I don t need this and that boy you re my all

About 12 months ago during a really hard time in my long term relationship, I went out, got drunk and kissed someone. I was out with my friend at the time who recently got out of a toxic relationship and they were chatting with the friend of the person I kissed. Now my partner found out 3 months ago and we’ve been working through it. At the start my partner asked me to never speak to my friend again because they’re to blame (which I completely disagree, it was my mistake and my friend never encouraged me) I said I wouldn’t do that but was happy to take a step back while we navigated the betrayal. 2 months in and we made a lot of progress and I started talking to my friend again who is a massive support system for me and a dear friend I’ve had for longer than I’ve known my partner. My partner is furious that I am talking to my friend and is back to wanting me to never speak to them again. What do I do?
For a little extra context my partner has always has an essence of the need to control things.. they have never liked this friend of mine and it feels like this is an excuse to place an ultimatum and get rid of my friend forever. I know I am 100% in the wrong for the kiss so don’t come at me for that, it’s about whether the ultimatum is reasonable or not.

Avrobio - Deep Value Arbitrage Potential on Reverse Merger With Tectonic Therapeutic $AVRO
After a very lengthy strategic review process beginning in July 2023, Avrobio announced in January 2024 that they would pursue a reverse merger with Tectonic Therapeutic.
The shareholder vote for the proposed merger is on June 11th, 2024, and the merger is expected to close shortly after (before the end of June).
The deal is priced with Avrobio bringing $65 million cash at closing, and in turn current shareholders will own approximately 22.3% of the new company listing under the ticker symbol TECX. If Avrobio closes with cash greater than $65.5 million, the ownership percentage will increase, and Avrobio estimates they will bring $65 to $75 million at closing.
Tectonic has raised or entered agreements for a $130.7 million private placement, and these investors will own 37.9% of the new company, with current Tectonic shareholders owning 39.8%.
Avrobio shareholders will receive CVR’s for all existing IP, should the new company be able to find interested parties.The full merger prospectus can be viewed here
Value, Arbitrage, & Upcoming Catalysts
Avrobio had a closing price of $1.23 on May 10th, 2024. The new syndicate of investors bringing $130.7 million are effectively buying into the company at a 39.3% premium to what Avro is trading at today.
There is a high likelihood based on Avrobio’s Q1 2024 financials that they will bring closer to $75 million cash at closing, swelling the premium that the new institutional investors are paying. Avrobio had over $90 million cash at the end of Q1, with a burn rate of ~ $7m in the quarter.
I expect this discount to narrow or close entirely should the deal close successfully, with the possibility that Avro trades at a slight premium to the private placement due to shareholders receiving CVRs on existing IP.
Tectonic Therapeutic is planning to release confirmatory Phase 1A data mid 2024 for their lead asset TX45, and I would expect this data to be released very shortly before or after the completed merger and listing of the new company.
Eli Lily, also working on a competing biologic of Relaxin, is releasing P2 data sometime in Q3 of 2024. Tectonic’s Relaxin has early indications of being best in class, so should Lily’s data be promising, this could be a major external catalyst for Tectonic.
CVRs
Avrobio shareholders at the time of closing will receive CVRs for all existing assets, and there is always the potential that there could be an unexpected pay day in the future should Tectonic’s management find a buyer.
In June 2023, Avrobio sold their Cystinosis Gene Therapy program to Novartis for $87.5 million along with a 12 month license to their PLATO platform.
The Gaucher gene therapy program was at a similar stage of development prior to Avro announcing that they were seeking strategic alternatives, so should any of their remaining gene therapy programs have value, it would likely be Gaucher.
They also have earlier stage gene therapy programs for Hunter syndrome, Pompe, and Fabry.
There isn’t a lot of evidence to support the idea that these programs will find a buyer, but the potential is always there.
The Plato platform may actually deliver some value however, as Novartis’s license to use it expires in June 2024, so there is a chance that they either purchase it or re-license it to continue with their Cystinosis program.
I don’t personally assign a lot of value to the CVR’s, but there is a non-zero chance that they may deliver significant value in the future to Avrobio shareholders.
About Tectonic Therapeutic
Tectonic’s management is composed of top talent with a strong history of success both in drug approvals and exits.Tectonic is a biotechnology company focused on the discovery and development of therapeutic proteins and antibodies that modulate the activity of GPCRs. The discovery of biologics that can modulate GPCRs has historically been quite challenging. Tectonic has developed a proprietary technology platform called GEODe™, with the aim of addressing these challenges to enable the discovery and development of GPCR targeted biologic medicines that can modify the course of disease. Tectonic focuses on areas of significant unmet medical need, often where therapeutic options are poor or nonexistent, as these are areas where new medicines have the potential to improve patient quality of life.Tectonic’s lead asset, TX000045 (“TX45”) is an Fc-relaxin fusion molecule that activates the RXFP1 receptor, the GPCR target of the hormone, relaxin. Relaxin is an endogenous protein, expressed at low levels in both men and women. In normal human physiology, relaxin is upregulated during pregnancy where it exerts vasodilative effects, reduces systemic and pulmonary vascular resistance and increases cardiac output to accommodate the increased demand for oxygen and nutrients from the developing fetus. Relaxin also exerts anti-fibrotic effects on pelvic ligaments to facilitate delivery of the baby. It has long been hypothesized that these unique dual aspects of relaxin biology may offer therapeutic potential in the treatment of cardiovascular disease. Unfortunately, the development of a viable therapeutic has been challenging, primarily because of relaxin’s very short half-life. Tectonic believes TX45’s pharmacological profile, the direct result of applying Tectonic’s protein engineering capabilities, has the potential to overcome the limitations that have impeded previous attempts to develop relaxin as a therapeutic protein. To interrogate the therapeutic potential of relaxin, Tectonic has identified Group 2 Pulmonary Hypertension (“PH”) in the setting of Heart Failure with Preserved Ejection Fraction (“HFpEF”) referred to as Group 2 PH / HFpEF hereafter, as the initial disease setting. Tectonic hypothesizes that in this setting, treatment with relaxin could improve hemodynamics through effects on vasodilation and potential remodeling in both the pulmonary vessels and the heart which could translate into a clinically meaningful improvement in exercise capacity in these patients. Clinical trials are planned to confirm this hypothesis. Despite this belief, Tectonic’s business carries substantial risks, including Tectonic’s limited experience in therapeutic discovery and development, and the risk that that the platform may never result in the regulatory approval of a product candidate.
Conclusion
Purchasing Avrobio at current pricing offers a very significant discount to the valuation private placement investors are assigning to the new company Tectonic.
With a high probability of the deal closing, the risk/reward on Avro is quite attractive both from an arbitrage and catalyst vantage point.
Should the deal fail to close, Avro investors would still likely profit in the event of liquidation, though the process would be time consuming and the potential upside is significantly less than what the merger offers.
Disclosure
Author owns a long position in Avrobio shares

