I know there are a handful of people on here who have joined me in Loner 2e discussions so I thought it worth posting that Zotiquest Games have put out two more versions of the game, but these are very specifically geared to a setting (Steampunk and Feudal Japan). My copy of Cog & Compass came today and I'm really excited about it! I've only read through it quickly, but these are the things that caught my eye.
The TL;DR of it is that there's a defined world and very clear guidance, which is much appreciated.

• There are new mechanics specific to the setting that aren't strictly defined, so it's up to you to decide how to implement them. I like that idea.
• When traveling, there are a few things to roll on as you move and if you fail the check you can roll on complication tables. That feels closer to a PbtA "Miss" to me than simply "imagine what happens next".
• In the spirit of "Everything is a Character!" you can roll up Airships, clockwork familiars, etc. and they did something SO helpful in my opinion: the random tables are linked, so if you roll once and use the same roll for Concept, Skills, Frailty and Gear, they will all make sense! You can roll or choose something else if you want to, but if you don't want to slow down the story, roll once and the tables won't contradict each other.
  • Example: 2/1 on the Steamboat tables gives you Concept: Fishing Trawler - Skills: Deep Sea Fishing - Frailty: Fuel Hog - Gear: Fishing Nets.
• There's a D66 table of complete character sheets for Creatures & Foes in the back.

I (16f) and my bf (16m) have been dating for almost 5 months. He is my first boyfriend and I had a huge crush on him before we started dating. I've really liked being with him and he treats me super well. But as we've gotten closer I've learned that my boyfriend is very depressed. He wanted to kill himself and frequently mentions wanting hurt himself. He thinks his friends all hate him and he's just become so pessimistic. It's been really painful watching the confident, happy guy that I fell in love with completely fall apart.
He told me I am the only person he trusts. It's been getting overwhelming constantly dealing with his emotions on top of mine. I've told him this and he then says I don't care about him. I take therapy so I recommended he try it because I thought it would really benefit him. He said that I should just be his therapist. I told him I can't do that but he just won't listen. I don't think he understands how hard it is for me to deal with his emotions. I really want to help him get to a better place but he seems to just dig himself into a deeper hole. If I break up with him I know his entire world will be shattered and I'm scared he will kill or hurt himself if I do. I am also fairly close with his family which makes this so much more awkward. I don't really want to break up with him, but he's just so attached to me that it gets overwhelming. I miss the guy he used to be. Now he's just a mess and it really hurts to see him like this.

3.0. THE THIRD BUDDHIST COUNCIL:

Venerable Moggaliputta Tissa Thera led the 3rd Buddhist Council of Theravada School. That was not a schism as the outsiders were not the true members of the Sangha. However, the king supported them like the members of the Sangha.

Because it helped promote tolerance and mutual respect, Asoka desired that people should be well-learned (bahu sruta) in the good doctrines (kalanagama) of other people's religions. [The Edicts of King Asokaan, English rendering by Ven. S. Dhammika © 1994]

King Asoka was supporting everyone who claimed he belonged to the Dhamma-Vinaya community (the Sangha) established by the Sakyamuni. However, they did not join the Dhamma-Vinaya community, nor know, nor care the Buddha's teaching.
Venerable Moggaliputta Tissa Thera determined that "the Vibhajjavāda alone contained the teaching of the Buddha."

Rest of the monks who were true believers, told about the doctrine of the Buddha, that it was Vibhajjavāda i.e. the religion of analytical reasoning. This answer was supported by Moggaliputta-Tissa who was present there. He told that the Buddha was Vibhajjavādin (analyser). The Thera was made the gurdian of the Order. To purify the Sangha, the king requested to hold the Uposatha ceremony.

Uposatha

uposatha : [m.] Sabbath day; observance of 8 precepts; biweekly recitation of the Vinaya rules by a chapter of Buddhist monks.
Mūḷuposatha sutta (AN 3.70), (Bhikkhu Bodhi)

“There are, Visākhā, three kinds of uposatha. What three? The cowherds’ uposatha, the Nigaṇṭhas’ uposatha, and the noble ones’ uposatha [...] (3) “And how, Visākhā, is the noble ones’ uposatha observed? The defiled mind is cleansed by exertion. And how is the defiled mind cleansed by exertion?

The mentioned uposatha ceremony is for the monks to recite the Vinaya rules. It cannot be observed with the participation of the public, including the monks (and priests) from other religions.

[Uposatha (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)] The monastic observance may be held in one of four ways, depending on the size of the Community in a particular territory: If four bhikkhus or more, they meet for a recitation of the Pāṭimokkha; if three, they declare their mutual purity to one another; if two, they declare their purity to each other; if one, he marks the day by determining it as his uposatha. In addition to these regular observance days, the Buddha gave permission for a Community to recite the Pāṭimokkha only on one other occasion: when unity has been reestablished in the Community. This, the Commentary says, refers only to occasions when a major dispute in the Community has been settled (such as a schism—see Chapter 21), and not to occasions when the uposatha has been suspended for minor reasons. Thus there are two occasions on which the bhikkhus are allowed to meet for the uposatha: the last day of the lunar fortnight and the day for reestablishing unity.

The public uposatha is open to everyone, including non-Buddhists. The participants are expected to observe a set of uposatha sīla, either 8, 9 or 10 (aṭṭha-sīla, navanga-sīla or dasa-sīla).
uposathika : [adj.] one who observes [uposatha] precepts.

Aṭṭha-sīla 8 (Uposatha, Uposatha-sīla): 6. Vikālabhojanā veramaṇī； 7. Naccagītavāditavisūkadassanā mālāgandhavilepanadhāraṇamaṇanavibhūsanaṭṭhānā veramaṇī； 8. Uccāsayanamahāsayanā veramaṇī;

On the basis of not-Dhamma as ‘Dhamma’… Dhamma as ‘not-Dhamma’… not-Vinaya as ‘Vinaya’… Vinaya as ‘not-Vinaya’, Emperor Asoka expelled the non-Vibhajjavādis who could not observe the uposatha, including the Sarvāstivādis, from the Sangha.

[Schism (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)] Ven. Upāli: “‘A split in the Community, a split in the Community (saṅgha-bheda)’ it is said. To what extent is the Community split?” The Buddha: “There is the case where they explain not-Dhamma as ‘Dhamma’… Dhamma as ‘not-Dhamma’… not-Vinaya as ‘Vinaya’… Vinaya as ‘not-Vinaya’… [...] a light offense as ‘a heavy offense’… a heavy offense as ‘a light offense’… an offense leaving a remainder as ‘an offense leaving no remainder’… an offense leaving no remainder as ‘an offense leaving a remainder’… a serious offense as ‘a not-serious offense’… a not-serious offense as ‘a serious offense.’ On the basis of these eighteen grounds they pull away, pull apart, they perform a separate uposatha, perform a separate Invitation, perform a separate Community transaction. To this extent the Community is split.”—Cv.VII.5.2

Devadatta caused the first schism on the basic of Vinaya rules. The Vajjian monks caused the second schism on the same ground. The Sangha established by the Sakyamuni was attacked several times from within.

