring 2021.

• You'll learn OpenGL in this class, however I heard it has changed. You'll need to use more C++ knowledge and follow along tutorials on the website and YouTube videos. The tasks itself aren't too hard, and honestly you'll have fun with the Teapot Artwork assignment since you can do whatever mathematical wizardry you wanted to get some shapes on there. Some students were making crazy things. Others did smiley faces. Undergrads did exams while the grad students just presented a paper. Deng is good and this his a fun elective if you're interested in interactive media!

COSC 4377: Networking, Professor: Omprakash Gnawali, Semester: Spring 2021.

• I looked everything up on the exams even when he said he'd figure it out. Gnawali is a great prof. Not much coding, if at all, in this class. But a lot of Wireshark analysis and networking/packet/cybersecurity theory. I recommend Long for this class, though Gnawali is a great alternative. If you are a graduate student taking this course, Gnawali will be the only option for the combined class. Long will exclusively do the undergrad classes. Given the time since this class has been taught, I don't know much about how it goes today. Grad Students in the class were exempt from exams and did a paper presentation instead. If it's hybrid, you'll have an easy time. If everything is in person, a little bit of good luck.

COSC 6397 (Now COSC 4321): Selected Topics: Spatial Tech, Professor: Chang Yun/Faisal Sharif, Semester: Spring 2021.

• I loved this class and am very happy that it got bumped up to an official course. This was in the works for a few years with Faisal and Dr. Yun. Jared, a former Microsoft employee with a decent connection to UH and a huge veteran presence in XR also hopped on to teach the class. This class, our group did a project on an AR Solar System that you could project anywhere in the room and walk around it. There was a 'VR' project as well. I kept the AR app on my phone until I was mugged and the robber shot it. I might still have the file somewhere. You used Unity (C#) with Vuforia for AR and VR stuff. It was fucking cool seeing my little 3d things pop up on the picture of the opera lady. Highly recommend if you're interested in AVR stuff.

COSC 4393: Digital Image Processing, Professor: Pranav Mantini, Semester: Spring 2021.

• If you're interested in learning how Photoshop works in a code sense, this class is for you. The assignments are in Python and you'll be rotating images, cleaning up noise, performing image compression, and gaussian stuff. I still use the output of the botched code I wrote because they all looked like sad potatoes. The exams were online and not too lookup-able. The only sucky part was that it was an 8am. You'd put your homework on Github classroom and Jenkins would grade it for you. The TAs and Dr. Mantini knew their shit. If you were sus on a homework assignment, they'd call you into a meeting to clarify things. This was the case on the image rotation homework, as the slides showed you how to rotate by a corner instead of by the center.

These courses come from the start of my Masters program and the three required ones in the PhD. The reviews will be fairly shorter and straight to the point as you started to dabble in a lot more applied things if the classes were not entirely theory. The graduate program is a near totality of international students, so the work ethic and competitiveness goes up. On the other hand, the back-scratching and helping each other out is probably more rampant in undergrad but nobody really talks about it. This is the time where you see the professors absolutely shine in what they research. When you see a research prof teaching a course, you're going to learn much, much more than you expect because that is what they live and breathe daily here. My complaints about teaching vs research profs went out the window after this first semester of the MS
COSC 6324: Randomized Algorithms and Probabilistic Techniques in Computing. Professor: Gopal Pandurangan, Semester: Fall 2021

• What a tongue twister. This class is one chapter from Gopal's Graduate Algorithms class expanded to a whole semester. You'll learn a lot of concepts about the pure mathematical side of algorithms. That, expected values, randomization, hashing, and complexities you'll not even begin to understand. There weren't any exams. Just a paper presentation, a bunch of homework assignments that were written responses to crazy math problems. You couldn't google these easily, and I found solutions to some HW problems by copying like one line and finding it on a Russian website. The programming assignments were LeetCode questions with some of the most insane requirements you can imagine. The stuff was the most beautiful, digusting, messed up efficient wizardy I've ever had to write and this class absolutely helped me slay programming interviews left and right for the internship cycles ahead. It's hard, but good hard. The class had about eight students and it would go from lecturing to conversation about the topic at hand.

COSC 6347: Cybersecurity. Professor: Laszka, Semester: Fall 2021.

• As Laszka has left UH, I am unsure as to how the class is currently offered. At the start of the semester, he told us about our requirements and threw up a slide saying not to try anything in the class at home. Two programming assigments and the rest was just hacking shit on a VM he'd give us. The tests were multiple choice or fill in the blank, and you could pull them easily from the slides. Almost identical in that case.

COSC 6376: Cloud Computing. Professor: Weidong "Larry" Shi, Semester: Fall 2021.

• The HW in this class was very applied as we would learn new tech stacks and languages, one being 'pig latin'. A lot of the things here were follow a tutorial or look things up. The end of the semester was a huge project. In this project, we compared running an image classification task on separate cloud providers and their tiers. Thank God we had credit from each of the services or else the bills would have ran HIGH. No exams, easy A if you do the stuff. Dr. Shi is a pretty good prof in his line of work. His TAs do run the class and teach sometimes as they are in their final years and taking over the teaching aspect. Save this part for later.

