My wife and I under contract to buy and are moving from our home to a nearby subdivision, and have accepted an offer from Opendoor to purchase our current home-- also under contract.
When this came up with our next door neighbor, she indicated over text that evening that she had a friend who wants to buy our house. This neighbor runs a daycare business out of her home-- She is very frugal and I've seen her get better pricing than we have with contractors we both worked with in the past-- she's big on cutting out the middle man, and often encourages us to do the same. We aren't always comfortable with using her negotiation methods, and generally don't mind spending more/making less than her tolerance for such things seem to be.
Opendoor seems to make things easy, and I don't have a lot of bandwidth to deal with a private sale or traditional home sale. My wife and I view the profit Opendoor will make on our home a simple cost of said convenience-- and I've communicated these issues to my neighbor. It seems like she still wants us to talk to her friend, but I just don't see a path forward that doesn't involve a lot of time, effort and (frankly) risk for relatively little monetary reward.
Can anyone share information on what typical closing costs for sellers look like in the context of an unlisted/private sale in North Carolina, and how we would even go about facilitating this?

I work a super remote job all summer (remote as in literally alone in the middle of the woods, not from home). I'll only have enough cell service for texting, no data.
I'm bringing my switch along so I can play plenty of stardew. BUT I can't stand playing without the wiki. Is there a way I can download it, or any other similar like handbook pdf?
Otherwise I'll be trying to get texts out to my boyfriend, "hey can you search 'stardew Demetrius schedule' for me?" Hah