Vibhajjavādi Dhamma Missions

Emperor Asoka sent forth nine missionaries to nine different countries to propagate the religion of the Buddha and crowned it with success... also the Bhikkuni Sangha in Aparantaka, Suvannabhumi and Ceylon.

Emperor Asoka sent his son and daughter, Arahant Maha Mahinda Thera and Arahant Sanghamitta Theri, to Sri Lanka, where the events of the 3rd Buddhist Council were recorded.
"Arahant Mahinda, who introduced the Buddhadhamma to Sri Lanka, is the Redactor of the Buddhapåjàva in Sinhala Buddhism."
Sri Lanka became a foothold of the Dhamma-Vinaya Tradition. Suvannabhumi was also a foothold where Thera-vada Buddhism thrives presently.

Vibhajjavādi Dhamma Paṭisambhidā-ñāṇa

Analytical Knowledge (Paṭisambhidā-ñāṇa) allows the arahants to reason and teach in detail analytically. Understanding the nature of the Teachings of the Buddha and the Sangha, Venerable Moggaliputta Tissa Thera described them as Vibhajjavādis. That is Theravada, the doctrine of the arahants. Dhamma paṭisambhidā-ñāṇa is the ability to analytically and in detail explain the nature of reality.
The Buddha as an awakened sage is neither a theorist nor a philosopher. Theravada is not philosophy. The Buddha is an arahant.
The Buddha's disciples, who are also arahants, know the Four Noble Truths through their own observation and release from delusion. Knowing modern views and modern science is not their task. They are not philosophers and philosophical scholars. They do not claim to possess omniscience.

Titthiya Sutta (Sectarians):

[The Buddha advises the monks,] you should answer those wanderers of other sects in this way, ‘Friends, passion carries little blame and is slow to fade. Aversion carries great blame and is quick to fade. Delusion carries great blame and is slow to fade. [Thanissaro Bhikkhu]

3.1. Kaccānagotta Sutta (Right View)

Kaccānagotta Sutta Pali:

‘sammādiṭṭhi sammādiṭṭhī’ti, bhante, vuccati. Kittāvatā nu kho, bhante, sammādiṭṭhi hotī’’ti?... ‘‘‘Sabbaṃ atthī’ti kho, kaccāna, ayameko anto. ‘Sabbaṃ natthī’ti ayaṃ dutiyo anto. Ete te, kaccāna, ubho ante anupagamma majjhena tathāgato dhammaṃ deseti – ‘avijjāpaccayā saṅkhārā; saṅkhārapaccayā… L. Feer, Saṃyutta-nikāya,V. 16 —[copied from Early Buddhism: A New Definition (Vijitha Kumara, page 130)]

• sammādiṭṭhi : right view
• What is the right view, bhante?

Sarvāstivāda

Sarvāstivāda means "those who claim that everything exists" [...] the Sarvāstivādins suggest that "everything," that is all conditioned factors (dharma), "exist" and can exert causal efficacy in the three time periods of the past, present, and future. [Sarvastivada And Mulasarvastivada (Encyclopedia.com)]

The main Sarvāstivādi concept 'all dhamma exist in all three times' was familiar to the Buddha, not because He taught it, but because He rejected it.

'Everything exists': That is one extreme. 'Everything doesn't exist': That is a second extreme. Avoiding these two extremes, the Tathagata teaches the Dhamma via the middle: From ignorance as a requisite condition come fabrications (saṅkhārā). From fabrications as a requisite condition comes consciousness. [Kaccānagotta Sutta (SN 12:15) (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)]

Somehow, that concept, despite the Buddha's famous rejection, came to associate with Buddhism once again, not because the Buddha taught it, but the outsiders made it as if the Buddha accepted it.
We, too, must reject the notion of 'everything exists' just the way the Buddha rejected it. The rejection is also present in the paṭicca samuppāda, as He explains:

Imagine two sheaves of reeds the one leaning against the other. In the same way consciousness depends on named-shapes, named shapes depend on consciousness [...] birth depends on existing, aging and death depend on birth — the coming into existence of upset, grief, lamentation, pain and misery. [...] If, however, friend, I were to remove one of those sheaves of reeds one would fall down if I were to remove the other the other would fall down. — SN 5.67 [Dependant Uprising, Downbound Dependent Own-making (Dependent Origination, Conditioned Genesis, The Causal Law),

The Paṭicca Samuppāda provides two sheaves of reeds that support each other, but one of them can be removed to topple them both. When they are toppled, we cannot say everything exists. The Buddha's Dhamma, which shows us the four Paramattha, is nothing like a "dharma theory" that was created by the Sarvāstivādis.
Kaccānagotta Sutta continues:

[The Buddha:] By & large, Kaccayana, this world is supported by (takes as its object) a polarity, that of existence & non-existence. But when one sees the origination of the world as it actually is with right discernment, 'non-existence' with reference to the world does not occur to one. When one sees the cessation of the world as it actually is with right discernment, 'existence' with reference to the world does not occur to one. "By & large, Kaccayana, this world is in bondage to attachments, clingings (sustenances), & biases

3.2. Vibhajyavāda & The Present Dhamma

The Tibetan Buddhist Encyclopedia:

vibhajyavāda; A school of thought doctrinally opposed to the Sarvāstitvāda. holds that the present dharma-s alone exist. However, some among them like the followers of the Kāśyapīya, concede that the past karma that have not yet given fruit (adatta-phala) can also be said to exist.

Here is a part of Magganga Dipani by Ledi Sayadaw:

kammassakata samma-ditthi Sabbesatta kammadayada, kamayoni, kammabandhu kammappatisarana yam kammam karissanti kalyanam va papakam va tassadayada bhavissanti. Sabbe satta kammassaka: There exist such properties as elephants, horses, vehicles, cattle, fields, buildings, gold, silver, jewels, etc. Those properties can be said to belong to us in the present existence before we pass away. But when we pass away those properties do not accompany us beyond death. They are like properties which we borrow for some time for our use. They are liable to destruction during the present existence. As those properties which beings possess do not accompany them to their new existences, they cannot be claimed as properties belonging to those beings. The Buddha therefore said, 'sabbe satta kammassaka.' The only property of all beings that accompanies them is their own volitional action... [Ledi Sayadaw explains the entire thing here.]

• Venerable Mogok Sayadaw warned us to avoid sassata ditthi, the belief in permanence (nicca), 'eternity-belief'. Based on his explanation: A kamma (action) exists while it is happening between the start and the end. For example, feeding an animal: this action exists only while that animal is fed. That action cannot exist before and after that animal is fed. However, as if following the doers, the potential effect of certain wholesome and unwholesome kamma (volition) is inevitable.

Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta

Furthermore, bhikkhus, this is the dukkha ariya·sacca: jāti is dukkha, jarā is dukkha (sickness is dukkha) maraṇa is dukkha, association with what is disliked is dukkha, dissociation from what is liked is dukkha, not to get what one wants is dukkha; in short, the five upādāna'k'khandhas are dukkha.

