I have active prescriptions for branded and even have 2 boxes in my fridge and due to refill one this week and I’m just tempted to say it screw it and stick with compounded because it’s less stressful, less driving (only pharmacies getting Zepbound consistently are an hour away) and $150 cheaper a month for me since i pay $550 with savings card.
It’s weird because i had amazing success my first two months starting on compound locally. Got the branded and went with that now, and I’m ready to just go back to compounded. Did a month of red rock as an extra supplement in case of shortage.
I’m also finding it weird I’m hesitating to just go all in with compounded. I know it works and is the same product yet the Zepbound Reddit and FB groups have like tainted my mind making me question it. I swear i need to rip the bandaid off it’s way more peaceful in compound land and folks are losing weight and just happy. (But according to folks on here we are injecting water apparently lol)

So I've made plenty of mistakes for my recent breakup that happened over two months ago. I'm a lot more composed and still a bit sad it happened but I wanted everyone to know my story. I met my ex gf in December 2022, we started off as friends for a week and then we both realized that we liked each other, I want to add that she and I both had a bit of mental health issues, she was a little bit more concerning with hers. I asked her to be my girlfriend on the 14th of December and that's where we started off. The first two months of the relationship were great, we had so much fun hanging out and talking to each other, I knew she was the person (at the time) that I wanted to be with. After February of 2023, her first episode kicked in. I've never dealt with someone that had an episode to that extent so I was confused and started to tell her she was amazing and loved etc, come to find out that she was on a withdrawal from her medication.
Anyways, she would have frequent episodes after this one but most of them came from being treated badly by people and I was able to usually help her through them and motivate her and tell her I was there for her. We went on a trip together in July and that was the first time that I've ever done that with a loved one same as her and it made me so happy to do that with someone. She had a couple of episodes before the trip but I was able to convince her that it would be fun and she would have a good time, to which we did. After the trip we got into our first argument and it was about spending time together, we ended up making up fairly easily and went on with our relationship. Things were good until the middle of January, I ended up getting a bit jealous about her relationship with her friend that I thought she didn't want to spend anymore time with me anymore. I ended up overreacting and starting something that ended up causing her stress for the rest of the relationship most likely. Also come to add we tried a break in November but we ended up ending the break the next day and looking back at it we should've made it longer or I would not be in this predicament at the moment. The break was because she felt lost and didn't know her true self anymore and I could see it was getting to her. Eventually we got to February again and the arguments started to die down and we had one last one on the 29th of February. This was the last major argument we had and I quickly apologized and said I was in the wrong. We ended up lasting until the 12th of March and it seemed like the relationship was going up but I was wrong. According to her everyone made her lose herself, I'm talking friends, family, me etc. And I understood and tried so hard to help her but she said she wanted to be alone to which I tried to give her space.
We ended up breaking up through her Mom and I understood but tried to fix it immediately but tried way too hard to get her back and ended up getting threatened with a block. I left her alone for about a month and seemed to be doing better and thinking she was working on herself same as me. I texted her to let her know I was sending her stuff back and she seemed to be in a warm state of mind so I left it at that. Eventually I tried to ask her for closure and she said she didn't want to talk, I explained that all she had to do was tell me if it was me that caused her to be this way or not and that I would leave her alone. She ended up reiterating that it was everyone. This happened last week. I ended up accepting and leaving her alone and also telling her the door was open if she wants to come back. I ended up getting blocked everywhere from FB to Snap and realized how much I should've given her space. That's my mistake and I understand now lmao. But that's where I stand today, someone who is blocked on everything and is utterly confused as to what happened. As far as I am concerned it was a blindside and she's been in this depressive state for months and didn't want to be in a relationship because of it. I understand that she tried to stay for me but it got way too hard for her to do that. And I understand why she blocked me, I just wish she communicated a little better. I'm not gonna hold a grudge because I equally fucked up the situation just as much as she did but I also understand I was pushing too hard for answers I may never get. Hopefully one day she does realize that I had all the right intentions and did love her very much but I can't hold out for hope for someone right now. If its meant to be it will be, and I hope she finds happiness whether that's with me or not. I wish I was able to see her grow and succeed but as of right now that's not a possibility. I tried my hardest and that's what matters, and I'm glad to know I was the very first one to treat her nice and to treat her with respect. I hope she doesn't forget me but in a good way. Thank you for reading my story and hopefully I'm in a better place in 6 months.

A little background - fiancée and I are an older couple. This will be his 3rd and my 2nd marriage. We have an amazing, fun relationship and even though we’re a little older, we have a range of friends from late 20’s through 70’s. He wanted to just elope and I would have been okay with that, but my daughter (23) has been socially awkward her entire life but seemed really excited about the wedding and like she’d want to be a part of it. So I asked my partner if we could have a small gathering of family and friends (less than 100) and do something simple like a picnic type event. He said yes and agreed we’d have my daughter as MOH and 2 of my friends (really his friends) as bridesmaids. That was perfect.
But then he asked if his 2 adult daughters could be bridesmaids also and I agreed. One of them is local and the other lives 4 hours out of state. Long story short, I am completely stressed:

1. I have had to pay for a weekend bachelorette gathering and asked that each attending chip in $25 (that wouldn’t even cover 1/2). So far one person has paid me and it’s next weekend. Bridesmaids (all but my daughter) have made suggestions for things THEY want to do, not me. None of them have much money which I understand, so I am also paying for a tarot reader as part of this 2 day event and haven’t asked anyone to pay anything. I would have been happy with one night of drinking at our house and call it a day. Now I am $700 in so they can get away for a weekend but now are all saying they don’t know if they can do both days.
   
2. Bridesmaids ignore texts and refuse to commit to any planning. The daughter from out of state who has known about this bachelorette party for 2 months now didn’t bother to request time off of work so now won’t be there for the bachelorette party. She “just learned this” the other day, she says.
   
3. Same two daughters of fiancé have 2 boys that will be our ring bearers and have known which outfits to order for them for months now but still haven’t ordered their clothes! Similarly, the guys in the bridal party are just now ordering their outfits (the wedding is in 3 weeks). I also paid for both daughter’s dresses and jewelry. Their only expense so far has been a pair of shoes.
   

5, Other than offering to lend me crock pots for the big day, no one in the bridal party but my daughter and my sister (who is officiating) has offered or asked if we need any help.

1. I sent out invitations at the end of April via FB and just sent a reminder the other day asking people to let us know if their plans have changed. Several people have now said sorry we can’t make it now. WTH? It infuriates me that people who I thought were our friends apparently have so little opinion of us that they can’t honor a commitment to share a few hours of 1 day with us? It makes me sad because I’ve now wasted money and time planning on people who said they would be there now saying they won’t be.

I know that I should just take a deep breath and be grateful for my wonderful fiance and the people who are stepping up, but man it just feels like crap when people who are supposed to be close to you and who are family, can’t even bother to plan ahead to be a part of this special time with us.

Hello Redditors,
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Average Order Value: $350
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Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
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So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
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Thankyou For Reading!

Hi, not sure how to approach this so any help would be appreciated. My husband and I welcomed our first child in March of this year, which was the first grandbaby on his side of the family. Fast forward to May, his youngest sister announced her pregnancy. I’m happy for her, she struggled with fertility issues and has wanted this a long time. However, here’s some backstory that’s led me to asking for advice… It is his step sister, when his dad remarried - my husband was an absolute afterthought and was always put last to his step siblings. When she got married last year, we could not attend. We did not have the finances to board our animals, take a flight across country, pay for a bnb, etc. and we were blocked on fb and contact was dropped over it. She then apologized and we forgave her, as wedding planning can be stressful as is - I always give people the benefit of the doubt and took it with a grain of salt. I announced my pregnancy last year a couple months after she was married, same response. She dropped contact with us for a few weeks then sent me a text claiming she was just upset it wasn’t her who was pregnant, and her and her husband had been trying for awhile now. I forgave, again. Things have been okay since, but now that she’s pregnant I feel as if our child is being pushed aside and already forgotten about. I only say that because she sent me her registry asking for advice and opinions, as I am scrolling I see a onesie on the registry that says “first grandbaby”. It’s super hurtful, because I don’t want my child left in the dust but I also don’t want to word things wrong and take away from her excitement. I didn’t say anything about it yet, as I am not sure how to approach it without the typical block and terminate communication action that has been portrayed time and time again but my heart is hurting.

