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2024.06.09 16:48 Subject_Ordinary2699 Haven’t been getting along for months, every day I feel closer to being so over this and done.
Umm… it’s a long story I guess. TL/DR at the bottom.
Sometimes I really want to divorce. But I also really don’t. I do love my husband a lot and we have had such incredible times together and built a really amazing life. I don’t want to leave it all behind, to start over with someone new, blow up my life and start with literally nothing, but man am I hurting right now. I feel so lonely in my marriage that sometimes I feel like it would just be easier to actually be alone. I don’t like how I’m being treated and I don’t like that I’m asking for bare minimum and not even getting that. Sometimes I feel like I am growing up and outgrowing him/our dynamic and things feel stagnated (I want kids, he wants to drink and party).
My husband (30M) and I (29F) have hit a rough patch, except I’m not even sure if it’s just a rough patch anymore or if we are truly falling apart. Together for nearly 6 years, married for 3. It makes me sick to think about because I feel as if my husband is a totally different person now. I’m so confused because our relationship has never ever felt this wrong or hurtful, I used to believe our love was so healthy and nurturing; my husband used to communicate and be open and loving and now he’s just passive aggressive (he’ll even admit it), hot/cold and mean to me.
He has said some very hurtful things but will never take accountability or apologize for what he has said to me, he often times will spin things around and blame me for all the ways I’m hurting him and never acknowledge what I have come to him with; like I will raise a concern and somehow by the end of it, I’m left apologizing while my feelings were never acknowledged. Or he just goes “ok!?” Like ok so what??? A lot of DARVO and defensiveness, he will twist my words and insist I said something when I know I didn’t. If I call him out, I just get a “sorry I misspoke” from him. If I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says it’s a me problem. That he has no problems. That I should just be happy and move on. In his mind, we wake up the next day and be happy and all is well because we choose to be better (ok sure, fine) but with no apology or repair attempts, I have a hard time “just moving on”. It’s hard to forgive a person that can’t even admit they hurt you or show remorse for how they have done so. I have gone to bed sobbing next to him and it’s never brought up or talked about the next day and he wonders why I’m growing distant. He has zero compassion and empathy for my feelings and I feel really alone in that.
Last year, we were long distance for the whole year (military). Our fights started in September when I went to visit and I felt he was disrespecting me, mocking me, not taking me seriously, disregarding my suggestions in front of our friends. One night, he started picking fights with me at a bar and insisted we go home “because I wasn’t having fun”. I never expressed that, though the bar scene is not my thing, I still went with him and our friends and was enjoying our time. I told him to go have fun, dance, hang out and I’ll enjoy my drink. He kept saying I wasn’t having fun and we needed to leave and I kept insisting I was totally happy to just be there (that was the truth). A lot of times he will project his own interpretations of my feelings onto me and assume he knows what I’m thinking/feeling without asking. We left that night without our friends and grabbed dinner on the way back to the hotel, except he completely ignored me and stonewalled me the entire time. I tried to make conversation but took the hint, let him know I don’t feel welcome in this interaction since he wasn’t engaging in return, and that I was going back to the hotel alone since he clearly didn’t want me there. His defensiveness is usually cold and silent, he has admitted that he “stonewalls me because he’s done talking with me”. He refuses to talk a lot of the time or will say there’s nothing he wants to talk about.
After I had come back home, our fights continued. I asked him a handful of times to please send me the pics we took on our vacations and it took him over a month of me reminding him to please just do it. Finally he became angry and BLEW UP on me and sent them, only half, and I reminded him that there’s more and he spit back at me “THAT’S ALL I HAVE, WE’RE NEVER TAKING PICTURES ON MY PHONE AGAIN” when I knew there were more. What a stupid, petty thing to get mad at me over?
Another time, he completely disappeared on me for 3 whole days and I hardly heard a word from him. I knew exactly where he was (drunk in his dorm playing video games, on a complete bender with his friends online, only taking breaks to go to work drunk/hungover and come back to drinking again). I attempted to reach out, say hi, stay connected, because I feel that’s important long distance? To make an effort to communicate? Because we have a responsibility to each other? I don’t feel like I’m asking for much here, but he was just gone for 3 days. When I finally heard from him and let him know how hurt I was because I felt like he didn’t have time for me (I have often felt second to his online friends, I spent a year and a half going to bed alone and existing without him because he would stay up drinking with them), all he said was “sorry sometimes I just fuck off into my own world”. Like dude you have a wife that you need to be involved with too? I have a really big problem with his drinking and his online life as it’s taken a higher priority over me a lot of times. For a long time, all I saw him do was go to work, come home, drink and game.
Between September to now, things have only spiraled and gotten so much worse. In January, we moved abroad. I knew it would be a hard adjustment for me as I’ve never left home, am incredibly close to my family and overall just a big change, plus I had all my luggage and our two pets to drag through airports and onto flights with. I needed help. I wanted to do it together, as husband and wife, I wanted his support and for us to be doing this new thing in life together… except I had to BEG him to come pick me up. I knew I would need him as my heart was aching over leaving home. There was so much resistance from him though, he said I’d be fine and to just meet him at our next duty station. That it’s such a big waste of time and money to come get me from Asia (he gets a free flight home though??), just to fly back to Asia. Then he started talking about going home to his home state before our move, to see friends and family, and I asked, ok so if you’re in the states already, why not just come up to me and pick me up and we go to Japan together (also, he has time and money to go them but not for me?)? At this point he came unglued and hysterical, insisting again how it’s a waste of time and money and who is going to pay for him to go home? Me? (I’m like, wtf why would I pay for you to go party but you can’t make time to pick me up for a big transition???) he let me know how much I frustrate him and honestly the whole fight just turned into something so bizarre and vague, I wondered what we even were fighting about anymore (as often is the case). I was sobbing and so hurt that he clearly wasn’t choosing me when I needed him, and we fell silent on the phone while I just cried and cried. All he could say was “yeah I know you’re pissed at me”.
Since moving, our sex life has completely declined (my fault). I’ve been depressed, stressed, tired and honestly so hurt by him that I don’t want to have sex with him, especially when he won’t even acknowledge that he has hurt me or apologize. That’s not someone I want to be intimate with. So I have rejected him a couple times, letting him know I’m feeling really insecure about us. I have tried SO HARD to not reject him because I know how hurtful it is, and sometimes in the past, I was just tired. Not in the mood. It doesn’t happen frequently at all (maybe 3 times in our time together), and the times I have said no, he literally will throw himself over in a tantrum like manner and it’s so gross and childish to me. Now, since things have gotten worse, he just goes cold. He told me that if it weren’t for us being married, my couple of times saying no recently would’ve been enough for him to be done with me. And that hurts, because not once has he even attempted to ask what’s wrong, why am I feeling this way, what can we do differently, how is my heart? He can throw everything away over that without even talking to me first? I told him I’m straight up depressed/homesick and having a hard time since moving, not to mention our lack of connection, and he never expressed concern, only his hurt feelings for how rejected and ugly he feels because I won’t have sex with him. He makes weird, off handed snarky comments about how he sometimes “considers going to the gym and getting in shape just to attract some attention and that he never would do that, but he’s thought about it”. The weird comments have happened here and there over a few subjects, leaving me dead in my tracks thinking “what the fuck was that? Where did that comment even come from?”
I have begged him to meet me half way outside of the bedroom, because I don’t feel emotionally connected anymore and that we really need help, and he’s still so dumbfounded that I won’t have sex even though I’ve clearly laid out the ways in which I’m hurting and feeling like we are falling apart. I can’t even remember the last time he told me he loved me first, that he appreciates me, is proud of me, feels lucky to have me, but he used to say those things.
At one point, I wrote him a very long, heartfelt letter stating exactly what was hurting me and why I was feeling the way I am. He read it and didn’t speak to me or even look at me for a week. LITERALLY. When he finally responded (opposite shifts and never any time to talk, a lot of our conversations have been letters or texts lately, because there’s no time/we never see each other and our in person fights derail anyways), he told me he “read my note and felt nothing and that he didn’t care, but knows that he should care so he’ll consider how he should feel.”
I have asked for counseling, to which he insisted he was never going to do again because it’s just a crying/shit-on-the-husband-fest (he is divorced once, I assume he went with his ex), he told me there’s nothing wrong with him, he doesn’t need someone telling him how to live his life, he’s happy with who he is and will not go to counseling. I told him it’s not an option anymore and so we went once (didn’t go well) and he reminded me more than once how stupid it was. I told him I want a husband that has a growth mindset and someone who is wanting to work on things with me, who takes me seriously when I say we need help, someone who is open to talking and communicating. He took offense that I don’t think he’s growth minded because of his spiritual journey and personal growth but I asked him, how are you showing up as a husband? He tells me “we don’t need to be checking in and talking about things”.
He says I’m trying to change him and want him to be different (because I’ve asked him for help around the house but he doesn’t see the mess the same so it doesn’t matter to him? But to me it does because it’s his mess too and we exist together, therefore we both need to be making an effort? I have taken on 90% of the household chores for a while now and let him know I need help and suddenly he’s saying I’m trying to change him and asking him to “put on his husband mask”, what does that even mean?????) I’ve asked him to attempt to speak my love language more (touch and words), as there’s hardly any intimacy between us (no hand holding, cuddling, hardly any affection outside the bedroom) and that’s asking him to be someone he is not?? Because he’s not touchy feely? He will slap my ass or grope my boobs (huge pet peeve and I’ve expressed that) and when I ask him for a hug instead, there’s push back? He gets mad and guilts me when I won’t drink with him (I don’t need or want to drink every night at home, sorry). One time he was poking and pinching at my sides and I asked him not to as it was making me uncomfortable (struggling with binge eating at the moment) and he got irritated and defensive because “he’s just playing and why can’t I have fun”.
Through all of this, I feel like I am the one saying I want to work on things, I love him and our life and let’s do better, let’s fix things, let’s grow together, I’m the one still making an effort to bridge the gap even though we are hurting, and all I’m hearing from him are all the ways he doesn’t like me: he thinks I’m boring (because I won’t drink with him), that I can’t do anything for him that he doesn’t do for himself (yes he literally said this, what do I even offer him?), that he fell in love with me for my independence and what am I doing now? (I uprooted my entire life and moved to another country to support him, I got a job within 2 weeks of being here and have since secured a government position, I’ve bought and paid off a car in 3 months, I go out and travel in a country where I can’t even speak the language, made friends, and he says I’m not independent?? WTF), that he doesn’t need me or this relationship and only fears I’m wasting his time. He can’t think of a single thing he appreciates about me (his words) when I feel I have given up everything and bend over backwards for him to care for him and our relationship. I really feel he doesn’t like me or respect me, but he’ll say he wants me around. He insists I don’t love him or like him, but I feel that is his own projection onto me. We are long distance again and I have expressed multiple times that it’s important to me to stay engaged and check in at least once daily, to say hi, and I’ve been doing that despite being incredibly busy myself, but he ghosts me constantly and is hardly reciprocating effort. I have hardly heard from him in a month, despite my efforts (I’m starting to feel like a damn fool by continuously reaching out, if I don’t text, we don’t talk, I’m tired of the games and have since pulled back but that feels so shitty to even have to do???). I want someone that WANTS to say hi to me and see how I’m doing???
I don’t feel I have a friend in him, as he never asks about me, my life, my inner world, what’s going on with me, does not express interest in my new jobs, new friends etc, when I am constantly interacting with his world and engaging with him. I have expressed to him I feel like I am his friend but he is not mine because he doesn’t express an interest. We do a lot of what he wants and not a lot of what I want.
I told him I want to go home for my 30th birthday in July (it’s a big deal to me!) and I asked him to meet up with me in my state (he will already be in the states for a work trip). He told me he doesn’t want to come hang out with me on my birthday and was instead thinking of going to a big get together with his online friends in a different state to party and drink with them. That really hurt me. Do I not matter to him at all???
I have a big problem with his drinking (he has driven drunk at least 3 times that I know of, 2 of which I was in the car with him, once my family was also involved), I have expressed my concerns about his drinking and he says “I don’t think it’s a problem”. I told him I don’t want our future kids thinking it’s ok to wake up and pop open a beer for breakfast every day and he dismissed it.
We are not agreeing or seeing eye to eye on our next 5-10 years together: we want kids, but I want to be in the states closer to home so we can have our families be involved with our kids too, meanwhile he wants to live abroad as long as possible and retire out of the military overseas. He wants nothing to do with his family and doesn’t care to be close to them. I knew this, and thought I would be ok with it, but I’ve since realized that it’s actually really important to me to have our families involved and not be on the other side of the world at the moment. We can’t find a way to meet in the middle on this, but I don’t want to be this far away for too long (current trajectory is 3-7 years). He says he isn’t sure if he can compromise because he’s always done for others and not himself. Meanwhile, I feel like: maybe you should’ve thought about that before getting married? Aren’t your spouse’s feelings enough to move you in a direction that would be fulfilling for both of us, not just yourself? I agreed to 4 years overseas when I really didn’t want to, and now that I’m asking that we go home after, now it’s an issue?
We went to a marriage retreat that only further revealed what I have been hurting and expressing concern about: that I don’t feel connected and that we need to be digging deeper and investing more into our relationship. I cried so hard when we returned from that retreat and all he could tell me was how frustrated he was that he took us there only for me to come home and cry about it.
He is ok with pushing my boundaries and disregarding my feelings: example of this a couple months ago, I let him know multiple times and many hours in advance we had dinner reservations (we need to leave by 7). He gets ready around 630. I tell him, ok time to go. He says, just 5 more minutes (on his pc gaming and drinking). I say, ok it’s been 5 minutes, let’s go. He says, wait just another minute. 20 minutes pass and I’m now visibly irritated and telling him, I’m leaving, now we’re going to be late. He gets pissy and storms behind me, I let him know that it’s really important to me to be on time for things and I felt really disrespected by him making us late. He told me with attitude that “it’s fine” and it’s “not a big deal because we’ll still be there and we’ll get there when we get there”.
In the store, I will ask for his input on groceries and he will mutter under his breath to leave him alone, only to admit later that he did that and it was disrespectful: but just as an admittance and matter of fact, nothing more, like he’s ok with disrespecting me and declaring it??
Honestly there’s still so much to this, but it’s getting long - bottom line, I just really feel he doesn’t respect me or like me. I don’t feel like he loves me as a husband should or how I envision a marriage to be. I feel a lot of disinterest and complacency. I wonder if he could ever even properly be there for me in the ways I would want my husband to be (what happens when my dog or parents die, is he just going to dismiss my feelings then too and tell me to get over it? He is very emotionally avoidant, numb and dismissive). I don’t feel loved, supported, heard or understood, I feel so incredibly lonely in our marriage. I feel I am reaching a breaking point and it hurts deeply. He was NEVER like this, our relationship used to be so good and I have no idea what happened or why things changed but I am deeply unhappy now and don’t see a way forward with an unwilling partner who will not participate or sees nothing wrong. I deserve better and I want a husband and partner in life that is just as invested and just as loving and interested in me and willing to grow, as I am to him. I’m a damn good wife and I know that, I know what I have to offer, and I want someone that sees that and appreciates that. I feel my husband is very childish and immature and emotionally unavailable, I have wondered but whether or not he is manipulative doesn’t really matter and I don’t think labels are helpful, at this point all I know is I’m hurting and this isn’t working for me.
Of course this is only my side of the story, and no I have not been perfect. I have found myself in a dark, contemptuous state of mind towards him and tried my best to turn that around and reflect and do things differently. I am reading books, listening to podcasts, going to counseling, trying to model to him real apologies (sincerely too). He will say that I criticize him (I do have a harsh start up at times but have since tried to communicate softer and take more responsibility for my feelings and not find fault in his actions), that I want him to be someone he is not (he says I want him to put on a husband mask??), that he feels ugly and rejected because I won’t have sex with him, that I’m hurting him (but I’m honestly confused as to how because he can’t give specifics when I ask how or what I can do differently).
Sometimes I just feel so done with this and like it’s not worth it. I gave up everything to be in another country with him, I gave up friends, family, a career that I wanted to pursue, EVERYTHING, and this does not feel worth the pain I am feeling being so far away from the things that bring me joy outside of him. I feel deeply unfulfilled day to day.
We used to be so happy. He was so sweet and nurturing and cared for me, took interest in me, prioritized me. We had a wonderful life and home together, supported each other’s dreams and desires, used to communicate openly without defense or combative behavior. This is so left field for him/us that it’s left me deeply confused and feeling so much ambivalence. I used to feel #1 to him and now I just feel like his roommate.
Jesus this is long, if you read it and have any advice, thank you. I feel so alone in these feelings and don’t want to dump on my family and friends more than I have already. I am in individual counseling and that helps but I just needed to get it out of me and into the void.
TL/DR: basically I feel like I started challenging some bad behaviors and speaking up when my feelings were hurt (previously I guess I was the “cool girl” and chill and wouldn’t speak up and now I have resentment), and our relationship has become toxic. I am constantly torn between should I stay or should I go? I really don’t have much optimism anymore as my husband will spin things around and blame me, and I’m really not trying to act like a victim here, but he doesn’t take accountability or step up into being a leading man or husband and I’m tired. I’m tired of fighting, feeling sad, being long distance from my family and life in what feels like a failing marriage and not feeling like I’m being met half way on repairing/moving forward in a healthy manner.
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Sometimes I really want to divorce. But I also really don’t. I do love my husband a lot and we have had such incredible times together and built a really amazing life. I don’t want to leave it all behind, to start over with someone new, blow up my life and start with literally nothing, but man am I hurting right now. I feel so lonely in my marriage that sometimes I feel like it would just be easier to actually be alone. I don’t like how I’m being treated and I don’t like that I’m asking for bare minimum and not even getting that. Sometimes I feel like I am growing up and outgrowing him/our dynamic and things feel stagnated (I want kids, he wants to drink and party).
My husband (30M) and I (29F) have hit a rough patch, except I’m not even sure if it’s just a rough patch anymore or if we are truly falling apart. Together for nearly 6 years, married for 3. It makes me sick to think about because I feel as if my husband is a totally different person now. I’m so confused because our relationship has never ever felt this wrong or hurtful, I used to believe our love was so healthy and nurturing; my husband used to communicate and be open and loving and now he’s just passive aggressive (he’ll even admit it), hot/cold and mean to me.
