How to write a donation request for a college scholarship

As somebody who helps here often, there’s a few things that I, as well as other gifters, look for when considering helping.
If you can, use Amazon wishlist to fulfill any items you need, or would be using cash to buy. It’s much less risky for us to buy the items direct since we know cash won’t be used elsewhere.
Keep items on the cheaper side. If you need coffee, don’t add a $25 bag of coffee to your wishlist. Nobody will buy it, and it will likely turn off the grifter and you may not get anything. Keep things to essentials only and choose low cost versions. We all want the nice stuff, but we know sometimes we will end up with reduced quality in order to scrape by.
Write about yourself, your current situation, and your plans to get yourself out of your financial situation. If you’re posting “We’re hungry. Need $100 for groceries” without any context on why you’re in this situation and how you plan to avoid needing assistance in the future, that will help your case.
We always check post/comment history before providing assistance. This is important. If you have questionable post/comment history, any form of illegal sub involvement, showing off items that have value (you should consider selling non-essential items of value before requesting financial assistance), multiple posts asking for help on multiple different subreddits, or conflicting or contradicting information about yourself, you will likely get ignored.
If you need things like medication co-pays where you need assistance with money. Offer to send the script info (excluding personal info) and receipts after purchase. The more you can prove, the better your chances are of getting direct help with money.
There is a lot of competition on here for people who are in bad situations and we cannot help everybody. I’ve been seeing a lot of low effort posts as well as requests for large amounts of money to take care of things like rent, bills, debts, veterinary bills, etc… it’s very unlikely you will get that assistance. This sub is more receptive to help with essentials like food, toiletries, items for children, pet food, etc… things that can be purchased direct without the transaction of actual money.

Hi friends
I suppose I am looking for some validation, even as pathetic as it may sound, but I FINALLY graduated college
Most of my friends and family do not seem to give much of a shit about it and aside from the standard “good job” or “congrats,” it just feels so whatever to all of them I will admit that I just turned twenty five and this is something I should have done a few years ago like many of the other people in my life but my college experience was a bit unconventional lol
Yes, i understand that there is no “correct” way to go about your education, but growing up in the northeast it definitely deviates from the norm
I originally got into a polytechnic institute on a cross country/track scholarship to study environmental engineering and was attracted to attending a top 50 school and knew engineering was a lucrative profession (hey i was 18 and knew i needed a scholarship if i wanted to attend college so this worked)
However i fucking hated math and running at this point, and eventually dropped out after my first year and started attending community college at home and tried to figure out what my next steps were going to be. During this time I really struggled with my eating disorder to the point that i had to do residential treatment and once again…drop out of school
So anyways, after 5 months of treatment, I moved to San Diego while working at a summer camp to get away from home and shit just really hit the fan and found my way back home to the east coast after 8 months and essentially was disowned by my mother
At this point, i had no financial support and after working at a bar and odd jobs I realized the only way I can move up in the world was with a college degree So I was sleeping on a twin mattress on the concrete floor of my dad’s basement and I managed to afford ONE class at a community college at 20 which launched the long and exhausting quest to get my undergrad.
I was also dating a god awful guy at the time who was 10 years older than me and active in his addiction and took every chance to remind me that i was a piece of shit
But I wanted to prove everyone wrong and told myself that I would do it and get this shit done, somehow and someway As we all know, college is not cheap and had to do some questionable things to afford school (I think you guys can assume what i mean…thnx seeking)
So whatever, this shit took me seven years and I completely turned my life around during this period. I found a job in a field I was passionate about and worked my ass off to prove myself and move up in my position so that i could earn more money
Over the course of six years - I managed to pay for my entire degree on my own without loans, live on my own in a beautiful apartment, get out of a toxic relationship and found the man of my dreams who only loves and supports me, buy a new car, strengthen the bonds between my friends and family, develop a healthy relationship with my body and self, get into graduate school, and graduate SUMMA CUM LAUDE
Waaaaaaah idk if you told nineteen year old me that this is where i would be by my 25th birthday, i wouldnt have believed it but here i am fucking am and yeah i fucking did it But I suppose no one cares or do not even know the lengths in which I took in order to get here or how much this degree actually means so maybe this is just an off my chest and now i can finally move on and forget it because it wraps up one chapter and now we are on to the next wooooo

I’m on mobile so there may be spelling mistakes. I have changed some of the details. Hello I hope posting here will help me. (Me and Roger were together for 11 months and 1 week or 2 weeks) So basically I will be calling my Ex ‘Roger’. So first a little back story, Me and Roger meet in year 7. We both had a similar interest with video games.( as I got older my taste in video game changed) And we quickly became friends towards the end of the school year, his parents took him out of the school. We continue to be friends and hanged out at each other’s places. Okay so I started dating him when I was 16 and he was 17. Fast forward 5 months and Roger decides we should get promise rings for each other. About a month after this Roger started suggesting we have sex but I kept on telling him that I was not ready. He kept on pressure me, I kept on telling him to wait. About may/June last year Roger started saying we should put cameras on each other rooms I immediately said no. And he did not mention it again. I was getting annoyed by him constantly bringing up sex it really annoyed me when I saw his next I realized I started to act cold and distant. It happened the next few times I saw him. So i eventually ended it over text. But them I stupidly texted him saying something along the lines of “ do you want to know why I broke up with you?” And I think we got back together(can’t remember the exact conversation). The next time i saw Roger, I was still felt repulsed and disgusted so the next week I broke up with him fully (yay for me). I was still forced to go to his 18th. He tried to flirt with me but I wasn’t really comfortable with Roger doing it. But I did talk to Roger’s cousin more than I did to Roger :). Now back to current day, when I was in a relationship with Roger I mistakenly told my grandmother and my auntie (opps) and when I left the relationship. So basically ever since I broke up with him they has been saying comments like “you and Roger would be perfect together” “ You and Roger would make the perfect couple when you move in together in your new flat” ( when I talked to Roger about this flat I would be getting he always said something along the lines of “and when I move in it will be are flat and thier will be meat In the fridge” I am a vegetarian so this is against my beliefs)etc… also Roger brought up marriage quite a lot and kept on saying “when you get married to me you will get my surname” I also find a problem with this because the surname my family has is almost extincted because it is very rare also His is surname is very common and i have probably met load of people with the same surname(he knowns my feelings about this).
Recently I have been deciding who to invite to 18 th and my grandmother always said “why don’t you invite Roger I think you to will have fun together” (this party would be for only family. I think I would act more closer to one to my classmates at college that Roger) but two weeks ago when we were in the car she said “ I think it is better if were to have sex with Roger than any other men” (I didn’t say anything as a reply) I didn’t like what she said. Also my grandmother has made me invite Roger to a nearby town and hand out with him. I mainly ignore him when I am with him and don’t speak to him, unless he has a question or my grandmother wants a photo for proof. And the only thing I have told my grandmother why we broke up was because Roger was pressuring me to has sex with him and I only told her recently. Even writing this up I still felt disgusted and repulsed;( Would anyone have any suggestions about what to do and how not to invite Roger to my birthday party. And how to change the subject about Roger when my grandmother brings it up.
TL;DR I(17FtM) don’t like being around my ex(18M) but my grandmother(70?F) it trying make me get back together with him but I don’t want to and She is trying to invite him to my birthday party.

Let me get the title straight: I said no to a girl in college, now she's defaming me and spreading false news.
Alright I'm 17yr Male, studying in an Engineering college, I am from the Automobile department and this girl is from Electronics department, she looks nice n cute but I kinda hate her vibe voz she's entitled and thinks everything is hers. Every boy from MY department hits on her and she likes it, all this attention made he think she is the ONE!
I'll be frank I liked her based on looks, back when I joined the college and looked at her in the campus, I went to her and confessed about how I feel, yeah stoopid me confessed without even talking to her once. Usually she just ignores everybody and doesn't follow people back making them thirst over her a lot!! Yes all this may make y'all think she's super hot. No she ain't, she's a 7/10. Yeah so I talked to her and she showed me the attitude which was alright coz a dude like me confessing to her won't make her drool or anything. I talked to her and she said "I kinda like you" and followed me on Instagram and duh, boys from my class started hatinggg me like hell, I was confused until my buddie told me that she followed me is the reason, i laughed that off and me and that girl talked for a few months. Note, we never hanged out becoz our classes time never matched and after college she had to leave quick coz she lived far from college, so we texted each other for sometime.
This went on for like couple of months up until early days of July, when we had exams and after exams we had a lot of time, so one day we planned on hanging out, and I said yeah I'll meet her outside. This day I regretted the day I confessed to her, yeah it went badd, she talked crap about people, and how men are behind her, yeah she failed to realise that men aren't behind her, boys are.
Reddit is not allowing me to write any more of this here, I'll post the rest on the comments, sorry people.

The ex wife of my husband petitioned the court for 4 more years of child support for their 18 y/o who is enrolled in college in the fall. She did not ask us to pay half to the child, just requested it go through her.
We've had issues in the last 12 years with her taking money from the kids' bank accounts and using child support for buying new cars, expensive vacays without the kids, etc, while the kids had holes in their clothing because she "couldn't afford it."
My question is, can we stipulate that the payments go directly to the school or the child? Can we request that she pays an equal amount and has consequences if she doesn't pay? We are tired of being used for money for her, not the kids. We have no problem paying for the adult child's schooling, food, and necessities so long as she gets good grades.
Has anyone gone through this? Can stipulations be made? How likely are we to be heard by a judge instead of just them automatically siding with the mother, who is the custodial parent 60% of the time?