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/lolfuckno.
This post was originally posted to weddingshaming.
There was already a BoRU post by u/autochthonouschimera, which didn't include the last update yet.
TRIGGER WARNING: cheating, child neglect, extreme entitledness, talk of abortion
MOOD SPOILERS: infuriating, confusing, frustrating
The new update at the bottom of this post has been marked with --- ---
Original story was posted on December 7, 2021
Okay, so this girl I know from high school is getting married. We're both 22, for reference. In our senior year of high school she got pregnant, with baby daddy A who will be referred to as Adam. Her super conservative parents kicked her out and she ended up moving in with a friend's family. She barely graduated high school. The only reason she did were because of the generosity and support of our teachers and students who volunteered to help her, which is how we met. We were in the same law class in the morning and she had the worst morning sickness that really affected her ability to be in class. So, I took extra notes for her, tutored her, and brought her her stuff if she hadn't come back by the bell. I wasn't the only one who did stuff like this for her and I know she really appreciates all the assistance we gave her. She had the baby a month after we graduated.
She'd signed up for a 911 dispatcher course for after high school because where we live it's a good steady job, with opportunity for certificates and promotions. But she didn't realize how intensive the course would be and had to drop out. She started working at a grocery store bakery, just until she had a better plan. Adam started an apprenticeship while working part time at a hockey rink, and proposed to her literally the day of her eighteenth birthday, and brought up marriage because "it's the right thing to do" (I don't really agree with that but this isn't about me) and she was always refusing.
She started cheating on him after a while (we're all 19 now), and eventually leaves him for another guy because... She's pregnant again and it is far more likely that this guy, baby daddy B who will be referred to as Brad, is the father of the child. Neither of them can afford lawyers so getting any kind of custody agreement is a mess, and then their parents got involved and they did 50/50 split (still not made official). She has the baby, that does turn out to be Brad's, and everything is okay for about nine months, when she finds out Brad has been cheating on her with his TA. Brad decides to pay child support but doesn't really want contact with the kid, only around holidays and one weekend a month for his parents' sake.
She moves back in with her parents (we're all 20 now) who only accept her back because there's grandchildren around. On the plus side, (when she's 21) she gets to take that year long dispatcher course, and passes with flying colours!
After working as a dispatcher for a year (we're all 22 now) she meets a police officer we'll call Chad, who's 26 and married... And Adam's second (?) cousin (I can't remember how they're related, just that Adam and Chad are related somewhat distantly). She has an affair with him (infidelity is super common among cops apparently). She gets knocked up, his wife divorces him, Chad proposes because "it's the right thing to do", she accepts, and her parents kick her out again for being a [insert expletive here], she moves in with Chad with her two kids. They've started planning the wedding, which... Given the background is something akin to a dumpster fire. Adam is LIVID. He was desperately in love with this girl and hasn't really recovered from what she did to him, and while she rejected his proposals years ago, she's accepted one FROM HIS COUSIN WHO PROPSED FOR THE SAME REASON HE DID.
Adam has basically made a call for loyalty in the family, dividing everyone one who should go, who should give money, etc plus they're having trouble planning anything because of COVID. Her parents have outright said that they're not going, along with half of her family, and her younger sister has been going around and sabotaging what plans they can make.
She has asked me to be a bridesmaid, I said that I couldn't because I live in a different province now, but the truth is, I do not want to be wrapped up in that clusterfuck in any way . I'm just watching the arguments and events unfold on social media because this is quite honestly the most entertaining thing I've seen all year. It's weird to me that she even asked because we're not friends, we never have been. We were friendly strangers in high school, I just helped her out for one class because she needed help and I could give it to her. I was just being nice. But based on how she turned out I'm just sad for her. Three kids in four years, and she's alienated so much of her friends and family because if her actions, and I'm torn between feeling sorry for her and putting my head in my hands.
EDIT 1:
First off, all of your comments are hilarious. Second, I'm going to answer some of the common questions.
We're from a city with over 400,000 thousand people, she just comes from the neighbourhood that is made of either bible thumpers or white trash, with no in between. But the high school we went to was in a completely different neighbourhood than that.
Our school had a pretty good sex Ed course, and they gave out free condoms and had resources to help girls get birth control, and they had programs in place for if students ever got pregnant/were going to be teen parents (they also had one of those classes with the dolls for girls who were high risk at teen pregnancy but she wasn't high risk so she wasn't in that class) I don't if BC just didn't work for her, or if she never tried it.
She started alienating her friends after the affair with Chad came out, because people weren't exactly jumping for joy that she'd broken up a marriage (Chad and his ex didn't have any kids, thankfully, so there were less obstacles). When people weren't immediately ecstatic for her she started getting very snippy, rude, and was "calling the bitches out" on social media for not supporting her new relationship or pregnancy. (Tbh I'm really worried about her health because having this many babies so close together is just not good for her health, mental or physical.) People are also worried that Chad will cheat on her "if he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you" and think she should avoid marrying him so that she can just leave him if it happens.
I'll give you updates as they come out, but so far it's just a lot of yelling on social media (mostly from her), some relatives slut shaming her, and people who are just really worried about her because, as funny as this is, this doesn't seem like healthy behaviour.
EDIT 2:
First off, I realized I never gave this girl a name. For the sake of clarity we'll call her Beth. I realize that I didn't mention this before, but all of these are fake names.
Second, to everyone commenting that Chad is at fault for his marriage breaking up, believe me I'm well aware of that. It is his ex wife and her family/friends who solely blame Beth. Chad is also older than her and has more life experience, so I do believe that he could potentially be taking advantage of her naivete. However, she is also an adult who is capable of making her own decisions and has chosen to make poor ones in the past.
Third, people who are upset that I'm posting this story here, claiming I'm humiliating her. She has been posting about this mess on every social media platform she has since they got engaged in July. She put this out there long before I did except she did so in front of friends, family, employers, and coworkers, as well as internet randos.
Fourth, despite getting engaged in July and attempting to start planning then, I was only asked to be a bridesmaid three days ago. I knew that there was a mess going on but I didn't really pay attention to it until she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I tried to ask what was going on, I said that she should talk to someone, but when she completely brushed me off I checked her FB and Instagram and found out about all of... This.
Fifth, I realized that I didn't really talk about how disastrous the wedding planning has been going, see here you go:

• they've had to rebook three times because venues and vendors kept cancelling when infection numbers got worse even thought their wedding was months away
• Beth has been flipping between having the wedding while she's pregnant saying she's proud of her bump, and wanting to wait until they're born because she feels fat, which is unfortunate because she's been breaking down due her insecurity on a public platform
• Beth is currently seven months pregnant
• Beth's great aunt was going to give her her wedding dress to wear (after she gives birth) but Beth's mom freaked and stole the dress from said aunt before Beth could get it and is now keeping it, the great aunt says she's too old to get in a fight and has shrugged it off
• Chad's immediate family is paying for the wedding and has been cut off by the rest of their extended family for 'choosing Chad'
• Beth's wedding colours are pink and green, which is usually a nice combo but the specific shades don't go great together, they're her and Chad's favourite colours, which is fine but she literally made a video talking about these colours for 14 minutes on her insta and both of her kids are just full on bawling in the background and she's ignoring them and she's gotten some flack for that
• Adam is finally settled into his trade and has now hired a lawyer and is trying to get primary custody and not allow his daughter to go to the wedding
• she's planning a zoom baby showebachelorette party and has sent out a registry and she's asking for crazy expensive things
• she's also set up a go fund me to help pay for a honeymoon and is making a lot of posts about how no one loves her cause the fund only has $1267 of the $20k she wanted

I'll update when I can but I'm still in school and while I do want to help her, she's refused help offered in the past and there's only so much of this I can take mentally right now.
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UPDATE:
Hey everyone, so some stuff has gone down, and it doesn't look like it's over yet. Sorry, I didn't update sooner, but Rona came back with a vengeance and totally messed up plans with uni and family. Anyway, onto the update.
From the last update - 16th - Lots of ranting and chaotic wedding planning on social media, she found a dress and has decided she will get married while pregnant, they found a local wedding venue that is very lovely, but I'm shocked she's still trying to book stuff with all of their previous venue cancellations.
December 16th - Her little sister unblocked her to call her a s*ut and tell her that all her wedding plans were stupid. This resulted in a petty and entertaining facebook war until the little sis blocked her again on the 17th.
December 18th - Beth went nuts on social media because Adam had "kidnapped" their daughter, what really happened is that because courts are moving at a snail's pace due to COVID and Adam had reason to believe that their daughter was not safe living with Beth he decided to just... Not give her back. They don't have a custody agreement, and when Beth tried to call the cops they couldn't do anything because he was kinda right. There were dozens of videos on her various social media accounts of her ignoring their daughter, yelling at her daughter for crying or doing other things that toddlers do, it turns out that everything she needed was bought by Adam, food, diapers, clothes, toys, daycare (while it was open) etc. on top of the unofficial child support he was paying every month (which turned out to be $500 a month, a number I find ridiculous because Adam was already paying for literally everything) because she refused to buy anything for her daughter and insisted it was Adam's responsibility. Additionally, after the immediate post-birth appointments, Beth never took baby A to a doctor's appointment, she always deferred that to Adam. Baby A's pediatrician has NEVER met Beth. Beth even tried to get Chad to push back or intimidate him or something, but the local police where we live are under one hell of a microscope after a bunch of dirty cops got busted a couple of years ago. Basically, the cops, and the social worker they ended up calling, ended up saying there was nothing she could do until they get to court. The social worker tried to get her to go to therapy and parenting classes, but Beth refused and went on a fifteen paragraph long rant on Facebook about how she doesn't need parenting classes or therapy (she really, really does though) and called the social worker some choice words.
December 19-24 - Just a bunch of ranting on social media, calling everyone who doesn't enable or justify her behaviour cuss words, slurs, and a whole bunch of other horribly creative things. Also, both she and Chad are under investigation at work now, but she has no idea why. I'm gonna take this time to remind everyone that 99% of this info is coming from her public social media pages where her coworkers are friends and place of employment is listed.
December 25 - I am officially embarrassed to know this woman. I didn't go on her FB page until the evening cause I didn't want to deal with drama, first thing in the morning, on Xmas. In the morning she put on a very beautiful blue maternity dress, got Chad in his police blues, and baby B in a purple romper, and then live-streamed her and her family going to the courthouse to get married on Christmas day. (According to her Twitter, part of this was because their newest venue cancelled on them after COVID numbers spiked) Overall, a pretty tacky thing in my opinion because she stated plain as day, several times, that she intended her wedding anniversary to eclipse Christmas for her children because it's just "so much more special, you know?" (I am so glad that Baby B's grandparents are filing for guardianship) But here's the thing... The courthouse isn't open. Because of COVID for one thing, but also because it's Xmas and Canada has a predominantly Christian history. She proceeded to have a full meltdown, and when Baby B cried because, y'know, the kid's mom was screaming up a storm and scaring her, Beth called her a c*nt. Yup. So done with this bitch.
December 28 - I ran into her at a vaccine clinic cause we were both getting our booster shots. She didn't recognize me at first but one of my old bosses (cause I used to work at the hospital the vaccine clinic was in) called my name and said hi, so she came up to me after my old boss had left. We talked a bit while we sat down for the mandatory waiting period after getting the shot. She asked how I was but didn't even wait for me to respond before she started ranting and complaining about her life. I was just going to sit there until the time was up and then just politely make my exit, but when she started talking shit about her kids something inside me snapped. I just said "Do you even like your kids? Do you like being a mom?" She got pretty quiet for a second and then said "no". Idk, her voice and demeanour completely changed and we just sat in silence until our time was up. I said goodbye but it was really awkward.
December 31st (today) - I just looked at her feed and, this is such a shocking what-the-actual-f*** moment. She's thinking about giving up her kids. She went on about how recently she was asked if she liked her kids or being a mom, and how she realized that she didn't. She hates her children and blames them for ruining her life, and how she doesn't want to be a mom. I mean, nothing is official yet, but what the hell?!
I'll update as stuff happens now that I have the time, but this whole thing has been a big giant mess. Also, sorry for any formatting or grammatical errors, I'm not used to using Reddit on my PC.
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UPDATE
Okay, so, some stuff has happened and most of it's good? Also, the TL:DR for this update will be at the bottom
Jan 4th - Beth (and Chad) stopped posting on all social media. I was actually a little worried she died, I mean this woman posts everything short of her trips to the bathroom on IG.
Oddly enough, this got people messaging or interacting with her social media pages because she was usually the one to start contact, and that contact was usually yelling. No one heard from them and some people started to be like "should we call the cops for a wellness check?" Until Chad posted a status saying that they're fine but are "busy, please stop trying to contact us right now". Everyone listened but it was weird.
Jan 11 - I got a notification that Beth and Chad are active on social media again, but I didn't feel like drama so I didn't check out any of their posts.
Jan 12 (today) - she messaged me on FB asking me to be her MOH. She also kept going on about the resort in Cancun that she and Chad were looking to have their wedding at... This coming February. Omnicrom is really bad where we are, so no one should be travelling anywhere. I've actually had to delay my trip back to the province where I go to university. No one should be travelling anywhere.
Beth also found out that Chad was cheating on her with one of her co-workers and called the woman a "homewrecker" on FB tagged her, and posted the texts she found on Chad's phone. But Chad is the "love of her life" so she's forgiven him, but not the other woman. Which I find very hypocritical, considering how she and Chad got together.
She also sent pics of possible bridesmaid dresses and they are the most hideous dresses I've ever seen. I know that some brides do that thing where they want to look a million times better by comparison but this was just ridiculous. One of them looked like a partially deflated balloon with feathers strapped to it. She also openly admitted that she expected everyone attending to pay 3k, 2k would go towards that guest's stay at the resort and 1k would go to her and Chad and they will expected wedding gifts, so that they could get their room for free. Apparently, she talked to someone at the resort and if she got enough people to book their rooms she and Chad would get theirs for free. She also wanted the money to be given to her instead of directly to the hotel so that people wouldn't realize that she was taking 1k of their money. Beth sent me a pic of the wedding dress she wanted, and it's definitely a clubbing dress. If that's what she wants that's fine (and for the record I do think she would look great in it, Beth's (current) dream wedding dress ) but she wants all the guests to be dressed black tie. And she's already sent a list of unreasonable requests. Such as;

