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2017.07.15 06:11 glassofwater9 McMansion Hell

A subreddit about large, cheaply built, suburban homes with design flaws and a lack of architectural integrity also known as “McMansions.” On Thursdays we celebrate the opposite: good suburban architectural design.
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2013.03.01 03:51 JBurto What is this, a subreddit for ants?!?

What is this, a _________ for Ants?? Reddit's Preeminent Subreddit for All Things Tiny and Miniature! (Not about literal ants)
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2024.04.29 06:22 PentaKEN Maroon

What is this place?
Where am I?
Ah, Who's there?
Ugh, why is it wet?
Oh god..I've wept too long.
I hear my voice but it's not me.
Why is it sad?
No, mad...
What do you mean I earned this? All I did was do the right thing.
I acted and recieve consequence?
How is that fair? HOW IS THAT FAIR!?
I acted and this is my consequence.
You won't let me live huh, is that it?
You care to see me fail, is that your grand plan?
Where are you?
There...
There you are. Red and black you are. I knew that all along and I didn't know that all along.
Creation befell me, you came from the smoke I saw the signs and I ran away. Thinking you'd vanish.
There you are. Red and black you are. I made you and I shouldn't have made you.
Tell me, where's that purpose, huh? You live to hate now and you throw that hate upon me. You have nothing left to occupy your time.
There you are. Red and black you are. I feel bad for you and I can't feel bad for you.
So do what you will. Carry on, persist if you must. Nail me down. Morph me unusable.
There you are. Red and black you are. I will carry you and I will not carry you.
You have won, that's it. I'm bright knowing you can't do much more. Scream if you want, but with what mouth?
There you are. So red and black as you are. I have enemies and I have no enemies.
You have use for me and you don't have use for me.
I know what this place is.
I know where I am.
I know who's there.
I know why it's wet.
I know I've wept too long.
Is that muffled screaming I hear...
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2024.04.29 04:48 Always_291217 I have not been able to get over my ex boyfriend for the past 2 years, and am now married

I 21 female will not lie when I say I had a one that got away. When I was 14 I met this magnificent male 17 at the time. I love him still so much but I am now married. I know I know, I should not be married if Im still not over him. I am not here for all you to call me an A hole when I know I am. I just want to take this out of my chest and stop running from this.
For context that is important my ex and I are Mormons. This is relevant to the story because many stuff we had revolved around this.
We met when we were just teenagers I 14 and him 17 at a church event around 2017. I will not lie when I say it was love at first sight when I saw him. We danced many songs together and exchanged facebook acounts. I did not initiate anything at the being because he was dating someone at the time. But once they broke up I made my move and once he recovered that break up we started chatting and after some dates. By December he asked me if we wanted to go out. Of course I said Yes!
Time passes and as a Mormon, men once they are 18 go out and preach the word of god for a total of 2 years. He let me know that he would go on a mission once he graduated High school and I agreed on this decision because I wanted to go as well. He was such an inspiration to me as much as I was to him. He told me that thanks to my example he was able to graduate with a higher score he was able to also graduate seminary church.
We were both on the same boat. Thanks to his example I graduate with high sore average in High school as well and graduate Seminary Church While him being in his Mission.
He is the kindest person I’ve ever met. He left in December of 2018 to his mission in Tampico Mexico and I waited faithfully all those two years for him.
I waited and was studying high school while hime being on a mission. I had already met his family before him leaving, so I would go visit them occasionally on my free time. I bonded so well with all his family but especially with his mom. While him being in the mission she broke her leg and I took care of her as well as my older sister. Her mom is also one of the sweetest women I have met.
One of those years my mom did not have money to celebrate(not that it was an issue) but her mom invited me over. I went and once I was there, his family surprised me with a surprise birthday party.
There was a time where missionaries could only write emails but by that time they could now make phone calls. Guess who called me that day? He did… and i did not stop crying because he took the time to talk to his missionary president and ask for permission just to make that call.
Every month from month 1 December 2017 to the end June 2022… every month he would either write me a poetic letter, message, give me a gift, take me on a date. Maybe yes I do miss this.
It was something mutual. I would do the same for him. All the above paragraph.
Once back from his mission I told him I wanted to be enough fo him quote on quote“when I turn 19 I will on a missiona so now you will wait for me.” He was not too sure at the beginning but was ok with it by the end.
He is where the downfall goes.
I am the type of independent women that wants to do stuff on her own and was thinking long term with him. I told him to start school while I start saving up money to go on a mission. He was accepted in a physiotherapy university city and I told him “by the time im back you will be almost done with school and we can get married“. I told him I wanted to move to a border country where i could make money becasue I know English and I could take more advantage of it. I would be able to pay off my whole mission but this would only be possible if I left(we live in mexico).
I flew away and we kept a long term relashionship( 8 hours plane flight + 2 hour bus away + 2 hour different time zone). By months past he was not as happy because he just got back a couple months ago and we had to be separated. again. He also said I did not have as much time as i used to for him. I explained to him that I was making time to talk to him as much as I could and I KID YOU NOT we would talk 20 mintues daily and text every day.Me working a 10 hour shift and living 2 hours away from my Job.
We paused the relationship and I told him that. “ Before I leave i promise you i will save enough money and see you.”
My plan before going on a mission was to go home and enter the temple with my mom and dad to be invested with them in a temple. This was a special moment for them because my mom has had a drinking problem. It was years since they had gone to the temple.
They wanted to come to where i was living so i could go leave to my mission directly from where I moved to to. But i told them to save the money it was best for me to go to my local temple where they lived. And I could pature from ther with all my friends and family.(and also see my ex). I was told many times from my leaders of the church that it was not a good idea to go back home and parture from my local town because I would be more tempted by satan to not go. But i still went back home.
This was maybe the worst decision. This would change my life completly.
Once home and only weeks from waiting from recieving my calling from my mission I did fall into temptation with that boyfriend and did not go to the mission. I got sooo depressed becuase this was my most desired hope. One of those days when no one was looking I saw my calling on my own and saw it was Mexico Guadalajara…
On one of the encounters we had was with unprotected sex and was maybe pregnant. I was so confused and depressed and mad and had so much emotions running through my head .
We where young me at that time now 19 and him 21. We had to talk to his parents and tell them I would no longer go because of that incident and told him i might be prego. They advised to take a blood test that yes, I did do and came out negative. My ex and I talked a lot but i could not get my senses to full recovery.
When the test came out negative i could not stay home of how bad i felt there. I felt i had all eyes on me for not going on a mission and was scared church people start spreading rumors on why i didn’t go. Because YES, FRICKEN CRISTIANS ARE NOSEY.
I know its my fault things ended. He was so in love with me. He was willing to marry me. But I just did not know what to do. In one of those thoughts of me being confuse I tild myself the best decision for me to “feel better” was to end the relationship. So we talked and ended it.
The day I was moving to the boarder country we met up to say our last goodbye and it said most heartbreaking goodby. He said he was sorry and to please go and do my mission so he could take that gult away from his soul. I said yes but deep inside me i knew i would not go.
I went back to the place I was living at with my sister. I went 0 contact, but would always think about all the special memories we had.
I was in a dark whole once living here and I started smoking and drinking(things i did not do). I retook my job when i first arrived here. And a new guy comes in 27 male(my now husband.
The story repeats itself, but this time him with me. He saw me and it was love at first sight.
One day a friend of mine made plans for a bunch of work colleagues to go out and party so i went. The new guy and I talked from that day on and from there started going out on dates. I told him from the beining that i was shattered into a million peaces and did not want to date. That he was not my type becasue he was not mormon and would never look into him. He did not care. And told me he was willing to change his bad habits and learn more about church. Maybe because he was alone for so much time and saw a light. I felt that the light of my candle had water all poured on top of it. He told me he could see Light he had not seen in no one else. HE WAS A REBOUND. Maybe i felt lonely too?? With time we started dating
In the mean time I started to get into fights with my sister(too many fights) and she kicked me out and put a dead line. I could not afford a place on my own so he told me that we could move in together and after only a few months of dating we did that 2023. I did not want to move in because of love but I was BROKE.
While living together I would cry a lot. I did not take therapy untill months before of getting married. I admitted to him that i did not know if i was sad because of my ex, me not going on a mission, my bad decisions or all of them. It broke my heart see his break. But again i feel He was scared to be lonely as much as I am.
It broke my heart to cry for someone, but it broke more everytime my partner would comfort me.Even though he knew who I was crying for. And yes am an Ass hole in know.
We where not a perfect couple. But this was affecting me too much. I took 1 therapy class but could not afford it no more so could not continue.
While living together he did tell me he wanted to marry and I told him yes only if he decided to get baptized and cummit on his own and not because of me. He told me yes.
Before getting married i contacted my ex… and told him i was sorry for going 0 contact he accepted my apology but did not want to keep talking because he knew i was already dating someone. And this time he went 0 contact with me. And told me he was seeing someone
I never told him i still had feelings for him and in Augost of 2023 my Husband proposed. By September we got got married… Maybe everything was too quick? I was still in love with my ex and and the same time i felt bad for my husband. He truely loves me in his own way.
I waited patiently for his call the day before our marriage but nothing. So i went for it and married this guy that truely loves me.
I still tried to get over him… September, November passes and one day i mids of december out of the blue my ex called me!I will not lie that i felt butterflies in my stomatche and he told me he was sorry for going 0 contact. And told me he broke up with that one girl and was happy i was married. I truly wanted to tell him “I am not happy. I still love you” but i cant say those things… we are not a perfect marriage and many things are because of me and others because my husband had a ruff childhood. We had many discussions because he could never give me cards, buy me little gifts or take me out on date once living together or married.
I would compare my husband to my ex and sometimes tell him he was not good enough for me. This would start argument.
In the call I only told my ex boyfriend in the call thank you for your congrats Amd that was it. We started once again talking from December all around to febuary. This was legitimately just as friends and nothing flirtatious was going on.
I did not tell my husband that we where talking and i know once again i am an Ass hole and yes i know even though my ex was never flirty at any moment of time on my end this is infidelity on my end
We have been ups and downs in my marriage. And i know I am not perfect.
That last time i talked to him was in finals of Febuary of this year 2024. Prior to this I maybe was trying to think he still felt something for me but I think it was just me.
I talked to one of my friends and explianed this whole situation true of my chest and I did let her know that i was feeling really guilty of everything and told her i was going to stop talking to him but I wanted to call him one last time. She agreed and told me if this was going to make me not contact him to do it. Not only for myself but for my husband because this was not fair in any way for him.
That same day I called him and told him. That I knew he was not trying but sometimes he made me feel mixed signals. Maybe I misinterpreted them and these status he was posting were for his ex and not me his 2nd ex. I told him that I knew he was not trying this to get my attention but me in my head I was only confusing myself and started to get hope on something that was not possible. Idid tell him that these feeling for him ehere coming back.
He told me that he was sorry but he got back with his ex and was happy with her. He told me to work on my marriage with my husband and was ok to go 0 contact again with him. He told me he cared for me only as a friend and that was all he wanted.
That was exactly what I wanted him to tell me. Something enough to crush my heart and give me 0 hopes to get back together ever. I said goodbye with tears in my eyes and blocked him.
I don’t care who sees this tbh I just want to share this and take it finally off my chest. And you can call me all you want I really don’t care.
For those who ask why I did not cancel the wedding. I tried, I did tell him that I was not okay. I did try to leave this relationship because I was not happy. But he always found a way to convince me. Toxic? Yes Will leave him? Idk Do I need therapy? Yes I do need.
I love you dear ex with all my heart. You made me love God, myself, and then you. I miss you and wish you the best. If this ever gets to you…i hope that by that time, I am healed and happy.
After all this time? Yes… Always. I still have and will always loved you. I really hope my husband can make me love myself just as you did. i hope he can make me love God just as much as you did… he just got baptized and working in his own relationship with god.
Maybe one day he will love me just as much as you did and make me feel that he is the one and not you.
if you see this and if… only if you feel the same way call me
If i dont have the same number you always have my family’s facebook. Tell them you’re looking for me.But if you don’t have them just ignore this.
Thank you all for this who got all the ways to the bottom. I know its a lot to read,but maybe one can relate to this. I will read your coment in case you want to tell me anyththing.
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2024.04.29 01:06 mishbebe Leaving Islam as a Woman

I wanted to ask if there are any female exAhmadis here, and about their experiences. I'm 20 years old and I've been wanting to leave the Jamaat for years now, but it always seems so impossible to do due to my family. Having such a big family in all corners of the world makes it so difficult to try and do what I want, and I'm always so paranoid about having to face anyone I know and having to answer to their questions about my decisions. It just feels like there's no way out, especially with how social my family is in Jamaat related works, literally everyone knows them.
I also fear that my family would have to recieve backlash from the Jamaat because of me. I don't like how my family have always tried to force me into doing Jamaat related work and made me feel bad for not doing so, so I'm pretty involved myself (against my will), but this doesn't mean I think of my parents as horrible people. I don't want them to have to recieve backlash from the people of the Jamaat just because their daughter has different views to them.
I also just feel like it's so much easier to leave as a man. The men always have much more freedom than we do anyways, so getting up and leaving, or wanting to move out of home before marriage, or marrying outside of the religion, seems like its so much easier for them to do. I'm not trying to downplay any men's experiences as I'm sure it's difficult for anyone to go against their family, but idk to me it just seems so much harder to do as a woman.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can break it to my family, or if it's even worth doing at all? I don't think I'd be able to live like this much longer but I don't want to ruin my family's life just for my own happiness at the same time. Just doesn't feel like I can get away from this.
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2024.04.28 23:52 mooshwa Official Twenty One Pilots Clancy Lore Megathread: Early DMAORG to Red Taped Albums

Official Twenty One Pilots Clancy Lore Megathread: Early DMAORG to Red Taped Albums
PART ONE: EARLY DMAORG TO RED TAPE
*last updated 4/28/2024 @ 5:30 pm EST
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Hello all! This is a full, easily digestible thread detailing the confirmed bulk of the current twenty one pilots lore spanning over the last 7 years for all to catch up on.
*THIS IS A REUPLOAD. reddit is glitching like crazy and disabled editing on the last thread (and the one I just posted too) so this is still the same one from February!
**Please read this if you are new to the community or just want to get caught up before posting in case your question is answered in this thread.*\*
Part 2 of the lore continued here! last updated 4/28/2024 @ 5:30 pm EST
We are continuously discussing this in the official discord, come join!
Confirmed Fake Sources
Clancy Tour Info/Discussion
I will update this as time goes on!
All information was gathered from discord clique, http://dmaorg.info/found/15398642_14/clancy.html and twentyonepilots.com
thread made by u/mooshwa
*Trigger warning for heavy topics such as suicide and self-harm\*
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Blurryface Music Videos/ Important info going in

On 3/16/2015, "Fairly Local" was uploaded to youtube, shoeing in a brand new dark and disturbing era for twenty one pilots. It took place in a frozen and abandoned building, and featured the vocalist, Tyler, in red contacts with his hands and neck covered in black, almost as if the color was swallowing him. It also featured Josh, the drummer, with red hair and intense red eyeshadow playing his drum set while it flew way from him. The video showcased a deep battle between two forces controlling Tyler. Someone named Blurryface, and his actual self. The color red is extremely important in this story, and is always associated with Blurryface and evil. In "Heavydirtysoul" we saw Tyler being driven by an unseen figure, and later on the car caught on fire before almost hitting Josh in the middle of the road, who was also playing a flaming drum set. The burning car is a recurring theme throughout this story, always showing up during moments of personal power or rebellion. The frozen land and snow is also a recurring theme (and this era went unnecessarily hard looking back at it).
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The Hiatus (2017-2018)