• The Buddha introduced the Dukkha Sacca in His first sermon.
• Vedayita-dukkha: The truth is dukkha are birth, aging, death, association with what is disliked, dissociation from what is liked, and not to get what one wants.
• Bhayattha-dukkha: The truth is the constant fear of these dukkha is also dukkha.
• Due to the past wholesome and unwholesome kamma, one gets birth, aging, death, etc.
• However, Beings born in the sugati-loka do not suffer from birth, aging, and bodily pain (kayika-dukkha), as these dukkha do not exist there.
• The past unwholesome kamma do not affect these beings during their existence in sugati-loka, especially the arupa-brahmas.
• The Buddha understood the followers of Nigaṇṭha (the Nigaṇṭhas) did not know the existence of the sugati-loka. Thus, they were speculators who fell into sassatavada (eternalism) and ucchedavada (nihilism/annihilation). Details can be read here: The Buddhist Critique of Sassatavada and Ucchedavada: The Key to a proper Understanding of the Origin and the Doctrines of early Buddhism (Y. Karunadasa).
• In the Devadaha Sutta, the Buddha pointed out the mistakes of these Nigaṇṭhas.

Devadaha Sutta (the Law of Kamma)

[MN 101] “‘So, friends, it seems that you don’t know that you existed in the past, and that you did not not exist… you don’t know what is the abandoning of unskillful qualities and the attainment of skillful qualities in the here & now. That being the case, it is not proper for you to assert that, “Whatever a person experiences—pleasure, pain, or neither pleasure nor pain—all is caused by what was done in the past. Thus, with the destruction of old [kamma] through asceticism, and with the non-doing of new actions, there will be no flow into the future. With no flow into the future, there is the ending of [kamma]. With the ending of [kamma], the ending of [dukkha]. With the ending of [dukkha], the ending of feeling. With the ending of feeling, all [dukkha] will be exhausted.” (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)

• If the present is completely conditioned by the past [kamma] and if we could not break that condition to do new kamma in a condition not determined by the past, then at this present we could not even do anything intentionally (kamma) as our action would be restrained by the past kamma.

A Vibhajjavādi cannot accept Sarvāstivāda's notion of the three times:

all dharmas exist in the past, present and future, the "three times".

Past and future exist at this present moment implies they merge with the present time. Yesterday and tomorrow are today and they are so every day without meaning one can live yesterday and tomorrow today. If one's injury healed yesterday, both injury and healing exist today, right now. For three times doctrine (Sarvāstivāda), dead people are dead, alive and exist at all stages and every moment of time. Even though one has reborn countless times, one still lives in the past lives and also the future lives. One has lived the past infinity and the future infinity. As the future has also been lived, there is no way to change the future, so what will happen will happen — according to the God one believes. After one passes away, one will relive the same life again and again countless times in the past and the future. Someone who will become a Buddha is already a Buddha. Someone who will go to hell is already in hell while living this life as a human.
Rational and irrational people, including the physicists, philosophers, writers and filmmakers, took the doctrine of three times seriously and imagined time machines.
Assuming kamma (action) exists constantly (past, present and future) constitutes sassata ditthi (eternalism). Assuming actions and their effects do not exist constitutes ahetukaditthi (view of uncausedness) — see the 8th question on page181 of this book: Milindapanha: kammaphalaatthibhavapanha. King Milinda asked many questions about kamma. The answers of wisemen and philosophers of the time did not satisfy the king. He got the answers only when he met Venerable Nagasena; see A SEARCH FOR THE LEARNED (TALENT HUNT), pages12-16.
Venerable Nagasena explained how the future is yet to exist:

Can anyone point out the fruits that a tree has not yet produced, saying: “Here they are, there they are”?” [See 3.2. QUESTION REGARDING VALIDITY OF FRUIT AND RESULT OF WHOLESOME AND UNWHOLESOME]

Real is the present; the past is gone; the future is yet to exist. That is the knowledge of the arahants.
Every action has the process of existence: birth, decay and death. Understanding anicca can abandon sakkaya ditthi.
Sakkaya ditthi is a sense with which one perceives a nama-rupa complex as me, you, he, she, it, cat, dog and so on.

Right View according to the Sakyamuni

The Buddha and His disciples visited Vesāli, the capital of the Vajjians, several times, and many arahants were made there. Saccaka, who the Buddha addressed as Aggivessana, was a famous Jain teacher of the Licchavi rājās. They accompanied Saccaka when he went to challenge the Buddha. There a famous debate on anattavada occurred, as recorded in the famous Cula-Saccaka Sutta.

[The Buddha asked,] “Well, Aggivessana, when you say that [rūpa] is self, do you have power over that [rūpa]. Can you have your [rūpa] be any different than it is?” Saccaka could not answer and remained silent [...] “Released they are endowed with unsurpassed Right View, unsurpassed practice, and unsurpassed release. Released, they honor and respect the Tathagata in this manner: The Buddha teaches the Dhamma for awakening (to Four Noble Truths), the Buddha teaches the Dhamma to develop restraint, the Buddha teaches the Dhamma for developing tranquility, the Buddha teaches the Dhamma for ending samsara (ignorance). The Buddha teaches the Dhamma for total unbinding.” (John Haspel).

• [rūpa]: The four mahabhuta (solid, liquid, gas, heat), each changes according to its nature.
• Self (atta) means the owner or arbitor of the five aggregates of clinging.
• do you have power over that [rūpa]: None of the five aggregates is self (atta).
• Vesāli became a Buddhist capital after the debate. But not all the Nigaṇṭhas were happy. Their attack on the Buddha and the Sangha never stopped. They succeeded only after a few centuries later.

3.3. QUESTION REGARDING VALIDITY OF FRUIT AND RESULT OF WHOLESOME AND UNWHOLESOME

(kammaphalaatthibhavapanha page181) 8. King Milinda said: “If, O Venerable Nagasena, with the (present) Mind-body-complex (nama-rupa) either wholesome or unwholesome kammical actions were performed where will the fruit and result of those actions (kamma) be located?” “The fruit and result of kammical actions tend to follow the Mind-body-complex, O King, like a shadow that never leaves it.” (So replied the Elder.) “Now what do you think, O King? Can any one point out the fruits which a tree has not yet produced, saying: “Here they are, there they are”?” (So asked the Elder.) “Not possible it is, O Venerable One.” (So replied the king.)