• all women must wear heels (for a wedding in the beach???)
• no one is allowed to have a baby or be pregnant (really?)
• girls must have longer than shoulder length hair, boys must have very short hair, only and inch or two long
• no one is allowed to be skinnier than her
• she will be providing diets for everyone attending based on how she wants us to look
• she and Chad must get bachelor and bachelorette parties both in Canada and in Mexico that need to be "fit for a king and queen" and both must be paid for but anyone but the bride and groom "cause that's just tacky"
• no unnatural hair
• no tattoos (you have five tattoos, Beth, and in the dress you want all will be on full display)
• no one is allowed to talk to her directly, they must speak through the MOH and BM

Honestly there's a lot more but I didn't feel like typing all that out. She's posted the list on FB and IG and people are already calling her a bridezilla.
I was also just kinda weirded out because aside from the previous convo at the hospital and when she originally asked me to be a bridesmaid, we haven't spoken since high school. So I respectfully declined, stating that the virus and school were my top concerns right now. Then, I decided to check her socials to see if she'd posted anything. She had and everything was basically how it was before the hiatus... Except her kids are nowhere to be found. No "look at my cute baby" pics are kids crying in the background of her videos. Nothing. Though, based on her new pics of herself, she's given birth to baby C. I mean, she's definitely still recovering, but she also definitely had a baby and that baby is not on any of her socials, so when she responded to my decline with an attempt at guilting me to be her MOH, I asked her where her kids were. This was her response.
"Oh, I left them at the side of the road in our way home from the hospital those moochers could walk home lol"
I was like, please tell me you're not being serious (especially cause it looks like she had the baby days ago). And she replied "I was just joking you shouldn't be so serious all the time". Honey, you made a joke about child abandonment/abuse, you're not being serious enough. And then I finally got the update on the kids.

• Baby A is still with Adam, Beth signed away her rights
• Baby B and Baby C have been given to a mutual cousin of Adam and Chad who is infertile (tbh I didn't need that last tidbit of info or the three paragraph long rant about how God hates infertile women, I didn't even read all of it, I couldn't, and I didn't think that Beth could be so cruel to even think those things). I checked out the FB page of Baby B's grandparents and they're happy with their grandchild's new parents, it looks like the cousin and her husband and welcoming them to the family as another set of grandparents and will let them have access to B. So yay!
• One thing I do need to stress though is that because of COVID the courts in our areas are either moving at a snail's pace or closed, so none of this is "official" but Beth (and Chad) has signed paperwork and all that needs to happen now is presenting that to a judge.

