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2024.05.15 09:30 Bannedinahour The Gentlemen episode 8 is another reminder of Guy Ritchies unimpressive endings to his stories
Something ive noticed in some of his more recent works. Great opening and mid sections, but it flutters like a balloon losing its air as it reaches the climax.
Main reasons:
1st reason. Freddy - Literally the most deplorable character in all of Netflix. And hes not deplorable in a Palpatine (Star Wars) or Joffrey (Game of Thrones) kind of way. Hes deplorable in that hes an incredibly dumb character and he makes everyone else dumb around him. The only thing that wouldve brought me satisfaction from the whole show was Freddys demise, but as mentioned above. People become naturally dumb around Freddy, so of course he never has to take any accountability over his actions. The show writers bend light itself to keep him around in the show.
Que to 2nd reason - Eddie decides to stay in the drug dealing business. Because of the conversation he had with the imbecile described above, that has found a way to mess up every decision in his life. And Eddy, the apparently smart character of the family, decided to stay in the drug business because apparently 'he was made for this' - Freddys words. And because the family has been in the crime business for practically forever, so might as well stay in it?
It was clearly an attempt to fish more seasons and keep the show going. But the execution was very reminiscent of Guy Ritchies inability to deliver a finisher. Spitballing ideas, a better way to execute that would be, Eddy knew Bobby was never going to sell the business. So he makes a deal, as seen in episode 7. To bring down the major crime families and set up a path to get his family out of the crime business. Then someone crosses someone, Susan maybe starts to work against her dad and helps Eddy e.t.c. e.t.c.
Eddie himself, throughout the whole season was reminding the viewers why he needs to get his family out of the drug business. But all of that goes away, cause Freddy said so. No it doesnt, none of what Eddie had said prior goes away. As i said, the worst part about Freddie is how logic and history disappears as soon as he enters the room.
Speaking of Susan. Why is she going around moping Eddie crossed her twice? In fact, he never crossed her. She just bought the words of a guy she was about to kill as the word of Christ it self. Eddy actually told her to her face im going to go deal with Rollins to get out from under your families drug influence. And it was her and her family that crossed him, numerous times. But of course we dont talk about that, thatd make too much sense.
These are hardcore criminals, why are all the millionaire criminals doing all the heavy lifting themselves? Like the killing? Do they only have a butler on retainer and blow the rest of their cash on crack? Again, since they are hardcore criminals, apparently, does Eddy think he and his family are going to be safe after screwing Stantley alive? I feel like they chose when to be dangerous and when to purr like a kitten.
Compare them to the criminals in 'Snatch'. Every single character in that movie makes the hair on your skin stand up. Everyone here seems as if they came straight out of a theater on 'how to be bad'.
TL;DR - Bad attempt to fish for more seasons and keep the show going. Also on a meta level, another reminder from Holywood or British Holywood, that we the viewers should take pride in drug dealing. So all the 1% can snort more shit up their arse.
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Main reasons:
1st reason. Freddy - Literally the most deplorable character in all of Netflix. And hes not deplorable in a Palpatine (Star Wars) or Joffrey (Game of Thrones) kind of way. Hes deplorable in that hes an incredibly dumb character and he makes everyone else dumb around him. The only thing that wouldve brought me satisfaction from the whole show was Freddys demise, but as mentioned above. People become naturally dumb around Freddy, so of course he never has to take any accountability over his actions. The show writers bend light itself to keep him around in the show.
Que to 2nd reason - Eddie decides to stay in the drug dealing business. Because of the conversation he had with the imbecile described above, that has found a way to mess up every decision in his life. And Eddy, the apparently smart character of the family, decided to stay in the drug business because apparently 'he was made for this' - Freddys words. And because the family has been in the crime business for practically forever, so might as well stay in it?
It was clearly an attempt to fish more seasons and keep the show going. But the execution was very reminiscent of Guy Ritchies inability to deliver a finisher. Spitballing ideas, a better way to execute that would be, Eddy knew Bobby was never going to sell the business. So he makes a deal, as seen in episode 7. To bring down the major crime families and set up a path to get his family out of the crime business. Then someone crosses someone, Susan maybe starts to work against her dad and helps Eddy e.t.c. e.t.c.
Eddie himself, throughout the whole season was reminding the viewers why he needs to get his family out of the drug business. But all of that goes away, cause Freddy said so. No it doesnt, none of what Eddie had said prior goes away. As i said, the worst part about Freddie is how logic and history disappears as soon as he enters the room.
Speaking of Susan. Why is she going around moping Eddie crossed her twice? In fact, he never crossed her. She just bought the words of a guy she was about to kill as the word of Christ it self. Eddy actually told her to her face im going to go deal with Rollins to get out from under your families drug influence. And it was her and her family that crossed him, numerous times. But of course we dont talk about that, thatd make too much sense.
These are hardcore criminals, why are all the millionaire criminals doing all the heavy lifting themselves? Like the killing? Do they only have a butler on retainer and blow the rest of their cash on crack? Again, since they are hardcore criminals, apparently, does Eddy think he and his family are going to be safe after screwing Stantley alive? I feel like they chose when to be dangerous and when to purr like a kitten.
Compare them to the criminals in 'Snatch'. Every single character in that movie makes the hair on your skin stand up. Everyone here seems as if they came straight out of a theater on 'how to be bad'.
TL;DR - Bad attempt to fish for more seasons and keep the show going. Also on a meta level, another reminder from Holywood or British Holywood, that we the viewers should take pride in drug dealing. So all the 1% can snort more shit up their arse.
2024.05.15 09:29 Various_Diamond5933 I (23F) worked in an unsanitary dental office for 3 years and had no idea how bad it truly was, advice on what to do..
I 23(F) worked for an 80(M) Dentist for about 3 years, and what I observed and endured as an employee during that time traumatized me and made me quit dental assisting in general, not because I didn't like it but because I loved it just not the dentist and I'm going to just break it down the best I can.
Starting off this specific dentist is really well known in my city, he has been practicing for 50 years now. However not much has changed in that 50 years. His office is so old that patients will come in from 1989 and say how not a single thing has been updated or changed. The floor is carpeted with rotting wood underneath and he just doesn't care. He has like creepy dolls all around the office and creepy clowns. I almost feel like he won't change anything because he wants to still feel like he's in his prime like it's the 80's/90's still.
He denies the fact that he's getting older, he says he is 44 years old when physically and literally he is not. So maybe this is some type of symptoms of a disorder. This is just some background so you can understand the full picture.
So he only hires women of lighter complexions, also certain body size, small not to skinny but curvy but not too big. You have to have long blown out hair that's always fixed, his old rule used to be that you could not wear your hair up bc it's not appealing to him. Also you can't wear glasses for the same reason. If you were trying to get a girl to work there he would have to see a picture of her first and she couldn't have tattoos or "bad teeth" even though he would put braces on staff members for free and I witnessed that, if it was "too much" the person would be a no for him. Even having a simple nose ring was against his rules.
I started working for him when I was 19 turning 20. So I was pretty young and didn't really realize until later that all of this was just so toxic and it gets worse.And so when I found out my pregnancy was healthy I announced it and they decided to not train me on patients for pretty much my entire pregnancy because they thought i would just have my baby and leave
After being post partum and working while also being a first time mom to a baby, I begin to lose a lot of weight because I guess I was stressed. I went from being my normal weight 135 to 116 pounds.
The doctor would comment on my body and say things about my weight loss in front of patients. It made me very insecure and uncomfortable two things I have never felt in my life at a job. I started to have body dysmorphia from working for this man. When he looked at me it felt as if he was staring through me and picking me apart. And no one should I have to feel like that in the work place.
I fell into a deep depression because feeling like I can't go find a new job because as terrible as it sounds, I was attached to the toxic abuse cycle there. He would love bomb and compliment you so heavily that you almost felt bad for thinking of leaving cuz he was so old. He would say things like how much he loved your personality, you were the best employee, best with patients. It was definitely creepy. Also I felt as if I were to try to leave he would be upset or it felt like I was breaking a trusted bond. So I continued working and things...got worse
Enough about my personal experience but now for the patients.The doctor treated each patient nothing more than a dollar sign. Unless they were a known person in the community, a family friend, he would give them treatment but if they had questions or concerns about their teeth he would be very dismissive, and if they argued back he would pretty much belittle them and make them feel like they were stupid for asking a question. Saying what they wanted was "impossible" because that's "the way their teeth were". I watched him take braces off of patients and their teeth were still not aligned properly, I watched him accidentally set a patient on fire, I watched him give a girl bone loss, she lost her tooth because of something he did incorrectly.
Not to mention his entire staff has not been to any type of dental school, every single person hired basically with no experience. I was told because he couldn't "afford it", yet the man has multiple million dollar homes and luxury cars....
To even scam us further he sent us to take a super lax unsupervised "test" that he said would make us certified assistants. Came to find out that was nothing more than a piece of paper.
Not to mention probably more things he has done, like practicing half blind, also urinating on himself daily and it being reported and nothing done about it.The sterilization was absolutely horrifying. Their method is not to use an autoclave but to throw all dirty instruments in a basket and throw them in an old machine that had sterilization and water and put them through an oven baking them.
Also cold sterile which was not monitored properly, and did not soak for 24 hours. Sometimes 5-10 minutes. I just got so tired of not only him being misogynistic, but not caring for health and safety of patients, or even staff members.
And the rest of the current staff members, my heart does hurt for them for them to be in this kind of abusive cycle for so long and not want to remove themselves and realize they deserve better. This kind of environment should not be normalized. And I've watch him say god awful things about every single one of them behind their back and it's honestly sad. Why would you stand by this especially for the incredibly low amounts of pay.
Making yourself look weak to him while he sits back and laughs. It's really sad and I pray for them. And I'm telling the truth and stand by it on everything I say. No I did not get fired, I quit the job. Because I couldn't take the negativity any longer. But the more I think about it the more it angers me for people that give their money to this man.
Im currently enrolled in the Dental Hygiene program at a college. I'm really excited to become a an RDH but the thing is I'm scared working for him and just cold quitting will ruin my career. Also My question is should I report him to OSHA?
submitted by Various_Diamond5933 to askdentists [link] [comments]
Starting off this specific dentist is really well known in my city, he has been practicing for 50 years now. However not much has changed in that 50 years. His office is so old that patients will come in from 1989 and say how not a single thing has been updated or changed. The floor is carpeted with rotting wood underneath and he just doesn't care. He has like creepy dolls all around the office and creepy clowns. I almost feel like he won't change anything because he wants to still feel like he's in his prime like it's the 80's/90's still.
He denies the fact that he's getting older, he says he is 44 years old when physically and literally he is not. So maybe this is some type of symptoms of a disorder. This is just some background so you can understand the full picture.
So he only hires women of lighter complexions, also certain body size, small not to skinny but curvy but not too big. You have to have long blown out hair that's always fixed, his old rule used to be that you could not wear your hair up bc it's not appealing to him. Also you can't wear glasses for the same reason. If you were trying to get a girl to work there he would have to see a picture of her first and she couldn't have tattoos or "bad teeth" even though he would put braces on staff members for free and I witnessed that, if it was "too much" the person would be a no for him. Even having a simple nose ring was against his rules.
I started working for him when I was 19 turning 20. So I was pretty young and didn't really realize until later that all of this was just so toxic and it gets worse.And so when I found out my pregnancy was healthy I announced it and they decided to not train me on patients for pretty much my entire pregnancy because they thought i would just have my baby and leave
After being post partum and working while also being a first time mom to a baby, I begin to lose a lot of weight because I guess I was stressed. I went from being my normal weight 135 to 116 pounds.
The doctor would comment on my body and say things about my weight loss in front of patients. It made me very insecure and uncomfortable two things I have never felt in my life at a job. I started to have body dysmorphia from working for this man. When he looked at me it felt as if he was staring through me and picking me apart. And no one should I have to feel like that in the work place.
I fell into a deep depression because feeling like I can't go find a new job because as terrible as it sounds, I was attached to the toxic abuse cycle there. He would love bomb and compliment you so heavily that you almost felt bad for thinking of leaving cuz he was so old. He would say things like how much he loved your personality, you were the best employee, best with patients. It was definitely creepy. Also I felt as if I were to try to leave he would be upset or it felt like I was breaking a trusted bond. So I continued working and things...got worse
Enough about my personal experience but now for the patients.The doctor treated each patient nothing more than a dollar sign. Unless they were a known person in the community, a family friend, he would give them treatment but if they had questions or concerns about their teeth he would be very dismissive, and if they argued back he would pretty much belittle them and make them feel like they were stupid for asking a question. Saying what they wanted was "impossible" because that's "the way their teeth were". I watched him take braces off of patients and their teeth were still not aligned properly, I watched him accidentally set a patient on fire, I watched him give a girl bone loss, she lost her tooth because of something he did incorrectly.
Not to mention his entire staff has not been to any type of dental school, every single person hired basically with no experience. I was told because he couldn't "afford it", yet the man has multiple million dollar homes and luxury cars....
To even scam us further he sent us to take a super lax unsupervised "test" that he said would make us certified assistants. Came to find out that was nothing more than a piece of paper.
Not to mention probably more things he has done, like practicing half blind, also urinating on himself daily and it being reported and nothing done about it.The sterilization was absolutely horrifying. Their method is not to use an autoclave but to throw all dirty instruments in a basket and throw them in an old machine that had sterilization and water and put them through an oven baking them.
Also cold sterile which was not monitored properly, and did not soak for 24 hours. Sometimes 5-10 minutes. I just got so tired of not only him being misogynistic, but not caring for health and safety of patients, or even staff members.
And the rest of the current staff members, my heart does hurt for them for them to be in this kind of abusive cycle for so long and not want to remove themselves and realize they deserve better. This kind of environment should not be normalized. And I've watch him say god awful things about every single one of them behind their back and it's honestly sad. Why would you stand by this especially for the incredibly low amounts of pay.
Making yourself look weak to him while he sits back and laughs. It's really sad and I pray for them. And I'm telling the truth and stand by it on everything I say. No I did not get fired, I quit the job. Because I couldn't take the negativity any longer. But the more I think about it the more it angers me for people that give their money to this man.
Im currently enrolled in the Dental Hygiene program at a college. I'm really excited to become a an RDH but the thing is I'm scared working for him and just cold quitting will ruin my career. Also My question is should I report him to OSHA?
2024.05.15 09:26 UltraIce Overwhelmed vanilla user
The title is quite explanatory. I'm a little overwhelmed by the amount of resources, tutorials, guides regarding Obsidian.
The way I use it is to take notes regarding various things:
track projects I'm following at work, keep notes regarding life and plans, brain dumping, and be a bit of a data hoarder etc.
I started using it a few months ago, I deactivated all the plugins and used the vanilla version, learning the basics of markdown. At the beginning there wasn't even the possibility of creating tables, which has been implemented for some time now.
I would like to move on to the next step: lately I find myself overwhelmed by not knowing how to manage notes. There are redundant things that are part of multiple projects/clients and the folder structure is starting to get too complicated.
