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2024.05.15 05:53 SlimeSpree MEGA SIZED Rodem review (with many pics!)
| Rodem Slime Shop 7.5oz for $12.99-19.50 Labels are now waterproof! Yaaay! šŖš» I was so excited to get into this giant package from one of my favourite stores, and one I really love to support as they deserve it! This was actually a couple of orders I placed over time and Rodem contacted me to ask me if I wanted to combine them which demonstrates their incredibly attentive customer service. Usually the customer needs to contact the store for this to happen. Included inside was powdered borax, a free gift slime for each order plus one more because it was a large order and they are generous. This exchange with Rodem got us chatting and then something very special transpired but I will post separately about that as I have to cram a lot of slime into this review and have limited space for images! I had to brew a cup of tea, sit down and take my time going through all of these to make sure I combined all the correct things! It helps a lot that they are all pictured on the enclosed invoice but it would be helpful if they were packaged together. That having been said, separating the heavy pots of slime from the clays is a good idea when the order is this big and heavy so I can't complain! - LEMON TART (DIY butter snowfizz, lemon cookie scented)
This smelled OH SO good. The lemon and the cookie notes comes through and were just delicious and very realistic smelling! Sometimes lemon scent is reminiscent of citrus scented cleaning products to my nose but not this, this was an excellent effort. but My clay lemon was a little squished but clay often can be due to being delicate and tricky to package and the issue is not uncommon with any company. The clay was soooo very soft, moist and pleasant to squish into the base. After you take the base out the pot you are met with a little bit of ācaramelā sauce on the bottom of the pie. Itās all very mouth watering. This was the perfect, massively inflatable snow fizz and I was so in love with it. It was super crunchy and had the expected abundance of ASMR fizzles. It was beautifully activated and in every way a perfect slime. Some may find snow fizz a bit pokey but this wasnāt bad at all, the inflation was very cushioning! https://preview.redd.it/wtbtvsydai0d1.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f0666d6916014f49d076dc2eb32c19490944c76f - TEA TIME (DIY clay, strawberry, blackcurrant, blackberry blended fruity scent)
The scent is fresh, fruity and yummy and the charms SO charming and well thought out! This clay was slightly stiffer and a tad dried out but the base extremely moist, silky and jiggly with tons of resistance on the pulls and I didn't end up with any lumps. It becomes extremely light, puffy, chubby and flubbery with massive pops and medium to soft clicks on the pokes which get louder as it inflates. I love Rodemās take on this texture, it has all the awesome elements of the fluffy slimes I got from Seoul Gage but was more robust with no destabilisation issues (I found the SG ones a little dehydrated and sticky the next time I played.) https://preview.redd.it/uggzl3jxai0d1.jpg?width=5069&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b0aff4fec5a963375e26dba47933e031964192c1 - BUMPER CAR (silica sand x salt, rose scented, also a choice of peach scent if you prefer)
I love rose scent and this was PERFECT! It isnāt a perfume type scent, just pure, sweet rose water like rose Turkish delight or, indeed, actual rosewater. I was utterly obsessed! This was a stunning slime with a beautiful iridescent pink topper and the most gorgeous little pink bumper car charm. It sounded absolutely incredible to crunch and combine. The little pops, sizzles and crackles were out of this world. This was so heavy in silica crystals and yet not pokey as the pieces were quite smooth and small but of course your mileage may vary. I canāt express just how much I adored this slime, one of my all time favourites! https://preview.redd.it/16uyngjsbi0d1.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aca9e164028150c88c86158d328adefb6b3e6cbf https://preview.redd.it/eeqlwp5vbi0d1.jpg?width=3006&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b386a343da46f684d4352e6e497fea9b19a61681 https://preview.redd.it/tbbnwgzwbi0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9e6f008ea26eb215ac1d38dc74b63cae76f4b69c - YUMMY POPCORN (styrofoam slay, caramel popcorn scented)
The fact this comes with a little paper popcorn bag containing the Styrofoam "popcorn" is the cutest touch ever! I adore Rodem, they think of everything to make the experience so incredibly fun. This smells just like freshly popped caramel popcorn with a tiny hint of sweet corn, I loved it! The two hyperrealistic popcorn charms that comes with it are hilarious! The base was soft, jiggly, super clicky and fluffy and the Styrofoam really satisfying to crush into it. I just couldnāt get over how spectacular the scent was, it was making me hungry! This slime was a slightly looser slay texture and needed a little bit of activator to aid in handleability but not much. It had a few nice medium pops in it but very little hold, which unfortunately isnāt to my taste but many people love that. I was tied over this slime as the scent was just divine but I prefer more holdable textures. That is a reflection on my personal tastes however, not the slime which was great! If you like jiggly slays youāll fall in love with this. I may not be a slay person but there is no way this wasn't going be a keeper, it had just too good a scent and crushing the styrofoam is great fun! https://preview.redd.it/x9yw1riaci0d1.jpg?width=9009&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3f3ceaaf5020ef0116257b956ce3da686e84b61c - CAROUSEL (DIY clay, citrus fruit and aloe blend scented)
The scent wasn't bad but just wasn't a hit for me, a personal taste thing again. The clay was a little bit smooshed and it was tricky to tell what it was but extremely, soft squishy and moist. (Incidentally it was, you guessed it, a carousel š ) The base was quite loose and jiggly and called for a little bit of activator but very soft, chubby, quite matte and pleasant in the hands. This combined into a huge, soft, marshmallowy mound of slime with a lovely plush surface. Super stretchy and fun to fold for soft bubble pops and lovely soft sizzles. It was a little on the loose side for my personal tastes but slay lover will again adore this! It was a well made slime. https://preview.redd.it/d6t6p7llci0d1.jpg?width=5515&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fff18d675300332aa3e06239028d0de57701e0c1 - EMMENTAL CHEESE CAKE (DIY clay/butter, savoury cheese cookie scented)
This was a very interesting, fun and unusual scent. A little sweet but notably savoury with a subtle hint of cheese. The first time I played with it I enjoyed the novelty but the second time I wasnāt sure if I loved it enough to buy again. Itās hard to describe but definitely worth trying. The HUUUUUGE cheese clay came in a sealed package and was so soft and pleasant to squish. It became a ginormous, matte, sort of butter texture, which was both fairly holdable and yet exceedingly soft. It stuck to my play area a bit. It was quite a job to handle it on account of its size and a difficult texture to describe. It didnāt feel sticky at all on my play surface but stuck to my hands when I tried to pick it up and stretch it. When I pressed my hand into it on the surface it didnāt stick or feel sticky but if I picked it up to try and stretch it, it was very gooey and hard to shape. Activator didnāt seem to make that much of a difference. This was a texture unlike any other Iāve experienced. Itās one Iām a little lukewarm on but still enjoyed playing with for an unusual experience and worth it for the mega-sized clay cheese alone! https://preview.redd.it/0kgtacjfdi0d1.jpg?width=5846&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=075fb7676513e410ab1c2962e84c2cbec9cd13b7 - MIXED COFFEE (super gloss thick T&G, mixed coffee and coffee ice cream blend scented)
This was a delicious, very creamy coffee ice cream/frappe coffee creme scent, very rich with subtle notes of chocolate. It was a medium thickness, super clicky, moist glossy texture with decent resistance on the stretch. Very good and elastic with tons of bubble pops and wet crackles. This was an extremely pleasant and easy to play with moist and jiggly glossy slime. The longer you play the looser it gets but not problematically so. https://preview.redd.it/hhob7e8ndi0d1.jpg?width=4823&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=eac50e47e3ae4040528d30a10444dede22dea5aa - FUJI APPLE ICE CREAM (DIY cloud creme, apple scented)
A lovely, fresh, crisp apple scent. The clay apple is so cute with its velvety exterior and so perfectly made. It was amazing fun to squish. This combined to a super stretchy and ultra fuzzy cloud creme. It was extremely light and super sizzly. This was another texture which is familiar and yet very unusual on account of the extreme fuzziness. I loved it and found it pretty amazing to look at! https://preview.redd.it/o5fah6ugei0d1.jpg?width=4905&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c3941974b12b9e28570cad567ace8fb1fa46f2d9 - FLAT PEACH CAKE (DIY clay and coated jelly/fluffy snow, peach scented)
The base has an absolutely beautiful fresh peach scent. Another stunningly well made clay which looks so much like a peach with the way they have created the fuzzy surface and peachy-perfect colour shift. It was soft and great fun to combine into the jelly base. The resulting slime was nice and clicky with big, soft bubble pops. It really felt plush and soft-surfaced on my fingers as I stretched it and was very moist, chubby, jiggly and flubby when I set it down. This was ultra inflatable with nice soft sizzles. https://preview.redd.it/u2372z0wei0d1.jpg?width=5691&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f60afeb65d0269a8d83619526e9b97a4c264cb49 - YAKULT GELATO (DIY snow creme, Yakult scented
A pleasant, mild, fruity yogurty scent. The little scoops of ice cream were so soft, moist and great to squish. This started off with lots of resistance and a nice plush feel as I pulled it. It had moist clicks and soft bubble pops. While it gave a little bit as it warmed up, it did retain a bouncy and elastic stretch with a nice little bit of resistance. This is another fun, boingy, flubby, jiggly texture, which is super inflatable and great fun to play with. https://preview.redd.it/uaecn0p0fi0d1.jpg?width=8457&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0009976a0dc188ea74922188d351bcc7aeef8dd1 - MY COSY SPACE (cloud slime, sweet juicy peach/added perfume)
Itās so ironic that cloud slime is my favorite and yet I have so very few of them retained in my collection as I just canāt find ones I love that drizzle perfectly! I was very, very excited for a cloud from Rodem but also anxious as clouds are so rarely perfectly in line with the exact level of drizzle Iām looking for! I absolutely ADORE the aesthetic with the soft little rug that comes with it in the shape of Rodemās bunny logo and the couch charm, how stinking CUTE! The slime even matches! I think this is the best charm/slime combo I have ever seen, a big standing ovation for Rodem on this incredibly whimsical and charmingly presented slime! The scent was a relaxing and homely peachy perfume with notes of bubble bath and baby powder. The drizzle was good!! True cloud is a hard slime to make to spec and, in light of that, a lot of companies donāt really bother with it. Iām so happy Rodem did and did such a great job. It was very soft and plush with gorgeous blankety folds and I have everything crossed they make more of this texture soon. I have no idea what Iāll do with the delightful little rug other than treasure it forever! Haha! Even just looking at these photos as I type out the review I'm smiling again! I wish this slime was my dressing gown! haha! - ONIGIRI (white glue foam chip, savoury black sesame.)