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This is an old story some of my friends told me (29F) I should share here.. so here I am. Sorry for the long text, but there's a lot to unfold.
This started a few years ago, after I got ghosted by my ex, I decided to switch careers and took the proposal of my brother to work for one of his friend in an organic grocery store in my area. I was 22ish at the time, maybe 21 turning 22, but anyways.
I started working in the fruits and vegetables aisle. Despite having a crazy director, I liked my job and my department manager. After a few months, I got the title of "third key" which is basically I'm the assistant manager when the assistant is gone. Then, they decided to hire a new customer service manager that I will call Linda. That woman was CRAZY. While I was 23 at the time, she was only 20 acting like she owned the world.
To give you an idea, in the span of 8 months being here, she got 11 employees fired for stupid reasons and since our director at the time was just as crazy... it was easier for her to get her way. Also, when I say stupid reasons, I'll give you a few examples: Benji got fired because he was "talking too loud" in the break room and it was disturbing her peace and supposedly making her harder to rest to come back fully ready to finish her shift. Marie got fired because she HAD to take off work to go to a relative's funeral and couldn't give her 2 weeks notice. Rose got fired because she was getting "too old to do her job properly and it was ruining the pace of the team's work" (which is bs, I've never seen someone cut veggies and fruits as fast as her). And I could go on. Yes, some of them could've been able to be protested against and even file a complaint against her. Mind you, outside of Rose, everybody was too young to just wanting to fight for a grocery store job. Even Rose just decided to take her retirement earlier and fucked off the work world lol.
Anyways, she took it too far when she tried to mess with me. To give you the context, we had a huge special on lemons and sometimes, those fruits can get rotten and you don't notice it because there's no smell. The only way you'd know is by going through the several small boxes of like 10ish lemons and look at them all one by one. Which I did regularly, but hey, I'm not a robot, sometimes some of them slipped out of my eyes. I was leaving the backstore with more boxes when I saw Linda with a customer that seemed more than pissed. So I go see both of them because mind you.. she has a LEMON box and I work in the fruits department. So it's kind of my job to help IF I CAN. That's when I asked her "Hey Linda, do you need help with the lemons?" And right away she told me "Fuck off, I don't need your help, I already spoke to your manager. Go do your job for once." My face was literally like this 😳 as I went to my department. Even the pissed customer did a bombastic side eyes.
A few minutes later, I go back to the backstore to fulfill the missing products and my manager pulls me aside. "Hey OP, stay out of Linda's business. I can't protect you all the time for talking back." I stopped him right away asking what does he means cause as soon as she told me to fuck off, I did fuck off. He looked at me surprised and said he'd come back to me with it, but only tomorrow because he's finishing his shift and for some personal reason, he can't stay longer to solve the issue. Since Linda was the manager on guard that night, he told me to stay in the back as much as possible to stay in her good graces. That's what I did.
One hour after my manager left, I heard my name being called in the front office (shared by the customer service manager and director). Big wtf. I go in the front and all of my colleagues are looking at me like I'm a prisoner going to their death sentence. Mind you, I know my laws and my rights. I might be young, but as soon as I got called, I started reciting in my head the main laws and rights she has to respect. I open the door's office and Linda is FUMING. And she is alone. She asks me to close the door and I tell her "No, it is my right to have someone in the room with us for this talk. I am not comfortable being alone with you." She starts freaking out and starts to speak louder, on the verge of screaming. "Linda. This room is recorded 24/7 and the customers can hear you talking to me like that. Lower your tone and find a witness to be in the room or I'll go back to work." She stands up to look outside the office and sees that indeed, there's a line in front of the cash looking to the office's direction. She takes a few deep breaths and calls Gabrielle who takes care of the finances of the store so she can be a witness. From the moment Gab got into the room, she seemed like she wanted to get away, so do I.
Gab took a seat in the back and Linda starts her whole speech. I'll be paraphrasing cause the meeting took almost an hour.
L: You know why I brought you here, right? OP: Not really, I've been in the backstore minding my business. Why? L: Well you disrespected my authority in front of a customer and that's a big no no for the company. OP: For the company or for you? L: OP, this is not the topic. You shouldn't be disrespecting authority in front of customers. It makes the managers look bad. OP: I was honestly just trying to help because you had a box of products from my department. I just wanted to help because the customer looked pissed and I didn't want him to ruin your fragile mood. L: My fragile mood?! Are you fucking serious?! OP: Linda, we are being recorded and we have a witness. I'm asking you to stay polite and not scream or I will file a complaint against you. L: Are threatening me??? OP: No, I am stating my rights and making you aware of where your attitude will lead you. I won't accept being talked like that by someone that ain't even my manager. L: Okay OP, let me remind you where your position stands in this business.
That bitch started to draw a triangle, put her name at the tippidy top and mine at the bottom. I didn't even let her finish what she had to say, I stormed off the office, went into the employees lockers, took my stuff and headed out. Linda ran after me, yelling like a psycho "YOU CAN'T LEAVE LIKE THAT! YOU'RE STILL SCHEDULED FOR THE CLOSE!" I stopped on my steps, making Linda almost run into me and said with the most blank expression I could have "Linda, you crossed a line and since you're so good at your job, close my department for me. I will be filing a complaint against you." And left the work place.
Next morning, I came to work as usual and had to see my manager and the director. I explained them the whole situation and showed the papers I was about to send to file a complaint against Linda. Also, this dumb bitch didn't even throw her pyramid in the trash. It was still on display when the director came in to work and asked me what it was. I asked her to look at the cameras, put the sound on and listen to the whole meeting. We watched it to my director's horror and who came in to work in the middle of our screening time? Linda! She came into the office and Linda being a poc turned white as a ghost. I've never seen her being so so pale. "W-what are you doing?" The director asked Linda to sit down and we watched again the video. Mind you, it took us one full hour to watch because she was in a never ending power trip. She used to be smart when she was bullying and making stories about past employees, doing it far from the cameras and usually using the other office that doesn't have cameras or a microphone, but she wasn't with me. I guess she got comfortable or whatever, but check mate on her ass.
My director said I could go back to work with my manager, that she would take care of the rest. Two weeks later, Linda still had her job, but our director resigned from her job right away. Which was hella weird, but whatever. We got a new director, she was a total sweet heart and she noticed Linda's crazy power trips right away. She decided to launch an intern investigation, but sadly, all the employees Linda bullied were fired. There was only me and my little complaint waiting to be served. When Nancy, our new director, came to me asking if I knew anything about Linda. I gave her the file, the time stamps of the video tape, all the employees she fired for stupid reasons with the old director and also phone numbers of those employees.
Flash forward 2 weeks later, Linda left work earlier, balling her eyes out yelling how Nancy was a bitch and didn't deserve her job. How she always came in earlier, put in the work and yadi yada. Nancy waited a few more days before asking me to come into the office and again, I'll be paraphrasing because a lot have been said.
N: HI OP, don't worry, you're not in any trouble. I just saw your CV and noticed you've had a lot of experience in customer service. OP: Yes, I used to be a cashier for almost 5 years, it was my first job. Why? N: I've seen your file, your CV and how you managed the conversation with Linda. We are actually looking for a new customer service manager since Linda have been let go. OP: What about my actual position? N: It's easier to find a fruits and vegetables commis than it is to find a competent service manager.. as you experienced.
I ended up accepting the position and all my co-workers cheered for my raise. I don't want to brag, but I've always been the one to defend everybody in the place, making sure I'll keep my job in the process and following the laws and rights. A few months later, Linda came back to the store as a customer and the look she had on her face when she saw me at the cash with the manager uniform was priceless. It was even more priceless when she asked me when I got the promotion and I told her the exact date, which matched her departure. "So you got my position when I left?" I just nodded and asked if I could do anything more to help have a better experience in the store. She didn't answer to that and just left after paying her things.
To this day, it's still one of my favorite moments to have been through. I'm not a petty person, but if I can ruin you in the process of me trying to defend my people, I'll be more than happy to do so. Last I've heard of Linda, she was working for the competitor, but never had any promotions.