I tried to look at the Zettelkasten vs Para vs SomethingElse but every other person on youtube has a different method, and just exasperate the confusion. Do you know any pragmatic resource that will explain HOW to implement it without showing how great they are in their personal life?
There are thousands of plug-ins, people who make the interface beautiful and satisfying, but I with work and life I don't have the time or need to learn how to do all these "pretty" things.
Are there updated resources for "vanilla users"? Or simple guides to make Obsidian more "notion - style" with just one plug-in ready and go? Or do you simply recommend that I drop it and go back to Notion?
I also checked Anytype and I found it so confusing. Onboarding was non-existing. Capacities on the other and seems it's a bit more structured. But does it even make sense to switch?
Please advise.
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The way I use it is to take notes regarding various things:
track projects I'm following at work, keep notes regarding life and plans, brain dumping, and be a bit of a data hoarder etc.
I started using it a few months ago, I deactivated all the plugins and used the vanilla version, learning the basics of markdown. At the beginning there wasn't even the possibility of creating tables, which has been implemented for some time now.
I would like to move on to the next step: lately I find myself overwhelmed by not knowing how to manage notes. There are redundant things that are part of multiple projects/clients and the folder structure is starting to get too complicated.
I tried to look at the Zettelkasten vs Para vs SomethingElse but every other person on youtube has a different method, and just exasperate the confusion. Do you know any pragmatic resource that will explain HOW to implement it without showing how great they are in their personal life?
There are thousands of plug-ins, people who make the interface beautiful and satisfying, but I with work and life I don't have the time or need to learn how to do all these "pretty" things.
Are there updated resources for "vanilla users"? Or simple guides to make Obsidian more "notion - style" with just one plug-in ready and go? Or do you simply recommend that I drop it and go back to Notion?
I also checked Anytype and I found it so confusing. Onboarding was non-existing. Capacities on the other and seems it's a bit more structured. But does it even make sense to switch?
Please advise.
2024.05.15 09:25 OhIFuckedUpGood My first pet ever will pass away soon… only 5 years…
My cute dog (American Cocker Spaniel) will pass soon. He already had a bad start when he was still with his mom (inexperienced breeder). He spend the first few weeks in the hospital. Some of his brothers and sisters didn’t make it, but he did. When we had our first check up the vet told us that his lungs are not in a very good shape. The rest of his body was fine with the exception of his teeth which were close together and had some plague already.
During the years we encountered some problems. After weeks of searching what is happening we found he has an severe longterm allergy for beef. We eliminated everything which contains beef, they are everywhere even in Salmon Biscuits… after the elimination it went ok and we even got a second dog.
Everything was going well. He had some problems with teeth (bad shape, due to bad start and medicine there) and his temper like food protection or barking at cars / bikes, but it was fine and he got a good checkup every year including titer tests which were always ok. His health started to decline in the summer of 2023. He started limping on his front feed and was eating worse. We also noticed 2-3 weird spots on his skin which seems like hotspots. The vet told he was a bit heavy, he had a stiff neck and his intestines were a bit puzzled. A few sessions of acupuncture, good washing and balanced diet could help him, and it did help him for a few weeks.
In the winter his health suddenly declined and the weird spots on his skin increased and expanded over his entire body with crusts. He was losing a lot of hair. After a few vet visits, some medicine and some tests we discovered that he was highly allergy for almost everything you could imagine. This was a big message for me and my wife as it would mean we should change in the house a lot while we also have a other dog who lived the same life in perfect health. We switched to special hypoallergenic dog food of Hills so he does not react on that food and keep the other dog on his current food. We had to lock both pets apart and clean up where the other pet and also where we ate so he can’t get any other food in his stomach.
This worked for a few weeks. He remained happy when someone is home, we went to the forest or beach regularly and if I leave the house I always wants to be back as soon as possible to see my family again. I mainly work from home, so the two pets are always around and I have a deep emotional connection with them.
Unfortunately, the spots came back rapidly and he was shaking a lot. His teeth’s were also declining rapidly and his movement worsened that he could jump on the couch anymore and the stairs are done step for each step. We shifted from dexamethasone to Prednisone to see any difference, but recently we came to the conclusion that this and other treatments are not giving the results we and the vet wants. I was still looking for possible solutions, but my wife (had dogs in the past) and vet intervened that he is sick and everything we are doing could at the best only suppress symptoms, we were not making him better. The vet said we were doing everything right on food, health etc. But basically his immune system is failing and not doing what it is supposed to do.
This week we decided to put him down. He will get his final rest next Saturday, on his fifth birthday. I’m devastated and keep crying that it is going to happen. Never had a pet during my youth and I’m just worried about the gap of the unconditional love he will leave. I’m also worried about my second dog who never has been alone and plays a lot with him and what this change will do with him.
While I’m writing this, my dog is sitting next to me and shaking, but he has a lot of moments where it all looks good (with exception of the skin/fur) and he seems enjoying life now. I find it very difficult he is passing at such a young age and weird thoughts are going through my mind if i could have prevented this, do things differently or anything to expand his time here with us. I feel defeated that I couldn’t help him anymore. During the good times I keep on thinking to call off the euthanasia, but then what… wait until he has a very bad or very painful day?
No matter what, I love him and keep carrying the awesome memories and the times he dragged me and my wife through really hard times in my heart. But the grief that he will be gone soon…This is the worst I’ve ever felt in my life…
submitted by OhIFuckedUpGood to Petloss [link] [comments]
During the years we encountered some problems. After weeks of searching what is happening we found he has an severe longterm allergy for beef. We eliminated everything which contains beef, they are everywhere even in Salmon Biscuits… after the elimination it went ok and we even got a second dog.
Everything was going well. He had some problems with teeth (bad shape, due to bad start and medicine there) and his temper like food protection or barking at cars / bikes, but it was fine and he got a good checkup every year including titer tests which were always ok. His health started to decline in the summer of 2023. He started limping on his front feed and was eating worse. We also noticed 2-3 weird spots on his skin which seems like hotspots. The vet told he was a bit heavy, he had a stiff neck and his intestines were a bit puzzled. A few sessions of acupuncture, good washing and balanced diet could help him, and it did help him for a few weeks.
In the winter his health suddenly declined and the weird spots on his skin increased and expanded over his entire body with crusts. He was losing a lot of hair. After a few vet visits, some medicine and some tests we discovered that he was highly allergy for almost everything you could imagine. This was a big message for me and my wife as it would mean we should change in the house a lot while we also have a other dog who lived the same life in perfect health. We switched to special hypoallergenic dog food of Hills so he does not react on that food and keep the other dog on his current food. We had to lock both pets apart and clean up where the other pet and also where we ate so he can’t get any other food in his stomach.
This worked for a few weeks. He remained happy when someone is home, we went to the forest or beach regularly and if I leave the house I always wants to be back as soon as possible to see my family again. I mainly work from home, so the two pets are always around and I have a deep emotional connection with them.
Unfortunately, the spots came back rapidly and he was shaking a lot. His teeth’s were also declining rapidly and his movement worsened that he could jump on the couch anymore and the stairs are done step for each step. We shifted from dexamethasone to Prednisone to see any difference, but recently we came to the conclusion that this and other treatments are not giving the results we and the vet wants. I was still looking for possible solutions, but my wife (had dogs in the past) and vet intervened that he is sick and everything we are doing could at the best only suppress symptoms, we were not making him better. The vet said we were doing everything right on food, health etc. But basically his immune system is failing and not doing what it is supposed to do.
This week we decided to put him down. He will get his final rest next Saturday, on his fifth birthday. I’m devastated and keep crying that it is going to happen. Never had a pet during my youth and I’m just worried about the gap of the unconditional love he will leave. I’m also worried about my second dog who never has been alone and plays a lot with him and what this change will do with him.
While I’m writing this, my dog is sitting next to me and shaking, but he has a lot of moments where it all looks good (with exception of the skin/fur) and he seems enjoying life now. I find it very difficult he is passing at such a young age and weird thoughts are going through my mind if i could have prevented this, do things differently or anything to expand his time here with us. I feel defeated that I couldn’t help him anymore. During the good times I keep on thinking to call off the euthanasia, but then what… wait until he has a very bad or very painful day?
No matter what, I love him and keep carrying the awesome memories and the times he dragged me and my wife through really hard times in my heart. But the grief that he will be gone soon…This is the worst I’ve ever felt in my life…
2024.05.15 09:25 BreadIsLaw My Fred
Ive lost my baby. The sweetest, most timid, attachment anxious boy. Hes the first cat ive had and hes gone. I took him to an emergency vet when i got home from work because he was limping and visibly in pain. They checked him, nothing broken, probably sprain. Gave me a bill and administered his shots for pain relief. I shouldve asked more questions; why so many different pain meds at once? what does each one do specifically? Etc. i couldnt think straight, hearing and seeing him so upset makes me stressed and foggy. He received a shot of Onsior(and some pills for me to give him next few days), a shot of solencia, and a topical treatment ZORBIUM(the thing i believe caused my kitty to pass). We went home and he had not at all calmed down. He ran under the bed and could not stop panting, yowling, and he was incredibly restless; couldnt lay down longer than a minute before moving again. This lasted hours. It had slowed down to the point where i thought he was asleep so i left him be. I went back to check on him and he had not slept he was still panting but not so intense. I layed with him for the remainder of our time together. The last moments however were a hell i would not wish on anyone. He couldnt move, he sounded hoarse almost like he couldnt breathe well and kept meowing as best he could for me. His final moments were awful. I believe he couldnt breathe and choked on his own saliva. I tried to give him breath and cpr, but he was gone.
I can only hope he wasnt afraid, that he didnt feel anything but me at his side frantically trying to bring him back. At the very least he wasnt alone. We will be burying him in our yard in the morning when we can see.
PLEASE PLEASE. Do NOT ever say yes to the use of Zorbium for your pet. I dont want anyone else nor anyones baby to go through this ever
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I can only hope he wasnt afraid, that he didnt feel anything but me at his side frantically trying to bring him back. At the very least he wasnt alone. We will be burying him in our yard in the morning when we can see.
PLEASE PLEASE. Do NOT ever say yes to the use of Zorbium for your pet. I dont want anyone else nor anyones baby to go through this ever
2024.05.15 09:24 Sacrifice_a_lamb Ky Slime Review (good and bad) with Pics
 | I actually have been waiting to review a few shops, since I think it might be nice to live with the slime for a while instead of writing a review that's just based on what the slime was like when I first got it. But today I got an order from Ky and I've got things to say about it lol! submitted by Sacrifice_a_lamb to Slime [link] [comments] Rambling preamble (skip to review) First off, I had heard rumblings of discontent about this shop, but also had heard aspersions cast about Sonria and I found her slimes to be pretty good. So, I was open to Ky, especially since she clearly is a master at designing DIY slimes. Her IG is a go-to ASMR source for me and her posts make the slime look irresistible! Seriously, for all you stores out there--make your slimes look good on the internet. You'll have so many more buyers. While it's definitely obvious that the slimes that are played with on the IG are of larger quantities than what you will be getting when you order, her representation of the product otherwise looks pretty legit and she still has kind of a small, hand-made store vibe, which makes it easier to pay 16$ for a toy that may only last for a few months, right? She also has my dream slime--a neon space unicorns and rainbows sundae-themed slime tribute to Lisa Frank. This thing just looks so incredible. She really nailed the concept. So, I made a big order because, shipping. there was a 10% discount and the prices didn't seem terrible, even with shipping. I placed my order on the 4th and it arrived today, on the 14th, which ten days feels acceptable for a small business in Hawaii. They didn't go crazy on the packaging, which at first made me glad (I do not feel good about all the bubblewrap so many folks use!) but then I saw that one of the clay containers had gotten smashed and the clay pieces inside were totally flattened. Honestly, nothing else had any damage and the clay was always going to get smooshed, anyway, so I'm not bothered, BUT, I dunno. Use bunched up newspaper or something. It included a gift of two free "small" slimes. Really, they are like 3-4 ounces. Definitely a decent size for a sample and both slimes were pretty awesome, but I still have complaints... My rating system is pretty "strict"--I'm stingy about perfect scores, but anything with a score over 15/20 is something I'd consider buying again. Taro Milk Tea Cheesecake 10/20Someone else reviewed this recently and loved it. I do not. I had initially hesitated to buy this because I like taro, but sometimes find the smell of taro-flavored things like mass-produced ice-cream disgustingly sweet, and I worried that this slime might smell this way. It does not. To me, it smells like boiled white potatoes with an undertone of glue. Not great.The DIY kit came in a sealed bag and everything looked in good condition and matched the website photos perfectly. The boba balls slime, however, was so unactivated it was straight-up glue and I ended up having to SCRUB my hands in hot water to remove it. Even so, the assembly experience was fun and mixing was fun, as well. But the result is a mid slime. It is quite tough--so dense, but not terribly stretchy--and isn't much for bubble pops or other ASMR. The bobas are soft and squishy and that's cool. I'd like it better if it didn't smell weird, OR I'd be fine with smell if I liked the texture of the slime more. https://preview.redd.it/bfgiai0pjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9f7822d424279f48771d57aac399642c0aefcc8c Tangulu 14/20This came with giant, detailed charms and the giant fimos are beautiful and fun, but the clear slime was quite cloudy and yellow and for the price, that just seems like kind of a bummer. There's a fruity smell but the scent of the glue and maybe the add-ins overwhelms it. By itself, the smell isn't enough to deter me from playing with it. It is a stiff slime that tears easily, but it does stretch quite well if played with slowly. The slime is thick, so there isn't much noise from crunching, but it makes decent bubble pops.Mainly, I just think there are other folks out there making what is basically this same slime, but I suspect that their versions smell better and maybe the quality of the slime is a little better, too. https://preview.redd.it/rpcmvo5vij0d1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f0e5b01c3035436bfc92f52919cb9d181b3540b6 Slimereo Mug Cake 16/20Super fun concept that was realized as a wonderfully detailed DIY kit. The clay oreo was in perfect condition and