Another incredibly interesting and unique savoury scent. This was definitely giving sesame seed/oil, albeit a bit more subtle than the real thing. I would say your mileage may very on this scent, it wonāt be for everyone but it is certainly worth trying for a whole new experience. This was a medium thickness, glossy texture which was very chewy and clicky. The foam pieces were quite hard and angular but crushable if you really go for it. This was a very novel floam texture which made a great change from the usual balls. This was exploding with fantastic crackles and pops, top tier sounds. I think the angular foam is even better for trapping air as this slime sounded like a tiny elephant stampeding in a bubble wrap factory! I got some big air pocket type bubbles from this one too! https://preview.redd.it/t6eh86yigi0d1.jpg?width=5986&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5954f9b63ef8b82f6b18c833abed2b45aa816ce0 - FRENCH APPLE PIE (white glue/snow/fluffy, French apple pie scented)
The apple and the crust both come through in the scent, as well as a little hint of caramel (which is very typical of a French tarte tatin, well done Rodem!) The little doilies in the bottoms of the clay pots (even though the clay is wrapped) are yet another gorgeous little touch that impress me about these guys, I love their intimate attention to detail. The clay was again super soft and pleasant to squish into the nice, clicky base. This was a lovely, chubby, stretchy slime. It was a little on the thicker side and created satisfying farty bubble pops. C'est bon! - SAKURA SAND (sand slime, sakura flower scented)
This is an absolutely beautiful scent. A slightly cotton candy leaning sweet Sakura. I love pink, I love sand slimes and I love Sakura scents so this really pleased me! Unfortunately I found it very sticky and loose so added a lot of activator until it was more resistant and was able to get it where it needed to be. Once I did it had great bubble pops and was a very sand-dense and crunchy/sizzly sounding slime, the exact sort of sand slime I like. https://preview.redd.it/z24t4ms5hi0d1.jpg?width=5704&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=38d0ba14bbeeec427f15096407d5c23c0c9f0f67 - STRAWBERRY MATCHA SUGAR CAKE (snow fizz, strawberry matcha scented)
A nice scent with both strawberry and Matcha coming through. This was an extremely fluffy, airy snowfizz with tons of fantastic ASMR sounds, so fizzy, sizzly and fun to inflate and tingle-inducing to deflate. It started off feeling like a light, sugary super airy scrub and got denser as I played. Another great slime. https://preview.redd.it/2yfdnspdhi0d1.jpg?width=5788&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2498da365a7c185a377dd2a8b7bbf12c9b80e52e https://preview.redd.it/pt6a3kjbhi0d1.jpg?width=6051&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4e7081712ecf6916d69111bfd736883628f12a6b - TANGHULU BALL (big foam ball, strawberry-ade)
This had a very subtle strawberryade scent. The giant floam balls were a total novelty to me and SO much fun! Who doesnāt love the feeling of big balls in their hands!? š The base was quite loose and wonderful for plentiful crackles and pops. I really enjoyed this! https://preview.redd.it/37msqhrnhi0d1.jpg?width=8440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=65fa12490f41bec1c7c30cea77764e8082b63382 - STEAMED BUN (chewy mochi texture, sweet red bean BingSu)
This was an extremely savoury scent, there is some sweetness there but it was very much umami focused and I really enjoyed it! I was getting notes of red bean with a saltiness. This is a moist, super clicky, jiggly slime with two large sponges in it that crush like jelly cubes. This is extremely bubbly and full of juicy wet crackles and high pitched big pops. You can create absolutely gargantuan air bubbles with this texture. If you, like me, donāt typically enjoy loose jiggly slimes, there is a damn good chance that you will enjoy this as I loved it! It was just so multifaceted with what it offered. First, you have the unusual scent which is pretty intriguing and different. Then you have the two giant cubes to crush which is always nice. Then you have the joy of the crackles, pops and loud clicks. Finally, you have the enormous bubbles! You just canāt not have fun with this! That bubble (slubble?) was bigger than me!! - PLOP DUCKLING (Snow creme, lemon meringue scented)
This has a gorgeous and accurate sweet and creamy lemon meringue scent. Itās so much fun watching the little duckās butt slowly dive into the slime when you pop him on there. This was exactly the texture and scent I fancied finishing on and quite by chance it was! I couldnāt find Rodemās description for this oneās texture until later so I had no idea what to expect as I had forgotten, what a joy!!! This combined into a really lovely, soft sage green. This is another light, soft, squishy, chewy and chubby inflating texture that ends up airy and puffy. I absolutely loved it! Unfortunately that is one more image than I am able to embed on Reddit so please click here to see it! With Rodem, nothing is fully predictable and every texture brings with it a nice surprise. This is especially pleasing to experience when you place big orders. There is nothing more disappointing to me than buying a lot of slimes from a company just to discovered there is hardly any nuance between them and the experience is basically a rinse and repeat one, texturally identical and/or predictable. Rodem break the mold and throw in some very unusual elements and scents. Their themes are so well thought out and utterly charming and beautifully presented. They produce so many textures and master them, each one designed with so much love and attentiveness. I really adore this company and feel they work hard to bring joy and excellence to the slime community. Recently one of the more commercial slime companies was caught using Rodemās brand as a key word on their google ads to steer business away from them and onto their own website which I thought was in very poor taste. It is however testament to the fact that they knew Rodem was a company slime enthusiasts were talking about. And so we should be! It is my pleasure and honour to continue supporting this wonderful company. I'm so excited to see what they come up with next! I loved pretty much every slime and the ones I didnāt were more so a personal taste thing than a quality control issue. There were a couple I found less handleable or with activation issues (Emmental and Sakura Sand) but that is pretty damn good going for an order this huge and the sand one was easily fixable. A well deserved 9.9/10 submitted by SlimeSpree to Slime [link] [comments] |
2024.05.15 05:45 SmeesTurkeyLeg Just saw Alien in a theatre for the first time.
Fucking tremendous. THAT is how the film was intended to be seen.
The subtle details in the audio and set/production design hit in a totally different way. The last ten minutes of the film with Ripley running through the hallways with the pressure valves and strobe lights going off had me absolutely ensnared.
One last point, though not related to this film, it did make me wonder: how did everyone else feel when they learned the elephant head on the Jockey was actually a helmet?
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2024.05.15 05:45 joerover34 Company acquired last year - new boss is unappreciative and simply doesnāt respect me. Am I being petty/immaturr?
My family sold our business last year cause we had a great offer and it was a get out while you can (future market seems bleak - depended on insurance reimbursement for 70% of revenue). I (son) was the only external sales rep in charge of all the accounts. Generated $4M / year. Long story short. He was dead set on changing the name. Day 1 he changes the name. Day 1 he cuts my commission. Day 1 he takes away gas allowance. I now make considerably less. He never has told me he appreciates me (the other employees tell me he tells them all the time). Has never asked for my opinion or thoughts. Iāve worked my tail off trying to ācalm the watersā and inform people of the acquisition and keep our accounts. He has slowly been seeing some of my accounts without telling me. Zero communication. He never reaches out. I have to reach out to him for anything. Half the time he replies with that lame ādo not disturbā notification. He never gives me updates, anything internally. He has given me zero marketing merch. But I also ran the social media(s), he asked for that on day 1 tooā¦ HOWEVER, I still have overall ownership of the Facebook page and it has thousands of followers. He has tried to remove me several times. He just sends a request to remove myself, I deny it. Hes never texted me or anything to tell me or ask me, heās pretty lame. Iām honestly so bitter I want to delete the page, and say FU and resign. Thoughts?? Itās obvious he wants me out right??? This will be the ultimate middle finger cause he LOOOOVVES trying to do influencer videos on social media.
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2024.05.15 05:41 Shidell What's the best recourse for electronics that are impaired by firmware update(s) after their return/warranty period has expired?
I purchased a soundbar from Vizio, the SB36512-F6, years ago, for around $500.
This soundbar had some minor problems initially that Vizio attempted to correct over time with firmware updates. As this is the norm with modern technology, I trusted that they would eventually rectify the small problems. Unfortunately, the problems became
worse with each new release, introducing
new problems. Unbelievably, the last firmware update Vizio released was pulled after a few days, as it was
significantly worse than the other releases. Those of us who updated (which was an automatic process if you connected your soundbar to the internet) are stuck, as Vizio has no method of downgrading firmware.
Amazingly, they simply gave up on the entire series. No firmware improvements has been made available since the last (which they pulled), two years ago.
I have been stubbornly fighting with this device all this time, because it
can work, and when it does, it's great. But I am really frustrated that Vizio basically made my experience with this device worse over time, and then abandoned it.
I'm wondering what suggestions others might have for such a scenario. I can dig up dozens (if not hundreds) of comments from owners of this series of sound bar (on reddit, facebook, AVS forum, etc.) with similar anecdotes. I can also film my own experience, showing the different problems occurring and the steps I need to take on a regular basis to accommodate/resolve them.
Is that my best recourse? Doing so, and then suing Vizio in small claims court?
In the grand scheme of things, $500 isn't really much. I could simply buy another soundbar. Honestly, it's just the fucking principle of the matter--the fact that Vizio left me (and a bunch of others) stranded after spending our money with them makes me angry.
For context, here's a link to the Vizio subreddit regarding the last (official) firmware for this series:
https://www.reddit.com/VIZIO_Official/comments/qryabs/sb3651_and_sb4651_f6g6_firmware_update_v131061/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Edit: As an example of the problems this soundbar faces, when I adjust the volume up or down, I need to mute and then unmute in order for it to apply the volume change. It also periodically will not recognize input from my TV (power on to a black screen.) It will also occasionally fail to handshake with my Chromecast with Google TV (plugged directly into the soundbar), and will tell the CCGTV that the soundbar isn't capable of Dolby Atmos decoding (so only 5.1 shows up in content, and if played, plays 5.1 audio instead of Atmos, which is easily discernible as an LED on the soundbar lights up white or teal depending on the audio encoding being decoded.) These problems can generally be resolved by unplugging and replugging the soundbar (reboot), which implies to me that it's a handshake or memory leak issue (as after a reboot, it will work fine, until the next day, where these problems occur again, and I have to start over.)
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2024.05.15 05:41 Only-Ad-1254 Would you ask her out, if you were me?
There was a woman I knew from grade school, that remembered me, and sent me a Facebook request. I accepted it, and then I added her on Snapchat. Some months after that, she responded to one of my snaps stories, I think I said something that could have been construed as being hard on myself, and she just said something nice. I explain the rest short and too the point
I started to comment on her snaps more often, I don't know why, because I don't see her in person, or know her like that, and she would respond every time.