And when I rejoined our convo she said the doc she had for baby C gave her brith control, and she was surprised cause after her first pregnancy she asked her doctor for it but he refused to give her any. She mentioned that her old doctor was also her mom's and sister's doctor, she ended up asking the doc who delivered baby C to be her new doctor, so I hope that works out.
After learning all this my convo with Beth started to go down hill...
Beth: wait, did you actually think I would just leave my kids at the side of the road! I just didn't want to be a mom, but I wasn't a bad one
Me: Beth, I think that you've been through a lot of trauma in the past few years, and that it's gotten to you mentally and that you should speak to a professional.
(Of course, Beth has been a bad mom, but she does need mental health help and I wasn't going to convince her to get it, or to not tell at me, if I said that )
Beth: what? You think I'm crazy?!
Me: no. I think that getting kicked out as a teen because of a pregnancy and having your family actively reject you and try to sabotage you must have been very painful. Plus, pregnancy puts a lot of mental stress on women and you've had three in such a short time span, I just want you to take care of yourself and get what you want in life, and I think that will start with you taking care of your mental health.
Beth: what I want... IS FOR YOU TO GO STRAIGHT TO HELL! Beth then calls me every cuss word, expletive, and derogatory word she can think of one of the words she called me was a derogatory word about people from my ethnicity and my blood is boiling that she thought it was okay to say that to me.
So, I'm now on her hit list. She's been blowing up my social media all day, on her last FB post where she called me a slur she said that she still expects a good wedding gift from me. Yeah, no. So I've blocked her on everything, and I've decided to completely cut off contact. This will be my last update.
TL:DR - Beth went on a social media blackout for a bit, had baby C. Gave up all her kids, baby A is still with Adam, Baby B and Baby C are with a mutual cousin of Adam and Chad and baby B's grandparents have access. Chad cheated on her and she forgave him, but she probably shouldn't have. She's decided to have her wedding in a little over a month in Cancun and is expecting unreasonable things of everyone already. She asked me to be MOH I respectfully declined. I also suggested that she talk to a mental health professional because she's been through a lot in the last few years and she cussed me out, she also called me a derogatory name directed at people of my ethnicity and that was the final nail in the coffin. I'm now on her hit list. But her kids are safe and I have no interest in going to wedding so I'm cutting contact completely and have already blocked her on all my socials. I'm refusing to be involved with her anymore and will not be updating on the situation.
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--- EDIT - NEW UPDATE --- - JANUARY 25, 2023 - TL:DR AT THE BOTTOM
Hi, everyone, I didn't think I would be making another update, but here I am. I don't know if anyone will even care but whatever. I saw a YouTuber, Charlotte Dobre, do an entire video about this post on Facebook (which was funny, she did it well), [editor's note: here's the video in question and also: check out Charlotte Dobre's subreddit !] and got so nervous that Beth was gonna see it. Turned out, she's seen it and does not give a single damn, because as I pointed out, the majority of the info in this post came from her public social media. She also doesn't know who posted it (more on that in the update). I am still no contact with Beth and have no plans to change that anytime soon, but we have mutual friends who have told and shown me what's happened.
First things first, she and Chad did get married, but they eloped. According to all sources they are completely and utterly miserable though. Chad has proven to be and overall lazy and unfaithful husband, and Beth has really gotten into feminism (with a focus on reproductive issues) after she started using birth control, and Roe v Wade getting overturned (even though we're in Canada) really caused tension in their marriage. As it turns out, Chad thinks that abortion is murder and God created women for the purpose of making babies.
Beth tried to argue that not all women want or should be mothers using herself as an example, and then Chad went ahead and used her as an example of why women should be forced to have kids, because in the end she gave kids to an infertile couple. She didn't take that well and said that her entire life and future was ripped away from her and destroyed the second she got pregnant with baby A. Adam was never slut shamed or demeaned like she was, both at home and at school (which is a fair point, myself and many others were helpful and supportive but there were a lot of people who judged the hell out of her and said really nasty stuff) and that if she hadn't gotten pregnant she would've gone to college or university because she lost the general and financial support of her family with that positive pregnancy test. Chad has made a Tinder account. Beth was informed but it doesn't seem like she gave a damn.
So basically you could cut the tension with a knife.
And with her family, her sister came out as gay and cut off/has been cut off from their parents. But she's got a partial scholarship so she's doing okay. She and Beth are NOT on good terms but have met up and acknowledged that their parents messed them up by being religious nuts and their parents encouraged them to be competitive with each other and sabotage each other. Apparently their dad's motto is "competition brings out the best in everyone" (ugh). But they've talked and that's good enough for now.
Neither Beth nor Chad have custody or visitation of their children, which Chad is starting to regret because he's suddenly getting more and more into the church and religion. Chad talked to Beth about getting baby C back but Beth shut that down hard and warned the cousin who adopted baby C (officially and legally btw).
Beth started going to therapy after she and Chad got married, which makes me very happy and excited for her.
There was a rumour going around that Chad has a mistress and it took me a while to confirm, but it's true. He's cheating on her with a paramedic and she knows. Beth is fully aware. Idk if she plans to do anything about it or just continue to ignore it, but I hope she leaves his ass. I'm still not gonna talk to her, she crossed so many lines, but she's grown and improved a lot and her life would be a lot better without that sac of scum in her life.
Now, I have given a few details in my post that should've revealed my identity to her, namely her asking me to be her MOH. I have found out that she actually asked around 15 girls (including myself) to be her MOH, without telling any of us about the others because she was trying to get money from all of us and because her mental health has just been very bad and she needed help. And of those 15, 8 have been going to school out of province and of those eight we all had basically the same classes in high school. And apparently doesn't remember our discussion at the vaccination clinic and had major blow up with everyone she asked to be MOH. So she knows it's one of 8 people and reportedly has no interest in trying to narrow that number down. (Chad did the same thing with his groomsmen, but idk any of the numbers)
TL:DR Beth and Chad got married (eloped), are miserable, have zero custody or visitation with any of their children, Chad's cheating and Beth doesn't appear to care, Chad is super sexist, Beth is a feminist now, Beth's sister is gay and they've talked but not reconciled, Beth asked too many girls to be MOH for money and doesn't know the ID of who made this post.
Dear "Beth", if this post gets forwarded to you or somehow graces your phone screen, leave Chad. He's trash and you'll be much better without him in your life. And though I'm not willing to talk to you again because of your words and actions, I do wish for you to have a wonderful and happy life.
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May mga tao talagang garapal noh? Like wala talaga silang kahihiyan kung anong ginawa nila sa isang tao, ung tipong asal squammy na sila pero they just can't reflect on their actions. Ganito kasi yun, yung ate ko has been in a relationship with someone for almost 17 years and dito nakatira yung babae from 2009 until 2021. Ang kwento ng live in partner ng ate ko kaya sya umalis dun sa tinitirhan nya sa bulacan kasi muntikan na syang i-grape nung bayaw nya (ewan ko kung legit na muntikan na syang ma-grape kasi HINDI naman sya nagreport sa pulis that time basta nalang sya nagpaalam sa nanay ko na if pwede daw ba syang makitira dito sa bahay namin kahit pansamantala lang hanggang maayos lang daw nya yung issue nya sa ate nya at kapag nakapag usap usap na sila ng pamilya nya regarding sa nangyari. Dahil nga maawain yung nanay ko at bukas naman syang tumulong dun sa jowa ng ate ko edi pinatira nalang nya.
Fastforward, after several years, napapansin namin na parang kalaunan nagiging "feeling anak" na si live in partner ng ate ko, alam mo yung feeling close na to the point na lahat ng matters dito sa bahay nakekealam sya, nadidisrespect nya na si mama, pero kahit ganun ginawa nya di sya pinaalis dito sa bahay kasi ang iniisip ng nanay ko "baka kaya ganyan ung ugali kasi literal na parang pinabayaan na ng pamilya nya, intindihin nalang kasi mahal yan ng ate mo". Eto kami si puro intindi ang ginawa, to the point na nilalait nya na pati ako kung anu anong sinasabi ng bruha lalo na kapag nalalasing sya, at parang naging parang pipe at sunud-sunuran yung ate ko sa mga pinagagagawa nya (LITERAL na BULAG sa pagibig) kalaunan, yung galit na pinoproject nila sa akin naging mas grabe, everytime na nalalasing silang dalawa ako yung pulutan na kesyo "bakit pa pinag aral ni mother yang kapatid mo sa private eh maglalandi at mag aasawa lang naman din yan". Sa almost everyday na panglalait nila sakin hindi ako lumaban, hindi ako nakipagsagutan sa kanila kasi that time natatakot ako e, pag nagsusumbong ako sa nanay ko wala naman din nagiging resolution kasi kapag pinagsasabihan sila ni mama, lalo lang lumalala kasi si girl is magaling "magpavictim" at "mag twist ng kwento" kapag kino confront na sya.
Hindi ko alam kung saan nanggagaling yung galit ng ate ko at nung jowa nya kasi pinakitaan ko naman sila nang maayos, Oo may instance na may mga pinag awayan kami nung 2013 pero sila naman nag umpisa nun, ginulpi pa nga ako ng ate ko para dun imagine 14 years old gugulpihin dahil lng hindi nasunod yung inutos na balatan yung nilagang talong, samantalang wala naman silang ginagawa during that time kundi maglaklakan. Dati kaming close ng ate ko pero dahil ginagatungan at sinusulsulan ng karelasyon nya naging sobrang layo na ng gap naming magkapatid. Simula 2013 hanggang ngayon hindi ko na kinakausap yung ate ko, ewan parang naumay na din ako kasi naaalala ko lang yung pangbubully, emotional abuse, verbal abuse.
Hindi ako lumaban sa kanila until nung April 2021, nagkaroon ng gulo dito sa bahay, ALAM NYO BA KUNG SINONG CAUSE? Syempre yung jowa ng ate ko, dahil lang sa aso, pinagbintangan na nila yung 5 years old kong pamangkin na "baka sipain yung aso" nila kaya ayun nagkarambulan na dito sa bahay nag away yung kuya ko at yung ate ko at nauwi pa sa baranggayan. Dahil sa instance na yun tuluyan nang nagkalamat yung relasyon bilang magkapatid ng kuya ko at ate ko dati-dati kasi close sila e may times din na mas kinakampihan ng kuya ko yung ate ko, alam mo yung tipong sanggang dikit sila sa pambubully sakin hahahaha ang ending silang dalawa din mag aaway dahil Lang sa sulsul na jowa ng ate ko. Ayun na nga dahil nga involve na yung minor kong pamangkin na pinabintangan nila na baka sipain yung aso nila, dun na ako sumabog at binulalas ko na yung galit ko sa knla, pati yung hipag ko na matagal nang nagtimpi at nakisama sa knila nang maayos sumabog na din (kasi nga pinagbintangan yung anak nya na baka sipain yung aso, hello 5 yrs old lang pamangkin ko at naka monitor naman ung hipag ko sa bata at di naman tanga ung hipag ko pra kunsintihin ung anak na sipain ung aso)
Fast forward na nga eto na kumapit ka... Dahil nga sa kahihiyan (pero i doubt na meron sila nun) nag alsabalutan ung ate ko at yung jowa nyang bruha sa bahay, like literal na naghakot sila ng mga gamit nila siguro mga one week or two weeks after nung away nila ni kuya. Naghanap sila ng apartment na mga tatlong kanto lang halos ung layo mula sa bahay namin. Ayun na nga nung umalis sila, life must go on kami alam mo ung parang nakahinga kami ng maluwag kasi nawala ung toxic dito sa bahay. Akala namin okay ung relasyon nila kasi diba nakabukod na sila, akala namin literal na through thick and thin ung relasyon nila kasi kayang kaya ngang kalimutan at abandonahin ng ate ko ung pamilya nya para sa babaeng yun e pero akala lang pala namin yun pero nabalitaan nalang namin na si bruha iniwan na si ate sa apartment nila at sumama sa ibang tibo (kasamahan ata sa trabaho ni bruha yung shibuli na pinalit nya sa ate ko) as per sa kwento ng ate ko kay mama, iniwan daw sya ni bruha sa paupahan kasi nagkakaroon na sila ng financial issues or sguro sa dami ng utang ni bruha like home credit at credit card kaya nagkakaroon sila ng issue sa pera. Kaya sguro ang ending imbes na kaharapin ni bruha ung mga pinagkakautangan nya sumama nalang sya sa ibang tibo na akala nyang mas may pera o mas capable na magprovide sa kanya ng mga luho nya. Nalaman na rin namin na may karelasyon ng iba si bruha nung inistalk namin ung fb nya, proud na proud sila nung shibuli eh todo flex sila sa social media (malas nya di nya ako nablock sa fb) ung iba kong kamag anak lang ata naka block sa knya nun kaya di sila aware na may ibang jowa na si gurl. After nga nun mga bandang February 2023 umuwi na yung ate ko sa bahay kasi pinakiusapan nya si mama at nangako sya na tinapos na nya yung relasyon nila ni bruha dahil nga niloko sya at pinagpalit sa ibang shibuli. Pero dahil medyo shunga at puro alak nalang laman ng utak ng ate ko, konting iyak lang sa knya nung ex nyang haliparot binalikan nya na ung babae,na kesyo binubugbog daw at inaaway sya ng pinalit nyang tibo,masyado daw selosa at isip bata ung tibo na pinalit nya pati daw ung nanay nung shibuli is minamaltrato na din sya (classic pavictim style) ayun ang ending konting paawa lang, binalikan ulit ng ate ko ung babae, naging sila ulit at andito nanaman si gurl sa bahay na parang wala syang inagrabyado hahahaha alam mo yung tipong parang hindi sya nagrereflect sa actions nya, na tipong lahat ng tao need mag adjust sa knya kesyo "inaatake ng anxiety" ayan dinadahilan ni ate kesyo na trauma daw si gaga dun sa shibuli,ganyan sinabi nyang dahilan nun nung nag away kami ng ate ko kesyo "ina anxiety daw" kaya daw dapat hindi daw dapat ini-stress hahahaha taena bakit kami mag aadjust sa shota mong anak ni lucifer? Like wtf? Nasa mid 30's na yang shota mong usemanipulative b!*ch pero hindi mo maiwan para sa ano? Nanghihinayang kang iwan kasi may pinagsamahan na kayo?. Taena sana malaman ng ate ko na sobrang tanga nya sa part na yon, sasamahan lang naman sya ng babae na yan depende sa pakinabang sa knya e, sasamahan lang sya sa laklakan, sasamahan lang sya nyan sa paglulustay or pagwawaldas ng pera, sasamahan lang sya sa kadramahan (trauma plus trauma = drama & chaos) ni pagiging anak mo kay mama sinasantabi mo na pra sa babaeng yan samantalang si mama natatakbuhan mo kapag may problema ka specifically nung naospital ka, nung wala kang trabaho, nung pandemic na wala kang maayos na hanap buhay, nung nagkaproblema ka sa mata mo, nung wala kang pang requirements nung nag aapply ka, diba si mama yun lahat? Anong natulong ng karelasyon mong manggagamit? WALA! Kung meron man, di ganun kagrabe compare sa sakripisyo ni mama. Tapos sasabihin mong mismong pamilya mo yung nag cacause sayo ng stress??? hahahaha kaloka ewan sana hanggang pagtanda nyo damayan ka nyan, sana lang di ka nya ulit iwanan, sana lang di ka nyan ulit traydorin, sana lahat ng sakripisyo mo para sknya suklian nya lahat balang araw kasi for sure kaming pamilya mo mismo malayo na malayo na loob sayo kapag dumating na yung time na yon, kaya magipon ka ng pera para sa pagtanda mo, wala na din kaming ganang umalalay sayo after all the sh!ts na dinanas namin sayo/sainyo at sa mga kasinungalingan mo.
Sa mga nakakabasa neto, sana wag dumating sa punto na magpapakatanga kayo pra sa pagibig, sana wag dumating yung time na yung kakayahan nyong magisip at desisyon nang tama ay ma-cloud ng pagmamahal nyo para sa tao. Dahil it is never our duty na maging "rehab" "therapist" dhil may mga taong beyond repair, ika nga, we deserve what we tolerate. It is never my intention to judge someone based on their gender preferences. May mga kaibigan din akong part ng LGBTQIA and di nila deserve ma discriminate. Pero galit ako dun sa pagiging masokista ng ate ko, alam mo yung kahit sinaktan na sya at niloko pagbibigyan nya padin ng chance. Kahit inaabuso na sya nung bruha is G lang sya palagi, laging naka "Yes Master". Wala e sguro talagang karma na nila yung isa't isa, ang masama lang dun is nakaka agrabayado na din.
Pasensya na sa magulong istorya hahahaa eto Lang nakayanan ko hanggang ngayon gigil ako sa jowa ng ate ko gusto ko syang tirisin nang buhay pero bakit nga naman ako bababa masyado sa level nya, eh kakalait nya sakin, kakasilip nya masyado sa buhay ko, hindi rin naman sya umasenso 😂 ok bye 😅