He has said some very hurtful things but will never take accountability or apologize for what he has said to me, he often times will spin things around and blame me for all the ways I’m hurting him and never acknowledge what I have come to him with; like I will raise a concern and somehow by the end of it, I’m left apologizing while my feelings were never acknowledged. Or he just goes “ok!?” Like ok so what??? A lot of DARVO and defensiveness, he will twist my words and insist I said something when I know I didn’t. If I call him out, I just get a “sorry I misspoke” from him. If I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says it’s a me problem. That he has no problems. That I should just be happy and move on. In his mind, we wake up the next day and be happy and all is well because we choose to be better (ok sure, fine) but with no apology or repair attempts, I have a hard time “just moving on”. It’s hard to forgive a person that can’t even admit they hurt you or show remorse for how they have done so. I have gone to bed sobbing next to him and it’s never brought up or talked about the next day and he wonders why I’m growing distant. He has zero compassion and empathy for my feelings and I feel really alone in that.
Last year, we were long distance for the whole year (military). Our fights started in September when I went to visit and I felt he was disrespecting me, mocking me, not taking me seriously, disregarding my suggestions in front of our friends. One night, he started picking fights with me at a bar and insisted we go home “because I wasn’t having fun”. I never expressed that, though the bar scene is not my thing, I still went with him and our friends and was enjoying our time. I told him to go have fun, dance, hang out and I’ll enjoy my drink. He kept saying I wasn’t having fun and we needed to leave and I kept insisting I was totally happy to just be there (that was the truth). A lot of times he will project his own interpretations of my feelings onto me and assume he knows what I’m thinking/feeling without asking. We left that night without our friends and grabbed dinner on the way back to the hotel, except he completely ignored me and stonewalled me the entire time. I tried to make conversation but took the hint, let him know I don’t feel welcome in this interaction since he wasn’t engaging in return, and that I was going back to the hotel alone since he clearly didn’t want me there. His defensiveness is usually cold and silent, he has admitted that he “stonewalls me because he’s done talking with me”. He refuses to talk a lot of the time or will say there’s nothing he wants to talk about.
After I had come back home, our fights continued. I asked him a handful of times to please send me the pics we took on our vacations and it took him over a month of me reminding him to please just do it. Finally he became angry and BLEW UP on me and sent them, only half, and I reminded him that there’s more and he spit back at me “THAT’S ALL I HAVE, WE’RE NEVER TAKING PICTURES ON MY PHONE AGAIN” when I knew there were more. What a stupid, petty thing to get mad at me over?
Another time, he completely disappeared on me for 3 whole days and I hardly heard a word from him. I knew exactly where he was (drunk in his dorm playing video games, on a complete bender with his friends online, only taking breaks to go to work drunk/hungover and come back to drinking again). I attempted to reach out, say hi, stay connected, because I feel that’s important long distance? To make an effort to communicate? Because we have a responsibility to each other? I don’t feel like I’m asking for much here, but he was just gone for 3 days. When I finally heard from him and let him know how hurt I was because I felt like he didn’t have time for me (I have often felt second to his online friends, I spent a year and a half going to bed alone and existing without him because he would stay up drinking with them), all he said was “sorry sometimes I just fuck off into my own world”. Like dude you have a wife that you need to be involved with too? I have a really big problem with his drinking and his online life as it’s taken a higher priority over me a lot of times. For a long time, all I saw him do was go to work, come home, drink and game.
Between September to now, things have only spiraled and gotten so much worse. In January, we moved abroad. I knew it would be a hard adjustment for me as I’ve never left home, am incredibly close to my family and overall just a big change, plus I had all my luggage and our two pets to drag through airports and onto flights with. I needed help. I wanted to do it together, as husband and wife, I wanted his support and for us to be doing this new thing in life together… except I had to BEG him to come pick me up. I knew I would need him as my heart was aching over leaving home. There was so much resistance from him though, he said I’d be fine and to just meet him at our next duty station. That it’s such a big waste of time and money to come get me from Asia (he gets a free flight home though??), just to fly back to Asia. Then he started talking about going home to his home state before our move, to see friends and family, and I asked, ok so if you’re in the states already, why not just come up to me and pick me up and we go to Japan together (also, he has time and money to go them but not for me?)? At this point he came unglued and hysterical, insisting again how it’s a waste of time and money and who is going to pay for him to go home? Me? (I’m like, wtf why would I pay for you to go party but you can’t make time to pick me up for a big transition???) he let me know how much I frustrate him and honestly the whole fight just turned into something so bizarre and vague, I wondered what we even were fighting about anymore (as often is the case). I was sobbing and so hurt that he clearly wasn’t choosing me when I needed him, and we fell silent on the phone while I just cried and cried. All he could say was “yeah I know you’re pissed at me”.
Since moving, our sex life has completely declined (my fault). I’ve been depressed, stressed, tired and honestly so hurt by him that I don’t want to have sex with him, especially when he won’t even acknowledge that he has hurt me or apologize. That’s not someone I want to be intimate with. So I have rejected him a couple times, letting him know I’m feeling really insecure about us. I have tried SO HARD to not reject him because I know how hurtful it is, and sometimes in the past, I was just tired. Not in the mood. It doesn’t happen frequently at all (maybe 3 times in our time together), and the times I have said no, he literally will throw himself over in a tantrum like manner and it’s so gross and childish to me. Now, since things have gotten worse, he just goes cold. He told me that if it weren’t for us being married, my couple of times saying no recently would’ve been enough for him to be done with me. And that hurts, because not once has he even attempted to ask what’s wrong, why am I feeling this way, what can we do differently, how is my heart? He can throw everything away over that without even talking to me first? I told him I’m straight up depressed/homesick and having a hard time since moving, not to mention our lack of connection, and he never expressed concern, only his hurt feelings for how rejected and ugly he feels because I won’t have sex with him. He makes weird, off handed snarky comments about how he sometimes “considers going to the gym and getting in shape just to attract some attention and that he never would do that, but he’s thought about it”. The weird comments have happened here and there over a few subjects, leaving me dead in my tracks thinking “what the fuck was that? Where did that comment even come from?”
I have begged him to meet me half way outside of the bedroom, because I don’t feel emotionally connected anymore and that we really need help, and he’s still so dumbfounded that I won’t have sex even though I’ve clearly laid out the ways in which I’m hurting and feeling like we are falling apart. I can’t even remember the last time he told me he loved me first, that he appreciates me, is proud of me, feels lucky to have me, but he used to say those things.
At one point, I wrote him a very long, heartfelt letter stating exactly what was hurting me and why I was feeling the way I am. He read it and didn’t speak to me or even look at me for a week. LITERALLY. When he finally responded (opposite shifts and never any time to talk, a lot of our conversations have been letters or texts lately, because there’s no time/we never see each other and our in person fights derail anyways), he told me he “read my note and felt nothing and that he didn’t care, but knows that he should care so he’ll consider how he should feel.”
I have asked for counseling, to which he insisted he was never going to do again because it’s just a crying/shit-on-the-husband-fest (he is divorced once, I assume he went with his ex), he told me there’s nothing wrong with him, he doesn’t need someone telling him how to live his life, he’s happy with who he is and will not go to counseling. I told him it’s not an option anymore and so we went once (didn’t go well) and he reminded me more than once how stupid it was. I told him I want a husband that has a growth mindset and someone who is wanting to work on things with me, who takes me seriously when I say we need help, someone who is open to talking and communicating. He took offense that I don’t think he’s growth minded because of his spiritual journey and personal growth but I asked him, how are you showing up as a husband? He tells me “we don’t need to be checking in and talking about things”.
He says I’m trying to change him and want him to be different (because I’ve asked him for help around the house but he doesn’t see the mess the same so it doesn’t matter to him? But to me it does because it’s his mess too and we exist together, therefore we both need to be making an effort? I have taken on 90% of the household chores for a while now and let him know I need help and suddenly he’s saying I’m trying to change him and asking him to “put on his husband mask”, what does that even mean?????) I’ve asked him to attempt to speak my love language more (touch and words), as there’s hardly any intimacy between us (no hand holding, cuddling, hardly any affection outside the bedroom) and that’s asking him to be someone he is not?? Because he’s not touchy feely? He will slap my ass or grope my boobs (huge pet peeve and I’ve expressed that) and when I ask him for a hug instead, there’s push back? He gets mad and guilts me when I won’t drink with him (I don’t need or want to drink every night at home, sorry). One time he was poking and pinching at my sides and I asked him not to as it was making me uncomfortable (struggling with binge eating at the moment) and he got irritated and defensive because “he’s just playing and why can’t I have fun”.
Through all of this, I feel like I am the one saying I want to work on things, I love him and our life and let’s do better, let’s fix things, let’s grow together, I’m the one still making an effort to bridge the gap even though we are hurting, and all I’m hearing from him are all the ways he doesn’t like me: he thinks I’m boring (because I won’t drink with him), that I can’t do anything for him that he doesn’t do for himself (yes he literally said this, what do I even offer him?), that he fell in love with me for my independence and what am I doing now? (I uprooted my entire life and moved to another country to support him, I got a job within 2 weeks of being here and have since secured a government position, I’ve bought and paid off a car in 3 months, I go out and travel in a country where I can’t even speak the language, made friends, and he says I’m not independent?? WTF), that he doesn’t need me or this relationship and only fears I’m wasting his time. He can’t think of a single thing he appreciates about me (his words) when I feel I have given up everything and bend over backwards for him to care for him and our relationship. I really feel he doesn’t like me or respect me, but he’ll say he wants me around. He insists I don’t love him or like him, but I feel that is his own projection onto me. We are long distance again and I have expressed multiple times that it’s important to me to stay engaged and check in at least once daily, to say hi, and I’ve been doing that despite being incredibly busy myself, but he ghosts me constantly and is hardly reciprocating effort. I have hardly heard from him in a month, despite my efforts (I’m starting to feel like a damn fool by continuously reaching out, if I don’t text, we don’t talk, I’m tired of the games and have since pulled back but that feels so shitty to even have to do???). I want someone that WANTS to say hi to me and see how I’m doing???
I don’t feel I have a friend in him, as he never asks about me, my life, my inner world, what’s going on with me, does not express interest in my new jobs, new friends etc, when I am constantly interacting with his world and engaging with him. I have expressed to him I feel like I am his friend but he is not mine because he doesn’t express an interest. We do a lot of what he wants and not a lot of what I want.
I told him I want to go home for my 30th birthday in July (it’s a big deal to me!) and I asked him to meet up with me in my state (he will already be in the states for a work trip). He told me he doesn’t want to come hang out with me on my birthday and was instead thinking of going to a big get together with his online friends in a different state to party and drink with them. That really hurt me. Do I not matter to him at all???
I have a big problem with his drinking (he has driven drunk at least 3 times that I know of, 2 of which I was in the car with him, once my family was also involved), I have expressed my concerns about his drinking and he says “I don’t think it’s a problem”. I told him I don’t want our future kids thinking it’s ok to wake up and pop open a beer for breakfast every day and he dismissed it.
We are not agreeing or seeing eye to eye on our next 5-10 years together: we want kids, but I want to be in the states closer to home so we can have our families be involved with our kids too, meanwhile he wants to live abroad as long as possible and retire out of the military overseas. He wants nothing to do with his family and doesn’t care to be close to them. I knew this, and thought I would be ok with it, but I’ve since realized that it’s actually really important to me to have our families involved and not be on the other side of the world at the moment. We can’t find a way to meet in the middle on this, but I don’t want to be this far away for too long (current trajectory is 3-7 years). He says he isn’t sure if he can compromise because he’s always done for others and not himself. Meanwhile, I feel like: maybe you should’ve thought about that before getting married? Aren’t your spouse’s feelings enough to move you in a direction that would be fulfilling for both of us, not just yourself? I agreed to 4 years overseas when I really didn’t want to, and now that I’m asking that we go home after, now it’s an issue?
We went to a marriage retreat that only further revealed what I have been hurting and expressing concern about: that I don’t feel connected and that we need to be digging deeper and investing more into our relationship. I cried so hard when we returned from that retreat and all he could tell me was how frustrated he was that he took us there only for me to come home and cry about it.
He is ok with pushing my boundaries and disregarding my feelings: example of this a couple months ago, I let him know multiple times and many hours in advance we had dinner reservations (we need to leave by 7). He gets ready around 630. I tell him, ok time to go. He says, just 5 more minutes (on his pc gaming and drinking). I say, ok it’s been 5 minutes, let’s go. He says, wait just another minute. 20 minutes pass and I’m now visibly irritated and telling him, I’m leaving, now we’re going to be late. He gets pissy and storms behind me, I let him know that it’s really important to me to be on time for things and I felt really disrespected by him making us late. He told me with attitude that “it’s fine” and it’s “not a big deal because we’ll still be there and we’ll get there when we get there”.
In the store, I will ask for his input on groceries and he will mutter under his breath to leave him alone, only to admit later that he did that and it was disrespectful: but just as an admittance and matter of fact, nothing more, like he’s ok with disrespecting me and declaring it??
Honestly there’s still so much to this, but it’s getting long - bottom line, I just really feel he doesn’t respect me or like me. I don’t feel like he loves me as a husband should or how I envision a marriage to be. I feel a lot of disinterest and complacency. I wonder if he could ever even properly be there for me in the ways I would want my husband to be (what happens when my dog or parents die, is he just going to dismiss my feelings then too and tell me to get over it? He is very emotionally avoidant, numb and dismissive). I don’t feel loved, supported, heard or understood, I feel so incredibly lonely in our marriage. I feel I am reaching a breaking point and it hurts deeply. He was NEVER like this, our relationship used to be so good and I have no idea what happened or why things changed but I am deeply unhappy now and don’t see a way forward with an unwilling partner who will not participate or sees nothing wrong. I deserve better and I want a husband and partner in life that is just as invested and just as loving and interested in me and willing to grow, as I am to him. I’m a damn good wife and I know that, I know what I have to offer, and I want someone that sees that and appreciates that. I feel my husband is very childish and immature and emotionally unavailable, I have wondered but whether or not he is manipulative doesn’t really matter and I don’t think labels are helpful, at this point all I know is I’m hurting and this isn’t working for me.
Of course this is only my side of the story, and no I have not been perfect. I have found myself in a dark, contemptuous state of mind towards him and tried my best to turn that around and reflect and do things differently. I am reading books, listening to podcasts, going to counseling, trying to model to him real apologies (sincerely too). He will say that I criticize him (I do have a harsh start up at times but have since tried to communicate softer and take more responsibility for my feelings and not find fault in his actions), that I want him to be someone he is not (he says I want him to put on a husband mask??), that he feels ugly and rejected because I won’t have sex with him, that I’m hurting him (but I’m honestly confused as to how because he can’t give specifics when I ask how or what I can do differently).
Sometimes I just feel so done with this and like it’s not worth it. I gave up everything to be in another country with him, I gave up friends, family, a career that I wanted to pursue, EVERYTHING, and this does not feel worth the pain I am feeling being so far away from the things that bring me joy outside of him. I feel deeply unfulfilled day to day.
We used to be so happy. He was so sweet and nurturing and cared for me, took interest in me, prioritized me. We had a wonderful life and home together, supported each other’s dreams and desires, used to communicate openly without defense or combative behavior. This is so left field for him/us that it’s left me deeply confused and feeling so much ambivalence. I used to feel #1 to him and now I just feel like his roommate.
Jesus this is long, if you read it and have any advice, thank you. I feel so alone in these feelings and don’t want to dump on my family and friends more than I have already. I am in individual counseling and that helps but I just needed to get it out of me and into the void.
TL/DR: basically I feel like I started challenging some bad behaviors and speaking up when my feelings were hurt (previously I guess I was the “cool girl” and chill and wouldn’t speak up and now I have resentment), and our relationship has become toxic. I am constantly torn between should I stay or should I go? I really don’t have much optimism anymore as my husband will spin things around and blame me, and I’m really not trying to act like a victim here, but he doesn’t take accountability or step up into being a leading man or husband and I’m tired. I’m tired of fighting, feeling sad, being long distance from my family and life in what feels like a failing marriage and not feeling like I’m being met half way on repairing/moving forward in a healthy manner.
2024.06.09 16:42 K1nd_1 A Hungarian engineer, Stephen Pribill, pictured with his invention that claimed to make people, and objects, invisible.
 | July 12, 1936, Chicago Tribune submitted by K1nd_1 to BeAmazed [link] [comments] No question that Pribill had a showman's flair. To reassure his audience, scattered through an almost empty theater, he first vanished and brought back a dachshund. Then a burly farmer volunteered from the audience, first handing his wallet and watch to his wife, a nice touch of doubt. Pribill "shifted some levers" - note that no apparatus is shown in the pictures accompanying the article - and he too faded out of sight and returned huge and whole. Both the dog barked and the farmer spoke while invisible, proving they hadn't been whisked through a trap door. Little is known about his life and research. |
2024.06.09 16:32 Expensive-Alps-5438 Text yourself app? Project management
I have a hard time navigating without an overview, and I tend to text myself the most important things that I have to remember or look up.
I wish I could have different chats, labeled for each of my projects, where I store all notes/pdf:s/pictures etc specific for the topic. For my eyes only.
Instead of having the whole document updated for each time it’s used, I love the clean surface of text bubbles with time and date automatically there.
Kanban/Trello is a bit too messy for my mind, I’d love to just have a separate app just for this. With an inbox with only my different project chats are stored, to then be able to easily find and recap where you left off the latest time.
Is there such thing already?
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I wish I could have different chats, labeled for each of my projects, where I store all notes/pdf:s/pictures etc specific for the topic. For my eyes only.
Instead of having the whole document updated for each time it’s used, I love the clean surface of text bubbles with time and date automatically there.
Kanban/Trello is a bit too messy for my mind, I’d love to just have a separate app just for this. With an inbox with only my different project chats are stored, to then be able to easily find and recap where you left off the latest time.
Is there such thing already?