I then started to like her, I would basically tell her that she looked pretty a couple of times, and she would respond with hearts each time. I would also comment on stuff other than her appearance, and she appeared to enjoy talking to me. Would use emojis, exclamation marks, semicolons, said a decent amount most of the time, and the other times she would just like the message (if there was nothing to say I guess). Also would say more than just a simple thank you when I would compliment her. Would be like a thank you and the something else after it.
She frequently watches my stories, I don't know if its because she's just curious, but she replied to a few more of my stories and complimented me a couple more times, saying she thought I was nice, sincere, and she thought something about my appearance looked fine (I think it was my hair, cuz I cut it, and posted it for no real reason, just having fun, and she basically said it looked better before I cut it, but that it still looked fine. I figured she was just being nice, and trying to make me feel good. She never said that I was handsome or anything, so I figured she doesn't find me physically attractive. She never asked me out on a date either. Should I still have asked her out? I don't want any girl to be potentially upset, and feel like you can't even be nice or have casual convo without someone making someone more of it, if they don't feel the same way?
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2024.05.15 05:36 Mental_Method_6510 AITAH for telling my bully that he is evil and I will never forgive him?
I'm 28yo today. I was heavily bullied all throughout middle and high school by a guy in my class, Kevin. I skipped 3 grades and he was held back once so I was 9yo when he was 13 and so on until I graduated high school at 15 and him at 19. Kevin's bullying included a lot of insults, casual displays of disrespect for me all day everyday, he would spit on me when no teacher was looking, and when he found me alone, especially when walking home after school, it became physical. He knocked out a tooth once, broke my wrist once, and I still have scars from him on my arm and my cheek. At the time, my family life was abysmal too (absent and neglectful workaholic father, physically and emotionally abusive SAH mother, very poor relationship with my brother who was 12 years older than me and hating me for coming into his life when he'd been a single child for 12 years...) and I tried to off myself. Multiple times. Again, still got those scars on my wrists.
I got better after high school, especially when I found peers in college who respected me and included me in things. And Kevin was too dumb to ever make it into college so I was safe for the first time ever. I moved into student housing when I came out as gay and my parents kicked me out, so I became surrounded by decent human beings in an environment where being a school-obsessed nerd is rewarded and not shamed. I found a purpose in life, then met the man who's now my husband of 4 years, we are happy and the dark times are behind me.
Earlier today, Kevin contacted me on Facebook out of the blue. He said basically that he's been in therapy for his issues and his therapist made him realize how much he made me suffer and he wanted to apologize. I said okay, apology acknowledged and rejected. He started sending off tons of quick short messages in DMs, asking me why, saying he's genuinely sorry, etc at first, but after I explained how deeply his bullying hurt me (basically what I say in the first paragraph), the tone turned immediately to accusations and anger. Telling me that it's not his fault that both my parents are fuckups and that I have mommy issues and that it's unfair to him to let him feel bad for something that happened years ago and that I need to forgive him because his therapist said that a fault admitted is a fault forgiven. I told him that if he were really genuine, he'd accept that his bullying is unforgivable, he'd say okay and goodbye and part ways forever. He said in response to that that it'd be cruel to him to leave him without closure, I asked "as cruel as what you did to me?" to which he said "fuck you" and he blocked me.
I did not really feel bad about it, but talking to my husband, who was with his friends at the time and who heard it all, they all kinda agreed that I was unnecessarily cruel to him. Their points, basically: Kevin apologized when nothing forced him to; he seemed to feel genuine guilt even though he expressed it through anger, and my husband & friends argued that he clearly has issues with emotional regulation and his instinctive/uncontrollable reaction to being rejected being anger tracks, and that I caused his anger because it started after I told him "apology rejected"; it's been 13 years, people change in 13 years; that I didn't really have a reason to reject his apology since I am happy now and it'd cost me nothing, basically the friends argued that I was being petty and seeking to make Kevin feel pain as retaliation which they argued is immoral (my husband was with me on this); that hurt people hurt people and I am educated and mature enough to be able to be the bigger man in this situation, because Kevin does not have the education and experience with mental health that I do. I might be forgetting a bit I am sorry.
Point is, who do you think is more right? AITAH?
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2024.05.15 05:31 joerover34 Family business was acquired last year..new boss has constantly disrespected/zero appreciation towards me. Is this an extremely immature and petty thought of mine?
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2024.05.15 05:20 PLUTO_HAS_COME_BACK VibhajjavÄda and SarvÄstivÄda: Analysing the Heart Sutra from Theravadin PerspectiveāPart 7
3.0. THE THIRD BUDDHIST COUNCIL:
Venerable Moggaliputta Tissa Thera led the 3rd Buddhist Council of Theravada School. That was not a schism as the outsiders were not the true members of the Sangha. However, the king supported them like the members of the Sangha.
Because it helped promote tolerance and mutual respect, Asoka desired that people should be well-learned (bahu sruta) in the good doctrines (kalanagama) of other people's religions. [The Edicts of King Asokaan, English rendering by Ven. S. Dhammika Ā© 1994]
King Asoka was supporting everyone who claimed he belonged to the Dhamma-Vinaya community (the Sangha) established by the Sakyamuni. However, they did not join the Dhamma-Vinaya community, nor know, nor care the Buddha's teaching.
Venerable
Moggaliputta Tissa Thera determined that "the VibhajjavÄda alone contained the teaching of the Buddha."
Rest of the monks who were true believers, told about the doctrine of the Buddha, that it was VibhajjavÄda i.e. the religion of analytical reasoning. This answer was supported by Moggaliputta-Tissa who was present there. He told that the Buddha was VibhajjavÄdin (analyser). The Thera was made the gurdian of the Order. To purify the Sangha, the king requested to hold the Uposatha ceremony.
uposatha :
[m.] Sabbath day; observance of 8 precepts;
biweekly recitation of the Vinaya rules by a chapter of Buddhist monks.
MÅ«įø·uposatha sutta (AN 3.70), (Bhikkhu Bodhi)
āThere are, VisÄkhÄ, three kinds of uposatha. What three? The cowherdsā uposatha, the Nigaį¹į¹hasā uposatha, and the noble onesā uposatha [...] (3) āAnd how, VisÄkhÄ, is the noble onesā uposatha observed? The defiled mind is cleansed by exertion. And how is the defiled mind cleansed by exertion?
The mentioned uposatha ceremony is for the monks to recite the Vinaya rules. It cannot be observed with the participation of the public, including the monks (and priests) from other religions.
[Uposatha (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)] The monastic observance may be held in one of four ways, depending on the size of the Community in a particular territory: If four bhikkhus or more, they meet for a recitation of the PÄį¹imokkha; if three, they declare their mutual purity to one another; if two, they declare their purity to each other; if one, he marks the day by determining it as his uposatha. In addition to these regular observance days, the Buddha gave permission for a Community to recite the PÄį¹imokkha only on one other occasion: when unity has been reestablished in the Community. This, the Commentary says, refers only to occasions when a major dispute in the Community has been settled (such as a schismāsee Chapter 21), and not to occasions when the uposatha has been suspended for minor reasons. Thus there are two occasions on which the bhikkhus are allowed to meet for the uposatha: the last day of the lunar fortnight and the day for reestablishing unity.
The public uposatha is open to everyone, including non-Buddhists. The participants are expected to observe a set of uposatha sīla, either 8, 9 or 10 (
aį¹į¹ha-sÄ«la, navanga-sÄ«la or dasa-sÄ«la).
uposathika :
[adj.] one who observes [uposatha] precepts.
Aį¹į¹ha-sÄ«la 8 (Uposatha, Uposatha-sÄ«la): 6. VikÄlabhojanÄ veramaį¹Ä«ļ¼ 7. NaccagÄ«tavÄditavisÅ«kadassanÄ mÄlÄgandhavilepanadhÄraį¹amaį¹anavibhÅ«sanaį¹į¹hÄnÄ veramaį¹Ä«ļ¼ 8. UccÄsayanamahÄsayanÄ veramaį¹Ä«;
On the basis of
not-Dhamma as āDhammaāā¦ Dhamma as ānot-Dhammaāā¦ not-Vinaya as āVinayaāā¦ Vinaya as ānot-Vinayaā, Emperor Asoka expelled the non-VibhajjavÄdis who could not observe the uposatha, including the
SarvÄstivÄdis, from the Sangha.
[Schism (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)] Ven. UpÄli: āāA split in the Community, a split in the Community (saį¹
gha-bheda)ā it is said. To what extent is the Community split?ā The Buddha: āThere is the case where they explain not-Dhamma as āDhammaāā¦ Dhamma as ānot-Dhammaāā¦ not-Vinaya as āVinayaāā¦ Vinaya as ānot-Vinayaāā¦ [...] a light offense as āa heavy offenseāā¦ a heavy offense as āa light offenseāā¦ an offense leaving a remainder as āan offense leaving no remainderāā¦ an offense leaving no remainder as āan offense leaving a remainderāā¦ a serious offense as āa not-serious offenseāā¦ a not-serious offense as āa serious offense.ā On the basis of these eighteen grounds they pull away, pull apart, they perform a separate uposatha, perform a separate Invitation, perform a separate Community transaction. To this extent the Community is split.āāCv.VII.5.2
Devadatta caused the first schism on the basic of Vinaya rules. The Vajjian monks caused the second schism on the same ground. The Sangha established by the Sakyamuni was attacked several times from within.
VibhajjavÄdi Dhamma Missions
Emperor Asoka sent forth nine missionaries to nine different countries to propagate the religion of the Buddha and crowned it with success... also the Bhikkuni Sangha in Aparantaka, Suvannabhumi and Ceylon.
Emperor Asoka sent his son and daughter, Arahant Maha
Mahinda Thera and Arahant
Sanghamitta Theri, to Sri Lanka, where the events of
the 3rd Buddhist Council were recorded.
"Arahant Mahinda, who introduced the Buddhadhamma to Sri Lanka, is
the Redactor of the BuddhapĆ„jĆ va in Sinhala Buddhism."
Sri Lanka became a foothold of the Dhamma-Vinaya Tradition.
Suvannabhumi was also a foothold where Thera-vada Buddhism thrives presently.
VibhajjavÄdi Dhamma Paį¹isambhidÄ-ƱÄį¹a
Analytical Knowledge (Paį¹isambhidÄ-ƱÄį¹a) allows the arahants to reason and teach in detail analytically. Understanding the nature of the Teachings of the Buddha and the Sangha, Venerable Moggaliputta Tissa Thera described them as VibhajjavÄdis. That is Theravada, the doctrine of the arahants. Dhamma paį¹isambhidÄ-ƱÄį¹a is the ability to analytically and in detail explain the nature of reality.
The Buddha as an awakened sage is neither a theorist nor a philosopher. Theravada is not philosophy. The Buddha is an arahant.