so detailed! This was a lot of fun to set up and then mix. Initially the oreo smell was spot on, but since I've played with it a couple of times, the chocolate smell has weakened somewhat and, again, there's just a strong glue smell.The mixed slime is not bad. It is still pretty tough, but it doesn't rip when pulled fast and it gets pretty soft and fluffy with inflation. It's just still a little more dense than I prefer. It has a nice sizzle to it and even makes some pretty nice bubble pops with a bit of effort. It is moderately tacky, but not too bad and I certainly wouldn't add activator for fear of making it too tough. https://preview.redd.it/msdobiqgjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b3ac9a0430db226839bf4c4a233030fbacc9e631 Boba Creme Donut 15/20Another DIY kit that came in great shape. The clay donut was soft and everything assembled to make a beautiful, fun and interesting slime. Mixing was fun. The resulting slime is pretty close to that of slimereo Mug Cake, but instead of slakes of snow there are the tiniest mico-floam beads and some squishy bobas. I really like the way both feel and they seem to make this slime more pop-y than Slimereo. No sizzles, though. Bonus: this one doesn't smell bad! It smells like a caramel tea boba drink--lots of brown sugar and sweetened milk tea smells and then that sweet potato smell of boba.but it's still a tougher slime that doesn't make a ton of noise. https://preview.redd.it/le93bjv1jj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2ddd6d6a6a35417a95a1e53f00977aa38a94bf93 Slime-Brite (jury's still out for me on this one)This seemed like Ky's answer to Slime OG's steel wool-themed slime and Ky's having it honestly kind of tipped the scales for me buying from Ky instead of OG. Again, the presentation is fabulous--fun charms, great concept that is rendered in a fun, visually-striking way, cool label. The smell is definitely a convincing imitation of, like, Dawn dishsoap, which I like. I also realize that I just really like bingsu in slimes so I'm into this one, but it is still very sticky (I'm too afraid to add activator lest it become tough like other slimes in this order) and it is much tougher than the bingsu slimes I have from Seoul Gage. It's not tough by what I think are American standards, I'm just not used to it. It still makes great, bingsu crackles and I love how it looks and smells. If it gets a little less sticky without turning more tough, I might really love this one.https://preview.redd.it/b1g7r4wkjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f4189637c261eb2feeda90a6693f53070f66ec6d Which brings me to my next purchase: My diet starts tomorrow 8/20Again, super fun concept and so much detail! Everything was similar to the IG photos and in good condition except the clay pieces were a little hard, but it was fun to assemble and the slime components all seemed totally good to go. The smell is fine. The problem was mixing this produced a hard, rubbery slime--no stretch. I guess it was overactivated? I was ready to throw it out, but I had glycerine on hand so added maybe a tablespoon and that helped it, but it is still very tough. It does crinkle and crackle with the bingsu, but my hands hurt after just a couple of minutes of playing with it. Super not worth it, even with the amazing DIY element.https://preview.redd.it/1bu63j11kj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ffcc241bcb9766757516ba9ce82d8ff45e5d5a87 Sandy Beach 15/20This was the one that had the damaged clay pieces. Honestly, it didn't spoil the assembly experience. In fact, I pulled off the clear slime from the sand crust and first mixed the clay into that and what an awesome expeirence! I really love how it looks to mix colorful clay into a clear slime base. This has a moderate "beachy" smell that isn't bad. I think I just don't like sand in slime. I was expecting something like a pumice slime, but instead it just seems to kill any ASMR effect: no bubble pops, no clicks, no sizzles. The clay pieces were dried out in places so there's also some un-mixed goobers in the slime and the slime is also quite tough.https://preview.redd.it/hk9vgrztjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7d69e33a498878caf0ca80522fdece037b8e64c6 Birthday Cake Pop 18/20This one kind of saved the order (and maybe slime-bright) and it was totally one I almost didn't get it. It smells like how it looks--like a super bright, artificial birthday cake smell, which is actually pretty great. I love how it looks--such a loud, happy pink and love the sprinkles and the look of the different-sized floam balls. I'm not sure this is it, but I believe the floam balls being different sizes gives this slime extra bubble pops. This is a shiny slime that I expected to be tough, and it is--but somehow now I like that quality? Maybe it's because there's such a huge ASMR pay-off. Like, I' even getting some whistles when I stretch it.I'd give this guy a higher score but, again, I have perfect and near perfect (to me) slimes in my collection and this doesn't feel quite at the level. But it's also unlike any other slime I have and I suspect it will end up being a favorite. I whole-heartedly recommend this one! https://preview.redd.it/xtnmqgw6jj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c7470eb86ee0c6076ba8cf8a8ccb505b23c192ce Free slimes were Lemon Loaf (with no clay piece, which maybe makes it better?) and Java Chip Frappe, also just the base. Again, these were large samples. I'm just grading them out of 10 because...I don't know? they were free and also they aren't, like, the version of the slimes you would be able to buy? Java Chip Frappe (Jury is still out)This is supposed to be a "jelly cream bingsu". It seems like a pretty thick, dense jelly with a tiny bit of bingsu. The bingsu are enough to produce some soft cracks and sizzles, so I really want to be abl to play with it, but it is way to sticky. It is already pretty thick, so I've only added a little activator so far, which hasn't helped much. Hoping this stops being so sticky without also turning into rubber. Smells is listed as chocolate chip cookie, but it smells more like khalua to me. At any rate, I like the smell.https://preview.redd.it/7rczrp66kj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2499c9709c64d6c9cc690909f554890f3431a6ff Lemon Loaf 10/10This is my favorite slime of the whole darn order. It is a highly resistant bingsu slime, but it really softens with inflation. Smells like a cake with a lot of artificial lemon flavor added to it, which sounds bad but it actually quite delicious. It looks great: a bright and cheery yellow that is broken up by specks of iridescence from the bingsu. Also, I love the lemon fimos! But, the cherry on top is the micro-floams! I love these tiny micro-floams that she uses. It may be psychosomatic, but I think they actually change the bingsu texture somehow? At any rate, this is a great, stretchy, inflating, crackling, squeezeable bingsu slime and I love it.https://preview.redd.it/9sk0uoi9kj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0b3a9bb64388eb724a5b854882522c3c0bcab6ac Conclusion:I really don't know what to make of this store, guys. I mean, I have only 3 clear "would buy agains" (one of which I didn't even pay for) out of a total of ten slimes, so, objectively, I should not buy from them again, but... I don't know. I definitely would not have spent all this money at this store if I'd seen some of the reviews I've seen since making the order. The complaints seem to be the same as my own: hard clay, tought slime, not great smells.On the other hand, the Birthday Cake Pops and the Lemon Loaf are so good that I might be persuaded to try Ky again. I guess, part of me wonders if the slime is this way because she's cutting corners on ingredients or doesn't know how to make slimes well? But then the amount of work and care that goes into designing the slime just makes me think there's no way this person doesn't know what they are doing, so then I guess this is the way the slime is meant to be (not for the Diet one, though--that was straight up bad slime) and it just isn't for me, but who is it for? who likes tough slime that doesn't make much noise? Would be curious to hear others' thoughts. |
2024.05.15 09:24 nyczalex Thoughts on the report system, how it's abused and how to improve?
Anyone else have any thoughts on the report system and suggestions to make it better?
I just played a game where team constantly doesn't want to play together and game could've been ended 20 minutes ago but instead everyone goes and does that own thing, farm, solo pick off, etc. but instead constantly getting picked off when I've asked them to group ..
One sign is when we were down a lane pushing and teammate was spamming back which we all did but he then stayed trying to pick off a hero himself and gets picked off instead....
Later on, I get picked off somewhere from a smoke gank and we lose the game and I am the one getting mass reported.. I didn't say much the whole game besides asking to group together and that we will lose if we don't because they have all late game heroes.
This is an ongoing issue for many games but I just now want to talk about it .. What are some thoughts of and ways to improve the system?
I think a majority of the system needs to be worked on as too many false and abusive reports.
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I just played a game where team constantly doesn't want to play together and game could've been ended 20 minutes ago but instead everyone goes and does that own thing, farm, solo pick off, etc. but instead constantly getting picked off when I've asked them to group ..
One sign is when we were down a lane pushing and teammate was spamming back which we all did but he then stayed trying to pick off a hero himself and gets picked off instead....
Later on, I get picked off somewhere from a smoke gank and we lose the game and I am the one getting mass reported.. I didn't say much the whole game besides asking to group together and that we will lose if we don't because they have all late game heroes.
This is an ongoing issue for many games but I just now want to talk about it .. What are some thoughts of and ways to improve the system?
I think a majority of the system needs to be worked on as too many false and abusive reports.
- Communication and text reports should not be a problem when there is a simple mute option.. It only should be be effective for the extreme that is straight offensive and threatening. Someone simply complaining, back seat gaming, etc. should not deserve report(s).
- Griefing reports does not mean when someone refuses to make a bad call of yours. Communication is key.
- Overwatch cases should add an option to punish people for abuse and falsefully reporting.
BTW, i'm 11.5k+ both behavior scores before anyone asks
2024.05.15 09:24 TacoDrop_Tuesday 14w old puppy will not stop defecating in his crate, mainly at night!
We have a 14w (nearly 15w) old puppy, he is a Golden Retriever and Redbone Coonhound mix. We've had him since was 8w old without any issues up until recently. He was doing FANTASTIC with his training, we were having an issue with potty training in the beginning because he would never ask to go, he still doesn't sometimes we just recognize his body language and take him outside. He has done amazing with all of his other training and responds well to praise and treats and still does to this day outside of our potty issue. He was basically potty trained by 12w old but when we took him to his vet appt. for his follow up puppy shots - he's been a different dog. He will poop in his crate every single day and night now and has had on/off diarrhea since those vaccines. His food and treats have not changed, nothing new has been added to his diet, he is walked every hour and thirty minutes (sometimes sooner than that if we can tell he has to go) He is on a water and feeding schedule as well. He was in a full size kennel that we had available because our bigger dog doesn't use it and before this 12w appt. he was doing fantastic with his crate training, would occasionally pee in it if we were out for too long but thats stopped, he no longer pees in our house at all, only poops. Once he started defacating in his kennel multiple times in one night we did move down to a crate his size where he can only just lay down in, he basically has no room in his crate but will still poop in it without asking to go outside. He has also started laying in his poop! He doesn't care if poop is where he lays and eats... We now use the bigger kennel as the area he is fed in and where he can play safely when I need to do things around the house and can't watch him, it's now a play pen. During his dinner tonight he stopped eating, pooped right next to his food bowl, and went right back to eating! Never asked to go outside or anything, I was right there the entire time. I was flabbergasted... When he's not in the kennel he's leashed to me with a hands-free leash for training purposes and he will just squat and poop right next to me without asking, even if we were just outside. Keep in mind, he didn't do ANY of this before this 12w. vet appt and now he will literally poop and lay in it! He'll poop multiple times in his kennel over one night and I have to bathe him and scrub the crate first thing every day. I am 30w pregnant and I physically cannot keep this up anymore.... I physically cannot get down to bathe this pup daily, I cannot lift and scrub his crate without overexerting myself. I physically cannot handle this. Something needs to change or we may have to rehome him and we don't want that but we cannot have this issue persist for much longer with a newborn on the way. He is walked regularly, I have lost sleep for days now getting up to walk him every 1-2 hours overnight. This puppy is literally making my pregnancy a living hell for my body, my husband believes I'm going to hospitalize myself from over exertion. I walk him before feeding him, after feeding him, after naps, playtime, and after any time he gets really excited. He's on a food and water schedule. Nothing about his diet has changed. Besides grass he hasn't eaten anything he shouldn't have to upset his GI track. I've tried disinfecting with bleach, that's before I learned that's bad for him though, I've tried vinegar, pet urine & feces cleaner, puppy pads (but he'll just chew on them and try to eat them, so that's a no go) We do reward him and give him high praise when he he does poop outside. We're at a loss....... My partner and I have done literally everything I can think of and every suggestion I have found online. I've even talked to local dog trainers about my situation and they all confirm and basically tell me to do what I'm doing and to be patient but it has been nearly 3 weeks now. I cannot even be in my house anymore because of the smell (pregnancy, it makes me puke) Any advice or training tips, or does my puppy have "Dirty Dog Syndrome" and do I just need to accept it and move on?
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2024.05.15 09:23 throw-away28475 Got fired by my patient’s parent for the first time
This parent has fired other nurses before. I’ll try keep it short. I’m a new grad RN who has worked on pediatrics for the last 3-4 months. Early in my shift, she asked me if I “just sat and watched her baby cry again” when his CPAP was being applied (he doesn’t tolerate it well but does settle after being swaddled and a few minutes of cuddles). She was short with me all night or simply didn’t respond when I asked if she had questions or concerns. Babe was super irritable and when he was moving, it appeared as if he was desatting on the monitor. Parent was angry I “wasn’t doing anything.” I explained as best I could what a pleth was and how we monitor it, and that it wasn’t a true desat. She got upset I didn’t explain this to her before, and I apologized and told her that I’m here to answer any other questions she may have. I told her I can arrange a family discussion with the care team so she can get any questions she might have answered. She apologized for how she talked to me earlier and I left the room.
Here’s where things get bad lol. I can tell the kid is still irritable, so I go in to offer to turn the monitor in her room off and to help settle the kid because she’s clearly stressed. She says no because she “doesn’t trust us”. I offer to call RT for suctioning as an intervention. She says “why don’t you make the decision, you’re the nurse.” I tell her I think collaborating with her as a parent is important. She then questions my practice and says “I don’t even know what kind of nurse you are” and rips off her kid’s CPAP. I told her straight up that I wouldn’t tolerate the way she was talking to me and that’s when she requested a new nurse.
I know it’s scary for parents and I tried to be empathetic and I feel awful about the whole situation, but at the end of the day I’m not going tolerate that kind of treatment. I’m worried I was a bit harsh but maybe I’m just in my head
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Here’s where things get bad lol. I can tell the kid is still irritable, so I go in to offer to turn the monitor in her room off and to help settle the kid because she’s clearly stressed. She says no because she “doesn’t trust us”. I offer to call RT for suctioning as an intervention. She says “why don’t you make the decision, you’re the nurse.” I tell her I think collaborating with her as a parent is important. She then questions my practice and says “I don’t even know what kind of nurse you are” and rips off her kid’s CPAP. I told her straight up that I wouldn’t tolerate the way she was talking to me and that’s when she requested a new nurse.