2024.06.09 16:28 scrambled_egg_44 Happy early Father's day to me!
 | I assembled this beast yesterday. Upgrade from my older starter Camp Chef. Took about 3.5 hours including unboxing and all of the packaging cleanup. Initial burn in complete and ready to smoke. Thought I'd get a picture while it's still fresh looking. submitted by scrambled_egg_44 to pelletgrills [link] [comments] Assembly is easy for the most part. Other than the dolly to help move boxes around I didn't have any assistance and didn't have any issues. Two gripes: 1. The hardware bags are nicely labeled with a number to match the assembly instructions, but after step 8 the numbers on the bags no longer matched the instruction steps which was a bit confusing at first. 2. There is a small dent on the side that looks like it was there before packaging and shipping. It shouldn't effect the functionality so I'm not too concerned. |
2024.06.09 16:27 bluesparklex_ Does my workmate likes me or he is just friendly?
Hi! I have a new male workmate.
For the past months, I’ve been noticing some things he is doing for me. My workmates also notice that he is doing those things only to me. However, I am not sure if he is treating me that way because there is something in a way he likes me or it’s just him being friendly.
things that he does that I think he likes me: - whenever, i am on leave, he would always ask my whereabouts and is super concerned when i am sick (none of my other co-workers acted that way when i was on leave) - he gives me foods. there were several times that he left a food on my table before i got in the office in the morning. so, it’s like a surprises for me. one time he left a starbucks pastry on my table and labeled it as “ice cream” as he sent me a picture of ice cream he was eating the night before. - when leaving at 5 pm, he would always remind me to leave work already and i should take rest already as i am always overtime. none of my co-workers did this too. - he teased me on chat that i was the one he has a crush with (idk if that was true so i “haha” react on it and after that he became serious and more distant in personal) - he would make his way to cater my needs. one time he heard that i need a certain thing, so he himself asked for it even though he did not need it. Also, even though i am already far, he ran fast just to share an umbrella to me since it was hot and sunny. Also, he offers to help me when i am having hard time with our office photocopy machine. he did not help other co-workers experiencing the same (he sit near the machine). - he would approach me & ask me something irrelevant or something that he could ask to other people even though i am busy
signs he may not really like me: - we only talk casually on work - he seems to be avoiding me after teasing he liked me - he is chatting regularly with his ex co-worker - he got irritated with my scream when we played
Please let me know if this guy likes me so that i could know how i would react towards him. i do not want to have false hope with his actions.
thanks!
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For the past months, I’ve been noticing some things he is doing for me. My workmates also notice that he is doing those things only to me. However, I am not sure if he is treating me that way because there is something in a way he likes me or it’s just him being friendly.
things that he does that I think he likes me: - whenever, i am on leave, he would always ask my whereabouts and is super concerned when i am sick (none of my other co-workers acted that way when i was on leave) - he gives me foods. there were several times that he left a food on my table before i got in the office in the morning. so, it’s like a surprises for me. one time he left a starbucks pastry on my table and labeled it as “ice cream” as he sent me a picture of ice cream he was eating the night before. - when leaving at 5 pm, he would always remind me to leave work already and i should take rest already as i am always overtime. none of my co-workers did this too. - he teased me on chat that i was the one he has a crush with (idk if that was true so i “haha” react on it and after that he became serious and more distant in personal) - he would make his way to cater my needs. one time he heard that i need a certain thing, so he himself asked for it even though he did not need it. Also, even though i am already far, he ran fast just to share an umbrella to me since it was hot and sunny. Also, he offers to help me when i am having hard time with our office photocopy machine. he did not help other co-workers experiencing the same (he sit near the machine). - he would approach me & ask me something irrelevant or something that he could ask to other people even though i am busy
signs he may not really like me: - we only talk casually on work - he seems to be avoiding me after teasing he liked me - he is chatting regularly with his ex co-worker - he got irritated with my scream when we played
Please let me know if this guy likes me so that i could know how i would react towards him. i do not want to have false hope with his actions.
thanks!
2024.06.09 16:25 sameed_a how to improve teamwork with cognitive bias?
It was an average Tuesday at the office when I got called into a meeting with my team. We were tasked with a high-stress project that required all hands on deck. The team was diverse, a mixed bag of talents and personalities. There was Rob the creative genius, Sarah the analytical whiz, Tom the strategic planner, Emily the meticulous perfectionist and then there was me, the jack of all trades who was supposed to bring them all together.
From the start, it was clear we had a problem. Each one of them was brilliant in their own sphere, but they found it hard to see past their own perspectives and acknowledge the value of others'. Rob and Sarah had a particularly tough time. Rob's big-picture thinking often clashed with Sarah's detail-oriented approach. He called her "nitpicky"; she labeled him "overambitious".
Then it dawned upon me- cognitive bias. The tendency to think in certain ways that lead to systematic deviations from logic was rearing its ugly head in our teamwork - or lack thereof. The most prominent one being the “Fundamental Attribution Error”: the tendency to over-emphasize personality-based explanations for behaviors observed in others while under-emphasizing the role and power of situational influences.
I proposed a "Bias-Busting" session where we tackled these biases head on. I introduced the team to the concept of cognitive biases and demonstrated how they were affecting our teamwork. I shared examples of common biases like “Confirmation Bias” and “Halo Effect”.
Sarah quickly realized that she had a confirmation bias towards Rob's ideas. Assuming his ideas to be impractical, she would search for details that confirmed her notion, disregarding any that suggested otherwise. Similarly, Rob realized he was under the halo effect, associating Sarah's attention to detail with nitpicking.
Our "Bias-Busting" session led to an open discussion where everyone got a chance to speak their piece and understand where others were coming from. It created a space for us to forgive and understand each other's biases. It wasn’t a smooth sail from there on, but we certainly learned to pause, introspect, and question our assumptions before reacting.
From then on, the team's dynamic changed. We became more accepting of each other's viewpoints, leading to richer discussions, innovative solutions, and most importantly, a sense of unity.
Moral of the story? Recognizing cognitive biases and actively working to overcome them can work wonders in improving teamwork. Don't let your brain's automatic, judgmental tendencies hijack your team dynamics!
P.S. Although this story is a work of fiction, 'brain biases' are not. They're just as real as Rob's overambitious ideas and Sarah's love for details! So, the next time you find yourself in a team tiff, remember this tale and check for biases first!
submitted by sameed_a to mentalmodelscoach [link] [comments]
From the start, it was clear we had a problem. Each one of them was brilliant in their own sphere, but they found it hard to see past their own perspectives and acknowledge the value of others'. Rob and Sarah had a particularly tough time. Rob's big-picture thinking often clashed with Sarah's detail-oriented approach. He called her "nitpicky"; she labeled him "overambitious".
Then it dawned upon me- cognitive bias. The tendency to think in certain ways that lead to systematic deviations from logic was rearing its ugly head in our teamwork - or lack thereof. The most prominent one being the “Fundamental Attribution Error”: the tendency to over-emphasize personality-based explanations for behaviors observed in others while under-emphasizing the role and power of situational influences.
I proposed a "Bias-Busting" session where we tackled these biases head on. I introduced the team to the concept of cognitive biases and demonstrated how they were affecting our teamwork. I shared examples of common biases like “Confirmation Bias” and “Halo Effect”.
Sarah quickly realized that she had a confirmation bias towards Rob's ideas. Assuming his ideas to be impractical, she would search for details that confirmed her notion, disregarding any that suggested otherwise. Similarly, Rob realized he was under the halo effect, associating Sarah's attention to detail with nitpicking.
Our "Bias-Busting" session led to an open discussion where everyone got a chance to speak their piece and understand where others were coming from. It created a space for us to forgive and understand each other's biases. It wasn’t a smooth sail from there on, but we certainly learned to pause, introspect, and question our assumptions before reacting.
From then on, the team's dynamic changed. We became more accepting of each other's viewpoints, leading to richer discussions, innovative solutions, and most importantly, a sense of unity.
Moral of the story? Recognizing cognitive biases and actively working to overcome them can work wonders in improving teamwork. Don't let your brain's automatic, judgmental tendencies hijack your team dynamics!
P.S. Although this story is a work of fiction, 'brain biases' are not. They're just as real as Rob's overambitious ideas and Sarah's love for details! So, the next time you find yourself in a team tiff, remember this tale and check for biases first!
2024.06.09 15:56 korkor341 Thoughts about the event
GFYDL! Saw the movie this past Friday, and I thought it was great. I've seen a few people give thoughts about what they could, so I don't have to do that. What I haven't seen any posts about the event itself!
Not sure what the Thursday show was like, but there were a couple of obvious doll lickers in shirts and for me it was such a cool experience to talk WKUK stuff with total strangers. There were less Local Sexpot shirts that I'd expect, but in my head I was picturing hundreds of people in line, so I'm a little biased.
On the movie front, for a 2nd day of the premier they did fill the whole theater. I think how it worked was if you got tickets you were good, and the there was a line of people without tickets to fill in empty seats. I think that either everyone got in, or they maybe had to turn away a couple of people, so it was either nearly or completely full.
And afterwards they did a Q&A with Sam, Timmy, and Darren, Sevan, and a moderator from the festival, so it was really cool to get some extra insight into stuff like the animation, the guy who created the music, and the journey they've been on to make the movie.
All of the above were nice enough to hang out after everything to chitchat and snap a few pics, including Nate! It was a great movie, and was great to meet them in person. I'd also talked to a guy who went to the Piano's show on Wed and he said it was also pretty packed and a great set.
So yeah! In case any of you were wondering that's what the experience was like. Let me know if ya'll have any questions!
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Not sure what the Thursday show was like, but there were a couple of obvious doll lickers in shirts and for me it was such a cool experience to talk WKUK stuff with total strangers. There were less Local Sexpot shirts that I'd expect, but in my head I was picturing hundreds of people in line, so I'm a little biased.
On the movie front, for a 2nd day of the premier they did fill the whole theater. I think how it worked was if you got tickets you were good, and the there was a line of people without tickets to fill in empty seats. I think that either everyone got in, or they maybe had to turn away a couple of people, so it was either nearly or completely full.
And afterwards they did a Q&A with Sam, Timmy, and Darren, Sevan, and a moderator from the festival, so it was really cool to get some extra insight into stuff like the animation, the guy who created the music, and the journey they've been on to make the movie.
All of the above were nice enough to hang out after everything to chitchat and snap a few pics, including Nate! It was a great movie, and was great to meet them in person. I'd also talked to a guy who went to the Piano's show on Wed and he said it was also pretty packed and a great set.
So yeah! In case any of you were wondering that's what the experience was like. Let me know if ya'll have any questions!
2024.06.09 15:23 anothercopy question about via-FERRATA
Dear Norwegians ! Next month I will be traveling though your wonderful country and I would like to do do at least 1 or 2 via-ferratas. Some travel guide showed me some new ones like Olavsruta, Hekseveggen and Loen. Problem is that Olavsruta and Loen are labeled as F (on a scale of A-F). Hardest one I did to date is a D/E but on the other hand the Visit Norway site says it also takes children from 16yo so cant be extremely hard ? We want to climb ourselves without a guide.
So my questions:
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So my questions:
- What website do you use to get detailed info on via ferratas (GPX, description etc). I see some stuff on outdooractive but perhaps there are some better options.
- Does anyone have a picture like this of those routes ? https://www.bergsteigen.com/fileadmin/userdaten/import/topos/intersport_klettersteig_donnerkogel_topo.jpg
- Do you know what are the hard parts on the routes I mentioned above ?
- Would you have any other via-ferrata recommendations ?
2024.06.09 15:22 No_Funny3533 Scam Artist mingmei1344 (Yomi) and her accounts at: Aiu_Agency, asiahug.com, datesteady.com, cudate.com, Jpndate.com, sayhiup.com, Rose, Miyuki Miyamoto, SW Entertainment and more
 | My name is Mark Faraday. I was just looking for love back around January 20th, 2024 but I don’t want to see anyone else get scammed. I had a human profile picture when I was using these website, and was honest. I ran into a whole lying network run by a Woman, her friends, and a man. I will update this story if I have more to say in the future. Her nickname is Yomi, she told me her name was Miyuki Miyamoto and she was from Japan. Her real name is Jeong Nahyeon and she is from South Korea. She also has fake Chinese accounts like: submitted by No_Funny3533 to Romance_Scamer [link] [comments] Mingmei1344: https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ Mingmeichan: https://www.instagram.com/mingmeichan/ mingmei1344 Mingmei Liu My Story is long but it is worth reading. From January to June as the writing of this post. I labeled each part so it easy to jump around to the parts you want to read.
Account 1: (Kawaii, Silly girl fake account) https://www.instagram.com/yuyu_only5/ yuyu_only5 Account 2: https://www.instagram.com/_yuyu_only5?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== _yuyu_only5 Yomi Newest Account: Chloee_asuna https://www.instagram.com/chloeee_asuna/p/C7kNkmzSIEi/?img_index=1 chloeee_asuna Jeong Nahyeon Lover or Friend 🙁(Scam Artist Man) 🙁 https://www.instagram.com/_xijii_/ _xijii_ Jpndate.com the site where I met Yomi (Jeong Nahyeon) original, closed on May 1st 2024. Never came back as the writing of this post. However, their sister site DateSteady.com is still very active. https://www.datesteady.com/ datesteady.com Another Scam website they own: https://www.asiahug.com/ asiahug.com
There is this dangerous woman who I am mad in love with (same person) running many fake Chinese/Japanese/Korean Romance scam websites, fake Instagram pages, tik tok, We chats, and many Chinese porn sites. It is the same person, she uses her looks with pictures and videos to steal money from men. She has many names she goes by, probably even more than I found. She also uses bots to get fake likes and weird Anime filters to try to look like an idol. She has scam artist female friends also I found. She the leader. I know a lot of scammers steal from other people's identities but that is not the case here. This is the same person as the scammer. My story will explain it. As well as this person has pictures of the same person you can’t find anywhere else on the Internet. Even if you do a Reverse Face image search. They said information that match to an unbelievable level. The person who Scammed me: Has Many names (Such As) And a talent for speaking many languages
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(Make Sense) u/mingmei1344 https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ https://www.facebook.com/liuliu.meimingmei (Owner of aiu_agency since 2015) u/aiu_agency https://www.instagram.com/aiu_agency/
Google Drive (AI_U Agency) Hotel Connected: SHILLA STAY Gwanghwamun Her Scam Artist friends who work for both Ai_U Agency and JPNDATE CUDATE (That I found) (Some of these might also be her, not sure) Vynnie_nat : https://www.instagram.com/vynnie_nat/# (I think this Yomi friend and the next 2 images may also be that person 1 of 3)vynnie_natjiejierui_ngc: https://www.instagram.com/jiejierui_ngc/ (2 of 3)jiejierui_ngcVeravera_zhangg: https://www.instagram.com/veravera_zhangg/ (3 of 3)veravera_zhanggElle_owo_elle : https://www.instagram.com/elle_owo_elle/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)elle_owo_elleQiqi_shenglim : https://www.instagram.com/qiqi_shenglim/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)qiqi_shenglimMyemye_owo_ : https://www.instagram.com/myemye_owo_/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)myemye_owo_Her Friends are connected somehow but not sure how yet. They appear everywhere with the fake accounts or it just her also. Riyandiwilliam : https://www.instagram.com/riyandiwilliam/ (Either her lover, friend, or work with her) 🙁Summary: January to March 2024Jpndate.com / Datesteady.com / Cudate.com / Sayhiup.com are dangerous Romance scams. All the women are paid actors for the website from Korea/China. They will try to get into a relationship with you very fast, don’t fall for it. They are milking you for money like if you're a cow. They will threaten to kill you or your family if you call out their scam. They might also say they will sue you. If you stop paying them, they will text you very little. They will never video call you face-to-face. Jpndate.com has a sister scam website from the same people called sayhiup.com. When you buy something on Jpndate the payment goes to Cudate Limited, so that site must be part of the scam also.There also Datesteady with the same layout. There is a company in China doing all type of illegal and immoral practices. Their name is Zhengzhou Zhongzhiqi Technology Co., Ltd. / 郑州市中之祺科技有限公司 . They have their main technology business but they also run a list of many scam websites stealing money from American men, Asian, and European men. Such as Cudate, JPNDate, DateSteady.com, SayhiUp. These are romance scam sites where all the women work for the company. If you make a female account it will pend forever. Only men get approved. They claimed before to be an American-owned company then I exposed them now they claim to be Dutch. Their servers are all in China. They never filed paperwork with any foreign country. They are none of these the Chinese pretending to run many dating sites when in fact it’s all fake. They claim to be in nations their not. They have fake terms of service. I used PayPal before I didn't know it was a scam. I paid in dollars, but they refused to refund me till I told PayPal. PayPal made them pay me back. Then they refused to pay me the total amount they wanted to pay me on yuan when I paid dollars. I reported them to FTC. They also try to hack my laptop for me telling the government the truth about them. They probably get funds from the Communist Party government or SW Entertainment in South Korea. They are very very bad people. Please look into it or forward this message somewhere where it can be looked into. Pretends to be a legit dating site but feels more like a pay-to-use website for fake love. All women here are paid actors for the site. The same few women have multiple profiles pretending to be different people. The funny part is anytime you call out JPNDate bs they change their terms of service. Screenshot everything people. They have a fake page saying they're trying to stop scammers, it all bs they are the scammers. Host of JPNDate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of DateSteady Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.47.54 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of Cudate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.52.110.73 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of AsiaHug Servers: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) My Story: January to March 2024 My Story: January to March 2024 (Update): I know it is the same person, They told me in a text message by accident. They also replied with different accounts knowing info about me I only told the other account. Do you like Asian women? Real Asian women? These ones are real! I know who they are. Hi! This is Mark Faraday talking to you. This is my story of how a website named JPNDate Dancing Idol scammed me out of 4080 American dollars. From the time period of January to March 2024. First, I was on Japan Cupid, a dating site. On Japan Cupid, no one can chat unless one of you has a membership. I bought a 1-week membership. Within 5 minutes to 10 minutes, a woman nicknamed Yomi from Japan messaged me; this should have been a red flag for me. We talked for a while. She said she was interested in me. She