On July 6th, 2017, twenty one pilots began a year long hiatus with a series of cryptic tweets showing a red eye slowly closing.
(left to right) YOULL HAVE TO COME AND FIND ME MY PRETTY SLEEPER WOULDN'T IT BE GREAT IF WE COULD JUST LAY DOWN? I WILL FEAR THE NIGHT AGAIN
NOBODY DREAMS WHEN THEY BLINK REMEMBER THE MORNING IS WHEN NIGHT IS DEAD AND NOW I JUST SIT IN SILENCE
After almost a year of silence, the gif on top of the Vessel store page updated to show a glitched-out url which brought you to a site called http://dmaorg.info/found/15398642_14/clancy.html.This is where the band would slowly build their new world and tease their new records. They continue to utilize this site for updates to this day.
On 7/2/18, members of their mailing list received an email titled “ARE YOU STILL SLEEPING?” with a gif of a yellow vulture’s eye with clips of Jumpsuit playing in the pupil. The eye officially opened on 7/10/18 with the release of “Jumpsuit” and “Nico and the Niners”, revealing the new logo -//
https://preview.redd.it/zvhp7xaoiaxc1.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5c7299d4493cefcb7b3f531c2d9fb088f494c957
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DMAORG (in a nutshell)

dmaorg.info is a website domain officially created and hosted by the band Twenty One Pilots and used mainly as an online conceptual teaser for their 2018 album "TRENCH". It featured a cryptic background story and important lore information referenced in the songs and music videos of the TRENCH era.
The domain was first discovered by the fanbase on 4/21/2018, during the band’s hiatus between Blurryface and Trench through a link hidden inside the Twenty One Pilots’ official merch store website. The original link led to an exclusive 404 error page, telling the viewer “they’re in violation” and “no one should know about this” while showing a violation code
https://preview.redd.it/rovuirppiaxc1.png?width=1774&format=png&auto=webp&s=d55c5fc13d967bb5d776bbe15bc32f0c8a8319e9
404 ER_ROR
you are in violation. thEy mustn't know you were here. no one should ever find out About this. you can never tell anyone about thiS -- for The sake of the others' survIval, you muSt keep this silent. we mUst keeP silent. no one can know. no one can know. no o ne c an kn ow_
(Violation Code. 15398642_14)
hidden message: EASTISUP
When pasted correctly into the URL of the website, the violation code granted access to another page of dmaorg.info containing journals and images telling the story of Clancy, a disillusioned fictional character living inside a circular theocratic city loomed by huge walls and ruled by nine bishops – the Sacred Municipality of Dema. It sat nestled in the lower region of the large and wild continent of Trench.
brief scroll-through of early dmaorg.info
The religion the city follows is called Vialism, where the end goal is to take your own life as it is the only route to Paradise, and that the bland dystopia they are living in should be embraced. The Bishops' names were a combination of lyrics from different songs on "Blurryface". The Bishops were as follows:
Andre, Lisden, Keons, Nico, Reisdro, Sacarver, Nills, Vetomo, Listo
Andre= fairly local- ANDREpeat yesterday's dance Lisden= Polarize-all I feeL IS DENial Keons= Heavydirtysoul-choKEONSmoke Nico-Stressed Out- N/A Reisdro= Doubt -temperatuRE IS DROpping Sacarver= Tear in My Heart- sheS ACARVER Nills= Goner- beaten dowNILL Slip away Vetomo= Lane Boy- will they be aliVE TOMOrrow Listo= Ride- a LIST Of people
Clancy started to question Dema and Vialism 9 years after arriving. His dismay grew as his struggles with Dema became visible and the call for “more” became stronger, and he formulated a plan to escape, attempting multiple times before Nico (calls himself Blurryface), the head bishop, finds him and brings him back.
He convinced Nico one day to leave the city, and destroyed the car they were driving (events of heavydirtysoul). He succeeds in escaping Nico yet again, but after getting lost in the unknown wilderness of Trench, he grew weary and anxious. Nico found him yet again in a narrow valley 5 days later. This time was different however, as he stumbled across a group of people on the clifftops of Trench. The Banditos, the rebel group he only ever heard rumors of (the events of "Jumpsuit").
After being returned to Dema, the Banditos returned for Clancy and got him out during the Annual Assemblage of the Glorified, which is a disturbing annual ritual that only the most upstanding citizens of Dema called “The Glorified” may attend, where they become the ”Glorious Gone” (they die) and become available vessels for the Bishops to use( events of "Nico and the Niners"). They brought him back to their camp and taught him their ways, but the cycle was just too strong and he was taken back (events of Levitate).
We didn't hear from Clancy again until the release of the "Chlorine" music video, where we were introduced to Ned. In this letter, he talked about his time outside in Trench and noted that he felt torn between the two places, but interestingly enough he called Dema home- something he never thought he could be able to do again.
On 4/2/2021, the website updated to show a progress bar that would result in the site being terminated, and a complete inversion of colors.
On 4/5/2021, all files in the subdomain were deleted and the website showed up an “Account Terminated” message instead, showing that the Bishops had found and overtaken the site, while also hiding some images teasing the next era of the band's projects.
https://preview.redd.it/urpq2i7uiaxc1.png?width=695&format=png&auto=webp&s=cf3aec021a11b3e320417375ab0e5fdc1e8dbad5
Account Terminated
The page you are looking for has been removed from our servers. The account was in violation of terms established by The Sacred Municipality of Dema, and deemed contraband material. Disciplinary action has been taken, and the offender no longer has access to this account. Further actions have been taken to ensure these violations will not occur again. Anyone attempting to access or share any contraband material will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the laws set forth by DMA ORG and The Sacred Municipality of Dema.
Infraction No. 3.12.1.14.3.25 9.19 4.5.1.4
SACRED MUNICIPALITY OF DEMA UNITED VIALISTS
hidden message: C.L.A.N.C.Y I.S D.E.A.D
After almost a year of silence, on 3/16/2022 the site updated with a new map of the continent of Trench which introduced the island of Voldsøy-the Norwegian word for “Violence Island.”
Map of the Continent of Trench. Notable locations include the main continent, the City of Dema, Port Vial, and the island Voldsøy
With this map, we saw the return of Clancy and the Torchbearer after they washed up on the island following the events of the Saturday music video. Clancy talked about how he was being used as propaganda, the performance he was to give on the ship for another Annual Assemblage of the Glorified, and how they were attacked by a strange creature under the water. He notes that the Bishops on the ship weren't real. Throughout a couple of days, Clancy lamented about his struggles back in captivity in the city and formulated his plan to take down the bishops, eventually finding a way to succeed.
On 3/17/22, a schematic was uploaded showing steps to some type of ritual labeled as “psychokinesis”, and that they must “seize the available vessel”. On the next line it states that the available vessel is something that could be considered a “Glorious Gone”, so in essence its a dead body.
On March 18th, 2022, Clancy discovered how to perform psychokinesis using a weapon fashioned by some curious little creatures on Voldsøy, affectionately identified as "Ned" (Neuro Expansion Device). They were thought to have been extinct. We see Ned in the Chlorine music video, and hanging out by the fire in “Ned’s cozy fireplace
These little creatures have special antlers that the bishops use for seizing their deceased victims, allowing them to inhabit their body and take control of them until they inevitably start to decay. However, they seem to be working with Keons who betrayed Nico.
We saw these events play out in "The Outside" music video, which is explained further down in the thread.
Fun fact-the neds call each other ned and write letters to each other :D
letter to ned from ned, with a drawing of the \"Trees\" tree visual
"ned,
saw clancy n torch berer jus like keons sed
hope you ar well
-ned"
On 2/13/2024, 1500 scary red letters were sent out to the public by the Sacred Municipality of Dema containing evidence seemingly seized from Clancy's belongings. It included a new letter from Clancy, where he talked about having renewed hope in his plan, an updated map showing the new Paladin Strait between Voldsøy and the mainland of Trench, and a request for information on Clancy's whereabouts from the Bishops of Dema. Both letters included hidden messages, but handwritten was a question.
How did you find http://dmaorg.info/found/15398642_14/clancy.html?
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Chlorine Music Video

Watch "Chlorine" here
On 1/22/2019, the "Chlorine" music video was uploaded to youtube. In this music video, we saw an entirely alternate reality than the one we were accustomed to. Tyler and Josh were just some pool-cleaning guys who stumbled across a little funky shy guy in Australia (its Ned). Nothing out of the ordinary there. Over the course of the video, Ned started to come out of his shell as he became very interested in what the boys were pouring into the pool (it was chlorine). Tyler had a cup the whole time, but he merely pondered it instead of taking a sip. During the bridge, when the pool is filled, Ned took a dip and grew a full set of antlers. He sat down with Tyler at the end of the video, where Tyler offered him a sip of his drink and he politely declined while looking mildly disgusted. This video didn’t seem like it had too much lore significance at first. However, its repeated symbolism throughout the story and the return of Ned, the introduction of him coinciding with a letter that seems to directly contradict what we saw in natn/levitate music videos, and his significance later on, it feels too important to not include his origin…
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The Hype

Watch "The Hype" here
on 7/26/2019, "The Hype" music video was uploaded after recruiting a bunch of fans to partake. We're invited into Tyler's chest where there's a sick house concert happening, and everything is plaid. Everyone is wearing plaid. As the video progresses, everyone starts wearing more plaid. Even the house is wearing plaid. The camera pans out to the crowd and its just a bunch of people wearing plaid but Ned is there too (he is wearing plaid but he doesn't have antlers). The plaid levels increased to critical amounts, and the house simply could not contain it and it exploded. Tyler and Josh fell back through the roof, and continued their performance layered in flannel as the house rebuilt itself around them. As they slowly took off their tartan shackles, they placed yellow tape over the broken pieces.
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Level of Concern ARG

The level of concern ARG was a long, arduous, and extremely complicated online scavenger hunt that was put on by the band in July of 2020. It was designed to last over a week, but we figured it out in 12 hours. It started with a cryptic livestream on youtube that just showed a room of analog tvs that would play a distorted clip of Level of Concern on repeat, occasionally interjected by jarring audio bits. On the tv screens, various gifs and images would cycle through and occasionally a complex code would show up on screen, leading to various webpages and puzzles. There were a total of 20 codes that needed to be entered on usb.twentyonepilots.com. Once code 20 was entered, the first 500 people needed to enter their address, and they received a USB drive in the mail. This usb contained various cryptic files, demos, and goofy images from early in the Vessel era, including a video from Tyler thanking the fans for playing the game and figuring out the codes. Behind him, an analog tv flashes the phrase “Clancy is dead” in code, as can be seen here
Clancy Is Dead (FULL WITH AUDIO)
You can watch the recap of how the codes were found for yourself here.
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Christmas Saves the Year

Watch "Christmas Saves the Year" here
On the cover of "Christmas saves the Year", there is a tiny present behind Josh that has the nametag "Clancy" and it says "Sai is Propaganda" alluding to their upcoming album "Scaled and Icy"
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The Live Experience Control Room

After dmaorg.info was terminated, the site was hiding a few images teasing the new era.
70's style Scaled and Icy promo posters
After the release of “Shy Away”, live.twentyonepilots.com was made available to the public, and we were introduced to our icy yellow-eyed friend, Trash the Dragon. The site led to a control room where you could explore dozens of easter eggs, purchase merchandise, and wait for incoming song premieres leading up to the release of their 6th album “Scaled and Icy” - which happens to be an anagram for “clancy is dead”. It was also here that Dema held their first ever live performance, an event designed to entertain(indoctrinate) the citizens of Dema, and Clancy was the star. However, he was repeatedly referred to as Tyler during the show.
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Choker Music Video

Watch "Choker" here
The Choker music video was a very interesting, seemingly light hearted and silly addition to this saga. It started off in a similar manner to the “Chlorine” music video (which is explained further down).
This time, it’s set in a normal area of Columbus, Ohio, and filled with various alleyways (which we could later explore in the Roblox live event…i wont get into that here). Tyler, wearing an orange beanie, walked nervously into a toy store and was met with its employees Josh and Jim (josh’s dog). He got to the counter, and really wanted the blue dragon in the case, but Josh just started drumming. Tyler tried to get his attention, but Josh was locked in and slamming away. Tyler, now frustrated, turned back and explored the shop a little more and was startled by a sudden blue flash.
Something to note, when he turned around the first time, Josh was in the same position he was in when Tyler walked in and the drums were nowhere to be found.
He turned back around and went back to the counter, and Jim had turned into a little toy with a blue bandana. Josh tenderly picked up the little dragon from before and set it on the counter in front of Tyler. He heavily pondered it for a moment, before deciding to yoink it right in front of Josh and dip. Tyler didn’t realize shoplifting was against the rules. Josh chased him down with a massive gun. He caught up with Tyler and shot a giant net at him, knocking him over and encapsulating him, and Josh dragged him back to the shop. Once they reached the front, Josh opened his mouth and just absolutely smited Tyler, turning him into a bobblehead on the shelf next to Jim and the nearly liberated Trash toy.
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The Livestream Experience

The show started off as a 70’s style morning show called “Good Day Dema” with its eccentric hosts Dan Lisden and Sally Sacarver. It opened with Tyler (Clancy) sitting on the couch in between the two bishops looking positively miserable, and the bishops scornfully mocking him and insulting Josh.
Dan Lisden (left), Tyler (middle), Sally Sacarver (right)
Then they transitioned into Choker, a single from Scaled and Icy. The show was a concert filled with various mashups and interesting cutoffs, always being stopped or changed during a song or lyrics about rebellion or personal power. Occasionally, the bishop hosts would come back in little infomercial segments to promote Scaled and Icy, though curiously looking more and more beat up and…for lack of better phrasing they were decaying. The bishops had seized these two people and were living vicariously through their bodies while they slowly rotted during the performance to give off the impression of manufactured joy.
Dan Lisden with blooddrippuing down his shirt during the 2nd informercial break, then actively decaying during the last break
Sally Sacarver looking a little worse for wear (no pun intended)-second infomercial break, then actively cementing herself into my nightmares- Last infomercial break
In the middle of the performance, just before “Lane Boy”, the bishops came on screen with half of their faces painted black reciting the “Stay Low” poem. The last verse of “Redecorate” was put into the end of “Lane Boy”, and was cut off by “Chlorine”. After a solemn moment during Heathens/Trees, Josh returned as the Torchbearer and they performed some songs off of Trench, burning car on stage included. After this segment concluded with heavydirtysoul, the bishops came back for their final infomercial dripping blood and threatening the audience, and then played it off like nothing happened.
The performance carried on, eventually getting to Car Radio where alarms started to blare, and chaos erupted in the studio. “Never Take It” was last on the setlist, performed in a street filled with burning cars and running people. After the song ended, Tyler slowly and begrudgingly trudged back to the first set with the bishops-who were somehow looking completely normal, and finished the end of Choker, and then everyone stood up and clapped.
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Saturday Music Video

Watch "Saturday" here
On 7/8/21, the next Annual Assemblage of the Glorified was set to take place. Because of the smashing success of the livestream, the bishops decided to hold a party on a submarine and have Clancy and Josh be the main performers. They sent bishop imposters (bishposters?) to control the ship and make sure everything was going smoothly. Everything did not go smoothly. A massive dragon (trash) attacked the ship, nearly drowning everyone, but 21 people are shown to have survived overall (the other 19 pilots?)
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The Outside Music Video/Weapon