The Buddha's disciples, who are also arahants, know the Four Noble Truths through their own observation and release from delusion. Knowing modern views and modern science is not their task. They are not philosophers and philosophical scholars. They do not claim to possess omniscience.
[The Buddha advises the monks,] you should answer those wanderers of other sects in this way, āFriends, passion carries little blame and is slow to fade. Aversion carries great blame and is quick to fade. Delusion carries great blame and is slow to fade. [Thanissaro Bhikkhu]
3.1. KaccÄnagotta Sutta (Right View)
KaccÄnagotta Sutta Pali:
āsammÄdiį¹į¹hi sammÄdiį¹į¹hÄ«āti, bhante, vuccati. KittÄvatÄ nu kho, bhante, sammÄdiį¹į¹hi hotÄ«āāti?... āāāSabbaį¹ atthÄ«āti kho, kaccÄna, ayameko anto. āSabbaį¹ natthÄ«āti ayaį¹ dutiyo anto. Ete te, kaccÄna, ubho ante anupagamma majjhena tathÄgato dhammaį¹ deseti ā āavijjÄpaccayÄ saį¹
khÄrÄ; saį¹
khÄrapaccayÄā¦ L. Feer, Saį¹yutta-nikÄya,V. 16 ā[copied from Early Buddhism: A New Definition (Vijitha Kumara, page 130)]
- sammÄdiį¹į¹hi : right view
- What is the right view, bhante?
SarvÄstivÄda
SarvÄstivÄda means "those who claim that everything exists" [...] the SarvÄstivÄdins suggest that "everything," that is all conditioned factors (dharma), "exist" and can exert causal efficacy in the three time periods of the past, present, and future. [Sarvastivada And Mulasarvastivada (Encyclopedia.com)]
The main SarvÄstivÄdi concept '
all dhamma exist in all three times' was familiar to the Buddha, not because He taught it, but because He rejected it.
'Everything exists': That is one extreme. 'Everything doesn't exist': That is a second extreme. Avoiding these two extremes, the Tathagata teaches the Dhamma via the middle: From ignorance as a requisite condition come fabrications (saį¹
khÄrÄ). From fabrications as a requisite condition comes consciousness. [KaccÄnagotta Sutta (SN 12:15) (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)]
Somehow, that concept, despite the Buddha's famous rejection, came to associate with Buddhism once again, not because the Buddha taught it, but the outsiders made it as if the Buddha accepted it.
We, too, must reject the notion of 'everything exists' just the way the Buddha rejected it. The rejection is also present in the paį¹icca samuppÄda, as He explains:
Imagine two sheaves of reeds the one leaning against the other. In the same way consciousness depends on named-shapes, named shapes depend on consciousness [...] birth depends on existing, aging and death depend on birth ā the coming into existence of upset, grief, lamentation, pain and misery. [...] If, however, friend, I were to remove one of those sheaves of reeds one would fall down if I were to remove the other the other would fall down. ā SN 5.67 [Dependant Uprising, Downbound Dependent Own-making (Dependent Origination, Conditioned Genesis, The Causal Law),
The Paį¹icca SamuppÄda provides two sheaves of reeds that support each other, but one of them can be removed to topple them both. When they are toppled, we cannot say
everything exists. The Buddha's Dhamma, which shows us the four Paramattha, is nothing like a
"dharma theory" that was created by the SarvÄstivÄdis.
KaccÄnagotta Sutta continues:
[The Buddha:] By & large, Kaccayana, this world is supported by (takes as its object) a polarity, that of existence & non-existence. But when one sees the origination of the world as it actually is with right discernment, 'non-existence' with reference to the world does not occur to one. When one sees the cessation of the world as it actually is with right discernment, 'existence' with reference to the world does not occur to one. "By & large, Kaccayana, this world is in bondage to attachments, clingings (sustenances), & biases
3.2. VibhajyavÄda & The Present Dhamma
The Tibetan Buddhist Encyclopedia:
vibhajyavÄda; A school of thought doctrinally opposed to the SarvÄstitvÄda. holds that the present dharma-s alone exist. However, some among them like the followers of the KÄÅyapÄ«ya, concede that the past karma that have not yet given fruit (adatta-phala) can also be said to exist.
Here is a part of
Magganga Dipani by Ledi Sayadaw:
kammassakata samma-ditthi Sabbesatta kammadayada, kamayoni, kammabandhu kammappatisarana yam kammam karissanti kalyanam va papakam va tassadayada bhavissanti. Sabbe satta kammassaka: There exist such properties as elephants, horses, vehicles, cattle, fields, buildings, gold, silver, jewels, etc. Those properties can be said to belong to us in the present existence before we pass away. But when we pass away those properties do not accompany us beyond death. They are like properties which we borrow for some time for our use. They are liable to destruction during the present existence. As those properties which beings possess do not accompany them to their new existences, they cannot be claimed as properties belonging to those beings. The Buddha therefore said, 'sabbe satta kammassaka.' The only property of all beings that accompanies them is their own volitional action... [Ledi Sayadaw explains the entire thing here.]
- Venerable Mogok Sayadaw warned us to avoid sassata ditthi, the belief in permanence (nicca), 'eternity-belief'. Based on his explanation: A kamma (action) exists while it is happening between the start and the end. For example, feeding an animal: this action exists only while that animal is fed. That action cannot exist before and after that animal is fed. However, as if following the doers, the potential effect of certain wholesome and unwholesome kamma (volition) is inevitable.
Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta
Furthermore, bhikkhus, this is the dukkha ariyaĀ·sacca: jÄti is dukkha, jarÄ is dukkha (sickness is dukkha) maraį¹a is dukkha, association with what is disliked is dukkha, dissociation from what is liked is dukkha, not to get what one wants is dukkha; in short, the five upÄdÄna'k'khandhas are dukkha.
- The Buddha introduced the Dukkha Sacca in His first sermon.
- Vedayita-dukkha: The truth is dukkha are birth, aging, death, association with what is disliked, dissociation from what is liked, and not to get what one wants.
- Bhayattha-dukkha: The truth is the constant fear of these dukkha is also dukkha.
- Due to the past wholesome and unwholesome kamma, one gets birth, aging, death, etc.
- However, Beings born in the sugati-loka do not suffer from birth, aging, and bodily pain (kayika-dukkha), as these dukkha do not exist there.
- The past unwholesome kamma do not affect these beings during their existence in sugati-loka, especially the arupa-brahmas.
- The Buddha understood the followers of Nigaį¹į¹ha (the Nigaį¹į¹has) did not know the existence of the sugati-loka. Thus, they were speculators who fell into sassatavada (eternalism) and ucchedavada (nihilism/annihilation). Details can be read here: The Buddhist Critique of Sassatavada and Ucchedavada: The Key to a proper Understanding of the Origin and the Doctrines of early Buddhism (Y. Karunadasa).
- In the Devadaha Sutta, the Buddha pointed out the mistakes of these Nigaį¹į¹has.
Devadaha Sutta (the Law of Kamma)
[MN 101] āāSo, friends, it seems that you donāt know that you existed in the past, and that you did not not existā¦ you donāt know what is the abandoning of unskillful qualities and the attainment of skillful qualities in the here & now. That being the case, it is not proper for you to assert that, āWhatever a person experiencesāpleasure, pain, or neither pleasure nor paināall is caused by what was done in the past. Thus, with the destruction of old [kamma] through asceticism, and with the non-doing of new actions, there will be no flow into the future. With no flow into the future, there is the ending of [kamma]. With the ending of [kamma], the ending of [dukkha]. With the ending of [dukkha], the ending of feeling. With the ending of feeling, all [dukkha] will be exhausted.ā (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)
- If the present is completely conditioned by the past [kamma] and if we could not break that condition to do new kamma in a condition not determined by the past, then at this present we could not even do anything intentionally (kamma) as our action would be restrained by the past kamma.
A VibhajjavÄdi cannot accept
SarvÄstivÄda's notion of the three times:
all dharmas exist in the past, present and future, the "three times".
Past and future exist at this present moment implies they merge with the present time. Yesterday and tomorrow are today and they are so every day without meaning one can live yesterday and tomorrow today. If one's injury healed yesterday, both injury and healing exist today, right now. For three times doctrine (SarvÄstivÄda), dead people are dead, alive and exist at all stages and every moment of time. Even though one has reborn countless times, one still lives in the past lives and also the future lives. One has lived the past infinity and the future infinity. As the future has also been lived, there is no way to change the future, so what will happen will happen ā according to the God one believes. After one passes away, one will relive the same life again and again countless times in the past and the future. Someone who will become a Buddha is already a Buddha. Someone who will go to hell is already in hell while living this life as a human.
Rational and irrational people, including the physicists, philosophers, writers and filmmakers, took the doctrine of three times seriously and imagined time machines.
Assuming kamma (action) exists constantly (past, present and future) constitutes sassata ditthi (
eternalism). Assuming actions and their effects do not exist constitutes ahetukaditthi (
view of uncausedness) ā see the 8th question on page181 of this book:
Milindapanha: kammaphalaatthibhavapanha. King Milinda asked many questions about
kamma. The answers of wisemen and philosophers of the time did not satisfy the king. He got the answers only when he met Venerable Nagasena; see A SEARCH FOR THE LEARNED (TALENT HUNT), pages12-16.
Venerable Nagasena explained how the future is yet to exist:
Can anyone point out the fruits that a tree has not yet produced, saying: āHere they are, there they areā?ā [See 3.2. QUESTION REGARDING VALIDITY OF FRUIT AND RESULT OF WHOLESOME AND UNWHOLESOME]
Real is the present; the past is gone; the future is yet to exist. That is the knowledge of the arahants. Every action has the process of existence: birth, decay and death. Understanding
anicca can abandon
sakkaya ditthi.
Sakkaya ditthi is a sense with which one perceives a nama-rupa complex as me, you, he, she, it, cat, dog and so on.
Right View according to the Sakyamuni
The Buddha and His disciples visited
VesÄli, the capital of the Vajjians, several times, and many
arahants were made there. Saccaka, who the Buddha addressed as Aggivessana, was a famous Jain teacher of the
Licchavi rÄjÄs. They accompanied Saccaka when he went to challenge the Buddha. There a famous debate on anattavada occurred, as recorded in the famous Cula-Saccaka Sutta.
[The Buddha asked,] āWell, Aggivessana, when you say that [rÅ«pa] is self, do you have power over that [rÅ«pa]. Can you have your [rÅ«pa] be any different than it is?ā Saccaka could not answer and remained silent [...] āReleased they are endowed with unsurpassed Right View, unsurpassed practice, and unsurpassed release. Released, they honor and respect the Tathagata in this manner: The Buddha teaches the Dhamma for awakening (to Four Noble Truths), the Buddha teaches the Dhamma to develop restraint, the Buddha teaches the Dhamma for developing tranquility, the Buddha teaches the Dhamma for ending samsara (ignorance). The Buddha teaches the Dhamma for total unbinding.ā (John Haspel).