Hi guys just need some advice or suggestions on how to move forward with my life. Here is a background of my story:
I, 27(F), met this guy 51(M) on the last week of may 2022, it was supposed to be just a hookup or one night thing but we really vibe with each other so by my 26th bday oct 2022 we both decided to be exclusive to each other. Btw he is anulled but he has 2 kids thats why keep what we had with the both of us. We helped and support each other goals to be successful. He basically helped me or guide me to become a better person. I developed feelings for him and he knows it but he said he wasnt ready to commit because he thinks having a gf at this time when his kids are not yet finished in their studies, cant help him focus on his work and i respected that. So I also answered na im not also ready because i havent finished pa my undergraduate studies and i want na people will see me that may value ako and because of age gap namin i also dont want na people will say im after his money. So we continue being exclusive, around july 2023 a business idea came to our minds to open a coffee kiosk. He asked me to do formulations but to my surprise he decided na lang to franchise a coffe kiosk. He opened his coffee kiosk last oct 2023, he was so immersed in his cafe and he had less time to spend with me, i understand his situation, but im still there whenever he needs a break from his stressful and also i supported his business by buying and posting it on social media. By Dec 2023 i also decided to open my coffee kiosk but with my own formulation with the help of my cousin for financial assistance. Even though we were both busy we still find time to be together. My business was doing great (until now) but his coffee kiosk wasnt doing so well, so around third week of jan 2024, he offered me to buy one of his kiosk but the payments for it are playable when able for me. So I agreed to get one of the kiosk when he closes it on march. Fast forward, on feb 9, after we did the deed he told me that he has now a gf who is in Australia. Upon hearing that i felt like my world just shattered cuz imagine, im there the whole time waiting lng na labelan ako but here comes a girl they met online and he decided na sila dahil same age. Even tho yun nangyari he said he still wanna be friends with me and you know do the deed since di pa naman sila nagkita personal. Siyempre as marupok i agree cuz deep down love ko pa rin siya. As days go by it was hard ang convos namin are so different na like may tarayan if thats the correct term basta away bati kmi after we do a deed. Nung march kinuha ko na yung kiosk niya even though we are not in good terms pero para sa business ill swallow it. Fast forward, umabot na ko sa point na pagod na ako mag understand and adjust for him thats why i said to myself once he goes to Australia im gonna go no contact sa kanya but ill still pay whst i owe him via bank deposit. Ill just treat him nicely before he goes. Finally nung thursday may 10 he went to Australia, he blocked me on everything but i ended up seeing his soc med by making a dummy acct. He doesnt post the girl but i know they are together(i can see the shadows na may kasama siya) and it just hurts me knowing that he is happy with another girl. So guys any advice kung paano ako makamove on, tinatry ko naman na not to see his fb post but tempting talaga...

I (32M) met this girl (29F) a couple of months ago through Hinge. Let’s call us John and Stacy. We hit it off really well and had some commonalities. After a few weeks of us dating, I had to travel for work and I asked her if she wanted to come with so that we could enjoy the beach. She accepted so that was cool.
When we got to the airport I ran into an old friend of mine. She used to work for the same company as me and we had become friends after she had left to pursue something else. It had been a few years since I hadn’t seen her so we started catching up since we were both traveling to the same city. I tried to get Stacy involved in the conversation and introduced them. We then had to board so Stacy starts asking me questions about whether I had been in a relationship with this friend. I told her that we were just friends and that nothing remotely romantic had happened between us. Stacy said that she seemed very flirty with me. I told her that this was just her way of talking (think Kardashian voice) and that she talked like that to everyone which is 100% true. Apparently that wasn’t good enough because Stacy kept bringing up the encounter and while she did admit that I hadn’t done anything wrong, that she was more concerned with this friend and her “flirtatious” demeanor. Needless to say the weekend turned horrible because she couldn’t move past it despite my reassurance that nothing had ever happened.
A couple of weeks after this, I get diagnosed with a rare type of cancer (NET). Obviously we’re both super bummed out. I tell Stacy about this and she feels for me. She does her best to reassure me that I’ll be fine which I really appreciated. She was the one that took me to get the biopsy done so I told her about the diagnosis first. I took approximately a week to process this diagnosis before I felt ready to tell everyone else.
During that week Stacy starts going through my social networks and calls me really upset because she says she’s feeling insecure with me. After I ask her what’s going on, she says that she doesn’t like guys who cheat or lie. I’m a little perplexed because I really had no idea what she was talking about. She then tells me that she noticed that I’m following some girls on my Facebook and that she’s not comfortable with this. I feel sick to my stomach because 1)stress causes for this tumor to release hormones which make me feel sick. 2)I feel like she was trying to catch me in a lie. Once I found out what she was talking about I admitted that yeah I had followed some girls on FB. I try to reassure her that she’s the only one I’m dating and that I would take a look at what it was. As I look at FB (which I rarely use) I noticed that these are profiles that I had followed since before COVID. No big deal, I went and unfollowed and again reassured her that I only had eyes for her.
This past Sunday, Stacy was still somewhat mad at me for the whole FB issue, despite me already deleting those profiles. She confides that in her previous relationship, her ex started following these models on IG and that it made her feel insecure. I try my best to again reassure her that I had already unfollowed. We just chatted throughout the night via text and left it at that. That same night I talked to my aunt for about 20 minutes because she was praying for me over the phone and wanted to catch up with me.
Finally, this last Monday I feel comfortable enough to share with the rest of my friends and family about the diagnosis. The outpouring of love and support was incredible. People that I had not talked to in a while reached out and commented that they would keep me in their prayers and that I would be fine. I really appreciated all the support I received. I also received a good amount of phone calls from friends. Later that night I’m talking to Stacy and I share that people had wished me well on this journey. She asks “who else has talked to you?” To which I respond that my friends have called me. She then asks “what about your best friend?” My best friend, who is a girl and is more like a sister to me, had sent me a text telling me how shocked she was about my diagnosis. So I tell Stacy. “Oh yeah, she sent me a text and I also spoke with my aunt last night.”
Stacy got livid saying that I was hiding things and that this wasn’t making her feel very secure with me. She said that it was my fault that she was feeling this way because I wasn’t forthcoming with her and that I had lied because I hadn’t told her that my aunt and my friend had reached out to me. As chill as I tend to be, I did get upset and said that there was really no reason for me to have to tell her about every single text or call that I received that day. She had obviously been checking my social networks to see who had reached out to me and wished me well. We didn’t really speak for the next couple of days because I was working and I had a lot going on. Also I was feeling upset about the situation.
Yesterday I called her to check up on her and to see what was up. Conversation went ok for the most part until the end where she said that if I wanted to date her that I would have to answer every question she had because due to my actions, I had not earned her trust. She also opened up and said that this insecurity was based on a previous relationship in which her former lover started talking to someone else and it turned out to be more than just casual texting.
My response was that I wanted to be with her but that if she wasn’t going to trust me then what was the purpose of being in a relationship. She then gave me an ultimatum, either I “complied” with her questioning me whenever she wanted or she wouldn’t be with me.
I just told her that if that was the case that I wouldn’t be a good partner to her. Not because I was lying or trying to lie but more so because I felt that if I couldn’t be trusted then I just didn’t see the point of being in a trust-less relationship. She got upset and we said our goodbyes.
This morning she sent me a stupid IG quote saying about how if someone isn’t willing to reassure you then it’s best to move on. I didn’t even respond.
So Reddit, AITAH? Is there something else I could’ve done?

this post contains info that includes something about su*cid3. please read at your own risk.
hi! medtech student ako from a college, I'd rather not tell kung saan mismo. I just wanted to share this here.
dumarami kasi cases ng su*cid3 sa college namin, specifically sa medtech department. this is due to high academic stress level ng mga students. ang hirap kasing pumasa. I can say na mataas talaga standards sa department namin, because they are maintaining high passing rate sa boards.
3rd year, mas maraming bumabagsak kesa pumapasa. maraming students ang umuulit ulit ng subject/s. recently, may dalawang students na ang nag su*cid3. nakakalungkot and nakakabahala. waiting pa kami sa statement ng department officials, if there's any.
maraming MT students ang galit ngayon sa college namin, they are very open and vocal sa isang fb page. maraming nagagalit sa professors. these are my thoughts: 1. hindi lahat ng students ay bumabagsak, may mga pumapasa naman. so maybe, may pagkukulang din talaga 'yong ibang students. 2. super hirap magpa-exam ng ibang profs, but I think, they are fair naman sa pagbibigay ng grades. ang kaso, marami nga talagang bumabagsak.
may iilang profs din talaga minsan ang pabaya; nakakawala ng answer sheets and activities ng mga students, madalas na late or absent, things like that. they really need to change those behaviors. super unfair sa students.
I'm not invalidating those students na nagagalit ngayon. although, nakakaawa rin kasi 'yong ibang profs na sinisisi, because they are just doing their job. however, I think they have to listen sa mga students na humihingi pa ng konting considerations.
alarming na kasi. earlier, may nagpost sa fb na hindi nya narin daw kaya, and it looks like he/she wants to end it, too. iykyk.
grabe, naaawa ako ron sa mga parents na nawalan ng anak due to this matter.
I know iba-iba tayo ng level of tolerance sa different aspects ng buhay. if ever anyone here need some help, please don't be afraid to ask for it. normal lang mapagod at ma-stress, we're humans.
Let's find someone na willing talagang makinig when we are down. Be that someone na willing din makinig. we can also seek professional help.
please, also remember to ask your family and friends how are they doing.

Hello,
I'm supporting a sport publication transfer over their blogging from their own website to Substack, because they want to monetise it.
This account has 9k FB followers, 3k on Twitter and gets around 3k podcast listens per week. On the website the number of views for an article ranges from 1000-7000 depending on various factors like the writequality of the piece/how invested people are in the topic.
I must stress: writing until now has been published through a website, not an email blog/platform. When articles go live, 95% of their views come from social media posts about them.
I'm curious whether anyone has been through something similar with moving a publication onto Substack, but not where the written content had been monetised previously?
They've begun to make money in recent years from the podcast and a shop that the designers involved have created to sell tees/mugs/sweatshirts etc etc. Engagement has been growing throughout too.
Just wondered how people had experienced this kind of change because lots start on Substack from nothing or a personal profile (like I did with my main one).
Any thoughts on how to make the transition a success or general comments/things to remember ahead of doing this? I'm comfortable using Substack, I'm just really keen for it to go well. The fact the publication already have an audience is a huge boost that many Substacks don't have the luxury of in advance of going live.
Thanks!