Watch "The Outside" here
On 3/18/22, the Outside music video was uploaded after a few days of updates on dmaorg. It began with a visual of Trash, the 9 bishops, and Keons in the center holding a pair of antlers, having been caught controlling Trash and betraying the other Bishops. Then they just start stabbing. Julius Caesar style. not a fun way to go, i won’t lie. The yellow glow in Keons’ eyes dimmed, and so too did the life in Trash as he sank to the ocean floor. Clancy (Tyler??) washed up on the frozen island of Voldsøy, covered in snow. Josh/The Torchbearer came up and picked Clancy up by his collar and they walked off, eventually finding a break in the foliage. They discovered a cliff face with a cave opening, and a little guy welcoming them in. it’s Ned!! They walked through the narrow cave passages, spitting some fire bars on the way, eventually arriving at a rotation you couldn’t have dreamed up better. A bunch of Neds, all hanging out by the fire. The Ned that welcomed them in started to leave through a side cave, but Clancy and the Torchbearer followed. They met Ned on the beach, who broke his antlers to give to Clancy. He posted a schematic for a ritual to harness the power of psychokinesis.
w-eap-ø-n
The bottom reads:
seize available vessel at Voldsoy eastern cove intercept bishops. _____________________________ glorious gone = available vessel ________________________________ bishops control the available vessel! intercept and seize _________________________________ they will make you a weapon _________________________________
The top letters unscramble to say “seize keons”
The Neds began performing the motions, and Clancy followed- somehow taking control of Keons’ body. He was an available vessel after all! After emoting in front of the bishops, he destroyed one of the towering lights in front of him. Keons’ body fell to the ground, and Clancy regained control of his own body. He later wrote about the experience in the most recent letter update on dmaorg. After Clancy regained control of his body, he’s seen with the Torchbearer waiting for a signal. On the other side of the Strait, dozens of banditos return the signal, cutting to a blue flaming city behind them
On 3/18/2022 Clancy uploaded the most recent **digital*\* letter to the site
What is this thing? This device? This gift? Some sort of neurological connection or expansion. Psychokinetic weapon? This is absurd. Why was this given to me? Why am I the only one that can wield it? Was this the reason that I survived? My mind is racing as I wait here on the rocks -- staring off into the darkness. Waiting for our torches to be mirrored - the signal he told me to wait for. It feels oddly familiar. Not the spikes in my hand, but the power it harnesses, I've felt it before. Is this also the source of those rumors I heard in the dark corners of the city? Legends and stories that I assumed were myth, inspired by children's nightmares -- tales of what the bishops would use the bodies for. Those "honorable" citizens who acheived The Glorious Gone -- referred to as available vessels. It all begins to make sense. The episodes I would have: the blood red vision, my dreams of flying, the out of body account of the rider in the river, the decaying hosts of the television show, the robed figures that commanded the doomed ship... Had we all been "seized" by the bishops using this same technique? Is this where their power comes from? Are they immortal, or just feeding off the next body, giving their hosts a brief second-life? I am in my original life, why am I available to this control? This whole time I thought I was battling my inner self. Was I actually under assault for something else? someONE else? This small eerie island has made me a weapon. We both believe that we can use it to change the momentum of this war. Now, we must return to the mainland where they should be there to recieve is. We will destroy and rebuild. Though it's been years since he last spoke with them, I hope they have not lost faith in The Torchbearers plan. But how could any of this have been planned? -Clancy
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Clancy Era-Where we are now

On 2/13/2024, 1500 scary red letters were sent out to the public by the Sacred Municipality of Dema containing evidence seemingly seized from Clancy's belongings. It included a new letter from Clancy, where he talked about having renewed hope in his plan, an updated map showing the new Paladin Strait between Voldsøy and the mainland of Trench, and a request for information on Clancy's whereabouts from the Bishops of Dema. Both letters included hidden messages, but handwritten was a question.
How did you find http://dmaorg.info/found/15398642_14/clancy.html?
Information requests from the Bishops of Dema along with a new transcribed letter from Clancy, coupled with an updated map of Trench to include the new \"Paladin Strait\"
Letter One Transcript:
YOU HAVE RECENTLY ACCESSED INTERNAL DOCUMENTS PERTAINING TO CASE 15390642 14: (DELINQUENT] CLANCY VS. THE SACRED MUNICIPALITY OF DEMA IN THIS ONGOING INVESTIGATION, WE ARE URGING ANYONE WITH KNOWLEDGE OF THE WHEREABOUTS OF THE ACCUSED TO COME FORWARD WITH RELEVANT INFORMATION ABOUT THE CASE. IT IS REQUIRED THAT ALL INHABITANTS OF DEMA TO DO THEIR DUTY IN BRINGING ALL ENEMIES OF VIALISM AND ITS TEACHINGS TO SWIFT JUSTICE -THE HONORABLE BISHOPS OF THE SACRED MUNICIPALITY OF DEMA. *take excessive measures in attempting to correct or make amends for an error, weakness, or problem. (the oxford dictionary definiton of overcompensate)
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Letter Two Transcript:
THIS DOCUMENT IS DESIGNATED AS EVIDENCE UNDER PERUSAL AND INVESTIGATION BY THE SACRED MUNICIPALITY OF DEMA AND DEMA ORGANIZATION. THIS DOCUMENT IS INTENDED FOR INTERNAL USE ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE DISCLOSED OUTSIDE AUTHORIZED PERSONNEL WITHOUT PRIOR APPROVAL FROM THE AUTHORIZED BISHOP OF ITS DESIGNATED DISTRICT OR THE PRESIDING LEGAL AUTHORITY. THE INTEGRITY OF THIS DOCUMENT MUST BE MAINTAINED AT ALL TIMES TO ENSURE ITS ADMISSIBILITY THROUGHOUT THE INVESTIGATION
hidden message: STILL ALIVE
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Clancy's Letter Transcript:
024 02MOON09 "I'm not as scared as I used to be. Their mystery begins to fade as a method to defeat them becomes more clear\**. I no longer feel powerless. I can outsmart them. This new power of psychokinesis worked, and I believe it can work again. I stand here, looking down at the line where the water meets the sand-a starting line. All the while, knowing there is a finish line across the Strait. Their compass lies, but mine remains true. I've left embers of inspiration, I only hope whatever spark was left has grown to a torch, and together we create** an inferno. -Clancy
hidden message-meruioenpepa
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I Am Clancy

Watch "I am Clancy" here
On 2/22/24, a new spoken letter was uploaded to the youtube from Clancy, basically narrating what you just read. In a portion of the video where it shows the map of Dema, Keons' tower is grayed out. He explained his story, what happened to the Bishops, and how he's an exception to the strange powers the Bishops wield. He's taking back his own identity, and he is going to return to Trench to finish what he's started.
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Red Tape

On 2/17/2024, the band updated their studio album covers to include red tape. The best running theory is that the red tape signifies bishop control. That's why keon's circle is taped, why trash is taped, why clifford is taped specifically to cover leave the city. the city is still under bishop control, and the vultures are property of Dema for surveillance. since the grandfathers are taped, and trench is in the shape of a brain, i can only assume that insinuates that the bishops have control over the continent somehow since many ideas from vessel are used in this story. or, to go along with my other theory in the next part, clancy is so focused on getting back to trench that its clouding his vision
the red tape seems to only be partially (but still almost fully) covering the eyes of the subjects on the cover
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Important details that couldn't really fit anywhere

  • Nico is the only bishop without matching lyrics, and he is repeatedly noted to not be present at gatherings with the other 8 bishops
  • There is a tie to "Nicholas Bourbaki" which was a pseudonym for a group of French mathematicians that formed after the first world war in response to needing to use dated texts for scholarly work due to a generation of their mathematicians being slaughtered. Their goal was to publish updated and accurate information when there was none available. The name is mentioned in "Morph", they also came up with the mathematical ø.
  • the bishops cannot see yellow, that is why it is the color of the rebellion, and blue means defeat according to blurryface's twitter.
  • Nico has been known to be the harshest bishop, while Keons stands out as the most compassionate and kind according to Clancy.
  • KEONS IS THE ONE WHO WAS STABBED AND KILLED. NOT NICO. we saw this during The Outside, and he was shown during "I am Clancy" with further confirmation from Mark
part 2 is continued here <3
If i have missed anything you feel is deeply important to understanding the basics of the lore, please let me know!! I’m going to be updating this thread as things come in. In the meantime, i hope this answers your basic questions and happy theorizing!
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2024.04.28 22:04 Fit_Ad_1369 Unjustly crossing me? Well say goodbye to the career promotion :)

(Sorry for any misspelling or wrong grammar, I'm still learning English, especially by watching Charlotte :)
To start of, I am not a petty person so I was kinda surprised by my behaviour and that's why this is my one and only petty revenge (at least I think that's classified as a petty revenge?).
Some back story:
I was writting my final thesis under this teacher at my uni but I made a mistake, I did not ask my upper classmates about their charactepersonality (which I found out really sucks). When I got stuck with my thesis they did not answer any emails, phonecalls and I could not catch them at their office during office hours.
So basically, I was left on my own, struggling, crying, wanting to give up. I even wrote to the study refferent(?) if I can switch my suprevisor but without any luck. So I sucked it up and finished it "on my own" (my family and friends helped me a lot by giving me advice on how to conduct the experiments and even other professors went ahead and helped me). Later on I have learnt that my suprevisor was working on their docent thesis(?) so I kinda understood that they didn't have time for me.
The betrayal:
I have submited my final thesis while my suprevisor didn't even seen it once, of course they gave me a bad mark while the opponent marked my thesis A (that was a red flag for the commitee). On the day that I was deffending my thesis and also had my finals I found out that my suprevisor didn't understood the core mechanims of my thesis and that's proly why they marked my thesis C.
They also kinda ripped into me in front of the whole commitee (I was angry but I bit my toung eventho I really wanted to jump over the table and start strangling them right here and there).
But that wasn't all!
They were not happy with me complaining to the uni managment so they made sure that I won't pass the finals. They asked me a question from a subject that we were supposed to cover in the upcoming years (if we have decided to continue studying) so obviously, I didn't know the answer and didn't pass my finals (still sad about that cuz I was held back by a year cuz of it but at the same time I got some life experience and I managed to get my dream job!).
The revenge:
Later I have found out that this person was planning to go to the most prestigeous uni in my country and they want to teach/conclude research there. Funilly enough, I was studying at that uni before attending this one and I had some friends in the managment there (not to mention that my parents are kinda influential there since the professors that're teaching there are their former classmates). So I did some digging on my suprevisor and prepared reciepts and just patiently waited for the opportunity.
And it came >:)
When I have recieved an email from the Prestige University asking me about this teacher I answered honestly. That they're not the best with explaining the curriculum to the students that they have some articles in foreing journals (very important to have in my field of study) but the quality of journals are "questionable" and also, that the articles in those journals have some mistakes which points out that the person does not fully comprehand what they're studying/researching.
The person that contacted me thanked me for the info and told me that they will look into it and also appreciated the provided links (to the articles in the journals).
The aftermath:
I heard from multiple sources (my friend that helps out at the administration office of the Prestige University, the teacher's collegue who shares the office with them and my parent) that the teacher was suprisingly not accepted to the Prestige University despite their doc. title and Overwhelming track records of articles in journals.
Of course I couldn't let this opportunity slide, and kinda let the info spread through the SNS and now the whole uni knows. Even different faculties knows about this teacher and they're the target of mockery everywhere.
TLDR: thesis suprevisor didn't comunicate, didn't let me pass my finals so I made sure they didn't got the career promotion they were after and made a laughing stock out of them
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2024.04.28 21:44 Jazzlike_Layer5665 Is it worth it?

I am an 12 year old male coming from an middle aged family and I am here to share my experiences I had during these years I do not wish everyone who is here to truly believe/dedicate their time of an folk tale by someone who hasn't fully understood what it actually means to live or attain peace
My family this may sound like a personal diary I am writing for my own selfish needs to actually making myself think that I am satisfied on this journey
My Father was a successful businessman he went to preferably every arab country and made a fair amount of money to ensure our survival and was a decent person or this is what My eyes saw when I was 7
In reality during that time he was pressured by family issues,suicidal thoughts,drugs,sexual fantasies,adult life crisis and more crisis and especially he got mentally attacked by 'They' (I will explain this 'They' later in my story)
his life was getting worse and worse while still trying to ensure our needs alas he got scammed by a trader off his bosses money on which he recieved death threats sincei t was a huge amount
thus begin his journey of being an alcoholic and a drug addict while covering all this with his simple act
even tho he is probably the sweetest a guy has been to me and cared me more the anything while in his downfall is truly remarkable
My mom She was the single sheep of her family and well respectfully she didn't grow up in an environment where she experienced sibling bond which resulted in her having hard times to adapt to my fathers family after marriage since she wasn't fully prepared on engaging a conversation so soon and as a mother she literally would fly me like a kite all day and would sing me lullaby's at the age of 9 too and they're the only moments I recognize from my early age(I am still young Ik that)
The issue it was all going well my father successfully was able to keep with the act for literally half an year while my mom was decieved into him being in his normal state
Until one day while I was sitting in the middle of the sofa while both of them had their hands full with each others phone my mom caught a sneek peak of an women whose identity is still unknown to me and asked him to show that to her and well quite knowing he fucked up my dad tried to calm her down while refusing to let her use his phone which ended in a pretty fierce physical confrontation and he left our apartment and we went back to our homeland(We were in uae while he had businesses with arabs)
The 'They' even tho my story seems like the typical broken 12 year old teenager with an unsupportive parents these guys are here to heat up the story for you and while preferably making my life worse or I should day making everyone in my bloodline life worse
So this 'they' is continuation of islam with different perspectives after a certain timeline I am not educated well in islamic history but as far As I think our 'they' follows pretty munch everythinng as a normal muslim other then the fact that even after abdullah has ascended 'they' continued to believe he was not the last prophet but instead they choose a descendant of his family to continue the role as prophet and the next upcoming prophets will be decided by the ex prophet before his death
from the history my family told us 'they' faced off against many hate for completely negating the qurans certain rules and well once pretty munch all the close by islamic cults was fully against our policies
you can also call this 'they' as another modified sufi or twareeqath They often believe that you have to follow a tariqah of a certain holy person - a sheikh. They claim this person has a special connection with Allah and is related or approved directly by the Prophet Muhammad
Now that you learn bout 'they''s lore let me tell you how they're brainwashing my family/future bloodlines to be stuck in a bird cage
'They's rules which originally differentiate from the original islam -Mobiles this may sound unrelated in a religious talk but it's banned for us by 'they' for any minor below the age of 18 to touch or use an mobile for any sort of entertainment and even after 18 they only allow the usage of nokias(preferably a phone which is entire function is to communicate/make calls only adults who completed their marriage shall only be gained access to smartphones usage
this is basically bullshit since it's like having a bunch of people who trust you for your beliefs and making them into your own tool with fear and certain restrictions I don't think I need to explain why a 18 year old should have the knowledge to use a smart phone heck even kids need the access
and why do I have access? simple my parents aren't as restrictive as the other families bound to 'they'yet I can't bring my phone close to any family member who I completely do not trust
hijab-clothing is a crictical aspect in islam and hijab is probably one of the most culturally evolved clothing after each generation and it's banned for our women to wear an hijab(how can we even call ourselves a part of islam?) and their reason for this is pretty biased 'When they harrased us during the time we trusted on an prophet after muhammed we wore this cloth and while their prophet took all the blame for the harrasment he said 'allah shall make them wear the same clothing they harrased' so they're acting as if they're the first party to start the hijab culture
hairstyles-literally any hairstyle which makes us cool is forbidden I am talking about buzz,fade, heck I rather go bald instead of the haircut 'they' suggested
and I think this is common for muslim children to have classes educating them about our religion and yes it exists for our children too with a difference
'All adults and men in their old age shall attend these classes on varied days'
grown ass men needs to be educated on these topics like 'they' literally made a class for it during the weekends too
it's like a sex education class every week but about religion and whoever takes leave shall meet the respective president of the classes
and if we break any of the rules I mentioned below you will be suspended from this community created by 'they' and well it's like people will look at you as you just got out of jail for committing war crimes(these people I mentioned are members of the community since people outisde of this wouldn't judge you for this) so yea a state where you face great discrimination inside your family(suspension)
and pretty munch all other rules r like the same as for islam for us
the question is as someone who has gained access to phone and I think it's pretty important for kids to have basic knowledge on how to use a phone especially considering how fast this generation id dependent on these things and yes ik alot of people in my community who will try any manners to get a phone without 'they' knowing
alas my current question is should I try to escape from the eyes of 'they' and fled to somewhere else or should I be focused on my carieer and studies and be an slave to this 'they' and their community making this a loophole for my future families?
now now pretty munch many of u Think I am referring to 'they' as the matrix shit
but no that's way different and well 'they' are more dangerous then the matrix in my life
I wish someone would Atleast take some time to listen to this alas goodbye
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2024.04.28 20:48 ComprehensiveTip5013 I don't feel ready and don't know what to do.