I know it’s scary for parents and I tried to be empathetic and I feel awful about the whole situation, but at the end of the day I’m not going tolerate that kind of treatment. I’m worried I was a bit harsh but maybe I’m just in my head
2024.05.15 09:23 BryggerHeise Numerological day analysis of 15–5-2024 19/10 Healer factor/ Transformation, Transition
 | Inspired by Balance and Cross-Fertilization you want to make things “whole” again today (the deeper meaning of healing). If you do that, It will result in a transformation to the next level. submitted by BryggerHeise to numerology [link] [comments] 15–5-2024 19/10 Healer facto Transformation, Transition Spirit: 15 Balance and Cross-Fertilization Soul: 5 Expansion; Fullness; Inner Motivation; Adventure; Freedom; Order Body: 24 Day and Night; Light and Darkness The sum total of today is 19: Healer factor leading to Transformation. You want to heal yourself and others today through your spirit’s Balance and Cross-Fertilization, your soul’s Expansion, Order, Adventure and Freedom and your physical Ability to go through the Night to see the Light of a new day. Day of the 'Sorcerer' Archetype Pentagram Themes This incredible process of transformation is energized today by the theme (axis in the pentagram) of ‘Awakening -Leadership’. Blue 1- Red 55: Axis of Awakening- Leadership: 1(0)-(6)5 The axis of change drives the axis of inner awakening and leadership. Change- the only constant in this universe- is going to be your constant pressure to wake up and how to lead and inspire people. The two opposing principles are ‘Transformation, Transition’ coming from the “God” realm and ‘Ethics and Morality; Divine Sexuality’ coming from the “Ego” realm. It is not an easy one to fulfill with so much energy and chaos being present on this central axis. 10: Transformation Transformation is the process of the caterpillar forming a cocoon and then emerging as a butterfly. In between the two physical states everything looks like chaos. It calls for a willingness to let go of everything known and experienced, and then to be able to be born again. It is the archetypal phase of the journey of the Hero wherein he dies as an adolescent only to re-emerge an adult man. It takes you to the next level, where everything starts anew. It gives access to the paranormal world: being clairvoyant, clairaudient and/or clairsentient. Transformation is the Holy Mother, watching over everything, holding everything. (The trap would be is to feel responsible for everything and everyone. Taking on responsibilities beyond your duty and scope). 65: ’Ethics and morality; Divine Sexuality’. In many cases a very strict ethical and moral attitude is connected to this number. It restricts the ability to live your sexuality without taboos and puts you in a very strict and moralistic straitjacket. The time is ripe to free yourself from these restricting thoughts and let your life-energy run freely. The balance of these two principles lies in their sum: Awareness of Vitality; Power. It is the desire for fulness, justice, holiness and inner order want to develop to self-awareness. It is also the energy of Dominance, Rule (Power!), Dogmatic Faith and Outer Fame. This power as such does not have to be negative. It calls for balancing it and using it for cross-fertilization. The positive leadership coming from this central axis is to lead through vitality-change and cross-fertilization. Your whole presence radiates change. When you have full access to this axis, you lead by vitality, by charisma, by energy. Literally ‘being’ the change through energy. On the negative side your leadership may become very manipulative. Levels of awareness In today’s Pentagram there are no levels of awareness specifically activated. All the 4 points on the right side of the Pentagram are activated though. The right side represents the ‘masculine’ side of the Pentagram. The core number of today is Transformation. We are called upon to use our masculine awareness to bring “Spirit” into physical reality. The energies of the 4 points are as follows: Blue/Red 21: 21’Insight; Inner rising sun’ . The Divine Idea energizes the World in which Polarity rules. You should understand that the divine core is within yourself. That leads to understanding and experiencing the Inner Rising Sun (the Dawn of Awareness - Consciousness). Red 2: (3)2 “Divine Connection”; “Wire with the above”. In the Kabbalistic Life Tree there are 10 Base Principles, which are interconnected by 22 Paths. 10+22=32. “Divine Connection, Wire with the above” numerologically refers to this combination and it contains the possibility to attain spiritual Awareness. The Kabbalah is a set of esoteric teachings meant to explain the relationship between an unchanging, eternal, and mysterious Ein Sof (infinity) and the mortal and finite universe (God’s creation). Blue 4: 4(3) Horus factor; Pioneer In the Egyptian Mythology, Horus is the son of Isis and Osiris. He represents pioneering achievements. (As an adult he defeated his uncle and adversary of his father Seth in a duel and wins the reign of Egypt. Because of this the Pharaohs were seen as embodiments of Horus). In Greek mythology Horus is Apollo (Lord of the light, the spring, moral purity and moderation). Thus Horus embodies a pioneering and well-balanced personality. Blue/Red 554: 54 Reformer. The ‘Reformer’ obviously wants to bring reforms to his life. The approach is to create fullness, expansion through practical work. It is done with intellect and subtle feelings. A prerequisite is the expansion of self-awareness through intuition. It also calls for a conscious decision to deal with the temptations in life in such a way that they lead to more wisdom. May these strong energies support you in creating a Transformation today. Note: If your birthday is today, the topics described above are your topics for 2024. Should a baby be born on this day, then today’s themes are the baby’s life-themes. See you (virtually) : (D) Arbeitskreis: 7. Juni Hybrid Zoom - Köln For a full explanation of the numbers and how to read the Pentagram have a look at my website: www.pentalogie.com |
2024.05.15 09:23 GreedyPersonality390 7 days Powerful Wazifa for Marriage
 | The fact of wedding and the celebration of marrying a life partner are the main events of the life of almost everyone. However, the probability of finding the ideal partner is not always the case. There are people who only find a boyfriend or a girlfriend for a long time to get married or live with them. If you have been searching for a life companion for a long time and failed, doing a 7 days wazifa for marriage may be the way to a potential life partner you always wanted. submitted by GreedyPersonality390 to u/GreedyPersonality390 [link] [comments] 7 days wazifa for marriage What is a Wazifa? A wazifa is a form of Islamic prayer or spiritual chant which is recited uninterrupted for a certain period of time to make one's desires or wishes be realized. Wazifa is a work of the prophets that has been approved by Allah and the continuous recitation of Quranic verses and prayers for a long time is included. The repetition of the concentration, belief and sincerity is the reason why the divine blessings and mercy are given and thus, it is possible to achieve the genuine wishes and intentions. 7 days wazifa for marriage is a big task which needs a lot of studying and hard work. Since this wazifa relies on the spiritual power of prayer, you need to prepare yourself adequately before beginning it:This vuaca is based on the spiritual strength of pray, thus, it is imperative that you get well prepared before you begin it.
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2024.05.15 09:22 BryggerHeise Numerological day analysis of 15–5-2024 19/10 Healer factor/ Transformation, Transition
 | Inspired by Balance and Cross-Fertilization you want to make things “whole” again today (the deeper meaning of healing). If you do that, It will result in a transformation to the next level. submitted by BryggerHeise to NumerologyPentagram [link] [comments] 15–5-2024 19/10 Healer facto Transformation, Transition Spirit: 15 Balance and Cross-Fertilization Soul: 5 Expansion; Fullness; Inner Motivation; Adventure; Freedom; Order Body: 24 Day and Night; Light and Darkness The sum total of today is 19: Healer factor leading to Transformation. You want to heal yourself and others today through your spirit’s Balance and Cross-Fertilization, your soul’s Expansion, Order, Adventure and Freedom and your physical Ability to go through the Night to see the Light of a new day. Day of the \"Sorcerer\" Archetype Pentagram Themes This incredible process of transformation is energized today by the theme (axis in the pentagram) of ‘Awakening -Leadership’. Blue 1- Red 55: Axis of Awakening- Leadership: 1(0)-(6)5 The axis of change drives the axis of inner awakening and leadership. Change- the only constant in this universe- is going to be your constant pressure to wake up and how to lead and inspire people. The two opposing principles are ‘Transformation, Transition’ coming from the “God” realm and ‘Ethics and Morality; Divine Sexuality’ coming from the “Ego” realm. It is not an easy one to fulfill with so much energy and chaos being present on this central axis. 10: Transformation Transformation is the process of the caterpillar forming a cocoon and then emerging as a butterfly. In between the two physical states everything looks like chaos. It calls for a willingness to let go of everything known and experienced, and then to be able to be born again. It is the archetypal phase of the journey of the Hero wherein he dies as an adolescent only to re-emerge an adult man. It takes you to the next level, where everything starts anew. It gives access to the paranormal world: being clairvoyant, clairaudient and/or clairsentient. Transformation is the Holy Mother, watching over everything, holding everything. (The trap would be is to feel responsible for everything and everyone. Taking on responsibilities beyond your duty and scope). 65: ’Ethics and morality; Divine Sexuality’. In many cases a very strict ethical and moral attitude is connected to this number. It restricts the ability to live your sexuality without taboos and puts you in a very strict and moralistic straitjacket. The time is ripe to free yourself from these restricting thoughts and let your life-energy run freely. The balance of these two principles lies in their sum: Awareness of Vitality; Power. It is the desire for fulness, justice, holiness and inner order want to develop to self-awareness. It is also the energy of Dominance, Rule (Power!), Dogmatic Faith and Outer Fame. This power as such does not have to be negative. It calls for balancing it and using it for cross-fertilization. The positive leadership coming from this central axis is to lead through vitality-change and cross-fertilization. Your whole presence radiates change. When you have full access to this axis, you lead by vitality, by charisma, by energy. Literally ‘being’ the change through energy. On the negative side your leadership may become very manipulative. Levels of awareness In today’s Pentagram there are no levels of awareness specifically activated. All the 4 points on the right side of the Pentagram are activated though. The right side represents the ‘masculine’ side of the Pentagram. The core number of today is Transformation. We are called upon to use our masculine awareness to bring “Spirit” into physical reality. The energies of the 4 points are as follows: Blue/Red 21: 21’Insight; Inner rising sun’ . The Divine Idea energizes the World in which Polarity rules. You should understand that the divine core is within yourself. That leads to understanding and experiencing the Inner Rising Sun (the Dawn of Awareness - Consciousness). Red 2: (3)2 “Divine Connection”; “Wire with the above”. In the Kabbalistic Life Tree there are 10 Base Principles, which are interconnected by 22 Paths. 10+22=32. “Divine Connection, Wire with the above” numerologically refers to this combination and it contains the possibility to attain spiritual Awareness. The Kabbalah is a set of esoteric teachings meant to explain the relationship between an unchanging, eternal, and mysterious Ein Sof (infinity) and the mortal and finite universe (God’s creation). Blue 4: 4(3) Horus factor; Pioneer In the Egyptian Mythology, Horus is the son of Isis and Osiris. He represents pioneering achievements. (As an adult he defeated his uncle and adversary of his father Seth in a duel and wins the reign of Egypt. Because of this the Pharaohs were seen as embodiments of Horus). In Greek mythology Horus is Apollo (Lord of the light, the spring, moral purity and moderation). Thus Horus embodies a pioneering and well-balanced personality. Blue/Red 554: 54 Reformer. The ‘Reformer’ obviously wants to bring reforms to his life. The approach is to create fullness, expansion through practical work. It is done with intellect and subtle feelings. A prerequisite is the expansion of self-awareness through intuition. It also calls for a conscious decision to deal with the temptations in life in such a way that they lead to more wisdom. May these strong energies support you in creating a Transformation today. Note: If your birthday is today, the topics described above are your topics for 2024. Should a baby be born on this day, then today’s themes are the baby’s life-themes. See you (virtually) : (D) Arbeitskreis: 7. Juni Hybrid Zoom - Köln For a full explanation of the numbers and how to read the Pentagram have a look at my website: www.pentalogie.com |
2024.05.15 09:21 Platowner Struggling to update from 10.3 to 10.11.7 on Centos strream 8
Hello,
We are in serious troubles with our SaaS after trying to update from MariaDB 10.3.38 to 10.11.7. We cannot get our database working back online and our SaaS has been offline for a day already and counting.
I tried following the way it is mentioned in the docs, to remove the installations via yum remove mariadb mariadb-server (make sure it is cleanly shutdowned first). And then install the new ones via the rpm:
First we took a backup using :
After completion we noticed that we couldn't log in anymore with our regular users, so we tried out to query the mysql.user table (note: all these queries are after logging in as 'root' in mysql in the terminal):
So I am trying to query the grants given to this user:
What is happening? Where did I go wrong? We are in total panic mode since we really have no idea anymore how we can get our database system back online.
Thank you very very much in advance.
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We are in serious troubles with our SaaS after trying to update from MariaDB 10.3.38 to 10.11.7. We cannot get our database working back online and our SaaS has been offline for a day already and counting.
I tried following the way it is mentioned in the docs, to remove the installations via yum remove mariadb mariadb-server (make sure it is cleanly shutdowned first). And then install the new ones via the rpm:
curl -sS sudo bash -s -- --mariadb-server-version="mariadb-10.11" --skip-maxscale sudo yum install MariaDB-server MariaDB-client MariaDB-backup mysql --version >> This ensures that version 10.11.7 is installed. systemctl restart mariadbhttps://downloads.mariadb.com/MariaDB/mariadb_repo_setupI then tried initiating the mariadb-upgrade, but it did not work, because the mariaDB service would not start and shows the following error in systemctl:
May 14 18:44:36 GaD-site-prd-DB mariadbd[4173633]: 2024-05-14 18:44:36 0 [ERROR] InnoDB: Encrypted page [page id: space=0, page number=7] in file ./ibdata1 looks corrupted; key_version=1 May 14 18:44:36 GaD-site-prd-DB mariadbd[4173633]: 2024-05-14 18:44:36 0 [ERROR] InnoDB: Plugin initialization aborted with error Table is compressed or encrypted but uncompress or decrypt failed. May 14 18:44:36 GaD-site-prd-DB mariadbd[4173633]: 2024-05-14 18:44:36 0 [Note] InnoDB: Starting shutdown... May 14 18:44:36 GaD-site-prd-DB mariadbd[4173633]: 2024-05-14 18:44:36 0 [ERROR] Plugin 'InnoDB' registration as a STORAGE ENGINE failed. May 14 18:44:36 GaD-site-prd-DB mariadbd[4173633]: 2024-05-14 18:44:36 0 [Note] Plugin 'FEEDBACK' is disabled. May 14 18:44:36 GaD-site-prd-DB mariadbd[4173633]: 2024-05-14 18:44:36 0 [ERROR] Unknown/unsupported storage engine: InnoDB May 14 18:44:36 GaD-site-prd-DB mariadbd[4173633]: 2024-05-14 18:44:36 0 [ERROR] AbortingSo we continued with removing the complete mariadb installation and the config and database files, (/valib/mysql and /etc/my.cnf)
First we took a backup using :
mysqldump -u root -p --all-databases > backup.sqlThen we started again using a clean install of mariadb. We started the import of the backup file:
mysql -u root -p < backup.sqlThe backup.sql file is 13GB, we turned off the foreign keys check, but it's still taking hours and hours to complete.
After completion we noticed that we couldn't log in anymore with our regular users, so we tried out to query the mysql.user table (note: all these queries are after logging in as 'root' in mysql in the terminal):
select user from mysql.user;This code works perfectly fine on our DEV & UAT environment (which are both also on MariaDB 10.11.7). But on our PRD environment it is giving us the error:
ERROR 1356 (HY000): View 'mysql.user' references invalid table(s) or column(s) or function(s) or defineinvoker of view lack rights to use themWhen querying the users as such:
SELECT User, Db, Host from mysql.db;it does give us a result and eg it says "gad-live giveaday %
So I am trying to query the grants given to this user:
show grants for 'gad-live'@'%';And again, this is giving me an error:
ERROR 1141 (42000): There is no such grant defined for user 'gad-live' on host '%'While again, on DEV and UAT server, this query returns the result correctly without any issues.
What is happening? Where did I go wrong? We are in total panic mode since we really have no idea anymore how we can get our database system back online.
Thank you very very much in advance.
2024.05.15 09:20 darkbitch2014 NT1 Signature series not working correctly
Hey so i bought the NT1 mic and it doesnt work correctly. it makes a weird buzzing noise when recording and only picks up sound when i touch the mic (like tapping or moving it around) but not when i speak into it does anyone know why that is? when it does pick up a small amount of sound it sounds like im miles away. I am using a XLR to USB adapter since the mic itself doesnt have one if that changes anything
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2024.05.15 09:19 thisvideoiswrong Quick Looks 3: Vo'Quv Carrier
By my count, there are 15 T5 ships available for just dilithium or a level 40 token, which someone might want a starter build for to help them finish off the episode missions and start the reputation grind. My Strict Budget Build covers the three science vessels, the Baby Step series covers the three cruisers with tactical ensigns, Quick Looks 1 and 2 cover the Hegh'ta Bird of Prey and the Jem'hadar Escort, and there's definitely an argument to be made that some are just bad choices. But there was one more I wanted to take a look at here. This series will not be as thoroughly researched as those previous series, and it will not feature optimized skill builds (there are many resources for that), but the builds will be proven in the Badlands Battlezone and in solo Defense of Starbase One Advanced, as well as extensively parsed in the Wanted (Argala System) patrol with comparisons to similar builds. That should adequately demonstrate that they can get you whatever reputation marks you need, using only mission, basic (generally Mk XII uncommon) Exchange, and Phoenix Store items. Each build will be allowed one Mk XV item to maintain parity with the Strict Budget Build, usually a forward weapon. It's also easy enough to put these together that I could be persuaded to do more if there's a ship that deserves it.
