Describe someone with the letter m
Two Redditors colliding. It's a small world.
2014.12.02 00:19 Poemi Two Redditors colliding. It's a small world.
2redditors1cup! a place where folks across the internet cross ways in an unexpected way! sometimes the world can be incredibly small.
2011.03.30 16:39 HotDinnerBatman Unsent Letters
A place for the letter you never sent.
2016.06.16 21:53 Shinies, but in real life!
The term "shiny" originates from Pokémon. It is a term used to describe a pokémon that is a completely different color from all others in their species. We have taken that idea and expanded it to include objects, plants, food, and people! All color morphs are accepted providing they are atypical from the norm of that species, breed, or type.
2024.05.14 14:31 LilGreenTreeFrog Converting stretch bracelets ?
 | My goodwill occasionally gets Treska brand costume jewelry. I really like their stretch bracelets as they use higher quality beads - lots of metal, glass, and stones. However - all these are quite heavy and the stretch cord seems to be giving a little from just hanging on the board at the store. So I’ve never worn these because I’m afraid of them breaking submitted by LilGreenTreeFrog to jewelrymaking [link] [comments] Any advice on how someone with little to no tools or experience in jewelry making could convert these to a more traditional, secure type of bracelet? Either a bangle or clasp type is fine. TIA |
2024.05.14 14:30 Night_Hawk_19 Alice in Wonderland Syndrome
Have you ever felt really tall. Much taller than you actually are?
Back in the good old days, my older sister used to describe how when she got really angry at someone she felt like she was much taller than them and they looked really, really small in her sight. I guess this was a way for her not to feel threatened by them and to take them on for example if they messed with one of her kids. So it turns out that there is this condition called Alice in Wonderland syndrome which might explain this phenomenon.
https://www.healthline.com/health/alice-in-wonderland-syndrome
That's today's happy medical explanation for crazy stuff we humans go through.
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Back in the good old days, my older sister used to describe how when she got really angry at someone she felt like she was much taller than them and they looked really, really small in her sight. I guess this was a way for her not to feel threatened by them and to take them on for example if they messed with one of her kids. So it turns out that there is this condition called Alice in Wonderland syndrome which might explain this phenomenon.
https://www.healthline.com/health/alice-in-wonderland-syndrome
That's today's happy medical explanation for crazy stuff we humans go through.
2024.05.14 14:28 Virtual-Grade592 [AA4A] [FF4A] [MM4A] [FM4A] Helping an adoptive vampire with their first time feeding [vampire] [established relationship] [reverse comfort] [infertility] [part 4]
This is part 4 of my infertile vampire series. You can find the other parts in my masterlist: My masterlist :
I put the script in scriptbin for ease of recording (I heard some VA's prefer reading it from there): Virtual-Grade592: [A4A] [F4A] [M4A] Your vampire partner is infertile [vampire] [established relationship] - scriptbin
It's okay to fill this script and make minor adjustments. Please give me credit for writing the script and put a link in the comments so that I can find your audio. It's okay to paywall, but send me a copy of the audio then.
This part will have 2 speakers, the infertile vampire partner and the adoptive vampire. I’ve given the infertile vampire partner the name Alex, so I’ll use an A to indicate when they speaks and the adoptive vampire is called Ender, so I’ll use an E to indicate when they speak. Feel free to change pronouns and names to fit your audio.
(several days have passed since Ender started living with Alex and the listener. Ender has been gradually getting more at ease with their vampiric nature. Today all of you sit down to discuss the next step in Ender’s education as a vampire.)
[The listener, Alex and Ender sit down on a couple of chairs in the living room]
E: *nervous* I’m not ready for this.
A: *reassuring* Everyone is anxious for the first time they need to feed. You’re such a calm vampire, I’m sure you’ll do fine.
E: *still anxious* But what if I lose control? The blood bags you’ve been feeding me taste so much better than the animal blood I drank before. What if I can’t stop once I start?
A: You’re worrying too much. We aren’t the bloodthirsty monsters that the media portrays us as. Your hunger is the same as when you were human. Only starving or psychopathic vampires would drain a human to the point of death.
E: *unsure* I still feel that this is dangerous. When I arrived here, I had trouble restraining myself from drinking from them.
A: Back then you were starving. Your survival instinct was screaming at you that you needed blood. And you didn’t even give in to it. Now you aren’t starving. At this moment does it feel like you need to bite a human?
E: No, I’m fine now.
A: My point exactly. You’re fine and you’ll still be fine if you feed.
E: *slowly building up courage* I suppose you are right. It feels daunting though. I imagine many things could go wrong, like I could accidentally bite their artery. But those are worst case scenarios right?
A: Yes, that’s right. Those are just worst case scenarios and they are very rare. In all the years I’ve been feeding off of them *pointing at the listener* There were never any problems. All that will happen is that your partner gets a bit fatigued. *cheeky* Or they’ll get turned on if they have a thing for vampires.
[pause]
A: *amused* Aw that’s cute, look at the both of you blushing. I understand that Ender might be flustered at their first time feeding, *Alex turns to the listener* But I’ve fed plenty of times on you, my darling. Why are you bashful about the notion of Ender drinking from you?
[pause]
A: You’re afraid it’ll be too intimate? Hey sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with how you’ll react or feel when being fed on. I won’t see it as cheating if you get hot and bothered. It’s only cheating if you act on it. You don’t need to be ashamed if you get a bit, um how to say this … excited? Yeah excited. It’s okay if you get excited from being fed on. You’re married to a vampire, it’s normal to like being bitten. And if it gets too much for you then *suggestive* we can always retire to our bedroom to ‘deal’ with any overwhelming emotions.
[pause]
A: That seems to have put you at ease. It’s going to be okay darling. It’ll just be like me feeding on you. And I’ll guide Ender through it all to keep you and them safe.
E: *stammering nervously* Um, c-could we do this another time? I-I still don’t feel r-ready. I t-think It’ll be easier if I had more time to mentally prepare myself.
A: *encouraging* Ender, I can tell that you are ready now. You’ve been doing fine this last week and you are cautious. I know this will go alright. If we delay it now, it’ll just become more daunting to bite a human. The extra time will just increase your nervousness, not lessen it. So please believe me, because now is the best time to do your first feeding.
E: *getting more confident* Maybe you’re right. I should try at some point, so why not now. Even if something goes wrong, you’re here to help.
A: That’s the spirit. So when you’re ready, sit down next to our prospective bite victim.
[Ender sits down next to the listener]
A: Now, feeding takes three simple steps. First, put some of your saliva on the part of the skin you want to feed on. Our saliva has a numbing effect on humans, so this way your prey won’t feel pain from your bite. If your victim has been particularly annoying, then I’d spit on them, but otherwise it’s nicer to apply your saliva with a kiss. Second you bite the skin and begin drinking. Third when you’ve had your fill, you remove your fangs and catch your prey if they got too drained from the blood loss. Then you are done.
E: Okay, I think I can do that. Human, if you want me to stop at any moment, just squeeze my hand or tell me to stop. Are you ready as well?
[pause]
E: Good, then I’ll begin.
[sound of Ender giving one kiss on the neck]
E: *uncertain* There’s the saliva. Is it working? Are you feeling numb?
[pause]
E: Yeah? Okay, then I’ll bite you now.
[sound of a bite and the sucking of blood]
[after a few moments Ender stops the bite]
E: *pleasantly surprised* Huh, that was a lot easier than expected. Are you feeling okay?
[pause]
E: Phew, that’s good. I’m glad you’re fine.
A: To me it seems alright as well. Sweetheart can you tilt your neck? I want to check the wound just in case.
[listener tilts neck]
A: *pleased* This is a very clean wound. It’s hardly worse than a papercut. You did well Ender, you can be proud.
E: It felt surprisingly good. I could certainly get used to this.
A: *amused* My, my, you’re really getting used to your vampirism aren’t you. Already eager to bite more humans and taste their delicious blood. It’s a good thing you are kind-hearted or humanity would have to fear a new predator in the night.
E: *flustered* If you put it like that, it sounds like I’m getting bloodthirsty. I just liked biting them. But I don’t want to go hunting them and forcefully feed off of them.
A: *chuckling* That’s adorable dear. You won’t have to worry about hunting anyone. There are plenty of humans with a thing for vampires. Whenever you feel like biting anyone, just find one of them. They’ll happily consent to being fed upon. Especially wit the internet it’s easy to find people who want to do some vampire ‘roleplaying’.
E: *Surprised* It’s that easy? People even like our bite?