COSC 6339: Big Data Analytics. Professor: Carlos Ordonez, Semester: Spring 2022.

• I have personal opinions about the teaching methods of Dr. Ordonez. Pre-COVID, I had always heard that he was a good prof for Programming Languages and Paradigms. However, after learning how he treated his 3380 class, I started to dread it a little. The homeworks were vague, grades weren't released until after our drop date, and he was definitely caught looking at his course reviews daily and probably writing his own (or having the TAs do it). In homework assignments or test reviews, if you were having an issue and you looked it up, it was literally his research work. I don't find that to be bad, actually, because it did give insight on the stuff that he did and it was definitely interesting. Ordonez is also one of the profs that tried to get undergrads in research along with Gnawali and Yang. I didn't enjoy this class much, at all, due to the exam structure and ways it was taught. But, a memorable homework was some entire Dijkstra's thing but for servers, and that was fun. I got it done while hopped up on whatever the dentist gave me. All was done in Python.

COSC 6373: Computer Vision. Professor, Ioannis Kakadiaris, Semester: Spring 2022

• Dr. K will openly admit to you, either privately or to the whole class that he is very arrogant. You'll see this arrogance but not mind it much if you aren't working with him directly. Kakadiaris is passionate about showing students how to research, especially if you're interested in anything medical. His goal in every class that he teaches is to make you an expert in such field. I don't think there was an exam in this class, but he would assign some of his former students or current PhD students to be a mentor in your final project. The homeworks and in class labs were 'follow the steps'. He and his TA were always available for help and made the class a lot of fun, especially when explaining the mathematical operations behind CV Algorithms. I always recommend Dr. K's classes. Personally, he helped me gain a leg up on how to effectively get through UH's red tape on getting research done involving human subjects. Helped me set up an entire 'research suite' on the computer. Everything was in Python

COSC 7336: Advanced Natural Language Processing. Professor, Rakesh Verma, Semester: Spring 2022.

• Unless you have any form of deep interest in NLP, for the love of Shasta, do NOT take this class. I got my second lowest exam grade ever (the first being Gopal's Grad Algos). Curves were done obviously but the highest grade on any given exam was like a 30 or 40. There were homeworks and paper presentations too. If you skipped X amount of question on the homework, it'd be a 0. If you skipped X items in the class, you'd get an F. I barely squeaked by with a B here. This was also a class with like, ten people in it. One student was an undergrad. She was insane in her craft and I believe ended up working with Verma directly on some research and got paid good for it. This class is another case of Verma being an excellent researcher but not so much a professor. He lived and breathed everything NLP or Cybersecurity and was damn good at it. I also didn't pay much attention in class, so maybe I'm wrong on the teaching part. Everyone struggled in the class as the general NLP class, offered by Dr. Solorio (who was a visiting scientest at Bloomberg at the time) wasn't being offered.

COSC 6351/6353: Software Design. Professor: Raj Singh, Semester: Summer 2022.

• This class is just like the undergrad version. Didn't change much, except the final project was an oil price order thing. I used Flask and Python instead of shitty ass PHP. The exam still featured the famous question: "What isn't software? Hardware". Never change, Raj.

This Summer was the 'great resignation' within UH CS. Toti, Laszka, and Gabriel had left UH for other opportunities. Paris put up for retirement and was promoted to professor Emeritus. Kam-Hoi Cheng left but nobody knew why.
COSC 6335: Data Mining. Professor: Christoph Eick, Semester: Fall 2022.

• Pretty simple class since the exams were open note and the homeworks were answering questions (similar to that of AI) and writing reports. Like AEick, you got more into the fundamentals and how all that stuff works instead of writing code. Lots of frogs on the pages and opportunities for extra credit. This is a good class to get done for your core track and the TA was pretty lenient too. You can get an entire preview of any Eick class from the website.

COSC 6370: Medical Imaging. Professor: Nikolaos Tsekos, Semester: Fall 2022.

• This is a fun class, you'll get an A or A- in it if you do everything. No exams, just a bunch of homeworks and a project. The homeworks were quite fun as we got to do stuff that applied to the medical industry, and the project that my team did was identifying babies at whatever term from an ultrasound. The project itself didn't prove well, but we got an A so didn't matter much. Python was the language to use, and a lot of the homework assignments come with the formulas and theories you needed. Not much of a 'follow the steps' kind of thing, more of a 'here is what you need, good luck' kind of thing. Easy recommend. Tsekos is hilarious. "Do not make your grandmother die twice in a semester!".

COSC 6386: Program Analysis and Testing. Professor: Amin Alipour, Semester: Spring 2023.

• This class had three homeworks taken from a public textbook about software testing. "The Fuzzing Book". Not too difficult at all. What was fun was the paper presentation. I had just bought a Flipper Zero and got to demonstrate it as part of the presentation. The final project was basically the class split into two groups. My group recreated, to the best of our ability, MOSS. We made our own code plagiarism checker using NLP and tokenization of variables. We then saw how much of our own code was plagiarised with each other form old assignments lol, and it picked up on variable changing pretty quick. All was done in Python with AI aspects. All in Python/JuPyter

ENTR 7390: Technology Entrepreneurship. Professor: Tanushree Chatterji, Semester: Spring 2023.