Not directly wedding related but it’s my FMIL and I really don’t know what to do anymore. She has hurt me so much when it comes to wedding planning stuff but I just ignore it and let it go. Things like her wanting us to spend no more than $5000 on our wedding and have it in someone’s backyard, or very clearly not liking my dress
I graduated with my doctorate this weekend and I invited his parents to come. About 2 weeks ago his parents sent me something off of our registry as a graduation present and I called them and thanked them the day I found out they ordered it for me. Fast forward to like a week ago I texted her saying how pretty the gift is as soon as I received it.
This weekend, I posted pictures of me and my fiance and me and my family at graduation. I did not get any pictures of me with his parents.
She “accidentally” texted me this morning saying “when she received the gift she sent me photos and wrote how pretty they were but no thank you. The has a post on fb with pics of graduation but none with me and your dad and no mention that we attended. I don’t mean to be passive aggressive. I’m just professing and figuring out what I do or say next”. Apparently she meant to send that to my FH and “accidentally” sent that to me.
I responded and reminded her that I thanked her when I found out she bought them and that I had no pictures of them from graduation. Her response was “I love you I’m just having feelings”
I really don’t even know what to do at this point. I texted my FH about it because we’re both at work but he hasn’t said anything yet.

TL;DR I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He made a series of very inappropriate jokes at court in front of a judge. I was being sworn in today.
I have been getting trained to work in a court for the past several months. Today I was being sworn in among a group of other people. When he got to the court, he immediately started cheering/hooting/hollering and making jokes about having an air horn as we were walking into the courtroom in front of the judge. I had to text him to be quiet and he stopped. Afterward, we had breakfast. We were all seated at a small conference table with the judge. He immediately started making jokes about being arrested (which he's never been) and butts. In the middle of what sounded like it was going to be a testicle joke, I decided it was time for us to leave. I felt completely embarrassed at his series of inappropriate jokes and obnoxiousness. What would you do?

TL;DR I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He made a series of very inappropriate jokes at court in front of a judge. I was being sworn in today.
I have been getting trained to work in a court for the past several months. Today I was being sworn in among a group of other people. When he got to the court, he immediately started cheering/hooting/hollering and making jokes about having an air horn as we were walking into the courtroom in front of the judge. I had to text him to be quiet and he stopped. Afterward, we had breakfast. We were all seated at a small conference table with the judge. He immediately started making jokes about being arrested (which he's never been) and butts. In the middle of what sounded like it was going to be a testicle joke, I decided it was time for us to leave. I felt completely embarrassed at his series of inappropriate jokes and obnoxiousness. What would you do?