A: Oh yes, they certainly do. Just look at my partner. They seem quite satisfied from the ordeal. And you’re happy with how it all went, right darling?
[pause]
E: That’s a relief. I’d hate it if I had to hurt someone every time I ate.
A: Oh that won’t happen. Tomorrow I’ll teach you to find these humans eager to be bitten. And you’ll be surprised how many of them there are.
E: *excited* Ooh, I can’t wait for it.
A: Great, then we’ll pick this up first thing tomorrow morning. But for now let’s start on dinner. My sweetheart can use some food after losing blood.
[fade to black as the three of them get dinner ready]
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I put the script in scriptbin for ease of recording (I heard some VA's prefer reading it from there): Virtual-Grade592: [A4A] [F4A] [M4A] Your vampire partner is infertile [vampire] [established relationship] - scriptbin
It's okay to fill this script and make minor adjustments. Please give me credit for writing the script and put a link in the comments so that I can find your audio. It's okay to paywall, but send me a copy of the audio then.
This part will have 2 speakers, the infertile vampire partner and the adoptive vampire. I’ve given the infertile vampire partner the name Alex, so I’ll use an A to indicate when they speaks and the adoptive vampire is called Ender, so I’ll use an E to indicate when they speak. Feel free to change pronouns and names to fit your audio.
(several days have passed since Ender started living with Alex and the listener. Ender has been gradually getting more at ease with their vampiric nature. Today all of you sit down to discuss the next step in Ender’s education as a vampire.)
[The listener, Alex and Ender sit down on a couple of chairs in the living room]
E: *nervous* I’m not ready for this.
A: *reassuring* Everyone is anxious for the first time they need to feed. You’re such a calm vampire, I’m sure you’ll do fine.
E: *still anxious* But what if I lose control? The blood bags you’ve been feeding me taste so much better than the animal blood I drank before. What if I can’t stop once I start?
A: You’re worrying too much. We aren’t the bloodthirsty monsters that the media portrays us as. Your hunger is the same as when you were human. Only starving or psychopathic vampires would drain a human to the point of death.
E: *unsure* I still feel that this is dangerous. When I arrived here, I had trouble restraining myself from drinking from them.
A: Back then you were starving. Your survival instinct was screaming at you that you needed blood. And you didn’t even give in to it. Now you aren’t starving. At this moment does it feel like you need to bite a human?
E: No, I’m fine now.
A: My point exactly. You’re fine and you’ll still be fine if you feed.
E: *slowly building up courage* I suppose you are right. It feels daunting though. I imagine many things could go wrong, like I could accidentally bite their artery. But those are worst case scenarios right?
A: Yes, that’s right. Those are just worst case scenarios and they are very rare. In all the years I’ve been feeding off of them *pointing at the listener* There were never any problems. All that will happen is that your partner gets a bit fatigued. *cheeky* Or they’ll get turned on if they have a thing for vampires.
[pause]
A: *amused* Aw that’s cute, look at the both of you blushing. I understand that Ender might be flustered at their first time feeding, *Alex turns to the listener* But I’ve fed plenty of times on you, my darling. Why are you bashful about the notion of Ender drinking from you?
[pause]
A: You’re afraid it’ll be too intimate? Hey sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with how you’ll react or feel when being fed on. I won’t see it as cheating if you get hot and bothered. It’s only cheating if you act on it. You don’t need to be ashamed if you get a bit, um how to say this … excited? Yeah excited. It’s okay if you get excited from being fed on. You’re married to a vampire, it’s normal to like being bitten. And if it gets too much for you then *suggestive* we can always retire to our bedroom to ‘deal’ with any overwhelming emotions.
[pause]
A: That seems to have put you at ease. It’s going to be okay darling. It’ll just be like me feeding on you. And I’ll guide Ender through it all to keep you and them safe.
E: *stammering nervously* Um, c-could we do this another time? I-I still don’t feel r-ready. I t-think It’ll be easier if I had more time to mentally prepare myself.
A: *encouraging* Ender, I can tell that you are ready now. You’ve been doing fine this last week and you are cautious. I know this will go alright. If we delay it now, it’ll just become more daunting to bite a human. The extra time will just increase your nervousness, not lessen it. So please believe me, because now is the best time to do your first feeding.
E: *getting more confident* Maybe you’re right. I should try at some point, so why not now. Even if something goes wrong, you’re here to help.
A: That’s the spirit. So when you’re ready, sit down next to our prospective bite victim.
[Ender sits down next to the listener]
A: Now, feeding takes three simple steps. First, put some of your saliva on the part of the skin you want to feed on. Our saliva has a numbing effect on humans, so this way your prey won’t feel pain from your bite. If your victim has been particularly annoying, then I’d spit on them, but otherwise it’s nicer to apply your saliva with a kiss. Second you bite the skin and begin drinking. Third when you’ve had your fill, you remove your fangs and catch your prey if they got too drained from the blood loss. Then you are done.
E: Okay, I think I can do that. Human, if you want me to stop at any moment, just squeeze my hand or tell me to stop. Are you ready as well?
[pause]
E: Good, then I’ll begin.
[sound of Ender giving one kiss on the neck]
E: *uncertain* There’s the saliva. Is it working? Are you feeling numb?
[pause]
E: Yeah? Okay, then I’ll bite you now.
[sound of a bite and the sucking of blood]
[after a few moments Ender stops the bite]
E: *pleasantly surprised* Huh, that was a lot easier than expected. Are you feeling okay?
[pause]
E: Phew, that’s good. I’m glad you’re fine.
A: To me it seems alright as well. Sweetheart can you tilt your neck? I want to check the wound just in case.
[listener tilts neck]
A: *pleased* This is a very clean wound. It’s hardly worse than a papercut. You did well Ender, you can be proud.
E: It felt surprisingly good. I could certainly get used to this.
A: *amused* My, my, you’re really getting used to your vampirism aren’t you. Already eager to bite more humans and taste their delicious blood. It’s a good thing you are kind-hearted or humanity would have to fear a new predator in the night.
E: *flustered* If you put it like that, it sounds like I’m getting bloodthirsty. I just liked biting them. But I don’t want to go hunting them and forcefully feed off of them.
A: *chuckling* That’s adorable dear. You won’t have to worry about hunting anyone. There are plenty of humans with a thing for vampires. Whenever you feel like biting anyone, just find one of them. They’ll happily consent to being fed upon. Especially wit the internet it’s easy to find people who want to do some vampire ‘roleplaying’.
E: *Surprised* It’s that easy? People even like our bite?
A: Oh yes, they certainly do. Just look at my partner. They seem quite satisfied from the ordeal. And you’re happy with how it all went, right darling?
[pause]
E: That’s a relief. I’d hate it if I had to hurt someone every time I ate.
A: Oh that won’t happen. Tomorrow I’ll teach you to find these humans eager to be bitten. And you’ll be surprised how many of them there are.
E: *excited* Ooh, I can’t wait for it.
A: Great, then we’ll pick this up first thing tomorrow morning. But for now let’s start on dinner. My sweetheart can use some food after losing blood.
[fade to black as the three of them get dinner ready]
2024.05.14 14:28 SaxInTheWorld I (25M) may be divorcing my wife (36F) of 3 months over a COVID vaccine. Is this salvageable? What would you do?
My wife and I have dated 2 years, married 3 months. For about half of that we were long distance/international. She lived in Ecuador, I met her on a trip there, and continued to go back every few months to see and take trips with her. Eventually I had her meet my family, she moved in with me in NYC for some time, and I proposed.
We were very in love. While the proposal and eventual wedding was relatively quick due to practical and immigration reasons, I still felt good about it and felt she was my person.
Now the rough parts, she has debilitating anxiety (from living in a dangerous city her whole life and a rape 12 years ago) and is anti-vax/pro sketchy naturopath medicine. I had seen her have an episode here and there but they were infrequent. Starting literally 3 days before the wedding the panic attacks got more severe and more frequent. She was hospitalized just days before the wedding with no clear trigger or solution. She had another one because of a dog we were sitting acting a little nuts and seemed like every week there would be some episode of lower severity compared to the one before the wedding. I was supportive of her through this. Not as much as her parents (who really baby her a lot). Stayed with her in ER, made her soups and teas, walked with her. Made sure she figured out insurance, got her a therapist and primary care doctor. I wasn’t the perfect husband, eventually grew tired/irritable of sleepless nights consoling her and was more distant, not sexually interested but sincerely I was trying. We became more distant after the wedding not closer. Though to be clear I never considered or committed any infidelities and would never. About the naturopath part, she knew how I felt about it. I told her as long as she would never withhold needed medicine in favor unproven natural solutions from our hypothetical child (which would be a dealbreaker and I told her this) I wouldn’t make an issue with how she chose to treat herself. She agreed and understood.