• As a UH CS student, you can find up to six (or twelve?) related credits from outside CS to apply towards your coursework requirements. Anyway Bauer needs to stop being a bitch and let undergrads take their version of this class. I first heard of this course when I took Game Art, when Dr. McCormick came in and gave an entire guest lecture on how to take your startup game into the tech industry. She told us we could enroll but Bauer pretty much stopped any CS major from joining it.Since it was more lenient, I got into the graduate version with Dr. Chatterji. When I say that Bauer has the resources, they've got them. This class consisted of speakers in the startup space, UH alums and not coming in to talk about their experiences and give advice. The assignments were very business and tech oriented. I also got access to RedLabs as the prof is the director of it. She knows who to set you up with if you need it. If only the CS majors could have a piece of this the school could be seeing more money flowing into their donations since a lot of high paid Coogs like to give back. Met a ton in the club section at Fertitta. Holy moly.

At this point, I had completed my Masters. The next three courses were required for the PhD
COSC 6110: Graduate Colloqium. Professor: Ernst Leiss, Semester: Fall 2023.

• This class was easy. Attend five seminars, write reviews on them, get satisfactory review scores, and present a topic of your choice. You will get roasted by Leiss, but he also teaches you how to roast presenters. PhD students are required to visit five seminars minimum a semester, so you'll see some really good speakers and really shitty ones. This is also an opportunity to see who UH could be hiring on as a prof soon. Dr. Yang, Das, and Lin were all hired on the semester after giving a seminar talk at UH. There are currently two open spots that are looking to be filled, and I was able to sit in and evaluate one of the faculty candidates. This is where you can see the cool stuff going on in University Research.

COSC 6320: Data Structures and Algorithms. Professor: Gopal Pandurangan. Semester: Fall 2023.

• This class is the Algo Asylum. Fucking difficult. But you had Gopal and Khalid. There are no stupid questions in this class, but it was HARD. It made undergrad Algos look like taking candy from a baby. You have to fight your way out of it. Four exams similar to the HW of 6324, and the programming assignments too. God this class was hard. Still recommend Gopal always tho. They were ALWAYS willing to help. Python was the language of choice.

COSC 6342: Machine Learning. Professor: Ricardo Vilalta. Semester: Fall 2023.

• This class was two exams and a few assignments. The exams by the type of question weren't hard, but the questions themselves sucked. You had to memorize a lot of terminology, equations, vocab words, variables, etc. There weren't any word banks or references on the exams though. This, I just didn't know how to study well for. Everything came from the slides but they were very broad. Vilalta is a great prof and does curve. Good at his research.

COSC 6385: Computer Architecture. Professor, Weidong "Larry" Shi. Semester: Spring 2024.

• The end of the road! I dropped this class in Spring 2023 because I didn't need it to graduate, but then had to take it again because it was required for the PhD. The homeworks aren't hard, neither was the paper presentation or the experiments. But the exams did suck. I don't know how it will be tomorrow, but so long as I pass it, I'm good and I just get to research my way out of here and never have to sit a fucking exam ever again. It's been a long time coming and I can't wait to finish it up :) Python is your langauage here.

At this point, I'm doing whatever 8X98 and 8X99 is required of me. I have an RCE (just a long presentation), a doctoral proposal, and a defense, then the academic journey is over. I feel like the biggest hurdle was leapt.
My thoughts on UHCS. In Fall 2018, there were only 1300 students in the department. Everyone in their graduating class knew each other. You'd sometimes meet people in GroupMes to work on homeworks or projects together, but never see each other in real life. Or did you? There was a lot of weird ways to cheat or get by in class. There was a decent community, and people who wanted to help other students definitely did. I'll never forget cramming into a room with a bunch of other kids while the tutor for 2436 held a review session days before the exam. The jokes about overloading the servers, and the hopeful nature before COVID hit. Everyone seemed friendly, and it didn't seem at all like a few complaint posts that were put up earlier about superiority complexes or whatever.
There are now 2300+ students in the department and it will probably be 3k within the next few years. Classes are getting tighter, it's getting more competitive, and UH isn't giving CS the attitude it deserves. MIS and CIS are getting pumped, CS is just... There. NSM took over the Fall career fair like wtf? Cullen and NSM are going to get in competition over this stuff as CS to Cullen should have happened (and on several accounts, was rumored and about to go through the process) but then didn't happen, and CS wants the juice.
I've seen students in 1336 get caught with ChatGPT like fucking dumbasses, but on the other hand, the talent level of the juniors and seniors at UH CS is FUCKING INSANE. The post-COVID generation of UH CS is going to be the reason the rank and perception skyrockets. Alums of years past are surprised with how Coogs are getting picked off left and right from UH compared to other schools.
The department is focusing on hiring new blood that will help push the department to newer heights in terms of more modern research. The older professors are preparing to retire, we just don't know when or if. Tenure is hard to achieve, but the cycle is definitely happening.
That's all, I'm going to bed. Go Coogs!
Edit: I'm done! And I got through all the classes without taking Hilford or either Cheng so SUCK ON THAT UH