I'm a 23m and I just graduated college. I'm not ready for the real world. I have a finance degree with a 2.3 GPA with no debt thankfully. I have no relevant work experience, no network, or job lined up. I'm afraid I'll be a failure. I can't bring myself to apply to jobs for some reason.
I live with my parents and I've been paying the bills with savings I made from working and various financial aid I recieved received. That money is runnging out. If it wasn't for this sole responsibility I would have ended my life during school.
They're also very old and disabled so they need me to take care of them. Both of them are so loving but highly religious and I'm an atheist. I fear if I tell them they'll die of shock. They're at that point in life where they're craming for the test to get into heaven.
I'm also 310 lbs and addicted to fast food. I've been able to get myself down to one fast food meal a day but my body literally craves it. I'm afraid of the future if I don't find a way to lose weight. So much of my money is being wasted on Canes and Wendy's but despite knowing this something is so wrong with my brain and it won't stop. I need help figuring this out.
I also have a problem with video games. It worsend this last semester and the only way I was able to pull myself away to do homework or go to school was by drinking and Adderall. My mental health is absolute crap. I can't figure out how to fight my addictions or deal with life.
I also have a problem with pornography and this is so embarrassing that I would never admit this to anyone in real life. I wouldn't even tell anyone about this on my main reddit account even though that's anonymous. I feel disgusted by it but I can't resist either.
I guess I'm looking for advice on the following.
  1. How do I figure out what to do next? What are likely career options that will accept me despite my low GPA? How do I create a network?
  2. I want to face my addictions to video games, pornography, and fast food? I have health insurance and am thinking about seeing a therapist but I'm afraid of opening up to another person even if they're a licensed professional.
  3. Could anyone give me life advice please?
I just don't know what to do and need advice. Any would be appreciated.
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2024.04.28 20:08 Mental_Emu4856 Best X-men powers as OfA quirks!

AU: the past wielders had quirks that were 1:1 copies of X-men powers. You can take this as far as you'd like, even making the past wielders actually the X-men and Plot Reasons made it part of/make up OfA, maybe the past wielders are BNHA equivalents of the X-men character, whatever you like best. OfA would bring them to canon X-men power levels/thereabouts.
What powers do you think would combine best into OfA? It's easy to say just all the OP powers like Jean Grey + OfA boost, but please don't be scared to get creative with it!
Mirio's reaction to Shadowcat's power. Endeavour's blank-faced stare after Izuku uses Pyro's and Iceman's power during the sports fest. Would Wolverine's power mean he doesn't need to develop Full Cowl? What fights become neg-diff with Magneto's power. Interning with Hawks after showing off Storm's power. Etc, etc.
Example 1: Izuku's limbs are, miraculously, perfectly in-tact by the time he's back on the ground after destroying the 0-pointer. Because of all the dust in the air, he sneezes, and three bone claws pop out of his hand. His senses become painfully sharp within a few days. He can't turn off the healing or the senses.
Example 2: After recieving OfA, Izuku's lower back feels sore and aching, as well as fuzzy green facial and body hair starting to appear all over him. At some crucial moment where getting from A -> B ASAP is important (0-pointer, quirk assessment, usj, whatever), he bamfs on instinct.
edit: wording
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2024.04.28 11:51 ServiceWorking How did I mess this one up?

TLDR: Climbing trip with friends, including 'N' whom the storyteller is interested in. 'N' shows signs of interest during the climb, especially during the descent when she asks to hold hands. Flirting between 'N' and the storyteller's confident best friend is noticeable. 'N' and the storyteller have moments of interaction, including discussing potential moves abroad. Flirting continues, but the storyteller misses opportunities to make a move, feeling anxious. Despite spending time alone with N' and having a chance in a utility room, the storyteller doesn't make a move. Later, 'N' mentions a "booty call"' in a message, leaving the storyteller unsure if she's trying to make him jealous or if he's stuck in the friend zone.
So me and 4 other mates (3M 2F, 1M+1F already dating leaves 2M and 1F single oh and one of the M's is my best mate of 10 years) went to climb a mountain, and I knew all but one girl going, everyone else knew/had met eachother in the past.
And you guessed it, that one girl I didn't know is who this is about... For the purpose of this story we'll call her 'N'
So first off I'm a rather socially awkward person and it takes me a little bit of time to get used to new people and that is made worse if I think they're attractive and I very much did.
So we start climbing the mountain and we start as a group but as we get higher the group kinda shoots off into 2M leading the way and me and 2F at the back nattering away (at this point I'm forcing myself out of my comfort zone to try and talk to her without getting embarrassed) which to be fair, for me is an achievement anyway.
Each time we'd stop for a break i'd notice 'N' hanging around me and during the points when we were able to look at eachother and talk her eyes would drift from my eyes to my lips and back again multiple times. So we get up to the summit, spend a bit of time up there and then we obviously start our journey down then mountain.
So the descent starts as the couple leading the way as the girl was set on just getting to the bottom, leaving me, my best mate and the single girl together for a bit. Now a side note here, I'm the ugly one out of me and my mate, he's also a lot more confident when it comes to talking to women (gift of the gab I'd guess)
We get to a rather steep part covered in snow and my best mate runs down it to go join the couple leaving me and N to get down this steep bit and she asks me to hold her hand as we go down, and again there's more looking at my lips (I'm already thinking there must be some kinda attraction here on her part)
The couple and my best mate walk rather far ahead after that point and basically leave me and N to get down the mountain on our own and I did not make proper conversation with her and I'll be the first to admit that (and definitely regret it however we have since spoken about that and she's flipped it around to say that it's cool because now we've got more to talk about and find out about eachother)
The next evening comes around (remember when i told you that everyone except for me knew eachother and that my best mate has the gift of the gab) and it's flirting central between my best mate and N - they went to the same college at different times but were taught by the same teacher so they've already got wayy more in common than me and N. We as a group of three talk about the possibility of me moving to another country in a while (this bit is important for later)
Fast forward a day and the other two guys go for a drive while the rest of us are going to do something the girls wanted to do (i don't mind, I don't drive). We go for coffee n cake and I get quizzed about my relationship status/my last relationship by N and her friend. We then go to a gift shop and N sees a name plaque with the name 'Cumming' on it and shows it to me like "omg, look at this" to which i then bring up a Cards Against Humanity game we played the night before (N was choosing the cards and it was something like "I've got 99 problems but ____ ain't one" the card I gave her was "announcing I'm about to cum" and my card won and we have a giggle about it. We then go to a different gift shop and all of a sudden she turns round and asks me when I'm moving to another country and I turn round and say "oh, I'm not yet like it's just an idea atm" and she said.... Wait for it... "Oh good so we can be best friends and like go gym then yeah?".....
We then go to a pub and me and N are flirting a little, she's finding excuses to touch me and I'm just making her laugh with my appalling jokes. We then all get back to the air b&b and we all decide to watch the sun set as it was shaping up to be a beautiful one. My best mate and the other guy go off up a hill near our b&b to watch it and there's me N and the other girl still in the back garden and after a while the other girl leaves to go inside leaving me and N on our own and dont get me wrong we talked a little bit but i was super fucking anxious here like I'm sat there going "you've got many ways to steal a kiss here" and Ngl I just froze, staring at the sunset playing scenarios through my mind... Fast forward a few hours and with this being the last night we had to do a bit of cleaning. I ask N where the cleaning products are and she says she'll show me (this is possibly the worst I've fumbled the bag this entire trip) getting the cleaning products takes precisely 2 mins and we some how spent about ten in that untility room. With one what felt like a massive period of time where we just sat staring at her and my head was shouting at me this time "look she wants you to kiss her, pick her up, put her on the counter and just make out with her, it's now or never" needless to say I didn't kiss her, I walked her to her room, said good night to her and recieved a side hug to top it all off.
We then all get home and a few days later me and N are still messaging, We're talking about our evenings and what we're doing. then head to bed, wake up and head to work and get a message from her that's like "so my lil night drive kinda turned into a booty call" - was that her way of trying to make me jealous or am I neck deep in the FZ?
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2024.04.28 10:08 ServiceWorking How did I mess up this badly?

TLDR: Climbing trip with friends, including 'N' whom the storyteller is interested in. 'N' shows signs of interest during the climb, especially during the descent when she asks to hold hands. Flirting between 'N' and the storyteller's confident best friend is noticeable. 'N' and the storyteller have moments of interaction, including discussing potential moves abroad. Flirting continues, but the storyteller misses opportunities to make a move, feeling anxious. Despite spending time alone with N' and having a chance in a utility room, the storyteller doesn't make a move. Later, 'N' mentions a "booty call"' in a message, leaving the storyteller unsure if she's trying to make him jealous or if he's stuck in the friend zone.
So me and 4 other mates (3M 2F, 1M+1F already dating leaves 2M and 1F single oh and one of the M's is my best mate of 10 years) went to climb a mountain, and I knew all but one girl going, everyone else knew/had met eachother in the past.
And you guessed it, that one girl I didn't know is who this is about... For the purpose of this story we'll call her 'N'
So first off I'm a rather socially awkward person and it takes me a little bit of time to get used to new people and that is made worse if I think they're attractive and I very much did.
So we start climbing the mountain and we start as a group but as we get higher the group kinda shoots off into 2M leading the way and me and 2F at the back nattering away (at this point I'm forcing myself out of my comfort zone to try and talk to her without getting embarrassed) which to be fair, for me is an achievement anyway.
Each time we'd stop for a break i'd notice 'N' hanging around me and during the points when we were able to look at eachother and talk her eyes would drift from my eyes to my lips and back again multiple times. So we get up to the summit, spend a bit of time up there and then we obviously start our journey down then mountain.
So the descent starts as the couple leading the way as the girl was set on just getting to the bottom, leaving me, my best mate and the single girl together for a bit. Now a side note here, I'm the ugly one out of me and my mate, he's also a lot more confident when it comes to talking to women (gift of the gab I'd guess)
We get to a rather steep part covered in snow and my best mate runs down it to go join the couple leaving me and N to get down this steep bit and she asks me to hold her hand as we go down, and again there's more looking at my lips (I'm already thinking there must be some kinda attraction here on her part)
The couple and my best mate walk rather far ahead after that point and basically leave me and N to get down the mountain on our own and I did not make proper conversation with her and I'll be the first to admit that (and definitely regret it however we have since spoken about that and she's flipped it around to say that it's cool because now we've got more to talk about and find out about eachother)
The next evening comes around (remember when i told you that everyone except for me knew eachother and that my best mate has the gift of the gab) and it's flirting central between my best mate and N - they went to the same college at different times but were taught by the same teacher so they've already got wayy more in common than me and N. We as a group of three talk about the possibility of me moving to another country in a while (this bit is important for later)
Fast forward a day and the other two guys go for a drive while the rest of us are going to do something the girls wanted to do (i don't mind, I don't drive). We go for coffee n cake and I get quizzed about my relationship status/my last relationship by N and her friend. We then go to a gift shop and N sees a name plaque with the name 'Cumming' on it and shows it to me like "omg, look at this" to which i then bring up a Cards Against Humanity game we played the night before (N was choosing the cards and it was something like "I've got 99 problems but ____ ain't one" the card I gave her was "announcing I'm about to cum" and my card won and we have a giggle about it. We then go to a different gift shop and all of a sudden she turns round and asks me when I'm moving to another country and I turn round and say "oh, I'm not yet like it's just an idea atm" and she said.... Wait for it... "Oh good so we can be best friends and like go gym then yeah?".....
We then go to a pub and me and N are flirting a little, she's finding excuses to touch me and I'm just making her laugh with my appalling jokes. We then all get back to the air b&b and we all decide to watch the sun set as it was shaping up to be a beautiful one. My best mate and the other guy go off up a hill near our b&b to watch it and there's me N and the other girl still in the back garden and after a while the other girl leaves to go inside leaving me and N on our own and dont get me wrong we talked a little bit but i was super fucking anxious here like I'm sat there going "you've got many ways to steal a kiss here" and Ngl I just froze, staring at the sunset playing scenarios through my mind... Fast forward a few hours and with this being the last night we had to do a bit of cleaning. I ask N where the cleaning products are and she says she'll show me (this is possibly the worst I've fumbled the bag this entire trip) getting the cleaning products takes precisely 2 mins and we some how spent about ten in that untility room. With one what felt like a massive period of time where we just sat staring at her and my head was shouting at me this time "look she wants you to kiss her, pick her up, put her on the counter and just make out with her, it's now or never" needless to say I didn't kiss her, I walked her to her room, said good night to her and recieved a side hug to top it all off.
We then all get home and a few days later me and N are still messaging, We're talking about our evenings and what we're doing. then head to bed, wake up and head to work and get a message from her that's like "so my lil night drive kinda turned into a booty call" - was that her way of trying to make me jealous or am I neck deep in the FZ?
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2024.04.28 00:46 Due-Comfort-1839 AITA for how I handled my divorce?

So I (30F) had been married to my husband Caleb (34M) for four years, and we dated for two years before that. We have a three years old daughter together, and our marriage seemed to be pretty great. I discovered he had been cheating on me with a friend of his for about four months. Of course, I was heartbroken, but I chose not to confront him about it, to take my time to process things, to think right about what I should do. The first thing I did was to search for good divorce lawyers and I talked to my friends about what I should do. Then I prepared myself, and I sat down Caleb and told him a couple of lies. I told him I had met someone on work, and that I had fallen in love with him and I no longer had any feelings for him. He genuinely looked heartbroken, and had the nerve to be mad about it. It didn't happend, but even if it had, where do you get the nerve to complain about it? He still tried to convince me to not leave for the sake of our daughter, but I think that's the worst thing you can do, to stay in a marriage for a child. It wouldn't be benefitial for them at all.
Anyway, then when I filed for divorce, I used all the proof I had to prove the cheating, and he didn't found out about me knowing about his affair through me, but through my lawyers. He has tried to talk to me about this, with multiple texts, but I only respond the text that are related to our daughter. I did this so he couldn't prepare himself, and also, because I didn't want to hear those bullshit excuses that cheater usually use. The main reason why I did this is because, even though I'm not that interested in material things, my parents were both architects and they designed our house. They passed away not too long ago. I also have a big collection of old video consoles that I inherited from my dad, who was a total gamer. I do play, but I'm not obssesed like he was. However, I'm going to take care of those video game consoles as if they were babies. There's also this big collection of rare editions of records from my mom from her favorite bands and artist from the day, and I will also take care of that with my life. My only duty as a daughter after their passing. So, it's basically that. I also told the judge I wanted 50/50 custody, because I want our daughter to grow up with both her parents in her life. I got it, and I got to keep the house and also our car. He was left with nothing but his personal things.
I recieved thousands and thousands of texts and calls from Caleb. He keeps wanting to talk, but I'm not interested. The divorce was finalized, and I just simply responded with a text telling him that there are no hard feelings from my part for what he did, that I wish he hadn't been such an asshole, but he was and here we are, and luckly, it's already over. Now, all I want is a good co-parenting relationship, and he shouldn't waste his time trying to make excuses for his actions and wanting to change my mind, because I won't. I won't discuss anything with him that has nothing to do with our daughter. I did however warned him about him trying to lie about our daughter in the future about what happend. About speaking bad about me. I made clear that even though there are no hard feelings from me about what he did, I will make sure of destroying him if he even attempts to use our daughter to hurt me in the future.
I still have his parents and his siblings telling me I handled things wrong and all that I did has affected him terribly. It has been months, and it still continues. I was ignoring everything, but I had enough and told them to stop with this bullshit already because Caleb only faced consequences for his actions, and I didn't care how he was doing. And if they keep showing to be so toxic, I might just consider about letting them near my daughter again, because I don't want people like them near her. They stopped afterwards, and ended up telling me once more to me they just think I handled things wrong. Some of my friends are saying that too, and I'm kinda lost because I think I handled things just fine. I'm over that, like I said, we have been separated for over a year, and the divorce was finalized a while ago already. And I've been seeing someone for around three months now. It seems like it could be something serious, he's a really nice guy, but the point is, I've been just focusing on moving on and didn't give much thought about what happend. I was pretty sure that I had handled things just fine, but now that so many people, including some of my friends, are telling me that I didn't, I wonder if I was in the wrong.
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2024.04.27 22:39 _saiya_ Is a PhD in civil engineering advisable?