So I got 2 DBQs back that are very in my favor as far as the ROMs go and all that, but the C&P examiner did not diagnose. The examiner told me that they could not diagnose and that I needed to get diagnosis from my PCP. The DBQs and Medical Opinions read this verbiage, “less likely than not connected to service due to no diagnosis in Veteran’s records. The two conditions are TMJ secondary to PTSD and IBS gulf war presumptive. I did what the examiner said and got diagnosed by my PCP, which I uploaded the official diagnosis for both conditions to my claim. I then had my PCP write me a nexus letter for TMJ to PTSD and give me a new DBQ for IBS (examiner didn’t really fill out the IBS DBQ, but did fill out the TMJ one in my favor). I uploaded those files to my claim.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can further strengthen this claim? Do you think I have helped myself by taking my examiners advice? Thank you. This is a new claim by the way. My VSO is who told me to go to the C&P exam without diagnosis because they thought that examiners diagnose on the spot.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He is mostly a really great and thoughtful partner. He makes meals for me when I’m feeling down, always has the house picked up when he knows I’ve had a long day, always thinks of me when he is out and about and surprises me with little treats. He treats me really well, and I can tell how much he loves me. That being said, we have an issue of not knowing how to manage escalation. We both get defensive in arguments, but he begins to talk constantly to where I can’t get a word in or even follow what he is talking about anymore. He gets so heated and just starts ranting. He doesn’t call me names, but he will say that I’m manipulative, that his life matters too, and will try to bait me by making comments ab how the relationship should end. He gets mad when I say ok and tells me I should fight for it and that’s why he said it. He gets louder and louder and more frustrated, and I usually end up crying and not talking until it ends. He will usually say something about how now he’s going to feel bad and crazy for freaking out and how it’s not fair that I cry. I usually try to end the argument when it starts escalating, but he won’t let it go and will just keep pushing even if I say it’s getting out of control. Once it ends, he will end up saying that he was wrong, that he doesn’t know why he freaks out, that something is wrong with him, that I don’t deserve that, that he loves me. It takes me some time, but I usually eventually come around because he really did have an awful childhood and I think he has a lot of anger that needs dealt with and he really is sweet and kind. It’s like he blacks out during these times.
We have been looking for engagement rings, and the other day I told him that the raising of his voice really has to stop because I’m not comfortable getting married if this is going to continue. He was 100% on board with that. Five days later, he freaked out and blew up. This time it felt worse because it was in our car at a gas station where I felt like people could see. I was so embarrassed. It continued on the ride home and then outside of our home where anybody could have heard. I didn’t say a word the entire time, but I did start that conversation when I could’ve just not but I wanted to communicate my feelings.
This is where I’m stuck. I think my bf could tell this was a breaking point for me. He bought seven books about managing anger, how to talk to your partner like you love them, etc. He also asked me to help him find an individual therapist, and we attended an intro couples counseling session together. I know he cares and will do anything to make our relationship work.
However, I don’t know if the damage has been done or not. It’s up to me to decide if I want to continue the relationship or not because it’s clear that he does. But I don’t know how I feel. I feel really sad because I do love him, but I am also tired. I told him he would never let someone else talk to me like that and he’d never let his dad yell at his mom like that. He agreed with both of those statements. I can tell how guilty he feels. I know he is putting in effort now, and I told him idk how I feel or if I can continue in the relationship or not. He’s offered me space. Some moments I feel great and normal with him and some I get really sad when I think about it.
The counselor said this is a common issue that he can help us work through. I know we can fix it, but it’s happened often enough that I don’t know if it’s too late or not. I feel guilty that he wants to work on it and I might not.
I wouldn’t say that this happens often necessarily, but it did start happening very early on in our relationship and is still happening.
Any insight is welcome, as this isn’t something I can bring to family or friends without it becoming a “thing.”