In couples counseling back in October wife committed to stop drinking. And she held to it for months. Things were pretty good. Arguing went to zero. I felt respected.
20s daughter moved in and wife starts drinking a bit at dinner with her. I see some of the usual bad behaviors and have a respectful conversation. Talk about the slippery slope. Etc.
Couple bad events occur where she gets angry at me after drinking and then silent treatment for a couple days and I have another discussion about back sliding. It’s respectful. No demands.
We go out to dinner and now she’s back to ordering doubles and another chaser before we leave. I’m pretty concerned.
Next she goes to dinner with friend, drives home drunk, then embarrasses me in front of many friends about how I don’t help around the house.
It takes her three days to apologize. I tell her this apology needs to come with a change in behavior to be accepted. She tells me she is going to continue to drink two or three times per week. I of course point out how that hasn’t been working well, we’ve been arguing more and now she is driving drunk and humiliating and demeaning me in front of friends. She says no. I said I’m sorry. I’m done with this.
We don’t talk for more than a week as I flew out of town the next day. At day 5 I text her that I’m disappointed that she doesn’t seem to want to resolve the situation. She ignores me.
I come back in town, she ignores me for three days, no talking. I did not try to initiate a discussion. Then her family is in town for six days. Everything is all smiles and happy life.
During this time her family is in town she doesn’t drink and is quite pleasant and I find myself loosening up and enjoying her.
Family leaves and she goes back to ignoring me and on second day drinks. She ignores my attempts to engage her though admittedly I was not calm.
Thursday she drinks again and this time she physically assaults me shining her phone light in my face, ripping my ear buds out, throwing my glasses. Calling me a narcissist, an old man, an asshole. She says why don’t I get my gun and shoot her. I should have walked away but did not. I felt she wanted me to hit her. That she was begging me to escalate the situation. I did not other than staying and continuing to be abused.
The next day she wakes up and says “hi”. That’s just enraging. I tried to engage her in a discussion about her behavior but she just disrupts my attempts and I get angry and walk away. I try again today. She is insistent that I’m just a giant asshole.
When her family was in town I thought I was pleasant enough. I participated in dinner and conversation. Participated in game night. Made suggestions on a day trip that was taken. I admittedly didn’t engage in a lot of friendly banter and that’s what she threw in my face. That I didn’task anyone any questions. Anyway, can’t win.
So today she says again that I’m trying to control her. That her apology should be enough and she isn’t apologizing again or doing more. That I’m an asshole for not letting it go. Why can’t I be nice. I am always angry and walking around upset…according to her. I agree that I’m not the most smiley person in the world and when I feel disrespected and dishonored I have difficulty burying that and just being pleasant.
So, I don’t know what to do. Do I keep holding the line that violation of respect of that magnitude requires more than a “ sorry “ 3 days later? Shouldn’t there be an aspect of “what can I do to make you feel good about us?” Or what can I do for you to forgive me?
Or am I just the asshole who can’t let go and be understanding of a slip?

Good Morrow readers! Or whatever time you are in. Thanks for tuning in to your quick lore recap of the subs. You know that with 5+ subs, we have too much lore for keeping up with. So here is a distillation of the last week in arkhamlore.

A reminder to not raid:

Please report any raids you see. People have been conducting raids where they have not been following the subs rules, and just posting their insane behavior. A reminder for all: report all raids. A reminder for the insane: do not get involved with the posse. They are considered dangerous and illegal. If you do post in other subs, make sure that you do it within the meme days, and keep it on topic. Report off topic Aslume madness. If you see a amount of insanity posts that seems unusual to the sub, report it immediately. This “Posse” has been moving from sub to sub. We believe they have stopped from our research, but they could still be out there. Report all raids. And don’t join them.

Arkham Shadows

This game created a relapse for many Even some on the rehab team are succumbing to the pressure. Stray strong people!

Is the Stupid Squad the Guardians of the Galaxy?

With the leaving of several key members of the Stupid Squad, Cage, Black, Makima, Deadpool, plus many OG’s also being inactive or getting kicked, plus Corn leaving: new members are in: Aslume Knight, Bingus, Dick, Nuggies, Customer, Muslim, Futa, and Cheese and Bulbmin, the rotating cast is a new thing. But is the Squad the Guardians? Well Mockingbird and Ghostrider could be Allmight and Cage respectively, as one left late in, but still comes back. Termanator and Armstrong could be Black Widow and Condor as they were gone early, but still one shows up later. And the rotating cast seems to suggest that maybe they are, as that’s what the Guardians of the Galaxy do best. N could be Doctor Stephen Strange, as he joined the Guardians early but wasn’t in the original, plus left later in. Plus there is the fact that most of these had come from the Legion, and the bringer together of such hasn’t been accepted in. So is Harrison J*nkler Wells actually Spider-Man? The Stupid Squad is the best they have to offer, and have gone comically brilliant over time. This just furthers that they are the Guardians. But this begs the Question, who is Hawkeye? Only time will tell…

Last Night I saw some content it was porn, he said, this is for the sub, PORNOGRAPHY’s Back.