All this came to a head when we were filing for immigration paperwork for her marriage based green card. USCIS requires her have a COVID vaccine and while I knew she wouldn’t like this, I never predicted a meltdown. She had several panic attacks, went to dozens on doctors seeking one that would write her a waiver, and considered hiring a vaccine lawyer to get her a religious exemption. When it seemed none of these avenues were working, she told me would be leaving the US and likely me because she refuses to get this vaccine. That she wouldn’t get it under any circumstances. We had already finished all the paperwork, got all the letters of recommendation, and were so close.
I tried so hard to convince of the safety of the shot, showing her study after study, the relative worse dangers of COVID. In addition, the city where she’s from and would likely move back to where she is too scared to walk at night would surely trigger her anxiety way more than having to recover from the vaccine for a couple days. Once she started telling me she was considering leaving I just felt so numb. Like Jesus this is my life. Her mother and these sketchy doctors she talks to from back home convince her this vaccine will mess her up and she trusts them more than me
We’ve only been married 3 months. I spent about $15K on the wedding in NYC in January with all family and friends and now this is what it’s come to… I’m not super worried about the financial consequences of divorces at this point but damn. This woman has been my life for two years. I feel embarrassed, helpless, like an idiot to be honest. Why I didn’t see this sooner. I know this is a lot. Does this seem at all salvageable to any of you? I feel if we can just sort out her anxiety and get her this shot we’ll be off to the races but things are seeming pretty bleak
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We were very in love. While the proposal and eventual wedding was relatively quick due to practical and immigration reasons, I still felt good about it and felt she was my person.
Now the rough parts, she has debilitating anxiety (from living in a dangerous city her whole life and a rape 12 years ago) and is anti-vax/pro sketchy naturopath medicine. I had seen her have an episode here and there but they were infrequent. Starting literally 3 days before the wedding the panic attacks got more severe and more frequent. She was hospitalized just days before the wedding with no clear trigger or solution. She had another one because of a dog we were sitting acting a little nuts and seemed like every week there would be some episode of lower severity compared to the one before the wedding. I was supportive of her through this. Not as much as her parents (who really baby her a lot). Stayed with her in ER, made her soups and teas, walked with her. Made sure she figured out insurance, got her a therapist and primary care doctor. I wasn’t the perfect husband, eventually grew tired/irritable of sleepless nights consoling her and was more distant, not sexually interested but sincerely I was trying. We became more distant after the wedding not closer. Though to be clear I never considered or committed any infidelities and would never. About the naturopath part, she knew how I felt about it. I told her as long as she would never withhold needed medicine in favor unproven natural solutions from our hypothetical child (which would be a dealbreaker and I told her this) I wouldn’t make an issue with how she chose to treat herself. She agreed and understood.
All this came to a head when we were filing for immigration paperwork for her marriage based green card. USCIS requires her have a COVID vaccine and while I knew she wouldn’t like this, I never predicted a meltdown. She had several panic attacks, went to dozens on doctors seeking one that would write her a waiver, and considered hiring a vaccine lawyer to get her a religious exemption. When it seemed none of these avenues were working, she told me would be leaving the US and likely me because she refuses to get this vaccine. That she wouldn’t get it under any circumstances. We had already finished all the paperwork, got all the letters of recommendation, and were so close.
I tried so hard to convince of the safety of the shot, showing her study after study, the relative worse dangers of COVID. In addition, the city where she’s from and would likely move back to where she is too scared to walk at night would surely trigger her anxiety way more than having to recover from the vaccine for a couple days. Once she started telling me she was considering leaving I just felt so numb. Like Jesus this is my life. Her mother and these sketchy doctors she talks to from back home convince her this vaccine will mess her up and she trusts them more than me
We’ve only been married 3 months. I spent about $15K on the wedding in NYC in January with all family and friends and now this is what it’s come to… I’m not super worried about the financial consequences of divorces at this point but damn. This woman has been my life for two years. I feel embarrassed, helpless, like an idiot to be honest. Why I didn’t see this sooner. I know this is a lot. Does this seem at all salvageable to any of you? I feel if we can just sort out her anxiety and get her this shot we’ll be off to the races but things are seeming pretty bleak
2024.05.14 14:28 milkshakessssss tech is moving faster than i thought
Grandma: Can you help me with my phone? I don't know what's wrong with it Me: yeah sure! -- there you go, just needed wifi! G: Thank you dear M: It's no problem. Hey, when you were a kid, I'm sure you also needed to help your grandma keep up with technology, right? G: No, not really. It was never a problem for them. M: No, i mean, with the age gap, they probably had a hard time learning the inventions of your generation. G: Not at all. Technology was never this advanced.
~me realizing that, just like their grandparents, my grandparents probably dreamt of a life for us that's similar to theirs but better, but now they feel so lost because technology, internet, and social media has changed the dynamics of the world~
I'm a 25+ year old which makes me a zillenial - someone who grew up with the internet, but spent enough of their years to remember what it was like without the internet. Don't get me wrong, today, I can't live without it. But I have never missed the internetless world this much
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~me realizing that, just like their grandparents, my grandparents probably dreamt of a life for us that's similar to theirs but better, but now they feel so lost because technology, internet, and social media has changed the dynamics of the world~
I'm a 25+ year old which makes me a zillenial - someone who grew up with the internet, but spent enough of their years to remember what it was like without the internet. Don't get me wrong, today, I can't live without it. But I have never missed the internetless world this much
2024.05.14 14:26 Balancedasis Does anyone wanna be less lonely? Maybe make a new friend. M27
Hello! My name is Joesph! I’m 27 years young. I have a 11 month old daughter named Izabella she’s my world! I work 3rd shifts as an Operations Supervisor. A little about me, I’m a major fan of Star Wars LOTR and Harry Potter. I watch a little bit of anime but not a whole bunch. I’m a very outgoing person. I tend to shy away from people in real life as my anxiety tends to get the best of me but I’ve been working on it. I have a vast variety of interests. I love to go hiking or just being outside. I play some video games here and there. I’m a huge horror fan! I’m a big sports fan as well’ I also love muscle cars. I collect watches, embroidered patches, and playing cards. I’m the black sheep in my family that being said I have 2 sisters and a brother. I love to learn I’m always looking up a topic or listening to a podcast. In my opinion knowledge is power and the only dumb question is the one that’s not asked. I have zero interest in people who are rude and have zero morals. Respect is a huge thing for me. I’ll always respect your boundaries please do the same for me. I have a miniature schnauzer! Her name is Rosie! If I sound like someone you could be friends with please don’t hesitate to message me! No matter what you choose I hope you have an amazing day!
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2024.05.14 14:25 Soft-Secret-4651 Am I stupid to think we could get back together one day?
I recently broke up with my partner of 2 years, and I feel such a big sense of sadness.
I have recently been given the opportunity to work my dream career and the next year has me working 6 days a week and I had already started to neglect myself massively. I stopped eating from stress, I was unable to enjoy time with my partner and I was experiencing massive burn out, so I had to put myself first and end the relationship.
Most people I know when they end a relationship they miss the comfort of having a partner. For me I was craving to be alone so badly. But my partner was my best friend and favourite person in the world that I am just so incredibly sad I have had to give her up.
I want to move on and be excited for my future but I can’t help but wish she was coming with me.
I have this feeling maybe we could possibly get back together once we do some growing alone. But I’m so scared she will find someone else.
I’ve never been someone to put myself first so it feels very weird. I don’t know who I am without her.
Is it stupid to hope one day we will get back together?
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I have recently been given the opportunity to work my dream career and the next year has me working 6 days a week and I had already started to neglect myself massively. I stopped eating from stress, I was unable to enjoy time with my partner and I was experiencing massive burn out, so I had to put myself first and end the relationship.
Most people I know when they end a relationship they miss the comfort of having a partner. For me I was craving to be alone so badly. But my partner was my best friend and favourite person in the world that I am just so incredibly sad I have had to give her up.
I want to move on and be excited for my future but I can’t help but wish she was coming with me.
I have this feeling maybe we could possibly get back together once we do some growing alone. But I’m so scared she will find someone else.
I’ve never been someone to put myself first so it feels very weird. I don’t know who I am without her.
Is it stupid to hope one day we will get back together?
2024.05.14 14:24 indianchatter219 Need a decent friend who listens
Good morning. Posting in hopes of finding someone sane, mature, and responsive to chat with. I’m going thru some things personally and it’s probably easier for me to talk to someone i just met and not judgemental instead of venting to family.