Quick backstory: I, like many 'former gifted' kids, am a woman who was diagnosed with anxious and inattentive adhd later in life (with no support from family members). And like many, schooling went great up until college, then it became "why do you want to be in school forever?" after many failed attempts and degree changes. All of the AP credits, achievements, and community service hours for a scholarship meant nothing after I withdrew from too many classes and never finished a degree. My family members and in-laws, and even a friend or two, all see me as wasted potential and directionless. I've also burnt out my once great work ethic in retail and food service too. Now I am a freelance creative and I'm SO much happier that way, but I'm not making a living like this and that is my next batch of bad news to tell them.
So, I would love to find a way to just get out of those painful 20-question conversations with the older generations while I try to heal. Those conversations about how freelance work is going, how much I'm making, what my plan is, what am I doing with that plan, what I'm doing with my life, every time I see family members. I am trying very hard to remember self worth in other values in my life that don't have to do with my productivity, and that's not something I can just explain to them either. So my question is, what is a clever way to just stop these conversations from happening every time?

Hi there!
I'm someone who would like to try pursuing an MFA in poetry. A little about me: I am involved in the journalism world, so have professional writing experience there. I also took many poetry classes in college, previously worked as a poetry editor at a literary magazine, and have been published (like once, but still!).
My problem is that I have been out of college for a good while and I don't have memorable connections with my professors or the lit mag I used to help out at. I'm really nervous about how I'm going to find people to write me letters of recommendation. I'm considering taking some local university writing classes as a non-degree student, and also signing up for some virtual poetry workshops to try and make connections. Would that help? Does anyone have advice for how I can build connections and get some strong letters of recommendation? What other tricks/tips might you have for the MFA application process?

Okay, honestly. I’m writing this because I am chronically on Reddit, and today I saw a thread about an insecure wife. She was 30 years old and would get extremely angry with her husband for not turning off a show or a movie that had female nudity in it. ALL, and I mean all of the comments were saying that she is extremely insecure, and that she is projecting into her partner by behaving that way, and that nudity is all around us now a days. They were saying that at that point she would be insecure about him even going to a pool or a beach because he might see a half naked woman. I definitely agree with the comments.
I’m 22, and I’ve had my insecurities. I’m also an extremely self aware person, and not even joking this thread was very eye-opening to me. Because holy fuck, do I not want to be that person in the future. I’m with my boyfriend now, I’ve known him a long time but we’ve been dating for about 6 months, just graduated college together. I’ve dated in the past, but this relationship is so different because I now know that I was never in love with my exes the way I am with him. It’s real, and healthy, and frankly, I think it has been uncovering the unresolved insecurities and traumas that I have not dealt with yet.
But I definitely for the first time in my relationship life would get insecure when we’d watch a movie with a lot of nudity, and I’d want him to look away. I’d play it off as a joke, but I’d be like wanting to throw up inside lmao. He’s 6’4 and very attractive, and frankly all my exes were usually more normal- attractive and reserved, so they didn’t have a ton of girl friends. My boyfriend now, has a ton of girl friends, and when we were on campus together he’d constantly be having girls run into him and hug him and say they missed him. Had several girls come up to us and say hi to him and not even acknowledge that I was there. He put boundaries in place without me even asking, to not hug girls anymore if they came up to him, he’d just fist bump them. And I’d do the same with my guy friends. I really appreciated that he did that for me.
But my boyfriend even for the way he looks, and his personality is a lot more insecure than he leads on, and it was kind of a difficult talking stage because he’s been cheated on in 3 relationships, and I think he’d assume I’d do the same to him. I had to reassure him so much about it, which I didn’t mind doing, but. He wanted me to cut off so many male friends to the point where I felt defensive and controlled, and expected that he then cut off his girl friends. Which I’ve never cared about in the previous relationships. As long as the girls weren’t crossing boundaries, why should I have cared. There are so many more things that bother me in this relationship that never have before. I just don’t like the way that I’ve been acting.
Moral of the story, it’s gotten bad to the point where I don’t even want him seeing celebrity posts, or having girls on Instagram with a lot of bikini posts, etc. Also, quite literally DID get uncomfortable going to the pool with him because we were in Arizona, and every girl was tanning ass up in a thong bikini LMAO. But again, they should be able to do that, he should be able to see it, and there should be zero issues. But because I am not the controlling type of person, genuinely, and do not like telling other adults what they’re allowed or not allowed to do, I just snap at him sometimes and say I’m fine, when he knows I’ve gone quiet and am in my head, and get really sad and don’t communicate because I don’t want to tell him that it makes me insecure. Because I know that it shouldn’t.
I literally don’t know if this just because his insecurity is projecting into my insecurities, or if this is actually a healthy relationship that has problems being worked through and I just need to overcome my own insecurities. How do I get over this? To be honest this behavior is way below me, and I’m tired of letting it control me. I feel like calling him and apologizing right now for being insecure and controlling lmao.

i know i sound like a brat throwing a temper tantrum but hear me out. i’m 18, im graduating with honors, i’ve received multiple scholarships, i basically have a full ride, im going to a great university in my state that’s close to home and im majoring in nursing. all of this because my parents wanted to me to.
my initial plan was to go out of state and major in architecture, but my mother didn’t think i could do it because i’m a girl and discouraged me from going out of state because.. i’m a girl lol.
oh and my parents are actually my grandparents, they’ve raised me since i was a child. they’ve got a conservative mindset and they’re immigrants. also they’re super adventist (of the 7th day) and are disappointed in me for not being apart of their stupid cult. i believe in god but my faith is not for them to decide, that’s the one thing i’ve saved for myself to choose.
i’m 18 and up until till now ive been doing everything they ask me to do with my life just to make them proud. so of course im mad that when i ask them for this one thing they tell me no.
my friends and i wanted to go on a trip to florida for five days, we would book an airbnb and buy our own tickets. my parents would literally only have to say yes and all costs would be on me. everything has already been planned out.
specifically, my mom talked about the dangers of the trip, how im putting myself in danger and asking to get r worded, she brought up how my cousin went to hawaii with her friends and got drugged, how models from belleza latina got SA by some millionaires and how my friends are trying to turn me into something im not and they’re a bad influence and i need to get a life and go clean my room “or something.”
my argument was that im not a little girl anymore because she keeps referring to me as a little girl. im literally entering adulthood and she hasn’t even let me experience my teens. i haven’t had my first kiss, or held hands with someone romantically, im still a virgin, never had a boyfriend at all, i’ve never been to a party, ive never done something so stupidly “teenager ish” and im scared im going to let all that pent up energy out in college.
i don’t know how to change her mind but i need a “yes” by tomorrow. should i just say eff it and go anyway??? it’s not like i feel pressured by my friends to go, I WANT TO GO T-T

Whats up guys,
My name's Ryan. I've been an athlete my whole life and hardly ever have even gotten a cold or the flu. I eat super clean, hydrate adequately, sleep 7-8 hours a night, dont smoke or drink, etc.
I'm by no means a conspiracy theorist or an anti-vaxxer. I just want to share my experience with getting the vaccine and then being subsequently infected with the covid virus and the life altering impacts of it. Take what you want from it.
It was right after my second dose of the Pfizer vaccine that my whole life flipped upside down. The symptoms were almost sudden, I was weak, tired, my feet turned hot and red, my head was pounding 24/7, my heart felt like it was beating out of my chest and it was like I suddenly contracted social anxiety. Noises all seemed amplified 10x and I just wasn't feeling normal anymore. I ended up having to quit my job because I couldn't be on my feet for long periods of time anymore.
For context, I have always been a social butterfly. I get energy from organizing community and making new friends. I'm the first person to welcome a new person into a group or walk into a crowded room and befriend everyone. I was in college in south florida at the time and it was like my whole life flatlined and there were no resources to support me understand what was happening to my body. I ended up quitting my job, I dropped out of school and all the stress made my girlfriend and I break up.
I didn't know what to do anymore and was just ready to do anything to feel better again. I thought that perhaps getting out in nature for a while and into a cooler climate could help my symptoms. So I took a random job out west as an adventure coordinator but first I stopped in Breckenridge CO where I helped my buddy work on his new boutique hotel in exchange for a place to stay.
It was amazing how being in the high elevation and the cold weather alleviated my symptoms. I was finally able to work again. After being there for two months, I transitioned to a new job in SF where I was hoping to raise some money to purchase the company that way I could hire a manager to do a lot of the work and I could focus on organizing.
A month into working there after leading programs back to back, I noticed my symptoms came back with a vengance. Anytime I pushed my body and mind hard, these symptoms pushed back harder. I was also getting back in shape at the time because I was feeling good again and like i said guys, Ive always been an athlete, so when I get in the gym, I put in the work. Its so damn frustrating to not be able to move the way I know I can without the most insane post exertional fatigue.
The SF business deal fell through for various reasons and I was starting to struggle again with these unexplainable symptoms. I planned on returning to the east coast to regroup but was invited to LA to attend an Oscars party for Angel Bassett. I get there, have the time of my life and I catch Covid for the first time (that im aware of) and it just crushes me.
The acute illness was rough but it was the immediate after effects that were just baffling. My vision was becoming quite blurry and I couldnt stand up for longer than a minute without getting an insane head rush and my heart beating out my chest. I thought that maybe I was developing POTs. Shortly after I tested negative for Covid I was at a cafe working and I suddenly almost past out. I went to an urgent care and they put me on a steroid and gave me beta blockers (I didnt take them).
A few days into the steroid course and I felt like myself again but right as soon as I got off of them, I tanked. I could hardly walk anymore without feeling like I was going to lose consciousness. I had to catch a flight directly to Atlanta to be taken care of by my aunt whose a nurse.
One year later and here I am sitting in a cafe still struggling to get my life back. I writing to you all because I am tired of feeling like I'm screaming underwater. I'm 29, highly intelligent, highly skilled, have an amazing network, I love working, I love life and at this point I'm just feeling like a failure to launch. I was independent since 16 and have shamefully become financially dependent on my family again. I work for my money but I'm constantly reminded of how I am not living up to my full potential. The cognitive disonance is just destroying my mental health. I am dreaming of ripping up my birth certificate, my social security card and going to die alone in the remote wilderness and leave the world with a philosophical dissertation on how the modern world is failing its young people.
I desperately want to be reliably high functioning again and what I've always done to improve that is exercise but now that feels like a double edged sword these days. I have periods of amazing productivity followed by sudden crashes and the most insane symptoms which just make no sense to me. I need coffee just to get going but at the same time, I feel like it's overstimulating my nervous system.
I'm getting ready to do a cross country road trip from Atlanta to Banff and after I am considering trying to find some sort of peaceful job out in nature for the next year. I was recently offered 30% in my families real estate investing company and my body just cant handle anything high stress right now.
I've gotten my full blood panel done end of last year and I feel like I should go back and get new labs. Everything came back normal but my cholesterol was THROUGH the roof.
Total 292 HDL 50.1 LDL 230 Triglyceride 59.2
I had my heart monitored with a Zio patch and the cardiologist says my hearts normal - even though I've regularly experience heart palpitations/chest pain though not as frequently anymore.
One important fact I didnt mention is that I got Dengue fever in January 2020. I wonder if that has played a role in how my body reacted to covid and the vaccine?
What's your story? What have you done to make a comeback?
Thanks for reading!