• Shadow means the potential. As long as the tree exists, the potential of fruiting of that tree exists. The fruits will be on that tree, not elsewhere. The potential never leaves the tree.
• Mahayana created the concept of Ālayavijñāna (storehouse consciousness).
  • Ālayavijñāna is also regarded as the store house of vāsanas and karmic tendencies (vāsanāparibhāvita and sarvabījaka). However, it is neither the permanent identity of a person nor a form of collective unconscious. Continuous build-up and discharge of karmic tendencies cause the ever-changing nature of ālaya-vijñāna. [Wisdom Lib]
• Compare ālayavijñāna with indestructable buddha-nature. Buddha-nature is also vijñāna/citta. Awareness is Buddha-nature.
  • [Breakthrough Sermon, Bodhidharma:] The Sutra of the Ten Stages says, “In the body of mortals is the indestructible buddha-nature [...] Our buddha-nature [the self-nature of Buddha] is awareness: to be aware and to make others aware. To realize awareness is liberation.
  • be­cause garbha (which nearly always means 'embryo' in Sanskrit) is translated by ts'ang, ( = 'womb'; lit. 'storehouse'), a certain vacuum was created in the Chinese vocabulary which the terms fo hsing and fo hsin ( = buddha-citta) neatly filled. [Rawlinson, Andrew. "The Ambiguity of the Buddha-Nature Concept in India and China."]
  • Ālayavijñāna belongs to or a part of buddha-nature (buddha-citta).
  • According to the concept of citta-matrata

THE NIYAMA-DIPANI The Manual of Cosmic Order Mahathera Ledi Sayadaw

[Kamma-Niyama] The moral order--Kamma (action) is that by which men execute, deeds, good or evil, meritorious or the opposite. What is it ? It is volition (cetana), moral or immoral. We are told in the Pali texts: 'By action, Bhikkhus, I mean volition. It is through having willed that a man does something in the form of deed, speech or thought.'

The nama-rupa process, which occurs according to the law of paticcasamuppada (Pratītya-Samutpāda), is like a tree; See 2.3. PATICCASAMUPPADA. The nama-rupa process, which occurs due to the niyama(s) other than kamma niyama, is outside the law of paticcasamuppada but not unrelated.

Naked Kassapa

The ascetic Acelakassapa put forward four theories of origination of suffering and wanted to know Buddha’s answer to them. [Dependent Origination and the Buddhist Theory of Relativity (Kottegoda S. Warnasuriya (page 154)]
"'He who performs the act also experiences [the result]' — what you, Kassapa, first called 'suffering caused by oneself' — this amounts to the Eternalist[3] theory. [Acela Sutta: Naked Kassapa]

An action was done by a doer, not someone else. However, the doer and the action (kamma) can exist only during the action is being done, not before or after. The doer happens to exist because of doing. The doer and doing exists at the same time. Action and doer don't exist outside doing or before or after the action is done.
Saying there is no doer falls into ahetukavada and probably uccedavada, too, as 'no doer' means 'nobody is responsible' to take the consequences. When the action is done, it becomes a seed that grows into a tree (as nama-rupa process) according to the paticcasamuppada law. The fruiting or consequences of volition (kamma/seed) will appear on this tree.

Of Causal Genesis [Mahathera Ledi Sayadaw (contrinues)]

Paticcasamuppada is Causal Genesis or Dependent Origination (Process). The key words are depdendent and process. The process depends on the action done by the doer, which no longer exists by the next stage of the process. For example, a sound comes out after the drummer hit a drum with a drumstick. The birth of the sound is dependent on the hitting process, but the sound itself is independent to be in the law of impermanence—no butterfly-effect here.
That is how things exist, but not "everything exists".

The inside of the glass door on one of my residence hall's washing machines popped off in the middle of a laundry cycle, and I ended up with a load of laundry that had shattered glass in it. I submitted a report about this, went about two weeks without any updates, and was advised to email my residence hall director about it. His response was "Have you shaken your clothes to ensure the glass is removed? That would be my suggestion."
Am I wrong for thinking this doesn't make any sense? My instinct is to think that with the way glass shatters, any amount of small glass shards could be embedded in the fabric whether or not I could see them. There were pillowcases and underwear in there. I don't want to find out that "shaking it out" isn't a good way to remove glass from large, irregularly shaped pieces of fabric by picking up a grain of it with my face - or my eye, God forbid - in the middle of the night.
I had a good amount of clothing in there, including a ~$90 pair of pants, and while I feel kind of weird about directly asking for compensation, I don't see how else I could get my clothes back in safely wearable form. Advice I can find on how to get glass out of clothing and bedding ranges from "throw it away" to "go over it inch by inch with duct tape" to "just shake it out and wash it again", with little information on the effectiveness of those last two strategies.
I don't know what was done with my laundry after it was presumably removed from the washing machine during repair, as I haven't been told anything about it. I'd like to at least know whether they were run through a washer and/or dryer (they were surprisingly dry when I came back to check on them afterwards). Who knows, maybe they DID go over it all with duct tape. Maybe my clothes are completely safe to wear. But I just don't know because I don't have any info on what's been done with them. I'm moving out tomorrow and will just have to take a bag of potentially glass-infused clothing with me. Does anyone have any advice for pursuing this further, or glass-related laundry tips?

I just discovered the feature on SplatNet 3 where you can see what team your friends have picked for Splatfest, and more interestingly, that you can indicate what you might want to pick, so that all your friends can see where you're leaning and you could coordinate a choice that way if you want. I just love how much "extra stuff" there is in SplatNet 3. There's rewards for exploring Alterna, for reconfiguring Palettes, for sponsoring the Wandercrust, and all these things have cute little text bits as well. There's an amazing amount of fun stats to look at -- how many boss Salmonids you've killed, your win rate in each mode on each map, number of wins per weapon, etc etc. There's QR code rewards (granted, not as many as I'd like!) You can flip through the catalog, you can see your past Side Order runs, you can look at the Splashtag of everyone in the games you've played in recently, and of course you can order gear from Annie.
And that's just SplatNet, the whole game is like that, with lockers, Tableturf, Salmon Run (and Big Run, and Eggstra Work), Splashtag badges and titles, wacky Challenges, plaza drawings, putting together outfits, photo mode, watching replays with so many angles to choose from, so much stuff. I feel like I'll never use it all up; I keep finding new things, like upgrading Tableturf cards to be holographic for no reason, or that Sheldon has a different practice area than the lobby, or the battle graphs...it just makes me happy, idk.

Seeing someone are curious about chinese reaction to G2 VS TES，I translated some comments from Bilibili and HUPU with the help of translator (English is my second language) .
Yike:

• You are so smart! Using Ivern and placing so many bushes in the rift to make TES think they're fighting in Vietnam! Who can tell the difference between you and Einstein? (TES lost to GAM before)
• The 25 stacks is Mejai's limitation, not yours.
• Sorry, bro, I may doubt Ivern, but I shouldnt doubt you.