To be honest, most of the issues are family related anyways.
I’m in my 30s now. Feel old lol. In the US Generally down to earth person.
I’d hope you introduce yourself. Hard to talk to someone when they only say hey or hi.
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To be honest, most of the issues are family related anyways.
I’m in my 30s now. Feel old lol. In the US Generally down to earth person.
I’d hope you introduce yourself. Hard to talk to someone when they only say hey or hi.
2024.05.14 14:24 ig_DRAX Looking for Chatty Warriors for a War Club
We are a proper war club, who engage in back2back wars i.e., we launch a war as soon as the cooldown period is over, and the goal is win 80-90%. We have players from US, Canada, and Asia, so someone will always be around to help you at any point of time. We fill our TDs with delicious and rare items for helping in CoM assignments and for War deliveries. You can be leachy on them, as long as you are contributing meaningfully to the wars, CoM, and especially the CHAT! Because, according to us, chat is nothing but "Combat Huddle and Tactical Talks."
Rules:
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Rules:
- If you are going to away for an entire waCoM, then do inform us.
- Filling your TD is kind of culture in our team, so it is expected from you as well.
- Don't blame others for any losses.
- You are expected to give your all in wars (we will teach you how to increase your war attack levels quickly and how to best prepare/equip yourself for war. So as your capability increases - your points will as well)
2024.05.14 14:23 bestfeverdream Has this friendship run its course? Am I the problem in the equation?
I’ll try to keep this short but there is a lot of nuance. In the past 1-2 years I have recently reconnected with some friends from my younger days (high school into young adult hood). We will call them Aaron (27 M) and Ashley (28->29 F) and I am 28 F. I previously stopped talking to both of them because of unfulfilled promises. Back in 2018, Aaron’s fiancé had moved to another country with his son and my boyfriend of 1 year plus had left to attend a family wedding and would be gone for close to a month.
Aaron and I in our mutual distress wanted to figure out a solution to our problems. Aaron was unable to fly due to not having papers as was worried his fiancé was lonely and I wanted to be with my partners family. Aaron had promised he would have paid for me to go on my trip before everyone left so my boyfriend’s dad did not count me in the budget for the tickets. With his fiancé leaving it then became I would go be part of the wedding then go stay with his fiancé for a bit. Aaron eventually ended up trying to proposition me for sec in exchange for the spend and that did not rub me right. This eventually carried forward into other issues tied to his affections and expectations of me which resulted in us no longer being friends.
We reconnected in 2022 where he apologized and explained more why he did what he did. My boyfriend asked if I was sure I wanted to welcome him back into my life and that he would trust my judgement if I choose to, which I did. Ashley and I stopped being friends back in 2017 because we had planned a trip for us and our partners. She stated she would use her buddy passes since she was a flight attendant to make the ticket costs cheaper.
The week before the trip it becomes I cannot bring my boyfriend. I was very confused by this. Severely confused by this so I asked why she said she didn’t feel comfortable with it. So I said okay. Don’t use your passes. We will pay for our trip and we can stay with his family. She said she still wanted me to stay with her. So I said okay. We will come, he stays with his family and I stay with you. We can all hang out and grab lunch and stuff and him and I go on dates and such.
Then she explicitly states the trip will not happen if I take him with me. Then she tries to turn it into a trip with people we have not seen from high school to recreate a sleepover we had in the 8th grade that got ruined by our parents. (That’s another story. I will add here my mom does not like Ashley never has) in the end it was all just too much and I decided that I no longer wanted to be friends with her because what she was doing was messed up especially so close to the trip. This on top of all the on and off issues I had with her through the duration of high school just didn’t seem worth it to take into adulthood.
Now 2023 Ashley reached out and apologizes. I was very torn up about the decision but after speaking with my therapist and weighing the risks decided it couldn’t hurt to try again. Both my gf and my bf were opposed to the decision but at the end of the day the choice was mine and I chose forgiveness.
Fall of 2023 my gf and I were planning a Christmas trip and Ashley said she didn’t get to see me while she was I my country because of the traumas she was dealing with with her mom so she would like to see me now. I told her I was going to fly out to spend the holiday with my gf so I didn’t think it would be possible. She stated she would see me in the time before I went to see my GF. I told her because of the trip I couldn’t afford it. She said that’s fine.
She would pay for the ticket for me to see her and I worked out an arrangement with my girlfriend where we would split the fair for the flights between all three locations and said her to do what happened the last time and I said yeah I can trust her. It doesn’t happen and that will be that. Lo and behold it does not happen because Ashley says to me two weeks before oh I overdid my shopping on Black Friday so I can’t buy your plane ticket. Ofc this makes me gf big mad and she says see I told you so. She was also confused why I was not upset. I explained that it wasn’t that I was not upset simply that it doesn’t really change much. I just won’t ask her for anything again. Which I haven’t and won’t.
Fast forward to spring 2024. The group is back together, we’re having weekly calls and our group chat chatting and having a blast. We decide we haven’t spent time as a group since 2017 so we should go see Aaron where he lives. I state very openly that I won’t be able to afford this trip. (Both Aaron and Ashley make a minimum of twice my income). Aaron says that’s fine I’ve got you covered. I question it and explain my hesitances because of both past situations. He said that’s fine don’t worry. I said okay. Let’s do this. The trip is slated for now (may 2024) and encompassed Ashley’s birthday.
A lot of things start happening in Aaron’s life and the ticket purchase gets repeatedly pushed off. This starts to make Ashley antsy so she buys her ticket hoping it pushes Aaron’s to buy my ticket. It does not. In moment of anxiety Ashley starts booking airbnbs for her self and asking how much I trust Aaron to follow through. I assure her that I do trust him follow through which I did. Because outside of the one trip he hasn’t not come through when I needed him too. I also stated at worst I end up buying my own ticket but I need to see what my expenses will look like in the end.
We are down to the wire my ticket is not bought so I start adjusting my bills. In the end I am not able to afford the ticket because even after short paying my bills I was left with roughly $120 which isn’t enough to book a flight or an airbnb for a week.
I told Ashley I would still try to figure it out and reached out to Aaron once more. He said yeah he has the money now but it doesn’t feel like a good time. The energy is off and he wouldn’t want me to come and something bad happens. I agree because what else would I do? It’s not my money nor does he actually owe me anything.
Ashley reaches out because I forgot to get back to her. To confirm The plan and I explain that I won’t be able to come because I really can’t afford it and it doesn’t make sense for me to put myself in a situation to be in a strange country with no emergency funds.
Ashley decides my friendship with her will fully change and she won’t take my word for anything again because I didn’t come to avoid having a bad trip not taking her feelings into consideration.
In the midst of this I start feeling anger towards both of them because Aaron didn’t come through as promised and Ashley has written me off over choosing responsibilities. My boyfriend said to speak to both of them and express what I am feeling to see what happens. I was able to resolve things with Aaron and come to a mutual understanding. However when I reached out to Ashley, she said she is on a high and doesn’t want to deal with this right now. She is making new friends and would like to clarify that I am no longer her best friend. She will listen to me when I talk but that’s about it. In my eyes that is a therapist not a friend and I already pay someone for that.
Am I wrong if I decide I don’t want to fix things with Ashley? Is she right for deciding I am not worthy of actual friendship?
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Aaron and I in our mutual distress wanted to figure out a solution to our problems. Aaron was unable to fly due to not having papers as was worried his fiancé was lonely and I wanted to be with my partners family. Aaron had promised he would have paid for me to go on my trip before everyone left so my boyfriend’s dad did not count me in the budget for the tickets. With his fiancé leaving it then became I would go be part of the wedding then go stay with his fiancé for a bit. Aaron eventually ended up trying to proposition me for sec in exchange for the spend and that did not rub me right. This eventually carried forward into other issues tied to his affections and expectations of me which resulted in us no longer being friends.
We reconnected in 2022 where he apologized and explained more why he did what he did. My boyfriend asked if I was sure I wanted to welcome him back into my life and that he would trust my judgement if I choose to, which I did. Ashley and I stopped being friends back in 2017 because we had planned a trip for us and our partners. She stated she would use her buddy passes since she was a flight attendant to make the ticket costs cheaper.
The week before the trip it becomes I cannot bring my boyfriend. I was very confused by this. Severely confused by this so I asked why she said she didn’t feel comfortable with it. So I said okay. Don’t use your passes. We will pay for our trip and we can stay with his family. She said she still wanted me to stay with her. So I said okay. We will come, he stays with his family and I stay with you. We can all hang out and grab lunch and stuff and him and I go on dates and such.
