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Agoraphobes unite!

2011.10.17 08:14 Sara_Sorta Agoraphobes unite!

This is a community of people who are affected by, supportive of, or interested in learning more about what it is like to live with Agoraphobia. Everyone's experience is different, but we all share the struggles and successes.
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2014.06.18 20:38 Ewoknophobia University of Utah IT Professionals

This subreddit has been decommissioned and is no longer used or monitored.
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2009.04.15 01:22 satx Bisexual

This group is for discussion and support for those who fall in between, for the "shades of gay" in what is often assumed to be one or the other: * bisexuals * pansexuals * omnisexuals * queers * non-straight individuals ... or anyone who doesn't quite fit the otherwise binary "straight" and "gay" pattern. If you can't work out if you're straight, gay, or anywhere in between... you should probably visit us.
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2024.05.14 01:39 ThirteenBlackCandles The current game design makes me wary of allied faction members

This has come up a bit in other posts and in my own playgroup. I figure it's worth a little discussion. I always remember a quote from a Game Design Conference video I watched - "Players are excellent at identifying problems, and horrible at coming up with solutions for them" - so I'll be light on the suggestions, because they're probably ass šŸ˜‰
Why do I want fellow faction teammates around?
There are some obvious positive aspects.
When I start to think of the negatives, and how my group has responded to having "blueberries" nearby in game...
I think going forward, once we get past the initial launch punch list, looking at ways to make your faction mean more would be awesome. We should want to work together, ally up, and not have to feel like we're putting one another out by accidentally taking their kills, etc.
There will always be a risk of blue on blue, but the benefits of allies should outweigh the negatives, and currently, the negatives tend to be much more severe whereas the positives are nice, but not necessary when it comes with a chance of death/being looted.
My few suggestions...
That's all. Loving the game, nearly ~70 hours in so far, but the reality is, I'd largely be just as happy playing with just my squad on the side of my faction. I've had some great interactions with faction members, but the negative ones end up being the ones you remember more easily, and the ones that tend to waste the most of your playtime. Got any ideas to make being on a faction more fun, meaningful, and rewarding for everybody?
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2024.05.14 01:38 No_Association520 Signed Contract for Next Year, Was Board Approved, Just Got Phone Call My Position is Being Eliminated

Title. Iā€™m looking for advice, Iā€™m a teacher in NJ and I was due to be tenured on Sept. 1st next year. I got my contract in the mail a few weeks ago, I signed it and was board approved in the meeting last month.
Today I get a phone call my position is being eliminated due to a reduction in staff. Even though there are newer younger teachers who were hired way after me and are being kept for the same positions.
Is this legal even though it was board approved on their end? Is it even worth a fight?
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2024.05.14 01:38 dknus14 Sticker help... payment?

I'm a cricut access member, I am making a poster board for my son's YouTube themed birthday. It's easier for me (or so I thought) to type a text out, offset and do a print then cut on sticker paper. The first one worked fine. Now I'm doing the same thing and running into this issue.
When I go to make it it says unable to process payment. Of course I went back and saw my membership was still active. A working credit card on file and I even added a backup card to see if maybe thats the issue. Spoiler alert- it wasn't.
I then tried to use the create sticker button and reformed them all through the create sticker on access and I'm still getting the same message. How come it worked for the first and not the rest.
Someone please help!
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2024.05.14 01:36 SnooEpiphanies6173 Fan Made Idea for a potential J&L gang/crew

Fan Made Idea for a potential J&L gang/crew
I want the game to have some sort of empire building and want to feel like a kingpin. But I always felt like they would need some type of organization or crew of their own instead of working under someone else.
This is actually inspired by The Burrow Gang which is a gang that was started by Clyde of the infamous Bonnie and Clyde couple. I see it as perfect maybe J&L start this group to get help from other criminals in Leonida and in the end form some what of a family aspect I suppose. I could see it going like this:
End of chapter 1 Leonida Riders is formed with its original members being Jason, Lucia, and a couple of friends that you met along the way in ch1
Chapter 2 introduces you to the other gangs and has you work with some and eliminate some.
Chapter 3 is where J&L meet the connection that grants them all their major success. From this point The L.R have now expanded into the deep drug trade.
By Chapter 4 J&L have gained popularity and a following. Some look to them as inspiration because of their rags to riches background. But with all of this the DOA is watching aswell tracing behind trying to catch the L.R and their suppliers.
Thatā€™s all for now Leonida Riders might not be the best name but either but I couldnā€™t think of a good enough name that included romantic elements while also sounding like a group of people at the same time.
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2024.05.14 01:34 Namii101 I donā€™t wanna be a stupid introvert anymorešŸ˜­

Hi, Iā€™m an 18 year old guy.
I have 9 brothers and 2 sisters, in which I am the middle child. Either too young or too old to be hanging with my other siblings. So, Iā€™ve learnt from a young age how to enjoy my own company - that had consequences. All my siblings are very much extroverted; they go out a lot, meet new people a lot, and I asked them what they do to recharge and ALL of them said something along the lines of ā€œgoing out with people and having funā€.
For me, Iā€™m the complete opposite where in order for me to recharge I have to watch a movie, go for a walk by myself w music, read a book, or play games. But nowā€¦ itā€™s not working.
Itā€™s my first year of uni in a new state (I moved in the beginning of the year), and when people said ā€œuni changes youā€, I did not think it would happen to me but it did.
I crave going out with people now. And what solidified this was actually going out with my mates.
My mates I met at uni invite me out a lot, and I do go often; but sometimes I just feel a sense ofā€¦ guilt? Guilt for my old self, the one that would be to himself but had a lot of friends. Back where I use to stay, I had a lot of friends from a range of ages and they call to check up on me a lot of the time. I tell them I went out, and had fun - like going ice skating, festivals, painting classes, studying, LOLL WE WENT AURORA FINDING THIS WEEKšŸ’€ - and they would tell me that Iā€™m growing and changing.
Is it normal for someone to be introverted at one point, and change quite abit?
(Sorry if this doesnā€™t make sense haha Iā€™m trying my bestšŸ˜­)
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2024.05.14 01:34 Sea-Fix8710 Overthinking everything, drained, and finally losing hope.