I just started my career. I'm considering doing a PhD but I want to weigh the decision properly. I don't just want to do a PhD because I had nothing better to do. Kindly share your thoughts\experience\advice, I'll write about my background.
I'm from India.
Educational background - BTech (3.36\4 from ABET accredited university), MTech in Infrastructure Engineering and Management, IIT Kanpur (9.6\10, directors award for academic excellence), the course is a mix of traditional construction management and asset management. My thesis work was in the domain of pavement asset management. The work is being accepted and will soon be published in JIS, ASCE journal. I'm sole 1st author and my guide is 2nd author. My guide has been encouraging me to pursue a PhD since some months now. He presented my thesis work in an asset management conference in Australia and it was very well recieved. He thinks I have very good potential and should consider research. He also thinks that I should be able to get in most programs in US or EU should I choose to apply. He's a PhD from UC Berkeley so I trust he knows his way, in and out of acadmeia.
Professional background - I joined AECOM as a junior structural engineer for bridges last August. Work has been kind of dull. As a junior engineer, most days I'm preparing excel sheets or checking someone's work as part of quality processes. I sometimes get to do modelling but I find the work repetitive and boring after some time. Maybe because I work in a cost centre and all they do is detailed design. Most work for my team is for government clients in UK and ANZ region. Regardless, I feel my potential is being not utilised. I have taken GMICE and IAM memberships but they won't be reimbursed(for next 3 years), which is kind of bummer and consequently there won't be any structured professional development\commitment from company which is a off putting. I'm also on board of directors for IAM India chapter and lead a few initiatives for them.
This combination of good feedback and relatively unsatisfactory work environment lead me to consider 3 options. First is switching jobs, but there are very few companies which pay decent in India to freshers, regardless of credentials. 2nd is looking for employment outside India. This would potentially mean better and challenging work and pay. 3rd was a PhD from tier 1 universities\research groups in asset management, construction management(including safety, reliability, risk, contracts and tenders etc), Tech for civil applications (AI\ML\smart transportation etc), structural engineering, in that order of preference.
I know for a fact that PhD in India is worthless. Often times it is more difficult to find employment after PhD if there is any employment at all. The doctorates are made to work with us, fresh MTech grads at same pay scale. This basically, to me indicates that industry doesn't value PhDs and if the pay is same after a 5 year gruelling degree, it's not worth doing it.
I wanted opinion of folks on the other side of world, is PhD considered an added advantage or something that's worthless? What are pros and cons of pursuing a PhD vs staying in the industry, progressing and getting potentially close to chartership? Is there any scope of finding employment outside India, and how to go about it?
Thanks for reading, would love to hear from you!
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2024.04.27 22:29 Equivalent-Treat-457 An unpopular take regarding this whole drama

Kind of at least..
TLDR I feel like the original intention of BSG wasn't to maliciously scam their users. Most of the current drama is rather due to ignorance, incompetence and a disconnect with both the community and reality. The underlying issue being a chronic and total lack of transparency and communication. There is no doubt though that BSG has used deceitful and illegal practices to try and get their will, which is absolutely inexcusable. Im not trying to defend them here, im simply offering a hopefully insightful perspective and shed some light of what i think is the root cause of all this.
(Note that none of the "quotes" are actual quotes, theyre paraphrased to get the point across better)
Ever since the big influx of players in 2020, i feel like BSG has moved further and further away from interacting with the community. Back then I remember Nikita doing a poll on the website once, asking people how high labs keycard prices should be. I know, crazy stuff.
The devs and the community grew further and further apart as time went on and i almost cant blame them. Tarkov players are both the most pationate and bipolar community there is. Any kind of discussion regarding tarkov could have people wanting to either rip the devs heads off, or crown them as kings. (I wonder how many death threats nikita has recieved over the years lol.) Every player has their own perfect idea of the game and will fight to the death to defend their point. So on the surface its kind of understandable, that to retain any semblence of sanity Nikita and the rest of the team took on a very isolated approach. They do their thing and ignore most of the feedback, because you simply can't please everyone anyways. So might as well have it fully your way, "take it or leave it" so to speak. Phrases from Nikita like "players will think its shit anyways" in regards to the recoil rework (that was great btw) or "let them leave if they want, we will see who the true believers are" underline my assumption pretty well here.
Combine that with a fragile ego, a passion of his own and a russian/ authoritarian mindset, and you got yourself a terrible foundation for accepting feedback and criticism from others.
So naturally over time, if you simply go by this "take it or leave it" approach and ignore the feedback, you end up losing touch with reality as a whole. You start assuming what the players want, instead of simply asking them.
You can clearly see this mindset in regards to arena. What made Tarkovs OG endgame PVP so good was the responsive and agile movement in combination with a massive variety of guns and mods to choose from. Instead of building on that gorgeous potential, they ended up releasing arena ass backwards with inertia and of course the tragedy that is preset characters, completely and utterly missing the mark. While seemingly having no clue why it flopped and also never even considered flat out asking the community why they wont play it. Even the development mess that is team fortress managed to create small ingame polls that asked you why you prefer casual over competetive etc.
I feel like arena was a big factor in this as well, because EOD users started to be kind of a pain in BSGs ass, because of the demand that arena should be included in the package. That would mean that arena would be a big financial flop, because the largest target audience will already have the game "for free".
That might have caused a kind of apathy towards the community or EOD users, in the sense of "im giving you bastards what youve asked for for years and you just want to have it for free?"
Ultimately all those factors seem to have bled into the current drama: - disconnect from reality explains the absurdly high price point and the bending of the word "dlc"
To get to my core point, i feel like unheard edition was never meant to be a scam, but is simply a reflection of the relationship that the devs have with the community right now and their distorted perceptions.
The drama unfolding right now seems more like a symptom of a bigger problem that should have been addressed years ago and was bound to break out eventually. I really hope if the game doesn't die, that this whole thing ends up being a lesson learned to try and establish a more healthy and functional connection between the devs and the players for the long term. In addition to that i hope that the devs manage to humble themselves a little and respect the community more.
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2024.04.27 20:31 ServiceWorking How did i fuck it up this much?

TLDR: Climbing trip with friends, including 'N' whom the storyteller is interested in. 'N' shows signs of interest during the climb, especially during the descent when she asks to hold hands. Flirting between 'N' and the storyteller's confident best friend is noticeable. 'N' and the storyteller have moments of interaction, including discussing potential moves abroad. Flirting continues, but the storyteller misses opportunities to make a move, feeling anxious. Despite spending time alone with 'N' and having a chance in a utility room, the storyteller doesn't make a move. Later, 'N' mentions a "booty call" in a message, leaving the storyteller unsure if she's trying to make him jealous or if he's stuck in the friend zone.
So me and 4 other mates (3M 2F, 1M+1F already dating leaves 2M and 1F single oh and one of the M's is my best mate of 10 years) went to climb a mountain, and I knew all but one girl going, everyone else knew/had met eachother in the past.
And you guessed it, that one girl I didn't know is who this is about... For the purpose of this story we'll call her 'N'
So first off I'm a rather socially awkward person and it takes me a little bit of time to get used to new people and that is made worse if I think they're attractive and I very much did.
So we start climbing the mountain and we start as a group but as we get higher the group kinda shoots off into 2M leading the way and me and 2F at the back nattering away (at this point I'm forcing myself out of my comfort zone to try and talk to her without getting embarrassed) which to be fair, for me is an achievement anyway.
Each time we'd stop for a break i'd notice 'N' hanging around me and during the points when we were able to look at eachother and talk her eyes would drift from my eyes to my lips and back again multiple times. So we get up to the summit, spend a bit of time up there and then we obviously start our journey down then mountain.
So the descent starts as the couple leading the way as the girl was set on just getting to the bottom, leaving me, my best mate and the single girl together for a bit. Now a side note here, I'm the ugly one out of me and my mate, he's also a lot more confident when it comes to talking to women (gift of the gab I'd guess)
We get to a rather steep part covered in snow and my best mate runs down it to go join the couple leaving me and N to get down this steep bit and she asks me to hold her hand as we go down, and again there's more looking at my lips (I'm already thinking there must be some kinda attraction here on her part)
The couple and my best mate walk rather far ahead after that point and basically leave me and N to get down the mountain on our own and I did not make proper conversation with her and I'll be the first to admit that (and definitely regret it however we have since spoken about that and she's flipped it around to say that it's cool because now we've got more to talk about and find out about eachother)
The next evening comes around (remember when i told you that everyone except for me knew eachother and that my best mate has the gift of the gab) and it's flirting central between my best mate and N - they went to the same college at different times but were taught by the same teacher so they've already got wayy more in common than me and N. We as a group of three talk about the possibility of me moving to another country in a while (this bit is important for later)
Fast forward a day and the other two guys go for a drive while the rest of us are going to do something the girls wanted to do (i don't mind, I don't drive). We go for coffee n cake and I get quizzed about my relationship status/my last relationship by N and her friend. We then go to a gift shop and N sees a name plaque with the name 'Cumming' on it and shows it to me like "omg, look at this" to which i then bring up a Cards Against Humanity game we played the night before (N was choosing the cards and it was something like "I've got 99 problems but ____ ain't one" the card I gave her was "announcing I'm about to cum" and my card won and we have a giggle about it. We then go to a different gift shop and all of a sudden she turns round and asks me when I'm moving to another country and I turn round and say "oh, I'm not yet like it's just an idea atm" and she said.... Wait for it... "Oh good so we can be best friends and like go gym then yeah?".....
We then go to a pub and me and N are flirting a little, she's finding excuses to touch me and I'm just making her laugh with my appalling jokes. We then all get back to the air b&b and we all decide to watch the sun set as it was shaping up to be a beautiful one. My best mate and the other guy go off up a hill near our b&b to watch it and there's me N and the other girl still in the back garden and after a while the other girl leaves to go inside leaving me and N on our own and dont get me wrong we talked a little bit but i was super fucking anxious here like I'm sat there going "you've got many ways to steal a kiss here" and Ngl I just froze, staring at the sunset playing scenarios through my mind... Fast forward a few hours and with this being the last night we had to do a bit of cleaning. I ask N where the cleaning products are and she says she'll show me (this is possibly the worst I've fumbled the bag this entire trip) getting the cleaning products takes precisely 2 mins and we some how spent about ten in that untility room. With one what felt like a massive period of time where we just sat staring at her and my head was shouting at me this time "look she wants you to kiss her, pick her up, put her on the counter and just make out with her, it's now or never" needless to say I didn't kiss her, I walked her to her room, said good night to her and recieved a side hug to top it all off.
We then all get home and a few days later me and N are still messaging, We're talking about our evenings and what we're doing. I then head to bed, wake up and head to work and get a message from her that's like "so my lil night drive kinda turned into a booty call" - was that her way of trying to make me jealous or am I neck deep in the FZ?
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2024.04.27 18:21 Atleett The inspiring story of ”the miracle at Klara"

The inspiring story of ”the miracle at Klara
Klara kyrka (the Church of Saint Clare) was finished in 1590 on the spot of a torn down franciscan abbey. It's current appearance however is essentially that of a 19th century neo-gothic church after heavy renovations in the 1880s. It is situated in the absolute centre of Stockholm in what is known as the old Klara blocks/quarters. Sadly, during the wealthy decades after WW2 pretty much all old buildings in the heart of Stockholm were torn down and replaced with concrete and glass office buildings, despite having withstood the war due to Sweden's neutrality. This also ment that whole parishes were almost emptied of inhabitants and mass attendance crashed. In 1989 the Sunday mass was usually attended just by three old ladies, when the parish was finally merged. The church was set to be closed and even the Bishop proposed that the church should be turned into a bath house. But eventually the low-church organisation within the Church of Sweden, EFS (Swedish Evangelical Mission) took over it and started doing missionary work centered around deaconry, social work and charity. The surrounding area is around the central station and the main public transport hub where many drug addicts, alcoholics, prostitutes and illegal migrants move around. Under the leadership of the popular and recently deceased priest Carl-Eric Sahlberg who had before been active for many years in Tanzania, what is sometimes called "the miracle at Klara" happened. This is the process of massive growth the congregation have had, with many people coming to faith in this secular country and many having their lives turned around from substance abuse, violence etc. This should be put in context of the slowly but constantly shrinking parishes in CoS the last decades. Today their Sunday services can gather way more than 150 people, which is probably more than any others in the CoS in Stockholm. My impression from visiting them now and then is that the congregation is also unusually diverse regarding age, ethnicity and socio-economical backgrond. A priest also told me that lately, more and more of immigrant muslim background have become believers in Christ at Klara and describes there is much curiosity and ”a thirst for Christ” among them. This is a quite rare phenomenon in the CoS and a sign that Jesus is still touching people’s hearts at Klara. Sahlberg once said he has to pinch his own skin sometimes when he sees the full church at Sundays to believe it, considering the crisis in the 90s. He also said that you could just close your eyes and open them and a new drug addict had left drugs behind and a new pew had been filled. The worship style is a mixture of on the one hand, the style seen in what we call free churches (evangelical/charismatic etc) such as projector screens, contemporary music, so called ”praise songs” instead of hymnals and a bit more charismatic/physical expressions such as hand movements (swedes are known as very reserved people body language-wise and this is still quite ”tame” compared to many other charismatic churches worldwide) - and on the other hand the classical lutheran worship otherwise found in the CoS, such as priestly garments, processions, emphasis on the sacraments, a set order for the service and common creeds etc. The church is usually bustling with activity at any given moment and several prayers and masses are held every week. When one walks inside there are usually people sleeping in the pews, socialising, playing instruments, or praying and singing. There is always free coffee, and a shelf with free books and an open deacon's office which many people on the outskirts of society visit. They arrange soup kitchens and much more. There was also a TV-documentary made about the phenomenon broadcasted on state television, with the focus on the help homeless people have recieved. For one hour every weekday afternoon a small team of evangelisers bring a cart filled with free bibles and coffee with them to Sergel’s square, the epicentre of the entire city, and offer prayers for anyone interested, give away literature and spread the gospel to people approaching them (which are more than one would think), see picture 16. I think the entire congregation has a fantastic ”flame” in it, which I welcome in the CoS which can sometimes be a bit of a stale, institutional organisation. On their website they write ”every weekday (…) we can be found at Sergel’s square with our coffee-cart to meet our scruffy friends. Through food, coffee, conversation, encouragement, prayer, friendship and presence we want to mediate the love, forgiveness and reparation of Jesus to our city” Once in the early days, an old and apperantly half-deaf salvation army soldier approached the priest Carl-Eric Sahlberg and proposed that they should walk to nearby Malmskillnadsgatan, the city’s main strip for prostitution. Sahlberg told him no as politely he could but the soldier knowingly or unknowingly misinterpreted is as a yes and came to get him the day after and off they went. There they offered whatever help they could to the exposed women and he had very personal and moving talks with prostitutes, of which some eventually became believers, presumably. He was later joined by former prostitute Elise Lindqvist, now known as ”the angel of Malmskillnadsgatan” who have visited Malmskillnadsgatan every Friday evening/night for the last 25 years. The difference the good people at Klara have done for the city is a moving and inspiring example of very authentic and loving Christianity.
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2024.04.27 15:02 SLAVAUA2022 An interview with The Cardinal Birds on making music in wartime. They are a Ukrainian Punkband that joined NAFO and raised money for the Ukrainian military