Then she explicitly states the trip will not happen if I take him with me. Then she tries to turn it into a trip with people we have not seen from high school to recreate a sleepover we had in the 8th grade that got ruined by our parents. (That’s another story. I will add here my mom does not like Ashley never has) in the end it was all just too much and I decided that I no longer wanted to be friends with her because what she was doing was messed up especially so close to the trip. This on top of all the on and off issues I had with her through the duration of high school just didn’t seem worth it to take into adulthood.
Now 2023 Ashley reached out and apologizes. I was very torn up about the decision but after speaking with my therapist and weighing the risks decided it couldn’t hurt to try again. Both my gf and my bf were opposed to the decision but at the end of the day the choice was mine and I chose forgiveness.
Fall of 2023 my gf and I were planning a Christmas trip and Ashley said she didn’t get to see me while she was I my country because of the traumas she was dealing with with her mom so she would like to see me now. I told her I was going to fly out to spend the holiday with my gf so I didn’t think it would be possible. She stated she would see me in the time before I went to see my GF. I told her because of the trip I couldn’t afford it. She said that’s fine.
She would pay for the ticket for me to see her and I worked out an arrangement with my girlfriend where we would split the fair for the flights between all three locations and said her to do what happened the last time and I said yeah I can trust her. It doesn’t happen and that will be that. Lo and behold it does not happen because Ashley says to me two weeks before oh I overdid my shopping on Black Friday so I can’t buy your plane ticket. Ofc this makes me gf big mad and she says see I told you so. She was also confused why I was not upset. I explained that it wasn’t that I was not upset simply that it doesn’t really change much. I just won’t ask her for anything again. Which I haven’t and won’t.
Fast forward to spring 2024. The group is back together, we’re having weekly calls and our group chat chatting and having a blast. We decide we haven’t spent time as a group since 2017 so we should go see Aaron where he lives. I state very openly that I won’t be able to afford this trip. (Both Aaron and Ashley make a minimum of twice my income). Aaron says that’s fine I’ve got you covered. I question it and explain my hesitances because of both past situations. He said that’s fine don’t worry. I said okay. Let’s do this. The trip is slated for now (may 2024) and encompassed Ashley’s birthday.
A lot of things start happening in Aaron’s life and the ticket purchase gets repeatedly pushed off. This starts to make Ashley antsy so she buys her ticket hoping it pushes Aaron’s to buy my ticket. It does not. In moment of anxiety Ashley starts booking airbnbs for her self and asking how much I trust Aaron to follow through. I assure her that I do trust him follow through which I did. Because outside of the one trip he hasn’t not come through when I needed him too. I also stated at worst I end up buying my own ticket but I need to see what my expenses will look like in the end.
We are down to the wire my ticket is not bought so I start adjusting my bills. In the end I am not able to afford the ticket because even after short paying my bills I was left with roughly $120 which isn’t enough to book a flight or an airbnb for a week.
I told Ashley I would still try to figure it out and reached out to Aaron once more. He said yeah he has the money now but it doesn’t feel like a good time. The energy is off and he wouldn’t want me to come and something bad happens. I agree because what else would I do? It’s not my money nor does he actually owe me anything.
Ashley reaches out because I forgot to get back to her. To confirm The plan and I explain that I won’t be able to come because I really can’t afford it and it doesn’t make sense for me to put myself in a situation to be in a strange country with no emergency funds.
Ashley decides my friendship with her will fully change and she won’t take my word for anything again because I didn’t come to avoid having a bad trip not taking her feelings into consideration.
In the midst of this I start feeling anger towards both of them because Aaron didn’t come through as promised and Ashley has written me off over choosing responsibilities. My boyfriend said to speak to both of them and express what I am feeling to see what happens. I was able to resolve things with Aaron and come to a mutual understanding. However when I reached out to Ashley, she said she is on a high and doesn’t want to deal with this right now. She is making new friends and would like to clarify that I am no longer her best friend. She will listen to me when I talk but that’s about it. In my eyes that is a therapist not a friend and I already pay someone for that.
Am I wrong if I decide I don’t want to fix things with Ashley? Is she right for deciding I am not worthy of actual friendship?
2024.05.14 14:22 Whistles-4018 AITA (21F) is for cancelling on a swim appointment after my housemate (20F) slept in?
My housemate (20F) and I (21F) go swimming together. I have work at 6 so prefer to go in the mornings so I have the rest of the day to get on with other work. Housemate knows this. Im fine going anytime on days I’m not working, as I have the whole day but it’s only on my work days that I express my desire to go on the early side.
We didn’t agree on an exact time to go the previous night but housemate and I agreed to go on the morning so she set alarms to get up at a reasonable time. I got up early naturally and was chilling before getting ready.
Sent a text around 9:30 saying if she’d be up for leaving around 10:30. No response. I assumed she was still asleep so decided to get on with some work. She slept through her alarms and didn’t get up till 12.
At this point I don’t want to go swimming anymore, as even though I don’t work till six, I still have to make & dinner, get ready for work and leave around 5 to get there on time. So by the time we eventually leave for the pool, get there, showedry hair after, it wouldn’t leave me much time to get on with more work or chill before my late shift.
Now I understand I could have solved this problem if I had just woken her up myself, and in hindsight I wish I had. But after explaining as to why I don’t want to go anymore, she’s clearly not happy, saying that she doesn’t understand why my shift starting at 6 means we can’t go anymore and that we hadn’t agreed on a set time (even though she set early alarms, and we had agreed about going some point in the morning).
I take responsibility for not doing more to sticking to my schedule and just wake her up myself, but I’m frustrated that because she slept in - it’s now my fault she’s not going, because I said I wouldn’t. I told her she’s more than welcome to go without me, but she only feels comfortable going swimming with someone else.
So now I’m not sure how to go about the situation. I know I fucked up by not waking her up, but I don’t think it’s entirely my fault that this situation happened, especially as she’s the one who slept in. I just feel like my boundaries about scheduling aren’t being respected here.
So AITA?
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We didn’t agree on an exact time to go the previous night but housemate and I agreed to go on the morning so she set alarms to get up at a reasonable time. I got up early naturally and was chilling before getting ready.
Sent a text around 9:30 saying if she’d be up for leaving around 10:30. No response. I assumed she was still asleep so decided to get on with some work. She slept through her alarms and didn’t get up till 12.
At this point I don’t want to go swimming anymore, as even though I don’t work till six, I still have to make & dinner, get ready for work and leave around 5 to get there on time. So by the time we eventually leave for the pool, get there, showedry hair after, it wouldn’t leave me much time to get on with more work or chill before my late shift.
Now I understand I could have solved this problem if I had just woken her up myself, and in hindsight I wish I had. But after explaining as to why I don’t want to go anymore, she’s clearly not happy, saying that she doesn’t understand why my shift starting at 6 means we can’t go anymore and that we hadn’t agreed on a set time (even though she set early alarms, and we had agreed about going some point in the morning).
I take responsibility for not doing more to sticking to my schedule and just wake her up myself, but I’m frustrated that because she slept in - it’s now my fault she’s not going, because I said I wouldn’t. I told her she’s more than welcome to go without me, but she only feels comfortable going swimming with someone else.
So now I’m not sure how to go about the situation. I know I fucked up by not waking her up, but I don’t think it’s entirely my fault that this situation happened, especially as she’s the one who slept in. I just feel like my boundaries about scheduling aren’t being respected here.
So AITA?
2024.05.14 14:22 Ready_Ad5143 Our Memories and My Wish
We met through normal means, we were swiping on people on an app until someone catches our eye, we just so happened to catch each other’s eyes.
We spoke, and we found out that we matched well. We matched so well that we moved to exchanging numbers not even a few days later, we both would come back to each other at the end of the day and chatted for all hours of the night. You and I would track the times we’d be free and start talking about anything and everything that hindered us or troubled us. We would exchange memes and fun videos that had both of us rolling on the ground.
Shortly after, we had our first date. I didn’t think much about it until I realized that we both were so compatible to the point we didn’t realize the time, you had picked me up at 10am and we left each other at 9pm, we spent the entire day with each other, talking and laughing, listening to each other and gauging each other’s personality.
You were a golden retriever while I was your black cat, you were the sun to my moon, the light to my dark, you were my everything… I hoped at that moment, nothing took you away from me.
We started dating a week later, you confessed after we’ve spoken about our affection for each other, that night was a night I’d never forget, we had just gotten our dinner, you spilled some broth on your shirt and you complained and whined like a child, it made me giggle. I took us to get some coffee, we ended up ordering drinks that were too sweet for our liking, we were keeling over and giggling over the fact we couldn’t finish the drinks due to its sweetness.