Hi, Iā€™m 18(f) who just broke up with 19(m) couple days ago. Heā€™s the greenest flag guy that I know, the sweetest, and he have every personality that I wanted. Iā€™ve never had any arguments about other girls as he always reassured me and he said that I am his first gf. We then introduced each other to both of our parentā€™s side, we have a different race btw, but it didnā€™t bother us to express our love for almost 2 years. The challenges are my gut feelings that his parents doesnā€™t like me as soon as he introduced me to them because of my race and I think that his mom need an academic validation from me just because her son is an overachiever in school and her occupation has something to do in school. Iā€™m also insecured from the fact that I compared my parentā€™s job to his parents but we had a discussion that his parents just wanted to know me but they only invited me once which is his grad. As I grew up from my culture, ofc I will wait/expect for a direct invite coming from his parents mouth to me instead of him asking me to go in his house for a random friday or whatever the day is to have a dinner with his fam. AITA for rejecting him and have a dinner in their house even if Iā€™m not invited? I mean what if the food portion is just exact for them and his fam is not expecting a plus one? My mom is an immigrant and my stepdad is from this country but they are both traditional to give me a curfew until 10 PM. They never allow me to go out of town with him for over 5hrs long drive or to have an overnight in his house before, even if his parents or siblings are home and thatā€™s what my ex doesnā€™t like about my side. We broke up because he said that we have different perspectives in relationship but he isnā€™t even aware that I chose to be with him over my religion, because my religion prohibits everyone to be in a relationship with a non-member.
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2024.05.14 01:34 thecordova Union President attempted to silence dissent

I am a member of my Union's Local Executive Board. I am the Local Secretary-Treasurer. We recently concluded a successful contract renegotiation in which I wrote most of the revisions and I was the primary negotiator on our bargaining team. I presented our proposals to the company and I was largely responsible for organizing our bargaining committee prior to negotiations.
Our president is inexperienced and indicated to me last year that he didn't really know what he was doing and that he didn't have any intention to change our CBA much during negotiations, even though most of the membership was unhappy with many of the terms. Due to his inaction and overall laziness, the rest of the Executive Board was forced to work around him. He contributed very little to our bargaining team and nothing he brought to the table ended up in final agreement.
Following the ratification of our new contract, he attempted to secure an additional pay increase for his personal friend, who is a union member and had falsified some training records/ statements in order to argue for this additional pay. The rest of the Executive Board and I drew attention to this and asked the President to cease his unethical behavior. He stated that his behavior was not unethical and then mandated a directive to the membership stating that the Executive Board is not allowed to speak to union members about union issues and will be charged/removed from their positions if caught doing so.
This directive contradicts with our bylaws, which state that the Executive Board shall take action and make decisions on behalf of the membership. He stated verbally to a Steward that the directive was mainly intended to silence me. There have been multiple instances where has been upset with me due to union members asking me questions about our CBA or just talking about labor issues in general instead of going to him. He was also upset with me for drawing attention to his corrupt behavior. He has made numerous comments about feeling "upstaged" by members of the Executive Board and I've told him that if he knew how to do his job and represent the membership effectively, this would not be an issue.
I contacted our staff legal representative at our union's national headquarters and he stated that the directive was in violation of federal law, but he didn't specify what law(s). He contacted the President and told him to rescind the directive and he complied. Does anyone have an idea of what federal law(s) would have been violated by this directive?
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2024.05.14 01:33 Mission_Raisin2970 Am I the drama?

This probably belongs on AITA but I only want commentary from black LGBT.
AITA for asking my partner why she thought it was a good idea to invite her homophobic sister to stay at our house ?
I (33, F) have been with my partner Leah (F, 33) for 4 years. She told me early on her family is homophobic and not accepting. Her mother is the only family member to explicitly tell her keep ā€œitā€ away from her and she doesnā€™t want to see ā€œitā€. These are her words not mine. Leahā€™s father and her two older sisters (ages 38 and 43) have never told her that directly but they have scolded my partner for upsetting their mother when her sexuality has been discussed. Leah has also told me that all members of her family are homophobic and say homophobic things.
I donā€™t have a relationship with her family. I am not invited to her parentsā€™ nor her sistersā€™ houses. Leah speaks to her family members throughout the day on the phone or FaceTime mainly to talk to her niece and nephews. When her family is on the phone, we donā€™t speak to each other. There have been a few instances where I will tell Leah to tell them I say hello and they say a dry hello back but itā€™s obviously because they arenā€™t trying to be rude.
Leah has asked her sister, Erica (age 38), if I could ever come down with her when she goes to visit her niece and nephew and Erica said no because she doesnā€™t want to upset their mother (no, their mother does not live with Erica). Apparently, their mother helps with the kids from time to time and Erica doesnā€™t want to risk messing up her relationship with their mother and lose being able to drop the kids with her.
My partner and I lived in an apartment together for the first 3 years of our relationship and she recently purchased a house, which we moved into a few months ago. A month after moving in, my partner mentions that Erica told her she will be coming to visit with her husband and kids (age 1 and 5) to visit in 3 weeks. I assumed that since Erica has young kids and because Leah and Iā€™s relationship isnā€™t accepted she would be staying at a hotel or Airbnb. A few days go by and I ask Leah where Erica is staying, a hotel or an AirBnB? Leah says ā€œNo, they are staying here.ā€ I reply, ā€œ Here??ā€ And sheā€™s says ā€œ Yeah, I havenā€™t asked her yet but itā€™s my family so itā€™s pretty much assumed they would stay here .ā€
Ummmm is it ????
Let me make it clear that I had no issue with Erica staying with us. Granted, it may be awkward but I would of course try to be cordial and make them all feel welcome because itā€™s her family. My issue is with Leah. I told her that Iā€™m confused about why she thought it would be a good idea for them to stay at the house knowing we donā€™t have a relationship, barely speak and I have been explicitly told I canā€™t stay at Ericaā€™s house. Most importantly, I asked her why she just assumed they would stay with us without talking to me about it to see how I feel. Petty me also wanted to know how is her sister welcome in our house but Iā€™m not in her house? Leah now says Iā€™m not being supportive of her and Iā€™m making it about me and how I feel and that Iā€™ll never understand because my parents are accepting.
I know I will never fully understand what my partner feels with her family not being accepting. I want to be supportive and be a safe space for her. Iā€™m trying to navigate between that and setting boundaries for myself. Is it me ? Am I the drama??
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2024.05.14 01:33 Responsible-Bad-2024 Seeking Advice on Filing Secondary Claims and Potential Reopening of PTSD Claim