An interview with The Cardinal Birds on making music in wartime. They are a Ukrainian Punkband that joined NAFO and raised money for the Ukrainian military
We had a sit down with The Cardinal Birds, this Ukrainian band got its political instincts activated in 2014. They've been making music with a message and also launched the official NAFO Hymn. Moreover they even raised a millions hryvnia for the Ukrainian Military!
https://preview.redd.it/328tc3ecr0xc1.jpg?width=743&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5201a501418dfa439afd9701188ef0a60c09e34b
1. You guys started your band in 2014 at a time when Ukraine went through hard times. Has the ongoing war coloured your repetoire in music, and if so how does it reflect in your songs? Vlad: Remembering 2014, these were really difficult times for our country. In fact, many people think that the war began in 2022, but the struggle for independence began long before that, back in 2003, russia aggressively tried to seize the island of Tuzla, they never appreciated our statehood and wanted to appropriate our territories and culture for themselves. In terms of music, we were influenced by the Western world, at that time we were all listening to the bands Blink-182, Green Day, Sum 41 and it was these bands that inspired us to play music, that was the basis for us. Then our first songs were like those bands, we always wanted to play punk. Only now, to draw attention to the biggest war in Europe since the Second World War, we recorded such tracks as "Uke Line", "NAFO Hymn" and "Ukraine Matters" (https://youtu.be/s2aQxTtvvF8?si=F9ENYD33Ulew1CUY)
2. Your gained quite some populairity in the NAFO community launching the NAFO Hymn, what inspired you to make it?
Dee: We were inspired by #FELLAS! We have never received this kind of support in our lives as we received and are receiving from them! Every day we met new FELLAS and many helped us in recording new songs, namely they bought our music on Bandcamp or bought our merch, sent various types of musical equipment, etc. (Gifts: https://youtu.be/p57jtIFN70Y?si=AgPlUuPGPPIHsl4D) I was surprised by this power and simply could not stand by! I suggested that the Cardinals write an anthem for NAFO and they agreed! We started working on demos and each participant wrote an instrumental composition, but we chose the music that our drummer Max wrote! His instrumental suited our mood best and apparently his musical education helps him out perfectly! Well, the music was ready and I started tweeting that I was getting ready to write lyrics for the song! I wanted us all to write the text together, so I wrote the beginning of the phrases, and FELLAS finished them! And so it turned out that we wrote this entire text together with FELLAS! The same thing happened with the cover for the song! I wanted to create a caricature of the cover of the Beatles' Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band and asked FELLAS to send me his characters. In a couple of days we received more than 200 avatars from different parts of the world and I started working! I spent about a week processing all the images in Photoshop and then created this collage! In the end, there were about 150 characters on the cover! And yes, at the end of the song you can also hear the voices of real FELLAS! They sent us their greetings by email and we added them at the end of the song! 3. The video of Nafo hymn shows some fella's you also make fella's yourself, what it's like to make fella's for other people and for which countries did you forge fella's ?
Dee: There are a lot of countries from which they sent us characters! Most of all we received avatars from the USA, Britain, Germany, Canada, Finland, Sweden! And what surprised me most was that most of our support team are located in Australia (Vlog. Aussie #FELLA in Kyiv: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LGxIHZ8c6TU&t=3s)!!)!! Can you imagine this??? IN AUSTRALIA!!! This is a pleasant shock for us!
4 . what's it like to perform as a band in Ukraine right now. Is it possible even in Kyiv or elsehwere in Ukraine, if so what's the atmosphere like?
Vlad: Thanks to our armed forces and anti-aircraft defense, it is possible and people do it, but of course if an air raid signal sounds, people hide in shelters. Almost every event now, whether it's a concert or a stand-up performance, is aimed at raising funds to increase the strength of Ukraine and inspire people to think positively.
5. What's the nicest feedback you recieved on the NAFO Hymn?
Max: Many good words were said to us, from many people from different countries of the world. I think the best feedback is when after one of the fellas wrote to us that he really liked the NAFO Hymn and would like us to write something similar for his YouTube channel "Ukraine Matters" https://youtu.be/99n9f8B4kIk?si=1JjpY1mMllVzuuBz and it happened, we wrote a new song and with the help of this song we collected a million hryvnias for our army. If the NAFO Hymn had not been written, perhaps this story would not have happened. We are very happy to have done this and grateful to NAFO FELLAS for such incredible support during these two years.
6. How does making music in Ukraine happen these days, do you still practice a lot?
Vlad: In fact, we do not practice as much as we would like, for obvious reasons, it is commonplace when the air traffic alarm sounds, then the transport stops, and the alarms can last for 3-4 hours, and the band members live on different banks of Kyiv. So it remains only to practice at home, this is the only option for now, and we regularly have rehearsals that we go to (if there are no air alarms) In general, the Ukrainian music industry is developing rapidly, the event has started to hear our performers and it's cool, we are sure that we have great potential and we will be able to realize it!
7. How did you join NAFO?
Max: We've been tweeting with a lot of people, following them and asking them to listen to our music. And one day we noticed that people with avatars of Shiba Inu dogs are very cool interlocutors, after searching on Google what these avatars mean, we realized that these people support Ukraine. Later, one of the subscribers made us an avatar of the dog in the form of a shiba inu dog, that's how we joined NAFO, this happened even before we released NAFO Hymn.
8. How do you reflect on the international support the NAFO movement has recieved? And Ukraine in general? Max: NAFO is gaining momentum and new fellas every day. This is a powerful support for Ukraine, we are glad that the people who are part of NAFO support us so passionately, they are doing a lot of work in order to resist the rusian bastards. We are grateful to the countries that provide us with weapons, in order to end the war with our victory, we need even more weapons, we can win, but only with a sufficient number of heavy weapons.
9. Musicwise how would you describe your style? Max: We play punk rock, it's music in which you can say whatever you want, all your feelings and thoughts, it's completely open music for something new, our music is freedom of action in everything.
10 What are the biggest challanges you face now as an artist?
Dee: The biggest problem - oh, so many... Unfortunately, music does not bring us income and we have to work 2 jobs to support ourselves. The economic situation in Ukraine is not the best right now, so we need to work a lot, and the more we work, the less time we have for creativity and rehearsals... It’s also very difficult to find inspiration for songs now. There is a war in Ukraine and thoughts are only about war. Every day we think about war. Death, death, death. It's horrible. Because of the coronavirus and now because of the war, we almost never perform live, this also upsets us very much, because we are a rock and roll band. In short, it’s good that we are 3 guys band and from time to time we support each other or simply give each other “magic kicks”! We believe that one day we will be at the Rock Am Ring and Reading Festival!
THANK YOU to all Ukrainian Men and Women who defend our freedom and independence! YOU ARE OUR HEROES FOREVER! Special thanks to all #FELLAS and our friends from around the world, for your help, your donations and standing with Ukraine. YOU ARE THE BEST! *** Favorite bands: Dee Lav (bass/vox): The Beatles, Motley Crue, Paramore Vlad Stebel (guitabacking vocals): Electric Callboy, Idles, Green Day Cech (drums/vox): Bring Me the Horizon, Electric Callboy, Sum 41 #SLAVAUKRAINI Yours, Cardinal Birds 📷 Spotify/AppleMusic/YouTube Music etc.: https://push.fm/ps/cb-um 📷Music Video: https://youtu.be/XqABqmCHN4w?si=t3WiU7mmZ8f7re9N 📷 Support our music: http://buymeacoffee.com/cardinalbirds Drums & Vocals: Cech https://www.instagram.com/cech.cb/ Bass & Vocals: Dee Lav https://www.instagram.com/deelav.cb/ Guitars & Backing Vocals: Stebel https://www.instagram.com/stebel.cb/
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2024.04.27 14:08 hotdognova ERR_ADDRESS_UNREACHABLE // Major Issue with Windows itself.

i am on the edge of wiping my entire computer clean and resetting it completely.
Since 2-3 days ago i have an issue where my WIFI Shows that it's on, but not really. When i access sites like YouTube, Google, Bandcamp etc it all works fine. But websites like ElevenLabs are met with an "ERR_ADDRESS_UNREACHABLE" aswell as Reddit and more sites.
Strangely enough, my Macbook and Smartphone accesses these websites just fine with the same WIFI Connection. So it cannot be my WIFI but rather my Laptop that runs Windows.
Furthermore, the Apps on my Desktop like Discord or Steam won't update, like the Apps themselves recieve no connection from my Internet.
ERRORS:
I use an IdeaPad L340-15RH Gaming
Intel (R) Core (TM) i5-9300H CPU @2.40GHz
8 GB RAM at 64bit
I tried the following things:
* Resetting my router twice.
* Switching from Windows 10 to Windows 11
* Changing DNS to Google DNS
* Running Antivirus to see if theres a problem with no results
* DNS Flushing
* IPCONFIG Commands
* NETSH Commands
*Updating Drivers
* Uninstalling Driver with re-start
* Updates for Windows
* Troubleshooting possible issues and coming out empty handed
* Checked my Firewall (ON)
*Checked Chrome if the problem results from there, coming out empty handed
and much more.
What's frustrating is that after uninstalling my driver, restarting my laptop and disabling my router for 30 seconds before enabling it again, everything seemed to work just fine again.
But now it got back to the state it was before i made it work
I did not download anything fishy that could possible be a Virus to my System. I just randomly noticed this out of nowhere and just thought my WIFI Router was somehow messing up. Sometimes on my connection bar it shows me that i am connected, but i have no internet.
I have my laptop with me since December 2019 and used Windows 10 for most of the time until now. My Computer did not have a virus for several years. And if it did notice something, my anti virus would delete it automatically. But i know that my antivirus did not cause this problem either, because you have to manually scan your computer.
I use no VPN, i have open Ports.... I'm not sure what else to mention. Might have missed something but i digress.
If ANYONE can aid me in fixing this issue i would be very very grateful.
I thank anyone in advance already who can help me get this issue fixed because it's gnawing on my nerves.
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2024.04.27 14:06 SLAVAUA2022 Interview with THE CARDINAL BIRDS: The Ukrainian band that made NAFO's Hymn and raised money for the army!

Interview with THE CARDINAL BIRDS: The Ukrainian band that made NAFO's Hymn and raised money for the army!
We had a sit down with The Cardinal Birds, this Ukrainian band got its political instintcs activated in 2014. They've been making music with a message and also launched the official NAFO Hymn. They even raised a millions hryvnia for the Ukrainian Military!
https://preview.redd.it/qot9yvqbb0xc1.jpg?width=743&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=55a637eaf4d59e9d7d62c22844319c69e6044bd4
1. You guys started your band in 2014 at a time when Ukraine went through hard times. Has the ongoing war coloured your repetoire in music, and if so how does it reflect in your songs? Vlad: Remembering 2014, these were really difficult times for our country. In fact, many people think that the war began in 2022, but the struggle for independence began long before that, back in 2003, russia aggressively tried to seize the island of Tuzla, they never appreciated our statehood and wanted to appropriate our territories and culture for themselves. In terms of music, we were influenced by the Western world, at that time we were all listening to the bands Blink-182, Green Day, Sum 41 and it was these bands that inspired us to play music, that was the basis for us. Then our first songs were like those bands, we always wanted to play punk. Only now, to draw attention to the biggest war in Europe since the Second World War, we recorded such tracks as "Uke Line", "NAFO Hymn" and "Ukraine Matters" (https://youtu.be/s2aQxTtvvF8?si=F9ENYD33Ulew1CUY)
2. Your gained quite some populairty in the NAFO community publishing with the NAFO Hymne, what inspired you to make it?
Dee: We were inspired by #FELLAS! We have never received this kind of support in our lives as we received and are receiving from them! Every day we met new FELLAS and many helped us in recording new songs, namely they bought our music on Bandcamp or bought our merch, sent various types of musical equipment, etc. (Gifts: https://youtu.be/p57jtIFN70Y?si=AgPlUuPGPPIHsl4D) I was surprised by this power and simply could not stand by! I suggested that the Cardinals write an anthem for NAFO and they agreed! We started working on demos and each participant wrote an instrumental composition, but we chose the music that our drummer Max wrote! His instrumental suited our mood best and apparently his musical education helps him out perfectly! Well, the music was ready and I started tweeting that I was getting ready to write lyrics for the song! I wanted us all to write the text together, so I wrote the beginning of the phrases, and FELLAS finished them! And so it turned out that we wrote this entire text together with FELLAS! The same thing happened with the cover for the song! I wanted to create a caricature of the cover of the Beatles' Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band and asked FELLAS to send me his characters. In a couple of days we received more than 200 avatars from different parts of the world and I started working! I spent about a week processing all the images in Photoshop and then created this collage! In the end, there were about 150 characters on the cover! And yes, at the end of the song you can also hear the voices of real FELLAS! They sent us their greetings by email and we added them at the end of the song! 3. The video of Nafo hymn shows some fella's you also make fella's yourself, what is like to make fella's for people and for which countries did you make fella's ?
Dee: There are a lot of countries from which they sent us characters! Most of all we received avatars from the USA, Britain, Germany, Canada, Finland, Sweden! And what surprised me most was that most of our support team are located in Australia (Vlog. Aussie #FELLA in Kyiv: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LGxIHZ8c6TU&t=3s)!!)!! Can you imagine this??? IN AUSTRALIA!!! This is a pleasant shock for us!
4 . what's it like to perform as a band in Ukraine right now. Is it possible even in Kyiv or elsehwere in Ukraine, if so what's the atmosphere like?
Vlad: Thanks to our armed forces and anti-aircraft defense, it is possible and people do it, but of course if an air raid signal sounds, people hide in shelters. Almost every event now, whether it's a concert or a stand-up performance, is aimed at raising funds to increase the strength of Ukraine and inspire people to think positively.
5. What's the nicest feedback you recieved on the NAFO Hymn?
Max: Many good words were said to us, from many people from different countries of the world. I think the best feedback is when after one of the fellas wrote to us that he really liked the NAFO Hymn and would like us to write something similar for his YouTube channel "Ukraine Matters" https://youtu.be/99n9f8B4kIk?si=1JjpY1mMllVzuuBz and it happened, we wrote a new song and with the help of this song we collected a million hryvnias for our army. If the NAFO Hymn had not been written, perhaps this story would not have happened. We are very happy to have done this and grateful to NAFO FELLAS for such incredible support during these two years.
6. How does musicmaking go in Ukraine, do you still practice a lot?
Vlad: In fact, we do not practice as much as we would like, for obvious reasons, it is commonplace when the air traffic alarm sounds, then the transport stops, and the alarms can last for 3-4 hours, and the band members live on different banks of Kyiv. So it remains only to practice at home, this is the only option for now, and we regularly have rehearsals that we go to (if there are no air alarms) In general, the Ukrainian music industry is developing rapidly, the event has started to hear our performers and it's cool, we are sure that we have great potential and we will be able to realize it!
7. How did you join NAFO?
Max: We've been tweeting with a lot of people, following them and asking them to listen to our music. And one day we noticed that people with avatars of Shiba Inu dogs are very cool interlocutors, after searching on Google what these avatars mean, we realized that these people support Ukraine. Later, one of the subscribers made us an avatar of the dog in the form of a shiba inu dog, that's how we joined NAFO, this happened even before we released NAFO Hymn.
8. How do you reflect on the international support the NAFO movement has recieved? and Ukraine in general? Max: NAFO is gaining momentum and new fellas every day. This is a powerful support for Ukraine, we are glad that the people who are part of NAFO support us so passionately, they are doing a lot of work in order to resist the rusian bastards. We are grateful to the countries that provide us with weapons, in order to end the war with our victory, we need even more weapons, we can win, but only with a sufficient number of heavy weapons.
9. Musicwise how would you describe your style? Max: We play punk rock, it's music in which you can say whatever you want, all your feelings and thoughts, it's completely open music for something new, our music is freedom of action in everything.
10 What are the biggest challanges you face now as an artist?
Dee: The biggest problem - oh, so many... Unfortunately, music does not bring us income and we have to work 2 jobs to support ourselves. The economic situation in Ukraine is not the best right now, so we need to work a lot, and the more we work, the less time we have for creativity and rehearsals... It’s also very difficult to find inspiration for songs now. There is a war in Ukraine and thoughts are only about war. Every day we think about war. Death, death, death. It's horrible. Because of the coronavirus and now because of the war, we almost never perform live, this also upsets us very much, because we are a rock and roll band. In short, it’s good that we are 3 guys band and from time to time we support each other or simply give each other “magic kicks”! We believe that one day we will be at the Rock Am Ring and Reading Festival!
THANK YOU to all Ukrainian Men and Women who defend our freedom and independence! YOU ARE OUR HEROES FOREVER! Special thanks to all #FELLAS and our friends from around the world, for your help, your donations and standing with Ukraine. YOU ARE THE BEST! *** Favorite bands: Dee Lav (bass/vox): The Beatles, Motley Crue, Paramore Vlad Stebel (guitabacking vocals): Electric Callboy, Idles, Green Day Cech (drums/vox): Bring Me the Horizon, Electric Callboy, Sum 41 #SLAVAUKRAINI Yours, Cardinal Birds 📷 Spotify/AppleMusic/YouTube Music etc.: https://push.fm/ps/cb-um 📷Music Video: https://youtu.be/XqABqmCHN4w?si=t3WiU7mmZ8f7re9N 📷 Support our music: http://buymeacoffee.com/cardinalbirds Drums & Vocals: Cech https://www.instagram.com/cech.cb/ Bass & Vocals: Dee Lav https://www.instagram.com/deelav.cb/ Guitars & Backing Vocals: Stebel https://www.instagram.com/stebel.cb/
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2024.04.27 12:26 ServiceWorking How did I fumble me bag THIS much?