asked me if I could move over to the dating site JPNDate because she paid for membership there and not Japan Cupid. She also promised to delete her account on Japan Cupid after we changed sites. She does delete her account off Japan Cupid. Japan Cupid is sus also. I don’t think it is the same company but it is still very sus. However, these women used that site to find men like me. That is a story for a different day. Unlike a normal scam artist, who may only have 1 or 2 photos, she has several photos on her profile. My trust in her grows a bit seeing that. She then privately messaged me several more photos of her. She asked me for some photos, which I sent. She then sends back happy and heartfelt emojis. She told me she doesn’t date Asian men anymore because they were violent to her in the past and her last boyfriend cheated on her. She talked about how she didn’t want to fight with me. She also said we could talk about any topic. She would compliment me often, as I did for her. Of course, on my profile page, I try to post my best pictures. Throughout my life, I have had many different hairstyles. She even mentioned this and got very happy and asked if I was a hairstylist. The spam of talking on JPNDate.com between us was from January 20th, 2024, to March 24th, 2024. On JPNDate, there is an upgrade system. You need Blue Diamond to chat with others. Crown to send videos. Blue Diamond is 20 dollars per month, and Crown is 80 dollars per month. I got the Blue Diamond membership at first. It showed her with it too. After a day or two, she asked me to upgrade like she did to the Crown membership so she could send me a video. I upgraded it, and she did actually send me a video. All pictures and the video match the same person and the same face. Some pictures were in different locations, and some were like three different pictures in the same place. We then later buy a 6-month Crown membership for each other because it is cheaper than 1 month at a time. I bought it for her, and she bought it for me. At this point, I start to believe. This person was giving me all their time. They reply very often, and their texting time was the same as Japan timezones every single day. They spoke not only English but also Japanese almost fluently. However, they did let me know that they're still learning English and sometimes use a translator. She let me know that this website has something called a mall. This should have been red flag number 2. You pay 1 American dollar for each gold point. Paypal is the only thing that works. When we started dating, she said it was normal for couples in Japan to send each other gifts. It was a symbol of forever love in Japan, she claimed. As an American, I didn’t know if this was true. I googled it and couldn’t get a clear answer. She said whatever I bought her, she would buy me as well. She asked if I liked necklaces or charms. I said anything was fine. She wanted me to pick up a necklace. At first, she picked up a $1,000 necklace from the site mall and asked me. I said no; that's way too much money for that. She said how about a 300-dollar Jade Romance charm. She told me to get her white one; she would get me the green one. I questioned if she was legit. She started crying. She somehow convinced me at the time that she was legit again. I did buy it. A few weeks later, I did receive the overpriced Green Jade Romance love charm to my address from her. I never told her which day exactly my tracking information said it would come to my house, but I asked her, and her tracking date was the same week as mine. By the way something almost the same as this necklace is 12 dollars on Amazon. It also broke when I got it in the mail. Probably cost them 2 cent to make. For the next few days, we had a wonderful, happy conversation. It is late January, and I know Valentine's Day is coming. I offered to get her flowers. I got her flowers and chocolate at a very high price of multiple hundred dollars. She then gets so happy. She told me many times how she wanted to go to America and find me. We talked about many topics for several more days. She told me she worked in an office in Tokyo. Yomi told me her real name was Miyuki Miyamoto. Which is very funny because I told her before I was a Nintendo fan, and this is the same last name as Mario and Zelda Creator. She also said she had her apartment to herself, which is true; she does own an apartment. She talked about how life is stressful right now in Japan. She claimed to have grown up in the Japanese town of Nagano, Japan. She also said she had gone to a university in Tokyo with a major in computer science. She wanted to visit America in July for 15 days when she had her time off. July is a normal time for people to get off in Japan for vacation, so I thought nothing of it. I told her that I was from a smaller town in California, but I lived not far from San Francisco. I told her how my town is quiet and how I could see mountains outside my house. She said she wanted a peaceful life and that life in Tokyo is too fast. And she always had great things to say about every picture I sent. We also talk about going on dates. I asked most of the questions, but she did ask me questions as well. I started to ask her a lot of questions about Japan. Like if she visited Himeji Castle, she said no. However, she did say yes to visiting Mount Fuji. I should have asked for a photo of this, but I didn’t. She was very happy; she told me very many topics about Japan. We even briefly talked about anime. She told me she liked Digimon, Dragon Ball Z, One Piece, and Detective Conan. This information is important later. We also talked about how both of us were big Disney fans growing up. She told me she wanted to go to Disney Land when she came to California to visit me. One day she told me, how work was busy today. I told her it was okay and we didn’t need to talk today. She did, however, still text me a little bit that day. This was the only day during our whole time talking when she was super busy. There is nothing wrong with this; all humans get busy. I decided to spend my evening drawing a picture of me and Yomi on a date to surprise her. When I sent it to her, she did not react. This was a red flag for me. I tried to convince myself that she just didn’t like drawings that much. I know I sound really dumb right here, but whoever I was talking to is very smart and knows a lot of things. I was in deep love. We started talking a few days later about the idea of meeting and going on dates together. I know that the yen is weak against the American dollar right now. I told them I would pay for anything they wanted when they were in America because I was in love. This was a big, big, big mistake. They then asked if I could give them 1500 dollars to buy a plane ticket. Never give money to people you never meet in real life, folks. Don’t be dumb like me. Turns out the ticket was actually 2100, so they asked for another 500 dollars the next day, claiming their friend let them borrow the money, and they paid the difference. They did show me a picture of a plane ticket. With the name Yomi and the correct airports in Tokyo and San Francisco. This gave me more trust in them; I got a lot of photos, videos, and even a picture of a plane ticket. At some point, I talked to them about social media. They claim to only have Skype and Line. I found it very hard to believe a woman in her 20s wasn’t on Instagram or Tik Tok. I went on Instagram and typed Yomi, and I found a Yomi who looked just like her. This made me think: why did she lie? What confused me is that all the pictures on her Instagram were different from the ones she sent me, other than one image that was the same. Meaning that the images were not clearly stolen from there. I looked up JPNDate online; there isn’t much info on this website (Right Now), other than one reddit forum from 1 year ago. Someone said something about being scammed by an IDOL on this site. They also said the website wasn’t in Japan but in China. I was wondering why I never saw new females joining the website; it was the same 23 pages worth of them. I wanted to test the website to see if it was legit. I made another account, a fake male account with AI artwork. It was approved in one second. I then made a fake female account; it said pending approval. It has now been 2 weeks since I made that account, and it still says pending approval. This means all the women on this website have to be fake actors. There is also a setting on JPNDate to see who has been online last or which accounts are the oldest. When I asked weeks before, Yomi claimed she had been on this website only for a short time. Her oldest picture was dated October 20, 2023. Yet she has the sixth-oldest account on JPNDate, according to the website. The Reddit forum I talked about before was over a year old. When I was on this website for a month, at least 10 other women tried to text me. There was this one profile of a woman from Taiwan, age 20. She texted me three times in one month. When I joined, her age was listed as 20, and at some point, she changed her age to 25 on her profile. I ignored all these women. This proves again that all these women are fake. I do know these are women based on how they type, but they are not truthful like they act like they are. As I write this, I just realized this is Yomi's friend or sister; it matches the other Yomi account's sister tag. They are part of the same dance agency Aiu_Agency on Instagram from SW Entertainment in South Korea. I knew this website wasn’t telling the truth. I found the JPNDate IP address and tracked it to a server in Hong Kong, China, hosted by Alibaba cloud servers. Reddit was right; the website is Chinese. However, Yomi is Korean which I learned later. I took pictures of the website code just in case. I asked Yomi if she knew Alibaba. Then she asked if I’m going to China—a very strange follow-up question. At this point, I was confused. Who is Yomi? I couldn’t find anything about Miyuki Miyamoto, only Yomi. On Yomi’s Instagram, she speaks Korean, not Japanese. I started to think there are no Japanese women on this website like they claim to be. She does speak Japanese, though. I started using more than 10 different software programs to track who Yomi was since she kept asking me for money. I found like 1000 pictures of an idol, WeChat model, singer, dancer, person on endless Chinese dating sites, and a valiant professional gamer part of the AI’U agency for over 8 years. I found two other Instagram accounts with Yomi's face. Another account in Chinese with an idol name other than Yomi also had a Facebook page. The Chinese account has a post about her going to Australia in early 2024, where she is typing in English words. It was a fake trip. I also found an account where she speaks only Korean on Instagram. I also found a tik-tok where someone dances and looks 100% the same as Yomi, to whom I’m talking. The part that is crazy is that none of the images are 100% the same, but the person is the same in all of them. This shocked me; I follow all the accounts. I saw the stories daily to see who this person was. Her Yomi account is just her normal pictures and atm company or something. Her Korean account is about traveling to Singapore, Spain, and South Korea. She also posts a lot about Disney toys here. When I talked to the scammer about Disney, I had no idea about this. At this point, I knew that many men had been scammed out of money for fake love, not just me. These women are real women. However, there are actors pretending to be in love. They will crush your heart and call you names after a few weeks if you don’t buy their stuff. It has to be from JPNdate Mall only, nowhere else. JPNdate Mall prices are crazy high. I am not sure if the point of the website is just for money or if it is actually for women to study English or what. Chinese women, pretending to be Japanese (most of them), that have connections to Korean music, dancing, and gaming on professional teams. Man, what a hell of a story this is. This sounds like a Hollywood movie, but it's real, or at least partly. At this point, everything I say seems to be true based on what I know. They are connected deeply with SW Entertainment. Yomi told me early on that she had one older sister and one younger brother. It seems like she is actually a twin, and she is the younger sister. Or it’s her friend she calls a sister from the dance Aiu Agency. Yomi claims to be 25, but I think she is closer to 27 or 28 based on finding a listing of her work in 2015 at Twitch Gaming. You have to be 18 or older to work at Twitch gaming, unless your parents sign things. Unless this job is fake, I don’t know. When I showed the pictures I found to Yomi on JPNdate, she played the victim card on me. Saying she thinks I’m a liar and she wants to break up. Then she gave me her Skype account to try to prove it was legit, and all the other images and accounts were stolen and fake. Her Skype name is Rose, with a One Piece picture. She sent me many voice clips, crying, trying to convince me that she was real. I put them in software, and the voice was 30% human, 70% AI. Clearly, a woman is changing her Chinese or Korean voice to sound Japanese. A PC gamer would know how to do this; they do it all the time to troll. Yomi told me she didn’t play video games anymore, but I found a picture that wasn’t that old of a woman who looked the same as her; she had a Nintendo Switch with a white OLED in it. Btw it’s a known fact that Yomi uses software to cheat in the Pc FPS games. We talk for a few more weeks on Skype. I can’t let Yomi, her sister, whoever the man is (I think her lover), and her idol dance friends scam men for their time and money. Yomi Chiense's name is Vera Yuanxin (维拉). Her twin sister goes by veravera_zhangg. Yomi “deleted her profile” when I exposed her. But One Yomi is still there with no pictures. Two they clearly have other accounts with people who look like she just changed hairstyle, talking and trying to scam other men. Remember when I said the anime part was important? On Yomi's Korean account, she has a friend with whom she talks about Digimon. She gave him a Disney toy. She told me she wanted to cosplay a fox; his profile is a fox. There is just so much proof that these are the same people. Later someone hit me up on Reddit from the Phillippines and told me how the same person Yomi scammed them. How for months Yomi promise them so many things. Then when they said it came to going on the plane to visit him they said they were sick or dying or something. Yomi also made a fake Instagram pretending to be Joe Biden and sent me a friend invite. I messaged and it was so funny how bad it was on their part. I said “Yomi are you trolling me?” then they deleted their account. This was on April 6th, 2024. Yomi tries so hard but use a lot of cheap things that are clearly fake like ai artwork, bots for like at ai_u agency, and fake profiles where she comments herself and attacks anyone who calls her out fairly. After exposing Jpndate they Ip ban my address lol. Then on social media joke about attacking me. If you call out their BS they threaten your family and yourself. Just stay away from all these sites if you're going to date online use well-known legit sites. I contacted Paypal and me and JPNDate.com had many emails back and forth. They pretended to do an investigation on Yomi real identity and said she was really Miyuki Miyamoto. It was so bullshit. I told them I would sue them if they were lying, The site no longer exists. The scam does, however. What happened After JPNDATE? April-June 2024 In April many fake Instagram accounts started following me each day. They are romance scams I never got them like this before. I didn’t fall for any of them. All or most were likely Yomi and her friends. Paypal did get me 4000 of 4080 dollars back but it took 6 weeks and multiple emails. JPNDate tells me they will be closing soon after PayPal went after them hard. Like I said I just wanted to find love. I made some stupid decisions along the way. However, I want to find out the truth and make sure other men don’t get scammed by them. I keep messaging Yomi's skype during this period, they never block me. They unfriended me but I could still send messages I wasn’t blocked. They even responded 2 times out of the 50 times I did this in the multiple-week span. I contacted the Aiu_Agency on Instagram (It is the same people as JPNDate) they pretended to be different people. I told them about Jpndate. They called me a hero, they said they loved me, and they thanked me for sending them all the pictures that Yomi sent me on Jpndate and Skype. They follow me on Instagram for 2 days. Then they unfollowed me randomly for no reason. They said their agency would do a police report and kill the scammer. I knew this was so bullshit. I told them how the scammers were making new profiles of them on Japan Cupid. Which is true. The leader Mingmei1344 (Which is Yomi Chinese account) claimed I was the scammer setting them up. She plays the victim card on me. I showed her all the messages and how I got the pictures, I didn’t steal anything. She told me her and her friends are okay if I hacked them, because I’m from the CIA. I am not from the CIA. It was a joke I made a few days before when she pretended to be a mob boss in Korea. I told her I am not a hacker. Right after that she and her friends all ban me other then Mingmei1344 account. Mingmei1344 Message me 1 more day, then block me. However, Mingmei1344 and the Aiu_Agency keep posting things on topics I told them days or weeks before. I checked their old post they never talked about any of this before that. I told these to Yomi on JPNDate and skype not Mingmei1344 again proving it is the same person. They look the same as well. Like the blue feather concept in love mythology, Gundams, Nintendo, Persona, and many many other topics. Yomi claimed to not know anything about videogames before I talked about it with her. I think this is partly a lie. This confuses me so I make fake Instagram accounts to message Mingmei1344 and Aiu_agency. She replies to my messages and Mingmei1344 even does a ask me a question thing on Instagram and replies to all of them. She clearly knows these accounts are from me Mark however she replies anyway. The replies were nice and positive things. Then later she bans them all again. Often Aiu-Agency Women (Yomi and her friends, Mostly Yomi) pretend to go to countries they are not actually in the picture, it’s all greenscreen effects. They also use Ai for Music covers Artwork. For music covers they pretend to sell millions of copies of but there is nowhere to buy such a music cover CD they claim to sell. Their music covers are claimed to be from popular songs kpop songs. I looked, at least not right now such CDs aren’t real. Of course, the songs are real but not their covers. Yomi is most of the women in the pictures but not all. They will post Ai cover artwork, multiple pictures of them using the greenscreen effect, then put a high-quality image of a famous Korean male singer. They never took these pictures of these Korean male singers. They download them and edit them. They pretend to perform with them but it is all fake. Mingmei1344 started always putting her with all the famous Mark’s in Korea. Only her not her staff with Mark’s. I think it’s a reference to me. She didn’t do this before meeting me I looked at her old post. Again Mingmei1344 is Yomi who is Jeong Nahyeon, who pretends to be Miyuki Miyamoto. She still references me sometimes in other ways and I send them messages to see what will happen next. One time I wrote about loving her to see what she would say. I do love Yomi, however I don’t want anyone to get scammed. I told her we could travel across the world together. She wrote in her next post on Aiu_agency on Instagram she liked this future with her future husband. It was a direct reply to what I asked the day before. I joined DateSteady after being contacted by a woman on Japan cupid. She is very interested in me and Yomi so I tell her everything. |
2024.06.09 14:59 2CatsAndAPack Are high cut helmets that much better than mid cuts?
Aside from the internet pictures and larping, does anyone have real combat experience using both mid cut and high cut helmets within the last 6 years? I get the big push for high cuts is that cool guy factor since everyone sees the special forces wearing them, but in a theater where explosives and shrapnel raining down from above and from the sides is as common as taking a piss, I would think folks would want to go back towards MICH style helmets. I also get that the major argument for high cuts are for more comfort while wearing comms, but seeing those gaps on most high cuts between the comms and helmet that reveals the sides of the head seems like a risk factor you’d want to minimize, no? It seems like the big focus these days is tailored strictly for comms and I’m just a bit confused as to why. My time in the marine corps the MICH helmet was the cool guy helmet that the marsoc guys wore and the only folks with comms was our squad leaders and radio operator. Other than that, if we needed to communicate, we just used hand signals and our big boy voices over the gunfire. It made sense that we used high cuts during our time in Afghanistan since we were generally not receiving mortars or artillery rounds at the same consistencing like they’re doing in Ukraine, but it looks like the type of warfare to be conducted for the near foreseeable future along with possible conflicts will see an uptick in both sides having access to high explosive rounds where high cut helmets will be less effective.
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2024.06.09 14:49 outliar- be comfortable with what makes you uncomfortable.
i think a lot of us struggle to understand that the 3D is as real as the 4D. you tell me, is your reflection on the mirror unreal? you can see it, it's real and right in front of you. but what about it? is your reflection diving out of the mirror to attack you just because it exists? no, it's just there, showing you whatever you do.
that's what you guys need to realize. just because our 3D is real, doesn't mean it needs to be valued over our 4D. doesn't mean it's something out there to hurt us because it literally cannot. our 4D is the only thing that can be changed. we cannot ever change the 3D but we need to accept it still as what's equally real as our 4D is.