Hey everyone,
Iā€™m seeking some guidance regarding my VA disability benefits and the possibility of filing secondary claims.
I discussed my drug addiction with the C&P examiner, and it was included in my claim. But, I just filed for PTSD, anxiety and MDD. However, drug addiction or MUD was not listed among the issues the VA used to determine my percentage. Iā€™m concerned that filing a claim for marijuana use disorder and/or drug addiction might reopen my PTSD claim. I'm assuming it's too late for that.
I received a 70% disability rating for PTSD, I also suffer from several secondary conditions that I believe are related to my PTSD. Specifically, I am looking to file claims for the following conditions:
  1. Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GERD)
  2. Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
  3. Heart arrhythmia - related to drug use, stress
My primary care physician is aware of my GERD and IBS and is willing to provide a nexus letter to support these claims. Additionally, my cardiologist is prepared to provide a nexus letter for my heart arrhythmia. Both doctors are also aware of my marijuana use and previous heavy drug use, crack and cocaine.
I would like to understand the risks involved in this process and whether it is advisable to proceed with these claims.
Could anyone provide advice on the following? 1. The potential impact of reopening my PTSD claim when adding new secondary claims. 2. The best approach to filing these secondary claims without jeopardizing my current 70% PTSD rating. 3. Any specific documentation or evidence I should prepare to strengthen my secondary claims.
Iā€™m scheduled to meet with my primary care physician next week, and I want to ensure I have everything in order beforehand.
Any insights or experiences shared would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance!
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2024.05.14 01:30 LazerBeetleInMyShoe Type Me Based on My Answers to the Proust Questionnaire

I only answered like 2/3 of the questions btw.
  1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?
    1. Being surrounded by the people/animals I care about. Bonus points if it's in a private outdoor area, cause I love being in nature.
  2. What is your greatest fear?
    1. Losing the people that I care about. A secondary one would be not being able to overcome the trauma my parents caused me and becoming like them.
  3. What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
    1. My temper or selfishness at times. But also, I have learned I have a tendency to be very hard on myself at times, so idk if the latter one is accurate or something I think I am because I suck at drawing boundaries with others and then feel selfish when I do.
  4. What is the trait you most deplore in others?
    1. Knowingly using or stepping on others for your personal gain, especially when there are other options available (ex. knowing your actions are going to hurt other people, animals, the environment, etc. and still choosing to move forward despite it). Also, disregarding other peopleā€™s emotions/boundaries.
  5. Which living person do you most admire?
    1. I donā€™t have an answer to this. I donā€™t really like to put people on a pedestal because humans are fallible and can burn you. Traits that I admire in others though are high empathy, chillness, good sense of humor, loyalty, consistency, open mindedness.
  6. What is your greatest extravagance?
    1. Not having a fixed budget when I travel (outside of hotel/airfare). Other than that I donā€™t consider myself to be an extravagant person - I save and spend money responsibly so when I do want to splurge, I have the ability to do so.
  7. What is your current state of mind?
    1. Self-growth - I'm working on trying to overcome the wounds my parents gave me during my childhood and figure out which of my traits are me vs coping mechanisms to the environment I grew up in.
  8. What do you consider the most overrated virtue
    1. Using a list of Aristotleā€™s virtues (cause I needed a list to come up with ideas) - righteous indignation. Imo, stewing in anger most always only leads to more pain and I feel like righteous indignation is often used by a lot of people as justifications to hurt another person which just creates a cycle of hurt. I wouldn't say all righteous anger is bad though, but it is when it's used to punish/hurt others rather than try to change the situation for the better or come to a mutual understanding.
  9. On what occasion do you lie?
    1. When the details themselves donā€™t matter and will require more explaining than they're worth. Or any event that triggers fawning tendencies and I feel like my actual reasoning isnā€™t an acceptable enough one, so I end up stretching the truth to come up with something that'll seem more ā€œvalidā€ (ex. if someone invites me to do something I donā€™t want to do, Iā€™ll just lie about having something else going on so I donā€™t hurt their feelings by telling them the truth).
  10. What is the quality you most like in a man/woman?
    1. Loyalty or protectiveness.
  11. Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
    1. ā€˜Interestingā€™ in response to things or ā€˜fuckā€™ when anything mildly inconvenient happens (I swear a lot when Iā€™m alone, but Iā€™m good at censoring myself when others are around).
  12. What or who is the greatest love of your life?
    1. At the moment, probably my dog since my ā€˜peopleā€™ issues donā€™t extend to her and I can see how much she implicitly trusts and loves me which I see as a reflection of the love/care I extend to her. Also, weā€™re lowkey codependent af and Iā€™d fight anyone to protect her.
  13. When and where were you happiest?
    1. Iā€™m not sure I can come up with a specific ā€˜whenā€™ but most of my fondest memories are all with my closest friends/family members (my pup included) and us just doing random unplanned small stuff.
  14. Which talent would you most like to have?
    1. Learning new languages quickly and retaining them with ease. Otherwise painting or pottery would be cool too.
  15. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
    1. My relationship with my emotions/self and how I react to things, but this is again tied to childhood trauma rather than cognition and Iā€™m currently in the process of working on it.
  16. What do you consider your greatest achievement?
    1. Not sure, but probably how quickly I get promoted in most of my jobs. I donā€™t even consider myself to be that hard of a worker, but most every job Iā€™ve ever had has promoted me quickly and/or told me theyā€™re trying to train me to eventually be put into leadership positions.
  17. If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
    1. If weā€™re talking real life, then probably a panda in one of those panda sanctuaries in China where they donā€™t have to worry about predators, finding their own food, or anything really. If weā€™re talking fantasy worlds, then a witch or fantasy protagonist would be cool (think TVD type of witch where youā€™re a normal person who has earth magic, not one where I have to sell my soul to the devil or anything like that).
  18. Where would you most like to live?
    1. I have a few different places Iā€™d like to live - one would be in the temperate rainforests of the PNW/BC and another would be to retire along the coast of Maine in a lighthouse.
  19. What is your most treasured possession?
    1. I donā€™t consider her a possession, but my most treasured ā€˜thingā€™ right now is my dog. In terms of things that I own, idk. I have stuff that I like and feel sentimental towards, but I donā€™t really get attached to objects the way that I think ā€˜treasuredā€™ is being used here.
  20. What is your favorite occupation?
    1. My favorite job Iā€™ve ever worked was as a volunteer ā€˜cat cuddlerā€™ at an animal shelter. My favorite job that Iā€™ve never worked but I think would be fun would probably be as a park ranger.
  21. What do you most value in your friends?
    1. Idk if I can distill it down to one single thing, but generally theyā€™re good listeners, very easy going, always down whatever whether that be adventure or chill hangouts, and have good senses of humor
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2024.05.14 01:30 AutoModerator ANNOUNCEMENT - AVOID BEING SCAMMED