Alright, so long time member of reddit since the good old days, first time posting. So this morning, while attempting to unlock a phone linked to my live in girlfriend, ended up in one of what looked like many message threads that involved what most would describe as a honeypot(not sure if this is the correct terminology) essentially what looked to me like ~10 different threads with men going back and forth flirting very sexually, with the first one finding the most explicit of the content, full nudes of her, as well as plenty of non naked pictures sent to these males, most of which I have to assume that she has indeed met in person, due to the fact that she often will disappear with my vehicle to go to the casino(she never tells me this, always excuses that she is actually not at the casino, generally lying pretty badly as I am not stupid and have been in a relationship with a frequent cheater before.)
Full disclosure, it is not like I completely made a real stand against this type of thing, and in fact before at one point I was complicit and gave her a picture that I had received from a female that was essentially an ass shot with lace panties on. This fact had made me I guess just assume that the boundary was set that I would most likely not be ok with this type of thing happening with real pictures of her, although that conversation was not really ever had. So now while I am a firm believer of the fact where if you feel the need to go through your significant others phone at all, the two of you should not be together in the first place. Therefore in the multiple years we have been together (admittedly, the relationship was fairly casual at some points, and some people had referred to her as my dog watcher in the past. Even I was someone who made some comments in this vein but this was many years ago now.)
Generally it would go in a cycle of becoming more serious, then her doing something such as taking the car to get groceries, but disappearing for days. This fact being a serious red flag and not to mention that I basically have PTSD from my previous ex taking my vehicle to go have sex with and seemingly short(?) relationships with other dudes, which I had most definitely disclosed to her many, many times, which was a fact that was most definitely ignored, and had zero effect on her actions. It would seem a lot of the time that when things would get more serious between us, shortly after there would be something in which I would feel as a betrayal, and once again things would become more casual.
That being said, I am certainly guilty of talking to other females, such as my ex, during these times. So, all of these facts, leads me to today, where I am feeling like this should be the much needed end to a series of events filled with a lack of honesty, and a general disregard on her side for my boundaries, that I have made sure to communicate. She is of course taking the stance that since I knew that she got money from guys, that I should have basically known and put two and two together. While I had definitely kept that thought in my mind, I was basically just trying to trust her and thinking that maybe she is just really good at talking, or maybe using other girls pics like the time I gave her the pic to get money from the one guy.
Now, as for physical interactions, it is up in the air as I was pretty disgusted by what I saw and didn't feel like reading every word in every thread in order to see if anything physical had actually happened. There had been a recent attempt by an old acquaintance of mine to basically come onto her in I assume his car at the casino and she said she denied him completely, and that was at least corroborated by a mutual friend that I had ask the guy in a way that he wouldn't lie.
On top of all of this, she has been without a job for ~6 months now and money is very tight. The money she got from these guys has in no way been disclosed to me or shared with me, while as I am currently a full time student (wasted 7 years of my life homeless and using drugs, currently recovering addict, same as her, except when we started living together she was still using.) . I was wanting to kick her out and move on when she began disappearing with my vehicle, just due to the fact that I communicated so many times what my ex had done, and how this would affect me. Basically to this day I have to more or less physically keep the car keys from her, or else she will disappear to the casino. So, my fellow redditors, is this a dumpster fire that should have ended years ago like I truly believe, or was the fact that she had gotten money from guys in the past and I was "ok" with it (with her definitely knowing that I would never be okay with her doing anything with them, just never specifically talked about the sending of explicit pics that are actually her.) She says the pics are like 5 years old and is taking the stance that that makes it better in some way and that she has never cheated on me. Sorry about the long and complicated backstory, and we have been more or less together for 4 years now.
TL:DR Girlfriend who I knew received money from males, turns out was sending nudes and overall going way further than I know for a fact that she knew I would not be okay with this, at all, this also being proven by the fact that in a similar past situation, I gave her a picture I had received in the past of a different girl, to satiate the guy, to receive money.
Also sorry about the formatting and kind of just vomit of text, my headspace is not great right now as I have also been up all night working on homework, to then now find this all in the early morning. Thanks in advance reddit. As a user of this site since its infancy, I decided that you scholarly gentlemen would be able to diagnose this situation much better than I would. Should this be over, as I truly believe, or have I just been naive and have too high of expectations?