Been around 2 years or so now (genuinely can’t remember, been too busy) since my(M28) ex(M42) discarded me for someone younger. More details about that in previous posts, but recently he’s been trying really, REALLY hard to get me to talk to him (kid was a rebound, ended rather quick) and I haven’t talked or texted since. He’s Hispanic, so am I and almost all my immediate family, and my Mom wanted to go out for Cinco De Mayo. Guy runs a Mexican food truck, he was bound to be at the venue and reluctantly I accepted the invite from her cause we’ve had a rocky relationship and the bar is the only way she can get me to open up sadly.
Right before entering, I get stopped by a few friends I haven’t seen in years with their firstborn son. In conversation, the food truck is RIGHT in front of the door, and immediately he pops out and starts talking to my Mom in Spanish (can follow but not speak) saying “your son won’t talk to me”. She follows with “well what the hell did you do to him”, made me wanna hug her so much but doubling down, the taco guys from the truck started staring and saying hi one by one. Tried ignoring it, said by to friends and waddled inside.
Sitting down, it only took about 20 minutes or less for him to “casually” drop in and force himself into the conversation, rapid fire texting me minutes beforehand with “happy 5th man” and “how you doing”. Almost immediately he took the time to give me a hug and spoke in the ear with “I’d like to be friends with you”, ngl all I heard was “I feel guilty” but told him with sincerity that that’s “gunna take time”. Granted there was so much I wanted to ripped out of him and held back “time I’ll never get back”, but public event and he’s a vendor. He pulled back and looked at me funny, they said his goodbyes. This happened a few more times, once with his brother wondering around the area and him coming straight to us with tacos. After having couple beers and 4 margaritas, we were done and leaving. He pops up one last time and speaks purely in Spanish to my Mom, bring up certain things I did for him (giving bear meat, promise of moose tounge, making a homemade recipe for kiwi salsa, etc.) and asking for it again. We both looked at each other in amusement and said our thanks/goodbyes. We gave them 30 to cover the food, my Mom’s idea, cause she didn’t want me to owe him anything. Since then, I don’t know how to feel about the experience. Loved hanging with my Mom and we had a blast, but I think it came at a cost, not sure exactly what though.
I should mention my Mom claimed she knew exactly what he was trying to do, drunkenly saying “hE wAnTs YoU MiHo” and how disappointed she’d be if I even considered talking to him again. That alone was a sobering moment, but what do you guys think of this?

I am mostly a table game player so typically stay away from the slots, but my casino is giving me nearly $3000 in slot play this month and don’t want it all to go to waste. I get on average $750 each week to spend.
I just got on Dragon link with $175 of free slot play and won $450! Not sure if that’s a big hit in relation to my free slot play but I’ll take any free money!
What I need advice on is how do I know which machines I should use my free play on to get the most bang for my buck.
The only rule I stand by is I do max lines with a $10 bet per spin. Any suggestions would be much appreciated !

A while back I posted here about me not being able to check my ex’s social media because I was scared of what I might see (her in a relationship, pregnancy etc).
To give you guys some insight on the situation, me and her first got into a relationship when we were teenagers and she was my first love. The first time we were together I self sabotaged the relationship and I left her, some time went pass and I began to miss her so I reached out and she rejected my advances, months go by and she comes back beginning of Covid and we are together again until she decides she “outgrew me” and leaves me after 3 months of us talking (my first heartbreak). That was 4 years ago.
We follow each other on social media but after the situation I’ve muted her entire page and blocked her posts and stories from my feed. But for some reason it was eating me up that I wasn’t able to check her profile even after so many years. I told people that I was over her but if you’re over someone seeing their profile shouldn’t be hard right ?
Well a couple months after I posted here explaining how I couldn’t check her page, I’ve actually met someone new who honestly makes me feel happy, much happier than I was with her, this person made me realize that there are people out there that can show you much better.
So today I decided I’d face my fears and I went on her page. It didn’t hurt at all, she’s still beautiful , still living her life and that’s okay. If I’m being honest… looking at her was like looking at a completely new person because the person that I was love with didn’t exist anymore. This was my nail in the coffin, I knew me and her would never get back together but me checking her page not caring if she was with someone else or if she was expecting a baby or anything proved that to me officially. After so many years of being scared it’s finally over.
It does get better guys, whether it’s in a few months or a few years it gets better, trust me.