I’m a fresh-out-of-college graduate. My degree is in English with a concentration in professional writing. For my degree completion, I needed to land an internship, and successfully did at an educational technology start up that basically produces AI Mentors for universities primarily, but also a few Fortune 500 companies. Obviously I jumped on this opportunity because as we move towards an AI dominated world, my professional writing degree probably won’t get me as far as demonstrable competency in the generative AI field.
Its been great, but most of the work I’ve done so far has been marketing related - scouring AI conferences for leads, doing research on those leads, and putting those leads into organized lists that we can then schedule sequenced prospecting emails through. I haven’t actually had much hands-on experience with building our AI Mentors or generative AI at all really. Recently, I’ve sat in and taken notes for sales calls, which has helped build some foundation of knowledge, but my understanding of the nitty gritty of generative AI still leaves a lot to be desired.
Now that I’m coming to the end of the internship, we’ve discussed next steps and my future at this company. One of the pre-requisites for actually getting hired is my knowledge on all things Gen AI - LLMs, all of the various models available, API keys, how it all works, etc. - being pristine. To be clear: I don’t need to know the engineering and actual technical work that goes into Gen AI, but I need to know what I’m talking about and be able to survive in a sales call with potential clients who may also know about Gen AI.
I basically have a week and a half to go from a general understanding of what Gen AI is to being fully competent and able to compete in this field.
Can y’all point me in the right direction? Any resources, free online courses, or any other sources of information that y’all could recommend me would be amazing.
I really, really want to land this job and give myself a more promising future than my degree can give me.
Thanks in advance!

Hello guys this not not my story but story of my biological big brother in my house we both were average student with extremely good parents me and my bro are best buds I remember a time when I was having a party with my friend after giving 12th boards exam we get bill we didn't see how much we were eating and bill was of 5100 it was very expensive restaurant we were 5peaple each bring 500hundred it was a shok for mee then when told my brother he instantly give me 6000 in my paytm we were saved by him so now you can understand how loving brother he was now let's come story my had a crush when he in college He confessed his love he than go out with her After he graduate btech ge got job of 45 to 50k which was good since he goes to a normal government college he wants to contribute father in our expensive he refuse since he was working with a good job my father is deputy general manger at one of india top 5 civil company he earn a good income so our parents told him to save his money for his good they bought a 1bhk flat for my big bro then he started living there his monthly expensive was 25k every month he save 10k every morning and spend 10k on his gf but she was a gold digger she wants my brother to buy a big car like thar Or live in a big flat or take her to luxury restaurant even though my brother earn good income have a stable life never forget to spend this much money her take care of her he was perfect one my bro found that she never reply later when he ask she told she was sleeping at friend home she live at my brother home because of her personalty she doesn't have much friend all friend of her are also my brother friend too so he didn't take seriously but it happen frequently so one day my brother save her message of seed her naked photos to another then he found out he asked her who he was how long she was cheating she just ignore go to the bathroom after 20min a man came at my brother house and my brother gf ger her a hug said she can't be with him she wants a break out my bro saying he can't provide her jewelry or expensive purse clothes my bro was at shock he didn't knew that when left her home what after that after one week my brother got fired from job whem me and my parents go and meet and what happened then he told us that he got fired because he did a mistake in words my parents decided to cheer him up my mom decided to eat chicken because it was his favorite my mom got on preparation of it my father go to buy raw chicken told me to cheer him up I after every one was doing work I just silently lock room door without my mom noticeing it and just said him what's the truth then he grabbed me and started crying it almost 9-10 years I haven't seen him crying he was 25 years old and told every thing I just cheer up to move on after fews days he started searching job then found a job in Canada as a assistant manager of 180k $ it was very happy for us but also sad because we won't be able to meet my brother often after he left he meet an half Americn and half indian girl over their he fell in love she was working in same company they started dating then my brother found what's was love my brother told me how happy he was right now and i was also happy to hear that he told me how his ex only spend money just talk things which was of her intrest his current gf name sonia Was very kind hearted always help people donate a huge amount every year respect my brother give him surprise gift or party when they started living together she contribute in expense help in every thing always help him in difficult time after 4 years he propose her for marriage and was coming to meet our parents since I knew every thing he told me to tell my parents about my brother new finance that how good and kind hearted she is when they meet her it was looking live me and my brother was children of another parents and she was their daughter they accepted her and we were happy my family decided to have a dinner at restaurant tonight we saw a bunch of brother friend or ex friend since they broke their friendship because ex lied about my brother said some fake thing so some of then left him they were just consoling her look like her rich bf left her my brother was very good at work and he became a general manager with 600k$ salary yearly he style change bit much but when we saw her my brother ignore her I have seen her photo so I also ignore her but ex saw my brother ex somehow found about my brother work and his achievement my brother goes to see washroom and was coming back ex just stop him said how are and what ever and then she said she miss him still love and that liying bullshit crap them my brother fiance came just said is she his friends my brother introduced his fiance and left her on the way she never contact or approach my brother since ex saw his fiance because she is very stunning lady and this is how story ends