Mikyx:

• Seeing you show the FPX emote, I knew you still couldn't forget 2019.
• Fed TES a kill in the GAME2, so they wont feel embarrassed. Your EQ is too high.Thank you!
• Mikyx: Do you guys think I can only play Poppy?
• BloodSong's spokesman.
• Mikyx: Meiko, do you know I have defeated three champion support players before? (s9 skt mata,s9 tl corejj, s9 dwg beryl)
• "Let's show you guys a Braum tutorial gameplay. The rank isn't high: MSI stage. The opponents aren't strong: LPL's second seed." (Imitating the introduction of the LoL teaching videos on tiktok)

BrokenBlade:

• Bro are swimming in teamfights. ("swimming" means "moving freely and no one can stop")
• Every time there is a game with Camille, it's always fun to watch.
• Why can you play so many champs and play so good as well?
• Top father!
• 체력 4700 방어력 329 마저201 인 챔피언👤이 저지불가🚫, 쉴드🛡, 벽🧱 넘기는 거 있고요. 에어본🌪 있고, 심지어 쿨타임은 1️⃣초밖에 안되고 마나🧙‍♂️는 1️⃣5️⃣ 들고 w는 심지어 변신💫하면 쿨 초기화에다가 패시브는 고정피해🗡가 들어가며 그 다음에 방마저🥋 올리면📈 올릴수록📈 스킬 가속⏰이 생기고! q에 스킬가속⏰이 생기고 스킬 속도🚀가 빨라지고📈 그 다음에 공격력🗡 계수가 있어가지고 W가 그 이익-으아아아악😱😱
• You are the engine of the team.
• "Bin! Come out! Where are you!"

Caps:

• Caps is the best Tristana player I've seen .
• What year is this year?2019？
• I thought Faker was too weak, turns out you're just too strong.
• "I'm back from the hell, faker !"
  • Reply: not from the heaven?
• Call T1 over!

HansSama:

• Bro got nervous when hearing that Uzi was going to join G2, so he quickly put on a show. (G2 recently joked on CN website about inviting Uzi to join them )
• G2.Uzi Disconnected.
• Playing kogmaw is right, it solves your problem of not buying LDR.
• [ALL] G2.HansSama : shoutu. (The meaning of "shoutu" in Chinese is similar to "ez")

JackeyLove:
JackeyLove,dont take the plane, time to swim

• you tried your best, to lose.
• There is a bug. AD on both sides have no passive skills. (means Jkl Draven cant kill anyone,and Hsama kogmaw has never died.

Meiko:

• ON used three hooks to end the game, but you only used one.
• How dare you fight Leona at level 2? Just like a silver player！
• Now I know why you want to play renata. You want to fed kogmaw till six items and let him kill his teammates.

Creme:

• Your Azir plays like Lee Sin.
• Kamikaze will recruite you to be their pilot after watching the GAME3.

Tian:

• You should retire when you finish the game in Iceland.
• JKL: S8 Finals. IG3-0FNC，Time: 85 mins 49 secs
• Tian: S9 Finals. FPX 3-0 G2，Time: 96 mins 54 secs
• Caps: 2024.MSl. G2 3-0 TES., Time: 82 mins 30 secs

369:

• "I miss the days with Kanavi, Ruler, missing and Knight."
• You had the counter pick and still got solokilled by BrokenBlade.
• How did you got hit by K'sante ult three times in the same spot???

Hi everyone!
My work schedule unfortunately makes growing my own koji difficult now, and I am hoping to use dried koji. I was wondering if it is possible to make lacto koji water from dried koji or if you add another source of lactobacillus. Additionally, I am interested in trying some of the shoyu recipes in the Noma Guide to Fermentation, but I was wondering if anyone has recommendations on how I can incorporate dried koji into their recipes. Thanks!

I am a middle-level manager. I have a newer, very strict boss who likes things done a precise way, so I find myself checking in on my own staff very often to make sure they’re keeping up with their work per my boss’s deadlines because I don’t want to give the impression that I am not a strong manager.
One of my employees consistently deflects and gets defensive when I point out things that aren’t being done within a certain time frame.
The thing is, she’s been in this role for 2 years. She knows what her duties are, and her responsibilities have significantly dwindled within the last 6 months due to our department automating and streamlining internal processes. There’s hardly any work to do in her position right now, certainly not 8 hours worth compared to what she used to be responsible for…so I do have an expectation that her remaining tasks are done daily and to their fullest extent. She even vocalized in a 1:1 recently that the work seems slow. I’ve spotted a few times over the last month or so where she misses things, leaves tasks unfinished for over a week, etc.
She always has an excuse as to why, or will flat out say I am mistaken and insists she is doing everything on time even when I show her proof that she is not. This has lead me to following up with her via email and constantly checking in on her or reminding her what to do because I don’t trust that she is remembering/ completing all of her current tasks. I definitely do occasionally question her too much now when I know I should probably let it go. I should have more faith that she can handle things because she used to be one of my strongest team members, but her work doesn’t demonstrate that anymore.
Am I being a micromanager? If so, how can I approach this better?

I’m currently a 17 yr old student soon to hit 18. My parents have always feared credit cards, believing that they are problematic because the interests are usually crazy and there are too much risks involved but I want to start becoming good with credit cards because after looking at WHY debt accumulates, I learned that most of the people, saying they’re afraid of credit cards are either because they’re irresponsible spenders, or just don’t know how to use them efficiently. I was wondering which banks were recommended for debit (as starter) and credit? How can I actually learn how to get good with these? credit cards seem like a very good way to live a satisfactory life without needing to worry much if you know how to use them properly, I want to plant my success as early as I can because i believe if I do, i’m less likely to make mistakes. Any tips, recommendations, or advice?

Currently studying my Devnet associate and these 2 phrases are by far the most challenging about the entire exam.
I've honestly spent like around 5 hours trying to understand these 2 since studying. I do practice exams and get like 80%, but fail 3-4 questions because how these 2 are used and why is beyond me.
I got about 20 prompts deep into chat GPT really explaining it in the most baby terms possible, only to fail the questions again. At this point I'm thinking i just use the opposite of what i think I should use.
Example question: curl -i -k -u 'admin:admin' -X "GET" "https://RouterA:443:restconf/data/ietf-interfaces:interfaces/interface/gigabitethernet1/ietf-ip:ipv4/address"
What would be used here?
My logic is, okay we're asking for details about an interface on a router with a GET command. I, the client am requesting this from the server, so i will declare the preferred encoding type i prefer in this situation, XML. So i will say Accept: application/yang-data+xml. As in, I want to accept this data in this preferred format. WRONG.
I find i retain info best when making rules/ultimatums or jingles in my head. Some examples like:

• NTP 123 (rhymes),
• SSH is port 22 (SS and 22 are similar),
• telnet is 23 (T E in telnet, 2 starts with a T and 3 looks like an E. TE = telnet),
• I remember the requests api format by MUHD(and think of wet dirt in my head) method,url,headers,data. You get the picture.