Ants keep coming back to my car?
Ants keep coming back to my car in my work parking lot
I need help. I have never had ants in my car before even though I’ve never kept it pristine. I started noticing tiny black ants in my car 4 weeks ago at work. It was not the cleanest, I had some mostly empty snack wrappers so they must have been attracted by the food crumbs. I cleaned out the junk in my car then had it professionally washed (exterior) and cleaned (interior) and still noticed some ants. I’ve washed my car 3x since, regularly wiped down non-fabric surfaces using Clorox and wateDawn/peppermintoil/lemon oil mixture, and vacuumed it at least once a week. It’s the cleanest it has ever been. There is no longer any food, nor any sticky residue, that I can see. Sprayed Raid perimeter spray all over last week. I typically see the ants on my dashboard, crawling into the crevice between the windshield and the driver’s/passenger’s window, and only once on the seat and once crawling into the console. Typically a few a day, though more like 10 one day I parked under a tree at work (after I thought they were gone from a very hot day the day before). After a high pressure manual car wash and another vacuuum and wiping down surfaces with vinegar water on Friday, I saw 0 ants over my 3 day weekend. Then I parked at work this morning, checked on my car 2 hours later, and saw at least 6 ants on the exterior (all over). Side note- it is going to rain today, i notice they increase when it rains. I have adjusted where I park at work (away from trees and visible ant hills) but I work in a very wooded office park that has probably thousands of ant colonies (not unusual to see like 5 ant hills in a single sidewalk crack). At my apt I park near grass and under a tree but I don’t usually see ants in my car and never on my car when at my apt. I have hesitated to use terro because I don’t want to attract more ants, as well as the sheer number of ants at my work place. Why do the ants keep coming back and what should I do?

Today’s review is for Tales of the EdgeWorlds Volume 1 by Shawn Frost. I was given an ARC copy back in July of 2023, but didn’t finish reading it until recently because I bogged myself down with too many activities, and something this long takes me a while. I will go through the things I liked about it, the things I hated, and wrap it up with a score from 1-10. My scoring system goes through 5 key components, with each one going over the creative aspect and the technical aspect. I will explain that part when we get to scoring later on, so let’s plow on through.
This is a collection, about 266 pages long, and is meant to be the first installment of a comedy series. Shawn runs a Youtube channel where he covers lolcows and does gaming streams, so comedy should come naturally to him. As a volume, this holds 4 short stories, each one holding about 8 chapters, with each story running for about 20k words. Technically, we can say it’s 4 novelettes, but as I explain the situation, you’ll see why they are so long. The plot may seem complex but the main characters go through the same situations: the dimensional merge occurred, between all of our creative properties and C-197, with a group of rambunctious penguins doing mercenary work.
Sadly, it’s not really the Chris-Chan version of a dimensional merge, so we do not see Sonichu or any of that wacky world… yet. It's volume 1, so it's too early to say it's not open to the possibilities. The style runs close to internet memes and those old Newgrounds cartoons, with the focus aimed at action scenes and descriptions of the creative world around their setups. But, as you read through the massive amount of descriptions and banter, you'll realize that very little happens in each story. I would say each one is very simple and with a low reading level needed to get through them, which is a double-edged sword in this case.
I say this because the writing tries too hard to claim a joke was made when it wasn’t really a “ha-ha” joke to begin with. It’s more like “ah… humor is detectable somewhere in these pages” kind of comedy. It relates to the offensive animals of Fritz the Cat, where the comedy comes from the absurdity of a setup, rather than a punchline that is found. Unfortunately, because the satire is absent and it focuses too much on the premise, the result becomes more like my favorite episode of Heil Honey I’m Home, minus Hitler and his annoying neighbors. The banter bogs down the pacing, turning each chapter into a short, yet overly long, sample of a scene, chained together by constantly shifting points of view.
Thankfully, this simple way of approaching a story allows a casual reader to speed on by. Things are easy to follow and characters are easy to remember. The main cast of Edgy, Jeff, Todd, and Hylus are separated by their brand of chaotic addictions. Addiction to drugs, addiction to hentai, addiction to video games, addiction to murder; all greatly expressed in what are meant to be running gags that resemble a sitcom cast. The ship they travel around in, from job to job, can easily be imagined as a "That '70s Show basement" version of the ship in The Orville, as each story goes to different planets where they meet different aliens.
There is enough in each story to understand what is going on, with the stories more as an exploration of lore than an exploration of character or theme. The lack of focus, as well as the indifferent prose, harms the way each tale is told. I would never say these are bad ideas or bad concepts, just bad ways to get them across. High concept, low composition. I would say the main value is from the promise of more to come than what is presented in the pages.
Time for the rating, which will be given between 0-2. 1 point goes to the technical aspect and 1 point goes to the creative side of things. Flaws within a point will reduce it into smaller decimals, but a single aspect is not able to entirely kill a story on its own. If it’s all technical or all creative, a story will be treated as mediocre. Even if I like something, it is still possible to get a 5/10, meaning it’s not suitable for the average reader who is more accepting of a 7 or an 8.
Plot: 1.5 Things happen and people go places in the form of a violent travelog. The pacing bogs down the destination with tourist traps.
Characters: 1.5 The characters play their roles well, even though their roles don’t play well with the plot. Their banter and quirks fall flat in parts.
Prose: 1 With clear points between A and B, wet and sloppy ideas are delivered dry and brittle. With each paragraph shoving lore down the reader’s throat, it can become death by a thousand detours.
Theme: 1 There is a great message about how chaos and anarchy transforms people into primitive animals. Unfortunately, the author couldn’t find it in the infinite vastness of subspace.
Setting : 2 It is a world you want to know more about and look forward to the next bit of info. Creative, exotic, to the proper point of chaotic, yet still comprehensible. Everything about this book is in the setting.
Final verdict: 7/10
The book is niche, it takes a while to heat up, and even then it’s as appealing as a mystery flavor hot pocket. If you’re into absurdity, you will enjoy it. I just wish the absurdity had some life behind it. There is room for expansion and I hope that opportunity is taken.