* READ TO LEARN HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM SCAMMERS! THIS MESSAGE WILL REPEAT EVERY 12 HOURS \*
As the sub grows, so does it's exposure to scammers. As mods, we do our best to protect the sub, but need y'all's help as well. We are a community. We do not like reading modmails when our fellow members get scammed, but do know that most could have been prevented given they follow the tips we've laid out. Below are these tips on how to stay protected:
How to message the mods - https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/fragranceswap
Banned and sketchy users - https://www.reddit.com/fragranceswap/wiki/banned
* Always use PayPal/Venmo G&S when buying from someone with under 15 flair on the sub. A scammer will give a BS reason why they can't accept G&S. Anyone with under 15 flair MUST accept G&S as a form of payment according to the rules of the sub. This rule is non-negotiable. If they will not, please report them to the mods.
* Ask a potential seller to comment on your post. This proves that they are not banned from the sub. That doesn't always mean they are a scammer though. It could just mean that they do not meet the sub requirements to become an approved member. They still need to accept G&S though. Check the banned list and vet the seller through their profile.
* Ask for specific timestamped pictures. A "timestamp" is a picture a seller takes with a handwritten note including their username and date next to the item they are selling. Ask for this with "odd" requests such as a picture of the bottle on its side or with the cap off, etc. If they are not willing to provide that then avoid the transaction and report them to the mods. Scammers are becoming crafty and often try and photoshop the timestamp in with a picture they found on google. Be aware and inspect timestamps closely for evidence of photoshopping. Look for blurred edges of paper, shadows not matching up with others in the picture, etc. If you are in doubt, don't hesitate to contact us with the picture.
* "Sellers" who start the conversation off with "WTS (insert frag you're looking for)" are 99.99% most likely a scammer. Scammers will always give you a great deal, or ask you to name your price. Any "seller" who is willing to accept half payment upfront then the other half after delivery to avoid using G&S is most likely a scammer. If it seems to good to be true or fishy, it most likely is.
Please do your due diligence, folks. If you're ever in doubt, reach out to us. Stay safe!
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2024.05.14 01:30 ckay333 Worried I am making a bad impression for a role

So I am in the interview stages at a company I'm really excited to work for and I have been having issues with the scheduling software they use to invite candidates to set up a time/date.
I made the hiring manager aware of this for my first round and they were able to manually put me in and send me the meeting invite however we're at the third round now and they sent me an interview invite last Thursday and I told them again the same day that the portal wont let me go through with confirming the date/time I selected (or any day/time they have available). After following up with providing them the time and day I am interested in scheduling for, they told me they are in contact with their IT department to figure out the issue (this was on Friday of last week). And now today is Monday and I followed up again and they said the same thing, except they also stated they can't confirm the schedule date/time I requested for (it was on the calendar from the link they sent and it still shows as available too) to see if they could at least manually send me an invite link/schedule me.
The interview is for this week and I wanted to have something concrete on my calendar for it so I don't spend time practicing for nothing, but now I'm nervous I'm making a bad impression and will get rejected right after since this has been more complicated than need be. I've been extremely polite and understanding but I can see how the constant back-and-forth emails and candidate follow ups can be nerve-racking.
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2024.05.14 01:28 simplyshine21 I always thought I was introverted and an INFJ, till I retoke a test and found out I was an ESFP and all friends/family agreed on it..someone elaborate please.

Okay so, I always get put down by a specific family member for not having "enough friends" at my current age and choosing not to maintain a big "friend" circle anymore because it got mundane and there is just too much baggage comes with it as you get older, you need new people in your life., like their offspring does (big age difference between them), so it kind of caused me doubts within myself. I tend to view friendships as something attainable and sustainable for years. In short, isn't just superficial bond based on opportunities and solely entertainment, my perception of having a big group friends is, that most of them aren't actually genuine real friends but acquaintances, i have tendency to get bored with big groups and try to find another people to estabilish a connection with. And growing up, I had a very big group of friends that I made when I was younger, and keep in touch with, but not as I used to in mean time. Okay, growing up I was more of the class clown type, lived for the entertainment and thrill of trying something new, very outspoken too and tell people most of them time how i actually feel, i still do till this day, and where im from its very difficult to meet a person that would want to participate in activities i want to engage in..now..do you all fellow ESFPS feel the same way to an extent or have same perception of what a friend is?
Do I classify as an ESFP? When I asked family and friends they all agreed and said it's because we base it off memories we had of you but I wanna see fellow esfp opinions on what being an esfp is.
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2024.05.14 01:28 DueIndependence5527 I think my husband is ashamed of me

My husband (M, 32) and I (F, 32) have been together for 10 years.
We eloped and didnā€™t invite any family to our wedding. We told them all after the fact, but it was just a casual ā€œyeah, we got married.ā€ No celebration. No party afterward. No social media announcement. Nothing. His excuse was that he doesnā€™t like several members of his family and to avoid it being awkward he rather just elope. Honestly, it didnā€™t really bother me much at the time because sheā€™s my family is spread out and I also donā€™t really like being the center of attention anyway. I let myself think the spontaneity of it all and being just the two of us was fun and romantic. We donā€™t even have any photos of our wedding day.
Then when I got pregnant with our first baby, my husband wouldnā€™t tell anyone. He didnā€™t want me to tell anyone for months either, but he never really gave me a real reason. I was 5 months along and at the point where I wouldnā€™t be able to hide it for much longer when he texted his parents to tell them and asked them to tell everyone else.
I know his parents sort of wanted all of their kids to marry people for successful families, from the same world theyā€™re from. Theyā€™re not one percenters or anything like that, but theyā€™re from the ā€œright side of townā€ you know? Theyā€™re from a certain segment of people in our city. I am not. My family lives in the poor area of town, although theyā€™re hard workers and are educated (well, some of my extended family are essentially uneducated, unmotivated hillbillies, but my immediate family and my grandparents are not).
I went to college, but I got a useless degree. I didnā€™t know any better at the time. So Iā€™m not rolling in money. I have an important job, but itā€™s very low paying. I donā€™t think Iā€™m trashy or embarrassing or anything like that. I always thought I was physically cute, pretty. People used to tell me I was. Now, I feel like I must be ugly. I wonder if I always had a warped sense of self and am actually way less attractive than I thought I was.
Anyway, I donā€™t know if any of that is why my husband acts the way he does or what.
I feel like he wants to just sort of hide me away. He also never posts about me on social media. I donā€™t really care too much about social media, but I think itā€™s weird that heā€™s on Facebook and Instagram and never posts any photos of me or mentions of me ever, and we share children together!
He hates PDA, and thatā€™s not a big deal because a lot of people hate that. But heā€™s uncomfortable even holding hands. One time he held my hand all weekend long and I remember feeling so happy - of course, we were on vacation on the opposite side of the country where nobody knew us. Coincidence, or no?
Trying to get some outside perspective. Does anyone else think his behavior is strange. Heā€™s always been like this with me.
tl;dr: I think my husband is embarrassed by me and am looking for some outside perspective on whether his behavior suggests that or something else.
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2024.05.14 01:26 JohannGoethe Nah, don't flatter yourself. You aren't known in Russia