In the year 2024 an legend by the name of u/Final_Employmeny1433 posted porn for a crisis. Early February he said he would post porn on April 25th. He did it. The Shunovabitch did it. Now like Antivenom from CW’s Spider-man, (or Godspeed from The Flash) there is more of them. Reposted beyond recognition.
That was this Saturday on flashtv, home of a different breed of insanity. 4 months ago, CW’s Spider-Man was the commodity, but now everyone is posting porn. Even with the ban of u/Final_employment1433, people still are posting they will do it.
But don’t worry about it, Hoss. Because May 4th, the day “Godspeed and Zoom Destroy Central City”, there is 11 of them. Sure people have faked us out, and some have worded their posts to be misleading. But you can’t lock up the content. Web-Man has been trying to stop the porn, but he succumbed to the temptation. Zoom and J*nkler Wells are fighting for insanity. Web-Man was our only hope but Timeline Fuckery caused him to lose. People have done it. They posted cropped humping, Disturbing FoodxAnus gifs, and Hardcore Porn, plus fake outs like Cisco’s Coc, and Godspeed x Zoom Couch.
This sub has always been insane. Appliance posting in 2015 with the Reverse Frigerator, (which gained them the reputation of winning the Shitposting Olympics) the Team Building posts last fall, this sub has gone into a different wave of insanity, they call it many names. Flashlume, Cumpoint, Spider-Flash, Applianceposting. To quote Tom Cavanagh’s character, “To me, you’ve been dead for centuries.”
So are you the Future Flashing? Or are WE the subreddit. With over 11 people posting porn there, and several going to on important dates in the future, what happens next? Well we will wait for April 25th, 2049, where 2 people promised, as with the “25 years later” article. Or on October 7th, 2045, where we will get Dragon Porn.
Additionally, this sub is notorious for its shitposts. Most people join for the show, but they stay for the chaos. But without a show, what will happen now? The Legends Sub mods have been cracking down on most “Funposts”, but flashtv seems to have only a glimpse of sanity on some days. However the legends sub recently made okaybuddybeebo. A sub designed for legends shitposting.
A post in starterpacks I believe said it best: when there are too many fans, and no new content, there are a few things that the subs do. Well this sub has a couple posts a month asking why Thawne wears Wells’s Face. A Lanternposting or AI Barry convo every day, and over analyzing a throwaway line. But we also have the guy removing people’s heads in photoshop.
Now what are the mods doing? Well they have removed everything that is a Raid or NSFW. And they have blocked the next level in shitposting: Video. But people have found work arounds. You see that’s the thing about shitposting. The more you do it, the less the rules apply to you. But the mods have stayed good and removed all the porn. We appreciate you!

insane: in words

Returning back into insanity, arkhamchess has become a text only sub this month of May. No longer are they sane, but they can’t have images for the month of May. However, its sister subreddit, okbuddyflashtime, has recently achieved 100 members, with the new addition of user flairs and emojis in such flair. With these 2 subs going opposite directions, one a more personalized approach with visuals, the other a Text only event, what crazed event is next? Well a contest was just put up to vote on okbuddyflashtime. But the contest doesn’t seem like it’s happening. Given the votes are currently not enough participants for the contest.

Bird Lore

Fritz was born in captivity, he was raised until he reached 6 years of age where he escaped his enclosure and flew Japan (for some reason) he obviously took some breaks and on his last one he met gojira, (the AI bot is named minus one) and Fritz tamed the radioactive lizard with trust, then he was somehow put in a cage, one that now gojira defends. Fritz also likes cola for some reason

Arkhamlore: a Study

What is the average post in arkhamlore? Well we looked at the past week to find your answer:
Most of them fall into these categories, ordered by how common they are:

1. A scantly clad woman doing another AMA that ends up with sex, and in multiple instances: hematolagnia.
   
2. A post about the Insanity Pills that gets downvoted immensely because it isn’t exactly as the Writers Guild wants for our improv series.
   
3. A new character (that isn’t almost naked) about every couple hours
   
4. People returning or controversy about locations
   
5. People role playing how they want to, and having little interaction
   
6. AMAs that are basically pointless as it either gets lots of BS responses or none
   
7. Actual lore that most people care about
   
8. A Historical War Criminal (yes, we have had multiple)
   

Happy Star Wars day!

We want to take this spot to say May the 4th be with you.

arkhamrehabilitation: a study

Why people aren’t rehabilitating but why the sub is growing beyond the unexpectedaslume:
With testimonies from people on the neutral side and insane side: here is what we found:
People don’t like being banned. Plus with multiple accounts, people may forget, and as such they don’t return to even try to be rehabilitated, because the mods throw the Bans around like it’s candy. Adding onto this: Most of the posts are role play. Yes, the sub is not about rehabilitating people. So that’s a reason people go. They like the role play, but bans still have them in the sub.
It’s being advertised in other subs, so people visit their first time and join. Plus many dislike the insanity. However some people are just joining it for the memes.
There are those who are insane won’t join, or will join but not rehabilitate, or those who are insane but haven’t gone off the deep end yet.
Now with an inside testimony from an anonymous source: “JellyBrain was a Figurehead”, plus from another anonymous source: “The Sanity Squad is no more.” This leads us to believe that the sub is unorganized. We can neither confirm nor deny these statements, but what does this mean for arkhamrehabilitation? Maybe they aren’t as powerful as they claim to be, or maybe they are 10 steps ahead and we don’t know what game they’re playing yet. Either way you should be rehabilitated. It’s the best thing there is for you. 😉

The insanity pills? Or infinity pills?