Hi, I’m a first time Reddit user but I’m an avid watcher of the Charlotte Dobre channel. I wanted to write this out, potentially Risking people involved seeing it. It was a lot at first now it’s very comical.
It begins when my boyfriend (m22) and I (f22) found out we were pregnant and we were looking for a place to live. His mom found us a place with her aunt, so his great aunt. It was to help us save money in order to find a decent place for ourselves. My boyfriend was really busy with work and she was getting frustrated that he wasn’t responding to her in time so I took it upon myself to introduce myself and see if her and I could talk about details considering he was super busy. She was rude to begin with, but she’s an older lady. I brush it off and just stayed as respectful as I could. I was telling her what a great opportunity and that I appreciate her helping us out and I will get my boyfriend to try and reach out because she was adamant that she did not want to communicate with me about the process. Fast forward us moving in she gets out a lined piece of paper and writes out the most vague landlord-tenant contract. There were no specific rules or items that would protect us in this instant I’m about to talk about. It rubbed me the wrong way. My boyfriend signed it with out questions. Another red flag was she didn’t want me to sign it because she didn’t want to acknowledge that I was gonna live there too. First month goes by and we are $100 short on rent which she excuses after an apology however, she makes my boyfriend write a letter talking about how he’s going to do better to never be late on rent again as if he’s a high school child. I thought it was a bit extreme considering we’re adults, she’s not his mother and we paid her for the remainder of the rent we missed. But I let it go because we really needed this place. a month later, she gets mad at me for not having found a job yet even though we just moved a month ago and I’m pregnant and it’s hard to find jobs when you are visibly pregnant. I understand that they can’t deny you if you’re pregnant but that doesn’t mean they cant find a different excuse to not hire you. She is yelling at me and I decide I’ve had enough because of her being disrespectful and coming at me after not taking time to get to know me and throwing out a bunch of insults that don’t make sense. So I close my bedroom door to get away from her and she walks in opening the door and I told her that she had no right to do that. She said it was her place and I said I pay rent and I’ve lived here long enough that if I called the cops she would get in trouble so she apologized in a very Karen way then she goes off on how I was in foster care as a child and she knows “my people” have behavioral problems. A few months after that, I stopped talking to her, but she decides to tell us that our shower is leaking in to her garage which we are not allowed to be in. She starts hounding us about how could we not know that our shower is leaking. again we’re not allowed in the garage. We never saw leak. How do we know our showers leaking if the leak is underneath our shower and we’re not allowed in the garage. Also she wouldn’t give us a 24 hour notice before just walking into our apartment unannounced. She walked in on me in my underwear multiple times. She didn’t announce herself and just walked in. And because the shower was leaking she decided to take our shower head which is incredibly illegal and I tried telling my boyfriend that, but he was trying to keep the peace. I was livid because in the state that I live in, If you were going to request a tenant does not use their own shower. You have to provide a shower for them to use it while it’s getting fixed. Another time she bard he’s in to yell at us for leaving lint dust on the dryer. And another instance where she turned to water off without telling us in advance. I told my boyfriend to talk to her and she said she yelled up the stairs that it would be shut off even tho I was awake and never heard her do that. She told my boyfriend that she wanted to have a talk with me about how disrespectful I am, apparently she heard me talking to my mom about how rude she is and thought that I wasn’t allowed to do that. Even though I hadn’t said anything to her since our last argument after she talked about me being in foster care, which come to find out my boyfriend’s mom told her I was in foster care because she didn’t think it was a big deal but clearly Karen used it to her advantage. She was yelling at me talking about how disrespectful I am even though I had been quiet then when she asked me a question and I answered it, she flipped out saying I thought you were going to be quiet and I told her that I wasn’t gonna let her talk to me that way because I’m not her child and I’m an adult and she has no right to talk to me like that , she got angry that I wasn’t letting her talk to me like that so while I was seated in my chair seven months pregnant, she stood up and got in my face like she was about to strike me. My boyfriend stood between us and told her to sit down and I told her that we’re done with the conversation. she said that she wanted me off her property right now and she was going to call the police. I told her to go ahead that I had mail sent here and that I paid rent and she can’t kick me out without a 30 day notice. so she calls my boyfriends mom and says that she needs to come take me off of her property right now. I told her she can call whoever she wants, but nobody can forcibly take me off the property because I live there as a tenant and I had my rights regardless if my name was on the contract or not. finally my boyfriend to calm her down, agreed that we would leave in two weeks which enraged me because legally she needed to give us a 30 day notice. after the two weeks she willingly let me and my boyfriend live in our car while I was eight months pregnant. we moved out the day of my baby shower and his mother has a spare bedroom didn’t even offer to take us. We lived in our car for two weeks before my sister gave up her seven year-old daughters bedroom just so that I could have my baby in a safe environment. My boyfriend and I argued about the way he took their sides and how it made me feel. Eventually we came to an understanding and we’re doing a lot better now. I’m cordial with his mother even though I still don’t agree with what happened considering she on the day of the baby shower, decided to go to the beach with the woman that kicked her son and her daughter-in-law and future grandchild out instead of going to the baby shower. I do not talk to the aunt. She is an awful person. I do not wish ill on her but I would laugh if something bad happened. Call me morbid.

I already posted this in another subreddit, but I'd like to post it here to get the perspective of women with ADHD.
So, I have to pick which college I want to go to very soon, and I'm stuck. I'm worried that I won't be happy at one school, but at the same time, I'm worried I'll be in debt at the other.
First, I will share a bit about myself, and then, I will share my options for college.
I've always had social anxiety ever since I was a kid. I had selective mutism until 7th grade. I made one friend in elementary school, and from there, all the rest of my friends have come from him introducing me to people. I have never made a friend on my own.
I also grew up very isolated, in a family where you weren't really allowed to go out or do much, so even though I had friends, I never really hung out with them unless it was at recess.
When I got to middle school, I joined a program that put you in classes a year ahead, so I never shared any classes with my friends. All my interactions with them have been through the phone since then.
I moved schools in high school, and I thought I would be successful in making new friends, but I wasn't and ended up becoming kind of depressed because of it. My grades fell. (I also have untreated ADHD so maybe that could be the reason my grades fell.) Now I'm worried about my ability to make friends in college due to my lack of experience in social situations. I'm afraid that if I don't make friends, I'll be depressed, and what's the point of going to college if you're going to fail? But at the same time, why would I give up going to college for free?
College One:
Pros: - It's a safer city. - I'm in a nice academic program, but the major isn't the best, and I'm afraid I'll have trouble finding a job. - I have full tuition covered here, plus two additional scholarships from the school. - I also have outside scholarships, making this school basically a full ride and more.
Cons: - No one I know is going to this school. I will have no friends and will have to start from scratch. - The workload would be much greater, considering the scholarships I received are academic ones. - It's also very boring. I'm not a party person, so I'd like to have some things to do around the city besides partying. - I'm afraid I'll be unhappy here.
College Two:
Pros: - I'll have friends here. I have a lot of male friends which I think would help with safety. - I also have my aunt and uncle in this city. - They have the travel abroad programs I want (which is one of my biggest dreams). - They have a program that is more tailored towards my interests. The major here is better and more broad which would help with my constantly changing interests. - There's a lot to do in the city.
Cons: - Only half to two-thirds of the cost to go here will be covered using the outside scholarships I have. - The city is not as safe. - They might force me to opt into the meal plan. (I could be full ride at this school but I'd have no money left to spare like the other school)
I'm really stuck. If you were in my shoes, which school would you pick?
It's hard because how will I ever learn to make freinds if I don't push myself out of my comfort zone? But at the same time, I feel like a need a foundation because change doesn't happen over night.

hi everyone, this may be a rant, so i apologize.
i’ve been working as a counselor at my HS for a year, working overall as a counselor for 5 years. admittedly, moving from my old MS to HS was a bit of an adjustment. 50+ 504s, college/career, making sure seniors graduate. but i worked my ass off and nearly took FMLA because of the stress (back in jan/feb — you can look at my old posts if you want more info).
as of this morning, i’ve just been notified that they will be ‘transferring’ me to a K-8 that i’ve made it clear i have no desire to work at. but i don’t really think they can technically transfer me? i didn’t sign a contract this year (none of the staff did) but i pay union dues so i’ve been looking through the ‘contract agreement’ from the union and my boss is doing /some/ of the stuff by-the-book, but in general it’s been really shady and she also ignored my email from a week ago requesting a meeting with my union reps.
i don’t really see how that’s ethical, but okay. anyway, i was wondering if anyone else had experienced this, specifically in school counseling? again, im not on a 3-year contract or anything, so i don’t really think i legally need to stick around for a job i don’t want. honestly it just feels like they’re trying to push me out.
any feedback, advice, thoughts would be great. i’m trying not to freak because of my probable job loss but i’m struggling. i WILL be meeting with my boss, the building admin, and my union reps either today or tomorrow.
tldr: my boss is trying to transfer me to a different grade level, but i don’t think i’m legally obligated to stick around. has this happened to anyone else?

Hello,
I am not sure if this is the correct subreddit
Me (24M) and my ex-girlfriend(22F) met in high school while living with our parents, and it was the first serious relationship either one of us has had. Right now we both still live with our parents and are working to complete college. As of the time she broke up with me, we had been together for just under 7 years. We began dating when both of us were under 18 (17 and 15). We have been long distance for the duration of our relationship except for a brief 2 month period when she tried moving in with me. About 3 weeks ago I asked her if she would be ready for me to move in with her (her family had offered to let me move in with them a few times over the past couple of years, but the timing is right now because I am about to finish school). One day after this conversation and without any other warning, she broke up with me and initially wanted to go no contact, but we are still talking and getting closure on the relationship. She told me the reason for the breakup was she has had several doubts and concerns over the course of the relationship and not enough of them improved to the point where she wanted to continue. Most of these doubts have either never really been mentioned to me aside from in passing, or have been mentioned seriously one time about a year ago when she broke up with me citing the same doubts but decided to give it another chance. She said that the main reason why she didn't mention these doubts on an ongoing basis was to see how I would change naturally and without her input, but I think it is unfair to have so many doubts go for such a long time without a chance to talk about them. She worries that too much damage has been done and that she could not trust me again. She also worries about whether we are compatible with some of the doubts relating to small things like daily interactions.
Less than 2 weeks after the breakup she is already seeing somebody new, after saying that she would want to wait 3-6 months before trying to see anybody else or trying to get back together. I know that this is all totally her choice to do, but it really feels like she is rushing and not thinking about things clearly. She told me that she is able to move on so quickly because she mourned our relationship during our previous breakup about a year ago that lasted for a couple of days, and never fully regained the trust required for a successful relationship which is why she's moving on so quickly.
As much as I would like to keep fighting for the relationship to work, she thinks too much damage over too long of a period of time to try and continue at this point. For our current conversations, she has been in closure and move on mode where I was initially in the mode of trying to understand her reasons, then bargaining mode, and now I'm finally in a closure as of these past couple of days. She seems to be pulling away very fast, at first not much changed, but within the last week she has turned off location sharing, unshared her calendar, and just last night she deleted all of our saved message history on snapchat.
She had mentioned going no contact and blocking me during the first time she spoke to me about this breakup, but now is not sure and wants to wait and see how she is feeling and how the closure conversations go. I may have made a mistake during our last closure talk a couple of days ago when I asked her if there is anything that she hasn't forgiven me for, or what I have done that has hurt her the most and that seemed to dig up a lot of emotions (understandably so).
I recognize that I was never a perfect partner, and I have struggled with my own mental health issues. I always loved her but after these closure talks I can honestly say that I understand how so many of my behaviors have caused her hurt. I was going to include the list of doubts and everything that contributed to them, but I decided that would make the post unnecessarily long. Generally, the doubts and concerns stem from my mental health issues causing me to not treat her properly, general immaturity on my part, and events occurring during and after the 2 month period where she moved in with me. She showed up at my house practically unannounced saying that she was going to move in with me after she got in an argument with her family, without any prior conversation with me about it and during a time that I was not ready for her to move in with me. She had just begun a medication that seriously threw off her hormones and caused her major mood swings. The beginning of her moving in was decent, but after she started physically and emotionally distancing herself from me while getting closer with my family members, I asked her to go home. We did fully speak about this time period until she broke up with me about a year ago, the extent of the conversation at that point was me telling her that it felt like she was emotionally abusing me, which shook both of us enough that we never finished the conversation and did not discuss it further until starting 3 weeks ago with the recent breakup. This trip occurred right after she turned 18 while I was 20, and she told me that she fully intended to stay with me from that point on.
As a side note, right after the initial breakup conversation I began writing a list of all of the relationship issues that I could think of, and all of the doubts that she told me. For both of these, I wrote down ways that I contributed to or caused hurt to her and have been working through the list acknowledging and apologizing for the behaviors in our closure talks. Initially, she seemed interested in hearing out all that I had to say, along with occasionally watching a movie together and playing video games maybe once or twice a week.
Where we currently are:
We currently have another closure talk (phone call) planned for Thursday. We haven't spoken since she deleted our message history from snapchat. In the last closure talk, she said that she wanted to focus on the big and important items from my list and that at this point she does not want to talk about the smaller topics I thought of.
Here are my questions:

1. What is the best way to move on from where we are that minimizes further damages, puts her in a position to heal, and hopefully does not result in me getting blocked or her going no contact?
2. It feels like she is pulling away hard and heading to no contact. Should I tell her that I am done with the closure talks to speed that up, or is it worth continuing to talk while she is willing to?
3. Please provide any other generally helpful advice or ideas for this situation. This is my first breakup and I really don't know what I'm doing.

TL;DR
Girlfriend broke up with me after a relationship of almost 7 years, due to a list of doubts and concerns she had that she is now sharing with me. I am currently wondering how to best proceed without causing more damage and leaving the door open for hopefully staying friends into the future.

We have been married for 12 years, and have two kids under 6. We struggled to have kids and had to do IVF (lots of hormones for my wife). I understand that this will cause hormone changes at first (I was a ICU RN for years) and cause depression and mood swings. When we had our kids I didn't push the intimacy subject for a year, if she said no I respected that as I figured with baby and hormones she just isn't ready.
I/We are very active for our family. We share cleaning and other household chores equally. I help get kids ready for bed and ready in the mornings. Help them with reading, take them on trips, and active in helping with appointments when needed. We go on family vacations a couple times a year. I changed my profession so I can be flexible with my hours so I can be home when they are and every weekend. She is a teacher so summer times are awesome because we get to spend more time together. We are both healthy and physically active and work out daily.
Now it has been over three years since our last child. I feel like she cringes when I give her a hug, try to kiss her its just get it over with type of situation, and the few times we have had sex she says things like make it quick or no extra touching. We were pretty sexually active prior to kids. I have tried to talk to her about this and how I feel intimacy is important in our marriage. I know it doesn't need to be every night for hours on end but a few times a month over a few times a year would help. I believe intimacy is an important part of a relationship. Which doesn't mean just sex, I am ok with cuddling on the couch watching a TV show, long hugs, and even a passionate kiss every once in awhile, which she says no to every time. When I have tried to talk to her about I how I feel she does this and it makes me feel unwanted, she immediately starts yelling, tells me if I don't like it get a divorce or if it doesn't bother her then it shouldn't bother me.
I have tried also taking her on weekly dates, going places just her and me for short periods. When I set these up she always finds a reason to not want to go when the time comes. I write her love notes throughout the month, tell her I love her and think she is beautiful daily. Even say corny dad lines to her that I love her. I cook her any meal she requests (I do all the cooking and dishwashing). Try to take her to special events that are her interests. Am I wrong for feeling I'm not wanted when she turns me away when I try and plan these things? I have tried talking to her maybe she should she a counselor a few times and I get yelled at for even suggesting that. When I struggled with PTSD from my deployments (I am a veteran) I went and sought help on my own and when she felt I needed to talk to someone professionally. Any suggestions to try? I have gotten to the point where I don't even try and set up dates anymore because I get excited to go and she just changes her mind last minute. I just don't get it, she and my kids are my whole world and all I think about