Nah, don't flatter yourself. You aren't known in Russia
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Nah, don't flatter yourself. You aren't known in Russia.
See the following:
You will see that Iā€™m cited in about a dozen or more Russian articles, beginning in A51 (2006).
Anyway, it is not ā€œmyselfā€, e.g. you will see that my legal name is reverse anagram for Bill Smith, aka ā€œAmerican John Doeā€, which means ā€œanonymousā€, that I am concerned about, rather, I thought or envisioned that people in Russia were debating the HumanMolecule or HumanChemistry views possibly form some manuscript I written or given to Georgi Gladyshev?
The following script dialogue, written by Andrew Walker, key terms bolded, exemplifies the situation well:
  • Somerset: Who are you, John? Who are you really?
  • John Doe: What do you mean?
  • Somerset: Well, I mean, at this stage, what harm can it do to tell us a bit about yourself?
  • John Doe: Doesn't matter who I am. Who I am means absolutely nothing. (conversationally) You need to stay on your left up here.
This ā€œwho I am means nothingā€ resonates with me well.
  • Mills: So where are we heading?
  • John Doe: You'll see.
  • Mills: We're not just going to pick up two more dead bodies, are we, John? That wouldn't be shocking enough. You've got newspapers to think about, yeah?
  • John Doe: Wanting people to listen...you can't just...tap them on the shoulder anymore. You have to hit them with a sledgehammer. Then you'll notice you've got their strict attention.
  • Mills: But the question is: what makes you so special that people should listen?
  • John Doe: I'm not special. I've never been exceptional. This is, though. What I'm doing. My work.
This is the key section. The ā€œworkā€ that is being done is exceptional, not me. ā€œWhen a force moves a body through a unit distance, work is doneā€ (Clausius, On the Mechanical Theory of Heat (pg. 1), 76A (1879) English translation by Water Browne). To understand this, which Iā€˜m sure you wonā€™t, you have to understand that the force that moves us to do or perform work, comes from ā€œbehind usā€, the same way it does for chemicals in a heated ā˜€ļø chemistry šŸ§Ŗ beaker. All of this was explained in JohannGoetheā€™s novel ElectiveAffinities.
Once I had read this novel, in A51 (2006), after I had already calculated the 26-element formula (A47/2002) for HumanMolecule, presently cited at Harvardā€™s BioNumbers here (standard) and here (empirical), and drafted a 3-volume Human Thermodynamics ā€œmanuscriptā€, I decided or rather could ā€œfeelā€ that it was my duty to Goethe to write the worldā€™s fist HumanChemistry textbook, published in A52 (2007).
Now, to clarify, having already noted that Goethe said the following: ā€œnot many kinds words were vouchsafed me about that [ ElectiveAffinities, 146A/1809] novelā€ on 18 Jan 127A (1827), 18ā€“years after his novel was published, at the age of 78, I very clearly realized that I was writing to or rather ā€œfor the futureā€, and tried to write āœļø each page of Human Chemistry to be readable to minds existive a 1,000-years from now. Compare: TheParty.
  • Somerset: Your work, John?
  • John Doe: Yes.
  • Mills: See, I...I don't...I don't see anything special about it, John.
  • John Doe: That's not true.
  • Mills: No, it is true. And the funny thing is, all this work...two months from now, no one's gonna care, no one's gonna give a shit. No one's gonna remember.
This one resonates also well with me. Iā€™m sure that if you were speaking freely, you would tell me the same thing, such as: ā€œno one gives a shit about your human molecule, human chemistry, or HumanChemThermo theories in Russia!ā€
Certainly this may very well be true, particularly for russian language sub members, who likely have never stepped foot in a science classroom.
The point, however, is that the ā€œworkā€ Goethe did, in writing āœļø ElectiveAffinities (146A/1809), and the ā€œworkā€ I did in writing the 818-page two-volume āœļø Human Chemistry (A52/2007), and the ā€œworkā€ that American chemical engineer William Fairburn did in writing his 55-page booklet Human Chemistry (41A/1914), which discusses the ā€œentropyā€ of reactive ā€œhuman chemical elementsā€, aka person = HumanMolecule, and the ā€œworkā€ that Kevin Walker did in writing āœļø the novel turned film) Seven (A40/1995), with which we are now employing in conversation, is something that is ā€œconservedā€ in the universe, according to Clausius.
This ā€œconservationā€ of work, however, is something that Iā€™m sure you will never understand, because your mindset is predisposed to defining me as ā€œrude and entitledā€œ and I guess a nobody in Russia?
Yet if we compare the same question, about letter origin, asked in the previous 5-days, at the following three language subs: learn_arabic, German, Syriac, visually summarized here, we will see that I we have very polite and respectful dialogue.
The problem with your Russian sub, presumably, is that because my photo was shown in the article along side of: Euler, Poincare, Willard Gibbs, Nikolay Bogolyubov (ŠŠøŠŗŠ¾Š»Š°ĢŠ¹ Š‘Š¾Š³Š¾Š»ŃŽĢŠ±Š¾Š²), Lars Onsager, Euler, Sadi Carnot, and Clausius, it set the mood off wrong, resulting in everyone attacking me?
  • John Doe: You can't see the whole complete act yet. But when this is done... when it's finished...it's gonna be... People will barely be able to comprehend. But they won't be able to deny.
  • Mills: Could the freak be any more vague? I mean, as far as master plans go, John--
Iā€˜m sure you will like to call me a freak too? But as to ā€œyou canā€™t see the whole complete act yetā€, this is the situation with the typical person. That most people, aside from a great minds like HenryAdams, cannot ā€œseeā€ šŸ‘€ the complete act yet, is evidenced by the fact that there is one member of the ElectiveAffinities sub, launched: 3 May A69 (2024).
In short, the work that I am doing now, and the work that Goethe did 215-years ago, or the work that Nietzsche did 146-years ago, in his Human, All Too Human, aphorism #1, shown below, is work produced by a ā€œforceā€ that only the future, possibly centuries from now, but more likely a millennia from now, will come to realize, as self-evident.