So, why the Vo'Quv? Well it's in the name, it's a carrier. Hangar bays are expensive to boost in this game, but that means they have to be balanced to have pretty good base damage. In this case the two hangars did more than half the damage of most of the other builds in this series with hardly any support for them. The downside to carriers is that they often sacrifice a lot for those hangars. Not so for Flight Deck Carriers, which are pretty much full cruisers, or any of the single hangar types, but the science carriers like the Vo'Quv don't really have an obvious path to getting ship damage, especially on this budget. Their turn rate is terrible, which is a problem for most things, they have only 6 weapons so getting a lot from energy weapons is out, and they don't have a secondary deflector, which did do more on my science vessel build than the hangars did here.
So where did I end up, then? Well, with 6 science ability slots and not a ton of options I couldn't see not using them for some direct exotic damage. And since that required me to face forward, and the turn rate was terrible and I couldn't do much about it, I concluded that I'd have to use turrets in the rear with either beam arrays or single cannons forward, the two widest arc weapon combinations possible apart from pure turrets, although their damage potential is limited. The Chronometric set also seemed like a must have, providing a large amount of EPG and some Polaron cat1 from the tac console, and a bit of aux power from the 2 piece, but I wasn't sure whether I'd want the Morphogenic set or not, since it would mean sacrificing a cannon. Then, I went to the TRINITY DPS Calculator from STO BETTER and started plugging in some rough options. Single cannons outperformed beam arrays even with the Chronometric 3 piece, so that settled that, and getting the crtd from the Morphogenic 3 piece and Cannon Scatter Volley was well worth losing a forward cannon for the torp. Attack Pattern Beta proved a bigger contributor than expected thanks to boosting the exotic damage as well, which is why that's at 2 and CSV is at 1, and easily outperformed including a Torpedo Spread as well. Finally I switched the power settings away from a balanced configuration toward weapons over aux and aux over weapons, and the high aux version did best. So that was the build.
How did it perform? Well it was sluggish, obviously, I expected that. But the DPS was pretty impressive and was reflected in how quickly it got kills. And the survivability was pretty good, with a lot of hull and pretty good healing I really couldn't complain, except that it was so sluggish it was hard to run out of range and heal if I needed to. On the other hand when I did withdraw the fighters kept fighting, contributing to the highest Wanted Elite DPS of any of the builds in the table with only one attempt needed to survive the whole mission (the science vessel could do better by charging in and dying a couple of times, but needed to play cautiously and sacrifice its CPB to survive). They were even powerful enough to handle the Birds of Prey in Starbase One Advanced without any help from the mothership, potentially even without player input, which could be convenient.
This skill tree is my generalist one from Strict Budget Build part 2, and it pretty much needs to be. This build relies on both energy weapon and exotic damage, so it can't afford to neglect either one. There are other generalist skill trees, of course, but that is what you'll need to be looking for, any single purpose tree isn't going to get the job done.
This table shows all damage sources in one Wanted Advanced run, with multiple lines from the same source summed together.
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Now, let's talk keybinds. In STO on PC you're going to want to learn keybinding eventually, and most of it's not too hard and can be done through the chat window (although it is arguably better to create a separate text file with your binds, that's more complicated). The first thing I always do is to set up a secondary fire weapons button through settings, usually V, just in case I screw up and my intended fire keybind doesn't work. While I'm there I usually set Distribute Shields to Left Shift, it's a pretty good survivability boost, although a lot of people do say it can mess up firing cycles, but personally I've never noticed a problem. Then, the commands you'll want to know are "FirePhasers" or "FireAll", "+power_exec Distribute_Shields", and "+TrayExecByTray # #", where # is a number. Note that the list of commands needs quotation marks around it, and commands should be separated by "$$". So if you typed the following into the chat: /bind y "+TrayExecByTray 0 0 $$ +TrayExecByTray 0 1 $$ +TrayExecByTray 1 2 $$ +TrayExecByTray 1 3" That would create a keybind so that y would activate the first and second abilities in the row labeled 1, and the third and fourth abilities in the row labeled 2 (0 in a keybind means 1 in the UI, 1 means 2, 2 means 3, etc., that's just how it works), starting with the fourth ability in 2 and then proceeding backwards. From there on in it's personal preference, put things where they feel natural to you, where you're used to them being. What I use has evolved naturally over time, I make no claims that it's efficient, just that I'm used to it, and I use it on everything. For fire weapons, distribute shields, Emergency Power abilities, cooldown reduction, often Aux to Structural, and anything else I just want to keep active I use spacebar, like this: /bind space "FireAll $$ +power_exec Distribute_Shields $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 0 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 1 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 2 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 3 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 4" That's the first 5 slots in row 7, which is usually enough. Then for my firing modes, Attack Pattern Beta, and so on, things with short cooldowns I activate as I attack, I use the 7 key, no good reason for that it just happened, and the first 4 slots in row 3: /bind 7 "+TrayExecByTray 2 0 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 1 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 2 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 3" And finally for my exotic builds I always put Gravity Well and Destabilizing Resonance beam on 2, using the next two slots in row 3, although it is true that the usual logic behind that doesn't apply here, I just did it out of habit: /bind 2 "+TrayExecByTray 2 4 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 5" That's all the keybinds I use, everything else I activate manually, one at a time, but it does compress 13 keys I might want to be pressing down to 3, which helps a lot.
Now, the difficult thing about this build is that I really don't know how to suggest upgrading it, apart from the obvious necessity of some Competitive Reputation engines to get their Overcharge to improve turn rate, I made sure to use Aux to Structural to pair with the Fortified version of those. The damage is very divided between different types, with about 40% from hangars, 25% from exotics, and 21% from energy weapons, and it's not getting a lot out of any of them, but I'll provide my own ideas and the STO BETTER Basics links for all three. Currently the biggest damage source is the hangars, but trying to improve those would be expensive. Ideally you'd like to pick up Superior Area Denial from the Mirror Strike Wing Escort lockbox ship, or at least the Independent Wingmate space trait, but those are very expensive compared to this build. Even the more minor and less powerful Advanced Engineering – Hangar Craft Power Transmission consoles are starting at 1 million energy credits each on PC for either a Mk XII with a useless mod or a Mk II with an [EPG] mod, or 5 million for a Mk II with [Polaron], while Swarmer Matrix is going for 7 million. If you wanted to work on exotic damage you could of course pick up the Temporal reputation two piece, and then you might want Subspace Vortex or Very Cold in Space to replace the heals with some more damage, but those will cost you 9 million each, and really you'd want to pair them with Spore Infused Anomalies from the Somerville or Batlh C-store ships for a truly potent source of exotic damage. You might be able to get good exotic damage out of the Gravimetric Photon and Particle Emission Plasma torpedoes after picking up the Competitive engines, and those aren't as expensive, but they do give you a much narrower arc. And if you wanted to improve the energy weapons, of course there are reputation items you can pick up starting with the Discovery reputation shield, but you're pretty limited by the combination of poor turn rate and forward firing exotics. You could try to switch to dual (heavy) cannons, probably moving the torpedo to the rear and dropping the plain turret, but I don't think I'm a good enough pilot to pull that off even with Competitive engines, which would leave you with single cannons which have underwhelming base damage and very few set items to support them. I just don't know what direction to go in to make a really impactful improvement in this build.
Finally, here's the table of DPS testing in the Wanted patrol for all five equivalent budget builds. The Luna used the original, unaltered Strict Budget Build, using the mentioned swap of Emergency Power to Shields instead of Aux to Structural for better survivability against non-Borg. The Vor'cha sat somewhere between parts one and two of the Baby Step series, meaning it had exactly the same consoles as the Hegh'ta BoP and similar ones to the Jem Escort, and the beam equivalents of the phaser weapons, with exactly the abilities and personal traits in the Baby Step posts. It must also be said that the Vor'cha and Vo'quv were the only builds to never die on elite difficulty, and the Vor'cha was definitely the toughest, although all the builds took about 20 minutes to get through the mission so using them at that difficulty is a bad idea. The Hegh'ta of course used the Quick Looks 1 build, and the Jem Escort used the Quick Looks 2 build.
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So, why the Vo'Quv? Well it's in the name, it's a carrier. Hangar bays are expensive to boost in this game, but that means they have to be balanced to have pretty good base damage. In this case the two hangars did more than half the damage of most of the other builds in this series with hardly any support for them. The downside to carriers is that they often sacrifice a lot for those hangars. Not so for Flight Deck Carriers, which are pretty much full cruisers, or any of the single hangar types, but the science carriers like the Vo'Quv don't really have an obvious path to getting ship damage, especially on this budget. Their turn rate is terrible, which is a problem for most things, they have only 6 weapons so getting a lot from energy weapons is out, and they don't have a secondary deflector, which did do more on my science vessel build than the hangars did here.
So where did I end up, then? Well, with 6 science ability slots and not a ton of options I couldn't see not using them for some direct exotic damage. And since that required me to face forward, and the turn rate was terrible and I couldn't do much about it, I concluded that I'd have to use turrets in the rear with either beam arrays or single cannons forward, the two widest arc weapon combinations possible apart from pure turrets, although their damage potential is limited. The Chronometric set also seemed like a must have, providing a large amount of EPG and some Polaron cat1 from the tac console, and a bit of aux power from the 2 piece, but I wasn't sure whether I'd want the Morphogenic set or not, since it would mean sacrificing a cannon. Then, I went to the TRINITY DPS Calculator from STO BETTER and started plugging in some rough options. Single cannons outperformed beam arrays even with the Chronometric 3 piece, so that settled that, and getting the crtd from the Morphogenic 3 piece and Cannon Scatter Volley was well worth losing a forward cannon for the torp. Attack Pattern Beta proved a bigger contributor than expected thanks to boosting the exotic damage as well, which is why that's at 2 and CSV is at 1, and easily outperformed including a Torpedo Spread as well. Finally I switched the power settings away from a balanced configuration toward weapons over aux and aux over weapons, and the high aux version did best. So that was the build.
How did it perform? Well it was sluggish, obviously, I expected that. But the DPS was pretty impressive and was reflected in how quickly it got kills. And the survivability was pretty good, with a lot of hull and pretty good healing I really couldn't complain, except that it was so sluggish it was hard to run out of range and heal if I needed to. On the other hand when I did withdraw the fighters kept fighting, contributing to the highest Wanted Elite DPS of any of the builds in the table with only one attempt needed to survive the whole mission (the science vessel could do better by charging in and dying a couple of times, but needed to play cautiously and sacrifice its CPB to survive). They were even powerful enough to handle the Birds of Prey in Starbase One Advanced without any help from the mothership, potentially even without player input, which could be convenient.