Whatever they are called, they sure have been a big thing recently. Many people and squads have been grabbing them. But the most recent update to them (as of writing this) is they have been destroyed. However the Cock Pill, giving the user mind control, has been saved by Marine Warlord. This is the most recent update as of today.
The Clock King has also Appearently been starting a clock business, after helping Killer Moth get laid in killermothgangbang.
Additionally, this seems to lead to a reboot, according to the Lore Keepers, and will reset everything again. When asked about it: the community said, and I quote: “Twinkler should have a Time Machine”, and “We should make one, with Hookers” The lore implications of this are that maybe the Reboot will come from a Time Traveling Hooker Squad? The Interview was otherwise irrelevant to this issue. But if the community has elected this as how the universe reboots, than get ready for this.

The move to discord?

No, we are not moving to discord. Most are staying here, and the new sub Aslumelore is also dedicated to expanding your places to role play. Some have gone to discord, but there have been controversies in said community, leading to a backlash, in addition to those whom already dislike Discord, people are staying on the sub. But you can join if you want to, most are staying here though.

Skullcrusher and futa have gotten married.

Wish them a happy one!

Drama in the insane?

Despite Legion having been recognized as equals by one of the Founding members, part of the first wave of recruits, it appears drama has occurred. Senator Manstrong himself endorsed the legion, but because they have been in the shadows, they have been given no recognition, they have been shat upon because they are working in the shadows, and as such “deserve to be pissed on”. Despite the Legion being lead by who most of the sane call one of the 2 big bads, Aslumeus, while Crane is the other (not associated with legion), this did not bring their reputation up.

Two new jokes/Jonks have been made:

Should X have had a wing-suit? (Started with asking about Nightwing, now is spreading to other characters) Social experiment (just post an image and title it Social Experiment)

Some controversies, pleasantries and extra lore:

The Symbiotes are still on the loose, but Apokalypse has absorbed Knull, thier leader.
Harrison Wells has been not as great a leader as Aslumeus and has been treated with a bit of scorn for his u/.
Nathan Drake opened Pandoras Box.
John Marston, Arthur Morgan, and Firefly have gone missing after they hunted for Alien Drugs.
Anikan Skywalker has turned to the Darkside.
Dr Emmet Brown may be caught between time, London 2166 and Germany 1942, let’s wish him a safe time travel.
Harrison Wells has been at a crossroads, and is unsure if he should become sane, or off the deep end, ever since he merged his 3 power rings.
Aslumeus is firmly against Jiggle Physics.
Nam is switching characters faster than Chick Hicks, in fact Nam is no more, only Lego Bone, and he is always bricked up, and ready to become a bigger and buffer Bone, so don’t make him angry, you wouldn’t like him when he’s angry.
The Good Doctor Strange may not be the sane Doctor Hugo we know him to be, after timeline shenanigans.
Cat-woman has no Pixels.
Poison Ivy is not fully Nude and not important to the lore this week.
President Lyndon B Johnson is friends with the J*nkler on Duolingo.
Skull Crusher has agreed to look into sub Emojis for General.
Skull Crusher dropkicked Compress on TV.
And Finally, the French Mod of Rehab is asking to be called “Good Bot”.
Now before we go let’s play a game: 2 truths and a lie: 1: Frieza has the top comment on a famous post in DC history 2: OfficerBalls was the one who gave the promo code for free sex 3: cheese lover hates beans
We end this newsletter with a thanks for reading, and we are just moving on to other stuff. Thanks again to all who read, and those who were interviewed. Our sources are kept anonymous as to not violate whistleblower protection! And to finish allow me to quote a famous post: “ñ”. Thanks and good day! And we hope you enjoyed this final issue of Weekly Rehab.

Good Morrow readers! Or whatever time you are in. Thanks for tuning in to your quick lore recap of the subs. You know that with 5+ subs, we have too much lore for keeping up with. So here is a distillation of the last week in arkhamlore.

A reminder to not raid:

Please report any raids you see. People have been conducting raids where they have not been following the subs rules, and just posting their insane behavior. A reminder for all: report all raids. A reminder for the insane: do not get involved with the posse. They are considered dangerous and illegal. If you do post in other subs, make sure that you do it within the meme days, and keep it on topic. Report off topic Aslume madness. If you see a amount of insanity posts that seems unusual to the sub, report it immediately. This “Posse” has been moving from sub to sub. We believe they have stopped from our research, but they could still be out there. Report all raids. And don’t join them.

Arkham Shadows

This game created a relapse for many Even some on the rehab team are succumbing to the pressure. Stray strong people!

Is the Stupid Squad the Guardians of the Galaxy?