The next day, we went on our first date as a couple. It was such a sweet moment, as we laughed and played all day, enjoyed each other’s company and finding our affection for each other slowly deepening.
Days went by, and we realized we were head over heels for each other, we didn’t want to leave each other, messing up pre-made plans to meet up prematurely, and having fun while we’re at it. It was such a moment where I felt alive, I felt happy, and I felt free. I felt nothing could harm us and what we had… until it did.
When you told me about your parents… I was hoping the judgement would change at the end of the day, I might not be someone that your parents wanted, but everyone around you saw how you glowed by speaking about me, or thinking about me, they commented saying you were smiling more, laughing more, you were brighter with the thought of me in your mind. It made me warm inside at the thought.
Shortly after, we shared our first kiss… It was awkward, but it was sweet, and a moment you and I will never forget, the two of us were red in the cheeks, laughing and giggling and basking in the feeling of finally having our first kiss. I was your first.
We got closer after that, I leaned more into you, and you leaned more into me, we were slowly becoming each other, with the habits that we both adapted from each other. We shared our first “I love you”s and it felt right.
That was 3 weeks ago, as suddenly you dropped the bomb that your family hadn’t agreed to our relationship, we knew our relationship was a ticking timebomb, but we didn’t expect it to explode in our face so fast, and on our first month together, right on the dot. I begged for you to keep us a secret, you gave in. I was happy, and for a moment I hoped you were happy too, that I fought for us… Until the next day, you told me your parents had lectured you, and you disappeared from my life.
D, I miss you… I want to back, I want you home in my arms, I want to kiss your forehead and look at you with all the love I have in my body, I want to call the name I have for you, I wanna card my fingers through your hair and I wanna cup your cheeks to kiss your sweet lips. If I had a chance, a single wish that could change our lives right now, I would wish for you to come back, for your parents to give us their blessing wholeheartedly.
I don’t have the guts to find someone else as you are my person, I will wait for you, and I will continue loving you for as long as I shall live. Maybe you’ll move on, but I won’t. I love you too much to let you go…
Yours Forever,
M
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We spoke, and we found out that we matched well. We matched so well that we moved to exchanging numbers not even a few days later, we both would come back to each other at the end of the day and chatted for all hours of the night. You and I would track the times we’d be free and start talking about anything and everything that hindered us or troubled us. We would exchange memes and fun videos that had both of us rolling on the ground.
Shortly after, we had our first date. I didn’t think much about it until I realized that we both were so compatible to the point we didn’t realize the time, you had picked me up at 10am and we left each other at 9pm, we spent the entire day with each other, talking and laughing, listening to each other and gauging each other’s personality.
You were a golden retriever while I was your black cat, you were the sun to my moon, the light to my dark, you were my everything… I hoped at that moment, nothing took you away from me.
We started dating a week later, you confessed after we’ve spoken about our affection for each other, that night was a night I’d never forget, we had just gotten our dinner, you spilled some broth on your shirt and you complained and whined like a child, it made me giggle. I took us to get some coffee, we ended up ordering drinks that were too sweet for our liking, we were keeling over and giggling over the fact we couldn’t finish the drinks due to its sweetness.
The next day, we went on our first date as a couple. It was such a sweet moment, as we laughed and played all day, enjoyed each other’s company and finding our affection for each other slowly deepening.
Days went by, and we realized we were head over heels for each other, we didn’t want to leave each other, messing up pre-made plans to meet up prematurely, and having fun while we’re at it. It was such a moment where I felt alive, I felt happy, and I felt free. I felt nothing could harm us and what we had… until it did.
When you told me about your parents… I was hoping the judgement would change at the end of the day, I might not be someone that your parents wanted, but everyone around you saw how you glowed by speaking about me, or thinking about me, they commented saying you were smiling more, laughing more, you were brighter with the thought of me in your mind. It made me warm inside at the thought.
Shortly after, we shared our first kiss… It was awkward, but it was sweet, and a moment you and I will never forget, the two of us were red in the cheeks, laughing and giggling and basking in the feeling of finally having our first kiss. I was your first.
We got closer after that, I leaned more into you, and you leaned more into me, we were slowly becoming each other, with the habits that we both adapted from each other. We shared our first “I love you”s and it felt right.
That was 3 weeks ago, as suddenly you dropped the bomb that your family hadn’t agreed to our relationship, we knew our relationship was a ticking timebomb, but we didn’t expect it to explode in our face so fast, and on our first month together, right on the dot. I begged for you to keep us a secret, you gave in. I was happy, and for a moment I hoped you were happy too, that I fought for us… Until the next day, you told me your parents had lectured you, and you disappeared from my life.
D, I miss you… I want to back, I want you home in my arms, I want to kiss your forehead and look at you with all the love I have in my body, I want to call the name I have for you, I wanna card my fingers through your hair and I wanna cup your cheeks to kiss your sweet lips. If I had a chance, a single wish that could change our lives right now, I would wish for you to come back, for your parents to give us their blessing wholeheartedly.
I don’t have the guts to find someone else as you are my person, I will wait for you, and I will continue loving you for as long as I shall live. Maybe you’ll move on, but I won’t. I love you too much to let you go…
Yours Forever,
M
2024.05.14 14:21 Clean_Alps_5768 Night time tics
I am not diagnosed at present, just want to put that out there (looking into it in case there is some info that I will learn to help with some facets of life).
One thing that troubles me is that I have tics at night time that are to do with my nose and the way I breath. I will often keep my partner awake at night by forcing air through my nose without realizing it. Though sometimes I do realise as I get a sense of relief from short bursts of exhalation through my nose as I feel it somehow clears my nasal passage (never with intent to blow anything out as there is nothing to blow out anyway) and I feel fine again, for a minute.
I also have sleep issues at times and was prescribed THC for this which I take as an oil. I have found that once the THC takes effect (usually 2 hours after ingestion) the tics reduce by about 90%.
The problem is I don’t want to be relying on this as there are several issues:
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One thing that troubles me is that I have tics at night time that are to do with my nose and the way I breath. I will often keep my partner awake at night by forcing air through my nose without realizing it. Though sometimes I do realise as I get a sense of relief from short bursts of exhalation through my nose as I feel it somehow clears my nasal passage (never with intent to blow anything out as there is nothing to blow out anyway) and I feel fine again, for a minute.
I also have sleep issues at times and was prescribed THC for this which I take as an oil. I have found that once the THC takes effect (usually 2 hours after ingestion) the tics reduce by about 90%.
The problem is I don’t want to be relying on this as there are several issues:
- I do get inebriated and while it’s not an issue generally due to the fact I’m laying in bed on my way to sleep, this could pose problems in the future at random times
- I’m finding I have to keep increasing my medication to get the same relief
- This also means the cost of medication is continuing to rise and affordability is becoming a problem
2024.05.14 14:21 hermajestymuse AITA For Getting My Coworker And Manager Fired?
I work at a local spa outside of my home country. It is especially popular with tourists and I work most days of the week just for extra income. I moved here from Russia last year, having received this offer after reaching out to the boss/manager of the establishment. The exact work I do is risqué so I won’t go into much detail here, but I think you get the idea.
I have been working here since I turned 18, so for about one year now, almost two. When I reached out to the manager online she seemed very friendly and kind. Offering me a place to stay if I could make enough money. The spa also takes portions of your earnings. I agreed because this is a new place for me and I don’t know anyone here. When I first arrived from Russia and came to meet my new manager I felt like I wasn’t really welcome. She did a small interview with me, asking if I had done this kind of work before and if I had any experience, how I would interact with clients, and she also asked me where I arrived from. I told her I arrived from Russia and her demeanor changed. She was cold and said ‘oh, I didn’t realize you came from there’ which confused me. I had told her I was specifically coming from Russia beforehand but I don’t know if she forgot, and she had issues with this because of the current climate. However, she still hired me and I needed the job so figured it will be fine.
Fast forward to 2024 and the entire time I have been working at this spa, I have not been treated fairly. Most of my pay has been taken compared to the other girls, the other working girls don’t interact with me unless it’s to specifically insult me for where I’m from. I have been called countless insults specifically related to being from Russia. One of my coworkers is also Ukrainian. I tried being friendly with her when I first got this position but she told me to never speak with her because she doesn’t associate with ‘Russian war criminal scum.’ I have been getting really tired of being punching bag for everyone. I understand emotions are strong but I don’t think I ever did anything to personally hurt someone. However literally no one at my position likes me and even some people outside of work won’t talk to be when they find out I’m Russian. So the lines are blurred between me being horrible for just being Russian and me not deserving this treatment. My boss has also called me names and called my hometown (Chelyabinsk) a Siberian sh*thole that of course I wanted to flee. She has also said that she has no idea why I was let into Budapest.