Captain Details
| Captain Name | Stilt | |
|---|---|---|
| Captain Career | Science | |
| Captain Faction | Federation | |
| Captain Race | Vulcan | |
| Primary Specialization | Temporal | The best specialization for exotic builds, as well as for ground builds and a good generalist option, it provides debuffs, damage boosts, EPG, and survivability |
Space Skill Tree
| Rank | Engineering | Science | Tactical | |||
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Lieutenant | Advanced Hull Capacity | Advanced Energy Weapon Training | Advanced Projectile Weapon Training | |||
| Lt. Commander | Improved Electro-Plasma System Flow | Impulse Expertise | Improved Control Expertise | Drain Expertise | Targeting Expertise | Defensive Maneuvering |
| Control Amplification | Drain Infection | |||||
| Commander | Hull Plating | Advanced Weapon Amplification | Advanced Weapon Specialization | |||
| Captain | Defensive Subsystem Tuning | Advanced Exotic Particle Generator | Advanced Long Range Targeting Sensors | Advanced Hull Penetration | Advanced Shield Weakening | |
| Admiral | Coordination Protocols | Advanced Tactical Readiness | ||||
| Defensive Coordination | ||||||
| Offensive Coordination | ||||||
| 1 Points Left | 8 | 11 | 26 |
Space Skill Unlocks
| Purchases | Engineering | Science | Tactical |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2 | Hazard Emitters III | Science Team III | Tachyon Beam III |
| 5 | Battery Expertise | Sector Space Travel Speed | |
| 7 | Feedback Pulse III | Photonic Shockwave III | Jam Sensors III |
| 10 | Maximum Shield Capacity | ||
| 12 | Tractor Beam III | ||
| 15 | Control Resistance | ||
| 17 | Viral Matrix III | ||
| 20 | Shield Drain Resistance | ||
| 24 (Ultimate) | Focused Frenzy | ||
| 25 (1st Ultimate Enhancer) | Frenzied Assault | ||
| 26 (2nd Ultimate Enhancer) | Team Frenzy |
Ship Loadout: Vo'Quv Carrier
| Slot | Item | Notes |
|---|---|---|
| Fore Weapon 1 | Polaron Cannon | The one Mk XV, single cannons are usually a poor choice, but they will outperform beam arrays forward/turrets aft and provide 180 degrees of firing arc |
| Fore Weapon 2 | Polaron Cannon | The Vo'Quv suffers from terrible turn rate so it doesn't want weapons with narrow arcs, but it needs to face forward for the exotic damage |
| Fore Weapon 3 | Morphogenic Polaron Energy Torpedo Launcher | Here for the 3 piece set bonus providing 30% crtd to the whole ship |
| Aft Weapon 1 | Heavy Chronometric Polaron Turret | Mostly need a turret, 2 piece provides some aux |
| Aft Weapon 2 | Morphogenic Polaron Energy Weapon | Another turret, and contributes to the 3 piece |
| Aft Weapon 3 | Polaron Turret | Just a turret |
| Deflector | Solanae Deflector Array Mk XII Very Rare | Provides more EPG out of the box than any other mission reward |
| Impulse Engines | Sol Defense Impulse Engines Mk XII Very Rare | With the bonus from getting hit this does just provide the best total turn rate out of the mission rewards at 14.7 degrees/s, replace with Fortified Competitive rep engines |
| Warp Core | Obelisk Subspace Rift Warp Core | This build only hits 122 aux so this doesn't actually help, could consider Deuterium-Stabilized but the benefit is minimal |
| Shields | Sol Defense Covariant Shield Array Mk XII Very Rare | 2 piece is nice for survivability, alternative would be Jem'Hadar 2 piece for a bit of Polaron cat1. |
| Devices | Exotic Particle Flood | Crafted in Science R&D. I do have to admit that the materials are a little hard to come by, and Admiralty (with account unlocked ships) is the best source I've found. |
| Deuterium Surplus | Evasive Maneuvers in battery form, and you can collect 4 per day from the Alhena system. | |
| Delta Alliance Reinforcements Beacon | Handy damage boost | |
| 3 Engineering Consoles | Console - Engineering - Trellium-D Plating Mk XII Very Rare | Good survivability console, could use a Neutronium instead |
| Console - Engineering - Polaric Modulator Mk XII Very Rare | Boosts Inertia, which is rare, as well as turn rate, and slipstream turn rate at warp | |
| Console - Engineering - House Martok Defensive Configuration Mk XII Very Rare | Boosts turn rate and provides some survivability, an RCS would work too | |
| 4 Science Consoles | Console - Science - Temporal Disentanglement Suite Mk XII Very Rare | Nice crit and durability boost, plus some power. |
| Console - Science - Temporally Shielded Datacore Mk XII Very Rare | Slightly less EPG than Particle Generators but it makes up for it with the CtrlX | |
| Console - Science - Particle Generator Mk XII Uncommon | Just need EPG | |
| Console - Science - Particle Generator Mk XII Common | ||
| 2 Tactical Consoles | Console - Tactical - Morphogenic Matrix Controller Mk XII Very Rare | For the 3 piece and some polaron cat1 |
| Console - Tactical - Chronometric Capacitor Mk XII Very Rare | Good EPG, some aux from the 2 piece, and some Polaron cat1, and this build uses all of it | |
| 2 Hangar Bays | Hangar - To'Duj Fighters | These provide more DPS than any other hangar that's available by default, and they come with the ship, they will die in heavy AoE content, otherwise use two |
| Hangar - Delta Flyers | These have slightly less DPS than To'duj but almost never die in any content, but do require a level 65 KDF character for Cross Faction Flying. Could substitute B'rels for more DPS loss |
Officer Details
| Bridge Officers | ||
|---|---|---|
| Lt. Commander Tactical | Tactical Team I | Shield distribution and debuff clear, may cause firing cycle problems but I haven't seen it |
| Cannon: Scatter Volley I | Excellent weapon damage buff and also spreads APB to up to 3 targets | |
| Attack Pattern Beta II | Unusual to slot this above the firing mode, but it boosts every damage source and weapon damage is only ~1/4 of the total | |
| Lt. Commander Engineering | Emergency Power to Engines I | More than doubles speed and provides +2 turn rate, essential mobility for any build |
| Auxiliary to Structural I | Excellent heal and damage resist, and on a very short cooldown | |
| Emergency Power to Weapons III | Major energy weapon damage boost | |
| Commander Science | Hazard Emitters I | Good hull heal and debuff clear |
| Destabilizing Resonance Beam I | Good exotic damage, used with GW | |
| Photonic Officer II | Cooldown reduction | |
| Gravity Well III | Good exotic damage and control | |
| Lieutenant Science | Science Team I | Shield heal and debuff clear |
| Tyken's Rift I | Exotic damage, alternate with GW | |
Traits & Duty Officers
| Trait | Name | Description | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Personal Traits | Astrophysicist | A little bit of EPG | |
| Cannon Training | A little more cannon damage | ||
| Conservation of Energy | Significant exotic damage while solo, but stacks don't last long | ||
| Deft Cannoneer | Boosts turn rate by 1, on this build we need it, from Cannons R&D | ||
| Fleet Coordinator | One of the best traits in the game when on a team | ||
| Give Your All | Excellent hull damage resistance, from Engineering R&D | ||
| Operative | Some extra crit | ||
| Particle Manipulator | The most powerful trait for exotic damage, +50%/+29.6% crth/crtd on this build, from Science R&D | ||
| Photonic Capacitor | Extra Photonic Fleet is nice to have | ||
| Starship Traits | None | Unconventional Tactics from completing Strategist is definitely worth slotting here, but I kept it cheap. | |
| Space Reputation Traits | None | You'll start picking these up very quickly, Precision and Advanced Targeting Systems are top picks. | |
| Duty Officers | Projectile Weapons Officer | "Law" from A Fistful of Gorn, a bit of a pain to get there, but worth having | |
| Projectile Weapons Officer | A common included in my first duty officer pack | ||
| Astrometrics Scientist | Uncommon, also in my first pack, handy to have set | ||
| Conn Officer | From Phoenix, a must have for mobility in any build | ||
| Source | DPS |
|---|---|
| To'Duj Fighters | 6594 |
| Delta Flyers | 4504 |
| Gravity Well | 3571 |
| Photonic Fleet | 3170 |
| Polaron Cannons | 2889 |
| Destabilizing Resonance Beam | 1728 |
| Chronometric Turret | 1156 |
| Polaron Turret | 1001 |
| Morphogenic Turret | 994 |
| Morphogenic Torpedo | 855 |
| Tyken's Rift | 839 |
| Drain Infection | 708 |
| Entropic Rider | 144 |
Now, let's talk keybinds. In STO on PC you're going to want to learn keybinding eventually, and most of it's not too hard and can be done through the chat window (although it is arguably better to create a separate text file with your binds, that's more complicated). The first thing I always do is to set up a secondary fire weapons button through settings, usually V, just in case I screw up and my intended fire keybind doesn't work. While I'm there I usually set Distribute Shields to Left Shift, it's a pretty good survivability boost, although a lot of people do say it can mess up firing cycles, but personally I've never noticed a problem. Then, the commands you'll want to know are "FirePhasers" or "FireAll", "+power_exec Distribute_Shields", and "+TrayExecByTray # #", where # is a number. Note that the list of commands needs quotation marks around it, and commands should be separated by "$$". So if you typed the following into the chat: /bind y "+TrayExecByTray 0 0 $$ +TrayExecByTray 0 1 $$ +TrayExecByTray 1 2 $$ +TrayExecByTray 1 3" That would create a keybind so that y would activate the first and second abilities in the row labeled 1, and the third and fourth abilities in the row labeled 2 (0 in a keybind means 1 in the UI, 1 means 2, 2 means 3, etc., that's just how it works), starting with the fourth ability in 2 and then proceeding backwards. From there on in it's personal preference, put things where they feel natural to you, where you're used to them being. What I use has evolved naturally over time, I make no claims that it's efficient, just that I'm used to it, and I use it on everything. For fire weapons, distribute shields, Emergency Power abilities, cooldown reduction, often Aux to Structural, and anything else I just want to keep active I use spacebar, like this: /bind space "FireAll $$ +power_exec Distribute_Shields $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 0 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 1 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 2 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 3 $$ +TrayExecByTray 6 4" That's the first 5 slots in row 7, which is usually enough. Then for my firing modes, Attack Pattern Beta, and so on, things with short cooldowns I activate as I attack, I use the 7 key, no good reason for that it just happened, and the first 4 slots in row 3: /bind 7 "+TrayExecByTray 2 0 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 1 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 2 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 3" And finally for my exotic builds I always put Gravity Well and Destabilizing Resonance beam on 2, using the next two slots in row 3, although it is true that the usual logic behind that doesn't apply here, I just did it out of habit: /bind 2 "+TrayExecByTray 2 4 $$ +TrayExecByTray 2 5" That's all the keybinds I use, everything else I activate manually, one at a time, but it does compress 13 keys I might want to be pressing down to 3, which helps a lot.
Now, the difficult thing about this build is that I really don't know how to suggest upgrading it, apart from the obvious necessity of some Competitive Reputation engines to get their Overcharge to improve turn rate, I made sure to use Aux to Structural to pair with the Fortified version of those. The damage is very divided between different types, with about 40% from hangars, 25% from exotics, and 21% from energy weapons, and it's not getting a lot out of any of them, but I'll provide my own ideas and the STO BETTER Basics links for all three. Currently the biggest damage source is the hangars, but trying to improve those would be expensive. Ideally you'd like to pick up Superior Area Denial from the Mirror Strike Wing Escort lockbox ship, or at least the Independent Wingmate space trait, but those are very expensive compared to this build. Even the more minor and less powerful Advanced Engineering – Hangar Craft Power Transmission consoles are starting at 1 million energy credits each on PC for either a Mk XII with a useless mod or a Mk II with an [EPG] mod, or 5 million for a Mk II with [Polaron], while Swarmer Matrix is going for 7 million. If you wanted to work on exotic damage you could of course pick up the Temporal reputation two piece, and then you might want Subspace Vortex or Very Cold in Space to replace the heals with some more damage, but those will cost you 9 million each, and really you'd want to pair them with Spore Infused Anomalies from the Somerville or Batlh C-store ships for a truly potent source of exotic damage. You might be able to get good exotic damage out of the Gravimetric Photon and Particle Emission Plasma torpedoes after picking up the Competitive engines, and those aren't as expensive, but they do give you a much narrower arc. And if you wanted to improve the energy weapons, of course there are reputation items you can pick up starting with the Discovery reputation shield, but you're pretty limited by the combination of poor turn rate and forward firing exotics. You could try to switch to dual (heavy) cannons, probably moving the torpedo to the rear and dropping the plain turret, but I don't think I'm a good enough pilot to pull that off even with Competitive engines, which would leave you with single cannons which have underwhelming base damage and very few set items to support them. I just don't know what direction to go in to make a really impactful improvement in this build.
Finally, here's the table of DPS testing in the Wanted patrol for all five equivalent budget builds. The Luna used the original, unaltered Strict Budget Build, using the mentioned swap of Emergency Power to Shields instead of Aux to Structural for better survivability against non-Borg. The Vor'cha sat somewhere between parts one and two of the Baby Step series, meaning it had exactly the same consoles as the Hegh'ta BoP and similar ones to the Jem Escort, and the beam equivalents of the phaser weapons, with exactly the abilities and personal traits in the Baby Step posts. It must also be said that the Vor'cha and Vo'quv were the only builds to never die on elite difficulty, and the Vor'cha was definitely the toughest, although all the builds took about 20 minutes to get through the mission so using them at that difficulty is a bad idea. The Hegh'ta of course used the Quick Looks 1 build, and the Jem Escort used the Quick Looks 2 build.
| Elite (DPS thousands) | Advanced 1 (DPS thousands) | Advanced 2 | Advanced 3 | Advanced 4 | Advanced Average | |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Hegh'ta Heavy BoP | 20.0 | 20.1 | 21.5 | 22.5 | 23.2 | 21.8 |
| Jem'hadar Escort | 19.3 | 23.4 | 20.6 | 21.8 | 19.7 | 21.4 |
| Vo'quV Carrier | 27.3 | 26.3 | 28.2 | 26.6 | 25.2 | 26.6 |
| Luna Science Vessel | 24.8 | 31.4 | 28.3 | 27.9 | 27.0 | 28.6 |
| Vor'cha Battlecruiser | 15.1 | 15.0 | 14.1 | 14.8 | 14.6 | 14.6 |
2024.05.15 09:18 Boring-Rutabaga5319 What You Should Know About Bebika Dhurve
Bebika Dhurve is a Mumbai model, singer, and social media star. She became famous in the showbiz business after being born in Mumbai in June 1993. Fame came to Bebika when she played Devika Oberoi in Zee’s Bhagya Lakshmi. The show showed how good an actress she was. In the second season of Bigg Boss OTT, bebika dhurve and Avinash Sachdeva took part. Voot, a streaming service, was the first to show this digital version of India’s popular reality show. Bebika attended a nearby high school, but little is known about her education. We are still determining what she did after she finished high school. Bebika Dhurve is well-known in the entertainment industry thanks to her talent, charm, and rising popularity. Her career as a model, actor, and social media star is set to get much better. Most of the followers want to know the age of Bebika Dhurve. Keep reading to know about her.
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Family
Her family moved to Mumbai. When she’s working hard, her five sisters have always supported her. Her mother is a homemaker, and bebika dhurve father, Pandit Janardhan Dhurve, is a prominent Mumbai astrologer. Bebika demonstrates her affection for her family on social media.Career
In 2019, bebika dhurve made a big splash when she got her first job playing on the TV show Bhagya Lakshmi. Many people gave her praise for how well she played Devika Oberoi. Awards and honors showed how dedicated and talented she was. Being on the second season of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT in 2023 was the next big thing in Bebika Dhurve’s path in show business. She quickly became one of the most loved contestants on the show as people got excited about her. Bebika showed her toughness and charm by making it to the show’s end, where she came in third place.Bebika Dhurve Husband or Boyfriend
Are you curious to know, who bebika dhurve husband is? Bebika Dhurve is not married and is single. She is very dedicated to her playing job, so she hasn’t thought about getting married and having kids. The people in her family are critical of her and always back her in her work. Bebika said in an interview with TellyChakkar that she is not hurrying to get married. Her main goal is to focus on her work and reach her goals before she starts the process of having a family. She stressed the importance of finding a partner who understands and supports her work goals and busy schedule.Medical Career And Beauty Pageants
Bebika Dhurve‘s job is unique because she is talented and promising at many things and has worked in many fields. Her first job was as a dentist after getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery from the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru, Karnataka. On top of having a background in medicine, Bebika is also a qualified fellow of the American Academy of Implant Dentistry at Roseman University in the US. Putting away her clothes, Bebika chose to try something new in 2020: beauty pageants. Her college teacher pushed her into the world of beauty, which made her decide to do this. She entered The International Glamour Project Miss India pageant, which helped her learn more about new things.Bebika Dhurve in Bhagya Lakshmi
Bebika DhurveThe Indian actress bebika dhurve is well-known in the TV business thanks to her part in the famous show “Bhagya Lakshmi.” As the figure “Devika Oberoi,” Dhurve has captivated viewers with her unique screen image. Dhurve plays the “Devika Oberoi” role in the famous Hindi TV show “Bhagya Lakshmi.” In the serial, she showed how good an actress she is by being believable. Many people liked her performance because she could show strong emotions and make her character come to life. In her playing career, the part of “Devika Oberoi” has set a high bar.
Bebika Dhurve in Bigg Boss OTT
Do you know in which tv shows with bebika dhurve have worked? Bebika Dhurve made a significant impact as a contestant on Season 2 of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT. That made her stand out with her unique style and attitude, and she made it to the finals. She stood out in the Bigg Boss OTT 2 house because she was brave and didn’t hold back her views. Bebika Dhurve became well-known on Bigg Boss OTT for her angry rants and fights with other contestants. Even though things were tense, her fans never stopped supporting her. She talked about how she felt about favoritism in the game, especially how other players, like Elvish Yadav, Manisha Rani, and Abhishek Malhan, seemed to get special treatment. Her appearance on Bigg Boss brought attention to her fearless nature and strong opinions.Interesting Facts
- She is very skilled in many areas. She is an astrologer, a dentist, a model, and an actress.
- She loves visiting new places, even though she has already visited many countries and areas.
- She likes food a lot, especially fish.
- She was second at the Miss India 2020 pageant and reached the Top 15.
- She feels great about herself and goes to the audition even though she hasn’t done any acting training.
- Bebika Dhurve was a dentist while getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery at the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru.
- One of her college teachers urged her to participate in The International Glamour Project Miss India 2020.