"accepting the 3d" doesn't mean we've to stick to it. it simply means not avoiding it like a plague, not hating it, not seeing it through a lens of criticism and despair because literally tf is it gonna do to you, it's your own reflection. and when you're looking at your 3D from a lens of hatred, you're hating your own self.
so don't avoid it and embrace it instead. yes, your 3D circumstances are uncomfortable but EMBRACE that discomfort. it's like exposure therapy, you need to keep experiencing what makes you uncomfortable until you can start observing it from a detached and neutral perspective. for example, say you're manifesting appearance change but hate looking at your body. look at your body more. see it, feel it, listen to its needs. it exists and it doesn't have to be hated simply for existing.
like literally, go put up pictures of yourself on your walls - those without any filters that you don't like looking at one bit and tell yourself everyday and what you see is the most beautiful person in this world. everything in our reality is neutral. if you were able to assign the label of "ugly" to something, you can also assign the label of "beauty" to the same thing. because you're the only one who creates these meanings and rules.
speaking from my own experience here, i'm someone who has always struggled with people pleasing tendencies. growing up in as the eldest daughter in an overly critical household, i grew up believing that it's my responsibility to look after everyone's happiness and if anything at all goes wrong, then it's all my fault. i'm the only one to be blamed for both my own issues and that of others. i still struggle with this mindset because it isn't easy to change in one or two days just like many of the things we've struggled with for a long time aren't.
but the moment i decided to figure out my own boundaries and set them more firmly, acknowledge that not everyone is going to like me and they do not have to, i've naturally have attracted people in my life who value me for me and not what i do for them. it's crazy how quick it happened too, it didn't even take a full day ever since i made this decision because changing states is just that instantaneous.
trust me guys, all it takes is one decision to start living your best life right now. i'm not saying you can get rid of all your limited beliefs in a day and quite frankly, i think it's quite an unhealthy ideology to spread that you can. a lot of us have lived through severe repeated traumas over the years. that's why we're seeking manifestation at the first place.
it can be so harmful to think that you should simply suppress all these negative thinking patterns that you have which are very much valid because despite 90% of our brain being subconscious, we'll still always have that 10% that grounds us to live a human life because we're all human beings at the end of the day but that isn't a bad thing. human beings are limitless, they simply don't realize it but we do.
so use this knowledge to your advantage and take it at your own pace because time isn't a real concept, thus, no time is lost. you're in no hurry. it can take a while to reprogram your mind into finding peace in the things that have distressed you throughout your life but know that it's very much possible and you can do it for sure.
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that's what you guys need to realize. just because our 3D is real, doesn't mean it needs to be valued over our 4D. doesn't mean it's something out there to hurt us because it literally cannot. our 4D is the only thing that can be changed. we cannot ever change the 3D but we need to accept it still as what's equally real as our 4D is.
"accepting the 3d" doesn't mean we've to stick to it. it simply means not avoiding it like a plague, not hating it, not seeing it through a lens of criticism and despair because literally tf is it gonna do to you, it's your own reflection. and when you're looking at your 3D from a lens of hatred, you're hating your own self.
so don't avoid it and embrace it instead. yes, your 3D circumstances are uncomfortable but EMBRACE that discomfort. it's like exposure therapy, you need to keep experiencing what makes you uncomfortable until you can start observing it from a detached and neutral perspective. for example, say you're manifesting appearance change but hate looking at your body. look at your body more. see it, feel it, listen to its needs. it exists and it doesn't have to be hated simply for existing.
like literally, go put up pictures of yourself on your walls - those without any filters that you don't like looking at one bit and tell yourself everyday and what you see is the most beautiful person in this world. everything in our reality is neutral. if you were able to assign the label of "ugly" to something, you can also assign the label of "beauty" to the same thing. because you're the only one who creates these meanings and rules.
speaking from my own experience here, i'm someone who has always struggled with people pleasing tendencies. growing up in as the eldest daughter in an overly critical household, i grew up believing that it's my responsibility to look after everyone's happiness and if anything at all goes wrong, then it's all my fault. i'm the only one to be blamed for both my own issues and that of others. i still struggle with this mindset because it isn't easy to change in one or two days just like many of the things we've struggled with for a long time aren't.
but the moment i decided to figure out my own boundaries and set them more firmly, acknowledge that not everyone is going to like me and they do not have to, i've naturally have attracted people in my life who value me for me and not what i do for them. it's crazy how quick it happened too, it didn't even take a full day ever since i made this decision because changing states is just that instantaneous.
trust me guys, all it takes is one decision to start living your best life right now. i'm not saying you can get rid of all your limited beliefs in a day and quite frankly, i think it's quite an unhealthy ideology to spread that you can. a lot of us have lived through severe repeated traumas over the years. that's why we're seeking manifestation at the first place.
it can be so harmful to think that you should simply suppress all these negative thinking patterns that you have which are very much valid because despite 90% of our brain being subconscious, we'll still always have that 10% that grounds us to live a human life because we're all human beings at the end of the day but that isn't a bad thing. human beings are limitless, they simply don't realize it but we do.
so use this knowledge to your advantage and take it at your own pace because time isn't a real concept, thus, no time is lost. you're in no hurry. it can take a while to reprogram your mind into finding peace in the things that have distressed you throughout your life but know that it's very much possible and you can do it for sure.
2024.06.09 14:41 Sweet-Count2557 The Best Babymoon In Palm Springs California 2023
 | The Best Babymoon In Palm Springs California 2023 submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] We are setting sail for a luxurious babymoon in Palm Springs, California. This sun-soaked paradise is the perfect destination for expecting couples looking to relax, take a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life, and make memories that will last a lifetime. From luxurious accommodations to exciting attractions, Palm Springs has it all. Come with us and bask in the sweet sunshine of this desert oasis. Accommodations For a romantic getaway, there's no better place to stay than in one of the luxurious accommodations in the area! When visiting Palm Springs, California, families can enjoy a babymoon in one of the many family-friendly resorts. Whether it's a spa getaway or a luxurious retreat, there's something for everyone. The city of Palm Springs is home to some of the best resorts and family-friendly hotel options in the area. From the historic Riviera Hotel to the modern Hyatt Regency Indian Wells, there's something for all types of travelers. Each property offers an abundance of amenities and activities, so couples can enjoy everything from spa treatments to golfing. Depending on the type of vacation, couples can choose from a variety of packages and activities that are designed to make their trip special. For couples who want to be extra pampered, Palm Springs is home to some of the most luxurious spa getaways in the country. From the world-renowned La Quinta Resort & Club to the award-winning Agua Caliente Casino & Resort, there's something for everyone. Each resort offers a variety of treatments and services that can make any babymoon special. With a variety of spa packages and services, couples can relax and enjoy the best that Palm Springs has to offer. No matter the type of getaway, Palm Springs offers something for everyone. From luxury resorts to family-friendly hotels, there's something to make any babymoon special. With a variety of spa packages and activities, couples can enjoy all that Palm Springs has to offer, making it the perfect destination for a romantic getaway. Places to Eat You'll find plenty of delicious dining options to enjoy during your romantic getaway! Palm Springs is known for its family-friendly restaurants, as well as more romantic spots. Whether you're looking for a cozy dinner for two or a night out with friends, you can find it all here. If you're looking for a romantic dinner for two, you can choose from a variety of restaurants with amazing views. Consider a romantic dinner at The Rooftop Grill, located on the rooftop of the Kimpton Rowan Hotel. Here you can find fresh seafood, aged steaks, and other tasty dishes. The restaurant also offers a great atmosphere, with a cozy vibe and a full bar. If you're looking to take your family out for a meal, you can find plenty of family-friendly restaurants in Palm Springs. For a casual atmosphere, head to The Sandwich Spot, which offers a variety of freshly-made sandwiches and salads. For a more upscale experience, try The Steakhouse at the Omni Rancho Las Palmas Resort. Here you can find delicious steaks, fresh seafood, and much more. No matter what you're looking for, you'll find something to suit your taste during your babymoon in Palm Springs. Activities Enjoy a variety of activities during your romantic getaway that will be sure to create lasting memories! Palm Springs offers couples an array of options for exploring nature, from taking a jeep tour of the amazing desert landscape to exploring the beauty of the Coachella Valley on a private hot air balloon ride. If you're after a more relaxed vibe, indulge in a spa treatment at one of the many luxurious spas in the area. From a couples massage to body wraps and facials, a spa day is sure to rejuvenate the mind, body, and soul. For a dose of culture and history, take a tour of the iconic Palm Springs Aerial Tramway and get a breathtaking view of the San Jacinto Mountains. Afterward, explore the local art galleries and museums, or take a stroll through the sunny downtown area to visit the many boutique shops and restaurants. You can also enjoy a romantic evening at one of the many outdoor theaters, where you can watch a movie under the stars. If you're feeling adventurous, take a hike to the stunning Indian Canyons, or take a leisurely kayak ride along the Colorado River. Enjoy the natural beauty and stunning desert views that Palm Springs has to offer. No matter what activity you choose, you're sure to have an unforgettable experience with your partner during your babymoon in Palm Springs. Attractions We're excited to discuss the amazing attractions that Palm Springs, California has to offer! To start, let's talk about the Palm Springs Aerial Tramway. It offers stunning views of the Coachella Valley from the top of Mt. San Jacinto. We also can't forget to mention the Palm Springs Art Museum. It's home to a vast collection of Native American artifacts and modern artworks. Lastly, the Living Desert Zoo and Gardens is a great destination for animal lovers. It has over 450 species of animals and plants! Palm Springs Aerial Tramway Take a journey to the top of the world and experience the breathtaking views that await you at the Palm Springs Aerial Tramway. Located in the Mount San Jacinto State Park, the tramway offers visitors a chance to take in the majestic beauty of the Coachella Valley from the highest point in the area. As the world’s largest rotating tramcar takes you up two and a half miles in elevation, you can soak up the views of the desert floor and the rugged San Jacinto Mountains. Once you reach the top, you can explore the trails, observe the local wildlife, and enjoy a meal at the Peaks Restaurant. Whether you’re looking for a romantic getaway or an adventure with your family, the Palm Springs Aerial Tramway should be at the top of your list. With its stunning views, diverse trails, and exciting activities, it’s the perfect way to spend a day in Palm Springs. So don't wait - book your tickets today and get ready to explore the majestic beauty of the Coachella Valley from the sky! Palm Springs Art Museum We left the Palm Springs Aerial Tramway, with its stunning views of the Chino Canyon, and headed to our next stop: the Palm Springs Art Museum. The museum is a great place to learn about the area's cultural influences and explore the world of visual arts. Experienced guides provide visitors with a comprehensive overview of the museum and its collections. The museum houses an impressive selection of contemporary art, sculptures and photographs from a variety of media. It also features a variety of rotating exhibits that highlight the work of local, national and international artists. The museum also hosts a number of events throughout the year, including lectures, workshops, gallery talks, and performances. The museum also offers a variety of educational programs for children and adults, making it an ideal spot for a babymoon in Palm Springs. The Living Desert Zoo and Gardens The Living Desert Zoo and Gardens is a great spot for a day trip. It features over 450 species of animals from around the world, including several endangered species. It's a great place for couples to explore, with hiking trails and wildlife watching opportunities. The zoo is home to species from all corners of the globe, including African lions, Mexican gray wolves, and endangered Arabian oryx. There are also a variety of local animals, from desert tortoises to bighorn sheep. The zoo also features several unique gardens and a variety of educational programs. The gardens are a great place to relax and explore, with cacti and succulents, wildflowers, and other desert flora. The educational programs are great for couples looking to learn more about the wildlife, and the zoo also offers special events throughout the year. The Living Desert Zoo and Gardens is a great spot for a day trip, and couples can explore the wildlife, gardens, and educational programs. Relaxation Unwind and soak up the sun for some much needed rest and relaxation when you take your babymoon in Palm Springs, California. This city offers a multitude of romantic retreats, luxury spas, and other relaxing activities that are sure to make your babymoon special. From couples massages to hot springs and mud baths, you can select from a variety of therapeutic experiences that are perfect for a romantic escape. Spend your days lounging poolside or by the beach, or indulge in a private candlelit dinner beneath the stars. A spa day with your partner is a great way to de-stress and connect with one another. You can also take advantage of the picturesque surroundings and book a yoga class or a guided meditation session. No matter how you choose to relax, your babymoon in Palm Springs will be an unforgettable experience. Take a leisurely stroll hand-in-hand and take in the stunning scenery, or rent a bike and explore the area together. Enjoy a romantic sunset picnic or just sit back, relax, and appreciate the beauty of this amazing destination. Nightlife We're excited to discuss the nightlife options in Palm Springs, California! From live music venues to bars and clubs, to comedy clubs, there is something for everyone when it comes to enjoying a night out. Whether you're looking for a more laid back vibe with a live band playing some tunes, or a wild night of dancing and drinks, Palm Springs has it all. There's also a few awesome comedy clubs for those who want a good laugh and some entertainment. Live music venues Soak up the sounds of the city and take a break from reality at these live music venues in Palm Springs. The city offers plenty of spots to enjoy performances from local talent in a variety of genres. From small, intimate bars to large outdoor music festivals, you'll find something to suit every taste. The city's premiere music spot is The Hood Bar and Pizza. Here, you can enjoy live bands playing all types of music, from punk to blues. The venue has a full-service bar and outdoor seating, allowing you to get the full Palm Springs experience. If you're looking for a more lively atmosphere, you can check out the annual Palm Springs International Music Festival. This three-day festival features some of the best local and international music acts, and it's a great way to experience the city's vibrant music scene. Whether you're looking for a cozy night out or an all-out music festival, Palm Springs has it all. Bars and clubs Ready to let loose and have a good time? Palm Springs is home to an amazing bar and club scene, with over 200 bars, clubs, and lounges to choose from. Whether you're looking to dance the night away or just chill out with a few drinks, there is something for every mood. From live music venues to trendy cocktail bars, there are plenty of options to choose from. For a more relaxed evening, you can choose from one of the many craft beer bars that offer a selection of local brews and an inviting atmosphere. If you're looking for a lively night out, there are plenty of clubs and dance bars that feature live music and DJs spinning the latest tunes. Whatever your preference, Palm Springs has something to offer. Comedy clubs We've already discussed all the bars and clubs that Palm Springs has to offer, so now let's talk about the comedy clubs in the area. Every night, couples can enjoy some family friendly comedy, whether they want to experience a night out at a club, or take a comedy cruise along the coast. There are plenty of ways to get your laughs in Palm Springs and make the most of your babymoon! To make it easier to compare the different comedy clubs in the area, here's a quick comparison table: ClubFamily Friendly?Cruise?The ImprovYesNoLaugh Out LoudYesYesLaugh FactoryYesNo The Improv has been a staple of the Palm Springs comedy scene for years, with a mixture of family friendly acts and more adult oriented ones. For those looking for a more unique experience, the Laugh Out Loud comedy cruise offers couples a chance to enjoy the open air while having a good laugh. And finally, Laugh Factory offers a more traditional comedy club experience with family friendly comedy and drinks. No matter which comedy club you choose, you can be sure to have a great time on your babymoon in Palm Springs. And don't forget to take lots of pictures to remember your time together! Frequently Asked Questions Are there any special discounts available for babymooners? Planning a babymoon? We understand that it's an important time for couples looking to enjoy a bit of relaxation and quality time before the baby arrives. Fortunately, there are a number of discounts available for babymooners that make it easier to plan a special trip. From spas offering special packages to relaxation spots offering discounts on accommodations, a babymoon can be done without breaking the bank. Research your destination ahead of time to find out what kind of discounts are available and make sure to take advantage of them when you can! Is there a special itinerary recommended for a babymoon in Palm Springs? We're seeking a special itinerary for a babymoon in Palm Springs! To make the most of this romantic getaway, why not start with spa treatments to pamper and relax? Then, indulge in a delicious dinner at one of the many romantic restaurants in the city. For some fun in the sun, explore the Joshua Tree National Park and take in the stunning views. If you're looking for nightlife, the city offers plenty of opportunities to dance the night away. With a range of activities, Palm Springs is the perfect destination for a babymoon! Is there a recommended time of year to visit Palm Springs for a babymoon? When planning a babymoon, Palm Springs is a great destination for a family. Whether you're looking for a relaxing getaway or an outdoor adventure, there's something for everyone. The best time of year to visit depends on what you're looking for. For outdoor activities and exploration, the best time to visit is from March to May when the temperatures are mild and the days are sunny. For those wanting to take advantage of family-friendly hotels, the best time to visit is from October to November when temperatures are cooler and hotel prices are lower. What is the best way to get around Palm Springs? We all know that Palm Springs is a great place for a babymoon, but getting around can be tricky. Renting a car is one of the most popular options, but if you're looking for a more economical way to explore the area, public transportation is your best bet. The city has an extensive network of buses and shuttles that will take you anywhere you want to go. With fares as low as $1, you can easily get around to all the sights and attractions without breaking the bank. Plus, the schedules are reliable and the buses are clean, making it a safe and convenient way to get around. Are there any baby-friendly activities to do in Palm Springs? Heading to Palm Springs? There are plenty of baby-friendly activities to do in the area to make your vacation special. From cozy resorts with family-friendly amenities to romantic dinners for two, you'll find something for everyone in the family. Take a stroll through the downtown area and explore the unique boutiques and galleries. There are also plenty of parks, trails, and other outdoor activities to enjoy. Palm Springs is also home to several museums, art galleries, and botanical gardens. Don't forget to check out the city's many spas and resorts for a truly relaxing and fun experience. No matter what type of activity you're looking for, you're sure to find something perfect for you and your family in Palm Springs. Conclusion We had the perfect babymoon in Palm Springs! It was the perfect mix of relaxation and exploration. We stayed at a beautiful resort, ate delicious meals, and explored the many attractions the area had to offer. We even got to spend some time at the spa, which was a great way to relax and bond with each other. Finally, we experienced the nightlife of the area, which was a great way to end our trip. We were so happy to have had the opportunity to explore the area and create memories that will last a lifetime. Our experience in Palm Springs showed us the truth of the theory that a babymoon is the perfect way to celebrate the upcoming arrival of a new baby! |
2024.06.09 14:02 BrianLSComics Seeking Volunteer Editors for Webcomic, "The Wild Blue"
I'm the creator of the webcomic "The Wild Blue" (ThWiBl for short), and I'm looking for some volunteers to help give me feedback on my story content and critique each new episode as I complete them. We would be using a discord server as the main communication hub.