- [rūpa]: The four mahabhuta (solid, liquid, gas, heat), each changes according to its nature.
- Self (atta) means the owner or arbitor of the five aggregates of clinging.
- do you have power over that [rūpa]: None of the five aggregates is self (atta).
- VesÄli became a Buddhist capital after the debate. But not all the Nigaį¹į¹has were happy. Their attack on the Buddha and the Sangha never stopped. They succeeded only after a few centuries later.
3.3. QUESTION REGARDING VALIDITY OF FRUIT AND RESULT OF WHOLESOME AND UNWHOLESOME
(kammaphalaatthibhavapanha page181) 8. King Milinda said: āIf, O Venerable Nagasena, with the (present) Mind-body-complex (nama-rupa) either wholesome or unwholesome kammical actions were performed where will the fruit and result of those actions (kamma) be located?ā āThe fruit and result of kammical actions tend to follow the Mind-body-complex, O King, like a shadow that never leaves it.ā (So replied the Elder.) āNow what do you think, O King? Can any one point out the fruits which a tree has not yet produced, saying: āHere they are, there they areā?ā (So asked the Elder.) āNot possible it is, O Venerable One.ā (So replied the king.)
- Shadow means the potential. As long as the tree exists, the potential of fruiting of that tree exists. The fruits will be on that tree, not elsewhere. The potential never leaves the tree.
- Mahayana created the concept of ÄlayavijƱÄna (storehouse consciousness).
- ÄlayavijƱÄna is also regarded as the store house of vÄsanas and karmic tendencies (vÄsanÄparibhÄvita and sarvabÄ«jaka). However, it is neither the permanent identity of a person nor a form of collective unconscious. Continuous build-up and discharge of karmic tendencies cause the ever-changing nature of Älaya-vijƱÄna. [Wisdom Lib]
- Compare ÄlayavijƱÄna with indestructable buddha-nature. Buddha-nature is also vijƱÄna/citta. Awareness is Buddha-nature.
- [Breakthrough Sermon, Bodhidharma:] The Sutra of the Ten Stages says, āIn the body of mortals is the indestructible buddha-nature [...] Our buddha-nature [the self-nature of Buddha] is awareness: to be aware and to make others aware. To realize awareness is liberation.
- beĀcause garbha (which nearly always means 'embryo' in Sanskrit) is translated by ts'ang, ( = 'womb'; lit. 'storehouse'), a certain vacuum was created in the Chinese vocabulary which the terms fo hsing and fo hsin ( = buddha-citta) neatly filled. [Rawlinson, Andrew. "The Ambiguity of the Buddha-Nature Concept in India and China."]
- ÄlayavijƱÄna belongs to or a part of buddha-nature (buddha-citta).
- According to the concept of citta-matrata
THE NIYAMA-DIPANI The Manual of Cosmic Order Mahathera Ledi Sayadaw [Kamma-Niyama] The moral order--Kamma (action) is that by which men execute, deeds, good or evil, meritorious or the opposite. What is it ? It is volition (cetana), moral or immoral. We are told in the Pali texts: 'By action, Bhikkhus, I mean volition. It is through having willed that a man does something in the form of deed, speech or thought.'
The nama-rupa process, which occurs according to the law of
paticcasamuppada (PratÄ«tya-SamutpÄda), is like a tree; See 2.3. PATICCASAMUPPADA. The nama-rupa process, which occurs due to the niyama(s) other than kamma niyama, is outside the law of paticcasamuppada but not unrelated.
Naked Kassapa
The ascetic Acelakassapa put forward four theories of origination of suffering and wanted to know Buddhaās answer to them. [Dependent Origination and the Buddhist Theory of Relativity (Kottegoda S. Warnasuriya (page 154)]
"'He who performs the act also experiences [the result]' ā what you, Kassapa, first called 'suffering caused by oneself' ā this amounts to the Eternalist[3] theory. [Acela Sutta: Naked Kassapa]
An action was done by a doer, not someone else. However, the doer and the action (kamma) can exist only during the action is being done, not before or after. The doer happens to exist because of doing. The doer and doing exists at the same time. Action and doer don't exist outside doing or before or after the action is done.
Saying there is no doer falls into ahetukavada and probably uccedavada, too, as 'no doer' means 'nobody is responsible' to take the consequences. When the action is done, it becomes a seed that grows into a tree (as nama-rupa process) according to the paticcasamuppada law. The fruiting or consequences of volition (kamma/seed) will appear on this tree.
Of Causal Genesis [Mahathera Ledi Sayadaw (contrinues)]
Paticcasamuppada is
Causal Genesis or
Dependent Origination (Process). The key words are
depdendent and
process. The process depends on the action done by the doer, which no longer exists by the next stage of the process. For example, a sound comes out after the drummer hit a drum with a drumstick. The birth of the sound is dependent on the hitting process, but the sound itself is independent to be in the law of impermanenceāno butterfly-effect here.
That is how things exist, but not "everything exists".
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2024.05.15 05:16 treasurestreasure Is my family verbally abusing me?
I'm a 20 year old and I live with my mother. My parents are divorced and I know nothing about my father's side of family as I was very young when it happened. My father is from a "low caste" (as they call it) and my family had not approved the marriage but my mom still got married and lived separately for sometime. My father was abusive towards my mother and was a drunkard. He had a wife about whom he had not told my mother. My mother stayed there for a while and then eventually decided to leave. My mother's family gave their reaction.. they said things like, "we told her and she didn't listen. She deserves that." My mother took me and we lived in a rented place for years. It was just me and her. There was no one to take care of me while she was in office and so she would leave me at my friend's place. I would stay there as soon as I got back from school or when I had holidays. Finally years later, when I was 7 or 8, my mother took me to see her family. I remember the look in their eyes. They didn't even bother if I was there (they = my mother's 1st younger sister. She had 3 sisters). I could not understand what they were talking about so I don't remember. I was very naughty and stubborn back then. I was a revolting kind of kid and I did receive some lessons from my mother to make things straight. But as time went by, I went to visit the grandparents and my uncles. They were nice. I had one more aunt (my mother's youngest sister) who lived abroad, I met her as well. Now idk why but whenever I made a mistake or something they would indirect bring up my father. They would say things like "you are his daughter afterall." Even if I had just made a small mistake. At first I didn't feel anything but looking at my other cousin brother, they didn't say anything to him even if he made a mistake. I used to envy him and kind of felt left out. I used to go to a boarding school and so I only came back home for my vacation. There were no phones allowed there so when I got home, I would listen to music, dance, watch movies and videos. My family members would give me a "you are too much. What is she even doing her" kind of look to me every single time. I would visit my grandparents place and I would always feel left out. Maybe I was just expecting too much from them. Now I was a teenager when things got worse. I had an argument with my mother once and my first aunt (let's call her aunt A) Aunt A called my other aunt (the abroad one.. let's call her aunt B) aunt B and told her all nonsense. You know when you tend to make things bigger, you mix up all kinds of spices and what not just to make that a big issue.. that is what my aunt did. Aunt B called me and scolded me for no reason because of all the other additional things Aunt A had told her. This happened a couple of times. My mother got sick and had to go to Delhi for treatment and Aunt A went with her. The other family members took me in that time and would help me get to my hostel, bring me home for holidays and took care of me. My cousin brother's mother was also sick a few months earlier but she had returned home. One morning I told my grandmother that I wanted to talk to my mother but she refused so I took the phone secretly and called my mom. She said she had reached and told me not to worry. But when my other family members found out that I had called my mom, they all started scolding me. "Your cousin brother is a god-like kid. He never called or asked for his mother. While you, you have the behaviour of your father. You will eat your mother alive someday." I was 9 or 10 years old then.
I got into high school and the same thing happened. I would have a little argument, Aunt A would eavesdrop our conversation and add things up and say it to Aunt B. Aunt B would come home for festivals and would scold the hell out of me. She would compare me with all the other kids in the area and especially my cousin brother. One time I had opened a Facebook account and they found out. They literally stalked me account and called my mother and told her that I had only men in my friend list. She said, "Your daughter does not have a pure blood. She is her father's daughter afterall. She is impure and I know she is up yo something bad." (Basically she tried to tell my mom that I would hook up with boys just like my father had married his wives). Time went on and they said what not. "We are your family only till your mother is alive. After that you go do whatever you want." "If you do this, if you do that, remember we are not your family. Don't call us that time." If they heard me sharing my problems with my mother, they would say "You are going to kill your mother. She is sick because of you." One time I was separating my old and new clothes and my mother was also there sitting in the sofa near me. I was tossing of my old clothes near the door so that it would be easier but then the next day after my classes I got a call from Aunt B. She told me that I had done the most terrible thing ever. Someone told her that I threw my clothes at my mother's face. She said "I love my sister (my mom) but seems like you will never love her." I was so done. She also blamed me for talking bad about my other cousins when I hadn't even done that. I used to joke with my mom saying that she cares for my younger cousins way more when I am away in hostel. But that thing took a turn. Still they tell me a lot of things. "You are showing your father's behaviour" this one is the most common one. I am a short-tempered, stubborn kid and I accept it. I could be at fault, too (and I do apologise for that). They call me "Kami", this might be a very communal thing to bring out, but yeah, it's basically what you call a SC if you are in a Nepali community. They sometimes use it to mock people as well. My family does that. I don't want to feel like way and try to be as optimistic as possible, but it is like that because for the same mistakes that are made by my other cousins, they never said anything. Every mistake, every situation, every argument, I am the bad guy. Why? Because my father who left years ago, when I couldn't even remember his face, was a drunkard, cheated on my mom and hated my mom's family because they did not like him and I am his daughter. The only person with a different title/surname in the family. What should I believe? Is it verbal abuse? Or? Please, someone tell me.
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2024.05.15 05:15 treasurestreasure Is my family verbally abusing me?