- Bebika played Devika Oberoi in the 2021 Zed TV show Bhagya Lakshmi, but she quit because she didn’t get along with the other players.
- She was one of the contestants on Voot’s Bigg Boss OTT Season 2 (2023).
- Bebika likes to buy gold and diamonds, and she and her father both have expensive jewelry that she bought for them.
- She likes pulling jokes and wants one on Bollywood star Salman Khan.
- Bebika has a dog because she loves animals.
- She would rather watch films and videos than read books.
- Bebika loves drawing and gives the money she makes from selling her art to help people with Down syndrome.
Conclusion
By the end, bebika dhurve has shown herself a complex person with many skills and achievements. Her hard work, determination, and love for what she does have helped her succeed in many areas, inspiring others. Bebika Dhurve is an excellent example of greatness and drive because she keeps working towards her goals and making a difference in her community. Hopefully, you will know who is bebika dhurve.FamilyHer family moved to Mumbai. When she’s working hard, her five sisters have always supported her. Her mother is a homemaker, and bebika dhurve father, Pandit Janardhan Dhurve, is a prominent Mumbai astrologer. Bebika demonstrates her affection for her family on social media.
Career
In 2019, bebika dhurve made a big splash when she got her first job playing on the TV show Bhagya Lakshmi. Many people gave her praise for how well she played Devika Oberoi. Awards and honors showed how dedicated and talented she was. Being on the second season of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT in 2023 was the next big thing in Bebika Dhurve’s path in show business. She quickly became one of the most loved contestants on the show as people got excited about her. Bebika showed her toughness and charm by making it to the show’s end, where she came in third place.Bebika Dhurve Husband or Boyfriend
Are you curious to know, who bebika dhurve husband is? Bebika Dhurve is not married and is single. She is very dedicated to her playing job, so she hasn’t thought about getting married and having kids. The people in her family are critical of her and always back her in her work. Bebika said in an interview with TellyChakkar that she is not hurrying to get married. Her main goal is to focus on her work and reach her goals before she starts the process of having a family. She stressed the importance of finding a partner who understands and supports her work goals and busy schedule.Medical Career And Beauty Pageants
Bebika Dhurve‘s job is unique because she is talented and promising at many things and has worked in many fields. Her first job was as a dentist after getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery from the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru, Karnataka. On top of having a background in medicine, Bebika is also a qualified fellow of the American Academy of Implant Dentistry at Roseman University in the US. Putting away her clothes, Bebika chose to try something new in 2020: beauty pageants. Her college teacher pushed her into the world of beauty, which made her decide to do this. She entered The International Glamour Project Miss India pageant, which helped her learn more about new things.Bebika Dhurve in Bhagya Lakshmi
2024.05.15 09:17 pinkdragonliver Drilled holes in my phalanx
To make the tendon in my finger work again the doctor drilled holes in the bone to attach the tendon to. Does this count?
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2024.05.15 09:17 Sweet-Membership-265 Efficient Strategies for Handling and Transferring Large-Scale Point Cloud Datasets
In today's era of big data, managing and transferring large-scale point cloud datasets efficiently is crucial for various industries such as architecture, urban planning, environmental monitoring, and autonomous vehicles. Point cloud data, generated from LiDAR (Light Detection and Ranging) or photogrammetry, provides detailed 3D information about the environment, but its sheer size can pose significant challenges in storage, processing, and transfer. In this blog post, we'll explore some efficient strategies to tackle these challenges and optimize workflows for handling large-scale point cloud datasets.
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Understanding the Challenges:
- Data Size: Point cloud datasets can be massive, often ranging from gigabytes to terabytes in size, depending on the area and resolution of the scan.
- Storage Requirements: Storing large-scale point cloud data requires significant storage capacity, which can be costly and complex to manage.
- Data Transfer Speed: Transferring large datasets over networks can be time-consuming, especially when dealing with limited bandwidth or remote locations.
Efficient Strategies:.
Data Compression:
- Utilize lossless and lossy compression techniques to reduce the size of point cloud data without compromising its quality.
- Employ formats like LASzip or LAZ (LASzip-compressed LAS) for efficient storage and transmission.
Data Streaming:
- Implement streaming techniques to load and visualize point cloud data progressively, enabling users to work with datasets of any size without waiting for complete loading.
- Utilize streaming protocols like Portree, which dynamically loads data based on the user's viewpoint.
Cloud Storage and Computing:
- Leverage cloud storage solutions like Amazon S3, Google Cloud Storage, or Azure Blob Storage for scalable and cost-effective storage of large-scale point cloud datasets.
- Utilize cloud computing platforms like AWS Lambda or Google Cloud Functions for on-demand processing and analysis of point cloud data.
Data Chunking:
- Divide large point cloud datasets into smaller chunks or tiles, allowing for easier management, processing, and transmission.
- Implement spatial indexing techniques like octrees or k-d trees to efficiently organize and access chunks of data.
Differential Data Transfer:
- Utilize techniques like binary differentials or binary delta encoding to transfer only the changes or updates between versions of point cloud datasets, reducing bandwidth usage and transfer time.
Parallel Processing:
- Employ parallel processing techniques to distribute the workload across multiple computing resources, speeding up data processing and analysis tasks.
- Utilize parallel computing frameworks like Apache Spark or Dask for scalable and efficient processing of large-scale point cloud datasets.
Conclusion:
Handling and transferring large-scale point cloud datasets efficiently is essential for unlocking the full potential of 3D spatial data in various applications. By implementing strategies such as data compression, streaming, cloud storage, data chunking, and parallel processing, organizations can overcome the challenges associated with managing and transferring massive point cloud datasets. These efficient strategies not only optimize workflows but also enable faster insights and decision-making in industries reliant on 3D spatial data.2024.05.15 09:16 Exact-Anybody1734 My brother has turned into a pretentious jerk
Hi Reddit, so I’ll try to keep this as concise as possible while still giving you all the facts. Let us start from the beginning, my at the time 21 y.o. step-brother, was going through his first big break up. Instead of confiding in others or taking time to understand his emotions he instead picked up a book about the stages of love. Let me also explain that my brother has never been the smartest guy and mainly gets by on his good looks and charm in his life. Anyway this book gave the usual “love requires fighting to work it shows that you care about the other” you know stuff everyone already knows. I’m guessing because it came from a book ,or because it was plainly saying what he was too naive to understand about what he was feeling, he became infatuated with every line. Anytime I would have relationship problems he would quote the self help books he had read since and recommend me ones to read. This went on for while but eventually I finished nursing school and moved out of my family’s house (which is my mother’s house, this is important for later) to start working.
Now fast forward to four years later. I’m living on my own with my the love of my life, working the night shift in the hospital like I’ve always wanted. On my way home on night I called my mom to catch up on my drive home. We started talking and eventually I asked about my step-brother. She explained that he was still living at home and had no plans on getting a job or moving out (for context my brother graduated with a master’s degree a year ago). I found that odd and asked what he is doing now. My mom explained that he just makes music and does podcasts with his friends. He apparently says he wants to be an entrepreneur. Which is fine everyone wants to make it big doing what they love doing however. My mother also explained that he constantly invites people she doesn’t know to her house to hangout and when she gets off of work she comes home to strangers that expect her to cook for them. My mother then started tearing up saying “I don’t feel like it’s my house anymore”. That’s when I got upset. I asked her why doesn’t she kick him out or at least start asking for rent so he has to get a job. She explained that she wanted to do that but my step father wouldn’t allow it. My mother and step father have a wonderful marriage and never fight, but because my stepbrother is his son he has attachment to him. My mom recently had to kick her daughter (my blood related sister) into the camper as well since my step sister (19 y.o.) lets her boyfriend stay on weekends in what used to be the girls room. My mother keeps explaining that all of these situations are putting stress on their marriage and by kicking out her daughter she feels like she betrayed her just so my stepfather’s kids can get their way in her house.
After this phone call I was livid so I called my step brother to confront him. After asking the normal “hi how are you” I asked if he has started looking for a job and he said “why would I?”. I responded “so you can work and move out”. Then he said “im in my 20s this is the time you are supposed to chase your dreams” he then pointed out that I always wanted to be a YouTuber or streamer and I should go for it. I then said you know I have a job now and I have to give that job a lot of my time in order to afford the life I live. He basically laughed and explained that there is always enough time. Not much important was said after that.
Now fast forward a few weeks later I see posts from his Instagram talking about how “social media is poison, take back your life, put down your phone, etc.” (Crazy to post that on social media btw). I have also come across his podcast which are just him and his friend who both have the combined IQ of a beheaded chicken explain that the universe is big and has like billions of stars and stuff. 0.0 his entire personality now is saying basic facts at the surface level and then acting like it’s deep as fuck. Furthermore the constant insistence on following your passion mixed with the complete ineptitude of being able to comprehend how smug and pretentious he is during any interaction has breed some real distain from anyone who can see through his act.
All of these posts about self help combined with the complete ignorance of how his actions putting a negative effect on our family has really put a barrier between us. I really don’t think I can take it anymore and I want to either try to explain that he has become a pretentious douche who only keeps around yes men who all think a fact for 5th graders they learn at the zoo makes them better than everyone else, but I honestly think he will just say I don’t understand or maybe I should read this book about stress. I’ve went over the situation with friends of mine and they all laugh when they see his posts and hear him talk now. For God sake he held his 25th birthday party recently and said for everyone to bring a book to exchange knowledge to one another and wear business casual.
I just want my mom to feel like the home she worked tirelessly as a single mother all those years to afford for our family is hers. I have always been so close to my brother and I want him back as a friend. I want my sister to be able to live in the house she was raised in instead of in a camper.
Well that’s everything as of now left out a lot of stories about him being directly wrong about facts he tells us or times he got called out and embarrassed about shit but I think I’ll just leave it here. I plan on confronting him soon I just don’t know what to say. Thank you for your time.
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Now fast forward to four years later. I’m living on my own with my the love of my life, working the night shift in the hospital like I’ve always wanted. On my way home on night I called my mom to catch up on my drive home. We started talking and eventually I asked about my step-brother. She explained that he was still living at home and had no plans on getting a job or moving out (for context my brother graduated with a master’s degree a year ago). I found that odd and asked what he is doing now. My mom explained that he just makes music and does podcasts with his friends. He apparently says he wants to be an entrepreneur. Which is fine everyone wants to make it big doing what they love doing however. My mother also explained that he constantly invites people she doesn’t know to her house to hangout and when she gets off of work she comes home to strangers that expect her to cook for them. My mother then started tearing up saying “I don’t feel like it’s my house anymore”. That’s when I got upset. I asked her why doesn’t she kick him out or at least start asking for rent so he has to get a job. She explained that she wanted to do that but my step father wouldn’t allow it. My mother and step father have a wonderful marriage and never fight, but because my stepbrother is his son he has attachment to him. My mom recently had to kick her daughter (my blood related sister) into the camper as well since my step sister (19 y.o.) lets her boyfriend stay on weekends in what used to be the girls room. My mother keeps explaining that all of these situations are putting stress on their marriage and by kicking out her daughter she feels like she betrayed her just so my stepfather’s kids can get their way in her house.
After this phone call I was livid so I called my step brother to confront him. After asking the normal “hi how are you” I asked if he has started looking for a job and he said “why would I?”. I responded “so you can work and move out”. Then he said “im in my 20s this is the time you are supposed to chase your dreams” he then pointed out that I always wanted to be a YouTuber or streamer and I should go for it. I then said you know I have a job now and I have to give that job a lot of my time in order to afford the life I live. He basically laughed and explained that there is always enough time. Not much important was said after that.
Now fast forward a few weeks later I see posts from his Instagram talking about how “social media is poison, take back your life, put down your phone, etc.” (Crazy to post that on social media btw). I have also come across his podcast which are just him and his friend who both have the combined IQ of a beheaded chicken explain that the universe is big and has like billions of stars and stuff. 0.0 his entire personality now is saying basic facts at the surface level and then acting like it’s deep as fuck. Furthermore the constant insistence on following your passion mixed with the complete ineptitude of being able to comprehend how smug and pretentious he is during any interaction has breed some real distain from anyone who can see through his act.
All of these posts about self help combined with the complete ignorance of how his actions putting a negative effect on our family has really put a barrier between us. I really don’t think I can take it anymore and I want to either try to explain that he has become a pretentious douche who only keeps around yes men who all think a fact for 5th graders they learn at the zoo makes them better than everyone else, but I honestly think he will just say I don’t understand or maybe I should read this book about stress. I’ve went over the situation with friends of mine and they all laugh when they see his posts and hear him talk now. For God sake he held his 25th birthday party recently and said for everyone to bring a book to exchange knowledge to one another and wear business casual.
I just want my mom to feel like the home she worked tirelessly as a single mother all those years to afford for our family is hers. I have always been so close to my brother and I want him back as a friend. I want my sister to be able to live in the house she was raised in instead of in a camper.
Well that’s everything as of now left out a lot of stories about him being directly wrong about facts he tells us or times he got called out and embarrassed about shit but I think I’ll just leave it here. I plan on confronting him soon I just don’t know what to say. Thank you for your time.
2024.05.15 09:16 Jerry-And-Tom Never feeling alone in apartment
I live alone, in a converted 1880's victorian, on a private 2nd floor, located in suburban Philadelphia. My landlord was a sweet old woman that passed away just over 1 year ago. The family that owns the home, her daughter and immediate fam, have extended my lease to allow me to continue living here. Since she has passed, I have stopped social drinking entirely, cut back dramatically on my THC consumption, and have never used anything else. (Important for question.) My question is, why do I always feel that one room is always occupied by someone. It's a really ill-defined feeling, mainly that sense that you have when you know someone is in the next room over. Not by sound, scent, or seeing them, you just 'know' there is someone there. I could be in the bedroom, and feel that someone is in the living room. Walk in the entry downstairs, and "know" someone is in the kitchen. When sitting at my computer systems for work, the feeling someone is behind me is always intense. Don't get me wrong, this house makes noises, it's going on 140+ years old. But there is no weird noise, occurrences, or other things going on. Nothing moves, no flickering lights, no moaning and groaning, etc. I work from home, so, I am in all day and night, and, for the past year, I haven't felt alone, ever. I wake up in the middle of the night, either to start my shift, or eat, or something, and that feeling is there. I know/feel/sense someone. Does anyone else feel this 'feeling'? (Please no talk of someone is watching over me, I have a specteghoul/poltergeist/spirit.) That is NOT what I am looking for. I'm honestly asking if there is a reason, or even condition, be it physical or psychological that causes this feeling.
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2024.05.15 09:15 BackgroundReveal2949 Plausible deniability?
Last November (2022) I met a guy at a bar, everyone was dressed in very formal attire so it seemed to be some formal event they had been to and were post gaming. (I’m assuming a work related formal event where nobody was aware of his personal life. Or everyone does the same and minds their business.) He came up to me and told me I had a the most beautiful smile, I thought he was cute so we chatted for a while and eventually my friends wanted to go to a different bar so I got his number to let him know where I end up.