I live long distance away from my family (literally half the world away). I've been living long distance for 15 years now. Usually on mother's day I would video call my parents, send a gift, and maybe try to also call during my siblings visits to catch up (not all the time). Well this is my second Mother's Day as a mom myself, and first with a toddler and pregnant with my second due in a few months. I'm tired, all my energy gets sucked into my toddler and pregnancy, work, and just surviving (my husband and I have no family connections/support where we live).
Things have changed a lot since I became a mom. I've changed as a person. I say "no" a lot more due to boundaries that are crossed by my parents and inlaws, which make them all upset. Its taken me a bit to figure out how to stand up to my parents and not be the people pleasing Catholic good girl daughter that they have known for nearly 40 years, but now I've realized as a parent myself there are things I never want my kids to experience that my parents place on me (mainly guilt, silent treatment, non communication, etc). I really love my parents, they were good parents, it's just this immaturity with communication and emotions I just can't handle anymore.
Well, I need help. I haven't spoken to my mom in over 2 months mainly because she's pulling the silent treatment because she sent boxes and boxes of gifts when I asked her to only send 1-2 things for my toddler. We live in a HCOL city, we'll never be able to afford a down payment for a house or apartment (avg down payment is $200k, out regional not much better) so we don't have the space in our small apartment. Plus the reality of renting and having to move every 1-2 years due to rental increases. This is all something my parents just don't get because they never had to deal with. Owning a house was attainable and quite frankly a privilege. I digress...so I got upset and asked her next time to please talk to me before sending things she knows I don't have space for, especially toys. We could use nappies/diapers, wipes, supplies instead if she really wants to help. I asked her when she was free for a chat. She told me not to call her, she will never again send anything other than money because she's always wrong and it's senior discount night at the grocery store she she can't talk to me.
I was fuming. Once I calmed down I realized I cannot force her to talk to me. I'm tired of being the one constantly reaching out, smoothing things over, making sure they see their grandkid, etc. I tried scheduled calls in the past because it's really hard to balance my time now and the pressure of my parents constantly asking to video chat was a lot. Well that turned into me constantly being the one to call and they were never ready, never called me if i was running late, or would even check up on me if ai didn't call at all. So I just stopped. My mom has a habit of this in her life. She complains no one wants to do anything with her (particularly family members) but won't try to reach out and ask them to do things or join. But she will bitch and make comments on FB if she sees photos. I've told my parents countless times it's a two way street and they need to put in effort instead of staying home. They also cannot put all their happiness into my toddler, it's not fair on him
So fast forward to the past previous nights. I'm not sleeping. I'm anxious about Mother's Day and calling her. I've sent her a gift, but the thought of calling her makes me so anxious. Part of me wants to stand up and be the "better person" and just do a quick 5 min no effort/emotion call, the other says who cares I need to break this cycle she always does with me. I literally wake up 2-3 hours during the night. This always happens when I have to confront her.
Idk if this post or story makes sense. I'm sorry. I'm just a stressed pregnant momma with a toddler dealing with immature parents.

Hi there, 37/m here. My best friend, 30/f, got mad at me for failing to make a more elaborate effort to wishing her a happy birthday (on facebook). I was in Portugal, with spotty internet service, and data limits. I wished her a happy birthday via fb messenger in a group chat, but had prefaced my trip by letting her know I wasn't going to be in town. I spent over $300 on her birthday gift before even leaving, assured her I would get it to her as soon as I got back.
I COULD have made a much bigger effort, but honestly, I didn't. I was busy enjoying my first solo vacation, my first trip to Europe, and she had messaged me the day I arrived in Europe with messages saying "Don't come back saying how much better your vacation was than our trip to Cancun." We had just recently returned from that trip that we took as a friend group.
So naturally, because she is mad at me, I deactivated my entire facebook and instagram profiles. I've been in a shitty mood for 3 days and now all I want to do is drive to the dispensary and buy a bunch of weed and get high.
It's exhausting having this disease. Sometimes I wish my dad would have just beat me until I died when I was a kid. Would have saved me a lot of unnecessary stress.

Hello Reddit,
in 2020 . I purchased a brand new duplex outside of the Austin area for 225k . This was my first property in my rental adventures. Since then I have purchased more duplexes and land . So I have some more experience over these last few years.
I did my due dilligence and had the duplex inspected. The inspector did not note anything major besides adding some dirt around it. Couple months in .. The duplex begins to flood. I had property management at the time. They contacted the builder. Builder goes there . Says that it was from water runoff from the roof. Opted to install gutters and the problem would be fixed.
Later on in 2021. it begins to flood again and again into 2022. I was starting to have to pay 2300 each time for flood cleanup. The tenants lost a lot of their belongings then eventually we moved them to the other side .
Aug 22 . place floods again and again. Builder starts to blame city for the flooding. Nothing is done from their end. I end up hiring two engineers. End up finding out that the builder graded the ENTIRE property at 0. Engineer also says city needs to fix street for drainage/curb issues. However, if it was graded correctly. The water would just run off.
They did not build the property grade according to the plans approved by city. City did not go back to inspect the work .
Contact builder on phone ask him to talk to my engineer. He says that engineers do not know anything and he is in the field and refused to talk to my engineer. Once again duplex floods same month. Builder goes there. Digs a huge trench and makes a mess . One month later I request flood documents from property manager. 1 week later builder bills my property manager 1600 for this trench. They pay it . I later find out that property manager has a working relationship beyond business . I ask for french drain to be installed. Builder ignores certified letter. After paying the 1600 bill. Property manager contacts and said shes closing down her company and starting a new one after flood docs are requested and she pays her builder friend.
Got a lawyer. Lawyer contacts builder. They completely ignore lawyer, texts, repair requests. Sue builder under DPTA. He ignores servicing. Finally got judge to approve substituted service. Serve him. Got default judgement for 150k.
Find his assests. Then get sheriff to go collect and take work vehicles and auction land. He then finally calls lawyer. Says hes broke blah blah blah. Meanwhile hes in FB showing his company actively working. Says he has no money. We try to negotiate.
He gets lawyer . Now they are trying to appear judgement by counter suing and attacking my judgement. He is claiming that he is not the builder. We have photos from his FB showing him building my duplex as well as him posting them for sale.
Got french drain installed from a contractor . Paid 8500 . French drain failed last two times it rained. Duplex flooded this past month. City is fixing street. Completion is July 2024. Might have to dish out another 10k for a new drainage system.
Now my lawyer says he might be able to get judgement overturned but he has to prove to judge beyond his word a good excuse .
So far about 30-40k in hole for lawyer. 8500 french drain 15k-20k flood repair . years of stress. over 10k Lost years of rent.
Im thinking about selling this place after city fixes the street . The amount of stress from it is not worth it. I have other rentals with 0 problems
owe 150k . Duplexes on same street selling/sold for 350-400k.
What should I do ?