I'm a 20 year old and I live with my mother. My parents are divorced and I know nothing about my father's side of family as I was very young when it happened. My father is from a "low caste" (as they call it) and my family had not approved the marriage but my mom still got married and lived separately for sometime. My father was abusive towards my mother and was a drunkard. He had a wife about whom he had not told my mother. My mother stayed there for a while and then eventually decided to leave. My mother's family gave their reaction.. they said things like, "we told her and she didn't listen. She deserves that." My mother took me and we lived in a rented place for years. It was just me and her. There was no one to take care of me while she was in office and so she would leave me at my friend's place. I would stay there as soon as I got back from school or when I had holidays. Finally years later, when I was 7 or 8, my mother took me to see her family. I remember the look in their eyes. They didn't even bother if I was there (they = my mother's 1st younger sister. She had 3 sisters). I could not understand what they were talking about so I don't remember. I was very naughty and stubborn back then. I was a revolting kind of kid and I did receive some lessons from my mother to make things straight. But as time went by, I went to visit the grandparents and my uncles. They were nice. I had one more aunt (my mother's youngest sister) who lived abroad, I met her as well. Now idk why but whenever I made a mistake or something they would indirect bring up my father. They would say things like "you are his daughter afterall." Even if I had just made a small mistake. At first I didn't feel anything but looking at my other cousin brother, they didn't say anything to him even if he made a mistake. I used to envy him and kind of felt left out. I used to go to a boarding school and so I only came back home for my vacation. There were no phones allowed there so when I got home, I would listen to music, dance, watch movies and videos. My family members would give me a "you are too much. What is she even doing her" kind of look to me every single time. I would visit my grandparents place and I would always feel left out. Maybe I was just expecting too much from them. Now I was a teenager when things got worse. I had an argument with my mother once and my first aunt (let's call her aunt A) Aunt A called my other aunt (the abroad one.. let's call her aunt B) aunt B and told her all nonsense. You know when you tend to make things bigger, you mix up all kinds of spices and what not just to make that a big issue.. that is what my aunt did. Aunt B called me and scolded me for no reason because of all the other additional things Aunt A had told her. This happened a couple of times. My mother got sick and had to go to Delhi for treatment and Aunt A went with her. The other family members took me in that time and would help me get to my hostel, bring me home for holidays and took care of me. My cousin brother's mother was also sick a few months earlier but she had returned home. One morning I told my grandmother that I wanted to talk to my mother but she refused so I took the phone secretly and called my mom. She said she had reached and told me not to worry. But when my other family members found out that I had called my mom, they all started scolding me. "Your cousin brother is a god-like kid. He never called or asked for his mother. While you, you have the behaviour of your father. You will eat your mother alive someday." I was 9 or 10 years old then.
I got into high school and the same thing happened. I would have a little argument, Aunt A would eavesdrop our conversation and add things up and say it to Aunt B. Aunt B would come home for festivals and would scold the hell out of me. She would compare me with all the other kids in the area and especially my cousin brother. One time I had opened a Facebook account and they found out. They literally stalked me account and called my mother and told her that I had only men in my friend list. She said, "Your daughter does not have a pure blood. She is her father's daughter afterall. She is impure and I know she is up yo something bad." (Basically she tried to tell my mom that I would hook up with boys just like my father had married his wives). Time went on and they said what not. "We are your family only till your mother is alive. After that you go do whatever you want." "If you do this, if you do that, remember we are not your family. Don't call us that time." If they heard me sharing my problems with my mother, they would say "You are going to kill your mother. She is sick because of you." One time I was separating my old and new clothes and my mother was also there sitting in the sofa near me. I was tossing of my old clothes near the door so that it would be easier but then the next day after my classes I got a call from Aunt B. She told me that I had done the most terrible thing ever. Someone told her that I threw my clothes at my mother's face. She said "I love my sister (my mom) but seems like you will never love her." I was so done. She also blamed me for talking bad about my other cousins when I hadn't even done that. I used to joke with my mom saying that she cares for my younger cousins way more when I am away in hostel. But that thing took a turn. Still they tell me a lot of things. "You are showing your father's behaviour" this one is the most common one. I am a short-tempered, stubborn kid and I accept it. I could be at fault, too (and I do apologise for that). They call me "Kami", this might be a very communal thing to bring out, but yeah, it's basically what you call a SC if you are in a Nepali community. They sometimes use it to mock people as well. My family does that. I don't want to feel like way and try to be as optimistic as possible, but it is like that because for the same mistakes that are made by my other cousins, they never said anything. Every mistake, every situation, every argument, I am the bad guy. Why? Because my father who left years ago, when I couldn't even remember his face, was a drunkard, cheated on my mom and hated my mom's family because they did not like him and I am his daughter. The only person with a different title/surname in the family. What should I believe? Is it verbal abuse? Or? Please, someone tell me.
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2024.05.15 05:13 steveeperry A Warning about Digital libraries
Hi all
I've been an oculus consumer since the release of the 1st dev kit (DK1) back in 2013. Then a few years later I bought the Oculus rift and a few years after that bought a Quest and then made the upgrade to the Quest 2 when that launched.
Im feeling like a fool right now cause I have spent not only thousands of dollars on hardware but also software during my time.
Last week someone hacked my Facebook account while I was asleep. They managed to somehow get pass my 2FA, email and text security measures. In the hour or so they were in my account, Facebook noticed something was going on as whoever was in my account was doing it from overseas, I'm based in Australia.
Facebook has ended up deleting my account which in turn deleted my meta account thus washing away all the purchases I've ever made.
I have tried contacting meta to get my account back but they say I breached community guidelines (was not me it was the hacker) and cannot reinstate my account.
I'm so disappointed that it's come to this. The fact that everything had to be linked to one account and then suddenly destroyed while asleep. Thousands of dollars burned away.
While I walk away from this experience incredibly pissed off and sad, I will say that the oculus hardware was always amazing. Every headset I've used over the 10+ years from oculus have been life altering when consuming entertainment.
From now on I will no longer be buying anything from meta. I will continue to recommend it to friends and family with the harsh recommendation to make a separate meta account to avoid my outcome.
Another victim of not owning your digital library.
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2024.05.15 04:58 i_am_randy I've been running open tables at local game stores for the past 11 years. Here is how I made it happen.
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Radiant_Situation_32 asked for a post about how I was successful doing it. I'll try to keep this as brief as possible and then answer questions in the comments if anyone has any. (If anyone is even interested.) The biggest factors in my success are the last 3 bullets. AMA I guess?
- I started with Pathfinder Society in 2013. The first time I ever played a game it was an open, public table.
- The first time I ever ran a game was a Pathfinder Society table. I only ran the game because the GM ghosted the 6 players that showed up to play. I went into it completely unprepared having never seen the module until I picked it up to start running it. The players helped and were very understanding.
- After spending some time with Pathfinder Society I decided that the rules in Pathfinder were too restrictive. I got into an argument with the Venture Captain for the area about how many people I was allowed to have at the table and never ran PFS again.
- I missed that open table feel so I went looking for something else. I came across Dungeon Crawl Classics. I got a free copy of the full rulebook on Free RPG Day. I read it and LOVED it, but no one in my area was playing it.
- I decided to steal Pathfinder Society's model and start running local open tables for DCC. (Unaware at the time that Goodman Games has an organized play program called Road Crew).
- I partnered with a local game store and got permission to run my game. I advertised here on Reddit in my city's local sub, I advertised in a meetup for local gamers, and I posted on Facebook in a local geeks community group. That first game 3 people showed up. 2 of them were there because they are good friends and didn't want to see me fail at this new idea. The other guy saw the ad in the geek group and decided to come out. (I haven't seen him at a game since). So my first DCC game was 3 people. SUCCESS!
- I enjoyed it so much I did it again a month later. That time I advertised in all the same places and had close to 25 people show up. I guess showing it was on a regular schedule made people believe in it more. I found 2 other players willing to run games and we split the tables up as best we could.
- DCC was so popular I expanded to doing it twice a month. Then eventually ever Saturday. The other players were not willing to run games other than occasionally, so I dealt with it. Sometimes dealing with it meant running for 14 players at the same time. It sucked. It was awful, but not a single player got turned away. (Which was with my argument with the head of Pathfinder Society was about. I wanted too many players at my table according to PFS rules.)
- I expanded to running twice a week at the local game store. One weekend day, one week day.
- Shortly after my switch to twice a month I started a local Facebook group called Reno Dungeon Crawlers. I used that to advertise and find people to play in my games. (The group currently sits at 1200 members.)
- I allowed other people to find players and referees in the group. This helped expand my reach. My group is by far the most popular locally in terms of finding an RPG game. We have groups running games almost every day of the week who find players in that group.
- Since starting the group and running games on a regular basis I've run a number of different games. Metamorphosis Alpha, Original D&D, Swords & Wizardry (several different variations), Paranoia, Mork Borg, Old-School Essentials, OSRIC, and a bunch more I'm probably forgetting.
- My last completed campaign was a 2.5 year OSE campaign. I had a home brew world and used the hex map from the Isle of Dread to let the players hex crawl. When we finished that campaign they had established their own stronghold.
- Unless I was deathly ill, or the roads were no good (we get a lot of snow here) I never cancelled a game. I firmly believe this is a huge part of my success.
- I never turn away a player who wants to play. Even if I have too many players I ask them to bear with me and help me make it work. People are generally accommodating.
- On the converse side I never don't run the game. If a game is scheduled I run it, even if only 2 people show up, I run it. We make it work.
The bottom line is if you want it to be successful, you have to be dedicated to it and put in the work. The only time I haven't had active, public, open play tables is during covid when the store was shut down to gatherings. The weekend it opened back up I was masked up with my players back in the store.
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2024.05.15 04:58 TWK_Events_DJs NJ Wedding DJ reviews TWK Events Entertainment - Hiring The Right Entertainment
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2024.05.15 04:36 Ozjenflda From Facebook to Google Ads
Hi ! First time posting here.
I just made my first store, Iāve been making sales (179ā¬ for 272ā¬ spent on ads, nothing crazy yet) and I have fairly good numbers on facebook except for the CPM but oh well. My problem is, for exemple today I had over 100 visits but I feel like most of them are bots. I can see that by checking the average session duration, which is 0 for most of them. Therefore I wanted to know if I would have more luck advertising on google, even if I have to hire a freelance (please donāt bother sending me your services). Thanks !
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2024.05.15 04:33 kitkatthebrat How likely is it that I am being scammed? Never used FBM before. Please help.
I posted a diamond and silver necklace on FBM, I really need the money so I posted it. I have a guy who wrote me asking to buy it. I thought it was strange that he didnāt ask to bring the amount down at all. He asked if I can ship it and said itās for his nieces graduation. He said he was sending me a check. He sent through usps and the tracking number says itās in my city and should be here tomorrow. He then said he got me mixed up with someone else and that he accidentally sent me like $600 more than he was supposed to and asked if I will please send back the extra amount. I said of course I willā¦ Anyway we got to talking some and I said how I recently lost my job so thatās why Iām selling my things like jewelry, car, house, etc. and he said keep the extra amount. To me that sounds ridiculous and extreme. I keep trying to figure out if he is a scammer. He has sold things on there, or at least it says he has. His facebook was created in 2024, but so was mine! lol so, I guess I canāt say anything about that. Well, I keep hoping itās real because Iām desperate for money obviously. But if I get the check and cash it, then what? If I get a check, how can I make sure Iām protected?