Where I might be TA is getting my coworker and manager fired. This happened when I met the owner of the establishment, who I actually never spoke to before. He came in for a random check-in to see how the business was doing. My manager was taking care of scheduling in her office so I greeted him. He welcomed me and said he wasn’t told I was working there and asked how I was finding my time working at the spa. I told him everything, from my pay being cut to how my manager and the one specific coworker had been treating me. I felt like I was venting because I’m alone in a foreign country and didn’t have anyone to discuss this with before. He had a serious look on his face and told me he would look into the issues I was having. This leads to me just finding out that both my coworker and manager were fired. I’m shocked by this because I honestly didn’t expect them to get fired. I thought maybe he would speak with them and tell them to stop treating me poorly, but no. He just fired them both. He told me he would be coming in to manage the business until he finds a new manager. I feel guilty because I don’t want them to lose their livelihood, but the entire time working with them was complete torment. I don’t know if I could have clarified that I didn’t want them to lose their work, but I honestly didn’t know this would happen. Am I TA?
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I have been working here since I turned 18, so for about one year now, almost two. When I reached out to the manager online she seemed very friendly and kind. Offering me a place to stay if I could make enough money. The spa also takes portions of your earnings. I agreed because this is a new place for me and I don’t know anyone here. When I first arrived from Russia and came to meet my new manager I felt like I wasn’t really welcome. She did a small interview with me, asking if I had done this kind of work before and if I had any experience, how I would interact with clients, and she also asked me where I arrived from. I told her I arrived from Russia and her demeanor changed. She was cold and said ‘oh, I didn’t realize you came from there’ which confused me. I had told her I was specifically coming from Russia beforehand but I don’t know if she forgot, and she had issues with this because of the current climate. However, she still hired me and I needed the job so figured it will be fine.
Fast forward to 2024 and the entire time I have been working at this spa, I have not been treated fairly. Most of my pay has been taken compared to the other girls, the other working girls don’t interact with me unless it’s to specifically insult me for where I’m from. I have been called countless insults specifically related to being from Russia. One of my coworkers is also Ukrainian. I tried being friendly with her when I first got this position but she told me to never speak with her because she doesn’t associate with ‘Russian war criminal scum.’ I have been getting really tired of being punching bag for everyone. I understand emotions are strong but I don’t think I ever did anything to personally hurt someone. However literally no one at my position likes me and even some people outside of work won’t talk to be when they find out I’m Russian. So the lines are blurred between me being horrible for just being Russian and me not deserving this treatment. My boss has also called me names and called my hometown (Chelyabinsk) a Siberian sh*thole that of course I wanted to flee. She has also said that she has no idea why I was let into Budapest.
Where I might be TA is getting my coworker and manager fired. This happened when I met the owner of the establishment, who I actually never spoke to before. He came in for a random check-in to see how the business was doing. My manager was taking care of scheduling in her office so I greeted him. He welcomed me and said he wasn’t told I was working there and asked how I was finding my time working at the spa. I told him everything, from my pay being cut to how my manager and the one specific coworker had been treating me. I felt like I was venting because I’m alone in a foreign country and didn’t have anyone to discuss this with before. He had a serious look on his face and told me he would look into the issues I was having. This leads to me just finding out that both my coworker and manager were fired. I’m shocked by this because I honestly didn’t expect them to get fired. I thought maybe he would speak with them and tell them to stop treating me poorly, but no. He just fired them both. He told me he would be coming in to manage the business until he finds a new manager. I feel guilty because I don’t want them to lose their livelihood, but the entire time working with them was complete torment. I don’t know if I could have clarified that I didn’t want them to lose their work, but I honestly didn’t know this would happen. Am I TA?
2024.05.14 14:20 bitchcakelover Anyone know any repaint artists?
I’m looking to commission quite a basic repaint, someone who does as close to possible standard repaints, like factory! So no extensive blushing or penciling, just clean lines and to the same standard of the factory dolls style of makeup!
Was hoping if anyone has any artist they know open for commissions with a social media of past commissions they could comment below so we could all see them for future reference! I’m the UK but if it would benefit other people please feel free to share artists globally!
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Was hoping if anyone has any artist they know open for commissions with a social media of past commissions they could comment below so we could all see them for future reference! I’m the UK but if it would benefit other people please feel free to share artists globally!
2024.05.14 14:20 cherrystem24 Package missing since the 24th
Okay so I ordered Victoria’s Secret and it said it was leaving Pitney Bowes and going to USPS on the 24th. No movement at all since then, USPS never got it. I have tried contacting Pitney Bowes and they do not find missing packages apparently. I tried contacting USPS on chat and they don’t either. Tracking doesn’t show it delivered or lost or anything, just in transit but not moving!! I can’t file for a lost package because it never said delivered. What do I do? I did contact VS and they already made it right and I’m happy with that. But what I ordered is no longer available so I mean, I wanted it and I can’t even reorder it. I was just kind of hoping someone could tell me if it was gone forever at least haha. Anyone know what I could do?
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2024.05.14 14:18 BoomBamBiggity Low sex drive due to childhood SA
My (28 F) first memory of it was around age 5 or 6 by the hands of a family member. He was a pre teen at the time. I try to tell myself that maybe someone he trusted did it to him first. I sometimes have dreams of earlier encounters from different family members but I’m unsure it they’re memories or just nightmares. The SA continued on with other family members (male and female, nobody over the age of 16) until around 8th grade. I was ashamed but somehow thought it was normal??
I now suffer from anxiety, depression, Bipolar disorder…
I was a promiscuous teen, groomed by older men at that point but always craving time and attention (not interested in the sex at all, however it seemed like an even exchange).
Now I’m in a long term relationship but I’ve never enjoyed or wanted sex with my person. It always feels like a chore. I get guilted into it constantly, even after expressing I don’t want to. He just keeps asking and asking until I say fine.
I’m also questioning my sexuality more and more each day. I fantasize about wanting great sex, but maybe I just want closeness and for someone to make me feel good for once.
Therapy has only done so much. How can I undo this pain and trauma?
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I now suffer from anxiety, depression, Bipolar disorder…
I was a promiscuous teen, groomed by older men at that point but always craving time and attention (not interested in the sex at all, however it seemed like an even exchange).
Now I’m in a long term relationship but I’ve never enjoyed or wanted sex with my person. It always feels like a chore. I get guilted into it constantly, even after expressing I don’t want to. He just keeps asking and asking until I say fine.
I’m also questioning my sexuality more and more each day. I fantasize about wanting great sex, but maybe I just want closeness and for someone to make me feel good for once.
Therapy has only done so much. How can I undo this pain and trauma?
2024.05.14 14:17 Brit_B Suggestions on making a donation
 | I bought my house a year ago and I’m finally renovating our bathroom. The house came with a Safe Step walk in tub - unfortunately we’re removing the tub and replacing it with a standard setup. submitted by Brit_B to longisland [link] [comments] I’m looking for recommendations on where/if I can donate the tub. It’s brand new, purchased in 2019 (I think the woman used it for less than a year before the house went on the market), I have all of the receipts as well. It would absolutely break my heart to have to toss this thing, knowing they are SO ungodly expensive, and, it’s something that could help someone in need of assistance or independence. I’m not sure if there are places that accept this sort of thing but this is my last ditch effort for finding it a new home! Are there organizations that build/furnish homes on the island?? Before you ask, I’m not considering keeping it - I have a new baby and a senior dog and need a tub they can both use. Any lead helps! |
2024.05.14 14:17 MojitoKitty Please read and do not judge. I beg.
I was raised a catholic but they do not believe in reincarnation. I have long ways to go in terms of religion but I absolutely believe in God and Jesus. However, I am very much so intimidated by the thought of God and death. I have always dealt with this feeling of derealization, like I am unreal in this life, but at the same time, a familiarity with the world. I feel a deep connection with the past, particularly with the 1800s-1900s. Despite this, I am unsure of how many lives my soul may have lived. I have not had the privilege of experiencing past life regression therapy. I am not sure whether to trust it, though I have felt drawn to it since I have learned of its existence. I have been afraid of falling subject to scams, so I’ve avoided many therapists and fortune tellers. I once heard a woman a couple years ago in a restaurant talking about her past life she learned about through a therapy session but couldn’t make too many words out. Still, I was shocked and felt envious of her experience, wishing I could learn about my past life/lives. This was much after I’d first learned about past life regression therapy.