Thanks in advanced for any commenters

TLDR - I rant about not understanding userspace tools that well and then ask "how can I reason about being efficient at doing linux things and how can I quickly gain insight that answers critical questions - why does this exist? why is this the best approach? how does it work?"
I fully expect that the answer to this is because "because things are harder to manage at the kernel level" but I'm still interested in the details.
I'm a computer science major that used to work on web backend before slowly moving towards systems-level programming. I mostly write C++ now (completely self taught) and have taken up learning linux tools like tmux, vim, sed, awk and also nice community-developed tools like fzf and zoxide to ease my dev workflow.
One thing I find in common between everything linux (or should I say posix) related is that there seems to be a large paradigm shift away from web-oriented languages that drive fast software development. A huge side effect seems to be modularity.
I'm struggling to put into words what I mean here so I'll lead by examples. Rather than being about *why* I should use it, linux-based software seems to be "we exist and if you think you might need us, start reading manpages". There seems to be an implicit trust that the software maintainers have made good decisions that isn't exactly user-facing.
Take tmux for example. I recently tried to implement primeagen's harpoon workflow - which in 1 sentence makes tmux sessions accessible through pre-homerow (and also vim buffers). I mucked around with trying to make sessions sort themselves temporally like :choose-tree does before realizing that choose-tree has its own internal implementation that for whatever reason isn't publicly available. Tmux is a terminal multiplexer that is powerful because of its configurability. Wouldn't it benefit users to control the main display board?
C++ might be another example. The language is massively obfuscated as I'm sure many of you know, and I've spent many nights reading books on move semantics, generics, template argument deduction, you name it (scott meyers and vandervoorde ftw). And yes C++ isn't linux specific but I feel follows very similar systems principles in regards to its development (and is in fact tied very closely with microarch)
The common thing I'm seeing here is the word *why*. I feel that if documentation or discussion around the language started with justification for it being there in the first place, that all reasoning follows.
I also find it hard to believe that learning linux tools isn't the kind of skill that applies to "fear not the man who practices a thousand kicks ones but one kick a thousand times". I see linux tools as just that - tools, an end to a means - and don't see the merit of spending dozens of hours learning the intricacies of some tool when it just needs to do one thing well (core linux principle). Kind of like how the best mathematicians and learners don't memorize proofs but instead make things intuitive to them so that they can rederive them at a whim.
Another aspect that systems-level dev that I think does differently is incorporate many more "paradigms" into their workings. Whereas high-level languages like Java, golang, python have a "shtick" (garbage collection and strong typing, easy scripting language with duck typing, etc) the tree of concepts seems to branch much more heavily. I feel that the latter is much more economical especially when my job is to get a certain thing done, not learn obscure things (thought it is fun)
A final point that I might make is that the linux ecosystem of tools constantly makes me feel like I don't understand what I'm doing. I have a feeling that the right workflow is something like trying new things on a need-to basis but I constantly feel like I don't know what's going on even after reasonably understanding what terminal multiplexers, tiling window managers, shells, temrinal emulators, etc are. I feel that one of the hallmarks of a good engineer is being able to answer the 5 key W's - why, what, how, etc. My answer is mostly "because I don't understand the linux ecosystem to be able to justify why what I am doing is efficient" - and "I find it hard to believe there is something better) is not adequate justification
So, all of this might be a massive skill issue. And I'm sorry if this comes of as demeaning in any way to you guys but time is fleeting and as much as I love tinkering with my config and learning obscure stuff I think it's in my best interest to be learning efficiently so I can be the best engineer possible.
So, I am curious as to two things

• how do you go about reasoning through doing linux stuff?
  
• why aren't linux tools more modular, task-motivated, and better documented?
  

About Us

Hello, and welcome!
We are a small, 9 year old, 18+, end-game PvE guild with around 50 members, looking for active and chill players with some experience in the content we do to join us in some of our guild activities and discord.

Summary

We're a guild that promotes freedom of build choice and fun while still making sure that everyone has the boons they need to perform their rotations well.
Many builds can get the same jobs and mechanics done at varying levels of efficiency and having knowledgeable, self-driven players working as a team is what's most important for group success.
The unique class-based combat and movement systems are a big part of why we keep playing GW2, and enjoying these systems with like-minded individuals is something we strive to facilitate.
With the above in mind, those who at least agree in part with our ideology would be a good fit for the guild.

Activities

Strikes

Every week we get together and do all Strike CM's (not including HT and Cerus). We work with whatever people want to play and do our utmost to get the job done. Here's a couple of our faster clears: AHcm, KOcm, OLCcm, and Cerus.
Currently we run 1 day a week, but will transition back to 2 days for all of our clears once Cerus CM gets nerfed.

Schedule

Starts at 10PM Eastern (reset+2) and runs for about 1.5 hours.

• Mondays: ToF, COcm, OLCcm, XJJcm, HT, KOcm, AHcm

Harvest Temple CM

Our HTcm team is a group of players mostly from the guild who just enjoy doing HTcm for the fun of it. We do slightly riskier strategies, check out logs to see how we've improved on a specific dragon phase, keep a per-phase PB leaderboard for bragging rights, and otherwise just enjoy ourselves on the encounter.
We are currently looking for 1 Quick DPS (preference for herald, but we can work with other options) and otherwise fills / substitutes. Experience up to Zhaitan is preferred.

Schedule

• Tuesdays @ 11PM Eastern (reset+3) for 1 hour.

• Wednesdays @ 11PM Eastern (reset+3) for 1 hour.

Temple of Febe CM

Our Non-Legendary Cerus CM team is a group of players who want to do the fight without the heavy restrictions that Legendary CM imposes, which in turn allows for more strategy and build flexibility. Our current progress as of this post is having mostly succeeded Phase 3's 1st double Pools + Malice set, while having phased into P3 with minimal stacks several times.
We are currently looking for 1 Quick DPS, or 1 DPS (any), and otherwise fills / substitutes. We are willing to train the encounter from scratch, but some experience in CM is preferred.

Schedule

• Thursdays @ 10PM Eastern (reset+2) for 2 hours.

• Saturdays @ 10PM Eastern (reset+2) for 2 hours.

Others

• While our primary focus is end-game PvE, we occasionally branch out into WvW. With world restructuring on the horizon, we are interested in doing some limited WvW, at the very least to get some Gifts of Battle while hanging out together.
  
• We're always looking for people who would be interested in forming a Fractal or Raid (full or low-man) team, along with any other interesting teams we can think of.
  
• As for Discord, we use it as our primary communication tool between guild members; we keep track of the guild's best kills, kill history, other game chats, announcements, and much more. As such, it is mandatory.
  

Contact

If you're interested in joining, send an in-game mail to QuitarHero.1645, or contact me in Discord at quitarhero.
With the upcoming update and the addition of a 6th guild slot, if you're interested in joining but currently cannot because all your guild slots are taken up, that's fine as well. We'll get you set up in Discord, and throw you a guild invite after the update.

I don't make posts here often since I like to lurk, but today I have finally got the rhythm of the corrupted gauntlet down, and wanted to share my feelings on it.
The first 10-20 tries doing this really made me feel awful. Like I was getting nowhere. All the guides and advice people gave me just seemed like easier said than done. I never thought I'd get used to it, and all the failed attempts really took a lot out of me. I mean, just imagine doing something for 7 minutes at a time, over and over, and getting nowhere. Anyone would feel it's hopeless after that.
Today I finally overcame that hurdle. I ran into the gauntlet, got a super early, lucky prep for the fight, and ran in. Here I was thinking this is where the good luck streak ends. But then some weird wave of calm came over me like I put myself into overdrive, and I got that shit done. So there I had it, 1KC at an activity I used to think was impossible. Now I'm finding myself getting better and getting more kills in. It feels liberating to finally have control over this activity.
Perhaps this post will be seen as stupid or cringey, but I had to share it. No feeling in the world will recapture how I felt about getting that KC, and finding myself being able to do it consistently. This isn't like any other PVM content I've done in runscape. Thank you, to everyone who did give me advice, and thank you Jagex, for showing me how to git gud.