Visual of the future view of things:
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Nietzsche Human, All Too Human
German English
Chemie der Begriffe und Empfindungen Chemistry and the Notion of the Feelings
Die philosophischen Probleme nehmen jetzt wieder fast in allen StĆ¼cken dieselbe Form der Frage an, wie vor zweitausend Jahren: wie kann Etwas aus seinem Gegensatz entstehen, zum Beispiel VernĆ¼nftiges aus Vernunftlosem, Empfindendes aus Todtem, Logik aus Unlogik, interesseloses Anschauen aus begehrlichem Wollen, Leben fĆ¼r Andere aus Egoismus, Wahrheit aus IrrthĆ¼mern? Die metaphysische Philosophie half sich bisher Ć¼ber diese Schwierigkeit hinweg, insofern sie die Entstehung des Einen aus dem Andern leugnete und fĆ¼r die hƶher gewertheten Dinge einen Wunder-Ursprung annahm, unmittelbar aus dem Kern und Wesen des ā€žDinges an sichā€œ heraus. Die historische Philosophie dagegen, welche gar nicht mehr getrennt von der Naturwissenschaft zu denken ist, die allerjĆ¼ngste aller philosophischen Methoden, ermittelte in einzelnen FƤllen (und vermuthlich wird diess in allen ihr Ergebniss sein), dass es keine GegensƤtze sind, ausser in der gewohnten Ɯbertreibung der populƤren oder metaphysischen Auffassung und dass ein Irrthum der Vernunft dieser GegenĆ¼berstellung zu Grunde liegt: Philosophical problems, in almost all their aspects, present themselves in the same interrogative formula now as they did two thousand years ago: how can a thing develop out of its antithesis, e.g. the reasonable from the non-reasonable, the "animate from the inanimate" ["sentient in the dead", Hollingdale (1986)], the logical from the illogical, altruism from egoism, disinterestedness from greed, truth from error? The metaphysical philosophy formerly steered itself clear of this difficulty to such extent as to repudiate the evolution of one thing from another and to assign a miraculous origin to what it deemed highest and best, due to the very nature and being of the "thing-in-itself." The historical philosophy, on the other hand, which can no longer be viewed apart from physical science, the youngest of all philosophical methods, discovered experimentally (and its results will probably always be the same) that there is no antithesis whatever, except in the usual exaggerations of popular or metaphysical comprehension, and that an error of the reason is at the bottom of such contradiction.
nach ihrer ErklƤrung giebt es, streng gefasst, weder ein unegoistisches Handeln, noch ein vƶllig interesseloses Anschauen, es sind beides nur Sublimirungen, bei denen das Grundelement fast verflĆ¼chtigt erscheint und nur noch fĆ¼r die feinste Beobachtung sich als vorhanden erweist. ā€” Alles, was wir brauchen und was erst bei der gegenwƤrtigen Hƶhe der einzelnen Wissenschaften uns gegeben werden kann, ist eine Chemie der moralischen, religiƶsen, Ƥsthetischen Vorstellungen und Empfindungen, ebenso aller jener Regungen, welche wir im Gross- und Kleinverkehr der Cultur und Gesellschaft, ja in der Einsamkeit an uns erleben: wie, wenn diese Chemie mit dem Ergebniss abschlƶsse, dass auch auf diesem Gebiete die herrlichsten Farben aus niedrigen, ja verachteten Stoffen gewonnen sind? Werden Viele Lust haben, solchen Untersuchungen zu folgen? Die Menschheit liebt es, die Fragen Ć¼ber Herkunft und AnfƤnge sich aus dem Sinn zu schlagen: muss man nicht fast entmenscht sein, um den entgegengesetzten Hang in sich zu spĆ¼ren? ā€” There is, strictly speaking, neither unselfish conduct, nor a wholly disinterested point of view. Both are simply sublimations in which the basic element seems almost evaporated and betrays its presence only to the keenest observation. All that we need and that could possibly be given us in the present state of development of the sciences, is a chemistry of the ā€˜moralā€™, ā€˜religiousā€™, ā€˜aestheticā€™ conceptions and ā€˜feelingā€™, as well as of those ā€˜emotionsā€™ which we experience in the affairs, great and small, of society and civilization, and which we are sensible of even in solitude. But what if this chemistry established the fact that, even in its domain, the most magnificent results were attained with the basest and most despised ingredients? Would many feel disposed to continue such investigations? Mankind loves to put by the questions of its origin and beginning: must one not be almost inhuman in order to follow the opposite course?ā€
To repeat, and conclude, my reply to this Russian languages sub member:
ā€œAll that we need and that could possibly be given us in the present state of development of the sciences, is a chemistry of the ā€˜moralā€™, ā€˜religiousā€™, ā€˜aestheticā€™ conceptions and ā€˜feelingā€™, as well as of those ā€˜emotionsā€™ which we experience in the affairs, great and small, of society and civilization, and which we are sensible of even in solitude.ā€
ā€” Friedrich Nietzsche (77A/1878), Human, All Too Human (Ā§: Aphorism #1)
The day that people of the future, teach, as standard required learning, the following subjects:
  1. Moral chemistry
  2. Religious chemistry
  3. Aesthetic chemistry
  4. Emotional chemistry
  5. Feelings chemistry
  6. Social chemistry
Is the day that force, behind the ā€œworkā€ of Goethe, Nietzsche, Adams, Fairburn, and myself, will be realized.
The year this occurs will be when Goetheā€™s OTT cipher (or Otto cipher) becomes accepted common knowledge.
Horus years?
I will but note, however, that we still are dating our calendar years to the birth of Horus (aka Jesus), the solar šŸŒž falcon god, who dates back more than 5,000 years, to attested to via the 5700A (-3745) solar Milky Way cow yoke HeiroType: āˆ© = 10 (I).
https://preview.redd.it/8e5vvls73a0d1.jpg?width=2013&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=787023e0c9bd8c2034d397d0181ee7e051f265df
Thus, who knows, maybe in 5,000 years from now, if we remain in the ā€œdark agesā€, St. Ottilia ā€œblind agesā€ as Goethe says we are now presently in, we will still be dating our calendar years to this same solar falcon god?