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I'm getting rid of some knives, watches etc. Open to selling them or trading them. Trade interests will be at the end of this post.
Payment methods accepted: Venmo, Zelle, Money Order
Prices include shipping and goods and services payment fees.
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• SOG Seal Pup Elite. pic 1 pic 2. Purchased used. Put a fresh edge on it. Purchased new sheath direct from SOG. Not the most pristine looking knife here but plenty of life left. TV $50 / SV $45
  
• Queen Big Boy Trapper. pic 1 (victorinox spartan for size reference) pic 2. Unused. Minor markings on bolsters from being in knife drawer. Made in USA. TV $45 SV $30.
  
• Victorinox serrated Spartan. pic 1 pic 2 Gently used. Main blade cut one or two things, still very sharp. Don't recall using any tools, factory lube still visible on them. Factory edges on both blades. Cosmetic scratches on scales from being in storage. TV $25 / SV $20
  
• Leatherman Fuse Combo. pic 1 pic 2. This is for both tools and the pocket clip. I used to be into modding Leatherman tools to make custom tool layouts. I had plans for modding the black one with different tools and adding a pocket clip from a wave + I never got around to finishing. One tool pivot is loosened up on each of these as I was experimenting on adding the clip etc. Every tool is in good shape, works well, blades are very sharp and look like factory edge etc. They'll need to be re-tightened or something before use. Selling them as is, no sheaths for either, again pocket clip is included. TV $60 / SV $45 for everything pictured.
  
• Spyderco Pacific Salt NIB. pic 1 pic 2. NIB Pacific Salt 1 PE satin blade with screw pivot and rounded clip, meaning it was a later run. TV $100 / SV $80
  
• Spyderco Aqua Salt. pic 1 pic 2 pic 3 This is one of the best knives ever made. Only reason I'm selling this is I talked myself into being ok with owning 5 of them instead of 6. I picked my least used user to post for sale. This one was picked up from a seconds sale where they sold without sheaths. Luckily I had an extra sheath I bought previously. These are incredibly tough, incredibly light, rust proof and killer cutters with a thin, coarse edge. My most used fixed blade model over the last 20 years, they can fill any role from bushcraft to hiking to fishing to diving. TV $140 / SV $120
  
• Cold Steel Pre-GSM Spike. pic 1 pic 2 Unused. TV $30 / SV $19
  
• Cold Steel Frenzy. pic 1 pic 2 NIB blue S35VN version. Backup to my user. TV $110 / SV $94
  
• Cold Steel Pre-GSM SRK. pic 1 pic 2 SK5. Unused. TV $50 / SV $40
  
• Cold Steel American Lawman. pic 1 pic 2 I bought this off here and sharpened it up and carried it a few times. Amazingly thin and light in the pocket, carries incredibly. Cuts well and took a great edge. Only reason I'm selling it, is I find it a little small for my grip. This is the current S35VN version with a nice DLC finish. TV $80 / SV $69 ;) ;)
  
• Cold Steel Code 4. pic 1 pic 2. Great knife that carries very well like the Lawman. Bought it here, gave it an edge since it came butter knife dull, and carried it twice. I prefer the slightly bigger Recon 1. Unmarked blade steel so I would guess this is the older AUS version. TV $50 / SV $40
  
• Kabar TDI combo. pic 1 pic 2. The smaller one is in good shape. Was sharpened because the factory edge was absolute garbage. Sheath clip shows some carry wear. Large one is ugly but still cuts. I used it to practice reprofiling on my belt sander and scratched it up pretty good. Note I lost the straps for the sheath. Take both for TV $50 / SV $35
  