So who wants to go biking with me 😅

I’ve (F36) been with my boyfriend (M34) for 2.5 years, long distance. In the beginning, obviously things were great. However, early on, I started to see some red flags.
He would lie about the stupidest things…things that didn’t even make sense to lie about. For example, I had visited him and made up a bunch of breakfast sandwiches for him to take to work. After I had gone home, he called me one morning saying that the sandwiches were great. He verbatim said, “I had one while I was running around the house getting ready and another one while I was driving to work.” Later in the day, I said “so those sandwiches were good, huh?” He said “what? I told you I was rushing today. I didn’t have any time for breakfast.” It honestly really scared me, and we never got to the bottom of it. His final comment on the situation was “it worries me, I don’t remember saying any of that to you.”
For reference…he has had multiple head traumas due to abuse by his mom and her boyfriends, abuse by his stepdad, dirt bike accidents, getting kicked in the head by his horses, and when he was married, he mouthed off and got whacked in the head with a frying pan by his ex…
Anyway, he’s VERY generous due to his high paying job and supports me with $1000/month which I apply to my rent (which is $1750). The other day I texted him saying I was craving a margarita, and he immediately sent me money to go get myself one. I didn’t need the money, but the gesture was thoughtful.
But lately, he’s just been really sketchy, mean, and self centered.
Sketchy: During the day, he is great about letting me know where he’s going and what he’s doing, usually; come evening though, he will sometimes just fall off the face of the planet and I cannot get a hold of him. He claims he doesn’t hear my calls or texts but he has a watch which is connected to his phone, so I know he’s ignoring me. We’ve talked about it a lot but he just says that he doesn’t need to give me an update every 10 min. And it’s like, no, you don’t…but once every 2 hours should be doable.
Mean: Today I was just having a rough day accompanied by a terrible headache. I called him because I knew he was off work and I just wanted to see if talking with him could put me in a better mood. Regarding my headache, he threw in a quick “you’ll be fine” line. When I told him I was feeling depressed and sad that he never asks how I was doing (more about that later in the “self centered” section), he said “you always tell me! I don’t need to ask! You BOMBARD my phone with 20 messages about your day so there’s no need to ask! I’m not gonna text you every hour and be like ‘how are you?’ I haven’t done that since junior high!” First off…I do text him sometimes, sure, but I do not “bombard” him. And the first thing that came to mind when he said that to me, was ‘he’s insecure that I actually DON’T text or call near as much as I used to, so he’s making things up to make himself feel more important and needed’. I said “well do you prefer that I don’t text you during the day and just wait til you’re off work to talk?” He said “umm no. That’s a game. Don’t play games with me.” I thought it was a possible solution…
Self Centered: Today, he knew I had a long commute in very stressful traffic. Instead of asking how my drive was, he texted me that he had broken his truck window, followed by a picture. Honestly, he’s not great at responding to my messages, and since I was driving, I didn’t respond. He eventually called to tell me the WHOLE story in FULL detail, not once, but twice! This is very common. He will tell me a story, and then tell me the same exact story again. And if I say “oh you already told me that”, he gets angry! So I just have to listen and come up with a new reaction, otherwise he will say I’m being rude. It’s like, he just loves the attention from his stories.
Later on, we were talking about my work and I started to tell him a story. He thought he knew what I was going to say so he tried to finish my sentence. I gently said, “oh, no that isn’t what I was going to say.” He said “oh, well that’s what I’M going to say.” I responded with an “ohhhkay…” which caused him to loudly exhale and say “FINE, what were you going to say?! My God!”
He can really be so mean. And we’ve tried talking about it, which just results in him talking over me, and not listening to anything that I say.
It’s been about three months since we have seen each other and I’m actually supposed to head his way next week for his niece’s wedding.
I know that he will be working the whole time I am there with the exception of the day of the wedding, so we won’t have to spend a lot of time together. Pretty sad to say that.
I just feel like he’s such a broken person who has been through so much trauma in his life. He really does have a lot of amazing qualities, but I feel like I just see less and less of them. I pray about the relationship all the time, but is there a point that I need to leave and just let God handle him when he’s not in a relationship?

Guys after struggling my whole teenage and adult life I’m finally free.
It’s simple and easy to do and you’ve heard it a million times but until you understand it with all your heart, you will continue to struggle.
Believe in the Lord, repent, confess and walk with God daily.
I used to think to repent meant to turn from your sin. It doesn’t. If it was that easy, everybody would do it. Repent means to change your way of thinking. Repent means to make up your mind about your sin. You have to hate it. You have to decide that no matter what, you are going to change.
If you walk according to the spirit you will not carry out the desires of the flesh. This verse doesn’t say you might not carry out the desires of the flesh. It says you will not.
I finally started reading my bible everyday, praying everyday , going to church and I cut back drinking and started working out. I have no urges guys. I have no desire to indulge in this filth anymore. It’s gone. I pray you guys begin to understand how to break free. I know how it feels.
If you wonder if God has left you, he hasn’t. He’s made it clear he hasn’t left me .