Thank you to Space paladin for the canvas and u/Acceptable_Egg5560 for proofreading and critique
Content warning; Educator abuse and syrupy love
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Memory transcript: Maarchal , MESEA Astronomers. Date: [Standard Farsul calendar ] January 26th, 3667
PLUNCK
Ponthyts blue stick clattered on the board, rolling around in a circle. Before settling on three. He then pumps his paw and moves to move a soldier that many paces.
“Well, I got you cornered now, whatcha going to do about it?” I smirk at Ponthyts soon to be dashed confidence as I take out my red stick and flip in the air much higher than he did with his own.
It hits the board with a loud clatter, bouncing on each end before settling on rolling. To which it landed on seven. I move my last interceptor through his ranks and take his general. The gobsmacked look on his features was evident, with his previously wagging tail so still it made stone seem fluid.
“I win.”
“How did you do that?”
I rolled my shoulders and readjusted my legs underneath. “Well, you left a clear path for my interceptor.” I pointed to the gaps in his remaining pieces.
“I know that! I mean how did you know you'd get a high enough number to do that? Your interceptor was all the way back here and it's your last red piece!!!”
I lean my head back and lean against the wall behind me. “I didn't, I just saw an opportunity and took it.”
He pointed a digit at me “ Mershit, that was some grandmaster trap!”
I give him the ear position of resignation with a mirthful little grin. “I promise you it was just luck.”
He waves his paw dismissively. “I don't believe you.”
“Well believe it, because I don't plan ahead like that. Want to play another game?”
He shakes his head. “Nah I think four games is enough for one night.” He begins moving the pieces into their containers and folds up the board and places it on top of them. Closing the box. He then stands up and offers me his paw, I use it to pull myself up off the floor.“Well Maarchal, I’ll see you tomorrow at the observatory. I’ll bring the set if you want to play it during lunch if you want.”
I froze, “what! What time is it? He turns over to look at the clock above his strove.
“Ahh about Fifteen minutes past 18.”
“Uh, that's not that late! We could play another game! C’mon let's have a tie breaker!”
He rubs his eyes, “I’m tired and we have work in the morning. Is there something you're avoiding?”
I rub my upper right arm and look off into the corner. “...”
He took on a worried look, “Why don't you want to go home Maarchal?”
I sighed and took a seat at his dining room table. “I… I don't like that house, I’ve lived there since I moved to LIghra six years ago but it's not a… home like here.”
I looked around at the messy abode. Dirty cloaks were strewn about on the back of chairs and the rubbish trough was just barely not overflowing. Paintings either from family or Ponthyts own paw were hanged up in the hallways, and the lightbulbs cast a warm orangish light. While the dishes from our dinner were placed in the sink, covered with animal gravy slathered all over them. It was tidy yet just barely so. A place filled with all the markers of being lived in.
“You've lived here less than a year but it feels like it's always had you in it. I feel … so comfortable here. My own home is so… cold and sterile. I Worked a lot the first few months I moved here. I just never got around to making it a home. It feels so bare, I started to work overtime just to avoid it. Which just made the problem worse.”
He sat down across from me, He put his head in his paws and looked at the scratched wood of his table. He held that position for a minute or two before breaking it and placing his paw on my own. “Maarchal, you are my best friend, I want you to feel comfortable. So if you want you can sleep on my coach, I can also help you make your home feel like one."
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I shake my head, “no no, I shouldnt of imposed on you. Making myself feel at home is a job I need to do and have been avoiding for far too long. It's just… it's just so much easier to avoid you know?” I grabbed his paw and squeezed it. “I’ll see you tomorrow.”
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I stand up and make my way to his front door before he speaks up.
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“Uh hey Maarchal?”
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I turn to address him “yeah?”
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He shifts in his seat and fidgets with his fingers. “I’m uh, going to Ootra lake next week. I was wondering If you'd like… to come with me? I promise if you don't have a tent I’ll bring you one. We could have a fire, roast some meat on it and share ghost stories and stargaze… if you want?”
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“ What about work?”
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He rocks in his chair. “We'd have to call in for a day or so.”
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I contemplated his words and mulled them over. It would be the first time I’ve ever willingly taken off a day, tarnishing my perfect attendance. But the prospect of spending more one on one time with Ponthyt was overwhelmingly tempting.
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“Sure, I’d love to go. But I haven't gone camping for years so you will need to bring me a tent.”
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He leapt from his chair, launching it backwards, before calming himself down. “I’ll take care of all the prep. You just have to come along. I promise it’ll be loads of fun!”
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I chuckled while I watched his clearly restrained display as I slowly closed the door.
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I could hear him howl with enjoyment as I turned into the driveway to get to my auto.
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“Huff, Huff, you doin alright there Ponthyt?” I turned back to see him walking behind me.
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“Yeah, oof I haven't walked this much in years!”
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I waited for him to catch up, we sat together when he did and we caught our breath before tuning to make our way back up the bluff. When we reached it there was a stone gazebo made of limestone. The angle of the sun let it shine into it. We walked into it and sat down on the stone benches. I looked around at the lake.
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It was surrounded by steep hills with many rock faces visible, the layered stone was clearly visible. The topography of the area around the bluffs was shaped like a bowl, with the sight of land of higher elevation faintly visible in the distance despite its gradual slope. Giving a scene of depth that was not as extreme then in more mountainous areas. This view was normally hidden by the trees below.
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“Well isn't this view alone worth the trip?” Ponthyt proclaimed.
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I looked around letting the mid morning sun warm my back, I stretched my arms and breathed deeply. Taking in all the wonderful scents of nature.
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“Yeah, it's beautiful.” I let myself relax, just letting the sounds and scents of nature calm me like I have never been since I was a pup on an archeological trip with mom and dad.
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“Hmm, I've missed this.”
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I don't know for how long I had been like this, but Ponthyt broke the silence “Ahhem, so, you've gone camping before?”
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I nodded, “yeah when I was a pup my parents would sometimes go off to a site for a couple of weeks and we would come with them. We would have to get homeschooled then. But we would always have to camp and I and my siblings would go off exploring while they worked during the day.”
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He smiled and his tail was wagging.” That sounds wonderful. I only got to camp for a couple days a year. It was always so hectic. Me and my siblings would just muck around the camp and eat, sometimes hiking around. Heh” Ponthyt looked towards the ground and held his paws together, rubbing his digits together.
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“What's wrong Ponthyt?”
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“Oh it's nothing it's-” I put my paw on his shoulder which drew his attention towards me.
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“I know that's not true, you can trust me. Just tell me what's wrong ok?”
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He gave a look of reluctance before caving to my request “… sigh… I grew up in a big family, and I love them all but… I was born at a strange time. I was second to last of my parents pups. Which meant they were busy with the older ones' events and taking care of the youngest. I kind of got mixed up and forgotten. My interests rarely lined up with the others and I often messed up tasks that my sibling would just fix or do for me. It got to the point that I… didn't really do anything. They will never say this but… I don't think my parents ever expected anything of me.”
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I rub his shoulder,” well… I know that you have amounted to something. I mean, you're an astronomer! You work to understand the nature of reality. You're also so… kind and patient. I tried to scare you off but you weren't deterred at my standoffish behavior.”
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He turned his head and gave me a shallow but joyous expression. “Heh well living in a house that's rarely quiet leaves you with a high tolerance for stubbornness. '' he wipes away a single tear “Sniff well… should we make our way back to camp? Or can I take out my stuff?”
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I shake my head. ”Nah, you can paint. I’ll just sit here and let this place wash over me.”
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He smiles and gets up and sets up his easel, taking out his supplies from his bag and gets to work painting the landscape ahead of him. He was slow and each brushstroke was as deliberate as he could manage. He… wasn't very good, only starting out when he moved here. But his drive to get better was admirable. Even in adulthood he tried to learn, to grow, to become more than he was yesterday.
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I kept staring at him. Feeling something warm in my gut, something an academic wasn't supposed to feel. Shame overwhelmed me and I quickly turned away. Cursing myself for having those accursed feelings.
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Ponthyt, returned from his cauto (Cargo auto -> pickup truck) with an armful of wood he brought with us. He set most of it aside and threw a piece onto the fire he had started, causing a cascade of embers to fly into the late evening air. The dull purple of the sky cast overhead between the canopy of the trees as the chill of the night began to come in. A pleasant coolness that most would take advantage of to seek the comfort of warming oneself close to a fire.
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Not me, I paced to a fro as Ponthyt set up our campsite. He had placed his painting for the day inside the cabin of his cautoa and was now seasoning some raw meat strips to cook on the open fire. Snacking on one or two as he did so. He hung them on the tripod to roast, the fat that dripped off them as they were cooking sizzled as they burned on the coals below.
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“I’ll have these done as soon as I can, please sit down Maarchal. Walking like that is only going to make the wait worse.” He says as he prods the suspended meat with a claw like utensil.
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“Hmm, ok I’ll just sit and wait. Waste my time. Make a waste of the whole evening!!!” I snapped back at him, throwing my paws into the air.
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Ponthyt recoils from my outburst with his ears pinned back. “ We’re camping, there is no way to waste it.”
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I turned to address him, “we shouldn't be here! This trip means nothing and we are just wasting our TIME!!!” I cross my arms and scratch at the biceps. Rufflying the fur and making a mess of myself.
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Ponthyt drops his utensil and walks over to me. “ We’re together and we spent the whole day just mucking about. How is this any more of a waste than that?” He says as he looks at me with eyes full of worry.
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“We’re scientists, academics!!! We don't waste time like the ignorant masses! We should spend our time wisely!!! Every action of connection is just another moment we waste that could be spent to advance our field.” I had tears forming in the corners of my eyes. Scratching at my fur until I felt a wetness on my arms and paws.
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“We’re supposed to sharpen our minds! No-not seek pointless relationships! ” I said as I bared my teeth and began growling at him.
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The look of betrayal and abject worry he had on his face was overwhelming. I didn't want to hurt him. What am I doing? He doesn't deserve my ire. My legs gave out and I cried into my hands.
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Ponthyt walked over to his cauto and brought out a cover. He wrapped it around me and rubbed my arms through it. He rested his head on top of mine while I sobbed. I couldn't take this anymore. Repressing and lashing out at any attempt to connect. Ponthyt hugged me and rocked back and forth. Humming and rubbing on the cover. He was warm and soft. I don't know how long we had been like this but by the time my sobs turned to a faint whine the meat over the fire was well done and the sky was pure black and the stars were out.
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“I-I think i’m good no-now.” I choked out. Ponthyt grabbed my hand and helped me stand up. We didn't say another word. He collects the meat and places it on two plates. I stare at my portion for some time, Ponthyt doesn't eat any of his either.
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“Sigh… I know you might not want to but… Could you tell me why you said those things earlier?” He says with trepidation clearly miring his words.
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“Yeah, it's just… When I entered college It was… not what I was expecting… I was sort of a hyper teen. Always going off about some book I read. Drawing pictures of stars, space stations or colonies we would make on inhospitable planets.”
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He sits up and places his plate by his side. “You draw? I’d love to see some of them.”
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“I used to. But I haven't since that first year of college.” I turned to stare at the dying inferno warming us. I pull the cover around me tighter.
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“When I was doodling before class one day the professor walked by me. He noticed what I was doing and grabbed my paper. I objected but he just stared at me. When he started to address the class he showed it off and mocked me for wasting my time.” Ponthyt turns his head to look at me.
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“That's a dick move, But at least he couldn't do the same when you did it in your free time right?” I turned to him with a somber expression. He seemed to understand the implications though he seemed to be confused as to how.
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“He couldn't have gotten into your room right? That'd be a huge breach of privacy!!!”
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I grabbed the poker and stirred the coals of the fire. “You're right, he couldn't. But he didn't need to, my roommate would take them with her to class and he’d pin them up on the board to mock. I called the staff but since she was my roommate she didn't break any privacy laws and since my art was only ever worth the paper it was on it wasn't even enough to get a misdemeanor theft charge. I tried to hide it but she would always find them. I tried to get another roommate but he stonewalled my attempts and I couldn't afford to rent a place in town. ”
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He took on a look of absolute despair. “... How… how could he be so aggressively intolerant of such an innocent hobby?”
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I chuckled “It wasn't just mine, a few others had made the mistake of having a roommate with the same professor. I remembered one who loved going out in the woods for hikes. When he found out about that he mocked him for “Pointless exercise and admiring a random assemble of dead and dying shit””. I waved my arms about to emphasize how he inflicted his words.
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Ponthyt stared at the ground between us with a look of utter confusion.” … He mocked someone for appreciating nature and being healthy?”
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I nodded, “if you were not engaging with study of his topic you were wasting his and everyone else's time.”
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Ponthyt looks at me with concern and shared pain. “Why, why didn't you go to a different school?”
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I stared at him in his eyes. A scene of shame overtook me. “It was the top class in the country. My family was so proud of me. I was so proud of myself, I didn't want to disappoint them and me. Looking back on it, I realize my own pride was something I rarely contended with until then. It didn't help when he found out who my family was.”
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Ponthyt recoiled and waved his arms in a “what” fashion. “Wait, what does your family have to do with this?”
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I poked at a log to knock off the charcoal to expose the untouched wood underneath. “They were happy. He spent a lot of time in academic circles so naturally he met people who knew my parents. And the way they described this happy family irritated him something fierce. He gave me such a hard time with it. Mocking me for being a lazy nepotism pick who didn't deserve her seat in his class. He mocked anyone for having any kind of non professional relationship, we never spoke to each other outside of class. We never left or met with friends or family. If we tried too he’d find out and call the one in question a “Lazy sentimental idiot.””
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I breathed in deeply, “... that hurt my pride so severely that I just stopped seeing them or any of my friends. I always said I was busy or had a field study, but I was just reading and rereading his lectures. I didn't even go home for the summer breaks, I just apprenticeshiped at his museum to study even more. At graduation he looked so… proud, I only realized he was proud of what he turned me into and not what I did a few weeks after I met you. How I let him turn me into an angry starile shell of a person.”
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Ponthyt turned his head towards the fire. His ears straight up and a soft growl in his throat. “... If I ever meet that piece of.. nuclear waste, I’ll kill him.”
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He turns to me and his features soften immediately. “Anyone capable of manipulating someone as passionate and creative as you... I can't even imagine the kind of living hell he made you seek…”
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I chucked and a slight wag entered my tail.” I’m responsible for my life. MY pride kept me there for him to mold. I hate him, but I hate myself for it too.”
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Ponthyt shoots up and screams at me “MERSHIT, Maarchal, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You had a right to expect your teachers to be respectable people. Not abusive and manipulative Sherkires (Ambush insect. Commonly seen as sneaky and unhonorable due to making pheromones and calls imitating other insects mating signals). He starts to speak softer as he turners to address me.
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“Even this version of you, so cut off of why you love space in the first place is just.. You are one of the most remarkable people I have ever met. So humble with addressing yourself. You inspire me to be a tenth of the person you are.” He kneels in front of me and grabs my paws in his own.
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“You are… you are so passionate, so creative. Even with being a self described shell. I can't even imagine how you will be when you open up again and explore your creativity in full and banish that monster's influence for good.”
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I turn and I can't help but smile at his words.”... I haven't been in practice in years. But … I’m willing to relearn it with you.” I stared deeply in his eyes and that feeling again bubbles within me. The feeling of never wanting to leave his side, the feeling as though I found a piece I had been missing. Before I knew it I bit on his snout, recoiling when I realized what I had done.
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‘I-I’m so sorry!!! You were just so close and and I felt something and before I knew it-” I was caught off guard when he bit my snout, holding my top jaw between his own set. I bit down on his lower jaw and we locked together. He tried to let go after a while. But I growled to let him know I wasn't ready yet and I used my leverage to lead him into my tent.
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**\*
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I got up and exited my tent. I stood up and stretched and twisted my back around. Lifting my arms above my head and pulling them as far out as I could. I looked at the coals still burning in our firepit, I could only tell they were burning from the heat going off of them as the glow was hidden by the sun's light. Before noticing the meat Ponthyt prepared last night still on the plates on the log we sat on.
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“Pff, hey Ponthyt. Come out here!!!” I said behind me. He crawled out my tent with a head of messy fur.
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“Wut ?” He said with half closed eyes and a disposition of utter exhaustion . I pointed to the cold meat. He still had a look of drowsiness before he realized what the significance of the strange strips were.
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“Heh, I guess we won't need to make breakfast?” I chuckled as I sat down and hugged his head. I groomed his messy fur as I absorbed the morning sun. I don't know what the future of my career looked like anymore. But it was no longer the most important thing in my life. I loved space, I loved to learn. But In these years I had lost track of what was truly important. As I groomed him Ponthyt fell asleep with his head in my lap.
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As I felt the joy of reciprocal love again for the first time in years I leaned back and watched the sunrise, caressing my love's head and breathing in the fresh air.
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I am currently in school to get my bachelor's in creative writing. I've started writing a book and I am a couple of chapters in but between work and school I have very little energy to actually work on my own project. I have watched other writers discuss in interviews how they were able to finish their first books while they were still in college. I feel like I'm letting myself down as a writer and I feel like I have such little left in the tank. Did anyone else go through this in school or is this just a sign that I'm not cut out for it?