I’ve been fascinated with the whole concept of reincarnation since a young child and was told by my mother and some others I was wise beyond my years. I picked up English fairly quickly. However, when I turned 17 or 18, I saw a picture in black and white of Stralsund, Germany. I recognized the fact that it was a picture in Germany though I was not educated about Germany in the past, nor hardly a single thing on world war 2. I somehow knew this picture was from Germany and it brought a very strange feeling to me deep down. From then on, I researched pictures and towns in Germany as well as the language. I found the language easier to learn than Spanish. I feel deeply connected to Germany. I’ve had various dreams of villages, and a certain church that included a cemetery, though I am not sure which country this is from. I looked in the mirror and suddenly thought of the name “Laura” and since then have felt that my past life name from a certain time was Laura. I feel a deep connection to church bells and the feeling of soft grass beneath my feet as well. I often have a restless sensation and a feeling that I am not truly home. It saddens me deeply. I’ve had many visions that I cannot explain, and was wondering if anyone could provide me with some insight. Anything.
Though I have adapted to many things within this time, I feel that my soul belongs elsewhere. I feel as though I am living behind a mask to become accepted and that it is not the real me. I have a set in stone belief that i want to be buried under the ground instead of cremated. I am very argumentative about it. I am fond of old fashioned poetry, fascinated by gothic gravestones, and gothic architecture. I long to be one with the earth and have written poems about it. I’ve cried when thinking about reincarnation and things from the 1800s-1900s. I don’t feel new to this earth but at the time feel clueless about so many things in this century. I feel so much anxiety that never seems to leave my side. It is the most loyal companion I’ve had since I was born. I was unfortunately born with anxiety that has held me back immensely from discovering so many things about myself, including this aspect. I have considered myself a complex individual with an old soul for many years, and am unsure of what to do about it??
I wonder constantly if someone has ever felt a similar way. I feel that I’ll never find a soul that understands what I’m going though, and I am sick of feeling alone in this cold world.
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I’ve been fascinated with the whole concept of reincarnation since a young child and was told by my mother and some others I was wise beyond my years. I picked up English fairly quickly. However, when I turned 17 or 18, I saw a picture in black and white of Stralsund, Germany. I recognized the fact that it was a picture in Germany though I was not educated about Germany in the past, nor hardly a single thing on world war 2. I somehow knew this picture was from Germany and it brought a very strange feeling to me deep down. From then on, I researched pictures and towns in Germany as well as the language. I found the language easier to learn than Spanish. I feel deeply connected to Germany. I’ve had various dreams of villages, and a certain church that included a cemetery, though I am not sure which country this is from. I looked in the mirror and suddenly thought of the name “Laura” and since then have felt that my past life name from a certain time was Laura. I feel a deep connection to church bells and the feeling of soft grass beneath my feet as well. I often have a restless sensation and a feeling that I am not truly home. It saddens me deeply. I’ve had many visions that I cannot explain, and was wondering if anyone could provide me with some insight. Anything.
Though I have adapted to many things within this time, I feel that my soul belongs elsewhere. I feel as though I am living behind a mask to become accepted and that it is not the real me. I have a set in stone belief that i want to be buried under the ground instead of cremated. I am very argumentative about it. I am fond of old fashioned poetry, fascinated by gothic gravestones, and gothic architecture. I long to be one with the earth and have written poems about it. I’ve cried when thinking about reincarnation and things from the 1800s-1900s. I don’t feel new to this earth but at the time feel clueless about so many things in this century. I feel so much anxiety that never seems to leave my side. It is the most loyal companion I’ve had since I was born. I was unfortunately born with anxiety that has held me back immensely from discovering so many things about myself, including this aspect. I have considered myself a complex individual with an old soul for many years, and am unsure of what to do about it??
I wonder constantly if someone has ever felt a similar way. I feel that I’ll never find a soul that understands what I’m going though, and I am sick of feeling alone in this cold world.
2024.05.14 14:15 Used-Bathroom-5645 diagnosis
i basically just got visually diagnosed with herpes / waiting for swab but he confirmed it was probably type 2 as it was on my genitials and i feel so ashamed and depressed. i don’t feel like i can tell my friends or family so it’s just going to be this horrible secret i’ll have to keep from them for my whole life. i also really feel like my dating time is over and i’m only 19 (female) i cant believe i could have been so stupid and ruined my chances of being with someone. i feel sick to my stomach and want to cry so badly but i’m in public. really any comforting advice would be appreciated, i kind of knew it would be herpes when i saw the sores but i didn’t want to believe it. i don’t know what to do :( i also have exams in 2 days and i can’t even think of studying with this on my mind
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2024.05.14 14:15 Historical-Wash-2577 Do some people seek out limerent individuals?
I just went NC with my LO of 4 years, hopefully for good. I’ve tried this multiple times before but I’m really trying to make a promise to myself to stick to it. I’m noticing a pattern of people I feel limerence to though… we both “love bomb” I guess you could say. Sharing our deepest thoughts about each other and how close we feel and how magnetic it all is. They eventually pull away as I try to get closer and closer. I know I have a huge anxious attachment style and normally go for avoidants or fearful avoidants. But my relationship always ends with them basically putting me down and telling me I’m out of my mind crazy. But I always end back with this people! I think personally if someone was crazy obsessed with me and it was causing stress in my life, I’d never look back after leaving… I 100% understand limerence does make you act crazy and I am forsure neurotic. I truly don’t know what a healthy relationship is. I will always take the blame. But whenever I try to express that the other person caused me some pain too for pulling away, they take no responsibility and that’s when I’m called crazy and made to feel like I’m causing all this drama in their life. And then we end up linking back up years later and the same stuff happens. Am I just feeding these people’s egos with the my limerence? I’m so tired of things going like this… I never want to experience this again. I’m so tired of the shame I feel.
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2024.05.14 14:15 sunsetsandbouquets Who else can’t handle corporate jobs? I become the worst version of myself …
My tolerance for stress is significantly lower compared to others. This has affected my self esteem as many of my friends have high up jobs whereas I could barely handle being an Executive Assistant without wanting to tear my hair out.
These environments tends to lead to heightened anxiety and paranoia and I snowball….
To cope with the demands of my office jobs, I've found myself relying on excessive drinking, weekend partying, and struggling with food, waking up at 3-5am and doom scrolling or punishing my body with horrid HIIT workouts until I want to collapse.
I often vacillate between feeling hyper-vigilant and completely demotivated, tearful then irritable or cranky and tend to overanalyze my colleagues' expressions, constantly seeking their approval while simultaneously distrusting their intentions. The insincerity and harshness of workplace interactions only exacerbate these feelings of inauthenticity.
I’d love to have been able to play the corporate game and actually got somewhere at 30 but it’s been near impossible when just trying to survive each day and not be paranoid.
I’ve been labelled over emotional and too sensitive in the work place and I’m so embarrassed, I cry veryyyy easily (e.g someone’s tone is too harsh) and I’ve realised working in these roles is like a minefield for BPD individuals. How does anyone climb the corporate ladder ! The absolute roller coaster is exhausting I can go from laughing with a colleague and sharing birthday cake in the kitchen to the next minute crying in the bathroom and wanting to quit due to being criticised or feeling stepped on or left out.
Can anyone relate?
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These environments tends to lead to heightened anxiety and paranoia and I snowball….
To cope with the demands of my office jobs, I've found myself relying on excessive drinking, weekend partying, and struggling with food, waking up at 3-5am and doom scrolling or punishing my body with horrid HIIT workouts until I want to collapse.
I often vacillate between feeling hyper-vigilant and completely demotivated, tearful then irritable or cranky and tend to overanalyze my colleagues' expressions, constantly seeking their approval while simultaneously distrusting their intentions. The insincerity and harshness of workplace interactions only exacerbate these feelings of inauthenticity.
I’d love to have been able to play the corporate game and actually got somewhere at 30 but it’s been near impossible when just trying to survive each day and not be paranoid.
I’ve been labelled over emotional and too sensitive in the work place and I’m so embarrassed, I cry veryyyy easily (e.g someone’s tone is too harsh) and I’ve realised working in these roles is like a minefield for BPD individuals. How does anyone climb the corporate ladder ! The absolute roller coaster is exhausting I can go from laughing with a colleague and sharing birthday cake in the kitchen to the next minute crying in the bathroom and wanting to quit due to being criticised or feeling stepped on or left out.
Can anyone relate?