Trying to figure out personality differences
So I’m coming here for some advice, needing guidance how to navigate personality differences between myself and the person I’m seeing.
Background: I (30M) am a very strong personality, I give off a middle chair vibe (for all my Curb fans out there). I wear my heart on my sleeve and I’m very outgoing. My entire vibe is to be around people, be with people, just social butterfly kinda deal. Most of the people around me (including my ex wife who is still very much in my life, long story but it’s kosher) also fit more into the introverted extrovert vibe than anything else.
The person (29W) I’m seeing is very much not. She’s generally pretty guarded, keeps to herself, doesn’t seem to really wanna open up usually. With me, she definitely lets more out. I’ve caught glimpses of her more “honest self” seemingly leaking out.
My ex when we got together was very much a sheltered person but through what we had and her own personal work grew into a very confident self assured strong personality person. So I’ve seen people change from weak to strong before.
My concern is I don’t want this relationship to be driven by me. I don’t want to feel like I’m pulling the cart alone so to speak. I know that just by the nature of me being me the interests we take together will be more of mine, that’s an inevitability for a number of reasons. What I want though is a give and take, learning her interests, her opinions, really try to understand her vibe, what her goals are, etc.
I’ve shared this with her but I’m worried about that gap in personalities. So I would love some advice from those either in my shoes or hers about what to do to bridge that gap and overcome this potential incompatibility.
I also am very very attracted to confidence. To a woman who knows what she wants, what she feels, being very in tune with herself. I need someone strong enough to rein me in (to a healthy degree, the self regulation ownness is on me ultimately). She doesn’t exhibit anything yet that makes me believe she will have those traits. But again as I said, maybe she just has never had the opportunity or environment to exhibit those traits. I don’t know.
TL:DR- I’m a very strong extrovert personality seeing someone much more guarded, introverted, and seemingly holding a softer personality. I don’t want to domineer in the budding relationship but I also don’t know if our personalities can mesh.
Any and all advice welcome!

I’ve (19M) been talking to this girl (18F) for almost 2 months now, met about 4 months ago. We’re both in our first years of uni. Our interactions have been really good and we click really well when we’re together and also on text, and we’ve been out 3 times so far. We didn’t call them dates but two of them were basically kinda like dates (coast walk and museum/kbq).
Right now we’re on a short 2 week break for uni (not a talking break). I’m and international student so I’m going back home for the break and she’s a domestic so she’s staying there. We’ve been chatting quite a bit, almost everyday. Most of the times it’s me initiating the conversations but she did a few times as well. But once we start we just hit it off and can chat for hours and deep into the night too, I try to text in the evenings usually because during the day one of us are typically busy either working, studying, or just having me time.
Three things I need some advice on -
One is how can I spend more time in person together because I feel like we interact on text way more than in person, which is something I’d like to change. But the thing is we’re in completely different faculties so it makes it slightly more challenging.
The second thing (probably the most major one) is whether or not I should just ask her out on a date and call it a date, instead of just “hey do you wanna grab dinnedo this, do that”, just straight up “hey we’ve went out a few times but we never labeled it, would you like to go out on a date with me”. I don’t wanna let this drag and go into an awkward stage where we’ve just been in the perpetual talking stage.
Finally, how long is long? I understand that for different situations long is subjective. So for me it’s more of how long is long to not text each other for a while. And how long is considered long before getting into a relationship (conventionally).
I’m taking this time back home as a time to step away a little bit and gather and process my thoughts, and I want a little insight.
TLDR: Been talking for 2 months I (19M) and (18F). Three questions, how to spend more time together? Should I just ask her out on a proper date? How long is considered long for not talking and officially getting into a relationship?

Long story short, I started working at this big company about 7 months ago. The coworkers I work with are growing distant from me and are not offering to help me for basic things that don’t require much time or effort. There’s a language barrier as my job isn’t in English. I can speak but not 100% fluently.
The girl I work with doesn’t like me. She has lied to my face before, avoided me, super serious around me, hasn’t said anything positive about me once. I’ve always heard things like "he looks serious". I’m the only one in the team who is about to receive his degree and I’m the youngest. I’ve had coworkers even ask me to choose who I want to get help from in order to create division. I’ll ask for help and they’ll say do you want me or her. Clearly it doesn’t matter.
In our group chat for work, it use to be busy all day long. Now no one says anything in their except good morning and bye. I feel like they’re messaging each other individually for work now. It’s always busy in the chat even on busy days now dead silence.
In my meeting today, people would laugh at what I was talking about and give me this belittling look on their face (not all but the ones as of recent like 7/14). What do I do?