TRADE INTERESTS

• ESEE knives. Particularly a 3D scaled 3 and a Sencillo, but I'll consider any of their models.
• Cold Steel Recon XL's.
• Cold Steel Recon 1's.
• Bushcrafty fixed blades
• Spyderco Chinooks (any gen)
• Spyderco Catcherman
• Spyderco Police 3's
• Choppers & machetes
• shark watches (no leash, clip only)
• sharpening stuff (prefer diamonds and ceramics to stones that need flattening fyi)
• Kitchen knives
• Outdoors gear (Currently ISO extra long hammock + net)

Not interested in folders with blades under 4"

My MIL is not a nice person. I can't even recount all the times she's been horrible to my husband, me, and even my kids. I can't diagnose her as a narcissist but she ticks all the boxes. My kids and I are NC with her. My husband stays in low contact to keep tabs on his dad. They live far away from us and he stays in contact via phone (all one sided- husband calling them).
MIL is currently in the hospital and her "kidneys are shutting down" even though she just got there and has not been diagnosed. If I sound callous it's because this isn't the first time she's been at death's door, as a matter of fact it's like the 10th time.
Husband's brother is the golden child and has been calling and texting husband, acting like their mom is taking her last breaths. SIL (brother's wife) is acting weird too, almost like excited that someone is having medical issues so she can call me up and tell me the latest news. Her and I are friends and she knows that I'm NC with MIL and you'd think she'd realize I don't want to hear about it, and yet she's calling me non stop.
In the middle of all of this I'm feeling like the world's biggest asshole because I truly have no sympathy for the woman. That's the exact opposite of who I am as a person. I cry when I hear that some stranger's been hurt on the news, and I can't even muster up any feelings for MIL being in the hospital.
I don't know what to say to my husband other than the most lame ass "I'm sorry." He seems at a loss on how to mentally deal with all this too, but damn as his wife I should be able to muster up some words of encouragement and I've got nothing.
I'd be so thankful to hear others' stories from going thru this and any advice you care to give.

Roughly two weeks ago, employee A and B got into an argument because employee B was upset that he was being called by his first name and not his middle name, which he claims employee A always calls him.
Just before this, employee A had to warn employee B multiple times that he was performing his work task incorrectly and was a danger to himself. Employee A assumed this is why employee B was upset; again, employee B claims it’s the name situation. Employee B followed employee A across the production floor until his supervisor stepped in to stop him. Employee A continued yelling and cussing at employee B who stood there without adding to the confrontation.
Employee A writes a statement and leaves work for the day. When employee A walks out of the facility, he is met by employee B and his girlfriend. Employee B’s girlfriend yells, “you won’t be smiling when you get your a** beat!” To employee A. Employee A returns inside to tell the appropriate staff members what just happened. Employee A would write a second statement of this event, which was also on camera as the previous event, and give it to the appropriate staff member.
Employee A wakes up later that evening (3rd shift employee) to the news he is suspended pending an investigation. Employee A’s bosses ensure him that he will get back payed for all his time off and that he 100% will not lose his job.
Fast forward one week, employee A receives a call from his boss asking if he has been in contact with anyone (this is now a corporate issue). Employee A has not been in contact with anyone. Employee A’s boss informs him that employee B was back at work last night. Employee A does not hear from anyone for the rest of the week.
Fast forward to yesterday, employee A receives a call from “HR”. Employee A gives the story again, and is met with what felt like attacks from HR. HR seemed to question employee A for what appeared to be taunting (wagging a finger — employee A was pointing to his eyes to motion that employee B was not wearing goggles lol). HR did not seem interested in the threats made towards employee A, and told employee A to expect a call by the end of the day today from another HR member to finalize the situation.
Employee A asked the HR member how employee B was able to return to work while they sat at home not hearing anything. The HR member replied that even if they knew anything, they couldn’t discuss another team member.
Employee A is still awaiting a call from HR today. I don’t know what I am looking for, as the state employee A lives in is an employment-at-will state, but this whole situation just seems wrong.
This company has been in the news lately with a lot of negative press. I wonder if they are being extremely careful with how they handle the situation? It still does not make sense how one employee would return to work while the other employee, who was not the aggressor, is at home still.
Thoughts?
TLDR; one employee is suspended still while the other employee, who is the aggressor in the situation, is back at work already.