TLDR: Climbing trip with friends, including 'N' whom the storyteller is interested in. 'N' shows signs of interest during the climb, especially during the descent when she asks to hold hands. Flirting between 'N' and the storyteller's confident best friend is noticeable. 'N' and the storyteller have moments of interaction, including discussing potential moves abroad. Flirting continues, but the storyteller misses opportunities to make a move, feeling anxious. Despite spending time alone with 'N' and having a chance in a utility room, the storyteller doesn't make a move. Later, 'N' mentions a "booty call" in a message, leaving the storyteller unsure if she's trying to make him jealous or if he's stuck in the friend zone.
So me and 4 other mates (3M 2F, 1M+1F already dating leaves 2M and 1F single oh and one of the M's is my best mate of 10 years) went to climb a mountain, and I knew all but one girl going, everyone else knew/had met eachother in the past.
And you guessed it, that one girl I didn't know is who this is about... For the purpose of this story we'll call her 'N'
So first off I'm a rather socially awkward person and it takes me a little bit of time to get used to new people and that is made worse if I think they're attractive and I very much did.
So we start climbing the mountain and we start as a group but as we get higher the group kinda shoots off into 2M leading the way and me and 2F at the back nattering away (at this point I'm forcing myself out of my comfort zone to try and talk to her without getting embarrassed) which to be fair, for me is an achievement anyway.
Each time we'd stop for a break i'd notice 'N' hanging around me and during the points when we were able to look at eachother and talk her eyes would drift from my eyes to my lips and back again multiple times. So we get up to the summit, spend a bit of time up there and then we obviously start our journey down then mountain.
So the descent starts as the couple leading the way as the girl was set on just getting to the bottom, leaving me, my best mate and the single girl together for a bit. Now a side note here, I'm the ugly one out of me and my mate, he's also a lot more confident when it comes to talking to women (gift of the gab I'd guess)
We get to a rather steep part covered in snow and my best mate runs down it to go join the couple leaving me and N to get down this steep bit and she asks me to hold her hand as we go down, and again there's more looking at my lips (I'm already thinking there must be some kinda attraction here on her part)
The couple and my best mate walk rather far ahead after that point and basically leave me and N to get down the mountain on our own and I did not make proper conversation with her and I'll be the first to admit that (and definitely regret it however we have since spoken about that and she's flipped it around to say that it's cool because now we've got more to talk about and find out about eachother)
The next evening comes around (remember when i told you that everyone except for me knew eachother and that my best mate has the gift of the gab) and it's flirting central between my best mate and N - they went to the same college at different times but were taught by the same teacher so they've already got wayy more in common than me and N. We as a group of three talk about the possibility of me moving to another country in a while (this bit is important for later)
Fast forward a day and the other two guys go for a drive while the rest of us are going to do something the girls wanted to do (i don't mind, I don't drive). We go for coffee n cake and I get quizzed about my relationship status/my last relationship by N and her friend. We then go to a gift shop and N sees a name plaque with the name 'Cumming' on it and shows it to me like "omg, look at this" to which i then bring up a Cards Against Humanity game we played the night before (N was choosing the cards and it was something like "I've got 99 problems but ____ ain't one" the card I gave her was "announcing I'm about to cum" and my card won and we have a giggle about it. We then go to a different gift shop and all of a sudden she turns round and asks me when I'm moving to another country and I turn round and say "oh, I'm not yet like it's just an idea atm" and she said.... Wait for it... "Oh good so we can be best friends and like go gym then yeah?".....
We then go to a pub and me and N are flirting a little, she's finding excuses to touch me and I'm just making her laugh with my appalling jokes. We then all get back to the air b&b and we all decide to watch the sun set as it was shaping up to be a beautiful one. My best mate and the other guy go off up a hill near our b&b to watch it and there's me N and the other girl still in the back garden and after a while the other girl leaves to go inside leaving me and N on our own and dont get me wrong we talked a little bit but i was super fucking anxious here like I'm sat there going "you've got many ways to steal a kiss here" and Ngl I just froze, staring at the sunset playing scenarios through my mind... Fast forward a few hours and with this being the last night we had to do a bit of cleaning. I ask N where the cleaning products are and she says she'll show me (this is possibly the worst I've fumbled the bag this entire trip) getting the cleaning products takes precisely 2 mins and we some how spent about ten in that untility room. With one what felt like a massive period of time where we just sat staring at her and my head was shouting at me this time "look she wants you to kiss her, pick her up, put her on the counter and just make out with her, it's now or never" needless to say I didn't kiss her, I walked her to her room, said good night to her and recieved a side hug to top it all off.
We then all get home and a few days later me and N are still messaging, We're talking about our evenings and what we're doing. I then head to bed, wake up and head to work and get a message from her that's like "so my lil night drive kinda turned into a booty call" - was that her way of trying to make me jealous or am I neck deep in the FZ?
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2024.04.27 12:13 Oiinkiee My(F24) boyfriend (29) is sending daily snaps to women he has had sex with. I want to see the snaps from them and have him block them.

Hello, Everyone.

I(24F) have been officially together with my boyfriend(29), Jared(fake name), since January 21st this year.

This will be lengthy as I feel I need to put in some backstory so please bear with me..

Jared and I started talking back in the end of December 2022/January 2023. We live almost 2hours away from each other by car. I was currently going through a breakup with my then fiancé, Alec(fake name), and was not ready to jump into anything serious afterwards. Alec and I had an open relationship towards the end of it, between just after christmas 2022 and january 19th 2023, so that is where I started to talk to Jared. However, Jared and I did not actually meet until a while later in February 2023. Sadly, back then Alec still lived with me as it was hard to find somewhere seperate to live. Alec did have the opportunity to stay at a friend's place for that weekend, and that was the original plan until he heard I was having a guy over, so he decided to stay at our place.

I was smitten by Jared when we first met. Handsome, tall, sexy and he seemed so calm and collected. Curly dark blonde/brownish hair, greengrey eyes that reminded me of the sea. More on the athletic looking side... I found him so dreamy to look at. Where he got me? Well.. He handled the situation with my ex being there so amazingly.. I was starstruck by it. Sadly, I refused back then to believe we could ever be anything more than a fling because it was simply too soon for me to go into anything serious. Jared and I kept meeting up once a month until we decided to become exclusive September 24th 2023. We saw other people up until maybe a couple weeks before we decided on this.

I ain't gonna lie, our situationship was truly a rocky road during this whole time. I kept seeing other guys quite often to avoid staying home (as my ex was there and it was constant fighting and such to the point I totally broke down). Jared and I also had fights becuase I wanted to see him and I felt he never put in the time or efforts to make it happen. Now this is important because I tried breaking things off with him several times due to this - everytime he would manipulate and guilttrip me into staying. First time being in May/June 2023: we then came to the agreement of just continuing seeing each other as it was then, nothing romantic (even tho I knew I wanted more, but I could not allow myself that, especially since he didn't put in the efforts I felt I needed for things to be sustainable).

My ex finally moved out in may 2023. I was also in the middle of moving in june/july 2023 as I could not afford our old place on my own.

Up until Jared and I got exclusive, I was self destructive AF. As said I was seeing other guys, which I regret as I had feelings for him (which I refused to give in to). I gave in to trying substances (happened twice) which ended really bad both times. I drank whenever I could, etc. I was going through cutting out a bunch of ppl in my life as well.

All this stopped after I saw my then FWB, Neil(fake name), whom I'd been seeing since around new years 2023, within the first week of september 2023. I went through a breakdown after having been with him, fed up and disgusted with myself... I was tired of trying to fight myself and my feelings. Then about 2-3 weeks of trying to collect myself, I asked Jared to become exclusive. He agreed and then we just tried seeing how it'd go. I had already told Neil that I wanted to stop being intimate with him just a few days after he and I last saw each other, but would love to be friends (I thought we had an overall wonderful friendship where we talked about anything and everything and was supporting of each other). He seemed alright with this. I also cut off other guys I had flirted with. Guys I had been intimate with, but havent seen in long. I eventually went on to cut off any guys Jared believed only talked to me to get in my pants. I removed guys I were only friends with, but I removed em because we met through dating apps. I also removed Neil after a while since he told me he wanted to go back to hooking up.

Moving on, October 6th-7th 2023, I tried dumping Jared again as things were basically just the same as it had been before. No efforts to spending time together. No planning on when to see each other, no gaming together(we are both gamers, had gamed a few times together before, which I absolutely loved), no calls, no nothing. It made me want to back out as I felt things would not change, and I felt I needed more than having to chase him to meet up with me once a month. Yet again he managed to make me stay by using the tactics of "You're just leaving before we have even begun.. Just leaving me like everyone else" etc. Honestly, I did not really want to leave as I had developed feelings for him and I really wanted it to work, but he promised he'd try better with the planning on seeing each other and putting in efforts, which I fell for over and over.

We still kept seeing each other once a month, but we texted more. In december 2023 we had another fight about the same. I felt I deserved better than what was going on, he said I was free to go, but I'd probably not find anything better out there since "guys only want to get into womens panties" and that he hoped I wouldn't make a choice I would then regret. It broke me, but managed to make me drop it as I was still just hoping for him to step up... However, this time things actually started to change and he actually gave some efforts into meeting up and such. We even spoke more and tried to focus on our communication.

After some some back and forth, it seemed to go more and more forwards and we officially became a couple January 21st 2024 - and have been since. Still not been easy, but we in general communicate better and we also see each other as often as we can (about every 2nd weekend since march 2024).

However.. lately... and this is where our biggest problem are atm.. we are going through a bunch of insecurities and struggle to communicate with each other. Most of it being from my side (this has been coming up earlier in the relationship, but honestly not spiralled utnil now).

You see, Jared has snapchat(so does I) and he snaps with other women daily. He says it is just empty snaps to keep the daily score. However, when I have asked about the women he has just said they are just some women, some nobodies. I had asked before about what kind of relationship he has had with them, where he has stated that they are just old friends. It did not really sit well with me the way he spoke about it, as he said it in such a dismissive manner. He has said he would not have any problems opening some of the snaps in front of me(just to let me see that what he said is true and I don't have to worry about it). However, this has yet to happen. But I've waited. Until I decided about 3 weeks ago to try and be smooth and joking with him. We were at my place watching a movie late, I slid my hand in his pocket to grab his phone, being all foolish. I slowly took it up, grinning at him. Him asking me coldly what I was up to. I said "I am just checking what you're hiding from me. Oh here is a snap from one of your ladies. Please open so I can see". Which is where he got mad at me, grabbed the phone and refused. This obviously left me very upset and somewhat angry. I didn't know what to do, as I felt his reaction was too harsh, especially if he truly has nothing to hide as he claims. I didn't want to go batshit and just went quiet and asked advice from my friends on my own phone (texting).

After a while I tried talking to him, still feeling distraught. He and I started arguing about the whole ordeal. Me being mad at him for not letting me see, and moreso reacting the way he did. Him being mad at me, calling me controlling and also being mad at me for apparently talking "smack" about him to my friends. It went on for a while. He even threatened to go home in the middle of the night (reminder, he lives almost 2hours away), which I refused him, saying it was too late to start driving (also had he done that, I would have ended things there with him, but I didn't tell him that.)

After a while, it went quiet and we both tried collecting ourselves to talk about it properly.

I told him that it did not sit well with me how he seemed so defensive about his phone, especially since he says he has nothing to hide, and he knows I struggle with guys doing that due to earlier relationships with partners hiding their cheating and other things. I also explained that I did not talk smack about him to my friends, but I was turning to them for advice on how to proceed talking about the situation and try forward how it made me feel and all.

He told me he got defensive because his ex had been all paranoid and such with his phone before they had broken up, and he felt it was a huge invasion of privacy to have someone snoop through his phone. I tried my best to understand him, but it still did not sit well with me. We eventually made up - I guess? I guess more me just backing down because he told me I was being invasive, controlling and crazy and that I just needed to trust him. So I let it go and we talked about other things. I felt a part of me died that night tho.

After he went home I brought it up again and asked him to please show me the snaps next time, just to ease my mind. Him being the one holding onto the phone and show me. He said he could.

Last weekend he was visiting me again. However I really tried to not push on the snap thingy, even tho it was nagging at me. I did make comments about him recieving snaps from his other ladies tho (jokingly) when I noticed he got notifications for it. He still never showed me. Overall the best weekend we ever had together tho. I felt things would be better after this.

Fast forwards, I notice he has lately gone onto snap, but not been checking on my snaps and messages I send him. Been going on all week. I asked him about it last night by saying "How come you sign in, but ignore me? Are you talking to someone else who's more important?" (Yes I recognise this was maybe not such a healthy way to go about it, but honestly, this shit has been eating me up inside). He told me there is noone. He proceeds to send me a screenshot of his inbox where I can see the name of 5 other ladies and 3 men that has snapped him. He hadn't opened any of them. The timeframes matches that he has in fact not bothered to open them when he had answered me earlier. (He sent me all this 30-40 mins after his last response to me, the other snaps were 1+ hours old anf unopened). But it still bothered me seeing all the women. this was around 22:45 last night.

I commented how many women he had on the list (All the women had Best Friends Marks. None of the guys, and it said he had more unread chats, but he didn't scroll down to show me those. What made it worse? He has at some point changed the Best Friend Mark from the original heart icon to a Hot and bothered type of smiley. I was apparently his top 1 best friend, but my mark was a puppy face-smiley? This also somehow bothered me. Also all the snapscores were like 218, 41, 283, 1304 and 262 days on these ladies).

I sent him a screenshot of mine where he could see I had snapped him, my niece, family group chat, my brother, sister, uncle, cousin and my 2 gay besties. I only have snap scores of more than 6 days with Jared (181 days), my sister, brother, cousin and niece. I don't really care much for snapping any1 but Jared.