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2024.05.15 04:29 Garlic8317 AITAH for being upset with my mother after she unloaded a bunch of bombshells on me?
There's a lot to explain, and I'm pretty sure that the title doesn't do this situation justice. This is also a throwaway acc- I don't want a suddenly depressing post getting cozy with all my memes and cheery content.
A little backstory- I (16F, Soph) have had bad blood with my mom (36F) for a while, since around the 7th grade. My grades have been iffy, but since freshman year I've been working to fix them. Third quarter, I had an extremely low point. Every day was a haze and I can't remember what sent me through it, and when I snapped out of it, it was too late to change anything. I had straight F's, all except for one of my math classes, which I don't even understand how I managed to maintain. These have plummeted my semester grade, but I've fixed some of them, evened them out to high D's, low C's, and a B. Two of them are unsalvageable, which is completely my fault. I'm still working to raise one more up to a D in the semester.
This all "started" a couple of weeks ago, but I'm guessing it's been building since my last parent teacher confrence. My mother had sat us down in the living room last saturday and informed my sisters (11F and 13F) and I that we were moving, and she's putting our trailer up for sale the first of next month. She said where we find a place is where we will move, so I can't even prepare myself for what I should expect. The main issues I have with moving are;
1- I had to go through it a lot when I was younger and had a really unstable social life, most likely the root of my current social anxiety.
2- I'm nearly an adult- I'm halfway through highschool. It's not going to be easy for me to make new friends in a social climate I have no prior existence in, let alone be able to keep the friends I could potentially make when they move on for college in 2 years. Don't get me wrong, I'd still stay in contact with the friends I have where I'm at, but when you have no friends in the area you live in, it's rough.
3- When I was younger, she promised me that I'd be able to finish my edjucation here, even college if I chose any of them in my area. I know it's stupid to hang on the words of a promise, that things change and promises sometimes can't be held up, but it still hurts being ripped away when I was nearly done with highschool.
My sisters got excited and started looking for new places immediately. I know our place isn't a dream, but we came here, owning nothing but a car. I started the third grade in this town and have been here since. This is my childhood home since the age of nine, I don't remember any other houses we rented. We actually own this trailer too- we're not just renting it from someone. I helped build my own room out of an off limits area when I was 11. It's not perfect, but it's most of what I've known. So are my friends. I can't count how many I've kept since the start of middle school, even if they transfered.
Even if I don't want to leave, I'm no angel. My room is dirty almost all the time, I can't see the floor because of a bunch of dirty clothes. That's one of the reasons my mom is holding against me to make it seem unreasonable that I'm upset about moving- "You don't appreciate your own room." I have no excuse for the way my room looks. It just feels like im paralyzed on my bed afterschool and on the weekends, I'm just tired. I don't know whether or not I'm lazy, isn't being lazy supposed to be enjoyable, at least for the short term in the moment?
The other reason she's giving me are my grades. As stated before, those aren't perfect either, but I'm trying. I've even taken steps to enroll myself into summer school to recover the credits I missed this year. Sure, I have flaws, but does that mean I'm not allowed to be upset over moving at such a crucial developmental point in my life? I'm not even arguing with her about it, all I'm doing is expressing how I feel- I'm not even saying anything to her, I said my piece when she sat us down. I'm just grieving.
Earlier today, she picked me up, everything seemed normal. Then she told me she had a conversation with my dad, (39M), who's out of the picture, but still communicating. She told me that he and her discussed about things continuing "the way I'm taking them." She said if I don't change, she's just going to pull me out of school and make me get my GED. She said she was worried I was going to ruin my career. A GED isn't bad, by all means, but I want an actual diploma. I want to be there with everyone else, dressed in a solid color robe, celebrating the fact that we made it. I won't have the advantages of any early social life at all in the area. I've heard adults say it's hard to make friends once you graduate, and I don't want to be thrown into that early, while being in a new area all at the same time.
I was thinking about all this in the car and cried. I don't think I can take much more of this. It's like she wants my life to follow a certain track, and I'm derailing her train. She dropped out her sophmore year to get married and do hard drugs for a while before she had me, so in my personal opinion, I'm doing way better than she ever had. I know it sounds harsh, and maybe I am being harsh, but when you hear the same story shoved down your throat over and over and over since the 3rd grade, and now said story has been turned into a weapon, it kind of gets redundant to you.
My mom tried cheering me up while we were out for a bit after dropping that by trying to show me facebook memes and telling me funny things my guinea pigs did to eachother that day, but I gave her the cold shoulder the entire time, so now she's pissed. I didn't even say anything, she just started spouting that "I hated her" and "I'm gonna cut her out of my life when I'm older", "I'd rather see her dead than talk with her."
The first two are at least half true at this point, she's been nothing but a source of harsh criticism for years of my life, barely any encouragement or pride in me, if anything at all. If she keeps doing that, I might end up hating her and cutting contact, which just hurts to think about. I don't want to cut contact with the only parent that raised me, even if she didn't raise me well. I still love her at the end of the day, and I think I hate that more than I hate her.
I don't know if this is all just incoherent rambling at this point, I've been crying through 2/3 of the way through this I think. I know I'm not a saint, and I'm at least a partial asshole, but am I completely at fault for this? Did I fall into being a moody, hormonal teen that hates their parents for no reason on accident? AITA?
TLDR: AITA if I'm upset over my mom making me move in the middle of attending high school, on top of threatening to pull me out of school all together for "the sake of my career"?
If you have any questions, feel free to ask. I just need help.
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2024.05.15 04:27 intertwinable he'll be home in 10 minutes but I finally cut off contact.. again.
We're long distance after my parents kicked him out of the house in April due to the fact he lied about being married while with me. We got married, the next day it was annulled because his wife and kids popped up on Facebook. Which he denied relentlessly, he was my first relationship, my first kiss, my first everything.
I had been saving myself for marriage, he was my first real relationship. We had met online through a mutual friend, been together for over a year and.. So fourth.
He's been abusive in every possible way you could imagine, physically he's strangled me, raped me on multiple occasions saying I gave mixed signals and was asking for it because I never fought back or said no (I have a history of childhood sa, so I freeze) meanwhile I'd be sobbing hysterically and go completely nonverbal and dissociate each time he forced himself onto me.
Found out he wa married the entire time and I had no idea, I'm also disabled so financially he took care of my needs.
As I write this I just got notified he returned home and I'm absolutely shivering in fear, though we're long distance now he still has a hold over me. Threatening to leak my nudes, dox me and show up and kidnap me (course he's mad. these threats verbally so I have no proof). Otherwise threatens to end his life altogether if I don't comply with his wishes.
I'm really scared. I hope this will be it, I've tried leaving so many times over this year, and broke up so many times and he always reels me back in. I blocked him on everything but.. He still always finds ways, making new emails, burner numbers and so fourth.
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2024.05.15 04:22 Dantropy 24M Looking for someone special to watch all Ghibli films with and read banned books! :3
Hey! I'm Nush! I'm looking for someone to share myself with, shower them with love, and do fun stuff together!
I feel like I'm emotionally in a place where I can work towards building a relationship which hopefully would last forever, and I'm really excited to meet someone new and share experiences with!
I understand the importance of persistent effort in maintaining a relationship and I'm more than willing to go beyond whatever is expected for people I love! I'm just trying to be the best version of myself, for myself and for you. Here's a lil information about me, if I seem interesting to you, I'd love to talk to you and know you better. :D
A lil info about me!
š- (Make a mental avatar of me) I'm 6 feet, Indian. I have dark brown eyes, short wavy black hair with brown streaks, I'm pretty athletic in my build, broad shoulders, long legs. My aesthetic constantly oscillates between nerd and stripper.
š I'm an author and a poet. I like keeping things, ideas and people immortal in my work. I'd like to think of myself as a hope collector, who likes to collect abandoned hope, repurpose it, and make it into something you would want to have in your life.
š¤Æ The only high class meme enthusiast. This is a consequence of being on the internet for far too long. From tacky Facebook memes to Gen Z humor, you can bet I will be gasping for air.
š I'm really passionate about the environment, and I'm very eco-friendly. I love guerilla gardening and being a rebel against the capitalist system. I'm always open to having a healthy discussion/debate even on things I don't agree upon.
š® I love cooking! I'm always looking forward to learning new cuisines! I also like to grow most of my ingredients. I'd say food is one of my love languages!
ā I really like anime, I've had this weird generational habit of collecting different rocks (Rockhounding), I hit the gym everyday, I try to be spiritual, and read. One of my recent obsessions has been chess! I'm also fascinated by history and art.
š³ļøāš I'm bisexual and an LGBT ally! I've been in the worst depression and I've made it out. Here to give away all my love. ā¤ļø
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2024.05.15 04:11 RovingVagabond Experiences posting about your illness online?
So Iāve been sick for almost a year now. I count May 16th as my āsickaversaryā because that was the day I woke up feeling like I got hit by a truck and thinking āoh sh*t something is very wrong.ā Still no diagnosis.
In the past year Iāve become unwell enough that Iāve made the difficult decision to leave my full-time job and move back to my hometown to live with my parents & try to find part-time work there.
Hereās the deal: very few people who know me irl know that Iāve been sick. But I know as soon as I move back to my hometown Iām going to run into a lot of old friends/acquaintances who want to ācatch upā.
Iām considering making a good olā Facebook post on my 1-year āsickaversaryā explaining (vaguely) that Iāve been sick but Iām so thankful for everyone whoās made the past year bearable and Iām still learning how to live in my new normal, but Iām optimistic for the future (all true). With the specific addendum of āall unsolicited comments/DMs offering medical advice will be deleted unreadā.
Iām considering this for a few reasons: -Hopefully enough people will see it before I move back so that itāll spare me from having to explain myself & why Iām back in town 1000+ times
-in mentioning that Iām sick I can source new docs in the area from my FB friends once I get my new insurance figured out
-if people are wondering about my illness I can direct them to the FB post and say āthatās all I feel comfortable sharing right now, lets move onā.
-if people I know irl see me walking around town with a mobility aid, hopefully they can remember Iām sick & be less weird about it?
This all sounds good in theory. But Iām a little worried that in posting online to irl people Iām opening myself up to a level of scrutiny I canāt rightly predict right now. Iām afraid this might backfire & create more problems instead of preemptively solving them.
Have you posted about your illness online to people you know irl? How has it gone? Well? Poorly? Would me posting raise awareness in a good way or just create more problems for me?
TL;DR: do I announce on FB that Iām chronically ill now before I move back to my hometown & inevitably run into old friends who want to catch up?