It's a fanfic I'm doing where Naru is the focus, I'm not sure if these are allowed to be post here, but I'm hoping it is and that this won't be removed because 1) I want people's opinions on it and 2) I want to know if it's lacking in any way. For context; The Golden Millennium is the Earth Kingdom but I refer to it as The Golden Millennium due to the Golden Crystal.
The Golden Millenium was a kingdom that co-existed alongside the Silver Millenium during Queen Serenity's rule of the Moon Kingdom, it was ruled by King Morax and Queen Gaia who had ruled for centuries without an heir due to difficulties with producing an heir until the birth of Princess Gaia, followed a few years after by Prince Mytho. Gaia's role, from birth, was clear to one day rule over Golden Millenium once she came of age, both physically and mentally while Mytho's role was more lenient due to him being second-in-line but was made clear that if anything happened to Gaia that he would have to step up and one day gain the role. However, Gaia showed from birth to be extremely powerful in her own right, her ability of sealing being most prominent and there was no worry of her being unable to one day take the throne. While Gaia's days were filled with lessons, edicate and attending meetings with her parents alongside perfecting her powers, especially her ability to change the way Earth presented itself due to Earth itself changing to match her emotional state, Mytho's days were mostly more lenient and less stressful as he was able to go out and play outside whenever he wanted but he mostly spent his days at Elysion where he met Helios and studied under him as his apprentice. It is thanks to Mytho that Gaia met the love of her life, Helios who also greatly requited her affections, the two starting a romantic relationship that King Morax and Queen Gaia greatly supported; as at the end of the day, all that mattered to them was that Gaia was happy and certain with who she gave her heart to.
Alongside the Golden Millenium kingdom was the alliance of the Flower, Underwater, Sun and Fire Kingdoms that existed peacefully alongside them, although The Golden Millenium bloodline was seen as the primary kingdom. The Flower Kingdom was under the rule of King Haruka and Queen Hanami who had an only daughter and heir, Princess Chieri who was the princess and Sailor Guardian of flowers, she was also best friends with Gaia and regularly doted on Mytho, she was the lover of Zoisite whom she regularly made flower crowns for whenever she knew she would see him. The Water Kingdom was under the rule of King Neptune and Queen Pearl who had a daughter and heir, Princess Yura who was the princess and Sailor Guardian of the crystal clear seas, she acted as a tutor and mentor to Gaia, she was the lover of Jadeite and regularly enjoyed swimming with him during their free time. The Sun Kingdom who was the rule of Queen Stella, the half-sister of Queen Serenity, who had a daughter, Princess Sei who was the princess and Sailor Guardian of the Sun, Stars and Galaxy. Sei had a special ability to change her appearance to mimic other people's appearance so would often act as a body double whenever she needed to in order to save Gaia's life, she was the lover of Nephrite and would regularly sneak off to see him. Finally, there was the Fire Kingdom that was ruled by Princess Asuka due to her parents having died when she was very young, Asuka was the princess and Sailor Guardian of fire, she heavily admired Princess Gaia due to Asuka's social awkwardness and shyness. She was the lover of Kunzite, there was a secret side of herself that only he himself would ever have the honor of seeing.
Each kingdom had their own special objects, The Golden Millenium's being The Holy Golden Sword, Golden Crystal and Gaia's Wand, The Flower Kingdom's being The Flower Sword, The Water Kingdom's being The Water Sword, The Sun Kingdom's being The Galaxy Sword and finally, The Fire Kingdom's being The Scarlett Violin and The Fire Sword. The Golden Millenium is described as the birthplace of life, and every time a new life was born anywhere in the world, a diamond appeared on the walls while flowers of all different shapes, colors and sizes would grow in the gardens. Golden Millenium, as a whole, was an extremely beautiful place as it's sky's were a magnific shade of blue while it's fields were covered with green grass and it's trees, which smelled like peppermint, were the crown jewels of the kingdom and were often used for Christmas trees due to their beauty and smell. In fact, some of the trees are large enough for a whole room to be built inside them while the smaller trees appeared to be pine trees, adding to the alpine feel of the place.
The Flower Kingdom was also a very beautiful place, many people going there to be bathed in it's beauty as well as see. smell, touch and gather the countless flowers that grew there as this land of peace and harmony was filled with lush greenery, streams, vibrant colors, rainbows and giant flowers that can close their petals any time. The Flower Kingdom was a realm of closely connected to its nature, which shows through the abundance of magical plant and animal life it has over, the inhabitants lived their lives maintaining a close connection with the nature around them to preserve it's beauty and show their respect, their most beloved plant of nature being flowers. The people of the kingdom were very connected to nature and live high up within the trees thus due to living up so high, the people seemed to lack fear of intense heights, often skipping across a thin, shaky, woven bridge of vines and flowers with ease. The Kingdom was home to many flowers and plants that could also be found on other planets, while some were only native to the kingdom. The people of the land would often use some of the plants for traveling, casting spells and creating potions among other things within their daily routine. One of the most notable plants is the Black Willow, which could turn back time if someone touches the water it produces. and it's magic also makes the waterfall located outside it's cave run upwards. According to Haruka's memories, the land was an "All Green Fairyland" as they loved all seasons, each bringing new flowers, plants and fruits.
The Underwater Kingdom was a kingdom that was located under water, but the kingdom itself once up close looked like an ordinary kingdom located on land while it's inhabitants were a large group of species that were humanoid but had the ability to breath underwater and could withstand the harsh conditions of the sea. While a magical and underwater kingdom, the kingdom appeared to be quite flourishing and modern, with big city/capitals with huge buildings and very active businesses such as fast food, salons and other such things. However, the society of the kingdom appeared to be extremely conservative and traditional, as Minami's memories show that the process of a realm's king and queen publicly announcing a princess' upcoming wedding to a groom that they had chosen and approved of.
The Sun Kingdom was the kingdom of the Sun, the Moon, Galaxy and the Stars as well as one of the brightest and biggest kingdom to exist. It was predominantly seen as an extremely sunny place where it never rains; in fact, there is so little rain that many residents didn't even know what a raincoat from Earth was. The kingdom possessed at least three Suns, with the magical essence of the first and second Suns of the kingdom, the alignment of the three Suns was a rare occurrence that the citizens happily celebrated. Due to Queen Stella being the half-sister of Queen Serenity, the kingdom was illuminated by Lumenia, a neighboring star, although it was unknown if Lumenia was one of the already known three Suns or another, fourth, star. Queen Stella could command the Second Sun to shine its light on other realms and if the Second Sun were to weaken or die out, Queen Stella would also suffer or perish along with it. The kingdom has doves which Queen Stella was quite fond of and would let them fly free in a special room in the palace, the kingdom is assumed to be a somewhat arid planet due to the lack of rain despite the presence of flourishing gardens at the royal palace. However, since the sun is magical, it is possible that it causes a flourishing flora to grow there, as pine forests can be seen around the palace.
Finally, The Fire Kingdom was a vibrant realm with it's people seeming to be moderately traditionalistic, additionally it seemed to be home to many brave heroes and natural-born leaders. The kingdom also was the most advanced in music, it being filled with beautiful corals and a giant enchanted harp created from those corals that allow it to make beautiful music upon being played. The kingdom had a variety of holidays, one being the Harvest Festival, which celebrates the kingdom, The next is the Flylight Pageant, where all of the princesses from all of the kingdoms get together and fly through the night in decorated coaches on the summer solstice. Another, more unofficial one is the Tri-Kingdom Picnic, where the royal families meet for games and feasting, sometimes bringing along guests. Wassalia was a prominent winter holiday, where candles are lit and gifts exchanged, pine and willow trees being brought into boot. Halloween is there, though it isn't a big deal, along with Mother's Day. There are also festivals in the kingdom, being the Leafsong Festival and the Friendship Festival in the spring, the FlyLight Pageant in summer, and the Harvest Festival in the autumn alongside that, there is also the Royal Jubilee, which celebrates the kingdom's establishment.

It's a fanfic I'm doing where Naru is the focus, I'm not sure if these are allowed to be post here, but I'm hoping it is and that this won't be removed because 1) I want people's opinions on it and 2) I want to know if it's lacking in any way. For context; The Golden Millennium is the Earth Kingdom but I refer to it as The Golden Millennium due to the Golden Crystal.
The Golden Millenium was a kingdom that co-existed alongside the Silver Millenium during Queen Serenity's rule of the Moon Kingdom, it was ruled by King Morax and Queen Gaia who had ruled for centuries without an heir due to difficulties with producing an heir until the birth of Princess Gaia, followed a few years after by Prince Mytho. Gaia's role, from birth, was clear to one day rule over Golden Millenium once she came of age, both physically and mentally while Mytho's role was more lenient due to him being second-in-line but was made clear that if anything happened to Gaia that he would have to step up and one day gain the role. However, Gaia showed from birth to be extremely powerful in her own right, her ability of sealing being most prominent and there was no worry of her being unable to one day take the throne. While Gaia's days were filled with lessons, edicate and attending meetings with her parents alongside perfecting her powers, especially her ability to change the way Earth presented itself due to Earth itself changing to match her emotional state, Mytho's days were mostly more lenient and less stressful as he was able to go out and play outside whenever he wanted but he mostly spent his days at Elysion where he met Helios and studied under him as his apprentice. It is thanks to Mytho that Gaia met the love of her life, Helios who also greatly requited her affections, the two starting a romantic relationship that King Morax and Queen Gaia greatly supported; as at the end of the day, all that mattered to them was that Gaia was happy and certain with who she gave her heart to.
Alongside the Golden Millenium kingdom was the alliance of the Flower, Underwater, Sun and Fire Kingdoms that existed peacefully alongside them, although The Golden Millenium bloodline was seen as the primary kingdom. The Flower Kingdom was under the rule of King Haruka and Queen Hanami who had an only daughter and heir, Princess Chieri who was the princess and Sailor Guardian of flowers, she was also best friends with Gaia and regularly doted on Mytho, she was the lover of Zoisite whom she regularly made flower crowns for whenever she knew she would see him. The Water Kingdom was under the rule of King Neptune and Queen Pearl who had a daughter and heir, Princess Yura who was the princess and Sailor Guardian of the crystal clear seas, she acted as a tutor and mentor to Gaia, she was the lover of Jadeite and regularly enjoyed swimming with him during their free time. The Sun Kingdom who was the rule of Queen Stella, the half-sister of Queen Serenity, who had a daughter, Princess Sei who was the princess and Sailor Guardian of the Sun, Stars and Galaxy. Sei had a special ability to change her appearance to mimic other people's appearance so would often act as a body double whenever she needed to in order to save Gaia's life, she was the lover of Nephrite and would regularly sneak off to see him. Finally, there was the Fire Kingdom that was ruled by Princess Asuka due to her parents having died when she was very young, Asuka was the princess and Sailor Guardian of fire, she heavily admired Princess Gaia due to Asuka's social awkwardness and shyness. She was the lover of Kunzite, there was a secret side of herself that only he himself would ever have the honor of seeing.
Each kingdom had their own special objects, The Golden Millenium's being The Holy Golden Sword, Golden Crystal and Gaia's Wand, The Flower Kingdom's being The Flower Sword, The Water Kingdom's being The Water Sword, The Sun Kingdom's being The Galaxy Sword and finally, The Fire Kingdom's being The Scarlett Violin and The Fire Sword. The Golden Millenium is described as the birthplace of life, and every time a new life was born anywhere in the world, a diamond appeared on the walls while flowers of all different shapes, colors and sizes would grow in the gardens. Golden Millenium, as a whole, was an extremely beautiful place as it's sky's were a magnific shade of blue while it's fields were covered with green grass and it's trees, which smelled like peppermint, were the crown jewels of the kingdom and were often used for Christmas trees due to their beauty and smell. In fact, some of the trees are large enough for a whole room to be built inside them while the smaller trees appeared to be pine trees, adding to the alpine feel of the place.
The Flower Kingdom was also a very beautiful place, many people going there to be bathed in it's beauty as well as see. smell, touch and gather the countless flowers that grew there as this land of peace and harmony was filled with lush greenery, streams, vibrant colors, rainbows and giant flowers that can close their petals any time. The Flower Kingdom was a realm of closely connected to its nature, which shows through the abundance of magical plant and animal life it has over, the inhabitants lived their lives maintaining a close connection with the nature around them to preserve it's beauty and show their respect, their most beloved plant of nature being flowers. The people of the kingdom were very connected to nature and live high up within the trees thus due to living up so high, the people seemed to lack fear of intense heights, often skipping across a thin, shaky, woven bridge of vines and flowers with ease. The Kingdom was home to many flowers and plants that could also be found on other planets, while some were only native to the kingdom. The people of the land would often use some of the plants for traveling, casting spells and creating potions among other things within their daily routine. One of the most notable plants is the Black Willow, which could turn back time if someone touches the water it produces. and it's magic also makes the waterfall located outside it's cave run upwards. According to Haruka's memories, the land was an "All Green Fairyland" as they loved all seasons, each bringing new flowers, plants and fruits.
The Underwater Kingdom was a kingdom that was located under water, but the kingdom itself once up close looked like an ordinary kingdom located on land while it's inhabitants were a large group of species that were humanoid but had the ability to breath underwater and could withstand the harsh conditions of the sea. While a magical and underwater kingdom, the kingdom appeared to be quite flourishing and modern, with big city/capitals with huge buildings and very active businesses such as fast food, salons and other such things. However, the society of the kingdom appeared to be extremely conservative and traditional, as Minami's memories show that the process of a realm's king and queen publicly announcing a princess' upcoming wedding to a groom that they had chosen and approved of.
The Sun Kingdom was the kingdom of the Sun, the Moon, Galaxy and the Stars as well as one of the brightest and biggest kingdom to exist. It was predominantly seen as an extremely sunny place where it never rains; in fact, there is so little rain that many residents didn't even know what a raincoat from Earth was. The kingdom possessed at least three Suns, with the magical essence of the first and second Suns of the kingdom, the alignment of the three Suns was a rare occurrence that the citizens happily celebrated. Due to Queen Stella being the half-sister of Queen Serenity, the kingdom was illuminated by Lumenia, a neighboring star, although it was unknown if Lumenia was one of the already known three Suns or another, fourth, star. Queen Stella could command the Second Sun to shine its light on other realms and if the Second Sun were to weaken or die out, Queen Stella would also suffer or perish along with it. The kingdom has doves which Queen Stella was quite fond of and would let them fly free in a special room in the palace, the kingdom is assumed to be a somewhat arid planet due to the lack of rain despite the presence of flourishing gardens at the royal palace. However, since the sun is magical, it is possible that it causes a flourishing flora to grow there, as pine forests can be seen around the palace.
Finally, The Fire Kingdom was a vibrant realm with it's people seeming to be moderately traditionalistic, additionally it seemed to be home to many brave heroes and natural-born leaders. The kingdom also was the most advanced in music, it being filled with beautiful corals and a giant enchanted harp created from those corals that allow it to make beautiful music upon being played. The kingdom had a variety of holidays, one being the Harvest Festival, which celebrates the kingdom, The next is the Flylight Pageant, where all of the princesses from all of the kingdoms get together and fly through the night in decorated coaches on the summer solstice. Another, more unofficial one is the Tri-Kingdom Picnic, where the royal families meet for games and feasting, sometimes bringing along guests. Wassalia was a prominent winter holiday, where candles are lit and gifts exchanged, pine and willow trees being brought into boot. Halloween is there, though it isn't a big deal, along with Mother's Day. There are also festivals in the kingdom, being the Leafsong Festival and the Friendship Festival in the spring, the FlyLight Pageant in summer, and the Harvest Festival in the autumn alongside that, there is also the Royal Jubilee, which celebrates the kingdom's establishment.