Here is how the conversation went:

I commented on how many women were on his list. I also just had to ask if there were anything special about these ladies. Had he slept with any of them? Had be flirted with them?

He told me: "So. Some I knew since long time and some met through tinder long ago, why?"

Me: "......"

Him: "What?"

Me: "So you banged some of them"

Him: "I mean i guess..?"

Me: "...."

Him: "What?"

Me: "So why are you keeping them around then?"

Him: "Cuz they not tryna hit me up like your Guy "friends" did."

Me: "And how am I supposed to know that?"

Him: "Why in the world would a girl ever hit a Guy up?"

Me: "Girls do that too"

Him: "Yeah sure it happens, but it's not common"

Me: "So you lied to me then. Saying they were nobodies when obviously you've been intimate with them...."

Him: "....."

Me: "Why didn't you just tell me?"

Him: "Cuz they are nobodies...?"

Me: "No. They are women you have seen naked and had your D**K IN. Girls you flirted with. Girls you find attractive"

Him(time is now 23:09): "No. Well I need to sleep now so. I don't have time to argue Over nothing".

Me: "This is not nothing. Please give me a call"

Him: "I'm not gonna give you a call? I'm going to sleep I just told you?"

Me: "Give me a call. Please"

Him: "Why? I don't want to talk and argue over the phone when I'm going to sleep"

Me:"Because this is something I feel needs resolvement"

Him: "That can wait"

Me: "No it cannot"

Him: "bcz?"

Me: "YOU LIED TO ME"

Him: " I just told you I need to sleep. I don't have time to argue"

Me: "call me"

Him: "NO"

Me: "Yes"

Him: "Absolutely not. I am gonna work tomorrow. Why can't you just respect that I need to sleep?"

Me: "Why can't you respect my feelings? You lied to me"

Him: "I didn't lie about anything"

Me: "You did"

Him: "Okej. What did I lie about?"

Me: "You said they were nobodies, obviously they are not if you f***d them"

Him: "Okey? So? Still nobody since I don't really know them?"

Me: "Then block them"

Him: "Really"

Me: "Yes"

Him: "Why"

Me: "I am highly uncomfortable about the relations you had with them. Also that you did not let me know before and just dismissed me when I had asked before makes it even worse"

Him:" I'll do you one better. I go to sleep"

Me: "So you're dismissing me again"

Him: "Just respect my f**ing sleep. I do not want to argue every night just because you are used to be awake 24/7"

Me: "then when will we talk about it?

Him: "Idk, not atm at least"

Me:" tomorrow then. After you've been at work"

Him: "Totally retarded to start a fight in the middle of the night"

Me: "Stop it."

Him: "No you stop it"

Me: "No, you stop it. I don't get why you never care how I feel about shit like this. And why do you care so much for keeping them around if they truly are nothing to you?"

Him: "I do (care), but you gotta stop starting fights in the middle of the night. Also, because you say I have to take away people just because?"

Me: "YOU SLEPT WITH THEM"

Him: "I think you are very controlling atm"

Me: "Don't even. Don't gaslight me"

Him: "Okey if u say so"

Me: "I am serious about this. I am not comfy knowing you talk daily with ppl you been having s*x with. And especially since you never disclosed that with me when I have tried asking"

Him(now at 23:21: "sure well gn".

Me:"You honestly think that my feelings and concerns about this is not important?"

Fast forwards to this morning

Me at 07:53: "I really hope you take the time to talk to me"

me at 09:19 after seeing he saw my text but left me on read: "..."

Him at 09:58: ".... what"

Me: "you could at least reply instead of ignoring me"

Him: "Not in the mood to talk"

Me: "Why?"

Him at 10:00: " Bcz Im not. I don't handle this fighting all the time"

Me: "Are you seriously mad at me because I don't want my boyfriend to talk to women he had sex with? Women he says are nobodies to him? How can you not see how this could possibly upset me?"

And that is it for now. Have not heard from him since. I got a feeling he won't talk to me more today. I honestly do not know what to do... I was thinking of going over to his place tonight (have to take train and bus there because I lent him my car last time he was over because his will not be fixed before in May).. I am unsure tho, I feel like doing so would make things worse... But I also feel like it might be the only way to get him to actually talk to me and try hear me out.... But I am so broken down by all this. I've been up all night crying like crazy, feeling heartbroken and at loss..

I love him, despite it all. I truly do love him with all my heart and I feel I'd do anything for him. I'd do anything for him to feel happy and loved and safe in me as his partner.. I feel the happiest when I am with him. Being in his arms makes me feel safe. And he manages to make me feel loved when we actually are together and just exsist together or do random shit together. However when he is away, I am at my lonliest. I try to keep busy with work and friends, but it doesn't work so well.

Thank you for having read it all.. I know it is a mess, but I am just so out of it. I feel like I am wrong, but I mostly feel I have a right to feel the way I do and that me asking him to drop these "nobodies" is not too much. I hate myself for even feeling this insecure about the whole thing..
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**TL;DR;** : This is a sample summary of the TLDR

My BF, Jared (29), snaps women he has had se*ual relationships with in the past, daily.
He says they just snap empty snaps for the daily score and that they are nobodies to him. I have asked him before to let me see the snaps, which he has said he will, but this has still not happened.We have had several fights this and I have told him about how I am uncomfortable that he snaps all these women I have no idea who are, daily. ALSO It was not until last night that he actually let me know that he has had s*x with them before he and I became exclusive. He had always told me before that they were only old friends and nothing more. I feel betrayed at this and hurt. I want to see the snaps to see he hasn't been unfaithful, and I want him to block them. He is mad at me tho for starting yet another fight with him over nothing and calls me controlling.
I am thinking of going over to his place to talk it out because he is now just ignoring me... (Takes over 2 hours with bus and train. He is borrowing my car until his gets fixed in may).
Am I wrong for wanting him to show me the snaps and then have him delete the women? Am I being controlling and crazy like he says? Should I go to his place? Please help me :'(
‐------------------- UPDATE
We finally talked. It took a little while. We both yelled and screamed at each other until we finally calmed down. We talked about it. He chose us. I guess we will see where it goes. I set my boundaries. He accepted.
Thank you all so much for the kind words and the encouragement. Thank you for helping me stand up for myself.
Xoxo
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2024.04.27 11:07 weeabenis My dad has ended our relationship officially and is having a wedding without me there

I won't go into detail on how it got to this point, but 6 months ago I put my foot down for the first time and confronted my dad about the relationship problems I have with him and how he treats me when things don't go his way. I met up to "fix" it 3 times after that and each time it somehow got worse than the last. He steamrolls each conversation, talks over me whilst saying he isn't, starts going on about how difficult and confrontational I am (everyone who knows me would say how patient and de-escalating I am in conflict) Last month I received a wedding invite from his girlfriend, asking me to help plan their wedding, and that I have made it very clear I do not want a relationship with him and he is "respecting my wishes". I laughed when I received it, then I cried. How anyone would think it is appropriate to put me in this position after I have had no apology, no effort, nothing from him for months. I have told him multiple times now my wish is to have a healthy relationship with boundaries and a genuine apology, yet all they hear is "she is difficult and wants no relationship" ? So I spent 3 weeks painstakingly writing a letter back, addressed to him. An honest, opening my heart letter. I explained why recieving this invite hurt so much, to have him not even write it himself. How inappropriate it is to just expect me to forget everything with no apologies, and that I tried very hard to fix what happened but he was the one in defiance of that and I needed him to change. That I can't be the one to forgive and forget each and every time he hurts me. A week later I get a letter back from him. Inside was another wedding invite, an official one. I laughed again, did he even read the letter? The response to my two page letter with love, and hurt, and honesty was a two paragraph card that read:
"I have agonised over the best way to reply, but I feel it is pointless as you are entrenched in your negative thoughts. And everything I do is wrong in your opinion. You are so full of vitriol and blame against me, very sad to read, and not accurate. I choose to remember the many good times we had. But ***, if you look for negative that is all you will find. I will always be here, as I always have been. Hopefully one day you will be in a frame of mind to want to work towards building our relationship. Love you always."
HE CAN GO FUCK HIMSELF. That's all I get. No effort, nothing. I said in the letter "I wish you could see me in another light, I wish you could see that I do not want to fight with you. I wish you could see me in any other way other than a lying, combative person who is out to blame you" He read that, and yet still, that was his reply. I have made myself ill with what happened, it's not happening anymore. He has ended this, my letter was me asking him to fix this and yet he puts the responsibility on me once again. How people can be so delusion, is beyond me.
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2024.04.27 07:48 AnnualTomorrow2552 Am I the asshole for asking for a single text if a friend is going to be away for a while?

Am I the asshole for asking for a single text if a friend is going to be away for a while?
Im an artist and back in august of 2023 I did fan art for a particularly well known va who was well known for their ghost and konig nsfw audios. Upon me doing a few pieces they reached out thanking me and we began talking slowly building a strange friendship. For a while we were fine I was doing art and we were talking more and more. Until one day, I had asked a question that have seem to put our friendship on thin ice quick. I asked then if they had eaten. But I wasnt asking in the sense that youre thinking, no I was asking if thwy had eaten because I was wanted to know what they ate. Like a switch has flipped in them they immediately came back accusing me of patronizing them. Acting like I was treating them like a kid. I explained what I meant but to no avail. We stopped talking before they begrudgingly told me thank you for fanarts and last minute mentioning what they had eaten. I didn’t respond until way later when I brought how they had hurt my feelings. It was from then I noticed in every argument they would talk to me like im a kid. For reference they are 31 and I am (currently) 22. We talked it out and moved on. It was fine again we were talking but it seems like they had pulled back from me slightly just becoming distant. I noticed and asked if I was overbearing and annoying(at times I can be because I get overly excited.) they insisted I wasnt answering i didnt mention it again until way later when I wrote out a long message talking about how they’ve been treating me. They admitted that they feel like a parent to me and that I can be overbearing. (Even though I already knew, it Hurt hearing) I pulled away in attempt to better our friendship. I noticed that the only time theyre engaging fully when its sexual talk and or art related but other than that they seemed uninterested. After time of arguing we got into it bad because apparently I was demanding too much from them when all I requested was to be treated equally to all of their other friends. (They recieved endless attention and care I felt neglected.) but instead of being understanding they were condescending and going off completely talking about how they dont get any time to their self and theyre stretched thin and so on and so forth. Apparently I was the only one they said this to. I began to notice how some of their close friends would treat me coldly almost avoiding me completely. One even blocked me for no reason I thought that was strange. It seems they had spoken about me behind my back painting me out to be a bad guy. Time progress and we get worse December hit and we had a final blow out argument. All because I asked for a single text if they were going to be away for a while but i was dumb and shouldnt have asked heres how that convo went.
Me: Are you away from your computer?
Them: Yes, whats up?
Me: Just asking. Its just We havent really spoken here Im feelin kinda neglected over here,Im not upset or anything. Not really looking to argue. Im just feeling left out.
Them: Huh? Left out of what? I've been entertaining guests this weekend
Me: ____ if youre going to be away because you’re caught up in your personal life, I swear a simple text goes a long way. But this isnt whats bothering me. I have other issues bothering me which is why I said my not upset or anything with you.
Them: Excuse me? A simple text, What, when, where. ???? You want me to give you regular updates on my personal life?
Me: Um no, just a “hey im gonna be busy a while “ and ill be like okay see you when you get back and wont bother you until then. Thats it. Look im genuinely not trying to argue. Im just asking for the bare minimum.
Them: Nope, sorry. I'm not going through my friend list and putting that whe I have a status that expresses it fine.(ps it was always on invisible.) Offline. and yes you are trying to argue. Me: Im really not. Youre the one responding in a combative way. You know what. I shouldnt have brought it up. I was trying to communicate properly unlike my other times but no matter the approach im met with the same thing. And thats honestly not fair im sorry but it isnt. (He soon begins to be condescending and treating me like a kid.) Them: Okay. Lemme quickly shoot this: Why do you think I didn't say 'Hey I'm going to be busy this weekend' to you?
Me: Honestly I dont know.
Them: At a guess, why do you think
Me: Because you were already busy?
Them: So why do you think I didn't message my friend list to say that I'd be busy for the weekend? Me: My guess the same reason. I get it. You were busy and im asking too much. Not sure why I always be much different from your other friends 😂😂 theyre sooo much easier to deal with. Sorry bro. (Im fed up at this point. i didnt want to argue and I was just mentally tired)
Them: Okay. So does it feel reasonable that I didn't message my whole friend list saying that?
Me: Its literally one thing __ one. What arent you understanding? Im not asking you to change your whole life routine just to fit me not at all. For all I know I hardly ask for anything. ___ your my friend but I swear everytime I have an issue you always turn it on me and make me out to be the bad guy. You dont want to send a text fine im okay with that but then you drag like youre just looking to argue. I already said Im not upset nor do I want to argue but it seems like thats what you want. My bad bro I shouldn’t have said anything.
Them: I'm being patient and explaining myself. You say that I'm the one trying to make it out like you're the bad guy. but your message literally implied that I neglected you( i said i felt neglected in a general sense I said I had ither things bothering me and they completely ignored that.)
Me: I just said how I felt. Thats it. Thats literally. Your tone almost immediately went combative. Then even after I said I didnt want to argue you followed up with yes I am. You could’ve said so much while saying so less by just saying yeah cant do that wouldnt be fair and I wouldve been fine with that. And the only parts where you were patient was when you asked me why you day you were going to be busy. Before that you were looking to argue even when I said I wasnt.
Them: Because just saying 'I'm not trying to argue' doesn't somehow magically make it not argumentative It was, it is, and what you implied was something that obviously would make me concerned I just responded how I felt. That's it. That's literally it. You act as if all you ask for is one little thing but it's not one little thing it's one thing after another thing after another thing and if I'm really that upsetting to you that I have to keep changing how I am and how I act why try to be my friend? we'd both be happier, clearly
Me: Saying not trying to argue implies that im really not trying to argue. I always ask for the same thing but I dont actually get results which sends us in a loops. I change myself I do. I try to at least. Im not asking you make drastic changes. Because why would I do that. It was simple and you said no. Thats where the wouldve ended but you continued. Im at the point where ill do what you. Because doing what I want drives us into a wall clearly.
Them: The problem is that what I want to do is just be me and you just be you What you want is for me to pay attention to you What I want imposes no obligation upon anyone. What you want imposes obligations on me I'm sorry you feel alone - it's shit And I'm sorry that you feel it's unreasonable for me to not want to have to go through my entire friend list and tell them if and when I'm going to be able to message
Me( fed up and just done my spirit is broken and im just in tears at pure frustration): You win. Sorry.
Them: 🙄 Whatever So sick of this.
Then I was blocked. Shortly after all the friends I made and all of their friends block me and separated themselves from me. i was completely blackballed.
I understand fully that I shouldn’t have been so expecting. I shouldn’t have asked for attention or to be treated equal. Of they want to they would. I admit was overbearing at times and I should’ve just separated myself from the beginning. I admit I was stupid but was I wrong? Part of me feels like I am the other feels like I’m not.
Edit: to clarify a few things.
One. They reached out to me and sparked the friendship. At first they gave an idea of what was expected upon first meeting. It wasnt until our first bickering that made things strained. I never said we were best friends and I did say (multiple times) I wouldn’t have minded if they didnt send a text.
Two things were bound to be sexual. Considering theyre a nsfw va. Being sexual is quite what theyre known for. i was being dumb young and naive. Im growing and I understand my worth. I dont care about nudes I never did.
Three I never expected too much from them. But no matter what issue I had even if it wasnt pertaining to them they were always hostile. They got mad when I didn’t speak about my feelings then get mad when I do even when its not about them.
Four. The entire situation I see now (4-5 months later) I 100% see that our situation was toxic and there were times where I should just walked about and left them alone.
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