The Wild Blue is a slice-of-life sci-fi comedy/drama following an ensemble cast attending The Cyrian Flight Academy, the top flight school in the galaxy. The cast all experiences their own forms of culture shock from life at the academy, and the way they've lived their lives up to that point is constantly being challenged in wacky and sometimes heartbreaking ways. Later on in the story, hints of corruption at the academy begins to paint a different picture of the formerly idyllic setting of the story, and that further exposes that the world of The Wild Blue may not be as utopian as it may have seemed. The story is commentary on high society, the dangers of blind loyalty to one's family and the worldviews given to you by your upbringing.
The world the story takes place in is sci-fi, but the ground-level setting of the comic is very contemporary to keep things relatable to the audience.
The art style for ThWiBl is primarily made from 3D assets to speed up production time, with characters created in VRoid studio. The characters' facial features are drawn over the models, to maintain a hand drawn feel. This has been a point of contention for some, but I spent 5 years drawing my last webcomic every day and I was pretty burnt out, so I needed to streamline the process this time around.
ThWiBl currently releases differently on different platforms. The story is released in chapters on platforms like Tapas and Webtoon, but on social media like Facebook and Instagram, the chapters are split into smaller episodes, labeled as subchapters, (eg chapter 13.2, chapter 13.3, etc), each made up of 8 slides and a title card. The episodes release every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, but I complete new episodes on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays.
At the time of writing this, I'm currently working on chapter 62.8, which is the 313th episode, so there would be some catch up required if you're not already familiar with the series. I'm also very far ahead of schedule, so that early access can be given to my Patreon supporters. My goal is to reach the end of the story by chapter 150.
As an editor, I would be looking for story feedback, constructive criticism on the overall plot, character development, pacing, and dialogue, as well as a sounding board for future plotlines. I'll also be looking for detailed feedback on each individual episode, focusing on things like narrative flow, engagement, and any inconsistencies. Despite being silly and wacky on the surface, each character is fully fleshed out with their own perspectives and motivations informed by their childhoods and the traumas that they experienced therein, so someone who likes to look deeper into character motivations beyond what's on the surface would be preferred.
If you join me as an editor, you'll receive credit on my website and The Wild Blue's social media pages, you'll get to read episodes of The Wild Blue before they are released to the public, even before the highest tier Patreon members get them, and you'll get to work closely with me and influence the direction of the story.
You can take a look at the comic for reference here
And just as a content warning for those with reservations: ThWiBl has sparse elements of violence, sexual themes and dialogue, plot lines involving LGBT themes, and anthropomorphic characters, but none of these elements are the focus of the story. If you find any of this offensive, this role may not be for you.
Anyone interested, please send me a DM or an email to [BrianLSComics@gmail.com](mailto:BrianLSComics@gmail.com).
Thanks for your consideration and I look forward to hearing from you!
— Brian LS
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The Wild Blue is a slice-of-life sci-fi comedy/drama following an ensemble cast attending The Cyrian Flight Academy, the top flight school in the galaxy. The cast all experiences their own forms of culture shock from life at the academy, and the way they've lived their lives up to that point is constantly being challenged in wacky and sometimes heartbreaking ways. Later on in the story, hints of corruption at the academy begins to paint a different picture of the formerly idyllic setting of the story, and that further exposes that the world of The Wild Blue may not be as utopian as it may have seemed. The story is commentary on high society, the dangers of blind loyalty to one's family and the worldviews given to you by your upbringing.
The world the story takes place in is sci-fi, but the ground-level setting of the comic is very contemporary to keep things relatable to the audience.
The art style for ThWiBl is primarily made from 3D assets to speed up production time, with characters created in VRoid studio. The characters' facial features are drawn over the models, to maintain a hand drawn feel. This has been a point of contention for some, but I spent 5 years drawing my last webcomic every day and I was pretty burnt out, so I needed to streamline the process this time around.
ThWiBl currently releases differently on different platforms. The story is released in chapters on platforms like Tapas and Webtoon, but on social media like Facebook and Instagram, the chapters are split into smaller episodes, labeled as subchapters, (eg chapter 13.2, chapter 13.3, etc), each made up of 8 slides and a title card. The episodes release every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, but I complete new episodes on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays.
At the time of writing this, I'm currently working on chapter 62.8, which is the 313th episode, so there would be some catch up required if you're not already familiar with the series. I'm also very far ahead of schedule, so that early access can be given to my Patreon supporters. My goal is to reach the end of the story by chapter 150.
As an editor, I would be looking for story feedback, constructive criticism on the overall plot, character development, pacing, and dialogue, as well as a sounding board for future plotlines. I'll also be looking for detailed feedback on each individual episode, focusing on things like narrative flow, engagement, and any inconsistencies. Despite being silly and wacky on the surface, each character is fully fleshed out with their own perspectives and motivations informed by their childhoods and the traumas that they experienced therein, so someone who likes to look deeper into character motivations beyond what's on the surface would be preferred.
If you join me as an editor, you'll receive credit on my website and The Wild Blue's social media pages, you'll get to read episodes of The Wild Blue before they are released to the public, even before the highest tier Patreon members get them, and you'll get to work closely with me and influence the direction of the story.
You can take a look at the comic for reference here
And just as a content warning for those with reservations: ThWiBl has sparse elements of violence, sexual themes and dialogue, plot lines involving LGBT themes, and anthropomorphic characters, but none of these elements are the focus of the story. If you find any of this offensive, this role may not be for you.
Anyone interested, please send me a DM or an email to [BrianLSComics@gmail.com](mailto:BrianLSComics@gmail.com).
Thanks for your consideration and I look forward to hearing from you!
— Brian LS
2024.06.09 14:02 QuestionableDialogue Fat vs Sugar Public service announcement.
Understanding the Complexity of Nutrition: Sugar and Fat.
Hey fasting, I have noticed in in everyday life and on reddit there has been very good media influence causing people to have low resolution views of the world around them. man v woman, tall v short, black v white, trump v biden.In the world of nutrition, it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking in binary terms: fat vs. sugar, good vs. bad. However, the reality is far more nuanced. I was hoping to break down the intricacies of how fat and sugar interact in our diets and why it's essential to look beyond simple categorizations.
The False Dichotomy:
- Many people have been misled into believing that we must choose between fats and sugars, often vilifying one while praising the other.
- This binary thinking is a product of marketing and media influence, which often oversimplifies complex nutritional information.
The Reality: Both Are Integral to Many Foods.
Food Composition:- Consider popular treats like cookies, donuts, and brownies. These items are not just rich in sugar; they are also loaded with fats.
- Both fats and sugars contribute significantly to the calorie content and taste profile of these foods.
- Different foods have typically have a blend of macros, and should be viewed holistically.
- Sugar: 4 calories per gram.
- Fat: 9 calories per gram.
- In many processed foods, a significant portion of the calories come from fat, often more than 50%.
The Marketing Manipulation
Industry Tactics:- The sugar industry and the fat industry often collaborate, as seen in products from companies like Nestle.
- Campaigns blaming sugar alone or fat alone distract from the fact that these industries often work together to create appealing, high-calorie foods, that light up your brain. Have you ever seen a baby eat ice-cream for the first time??
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iECwVCFjmqc
The Health Implications
Processed Foods:- Processed foods often combine high levels of sugar and fat, creating a potent mix that is calorie-dense and low in nutritional value.
- These foods are typically shelf-stable, filled with preservatives, and lack fiber and antioxidants.
- People frequently cut out sugary foods thinking they are eliminating sugar but overlook the fat content.
- Common foods blamed for sugar-related health issues, such as ice cream and pizza, are also high in fat.
The Takeaway
Balanced Understanding:- Nutrition is not about vilifying one nutrient while exonerating another. Both fats and sugars play roles in our diet, and their impacts are often intertwined.
- The key is understanding that many processed foods are unhealthy not just because of sugar but also due to their high fat content, lack of fiber, and other additives.
- It is crucial to read nutrition labels to understand the complete picture of what you are consuming.
- Look beyond the sugar content and consider the total calories, fat, fiber, and overall nutritional value of the food.
Conclusion
By moving away from binary thinking and appreciating the complexity of nutrition, we can make more informed dietary choices. Recognize that the combination of sugar and fat in many processed foods contributes to their appeal and caloric density. Understanding this can help us approach our diets with a more balanced perspective, focusing on whole, minimally processed foods that provide comprehensive nutritional benefits.Here, check it out for yourself
Kitkat https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/297556924
Cookie dough https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/315833581
Croissant https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/256943373
Pizza https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/307366159
Dairy Milk https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/275027686
Summary Table
| Product | Total Calories (per 100g) | Calories from Fat | Calories from Carbs |
|---|---|---|---|
| KitKat | 502 kcal | 220.5 kcal | 249.2 kcal |
| Cookie Dough Ice Cream | 273 kcal | 135 kcal | 124 kcal |
| Choc Croissant | 436 kcal | 237.6 kcal | 160.8 kcal |
| Pep Pizza | 251 kcal | 99 kcal | 108 kcal |
| Dairy Milk choc | 534 kcal | 270 kcal | 224 kcal |
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2024.06.09 13:43 CreateJericho 💚 [SFW] Chill Adult Chat - We're just a bunch of adults(over 18s average is around 30-35) that hang out and play some chat based games, no toxic chatters allowed💯
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2024.06.09 13:40 CreateJericho 💚 [SFW] Chill Adult Chat - We're just a bunch of adults(over 18s average is around 30-35) that hang out and play some chat based games, no toxic chatters allowed💯
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2024.06.09 13:38 Dry_Transition_2132 "Internship Opportunities at Pehchaan The Street School: Experience the Joy of Giving Back"
The internship provides us with the joy of giving back and experiencing the profound joy of giving back and experiencing the profound joy and satisfaction that comes from contributing to the betterment of society and helping children achieve their potential. It serves as a factor of personal growth, as well as we feel personal fulfillment and experience the intrinsic rewards of making a tangible difference in the lives of underprivileged children and their communities.
As we all know an Internship is a temporary position offered by an organization to students, recent graduates, or individuals seeking practical experience in a particular field. Internships can be part-time or full-time and are typically offered for a specified duration, which can range from a few weeks to several months. It has some key aspects like gaining experience, skill development, community engagement, career exploration, networking, mentorship, etc.
Are you passionate about making a difference in the lives of underprivileged children?
Pehchaan The Street School offers a range of internship opportunities that allow you to do just that. By joining our team, you can gain hands-on experience, develop valuable skills, and make a meaningful impact on the community. Our internships provide a unique chance to contribute to the education and empowerment of children in need, while also experiencing the profound joy that comes from giving back.
Pehchaan- The Street School is a 9-year-old nonprofit organization, started is 9-year-old non-profit organization, started in 2015, the sole purpose of its creation was to help as many children as possible who don’t have access to basic amenities like education, food, etc. Pehchaan-The Street School primary form of help is to provide students with education because the Pehchaan The Street School believes that education is the noblest form of help we can offer to a child. Education gives children the ability to change their lives for good and grow up to be successful and socially responsible citizens of the globe. Pehchaan The Street School has over 7 centers in the region of Delhi and Delhi NCR with approx 1500 underprivileged children studying and about 400 active volunteers working on the ground.
It offers two kinds of internships that are:- Online Mode as well as Offline Mode. Online Mode comprises Content Writing in which you have to publish your articles on various websites you have a target of a certain word limit for every week and they are posted on websites like Medium, Quora, WordPress, Reddit, Linkedin, Instagram, Twitter, etc, Fundraising Intern in which you have to raise fund for the organization, Online Community Outreach Interns who connect with the people in online mode, Social Media Intern in which you handle social media management and propagate the thoughts about the organization through reels, edits, posts, blogs, etc on Instagram, Whatsapp, Twitter, Facebook, etc. Human Resource Intern through various websites, and social media handles, where you contact different people and recruit them for Pehchaan The Street School, communicate about the vacancies about any internship, and find various interns interested in being part of the community.
Offline Mode Internships offer on-ground work in which your physical presence matters; you can work in any of the centers of the organization which you find suitable. Teaching Intern is one of the finest forms of offline mode as you handle a group of students and enlighten them. There are certain criteria for hours of teaching that you have to complete in your internship. Social Media handles in offline mode where you shoot various reels; and pictures make videos and raise awareness, drive engagement as well and increase followers. Community Outreach where they engage with the local people and make them aware of the importance of education, organize and participate in various community events, workshops, etc. Fundraising in offline mode in which you organize various events, fundraising events such as charity dinners, auctions, and community fairs, coordinate logistics, including venue selection, vendor arrangements, and volunteer management, and promote events through local media, and community networks.
Benefits of Internship Opportunities at Pehchaan The Street School There a lot of benefits of Internship Opportunities at Pehchaan The Street School but most specifically are firstly you gain Hands-on experience engaging with children directly and participate in educational activities, It increases your skills and enhances your teaching, communication, organizational skills, preparing oneself for better career opportunities in future, you connect with local communities and understand their challenges and aspirations you strengthen your resume with the valuable experience, you receive a certificate of completion and a letter of recommendation upon successful completion of your internship, providing formal recognition of your contributions. The most important benefit is to provide us with the joy of giving back and experiencing the profound joy and satisfaction that comes from contributing to the betterment of society and helping children achieve their potential.
Interning at Pehchaan The Street School is more than just a professional opportunity—it's a chance to make a real difference in the lives of underprivileged children. Whether you work online or offline, you will gain valuable skills, experience personal growth, and contribute to a cause that truly matters. Join us in our mission to provide quality education and support to those who need it most. Experience the joy of giving back and become a part of our dedicated community striving for positive change.
For more details, check it out:-
Instagram page link – https://instagram.com/pehchaanstreetschool?utm_source=ig_profile_share&igshid=181sger2fozl7
Email id – [pehchaanschool@gmail.com](mailto:pehchaanschool@gmail.com)
Youtube channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXd4gnTazJh3JugKENt5yog
Twitter – https://twitter.com/Pehchaan_School?s=09
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As we all know an Internship is a temporary position offered by an organization to students, recent graduates, or individuals seeking practical experience in a particular field. Internships can be part-time or full-time and are typically offered for a specified duration, which can range from a few weeks to several months. It has some key aspects like gaining experience, skill development, community engagement, career exploration, networking, mentorship, etc.
Are you passionate about making a difference in the lives of underprivileged children?
Pehchaan The Street School offers a range of internship opportunities that allow you to do just that. By joining our team, you can gain hands-on experience, develop valuable skills, and make a meaningful impact on the community. Our internships provide a unique chance to contribute to the education and empowerment of children in need, while also experiencing the profound joy that comes from giving back.
Pehchaan- The Street School is a 9-year-old nonprofit organization, started is 9-year-old non-profit organization, started in 2015, the sole purpose of its creation was to help as many children as possible who don’t have access to basic amenities like education, food, etc. Pehchaan-The Street School primary form of help is to provide students with education because the Pehchaan The Street School believes that education is the noblest form of help we can offer to a child. Education gives children the ability to change their lives for good and grow up to be successful and socially responsible citizens of the globe. Pehchaan The Street School has over 7 centers in the region of Delhi and Delhi NCR with approx 1500 underprivileged children studying and about 400 active volunteers working on the ground.
It offers two kinds of internships that are:- Online Mode as well as Offline Mode. Online Mode comprises Content Writing in which you have to publish your articles on various websites you have a target of a certain word limit for every week and they are posted on websites like Medium, Quora, WordPress, Reddit, Linkedin, Instagram, Twitter, etc, Fundraising Intern in which you have to raise fund for the organization, Online Community Outreach Interns who connect with the people in online mode, Social Media Intern in which you handle social media management and propagate the thoughts about the organization through reels, edits, posts, blogs, etc on Instagram, Whatsapp, Twitter, Facebook, etc. Human Resource Intern through various websites, and social media handles, where you contact different people and recruit them for Pehchaan The Street School, communicate about the vacancies about any internship, and find various interns interested in being part of the community.
Offline Mode Internships offer on-ground work in which your physical presence matters; you can work in any of the centers of the organization which you find suitable. Teaching Intern is one of the finest forms of offline mode as you handle a group of students and enlighten them. There are certain criteria for hours of teaching that you have to complete in your internship. Social Media handles in offline mode where you shoot various reels; and pictures make videos and raise awareness, drive engagement as well and increase followers. Community Outreach where they engage with the local people and make them aware of the importance of education, organize and participate in various community events, workshops, etc. Fundraising in offline mode in which you organize various events, fundraising events such as charity dinners, auctions, and community fairs, coordinate logistics, including venue selection, vendor arrangements, and volunteer management, and promote events through local media, and community networks.
Benefits of Internship Opportunities at Pehchaan The Street School There a lot of benefits of Internship Opportunities at Pehchaan The Street School but most specifically are firstly you gain Hands-on experience engaging with children directly and participate in educational activities, It increases your skills and enhances your teaching, communication, organizational skills, preparing oneself for better career opportunities in future, you connect with local communities and understand their challenges and aspirations you strengthen your resume with the valuable experience, you receive a certificate of completion and a letter of recommendation upon successful completion of your internship, providing formal recognition of your contributions. The most important benefit is to provide us with the joy of giving back and experiencing the profound joy and satisfaction that comes from contributing to the betterment of society and helping children achieve their potential.
Interning at Pehchaan The Street School is more than just a professional opportunity—it's a chance to make a real difference in the lives of underprivileged children. Whether you work online or offline, you will gain valuable skills, experience personal growth, and contribute to a cause that truly matters. Join us in our mission to provide quality education and support to those who need it most. Experience the joy of giving back and become a part of our dedicated community striving for positive change.
For more details, check it out:-
Instagram page link – https://instagram.com/pehchaanstreetschool?utm_source=ig_profile_share&igshid=181sger2fozl7
Email id – [pehchaanschool@gmail.com](mailto:pehchaanschool@gmail.com)
Youtube channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXd4gnTazJh3JugKENt5yog
Twitter – https://twitter.com/Pehchaan_School?s=09
2024.06.09 13:27 iamkingsleyf 19 Most Eco-friendly Cities in the World
Pollution and carbon emissions aren't pleasant for anyone, so here's a list of eco-friendly cities prioritizing nature and sustainable living.
Pollution and carbon emissions aren't friendly for anyone. So here's a list of cities that prioritize nature and sustainable living. No city is perfect, and many still have a long way to go before they can be considered truly sustainable.
However, these cities benefit both the people's quality of life and the conservation and protection of our planet and environment.