Hey everyone! I’m new to Reddit and on mobile, so apologies for any formatting errors and for the length of this post.
Basically, I have a name picked out. I use it on all my socials that my family/friends don’t follow me on and when I need to give a name at a coffee shop/restaurant. Additionally, I work at a job where I have to introduce myself to customers and I’ve been using my chosen name when my boss isn’t around, and hearing myself say it (and hearing customers address me by it) has been really validating for me. I’m pre-everything (hoping to start T when I can get an appointment with a trans-friendly doctor in my town) and don’t pass as masc super well despite my best efforts so being referred to by a masculine name felt really good. The main problem is that I’m struggling with how to tell people.
At this point, I’m fine with using my chosen name as more of a nickname, with my legal name being on documents and the like. I’ve mentioned it to my parents and they’ve been super supportive of everything. I just don’t know how to broach the subject with people who’ve known me my whole life, especially since I haven’t really found a definite label for myself in terms of gender. It’s a pretty traditionally masculine name, and while I’m pretty sure I’m some flavor of transmasc, I don’t think I’m 100% a trans man, if that makes sense (I’m using they/them pronouns, but I prefer masc terms of address to feminine ones (ie sir vs ma’am)). I’m probably overthinking this, but I’m worried they’ll think I’m jumping in too quickly or overthinking things. I really only came out as anything other than a cis woman this past December.
So, does anyone have any advice on how to start that conversation? Or, alternately, are there any reasons I shouldn’t/should wait a bit?

Hey, i’m not sure if this is a stupid question or not but i have my medical tomorrow and in the email it says i need to perform different exercises such as press ups to ensure my joints work properly. I can do press ups no issue but my elbows crack quite loud every time when i do a press up. is this something that they could fail me for? i don’t have any issues that i know of and surely if i did then i wouldn’t be able to do press ups at all?

It is quite literally laughable.
I have a cellphone. Sure. But I am an only own, touch, pick up and use when going about without isn’t an option.
I don’t have friends because I don’t need or want any.
I don’t have relationships; dating because I don’t need and want to.
I don’t drive or my own money myself; my brother does that because disability and also I never wanted to even before it became a no fault of own disability reason.
I only own one pair of shoes and they are black and whit Asics that look like original black and white low top converse and that works for all.
I only own like ten long sleeves and seven short sleeves; five blue jeans and two black suit looking belt and silver buckle for getting dressed.
I only own like twelve baggie oversized band t shirts and four leggings cut to look like cargo shorts for bed.
I only wear underwear when on my Mother Nature.
I only wear a bra when a a long sleeve can see nipples and with all my short sleeves.
I’m waiting on SSI so I can get a state ID so I can finally try again with a job of some sort (thirty-one).
I don’t want and need sex, pets and kids, friends and a relationship.
I actually do quite better without.
Like once there is quite enough people in this world to go on; stop it; let those who don’t need and; or want; live their life.
We don’t all require the same or same version and we cant all go about it all; ya know?…

I want to preface this for reddit by saying that I am in a sound state of mind and am not considering any form of self harm in any capacity. She has improved dramatically over the course of the past decade due to an environment change and escaping her own abuse. I am happy with my life, have a partner I love dearly, and have no desire to do anything stupid.
I am ready to forgive her for most of what happened when she was being abused, but she really, really needs a psychiatric specialist and heaps of therapy.
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Mom,
I don’t think I can say this is person without breaking up or getting yelled at, so I’m typing it.
I feel like I can’t talk to you because I’m afraid of you. A few years ago in the car you told me you were scared that you would become more like the nasty, bitchy side of (her mother) that you hate. Your words, not mine. Well you’ve been doing that a lot lately. You did it a lot when I was a kid.
A lot of the time when we speak you say mean, nasty things that serve no purpose aside from making me feel bad. Last night in the kitchen you asked me what I was eating. I told you. Immediately, you took that opportunity to ask me if I had offered any to dad. I said no. Before I could explain, you made a nasty comment about how it was rude of me not to offer. When I got upset and cut you off to explain, you tried to pretend like you were just asking an innocent question and I was wrong for being upset. You pull that specific trick constantly.
You absolutely know that you only did that to make me feel like crap. You had no good reason to say that to me. You do little things like that all the time now.
So I avoid you. I can’t take it. You say that you love me, but then you turn around and act sadistic like you get some enjoyment out of hurting me. I can’t take it. You deny that you do it, but you do. Constantly.
Then when I feel terrible and avoid you because of the way that you treat me, you suggest that I have some kind of mental issue and I need medicine to fix it. Like you genuinely think I’m crazy or broken because it hurts when my own mother treats me like that. How would it feel if people treated you like you’re insane because you get upset when they talk down to you?
You never politely ask me to do things. You bark orders at me. “When can you do this?” “Come out here when you get a minute.” “I need your help with this.” “When are you going to do that.”
The other day at work I was busy unloading a ton of carpet. You texted to ask if I heard you honk and acted like it was just you following up and innocently saying hi. Then you turned it into nagging me over a chore while you knew I was working. I couldn’t respond to your text right away, so you asked me where I was working tomorrow. You know why you were asking.
A few years ago you said some really nasty things to me. You tell me I could always talk to you if I have an issue, so I told you in text because I was scared to tell you in person. I was upset when I told you and I cursed a couple times. I didn’t curse at you or call you names.
You responded by raising your voice, beating on my door, telling me never to talk to you like that that, and then you were nasty to me and ignored me for three days.
When I was in middle school we were at the outlets and got taco bell. I tapped you on the back twice and tried to tell you that I wanted something slightly different. You didn’t hear me and I kept my mouth shut. I mentioned it offhand in the car. You locked the car doors and screamed at me for several minutes about how I’m a liar and a shitty kid and how sometimes you wish you didn’t have me.
I have PTSD from that. It flashes through my head every time you raise your voice. I don’t feel safe telling you things that upset me because you respond with anger. You blame me for your actions. Everything is my fault.
You want to know why I got fat? I stress eat.
All through school I was bullied. Constantly. Then I came home and you treated me like shit for having bad grades.
You locked me in my room by myself with nothing for years and acted like it was my fault because I couldn’t get good grades.
I tried to make friends. I wasn’t allowed to hang out with them because I was “grounded.” You acted all proud of it and said you were “fixing me” by being “mean nasty mom” like it was something you had to do.
When I was seven or eight (brother) and I were playing by the door. We were going to go to the school for some event in the cafeteria. They were going to play kung fu panda and we were going to watch it as a family. (Brother) tripped and hurt himself. You rushed over and asked what happened and (brother) pointed to me and said I kicked him. You got nasty and dad screamed at me and you told me I ruined the whole evening. Dad made me sit and do nothing in the living room the whole time while he say quietly as you took (brother) to see the movie and babied him.
He lied constantly throughout our childhood to get me in trouble and I got treated like shit for it. Then you acted like I was a mean, bad brother for hating him.
All those times at the therapist I would tell them how you treated me, then you’d go in afterwords and they’d tell you. Then you’d get pissed and yell at me in the car for “lying” and making you look bad.
The two times I found therapists that actually helped me, you said you didn’t think it was doing anything or that you couldn’t afford it pulled me out, and I lost all of that progress.
I have PTSD from all of that too.
And you can hand-wave it and act like it didn’t happen because you “don’t remember” like you always do, but it still happened. You still hurt me. I spent years growing up afraid and alone. Every day I was locked up like that, I wanted to kill myself. I never tried to do good in school because I really did think I would do it before I graduated highschool. I thought it was for nothing. I wanted to die. There were times after you or dad yelled at me I go to my room and plan it out. I can’t count the number of nights I spent alone in my bed, sobbing, hoping I just wouldn’t wake up.
I was abused. You abused me. I’m tired of pretending that you didn’t and that everything is happy and smiley. I never needed medicine as a kid, I needed to be loved instead of punished.
I love you and I am trying, desperately, to love you and have a relationship with you as my mother, but you make it really, really hard sometimes.