Fast forward like 20 min, he comes to join us at the next bar, which is more of a club vibe. He’s buying drinks, we’re in the photo booth making out, he’s telling me I should visit him in NYC, all the things, then I somehow end up going back to his hotel room with him. We did everything but have sex—he specifically said we cannot do that, he also kind of freaked out when he thought it had gone in but I reassured him I’d never in my life do that after he specifically said we cannot have sex…even tho he let anything else fly up to that point.
The next morning, right at the literal crack of dawn, he’s like …you have to go. Gets me an Uber, barely makes sure I’m home safe (some other man got in my Uber and he was telling me to just go in the other Uber), and goes ghost once I text that I’m home. At the time I knew it was something fishy going on because he went from really sweet, perfect gentleman the night before to ✌🏻 the next morning.
I recently saw something that reminded me of his existence and decided to do a search to see what he’s up to. He’s kinda high profile? Not celebrity or influencer but he has a very googleable name on top of seemingly very known in his field….tell me why I found the wedding registry…he’s getting married in June LOL
His fiancée is also very googleable, more influencer adjacent so public accounts and a decent amount of posts so I did a bit of stalking…she has several posts about “photos she used to soft launch her bf” and one of them was posted later November 2022?? Also found out they were engaged November 2023.
Could the “no sex” thing have been for plausible deniability?
There’s barely a month between me naked in his hotel room and her soft launch posts and the relationship is not accounted for in that time.
There was a bit of an age gap, I was 23 fresh out of college and he was 31 or something. I was naive and not hip to slimy grown man games, especially grown men that aren’t idiots/ugly/lame/poor and that’s the reason they’re going after 23 year olds.
The worst part of this is his fiancée is beautiful and so cool and everything I want to be and I cannot in good conscience follow her on TikTok smh
TLDR; guy I hooked up with but didn’t have sex with seems to have been in the beginning of a serious relationship but there’s no concrete evidence of overlap. I’m not planning on saying anything to anyone but could his assertion of no sex been for plausible deniability?
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Fast forward like 20 min, he comes to join us at the next bar, which is more of a club vibe. He’s buying drinks, we’re in the photo booth making out, he’s telling me I should visit him in NYC, all the things, then I somehow end up going back to his hotel room with him. We did everything but have sex—he specifically said we cannot do that, he also kind of freaked out when he thought it had gone in but I reassured him I’d never in my life do that after he specifically said we cannot have sex…even tho he let anything else fly up to that point.
The next morning, right at the literal crack of dawn, he’s like …you have to go. Gets me an Uber, barely makes sure I’m home safe (some other man got in my Uber and he was telling me to just go in the other Uber), and goes ghost once I text that I’m home. At the time I knew it was something fishy going on because he went from really sweet, perfect gentleman the night before to ✌🏻 the next morning.
I recently saw something that reminded me of his existence and decided to do a search to see what he’s up to. He’s kinda high profile? Not celebrity or influencer but he has a very googleable name on top of seemingly very known in his field….tell me why I found the wedding registry…he’s getting married in June LOL
His fiancée is also very googleable, more influencer adjacent so public accounts and a decent amount of posts so I did a bit of stalking…she has several posts about “photos she used to soft launch her bf” and one of them was posted later November 2022?? Also found out they were engaged November 2023.
Could the “no sex” thing have been for plausible deniability?
There’s barely a month between me naked in his hotel room and her soft launch posts and the relationship is not accounted for in that time.
There was a bit of an age gap, I was 23 fresh out of college and he was 31 or something. I was naive and not hip to slimy grown man games, especially grown men that aren’t idiots/ugly/lame/poor and that’s the reason they’re going after 23 year olds.
The worst part of this is his fiancée is beautiful and so cool and everything I want to be and I cannot in good conscience follow her on TikTok smh
TLDR; guy I hooked up with but didn’t have sex with seems to have been in the beginning of a serious relationship but there’s no concrete evidence of overlap. I’m not planning on saying anything to anyone but could his assertion of no sex been for plausible deniability?
2024.05.15 09:13 Timely-Worldliness-3 I just needed a little compromise
I know it was your first relationship. At 28, you had already been through so much, having been on your own for 13 years. You were forced to grow up too fast, and had to prioritize yourself, building a life from nothing. I get it. It was your fierce independence that made me fall for you in the first place.
I always knew that trying to build a life with you was going to be a struggle. I thought it would be worth it, for both of us. You deserve to have someone in your corner, that always has your back. You shouldn’t have to be alone. I don’t know if you believed the same.
I think I gave up too much of myself for you. Was that my mistake or yours? Did you really ask for too much, or did I give too freely without expectation for anything in return? Maybe both. Probably more on me. I’m not perfect by a long shot.
Compromise. It really does all come down to that. I tried to show you its importance, but in the process I ended up being the only one willing to do it. Me getting to pick what movie we watched or getting to plan a date became something I only got to do on special occasions. You said you felt like you didn’t know me, but so many times in so many ways I offered up little pieces of me to you. I share myself by sharing the things I love with the people I love. But more and more towards the end, all you’d say was “no”. Ignoring any context. Ignoring those pieces of me.
I know you don’t like movies about kids. I know asking to watch Home Alone during Christmas was a big ask. But it was a tradition that I shared with my dad, who I lost just over a year before. I know you think that traditions are pointless, but it was important to me. My earliest memories are of that. I needed to continue on, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone. I needed you there, your support. It was such a small gesture I was asking of you, but all I got was “no”. Instead we watched a movie you picked: Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. A movie made by the exact same people that made Home Alone, and with even more kids.
We wanted to go to Ireland. Personally I’ve been wanting to go for years, but couldn’t because of my dad’s illness along with everything else going on. You knew that in the last 3 years I lost all of my grandparents, two uncles, my dad. I couldn’t risk going so far away for so long while everyone was sick. My mom saw me giving up the latter half of my 20s for my family, when she was hoping I would be enjoying life and seeing the world. That’s why she was happy to give us the money to have the trip of our dreams. I explained all of this to you while you were struggling to find a way to save for the trip. All my mom wanted in return was a single nice photo of us. That wasn’t even a requirement for the money. She just wanted to see me with the person that I love making our dreams come true. I know you hate having your picture taken. The only attention your dad ever gave you was when he wanted to test a new camera. It’s a trauma trigger. But I was only asking for one picture. You’d compromise for your friends, you’d compromise for your sister. You’d take pictures with them. Why wouldn’t you compromise for your partner, and the other most important person in your partners life? After a year, we have 3 pictures together, none of which are very good. I know that I was asking for a lot, but I felt so less important than everyone else in your life. Maybe you felt that as your partner, I was to be held to a higher standard? I honestly don’t know. All you said was “no”.
You admitted yourself I was so supportive. I always prioritized you. From always making your tea before mine, to giving you the better looking plate at dinner, to planting all of your favorite flowers in my garden. I always complemented you, how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how driven and independent you are. Your friend needed a ride to a 5k and someone to cheer them on? I was there. You needed someone to drive you around while your car was in the shop for 2 months? No problem. Accidentally overdrew your account again, and you couldn’t afford the late fees? Here’s $50. Need to move on short notice? I’m the guy tearing apart and moving your furniture. You have a migraine so bad you can’t eat? I’m bringing you pedialyte and sleeping on your couch, even though I didn’t actually get any sleep. I learned all your rituals so not to trigger your OCD. There are countless other examples. I never said no. I never complained. You rarely said so much as “thank you”.
The big one. The thing that ended us. You’re right, we did sit down like adults time and time again and talked things out. You said you needed me to anticipate your needs. You’d get overwhelmed, and couldn’t articulate what you needed from me. You couldn’t stand being asked what you needed. You just needed me to start helping. “Mental loads” and all that. I took that to heart. But I’m not perfect. Sometimes I’d miss the mark. Tried to support you, but in the wrong way. Even in my failures I showed effort, but you never seemed to see that. You only focused on how I failed.
We recognized that this was a problem caused by both of us. The communication wasn’t getting through. But I had already adapted to your communication style as much as I could. My exited, rambling, almost impulsive way of generating ideas became slow, methodical, thoughtful. I put intention behind everything so not to overwhelm you. I learned not to jump at the obvious solution.
Yes, we sat down like adults and talked things over time and time again. You told me what you needed from me, but I also told you what I needed from you. If I was missing the mark, please just guide me to what you needed. I’m not a mind reader. I did it for you all the time. You were honestly awful at anticipating my needs too. If I was venting, had a bad day, all you’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. So I had to show you how I needed support. I just needed you to do the same for me. “No”. Again.
One final time, I sent you words of support when you were having a bad day. It wasn’t enough, you wanted more. A phone call? For me to come over so you could vent in person? Did you actually want me to directly help for once? I don’t know. You never told me. Instead of guiding me to what you needed, you immediately shut down. Full silent treatment. I’ve been in abusive relationships where the silent treatment was welded as a weapon. I know you didn’t mean it in an abusive way, you were just overwhelmed again. But I never expected it from you. I didn’t see it for what it was. I only ever asked one thing from you to save us. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I wasn’t even asking you to put in effort on my behalf, it was for your benefit. I begged you time and time again for help. To communicate. Not to put it all on me, because I couldn’t do it on my own. But instead, you did the opposite.
You said that you felt like you were putting more effort into the relationship than I was. I’m sorry, but I can’t see that effort. I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I can’t. Maybe you mean you put effort into forgiving me every time I messed up? Maybe you mean that you were always planning dates, always picking what we watched, where we went, what we ate, what we drank? Again, mental loads and such. But I had things that I wanted to do and share with you that you always turned down. You only had to plan everything after my plans were rejected. It would have been more efficient for you to show love, patience, and compromise. Maybe we would have worked out then.
But then you left.
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I always knew that trying to build a life with you was going to be a struggle. I thought it would be worth it, for both of us. You deserve to have someone in your corner, that always has your back. You shouldn’t have to be alone. I don’t know if you believed the same.
I think I gave up too much of myself for you. Was that my mistake or yours? Did you really ask for too much, or did I give too freely without expectation for anything in return? Maybe both. Probably more on me. I’m not perfect by a long shot.
Compromise. It really does all come down to that. I tried to show you its importance, but in the process I ended up being the only one willing to do it. Me getting to pick what movie we watched or getting to plan a date became something I only got to do on special occasions. You said you felt like you didn’t know me, but so many times in so many ways I offered up little pieces of me to you. I share myself by sharing the things I love with the people I love. But more and more towards the end, all you’d say was “no”. Ignoring any context. Ignoring those pieces of me.
I know you don’t like movies about kids. I know asking to watch Home Alone during Christmas was a big ask. But it was a tradition that I shared with my dad, who I lost just over a year before. I know you think that traditions are pointless, but it was important to me. My earliest memories are of that. I needed to continue on, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone. I needed you there, your support. It was such a small gesture I was asking of you, but all I got was “no”. Instead we watched a movie you picked: Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. A movie made by the exact same people that made Home Alone, and with even more kids.
We wanted to go to Ireland. Personally I’ve been wanting to go for years, but couldn’t because of my dad’s illness along with everything else going on. You knew that in the last 3 years I lost all of my grandparents, two uncles, my dad. I couldn’t risk going so far away for so long while everyone was sick. My mom saw me giving up the latter half of my 20s for my family, when she was hoping I would be enjoying life and seeing the world. That’s why she was happy to give us the money to have the trip of our dreams. I explained all of this to you while you were struggling to find a way to save for the trip. All my mom wanted in return was a single nice photo of us. That wasn’t even a requirement for the money. She just wanted to see me with the person that I love making our dreams come true. I know you hate having your picture taken. The only attention your dad ever gave you was when he wanted to test a new camera. It’s a trauma trigger. But I was only asking for one picture. You’d compromise for your friends, you’d compromise for your sister. You’d take pictures with them. Why wouldn’t you compromise for your partner, and the other most important person in your partners life? After a year, we have 3 pictures together, none of which are very good. I know that I was asking for a lot, but I felt so less important than everyone else in your life. Maybe you felt that as your partner, I was to be held to a higher standard? I honestly don’t know. All you said was “no”.
You admitted yourself I was so supportive. I always prioritized you. From always making your tea before mine, to giving you the better looking plate at dinner, to planting all of your favorite flowers in my garden. I always complemented you, how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how driven and independent you are. Your friend needed a ride to a 5k and someone to cheer them on? I was there. You needed someone to drive you around while your car was in the shop for 2 months? No problem. Accidentally overdrew your account again, and you couldn’t afford the late fees? Here’s $50. Need to move on short notice? I’m the guy tearing apart and moving your furniture. You have a migraine so bad you can’t eat? I’m bringing you pedialyte and sleeping on your couch, even though I didn’t actually get any sleep. I learned all your rituals so not to trigger your OCD. There are countless other examples. I never said no. I never complained. You rarely said so much as “thank you”.
The big one. The thing that ended us. You’re right, we did sit down like adults time and time again and talked things out. You said you needed me to anticipate your needs. You’d get overwhelmed, and couldn’t articulate what you needed from me. You couldn’t stand being asked what you needed. You just needed me to start helping. “Mental loads” and all that. I took that to heart. But I’m not perfect. Sometimes I’d miss the mark. Tried to support you, but in the wrong way. Even in my failures I showed effort, but you never seemed to see that. You only focused on how I failed.
We recognized that this was a problem caused by both of us. The communication wasn’t getting through. But I had already adapted to your communication style as much as I could. My exited, rambling, almost impulsive way of generating ideas became slow, methodical, thoughtful. I put intention behind everything so not to overwhelm you. I learned not to jump at the obvious solution.
Yes, we sat down like adults and talked things over time and time again. You told me what you needed from me, but I also told you what I needed from you. If I was missing the mark, please just guide me to what you needed. I’m not a mind reader. I did it for you all the time. You were honestly awful at anticipating my needs too. If I was venting, had a bad day, all you’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. So I had to show you how I needed support. I just needed you to do the same for me. “No”. Again.
One final time, I sent you words of support when you were having a bad day. It wasn’t enough, you wanted more. A phone call? For me to come over so you could vent in person? Did you actually want me to directly help for once? I don’t know. You never told me. Instead of guiding me to what you needed, you immediately shut down. Full silent treatment. I’ve been in abusive relationships where the silent treatment was welded as a weapon. I know you didn’t mean it in an abusive way, you were just overwhelmed again. But I never expected it from you. I didn’t see it for what it was. I only ever asked one thing from you to save us. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I wasn’t even asking you to put in effort on my behalf, it was for your benefit. I begged you time and time again for help. To communicate. Not to put it all on me, because I couldn’t do it on my own. But instead, you did the opposite.
You said that you felt like you were putting more effort into the relationship than I was. I’m sorry, but I can’t see that effort. I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I can’t. Maybe you mean you put effort into forgiving me every time I messed up? Maybe you mean that you were always planning dates, always picking what we watched, where we went, what we ate, what we drank? Again, mental loads and such. But I had things that I wanted to do and share with you that you always turned down. You only had to plan everything after my plans were rejected. It would have been more efficient for you to show love, patience, and compromise. Maybe we would have worked out then.
But then you left.