The sustainability of our planet is in jeopardy now more than ever before. This is due to the rising population and technological advancements that change how we live our lives.
Furthermore, It's becoming unpleasant, from the production of dangerous pollutants to the extradentary levels of waste.
Also, Governments and municipal governments worldwide feel the heat from their population—particularly Generation Z, who are well-known for campaigning for environmental reform.
And pressing countries to seek new methods to become more sustainable and address this global issue.
We've compiled a list of cities leading the way toward moving toward sustainable living and making the world a greener place. The world's greenest cities are listed below.
Furthermore, more of their roadways are being designed expressly for bicycling, and also, electric bikes are being supplied at a reasonable cost.
Again, another fascinating thing about Copenhagen is that two-thirds of its hotels are eco-certified, signifying that they adhere to the highest levels of sustainability in terms of energy, food, and design.
They also have vending machines that use recycled stuff and receive a deposit at many of their restaurants, and they sell cuisine made with organic ingredients in many of them.
By 2025, This beautiful Copenhagen city aspires to be carbon neutral. With all of these extraordinary achievements, it's difficult not to believe that this is one of the most eco-friendly cities globally.
Finally, almost 70% of their hotels are certified as sustainable. They have bikes all across the city, just like Copenhagen, giving them away. Zurich is undoubtedly a green city from which all other cities can learn.
Bicycling ensures a healthy population and dramatically cuts carbon emissions and pollution.
Furthermore, It is also known as the most environmentally friendly city in the United Kingdom. Bristol has good air quality, and the number of bikers on the road has increased.
The large city aims to phase out the use of fossil fuels by 2040 and is doing it by enacting new rules that promote a greener society – with European Union assistance to help it grow smarter.
Furthermore, bio-fuel, made from sewage waste and used to power automobiles throughout the city, is gaining popularity.
Stockholm is one of the eco-friendly cities. They are capable of repurposing any waste heat from its 30,000-seat stadium. Recovering heat might help warm over 1,000 flats more efficiently using sustainable ways.
Also, Berlin has more parks than any other European city, and it integrates green spaces nicely into the urban landscape.
Following World War I, inhabitants became far more self-sufficient and appreciated their green spaces than they had previously, learning to cultivate their food, a trend that has been handed down down the years.
Furthermore, with the advent of electric vehicles, Berlin has erected over 400 charging stations throughout the city, encouraging residents to consider switching vehicle types.
Moreover, locals do not perceive the necessity to own automobiles and instead choose to share to save the environment.
London is among the eco-friendly cities in the world. The IESE Cities in Motion Index 2020 classified the city as the most environmentally friendly globally. By 2050, London aspires to have zero greenhouse gas emissions.
They're putting money into hybrid diesel-electric buses. They expect that by 2037, all 9,200 of their buses will be emission-free.
Furthermore, the city has an estimated 250 miles of bike trails, demonstrating how easy and safe it is to move around. Cycling is the primary mode of transportation for 8% of the city's population.
Furthermore, Portland generates 2,434,840 tonnes of garbage and recovers 1,235,924 tonnes, which is incredible for a major metropolis. In addition to the preceding, the city employs 33% renewable energy.
In addition, the city was the first in the United States to outlaw the use of plastic. Furthermore, another impressive green statistic in San Francisco is that 13.8 out of every 10,000 residences uses solar energy, more than double the national average.
Also, San Francisco is one of the best locations to visit without a car. You may walk all around this environmentally friendly metropolis.
In addition, more residents in New York City are driving low-emission vehicles, and businesses in the city are taking more environmentally friendly steps. In New York, urban gardening has grown very popular.
Furthermore, small gardens are planted on balconies, terraces, and rooftops.
More measures to promote sustainable transportation and assist create a more sustainable city are being implemented by the city.
The capital, located on a peninsula in the Gulf of Finland, combines metropolitan areas and tranquil reservoirs.
Furthermore, tourism is one of the most important contributions to Helsinki's economy, which has increased environmentally friendly lodging.
Indeed, approximately 75% of hotel rooms in the city have been certified as eco-friendly, and those that haven't fully committed to the cause have some environmental plan in place that covers all aspects of the business, from food and water to waste management and energy consumption.
Tokyo likewise intends to use renewable energy sources to power 30% of the town. They also continue to lead the globe in having one of the lowest-emission public transportation systems.
Reykjavik intends to eliminate greenhouse gas emissions by 2040 by boosting walking and cycling, and public transportation usage.
Furthermore, the promotion of public transportation is motivated by the city's desire to continue introducing hydrogen buses, which are now used by barely 4% of the population. The city has set a target of trebling this by 2030 to ensure that this happens.
The city aspires to be one of the world's most environmentally friendly cities in the future. Singapore being one
However, they are currently regarded as Asia's greenest city. It is one of the best-known towns in the world for its abundance of trees.
Used water that has been cleansed and treated accounts for over 40% of Singapore's water supply. With so much innovation, this city will undoubtedly become a sustainability leader for many years to come.
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Pollution and carbon emissions aren't friendly for anyone. So here's a list of cities that prioritize nature and sustainable living. No city is perfect, and many still have a long way to go before they can be considered truly sustainable.
However, these cities benefit both the people's quality of life and the conservation and protection of our planet and environment.
The sustainability of our planet is in jeopardy now more than ever before. This is due to the rising population and technological advancements that change how we live our lives.
Furthermore, It's becoming unpleasant, from the production of dangerous pollutants to the extradentary levels of waste.
Also, Governments and municipal governments worldwide feel the heat from their population—particularly Generation Z, who are well-known for campaigning for environmental reform.
And pressing countries to seek new methods to become more sustainable and address this global issue.
We've compiled a list of cities leading the way toward moving toward sustainable living and making the world a greener place. The world's greenest cities are listed below.
1. Copenhagen, Denmark
Copenhagen has been labeled the world's greenest city for various reasons. To start with, all of their buses are transitioning from diesel to electric power.Furthermore, more of their roadways are being designed expressly for bicycling, and also, electric bikes are being supplied at a reasonable cost.
Again, another fascinating thing about Copenhagen is that two-thirds of its hotels are eco-certified, signifying that they adhere to the highest levels of sustainability in terms of energy, food, and design.
They also have vending machines that use recycled stuff and receive a deposit at many of their restaurants, and they sell cuisine made with organic ingredients in many of them.
By 2025, This beautiful Copenhagen city aspires to be carbon neutral. With all of these extraordinary achievements, it's difficult not to believe that this is one of the most eco-friendly cities globally.
2. Zurich, Switzerland
Here are some statistics demonstrating why Zurich is near the top of our world's most eco-friendly cities. It is interesting that renewable energy sources now account for more than 80% of their electricity. Also, over 40% of the garbage in the city is recycled.Finally, almost 70% of their hotels are certified as sustainable. They have bikes all across the city, just like Copenhagen, giving them away. Zurich is undoubtedly a green city from which all other cities can learn.
3. Amsterdam, Nertherland
Amsterdam is innovative and environmentally conscious in areas other than its well-known "coffee cafes." It's known for having more bikes than people (bikes are piled on top of each other in the streets!), and it's also known as the world's most bicycle-friendly capital city.Bicycling ensures a healthy population and dramatically cuts carbon emissions and pollution.
4. Bristol, UK
Bristol was the first British city designated as the European Green Capital. It's an honor bestowed upon a community for its efforts in addressing urban environmental concerns.Furthermore, It is also known as the most environmentally friendly city in the United Kingdom. Bristol has good air quality, and the number of bikers on the road has increased.
5. Stockholm, Sweden
This site has done its fair share of modifications to assist its residents to live a more sustainable lifestyle, with 14 islands and more than 50 bridges.The large city aims to phase out the use of fossil fuels by 2040 and is doing it by enacting new rules that promote a greener society – with European Union assistance to help it grow smarter.
Furthermore, bio-fuel, made from sewage waste and used to power automobiles throughout the city, is gaining popularity.
Stockholm is one of the eco-friendly cities. They are capable of repurposing any waste heat from its 30,000-seat stadium. Recovering heat might help warm over 1,000 flats more efficiently using sustainable ways.
6. Berlin, Germany
Berlin is a mad, wild city, but it's also known for its unconventional approach to environmental preservation.Also, Berlin has more parks than any other European city, and it integrates green spaces nicely into the urban landscape.
Following World War I, inhabitants became far more self-sufficient and appreciated their green spaces than they had previously, learning to cultivate their food, a trend that has been handed down down the years.
Furthermore, with the advent of electric vehicles, Berlin has erected over 400 charging stations throughout the city, encouraging residents to consider switching vehicle types.
Moreover, locals do not perceive the necessity to own automobiles and instead choose to share to save the environment.
7. London, Uk
One of the significant factors contributing to London's eco-friendliness is the city's approximately 3,000 green spaces and parks, which account for 40% of the city's total area.London is among the eco-friendly cities in the world. The IESE Cities in Motion Index 2020 classified the city as the most environmentally friendly globally. By 2050, London aspires to have zero greenhouse gas emissions.
They're putting money into hybrid diesel-electric buses. They expect that by 2037, all 9,200 of their buses will be emission-free.
8. Portland, Oregon
Believe it or not, 25% of city workers commute by bike, carpool, or public transportation, which has significant environmental benefits. As a result, the number of dangerous automobiles has decreased.Furthermore, the city has an estimated 250 miles of bike trails, demonstrating how easy and safe it is to move around. Cycling is the primary mode of transportation for 8% of the city's population.
Furthermore, Portland generates 2,434,840 tonnes of garbage and recovers 1,235,924 tonnes, which is incredible for a major metropolis. In addition to the preceding, the city employs 33% renewable energy.
9. San Francisco, California
San Francisco's green movement has been reshaping the city in recent years. Also, San Francisco is one of the eco-friendly cities, recycles about 77 percent of its garbage.In addition, the city was the first in the United States to outlaw the use of plastic. Furthermore, another impressive green statistic in San Francisco is that 13.8 out of every 10,000 residences uses solar energy, more than double the national average.
Also, San Francisco is one of the best locations to visit without a car. You may walk all around this environmentally friendly metropolis.
10. New York City, New York
As shocking as it may seem, New York City has also been named one of the world's most environmentally friendly cities. Heating and water conservation are becoming more critical in their housing buildings.In addition, more residents in New York City are driving low-emission vehicles, and businesses in the city are taking more environmentally friendly steps. In New York, urban gardening has grown very popular.
Furthermore, small gardens are planted on balconies, terraces, and rooftops.
11. Capetown, South Africa
By making substantial environmental strides, such as using energy from South Africa's first commercial wind farm, altering the city to provide bike lanes, and supporting farmer's markets, Cape Town is leading the way for the entire continent of Africa.12. Paris, France
Paris is known for being one of the eco-friendly cities, named after an international treaty on climate change. In the ten years between 2004 and 2014, the city's greenhouse gas emissions decreased by 9.2 percent.More measures to promote sustainable transportation and assist create a more sustainable city are being implemented by the city.
13. Helsinki, Finland
If you want to visit a place or city that values the environment's friendliness and the planet's long-term environmental viability, then Helsinki is a place to go.The capital, located on a peninsula in the Gulf of Finland, combines metropolitan areas and tranquil reservoirs.
Furthermore, tourism is one of the most important contributions to Helsinki's economy, which has increased environmentally friendly lodging.
Indeed, approximately 75% of hotel rooms in the city have been certified as eco-friendly, and those that haven't fully committed to the cause have some environmental plan in place that covers all aspects of the business, from food and water to waste management and energy consumption.
14. Tokyo, Japan
With the Olympics set to take place in Tokyo this summer, the city has announced that all of the energy required to power the Games would come from sustainable sources. By 2030, the city hopes that half of all new automobiles sold will be zero-emission vehicles.Tokyo likewise intends to use renewable energy sources to power 30% of the town. They also continue to lead the globe in having one of the lowest-emission public transportation systems.
15. Vancouver, Canada
People flock to Vancouver because of its proximity to the mountains and wildlife, so it's no surprise that it's one of the world's most environmentally conscious cities. Vancouver is a top performer in CO2 emissions and air quality, and it is home to Greenpeace.16. Reykjavik, Iceland
The city, believe it or not, has a population of only 126,100 people, which is one of the primary characteristics that enables easy and adaptable improvements to make it a greener area.Reykjavik intends to eliminate greenhouse gas emissions by 2040 by boosting walking and cycling, and public transportation usage.
Furthermore, the promotion of public transportation is motivated by the city's desire to continue introducing hydrogen buses, which are now used by barely 4% of the population. The city has set a target of trebling this by 2030 to ensure that this happens.
17. Singapore, Singapore
Singapore has been named Asia's most environmentally friendly city due to its sustainability efforts. By 2030, Singapore plans to have at least 80 percent of its buildings be green.The city aspires to be one of the world's most environmentally friendly cities in the future. Singapore being one
However, they are currently regarded as Asia's greenest city. It is one of the best-known towns in the world for its abundance of trees.
Used water that has been cleansed and treated accounts for over 40% of Singapore's water supply. With so much innovation, this city will undoubtedly become a sustainability leader for many years to come.
18. Montevideo, Uruguay
Montevideo's long-term aim is to save its natural ecosystems and rural areas. Over 85% of Uruguay's electricity is generated from renewable energy sources.19. Grenoble, France
Grenoble has been named the European Green Capital for the year 2022. Between 2005 and 2016, the city's greenhouse gas emissions were reduced by 25%. By 2030, they aspire to have reduced carbon emissions by half.2024.06.09 13:07 Efficient_Fudge3010 i(19f) think my sister(20f)'s married best friend(22m) is in love with her
my sister, em (fake name), talks about her best friend, let's call him matt, a lot. i never thought much of it given the fact that they do really understand each otheare close in a way that i think is really great in a friendship and em was also in a pretty long term relationship up until about 2 weeks ago. PLUS matt is married and very clearly cares about his wife endlessly so i didn't see anything necessarily romantic there.. until this weekend.
for a little context i live in a different state than my sister so i didn't meet matt in person until this weekend at em & matt's graduation. matt got married to his wife, becca, a little over 6 months ago (i think), but they've been together about 3 years. becca was at his & em's show (theater school so they had performances/shows and graduation this weekend) so i met matt & becca there. they were both super sweet so, again, i didn't think much of it as it was a pretty quick meeting before we had to head out.
graduation was early the next day and i didn't notice anything too crazy at the ceremony. there was one moment when they were taking pictures together (just matt & em) and it was very... touchy, but again i think physical touch is a really nice thing to have in fully platonic relationships so, yet again, i didn't think much.
me, em, becca, and matt decided to go get lunch. we had a pretty good conversation flow, very comfortable energy, making jokes, being normal young adult stupid. it was chill, but, as much as i adore becca as a person, she seemed to be a little disapproving of a lot of matt's "quirks". and when i say quirks i just mean stuff like forgetting little things or singing the same song on repeat around the house (the smallest things yknow) and just reading it i realize it could come off as normal relationship banter, but it did feel a little strange in the moment (and you'll understand fully why i wanted to mention the "banter" in a second).
at this point i was realizing how connected matt & em really were. potential romantic interest aside, they really mean a lot to each other and you can absolutely see it.
while the 4 of us were walking to matt's car, my shoe came untied so i jokingly told em to fix it and she responded with something about only ever untying them (kinda an inside joke with friends, but she just unties everyone's shoes when they're not looking lol). i tied my shoe and me and matt ended up walking a little ahead of becca and em. matt immediately starts talking about how em always does it to him and how she did it when they went to the park (he was chasing her around and shit. idk). and AGAIN, whatever, it's none of my business how you categorize your feelings/relationships and i have no place to tell you what your standards and wants should be in a friendship... so whatever.
but the interaction wasn't what peaked my curiosity. it was the way he was talking. and the fact that every time the conversation naturally shifted he would change the subject back to em.
he cares so deeply for his wife. really cares. but i have never felt so much fondness in someone's voice, i have never seen so much light in someone's eyes, i have NEVER seen ANYONE speak with so much adoration for someone the way i did when matt spoke about my sister.
me and em went for ice cream alone a little later and she told me some things.
i'm not gonna say much about it because A) i don't know much anyways and B) it's not my place to say or try to connect dots, but she told me there are some pretty concerning relationship conflicts between becca & matt and matt is (from what i can tell) already questioning whether marriage was a smart decision.
hearing that i didn't immediately go "oh well ig i was right and he actually might be in love with you". i was more so realizing the little "quirks" becca seemed to not be a fan of were actually things they were seriously arguing about behind closed doors.
the reason i bring that up is because every time they fight it (from what i can tell) ends with matt being a "problem" and he fully caters to his wife, which, i can understand to an extent because she is disabled and has some mental struggles as well so there's a lot of fear on his part, but it's not an great situation regardless. i also bring it up because my sister said there was one instance where he had been down because of an argument/arguments and he told em "i've had more fun with you tonight than i've had with my wife in weeks"
he's also said stuff along the lines of "i love you so much i think it's unhealthy". and there was an occasion where em played matt & another mutual friend (calling him franklin) some songs she'd written. matt was like embarrassingly stunned and said he wanted to listen to her play (piano) forever and listen to her (not surprising tbh i've heard my sisters songs and she's wildly talented). franklin made a comment about how em "broke matt" and it kinda seems right because he brought up wanting to hear more of her songs completely unprompted (unless i wasn't paying attention lmao) today/yesterday
now i mentioned earlier em just recently left a long term relationship. she broke up with him, it wasn't messy or anything, they were just on very different paths in life, and she didn't feel very connected to him. em said she didn't really notice how "touchy" she and matt were until after the breakup. well, she did, but she thought "we're both in relationships so obviously nothings gonna happen".
after the break up she started to realize the closeness. said there been multiple instances where they're inches from each others face and just staring. definitely could be innocent, right? well yes! but also not when you can't stop looking at my sisters lips, bucko.
and then today happened. or yesterday, i guess.
they had their final show after graduation(it was amazing), everyone's crying through goodbyes, and the 4 of us (matt, becca, em, and i) plus franklin decided to hang out to stall the goodbyes.
there were a lot of moments that were very "holy shit whoever said soulmates aren't real never met you guys"
there were a lot of "fuck why am i happy just watching two idiots high-five"
and there was absolutely zero moments where i felt like matt would do any less than go to the ends of the earth for em and enjoy doing it
in fact matt quite literally said he would drive the entire way back to our hometown just to make sure em still talks to him
friendly kinda thing? sure! but not when you're laying with your heads together and while everyone staring at stars in the sky you are LOOKING AT EMS LIPS and ur WIFE is on the other side of her head.
i honestly don't think he knows he's in love with my sister. or at least he definitely wouldn't admit it until it's not considered fucked up. but i know.
and i really want to stress that i know people have different standards for what they want/need in romantic vs platonic relationships, but i can say with 100% certainty that matt is perfectly, undoubtedly, wholly, and unconditionally, in love with my sister. intentions aside.
i am a little scared for what happens when em moves in with matt (& becca) starting later this summeearly fall. as i said i don't think either of them would purposely do anything that could hurt becca, but i know "heat of the moment" impulses and i really hope it doesn't go that way.
she's not a homewrecker. he's not a cheater. i'm not worried about a full on side chick situation. but trying to diminish feelings is only gonna make them bubble over in a way that might have a not so fun aftermath.
god, they're both so perfect for each other and annoyingly good people. they deserve something good.
bec & matt will probably be visiting em (and me i guess) in our hometown at some point before then so maybe ill update this if i feel the need to say more then.
i'm not "rooting" for them to get together necessarily, but i really hope this doesn't get messy because whether it's platonic, romantic, anything in between, or anything beyond, they are the most supportive and gratifying pair of friends. they seriously deserve each other.
in whatever way life lets them love the other. i'm sure they will.
i'm not allowed to talk to anyone about this so i decided to go to reddit (as any normal chronically online kid does) and im realizing after typing this that there is a potential my sisters friend finds this
so
hey man. if you're reading this please know i understand i have no place categorizing your feelings (i know i already said it but i really can't tell you how to feel) but i can see how much my sister means to you. and no matter what you decide you feel, my sister just wants you to be happy. and i don't mean she'll "suffer in silence" and she'll always wish you'd have given her a chance, i mean she genuinely doesn't care whether you're friends or dating or scene partners or work spouses. she just wants to be around. she will love you in every way she can.