My son has been attending a private school and is now in middle school. He runs in track and cross country and keeps to himself. He has one friend that we make him see outside of school, otherwise he is not interested in seeing his classmates. Is it possible that he will start making friends when he switches to the private high school or should we plan to enroll him in public? My husband and I were public school kids so we feel like outsiders in his private school! I just found out today that his classmates have a group text chat that he is not a part of. What are your thoughts?

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Today, while having lunch with a friend by a glass window in a restaurant around Lavender, I noticed a middle-aged Indian man walking by. Dressed in a sarong and short-sleeved shirt, he made eye contact with me and pointed to the middle of his forehead with his index finger, while smiling at me. I returned his smile and continued my conversation, but the encounter lingered in my mind.
This wasn't the first time something like this had happened. Back in 2019, as I walked past a row of shops in Bugis, another middle-aged Indian man, resting at one of the units, made eye contact from a distance and did the same gesture—pointing to the middle of his forehead and nodding approvingly.
Both times, the men seemed uninterested in starting a conversation, maintaining their distance.
For context, I'm just a random Singaporean Chinese male. What does this mean? Is there a hidden message behind this gesture?

For some background - my husband and I have been together since junior year of high school. We are now 37 - have been married almost 14 years, two kids ages 7 and 9.
His relationship with his mom has always been strained. The first time I met her when I was 17 she looked at me then back to my hubby and said “well i hope you use a condom”. When we got engaged she told him “theres so many fish in the sea”. So obviously her distaste for me has been since day one.
Ive expressed so many times over the last 20 years how I dont want to be in the middle of their discord and finally in 2022 asked her to please not call me or text me and to communicate only with her son as I need to protect my mental health and can not put up with constantly being blamed for my husband wanting no relationship and not allowing her around the kids.
My husband has also not spoken to her or responded to any calls or texts from her since around this time. So naturally in her head this is all my fault.
On Mother’s Day she called my cell. I did not answer. She starts off her message purposely calling me by the wrong name and then saying “whatever u wanna be called”. She then moved on to say its so difficult to talk to me bc Im always so mean. Its horrible and unhealthy for us to hold onto anger or the past. Everyone thinks its strange we behave this way.
This obviously ruined my day a bit. My husband was like just ignore it, she wants you to react and wants to piss us off so we look crazy. Anyone who knows us knows you arent mean and that shes not right in the head.
I know he is right and that shes just trying to get a reaction and she craves attention even if negative.
Should I just block her phone number at this point to not have to read or listen to her messages - I really dont understand why she cant respect such a simple request to not call or text me and only communicate with her son.

Not a traditional post I believe, but I still wanted to ask. Apologies for the long text.. ;)
https://reddit.com/link/1crtm2t/video/v5iltnii7e0d1/player
A bit of background information: The white SF car was consistently going about 20 seconds a lap slower than everybody else and was kinda unpredictable concerning his line, which led to a few incidents. He did not have any damage.
In the first clip you can see me behind the white SF. I know that I should have been more careful, though it was the fist time encountering him for me. For reference, he was going about 90km/h in a corner you take at about 230km/h on a normal lap. I didn't expect him to be this slow and thought he would at least hit the apex then so I could go around the outside of him, which he didn't. You can also see the one behind me struggling to not crash into him.
In the second clip, it's almost the same as with me, but with the leader. He lost a few seconds as well. Just took that clip in for another example.
The third clip is then an accident between him and someone in the top 5, I believe. Though it was netcode, I don't think they would have gone trough the corner without contact. Again, he is going super slowly and driving in the middle of the circuit.
The last clip shows an onboard of his driving. As you can see and hear, he is barely even going full throttle, even on straights.
All of these incidents, which aren't even all, happened while he was being lapped. I know that he could be new to the car and / or track, just not as experienced, mistakenly registered for the race or even something else and therefore being careful, though 20 seconds a lap is quite a lot. But this was just dangerous for everyone over the whole race and he should probably stick to practice for now, if he is actually new to the car and track. Is something like this reportable and should it even be reported or would you say to just leave it as it is? In which category would you put a possible report?
I dont mean to offend anyone with this, and I am not even sure if I would want to report him, because you don't know the cause of all of this. Thank you for your answers and opinions. :)