With the leaving of several key members of the Stupid Squad, Cage, Black, Makima, Deadpool, plus many OG’s also being inactive or getting kicked, plus Corn leaving: new members are in: Aslume Knight, Bingus, Dick, Nuggies, Customer, Muslim, Futa, and Cheese and Bulbmin, the rotating cast is a new thing. But is the Squad the Guardians? Well Mockingbird and Ghostrider could be Allmight and Cage respectively, as one left late in, but still comes back. Termanator and Armstrong could be Black Widow and Condor as they were gone early, but still one shows up later. And the rotating cast seems to suggest that maybe they are, as that’s what the Guardians of the Galaxy do best. N could be Doctor Stephen Strange, as he joined the Guardians early but wasn’t in the original, plus left later in. Plus there is the fact that most of these had come from the Legion, and the bringer together of such hasn’t been accepted in. So is Harrison J*nkler Wells actually Spider-Man? The Stupid Squad is the best they have to offer, and have gone comically brilliant over time. This just furthers that they are the Guardians. But this begs the Question, who is Hawkeye? Only time will tell…

Last Night I saw some content it was porn, he said, this is for the sub, PORNOGRAPHY’s Back.

In the year 2024 an legend by the name of u/Final_Employmeny1433 posted porn for a crisis. Early February he said he would post porn on April 25th. He did it. The Shunovabitch did it. Now like Antivenom from CW’s Spider-man, (or Godspeed from The Flash) there is more of them. Reposted beyond recognition. That was this Saturday on flashtv, home of a different breed of insanity. 4 months ago, CW’s Spider-Man was the commodity, but now everyone is posting porn. Even with the ban of u/Final_employment1433, people still are posting they will do it. But don’t worry about it, Hoss. Because May 4th, the day “Godspeed and Zoom Destroy Central City”, there is 11 of them. Sure people have faked us out, and some have worded their posts to be misleading. But you can’t lock up the content. Web-Man has been trying to stop the porn, but he succumbed to the temptation. Zoom and Jnkler Wells are fighting for insanity. Web-Man was our only hope but Timeline Fuckery caused him to lose. People have done it. They posted cropped humping, Disturbing FoodxAnus gifs, and Hardcore Porn, plus fake outs like Cisco’s Coc, and Godspeed x Zoom Couch. This sub has always been insane. Appliance posting in 2015 with the Reverse Frigerator, (which gained them the reputation of winning the Shitposting Olympics) the Team Building posts last fall, this sub has gone into a different wave of insanity, they call it many names. Flashlume, Cumpoint, Spider-Flash, Applianceposting. To quote Tom Cavanagh’s character, “To me, you’ve been dead for centuries.” So are you the Future Flashing? Or are *WE the subreddit. With over 11 people posting porn there, and several going to on important dates in the future, what happens next? Well we will wait for April 25th, 2049, where 2 people promised, as with the “25 years later” article. Or on October 7th, 2045, where we will get Dragon Porn. Additionally, this sub is notorious for its shitposts. Most people join for the show, but they stay for the chaos. But without a show, what will happen now? The Legends Sub mods have been cracking down on most “Funposts”, but flashtv seems to have only a glimpse of sanity on some days. However the legends sub recently made okaybuddybeebo. A sub designed for legends shitposting. A post in starterpacks I believe said it best: when there are too many fans, and no new content, there are a few things that the subs do. Well this sub has a couple posts a month asking why Thawne wears Wells’s Face. A Lanternposting or AI Barry convo every day, and over analyzing a throwaway line. But we also have the guy removing people’s heads in photoshop. Now what are the mods doing? Well they have removed everything that is a Raid or NSFW. And they have blocked the next level in shitposting: Video. But people have found work arounds. You see that’s the thing about shitposting. The more you do it, the less the rules apply to you. But the mods have stayed good and removed all the porn. We appreciate you!

insane: in words

Returning back into insanity, arkhamchess has become a text only sub this month of May. No longer are they sane, but they can’t have images for the month of May. However, its sister subreddit, okbuddyflashtime, has recently achieved 100 members, with the new addition of user flairs and emojis in such flair. With these 2 subs going opposite directions, one a more personalized approach with visuals, the other a Text only event, what crazed event is next? Well a contest was just put up to vote on okbuddyflashtime. But the contest doesn’t seem like it’s happening. Given the votes are currently not enough participants for the contest.

Bird Lore

Fritz was born in captivity, he was raised until he reached 6 years of age where he escaped his enclosure and flew Japan (for some reason) he obviously took some breaks and on his last one he met gojira, (the AI bot is named minus one) and Fritz tamed the radioactive lizard with trust, then he was somehow put in a cage, one that now gojira defends. Fritz also likes cola for some reason

Arkhamlore: a Study

What is the average post in arkhamlore? Well we looked at the past week to find your answer:
Most of them fall into these categories, ordered by how common they are:

1. A scantly clad woman doing another AMA that ends up with sex, and in multiple instances: hematolagnia.
   
2. A post about the Insanity Pills that gets downvoted immensely because it isn’t exactly as the Writers Guild wants for our improv series.
   
3. A new character (that isn’t almost naked) about every couple hours
   
4. People returning or controversy about locations
   
5. People role playing how they want to, and having little interaction
   
6. AMAs that are basically pointless as it either gets lots of BS responses or none
   
7. Actual lore that most people care about
   
8. A Historical War Criminal (yes, we have had multiple)
   

Happy Star Wars day!