Writing a post about what strongly seems like a scam ( I don’t want to say it’s a scam for legal reasons but…) I am seeing a lot of my CS peers fall for this on linkedIn and I wanted to warn others to be weary.
The company goes by the name of Radical AI and was ALLEGEDLY (more on this below) founded by
Joseph F. Krause, LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephfkrause/
&&
Jorge Colindres, Linkedin:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jcolindres/
&&
Gerbrand Ceder:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gerbrand-ceder-9b1b5721/
This the company website:
https://lab.radicalai.app/
company linked in page:
https://www.linkedin.com/company/radicalai-li/about/
Job postings on their website (all unpaid):
https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/ai-engineer
https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/software-engineer https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/ai-product-manager
https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/ai-product-designer
Here is a LinkedIn job posting for an intern position (unpaid of course):
https://www.linkedin.com/jobs/view/ai-engineer-intern-at-radical-ai-3921496808/
Allegedly claim to be a part of radical ventures which are a legit business:
https://radical.vc/teams/
But not listed as part of Radical Venture's companies:
https://radical.getro.com/companies
One of the "cofounders" of RadicalAI (Joseph F. Krause) posted this:
link to post: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7193987173241520129/
"
Big update: I have co-founded a new company with Jorge Colindres and Gerbrand Ceder that is changing the way materials are designed, developed, and discovered through the integration of artificial intelligence, engineering, materials science, and applied research. Jorge and I bring deep expertise in materials science, engineering, and building technical teams, and Gerd is world-renowned for his pioneering research in high-throughput computational materials design, and in the development of autonomous labs for materials discovery. Radical’s goal is to build self-driving labs: from AI-generated materials to autonomous, high-throughput experimentation.
We are thrilled to be supported by Kevin Ryan and the AlleyCorp team, who bring world-class experience in starting, building, and investing in startups. We incubated Radical AI at AlleyCorp, and are excited to remain in their portfolio.
We are hiring: if you work at the intersection of machine learning and materials science, please reach out.
“
Interesting 😒 that they created this company recently but so did another guy: Talha Sabri (more him below) several years prior.
It seems this company use to go by the name of RadicalX but they became known for their scam and had to rebrand with new faces as the CEO. Here are some posts on the original company:
Here’s a post talking about how they used to be Radical x: https://www.reddit.com/csMajors/comments/1cno28c/radical_ai/
Some past reddit posts discussing RadicalX:
https://www.reddit.com/nyu/comments/wuclrb/what_is_radicalx/
https://www.reddit.com/csMajors/comments/1856knw/radicalx/
https://www.reddit.com/webdev/comments/17akjvh/wtf_has_this_ever_happened_to_you/
The radicalX CEO: Talha Sabri (typing out names so that if someone googles any of them, they see this post and are aware)
Seems to work with:
Areeb Tariq
Ines Prates
Yunus Jamal
some info I found on Talha: https://theorg.com/org/radicalx/org-chart/talha-sabri
AND Here is his linked in with RadicalAI as his job Listing himself as chairman and CEO: https://www.linkedin.com/in/talhasabri/
Interesting that Joseph, Jorge, and Gerbrand claim they started the company yet Talha also started it 7 years ago…. and yes it is the same company Talhas page links to the same company page as Joseph and Jorge. They have the same logo and they use the same shitty AI art (you would think 7 years would give them more time to better their blender skills).
Note that Talha continues to say he works there, but he also now works at a new company RealityAI. I’m guessing now Talha felt the need to expand his scamming under the name RealityAI. I don’t know if we will be seeing unpaid job postings for reality or if it is the final product under a different name so that people who will use the service will not know its background.
Here is Reality AI’s website: https://www.realityai.tech/
(Notice the same art as RadicalAI)
Also I found this. But, I am nsure if it has anything to do with any of this: https://listingspy.net/token/0x8b762ca4746b342d131b64670a3a3a866326fb46/
In conclusion, this honestly all seems really scammy and predatory. A friend told me they are promising visa’s and college credit to foreign workers/ students, I don’t know if they are actually going through with it, but if they aren’t it is extremely messed up and all of these people should be black listed.
As an aside i found this comment in another post about radicalx and thought it was good advice to keep this in mind
Taken from a comment by u/beginning-comedian-2:
Red flags in job interviews (and sometimes dating):

• They ask you to send money.
• They won't talk on the phone.
• They are very interested but never want to meet you.
• They require a 2-day take-home assignment before they'll get on the phone.
• "We're a fast-paced shop." (meaning you'll be working all hours.)
• When you ask what they like about working there, they say "the insurance".
• They want to pay you all in stock.
• All the devs have been there less than a year.
• Beds in the office.
• When you talk to ex-employees and they start with "It might be different now, but when I was there..."
• They say, "We're like family" (meaning, we'll likely expect more from you than 9-5 work.)
• "We often buy dinner for everyone as a perk." = you'll be working late.