I HAVE NO INTENTION OF USING IT, IN ANY WAY!
My ex spent our entire relationship treating me as subhuman. He knowingly and deliberately worsened a medical condition of mine, the second he found out how. At one point he had a haircut appointment, and believed at that time I was going home to kill myself. He kept the appointment. No calls or texts to make sure I was ok. No wellness check. Nothing.
But he couldn't handle seeing himself as anything other than the virtuous victim/ heroic knight of the story. Even as he watched me deteriorate, even as I was begging him to stop, he had to be the good guy- so I had to be the evil, controlling girlfriend. And I'd already seen him pathologize someone in his friend group, to exonerate himself and everyone else of any blame. (Apparently she's been an evil, manipulative puppet master, since she first met any of them back in middle school.)
All this to say, in the course of insisting he's the good guy, he has taken complete departures from reality, screaming at me while he did so. We're talking screaming that he never did something, while he was doing it. All my sacrifices were his; all his fucked up behaviors were my fault. I was evil and controlling; I should have done mode to control him, if I wanted him to stop.
Since I'm the evil monster, he takes any excuse to go after me. If I'm vulnerable, he goes for the kill. I am fucking terrified of him. I don't know how far he's willing to go, to defend his ego- and I really don't want to find out.
We had a notarized agreement, which stipulated- among other things- that I was to inform him of when he had mail. I used to tell him every time, because I have been trying to be nice to him. I decided to stop, and so he has now received one notice that he has mail, and no further notices as long as that piece remains present.
Today, I found an open envelope with a credit card he never activate (I believe). But it is the actual card, not one of those cardboard things.
I want to avoid him going for another kill. The straight up insane things he's accused me of- this could easily turn into another attempt to ho after me.
I do remember when he got this card, and it's long enough ago that it would be obvious he opened it.
I'd rather cut it up, and dispose of it. But I'm not sure that would be legal. I'm hesitant to put it with his mail, as he would 100% convince himself that I opened his mail.
How do I get rid of this thing, with the least possible risk to me or my health? TIA.

I believe My (30F) younger sibling (27) is psychologically abusing our parents (67m and 52F). Younger sibling lives with them, but does not contribute to the home in any way. YS will regularly throw tantrums like a child, yelling/screaming, breaking things, accuse them of being unsupportive, etc over small things such as being asked to take out the garbage on time or clean up after themselves. YS has a job, but only works 1-2 days a week and does not use any of this money to financially contribute. They spend what money they have on weed and spend their days smoking, sleeping and playing video games. YS regularly steals money and other items from my parents despite the fact they provide food and utilities as well as a rent free home. All around they’re a deadbeat and an ass.
Here is where things really cross into abuse territory… we have an older sibling who had major behavioral issues and was kicked out of the house at 18. After being on his own for a few years, he came back and started working on bettering his life when he was struck by a drunk driver and is now living with serious mental and physical impairment. This was over 10 years ago, but becuase of this experience, my parents (mom especially) are unwilling to ever put one of their kids out again or really address behavioral concerns. YS knows this and has been manipulating that fact ever since. YS talks to my parents like they are stupid, they starts arguments and throw full on tantrums over nothing and will regularly threaten suicide to get his way. This also happens every time someone else is getting attention. For example, yesterday was Mother’s Day and he made a big deal of crying and screaming becuase my kids were being too loud and my dad was watching tv. Mom told YS that if they don’t like the activity on the house, they need to find their own place. YS then disappeared for hours without responding to anyone’s texts or calls only to return in the middle of the night. They left a dr. Summary on the counter for my parents to find in the morning stating they were contemplating suicide. This is really just scratching the surface of the shit YS does to people and it would take all day to lay it all out there.
I have tried to explain to my parents that this is abuse and they need to find a way out of this situation, but becuase of past trauma, they feel very limited on what to do. They are even considering paying part of YS monthly rent somewhere just to get them out of their house. How do I help my parents?