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2024.05.14 01:25 LuciferMorningPoop What is the dress code for pwcā€™s assessment centre?

I have looked everywhere in their invite but it doesnā€™t show me whether itā€™s business casual or a suit. All their staff members on their insta at graduate positions are in business casual but some are also in suits.
Please help thanks
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2024.05.14 01:24 Ok-Car-1141 20f pomo should I go over to an old family friend pimi's house?

So Im 20f in college living at home technically pomo bc my parents know i don't believe and I don't partake in any jw activity and am probably considered inactive by now. Anyway, the past months have been rlly calm and smooth with my pimi parents. We just never talk abt religion bc I worked hard to emphasize what matters most is respect, I respect their beliefs and they respect mine. (They are under the impression I'm not doing anything jws wouoldnt approve of like the big stuff). They never try to pressure me to go to meetings or anything like that. My elder stepdad and my mom might invite me once on a rare occasion but after I politely decline they leave it alone. They also rarely invite me to a gathering but after I politely decline they leave it alone. I appreciate this, that is why I said it's been pretty calm being pomo living at home.
Today my mom told me an old friend of hers who babysat me as a kid invited her to visit sometime. This friend lives a bit far from us and my mom said this friend rlly wanted to see me. My strategy for any pimi encounter is to ignore ignore ignore (like if they text me or leave me a gift) or decline decline decline (if my parents invite me to a gathering). However this one invitation to that friends house made me think a little bit because I do not have a very good reason to not go other than it could be a slippery slope. That slippery slope being, they ask an uncomfortable question or they invite me again or simply that attention will be on me when i have done a great job this entire year being in the shadows lmaooo.
I know many of you have probably encountered a situation like this, what did you do and what do you suggest?
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2024.05.14 01:24 stop_shdwbning_me Copilot writes a new anime (would you watch?)

Title: "Cult of the Cherry Blossoms"
In the bustling metropolis of Tokyo, there exists an unusual high school known as "Sakura Academy." Hidden behind cherry blossom trees, this school harbors a secret: its students are reincarnated cult leaders from history. Let's meet our four protagonists:
  1. Fiona Phelps ā€“ The fiery redhead and leader of the "Westboro Blossoms." She's passionate about picketing school events, but instead of signs that read "God Hates Fags," she now holds up signs that say "Free Hugs."
  2. Daisy Koresh ā€“ The mysterious transfer student with piercing blue eyes. She heads the "Branch Divas" club, where they practice fire dancing during lunch breaks. Her sermons now involve encouraging self-love and acceptance.
  3. Juniper Jones ā€“ The charismatic girl who can convince anyone to drink the school cafeteria's questionable milk. She's the head of the "Jonestown Tea Society," where they brew herbal concoctions and discuss world peace.
  4. Lily Hubbard ā€“ The brainy girl who always has her nose in ancient scrolls. She leads the "Scientology Scholars," researching past lives and auditing their classmates' chakras. Her catchphrase: "Clear your mind, clear your acne."
Episode 1: "Cherry Blossom Revelation"
The girls discover their true identities during a cherry blossom viewing party. Fiona, Daisy, Juniper, and Lily gather under the blooming trees, their memories awakening like petals unfurling.
"We were cult leaders?" Fiona gasps, adjusting her flower crown.
"I remember now," Daisy says, her eyes distant. "The compound, the flames...and the dance-offs."
"I used to preach about the end of the world," Juniper admits. "Now I just want a decent cup of tea."
Lily pores over her scrolls. "Our past lives hold the key to enlightenment. And maybe algebra."
As the girls navigate high school life, they face challenges:
  • Club Recruitment: Fiona recruits members for the "Free Hugs Club," but her signs confuse everyone. Daisy's fire dancing auditions attract the fire department.
  • Prom Night: Juniper insists on a "Kool-Aid" punch bowl for prom, causing panic among the teachers. Lily calculates the odds of romance using ancient numerology.
  • Rival Cults: The "Heaven's Cheerleaders" (formerly Heaven's Gate) challenge them to a cheer-off. Fiona's pom-poms read, "Love and Tolerance."
"We're not just teenage girls," Daisy says one day. "We're rewriting our legacies."
"And maybe," Juniper adds, "we'll find enlightenment in trigonometry."
As cherry blossoms fall, the "Cult of the Cherry Blossoms" dances its way into the hearts of Tokyo. Their motto: "Live, laugh, and leadā€”without the brainwashing."
And so begins their extraordinary journeyā€”a mix of teenage drama, spiritual awakening, and a dash of absurdity. Because even cult leaders deserve a second chance...and a good slice of cherry blossom cake.
Disclaimer: This anime is purely fictional and meant for entertainment. Any resemblance to real cult leaders is coincidental. Please don't try fire dancing at home. šŸ”„šŸŒø
The anime characters were inspired by real-life cult leaders, but their traits are fictionalized. Here's the breakdown:
  1. Fiona Phelps (Westboro Blossoms): Based on Fred Phelps of the Westboro Baptist Church. In the anime, she's fiery and passionate about picketing, but now holds signs that say "Free Hugs."
  2. Daisy Koresh (Branch Divas): Inspired by David Koresh of the Branch Davidians. Mysterious and with piercing blue eyes, she leads fire dancing sessions and preaches self-love.
  3. Juniper Jones (Jonestown Tea Society): Modeled after Jim Jones of the Jonestown cult. Charismatic and obsessed with tea, she now seeks world peace instead of mass suicide.
  4. Lily Hubbard (Scientology Scholars): A brainy girl like L. Ron Hubbard, founder of Scientology. She researches past lives and audits classmates' chakras.
Remember, this is all fictional fun! šŸ˜ŠšŸŒø
Certainly! Let's introduce three more female cult leaders to "Cult of the Cherry Blossoms":
  1. Sakura Asahara (Aum Shinrikyo Sisters): Sakura is the enigmatic transfer student with an affinity for chemistry. She brews mysterious potions in the science lab, hoping to find enlightenment without the sarin gas. Her catchphrase: "Alchemy over anarchy."
  2. Harmony Jeffs (FLDS Flower Maidens): Harmony, the soft-spoken girl, leads the "Flower Maidens." They wear pastel dresses and practice synchronized gardening. Instead of polygamy, they promote sisterhood and sustainable farming.
  3. Kiku Raniere (NXIVM Navigators): Kiku is the tech-savvy genius who runs the "NXIVM Navigators" club. They optimize schedules, track chakra progress on spreadsheets, and offer self-improvement workshops. Her motto: "Empowerment through Excel."
These leaders add a delightful twist to Sakura Academy's already eccentric student body! šŸŒø
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2024.05.14 01:21 DueIndependence5527 I think my husband is ashamed of me