Writing a post about what strongly seems like a scam ( I don’t want to say it’s a scam for legal reasons but…) I am seeing a lot of my CS peers fall for this on linkedIn and I wanted to warn others to be weary.
The company goes by the name of Radical AI and was ALLEGEDLY (more on this below) founded by
Joseph F. Krause, LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephfkrause/
&&
Jorge Colindres, Linkedin:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jcolindres/
&&
Gerbrand Ceder:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gerbrand-ceder-9b1b5721/
This the company website:
https://lab.radicalai.app/
company linked in page:
https://www.linkedin.com/company/radicalai-li/about/
Job postings on their website (all unpaid):
https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/ai-engineer
https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/software-engineer https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/ai-product-manager
https://lab.radicalai.app/careers/ai-product-designer
Here is a LinkedIn job posting for an intern position (unpaid of course):
https://www.linkedin.com/jobs/view/ai-engineer-intern-at-radical-ai-3921496808/
Allegedly claim to be a part of radical ventures which are a legit business:
https://radical.vc/teams/
But not listed as part of Radical Venture's companies:
https://radical.getro.com/companies
One of the "cofounders" of RadicalAI (Joseph F. Krause) posted this:
link to post: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7193987173241520129/
"
Big update: I have co-founded a new company with Jorge Colindres and Gerbrand Ceder that is changing the way materials are designed, developed, and discovered through the integration of artificial intelligence, engineering, materials science, and applied research. Jorge and I bring deep expertise in materials science, engineering, and building technical teams, and Gerd is world-renowned for his pioneering research in high-throughput computational materials design, and in the development of autonomous labs for materials discovery. Radical’s goal is to build self-driving labs: from AI-generated materials to autonomous, high-throughput experimentation.
We are thrilled to be supported by Kevin Ryan and the AlleyCorp team, who bring world-class experience in starting, building, and investing in startups. We incubated Radical AI at AlleyCorp, and are excited to remain in their portfolio.
We are hiring: if you work at the intersection of machine learning and materials science, please reach out.
“
Interesting 😒 that they created this company recently but so did another guy: Talha Sabri (more him below) several years prior.
It seems this company use to go by the name of RadicalX but they became known for their scam and had to rebrand with new faces as the CEO. Here are some posts on the original company:
Here’s a post talking about how they used to be Radical x: https://www.reddit.com/csMajors/comments/1cno28c/radical_ai/
Some past reddit posts discussing RadicalX:
https://www.reddit.com/nyu/comments/wuclrb/what_is_radicalx/
https://www.reddit.com/csMajors/comments/1856knw/radicalx/
https://www.reddit.com/webdev/comments/17akjvh/wtf_has_this_ever_happened_to_you/
The radicalX CEO: Talha Sabri (typing out names so that if someone googles any of them, they see this post and are aware)
Seems to work with:
Areeb Tariq
Ines Prates
Yunus Jamal
some info I found on Talha: https://theorg.com/org/radicalx/org-chart/talha-sabri
AND Here is his linked in with RadicalAI as his job Listing himself as chairman and CEO: https://www.linkedin.com/in/talhasabri/
Interesting that Joseph, Jorge, and Gerbrand claim they started the company yet Talha also started it 7 years ago…. and yes it is the same company Talhas page links to the same company page as Joseph and Jorge. They have the same logo and they use the same shitty AI art (you would think 7 years would give them more time to better their blender skills).
Note that Talha continues to say he works there, but he also now works at a new company RealityAI. I’m guessing now Talha felt the need to expand his scamming under the name RealityAI. I don’t know if we will be seeing unpaid job postings for reality or if it is the final product under a different name so that people who will use the service will not know its background.
Here is Reality AI’s website: https://www.realityai.tech/
(Notice the same art as RadicalAI)
Also I found this. But, I am nsure if it has anything to do with any of this: https://listingspy.net/token/0x8b762ca4746b342d131b64670a3a3a866326fb46/
In conclusion, this honestly all seems really scammy and predatory. A friend told me they are promising visa’s and college credit to foreign workers/ students, I don’t know if they are actually going through with it, but if they aren’t it is extremely messed up and all of these people should be black listed.
As an aside i found this comment in another post about radicalx and thought it was good advice to keep this in mind
Taken from a comment by u/beginning-comedian-2:
Red flags in job interviews (and sometimes dating):

• They ask you to send money.
• They won't talk on the phone.
• They are very interested but never want to meet you.
• They require a 2-day take-home assignment before they'll get on the phone.
• "We're a fast-paced shop." (meaning you'll be working all hours.)
• When you ask what they like about working there, they say "the insurance".
• They want to pay you all in stock.
• All the devs have been there less than a year.
• Beds in the office.
• When you talk to ex-employees and they start with "It might be different now, but when I was there..."
• They say, "We're like family" (meaning, we'll likely expect more from you than 9-5 work.)
• "We often buy dinner for everyone as a perk." = you'll be working late.

Warning: profanity and descriptions of verbal abuse.
About five days ago now I (33F) made the decision to go no contact with my younger sister (30F). For the sake of this post, I’ll call her Amy.
Our parents say that Amy and I were really close when we were little. That it was common for them to go wake us up and find that Amy had snuck into my room and into my bed to snuggle with me at some point in the night. They said she looked up to me and that when our youngest sister (currently 27) was born that she was always at my elbow watching how I did things with the baby and then copying it. This is how things went for years.
Sometime around when I was 10, and Amy was 7, things started to change. She’d get mouthy and act out with any provocation or none at all. To the rest of the world she was a nice, normal kid but at home the mask came off. What started as annoying became a hassle became a nightmare as the years went by. My parents tried to address and correct her behavior at first but got worn down over time until my dad just avoided involvement whenever possible and my mom leaned more toward pacifying and damage control.
It’s no surprise that Amy and I’s relationship changed with me not really wanting to spend time with her that wasn’t mandated by our mom and things got worse as I entered my teen years and didn’t wanna play and hang out with my kid sisters, in general. I think it was around that time that she started getting mean and nasty. It wasn’t unusual for her to say things like “I hate you”, “I don’t love you” and whatever but she started getting cutthroat. She’d aim for whatever she thought would hurt you the most. She’d call you a bitch, a cunt (still one of her favs), say you’re stupid, worthless, a piece of shit, that no one likes you that they’re lying to you, that you’ll die miserable and alone, etc etc etc. She’d rant on and on for as long as she could keep the insults flowing. She’d also twist her version of events just enough to make herself look the victim. She had her door taken away several times cuz she kept slamming it. My poor mom took the brunt of Amy for years as that’s where she tended to point her poison and is still the one Amy targets the most.
Thankfully college brought me new friends, some of which also had complicated family relationships, and they helped me grow a back bone and taught me about boundaries and more. Amy was always nice when she wanted things from you but would turn ugly if you said no. Even if you agreed to help her, it wouldn’t stop her being nasty for some other reason. That behavior was where I drew my first boundary. “You can’t ask me for help and then be a dick to me. Do that and my help ends immediately.” Took a few times for the message to sink in, but it did. It was business as usual any normal time but she learned to be on good behavior while she was receiving help from me.
This pattern of verbal abuse, her blocking people for however long until she needed something, and her general unpleasantness pretty much continued as we went into our adult lives and she moved a few hundred miles away. When she was planning her wedding, we were threatened with having our invites rescinded constantly no matter if the topic had to do with the wedding or not. Now that she had a kid, continued access to said kid is the go-to ultimatum criteria for every occasion. Our parents have said that they’re afraid of letting themselves be too open to bond with her kid out of fear that they would grow that bond and then Amy would one day make good on her threats.
The kid is actually what brings us around to the breaking point. I had a kid of my own not long before she did so she bombarded me with questions and wants for advice all through her pregnancy. I’m not exaggerating when I say it was damn near daily. It got to the point I snapped at her that Google is a thing that exists and so is her doctor. Ask them. That got me yelled at and blocked for a while but silence was sweet. The questions continued after her kid was born but at least not as goddamned always.
A couple days ago, Amy started drama with the whole family centered around a crib our parents had set up for whenever the grandbabies come over. Amy demanded that our parents buy a brand new crib and that they had to do it by a certain date or she was never coming to visit and our parents would never see her kid again. She tried getting me on her side about it, tried to say she wasn’t demanding or giving ultimatums, and tried to read me the text she sent that started all this but I’d already seen the text and knew she was lying. She unleashed at me when I called her out before hanging up on me and sending a text saying that I was an “ignorant bitch” and “a shit fucking mother” and somehow there it was, the last straw.
I’m a shit mother? So that’s why my child is consistently meeting and even exceeding developmental milestones? Why the child care staff gush and say what a joy my child is? I’m so shit at being a mother that she made me her nearly exclusive source of parenting info?
After venting to my husband for a bit, I called my parents and youngest sister and told them what happened and what I’d decided to do about it. My mom tried to talk me out of it, saying it was just gonna set her off, but I reminded her that it’s not our responsibility to manage Amy’s actions and emotions. That’s her job and the entire reason why we are where we’re at.
I waited until the next day to write my response and then sent this:
“Amy,
I didn’t respond last night because I was tired of dealing with everything and wanted to make sure I did respond from a place that was more clear headed. I’m not surprised that you lashed out at me last night. It’s expected, it’s what you do. I don’t care that you called me a bitch. I don’t even care that you called me ignorant. What crossed the line for me was your attack on my motherhood. You aimed to hurt, as you always do with these attacks, so you went for what you thought would cut the deepest. Unfortunately for you, I know I’m a good mom. I see that truth in the beautiful, confident, intelligent, loving little kid I’m raising. I’ve seen it in the months of your pregnancy when you came to me with questions almost daily and in the months that followed when you’d have a question about once a week. I know I’m a good mom, and so do you, which is why your attack missed its target and hit an entirely different one. This behavior of lashing out at the smallest provocation and in the harshest most cutting way you can devise will not be something I continue to tolerate. It was unacceptable when we were kids and it’s even more unacceptable now as a grown adult. I don’t know why you think its ok to act this way. I don’t speak for the whole family, but for me and my family, there’s now going to be changes where you’re concerned. For the foreseeable future, you’re blocked. I will not give you the privilege of being in my life when you can’t be respectful. If you would like that privilege restored, and to have the opportunity for us to have a relationship again, then I need to see evidence that you are making the effort to manage negative emotions in a healthy and mature manner. How you go about that is your choice. My personal recommendation is that you start with how you treat the rest of our family.”
She’s been surprisingly quiet since then and my youngest sister says it might be that Amy blocked me and my message wasn’t delivered, but that’ll change at some point and I’ve told them they can forward my message along if it comes up.
I’m very much enjoying my new peace even if I also feel like I’m mourning the loss of my sister. I do love her. We were close once and she could actually be pretty caring and decent when she wasn’t being a raging bitch. I can only hope this is a wake up call for her.