Hi all,
This is one of my first attempts at a Star Wars RP, so please bear with me. Thankfully, I do have a long history and a lot of experience in RP, everything from feudal Japan stories to apocalyptic romps, so I am hoping I can do my best to make this work. With that being said, I think this RP would probably suit a roleplayer who is at least slightly familiar with the Star Wars setting and its lore, as I myself am still learning too. You don’t need to be an expert or a top contributor on Wookipedia but just some knowledge should help!
Anyways, on to the story. This RP is one that I have quite a clear vision for what I want to happen at the start, but less so after that. So, I think it will be quite structured to begin with and then we can let our imaginations run wild. It centres around my character, who is a fairly young and somewhat unscrupulous trade ship pilot. He is essentially the Star Wars version of a trucker, running cargo from one system to another and working for a large corporation who pays him a pretty menial salary. His whole life changes when your character, a Jedi in hiding, catches a ride on his ship and they are stopped by the empire. Now I want to set this RP in between the 3rd and the 4th movie. So there would be huge populus support for the Empire at this time, and a feeling that it is bringing peace and order to a galaxy that has almost destroyed itself during the clone wars. This would be particularly difficult for your character who is seeing her whole persona villainised by Empire propaganda. My character would be super distrustful of yours at first and they will really have that enemies to lovers trope that works so well in these stories.
Anyway, the basic plot is that the two of them end up forced to escape the Empire together, and then from there they are free to carry on their adventure as they wish. I have a lot more detail to give you, but I will save it for Discord where we can have a proper conversation. I am someone who loves OOC chat and getting to know a partner, and I think I am a friendly guy so if you are interested, please get in touch! I can’t wait to hear from you.