Me and my ex had been together for over 7 years.
This is a rather looonng one so sit back
I thought we were happy, we were engaged and had moved into a bigger house together in preparation to start a family
He’s a civil servant and used to always joke to me about how everyone slept with everyone and there was a “secret” “inner circle” of these people
Yeah I know should have seen the red flag but I just laughed and listened to the drama stories he told me about all these relationships kicking off
Fast forward a few months into living in our home, he started to do more night shifts than is actually required for his job, he was getting a lot of overtime so was working a lot more - all to save for our wedding he said. he decided he wanted to start going to the gym to get more fit
It started off as a little niggle in the back of my mind. I seemed to be getting left at home a lot more often if he was going out with mates for a drink (I used to get invited all the time) but I just put it to he’s out with the lads so whatever
One night he was going to one his workmates for the night with a few others for a birthday party, just the lads and poker - ok that was fine with me. I invited the girls around and we enjoyed plenty of wine and horror movies.
He stopped texting me at about 7pm and I didn’t hear a thing from him until the morning. I was a little annoyed. He told me he’d fallen asleep at the table while playing poker and one of his mates had actually recorded his snoring which I found hilarious
I said he’d have to show me the video. He never showed me it, I did ask several times and I’d get his mate lost his phone and he didn’t manage to send the vid before he lost it. Bearing in mind this was the kind of things his mates would be putting on FB the second they’d finish recording
The niggle became harder to ignore
Then came the email - he’d used my phone to log into his emails as he’d left his phone at work and had forgotten to log out. So I decided to have a little look back in his email history cz that niggle was starting to drive me a teeny bit nuts
And then a found it - a hotel booking for two adults in a city over an hour away - ON THE SAME DAY AS THIS BIRTHDAY PARTY. he’d told me he was sleeping at this mates house when he went so I was straight onto him about it
He told me he’d booked it for his mate and his partner as his mate wanted to do a surprise trip for his wife and didn’t want her to find out about it
Okkaayyy I didn’t really believe him and I tried to let it go.
But I just couldn’t. Why didn’t he tell me this before? Why only now that I’ve found the email booking?
It drove me a bit crazy thinking about it and I started to get depressed at the thought of was he cheating
About two months after this he started talking about one of his work mates. He referred to her as his work “little sister” (she’s 10 years younger than him) he would constantly say I should meet her as we would get along and how he felt protective of her.
At this point I was getting sick of him talking about her so I just made a comment like you sound like you’re in love with her at which he scoffed and again said no she’s like a sister to him (even said once she reminded him of his own sister)
But even with all this I was now convinced something was going on - so one night when he fell asleep I went through his phone.
And lo and behold messages. LOTS of messages between him and her. He couldn’t wait to officially be with her and she was his “princess” 🤢
Oh and there were a load of other messages to other women as well all explicit
Well my world literally came falling down in that moment. Nearly 8 years of my life wasted.
I confronted him and he admitted it all.
But he loved me and he promised me he would never do it again and he wanted to spend his life with me. It was just a stupid itch he wanted to scratch before fully settling down. Nope, I was having none of it. I was done.
Now where we were living was hours away from our hometown. And I was in a complete state and to be honest just wanted to be with my family.
A lot then happened. Without telling him my plan. I contacted my work and told them I was moving and needed to have a new contract stating home based work (I love my job) I told them everything that was going on. I had my family help me find a new place back in my hometown and I planned my escape.
This took about a month to sort. During this time I was stuck in the same house as this prick keeping my plan from him. He would beg me for forgiveness one minute then threaten me the next (he was going to throw me out, he’d switch off all the electric so I couldn’t work, he even threw straighteners at me) all of which I still have voice recordings of just in case.
I would have to call my sister on video call at night just to fall asleep I was getting that stressed.
But then I became angry and he then tried to gaslight me. It was my fault he’d strayed apparently. I did everything for him, worked full time, cleaned, cooked, shopping. Everything. But cz my work wasn’t as stressful as his I wasn’t doing enough.
Well at that I just thought F him.
On the day my plan to leave I got a lucky break, turns out he was staying at his “mates” after work that day so wouldn’t be back til the next day.
He left and his last words to me were “I love you”
Mine were “Bye (name)”
I had a van and people around the corner out of site waiting for him to leave. The minute he did the packing started. Within a couple of hours everything I was taking was loaded in the van and ready to go.
But before I posted my keys I had one last thing to do.
I had purchased several packs of itching powder a week before and now it was time to use it.
And use it I did.
I rubbed it into every item of clothing he had, inside all his underwear and inside all his socks, shirts and trousers.
I rubbed it into the bedding, I rubbed it on the half toilet roll I decided to leave behind (I took the rest)
Anything he would be touching I covered in the stuff
And I left.
He wanted to scratch an itch. Well I left him with plenty to scratch.
My final F U to him was after I had moved away I ended up sleeping with one his workmates who actually hated my ex. My ex doesn’t know but it was just an added bit of revenge for me
To this day he makes sure he gives my ex a wink from me whenever they happen to pass each other at work
I’m now happily in a new relationship and I heard recently he’s now engaged to his “work little sister”
I wish her the best cz once a cheat, always a cheat

I let a friend borrow my jacket for her date. She liked the jacket so much she asked to wear it a few more times and I was okay with it. I have lots of high end clothes from working as a merchandising manager so some of my friends ask to borrow my clothes, and I don’t mind it as long as they take good care of it and I get it back. As she is from another city, I told her not to stress about it and I’d get it back when I am in town next. I ended up being out of state for a while due to work, and then she was away on a month long vacation so we haven’t been able to meet up. The other day, I logged in to FB and saw she posted photos of her in my jacket. I jokingly said to her in a private message “nice jacket where is it from?” and she laughed it off. I then said I would need it back next time we hang out (it’s been over a bit over 5 months) and she replied she did not know where the jacket is. She then got angry because I did not get her a birthday gift (its May and her birthday is in September).I was shopping for another friend’s b day and she was mad I did not ask her. I’ve done a lot for her- was first to get my license so I drove her everywhere, helped her family out and genuinely care to see her do well and be happy. I didn’t think asking for a new jacket would be a big deal and probably she wouldn’t even have to get it because she clearly still has it and is using it as seen in online posts. I was definitely not expecting this reaction from her.
I was going to attach texts from her but it won’t let me attach any files. Basically in the texts she said “I don’t owe you a new jacket i don’t know what I did yesterday let alone months ago, you should have asked for it the next day, I see your true face, you are selfish and materialistic, she forgot about the jacket because I did not ask her for it, I can’t trust people not to lose stuff, she moved twice… “it goes on….
I don’t feel like losing a friend over this, but my other friends suggested I just distance myself from people like this because ever since I got my job people want to use me for the benefits they get.

I (F55) have had this FWB relationship with a man (M51) for over two years. He told me from day one it's just a "Friends with Benefits", does not want a serious relationship right now. At the same time he meets a woman (from his country) while he is there visiting his sick father. She's a cancer doctor, young, pretty and they hit it off and they become boyfriend/girlfriend. I found out by seeing a post on FB. He made up this ridiculous story and I believed him. As of Nov 2020, they are engaged. She lives in another country and he lives here in the states. I see him about 2-3 times a week, just for sex. Yes, I am aware of his relationship status with this girl, but I keep seeing him. We've gotten to know each other on a personal level, and have great conversations. Over and over again he tells me that he doesn't plan on marrying her until he retires, in about 10 years. I have been back and forth back and forth on how and why I am doing this to myself. The longer I am with him, the more it's going to hurt when he does marry her, to which I told him that will be the end for us. He is getting ready to spend over a week with her...she is coming to the states to be with him. It kills me knowing she gets the relationship and connection I crave - fun, passion, intimacy, his full attention, love, and all that comes with a full blown relationship. Yes, I'm jealous. But once she leaves, it's back to having only sex (FWB) with me and clearly there isn't much of the Friends part. There is a lot of other details that come with this story. One other thing, I have been dealing with female problems since I met him and as of today, I had a scare of possibly having cervical cancer. Thank God that its not cancer, but I am having to go through a stressful time and constantly worrying about my health; which stems from both of us having unprotected sex from the very beginning. That's on both of us. I know I need to break it off with him. But I can't...or don't want to honestly. I'm broken physically and mentally and I don't know how to fix me. Therapy is too expensive. I have exposed my situation to a few friends, they give me advice and at the same time support me. I need help!