We want to take this spot to say May the 4th be with you.

arkhamrehabilitation: a study

Why people aren’t rehabilitating but why the sub is growing beyond the unexpectedaslume:
With testimonies from people on the neutral side and insane side: here is what we found:
People don’t like being banned. Plus with multiple accounts, people may forget, and as such they don’t return to even try to be rehabilitated, because the mods throw the Bans around like it’s candy. Adding onto this: Most of the posts are role play. Yes, the sub is not about rehabilitating people. So that’s a reason people go. They like the role play, but bans still have them in the sub.
It’s being advertised in other subs, so people visit their first time and join. Plus many dislike the insanity. However some people are just joining it for the memes.
There are those who are insane won’t join, or will join but not rehabilitate, or those who are insane but haven’t gone off the deep end yet.
Now with an inside testimony from an anonymous source: “JellyBrain was a Figurehead”, plus from another anonymous source: “The Sanity Squad is no more.” This leads us to believe that the sub is unorganized. We can neither confirm nor deny these statements, but what does this mean for arkhamrehabilitaion? Maybe they aren’t as powerful as they claim to be, or maybe they are 10 steps ahead and we don’t know what game they’re playing yet. Either way you should be rehabilitated. It’s the best thing there is for you. 😉

The insanity pills? Or infinity pills?

Whatever they are called, they sure have been a big thing recently. Many people and squads have been grabbing them. But the most recent update to them (as of writing this) is they have been destroyed. However the Cock Pill, giving the user mind control, has been saved by Marine Warlord. This is the most recent update as of today.
The Clock King has also Appearently been starting a clock business, after helping Killer Moth get laid in killermothgangbang.
Additionally, this seems to lead to a reboot, according to the Lore Keepers, and will reset everything again. When asked about it: the community said, and I quote: “Twinkler should have a Time Machine”, and “We should make one, with Hookers” The lore implications of this are that maybe the Reboot will come from a Time Traveling Hooker Squad? The Interview was otherwise irrelevant to this issue. But if the community has elected this as how the universe reboots, than get ready for this.

The move to discord?

No, we are not moving to discord. Most are staying here, and the new sub Aslumelore is also dedicated to expanding your places to role play. Some have gone to discord, but there have been controversies in said community, leading to a backlash, in addition to those whom already dislike Discord, people are staying on the sub. But you can join if you want to, most are staying here though.

Skullcrusher and futa have gotten married.

Wish them a happy one!

Drama in the insane?

Despite Legion having been recognized as equals by one of the Founding members, part of the first wave of recruits, it appears drama has occurred. Senator Manstrong himself endorsed the legion, but because they have been in the shadows, they have been given no recognition, they have been shat upon because they are working in the shadows, and as such “deserve to be pissed on”. Despite the Legion being lead by who most of the sane call one of the 2 big bads, Aslumeus, while Crane is the other (not associated with legion), this did not bring their reputation up.

Two new jokes/Jonks have been made:

Should X have had a wing-suit? (Started with asking about Nightwing, now is spreading to other characters) Social experiment (just post an image and title it Social Experiment)

Some controversies, pleasantries and extra lore:

The Symbiotes are still on the loose, but Apokalypse has absorbed Knull, thier leader.
Harrison Wells has been not as great a leader as Aslumeus and has been treated with a bit of scorn for his u/.
Nathan Drake opened Pandoras Box.
John Marston, Arthur Morgan, and Firefly have gone missing after they hunted for Alien Drugs.
Anikan Skywalker has turned to the Darkside.
Dr Emmet Brown may be caught between time, London 2166 and Germany 1942, let’s wish him a safe time travel.
Harrison Wells has been at a crossroads, and is unsure if he should become sane, or off the deep end, ever since he merged his 3 power rings.
Aslumeus is firmly against Jiggle Physics.
Nam is switching characters faster than Chick Hicks, in fact Nam is no more, only Lego Bone, and he is always bricked up, and ready to become a bigger and buffer Bone, so don’t make him angry, you wouldn’t like him when he’s angry.
The Good Doctor Strange may not be the sane Doctor Hugo we know him to be, after timeline shenanigans.
Cat-woman has no Pixels.
Poison Ivy is not fully Nude and not important to the lore this week.
President Lyndon B Johnson is friends with the J*nkler on Duolingo.
Skull Crusher has agreed to look into sub Emojis for General.
Skull Crusher dropkicked Compress on TV.
And Finally, the French Mod of Rehab is asking to be called “Good Bot”.
Now before we go let’s play a game: 2 truths and a lie: 1: Frieza has the top comment on a famous post in DC history 2: OfficerBalls was the one who gave the promo code for free sex 3: cheese lover hates beans
We end this newsletter with a thanks for reading, and we are just moving on to other stuff. Thanks again to all who read, and those who were interviewed. Our sources are kept anonymous as to not violate whistleblower protection! And to finish allow me to quote a famous post: “ñ”. Thanks and good day! And we hope you enjoyed this final issue of Weekly Rehab.