Yellow y’all, I am a Junior in High School currently in a program my public school has where they send us to another school to take a class. I am taking the Veterinary Science Class and we have been working on a project for a bit now. It is a career project were we research a career we are interested in. There are 2 parts to the project. The first part is the research portion. We research what education we need and were we can go to get it to reach our career goal as well as information about the career relating to what it requires, does it involve travel, how laborious is it, what is needed for it, what are the patient relationships like, what is the social aspect like, the requirements for the career, etc. This is the easier portion for me, but the harder portion I have found is the second part. For the second portion is a grade by itself and contributes to the first parts grade. (Both summative grades) What is required for this second portion is we must find someone who works in the field and contact them about interviewing them on their experiences in the field. (What it has been like for them, what I should know about it, and any tips, tricks, or forewarnings I should know) I had ended up finding a farrier in the area that seemed nice and who is exspeinced and licensed. I had emailed them emailed them explaining who I am, the project I was doing this for, and where I go to school with the class the project was for. I covered everything my teacher had told everyone in the class to do. She had given us a template to use and base our emails off of and I did while changing it up a little bit to be friendly, but keeping the main necessary content in it. I singed off at the bottom of the email with my name again, my email that was used to send this email, and my phone number if she would prefer to use that instead. After about 2 - 3 weeks with no response I sent a follow up email that my teacher also gave us a template for. The email templates we had were made in class as a class. It was part of the creative/business aspect in the project. After about 10 days with no response I was ready to tell my teacher about the situation and ask what to do when I finally got my first and, spoiler alert, only response. She explained that she was traveling and didn’t check her email in that amount of time. She said that she was now trying to ketchup on her email now. In her email to me she said and I quote “Are you interested in learning about traditional horse shoeing? I am a natural hoofcare provider with my focus being barefoot trims. I only have a handful of horses in composite type shoes that I strictly glue on. I do not use nails or work with metal shoes so I am not sure I’d be the best fit if you are planning to attend a horseshoeing school. I can recommend other traditional farriers locally to shadow if that is the direction you may want to pursue. However, if you are interested in a natural barefoot approach then I am happy to chat with you and have you join for shadowing.” End quote. I showed my teacher the email the next day looking for advice as to how I should respond. My teacher said to continue to try and make plans for an interview and potential job shadow that she seemed interested in taking on. My teacher also told me to try and get the other recommendations as well. I then replied to her email saying how I would be happy to learn from her and job shadow with her or at the very least do an interview with her. I also then said how my teacher suggested I ask if I could have the other farrier recommendations. After that I mentioned again how much it would mean to me if she gave me the chance and for her to have a wonderful night. That’s was sent march 17th. Still no reply. After a bit of waiting for a response I tried calling her because in her email she left her number. It went to voicemail so I left a voicemail message saying who I am, my number, project information from my first email, and that I am still interested in the interview and at least a job shadow. I haven’t received a return call or any missed calls. In her voicemail she said if she isn’t able to get back to you within a few days to message her through text, so I did. I was then left on read for about a week until I asked my teacher what to do. She suggested I ask if I can at least interview her over the phone or have her just send me a message of answer to my questions. So that is what I asked her sending the same message through both text and email. I also provided her with example questions that I would be asking in the message. I have been since left on read with no reply. I am now turning to searching for someone new on here to help me. I just need someone to answer a few questions on their experience being a farrier. It would mean so much to me if someone could help me here. I understand everyone here has their own lives and must be busy with such, but this assignment is due may 22nd and today is may 14. I only have 8 days left for this second portion and I hope y’all understand. Sorry this came out to be so long. Please, have a wonderful rest of your day and my email is katelynnzannoni99@gmail.com if anyone can help. Thank you.

I can’t seem to get this mod to work with MO2, the scope textures don’t load so you just zoom in without actually seeing anything on the gun at all. Can’t see the scope in the visual preview while on the weapons workbench either. Google searches show it may have to do with archive invalidation, but the MO2 profile has that option checked by default? I tried editing the INI files myself to see if that would work but it ended up the same. None of my other mods should be conflicting and I’m new to modding so this has me stumped. Any help is appreciated, I’m on the version before the next gen update.

Hello everyone,
I'm reaching out hoping to find some advice and support from this caring community. I’m a 24-year-old working woman, and the only daughter of my wonderful parents. Six years ago, we started building our dream house. This home represents years of hard work and dreams for my family.
But then, the COVID-19 pandemic hit, bringing severe financial struggles for us. My parents did everything they could to keep the construction going despite the hardships. We faced betrayal from the mason and the architect, who took advantage of us and the situation we were in. We were going through a lot of other things as well. We had to change masons multiple times, and one even took our money and disappeared without completing the work.
Despite these setbacks, we pushed through. Now, our dream house is about 75% complete. Most of the interiors are done, and we are so close to moving in. But we’ve hit a wall. My parents cannot take any more loans, and I can’t get a personal loan for the 20-25 Lakhs needed to finish the house.
This home is more than just a building to us. and this is all that we have dreamt about for years now. My parents are considering selling the property because we see no other way, but I cannot give up on this dream. I’m fighting with everything I have to save it.
I can manage to pay 20-25K per month, but I need guidance. Are there any financial options or resources we haven’t considered? Has anyone been through a similar situation? I’m desperate for any advice or help you can offer.
Please, if you have any suggestions or can point us in the right direction, it would mean the world to us. I’m not just asking for financial advice, but for a way to keep our dream alive.
Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Every genuine relationship or friendship I had, ended because I left. I fall in love with them and everything goes well then I wake up one day and I look at myself and realise that I need to work on myself in so many aspects and that I don’t have time for relationships. I can’t stay. I’m in love with my boyfriend but I can’t seem to grow with him. It’s like as soon as I started seeing him, I started losing myself. I lose myself when i’m with someone for too long. not even too long man it’s been like 8 months. I stopped doing boxing, i’m less adventurous, not very social, always with him and when im with him, I dont feel like myself anymore. It’s like I always slowly start becoming the person infront of me. without me realising it. it kills me to think of leaving him. but my whole soul is telling me to leave for the sake of myself. Why? even with my previous relationship, I had to leave because I wasn’t happy with myself as a person and decided i should work on it more. I did. I thought I was happy with myself up until I started dating my current boyfriend. It’s like I found peace in his peace and not mine. I made him my peace. I can’t grow like this. every person I have been with or met, have asked me the same question. with the same words. Why do you always have to go?
I’m so tired. It’s like I’m never able to stay with someone no matter how much I love them. What can I do? Is there a way to grow in a relationship while simultaneously working on myself? I don’t feel like I can do that. I know that letting go will make me become someone better. I have big dreams and maybe I just outgrow the people around me so much. I feel lost and I don’t know what to do.