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2024.05.15 04:09 Darren716 Post WWE NXT 5/14/2024 Show Discussion Thread
MATCH RESULTS Winner | Loser | Match Finish | Stipulation |
Sol Ruca | Izzy Dame | Sol Snatcher | Women's North American Championship Qualifier |
OTM w/ Jaida Parker | Edris Enofe and Maliq Blade w/ Brinley Reece | In the Mud | |
Lash Legend w/ Jakara Jackson | Ivy Nile | Big Boot | Women's North American Championship Qualifier |
Je'von Evans w/ Trick Williams | Oro Mensah w/ Jakara Jackson and Lash Legend | Hole in the Road | |
The Good Brothers | Ridge Holland and Riley Osborne w/ Chase U | Roll-Up | |
Lola Vice w/ Shayna Balzer | Carlee Bright | Spinning Backfist | |
Tony D'Angelo w/ The D'Angelo Family | Charlie Dempsey (c) | 2-1 Fisherman Suplex | For the NXT Heritage Cup |
IMPORTANT NOTES - Kickoff with Noam Dar laid out backstage, Meta Four go to check on him with Oro and Jakara blaming Trick for this while Lash says Trick would never do this.
- Backstage Kiana James tells Izzy Dame there's a real she be-friended her over everyone else and says she's going to be a superstar so run NXT while she goes to Run Raw.
- Backstage Ava tells Tony D'Angelo and the family that the tag match for the No Quarter Catch Crew didn't catch and demands to know where Damon and Myles are at. Tony says the ref last week just got a bad case of bronchitis and says they had nothing to do with Damon and Myles going missing. Ava threatens to pull the Heritage Cup match tonight but Tony says that'd be false advertising so instead Ava fines them $20,000 which Arianne pays up with a brown envelope and Tony tells her to spruce up her office a bit.
- Shayna Bazler says all she knows is dominance and as the longest reigning NXT Women's Champion she's interested into who Ava will pick as Roxanne's next opponent. Lola Vice sets her sights on challenging Rox as well but gets ambushed by Karmen who brawls with her off screen.
- In the trainers office Meta Four are told that Noam is out indefinitely after the attack earlier, so Oro steps up to take on Je'von tonight. Noam says he thinks it's Je'von who attacked him earlier and not Trick and Lash believes it's Je'von as well. Miss Jackson starts to ask Lash why she's so quick to believe it isn't Trick but Lash says she doesn't have time for this with her match next.
- Backstage Ridge tells Axiom and Nathan Frazer that he's having fun and says Chase is a hell of a guy and Chase U has a lot in common with him. The Good Brothers enter and says Ridge has a anger problem and he's another main roster talent that needs to get the hell out of NXT. Ridge says he actually was in NXT before. Gallows tells Ridge to find a brother and face them tonight and they'll kick him out of NXT but Anderson says Ridge has no friends.
- Je'von Evans is interviewed and denies attacking Noam and says it doesn't sound like his boy Trick either but regardless he's taking on Oro next and your boy about to get bouncy.
- Carlee Bright runs into Ava and says she wants a match against Lola Vice tonight after she helped break up the fight with Karmen and Lola. Ava says that Carlee really showed out last week in the Combine, finishing 13th, just barely missing the cut and she'll be happy to give her an opportunity tonight.
- Charlie Dempsey says he's been in contact with Damon and Myles and they are on their way despite being in rough shape. He says this cup is stained with the NQCC and he'll beat Tony into an inch of his life to defend it.
- Wes Lee makes his way to the ring. He says the last time he was in this ring with a mic things were a bit different, he was in the darkest place of his life and didn't know if he'd ever be back here. He says everyone knows how much he loves the NXT North American Championship, and losing it set him down a chain reaction that almost ended his career but he missed this! He says two days after his surgery he was walking again, and weeks later he was in the gym with one goal, to get back here. Wes says he was supposed to be out for a year but was able to make it back in 6 months feeling this amazing energy and honestly doesn't know what to say. Oba Femi makes his way out, he says he isn't there to cut him down, instead he is very impressed at the heights Wes brought this title to was extraordinary but he took it as far as he could, and now it is his time to bring it higher than Wes could ever dream of. He says Wes has a heart of a lion, but he is an actual warrior and he is the mountain that Wes can not conquer but guesses Wes still wants a title match. He tells Wes he has to do what he used to and fight for an opportunity. Wes says every checkbox tick, and while he may not check every single box, when that title was in his hands...but gets cut off by Ivar. Ivar says he knows what it is like to come back from a career ending injury and even went through the same spinal surgery Wes did and he had to fight for everything he got and knows Wes isn't afraid to fight too. Ivar says if Wes wants a shot at Oba he wants a shot at Oba too. Josh Briggs comes out and says they're all so emotional with Wes's comeback story and Ivar showing the world who he truly is, but this is a man's game and the fact is that at Stand and Deliver he and Oba tore the house down and they know how close Josh was to winning the title with broken ribs but now he's fully healed. Josh says he'll through Wes and Ivar a bone once he's champion. Oba says they all have compelling arguments and Wes tells him if he is such a ruler then make it a fatal four way. Oba says there's a reason he is a champion and Wes is not and tells them to fight among themselves and the winner will face him.
- Backstage Ridge is interviewed when Chase U approach him and tell him he doesn't have to go in tonight with Andre volunteering Riley to team with Ridge and Thea says it'd be a teachable moment.
- Lexis King says he's been on fire lately and offers to take everything else after the live event this weekend. Jazmine Nyx comes by asking if anyone wants to sign a get well soon card for Jacy Jane but everyone besides Lexis leaves. Lexis says he'll gladly sign for Jamie and agrees to sign anyways. He signs but Jazmine reads it and sees he signed it to Jordan and calls him and idiot once he leaves.
- Lola goes to beat down Carlee after their match but Nattalya and Karmen run down to send Shayna and Lola to the outside. Karmen tells them there's no more running around, if they really are the baddest then they'll face off next week in a tag match.
- Backstage Riley apologizes for losing the tag match tonight, Ridge says it's all good and they just have to trust him. Thea is overjoyed that they can trust Ridge and Andre thanks Riley for giving him a chance.
- Backstage Wes Lee, Ivar, and Josh Briggs are all taken out, the attackers are revealed to be the returning Gallus.
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2024.05.15 04:08 Luk3ling The AI Race and the Case for Stronger Anti-Trust Laws
It seems obvious to me that we're in the middle of an AI revolution, and things are about to get red hot between OpenAI and Google.
The pace of progress is and will continue to be mind-blowing. I'm hoping to see some upsets at some point from one or more of the smaller startups or maybe even brand new orgs that only come together with the advent of big new AI tools..
The speed at which AI is evolving is nuts. Just a few years ago, most people couldn't have imagined the kind of stuff AI can already do. GPT-4o and Google's Gemini are already pushing boundaries we only just found out existed. While the giants battle it out, there's also a bunch of smaller companies and even individuals trying to bring their own game-changing ideas to the table.
Competition is greatāit drives innovation and forces companies to constantly improve.
When competition isn't the rule, we see a few big companies come to dominate, forming monopolies and working to stifle or absorb new ideas. Look at what Facebook did. How many smaller social media startups they scooped up and integrated.
The lack of strong anti-trust laws and poor enforcement has let not just these tech giants grow unchecked, but also other corporations before them. We've seen the further rise of the billionaire class at the expense of real competition and innovation.
Weak anti-trust enforcement has allowed a handful of companies to control entire industries. This not only stifles innovation but also creates huge barriers for new players. The billionaire class is both a symptom and a cause of this problem, widening the gap between the haves and the have-nots.
If we want to see AI reach its full potential and benefit everyone, we're going to need to push for corporate reform. We need stronger anti-trust laws to break up existing monopolies and prevent the formation of new ones. We need to make healthy competition the rule and limit the ability for corporations to consolidate power.
It's not just about giving startups a fair shot; it's about creating an ecosystem where innovation thrives and everyone can reap the benefits of a competitive market. If we don't get it done soon, AI will end up consolidated at the top the same way most other things have been.
The battle between OpenAI and Google is going to be a replay of ages past, where companies had to remain on their toes, ready to react and match each other's offerings.
The speed at which they respond to one another's advancements is a reminder of what other markets looked like before corporate monopolies could simply swallow up the market while simultaneously showing how few major competitors arise in a new market after monopolies have already thrived. (And sometimes:
by design from the very outset)
The rivalry will be a snapshot of how the market used to be for multiple industriesāvibrant, competitive, and full of rapid innovation that can hopefully serve as a reminder of what things can look like in, and as a product of, a more consumer friendly landscape.
What are some steps we can take to drive up support for corporate reform? It seems like doing so will be a necessity if we want the AI Industry to reach it's full potential.
TL;DR: We're in an AI revolution with OpenAI and Google leading the charge. The pace of progress is incredible, and smaller startups are trying to keep up. Competition drives innovation, but without strong anti-trust laws, monopolies stifle it. We need corporate reform to break up monopolies and promote healthy competition for AI to reach its full potential. What steps can we take to support these reforms?
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2024.05.15 04:04 nacoone198118 My parents choose golden children over me and when I call them out they blame me for their phones by existing
I am 42-year-old male have been trying to deal with issues concerning my parents and they are both choosing my brother and sister as their golden children and blame me for all their problems. For the sake of the story my mother will be known as Noreen and my father will be known as Neil. My mother who is in her 60s now when I was born couldn't handle people in walked away from me yet she wants my brother around her always is in contact with him but leaves me ghosted and acts like I don't exist until she needs my help my father chose my middle sister who is his pride and joy and can do no wrong where I and just non-existent I'm worthless in their opinion every time I turn around and I give them my contact information I'm totally ignored I called them out and after 42 years of life they tell me I'm the problem because I exist they went no contact with me I've had the same Facebook and phone number for over 4 years 3 years ago I went and saw them gave them all my contact information and in 3 years they have never reached out I called them out and I told them that they need to f****** have their heads examined and I'm wanting to know am I in the wrong for telling him I'm going no contact with me since they chose to literally abuse me emotionally and mentally and not give a damn because everything I do isn't good enough by their standards because I'm not The Golden child I was the child that was born sickly and I'm the child that tried to get out on their own and do better for him and myself this is what I get after 42 years when I call them out after seeking therapy to figure out why I was never good enough to get their approval every time I f****** turn around they want to make sure that I'm not wanted but when they need help either fixing their brakes or rebuilding something for them or helping them get home from another state they call me they never say they're proud of me they never reach out to me for 3 years I've had no contact with them and they say they can't get a hold of me yet I've had the same Facebook and phone number for over 4 years am I really the a****** for going no contact for calling them out and letting them know.
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