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. Heā€™s 32 and Iā€™m 30. We eloped and didnā€™t invite any family to our wedding. We told them all after the fact, but it was just a casual ā€œyeah, we got married.ā€ No celebration. No party afterward. No social media announcement. Nothing. His excuse was that he doesnā€™t like several members of his family and to avoid it being awkward he rather just elope. Honestly, it didnā€™t really bother me much at the time because sheā€™s my family is spread out and I also donā€™t really like being the center of attention anyway. I let myself think the spontaneity of it all and being just the two of us was fun and romantic. We donā€™t even have any photos of our wedding day.
Then when I got pregnant with our first baby, my husband wouldnā€™t tell anyone. He didnā€™t want me to tell anyone for months either, but he never really gave me a real reason. I was 5 months along and at the point where I wouldnā€™t be able to hide it for much longer when he texted his parents to tell them and asked them to tell everyone else.
I know his parents sort of wanted all of their kids to marry people for successful families, from the same world theyā€™re from. Theyā€™re not one percenters or anything like that, but theyā€™re from the ā€œright side of townā€ you know? Theyā€™re from a certain segment of people in our city. I am not. My family lives in the poor area of town, although theyā€™re hard workers and are educated (well, some of my extended family are essentially uneducated, unmotivated hillbillies, but my immediate family and my grandparents are not).
I went to college, but I got a useless degree. I didnā€™t know any better at the time. So Iā€™m not rolling in money. I have an important job, but itā€™s very low paying. I donā€™t think Iā€™m trashy or embarrassing or anything like that. I always thought I was physically cute, pretty. People used to tell me I was. Now, I feel like I must be ugly. I wonder if I always had a warped sense of self and am actually way less attractive than I thought I was.
Anyway, I donā€™t know if any of that is why my husband acts the way he does or what.
I feel like he wants to just sort of hide me away. He also never posts about me on social media. I donā€™t really care too much about social media, but I think itā€™s weird that heā€™s on Facebook and Instagram and never posts any photos of me or mentions of me ever, and we share children together!
He hates PDA, and thatā€™s not a big deal because a lot of people hate that. But heā€™s uncomfortable even holding hands. One time he held my hand all weekend long and I remember feeling so happy - of course, we were on vacation on the opposite side of the country where nobody knew us. Coincidence, or no?
Trying to get some outside perspective. Does anyone else think his behavior is strange. Heā€™s always been like this with me.
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2024.05.14 01:17 This_is_athrowaway_1 Employer lied about shift differential pay and won't correct it

I am in a pickle with my employer. I work in an at-will state. I interviewed for a 2nd shift position and in the interview the supervisor stated that she no longer has access to pay information and shift differentials and that I could get that info and negotiate my salary with the recruiter from the corporate office. She said she believed differential was $1, but to confirm with the recruiter because it may have changed since she was in charge of that and only he would have access to that info, but she would also be contacting him to offer me the job. I contacted the recruiter that day who told me the differential is actually $2.75 per hou$3.75 per hour for weekends.
I should have asked for it to be in the offer letter, but when I accepted the position the offer letter it only stated my base hourly pay + "all other payroll and differentials to be paid per company policy." I have worked other evening shift jobs where the differential info was attached separately or not stated on the offer letter at all. I wasn't that worried since I had confirmed with the recruiter over the phone as requested and the supervisor confirmed he would be the only one who could give that info to me. I was training during the day shift so when I got my first evening paycheck I noticed the differential is $1. I contacted HR who told me to contact my supervisor to correct it through payroll. Turns out, the recruiter told me the incorrect amount.
My supervisor and HR rep have confirmed that this recruiter has frequent errors. They also acknowledged that he told me the wrong amount and they wished they could correct it, but because I make the highest pay in the hourly range of this position they cannot raise my base salary to reflect what I was offered. So they would change it if was making lower than that amount...when I said that is unacceptable they informed me I can no longer speak with them about this issue and "HR does not do meetings about wages." They want me to wait until the recruiter gets back next week from vacation so the chief of HR can speak with him to hear his side of the story and then after that she will have a meeting with my supervisor. They informed me I am not allowed to be a part of that meeting. I have also asked for the policy in writing that the differential is $1 to add to my personnel file to prevent any further confusion and they are unable to provide it - they told me payroll enters my location and the evening paycode in the software generates $1, but they don't actually have that info anywhere else. WTF!
All of this is documented in emails back and forth, except for my initial conversation accepting the job. Would I have any recourse for this? I realize it's not an employment contract and it was a verbal agreement, but I believe I in good faith accepted an accurate offer and multiple people have already acknowledged the mistake.
I do have a time-stamped phone call from the recruiter and a text message to my partner 1 minute later stating I would be accepting the job with a $2.75 shift differential. I quit another job and turned down a different job offer to take this one and have records that I had been applying to about 25-30 other jobs that month. I made more money in my other job, but it was causing me unnecessary stress and anxiety and I decided slightly lower pay and similar (but not as comprehensive) benefits would be better for my mental health. Now I am being paid $1.75 less per hour than I agreed to and I would have declined and stuck it out at the other job until something better came along. When negotiating pay, I had told my recruiter how much money I made at the other job and stated I wanted to get as close to that as possible based on my experience and now I feel like he lied about pay to get me to accept this job.
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2024.05.14 01:14 SupremeTeam826 AITA for cussing my father out and going no contact?

AITA for cussing my father out and going no contact?
Me 42 Male and Father 64 have been very close since my early 20s after having a strained relationship in my youth. Well earlier this year he was coming to visit my city (our hometown) and he let me know he would be staying at my grandmothers, cool no prob. Prior to him coming down I let him know that I would be working 10 hr shifts through out the week and wife is working overnight so we would connect on the weekend and my wife even said she was going to cook dinner and my sons were looking forward to seeing him since they had only seen him twice in person. Well the weekend rolls around and he messages me saying when were we having dinner cause he wanted to cut it short to spend time with another relative ? Im confused cause this was supposed to be our time to kick it. So i naturally get irritated and tell do whatever he was going to do. So my wife hits him up to straighten it out and he says he will come through for dinner the next 3 days go by and he never called or anything and completely stood us up. This after my wife cooked an amazing dinner and I had to lie to my children as to why they didnt get to see their grand father. Afterwards I write him two scathing letters about how much of a coward he is and how he disrespected my wife and children by doing this.. He never responded.. Most family members were getting his side were he made up a lie but they are mostly playing the middle. SN: This is the second time he did this. Prior to this we were in his city for my sisters wedding and he completely stood us up then as well and put the blame on his then lady friend.
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