Just a couple disclaimers: Please be nice, Im already dealing with a difficult situation. Leaving my husband isn't an option, we believe that our daughter needs one set of parents. Thanks :)
My husband , daughter, and Inare currently living with my inlaws. Moving here was last resort and it took a lot of convincing from my husband. The plan was while living here, my husband and I both go to work, and save for a house. We'd have help with the baby and cheap rent. But now our plans have changed.
I have never had an easy relationship with my MIL. She is a very singular person. She has CPTSD, deals with chronic pain and is under tons fo restrictions from drs. She's a very strong and admirable woman. In a lot of ways I look up to her. But I've had my struggles with her. She can be overbearing and an oversharer. She is overly involved in things she doesn't need to be. She offers constant unsolicited advice. And I don't feel like I've ever has a conversation with her that didn't evolve into her talking about her trauma, old family drama, and all the times people offended her. And as much as I want to be understanding of the things she's experienced, I don't really feel like she wants to get to know me and is only treating me like a trashcan for her bad experiences.
I have tried to set boundaries. Im not a good communicator and so it was really difficult for me to sit down with her and discuss what I needed. It was necessary though, especially since I had just given birth to my daughter. I asked her to back off with all the info dumping and trauma dumping (in kinder words but that was the basic gist). And I asked for a couple of other things when it came to our baby. But not too much later, my SIL came after me and accused me of trying to take my child and use her as a pawn to hurt my MIL. (Situations where children were used to hurt people was something that happened in their family unfortunately). I was extremely upset about this and since then not a whole lot has changed. Maybe I just needed to push harder for my needs?
It may not seem like a big deal but this is something that has me particularly upset too. We aren't allowed to use their washer and dryer or our own laundry detergent. I regularly go without clean underwear and work clothes. And I get rashes from the detergents they use. Everytime I've brought this issue up im told that I'm being pushy and expecting too much of my MIL.
There are TONS of other experiences here that have left me pretty disheartened and hurt. I feel like our needs aren't given any kind of consideration.
I don't feel valued here. And my mental health has seriously started to decline. Im struggling to make it to work, be a good DIL be a good mom, be a good wife, and on top of all of that still find time to be good to me. I've been thinking a lot about what the next best course of action is for me and how I can have the space and privacy to work through what I'm feeling. And I came to the conclusion that I need to move out. Whether that was going home to my parents or finding an apartment.
I've always had the mentality that of "if you don't like it leave". It took a lot to convince my husband. It's not easy to tell your partner that their family is the reason you are struggling. It took a lot of tearful conversations. Im not very good at standing up for myself but this is something that I need, especially if I want to be a good mom for our baby.
My husband is particularly upset. He feels that I have not tried hard enough to make this plan work. And he's upset that we are having to change our plans. Especially since part of the plan was sending him to school once we built up some more savings.
But, we put in an application for a cheap apartment her in town. And today we got word that we got it and our move in date is this Friday. And we broke the news to my inlaws and everyone is upset.
They all have their opinions and reasons as to why we can't move. Why it's a bad idea. Why financially we wont be able to pull it off. Even things like how my husband's brother was going to aply for that specific apparment even though we didnt know he was. Im being told that this is a bad impulsive choice even though im prioritizing my mental health. Im having a hard time feeling happy about this move. I'm hoping that maybe by writing this all out maybe I'll get some reassurance that this is the right choice.
Sorry if this was confusing. If something needs clarification please ask. I need just as much help understanding my situation haha

Hi guys, I was at the second day of my learner course and when riding on the curve second gear one of my team slowed down on the curve and i basically went stupid and swerved into tree on the course instead. i’m okay but dropped the bike and got disqualified.
at the moment i am feeling super embarrassed and humiliated. i cannot believe i have made such a mistake like that and i have been crying and a bit shaken ever since that happened. just a bit bruised on my legs but the rest is ok. i am allowed to resit the test and i have booked 2 private lessons before that. I’m scared when I resit i might get nervous and make the same mistake.
At the moment I’m genuinely feeling a bit shaken and embarrassed, I was wondering if anybody here also crashed their bikes on the learner course and what helped you recover mentally?
I did find the learner course quite nerve wrecking as I am not used to riding with so many people and the stress also got into my performance. It’s also a bit harder as i’m smaller (4’11) and cannot flat feet.
Any advice would be good. I really would love to ride motorbike no matter how long it takes. Today was a mistake but it helped me realise that I need more private lessons and confidence on the bike.

Please someone tell me if I’m the abusive one.
Today we were driving and my boyfriend shouted at me because the way I was holding my phone caused a glare. It caught me off guard and set my nerves off to the point I was struggling to speak. He was finding something wrong with every single little thing I did. Saying things to imply I’m stupid. Messing with me physically to the point that I’m in full flight or fight mode trying not to cry.
Fast forward a few hours later, he asks me why I’m acting the way I am. I told him my nerves were bad and he seemed sympathetic for a moment and gave me a kiss and tried to make me laugh but I couldn’t stop feeling nervous. Then I said something he didn’t like and he began throwing things around aggresisvely in the kitchen, grabbed a pair of rolled up sweatpants and threw them in my face.
My nerves finally snapped and I threw the pants back in his face and I pushed him hard. He fell back onto the bed but his foot caught on something and it hurt him. He was limping.
I feel like a horrible abuser and he even said it himself. He has a drinking problem and anger issues and it’s been a problem before. He has thrown things at me and shoved me and held me down. Verbal abuse, fk you bh, go f*k yourself, I’m a whore and a skank. Things like that. He’s threatened to throw the plates against the wall and smash the TV. And I always resented him for it, and now I’m thinking, I don’t know how I looked down on him. Because look at me now. I’ve never pushed or shoved or hit anyone in my life. I don’t even recognize myself. I have no idea who I’ve become. Someone please just be honest with me if I’m fucked up and becoming abusive. I don’t want to see myself turn into some awful evil version of who I used to be. And I am.
Thanks.

Hi! this is a little embarassing to post here, but i need some input from others.
I (21F) have a crush on my best friend (21M). We've known each other for a year now and have become very close with one another. We hang out pretty much everyday at uni, as well as call/text, send each other tiktoks, and facetime a lot.
I like him, but its hard for me to gauge if he's into me too. It's hard to tell what's a sign (romantic/flirty), or what's just normal things between close friends. If it helps, neither of us have been in relationships (or kissed anyone, or any of that stuff) before. We're both on the same page in terms of those things, haha.
I feel like some of the things we do are not normal 'guy-girl' friendship things; these seem to go beyond that. I've been interpreting these things as more "romantic" than what normal friends do. Can you guys help me figure out what seems like a sign, and what doesn't?

• He calls me pretty, constantly. Many times, he has told me that I'm a "pretty girl" and that I can get away with a lot of things. Him calling me pretty has come up more times than I can count.
• We facetime for hours, even late into the night (until 3-4 am). Not playing games together, just talking about things.
• He has introduced me to his close friends (even outside of school). One weekend, he invited me to come with him to 3 parties in a row (same weekend)
• Everyone assumes we are dating (family, mutual friends, professors all assume it.)
• I don't ask for relationship advice, he will just start telling me it sometimes.
  • says stuff like "if you want to get a guy to like you, do ____. That's worked on me."
  • once i broke a bet i made with him, and he kept going on about how you can't lie to your partner in a relationship. I told him he's not my partner, but he still kept talking about it.
• Once (on another late night facetime call) he asked about my relationship status, and if I've had my first kiss yet.
• Worries about my health, A LOT.
  • a few months ago, i was dealing with some eye problems, when i complained to him about it, he went on searching online for symptoms and fixes. every time i saw him, he would ask how my eyes are doing, and point out other things he searched up that it could be. Months later, eyes are fixed now, yet he still asks: "how are your eyes? do they still hurt?"
  • I used to drink too much coffee, and everyday he would always nag at me to stop. He'd tell me it was bad for my overall health, anxiety, etc. Eventually he made up a bet to get me to drink less caffiene.
• This one makes me think a lot: he worried about my courseload/extracurriculars at school, and how much I can handle. He then made a list of classes I could do instead to help make things easier for me.
  • He got worried for me, asking if I really could manage all of that at once. He then went through our college's list of minors and courses and tried to find something easier for me to do so that I wouldn't be overwhelmed.
  • He even told me on a facetime call about it: "One day you're going to have a nice boyfriend, and you won't have any time for him if you get involved in all of those things around school."
  • (I understand that it is good to have a friend look out for you. but some of this seems above and beyond what even I would do for a close friend.)

Sorry for the long post! I'm happy to have a supportive friend. But some of the things that we do don't feel like normal 'girl-guy' friendship things.
What do you guys think? Are these signs?