TLDR; my sisters friend is in love with her. maybe it'll never become romantic, but god i hope whatever happens they always have each other.
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for a little context i live in a different state than my sister so i didn't meet matt in person until this weekend at em & matt's graduation. matt got married to his wife, becca, a little over 6 months ago (i think), but they've been together about 3 years. becca was at his & em's show (theater school so they had performances/shows and graduation this weekend) so i met matt & becca there. they were both super sweet so, again, i didn't think much of it as it was a pretty quick meeting before we had to head out.
graduation was early the next day and i didn't notice anything too crazy at the ceremony. there was one moment when they were taking pictures together (just matt & em) and it was very... touchy, but again i think physical touch is a really nice thing to have in fully platonic relationships so, yet again, i didn't think much.
me, em, becca, and matt decided to go get lunch. we had a pretty good conversation flow, very comfortable energy, making jokes, being normal young adult stupid. it was chill, but, as much as i adore becca as a person, she seemed to be a little disapproving of a lot of matt's "quirks". and when i say quirks i just mean stuff like forgetting little things or singing the same song on repeat around the house (the smallest things yknow) and just reading it i realize it could come off as normal relationship banter, but it did feel a little strange in the moment (and you'll understand fully why i wanted to mention the "banter" in a second).
at this point i was realizing how connected matt & em really were. potential romantic interest aside, they really mean a lot to each other and you can absolutely see it.
while the 4 of us were walking to matt's car, my shoe came untied so i jokingly told em to fix it and she responded with something about only ever untying them (kinda an inside joke with friends, but she just unties everyone's shoes when they're not looking lol). i tied my shoe and me and matt ended up walking a little ahead of becca and em. matt immediately starts talking about how em always does it to him and how she did it when they went to the park (he was chasing her around and shit. idk). and AGAIN, whatever, it's none of my business how you categorize your feelings/relationships and i have no place to tell you what your standards and wants should be in a friendship... so whatever.
but the interaction wasn't what peaked my curiosity. it was the way he was talking. and the fact that every time the conversation naturally shifted he would change the subject back to em.
he cares so deeply for his wife. really cares. but i have never felt so much fondness in someone's voice, i have never seen so much light in someone's eyes, i have NEVER seen ANYONE speak with so much adoration for someone the way i did when matt spoke about my sister.
me and em went for ice cream alone a little later and she told me some things.
i'm not gonna say much about it because A) i don't know much anyways and B) it's not my place to say or try to connect dots, but she told me there are some pretty concerning relationship conflicts between becca & matt and matt is (from what i can tell) already questioning whether marriage was a smart decision.
hearing that i didn't immediately go "oh well ig i was right and he actually might be in love with you". i was more so realizing the little "quirks" becca seemed to not be a fan of were actually things they were seriously arguing about behind closed doors.
the reason i bring that up is because every time they fight it (from what i can tell) ends with matt being a "problem" and he fully caters to his wife, which, i can understand to an extent because she is disabled and has some mental struggles as well so there's a lot of fear on his part, but it's not an great situation regardless. i also bring it up because my sister said there was one instance where he had been down because of an argument/arguments and he told em "i've had more fun with you tonight than i've had with my wife in weeks"
he's also said stuff along the lines of "i love you so much i think it's unhealthy". and there was an occasion where em played matt & another mutual friend (calling him franklin) some songs she'd written. matt was like embarrassingly stunned and said he wanted to listen to her play (piano) forever and listen to her (not surprising tbh i've heard my sisters songs and she's wildly talented). franklin made a comment about how em "broke matt" and it kinda seems right because he brought up wanting to hear more of her songs completely unprompted (unless i wasn't paying attention lmao) today/yesterday
now i mentioned earlier em just recently left a long term relationship. she broke up with him, it wasn't messy or anything, they were just on very different paths in life, and she didn't feel very connected to him. em said she didn't really notice how "touchy" she and matt were until after the breakup. well, she did, but she thought "we're both in relationships so obviously nothings gonna happen".
after the break up she started to realize the closeness. said there been multiple instances where they're inches from each others face and just staring. definitely could be innocent, right? well yes! but also not when you can't stop looking at my sisters lips, bucko.
and then today happened. or yesterday, i guess.
they had their final show after graduation(it was amazing), everyone's crying through goodbyes, and the 4 of us (matt, becca, em, and i) plus franklin decided to hang out to stall the goodbyes.
there were a lot of moments that were very "holy shit whoever said soulmates aren't real never met you guys"
there were a lot of "fuck why am i happy just watching two idiots high-five"
and there was absolutely zero moments where i felt like matt would do any less than go to the ends of the earth for em and enjoy doing it
in fact matt quite literally said he would drive the entire way back to our hometown just to make sure em still talks to him
friendly kinda thing? sure! but not when you're laying with your heads together and while everyone staring at stars in the sky you are LOOKING AT EMS LIPS and ur WIFE is on the other side of her head.
i honestly don't think he knows he's in love with my sister. or at least he definitely wouldn't admit it until it's not considered fucked up. but i know.
and i really want to stress that i know people have different standards for what they want/need in romantic vs platonic relationships, but i can say with 100% certainty that matt is perfectly, undoubtedly, wholly, and unconditionally, in love with my sister. intentions aside.
i am a little scared for what happens when em moves in with matt (& becca) starting later this summeearly fall. as i said i don't think either of them would purposely do anything that could hurt becca, but i know "heat of the moment" impulses and i really hope it doesn't go that way.
she's not a homewrecker. he's not a cheater. i'm not worried about a full on side chick situation. but trying to diminish feelings is only gonna make them bubble over in a way that might have a not so fun aftermath.
god, they're both so perfect for each other and annoyingly good people. they deserve something good.
bec & matt will probably be visiting em (and me i guess) in our hometown at some point before then so maybe ill update this if i feel the need to say more then.
i'm not "rooting" for them to get together necessarily, but i really hope this doesn't get messy because whether it's platonic, romantic, anything in between, or anything beyond, they are the most supportive and gratifying pair of friends. they seriously deserve each other.
in whatever way life lets them love the other. i'm sure they will.
i'm not allowed to talk to anyone about this so i decided to go to reddit (as any normal chronically online kid does) and im realizing after typing this that there is a potential my sisters friend finds this
so
hey man. if you're reading this please know i understand i have no place categorizing your feelings (i know i already said it but i really can't tell you how to feel) but i can see how much my sister means to you. and no matter what you decide you feel, my sister just wants you to be happy. and i don't mean she'll "suffer in silence" and she'll always wish you'd have given her a chance, i mean she genuinely doesn't care whether you're friends or dating or scene partners or work spouses. she just wants to be around. she will love you in every way she can.
TLDR; my sisters friend is in love with her. maybe it'll never become romantic, but god i hope whatever happens they always have each other.
2024.06.09 13:05 Batman4me D479 UX Design
I just passed task1 on this and thought I'd provide some insight.
For the timeline, I just used MS Word. Under Insert, I used SmartArt to make arrows I could label and I copied a section of 3 arrows in order to make 6, then labeled them and wrote in specifics of the timeline underneath each one. It doesn't have to match your real timeline, but it has to be less than 30 days, even if you take longer.
For the persona, there are really fancy ones shown in the course tips, but I just used Word again and inserted a table with 2 columns, put a free internet image on one side and some facts for an imaginary user on the other. It does have to be a plausible person based on the information given about past visitors, though, so if you pick a user who arrived by cruise ship, you'd better put their age and other info as being from that same section of the report. I found lots of personas online and each included different information about their imaginary user, so I just put in some basic name, age, location, occupation info, but then I also added a line for the info given about the visitors, like transportation to island, length of stay, visitor status, number of people in party, etc. I wasn't sure if I needed to do this, but I did. Of course, I merged the rows on the image column side, but it looked very table-y and not fancy and it still passed.
For the low fidelity wireframe, I spent way too much time on this trying to find a suitable site to help me build one and I ended up very frustrated. In the end, I found a blank image of a rectangle desktop browser window and I copied it and pasted it into MS Paint for each page of my website idea. The main image at the top was the home page and then I copied the navigation section and pasted it to the right of the main image and drew an arrow to it and labeled it "Navigation" and then did an arrow from the first link to the wireframe of that page, an arrow from link2 to it's wireframe, link3 to it's wireframe, etc. They want us to show the "flow" of the website, which I showed with arrows and that was accepted. Then, I copied and pasted my MS Paint .jpg into my Word document and made sure it could be seen well enough from the document. There are several decent examples of low fidelity wireframes in the Course Tips section of the course if you want more examples. You don't need any colors, images, or even text in this wireframe. I used squares with an "x" in them for image placeholders (and wrote "image" to be on the safe side), used Link1, Link2, Link3 for links and used the generic Lorem ipsum text placeholder text for filler text. If your link pages link elsewhere to an internal page, be sure to include that in your wireframe, as well.
For the guerilla testing part, I just made up 3 reviews using members of my household and a friend. I put something like 'User 1 is a 69 year old female...' and then I made up the rest based on what I thought her review would be. I did something similar with the others. I really did put myself in their places and wrote actionable feedback from their imagined points of view and came up with a few ideas to add to my wireframe. Be sure to write about how you'll incorporate their feedback into your design for part 2. I read someone else's post saying they updated their wireframe afterwards with the new feedback, but I didn't and still passed.
For the prototype, this is where you make the website for Taniti and it takes the most time. You can hand-code if you want to, but I used a free Wix account. They try to get you to sign up for web hosting and other stuff, but I left my site at the generic yourusername dot wixsite dot com URL and that worked just fine for these purposes. Be sure to get all of the info from the "About the island" doc in there somewhere and try to make it easy for others to find. Be sure your links work. Someone who reviewed my site actually checked the links from each page to be sure and I'm sure the graders will, too. I reviewed someone else who had no working links.
For the 5 usability tasks, there's some help here in the Course Tips section. They want a specific question that can be given to a stranger who will then go to your site to find, so don't make it too broad. Maybe something like, 'What's the drinking age on Taniti' and not 'Are there activities on the island?' Put a little thought into this and if your prototype allows people to find those answers easily enough, because you'll have 3 strangers using those same questions in Task2 to find the info on your site.
For the APA sources, I had some trouble with this because I used all AI images and wasn't sure how to cite them properly. There is conflicting info online and I didn't want to cite each photo on the site. I wrote to my instructor who said putting a note in the footer for each page stating what site they all came from (if one site) should be fine, but just to be sure, I did that plus I added the following citation format in section G for each image used: Name of image. (n.d.). Website. Retrieved [date] from [URL].
For section H, I never know if I need to include anything there for 'demonstrate professional communication,' but I just put 'I believe I have done so.'
Finally, be sure to look over the rubric and check your spelling before submitting and that's it for Task1. I got it back in 2 days as a pass.
For Task2, you have to record yourself giving feedback to 3 others. Be sure to record your screen and your face in a picture in picture mode. Try to say something on each of their written tasks so they have something to write about in their submission. Once you get your 3 reviewers, you have to summarize what they said and then specifically write about what they said for each of your usability questions. I had a lot of "good" comments and that's pretty much it, so I had to summarize that for each question for each person and write if it was actionable or not, which most were not. This is a much quicker task than the first. My videos somehow ended up saving to a wrong folder, so I had to edit them to move them to the class folder so people could see them, so be on the lookout for that. I also didn't get the emails you're supposed to get after making each video, so luckily, I'd saved the links right after making them. I'd suggest doing the same just in case. I wrote up everything on the Task 2 template they provide and just submitted this morning.
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For the timeline, I just used MS Word. Under Insert, I used SmartArt to make arrows I could label and I copied a section of 3 arrows in order to make 6, then labeled them and wrote in specifics of the timeline underneath each one. It doesn't have to match your real timeline, but it has to be less than 30 days, even if you take longer.
For the persona, there are really fancy ones shown in the course tips, but I just used Word again and inserted a table with 2 columns, put a free internet image on one side and some facts for an imaginary user on the other. It does have to be a plausible person based on the information given about past visitors, though, so if you pick a user who arrived by cruise ship, you'd better put their age and other info as being from that same section of the report. I found lots of personas online and each included different information about their imaginary user, so I just put in some basic name, age, location, occupation info, but then I also added a line for the info given about the visitors, like transportation to island, length of stay, visitor status, number of people in party, etc. I wasn't sure if I needed to do this, but I did. Of course, I merged the rows on the image column side, but it looked very table-y and not fancy and it still passed.
For the low fidelity wireframe, I spent way too much time on this trying to find a suitable site to help me build one and I ended up very frustrated. In the end, I found a blank image of a rectangle desktop browser window and I copied it and pasted it into MS Paint for each page of my website idea. The main image at the top was the home page and then I copied the navigation section and pasted it to the right of the main image and drew an arrow to it and labeled it "Navigation" and then did an arrow from the first link to the wireframe of that page, an arrow from link2 to it's wireframe, link3 to it's wireframe, etc. They want us to show the "flow" of the website, which I showed with arrows and that was accepted. Then, I copied and pasted my MS Paint .jpg into my Word document and made sure it could be seen well enough from the document. There are several decent examples of low fidelity wireframes in the Course Tips section of the course if you want more examples. You don't need any colors, images, or even text in this wireframe. I used squares with an "x" in them for image placeholders (and wrote "image" to be on the safe side), used Link1, Link2, Link3 for links and used the generic Lorem ipsum text placeholder text for filler text. If your link pages link elsewhere to an internal page, be sure to include that in your wireframe, as well.
For the guerilla testing part, I just made up 3 reviews using members of my household and a friend. I put something like 'User 1 is a 69 year old female...' and then I made up the rest based on what I thought her review would be. I did something similar with the others. I really did put myself in their places and wrote actionable feedback from their imagined points of view and came up with a few ideas to add to my wireframe. Be sure to write about how you'll incorporate their feedback into your design for part 2. I read someone else's post saying they updated their wireframe afterwards with the new feedback, but I didn't and still passed.
For the prototype, this is where you make the website for Taniti and it takes the most time. You can hand-code if you want to, but I used a free Wix account. They try to get you to sign up for web hosting and other stuff, but I left my site at the generic yourusername dot wixsite dot com URL and that worked just fine for these purposes. Be sure to get all of the info from the "About the island" doc in there somewhere and try to make it easy for others to find. Be sure your links work. Someone who reviewed my site actually checked the links from each page to be sure and I'm sure the graders will, too. I reviewed someone else who had no working links.
For the 5 usability tasks, there's some help here in the Course Tips section. They want a specific question that can be given to a stranger who will then go to your site to find, so don't make it too broad. Maybe something like, 'What's the drinking age on Taniti' and not 'Are there activities on the island?' Put a little thought into this and if your prototype allows people to find those answers easily enough, because you'll have 3 strangers using those same questions in Task2 to find the info on your site.
For the APA sources, I had some trouble with this because I used all AI images and wasn't sure how to cite them properly. There is conflicting info online and I didn't want to cite each photo on the site. I wrote to my instructor who said putting a note in the footer for each page stating what site they all came from (if one site) should be fine, but just to be sure, I did that plus I added the following citation format in section G for each image used: Name of image. (n.d.). Website. Retrieved [date] from [URL].
For section H, I never know if I need to include anything there for 'demonstrate professional communication,' but I just put 'I believe I have done so.'
Finally, be sure to look over the rubric and check your spelling before submitting and that's it for Task1. I got it back in 2 days as a pass.
For Task2, you have to record yourself giving feedback to 3 others. Be sure to record your screen and your face in a picture in picture mode. Try to say something on each of their written tasks so they have something to write about in their submission. Once you get your 3 reviewers, you have to summarize what they said and then specifically write about what they said for each of your usability questions. I had a lot of "good" comments and that's pretty much it, so I had to summarize that for each question for each person and write if it was actionable or not, which most were not. This is a much quicker task than the first. My videos somehow ended up saving to a wrong folder, so I had to edit them to move them to the class folder so people could see them, so be on the lookout for that. I also didn't get the emails you're supposed to get after making each video, so luckily, I'd saved the links right after making them. I'd suggest doing the same just in case. I wrote up everything on the Task 2 template they provide and just submitted this morning.